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| 11 | Boyfriend becoming less generous after several months?I get it. Honestly, I would bring it up in a non threatening, non judgmental way. Not like "hey I'd like you to pay for the dates" but more in a "I'm sharing how I feel". I had such a conversation with my partner. You can even make it sound like it's a love language (which is somehow)....like "It's important for me to have a partner who is willing to pay for dates, it makes me feel appreciated and, although it sounds old fashion, it feels like my partner has my back". I even went as far as sayin… | /r/askFDS | 17/04/22 05:13 PM |
| 3 | I want your honest opinion (even if I know it already)If he sounds good for most part and you think that the root issue is emotional intimacy, then maybe make your decision on that? Yes the root issue is emotional intimacy. I'm just starting to think it's the best I can do given men in general...I had a string of narc and even a psycho as an ex and even if. I'm starting to think that most men are narcs or at least LVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 11:47 AM |
| 3 | I want your honest opinion (even if I know it already)How you communicate will obviously affect your dynamic and it seems like these are past communication behaviors you probably used with your mom.. I love this place cause you ladies are soooo smart! I have an overbearing mother...she's been amazing but (see i do it here as well haha) I feel she's suffocating me with love. So I moved in abroad to escape my mom but then I'm mad at my partner for not being as intuitive and loving as my mom. With my mother we rarely explain things, it works organical… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 11:40 AM |
| 1 | I want your honest opinion (even if I know it already)Ask yourself what has changed and try to think of why, but don't let it get to you. It could very well be he's become a bit too comfortable in your relationship. The sex thing is not exactly a good sign, so you should try and find out what's up in a light-hearted way. If the answer has anything to do with you: RUN. Hehe, I got what I asked for....sigh. Yes I think he is a little too comfortable in the relationship and yet he tells me he doesn't feel completely safe because he has the impression … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 11:33 AM |
| 4 | I want your honest opinion (even if I know it already)Actually he was transparent!! He told me how he used to struggle with communication in his twenties and his ex girlfriends would ask him to share more...so he would send a very, factual detailed summary of his day, LOL. It still makes me laugh. He was aware they wanted more emotional connection and all he could give them was more facts. But he also seemed to have changed a lot...because the guy I was talking to was affectionate, a good listener and seemed self aware. I'm afraid he was able to be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 11:23 AM |
| 6 | I want your honest opinion (even if I know it already)you're amazing, you got it and you got me ;) Yes, low EQ, pb with empathy (he's aware and told me about it...as I said I'm convinced he's aspy), not malicious at all...in fact his favorite sentence is "I'll work on it"..and he does but it's exactly what you said!! It's feeding "a line of code" to a robot. In fact a friend said "dontstopmenow you can't complain that he's a bit robotic and try to reprogram him at the same time". I felt it so deeply. Also I'm fearful avoidant...I hate that part of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 11:13 AM |
| 9 | I want your honest opinion (even if I know it already)I'm not exactly sure to advise you a break-up, but you're already at the phase of: "oh my god he's X or Y, facepalm!" and that doesn't sound like a good thing. That's a good point! No he doesn't look down on me....but he happens to laugh when I'm being my clumsy self. I would say he's good at cultivating kindness but he fails in the intuition department. I wanted a practical dude who is good with logistics thinking I could inject the emotional side....silly idea. He's more organized than me, he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 09:32 AM |
| 11 | I want your honest opinion (even if I know it already)I've been around here, read the rules, the handbook ...I know my post is borderline that's why I said "I don't know if my post is FDS compliant". As for the advice they were in the chat. My point is that deciding to move with someone after four month is not the best idea in the absolute, but for me it was the best choice. I wanted to give some context. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 09:17 AM |
| 22 | Always listen to your gut & let’s count the red flagsA presumably straight man with a "gay voice" is an instant red flag for me. Due to harsh experiences, I learned that the most violent or otherwise really bent men often overcompensate for concealed aggression, sexual compulsion and rage with a sort of mealy-mouthed wimpy act that can read as "gay." An actually gay man with that voice can be a good egg but hetero men with that voice, not so much. In retrospect my psycho would take an effeminate voice!! I always found it unsettling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 12:08 PM |
| 47 | Always listen to your gut & let’s count the red flagsWithin the first 5 lines when OP wrote "acted somewhat nervous/shy/afraid he was "boring" me" Totally!!! Plus the "uuuh I don't know how to do it, I would come with you but I want to be a respectful person" Lol!! He is telling on himself, he knows exactly what he wants and pretends not to know in hope OP will find it endearing and non-threatening. Just like when he told the housemate he harassed "I'm not going to rape you". GROSS and scary. Glad OP that you listened to your gut. Something was of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 12:05 PM |
| 16 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsImagine them demanding sex after a walk date sis. Just imagine. LMAO, welcome to 2021 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 09:25 AM |
| 3 | British/ European woman in their twenties, how do you navigate dating while sticking to FDS principles?Parisian woman here! It's a mixed bag from my experience...some will pay others will do 50/50...I think OLD is spoiling dating. I don't have any dude from OLD who suggested dinner but one dude who took me for drinks, dinner and paid all the time...it turns out he was a psycho love bombing me. Now I'm the exception from my girlfriends...they are all doing the 50/50 and pursuing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 02:25 PM |
| 2 | I will not be a detectiveThanks! Love right back at you :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 07:09 AM |
| 3 | When I talk about FDS concepts with other women, I don't even acknowledge that what I am saying is controversial at all. I just act like it's normal.success story!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Check-InLMAO!!! What a clown! I had a guy yesterday who said "would you like to JOIN my whatsapp?" He's not a native speaker but that sounds too much like "would like to join my harem on whatsapp?". So I asked him "I don't know, how many are we?" He replied "oooh no I almost never give my whatsapp number...but you seem so special"...some guys really think we're gullible. Needless to say I had a good laughter and unmatched | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 04:10 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Check-InI have a hierarchy of red flags so it depends which one they're showing (negging is an absolute no, mansplaining can be tolerated at the very beginning if the behavior stops once being told...). But usually if they show one, they end up showing ten! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 06:50 AM |
| 5 | FDS is anti-redpill. We protect women from abusive men, including redpillers. Saying that FDS is "redpill for women" is literally victim blaming.oh they're always calm and loving in front of everyone else, aren't they? Good thing he's an ex!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 05:34 PM |
| 6 | FDS is anti-redpill. We protect women from abusive men, including redpillers. Saying that FDS is "redpill for women" is literally victim blaming.Oh I meant a MJ of his own field (I mean of the friend's field)....even if it was not your ex profession, it seems that any greatness other than his was a threat. Bancroft's Why Does He Do That, explains these "out of the blue" moments of rage as being triggered few hours or even days before by stealing the spotlight of narcs. ps: I was mostly laughing at your ex and his fragile ego. They're so predictable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 02:16 PM |
| 7 | FDS is anti-redpill. We protect women from abusive men, including redpillers. Saying that FDS is "redpill for women" is literally victim blaming.FDS has NOTHING to do with TRP. Funny thing, the only book I have in mind about manipulating men for their money is written by a man (Ho tactics). LMAO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 01:57 PM |
| 5 | FDS is anti-redpill. We protect women from abusive men, including redpillers. Saying that FDS is "redpill for women" is literally victim blaming.the worst for a man is to be laughed at...and boy, oh boy did I laugh on this sub! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 01:49 PM |
| 7 | FDS is anti-redpill. We protect women from abusive men, including redpillers. Saying that FDS is "redpill for women" is literally victim blaming.“they even came up with a derogatory nickname for men!” Lol don't you dare do a tenth of what men do.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 01:40 PM |
| 8 | FDS is anti-redpill. We protect women from abusive men, including redpillers. Saying that FDS is "redpill for women" is literally victim blaming.The way they say things and their attitude make it easier to spot them irl. yep, on a date a dude said he got a female dog rather than a male dog because there can't be two alphas in a relationship. Yep, he just wanted a "bitch". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 01:35 PM |
| 5 | FDS is anti-redpill. We protect women from abusive men, including redpillers. Saying that FDS is "redpill for women" is literally victim blaming.The next day he said he felt inadequate. I tried to reassure him-this friend is like a michael jordan in terms of talent and a nice guy to boot. Three days later he was threatening to hit me with a frying pan I'm sorry if I'm laughing, cause it's really not funny...and I'm glad you got out...but yeah telling a narc that his friend is the Michael Jordan of his field is the biggest ego blow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 01:33 PM |
| 3 | FDS is anti-redpill. We protect women from abusive men, including redpillers. Saying that FDS is "redpill for women" is literally victim blaming.Understanding women? Aren't you crazy? Why would they, evolved creature, stoop to our level? They're so logical and rational so we better make an effort to raise to their level...if we're lucky they may consider us equal, while still acknowledging we're mostly emotional beings...actually animals! Oh wait, I thought men were like apes...shoot XD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 01:28 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Check-InI see what they offer and if they follow through. They pick the restaurant and experience and I accept or reject. It doesn’t have to be expensive but it does need to be thoughtful and safe. I guess my point is, with a man from OLD, I'm not set on dinner dates or block. It really depends on where you live. I have lived in MENA and dinner dates are just the norm even if you just matched with someone on tinder...although guys can be major douches. Where I live now, no one will suggest a dinner as a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 10:32 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Check-InYou meant he was talking to so many women that he only had time to call while he was making dinner.... LMAO, I thought he was talking simultaneously to hundred of women including you and that's why you couldn't hear him hahahaha. My imagination is wild sometimes... can you imagine a video call with all his potential dates? One day they'll have the audacity! I agree, coffee dates are a big no...but personally I can't expect a dude I met on OLD to wine me and dine for a first date, but a nice cock… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Check-InAnd it occurred to me that he could be talking to literally hundreds of women with this approach. Just a little multi- tasking with his dates. No way?!! Is that even possible? Lol, the scrote really is nothing special! The dude I have in mind, called me for the first time cause I was tired of the constant texting....and I could hear regular bips as if he were receiving emails...also at some point I had the feeling he was typing. That was so disturbing. Meanwhile I was talking to him and gave him… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 09:16 PM |
| 5 | Billionaire Pedophile Rings are looking less and less like a conspiracy every day. Save yourself, Queen.Gosh I would be banned from my group of liberal friends if I ever said such a thing....but Q being a psyop does make sense! And yes when billionaires have more money than the GDP of some countries, yep they can easily push their interests. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 04:53 PM |
| 1 | Ready to date again with FDSLMAO. Indeed, so much effort is exerted in order to make zero effort on a date. Scrotes' logic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 12:42 PM |
| 23 | Stay Strong QueensThis is why this place is so important! Especially if you have pickme friends.... If in doubt (or should I say in a moment of weakness) ask the FDS ladies... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 12:41 PM |
| 2 | On the myth that your 20s are when you have the most options with HVM.Aouch, in you 30's in ny!! The playground of LVM. I feel you :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 12:28 PM |
| 1 | I have never had a man treat me with kindness or respect after I did these things.yeah they all say they invest on quantity not quality... I have no doubt that they get ghosted as well so they probably exert the least of efforts and see what sticks.. I still think it's super disrespectful. If there was a pattern of good morning texts and he breaks it without any warning, he's training you to accept inconsistent behaviors. It's up to you to see if you want to call him out (granted he hasn't showed any other red flags) out or just block him. Although three days going MIA is a l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 08:16 AM |
| 2 | Ready to date again with FDSYou were SO DAMN RIGHT. The dude I was texting with created a textationship so he could just force fake intimacy so he could ask me out for a....walk date as a first date...I mean we're almost boyfriend/girlfriend no? LMAO. I'm sure the walk would have been around his block with his bedroom as a final destination. As soon as you suggested not to engage in a textfest, I tried to switch to phone calls and he took that as me being oh so eager! Next. Lesson learned. ps: OLD is indeed a waste of time… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 08:08 AM |
| 2 | Educating my daughter on what men will say when she is confident and strong in her opinions, what are we missing?Dude has been blocked the negging was just the first red flag of a parade (triangulation, gaslighting). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 08:02 AM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Check-InI never thought too much about texting but a fds user warned me about the textfests...and she is so right! Fuc*boys are so widespread with their minimal texting that we may take a dude texting us non stop as a sign of great interest. Well, players have just adopted a different strategy: monopolizing your time to force a fake sense of intimacy and sleep with you with minimal investment (texting cost them nothing). A guy who is looking for something serious will be as cautious as you are. He will … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 08:00 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Check-InAs things started turning sour, I decided to trust my intuition and snoop. Caught him red handed with several fake social profiles Oh yeah! Taking more time to get back to you? No "goodnight text" while he couldn't stop texting you at the beginning? He's just busy, don't you worry....lol, and then you realize he's onto fooling the next one. Ask me how I know! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 07:38 AM |
| 7 | Most men are not dating to marryIt was a basic flip the script that doesn't take into account how women could use their womanhood to subjugate men. Yes!!! I was very very unimpressed by the movie....it's a little dumb! I find it sooooo disappointing when women just flip the script and show a total lack of imagination to the point of basically making a male movie with women in it. You never hear of men complaining of women throwing themselves at them...lol, it's always the "muuh she friendzoned me". For instance, what if we sta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 10:00 PM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Check-Inonce! One of my ex boyfriends. He was very respectful and had zero kinks at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Billionaire Pedophile Rings are looking less and less like a conspiracy every day. Save yourself, Queen.wait do you think Q is actually a conspiracy from rich liberals to actually discredit any founded criticism of said rich liberals? Just kidding... but it is unfortunately pushing things so far that anything Q has coopted becomes suspect... Edit: oh wait, I haven't read well your post. So you think Q is actually a psyop from these people to distract from the truth? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 05:42 PM |
