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RANTmashibeans/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 08:04 PM
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LMAO they love those plus "bIoLoGy" and "pSyChOLoGy" bullshit excuses. "Men are biologically visual!!" "men are naturally prone to spread their seed!" It's pretty pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/22 01:50 AM
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We can also add to the whole "lady, ma'am" usage the fact that Nice Guys and/or incels kinda ruined those terms. Textbook Nice Guy to go to a woman and be SUPER weird in his approach, it's a reason why "excuse me ma'am, may I request a crumb of pussy" is an exaggerated way to mock them but at the same time it's not really that far from reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 11:22 PM
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Yeah all I hear and see is the vast majority of women (even girlfriends nowadays, didn't even have the courtesy of marrying her) being put to work around the house. Cooking, cleaning, taking care of him while sick, laundry, folding his clothes, being his emotional dumpster... This is on top of having to be sexually available for him (keywords "for him," not even two people wholesomely lusting for each other). I VERY rarely see an example where this is reversed, and most often than not, the woman…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 11:19 PM
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This is something that FDS taught me that I didn't realize before (thank god I haven't lived with anything but random flatmates, so far). I don't want to be "on" all the time, my home is my sanctuary where I can relax, do shit at my own pace, have peace, and maybe do a random crab walk or do dinosaur noises while wearing the lamest but comfiest of clothes. Yes! I'm 100% supporting ladies being in living-apart-together relationships!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 06:38 AM
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Wow, that's one sure way to ruin someone's day out of fucking nowhere. Can't believe guys like these exist and expect women to coddle them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 06:34 AM
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LMAO I can see it! You know what's also funny? Men are usually depicted in media as having those "life long" bro friendships, where the dudes are just hanging out, drinking beers, and those relationships are considered wholesome, the "bros before hoes" type, almost as a mockery to the passive-aggressive relationship supposedly have (also depicted in media), but... in the end, where are those so called bros when these men are crying themselves to sleep? Why are so many men in real life practicall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 02:40 AM
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Treating her like an object that belongs to him...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 01:45 AM
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Just let him attempt to live his 20s and 30s as a fuckboi, once he starts reaching 40 he'll realize he doesn't have youth and metabolism on his side anymore, and will be desperate to trap any woman who will fall for his BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 01:22 AM
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"this is for safety" Translation: "this is for LACK of safety"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 11:56 PM
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Absolutely, I wish there was more of this type of romance stories out there, instead of all the problematic romance tropes more standarized in media, they're downright amazing and worthy of the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 11:07 PM
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LOL well you know what, female biology AND psychology makes it so women have to selective of their sexual partners. They're vulnerable for 9 months and then have to care for that child for another 18 years, they NEED to be choosey, and this means not dolling out sex like it's free candy. Funny how their blanket "it's biology!" "it's psychology!" excuses are only valid when it comes to justifying their shitty, selfish actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 08:27 PM
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Finally, for me sex just does not feel good unless there's commitment and emotional connection, period. I'm sick of people acting like we want to delay sex for some pointless manufactured shit test. I delay sex because it's what I NEED to feel safe, secure, and enjoy the experience when it does happen. The hottest romance stories I've read is where the male partner is in genuine love with the female partner (and viceversa, of course) and wants her to feel safe, ready and goes at her pace. (Edit:…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 08:22 PM
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I'm gonna be honest, as a bookworm myself reading can be addictive and not always good, it's just that it's so tightly woven to academia and learning that people don't consider it unhealthy. However, there's plenty of hard examples where reading can be bad. Brainwashing and indoctrination come to mind, and there's a lot of trashy, badly written, problematic stories out there. Staying still with a book for hours is also not healthy for the body. It's far less about whether you have a TV/videogame…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 08:17 PM
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LOL Pornified, disgusting gifts. How "funny" that the main gift is LINGERIE, and not even in a color she likes?? Pink is literally the easiest color to pick up women-aimed products, there's pink shit for ladies everywhere! But NO, he goes straight to the sexy underwear store, JFC. PLEASE pickmes and LVM, go date each other, pick each other. I can't believe a "romantic" gesture nowadays is fucking lingerie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 10:50 PM
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This was my take as well, bar is in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 10:47 PM
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Right?? LOL I'm E. Asian AND was born in a Latin American country, I'm always gonna be criticizing both cultures I'm part of, which both cultures hate, one because they look at me and deem me "not part of them" and the other for going against the culture of my ancestors. All of them can STFU, misogyny is misogyny and I will call them all out and protect my sisters from both sides.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 10:30 PM
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The only people who would have an issue with others cutting toxic people off their lives, are the kind that are the toxic people themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 04:28 AM
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99% of the time it's not the hobby the issue, it's the person (or in this situation, the group: men) Like I could see it as a red flag if a man had woodworking as a hobby... but that was ALL he did, and had no other hobbies, interests or activities in his day by day. Of course, which is not to say that LOTS of games are specifically engineered to cater to the lowest common denominator and to have addictive systems in place not unlike casinos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 03:34 AM
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I disagree on the watching movies (or just, TV in general) not being an addictive and harmful hobby. It's just another way to passively stare at a screen for hours on end, which has been normalized nowadays (Netflix binging, anyone?). There's a reason why "couch potato" is a term now, and why a person (usually depicted as a male, overweight, old, maybe unkempt) is depicted as practically being glued to a sofa, staring like a zombie at a TV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 03:32 AM
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So it's like a smaller pool sample of "yes all men" From now on I'm only supporting female photographers, SMH. (seriously though, this is yet another part of life that I never thought about but where the male depravity flourishes because they can get away with it... it just shows how when men are given an opportunity with no consequences, they will 99% of the time choose the worst thing to do.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 11:55 PM
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Whenever I see an age gap, all I can think of is how it would've been had they met much earlier... like if you had met that dude when you were 17, he would've literally been a 10yo child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 12:45 AM
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Similar here, I had a cool aunt who went traveling, never had kids, she was 100% loyal to her own standards and free spirit, she divorced during a time where that was VERY frowned upon but she gave no fucks, her 2nd husband (my uncle) was, to my understanding, HV and basically treated her like the queen she was (she wouldn't have tolerated otherwise). Regretfully we never spent too much time together (we were too far apart most of our lives) but I was her favorite and she was my favorite. Wherev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 12:28 AM
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I'm the Lame Aunt because I don't want to subsidize any more kids than I already do through my taxes. Literally chose to stay childfree and then my cousins and siblings expect me to hand over my cash to their kids, no thanks. Unless a niece/nephew chooses to want to have a cool relationship with me and we're good to each other, I'm not holding my breath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 12:24 AM
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Sadly society loves to blame women, it's a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" situation. If you explain to people all the way your gut is sending you warnings, you're paranoid. If you "give that guy a chance" and end up getting attacked/abused by him, you're the idiot who "chose" the bad guy (instead of, you know, blaming the bad guy???). If we're gonna be shat upon either way, might as well be the paranoid one and be safe. I've never prioritized romance or dating, because I was not the typ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 05:29 AM
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Yeah, and even the "gold digger" women these men are thinking of still have something to offer, they offer sex and beautiful looks that he benefits from (we all know how men seen with a good looking woman next to them get points in society). They don't expect the men to do any housework, act as therapists, cook, etc. Gold digger men offer nothing, they just leech.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 04:16 AM
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Men who complain about gold diggers all end up being gold diggers themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 01:34 AM
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Loads of people love to gaslight women in these type of situations, and let me tell you: After being on this earth for around 40 years, it's reaaaaally easy for the gut to know whether a dude is being suggestive, or is being merely friendly. I'm nowhere near as experienced in the romantic scene as other fellow women, but at this point even I know when a dude is trying to "test the waters" which is the more subtle way for them to see if you're open game. If you felt uncomfortable, trust that feel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 01:33 AM
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Yeah sure, but did he do anything to protect her from his side of the family? No, he just allowed them to push her around, what a spineless momma/daddy's boy. Something we always say in the childfree sub is that your partner has to be the first and last sword and shield protecting you from their own side of the family, and you have to do the same for them from your side of the family. He never had her back, so he's just as LV and responsible for that prenup bullshit as his family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 05:00 AM
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Yeah and her resentment is 100% justified, to be honest. It's plenty obvious that her soon to be ex in-laws (and by extension, her soon to be ex husband) made her sign that prenup because they never valued her. She literally said HIS family (AKA also HIM) made her sign it, it never sounded like she expected that to come. Imagine that, she married him wfor love and honest intentions, and him and his family just saw her as a supposedly leech from the beginning. What a low blow from the supposed fa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 04:57 AM
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Better yet, just say "I'll know it when I see it." Don't give them any ammunition to use against you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 01:50 AM
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Yeap, women need to stop accepting current men's sperm 30yo+. The lifestyle men have led, especially nowadays, with their shitty sleep schedule, shitty diet, addiction to porn and games (among other hobbies, sports fans are not exempt for example, unless they actively play the sport), no skincare, etc. inevitably leads to low quality sperm. Men in their 20's have their youth on their side so the sperm hasn't gone to shit yet, but they have a very short expiration date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 12:06 AM
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Also really annoying that one of the first defensive retorts they have is "are you a lesbian??" Like we're absolutely biased "against" men because we don't like dick, we're the ones who with the "illogical" man-hating position, instead of men just being overall shitty. Not to mention, it's in insult to lesbians and homosexuals in general, they're allowed to like/hate/not care about other people regardless of their sexuality and own gender or sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 10:45 PM
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I'm gonna be the cynic here and say that unfortunately even with the best efforts, it doesn't guarantee the seed will blossom. I've done my good share of talking to (ex) friends like OP has done here, and years later I can sadly say that a lot of them kept the attitude of OP's friend and went to have a mediocre life. I feel a lot better cutting off people like this from my life, or to at least keep them at a good distance (both emotionally, physically and mentally) Just a reminder that it's OK t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 10:41 PM
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Does the text history get erased with each new number?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 10:32 PM
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LOL legit he will desperately try to "buy a cow," any cow (of course most likely he will try to dupe the youngest woman he can find), as soon as he hits 32-36 or older.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 07:30 AM
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What's even scarier is that the reason most of these men go for 16yos, is not because they're not pedos, it's because socially that's as young as they can claim plausible deniability, AKA as young as they can get away with without much social outrage. If culturally AND legally they could get away with younger, say 12-13yos, they'd totally go for them. There's lots of cultures, past and present, with child-bride practices, so this isn't even a theoretical example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 05:44 AM
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“my future wife is still in middle school” Tell us he's a pedo without telling us he's a pedo...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 05:41 AM
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What's funny is that the only fertility to worry about is theirs. Women in their 20's and even early 30's shouldn't get the shitty sperm of these already dusty scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 10:42 PM
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"Why the need to be an asshole when he could have just unmatched and called it a day." Because he wanted to "put you in your place," because how dare you, a woman, automatically reject him, a man? He wanted to punish you for your audacity. Not to mention, many men do this online a lot, because they're spineless cowards but still are frothing at the mouth due to their hatred towards women. The internet gives them the anonymity to do this without facing any consequences, and when they have no cons…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 09:11 PM
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LMAO it's insane how some women are so shamed and conditioned in their lives that they're concerned about "hurting men's feelings" meanwhile women are abused, gaslit, raped, murdered, trafficked, used, pushed, diminished, objectified...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 02:05 AM
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Yeah, and if you go to FLUS, there's also an uptick on people who clearly are violating the rules of that sub by posting dating or relationship related posts, because they either can't post here yet or don't want to go to askFDS since it has a bit less traffic. Really infuriating to go to FLUS with the expectation of SELF level up only for a bunch of people to blatantly ignore/break the rules.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 02:55 AM
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LMAO dudes so fragile they also consider it the biggest tragedy when women supposedly "friendzone" them, and not accepting their date (or "hang out") is akin to abuse that "traumatized" them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 01:34 AM
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Sis you're right, they should pay until they're ready to go down on us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 11:50 PM
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Nah you're just wasting money on the tacos, first you just send ONE text message, like "hey" or "what's up" or if your messenger allows it, poke them randomly throughout the months. Only offer the tacos once they agree to split 50-50, ain't no one gonna get a free meal out of us. Or if you just know he'd be into you if he just knew what's good for him, spam him with the above, plus stickers, plus random calls at 1am. Don't be shy with it all, 30-150 notifications in their phone should show them …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 11:29 PM
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There are men who choose to be childfree who STILL don't get a vasectomy. If they know they don't want any kids ever & won't even get such a simple procedure to prevent a pregnancy, then why the hell will they even bother with BC? Because they're selfish, they want to claim the CF status that will give them access to CF women (women with no "baggage" AKA kids), while still leaving their other options (having kids with another sucker) while not worrying about having to convince a woman of an abor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 07:58 AM
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"I NeEd to be around people..." Nobody is fucking obligated to offer you company, GTFO of her DMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 05:45 AM
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Nah sorry, but if a woman goes back to their shitty ex 110 times, and expects ME to be her emotional support animal every single time, I'm the fuck out of that friendship. I'm the firm believer that there's a limit to how much support you can expect from a friend from one same problem. Your friend has their own worries, stress, and issues, and needs you to be there for them too, and I seriously don't think someone who goes back again and again to their shitty ex is a reliable person. I say this …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 07:18 AM
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Men largely still have the ignorant and arrogant belief that sperm doesn't become affected by age, when it's actually the reason why so many children are born with certain conditions or disabilities (AKA men hit the wall, HARD).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 05:13 AM
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Best to focus on yourself. Why should we women worry about having any hopes that good men are out there? That's still internalized male gaze, still internal mysoginy of needing a man in our lives to be "fulfilled" or "truly happy." A good, romantic partner should be a bonus in your life, not an essential element in it. Like Platipus said, it's the men who have to prove they're good, not on us women to gloss over their shitty actions just to hope to get a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 05:00 AM
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Nope, and that's coming from someone who heavily reads a TON of fanfiction, which has a lot of romance-related tropes like the soulmate stuff. Not even fanfiction can make the concept of soulmates (as "the one" romantic partner of your lifetime), believable. Even with all the explanations and suspension of disbelief, in my 30 or so years of reading, I have never found even a somewhat reasonable writing that made me think "ok I can accept it in this fictional scenario." Not even fictional writing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 08:57 AM
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Just ONE of those red flags is more than enough to say any follow up is not worth it. One thing you must remember: ONE red flag is just the tip of a mountain of red flags.
/r/askFDS30/03/22 08:36 AM
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"It's just a joke" Translation: I'm a spineless cowardly asshole who doesn't want to be held accountable for my words/actions, and will blame you for them when you get understandably upset about them. He wanted you to stroke his ego (BTW, NOT your job nor obligation, not to mention you genuinely put effort, when you were put on the spot), didn't like it and threw it back on your face. Extremely disrespectful, and you know it. I also suggest to stop putting yourself down so much. You said your at…
/r/askFDS30/03/22 08:33 AM
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Women: be a good person, respect us and don't abuse or attack us Men: iMpOsSiBLe StAnDaRdS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 05:05 AM
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Right? I'll be The Penguin and Two Face combined for all I care, I give no fucks about enabling rapists to prey on a defenseless, inebriated woman or girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 01:41 AM
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"Don't I get a say in this!?" LMAO dude literally had a say in the form of a full ass condescending lecture, seriously men love to yap yap yap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 12:56 AM
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Yeah, the ones that hurt the most are no. 3 Family, particularly if they're direct relations like dads and brothers. You grow up with everyone telling you that dads protect and cherish their daughters, and brothers might fight with you but still protect you too, only to realize that they're... not. And instead of protecting you, will throw you under the bus to protect other males, even those unrelated to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 09:13 PM
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Exactly how I reacted in that part LOL, like, I'm not some goddamn token POC "friend" for a woman to add to her roster to make herself feel better. This ain't an ethnically diverse group of kids from TV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 08:45 PM
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Yeah, unfortunately, due to the actions of hordes of men, AND the rest of them defending those same men, I've reached a point in life where I simply do NOT and cannot believe almost anything a man says. So... sorry not sorry? Men have generalized and lumped women in a few categories for a long ass time (one of the oldest one is the madonna-whore complex one, and usually the rest stem from it), dismissing our pain, opinions, voices. So yes "all men." And it's on the men to prove otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 07:42 AM
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OMFG yes this too! So many men will use this as a way to throws tantrums due to not wanting to wear condoms... sexually transmitted diseases still exist, men are mostly carriers (they can go years without symptoms or suffering due to them), and women are the ones with the higher risk of suffering from getting penetrated by a penis without a condom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 06:08 AM
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LOOOOL meanwhile women have to deal with shitty BC with tons of side effects, some even FOR LIFE! I really don't see many men taking this because 1) takes effort, you think they're gonna religiously take a daily pill? Sure hope this pill is a monthly thing! 2) even men who claim to not want kids, have stupid biases when it comes to their masculinity in relation to their penis and its fertility. Legit there are self-claimed CF men (newsflash, you're not CF) who claim they don't want to snip becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 01:16 AM
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The moment a dude says the words "devil's advocate" I instantly stop reading/listening because guaranteed he's just arguing to be right and be contrary. (also pulling strawman BS out of his ass without knowing WTF he's talking about)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 01:06 AM
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Yeah, I'm also in the CF sub and it's really infuriating to hear stupid comments like "my body my choice!" Like ok yeah technically that's your choice, but with that choice come big risks that could AND have made more than one dude claiming to be CF to suddenly NOT be CF (men who bail from all parental rights are also not CF in my book, just deadbeat dads), not to mention it's insanely selfish because they just leave all the burden of birth control on the woman. A man claiming to be CF not getti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 12:07 AM
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No push back. Block and delete. And NO identifying information of ANY kind. Respect the sub rules.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 11:05 PM
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Even worse (and far too common, sadly) the kids DO come but they come from having relations with a LVM (covert or not), and not those women are stuck with them by extension of their kids. I know many women do genuinely want to become mothers, but it's far worse to have kids this way than to not have kids come at all, especially with how many different ways people can help and nurture the kids in need who exist now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 10:51 PM
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And even those three exceptions are still not a safe bet, nor as common as we want to believe they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 10:43 PM
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LOL the dude saying that got upvotes on his comments, SMH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 10:27 PM
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OMFG someone defended him by commenting he's in the "early stage teenage development" and then said he's a child! Literally they're defending him by saying he's a child! HE'S TWENTY FIVE??? (Also by that stupid logic WTF is an "early teen" child doing in a sexual relationship then!?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 05:17 AM
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In the few comments he didn't erase, he mentioned that she has a room on the second floor specifically set up for tattooing, the parents are the ones who came to visit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 05:15 AM
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He hit the wall, that's what happened, LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 11:51 PM
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The comments are hilarious, they're giving it to him and I'm so glad for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 11:44 PM
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Right? I don't care if it's an actual illness (whatever fuck illness "makes" one walk up to a little girl and start violently punch her?) or not, it doesn't change the fact he needs to be locked up. He can get all the help he needs either in jail or in a facility that won't let him out. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 05:42 AM
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"Psychological emergency service" FFS, I'm DONE with putting every single violent male in psychiatric testing. Male violence can and is done by men regardless of mental health! I'm sick of men hiding behind all sorts of excuses to avoid the blame for their abusive and violent actions, and I'm sick of the myth that people with mental illness are more prone to violence. I understand that there are a FEW people who are truly violent due to mental health, however that doesn't excuse their actions. T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 03:20 AM
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Absolutely, unless they have a disease or condition that specifically impairs their mobility or mental health, older women (think retired or older) have energy. I think it's just the fact that the kids are grown, and maybe they also get retirement (so no need to work), so most of their day to day labor is done and they have a lot more freedom now than ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 12:54 AM
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I saw this post earlier in other subs, it makes me sick how everyone was immediately exonerating the criminal by claiming he had a mental illness, he needed help, etc. Fuuuuuuuuck off to Mars with that shit, having a mental illness doesn't excuse this shit, not to mention it's just yet another way for men to avoid blame. He was 100% willing to kill that woman, his actions were premeditated. Illness or not, the fact is a person was about to die because he wanted to kill them. He has no place in s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 05:04 PM
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LOL leaving letters on your porch, just goes to show that if they wanted to, they would! Where was all this energy and effort during the relationship? Losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:58 PM
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The art of non verbal communication is lost on these recent generations. Not at all, most of these asshats ACT like they don't get non-verbal communication and need every single thing communicated to them in words, but the truth is they know. Yet another form of planned incompetence, don't let them convince you otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:56 PM
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Thank you for sharing your experience, it shows how important it is to avoid age gaps. Too many people say that as long as the younger partner is a fully grown adult (say, 25-30 seems to be the general consensus), then the age gap stops mattering... but it SO does, and its effects rear back in the last stages of life. I really hope more and more women start realizing and acknowledging that age gaps are not to their advantage at all. 8-12 years might not seem a lot, but it is, and it will show so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:51 PM
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Men: abuse, manipulate, lie, trick, drug, r+pe, murder women AND little girls (LOTS of pedos out there, men who target girls who just hit the age of consent do so because they can't go any lower without getting called out by society. Best believe if they could get away with going 13 and younger they'd do it far more... and they actually do in certain places in the world) Also men: Waaahh women don't want to date!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 06:16 AM
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Yeap, men emotionally and mentally torture/abuse a woman for months or even years on end, of course the woman is gonna be "insecure," men are the ones who beat it into them. And instead of nagging about all of this shit she supposedly does, how about walking away? Just leave her if she's such a thorn on your side... oh but of course, these men STAY because they secretly know it's all projection, they know they're the problem, and they know they should stay for all the perks women give them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 11:49 PM
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I have not been in this situation, but when it comes major investments, such as houses, I think that it's safer not to do business with friends here. This. Just, this. I know everyone loves the idea, and certainly for some lucky ones, you could be very compatible living in a household with friends as roomies, BUT everyone should stay faaaar away from being legally financially tied to friends. There's just too many situations that could make the relationship difficult. The one scenario I could MA…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 11:34 PM
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Exactly this, I have my fandom passions, and buy the merchandise, graphic tees, etc. but I'm not gonna make a big deal if I miss this or that, I rather prioritize other things like meeting with friends and family (and I say this as someone extremely introverted, I still know those are important things to protect and maintain) It's really horrifying to find out how disgustingly common it is for men to go do their hobby crap while their partner is in the hospital, literally giving birth to their c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 11:24 PM
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I know exactly the kind of men you're talking about, and the problem is that these men aren't feminine, they're SOFT. They're weak, they have no spine, they go around life looking at their feet, doing nothing about anything and blaming others for their "woe is me" self pity. Most important of all, they'd 100% cheat on their wives with the excuse that she's too oppressive/harpy/nagging/etc. They have a warped idea of what femininity is, and what being feminine or having feminine qualities means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 06:29 AM
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Adding to this: The ONLY reason they're jealous is because they have NO FUCKING IDEA of how it is to live as an average woman in the world. They all imagine the hottest woman being married to the richest man spending his money, and nothing else. Hell, they probably just think of sex as they'd experience now as males, and not as if they were those women, either! Or imagine these fuckwits being born as women, in a country where women have almost no rights, and are basically sold to dusty husbands …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 06:22 AM
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"Wwaaaaahhh WoMeN jUsT hAvE tO eXiSt! Waaaaaahh!" That's all I'm hearing from his end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 06:15 AM
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Legit I think a lot of these men are closeted homosexuals. Of course I fully support LGBTQ+, just saying that these men in particular have unresolved sexuality issues that are coming out in very fucked up ways (hating women, wanting to hurt women in sexual acts, wanting women to see them as the prize, wanting to be SAHDs, obsessing too much about +nal sex...) and of course, they want to make women be the perpetrators and problem solvers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 02:56 AM
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Why in the world would he feel compelled to say that shit to you? Listen, regardless of his own reason, it's not a good look either way. It's inappropriate to tell you that, you're not his bro, nor his therapist, nor his emotional dumpster. And personally? Yes I'd considered negging, again, regardless of his reasons. If he's not trying to neg you, he's trying to make himself better by putting you down. Those aren't comments for you to tolerate. If you can't find the strength to cut this LVM from…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 09:58 PM
37

My friends with batteries are always there for me, clean and quiet and last as long as I need them to, LOL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 09:52 PM
93

Yeap, plenty of men have gone on mass attacks for the sole reason of feeling entitled and/or hating women (for not putting up with their creepy, LV bullshit), even when media tries to make them affiliate with some sort of political inclination. In Japan I know of at least two cases where a man went on a stabbing rampage and was trying to attack/kill women specifically. One man attacked a woman in a train because she dared to smile/be happy, and he didn't want her to be. This isn't new, its been …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 04:31 AM
78

Short answer: It doesn't matter. Long answer: it doesn't matter, because it's not your, or our, job to find out the whys and to put up with it. That's his problem and he has to deal with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 11:27 PM
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To add to your comment: Society doesn't need to collapse, all it needs is to get the wrong kind of people (men or pickmes) in power, and for them to start making the situation unsafe for women: make abortion illegal, give rewards to whistleblowers for reporting abortions, lowering the age of consent for sex (so grown ass adult men can take advantage of 13yo girls), forcing women into wearing certain types of clothing/banning certain types of clothing, pushing women out of the workforce... It's h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 09:09 PM
5

That's a lot of words to describe a clown making a huge deal of attracting the attention of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 07:26 AM
54

OMFG, there's this show that I liked to watch occasionally (just the first few seasons, the later ones are just, shit) called "my wife and kids" (queue eye rolling) and even back then, when I was still unconsciously entrenched in misogyny, I HATED this one episode where the main character (husband) demanded his wife to stop her career and be a SAHM, because he wanted his wife to be at home and have his "hot meal ready" or whatever the fuck, and what she did was... "prove" to him that she was a "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 07:24 AM
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Oh, of course, he offloads the basic necessities (cleaning, cooking, laundry, etc.) onto his mom, of course he has all the time in the world to polish his skills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:01 AM
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LOL what's ironic is that when shit hits the fan and they get bed-ridden or in some sort of major issue, the so called "prodigy sons" are nowhere to be seen, and they expect the worthless daughters to care for them. Even my mom who is still pretty entrenched in "traditional" (AKA oppressively misogynistic) beliefs, came to realization years ago that the sons all end up going away, "taking care" of their own families, and the daughters are the ones who stay in touch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 02:58 AM
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"I'm so sorry mi cousin took my phone and sent you those texts, it wasn't me, I swear!" JFC, the only good grace about the whole situation is that these dudes are more and more dumb and it's so fucking easy to notice their duplicity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 02:53 AM
10

Legit she could've just volunteered at the local pet shelter, and it'd be 100 times more fulfilling than this embarrassing display.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 02:49 AM
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What's funny is that they try to denigrate women for having baggage (and usually a man or more gave her that baggage to begin with) and issues, when they themselves have shit tons of baggage and issues themselves! And unlike women, most of them have them due to their own foolish actions. Like, a woman having baggage because a man abused her for 5 years until she finally got the courage to get away, is not the same "baggage" as a dude with porn addiction or with fantasies/revenge fantasies about …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 03:14 AM
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OMG, I never get that shit, where they tell a woman she's awesome because "she's not like the other girls, she's like one of the boys". It just sounds like they want to fuck their bros??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 08:14 PM
37

Right?? I'm almost 40 and holy shit, men age FAST. I still get called "miss" (I mean, I legally am, but usually when you look like an older lady people start using "ma'am" around here), while I see men hitting 40 and just... looking like they could be my uncle?? A young uncle perhaps, but still someone I'd associate with being closer to my parents in terms of relations. He's gonna have one rude wake up call... or stay in denial until he's around 60, heaven knows a lot of these scrotes have an ov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 08:09 PM
125

Peepee wet is his only way to express love physically, LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 07:57 PM
21

Men invading supposedly safe or wholesome spaces, hobbies, trades or situations in order to prey in women, particularly the underage or barely legal ones, why it doesn't surprise me, ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 07:56 PM
18

…not trying to be weird about it” INSTANTLY made it fucking weird. What the fuck is it with these disgusting, cheating LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 07:55 PM
151

Chemical castration should be a thing for these monsters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 07:54 PM
131

This is why we don't write 3 page letters either, over-explaining how he hurt you and why you're leaving him. 100% if you have to do this, he doesn't give a shit and never gave a shit. I know some women here mentioned something along the lines of their social circles being too intertwined and that's why they "needed to write that" in order to not have blame thrown at them, but ladies, if this is a genuine fear of yours, those "friends" are shit, and you can't have them in your life. It's really …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 07:51 PM
27

Like others have said: IT DOESN'T MATTER. If he acts like an asshole, he's an asshole. Nobody gets to get away with assholish behavior with X or Y excuse. This is the same BS as those men shown being angry and violent on the outside, but with a supposedly "sad little boy" inside. Whatever shortcomings he has, HE has to work on. Absolutely nothing entitles him to a woman, or sex. And also already mentioned: Heavens knows that neurodivergent women have not been given ANY slack throughout their liv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 12:25 AM
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I recently highly suspected I'm neurodivergent too (can't afford formal testing, saving up for that), and exactly this, women get no slack at all, and no excuses. It's part of the reason recently professionals are realizing that there's a lot more neurodivergent women out there (masking or camouflaging) who simply weren't considered as such before, because all the burden of shame was put on those women and girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 12:15 AM
56

Get an Addalock, it's a portable door lock that gives you extra security. It doesn't work for when you're out, but I love the extra security I feel when I'm sleeping with it on the door. It's very unfortunate about the common area items... this is a "worst case scenario" question, but is there anything you might want to sell, to get it out of the common area? Or that you could leave with friends or family in storage in the meantime? It's mostly so she doesn't get to enjoy the privileges of using…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 12:10 AM
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Even a few months in, it's a huge red flag, because he's just waiting for you to lower your defenses and have a bit of feelings for him to trauma dump you and make it harder for you to walk away. The fact is that trauma conversations are not easily given to even family or long time friends, let alone a person you only know a few months in. I personally would be wary because that kind of trauma is best to be worked on with a therapist, and well adjusted/decent people prefer to focus on the good t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 12:31 AM
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100% THIS, THANK YOU. This poster really needs to keep on leveling up, because essentially their whole post is just another way of giving men the "benefit of the doubt" and wasting too much mental labor trying to justify his actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 12:28 AM
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Any time a dude uses words like "psycho," "crazy," "sensitive," "b+tch," "clingy," etc. I 100% do NOT believe him, regardless of what happened. Because that's the kind of language he chooses to use, to everyone, about someone he supposedly loved, which automatically proves to me that he didn't love her at all. Not to mention, I don't have the willingness nor energy to spare for them, sorry not sorry but at this point, it's MEN'S FAULT, en masse, that I cannot nor want to believe them. Men, expli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 12:25 AM
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LOL of course the writer is a short man, of course. It's actually embarrassing how media in general (Hollywood, Netflix, HBO, etc.) greenlights all these revenge fantasy stories from all these pathetic men to turn into shows and movies. If it's not short men, it's ugly, fat men, or geeky socially inept men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 04:56 AM
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If the dude had been the one with appendicitis and in the ER, you can bet our bottoms dollars he'd be crying and acting like a baby, shaming her EVERYWHERE and to everyone and everyone would demonize her if she had abandoned him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 06:16 PM
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I'm 100% for bringing back "BIOLOGY" (that blanket argument men LOVE to bring up whenever they want to dehumanize women AND excuse men's behavior) and let only the strongest, best looking, healthiest men's sperm available for women who want to have kids. Let the shittiest ones shrivel up, we have more than enough diversity in the world that it shouldn't be a problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 06:11 PM
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Or by pretending sexism, patriarchy, mysoginy and overall discrimination against women doesn't exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 06:20 AM
29

