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MALE DEPRAVITYsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:18 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 07:50 PM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 04:26 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:15 AM
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SCROTES MADsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 07:33 AM
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DISCUSSIONsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 09:04 AM
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STAY WOKEsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 07:46 PM
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RANTsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:34 PM
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STRATEGYsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 07:17 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 11:28 PM
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RANTsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:56 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:55 AM
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 REDDIT HATES WOMENsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 11:44 AM
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RED FLAG 🚨sleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 05:35 PM
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DISCUSSIONsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 10:05 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFEsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:09 PM
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DISCUSSIONsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 03:49 PM
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LEVEL UPsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 09:00 AM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:33 PM
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SHOWER THOUGHTsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 02:53 PM
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LIES MEN TELLsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 06:10 AM
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RANTsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 10:02 PM
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LEVEL UPsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 08:28 PM
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DISCUSSIONsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:04 AM
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RANTsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 10:32 AM
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DISCUSSIONsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:10 PM
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DISCUSSIONsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 08:15 AM
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FINE AF FRIDAYSsleepysiri/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:12 PM
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stop 💀😭 i thought this was real!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/23 10:08 PM
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This sounds exactly like the science behind the development of narcissism! I just made a post on that recently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 06:12 PM
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“Health issues” ?? Is he saying he has them because I thought he was a nutrition expert who does cardio and lifting and doesn’t smoke, drink or so drugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 12:26 PM
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LMAO 💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 12:24 PM
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I have never seen an aging man of children that is attractive enough (OP said he doesn’t have sugar babies or anything so he’s not paying anyone to sleep with him meaning he’s not relying on money which means he must be relying on his looks) to sleep with multiple women regularly. I think this is a man in disguise lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 07:24 PM
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This is literally my narcissistic abuser. No job, watches videos on crypto all day, friend group slowly shrinking, massive weed addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 12:54 PM
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Totally true. Their apologies, even when sincere, mean NOTHING because after a few seconds, minutes, hours or days, they will revert back to their old selves or completely pretend that they had no reason to apologise to you. I don’t know how many times my abuser apologised and made it seem so sincere only to do the exact same things again and again. Now, his mind is so warped that he sees no reason to apologise at all, he thinks he’s the victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 10:24 PM
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I totally get the morbid curiosity. On another note, I’m using my criminology degree to get into law! Agreed, something I had to study was the causes of crime and there were so many possibilities that now I wonder how the law can be so objective with such uniform sentencing when everyone is different. My abuser also thought he was the victim! He went in there encouraged by my parents crying from his mistreatment of them and then decided it was for him and how they apparently abused him. Whack. T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 10:22 PM
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That’s so awful, both of your parents!! I don’t know how you survived. My narcissistic abuser is my brother and I’m in the process of moving countries, changing my name and going NC. I wish nothing but the best for you in your healing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 01:32 PM
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Yep, agreed. These kinds of people are sharks honestly. People who lack empathy don’t just lack empathy, it’s not like they just can’t relate to other peoples emotions. They are extremely self-cantered and solipsistic. Everyone else is an NPC to them. Nobody else’s experiences matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 01:30 PM
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I liked how easy to read it was. Normally things are too academic and boring but this felt like a cosmo 😂 So I was able to learn a lot quickly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 01:28 PM
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It’s definitely one way to go. I wouldn’t call it the high value way to go because that suggests that other ways, such as not finding empathy for your abuser, is the low value way to go. And “you know to bless him from afar” - what? Abusers don’t deserve empathy or blessings and giving them either doesn’t make someone a saint. It’s a valid way to respond absolutely, if empathising helps one heal. So many of us here have been abused by narcissists and don’t go on to abuse others. That is beautifu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 11:50 AM
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If he has abused you, I am so sorry. And if empathising for him has allowed you to heal, good for you. Finding closure is so difficult. To other FDS ladies reading this, I want you to know that you don’t have to feel empathy for your abuser. Everyone finds closure differently. This post, first and foremost, is a bare criticism of narcissists. They do not feel empathy themselves. Women are constantly pressured to forgive and forget every bit of malice thrown their way, it is one of the many insid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 11:46 AM
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Out of all places, this post is not the place to try to empathise for narcissists yet there are two comments praising being understanding 🥴 It feels like a punch to the gut
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 11:37 AM
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Oh, congrats on the degree! I just completed one in criminology. I imagine with psychology, you’re probably encouraged to be understanding to even the worst of people? I know that’s what it was like for my friends in forensic psych. A lot of them are working now to support ex-convicts, rapists etc. It’s the opposite for me so that’s why I am very critical and apathetic 😂 That’s so bizarre! The way they fully try to convince themselves and others of things that didn’t happen. Oh absolutely. You h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 10:19 AM
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Agreed. I don’t feel empathy for any narcissists who were victims themselves because their suffering is not a reason or excuse. It’s only a partial explanation as to why they turned out the way they did, they likely already had the innate foundation of a narcissistic personality and reacted accordingly to their environment. Narcissists are incapable of empathy. The study described them as zombies. That’s how truly hollow and destructive they are. A zombie may have once been a normal person but w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 09:33 AM
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I knew it from seeing it myself, or at least I just guessed. My narcissistic abuser always misinterpreted people’s actions and words, and would recall events completely differently to other people. So to read that this is actually something they do was shocking and validating. I also see them as diseases to be honest. Like, they poison the people they spend time with just like a disease. Science has deduced that narcissists are born with the predisposition to becoming narcissists. Then whatever …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 09:26 AM
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My narcissist brother was the opposite. He abused me since childhood and as an adult, convinced himself that our parents abused him and that’s why he is the way he is. Now he abuses them too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 08:41 AM
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Yes! The best thing, I have heard, is to just be as boring as possible toward them so they don’t rely on you as their narcissistic supply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 08:37 AM
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RIGHT! Sometimes I honestly just laughed because it was all so incredulous. I’d just sit there and think you are truly fucking bonkers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 08:36 AM
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Doing my FDS duty! 💪🏼💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 08:49 PM
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Amen! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 08:20 PM
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If he asks, I would simply say actions have consequences and leave it at that. Most men are solipsistic fucks incapable of thinking beyond themselves. They all need shit explained to them like they’re 5. But that count be me 🥴 All he needs to know is that actions have consequences and he can put 2 and 2 together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 10:15 AM
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I’ve always been drawn to certain men and they all have similar qualities. Ambitious. Honestly, I don’t mind if their ambition is something selfish that pushes them to climb the ladder in their career or make a lot of money, or something selfless like going out of their way to help others and giving to charities. As long as they have ambition, and a lot of it. Men like this tend to want to work hard in other aspects of their lives too and do not need to be asked to do things. They simply do them…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 01:03 PM
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It’s very weird that he liked your MOM’S post. You don’t have to explain. We know it’s weird. We understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 12:36 PM
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Exactly my thoughts when I saw it. Honestly everyone was insufferable in their own unique ways. The men were the worst of course. I had some mild admiration for Shanique. Everyone else really put me off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 02:06 PM
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Agreed. I prefer organic encounters anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 02:20 PM
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I have one HV male friend who helps me out with stuff like this and it’s such a joy! He takes time out for me whenever he can and usually ends up cooking for the both of us too. 99% of men suck, they’re abusive and predatory or just plain losers. But finding a HVM as a friend or partner really is quite nice. My abusive, narcissistic brother on the other hand would make assembling anything so difficult. He would constantly spew criticism in the background, NOT help at all, just sit on his ass and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 09:22 AM
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My country doesn’t have google voice number
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 10:04 PM
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I have a second phone with a second account where my age is set to 18 so I know which pedos to avoid on my actual account. Too many men have their accounts set to such pathetic and wide age ranges like 18-40. Desperate much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 12:50 PM
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What would you say on the call? x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 12:48 PM
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This is everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 12:39 PM
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This is everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 12:39 PM
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I don’t think the majority of them could even afford to dine at the places I take myself out but yeah, I’d totally love the mediocre $30 meal they’re offering. As if they’re not trying out their own “free sex strategy.” If you cold approach a woman and neg her into accepting a date with you, then on that date you neg her some more because you so generously bought her a Big Mac meal combo, she’ll definitely sleep with you. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 07:03 PM
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Yes. One of my comments which verbatim said, “it’s not that hard to be a HVM, or to not be an asshole. Just don’t be an asshole.” And some butthurt village idiot shared it saying something like, “oh yeah, it’s so easy to change your height and be rich.” Like, projection much 🤡 I never mentioned anything about height or money. But if that’s what men think make a HVM, whatever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 06:58 PM
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Your username is amazing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 05:33 PM
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Why do you think so?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 09:19 AM
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I’ve only met one man in my life with a HV personality and this is after about three years of knowing and vetting him and regular interactions, but even though he is extremely HV, some parts of his personality that aren’t necessarily bad, I don’t want in a partner, plus I’m not physically attracted to him at all. So the chances of meeting a man with a desirable personality and looks that I’d like are slim. I also have specific standards for the kind of relationship I want so even if I meet an at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 08:53 AM
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Honestly his backstory makes him even more pathetic. Why are so many men incapable of empathy when they themselves have experienced something? Don’t answer that. I don’t care to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 08:47 AM
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This reminds me of every man but more specifically my brother. He was at a house party and there was a cake. The cake was only for a few people and the girls who brought it out told him he couldn’t have any when he asked. Instead of leaving them in their peace to enjoy it, he dunked beer on the cake and ruined it for everyone then left. Pathetic ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 08:46 AM
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I would have said “yes, I did put on weight. About [his weight] of it. Now’s a good time to lose it” and dump his mediocre ass. ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 08:45 AM
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Are you saying it’s a silly generational thing that men are pretending women don’t go for looks? I just woke up so my brain is fuzzy 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 08:34 AM
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I never enjoy a man disturbing my peace and I have yet to experience a man doing so respectfully. Every cold approach I have been dealt with has been mediocre or borderline insufferable. Entitled men assuming I want my personal bubble infringed upon and that I’d thank them for their attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 09:50 PM
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I love the parentheses so much 💀 I can imagine a woman that’s absolutely done with this shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 09:37 PM
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I can imagine them being all worked up and banging their fists on a table like a child/caveman like: give me your number!! 😡😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 03:44 PM
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This is so strange to me because I always thought steaks were the perfect first date meal 💀 So many men can’t stand when I ask for a steak that’s well done and berate me because I should have asked for it rare, and that there’s no other way to eat a steak. It’s such a turnoff seeing them get into such a tizzy over how I like my steak lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 03:42 PM
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Men have ruined the term “devil’s advocate.” I am a devil’s advocate and I use this characteristic to inspire rigorous and thorough examination of something to ensure that it’s the most efficient or ideal train of thought / solution to a problem. Being a devil’s advocate, for me, doesn’t mean pointless debates about unethical shit. It’s always to learn more, to be proven wrong and move forward, to gain insight and have a fun, little mental sparring with someone just as enthusiastic. Whenever a m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 03:39 PM
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“found a provider and got my needs met by a professional” ?? he says this as if paying for sex is like getting a check up at the local hospital
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 06:18 PM
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You should replace the DILF files with videos on maughty schoolboys and altar boys. They’re young so they’re in their prime and I’m only attracted to boys in their prime! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 06:16 PM
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I never understood the societal pressure to be friendly in the workplace. I have firm boundaries and like to separate friendliness from the workplace. It’s not like school where you’re kind of forced to be friends with everyone you’re stuck with. I couldn’t bare to make small talk or divulge embarrassing information with people in a competitive and professional environment. Many people vocalised that they initially found me intimidating and sharp before gradually learning more about me. I’d rath…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 07:19 PM
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LMAO 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 07:13 PM
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Psychologically speaking, you’re a solipsistic asshole who victim-blames the woman you are meant to love and care for and extend special compassion and consideration towards. Psychologically speaking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 12:56 PM
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As a WLW, I would never do this to my hypothetical wife. Jeez. I wouldn’t do this to anyone I was supposed to be in love with. My parents gave me more money than that growing up 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 09:12 PM
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Love this! Boundaries are so attractive to me ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 05:56 PM
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He should try to imagine for one moment that someone is literally inside of him, and then afterwards that same person kicks him out. How vulnerable and taken advantage of would he feel lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 05:54 PM
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Facts. My brother is a raging narcissist. He abused me mentally and physically and verbally throughout my childhood up until I was 18 and whenever I see him, he continues to perpetuate the same behaviours. He despises our mother. He has this weird, hateful obsession with her where he blames her for everything and constantly torments her whenever they are under the same roof. He can’t even stand talking to her. My mom has some narcissistic tendencies but she is not a narcissist. At least not like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 05:53 PM
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This is so degrading. I don’t see how one can have a loving relationship that simultaneously involves violence and humiliation and power imbalance during the most intimate acts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 05:50 PM
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I’m not strong at all but I have the same self-awareness, most likely because I’m a woman and we are socialised to always consider people. It’s the same reason I don’t pet my cat with the same pressure I use when I pet my dog, and the same reason I play gently with young adolescents and even more gently with younger infants. So many men either don’t care to be aware of their own strength or they know and don’t care about using their strength appropriately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 05:49 PM
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I agree ❤️ For history’s sake though, I want to say that hunting was actually a 50/50 thing with men and woman both doing it but it rarely yielded enough food so the majority came from women gathering fruit and whatnot. Men were sexist and assumed the women didn’t hunt. But I get the message in this context and believe that for everything we’ve been through, men should provide. God knows they have very little else to bring to the table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 05:39 PM
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This is the frustrating thing. Men are so regressive and emotionally unevolved. I think it’s why I see so many girls and women talking about how they had to “train” their boyfriends into being ?? decent human beings ? I don’t even know. I saw one TikTok of a woman who had to teach her boyfriend so many things, including for example, horror films and how they’re basically trauma porn for men. And now he’s able to point out when it happens in movies and she’s so proud. But like, I don’t want to tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 05:37 PM
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Sex and intimacy is interchangeable for me. I cannot have casual sex. I cannot have casual sex and enjoy it anyway, or feel comfortable doing so. The act of sex is something I can only do in a strong relationship. For me, missing the relationship side of sex = missing sex entirely. I fully agree with you. On top of being a careful woman who likes to ruthlessly vet even the friends I keep, I am additionally guarded as a person. It’s unfortunate for my high sex drive but I really think I will be l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 02:53 PM
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Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 02:49 PM
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Sometimes I would like the intimacy that a vibrator doesn’t provide 😂 The caresses and embraces and talk. But then I think about the risks I would be exposing myself to. I could be abused or killed. Worst case scenario that happens and my death is humiliatingly on the news as the man escapes because I apparently asked to be choked to death. If it’s not that, maybe he leaves me with some disease. Or simply doesn’t satisfy me. In the end, it’s just not worth it for me. In casual hookups, I would a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 11:28 AM
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I wish I had financial intellect but I literally know nothing beyond: get job, earn money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 10:29 AM
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As a 22F, same. There’s something about feeling the need to do drugs, even “benevolent” ones, that I don’t appreciate. Much less the need to do it regularly. And it’s a strange coincidence that every abuser, asshole, predator or plain moron in my life has been using some substance or other. Im not trying to sound too uptight or judgmental, all I can speak on are personal experiences and observations. But I’ve seen people my age throw away brilliant futures and opportunities by becoming lousy pot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 09:41 AM
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I prefer to be a receiver. My mere presence is giving. How many studies have proven that simply having a woman around (as a mother, sister, daughter, girlfriend, or wife) makes the lives of men much more fulfilling and happier? Only in serious, strong and close relationships I am generous. Even then, I will always lean towards receiving than giving because women aren’t given as many cards as men are. I think women should always lean towards being a receiver, especially in bed 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 12:53 PM
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From an FDS POV, it’s intimacy faking, spending hours with someone builds this weird sense of faux familiarity. But also, the way you worded “second location” reminds me of how it’s self defence advice that if someone has you at gun or knife point, threatening you and forcing you to go with them to a second location, there’s a high chance you won’t return. I don’t know if it’s trafficking or kidnapping or SA 101 but never go to a second location!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 12:47 PM
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I feel like as a woman, I have to use every card I have been dealt with because the odds are stacked against us. Looks, for women, are currency and if it’ll get me ahead in life, if it’ll help me catch up to the men who were able to start way ahead of us, then I can’t be one of those feminists that ditch the makeup and heels. I admire them for feeling able to do that, but the difference in how I am treated and the opportunities I am given are night and day when it comes to how put together I am.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 02:43 PM
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I wouldn’t trust a man if he told me he was on it. They’d do anything so they don’t have to wear a condom, all so their pp feels good!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 03:05 PM
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Who wants to bet he has ED and is taking it out on her. My pp doesn’t work anymore so you have to bend over backwards and become hotter than you already are to make my saggy balls happy! 👹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 11:25 PM
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HA 💀 what a sore baby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 08:47 PM
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I don’t even like being tickled. You wouldn’t believe how many men take it as a challenge when I tell them in advance to please not tickle me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 12:50 PM
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Omg that’s gold. Like, my friends are more attractive, educated and successful than their boyfriends so it goes to show. Couldn’t be me! 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 09:37 AM
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Two of my very close HVW friends met their HV boyfriends on the rubbish bin that is Tinder. Both of the men are admittedly perfect gentlemen with many green flag behaviours. Neither of them are in my desired tax bracket or physical department. I wouldn’t even call them mildly conventionally attractive. But I don’t have to date them 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 09:56 PM
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For a moment I misread and thought you LIKED Matthew Hussey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 08:11 PM
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That’s it. Like, he makes no mention of trying to understand this behaviour of hers for TWENTY years? He just watches and complains? And did you notice how he grouped himself in with the children? He and the kids effed up? No sir. You’re not a child, you’re not one of them. They likely have nothing to do with this. And if the wife has to clean something that he already cleaned, then he obviously didn’t clean it the way it should have been as he thought. At the same time, has the woman in this sc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 03:29 PM
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I wish society discouraged talking to strangers in public spaces. I have creeps talking to me left, right and centre.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 12:58 PM
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Love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 10:10 AM
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They’ll always find a way to infiltrate women’s spaces. It’s funny, even the men that claim to hate women seek to still be around them. When women hate men, they seek to avoid them and protect themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 01:22 PM
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I know exactly the shooting you are talking about and it appalls me each time I remember it. Something else you reminded me of was another discussion here about the nuclear family and how it’s all designed to keep women isolated. Each family unit is a small island where the father is in charge. Under his system, the mother does not need to leave, she just has to serve the father and children. She is given so much work that she doesn’t have the time or energy to leave, or even money for that matt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 05:59 PM
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I hope they feel embarrassed, they need to be made aware of the fact that their attention isn’t as desirable as they think and that they’re really acting like fools cold approaching stranger women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 04:38 PM
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She should call him pedo back and see how he likes being called a name he most definitely won’t like
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 04:37 PM
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I don’t really know what to think in the end. On the one hand, saying it’s due to predatory men almost feels like calling the women in these scenarios dumb or weak or something, as if they aren’t capable of making decisions. But on the other hand, defending the women with this same rhetoric, i.e., saying it’s their decision feels like sex posi nonsense. Like, I don’t think sleeping with many men is a good decision because many men are dangerous and awful and you’re opening yourself up to so many…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 02:49 PM
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I read somewhere in this sub before and absolutely agree that many men see themselves as the protagonists and women as NPCs in their own, little video game. That we just exist waiting for a man to interact with us, otherwise we’re just ornaments. Behaviour like this definitely makes me feel the theory is onto something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 11:36 AM
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Literally same!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 11:34 AM
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That reminds me of when I was running on the treadmill and one of the PTs at the gym stood on the one next to me and started making conversation. I was literally sprinting and panting with my earphones in and fully had to pause my workout and take out my earphone to give him the most confused look because ?? Did he not see me running my ass off busy ?? And he just STOOD there and started talking as if I’d automatically listen eagerly ? I miss the days when men would ask permission to speak to wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 08:54 AM
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I can’t believe he expected you to take out your earphones! As if women just exist as empty beings until a man gives them orders, then they are delighted to just do whatever they told and be thankful about it. Like, yes sir! I’ll take out my earphones and listen to you talk about anything!! I wasn’t listening to anything, it’s not like I’m an actual human with actual interests and boundaries. Please waste my time!! I used to think old men were cute until I considered how many of them could have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 08:52 AM
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Violations and basic underperforming, girl have I heard the horror stories. Wasn’t there a study that showed women are more 30% more likely to die under the care of a male doctor? Something like that. And I’m not surprised what with their lack of empathy and sheer entitlement. No doubt people have been praising them for doing the bare minimum that even when it comes to the health of others, they don’t care enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 08:50 AM
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This makes me fucking gag. I am so mad on behalf of you for those experiences, those men are absolutely vile. God, I wish I could be invisible sometimes, like full on transparent. I have never known a single woman to do these kinds of things to men. Fucking dogs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 02:48 AM
47

It all makes so much sense and yet I hate this for being the reality. Like, god forbid a woman wants to live a little and step outside. I remember once I set up a yoga mat in a park and men wouldn’t stop staring and staring. Even at the grocery store, men try to make conversation when I’m standing in the queue. Times like these make me wish for Themyscira.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 02:47 AM
77

That is so scary, I am quite vigilant of trafficking tactics or just plain predators and that would make me so uncomfortable. Similar thing happened to me! When I was young and naive, I went to a job interview suggested by a man I didn’t know 🤦🏻‍♀️ He made it seem like a salon, womanly kind of gig with plenty of girls. It was some pyramid scheme pharmacy. As soon as I walked in, I noticed him and another man staring at me and both making phone calls then looking back at me again and again. My in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 02:45 AM
61

I try to do that but being small and babyfaced, I fear I come off as a harmless gnome than the intimidating “bitch” i would so like to be. seriously though, what is it with male medical students or doctors bragging about that? the one that approached me didn’t even say his name or anything else beyond his occupation. it was so shallow, and unfortunate because he was quite handsome, all tall and greek and sunkissed. that question about children though sounds so disgusting. nice to know you’re see…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 02:42 AM
66

