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LVM LOGICarwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 10:44 AM
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REMINDER 👑arwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:29 PM
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LIES MEN TELLarwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 01:51 AM
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LVM LOGICarwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:06 PM
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DISCUSSIONarwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 11:49 AM
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How-To High Valuearwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 02:09 AM
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NAH, SISarwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 01:24 AM
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REMINDER 👑arwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 11:07 PM
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FDS MEMESarwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:57 PM
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FDS HUMORarwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 03:24 AM
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REMINDER 👑arwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:13 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYarwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 09:41 PM
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FINE AF FRIDAYSarwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 05:09 PM
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DISCUSSIONarwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 08:25 PM
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DISCUSSIONarwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 12:37 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYarwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 12:43 PM
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NAH, SISarwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 02:57 PM
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#JustLVMThingsarwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 08:27 PM
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#JustLVMThingsarwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 01:27 AM
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DISCUSSIONarwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:18 PM
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PICKME CULTUREarwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 06:01 PM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMEarwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:20 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEarwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 12:05 AM
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REMINDER 👑arwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:06 PM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEarwenagon24999/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:04 PM
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Absolutely love Edith Wharton. Your post made me want to get back into her writing <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 03:31 PM
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I think this is good advice to some, but I have found out the hard way that these “rules” have a tendency to attract avoidant partners- the ones who will be attracted to the very facade you’re trying to pull off- unavailability. Again, my advice comes is skewed towards those who are more anxiously attached. If you scare off someone with your perceived availability, that was someone who was never looking for an authentic connection with you in the first place. I’m not saying to go out chasing the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 03:59 AM
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Great reminder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 01:20 AM
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Lmaooo y’all are so funny 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 03:25 AM
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This is it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 02:59 PM
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Yeah idk, I just find them to be of a certain personality type that I’m attracted to. Broad generalizations tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 02:39 AM
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Personally if I’m interested in a white guy I look to see if he has friends of color. I don’t know what it is, but I tend to avoid dating ones who don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 09:37 PM
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Once (pre-FDS days) had a man make me speak in my native language on our first date. I counted to 10 like I was making conversation and he went "wow that's so sexy." 🤮Total PUA type too, looking back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 08:16 PM
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If there's no skin breakage it's probably less likely, but I would err on the side of caution if I were you :( hope all goes well <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 10:24 PM
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Please have some blood tests done if you haven't already. I'm so sorry this happened to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 10:21 PM
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This hit the nail on why you shouldn't do 50/50. Finally something I agree with!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 12:16 AM
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They say that like it's such a "gotcha" moment for them but honestly like ok? Doesn't make it any more moral? Like wtf one could argue that slavery is also as old as humanity itself too, does that make it any acceptable?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 12:11 AM
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Wolf in sheep’s clothing. Block and delete. Were you in a relationship with him? If not, consider multi dating to maintain a more objective view of your suitors so that you feel more comfortable cutting men off and their absence doesn’t faze you as much. This isn’t your fault. If you hadn’t asked now, you would’ve found out much later and he would’ve wasted even more of your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 04:28 PM
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I need bleach for my eyes after what I read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 12:30 PM
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legend says she's still looking for his neck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 08:55 PM
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Thanks for clarifying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:57 PM
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Gotcha! Just seeing people say it’s un-FDS was confusing to me since we have mods who also advocate for it and those who don’t. Either way it’s definitely good to diversify ways of meeting men if you’re overwhelmed with OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:06 PM
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I’m honestly kinda confused- I am not on dating apps personally but the podcast ok’d them to build a rotation. I made a post about this topic a few weeks ago too but it didn’t really clear things up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:51 PM
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You hit the nail on the head with this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:10 PM
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Wow I've never thought of it that way but you're so right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:16 PM
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1000% agreed with this post. This is the energy I signed up for on FDS. I got my ass handed to me at first, but I'm better for it. Honestly, the energy on FDS reminds me a lot of East Coast culture. Not necessarily always nice, but kind. And there's a difference between the two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 11:08 PM
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This is wonderful, and what FDS is about to me: curating quality dating experiences. Good for both of you for recognizing that your paths are not aligned and sticking to your standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 10:49 PM
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Seriously. Like really bro? Not getting enough sex because you're short compares to women around the world getting murdered and mutilated by men simply because they are female? Try again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 04:13 PM
