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Goddamn, I just want someone to take the 2nd controller of my 1990’s Super Nintendo system and play Donkey Kong with me. The nostalgia…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 04:09 PM
88

Feather dusters…🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 04:04 AM
260

I’m lonely too and I believe it’s because I lack deep-connections with people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 05:27 PM
98

Are you able to plant a seed in your mother’s head? Like, GTFO ASAP? Your story is all too familiar to me. I dated a man like your father except he got sober years before we met but never acknowledged that he had to be vulnerable to heal. Now I know the only reason he got sober was because he was forced too after 2 DUI’S. He’s still emotionally unavailable. The alcohol was just a coping skill to cover their unavailability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 10:55 PM
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Men and their lack of accountability; should I just assume that every man operates this way? I mean, the piece of shit killed his wife, THREE kids and their dog which obviously takes time, during that time did he not think “This is fucking wrong?!” as he’s looking into the eyes of his terrified family?! What the fuck!!! It was like that woman some years back who murdered her children by submerging their family vehicle in water, what the fuck goes through the minds of these people?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 03:43 AM
1

OMG did you interview my ex?! Saving this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 10:38 PM
256

He’s bad at apologizing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 04:37 AM
248

He’s bad at taking responsibility
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 04:37 AM
124

Ok so he stood her up, lied about why he stood her up and now he’s the victim?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 02:49 PM
314

He got what he wanted now get the fuck out! He knows this. She knows this. But he needs reassurance that he’s not the asshole by making up a story that paints him as a saint.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 03:55 PM
276

Because society condones male-entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 07:49 PM
74

Are we really surprised in which the ways men attempt to possess and take credit of anything and everything just because? 🙄 God-complex anyone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 07:00 PM
20

Venus, with big arms and a penis…🤣🤣🤣 You ladies are cracking me up!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 04:36 AM
21

Life alert alarm…🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 04:35 AM
25

So he’s abusing her. Got it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 04:31 AM
96

His mother sounds like a misogynist, sexist piece of shit, along with him. Sadly this is so, so common with a mother-son relationship, especially the religious ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 05:35 PM
39

Or they’ll say “Not every man who watches violent porn becomes a killer.” Maybe, but most men that watch porn are selfish, bad in bed, have no idea how to make love, objectifies women, has zero-empathy for women, mistreats women, and the list goes on. Might as well be considered a killer of the soul!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 02:00 PM
9

There’s nothing wrong with craving connection. It doesn’t make you needy; it makes you human. ☺️ I suffer with depression and at times it gets very bad, so bad that I don’t really talk to people, but I still respond usually within 1-2 days giving them a heads-up. It seems your friend doesn’t have your best interests at heart. A couple of years ago I freaked-out on my friend who said something humiliating about my 8 year old daughter, IN FRONT OF HER. I was really, really angry and hurt but someh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 01:17 PM
99

I would assume the same way you would treat a LVM/NVM; block & delete. She knows but it sounds like she doesn’t care. Being at the bottom of a loved one’s priority list is traumatic. It eats at it you. You start to become distrusting and paranoid and your self-esteem plummets. No one needs that nonsense in their lives. You’re either in or you’re not (to your friend), it’s that simple. No one is THAT busy to take 1 week to respond. I’m rolling my eyes for you! You respectfully told her how you fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 11:46 PM
103

This is so beautiful. 🥰 I’m so happy for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 07:46 PM
24

RIP to your non-existent orgasms with your ex 😔 I hope since then you’ve been able to find someone out there who gives a damn? Are they truly out there?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 05:37 PM
143

How do people get away with being this disrespectful to someone they lOvE?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 05:19 PM
101

I love this man’s videos; they’re always spot-on. The lettuce though…😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 05:30 PM
30

Who hurt him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:45 PM
62

This was the mistake I’ve made over and over in my last relationship; I literally handed him “Manipulate-Me” on a platter when I attempted to communicate behavior that hurt me. Not surprising he found a way to blame me fully or partially. Nothing he did was his fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 02:18 PM
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👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 02:11 PM
56

Reminds me of when I texted my ex I was having a panic-attack and instead of responding he went straight to bed that night. The next day I asked him why he didn’t respond and he tried feeding me some bullshit “You didn’t directly ask for help so I didn’t think it needed a response. Next time just tell me you want a response.” Um, what? I said “Why do I need to ask you to respond to my text? Isn’t responding basic human-decency?” He got so offended with that last part and said “Basic human decenc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:28 PM
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Of course they think just normal; it’s learned-behavior passed down from generation to generation. There IS hope; keep FIGHTING. There’s nothing normal about treating girls and women like fucking garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 03:19 AM
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It’s only fAnTASY if it’s p0rn but it’s cheating if a woman wants to act on her fantasy of banging other men. Hey, you can have your fantasy and I can have mine but don’t get angry when I go out and act on it. This was my whole point, why should women refrain from living out their fantasies for the sake of respecting their partners but men get a free-pass? Oh right, because we know it’ll crush them. And us? “You’re insecure!” “You’re a prude!” “You’re just jealous! “Men are visual” “Men have hig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 03:06 PM
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Well, after having dated a manipulative man, I can now understand his ex-wife was indeed, not crazy. She has flaws, yes, but based on how he treated me, how could he have not put her through hell during their marraige. They all label you crazy when they had zero-self-awareness of the harm they caused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 06:14 AM
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I purchased a book on consent for my child and have yet to find a book on the dangers of p0rn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 12:32 AM
37

Anne Frank ♥️ She saw beauty in a time of pain… Her mind was just so beautiful and deep… My grandmothers ♥️ They both grew up and married into oppression, knowing how limited they were but still pushed through made me have that much more respect for them. They were both abused by the patriarchy and their husbands and survived… To survive abuse is no small achievement…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 12:31 AM
25

Yup. Went through this 5 years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 05:11 PM
5

I knew it, especially when you mentioned music and smells!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 12:30 AM
83

Men manipulating vulnerable women, nothing new here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 10:40 PM
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Highly Sensitive Person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 03:03 AM
12

Are you an HSP like me?!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 02:54 AM
346