It’s so damn annoying and laughable at the same time. Entitlement is absolutely the word when it comes to most, if not all men because even the men with some semblance of empathy and intelligence feel the need to make videos or podcasts to speak on their newfound ideas as if women haven’t been preaching it for centuries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 11:49 PM
41

Agent Carter is a fictional woman I admire. She does not allow her feminist to be seen as weakness and kicks ass with her brains and lipstick on. She doesn’t have to use physical violence to be taken seriously or seen as strong because she is not extraordinarily physically strong. All in all amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 11:43 PM
71

HA Molly giveth and taketh away 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 11:37 PM
4

Agreed. It’s like putting a bullseye on our backs for some incel with a bomb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 09:54 PM
4

It’s unfortunate but I absolutely agree that spaces designed for us are really not all that helpful. This is the same reason I avoided joining my university’s feminist societies, because they rarely have anything radical to discuss and it’s all about libfem, pro-porn nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 09:53 PM
23

I like this and it has also made me realise some of my own weak points. Thanks queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 07:39 PM
62

It is a feminist attitude that men pay for dates. At least to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 07:38 PM
19

OMG I thought I was the only one that was laughing at his nickname. I knew a guy called Avinash who only went by Avi and he was such a brown noser to all of his white friends it was pathetic. His friends were racist, sexist, confederate flag-toting idiots and he would kiss their ass to fit in. Shake reminded me so much of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 08:20 PM
24

I’m sincerely curious if you picked up on any similar vibes from her. Not comparing them at all, but Deepti mentioned only dating white men so much that it stuck out to me. Like, as a desi woman myself, I wondered if she had a touch of internalised racism too. Or not internalised racism but something similar? I can’t really explain it but it rubbed me wrong that she mentioned it often enough for me to notice it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 02:47 PM
119

He kept saying that he’s not physically or sexually attracted to her and that she reminds him of his aunts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 12:09 PM
2

Weight is a very divisive subject honestly, even more so when you remember that this sub is open to women of all kinds of social and political views. You will find just as many people who agree with you as you do with people who disagree. I’m in a similar boat of wanting to be the best version of myself, physically and mentally, before I date. Why? Because I have exceptional standards. I want my partner to be in their best shape physically and mentally. Some women say in this sub that looks don’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 09:42 AM
2

I am sorry OP for some of the unhelpful responses honing in on the weight thing. Gaining weight as a woman, in the society we exist in, is a very difficult thing. Recognising that is not the same as putting down other women nor is it bodyshaming to say you would rather be a particular size. Even if it has nothing to do with society and is simply a topic of comfort or aesthetics, power to you. We are allowed to want to lose or gain weight without being accused of pandering to men, beauty standard…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 05:48 PM
2

Lying to them that I was a minor only interested them more. Good luck sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 05:22 PM
3

The way men and women, stereotypically speaking, fantasise about fictional characters is very different. Men find a childlike anime girl and buy a body pillow of said character to, I don’t know, pathetically fuck it? I’ve known of men who do this with My Little Pony characters, I’ve seen men do it to pictures of actresses on their phone screens. The way they fantasise is gross and sexual and depraved, never appreciative or respectful. At least low value men anyway. When I fantasise about fiction…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 05:17 PM
23

That last comment lmaoooo. Then fuck your mom. The way men are so ready to compare romantic relationships to the ones with their mothers is something that Freud would just eat right up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 10:58 AM
5

The edit 💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 05:42 PM
62

I hated that storyline. He got her pregnant too and completely stone-walled her when she told him. It’s like some writers are vicariously living through these macho male characters by giving them all the muscles and women. It’s perverse and makes it really hard to maintain this hobby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 05:38 PM
10

I’m the opposite. I’m not at all worried about being loved or cared for. So many people like me and love me and care for me. I’m great to be around so of course, that’s that. Platonically, romantically, familial love. I’m loveable. I’m more bothered by the fact that I may never love someone else. Romantically, I mean, because I have friends and family that I love. I’m more bothered that many men do not meet my very basic standards of attraction, that many men are literal degenerates. On top of h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 07:32 AM
3

He’d let you? What an honour!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 04:12 PM
3

Decent men don’t offer women to live with them. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 03:50 PM
1

SOMEONE IN THE COMMENTS SAID TURD BURGLAR BYE 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 03:27 PM
42

Someone should do this as a social experiment. Hire male actors pretending to be abused and beaten, make it seem real. Wait for the backlash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 03:17 PM
13

I’m not a charity lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 03:11 PM
135

This is EXACTLY what I thought. I was like, why are you waxing poetic? Why are you pretending this is some big, gotcha, coming of age moment? This is literally awful 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 03:04 PM
9

The wealthy, white ones! Most definitely not the ones in North Africa or the Middle East. Just the ones that can afford to be displayed in a Lululemon sports bra.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 11:27 PM
38

using OLD to me is like the tacky magazine in the bathroom that you pick up when you know you’re going to be on the toilet for a while. a complete waste of time, yet still mildly amusing. i swipe, see many losers and make fun of their profiles, then swipe and laugh some more. yet it also makes me feel like a raccoon digging through garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 11:16 PM
17

every LVM i have ever met is like a fragile snow globe of a little boy that cannot handle the reality of being wrong. i have been proven wrong many times and my response is either three of the following: i laugh at myself for being so incredibly off the mark, i thank the person for teaching me something, i am amazed by the truth that i am inspired to learn more. i only know one HVM and whenever i prove him wrong, it’s always one of my usual three responses, mostly he thanks me and laughs at hims…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 11:13 PM
6

When the camera turned around to him WHEW that was a jump scare. She is so beautiful and he … sigh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 05:02 PM
9

It’s such a turnoff ! I’ve literally babysat young boys that acted that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 08:57 PM
2

Yay!! Commodifying women’s bodies!! Woohoo!! 🌺💖❤️🌷🌺 Fuck off honestly. What a disservice to women everywhere. This is essentially helping in the abuse and exploitation of women. But okay, market it as this sex posi movement. Are these women going to be treated with the same respect as a working teacher or nurse? Is sex work going to be added to the textbook of careers that all high school guidance counsellors have in their office? Are there going to be university affiliated workshops where you c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:33 PM
21

The way he rolls around on the ground when he talks and sticks his tongue out makes me think of a toddler.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 05:43 PM
3

It has almost been four years of consistent HV behaviour, alas thanks to FDS I know that I must constantly vet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 11:02 PM
3

the majority of western wealthy men i know try to keep it subtle and bashful, just like you said. either out of etiquette or because they want to seem independent from their family’s money, like they’re self-made.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 09:48 PM
7

this. i have a male friend, and how rare is it to have one! anyway, he is amazing. he graciously apologised even when he doesn’t need to, sometimes for things as simple as venting to me about something. he apologises for asking permission to vent to me. he always takes responsibility, always makes me feel listened and heard. i rarely commend men because the majority of them are unhygienic, unevolved losers with the emotional range of a broken condom. but he is a gem. once, i was abandoned at nig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 09:44 PM
2

lmao me when my dad calls me headstrong or stubborn, like it took time cultivating these boundaries and opinions!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 09:31 PM
5

I love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 09:28 PM
2

I find that men who ask this have a specific intention in mine, and that is to either watch you fumble and convince him you’re not and that you’re a cool girl who is okay with having threesomes you don’t want to have and enduring his dingleberry, swamp ass OR he wants you to say yes so he can neg you and make you feel like crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 09:28 PM
5

There have been times where my father was (rightfully) very angry at me when I was younger, and even in the height of his emotions and stress and whatnot, he would place the most gentle hand on me and tell me softly that he cares about me. Even in his worst emotions, he would never think to be rough with me. So to imagine a man do so with the women he is meant to love, during the height of this happy moment, is appalling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 04:57 PM
18

I’m so glad I never watched these films. On another note to everyone reading this, don’t watch Outlander. It’s a steaming pile of one assault scene after the other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 04:47 PM
9

I change a letter in my name to have a different but similar one and don’t show friends, my home, personal belongings or specific locations in the background.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 04:42 PM
252

I doubt any of his friends are that much younger than him. I doubt he admires, looks up to or connects with anyone that age. So why is he trying to date someone that young. Read the handbook, go through the sub and trust your instincts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 04:35 PM
10

This is what the queen Gail Dine encourages. You cannot take it from women still in the industry, listen to the women who have left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 01:34 PM
16

It’s definitely a rainbows and unicorns distraction from the real goal of feminism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 10:16 AM
92

this is pretty much what happened when women asked men to fix the problems they caused by creating the patriarchy and they decided to paint their nails and cry more. like, men crying more is not the amazing thing they think it is. women are still dying at the hands of your bros.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 08:53 PM
103

this reminds me of the gaslighting that men do when you call them out. i told a man he was a narcissistic abuser who projects his own behaviours onto other people. a few days later he began berating me with the exact same words under the guise that he was somehow the victim. it’s why i am wary of these kinds of men going to therapy or seeking recovery. they learn key words and use it against you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 08:52 PM
441

Okay, today I found out I don’t support all women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 08:46 PM
132

This isn’t very related or helpful but I understand. I find it extremely difficult to listen to a man, converse with one or be around one, much less date one, after my personal experiences and FDS opened my eyes. The fact that the majority of them are either ignorant, abusive or narcissistic is a mass turn off. It’s kind of like the red pill versus the blue pill on The Matrix. Now that I’m aware of how many pedophiles and creeps there are, how so many policemen who are supposed to protect us bea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 09:40 PM
9

I only have one male friend, vetted him over the course of three years and continue to do so. The only reason I allowed this friendship was because he went out of his way to display HV behaviours without any benefit to himself and without any ulterior motive. He is one of my greatest friends and yet he is rare. Many other male friends have slipped through the cracks after displaying LV tendencies. A lot of grown men act like the teenage boys I remember from school who sexualise everything and ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 07:22 PM
26

One of the MANY reasons I am childfree is because I don’t like children. And I shouldn’t have to justify that dislike by sugarcoating it with stuff like, “I know they’re innocent”, or “it’s nothing personal!” Like, no. I don’t like kids, period. I am still a woman. This doesn’t change my womanhood or my femininity. I’m not a hateful bitch. Some childfree folks like kids, I am not one of them. Most of them annoy or disgust me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 06:55 PM
2

this is so insidious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 10:12 AM
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I think what he said was valid. It’s not necessarily a red flag, it just doesn’t align with your ideals. Still, if he really didn’t want an unplanned pregnancy, he should have gotten a vasectomy which is cheap, painless and reversible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 10:05 AM
302

pickme mothers coddling their sons, entitled fathers not instilling admirable values into their sons, a culture that promotors patriarchy and subservient women too many things to list to be honest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 08:11 PM
9

i hate the narrative that’s pushed of: men do it for the destination (orgasm) and women do it for the journey (no orgasm) like ??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 01:10 PM
135

This wasn’t a date scenario, rather an ex-male friend (who later turned out to be a sexist, creepy neo-nazi that was simultaneously crushing on me although he had a girlfriend, hence the “ex”) on a night out. I was wearing a pretty outfit: jeans, a crop top and a jacket. Despite my jacket, I was still freezing. I was shaking and shivering as if it was snowing or worse. My female friends huddled around me, spread their jackets over each other as a makeshift blanket and offered to huddle-walk some…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 04:13 PM
2

I feel this. I can’t even listen to men on TT when they pop up on my feed. I just viscerally assume their words are a waste of time, or dull.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 11:05 PM
4

I think this is because blocking, from a childish POV, is something dramatic and conveys investment, that you care about the person you are blocking. It takes some maturity to realise it’s simply an act of spring cleaning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 05:53 PM
33

Gross 💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 10:22 PM
2

I can’t be atttacted to a grown man that displays childish qualities like playing video games all day or not being hygienic by himself, let alone being attracted to a near child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 11:56 PM
3

I’d rather fuck a carrot than a sheep, which many men have done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 10:48 PM
3

On a side note, Cillian Murphy is good compared to Leonardo Di Creepio
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 10:47 PM
15

This. The man in my head is a successful superior in his career with luscious hair and high emotional intelligence. So it looks like I am never going to get married 😌 Oh well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 10:24 PM
4

I’m not sure but I want to know this. I do not want children, I would like to either have separate bedrooms or separate living spaces with the occasional sleepover, and I am intending to go into a career associated with wealth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 10:20 PM
55

I am at the stage where I know I cannot share a bed with someone. It would have to be an Alaskan king bed, if not larger. But at that point, I might as well just have my own bed. And if I have my own bed, why not my own room. And if I have my own room, why not my own house and so on. I have had roommates and lived with family and both situations were uncomfortable. I like the freedom of being able to be nitpicky with my cleaning without it feeling like I’m a woman-slave for a man who doesn’t kno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 10:17 PM
1

I thought my sarcasm was obvious, does it really come across as unironic? 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 05:12 PM
102

In multiple ways, this is just plain BS. Imagine your partner telling you something along the lines of, “yeah, when we first met I wasn’t attracted to you, but I fell in love with your personality.” Gag. Basically, you’re saying, “you’re ugly but you’re super nice so I tolerate your appearance.” And that whole men are hardwired to be this and women are hardwired to be that is some primitive pile of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 10:30 PM
68

THIS! I am so fulfilled by all other aspects of my life that it’s either a perfect, grand romance that not only checks all the boxes but surpasses expectations, or nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 01:37 PM
180

He’s jealous of a cat 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 01:30 PM
40

Why is he so dramatic like this is the apocalypse or something 💀 Sex is literally not a necessity yet he’s acting like people will die without it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 10:33 PM
109

“He handles all the money, as the man should” Didn’t she just say the money she earns goes directly into his account? And she has to ask for an allowance of that? Of her own money? 💀 Sickening
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 10:32 PM
5

This is common sense 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 09:34 PM
52

Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 08:48 PM
20

Exactly my thoughts! They used it as a weapon therefore they should not be given access to such a weapon again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 03:11 PM
92

A decent man wouldn’t think to ask such a childish and strange question. What will he do with that knowledge? Lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 03:02 PM
99

He looks like every PE teacher turned offender I have ever seen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 08:39 PM
3

I wonder how this applies to CF women as I am one. I don’t know enough about the benefits of marriages to share any ideas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 02:14 PM
3

By replying, he would then have my phone number which I don’t want. If a man asks me for my number, I’d first ask him some questions: full name, age, religion status, job status, basic interests etc. Someone looking for a hookup is not going to be enthusiastic or interested in this process. If a man answers adequately, I’d provide a Google number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 02:04 PM
6

If you ask them what they think a woman should bring to the table, they won’t even have an answer lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 02:02 PM
11

Reminds me of when I was at the grocery store standing in line for the self-checkout and some sweaty scrote 20 years older than me kept trying to get my attention from behind me. Kept repeating “hello”. It was so annoying. I just sighed really loud and obviously looked away and he got the memo. After that though, I began wearing super long, puffy jackets and the attention lessened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 01:56 PM
2

I swing all ways. I have always found the personalities of women to be more interesting. Like, by far. It’s insane how developed and multi-faceted they are in comparison to men who maybe have like two personality traits. Plus, the majority of women are physically attractive to me. The shared oppression is also a plus as we will always be able to understand each other on levels that men cannot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 01:48 PM
5

Omg can you tell me more about that testosterone thing? I’m eager to learn about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 01:46 PM
2

Considering the fact that I get myself the most exquisite gifts, he has to meet my standard of how I treat myself. Even then, it has to be something personal and not just anything that can be regifted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 01:44 PM
21

Did he respond?? I have to know 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 10:59 PM
38

completely pathetic, male-centric and self-centred view
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 10:58 PM
223

Good for her for being so brave at her young age to talk about this so openly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 10:56 PM
106

Are they that weak-minded that they can’t control themselves? We have literally evolved so far and their compass, their arrow is their dick and whoever turns them on, or rather ANY woman is their true north?? Pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 10:54 PM
75

I pretend I don’t hear them and quickly walk away or pretend I spotted a friend, or got a phone call.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 10:52 PM
5

omg can you tell me how you know this? that’s insane! every news story i read of him when this happened said he head stuck under rubble and broke his back or something? or that he didn’t think it would come to his house? which is so stupid and reckless. but also that he was too old to make it to his wife quickly? also how does recording a disaster save lives, did he seriously say that? there’s nothing proud about recording something like that, it’s just more evidence of reckless male behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 11:01 PM
4

but men are protectors! 🤡 what a pathetic and lazy asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 10:53 PM
16

Ooh thanks OP! I love listening to such things while doing chores
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 03:36 PM
11

Me too and I know that when it comes to any religion, everyone picks and chooses what resonates with them the most. There are so many Muslims against those things. And do not assume my beliefs, I do not think Islam is a feminist religion. But I do think there are feminist Muslims. It is very reductive and biased to think otherwise. I said that your original statement by itself perpetuates a stereotype that does more harm than good, and I said that without disregarding your meaning and without di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 09:25 PM
16

Nobody says Christianphobic because Christianity has reigned as the assumed, default and respected religion across all Western powers. There are many women, and sigh, some or at least a handful of Muslim men that do not practise or preach the negative aspects of the religion. Many FDS women are Muslims and face Islamophobia, many Muslim people as a whole experience it. Saying it’s ridiculous because there is nobody says Christianphobic is exactly like saying racism isn’t real because nobody is r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 09:09 PM
52

i bet he would be furious when she replies, “yeah! i was thinking the same thing”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 08:19 PM
58

Just like they rape sheep in Wales, horses in the US, and donkeys in South America? Can we not, with such certainty, say generalisations like this. I mean, the “over there” is just really the cherry on top. While all countries suffer from the depraved acts of men, and the Middle East, especially Saudi Arabia, is rightfully known for oppressing its women and holding very strong sentiments that directly oppose FDS, statements like “They rape camels a lot over there” is more harmful than good. Such…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 07:35 PM
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Who is this “everyone” he is referring to? If this is some faux upper class, uppity nonsense then he’s been lied to by someone else or himself. I have never in my life seen anyone wait for the bread and I have dined with many people from many cultures and standings in life. Everyone’s hungry!! Is it a red flag to be hungry lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 01:55 PM
2

TBH I rarely see a man who even brings money to the table lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 01:52 PM
6

I think that’s actually a better way to describe it. “Modern” to me just makes me think of pickme, libfem logic. I absolutely agree with you about each and everything you said. The more you try to prove yourself to them, the more they’ll try to dissect your arguments and not even for the sake of learning but just to prove you wrong. I totally agree with the naturally falling in line thing. That comes naturally to me as I grew up being treated by family and friends the way I want to be treated by…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 12:14 AM
5

Yes I agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 07:18 PM
33

They have no gold to dig 💋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:17 PM
30

Absolutely. How can you look at puppies and a dog in pain, apparently feel for them and want to help, and then don’t even when one by one they die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:16 PM
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This made me so angry and sad. I hate blaming women for the faults of stupid ass men but she could have gotten that dog into a crate and took it to a vet or shelter and those deaths could have been prevented and the cruelty of leaving a dog out chained would have stopped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 03:07 PM
92

SAME. I was literally going to ask this. I love such stories but the majority of them are abuse stories, toxic storylines or just really messed up, degrading stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 02:54 PM
8

A woman who is either infertile or childfree by choice and is not seen or described as a monster because of it. Looking at you, Natasha Romanoff and Yennefer of Vengerberg. It’s a cheap trope that reduces women to a basic biological function. While it may upset them or traumatise them, or they may not care at all, women are not monsters for not bearing or not being able to bear children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 01:54 PM
16

This is literally empathy and barely any men have this quality. You might give him the benefit of the doubt but would he? Doubt it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 01:53 PM
3

I mean the comment sorry not your post! The cherished vs desired thing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 12:07 AM
27

Yes! It reminds me of the M/W Complex. And honestly it’s not different than the famous saying, looks fade but personality remains. Like, of course desirability is a fickle thing but that doesn’t make it unimportant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 05:31 PM
8

I want to know this too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 01:33 PM
3

So his mom dies and his first instinct is to find a replacement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 04:09 PM
2

I always liked Christine. After watching the show and then reading the timeline of events, she didn’t do anything to deserve the honestly bitchy and cruel behaviour directed towards her. Chrishell talked to Davina about how Mary and Romain’s relationship was weird and leechy and Christine told Mary that. Then Chrishell, the boohoo crybaby pickme who does not stop talking about her past, didn’t like that and acted innocent while turning everyone against Christine. Christine said it herself outsid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 04:06 PM
3

THE TITLE HAD ME HOWLING 💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 03:44 PM
17

Lmao 😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 03:38 PM
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this is SO embarrassing and jarring but it just came to me. when i was in school many, many moons ago, i was a huge teenaged pickme. there was this really popular guy in some of my classes that all the girls liked. blonde, blue eyes, athlete. like, a real stereotypical hottie (who has since aged like milk). i was so desperate for validation and attention then that i thought it was a massive compliment when he said to someone else and i quote, “i want to hate-r*pe her”. first of all, it’s not lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 08:24 PM
45

hey ladies! im a charity! i will definitely date a short, bald, fugly, broke man with body odour and a tiny penis!! 🤡 said no woman ever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 05:32 PM
15

You can’t. He will probably get worse. Same situation as you down to the family for four detail. It gets so much worse. Best to just emotionally detach from that situatuon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 06:04 PM
1

I have always felt strange about this man. He said some REALLY fucked up things about autistic people that just left a dirty taste in my mouth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 12:41 PM
6

Wasp spray if pepper spray is illegal in your jurisdiction xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 12:00 PM
5

Ugh what a delusional loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 11:51 AM
38

Are you comparing hypergamous to eugenics, I think I misread that? I just want to add that evolution, at this point, plays a very little part in the decisions we make. Now, what is really essential is socialisation and psychology. While at one point, it may have been the case that we were hypergamous to ensure security and whatnot for ourselves and offspring, I really doubt that has been the case for at least a handful of centuries. I am hypergamous because I want more in life and that is a stan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 11:43 AM
100

