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| 229 | Dear John: Betty Broderick | FDS MOVIES & TV | ponchoacademy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 04:04 PM |
| 3 | We're not their therapists | NAH, SIS | ponchoacademy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Reflections and moving forward | MINDSET SHIFT | ponchoacademy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 04:07 AM |
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| 1 | Red Flag???Thanks I appreciate it. Shes no longer in my life...havnt talked to her in years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 07:56 PM |
| 39 | Red Flag???Limited info, not sure whats going on with your aunt though you gave more info in comments. Was super confused by comments saying he would not be seen with you, I may have missed that somewhere. From what I gather he decided to wait until after your ceremony to give you gifts, which isnt super unusual in my experience. The only time Ive been given a gift during any kind of awards or special events ceremony is if its part of the ceremony itself. Barring that, usually theres lunch or dinner afterw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/22 01:33 AM |
| 3 | People Projecting Insecurity Onto You When You’re QuietYup, all that is social signaling. I hesitate to get behind acting classes, cause the point isnt to act out and pretend youre something youre not, its to assert yourself and be able to project and make it clear who you already are. Cause it really doesnt sound like youre in a situation where you need to fake it til you make it, you've already got it. I did a quick search in my city for body language and assertiveness in corporate situations, and found quite a few coaches that teach these types o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/22 01:10 AM |
| 15 | People Projecting Insecurity Onto You When You’re QuietIts an interesting topic, something I think about every so often when my daughter and I complain about stuff like this, but for very different reasons. Im not shy at all, not afraid to speak up so on so forth but I give off some sort of vibe where, I can be very serious, speaking on something important, yet struggle with people taking me seriously or not realizing the importance of what Im saying. My daughter on the other hand, is incredibly quiet, but she could say anything at all and people ar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/22 11:37 PM |
| 40 | How to spot a Deadbeat DadI can make this even easier and more generalized..the moment a guy starts talking trash about his ex, for any reason, dip. Either: 1) Hes not over her / over whatever situation he had / has with her and looking for free therapy. 2) Hes trying to get you on his side, feel sympathetic to him. He NEEDS that cause everyone else in his life knows whats really going on and that he doesnt deserve any sympathy. Cause on the real, if a guy is on the up and up, he wont have any need or desire to put down … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/22 07:26 PM |
| 59 | Would you ever go out with this guy again?No. You dont find him attractive, you didnt feel good around him, thats enough to say no. He moved pretty quick with the pda, like holding hands is something you do with someone youre comfortable with and want to feel more closeness to, not something you do walking into your first date. Hes already getting started with the love bombing, cause theres no way he feels so deeply for you the moment you meet, and the more you meet the more hes going to push towards how strong your physical / emotional… | /r/askFDS | 20/04/22 05:15 PM |
| 166 | One HVM teaching the next…It very cute, for sure. And also, lets not lose track of it that learning and performing basic life skills is not an indication of being HV. Its bare minimum survival skills. All the same, I can appreciate this is one snapshot into someones life, and take it as him being a good example and not the defining factor this man is HV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/22 05:00 PM |
| 214 | What Are The Signs Of Porn-Sick Men?Stating the obvious: he talks about it. Asks you to "try something new" and the whole set up is obv a scence from a porn movie ie "Okay so, I was thinking if you lay on the couch, flip your legs over your head onto the floor with your ankles crossed behind your head....oh wait, we might need a second guy for this one, can I call a friend right quick?" Im exaggerating lol (but only a little) you get the jist though. Asks what your fav type of porn is, tries to act like theres no way you dont watc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/22 10:31 PM |
| 67 | I’m so glad more women are taking back the cool aunt title!I have a few friends that have given themselves title of auntie to my daughter. Just find a kid you like and boom lol For real though, friends like that are the best...and for my daughter, a really great experience to grow up understanding the concept of "the family we choose" and be able to see other strong women as a positive influence in her life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/22 10:14 PM |
| 41 | What are some goals to accomplish before 30 that aren’t a relationship or a house?Im in my 40's, have never had a desire to own a house and being in a relationship is a..if it happens fine but it better not mess with my plans so he needs to be able to fit within my life goals sort of thing. Some of mine if it helps get your gears going, I have a bucket list of places I'd like to travel to, some fun skills/hobbies Id like to learn, like scuba diving and golfing, my ultimate is to buy an RV, gut and completely remodel it by myself then hit the road for several months at a time.… | /r/askFDS | 17/04/22 06:52 PM |
| 5 | Demand what you ask forYeah, thats his ego, being ashamed to let on he doesnt know everything *gasp the horror!* And hands down, would be the type of guy who if you know something he doesnt, would die on the hill you must be wrong cause hes never heard of it. Or downplay your intelligence and try to pick away at you to the point youre constantly second guessing yourself. Those types are insufferable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 03:37 PM |
| 7 | Can we stop calling them fuck boys and move forward to the simple and subhuman title of skank?TIL Ive been using the term casanova wrong as well. And spelling it wrong too. Im on a roll 🤣😂 Alight, so sounds like they are indeed about the same thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 11:31 AM |
| 123 | OLD advice: When things move onto the texting stage, get his number before you give away yours.Please do, cause this wont help the next woman who crosses his path, now that youve taught him to cover his tracks. Once had a guy who turns out had just gotten out of prison 3 months prior due to financial crime, scamming people out of money. I waited a couple days, so that he would not connect it to me doing any research after getting his phone number, then gave some excuse why I would not be able to make our date and stopped responding to him. I absolutely wanted to make sure he had no clue, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 06:16 AM |
| 60 | Can we stop calling them fuck boys and move forward to the simple and subhuman title of skank?Dang Im feeling my age right about now. I thought fuck boy meant thats all hes good for. Back in my day 👵🏾A cassinova was a guy who was smooth, respectable and charming, a man with good qualities that was a catch, so to speak. Okay so, TIL Ive been using the term fuck boy wrong. 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 11:20 PM |
| 45 | What options are there for kicking out a LVM who refuses to leave?he says the only way he will leave is if she calls the police Then call the po po. Okay...I'll admit,that was my first reaction, so I'll leave it, but then I read more rational ladies here who suggested the eviction process, which makes a lot more sense. Like yeah, he will still probably ride out the time he stays there until officially and legally the police can take him away, but at least its a proper legal route that would actually work. and then get a restraining order if he so much as breat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 11:08 PM |
| 12 | Demand what you ask forOMG yes! LOL!!! I even said it out loud reading that and dying laughing right now lol Side note: it is PERFECTLY FINE to not know how to pronounce it. Hell, I sure didnt know how to when I first came across Pinot Noir and Pinot Blanc. Its the aire of "I am of a certain class, doing certain class things" vibe that makes it hilarious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 10:40 PM |
| 55 | It’s not “playing games” to maintain our own boundariesYeah, if you're going to bring up / entertain a conversation around sex on the third date, youre sending out a signal of what youre interested in. Men are already sex driven, thats not exactly a mystery worth trying to figure out early on. Meanwhile, guys are trying to figure out where your head is at, because with women its not a given if shes dtf, and if early on youre like..SEX! then yeah, hes going to take that and run with it feeling confident which side youre on. I mean, thats your vibe, y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 10:38 PM |
| 2 | Demand what you ask forLoL! Yeah, I really was like....well, thats the dumbest thing I ever heard in my life...dry wine....what effery. That was almost 20yrs ago, and every so often when I say I prefer dry wine, it still crosses my mind how ridiculous that sounds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 10:17 PM |
| 24 | Demand what you ask forExactly to all of this. I know Im not knowledgeable, and often joke, I dont know whats good...but I know what I like! Ive dated a sommelier and a wine dealer, very small case study lol but both told me...theres literally no difference in quality between a $500 bottle of wine and a $12 bottle of wine. The key difference is rarity, be it of the grapes, how good or bad the season was, the prestige of the vineyard, etc. But at the core of it, the only thing that matters is do you like it or not. And… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 10:12 PM |
| 17 | Demand what you ask forNot to mention, if shes so knowledgeable, why does she need to ask what the best wine on the menu is..shouldnt she already know? Im not that knowledgeable about wines, but I do at least know what types of wine I like, and have a pretty good idea of what regions I tend to like wines from. So when I do have a question about the wine list, its usually because Im not sure which to pick between the 2 or 3 Ive settled on and Im interested in the nuances between them. Ive been out with people who are k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 08:52 PM |
| 202 | Demand what you ask forYeah, I kind of agree with the commenter that if youre going to ask questions, make sure youre aking the right person questions. Regardless of being very wealthy or not, a person can have the sense to know whether or not they are in a place, and speaking to the person who is qualified to answer their questions. I spent most of my adult life broke af, yet observant enough to tell the difference between a family restaurant where the servers can bring out food and give me personal favorites, a high… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 08:11 PM |
| 19 | High-value actions that stood out to youYup, when I was younger, someone told me...dont put all the weight on if he treats you nice, any guy with an ulterior motive will be nice to the person hes trying to get something from. Watch for how he treats the people he's not trying to get something from. Thats the type of man he really is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 01:46 AM |
| 32 | High-value actions that stood out to youMy brother in law, he treats my sister like gold. They've been married over 30 years, and he has not let up on doing amazing things for her...before she retired, if she mentioned she had a rough day at work,or just sounded like it,he would make her favorite meal ready when she got home. When Id go visit, more times than not there was a beautiful "just because" bouquet, but she got into gardening since retiring, so now he bring her "just because" plants to grow. She has some health problems, and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 12:40 AM |
| 255 | True Crime: Male Friends are a Liability EditionThat story is so heartbreaking, I came across it awhile ago and just seeing it come up as a story in my true crime listening, I get sad/angry just being reminded of it. And its a good reminder too, no matter who you think is your friend, even family, dont go around telling people your personal business especially if it involves money! Worst case scenario they will kill you for it, best worst case scenario they turn on trying to use and manipulate you for it. Unrealistic but best case scenario, t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 08:01 PM |
| 6 | When HVM deletes the appYeah, when a relationship has developed to the point where he knows, a HVM will know how to use his words to discuss establishing what he wants, and same for HVW, so that both are on track and know what the other is thinking and where things stand. Once its established that both are committed to focusing on each other, then of course they are expected to behave accordingly. I just take issue with it that all this is supposed to occur within the first few dates. If a guy moved that fast Id think … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/22 05:08 PM |
| 56 | When HVM deletes the appI actually woudlnt consider a guy HV if he decided after one or two dates that Im "The One." Id think a HV man would be just as vigilant about vetting his prospective partner, and want to take the time to actually get to know someone before coming to that conclusion. And I would absolutely dip out if a guy after 1 or 2 dates decided he was ready to fully commit to me, a complete stranger, and expected me to jump to it and pick him too based on...what exactly? Him being able to hold up the act he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/22 01:44 AM |
| 125 | Access to HVW is a privilege. Cut off contact the second it does not serve you - you do not have to tolerate anything subpar for even a second.100% The time you stay in something thats not right for you, is time you are stealing from yourself to do better. Whether its no longer being available to yourself for self growth, no longer being available for when someone who could be right for you comes into your life, whatever. Youre focused so much on fighting for something not worth it, instead of fighting for your own self worth and value. It took me a long time to recognize this...and I absolutely fell into the trap of, he wasnt always l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 07:02 PM |
| 110 | Ladies, don't shave your coochie the first time he goes down on you.Different take, do whatever makes you comfortable and dont modify your personal standards of grooming for anyone, whether its to shave or not shave, wear makeup or not wear makeup, style your hair or wash and go, whatever. If your partner happens to like you as you are doing whatever you do to feel comfortable and happy with yourself, awesome..if not thats their personal problem to deal with. Ive had guys tell me, you dont have to go through all that trouble shaving for me everytime we see each … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 06:25 PM |
| 24 | If I have to see y’all dog women out under the guise of levelling up one more time…Yup. A few days ago, some guy wrote about how he wishes he could meet professional good looking women who have their lives together, but he keeps meeting losers. My response to that was, birds of a feather flock together. We are attract and are attracted to people that we share things in common with. Like minded people find each other. So yeah, him complaining about people he considered losers was really him complaining hes surrounded by people like himself. So when someone is going on about all… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 04:17 AM |
| 23 | My morning tea- How can men be so oblivious?Ill admit, Im on the opposite end of the scale. Just cause I have sex with a guy doesnt mean Im now feeling emotions for him and strung on him and need to fall asleep and wake up with him. I have my own bed to sleep in, and my own bath products to keep up with my evening / morning routine in my own home. I did my share of falling asleeop with make up, using my finger to brush my teeth, and shower with some guys 2 in 1 shampoo/ bath soap, and doing the "walk of shame" in my dress from the night b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 12:46 AM |
| 7 | Cause of death: the audacity 😉 Share a story of a time a scrote either mansplained something you’re an expert in or made a hilarious statement like below. I’ll go first in comments!Had a guy explain what wine is to me. I've been drinking wine over 20yrs...Ive been to wine tastings and vineyards around the world. While talking about it and telling him about a really interesting winery I visited that made wine out of unusual fruits and the process they used, he cut me off, told me I was wrong, then proceeded to explain wine to me. So hes there explaining they dont use the same grapes you find at the grocery store, and I was thinking to myself....I dated a wine dealer, who I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 02:54 AM |
| 8 | How to deal with differences of what you want in the futureYou've only known him for a month, so you still barely know him. Dating is the time of seeing whether or not you share the same goals and are compatible, you dont share the same goals and not compatible. Doesnt matter that he follows it up with "its not set in stone" Several years from now he can and will remind you that he told you he told you what he wanted as soon as you met, and you made the choice to move forward with the relationship anyway. | /r/askFDS | 20/07/21 08:49 PM |
| 1 | Someone inviting you back to their place on first date = automatic LVM?Yeah, Im not saying a guy shouldnt need to put in any effort before being told to. Im saying if something comes up I will speak up about it and from there decide if hes someone I want to see again or not based on our interaction. Im super clear about my intentions and expectations from the get go...maybe you feel thats spelling things out and a waste of time, but I personally hate the idea of coming off demure and vague. A guy not realizing I have any standards until I say something about it isn… | /r/askFDS | 18/07/21 07:32 PM |
| 2 | Someone inviting you back to their place on first date = automatic LVM?Just wanted to add...dont think Im coming from a right or wrong perspective. In the grand scheme of things, being no tolerance is way better than just letting whatever happen, happen. Im pretty low tolerance, just that Im not no tolerance. So no, I dont consider a guy LVM and dump him if he doesnt do everything exactly the way I want before knowing what I want, but I do expect him to respect my boundaries and understand I have standards hes going to have to put effort into moving forward. | /r/askFDS | 18/07/21 05:46 AM |
| 1 | Someone inviting you back to their place on first date = automatic LVM?Perhaps, but I have no issue sending the message I do expect to be treated a certain way by making my expectations clear. I have standards, and boundaries. Im not even sure how to hide this in the hopes he will figure it out for himself what my standards and boundaries are. Maybe to some thats doing the work for him, but I really dont have time for games. If its just performative action, he's not going to be able to keep it up forever. And in fact, a huge amount of people use performative action… | /r/askFDS | 18/07/21 05:27 AM |
| 18 | Someone inviting you back to their place on first date = automatic LVM?Ill be the odd one out... I believe I let a guy know how to treat me and enforce my boundaries by how I react and pay attention to how they respond to that. If a guy invites me to his place for a drink, I say no. If he drops it, great, if he keeps trying to convince me, nope. If a guy offers coffee / walk date / whatever I say no, if he comes up with an actual date great, if not, thats the end of that. I dont know how their dates usually go or what women theyve been involved with were okay with,… | /r/askFDS | 17/07/21 09:46 PM |
| 9 | S.O.S!! How do I make my friend see the massive error of her ways?!This might come off as cold but... I have my hands full managing my own life. I cant be managing my friends lives and telling them what to do based on what I think is good for them. I'll be transparent about what I think, but ultimately how they live is their choice to make, and sometimes life lessons actually need to be experienced to learn from them. I had a friend who when she started dating her guy (he was only her 2nd bf, and her first was also terrible) every single time she talked about h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 01:29 AM |
| 38 | We don’t wear things for them! (Please wear your glasses though because you need to see 😂)So yeah, when I was 18 there was a guy who would not ever leave me alone no matter how much and in what way I told him I was not interested. Was standing around talking to some friends, they were all smokers, I was not. He decided to tell me it was so hot that I dont smoke, cause he hates smokers. I immediately asked to bum off a friend, and everytime he came around Id get a cig from a friend. He started keeping his distance, just watching me from afar....then one day months later, when my addic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 07:11 PM |
| 21 | The new dating scam.My gears are turning, wondering how that first date went. She said she always offers to pay for what she ordered, so I do wonder if she offered / insisted on paying for her own coffee or just splitting the coffee tab on the first date, and his mind went...we've got a live one boys! and was so confident to speak up for her on this date, assuming she would be a-okay with it. Even though she subsidized his meal, him only paying for a portion of his meal probably broke his bank account, and thats wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 06:42 PM |
| 101 | Are You The “Clingy” Type?I had a guy ask me if Im clingy cause I just seem like one of those girls who would be clingy, his ex was like that and hes trying to avoid women like that. Ohhhh my gosh I had a blast telling my friends a guy said I come off as clingy. The general response was...did he mean to send that to someone else cause....huh?! This is me...there was a guy I was getting to know, we went on a couple dates, exchanged texts very few days or so. One day I sent him a text, didnt hear back, I didnt think much o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 05:46 AM |
| 1 | Can single fathers be HVM?Fair enough if you feel that due to the circumstances women become single mothers, its flippant to say a single father can be HV. I still personally dont believe that being a single parent is in itself an indicator of being HV or LV. Regardless of the circumstances a person becomes a single parent, what type of parent they are is what I consider the main indicator. | /r/askFDS | 16/07/21 12:40 AM |
| 12 | My new partner seems to be putting me on a pedestal, how do I respond?When it comes to putting me on a pedestal, I tell guys to knock it off. No Im not perfect, no Im not inherently amazing at everything I do or always do all the right things. Things I have done well is due to experience and busting my butt with stumbles along the way, and yeah Im pretty awesome, but Im not perfect. I hate being called perfect. Even the, okay but you're perfect for/to me. No...knock it off. I have special angst towards that because I was with a guy who put me on a pedestal, and I … | /r/askFDS | 15/07/21 11:15 PM |
| 49 | Can single fathers be HVM?Of course...single moms can be HVW afterall. And quite frankly, people can end up as single parents for reasons out of their control. The mother may have passed away, or is an unfit parent so he has full custody, or any other number of reasons. That he is taking on full responsibility to raise his kids is not a LVM trait... With a caveat... if he complains about it or is acting helpless or seems to be already trying to throw you into a mom role cause he cant or doesnt feel like he should be doin… | /r/askFDS | 15/07/21 08:05 PM |
| 2 | Vetting Men by their job positionThat tracks...and yeah definitely seems to be confined to just the men. When I was in I remember a whole convo with some friends trying to figure out wtf is up with the marines while trading stories of run ins we've had with them. One was convinced they must be putting drugs in their food to make them more aggressive. But then it was like yeah but....the women are cool...hard core af but not out of their effing minds like the guys are. Also, generally, when its come up, it not like male marines … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 01:22 AM |
| 8 | Dating & Socioeconomic StatusThis is where I think it actually comes down to something far more simple. Take someone for who they are now, not for what their potential. Dating is the process of finding out if you share the same values, goals and lifestyle...if those things dont match, then you are not right for each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Vetting Men by their job positionWhelp, now you know one. And unfortunately, I know many others. The military is a strongly male dominated field...having a desk job doesnt really mean you are around other women or face any kind of protection from the guys around you than women in other roles. As a matter of fact, you come off as weaker and more vulnerable...a woman who is for example a tank mechanic just comes off as more hardcore than the one working in a supply office. As a matter of fact, at least in the Army, women in suppl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 11:28 PM |
| 31 | Vetting Men by their job positionJust personal experience....Im sure there are great marines out there, Ive def hung out with and gotten to know some guys who seem cool on the surface but would not choose to be in a relationship with one. Of all the branches, they do tend to be the more aggressive, hot tempered, fly off the cuff doing insane things. If I were to guess, it may have something to do with thier training, its def a lot more intense physically and mentally than other branches and they are just....aggressive af. Like.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 10:45 AM |
| 15 | Vetting Men by their job positionPersonally, Im fine with any branch, active or veteran....except marines. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 08:58 AM |
| 73 | Vetting Men by their job positionI have a bit of protection as a vet, military guys consider me one of their own and have some level of respect plus they know they can't bs me. But having said that, there's no way on earth I'd have anything to do with a marine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 02:05 AM |
| 12 | In this thread: Hundreds of LVM and Pickmeishas squealing to the high heavens that an elite 23 y/o woman at a top tier university will NEVER find a high paying, traveling job post graduation, and should shut up and be a compliant wife and mother to boring old scrote who trapped her in her youth. 🥴🤮Awe thanks! But for real, my motivation was to not be like my mom. She constantly complained she could have done more with her life if she wasnt stuck raising me. I never wanted my kid to feel like my life would have been better off without her...and in fact the opposite happened. My kid jokingly credits herself for a lot of the adventures we had and things we got to experience together, cause she knew it meant a lot to me to do things with her that I wouldnt have done just for myself. ...and I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 01:46 AM |
| 2 | How to avoid falling back into old pickmeisha habits?The difference is being aware of what are the negative behaviors to be able to actively avoid them, and not realizing you are in a pattern and continuing in that pattern hoping this time will be different. Dont compare yourself to your friends. Unlike them, you are actively educating yourself and putting yourself in a position to learn and grow from your experiences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 12:16 AM |
| 15 | In this thread: Hundreds of LVM and Pickmeishas squealing to the high heavens that an elite 23 y/o woman at a top tier university will NEVER find a high paying, traveling job post graduation, and should shut up and be a compliant wife and mother to boring old scrote who trapped her in her youth. 🥴🤮Yup. I always make it clear to guys I love to travel...its a huge part of what brings me fulfillment. I also have no plans to settle down anywhere... I love the city Im in, excited to explore it, and also excited for continued adventures in the future and the place I will live next. There is no way I could date, or marry a guy who felt like there was no reason to travel and no reason to move because "my whole life is here". I need someone on my level. This guy shes married to is not on her level… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 10:06 PM |
| 30 | In this thread: Hundreds of LVM and Pickmeishas squealing to the high heavens that an elite 23 y/o woman at a top tier university will NEVER find a high paying, traveling job post graduation, and should shut up and be a compliant wife and mother to boring old scrote who trapped her in her youth. 🥴🤮Not odd at all. Through life, Ive found that people look at their own lives, whatever limitations they have and decide no one else can possibly achieve what they dont see as possible for themselves. Easily spotted by those who like to say stuff like "you need to be realistic" I had my kid very young, at which point everyone said my life is over for the next 18yrs. She is the *best ever* travel buddy, we've been traveling internationally since she was 4, we've been to 7 countries together (woudl … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 09:58 PM |
