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REMINDER 👑CroneRaisedMaiden/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:03 AM
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15

Don’t go to therapy with these men and at this point I even hesitate saying send them to therapy cuz these men will go and act like it’s working and not change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/22 05:20 AM
15

Cherish yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/22 05:11 AM
48

LOL saving this for later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 02:36 AM
15

Men are the most dramatic leeches
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 12:26 AM
32

Broken post-wall fuckbois - bingo , playboi wannabes 🚮🗑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 05:58 AM
17

I’ve felt more lonely with the wrong person than on my own. I have found true comfort in sitting with myself and being by myself, I am my own best friend. I hold myself I don’t need anyone else to hold me. Therapy helps 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 12:05 AM
81

And by talking you mean while he’s packing his shit up out your house right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 03:50 AM
33

He will take your work back to his boss ! lol Jkjk it’s great when they tell on themselves 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 01:44 AM
154

He will take you work and get promoted with it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 09:58 PM
34

When keepin it real, goes wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 06:28 PM
14

It’s been over a year for me, and I’m in no rush. Not having sex has gotten me more good and growth in my life than having sex ever has, best birth control I’m in agreement
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 06:01 PM
20

How could I ever forget /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 06:00 PM
20

“No thanks”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 05:57 PM
16

Same 💋💋💋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 04:35 AM
28

Data is beautiful but not as beautiful as scrotal screeching
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 08:47 PM
9

I’m a witch and f you mary 😌 rcst ahold
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 02:57 AM
9

It’s embarrassing af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 04:26 PM
44

I wouldn’t be comfortable with a boyfriend or girlfriend doing that shît !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 09:17 PM
6

LOL WOW he really went instant clown
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 08:15 PM
2

Sadly not all women out there are like us in FDS, who want to grow and be the best ppl we can and support each other
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 08:14 PM
33

Recent ex of mine: survived on manipulation for years, when I would confront it he would pull the “I don’t want to talk about this now let’s talk about it later” mmmmhm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 03:30 AM
42

This one enrages me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 10:38 PM
11

Watch your back, I had a woman literally scheme to try and have me fired because she was and is that desperate of a clown. Never underestimate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 09:41 PM
8

Pls do I want everyone to save it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 05:30 PM
5

Xoxo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 05:30 PM
9

Ikr ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 05:29 PM
280

miss girl how can you see the difference between 200 shades of nude lipstick but can’t see that he ain’t the one for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 02:56 AM
25

I wouldn’t break up with a partner because they worked at Wendy’s but I would if they did porn lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 04:18 AM
3

I’m not communicating with anyone but my dog and my employees
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 02:40 AM
40

My numbers are a reflection of both society as the post says, and some as a trauma response. I set out to “reclaim” myself after sexual assault which is a known reaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 05:28 PM
12

They in fact do not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 04:23 AM
6

Lol it’s so funny right ha ha hilarious and smart jokes /s 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 04:23 AM
117

Do straight men even like women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 03:04 AM
59

Bet he doesn’t eat veggies either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 10:39 PM
13

I’m getting a puppy soon and I haven’t been in the puppy years since my current dog was a pup 15 years ago
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 10:37 PM
27

🙅🏻‍♀️I don’t want one anymore and felt that way before this post amen sister
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 03:31 AM
381

Raise your hand if you’ve been victimized by Woke Sex Positive Leftist Horny Guys 🙋🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 03:29 AM
11

I can go with or without, its war paint to me in a sense a good foundation prevents the enemy from knowing what makes me blush or get flustered 😌🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 08:46 PM
67

LMAO LITERALLY BLINDFOLDED ?! Wow just wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 01:41 AM
107

The amount of men who literally live in a van where I currently am is alarming. Like these dudes are legit advertising “van life” I’m sorry, what??? One dude was even like oh I held an executive job and lived in a van….omg. I’m sorry I’ll be taking my 6 figures elsewhere 😩🥴🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 03:16 PM
1

You’re probably right tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 12:16 AM
50

And given lobotomies, poor Rose Kennedy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 10:34 PM
92

She really put this on the internet for everyone to see huh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 10:22 PM
13

Blessed be 😈👹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 08:56 PM
56

Oh no they wouldn’t ever do that /s Lib fem did a lot of the work for em
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 06:09 PM
12

Obvi not centering them in our spaces is hateful duh /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 05:20 PM
166

Lol the witches v patriarchy ban I got is still the funniest one to me, kinda hard to fight the patriarchy by banning women imo but ok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 05:18 PM
59

Oh look another sex-thing that directly benefits men wow I’m so shocked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 04:16 PM
332

You don’t “spiritually” have a baby as a woman. Nightmare fuel, guard your wombs ladies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 04:10 PM
2

John List is another one, maybe one of the original FAs. He got away with it for years too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 04:22 PM
10

LMAO WHAT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 06:41 PM
147

Men be like: no one cares about our mental health Women: go to therapy for your mental health Men: BUT THEN I CAN’T USE YOU AS MY ONLY EMOTIONAL OUTLET AND SOLE SOURCE OF VALIDATION waaaaaa
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 03:47 PM
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Wow trying to get men to go to therapy is such a desperate endeavor this is the advertising result
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 01:36 PM
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I have to confess, I snorted laughing when I wrote it 🤭🤫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 01:34 PM
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I’m in recovery and I have an issue with the supposed “sponsor” of the main character, it’s an older man. 0/10 on that front
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 03:46 PM
281

Can’t pick up butter but a regular savant with geopolitics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 03:37 PM
2

Oh good idea ! I have this option too and EAP has helped me out! They helped me get to rehab and I’m celebrating 5 years clean and sober 🥰 also if a friend or family member needed they could use eap with me as a reference
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 02:27 AM
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That’s ok you can get there someday, if you’re in the US I feel for you it took me a long time to get into therapy as an adult because of the cost and my crap insurance. Now it’s a different story, but there’s some options. DBT or dialectical behavioral therapy is something I recommend to a lot of people because it helps emotional regulation and a myriad of other things too https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-worksheets/dbt/none https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com/mindfulness/ CBT or cogniti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 09:27 PM
49

Trauma did it for me, absolutely sex repulsed for many years. Therapy and vetting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 09:10 PM
17

That’s why I love FDS so much, this space is sacred and only for women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 10:40 PM
4

I got banned from there 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 10:40 PM
31

I am so happy I picked my career
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 09:48 PM
256

The entire donner party tragedy could’ve been avoided multiple times but most definitely when the matriarch of the donner family objected vehemently to leaving the Oregon trail. She was possibly murdered but definitely eaten by the end of the ordeal. Lol listening to men who really don’t know better can get you CANNIBALIZED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 09:02 PM
84

Skrrrrt throw it in reverse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 08:58 PM
11

It’s been awhile since someone sent me a care package LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 11:07 PM
18

LOL same, been a witch for 16 years and can’t post or comment in witches vs patriarchy 🤣🤣🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 11:06 PM
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It’s a right of passage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 06:23 PM
39

God I have 4 normal villagers because they’re cute 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 10:26 PM
25

Lol set standards and watch the results
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 09:01 PM
45

This got my BP up, can’t stand a hobosexual. I had a dude legit try and tell me he liked my place more than his own because it felt more homely, YEAH CUZ I HAVE DECORATIONS AND SHÎT BRO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 02:43 PM
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Password protect it tho so the men can’t see it Lolol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 08:04 PM
2

This man is insane and a problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 11:50 PM
18

He would let her die on the table and save the baby BET
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 07:47 AM
35

Do you think he’s ever even seen a woman before?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 08:53 PM
25

I’m getting a promotion and I’m starting my first day at my new job Valentine’s Day 😌✨ thank you FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 04:40 AM
35

I sleep very deeply and have trust issues over stuff like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 04:37 AM
7

A man I had gone out with on 2 dates years ago then told me on the 3rd date he’s bi polar but it’s cool if he doesn’t take meds. It was not cool and I cut contact. There’s no shame in mental illness, but there’s no excuse for rampant untreated serious mental health problems. Don’t give men a pity pass, countless men have used my own depression and ptsd as weapons against me. Believe them when they tell you who they are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 07:02 PM
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Pepperidge farms remembers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:07 AM
7

To be honest it’s happened when men broke up with me, I made more I’m “doing better” career wise so they broke up with me and moved on. I get a message from one a few years ago telling me he leveled up and that I should, and I swear to the gods, “consider what he can bring to the table” now it was embarrassing. I was like uh what about so-and-so?? They do not care, never build a bear boyfriend. The others I broke up with them, this list isn’t long but its not a couple either. When I announced my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 04:20 AM
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I’m often times the “one who got away”, it’s not a place of prestige either. So much animosity, sis I didn’t want to get picked I swear. I’m leaving and taking a promotion across the country, you know how many scrotes came to my inboxes and asked if I would ever be back and they’re married?? Sad state of affairs for those women I feel for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 08:28 PM
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lol look how bitter this man is, i thought we were supposed to be the bitter ones with our cats or whatever 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 06:51 AM
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They’re just writing here to be denied and then talk shît on the sub as evil all over Reddit lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 01:32 AM
24

