How does multi-dating work?

throwaway23004345 · 2021-07-08T17:24:03+00:00

Yea I feel the same way.. there simply aren’t enough men that pursue irl (hv or lv) ppl here are going to tell you to join interests or volunteer

ponchoacademy · 2021-07-08T19:31:06+00:00

The point of multi-dating is not to date as many guys as possible, it's to not lock yourself down to the first guy that comes along . You're single until you're not, so it makes no sense to take yourself off the market and devote all your focus on a guy when you have no idea who the guy is or if you're actually interested in him.

How many guys are pursuing you or how many you're interested in has nothing to do with it. Multi-dating is the mindset that you are open to continue dating until you are in a committed relationship.

ASeaOfQuotes · 2021-07-08T18:43:22+00:00

👆Mods got it right. Also the podcast queens also discussed something a lot of us who live in larger cities overlook, and that is the dating scene is entirely different if you’re in the suburbs, or rural areas. It may help to cast a wider net on OLD (adjusting the miles or location), to frequent interesting events in cities with larger populations, and to find more ways to put yourself in front of a more diverse population of people. If you’re in a tiny city you’ll have limited options, that’s not a you problem, it’s just a numbers problem.

she_is_munchkins · 2021-07-08T18:31:02+00:00

I agree with the Mod's response.

You date when you're ready to date. FDS isn't saying you must just add a bunch of randos to your dating roster, FDS advocates for an abundance mentality in dating (opposite to a scarcity mentality), which is easier to achieve if you are dating a few men. However you can still date just 1 guy (or zero guys) whilst operating from an abundance mentality.

The point is to feel confident in yourself and your worth, in such a way that you don't behave like a PickMe.

I'd recommend taking time to get to know yourself and figure out what you do find attractive before you start dating; you might find that you're not attracted to men at all, and that's ok.

SuitablePerformance3 · 2021-07-08T17:58:03+00:00

Please read the handbook. Many of your questions are answered there and it is mandatory to read before participating. Having said that, you need to work on your confidence. Dating isn't something that should be stressing you out or something you feel you need to do.

Title	How does multi-dating work?
Author	fireforestfairy
Upvotes	28
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Date	July 8, 2021 5:20 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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