I’m ovulating right now and the horniness is crrraaaazzzyyy! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 12:35 AM
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Jesus. What a sad purpose in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 03:54 PM
32

He’s already cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 03:35 AM
50

This is fucking brilliant. ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 03:01 AM
16

That’s a total power-move right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 09:58 PM
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So, isn’t that how every human and relationship operates? Don’t we all work hard? Don’t we all have days that we can’t be 100% present because we’re too exhausted? I’m a single mom and this relates to me too. I swear to fucking god, society needs to stop coddling and praising men as if they’re above everyone else because they live their lives like everyone else. They can work hard AND nurture their relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 07:39 PM
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It takes a shit load of energy to be this toxic. Someone should tell him to utilize that energy for self-improvement instead. He seems bitter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 08:29 PM
453

FINALLY someone not coddling their adult son.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 12:46 AM
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Good ol’ DARVO. He stormed off and is ignoring her for HIS behavior. What a manipulative piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:17 AM
183

Surprisingly, he’s a father and I asked him “What if your daughter asked to do the same?” and he replied “That’s different, she’s my child.” I was an object of gratification for him, that’s all. He had zero empathy for me outside the bedroom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 11:08 PM
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One time I asked my ex to put chapstick on the skin between my nose and mouth because I get hay fever bad and it was all dry. The look he gave me before saying “No,” as if I asked him to wipe my ass made me feel gross about myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 09:44 PM
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Well, I’m one of those people with un-healed trauma who also dated men with un-healed trauma. The result is catastrophic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 04:28 AM
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It’s more un-common than you think. 😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 04:03 AM
139

In getting to know a new person, asking about oral-sex is top-priority. Not the hundreds of other questions he could be asking. Got it. God. Did you block?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 03:16 AM
40

Sooooo, it was for him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 01:15 AM
75

No one looks into the bright and curious eyes of their 6-year-old-daughter and say “Someday, you’re going to be a prostitute where many men will use and abuse your body but don’t worry, every encounter is empowering.” No one. No one encourages their children to join an industry destined to fuck them up for life. No one encourages their children to degrade themselves. NO ONE hopes their little girl will grow up to “empower” herself by becoming a fucking commodity. Because it’s sick and it’s wrong…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 12:20 AM
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Yup. I went on that site last night and guess what I found? I wasn’t the only one my child’s father assaulted. Apparently, he assaulted one of his ex’s before we even met. Of course, he had me believe that I was the reason he got violent. Even said it himself; “You’re the only one who makes me this way.” I dodged death, that’s what I dodged, because DV only escalates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 07:37 PM
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Definitely sounds like depression. I feel for her. It’s a nasty situation to go through. I’ve been depressed since I was 11 or 12 and although I’m more on the functioning side I know I can do better. Depression isn’t her fault but I think she would do well with recognizing that she needs help, bad. Her husband definitely resents her or her depression.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 06:30 PM
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Mine too, haha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 04:46 PM
8

This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 02:55 PM
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Porn. And they say it’s just fantasy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 01:25 PM
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Every abusive and misogynist man I’ve ever encountered had to be right 99.9% of the time. Even when they clearly weren’t. Even when the relationship was on the verge of ending or when they were clearly hurting their partner, they wouldn’t back down. They view women as beneath them that need to be dominated. It’s so easy to spot once you’ve experienced it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 06:53 PM
45

This is perfect! Saving this! I recently realized I’ve been neglecting myself to the point of physical-illness by allowing others to disrespect and mistreat me. I have a savior-complex in which I allow disrespect for the sake of having compassion and empathy. It has taken me to my mid-30s to fully recognize what I was doing to myself. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 01:53 PM
33

This is the true definition of being used.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 07:22 PM
9

Brilliant. Just, brilliant. 👏👏👏 I’ll look for that sub!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 04:01 PM
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Unfortunately, to be a woman means to be objectified right from the start. It hasn’t changed, even though we’ve seemingly-progressed into a more aware/educated society; social beliefs will always find ways to perpetuate it. These beliefs stem from a foundation that started many, many years ago. And we need to be discussing that more. The practice of controlling women is nothing new, it’s been around for ages; we just live in a modernized society that identifies loopholes to do so, i.e. digital p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 04:33 AM
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I was thinking the same exact thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 03:40 AM
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“…a friend of an uncles cousins dog…” DYING 🤣🤣🤣 Negative-reactions to epidural aren’t common. I’m all for it. It made my birthing-experience enjoyable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 03:32 AM
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God damn I felt this. NEVER again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 06:56 PM
104

Umm yes, relationships are for growing together, not sticking to stagnant routines that are clearly unhealthy. This man has deeper issues than staying up late. He let a convenience move in, not a human. He doesn’t want a relationship with another human, he wants a relationship with another appliance in his apartment, that won’t move like his microwave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 08:25 PM
9

This guy is looking for a submissive doormat. It’s a total power-move and he’s testing the waters. Men like this don’t respect you simply because you’re a woman and women to them should be dominated and controlled. Your opinions don’t matter, your needs are irrelevant and it’s their way or the highway. RUN!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 05:05 PM
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God, his brain is so malleable at that age. Literally any negative habit he starts as a child will stick for life. Someone needs to tell her. If anything, she should be researching ways to teach her son how to love and respect women. She’s literally encouraging a lifetime full of abuse and disrespect towards girls and women. That speaks volumes about how she feels about herself and other women. And the generational-trauma continues and continues and continues… There’s nothing ethical about objec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 02:54 PM
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Abuse and misogyny go hand-in-hand. You will never meet one without the other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 08:46 PM
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So, as well-intended this comment was, I would say to OP or anyone that went through similar to TREAD WATER because men like this, with this mentality are DANGEROUS af. Once upon a time I thought like this but after being assaulted twice and knowing my child’s father is still actively using drugs, court is just not worth it; not worth the stress, the anxiety, sleepless nights… I don’t want to see him, be near him, hear him talk or breath. I know what he’s capable of and putting my child at risk …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 04:14 AM
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So OP is dirty for having sex with him but he’s not dirty for having sex with her. How does that work? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 04:05 AM
16