| 10 | Dreams of an ex…Brains are weird, or in my case, my brain is an ah. I fully accept that its going to do its thing and it doesnt always mean anything significant, or Im not going to understand what its trying to do. Like, with dreams, a lot of times its your subconscious working things out, but in way that makes no sense and you'll drive yourself crazy trying to make it make sense on a conscious level. Hes still on your mind enough that your brain is including him in your dream in some way. Eventually he wont be… | /r/askFDS | 13/07/21 08:41 PM |
| 73 | Why the overwhelming majority of divorces are initiated by women.I wish I saw this tiktok a couple weeks ago, because she explained exactly how I was feeling at the time better than I was able to. Thank goodness it wasnt marriage, but went through this exact thing with the guy I was dating. He went so far as to say, thank you for talking to me about this, I hear you, Im going to go to therapy to work on my issues communicating cause I understand this is hurting you and a big problem. And then...effing nothing. He went to therapy, but after several months, not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 07:57 PM |
| 162 | Watch how men treat you when completing tasks they want to “do themselves”Not HVM, just an attribute... My ex bf I lived with kept a couple signed blank checks in his desk drawer for me to use in situations exactly like this. Whether it was a couple hundred or a few thousand, if anything in the house needed to be taken care of, he wanted to make sure I could just make the call and take care of it. He trusted my judgement so it wasn't like he needed me to ask permission or run the cost by him, his prioritiy was that my daughter and I would be okay. Making her and a chi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 01:01 AM |
| 19 | How to have relationship talk?I don't know if Im just old fashioned or what, but I never make the move to advance the relationship. Im not going to bring up defining the relationship, be the first to say I love you, be the one to propose to a guy, none of that. If he seems perfectly happy hanging out, and not actually dating me or showing interest in progressing into a committed relationship, me bringing it up isnt going to suddenly change his mind. He might go along with it, not cause he wanted it (cause if he did want it, … | /r/askFDS | 12/07/21 10:48 PM |
| 11 | Proof FDS works... I just discovered you can access blocked numbers! Look at the coffee dates. Swipe for the guy that asked me out to mcdonalds and what he messaged after being blockedI don't get where guys are so terrified they are being used for food. Like, is there some huge food scarcity Im not aware of where Im expected to desperately date men Im not interested in so that I can hoard food resources? Should I start bringing a big purse with me out for dinner so I have sufficient room for takeout boxes? Ration my food during the meal so that I have enough left to last me til my next date? Im scared y'all! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 12:55 AM |
| 21 | And people were praising his honesty 🤡🤡🤡.Yeah, my kid comes before any guy. Just because she's an adult now, that does not change. I want nothing to do with any guy who has no respect for my daughter, full stop. No matter who someone is, date, family or friend...if my daughter shows any discomfort, he can go off. Id gotten in touch with a part of my family and they added me and my daughter to fb. She let me know that one of my uncles was creeping her out...everytime she posted a pic hed hit like right away and would tell her how cute o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 12:47 AM |
| 360 | And people were praising his honesty 🤡🤡🤡.Men are not okay. I used to live a couple blocks from a major college, so everywhere I went I was pretty surrounded by college aged kids. Every so often a guy would try to talk to me, and Id say ah no youre a bit young for me, my kid is in college. Reactions ranged from flat out oh, if shes as beautiful as you that would complicate things to just the deep breathe with a look on their face like thats hot. It wasnt just the younger guys, guys my age and much older did it too. Even being on a date … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 08:52 AM |
| 12 | (Tw) why did he do thisFirstly, I am very sorry to hear this happened too you. He did not just push your boundaries, he assaulted you. He is not concerned about SA against women, he himself is a rapist. I'm glad to hear you're in therapy, I myself am in therapy working through all the stuff that comes with having been assaulted, and then ending up in situations that had me feeling like "why do things like this keep happening." On a completely logical, rational level I know the correct response after telling a guy no i… | /r/askFDS | 09/07/21 06:54 PM |
| 12 | How does multi-dating work?The point of multi-dating is not to date as many guys as possible, it's to not lock yourself down to the first guy that comes along . You're single until you're not, so it makes no sense to take yourself off the market and devote all your focus on a guy when you have no idea who the guy is or if you're actually interested in him. How many guys are pursuing you or how many you're interested in has nothing to do with it. Multi-dating is the mindset that you are open to continue dating until you ar… | /r/askFDS | 08/07/21 07:31 PM |
| 3 | Can LVM become HVM?Im having a hard time with this question, even on a philosophical level, because to me its not a super productive question. Okay...lemme explain =) On a personal, internal level, we can recognize things about ourselves and set goals that are wholly within our control and a personal responsibility to reach. Our personal journey is a priority and absolutely something to think about and focus on. However, when it comes to the external level, be it family friends or a man, we have no control, its no… | /r/askFDS | 07/07/21 07:55 PM |
| 33 | What to do if a guy starts low balling you after a few days?This is the point where you make it clear you have standards...if hes willing to keep it up, good, if hes not, also good now you know you're not compatible and its time to move on. Its super common for a guy to do all the nice things in the beginning, then decide he doesnt need to "impress" you anymore. Some of it may be game playing "Im going to take her on crappy dates to see if shes just a gold digger" or it can be what hes used to....other women he dated settled for less after awhile so hes … | /r/askFDS | 07/07/21 07:41 PM |
| 7 | Becoming attracted to Green Flags/ HVMYou've got this. And dont let what family and friends think sway you either...they arent the ones considering spending the rest of their life with this guy. This is your choice to make. Another thing, super wise words a friend said to me...being friends with someone is a lot different than being in an intimate relationship with them. I was seeing a guy who we had a lot of mutual friends, theyd all known him way longer than I had, and were positively *screaming* with excitement when we started da… | /r/askFDS | 07/07/21 03:19 AM |
| 58 | I love her TikTok’s, she’s very insightful. Any thoughts on her stance regarding dating multiple men at once?Yeah no...the crux of her argument hinges on dating multiple people = hookup. NOT AT ALL! Just cause you go on a date with a guy or several guys, doesnt mean you are hooking up with all of them, on the contrary, shouldnt be hooking up with any of them. A date is literally just going out with someone to decide if you even want to see them again. I see no reason, and absolutely refuse to commit to a guy after a date based on this pOTEenTial and take myself off the market and act like Im not still … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 02:34 AM |
| 39 | Becoming attracted to Green Flags/ HVMThings that come to mind are..just cause a guy is HVM, doesnt mean hes the perfect for for everyone, and not necessarily the right guy for you. There's absolutely no reason to settle and resign yourself to be with someone because they look good on paper, rather than be with someone who compliments you and you feel good about making them a part of your life. You deserve that. Also, while it may feel good that this guy is so devoted to being with you even though you keep pushing him away......that… | /r/askFDS | 06/07/21 10:20 PM |
| 67 | How should I respond to this message?Dont respond. And block him from your fb. You're not responsible for his finances. If he couldn't afford the date he shouldn't have overextended himself. You didn't ask for busted up flowers, that he even brought it up as if he's being generous for not including the cost is douchebaggery. This guy doesn't deserve any more of your time, effort and definitely not your money. Move on from this one and don't look back. | /r/askFDS | 06/07/21 12:12 AM |
| 3 | Does anyone else want to make friends but lacks motivation/energy?Okay so... I had been in a relationship where he moved me to his city, he didnt have friends locally and we pretty much just did everything together, we even worked together, plus my daughter was a toddler, so I was pretty busy with relationship/work/being a mom and didnt make any friends. My world consisted of him and my daughter. When we broke up I realized how isolated I was. One day, there was a band in town that I REAEEEALLLY wanted to see, and I was hit with pretty fierce depression that I… | /r/askFDS | 02/07/21 05:14 PM |
| 5 | Does anyone else want to make friends but lacks motivation/energy?It took me almost 20 years of going to therapy on and off before I finally found what works for me. Not saying it will take 20yrs, just saying, the two people you saw are not a representation of what all therapists are like. It takes some effort of finding the right fit, this is afterallt the person you should feel comfortable sharing the most vulnerable parts of yourself with, and everyone isnt going to be the right person to do that with. It took me so long mainly cause I decided therapy is st… | /r/askFDS | 02/07/21 04:52 PM |
| 53 | Girl, you need the FBI, not relationship advice 😳This reminds me of a post from yesterday, the whole "its the darkness inside of me" nonsense. This guy is seriously dangerous though. Not even, haha look at this fool, typical gross man kind of way, but that guy is legit going to kill you one day serious. And heres the thing, something Ive learned is when a guy expresses anything, its for a reason. And of course that rule, when a guy says something, believe him dont rationalize it. On a muuuuch smaller scale, Ive had guys tell me, oh Im such an … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 04:47 PM |
| 95 | My biggest tip: schedule a first date after another event (work event, going out with friends, etc.)I like this... I anyway like to keep the first date to a couple hours at most, so I never turned down making plans with friends to meet afterwards, and if the date doesnt happen or it ends up being terrible, Im not bummed cause the rest of my night is going to go great regardless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 09:23 PM |
| 2 | NvM “forgets” his gf is taking an important test, gets naked and thinks it’s funny.okay so my brain is melting. Lets forget about the cameras. lets forget about the bar exam. lets even forget that someone else is in the apt altogether. Im trying really hard to think of any time in my life or any situation moving forward where id feel it totally fine and justified to stand in the kitchen naked rubbing the sweat from between my legs with a paper towel. ....stuff like this is why im paranoid about eating in other peoples homes. Who knows wtf they are doing in the place they prepa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 10:27 PM |
| 3 | When you're in a relationship with a HVM, how often would you/do you want to have sex?The norm is whatever makes you comfortable. If anyone is making you feel like you should want it more or less than you do, they are the ones being weird. If you, yourself not including what anyone else thinks, are concerned because what you want now is unusual for you personally, then thats something to explore. But how often other people prefer to have sex says literally nothing about you or whats normal for you. | /r/askFDS | 30/06/21 08:47 PM |
| 126 | As a result of begging from a LVM, my breasts trigger the worst body dysmorphic spiral. Should I get a breast augmentation to gain a sense of comfort in my body or should I just accept that my chest as is? Has anyone here had cosmetic surgery that improved the quality of their life?The thing that shoots out at me are that all your reasons for wanting it are external..fears of how you'll be perceived by a man, fear of disappointing a man, fear of a partner leaving you, fear of your worth...in your partners eyes. The very guy you describe that you want to get augmentation for sounds like the poster child for LVM. That guy youre scared you wont attract and will leave you for someone else is trash. Don't worry about him. Don't even think about him. What are some reasons you wa… | /r/askFDS | 30/06/21 02:50 AM |
| 51 | Broke FDS guidelines after years and regret it so muchI usually write long ass replies, but Im literally at a loss for words right now. Take your blessing that he made himself known and run. This guy is not worth a drop of your mental energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 09:18 PM |
| 1 | Block and Delete: People Know Because Their Texts Turn GreenI gasped when I saw that LOL to be fair, I hate talking on the phone, so I never pick up if I dont know who it is, and even if it is someone Id love to talk to theres a moment of ugggggh...before I pick up the phone. though 9/10 its anyway more likely Ill send them a "hey sorry I missed your call! Hows it going?" text. I set my ring tone to a song I like, that way I have something nice to listen to while I wait for it to stop ringing =D | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 09:13 PM |
| 2 | Block and Delete: People Know Because Their Texts Turn GreenThat sounds terrible....I dont know if android has that feature, but I usually dont block, I just ignore. I also use Google voice, not my phone service to make calls and texts, so even if I did filter out messages so I cant see them, they wouldnt know about it. I totally understand why some need to block, for their sanity so that they dont have to see and re-experience any sort of emotional reaction. Once Im done, Im done though...there is no feeling I have to respond to a message no matter what… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 08:38 PM |
| 4 | 🚨Vetting Strategy: Watch how a man drivesOkay, Im going to call myself out...I have terrible road rage. And many...many times when someone is driving like a jerk, I do the whole pull up next to them for my "I KNEW it, only a man would drive like that!!!" moment. So beyond my bit of bias for having zero tolerance and a terrible reaction to aggressive (usually male) drivers on the road...I 100% agree with all your other points! lol Beyond driving, anyone who doesnt care about the safety of the people trusting them to be responsible, and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 08:16 PM |
| 9 | If you must use OLD, then whatever you do please just stop using Bumble.Ive heard so many great things about bumble, and just cant bring myself to use it for that very reason. Im on OKCupid and Tinder, and most times wait to see who reaches out to me, but sometimes would send them a message first. Pretty much every guy I messaged never responded to me. (thoughts on that later) There is a guy who we ended up seeing each other for a short while. He did something silly, and I was playfully teasing him about it, and he joked back, hey, you messaged me first remember? yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 06:42 PM |
| 5 | Finally met my HVM 🥰Not going to lie...you had me in the first paragraph... Thank you for laying it on thick quick fast, cause I was just about to form my mouth into saying "oh hell no" when I got to the countless walk dates part and went...hol' up. lmfao, you are terrible...thanks for the laugh! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 02:29 AM |
| 25 | HV man with communication issues?You have a guy who can't string words together to communicate with you and refuses to seek help for a health issue. That is not HVM behavior. The traits you listed are basic traits for being a decent human being...being loyal and honest isnt a cut above the rest, its the bare minimum. Its like saying your purse has the same traits as a high end purse, like a zipper and straps. Im not coming down on you btw, just pointing stuff out..I myself just came out of a somewhat similar situation. There we… | /r/askFDS | 21/06/21 02:12 AM |
| 28 | Dear John: Betty BroderickI completely understand... Its super rare I get emotionally involved in anything I watch, but this seriously had my heart racing at some points. I wish I could remember what scene it was now, but there is one where I had to hit pause, made some coffee, and went outside for a breather cause I was so upset. I can imagine any woman watching this has experienced at least one of the things this guy did to her, and it just seriously hits way too close to home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 05:31 PM |
| 31 | Dear John: Betty BroderickIts on Netflix! And you're so right...I dated a lawyer for a brief amount of time and...in my very limited experience, I wholeheartedly believe everything you say. Im also super wary of doctors, especially surgeons, with the god complex thing being a huge issue with those guys. Also police officers / corrections officers / security guards (the worst I think, cause they tend to be guys who for whatever reason werent accepted as police officers and angry about it) those jobs attract guys who have … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 05:24 PM |
| 46 | Dear John: Betty BroderickIt really struck me, how he played off this, she only cares about money and just a goldigger story while looking at her in disgust, yet while she was struggling to keep the bills paid, tightening up expenses and making sacrifices so they could survive while he was in school, he was buying expensive custom made coats. He was the one with the mid life crisis luxury car while she drove a beat up van. Like yeah, she spent money, but he was driven by it....going around calling himself "The Count du M… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 04:59 PM |
| 85 | Dear John: Betty BroderickThe third episode has a scene where a psychologist is talking about the emotional effects of gaslighting, I feel like that episode should be required watching for all women. For years she felt something was off, and flat out asked him if he was cheating, and for years he told her she was crazy, out of touch with reality and right up to the moment he left for the other woman, had her thinking there was something wrong with her for even suggesting hed do such a thing. When he said their divorce st… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 04:50 PM |
| 2 | "You can't let one bad experience color your perception of all men!" "Actually, most men I've met treated me/women badly" "If every man you've dated was a jerk, there is probably something wrong with you, you're the common denominator"Yes, exactly! It's really hard when your normal, and and what makes sense to you as a way to react / accept whats going on / etc are just a continuation of past traumas. It makes me angry when people say things like, get over the past it was in the past. Easy to say when theres any kind of healthy foundation to move forward in life with. I like to go..alright, what are the letters of the alphabet? Most people will can rattle it off A-Z without a second thought because its what we were taught at … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 02:38 PM |
| 13 | "You can't let one bad experience color your perception of all men!" "Actually, most men I've met treated me/women badly" "If every man you've dated was a jerk, there is probably something wrong with you, you're the common denominator"Oh simple, what were supposed to do is know our place, to be as polite and kind as possible to every man, and understand we owe them our full trust and respect the moment we meet them. If we anger or hurt a guy by rejecting or ghosting him, forcing him to have to be hostile towards us, its our own fault for making poor choices. Instead, we need to fulfill our role to please men (which should be our #1 priority in life) and always strive to do whatever he wants that serves his best interest and a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 03:18 PM |
| 27 | Q: Any suggestions for a response when an out of town guy asks you to pick a restaurant?This guy sounds abrasive...regardless of the actual situation, the way hes handling communicating with you is a huge turn off. Its not a good look for him. That being said, we live in an age where a person from anywhere in the world has access to the internet to be able to do some research and figure out what places they would like to eat when they travel. He too has this capability to put in at least that little effort without being coerced into it. Also, take from this what you will....back in… | /r/askFDS | 19/06/21 01:48 PM |
| 10 | "You can't let one bad experience color your perception of all men!" "Actually, most men I've met treated me/women badly" "If every man you've dated was a jerk, there is probably something wrong with you, you're the common denominator"Verry close... Let's just say, I doubt he has any hope he still has a chance or can keep her as an option on the back burner =D | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 01:04 PM |
| 10 | "You can't let one bad experience color your perception of all men!" "Actually, most men I've met treated me/women badly" "If every man you've dated was a jerk, there is probably something wrong with you, you're the common denominator"My suggestion is to consider therapy to help you through this. I felt the same way, was convinced Im the common denominator, Im the problem, this is just how people see me and how my life is going to go. It took a painfully long time for me to start shifting my perspective. One aspect is, I was so used to being around and being treated a certain way, that that was familiar and comfortable to me, even though I hated it. So where someone else would be like, uh no I dont need this ish and bounce, I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 07:49 AM |
| 52 | "You can't let one bad experience color your perception of all men!" "Actually, most men I've met treated me/women badly" "If every man you've dated was a jerk, there is probably something wrong with you, you're the common denominator"Ahhh! Just today saw a post from a lady who was feeling pretty down and like a magnet to certain types of guys cause the guy she was seeing went back to his ex. The guy who she emotionally supported while he complained about said ex, and was feeling really down about herself. My heart broke in a million pieces and I replied letting her know what he does is no reflection on her or her worth. It was a pretty long reply honestly, but thankfully she did read it and sent me a pm. A short bit later, s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 07:31 AM |
| 28 | "You can't let one bad experience color your perception of all men!" "Actually, most men I've met treated me/women badly" "If every man you've dated was a jerk, there is probably something wrong with you, you're the common denominator"Jesus...part of me is like...did you read the thread where I just had this argument with a guy? But like you said, its so common all over the place that sadly, I cant even assume it was unique enough a conversation to assume thats the one youre talking about. My conversation went like: "that doesn’t mean every man is going to be that way. Maybe you have bad choice in men" My reply to that was.."Ahh okay, so those men are not responsible for their actions...its my fault for having bad choice men.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 07:17 AM |
| 3 | How can I act natural around guys I have feelings for?Suckie reply coming... time and experience. Thing is, a lot of that stuff is all knee jerk reactions that you really cant help. For me, my heart would race to the point I could hear it in my ears, I would get super flushed, like I could feel the heat rising up my face (Im black to thankfully, no blushing to go with that lol), I have a stutter, few people know it, but its insane when Im nevous or very excited, and my motor control would be come crap...if I was holding anything, it would hit the f… | /r/askFDS | 19/06/21 12:07 AM |
| 4 | “50 Shades of Grey” was horrible and it’s tragic that it led so many young women to BDSMWhen this came out, I was a domme and beyond not interested, even if it was the most amazing well written book, male doms are not on my radar, def not the target market for that stuff. But...from the get go even from people who seemed to enjoy the book, I was like...WTF HUH? No thats...thats not bdsm, thats abuse. WTF?! and I went from disinterested to disgusted. A handful of times Ive met guys who say they loved it and asked if I read it...at that point I know theres no point it taking things a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 11:58 PM |
| 90 | “But ugly guys will treat you better and they won’t cheat on you!” No. Countering scrote propaganda:Yeah no. When I was younger, dated guys I didnt find physically attractive and it backfired every single time. Actual conversations: "I couldnt believe someone like you would be interested in me, and I realized maybe women do want me, and it gave me the confidence to start talking to women more and...I dont know what happened...it just happened! But...thank you! You changed my life and now I know I can get with women!" "Women were never interested in me til we started dating, and all of a sudden… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 09:41 PM |
| 2 | Apparently single women can’t have nice things aka my attempt to buy a houseThis is so gross. Im not in the market to buy a house, but have come across this while trying to find a place to rent. From people telling me what the rent is in a "are you sure you can afford this?" tone, to flat out telling me the place might be too big for me and I might prefer something smaller and less expensive. I think it was that much worse being a black single mom, thats a red flag for some reason. I've done the thing where I wore a ring and said my fiance traveled quite a bit for work,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 09:58 PM |
| 25 | Another post that demonstrates why it’s good to weary of so-called male ‘friends’. It always come back to sex and whether they see you as bangable or not.I cant come down on her...she just got dumped, going through some emotional stuff, very vulnerable right now and not thinking straight at all. The people who she considers her friends are being predators, now that they know shes feeling low and vulnerable, they are shooting their shot to take advantage of her. They're not friends, they're disgusting. And if she goes through with this, once shes thinking clearly again shes going to regret this and its going to haunt her for a long time if not for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 08:29 PM |
| 21 | I want to share an eye opening conversation i had with a guy friendIt is different, but not for the reasons hes using to try and justify porn. In a movie, not only are all well paid professional actors, everything you see is faked, nothing you see happening is actually happening, any pain inflicted, any action taken on the other like being beaten or assaulted or whatever is all clever angles and props and sound effects to make it seem like they are experiencing what is going on, but in reality, its all fake. In porn, they are actually doing to the women what yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 07:55 PM |
| 19 | Does the FDS attitude apply to male friends as well? How might it differ?Against the grain, I do have male friends, three of my best friends are male (one nearly 10yrs, another 15yrs, and another Ive known since I was a kid around 30yrs) and yeah, for me, FDS applies. Of couse, esp with my oldest friend, this was pre FDS, "The Rules" etc, but I have a very low tolerance for guys who treat me like the only reason they have me around is because they want to hook up, I'm not one of the guys, and I refuse to be treated with less respect. I've seen it a lot, where the onl… | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 07:11 PM |
| 87 | Why are they so lazy??I replied to that. He thinks what we're scared of is rejection. Ahh to live in a world where your fear of interacting with a person of the opposite sex is primarily because they might reject you. Im already on guard when a guy approaches me, and for good reason. WTF would I go around approaching random men. And any guy with a a whisper of common sense going through his head will realize the risk of us being alone with him is far greater than his risk of being alone with us, and that he needs to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 06:11 AM |
| 13 | Dating as a woman irl: low effort coffee dates and disappointing sexBingo. He talks about his looks and job. The thing he fails to mention, like the traits that makes him a desirable person to date, is where the problem is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 10:18 PM |
| 21 | Society needs to stop perpetuating the myth that women should settle for unattractive men because they'll be "nicer". Women should be allowed to date whoever they want whether men like it or not.I've never heard of unattractive men being nicer. And my experience screams otherwise. Now first thing, it's not even about being "attractive" but who you're attracted to. A guy I don't think is attractive others might think is the hottest guy they know. So that's subjective. Having said that, I've dated guys who weren't my type and key point here, were amazed someone that looks like me would date them/made comments theyre so lucky cause I'm out of their league. And every single time... The bs c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 08:39 PM |