They almost always come back at some point in my experience
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 10:35 PM
6

Smashing glass and kicking ass: lessons from the meanest woman alive by Linda Smith, cleopatra: a life by Stacy Schiff, warrior goddess training Heatherash amara, and one big recovery book about stimulants. Sorry for the formatting I’m on mobile
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 10:32 PM
6

I’m 8 months smoke free because of easy way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 10:26 PM
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You hit my two favs why does he do that and gift of fear <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 10:26 PM
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Lol absolutely not I’ll never do it again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 08:19 PM
16

Never go to a second location number 1
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 08:18 PM
24

I have 166 house plants I’m trying to figure out how to move with me, since I got a promotion across the country. None of this would be possible without being single 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 01:45 AM
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He really thought ppl would back him up huh 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 11:41 PM
23

I cannot stand a no veggie eating ass dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 08:15 AM
14

I’m in my 30s and men still try and relive their HS glory days like what bro 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 08:10 AM
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Good, I get being single dad and wanting to protect the family unit but first date?? It’s some Dean Corll shît he used to do to his “girlfriend” aka beard: bring* a group of teen boys on their “dates” but that was 1960s and he was a child murderer …. Sometimes stuff is what it is right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 11:19 PM
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Wait WHAT?! First date???!? Nooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 05:16 PM
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I’m a firm believer in ghosting and blocking, I’ve caught much flack for this when I express it too. That ghosting is cruel or whatever, guess what? I don’t care and I do it anyway because ghosting ppl is absolutely necessary sometimes. Making that decision is a way to protect my side of the mirror and my psyche. I don’t really want to hear all the times to NOT ghost people, I’m a human and I have social interactions and relationships with people I’m well aware of when not to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 12:27 AM
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Cringe level 3000
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 02:38 AM
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Oh I like this!!! The LVM tactic of turning it around and making it about them never fails but this is such a good list, 10/10
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 11:26 PM
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Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 03:13 AM
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Because they are soul sucking life diggers 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 03:12 AM
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LOL this is why I love the fact FDS doesn’t let men comment: not everyone has to let men tell us “their experience”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 01:45 AM
10

Yes I love my own space I’ve never lived with a partner and haven’t had a roommate in 13 years
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 11:50 PM
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The same vein of libfem that produces tradwife/trophy wife produces “sex work” as a better alternative than working in my opinion, and everything you listed eliminates both 👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 03:02 AM
15

Nope complete afterthought to her and honestly, I always had been! That’s not a friendship I miss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 03:46 AM
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Why do they always still look at our stories ?? I don’t get that, I’ve experienced that myself previously and just tossed it up as weirdo male shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 01:26 AM
72

Thank you for this powerful moment, what a great way to start off the new year. I will never forget and I have not forgiven an ex friend of mine for letting it slip where I went to rehab to the abuser in my life. I’m sure she didn’t think anything of it, “Oh where is so and so?” “She’s here”. Truly thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 12:43 AM
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Yeah and it’s usually the mediocre ones too, the more mediocre the couple the worse the passive aggressiveness is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 07:00 PM
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I was so young too, early 20s, after that incident I really pay attention to my driving and actively try to avoid male road rage lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 07:50 PM
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Oh no I am so sorry you experienced this. I had a flashback to the one time a man cut me off by pulling out in front of me and I honked, I drove an suv at the time and was on my way to work. The man proceeded to drive erratically after I honked, sped up slowed down swerving brake checks. I was like oh wow huh. We get to a 4 way stop sign and this crazed maniac puts his car in park and gets out of his car! I was like oh shit, windows up doors locked. He starts screaming and I just stared and then…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 03:15 AM
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Excellent episode of explained, but I’m not a fan of other eps on the series so I just skip em
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 02:12 AM
27

I did this twice I will never do it again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 01:57 AM
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May she rot in hell 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 01:54 AM
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I debated not reading this because it was so long but I’m glad I did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 03:40 AM
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I’m bi too how I’ve applied it to women would be am I HV? Do I do the things to a woman I’ve dated or tried to that a man wouldn’t be tolerated? Kinda flip it and reverse it to check myself against what’s a HV partner, and seeing if the woman I’m talking is also HV the vetting is almost the same … almost
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:03 AM
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I was waiting for this sub to come back on cuz I wanted to see who else got the “merry Christmas miss you” bullshit…I was not disappointed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 06:54 AM
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Based, very impressive now let’s see his relationship with his mother Imo the man’s relationship with his mother gives so much information to how that man not only sees women but interacts with them. Mommy issues can really dictate violence and general assholery
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 09:34 AM
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I recommend a therapist for sure, cognitive behavioral therapy will help reframe all of those memories. Therapy isn’t just learning to forget about trauma it’s working through it with a professional who can help you understand it, think about it differently and still maintaining your core self. Good luck you’re on the right path!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 09:03 AM
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Also bad vibes from it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 08:58 AM
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My phone Bluetooth showed some strange device as discoverable in other devices (apple), it was when I got my first pair of AirPods I was so happy. And then I wasn’t! It was on my car frame like under my trunk, whoever did it had to basically lay down and get dirty (sedan). Process of elimination, I’m about 90% sure I know which dude would be this…controlling. I blocked all of the suspects everywhere on everything, he couldn’t get ahold of me via phone or IG so he emailed me LONG strange and scar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 01:06 AM
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This happened to me as well, I found it myself though because I had my Bluetooth turned on. A device showed up that I had never seen before, I googled it and found out it was a gps tracker. Had it removed by my girl friend’s brother, I didn’t confront the 3 possible suspects because I didn’t want to have to try and sift through the lies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 12:45 AM
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Also squeeze real hard the death grip gets em
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 12:28 AM
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Look at this whole thread, we all have these same stories. Every single one of us can relate how sad is that ? I demand better and I want all of us to get better treatment than we’ve all faced 😠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 12:27 AM
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Yeah I’ve had exes who get upset about not getting “birthday sex” 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 12:26 AM
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He respected you, himself, and your kids. Most of these scrotes lack even self respect in their semi-narcissistic ways. A saying I like, and apply to myself with my own mental health journey: “mental illness is not my fault but it is my responsibility” <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 09:20 AM
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Last year I got myself the new Apple Watch series 6, the 7 just didn’t have the same appeal to me. I have everything I want, maybe I’ll get all 3 of those pairs of running shoes I wanted 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 08:44 AM
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This man could take all the adderal in the world and it still wouldn’t make him respect his wife
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 06:06 AM
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I lie, and it’s a red flag when a male asks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 08:27 PM
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I never knew my bio dad but my father figures in my early life were HVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 10:14 PM
17

I don’t particularly like beards it hides a weak chin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:25 AM
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Agreed, I don’t like this story because taking drugs with strangers esp strange men is bad news. I know from personal experience many many years ago
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 12:37 AM
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Man I’m super depressed sometimes, like clinically but I do the appropriate things to address it … I always at least feed my pets :( rip
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 06:15 AM
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The pets????!!!! Whattt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 03:54 AM
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Ty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 03:03 AM
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I def get what you’re saying because I’m the same way, I haven’t had a roommate in over a decade and I’ve never lived with a partner. I take it to mean the opposite like men who fit that and want that are controlling af The pickme aspect is some LVMs expectations imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 05:22 AM
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Lol yes he absolutely did! I was horrified ! I’ve had LV friends say this shit to me since too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 01:06 AM
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“I don’t need a therapist, you’re already my therapist” and men who refuse to go to the dr
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 12:50 AM
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I already have an old dog 🥴🥴🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 10:20 PM
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I had a dude say “I’m going to get you fat so no one else will ever want you” once, horror show
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 07:17 PM
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It makes me sad to see fellow women out there actively fighting AGAINST abortion access.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 01:40 AM
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Lol I don’t remember anyone’s birthdays, anniversaries are never important to me either. “Feminine urge”? Nah sis this ain’t it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 01:33 AM
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Excellent post, she is one of my favorite characters in history. Brilliant woman, got caught up with a wretched and powerful man. Cleopatra was also done dirty by typically male contemporaries and historians.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 01:30 AM
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Literal whole ass on display
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 02:56 AM
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I have rain sound apps and a white noise machine cuz of this ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 02:27 AM
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Ya he’s jealous and resentful, it’s a common trait seen in men when their female partners or interests do “better than” them. He’ll call you stuck up and a bitch, neither of those things are bad. Good luck and congrats on the success
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 09:08 PM
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Emotional manipulation came with my “softer” ex, turning arguments around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 06:53 AM
6

For sure watch some videos on how to use a knife properly so you don’t cut yourself while defending yourself too badly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 12:37 AM
39

I was off on the last holiday, Veterans Day, and this guy I had some interest in texted me: “where are you slacking at”. Block and delete is where I’m at I wouldn’t call it slacking tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 05:23 PM
4