Reminds me of the time my child’s father told me to abort “it” because he “didn’t want “it”” and even went as far as telling me he thinks he contracted hepatitis c and would hate if it was passed on to “it.” It’s that “it” word… Men like this…I can’t even describe how bottom-of-the-barrel they are. I hope someone, someday treats them as if they are nothing but “its.” Evil fucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 04:03 AM
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If they would’ve stayed together she would’ve ended up on the news. And her child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 03:57 AM
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Ty. If I’m not mistaken BPD can be cured, right? I’ve suffered since age 12 with no identity, depression, very, VERY low self-esteem, suicide ideation… It’s brutal. I’m now 34 and starting TMS therapy very soon. I’m still trying to find a therapist that specializes in DBT therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 05:03 PM
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I relate with the first 4 because I have BPD and the thing is, I have no desire to control people; I just don’t want to be abandoned. It sucks. 😔 The last 4 sound like covert narcissism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 09:21 PM
78

What in the actual fuck is wrong with men?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 12:05 AM
103

Jesus. Fucking. Christ. Abusive piece of shit. I hope she runs like NOW. I experienced similar except my child’s father and I didn’t officially commit to one another and for a good reason. Years ago, when our child was around 2 or 3 he told me (despite me raising our child alone and working full time) it was my job to supply clothes for her and such for when she spent the weekends with him and this was after I asked him to chip in a little so I didn’t have to lug-around such a heavy diaper bag. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 06:02 PM
6

Reminds me of this queen… Women’s anger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 06:44 PM
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I don’t know many people who voluntarily detach a much-needed body part to look good. 🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 08:19 PM
19

Giraffe, hippo, two-hams… DYING 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 03:01 AM
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Do all abusers say the same phrases?! My kid’s Sperm-donor said the same thing when I found out I was pregnant…”Abort it.” “It…” 9 years later, she is the most beautiful human-being I’ve ever known. Fuck him. Fuck em all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 07:38 PM
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Sometimes I double-text people I’m close to due to anxiety (oh and BPD). On occasion I would double-text a person I’m not close to when I perceive they’re about to reject me. Note the use of the word “perceive” as more often than not, it’s my false-reality. Oh the joys of having BPD. I don’t wish this on anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 05:07 AM
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My first boyfriend at 18 (he was 23) said “I’d be perfect as a c-cup.” Tf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 03:21 PM
40

Withholding accountability is abuse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 12:37 AM
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“…and are happy together.” Well apparently, you aren’t. Why even bother asking the internet what direction to take if you already know. Let the poor women go so you can go wh*ore around. She will be so much better without you. Edit…he wants internet-people to tell him he’s not a piece of shit because deep-down, he knows he is. Buuuuttttt he’ll do it anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 02:10 PM
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I’m really curious…what does “peak” mean and where does it come from? Is it based on sexual market value or something? If so that’s the stupidest shit I’ve ever heard. All humans are at “peak” fertility AND health in youth and it declines with age. It’s not hard to understand that we ALL decline with age, MEN and women. Is this some dumb marketing-ploy to women? If the focus is on women, I mean, COME ON, does society think men are these mythical-creatures that don’t age?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 03:07 AM
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Well, I conceived-naturally 9 years ago with a NVM and I’ve been raising her by myself since birth. It’s very hard but can be done and so worth it. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 07:41 PM
9

I just thought and said the same thing! 🤣 So are we body-parts or whole-people?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:43 AM
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It’s revolting that he detaches a body part from a whole women and goes on to say that he doesn’t mind working for that one body-part (pussy). Unfortunately this isn’t a scarce-mindset. How about seeing and treating us like a whole person who deserves to be give genuine love and respect?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:40 AM
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The irony of his rant is that porn has warped male-sexuality so much that women would rather “starfish” (to get it over with) or refuse it all-together because they’re so bad at it and don’t bother asking what will please us. It’s not that we’re all starfish over here, it’s your porn-addiction that kills the experience for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:35 PM
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“Now…we’re learning to have better sex without you.” 🤣🤣🤣 By jerking off to a screen?! LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:04 PM
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Un-related but about 5 years ago and guy and I were fooling around and after I learned he could care less about my pleasure, I stopped what I was doing and asked to go home. He was FURIOUS that I didn’t “finish him off.” I mean, scary furious. I was terribly uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 03:17 PM
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I cringe any time I hear/see the term “man-cave.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 03:15 PM
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Key terms here: Passive aggression (begrudgingly accommodates her and snaps later-on) Stonewalling: refusing to reconcile with her, goes to bed, most likely expects the tension he caused to disappear in the AM without having to do any work If this pattern repeats its emotional abuse and I have a feeling it’s happened before. This man is deeply immature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 07:01 PM
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From what she described it sounds like he deceived her into believing he wanted a relationship and then bailed after getting what he wanted. Very common tactic and very manipulative and abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 05:35 PM
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Yo, what the fuck did I just see? Do they even realize what they’re teaching their daughters?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:31 PM
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The amount of angry male-commenters, attempting to protect their precious porn, my god…WTF did ya’ll do prior to high speed internet and smartphones? Idgaf that there are women who watch, couples who “enjoy” it together, IT’S TOXIC for EVERYONE and you’re obviously trolling in a subreddit who is against porn. If you can defend it then we have every right to fight it. Stay out of this subreddit if you don’t like it. Simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 04:21 PM
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No, but I used my sexuality to mask internal-pain. It was awful and I still hold that shame. Now, love-making is a form of bonding/connection, for me, that’s it. The difference is astounding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 02:40 PM
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Of course they would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 09:58 PM
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It’s 2021; think back on how many accomplishments humans have made in history and YET, women are STILL not treated as valuable people with personalities, thoughts, dreams, passions, etc. WHEN THEN?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:01 PM
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THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 02:16 PM
34