| 2 | Billionaire Pedophile Rings are looking less and less like a conspiracy every day. Save yourself, Queen.Barely related, but Lynn Ramsay is great! "We need to talk about Kevin" is so disturbing...makes you second guess having children if it were not already the case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 05:26 PM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Check-InI don't register their name. If they show too many red flags I tell them I'm not interested anymore and then delete the conversation. Poof, it's like they never existed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 04:44 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Check-Inyep don't contact him! Plus how desperate of him to be reading your messages when you kicked him to the curb.....freaking pathetic! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 04:25 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Check-InI love reading such post. I'm glad you listedned to your gut and I'm really proud you broke up with your fiancé despite people in your life trying to prevent you from setting yourself free. FDS has also helped me so much. The women here are quite amazing....it's like finding an oasis in the desert! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 04:19 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Check-InI totally agree with you that we as women are still vetting and we barely know them so we absolutely should not agree to exclusivity at this point. I just don't think it's a yellow or red flag that a man is asking for it, ESPECIALLY given how common/popularized poly culture is right now. I agree! He's signaling that he is being serious about you. A man who doesn't bring it up early is a red flag in my opinion! Men know that most women are not dating just to fool around and that they are looking … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 04:06 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Check-Inhappy birthday! The way you celebrated sounds absolutely exquisite !!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 02:51 PM |
| 1 | I’m sick of pick me articles claiming their husbands infidelity made their relationship ‘stronger’At first I just thought she was a driven go getter but as her career progressed & she came out with cringe songs like ‘bow down bitches’ I realised she’s just a hyper competitive Pickmeisha- it’s all for male validation. Outdoing other women. Exactly! And yes for the rotation...I mean now she has money and fame...she doesn't need his ugly face around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 01:51 PM |
| 1 | Don’t tell men about your standardsOh dear, I am also a sucker for wearing rose-colored glasses and get a huuuge hit of dopamine during the early stages of dating...which of course makes it very difficult to cut off men who display red flags (plus they only look rose with your glasses). I don't know how old you are but there will be a point where your emotional safety comes first and the feeling of joy/dopamine and other short lived emotions will be recognized for what they are: fleeting emotions which may as well end up in PTSD … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 01:30 PM |
| 33 | Most men are not dating to marryThere is a dating app called fruitz where you pick a fruit depending on what you're looking for: peach: ONS Watermelon: FWB Grapes: let's have a drink and see Cherry: looking for my forever Now I was on tinder and hinge at the same time and lo and behold, the same guys pretending to be looking for something serious (I want to delete this app) would pick a watermelon on fruitz. Another one who said he wants "no drama and see where it goes" also picked the watermelon. The majority of men picked th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 12:51 PM |
| 44 | It's safe to assume that every man you date only wants sex from you —until proven otherwise.So far I’ve gotten 4 or 5 different variations of “I JUST realized I am not ready for a relationship but would like to hang out as friends.” 🤡 lol, wait in the friend zone till you're lonely enough/drunk enough/vulnerable enough...to lower your guards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 12:20 PM |
| 4 | Indian scrotes discussing what they’d ask women before an arranged marriage. The audacity.Tell me it has been written as a joke by a FDS user....this can't be real. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 12:07 PM |
| 2 | I will not be a detectiveWow! Did we date the same guy??!!! He was good looking, very educated, well mannered, witty and funny....the perfect dotted boyfriend, he would buy me flowers, take me on dates, open the doors, drive hours to see me when we lived in different places, would prep snacks when I had a big day.... But little by little, he started to bring me down, just with a sentence or two here and there....then he started to have wandering eyes. I felt something was off...in fact I felt that way from the get go. O… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 12:02 PM |
| 5 | Feeling some type of way about the woman I used to be…We've all felt that way...I remember having sudden waves of anger while thinking of my abusive ex (which one you may ask). I mean literally, I would be writing a paper and out of the blue I would feel helpless, ashamed of having been tricked, and super angry...and that relationship ended a while ago... I don't feel that way anymore towards him or even myself. I think it's part of the grieving process and realization that we were conditioned to be pickmes. Once you understand and grieve, then you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 11:36 AM |
| 7 | Feeling some type of way about the woman I used to be…Sending you a hug as well! This pandemic has really forced a lot of us to pause and face things we may have been running away from. I have also chosen celibacy (or should I stay abstinence) and it's the best decision I have made for my emotional well being. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 11:30 AM |
| 2 | Men who say oddly specific things about their exhey, only good vibes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 11:09 AM |
| 2 | Men who say oddly specific things about their exSmooch, don't be so sensitive!! You're so self-centered! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 11:08 AM |
| 2 | Men who say oddly specific things about their exTotally! He said about his ex "she cheating on me and she was manipulating me"...nice try! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 11:05 AM |
| 2 | Men who say oddly specific things about their exHe said his ex was crazy....she snooped on his phone and got tested after she suspected he was sleeping with another woman without protection. So as a result he paid a thousand for a week-end to reconcile.... can you see the pattern? He love bombed her, then devalued her, made her crazy and then tried to reel her in with another grand gesture. He had basically given me a roadmap of exactly what he was planning to do with me. This guy was the biggest mindfucker I've ever met...thankfully our flin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 10:58 AM |
| 1 | If you aren't easily offended, G.L Lambert gives you some straight NO-BS advice and insight into the male mind and dating 📖 Didn't see his books in the FDS recommended books but they are some legit LEVEL UP books where he takes no prisoners and gives no f*cks!But honestly, sometimes reading the mindset of these LVM makes you understand better how to spot and avoid them. yes! Like Derrick Jaxn spilling all the tea on LVM like him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 11:23 PM |
| 2 | If you aren't easily offended, G.L Lambert gives you some straight NO-BS advice and insight into the male mind and dating 📖 Didn't see his books in the FDS recommended books but they are some legit LEVEL UP books where he takes no prisoners and gives no f*cks!his advice will only help you attract more sociopaths. You're spot on!! I attracted the worst man of my entire life (a total socio/psycho) after I read his book...I don't think it's a coincidence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 11:22 PM |
| 3 | The so-called butterflies in the stomachKeep a strong frame and gaslighting won’t work. So again, avoid the fear-based approach of “protecting myself from getting hurt” and replace it with “I can’t wait to exposè this motherfucker as either a HVM or just another dick.” It should be a fun challenge to flex your power - any other mentality leaves you far more open to getting played, trust. Hahaha that really made me laugh. But you are right! I try to change the frame as much as possible in thinking "I am the one vetting"...but to be imp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 09:29 PM |
| 6 | The so-called butterflies in the stomachcompletely! Also I hear these dumbass scrotes talking about being a dominant man, which in their minds mean overpowering you and getting aroused by it..when in fact the real "alphas" are providers who make you feel safe from other people/other men...suddenly when I think about it, I'm realizing the anxiety should not be there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 08:40 PM |
| 2 | The so-called butterflies in the stomachcould be a trauma bonding situation - look up this term, it might help. Also working on your inner child and seeing why you behave in a fight /flight manner - these are deeply evolutionary survival tactics for most animals, us included. What about these guys are triggering your survival instincts? Fear of committment on your end ( maybe a certain person makes you feel trapped or perhaps feeling love is scary for you, as it is for many of us). It doesn't hurt to look inward to figure some of this… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 08:30 PM |
| 2 | The so-called butterflies in the stomachWishing you more power and healing, sis. When you try to heal yourself, you heal the world. AWOMEN :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 08:22 PM |
| 10 | So older men with nothing else to offer but money expect younger women to date them Just Because?"not your ATM" because he doesn't want any gold digger, he wants someone to love him for him. Just like he loves this beautiful lady (who could be his daughter) for her soul, her real self.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 07:19 PM |
| 1 | “Just give him a week”if you care about someone, you just let them know in advance that you'll be off grid. It's common courtesy not to let people hanging in the dark if you have a relationship with them...or if you're beginning to have one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 06:36 PM |
| 7 | The so-called butterflies in the stomachI have such a negative image of men....but maybe the proverbial HVM do exist. Thanks for the reminder! It's lonely at the top but it's better to be alone than slowed down by a LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 05:56 PM |
| 5 | The so-called butterflies in the stomachNow, I'm very secure with myself and my boundaries. I do not talk to people who tend to trigger my anxiety. I have nothing to please or neither am I afraid of losing contact with them. Socializing and dating isn't supposed to give to anxiety, fear or stress. If it does. You aren't ready for it and/or the person isn't the one because your body is clearly saying no. That is gold! How did you get there? And I think you're right, the anxiety is signalling either that it's not the right moment for me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 05:50 PM |
| 5 | The so-called butterflies in the stomachGood call!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 05:44 PM |
| 6 | Patterns Of Thinking And Behavior Often Displayed By AbusersI would add: Deflecting/ the male bumbler....in short not taking any responsibility. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 05:12 PM |
| 12 | The so-called butterflies in the stomachI'm the involuntary hot and cold one (anxious avoidant style) and any time I enter a relationship with someone I'm attracted to, I feel super anxious and so I withdraw. BUT some men trigger me more than others...it weeds out the ones who play games. The men I stayed with were excellent communicators, demonstrated they cared and so after a while I felt calm so I think my gut feeling is still working! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 04:51 PM |
| 42 | The so-called butterflies in the stomachI agree but what if my body reacts that way with almost every man I find attractive? Either 1) I'm attracted to douches 2) I'm automatically in a fight/fly situation when I like someone 3) I haven't met a HVM who will not trigger my anxiety | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 04:24 PM |
| 8 | The so-called butterflies in the stomachYes! I love the comparison! Because indeed, when I travel I get excited in my chest but when I date it's my stomach which turns into a knot. At the beginning I'm excited to text and engage with someone new and as I'm becoming more and more charmed by them, I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 02:49 PM |
| 8 | The so-called butterflies in the stomachOh I know! I watched the original Mermaid and it's the saddest story in the world (of a pickme). I want stable as well, I have no desire for "fairy tales". I was mostly wondering if I should take the butterflies as a gut feeling or if one can fall in love with a HVM and have the butterflies at the beginning because the beginning of dating is always a little bit uncertain (but maybe a HVM would make this uncertainty go away from the get go?). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 02:29 PM |
| 20 | The so-called butterflies in the stomachYou don't hear talk of "butterflies" outside of romantic contexts But that's actually a good point! We don't because there's no danger | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 02:25 PM |
| 65 | The so-called butterflies in the stomachWith him, I felt calm. Just calm, secure since day 1. Oh wow, that never happened to me even in my healthiest relationship...but I'm not with these men for a reason! I'm happy for you, may the candle continue to burn slowly... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 01:38 PM |
| 3 | Dear Scrotes: HVM does not mean a rich chad.Because minorities always have to do more....since women are a minority, our "normal" is their extraordinary...sad truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 12:40 PM |
| 1 | Epiphany: Imagine if dating made your life easier (like it does for men)His last words you'll always have a piece of my heart, my shattered heart now that's its broken into a million pieces Is he for real? LMAO...good riddance! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 03:33 PM |
| 2 | Epiphany: Imagine if dating made your life easier (like it does for men)He says I need direction, I have been out of the dating world for two years and forgot how to be a boyfriend Oh! The line of every LVM. That's exactly what a LVM I dated told me! He "forgot" to buy me a gift for my birthday and his answer was exactly that "I've been out of the dating world for three years". Needless to say I dumped him right away even if it was super difficult....I felt hurt and humiliated and cried the entire week-end but I just couldn't tolerate a dude who was so low effort an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 10:18 AM |
| 2 | Epiphany: Imagine if dating made your life easier (like it does for men)I am an introvert who loves spending time alone, and I have no problem being single, so if a man wants to be a part of my life he needs to add to it, and not take away from it. His presence needs to be better than my time alone with myself is, which is a very high bar for me because most people exhaust me and I generally prefer to be alone. Same! Being an introvert is such a blessing once you get rid of the societal pressure...also it was quite handy during the pandemic! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 10:02 AM |
| 3 | Epiphany: Imagine if dating made your life easier (like it does for men)I’ve been very sick, have lost family members including my father, had to juggle 60 hrs work weeks while studying and have been no contact with family for a while. Not once did I feel any real support or understanding from my SO’s. If anything, they made my life more difficult. I'm sorry :/ Every single one of my exes (who were dotted boyfriend for the most part) took advantage of moments of weakness. Interestingly enough, they can only add to your life when you're glowing and they can tell you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 09:06 AM |
| 2 | Epiphany: Imagine if dating made your life easier (like it does for men)Same age and same conclusion! That's exactly how I see myself. "I love to have boyfriends, I love dating....I do not want a husband in my house": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=URehJMHN6hI | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 08:58 AM |
| 2 | Epiphany: Imagine if dating made your life easier (like it does for men)How will he attempt to impress a woman who spends all Saturday creating a nice environment and preparing from scratch a beautiful dinner? Him: "Wow, I really like Jen. I think I'll ask her oN a WaLk Date!" 🤡🤡🤡 I can't stop laughing. I had a guy just right now sending me a text to go for a walk this afternoon! Last minute + a walk...I wonder if it can get any lower.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 08:54 AM |
| 3 | Thoughts from a Former "Submissive"It's one thing to be masculine man and therefor presenting typical masculine traits like taking the lead, having provider tendencies and other stuff that I think can be of value, but it's another whole different thing being a bdsm dom. In fact a masculine man will do the exact OPPOSITE of a piece of shit "dom". He will provide and protect you, make sure that you are not hurt! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 07:27 AM |
| 1 | Recovering pickme progress storyhe could be one of the few decent men that can enjoy a woman's company without ulteriorotives. nope lol. But all of the other possibilities. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 06:52 PM |
| 1 | How do you overcome reflexive and habitual pickme worries/thoughts?I was going to say the same! If some women here are triggered, it's their problem! Don't make yourself smaller for a man, a woman or anyone! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 05:04 PM |
| 1 | Psychopathy at its best: love guru justifying himself and speaking about himself at the third personoooh! He probably succeeded in putting it down...just check on you tube "Derrick Jaxn reaction video" if you're curious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 02:24 PM |
| 12 | Don’t tell men about your standardsExactly! It's perceived as eagerness ...if you go to a restaurant and the food is mediocre, you're just done, you're not going to convince the chef that he has to step up...unless it's the only restaurant in tow...and even in that case, you'd better just cook for yourself ^^ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 01:34 PM |