0/10 — two thumbs down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 01:00 AM
24

Accurate af, trailer is garbage!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 09:55 PM
10

I for sure play broke more than I admit how much I actually make, “oh yeah, yep I’m soooo bad with money ha ha”. Absolute downright lie. Men hear what I do for a living, and how much I make and usually get scared off but playing broke is my go to. I like your mom’s advice to avoid men who want to be in control while also being taken care of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 09:46 PM
8

EYE HOLES WOW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 09:37 PM
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DBT skills: dialectical behavioral therapy has proven to be a core foundation in my life. Distress tolerance, interpersonal effectiveness, mindfulness, emotional regulation. DBT was started for ppl with BPD, that’s not in my diagnosis but it’s helped me professionally for years now. Highly recommend learning some of the skills like asking for what you need out of an interaction without giving away your self respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 11:00 PM
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Men who neg may not know they do it but guess what sis it is not your job to “make him see the light”, keep it moving they won’t change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 06:29 AM
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amen to that!! I learned to ghost men many years ago, there’s still men who leave blocked voicemails on my phone, I delete them obvi def don’t listen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 07:40 PM
114

I fully support ghosting. Anytime I’ve suggested previously in other places online that ghosting is cruel and I’m mean, well I mean yeah I am, I’m reminded why I refrain from most of society. FDS showed me ghosting is not cruel, I do not owe anyone an explanation, and don’t tell men SHIT. Don’t tell anyone, but especially men. My therapist approves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 02:40 AM
4

FDS is the way the more we ignore red flags the less women as a whole gain and that in itself transcends class imo However, lower class men have solidarity with each other in the games they play and LVM tactics also in my opinion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:54 PM
76

This is advice that will save your fucking life, take heed fellow sisters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 03:36 AM
32

Until I realized I was in fact forming emotional connections and then further realized that those connections were normal and human—I had a bad time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 06:26 PM
4

The ultimate irony to me is the fact guy fawkes sucked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 05:15 AM
11

My face at “the silmarillion” ugh of course
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 05:13 AM
46

Literally this fr ^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 05:11 AM
81

Right now I’m feeling: respond at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 05:44 AM
14

I absolutely hate it and agree it’s completely messy 🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:58 AM
4

What an actual clown show this dude is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 01:10 AM
37

Yeah I came here to say don’t even tell men shît like that. “Honesty” is not the best policy when it comes to dealing with men, I recommend not telling a dude that’s a potential date the tinder man situation at all 🚫🚫🚫🚫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 08:08 PM
13

That article filled me with instant dread
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 07:54 AM
2

LOL funny story I was in Vegas for my bday in March and some French men accosted me … I got vaxxed and went, these men really are out of control post-lockdown But you’re right, I do Vegas alone (and also have to fend off old men) so it’s my own fear holding me back from international travels alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 10:14 PM
2

In the US? Yes ! I go to Las Vegas by myself 2-3 times a year no problem, it’s out of the country I’m very scared of 😩😩😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 08:29 PM
24

It should be normalized because it’s true lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 10:13 PM
17

I’m sketch about traveling by myself, but I’d 100% go here if this is legit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 10:10 PM
71

Men love telling young women they’re soooo young while also saying 25 is old????? It’s so strange
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 05:57 AM
21

Boutta spread the word in every fb group I’m in bet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 11:12 PM
11

Absolutely love god of war great game
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 01:53 AM
17

I always felt “different” from the Disney princesses, I guess because I was poor and an awkward looking child. Only beautiful princesses found their one true love and I didn’t look like them, and I didn’t have money. I went from ugly duckling to beautiful swan, didn’t even begin to grow into myself until at least after high school and I worked hard to transcend generational poverty and have my own money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:02 PM
77

Cackle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 11:07 AM
11

Men are incapable of taking personal responsibility so their choices don’t matter. we’re not allowed to have ANY Sry I’m in a nihilistic mood today 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 10:01 PM
6

I can be cruel and all but this shit isn’t funny to even me. How horrifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 08:03 AM
14

He’s coasting on his looks atm and that dad bod ain’t it! We’re over 30 now sweetheart maybe time to find health insurance and an actual 401k 💁🏻‍♀️. Oh when he is in town he lives …. With his parents 💀☠️. My gov job is always hiring but no he won’t pass a drug test ahahahah cackle cackle cackle Thx sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 05:43 AM
24

Ever. I know a semi famous dj, he went from being the sweetest guy and someone I was genuinely interested in to clout boy. I chalk it up as a missed connection and think about the pre fame time we had. Now I purposely go out of my way to block and ignore. Touring off of your single from 5 years ago and fucking 19 year olds is gross Robert
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 03:38 AM
31

How do I do this I want to tell someone’s fiancée that he’s a total scum bag they have a kid but he’s literally a dog and going to bring home an std if he hasn’t already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 03:33 AM
9

I feel like there’s a level of hot where dudes are scared of it, also I’d you haven’t had a lot of exes that might factor in too. It ebbs and flows with me sometimes I get weird ass emails from exes 10+ years ago sometimes I don’t hear a peep and I’m side eyeing all my inboxes just bracing for it lol! When I actually went out like to clubs it was 1000x worse but even now I’ve had randoms tryna take me to Tahiti … uh newsflash Bradley I’m not going to chick fil a with you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 03:30 AM
4

Ehh I lay pretty low and rank high in physical attractiveness and I get the weirdos that always want to come back to me or that “scream into the void” where they don’t even know me but want to say hey 88 times. I’m on social media and decently active but I chalk it up more to my “mysteriousness “ I do know the type and they’re all drama but for me it’s like I feel hunted sometimes for being elusive :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 03:27 AM
2

Barnacles attach themselves to important animals, aren’t cute, bum food, cause damage I mean it fits
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 10:35 PM
641

Ya you can change him….into an ex husband bye 🙋🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 07:41 AM
28

What an absolute barnacle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:54 AM
3

Amen this is gospel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 09:06 AM
7

You ladies don’t fill up the bath tub of blood once a month and just sit in it ? It was hard to write that with a straight face
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 08:26 AM
8

This is the way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 02:02 AM
3

Horrifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 01:37 AM
29

Absolute bravo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 07:37 PM
11

We get called Borderline and Histrionic while the boys were just hyper and different then it was autistic while we get the stereotypical negative dx — it’s interesting to see more studies and literature come out about how much trauma plays into BPD and is it really autism instead?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 05:54 AM
35

God I love B&B for this reason! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 05:49 AM
5

I’ve been on this sub for 3 years, honestly I don’t even remember what brought me here but I drop terms and such on fb and irl — those women who know, know and those who ask I may slip the sub in once in awhile 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 05:48 AM
20

I don’t tell many ppl if any that I’m bi, it’s been fetishized so much I keep it to myself. Scrotes are all “oh threesome?” And I haven’t dated a woman in years if I wanted to I’d have to say a red flag is instant possessiveness. It’s different when it’s a woman imo because the possessiveness is against men, they’re seen as a threat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 01:09 AM
20

It’s a long way to the top if you want to rock and roll lol I say this as 11 years into my career I’m far from the top but the top knows exactly who I am. When I moved tax brackets I lost friends, LVM took themselves out I was “intimidating”, I got the “you’ll always pick your career over me” which is absolutely true. Am I jaded? To a point yes, but am I 2 digits away from 6 figures? Yes. I’ll have absolutely everything I’ve wanted in life, a man was never on my top 5 list, and it’s hard to be a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 01:06 AM
24

If it walks like a duck, talks like a duck….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 12:58 AM
13

Thank you this is a very coherent and thought out reply to what I think I was trying to say, I figured it wouldn’t be popular but really are the downvotes because it’s too close to home? I do 12 step recovery and am coming up on 5 years clean, the amount of men and women I encounter that say they’re doing it for their kids, partner, parents, everyone but themselves: that RARELY works. This young woman lived these years of her life for someone else only to have him turn around and drop her off at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 11:21 PM
6

We shall get downvoted to oblivion together <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 09:56 PM
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Is it wrong that I’m sitting here haughtily cackling while reading this? Oh it’s absolutely at her misfortune, I suppose I could have more eMpAtHy 🍿🤡. I also have disdain for him as well, 22? But we know scrotes will scrote. How can you never once think to work on your OWN happiness?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 08:24 PM
5

i can smell this picture
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 11:39 PM
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Lol that’s actually kind of funny in a sense that Achilles wasn’t straight, and this bro has 0 sense of what actual Bronze Age Greek culture really included. Which was a lot of homoerotic stuff and not a whole lot of straightness going on, even in “blessed bastion of masculinity” Sparta. There’s plenty of women scholars out there who kno—oh wait that’s right women bad men good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 01:34 AM
7

That’s really delicious and not even bad at all imo one of my best friends is a vegan and her order is also like this so I’ve heard crazy stuff 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 01:21 AM
10