| 85 | If men are "biologically" attracted to teens, they need to stop being teachersTheyre not. Its a disgusting excuse men use to try and validate why they cant help what they think and try to normalize this and make it seem like they are not at fault. They are at fault, this isnt normal, and theres no way in hell I'll just lay down an accept this as some kind of standard biological reflex. Three of my favorite teachers that come to mind, my 5th grade teacher, and my hs lit and art teachers were the most impactful who left a lasting impression on me. All loved teaching, were p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 04:18 AM |
| 72 | The Myth That Older Men Are Better In Bed 🤢Hey now, not all of us here are in our 20s, FDS is for all women! And I sure am not trying to find a guy half my age. We all get older and dont look young forever and dont appreciate guys saying things about older women not being in their prime and less attractive cause we arent young anymore. Cause thats a lie. Thats where the problem lays, not with the natural biological fact we all age, but with guys trying to get with women young enough to be their daughters and trying to convince her he can… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 02:08 AM |
| 4 | Ah yes, my mission in life.Ugh. Cant say anything y'all arent already thinking. For a second I thought she would be on to something with not sitting all scrunched up, but then she had to sexualize that too. I do believe in taking up space though, not like in that seductive practically lay on your chair with a cum hither look to excite the fellas, but a dominant stance. I read about this years ago, with how powerful women never try to take up as little space as possible. There were images showing random pictures of random … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 08:42 PM |
| 29 | Author of “Cannibalism Play” Cosmo Article Responds.Im dead. You win LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 08:08 PM |
| 10 | I am FUMING. This dude will not take "no" for an answer, & he sent me this today. I NEVER agreed to hang out with him (I double checked everything) let alone on valentine's day. This is the most blatant example of gaslighting I've ever encountered, no nuance, 0/5 stars.See...thats why Im saying, the boat for being polite has sailed. By saying I dont have or want plans for Sunday, he took that to mean he still has a chance to reschedule (a date that was never schedule to begin with) for another day. Don't dance around the issue to spare his feelings...screw his feelings. "Do not contact me again" and leave it at that. Ive mentioned it a few times, if he shows up on Sunday, or any day, call the police. Regardless, get a restraining order, keep a record of his co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 01:16 AM |
| 5 | I am FUMING. This dude will not take "no" for an answer, & he sent me this today. I NEVER agreed to hang out with him (I double checked everything) let alone on valentine's day. This is the most blatant example of gaslighting I've ever encountered, no nuance, 0/5 stars.Just wanna point something out..doesnt matter what gifts you like, wouldn't matter if this guy a Greek Adonis...you have told him you're not interested and to stop contacting you and not only will he not stop, hes created a date night in his head hes planning to follow through on. You do not feel safe in your own home cause of this guy...thats not just a personal problem, its a legal one. Please take this seriously, if he shows up at your door Sun, do not hesitate for a second, call the police. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 01:11 AM |
| 8 | I am FUMING. This dude will not take "no" for an answer, & he sent me this today. I NEVER agreed to hang out with him (I double checked everything) let alone on valentine's day. This is the most blatant example of gaslighting I've ever encountered, no nuance, 0/5 stars.It could be different advise for different situations.. when I had to get a restraining order, they told me to keep a record of any and all contact he tries to make with me, and that text messages were proof of ongoing harassment that could be used against him in case things escalated. I had already sent a firm message telling him to stop contacting me, and then stopped engaging with him. The only messages were from him to me. And every time he sent one saying he was planning to come to my home … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 01:07 AM |
| 20 | I am FUMING. This dude will not take "no" for an answer, & he sent me this today. I NEVER agreed to hang out with him (I double checked everything) let alone on valentine's day. This is the most blatant example of gaslighting I've ever encountered, no nuance, 0/5 stars.Im really scared and nervous about everyone saying to block this guy. If she had, she never would have seen that he was planning to show up for a date they dont have on Sunday. Throwing her head in the sand and being ignorant of what he planning to do is not the way to handle this. Esp considering he knows where she lives. I would make it clear, we do not have a date, I do not want to see you. I have told you this several times. Stop harassing me, and if you ever show up to my home I will call t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 10:58 PM |
| 12 | I am FUMING. This dude will not take "no" for an answer, & he sent me this today. I NEVER agreed to hang out with him (I double checked everything) let alone on valentine's day. This is the most blatant example of gaslighting I've ever encountered, no nuance, 0/5 stars.Polite for what? He doesnt deserve to be treated with respect and kindness considering his blatant disrespect for her, and she has nothing to apologize for. Why should she bend over backwards to coddle his feelings...and lie and call him sweet? Eff noo. The only thing that would be abundantly clear to him is that she thinks he's sweet and he just needs to show her what a nice guy he is and she will change her mind once he makes his "grand sweeping romantic gesture" to show up and take her out. S… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 10:51 PM |
| 13 | What to gift my HVM on valentine’s?I agree with others, go for something sentimental and intimate, and I didnt even consider this but makes sense for it to be something you can share together. My guy loves baths, so I got him a really nice bubble bath and bath oil set, but we often take baths together, and knowing him, he'll want to use it with me. So even though it wasnt my intent, kind of fell into the something we'll use together category. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 12:30 AM |
| 3 | Just say you’re a broke lvm and go.Even if it is staged, I see no lie. Men like this exist, Ive been on dates with them. Huge freaking selling point too to why I want nothing to do with male feminists cause they love to pull this, an independent woman like you doesnt need a man for nothing, so I dont believe in doing anything for a woman, stunt as an excuse to not treat a woman with basic human decency. When I was younger, I stared at them til they got uncomfortable, would pay the whole bill but be all "okay I got you this time b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 12:14 AM |
| 112 | What are you ladies opinion on this? Do men deserve a material gift? I think that Valentines day is for us Women and my presence is the present! I don't like the idea of going big... My Lv ex wanted us to be set on a (equal) spending limit for both of us. Never againI consider Valentines to be a day to show appreciation to the one you love. I dont consider it to be a day for a huge extravagant gift, like an anniversary or birthday. If someone wants to go all out, cool, but I consider something affectionate to be more appropriate..so my ideas are more along the lines of handmade with love, or something that makes them feel loved when they use it...for example my bf takes baths all the time, so I got him a nice bubble bath and bat oil set, not expensive but b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 11:52 PM |
| 28 | Woman who tries to warn other women about a Reddit scam gets rape & death threats, is harassed, doxxed, and blackmailed. Please protect yourselves online and don’t reveal any personal info about yourselves!!Thats terrifying..and oddly enough, just a couple days ago I got a PM from someone saying they were a single parent, hard times covid and all, ashamed to have to ask for money but at an all time low etc etc. I just rejected the PM and moved on, but would not be surprised if this is what their deal was. Cause I dont know them from jack, new account with two very random sounding posts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 01:22 AM |
| 4 | Why cOmMuNiCaTe simply doesn't work. Extras is from "Men who hate women and the women who love them" by Susan Forward and Joan TorresYou just nailed what I thought was another completely unrelated issue Im dealing with... a million thanks for pointing this out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 12:52 AM |
| 9 | Why cOmMuNiCaTe simply doesn't work. Extras is from "Men who hate women and the women who love them" by Susan Forward and Joan TorresCheck out social signaling.. Its something Im trying to work through, but basically the concept is, we express ourselves not just with words, but also through our tone, mannerisms, facial expressions.. and its just human behavior to pick up on all these cues. A person can say nothing at all and you can figure out they are upset, for example. So like, where my problem comes in is Ill say things, but my mannerisms, tone of voice and facial expression dont reflect my words...I could be livid, but I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 11:56 PM |
| 15 | Why cOmMuNiCaTe simply doesn't work. Extras is from "Men who hate women and the women who love them" by Susan Forward and Joan TorresTLDR; thanks for posting this, cause now I dont feel like Im completely losing my mind and being unreasonable. This is something Ive been struggling with, and really grateful to read this and the comments, cause everyone from friends to my therapist are telling me one thing and Im like..but I dont get it. and was feeling like I was just having a shit time wrapping this around my brain. Thing is, I know my issues, Im not at all emotional, abusive childhood blah blah, but basically I protect mysel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 08:45 PM |
| 7 | Guys making fun of noises you make during sex. Just why?You are an incredible, beautiful, very capable woman...please dont let your experience with this guy affect how you feel about being able to choose a man who knows your worth and will treat you the way you deserve in the future. This guy is not worth all that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 02:34 AM |
| 9 | Guys making fun of noises you make during sex. Just why?I get that, and yeah honestly any woman who dates men has come across some guy who will test his luck with taking a jab at her self-esteem and confidence. It hurts, esp coming from someone you really care about. It hurt a lot more when I was younger, but nowadays after so much exposure to this behavior, its not a huge shocker anymore, and Im now able to next him and move on without giving him my mental energy. Still, every once in a blue moon someone slips through and it still hurts. Something e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 01:18 AM |
| 33 | Guys making fun of noises you make during sex. Just why?Had a guy tell me not to look at him like that during sex...did him a favor and never had sex with him again. That was the end of that. I can't say I've chosen to have sex with a guy who I think has a digsusting body, but for sure if someone is going to try and insult me and make fun of me just to try and embarrass me, I would not keep seeing him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 12:33 AM |
| 7 | Am I the only one who doesn't like to block?At least with text messages or any sort of thing where they wont know whether or not they have been blocked, I never block them. I may say Im blocking, I definitely will not respond, but I do not block. For a very specific reason. Almost 10 years ago, went one date with a guy, who was being super aggressive when I wanted to go home and he wanted me to go home with him. I have a generic email account, and would give that to guys to contact me cause my personal email would bring up my entire life … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 05:20 AM |
| 25 | Men want to trick you into doing it ALL but won't even pay for your dinner or celebrate your birthday anymore. Dont fall for it.<head desk> moment...Now that you've said that I see exactly what you mean. When I initially read this, I thought she was calling housewives bangmaids, but now get that shes saying to men housewife = bangmaid. I cant with the degeneracy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 04:31 AM |
| 21 | Remember: You're allowed to have creative time. The dishes can wait (or someone else can do them)Yeah, something I heard eons ago and tried to keep in mind while raising my daughter is your kids wont cherish and have memories of how perfectly clean the house was, they will cherish and have memories of the time you spent with them. There were times when I felt like I have to get this done and that done, but had to keep my priorities in order, time with my kid is far more important to me than making sure theres no dishes in the sink. And this quote is a great reminder that we, ourselves are m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 02:31 AM |
| 63 | Men want to trick you into doing it ALL but won't even pay for your dinner or celebrate your birthday anymore. Dont fall for it.Only thing here I take issue with is calling a woman who chooses to be a stay at home mom a bangmaid. Taking care of the household and raising kids is a job, a tough one, a non-paid one at that. The whole thing of being disrespectful to women who are homemakers, and consider her as having no value because shes doing literally everything to manage the house and family except make money is how a lot of men emotionally abuse women. Back when I got married, I was a homemaker for about 6 months befor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 02:09 AM |
| 11 | Men are stressfulFor me it was wine night with a friend, bursting into tears all upset and devestated over everything going on in my relationship. My friend told me something Ive held close ever since. She was like...if you met him today, and what he did and said to you was your first impression of him, would you want to go on another date? I was like...well no of course not. And she was like...there you have it. Doesnt matter what he used to do, what matters is what hes doing right now. If you wouldnt want him … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 01:27 AM |
| 12 | Just gonna leave this little gem here 💎Yeah, I think the spirit of what she was saying was a bit lost with her wording. Its not that this specific man will stop, but that when shes coming from a place of strength, men will stop treating her this way. Men like him prey on weak and vulnerable women who they can break down and keep where he wants her. He will keep on his behavior with another woman when he loses his grip on this one. The audacity of this guy to clap though, like,hes so dense he doesnt realize shes telling his wife she i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 12:31 AM |
| 15 | The misogynistic undertones of "you're not a REAL feminist"I just love it when real feminist tells me what I should want out of life, how I should behave and point out if the way I want to be treated is not what it means to be a real woman. Can't help but feel like this is reminds me of some huge moment in womens history...something about an end to putting women in their place..gosh, the name is on the tip of my tongue. Anyway, Its so freeing to not have to think for myself and let someone else do that for me. Especially men, male feminists are the best… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 10:58 PM |
| 296 | Men are stressfulThats why its bs, and Ive fallen for it myself, to stay with a guy who is a terrible partner, because you remember what it used to be like, and hope he'll go back to being that guy again. He was never that guy. That guy doesnt exist. Alll that matters is who he is now, not who he pretended to be way back when. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 12:26 AM |
| 28 | I'm not apologizing for not checking your pockets before doing the laundryOhhhh my gosh I have been out for quite awhile, and totally forgot about this! That is such a PITA!!!! Yeah, Id stick my pen in whatever, any, every pocket and so many times a pen or two would end up in the wash. Not like you need the validation, but not your fault at all! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 06:35 AM |
| 11 | BF pretends to be happily married family man at work, then yells at his GF when she accidentally lets it slip to co-worker that they're not marriedOh man, I literally just saw and replied to that post. I had an ex do this to me, except it was at a dinner meeting. After we left he got angry with me for correcting him, and I immediately ripped into him, cause thats BS. My relationship with him is the reason I would never again live with a guy until we're engaged, with a wedding date set and already making plans to marry. Never again will I give a guy the impression Im his "wifey" (I freaking hate that term and whole culture) to the point he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 11:05 PM |
| 6 | I gave this man my number 2 days ago. I ended up blocking him bc he was doing too much. He told me I’m “not engaging” with him. But who has time to text back and forth all day? I have a life lol. So this is his message after he realized I blocked him on WhatsApp. He’s 45.This guys whiny wordy ego bruised rant reminded me of the Oswald Bates skit on In Living Color. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9ROOi5xagxg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 10:41 PM |
| 11 | YALL. I know this convo ain’t itOh man, I so wish Id thought of this when kiddo was growing up. Anyone: Wheres her father? Me: He died during childbirth. Cant wrap my brain around the argument of the man braiding his daughters hair is almost always cause there is no mother. Like, am I missing something? Are men biologically incapable of braiding their own childs hair if a woman is present? The whole rant was anyway a really long way of saying he thinks men are trash. Sad part is, Im pretty sure he doesnt even realize thats wha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 09:55 PM |
| 6 | Is this just an American thing?From my observations, Im seeing the total opposite... Like, generationally speaking, the expectations on people and what they want to do with their lives have changed dramatically. For example: My grandmothers generation it was just expected around 18 a woman would move out when she found a man to marry, start a family and be a housewife. In my moms generation same except the whole novel idea of women working, some would want to do that too. In my big sisters generation (boomer) going to college… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 08:03 PM |
| 16 | ...what’s YOUR worst case?Yeah, when I tell stories of my bad dates, I try and stick to the funny ones. And even then, Ive learned that if my "funny" story might end with them asking me if I called the police, to not mention that one either. Thats really how bad it is, that esp when I was younger, I was in so many truly bad situations, even the ones that to me werent "so bad" freaked people out to hear about it. Now that Im older, less trusting, more cautious, I see the signs sooner and dont feel bad or worse yet, "impol… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 08:15 PM |
| 2 | Man’s idea of clean is actually super messy. Avoid men who cannot take care of their living space, even when nobody else will see it. His home should be kept tidy regardless of whether a guest is coming over.Someone else just recommended this, and I back this too! Check out unfuckyourhabitat.com, its what got me on track. =) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 05:10 PM |
| 6 | Man’s idea of clean is actually super messy. Avoid men who cannot take care of their living space, even when nobody else will see it. His home should be kept tidy regardless of whether a guest is coming over.I love that site! Yup, thats a great one that I always recommend to people, esp if they have mental health or any other health issues, cause its super non-judgmental and focuses on doing what you can, every little bit counts, instead of just heres all the things you have to do, which can be overwhelming. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 05:09 PM |
| 14 | Man’s idea of clean is actually super messy. Avoid men who cannot take care of their living space, even when nobody else will see it. His home should be kept tidy regardless of whether a guest is coming over.Yup same... My dog plays with his toys by destroying them, so that's all over the floor, and though the dishwasher gets loaded at night, plates and cups accumulate during the day, mail on the dining table, stuff like that. But when guests are coming over, I tidy up everything, vacuum, make sure the bathroom is clean with anything personal put away. My daughter teases me "Fluff the cushions! People can't know we sit on the couch!' lol I'm not really that hardcore! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 07:44 AM |
| 12 | The bar is so low yet men and pickmeshias find a way to limbo under it every damn time.Im so baffled by this. Like, I get it, back when cars were a novelty, it was fun to just get the the car and drive around. I can also totally understand moving to a new area and just going for a ride to explore the new home area. But....driving around as an activity? I cant wrap my brain around it. I went on a date with a guy who, for our second date asked if Id like him to pick me up and go for a ride. I was like...to where? And he's like, nowhere really, just go for a ride?...Why? He was all f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 03:49 AM |
| 154 | Man’s idea of clean is actually super messy. Avoid men who cannot take care of their living space, even when nobody else will see it. His home should be kept tidy regardless of whether a guest is coming over.Im willing to admit, when in severe depressive episodes, my home has been a total wreck and it would be a couple days of panicked cleaning if anyone had to come to my place. Having said that, this is what I dont understand...now some of it may be cultural, but even in the deepest pit of depression, I had enough pride that I would never, ever, allow anyone to see my place looking a mess. That would be humiliating. So no matter what was going on with me, my place was always clean and tidy when som… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 02:56 AM |
| 144 | Due to Tiktok being taken over by semi naked pickmeishas, I also won't be dating men that have a tiktok accountHeads up, though the stuff shared on other media like reddit and such tend to be stuff that creeps me out, thats not all tiktok is. It uses an algorithm that shows you more content of the stuff you watch and like. Like for me, all the tiktoks I see are language buffs, obscure trivia, paranormal stuff and lots of science topics. My bf has a ticktok and its all cute puppies doing goofy things. Thats literally it. When I catch him scrolling throug tiktok, hes just giggling and going aweeeee! the wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 10:13 PM |
| 103 | If he sucks up your time rather than enriching it, he's low valueAs I was reading this, I was amazed with myself, cause it pointed out something so obvious. Most of my friends, whether or male or female, have created full lives for themselves, have hobbies and interests.... Whenever we try to get together, its always rough cause we are trying to manage when we'll be free, even if those plans were individual, like to study or watch a movie and do a mani/pedi or reading a book or keeping with a fitness routine, we had things we liked to do, and also people we w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 08:54 PM |
| 14 | Women vs menI think the whole thing is a stereotype..I find men, in general, to be a lot more emotional. Thats just my personal experience though, and taking into account opposites attract, it makes sense I end up being around and notice men like that cause Im about as emotional as a brick wall. Its just not a surprise to me though if I see a guy get frustrated over something, he'll get defensive and angry and all emotional over it. Meanwhile, if Im frustrated, I go deep into thought, and lost in my mind tr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 02:58 PM |
| 3 | I agree with men women should not nag them. I would never be a nagging wife. If he cannot measure up to my standards, there will no be any nagging... I'd just kick him to the curb.I cracked up at this boggling your cats mind too lol!! So, I’m not the only one who talks to my pet like, “c’mere...you’re not going to believe this ish” My dog listens intently cocking his head from side to side haha! Sweetest male in my life, hands down :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 11:09 PM |
| 35 | I agree with men women should not nag them. I would never be a nagging wife. If he cannot measure up to my standards, there will no be any nagging... I'd just kick him to the curb.I once dated a guy who would joke he felt so left out when him and his friends were together, cause theyd all talk shit about their gfs, how much they nag them and all the annoying things they do and he didnt have anything like that to say about me. And I was like, well yeah, Id leave you before I start nagging you, and he agreed he cant see me putting up with that. He ended up cheating, we broke up, girl he cheated on me with apparently was like that...people were coming to me thinking it would… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 12:55 AM |
| 53 | I agree with men women should not nag them. I would never be a nagging wife. If he cannot measure up to my standards, there will no be any nagging... I'd just kick him to the curb.I find this hilarious... ever since I was in my 20's Ive told guys, I don't nag, I have no energy or time for it and I refuse to spend my life with a guy nagging him. Usually thats met with sighs of relief and how awesome that is. So yeah, some guys take that to mean I'll put up with anything and shocked when I break things off, and I remind him... I told you when we met that Im not a nag. Im not going to beg you to care about me, which is what nagging is. So yeah, we're done here. I will absolu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 10:25 PM |
| 8 | If only they all felt this level of shame... (also *accepting sorry I couldn't help it)I got notification on my phone about a reply, I guess its been deleted but saw it started with I wish a guy would take me out for a $200 dinner, or something like that. My tip..don't wish for a guy to do things for you that you want. Do those things for yourself. A guy will see what level you are at and want to meet you there or up the ante if he wants to make it really special. Even when I was broke, at a minimum, every couple months Id take my kid out to eat and spend about $60-100. So I expec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 07:04 AM |
| 32 | If only they all felt this level of shame... (also *accepting sorry I couldn't help it)This is like, the cost of going out for dinner. Sorry but no...we need to hold ourselves to higher standards than accepting being treated like wronging us can be paid off and forgiven with a few dollars. This isnt him showing shame, its him showing just how how little effort he can put in to show how little he valued, and still values her. May as well spread the money on her night table and tell her thanks for the good time. Thats how insulting this is. Best way a guy can apologize is to back of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 01:42 AM |
| 10 | Sis, No! You obviously didnt want to.I cant even imagine...I have books that Ive had since I was a little girl, it felt so awesome to see my daughter grow up reading them. I thought I had a lot..I have a couple hundred books, kiddo has more than double that. And they mean a lot to her too. Just like with me, shes mentioned how re reading books is like being transported back to the first time she read the book, and brings back memories of where we lived, what she was doing and feeling at that time and thinks it so cool the idea of h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 11:54 PM |
| 12 | Having fun isn’t hard... when you stalk girls getting a library card.The only thing that bothers me about her recollection of this is how she downplays what he did by saying she thought she had a stalker, and how he talked to her like a stalker would. Thats because hes a stalker!!! I think it sucks that we're so conditioned to be polite and not say anything that might bruise a guys ego out of fear of how he'll react, that even in a situation where shes talking about this guy who she'll never see or talk to again, she still tip toes around calling him out for what… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 11:45 PM |
| 11 | Other relationships subs need a lot more of this energy. Inspired by horror stories being shared here.Yeah, thing is...by the time a lot of people ask for relationship advice, its more along the lines of, Ive run out of ideas for ways to rationalize staying in a bad relationship and need some ideas for things I can do to keep ignoring all these red flags. Not on a conscious level though of course, and we've all been there, its just a lot easier to see from the outside in than when you're experiencing it. So many people think theres something wrong with them that they keep ending up in bad relati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 10:07 PM |