| 15 | Don’t tell men about your standardsYou can dedicate a notebook just for your dating experience: write everything down, from the text exchange to the dates and how it made you feel. When you revisit your notes you can do it as an external person....it helps a lot! To be honest, I think the problem with a lot of us is that we see the red flags and we have the gut feeling...but we don't want to act on it because we have a crush. Writing will force you to take the right decision. And coming back to fds of course :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 01:27 PM |
| 10 | Don’t tell men about your standards"Red flags aren't meant to be collected." It's one and done. I like that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 01:24 PM |
| 14 | Don’t tell men about your standardsBuddhist terminology and psychobabble oh no! The woke-enlightened scrote in disguise | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 01:21 PM |
| 17 | Don’t tell men about your standardslol, how being a good listener does wonder ^^ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 01:17 PM |
| 8 | Don’t tell men about your standardswhich is also why sometimes I wish fds were a closed group...but then how other women would find us? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 01:17 PM |
| 1 | Is Bill Gates LVM?oops my bad! It's just that you said "I disagree" although you seem to be in line with Shadowlilium! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 08:46 PM |
| 4 | Educating my daughter on what men will say when she is confident and strong in her opinions, what are we missing?Wait someone threw "smarty pants" with a smiley and I didn't know if it were pejorative (I'm not a native speaker). Is there any occurence where it's not a neg or do I have to block him immediately? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 01:42 PM |
| 15 | Educating my daughter on what men will say when she is confident and strong in her opinions, what are we missing?I came to say that! My ex narc would always say it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 01:38 PM |
| 6 | Is Bill Gates LVM?Wait what? We're not talking about having money, not even a lot... we're talking about having insane amount of money...there's no way in the world you accumulated that amount without being greedy, calculated and lacking any empathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 11:29 AM |
| 9 | Is Bill Gates LVM?Yep! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 11:24 AM |
| 2 | Is Bill Gates LVM?Amen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 11:23 AM |
| 14 | Is Bill Gates LVM?Plus I find extreme wealth to be incompatible with what I considered to be HV qualities. The hero worship you see over rich people is so backwards Right? I don't see how people who are capable of accumulating that much wealth are HV. It turns out there are a lot of psycho and narcs in really high level jobs...anything that requires risk taking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 11:20 AM |
| 4 | What's Your Level Up Plan for this Week/Month?Heavy weight hip thrusts and barbell squats! Your legs and booty will look amazing in no times :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 11:04 AM |
| 2 | Psychopathy at its best: love guru justifying himself and speaking about himself at the third personRewatching his videos with the amount of info we have is scary! He actually projects big time....when he talks about fuckboys and narcissist, it's more a confessional than anything else. I agree, I was also on the fence about him....and particularly how he would always insert his book "don't forget your crown" which happened (always) to be "exceptionally" 50 per cent off....plus let's be honest, a dude talking about us being queen and our crown is nothing else than pandering for financial reason… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 09:28 AM |
| 1 | Ready to date again with FDSNot really! I mean look, I've been dating before OLD was a thing...all my serious relationship started with witty banters and elaborate texts....I feel you can tell when guys don't make any effort : they won't really engage intellectually or won't try to seduce you with jokes. Once I started being on OLD they all transitioned to asking me out.... For me the rule of not texting too much is more a precautionary rule to protect myself. I don't want to invest too much too quickly and get used to his… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 11:19 AM |
| 8 | When I talk about FDS concepts with other women, I don't even acknowledge that what I am saying is controversial at all. I just act like it's normal.No worries, I didn't take it badly :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 09:54 AM |
| 17 | When I talk about FDS concepts with other women, I don't even acknowledge that what I am saying is controversial at all. I just act like it's normal.I was mostly joking in giving credit to the scrote! Gotta take some positive from a bad situation. But I agree, curiosity actually saved the cat! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 09:32 AM |
| 16 | When I talk about FDS concepts with other women, I don't even acknowledge that what I am saying is controversial at all. I just act like it's normal.That! I'm back on dating apps, and it blows my mind how many guys are saying: "married but up for some sexy time" or "I'm a dom and I'm looking for a slave" or "Here just for a good time, will you be bold enough to swipe right?" What the hell??? I mean aside from degrading acts, these scrotes who have zero to offer but traumas, act as if they are the prize! And the crazy thing is, there are probably some women who are happy to play along.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 09:12 AM |
| 8 | When I talk about FDS concepts with other women, I don't even acknowledge that what I am saying is controversial at all. I just act like it's normal.Apparently she won the case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 08:47 AM |
| 30 | When I talk about FDS concepts with other women, I don't even acknowledge that what I am saying is controversial at all. I just act like it's normal.They are the worst!! They think they are God's gift for being oh so rational, i.e having zero emotional intelligence, and since they make enough money they think they can get any ig model while looking like a fart. And the pseudo spiritual ones are not better! They think enlightenment lies in micro dosing or better, doing ayahuasca with a shaman, engaging in polyamory because they"re so evolved (till they get dumped, lmao)...Remember when Jack Dorsey talked about his ten day "spiritual" retreat … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 08:38 AM |
| 55 | When I talk about FDS concepts with other women, I don't even acknowledge that what I am saying is controversial at all. I just act like it's normal.I feel that's how we all ended up here! The only time you want to thank that scrote who made you google his shitty behavior.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 08:22 AM |
| 2 | Ready to date again with FDSBtw, goes without saying, but continue to vet even seemingly HVM. They can turn on a dime... Oh yeah...hence my post :) I'm reviewing my dealbreakers and collecting more idea...the thing is most guys will turn on a dime...the question is when they will. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 06:45 AM |
| 2 | Ready to date again with FDSLMAO!! If he's stressing me more than picking what to wear....he should have been deleted a while ago! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 06:38 AM |
| 1 | Ready to date again with FDSThat's a good one! They're always playing clueless, time to turn the table...and be a dumb fox :) I yet have to force myself to switch to calls instead of texts.... I can't lie, I'm guilty of enjoying texting, especially when the guy is witty and writes elaborate texts. Obviously the "good morning text" or "how are you" are usually met with less enthusiasm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 06:32 AM |
| 5 | Ready to date again with FDSLol, I never baptised any of them...but I like the idea. I think there was another woman who would erase one letter at each misstep...Tim better not get it wrong! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 06:39 PM |
| 36 | Psychopathy at its best: love guru justifying himself and speaking about himself at the third personThe internet is going banana about it! Yes, you got it (or he had just cheated on her). Mind you the guy always had a "holier than you" attitude... I just couldn't help but think he was warning us against guys like him because he knew so damn well, all the tricks.. well, little did I know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 06:36 PM |
| 13 | Ready to date again with FDSYes!! I call it the "mom test", if I can't tell my mom (knowing she will not approve) then I know it's a really bad idea to pursue the relationship. Oh yes...blocking can be hard sometimes...especially when we start to invest. Which is why it's better not to get invested in the first place and block at the first sign. But then I'm wondering if I'm not over-reacting based on some past traumas... Few days ago, I was chatting with a guy and he said "in this relationship"...it really disturbed me be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 06:34 PM |
| 26 | Psychopathy at its best: love guru justifying himself and speaking about himself at the third personhuh? Recently? Yes she needs help. She looks so distressed in this video. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 06:21 PM |
| 13 | Ready to date again with FDSThat is one of my rules as well :) With "does it feel good/revigorating to spend time with him"? It's obvious but sometimes we're get attached and we're become oblivious of the fact that the relationship doesn't bring us any joy anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 05:54 PM |
| 3 | Ready to date again with FDSI don't have insta or snapchat. I think whatsapp is a legit platform. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 05:52 PM |
| 2 | How far would your ex have gotten with you if you'd been following FDS principles then?“wow, he’s a busy guy, no wonder he texts me only every few days, well, at least he puts effort in those messages That is exactly what I was thinking!! Until he did it a third time and it just felt off....and just so different from my other interactions. So grateful for this sub, haha you saved me from a dead end interaction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 05:47 PM |
| 8 | Ready to date again with FDSI also find OLD to be a waste of time...but I've been single for a while now and I feel I have gathered enough info/experience to give it a shot while being more careful. Also, it helps having a scrotation. I agree! The pics vs real life. Sometimes it can be the other way around...the last guy I dated, I met him on OLD and I learned only afterwards he was separated...we had nothing in common but the physical attraction was off the charts. So many red flags I ignored because I was blinded by all … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 03:11 PM |
| 8 | Ready to date again with FDSWe've all had a Vincent in our life! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 02:38 PM |
| 4 | Ready to date again with FDSOh essentially it's "texting" just on a different platform. The plus for me are having a pic so I don't get confused with guys and turning off my wifi/internet connection so I don't get disturbed but people important in my life can still contact me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 02:37 PM |
| 15 | Ready to date again with FDSI think I will start implementing phone calls! I'm a millenial and yet I feel like gen z, not knowing what to do when the phone rings :/ Plus it's a good way to tell if someone really is single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 02:36 PM |
| 2 | I have never had a man treat me with kindness or respect after I did these things.It's almost like some scrotes were placed on our path just to raise our cortisol levels, I have no other explanation. Anyway good that he belongs to the past! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 02:33 PM |
| 3 | Do you do vetting for attachment style and conflict style??enmeshed childhood and have a lower threshhold for wanting to assert their autonomy. They get lonely like an average person and go "I'm ready to date", but as soon as it gets real, their need to escape gets triggered. Oh boy, did you just read my post on fds "Ready to date again" and I turn out to have an enmeshed childhood...I feel called out. I haven't looked too much into conflict style hence my semi-rethorical/semi-genuine question. I'm sure there are some valuable pieces but I have the tend… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 02:28 PM |
| 18 | Ready to date again with FDSHmm that makes sense but I personally prefer to get to know someone a little bit through texts before I get to meet them (talking about OLD). I feel, with time, I can spot red flags and vet from the comfort of my house. Of course, if it's only a textationship and it doesn't progress, block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 02:22 PM |
| 6 | Ready to date again with FDSWhen I have a rotation, first, I don't give my number to all of them...in some cases I keep chatting on the app, if we switch to the phone, I will chat with them on whatsapp most of the time so I have the visual/picture to identify them...I keep texting for really close people so I can turn off the wifi and still being reached by my inner circle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 01:45 PM |
| 30 | Ready to date again with FDSYes!! Our gut knows before our brain, I think we've all learned it the hard way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 12:46 PM |
| 1 | How far would your ex have gotten with you if you'd been following FDS principles then?He texted long messages every several days oooh! Sounds exactly like a guy I'm talking to on a dating app. Long paragraphs but always cutting them short because he has "to have dinner with friends" (on Saturday AND Sunday, lol). I first thought he was trying to play it like he has a very active social life when all his pics online are selfies...but now I'm thinking, he may live with his girlfriend! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 12:26 PM |
| 2 | I am done pandering to women In my lifeI second that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 12:00 PM |
| 30 | Do you do vetting for attachment style and conflict style??I'm sure some women find these attachement styles helpful...but isn't avoidant simply code for douchebag who wants to take and never reciprocate...in short a scrote? I mean, Platipus wrote it eloquently: does he deny or deflect or does he acknowledge and sincerely apologize? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 11:50 AM |
| 1 | I have never had a man treat me with kindness or respect after I did these things.It's not your fault at all! You din't make them do that...they would have been shitty regardless. Our responsibility is more to fix our radar and listen to our gut. We are responsible for not blocking them at the first red flag (which usually hides a parade of flags). But it's a learning process which requires to undo all the brainwashing, while prioritizing our gut feeling over the hopes we've been sold. We don't get it right the first time :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 11:40 AM |
| 4 | I have never had a man treat me with kindness or respect after I did these things.He doesn't have to be in a relationship. It can also be that you're a sure thing (the date is fixed) so he can invest his energy somewhere else and text other women non stop to secure dates with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 10:59 AM |
| 3 | I have never had a man treat me with kindness or respect after I did these things.One, who looked like a fart, would check his phone often and ogle women around us for our first date. I cut it short. He had the audacity to try to see me again. Lol, they're so dumb with their PUA tactics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 10:55 AM |
| 5 | I have never had a man treat me with kindness or respect after I did these things.You just gotta suck out the sweet part & get out b4 it turns sour with men. Aka let them do the most for you, observe whether they keep it up and if they don’t- bounce. That a million time...and everything you wrote below!! You can only win if you're willing to walk away. In which case you got something out the relationship but you don't let him cash out his investment...The seduction is all about draining you afterwards. They're all con men. ps: And I'm talking about guys who "loved me" and had… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 10:44 AM |
| 4 | I have never had a man treat me with kindness or respect after I did these things.Please tell me you unmatched him! He blew you off twice already!! I'd be mad if I were in your shoes, the amount of disrespect for your time is baffling and to add insult to injury he really thinks you're dumb with his lame excuses. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 10:33 AM |
| 2 | Disney lied to us. The original little mermaid movie was made in 1975 and was made to teach girls to avoid being a pickme/give up everything for a man because you’ll just be used as a placeholder until his dream girl comes along. Ending is very dark.Same! My parents couldn't afford the Disney version and bought me the original...little did they know it would kill the "Prince Charming" BS. The only time you want to thank being brought up in a modest household, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 09:42 AM |
| 18 | No, you shouldn't do whatever you wantCome on! She's not talking about remodeling her entire face but simply fixing something that makes her uncomfortable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 09:35 AM |