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So he's your "friend" no longer, correct?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:15 AM
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I'm getting PUA/incel vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 02:26 PM
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👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:13 PM
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Good for you and your husband! Don't listen to the noise :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 11:49 AM
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right lmao, fitting word for the handmaidens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 11:49 AM
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wait lmao im cracking up 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 11:47 AM
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They had us in the first half, not gonna lie 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:27 PM
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Oh my god what?? This is horrifying, so sorry you had to go through that. There is no telling what a narcissist will do when their ego is wounded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:56 PM
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This is the theme to which I picture male redditors writing hate novels about FDS in our DMs 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 11:26 PM
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To think I actually read a non-satirical version of this today 😩🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 11:20 PM
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I’m not denying that there haven’t been any success stories from OLD, and I’m happy that you found lasting success with it! Stories like yours however, are few and far between. Ultimately for most women, the return does not remotely make up for the investment. Parts of FDS condemn OLD, and a majority of screen caps show that women are actively using it and still having a shitty experience interacting with depraved men. The purpose of this post was to address this conflict.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 02:09 PM
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Honestly, I’m from a small town where the dating pool is basically men who took algebra with me in high school and never moved outside of this town. I was on the apps until about 6 months ago and I only wish I had gotten off of them earlier because they were a dumpster fire here (even if I had the radius expanded). My situation is different however because I am a student, so perhaps we can have more conversations about how to meet people in real life for women who may not have access to the high…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 01:36 PM
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Thank you, I’m glad you agree. My feed has become a mixture of anti-OLD posts followed by screenshots of interactions with men on OLD, which doesn’t make sense at all. I’m glad that other dating subs are also catching on too. As HVW, we shouldn’t make ourselves so readily available and cheap as options to be swiped across a screen. It’s true that we may be doing the same to men, but the consequences of a wrong match may be more severe for us than for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 01:24 PM
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You can’t expect to meet quality men on OLD :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 12:22 PM
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Honestly med school is very unforgiving when it comes to time, I'd imagine you'd have no choice but to be creative. Congrats on your final year, Doctor :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 08:53 PM
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So very sweet! I’m in med school too and I can’t imagine the dedication it takes to make a relationship work amid the chaos. Cheers to you both, enjoy 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 07:51 PM
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LMAO seriously, it sounds like a title right out of Reductress 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:27 PM
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Seriously! He clearly doesn’t even want to have sex with her and would rather jack off to porn instead. Leave these women alone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:14 PM
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The same god the Duggars worship!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:08 PM
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Absolutely. It’s amazing how much of our self preservation instincts have been trained out of us by the patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:32 AM
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The absolute irony, I couldn't stop laughing. Save our sister from the throes of this god fearing porn connoisseur 😩🙏🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:01 AM
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Who else thinks he’s using the excuse of wanting to wait until marriage to have sex because he can’t get it up with a real woman (or worse, doesn’t want to)? 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 10:51 AM
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Good point! Funny how all of these truths are thrown only in the face of women. Men are exempt from having to follow these rules.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:57 AM
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Absolutely loved her in this series. No one understood her, and everyone wanted her for it and hated her at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:50 AM
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The entirety of South Asian culture summed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:36 PM
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Love this! Ty for your post 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:02 PM
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Yeah that “adorable” was like saying “aw it’s cute that you thought you had a chance with me.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:33 PM
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I’d be horrified lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:27 PM
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“I don’t really care too much-“ except she was embarrassed enough to post on Reddit to try to make herself feel better? Like you know she turned to Reddit because all the neck beards who don’t know how to talk to women would be the first to tell her they LoVe iT when a woman asks them out 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:27 PM
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LMFAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 10:05 AM
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this had me feelin some type of way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:54 PM
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Omg he's gorgeous!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:52 PM
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Calling it for what it is!! 100% agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:02 PM
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Well said!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 10:49 PM
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This used to confuse the heck out of me until I realized they were doing it on purpose. I felt like I had to dumb myself down and repeat myself or risk them saying I was being naggy 🥴 No more feeling confused, issa block from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 08:21 PM
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Those replies were horrendous to what I thought was a well constructed, reasonable thread. Also the number of women who were defending pedophilia on there! One of them literally tried to say that sex offender registries should be cancelled. My god I had to literally leave when I saw that because I couldn’t take the male pandering anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 09:50 AM
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Yes please
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 12:02 AM
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That is beyond condescending 😠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:10 AM
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I hope you are gearing up to get a divorce and leave. He is abusive, and you and your child deserve better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 02:23 PM