Lol no one gives a shit about your camera bro I have a very expensive camera myself, hobby of mine I mostly bang my own pictures in my office, but I would’ve been like oh okay ya sure show me how 🙄🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 04:50 AM
15

I have gotten some scary messages from men in the time I’ve been here and active: death threats, rape threats, etc. and I’m not even a mod or anything. Men are scary, men are out to shut this sub down as “hate” but then things get serious and go irl but women are to blame (s). Stay safe sisters xoxo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 02:48 AM
17

This sounds like a man I liked that had a whole fiancé and child at home! He tried very hard to hide it but it didn’t work. He did almost all of these same things 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 08:30 PM
3

Nah I won’t do it anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 02:18 AM
53

Sounds like a lot of extra cleaning I didn’t sign up for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 02:13 AM
11

CONSUMPTION IM DECEASED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 05:36 PM
31

Of course it’s an age gap relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 03:19 PM
1

WHITE?! 😩😩😩😩😩😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 05:56 AM
3

My last actual relationship gave me a complex with men and naked. He wanted to sleep naked all the time, and he would come over after work and sit naked on my couch. At least pretend to care and shower first??? 😒😒😒😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 11:38 AM
3

🥴🤢😵🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 11:36 AM
7

*adds to amazon cart*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 11:35 AM
3

this is absolutely ridiculous, men should be ashamed of themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 11:33 AM
5

When men tell you who they are believe them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 01:42 PM
20

LVM AND ANXIETY OVER BEING LATE, lort took the breath right out of me when I read that. I need a med alert someone get me an ambulance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 10:46 AM
1

I’m pretty centrist, I’ve voted republican in previous primaries and I change my voter registration frequently. I went from diehard liberal to “well maybe”, I’m pro-choice but I’m also pro-death penalty. My declared minor is economics, but I support social welfare programs, I add that caveat because that’s seen as too liberal for some of my republican friends. The only Marxist anything I like is the radical feminist contemporary analysis Redline anarchists and communist woke bros are just as sex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:56 AM
19

They always spread rumors and it’s almost always a form of projection too. I had a friend I used to party with, she’s married with kids now (I think her husband and his nonexistent hairline suck but she’s happy), got a rumor made up about her that she gave someone an STD. I defended her because I knew it wasn’t true, the scrotes admitted years later they did it to be well, scrotes !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:10 AM
13

I got negged for the first time in so long recently! Oh my god I couldn’t believe it, the first time this man did this I was like ?? Come again ?? Second time I recognized it for exactly what it was, I can thank FDS for that quick and painless “spot and drop” 💅🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 06:03 AM
61

STARTING a job!!?!?!? I just died even more than I already did
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 06:01 AM
43

I’m attractive, a classic “hot girl”. You know what? I still got treated like shit, it’s really not better on the other side. It’s very hard to tell if men like me for me or because I’m hot. I have a unique personality, like every woman lol I am multifaceted so when men find out I’m a total nerd and usually smarter than them things get weird and dicey. FDS has helped me realize I don’t have to put up with shît ☺️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 07:39 PM
6

Ooo I like that one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:12 PM
6

Just reading this comment about the truth of most men has me wanting to speed dial my therapist and ask for an inpatient check in 😵‍💫😂 (jk kind of)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:18 PM
25

Men are soul sucking life diggers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:16 PM
4

I am the prize I am the catch I deserve to be treated well on repeat ✍️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:12 PM
30

Decently attractive scrote in my age group recently admitted he’d take me out and such which was nice ya, but then I found out after talking to him more that he has a girlfriend who lives with him and had 2 of his children !!!! Like excuse me?!? Delete and block
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:00 PM
1

There’s a difference between being able to take a critical look at the beauty industry, societal standards, and where women fit into them, and 100% female separatism imo. The rad fem movement itself loses a lot of support from other women by cutting out those things, you spend money on makeup all the sudden you’re a victim of the patriarchy. The nuance is lost a lot of times, it’s okay to read Dworkin and still date and love men, I’ve seen a lot of pushback from radfem movements about even the b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 01:21 AM
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Xoxoxo thx girl, it was MANY many suns and moons ago and luckily I got out of most situations relatively unscathed but I 100% will never forget how other women treated me once upon a time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 01:14 AM
28

Total flashbacks to my young bi days when pickme women tried to use me exactly like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 07:39 PM
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The separatists views on manicures and make up really chase away a lot of women it doesn’t have to be like that you know? “Appealing to the male gaze” or liking eyeshadow lol like what
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 07:19 PM
17

Oh look another man here to teach us a lesson omg who would’ve thought a man would take us to school wow king bless up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:48 AM
2

lol ty and Yw it def helps me stay present for the real heavy flashbacks, dark humor is my speciality !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 12:16 AM
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I support this message. I’ve embraced my dark triad behaviors in recent years and it’s done nothing but help me advance tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 07:48 PM
11

Lmfao I’m sorry it’s so funny 😂🤣honk honk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 07:39 PM
8

BRO YES YES I DID
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 07:38 PM
6

LOL did you just use me for food like bro what 🤣😂🤣😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 07:38 PM
39

cue chopper blades for full on nam flashback
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 07:35 PM
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My grandma’s parents died when she was very young and had to go live with one of her sister’s and her husband. She barely finished high school and then I feel like they sold her off to my grandpa, maybe as some mob debt idk that was the running joke. Luckily they liked each other and were best friends to the end but my username is an homage to her, she raised me by herself after gpa died.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 05:59 AM
4

Or he builds it backwards and refuses to redo it 🙄 sry flashbacks 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:51 AM
1

The most horrifying part to me is “husband”. She married this man, wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:50 AM
6

None of that is wholesome at all, the entire thing is disgusting. They’re both awful wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:32 PM
5

Make them say it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:36 AM
4

Oh for fucks sake 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:36 AM
10

Steals my underwear ☹️😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:35 AM
3

Oh my time management is work, work, and more work lol !! Maybe I can find a husband who wants to be my neighbor someday 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:24 AM
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I can very much relate to this article and the South Korean women. I’ve never even lived with a partner, I haven’t had a roommate since my first round of college well over a decade ago. My most recent ex I broke up with this past winter wanted to spend a lot of time together usually at my place, it bothered me so much. He didn’t understand or respect my need for space. I’m so entrenched in my love of privacy living by myself, the man who does someday stay want marriage will be ticking ALL the bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 10:45 AM
6

Planning a getaway over my American Independence Day, been dealing with a lot at work just pressure and stress. Weight of the world on my shoulders etc. I’ve commented in the FDS weekly check in before that I get really nervous about traveling alone, I’m going to plan something for myself that’s just a bit out of my comfort zone. Nothing too crazy like out of the country alone yet, but just far enough that it’s growth and change!! :) thanks FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:28 AM
1

It’s funny to me because those same ppl will auto ban participants from here on other subs, so it’s not toxic when they do it just when FDS does lolol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:19 AM
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Thank you for everything that you do mods, by doing the work you have all done here women can be safe and talk about navigating this world while trying to do date men. I cannot express my appreciation enough ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:07 AM
3

Company policy always, example: my desk phone is listed for everyone in my company and so on for everyone else. It’s not policy to change that, or list a number that’s not a desk phone. I have a work cell, I put “can be reached at xxxx” when I’m out of the office and I put my work cell in email signatures. It’s a company phone, but I’m not necessarily required to answer it unless it’s an emergency, i.e. something is on fire. No one has used my desk or work cell phone to harass me or even ask me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:02 AM
1

I want to thank the mods, seriously. The amount of comments I see in my email and then come to look at or respond to but the comment is gone, amazing. You ladies are absolute gold in this online world. I’m marked as GC too, even though I date men more and I’ve been unwelcome in GC and PP spaces because of that. There are communities on other platforms that have spaces specifically for GC or PPF discourse, this is not that space respect that. It’s a boundary, one I appreciate. Set boundaries, sti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 10:56 PM
15

This seems to be the realities, woman gets sick man leaves woman. Mine had plenty other reasons for me to leave him but perhaps I knew in the long run I’d be better off…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 08:37 AM
48

Most of them are hobosexuals
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 11:59 PM
38

I have some autoimmune difficulties as well, when I first started going through it my bf at the time just didn’t get it. He had to go!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 11:58 PM
21

Oh I like the hot coco that’s a nice touch, that ish on the right can miss me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:01 PM
7

I’m a mess as well, I try my best but in reality I’m just not organized. My office is by far the most organized I’ve ever been. I work through what I can in therapy but between OCD and some depression, ptsd etc. you get the picture, I’m far from a cleanly and neat person. To me, a man had better not come for me to be the clean up crew because I make enough money to hire my own. Also a man had better clean out my car for me at least once before I consider a relationship just saying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:00 PM
2

CACKLE 😂🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 11:22 AM
58

This is one of my favorite genres, what is known as: “good for her”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 11:21 AM
18

I can’t get “future faking” out of my head and I’m not even mad about it because now I’m side-eyeing potential dates before I even get out of the texting phase
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 11:20 AM
7