So, I’m a single mother, I work full-time, does that mean I should get paid $200,000/year??! Why didn’t I get that memo?? 😱😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 02:35 AM
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I was turning 16 in 2004 and my first-ever sexual encounter, the moment I would lose my virginity with a boy 1 year younger than me, never happened because apparently, he was disgusted with parts of my body that didn’t resemble the bodies in porn. I’m 33 and never recovered. It is taking YEARS to heal and understand that my body is 100% normal. So for those that think it’s harmless, consider the thousands if not millions of young girls (and boys) who grew up so emotionally and mentally traumatiz…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 12:00 AM
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Typical actions of a manipulative-asshole. It’s so obvious. He loved-bombed you, made you believe you both had something special, got what he wanted and then discarded you. These are not intentions of a healthy-man. He’s done this before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 11:38 PM
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This is textbook sociopathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 10:07 PM
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Abusive-vibes! Who tf doesn’t immediately reach for the bread? They’re hot and ready to be buttered! Who knew there were rules for bread at restaurants. 🙄 This reminds me of the time when my daughter’s father, who assaulted me twice, told me it was rude to floss my teeth at a restaurant. I mean, I had food stuck between a few teeth teeth and it was uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 06:17 PM
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Not that this is significant but my daughter has my last name since her sperm-donor wanted nothing to do with the pregnancy or her at the time. Best-decision I ever made. He hadn’t seen her in 5 years and she’s 8 going on 9. Honestly, I don’t think I’d ever be cool-enough with giving her his last name even if we were together or ok good-terms. He did absolutely squat during pregnancy and labor. I’ve never understood this male-entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:25 PM
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Assmunch…🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:21 PM
10

Ermergerd WHERE DO I SIGN UP?! 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 08:21 PM
1

I love all of your responses, ladies. Thank you. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 04:10 PM
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They’re not sending me PMs. I received a couple of email notifications which I’m assuming they’re flagged for removal before anyone can see them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 07:46 PM
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Is it normal to get this many comments from men? I almost don’t want to post anything anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 03:06 PM
40

“Claimed he did it with his exes and it was never a problem till he met me.” Ya, sure, buddy. 🙄 Porn consumption impacts EVERY aspect of a person’s life. He’s abusing her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 07:25 PM
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Also, be mindful of how you react to a DA-partner as you may become, overtime, a DA yourself to numb the trauma you’ve endured. Anxious can turn into avoidant real-quick to protect the mind of perceived rejection and abandonment (anxiety). Monkey see, monkey do. Edit: I believe all attachment-styles, with the exception of secure, fear rejection, abandonment and loneliness. Some avoid the issue (avoidant) awhile others overthink and act-out (anxious).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 03:47 AM
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I applaud your raw honesty. Perhaps you lean more towards being an introvert versus a DA?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 03:34 AM
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It’s a defense mechanism to protect their ego from rejection. In fact, most behaviors are projection-based. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:25 PM
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There are many behaviors that constitute as cheating; it’s not just physical. So you’re saying that a man who seeks out digital-women for sexual gratification isn’t cheating?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 03:45 AM
17

Actually, in his mind, he is very much with the woman on the screen. I think you should read the countless stories on the anti-porn subreddits to get a clearer picture on the women who suffer before you make such an insensitive comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 12:58 AM
22

That poor child is going to have issues as an adult. Attention-seeking behaviors happen because she’s not getting that need at home. She’s being emotionally-neglected. Every child should be loved, respected and validated at home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 03:46 PM
9

He hails to the patriarchal-indoctrinate. It’s so obvious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:37 AM
14

Secretly, he loathes her success.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:30 AM
53

Pornsick psychos. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 03:55 PM
23

What is it about “You’re pretty but not that pretty, you’re beautiful but I’ve seen better”… Is this suppose to warm our hearts? Has anyone ever retaliated? Let’s face it, statistically-speaking, they’re not a 10/10 either. Like, what? It’s to put us in our place in fear of competition, rejection or abandonment. They know that hitting a woman where it hurts the most (their appearance) will do the most damage due to social conditioning of genders. Society is obsessed with a woman’s appearance and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 02:37 PM
324

Homeboy is hiding something…🤫🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 08:58 PM
37

It’s not just LVM doing it; I’ve had women subtly neg me. Just means they’re all insecure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 02:31 PM
53

LOL I literally said this before and his IMMEDIATE response was “Bisexual as in a threesome?” Did I say I wanted to cheat on you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 03:24 AM
85

Of course this is pick-me behavior. Everything about her body add-ons are fueled by insecurity created by a patriarchal-system. Sadly, she, like most of us, was conditioned as a child that girls and women need to attain x, y, and z to be considered worthy as a human. Edit: I didn’t consider that those may be natural, in any case, flaunting natural or enhanced just fuels the toxic system and it ain’t for your benefit, hun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 07:32 PM
199

This poor young woman. I was once her; landed me into insanity. Your breasts won’t buy you character, respect and dignity, hun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 07:10 PM
25

Lady, are we the same person? I suffer from BPD so most of my romantic relationships were chaotic. Out of the countless human-suffering literature I've read (still reading, LOL), one aspect that really stuck to me was, "It hurts because you cared." It means you're a healthy emotional person and incredibly self-aware which seems to be a talent today rather than inherent. We won't be able to take your pain away but I promise you, with each passing day you *will* get better. Do you know how I know?…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 09:57 PM
1

What. The. Fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 03:43 PM
11

I’m starting to become a brick wall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 06:09 PM
4

That’s what I was thinking too but is this natural for men or is it learned? I’m convinced it’s a learned-mentality, given how society/culture/species over-sexualizes women in the media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 04:38 PM
12

I recognized gaslighting and infantilization…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 08:56 PM
75

So why is it just the men who feel less satisfied?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 03:35 AM
100

I wish porn was considered a huge public health crisis, for its’ impact on the brain, especially of ones that haven’t fully-developed. We all know that porn doesn’t represent reality, or do we?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 03:04 AM
8

If it’s so fucking “normal” to lust after under 18 than why is it illegal to have sex with them? 🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 04:32 PM
1

His positive actions were a ruse to manipulate her back into control, AKA love-bombing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 02:49 AM
137

I’ve never understood why we shave everything and wear bras. Still question it today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 04:17 PM
26

This man is cheating on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 03:53 AM
11

Oh yes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 01:48 AM
33

That will happen but hindsight is a beautiful thing with time…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 01:48 AM
47

