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I feel the exact same way. All of the things you listed I've experience over the last year! I don't really worry about whether I'm afraid of being hurt again, I find it very unlikely I'll ever date again just because of how rare HVM are, and tbh I can't be bothered to look for one. My life is perfect as it is now and I am working on making my dreams come true, and I don't need a potential headache to come into my life. I always say he needs to be put in my path by God because I'm not looking for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 07:30 PM
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Yes!! I agree. I loved Wanda vision, it was so raw and makes Wanda so much more complex and interesting. But imo, ScarJo has always been treated as a sexualized 2D character in many movies, especially the marvel ones. Black widow could’ve done more. But im ready to watch it again already 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 08:54 PM
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Yeah, I feel like Marvel doesn't know how to make a truly feminist movie without trying to pander to men, like they don't want to scare off male fans. I really enjoyed the movie, but I agree with u/whiskey_and_oreos with her takes. I would've loved to see more scenes discussing how the hysterectomy and family life affected her, she just seemed too calm and collected. I think it's why so many fans liked Yelena's character, because she was obviously affected by it. One day we're gonna get there, I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 08:24 PM
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I get most of my clothes from Marshalls or TJ Maxx. You have to look, but you can find really nice stuff. Some of my favorite work pants I got at Marshalls. Lately Target has had nice stuff too, although I feel like it's over priced for the quality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:54 PM
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I have men’s sweatpants and it’s amazing how big the pockets are! The butt could be bigger but other than that they’re one of my favorite pants
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:10 PM
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For best results watch videos on how to prep your nails! And of course practice makes perfect 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:38 PM
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I do my own nails, I do press ons, so I don’t worry too much about maintenance. And I always wear gloves when washing dishes or doing major cleaning with chemicals. It’s good for your skin too. I prefer the press ons because if I need to I can remove them easier and garden or bake or whatever I have planned that’s gonna require my hands. And I change up my colors frequently, so press ons and gel polish are good for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:07 PM
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I'm literally wearing blush pink, medium length nails right now lol They're so classy! I almost never wear revealing clothing, I'm very busty and I don't need my cleavage to show to prove it. I also prefer to be comfortable rather than sexy, so I choose clothes that are fashionable and practical. Shoes are usually where I dress it up. I can't speak to how this deters men, but I'm not looking to attract some rando at the bar. That's the last place I want to meet the "man of my dreams", but I figu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:36 PM
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Yes!! We save one woman at a time 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:31 PM
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I am the fat friend and your post is touching. I will never accept my friends seconds, hence why I am not into dating at the moment. Even dudes I met on tinder made me feel like I was never first, whether that’s first choice or first priority. I made the mistake of putting my partner before myself and I will never do that again, I’d rather be single than feel like a 2nd choice. I am going to be my forever 1st choice! I hope you & your friend are doing well, hopefully she won’t accept anymore slo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 09:44 PM
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It’s most likely projection. One guy I dated behaved like Roger and he never listened to what I said and would twist my words in his head to make it what he wanted to hear. Then he got drunk and started to be an ass and he got blocked. Idk what he thought he was doing lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:57 PM
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Great post! So much of this was so funny to me. It's like men never think to ask a woman what she wants. They only can think that we must be desperate and their ego makes them think they are the catch. Most of these men I would find exhausting. Good luck with your dating, hopefully a HVM will appear for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:23 PM
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They all are just so “bored” with PIV that they want to try it, and they don’t even know if they like it, they just want to try it. They don’t care if it hurts us, they just want to stick their dick where they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 06:47 PM
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Same! This is my tactic, and it works. Lets get your prostate goin, since your so into anal!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:32 PM
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Lol for real! Talk about divine intervention
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:27 PM
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This is my mindset now. He’d have to be sent from God to get my attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 08:50 PM
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OMG preach! I started dating at 21, and I used to wish I had started earlier, only because I enjoy sex. However, after being emotionally ruined by men over the course of 4 years, I feel like I’ve had enough, and am grateful I waited, because I couldn’t have done schoolwork and dealt with this crap. Now, after 4 years of emotional turmoil, I am actively single and feel like myself again! This is a great post for young ladies who feel like they’re “missing out” because you’re not missing much. Enj…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:32 PM