Christie Marceau befriended a man out of compassion and sympathy for him. He stabbed her to death. Google her story. Never be a people pleaser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 11:32 AM
78

They’re little babies who don’t like sharing their toys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 06:44 PM
2

“Too Good To Be True” is a joke right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 11:17 AM
22

This reminded me of a thought I once had when I was thinking about how so many men are genuinely stupid. A lot of them can’t tell if a woman is interested in them unless she kisses them or sleeps with them. I remember going on some dates with a guy and at our third and LAST date, he became exasperated because I wasn’t “putting out” so he wasn’t sure if I liked him. I was hysterical because what level of idiot do you have to be to not be able to tell that when someone puts aside time for you to m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 11:03 AM
9

I never thought I’d see the day where I agree with him on something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:56 AM
14

Ha! I love this lady 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:54 AM
11

Isn’t the first commandment or something about being kind and not judging? Or isn’t that like, a core principle of these churchgoers’ philosophy. Lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:52 AM
152

I cut off a male friend after he told me that he had a fantasy of being “molested” and “sexually assaulted”. I was in shock. I asked him to elaborate because I was gobsmacked. He said even when he was younger, a CHILD, he always wanted a “hot older woman” to take advantage of him. And he fully believed this was normal and assumed women also share the same sentiment because I had no reason to be freaking out. I never blocked and deleted so fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:50 AM
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I love him so much !! I rarely appreciate men that I don’t know personally because who knows what happens behind closed doors but he has consistently displayed admirable behaviours despite trying to be a private person, which is respectable in itself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:47 AM
7

This. Can’t agree more. A lot of men read those books to learn tricks of the PUA trade but I read them to arm myself against manipulations and whatnot. This is why I am glad to be the way I am. Beautiful, intelligent and a radical feminist. Men don’t expect me to have the beliefs I do because I don’t follow their stereotype of what they think a feminist looks like 🙄 I’m also glad that I also like women, am happy being alone and have a very fulfilled life without male company. I was watching this…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 03:24 PM
16

Offering someone two choices that seem one is good and one if bad but both in fact bring more or less the same result, for example not engaging in casual sex makes you a prude to some men and respected by other men, and engaging in casual sex makes you the same, is literally a Cold War tactic. It doesn’t matter which choice you make.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 10:41 AM
5

?? As if accidentally killing someone in a bar fight is better than murdering his wife. He’s still a killer. It shows he has no impulse control, no idea of morality, no sense of appropriate behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 04:24 PM
2

Thing is, being rejected isn’t even a bad thing. Like, you are asking someone if they would be interested in you and they say no. So what? That’s their choice, they have that autonomy. Anyone who can’t take NO for an answer never planned on taking no for an answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 04:22 PM
6

This and also it’s like their minds have been warped by porn categories. Spicy latina, sl*tty white girl, eBoNy 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 04:19 PM
2

This man has a lot of nerve calling this man a guest after catching him with his wife’s underwear. Pathetic, unevolved husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 04:18 PM
17

I am a WLW. I’d be damned if I took a woman I was interested in out for COFFEE ?! I’d want to impress her so much that she barely remembers what day it is, pull out all the fancy stops. I’m a huge foodie so high end restaurant, if that’s what she likes. Otherwise, something thoughtful depending on her interests. It’s not that hard to find out and plan accordingly. Then on the day, flowers or chocolates or whatever else is significant to her. Coffee is for very brief meetings with colleagues, cof…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 04:01 PM
5

It’s about survival. Survival is more important than someone’s ego. I’d rather be alive and have offended a whole group than dead in a ditch after trying to be a polite doormat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 03:56 PM
13

Literally like a shark. Shark eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 03:54 PM
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May I ask what do you mean by “The rugged individualism we’ve been forcefed by beneficiaries of corporate-socialism has ruined the sense of community” ? I feel like I’m misinterpreting this and would like some clarity. Also, do you think it’s only nihilism that the younger generations are losing hope in being able to do the things the previous generations could, or is their acceptance more about being realistic than cynical or nihilistic? I don’t know enough about this subject but it’s really in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 05:57 PM
3

In case you ladies couldn’t tell, he’s really fun!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 12:13 PM
6

The way they’re trying to frame this as a woman not being able to handle rejection when it’s a woman with boundaries who doesn’t like disrespect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 12:09 PM
12

I read an article yesterday about how Jake Gyllenhaal (sp?) texted Taylor Swift saying that it was really bittersweet, like looking through a photo album. So… 🤡 That’s the vibe I got too. I mean, straight from the horse’s mouth!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 11:03 AM
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Serious question: do men like this show warning signs in the early stages? Because I feel like knowing someone, then dating them and then marrying them, surely you see warning signs? Like for a man to be this heinous, there has to have been red flags. Because he doesn’t sound all too intelligent so I doubt he was oh-so clever at hiding his asshole traits for years. I am by no means blaming or shaming the woman. I have the utmost empathy for my fellow sisters who suffer at the hands of men. But j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 01:22 AM
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Stuff like this depresses me to read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 01:08 AM
20

The bar has receded further back than their hairlines 😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 01:57 PM
9

Nobody ever fully meets my standards. If he’s HV by nature, personality and intelligence, he’s unattractive physically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 01:56 PM
4

I can’t help but think how he would never endure this and leave her ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 01:49 PM
8

Her song Slumber Party sexualises and fetishises cheating and bisexuality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 10:43 AM
8

This reminds me of this man that was harassing a woman in the gym and all the comments were sympathetic because he had schizophrenia. First of all, there are so many people with that, who are not behaving that way. Coddling the mentally ill and homeless as if they do not have the capacity for misconduct outside of their problems is infantilising and it takes away just accountability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 06:59 PM
5

Men don’t ask women for help. If he’s asking for directions, it’s an obvious red flag. If a man asks you to roll down your window, DON’T.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 06:56 PM
14

Well that shouldn’t be an issue for too long given how many male-led corporations have been inviting global warming to kill the planet. Give it a few years and it’ll be nice and toasty!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 06:52 PM
28

I just shake my head in dismay at all the young girls being influenced by this nonsense, knowing what kind of awful experiences await them because they want to fit in and be a “cool girl”!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 06:38 PM
22

Ex-FRIEND. Said completely plainly and casually that he wish he was molested and sexually abused as a child by an older woman because that’s a “fantasy.” I said he could easily just say he wanted to be with an older woman but asking to be molested as a child was crazy. He didn’t even back peddle, he kept justifying himself. It was honestly insane in the moment. He was driving me somewhere and I immediately asked him to pull over and I left, blocked him and never heard from or saw him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 02:14 PM
21

The way you worded this makes it seem like the two things are related 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 02:11 PM
9

LMAO 💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 02:08 PM
10

This reminds me of how my HV straight male friend of some years is just as in love with Legolas and Thranduil as me, no shame or weirdly fragile ego about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 02:07 PM
32

Facts 💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 09:55 AM
217

You’re not a charity, you don’t owe ugly losers anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 10:55 AM
3

BAHAHAHA I don’t know which part is funnier !! First of all, why does it take them so long to develop any value? It really takes half of their life span? Half a century? For them to assemble some characteristics that make them desirable? 🤡 If an old, sweaty man asked me if I was stalking him, I would piss myself with laughter or just stare at him because ?? 😂 I am in the prime of my life, I don’t want your balding head and saggy balls !! There’s nothing attractive in that. No amount of “value” (…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 02:14 PM
2

This is so valuable. I don’t know if you’ve seen it but over the weekend I was rewatching the Haunting of Bly Manor. Perfect example of an awful man ruining a brilliant woman. I really appreciate hearing your experience, I am in such a similar place now. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 06:45 PM
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That’s exactly what I was thinking. By casually dating, but looking for HVM, doesn’t that mean I am looking for men who don’t want to casually date and isn’t that just entirely not conducive to vetting as an FDSer? I’m overthinking a lot trying to figure out my own intentions and perspectives and what this means. I don’t want to waste my time, or anyone else’s, but there is a lot of value in gaining experiences in terms of practising boundaries and such. Annoyingly, I can think of a good few fic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 11:58 PM
1

That seems to be the general takeaway and I agree. I didn’t quite think deeply on what I even meant by “experience” so it’s nice hearing back from everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 11:54 PM
6

Every paragraph is just so true. I resonate with this so much and this is such useful advice. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 10:22 PM
12

So true. I have no experience at all!! Like, in theory I know my standards and boundaries but it’s all just theory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 10:21 PM
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I see, okay yeah this is quite concrete advice and I think I can do this. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 10:20 PM
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I suppose, yeah. I agree with everything you’re saying. I think I was just assuming all relationships would end up a certain way and forgot about how they can just not work out. I wonder though if it’s FDS-approved lol to date knowing that it’ll end. Like, I can confidently say I won’t marry the first, second or even tenth man I date. I’ll be going into every early relationship knowing it’ll end. That last paragraph is great advice. I will keep that in mind. Who knows, maybe in a few years I wil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 09:44 PM
8

Can I ask you more about your opinion on this? I am fully open to hearing all angles since I’m not desperate to date, rather I am wary. Why do you think this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 09:41 PM
11

I get this yeah, but then I wonder, would a HVM casually date? I mean, if it’s for the same reasons as me, for romance and experience. But I also feel like there’s different connotations for men casually dating?? I don’t know how to put it into words, do you catch my drift?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 09:39 PM
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That’s what I used to think until I saw a post here of someone criticising pickme’s for “taking away a hvm” from hv women who want that serious, beneficial FDS-sequel commitment! And then it made me wonder and wonder 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 09:38 PM
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Omg that’s the OPPOSITE for me, I got a rechargeable so I don’t have to worry about buying batteries again and again 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 05:46 PM
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So true. It’s really frustrating because a lot of the time it’s a brilliant and admirable actress but the scenes are way too sexualised/romanticised/idealised or graphic. It’s plain disgusting and vile and makes me nauseous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 05:45 PM
3

This reminds me of high school. A guy asking my friend to ask me out LMAO. Is he a grown man??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 02:26 PM
105

I might watch this movie! One about sexual violence that isn’t trauma porn. It sounds very refreshing and I love how you took the time to articulate this all. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 01:48 PM
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i don’t support women seeking rough sex or BDSM but it literally just sounds like she was sexually attracted to him, got her fill then moved on lmao. like sir, you didn’t do her a favour or put her in her place or (hopefully) did something she didn’t want. you were seduced?? edit: OR (and more likely) he’s bullshitting and was so awful in bed that she literally ran for the hills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 05:23 PM
80

Not peppermint patty 😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 05:01 PM
24

Interesting thing is in the academic world, sex trafficking IS called slavery. It’s referred to as “modern slavery”. Funny how this very official term hasn’t been caught onto by the general public. Almost like they’re ignoring it for what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 12:46 PM
8

I love Luna!! She’s only three or four years younger than me but I understand her so much and I just want to give her a hug.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 05:52 PM
18

Yeah. This man is asking for a mother to tell him what to do, a babysitter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 05:50 PM
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I studied criminal justice and not so fun fact, did you know prison isn’t the deterrent we hoped and thought it would be! What really holds these scrotes back from murdering their SO’s or killing their kids is SOCIAL ACCEPTANCE AND EXCLUSION. What their homies think of them is more important! 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 05:45 PM
12

Yes. How men REACH success is vastly different to women. Men crack sexist jokes and smoke together and scratch their asses and boom, major job promotion. Women can’t do that or they’d be seriously discredited. Men are literally handed success. Women can’t even act like they want it, it has to be effortless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 10:08 AM
14

And he’s defending her!! 🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 10:01 AM
65

This!!! Whenever I see a handsome or pretty CHILD, it’s never coloured with something sexual. It’s always, “oh good for them! they’ll turn heads when they’re grown up.” Like, it’s endearing to me, it’s sweet and innocent and even a little funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 09:55 AM
2

So true and also, these are the same guys that’ll say “I just mind my business” when his friend his accused of assault 🤡 They will make excuses left, right and centre for their predator bros.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 11:21 PM
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I wouldn’t be okay with my husband caring more for a friend than me, his wife. But what does he even mean by that? Because I advise all my girlfriends to value their female friendships over marriage because you never know what can happen. But the care and love you have for your friends and partner is vastly different. A husband that cares immensely for his friends is amazing, and I understand if he relies on friends as a safety net, although I doubt you can even compare male and female friendshi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 10:45 PM
3

Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 10:42 PM
268

He’s just looking for his manic pixie dream girl with daddy issues !!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 09:05 PM
92

Fetish. I am a fetish. My literal nickname by some pornsick losers in college was Arabian Beauty. I’m not even Arab.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 09:00 PM
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If he treated me with decency respect before, then felt a romantic attraction after “glowing up,” that wouldn’t really strike me as a red flag. Because for example, I could easily find a man suddenly attractive if he was at one point overweight then became fit. The important thing to me is that throughout, he remained a kind gentleman. Not say, completely ignoring me before or seeming disgusted by me, then completely switching. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who would be attracted to me when…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 07:30 PM
127

Men can barely tell when a woman is wearing makeup, I would not rely on one to observe something as beyond them as a skin tag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 07:27 PM
2

Needed for what? 🤡 Are their egos that fragile that they need external validation for their sense of purpose?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 12:27 AM
17

LITERALLY!! I unintentionally timed myself a few times, just by checking the time before and after whilst picking up my phone and I have managed to make myself O within 1 minute on one occasion, 4 minutes on another, 6 minutes and then some other times anywhere from 10 to 30 minutes. It’s not that hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 12:14 AM
10

Ooh how did you meet? xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 01:33 AM
377

Calling them out is basically giving them instructions on how to manipulate better. Unless that’s your child, good friend or partner you have no reason or business calling them out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 01:29 AM
66

BENEVOLENT SEXISM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 06:43 PM
80

Something I see so often is people feeling the need to compensate for someone elses’ ugliness by calling them kind and nice. There’s assholes among them all, the hot ones and the ugly ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 06:35 PM
11

It’s the one example of cultural appropriation that I fully support. I will happily advocate for other cultures to steal this one hygiene practise 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 05:26 PM
26

I love when women come together like this. It’s under unfortunate circumstances yes but it reminds us that we can be so different yet connected in our experiences and traumas that are unique to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 11:53 AM
13

This is why constant vetting is important. It’s something that the ex-FDSers often complain about but it’s vital that you keep your boundaries, standards and expectations high. Why gamble with your life? With years? And commit them to someone who isn’t excited in organising the process of your union.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 11:52 AM
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I swing both ways. I prefer giving to women because the power balance and social connotations are different. When I think of blowjobs, I think of women being forced down on their knees, the classic porno scenes of men grabbing their hair, choking them etc. With that, there’s a mental block for me where I would not be able to give a blowjob unless it is within a committed relationship to a HVM who first gives to me and ensures I feel equal rather than just some hole. But with women and men, I’m s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 11:48 AM
1

I agree with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 06:57 PM
1

Yeah! That’s what I said. Even being slightly lazy is enough for me to constitute a bad husband. At the same time I’m also saying a man can be a better father than husband if this is the kind of bad he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 05:23 PM
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So true, I can’t imagine being tied for life to a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 05:21 PM
7

Adding onto what you say, it reminds me of the inverse where one of the HVM in my life has a LV father but him being HV was mostly self-work rather than parenting, on the opposite end my HV has a LV son despite us both receiving impeccable displays of their positive role modelling, and that was I guess, anti? self-work, or just lack of self work and making LV choices? I don’t know what went differently for both of us since we’re siblings and I’m HV and successful and he is LV and not but thanks …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 05:20 PM
7

Maybe I should have added in my comment that I’m not talking about abusers and assholes. Just mediocre, small dicked husbands. Being a subpar husband constitutes as bad enough for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 04:15 PM
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Yes. It’s a given that if your partner has admirable traits, they are most likely to be visually passed on to influence the child. At the same time, the last sentence of this post doesn’t work for me because I’m childfree by choice as I’d be an awful mother. I would hate motherhood and I would most likely be a neglectful or uncaring or even resentful mother. Therefore this advice doesn’t apply to all women who decide not to have children because many of them make this decision based on similar r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 03:48 PM
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I don’t mean overtly bad husbands that display abusive behaviour that the child would then pick up. I’m thinking more just like a subpar husband, which is just as bad to me though. Like, that husband from that show, Sex Life? It’s a trash show and so don’t like any of the characters but it’s the only example I can think of now. Great father, not the right husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 03:45 PM
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Yes but also not always the case. Yeah I agree with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 03:43 PM
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Agreed but the title is misleading because there are plenty of men who are awful husbands but great fathers and one cannot be picked over the other. If child rearing is the life you want, you need the perfect partner for you. Edit: when I say awful husband, I don’t mean abusive or cruel or like, an asshole alcoholic. I mean someone subpar. Occasionally lazy, maybe sexually selfish. Behaviours that can mask enough to not severely impact a kid. Sometimes doesn’t take the trash out. Doesn’t get his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 03:25 PM
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I agree with the person who said to be careful about labels. Works for some, doesn’t work for some. The fact that demisexuality is considered as part of the asexuality spectrum always felt weird to ME. It felt weird for me. Because I am a very sexual person with frequent sexual attractions and a healthy libido and would never identify as even a tiny bit asexual. But I need that emotional bond and psychological connection (which, FIRST OF ALL, just seems like a regular and healthy courting relati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 02:27 PM
2

Agreed! Being divisive is not conducive to the sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 02:20 PM
3

Ah I see, that doesn’t sound as rigid as I expected. Rather it seems quite natural and normal. Thank you so much! I’ve screenshotted this for later use lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 04:29 PM
3

FDS isn’t going to be perfect. I understand that some posts might trigger women, but this is Reddit, this is the outside world. One should work on themselves to the point that external triggers do not affect them to a detrimental level. The outside world, Reddit and FDS cannot and does not coddle people. This is a resource for invaluable information. No it’s run by women for women. It’s not run by divine beings who have the power to cater to everyone’s whims. They are trying their best and doing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:06 PM
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They want to be the helpless little victim. Oh woe is me! I’m an emotionally undeveloped man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:58 PM
3

Well he’s going to want to fork out $6k to build a gaming PC and then some for all those OnlyFans subscriptions and then some more for the various women who have fooled him into sending them even more money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 12:50 PM
2

I had such a similar experience with a male psychiatrist who kept convincing me to date and get a boyfriend because it might help my mental illness 🤡 after I specifically said I do not want to date !! Audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 12:49 PM
7

Male therapists are laughable because they will try to push and break your boundaries so much, when therapy is meant to help you build them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 09:56 AM
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This is why I don’t support all women, but I am here for “women protect women.” I will never clink teacups with that one backwards gun girl, but if I saw her inebriated at a party I would do my best to take care of her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 09:54 AM
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What kind of conversations do you have on the phone? I am the kind of person that needs specific instructions. I wish I even had a script for this. Like for you, what happens after the standard “hello, how are you?” Like do you just go over plans, ask personal questions, how do you do all of this without making him think he’s being interrogated? etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 09:53 AM
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ugh this reminds me of guys who are studying medicine and have the audacity to call themselves doctors, or better yet someone who was accepted into med school but never went at all. like sure, getting in is tough, but it’s not a badge of honour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 09:51 AM
16

That is a weak, weak man and I am sorry to you, as a fellow woman, your sister, that you had to endure that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 09:49 AM
19

not only is he broke, he’s financially irresponsible (which is probably why he’s broke) because taking a loan should not be treated as something spontaneous. that is a huge financial decision.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 09:47 AM
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This. A million times this. ✨ The thing I see people say with marriage is that you need to COMPROMISE. But here, as women, we know this means we must sacrifice what we want so that the man can do whatever it is he wants. True, equal compromise should never feel like a loss. It’s not even about, say, reducing your four trips to two trips, because your husband wants you to compromise. Compromise is, I’m going to take four trips, maybe more if I WANT to, and the compromise here is that you’re going…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 09:47 AM
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Okay but after that is also probably some link to the MLM they’re apart of. So it’s: Wife 💍 Mother of two beautiful boys 👶👶 | Ephesians 5:22-33 Independent and successful BOSS BABE @herbalife
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 09:42 AM
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I’m not all too familiar with US politics but I agree. Just because I listen to someone like Elle doesn’t mean I support her. Her beliefs could very well be an attack on my existence, but I wouldn’t have been able to decide on my own political beliefs if it weren’t for me listening to all sides of the story. And I would be very happy if some like Elle grew and changed her mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 07:46 AM
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Thank you. I agree. I’m not conservative and I do not like conservative ideas but if I didn’t listen to them and read them, I wouldn’t have known that. More than that, it’s not like this sub is forcing us to be best friends. We all connect on ONE thing and that’s oppression. Conservative women, liberal women, all women. We have all been oppressed or hurt by the patriarchy and that connects us, for better or for worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 07:44 AM
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Agreed. I am left leaning, liberal and generally just very open minded. I don’t enjoy hearing anti-women’s rights garbage or conservative ideas being tossed around. It goes against my morals and politics. But I still find it useful to be aware of what’s going on on the other side. To be able to form a fully rounded opinion, I and everyone needs to see all aspects of the argument before choosing their beliefs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 07:42 AM
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Precisely. I mean, this sub has done more good than harm and we can all attest to that. To be petty and try to cancel it when the ladies go through such effort to give us this podcast? It’s ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 08:03 PM
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the whole point of learning and broadening your horizon means listening to people with opposing views, unfounded views and ridiculous views. you don’t HAVE to, which is why the podcast is there as an OPTION, as is everything on this sub and reddit. i came to FDS not to swallow every bit of information like a brainwashed fool. i humbly came to learn and ingest whatever resonates with me and my beliefs. just because FDS acts as a platform to a certain kind of person or idea does not mean that repr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 06:57 PM
5