| 4 | I don’t understand the obsession with wanting to live with menI havnt lived with a guy in almost 15yrs... on one hand, Im not at all opposed to the idea of getting married and living with my guy, on the other hand, the idea of having to share my space with a guy annoys me just thinking about it. To further complicate things, the guy I was married to, and the guy I lived with both had jobs which had them traveling all the time. So it was just me and my daughter the majority of the time...I have no idea what it would be like to live with someone who didnt ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 01:59 AM |
| 16 | Dump that trash!Theres only one person that to this day, and likely to the end of time I think about and get upset over. Picked up a woman who (and this would not matter if not for everything else combined) lived in a very expensive gated community in a wealthy part of the city... We got to talking, she asked about me, I shared I was a single mom, driving uber while studying for a career change, blah blah, she went on about how its fate we met, cause shes on her way to give a talk at some womens conference and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 01:34 AM |
| 13 | Dump that trash!Guy Im seeing now walks me to my door every single time...doesnt matter if its pouring rain, he gets out, makes sure I get to my door and inside before he leaves. And the flip matters too..there is no way in hell I would run out the door for a guy that pulls up and honks for me. Im not a 50s diner where you honk for your server to come to your car..come get me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 12:57 AM |
| 30 | Dump that trash!Unfortunately, guys would have a field day with it if there was a way to select only a woman driver, so that will never happen. I drove all hours of the day and night, and when it was very late on weekends, there would always be that huge look of relief and I got a lot of comments they were happy to get a female driver. People would always tell me its not safe for me to drive so late at night, and Id point out, by their reasoning, women riding home late all dressed up maybe had a few drinks will… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 12:52 AM |
| 64 | Ladies, how much do men you date tend to spend on you, per month, during the early phase?Not sure what him being able to afford her "spacious Manhattan apt" has to do with anything...hes talking like, Ive landed a potential sugar mama, what can I do to spend less on her and get her to pitch in and help me out financially. I have the feeling, with his attitude and focus on how much she makes, hes not going to have to worry about the cost of overnight parking at her place much longer. Also, considering he describes her as someone with standards, that she lives well, doesnt spend money… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 08:53 PM |
| 33 | Unique struggles of dating and vetting as a plus-sized FDSerSad but true story... When I was younger I was very thin and super cute (I can look back and say that now, at the time I was on a perma diet and always trying to fix issues that werent there). Sometimes guys would approach me to talk, to ask me out, it was flattering, always respectful and backed off when I said I was dating someone. After my breakup I started gaining weight, within 2yrs I put on close to 40lbs. Everywhere I went guys were like dayum dat a**, I'll be your man, and just generally… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 10:31 PM |
| 7 | Forever gf offers to move in, pay half his bills and do all the chores. Instead of thanking his lucky stars, this scrote throws a mantrum, trying to force her into a ‘real job’, because he wants to make her life even more miserable and is jealous of her succes.What does a trust fund baby have to do with anything? She doesnt have a trust fund. She was left property by her grandparent, and turned that into a business to work as a landlord to upkeep and maintain the properties. If she was not doing that job well and was a shitty landlord, she wouldnt have tenants to collect rent from. Additionally, shes written a book an on contract for a 3 part series, so she has not one, but two jobs. Her bf is jealous that she found two things she loves that provides … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 08:37 PM |
| 5 | In the spirit of the holidays... What is the most OTT gift you gave to a man who absolutely did not deserve it?Only one where I felt tons of regret, its been over 10yrs but it ruined me for buying guys gifts. Its not nearly as major as most stories here, but I was incredibly broke. He was very well off and was sure hed get me something nice, so I didnt want to be embarrassed giving him a cheap gift. It took me several months to save up a bit over $100. Tiffanys had keychains and with engraving it came right to my budget. They even wrapped and boxed it and hand tied a bow, it looked incredible for what I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 02:04 AM |
| 2 | Broke men being afraid of gold diggers is so funny to me😂Yes of course! I share that bit of advise freely. It made such a huge impact on my own perspective and hope it helps others too =D | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 11:26 PM |
| 5 | Broke men being afraid of gold diggers is so funny to me😂Thats so insane to fly off the handle over something like that! Yeah, I dont get the stereotype that women are emotional. Already through so many years of hearing it, women have been conditioned to not show emotion to be taken seriously, otherwise we're accused of being emotional. Yet some guys dont see themselves as emotional cause they cant control their temper. I dont get it... Thats good that you cancelled and blocked that guy. When I was going through a rough time with my ex, a friend told … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 08:44 PM |
| 5 | Broke men being afraid of gold diggers is so funny to me😂This really made me smile! =) Yeah, they sure can try eh? I've had my moments, but my patience has run thin, and my tolerance for BS is so low now that it doesnt take much for me to cut loose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 05:49 PM |
| 19 | Broke men being afraid of gold diggers is so funny to me😂That guy sounds great, even up to not staying with you when he knew you werent the one, cause a lesser man would have just strung you along while keeping his eye out for something else. You havnt lost anything though, you definitely deserve to be a mans hell yeah, and its still great to come across guys like this, it take the edge off knowing they are indeed out there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 01:02 AM |
| 15 | This woman is badass. She’s a saint for going above and beyond to make sure the son will have someone proper in his life.Makes a lot of sense to me...I too get a desperation vibe. She was willing to spend several years of her life manipulating a man to get his child and leave him. I watch too much crime tv. Cause Ive seen stories of women wanting someone elses child for their own so badly they steal them out of hospitals, or cut them from a pregnant woman, the difference here is she found a loophole to make it legal, but same intent, she saw a kid she wanted and devised a plan to make him her son. And yeah, while … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 10:52 AM |
| 24 | This woman is badass. She’s a saint for going above and beyond to make sure the son will have someone proper in his life.Yeah, she said that after he cheated, they reconciled, and she acted like everything in the marriage was perfect for the next 4 years, to make him feel secure in the marriage and trust her enough to adopt his son, fully planning to divorce him cause she didnt have any feelings for him anyway. She only wanted his child. Def, the way she keeps repeating over and over again that the grandparents knew she was manipulating him and fully supported it is just...odd. But she also mentioned she started i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 09:36 AM |
| 80 | This woman is badass. She’s a saint for going above and beyond to make sure the son will have someone proper in his life.I did not get good vibes from this to be honest... like just the way the whole thing went down. She integrated herself in with the family and fell in love with the son. As soon as the father broke up with his gf, they rushed to marry within a few months of dating even though, in one of her replies she said, I did not love the man, I loved Jay. She knew she didnt want him, but pretended to be happily married to him to establish time as a family and get her husbands trust just so that she could ad… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 08:52 AM |
| 24 | You can break up with your bf due to financial reasonsI feel where you're coming from, but from my experience, its not about how much money a guy has, but what he feels you are worth. Ive dated guys who were incredibly wealthy, and incredibly cheap, they paid for dates and such, but felt stuff like buying gifts was unnecessary. On the flip, Ive dated guys who had next to nothing, but considering my birthday is the same day every year, christmas is the same day every year, so is valentines day...they have advance notice to plan and saved up to get m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 11:11 PM |
| 6 | Pedophile is angry his victim cheated on him and tells her mom. 11 year relationship starting when he was 18 and she was 12!I'm the moms defense, I too would tell him I don't want to hear anymore. I could really give a fuck to hear whatever he has to say about my daughter. Id see it for what it is, and what he admitted to, a ploy to destroy her relationship with her family. Screw him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 10:41 PM |
| 2 | I replied to a comment and got a nasty PM. The poster didn't want to be her insecure husband's unpaid therapist. The commentor disagreed. Apparently I deserve to be mistreated for not...allowing myself to be mistreated? My reply is probably harsher than I meant, but I have no regrets. 😂Awe glad you were able to get something helpful out of that! It's really tough, and finding good care is also tough. But finally in good hands where I recently fully understood my impact on others and the skills I need to use so I can function better. I'm still struggling, but those closest to me see how hard I'm trying and have been super supportive, interested in my treatment and even doing skills with me. So worth it 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 08:54 PM |
| 16 | I replied to a comment and got a nasty PM. The poster didn't want to be her insecure husband's unpaid therapist. The commentor disagreed. Apparently I deserve to be mistreated for not...allowing myself to be mistreated? My reply is probably harsher than I meant, but I have no regrets. 😂The analogy makes no sense whatsoever... "hey hun, I broke my neck and cant move my arms or legs, think you can come check me out right quick?" wtf?! No, theyd be treated by trained medical professionals! Mental health is no different, you go to trained medical professionals for treatment, not your gf. And I totally agree, if someone refuses to get medical care for a health condition, and leans on people around them for support instead of getting proper treatment, then no, no one is under any ob… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 07:11 AM |
| 20 | I'm having a hard time watching romcoms because they reinforce that a woman would need a manI only watch romcoms after a breakup, so I can yell at my tv how stupid everyone is being. Its oddly therapeutic... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 06:43 AM |
| 13 | NEVER tell scrotes that you’re a virginand make sure to use condoms and lube the first time having sex. every single time you have sex. Agreed with all points, but had to fix that last one for you. Don't have any guy convince you oh now we've been together blah blah we should ditch the condoms. Every guy Ive ever known eager to stop using protection in fact never used protection and only put up with it at first cause I insisted. Im in my 40s and still refuse, Im using protection til Im married. No guy is worth taking risks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 11:58 PM |
| 1 | Do NOT tell a man about your mental health issues unless he’s been thoroughly vettedI totally agree with that... it sucks that you never really know who the genuine people who actually care are until the chips are down. There are people in my life who understand because theyre going through their own thing, people who have no idea what its like, but supportive cause they are about me, and people I no longer associate with who didnt understand and became judgmental, even hostile towards me. And yeah, no way is it a smart move to just lay out diagnosis and delve into all the stor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 12:48 PM |
| 1 | Do NOT tell a man about your mental health issues unless he’s been thoroughly vettedWhere did I say anything about not trying? But no, in no way do I think that just because someone used their best judgement and trusted someone, if that person betrayed their trust it means its their own fault for trying to begin with. What Im basically saying is what I literally said...theres no way to be 1000% sure of someone. People have known their spouse for decades only to find out they didnt know them at all, so theres no way to wait around until its determined with 1000% certainty that s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 11:43 AM |
| 5 | I’ve been seeing a lot of forever-GF posts lately and thought this was kind of wholesome to contrast (although not condoning the drink date 🙅🏼♀️). It’s rare to see men articulate emotions like this (even if it is on Reddit, hopefully he tells her as well)Reading this made me think of how my sister must feel when I talk about my dating life and shes got this "Oh honey" look on her face! She met her husband when she was around 23 I think, theyve been married over 35 years and he still romances her, buys her flowers, he learned how to make her favorite meals from our country and cooks them for her, but even little everyday things like holding her hand when she gets out the car, asking her if she needs anything whenver he goes into the kitchen or wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 08:06 AM |
| 3 | I’ve been seeing a lot of forever-GF posts lately and thought this was kind of wholesome to contrast (although not condoning the drink date 🙅🏼♀️). It’s rare to see men articulate emotions like this (even if it is on Reddit, hopefully he tells her as well)I didn't quote anyone as saying its romantic or ideal, those are my words. But nothing about idealizing the guy, I said romantic or ideal as in a romantic or ideal relationship. Where I got that impression from were comments in the discussion where someone said this is sweet, another mentioned something about it being a dream, another saying its impressive, and I guess I just had a strong emotional reaction. I was not quoting or directly responding to anyone, just giving my personal point of vie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 05:26 AM |
| 33 | Men trying to convince women we need "a man."Agreed. I take it even further to suggest its not only single women, but those in relationships, or even married shouldnt need a man. Sure they have one, he is a part of her life, they are a life together, but I think its a very dangerous situation to be completely dependent and unable to function without him. And I dont even just mean for negative reasons, like feeling trapped to stay after be cheats or is abusive, also for reasons out of anyones control like he becomes very ill or passes away.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 04:23 AM |
| 6 | I’ve been seeing a lot of forever-GF posts lately and thought this was kind of wholesome to contrast (although not condoning the drink date 🙅🏼♀️). It’s rare to see men articulate emotions like this (even if it is on Reddit, hopefully he tells her as well)I wasnt quoting you as saying it was romantic or ideal... it was just a general observation after reading through the comments that this relationship is progressing in a romantic way and he seems like an ideal guy. I personally don't agree, but I get the gist Im in the minority. He said soon after they met they were spending every single night together. Its my personal thing that I dont rearrange my life to spend every free moment I have with a guy I start dating. Totally agree with you on not m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 03:48 AM |
| 36 | I’ve been seeing a lot of forever-GF posts lately and thought this was kind of wholesome to contrast (although not condoning the drink date 🙅🏼♀️). It’s rare to see men articulate emotions like this (even if it is on Reddit, hopefully he tells her as well)I know this is being seen as romantic and ideal but, Im not feeling it. They start dating, and she quickly makes herself accessible at all times spending every night together. She then moves in due to her lease being up. They spend every day of the pandemic together making him so happy grocery shopping and folding laundry. So he claims to have a sense of urgency to marry her, are his next words that hes planning to propose? no hes "going to get up, get a glass of water and sit on my phone for a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Do NOT tell a man about your mental health issues unless he’s been thoroughly vettedI feel like we might be looking at it from different angles. Im not just thinking about some guy whos been around a couple weeks or a few months...a relationship can terminate after 30 years, children and a mortgage together. While I dont believe in completely trusting a guy, I do believe that as a relationship progresses, some level of trust is built and you learn more about each other as time goes on. Some guys reveal themselves early on, others wait until years into the relationship and think… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Do NOT tell a man about your mental health issues unless he’s been thoroughly vettedI have no idea what youre talking about. I was replying to the person who said "dont give someone youre not 1000% sure of a weapon" and my belief is you cant be 1000% sure of a man even if youre together 30+ years. Why would I whine I trusted a guy, when I dont believe in 1000% trusting a guy in the first place? Im not talking about wearing your heart on your sleeve and throwing up everything there is to know about yourself on a first date, Im talking about over the course of a relationship be i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 07:18 PM |
| 1 | Do NOT tell a man about your mental health issues unless he’s been thoroughly vettedThe unfortunate truth is there is no way to be 1000% sure. People have been married 20-30-40+ years only to find out the guy has a second life, been cheating, not honest about how they make their money and end up in prison, you can think you know a person only to find out you dont know them at all. If mental health is used to ruin a relationship, then I would consider, if your friends/families/loved ones turn their back on you because some bf told you you have mental health struggles, then are t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 01:11 PM |
| 2 | Do NOT tell a man about your mental health issues unless he’s been thoroughly vettedI get that, but then do you never share mental illness or any other thing that could possibly be used as a weapon just in case the relationship doesnt work out and be in fear of a breakup? Thats a kind of fear I do not want to live in, and the best way to combat that is to not allow someone to think they hold any kind of power over you because they know something about you. Theres a risk of being gaslit, manipulated, used, cheated on and whatever other plethora of things women face in relationsh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 01:03 PM |
| 7 | Do NOT tell a man about your mental health issues unless he’s been thoroughly vetted...and do what with that information? Try to blackmail you? I'll tell people you have a health condition or else? Being scared to break up with someone because you're worried about who they really are and believe they might be manipulative is not a reason to stay and walk on eggshells. Its a reason to cut him out fast and for good and throw him in the trash. Never be afraid to break up with someone who isnt good for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 08:13 AM |
| 23 | Can men stop deflecting and lying about their height when they realise I'm taller than them?Are you suuure youre 5'10? Are you suuuure cause youre at least 6 or 6'1. Thats been my dating life since..forever. Ive had guys straight up lie about their height, have the nerve to tell me they cant wait to see me in heels, and be shorter than me. Then act shocked at my height. Like wtf did you think was going to happen?!! Now, heres the thing, Im tall af, so I actually dont care if a guy is my height or a bit shorter...at my height, a man who is taller than me when Im in heels is far and few … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 01:51 AM |
| 16 | A Low Value Man Walks Into a Museum… | Why You Shouldn't Give a Shit About What Men Think of Your ClothesIve been sexualized while wearing oversized sweatpants, a hoodie, hadnt washed my hair in, god knows who long and was in a deep depression trying to make myself look as gross as possible after Id been assaulted. Speaking of, when I was assaulted, I was wearing jeans, a sweater, boots and a winter coat. I once got let go from a temp job for dressing inappropriately in clothes that showed off my figure too much. My boss just walked in one morning and told me the agency wanted to see me right now. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 07:12 AM |
| 160 | Found this lol. "What myth is still widely circulated as truth?" Sorry, didn't know what flair to use.So basically there was a study that proved men lie to themselves about their size. Shocking, with how honest they are about their height and upfront about what they want in a relationship, I am floored...floored I tell you about this revelation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 09:15 PM |
| 17 | Painful to watch. A true HVM will pursue you with respect and the right intentions. You’ll never have to wonder where you stand with an HVM because he’ll always remind you and he’ll actually ask you at the right time to be his girlfriend.If youre confused where you stand in the relationship, its on purpose. If a man is serious about you, he will make sure you know what value you hold in his life. "what are we? You dont treat me well enough to understand whether or not we're in a relationship, but can I call you my boyfriend?" What? All he did is agree to a title, it means nothing. if shes wants to be committed to a guy who shes confused about because hes not putting in the effort to be part of a secure relationship, then she'll … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 11:45 PM |
| 17 | HVM vs LVM: period editionHad a guy break things off with me cause of it...I never feel when its coming on, but usually very regular and it was a couple days early. I woke up in the middle of the night in a panic and so humiliated. Told him what happened, he left to buy me tampons while I stripped the sheets and put them in the wash, made sure the mattress was clean, nothing was stained cause I was quick about it. All in all, from the time I woke him up til we fell back asleep, was maybe half an hour. We had planned to g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 10:26 PM |
| 9 | “Don’t do things for me” - from the horse’s mouthYup. Exactly 100%. I don't have the emotional energy necessary to pamper a guys ego and help him feel like hes a man. He needs to already have that figured out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 09:09 PM |
| 44 | “Don’t do things for me” - from the horse’s mouthThat's... Weird. No, I don't see the takeaway from this as never do anything for a man. I see it as don't get involved with a man who thinks women have nothing to offer and feels his manhood is being threatened if a woman is capable of doing things he can't. I can't with the idea my role is to just sit there and look pretty while he does all the things, and keep my mouth shut even if I could help, just to avoid bruising his little ego. That's not to say I go over and beyond about out of my way. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 08:12 PM |
| 6 | Love LanguagesI put about as much weight on love languages as I do in astrological compatibly. It's fun to look into but hardly a guideline. That being said, I can see value in it. Love language isn't about how you treat someone else, but how you like to be treated. For example, if a guy says his love language isn't gift giving, that means he doesn't care about getting gifts, has nothing to do with giving them. Like with the words of affirmation, I hate being gushed over. It sets my warning bells off when a g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 07:59 PM |
| 2 | Case Study: I was stood up today. And I can see the mistakes I made.I used to put so much emotional energy into trying to understand what happened and what I could've done better. As I've gotten older, I've figured out the only thing I need to do is put him in the trash and forget about him. Guys like that aren't worth the time to even think about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 07:40 PM |
| 3 | I’m a part-time writer, and I saw this on a romance book sub. I hope it gives you ladies a laugh! For some reason, I feel like this is what a lot of men have to offer. 🤔🤣🤣 (and, usually not even the fitness part)I got you and do agree, it's not unreasonable to expect the average guy in his 20s to be able to lift 125lbs. No matter how strong a 30,40,50+yo guy is, generally speaking they won't be able to do everything they could while in the prime of their youth. Even if they take care of themselves and work out, knee and back pain is a MF! Believe me, in another 20yrs when you're looking at it from another perspective, not only will you not expect the average guy your age to be able to lift you, you'd be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 07:37 PM |
| 21 | Quick Survey - How Did You All Find FDS?Needs one one more option to be able to vote since mine doesnt fit in, like others who have commented, I found it cause someone was ranting, mentioned this sub and I had to search for it to find out what they were so mad about. Glad I did :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 11:49 AM |
| 11 | How long to wait for sex with someone new?As much as you don't want to hear it, when it feels right is the right answer. It really depends on your goals. I saw you mention in comments that you arent looking for an engagement and don't want marriage. I wont make assumptions that it also means you dont want a relationship. But whether you're looking for something serious or casual will factor into this and will help answer your question about finding a man who will wait. Wait...for what exactly? What is the end goal that needs to be achie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 11:13 AM |
| 16 | Case Study: I was stood up today. And I can see the mistakes I made.Dont be hard on yourself or even find reasons to blame yourself. You can do everything right and the LVM will still act like one regardless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 09:32 AM |
| 137 | The cesspool of online dating is pure male delusion, really dude???Its a numbers game, those guys are swiping right on everyone and will hook up with anyone who responds to them. Its in no way personal or selective and not worth the energy to give these guys a second thought. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 08:46 AM |
| 142 | One of my friends just proposed to her 10 year boyfriend -I legit started to tear up from laughing so hard as I scrolled and kept seeing more clowns lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 03:36 AM |
| 16 | The BIGGEST fucking RED FLAG!!!Exactly... there are unstable women and unstable men and anyone at any given time has has the misfortune of dating someone who is indeed crazy. But someone with any self respect and respect for who theyre currently dating isnt going to make it the topic of any conversation to focus on talking crap about their ex or carry so much emotional baggage that they go off on how much they hate their ex etc. Besides that, its a manipulation tactic. Anytime Ive encountered this it was, oh my ex was crazy, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 01:04 AM |
| 1 | I’m a part-time writer, and I saw this on a romance book sub. I hope it gives you ladies a laugh! For some reason, I feel like this is what a lot of men have to offer. 🤔🤣🤣 (and, usually not even the fitness part)I was responding to your original post saying being able to lift a woman is the norm for a man. The norm is, theres a 40% obesity rate in America (wont assume what country your in, so can only talk about my perspective) of those who arent overweight, some percentage of those are lanky and underweight, and of those within normal weight ranges, not all of them hit the gym or can open a jar of pickles. Thats why I brought up physical fitness and also age as a factor. Including those factors, it not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 11:27 PM |
| 2 | I’m a part-time writer, and I saw this on a romance book sub. I hope it gives you ladies a laugh! For some reason, I feel like this is what a lot of men have to offer. 🤔🤣🤣 (and, usually not even the fitness part)What a freaking shame that is eh?! I think its demographic too though. I used to live in Miami, and everyone is on point and puts a lot into looking their best. I dated South Americans and Europeans and they were meticulous about looking and dressing well. In the PNW now and...it took me a really, really long time to get used to how casual things are (to put it politely). My ex came to visit with his wife and was like...my god, does no one here own a full length mirror?! LMFAO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 10:41 PM |