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Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 01:17 PM
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It’s no coincidence that the libfem/pickme cool girl persona is synonymous with wanting to be one of the “bros.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 01:13 PM
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The contempt was real. So sorry, hope you’re healing okay ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 01:46 PM
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Did you see how he treated his cohost earlier that day? He commented saying that he knew summer had arrived bc his cohost was wearing a mini skirt. AND IT GETS WORSE. He made her stand up and the camera cut to what she was wearing. She was so uncomfortable and you could feel her pain of being forced into a corner and being humiliated. What a sick man, pathological to the extreme. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 03:16 PM
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This is yet another example of how men view other women as extensions of themselves, not individual people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 01:17 PM
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I wish I could get angry more often honestly. When I’m being wronged in the moment I just... cry?? And then I feel angry months afterwards, remembering what was done to me and more annoyingly, at how I responded (or didn’t respond).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 12:47 PM
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Ouch the incel in him jumped out huh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 03:50 PM
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Deleted mine this summer- the best thing I did for my mental health. There is freedom in letting go of the expectation/hope of finding someone. Dating apps aren’t designed to help you find love, they’re designed to keep you coming back to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 10:21 PM
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Came here to say this, this man is really a psychopath. She and her kid need to get away from him yesterday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:43 AM
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Truly. Sounds like a Petri dish 🧫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:59 PM
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The way to obtain a porn free man is to say no to every man who watches porn. And if that means you’ll be single for the foreseeable future, then you need to find a way to be happy with that possibility as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:14 PM
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An emoji in every sentence? Sir please...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:38 PM
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LMAO this loser really thought he did something and ruined your world. Block and delete, this is a shit test.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 12:47 PM
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Gorgeous!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:02 PM
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Ohh my god, congratulations, he is absolutely adorable!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:45 PM
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This is so true, a huge red flag to look out for. If he's not taking the initiative to take on projects around the house, it suggests that he has no purpose and really does nothing to add meaning to his life. More often than not, that energy is shifted to scrolling online for hours, playing video games, porn addictions, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:30 AM
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Me too please!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:55 PM
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LOLLLL I’m so dead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 02:36 PM
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I see these types of comments on such posts ALL the time; they absolutely cannot fathom a woman getting treated like a Queen. I fear most of them have seen women suffer for basic decency and think that’s what every woman must go through, regardless of what she brings to the table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:34 PM
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Haha did we date the same guy bc I went through the exact same transformation! That same anxiety and nauseous feeling, I had it everyday I was with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:34 AM
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More like how to raise a functioning adult lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 10:44 PM
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All of your points resonated with me so much! So grateful for this subreddit, everyday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 09:35 PM
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I couldn't agree more. The abundance mindset is a consequence of the shift in thinking that comes from truly being comfortable being single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 01:08 PM
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I think it’s less “dogs are good at reading people” and more that dogs pick up on your discomfort with a certain person and the subtle changes in body language and tone you adopt when you’re around someone shady that you might not be consciously aware of. Gavin DeBecker goes into detail about this in his book The Gift of Fear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 11:59 AM
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This is very true. They’re good at recognizing when something isn’t right for them and decent enough to not string you along for their convenience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 07:18 PM
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What an excellent post! Handbook worthy tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:19 PM
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Men are huge attention-whores
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:56 PM
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If they don’t ask you out within about a week of talking or even less, unmatch. You’re not looking for a penpal and you’re better off being single than wasting precious mental effort trying to carry a conversation that will go nowhere. Real men who are looking to seriously date don’t wait around for a “hint.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:40 PM
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I needed to hear this! 🙏🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 12:48 PM
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It’s called infectious ~mono~nucleosis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 11:16 AM
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this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 02:52 PM
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LMAOOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 02:34 AM
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Holy fuck lol did we date the same guy? We had the same type of connection you described. Eventually the depersonalization got so extreme that sometimes he wouldn’t even respond. That was his way of telling me to stop sending them bc his brain was so porn fried that my nudes probably didn’t do jack even though he asked for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 12:20 AM
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LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 01:30 PM
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Thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 09:16 PM
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Thank you for bringing this up. I've been single since I found FDS but in the past (pickme days lol) I would stop working out for instance, bc I got lulled into a false sense of security about how I don't have to care for my looks anymore since I already have a romantic partner. It's like all my motivation to improve myself evaporates. I need to constantly remember that self-improvement is a must, moving forward, and I suspect it'll be easier since I have FDS to hold me accountable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 08:37 PM
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Hit em with the “wym” and then block while he’s typing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 01:08 PM