I’m very short and the amount of men that have, without me prompting them, aimed a tirade at me about how because I am short, I should date a short man and that it doesn’t matter what their height is. Unannounced, out of the blue. If I can’t reach the top shelf, and he can’t reach the top shelf, who the fuck is going to reach the top shelf? I will stick my head in a sandbox if I have to watch a man climb a counter to reach a cupboard the way I have to 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 06:25 PM
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Whenever someone makes me feel bad for my beliefs, I just repeat in my head again and again, boundaries boundaries boundaries. I remember my boundaries and standards and the years it took to build them and how awful it would be if they pulled a Rome and burned in a day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 06:22 PM
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This reminds me of the 21 or 22 year old drunk man on that one flight that hurled abuse at everyone. News anchors kept referring to him as a kid 💀 That’s a fully baked man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 06:14 PM
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im a guy I talk fancy because im smart 🤡 just say you have no communication skills and don’t actually like women and move on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 06:10 PM
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Period. I see this as similar to the whole “how men hate vs how women hate.” Women’s “hatred” is very passive, internalised, not a burden to men, and a reaction to how they have been mistreated, oppressed, abused or assaulted. Their behaviour includes separating themselves from men. Whereas men’s hatred is very much externalised, there’s intent, it’s entitled, it’s not a victim response. Their behaviour includes bothering women and infiltrating female spaces and discussions. At the core of PUA v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 08:19 AM
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I couldn’t even read the full response, the first few sentences made me so angry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:46 PM
14

lmao i love this!! i wish i could have seen his face haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:13 PM
13

This reminds me of how back in my pre-FDS days, I thought something was wrong with me when this guy kept his hands on my waist while kissing me. I would literally move them to places I assumed he would want and he would move back to my waist. AND I THOUGHT SOMETHING WAS WRONG WITH ME 💀 whew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:13 PM
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This. It also aligns with the majority of men’s complete lack of empathy. They cannot see behind their own experiences so they assume that women feel and think the same as them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:06 PM
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I have more respect for the pathetic losers that pay for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:05 PM
48

I was just going to say. If they’re that desperate for a whole, go buy a fleshlight or pester a fucking sheep. They’ve done it before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:03 PM
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“And you would use my cock how you wanted” Okay so you can vibrate on multiple different settings, be angled and twisted this way and that way and last for 30+ consistent minutes? Yeah I think I’d rather not risk getting murdered, for FREE, with some strange man that just intends to SIT THERE. This is so bizarre and weird. What other species of animal is so driven by their “sexual appetites” that they go out of their way to seek such strange scenarios. This is just so damn weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:03 PM
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For real. I was like 👁👄👁 okay so no men? But you know what, I can live with that! They are never THE priority. But it’s still low-key funny that this eliminates the majority of guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 04:58 PM
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I’m often looking for the petite fitness sub and whenever I type in “petite” or really ANY word, the first and only few subs that show up are porn ones. How depraved and pathetic is that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 04:55 PM
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For real. What can some stranger man do, what revelation can he provide me that my 7 settings, smooth textured dildo vibrator can’t provide me lmao. First time I had a PIV orgasm was with one of those toys! But a guy? A fumbling, selfish buffoon? Mhm no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 04:52 PM
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The way I have NEVER witnessed that second one, not ONCE. In fact, when it’s brought up, I have seen men laugh at that notion or put it down, as if it’s beneath them or emasculating. I think the least emasculating thing to do is to stand up for someone (women).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 04:49 PM
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I am SO glad I lean more towards women than men. I feel like I can take up more space with them, be louder, a little meaner (in that really nice, sincere and charming way) without worrying about cracking their ego. I have approached a woman before. She wasn’t interested in women but she was still so kind and joyful and pulled me to dance with her and we still had a blast. Women are just on another level. A dude getting rejected? It’s almost as if he stops seeing that person as a person. His whol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 10:23 AM
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I agree with psychologists. Many of my relatives are and everything you said applies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 10:10 AM
1

Grab a coffee and walk around a mall? 🤡 I literally do that with my senior parents as a typical Friday afternoon family meet-up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 08:45 AM
5

Genuine question, why is this being downvoted? I thought FDS sees OLD as basically dumpster diving and that it’s better to avoid?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 08:34 AM
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Congrats on your journey girl!! Also I too want to try Magnolias banana pudding, tell me how it is!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 08:24 AM
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Pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 11:27 AM
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Haha all good! xx I’m just taking a guess. Like I’d never see a male gyn about cramps if he doesn’t actually know what they feel like. I could have endometriosis but he could write me off and give me an advil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 07:43 AM
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Probably because she wants or has kids and wants someone to have that further understanding. For me it doesn’t matter because I’m CF. But it’s like why I choose female GYNs. They know what it actually feels like to have a uterus. An expectant mother would probably want someone who has been through pregnancy and birth who can actually relate to them maybe?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 07:40 AM
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What the hell, that’s so messed up. Why couldn’t they do it? Probably some pathetic excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 07:31 AM
6

Agreed!! It’s rlly damn weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 07:30 AM
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I don’t know what woman can laugh at this. The lack of dignity and respect. It’s so appalling. If I had pearls, I would be clutching them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 02:57 PM
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MOOD. But more like, I say something FDS-minded and am met with shocked reactions. Usually with people I don’t know though because most of my girlfriends have been turned onto this sub and interested in the principles since I sent them some screenshots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 02:54 PM
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On another note I love how much more common mentions of being CF are popping up in this sub!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 09:56 AM
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I was flicking through a sub specifically for women facing hairloss. Men have their own sub for it. They have many actually. Why is it that every few posts was some dude?? Why do they love invading spaces so much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 08:19 PM
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If he can’t afford to a date a woman like her, he shouldn’t. It’s not that hard to stop seeing her and find someone else. ?? 🤡 But men are the logical creatures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 08:00 PM
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This reminds me of this time I asked my LV narc brother if he even likes himself when he’s alone. Or if he has any hobbies at all. He just stared blankly as the realisation dawned on him that he doesn’t like himself and that there’s nothing to him. No passions, no interests, not much intelligence either. Just an abusive asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 07:57 PM
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I’m offended because she won’t take my peepee raw! My feelings are hurt! All I care about is muh peepee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 06:33 PM
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All I’m reading is: It’s annoying how all you women are telling me the truth. I don’t want to hear it because he does the bare minimum, he does the bare minimum, he does the bare minimum AND he does the bare minimum. So I’m going to stay with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 06:32 PM
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This is so important! I was molested and didn’t even realise it until a few years later when questions like these were broken down to me. I was inebriated. I was uncomfortable. I even tried smacking and hitting him really hard and saying “no, no, no” and even then, it did not occur to me as molestation. I thought it was a funny drunken story about how I smacked some acquaintance in a car for annoying me. He tried to and did touch me repeatedly. How I ever thought it was funny, I don’t know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 09:39 PM
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This. A lot of them don’t care or they even laugh at you for caring. They trivialise the subject and at first it was so upsetting but now I’m unbothered and see it as pathetic. To not even be able to extend basic empathy. That takes a childlike level of emotional intelligence to do. It’s like this. I am not black. If I were to date someone black, I would take the initiative to learn about black experiences and struggles to better understand and empathise with that part of their identity. This is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 09:32 PM
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Good enough for me lmao! Like bug spray to moths.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 04:25 PM
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CHORE DATE I SCREAMED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:29 PM
22

Exactly! It’s not concrete and not at all something you can count on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 11:27 AM
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I was JUST thinking this, in terms of manifestation and the law of attraction and whatnot. How with some things, sure, you can subconsciously attract positive things you want in life by subconsciously doing things that ensure that. But hoping the same can be applied to attracting a certain type of PERSON? I could never count on hope alone. It’s the kind of thing that takes vetting and analysing and being safe. With friendships, relationships, all kinds of things. I also value the same trait in a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 09:33 AM
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What an asshole, still trying to latch onto you even after you left him and was living your life. They’re like cockroaches they just don’t die!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 05:43 PM
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You’re right! I remember that tidbit of trivia. What a creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 05:34 PM
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Men do not ask women for advice or help. They usually exclusively trust men for such things. If a man is asking you for help, he has ulterior motives. Proceed with caution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 05:00 PM
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Apparently she was afraid to travel alone and rightfully so, so even if she wanted to leave him while on the road, chances are the alternative felt even more unsafe for her so she stayed with him. So sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:58 PM
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When we receive a message from a scrote, I understand blocking and deleting but do we need to report them here too since they obviously lurk? Just got one saying men are superior 🤡😂 Like, nothing beyond that. No references or explanation or expanding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 01:31 PM
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This….this is so PATHETIC HAHAHA 🤡 They’re really just ballsacks with legs. Nothing beyond their penis. To think our species has survived this long in a world of greater predators only for half of our entire population to build their entire lives to revolve around their dicks. That’s where they derive their self esteem from. That’s where they start to construct their identity and sense of reality. Jesus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 01:12 PM
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This is so like, obvious, but also such a revelation to me. The decent men aren’t all up in my business. It makes so much sense yet I never put 2 and 2 together. Ugh I wish I realised this earlier!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 01:05 PM
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They’re like, we have a word for this. It’s called misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 01:02 PM
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It’s more just you have to keep a careful eye on men in general and dangerous people in general. Safety first and all that! Better to be vigilant than a victim
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 12:11 PM
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Good luck queen, I wish you all the safety and comfort! xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 08:19 AM
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I am so sorry. This makes me absolutely sick. It’s not that long ago that the world was at war and Jews were being targeted the way they were. It brings tears to my eyes. I am so sorry. And god, I hate that shit-eating grin they wear. I am tearing up writing this because I am so mad for you. I am so proud you left. I long since ditched my religion because I never aligned with it (Islam) but I occasionally wear a similar necklace because the symbol itself is beautiful and stands for moral values …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 08:12 AM
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I am so glad I swing both ways! Women are by far just so much better in so many ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:37 AM
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Queen! Good on you for not only supporting yourself but flourishing financially! What an asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:19 AM
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This is why so many men are friends with abusers and rapists. “It’s none of my business!” 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:18 AM
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That’s amazing, like yes absolutely, you go! And I love what you’re telling others and doing for your daughter. We need more women like you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:18 AM
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Yes, yes, yes. I wish I could agree to this a billion times. There’s so many studies saying men in relationships are happier than women in relationships. I know for a fact that a relationship would honestly ruin my life at this point. I’m in such a crucial time where I am travelling too much for work, I need to focus on my degree right now and I have a lot of learning to do about tons of things before getting into a relationship. I have like 45 books on my reading list about psychology, strategy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:16 AM
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Lmao that made me chuckle. Such a prick though yeas. That would be so satisfying. Luckily, I only have one last visit with him! Maybe I’ll leave like that then, just for the fun of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:13 AM
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That’s what I assumed too! I think I’ll search for a good therapist in the future, I still have yet another move to make in a year for my postgrad. Omg are you kidding? You had C-PTSD and someone misdiagnosed that as ADHD? I’m- I absolutely agree. I offhandedly mentioned trouble sleeping just for three days and that it was probably caused because I recently started stressful exercise in the evening. He wanted to prescribe me sleeping pills. I continuously expressed discomfort with the idea of sl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:12 AM
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DONT EVEN GET ME STARTED! In college I had to take a few psych electives and I was baffled at how much sexism and misogyny was spouted by the so-called “great scholars” like Plato who believed women were second class and belonged in the kitchen. To think the ideas of men like that inspire our modern understanding of psychology is disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:07 AM
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That’s not what she’s saying. She is talking about the kind of people who have the kind of disorders that influence them into harmful or toxic tendencies that would hurt other people, especially those who depend on their care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:05 AM
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How rude and disgusting! Yet I’m entirely unsurprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:04 AM
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That’s what I thought. I was so taken aback because people, especially men don’t normally try to push my boundaries so much when I stand firm in them. And it felt exactly like he was trying to break me down. I don’t understand how they’re so weak in character that everything rides on female attention for them. Like, what do they think makes them so enticing or unforgettable? And why are they so desperate? This is a common theme I’ve seen amongst men. Not that this has ever been said but if a man…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 07:07 PM
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I was raised in a Muslim community, I am fully agnostic but it’s my family background and let me say, the culture is male-serving. There are many people and countries that share all these “copes” about it being otherwise. “Muslim women have rights now, we are so modern, blah blah blah.” But that’s not the case for 85% of them, if not 90%. The religion, the culture, it’s very much men are in charge, women are second class. I wouldn’t go to a Muslim therapist simply because a lot of my issues were…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 06:31 PM
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SAME! I didn’t realise it was common and seeing all the women giving me their genuine condolences, I didn’t realise how bad it was. Like, sure I was angry but seeing the reactions makes me realise this is also really upsetting and disappointing and worst of all, relatable. I absolutely agree with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 06:19 PM
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i love adding books like this to my reading list, THANK YOU. at this point i have to be so specific about my health provider to really help myself. im a WOC so that adds another layer of needing another WOC who understands me and everything that entails.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 06:07 PM
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He didn’t even give me reasons for his claims the way I did. I felt like a I had academic articles fully referenced supporting my opinion and he was like “you should get a boyfriend just because” 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 05:46 PM
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Ugh. To think humanity has evolved so far yet many men are still confined to the control of their dicks 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 05:17 PM
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Exactly!! I’m no professional but that sounds like ridiculous advice! I even told him I know myself best and I know I am not in a good place to date. That’s how it should be. Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 05:00 PM
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Period. Going into it, I knew it would be a shitshow. I just knew it. But other psychiatrists had a 2 week waiting list and I just needed a prescription. Now our visits are strictly 10 minute in-and-outs for my script.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 04:57 PM
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MY WORRIES TOO, I don’t want some pickme who will mirror every advice heard in the relationship advice sub. jUsT cOmMunIcAtE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 04:56 PM
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Absolutely. I was so pissed off with him. None of his criticism came from an educated or helpful place, he was honestly just talking from his dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 04:55 PM
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huh, who would have thought an exploitative industry built on the backs of desperate or trafficked women didn’t treat their female actresses nicely? who would have guessed 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 12:53 PM
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thing is, it’s not even that hard to be HV. If anything, it takes just as much effort to NOT be HV as it does to be HV. Actually, you really have to go out of your way to be a LV. To comment pathetic comments like those guys did on that post, to just be an all around asshole that nobody but other LV people like. Whereas being HV is just so much more enriching, it’s easier because it makes you and others happy, it brings all around positivity into your life. Even being a lazy asshole takes effort…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 10:48 AM
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Delusional asshole. Does he really think he taught her a lesson? Lmao he just reminded her that he’s a huge creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 08:37 AM
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This. I love the way it makes me feel. Maybe it’s the result of some twisted this is how women should be socialisation, or I was brainwashed into enjoying it, but what brings me solace is that I pretty much approach my feminist and self-care the same way when I am dating a man or woman. I think being attracted to both sexes is what has given me so much clarity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 08:35 AM
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They convince themselves that they’re innocent. They lie so much to others that they eventually believe it themselves and genuinely can’t believe they are being punished or outed. Like, “who? ME?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 08:33 AM
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My heart breaks for her. God, it breaks so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 08:30 AM
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That’s what I’d like to be too! This sub has mentioned a few times the men most likely to be sketchy and lawyers always hover somewhere around the top. I know I have to do my own due diligence too and research but it makes sense in my head. What you said is reassuring. Luckily my interests are broad so I don’t feel pressured to be in one area. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 04:28 PM
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Just as a side note but sort of related, I hear again and again that makes lawyers in general are douches or sociopathic and I’m really wary of this because I too want to work in a firm. As a woman it’s hard enough moving head and landing the promotions when you have to fight tooth and nail and men are made into CEOs for wiping their own ass. I’m still jist studying law but I am really lost at how to like, get ahead in such an environment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 01:41 PM
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This is why it’s so important for women to find FDS, and TALK to other women. All of my friends know that I absolutely do not d will never consent to such behaviour. They know me so well that if anything like this were to happen, they would have text message proof of me saying that I would never consent to violent sex that could lead to murder. I encourage you all of you are dating someone, even if you are already vetting them, let your friends and family know something like this so if god forbi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 10:42 AM
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This is the basics. The handbook even addresses this. “Wanna meet up sometime?” Zero effort, zero interest. He already told you everything you need to know. “feel it out from there” = non-committal, zero effort. Even his answer to your question is stupid. Come on, girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:03 PM
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That flash of anger is terrifying and telling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 05:41 PM
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this is why our sub is still here and all those extreme incel ones are being removed one by one. we’re not spouting ridiculous, hateful shit. we’re calling out pathetic assholes and abusers and focusing on improving ourselves. anyone that says otherwise is coping, like all the idiots calling us hideous femcels or whatever. PROJECTION MUCH? ✨💅🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 08:07 PM
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I get you, we’ve all been there. You had a right to be furious, he has some audacity! That could easily be it. I’m still figuring out myself. Do you have access to therapy or counselling or do you think that’s something you could afford? Even finding free books online might help you figure it out. This sub has a great reading list although admittedly I have yet to get on my books. Maybe you just need to be cold and realise that this person is weighing you down. You can politely remember the nice…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 12:17 PM
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This makes me so angry omg. All those things completely destroyed. I wish I could follow this story and figure out if she got justice or compensation. So much was destroyed. but absolutely yes you are right. The amount of violence is blatant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 12:01 PM
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May I ask for more information? From an FDS standpoint, we know that the majority of the men are LV. Therefore, it’s difficult to have an actual friendship with an LV where they aren’t just using you out of the hope of sleeping with you, or something else, like just being a useless friend. But you said you have a history of getting feelings for guy friends and I think that’s a separate issue in itself to your male friend being toxic. You’ve just started FDS, good for you!! I used to have awful g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 11:58 AM
10

Never heard of this complex before, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 08:11 AM
13

That bit at the end could honestly be a poem, it resonates so well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 08:10 AM
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Yes. One of my standards for dating is that I am with a man with good career prospects. If he’s in a dead end job where there’s no room for moving ahead, what the hell has he been doing until now with all his privilege? They are born a few steps ahead of us. If they don’t use that, they definitely are either stupid or lazy. Period! Marry up, not down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 06:46 PM
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The world is built for men. If a man can’t reasonably succeed financially where the wage gap and career promotions are in his favour, there’s something wrong with him. Edit: just to add, this doesn’t mean someone can easily jump from poverty to billionaire. There are other factors at play too. This one applies to the average, middle class man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 05:19 PM
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This. They assume that everyone else shares their opinions and world views. It’s why they always talk and assume everyone else wants to listen. It’s a massive lack of emotional intelligence, social intelligence and empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 09:16 AM
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Oh look, it’s men suffering with the consequences of their own actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 09:14 AM
2

Especially about mental illness, the way men handle theirs is different to women. First of all, they externalise their issues meaning they will use it as an excuse to either the abhsive or a general asshole. And they probably won’t be working on it the way you are. They probably haven’t taken any effort to even understand their issues by reading a basic article on Google.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 09:14 AM
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Yes. I see this trait in my mother and brother who are very alike in personality. They are very much the “it offends me greatly that you are bothered by something I did to upset you. I will now throw a fit because you hurt me by being hurt.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 08:57 AM
25

A mother calling her grown adult son a “good boy” 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 08:49 AM
134

It’s always the beautiful women and the ugly ogre men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 08:45 AM
126

It’s the most unattractive thing ever. Bonus when they’re immature and childish in all kinds of ways like also being emotionally stunted, lacks empathy and doesn’t know how to wash his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 08:43 AM
189

I was going to say the exact same thing. What a BABY. He manipulates her and takes his petty vengeance out on her and when she scolds him for it, he’s shocked and whiny? Oh no sir, here come the consequences of your actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 07:36 PM
17

Ohh this one is a good one for me because i have really small feet that weirdly people comment on from time to time, especially men. And findings good shoes IS a struggle. Good thinking!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 05:01 PM
72

woah read your original post and this, thanks for the insight and sorry about your experience. i forwarded that bit on adhd to my friends because two of them also have adhd and some other stuff. in the original post, all of his actions seemed so nice. granted, a little love bomby but still nice. what a wolf in sheep’s clothing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:57 PM
1

I don’t know if we are talking about the same story but I also heard of the credit card thing with this student that killed a teacher. Awful murder, so brutal and violent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 03:23 PM
1

Something I don’t like about the cf sub is that it praises men for not getting vasectomies because “my body my choice.” But vasectomies are more easily obtained for them and much less invasive and expensive. All in all, vasectomies are the better option for a cf couple. And not that this should be the selling point but they are also reversible. If a man isn’t open to a vasectomy, I don’t care if he’s exercising his right to choice. I want to be with a man who realises that me being cut into for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 01:18 PM
3

If you truly someone, you treat them the way they deserve because it makes you happy. You wouldn’t need a contract to remember to do the basic stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 01:13 PM
16

Genuine question, what’s a good insecurity to make up if you don’t have one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 12:22 PM
5

Keeping my surname. I like how it suits my first name, it represents my culture and ethnicity, and I have a really cool and vast family history. Edit: Plus, I don’t intend to have kids so no complications, and I’m not anyone’s property!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 12:19 PM
28

Hmmm I wonder why! Ah, I love this sub. The only place I can laugh about shit like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 12:18 PM
37

Or ugly lmao. Nobody else wants them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 11:59 AM
69

Ugh, I can’t stand how kink communities normalise such heinous stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 11:58 AM
84

And it’s not safe at all for women! So I’m childfree and I occasionally look at the childfree dating subreddit out of curiosity. The amount of guys that want a female partner who will join them in the van life is just so annoying. I would gladly spend or invest thousands if it means living in a safe complex with a security guard, a doorman, CCTV, card access doors and lifts and an actual sense of safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 11:57 AM
153

I HATE van life guys! Not just because of stories like this because they are also all broke, honestly stupid or manipulative. Likely all of the above. They have no stable plans for the future, they can’t afford an apartment or house. They insult or gaslight you if you’re not “woke” and “sustainable” like them. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 11:52 AM
43