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I read a reply to the post that said “who even goes on dinner dates anymore, it’s not 1991” I laughed at the delusion. But yes, meeting for drink dates is still risky, because u don’t want to be intoxicated with a stranger, so I don’t do that anymore. That’s why dinner is preferred.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:27 PM
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I went and read that thread, the claimed "some dating sub" aka FDS encourages women to be taken to fancy restaurants to be "treated like a queen." I have never seen FDS say "fancy restaurants" just dinner dates. That can be anywhere! I also read a post on that sub where a man asked if it was ok to accept splitting the bill. He said he always pays but his dates end up costing $100+. DUDE where are you going that it's so expensive? A nice dinner for 2 people at a restaurant should be $50, which a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:44 PM
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My LVX did what yours did, he gave up trying to give me an orgasm, even verbally compared me to his ex who, according to him, would climb on top and cum in 5min. Well, good for her, but I'm not her. He gave me an orgasm like 3-4 times and that was with major effort on my end. I'm so happy you've found a great partner, it gives me hope! Wishing you the best ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:40 PM
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If it's working for you that's great! I never had physical side effects, but I think taking BC pills made me more sensitive emotionally. I cried a lot easier, felt more depressed, but I was also dating a LVM who made me unhappy. If/when I start dating again I will go back on without hesitation, because the benefits outweighed any negatives. I'm very happy I had no bad physical symptoms, and I think if I have a good partner, I probably wouldn't feel depressed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:32 PM
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I hear stories like this one all the time, and it makes me grateful for my doctors, because for about 1-2 months when I was on the pill, I had light bleeding and it wouldn't stop. So I went to my OBGYN and she was very understanding and switched me to another brand of pill, and it went away! I am currently off BC, and I feel so different than I did when I was on it. I cry a lot less, I feel less depressed. I never felt depressed until after I started taking BC, but I also started dating a LVM at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:28 PM
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I went out with a guy once who showed me this mermaid tattoo he had with a body type like mine, trying to say he liked my body. It was really weird, because if you think I'm attractive just say "I find you very attractive" not show me your mermaid tattoo! I felt fetishized more than flattered. Not being into him contributed to that feeling I sure, but still, god damn. Just say you think I'm pretty and leave it at that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:14 PM
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Ooh imma watch it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 01:27 AM
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Exactly, that’s why that girl was delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 09:13 PM
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Ding ding ding! We have a winner!! Got 1, 2, and 3 all from the same guy. The day he said he didn’t really like giving head is the day i quit giving him any. We broke up like a month later. Guess he didn’t like the tables turned very much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:53 PM
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Ew, that’s gross and sad. She needs to get a grip. Like, this is not good, it’s not a compliment. And I highly doubt she gets off too, but that’s not important to pickmeishas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:13 PM
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Oh yeah, the men were so happy a girl liked this. Although as many have pointed out, a man likely wrote it anyway lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:08 PM
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Yup, I’ve experienced this. He said he drank too much. He had 2-3 beers, was not dunk in the slightest. And when I expressed I was pissed, he got real mad and told me to leave. And I did not hesitate! Buh bye!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:06 PM
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You’re so right. Then u gtfo and block that loser. It’s amazing how men love sex and covet it but are so bad at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:03 PM
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What??? That was a post? Lmfaooooo please. These scrotes are so desperate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:02 PM
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“Strong yet vulnerable” is what got me lmao what does that even mean? Is he captain America or something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:04 AM
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Thank you. I will keep your words in my mind! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 09:32 PM
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I love your comment, mostly because since my last relationship, the idea of being intimate with someone, even just kissing or holding hands, it gives me anxiety. Whenever I do date again, I'm going to hold my boundary like you did. It's reassuring to know it worked for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 07:01 PM
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It was just a joke. If/when I ever date again it will be a very serious event. Rn I can’t even imagine going on a date. But if some one paid me to do this I would lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:50 PM
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I want to go on fake dates just to do this!! Haha I'm evil. Get a free dinner too, just like their worst nightmares!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:38 PM
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Exactly. Makes total sense to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:03 PM
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Exactly. If you’re on there wrongly look in to getting it appealed legally. Hire a lawyer damnit. Or just don’t do shit that might get u on the list. How come majority of people can get through life without gettin on it??? Lol it’s not fucking rocket science. Don’t be a predator, a creep, or an asshole. That seems to be the key
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 12:29 PM