Yes… Ever heard of DARVO?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 01:27 AM
224

The narcissist has emerged… I hope you realize this is classic Narcissist-script. Gaslights you by saying you “assume” but your assumptions are spot-on, trust yourself. Deflects his shame by turning the table on you and negs a likely sensitive subject to you, hence the acne comment (a man that loves you wouldn’t dream of harming you that severely, AKA emotional abuse) Typical upper-hand bullshit that will only escalate, never get better. A man that loves you would do everything in his power to m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 01:11 AM
96

Ya, surrrrre she was hitting and kicking you. Surrrrre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 03:16 AM
15

Just imagine a man choosing pixels over a real human; I can’t fathom it no matter how much I try to make sense of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 01:59 AM
23

It is extremely fucking abusive to consume porn knowing it is your partner's boundary. ABUSIVE. Nothing less, nothing more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 08:25 PM
24

Adult version: when a man abuses you it means he loves you. Got it! 👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 12:16 AM
15

Well, we now know who uses porn in that room. 🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 12:48 AM
183

He’s talking down to you. Condescending. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 04:56 PM
56

Funny I’m seeing this post now because I was discussing this with my therapist, who is a man and he agreed that woman are extremely perceptive but couldn’t go into exactly why. My theory is that we’re born with it to protect ourselves since we’re the physically-weaker sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 02:44 PM
195

You know, I don’t mind shorter-than-average men. I’m 5’5” and have no issue dating a man in similar height or slightly above. It’s their raunchy Napoleon-complex that turns me off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 01:54 PM
148

Ew. WOMEN AREN’T FUCKING OBJECTS TO BE NEGOTIATED, BOUGHT AND DISCARDED AFTER USE. Human relationships don’t work like sales, you twat. If YOU did something wrong and she’s breaking up with YOU well then it’s best to jump on that self-reflection bandwagon and apologize like a MAN should. Jesus fucking Christ. Is every man a narcissist? ”Let me try this clever sakes-trick I learned at the car dealership on women so they can be under my control because I’m really insecure and don’t know how to hol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:04 AM
37

What is it with people and comprehension? She said SOMETHING WASN’T RIGHT and guess what, she was right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 08:43 PM
22

💩💩💩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 06:04 PM
25

I think the world would be a better place if humans recognized when they’re projecting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 06:04 PM
88

Do you know what men do when they get their feelings hurt? They abuse, they rape, they murder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 05:57 PM
84

Fun-fact! Not all narcissists, sociopaths or abusers love-bomb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 05:58 PM
3

Yes! That’s it! Thank you! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 01:26 PM
32

Ok so, as embarrassed as I am to share this about myself, it’s necessary because I want to be honest with you ladies and share my experiences. Here goes… I have Borderline Personality Disorder and I suffer from suicidal-ideation frequently, not occasionally; at least 1-2x per week. It is the most insufferable aspect of BPD that I’m most ashamed of. Yes, I have thoughts about suicide. Yes, I have made plans in my head. Yes, I have self-harmed. Yes, I have manipulated people not to leave me. Most …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 03:22 AM
55

I think eventually, but definitely not in our time, women will opt-out or motherhood all-together because of this very reason. No village = not a happy and healthy mother. I’m speaking from experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 02:03 AM
35

It’s true. Look at the stories on the porn-free subreddits; it’s sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 01:59 AM
22

This is fucking disgusting. Someone send this to their mothers. I am frightened for my daughter… Absolutely mortified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 08:59 PM
23

🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 02:36 AM
55

Isn’t it sad that we’ve been so damaged by porn that we have to have these investigations and discussions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 06:54 PM
12

Nope. It just means you’re a porn addict.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 06:22 AM
4

My point is, it’s so easy to dismiss something one has personally never experienced; it’s called ignorance and lack of empathy. Women have every right to assume a man walking behind her is going to attack her because well, it’s a natural response and look at the world we live in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 04:09 PM
58

Okay but does he get followed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 07:46 PM
41

This couldn’t be more true. I once asked my ex why our relationshit wasn’t stressing him out, wasn’t making him cry and didn’t bedrid him for 3 consecutive days? His answer, he considers other aspects of his life to be more stressful such as his job, money and his kids. Translates to I’m not a priority and doesn’t give a damn if I left or stayed. The dysfunction of our relationship didn’t phase him as long as he was right during every argument and he got his needs met. My dignity. My poor, poor …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:34 PM
39

This sums it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 07:09 PM
60

In my experience it’s because they want to portray a sense of dominance/power. Oh but I just as equally counter them, ESPECIALLY when I know I’m right. God, it’s f**king annoying when they do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 07:09 PM
47

Manipulation is no joke. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 05:28 PM
68

My ex was breaking down a piece of furniture for me and as he was doing it he “jokingly” pretended it was someone’s neck, even added sound effects. 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 05:26 PM
20

I’m sorry you were invalidated by your mother. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 07:10 PM
269

“I’m not looking to have sex and I don’t want any of your money…” Translates to: “I want sex and money.” Come on. Does he think you’re an idiot? Edit: I want to add that anytime a toxic ex contacted me after years of zero contact was in fact, looking for sex; never failed. They’re so predictable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 01:11 PM
46

I feel you. Childhood trauma intensifies those fears as well. Rejection hurts everyone. We were created to live with each other. I believe it’s a biological need to feel we belong. We can’t explain why but we know it’s important. Don’t quote me here but I think the reason rejection hurts us the most is because when we’re rejected we’re cast out of a group or society, which means we have to fend for ourselves, and the chance of survival when we’re all alone is slim. So, biological! :) I was liste…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 01:39 PM
9

Amy knows what’s up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 06:40 PM
18

Ah! So he’s projecting… How lovely…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 04:46 PM
36

This reminds me of the time when my narc-ex attempted to shame me for wearing a thong bikini at places where families frequented. Now mind you, he was already on a verbally-abusive streak and was desperately to find anything to shame me for. He also shamed me for, get this, having sex with other men in my past, claiming that I’m not pure and he wants a pure women. Guy was a full-blown porn addict. Edit: men like this are DANGEROUS. These are the types that abuse, rape, and murder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 01:28 PM
3