I found him on his company’s site, looked up his name and found a youtube video of his where he uses his real name for his channel that he shared on his Reddit account. Nothing FBI but I did feel kind of cool figuring it all out. I knew it was him after reading some of his comments because he spoke about his work. I forgot to mention, some of his comments also led me to believe he has a piss kink and that he keeps his ex girlfriend’s nudes on his phone despite being broken up. Triple whammy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:47 PM
1

Oh lord😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 05:40 PM
1

One way I vet guys is rejecting them to see how they handle it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 05:37 PM
1

Queen! Clumsy but still queen shit!! ✨💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 05:33 PM
1

I had a guy violently rip my ID card from me and not give it back until I was literally begging. Sadistic asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 05:27 PM
3

ah yes, to escape the daily war he has within himself, he plays war simulation games. “i see peace, SAFE, and content” cue giant gun on screen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 05:19 PM
72

The guy is pathetic here and so is his friend. If she really cared about him, either as a friend or lover or whatever, she wouldn’t put him in a situation that would compromise or insult his relationship. She knows he’s married and her behaviour is classless, selfish and gross. And this husband is so weak! The “I’ve known her longer” is a really immature card to play because any functioning, emotionally intelligent person knows that duration means little in comparison to connection and relations…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 05:04 PM
210

Wow, that’s a soulmate right there! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 05:00 PM
4

This made me laugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 04:59 PM
25

Anything else might break his entire masculinity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 04:59 PM
57

Literally same, except it wasn’t a coworker, it was this other member in a beach club I’m a part of. He was attractive, seemed outgoing and whatnot. Then I hear him mention Jordan Peterson and that was it. The other day I was online stalking a mutual network connection because I saw a video of him and thought he was handsome. Found his Reddit and looked through his comments history and lo and behold he listens to Joe Rogan’s podcast. What a bummer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 04:58 PM
76

Good for you! All he has is audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 04:55 PM
52

Ignorance was bliss, I wish I didn’t know this. That’s so…like oh my god 😭 not even a cheap ring from the jewellery section of KMART ?? He couldn’t at least spare $10 on something that at least LOOKS sparkly from Claire’s ?? no he wanted to use DIRT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:01 PM
181

I love that all the comments are “WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT” 😭😭 does anyone have an answer??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:30 PM
28

I love this story, queen shit!! And I love all the emojis we’re throwing out here 💖💅🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 09:43 AM
144

This is so sad :( animals don’t understand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:38 PM
10

He always gave me weird vibes. I saw this video by Shallon Lester (I don’t like her at all but she makes some good gossip) and she actually made some really good points about his previous relationships and the common trend of how he treats his women partners. He prefers having more success and being the bigger celebrity and that was what got in the way of his previous relationships. And I could see it when he would constantly try and be funny and outshine Blake (which is impossible, try as he ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:19 PM
35

iT iS sO hArD fOr MeEeE. Imagine what it’s like for her dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 08:42 AM
2

So true yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 07:46 AM
11

You’re so right. On another note that’s so pathetic of them. Could never be us. Craving a man!! Male presence. Ha! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 02:28 PM
52

How can a grown man be so bad with money? And what is it with so many cops being assholes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 02:27 PM
12

That line is so important and it puts things into perspective for me. It’s so easy to forget the original meaning of the message and focus solely on the man paying part but it’s deeper than that, it’s about sincerity and generosity and interest and investment. You’re absolutely right! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 02:00 PM
34

EWWWWW NOOOOO 😭 why do they talk about women like that sjsjsjsjjdjs girl bye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 01:32 PM
232

Well they got one thing right and it’s portraying the men as sharks 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:30 PM
37

Thank you. I value answers like this because this is what I’m asking for. Reminders from FDS women. I joined this sub I don’t know how long ago as just a lurker, reading as much as I could before making an account and commenting and posting. It’s nice to remember why I’m here every now and again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:59 AM
103

I can’t wait to get sterilisation! Good for you. You’re so right. Like, hearing these things is exactly what I needed. To be reminded by FDS women that we still deserve HV treatment regardless. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:14 AM
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Yes and yes! Thank you for understanding aaa. It’s like, we are oppressed either way and regardless of whether we “contribute” children or not, we deserve more than some half-assed scam or 50/50, but when the rhetoric of “we are worthy because we can be others” is so often said by people here , it’s like, where does that leave childfree women? For someone who still doesn’t know that 50/50 is a scam, it can be really confusing and set them up for some bad times. And that’s exactly what I want, so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 10:50 AM
60

You actually just opened my eyes to something new. That makeup thing used to be in my head as a legitimate concept. Like, I spend money on makeup, clothes, hair, nails etc. so he should at least pay for the date. But that’s wrong! Even if I don’t do those things, my standard should remain. It’s so basic but also I’m only realising that now. You’re completely right. It’s like when levelling up posts focus on beauty and makeup and stuff. Like out of all the ways to level up, focusing on fitting so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 10:46 AM
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I am not confused about 50/50 and I know the post you are talking about, it’s great. What you are saying is what I am saying. I understand that I still am putting up with risks, like I said in the third last paragraph. Adding onto what you said, even the fact that women are more prone to STDs and how some of them can make a woman infertile or cause her some other illness is a huge risk. I am not saying that our reproductive capabilities don’t put us at risk. Is that what my post is coming across…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 09:48 AM
37

Ah yes, I love when women are compared to cars. Amazing. On another note, the things we expect from a man are not unreasonable at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 08:42 AM
16

Christ. No words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 08:39 AM
12

I read this other thing where Freud’s original research was completely different and discussed the mental aftermath on daughters sexually abused by their fathers, but other men didn’t want the public to believe that it was prevalent so they forced him to say that the women wanted it, leading to that elektra (?) complex. I haven’t researched this apparent story further but I honestly fully see it as plausible. All these theories are so wishy-washy. And as a grown adult, it’s common knowledge that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 05:37 PM
11

What lawyer helped him draft this and how did they have the gall to continue typing beyond the sex demand. That is embarrassing. This man is basically asking for a sex doll with no thoughts, opinions or objectives in life except kissing his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 05:33 PM
13

I didn’t even realise this but you’re right. It’s on part with SW and the like because I doubt women would do it if they were financially secure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 05:30 PM
100

It’s purely artistic. If anything, watching porn makes him an intellectual, a real creative genius!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 05:24 PM
7

every phone comes with an autocorrect, there’s no excuse for self ASTEAM 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 05:23 PM
14

“I don’t want to put you in harms way” try hard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 05:22 PM
19

Well it’s mostly men that are allowed to and encouraged to publish such theories. Not a surprise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 05:19 PM
54

What a whiny whinger. All the focus is on him. Me, me, me. And using his anxious attachment style as an excuse to be an asshole? If you’re aware of your character flaws, step two is working on them. Not using them as a justification. What an asshole. And if he was aggressive enough to the point of making her cry, her, someone who is supposedly all secure and independent and self-assured, then I don’t believe him when he said he didn’t yell. I’m sure he crossed the line more than he let on. I can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 05:19 PM
242

Not only to they believe in The One or a Dream Girl, they think they’re entitled to the pretty, accomplished, therapist, mommy, bangmaid. ENTITLED to it. Just because they’re a dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 09:46 AM
1

Okay but why is he acting like he is the one giving the gift of marriage and kids to a woman. Oh how generous of him. What a twat!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:47 PM
2

INSECURE and trashy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:39 PM
3

When I was in college, sometimes I’d leave my laptop at the table in the library when I’d go to the bathroom. It was a really safe thing to do. I would always find messages and messages in my inbox from boys on campus who I didn’t even know. After a while, I realised my first and last name were on the laptop lock screen. I changed my admin name to my initials only and take my laptop everywhere now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:01 PM
140

WHY IS HIS WHOLE ASS HANGING OUT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:00 PM
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I bet he thinks he’s some kind of genius or something. Like, DUH DUDE??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 05:54 PM
21

Yes! Physical levelling up to me is about nourishing your body and focusing on health. Style, makeup etc. are just preferences after that. Not bad, but not necessary! And certainly not all the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:44 PM
699

He has been wanting to break up with her for THREE YEARS. Three YEARS. THREE years. This woman, I feel so bad for her, her time has been royally wasted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 01:55 PM
133

Just to add on, and not to be superficial, but I have more gold than literally every single man I’ve come across. So I find it especially funny when a guy calls me a gold digger for expecting him to pay less than $50 for an appetiser and dinner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 01:43 PM
1

Everytime I forgot how bad the world is, something comes along and reminds me! Oh to be a woman in this day. Amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 08:06 AM
22

“Cultural significance of football” WHO LIED TO HER. The poor woman sounds brainwashed. Surprise surprise, questionable age gap. God, I hope she dumps his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 03:57 PM
116

“I have started to resent her deeply” - that’s extreme as hell. Oh no! My girlfriend won’t touch my pee pee the way I want! I now feel waves of resentment fill me. This is a big, serious issue! Touch my pee pee the way I want! Or! Resentment!! What a fucking baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 09:22 PM
2

I misread and at first thought this was stuff boyfriends did. I am SHOCKED that these were men you worked with. Where is the professionalism. These babies needed a woman to carry snacks for them because they didn’t have the EQ to control their behaviour? And what is it with EVERY GUY taking every gesture as a come on. I smiled at a man because he was a mutual friend standing with my friends and he thought I was flirting with him. Pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:48 PM
57

I try to be friendly so I don’t get, you know, killed. Usually I joke something along the lines of, “by the way, there’s CCTV with microphones in here so if you want to pick your nose, scratch your ass or talk about where you hid the body, you should do it outside.” Most maintenance guys laugh along but it’s a subtle and safe way to remind strangers that they are being recorded completely. It also helps to keep a trusted man around. I have a guy friend who at this point is basically a bodyguard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:36 PM
37

As much as displays of affection are important, I wish hugs weren’t advertised as this cutesy fix all. While women romanticise hugs as these warm symbols of male protection and support, the majority of scrotes view it as their chance to feel boobies or something like some pathetic 12th grader. Physical affection that is meant to be sincere and pure is almost always sexualised by men who have so much more to gain from hugs than women do. This is why I am not a hugger. It is a lot more intimate th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:32 PM
7

I think I should have added that these guys are usually also like, boyfriends, husbands or fathers where their female partner ends up doing so much of the work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 09:27 AM
14

In that case you deserve an apology from the universe 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:20 PM
9

Pretentious assholes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 09:20 PM
40

The audacity of them to do that astounds me. I thought men fill with pride when they are the ones offering to do things and being PROVIDERS like they tell other men to be. All of them are a mix and all of them are equally losers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 07:47 PM
58

The venn diagram of men that are predatory and men that have no healthy feelings at all is a fricken circle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 07:44 PM
2

I know EXACTLY what you mean about having trauma with your own name, I changed mine too! Good for u xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 06:56 PM
11

I love the tone of your post, it’s like some Matrix blue vs red pill awakening and you’re finally waking up! We’re here for you, consider us your supportive group of women :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 10:53 AM
26

Yes! I hate that the phrase has been hijacked and misused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 10:24 AM
10

Need more specifics. What kind of female attention? Could be an ego thing, or a misogynist thing, or a mommy’s boy thing.
/r/askFDS05/07/21 09:49 PM
120

In college, I had three lovely guy friends I would exercise with. We all happened to end up in the same gym eventually. They all knew what they were doing and were experienced enough in fitness but even still, I was always the one with the lasting longer workouts more excessive progressive overloads. The three of them would tease each other about being weak compared to me, I loved that banter between them. And when it came to me, they would commend me or cheer me on. Usually, I would go to the g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 07:53 PM
197

I always saw lingerie as a man’s gift to himself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 07:49 PM
2

More than that, it’s similar to the guys who constantly talk about high school as their glory days or something, like they peaked at 17 and haven’t mentally moved on and have since wasted to nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 05:56 PM
1

EXACTLY. I find that there are three kinds of men when it comes to empathy. The ones that don’t feel empathy at all and for no good reason. The ones that can only “empathise” with things they have experienced themselves. And the ones who have experienced hardships but STILL have not developed empathy. All three are equally disappointing and unsurprising.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 05:55 PM
3

YES. That’s how they tell on themselves. Sometimes it just takes looking between the lines. When I think of a man that is assertive in an attractive way, I think of, say Mr. Darcy. And when you watch the film, to be honest he doesn’t even seem assertive. I think it’s because assertiveness has been misadvertised as like you said, being a dick. But it’s not. It’s about knowing when to take initiative and when not to, when to be sure of yourself and when not to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 10:18 AM
3

Yup yup yup. I checked his profile and he regularly posts the exact same thing on various subs and nobody ever comments. I wonder why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:40 AM
3

That’s what I thought too, it’s like he’s already decided how he wants you to act and it left a sour taste in my mouth. Yup, classic instance of a dude being full of shit and trying to pretend he isn’t. I’m glad you like the post xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:39 AM
3

Right! Like the way he said it just caught me off guard. Like does he expect to be babied? The way he admitted to having zero emotional intelligence was honestly the cherry on top of this shit pile. What the hell makes men think that’s a good line???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:37 AM
2

Exactly yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:35 AM
10

Yes! Some people will say anything to get laid or get a relationship and honestly, we all know here that most men are full of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 08:21 PM
49

FINALLY SOMEONE SAID IT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 07:49 PM
19

Right! Thing is, I see this in films too, this idea that assertive men are attractive. I don’t know who started it, probably Adam Sandler lmao. But yeah, assertive means he will push or break boundaries, be an ass, and probably have some “dark humour” (not actually dark, usually violent or racist or sexist or something else that’s disturbing)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 07:40 PM
7

Being on this sub for a while has opened my eyes to so much! Trying to find a HVM through OLD is like looking for gold in a dumpster so good luck! Thank you so much :) I’ll be sure to do another scrote examination in the future
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 07:37 PM
6

Thank you so much! x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 06:46 PM
4

Ahhh I’m glad you did :) x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 04:19 PM
6

I can’t stand when these idiots act more stupid than they actually are. Man in the second post knew exactly what he was doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:15 PM
3

None of this examples are even 50/50. Dinner and a suit is way more expensive than lunch and a shoe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:13 PM
1

I have a guy friend that accepts criticism like a breeze. It’s so refreshing. And he actually actively changes and thanks me. Not just listens without complaining. He lost his temper when he was intoxicated at another man for leaving me to walk alone at night time in the street. While I was glad to have someone back me up, I actually gave the man permission to leave me there and also, him losing temper was very like, I forget the word aaaaa but it bothered me. So he immediately owned up to it an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:11 PM
11

What? How can a white person be brown if they’re white? And how can a black person be white if they’re black? Girl, you have me confused. Do you mean mixed race people? Because in that case, I am all for them when they identify as whatever they want and whatever they feel comfortable with. Oh wait, do you mean people are calling YOU white or black? Hmmm, I kind of understand you but at some point, the answer should be a bit obvious. I’m brown but I don’t have the obvious features that my brown f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:07 PM
9

Absolutely. Is he trying to get someone drunk?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:02 PM
12

My dad pays $300 for my hair, not that he has to. He occasionally pays the $45 for my nails. Even the $900 for my laser hair removal machine. And the regular yummy dinners and desserts. He’s just generous and confident in his ability to not only provide basic things but also gift me more. He doesn’t do it because he’s asked to. In fact, I never ask. He just knows how to treat a woman that deserves this kind of stuff. He opens every door for me, keeps an eye on my gadgets and things in case they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:01 PM
14

How could this ever be normalised? I see a lot of women suffering the same thing. If a man whipped out his dick AND porn AND began jerking off ?? Like, that’s absurd. That would blow my mind!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:52 PM
27

I LOVE WHIPPING OUT ANOTHER LANGUAGE TO GET RID OF SOMEONE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:51 PM
68

Didn’t someone also say that by 2045, most men will be infertile? Bald and babyless. Let’s hope they can still lift heavy things and open jars, otherwise I struggle to see any other purpose for them. Even then, most women I know can lift heavy and open jars so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:49 PM
59

I think it depends. A lot of people don’t get to decide whether they are POC or not which is unfair, such as say Arabs because some of them aren’t brown or black. Usually, I find that it’s white people that decide who is a POC and who isn’t and it’s a sort of means of controlling a portion of that population. It’s a whole discussion really and hard to answer in one comment. Even someone who is ethnically ambiguous or “white passing” (I really dislike that term because it reduces POC with varying…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:47 PM
92

Oh yeah, because men are so oppressed. Do they remember who invented the patriarchy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:36 PM
49

For real, all these excuses and the ones blaming her are insane. Maybe men can give themselves STDs because they’re so unwashed and gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 10:21 AM
13

I want to know this too because usually, attraction is apparent quite soon, often with the first meeting.
/r/askFDS04/07/21 08:55 AM
48

They could build stuff together and fix cars though!! Honestly, what the fuck was OP thinking. The way they instantly associated women with sharing the housework as if that’s exactly how women bond. Must be written by a man no doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 09:16 PM
547

Not cooking and cleaning for someone does not make you a bitch oh my god.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:57 PM
92

What the hell is that last part? He’s going to FORCE her?? That’s abuse, that’s literal abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:07 PM
194

Cosmopolitan once again publishes something disturbing that has the potential to ruin a woman’s life. Who the hell is in charge of this company???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:38 AM
26

What the hell was he waiting for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:29 AM
21

This guy knows how much he can do and how much she’ll let slide. It’s way too far in to fix.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:27 AM
11

These guys do everything they can to seem like some kind white knight. Like, how can you excuse lying?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:19 AM
103

There’s a lot to unpack here. Fetishisation as an Asian woman, fetishisation as a petite woman with smaller “assets”, your own insecurities and feeling inferior (which is really saddening by the way!). I kind of relate, I am short and I have a baby face but my body is really womanly. I’ve been hit on by men of all ages and the only ones that made me think it had to do with the baby face was the men that were way older. Men my age, I can forgive because I’m in my early 20s but a 40 year old man h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 09:06 AM
924

“I don’t want to shame him” WHAT SKSKDNNSJDJSJDJJDJD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 11:55 AM
67

Women don’t insult men by calling them slurs. I’ve literally only ever heard men using that word for that reason too. Way too obvious. And the violence of the words? The constant “kys” is so telling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 05:11 PM
143

This doesn’t sound like a woman at all. God, they’re so stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 05:02 PM
3

“And the most annoying part is that things hits work out” MAYBE BECAUSE SHE ISNT THE IMPULSIVE INFANTILE THING YOU DESCRIBED HER AS Edit: I really hope she doesn’t consider his words because it sounds like life is great for her and I hope it stays that way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:43 PM
3

Calls a woman impulsive. Continues to explain her doing a list of very normal adult things. What an insecure loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:42 PM
5

Jesus. And he’s only 17.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:29 PM
5

I have no idea about this whole parenting thing. But one of my best friend’s is a HVM and he credits his growth from mildly typical boyish asshole to grown, emotional man is the women in his life. Role models. Being taught to see them as people, seeing first row their experiences and how they differ to his own. Education really. Someone else talked about porn and warped reality and that is so important. When kids learn things, it’s without any context. Especially when it’s something digital show…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:28 PM
3

ITS SO BAD. It’s not even good trash. Both men are awful options. It’s like a wattpad fan fiction so the writing and all those details don’t bother me, it’s obvious that it’s going to be awful. But the whole tug of war only to end the way it did, which is like what, finally justifying cheating or something? Really frustrating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:04 PM
18

If a man did this, approaching me and ignoring my friend, I’d ask him to leave. It doesn’t take expensive glasses and glaring pointing arrows to see when someone is being an asshole. If my friend let something like that carry on, I’d leave the both of them at the table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:01 PM
11

Kidneys are worth too much money to give it to some unwashed balls, receding hairline idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 03:57 PM
55

I know that weird, pathetic men who haven’t processed very, very minor childhood trauma and use it to think of themselves as mysterious, playboy billionaire Bruce Wayne. “I have a dark past” “There’s a darkness inside of me” “The world has been dark to me” Like okay, budget Batman, pack it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 03:55 PM
3

How stupid does he have to be? She cries and even then he still doesn’t get it. Someone wouldn’t have to cry for me to understand the whole situation and take steps to alleviate the issue. He knew she could not afford things, he knew she took on an extra job, how can he be so unaware when things go sideways for her? 50/50 is a scam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:29 PM
6

There’s been a lot of posts specifically about BALDING MEN made by scrotes on this sub,at first they were really obvious and being removed but I see the scrotes are trying to evolve. What is their obsession with baldness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:28 PM
6

Agreed, it’s still really suspicious!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:20 PM
13

This...is ridiculous. While I’m not attracted to bald or pornsick men, there is little logic in this post. I kind of want to laugh. I thought a scrote wrote this so I checked your profile but it seems you’re a woman?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:16 PM
7

SAME. A while back I made a post about something like this after multiple women on this sub said a woman can’t be a groomer or criminal because we live in a patriarchal world. Like, how absurd! This was in reference to Aaron Taylor-Johnson’s much older wife who groomed him when he was 17 and she was in her late 30s with two children!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 05:06 PM
2

Everything about this is terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 10:25 PM
142

Yes. We have the phrase pickmeisha and LVW for a reason. Women aren’t perfect, all magical beings. We make mistakes. We’re grown. We can handle accountability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 10:03 PM
93

Ugly guys are still as dumb and crappy as the attractive ones, but it’s better to have wasted your time with an Adonis who cares about his health than a sweaty, goose neck Phil who plays video games all day and wanks to his waifu body pillow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:58 PM
19

Everything she’s describing is not something new. Vetting? Identifying creepy assholes? Not sleeping with someone we don’t trust and respect? Also, I don’t think anywhere on this sub anyone has advocated acting emotionally unavailable to keep a man interested, this isn’t high school. If doing a background check on a man before you sleep with him is too hard, you do you. If it gives you anxiety to ? Be careful and protect yourself ? By all means, stop doing that and go for anyone. Pick-me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:30 PM
580

Those posts she added are vile and cringey. What do you mean by karma, you bald shit, did you assault a woman? And what is it with men waving around GUNS? As if their fists weren’t enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 08:29 AM
3