At least every other therapy session lol jk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 06:38 AM
52

“It could be worse” no. Comparing my personal pain to the absolute tragedy of other people’s lives is cruel and also a harder habit to break than I thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 06:37 AM
24

I dated a 40 something year old at around 27/28, awful. I dated a 40 something at 21, WORSE. In those 6 years I learned nothing. I learned the most when I finally dumped that loser. If they’re that old there’s a reason … and OP I know all about the mantrums these older dudes throw it’s embarrassing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 06:34 AM
21

The whole circus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:20 AM
15

My most recent ex is bi, I’m good on them for a long time it wasn’t a good experience for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:51 AM
47

Sounds like one of my exes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:44 AM
4

Oooo that’s a good one !! I’ll put that shit on a plane to Mumbai BET
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 08:05 PM
31

I work in logistics I would legit put that shit on a whole ass truck lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:11 AM
3

These are facts not hate. I will not date a bi man ever again. Go ahead and date or even sleep with a bi man and then be honest with your gyno about it. Your dr WILL test you for all of those things and your dr will go over the risks, bet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:26 AM
8

So proud and just happy to see this success!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:08 AM
11

Don’t forget the sissy-hypno porn either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:03 PM
24

I can very specifically think of multiple dudes I’ve talked to or dated in the past who wanted kids and pretty much ignored me when I said I didn’t. They thought I’d change my mind, that they could convince me otherwise, or even try and trap me into a relationship with a baby. I haven’t changed my mind and I’ve never been trapped. These men DO exist and they’re dangerous af. The scrote in this post will not change he will only get more devious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:51 PM
7

Closure is for the dead and dying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 02:38 PM
21

I’m not going to spoil it! I’m just going to go watch the movie even if it’s by myself 👯‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:02 AM
12

lol you can unblock the user name on hate subs we all know who that is by now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 07:05 PM
6

Oh this was beautiful ! Anyone who has been through abuse as a woman, even if the abuse wasn’t from another woman, can probably relate to being this angry. Fuck yeah June fuck yeah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 07:57 PM
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I was raped as well, as an adult though, and it did give me HPV. I’ve had a normal pap since then but I have to go every year because of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 07:41 PM
33

The amount of liberal feminist pick mes who have internet-bullied me for suggesting ghosting a man is astronomical. But when men do it to women were just supposed to get over it lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:24 PM
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Wow, this hit me like a ton of bricks. I’m management, upper management, my next promotion will come and it will be six figures. I’m paying my own way through school while working with some student loans obvi but also out of pocket. The amount of men who know this or even suspect it and try to dig me is astounding 🤯 Holy shit I need a cup of coffee I’m sitting here like 👁👄👁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:18 PM
13

They do not care: even if men send YOU a paragraph, just block them for real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 12:31 AM
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Hi I’m a former stripper and let me help you with the resume gap: “unemployed” from x date to y date. That’s it. There’s no explanation needed, just “I was unemployed at that time” only question you need to answer is “were you collecting unemployment?” In which you say no. Im management in my 11 year career and I’m in the fed sphere, absolutely no need to explain. Short, sweet, to the point. As long as you haven’t been arrested for prostitution it’s no ones business. No matter how hard pressed, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 10:08 PM
27

When men tell you who they are believe them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 10:03 PM
31

there’s all this research into men and their dicks but women can’t even get a crash test dummy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 01:51 AM
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Thank you for the clarification but I get enough abuse online from men so not wanting to get abused if I can help it is why I said it. You know, fighting the patriarchy and poorly raised men doesn’t have to happen on my personal fb every time I want to post a meme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 08:41 PM
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This sub isn’t just for dates like it’s in the title but the ultimate prize isn’t a man, the ultimate prize is well: us. There have been other women only subs before being shut down, but this sub is self-actualization. Being able to spot a shitty dude isn’t just empowering it’s lifesaving ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:58 PM
3

Like what does revenge have to do with it that makes no sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 08:03 PM
3

Before during and after!!! No joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 03:29 AM
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On my journey to be the most high value woman I can be I stopped smoking and am proud to say I don’t smoke or drink or so drugs these days! Wanted to share I’m happy about it, and it was easy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 09:04 PM
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The gift of fear helped me recognize the danger irl and the meanest woman alive helped me move on in my career without the approval of men. I love having my own office ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 09:03 PM
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I was told I was fat lol like pls try harder 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 09:00 PM
4

You know, they say Ted Kaczynski always smelled like sour milk ….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 08:59 PM
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I haven’t had any sexual contact with a man since I dumbed my ex in January, I’ve never felt better. I wouldn’t even know what to say in “sexting” these days 🤔🤔🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 08:59 PM
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Proceed to yell into the void scrotes. Report block delete bye 🙋🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:21 AM
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Weak chins 🤢🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 11:03 PM
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For the record just because I added that caveat to my own personal fb, knowing exactly what reaction I would get lol, doesn’t mean I’m not a HVW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 04:35 AM
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I worked for a creep manager when I first left my blue collar job for a white collar job in the same industry. The women that were my peers either viewed me as a threat or were pickmes. I had a determination during my work floor days to learn as much as I could, knowledge is power, but men withhold it for nefarious purposes. I got lucky and found one solid woman mentor, she’s since retired but I give her almost all of the credit in being my direct teacher. I am a titan in my field, logistics run…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 10:59 PM
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Might as well be cuz it’s not like most men have any concept of like spit lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 07:49 PM
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The one I call “the cat tongue”. I shudder at the thought of it but I’ve had men fo down on me and that’s what it reminded me of. 🥴🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 07:39 PM
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LV for me stands for Louis Vuitton these days 💅🏼💁🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 07:18 PM
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One of my LV exes called me an attention seeker because I have 900 Instagram followers like what lmao 😂🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 06:58 PM
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Omg the attention hoe men, PAY ATTENTION TO MEEEE. It’s just too much, “deluded broke male princess” THAT’S IT, that’s what they are !!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 06:55 PM
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So happy for you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 06:51 PM
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Lol the Virginia Wolfe quote* someone here posted I saved it and posted it on my own FB, I even said “now this doesn’t apply to all of you”. But the amount of male meltdowns I caused with one meme fueled me through my 8+ meeting workday 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 06:50 PM
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Wow most men really are sex pest termites, i have an ex who sounds just like this only he triangulated me with another man and then wondered why I was turned off. I wasn’t turned off I was physically repulsed by him and his incessant “ahh why won’t you fuck me waa”. The wash of cold horror in realizing how close to danger I truly came is refreshing and thank you FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 06:43 AM
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When I first moved to my current city over a decade ago all I had was literally wicker furniture, a crockpot, my dog, and a bed lol!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 06:11 AM
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My breakfast consists of male sensitivity to my domination in “their” career field
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:08 PM
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Thank* you for the reply !!! I hope someday I can like bite the bullet and to beyond the Florida keys or Vegas by myself, I’ve done other trips where it was important to me (flew to Reno, rented a car, drove to Donner lake, stayed overnight, drove to Yosemite, and back to Reno one of the best decisions I’ve made was to do it no matter what), but international travel alone is just a hold up to me. I don’t want to be held back by my fear of well, men but I also don’t want to settle at all for a tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 08:58 PM
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So I have the means and ability to travel pretty much anywhere and anytime I want, but honestly I’m scared to go by myself. Now I’ll take trips to semi-local (5-6 hours away) with no problems and I’ve worked out of state on my own but in terms of foreign travel, I’m too scared. My close women friends are either pick me’s or broke, and I’m picky about who I spend my time with obvi. Not sure if this is something I SHOULD get over or if it’s healthy to be too cautious to go to like Bali alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:53 PM
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Subway $5 footlong and it won’t give em STDs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:10 PM
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God the amount of pity dating I’ve done in the past, 20s and I’m beyond those years, makes me sad. When I read* your reply, I cringed at my precious self from years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:46 AM
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I stripped back in 08, because I was poor. From lower class roots, poverty level income my whole life. I left and am now upper middle class with 6 figure job prospects. If I can do it anyone can. Pls PM me if you need to talk, any woman, there are resources to leave I promise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:05 AM
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I felt this in my soul, last relationship I left I didn’t entertain his incessant neediness for “communication”, no hunny that wasn’t communication that was me talking you off the emotional edge as to why my feelings aren’t personal attacks on you. “No” “okay” and block 🙋🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 10:11 PM
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I got cheated on in a relationship with another man, it was incredibly shell-shocking. I questioned my bf about his relationship with a friend he has who is openly gay. The same rules as above applied to this situation: calling me paranoid/controlling general gaslighting etc., “why don’t you trust ME around this person that hurts my feelings”, items left in car the list goes on. Whether this ex really is bi or just struggling to come out as gay are of no concern to me at this point, but the list…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 08:20 PM
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I’m 100% in agreement with you! ❤️ I’ve lived alone for 12 plus years now, my last relationship ended some months ago partly because this man spent entirely too much time in my space. I hated it. That was not the only reason the relationship ended, but it was a big part for sure. It took some adjusting to be back to “my space = happy place”, but it did come. That said I HAVE been the poisoned one, too thirsty, getting burned by man after man stopped in 2017 and I refuse to go back!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 08:31 PM
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Lol the ONE like go to any other sun and comment forever and they’ll get praise for it too!! But you shall not pass here :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 07:29 PM
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Congrats 2017 is my clean/sober anniversary too! Sober guys aren’t all they’re cracked up to be, my most recent ex is in recovery too and let me tell you that may have been one of, if not, the absolute weirdest relationships I’ve had including in active using! I left as soon as things got very strange but didn’t get into FDS to vet properly and avoid the whole thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:00 AM
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Oooo sobriety is a good one, they take it so personally. Boy I’m clean and sober for me lol. My favorite is when they think they have such an impact as to make me go back to drugs and alcohol, absolutely no one is that important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 08:38 PM
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Starting any sentence with “Well actually” will not work in this realm. Your “knowledge and reason” are sub par here and we are not required to entertain men and their terrible opinions that no one asked for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:39 PM
3