| 2 | I’m a part-time writer, and I saw this on a romance book sub. I hope it gives you ladies a laugh! For some reason, I feel like this is what a lot of men have to offer. 🤔🤣🤣 (and, usually not even the fitness part)Right there with you... Im 5'10 and was 150 in my 20s/30s. In my 40's now and pushing 200 (thanks Covid 19(lbs)!!) Since I was a teen I was just as tall, and in most cases weighed just as much, if not more than the guy I was with. I was Army so just as strong if not stronger. Guy Im seeing now is 6'5 and bigger than me, but I dont equate his size to being stronger than me. No idea if he could lift me, but at our age thats not the kind of thing you take a chance trying to find out lmfao! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 10:33 PM |
| 1 | I’m a part-time writer, and I saw this on a romance book sub. I hope it gives you ladies a laugh! For some reason, I feel like this is what a lot of men have to offer. 🤔🤣🤣 (and, usually not even the fitness part)Maybe.. I guess since Im so tall (5'10) I never really compared myself to guys as the smaller weaker sex. My daughter is only 5'3, but after growing up with me, also has the, Im just as strong and just as capable mentality and finds it as annoying as I do when a guy tries to do something for her cause he thinks he has some sort of advantage by being a man. More than anything, I dont think its men are stronger, but whoever is fit is stronger, regardless of sex. Pretty sure the average woman I ser… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 10:19 PM |
| 27 | Beware of men who call you beautifulTheres a difference between a genuine compliment, like on a date, effort was put into dressing nice and your guys says, wow you look beautiful ..and the idiots who just say it like its some magic spell to open your legs, "hi beautiful" "how you doing beautiful" "gm beautiful" I hate that so much, its annoying and stupid. Im convinced when a guy sends me that, its part of some mass text he sends to every girl hes trying to hook up with and playing a numbers game to see who responds. Same as in pe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 02:44 AM |
| 30 | In all my years living on this earth, I have seen only ONE marriage that I admiredMy sisters marriage...and they took me in when I was a teen, so I saw them up close day in day out. The big thing for me isnt how people act when everything is going great, thats the easy part. Its when things are at their worst. Ive seen them get into arguments, but it was never nasty or rude. Even when they completely disagreed on something, the goal was to figure it out together, not fight against each other. They've both been through serious medical issues, and supported and took care of eac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 12:36 AM |
| 2 | I debated whether to post this. On one hand, I’m glad she’s exploring a variety of sexual techniques outside of PIV sex, but on the other hand it’s sad she just gave up on PIV orgasms like it’s impossible and not at all the fault of or responsibility of dudes she sleeps with. Dick Size Matters yeah?When I was younger I def did that, put on a performance, so that I wouldnt seem weird for not finishing. And my anxiety over it pretty much ensured it wasnt going to happen. Def a game changer as Ive gotten older, understood more about whats going on with me, also hearing that other women have the same issue and Im not a complete wierdo or broken. And I never fake it anymore, Im pretty straight up about what I like, what does nothing for me, what I know I'll need to finish etc, and man, definite… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 10:44 PM |
| 2 | I debated whether to post this. On one hand, I’m glad she’s exploring a variety of sexual techniques outside of PIV sex, but on the other hand it’s sad she just gave up on PIV orgasms like it’s impossible and not at all the fault of or responsibility of dudes she sleeps with. Dick Size Matters yeah?Actually, it makes a ton of sense to me. Theres already the pressure to perform like a porn star, then the pressure that if you dont orgasm youre not doing something right. But the really big one for me is that a big part of it is mental. Far more women than men have been sexually molested / assaulted and theres a whole range of things that can happen there that would affect a woman to be able to orgasm. There are women who did orgasm during an attack, not cause they enjoyed it but the body doin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 10:40 PM |
| 25 | I debated whether to post this. On one hand, I’m glad she’s exploring a variety of sexual techniques outside of PIV sex, but on the other hand it’s sad she just gave up on PIV orgasms like it’s impossible and not at all the fault of or responsibility of dudes she sleeps with. Dick Size Matters yeah?I think the shaming on women who are not able to achieve PIV orgasms sucks. Porn give the idea that women are exploding in rushes of orgasm from it, guys expect it, and after years of sleeping with women faking it, and when they come across a woman who is honest and says it doesnt work for her, then he turns round and makes her feel insecure and broken cause everyone else he had sex with could. Its lame and it sucks. For a lot of women, clitoral stiumlation is needed to get an orgasm, and for a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 09:21 PM |
| 8 | I’m a part-time writer, and I saw this on a romance book sub. I hope it gives you ladies a laugh! For some reason, I feel like this is what a lot of men have to offer. 🤔🤣🤣 (and, usually not even the fitness part)I know not of that life lol Ive never been the small dainty type, ever. Last time a guy lifted me, it was during basic training when we were taking turns practicing how to do a dead man lift in case you needed to bring someone to safety. Im now much older and much heavier, no way is any normal guy going to sweep me up into his arms. Id be mad as hell if anyone even tried...what the heck is someone even trying to do lifting me up like that if my life isnt in danger. Ive got legs...I can run too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 09:01 PM |
| 23 | Why do old men think young women and girls dress up for them?Cause they think everything about them. I rarely ever wear makeup, not even for special occasions. But some days I get up and just feel like it. And its so annoying that the one day I decide to do something cause it makes me feel good to do it, I'll have random guys I dont know from Sam say, you're so beautiful, you dont need to wear makeup, guys will find you pretty even without all that. Uh. What? Get the eff out my face. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 08:45 PM |
| 10 | House Hunters - Delusional HusbandsThat whole show is a trainwreck. He mows lawns, she sells crocheted dog shoes on Etsy, house budget, 1.5M. They will be in a ridiculously large house all meh, not really enough room to grow a family, but then in what looks like a haunted house that was converted from a studio apt building and a kitchen in the basement and be all eeep! Its so cute and cozy, the perfect fixer upper!!! I cant with that show lol my sister looooves it but I spend the whole time screaming at the tv. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 10:32 PM |
| 5 | In the interest of all of our safety, what are some reputable background check and more in depth resource sites?I pay for BeenVerified. I look a guy up before I will meet him and the main thing I'm looking at is the criminal record. I've been saved from guys with multiple domestic abuse charges, and one winner who had just gotten out of prison within the last few months for conning people out of money. I also refuse to meet anyone who nothing at all comes up for them... Everyone has some kind of trail, so if a guy doesn't seem to exist, he's given me fake/burner info. I'll go ahead and trust that whatever… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 05:45 AM |
| 37 | He even starts by saying he's adding backstory to make himself look better. I have no words.I'm reeling reading all these stories of so many women being able to relate. My thing now is I don't consider a relationship serious until we've had an argument, he's seen me sick or in some kind of vulnerable state, and something high stress happens. Ill make something up if I have to go see how he'll react. Cause all those are times when a guy really showed his true colors and many times the colors were ugly. I will never again be married to a guy not knowing what he's like when the chips are … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 03:47 AM |
| 61 | He even starts by saying he's adding backstory to make himself look better. I have no words.Im getting horrible flashbacks...such a similar experience. Id been married a couple months and since it was our first Christmas together I wanted to do something as a family, but his friend invited us to his parents house for Christmas and he wanted to do that. I wasnt happy about it but didnt want it to be a whole thing so agreed to go. It was about a 3-4 hr drive, I was not feeling good at all, and kept needing to use the bathroom. He said I was "acting like a child" and decided he wasnt goin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 01:22 AM |
| 8 | Always about them 🙄🙄🙄Dang.. The book sounded familiar, just checked my bookcase and I have it. A friend gave it to me after a particularly bad breakup several years ago (plot twist, it was his mother) but my life was so upside down that I never got around to reading it. Your post just convinced me I need to read it ASAP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 03:44 AM |
| 10 | Yet another example of the importance of abiding by the FDS rules - woman goes beyond her way to prepare nice date and ends up being used like a sex doll by NVMI giggled, flashed a smile and said you're so silly! It helps that he does have a good sense of humor and always making me laugh. Probably wouldn't work if a guy is serious and never jokes around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 11:16 PM |
| 77 | Yet another example of the importance of abiding by the FDS rules - woman goes beyond her way to prepare nice date and ends up being used like a sex doll by NVMI posted before about the last guy I was seeing, about a year, on and off, he was wishy washy af. When we first started dating, he'd take me out to eat and I'd invite him over for dinner. One day he says it would be nice if I at least pay sometimes when we go out... In a super passive aggressive way. I was so mad, hands down, me planning a meal, going grocery shopping buying the ingredients and wine and beer and cooking was far more effort and more expensive per meal than him taking me out. I sa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 03:58 PM |
| 31 | Men who can’t plan thingsThere are so many things you can do even now in lockdown. I have left it up to the guy Im seeing and we've gone for walks on the lake, to the park, strolled around downtown, we're going to an outdoor museum this weekend, and have plans to visit some gardens soon. Since he cant take me out for dinner and drinks, we've done picnics, and he packs up all the things to mix up my favorite cocktail. If a guy cant come up with ways to put thought into a date, even in these trying times, hes not trying h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 03:50 AM |
| 8 | How do I put an end to excessive compliments?I simply move on. I never respond to "hi beautiful" messages. When all they can talk about is how I look, I unmatch and forget them. Years ago, I was on a date with a guy who the entire date, all he kept doing was gaze at me and tell me how pretty I am. When I tried to change the subject and started getting annoyed with saying "thank you" every few minutes, he changed over to, I bet you dont evne know how beautiful you are, do you have low self esteem? you seem uncomfortable hearing it, Im going… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 04:45 PM |
| 23 | Listen to your pets!!!Oh for sure...I wrote about this before but was seeing a guy on and off for a year. Whenever he came over, my dog went batshit crazy... I dont really have a lot of guests..only person I ever have over is my sister, and he would get super excited to see her, then settle down, but he knows her really well. So I figured my dog was just acting like that cause he wasnt family. But yeah, he would not stop jumping up on him. When we first started seeing each other, I even had to crate him a couple time… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 11:49 PM |
| 12 | I’ll suck the life out of her & send her to the psych ward and then call her crazyWhen a guy says "all my exes are crazy" I look at the common denominator. Back in the day, dated (and almost married) a guy who when we first started dating told me how all his exes were crazy, and how Im so different and its so refreshing to date someone like me (RED FLAG!!!! FML!!!) Yeah, after 5 years together and planning to marry and finding out he'd been cheating on me, I became one of his crazy exes too. Thats when it hit me, and I internally apologized for thinking so negatively about al… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 06:24 PM |
| 8 | Feeling insecure because of my bf’s exIm so sorry to hear you are going through this, and agree that it would do you a world of good to consider therapy. Im in therapy for a whole host of things, but it has done wonders for my self worth and quieting the negative self talk that often goes through my head. I dated a guy who started making all sorts of remarks about my body, from my weight, to how I did my hair, nails, how I dressed, and even suggested plastic surgery. He cheated on me with a very young, fit woman and flat out told me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 10:55 PM |
| 25 | I’m a 5’10 woman and want a 6’3 guy. I looked up the average heights of men and women and realized I’m as tall or taller than every one of these guys. Now I feel powerful 😈 world standard tallIm 5'10 too, and find that guys who are a bit shorter than me are way less awkward about my height than guys who are my height or a little taller. They just keep going on and on and on about how they arent used to seeing a woman eye to eye, or how they dont feel comfortable with me being taller than they are when I wear heels cause they arnt used to it. And have even asked me not to wear heels because it makes them feel uncomfortable. Shorter guys on the other hand are used to being short and ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 10:07 PM |
| 5 | Catfish MTV: Women that aren't a size 0 being rejected by ugly LVM or NVMTrue... Ive had guys use actual pics but lie about their height, or used pics that were older and didnt really represent what they looked like. Now, I actually dont care about height, and even if a guy looked just as good even if older, its already in my head that he is a liar. Doesnt matter how great our connection was, Im always going to wonder what else he lied about, and will lie about. Its not all about looks, but why stay with someone who is both unattractive and a liar. Theres nothing nob… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 03:22 PM |
| 16 | How would you react if your boyfriend wouldn't go down on you unless you shaved? Would you break up with him? Or would you consider shaving a small courtesy you're willing to grant?I shave before Im intimate with someone..its just what Im comfortable with. Id even use not shaving as insurance when I first start dating a guy to make sure no amount of temptation will get me to sleep with him too soon because I was so worried it would be a turn off. Then it happened where I was with a guy and in the heat of the moment told him I really wish Id shaved, but I didnt so nothing can happen. He was like, you're a woman, its natural you have hair, why would that bother me? So that g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 07:48 PM |
| 26 | Not paying on dates IS a red flag!Last guy I was dating complained that he always pays the bill and asked me to start splitting the check with the excuse funds are tight (he made more than I do) Current guy... I was at his place and wanted some ice cream so we head out to get some. As we were heading out the door he looked at me all puzzled and asked me why I grabbed my purse. I figured since I wanted the ice cream, and he doesnt eat ice cream Id pay for it, but he wasnt having any of that. Squeezed my hand on the way out the do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 04:26 AM |
| 21 | You’re so low maintenanceI hate, hate, hate being called low maintenance...its just rubs in it my face that compared to other women, he doesnt feel like he needs to put in that much effort. Truth be told, I am a very chill person by nature, but that does not mean I dont enjoy/appreciate/want the man in my life to put in some effort to make me happy. I was the girl who when a guy was visiting my home, Id make sure his favorite drinks were stocked, Id make an amazing meal, Id be super easy going about where we ate or what… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 10:51 PM |
| 2 | If you don't want a diamond ring...Ive always thought a nice ring would be one that was white gold, preferably platinum, with his and my birthstones inlaid. Something really minimal and elegant. Id actually be really annoyed if a guy proposed with a standard, basic, typical common engagement ring. He obv doesnt know me at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 11:11 PM |
| 3 | Attacking and abusing women who share their stories of rape and abuse here on this sub is unacceptable and you will be bannedIm so glad I missed those posts, and really appreciate this stance to ban women who would tear another down like that. No one needs to be kicked while they're down, assault messes with you in so many ways physically and mentally. And not everyone has a strong support system to help them through the process of reporting it and everything that comes with that. It can cause more trauma on top of the sexual and abuse trauma. And berating someone who is taking her time to report it on her terms when … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 04:03 AM |
| 3 | I'm starting to worry about the future of this subI really appreciate this post... Many of the things you bring up is why I'm not as active on here anymore. There just aren't as many posts where I have anything to contribute. I don't get off on spending my time and energy thinking and talking and complaining about LVM. My thing is to level up and focus on getting a HVM and to be able to be among like-minded women who feel the same way. I'm sure I miss a lot of good posts, but when I check things out it's mostly memes and posts focused on LVM. S… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 06:43 AM |
| -6 | I'm starting to worry about the future of this subFrom your description, it sounds like either you didn't set boundaries and get what you want out of a FWB, or you've only seen women who have experienced that. I've had two fwbs, with both I was straight up... I want someone who I'm actually friends with, can also enjoy adult time with, but I'm not a booty call. And there was an agreement, if either of us met someone we did want a relationship with, whether romantic or sexual, then our sexual relationship ends full stop. Both lasted over 2 years… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 06:35 AM |
| 2 | “Nag” shaming is cancelled.Nooo thank you! Trying to get my blood pressure up I see 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 03:53 PM |
| 49 | Fills you with hope, doesn’t it? 🙄The escorts aren't trying to marry these guys either. They have to pay someone to spend time with them, and when that time is up she wants him to GTFO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 05:24 AM |
| 4 | Lowering standards for friends? How long to reply is acceptable?Personally I'm a lot more lenient with my friends. We already have an established relationship. There are friends I talk to every week, others I talk to every few months. It depends on the closeness of our friendship. We're not trying to establish an intimate relationship with the idea we'll be possibly spending every day of our lives together. They aren't my number one priority and I don't expect to be theirs. Their intimate relationships, children, jobs, responsibilities, etc all come before m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 08:34 AM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 20th 2020)Best thing I ever did was find out my color scheme. Easiest is... If you look better in gold you're warm, if you look better in silver you're cool, and if you look good in both youre neutral. Also check out fall/winter/spring/fall color tones. Colors that compliment your skin tone will always look good whether you're dressed up or wearing a t-shirt. (I'm a cool winter, hence my Jewel tone color choices) When I pared down my closet, I noticed the clothes I never wore were all pastels, light pinks… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 08:18 AM |
| 3 | I Followed FDS and I still don’t know. I’ve been overthinking and confused. Instead of calling me “pickmeisha” please help me.There are so many red flags here... You saw them and ignored them. "I was hesitant" "Thought that was quick" "Made me uncomfortable but didn't show it" "He texted so much and asked me for so many dates" "In a relationship!" ...but... "Still felt hesitant" "A little weird for me and not genuine" "We had sex" ...but... "(only because I asked him to)" "Days of silence" You literally explain and are aware of what he's doing...and not doing to put real effort into being in a relationship. Everything … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 07:57 AM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 20th 2020)I LOVE capsule wardrobes!! Discovered this as a thing almost 10yrs ago and hooked. My colors are Jewel tones... Burgundy and Royal blue, though I have a couple pieces in dark green and dark purple. They pair well with black and grey pants, skirts or jeans. I have a classic black dress and a couple other dresses in my Jewel tones that I can dress up or down with accessories. my jewelry color is silver...I'm a cool tone btw. It keeps me wardrobe stupid simple and nothing trendy so nothing that wil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 07:41 AM |
| 18 | never fall for men who say their "shy" friend has got a crush on you or wants to ask you outI'm going to have to give some props to low self esteem, self confidence, a high wall and general cynism and the disbelief any guy would be interested in me for this... But it taught me a valuable lesson so hear me out. When I was in high school, super dorky, nerdy, awkward af and I'll say it, abusive home life so all the stuff I was feeling about myself in the first paragraph, one of the football players, you know, the insanely handsome guy that everyone had a crush on came up to me telling me … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 07:21 AM |
| 28 | Ok seriously where do I find educated successful menI happened to meet a very successful guy online, but that was 20yrs ago. And he ended up being married so there's that. Other than that... Every guy I've met that was on the level has been in person. All by chance. One I met at the gas station in a wealthy neighborhood. Another while out for dinner at a high end restaurant with friends. Another at a jazz performance at a museum... Best I can say is... run in the social circles you want to live in. Don't just eyeball the men, be friendly to every… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 06:49 AM |
| 21 | Getting DMs from angry guys 1 day after joining this sub.If a guy can't afford to eat then the last thing he needs to worry about are gold diggers. He isn't on their radar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 06:27 AM |
| 26 | Hit the wall? Not at all!The wall my ass... I've had guys my age hit on me thinking I'm in my mid to late 20s.. Talking to me like I'm some kid and asking me what Im majoring in (incidentally, both cities I've lived in recently are within a few blocks of a major University) I'm in my early 40s, and when I tell them I'm not in school and closer to their age, many have said something along the lines of ohh well that makes this less weird then. No, you're still a weird perv for hitting on me because you thought I was in my… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 06:21 AM |
| 12 | how do you handle being catfished/fatfished?I had a date set up with a guy... Day before he's like, hey so that you aren't shocked when you see me... This happened: it's a pic of him in the gym but I can't see what he's talking about. He then sends a close up and he's missing both his front teeth. I was like holy crap that happened at the gym this morning? What happened?! Cause I'm thinking damn, what bad luck right before a first date. Nope.. He was like, actually that happened around 6mths ago and that hed rather not say how it happened… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/19 01:13 AM |
| 38 | “I’m Not Sure Yet” is one of the biggest lies men tell. If he’s not consistently pursuing you and trying to impress you, NEXT THE HELL OUT OF HIM UNAPOLOGETICALLY.FDS isn't about finding a man, it's about maintaining your dignity and respect when dating and in a relationship, and that includes marriage. Getting married doesn't mean you have no use for FDS. On the contrary, that's when you need out the most. It's too easy to decide well, were married, so much has been invested, there's kids, a house, etc to put up with disrespect as time goes on. It's harder when there's so many good excuses to stay that one doesn't have when they're just dating and can ju… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 07:45 PM |
| 62 | Depraved man sends extremely racist and abusive porn to girl he’s only been seeing a few weeks. She wants to know if she’s “reading too far into it” 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️My experience, had been seeing a guy for a few months, we got to talking about things we like and I'd said while I do like it tender, I also like when a guy is a little aggressive. Later that night, he launched full on into stuff that had me equally pissed off and terrified like wtf are you trying to do to me?! And he says, but you said this is what you like, I've seen videos about this. Sooooo... Because I'm black, when I said a little aggressive that means ghetto gag me. Obviously. Pretty sure… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 04:27 AM |
| 40 | To the woman who recently went on a date with a man and shared her reddit with him:I think that's the point. It's obvious this is a shit post, but he wants people to believe he passed the HVM bar and was on a date with someone from FDS. He's stroking his ego. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 07:04 PM |
| 61 | "Are you a feminist?" is a good question to ask men before sleeping with them. Great tactic to get the trash to take itself out.My experience exactly. Red flag if a guy says he's a feminist. I've yet to meet a guy who says he's one that isn't obnoxious and disrespectful, Right up there with guys who say they love independent women. Usually means, they love that they don't have to do anything or put any effort in. Equal to them means they won't do anything because you can do everything yourself. Basic courtesy goes out the window... Like the guy who let a door slam in my face and said he's a feminist and wouldn't offend m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 09:53 AM |
| 5 | Husband gets wife a vacuum for Christmas in 2019 and doesn’t understand why she’s mad.She did tell him. She said she didn't want anything. Had he stuck to that, it would've been far less offensive than buying her a vacuum cleaner. I get the feeling this isn't the first time he got her a crappy gift and she was over it. And then this was the final straw that still pisses her off. Also, personally, I think it really sucks the idea that a man who married and should know his wife is excused for having no clue what she likes and should be told what would make her happy. Meanwhile, I c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/19 08:29 AM |
| 41 | Remember ladies, he can genuinely be in love with you, but still treat you like shit. They’re not mutually exclusive concepts.That's not love. That's infatuation/control/ownership... I can say I love my sneakers...best kicks ever. I take good care of them.. For the most part, but theyre there for my benefit... Better they touch the mud puddle than my feet...whatever. No one else can have anything to do with my sneakers cause they're my property. If someone took them I'd be mad as hell, not because I feel genuine love, but because they're mine and not for anyone else to have. And if they wear out, I'll just throw away a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 08:39 PM |
| 5 | If a guy likes you, nothing will stop him from trying to connect with you.I approve of this message 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 05:11 PM |
| 4 | Seeing stuff like this a lot more on Twitter. Women are waking up. 👀I don't know.. he didn't cheat, just straight up decided he wasn't sticking around since she has cancer and left. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 01:31 AM |
| 10 | Let me play a sad song for you on the world’s smallest violin :(It's manipulation. By being so adamant he's only looking for a friend, yeah there are women who will go oh he's being so honest and genuine, poor thing stuck with such a horrible woman. He's really just looking for a friend and he seems so nice. Now your guard is down because you've thrown, "he's not trying to sleep with me" off your radar. And that's the plan. All of a sudden it'll be something about intense attraction, feel something with you that's so meaningful, and after he's got you naked … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 01:15 AM |