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I was gonna mention the peeing thing. Somehow its always men who can find a damned toilet and also majority of people on the registry happen to be men... I wonder what the correlation is???? Makes me glad I’m female
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 09:42 PM
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I once read an appalling thread on reddit about abolishing the sex offender registry, and I was like "huh??? women and children, hell everyone need to know this!!" Apparently many people feel like the list is full of people who are on it wrongly ??????? Obviously these people have never feared for their personal safety or safety of their children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 08:06 PM
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And this is what the LVM don’t understand, if we want sex, we can get sex in one day. U just literally have to stand there, so none of this is about sex. It’s about effort & commitment. I don’t have time to be taking care of some man baby! I have high standards so anyone I meet doesn’t drag down my lifestyle. Been there done that, no more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 09:29 PM
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I can relate to the way you feel, like you're an outsider. And for so long looking at other relationship subs I felt less-than, like I wasn't like everyone else. But then I found FDS, I don't remember how, but it helped me acknowledge the bad thins about my last relationship, and the one before that too! I used to like the idea of dating at least a few weeks before sex, but that was not the norm when I started dating so I didn't listen to my gut (I should have!!) And when I saw FDS's mantra's an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:09 PM
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Goals!! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:02 AM
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Thank you so much. That does help! I like the mentality that better myself will attract better people. My aunt always says things like that, like the laws of attraction. So I’ll keep on my path ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:15 PM
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I feel some of these, but mainly I feel a lack of trust and even a fear of intimacy. I have no idea if I'll ever be able to open up again to someone. The idea of another relationship frightens me, and I have no clue how to heal that fear. Like how can you give someone a chance when all you can do is assume everything they say is a lie? Idk, maybe some of you share my struggle. Right now I'm just keeping to myself and focusing on making myself whole again. But I hope one day I can heal this fear.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 05:36 PM
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I think it’s because women, men too but mostly women, are learning u have nothing to lose by rebuking porn and men who refuse to see the negative consequences of consuming it. Viva la revolución! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:17 PM
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I couldn’t tell if it was me, but I agree I feel we’re on the verge of change in dating/men-women dynamics. And a good change too. In my opinion there’s more posts on big subs about what women experience and are even criticizing porn and modern dating, and these posts get popular!! Idk, maybe it’s just me, if anyone else agrees/disagrees let me know. I hope it’s true tho, I’m ready for positive change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:45 PM
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I agree with you all the way. I think HVM are rare and we don't meet many, if any, in our lifetime. I think it's a fantasy, but sometimes maybe the fantasy is better than reality. We need to be our own sources of love, respect, and happiness. I think we will find life more fulfilling that way. And it's hard, but I'm ready to be truly independent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:44 PM
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OMG I was just thinking that same thought, that dating is russian roulette. Except for women it's like opposite, there's a bullet in each chamber but one (the HVM) and odds are you're gonna get shot. Makes you seriously consider taking the risk of dating. And it's a shame, it shouldn't be this way. Like why do I know so many amazing women but no guys who are HVM? Even my friends in relationships, their guys are nice but I wouldn't say HVM. Personally, unless a HVM drops from heaven in front of m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:36 PM
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God I know! I commented on that post, as I have a similar experience where a hookup tried to choke me. And he thought it was fun, I could see the smile on his face. In hindsight I think "wtf was I even doing????????" but I'm never going to put myself in that position again. It made me think of all the women who just meet to hook up but end up getting assaulted or worse. It breaks my heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 08:27 PM
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My mom has said this to me before, and after dealing with this bs 2 dudes in a row, I believe it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:01 AM
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Agreed. Just like women don’t mean anything till it’s a daughter or wife. F that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 09:24 PM
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In one of my marketing classes, I found out tv shoes or movies are not considered popular unless white males watch it. If PoC or women like it, it’s not popular. A perfect example is GoT (which I did watch) but was totally written for men, by men. White men specifically. So, yeah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 09:23 PM
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Yeah. To me it’s not used frequently because it makes male viewers uncomfortable. However female rape is super common (both in tv and irl 🙄) which is sooooo interesting. I wonder why???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 09:07 PM
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When she starts listing her achievements and the strides she's made becuase he would not fulfill her needs I felt her pain. She did so much for this fool. I empathize with her so much. She says "I know he loves me", girl he didn't love you, not the way she loved him. If he wanted to he would. Good to see she gave herself some respect and left him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:07 PM
