I really want women to stop asking how to find HVM. You don’t find HVM, you just get lucky. I know that’s probably a downer for a lot of women but with the way the math is mathing, there’s just not enough HVM for all of us. Once you start thinking like you need to go out and search for a HVM you already lost.

You’ll start looking for green flags that aren’t there. You’ll start romanticizing any man that you see a future with. You’ll start making excuses when he fucks up. Just don’t go there. Get to a place where you can accept being alone so you can stay level headed once you decide to start dating people.

To be a HVW you need to be realistic and pragmatic. You need to let the men do the chasing because they have more to prove. So if you’re asking how do you find a HVM? The simple answer is you don’t. There is no magic trick, perfume, or chant that will get HVM to flock to you. Just live your life and hope you win the lottery is the best I can say.

In addition, if this is the only message you’ve gotten from FDS you need to reread the material. You still have pickme tendencies if you’re only interested in using FDS tactics to bag a man. We don’t center our lives around men here. Most of us are content being single so work on yourself and ask why you feel like you need to be in a relationship to feel whole.