| 44 | No, you shouldn't do whatever you wantI have more in common with the Roman Emperors than I do with current culture... (👸🏻) I love that :) Have a good day Empress and cheers to schnozes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 09:30 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-innot weird...you're not a girl and calling you "cute" means he's emphasizing your physics from the get go (bad sign) AND it's so low effort...it's nothing specific from your profile. Just a pseudo-smooth variation of "hi" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 09:27 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-inAmazing! Keep us posted :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 09:25 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-inI'm back on dating apps after a long break. There was one guy with whom I matched who happens to be in the same field as mine. Definitely my type. No red flag so far but there's a pattern I started to notice. He started to ask me about my work. He would text me something meaningful and then say "on that note I have to leave to see friends but I would love to know more" (yesterday) or today "I have to go to have dinner with friends but I imagine discussing this with you..." and another time durin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 07:32 PM |
| 1 | High Value Dates Onlyexactly, plus they know by now it is something we pay attention to! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 08:26 PM |
| 24 | Red Flag = Block and Delete1) if he's a scrote, why do you even bother entertaining him? 2) re-read the handbook :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 02:37 PM |
| 14 | A 49 year old man has an ✨epiphany✨ and people in the comments thank and praise him for his 'insight'🙌 and give him lots of awards 🏅🏅🏅I came to say that... "IF YOU CAN" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 08:01 PM |
| 2 | "Men are the true romantics"Oh I feel you!! I usually don't pay with male "friends" either...I mean we all know they're patiently waiting in the friend zone to make a move xD I've encountered women here who ask for men they're dating to pay their bills/rent, I've never asked such a thing, but I'm at a point in my dating life where a dude really has to offer me a lot for me to consider him. I'm not tempted to sleep with a Greek god either, because aside from D. they usually don't have much to offer, but that's a personal ch… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 08:28 AM |
| 1 | "Men are the true romantics"the rest can buy me dinner and think they have a chance 🤷♀️ lol! Yes I meant ask you on a date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 10:00 PM |
| 2 | "Men are the true romantics"When you say dating men...do you mean letting them invite you? Nothing physical ever :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 09:34 PM |
| 10 | I like good abs and I can not lie...with the personality of expired chocolate. Lol. I tend to think most men are narcs. They're predatory. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Men and the COVID vaccineThe recent narrative was hilarious! The people who died of covid, really died of covid...the one who died following the vaccine...had preexisting conditions. Make it make sense please. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 12:44 PM |
| 1 | Men and the COVID vaccineAnd honestly, this push to get the vaccine and the incessant shaming of those who don’t want to get it has to stop. We are frighteningly close to losing all of our civil liberties and being pushed into a “vaccine passport” in order to participate in society. That is wrong. So this is not a “low value/high value “ issue. It is that some people have genuine concerns with the vaccines. And they absolutely have the right to decline them. Thank you! I mean seriously I'm sooooo tired of the shaming of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 12:41 PM |
| 0 | Men and the COVID vaccineIt’s a lot more reliable and less stressful to listen to than the news. You got it! Thanks for the suggestion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Men and the COVID vaccineSure, thanks for getting in the weeds :) The thing is I absolutely do not trust a vaccine which has been made in a rush (astra zeneca has been deadly for some people). I am not against vaccines in general but I'll rather wait and see than post a pic of myself with my vaccine cardboard. For now being careful will do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 09:59 PM |
| 5 | Men and the COVID vaccineA vaccine which is being used on people without knowing the long term side effects? We are still in the testing phase. It should be a personal choice. The argument of protecting others is bogus when you read that some vaccines may not prevent one from being contagious! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 11:10 PM |
| 13 | Why are some men so obsessed to keep women's standards as low as possible?Edit to add: MEGHAN MARKLE, yall. A rich, attractive, female celebrity. They're really acting like Prince Harry found his wife in a Missouri Walmart (nothing against Missouri or Walmart!) YES! I've always thought Meghan inauthentic, and not always smart in the way she lies... BUT from a purely FDS point of view, I think she settled: she had over a million of followers on insta, was already friend with Serena before meeting Harry, and she was so pretty and bubbly...she could have dated Harry to e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 12:43 PM |
| 4 | Derrick Jaxn Caught CheatingRemember the way he would say every in every single video "don't forget your crown is EXCEPTIONALLY 50% of the price" ....dude it's been months! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 04:33 PM |
| 16 | Derrick Jaxn Caught CheatingHe is the guy that led me to FDS in 2019. I’m so disappointed in him because he knows how to be a HVM and apparently just doesn’t give a fuck. Same! I binge watched his videos just before finding FDS. Plus I thought he was hilarious! To be honest, he never struck me as a HVM but more as someone who knows LVM like the back of his hand and is warning us against all the signs and tricks... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 09:05 PM |
| 26 | Derrick Jaxn Caught CheatingLol, I can hear the dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 09:00 PM |
| 78 | Be a queen ladies, a real king will follow.Oh don't get me started on Meghan...I just think they're a good LV match! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 05:29 PM |
| 85 | Be a queen ladies, a real king will follow.Exactly! Plus he invited his exes to the wedding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 04:46 PM |
| 8 | A lot of men need to hear this. They wonder why they have dead bedrooms but dont even tryThanks for the explanation! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 09:28 PM |
| 6 | A lot of men need to hear this. They wonder why they have dead bedrooms but dont even tryOh I see..you can tell I don't have tiktok. So he gets more views because people will watch the video based on this popular sound or because that makes feel more authentic? I really have no idea how it works. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 09:25 PM |
| 14 | A lot of men need to hear this. They wonder why they have dead bedrooms but dont even tryA little off topic but why, please why, do they need to add this pseudo moving music in the background? Does he think he's the superhero of a blockbuster, with a good moral at the end, or what? Sorry buddy, you ain't getting my tears. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 09:17 PM |
| 39 | A lot of men need to hear this. They wonder why they have dead bedrooms but dont even tryHA! Men taking care of their fucking lives isn't porno to women! LMAO!! You're so right, I didn't realize how he was sexualizing the situation....it's merely what prevents us from resenting them and dumping their ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 09:14 PM |
| 4 | On why hot women end up with “finance bros”But I’d rather butt heads with a self-aware douche than be condescended to by a misogynist who thinks he’s oh so woke and such a greattttt person. Yep, it's adding insult to injury! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 01:00 PM |
| 10 | On why hot women end up with “finance bros”level 2Cross_Stitch_WitchFDS Newbie3 hours agoThe most insufferable, misogynistic males I've ever encountered (which is saying a lot because I work with attorneys) were in my undergrad anthropology program. Just this level of arrogance and ego masturbation that even a decade later still makes me shake my head in awe. Oh hello! Were we classmates? Actually, I may prefer the traditional dude (a bit misogynist...I men he's a man in a man's world) over a liberal arts "feminist" who brings zero to th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 04:44 PM |
| 40 | On why hot women end up with “finance bros”Not at all, I love reliving my most embarrassing moments! LMAO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 04:38 PM |
| 2 | Piers Morgan is the quintessential “nice guy” with a fragile wittle ego all because he can’t stand that Meghan Markle rejected himAs a minority and a woman, I personally don't want to be judged..as a poc woman...which is why I'm not going to be manipulative and then play the racism card. I agree with what you said. Meghan strikes me as inauthentic and probably narcissistic...but if you dare judging her as a human being, you're racist and have (internalized) misogyny. Identity politics is very ugly and counterproductive sometimes. Sigh! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 10:29 PM |
| 3 | Piers Morgan is the quintessential “nice guy” with a fragile wittle ego all because he can’t stand that Meghan Markle rejected himHe had the feeling she tried to use him...but it doesn't justify his harassing of her. Male ego's bruises. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 10:16 PM |
| 4 | Piers Morgan is the quintessential “nice guy” with a fragile wittle ego all because he can’t stand that Meghan Markle rejected himThat's my feeling as well. He mentioned Meghan being a user basically...emailing him almost daily and then ghosting him when she knew she'd have all the publicity she wanted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 10:15 PM |
| 3 | Piers Morgan is the quintessential “nice guy” with a fragile wittle ego all because he can’t stand that Meghan Markle rejected himI dont particularly like Meghan, but I dont know her, but none deserves to have SUCH an intensive smear campaign towards them on international tv. Once again the patriarchy gets away with hating on a woman. Same! I'm going to be downvoted into oblivion but I'm pretty sure Meghan has used marriage with Harry to give herself some fame she would never had just playing suits...and knew fully what she was walking into. During the engagement interview Harry mentioned warning Meghan about the weight of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 10:13 PM |
| 1 | Bridgerton or the epitome of liberal feminismfds is going to ruin most shows, a lot of films and novels ;) But this is for the better! I agree "true love" is the most toxic bs we've been sold. Men, on the opposite, have no problem quantifying the number of qualities and never settling unless they got the best deal they can afford. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 04:55 PM |
| 15 | I have no words.hahahaha so spot on!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 03:26 PM |
| 3 | "A high value man won't wait 3 months for sex"This guy has a toy in his room. C’mon Lol, but he can't get the doll apparently | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 03:23 PM |
| 10 | "A high value man won't wait 3 months for sex"Exactly no one. They don' t have to beg. Yep, the crazy thing is this narrative has dominated the public sphere so much that even we women can think in terms if "waiting" when in fact, deep down, we're just not rushing until we're comfortable. The vocabulary of "getting hard to get" and "being a little dog" or "begging" is sooo telling about how they perceive intimacy. It's not about getting to know someone, it's about getting something from us and if we refuse for good, safety reasons, they see… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 03:18 PM |
| 13 | "A high value man won't wait 3 months for sex", I can’t get over that stunning art piece of the lion. Just in case you didn't understand he's a king, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 03:09 PM |
| 23 | "A high value man won't wait 3 months for sex"Exactly! He's saying let yourself being pumped and dumped in few weeks rather than growing feelings and ending up in the same scenario three months later...but he's also saying no guys is willing to wait for three months. That is the goal my dude, dropping dudes who are only after sex...because no guy is a good actor enough to pretend for three months without throwing a red flags parade. They know time is against them! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 03:09 PM |
| 8 | What happened to first dates?Just ignore that noise! With men I met in real life? It never happened, they'll take time to escalate and they'd rarely try to kiss me even after the first date. On tinder? I had one guy suggesting to go to his place after dinner. I think it's mostly OLD which objectifies women even further and the fact that guys you meet there don't belong to your social circle, so they're not forced to see you as a person but rather as an object. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 10:50 AM |
| 1 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!I love that campy horror film. It seems like things have only gone backwards since it was made so it remains the only reference to illustrate certain kinds of brainwashing. Perfect Valentine's movie for a single lady. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 11:19 PM |
| 1 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!Maybe I just lack ambition and the killer instinct but somehow it looks like a draining, exhausting way to go through life and not good for creative inspiration in any case. There's a way to be ambitious without competition. I consider myself as ambitious but I'm the least competitive person and I hate comparison. As you said, it doesn't help genuine creativity...for me, I need to silence a lot of voices to engage in creative work. Is it the best? I don't know, but it's original and singular. Al… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 11:18 PM |
| 1 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!Plus any profession promising fame and immortality attracts some of the worst people on all levels. If anything you really know how to tease an audience...you'd be good in advertising or film...just saying! And yes I know, it's better to be safe and not divulge too much, which is why I just said I was intrigued but didn't ask for details ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 10:44 PM |
| 1 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!So though I hate rapey patriarchal abusers the most, I reserve some of that sentiment for certain types of PickMes. But I see emotions like that as colors in a paint box. The colors themselves are neither good nor bad-- it only matters what picture you paint with them. I think I did some great creative work after that and created opportunities for some great people including some stellar women. I got a violent maniac off the streets for a bit. I didn't hurt anyone harmless or innocent. I think I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 06:26 PM |
| 2 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!This scene is perfection! Same, my mom doesn't know what jalousie or envy is, neither do I. After trying to understand why x didn't like me for no reason....and telling me, half drunk, that she loved my style and was so happy I invited her to my party (I invited the entire department) it dawned on me for the very first time in my life that some women could be jealous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 06:09 PM |
| 110 | Author of “Cannibalism Play” Cosmo Article Responds.Yep, BDSM is being shoved down our throat so much that "vanilla" and respect are going to become the ultimate kink! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 06:04 PM |
| 2 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!I forgot "la morale de la morale"....memory is selective apparently...what if someone is Muslim? Does it make her immune to pigs? lol. I don't know if she distanced herself from Polanski but I think after the backlash from the column, she probably did not want to defend him. The one who did though was Fanny Ardant. I used to like her a lot but lost respect immediately. Yes, "Vichy women" is a good way to describe it. Don't get me wrong I don't want to hate them either but the one who were hostil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 05:28 PM |
| 1 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!Thanks! You're feeding my procrastination :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 05:16 PM |
| 22 | COSMO wants y’all to know that Armie Hammer’s Cannibalism Fetish isn’t the problem here and people are “distorting” it. Because nothing screams “safe and sane” like Cannibalism Play.Yep! Throw around "play" to any violent act and don't forget "consent" and you're good to go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 05:10 PM |
| 28 | COSMO wants y’all to know that Armie Hammer’s Cannibalism Fetish isn’t the problem here and people are “distorting” it. Because nothing screams “safe and sane” like Cannibalism Play.“Blood play is another fetish called hematolagnia. And that can present as someone being turned on by any form of blood during sex from menstrual blood to needle play to biting until there is blood or spanking until there is blood.” Soon enough "killing play is a fetish where one person is turned on by the sight of someone else dying" I just can't with this society. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 05:09 PM |
| 9 | Hint that I come straight over to your place and then ask me to decide the plans? BlockedI hope this doesn't come out as really mean but why on earth would you pay a fine dinner for a guy, go on a walk with someone who can't walk and then pay for his ice cream? self-esteem problems? You deserve so much better! (again not being mean, I have lowered my standards in the past when I was trying to fill a void). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 05:04 PM |