Convinced none of these guys actually met or spoke to a woman more than some surface level conversation that made her feel creeped out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 06:17 AM
89

It’s a red flag to me. Honestly the whole being with the girl thing that he slept with in the past is one red flag, going out for drinks and getting wasted is another, saying he can’t afford to do anything and having a bender is yet another, much less telling you that he won’t be able to afford your standard dates is the cherry on top in my opinion. A gentleman won’t tell you “because of X, Y and Z I am not going to take you out on the usual kind of date.” He’ll reschedule until it’s within his …
/r/askFDS24/06/21 06:11 AM
123

This is a nightmare. I feel so awful for that woman, I can just barely empathise with her fear because something like this is so insane and far removed from my life. I can’t even imagine...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:20 PM
14

I could tell they were scrotes from a mile away. No FDSer would bash someone for having acne or refer to a handsome man as “Chad.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 07:51 PM
11

Literally. There’s so much they can do. Like pick up a book, start walking. Just leave women alone you sweaty loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 07:50 PM
7

Right! It was a massive cope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 07:48 PM
20

Same! I was listening to the FDS podcast and one of the ladies said they saw similar things too, one guy said he tried to get in and say something but they hold this sub down tighter than Fort Knox 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 05:11 PM
40

If anything jumps out, I always check the profile and report them. This sub is literally a last safe haven for so many of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:25 PM
29

Yes! And the thing is, it’s SO EASY to learn and be better. Like none of us FDSers came out of the womb knowing this stuff. All of us put constant work into growing and learning and changing and if we come across an opinion that bothers us, we figure out if it’s because it’s challenging us to change positively or if it’s something harmful. We consult books and google and each other. These men don’t want to change, they don’t want to grow. Because they CAN. The world is built for them. If they ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:12 PM
54

Oh my god, they tried so hard sounding like women saying “us ladies” or “hey sisters” like ?? That doesn’t make us ignore the rest of the obvious redpill rhetoric
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:08 PM
76

I think they’re jealous because their own subreddits aren’t articulate or smart enough to give them genuine levelling up strategies, just weird PUA tactics or some Robert Greene manipulation skills. Or just plain women-hating fuel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 01:04 PM
75

The thing is, they TRY SO HARD but it’s so damn obvious. Like, nobody talks about men in “alpha” or “beta” terms. And the way all of these posts have been weirdly bashing men for having acne (not a big deal), or being bald or short? It’s like some weird masochistic projection. And then they would throw in a cope like “not even Jeff Bezos can fix his bald head.” Like first of all, money CAN fix baldness, hair transplants hello?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 01:03 PM
49

A free service bestie, that ain’t our job! These freaks need to find somewhere else to entertain themselves. We’ve got better things to do ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 11:07 AM
320

Havent you heard of the male uproar now that women’s gyms are becoming a thing? They’re whole lives, men are encouraged to break boundaries and take up space. From Christopher “The Colonising Animal Fucker” Columbus to Joe who manspreads on the subway. Meanwhile women are told to be gentle and quiet and demure and stay in their lanes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 10:39 AM
183

Well between jerking off in their mom’s basement and literally not doing anything else, it’s hard to say 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 10:24 AM
35

This is a scrote post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 09:50 AM
9

I usually find all the measurements on the sites I use? I really can’t complain lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 04:12 PM
34

I always use Lovehoney and I think the other one was Wild Desire or something cheesy like that? A lot of their products have ALL measurements including girth :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 01:42 PM
80

Yeah that’s a super bad decision on his part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 11:26 AM
459

Most sex toys marketed towards women are big. They’re big for a reason. Size affects pleasure. Nobody enjoys a baby thumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 11:08 AM
69

GOD I SEE WHAT YOU DO FOR OTHERS 😭 WHEN IS IT MY TURN???? 🤲🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:38 AM
69

SAME AAA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 07:24 PM
53

Best case scenario, he’s a delusional creep with some kind of severe mental illness. Worst case scenario, you give him the benefit of the doubt because of the former and he kills you. Both scenarios are fucking awful. Much better to be paranoid, “stingy”, uptight and alive and safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:57 PM
1

And they get mad at you when you either don’t approve, aren’t overjoyed (they need the outward validation), or when you point out the potential (obvious) dangers and risks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:42 PM
13

They think spewing shit works on us. Maybe all it takes to bother them is some fifth graders attempt at crude language and being hurtful, but we’re grown women. Insults that we’ve heard a thousand times already don’t even make us blink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:39 AM
11

That niece thing rubs me the wrong way SO MUCH. That’s his relative, his younger female relative, why is he fixated on her sexual history.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:36 AM
10

Posts like these remind me how my standard is a destination proposal with a sparkly asf ring. It’s going to be me, my man, and Monaco, or not. Either way I’m taking myself on holidays 😂 He can stay home single and play shooting games with “the boys”, or better yet he can find himself a pickmeisha who would be happy with a chicken nugget proposal or whatever pickmeisha personality trait is all the rage right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:34 AM
203

Exactly what I was thinking. She sounds like an ambitious and educated woman and being with this man is like caging a bird. Eventually it’ll all fall apart and this decision would be a HUGE mistake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:15 AM
17

How her parents could allow this relationship is beyond me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 10:43 AM
61

Most guys who have an issue with gold-digging don’t have any actual gold. The men who “offer gold” in order to be able to date a younger, beautiful woman, know that this is only because they are providing. Sure, some are delusional but for the most part, they’re not clueless that it has to do with their gold. And because they actually have gold, they’re not so stingy about being generous with it. But the men who shame women for wanting a provider when they just want a woman for her looks, they u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 10:23 AM
2

I love everything and A NOSE WITH PERSONALITY!! Yes! I love them big or hooked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 07:34 AM
2

THERE ARE NO EXTRA PRIZES FOR DATING UGLY MEN! I wish I said that to my friend ugh, such an iconic saying. I love the “duh”, like you know what you want and you know you deserve this kind of man and you’re not ashamed about it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:23 PM
2

I think you may be right. I was naive in that I didn’t expect such a response because to me, these standards are well within reason. It’s like whiplash whenever I realise that plenty of people settle for less or don’t think their standards could be higher. The humbling thing is so true. Some scrote commented on another of my posts in another sub calling me a hoe, real original LOL. Keeping goals and stuff to yourself is something I hear a lot actually, like being too vocal can stop you from bein…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 09:53 AM
7

Period!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:22 PM
6

WASHES BETWEEN HIS ASS CHEEKS, please and thank you. I don’t know if you know what a shatafah is but that’s what I have at home, even a bidet will do. ANYTHING. As long as it’s literally washed, not just wiped once. The ally thing is so important but feels so damn rare, so many men are allergic to feminism and so many others are only in it to either get laid or to use it for its benefits to men. This list is entirely realistic and solid and ideal, but U can imagine so many scrotes going “but- bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:53 PM
43

“he’s actually just really boring” i snorted 😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:50 PM
3

If he wanted to, he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:43 PM
28

It’s the insecurity jumping out! You see it with men who have a short man complex. You give them a chance and they take advantage of you and their ego becomes inflated. I think I had similar experiences, it was always the better looking guys who looked after themselves that treated me better. Of course there were the few outliers who were honestly either sexually depraved or narcissists but they exist across the gradient. Omg sister those little escapades sound so good, I hope it’s like that whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:31 PM
12

Nooooo now I can never forget this one piece of information 😭😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:15 PM
14

The unicorns with a full head of hair and big hearts and dicks are out there lol! Thank you, yes. And not to be arrogant but I’m beautiful (thanks mom for the cheekbones), I’m not going to just be with anyone. More than genetics, I put so much effort into my looks. Microblading, skincare, diet and exercise, hair salon trips etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:15 PM
9

EXACTLY! Like when she said that this man would have expectations too, I thought “I should hope so!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:14 PM
4

But the aesthetic!! 😭😭 You’re right though, it is very painful constantly looking up aaa
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:07 PM
11

Yeah, you’re right! The amount of guys that pretend until they think they have their hooks in you only to show their true colours, or even the actually decent guys but they seem better than they are due to women falling into the “falling for potential” crap. I replied to others saying that the list is still really damn lenient because I would think that a guy who checks these boxes is still beneath my standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:06 PM
7

I’m short too but I recently read a whole lot of fan fiction with a very tall love interest so I’m still riding that high 😂 YES, like we aren’t charities for men who can’t step up to our standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:51 PM
9

Omg same, did we have the same childhood? Haha. I think you’re right with that and it’s kind of sad, so many brilliant women end up settling on half-baked men. ADAM SANDLER MOVIES ARE PROPAGANDA. The way he would always have a hot, 20-something wife?? Make it make sense. Yeah, the conversation shifted after that but if it comes up again, I’ll press her for her references.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:50 PM
26

Mmm there’s a sweet spot between dad bod and fit where they’re strong enough to carry you and soft enough to cuddle. Omg yes to animals. Red flag if he doesn’t like cats lol. HYGIENE!!!! Too many guys leave literal skid marks on their boxers, what a nightmare. I love your list!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:47 PM
9

Thank you for validating me. When criticism or doubt comes from a friend, it really throws you off and you start to doubt yourself so my friend had me questioning my own list. But honestly, if I settle for anything less than what’s on this list, that would be awful. Like you said, sticking to your standards is self care. I mean, I can’t just give my time, love, body and space to just ANYONE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:43 PM
13

Huh, that’s really interesting. I might give that a read. She just seems so confident but now that you mentioned that whole cognitive dissonance thing and projection, it’s plausible. As her friend, I am privy to her thoughts and she does express feelings self conscious and stuff at times, like any woman. Hm. I mean, she’s healthy and happy and that’s all that matters! Everything else is just basic biology :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:38 PM
18

It was just meant to be little fun girly chats! And I ended up totally pissed off haha. I love your list. That no drugs thing is so crucial to me. I spent way too much time with stoners who think they reached Socrates-level awareness because they tripped on acid once and experienced some semblance of basic human empathy for the first time. Those guys are exhausting! And yes to no porn as well, that screws with the mind and sense of reality just as much as drugs. Honestly, I didn’t even realise i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:23 PM
24

RIGHT! Like in my dream of dreams, he would also own multiple yachts and frequent fancy hotels with me but I kept the list humble and realistic even though it was a fantasy. THANK YOU. Like yes, of course he’s going to have expectations and if they’re unrealistic or they don’t align with me or they’re borderline abusive, then I’m just going to....leave? Lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:20 PM
35

This made me laugh! I absolutely should devote my hours to giving a charity case basement dweller my time and attention and love. So what if all he does is eat greasy food and play video games, it doesn’t matter that I’m a hardworking woman. I need to give the NICE guy a chance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:19 PM
12

Honestly, even though she explained herself I don’t know what compelled her to say what she did. As her friend, I of course want to defend her. Her character has my respect and admiration but that one comment of hers really bugged me. I only wish more people learned about pornsickness. And you know what, you’re right! This list honestly feels really humble, I agree that I could most definitely ask for more. In fact I do expect more. I love that FDSers affirm this for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:18 PM
27

I feel that too! Going below my own achievements feels like an insult to myself. The ambition thing is so important, there’s so much learning to do in life I could never be with someone who isn’t learned or academic or at least curious. The porn thing is SO important. My list mainly focused on physical because the other things like sexuality and porn and whatnot could go on forever but absolutely yes. No weird perverts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:16 PM
16

There’s nothing unrealistic about that. In our current dating scene, it might feel impossible because most guys are problematic in some way or other, but that’s never reason to just settle. Absolutely yes and yes. Marriage isn’t something I need, more like something I’d like. I also like women and more than liking men and women, I love my own company too. I’m really happy that you found your match, he sounds so good! Flaws, bossiness and all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:14 PM
58

I might follow suit and just keep it to myself as well. Not the Santa beard 😭 Someone on FDS said that such beards usually hide one of those basement dweller chins. And another pointed out who guys with those beards always take those weirdly exaggerated facial expression selfies, I bet you know what I’m talking about. Sexually generous!! So important yes. I’m glad that we have FDS to share this kind of stuff. Lord knows so many people irl just can’t handle it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:45 PM
32

Right! Like I don’t put so much effort into myself to be healthy and strong and capable and smart just to accept someone on the off chance that he’s...a nice guy? That he might be able to give me things a better looking, more accomplished and adequate man might bring me! My conclusion is: never drop your standards. I sure as hell won’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:08 PM
80

Maybe! Assholes exist across the gradient. Like I told her, the kind of man with the body I like is usually a gym bro and gym bro’s are usually sexist assholes. But the same phenomena exists in, like you said, nerdy men, or indie guys, or military guys, or men in education, CEO’s, ANYONE. She was coming from a place where she fell in love with a man who wasn’t as tall as she expected, and that she’s grateful he doesn’t impose any strict standards on her, like if she gained weight he wouldn’t be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:06 PM
43

PICK ME BOY!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:40 PM
142

Women do desire men. Men just can’t handle when women give them their standards. It’s not my fault if my coochie doesn’t throb at the sight of a greasy, misogynistic, smelly, unfit, bald buffoon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:14 PM
36

Omg thank you. I think I can align with the Pink Pill ideology. Red Pill women sound terrifying, like some Jordan Peele film terrifying. Thanks for telling me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:23 PM
54

I was always really confused about the meanings of pink, black, red, blue and black pill stuff. Anyone care to enlighten me? 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:27 AM
2

Does he want a gold star? Can’t believe he’s 30 and riveted by his own display of basic human intelligence and interest in others apart from himself. That aside, the question he asked her is such common place for women to ask each other. Like calm down sir, you didn’t break any barriers here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:17 PM
59

He’s so cruel that she became accustomed to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 11:03 AM
7

Yeah it just sounds like zero empathy and putting words in your mouth. I also find that men use it when for once a woman isn’t treating him with the usual customer service smile and voice. They can’t compute anything less.
/r/askFDS09/06/21 11:00 AM
18

This is a horror show, I don’t even know which part is worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:01 PM
109

You guys are all so young though, yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 09:27 AM
36

Of course, who ever is prepared for such a situation. You really thought you knew him because this sociopath was so talented at lying. Good luck sister, I am here for sadness turning into anger! You deserve to feel that anger and I hope once all the emotions are out of the way, everything is peaceful and you are able to move on and live life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:34 PM
57

Are you in a position to find a lawyer who can help you so that you can leave without having nothing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:52 PM
15

Creepy. If you accept this gift once, who knows what he’ll do next. You can tell him it’s against work policy to accept gifts from customers?
/r/askFDS05/06/21 09:51 PM
324

This reminds me of a discussion I had on this sub. There was a news story of a man who bought a CHILD sex doll off Amazon but it turned out to be modelled after someone’s actual child and the mother found out and of course a whole shit storm ensued, then in the comments we just got to discussing and I said I thought having sex dolls might save real people, until another lady told me that there are countless studies that show it actually desensitises them and makes them want it more. And that mak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:53 PM
52

Okay but a mafia boss would have hired help, she wouldn’t have to lift a finger if that was the case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:42 PM
7

Okay but his thighs in those black pants!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 08:16 PM
16

I heard of this one!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:06 PM
30

I didn’t mean to imply it was fake, I can see how this is plausible. The cervix changes in depth and can very well be accessible through the insertion of fingers alone. And like someone else said, gynaecologists are aware of this and cut the IUD cord short to make it less accessible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:09 PM
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Thing is, I know men are capable of assault and removing their condom stealthily and a whole assortment of things but I just...my imagination never extended to this. A man digging around inside his partner, who is meant to be able to trust him, and he’s literally exploring her insides looking for her IUD. You’re right it’s not surprising at all, but wow, my creativity just was not able to think up something like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:04 PM
105

That’s so disturbing. I didn’t know this was common enough that a GYN would have to do that....I’m seriously at a loss for words. I thought I knew all about male depravity and then I learn something else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:43 PM
707

What the fuck....This is crazy, is anyone else shocked? That’s a huge violation on so many levels
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:05 PM
21

Me too 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:48 PM
60

But they’re still more useful and unlike crappy men we’re in relationships with, they don’t get anything from us in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:48 PM
475

There are men on the street who have done more for me like carrying my bag, lifting shit etc etc than any man that I closely know. If he wants to, he will, and if he doesn’t want to, there are a thousand guys who will! Dick is abundant ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:34 PM
336

80% of women are against marriage? I’d like to look more into that because that sounds exactly like the world I want to live in lmao!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:12 PM
25

Omg is that garnet? Ruby? Garnet is my FAVOURITE stone, it’s such a beautiful colour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:18 PM
16

Forever wishing for a Themyscira
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:41 PM
65

these men rarely age as nicely as they think so if you were ugly as hell as a teenager, it’s unlikely that that’ll ever change. and what’s with the whole alpha beta thing?? okay ?? werewolf jacob black ??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:31 PM
244

As a WLW, it not only takes zero effort or energy, but brings me joy to have told any women I was with about her beauty, or whatever other brilliant quality she had, as well as spoiling her. If he wants to, he will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:08 AM
282

All this shit AND he’s a momma’s boy??? I hope she can leave him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 06:49 PM
135

Is it eugenics to want a child that doesn’t come out with a life threatening illness?/s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:22 PM
113

This post is so convenient, I was just about to ask FDS if we could see more sex focused posts because I have never had sex with a man and when I do, I would really like it to be amazing and something FDS worthy. Luckily, I’ve already invested in like four toys trying to figure out what I like so the bar is really high because I’ve literally taken myself to heaven and back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:31 AM
71

They say it’s not sexual but then also: Don’t you know, saying something like that is kinkshaming!!/s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:16 PM
29

I think it’s plausible at least for me because with my schedule and just the way I prefer to move things, that’d be one date a week or every two weeks so of course no kissing or anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:04 PM
10

He seems like a serial gaslighter. I hope she broke his bank.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:20 PM
131

“she’s only in it for the free meal” i can buy you sir, i can buy you and your house and your dog and i can buy the deli that you get your sandwich at and the apartment above the deli. im good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:11 PM
6

Women are either seen as prostitutes or mothers and they’re only valued as either when they have visibly endured physical trauma and pain, otherwise the prositute wasn’t worth the money and the mother “had it easy.” Less appreciated are the businesswomen and entrepreneurs and academics and so on, who, according to some law, are only fit to be either prostitutes or mothers. There is no easy winning in the patriarchy. But you may have more hope relying on some other women to celebrate your success…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:24 PM
8

Wait for real? I always assumed it was because men’s shitty far distribution, I didn’t know ther was estrogen in beer!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 08:44 PM
32

This is like the men that only drink beer. No offence to the ladies who like beer but I can’t stand it, it tastes like sweaty piss and I know that a lot of men feel the same but that still won’t make them drink anything else because they’re so fragile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:42 PM
17

“Men have no choice but to be strong” Men’s idea of strength: punching walls, imploding with rage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:39 PM
29

Straight from the scrote’s mouth is “I prefer dogs to people because they are obedient and can’t talk back.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:30 PM
64

I hate MAFS because the marriage “counsellors” always support the asshole. For example, pressuring the woman to stay and communicate rather than run for the hills for her own well-being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:09 PM
176

“I go out of my way to do things that my partner appreciates.” Translation: “I do the bare minimum, such as occasionally taking out the garbage when she reminds me to, and doing a half-assed job of cleaning my dirty dishes, when she reminds me to.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:08 PM
85

That works for you?! Even when I say I’m in a relationship, they don’t care. Some of them are so dense 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:06 PM
242

yes!! bully asshole men 2021!! also girl pls be careful just in case he turns out to be one of those vengeful incels
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:27 PM
106

He was in his 40s and I was barely 20!! So gross. It completely ruined our relationship and her relationship with our parents, they avoid her now because they can’t interact with her husband without blowing up. I hope the woman in the post isn’t held back and staying with her partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:38 PM
37

This reminds me of those wedding cake topper things that show a little bride and groom fighting each other. Nightmare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 07:14 PM
164

My sister‘a husband sent me three pages worth of creepy, disgusting text messages. I was in college using their place as accommodation. Needless to say, I had to leave. Now, I can no longer visit or stay, or see her children there, or see her in her own home. They went to marriage counselling for some sessions. The counsellor took his side and convinced her of his own excuses, that he didn’t mean anything weird, that his mind wasn’t clear because he had stress, that he was being misunderstood co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 07:10 PM
23

Sounds like he was tired of screwing the women he was raised and socialised to praise and wanted to have a taste of something “eXoTiC”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:27 PM
483

“Highly unlikely that my partner did it” okay who in the babadook hotel transylvania invisible man santa clause snuck into your house, went through your belongings and poked holes in your condom?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:26 PM
78

I’m so glad you were able to escape your husbands and power to you for doing so. Also yeah, OLD is a junkyard minus the occasional useful parts here and there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 10:37 AM
10

Absolutely yes, he is a tall glass of handsome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 06:40 PM
7

You and I are getting downvoted for pointing out the moral obvious! Looks like we have a groomer apologist in our midsts. Apparently women can do no harm to children because of patriarchy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 06:01 PM
10

To everyone. I am a radical feminist and not a grooming-excuser which allows me to see that fellow women are capable of terrible things, just as they are capable of amazing things, like any human. I also think asking “harmful to whom?” is derailing the important parts of what I said. She is a groomer. He was a child and she was in her 40s, married, with children and in a position of power over him as director of a film he was working for her in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 05:59 PM
72

At least these idiots tell on themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:11 PM
17

I fell in love with him with Angus, Thongs and Perfect Snogging and it’s so sad how we was basically groomed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:39 PM
1

Yes? ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:32 PM
2

After the Eurovision, I think thousands of women collectively fell in love 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:31 PM
47

The last thing I want is to be married to a 10 year old boy who thinks farting on me is top notch comedy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 12:00 PM
75

What in the actual fuck. All of that crazy, AND he then has the gall to blame her? Typical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:27 AM
58

I want to be some Gomez’ Morticia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:17 PM
22