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I’ve noticed that since I joined and started following FDS and accounts with similar messages, the algorithms have started to show me more of the same. I’m seeing more and more women of my generation (early-mid 20s) standing up for themselves and calling out pick-me/patriarchal bs. Of course it’s interspersed with pickme nonsense like this tweet, but the response to it has changed from even just a year ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 12:33 AM
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Agreed, I’m sensing a culture shift and I’m not complaining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 05:16 PM
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Saw this in Instagram on one of those popular meme pages but thankfully no one in the comments thought it was cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 11:47 AM
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Shouldn’t have sent that whole ass paragraph. Look at his response- “ok.” He literally couldn’t give a shit less lmao. Don’t give these men attention. Leave them in the dust where they belong 💅🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 12:58 AM
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Amy Coney Barrett 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 11:25 AM
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Yo I literally thought the same thing?? At first I thought this post was written by a guy until I checked her post history and now I’m REALLY confused LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:19 PM
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Wow I was not aware of the evolutionary instinct! But honestly, at worst they will blame you and at best, the very reason they apologize is rooted in a selfish need to be convinced that they are not inherently "bad" people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 10:30 PM
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Wanting closure is wanting another excuse to talk to that person 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 06:51 PM
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I did the same thing a month ago. I’ve never been happier being single 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 06:05 PM
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I’m glad you got what you wanted but she didn’t. You’re the exception, not the rule. When women lower their standards, most of the time they set themselves up to fail, to be treated like garbage by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 11:50 AM
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You have no idea how useful this reminder is to me, at this point in time. Thank you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 12:27 PM
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And the 215 other women who found it helpful :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 08:23 PM
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Although this is sweet, it may not necessarily be "high value." If he was high value, he would've broken up with his ex long ago. HOWEVER, it DOES speak to the much denied truth (outside of FDS at least) that it does not take long for a man to recognize the woman that he is going to spend the rest of his life with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:42 PM
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This is very true. If they’re true HVM, they will recognize the lack of boundaries and won’t take advantage. Men of value really do want to feel like they have earned you. It won’t happen if you lay yourself down like a doormat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 04:52 PM
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thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 01:11 PM
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Saved! Thank you for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:18 PM
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I second this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 11:09 AM
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Got it! Thanks for the clarification!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 03:56 AM
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Yes! Blocking is the single most important weapon in your arsenal. I just mean that if you feel the need to post a screenshot of a conversation, it better be a clap back and a damn good one at that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 03:50 AM
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Totally agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:00 AM
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YES this is the point of unbothered-ness that we all need to reach! You realize that they are so beneath you that even a "clapback" is too giving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:00 AM
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This was spot on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 12:56 AM
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So proud of you Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 12:18 AM
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Hey, I do this too honestly! I’m a very expressive person, but getting emotional will always backfire with a man. I was hoping that this would be the message that I could get across.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 12:13 AM
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Thank you!! I think people also don’t understand/are not willing to accept the tough love part of FDS and I didn’t even think I was “tough.” I’m literally only restating the handbook. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 12:09 AM
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😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:41 PM
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We are all here to learn, but getting comfortable with blocking and deleting at the first sign of disrespect or a whiff of a red flag is crucial!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:39 PM
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SwIpE LeFt iF yOu UsE FilTeRs like stfu sir you look like ass hair ✌🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 01:23 AM
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I appreciate the steps you’re taking but girl you’ve only known him for a few weeks! Stop calling men HVM so early on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 11:02 PM
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Well put!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 06:19 PM
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So happy to hear about what you did. I wish I was this intelligent when I was 20 lol. All the power to you, FDS Queen 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 12:42 PM
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Thank you for sharing! I need to remind myself that this type of love is possible and worth waiting for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:03 AM
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Classic light skin South Asian representation lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:01 PM
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Underrated!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:48 AM
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I’m crying 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 04:05 PM
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Exactly! More and more women are waking up to the sham that we’ve grown up with. I’m seeing a lot of it over social media (especially twitter), but then again like you said, there’s some serious pickme bs on instagram (which is why I don’t go on that app too often)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:26 PM
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“Chances are they’re liberal feminists” - this is so true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:19 PM
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7 years 🥴🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 11:34 PM
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I’m so sorry to hear that :( no one is immune, I suppose. Sending you love and support!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:21 AM
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The joke is lost on me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:34 AM
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South Asian culture is hugely patriarchal and misogynistic. To be born female is considered a burden to the family due to traditional requirement of dowry to the future husbands. On top of that background, most older women writhe with internalized misogyny- they really do hate themselves and all women. They basically think that their sons are divine, that all girls should be lining up to marry/please/serve/bear their children. These are the type of families that most South Asians marry into. Mos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:30 AM
13