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Were you watching Outlander? Because that happens to the main guy Jamie. My parents were watching and my mom told me about the scene. Truly horrible what they did to him. However, rape and torture is very common in porn and hentai, and it's outrageous your "friend" is bothered by the male actor but not the women in porn who actually have to feel the pain and suffering. And many porn actresses have said they only do those jobs because they pay more, not because they actually like it. It's sick, a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 04:53 PM
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I hope all of us on this sub will get to experience this feeling one day. Congratulation! Happy Valentines day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:21 PM
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I agree with both of you, that not all men who play games are LVM and men who identify as gamers usually are LVM. I play lots of games myself, and I feel like a main reason is because I feel emotionally drained, between politics, the pandemic, and my personal life. But I still wash my clothes, water my plants, cook, vacuum. If I can do it so can they! Which is why any man who is a "gamer" is a red flag to me, because most men don't even take care of themselves without the gaming, so I definitely…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:58 PM
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I think that for me personally size does matter. In my experience the men I've been with have never had a big enough dick. I've also never met someone who was good with their mouths/hands. I hope one day. That being said I've never dissed a man for his size. It is disappointing tho. I also think most women accept their partners the way they are, and are satisfied with sex because they love their partner and sex with the person you love is always more fun. Maybe lots of women give up on PIV orgas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:25 PM
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Yeah I think that point is tricky. If he says he doesn't think sex workers should be prosecuted but thinks there shouldn't be a need for them in society, that's one thing. But let's be real, most men would be like, "f*** yeah we want prostitutes" while also binging porn and signed up for OnlyFans. For most men it has nothing to do with human rights. Idk who made that video, but most people seem to think sex work is like being an high class escort or doing OF, or like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:56 PM
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I am so sorry you were assaulted. I hope you're healing and find peace and happiness. Your story is exactly the issue with porn and the normalization of extreme kinks, and although a rapist is going to rape because they're evil, it seems like "normal" men are experimenting in all these violent kinks too. And its putting women in danger. I was hooking up with a guy before FDS, and he immediately went in to choke me. It was pretty scary, this stranger trying to choke me, I thought he was going to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:37 PM
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My sister was telling me about an article she said claiming they were worried this was happening in the US. F*** yeah it's happening in the US! We're getting tired of the bs men do. In an era when more college graduates and attendees are women, who are working and making better lives for themselves, why would they risk it by being with a LVM to have a baby? Especially when our society doesn't take care of mothers. I say f'em. I don't want our species to continue if they still want to treat other…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:23 PM
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Don't do that to yourself. You had needs that obviously weren't being met, and he felt it was easier to check out of your relationship than help put it back together. One of my ex's did not meet my needs, and it left me feeling clingy and I'd cry everyday. Now I know that he wasn't even trying to meet my needs, and it's why I felt so terrible. Maybe you didn't leave him alone, but you were trying to save a relationship with some you cared for, who couldn't do you the courtesy of listening to you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 02:57 PM
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LMAO perfection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:30 PM
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Thanks for the concern. It’s always good to have a girls back. I don’t do it if I’m not comfortable with the potential outcome. But yes, there’s risk involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 04:30 AM
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Wow. I don’t know any one with an OF. That’s sad to see it’s eroding their sense of self. I honestly don’t know what possesses someone to make one. I get so nervous sending nudes to a partner. I could never send it to the internet!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 03:23 AM
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At this point I'm not sure if its more of a red flag that they don't use social media or that they do...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:36 PM
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Ohh I see. I live in FL, not too much quality here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 05:16 PM
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Where do they go? Lol just curious...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 05:06 PM
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That's a lovely story. I feel like that's how it happens, you finally accept being single and BAM! Here comes someone unexpected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 05:05 PM
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Yeah, that's a huge aspect of personal growth is doing things that make you uncomfortable. And it applies to more than just finding a HVM. It also applies to making friends, or building a career. I think luck plays a part in it, like in all things, but also making an effort to do these thing help. Like I know when it's safe to go out again, I might have to try new things alone, which is honestly terrifying, but if I want to meet new people its what I got to do. It's a part of leveling up imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 05:03 PM