Correction: she’s his “van girlfriend”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:30 PM
30

Is not this the very reason we have FDS, women’s rights…? Just saying. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 12:50 PM
20

Damn onions 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 02:17 PM
144

“I’m a leader.” This man will lead himself straight into a jail cell after he beats the sh*t out of his girlfriend. Straight abusive-energy. 🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 12:58 PM
136

It’s a prelude of abuse to come…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 12:50 PM
80

Yes, yes you are a tool. Thanks for asking. ☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 12:49 PM
220

“50 Shades of Superiority Complex,” coming to an apartment near you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:16 AM
21

At the time, what did you feel was off about him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 12:38 AM
4

“Well documented-fact…” Orrrrrr instead of forcing the narrative to appease “male biology,” why not just ASK US WHAT WE WANT? This “Doctor” speaks from a position of power and entitlement as a man living in a man’s world. It’s hysterical that he points out wives let themselves go…but the husband is void of aging??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:02 AM
24

Sadly, this isn't uncommon in a relationship with a narcissist. It takes an extremely disturbed and sadistic person to convince their partner that everything wrong in the relationship is his/her fault and they are 100% to blame. But they're not. Hopefully she'll read her post back to herself multiple times until what we see sticks in her mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 07:37 PM
337

And we’re the insecure ones when it comes to porn… 🧐🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 07:56 PM
5

I haven’t read through the comments so I’m sure someone pointed this out but, I think these group of men cry injustice based on the uphill success of women’s liberation. Does this make sense? Meaning, the more and more progression is made for our liberation, the more these men cry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 02:45 AM
39

I read it after my daughter’s father beat me up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 05:13 PM
6

Interesting overview! I adored this film growing up and even named my daughter after one of the characters…🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 01:37 PM
5

Ya, just went through this and it’s not funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 02:21 PM
37

Nah, he’s changing the narrative to support his needs. He could care less about your mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 05:08 PM
15

I don’t know if this is just my own insecurities/bitterness talking but something about how he paints men as dogs makes me hopeless and depressed because either way, I’m going to get disappointed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 05:06 PM
62

I’ve never used any of those objects… In all seriousness, it’s pretty damn sad that the majority of men think we need something stuck up us to orgasm. Is that from porn? All of my orgasms come from clitoral stimulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 10:15 PM
31

This ain’t “mismatched libido;” this is ABUSE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 05:04 PM
82

The poke and prod and beg for answers when he turns cold really got to me. I wish I were stronger back then to incorporate this. I would’ve saved myself years of heartache. Now I know. It’s interesting that when this type of behavior pops out of no where, mainstream advice would advise you to communicate with him. If he’s pulling this shit within the first 6 months of dating and he’s not openly telling you why (ie life stresses), then this is part of his character, this is the real him indirectl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:26 PM
66

My ex narc’s mom’s mantra.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 06:30 PM
86

There isn’t a single man besides my father who hasn’t, in some way, questioned, minimized or dismissed my thoughts, perceptions and reality. Is it a dude thing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 04:18 PM
10

Why not just marry yo mama then? 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 12:42 PM
1

Oh good LAWD did we date the same man?!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 01:32 AM
2

And what was the outcome of that one? Did he get back with her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 01:21 AM
27

Also, if your partner has ex’s from Christmas past, as in an ex-wife and he does small acts of kindness for her but then calls her a “dumb-ass ex-wife” to your face, RUN. You’re not acting jealous, he’s crossing the fucking line. Who the fuck keeps their ex-wife within arms length while trying to cultivate a new relationship?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 05:18 PM
44

OMG, you’re dad ABUSED you. Have you considered pressing charges? I am so, so sorry for your pain. Your story sounds a lot like mine. My heart truly goes out to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 05:01 PM
54

When I was 25 I was in a relationship with a man whom I felt nothing for. I ended it just after 3 months in the most polite/non-confrontational way I knew how and OMG, am I glad I did. He negged me on my looks and even went as far as pointing out the SMALL curvature of my spine that I didn’t even know I had, until him. I’m not sure if this is considered competent from what you’re describing but it’s a good example of an ego-neg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 02:27 AM
211

If I can go to therapy, so can you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 04:25 PM
2

I 2nd that! 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:00 AM
4

Yep. My anger and frustration as it RELATED to my ex was labeled the following: Complaining (God this one infuriates me still to this day) Never happy I feel what I feel not because of our toxic relationship but because of who I am 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:55 AM
295

Yes but HE minds if he finishes. Ever been with a scrote who threw a tantrum because “you didn’t allow him to finish?” It’s both frightening and pathetic. They worship their orgasms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 12:32 AM
6

I enjoyed your comment so much that I keep coming back to read it…👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 10:50 PM
74

I have another theory! He’s been living a double-life, one with his child and her mother and the other with his fiancé. Oh, it happens, and often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 01:46 AM
96

Nothing like those 15-second super-seeds! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:29 AM
51

Oh you mean he was being a decent human being protecting his fellow decent human beings? The audacity! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 02:51 AM
79

On a side note, who asked that douchebag for his opinion on your looks anyway? I can’t imagine looking into the eyes of the one I love and casually belittling his entire existence. Bleh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 02:48 AM
16

Well, based on what I know now and what Ive been through, 18 was NOT the age my brain was mature enough to make healthy and practical decisions. At 18 I was immature, inexperienced, gullible, ignorant and could be easily manipulated. The porn industry knows this… My point is 18 doesn’t magically make a person an adult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:16 PM
35

I think I liked this movie more than my daughter. Thunder-sisters! 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 02:00 PM
4

Ok, so I have saffron on my list of items to buy but I can’t remember why I put saffron. Does it help with depression?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 12:54 AM
5

I looooove vanilla bean 😋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 12:53 AM
19

I’ve been negged by men who either had daddy issues, were drug-addicts, were abusive, were porn addicts or all 4 (mostly all 4). The men with the least amount of problems or at least not detrimental to their character were the most complimentary and truly valued who I was. It’s not you; trust me. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 07:45 PM
13