What a beautiful boy 💕 what kind of cat is he? I noticed he has little hairs on the tips of his ears!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:11 PM
3

Couldn’t have said it better. This manifesting an HVM bs makes y’all sound like teenage tik tok stars. Let’s not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 05:36 PM
13

I’m not sure you can! I got nervous I’d get banned so I deleted it haha. It was just a screenshot of a poly profile from an app
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:55 AM
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Thank you for saying this. My post got locked because of poly members (in and out of FDS) supporting polyamory. I have been unclear about the sub’s stance since then, but I’m glad to see it cleared up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:46 AM
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Whether it's through negging or silence, they subtly suppress the parts of you that make you who you are, until years go by, and you've become a shell of who you used to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:27 PM
14

As much as I hate to admit it, this is 100% true. I was born into a marriage where my mother provided for the family. My dad spent most of his time taking his frustration out on her despite her putting food on the table. The one thing my mother has always ingrained in me is to never marry below your station. Always marry at your level or above.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:12 PM
8

I love this! Also another one: for iphone users, turn off your iMessage notifications in settings (not just turn off overall notifications and go on silent). I go days without checking my messages when I do this! And better yet, drop em ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 12:37 PM
22

Thank you for this reminder. So important!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 01:51 AM
17

This is the exact method I use 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 01:07 AM
156

Too many red flags to keep track of, but proud of you for leaving. Welcome to FDS. Never lower your standards for anyone, ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 01:01 AM
15

This is so important, thank you. It took me a while to unlearn that I am not an inherently insecure person - I was just in the wrong relationships. The wrong man will chip away at the parts of yourself you love the most, until you are reduced to playing the same game on his level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 10:03 PM
14

Girl, your intuition already answered the question for you. She shakes your hand and then leans on your boyfriend’s shoulder?? How does that make sense?! Your boundaries are your own. Listen to what your gut it trying to tell you. If your bf is as high value as you claim, he’d stop putting himself in this situation out of respect for you. I would be on alert if I were you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 01:06 AM
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Wow you're so right! It's almost like they're trying to water down whatever egregious thing they said before. Gives them the "male bumbler" quality they try to exude when they're doing something insidious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 12:08 PM
3

Thank you so much for this! Great post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 12:12 AM
152

And to think I ever waited for a text back 🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 01:45 PM
13

LOL the plague of the bored and horny South Asian man strikes again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 10:35 AM
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I love this with all my heart and aspire to be you! But really, the glare goes a long way. I'm still perfecting it myself; tired of being the "nice" girl and having people take advantage of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:24 PM
81

I never thought of it this way but you’re so so right. Sex has become a meaningless currency because of the availability of porn and libfem culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 01:24 AM
22

Unpopular rights 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 06:36 PM
138

Love this for you. One of the cardinal rules in Why Men Love Bitches is to never meet men when you’re running on empty!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:39 PM
1