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Girl I feel ya. I think that how I rationalize it to myself is that even though there's something special about that physical touch or emotional connection with a romantic partner, I will never betray myself, I will never make myself cry, I will always do the things that make me happy, and it makes being single so much more appealing. I still hope to meet someone cus I too feel like I'm a hopeless romantic, but also my fantasies of the dream guy will always be better than the reality lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 04:57 PM
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I brought my own towel to my LVX's place to use when I came to visit. I told him not to use it. What did he do? Used it, left it all nasty, and I had to use his shitty towel. Bitch, no. Shoulda drove my ass home then and there. We live and we learn, and if you have to bring your own towel that's a sign lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 10:12 PM
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Yeah, you never know what they're thinkin. Actually, last time I hooked up with a guy I mentioned I wasn't crazy about my boobs, but he said they were great, and most of my girl friends speak of them with awe lol so I love my girls, no matter what pornos try to tell me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 09:24 PM
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I am large breasted as well, and porn made me so self conscious about my breasts cus although they're large they're not perky like the fake ones, so it makes you feel like you look like an old lady. Still bothers me when I look in the mirror, but not because some guy said it, but because I've seen it. This is why porn is so damaging, it creates unrealistic stands on top of making men sick pigs. I fear until it's painfully obvious what damage the porn industry is doing to society (which is alread…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 06:58 PM
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🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 05:20 PM
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Those are the key words “drama free”! I don’t like being stressed nor bothered, and when I was man free I had no cares in the world, just your average worries. But boy, this guy is the definition of drama. I’m done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:51 AM
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It’s naive to think it will be different for us, especially when we seen patterns before. And a lot of women have similar stories! It’s why it’s important to listen to to their advice and see their mistakes and learn from them. I’m a little late but then again, it’s never to late.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 11:37 PM
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Yeah. The future I want and FDS gave me the strength to block him the 1st time. I just wish I didn’t cave and let him back in my life. But yes, I want my future husband to love me like I’m a goddess. Cus from now on I’ll only give as good as I get. No more breaking my back for these dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 11:20 PM
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Yes! My ex always paid for all he did, I'm sure he believed it was the right thing to do. I'm sure he also believed calling me his GF was the right thing to do. However none of that changed the fact he didn't actually love me or really care about me he was just "doing the right thing" so he could justify using me. HVM behavior is so much more than paying for dates; it's remembering the details about who you are, involving you in his life, actively being part of your life, and having the ability …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 07:59 PM
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That's a good first impression! Hopefully he keeps it up and you guys have a successful relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 04:18 PM
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Exactly. You always hear that the couples you see the least on social media are probably the happier ones. I think it's just that the poster of the pictures wants reassurance that the relationship is worth it. As if all the like you get on a picture will actually make the relationship work 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 04:00 PM
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HAHA saaaaame! Too bad we'll never get our ROI. 😤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:29 PM
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That’s just crazy to me. It’s like telling yourself you’re waiting for this amazing guy who gives you everything you want... when he won’t even f*ing marry you. The delusion and lack of self respect from these women astound me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 06:11 AM
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Excuse me?!?! The delusion is real. Poor woman has such a shitty son.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:50 PM
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Yeah that absolutely makes more sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 07:50 PM
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Jesus, I'm so sorry. Why do they even bother to pretend they're dating us?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 06:50 PM
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Yeah, it sucks. My ex LVM forgot when my birthday was when I told him THE DAY BEFORE that tomorrow was my birthday. The dudes suck man. His excuse was "I can't even remember my own mom's birthday" as if that's supposed to be reassuring. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 06:46 PM
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My ex is blocked yet still has the audacity to zelle request me and say "I really need to talk to a friend" Really? What friend?!?!?! Not here, no ma'am.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:37 PM
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Thanks 😊 I’m working on self love everyday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:12 AM
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I was just wondering to myself if it was even worth it to try and keep looking for love, if it was meant for me. Your post gives me some hope, that maybe one day I’ll be strong enough to try dating again and eventually I’ll find my HVM. Thanks op, and congratulations on your engagement!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 01:39 AM
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Girl same Only met one ex’s mom cus I tagged him in my Facebook pic, and she was like “who’s that?”, and I did that intentionally, so he’d finally tell her about me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 05:58 PM