| 3 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!She actually once started singing La Rirette to her brother's new grandchild causing everyone at the party under age 60 to stare at each other in silent horror. A lullaby about gang rape? Help. Omg, you're bringing so many memories!! We used to sing it in high school!! "La morale de cette histoire c'est qu'les hommes sont des cochons" ...and we even enacted it (it was an only girl school). I feel terrible just thinking about the lyrics and even worse thinking about your MIL singing it to her gra… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 11:06 PM |
| 3 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!"le géniteur"... what are most men to be honest! But wait you have a friend's ex who is a Lacanist and a MIL? And you're not even French, I'm sorry you have to endure such thing hahaha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 09:42 PM |
| 2 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!They can't afford libfem concessions. Exactly! Perfectly said. Likewise thanks for mentioning the Zapatista Wommen Warriors summit, that's quite fascinating (which led me to read more about Chiapas, Ramona, tascalate...and so on and so forth in the wikipedia rabbit hole). "In the US, child rape/sexual abuse apologism and PickMe-ism are mostly ventriloquized through capitulating women as a PC concession." uuugh, they are the worst! In fact, as we've discussed here pretty often, pickmes are almost… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 09:39 PM |
| 2 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!I remember reading her autobiography when I was around 17 yo and being puzzled by her description of "befriending" a young student and spending time with her and Sartre in a kind of menage à trois. At the time, part of me thought it was cool and the other one sensed that something was wrong... I don't remember how she justified it, but it was probably a kind of preemptive cheating scenario and an attempt to stay in control by choosing other women for him, who were much younger and not on the sam… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 02:59 PM |
| 4 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!Yes, so true. I find feminists from the most flamingly misogynist cultures to be the most badass in general-- the crucible effect. In places where bigotry and bias are more covert and fragmented (at least in public expression), it's too easy to forget the life and death stakes. Hell yeah! I would say it's the same misogyny but one being overt and the other one covert...which can be worse. My mom comes from a so-called "misogynist" culture and she takes no shit. When I tell her about some of my A… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 02:46 PM |
| 1 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!Or Foucault, I would not put Foucault in the same category at all! He analyzed the mechanism of power in society and gave so many anlytical tools both to postcolonial and gender studies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 02:41 PM |
| 3 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!I mean what else can explain Lacan ? Spot on, LMAO. I was born and raised in France and I happen to be in academia as well. Unfortunately Lacan used to be extremely popular in media studies in the states....anytime I heard "Lacan" I just wanted to gag. I enjoy complex thinkers but I can't stand the psychobabble that pretends to be deep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 02:38 PM |
| 2 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!Wasn’t that post written by a MENA woman? Yes and turns out I'm a MENA woman as well (born and raised in Europe) and I'm tired of the association between Muslims-Arabs with patriarchy as if we invented it when it's a worldwide phenomenon. Sure it can be much worse in some places, and just more obvious, but aren't we here because we realized how lib feminism is the wolf in sheep clothes? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 06:53 PM |
| 1 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!I tried as well! Although fds made it clear not to target any minority....few weeks ago there was a post specifically written to bash men for MENA...It made me very disappointed with the sub and I'm glad the mods have taken action but we need an additional banner for racism! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 10:13 PM |
| 5 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!Lol, you don't need to travel to France to have some of it...you can find it here in fds, just look above in the comments : "And now we often have habits from our immigrant Muslim population which is only making things worse." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 10:10 PM |
| 5 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!But she was a proxy abuser to women and Sartre's pimp in many ways. Yes! This is often forgotten.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 10:07 PM |
| -1 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!And now we often have habits from our immigrant Muslim population which is only making things worse. Here we go again... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 10:04 PM |
| 9 | You need to hear this to be able to LEVEL Up. Also that ending had me rolling.no to babbling like a goddamn auctioneer, no to this whole genre of snotty Tiktok posturing and yes to your comment! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 12:58 PM |
| 44 | You need to hear this to be able to LEVEL Up. Also that ending had me rolling.it seems like she’s jumping on a band wagon and not understanding female empowerment. Yes, it sounds a bit fake...Hitting the camera many times and screaming bitch like this is "tough love" doesn't sit well with me. Tough love can be done with respect, without insults and raising your voice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 11:28 PM |
| 61 | You need to hear this to be able to LEVEL Up. Also that ending had me rolling.I like the message but I can't with the "bitch" said ten times :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 11:08 PM |
| 2 | Dating Around, Season 2, Episode 5: SarahI think it goes to show the importance of becoming comfortable in yourself and what you've learnt when you level up after a breakup. She'd recently broken up with her ex (I felt for her when she was saying that she was sick of asking him to be kind to her!) so it may have been one of the first times she was explaining and putting her new found boundaries in places. Which we all know takes time and practice, and can often be messy until we're confident. Exactly!! Oh I mean I can also speak way to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 03:39 PM |
| 5 | Dating Around, Season 2, Episode 5: SarahGurki was lovely but the dude....uuugh, I seriously wanted to punch him in the face!! No no, I'm thinking of Sarah. She kept telling this bald guy how attractive he was (I stopped counting) and at some point when she was asking him if he slept with someone recently, he just left. I like her, don't get me wrong but to me she talks too much about boundaries...which may be the sign that she just acquired them. You know how, when you realize you don't want to go 50/50 on a date you start talking abo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 10:44 AM |
| 5 | Dating Around, Season 2, Episode 5: SarahI liked her a lot, very pretty, quirky, smart and funny....but I wouldn't say she exudes Queen energy. Leaving when the dude kept making stupid comments was a bold move but she wasn't attracted to him in the slightest which made it easier. On the contrary with the dude who left abruptly, she was a little too much and kept paying him compliments (never do that with a stranger). I didn't get the quiet confidence in her...she felt the need to define herself a lot (from my memory...I watched it a wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 09:00 AM |
| 2 | In case you weren't convinced bumble is a breeding ground for an all-around LV experience...Even better: https://www.newyorker.com/humor/daily-shouts/how-dating-during-a-pandemic-is-like-being-in-a-jane-austen-novel | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 05:07 PM |
| 7 | In case you weren't convinced bumble is a breeding ground for an all-around LV experience...well a friend of mine told me she suggested "a walk" for a first date...I really believe that outside of FDS the bar is below the ground and it's the new normal for LVM and unaware women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 05:06 PM |
| 49 | .Exactly! I mean patriarchy is freaking brilliant...putting us in the position to beg for any type of commitment, thus making unpaid labor desirable, while they're the one benefitting from it!! LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 09:36 AM |
| 18 | .23? Gosh, you were born yesterday ;) You have soooo much time ahead of you and now that you know FDS you'll be unstoppable! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 09:32 AM |
| 16 | .Reframing things and living by our own rules is everything :) It's tough sometimes because societal expectations and pressure never stops but shutting down noise and remembering what really makes us happy is the key (and just like you, for me it's my career, close family and the fact that I lived on different continents). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 09:30 AM |
| 29 | .Same! And I agree with DeorisGrey. It boils down to the women in your life. Neither my mom nor my girlfriends were fixated on marriage...interestingly enough that made all of my ex boyfriends more attached. Yet I was a serial monogamist and it's only now that I can envision a potential life without any man and the picture so far isn't that bad...in fact it's lovely! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 09:21 AM |
| 1 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseYou're really making a fool of yourself! Don't you know that when you edit your message it shows on reddit, LMAO. If I said "The USA invented carrots, you can't find them anywhere else in the world" it'd be obvious that the statement is untrue. It's called an ad absurdum argument. But I guess it's still too hard for you to grasp so I'm the one gaslighting...well good luck in life, seriously. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 10:45 PM |
| 12 | Why some women put up with the bare minimum from men in North America: a short essay on societal+patriarchal conditioning, pros and cons/benefits outweigh the costs mindset, and the fear of singledomNo, your friend doesn't know. But even if she did, how would it detract from the shitty things he just did? Every time you have to say "he's not that bad" you are actively engaging in the pros/cons mindset; dating is not a game of 'this cancels out that'. Dating is about boundaries and dealbreakers, if any of those are broken then it's game over. This is so true! In fact even if he treats you well 90% of the time, it's game over. As so many women have mentioned in this sub, if there's a deliciou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 06:33 PM |
| 4 | Perhaps you'll need this sign.I love absolutely love her! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 03:00 PM |
| 8 | Why do men make idols of these emotionless, pseudo-deep characters that are almost always narcissistic and disrespectful towards women?the one about them going to ikea, or whatever that store was. He has rose colored glasses on and chooses to ignore every sign of disinterest, only focusing on and remembering the positive details that confirm his hopes. Good point! I was actually going to mention this scene in which she seems to like him in a romantic way...but you're right there were other moments when she treated him just as a friend, so the movie does a good job at showing us his perspective (with rose colored glasses) until … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 06:16 PM |
| 28 | When women hate men, we stay away from them, when men hate women, they go on incel killing spreesI guess it's the same idea behind blocking...if you keep arguing or giving them negative attention, it's still attention. The thing they can't tolerate is if we decide NOT to interact with them. Ignoring LV is worst than anything...it's "killing" them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 05:42 PM |
| 18 | Why do men make idols of these emotionless, pseudo-deep characters that are almost always narcissistic and disrespectful towards women?A lot of men aren't smart enough to know when they aren't supposed to like the main character. They think most screen time= the best. I may be the only one but that really cracked me up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 05:35 PM |
| 4 | Why do men make idols of these emotionless, pseudo-deep characters that are almost always narcissistic and disrespectful towards women?Building up relationships in my head. Ignoring direct communication. Chasing after people who didn't want me. That was the pb with the male character? I've watched it a while ago and didn't see any red flags at the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 05:29 PM |
| 3 | It's time for women to start thinking about equity instead of equalityGreat post. People confuse equality with identity. We can be equal without being identical. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 09:57 AM |
| 17 | OLD is truly a dumpster fireAstrophysics? Woooow....that sounds dreamy (I'm not a "science" person and I have this fangirl reflex when I hear astrophysics). ps: the school I went to was really good in astrophysics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 09:11 AM |
| 10 | OLD is truly a dumpster fireLol, I know! In the past I was wondering if I didn't go on dates just to entertain my friends...just kidding, but the stories (aka the bonding over shitty men) was the only thing I got from it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 09:05 AM |
| 7 | Relationship Ambiguity Is The New Backlash, and It's Dangerous and Effective Because of Its SubtletyI agree! If you only give a chance to men who really are pursuing you then they are the one who bring up the relationship and the marriage...without you saying anything. If they don't, they're not really serious about you...and if they do, then YOU are still evaluating them and deciding wether you want to be in a relationship with them or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 08:59 AM |
| 5 | Relationship Ambiguity Is The New Backlash, and It's Dangerous and Effective Because of Its SubtletyI know, I encountered some LV in my country but at least once you sleep together it's expected that you're bf/gf...no need for the talk which is just another power move from men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 08:45 AM |
| 4 | Relationship Ambiguity Is The New Backlash, and It's Dangerous and Effective Because of Its Subtletyyou forget "hell"..."hell yes" :D | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 08:35 AM |
| 5 | Relationship Ambiguity Is The New Backlash, and It's Dangerous and Effective Because of Its SubtletyWhich is why as a twenty something I live single, with a vibrator. I’ve honestly had better internal conversations with myself than with any man I’ve dated. LMAO, that comment made my day! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 08:33 AM |
| 1 | Leveling up physically for 2021!It's funny you're replying now...because I've been doing keto for ten days. So far so good! I love the clarity and not thinking about food all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 01:12 PM |
| 9 | Having sugar daddies and “sugaring” is literally underpaid prostitution from men preying on naive young girls. It’s not easy money without consequences and people need to stop glamorizing it to make it appeal to literal children. This is grooming.Here's my upvote ;) Some people are very very fast to judge, talking about it = condoning it. Sigh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 01:03 PM |
| 7 | Forgive yourself if you can't follow FDS principles perfectly. It's okay to slip up as long as you recognize your mistakes and you vow to do better next time.I’ve actually found that the first time you enforce your boundaries and walk away, leaving a slobbering, jaw-dropped wreck of a LVM behind you is so damn empowering, it almost becomes a pleasure, and then when a man starts passing your vets, it’s almost disappointing! I stopped dating but that's how I felt during the summer...disappointed when I couldn't drop a dude that easily, haha. Although I still made mistake as I was knew to fds and gave the benefit of the doubt to a LVM. I love how you fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 12:46 PM |
| 2 | Her whole account is GOLDI got a tiny sample of it by removing most men from my life...and the peace is huuuge..but a cottage? Even better! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 04:47 PM |
| 17 | My goal for this year is to have boundaries and establish them like men do. They only do what they want, when they want it, with whomever they decide. There is no forcing them, they never give in, especially if they're not benefiting. I aspire to be like this.True!! This being said there's some truth in OP's post. Men can be laser focus and very selfish...we tend to be more flexible, accommodating...for instance I've rarely heard women say they're not ready for a relationship because of their career (aside from here), while plenty of men would not commit until they've reached their happy place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 10:30 AM |
| 103 | Her whole account is GOLDpatriarchal conundrum: "If a woman lives in a forest and no man can see her, does she still exists?" Yes scrote, absolutely! In fact she lives better that way.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 10:21 AM |
| 15 | She hit every nail on its head!!Exactly, he knows what he's doing. Show him the door and call it a day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 10:41 AM |
| 1 | From Men’s Mouths to Your Ears. Don’t be a forever girlfriend.Too bad! Maybe you can repost and remove the triggering words? It happened to me once on this sub to have my comment removed because I was talking about narcs and how to push their victim to feel sui***** | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 08:39 AM |
| 2 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseI don’t have to check anything. Lol, of course not! If you had context you'd be forced to see that my comment was ironic...and truth be told, a sound mind doesn't need context to get it but apparently some people can't go beyond the literal meaning of things. It must be sad to live in your two dimensional world where you end up shooting allies. Pick your battles wisely my dear. Ma'a salama! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 08:30 AM |