I was weary about marriage pre-FDS, but now I'm 100% against marriage (unless the man keeps on proving himself to be HV, I guess? But even that nobody knows for sure until the day he dies). There's just too much at stake for a woman, even just living with a man can mean being on the hook somehow because of some bullshit law that if you're living in the same place for X period of time, you're technically some sort of married in the eyes of the law. I don't know what the original intentions of tho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 10:54 PM
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Imagine hating women so much, and being so salty the Dead Sea has nothing on you, to the point you put all this effort to fucking program a website to "prove them wrong"! The small dick energy this screenshot alone emits, is ASTOUNDING. He could've used this energy to self level up, with none of it tied to the goal of "getting chicks,"you know, just becoming a better, good person. But NOoooOOoOo, gotta spend energy on this bullshit, LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 11:39 PM
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100% this, in fact we're already seeing it with the consequences of such massive, regular consumption of p+rn for years or even decades. Men simply learn to see women as objects in p+rn, and see the actions of those men as something to strive for. Now we basically have an epidemic in terms of women suffering from these pornsick men's warped minds, thinking kinky shit is supposed to be the "norm" and vanilla sex or makeloving is "boring." Men never deescalate, they ESCALATE. Their desire for stra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 11:21 PM
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And the ONLY reason they want that chance at the end, is because she's finally got fed up and is actually doing something about it. If she had kept on giving him chances, he would've NEVER EVER taken any of those to change or improve at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 11:02 PM
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You know what I think? This guy is telling on himself. Saying "16yo spiritually" sounds a hell of a lot to me like he's laying the foundation so he can go and lust over ACTUAL 16YOS. Dude is a total pedo, and he wants to be able to use the excuse that "mentally, I feel 16!" as a lame ass excuse on why he feels a "connection" with 16yo little girls. I'm almost 40 and I look at 20yos like little lambs, because, well, they're literally young enough to be my kids if I had any, so therefore I have th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 06:59 AM
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That too, but nowadays those are super scary because all they have to do is get close enough to your car and stick with a magnet. I'm super concerned about how LVM use technology to stalk and harass women, we all know they are very capable of going mega detective to find out a woman's location, job place, new email, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 04:17 AM
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16yo spiritually?? Translation: I'm immature AF, even current 20yos are more mature than me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 03:57 AM
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I hated this show, and I hated him, but back then I never could exactly put into words on WHY. It's only years later I could fully understand why I was so adverse to this show (same with TBBT, and after I grew up, Friends)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 11:02 PM
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Probably trying to take her down a peg, humiliate her to make himself feel like a strong, manly man putting women on their place, test if her boundaries are shit and is willing to accept his abuse...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 11:00 PM
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Beware, the tall ones have the (bad) potential of getting really fucking smug about their height, and end up being scrotes in many other different ways, like not bothering to level up in any way, thinking they're hot stuff, feeling entitled to women they "choose..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 10:58 PM
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After finding out how John Cena cheated on his girlfriend when he was building himself up, I stop giving a fuck about anything he puts out or all the wishes he grants kids. Like, I feel happy the kids are happy, but it doesn't absolve him at all. Also his fucking wacko relationship contracts, no thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 10:52 PM
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A HVM would also be aware AND respectful of a woman's wariness, and need for safety, to be in a too private setting with a stranger man. They think it's all about us wanting to get a free meal at a "fancy" restaurant, shows what they care about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 10:50 PM
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Last one also had me wondering about the potential danger of "let me take out something from your car, break it, so you have to spend the night AND have no means of getting away from me if you try to escape" That one in particular reaaaaally gave me serial killer rapist vibes, moreso than the others. Dude was way to fucking eager to tamper with OP's means of transportation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 10:46 PM
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Yeah, the very fact their concern is uncovering bad habits, or not knowing if he'll be a good roommate, etc. etc. etc. they already lost, and it proves, at least to me, that they have a very shitty vetting strategy (or none at all) and the dude is 100% LV. If actual cohabitation was something to consider, at that point she should've vetted the hell out of him. He should be an incredibly safe bet, and we all know that the vast majority of men would've shown minimum 2-4 red flags waaaaay before an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 10:34 PM
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On every single scenario, this is what my brain was translating really loudly in my head: "LET ME GET YOU ALONE IN A PLACE NO ONE CAN HEAR YOU, TO POTENTIALLY R+PE AND/OR ASSAULT YOU" These men sure exude some strong r+apist serial killer vibes, holy shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 09:12 PM
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One common argument I hear from some women is that "you can't truly know if you can cohabitate with him if you don't live with him!" Sis please, yes you fucking can, and no, living with him before marriage won't guarantee you "truly know" him. You could live with him for a decade, have 4 kids, and you still wouldn't truly know him. Go to his place and stay a few weeks, if you really need to cohabitate with him. Stay a bit longer if you really need to, but you shouldn't have to actually move with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 05:19 AM
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Translation: I wanna coast through life. That means in every sense: physically, mentally, socially, work-wise, romance-wise, etc. etc. etc. They are content with barely doing the bare minimum (yes, I wrote what I wrote) to live and little else. Any "level up" in their lifestyle usually comes from a woman desperate enough to stick with him. This is how you have all these dudes who sleep on nests, or end up with just a mattress, a TV and a game console when they split up with their partner. If the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 04:54 AM
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Also consider all the freaking psychos out there who do everything short of killing a woman. TONS out there who do at least one or a combination of these: Stalking, harassing, sexually abuse, rape, threaten, blackmail, coerce. To both grown women AND little girls, AKA children. Just the amount of men who go out of their way to kill their exes (which may also include any children they have) is depressingly common, but once you take into account all above instances and not just extreme cases, the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 06:20 AM
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Same here, almost 40, and honestly? I'm totally OK with "not being loved" if the men out there are either outright LVM, or implicit LVM for supporting the system that both harms women and benefits men. I have not only zero romantic and sexual attraction for those two groups, but an actual repulsion. I don't want them near me, I don't want them touching me, and I don't want them touching the good women out there. I think when we're young (20s and under) we still have all that brainwashing from so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 11:37 PM
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Because of the myth that men's sperm doesn't degrade with age, unlike women's eggs, which science has already acknowledged is total bullshit, but it serves the mysoginy agenda, so... What men refuse to accept is t hat their sperm DOES degrade, in fact far earlier than women's eggs, because they don't only have age against them, but decades of poor habits and routines. Women get often blamed whenever a baby has any sorts of issues, but it's far more likely it's the aged, shitty sperm that is the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 05:23 PM
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Make that $100, since half of the food/location/entertainment would be consumed by him, so it's not even the full tab. This is why it's really disgusting when they pull whatever dollar number they think it's both outrageous and entitled them to sex from her, but 100% I assure you that: 1) he either didn't spend that much at all (so he's lying) or 2) he included HIS share of the money spent to inflate the number to his advantage. (100% every single time he claims X money spent on "her")
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 03:56 PM
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And by "catch" they usually just mean "you're physically attractive to my peepee"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 03:34 PM
15

On the other hand, women LITERALLY go under the operating table for the most superfluous of surgeries, because either they have internalized mysoginy telling them they're not pretty enough, or they have a disgusting LVM gaslighting and pressuring them to look a certain way for him. Boobs, face lifts, double eyelids, noses, thicker lips, butts... hell, there's even women taking off RIBS to get a smaller waist! What the ever flying FUCK. I'm not saying that these surgeries are bad out of context. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 03:22 AM
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As long as he doesn't expect you to do the same, which DOES include things like: dyeing your hair, having a daily skincare routine (which includes daily SPF), making an effort with your clothes and accesories, doing your makeup regularly (anything from daily usage to during dates and/or special events)... We have to accept that all those things are meant to ultimately prolong the youthful looks on women. If you do even one of these to "look good" even when you believe you do it solely for yourse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 12:13 AM
100

Holy fuck, so when he was in college, she was barely born? Tell me he's a p3do without telling me he's a p3do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 12:09 AM
122

This is why everyone who mocks women for being "paranoid," preparing for a thousand scenarios, can all shut the fuck up. We get blamed for every single thing in an scenario, and the majority of men are never, nor will ever, be held accountable, thanks to their "bros" in the police and other authority figures. Legit there are men out there who have abused, raped, stalked and/or killed at least one woman out there, who will die peacefully, many even surrounded by "loved" ones and with beautiful eu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 08:31 PM
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I was similar, a dude could be really attractive, but if he was a stranger, or turned out to be an asshole, or just gave me weird ass vibes, I had zero sexual attraction. I considered myself demisexual (a branch of ace) which means "feel sexual/romantic attraction after developing an emotional bond"... But isn't that how it should fucking be?? Imagine that, only feeling sexual and romantic attraction after you get to know a person. THAT'S CALL DATING. That's called a HEALTHY, NORMAL ROMANTIC REL…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 08:25 PM
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Yeah, the "common denominator" argument has been weaponized for victim blaming women in particular. It really depends on the context, you can't just tell a victim "well you're the common denominator so YOU must be at fault, hurr durr!" when the vast majority of men WILL take advantage of the situation. This isn't like an asshole LVM abuser who goes around treating badly every single woman who gives him a chance, they get all fed up, and he calls them "crazy." This ain't the same situation AT ALL…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 08:08 PM
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100% this, OP can always have a child with a HVM in the future, if she chooses to, she dodged a barrage of bullets! Even being a single mom WITHOUT having this LVM as a sperm donor will be a much better prospect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 07:51 PM
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Exactly this. Any man who gets grossed out, angry or reacts negatively to menstruation (mostly because that's an exclusive female function, but all other body functions apply) is LVM in my book, no exceptions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 09:06 PM
45

Or just walk away. A man calling you "crazy" when you're clearly not, is not a man worth all that effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 05:53 PM
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they can’t dont want to contain themselves They face no consequences, so they feel free to do whatever the fuck they want. It's really telling of men that when presented with the opportunity of no consequences, they 99% go for the "let's abuse/rape" option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 05:47 PM
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Usually they become the center of a big hug circle of people patting them on the back for being such a good guy and cheering about how "this is what we need, more men like this!" and then going on to talk about how we can best support men like this. This is why I barely care about posts that allude this even in this sub. Sooooo many women just go "OMGGGG YESSSS" and praise him up and down, like he's Jesus descending from the heavens, and I'm just fed up with both men being so praised for being a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 03:41 PM
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100% the men are "settling," basically they get a mid-life crisis and figure they might as well just hang onto the one woman that chose to stick around. Hit life goal posts at the age we're "supposed" to: have their "LeGaCy" kids, marriage, have a mortgage, etc. The thing is, if they "find" any woman later on, that they want to be with instead, they abso-fucking-lutely will drop their wives and kids like hot potatoes. Same with a woman contracting a harsh disease like cancer, most will choose to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 01:00 AM
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Yeap, because they could still be lying from the get go to get into your pants/whatever they want from you. You can answer back with whatever, but overall just this one exchange in this small context doesn't mean anything. Regardless of what his or your answer is, you should be vetting him in other, many ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 06:31 AM
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The vast majority of men act like this, regardless of social or economical standing. I've had men abuse me as both a customer and an employee. Society loves to make fun of women making huge scenes (there's the name "Karen" that devolved further into meaning any b+tchy, entitled woman at a store), and certainly I've been the target of them, but men are the ones I see the most having temper tantrums, throwing their weight around, threatening with their words, actions and body language, etc. I neve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 05:59 AM
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I think it's less about faith in people, and more about not wanting homeless people to loiter the parking lots, asking to take your cart so they can get the coin. Not that I'd know personally, just what I heard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 11:58 PM
16

LOL this test makes sense in the context of not having the coin system... I do wish in the areas where I live there was one, just to keep people from being such lazy dickheads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 06:23 AM
22

Oh yeah, even when I was a kid I fucking hated that CC ended up with Niles, he was such an asshole. I remember even when CC would clap back, she didn't do it that often, and many times it ended with Niles having "the last word." While I enjoyed the camaraderie he had with Fran, I couldn't stand him otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 05:00 AM
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Yeah, the "will they won't they" is a classic trope to suggest a romance is brewing and drag it for as long as they want. I give TV shows some leeway in terms of their romance (and other resolutions/advancement in terms of plot and character development) because sometimes it's just the studio wanting to stretch a show for money purposes. I personally don't mind much The Nanny's romantic development for the reasons you mentioned; even in a real life situation it can be reasonable to take them int…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 04:57 AM
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Add to the list: hobbies than end up being more obsession than hobbies, and end up replacing a large chunk of the identity of the person. You all know: gamer, sport fan, anime fan, Lego collector, train enthusiast, card games... You all know them, they have no other interests outside of 1-2 hobbies, and often the hobby can be passive, such as videogames, sports and anime/TV shows. (unlike "active" hobbies such as those where you build stuff like woodbuilding, ceramics, jewelry making...)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 12:58 AM
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Wow, this is similar to "the shopping cart test," and men fail at it horribly. Basically this test can show whether you're a good or bad person. Returning a shopping cart to its designated spot is not required, no one really will call you out on it, and it can be a bit of an inconvenience. These apps are basically a chance for men to harass and objectify women with practically no consequences, but it's entirely 100% their choice to do so. That so many men actually take the option, says a lot abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 11:59 PM
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Same with the "she put me in the friendzone, waaaaahh!" accusation they love to throw at women. Nah dude, she didn't "put you in the friendzone," you pretended to want to be her friend and she trusted that intention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 11:45 PM
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Redditors whine about how we can impress a date just by existing… What's also incredibly infuriating about this attitude is that it's actually not true, not in the way they think. In order to be smart, you have to be diligent with your studies, and have passions/hobbies that stimulate and enrich your mind and/or body. Being pretty (often conflated with being physically attractive, and having some sense for fashion- clothes, accessories, styles, etc.) requires lots of discipline (year round, regu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 07:10 AM
31

Same here, it's one of the reasons I've only been on dates and no actual relationships (I don't need to be in one to learn how it all can go to shit) and even avoided keeping around shitty "friends." It wasn't even full vetting, as I realized a lot of internalized/shifted blame, internalized mysoginy, etc. when I found FDS, but even pre-FDS I'd be thinking stuff like "wait, no, this is bullshit" and walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 01:58 AM
78

Translation: Are you enough of a moronic, doormat sucker that you're willing to put up with a man's bullshit and zero effort? (PS: Also, be willing to stay with him until he dumps you for a "better," younger female body?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:49 PM
8

He 100% was paying attention, that's why he mentioned twice that he KNEW she was avoiding sugar. Dude just doesn't give a fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:46 PM
11

This exactly, I manly cut sugar and carbs (basically keto/low carb) for weight reasons, but once I got into it, I realize a LOT of things in my body were getting better, that were supposedly chronic and I hadn't realized how miserable they were making me. Now I cut them for health reasons, too. Not to mention, he doesn't even have to excuse of not knowing. He specifically mentioned twice that he KNEW about her avoiding sugar. He could've gotten her a bouquet of flowers and a teddy bear (the bare…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:45 PM
279

LOL, anytime a guy makes a scene of ANY level because you're being cautious, is a HUGE red flag, and best to get the fuck away from them as fast as possible. Remember ladies, this isn't just a "small" security measure, it's a big one, and any man with an ounce of common sense would understand that women need to be more cautious with whom we give our information.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 09:58 PM
226

Projection, once again. The biggest backstabbers are men: Revenge p+rn Stalking/harassing exes Getting child custody JUST to play power games with exes Secretly recording the women they have sex with for money/blackmail Showering you with gifts, then either throwing them at your face when your arguing, or demanding them back when you break up Putting you in the fuckzone and pretending to be your friend, only to totally betray you once you make it clear you're not sexually interested in them. Sec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 09:19 PM
115

LOL, "brutally honest" people are just assholes who want to abuse you without wanting you to react. And like others said, 100% these same people absolutely CANNOT handle it when others are just as "brutally honest" towards them. Just see them go around talking about how you "traumatized" them with your meanness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 08:45 PM
86

What's even more laughable is that those same men drool over you from the beginning because of all your work, effort, diligence and investment to look fashionable, gorgeous and well put together. 100% they're the same men who wouldn't even deigned a second to the woman without make-up or fashionable clothes walking past them, unless they deemed her "hot enough."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 04:16 PM
13

Is this from TST (The Satanic Temple)?? Hail Satan! Hail thyself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 02:52 AM
28

Also tiny AF waist and no fat on the arms, face, legs. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 12:54 AM
135

Absolutely, most of the ads I've seen in Craigslist want you to pay a "reduced" rent, as if they're doing you a favor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 09:28 PM
40

Absolutely this. Men KNOW, and they will take advantage of the situation. My current place is unfortunately co-ed, but at least it's only 1 male housemate and 3 female ones. I tried to find female only places, but goddamn, it's hard. I found ONE, and the place was unfortunately not great, so I had to keep looking. After my lease is over, I plan to look for another place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 09:24 PM
30

Yeah, and there's always, ALWAYS at least 1-3 women in the group going "awwwww poor him!" or "I don't wanna be mean!" effectively making the women calling out this BS as some sort of b+tches or being "too harsh."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 09:14 PM
155

Same here, I was very lucky to find a place within my budget where I didn't have inner alarms going off. The place is a fucking box, but at least I feel it's safe, overall. I hope at one point things come crashing down hard and some big ass change about housing affordability comes for all of us. This is not a sustainable way of living, and these rapists and abusers know it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 05:48 PM
312

I've been using Craigslist to look for rooms to rent for about 10+ years, these are VERY real, and sadly not as rare as people like to believe. Like BBQCoolRanchQueen mentioned, they're even more common nowadays with stupid housing costs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 05:42 PM
124

HIM: "AITA for not being attracted to my GF anymore cuz she let herself go?? hurr duurrr"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 12:03 AM
2

It's really disgusting how people use "past trauma" (or really any issues) against women, like it's "their" fault and it somehow disables them from making "good" (doormat, gaslit) decisions. It's just another victim blaming tactic used on women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 06:28 PM
112

No prob, I think we all have to de-program ourselves from it, it's so prevalent in our culture and spoken language. I mean I don't mind if a woman I know or a group of female friends call each other like that, but that's because it's said as a sort of endearment, but that's it. Another difference is that even though we say "girls and guys" (I also catch myself saying this so this is not a judgement on you, sorry if anything sounded that way) it's still quite not the same. "Guy" doesn't mean "boy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 05:51 PM
373

I wouldn't like being called a girl, either, that's for underage women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:42 PM
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Not to mention the complete objectification, he literally called her a "body," like she's nothing more than a walking sex doll for him to enjoy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:27 PM
4

Same, I kept getting emails from EME; my account wasn't erased, I had to send an email specifically requesting this. Just in case, I logged in one last time to scrub it clean before I sent the email. Not sure if this works or not in terms of data that they kept/received, but I did what I could.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 11:04 PM
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Thank you for your kind words! I've been looking into that too, and I wholeheartedly agree. It's a little hard to have more trust in myself when I still feel I should be able to do everything, when it's OK to have limits and to focus on what needs to be done day by day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:47 PM
18

Thank you for sharing this OP, recently I started classes for a new career path and I'm almost 40, on top of a whole bunch of stuff life is throwing at me, and this post helped me a lot. I'm not smart enough for law school or anything like that, but I like to think there's always a chance to improve one's lives, so thank you again for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 05:43 AM
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they don’t really know how to take care of themselves. They don't want to bother to learn, because it's a lot easier for them to pretend they don't know or "can't learn," then dump it all on a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 11:35 PM
45

100% this. I don't give two fucks, it SHOULDN'T be common! Not to mention, men can go years, even their whole lives, without symptoms, and women are far more likely to get symptoms after a man infects them, AKA men are pretty much the carriers, the equivalent of rats/mosquitoes of the diseases. Yet another risk women have to face if they have relations with men. At this point all the "studies" about how "it's common and harmless" to have sexually transmitted diseases, even if it's less severe on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 06:53 PM
37

Same, I mean I just deal with it, because it's pretty much impossible to afford a place all to yourself in California (unless you live in the smaller cities, with poor job prospects. and even that is getting harder and harder), but I'll pretty much hermit in my room as much as possible. I'm saving and trying to level up my career so I can finally afford a place of my own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 09:23 PM
44

We'd fucking dominate and take gold every single time for being into super extreme sports
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 05:00 PM
73

Right? Also hate that other dude for saying it's a "SACRIFICE" they make to be with someone, like they're such martyrs, letting go of an important thing or choice to deign some of his magical dick to this one feeemale. Like, men, if it's such a saaaacrifice, then just go and choose to be community dick, it ain't skin off our noses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 04:51 PM
75

Oh no, he can control his emotions just fine. Never, EVER believe that lie, that men "can't control their emotions," they can and they do. A lot of the stalking requires premeditated, cold, and sometimes long term planning (think months or years). Remember, if he can hold down a job and not get into fights with managers/bosses, if he can act decent enough in the eyes of society, but not when he's with you, behind doors, then he can control his emotions. He just chooses to go ahead and stalk, har…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 03:48 AM
9

Don't bother replying, just report them, they're not worth the typing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 12:16 AM
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And even if they are, it's MUCH better to stay single if you don't find one. I disagree with the whole "I undervalued myself, and thus he undervalued me" in general. While I understand where you're coming from, this would ONLY work if the dude was HVM, and even then, I highly doubt a true HVM would undervalue a woman just like that (different from being attracted or not to her). Since the vast majority aren't, this is just victim blaming or internalizing the blame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:25 AM
12

Remember that it's most likely sick ridden too. Men can carry sexually transmitted diseases without suffering any symptoms, and it's women the ones who suffer once it's transmitted to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 08:15 PM
14

It's hilarious how they think their true height won't get them matches, when trying to start a new connection by lying from the get go is what turns most people off of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 04:45 AM
10

You have nothing to apologize for, however I apologize for not wording properly my first comment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 02:28 AM
15

Sorry I didn't mean the "as a therapist" bit at you in particular, and there wasn't anything bad in your first comment, I was referring at the other licensed therapist in your department, not you! (and the bit about the comments from therapists in this sub or other subs, was also in general, not yours, and also mostly referring to those like that other licensed therapist teacher you mentioned)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 01:37 AM
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What I see among men is using the word "therapy" as yet another excuse to deflect blame, and/or weaponize the language and knowledge to further abuse their victims or keep conning people around them. This is why I'm not keen on "communicating" to men (and abusers and narcissists in general) on why and how their actions affect women. They just use it to cloak themselves better for the next victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 11:12 PM
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Just because someone is a therapist doesn't mean they're infallible, gullible, in denial, and able to properly separate their own biases/beliefs from their work. We always gotta remember that therapists are just like any other profession where there can be and there are bad people in it. This is why just because someone comments and starts with "I'm a therapist, and..." in subs (particularly this one) doesn't mean their word is gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 11:02 PM
2

Period decided to be an ass and came yesterday, so I'm just kicking back with a movie, some painkillers, and eating food at 11pm, LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/22 06:40 AM
24

41 years!? JHC, there's freaking serial child rapist murderers with shorter sentences than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/22 06:38 AM
14

Right? I don't give two fucks about this video. Words are worthless when it comes from men, towards women. I'll believe it after he consistently puts his wife and THEIR kids as priority for the next 10 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/22 06:37 AM
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You did great, sis! Absolutely, I don't care if we're mocked for being "paranoid" and "waste" 15-30mins looking for a safe spot to park, that can be the difference between having an uneventful time or becoming a crime statistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 05:26 AM
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This was the right way to handle this situation! You did excellently, sis, and I'm very sorry he made you go through that when you were just minding your own business. It's really disgusting that we as women have to have about 1000 things to worry about whenever we go out. Hell, just staying at home we have to worry about whether men will break in and/or violate our place and/or ourselves. Otherwise, we get victim blamed: why did you go to that place at night?? Why did you need that thing at tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 05:23 AM
10

Right? But then he's gonna be like Future him single: why is nobody taking care of meeeee?? *lifespan literally shortens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 05:13 AM
17

Simple pleasures: I just want to watch TV/pay videogames, stuck on the sofa, all day, get beers, not wash, not go anywhere, not do any chores, not make any plans and not bother to socialize with your family or mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 05:03 AM
39

Right? These men seriously think that "fixing a leaky faucet" is SUCH A BIG JOB equivalent to daily washing, cooking, cleaning, etc. Last place I rented, we had to call the landlords ONCE in three years for one leaky faucet. Even if the man they sent made big bucks, it wouldn't have been nowhere near half of the rent we were paying for that place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 05:02 AM
155

Right, she LITERALLY COMMUNICATES on how to improve the sex, and he just keeps whining about "giving it his all." Ok then dude, you're not compatible with her if "your all" ends up hurting and frustrating her, time to move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 11:46 PM
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Also in all actuality, women are 100% more visual than they are. We put a lot of care in how well and clean our clothes/accessories look, if they match, our rooms/homes are decorated so they have a homely, lived in feeling (not just a mattress, a chair, a TV and a videogame console), care for our hair, skin, nails... Lots of us love nail art just for the sake it looks pretty. How is it that "men are visual creatures and women aren't" only when it comes to how sexually attractive they find a body…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 12:04 AM
135

This is why I despise all those gross "romantic comedy/comedy" movies written by certain men (ex. Adam Sandler) where the main character is almost always a shapeless, unattractive loser dude with ZERO attractiveness in anything (clothing, body, personality, hobbies, socially, career, etc.) ends up with a super attractive woman like Cameron Diaz. You see that shit everywhere, Sitcoms, cartoons, movies... It's freaking gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 12:01 AM
10

If you're in a situation where you can go nuclear, go fucking nuclear. I love to just go "hahaha don't worry, I'll abort the fuck out of it, and if it can't be done, I'm taking you down with me" and if the sputter indignantly, call them out for supporting r*pe. Make them feel mighty uncomfortable, since they're so dead set on making you feel uncomfortable too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 11:51 PM
4

Him: Claims she has no boundaries Her: literally upholds a boundary just a few moments before Make it make sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 11:44 PM
13

Also, never forget Nest Dude, never forget, LOL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 11:42 PM
24

Pets can be great filters in several ways! One is the way you explained it, if they get petty jealous over it... then there's also the men who have pets so they can literally have control over beings below them. Dudes out there who actually take pretty good care of their pets... but are control freaks, or project their fragile egos onto them, like spaying the females, but not neutering males.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 11:40 PM
42

A lot of these people (LVM, and cat/animal haters) is that having pets opens door to whole communities of people! You can volunteer at animal shelters, foster, meet regulars at dog parks/pet stores, exchange tips with other animal lovers... They just tell on themselves when they try to gaslight us with the "enjoy being alone/a crazy cat lady" bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 11:36 PM
43

Absolutely, a woman who considers a person a friend will still care for them, and give them a portion of their love, attention and efforts, just for the simple fact they consider them goddamn, actual FRIENDS. A dude who fuckzones the women around him just see those women as free resources, while pretending to be their friend: free potential p+ssy, free therapist, free emotional support/supply, etc. and they never go away. I never thought of this, but I've had a dude that has kept on DMing me thr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 11:30 PM
23

Your vetting was not up to snuff, it's time to go back to the basics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 10:08 PM
25

Yeap, and it's why I don't bother paying attention to those posts, especially in this sub. FDS is not a place to praise basic/minimum efforts from men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 10:08 PM
21

Exactly. Lately I'm seeing too many posts like this, or posts about clapping back at male lurkers. This isn't the first time either of these things happened before, usually some wave of newbies get overenthusiastic, but it runs the risk of derailing the scope of FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 10:07 PM
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Some women here also fall into this trap, particularly those who found the sub recently. The bar is SO low that some guys talking some basic common sense, showing actual empathy, or actually saying some of the stuff we've been saying in FDS for months/years, get all sorts of praise comments saying shit like "this guy gives me hope!!" and even awards. That's how low the bar is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 06:39 AM
114

Taking himself out of the gene pool is the greatest gift to humankind!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 10:51 PM
77

Imagine how it is to live rent free in their heads to the point they want to write a whole dissertation, LOL Oh oh oh, but they "can't" wash the dishes, do laundry or take out the trash, that's too much for their poor manly minds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:04 PM
53

Same, and rando women usually compliment something the other woman has put some effort in, like their nails, their hair, their shoes, etc. and point out specific things about them (for ex. I always mention the nail art, or the hair color, or how cute the shoes are, etc.). Men just go "UR beautiful/gorgeous/sexy, hurr durr" or TRY to compliment a feature but it's so obvious it's segue to flirt with her, the "compliment" doesn't hold any weight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/21 07:21 PM
19

He knows, he's just entitled to women performing for his scrotery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/21 07:14 PM
26

It's not that he doesn't understand or is dense, he's just used to women having to deal with his dusty creepy comments from conditioning and social pressure, and he doesn't like that she's not performing like the trained monkey he expects us women to be for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/21 07:14 PM
24

LOL I love how he HAD to add that little tidbit in the post, like it actually added something significant that would totally support his point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/21 07:37 AM
12

I've seen posts about them, and seen them in media, so I think they're just common enough to have appearances here and there in TV shows and movies, but seem to be a mostly American concept because I haven't heard of them in other cultures or countries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 09:45 PM
14

LOL just think how pathetic their lives are that they feel smug at gatekeeping camping... while not even properly camping themselves!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 09:35 PM
31

Absolutely, this is just God's way of punishing Adam for being so weak. They should shut themselves inside their houses when they get blue balls, and pray through the ordeal until their balls go back to normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 09:31 PM
12

"he's not a malicious mean guy" On the contrary, just because he does this from laziness and selfishness, doesn't mean it doesn't end up being malicious and mean (I'd say the very fact he's selfish automatically means he IS malicious and mean). I think we're waaay too conditioned to "soften the blow" by adding stuff like "he's not a bad guy, but..." or "he doesn't have bad intentions, however..." or "at least he's not a violent guy..." the bar is in hell. I see this apologetic attitude a LOT whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 09:25 PM
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Why did you allow him in your car once again? The moment he revealed that should've been the last time you saw him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 06:53 PM
12

Yeah but that sentiment only works in other situations, NOT in dating between a man and a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 04:51 PM
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Add the porn-sick ones who devolved to the point they "need" a death grip in order to get any pleasure, and really they should just resort to their hands and fleshlights. Why even bother with women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 04:16 PM
135

Good catch, it's all "me me me" in how he describes it: "fix MY situation" instead of "our" or "hers" and it's all about how HE struggles. The pity party stink coming off his post is so thick, wants rando internet strangers to coddle him and pat his back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 01:38 AM
83

"I can't control it" AKA: "I don't wanna be arsed to get off my ass"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 01:35 AM
171

Big, strong, tall, alpha man needs to sexually abuse little children to feel manly, obviously! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 05:55 AM
80

LOL they accused women so much of being the "crazy ex" to the point it became a trope, but now they hate it when they get accused the same way... except there's actual data, facts and anecdotes backing up women's situation. Hell, men are literally stalking AND killing their exes to the point THAT is a common thing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 05:49 AM
23

Reminds me of the goomba soldiers from that old Super Mario Bros love action movie!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 01:18 AM
122

Actually, we did not erase the necessity of shame, we (AKA men and by consequence pickmes) simply focused it on some very shitty, SHITTY things. Like trying to "shame" women for not being "kinky" (AKA being raped/sexually abused by men), or shaming women for choosing to not have kids or force herself in a motherly role, or for not being "feminine" enough for their men. I see lots of shame, it's just not directed at all at men. We need to re-direct that undeserved shame back onto them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 01:04 AM
25

I want to enjoy life: Travel, live in other countries, look nice, feel good (AKA be healthy in body and mind). I've had diagnosed depression for a long ass time, and I'm finally in a better position in several aspects of my life. Not perfect, but getting there! And I figured I want to focus on myself first and foremost, not to mention do a few things before I kick the bucket (for ex. going to see the Northern Lights!) Once you get to a place where you love yourself, have high standards, and put …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 11:41 PM
21

There's no need to minimize your words by adding "I feel as," queen! This is absolute FACTS, there IS increased pressure (AKA lots of shaming) towards women to be sexually abused and humiliated by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 06:00 PM
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This is one of the MANY proofs that it's men who are 100% responsible for their own "dilemmas." They're the ones creeping, harassing, murdering and stalking women at any chance possible. Men will turn anything into an opportunity to be sexually disgusting to women. They cry about shit being unfair to them, when it's them and their fellow men the ones who caused the situation to escalate to this. Women wouldn't be so "paranoid" (AKA justifiably wary) of men if men actually didn't do shit like thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:55 PM
19

For me Xmas is no different than any other time of the year, because I buy myself the things I want, regardless of time, LOL! But to keep it within topic, I got myself a a few boxes of macarons from Costco!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:37 PM
3

43yo man enjoys the company of his mature, adult female partner who loves, respects him and doesn't belittle or mock him like his immature, weirdly jealous, shitty bro? The insanity! /s (Jokes aside, the way you describe his "friend" is frankly, like how I'd describe a woman who's jealous that you "have" him and not her. Me thinks there's other issues in his brain besides the ones you described)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:10 AM
4

This is exactly me to a tee. I'm "untouched" because frankly, I need attraction of both mind and body, and I'm attracted to how men should be: healthy in both body and mind, and respectful of women in actual, real ways. Not this "male feminist" virtue signalling bullshit to try to get brownie points/attention from women. Even before FDS I always found something where I mentally would think "wait, no... this is bullshit" even when I couldn't word it properly. And of course, we internalize and bas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:03 AM
69

"You're legal but look underage, I won't get in trouble with the law or society!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 12:59 AM
7

Yeah, at 2 freaking years old this kid's worries should be to learn colors and the sounds animals make.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 09:45 PM
79

The bar is in hell if a man doing the bare minimum gives women hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 03:01 AM
37

Just imagine how much of a loser this dude is in real life, to the point he gets a kick of dopamine out of "controlling" rando women and "putting them in their place" in a digital group, behind the safety of his screen. That's a whole new level of pathetic, it's like men try to challenge themselves whenever we think we found their lowest point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 12:32 AM
78

Reason why I don't go looking for other "feminist" subs, either they're modded by men, or the original female mods allowed to have a male mod for the sake of "having both sides" or some other pickme BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 12:28 AM
33

And remember that the "good girls" instantly turn into "cheap hoes" the moment she expresses discontent with him, or doesn't show any interest in him, or doesn't know he exists and shows interest in another man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 05:26 PM
46

Holy crap I remember that story, he was a fucking creepo clown. I feel sorry for that woman, who probably thought he was like a pretty old father figure, and the interactions were wholesome, then here he comes thinking with his dick. I don't remember the aftermath, but it wouldn't surprise me if he tried to blame her after he burnt all bridges with his family, and his family hated her (not saying it happened, but it wouldn't surprise me. Another tale as old as time, unfortunately).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 04:27 AM
149

Yeap, plenty of stories from female workers (doctors, nurses, caretakers, etc.) being sexually assaulted or verbally harassed by ailing old farts. And since some of them are decrepit AF and/or with a foot in the grave, most people just tell them these poor women to "ignore him, he's so old." Scrotes can all fuck off, I don't care if they're 17 or nearing a 100.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 10:24 PM
14

Don't forget maybe try to grow a pube-beard to hide his already nonexistent chin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 12:20 AM
7