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There’s so much to watch out for man. 😪 Good luck out there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 05:33 PM
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And not introducing you to any friends or family is also a red flag. That seems to be a more common occurrence. You're not really a person of value in his life if the people he spends time with / talks to don't know you exist. But the alienation of your friends is a far worse thing, so this is some good advice OP. I've never experienced that, nor do I think I will. I always put my friends and family first, because men are just temporary to me until proven otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 04:58 PM
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I love this. This is the battle I’ve been having with myself for 6 months 🤣 glad to say he is permanently blocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 05:50 AM
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This is literally my life lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 05:19 AM
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Yes. And that’s why we have to enforce the blocking mentality because when our boundaries are crossed yet we let it slide, that person will begin to push the boundaries, as they saw it was ok. I think most of us have had that experience, where someone pushes our boundaries, we forgive them, and they repeat the behavior. I was just trapped in a cycle like that with my ex. But he’s officially permanently blocked, because the pattern never changed. Hate to say it took so long, but it reinforced the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 09:27 PM
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Should be top comment!! This is why standards matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:54 PM
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Yes, but to me it would be a personal failure. That I chose poorly. In my family barely anyone has gotten divorced, all my aunts and uncles and grandparents have been married to one another my whole life. I see people making it work. I want that for myself. Divorce would just break my heart, I’d lose all my faith. It’s why I said I think 1 year is too soon to propose. You gotta get to know a person. But to me, longer than 3 years without a proposal is forever gf territory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:51 PM
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This reminds me of how my ex told me he though I was a party girl when we first met. I guess he was trying to say I was pretty??? He never once actually said "You look pretty" in the year we dated. Maybe he felt I was out of his league (I felt like I was 😂) and he didn't want to compliment me so I wouldn't get "a big head"... lol food for thought. And I'm most definitely not a party girl! I think I look like a normal girl, what ever party girls look like 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:17 PM
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I have always interpreted this as having active discussions about marriage. I think 1 year is far too soon to be engaged, but it's a perfect time to have a real conversation with your partner about marriage, your expectations, and to evaluate if you see yourself with this person for life. My plan is to date, having it be known I want marriage, then at 1 year, restate the intention for marriage. I'd date another year and if by year 2 there is no proposal or he shows no interest in marriage, its d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:14 PM
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Yeah you’re super lucky! Lol that’s nice to hear tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 04:54 AM
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I play Gardenscapes and I’m like level 990 or something, the ad is totally fake. But it puzzles me cus the game is for kids and you just renovate the garden 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 04:51 AM
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Lol that’s a fake ad, the actual game Gardenscapes is for children. I play it. You just earn these stars to renovate your garden. That being said, idk what the heck is up with these ads! Like, it’s a children’s game... no marriages or sex, just you (a male butler) and your dog
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 04:50 AM
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Oh god the PlayStation thing, ugh, I hate seeing these stupid Memes about buying your man one. Uh, no, he can buy his own $500 toy, unless he drops $500 on a Sephora shopping spree for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 04:39 AM
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I agree, that millennial women have this problem with the decades long relationships, but I think at the very least 1/2 of the problem comes from guys as well. We were raised to believe in working for our livelihood and wanting marriage and families, but men have always shied away from these things. Now, since it’s socially acceptable to live with a woman and have children with her without being married, they make less of an effort. I feel like 20-30 years ago people would’ve told you u were cra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 04:34 AM
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For real! Lol It all really comes down to controlling the environment of the date. When I was younger I never would have thought of this, and my ex did take me to a place I probably couldn't have afforded (I was in college), but he did say he was buying. Now I'm older and wiser, and I have a job, I like to pick the place. More control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 07:49 PM
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Agreed. If we all told every guy how creepy he was we’d be out of breath, it would be endless. And besides, they don’t even listen ! It always satisfying when they fuck up before they even meet u, less time lost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 02:17 PM
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It makes no damn sense lol I don’t think I’ll ever understand men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 06:16 PM
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I wonder how many girls it would take telling this guy he’s gross, cheap, creep before he actually changed his behavior. Seems like that applies to most men actually. Like they don’t wonder why they’re not getting laid? Stupid. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 06:14 PM