Highly recommend ren fests btw perfect time to dress up <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:25 AM
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I bought one for my birthday in March and wore it all week on vacation (vaxxed💉✔️) it was amazing. I go to Renaissance fairs with a crown too. 10/10 recommend it’s an amazing feeling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:35 AM
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I needed to see this as a reminder that I left a relationship in Jan/Feb and need to now focus on finding someone I AM attracted to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:54 PM
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I had to be my own dad lol I know a very small number of men who can do more car and electrical things than me. My women friends call me when their hot water heaters go out and hubby is in the fetal position 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:53 PM
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I have surrounded myself with flamingos, bats, an ostrich, and a hippo all of the teddy variety! I don’t have to spend 3+ hours talking them off emotional ledges like I did with my last relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:20 PM
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I’d Venmo him the cost of water, percentage of electricity used, amount of natural gas consumed etc. he wants to play cheap? Let’s see how good his math skills are buddy, come to my house and run my bills up, nah. You want cooked for? Lmfao him doing dishes doesn’t make up for that nonsense boy bye 🙋🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 05:56 PM
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There is no healing found in re-wounding <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:12 AM
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FDS taught me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 11:51 PM
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One I found is like this: dude said his ex didn’t clean up or anything even though they both worked. I didn’t automatically think ‘oh just another man child who expects women to pick up after him’ instead I went in this direction—she really does/did everything and he expects that from me or any other woman. An attempt at fishing, but I’m a blue marlin baby good luck with this catch 😎🎣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 09:45 PM
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Soul crushing life diggers = men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 09:42 PM
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Rich af intensifies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 12:04 AM
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I’m happily single thanks to this sub, orbiters get the ax because I don’t have time for any male influence at all especially under the guise of “friendship”. I haven’t gotten hate in my inbox for commenting here but I expect it. And when it happens, block and delete. That tactic, and even just leaving messages on read is so wonderful. Men will make numerous accounts across all platforms to scream into the void at me 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:44 PM
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Lmaooo true I do find some gems in there once in awhile, more than I can say for the scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 03:36 AM
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It’s like the discount dvd bin at Walmart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:47 AM
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Absolutely all bdsm I’ve seen has been women subs, hmmm I wonder why it’s almost as if women are the target imagine that...just look at that disgusting sexually broken sub, it’s all women. 85% of men are disgusting sex pests and I made that statistic up so it covers “not all men” or whatever lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 10:55 PM
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A great quote I found recently, applies heavy: “never become so thirsty that you drink from every cup presented to you. That’s how you get poisoned.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:08 AM
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There’s this narrative out there that stripping “isn’t sex work” so it’s “empowering”. I was a stripper my first round of college 12–13 years ago. I still have nightmares about being robbed at gunpoint. It’s not empowering it’s just as seedy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:44 PM
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How this makes me happy good for you! I work in logistics, my degree I’m pursuing while working full time is in logistics, I manage transportation: ladies, do not take the whole burden of household project managers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 10:03 PM
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Oh you bet I did I said “Uhm wait excuse me? Weren’t you just talking shit about me playing and now you’re bringing it up like you never said that?” It was rhetorical because I ended that pursuit shortly after
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 12:12 AM
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How dare you have sexual boundaries /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 12:11 AM
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Honk honk into the night scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 12:09 AM
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Who wants to count the “just communicate” comments with me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:49 AM
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The minute a man talks shit or negs me about an interest I get turned off because it’s happened so much in my youth. Example: I love the sims, played it in 2000 and play it on Xbox to this day. Had a man legit tell me the sims 4 was stupid, only to turn around and get the same game on PS4 like three weeks later. Bye!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:48 AM
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I’m an economics minor, declared, and I’m very happy you commented this <3. Capitalism is blamed the most, but don’t forget Marx doesn’t give a single shit about women. Communism/socialism views women as THE means of production; instead of one man owning you now the state does!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:44 AM
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I’m not a fetish I’m a person bi or not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:32 PM
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It’s always the short ones imo that are the most idk, dangerous ? Insecurity of course
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:31 PM
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Complete cringe like I visibly winced
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:53 AM
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“Next great American novel” I’m cackling. “Oh wow that’s crazy” is one of my favorites
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:57 AM
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The amount of targeting people do towards FDS is astounding, I never really noticed it til recently
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:53 AM
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Yup to all of this-only reason I get regular tests for herpes is because I’m in recovery. After 5 years clean and sober my dr feels it’s unnecessary to continue to screen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 02:54 AM
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What a great example of men falling to care for themselves like go to the dr bro
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 12:42 AM
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100% was trying to and FDS had me like: NAH STFU DONT SAY SHIT TO THIS GUY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:16 PM
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clears throat fuck them men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:05 PM
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I did this but for other reasons and I’m so happy I did it. Anyone who only had that number can’t find me, and I can streamline attempts at contact on social media, I usually just delete the message request or full out block
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:01 PM
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Honestly I don’t even remember how I found this sub, or how long I’ve been here. 18 months? More? I have no idea. I don’t comment every day but I come in spurts when I know I need a check in with the realities of being a woman. This sub helped me change my entire perspective and relationship with men. My therapist who I’ve seen for the better part of 5 years heavily endorses my participation here. It was like I leveled up in every other aspect of my life, amazing job, never broke, own place, own…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:53 PM
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Never tell men your trauma. I made this mistake before FDS, I will never forget the post here that said don’t disclose trauma. I had that like gut sinking embarrassed feeling. I always used to do that, and it made it very hard for me. Recently, I had a guy I was interested in. He blah blah’d about his life and every sordid detail and I kept mine to myself. When I cut contact, because he was a total narc, I was so happy I didn’t tell him SHIT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:36 PM
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Oh my god wow!!! That’s such an increase ... I just got my credit together the past few years so I guard it like a hawk and going back to school put a bind on it with student loans but honestly I’ve just been paying all of them off I only owe 5k, if the interest rates stay low and people keep selling in my local market maybe I’ll take the plunge this Xmas. I have a down payment I just haven’t looked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:28 PM
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That’s actually a really good idea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:34 AM
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It is!! A friend of mine is a realtor, the advice they gave me was don’t commit to a mortgage unless you plan to stay in the home/area etc. for 5 years or more. With my job and such, I couldn’t and still feel I can’t commit to that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 01:52 AM
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“But you can be my therapist” is a line I have heard 88 times over. Terrifying !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 01:12 AM
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Listen when I first started out on my own, I was low income. I stuck with my career and made it a priority, I’m in that 6 figure club now. And I’ve put myself through college doing it. I have no desire to own a home right now, but I’ve had men try and get one with me. Horrifying. Money is just money, it might seem easy for me to say because I’m not struggling anymore but believe me it comes and goes. Men can and will hold it over you, don’t fall into that trap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 01:04 AM
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And no matter how much of an ego boost you give those men, it will never be enough and they will resent you !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:28 PM
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Not my high school sweetheart but I have an ex like this, so cruel! It’s like “how dare she be better than me”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:26 PM
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I used to think women were jealous of me, now I know it’s men. Most women are only jealous because of what they perceive I can provide for or to men, whereas the men are jealous because they aren’t me and can’t be me and are underneath me so they can’t even be with me. Men are dangerous in that mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:24 PM
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When I was around 24 25-ish I went into management in my industry, very male dominated as well. The rumors of “oh she slept her way there” bothered me then, now? I honestly think they’re hilarious lol. I worked for a very weak man, he surrounded himself with strong women and took credit for our work. I was horrified that my peers didn’t care, they let this man do this for years. Challenging the status quo is what I’ve made my career on but that made it very difficult for me in the beginning. Per…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:20 PM
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Yes, they cannot provide anything for us. Some men lose it when they can’t be the “provider”. A woman in charge, a woman who knows more about cars or even life in general. Sometimes it’s under the surface, think classic narcissist, sometimes is in your face and you can spot it. The more successful and independent I’ve gotten the more I’ve had men try and “provide” ANYTHING lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 05:42 AM
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Oh yes they do!! I’ve had a narc legit make completely false allegations against me at work to try and bring me down, all he did was set me up for greater success meanwhile his life has gotten worse :)...FDS has helped me spot them, even LVW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 05:39 AM
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I’m in my 30s and what I’ve found in being this woman is: men will admire you, even love you, but they will resent you. Put them on a pedestal, if they do not match up keep it moving xoxo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:27 AM
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Do you need a shovel? To dig up shit LOL I needed this advice years ago but now? Block. Delete. Move on. He ain’t a good person, you’re not James Cameron in the Marianas Trench
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:25 AM
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My hopes are that more women come here and also take the brutal advice, and lead happy lives being productive and successful high value women :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:22 AM
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Lol like no attempts were made at all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:09 AM
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Kate’s pregnancies were absolutely terrifying. Even if she directly wanted more kids, she still put her life on the line every single time. And for that hairline AND side chicks? Truly tragic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:39 PM
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Communism is a farce of “equality” for women. The marxist feminists do have a few good theories but I’m far from convinced that the “means of production” can mean anything different for women. Don’t forget that women are seen as those means of production in both neoliberal and marxist societies. —source: economics minor, declared
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 07:39 PM
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Boom flip it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 09:45 PM
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I’m bi, I would look for a single mother way harder than a man with shared custody for real. That said, I agree with all of this. I’m staunchly anti-child myself but that doesn’t mean I don’t support the mothers out there. I was raised by a single grandmother once my grandpa passed when I was 8. My mother was in my life some and she was always single my whole life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 05:09 PM
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I’m about to be 31. Never married, no children, don’t want any. No shade or harm to mothers, but it’s a private badge of honor for me to say I don’t have kids and I didn’t end up like this woman. My heart goes out to those who have been destroyed by childbirth and shitty men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:08 AM
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I get fetishized enough being a bi woman now I’m a fake account too? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:00 AM
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I’m bi, thanks to FDS I find it easier to find HVW. LVM are very good at disguising themselves, and can often mask their low value traits well. Not to say that women are incapable of that, it’s just not on the same level. I tend to date more men these days, but I find myself thinking “wow that’s a HVW, I’m a HVW...maaaybe” lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 07:13 PM
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It’s deeper than mansplaining too it’s honestly a whole violation of my sacred space, the things I love and cherish you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 12:58 AM
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Honestly I get annoyed when I have a hobby and a man gains interest in it. Like stay out of my space, I’ve been keeping tarantulas for the better part of 5 years now, it’s something I always wanted to do but didn’t get into it until I got clean and sober. I have a collection of 10 at this point, some common ones some extremely expensive and rare. I recently had a man I was seeing get super into it, I was like ok cool at first but now? Back the fuck up buddy. It’s like he’s the expert and I’m jus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 11:19 PM
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I’ve always had a dog even if he’s a small chihuahua he’s my protector !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 01:16 AM
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I’ve taken this to heart more often than not, not sure if it was my upbringing or a core part of my personality but the thought of being stuck with some dude I had a kid with is horrifying. I recently backslid a bit on my FDS principles and got involved with a guy who had a secret fiancé !! Well she had this man’s kid, I didn’t know how much she was in the picture but let me tell you: I won’t let a man make me a prisoner to his seed. More power to moms, and especially single moms, but at 30: I h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:59 PM
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I just can’t forgive a man who cheats and I cannot look at her the same with letting Offset right back in like that nah. I’d expect the same treatment in return I got a real problem with non-monogamy. I used to cheat, and be the other woman...now? I’ll never do it again 🙅🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:09 AM
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If I had a dollar for every time a man gave his opinion to me, I’d be Jeff Bezos. I cannot bear to sit through another sub of “well, actually”, I’ll be actually dead. Women are allowed to have their own space to voice their own opinions, without interference from men. I just cannot fathom being so self-important as to demand access to a space that’s not for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:18 AM
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I have never lived with a partner, moved out at 18 and never looked back. I’ve always had my own place, I cannot imagine living with a boyfriend yet alone a whole husband. I’ve never even had a roommate, well one semester in college years ago but that’s it. I don’t even like friends staying at my place more than 2 nights. I’ve never had to kick a man out, but I have had exs try and stay more than their welcome. Nope. Maybe 4 now exs’ asked if I was interested in living together, I said no absolu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 09:20 PM
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This SCROTE came inside a woman but doesn’t think the relationship has long term potential? The mental gymnastics award winner 🥇🏆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:29 AM
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Look at her asking if she’s not upset for selfish or materialistic reasons, what a display of gaslighting and societal conditioning. Poor girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:28 AM
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I love Enya so much 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:02 AM
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I heard this before about like judgement and guilt and stuff: “The first thought that goes through your mind is what you have been conditioned to think; what you think next defines who you are."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 10:45 PM
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The best years of my life have been the years I have spent living alone, which is the past 12 years since leaving home
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 01:29 AM
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Thank you for this exchange truly probably saved me from slipping ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 01:15 AM
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I’m at that stage of “I’m the problem I’m the abusive one I did everything wrong” phase, I’m sitting with my emotions and showing up for them and then work on rebuilding my confidence and that I’m NOT the problem and I’m NOT abusive. Never want a porn sick man again 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 01:08 AM
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Covert narc, thing is he told me he stopped well I caught him in the lie last Friday. He has his own place but he can find his sexual and emotional gratification from other people, men women or other with all the types of porn he was watching. I’m on the psych today website reading about emotional abuse right the fuck now❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 01:04 AM
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Crushing realizations that I thought I knew to escape this previously and that I knew how to spot emotional abuse, and I’ve been in therapy for 3+ years too, but he chose porn over me and def discarded me like I was nothing. Going to have a busy session but I will address this ASAP before he tries to come back...thank you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:52 AM
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He got his stuff, I tried to go back to him Sunday and Monday honestly and he’s “dead set” on ending the relationship, so I deleted his number and blocked on FB (his only social media). I’m strong enough right now not to reach out, but now that you said it honestly, fuck this is a trauma bond and he’s a narc...he’ll be back they always try and come back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:46 AM
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....shit. You’re probably right...making note of this for therapy next week ... trauma bond, he’ll be back won’t he? 😫😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:41 AM
3