Absolutely this. We can all talk and talk about how we wish things were, about an ideal world, etc. BUT the truth is that the reality we live in, we have to at least at a minimum level, play the game. Does it suck? Yes. Is it unfair? Yes. Would it be nice if things were fair? YES. Unfortunately, we do not live in that world. This is why I like FDS, we just don't virtue signal and spread pretty words (to the point of toxic positivity) thinking of how we'd like things to be, we acknowledge the shi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 12:16 AM
40

Translation: "I'm gonna make it your fault that I choose to not give a shit about you"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 12:10 AM
36

I think it depends on the individual. Some of them start watching porn so young, and so much of it, that their brain is basically wired in certain ways while they develop. Not sure how they can go around fixing something that happened either during development years, or so much for so long. As for their downstairs pinky finger, like lostmillenia said, some of them beat it so much that they basically deformed it. Maybe plastic surgery would help? But yeah to be honest even if they did get plastic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 10:16 PM
94

100% they would, in fact they've been doing just that until VERY recently, and only a few men are realizing that it's not healthy, most still don't give a fuck. Since porn got more and more accessible, they all tried to brainwash us into believing it's "normal" and "natural" to watch porn even with your partner. And shame on you if you don't like your man watching porn! /s So yeah, they're only looking out for themselves. Even when they realize porn is bad, they still give zero fucks about all t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 10:11 PM
5

Another fucking dumb one: "eUgEnIcSssSsSSsSs!" Like dude, you're not entitled to having a woman pass on your shitty genes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 09:06 PM
75

One thing to do at that point is to go order, pick up your order from the counter and walk away, LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 12:57 AM
104

What haven't they ruined? Hang out: a data hopefully leading to you giving me some head/sex Netflix and chill: pretty much "doordash yourself to my place for some sex" Cuddle: making out followed my sex A walk/coffee: no effort date hopefully leading to sex SOON (either on that "date" or the next) Lots of phrases/words used on the current dating scene (and hell, even outside the dating scene) from men to women, have been thoroughly ruined by men. It's really gross that us women have to fucking d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 11:59 PM
38

Nah. even if he didn't use sunscreen there's no way he's under 30, those deep lines are either late 30's or early 40's minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 08:51 PM
50

He's 28 + 15-20 years, LOL Nooooo fucking way I believe him to be less than 30. Hell, you tell me he's 35 and I still would give him 5-10 years more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 08:48 PM
41

I think it's OK because you're not enjoying out of some hidden pretense to stay sexually relevant to the youths; I'm sure a lot of us here enjoy the occasional social media but aren't trying to be like this scrote. Hell, I follow this grandma in Instagram, her recipe posts are hilarious and it's obvious she's having fun just for the sake of fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 08:47 PM
16

Nah, you're right, it's actually reaaaally bad in so many problematic ways. I think it happened to air just when one night stands and casual sex bullshit started being pushed onto women (and men), and it grabbed a lot of us kids and tweens growing up, who didn't know any better. I think the main premise itself is what grabbed people, 6 friends who stay mostly friends, with little "telenovela" drama in between them (so no love triangles or much romance between them, at least at the beginning), an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 07:32 PM
33

Only if I was 99% sure he was HVM, otherwise not a chance in hell, can just go either single or date in the meantime. None of the relationships I've seen through my life are good, with the exception of ONE. I'm almost 40, and saw several different generations, related to those people in different ways (friends, family, acquaintances, work connections, etc) and out of aaaaall that sample pool, I only realized one marriage/relationship seemed good. Also, you have to be careful with other arrangeme…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 11:36 PM
95

We're the table, the chairs, the goddamn house that holds the table and chairs, the front lawn and the car parked in the garage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 10:12 PM
69

At the bare minimum, just some fucking decency towards the female population. It's pretty shitty to hear stuff like mass shootings/stabbings where the criminal claims he did it because he hates women or women don't fawn over him. Or hearing all this fucking anti-abortion, anti-women, forced-birthers bullshit from law. Or denying childfree women sterilization procedures because "she might change her mind" even though there's already data showing that there's like 0.2 regret on women who with no k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 06:49 PM
292

The equivalent is not even the same, men are INSANELY more disgustingly GREEDY. "women get with men for money" =/= "men get with women for sex" Why? Because men 100% expect not only sex, but your emotional support, and your cooking, and your cleaning, and your caretaking. They feel entitled to a woman making them feel "like a man," to a woman deferring to them, to a woman making herself smaller and/or weaker just so he can feel superior and powerful. They feel entitled to becoming a woman's sole…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 05:12 PM
21

For me even pre-FDS this was a huge pet peeve when it came to men, or just, adults in general, really. I don't like cooking, I'm not a good cook, but even I can look up recipes and even tips on how to prevent stuff from becoming inedible or crap, or what to make with the groceries you already have at home. Hell, there are RECIPE GAMES in the Nintendo DS, that's how accessible this stuff is. (they aren't even games, they're like the current recipe apps) This is basic research and critical thinkin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 04:00 PM
9

Or it could be our kink! They can't kink-shame usssss!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 11:40 PM
45

Same here. I'm not the most social or capable, but even I remember random shit my friends and relatives say, and then I make sure to keep it in mind for favors, treats, gifts, etc. It ain't hard stuff, so it's particularly annoying when either other people don't bother doing it but expect you to do it, or expect you to praise them/think better of them for doing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 11:29 PM
22

Do they seriously expect me to drop everything I had actually planned for that day to drive an hour for coffee(!!!) with a random guy? Seriously? "LOL doordash yourself to my door, on your dime"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 05:21 PM
7

I chalk it up to either trolls (god knows we have a whole bunch) or just a wave of new people who just started their journey and can't or don't want to handle how blunt we can be here with the facts. They're usually the same people who end up posting about how "my HVM suddenly changed" or "my partner used to be HV, BUT..." or "he's a wonderful/perfect guy, EXCEPT..." or "I was willing to overlook certain things, BUT..." or "don't get me wrong, he's perfect in everything, EXCEPT..." The truth is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 03:51 PM
75

I can actually think of two similar real life situations: In China (I saw this in a documentary a long time ago, so not sure if it applies to current times) there was a village almost entirely composed of men. There were no more women except older ones (think old moms and grannies), to the point men "had to" pick up on all the tasks women did. I remember feeling disturbed at how all these men would stare at the camera, and I wouldn't be surprised if they "imported" brides (coughslavescough) from…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 10:56 PM
214

That insult only applies to places where being a woman means having almost no rights, where you can't have your own bank account, can't own property, and can't get jobs with a livable pay. Women used to be "desperate" to marry because they literally had no choice. It was either marrying any man with some money, or live as a slave, servant, prostitute or be plain homeless. That's the kind of mentality these scrotes still have. They think us women should be "desperate" to marry in "fear" or being …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 05:14 PM
3

No such thing as yellow flags. There's green flags, and there's red flags, no in between.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 05:04 PM
17

"Experience the 5 stages of grief, in rapid random succession" "It really does feel like I'm losing my significant other" JFC, what a fucking drama king! Is this the kind of male out there we have to deal with, not even in dating but in general? This sniveling, spineless, snowflake, selfish, fragile AF man-baby?? Seriously, ladies, vet the fuck out of not only your potential romantic partners, but also your male acquaintances. They're out there building fucking cloud castles with you in it, then…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:58 PM
86

Hahahaha! Holy crap, men are more fragile than a soap bubble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:42 PM
420

LOL, hiding their weak jaws with gross beards, lying about their height and/or wearing shoes that add 2-3 inches, future faking a woman just to use her as a sex doll, then dump her, gaslighting her to destroy her self-esteem so she stays/keeps being a bangmaid for him, cheating on her with all sorts of porn or just, straight up cheating on her... but yeah sure, HE feels deceived at some hair extensions and make up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 05:02 AM
86

They also fail to realize that their looks are 100% part of those "resources." If I was a woman who wanted bio children, I'd look for tall, fit, healthy in body and mind, handsome men. Women need to be fucking choosy since they're the ones carrying all the risks and lifelong changes of pregnancy and child-rearing, it's goddamn right they should choose the best genes to conceive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:51 AM
73

Add to the list: pseudo therapist AKA emotional punching bag for him to dump all his baggage in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:48 AM
16

LOL just like their ED dicks, abundant and zero value (not even low value).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:47 AM
25

Yeap, men are the ones who hit a wall at 30, never let them tell you otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:42 AM
36

It's funny how for virtually every single guy, "SHE broke his heart," instead of, oh I don't know, him being a complete LVM hoe who expected a polygamous (but only for him, not for her!) bangmaid after manipulating a woman, and she told him to fuck off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:42 AM
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She doesn't sound like she's done almost any vetting that actually matters, she mentions on another comment she was "willing to overlook other issues," AKA she was ignoring other red flags that came up WAY earlier than this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 01:43 AM
4

Add "F Boy Island" to that clown list. JFC, that show reminded me why reality TV shows are absolute garbage. They tried to make it seem like the "power" was on the women and that they would call out bad "F boys", but HOLY FUCK, it was like a fucking mini parade of pickmes entertaining LVM like fucking clowns. I seriously cannot remember that show without getting an adverse body reaction at the memory. It was disgusting to watch, and I seriously cannot recommend ANYONE who is truly on a FDS or FL…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 01:35 AM
16

Old K-drama: Jewel In The Palace. Seriously, I can't think off the top of my head about another show that not only has a strong main female character, but a healthy romance with a respectful male love interest. Even some recommendations I've seen in FDS from time to time (shows, movies, books, etc.) don't really satisfy or reflect healthy, strong characters and their relationships, without some stupid LV trope ruining it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 01:15 AM
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Innocent mistake?? Dude has been lying about his income for TWO YEARS and then tried to gaslight her like 10 times, instead of admitting to lying he kept doubling and tripling dowm. FUCK NO. She should dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 01:11 AM
4

You know EXACTLY what we'd tell you to do. Do it instead of dragging your feet. This dude ain't HV, nor The One.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 01:08 AM
43

Do report those types of posts. I know we should all support each other, but there are very good reasons we have our rules. Reading the handbook, the other materials we have available, on top of the thousands and thousands of posts, is the bare minimum. This situation has happened before several times; there's always a wave of newbies who come here thinking this sub is like the other female-oriented subs, they get salty or their feathers ruffled and start snipping, thinking they're the exception…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 12:28 AM
19

We have to also remember that this LVM is a PEDOPHILE. That last gf was only 5 years older than his own daughter, and old enough to be his daughter. This is fucking disgusting, and I genuinely fear for the safety of this poor 16yo, having to live with a pedophile creep who has no qualms on bringing home his victims. She's dangerously close to the age this pedo likes his victims, too. Hell, she mentioned that 21yo could've passed for a 16yo! She needs to GTFO asap, this is not OK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 05:07 PM
24

She'd 100% do better on her own. I bet good money that she has to do all his share of the cooking, cleaning and child-rearing, on top of having to take care of his health and listen to his bullshit (and all the other labor she provides for him). If she was a single mom, she'd have all that free time not caring for his ass, to cultivate her writing even more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 02:48 AM
88

Exactly this. It's really telling that the "something had to go" was very specifically the ONE thing she enjoyed: her passion, and I'm sure if we asked her, her main career. It was specifically HER sacrifice. I guess "nothing had to go" on his end, huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 02:45 AM
15

Add to that, they not only want that tbsp of cinnamon, they want the woman to buy it, store it properly, then prepare the spoon whenever he demands it, and if he can forcefully and painfully snatch the spoon out of her hands, the better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 02:16 AM
112

UGH, our baby's education is secure, how dare she! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 02:03 AM
6

To me on top of all of that, whenever guys react that way, I can only imagine a spoiled toddler pouting, glaring at you and about to throw a tantrum for not bending at his every child-like whim. It's one of my HUGE pet peeves, to see these fucking grown-ass men act like spoiled brats, they have ZERO sexual appeal, and I have ZERO respect for them as fellow adults. Fucking society is built for their advantage AND our (women) disadvantage, and they still have the audacity to whine and cry about a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 11:21 PM
3

Thank you, was about to fucking write something like this. The fuck is yellow and orange flags? They're ALL red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 11:09 PM
43

Right, the first thing that came to my mind after I read that BS is "and everyone in the restaurant clapped."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 11:06 PM
12

Ah yes, another LVM living in a box, with only a mattress, a TV and a videogame console. Then comes a woman to actually make the place warm and homely, on her dime and time, and he tries to rob her of all the effort when he no longer wants her around. Ladies, never EVER spend your money to upgrade HIS place (hell, let's say you move together, it's still his responsibility to provide all those things). He better know how to keep his place well decorated and homely himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 11:03 PM
51

I know plus size women really shouldn't be dating instead If you had really read the handbook, you wouldn't have said this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:54 PM
1

100% I bet good money that if in theory they "scored" and a woman agreed to be their partner and/or co-habitate with them, they'd go back to being their disgusting slob selves and expect her to clean up after them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 08:29 PM
26

I swear I'm gonna lose my shit if Keanu ends up being LV. Literally can't think of any other man in media who seems to genuinely be a good, decent man, without bullshit under his belt like open marriages, pedophilia (or EpHeBoPhILiA, for the pedants), sexual harassment and/or rape towards women, racism, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 05:53 PM
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Not at all. This is another common tactic of LVM. It wouldn't surprise me if he was testing her by expecting her to say some pickme, "cool girl" stuff like "oh I don't need to go for steak, a coffee/cheaper place is totally fine!" then he'd be on the clear because it's the woman who proposed a cheaper place, not him, Mr. Steakhouse. I've seen countless women, and me included, go the "humble" route in order to not seem greedy or because we're worried about "owing" (AKA owe him sexual acts of any …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 05:43 PM
101

I'm personally not a fan of being late, myself or others, date or any other occasion. He should be there on time, so if he's not there at the agreed time, then that's a red flag. No reason to be late on purpose or make your own life harder with mind games when he should be there on time anyways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 05:36 PM
21

Yes, it's really fucking sad that this post has so many women praising him. Just because he says a few right things, doesn't men he actually understands the actual position women are in, our issues, our reality, anything. The bar is in hell, so whenever we hear a man say ONE thing in favor of women, we immediately praise him, WTF. I really urge women here who like him to actually take their feelings out of the equation and see him for what he really is. He's definitely not on our side, nor has w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:26 PM
25

I love how "elevated sense of self" is their shitty, passive aggressive way of saying "these arrogant feeeemales believe they're above their station." They know their shitty feelings towards women are, well, shitty. If they truly thought they were right, they'd say it outright.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:18 PM
11

I can't really agree with him having a good grasp on modern relationships 100%, he still claimed some statements that are nowhere near beneficial for women, let alone the modern one, and I really doubt all of it was just him catering to the lower LVM. I do wonder what he actually believes out of those statement and what was him just being high as balls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:16 PM
23

He always kind of was? I remember reading his book when he first started getting mainstream popularity, dude said some really questionable things in his book, and I understood why I was so put off by him and why LVM liked him so much. He still pushes for a for of sexism and patriarchy. I remember he said that it'd be good to have women be "distributed" among men, because men had "violence" inside of them that manifested in certain ways like mass shootings and stabbings, due to their "frustration…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:02 PM
36

Ah, I wondered. I remember reading his book that got him popular way back then, and while some stuff sounded kind of alright, some of it was outright sexist. There's a reason why despite this kind of responses, he still attracts all the LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 03:16 AM
15

Yeap, and tt's telling that you have to add a "not all men" sentence at the beginning of your second paragraph, because we women have been shamed and verbally/physically abused for "generalizing" men, so now that's pretty much our de facto reaction to any negative statement we make about men. Funny how men who say all sorts of bullshit generalizing women, NEVER EVER preface any of those statements with a "not all women, tho!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 06:09 PM
108

And they sure love to drag a woman about "in sickness and in health, you feeeeemale!" or "these hoes ain't loyal!" when she even dares utter a word of complaint about how her LVM/abusive partner used and abused her, she's had enough, and either left him or is planning an escape plan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 05:59 PM
143

Yeah, giving up porn is the bare minimum. I'm not gonna praise and give them gold stars for choosing to not have ED and support the sexual slavery, kidnapping and rape of little girls and women. Fucking bar is so low not even the Devil can limbo under it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 02:38 AM
6

Watch out for people wanting to be "friends," too. Happened to me a few times (not many, thankfully) and it was so obvious they were trying to trauma-bond me, and then use that excuse to take advantage of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 12:12 AM
21

Miscommunication my ass, that creep was hoping to "score" in some way, like going through your belongings, or like the scrote from the post's story, find some feminine underwear or clothes. Even the chance of a woman being alone would've been something for him to bet a chance at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 09:03 PM
79

Yep, just another proof that just existing as a woman is more expensive than for men. It's not just make up, clothing and hair as most people vapidly think of, it's literally having to get big dogs, cameras, weapons, self-defense classes, security services, maybe have to choose more expensive, yet seemingly safer, locations to live in...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 08:56 PM
61

Ladies, also remember that the current "traditional" family setting is ALL based on patriarchy bullshit: The woman "belongs" to the man by changing her last name to his (and in some places, literally moving in with his parents, too, so she's a servant to them too), the children have his last name, he wants a son because only a son can carry his "legacy" (which is fucking laughable, as if these scrotes have anything worthy of passing on) so they MUST have at least one son, and he's "The" man of t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 06:53 AM
42

Exactly this. We're not here to solve or discuss the issues of stigmatization related to mental health, we're here to learn to level up our dating strategies and keep our vetting and boundaries high when it comes to men. This includes having to accept the current reality of the world, which includes 1) yes, mental health is still stigmatized 2) it's a highly private topic, just as the rest of your personal medical history 3) men WILL use the word therapy AND therapy words and techniques to manip…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 10:15 PM
283

Nah, no more of this "men can't think" bullshit. Men know exactly what they're doing. They're just saying and doing all the right things so they can pump and dump. This is why it's so important to hold off sex for an extended period of time. If that's mainly was he was after, he will get impatient and show his LV pretty fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 09:48 PM
6

Yeah, all those "therapists" enabling it ticked me off too. As a mental health professional, people will take their word at a higher value, so they have to be extra careful of what they say. Not to mention... they're in FDS, they should be leveling up themselves, and not just give men the benefit of the doubt or think we live in a perfect world where women and men operate the same. Too much pickme energy in their responses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 09:41 PM
5

Yeah, the comments that post garnered frustrated me, to say the least. It just shows that we have a lot of fellow sisters here who need to work on themselves some more before they're ready to date again. Men use the word "therapy" to get pity, test boundaries, lower a woman's defenses, and lay the foundation of manipulation and abuse. By telling a woman early on that "he's getting therapy," they can always either throw it back on her face when there's an argument, thus using her empathy against …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 09:08 PM
7

This IS a red flag, 100%, no ifs or buts about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 07:15 PM
15

....Once again, you should have had a thousand previous red flags before you even get to the sex part. Given your questioning and stance, I recommend re-reading the handbook and putting work on leveling up before you attempt dating for a while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 05:20 AM
20

That's why you have to ruthlessly vet before you are anywhere near the stage of taking off your clothes in front of him. ED men, are often pornsick, and have a thousand red flags way before you get to the sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 05:07 AM
165

Exactly this; men do NOT give women the benefit of the doubt, and on top of that, they can generalize about women and barely anyone bats an eye. "Women are golddiggers, hoes, mean, cold. etc." But if you say ANYTHING about men, like how they're waaaaay too OK with rape and humiliating women, suddenly they cry "nOt aLL MeN!!!" Men do not need nor deserve any coddling. If they don't want to be seen as abusers and/or rapists, they should be out there policing fellow men, and not put themselves in s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:36 PM
13

Of course, when it comes to a man being violated, things get illegal and not accepted reaaaal quickly. Meanwhile, rape to women might be illegal on paper in many countries, men get away with it, and the general social atmosphere is "well what was she doing/wearing/saying to him? Why was she there?" AKA blaming the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 03:46 PM
216

LOL exactly this. Korean men might "look" nicer, since they push skincare and fashion there quite a bit for men too, but it doesn't mean the culture is not patriarchal or sexist AF. There's a lot of overlap with LVM of other places, but they have their own ways of being LV too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 08:35 PM
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Include to the list: trash family (if they get married). you are essentially a servant to both your husband AND his parents, on top of having to take care of the kids and/or work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 08:25 PM
14

Block and delete.
/r/askFDS16/11/21 01:20 AM
145

Not at all. This is becoming a problem with other ramifications. For example, Japan has had an issue with younger generations marrying less and thus having less children. I follow Japanese news occasionally, and there's definitely an uptick of men attacking others (particularly women). Think mass shooting in the US, but with knives, body fluids, and other weapons. Men who overconsume porn and/or lots of inc3l bullshit, basically are attacking more and more women for the fact women exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 06:59 PM
7

They have to learn to be better people if they want to keep a women around So far, they're failing miserably, LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 04:21 AM
22

"How dare this child young enough to be my own, whom I'd totally flirt with if I could get away with it, even attempt to lightly poke my fragile male ego??!?" That's all I hear, them going ballistic over their fragile male ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 03:15 AM
36

Yeap. Total disregard for other cars, for the passengers inside his car, and even using the car as an abusive tool (reckless driving when he's angry at you/you're angry at him to make you scared, telling you he'll crash the car and kill both of you, etc.). If I get a close call, I personally started calming myself down right away, regardless of who was at fault (and sometimes nobody is). I don't say anything, I don't make any sounds, yell, make faces, flip anyone, etc. I just take deep breaths, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 01:52 AM
23

Men all around the world are deeply fucking terrified of being alone, and of course it's all projection. $100 says this dude is not only terrified, he doesn't enjoy his own company, is unhappy, and NEEDS a woman to unload all his baggage on. Literally the only way he can be "happy and fulfilled."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 01:51 AM
61

It just shows how fucking pervasive mysoginy and men abusing women for millennia has been. They gaslight us, diminish us, abuse us, kill us, rape us, belittle us, ignore us, use us. From the moment of conception and even beyond the grave (men with necrophilia, anyone? UGH), men have been monsters towards women. When you live your life with all that shit, it's really hard to take those goggles off, and trust me, we have like thousands on from all the ways men's society has bullshitted us. And for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 01:32 AM
9

Long version: Men, especially from patriarchal societies or societies with deeply entrenched patriarchal values, which is like, most of the world, are 99.9% trash. Like others said, you have to be aware of different kinds of vetting, according to their background. And remember that a lot of LV behavior among men from all cultures overlaps anyways. This is how you get psychos in Africa invading all women tribes, in Japan stabbing people in public spaces, in the US committing mass shootings, etc. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 06:23 AM
85

You won't lose value once you hit 30, that's internal mysoginy. Misogynists TELL you (aka gaslight you) that we women only have value until we're about 30, 35 tops, because it serves their abusive ways. It puts anxiety in you because they also tell you that you have to both find a man (otherwise you'll "die alone") and be a mother, otherwise you're not a real woman or your life has no meaning, etc. Then you compare yourself to the other younger fellow women, feeling antagonistic because they hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 03:13 AM
123

Not controversial at all, men use the word "therapy" like they're checking off an item of a list, so women can "shut up" and date him already. Not to mention, even if they legit went to therapy, they'd choose a male one that would just reinforce their biases (the whole bros BS), all the while thinking "yeah I'm getting therapy, that means I'm good now" when they're actually not self-reflecting at all where it really matters. Lundy talks about men who go to therapy or rehabilitation and weaponize…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 12:08 AM
6

Gray rock, ignore or cut off contact. Seriously, this shit is fucking exhausting. My current friend group (which is far away at the moment, as I moved) has 2 people; their messages are almost always like this type of shit, spamming the group chat with their thoughts and worries, and I just feel like we're their emotional dumpsters. It doesn't help that the rest entertain this bullshit, instead of putting a foot down at one point. I turned off the group chat messages, I suspect I'm getting the co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 07:51 PM
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For point 1, there's a combo of reasons I've gathered. First, they deem it as "feminine" therefore weak. They can admit they have troubles, etc. but would almost never want to admit something in them as being "feminine." Second, they've been unloading their emotional baggage and abuse on women for millennia, saw their older male relatives do this to all the women in their lives, and expect the same. For them, unloading on a woman is their way of "relieving" themselves of their mental issues (PS …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 07:36 PM
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Gossiping behind her back, something men have mocked women since time immemorial of doing... and once again, it's all projection. And that dude's issue is certainly not his height, I can say that much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 03:25 AM
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The manager's final attitude is INCREDIBLY troubling too. Basically he's just gonna keep that dude around because "he's just a dumbass kid," yeah fuck no. This MAN is engaged and impregnated a partner. This MAN violated the privacy of that establishment's customers, is a stalker, a cheater, a misogynist, unprofessional, AKA a dangerous predator. This isn't something that can be just swept under the rug with an "apologies, miss." This dude is an insane liability to that place. I hope everyone in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 10:26 PM
89

Yeah, this seems to happen in waves, whenever we get an influx of newbies who either barely read the handbook, did NOT read the handbook (report these, everyone), and/or are still pickmes in many ways and insist on dating instead of first focusing on improving their relationship with themselves. Sorry not sorry, but tons of newbies are NOT ready to start dating any time soon after finding FDS. It takes time to unlearn all the pick stuff, how to recognize red flags AND accept them as red flags, a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 08:06 PM
4

For future reference to everyone, just cut off contact as soon as you get whatever confirmation you wanted, for ex. would've been better to cut it off after he sent the message in the first screenshot. Why waste any more mental energy on this LVM? He made it 100% clear where he, his friends, and you, stand in that single text.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 10:53 PM
46

I agree, but point wasn't to deny ANY female sexuality, nor that we should all turtleneck or nun our way into life. There's going to be SOME overlapping between healthy female sexuality and the male gaze, of course, that's just the way it's going to be, but as you say "twerking our way to the other end of the spectrum" is decidedly not right either, nor something I enjoy seeing in supposedly "empowered" women who claim in some way to "break" the mold. Like it or not, we have to decide what's the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 07:44 PM
80

This is a big reason why I don't listen to many "popular" or mainstream musicians. I see their overall performance, in videos, concerts, etc., and a lot of them are overtly sexualized in a way that is frankly, uncomfortable. Female musicians with sexualized clothing, dances and actions. Male musicians surrounded by semi-naked women or enacting LV actions. Even when the songs have good melodies or even ok messages, when I see the music video, or they also promote LV messages in other songs, the o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 07:19 PM
188

"I've slapped Tina" "I've punched her to the ground" "i NeVeR bEaT HeR" What a disgusting waste of energy and space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 02:10 AM
64

Exactly this. Sure there's an issue with mental illness among the homeless, but I'd like to know how many men get this kind of harassment from homeless men, compared to women. I'm confident that it's not even an issue for enough men to come up in discussion, not in any way as it is for women. Mental illnesses doesn't equate to absolute lack of control for one's actions. Many of these homeless men know what they're doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 02:32 AM
158

I wish Uber had the option to show whether their driver is male or female, so we could choose accordingly. I rather choose a female Uber driver even if I have to wait longer and would even tip her more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 12:13 AM
95

Men don't care, they want to use, abuse, and punish women. If a woman dies from a wrong needle attack, 100% a big chunk of men would say "must've done something to deserve it."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 03:44 AM
18

They absolutely know what they're doing, and lots of policemen are just as LV and will take the side of the man anyways. It seems we have to get bodycams ourselves at this point, WTF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 03:25 AM
23

100% I believe they're trying to trick the data of how many women get "arrested" for any kind of violence. By ballooning the numbers, later on politicians and other morons can get away with proposing all sorts of laws against women because "the percentage of women being the ones causing it" is higher. Men loooove to say shit like "women cause more DV to men than the other way round!" and other bullshit like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 03:24 AM
35

There's SO many men like this, it's essentially a "I wish women were 2nd class citizens again and it was OK to be racist so I can abuse and rape them all, but it's illegal now so I can't get away with it" wishful thinking, and it's so fucking disgusting. Most men are just itching for a reason, ANY reason, to be violent against those they deem below them. Equality for women? Oh that means you're OK with me punching you in the face, right?? Say no to me or aren't giving me your time/attention/ener…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 04:07 PM
8

Please do not reply to users suspected to be male or posting out of bad faith, just report them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 03:49 PM
198

This is why FDS insists not only vetting, but vetting consistently through a significant amount of time. The mask falls off, eventually. Vet the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th, date and beyond. The vetting process DOES NOT STOP. There's no "magic" amount of dates/days/months/years that can "assure" you that he's not LV. And remember, there's HORDES of men stalking this sub looking for inside info to evolve their manipulation and abusive tactics. We have to be 5 steps ahead of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 03:38 AM
71

Yeah, there are certain games and videogame genres that I basically stay the fuck away from because of all the disgusting mysoginy and sexualization, and just like you said, it's just getting worse. I hope that the obsessed LVM just prefer their digital game/anime/comic book characters and stay stuck inside their rooms, leaving the rest of us alone and in peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 03:29 AM
186

Add to that money, these LVM absolutely take financial advantage of their girlfriends by splitting rent (or worse, making her pay more than him), splitting groceries, making HER cook, so he gets homecooked meals at NO cost, splitting bills, make her do his laundry and cleaning, so he spends less/no time in his side of the chores, but she has to spend more time and energy doing them... that's all a financial cost that LVMs take advantage of while they are "at their lowest." Literal parasites who …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 02:52 AM
171

WTF, he should just get a blow up doll, since that's all women seem to be to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 06:57 PM
3

On the other spectrum, you've got the guys choosing to be so consumed by X or Y hobbies, that they know all sorts of really obscure trivia which they try to use to condescend you... and all I can think about is how they're wasting their time and mental space with all that useless crap. Not really surprising if they also end up having shit skills around the household, cooking, fashion, social, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 11:37 PM
5

Proof: All the men who have stalked, harassed, murdered, or all three, their exes.. And we all know they're in the THOUSANDS, and not even counting the ones who weren't/aren't being convicted and brought to justice. All about jealousy and feeling entitled to own women, because the women left when the men proved themselves to be disgusting, abusive creatures, unwilling to either improve or at least atone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 11:32 PM
57

Yeap, he can try all he wants, she looks amazing still.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 10:45 PM
62

Because when a baby daughter is born, what we all love to think about is 20yo males looking at her and thinking "ohhh yeah, I'm gonna have sex with that baby soon enough!" BARRRRRRRRRFFFFFFFF! And 100% that reply on the last screenshot was written by another dude pretending to be a woman. The levels of cringe and disgust are off the charts with these LV pedos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 02:46 AM
1

Thank you for sharing the info! I'd be totally down to paying for a round of sessions to get rid of some unwanted hairs and not have to deal with them almost ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 11:11 PM
1

How much was it to laser those areas and was it permanent? Or how many sessions did you do? I don't mind keeping some, but I do mind the stray hairs that go "out of area" and would like to at least take care of those, but like you mentioned, the ingrowns were a pain to deal with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 09:08 PM
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I 100% believe it's not about them "not knowing" or "being incapable" deep down, it's about not wanting to be arsed to do "menial women's work" that is beneath them. Legit if they're used to a woman doing something, AKA cooking, cleaning, organizing, they claim they don't know how to do it... but they're fucking full grown adults, and there's an INFINITE AMOUNT of tutorials in Youtube, Instagram, Facebook... If you don't know something, fucking find out and learn how to do it?? I don't buy the "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 02:51 PM
23

Yeah, aren't there entire sub-reddits already of men uploading women's photos to find out and/or share their personal info? And they aren't being taken down at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 01:32 AM
3

Also add to that: very shitty sleeping schedule, refusal to wear SPF, or have any sort of skincare routine besides washing (and like you said, with just cheap soap). It all starts compounding, they treat their body like shit. I have an acquaintance who moved to another city to be with her boyfriend, and dude has some SHITTY sleeping habits, and he outright refuses to go to the doctor (we all suspect from what she told us, that it's sleep apnea at least) because "he doesn't like them, since they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 01:08 AM
1

Try "The Duchess 50 Tea Recipes"! Like the title says, it's a lot about tea, but I'd say the relationship between the duchess and duke comes second. I found it really refreshing since it didn't resort to shitty romance tropes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 01:02 AM
2

What's worse, is that a lot of them do it to mask their lack of hygienic routine, as if we're stupid and just notice their smell. Like dudes, we KNOW that your hygiene is shit, we have eyes: it's not just your smell, but your hair, skin, eyes, fingernails, clothes, shoes...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 12:53 AM
31

I can attest to that, I always like the idea of love, caring, deep intimacy, like cuddling, caring for each other, making love, etc. but I never felt I was safe or trusted any man enough to do the "whole experience." I just know most of them are going for the sex itself, and have yet to find an exception to the rule. Maybe that's why I have a low libido? I'm a virgin, and I can give myself orgasms whenever I want, but it's not a need, like I'm not gonna get cranky for not having an orgasm weekly…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 02:49 AM
14

The thing is, it's not really a "safe contained" experience, that's just your illusion. It's alright if you're in an actual safe space, like at home, with other family members or friends at a relatively not busy place, etc. but otherwise I also highly recommend you do not have your volume so loud. I don't know how hard outside stimuli affects you, but it's better, as a woman, to train yourself to at least be prepared and used to a certain amount of stimuli. No loud music will save you if someone…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 07:02 PM
188

right? Near death experience = it was him noticing his receding hairline and developing beer gut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 01:38 AM
23

So.... she paid for 6 months worth (and I bet far more) of expenses, groceries, rent, gas, emotional support, therapy, got him his job (maybe even current job)... but he's got this really snotty and dismissive tone in his whole writing. He tries to diminish all her help and support, and even at the end tries to end it with how he "had a business degree and it was an entry level position," like it wasn't a big deal anyways. The amount she spent on him, in terms of labor and effort, is FAR more wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 01:32 AM
79