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This is why we need to teach young girls self confidence and independence. If he buys you meals, it's a courtesy, but you should always be able to pay for yourself, so it's no big deal that he can. This girl needs a dose of reality man. Like the author in the article said " There is a simple truth, which is that if someone really wants to be with you, they will be. No distance, or person, or circumstances will stop them. "
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 05:00 PM
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Exactly! Like they think we want to be irritated and stressed all the time. Stupid ass men. Being alone seems peaceful and gives you time to spend with people who actually love you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 01:58 PM
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It’s never too late to make changes. I hope you find happiness, whether in your relationship or out. We all deserve to be happy 🤗 I keep reminding myself how unhappy my LVM would make me. I enjoy the peace more than I miss him. Good luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 04:43 AM
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Truth. I’ve always slept better alone! My dog is 6lbs too, the other is 26.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 01:18 AM
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Yes, I miss snuggling more than sex. A dog will help, because they love you in return, and they love it just as much as you do! My dogs just like to sit next to me tho. Sometimes they like lots of kisses, and it's the best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 08:24 PM
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| Also, do men listen when we're feeling down? Would he listen to the laments of a girl going through mental issues talking to him on tinder? No? I thought so. Exactly. My ex NVM had the nerve to ask me for a significant amount of money on the day of my grandfather's funeral. This is obviously when I blocked him. And he had to wonder why smdh. I'm only sorry I didn't block him sooner. If only I could go back in time. I was his free therapist too. Never again!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 05:55 PM
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Well they wouldn't want to listen to us anyway. But we're expected to listen to them complain all day long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 05:51 PM
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Well, I have just read numerous articles as you suggested doing research. And I agree, that full legalization will not save the women in prostitution or help lower trafficking. I’ve always thought decriminalization would take out the pimp, but it doesn’t. I don’t know what system would replace what we have now, but in one article I read by the New York Post, they mention another idea. “The competing ideology to full decriminalization is the “Nordic” or “Equality” model, which decriminalizes peop…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 11:05 PM
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The comment was saying she was confused, and how not taking the extra time that you’ve offered him with his kids = not loving them as much as he should. But you’ve just proved he’s not being the father your kids deserve. I’m sorry he’s not stepping up for you and your kids. I wish you all happiness! And I hope they find peace
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:39 PM
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HAHAHA stop lol I can’t even rn. You right tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:15 PM
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HAHAHAHA omg yeah. I thought she was a good gf? She’s Reddit’s dream girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:13 PM
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Good point. I don’t even know what u do with karma
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:13 PM
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Sometimes it’s ok. I’ve been seeing a lot of sexist stuff on the subs I follow, like for LoTR or the Witcher. I get it, there are lots of male fans, but I don’t wanna see sexual/sexist stuff about characters. Nothing can ever be for both genders on Reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:20 PM
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Exactly. Doing something helpful or difficult warrants a snack. Unless his legs are broke, I’m not getting a gamer a snack. Well, I wouldn’t even be his gf lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:19 PM
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Aw that’s great. Sounds like a good partnership.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:17 PM
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I mean, assuming it’s standard custody agreement, and he sees them on the weekends, that’s only 8 days compared to her 22. So, uh, yeah probably not equal time spent. Also, who doesn’t want to spend more time with their kids? Especially when their child wants to see them. It reeks of selfishness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:23 PM
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Lol yes. And my mom said u gotta ask for shopping money lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:20 PM
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Yes. I don’t remember the last time a guy did something nice for me at random. Only my father, he’s a good man. And my mother never brings him no damn snacks when he plays video games. In fact, he brings HER her lattes when he plays his game in the morning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:06 PM
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I hope she gains confidence and a social group outside her bf. She says she has no one else, no family no friends. Nuh uh. She needs a group, or a hobby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:47 PM
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I can’t imagine such a guy. Eventually they’ll use it against you for something they want. Like sex or whatever 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:46 PM
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Yup. I said the same thing, he probably never returns her kindness. She’s wasting her energy. She’ll realize one day. When she’s washing his shit streaked undies probably
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:44 PM
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EXACTLY. This rubbed me so wrong. Like, have some self respect. I doubt he ever returns her kindness too. Someone made a comment about loving your family and friends, not just a guy, and the OP said “I have no one else”. GIRL! Find someone else, it’s not healthy to have 1 person you’re close to. No one to help you see when you’re being taken advantage of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:42 PM