Thank you it’s so hard, I’ve always been the “leave em and go” type but this one is fuckin me up more than normal I know it’s for the best but it hurts like hell 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:32 AM
2

It hurts because I love him but he was into some categories I just couldn’t get into, DP(men and women), group sex, and one I won’t even name because I won’t get this sub in trouble for it. I told him he was watching too much of it and that I wasn’t comfortable with those categories, he got defensive said it’s just porn and he can do what he wants. I said that’s not compatible for a long term relationship and he got his stuff Saturday, it hurts Bc I did try and talk to him after against my bette…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:22 AM
11

I ended it with my boyfriend after I found out what kind of porn he was watching and how often, it was a betrayal because he said he stopped but he didn’t. There’s other stuff with it to, but porn is not just “fantasy” it has very real implications and can and will change a man fundamentally. Breakups hurt and I’m for sure sad, but I’ll be okay and much better off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 01:55 PM
42

Lolol right?? They want to pester for sex everyday but the sex is 5 minutes and no orgasim
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 08:11 PM
68

I don’t even like men with a “high sex drive”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 05:34 PM
6

Total privacy violation in the age of violating people for likes and retweets
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 05:17 PM
9

It’s backpage 2.0 imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 05:16 PM
3

Honestly I really don’t know but anytime I got BV was from an older ex, I can only assume it’s just their old dicks messing up my beautiful ecosystem 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 07:58 PM
2

Thanks girl, my grandma raised me after my grandpa passed when I was very young. She wasn’t perfect by any means but I wouldn’t trade that experience for anything else ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 06:32 PM
2

Yes lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 06:30 PM
19

There really isn’t, I had commented back that I had personal experience with this and me in my younger days (I’m early thirties now) thought “older would mean more mature”, oh was I WRONG lol. Older men have given me nothing but insecurities and BV — thankfully no stds though, avoided that entirely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 01:54 AM
18

I forget which group it was in but the post was about an older man throwing away his younger girlfriend’s stuff because he wanted to and couldn’t understand why everyone thought he was an asshole, I think it was mason jars she used as cups which I totally dig. My first thought was “uhm if he’s pushing 50 there is little to no chance for redemption and wtf is he doing with a twenty something anyway”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 01:53 AM
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I got TORE UP on fb in a group, post was a screenshot from AITA written by an older man mistreating a younger woman. I was like hmmm in regards to the age, a lot of women defended me but the comments like she’s a consenting adult or ‘I have an older bf and it works for meeee’ we’re out of control. Older men do not have our best interests in mind, thank you for this post OP. I feel validated in my questioning, and vindicated in my personal life cutting off older men last summer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 10:35 PM
18