Most men I’ve dated grew up either without a father or a father who was abusive and/or emotionally absent from the family. It shows. Stay far away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 02:51 PM
85

He’s abusive AF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 05:32 PM
139

“You actually earned my respect by not sleeping with me” is manipulation, trust me. He doesn’t think like that. At all. He was attempting to flip the script to appear like an altruistic dude. He’s not. If the shoe were in the other foot and you ended up sleeping with him, his demeanor would be a lot different. This is borderline sociopathic if not narcissistic behavior. You saved yourself a ton of emotional and psychological abuse that would’ve happened early in the relationship. I know this bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:14 PM
3

In hindsight it should’ve been plain as day he was using me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 01:50 AM
4

Yup. He seemed to be allergic to anything lovey but had the audacity to randomly asked me if I enjoy watching dirty movies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 01:46 AM
10

I’m going through this right now and working my way out. I wish I left after spotting the first red flag, 9 months ago. For example, on the day of his birthday (which was also like, 1 week into our official relationship) I sent him a cute text that said something like “I wish I could give you 30 kisses!”. He left that on read. ALL DAY. It’s small, yes, but that was the first of many avoidant and inconsistent behaviors that I brushed aside but still made me feel insecure. Of course, he had reason…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 06:35 PM
6

Not sure they realize how much the pornography industry is controlling them…🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 11:00 PM
26

Ok this just described what I posted last night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 05:42 PM
1

I’m blue he’s white
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 02:37 AM
20

So I guess there’s no WiFi in Virginia…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 04:24 PM
4

So a woman who has had multiple sex partners will have a harder time eventually settling down… BAWHAHAHAHAHAHAHA I really hope stupid mentalities like this rapidly change for my daughter’s generation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 04:53 PM
11

It’s actually VERY healthy to withdraw from a relationship where YOUR needs are not being met. I’ve done it and will do it again. If your partner doesn’t get the hint then he/she was never “all-in” to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 03:43 PM
152

You know, ball-sacks are also wrinkly and saggy… This is what happens when porn-sick brains warp their entire lives. This poor, poor woman. I hope she find this someday… Edit: Let’s send him ball-sack surgery options, we’ll pay for it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 06:33 PM
69

This is called avoidant attachment. It’s horrible to be on the receiving end of their dismissive and neglectful behaviors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 06:26 PM
43

Even if you weren’t an English teacher, using uncommon words is way cool in my book. It shows you have motivation to learn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:24 PM
37

Ooooo I remember something else about the guy who was 15 years older than me…it was like he went through a laundry-list of everything that was wrong about me, because I broke up with him. He made a comment about my slightly crooked-spine…As if listing all these things will make me believe no one else will want me. I remember feeling so hurt because I broke up with him in the most polite way I knew how and this guy ATTACKED ME. Poor little ego. THAT. IS. ABUSE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:23 PM
44

My first boyfriend at 18 (he was 23) so casually told me that I’d be perfect if were a c-cup. Yes, 15 years later and it’s still fresh in memory. He treated me like dog shit our entire relationship. When my daughter was an infant I dated a man 15 years older than me (I was 25, I know), it only lasted 3 months because I wasn’t feeling it and when I broke up with him, he negged me so bad, he said the only reason I’m so hot is because I wear makeup blah, blah, blah and some other nasty comments as …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:55 PM
25

WTF?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:46 PM
19

An independent woman with drive… So what’s the problem?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 12:51 PM
41

Wholesome sh*t. I cry when I see others cry. Simply beautiful. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 11:03 PM
5

Good Lawd, this is why I loved Decedents, him and Harry Hook. 😋😋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 04:58 PM
2

When I was 24 years old I was in a LDR with a man (maybe 29?) who was DEFINITELY establishing a connection with another women whilst with me. BUT! He was also doing the same with ME to the poor woman he was seeing prior to me. When we were together, we both slowly faded and I never received a proper break-up conversation, nor did I give one due to “What if?” I wasted my time chasing someone who wasn’t available. If you think hard, you may notice that your ex was also unavailable. You may have be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:22 PM
7

This sounds like a wholesome empath story...Empaths simply adore nature and feel an intense connection with nature. I know...:)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:45 PM
20

Dorito bags...🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:42 PM
14

This is what addiction does to the brain; it wipes out any and all logic and replaces with it a self-serving attitude and delusions. Oh the tangled webs we weave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:39 PM
41

Focus intently on your emotional health. Emotional intelligence will get you much further in life than any college degree can. Trust me. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:29 PM
13

Exploiting mental illness like it’s the new trend. Bravo, boys. Bravo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:35 PM
11

You mean you haven’t seen ‘97 George of the Jungle? The horror! 😱😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:09 PM
9

He has one of the most beautiful faces I’ve ever seen. 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:02 PM
12

Me too! There was a song playing at my work some time ago that sounded so familiar but I couldn’t put my finger on it. After I looked it up I realized it was from George of the Jungle and there was a reason it stuck with me all these years later. The song is called Dela by Johnny Clegg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:51 PM
15

Oh gawd, those eyes, those lips...my ovaries! I loved that movie growing up and now that I’m older I can appreciate the beauty of every single cast member.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:29 PM
14

“Pickme supreme...” 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:44 PM
57

31% between ages 1 and 5?! What. The. Fuck. I don’t want to live in this world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 06:33 PM
29

It’s not rocket science to understand that children will pluck certain, if not most aspects of their parents when choosing a lifetime partner. Our parents are our first role models and we’re subconsciously-driven to seek what we know because it’s familiar. This applies to both positive up-bringing and a childhood filled with adversities. Unfortunately, if you grew up experiencing abuse at the hands of one or both parents, there’s a greater-risk that you’ll find an abusive partner because that’s …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:25 PM
19

Women. Such mysterious creatures. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:16 PM
20

🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:42 PM
45

This. Further proof that woman are hated across the board.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:27 AM
16

Although I can sadly admit that I was a bit opportunistic in my past, in my experience, most men I meet were the opportunists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:07 AM
23

Eggplant...🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:57 PM
171

THIS. Unfortunately, thanks to popular culture, I grew up with the mindset that only young and beautiful women were only worthy of love and happily-ever-after. This narrative is so toxic because it discredits the existence of “normal” and “plain” women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:42 PM
139