| 1 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseGirl I was OBVIOUSLY kidding!!! Check my other messages in the sub! I couldn't be more sarcastic: "A phenomenon never witnessed anywhere else in the world ;)" I was in fact showing the absurdity of trashing MENA men given how patriarchy is everywhere (and again check my other messages). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 10:12 PM |
| 2 | Can we talk about Botox and lip fillers and plastic surgery?You can probably tell I'm definitely not in favor of social media :) Sure "Just like they can take pictures of themselves out on the town or of their delicious dinner because they want to commemorate their personal experience" but I keep seeing people celebrating things that consists in taking picture...I don't know if I make sense but the main event becomes taking pictures. I'm absolutely not against surgery..if you are trying to enhance your own features. Trying to look like everyone else thou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 12:11 AM |
| 2 | Can we talk about Botox and lip fillers and plastic surgery?Society doesn't only want you to look pretty. It wants you to look pretty AND pretend it is effortless so men can get the benefit but pay nothing in return. So true!!! They want a "high maintenance" women who doesn't look high maintenance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 11:57 PM |
| 1 | Can we talk about Botox and lip fillers and plastic surgery?Good luck with your nose job! I really don't see the problem of bettering yourself...we do that in every area of our life and I don't see why one couldn't refine her nose to make it more harmonious with her face...I mean you're not trying to look like someone else, just enhance your own nose :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 11:55 PM |
| 3 | Can we talk about Botox and lip fillers and plastic surgery?Can we also point out how this emphasize on "not aging" and superficial images, ironically makes everyone looks uglier? No shade but when I see young women taking endless selfies and taking pictures of everything instead of enjoying the present moment...I can sense a hollowness that is NOT attractive. I may sound like a boomer but social media makes people trade off charm and substance for cold plastic and no one is winning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 11:45 PM |
| 3 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseLMAO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 11:13 PM |
| 3 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseFinally some common sense in this thread! Patriarchy is systemic...turns out racism as well and people don't even realize it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 11:13 PM |
| 5 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseDating a MENA man in France is practically a rite of passage for every non-Muslim woman in France. huh what? Sorry but that reminds me of the "MENA/hijabi" porn category...The Arab man as this exotic thing from the "Orient", poor Edward Said, he must be crying in his grave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 11:09 PM |
| 7 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseHe thought probably because my mom is Asian/North African This is off topic but she's Asian and North African? Must be gorgeous! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 11:05 PM |
| 6 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseI know bc I’m Arab and I grew up in a diverse area in the west. These men are almost the same, just different flavors. Exactly! In the West they just hide it better. The "nice guy" is worse than the plague...cause he sucks and he still let me pay my share while taking the booth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 11:04 PM |
| 9 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseMaybe Lebanese expats? A lot of them live in Dubai. I lived in Leb and men are freaking gorgeous there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 10:58 PM |
| 9 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseI can't join in the MENA men are the worst cause I'm tired of the Muslim/Arab are pigs and would rather say men in general are awful...my worst experiences are with Americans/European...I dated men from MENA but it never got serious so maybe I just dodged bullets. Also I have no experience with UAE. This being said, what you describe is absolutely awful! I'm really sorry, the two last episodes are quite traumatic! I guess you're a foreigner? I believe that the madonna/whore complex which is a wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 10:57 PM |
| 4 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseDon't you know Arab men, particularly if they are Muslim have invented patriarchy? A phenomenon never witnessed anywhere else in the world ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 10:45 PM |
| 4 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseMaybe we can talk about women in Irak before the Gulf war: The nation produced the first female judge, ambassador, and government minister in the Arab world. Iraqi women benefited from state subsidised childcare and education; they once formed about half the public sector workforce and 50 percent of the country’s doctors. https://www.aljazeera.com/opinions/2015/3/8/iraqi-women-things-were-so-much-better-before Also from wiki: Until the 1990s, Iraqi women played an active role in the political an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 10:41 PM |
| 7 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseThanks! Please let's not turn this sub into colonial feminism where Arab men are the devil and Arab women are to be saved. I agree men from MENA can be awful but it's a patriarchal thing, it hasn't much to do with being brown or Muslim. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 10:09 PM |
| 5 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseI'm sorry you had to deal with that. I have been in different countries in NA and ME and even lived there and aside from the usual cat calling, I never encountered any problems. As I said, they were courteous, generous (and it has nothing to do with money, it's cultural) and happy to help. Were they serious about me? Lol, that's a different story. Bear in mind I can pass for a local. The difference I see is that they play a slightly different game and women who live there are equipped to play it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 10:03 PM |
| 8 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseThis is MEN period...LVM MENA men will at least take you on real dates, pay and be courteous even if they waste your time. American LVM will treat you like garbage and waste your time...ask me how I know it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 05:03 PM |
| 10 | From Men’s Mouths to Your Ears. Don’t be a forever girlfriend.The first step in triaging many victims was in explaining how and why all the blaming bystanders and crappy "helping professionals" that survivors are usually inundated with were full of shit and operating off antiquated theories. It's what it took to mentally liberate many people who had been beaten down not only by an individual abuser but by the system. We had to study the whole gamut of social science in that regard, know the research, the histories of certain views, the money trails and age… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 11:10 PM |
| 25 | From Men’s Mouths to Your Ears. Don’t be a forever girlfriend.This is soooo interesting, and thanks for your input! I started to get a bit annoyed at the pop psychology behind attachment theory. I have no doubt it can be helpful as a tool among many but it seemed to be used too many times to justify the shitty behaviors of the neglectful partner (he's just the avoidant type) and self blame ("I'm clingy"...no, he's an asshole so anything you do will come off as clingy). Of course I'm simplifying a lot. Your third paragraph is particularly interesting...so i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 09:17 PM |
| 22 | From Men’s Mouths to Your Ears. Don’t be a forever girlfriend.Preach miss peach! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 08:53 PM |
| 3 | Say no to easy men 👀So you'll clean the mons pubis, labia majoria, labia minora with just your hand or 1x a week? During and after your menstrual cycle, before and after sex, after a bowel movement? Are you trolling or playing dumb on purpose? I'm JUST discussing the use of a washcloth, neither the regularity of cleaning nor the use of soap....and scrubbing my skin once a week is on TOP of washing myself with soap. Also if you were curious (as I was with the washcloth) instead of being judgmental and quick to be co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 08:20 PM |
| 3 | Say no to easy men 👀Please be a man....women have to use a washcloth to clean themselves daily. Says whom lol? This last line is pretty offensive! Soap and water, plus a scrub once a week is how it's done in some places but apparently women are not women over there? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 10:30 AM |
| 36 | For the ladies who are dating... remember the sooner you cut him off, the less it will hurt. At the first red flag, block and delete.How many of us looking back realize we looked past red flags? Then we get attached to them and its near impossible to walk away. My gut was screaming and yet I still proceeded without caution...I always felt like I was intentionally running into a wall with my eyes wide open. Such a weird feeling. We (at least I did) knew but chose to ignore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 12:03 AM |
| 7 | I'm not even sure if I want to date anymore. And I think I'm okay with that.Welcome to the club!!! I feel we're all going through a phase where we feel we've been scammed, when the patriarchal glasses fall off... Wether you end up meeting a HVM, dating or not...it's such a blessing to become truly independent and self-reliant (not in a lib fem way where independence means becoming more of a slave to a man who doesn't bring anything to the table). So in either scenario, single or with a HVM, we'll be perfectly fine! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 05:57 PM |
| 3 | I'm not even sure if I want to date anymore. And I think I'm okay with that.There's also the log lady, a true cat lady. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 05:52 PM |
| 5 | I'm not even sure if I want to date anymore. And I think I'm okay with that.Sometimes I do feel lonely or need some physical intimacy, but I do not want to trade my peace when I’m alone with a mediocre relationship and all the emotional labors that are accompanied by that. There with you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 05:50 PM |
| 5 | I'm not even sure if I want to date anymore. And I think I'm okay with that.Same!! I was depressed and kept wondering what was wrong with me. I had to leave for familial reasons and suddenly my symptoms disappeared. His manipulative behaviors were soooo efficient that I kept blaming myself for his abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 05:46 PM |
| 3 | Say no to easy men 👀haha yes, nothing beats a good hammam ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 05:37 PM |
| 13 | The vibes of liberal men towards me since I started with FDSAnd more importantly, it just does not benefit them at all (I would argue that it does in the long run, but they happen to be short-sighted). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 05:35 PM |
| 35 | The vibes of liberal men towards me since I started with FDSThey just learned to disguise it under the, "I believe in women and equality!!! Yep, you're a strong independent woman so you can pay your share of the bill and come over for selfish sex, cause hey, you know how to take care of your needs, don't you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 05:32 PM |
| 33 | The vibes of liberal men towards me since I started with FDShow I'm a conservative SAME!!! And they were all super "liberal" men...and said that as if it were an insult...it's used to shut you down whenever you are simply being freaking CRITICAL. I've always been a political free thinker, refuse to be associated with either group, I've never believed either gives a shit about me. I believe they hate us because they don't have the script!! They can't say the right "woke" bullshit to get into our pants...cause it doesn't work, we see right through them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 05:26 PM |
| 6 | Say no to easy men 👀never doing it is kind of gross lol I fully agree!! In my culture it's a ritual to go to a steam room once a week and get all the dead skin off. It feels amazing afterwards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 05:18 PM |
| 4 | YOUR pleasure is just as important as his, if not more. Act like it!yep, I've always thought it was a patriarchal misconception for men to keep being lazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 05:11 PM |
| 5 | YOUR pleasure is just as important as his, if not more. Act like it!I imagine for guys it would be like the woman playing with their balls for 4 mins without stimulating their penis and then asking them if they came. Lol!! I think women should do that next time they end up with a selfish lover | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 05:10 PM |
| 9 | Say no to easy men 👀Well, don't scrub your body every day in the shower!! Once a week is enough (otherwise my skin becomes super dry). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 05:07 PM |
| 3 | Sex starts before foreplayBingo...because everything sex...you tell them you're looking for friendship first, they think "friends with benefits", you tell them it starts in the mind, they dirty talk you...it's like a freaking mine field!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 05:03 PM |
| 5 | Sex starts before foreplayThat was my shower thought today after I soiled my mind by reading disgusting Armie Hammer's DMs. He's only a symptom of how society is pushing for BDSM and degrading acts towards women...when in fact a guy should be grateful to be in our presence and consider intimacy as the gift it is. Thanks for the reminder, we need them daily to counterbalance the patriarchal brainwashing in favor of LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 05:00 PM |
| 4 | A Man Sends Hookup off With a Bag of Doritos and $40 - PickMes on Twitter: 😍😍😍😍😍😍Same! "Thanks for your time...send off bag"...Great value (for me). The dude is so freaking sadistic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 04:54 PM |
| 3 | A Man Sends Hookup off With a Bag of Doritos and $40 - PickMes on Twitter: 😍😍😍😍😍😍if I got a packed breakfast and 40 USD every time I slept with a man well at least I'd have had the means to get lunch and dinner that day, Taking you for dinner which would cost $40 and giving you $40 after sex DO NOT HAVE the same connotation and we know scrotes are all about power trip. He's literally paying her to insult her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 04:51 PM |
| 3 | A Man Sends Hookup off With a Bag of Doritos and $40 - PickMes on Twitter: 😍😍😍😍😍😍hahahaha, they're real, aren't they? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 04:48 PM |
| 1 | A Man Sends Hookup off With a Bag of Doritos and $40 - PickMes on Twitter: 😍😍😍😍😍😍You will not give that to a child, that is nutricional abusive. Lol, true!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 04:45 PM |
| 3 | A Man Sends Hookup off With a Bag of Doritos and $40 - PickMes on Twitter: 😍😍😍😍😍😍I mean sure....but the worst part for me is that it was $40. For real? It's like the guy puts you in the position of being a prostitute and not even a high end escort. Double insult. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 04:44 PM |
| 2 | A Man Sends Hookup off With a Bag of Doritos and $40 - PickMes on Twitter: 😍😍😍😍😍😍: A smoke for the morning after to try and ease your regrets for hooking up with an LVM 🤡😂 hahaha a scrote fully self-aware of himself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 04:38 PM |
| 12 | Say no to easy men 👀Robert Sapolsky (evolutionary biologist at Stanford) Sapolsky !!! I talked with one of his colleagues, the dude apparently got 2 PhDs. He's so clear and articulate that I ended up binge watching his lectures :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 04:26 PM |
| 10 | Say no to easy men 👀Many that do bathe daily do not use a washcloth. I have seen guys bathe with their hands. Wait, am I missing something? What's wrong with not showering with a washcloth? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 04:21 PM |
| 24 | Say no to easy men 👀he be eating everybody pussy, If only! He's too selfish for that haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 04:20 PM |
| 12 | Say no to easy men 👀Quality is what we're looking for, not quantity. Its better to have four quarters than one hundred pennies I love your analogy. And you should add, it's worth it to wait for the quarters...or just get rid of the hundred pennies, they slow you down while you're climbing mountains! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 04:18 PM |
| 4 | Don't let them trick you, BDSM was never empowering.you probably mean convicted? Yes agree! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 02:08 AM |
| 8 | Don't let them trick you, BDSM was never empowering.https://www.instagram.com/houseofeffie/?hl=en check out her stories. Trigger warning: it's very...intense to say the least. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 01:20 AM |
| 2 | Don't let them trick you, BDSM was never empowering.No worries, I think I got it right ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 12:37 AM |
| 15 | Don't let them trick you, BDSM was never empowering.Yeah I read all of them....I just couldn't stop. Every time I thought it couldn't get worse...well guess what, it kept getting worse. One young woman also said he enjoyed getting them attached and once they were attached he would ghost them (plus the extreme violent and degrading sex act)...there is no way in the world this guy is able to form normal connections, including with his children. I guess there's one thing he's capable of as a good psychopath: being an actor and faking it. Although yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 12:23 AM |