| 41 | Seeing stuff like this a lot more on Twitter. Women are waking up. 👀True story... My mom had been seeing a guy for awhile. To put things into perspective, my father died in the 70s. They were only married 3yrs and she was devestated by it. In the late 90s, she invited a guy to our family Christmas dinner and specifically asked me and my sister to fly in from out of state to be there and meet him. To this day, that's the only time in my lifetime I've known my mom to have a man in her life. A few months after us all meeting him she was diagnosed with cancer. She w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 07:47 PM |
| 57 | Seeing stuff like this a lot more on Twitter. Women are waking up. 👀Marry for money =/= forced to rely on a man. You can make your own money and want a man to have money as well. Just because you have your own money in the bank doesn't mean you should expect less or nothing at all of the men you seek. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 07:01 PM |
| 13 | Why do I keep getting guys who are trying to use me in some way?It's not you, it's a numbers game. These guys are trying it with everyone. The key is to not wait for them to show their true colors... I guarantee there were red flags that you rationalized away and made excuses for certain behaviors. Reflect on these guys and be really honest with yourself about what sort of things you let slide in the beginning and as things progressed. Little things that seem like nothing add up to the end goal/true colors. Keep those things in mind and be on alert...the sec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 10:04 AM |
| 5 | How a HVW handles a date requestI'm kind of a jerk, but I'd still pass on this guy. I read this as... Here's all the things that I think make you an incredible woman, let's do this lame ass excuse for a date... Oh you wanna negotiate? Okay we'll do that instead. I don't much like the way he compliments her for expecting the decent date he should've came up with in the first place either. I'd rather a guy who actually knows how to treat a woman and will do so, not treat me like I deserve less unless otherwise specified. If that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 01:26 AM |
| 21 | JUST👏🏼SAY👏🏼NO👏🏼TO👏🏼TACO👏🏼BELL👏🏼 😂Yeah, no problem as an activity, but that's not a date. It's treating you like one of the guys, except he also gets to bang one out with you. Even if that's something you like doing together, any decent guy will think you deserve more than to be just treated like a buddy and want to put effort into an actual date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/19 05:17 PM |
| 17 | 39 yo Shiva Safai breaks up with 71 yo Mohammed Haddid (Gigi’s dad) because he didn’t want kids. Replaces him with gorgeous 26 yo millionaire Niels Houweling within weeks.Hedging my bets on this right here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/19 03:32 AM |
| 6 | OLD profile red flags #1: "No Drama"Bingo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 03:29 AM |
| 6 | Men who double downThis is why I don't explain myself. I don't owe anyone an explanation "But why?" "Please respect my decision" .. and that's it. If I tell them why, they're just going to get defensive. Nothing good will come off it. If they keep bothering me I just block without saying anything more. I've already let them know I don't want to meet them, they have all the information they need. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/19 11:36 PM |
| 18 | So We’re At War Now, I guess 🙄Oh no, they found our secret hiding spot pubic on the internet. Now they know we support each other to be our best selves, and want men who are their best selves as well so that we can be in a relationship with someone we can respect and treats us with respect as well. What a travesty! Whatever will we do? I'm clutching my pearls over here, please someone pass me the smelling salts before I faint... (Tried my best to be as over emotional and dramatic as that guy but I don't think I came remotely… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/19 02:25 AM |
| 2 | If he has a picture like this on his profile RUN SIS BLOCK HIMPretty sure most would agree with you... From anyone using their uniform to pick up dates to anyone chasing that bah thinking it's good money... All of it is a level of trashy I can't deal with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/19 11:33 PM |
| 25 | If he has a picture like this on his profile RUN SIS BLOCK HIMNot sure why I got downvoted for that. Guess I should explain? I see JROTC guys posting pics pretending to be hardcore all the time... The whole chicks dig a guy in uniform thing. They get teased for stolen valor all the time in my vet groups. That he's not wearing any uniform says to me he doesn't have one or even have access to one. I stand by it that there's nothing military about this guy at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/19 07:43 PM |
| 29 | If he has a picture like this on his profile RUN SIS BLOCK HIMNot even that.. If he were he'd be wearing his uniform for extra effect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/19 06:52 PM |
| 38 | It’s good to communicate your preferences.From what I'm reading, sounds like her guy got her heart shaped jewelry, even though she hates heart shaped jewelry, and was not thrilled. The response is she is being ungrateful and should've pretended to like it to spare his feelings. She's saying it's not ungrateful to not like a gift he got knowing she wouldn't like it and she's not into that pick me behavior to be grateful for a guy treating her like that. He probably had it laying around, regifting something he got for someone else that th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/19 04:55 AM |
| 10 | Does your mother know that you cry about a man who doesn’t brush his teeth twice a day?When someone is in the middle of a depressive episode so bad they cannot function to the point they aren't able to tend to personal hygiene, they aren't dating. They're not leaving their home. Theyre not even getting out of bed. Finding love should not be the priority... Taking care of their health and getting treatment so they can function again is the only thing a person in that state should be focused on. Regardless, that's not who this thread is about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 11:38 AM |
| 71 | Disrespect me and eat aloneThat was my thought. Most dates show up early so that they are there to greet me when I arrive. Maybe it's a generational thing? Cause already at 10m I'd be annoyed... By 15m late I'm already gone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 07:09 AM |
| 11 | I think it says something about male nature when they get so upset and triggered by women wanting men to reciprocate effort into sexually pleasing them.So these guys don't know how to make women orgasm and disagree with the view a guy should learn how... The point of sex is to give and receive pleasure. If you have nothing to give, that's not sex...that's the equivalent of my dog trying to hump the tree in my yard. So weird these guys will admit to this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/19 09:51 PM |
| 35 | Does your mother know that you cry about a man who doesn’t brush his teeth twice a day?...This is not normal behavior. Don't date guys who aren't brushing their teeth and showering regularly. Guys like that shouldn't be on anyone's radar to even be talked about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/19 09:33 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, what are your hobbies?I'll send you a pm :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/19 08:27 PM |
| 14 | Can you date a man who has a female BFF?I'm the same way, and like you I always included the woman in his life whenever we hung out. One friend, his gf now wife is incredible. We hit it off immediately and I adore her. The other, his gf turned wife who he's now divorcing hated me the moment she heard he had a female friend and so we've never met. Only contact I've had with her is when she texted me from his phone with sexual messages pretending to be him trying to bait me. I went off on him then called to rip into him, figured he must… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/19 08:51 AM |
| 31 | I Think I'm Going to Start Going on Dates w/MyselfI do it all the time... Restaurant I'm dying to try? I go. Band I want to see? I'll go. Movie I'm excited about? I'm there. When I was younger, there was a band playing that I was super excited about... I had no one to go with but bought a ticket. At the last minute, all dressed and about to head out I sat on the couch and thought of how pathetic it was that I was going to a concert by myself. The next morning I kicked myself so hard, I was mad as hell... Just got to thinking of all the things I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/19 07:13 AM |
| 16 | Woman (42F) accidentally discovers successful FDS move after husband (31M) cheats with 22F. She tells him he can go ahead and explore, and she also wants to meet other men. She goes on vacation alone, and then he changes his attitude about divorce. He only wanted her after she was gone....Only way this would be considered a successful move is if after her vacation and he said he no longer wants the divorce, she said well that sucks for you, cause I'm done here. Instead she's trying to make him happy by giving him the freedom to see other women while she suffers and struggles with her emotions. They can both be happy...just not together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/19 07:01 AM |
| 2 | Ladies, what are your hobbies?If you want to get into development, go for it. Im self taught in web dev, did some freelancing as a web designer for years before I decided I wanted to go into development. This is to that and I'm now at my first tech job at a Big N. I'm effing lucky to work where I do, but it's amazing how many others I met who are also self taught and in this field so don't rule yourself out. I have no degree at all btw. Wish I'd taken the leap years ago when someone suggested I get in the field...I was as re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/19 02:23 AM |
| 8 | Let’s dissect what “pick me” actually meansNumber 4 in pick me is, drives me nuts. I don't get it. Dating several guys is a good thing, but keeping deadweight in rotation is counter productive. I don't care how great a guy is in bed, there's nothing HV about being dick whipped and making room in your life for someone who isn't worth your time. A lot of these points are about settling. Settling for any guy to not be alone. Settling to commit to a relationship you don't have your heart on cause he wants to put you on lockdown and you don't… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 07:49 PM |
| 7 | Ladies, what are your hobbies?Hello me, is that you? Lol I was going to say these exact same things. I only really crochet baby blankets, but every baby I've known born in the last 30yrs has a blanket by yours truly (my babysitter taught me). I have 2 blankets going right now :) What languages do you write in? Mine are JS and C#. Also know Ruby and Python... Not a huge fan of them but I do like plunking around with my raspberry Pi. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 07:38 PM |
| 11 | I’m so sick of beardsI'm going to admit my weirdness. When I was younger I actively avoided guys with facial hair... Made guys look old and I just didn't think it was attractive. When I was married, saw a guy with a full beard and told my husband I'm so glad he doesn't have facial hair. He gave me a, are you kidding? look and pointed to his mustache. Next guy I dated also had a mustache, guy after that I said I guess mustaches are okay but anything more than that just looks gross. He had a mustache and a goatee. No … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 06:59 PM |
| 5 | Dominant women always get what they wantYup, or even paying the whole bill because she's strong and independent and don't need a man treating her like she's helpless. It's out there. Had a full on fight with a friend of mine over this. I told her that was the stupidest thing I ever heard. Since then though, I've seen others do it and I just bite my tongue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 08:58 PM |
| 5 | FDS in established relationship?It's actually no different. At every stage of dating, relationship, marriage you should know your worth, be treated with respect, and be prepared to walk if he doesn't appreciate and treat you well. When you barely know a guy and things are new, it's far easier to let him go because there's no emotional attachment. The longer you're with someone, the more prone one is to rationalize how much has been invested in the relationship, and esp with marriage, the hassle of leaving. But that's when it's… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 08:35 PM |
| 8 | Dominant women always get what they wantThe girl who expects he be prepared to pay. Same as if the dominant woman offers to go dutch and the submissive woman expects he'll pay. Being submissive or dominant is a personality trait, and has little to do with confidence to assert yourself. While a submissive woman may be likely to offer dutch because she's a pick me girl, a dominant woman may want it because it gives her the feeling of control and letting him pay would make her feel like he's taking care of her, or doesn't want to feel li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 08:22 PM |
| 10 | Well, I got playedTo add to what the other ladies have already said, congratulations for knowing your worth, speaking up and letting this guy go. I change my water filter every three months, in the grand scheme of things, that's not too long at all and a massive improvement over the 2yrs you spent with the last guy. I'm super proud of you :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 07:39 PM |
| 14 | The 666 Rule: 6 Feet, 6 Inches, 6 FiguresThere is truth to this. At least with guys 6'3 and up. They're so used to being glorified for their height that they are used to not having to put in any effort, and know that he just has to stand there to get any woman's attention. I'm quite tall myself, so I tend to get the interest of very tall men who aren't used to dating someone my height. But after my experiences, I'm pretty cautious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 06:42 AM |
| 16 | Clueless Dweeb Can’t Understand Why Women Don’t Want to Randomly See Pictures of His PenisI can almost hear the heavy breathing from the guys in the comments baiting women into talking about their dicks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 06:17 AM |
| 25 | Absolutely insane. (Copy and pasted for you to see)That's what I'm thinking. This isn't just some controlling jerk, he has some serious and scary issues. I would be afraid to even let on that I know it's him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 11:14 PM |
| 19 | Men Shocked That Women Prefer Fit Men. Guess all that Dad Bod Propaganda isn’t working.🤷♀️I've never been into very muscular bodies. Dated a body builder once, he thought he was so hot with an ego to match...never had the heart to tell him his body was my least favorite thing about him. When I was younger I was mostly into thin guys with a firm body, but as I got older, just want an average body. Not the I spend all day in the gym to look like this, not the I eat all day to look like this. Just a nice in-between guy who cares and takes care of his looks maybe works out a few times a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 10:52 PM |
| 95 | Nope!Been there, didn't even get a t-shirt out of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 04:57 AM |
| 16 | Female Dating Strategy Book & Resource ListAdd How To Marry The Rich by Ginie Sayles Looks like she wrote a new one for modern times (The Rich Will Marry Someone, Why Not You?) But I've only read the original one. It's pretty old, but incredibly classic advice on leveling up to put yourself in the company of the lifestyle you want to live. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 02:28 AM |
| 20 | Why do they need to be so pushy??? 🙄That moment when you suddenly feel super old... I don't know wtf this guy is trying to say. PS no need to explain. Whatever it is, it's undoubtedly stupid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 12:02 AM |
| 2 | Discuss the Tatcha power couple love story: the woman committed all the sins in the FDS bible - initiated, chased, proposed and even bought the ring. They went on to build a successful company together. What's going on here?Yeah while I think that in the majority of cases, the things we talk about here will help keep from ending up in a bad relationship, it's also possible to end up losing a good guy here and there. But better safe than sorry. My sister pursued my brother in law, he actually wanted nothing to do what her and she went to some pretty crazy lengths to get his attention. He only finally took her out hoping once she saw what a jerk he is, she'd leave him alone. They were together a year or so when she f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Losing interest in the guy I'm dating because he used to be a hoeI guess the thing for me, it would be a given a guy has been involved in other women before me, and totally reasonable that he'd have been in casual/sexual relationships. That he's taking it further to talk about how he used women for sex and even going into detail that he was sleeping around on a woman he actually liked and lost her because she found out, I'd tuck that in my mind as a, this is what I'm capable of doing and I want you to know it, moment. Total deal breaker, no... But definitely … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 05:57 PM |
| 3 | Something a little different - Teaching our young girls how to protect themselvesI wish I had that relationship with my mom too... Had the compete opposite experience. Was told I don't deserve to be happy. She told guys I was with they could do better and is just generally a hateful and abusive person. I went into motherhood wanting daughter to not ever feel the way I did. When it comes to specific situations... There's just so many, but it's incredible really just how little someone with respect and self worth will put up with. That's the main and most important thing to in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 03:23 AM |
| 18 | Something a little different - Teaching our young girls how to protect themselvesOh there's a few of us on here... My daughter is in her 20s :) From my experience, it's a conscious effort to make this an ongoing conversation. When I went on a date where a guy behaved inappropriately, I'd tell her what happened (details as age appropriate) and why it's not something to put up with and that I won't be seeing him again. If something came up on the news, or she mentioned something at school, we'd discuss it, how to handle being in that situation, and what she can do to handle he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 07:50 PM |
| 47 | Losing interest in the guy I'm dating because he used to be a hoeNot so much that he did it, but that he's bragging about having used girls for sex, to you. That's a huge red flag. If he valued your opinion, he would want to take that stuff to the grave and never, ever let you know that's the type of guy he ever was. Instead, he's giving you a heads up... Down the line he'll say hey, I told you what I do and you stayed with me anyway Meeting the family/the kids means nothing. Some people introduce their kids to everyone and they know that to most people, meet… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Wall, what wall?It's the lighting... The whole picture has a yellow tint. She's still platinum blonde. Here's a pic of her from a couple days ago, and she looks incredible. Gwen is on point! https://www.google.com/amp/s/footwearnews.com/2019/fashion/celebrity-style/gwen-stefani-icon-vera-wang-emmys-2019-red-carpet-style-1202870938/amp/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 06:49 PM |
| 37 | "Controlling" Wife Mystified by Husband Repeatedly Cutting His Own Hands Making Breakfast. (Spoiler Alert: Cut hands = no chores for scrote.)He's not stupid... He's doing it on purpose to get out of doing chores. Just like how guys will load the dishwasher all stupid or wash reds with whites to ruin the laundry on purpose...so that he seems so inept that she ends up having to do things herself if she wants it done right. This guy just figured out how to not do chores at all. If it wasn't bagels, his "fav" food would be avocados or oranges or whatever he can hold on his hand to chop up and hurt himself. He's hoping she'll be all, oh h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 04:47 AM |
| 1 | Went on one date, I think he has a gf/wifeYeah, I would bring it up to him to see what he says... Hey I found you on FB and it looks like you have a wife. What's going on? And see what he says. Or just stop talking to him, it would already be over in my mind. Even if he's not still with her, def not trying to be the rebound after a 4yr relationship. I wouldn't invite her into my life by messaging her though. I had an ex who the girl he was cheating on me with changed her status to married and was referring to him as her husband. She als… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 04:39 AM |
| 4 | Top notch hvmYup... Though this serves as a good cautionary tale to not settle for a married man, if I were a betting woman, I'd put my money on it thats not what happened here... She's just doing her thing and not worried about him at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 11:40 PM |
| 15 | Top notch hvmI'm going to go ahead and say.. this is why you don't settle for being #2. This is why you don't get involved with another womans man. This is why you don't take his word for it that his wife/gf is so horrible and he loves you. Of course he doesn't care about her. If he genuinely felt anything for her and was actually unhappy in his marriage, he would've had enough respect for her and his wife to end his marriage, then start a relationship with her. By not doing that and carrying on with the aff… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 11:08 PM |
| 76 | They aren't even trying to hide it anymoreHe's got it twisted. In every other species, the males are the ones that are more colourful, put in all the effort to be attractive and have mating calls, dances and rituals in the hopes the female he's trying to attract, or in some cases, any female at all will notice him and decide to mate with him. Also in other species, if the female is annoyed by him or heck, just hungry, she will kill, eat him and go about her day He needs to thank his lucky stars he's human cause the females of the animal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 10:39 PM |
| 35 | Guys who literally just want to text you all the time with no plan to ever meet.If there are no plans to meet within a week of first contact, Im done. I find that the guys who are serious want to meet me asap, one because they're interested to see me, two because they know I'm probably getting a lot of other messages and they want to position themselves ahead of whatever other guys I'm talking to. If a guy puts no effort into setting a date and sees no urgency to, then there's no point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 02:32 PM |
| 19 | Yikes, the delusion in this thread.He sounds bitter because he considers himself invisible, hoped he's finally have his chance to shine when women get older, let themselves go and lower their standards. Now he's annoyed to find out that's not happening and he's still invisible. I've dated a couple guys who flat out said they know they're privileged because they are male, tall and handsome. They're used to turning heads, used to being successful, not remotely insecure, threatened by or annoyed with attractive women who take pride … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 02:15 PM |
| 14 | Hickey- what are we, 16?This doesn't sound like a nice guy at all. He branded you with a hickey and making these pretty derogatory comments like he's putting a flag on his property by talking about getting a necklace to show off his handiwork on your neck. If a guy asks to give you a hickey, say no not that you'll need to wear a turtleneck. If a guy starts sucking on your skin like he's a vampire, push him off and put a stake in that. Huge red flag here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 01:44 PM |
| 4 | Do you any of you ladies suffer from low self-esteem and/or depression? I'm finding that I don't really have the urge to date because of my mental health issues and wondering what to do.The bad ones didn't really listen... Just nod, ask a few questions, mostly just let me talk which was awkward because I wasnt sure where to start or what to say, would keep pushing to talk about my childhood and traumas even though I wasn't at all ready to, and super quick to get me medicated on several things asap. When Id say I don't feel any better, worse even, they just upped my dosage. I went through about 5 or 6 therapists over the years till I finally found a good one. She started out foc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 02:38 AM |
| 11 | Do you any of you ladies suffer from low self-esteem and/or depression? I'm finding that I don't really have the urge to date because of my mental health issues and wondering what to do.You're 25, so worst case scenario in 10 years you'll only be a 35yo virgin :) Joking aside, it won't take 10yrs, but it will take getting into a mindset where you are not feeling so low about yourself to connect with someone who will be good to and for you. I went through a time when I wasn't feeling any better and I also thought I was just going to feel like that forever. Turns out, I just had horrible therapists. I didn't get serious about putting myself first till I was in my mid 30s and that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 11:49 PM |
| 34 | Do you any of you ladies suffer from low self-esteem and/or depression? I'm finding that I don't really have the urge to date because of my mental health issues and wondering what to do.This is going to suck to hear but... You don't date while you feel like that. While working through low self esteem and depression issues, you'll be ripe low hanging fruit for guys preying on women like that to take advantage of you. You don't need that at all and the wrong guy can mentally set back hardcore. I've dealt with PTSD and depression since childhood and my entire adult life. It's not anything that will go away, but therapy and taking time to work on myself did absolute wonders. There … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 10:24 PM |
| 8 | Please help, I'm new at thisFull disclosure, Im pretty guarded over my heart and emotions... But if I got this text after the first kiss, that would be too much too soon. Like, what is he asking you to tell him? It's way too soon to to be developing feelings. I would feel like he's in too deep too fast and hit the panic button, but I'm guarded like that. Def do suggest taking it slow though, he's had time to deal with his divorce, you're still healing from yours. So I'd let him know that you're still healing, but feel good… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 10:09 PM |
| 39 | i can't believe that i put up with this...You're giving me flashbacks... I hated hearing this to my very core. There's nothing at all flattering about saying I'm different from other black people. Like what, in spite of being black I'm attractive? Eff that noise. Not about to figure out why he finds you attractive? Maybe because you just are?! The bad news is it seems younger guys actually think that's a compliment. The good news is as you and the guys you see get older, theyve realized how obnoxious that is and you'll eventually stop h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 09:55 PM |
| 4 | Inattention/attentionIf he's apologizing, I take it you're asking him about why he's not in contact more? I'd stop doing that. It's only been a few weeks, you're busy taking care of your mom and hopefully you haven't stopped dating and spending time with friends so that he's not your only source of socializing. Just step away and see what he does on his own. If he misses you he'll contact you, if he doesn't he won't. The best way to get a guy thinking about you is to have him wonder what you're up to. Right now, he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 09:37 PM |
| 6 | Do not feel bad about practice dates, excerpt from "The Power of the Pussy" [strategy]What is a filler date and what is the benefit to going on them? I've given guys a chance as in gone on a second date even if I wasn't feeling the first... I have a tendency to be super picky and realized I was always noping out after first dates over minor stuff. Now unless a guy does something offensive or we're clearly incompatible, I'll give it another chance. But as soon as I see a red flag I'm done. I don't think that's what this is saying though? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 09:20 PM |
| 3 | After finding this sub, I realize I’m not an outcast for not wanting herpesWell worth it indeed. Amazing... I'm here researching and it looks like it was raised to 45 last Oct. I can totally get this. Thank you so much!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 04:30 PM |
| 6 | After finding this sub, I realize I’m not an outcast for not wanting herpesI swear they keep moving the age up to antagonize me!!! First it was only available to children and teens so I was too old, then they moved it up to 20-something so I was too old, now it's up to 40 and I'm too old. FML!! Lol Actually I'm still pretty close to 40, had no idea they raised it so I'll bring it up with my Dr to see if this is something I can get even if I'm a few years off. Thanks for the info!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 04:11 PM |