I absolutely love this quote, I’m saving this. By trusting your gut and surrounding yourself with the right people, you become your highest self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:14 PM
24

That is extremely disturbing. Some Munchausen-esque level gaslighting. Glad you trusted yourself and got out of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:41 PM
30

The amount of gaslighting us women have been subjected to, to accept less, demand less, feel less, and be less in order to be with an LVM/NVM is honestly astonishing. It took me years to realize it. No more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:38 PM
14

Needed this <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:26 AM
7

That is positively horrendous :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 02:57 PM
4

This thread is so inspiring! Saved ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 02:30 AM
30

Really good points!! Underrated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:19 AM
1

That title is everything ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:45 PM
4

We’re the actual fuck? Men are deranged. I’m so sorry this happened to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 01:28 PM
47

"Manifest their ex" I'm crying LOL. All the power to her, I love to see this generation of girls thinking this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 09:25 PM
48

This is so so so true. I used to be the cool girl (yikes) in a fwb situation and the same thing happened. The moment I showed a speck of interest it was like something went off in his brain and he withdrew. Never ever ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 09:22 PM
68

Right?! The manipulation 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 09:46 PM
22

oh lord not the conservative pickmeishas in the comments telling her to overlook men who cheat bc you "might miss out on a great person" if you just overlook his "mistake."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:53 AM
108

Mmm giving me a heads up before and checking in to say he's gonna have a busy day ahead is the type of communication that turns me on thooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 01:00 AM
19

Smh. What's the difference between this and two friends going on a vacation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 11:15 AM
17

Know that no matter how long they've been friends with you, if given the opportunity, men will always choose easy sex/a hookup over your friendship. I see a lot of your comments are getting downvoted. I urge you to see the truth because it is right in front of you. More than a few women on this sub are advising you about what's really going on - he took advantage of you and he's too lazy to put any effort. Take off the rose tinted glasses. Read the handbook and stop settling for crumbs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 11:13 AM
22

Girl I would’ve sent for them myself to slap the shit outta me 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 01:31 PM
30

Yes, to clarify this was not me, it was a twitter thread that I stumbled on and it was horrendous. Totally agree that she should’ve blocked and deleted way earlier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 01:15 PM
42

Time and time again, I am amazed at how entitled men think they are, to a woman's body...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 01:09 AM
15

This is the bullshit that so many women my age fall for and think they want. I thought this was what I wanted until it kept biting me in the back and I stumbled upon FDS and now my Instagram feed makes me mad 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:54 PM
99

So apparently this tik tok is dead real and she made a series exposing that guy bc guess what? He was doing this to MULTIPLE girls. Can't say I'm surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 01:47 PM
3

That's certainly different from where I come from. Thanks for your observation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 12:11 AM
1

How do you think the relationships are better? Just curious!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 08:29 PM
40

It all happened when he was in middle school too :(( he just never got over it :(((
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 11:00 AM
71

Aw she really thought we were out here looking for male validation :’) xo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 01:18 AM
11

I aspire to be you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 12:16 AM
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Even if it starts as a friendship, it starts to inevitably devolve because that is the nature of FWB. I used to think it would be different if we started as friends but the end result is still the same. Men start respecting you less and less, taking you for granted more and more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:59 PM
24

Probably on someone whose standards are underground? Mostly just bored scrotes looking for a reaction lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 09:28 PM
19

Ohhh my god his season was the absolute worst. He also has the personality of a paper clip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 08:33 PM
3

Absolutely. Thank you for your advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 05:45 PM
6

Thank you for your insight! Would you mind sharing some tips for navigating long term relationships and marriages with HVM assuming we’ve found them FDS style?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:53 PM
11

Agreed! I read Attached by Amir Levine and it honestly changed my life :) no more mixed signal/why-does-he -go-hot-and-cold analyzing, I just move onto someone who can do better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:46 PM
36

Oedipus reborn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 11:25 AM
29

Good for you for listening to your gut! It'll save you from a lot of pain down the road. Texting every 2-3 days definitely sounds like he was playing a game. I've vowed never to entertain men who trigger my anxious attachment style (aka the emotionally unavailable ones).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 11:21 AM
35