Whilst I agree that we could do with more critical reading and definitely more guidance from the wiser, I am grateful for the gems of that generation who are trying so hard, despite being basically children, to navigate a world that is filled with pornsick pedophiles, rape apologist politicians, evolving forms of subtle and blatant racism and young Joe Rogan minions. They’re young, they’re naive and many of them are still trying anyway. I only wish they had more guidance rather than filling that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:16 PM
82

“That’s real romance” I HAVE NO WORDS 💀 Getting abused and then getting what? MCDONALDS?? afterwards?? that sounds like torture and then more torture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 02:48 PM
68

Thanks Adam Sandler.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:56 AM
152

The way you explain it makes sense like logically yes but no amount of insecurity and low esteem and manipulation or even hypnotism could make me see this guy as DESIRABLE PLEASE😭😭😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:30 AM
482

Okay but HIM? Like a man that looks like THIS can get away with so much? HIM?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:23 AM
60

“push the boundaries” pressure you into butt stuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:04 AM
64

This is so unfunny it actually hurts. And it’s scary that this is the reality for some people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 08:59 AM
82

I’m not sure about red flags but I am worried about how he is still handling grief more than a decade later. Of course, loss hurts intensely and always. But men as a whole don’t have a good track record for dealing with their emotions. Sometimes in relationships, there are the men you cut off (or FDS says block and delete) and the men who you must be patient with for a sincere relationship to work. It’s about distinguishing between that. I don’t think there’s enough information here to figure it…
/r/askFDS24/05/21 01:24 PM
24

This. Best advice hands down. Become familiar with this aspect of the law and how it can help you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:37 AM
38

That’s so messed up. Like, I don’t know which part is worse. The fact that you were a child, the fact that what you were wearing had cartoon characters on it or the fact that you were made to feel wary around your closest male relatives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:52 PM
12

This always pissed me off. My brother walks around in his boxers and I can’t so much as wear a skirt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:51 PM
43

I hate the feeling of shame so much because it’s rarely, if ever, truly ours. God, that sounds so awful and definitely traumatising. Of course he didn’t mean it in a creepy way but it’s still sexualising a child’s body and that’s something no child deserves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:50 PM
31

Ugh I hate this so much. It’s such needless struggling. I remember when I was developing, I hated it and I would hunch my back to try and hide it and my mom would laugh about it in front of people. What a nightmare. Thanks for your insight, I definitely do want to learn more. Times like this, I fantasise about living in Themyscira. I would have no worries about prancing around half-naked or going through puberty or doing anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:46 PM
8

Everything you said, YES. The whole thing is rigged like a catalogue for men anyway. They always win. Whether it’s by having some conversation with a woman or actually meeting them and either being handed a relationship or sex or something. Meanwhile there’s nothing to protect the women and no real benefits. Even the best “gold” like you said is not really advantageous at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 10:22 AM
31

Every time an old, fugly fart approached me I stare at him like he has two heads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:47 AM
17

Period! And it’s a literal shitshow. Without an audience or woman who listens to them, they would be powerless. Nobody to manipulate. It’s why block and delete is one of the best things FDS preaches. 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:44 AM
60

Seriously. That girl who exposed him is a godsend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:27 AM
110

Yup. And when it’s not blatant p*dophilia, it’s literally trauma porn. All kinds of abuse and putting things where many would say they don’t belong. Not even the videos, just the thumbnails alone can be so shocking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 10:21 PM
28

Yes!! Just having this safe space is validating, much less seeing the great or hilarious posts here and realising there’s SO MANY women out there feeling and going through the same things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 10:18 PM
146

Technically, masturbation would be MASS murder, a war crime at best because it’s what, hundreds? Thousands? of their gross swimmers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 10:17 PM
47

Someone somewhere said OLD is like looking for gold in a trash pile and I want to add to that, it’s like looking for gold in a trash pile but when you find the gold you realise it’s really just some cheap knock off rock. What you said makes sense. The less OLD works for people, the harder they’d try and use it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 10:15 PM
20

Omg you’re absolutely right, I literally just saw on Instagram behaviours of an abuser and silent treatment was top of the list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:03 PM
12

Right! So weirdly disproportionate 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:22 PM
84

This is literally rape, oh my god, and it calls for more than silent treatment. I hope she gets far away from him and finds some safety and peace that’s terrifying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:56 PM
57

OMG I love all the responses! Calling this Build A Man like another lady here. — taller than 5’8” (the taller the better) — broad and buff, he must be strong enough to easily lift me and play bodyguard, but soft enough to hug and fall asleep sleep on — i like a sort of big nose and definitely big hands — blue eyes and thick, dark hair — i don’t mind facial hair as long as he’s not using it to hide an underdeveloped chin — HYGIENE. he must be groomed, clean nails, skincare, no funky smells — THIC…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:04 PM
21

I’M SO HAPPY FOR YOU SISTER, ride that motorcycle into the sunset❣️💖💘❤️💋💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:53 PM
94

Someone could wipe my beloved, precious Sims 4 data completely clean and maybe after an hour of internally fuming and then another hour of silently mulling, I would cop the fuck on and realise it’s just a game! That I do for fun! Not some holy, important job worth a childish, emotional outburst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:17 PM
3

Not only is this feminist brilliance, it also proves to me once again that women still have a life beyond 30. Male rhetoric makes it seem that after a certain age, there’s nothing out there for women but there absolutely is!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 06:37 PM
13

If I wasn’t afraid of being stalked and murdered, I’d text these men, “serious question: what makes you think you are worthy of messaging me?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 06:30 PM
10

Lions are kinder to their prey than men are to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 06:26 PM
18

This is so attractive!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 06:25 PM
8

beautiful! reminds me of some witchy stuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:17 PM
187

I don’t feel an ounce of sympathy for them. This is a standard they made for themselves. Boo hoo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 03:53 PM
245

if a man is shy and reserved, he’ll still pursue you either directly or through a mutual friend or smth. this is clown shit and nothing to be proud of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 12:58 PM
71

I can’t say I have faced this, rather I’M the workaholic and it takes away from the affection and attention I give to my friends and family. But I know this, I’m aware of this and so I have countermeasures or other things to compensate. Such as scheduling things in advance for when I think I may be busy, such as flowers or cake delivery. Once, I even put text messages on a timer to send my dad an “I love you” at least once a day. Even with stress and work and obligations, it isn’t THAT hard to m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:05 PM
56

Agreed. There is nothing potentially HV about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 02:47 PM
7

Sure, I will! But he’s from a small country and his work is focused within it, I think so if you’re American, shouldn’t be any worry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:01 PM
143

well not necessarily. a lot of women are just realising that having babies is a choice, not an obligation. even if a man is willing to be responsible, many women won’t automatically be interested in having babies. i know i won’t! childfree for LIFE 💋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:20 PM
135

I know a man who did this and got away. He is now a three times CEO of various fitness stuff. He also has a podcast. What a fucking ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 11:23 AM
3

Something I’ve noticed is that LVM learn these words or therapy terms and then run with it. What narcs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:03 PM
85

VICTIMSHAMING???!!! AND WHAT EXACTLY ARE THEY THE VICTIM OF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 02:14 PM
128

they always say it’s a serious problem to distance themselves from the accountability of their actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 07:56 PM
273

THANK YOU. Unless they are physically carrying and pushing out a baby, that’s not a dad bod, they just gained weight lmao. Which isn’t the worst thing but jesus, chalk it up to men to make it seem like they put effort into something they absolutely did not put effort into. Plus, when my girls and I talk about dad bods, we fully mean that sweet spot of being strong but not ripped like a bodybuilder, and soft but not fat. Like, we’re thinking Jason Momoa dad bod, not gas store lingering beer smell…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 07:55 PM
41

I love this post, articulately hits every nail on the head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:05 PM
14

My thoughts exactly. The top of the line ones usually end at $140, not at $1400 !!! I hope she means pesos lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 04:55 PM
139

Still manipulative as ever! What an actual human trash bag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 04:51 PM
21

The way he jumped to that so quickly gave me whiplash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 12:06 PM
62

What does he get out of this? I don’t understand these kinds of men who frequently pose as women. Do they get off on it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 09:13 AM
166

PLEASE THIS IS SO FAKE, DID HE REALLY THINK HE COULD GET AWAY WITH IT 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 08:44 AM
48

Normally things like sex dolls and such are so depraved but this is the only instance where I advocate donating as many as possible to these kinds of sick men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 05:14 AM
196

If only they could redirect their energy into improving or accepting it rather than murdering women left right and centre
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 04:54 AM
131

at least he’s self-aware 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 04:40 AM
174

They have to pay the price OF HIS ACTIONS, did he forget that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 12:54 PM
163

Here’s to a childfree and dating optional life for me! Cheers queens x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 11:41 AM
9

Oh my god, how do you even get out of a situation like that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 11:26 AM
25

this has no business being so funny because i actually want to know this too 😭😭 but omg 💀💀 maybe you can discuss how experienced he is, if he is quite experienced he must be owning something that’s good enough or at least he knows how to use it, maybe? beach date? hopefully he’ll wear something fitted and maybe you could 👀 i would suggest statistics based on his height, weight, ethnicity etc. but so many participants lie for obvious reasons maybe you could cop a feel if things get heated? idk 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 11:18 AM
102

Yeah each sentence brings a whole new story and issue I’m getting whiplash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 05:15 PM
20

I have exclusively had experience with handsome, wealthy, ‘successful’ (nepotism & inheritance) men. All of them were low value. So vulgar and forward, no concept of “no” and lot’s of audacity. I also booted my crush too! He was this blonde surfer, beautiful blue eyes and lovely muscles. He was really artistic but so pornsick. Oh my god, he sexualised everything and found genuine humour in painting dicks. Like...anyway. Like your two men, this guy exposed himself. They’re so shameless which in a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:44 PM
27

Yes!! That whole Chad thing is absolutely ridiculous. Not only do they look at women as some kind of ranking object without feelings and thoughts, they also look at some men that way too?? Like sir, leave your parents’ basement and take a shower.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 03:38 PM
68

Yep. Only men have the power to undo the damage they have wrought and to really bring about positive change. Instead of seeing that as an amazing ability of theirs, they’re completely ignoring it. They don’t care. Who knows if they ever will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 03:21 PM
65

Very true! Some people seem to compare us to incels but we laugh at the whole alpha or beta nonsense! And others think that our strategies are useless because any man can pay for the first date and pretend to be nice, but that’s the whole reason we also vet and withhold serious commitment and intimacy for some time. We don’t promote hate against undeserving people in a way that actually hurts them, unlike the red pill murderers. We don’t grant High Value-ness based on looks and money because a r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 03:02 PM
182

“I shouldn’t assume wanting affection after sex is normal.” BUT IT IS NORMAL !! THIS IS THE NORM, AS IT SHOULD BE. no matter what kind of rough stuff you’re into, even a community as colourful as the BDSM ones follows aftercare religiously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 06:04 PM
8

I love this attitude queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 02:39 PM
341

“It’s none of my business” 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 06:03 AM
11

NOT FOR SEX 😭😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 05:40 AM
22

AAAAND i’m back to square one. Oh the joys of being a woman. Fucking hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:47 PM
33

OH okay makes sense of course, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:32 PM
46

Can someone tell me why Devil’s Advocate is on here? Please don’t tell me it’s some red pill fantasy 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:28 PM
24

Honestly, I’d rather be charged than raped or murdered or both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:00 PM
25

Thanks going to buy 10 x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:58 PM
70

He’s trying to tell you how to feel, getting mad at you then for feelings he told you you have and then what? Acting like a child? God, scrotes don’t care at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:26 AM
69

Amen. It’s despicable, there’s no valid reason to not allow defence tools.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:25 AM
119

Still wondering why pepper spray is illegal in the UK. Guess I’ll still use bug spray 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:02 AM
217

Girl this was awful to read. This was traumatising oh my god, how people can endure this I have no idea, I need some kind of trigger warning for this garbage! So many 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:01 AM
6

If you look at the video closely you’ll see the username of the original and of this speaker, all it takes is searching the name on the app then you’ll find the video somewhere in their profiles!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 07:37 PM
5

Exactly! That’s exactly how these guys think. They won’t for a second see a woman as uncomfortable or having feelings, only that she was his target and she went and ruined it for him. No idea that he’s just sick in the head. They’ll always find a way to blame the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 07:36 PM
10

Yes! In First Aid class, we were taught to literally not to do anything except call for professionals because we could risk injuring them more by helping them sit up or lie down or move or even get them to talk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 07:35 PM
9

He has no reason to be mad, that number is there for a reason. If he wasn’t planning something sinister, I suspect he is one of those men that enjoy seeing women work for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 06:06 PM
5

That’s awful. No decent man would approach a woman like that and then berate her, you were obviously uncomfortable!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 06:05 PM
2

How sickening is that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 06:04 PM
55

Good riddance to him, I hope she leaves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 06:04 PM
12

Well girl it’s either let go or get kidnapped! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:17 PM
17

Oh my god, he was literally inviting you to be kidnapped and god knows what else. That is TERRIFYING. I really wish lurkers and pickme’s saw this side of the sub and understand that this is what FDS discusses. Our scary experiences and how we have survived them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 04:58 PM
15

Not only that, it’s literally so irrelevant to this video
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 04:47 PM
51

Some scrote commented here saying that this is why we don’t get dates.....like where is the correlation. We are literally talking about strategies to not get raped and murdered. These men are delusional, as if that’s even a hurtful insult!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:51 PM
19

SO UGLY OH GOSH, it’s brainwashing!!! He isn’t even average 😭😭😭 Like he is full on ugly, the kind that you would actively avoid looking at. The weird guy in your office kind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:50 PM
30

Exactly!!! I saw pictures and videos of him. His “charisma” does not make him more attractive. He’s ugly. He looks like he sweats in his parents’ basement all day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:49 PM
107

IT.IS.NOT.OUR.JOB
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:48 PM
16

It didn’t occur to me before this video either, such a learning moment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:47 PM
16

Someone else mentioned this film here too and as someone who saw it, I AGREE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:44 PM
24

Great tactic!! Just keep on moving, can’t hear them, can’t see them, BYEEEEE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:00 PM
44

That’s so sad and scary :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:40 PM
8

That’s what I thought too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:39 PM
24

This is something I want to know, because parts of FDS reasoning is that the man needs to invest because women endure the whole pregnancy, childbirth risks and body changes and all the life threatening stuff that involves as a whole. I know I still have a lot to offer as a childfree woman but still want to hear from you guys x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:07 PM
40

Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:06 PM
95

I didn’t even think of that omg. God, why predators have to exist is beyond me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:43 PM
21

YES. He will NEVER pay, not even for the small things and definitely not in an emergency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:43 PM
84

literally. these men that use strategies like this are probably smart and have back up plans. it’s very much a run for your life situation. yes so gross!! as someone who studies forensics and crime, i have an academic interest in such things but my fascination and passion in the subject is NOT romanticisation. some of my lectures are so sickening that i have had to leave or cried later. these crimes and criminals are far from desirable and the people who think otherwise are sick. those movies ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:26 PM
279

I am specifically thinking of the plank of wood from this childhood cartoon, Ed, Edd and Eddy. The resemblance is uncanny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:22 PM
30

Which is why I never use OLD. It’s a literal catalogue that you can flick through. God forbid you’re a human with interests and hobbies that supersede the importance of posting pictures of your tits and ass that they were hoping for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:12 PM
117

Oh my god I remember that film, some scenes were sickening. My dad won’t even ask for directions when we’re terribly lost, male strangers asking for help that they could easily find elsewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:11 PM
950

I’m convinced it’s all victim blaming propaganda because he looks like a plank of wood with a unibrow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:04 PM
20

❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:37 AM
401

LVM exclusively listen to men. For advice, admiration, insight, EVERYTHING. They only care to rely on other men. When a man asks a woman for help, this is HIGHLY unusual. Especially if it’s a strange or quiet, isolated setting. For example, on the side of the road, an empty parking lot, a quiet street. Be mindful of this PLEASE. If a man approaches you, a woman, for help, he is almost certainly trying to harm you. In this day and age, he has access to his male friends and family by speed dial, o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:20 AM
76

This. Men get mad when women exist in films as women rather than sex objects, I saw it n another FDS post about Birds of Prey. And it’s true. When women own their sexuality and flaunt it, they’re slutty or some nonsense. But it’s sooooo hot when their nudes get leaked?? I like the song, I am not a fan of too much vulgarity but I’m not going to go on some crusade because it’s not my taste. It’s the issue with choice feminism. Like, on the one hand I as a woman feel that women should be allowed to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:13 AM
196

Oh my god, how can she take hit after hit! This is why FDS is so important. Red Flag #1 would have been enough. And I know lurkers will be mad, oh you’re a gold digger! Please, I can afford my own meal. If you take one look at my outfit, nails and hair you would think I could afford the whole restaurant lmao. It’s the gesture, the meaning, the show of interest and investment. Not only has FDS made me comfortable in expecting the other to pay, I was raised with a father and older brother that hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 08:29 AM
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I saw this and don’t buy it either. There is no excuse to be pushy and desperate for a picture. Scrotes just can’t think beyond where their dick leads them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 07:46 AM
7

Yes exactly! Next time this happens I will be more severe because luckily, it’s a very safe beach club with security and cameras and we are in a country that is very strict and watchful. I was just so shocked that this guy really thought I would be interested. He is almost as old as my dad. Do they not realise that young women have better options than some likely manipulative older guy. I’m in the prime of my life and he’s hitting on an almost teenager in a pool. There were other people around h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 06:25 AM
13

I don’t even use it because it’s so inconvenient to have messages delete after some time and I don’t see the point of taking so many pictures of myself. Sometimes I use it to keep up with my girlfriends because they send me videos but that’s fair game as a 20 year old with a friend group. We primarily use Facebook anyway. EXACTLY !! Only rapists don’t listen to no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 06:22 AM
10

Right! When he asked for my Snapchat I was so shocked. I wanted to say, “YOU use Snapchat?!” Exactly. I don’t know what convinced him that a younger woman would be interested in him. And when he was asking me questions I knew he didn’t even actually care about what he was asking, it was all checking things off the small talk list so he could ask for my Snapchat. I know he wasn’t even listening because when he found me again, he had to ask me my name again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 06:21 AM
14

Luckily it was just a short moment out of a very nice long beach day but definitely pedo vibes! He was this tall, hulking much older man. I don’t even look at 18 year olds the way he was looking at me although they are just 2 years younger than me because they instantly feel like babies to me. I don’t understand older men who go after women more than half their age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 06:18 AM
6

Right! God, he was so sleazy and you’d think he was some 25 year old millionaire with his audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 06:14 AM
25

It’s so sad not being able to do anything that’ll actually help. Thanks to the world these scrotes have mad, this will be a never ending cycle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:56 PM
23

People like that are such snowflakes! And I rarely use that word since conservative boomers made it their lingo. It’s not racist to want someone of a similar culture, that’s the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard and I’m a first generation immigrant WOC. I want someone of a similar culture, that means someone who shares the ideas I was raised with from my heritage as well as the values I picked up growing up with westerners. I need someone who understands my struggles and mixture of beliefs. And dr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:46 PM
57

Fully agreed. I don’t get why it’s such a scandalous opinion. I am not where I want to be in life. Still a student, no longer working, just trying to grow and get my degree. Mentally, physically, financially, emotionally and academically I am not yet where I could be in say two or three years. When I become that person, best believe I’m only going to consider sharing my time with other HV people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:18 PM
27

I know how you feel. I am a huge comic book fan, I love superheroes but it’s so frustrating when I realised that say, Wonder Woman was some old man’s rope bunny BDSM fantasy. All the women are so sexualised and their poses are ridiculous. The artists are so desperate to show breasts and bum at the same time that the bodies are contorted and the COSTUMES are literally so awful. Like Starfire?? She’s wearing a piece of ribbon pretty much. And if I say anything, I’m not feminist, I’m anti-woman ?? …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:50 PM
63

if she doesn’t put your diaper on, wash your ass, make you breakfast and cheer for you when you play video games all day—
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:49 AM
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Yes thank you, there is no equivalent that’s exactly what I was thinking. Incels, especially the ones that come here to lurk or send us hate are even more obtuse. If they actually looked at what we do here, actually saw and listened which I know they will never do, their minds would completely change. Period yes!! FDS made me realise I’d be happier alone than with some LVM garbage!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:11 AM
2

Amen then!😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:35 PM
2

Speak for yourself sister! I will happily actively oppress these scrotes! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:04 PM
6

Desperate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:19 PM
21

Literally! My future goal is to be rich and successful and the pieces are falling into place. I’m not a gold-digger, I will only accept someone who is either at my level or above. And incels feel entitled to things just because they want it. Women are objects to them. And our feelings here are always valid absolutely. THANK YOU.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:18 PM
18

How do I block and delete in person in real time 😂 Honestly my tactic has been walking away mid-conversation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:16 PM
20

Too much effort and no reward, literally none. Queens don’t interact with common thieves. That’s not their duty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:14 PM
85

Whose unwashed, hairy ass is she trying kiss and does his name rhyme with Moe Hogan
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:20 PM
31

I agree with this and the other comments. TRP is harmful stuff. I have HV male friends and family. They all agree that TRP is awful but also fucking weird. In their words, any guy that has to resort to these tactics should not be around women, or anyone for that matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:18 PM
76

we risk being hurt or killed when we reject bluntly, but we risk being stalked and harassed when we reject nicely. so....what do we do????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:14 PM
73

my family belongs to a tribe that was once the enemy of alexander the great. when alexander betrayed their peace treaty and began slaughtering the men, the women took weapons and began fighting. the woman have long since been known as warriors who fought alongside the men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 01:49 PM
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This is weak journalism. An actual, interested journalist would have taken the time to be apart of this community to really understand it and provide all narratives. From the beginning, she never cared and always intended to share the story that she did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 05:43 AM
14