A walrus...🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 05:42 PM
14

I needed this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 07:10 PM
-1

Odd because feminism means equality for EVERYONE. So many people are misguided; running around based on their own distorted fears. It’s really not that hard to practice this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 01:42 PM
70

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:09 AM
16

Mine too... I’m still learning, still growing, still falling, still rising, still healing... This shit is HARD AF. I feel it’s taking me 10 steps forward and 20 steps back but on repeat. I’ll get there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:13 PM
69

Also, the concepts of self-awareness/introspection shouldn’t be foreign to them. Every human being is capable of change and if he’s contempt to do so then he’ll stay stagnant his entire life. I know this because I was that person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 04:35 PM
17

Good Lord. Were we with the same guy? Did he have kids?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 09:01 PM
2

Aka a commitment-phone; waiting on that greener-grass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 01:04 PM
93

He cheated on his wife for YEARS but sure, focus on the woman who has “BPD” and “anger issues.” I’ll bet my soul he misdiagnosed her based on her reactions to his unstable and abusive behaviors. His lack of self-awareness is pathetic but surprisingly common amongst narcissists, sociopaths, anti-socials, emotional-unavailables, manipulators and generally men who are dead inside. Also, mentally-unstable people cope by projecting onto others so there’s a 99.9% chance that what he did with his “BPD”…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:44 PM
28

He’s a narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:17 PM
2

Look up Alexandre Manning. You’re welcome. 😋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:35 PM
57

Jesus. I can’t imagine what his poor wife goes through on a daily basis. So you showed her his threatening-response and she’s mad at YOU?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 08:14 PM
6

I’m speculating here, did he give off any clues that you were just an object to him? Did you feel used throughout your entire relationship?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:01 PM
21

Who the f**k is raising these guys? Who failed to tell them that REAL people don’t look like porn stars?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 01:27 PM
12

Just a prelude of epic proportions should you two get together. Right off the bat he showed you how manipulative he is. Ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 01:28 PM
277

Or better yet, a dude who future-fakes and pretends to care when all he wants is to f**k you. Thankfully the older I get the better I am at spotting these clowns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:24 PM
1

It’s the only progressive social media that I know of. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 12:28 PM
2

“Women who love too much” is my next one! I too have never listened/read so much as I have now. There is hope, for me. Finally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 06:22 PM
5

I highly advise you to read “Codependent no more” by Melody Beattie. I’m currently listening to the audio book and although I know I’m a codependent, I wasn’t aware of how deep I was into it until this book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:04 PM
59

“The male anglerfish exists solely to sniff out their mates.” LOL. The females do all the hard work while the makes latches on and basically lives off her body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:00 PM
33

This made me chuckle. Now I’m going to look up an anglerfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 01:50 PM
127

I got pregnant at 24 and knew I’d be a single mom right from the start. The father of my daughter was useless then (he didn’t want her) and useless now. He ended up assaulting me twice and the last time was the last day he ever saw her, over 4 years ago. Now let me tell you, I. AM. EXHAUSTED. I’ve learned to adapt on my own but that doesn’t mean I’m not constantly overwhelmed or exhausted. Parenting isn’t for the faint of heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 07:45 PM
18

What I want to know is, why do these famous women feel compelled to follow the crowd? Literally every notable singer and actress has gotten half-naked for the world to see. What is it for exactly? Is it an initiation into the industry; meaning you won’t get anywhere if the entire world hadn’t seen your breasts and ass first? It’s so predictable that my eyes roll when I see yet another fresh singer or actress get naked for everyone to see, as if over 7 billion other humans have the same parts. I’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:48 PM
63

“How to spot an abusive relationship 101” I can’t believe she’s even asking if she’s the asshole. This type of treatment is setting the stage for her poor daughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 04:04 PM
15

You know, you can express an opinion without being a complete asshole to others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 10:30 PM
13

I have a hard time understanding how sending porn to your husband is intimate/romantic? He doesn’t see your nudes the way you want him too; he sees them like every porn flick he watches. They’re all objects. Why not send a letter to get the motor going? Why not a romantic dinner-date? A bubble bath?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:42 PM
59

Gaslighting Stonewalling Deflecting Belittling Patronizing Lying Lying by omission Has to win in arguments Never apologizes Fails to address and work out issues Playing victim Using others as pawns against you Committed to misunderstanding you Committed to twisting your words Hot and cold Failure to address your emotional needs even after they were explained more then once Committed to making sure no one sees him as the “Bad guy,” usually at the cost of another person’s expense These are all con…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 08:21 PM
16

I’ve listened to a few audio books recently where the author used real-life examples but just changed the names. How else are we to learn without hearing the experiences of others?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 09:27 PM
18

“I have a lot of trouble forming emotional bonds without intimacy.” There is a MAJOR flaw in this ^ statement and I’m mighty proud I noticed it to begin with (after listening to an audio book about commitment-resistant men). What this young man fails to realize is that to him, intimacy = sex rather than recognizing that sex CAN BE part of intimacy but that’s not how emotional bonds are built. He’s a commitment-phobic and he’s setting himself up for failure if the only way he can connect with a w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:54 PM
5

Not yet but I’m very aware of all the attachment styles. I have yet to start therapy again. My attachment style is slowly killing me inside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:05 PM
20

That’s a lot for “I’m a porn addicted.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:30 PM
18

This is because objectified women aren’t seen as humans and therefore have no right to have natural, bodily-functions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 04:02 AM
243

This is brilliant. I’m also going to add that once you start to love YOURSELF and live your life for YOURSELF, the HEALTHY people will flock to you, men and women. The sad truth for me is, at 33, I’m starting to realize how much I lived my life to please others because that meant acceptance and validation for me. Now, I’m implementing FDS principals at a steady a pace into my life and I notice a difference in perspective. Don’t get me wrong, I often take 10 steps forward, some triggering event h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:43 PM
24

Also, look up emotional unavailability and commitment-phobes - these categories of men don’t know what they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:06 PM
3

Ask “What kind of porn do you watch?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 05:53 PM
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