^ FWB usually wind up benefiting men. I’d be cautious if I were you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:38 AM
114

They heard you the first time 🙌🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 01:37 AM
38

Honestly!! Contrast this to JLo’s relationship with Alex. I feel like Beyoncé’s struggle love is always romanticized but JLo’s actually healthy relationship and others like it don’t get the attention they deserve. Man oh man society loves a woman who stands by her man nO mAtTeR wHaT! 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:33 AM
6

I’m howlin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:34 PM
3

That’s a good point, I loved her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 11:41 AM
30

LMFAOO ladies if his face wasn’t birth control before, this tweet sure is 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 03:32 AM
8

I see your point. Everything about her to me screams avoidant, in which case she should definitely get herself a therapist to fix her pretty serious issues before she starts to date. Thanks for your input! I'm always curious to know what FDS thinks of everything lol. I suppose she doesn't embody a lot of what FDS stands for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 10:23 PM
4

totally fair!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 10:21 PM
9

Yeah that line definitely rubbed me the wrong way too. I guess apart from her personality, I felt like she knew what she wanted and had clearly given it a lot of thought unlike most other candidates. Anyways thanks for your input! I was just curious about FDS’s take on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 10:01 PM
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I see where you’re coming from. But TV shows also tend to edit and boil peoples’ personalities down to a few sound bites. You’re not wrong, I do agree that she needs a lot of introspection and work on her personality. It was just interesting to see a woman of South Asian descent be so vocal about her needs and expectations in a marriage. We obviously shouldn’t learn from her personality, but there is something to be said of her quality of being unwilling to compromise on her standards (ex. wanti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 09:57 PM
9

Also agreed, she definitely needs to work on that. I just thought that she received too much backlash for having standards imo :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 09:21 PM
10

This is so so incredibly sad. My heart hurts for that woman. 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 03:35 PM
4

I’m so sorry sis, you’re better off a 1000x without that toxicity. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 02:43 PM
35

He probably settled for the first pickme that accepted his bullshit and would give him reliable sex :((
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 01:12 PM
3

That is totally possible. Hopefully those cases make the majority than the other way around and the scrotes who suggest it get themselves played 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 01:10 PM
7

That is exactly what I was thinking!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 01:08 PM
24

It’s just sad bc these types of relationships almost always never benefit the woman. They’re probably riddled with feelings of anxiety but of course it could never work if the woman is iNsEcUrE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:23 PM
30

Definitely. Just another invention by the patriarchy for a man to be able to have a harem of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:16 PM
37

I love hearing about these moments 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:55 PM
7

Seriously! I was talking to one of my girlfriends (who also follows FDS) and we both felt like our generation of women were unfortunate enough to experience the libfem bullshit dating advice and paid a terrible price for a greater part of our dating lives during college. No more. I've talked about FDS to my mother (who's ironically preached the same philosophies from day 1 but my past libfem pickmeisha self refused to believe her), and she is so happy that I've found this sub. So thankful for th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:16 PM
3

Her gut instinct is telling her that something is very very wrong but the way she's trying her best to deny it...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:10 PM
10

THIS!! It's so infuriating as a woman to live in this culture where being denied, gaslighted and told our feelings aren't valid is the norm. The insecure trope absolves men from treating women like human beings. It's literally designed to manage down our standards and expectations so that men can do less and still reap the same benefits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 04:59 PM
15

To me FDS is a way of life, even more so than a dating strategy! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 01:47 AM
31

Distance yourself as much as you can. There's no way to fix them. The one pickme "friend" I had once told me that I was "lucky" to be with a guy. She also claims that she's better friends with guys than girls and yet gets regularly ghosted by her guy friends and then accepts them when they come back. She "checks in" with me when she has a problem with her LVM boyfriend. You'll be the punching bag for their emotionally overspent selves. Get out before it's too late.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 11:57 PM
35

god i pegged vinay for the classic south asian fuckboy the first time i saw him LOL. While I felt bad for Nadia, she enabled him so many times. Also knowing FDS, smh at the way she offered to split the bill on their first date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 11:47 PM
5

you're such an inspiration <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 11:52 AM
6

Thank you!! I’ve been wanting recommendations to listen while I work out. Perfect timing :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 02:10 AM
15