Can I get the highlights on trauma bonding 😅😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:29 AM
3

That’s what I do with my Xbox and discord with my girl friends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 05:04 PM
1

I’ve had relationships with older men, every single one was terrible. The emotional maturity should not fall on one party. It’s not an equal partnership.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 08:05 PM
2

Exhibit A of men screaming into the void for thousands of years
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 10:11 PM
14

Shots fired, I repeat shots fired. Louder for those in the back that need to hear it like I would’ve 4 years ago
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 08:03 PM
31

In my experience men don’t care so why should I spend time and energy in an explanation ? Also past practice with men acting dangerous, won’t do it again 🙅🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 07:54 PM
3

Good it should be lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 07:51 PM
35

The amount of pure hate I’ve gotten on all forms of social media for saying that ghosting is not abusive and no one owes anyone an explanation is insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:39 AM
5

Big white lifted trucks are a huge trigger for me, a previous abuser and one of my rapists drives one. For a few years after the incident I would get paranoid and almost go into flashback mode when I saw one. If a man drives one, or even says he likes big trucks like that; it’s like a silent alarm during a bank robbery for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 11:26 PM
151

Men are soul crushing life-diggers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 07:41 PM
3

Put in applications for big promotions, got 3 interviews coming up. All 4 applications I put in may require moving and I’m going for it regardless of the fact I’m testing dating out right now. I will not let a relationship stop me from achieving my goals. Turning a huge promotion down because I’m in a relationship does not meet my core values, never has never will. I refuse to compromise, I’ve been with my job for 10 years, my career has never left me no matter how difficult—men have tho shrug
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 11:10 PM
6

Imo men do not stfu ever. The current man I’m testing the commitment waters with, very recent but I’m cautiously vetting atm, actually has quite moments and I didn’t know what to do at first. Like “what? A man who has shut the fuck up? What do I do do I like poke it is it broken?” LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 10:53 PM
8

Thank you for sharing this, I can really relate to growing up in similar conditions. I used apologizing as a deflection for the gas lighting too, just apologize and let it go because trying to fight it wasn’t worth it. That became ingrained in me, it’s taken a lot of therapy to not do that as much anymore, still an ongoing effort needed though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 10:21 PM
13

I totally relate, I’ve been in therapy for going on 4 years now due to childhood abuse and adult abuse/sexual assault. I had a rough go at life and it for sure seeped into every aspect of my life. I’ve had to unlearn my own defensive behaviors in order to have even healthy friendships. It is possible, and actively participating in my own healing has helped me so much. When I catch myself exhibiting controlling behaviors I have to take a step back and take my own inventory before I can process th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:16 AM
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In my experience it’s a huge red flag when vetting potential partners. If a man “has no idea” why a relationship or marriage ended, it’s right up there with “she was crazy” in my book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:40 PM
24

God I’ve been hatfished too many times in my youth, never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 07:52 PM
70

I caught a 72 hour ban for saying “men are trash and scary”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 12:21 AM
5

Let me just say girl, don’t talk to yourself like that! Or about yourself like that, you’re not pathetic at all you’re a modern woman who got stuck in a slump. Huge difference, with or without this creature of a man you’ll need to stand strong on your own so celebrate losing the weight and begin by forming a better relationship with yourself. It’s not easy, it took me a long time to get to the point where I like myself, but I’m a firm believer if I can do it anyone can! It is amazing what you’ll…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 11:15 PM
62

Imagine announcing to all of Twitter that you have no standards or expectations and a “Burger King date” is acceptable to you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 12:51 AM
3

Mmmm yep and as time went ok and all this stuff kept coming up with her, I just cannot hold her to the high esteem I once did
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 09:39 AM
11

Even if it is I just can’t take her as seriously as I did once upon a time, her husband is a lecherous cheater and she stays with the man idk I can’t get over it these days lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 12:24 AM
23

Honestly in my opinion I loved her and Hilary Clinton for a long time, but as I got older and like, educated myself...I could never reconcile staying with a trash man and their success. I am determined to stand on my own and if a man can stand with me that’s cool but if not, my life will be fulfilling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 10:47 PM
25

Bad. Don’t do it, I feel like we have this thread once a week or more and it’s because “stable” older men can masquerade in a lot of different ways. I’ve done the age gap and I won’t be doing it again. I want someone my own age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:39 PM
3

Following for the hope I get an invite someday 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:37 PM
3

I know right? I was horrified...I’ve been in therapy for 4 years, that does NOT make me a licensed professional
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 10:57 PM
21

Went to Miami with some friends a few years ago, one took his shirt off and it was the most back hair I have ever seen. Oh my god I was completely floored, I said my dude you HAVE to do something about that, it is sea otter thick please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 08:06 AM
3

I work a federal job, if I ever leave I cannot work for competitors for a specified timeframe or I will face legal ramifications
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 07:53 AM
10

Biggest red flag in my recent dating history: while getting to know a man, he said “well, you go to therapy so you can just be my therapist.” G O N E like the wind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 07:39 AM
3

Patrick Bateman of the modern era
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 07:19 AM
13

YESSSS Mr. Always Right is this ex...here’s an example of when I knew it was over and had to tell him this via text: I’m a very particular person, I know what I like, what I don’t like, and have specific tastes in things which I have cultivated over my adult life. I was shopping for a replacement toaster with Mr. Always Right at a local Walmart after work, I picked out the same toaster I had before-standard black two slice toaster. He proceeded to tell me how my choice wasn’t good and showed me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 12:14 AM
18

This hit home, my last relationship had an age gap to begin with but anytime I brought up anything even slightly disagreeable or “negative” I was told I had an attitude, trying to start an argument, or in a bad mood. I wasted no more of my time and broke up with him via text message followed quickly by a block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 11:00 PM
2

I’ll never do it again 🙅🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 11:25 PM
35

I don’t think I’ve ever stayed in a relationship for 2 years, maybe someday but I’m in no rush
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 09:15 PM
7

“NO! Don't go in there! You don't have to die! No one has to die at 30! ...” love that movie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 07:17 AM
3

The last man I gave a chance had an age gap like this, it didn’t work for me and I ultimately had to break up with him via text message. I won’t be trying an age gap like that again but I do hope this man works out for you, don’t be afraid to cut your losses rather than stay in something not worth it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 07:12 AM
2

I love it lol perf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 04:16 AM
13

This is why I just kicked a dude to the curb via text message at the beginning of November. I don’t owe an explanation, the text I sent was enough. It’s not up for discussion, I don’t have to play coach and “teach him what he did wrong” miss me with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 09:56 PM
31

Mmmm yup, had to ditch a “pick me” friend a few years ago, her and her gaggle of pickmepickme backup singers called me stuck up, I said thank you I worked hard to feel this good about myself 💁🏻‍♀️.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 09:51 PM
3

I remain highly skeptical of male friends who appear to have gotten over it, but that’s just me being jaded about it I think. I used to hold out hope but maybe I’m just unlucky while you have found some meaningful connections :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 10:35 PM
3

I have plants, and when I say plants I mean orchids, the difficult plants that require a lot of learning and hands on care. It truly keeps me busy and is a huge passion of mine! I have small animals like a chameleon and a great fish tank, they require some level of involvement. My dog obviously is my pride and joy (don’t tell the plants!). I’m into running and have a set routine every day that I rarely deviate from, it’s made me happy. I read a lot too, I’m in love with the Malazan Book of The F…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 09:29 PM
13

One thing I learned very recently, is that men really do not want to be friends with women. I mean MAYBE, just maybe, it’s me but I’ve found that basically every single male who has tried to be my friend has imploded the “friendship” when they realized all efforts were futile and I will not sleep with them. It’s been great having time to devote to myself and building meaningful friendships with women I can cherish the rest of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 09:19 PM
6

This book fundamentally changed my life for the better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 02:45 AM
35

This is classic “trying to guilt the other person into dropping the subject”, by making the objecting party feel “guilty” for well, objecting, the subject is more likely to be dropped in favor of the other person. In my experience, men do this to women A LOT. I feel like it’s almost...negging? Idk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 05:01 PM
3

I had to hear it from one of my former therapists, because when I was in my early adult years 100 mfers couldn’t tell me anything. That was at 22-ish? Now I’m 29 and I’d say about 67 mfers can’t tell me anything lol but I struggle spotting the covert narcs sometimes so I have to tell my current therapist (I’ve been with her going on 4 years now) everything to be able to see it from the outside looking in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 03:10 PM
2

Thank you for sharing this, I was a foster kid and former target for abusive men too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 12:32 PM
13

Aside from being sex-oriented, I’ve found most men cling to this notion that they “can change a woman”. We have all heard the phrase, “turn a h*e into a housewife”—some men take this as a challenge. People are not projects, and if boundaries aren’t clearly established some men will take every opportunity to “build-a-woman”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 12:40 AM
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