| 3 | Don't let them trick you, BDSM was never empowering.arf not even in pm? Haha, okay I'll guess it's Sarkozy (Holland was in the tabloids and Macron is too rational for that type of things). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 12:15 AM |
| 22 | Don't let them trick you, BDSM was never empowering.He's a textbook psychopath. He love bombs and grooms his victim and then sucks the life out of them (including financially, although the dude is loaded): https://pagesix.com/2021/01/14/armie-hammers-ex-courtney-vucekovich-he-wanted-to-barbecue-and-eat-me/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 12:13 AM |
| 13 | Don't let them trick you, BDSM was never empowering.for real? I mean, he's good looking for sure but his personality is not charismatic...and there's something cold in his eyes. Was he always that off? I just checked houseofeffie stories and it's insane, psychopath level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 12:03 AM |
| 16 | Don't let them trick you, BDSM was never empowering.https://www.instagram.com/houseofeffie/?hl=en The stories are HORRIFYING. The dude is a legit psychopath. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 12:01 AM |
| 13 | Don't let them trick you, BDSM was never empowering.remember when his daughter sucked his toe and he thought it was funny? I checked the stories of houseofeffie and the dude is absolutely deranged and dangerous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 11:59 PM |
| 2 | Don't let them trick you, BDSM was never empowering.Which French president? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 11:57 PM |
| 60 | This almost makes me want to redownload dating apps to do the same!they tried with the boy scouts but they bragged too much and couldn't keep secrets and were too risky. lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 09:06 PM |
| 15 | Protect your energy from everyoneI can't anymore with these "friends". They use you as an emotional dumpster, don't listen to your advice when they don't align with what they want to hear...and keep coming back while pretending to ask you for advice. Yes let her go, the two of you are not on the same page and it's one sided. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 08:35 PM |
| 2 | Protect your energy from everyoneleave me stranded in a bar to go sleep with a scrote only to beg for forgiveness and promises that they'd take my advice next time. I feel this is a universal experience unfortunately! Also yes, another feature of the ultimate pickme is not encouraging you to trust your gut in favour of giving the benefit of the doubt to some undeserving scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 08:33 PM |
| 7 | Protect your energy from everyonemake jokes about how I'm not fun to be around anymore. - low key negs that are "just jokes" and that I need to calm down. huh what?? Friends are supposed to cheer you up and respect your choices not act like cliquish teenagers. Don't listen to the noise, you're much better than peer pressure. When I decided to be sober no one made fun of me but I did observe who supported me and who was trying to make me drink...funny how suddenly a lot of people want to buy you a drink? Where were there when I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 08:28 PM |
| 4 | Protect your energy from everyoneI'm sorry to hear that. The best you can do is to remove yourself from the situation. People have to change by themselves. You did your best...maybe she'll come back when she'll be ready. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 08:12 PM |
| 3 | Protect your energy from everyoneWait, is it the same story? Gosh I'm sorry about it! What an awful person :/ I recall a couple of months ago someone posting here on FDS about how her pickme friend in college invited her out to a party, but when they arrived, they were at an abandoned warehouse and some strange man tried to pull the OP out of the taxi. She found out later that pickme promised her bf that she would act as a procuress for bf's creepy friend! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 07:06 PM |
| 3 | Protect your energy from everyoneRelatable. LVM's and Pickmes are the reason why I'm choosing to be alone, so from "hating to be lonely", I've ended up like "I absolutely love being by myself." Why? I have a ton shit of hobbies that need to be cultivated and people didn't actually added value to my life, they just took, abused and discarded me. Never again. THAT! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 07:05 PM |
| 9 | Protect your energy from everyoneAs we say nature abhors a vacuum :) It's not the right time to meet people but I've met some women randomly, via hobbies, at the gym even at the airport! It's tricky with the situation, but once it lifts there are many ways to make new friends. I may also try bumble for friends. But at the end of the day, I think right now is the best occasion to learn to appreciate one's own company. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 07:03 PM |
| 9 | Protect your energy from everyoneI had a group of friends just like that...while I was trying to implement overall good habits. I had to say goodbye as well! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 06:56 PM |
| 11 | Protect your energy from everyoneShe found out later that pickme promised her bf that she would act as a procuress for bf's creepy friend! What the hell?? That's awful..your "trusted" girlfriend actually being a pimp? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 06:55 PM |
| 27 | Protect your energy from everyoneMen are almost more straightforward. I expect abuse from them almost. But pickme women are insidious. Whenever I’ve felt betrayed, it was because of a pickme woman. it can be more insidious...also because we give more leeway to our friends...at least I did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 06:54 PM |
| 16 | Bridgerton was a hot mess but I still binge watched it!I'm 100% with you. Movies are not just movies, they inform our imagination which then bleeds into our life choices. We need to stop romanticizing shitty behaviors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 01:54 PM |
| 2 | In this society, we are all pickmes by default, we have to unlearn it, and this work is hard. FDS is life outside the caveeven if you can come up with the money it’s still a tremendous undertaking to have a child and really requires a village, truly, to do it well. To speak plainly, I don’t think there’s a simple solution here at all. We are always up against our biological clocks, in need of major resources and wading through a shallow pool of HVM. Sigh. This is quite true. I'm glad women here get me. I've always been clear that if I don't make enough money and have the support system, I won't have children for th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 12:34 PM |
| 1 | In this society, we are all pickmes by default, we have to unlearn it, and this work is hard. FDS is life outside the caveBut there is so much pressure against women being financially independent that it’s easy to invest time into dating rather than learning about personal finance strategies. Preach!! I've met so many men who are clear on their goals and prioritize them. It's only on fds that I meet (virtually) women who also know where their real interest lies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 12:29 PM |
| 9 | The #bussitchallange: A Scrotes Dreamhttps://www.ted.com/talks/cal_newport_why_you_should_quit_social_media?language=en | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 09:40 PM |
| 7 | Why women keep "losing".Can this go in the handbook? It's gold and freaking accurate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 04:38 PM |
| 7 | Why women keep "losing".but I think when people say that they mean that women just get a sense of connection after sex which makes them feel more bonded to someone vs how the guy views it. I wasn’t in love at all w my ex but I remember I would have sex w him just to “feel close” to him. I agree. It's not love but feeling closer and more vulnerable...but for me it also depends on the guy. In some situations I even had the so-called (misogynist) "post nut clarity". I found him very attractive, was curious...but knew I co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 04:36 PM |
| 32 | Why women keep "losing".yep, and the truth is... even if you give less and he gives more, often time you end up even. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 04:31 PM |
| 18 | Why women keep "losing".Agreed!! It should go in the handbook! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 04:29 PM |
| 3 | Ladies make sure you are stable before you go into the unstable dating world.That's why I did like hinge better. I did not do anything. I just let get guys message me first and I don't even have to swipe...but even that became annoying. There's a pandemic, nothing is open and I just can't tolerate the date walk offers anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 03:25 PM |
| 8 | Ladies make sure you are stable before you go into the unstable dating world.LV/NV do this thing with women where they take away our ability to believe in the existence in HVM which is one of the most powerful things they can do. At the end of the day them making you believe it's a falsehood makes you settle, give up, or live in negativity. Very good point!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 03:22 PM |
| 8 | FDS incarnate: the story of my momThanks for sharing your mom's story! Your dad sounds absolutely amazing...in fact both of your parents. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 03:16 PM |
| 2 | Here is what my hijab (headscarf) taught me about male entitlement, the male gaze, and the conditionality of men's treatment of womenThanks a lot I've approached gender studies from a philosophical perspective but a sociological is very much needed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 06:44 PM |
| 5 | Here is what my hijab (headscarf) taught me about male entitlement, the male gaze, and the conditionality of men's treatment of womenI'd love to know more! Any titles to share? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 08:55 AM |
| 11 | So I just finished watching BRIDGERTON and I am SO FUCKING ANGRY. The two protagonists are a pickme and a fuckboy. Why are people shipping them? Their relationship is toxic AFI know. A king falls in love and structural racism (including its economy) disappears overnight, poof! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 04:39 PM |
| 6 | So I just finished watching BRIDGERTON and I am SO FUCKING ANGRY. The two protagonists are a pickme and a fuckboy. Why are people shipping them? Their relationship is toxic AFLol, I know. This does not make any freaking sense...especially since they picked a handsome, respectful prince. Like come on guys, at least pick up a gross one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 02:11 AM |
| 4 | So I just finished watching BRIDGERTON and I am SO FUCKING ANGRY. The two protagonists are a pickme and a fuckboy. Why are people shipping them? Their relationship is toxic AFAnd the show does it in such a heavyhanded way, too. I don't like TV shows that try to force modern value systems onto historical characters. I don't care about them casting black people, I think that can be quite subversive actually, but the pathetically clumsy, weak lip service to liberal feminism was too much for me. Agreed!! It made me cringe so many times. It's soo forced and you can tell they really tried to check all the boxes to be politically relevant and bring you the "perfect" show wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 02:09 AM |
| 3 | So I just finished watching BRIDGERTON and I am SO FUCKING ANGRY. The two protagonists are a pickme and a fuckboy. Why are people shipping them? Their relationship is toxic AFthink of all the ways this did not make sense. My feelingS. Even the so called black queen..initially I liked that but then, really? Love? Love was able to abolish slavery. LMAO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 02:06 AM |
| 4 | So I just finished watching BRIDGERTON and I am SO FUCKING ANGRY. The two protagonists are a pickme and a fuckboy. Why are people shipping them? Their relationship is toxic AFIt's funny that you say that because the very first scene of the trailer is a hint at the sexism she encountered. The Polgar sisters were able to go far in chess but it was after the era the Queen Gambit depicts. You're right but it seems that the show has triggered many conversations surrounding the place of women in chess so that's good! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 01:55 AM |
| 8 | In this society, we are all pickmes by default, we have to unlearn it, and this work is hard. FDS is life outside the caveIf I get the financial means, honestly that's a good option as well! I was able to remove completely my exes from my life literally overnight. That wouldn't be possible with kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 01:50 AM |
| 14 | Time traveler??I know!!! I saw pics on facebook of a guy who used to be soooooo handsome! Like tall, dark and handsome type...I mean I'm sure every single woman had a crush on him. He's now 36 and I barely recognize him. It's insane! In the meantime my girlfriends look better than ever because confidence plus independence and money seems to be doing wonder for us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 01:48 AM |
| 3 | So I just finished watching BRIDGERTON and I am SO FUCKING ANGRY. The two protagonists are a pickme and a fuckboy. Why are people shipping them? Their relationship is toxic AFBut I’m a theatre kid, I like pretending and I like being able to hang it up what I’m done. It’s an exercise in empathy if the writing is good. If it’s reeeally good you can even understand the villain, doesn’t mean you agree with or condone their actions. Everyone has flaws, even the good ones make mistakes. Damn are we talking Aristotle's poetics now? :) That was actually his theory. For him theatre was used as a catharsis for all our pent up emotions. I now feel like the very uncool Plato who… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 01:45 AM |
| 6 | In this society, we are all pickmes by default, we have to unlearn it, and this work is hard. FDS is life outside the caveActually? Yes, it's a much better option if you can afford financially. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 01:40 AM |
| 14 | Are there “degrees to pickmeism?”I see that everyone strives for constant improvement, not for a sudden perfect change, which means that some of us will be ahead in their journey, while others have it harder due to past trauma and personal things that sometimes need to be addressed with therapy. Also, the emotional bond that relationships create just make it harder to stay woke and alert against everything, which means that there can be slips and mistakes. Yes! And that's what I love about fds. When I started to read the sub al… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 01:07 AM |
| 1 | So I just finished watching BRIDGERTON and I am SO FUCKING ANGRY. The two protagonists are a pickme and a fuckboy. Why are people shipping them? Their relationship is toxic AFFair enough! But my point was that the entire genre was problematic. I don't mean to turn into the fds cultural police but I genuinely think that indulging frequently into this type of entertainment isn't doing any good to our individual and collective psyche. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 12:55 AM |
| 12 | In this society, we are all pickmes by default, we have to unlearn it, and this work is hard. FDS is life outside the caveThe main goal of FDS is not about searching for HVM Who said it was? Certainly no me. I was just pointing the irony of reproducing in a world full of LVM. I'm happy by myself and have no intention to date at the moment. This being said, there is no way I can financially have a kid by myself, given my career...and given that HVM are almost like unicorn...I'm not really betting on having kids right now. But I'm happy to mentor young women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 12:49 AM |
| 6 | So I just finished watching BRIDGERTON and I am SO FUCKING ANGRY. The two protagonists are a pickme and a fuckboy. Why are people shipping them? Their relationship is toxic AFValid but if there was no drama there would be no show. Naaah you can have a great show and no toxic drama relationships in it. Shows don't have to perpetuate toxic narratives to be entertaining. It's not like we have pickme with abusive prince or nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 11:36 PM |
| 24 | So I just finished watching BRIDGERTON and I am SO FUCKING ANGRY. The two protagonists are a pickme and a fuckboy. Why are people shipping them? Their relationship is toxic AFThe Queen Gambit, sooooo good. Give it a try! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 11:33 PM |
| 17 | Tell me again how porn doesn't cause brain damage and isn't intrinsically linked to paedophilia. 🤢and those are the ones who are remotely aware of the pb... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 09:54 PM |
| 27 | So I just finished watching BRIDGERTON and I am SO FUCKING ANGRY. The two protagonists are a pickme and a fuckboy. Why are people shipping them? Their relationship is toxic AFLol, I wrote a post about it a week or so ago. I was sooooo furious. It's a MAJOR disappointment! Also, what is this bullshit "black and white" people coexist peacefully? Are we going to pretend that slavery barely existed in order to have a 2020 diverse cast? The more I think about this show the more I want to throw up. Why Shonda, why?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 09:49 PM |
| 32 | In this society, we are all pickmes by default, we have to unlearn it, and this work is hard. FDS is life outside the cavethe pb is that now we realize there are so many LVM and very few HVM...so how are we gonna have daughters? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 09:45 PM |
| 39 | In this society, we are all pickmes by default, we have to unlearn it, and this work is hard. FDS is life outside the caveFor me becoming truly fds meant coming here daily, staring at patriarchy in all its forms and doing a lot of reflective work so I could become as fearless as possible. Once the demons are gone, you can be by yourself and having a man becomes superfluous...a nice addition but nothing more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 09:44 PM |