When men say they are visual creatures, how come it doesn’t apply to interior decorating? Oh yeah, because they’re fucking useless at doing anything supposedly feminine. Or even basic like properly wiping their ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:46 PM
29

bUt tHeYrE ThE lOgIcAl cReAtUrEs !!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 12:32 PM
20

What is it with scrotes being tired from doing the bare minimum! That’s how it should be. When it comes to friends and family and people I love, making the effort is fun!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 09:14 AM
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Yeah wtf. It’s such an LVM mindset to see love and romance and relationships as exhausting work. Yes, work is required but it’s the e kind of work someone WANTS to put it, not complain about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 08:33 AM
20

Same!! It’s the only way authentic connection can be made for me. Texting is so platonic and low effort and the screen just makes it feel not real so men have the audacity to say anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 06:35 PM
60

Don’t you know! A book, a phone, a screen, a woman, these are all objects! All just things! Here for his entertainment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 05:16 PM
89

This is a prime example of a 🤡 and the kind of behaviour we will not be tending to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 05:16 PM
26

That’s exactly what I thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:08 PM
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My rule of thumb is don’t date single fathers. If a woman had a child with him and still took all of the work involved to separate from him, and risking putting their child through a separation, he is definitely single for a reason. Some scrotes might say hur hur what about single mothers then, but it’s a fact that women aren’t assholes the way men are and any single mother that left the father is braver than a marine. Not only that, but for someone who doesn’t want to be a mother, single father…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:43 PM
34

I needed this thank u 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:36 PM
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For real! He impregnated her yet he can’t contribute to what that means for her body and the actual pregnancy? What will he do if she was having an emergency, make her pay? I just know that he is not the man that will have her back in times of need. I mean, she has to turn to a charity for godsake when he is fully capable of taking care of his wife!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 10:13 AM
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Oooh okay thanks a bunch! x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 04:44 PM
9

That’s an amazing aesthetic in itself! Enjoy the blanket warmth for me :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 03:34 PM
21

Doing that right now and it brings me a lot of joy to imagine that they take the effort to go into my profile and think about what they want to tell me, only to see that they can’t. Also, “farming incel tears” is the best thing I’ve heard all week omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:56 PM
10

Ugh that’s so gross. I had to experience that with a young boy actually. He actually pulled up my skirt and instinctively I donkey kicked him, a child 😭 I didn’t even turn around my leg just went up and he flew back. Like yes he deserved it but he was only like seven oops. Melbourne in Australia but to be honest, it’s a nationwide issue. It’s still has its beautiful parts as it does its ugly. And Kerry in Ireland which is unfortunate because nature wise, it’s one of the more beautiful places. Bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 11:21 AM
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That sounds amazing!! Oh my god, I’d love that. I totally understand the anxiety thing. When I was in Australia, I was followed in cars and by men walking, even walking in the street was unpleasant. And when I was in Ireland, the town was so so racist and homophobic that I specifically left for those reasons. It was awful and really took a toll on my mental health. I’m assuming you’re somewhere in the US? 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 11:02 AM
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Question: which moderator can I reach out to if I feel that a rule has been kind of breached? God, I feel like one of those ladies that’s unduly like ‘where’s the manager!!?” 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:10 AM
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Just a comment here but after becoming more engaged with FDS, posting and commenting and whatnot, I recently had my FDS milestone of receiving private messages from incels and butthurt scrotes! And I wonder what do they hope to achieve? Are they trying to insult or educate? Do they think I’ll drop everything I’m doing and cry, or thank them for their insight? 😂 I think it’s hilarious when I receive messages from sensitive crybabies or pickme’s. Keep sending me messages scrotes, I’ll carry on wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 09:54 AM
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I’m so happy for you that you walked out of there, that’s exactly how you should be treating yourself! You know what you deserve and it definitely ain’t what he was giving. 💖💘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 07:37 AM
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Well that’s terrifying and not at all surprising
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 06:10 AM
21

Woohoo! Here’s to uplifting our fellow FDS sisters 💖✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 06:08 AM
57

✨Audacity✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:57 PM
315

If men actually were the logical sex, maybe he would have picked up on the several hints you dropped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:56 PM
59

Adding this to the long list of disturbing things I have seen this day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:54 PM
86

I fantasise about this. Being assaulted is one of my worst fears. It would be so liberating if I could only be surrounded by women. That way I could freely show skin without having to worry about an attack and then being blamed. Oh, I would prance in a thin skirt and bralet and explore streets at night whenever I can’t sleep and finally feel comfortable rather than threatened when making conversations with strangers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:50 PM
1

Gag!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:15 PM
106

I’d say it’s a healthy 50-50 ratio
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 07:30 PM
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It’s weird yes but surprisingly common. I relate to this. I used to try and squash that side of me until I saw this show, Agent Carter. Brilliant example of a woman who isn’t strong because she shows masculine personality traits, and doesn’t savirifice her femininity to be taken seriously. YES. And good for you!! This is self-love and admiration. We deserve to like to look at ourselves and enjoy what we see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:00 PM
5

And please for the love of god wipe your ass more than once 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:28 PM
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I thought I was the only one who saw, the audacity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:20 PM
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This has to be a social experiment because NO WAY-
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:19 PM
10

I didn’t even notice that ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 01:39 PM
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Thanks, I’ll check it out. The premise seems fascinating and so so relevant!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 01:17 PM
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If he actually wanted to improve, he would have done the research and figured that out. But it seems he just likes whining to women who don’t give a crap in hopes of some pity coddling 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 12:12 PM
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Lmao good luck to them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 10:30 AM
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EXACTLY THANK YOU. There are countless procedures and they know that because they follow the instagram models who’ve had work done. Recently I saw two incel-fuelled murders. Two in one week! And that’s just the ones I saw. It absolutely isn’t, you’re right but they obsess about this one standard that they themselves created. And all those things you listed are so good and feasible yet they act like being kind isn’t easy because wah wah the world has been cold to them. I don’t see a point in them…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 09:56 AM
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So true. In this era, most things are possible. Even then, I’ve heard of surgeries that can fix height a bit, albeit being expensive and more risky. I don’t feel sorry either. They don’t actually care about improving. They just hate women. Period. No part of a woman’s body is exempt from being discussed and debated. It’s exhausting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 09:50 AM
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i saw some of her videos before and she taught me a lot about my own anatomy in fifteen seconds than anyone else ! i had a tumour on one of my “lips” and it was removed aggressively so i was left with a jagged shape. i had a similar procedure to the one she had. she had labiaplasty i believe, due to discomfort, although hers was closer to FGM. she was rendered inable to feel pleasure to restore its appearance. i am much happier now but thanks to her videos, i was able to really discuss the dorsa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 09:18 AM
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She’s amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 09:03 AM
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Precisely. Almost all women I know, pickme and otherwise, are always introspecting, always taking accountability whether it’s due or not. Whereas so many scrotes are the complete opposite. If something is bad in their life, it can never be their fault or within their control to change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 04:04 PM
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Omg I didn’t even know this was happening. Some people will go to any lengths!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 03:26 PM
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PERIOD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 12:36 PM
57

Oh I love when the tables turn. Good for you! 💖❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 11:27 AM
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Omg me too! I was an ugly duckling. My features were too strong for my then small face. I was bullied because I was Asian and other pointless reasons. Then I grew into myself and made the effort and mentally matured and I’m so much happier and life is much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 10:22 AM
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Very true. They don’t realise that authentic, adult relationships and the love between equal partners is something that isn’t just deserved by everyone. They need to work towards being the person someone would want. And when they are told this they act like it’s this crazy and outrageous motion but it’s the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 10:20 AM
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Definitely! I do agree with you. The thing I like about this video is that she’s tired of incels, like we all are. Reddit is especially a place where I have seen people who are in some way unattractive, mostly in their ways and personality I mean. And they complain and rant and externalise frustration at the world without making any efforts within themselves. I know she means physically glow up, which isn’t a bad or vain thing at all. But I also like to imagine it as mentally, emotionally and sp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 09:11 AM
13

I didn’t even notice oh my gosh 😭😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:08 PM
12

PHEW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:35 PM
36

Honestly this sub feels like a tiny hidden fountain of youth in a vast post-apocalyptic wasteland
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:35 PM
24

Jesus, what has society come to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:33 PM
17

I think some thoughts should not be thunk 😂 But that’s actually a very scary idea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:32 PM
78

True, this is a breeding ground for gross scrotes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:04 PM
35

Oh my god ESSENCE DE DOGBALLS I’m-😭😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:03 PM
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I’m so glad my Desi parents were a love marriage. We often hear of arranged marriages gone wrong. Hell, it happened to my aunt. She was well known for her beauty and talents and then she was wed to this abusive POS. Now she’s on medication and floating with the fairies, so to speak. She used to be this incredibly intelligent teacher, so eloquent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 09:12 AM
5

Okay Pretty Little Liars 🙄 Who does he think he is?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 08:42 AM
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It’s not your job to prepare for a rape. We’re in a world wear where, most women have some self defence item like mace or a taser. But it is not our job to be prepared. We shouldn’t have to be. The world should be safe. I’m so sorry that happened to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 07:52 PM
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I prefer the insertable tampon that has blades in it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 04:37 PM
1

I just found out there are various sequels!! What the hell!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 06:16 AM
6

I read more of the plot. Dear god. It’s even worse than I expected. First of all, I could tell that the rape would be framed sexually because the cover of the film was literally a “scantily clad woman with her back turned.” When they assault her, apparently it isn’t enough to do that, they also tore her manuscript up and made fun of what she was writing?? What the fuck AND THE ASSAULT SCENE IS 30 MINUTES LONG!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 05:04 AM
20

Don’t you know, furries are a protected class! A minority! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 04:48 AM
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I think this is a good idea and I can vouch for the other comments. It may not even be a nature and nurture thing. My parents raised myself and my twin brother the same way with the same love. Me being in FDS says a lot of good about me. Meanwhile he is an abusive, crybaby narcissist. It might just be a man thing. So daughters all the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 04:47 AM
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Are men incapable of empathy? All these horrible things are happening to his wife, mostly because of him, and all he can think about is his penis? She was slaving away so that he could do a job he loves and now that he has to pull on his big boy pants because of a situation he brought about, he’s just really bummed that his wife, his supposed soulmate, is too depressed to function let alone suck his dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 04:35 AM
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THIS. It’s the entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 04:27 AM
4

Omg I googled it and the first line “is an American rape and revenge horror film.” Do they realise that the real horror in these kinds of films isn’t the spooky sounds or creepy lighting or whatever else, it’s the overuse of very real violence that is happening to women??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 04:14 AM
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When men make jokes about lesbians or wlw using stap-ons, they’re like hur hur if you’re gay why do you like dildos BECAUSE WOMEN KNOW HOW TO USE DICKS BETTER THAN MEN DO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 07:59 PM
3

I don’t understand the whole hatred for makeup. With makeup, it’s still the same woman. Nobody else can achieve her face with makeup, unless they are really good at cosplay makeup. The version of us with makeup is still us. And I’m fairly certain that all of the beauty things we do today are because of male expectations. It’s like how razors began being made for women because the market wanted to expand and make profit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 07:55 PM
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Yes! I just posted about it the other day. The first two episodes completely put me off. Attempted rape, tearing a woman’s blouse to her brother and it only gets worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:33 PM
11

Yes I saw this film!!! I was really pleased with that, even though I guess it’s the bare minimum? You just never see it in horror films.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:37 PM
15

I heard of the film but never watched it. I might just do that now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:43 AM
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I looked it up too and what a mistake that was. How the hell is this an actual movie!!! I can’t even count the amount of times I saw the word “rape” in the plot. This is crazy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:42 AM
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Oh of course, it’s so blatant! If a woman can be replaced by a lamp, or is killed off to further a man’s story, NEXT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:46 AM
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And too much of the bad shit is also always sexualised. For some reason she’s naked in a bath tub or changing clothes or doing something where her body happens to be on display.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:45 AM
26

Bless her friends! At least they have their heads on straight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:17 AM
14

DEADASS. I am so glad that we were both shown what a gentleman is meant to act like. Now we know to never settle. And there will always be some man more than willing to do more than what the other is complaining about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:14 AM
45

I despise how this world coddles men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:13 AM
21

My father showered me with everything I have today. If some guy with smelly balls and a subpar career plan is mad about me not wanting to split the bill, I’m more than happy to put him on the phone with my father. Maybe if it’s a man talking, the scrote will actually listen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:10 AM
9

I hope he catches an STD in the very small, off chance that someone actually falls for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:07 AM
25

They don’t see women as humans with thoughts and feelings, worthy of respect and equality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:02 AM
158

As far as I’m concerned, if someone gets their own ring, they have no fiancé but themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:01 AM
83

Jesus, do you see how many filter words she is using. It’s like she’s walking on eggshells and doesn’t want to wake a bear. What, will poor man baby throw a tantrum? Or genuinely hurt her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:00 AM
8

Pansexual, so I’ll click on Bi good for measure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:59 AM
63

On top of this, men just really want to impress each other and wank each other off. They’re so ingrained into their own male gaze that they’re genuinely impressed by Chad and see him as a HVM. Because it takes the bare minimum for men to like other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:58 AM
173

SAME. even then, my goal is being childfree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:52 AM
78

This is so sad ah! I have never had sex with anyone, or dated anyone but FDS has armed me with so much knowledge and advice. I feel like I’m ready to date but I need FDS-esque insight on how to navigate sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 09:30 AM
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Is he BLIND?? Hahaha what a loser! Is he going to gloss over how he completely broke the vow of marriage by knocking up someone else? And then tries to control her by taking away her access to finance and transport??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 09:28 AM
8

I read somewhere that the weights inside could melt if it’s plastic, so just the covers need to be, and only a few times a year but honestly I’m not entirely sure. I do it once a month just the covers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 09:22 AM
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I like that you think so! I hope that’s the case for me too. It’s one of those shows that’s so interesting to me that I don’t want to look away but I’m always afraid that another woman is going to get attacked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:17 AM
13

We need our own Themyscira, we need our own Themyscira I REPEAT-
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:16 AM
7

I just screenshotted this because the heirarchal thing is so right and so in front of my eyes but I didn’t even realise. Oh my god.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:15 AM
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They have nothing else going for them. All they are is sperm donors and honestly, more women don’t give a fuck about having children anymore so really, they’re just kind of there. Maybe it’s an ego boost or something. I don’t know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:14 AM
16

THIS !!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:09 AM
35

Yes haha! It’s like Oh nooooo, you don’t want to bother us anymore?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:08 AM
24

Weighted blankets have changed my life though for real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:08 AM
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“bears and raises children” some sex dolls ARE children! did you see that news story where a mother found her child’s photograph was being used for a sex doll that amazon was selling. they even gave the doll the same outfit and hair!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:06 AM
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“I’d have to be in a dark and lonely place to consider a doll a suitable partner” EXACTLY. Like I know that male sex dolls exist, but likely for other men. I have NEVER seen a woman act out some silicone romance the way I have with men on that TLC show, forbidden love or something? Not one woman, but I can think of at least five men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:05 AM
28

Hur hur she’s not real so it’s okay if I rape and abuse her!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:04 AM
175

To them, personality doesn’t mean what it does to us. I imagine their idea of personality is someone who is so kind (gives in to their every whim) and understanding (has no opposing opinion) and very nurturing (like a mother, who sucks those dick every day) and funny (not really, but always laughs at their sexual harassment and “dark” jokes)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:03 AM
68

Literally all the “problems” they “face” were created by other men. Like grow the fuck up, pick up a book, do SOMETHING dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:02 AM
2

Omg I’m so glad to hear this because the trailer looked so amazing, like genuine girl power. Not some rubbish pick me stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 07:43 AM
3

I’m glad I’m not the only one!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 07:42 AM
9

Okay and he didn’t think to leave you at home?? Girl I would like to apologise on behalf of him oh my god. That would have scarred me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 10:38 PM
22

Omg that sounds like such a weight on you though. Ugh, and men have the gaul to say that an accusation would ruin their life when women have to actively keep what happened to them quiet in order to not feel vulnerable or make things tense for their friends or whatever else it is that has been forced upon them to feel. It’s like secondary assault. I totally understand not wanting to disclose your trauma but I really hope that you don’t have to make yourself sit through something that makes you un…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:32 PM
28

So true!! I didn’t even think of this but you’re so right. What they ingest for entertainment, films, books, everything is such a TELL. Like how some guy that watches Joe Rogan is an instant red flag. I used to think the male gaze was just something that made me feel like I had to lie on my bed in a sexy way when I was home alone. I didn’t even realise that it extended to this. That trauma porn and sexual violence was in fact a part of it. From now on, I’m done too. Instantly turning it off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:29 PM
26

It’s like, violence isn’t necessary, but when it is, it’s awful giving attention to the perpetrator because it’ll always be romanticised. The focus is rarely on the suffering. It’s like when the news focus on the murderer rather than the victim (looking at you Chris Watts)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:27 PM
26

I feel connected to women, not like in a creepy hive mind way but more in a we’re all offshoots of roots from the same tree. And I feel the pain when a woman goes through something, even in fiction. I see it and I have a visceral reaction. I feel it in my bones and blood. I feel the suffocation when a man is crushing her with his weight. The insides of my vagina cringe. I flinch and I look away, I have to mute the scene because even the sounds are enough. And with all of this going on in my head…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:26 PM
28

And then they’ll thank the rapist!! Because if it wasn’t for him, the woman never would have undergone this badass metamorphosis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:22 PM
25

Oh my god the disconnect. The majority of the time, those boobs only appeared when a woman was being forced. How can they so easily separate the violence from how it’s directed at a woman’s body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:22 PM
36

ITS JUST NOT NEEDED YES!! And I absolutely hate that there are men getting off on it. No matter how the scene is framed, sad or sexy, men will get off on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:09 PM
35

And it’s never the woman’s story in the end. Some man will always end up using it to his benefit. ”Oh, something happened to my sister’s friend’s female cousin and now I kind of respect women, but not really.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:08 PM
24

I think there might have been at least three of those in every episode. Eventually it felt like there was more violence, sex and sexual violence than actual story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:05 PM
35

This is such a good idea, and it never occurred to me 😭 I’m so sorry, it must be even worse for you when scenes are sprung on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:16 PM
30

I don’t see the appeal of that kind of violence and the excuse for it is just pathetic. What has to happen to someone, what kind of life experiences do they need to have to end up as some entitled, porn sick, violent predator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:15 PM
50

I’m glad I have never seen this and will add to my never ever watch list. I wonder why it left a terrible distaste in their mouths 🙄 Predators are a different breed. Normal, good, healthy people do not need to dive to such lows to find entertainment. I feel so sorry for that woman. This makes me want to throw up. These men aren’t human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:13 PM
50

Trauma porn, that’s the first time I heard this time and it really is accurate. How awfully sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:10 PM
59

Exactly!! There are a million other ways of showing violence. Relying on rape or sexual violence is just poor writing at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:10 PM
13

I WANT THIS SO BAD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 06:51 AM
32

I love that you blocked him and your reasoning about your space!! Good for you xoxo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:36 PM
10

This is so validating. Maybe they’ll actually listen since it’s coming from a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 10:22 AM
65

THIS MADE ME LAUGH!!! only intellectuals will understand this fine painting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:14 AM
35

I think I’ve overheard worse things in primary school. This is some budget Regina George shit 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 09:00 PM
193

Seriously!! This makes me so mad. I genuinely see how men can watch tons of porn or play tons of games where every female NPC is some character they can engage with for sexual interactions and it completely warps their sense of reality. It’s so fucked. OP please be safe. Who knows what regular behaviour he’ll mistake as an invitation. Cameras, dog, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 03:41 PM
39

What made him think this was acceptable? Porn?? What the actual fuck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 10:23 PM
32

💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:40 PM
26

I don’t use OLD and it’s been a long time since I have, but I would appreciate something observant. Something that shows he isn’t one of those guys that swipe right on everyone. Maybe he refers to something I’m doing in one of my photos like hiking or reading. Something that shows he’s actually interested. Not some stupid “hey gorgeous.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:16 PM
19

I’m so sorry you’re in that situation. I am a daughter in this scenario, and I have a brother who is like YOUR daughter. My mother has been our superwoman. She struggled a lot financially and then had the added stress of our father having cancer. She suffered a lot and made efforts to hide this all from us so we were oblivious to the effort and sacrifices. As a child, that was a good decision on her part I feel. It saved me a lot of trauma and anxiety. But as an adult, I realise that if I did kn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:27 PM
36

there are feral cats who groom better than the average man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 12:40 AM
15

Yeah. Some girls are like this. There’s this other sub here, I can’t remember if mentioning other subs is allowed so I won’t mention it, but it’s basically this incel breeding ground. Many members are actually women and so many of them have expressed jealousy and hatred towards “attractive women,” especially ones that express frustration with sexual harassment and assault. They ARE ANGRY at women they find prettier because these women were more likely to be assaulted and these women weren’t gett…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 09:25 PM
45

I have never seen a man so misogynistic yet also into...astrology?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:15 PM
114

“you didn’t view him as a person” continues to compare women to cars
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 10:05 PM
9

That’s soooo embarrassing oh my 😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:10 PM
25

How can they be so close to the point yet entirely miss the mark. Every time. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:25 PM
44

I am so sorry :( “It’s sad what we have to do.” So true. Which makes having FDS as a safe space all the more valuable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:36 PM
22

THIS IS MY CALLING. As a single, self-loving lady, I am a toy enthusiast. At this point, I think comparing toys is a hobby of mine. Others mentioned silicone and VixSkin and I agree. Great materials. Anything with a veined design also really adds to the texture. Most realistic dildo vibrators feel the same in terms of power and feel so at that point, it’s a matter of choosing length, girth and material. I personally love the feel of toys that are described as having a satin feel, i.e., “realisti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:31 PM
208

This is abuse. This is textbook domestic abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:22 AM
26

Oh my, this is so awful. I feel for her family. There’s just no preventing danger. Are men so hungry for violence and power?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 10:23 PM
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