It wasn't a hint if it was an outright request, and it was more he DECIDED to ignore it and disrespect you and nothing to do with him not "getting it." He was a scumbag and you're better off now without him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 11:46 PM
17

I'm 5'4 and never had an issue with it, as long as the dude was at least 1in taller than me, which anyone can tell means height is almost a non-issue... then I started witnessing how 99.9% of dudes that consider themselves short or ARE short, have HUGE Napoleon complexes and with very little exception, they take it out on women. Thanks to MEN, now I won't look the way of any dude that I suspect might have Napoleon complex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 10:52 PM
4

Sigh.... see you in a few months or years with your regret story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 03:31 PM
70

Still be on guard, I've seen first hand plenty of straight dudes just go to gay clubs to pick up women, they've known for years that some women visit gay clubs because they feel safer. (I used to also feel safer going to gay clubs, not anymore)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 03:03 PM
63

So... you WILL marry this LVM?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 09:21 PM
271

He got angry AT YOU, and then defended the dude who disrespected and lied to his own wife? You SURE you want to marry this LVM? There's still time to call it off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 08:52 PM
20

You know someone leads a sad life when they go through the extra effort to harass a person on a different sub since they can't comment in here, LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 06:46 PM
76

"not always" More like, "most of the time" from all the freaking stories popping out in so many subs that are not this one. You know the ones, there's so fucking many, it's disturbing. Men will marry whoever is most convenient, who not only puts up with their negligent, low effort bullshit, but will also do everything to compensate for that lack: cleaning, cooking, socializing, buying the groceries, clothing, perform in bed... I'm also witness to this so much, there's only one example I could sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 08:26 PM
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The amount of stories about men trying to force IUDs out of women, or that simply "slip out" the condom at least minute, is so fucking high men's stories of baby trapping women is a lot more, yet men are the ones whining about women baby trapping men. It's fucking disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 08:20 PM
90

Right? Dudes, if you're not decided by the time you're 30, then you have no business having kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 07:23 PM
20

Or, or, just hear me out, just THROW THE WHOLE MAN OUT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 06:17 PM
36

My favorite response so far, LOL, and so true. If he's so damn willing and happy to drop 4-5k on a PC, then as his most important person, he should be willing and happy to drop 4-5 times more to spend on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 05:38 PM
16

Exactly this. I personally don't care about rings/jewelry, but I'm not gonna pretend like it's not a generally accepted proof to everyone, that the man values you, so yeah if I ever get a ring, I damn well expect something good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 03:33 PM
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This is such a rampant and common thing men do, that it just proves that their whole "I can't cook/clean/do chores" is all fake bullshit to manipulate women into being their bangmaids. If he can figure out 1000 and one ways to reach out to an ex from years ago = if he wanted to, he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 03:09 PM
48

I'm all for less chances for short men to reproduce. It really wouldn't be a problem if MEN didn't make it such a fucking problem, but hey, since they have such a chip on their shoulder about their height, women who want children owe it to their future baby boys to not have such short fathers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 02:46 PM
229

Remember this: You don't "attract a certain type of men," the truth is that LVM (and other types of shitty people) will just go and shoot their shot at ANYONE and hope someone falls into their trap. It's absolutely the fact that we're SURROUNDED by insanely huge hordes of LVM. It's NOT you, it's THEM. Think 99.9% of men out there are low value. Depressing? Yes. The truth? Also yes. Do exceptions exist? Yes, HVM exist, but always remember that meeting a LVM is not due to you, but entirely due to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 03:55 AM
28

Not having a social life after you impose your boundaries and start seeing things through the FDS lense, is expected, and you should accept that yeah, you'll lack a bit of social life for a while. A few months back I had someone I was meeting for lunch who wasn't answering, 30+mins later then came. I deliberately waited just to tell them it was highly disrespectful of my time, and I was gonna go now. She said something about needing to help her mom with paperwork because they were low income so …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 08:38 PM
69

Yeap, just off the top of my head: Men who hold a grudge over exes spanning YEARS (even decades), some even holding onto their nudes, and bitching at future dates about that one ex who was a "total crazy b+tch" Depressingly common: men who hold onto a grudge over exes that turn into stalking, forcing the woman (and even their kids) to uproot their entire lives because he destroyed her social circles, harassed her at work, etc. Many end up MURDERING the poor women! Men like the one of this post, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 07:35 PM
196

LOL FB doesn't remove pedophiliac related content, doesn't surprise me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 04:07 PM
162

Yeppp. If they didn't want a pregnancy to happen ("bAbYtRaPpInG"), they should just keep their peepees in their pants, the hoes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 08:05 PM
30

Same, maybe if I had more time and a better salary I'd give more of a rat's ass, but as it is, I make food that is fast and palatable enough for myself. A man won't get even half that effort, he better know and enjoy how to cook far better than me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 02:48 PM
51

Also, he cooks and cleans OCCASIONALLY. Like these fuckers expect us to give them gold stars and fuss over them for doing the bare minimum. If I wanted to coddle a 5yo, I'd just have a baby, FFS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 02:44 PM
9

Same, he doesn't have to compete with any other man, he has to compete with ME. After a whole-ass childhood and young-adult years of society and people around me brainwashing me, gaslighting me, telling me I have to "prove" myself to men, bad female stereotypes, the myth of having a "biological ticking clock," I finally started un-doing all that fucking abuse (yes, it's abuse to subject little girls, young women and women to that shit) and bullshit, and treating myself right. He has to show that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 05:54 PM
92

I'm sure I speak for a good chunk of women when I say we're not interested in dating men with chihuahua attitudes who wouldn't be able to protect us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 03:16 PM
38

LOL, they call women "girls" when they want to condescend and diminish our words and presence, but they call little female children "underage WOMEN" when they want to get away with being pedos wanting to fuck them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 03:09 PM
84

You'd think the "LoGiCaL" sex would be able to figure out how to cook some simple meals and make a meal plan for the week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 02:49 PM
84

HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA! As a Korean woman, I can tell you that NO Korean woman of ANY age, even a raging pickme one, would even DEIGN to consider this moronic proposal from a dusty, old, nearing-grandpa-age scrote. Also, start a family at 50?? The fuck, no woman should want that defective, old sperm anywhere near her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 05:17 AM
22

Add to that: MeN aRe ThE oNeS WhO iNvEnTeD EvErYtHiNg!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 11:02 PM
75

Chore date? CHORE DATE?? The fuck, can we just, put all LV and irredeemable pickmes in a spaceship towards Mars??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 03:35 PM
160

I fucking hate it when scrotes think they can be absolved or whatever stupid or fucked up shit that comes out of their mouth just because they hastily try to take it back with a "it's just a joke." NO. It wasn't a joke in your mind, it wasn't a joke coming out of your dumb mouth, and it sure isn't a joke when the people around you interpret it EXACTLY HOW YOU THOUGHT OF IT. Stop trying to gaslight us and tell us how we're supposed to feel about the dumb shit you said just because you realized we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:58 AM
46

JHC, someone bring 10 fire extinguishers to help with that BURN! XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 02:26 AM
316

He also still makes is subtly sound like she was the unreasonable one. Like yeah, he comes to the conclusion of "your partner cares, asks you to care, so you should care" but the way he words it is kinda condescending. "She caaaared about some stuff by the sink, ugh, but yeah if she cares I should care too." Dude kinda comes to the right conclusion, but his trail of thought is still not quite correct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 01:03 AM
20

Nothing has changed. You're being a RAGING pickme. Cessacolypse is right, go to read the handbook and distance yourself.
/r/askFDS20/09/21 06:19 PM
64

No. No friends. No nothing. No. No. NO. You're 100% blinded by the fantasies and crush you've cultivated about him. You're essentially not impartial at all and cannot see anything you don't want to see. You already said TWICE "I know it's against FDS..." then what do you expect us to say? Cut this off. Distance yourself. You're not thinking straight.
/r/askFDS20/09/21 05:09 PM
11

Yeap, I agree 100%. They just had the potential (I'm talking when they were still really, really young, most of them are a lost cause by the time they reach puberty), they weren't actually HV, or like you say, HV enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 04:41 PM
45

This is one of the reasons why so many men with the potential to become HV end up just being mediocre or even LVM, there's a lot of threatening from too many LVMs that they end up cracking under the pressure, or they just end up brainwashed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 02:43 PM
280

BIG DEALBREAKER for myself, as a CF woman is this: If you claim to be a CF man, you better have gotten a vasectomy. No vasectomy? Not childfree in my book. Yeah yeah, his body his choice, WHATEVER. A true childfree man would take responsibility for his own fertility and permanent birth control, and the easiest, fastest way to ensure it, for CHILDFREE MEN, is by getting a vasectomy. Let's not forget that vasectomies are INFINITELY EASIER to get than bisalps, or even clips. Women have to go throug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 07:33 PM
8

GOOD. I hope he/she likes being picked, cuz that clown ain't any of us queens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 07:26 PM
77

"do not break down and commit murder" Projection much? This dude has probably thought about murdering and/or hurting women on a hate spree more times than anything else in his life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 11:14 PM
407

LVM looking for a bangmaid: "dO YoU CoOk??" Translation: "Are you gonna make me 3 meals a day for the next 20-40 years?" Seriously, I rather work minimum wage for 2hrs than getting a "free meal" from a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 03:27 PM
3

I wasn't talking about casual. Casual sex is also not good FDS advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 02:32 PM
66

You can join FemaleLevelUpStrategy for focus on female level up. I understand where you're coming from, but many of those posts are about awareness, because we live in a world surrounded by men, patriarchy and misogyny everyone, men getting away with rape, murder, abuse and pedophilia... The sad truth is that many of those posts make us aware of how insane and psychotic men can be, and that there are NO limits to how far they're willing to go to abuse and hurt a woman, sexual relationship or not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 05:51 PM
21

Because for the vast majority, it's just not good advice. It puts waaaay too much trust on a guy that you don't know is at the very minimum, decent or mindful enough to actually not just cum INSIDE you at the moment. You're betting that "he should put it above a few extra seconds of pleasure" and there's way too many guys out there who simply will NOT put it above his pleasure. LVM out there will absolutely put those extra second of pleasure as their priority over yours. It's just not good FDS a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 04:21 PM
4

Yeah, I've had trips where people would get mad at each other, mad at me (one time I didn't even know why, wtf), or they would whine about getting tired, whine about not liking X or Y, or just be in a bad mood and instead of staying in the hotel or doing their own thing, they'd just spread their negative energy to the rest of the group. I still remember a couple of friends went to Japan, and they told me afterwards they got mad at each other because one has a more chill pace, one is more in a hu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 02:41 PM
78

Why do I get the suspicion all the women at the "top" of that company are raging pickmes being controlled by their LVM partners...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 10:06 PM
23

Definitely take myself to the movies! I'm planning on driving further out and visit museums, aquariums, parks, etc. for more solo trips. I love being able to do whatever I want, I can change plans on a whim, not worry about other people's moods or dislikes, and treating myself to anything I want. I know most people enjoy trips and travels with others, and I do agree it has its own appeal and I enjoy them too, but there's something really liberating when you look at new places with your own two e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 06:34 PM
35

You didn't cause shit, nor you were unreasonable. Seriously, 8 fucking years? THAT was his best "example" to show you that he wants to "take it slow?" The fuck?? That's pretty much a decade of just "let's see where this goes, mkay??" and the only thing that tells us is that he's wishy washy, you are not his first choice, and wanted to con you for as long as possible as a "backup" without having to "commit" to you. You can be sure that this type of man would've jumped ship if he found someone "ho…
/r/askFDS14/09/21 01:29 AM
9

Exactly fucking this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 11:09 PM
202

OMFG don't get me started with that one excuse, makes me want to stab my ears with a fork, LOL! "Yeah this character looks like a 10yo, acts like a 10yo, dresses like an 10yo, but she's actually 19, she's legit, guys!" /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 11:00 PM
14

Like others mentioned, ignore and just keep the bare minimum of politeness and interactions when around others. Look up for "gray rock technique," basically you are a gray rock. No reaction from you, no engagement, you're like a robot with no attention or feelings regarding him. Avoid all situations where you're in a place alone with him, always. Make sure to have 2-3 more people around, so you can deflect and focus your attention and conversation to someone else. If you excuse yourself, and he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 09:32 PM
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Oh but if the woman says "ok then" and goes and gets another man, particularly if he's more attractive than the LV poly-husband, you can bet all your money the husband will whine and bitch about how "unfair" or "selfish" she is. I still remember that one story I read a long time ago, about a couple, where the husband wanted to try poly/swinging (is that the term? when two couple "exchange" partners), who ended up hilariously salty because the couple HE chose (the woman was hot and definitely his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 07:36 PM
14

I've been here for more than a year now, and all I can say is that some of those newbies end up posting how their seemingly HV man they made a post about, ended up being LV. Can't imagine about all the newbies who actually boast, yet don't realize their man isn't HV at all, and either stay in denial or never come back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 06:05 PM
34

He can be well off and still be a hobosexual. Plenty of anecdotes here and in the most popular relationship subs, describing men who make 6 figure salaries, but still demand the forever GF pay half his mortgage, clean and cook in his house, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 03:32 PM
78

Yeah, if he had taken care of himself, instead of indulging in everything, including being a pedo, then he would've looked far better. Men all over the world, that are born with attractive features and actually have life in an easier mode than a lot of others around them, yet they let it get to their heads and let themselves go. What a waste.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 02:57 PM
26

Seriously even doing extra work hours doing doordash or Lyft sounds like a better and easier way to get those "$20" worth of the meal a man would reluctantly spend on a woman. I rather kick back in my comfy home clothes, watch a movie, or spend the extra time learning something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 10:26 PM
53

I'm so tempted to buy a measuring tape, keep the receipt, keep both in my bag, then back up a sister if I hear some scrote say that her measuring tape is wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:11 PM
5

"You female not understand numbers, me alpha male tell you your number, hurr durr!" That's how they sound to me when men try to gaslight women about their own height. Like dudes, women can use a measuring tape too, and they don't have the complexes about height you do, FFS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:35 PM
2

Add eastmeetseast to that list of dumpster fires. I had so many men DMing me all sorts of bullshit, and the few who actually managed to go through a few texts, immediately wanted to exchange phone numbers. Like fuuuuuuuck, this was pre-FDS, and even then I was like "like hell I'm giving my phone number to a total stranger." I had to email that website to take my profile down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:33 PM
0

I will have to disagree, as I play a varied range of videogames and I gain a lot from the activity. Many games, AAA and indie alike, have incredibly wonderful stories that shake your worldview or are just beautiful and stay with you for decades. There are games made specifically to teach skills, such as tutorials (or they are just presented as regular games) related to medicine, budgeting, empathy, flying, scheduling, etc. There are games specifically made to encourage you to exercise. And as I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:11 PM
8

Just like with anything else, yes there are some people who will fall into addiction. And yes, if "videogames" themselves were such an issue, then shouldn't there be an equal amount of women who play videogames who have the same sexual and addicting issues as male gamers? The very fact it is much rare to find an addicted female gamer who neglects everything else and makes hobby their only hobby and a major part of their identity is very telling on how men choose to not self-regulate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 05:41 PM
24

Depends. Videogames is a HUGE genre of entertainment. Would you say "how do you feel about movies?" or "how do you feel about books?" It's just a genre, it doesn't encompass everything, and not all games are bad. Just like all movies aren't bad, or all books are good. And those other two I mentioned could just as theoretically be argued are "escapism from the real world," which by the way there's nothing wrong about, in and of itself. Plenty of us women here play videogames, hell, some of us wou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 04:52 PM
69

I'm introverted, antisocial, can go weeks with barely any human interaction, and even I make an effort to get out of my shell to socialize when needed/wanted. I consider it the bare minimum, and if I guy doesn't even want to get off his ass to do the bare minimum, he's not worth any woman's time, period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 04:30 PM
129

Oh, but if you use the unnatural methods to get those unnaturally beautiful bodies before you date a LVM, they're 100% into wanting to have sex with you anyways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:03 AM
43

Right? Even in articles like these, the whole writing style just makes it sound like men are poor widdle hapless victims. Give us a fucking break. Nobody forced/shamed them to play all those porn vids, or play 10hrs straight of videogames.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 02:46 AM
140

I'd re-word it, depending on the age of the boys/men: Men CHOSE to break themselves with porn, videogames and weed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 11:03 PM
94

Sis same, I swear I'm crossing my fingers and praying to everything holy out there, we need ONE HVM example who has a public persona.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 02:31 AM
44

Because in their eyes, standards are only for them, women aren't allowed to have any.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 06:28 PM
95

Yeap, and pppffffft men can do something about their height too, now (in fact, for the last decade or so). There's a surgery that specifically is for making people taller. And before anyone tells me that "it's major surgeryyy!" or whatever, women have been going under the knife for everything to their entire facial features, their boobs, their butt, their cellulite, their fat, etc. jsut to fit the male gaze beauty standards towards women. So yeah. Save up money and get that height surgery if you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 06:26 PM
390

What. The. Fuuuuuuuuuuuuu-- Well, fuck. I used to like his content, and how he (more like the ex wife, it seems) was childfree. This just goes to show to never trust the persona celebrities, particularly male ones, project onto the public. Anna deserves so much better, I hope she's getting all the support, love and care she needs and wants. If it comes out that Keanu is also LV I'mma lose my shit, btw.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 05:34 PM
80

B-b-b-but why won't you come to my place for a shitty $10 pizza and go down on me??? I'm a KiNgGGGgggGGg!! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 10:19 PM
7

Yeah I reaaaally wish mine was naturally shorter, about half would be ideal. I don't like cutting it either, since the cut ends actually poke me badly, and shaving/waxing has issues with ingrown hair and and bacteria getting into any micro injuries, and I actually liked how easy to clean during periods it was when I shave the whole thing once, but at the same time I don't want to be completely bald out of principle. (also, it's an extra cost and at this point I don't want to spend money on that,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 06:41 PM
1

Of course I understand his stance, it's her responsibility to figure out her own transportation, long term. Whether that's paying for Uber/Lyft, or using public transportation more, or overcoming her fear of driving, or get a bike, she has to figure it out. BUT, if she really wants a partner that will drive for her, and carry on her entire bulk of the driving, then she has to make that choice and find someone who will do it. He's not willing anymore, and it's obvious this is a serious issue amon…
/r/askFDS04/09/21 06:34 PM
72

OMG sis, the fuck?? Pretty sure you're being sarcastic, but just in the case you aren't, no you ain't! His tire pressure is low and his car is dirty?? Boo hoo poor baby, those are easily fixed! And let's just say for argument's sake that he had other shit going on... so fucking what? Is that still an excuse to throw all his negative energy on you? YOU had a super stressful week, but instead of spreading negativity like a slighted toddler, you rolled up your sleeves, and got all your shit done. Y…
/r/askFDS04/09/21 06:12 PM
9

Surprisingly, the love interest in "Jewel In The Palace," a Korean TV show! He's doesn't gaslight or neg the main character, their feelings develop gradually, and most important of all, he's always supportive! The setting is in Ancient Korea, when women pretty much had little rights, and many times the main character gets pushback from virtually everyone and everywhere. The love interest supports her through it all, and when even she felt like giving up, he'd encourage her to keep going. He didn…
/r/askFDS04/09/21 02:26 PM
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He doesn't sound supportive, so personally it'd be a dealbreaker for me. Also, whenever a woman starts a question about relationship with "we have a very loving and stable relationship" or "he's a really nice guy, but" or "don't get me wrong, he's wonderful" or any other variation to "assure" us the readers, that the relationship/dude is nice, I immediately suspect the following information is about how NOT nice he/it is. He has to accept that she cannot drive, period. It sounds like she cannot …
/r/askFDS04/09/21 02:26 AM
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He's very probably used to women just fawning over him, since genetics gave him the superficial advantage (and it can also help climb the salary ladder, too), and now has an ego the size of mountain Olympus Mons. You're a queen showing him that actually HV women aren't gonna fall over themselves for a "chance with him."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 11:14 PM
13

Yes! While personally I wasn't meaning men in particular (I never had much faith in them, if I'm gonna be honest) and more all the female stereotypes people shove down girls/women's throats, you're right, it's all centered around the male gaze. And yes, it's absolutely truth about putting too many eggs in the basket of any man, and then he turning out to be LV. Thanks no thanks scrotes, we're over that BS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 09:43 PM
5

Wow... this is just sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 09:23 PM
189

Yes, even pre-FDS I hated how much bullshit women had to put up with. When I turned 26, I had an actual breakdown from all the stress and anxiety, constantly worrying about "getting a good job, finding a good man, marrying him, have his kids before 35," among other things, but that was a big one. I considered ending it all, because having to do all that felt like a death sentence. I'm too good at putting myself in someone else's shoes and stressing over those scenarios, so I just scroll through …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 07:29 PM
36

Actually read his books, AND the FDS handbook. It's obvious you haven't done either. The gist of it is that he blames the "violence" in men to "lack of access to sex," and his "solution" is to "distribute" women to these men so their violence gets "curbed." Sexual slavery, treating women like objects, making men not accountable for their own actions, making women the ones who have to "fix" the problem, basically saying "it's bIoLoGy" in fancy wording, and just overall not even mentioning that th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 05:49 PM
19

Congrats on your level up, LOL! Lots of scrotes get triggered and try to invade us with their LV whining, but the mods are shielding us. If you see the comment numbers at the bottom, in the more popular or "controversial" posts, the amount of comments you can see and the actual amount you can actually see when you click on the post, differs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 04:14 PM
53

The cake toppers where the bride figurine is shackling and/or dragging a "helpless" groom figurine are vomiting inducing and not cute at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 04:10 PM
18

That's not the type of freedom we're talking about in this context, though. Freedom to be your own individual, apart from your partner, is vastly different from the "LaSt dAy oF FrEeDoM" men think about when it comes to marrying a woman and having a "last" lap dance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 04:09 PM
2

Rant away, sis! You were 100% right on dumping this emotionally unavailable asshole. You bet your top dollar that if it had been him, or hell, he'd have just a cold, he'd come whining to you expecting you to coddle and baby him. I remember when I was in college, I gave a dude a chance, and even all the way back then pre-FDS, pre-childfree, I was going through a rough time and he just tried to ignore it, and I was like "nah, this ain't the one" and cut him right off. We barely had one date and he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 04:07 PM
12

Our option is to report the post to our mods. In the custom response option, specifically mention when a username has been posting the same things in different subs or posted several times in our sub at different timelines, not taken our advice repeatedly, etc. Our mods do pick up on this bullshit, and act swiftly and accordingly.
/r/askFDS31/08/21 03:52 PM
95

Yes, it's a neg. Basically calling her "dramatic" or whatever weak bullshit words. Not worth her time! I'd advice your friend to not say "took a risk and decided to try dating again" because that's basically telling the guy that she was hurt/traumatized/manipulated by the last guy, and shows she was vulnerable about it.
/r/askFDS30/08/21 05:55 PM
189

wE'Re sOuLmAtEs We"Re tHe SaMe pErSoN Motherfucking Casey (from Fboy Island)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 05:03 PM
1

Don't bother replying, he's male.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 05:21 PM
21

*breathlessly, from her sensually shaped lips Gotta be accurate! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:34 PM
191

Adding to point no.2: He pulling away when he's struggling with something, just means he's also going to pull away when YOU are struggling with something. Seriously, the feeling loneliness and rejection when your family/friends just turn their backs on you when you're having troubles, and they only come back when you're all smiles, is pretty shitty. They're basically saying you're there as a prop for them, you're not allowed to have "ugly" sides and to show your humanity. This is why NO relation…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:15 PM
28

Damn right, queen! I'm single and to be honest I'm loving it. As soon as I get to a place where I'm comfortable with myself dating, I'll try again, but I'm not gonna lose sleep over "trying to get a man" or "trying to get married." Fuuuuuuck that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:09 PM
20

This is why LVM only have a bed, a chair, a TV and a gaming console, they're trying to get rid of "proof" that they suck at caring for anything (without realizing that the fact their place is bare is yet another red flag, LOL)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 10:33 PM
22

The difference is that if it had really been that traumatic, to the point he can't get over it three years later, then he should 100% not be dating and going to therapy, and do whatever else he needs to be in the right place. I personally never said 3 years was "enough." Everyone processes trauma, grief, PTSD, etc. in very different ways and timelines, and that's absolutely valid. God knows, it took me around 3-4+ years to recover myself from the lowest point in my life (which lasted another 2-3…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 09:22 PM
2

No problem, sis! Thank you for your kind words, yeah I'm planning on at least asking, wantto put my mom and grandma's feelings first, so if they still have some sort of issue I won't force them to do anything, but asking seems to be ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 08:11 PM
11

Most men, sis, LOL! Men who claim to be feminists Men who get dogs/cats/kids to endear themselves to women Men who join hobby circles (particularly ones women gravitate or are more encourage to pursue)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 05:09 PM
31

Yeap, whenever I hear the "volunteer, you might find a good man!" all I can think about is that episode of HIMYM (I don't like the show, I just happened to watch that one ep) where the characters find out Barney volunteers at a soup kitchen, and he starts waxing poetry about how selfless and good and giving he is... but it turns out it's his sentence for having committed some crime (I don't remember what it was). Also, many men know 100% that volunteer means "nice women" and totally do it just t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 03:59 PM
78

Excellent comments, and also, want to add: THREE freaking years ago?? Like dude, People move on from loved ones passing away faster than your "traumatized" ass. It's a break up, get over yourself. Also, his stupid comment tells me that it wasn't traumatic at all. If anything, it was most probably traumatic for the woman, having to put up with his bullshit for god knows how long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 03:08 PM
2

Sadly, "late aunt" means she passed away. This was a few years ago, and sadly I'm not sure what happened to my uncle, all I know is that he took it very hard. I felt hesitant to ask my mom or my grandma since it was particularly painful for them, but I might ask next year. Hopefully he's doing well now, I'd like to meet him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 05:37 PM
6

I've met so far ONE in my whole 37 years of life. ONE. Uno. My late aunt's 2nd husband was all of that. They were childfree, he cooked, cleaned, worked and helped her with stuff like dyeing her hair. She wanted to move to Spain for a change of pace, and he made it happen. He treated her wonderfully, and while I didn't see them much, I knew because my aunt protected her boundaries and was ruthless about anyone giving her shit. The very fact she divorced (which was unheard of back then, particular…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:03 PM
151

Yeap, she came out winning out of this. Not that 33 years of a shitty marriage wins anything, but if grandpa thinks he's gonna get some 18-22yo to play girlfriend or nursemaid, he's in a rough awakening. I'll prepare the popcorn in 10 years!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 11:54 PM
44

So this particular tweet might not be from a woman, due to the videogame drawing of a female character used as a profile image, but sadly toooons of pickmeishas also say shit like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:51 PM
25

It can be both, LOL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:35 PM
3

Hey so I completely understand where you are, mentally AND physically. It's not fun, it's not nice, and honestly? It's not fair. But I can say with certainty this: The ONE person who will always, always, always, be there for you... is yourself. It might sound cheesy, but it's absolutely the truth. While you can never be 100% sure about some people, even those society tells you love you unconditionally, like our parents (100% bullshit, parent's love towards their child is absolutely conditional),…
/r/askFDS23/08/21 09:31 PM
51

Whenever I hear this bit, I just find it laughable. Men can climax with a freaking hole made out of ramen noodle cup and sponges, he's 99% guaranteed an orgasm. If anything, HE has to prove his sexual prowess to the woman, but we all know he'd just pump and dump until he found a new "toy..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 07:55 PM
6

Wow, goddamn, thank you for sharing this, this is almost like I played! I never gave my toys any names (I just can't), and while I moved them around, it was more like a stage play as you described it. I never played with them as other kids played either, no voices. If anything, I had stories inside my head, but had little or nothing to do with the actual toys and everything to do with what's going on inside my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 07:51 PM
11

Thank you SO much for this post, I was debating whether I should make one myself. I watched this because it got recommended, and the last episode was supposed to be satisfying, but the whole thing is a big no, the more I think about it. There was a lot of clownery from the women, entertaining LV men left and right, and a LOT of ignoring red flags (the red flag warning was pretty much not used in 99% of the rest of the episodes, even though there were SO FUCKING MANY.) Casey, as soon as he showed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 07:44 PM
12

I binged it (Fboy Island season 1) and while the first 2 episodes were kinda fun, the rest were bad, do not watch it! I felt so horrible and restless the rest of the day, like I swallowed something disgusting and I couldn't get rid of it. It's definitely NOT FDS material, and in all honesty? A waste of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 06:40 PM
20

Nooooo, no confronting, they love that shit! It just inflates their ego, and gives more ammo to both hurt you, and manipulate and hurt the next woman. Write that letter like SeaOfQuotes advised, but never send it, it's yours! You could even go the "cleansing ritual" route and burn it (please be safe while doing so, and always have some water/extinguisher). Just block and delete him everywhere,same with his friends, delete them all, and lock down your social media account, set it to private, etc.
/r/askFDS23/08/21 04:40 PM
29

To your questions: No, did not get diagnosed, I don't think it was well known or known at all, back then. I actually just started suspecting it a couple months ago, I went to the website "Embrace Autism" and did a bunch of the tests several times, and it seems I'm on the spectrum. Yeap, I feel a lot of resentment, especially when they act like assholes and they throw the autistic card, and then people around them just baby them. As if the world didn't baby men enough. Considering the possibility…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 03:42 PM
12

Yeap, the women entertained too much these manipulative, abusive tactics (and the producers encouraged it to create drama). Honestly, I see a lot of LVM shit in real life, in here, in other TV shows, etc. etc. etc., but the ONE show that is supposed to be about calling out their bullshit... ignores like 90% of the bullshit. This show is kinda like watching a train crash, it's morbidly drawing you in, but in the end there's little good about it, FDS mindset in place or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 07:28 PM
53

I'd say anyone who just discovered FDS and/or has just begun to adopt its principles, should watch this show with a bit of care. I'll be honest, this show stressed the hell out of me. I binged it and felt enraged and pretty horrible the rest of the day. The women were entertaining too much clownery, and it was infuriating to watch them be apologetic to fboys who were clearly treating them wrong, lying to them, etc. Most importantly, I can't believe the goddamn producers allowed fucking Casey to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:05 PM
50

100% this, I have few good friends, and when we manage to meet up, we go all out with sushi, trips to the mall (we usually don't buy, just window shopping), walks in natural trails... on top of all that, we could get a coffee, yeah, but the coffee is just one small part of the hangout.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 07:36 PM
49

How these ladies' vaginas don't just clam closed and dry up at this man-child clownery is a mystery to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 04:57 AM
82

OMFG you're right! Marrying a LVM is like having those cheap participation trophies they give out at children's sport events! Not of any value, just proof that "hey, you played the game."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 04:56 AM
67

LOL, I remember a long time ago, when my parents were gaslighting me about "getting too old to find a man," I finally caved and tried ONE dating app. I can just say, that experience alone put me off the whole experience. One dude even tried to neg me saying some stupid shit like "lol you writing an essay?" about what I wrote in my profile. Dude, ain't my fault you don't like to read a few paragraphs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 11:52 PM
183

Absolutely! Brock Turner, convicted rapist and registered sex offender, and misogynist judge Aaron Persky who sentenced him to only six months in jail and claimed that the rapist shouldn't have his life "ruined" for a "few minutes of action!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 11:02 PM
65

She bought them all with her own money, so they're hers really, he was just bed-sheets-digging her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 10:43 PM
3

Personally it frustrated me too much, all the ladies ignoring red flags, being apologetic when they didn't have to be, too much focus on the dumb fboys, and most importantly, the more I processed it, the more Casey absolutely fucking terrified me. He's straight up a narcissistic abuser, he kept on gaslighting CJ, putting her down, humiliating her, constantly saying "she and I are the same person." Every time someone pointed out some stupid shit/thing he said, the ONLY thing he'd say to CJ was "l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 09:40 PM
61

They legit think it's a woman's job to cater to all of those details.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 08:58 PM
1

Leave it to men to turn a resource that was originally made in good faith and to help others, into another weapon to harass, abuse and gaslight women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 07:45 PM
5

This queen dropping truths and facts! Anyone knows a good place (besides Amazon) to get a crown? It doesn't have to be real jewels or anything like that, but damn, I want a crown so I can wear it at home every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 07:13 PM
18

OMFG years ago I was part of that sub, and even back then it was kind of unbearable, and I wasn't even into FDS at that point. I can't even imagine what mess it is now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 07:08 PM
47

I'm all for it. Hell, I don't dislike a little bit of hair (kept groomed, of course), but anything too excessive like the post's photo, and my repulsion instincts kick in like crazy. Maybe it's because I don't like monkey/gorillas, and too much hair just makes me feel like I'm touching one. Or maybe it's because I know men are gross, and the smell has a lot better chances at stewing if there's more hair. There's plenty of men who are more on the lighter side of hair, and stink horribly. Edit: Fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:56 PM
87

Stretch marks can appear even in infants, they're natural and nothing to be ashamed of, but of course, LVM twisted them because every woman should look like photoshopped pinup girls...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:51 PM
4