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Yeah I don't understand either. If you dislike this woman so much, why are you with her? Maybe it's cus they no one else would want them. I know I don't want some divorcee. No ma'am.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:58 PM
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LOL he didn't even realized he got dumped. You ditched a narcissist and an idiot. Good for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:56 PM
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Wow. That’s an impressive mindset to have. I personally don’t want children, and it makes me wonder why I am chasing marriage. But I want to experience real romantic love. I hope FDS gives me the guidance to help find that. I think that you’re right tho. Always being independent and knowing your worth will save you from being stuck in a bad relationship/marriage. Good luck to you and your family ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:01 AM
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Oh no! Maybe start working on one of them at a time? I am 100% the last one, the Scarcity Mindset PickMe, so I'm going to start journaling and focus on the good things in my life right now, and hopefully this will help my future self. Change comes in small things, even acknowledging our "flaws" helps us change for the better. Good luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:52 PM
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I belive I am 100% the last one, the Scarcity Mindset PickMe. I just read an article , linked below, to help understand how to change. The author suggests focusing on gratitude, being greatful for what you already have. Although she writes about careers mostly, I think this could be applied to dating by making you aware of what you already have, so that you protect and maintain your happiness, or improve it. We don't want a man who will detract from our happiness, but someone who will match me a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:49 PM
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THIS! I just commented my story and that's exactly what I said. Our LD relationship had become too much work and I was no longer convenient to date. What a piece of trash!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:22 PM
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Yes. My ex bf decided to end the relationship because he didn't want to put in the work to maintain it. We had become long distance, but within the same state. Weekend visits would not be an issue, if he gave it any effort. Only after we broke up did I realize I stayed because I loved him, but he stayed because I was convenient. I've never felt more used in my life!! He did a number on my self esteem and my emotional health. 2 years later and I'm mostly back to my old self. The next guy is gonna…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:20 PM
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Wow. What a clown. Thinks that he's better than playing against someone who's played since she was a toddler. Hope he was blocked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:56 PM
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Yeah. She should only pay rent/mortgage if her name is on the mortgage as well. You have no security contributing to your BFs mortgage if you aren't on the title. I have one friend who is 26 (soon 27) and she's been with the same guy for 5 years. They own a home together, but where is the ring? Where is any plan of marriage? She's being played IMO, gonna be the forever GF. I have another friend who pays rent at her BFs house, which he owns. I didn't really like the idea at first, but she has a s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 03:43 PM
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" If a relationship is just a continuous series of roadblocks, you gotta let it go and find another way. " This! 100% accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:37 PM
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Thank you for this reminder. I've been feeling lonely and down lately, but I needed to be reminded that it was a decision for the best!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:36 PM
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I was feeling lonely too. But then I looked at my rose bush and felt better. Amazing what flowers can do 🌹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 03:10 PM
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That’s a good idea! Never thought of that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 09:39 PM
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Oh my b, I’m 25 so it still applies lol 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:04 PM
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Oh man, I’m sorry. I thankfully have enough smart women who are watching out for me IRL who made sure to give me good advice, and that’s been one of the reasons I caught it early. My aunt went through men who used her and ruined her credit and they taught her valuable lessons, which she has passed on to me. I hope you pass on your lessons to young women like me, we need guidance! 😆 But I hope you and your daughter have a happy fulfilling life! You sound like a wonder person, and you deserve happ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:30 PM
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My guy wasn't an addict, but your experience resonates with me deeply. I did all I could to help him, including making sure he didn't go homeless when we went into quarantine in my area. I've given so much to him to help him make it... I feel stupid, but also like I was trying to be a good person and help someone I loved. But nothing has really improved, it's the same shit over and over with him. Sad to say it took so long for me to leave, but yes, once you stop enabling their behavior they "try…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:06 PM
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I recently left a relationship that was draining on my emotional/mental health. Last 2 weeks, I've felt so peaceful and happy. Posts like this reinforce my decision. I wish she'd find the strength to leave. Like someone else said, your soulmate won't make you cry or feel like shit. Love shouldn't be hard or make you suffer. Girl needs FDS asap!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:02 PM
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