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tiedyetoothpicks · 2021-12-29T22:00:43+00:00

This whole attitude/piece of propaganda is how we ended with an entire generation of men (millennials) who think they "deserve" a 10/10 conventionally attractive hottie no matter what they look like. This is why some men get SO PISSED when women express any kind of physical preferences for the men they date. They were socialized to believe that women aren't supposed to be "shallow" and should always "give the nice guy a chance!" while also believing that "men are visual creatures who need to be physically attracted to you above all else, we can't help it!"

So they wander around pissed off that there isn't an instagram baddie gf for every single schlub in the world, and this is how we ended up with so many bitter incels.

cookiemonstergirls · 2021-12-29T21:54:23+00:00

Wow she is a mega pickme. If the genders were reversed people would make fun of the woman and call her a cow and say that the guy deserves better.😳

lansburysoda · 2021-12-29T23:42:37+00:00

This isn’t groundbreaking or controversial at all. This is what we’ve been taught since we were girls: that our looks matter but his don’t, that we can learn to be attracted to someone based on “who they are inside.” Meanwhile, men don’t give us even a fraction of the grace we give them.

So it’s a no from me. I refuse to date a man I’m not attracted to. I like muscular men who take care of themselves. I eat well, work out, and I expect any man I date to do the same.

ForestDwellingSkunk · 2021-12-29T23:45:27+00:00

This is actually infuriating. When this video began I was like okay this isn’t a bad message - I’m not standard shaming anyone by saying this, we should all date people we find attractive, but I do think as a society we are too looks focused and we’d all probably benefit from not being so focused on outer appearance.

HOWEVER, for her to basically go on and basically say that men NEED attractive women while women don’t need attractive men is just so fucking infuriating and like other commenters have mentioned, feeds into this narrative that all men DESERVE hot women regardless of their own qualities. It reminds me so much of the self improvement subreddit lately, which I had to unfollow because it’s basically the new incel sub with a bunch of guys who complain that since they are chubby/short/unemployed they will never find a girlfriend and then a bunch of short scrotes commenting being like I’m super short and/or ugly and my girlfriend is super hot so don’t worry about it. Like NO!!!! So women need to look past the fact that you don’t meet society’s standards for being attractive but you, the man, absolutely need and deserve a fucking Victoria’s Secret model. It just makes me want to barf. And of course these ugly dudes are even more focused on finding a “hot” woman so they can show her off like a status symbol, and stunt on the haters lol. I just can’t this type of shit makes me so angry my comment is probably barely coherent, lol.

misscyansiren · 2021-12-30T01:13:28+00:00

This woman's smile is so disingenuous. Unwashed obese men already have out-of-control ego and she's making it worse with this tiktok. From personal experience, fit women who date fat men are highly insecure and want to be the "pretty" one in the relationship. They think that being with jabba the hut means he's not going to cheat. Somehow, her being "pretty" means that his tubby ass is going to value her more. WRONG.

Pickmeism: Not even once.

DatCatLove · 2021-12-29T22:27:00+00:00

This was quite painful to watch: yes, people can fall in love no matter their appearances… but normalizing that women don’t choose their partners based on appearances at same time stating men do it all the time is so wrong 😑

IDontAgreeSorry · 2021-12-30T00:00:33+00:00

NO I will NOT BECOME attracted to someone I initially find unattractive nor do I want to 🤢 If this was told to men they wouldn’t even be respectful about it lmao, why should we be ok with this?

Very happy that my guy is talll, muscular, works out often, keeps his hair and beard tidy, has a sense of style, etc etc 😍😍😍❤️❤️😍❤️😍❤️😍❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️😍❤️😍❤️😍 No uglies for me! Cry about it !

Edit: I watched it again and I just hear that she also says “Men work the opposite way, they first need to be physically attracted to a woman before they get interested” LMFAOOOOOOOO girl me too?! The fuck?! I’m so done with this “men are visual creatures (but women are not)” bs. WE ARE VISUAL CREATURES AS WELL LOL

Edit: lmfao a scrote commented “I completely agree. No fat woman for me” Ok and?😂😂 This dummy things this will get any one of us triggered. Like yeah that’s exactly what we’re saying; it’s ok to have preferences, but it’s dishonest that men can say “no fat woman for me” but women get judged when we say “no fat man for me”. I don’t care if I get judged though, I do NOT find fat men attractive. Hit the gym, or don’t, I don’t care.

donttextme_k · 2021-12-29T22:05:11+00:00

Literally all her videos are about how as long as you meet the bare minimums, you will find a woman

Platipus6 · 2021-12-29T22:46:01+00:00

He's so weak I thought he was going to snap his back picking her up.

This is not your sign guys. Don't go for the girl. Just stop. Go to the gym.

herbivorouscarnivore · 2021-12-29T22:14:29+00:00

I didn’t get through the entirety of this pick-me’s video. All scrotes believe that women should be racing to f-ck their “sparkling personalities.” This pick-me is doing a disservice to all women by posting this rubbish.