Yeah! And Casey had such a hard-on for Garratt, I was like dude, go and marry Garratt and GTFO. So all in all I was really disappointed in this show, I mean they brought Casey back as a freaking option, and he made it all the way to the last round?? Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck that. The show reminded me of why I despise "reality TV" shows and shitty dramas. Yeah, there's still some focus on gaslighting women, I'm assuming to "level" the field so it's not always the guys that get criticized, but fuck that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 02:12 AM
17

What I'm thinking it happened is, most people have their email logged in in their phones. He sent himself an email with the request notification through her email account in her phone, and boom! All he has to do is accept on his phone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 07:13 PM
43

I hate to bring you bad news, but those men do exist... they just call it a "breastfeeding kink."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 05:51 AM
22

This show was honestly frustrating to watch in the end. Spoilers, Casey was such a manipulative bitch, telling JC that she did not deserve ANY of the guys and humiliating her in front of everybody just because he happened to be eliminated... but then she goes and tries to be apologetic? Then they bring him back? And she kissed him and shit??, they probably brought him back just for the drama, but I don't like watching this type of drama, after all. I thought the women would be a lot more ruthles…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 04:43 AM
15

Sorry for spamming you again, but one thing, I do not believe the "nice guys" in the first episode that got kicked out are actually nice. I mean even if the show chose them as "nice guys," I don't really see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 01:04 AM
16

Hahaha! I'm currently halfway through episode 1 and oh boy, I'm loving it! I do hope that all the ladies came out with more experience about vetting and keeping their standards high, let's see how it unfolds!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 11:05 PM
31

Ohhhh I didn't know the show was like this, I might give it a watch, just for that sweet, sweet schadenfreude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 09:46 PM
44

Every single time a woman wants to complain or bring up an issue men cause, and/or women suffer from, 100% she has to put somewhere some preventative shit like "of course I know not all men" or "I'm not materialistic/shallow/etc" to deter SOME of the stupid sealioning, whataboutism, devil's advocate, etc. etc. LVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 05:56 PM
41

Exactly this. How many times have we seen posts about LVM getting dumped, and the woman moving out, taking literally every single thing in the house, bought with HER money, that made the place feel like a home? Most of them end up with a mattress, a chair, a TV, and a game console. I'm trying to be minimalist so I don't usually buy trinkets or decorations a lot, but I definitely do like at least 1 to remember a special trip or occasion, and once I have a place of my own, I'm definitely decoratin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 05:53 PM
5

This all sounds amazing, as I'm also pretty anxious myself, LOL! I just very recently considered I might be on the spectrum, and I did a bunch of their free tests and all of them indicated I might be kind of there, but just like you I get anxious and would like a professional to diagnose me to make sure. I don't think it's bad but it would explain a loooot of things from my childhood and just in my life in general, so definitely will save the money for it. Thank you again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 05:25 PM
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Thank you so much for sharing the info! It's a lot less than I was afraid of, so I think I'll save up for at least the first screening, and then I'll move forward from there on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 05:11 PM
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One red flag is just the tip of the iceberg, or like those magicians that pull a string of tied handkerchiefs out of their mouths/sleeves... but they're all red flags, the first one is just the beginning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 04:49 PM
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Excellent resource! By any chance, do you know how much it costs to pay for the official screenings?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 04:46 PM
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This happened to me on the freaking ER for mental health. Because I looked clean (I was actually being OCD about being clean, so it was the other extreme of not caring about showering, so not healthy at all) the lady assessing me said I wasn't "sick" and basically told me to go away. It's fucking infuriating that society punishes and dismisses women like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 04:43 PM
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Don't forget, MANY men all around the world wish they could do the same, and are just itching to bring back at least some level of this depravity and abuse back. The more I see men, Western or Eastern, no matter the part of the world, the more disgusted I am. The very fact men are OK with these type of things happening near them, tells me all I need to know about what they really think of women, regardless of how they treat their local women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 04:30 PM
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I cannot watch that movie. It hits waaaay too fucking close to home (it doesn't even 100% apply to me personally, just the general experience of Korean families overall, not to mention families around the world) and just the trailer and synopsis alone fill me with a hot rage I despise. Thank you for confirming that I made the right choice. I rather watch "Along with the Gods" or even some K-dramas (not all of them, just a few) than Minari.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 10:16 PM
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This was mentioned a short while ago, but always remember: Do not be 100% honest here either! Always fudge facts, your age, location, job, etc. or keep them as vague as possible. If you're 32, say you're 36, etc. Remember that there's no limit to a dangerous man wanting to "teach you a lesson," always keep all your info away from the real you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 09:10 PM
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That should be a flair, LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 07:29 PM
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Except they aren't sexy or remotely attractive to women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 07:16 PM
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I feel miserable for at least 2 days, ravenous for food the week before (if I'm not careful it fucks up with my weight/diet, so I can't even allow myself to actually indulge), and get lower back pain, pain in the uterus, an oversensitive vagina that barely allows me to stay seated, and a shit ton of blood. for at least 4-5 days out of 6. Even then, I work, do my chores, run my errands and exercise (not every single day, but I strive to exercise most period days). Legit women can handle more pain…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:51 PM
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"Important things to say" LOOOOOOOOL too many scrotes spout stupid bullshit, but believe having a pee-pee means the world (especially women) are supposed to listen to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 01:02 AM
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Yeah... the more I find out, and the more I live, the less sympathy I have for men. I think at this point only pre-teen boys have a chance of having any of my energy. Women are not bottomless fountains of sympathy, consideration and love. We all have a limit, and at this point I rather save all of that for little girls and HV women (some pickmeishas are dangerous and have little to no hope of turning better, as we all know)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 05:53 PM
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Not sure how the library situation is in your location, but in the US you can use the Libby app to link your library card, and you can borrow ebooks and audiobooks for free!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 05:34 PM
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LOL, they make no fucking sense. If that were true, there wouldn't be so many dusty old scrotes, who have been married with women before her 25 year, preying on younger women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 05:28 PM
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Hell, a man with a fragile wounded ego will do absolutely everything to ruin the woman that tried to get away from him, even kill her, including their children. This isn't even a rare thing, so many men murder both their exes and/or the kids because their abusive ways weren't gonna be tolerated anymore. And of course, the media and the rest of the LV society will blame the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 05:18 AM
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Following the example: it's also a red flag to accuse you of being rash and immature, AKA he's basically insulting you and your decisions. There's nothing to gain from talking to a dude who makes you feel like you're the one with something wrong when he's the one who disrespected you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 03:47 AM
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100% he expected her to side only with him because faaaaaaaamily. I'm glad she's not a tool and looked out for the GF, sadly we cannot say the same about him and the rest of her family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 03:32 AM
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Because he's a king and she has to bRiNg SoMeThInG tO ThE tAbLe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 03:31 AM
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You definitely are feeling like you need one, because you want to fit in a bit better in the workplace. Personally I embrace it. I don't go to work to make friends, but I do agree in keeping a nice environment, so I don't mind acting a bit and doing lip service here and there. For example I act excitedly and ask them about their trip, and then act happy and let them know it sounds amazing, and how lucky they are. Basically I keep the focus on them or the topic, and ask related questions. It migh…
/r/askFDS15/08/21 03:24 AM
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Add to that: some of those dates are downright cheap or free. Fuck no to that, ladies, do not accept low effort dates from men. These type of dates are best left for after you've already been on a few dates with him at restaurants where he has to prove himself at the most basic level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 01:58 AM
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Simple: men don't want to have self-control about it (or many other passive hobbies, like just being a sports fan, not be able to play the sport themselves). Like others said, they make being a gamer their whole identity to mask their mediocrity in real life, and honestly? A lot of games catered to men are designed on purpose to be addictive. Regardless though, if they were genuinely that addictive, you'd see an equal amount of women who play videogames having the same addict issues... but you d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 11:09 PM
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A lot of them do not literally ask this question, but they do and will ask it in other ways, like asking if you like to cook (AKA cook for HIM), how much money you make, if you'd be willing to do X or Y degrading sexual kink for him. Also, their attitudes, thinking they're kings and women have to prove themselves to them, that's basically them asking the "what do you bring to the table?" question but without words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 06:57 PM
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Hell, My Little Pony, the characters aren't even human and there's hordes of men out there lusting after characters. There's a really good documentary about a girl who grew up with the show (the new one, Friendship is Magic), and how she was exposed to shit like blankets and body pillow cases printed with freaking sexualized cartoon horses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 06:44 PM
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The other one that makes me roll my eyes are the "God/Jesus HATES homosexuality/abortions" or whatever other bullshit they themselves don't like. Like dudes, who the F are you to say what God/Jesus hates or not? That's a very arrogant shit right there, we puny humans wouldn't be able to comprehend His Plan. (Just a heads up, I'm not religious, just using their logic against them)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 06:05 PM
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Absolutely this. I can say I was lucky and privileged enough (and partly by choice, of course) to not have to experience the shit abusive men put my fellow sisters through, but the mysoginy is so deeply entrenched in everything we do and everywhere we go. It's a complete eye opener, and honestly I had to pause the book a few times because I was genuinely shaken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 05:59 PM
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I think it's ok to use depending on the context, so don't feel bad about it! But yeah, definitely is not a good word to use (sincerely or ironically) when it comes to dating context.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 05:50 PM
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It's exactly because it's a "mix of good and bad" that makes this situation very dangerous. That's how abusers keep you in check and unable to run away. An abuser/LV person can do something like break your things, yell at you, call you names, even hit you, but then the next day they're very apologetic, and cook for you, and treat you well, etc. It's to keep you destabilized and doubt yourself. Ladies, Never EVER think that just because they do some good things to show "repentance" to you means t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 05:14 PM
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So, this is where you have to gauge some things. Is this job a stepping stone, and you eventually will move on to other things? Is that superior (and/or their superiors) an asshole? Would they make your life miserable without probably seeing justice? Do you want to stay there for a long time? (a year or more) Or are you about ready to find the next job? While obviously everyone (me included) would like to have justice and put every asshole at work in their place, I much rather prefer you were sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 08:05 PM
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The bar is in hell, because all in all he looked the least unkempt. I didn't peg him as overweight, he looked like the noodle body type, but then again I wasn't paying that much attention, given the shit coming out of his mouth was taking most of my attention. 100% with you, I remember years ago I went through my worst time due to depression and anxiety, and I was super paranoid to fall so low I didn't at least keep myself clean... so at the very least I did that. (On the con side, when I went t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 06:22 PM
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Reminds me of that whiny man who was complaining about women being taught they're queens and only 25% of men (lol, yeah right, the number is not that high) qualify their standards. Dude wasn't bad looking, he didn't even look unkempt or like a hobo... yet still was throwing tantrums about women having "unrealistic standards." Dudes fail even when nature literally gives them a head start with more advantageous physical features.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 04:18 PM
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Right? If it's in my trash can, it's all trash. I'm not gonna dig through it, what the hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 09:12 PM
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YIKES! He realized that he's too old and decrepit, better to lock on that mommy bangmaid, 24/7 caretaker, nurse and purse, before she catches onto the con!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 07:16 PM
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"apologized profusely" I'm ouutttt. I'm fucking out. Jesus Christ, there's only so much ass licking and boot kissing and doormat-ing women do for men I can witness, first or second hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 06:11 PM
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This is why there's usually some waiting before you can actually see your comments and posts in this sub, but the mods can't catch them all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 03:28 PM
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Yeap, the vast majority of fathers our there are LV, if not in one way, in other ways, definitely. It absolutely sucks, and that's why it's on current women to vet the hell out of the men they date, if one of their goals is to marry him and have children together. Also one of the many reasons I'm childfree. I don't wanna have what happened to my parents, or any of the other couples around their generation, to happen to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 03:30 AM
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Age range: 18 to 25yo females only These pedo scrotes are better than Ipecac, the projectively vomit they induce with their depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 03:26 AM
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The "I don't know if you've considered this but..." bit always fucking incenses me. That's right, Dick, you DON'T know, because if you did you wouldn't say such stupid shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 03:21 PM
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Men are the weaker, emotional, irrational sex. This is why I never say "balls of steel" or "big cojones." Men and their fucking peepees, thinking they're all that. I say guts. It takes guts of steel to go defend someone in danger. You are putting yourself in danger too. Literally a pregnant woman and an elderly woman have far more guts, courage and worth than all those fucking useless, cowardly, selfish men who just stood and watched. And I include those policemen who are treating it like it's n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 05:00 AM
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Also you can tell he's a short dude with a huuuuuge chip on his shoulder about not being 6ft tall. He should stop whining and save money for height surgery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 04:49 AM
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100% absolutely agree with you, I'm just coming from the perspective of a scrote: "it's all fantasy, it doesn't matter!" or "they're not blood related, it's ok!" Anything to excuse the kind of porn they're into.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 08:01 PM
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"Unless she's fat and/or ugly, then fuck no! Unless I haven't gotten laid for a while, I guess I can just pump and dump her" The audacity of scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 06:15 PM
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We have to be mindful of rule no. 6, so no mentions or links to other subs. Sadly FDS has to be pretty strict because so many LV people out there want any excuse to delete us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 06:14 PM
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What all of the descriptions you listed they use boils down to is this: "Just want to do whatever fun I (the scrote) want, and I don't wanna deal with any real life stuff like mature talks, planning for the future, leveling up myself, etc." They just want to use us like a carnival ride, have fun but don't care about any of the maintenance or figure out how it works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 06:02 PM
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That adds a whole new layer of horror, but at the same time it's depressingly not new at all. There's a reason why so many child rapist cases are an adult male family member raping their own child, nephew/niece or grandchild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 04:53 PM
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I'd get the popcorn but that's one sad AF circus, godddamit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 03:51 PM
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Yes, every single woman who puts FDS (or just, FLUS, FemaleLevelUpStrategy) to good use, will feel lonely at the beginning, and depending on their location and situation, will feel "lonely" for quite some time. I'm in the "lonely" stage since I discovered FDS last year, and yeap, it sucks. So many people, even those who seem decent or OK, cross boundaries, and do NOT like being told or feeling you enforcing them. Remember that most people out there are low value. That's just the way it is, for n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 03:13 PM
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Yeah, there's something seriously wrong with them. It's basically incest but "guilt-free," since it's "step," so in their minds it's cool because "tHeY'Re NoT rEaLLy ReLaTeD bY bLoOd!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:52 PM
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Everyone is spot on. To add to their comments: While growing up, we women are basically freaking bombarded with a shit ton of conditioning propaganda from media (books, games, shows, movies, toys, etc.) into thinking "older man + younger woman = super passionate/romantic," and other super problematic romance and sex tropes. Trust us, most of us got those same daydreams and fantasies when we were young and starry eyed. Use your 20s (all 10 years) to focus on yourself, on your education, on your c…
/r/askFDS10/08/21 04:54 AM
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It's absolutely reasonable to expect at least a daily check up. I don't like people expecting an immediate reply to a text (if it's an emergency, call and/or leave a voice mail), but at the same time it's not nice to let someone left on read for days. Most people carry their phones from the moment they wake up to the moment they go to sleep; they can take the one minute after they're done with their work and chores to send a reply. So yeah, when it comes to men you potentially date, and texts, i…
/r/askFDS09/08/21 10:34 PM
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Many of mine seem to be specifically about whatever comments I post at the moment (I just catch the first 3-5 words), so it's veeeery obvious they're actually lurking and stalking some of us. Not sure how it feels to let someone they hate live rent free in their head so much they have to regularly check their comments, LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 10:27 PM
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Yeah, but porn itself has been invented and widespread fairly recently in terms of how long men have been treating women as sub-human, and most of it thanks to the internet, so maybe 10-20 years? It's just another flavor of mysoginy, not really a cause for men's decline. Porn just makes it far more easier to spread an exacerbate the problems men brought to both themselves and us women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 02:38 AM
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LOL, I have random scrotes sending me hateful DMs here in the regular too, if they think I'm reading all their whiny paragraphs, they will be sorely disappointed to know I never read their bullshit and just delete it. What a pathetic and mediocre life to live that you go around lurking on women's spaces because you don't like the fact you can't just barge in and invade those ladies' spaces!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 12:09 AM
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And lets say it's true he has anxiety, like actually diagnosed anxiety disorder that affects his real life. Whyyyyyyyyyy isn't he getting any treatment for that? Or at least work on it so it affects his life as little as possible? Especially nowadays, there are lots of online therapists and online information on how to work on improving your life despite having those short comings. There's no excuse for this men to demand women baby them, none at all. Not to mention, regardless, it is NOT women'…
/r/askFDS08/08/21 10:03 PM
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Exactly this. If they really have issues, to the point it affects their life (not being able to properly date, in this situation) then they have no business dating. They need to get that shit sorted out first.
/r/askFDS08/08/21 08:31 PM
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What I see is that LVM are using mental illnesses a lot to avoid responsibility, accountability, and make the other person feel guilty (manipulation), so I understand that you're seeing a pattern. It's just another LV move from men to use and abuse women. Block, delete and move on. The moment your gut tells you something stinks, trust it and block the dude.
/r/askFDS08/08/21 08:28 PM
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How do you deal? Block and delete and move on. I have mental health illnesses and I don't go around publicly using it as a "get out of jail" card. Don't let it slide. I haven't dated enough guys to encounter ones that use mental illness for manipulation, but met regular people (non-dating, like potential new friends, any gender and age) who do this, and it seems the consensus is that they tell you reaaaaaally early about it. It's trauma-bonding bullshit early on. What I'm basically saying is, if…
/r/askFDS08/08/21 08:01 PM
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Someone for the love of god bring her here, she needs our support for standing up to her standards and boundaries, and not give in to all these crying man babies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 06:54 PM
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Oh, I absolutely agree with you, I meant crocodile in the sense that, like you said, they're 100% for themselves and their own selfish desires, and not really for anything or anyone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 05:56 PM
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Thank you for your kind words! Before my diagnose, and FDS, I always thought I was just a cry-baby who was "making a big deal out of nothing," etc. (I don't care about repeating all the horrible things other people implied and I self-internalized), but with the new knowledge I realized I had/have mentall illnesses and issues, had a very hard time socializing, had almost no friends as a kid, and a lot of it wasn't my fault and I could've used some help besides "suck it up." back then. I was ultim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 05:54 PM
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That's some passive aggressive bullshit right there. Unless there's something specific that you would benefit from by keep contact with her, I'd say just cut off contact. If you do need to keep her around for now, start keeping more distance and gray rock the fuck out of her. No more reactions, no more sharing your feelings, experiences and woes. No more ammo. Keep it amiable, but as impersonal as possible but with plausible deniability. You do you. You're rocking your new, healthy body, and lev…
/r/askFDS08/08/21 02:16 AM
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Ok, if I hear the word "harsh" being directed to a woman who was direct (but NOT an asshole) with her words, I'm gonna scream my lungs out. She was 100% NOT harsh at all! Please for the love of god someone bring her over here so we can support her, because this is fucking ridiculous. For the record, I've had anxiety my whole life (I was actually diagnosed when I was an adult), and while I'm sure there are people out there who are more anxious than what I felt, I still had a LOT of issues speakin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 02:10 AM
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Them crocodile tears ain't working on this queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 01:56 AM
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That mod should go and get picked by him already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:22 PM
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Men are only allowed these colors in their home: gray, black, beige, and maybe a splash of blue here and there, but not too much! You wouldn't want to send the message that you're effeminate or gAyyYyYy. (also, toiletries are only allowed in black with neon green/blue or silver accents!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:21 PM
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I have to disagree with the "sex can be pleasurable without an orgasm every time" bit. If you didn't get an orgasm, it was foreplay, not sex. Sure, out of context foreplay (again, not sex) IS pleasurable in and of itself, but I can tell you that every single time I masturbated and didn't get an orgasm (too tired, too stressed, etc.), I ended up just frustrated. I didn't care that the stuff beforehand was in and of itself pleasurable, the whole point of engaging in a sexual activity (by yourself,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 05:57 PM
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In Japan, there's this cute tradition of sending your 5-6yo "on an errand;" you instruct them to get a couple of cheap things and just, send them off. Scrotes are worse than 5-6yos. Even preschoolers don't need this much hand holding. None of this collage and arts and crafts bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 10:17 PM
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Hahahahahahah 72 comments but you can only see about 30? The scrotes are ANGRY! Boo hoo pee pee mad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 06:38 PM
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Exactly this. But he was "tRyIng To bE aCcUrAtE."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 06:20 PM
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This reminds me of the time an old lady bumped my car on the side (I was waiting at a stop line, she came out from a parking lot) with hers, she must've been out of it for a second. I immediately got out, and she was crying and apologizing so much, I first said "ok, take a deep breath. Now, are you OK?" My car was cosmetically fine on the outside (in fact, hers was the one that got a small bump and scratch, LOL), so I told her it was fine, and if she felt safe enough to drive or needed me to get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 06:16 PM
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I have a "no yelling at me" kink, so nobody kink shame me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 06:08 PM
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Yeap, 100% he was. What do you wanna bet she was expected to cook (and clean) for BOTH of them, and he was gonna eat that soup too? What a tool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 06:05 PM
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He's basically saying "why don't you smile more? You'd be prettier if you smiled (to me)" but combined with wanting to shit on feminism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 05:55 PM
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Oh god, the moment he moves away and you are able to cut him off too, it'll be great too! It's actually satisfying, a bit in a schadenfreude way, to see them trying to have "good family relations" with you after they put you through shit or talked shit to you. I have a cousin who hated and envied my guts, because she was bitter my parents weren't divorced, and her parents were... and they were both shitty parents. Last time we talked she tried to gaslight me saying the reason I'm smart or someth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 05:17 PM
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Next time, get up and walk away. And shame on your "friends" for not putting a lid on that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 03:39 PM
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Picture no. 4 with the woman "proud about being in an age gap relationship with a man who could be HER FATHER. I wanna say this shit is unreal, but it's as common as white bread. Congrats, lady! You either got groomed to hell and back and you're proud of the kool-aid, or you're in a rough wake up call when you're 50, and he's 72 and you have to take care of ailing old grandpa 24/7.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 03:35 PM
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"maintenance sex" = 100% RAPE sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 03:28 PM
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"Substantial" amount of money men think entitles them to rape women = $20 at Applebee's
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 03:14 PM
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Also "accurate" my ass, when he ends with a "to justify that kind of brutal reaction." Like sure buddy, her reaction was bRuTaL! Give me a fucking break.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 02:45 PM
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"bEwArE Of HeR!!!" Dude, come on... there's stupid and then there's you. Women should beware of his diseased mouth, I don't even want to breathe the same air. Men always do their best to outdo each other when it comes to depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 01:38 AM
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And even when women didn't have access to education, weren't that dumb either. They knew they had no rights, no power, no money, no property to call their own, and knew their only choice was to marry a man if they wanted to have any type of quality of life and part in the society they were born into. They married because men forced them to do so, and men punished them severely if they dared deviate from that "choice."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 11:41 PM
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One second in, and I already know all he spews is bullshit and his words have no value or credibility whatsoever. His whole face screams "I'M LYING!!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 09:49 PM
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The only thing scarce should be the amount of fucks you give to LVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 09:12 PM
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99% of men, so fucking yeah ALL men. And that includes men who just stay silent when they see or know of other men who abuse women in ANY way. You're complicit too, you're just as LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 09:09 PM
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Want to add: even if the excuse was bad memory for real, that's not OUR problem. I have very bad memory with dates like birthdays, anniversaries, etc. You know what I did? I simply put all those in google calendar, all with notifications, to be repeated yearly, indefinitely. Or another example: I'm really bad with directions. Like, stupid bad. You know what I do? I download offline maps from google maps, in advance, and those update regularly. So even if I didn't have internet, I can still navig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 08:32 PM
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Thank you, I'm watching her as we speak! Lots of hilarious yet accurate vids of her calling out people's bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 06:07 PM
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Holy shit I LOVE HER. I love her facial expressions, please someone put her in a fantasy comedy show like Galavant and have her just burst in set once in a while to call out bullshit when there's some XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 05:46 PM
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Her being upset is not your issue, is HER issue. She comes to you for advice, unless you're giving her bad advice or something like that, she has to learn to accept it. Since she doesn't like your advice, then like marimare said, it's time to STOP ALL ADVICE, and time for the gray rock technique. She wants more advice for that social club? you answer with "I'm sure you'll figure it out." That's it. She wants advice on clothing, people, etc? You answer with "You should google that up, but I'm con…
/r/askFDS05/08/21 04:38 PM
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I didn't know this, thank you for sharing. It's always fucking frustrating to hear about this love languages things, because even here in this sub you have some women who think it's a genuine tool to "explain" or "help communicate" relationships, and I'm all for saying it's all bullshit. Everyone wants all love languages, period, maybe some more than others, but everyone needs words, gestures, body touch, etc. The only one some people might not like is gift giving, but it's usually for other rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:40 PM
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You can see the bitterness in his eyes because women haven't been tripping over themselves to fall on his kingly dick, like his mommy told him his whole life. Also add all the pickmes and female peers during school years that saw his face and found it attractive, blowing up his ego. Now he's an incel and can't even notice he's the problem, LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:23 PM
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Sure, but from what I've seen (and I've been lurking in van life type of subs for a loooong time) is that men (inb4 #notallmen) usually do it because they want to facilitate being a fuck boi, or generally live a life of idleness and bare minimums. It's a lot easier for a man to go hoeing around because he has no address and can drive a state away in a blink. It's also incredibly dangerous to meet a man "in his van." You know why, don't do it. There's also the fact that such a small space means a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:19 PM
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Absolutely it's to put the blame on the victim. By saying "we" they imply that the victim was at least half responsible, AKA guilty, of the problem. It oftentimes implies "she made me do/react in X way," and "maybe I shouldn't have reacted that way, but she's responsible for putting me in that position." It's all abuse, shifting blame, and manipulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 02:56 PM
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Absolutely it's to put the blame on the victim. By saying "we" they imply that the victim was at least half responsible, AKA guilty, of the problem. It oftentimes implies "she made me do/react in X way," and "maybe I shouldn't have reacted that way, but she's responsible for putting me in that position." It's all abuse, shifting blame, and manipulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 02:55 PM
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That's the thing, most men believe that if they do X amount of effort = reach certain milestones, and once they reach the "final" one, marriage (or get her pregnant and carry on a pregnancy for "his" child), they can stop all pretense because they "got her in the bag." Get a girlfriend = entitled to sex Make her marry him = entitled to her child-care, house chores, sex, and money Of course, many men are starting to blur both and make a girlfriend do "wifey shit,"and make a clownery of her in all…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 02:49 PM
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I'm not "drained" by phone calls, I literally zone out after some time and I cannot process what is being said to me. It's not the call itself, it's my inability to keep it up. More than compatibility, I think if you value X person as a friend (no men tho, and only to a certain extent, of course), then it's good to find a middle ground. That's why I mentioned it'd be nice if there was less texting from your friends, and that they called you more instead. It's a small thing that goes a long way t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 09:42 PM
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To be fair I don't like phone calls. At one point of the phone call I start zoning out and I absolutely don't mean to, so personally I prefer texting, but as you say, it's still something basic. A compromise would be like they kept their text to just the most important info, and to elaborate further in a phone call. Hell, video calls are a good option too, I feel the ability to see a person helps a lot because body language sends a lot of communication just the voice can't (and I suspect this is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 08:25 PM
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Cleaning cat turds is absolutely a more dignified task than cleaning the skid marks off men's underwears
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 07:03 PM
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Society also tells us that in a couple "woman shorter than man," just look at virtually every single couple or potential romantic interests in all stories, EVER. Society (AKA all the men in power) is basically telling girls and women: Look! Men should be taller than you! Tall men are attractive! (and in theory stronger, to protect) Then society (men) go around and shame women: How DARE you have an expectation that we conditioned you for!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 07:01 PM
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It doesn't matter how much she apologizes. She believes that "I apologize = it erases what I did" but it doesn't work that way. I have a friend who's similarly bad with texting (although not as bad), and I told her a few times that it bothers me, and she apologized and explained how bad she is with it. It changed a bit for the better, so there's that? I think if you want to keep the relationship to a certain extent (more like acquaintances than actual friends) then you're doing pretty much the b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 06:58 PM
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I don’t want to break up with him, I just want him to be the person I need him to be. Sorry but if you can't change this part of your thinking, there's nothing we can say that will help you at all. You made a similar post here 25 days ago. You need to realize that you CAN'T change him, and you can't do or say anything, because if he wanted to, he would. He doesn't, he's not the person you hope for, and never will be. The person you want to be with is not him. Yet you refuse to break up with him.…
/r/askFDS04/08/21 05:29 PM
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OMFG I love your last comment, he deserved that XD Why is it "wrong" for us women to not feel attraction when there's no chemistry to begin with, AND they don't even do the bare minimum to induce any attraction? Poor man peepee not wet, boo hoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:12 PM
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Sure, they bitch and complain about work, but in the end they know they have to work, and work well, in order to get money (and/or success). Even when they complain, they know no one in their right mind would think to say "pay me first, then I'll consider if I do this job for you" to their boss. Men twisted societies so women are sub-human, so they feel validated because "hey, everyone (LVM and pickmes) else is saying the same!" They genuinely think women are less-than.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:57 AM
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Even looking is too much, just locking eyes is encouragement for a lot of these LVM to think they have a shot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:49 AM
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My chip with MGTOW is that, they don't even do what the name explicitly suggest! Men going their own way!!! They do NOT go their own way at all, they keep on bothering women, strangers they never met or will ever consider dating themselves, because they want to keep on blaming women for the mediocre lives. Please, GO your own way, leave women alone and in peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:46 AM
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Oh yes, nothing triggers people like a woman enforcing her boundaries and self-respect. Nobody but high value people get it. I've met people who I thought were nice people to be friends with, only to find out sooner or later they didn't like it when I put my foot down, or voiced my discontent, especially if it was about people or things THEY liked. LV people are all around, not just in the men we consider dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:43 AM
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If you were to criticize a man outside of this sub, in any way whatsoever when it comes to him dealing with a woman, you'd be downvoted to hell. Literally happened to me today when a scrote made a post, playing dumb about him "unknowingly" crossing a boundary of a woman. Got harassed and basically told the equivalent of "go back to your country."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 12:22 AM
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They also go the extra mile to be super nice to strangers, acquaintances and certain friends. This is all to undermine her credibility if the woman ever dares to voice out the abuse. It's really gross how insidious the attitude is. Even if it's not this particular situation, if you, as a woman, dare complain to someone about another person, and they get along well with them, they'll very likely victim blame you, asking what you did to "make them react that way."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 09:56 PM
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This is cringe as fuck yes, but so is the grown ass man who just enables his mom. I'm not gonna blame him for being subjected to this when he was young, but once you are an adult and have your own independence, you are responsible to enforce that independence, and boundaries, to your parents. But it's a lot easier for these type of sons to keep the emotional incest unchecked, since it means there's always a maid and free therapist who will tell him what a handsome boi he is, and how bad all wome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 09:06 PM
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100% agree with you, it's far worse. She probably also works full time, on top of child-caring and house chores, and her clown act for her husband. So in all essence, she's putting all her resources to maintain and spoil this man. He's a parasite, and she's the sucker in for the ride.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:13 PM
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Want to add: The personal life circumstances like a family member getting sick, etc. are still NOT valid reasons to let a man you barely know (which yes, it includes dating them for a while. You still don't know them, you're still vetting) do this "disappear and pop up" thing. Why? Because if they have that many things going on in their life to the point they ignore you or disappear, they have no business going around dating. Sort those things out FIRST, then go date. You're not obligated to put…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 07:29 PM
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So... she's a prostitute. Giving sexual services in exchange of favors (clean up throw up, change diaper) or money, that's what prostitutes do. This is what this marriage is. She's married to her client... and for peanuts, too. This is insanely degrading, and one of the many reasons why we women have to always have high standards and boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 06:31 PM
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Your body, your choice. I do think it's extremely important to have a brutally honest conversation with yourself about WHY you want those kind of cosmetic procedures, and if it's to please the male gaze (or anyone else's), I'd say it's better to focus more on leveling your other areas in your life first and foremost. Now, to all this, I personally do not mind cosmetic surgery in general. There ARE aesthetically, physically pleasing body attributes, regardless of beauty standards fluctuating. Som…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 04:08 PM
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From personal experience, men are the biggest gossips, the biggest b1tches, the most two faced people on the planet. They just project all this shit on women because of course they do. And yeah, there's plenty of LVW out there who fit the mold sure, but men? Men MADE the mold, dominate the mold, and love the mold. They just don't like admitting that the average man fits it faaaar better than the average woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 03:47 PM
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100% a LVM lurker loser gaslighting us because we're "hurt/damaged/mentally traumatized/PTSD" AKA implying we're not mentally sound. Another way of saying "WhAt mAn HuRt yOu LOL" One thing they looooove to do once you start blocking enough of them, is send Reddit's reports of suicide/mental help. This bypasses blocks and sends an automatic PM to your account saying something like: "someone is concerned about you, here are mental help resources" Leave to men to turn a service originally made in g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 03:43 PM
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Leave it to men to turn a service originally crated in good faith to help people, into a weapon to abuse women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 03:43 PM
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Yeap, as long as it pertains dating strategies and knowledge, it's good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 06:06 PM
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Same here, I'm more concerned with leveling up myself, becoming financial stable and have a better career, and overall better health (physical and mental), at the moment. I do think the post one of the mods made about how this sub is for dating strategies, and should stay focused on that, is absolutely correct, though. (even though I got salty when I first read it, I did come around. It makes sense, after all) I go to FemaleLevelUpStrategy for focusing solely on female level up, and here to stay…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 05:36 PM
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Absolutely go at your pace! I'm 36 and barely been in a handful of dates, and no relationships yet. None of the guys I met made the cut, and we're surrounded by hordes of LV people. It's most important to prioritize yourself, make your life fulfilling with your own company. A HVM should be a bonus or a compliment to your life, not the main goal or sole purpose of your happiness, so you're doing great!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 05:31 PM
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You got some excellent comments, I'll add a bit on too: (BTW it sounds easy but it's not easy for anyone) 1) Fill your days with stuff you want to do. Even if it's just researching at first, do it. Do you wanna go bungee jumping? Research! Want to learn embroidery? Look up some tutorials! One thing to note: Not wanting to do anything is also a valid activity! Chill for a couple of hours, put some relaxing music, lay down, close your eyes, etc. Remember yourself that you're treating yourself well…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 03:42 PM
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change "girls" with "females" and a good sprinkle of blaming women for his situation, and we're golden, LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 02:56 PM
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What really gets me is that those men (and the parents and grandparents who spoiled them rotten) will not see the error of their ways. Instead of making men become better people, humble themselves, and level up mentally and physically, they're just gonna go kidnap or coerce some women in impoverished places and force them to marry them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 02:28 AM
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I checked through your comment history. You already asked similar stuff about "not being chosen by a man" 4 and 3 months ago. Someone recommended the FDS handbook, and you acknowledged you were gonna read it. This particular sub is for asking FDSers for advice yes, but you have to take that advice, otherwise what's the point. I'd say you need to have a brutal, honest, reality check with yourself. From what I read in your comments, you haven't considered yet even one of the points the FDS handboo…
/r/askFDS02/08/21 12:52 AM
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It's all mysoginy and the stupid patriarchal culture that only male offspring can "carry on the legacy/bloodline/last name" which is all sorts of bullshit. The ONLY thing the man does is nut inside a woman and give some sperm. The woman is the one who incubates, gives flesh and blood, and eats for the baby, for 9 months. The baby is HER flesh and blood, not a man's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 11:40 PM
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Add to that, their bromance is absolute shit "male nurturing," exactly because they rely on treating women as subhuman to do so. Such a horrible reason just makes it so the whole "nurturing" is wrong from the get go. So in the end, the way they demand nurture is all shit. The bromance is shit nurturing, because it stems from horrible reasons. The nurture they demand from women is just abuse disguised as "nurture," so they don't really benefit from either "nurture," it's just them pushing aside t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 06:40 PM
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Ok I'm gonna be honest, I don't 100% trust the American dentist; he also suggested I had to take out all my wisdom teeth, while the dentist in my home country said to only take them out if they actually bothered me (I only took out the two at the top). American dentists make big money on certain procedures, like taking out your wisdom teeth, so even if you don't actually have an issue with them, for each tooth they take, the more money they can charge you. So all in all, I don't trust his word w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 06:34 PM
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Seriously, even for pickmes, this is utterly humiliating. It's giving me second hand embarrassment to watch these type of posts, in and out of FDS. Then you have the hordes of LVM and other pickmes praising these clowns for having these grown man-toddlers as sexual partners. It's vomiting inducing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 06:04 PM
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Yeap, lots of them do it not because they think they might have a chance, but because they want to suck up the energy women have for their own ego. They want to feel "manly" and "superior," and hey, a (usually much younger) woman is right there, let's go creep on her since "I still got it." (PS: buddy, you never "got it," you've always been creepy) It's all about men wanting their ego stroked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 11:14 PM
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Yeah same here. It's not about being nice at one point, it's about not wanting to waste time, effort and emotional energy just screaming into the voids that these people are. We could go blue in the face telling them exactly all the reasons, etc. and they'd still go "BUT whyyyyy??" they don't listen at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 07:34 PM
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Try it anyways, if she's such a pickme, it's likely the husband is LV, and would totally be in a threesome... oh wait, men only want a threesome when it's two women and himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 07:31 PM
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OMG, one of the biggest turn offs is a man using another woman to get him women. All I can think of is a man-child who tugs at his mommy's skirt and whines to her to get him that toy pleeeeaseeee!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 07:30 PM
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Yes! I see this a lot in the CF but I don't mention it because of all the scrotes and pickmes, many men are definitely in the CF lifestyle to be fuckbois, not because they're actually CF. They know women in the CF sub don't have kids and don't want any, so no risk for these men to "care for another man's kid" or "get baby trapped." So yeah, whenever they use the CF label but then go "oh but I would never get a vasectomy" they lose all respect and credibility. They have NO business being in the C…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 06:53 PM
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Totally agreed, the healthcare excuse is pure bullshit. I lack good (if any) healthcare in the US, and I do a LOT of preventative routines: - I got a waterpik and dental tools (they look like pointy metal hooks) for my teeth (on top of floss and brush). Years ago I was told by an (American) dentist that I had a couple tiny cavities that needed to be treated. Dentist in home country said it was nothing to be alarmed of as long as I properly cared for my teeth. I've never been to a dentist for tho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 06:35 PM
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HAH! This coming from a country where female cosmetic surgery is a COMMON GIFT WHEN A GIRL TURNS OF AGE. They literally shame women into fitting literal beauty standards they NATURALLY CANNOT MEET. Maybe they should develop surgery for making dicks bigger? There's already a real surgery to make people taller, so how about instead of whining to women, you men do something about it? You sure were very eager to make Viagra safe for mass consumption! This is also why ugly men whining about how they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 05:58 PM
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Because males in any other part of the world are not generally insane?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 05:52 PM
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"LOL, if he's got such wonderful ladies lining up to date him, why the fuck does he need you matchmaking service?" Imagine being this dumb at shilling his own service.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 05:41 PM
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100% agreed, I don't consider any men who claim to be CF but refuses to get a vasectomy, as CF. It's disgusting how many of those are in the CF subs, claiming to be CF but saying stupid shit like "but muh balls!" or "nobody gets near my junk with a knife!" or "muh manhood!" Of course, he's entitled to his body, his choice... but we CF ladies are NOT obligated to see them in a good light, OR consider dating him, OR feel obligated to pump ourselves full of birth control. And one more thing to anyo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 05:38 PM
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What really gets me about the "sex is not about the destination!" bullshit pickmes and MEN love to tell women, is that it NEVER comes up when it's about men. Men ALWAYS get to the destination, feel ENTITLED to the destination, and you will never, EVER hear a man say "yeah she came and I didn't, but that's cool, I don't need an orgasm every time we have sex." Every fucking time he gets sex, he wants AND expects AND gets a fucking orgasm! So pickmes and men, GTFO with that bullshit. You just don't…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 05:20 PM
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Add to that all the LVM who whine about how they wish they lived in the 50-60's because it was "easier" to get married (more like women had like 3 options back then, the "best" and only socially acceptable one being marriage), and glorify their grandparents marriages of decades, completely ignoring the fact that their grandmas back then had NO other options, and divorce meant lots of stigma and no career opportunities. Yeah buddy, your grandparents stayed together for decades because your grandm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 03:15 AM
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Yeap, they just had different outlets for their depravity back then, same depravity, same amount of violence towards women and children, just different mediums and methods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 11:38 PM
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Dropping all that parasitic weight off of your back made it so you could jump up and soar through all that level up, queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 09:34 PM
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Oh god, even by some friends who most people would consider good people to have around, I've been told I'm "too harsh" with my words. Sorry not sorry I call out shit behavior when I see it, how I see it. We can't win either way: Talk like you're walking around egg shells to not wound their ego? Ugh why can't you be direct and honest, so nobody (usually men) think they might have a chance! Talk directly and honestly (NOT the same as being an asshole, though)? You're a cold-hearted, mean b*tch, wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 09:02 PM
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The time to drop this LVM like a hot potato is long due, my sister.
/r/askFDS30/07/21 08:29 PM
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I have low libido, but a libido in the end, and just thinking about all the BS turns me off on a visceral and mental level. I'm still planning to date in the future, once I take care of my personal situations, but I already know most men won't make the cut from the get go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 04:35 AM
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Same with Wonder Woman actress, I think? Her movie was the best DC movie out of the DC cinematic universe, and I believe she got paid less than the male actors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 04:21 AM
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Exactly this. I'm introverted as hell, but when I need/want to do stuff, I will be very proactive and actually do it. And if f I can do it, regardless of success or failure, why can't a grown ass man? This is why I personally hate men who act "shy," like the dude in OP's story, towards the women they're interested in. All I can imagine is a boy going behind his momma's skirt and wanting her to do the stuff for him. At one point you gotta put your big person pants and go for what you need or want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 11:07 PM
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No need for a reply, just block and delete. If they can't get it after a few women do it, they never will!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 10:52 PM
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Also: This only gives more weapons to LVM/manipulators/conmen into tricking the next woman and make her their new victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:25 PM
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So I just want to ask... how many "hygienic" men do you know? (let alone HVM that don't drink and don't smoke on top of it) Like legit how do you know they properly shower AND scrub well, get in all the nooks and crannies, keep a CLEAN soap sponge/towel, use the proper soap (some people can use whatever, some need specifically sensitive or special soaps) and shampoo and conditioner? Some men MIGHT seem cleaner than others, but I suspect is more likely that the average woman has a better cleansin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:00 PM
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What's worse, it's not that he lacked reading comprehension, he understood perfectly fine, he just didn't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 04:42 PM
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Nope. It's simply because you're allowing a venue to keep contact, and that's the last thing you want with a LVM/NVM. And like others said, gifts are gifts, they aren't given with strings attached or conditions, you gave them back then because you cared. There's nothing wrong with that sentiment, the one who betrayed all of that was the LVM. And think about it this way: if he's so shameless and cared so little about you that he's totally A-Ok with wearing that stuff, that says far more about him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 04:29 PM
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Same, while some hobbies can be harmful (porn addiction) or encourage more low value tendencies in men (videogames, smoking weed, and other very passive activities), generally speaking, the hobby most of the time is not the issue, and I'm personally tired of adults deriding or mocking certain hobbies because they're deemed "for kids" like Lego or "going all out on Comic Con." I'm a geek and proud of it, and there's a ton of talent and discipline in many activities related to comics/manga. For ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 03:50 PM
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Stop all contact. Why are you keeping contact and letting her treat you like a doormat? You yourself said this is one sided, and she's not a real friend, she's a really shitty, low value asshole just treating you like an emotional dumpster. Read your own post again and ask yourself if you'd like it if someone you cared or loved very much was treated the same way.
/r/askFDS27/07/21 05:01 AM
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Absolutely, some jobs require a very different environment than others, so it's understandable that there was an issue with compatibility in that sense. I seriously don't get why he felt he needed to write you paragraphs about how you were "wrong." It's just a matter of different lifestyles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 01:44 AM
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Same here, in the sense that I'd like to be able to visit some places and work remotely, so I can keep saving money, but it's not like that at the moment. Not to mention, we wouldn't do van life for the sake of sitting on our asses and going around being fuckbois, like the LVM in OP's story wants to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 01:05 AM
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This reminds me of a relative, she used to be very independent, went backpacking to several countries, etc., yet she ended up as just a prop and side character for her husband's dream of owning his own restaurant. Now she's stuck learning how to be a manager, do all of the stuff he probably won't do (I didn't pry too much, but since the husband is the one doing the cooking, I doubt he's going to fully focus on the rest of the business, unless it's to supervise her), and is not what she loves to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 10:06 PM
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Right? The way they react to rejection speaks volumes on their low value. OP said she wasn't feeling a connection, then OK, just wish her good luck and move on, buddy! Why do they feel the need to type paragraphs about how she "wrong"? Not feeling a connection or attraction is not wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 09:59 PM
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OMG yes, I already commented above that it's the perfect recipe for being a fuckboi and very easy to cheat on women, on top of getting all the STDs, but I forgot that there's the hobosexual side of it! He'd use the women's beds, bathrooms and kitchens, take their water (both drinkable and for cleaning), etc. I want to one day travel around the US with a van too, and it'd be a way (not ideal, though) to save money, but as a legit life? Eeeehhh, no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 09:49 PM
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I want van life maybe in the future, but I also want a real house. I've been in the van dwellers sub for a loooong time and am very aware of the issues such a life would bring. Not to mention, a man into van life probably lacks certain priorities, and I feel these type of men often don't align with HVM material. (the fact he wants to be "poly" aka a fuckboi, in a van? sounds like the perfect recipe for being a ho, cheating and getting a bunch of STDs... or become bitter because women won't fuck …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 09:43 PM
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What no one tells women is that the "certain differences" and "compromises" are in the majority, things that the woman has to compromise on, not the man. Just another big scam from men to manipulate women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 09:40 PM
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Exactly, women are encouraged, and encourage themselves, to go to therapy, research self-help, adopt healthy routines like changing their diet, changing their sleep schedule, broaden their interests, hobbies and activities, etc. etc. etc. to treat their general health issues (mental or physical). If I was a man, bi or lesbian, I wouldn't see any issue dating a woman with a mental health issue because it's likely they're actively treating them. (of course, if they weren't, and it was a detriment …
/r/askFDS26/07/21 04:48 PM
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And when the topic of male birth control comes up, men are such cowards that they refuse to use it because it has a few side effects... which are similar or less severe than the ones from female birth control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 04:41 PM
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I've had in the past men AND women argue with me that birth control for women is all safe and good, men because they don't really give a fuck as long as it doesn't get a woman pregnant, and women because for them personally it wasn't an issue... while ignoring the hundreds and thousands of OTHER women who DID and DO have issues, even life long ones. I have a friend who tried birth control for 2 years while she was in her previous relationship, and ever since then she's got a couple of conditions…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 04:40 PM
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I'm assuming that her friends were in the house, maybe hiding or on alert just in case anything violent happened, since it sounds like the dude is still outside calling his mommy while they're celebrating her queen energy. Edit: but yeah I was also on the edge of my seat hoping nothing bad happened to her. Men are violent creatures, attacking women mentally and/or physically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:57 AM
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Holy shit, THANK YOU for mentioning this, I was just about to say the exact same thing that he sounds like a mumbling 15yo teen playing dumb! Hearing his stupid mumbling alone is such a goddamn turn off. This lady is strong, confident, and MATURE, and to think these mentally 15yo LVM have the audacity to go around in the world thinking they're big men who can go around fucking over women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:55 AM
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Avoid like the black plague. Source: I have mental health issues.
/r/askFDS26/07/21 01:49 AM
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They think men raping women levels of violence are similar to women ghosting them, they're honestly pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 05:13 AM
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Yeap, don't get me wrong I love being lazy at home just watching TV, but that's something to do with a partner you've been with a long-ass time, not something to do the first few months of dating. Hell, I'd go as far as saying not to do this kind of "date" even a year in. They gotta earn the "at home lazy days" dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 05:10 AM
47

