You ever noticed how when women say they want their pussy eaten or want head, men always tend to reply with “well if you want head you need to be willing to give head too”. This frustrates me for many many reasons.

First of all, men expect blowjobs regardless of whether they’re gonna reciprocate - why? They have been taught by porn and society that blowjobs are something that they’re supposed to receive, that’s for them and something that women are supposed to do without reciprocation. Think about it. For centuries and decades, blowjobs were seen as this stand alone thing that women did for men, whether it’s the secretary in the office or going on a first date and getting blown. Even today, the culture is the same, with “surprising my bf with head after his long day at work” or “surprise” their bfs with bjs while he games or watches tv or does anything.

Why don’t we see “surprising my gf with head after her long day of work” or men “surprising” their gf with head while they’re watching tv doing stuff etc ???

This what they have been taught to expect and no one batted an eye. No one once said “hey, wait, what’s in it for women? How do they get their pleasure, do you reciprocate?” Nope. No one even thought of it. Because it was just accepted as the standard in sex and “how it should be” which is women still make up majority of those giving rather than receiving. Why women always end up giving more than they receive because they will give all these bjs and yet their partner will only eat their pussy out every other time when we all know for a woman head is basically a necessity required for us to cum whereas bjs are just an “extra” since they’re gonna cum no matter what you do and yet bjs are treated like the “necessity” and eating pussy is “extra”???

So in conclusion, women should absolutely be able to expect and want head without expecting or wanting to reciprocate head back. Why shouldn’t we?? We should and need to be just as demanding and exacting as men are with their sexual needs, because if we treated men sexually they way they treated us I guarantee you they’d be rioting in the streets. I’m sick of women feeling guilty for denying their partners sexual stuff as if they owe their partner sex or their body, its just emphasising the narrative that “sex is for men” and that sex is about “what they want and not for us”.

The amount of posts I see on Reddit about women feeling guilty for having sexual boundaries is terrifying- what do you have to be guilty for? You’d only feel guilty if you feel like sex is something you owe them that belongs to them that you’re denying. I know that it’s not necessarily their fault seeing as women are groomed since forever to serve men but there’s always the option to unlearn it. Although after discussing with people on their posts I’ve realized that a lot of people especially women do not realise there’s an imbalance or they’ve never looked at it that way when it’s very glaringly obvious.

Anyways girly pops: DEMAND YOUR SEXUAL NEEDS BE MET WITHOUT GUILT. Sex is FOR YOU. Not just for men. 💓