| 1 | I didn’t want to go this route but I think I’m starting to really dislike and look down on most men. Don’t want to feel this way.I think maybe you meant this as a reply to someone else? But hey, I'll give it a go! :) It's true, a guy will get comfortable once they see you're not going to leave them. Which is why you never let them think that. Read in a book a million years ago so I don't remember the title, but the essence was even now that she's married, her husband knows he doesn't have her on lockdown no questions asked. If he starts to treat her in a way she doesn't deserve, she will leave. At no point will she let hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 04:06 PM |
| 3 | Just discovered FDS, realizing I unwittingly went on a couch date.. Thoughts??Yeah absolutely! Dating is for getting to know someone, right now you just have an idea of what you think he is, but he is still a stranger to you. The pitfall to someone who is insecure is when someone shows them attention they're not going to push that away. It's already bad enough when a guy is unattractive and someone finally looks at them, but if a guy is attractive, the greater the odds more women will pursue him. Not saying he's the type to do anything, but he did invite you to his place … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 03:51 PM |
| 3 | AITA? I refuse to date a man who doesn’t own a decent car even though we live in an urban setting.It wasn't really about the $100 amount, but that my expenses compared to the expense of owning a car is so much less than owning a car. Between car payment, insurance, fuel, maintenance, tolls and parking, it is reasonable to Uber or even rent a car sometimes instead of put it all on someone else's shoulders to drive everytime. I budget $100 since it's what I spend in an average month, not cause it's all I can afford... I throw the rest into savings is all. Anyone who is going carless because th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 03:27 PM |
| 3 | Should I feel bad about lying to guys? (Newbie)I'm straight up about it that I'm dating until I reach the point with someone where we decide to be exclusive and focus only on each other. No way do I want to give a guy the impression I'm committing myself to see only him by lying about seeing other people... It takes a lot more than a couple dates to put me on lockdown. I need to actually get to know someone first. What I do with my time is my business... He doesn't get to know what I'm doing, with who or where so there's nothing to lie about… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 02:02 PM |
| 7 | Just discovered FDS, realizing I unwittingly went on a couch date.. Thoughts??Between the park and going back to his place, was there any dinner involved? Not to be one track minded, but a girls gotta eat :) Yeah absolutely avoid going to a guys place or a secluded hike for a first date. You got lucky with a guy who seems to be okay, but for personal safety, very pubic spaces with lots of people around is the way to go for the first few dates. Personally, I don't set foot in a guys home unless I'm considering sleeping with him to avoid that whole what if he wants to go fu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 01:46 PM |
| 6 | Do I need a better job to attract a HVM?To expound on what others said, where you are now doesn't matter as long as you have goals and ambition. Guys love the idea of being able to help you reach those goals too. That'll make the difference between being the one he'd date and have fun with, and the last he'd be in a relationship with. Having been on one side and now the other... When I didn't make much of anything the guys were more of the I can take care of you and help you reach your goals types. Now that I have a great job making q… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 01:31 PM |
| 5 | AITA? I refuse to date a man who doesn’t own a decent car even though we live in an urban setting.Alright so I'm going to say... When I had a car, I expected a guy to at least have that too. I moved to a city with great transportation and chose my home in an area where theres grocery store, shopping, and restaurants in walking distance specifically to go car free. Every once in awhile I entertain the idea of getting a car, but traffic is so bad here, an Uber to work takes about an hour while the bus takes 40m (dedicated bus lanes) and I have no desire to sit in traffic everyday. I'd rather z… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 01:08 PM |
| 7 | After finding this sub, I realize I’m not an outcast for not wanting herpesOnce while having the STD talk with a guy, he was shocked I made it to my 40s and never had an STD. Honestly, considering one of my exes cheated on me and admitted he didn't use protection with any of them I'm shocked too, but in the wow I'm lucky way, not in a I'm a weirdo way like that guy was looking at me like. I didn't even want to know his sexual history after that because with that vibe, I wasn't interested anymore. The risks are out there, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with minimi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 12:25 PM |
| 14 | How do we feel about practice dates?You're not going to have the same experience dating a 35yo bartender as you will dating a 35yo professional. Not even putting him down for it actually, just that it would be lost effort to practice on someone who you already know isn't at the stage of thier life you want them to be at. And being in a different stage of life, they're going to go into dating and how they treat women differently as well. If you want a guy who is going to be able to take you out, pay for dinner, be able to travel, w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 11:53 AM |
| 5 | Analyzing the "money can't buy you happiness" tropeAh ok got it. Context was very difficult to tell, esp with guys coming here just to say things like that all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 09:38 PM |
| 14 | Why don’t fuckboys leave you alone?Yeah he's just doing it to stroke his ego by seeing if you'll respond. Block and forget...not worth your time to even analyze this stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 06:05 PM |
| 7 | Man rejected by 30 year old and later trying to save face by only saying he dates 27 and under. Ladies, keep rejecting LMV men!This is the first Boomer joke that actually made me laugh lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 05:39 PM |
| 6 | Woman (40+) gets more attention with age, notices that men her age & 50+ years old lie, present themselves as late 30s due to lack of attention from women. Daily reminder to take ZERO shit from men! Don't let them neg you about getting older!Can confirm. In my 40s and it has gotten a lot easier to attract men, and they are in their 20s-60s. I didn't even date guys in my 20s when I was in my 20s, but it definitely shocked me that they were still coming after me. I'm literally old enough to be their mother! FML. I think a lot of it is not only taking care of myself, but also confidence and just being more comfortable with myself. Guys on the other hand, I think are a lot more confident when they're younger and feel more self conscious… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 05:10 PM |
| 6 | Analyzing the "money can't buy you happiness" tropeEven when I was broke I hated the idea of depending on a man... I've busted my butt and life has continually improved to the point I provide a more than comfortable life for myself. I'm not stuck with anyone to maintain my lifestyle. I don't need to date someone to dine out or travel or save me financially. I knew a guy who joked girls love him more and agree with whatever he wanted at the end of the month cause rent is almost due (this is the same guy with the play money). That's no way to live… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 04:55 PM |
| 12 | Analyzing the "money can't buy you happiness" tropeIt takes a special kind of stupid to call a woman who prioritizes her education and career over love so that she can make sure she has a place to live and food to eat a golddigger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 04:39 PM |
| 34 | Came across this gem today. My age-range setting is 23-27, not “aging like grade c dairy products”I was going to say... There's no way that guy is only a few years older than me. Men in their 40s do not look like this...... Very gross that he's targeting women in their 20s. ETA I just tried it and it said I look 24 (hahaha no, but thanks Msft!) says the last guy I was seeing looked 33 (he's 40... But actually does look amazing, so I can see that) and was pretty accurate within a couple years for the guy I'm seeing now. Very cool tool!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 04:22 PM |
| 14 | No, men do not age like fine wine.Me too... Well, I thought I liked older men, then as I got older I realized Im just attracted to guys in a certain age group. Now that I'm in my 40s the guys I date are around my age. If I'm still single in my 50s or beyond, pretty sure I'll still be scoping out guys in their 40s. I just prefer someone who is established in their career and has experienced life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 04:16 PM |
| 31 | No, men do not age like fine wine.That's because they are... Guys have a really warped perception of themselves, will think they look way younger and lower their age in their profile to attract women "on their level" Meanwhile, I'm looking at a guy who says he's 45, talking about how he's youthful, hits the gym everyday and looking for someone who can keep up, but he has a beer belly looks like he's pushing 60. Seriously thinking a woman 15+ years younger than them won't notice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Did I f*ck up in the first date? (just looking for support)That's the purpose behind dating... not the first date in particular. There's not even a way to find out every single thing about a person within the first few dates to weed out all incompatiblies and be sure this guy is the one. That's why it's important to actually spend time getting to know someone. First few dates are an introduction.. Where are they from, what are their goals in life, what kind of relationship are they looking for, what sort of things do you have in common.. In the first fe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 03:43 PM |
| 9 | even when both partners are working, men STILL make women do the majority of the houseworkI lived in a home where the guy did all the housework. When I left home I didn't even know how to do my own laundry. While that kind of sucks lol I have always leaned towards guys who can do everything. My ex husband, as much of a jerk as he was, always helped with chores and would often tell me to relax and spend time with kiddo while he cleans up. The only other guy I lived with did all the laundry and we had a maid, though day to day we both tidied up after ourselves. I guess being exposed to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 04:52 AM |
| 1 | We're not their therapistsThank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 02:47 AM |
| 1 | We're not their therapistsThe comments are rediculous with arguments women should be willing to get in relationships with broken men to fix them. No. I'm seeing a guy who has been going to therapy. We talk about things but he doesn't dump everything on me to deal with it for him. I've been in relationships like that... It's exhausting and unfair and quite honestly, emotionally abusive to expect someone to carry your burdens for you. PS. I need help crossposting Reddit posts! Tried googling but that led me to doing this b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 10:48 PM |
| 8 | ex-BF told me he was ready to pay me for sex.He's offering you the standard rate escorts charge, yet says nothing compares to you? If that were the case, he's think your were far more valuable, not the same price. Actually, he wouldn't suggest treating you like an escort at all and would be asking to take care of you and pay your rent and bills. Not specifically for services. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 10:22 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, would you ever give an ex a chance again?Whoops okay... Well, big question then, why are you hesitant? Something is throwing off signals that are keeping you from wanting to be with him. I'm also still wary about the breakup not being amicable. How things ended can have a big impact on whether or not to give things another go. It also stands out that you two rarely argued, conflict resolution (or avoiding conflict and being agreeable) and being able to communicate seems to be an issue, even now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 09:27 PM |
| 3 | Dealing with Silent Treatment from boyfriend in a High Value way?Yeah I'll admit I'm being generous. I was thinking along the lines of an LTR and my ultimate limit for when I'd say okay, this is definitely over. But 3 days is indeed more than sufficient. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 09:21 PM |
| 5 | QuestionLet's stay friends is a way of gently letting you down. It's one thing if you speak in abstract terms that you're looking for a serious relationship, then ask him what he's looking for. But if the guy is saying let's stay friends, sounds like a response to you saying you want a serious relationship with him. Just put it out there what you want, not directed at him. I've even said to guys, I don't know you to know if it's you, just saying this is what I'm looking for. And if he says let's stay fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 09:18 PM |
| 25 | ex-BF told me he was ready to pay me for sex.He's reducing you to a service and purposefully trying to demean what your relationship was into something he can buy. He wants to see just how little you think of yourself that you're willing to spend time with him because he's paying you to. Don't fall for it. But if you really want to drive the point home to yourself...ask him how much he's willing to pay. Escorts are around $500/hr. Anything less and you'll see just how little he thinks of you for entraining the idea. That he's even asking s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 09:08 PM |
| 6 | Dealing with Silent Treatment from boyfriend in a High Value way?Silent treatment is emotional abuse. If someone needs time to think, cool down, whatever, and I'm like this, they'll clearly say, I need some time, I'll talk to you tomorrow, this weekend, whatever so we can discuss this. It's the respectful thing to do. But to just stop taking and leave you hanging.. That's a horrible way to treat someone. I would never treat my guy that way, no reason for me to accept it or allow him to think I'll allow it. I don't care how long I've been with a guy, if he doe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 08:52 PM |
| 5 | Ladies, would you ever give an ex a chance again?If he wanted to be with you, he would be trying to have a conversation with you to see if that's what you want too. All the things you mention you two do, I'm like that with most all of my male friends, including exes. Just because we treat each other well and are friends doesn't mean we should be in a relationship. Nothing to feel guilty about. He's a friend who happens to be an ex. He's not trying to have a conversation about being together. The breakup was anyway not amicable with you not wan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 08:40 PM |
| 13 | Did I f*ck up in the first date? (just looking for support)Meh don't worry about the kiss. I've had passionate so hard to let you go kisses where we never saw each other again (he was probably hoping I'd be so riled up I'd want to go home with him, and when I didn't he moved on) I've also been on dates were the kiss was a small awkward peck on the lips...or cheek, or no kiss at all, and we ended up being together for awhile. Definitely work on not giving away a ton of information. Talking about health issues on a first date is off limits along with poli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 08:34 PM |
| 14 | Man is in love with his best friend who married her boyfriend recently. He wants what he can't haveThat stood out to me too. That he really thinks he has that much power over her he needs to keep his feelings contained so that her true love for him in return wont destroy her marriage. What a nice guy!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 08:28 PM |
| 29 | No, I will not meet you at your house.You're not doing anything to invite it... It's a numbers game. They're doing it to everyone and seeing who takes the bait. I had two guys in a row ask me to a swingers club for a first date. I was so pissed off and wondering wtf did they think that was appropriate and what sort of signal am I putting out there that they'd try that. While raging over it with a male friend he said he's heard of that, it's just something some guys were doing to everyone, nothing personal, they're just being more ob… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 08:15 PM |
| 25 | Woman doesn't want to date roommate, lets him down gently, then sleeps with another man 2 days later. Roommate feels "betrayed". She didn't betray him. She communicated clearly and did nothing wrong!He wants to move out and forget she existed.. She's not even a human being to him anymore, just something there to satisfy his needs, her needs and what she wants doesn't matter. Since she won't just give him what he wants, she has no value as a person and is useless to him. Yeah... Very charming. He doesn't think much of her at all. Hopefully he does move out, no one needs someone like that in their life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 08:01 PM |
| 8 | I didn’t want to go this route but I think I’m starting to really dislike and look down on most men. Don’t want to feel this way.I went through a stage of my life where I felt this way. Thankfully I ended up meeting with an awesome group of ladies, we'd meet up every few weeks for drinks to vent, share stories, share tips and advice for keeping each other safe, and also keep each other on the level that there are good guys out there that we do want, we just helped keep each other on track to not waste any time on the ones we don't want. I found that the quicker I dropped and forgot about guys who weren't worth my time, th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 07:48 PM |
| 48 | Imagine telling your coworker that she has to compete with younger and sexier women. Your COWORKER. Because you got offended when she joked about her box being a hot commodity.Is it just me or did he admit he seems to attract... In his word, women he considers useless? That's a personal problem, and it shows. Sounds like he can't attract any of the women he's interested in, and frustrated that when a woman finally looks his way it's one he doesn't want. So he doesn't want a woman who takes care of herself, dresses well, and from the interactions he describes, has a great sense of humor and is confident. Got it. When she said nothing and walked away, she realized in th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 02:06 AM |
| 21 | The Oxytocin MythSeems so obvious but I never even connected these dots. So very true... Thanks for sharing this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 01:55 AM |
| 9 | Women's sexual power is very strong but it ends the second a man ejaculates. Don't get drunk on sexual attention ladiesBecause you keep saying you don't understand why they would pay you when there are free options. Believing there's something special about men preferring to pay you instead of get it for free has nothing to do with your self esteem. I wasn't berating you or trying to make it personal like that. I was just trying to explain why a man would pay and that is insanely common. There's nothing extraordinary about this and you're not playing them as you believe... You're offering a service many women of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 10:45 PM |
| 11 | Women's sexual power is very strong but it ends the second a man ejaculates. Don't get drunk on sexual attention ladiesI just told you why. I mean I get it, you want to feel like you're doing something extraordinary, but there are tens of thousands of women doing the same things you are are and getting paid for it as well. There's a reason there are guys who still pay for phone sex to this day. It fits into their fetish narrative. Maybe seeing a bunch of other guys post about a girl they like and reading her responses to other men on Reddit isn't their cup of tea, they want to pretend in their head she's all the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 10:23 PM |
| 38 | Moids in the wildOmg this reminds me.... Went on a date and he took me to a German place which would've been cool but I wasn't in the mood for anything on the menu and just got a small appetizer and a beer. He went all out for himself and the total came to around 50. I only know this cause he freaked out over it... My portion was maybe $10. Like dude, if you knew you were broke, why not thank your lucky stars I happened to get the cheapest thing and save face by getting something cheap too? I just sat there and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 10:02 PM |
| 14 | Women's sexual power is very strong but it ends the second a man ejaculates. Don't get drunk on sexual attention ladiesWhy? Because you're accessible. Watching a porn of some woman who was paid to do a scene x years ago and probably looks nothing like that now isn't the same as looking at pics and vids of someone self producing content who they can actually contact and possibly request custom content from. This creates an added element of illusion that you value them in some way, because they know their money is going into your pocket and they are directly financially supporting your lifestyle and if they write … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 09:38 PM |
| 6 | Why you should let him pay for dates: the power of cognitive dissonanceOh I've done it a few times over the years just to see how a guy will react, and it really is enlightening. If a guy offers to buy me something I casually mentioned, I may tell him no need. It's interesting to see what he does, either he's upset and the crazy comes out like the guy I mentioned, or he lets it go then surprises me with it later...which is awesome because it means he kept thinking of me and put in the effort to go out to get himself and possibly even wrap it for me, or just says ok… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 08:34 PM |
| 19 | Cheating husband surprises no one by cheating again, wife wants to know how to regain sex life... Daily reminder to take ZERO shit from men!You stay because it is indeed a massive mind fuck. You are being true to the promise you made when you married him and want to be loyal to the relationship you had .. Not have... Had. A friend once told me, forget about all the stuff that happened in the past, if this was your first date and he made you feel the way you are feeling right now, would you agree to a second date? If no, wtf are you even thinking of spending the rest of your life like this? The good thing is you're aware it's toxic. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 08:10 PM |
| 3 | Does anyone else remember Dontdatehimgirl.com? A website to post pictures and details of assholes to avoid.I remember that site! Wow what a flashback... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 07:58 PM |
| 37 | Why you should let him pay for dates: the power of cognitive dissonanceI don't know how to link to it, but my comment about the guys with play money is in the top thread in the Becky vs Dreamgirl post. I'll add the opposite works too. When a guy is absolutely crazy about you and you refuse to let him pay for or buy something for you, if the only thing of value is in his wallet, it completely throws him off and he doesn't know what to do with himself. Especially if money is all he has to offer, it's really interesting to see how he reacts when he literally has nothi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 07:26 PM |
| 23 | Cheating husband surprises no one by cheating again, wife wants to know how to regain sex life... Daily reminder to take ZERO shit from men!Not shame but a warning to women what's out there. I was there... When I was married my husband cheated on me. We reconciled and things were good on a certain level, but my trust was damaged. Then he cheated again... Was still trying to make things work because time invested, I take my vows seriously blah blah blah. But my trust was even less and I refused to have sex without a condom anymore, but then just didn't want him to touch me at all. Still kept trying to make things work, but I couldn't… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 07:01 PM |
| 2 | Text him first only if it is very necessary and do not reply to all of his messages immediately. Let him chase you.Live your life, don't put all your focus on a guy. Whether it's dating till you become exclusive with one or you simply have other things going on that you enjoy doing in your spare time. Time flies when you're having fun. That way too, you're not on call and available to some guy... Maybe you're free, maybe you have plans. Don't just pretend you are busy and strategize when you'll reply, actually be busy doing stuff you're interested in. I've done stuff like teach myself decorative cupcake baki… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 05:19 PM |
| 4 | Man asks "is it odd for a girl to post about other men on social media?" After admitting that he's not exclusive with her. Sounds like he's stalking her, tooYup. They love to talk about how emotional women are, but most guys I've known hands down lose control over their emotions faster and harder than most women I've known. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 07:18 AM |
| 24 | “Nag” shaming is cancelled.Same here. Thing is, I keep my place tidy cause it's my home, but for sure when I have a guest over I make sure everything is clean and in place because I want them to feel comfortable. If I visit a guys place and it's a wreck, not only does he have no pride in his home or shame for having me see it that way, he cares very little about what kind of impression he giving me. Even worse if he left it that way expecting I'll clean up for him. I've never done actual chores like laundry or cleaning, b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 04:53 AM |
| 24 | “Nag” shaming is cancelled.Yeah...I already raised one kid, not trying to pick up where a guys mom left off and keep telling him what he needs to do. I'm trying to find a partner, not a second chance at motherhood. I'm upfront on dates and tell them...I don't nag, I hate repeating myself, and I'm not trying to remind a man he needs to do basic things or how to be a thoughtful human being. If he can't do that Id rather just end things. I've had guys chuckle and say it's refreshing to meet a woman who doesn't nag, and I say… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 01:54 AM |
| 13 | FDS FAQs Answered! Becky vs. DreamgirlYup, keeping an eye on the full picture and not being blinded by what a guy can afford is key. The more a guy has, the more he knows he can get away with, it's like sight of hand. While he has a woman distracted with the stuff he can buy, he's taking her attention away from what he's not offering on an emotional level. I wrote about him here before but this guy I dated and lived with, turned out he was married, had 3 other gfs, All of us in 3 different countries. He traveled for work at most 2 w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/19 05:37 PM |
| 7 | “You pass lookswise...” Gotta love dating apps!my portion of my household income is currently 100% is quite right, cause I handle my shit. And if hes asking something like this, its safe to say to end up with that guy, my portion would still be 100% cause his broke ass wont be able to contribute anything. He's looking for someone to take care of him...eff that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/19 02:36 AM |
| 8 | Text him first only if it is very necessary and do not reply to all of his messages immediately. Let him chase you.I keep my phone on silent, so I never know when texts come in. Not cause Im trying to make anyone do anything, I just could care less about my phone and figure whatever it is can wait til I decide to see if I have any messages. Im just trying to live my life here. I tell guys (anyone really) when I give them my number that Im not a phone person and its always on silent. Some guys get this weird idea that hes special so Ill change and start checking my phone for him and get upset when they dont h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/19 02:20 AM |
| 32 | Ladies, take 👏🏽 note 👏🏽I find a big reason for this are guys who have no friends, no hobbies, no life of his own and since hes making her his entire world, he expects her to get rid of all the stuff she likes to make him her entire world too. And also that way, she wont want to leave him because if she did, she wouldnt have a life to go back to. All out of fear, because he had no life to begin with and afraid to be alone with nothing again. Ive seen this play out so many times, and I refuse to fall into that. When I m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/19 01:46 AM |
| 30 | Man asks "is it odd for a girl to post about other men on social media?" After admitting that he's not exclusive with her. Sounds like he's stalking her, tooThey havnt even been on one date together and he thinks its odd shes acting like a single woman? What the actual F? I had one act like that after one date (but at least there was one I suppose! lol) we only went out for drinks, he asked if Id like to go out the next day and I let him know Id like to see him again, but I really needed to study the next day and planned to be focused on that. so over the weekend would be better. Next day after studying most of the day I decided to check my phone. T… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/19 01:12 AM |