Right? Add to that, nobody goes around masturbating without the goal of an orgasm at the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 05:08 AM
9

I'm so sorry that happened to you, sis. Men's depravity knows no bounds and comes in all gross flavors, unfortunately. I hope those dudes never reproduce and stub their toes every other week (to keep the pain fresh)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 12:02 AM
24

This is so true. I still remember once being a really good friend to a guy I met in college, legit went to his home with all his favorite candy and spent a whole afternoon listening to him cry about his break up. I gave him a lot of emotional support afterwards, too. I genuinely thought we were good friends. Then this dude gets a new girlfriend, and pretty much drops off the face of the earth. During one of my lowest points, I desperately needed some, ANY, friends to support me, so I give him a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:59 PM
37

"men AND women have been conditioned to hate each other" bOtH SiDeS aRe JuSt As bAd, MmMmmMM'kAaAAyyYY??? FFS, their lack of intelligence is really showing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 08:31 PM
43

Absolutely, but usually the well dressed man isn't gonna openly leer and harass a woman in public, they're more likely to be more subtle than that, like they keep the predatory act limited to more private situations, like dates, behind closed doors, etc. On the other hand, men who dress trashy and go out in public like that... Every single time I got harassed in public, it was by a trashy/homeless-like dressed dude. Different kind of predators. We have to be aware of all of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 08:21 PM
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Yes, this right here. I once (pre-FDS) argued with a guy in another reddit about it because he'd say shit likes this online, but then claim that he stayed quiet outside and didn't defend women out loud, so I called him out. You know what he said?? That he, and other men, had to be careful with what they said to other men because they didn't want to get attacked/assaulted. OH GEEZ, DON'T YOU SAY?? Even MEN KNOW that they have to be careful around other men... But "not all men," right!?!?! And "wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 08:15 PM
21

Holy crap, YES. I have less of a workload than a mom, but I've been doing my chores during breaks, and the time you'd waste commuting! It's honestly a huge time saver.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 08:06 PM
87

Let's not forget "cheese dick," which develops after they haven't washed their dicks in a while, and it's especially pronounced in un-circumcised men. I'm sorry for sharing this, but women need to know all the sorts of grossness related to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 02:44 AM
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Milk him for all he's worth, sis! He's the "man of the house" (in the loosest sense of the word, when it comes to LVM), and the father of your child, damn right he has to provide!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:26 PM
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While I don't approve of the situation on your behalf (as in, you and your kids deserve better), I absolutely understand that at this point the alternative is very hard, and as long as you and your kids are relatively safe, then yeah milk that LVM. He has an obligation towards all of you, so at least you're not letting him get out of the minimum (paying the bills and offer a place to live and raise your children).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 06:27 PM
16

LOL at the bitter scrotes downvoting us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 04:03 PM
42

I'm imagining you building your castle, whistling, with a cement scoop in your hand, and then this NVM throws a brick at you, and you catch it with your other hand and just plop the brick with the others and continue building. QUEEN SHIT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 03:36 PM
59

Exactly, and yet even then, men don't think it's worth the infinitesimal effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:26 AM
16

Yeah! It's really crazy how men have been gaslighting women for so long, when we see low value, which is NOT attractive at all, and don't feel any attraction, we internalize it and think it's because WE must be asexual, and it's not men lowering the bar all the way into hell. I'd have no issue if I was actually asexual, but I just don't feel that's the answer for a lot of us women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:22 AM
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I'm a virgin in all sense, and thought myself asexual for a long time... but honestly, whenever I see a physically attractive man (and until I find out he's mentally LV or not), I do feel attraction. Silly example: I reaaaally like that scene of Captain America breaking a log in two, LOL. What I've come to realize is that the average man is not attractive in any way, period. They don't level up mentally and/or physically. Some do improve with exercise, but it's common for them to actually make t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 10:01 PM
44

This is but the many hard proofs that demonstrate how fragile, overt-emotional and irrational men are. Women as a whole have FAR more justifications to resent men. Rape, sex slavery, pedophilia towards little girls, physical abuse, mental abuse, indentured servitude, being treated as second class citizens, stealing our accomplishments, dismissing or ignoring our accomplishments, dismissing our pain, treating us as incubators, calling our children their own (last name), golddigging our money (thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:29 PM
50

Those type of posts aggravate the fuck out of me, I have a bit of morbid curiosity so I can't help reading the occasional one (plus want to know all the ways of men's depravity to be on guard for the future), but now I'm forcing myself to not read or at least dwell too much on them. It's reaaaally annoying when everyone is telling OP that he's no good and they need to break up, and she goes all defensive, snippy and passive aggressive. It's also common for them to start defending the guy up and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 05:12 AM
16

Why am I not surprised there's an age gap, sigh....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:46 AM
1

100% agreed, men can't deal with the amount of pain and frustration women do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:23 AM
3

Oh, when it comes to men, they use that period/PMS bullshit aaaaaanytime a woman reacts angrily/annoyingly, when a man says stupid shit, negs her, or annoys her until the point she's got enough. She could be 100% outside of her period time and still they'd say we have PMS/periods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 11:26 PM
29

Sex is not a necessity, you won't die from not getting it, so it's not an excuse to manipulate and/or rape women. Or kids. Or animals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 09:39 PM
3

You know perfectly well what to do. You know this is a LVM, and you know it's not a good thing that he's breadcrumbing you. If you initiate and push for moving in, marriage, etc. then you're setting up the kind of dynamics you allow in the relationship, AKA he will know he doesn't have to be proactive or initiate anything, and why should he? You'll do it for him, you'll play the role of the man for him while he sits back and reaps the benefits. Also, no, you don't tell these kind of things to an…
/r/askFDS20/07/21 05:44 AM
38

Yeap, I'm jealous, jealous like a man is jealous when it comes to their partner giving their attention and sexual interest to other men. Double standard much? Byeeeeeeeee scrote!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 06:49 PM
21

100% agreed, the audacity of these pedo grandpas! Just because the woman is legally an adult, it doesn't make it any better if the gap is wide enough for him to be her father!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:07 AM
42

Even the "oldest" at 40 is still young enough to be his daughter, what the fuuuuuuuuuuck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 10:52 PM
43

This is exactly it. At one point, in my lowest time in uni, I legitimately looked into selling my eggs, I was that desperate to be able to pay for my school fees and prevent myself from being homeless. I researched a shit ton about it (I did forget most of it by now), and the procedure is invasive as fuck and pretty long, it's not like sperm donation. And the amount of money they give you versus the amount of time you need to spend AND how it fucks up your health, is nowhere near enough. You wil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 07:12 AM
38

Holy shit, this is so true! Last time I went to visit my family in Korea a few years ago, I was hanging around downtown. I saw a few white men, and I swear to god, every single one of them looked so fucking shitty: think baseball cap, ill fitting shirt (or just doughy bodies so the shirts look like shit anyways), cargo shorts or ill fitting pants. No shade to people in tiny towns, but they legit looked like small town American hicks. They also had these kinda expectant attitude around them, like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 12:26 AM
36

Agreed, not harsh at all. It's really annoying to hear people women gaslight women with the "you're harsh/your words are harsh" so much to the point when we are just saying it like it is (which is NOT the same as saying it in an assholish way), we HAVE to put the disclaimer of "sounds harsh but..." Same with the "not all men" bullshit whenever a woman dares complain about men's actions as a group. Heavens forbid a woman said things without babying people or walking on eggshells.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:38 PM
20

Holy shit, I think my last gym also did this, I hated seeing myself in those mirrors because I looked far bigger than in the mirrors at my home. I thought I was just making myself think I was slimmer at home or some crazy shit like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 07:34 PM
28

Something I noticed is that in this type of videos, when it comes to women commenting about men, The wording is usually like this: "SOME men" "I think" "I believe" "...Not all men of course" "...And I know there are good men out there" Meanwhile, men commenting about women, is all: "why YA'LL women" "How do women" "ALL them b+tches" And no hint of "believe" or "think" or anything mentioning it's just "SOME" women. It's really telling on which is the actual fragile, irrational and emotional sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 06:09 PM
74

I love videogames and play a ton of them... HOWEVER, women who play videogames, usually also are on top of their career/job, household chores, have other interests, etc. The hobby doesn't consume them, even when it's their main hobby. While toxic games that cater to men's mysoginy, addiction, etc. exist, playing videogames is kinda like some other hobbies: it's ok as long as you're not obsessed with them. The problem is that men take a hobby and turn it into an obsession. They have no other inte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 05:39 AM
204

"Then I guess you better get to it and die faster?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 10:18 PM
10

Yeah, then when some of us tell them "read the handbook" then they get all snippy. A couple of times I've seen buttburt newbies/pickmes downvote those with a passion, even though it's actually valid. If a lot of newbies actually read the handbook and all the material and posts we already have available, and actually took all that info to heart, most of them wouldn't feel the need to make those kind of posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 07:30 PM
10

Living together happily? Maybe, but given the way both of them treated you, they both sound low value. She's a raging pickme and he's a scrote, no two ways about it. They might look or claim to be happy, but how are things behind doors? The last three most recent relationships I can recall being witness to, they all claim to be "happy" yet only one of them the man seems high value enough to be a positive addition to the woman's life. The other one: one has loads of money, but besides building st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 11:45 PM
6

The fucking audacity, they were all your purchases and he wanted to keep them??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 05:30 AM
17

Heavens forbid he liked SOME color! Ohhh no, that'd make him... gasp! G-g-g-g-gay?? I can't believe how immature men are becoming. They believe liking color or ANY kind of fashion (clothing, house decorations, etc), or caring for your loved ones by cooking, cleaning, etc. means their (toxic) masculinity is in question. Then they demand women to act like their mommy maids, and then demand sexual acts from them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 12:23 AM
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Those are the same LVM who end up with an empty space with only a mattress, a TV, a game console, and maybe a cheap-ass chair, when the women finally have enough and break up, taking with them all the stuff they bought to make the place an actual warm home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:02 PM
84

B-b-b-b-but Men are in their PrImE during their 40s and 60s!!! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 08:52 PM
15

Shit, I'm 36 and even I feel like I'm looking at photos of an old uncle/grandpa.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 11:10 PM
16

To add to arnezuara's comment, personally I've met TWO men in my 36 years of life, that were short (about 5'4" or 5'3") who didn't have a chip on their shoulder about their height, and only one of them seemed HV. The rest were bitter AF about it, "short men, short temper" stereotype is true. Do not allow your family to gaslight you to lower your standards and trick you into the "scarcity" mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 04:31 PM
16

The comments all saying that they just chose not to show the attempts where they made it, the arrogance and self-denial is insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 10:16 PM
12

Excellent post and comments! One thing I want to add: if possible, learn how to run, and run fast and for a long-ass time. While weapons and self-defense knowledge is all good and useful, ideally you don't want to find yourself in a situation with the abuser near you, AKA avoid confrontation and find a safe space. Having the ability and stamina to run can allow you to get away fast, get to a crowded place, or even just outrun these fuckers. Anything to be safe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 10:02 PM
166

Reminds me of the older lady in the Aristocats, widow living lavishly in a mansion with her beautiful cat Duchess and three kittens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:28 PM
36

Also his videogames and/or sport paraphernalia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:39 PM
4

What did you do wrong? Nothing. She's a closeted racist (and classist, from what you've written), and like you said, she doesn't understand NOR wants to understand. I once mentioned to an ex friend in our home country I was really angry because the people were being racist (she's white, I'm Asian) towards Koreans and Chinese people during Covid. These racist fuckers legit put signs around some apartments saying to "avoid them due to covid concerns." You know what the fuck she said? "That happens…
/r/askFDS06/07/21 12:50 AM
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Oh good heavens, thank you for this. It's really irritating to hear women get all defensive and accuse other women of "not supporting their own gender" or any other stupid variation. An example in this sub is when they post about how "HV" their current man is, never mind that they barely began dating, then when you tell them to keep vetting because you can't know they're HV yet, they get all snippy and passive aggressive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 09:23 PM
2

Right? Cutting grass is not a priority, you can put it off for later, but the kids need to be fed, clean, and engaged with every single day. There's no "oh I'll do it later," you have to do that shit every day, 3 times a day. (same if there are no kids, meals still have to be planned and cooked and cleaned up, every day, 2-3 times a day) And yeap, all the "man" work is most of the time, a one time or occasional thing. Buying furniture (fixing, building, whatever) is usually a one time thing. Fix…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 06:38 PM
32

Do you think that someone who genuinely loved your friend, would be already "in love" and out there dating within 5 months? While everyone has different timelines for grieving, personally less than 5 months and already he's dating and in love... it sounds like either he really didn't love your friend, or is dumping all the emotional burden onto this new woman. None of these are actually good situations, remember that men can act and fake it for decades if need be, and since the bar is in hell, w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 03:17 AM
28

Right? This is literally what my cousin does with her 15yo boy. She pays her husband money to do chores, WTF mommy BS is this shit??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:46 AM
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And what's really stupid, is that these same "trad woman" men fully expect her to have a full time job... Excuse me? If these LVM want a trad woman, then they have to 100% pay for everything in the household, including her own expenses, regardless of whether she's got a job/money or not. Trad-men pay for everything, and do all the heavy duty stuff in the household like building furniture, moving heavy things, fixing the plumbing, electricity, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:42 AM
63

Triangulation. He's making you feel insecure by implying he finds other women more attractive, AKA making you compete against other women for him. Drop him sis, you deserve better.
/r/askFDS04/07/21 01:35 AM
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Women need to stop believing that, when a man treats them poorly, it’s because they deserve it or have some inherent flaw. Yeap, and this is basically men (and by extension, pickmes) gaslighting all women. The most basic example is: a woman get raped, first question is "what was she wearing?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 07:57 PM
30

This is very important. Friends, at least for women, doesn't mean just someone to hang out with, it means a person to share your worries with and to seek support (and the other way round). You simply can't do these things with a raging pick me, and I'm not talking about dating advice, either. Misogyny is pervasive as fuck, we're basically swimming in it, and pickmes (which is the majority of women, unfortunately) will try to take you down for having "high" standards. I have acquaintances (I can'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 07:33 PM
16

I really hope that ex friend got some therapy. While there's plenty of low value people among women, a lot of them need therapy and to, well, get some FDS in their lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 11:23 PM
29

Imagine if they channeled that energy into something healthy and constructive. Maybe hit the gym and go to a woodworking class.... nah, that's not manly, better stalk and try to invade women's spaces behind a screen and anonimity, now that's manly! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 11:22 PM
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I thought about it too, but we've had misogyny for far longer than porn, so I guess it's just a slightly newer layer of shit among all the layers of the shit cake that is misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 03:27 AM
4

Not sure if you like videogames, but I recently got the Ring Fit for the Nintendo Switch, and it's helping a LOT at actually sticking around with regular exercise! It's a combination of adventure and exercise, and to defeat the monsters you have to do different exercises, so it feels like less of a chore, at least to me. There's also "Just Dance" games (there's several ones) or even "Zumba: Burn it up!," you can get used copies to keep costs low. Of course this is assuming you either have a Nint…
/r/askFDS30/06/21 11:44 PM
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I bet my top dollar it's misogyny AND a shit ton of porn. He's not even fucking legal yet (17, he's a freaking kid), but that level of desire for sexual violence shouldn't be present at that age (or ever, but that's a whole other topic), the men who get that aroused by violence consumed a ton of porn, so much that they got "bored" by the regular stuff and kept on seeking more and more extreme stuff. So he must've been exposed to tons of porn since he was around 12.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:14 PM
22

Now this is the kind of ring I like!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:18 AM
80

They should just get a height surgery, it's a real procedure. Men out there genuinely expecting their partners to get boob, ass, and face surgery, forcing women into a thousand unrealistic body expectations, and they can't even handle a little cold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:17 AM
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Remember, most boundaries and dealbreakers are only such when they're applied to men. Videogames? Women are ok, most love it as a hobby and don't neglect other areas of their life, and have other hobbies. For men though, it's usually a red flag. Nude sleeping? I can say that most women wash regularly and change and wash bed sheets regularly. Men though, run like the wind, dude is smearing all the dirt, sweat and dead skin cells all over the bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:25 PM
21

HA! This dude will cheat and/or divorce, then he'll be in a rude awakening, when he has to clean, cook and wash after himself. I bet his wife chooses his clothing too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:58 PM
131

Yeappp, My whole family is Korean, my grandma was a manipulative, abusive asshole, and my mom took the brunt of abusiveness. My mom was pretty much not only a servant, but a punching bag AND "competition" for my dad's affection, which was really disgusting seeing my dad was NOT her favorite son, oh no, that went for her first born son. My parents were just the piggy banks and punching bag. for those criminals (she and him (and one more son, she had three sons) stole thousands of dollars from my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:53 PM
186

I remember a long time ago, someone shared a tiktok/YT video of a pickme taking her bf's BROWN AF disgusting pillows, she put them in the washer, it wasn't enough, so she filled the bathroom tub and poked them with a stick. Fucking pillows were flat and brown, like legit you'd think they were originally that color... nope, they were WHITE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:02 PM
6

I used to be 5 year max give or take, but I lowered it down to 2-3 years. I think a slightly bigger gap is kind of OK if you are the older one and he's the younger one (no more than 5-6 though, a gap is still a gap). Not that it guarantees anything, but even in Western cultures there's power dynamics just due to being the older one. Not as strong as in some Asian countries, but enough for me to go "nah, sis" if he's the older one, because he will, in some way, see himself as superior and you as …
/r/askFDS29/06/21 12:09 AM
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What really fucking gets to me is that if there had been no global knowledge about this (global outcry)... would they have let her walk free? The fact that she was put on fucking trial alone, makes my cynical self think that she would've been jailed. The people who thought it was a good idea to put her on trial alone are a fucking disgrace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 09:55 PM
98

This is insanely dangerous thought, dental hygiene is vital, the wrong ailment in the mouth can lead to horrible, life long consequences of pain and a shittier existence. He's gonna pay for that dearly when he becomes an old man. And if he treats the rest of his body the same way as his teeth, he's gonna age waaaay faster than the average person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 06:36 AM
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Oh! Add to that, the dust in the air AND the dead skin cells get stuck and mixed with the natural oils and sweat of the body. This is particularly stronger in parts like all the crevices of the ear (everything just before the earhole starts) and behind too, armpits, belly button, and crotch and butt area. Not all of it goes away from the body after a shower (especially if it was a shitty shower), and it's why it's important to regularly wash towels too. Can you believe I feel the need to add the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 06:34 AM
69

WTF is going on with his chest?? Is that... hair? I swear I'm just looking at a blob. And did he think he looked " sexy" with that rumpled, ill fitted top zipped down? He's 10 years my senior, but from that snipped of photo alone I feel I'm looking at my uncle or dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 03:50 AM
50

It's truly baffling how a lifetime of being spoiled and the world catering to your sex does to a person. I'm personally feeling second hand embarrassment from these gold digger dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 02:33 AM
73