DuchessDurag · 2021-12-29T23:33:48+00:00

I hate when pick-me’s shame another woman’s preferences in men.

“Give him a chance” “It’s the inside that counts” “You’re missing out” “Stop being picky” “He’s a great guy”

The fact that men can be brutal when judging a woman’s physical appearance and feel entitled to an attractive woman while they look the opposite tells you everything.

I feel like the girl in the video is pitying the young overweight man than being genuine. Most young women prefer men of similar attractiveness.

It’s also annoying that men are offended by a woman’s preferences in a man. So many scrotes get mad when taller attractive men are what women usually go for.

sleepysiri · 2021-12-29T22:30:57+00:00

In multiple ways, this is just plain BS.

Imagine your partner telling you something along the lines of, “yeah, when we first met I wasn’t attracted to you, but I fell in love with your personality.” Gag. Basically, you’re saying, “you’re ugly but you’re super nice so I tolerate your appearance.”

And that whole men are hardwired to be this and women are hardwired to be that is some primitive pile of shit.

East-Willingness513 · 2021-12-30T00:47:16+00:00

Yeah that’s why we were all attracted to Jonah hill and not Channing Tatum 🤣

Girl enjoy that weak sweaty many on top of you, I married for a hot guy with a great personality because I’m hot with a great personality. I refuse to downgrade with this pick me bullshit.

wonkyeyes8877 · 2021-12-30T00:52:32+00:00

It's one thing to be attracted to and love someone who isn't considered attractive to many people.

It's another thing to tell men they don't have to take care of themselves, or even be healthy, in order to land a girl.

ShittyPianist · 2021-12-30T02:25:23+00:00

If you flipped the genders around, it's still massively toxic. Could you imagine your man being like, "I fell in love with this one, despite her looks. I know that's not the norm, but it can happen! Girls, aim for any man you want!"

I'd break up with someone on the spot if they tried that shit. You're not winning anything by "dating down" and then "bragging" about it. You're just destroying someone's self confidence.

CroneRaisedMaiden · 2021-12-30T01:57:23+00:00

I did this twice I will never do it again

biwinny · 2021-12-30T03:31:54+00:00

Ah yes, in order to feel genuine affection for us, men must need to deem our bodies worthy of their seed 🥴

Shoot me

DivineGoddess1111111 · 2021-12-30T05:15:27+00:00

That video is just offensive.

ItsFreezen · 2021-12-30T12:28:13+00:00

She's with a Scrote who doesn't like her and most likely gives her a low looks rating. This blob thinks he can do better.

capresesalad1985 · 2021-12-30T14:48:58+00:00

Ohhhhhhmygooooddddddd this is insane. If she’s happy, great. But that dude can’t be healthy. And the reason we have subconscious attraction standards is because we are programmed to be attracted to health. Just like a guy wants a small waist and big hips we are allowed to want big shoulders and a small waist.

UnitedHoney · 2021-12-30T05:34:21+00:00

Honestly face wise I think they are on the same lvl but I agree.

spinsterchachkies · 2021-12-30T18:20:57+00:00

This is fucked up. Why lie to people like this?

Sewud · 2021-12-31T01:03:37+00:00

This is not a new idea. We're bred since we are young to be told "you have to be pretty, and also it's cool if you don't care about the guy's looks". And every time there's a pretty girl with an ugly guy the masses cheer.

There's a reason the body positivity movement is female. Because that's subversive. Saying guys can be fat is not subversive.

W3remaid · 2021-12-30T22:55:48+00:00

The comments are a shitshow as expected. Some scrote whining about:

”the way you women are currently acting is red flags for all men. look how hysterical you are”

“that why divorce rates are so high and when the man is asked, he thought the relationship was fine. women file for divorce far more to boot?”

So women are “hysterical” and emotional, but also secretive and impossible to read to the point where we hide our marital issues from our spouse until the moment of divorce? You’d think hubby would get the hint once his wife started getting “hysterical” ? Lmao, make it make sense 🤡

blackmetalbetty · 2021-12-31T05:04:18+00:00

MeN aRe ViSuAl cReaTurEs

Shit, better call me Bob, then lol

VanessaViews · 2021-12-30T16:35:20+00:00

I mean there is a little bit of truth to this. You don't have to be the best looking guy in the room if you actually have a ton of other things going for you personality wise. Problem is most guys just don't... Everything else she said is garbage

One_Bat_2525 · 2021-12-31T14:12:59+00:00

I can’t believe that she’s putting this shitty advice out there! I used to fall for this crap and dated some complete uggos. I remember getting peer pressured into dating a guy that I was not attracted to and it was truly awful. He was overweight, jealous and was just gross in general. We would go out and all he’d do is have his arms around me the whole night as if he was mate guarding. One time he followed me to the bathroom in a club just to wait outside for me because he was so insecure. The thing was, I could never bring myself to sleep with him and only realised why when I noticed myself looking at a guy I felt physically attracted to. I broke it off and decided never to believe this shitty advice again.

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