| 5 | Want this guy to approach me - not sure how to get on his radar?He'd remember you.. just shoot a very short casual message on IG, "Hi Mike, Its Sarah from Fitness Chain, came across you and decided to reach out. Hows it going?!" Like, that you came across him on the company website isnt in and of itself creepy, but I woudlnt go into a ton of detail, nor would I lie..Id just say came across you to be as vague as possible. And, Id keep it very, very short on purpose...at this point its up to him to respond back and start an actual conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/19 12:07 AM |
| 13 | Asshole waits an entire decade to embarrass a girl from HS ... AFTER HE FUCKED HERI dont know..it happened over 10yrs ago, she probably wasnt remotely thinking of all that and had no idea he was here harboring all these feelings all this time to specifically reach out and have sex with him as an apology. He said she apologized, but not in what context..probably a casual hey, remember when you said this to me? Oh jeez, Im sorry, that wasnt cool, and then moved on thinking that it it was obviously no big deal since it happened so long ago, and they were here now having a great … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 11:08 PM |
| 2 | To all the single moms out there, you’re not done being high quality womenI became pregnant very young, and a guy (who I thought was a friend, but eff him) said no guy wants a girl who has had another guys baby. I took that stuff to heart and felt like I hit gold to have found and married a guy who loved both of us. After our divorce I was so anxious and freaked out... Turns out, while there are guys like the one my "friend" mentioned, the grand majority of guys dont think that way at all. What did freak guys out was my ability to take care of everything. Being a mom … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 10:49 PM |
| 2 | Love listening to Dita Von Teese advise on the art of feminine seduction (also, she’s in her forties and looks stunning)Yeah, I mostly wear black when "I cant even" lol but colors and matching to clothes really make a difference, not even just talking in the bedroom, just in general even if no one else sees it, it feels really nice. I gravitate towards certain colors anyway, so I mostly have jewel tones (like burgundy, dark blue, dark purple). If Im wearing all black, then I'll wear something totally different like red underwear, which indeed does pop and makes a noticeable difference when the clothes come off :)… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 10:34 PM |
| 7 | Woman in New Zealand strangled by man met on Tinder - he stuffs her in a suitcase and casually goes on another date that evening...and guys wonder why we're so cautious. Cause I dont know you and Im trying not to die. A long, long time ago I read about a guy who would meet women online, get them back to his place, tie them up in the basement and made recordings of them begging for their lives, making them apologize to their kids before killing her. That chilled me to the bone. I googled online date killed mother and the results were depressing. Did not find the specific story Im thinking of, but there are hundreds more l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 10:19 PM |
| 5 | Leave them on read if they’re not going to make any effort at all. Don’t settle for “Netflix and Chill”Honestly I wouldnt even do that...I dont want him getting the idea that I might be willing to cancel or forgo other options just to be with him. Doesnt matter if he offers dinner and tickets to a play Ive been wanting to see, if I have plans to meet my book club, even if they are up in the air, Id let him know that night is no good cause I already started making plans for that night. Whatever he proposes isnt going to change my mind. Im not at anyones beck and call at any price. But..if I am fre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 09:49 PM |
| 4 | Love listening to Dita Von Teese advise on the art of feminine seduction (also, she’s in her forties and looks stunning)I can tell you, while I do love my lingerie, when I could not afford it, I at a minimum made sure my bras and panties matched. I still have no idea if thats just not a thing women do but over the past 20 years, guys have been completely impressed and remarked on how unusual and sexy that is. So yeah, Id get myself pretty lace bras from Ross, get a pack of cheap lace panties on Amazon to match the color, and I make sure that my underwear matches my clothes too. Always. That alone seems to drive g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 09:29 PM |
| 13 | Tricks That Men Use to SeduceThis is so true....when a guy goes out of his way to prove hes such a great guy, he usually isnt. Dated a guy like this, he turned out to be such a selfish jerk. We had a lot of mutual friends in common many who knew him way longer than I did and when talking with a close friend about what this guy did to me to cause our breakup he said if it wasnt coming from me he wouldnt believe any of it because that dude is "such a nice guy and I cant imagine him saying anything like that!" Yeah...suddenly … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 09:03 PM |
| 74 | Reclaim Your Sex Life #KickHimOut2020Yeah, not a good litmus test. There are many, many guys who would love that and enjoy being humiliated, teased, roughed up etc, its their kink and fetish. Its not about whether a guy would let you do those things to him, its about whether you want those things done to you and if not, then its off the table. If you enjoy getting oral or whatever and hes not about that life then you wont get your needs met. When youre not sexually compatible then its time to move on. Full stop. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 08:57 PM |
| 39 | FDS FAQs Answered! Becky vs. DreamgirlDont be so sure... if a guy has the means to, he absolutely will. I was with a guy who turned out to be no good. He had no issues dropping $xxx on dinners, going on trips, paying rent, put downpayment on cars etc. He had a play money budget and knew exactly how women perceived him doing all these things and will give themselves up to him..when in fact that money to him was chump change. He thought it was pretty fun/funny how women would go gaga (his words) over over "the smallest things" that we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 08:38 PM |
| 117 | Daily reminder to weed out fuckboys and abusers 🏹💕💕Just know, there are guys who will keep sleeping around with other women...hes not necessarily waiting on sex, just waiting on when that woman will have sex with him. Its not a huge secret that women will hold off on sex, so to that type of guy it kind of becomes a game and challenge of what he'll need to do to get a woman into bed. Ive seen it plenty of times where a guy seemed great, wined and dined, she making him wait, him figuring thats what she was doing and just pulling out all the stops … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 06:31 PM |
| 2 | Basic life skills BS - the quizI'm thinking the same thing. I can't even imagine.... Worst I've come across are guys who don't dust. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 09:20 PM |
| 12 | A toxic dialogue between a man and a womanI stopped reading after the dumped him three times bit. So she knew the first three times she dumped him that he was no good. Sorry but by continuing to take him back, she's letting him know he can do whatever and she'll still let him stay around. She knew what he was about and decided to keep him in her life anyway. At this point, it's her own fault they're having this conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/19 08:10 PM |
| 45 | This. After he cheated on me & ruined our 15 year marriage. I am happy! Happy I got away from you.Yeah the whole, I'm going to give him a piece of my mind thing never works. Any response validates to him that you care enough to waste your time responding. And it is in fact a waste of time to respond. You'll either sound hurt, angry because you're hurting, trying to hurt him because you're hurting... No matter what, any emotion at all is an emotion towards him that he will spin in his mind as you being hurt and he'll be thinking yeah she still wants me. Silence on the other hand will have him… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/19 05:31 PM |
| 7 | Don't ever feel ashamed of your preferences in menGuys who are not an equal match in looks are the worst. That's actually not a thing for me, I mean I have my preferences, a certain type that catches my eye from across the room, but when I'm getting to know someone, I've fallen for guys that weren't at all good looking. Problem with the idea that dating ugly guys thinking they'll feel lucky to be with you is that... They start to feel pretty confident in their ability to get the pretty girl and want to ride that wave. Or women who turned them d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/19 04:27 PM |
| 9 | Don't ever feel ashamed of your preferences in menInterestingly, I've had the opposite reaction! Guys my height and taller tend to be so self conscious about being with someone their height. They're so used to being the taller one that "it just feels weird." It's like, when I see a profile that says, I'm 6' so ladies you can wear your heels! They don't mean me, they expect and want a woman who is still shorter, at most their same height in heels. Came across a lot of short guys who are like, whatever, everyone is taller than me. Was seeing a gu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/19 04:19 PM |
| 4 | A mindset to stay stress free in a LTRNah it's just not my vibe to be completely dependent on a man. I've already lived the life where he bought the house I wanted, in cash. We didn't even have a kitchen for me to clean or cook in for two years, it wasn't a priority over the rest of the changes we wanted to make since we dined out every night, didn't need to clean or do laundry either since we had a maid 2x a week, plus the pool guy and the landscaper to redesign and decorate the lawn and garden. He took us to Europe a couple times … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/19 12:09 AM |
| 6 | Heres a few Green Flags 😊I don't consider it science. It's just a belief that the world is bigger than they are and just striving to do their part to to be a good person, just like it's a belief that some have that the world revolves around them and they only care about themselves. I absolutely agree that karma can be viewed as a higher power. As for miracles, at least in Christianity, there's a lot of focus on miracles in the Bible. That there is no diety in someone strictly spiritual and not religious doesn't mean rel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 03:56 PM |
| 6 | Do you want closure or do you want to see if he came up with enough lies to get you to settle?If we had a kid together with dual custody making it impossible to ignore him and completely remove him from my life. Barring that, there's no reason I would continue to engage. And even if, I would ignore any and all conversations about him or us and refuse to talk to him unless it was specifically and only about the child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 03:29 PM |
| 5 | My ex says I broke his heart and I’m pissedYou said she lacked empathy, broke his heart and was unkind .. all because she was honest about her feelings and let him know she cared about him but wasn't sure if it was love. What do you suggest she should have done instead? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 08:44 AM |
| 2 | Is there any advantage to getting married?Personally, if a guy doesn't want to take the step to make me his wife, I take that as he's not sure of me. It takes a huge level of trust to vow in front of family and friends (and god if one is of faith) to devote your life to that person the rest of your life. To be legally bound as one, to trust sharing your home and finances, to know they will be the one in charge if faced with the decision to pull the plug, to be the one planning your funeral if you die first. A spouse has more rights than… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 08:14 AM |
| 5 | My ex says I broke his heart and I’m pissedShe didn't say anything unkind. Lying that you love a guy because you're afraid you might damage him is self sabatoge. Not feeling everything at the same pace he is isn't rejection. A month into a relationship a guy told me he loved me. I thanked him for letting me know and said I wasn't sure how I felt yet. It didn't crush his soul and damage his ego by being honest with him, he accepted that and respected I wasn't there yet. It took another 3 months before I was ready to tell him I loved him t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 08:02 AM |
| 5 | Guy I was dating finally started to be honestVery recently... On the third (very difficult) date I let him know I'd take an Uber home. I just did not enjoy being around him, but was really kind and texted once I got home that it was not going to work out between us. He lost it, told me he wasn't in it to date, he just wanted to fuck me and felt I had some nerve taking an Uber instead of going home with him. I broke the third date rule apparently. I ignored him, and about a week later he texted to see if I wanted to go out. When I didn't re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 07:44 AM |
| 6 | Nah, but seriously lol I feel like I’ve struggled my whole life flirting as I’ve always identified being more on the “town-boy” side. How do I overcome this without it being and feeling awkward with my sexiness/flirting game?If you figure it out, please let me know. I'm in my 40s and joke my best come hither move is to wink at a guy from across the room.. with both eyes at once. Generally it's me cracking some rediculously bad joke that for whatever odd reason, a guy will find endearing. I just will never be the elegant woman with je ne sais quoi. But... Once I stopped trying to "flirt" and was just myself, I was a lot less awkward and a lot more comfortable in my own skin. Now, I can absolutely dress up, walk into … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 07:26 AM |
| 3 | A mindset to stay stress free in a LTRCome on ladies... Let's not come down on her for her lifestyle choice. It's very common for a man to financially provide everything while whatever money the lady makes from her job is all her own spending money, and she contributes to the household by doing her chores. Typically in these situations the lady is a teenager and the man is her daddy, but heeeey...who are we to judge?! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 06:46 AM |
| 6 | The Dom reviews “The Mystery Method”. Women, be aware of these strategies so that you know what is happening so you don’t lose time or self-respect.Stuff like that just screams of insecurity. They aren't just trying to knock you down a peg out two. They're trying to bring your self esteem all the way down to their level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 06:12 AM |
| 5 | The Dom reviews “The Mystery Method”. Women, be aware of these strategies so that you know what is happening so you don’t lose time or self-respect.Oh that's happened to me so many times! I'm 5'10. It's the first thing I write in my profile. I've been 70.25" at Drs appts and Army measurements. I have not gone through a second puberty. It is impossible that in flats I'm taller than a guy who is 6' tall. Yet they will all try to convince me I must be at least 6'1. And yeah, I started wearing flats on every first date knowing he's going to be shorter than me. I actually don't even care if a guy is shorter than me and have dated quite a few guy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 06:09 AM |
| 9 | Pickme-itisI don't like what feminism has evolved into. The whole point was to recognize that women are as capable and can do whatever it is they choose instead of being expected to stay within the confines of a gender role. Whether a woman wants to be a stay at home mom, or get her PhD and practice medicine, that's fine. Whether she likes it when a man opens the car door or prefers to do it herself that's fine. Whether a woman feels safer when her man is home or is a black belt with gun permit and fears n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 01:59 AM |
| 3 | What should (do) you give in a relationship?Be the type of woman he wants to pay for dates, ask out and chase. I mean, I'm seriously oversimplifying it, but the moment it starts to be an issue of keeping score, then someone is making the other person feel like they are the only person putting in any effort. For most guys, just knowing you appreciate them, enjoy being with and around them and they leave looking forward to the next time they see you is enough. If they feel like the only reason you're there is because you haven't eaten and n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 10:11 PM |
| 20 | The Dom reviews “The Mystery Method”. Women, be aware of these strategies so that you know what is happening so you don’t lose time or self-respect.I've had a guy do that at a bar, complete stranger who needed to step away for a moment and asked me to watch his jacket. I wasn't even aware of this as a technique, but I seriously wasn't trying to put myself on hold and unable to gtfo from being stuck watching his jacket and just let the bartender know the jacket belonged to some guy and stepped away. I'm also very aware of negging, giving a compliment that is actually a diss to try and make her feel like she should feel grateful He's interest… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 10:04 PM |
| 2 | Always choose a female gynecologist/psychiatrist/doctorSame...I think in a way a male obgyn knows they can and never will understand how I feel,they take everything I say I'm dealing with as something serious to look into. They have no personal experience to relate to, only the science and to try and find a cause and solution, so they aren't so quick to be dismissive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 08:31 PM |
| 23 | "Pick Me"s and How to Stop Being OneI used to take pride in being one of the guys and so chill to be with. Then as I matured, realized I was just being agreeable, putting my needs last (if it was even on the list at all) and going whatever just to be accepted. Also, I noticed no matter how much guys complained about how difficult and high maintenance and bitchy women were, those were the women they were attracted to and kept dating and would be so torn up about when the relationship was over. But not me, the nice cool chill girl. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 08:06 PM |
| 7 | A mindset to stay stress free in a LTRYou're assuming that DIY and mechanical work is a man's job. Any time I've had a flat tire I've fixed it myself. It's faster than sitting at the side of the road waiting for AAA. My sister did the remodel of her kitchen, and whenever anything breaks it's she, not her husband who fixes it. She's not helping him by doing that, she's using what are her skills and knowledge to get things done that needs doing. A man also cannot lift heavy things by himself. Id love to see a man lift a couch into a t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 07:37 PM |
| 5 | This sub has helped me! Last night I straight up rejected a dude and told him to bring me home after he tried to make out like 30 minutes into the “date”So if someone is in a threatening situation with a guy and needs to find a way to independently find a way to leave, the key thing you want to put out there is Uber drivers are not background checked? But alright, since you feel that way, at least offer a another option to be able to quickly leave any area within a few minutes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 06:15 PM |
| 11 | This sub has helped me! Last night I straight up rejected a dude and told him to bring me home after he tried to make out like 30 minutes into the “date”Yeah it happens more than imaginable. I've read a couple AITA posts of either leaving someone by the side of the road or being left after and argument. One girl, her bf did it to her during a roadtrip in another country. It sucks to think someone you really know and trust would do something like that. Thankfully in this day as age Uber is a thing. But it's not everywhere, and there are times you will just have to trust. But you can't ever put your guard down with a relative stranger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/19 08:32 PM |
| 3 | liberal feminism taught me that casual sex is “empowering” and all it did was lead to me feeling crushedThe thing is, even with casual sex I have requirements. I was fwb with a guy for a couple years and I let him know from the get go, I still expect to be treated like a human being. I'm not going to enjoy sex with someone I don't like.. And he agreed with that. We went out for dinner and drinks, we considered each other friends who we could talk to and do things with. The only thing was we weren't and had no plan to be in a relationship. Our friends just assumed we were dating, and we never reall… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/19 08:13 PM |
| 26 | This sub has helped me! Last night I straight up rejected a dude and told him to bring me home after he tried to make out like 30 minutes into the “date”Not saying he's right, but pro tip, don't ever go to a man's house to be alone with him unless you are considering something intimate with him. Even without the idea of sex, putting yourself in a situation where you're completely alone with a guy you barely know in his territory, and with no way to get your own self home, is not the best strategy. I've been in that situation, and can tell you..when plans change and all of a sudden the new plan is to be alone in his house, that was the plan all a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/19 06:46 PM |
| 4 | SAY IT AGAIN FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK 👏🏽I have ptsd, depression and anxiety and I didn't take it that way. Heck, I'm also tall, black and have a goofy laugh. There are a multitude of things we can't change. Also. . Context is everything. If this were posted in a channel about depression I'd be mad as hell. This was posted in a group about women making better choices in the men we date. And for this group, that message is absolutely spot on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/19 01:16 AM |
| 41 | Every time you think about downplaying your accomplishments.... DON'TNot to be that person... But. I've seen some dating profiles where the guy says he's 45 (looks like 55) very overweight, thinning hair, pics are selfies that are close up from below looking mean, with one topless shot showing off his huge belly and cartoon boxers...(wish I were exaggerating... Saw this one yesterday) He's not looking for anything serious, just some hot NSA fun. And really, I'm not superficial at all, but I can't help but wonder who is looking at that and thinking, ohhhh yes now … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/19 12:51 AM |
| 11 | Another woman who initiated, was more invested, and paid for his shit is treated like garbage and dumped. Daily reminder to take ZERO shit from men...I replied to her but there is definitely something going on with her. This kind of intensity so early in the relationship it's a huge red flag... Whether a woman does it or a man does it. This isn't being kind and generous, it's bombing you with any and everything you want or need in the hopes it'll buy your affection and attention so you'll stay with them. There's usually something pretty dark under the surface that they're hoping you won't notice or will let slide. Every time I ended up with a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/19 05:58 PM |
| 3 | Heres a few Green Flags 😊Like I said, someone can be religious and still share some of the same way of living their life as someone who is spiritual. The biggest difference really is the motivation behind it. I apologize if I came off like my point was to give an educational exercise. Just like any post I write Im just sharing my view and it's a given there will be different opinions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/19 04:33 PM |
| 4 | Why you should avoid men who want an "openminded" woman.Exactly. Generally speaking, open-minded is a good thing. But in dating apps it's usually a sexual code word. I anyway avoid guys who mention sex in their bio, and this is included. I fell for it too many times at first, with the guys assuming we'd just meet for drinks then go back to thier place, or talking about threesomes and other sexual adventures... On a first date! Then saying I'm not open minded when I wasn't down for all that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/19 04:07 PM |
| 5 | The hypocrisy of redditThe point is to encourage women not to be taken advantage of by men. I've yet to see anyone talk about being with guys just to use them. It's always about finding someone to be in a relationship with that will treat you with respect. If a guy feels threatened by that and doesn't want women to feel like she should be with a man who treats her well, he's likely the guy everyone here is trying to avoid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/19 03:53 PM |
| 3 | Heres a few Green Flags 😊I really like this... Not only for what to look for in others but to reflect on if these a qualities one possesses themselves too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/19 02:13 PM |
| 8 | Heres a few Green Flags 😊I just had a vision of an evil snow white using the power to talk to animala to start a bird attack lol No spiritual people don't believe they have powers. They just believe everything is connected and because of that they try to be mindful of their actions. If someone tries to do something against someone else and theyre truly spiritual, then they're doing it knowing that negativity they put into the world will eventually come back around to them. Karma works both ways and can be a bitch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/19 02:07 PM |
| 26 | Heres a few Green Flags 😊Spiritual just means one believes the world and universe is bigger than they are and it's all connected in ways they don't fully understand. So the point to is practice mindfulness, be kind to themselves and others because your actions affect your connection to everything around you. This is where stuff like karma comes into play, that the thoughts and actions you put out into the universe will eventually come back around, because of that connection. In contrast, religion is more of a belief in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/19 01:59 PM |
| 37 | Do you want closure or do you want to see if he came up with enough lies to get you to settle?When I was younger, I used to feel compelled to tell a man about himself and all the things that bothered me about him. It felt good to get it all out, but once I sent it...it would either lead to an argument or worse..he would just ignore it. A few things happened, I realized it made no difference..even if he did change I didnt want him, the whole make him better for the next woman thing..thats not my job. But it was mostly, make him feel as bad as I feel, but that wasnt happening either...that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/19 09:33 PM |
| 17 | This lady doing it right; dude is pissed he has to payHow can he say hes old fashioned...yet also over analyzing paying for dates, and questioning if courtship should be over by date 4? Courting doesnt end until theres a proposal...up til that point, both people in the relationship are still trying to decide whether or not this is someone they want in their lives and long term. That certainly isnt figured out and overwith by date 4. If hes saying in a post, and to her, that hes old fashioned...then of course shes going to assume that means he is go… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/19 12:03 AM |
| 12 | Why do taken guys approach me ALL THE TIME? (TW)I was in my late 20's, early 30's before I finally realized it wasnt a case of "this is my life and how men see me." I grew up in an abusive home, and my mother also made comments about my body once I went into puberty. Without a healthy role-model teaching me certain behaviors were not okay, I grew up feeling like Im bringing it on myself and whenever something happened to me, it became a part of what in my world was normal, even though I hated it, it made me feel awful, and I wished it wasnt t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/19 10:43 PM |
| 6 | I'm worried if I play it too cool with a guy that he'll find someone elseYou don't know this guy yet...you've only been on two dates. You may like your perception of him so far, and the idea of seeing him again, but thats it. If he does find someone else, then it wasnt meant to be...you want a guy who wants you, not settles for you because there wasnt anything else going on. Besides that, instead of doing everything you can to keep things going, do everything you can to decide whether or not this guy is even what you want in your life. Its not about playing it cool a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/19 10:16 PM |
| 5 | The baggageProbably not, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. If someone has made it to 40 and have never experienced anything negative that would impact them in any meaningful way, what sort of life have they been living all this time? I once dated a guy who was in his 50's, never married or had kids, had been in one serious relationship. At first, it was refreshing and nice to spend time with someone who had no issues whatsoever, but as time went on, I realized we did not relate to each other at all. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/19 05:42 PM |
| 8 | Set another one straight.Why though? Your time is precious... Don't waste it on low value men who don't deserve it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/19 05:55 PM |
| 11 | Set another one straight.The conversation would've ended even he said he wants to see more. All this did was waste time. He didn't learn anything... Eventually he'll find someone dying for attention who will play into this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/19 05:40 PM |
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