Ohhhh but then SHE should spend HER money to get it, not himmm! /s (100% bet he'd say this shit unironically, though)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 12:28 AM
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To be honest, I've read a lot of Prudence when she appeared a few times here and in the CF sub, and while generally she gives good advice, she also offers a LOT of pickme advice, like above. It's a shame because she's in a position to speak bluntly, but must subconsciously baby men like this LVM because he might throw a mantrum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 12:27 AM
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Oh god, ok so I particularly hate when men try to whine or play the pity card to get some "downstairs kitty cat" (love hotmessexpress!), it's just the most unmanly, pathetic shit ever. I can practically feel my vagina drying up and closing the doors with 50 locks. The only ones I can justify whining and trying to play the pity card are toddlers, because they're literally growing and need to be taught. a grown man acting like a toddler?? Fuuuuuuuck, I'm not a pedo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 08:38 PM
73

Exactly this. Regardless of OP feeling attracted to him (until now), this feels really inappropriate. They're work colleagues, not friends. I don't go hugging coworkers unless we end up getting along really well, and only women. I think in my subconscious I knew it was always a bad idea to hug men, so I rarely did it outside actual friends or family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 08:00 PM
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Nah sis, unless your friend has FDS values, she doesn't know shit, and this isn't me being mean, it's literally (and sadly) the truth that most women out there are pickmes, and thus will unknowingly gaslight you the way society has been brainwashing us to do so our whole lives. The other commenters already made excellent points oh why it's a huge red flag and he's both gaslighting you and triangulating you. And then the very fact is that your gut itself is telling you that what he's saying and d…
/r/askFDS24/06/21 03:46 PM
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Oh yeah, definitely I don't trust most of the older women's advice. Like it or not, the reality is that they had far fewer resources, and were deeply, deeeeeply entrenched in patriarchy their whole lives. That's not really gonna change for most of them, AKA most of them out there are LVW and/or pickmes. It's frustrating and sad, but it is what it is. My mom last time we talked told me in a couple there are "compromises" and what you should bring to the relationship, and I cut her off and I told …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 07:49 PM
299

Indeed, most LVM don't look their age. Their bodies are 10-20 years older, and their minds have the maturity of spoiled toddlers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 12:14 AM
91

Addendum: Do not contact me if you are AND/OR look over 50 (but of course, dusty scrotes will still attempt to contact you because they don't care about women's boundaries)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 12:13 AM
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The only reason these types of jobs are heavily male populated is because if a woman dared to do them, they'd be discriminated against by the sexist men AND the sexist customers. Too many women get the "is there a man around?" when they attempt to help a customer. I really wish there was a service of female plumbers, electricians, etc., I'd feel a lot safer hiring them. But of course, that'd get all the LVM crying and whining about how "sexist" it is, and demand to be included (reminds me of the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 12:09 AM
7

But he's totally cool with being surrounded daily, down to this mattress and covers, in "foreign shit," given how much stuff is still made in China, Vietnam, Hong Kong, and so on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 10:03 PM
24

Wow, he basically used you as a free therapist. The insane amount of men who need to go to a therapist is insane. GO TO A THERAPIST, MEN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 10:01 PM
4

Yeap, also women, and not just autobans. Plenty of women would get angry and uppity when they broke a rule and got banned for a short period of time, a few demanded to get a warning the first time, as if the mods don't already have like a million things on their plates on top of their lives outside of Reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 04:17 PM
7

Typical scrote, leaving shit until the very last minute, thinking he's too good for instructions, and then getting mad when someone points out their shitty work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 05:38 AM
2

Fuck no, what the fuck, right person?? He sounds LV as hell. Drop him and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 01:25 AM
7

I'm morbidly curious, since I always built my own furniture, but I fear for the worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 01:08 AM
8

She also posts in Instagram, if you have an account!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 01:07 AM
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Don't forget the tragic gradual merging of his neck and chin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 11:18 PM
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Right? I don't trust such emotionally fragile yet entitled creatures, and we actually have vast amounts of data (both factual and anecdotal) spanning millennia to back up our lack of trust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 11:15 PM
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OMG I still remember reading a comment/post a long time ago about how a dude was puffing his chest for "cooking" for his date... and it was fucking mac and cheese from the box?? I don't remember the specifics, but I remember thinking how ridiculous he was. Imagine a grown ass man thinking a box meal is a big accomplishment and feels entitled to women's praise, like a 5yo doing sth for the first time and showing it to his mommy. Maybe if you're 16, but any older and I'm not gonna gush over a man …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 02:02 AM
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I think that goes for a lot of women, I grew up with Disney princesses (before Disney actually made a Disney Princesses brand, I'm not that young) and movies/shows for women hyperfocusing on romance (super pickme stuff), and being told that a romantic partner is the bestest thing to happen, that you NEED one, that life is miserable without one... (mostly for women, stories for men didn't focus on that, they "got" the woman as a prize on the side of the main plot) and then when we actually experi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 01:43 AM
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36yo virgin here, and I absolutely, agree. I find it the idea of just sleeping around too much in general not a great thing. I just don't believe sex doesn't affect the mind if you "misuse" it, and like you said, it's pretty gross when you think about how it's far more likely the women involved didn't enjoy themselves at all. I'm not saying to only have sex with 1-2 people in your life, of course. I just believe that people (men included) should curate their partners carefully first, develop fee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 04:53 AM
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I agree with this, having a day a week to vent is much better than having it post every day, all day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 10:39 PM
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Given how men who knew the Olsen Twins had an actual countdown for when they turned 18, and GOT stupid writers waited couldn't even wait a second after Arya's actress turned legal to take her clothes off in the show, it doesn't surprise me to rightfully suspect that most men are covert pedophiles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 09:53 PM
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To add to this, any woman who is childfree, do your best to get sterilized ASAP. No joke, I legit see in the future they force women to either give birth, or start forcing us into childcare roles, either by forceful adoption, more taxes, limiting our job opportunities/paths...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 07:40 PM
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The outrage posting being curbed, thank you so much. I've seen more of them lately and while SOME are useful, so many of them are, frankly, depressing as fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 05:59 PM
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Exactly this! I'm 36 this year and according to misogyny I'm "over the hill," not to mention I'm not conventionally attractive (and I'm fat, which is like ultimate ugliness to LVM). Unless I use OLD, which like you said, it's drilled here to not be a good way to date AT ALL, I'm not sure what they expect from us at this point. We also drill here that men are the ones who do the chasing, and so they should chase us. Men don't wanna do the chasing, they're spoiled toddlers, OK then what? While I'm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 10:56 PM
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Sounds like a hobosexual, pass. Not even gonna entertain that shit, I prefer to be like the older retired ladies who keep their spaces, go out to date whoever they want, and then come back to their nice, clean, private places. Meanwhile, older retired men are just tripping over themselves to get one of these ladies to marry them. These ladies KNOW, that if they marry any of their fellow old men, that they will haev to clean, cook, give therapy and overall play caretaker (and even use their own m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:19 PM
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femalelevelupstrategy is a good one, since it's basically a branch of FDS without the focus on dating so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:03 PM
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It's been a while so maybe they relaxed a little, or maybe it depends on what moods the mods are on that day, or maybe they see you mention FDS in a supportive light and you get reported and that's how they catch you, or maybe they go through random people's history and they see you participate in FDS, who knows?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:59 PM
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Oh absolutely, some of them are very helpful, I've just been seeing more of them lately, and there's not much to do besides share our outrage because 1) they're screenshots, the original OP would never see our comments 2) even if they did, they would get defensive. Most of these already declare at the end that they are not leaving their LVM partner. I do agree they have a space, maybe I'm just focusing on them a bit more because some of them are insane, and I'm familiar with the handbook at this…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:22 PM
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It's been quite some time, but essentially they have certain ideals that align more with libfem/pickme ideologies. Some people get banned here for saying inappropriate things, they get salty and migrate to there, complain about FDS there and I guess the mods there also don't align a lot with FDS ideals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:57 PM
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Same here, I've been in that sub, and there's some pickme/libfem vibes still, on top of being hostile towards FDS. I had another account and was actually banned just for being subscribed to FDS, I didn't even say anything weird or controversial, I mostly lurked and only wrote positive/supportive comments. They really don't like FDS there, at least from what I've seen, and I feel FDS aligns far better with my ideals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:26 PM
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I agree, it's crazy how they manipulate the narrative by changing the words. "Breath play" sounds nonethreatening, I mean, kids "play"! STRANGULATION, on the other hand, the far more accurate word, shows without fanfare how fucked up and dangerous the action is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:18 PM
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I love bringing up this study made in Korea, it was initially about how more educated women realized how sexist and misogynistic their culture is and how it leads to higher chances of depression, but some of the data they pulled out was how only 20% of men were in favor of women focusing on work/career (rolled my eyes here, sisters), 80% of women were in favor, yet despite all the discrimination, sexism, opposition, etc. Korean women still managed to outperform men by being more than half of the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:55 PM
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Yeap, I remember seeing a lot more of them at one point, and they were so fucking predictable. Some sisters would tell the OP to still be cautious and keep on vetting, and OP more often than not would get all uppity and defensive. They still radiated such pickme energy, I stopped bothering to click or read at all once I figured out the type of post it was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 05:57 PM
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Sis, you're a beautiful queen! Embrace your self, which includes your height. Those assholes from school don't know shit, insecure, fragile LVM and raging pickmes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 05:34 PM
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Which is insane too, because women are the ones who require a higher percentage of body fat to be healthy (20-30%), and men's is lower (14-24%), so by all means they're the ones who shouldn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:45 AM
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Exactly, then they come crying to other people (us), expecting there to be some magic solution/cure for their partner's LV behavior, and when we tell her, "no there isn't one, best to break up with him," they get all defensive and even start bitching at everyone for daring to mention it, and defend their shitty LVM. Sorry not sorry, I don't feel like giving my empathy, care, energy and shoulder to cry on to someone who's so deep they spit on my face after trying to help anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:17 AM
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Yes! PLEASE at least get a goddamn man-bra, sorry not sorry your tits are not attractive, and yes, at one point they look and feel like actual breasts in all that matters. We women don't wanna see them poking through your graphic tee. And before anyone whines about how men get soft with age, blah blah blah, STFU. I can count at least 3 men in my family who do their due diligence and work out and keep themselves in shape, watch what they eat, etc. and they do NOT have man breasts (and no, they're…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:11 AM
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I would've loved for this podcast (and the one about autism in women, too) if it was 2-3hrs long, I absolutely enjoyed listening to our FDS queens talk with another high value woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:45 PM
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I legit see 20yos faces and even my own from past photos, and my god, we were all freaking kids. I started realizing this when I was about 26 too, so it's particularly creepy when men around that age go creep on 18-20yo college girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:43 PM
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Absolutely, I'd use a goddamn star emoji to replace it if that's what it takes. LVM trying to bully women's speech into silence, once again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:38 PM
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They absolutely cannot. Hell, the whole "I was rejected/hung up by a girl during my childhood ONCE, and I still remember every single detail about her" is a common (stupid, but common) trope among MALE characters. Usually it's used as a joke, but it alone absolutely shows that men cannot handle it, and would not be able to handle to insane, constant, daily, life time pressure and abuse women have to live through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:36 PM
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I legit get triggered by these kind of posts, I know they are important here, but I've seen so many lately, I have to log off and put some wholesome show or anything nice in the background for a while. I absolutely cannot stand when these poor women come to reddit/forums and describe disgusting, vile, disrespectful situations a man is putting them through, like they literally write all this shit down themselves, it's THEIR words! And then still end all up with a "I am NOT leaving SO." Fucking he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:32 PM
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Not only an honor, but most of the world scares women into marriage. Ohhh you're gonna end up all alone! Nobody is gonna love you! But you need a man to protect and provide for you! You're expired goods after 25-35, better get a man soon to start pumping those babies (if you want them)! Something must be wrong with you if no man wants to marry you! If we think about it, women are literally terrorized into wanting marriage. They attack our individuality, our femininity, our value, our worth, our …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 04:35 AM
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Yes! I drive regularly through a street, and there's two separate, giant ads for wrinkles, that say "it's all fun and games... until a wrinkle appears" and they have this crazy young female model with a sad face checking out a nonexistent wrinkle! Fuck that shit. I now declare wrinkles are a symbol of perseverance. We got to this point in life, one way or another. Celebrate those wrinkles, goddammit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:11 PM
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TIME TO FOLLOW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:39 PM
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I already loved her, but when she said that my love multiplied by 10, LOL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:38 PM
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"this shit is terrifying" Waaaaaaaah someone called me out on my bullshit, waaaaahhh! Men are disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:33 PM
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Yeahhh whenever you experience that, drop that acquaintance. I've had that happen to me before, and every time it freaked me out and I ran the other direction real quick. Nobody who wants a, actual, healthy relationship with you should start lovebombing or trauma sharing (that's what would happen to me, a few acquaintances would share really traumatic experiences within a very short time of starting to hang out. She's not a friend, she was in it for the emotional labor and free therapy. Drop her…
/r/askFDS11/06/21 06:50 PM
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"I'm sorry if this hurts you. I wanted to at least give you closure and not abandoning you as your ex and your mutual friends did" That's some passive aggressive bullshit right there. She doesn't sound nice. I'm an extra b+tch, so I'd say dropping her like a hot potato, like she implied (give you "closure") is the best course of action. She doesn't sound like a good person, and someone to keep in your life. Remember the "sunk cost fallacy." Just because you feel invested and loving in the relati…
/r/askFDS11/06/21 03:39 PM
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Wow, I love these!!! I've never been a regular swimsuit kind of person, so I'm loving that they have shirt and skirt style types! Thank you for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 12:35 AM
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Ok so I'm obsessed with skincare (I legit have 4 different types of sunscreen, another one on the way), I googled burkinis and holy crap, I WANT ONE. They look modest and cover the whole body without obstructing movement. I would get a modified piece without the head and neck part if I could, mostly because I generally don't like stuff around my neck and around my head. (I highly suspect it's a thyroid thing, even regular shirt necks bother me) Also FUCKING YES to wearing this on a "beach date"!…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 12:09 AM
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Then they wonder why they have shitty hair scalps and shitty skin all over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:49 PM
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Yeah, men are so fragile and emotional, but this ain't one of those times. It takes a VERY significant amount of not only time and planning, but also diligence and cold premeditation to orchestrate this. I mean weeks of planning at least. He knew 100% what he was doing, and now is trying to hide behind the "emotions got the better of me" bullshit excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:33 PM
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Most deadbeat LVM paying child support get off easy. Either the amount is laughably low, or they refuse to get jobs, move to other countries, etc. to avoid paying, and the mother never sees a dime of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:31 PM
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Beards can hide weak chins and definitely hide fecal matter. Also, since men are so hell bent on doing shit like "take her to the beach as first date so she can't wear make up and lie about her face, hurr durr" then we can demand they shave their beard on the first date so we can see their real face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:21 PM
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I should've thought of that... in the end, it's about their pee pee again, sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:53 PM
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To add to this: old dusty LVM are absolutely gold-diggers. They steal that young woman's life force, steal her youngest years when she should be focusing on growing her individuality and career, her emotional labor, her sexual energy, and yes, even her money! Men are the biggest gold diggers. Nothing anyone says can tell me otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:03 PM
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What the fuck are they wasting that shower water for? Seriously, men are gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:00 PM
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Add to that group, the men who are pretty much in a relationship with their beard, yet they have fecal matter in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:59 PM
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Not sure if this is appropriate and please forgive me if I don't use the correct words/phrases (do correct me when I do so), but for our sisters in the autism spectrum, do you have any tips/resources/advice for someone who suspects is within the spectrum? I've visited the asper ladies sub, and took several tests in the "embrace autism" website. Since autism in women has only recently started to get studied, there's still a lot of misconceptions and lack of information, and really hard to get dia…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:39 PM
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Queen, do NOT do it! He doesn't deserve the 2-4 texts a year, let alone a fucking organ from you! Remember all the shit he did to you, how he abused you, demeaned you, sexually abuse you (YES, talking inappropriately about your child's sexuality and body IS sexual abuse!). Hell, he made a little girl cry just because of a grade, and B+ IS a good grade!). Just the fact he didn't even fucking call when you were in the hospital, would be enough reason to tell him to fuck off. He doesn't care about …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:27 PM
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Lilith you're a queen, and you're right this website is undeserving of not only your content and efforts, but all the queens here. I absolutely understand as I did the same and I had nowhere near the amount of abuse other queens here receive on a daily basis, let alone our wonderful mods. I look forward to the podcasts and any content you write in the website/newsletter!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:18 PM
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OMFG, it just infuriates me whenever I see a man in the childfree sub claim he's childfree, but refuses to get a fucking vasectomy. You can't claim to be a childfree man, and then expect to put ALL the burden of birth control (which includes abortion) on the woman. I do NOT consider those LVM, childfree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:09 PM
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I actually 100% agree with this. As much as I love Miranda in how she owns the space she's in, she IS an awful boss, and needs to focus more on other aspects of her life besides her work. Not to mention expecting Andie to get her a plane during a hurricane on her OFF DAY is a disgrace and absolutely unreasonable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:06 PM
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Even the other assistant, she was a total asshole from the get go, but she was honest about it. She didn't pretend to like Andie, and also after she warmed up to Andie, she genuinely thanked her (when she couldn't remember the name during the party), she was genuine with Andie on why she was upset (hospital scene), and it was far less to do with Andie herself and more with Andie not loving and pursuing a fashion career and still have the chances other people dreamed of because she worked her ass…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:03 PM
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Holy shit, I hate that scene so much, it triggers the fuck out of me. So she makes a fucking effort to support her friend's careers, like going to that art gallery opening even though she's fucking swamped with her own work, and thinks of her friends and bf when she brings all those gifts, and they mock her eagerness to take her job seriously, and then act like the victims? I wanted to punch them all in the face. I love that movie because Miranda is a boss ass bitch, she looks AMAZING. She goes …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:55 PM
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You wanna know the worst part? The wife didn't do anything besides confirm that yeah, she got a call from the manager telling her her husband was a creep. She was even folding their laundry while the whole stupid "conversation" (AKA he trying to paint himself as the sweet, shy, awkward nerdy boy who is just "overwhelmed" by realizing SOME women find him attractive. /s). Imagine how fucking creepy you have to be for a business to actually call your place?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:37 AM
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YES, THANK YOU. The wife took it upon herself, among ALL the other things she must do (I 100% bet she takes care of 99% of the childcare, cleaning, etc.) to bring a solution that allowed her LV husband to be a fucking pig. She figured it out and acted on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:55 AM
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A few bad apples, but if a woman gets raped, first thing they ask is "what was she wearing??" Implying men cannot control themselves when they see some skin, so it's her fault for "flaunting" herself. Which is it then, are they the "logical" gender, or are they the "controlled by our natural instincts" gender? They want it both ways, and have been gaslighting us for millennia about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:52 AM
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....Wow. You know that feeling when you see some people reveal the depths of stupidity, to the point you actually feel your brain cells dying by proxy? Now multiply that feeling by 4.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:32 AM
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This is one of the many reasons I hate The Big Bang Theory. No matter what episode I watched (and truthfully, I didn't watch that many) there was always something cringy about it. The most recent one was about this dude who was married to this super hot lady, and one day he got SUPER obsessed with a waitress in a restaurant to the point he went to the restaurant and creeped her the fuck out. The manager called their house, and the wife picked up the call. It was so fucking disgusting, even when …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:28 AM
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For me I need a good 40mins (give or take) to gradually work up to a level of arousal that preps me for an orgasm. If I go too quickly or hard, my orgasms are unsatisfying and even hurt my sensitive parts (not just the clit, but the labia and such) since I was too quick/rough. I also realized that if I attempt to get one orgasm every day, they are gradually less and less good. If I skip a day or more, the likelihood of a more intense, satisfying orgasm is higher. (this is why I absolutely accept…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:18 AM
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That sounds awful! I'm sorry to hear that your mom puts you down like that. It's a real shame that the one woman we're told by society to trust, love and respect the most when we start existing, is one of the many who can't/won't support our value as an individual. Our mothers are too deep into the patriarchy, I get it, but it doesn't take away the fact it sucks. Luckily my mom at least doesn't give me much shit (and we live in different countries), like she agrees any man I marry has to not onl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:57 AM
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Exactly what this queen is saying! I understand 100% the feeling of wanting to "stand up" for ourselves, but when the cards are down, I much rather every single queen here was safe and sound at the end, and if that means choosing the safest, AKA the action that might feel like it's not the most badass, then please, do so! Be safe, get away from the creep, then come here and let's support each other. Like calico_moon said, I'm also super proud of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:24 AM
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I know, right? And if he gave that excuse, the easiest, simplest (although not cheapest) solution is to get takeout or delivery. He literally has NO excuse to steal food from the family he's supposed to protect and provide for. (I know I already said that in my first comment, but it's just fucking baffling) This poor lady would literally have more food, more resources and more energy if she just was a divorced, single mom. He's stealing the life force from both her AND her kids (he's not even a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:17 AM
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What really gets me is that he could just as well buy MORE food. That's it. That's the "solution," not the best one, but the easiest one that would mean not taking food away from the people he's supposed to provide and protect. He wants to eat 2 more meals a day? Then buy the food, make easy, large recipes (like throw everything in a crockpot ones), get takeout, etc., but to get angry when he literally steals ALL meals out of his wife and kid's mouths, that SHE prepared (so it's essentially, her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:43 AM
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I'm 35, went to about 3-4 dates, never kissed or had sex, never went past the 1st date. A couple were not bad, but I never had that spark. When I turned 25, I had an emotional breakdown, pretty much feeling worthless, a loser, unaccomplished, ugly, etc. etc., for not only being still in school, but for "failing" to, at that point, have a boyfriend to marry and have kids before 30. (all the things we've been brainwashed and gaslit to believe about what we women "have" to do to be worthy of our wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:36 AM
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LOL I told something like this to my mom recently, at every opportunity she wants me to find a man to marry, and somehow it ended up with a question kinda like this, and I said I know 100% what I, as a woman, can offer. I am clean, I am organized, I am mindful, I can cook (I don't like it, but I can do it), I eat healthy, I have daily routines of skincare for my whole body, etc. etc. etc. that's on top of working a full time job. What do men have to offer, besides money? Which I already make? Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:44 PM
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his trust in women So even after all of that, after everything his ex wife provided for him, he ultimately blames her (and women) for him "losing" everything. And also, that he was back 20 minutes after storming off is just so funny to me. Legit he probably thought she'd chase after him, trying to soothe his fragile, wounded ego, and apologize profusely to him. In my opinion OP should divorce him, but as long as it's her choice and she's not wasting any more of her energy than necessary, I suppo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:33 PM
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Yeah, and it's not like other items that you can just return and get your money back. I mean I guess technically you can, but personally I'd never return hygiene reusable items I already used.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 09:37 PM
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So effective, the second she shared her anecdote with us, it became our birth control too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 09:34 PM
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step-sister is one of the most popular porn categories. It's basically incest but without the "icky/taboo" part of actually fucking a blood related sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:36 AM
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Hell, there's even a tribe in Africa I think, that is all women who chose to gather together and have a female only village, and they get regularly attacked (attempt) by men. I can only thing of Wonder Woman's fictional village of Amazoness in her island, and even them got "invaded" by a man as part of the plot of the first movie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:22 AM
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especially when it’s not explicitly ”you’re hot and I want to go out with you“ (that’s what I mean by grey) This isn't gray, not where it really matters. This is how a lot of abusers start, and why they keep their "nice guy" persona in front of other people. He's not saying anything explicit on purpose, AKA plausible deniability, for the exact reason you just explained (you're afraid of telling your boss/coworkers since he didn't outright mention dating, so no one will believe you). He asks to b…
/r/askFDS06/06/21 10:38 PM
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There's NO gray area, sis. This is all incredibly problematic and the more you tell us, the more red flags we see from this guy. And this is from YOUR perspective, where you are actively trying to give him the benefit of the doubt! That's how dangerous this situation is. So not only he was testing/pushing your boundaries (which is NOT ok. Just because he backed off after you told him no to the constant text, doesn't negate the fact he went ahead and did it before), he also has this act up of a "…
/r/askFDS06/06/21 04:02 AM
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I strongly recommend that you return the gift as soon as you can, regardless of how much you like it. Say that you are grateful, and that you appreciate that he valued your professional qualities, and that the intention is good, AND return it. Some thing that I realized later in life: when someone gives you something, and it's something you really like, and if you end up in bad or awkward terms with that person, the gift essentially makes you remember or have lingering thoughts about the person …
/r/askFDS06/06/21 01:10 AM
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they just can't won't do it themselves. Absolutely as a full grown adult, they have the capabilities to properly care for the household and children, they just want to dump it all on women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:33 PM
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Thank you so much! I'll check it out tonight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:52 AM
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Goddamn, I want to watch that (or at least that scene) right now. Do you know the name if the show/movie? Check out Open Mind by Wonho, that music video is pure eye candy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:27 AM
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Hilarious how almost every type of self care/general taking care of yourself isn't 'manly'. Then 20 years later when they look like a shriveled potato, they turn around and whine like toddlers at their wives/girlfriends to get them some sunblock, cook them healthier meals (and plan and prep all that shit), and motivate them to exercise. Even go as far as blame them for his unhealthiness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:16 AM
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If that's a fetish, what the fuck are you doing kink shaming her and/or us, you attention seeking knob? I want to put that in a tweet, but I rather not give any more attention to this pickme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:11 AM
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I feel so sorry for that child. Due to her vehement denial, that child will suffer from not getting proper treatment and education according to their conditions, whatever they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 11:12 PM
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Welp, time to rewatch this movie with a new set of eyes! FDS eyes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:16 PM
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Stories like this (and many more) are one of the many reasons I stay not only a virgin, but also want a bisalp ASAP. Had one person (the only one I told so far) basically be confused and ask me "but you're single, WhY dO YoU NeEd It??" (rest assured, I quickly remembered why I didn't tell this person my personal thoughts before) Rape happens, and there's like ten thousand different flavors of it. Rape is horrific in and of itself, but the risk of an unwanted pregnancy adds an extra layer of nigh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:53 PM
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There's also the one where a woman woke up when her partner tried to cut out the birth control that gets inserted in the arm. Men are absolutely fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:48 PM
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I would've paid top dollar to not only help you move out all your things, but also get some drinks afterwards! (and some popcorn during the move to see his reaction, LOL)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:59 AM
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Don't kink shame cannibalism! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:29 AM
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This reminds me of an uncle. He's a complete selfish scumbag, stole tens of thousands of dollars from my parents, is basically a criminal (he owes money to a LOT of people), shitty parent... but he once helped a woman with her car. She ran out of gas, and he went and actually bought one of those gas bottles from the gas station, and filled her tank. This dude has 6 (that I know of) kids, none of them want anything to do with him. He had the audacity to try and give shit to some of his kids for n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:23 AM
95

It must be hard to split a 10 dollar bill at a coffee "date." /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:59 PM
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Sent a few text messages, that's like 5 calories per message! What an effort /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:19 PM
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Personally it's the connotation that gets me. An older woman using honey/sweety/darling sounds like a sweet gradnma doting on you, which I love. An older man saying those same words, sounds like a gross creep trying to "shoot his shot," or at least, being condescending to you. I used to think older people, including men, were harmless and treated everyone young enough as a grandkid, so no sexual/sexist connotations. Now that I know the real depths of men's depravity, it's a safer bet to believe …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:15 PM
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I don't have any rings since I work a lot with my hands, but this is such a lovely reason to get one! I'm sorely tempted to get myself an emerald ring, or at least an emerald necklace/earrings (those would be a little easier for me since they're not in the hands when I'm doing stuff. Does anyone have any tips on how/where to get good, authentic (when I say this I just mean real gems/materials, no fakes. Lab grown is perfect), ethical jewelry?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:07 PM
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100% would bet good money he either 1) got rejected only once or twice, and is exaggerating and making it sound crueler than it was 2) most likely, he just played that stupid friendzone bullshit tactic of pretending to become a woman's friend, and expected the women to read his mind and throw themselves at him. No pity for this asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:01 PM
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It's not even good sausage most of the time. Biggest scam in the world, brainwash women into believing most sausage is good, when most sausage is gross and useless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:51 PM
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Yeah I don't know them, but as far as the video, it seems he acknowledges her work at home as the manager and caretaker of the household. Hopefully that means they budget for that, so if anything were to happen, she's not coming out penniless out of the relationship. I really hope he's actually HV and they stay together and be happy. A few months ago a couple who had a YT channel divorced, and up until then, they genuinely looked like the epitome of the ideal married relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:40 PM
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It just shows how pervasively entrenched the male gaze is in our world. I literally had relatives (male and female) tell me "you have a lot of stuff," and I'm like "hmmm no?" I have kitchen, bedroom and bathroom supplies, cleaning and office supplies, clothes, shoes, my gadgets, and a few things from my hobbies... then even more basic furniture like a bed, drawers, desk, a shelf. That's the most basic shit for a single person to live with, how is that a "lot" of things? Like you said, society th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:36 PM
31

Meanwhile, the REAL crime is women refusing to lower their standards and date any man who asks them out! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:22 PM
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Right? Men peak during their 20s, it's all downhill for them afterwards. The entitlement and inflated ego is so astounding, they believe they have no wall, but they do have a wall and they hit it, hard, and so fucking early.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:18 PM
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Nah, who cares about the women's pleasure? /s He wants both of them to service him, it's got nothing to do with their pleasure, it's all about HIS pleasure and ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:31 PM
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Easy, it proves that a LOT of men don't 1) wash their hands after going to the bathroom 2) don't wash their beards every day. Then add all the liquids/oil and crumbs from food, it quickly becomes a disgusting mess. Beards are fine in an ideal setting where men would actually be trusted to keep a hygiene and grooming beard habits... but they don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:53 AM
68

Say you're a pedophile without saying the word pedophile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:54 PM
26

Yeah, while not my main reason (I just don't want to be a mom), it's one of many. I don't have any hope that things will get better before they get even worse, in my life span.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 07:59 PM
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Exactly, this has long term consequences, so it's not like they can show porn to some kids (which is already fucked up) a few times, and then declare it's not "harmful." That's some pseudo-science bullshit right there, just a "study" to fit the agenda of abusers and pedophiles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 07:57 PM
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And everyone knows that if she were to say no, she'd be shat on be everyone around her AND internet strangers, telling her she's a cold bitch, and he'd get away with it and everyone would pity him and take his side. Fuck public proposals, the dude is just stealing the crowd setting already organized, set up and paid for other people and steal their thunder. The one done in a wedding is particularly disgusting, way to steal and mooch off all the attention, money and effort the marrying couple put…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:12 PM
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Also he actually cleans as he cooks. Nothing annoys me more than a man who "cooks," makes a fucking mess in the kitchen, expects you to fawn over him for making you a " fancy" meal, then leaves the mess for you to deal with. Only children are allowed to "cook" and leave a mess, because they're learning and they're too young to do the whole thing, but a fucking grown adult? No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:17 PM
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Also make sure to be careful with inside pictures too, it's too easy to catch some rare landmark outside a window, or someone who previously visited the house (an acquaintance of the last owner, or a realtor, a constructor, etc.) may also recognize it from the inside. Better safe than sorry! With all that said, congratulations, queen! This is an amazing accomplishment! Edit: some rewording.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 12:11 AM
17

We should definitely popularize engagement houses! And only under your name, LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 12:09 AM
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I think it's even worse, slaves aren't expected to go out and work a full time job and bring their wages to the master.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 10:54 PM
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Not only that, at least if you hire someone, they're getting paid for X type of work and nothing else (a cleaning maid won't cook your meals, for example, unless you pay them for that too). Men expect their wives/GFs to do X thing, and also ALL the other things and essentially be free cleaners, cooks, managers, assistants, therapists, sex dolls, nannies...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:34 PM
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Agreed. Personally I think that love language thing that came out recently (it's only been like what, a couple of years?) is a bunch of horseshit, used by abusers/narcissists/LV people as yet another excuse for not doing nice things for their "loved" ones. I understand that the one who came up with them might have had good intentions, but at this point I have only ever seen it used by victims to rationalize to themselves why their LV partner/friends/family are shitting on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:18 PM
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Excellent points made, queen! Thank you for the encouragement, I start today! (the eating part, at least, LOL)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 10:10 PM
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That's an excellent show, of course! I mostly was thinking of the most recent ones I watched, FMA is a bit older than the time frame that was in my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 09:56 PM
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it was a real mindfuck to listen to both sets of messages while I was trying to figure out who I was growing up. This right here, my parents didn't know any better (nor did most people, and they still don't know better today), and compared to other women's horrible experiences, I had otherwise a harmless childhood, but that shit stays in your mind for a long ass time. I'm happy that you leveled up! I want to level up physically too, it's my goal for this year!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 09:54 PM
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As someone who's into anime for 30 years... I approve of this post. Anime is fucking rife with gross shows, no ifs or buts about it. It's incredibly hard to find shows that are genuinely good with no fanservice bullshit. I can remember as of now, three kinda recent shows that aren't shit (so far): Land of the Lustrous, The Promised Neverland, and Yuru Camp. There's a few more since I curate the fuck out of what I watch, but goddammit it's mostly trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 08:21 PM
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I'd die of shame if I felt like my "masculinity" and self-esteem relied on abusing my position of power over someone young enough to be my child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 08:12 PM
5