Love this thread
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:16 AM
13

Totally understandable, you want the best for your friends. But if they aren't willing to take a long hard look at their lives, there's not much you can do. Fortunately moving away for work is going to give you a better chance to distance yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:59 AM
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Wow these pickmeishas are on another level. My closest friends know and follow FDS (I introduced them to it). But I have come across a few pickme friends (they really do make the lowest quality friends). I'd make a serious change in your circle and if possible, try introducing them to FDS? (This might be a challenge considering how ingrained their pickme behavior is, but then again I'm assuming you've told them time and time again). If not, it's time for an upgrade, or at the very least, have st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 12:30 AM
7

Love this, thank you! What an important difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 02:55 AM
23

Adorable 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 11:24 PM
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Read the handbook sis and run the other way. Don’t waste your time wondering why men are shitty. He’s 30, isn’t clear about commitment but is not afraid to keep pushing your boundaries and reap the benefits of girlfriend status without a title. He’s using you. Quit devoting more brain power to him and respect yourself enough to cut him off completely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:39 PM
4

Feel attractive and beautiful to yourself first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 12:08 PM
6

I recommend Mr. Emotionally Unavailable and the Fallback Girl by Natalie Lue. I literally thought it was a playbook of what happened with my last situationship. She also has several articles on romance, boundaries etc on her website baggage reclaim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 05:31 PM
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So true. Mainstream women’s dating advice columns boil down to “dOnT bE nEeDy!” and telling us to re-examine our own insecurities, invalidating our feelings, and instead make use of the “be independent! Love yourself so that you don’t need anything from him” trope way too much. While it’s absolutely worthwhile to do that, I feel like they definitely absolve men of any responsibility to pay attention/care for the woman they’re with. It’s okay to have expectations in a partnership. I don’t mean th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 05:24 PM
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agreed, what is up with this trend? i see it on twitter all the time, and the guys who use it never refer to men as males so like ??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:47 PM
9

Damn girl! I’m never settling ever again hehe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 11:45 PM
39

Oooo I don't think you overreacted, he tried to backtrack and gaslight you bc you slammed the truth back in his face. Bet you if you went along with it, he would've suggested it as a date. Good for you. NEXT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 12:44 AM
46

Way back in college, pretty sure he was a narc, but he led me on for months, love bombing me first, then blowing hot and cold and of course my young pickmeisha self was doing my mental gymnastics routine trying to reel him back in, until I just couldn’t handle it and cut him off. Two years later this mf reappears in my insta DMs. I replied to his heys and how you beens with Kanye lyrics lmaooo. Couldn’t resist 😂👀 then he asked me to coffee and I said no thanks, and blocked him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 12:42 AM
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Agreed I go through this too. But I think about all the times I settled for a mediocre/negative value men for the sake physical intimacy/emotional closeness and the mental gymnastics I had to do and I feel better being alone tbh. Plus try investing in friendships that are emotionally fulfilling- you‘ll find that you no longer feel as strong a need for romance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 03:41 PM
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His motive is an ego stroke/sex. Block, delete, next!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 03:35 PM
43

Hmm I don’t think it’s such a good idea to put “looking for a relationship” in your bio. I get wanting to be upfront with what you want, but it might give off a more desperate vibe contrary to what you intended. For example, I actually tend to swipe left if a man has that in their bio- it makes me feel like they’re trying to fill a void and not actually trying to get to know someone, etc. Just my two cents. Overall OLD is just trash anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 03:30 PM
19

wouldn't want that mouth anywhere near me...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 10:34 AM
15

they better be honored to have themselves walked!! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 10:23 AM
47

"You no rest im evolved man rare and specisl." If men have nothing else, they will have the audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 10:19 AM
8

as per what everyone is saying, the only way to win at this game is to quit playing. good on you for blocking him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 10:15 AM
10

no more settling for breadcrumbs ladies! NEXT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 10:03 AM
13

Love that for you! Also Nat Lue is the best x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 09:16 AM
32

I feel like this sounds like a narcissist whose ego has been bruised lmao... maybe she rejected him who knows
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 03:18 AM
3

Thank u for this list! Saved in my favorites for when I need a reminder :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 08:48 PM
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