Just goes to show that it often isn't the hobby itself, but it's men who absolutely ruin it for everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 08:06 PM
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LOL, this reminds me of the time a friend went on a park "date," then a little later on she comes to me and asks me if it's ok to go to his house for the next (second) date. (we were roommates and this was during covid quarantine last year, so we asked each other for approval when meeting people outside the household) I immediately said "NO. NO going to a guy's house on the damn second date. Only 8th or 10th date." I don't believe in that shit either, but I said the 8-10th date because I was sur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 07:55 PM
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Yeah same here, in the end, a lot of the tip toeing has more to do with self-preservation than actually caring about some LVM egos. I get where this post is coming from, but I won't judge any woman who fakes it in order to get herself out of a potentially dangerous situation, which is a LOT of situations when they involve men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 07:23 PM
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I think for me, it wasn't so much a dislike of girly things, but more that I was considered inadequate to like them, particularly anything related to fashion. I've always been the "fat girl," so I remember the feeling of being shamed and condescended on because apparently I looked "ugly" on girly fashion when I was fat. There's a saying we have: "la mona vestida de seda, mona queda," translated somewhat as "a (female) monkey dressed in silk is still a monkey." This means that no matter how prett…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 07:19 PM
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I've watched anime for a good 30 years, and yeah, absolutely agree with your assessment, it's infuriating how much low-hanging-fruit garbage anime/manga shows are greenlit. This is why I steer clear of certain anime. I think the latest anime I'm loving is Yuru Camp, just a bunch of girls going camping, no fanservice bullshit (at least for now). I'm dreading the time when they start camping during the summer and the swimsuit full shots appear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 04:41 AM
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Maybe there are a ton of weaabos who love Japan? Yes. This right here. So many Japan-culture related boners among Westerners, and I'm not talking about just anime nerds. Take into account a lot of these weeabos are male, and as such they would at most suffer from looking foreigner, not female discrimination, so no fucks given about the misogyny (in fact I daresay some love the open sexism).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:36 AM
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he said that I must be wearing contact lenses Love it that it's the first interaction with you and he chooses to fucking low-key neg you. While I understand that heterochromia is rare, it's still shitty and entitled to assume the person is faking/lying AND saying it to their face. The audacity of men. (wanted to add that yes, he was negging you. Classic negging, his phrase basically makes it so you feel the need to "prove" yourself to him by explaining/keep the conversation going)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:27 AM
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Pffft of course, it's always the woman the one who "over-exaggerates" or is "crazy" or is a "drama queen." What about this LV dude who DID overreact by getting mad at you for talking to guys, something he explicitly said he didn't care about? On top of insisting you and him have nothing going on?? Block him everywhere, drop him like a hot potato. Berrylikeova is right, who gives a shit what he thinks.
/r/askFDS27/05/21 02:10 AM
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This episode really fucking got to me. I never considered myself autistic nor considered getting diagnosed, but while listening to the episode my mind went into overdrive because I was relating so hard to these wonderful ladies, so I looked up some unofficial online quizzes, and it seems there's a likelihood I might be on the lower spectrum. I always felt ashamed for feeling certain ways or acting in certain way. I always hated myself. My whole life I've been lectured and criticized for many thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 09:20 PM
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Hell, I'd say even a husband's business is not your business to deal with, unless he actually has you on the payroll and pays you wages. I've seen so many women in my life who become props for their husband's business. Some lucky ones can be considered as co-owners, but a lot of them are just there to "help" their husbands achieve their business goals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:05 PM
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When we put our profiles in dating apps, we're basically offering the company who made the app to use us as merchandise for free. We do all of the work for them, we take our best photos, write interesting profiles, answer LVM texts, get exposed to sexual harassment and verbal abuse... Remember, in dating apps, women are the product. Edit: typos and more stuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 03:52 PM
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I think something to its advantage is that despite their ages, Sailor Moon characters actually look their age or a bit older. MLP and other franchises like Pretty Cure have more childish designs and more younger characters, and I believe that's partly what attracts a certain crowd of grown men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 03:48 PM
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This is why I prefer the manga in some ways, in there Mamoru is 16-17 and still in high school, so age wise it's far more appropriate. He only becomes a uni student in the last season. Edit: The last season of the manga.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 03:45 PM
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For one class an assignment was to look up scientific papers, and indeed I found one along similar lines (Korean women's mental health in relation to their education level, something like that). They collected a bunch of data and found out that while women are culturally oppressed and disadvantaged, more than 50% of university admissions are women. Also, only 20% of Korean men "approved" of women focusing on a career (roll eyes), while a majority of women approved (of course). Basically women wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 03:41 PM
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Yeah this 100%. I've been the "nasty fat girl" my whole life and I'm very familiar with this bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 03:32 PM
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100% he was egged on by his buddies because she's "fat." something along the lines of "try to lift that fat chick hurr durr"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 03:31 PM
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I would've paid good fucking money to witness that, and afterwards I would've bought a round of drinks for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 03:30 PM
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Scrotes just lurking and believing they're in some sort of crusade in wild lands, and sending each other awards. Pathetic shit through and through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:07 PM
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Yeah, I just checked their other handful of comments, it's so fucking obvious it's a dude (or a MASSIVE pickme). Reported.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:28 PM
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Absolutely, I myself am in financial hardship, and I understand not being able to spend money, so it stings even harder when they use not having money as an excuse to not do anything at all. At one point I stopped asking and would do my own plans (for ex. my bday), and then they use the excuse "oh well she doesn't look like she wants to do anything, otherwise she'd ask" to not do anything. Oh yeah, I agree it's the same with everyone, you can't make someone change for the better or to treat you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:50 AM
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It’s not that you’re expecting to get something, but rather to see how they wouldn’t do the same. At this point I'm tired, and now I DO expect them to do something or get something for me. They love getting gifts? Why don't they gift something back? They love thoughtful gestures like helping them with X thing? Why don't they do the same back? (and no piggybacking on someone else's efforts/plan) This is why I hate that love language bullshit that started a while back, it gave LV people yet anothe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 10:10 PM
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Not fanfiction, but Twilight comes to mind. That book is the epitome of unhealthy relationships and coping mechanisms. Fanfiction can be a way to discover wonderful, healthy, and actually accurate sexual encounters, but it's like with everything else, gotta look through the needle in the haystack. It's why I kinda focus on the fluff tag, usually the ones I find with it are sweet and wholesome. Edit: by "accurate sexual encounters" I meant mostly accurate in the sense that it actually is relatabl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:46 AM
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This is why I can't really trust any women here who say stuff like "I have sons and I'm teaching them to not be low value!" not because I don't trust her intentions or efforts (I do), but because I just do not trust their sons to not absorb like sponges all the misogyny and LW behavior from their classmates and/or friends, and generally the culture out there in the world. Like it or not, boys soon start following the example of other boys and not their parents, and there's little parents can do …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 11:10 PM
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"Cum dumpster" comes to mind. Men are creative when it comes to degrading slang to refer to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:30 PM
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I remember watching that "documentary" and thinking it's ridiculous how they're trying to portray her as "just as bad." It made me roll my eyes when they showed old as fuck video clips of her breeding tigers decades ago, and implying she's a hypocrite for wanting to ban captive breeding because "look she used to do it too!!!" without taking into account back then it wasn't considered an issue, it wasn't regulated, etc. She literally understood that what she did in the past wasn't good so she sto…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 08:04 PM
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I was always told growing up that I got "angry for no reason" or "angryr too quickly." Now at 36, after spending most of my life learning to curb my "anger," learning to be calm, listen to others, accept criticism, etc. etc. etc., and now, whenever I get actually angry is for a good reason. and after communicating, letting it go, giving them lots of chances to talk, etc. Guess what? They still say the same fucking bullshit as when I was a kid. God forbid our parents admit fault and accept their …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:55 PM
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Pretty much. This post triggers me because it's so fucking relatable. We women have to walk on fucking egg shells otherwise you're seen as "harsh" or "mean." Fuck that noise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:51 PM
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Meanwhile pedophiliac rapist LVM have, for all of human history, forced little girls into marriages with 60+yo dusty scrotes. I still remember as a teen, watching the news, the filming crew had gone to a poorer part of my country and there was a woman literally selling her 11-13yo daughter to a pedo who was waaaay old enough to be her grandpa. They filmed the "marriage ceremony" which was just the mom throwing some cross signs over the pedo and her daughter, and the poor little girl was literall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:49 PM
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Same here, I love the CF sub, but it makes me want to scream out of frustration when I see posts of CF women with male partners making posts like: "I already have to care, clean and cook for my husband, I don't want kids on top of that!" or "my husband is like a kid so I don't want any" Like OK half the problem solved with the "no kids" choice if you don't want to play a mom role, but then they fail to see how manchildren make you play all the roles of a parent, on top of being their sexual porn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:42 PM
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Reminds me of that woman who had to dissolve her business because her husband "couldn't" (more like didn't want to) handle taking care of their kids for 3 fucking days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:18 PM
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"B-b-b-b-but otherwise you'll die aloooooooooooneeee! Old croneeeeeee!" /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:31 PM
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Doesn't surprise me, they will fuck a lukewarm tuna sandwich if they feel compelled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:30 PM
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There's nothing wrong with being curious, as long as you don't sound like the other person said something crazy, you know that scandalized/super-surprised and condescending tone, then I don't mind. But to mention, I suggest you don't say "why they NEED all those rooms" because at this point to me that particular sequence of words (need, all) sounds condescending. Nobody "needs" all those rooms, most people WANT those rooms because they have at least a few ways they WANT to utilize that space. It…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:13 AM
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if I made that comment, it’d be based on my perspective of assuming you’ll have family/pets So two things: It's best not to assume. It's best to ask first, because not everyone plans to have "family" (which doesn't just mean "having your own kids," it can mean having a partner, or living with some relatives like your parents, or yes, having pets). While I plan to get a dog, it's for security purposes as I'd be a single woman alone, and want to take as many security measures as possible. If I cou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 10:03 PM
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I don't lecture anyone on this, though. Same way I would not want to be lectured on my decision to live my way. It is a personal choice for sure. You just did, though. Just because you end your lecturing comment with this evading-responsibility sentence doesn't mean you haven't been lecturing. You literally imply that anyone who wants a 4br or more for themselves is 1) wasting space (that "living lavishly" dig) and 2) wasting resources (water and power). Not to mention that passive aggressive di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 08:52 PM
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Dudes are trying to chat me up left and right because I appear more “approachable.” "more approachable" AKA: "she's low maintenance so I don't have to do/buy anything to bag this chick, yesssss!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 06:41 PM
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But he won't break up with you, you're a stand-in for free sex, therapy, household chores and power (the one he feels for having a woman find him desirable) until he finds someone "better." (also, he'll make your life miserable to make you break up with him, so he can avoid responsibility and later blame you and call you bitch/crazy/cruel)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:40 PM
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they seem more willing for spontaneous, unplanned hangouts to get together. Have you ever thought the reason they can be "spontaneous" is because either their partners are taking the brunt of the household chores (cleaning, cooking, if they have kids, taking care of the kids, on top of working), or if they're single, they don't give a shit about their living space and have no hobbies? (think nests, dirty place, pee bottles, bare places with just a bed, a gaming console and a TV) As a grown adult…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:22 PM
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Everything is temporary. 3 years for me. I have a total of ONE woman I can say, as of now, is a BFF material, in my 35 years of life. And we live in different cities, so getting together is an ordeal (1-2 times a year). While I understand where you're coming from, it's important to still remember that no, men are NOT "such a bad idea." That kind of mentality is something we struggle with, and will likely struggle for a while. Even being friendly with a somewhat pickme woman (who ultimately doesn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:14 PM
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To add to the loneliness one: If you don't have a good circle of friends/family nearby or at all (due to your personal circumstances), and especially with covid right now... Remember, please remember: It's better to be "alone" that surrounded by shitty, toxic and low value people. There's always opportunities to meet new people and build a new circle of friends. Hang in there, focus on your own health and well being. Your situation is temporary, and you can always come here if you want to intera…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:33 AM
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Queen you're dropping truth bombs left and right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:39 PM
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Yeah, most popular holidays to show your love to a person are what? Valentines, birthday, Christmas, anniversary (the bare minimum)? Four fucking days out of 365, and he can't "figure out" what to do? But he sure is quick to notice when she's not giving him blowjobs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:20 AM
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The more and more I learn about the depravity of men, the more being a virgin with a vibrator seems like the good choice. I can just "romance" all the handsome men I want in dating sims, thank you very much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:16 AM
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I just realized she took the mattress cause she bought it and he found a fucking futon to sleep on lmao LMAO, and I bet she bought that frame too. (just left it because it'd be too much of a pain in the ass or didn't fit the truck and she wanted out ASAP)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:10 AM
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Hey now, she has to first give him 50 blowjobs and tons of sex before she may have the privilege of having her own lawn chair! /s (also, she has to buy it with her own money and bring it herself, no golddigging! /s)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:08 AM
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This is so true. I moved recently, and I alone have so much crap, because I bought things for not only my space, but also the kitchen, bathroom, living room, etc. Just a few of my things are decorations, but everything together makes my place lived in. These scrotes with their "bed+TV+game console+shitty chair" are a disgrace to themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:05 AM
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TLM gives me such mixed feelings, because I looooove mermaids and I love her character design and color scheme even more, but as I grew up I realized that Ariel was being a brat, and literally signed a contract with the devil because she was mad at her dad. Of course, the dad was waaaay over the top with his reaction, but he was right in terms of Ariel endangering not only herself, but the rest of the merfolk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:59 AM
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Oh yes, fuck us for wanting to voice out how others hurt us. This is nothing new, and of course it's the woman the one who suffers the most either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:44 AM
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Thissss, I have a desk job and have my phone nearby, but I'm fucking busy and focused on work, to the point I forget the phone is even there. If it's an emergency, call. I treat most texts as messages to check at my leisure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:42 AM
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He sent the first "K" 2hrs after the previous messages without waiting any longer for a reply, and we all know that a "K" like that is a fucking salty, immature reply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:40 AM
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I mean, lots of men choose to act like fucking kids: wife cleans and cooks and tidies up after his stupid messes. Doesn't surprise me they think they're entitled to act the same way towards any adult women in their social circles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:38 AM
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This is some fucked up shit. There's also a story of a woman who had an arm birth control, she woke up to find her then partner try to cut it out from her arm! Men are fucking insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:19 AM
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I've had a ton of things going on lately, so I missed listening to the FDS podcast, but today I finally did it, and I'm so happy, this is my favourite podcast! Played the first 3 episodes back to back, loved them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 12:38 AM
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I'm very glad to hear you won't bring her back in your life, you're absolutely right in your assessment, but even at this point, it sounds like she'd still be a detriment to you (I'd dare say she'd even make you take a few steps back in your own self progress from the anxiety alone she'd induce). It's hard to end some friendships, especially if they started from childhood, or if they span many years, but it's important to recognize and acknowledge that the past history doesn't mean you're tied t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 12:36 AM
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Nah, it can actually be quite easy to write shit like this. I learned the hard way a few times. It's been a year. Sure SOME improvement can be made during that time, but for that kind of behavior, it can take far more time (think decades to a lifetime) to be in a position where she isn't a detriment in OP's life. I'm glad OP is choosing to NOT bring her back in her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 12:32 AM
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The world (AKA LVM and pickmes who perpetuate systemic and cultural misogyny) told them that they're entitled to everything a woman has, including her servitude. Speaking "frankly/honestly" is a fucking rage-inducing action for them, they don't want to handle the fact a woman is telling them like it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 12:24 AM
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Yeap, in fact, FDSers all want is to be left the fuck alone and in peace from scrotes, how is that so hard to understand? Meanwhile, men go out of their way to humiliate, abuse, stalk, mass shoot, rape, murder, throw acid, stab, and a thousand other ways to force themselves on women or make women suffer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 12:21 AM
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Yes it's actually a thing, it's crazy, basically they operate on your leg bones and put like plates. It's called "leg lengthening" and it's pretty invasive since it requires you to have a lot of therapy. It's not a new thing either, so if scrotes are so mad about being short/not tall enough, they should just STFU and get it, if their height is the actual reason they can't get any dates. (instead of, you know, being low value)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 11:41 PM
2

No prob! I heard of MTaP, but lately I haven't had the kind of time to check farming games due to how time consuming they can be (I can go hours! of course, after I did all my daily chores), and have a long backlog of games, but I will keep it in mind! I'll put it on my Steam wishlist for now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 08:55 PM
11

Legit think the vast majority of men are pedophiles, whether they admit it or not (to themselves or other people).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:50 PM
16

I'm in my 30s and call my dad "papi" which is the Spanish version of "daddy." "daddy" just sounds so fucking wrong in a sexual context. Same with "sir"?? I know it's some bullshit power dynamic thing, but I only use "sir" when I'm in a customer service/professional situation that requires formal/polite speech. It just sounds so fucking weird in a sexual situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:49 PM
26

That's one expensive clown outfit that she won't be able to personally forget or take off for a while, LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:36 PM
8

My previous roomies/friends (two other childless/childfree ladies) and I would hug a minimum of 3 times each day, say good morning and good night to each other, try to keep things smooth (talking things out, not staying mad, compromise with chores), respect our private times and schedules, and spend time cuddling on the couch while we watched a show or movie. Was it perfect? No, but it was as perfect as it can get, and while I moved to take opportunities to better my own life, I sorely miss it. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:22 PM
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Not to mention, a LOT of those men have actually OK facial and physical features, but since they never bothered to eat well, sleep well, use SPF, exercise, care for their fashion, keep their places clean and tidy, and cultivate their minds by challenging mysoginy, they end up as soft, gross, wrinkly potato sacks full of cottage cheese. Men whine a lot about how "you can lose weight, I can't change my face or get taller!" well scrotes, plastic surgery is a fucking thing that women with "ugly" phy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:18 PM
18

I'm not sure how his mother stuck around as long as she did A life time of misogynistic conditioning: telling a woman she MUST get married AND stay married (through thick and thin, health and illness, mostly applied to women), cultural and societal shame of both divorce, divorced women and the potential of finding out why she divorced him (if it's "bad" in the eyes of society, she'll be blamed for not realizing sooner and/or getting away earlier, if it's "not bad" she'll be blamed for being over…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:08 PM
20

This is something people don't seem to get. I hear a lot, especially here, how "well I'M going to raise my boys to not be misogynists!" and fail to realize that kids will pick up as much (or more) from society, media, and other kids. And if a lot of the kids they hang out with have shitty views, then your kid will pick up on that and apply it to their lives too. This is particularly true for teenagers, where they rather follow their friends and peers attitudes, and parents are "uncool" and "nagg…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:31 PM
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At this point I see it as a lose-lose situation. If it's a girl, she'll be yet another victim of sexism, misogyny and abuse (directly and/or indirectly) It it's a boy, he'll turn into yet another abuser and oppressor. (remember, teens would rather follow each other than their parents, and patriarchal disgusting views and systems are everywhere. It's very hard to avoid)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:54 PM
7

Erase the last sentence. It goes against FDS rules.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:45 PM
10

But overall I don't like comparing humans to other animals One of the points OP is trying to make is that MEN are the ones who constantly use the "it's biology!" AKA "we're animals" excuse to either excuse or avoid responsibility for their heinous actions, and in the same breath shame and blame women for anything. So she's flipping the script on men, if they're so hellbent on using it as an excuse, then we should do it to them too. Men rape, men cheat, men coerce, men abuse: it's just biology, w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:39 PM
2

"Story of Seasons" is what Stardew Valley is heavily based on, it's a Japanese farming/dating sim game. The older name is "Harvest Moon," but at one point the company localizing the Japanese games in English ended the contract but kept the "Harvest Moon" name. The Japanese company kept on making games but since they can't use the "Harvest Moon" name anymore, they renamed their franchise as "Story of Seasons." (Sorry long reply, it's because some people think that newer HM games are made by the s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:59 AM
2

Wow, that immediately killed any desire (which wasn't a lot, since I'm more of a Story of Seasons gal myself) I might have had to play that game. Once again, a man can only do shit when a woman is there to pick up after him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 12:02 AM
20

Imagine being a 60yo granny, with a 5-15 age gap, having to play cook, maid, caretaker and nurse for him, while you, again a 60yo granny, is left to deal with life on her own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 10:36 PM
22

She literally went inside a police station, too, it's not like she was wandering randomly outside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:32 PM
37

Same with the Olsen twins, which is sickening because their most well known (to me, at least) role was as toddlers in Full House. Toddlers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:54 PM
52

Leave it to LVM to turn a resource originally used to help people, as a way to harass women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:34 PM
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Add to that, the LVM who cheat and/or divorce their wives when she gets a debilitating disease like cancer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:34 PM
22

What gets me is that this is one of the most pathetic "power moves" to pull. Same with sending unsolicited dick pics, it's such a cowardly and pathetic way to exert power over women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:32 PM
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What a fucking tool, he was totally enjoying being able to show how superior he was over you. I've read a couple of stories in FDS a while back about women who were really into working out. One of them did weights, and the boyfriend never did weights, yet was convinced he could still lift more. So one day they go to lift with another friend (I think it was a guy friend), she broke her previous personal record, and the BF couldn't go nowhere near the weight she lifted. At the end he was pouty and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:31 PM
3

Oh absolutely, at this point I'm just investing enough in those relationships so I'm able to ask for favors and shit like that. And yes, lots of women don't realize that our current situation in society is insanely recent, and more alarmingly, tenuous at best. Any time society (men and pickmes) can force us to revert back to second class citizens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:20 PM
2

Thank you! I know it's not a big deal compared to a lot of shit my fellow sisters have been through, but it's just another way that shows how men can get away with shit, and we get shamed for standing up. It seeps through every aspect of our lives, and it has to stop. We need to do better so the future generations of women have a better future too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:14 PM
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Hey, it really fucking sucks, but I think I speak for most of us when I tell you that if you don't want to go to the police, it's 100% understandable. I'm sorry this asshole ruined your day and made that path unsafe for you. There's way to fucking many real stories of police not giving a fuck when it comes to women getting attacked. I still remember that story of a police officer who told a 16yo girl to fuck off, she tried to escape an abusive situation and had nowhere to go. We constantly tell …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:07 PM
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They legit think if they put a grown woman is A-Ok, when the whole point is that she still has the mentality of a child. Same bullshit they try to do with anime, with all the child-bodied characters, but "it's ok because they're actually 18-4000yo!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:59 AM
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I was called a bitch, psychopath, hurt, and "just bitter" This seems to be the default when we even dare stand up for ourselves. My most recent experience is not as bad, but I felt like sharing: I posted a while ago in another FDS thread about my experience with a rando man blowing up on me because I told him to back off (we were in line to pay, he was too close). It legit shook me, I half jokingly said in my friend group chat that "maybe I should've kept quiet LOL" and no one came up in my defe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:52 AM
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Only women-only subs get scrutinized to hell and back, and are constantly under a microscope so they're ready to jump the millisecond some woman fucks up. Just like in real life, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:41 AM
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I wish, I think if we combine shit with more shit, we get a bigger pile of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:51 AM
18

I-I-I-ImPoSsIbLe StAnDaRds!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 11:15 PM
46

Lots of salty LVM and pickmes crying their shitty tears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 11:07 PM
14

Oh yeah, and it makes no fucking sense either, because it doesn't match up with the "not all men" stupid narrative they want to push. A "good man" wouldn't take advantage of a woman in a secluded place, or assault her because of what she was wearing (so much for the "logical" sex, they can't even control their stupid sexuality when they see some sexy clothing). If we're supposed to assume most men are good, why are women blamed when a man attacks them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:25 PM
10

Add to that free therapy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:52 PM
35

Legit I'd consider that not losing your virginity at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:48 PM
8

That's one dude with a tiny dick, both metaphorically and physically!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:47 PM
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I've yet to see a so called "self made" man who wouldn't have been able to do it at all if it hadn't been for all the unpaid and unappreciated labor of a woman, be that his mom, girlfriend or wife. (I didn't add fiancee because to me, you're a GF until you're married). On the other hand, plenty of examples of men having either bare AF rooms/places (literally only a TV, a gaming console and a bed), or disgusting, hoarder-like, messy places full of trash and pee bottles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:42 PM
84

"oh great, I guess you're just gonna hold this over my head now huh"? "Waaaahhh I was wrong but how dare you bring it up to meeee!?!?" Fucking LVM pig.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:29 PM
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and if the man isn't changing that means YOU AREN'T TRYING HARD ENOUGH This narrative also victim blames, the focus is on what the woman is doing, and it's "her fault" for "not trying hard enough," instead of focusing on the male shithead who is staying for the free labor and sex until he founds another woman he finds more attractive later on. Seriously, this narrative is something out of a fucking cult or MLM scam, it's insane that people accept it without questioning (or silencing those who do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:25 PM
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"nOt aLL MeN!!!" woman gets assaulted/raped/beaten/stalked/murdered by a man "What did she expect??? Why did she go to X place alone/with him?!?! What was she wearing!?!!?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:17 PM
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You'd be surprised how many people misinterpret point 2 and bring up the "buy a huge house with friends!" comment. They think "I get along with this person when we hang out, we can totally be roomies!" only to find out their friend is far less clean than them, more messy, wastes electricity, smokes weed, uses all the hot water, regularly brings people in the house, eats your food... I've moved enough with both friends and strangers to realize that it's not as it seems most of the time. Not to me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:56 PM
28

Start normalizing getting a big ass mansion with your best friends and pets." I wouldn't recommend living with friends, unless 1) absolutely necessary 2) you already know you'll get along. I say this as someone who lived with friends the last 3 years and we got along amazingly well. Even then, I'd vastly prefer to have my own place, my own kitchen, my own bathroom. At one point, you just want your own space. Even with those friends, I still did some things differently enough from them that I'd t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:11 PM
116

9 MILLION attempts in one month alone, holy fuck. Sorry not sorry, the vast majority of men are pedophiles and abusers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:02 PM
13

The major consensus in society is for these women to be "grateful," most people don't realize they're doing it. I've had friends/family victim blaming me even when I objectively know they're trying (poorly) to give advice/help, and try to listen to me. Most people are shit about it, and they don't even realize it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:58 PM
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I'm so angry and frustrated for her, and for the many women who had to fucking uproot their lives because of stalkers like him (he is even worse, since he's drunk with power and protected by his badge and uniform). Then I think about the many other women who don't have the financial means to move out at all, and have to suffer the presence of these fucking psychos. He chooses to be a psycho stalker and have his life unchanged, while the women have to again, uproot their lives. Literally. They ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:17 PM
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Barely legal high school outfits pseudo incest (they disguise the incest by saying it's a "step" relative) These are the most popular tags in porn. I'd daresay the vast, vast majority of men, which includes fathers, brothers, uncles, cousins, nephews, grandfathers, watched at least one or a combo of these tags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:04 PM
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It's not paranoid at all, there's actual examples of real countries/societies that used to be progressive, then suddenly reverted back their women's rights. We have to always remember that women's "equal" (more accurately: "not as unequal as before") rights and positions are a very recent thing, just a few decades old, and that's only in a handful of countries. Our position is tenuous at best, the very fact there are shitheads out there trying to ban abortions (a way to control, oppress and puni…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:56 PM
4

Simple: I'm either invisible, sub-human or not worth the effort to be friendly to. If you're fat and/or ugly as a woman (and for most of society, not looking thin enough = fat = ugly), then you're generally treated as not worthy of even the minimum of respect and consideration. It's sadly not rare either, plenty of women who used to be fat and have men ignore/mistreat them, would have those same men start to treat them "well" once they lost the extra weight. They end up having a hard time dating…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:48 PM
36

Holy shit, a few weeks ago I asked a dude behind me (we were in line to pay) to back off a bit (too close, social distancing), dude immediately blew up and started verbally abusing me, and claiming I was racist because he was black (the fuck?? just to mention I'm Asian living in SF, I do not give a fuck about race). He started picking a fight with security, his pickme partner came over and started blaming me, saying "I had to watch my language too" (security was telling him to "watch his languag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 01:28 AM
16

And they never clean up as they go because they KNOW that a woman is going to pick up after their messy, lazy asses. First it was mom, then it's a girlfriend. If no girlfriend, they live in disgusting conditions until they find a pickme who will clown for them. Then it's the wife they manage to con into marrying them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:58 AM
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My only concern with this is that we never truly know when a man is a HVM This is why we must think long and hard whether it's worth to marry a man. Literally today in the childfree sub, a woman found out that his husband of 25 YEARS has a child, and while he didn't find out until later, he hid it from her and even met that biological child (now a grown woman ) behind her back. Her MIL started doting on that found grand-daughter straight away. I've heard many stories of women who were married fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:55 AM
10

It wouldn't surprise me if it was 1 in 2 men, to be honest, or the vast majority of men, whether they admit it or not. The pedophiliac depravity is too far and wide, and most importantly, ACCEPTED by the rest of the men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:46 AM
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Add to that, it's the reason why the general public is suspicious of men "hanging out" around kids. Men are waaaay too fucking fast at projecting sexual shit on children, and yes I count the "she will have babies and obey a man" and "he's such a player" bullshit comments. Both involve sexual topics and sexual situations. Not to mention, men's depravity towards young girls is nothing new. Child brides are still a thing even now, and nowadays men want hairless grown women even more. Then add to th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:41 AM
254

"wHo HuRt yOu" said mockingly. And if you call them out, they will deny it was mocking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:32 AM
31

Slightly off topic, but for those desk jobs in healthcare, is it a requirement to first work on the floor (as a nurse, doctor, etc)? Or are there healthcare desk jobs that don't require that? I'm curious since I'm always open to career opportunities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:27 AM
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They treat you like a manager that has to deal with everything (schedule, planning, keeping track of what needs to be done, etc) and they're just the employee, but then they expect to receive all the benefits of being "the man of the house."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:24 AM
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You know, I've heard the same bullshit for the last 10+ years: Women "scam" men for a free meal. Women "trap" men with babies. Those two are the excuses men parrot when it comes to "abusive" women. Meanwhile, men rape, murder, stalk, harass, throw acid, gang-rape, oppress, gaslight, shame, lie to, hit, mentally abuse, etc. etc. etc. women. Not to mention, most of these men do not get "scammed" for a free meal. They either offered to pay for the meal as a way to leverage (AKA force/harass) sex ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:20 AM
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They only bring up the "no one cares about how X thing is for men!" when it's an article/study/discussion that focuses on women's experiences/issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 11:57 PM
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I've been in FDS for quite some time now, but there seems to be no end to the layers of shit men love to be buried in. The more I find out, the more relief I feel about staying a virgin and not even kissing with men. STDs can be transmitted through mouth too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 11:55 PM
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This! For a long time (and even now in certain parts of the world) women had only the spoken word as a form of communication among themselves. Some were illiterate, and talking leaves no evidence behind. Of course men would want to shut that off. What's also ironic is that a few years ago there were studies made that proved that men talk more than women (as in, gossip wise), but women are the ones who are called out for it. No wonder the slang "old wives tales" is used in a derogatory manner, me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 10:56 PM
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And the teachers unions (who gave a lot of money to get Biden elected) are lobbying the CDC to keep schools shut down (far easier to teach kids online) and teachers continue to collect their paychecks. This sounded woefully ignorant, glad to see others chipping in with their own real, actual, experiences as teachers. Teachers are working harder than ever and it really doesn't reflect on their paycheck, let alone any "lot of money to get Biden elected."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:18 AM
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Not to mention, telling LVM about your standards or anything similar, just gives him ammunition to try and trick his next victim. Plenty of women stay in shitty relationships because a LVM love-bombed and breadcrumbed them or conned them long enough that they're mentally trapped. Women are taught to "communicate" and to "forgive" and "work for the relationship" and "make compromises" and other shitty, pickme advice, because "he used to do X and Y stuff before, IDK what happened now."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:15 AM
17

Same here, I'd love to do vanlife to aggressively save money and be able to drive around to parks, etc., but I wouldn't expect to date at all, since I'd consider myself as in the middle of building myself up. But like always, men don't want to understand that certain things have limits, moderation, and can be dealbreakers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:36 PM
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B-b-but cLaSsIsM, EuGeNiCs, mYsAnDrY!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 08:26 PM
10

I also think that book is bullshit; I didn't even know about it yet at first, and all the exposure I got was when couples (including within my circle of friends) using it to excuse LV behavior from their partners/other friends. All I see is LV people using it as an excuse to gaslight and take advantage of others, like it's been mentioned in this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 03:43 PM
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Woman: men's humor is shit Men: MiSanDriSt MeN hAtEr, dOn'T GeNeRaLizEeeEEe!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 04:25 AM
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women aren’t allowed to be girls very long or indulge in things they loved as girls Oh, we're definitely "girls" to them when we try to voice our opinions in mature topics such as human rights, equality, politics, body autonomy... But we're also "underage women" when it comes to female children men what to sexually prey on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 06:10 PM
147

The more I learn about the depravities and lows men will go to, willingly and happily, to destroy another human being (usually a woman and/or child), the more I realize my choice of trusting my own instincts, desires and self-respect (even pre-FDS), which kept me single and virgin this whole time, are ultimately the best choice I've ever made for myself. This shit is insanity of the highest level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:15 PM
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Same here, and there's no shame in acknowledging it. In fact we're at least one step ahead of people who do not want or can't acknowledge that they're in a similar position as us. We can work on leveling up since we know the areas we're not satisfied with. Too many people out there don't know, don't want to know, or don't care to know to "fix" themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:05 PM
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