| 3 | How to spot a cheating manYeah I don’t believe men are capable of being faithful. Me neither...when I think HVM I think the least terrible of men if that makes sense...or the one with whom I can be in a relationship which is highly beneficial to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 09:02 PM |
| 2 | How to spot a cheating manIt really opened my eyes in one way that I deserved a beautiful life and all that I wanted, but the expense of it was that of male validation, which is very costly and risky and emotionally draining. I got out of that but jumped into a relationship with an abusive narcissist. Now I’m HAPPILY single and actually achieving more money through my career as an artist, WITHOUT catering to men. That's actually the best. But this experienced showed you (unlike me, a total libfem brainwashed) that men ar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 08:58 PM |
| 10 | How to spot a cheating manedit: and another thing - NEVER go 50/50 if you want another reason not to because they literally use that extra money to spend on other women and in fact find ways to spend less/have her cover more so they have more discretionary income to spend on them. don't make it any easier. so if he starts wanting to have more 'equality' or whatever the fuck trying to get you to earn more etc. that is another sign he's trying to free up his finances to spend on someone else Oooh that's good to know! Anoth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 08:52 PM |
| 3 | For the ladies who are not necessarily marriage mindedOne thing that helps ALOT is to stop watching TV shows, movies and reading books that glorify the idea of getting a man, as if it's our sole purpose in life. When I cut all of that toxic media out of my life, I stopped caring so much about finding a man right now and more about finding the right man. I finally know what I want and for the first time in my life I'm totally satisfied with the idea of being by myself if I cannot find someone who is suitable for me. Never again will I settle for an … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 07:17 PM |
| 5 | For the ladies who are not necessarily marriage mindedhe's got to really be worthy and absolutely unbelievable for me to even give him the time of day. And if not, staying single is a good way to be! Yes! After doing mental gymnastic when I realized I wasn't fulfilled anymore but not ready to let go of my old habits I had to be honest with myself: my old habits are not part of my dna and I'm clinging to them because they are familiar to me. You have no idea how relieved I felt when I realized 1) I don't need a man in my life 2) I can raise the bar … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 07:12 PM |
| 3 | For the ladies who are not necessarily marriage mindedI also think that for those of us who don't care about marriage can stay single and keep levelling up. Totally. The "marriage minded" strategy is just here to be pickier with men I accept to let in my life...it doesn't have to translate into walking the aisle nor into intimate dating. It just came to a point where I realized that sex with most men, and having a temporary bf, ends up being a total waste of time and energy. So for me it's celibacy or someone who is really worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 07:07 PM |
| 3 | For the ladies who are not necessarily marriage mindedThis☝️. Women need to be aware that there are men who will get into relationships just to have easy access to sex. Exactly! But I think sometimes we forget to examine own beliefs. I realized that every single LVM who wasted my time...deep down I knew he wasn't bringing much to the table and I was fine with that because I didn't want more...but what if I thought I couldn't get more? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 07:02 PM |
| 2 | For the ladies who are not necessarily marriage mindedOf course :) It used to bother me so much (what if I don't get married? Can I just enjoy dating...come on...just a little bit of instant gratification with a LVM...) until it became clear to me what type of narrative was holding me back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 06:57 PM |
| 153 | Time traveler??and honestly when we're 32, we look like we're 25. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 05:19 PM |
| 4 | You should never be financially losing when you're in a relationship. If he expects you to pay his bill, pay for dinner, be the maid, take your damn self out, love.Sounds like he just wanted a pretty companion for free. Bingo!! He made me feel like a trophy wife without backing it up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 02:56 PM |
| 5 | You should never be financially losing when you're in a relationship. If he expects you to pay his bill, pay for dinner, be the maid, take your damn self out, love.Yes!! People say we spend less money as a couple than being single...well not when you split with a man who eats as twice as you, likes to go to nice restaurants but won't pay for your share...the bf with whom I participated 30 per cent had luxury tastes and wanted to travel. I even ended up taking a loan. So yes he was contributing more but I still went broke because he could afford and I was living above my means to keep up. When I moved with him a non-pickme friend asked me if he was going to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 02:47 PM |
| 1 | Bridgerton or the epitome of liberal feminismWelcome!! The place where you can vent about Bridgerton as much as you want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 01:38 PM |
| 19 | If you ain't serious, send me on my way and I will thank you. Sadly, LVM love to string women along with the hope of something permanent. I'm good.Plus, consider this- if someone is busy ignoring you, they obviously don't care about you, think of the people you like and care about, do you just randomly start ignoring them? No, because you're a decent human being, they aren't. They're either doing some hot and cold intermittent reinforcement type thing where they're trying to get you hooked on their (crumbs of) attention or there is some other scrotacity at play. I agree, in short, either he doesn't care or he's playing games and both are b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 01:27 PM |
| 27 | If you ain't serious, send me on my way and I will thank you. Sadly, LVM love to string women along with the hope of something permanent. I'm good.I view these experiences as gifts. I know this probably sounds ridiculous, but I compare it to that “thank you, next” song. Lol, I could have written every single words, from the strategy to delete and block a dude to avoid sending the dreading message at the beginning, to now gaining the strength to do it without flinching, to have the "thank you next" song in my mind when I do it. I obviously second everything you wrote. At first you force yourself and develop strategies not to cave in, then y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 01:18 PM |
| 54 | Love makes you look weak to men.Tbh, there's a lot of men out there with the audacity to treat their love like it's a freaken religion. They expect you to believe in "their love for you" like a good faithful woman Lol, they've heard that the way to a woman's heart is through her ears and think we're too stupid to notice the discrepancy between their words and their actions. Joke on them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 01:10 PM |
| 33 | Love makes you look weak to men.I want someone who respects me and makes life easier for me, but I'm not looking for an intense relationship that drains me of my energy and will to live. My partner will not be my best friend. I think men got the wrong idea when it comes to love. Intense relationship : trauma bonding Your partner being your best friend: Either you doing emotional labor or him getting ammunitions for later. Your diary is your best friend, and your partner, as you said, makes your life easier so YOU can keep thri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 01:08 PM |
| 64 | Love makes you look weak to men.Be also careful...in your friendships! I've been disappointed many times and a breakup with a friend still hurts. Cultivate this deep love with yourself first and still vet in your friendship :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 01:04 PM |
| 15 | You should never be financially losing when you're in a relationship. If he expects you to pay his bill, pay for dinner, be the maid, take your damn self out, love.YES YES and YES one more time!!! There was this post yesterday about the false narrative of providers. I get it. If you expect a man to provide while you'll stay home, you may setting yourself up for failure because if he leaves...you get nothing and you made yourself dependent on his money. BUT OP did not seem to consider the possibility of having a career, money of your own and still dating providers. That's the way to go. This being said how do you justify it? I've never cooked or cleaned for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 01:02 PM |
| 3 | Is it just Canadian guys?Do they even learn the language of the countries they are staying in? Do they genuinely immerse themselves in the culture? Oh no, they're onto the next insta pic and the next flag to put on tinder.... But they visited so many countries. Little buddy thinks that he can capture the essence of a country by being in and out few days and having conversations with the "locals"... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 01:04 AM |
| 15 | Is it just Canadian guys?personal growth requires that we can stand still...but as you said if there's nothing inside then better jump into a plane huh? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 01:00 AM |
| 9 | Is it just Canadian guys?That's gross. And don't even get me started on those who put the pics on tinder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:58 AM |
| 19 | LVM don’t like it when you know HVM existHe was floored and said it wasn’t “real life”. Lol, "real life" with him would have been abuse everyday. I'm glad you got HVM around you growing up, this is quite rare :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:48 AM |
| 5 | "Men as provider" argument.It's funny because I posted today on men being providers but my post did not show up I guess. I want it all. The career, the drive, the happiness...and if a man is in my life, he should be a provider which is why he should make more than me. It's the only way for me to be okay with men's fickle nature. If he's a HVM, everything will be fine, but if he turns out to be LVM at least I'm not leaving empty handed for my emotional labor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:06 AM |
| 7 | "Men as provider" argument.Exactly! It has been accepted in society that men and women go 50/50 with the woman working full time and still doing the chores and no one saw it as being contradictory so why not seeking what is beneficial for me? He provides and still have my own career. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 11:53 PM |
| 5 | "Men as provider" argument.Thank you!! That's exactly my thought. I expect him to pay at least 80 and I still won't cook and clean for him...because I'm busy chasing after my dreams. And if he wants to do 50/50 because we both work he can find himself a housemate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 11:50 PM |
| 57 | Speaking factsExactly my thought! it's always men who have no gold who are afraid of gold diggers lol. Chill out John, the crappy beer on happy hours is not gold. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 11:15 PM |
| 7 | For the ladies who are not necessarily marriage mindedIf it's not an enthusiastic yes, it's a no. Exactly! Perfect addition to the thought experiment: it should leave you no doubt. This is where being honest with yourself is crucial. If you start making mental gymnastic then you're just deceiving yourself. On a related note, I remember reading about people calling off a wedding just few days before the event. It used to puzzle me. Why didn't they know before engaging so much money? But then I got it. Sometimes you need such a dramatic, life alterin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 10:22 PM |
| 9 | Another person said it. Never allow porn in a relationship if you want a healthy relationship.yep, unfortunately using the only language scrotes understand :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 10:04 PM |
| 20 | Another person said it. Never allow porn in a relationship if you want a healthy relationship.I did notice. I think he was trying to appeal to men at large, so a majority of LVM concerned with their penis. He may also be a well meaning brainwashed dude. He probably grew up in an era where sex may still have been taboo and liberal ideas just started to pop up. I know that for a long period of time I saw porn in terms of morality surrounding sex, which is usually the lens used by liberalism to distract you from the heavier issues of the porn industry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 10:02 PM |
| 8 | For the ladies who are not necessarily marriage mindedIt's better to find a man who is objectively good, where even if you remove all emotions and describe him to a total stranger, he still sounds like a catch. I agree, but it is not exclusive: for me projecting myself with someone into the future forces me to evaluate one more objectively. If I used the "do I want to get stuck with him as a life long partner" as a thought experiment, I would have eliminated more easily all the different guys I crushed on who happened to be LVM. Also hopewings, I t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 09:45 PM |
| 16 | For the ladies who are not necessarily marriage mindedYes absolutely! My message is quite simple: if you don't want to date down and settle, ask yourself if you could see the person you're dating as part of your future. If the answer is no, move on. This advice is mostly for women who are done entertaining clowns using the narrative that "it's just temporary". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 09:11 PM |
| 11 | For the ladies who are not necessarily marriage mindedI totally agree! This mindset is relatively new to me but it feels like a light has been switched on and there's no going back. I am not dating at the moment because it's difficult to date men irl with covid and OLD is full of LVM...plus I still want to enjoy my life by myself...but once I'm ready, I will start dating with purpose and intention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 08:31 PM |
| 29 | For the ladies who are not necessarily marriage mindedIn the meantime, a vibrator is a better investment. Honestly? Yes! I mean even if he is just decent...then what's the point? I get my O from my vibrators and laughter from my friends.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 08:28 PM |
| 56 | Other relationships subs need a lot more of this energy. Inspired by horror stories being shared here.Trust your gut Block and delete Dick is abundant Better be single than with a LVM. These are all the answers to the looong paragraph detailing his shitty behavior. Journal to get it out of your chest and move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 05:56 PM |
| 62 | If you actively practice FDS, people are going to fucking hate you.LVM will try to gaslight you till they leave you alone when they realize their tactics don't work. As for pickme friends, it's better to stay away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 05:29 PM |
| 5 | Random Things That Are An Immediate Swipe LeftYep, it's shallow while pretending to be "deep" and open minded. You like to spend few nights in different places so you can be entertained by novelty? Nothing to write home about and as you said total red flag. Also "I'm a foodie" oh please... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 10:46 PM |
| 2 | Random Things That Are An Immediate Swipe LeftSometimes I just wanted to troll "can I get the number of your friend" haha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 10:44 PM |
| 5 | Random Things That Are An Immediate Swipe Leftwith the grin | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 10:41 PM |
| 2 | Random Things That Are An Immediate Swipe Leftanother version that I experimented "I'm chill"/laid back...I should have known better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 10:40 PM |
| 15 | Back to the FDS Basics for anyone new hereExactly. In fact most of our rules could be summarize by "trust your gut", if he makes you feel confused, if you wast your freaking precious time deciphering one of his behavior/comments/text...it's time to let him go. If it's not easy and invigorating so you can use this surplus of energy/happiness to focus on yourself and other parts of your life, drop him like the dead weight he is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 04:54 PM |
| 6 | They’re thiiiis close to figuring it out!I'm sorry he did that to you! That sucks... What dod you do? You block him and move on. Don't spend another second on him, that's the best "revenge"...just living your best life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 11:29 PM |
| 12 | They’re thiiiis close to figuring it out!Consumerist mentality I guess? And porn making them believe they can have pussy on tap... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 11:25 PM |
| 49 | Why is this so accurate? Have men always been like this?I'm 100% sure she's one of the us...the "I've been cheated on when I was in 4th grade" gave her away XD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 11:23 PM |
| 50 | lmao the benefit is questionableIt's called dating fds style ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 11:19 PM |
| 3 | Whenever I hear people say “sex work is real work” I assume they’re saying it from a place of non sex work privilegeSure. Exploitation is a difficult trap to pull yourself out of. And I can see how it would he hard to give up the short term benefits even if it benefits you in the long term to leave. THAT!! People who were born in a poor environment and did not have role model can barely imagine there's a different way to live their life. When you are born in a family of doctors having a BA is the freaking bare minimum...if your parents never went to school, it's an accomplishment!! The sad thing with poverty,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Whenever I hear people say “sex work is real work” I assume they’re saying it from a place of non sex work privilegeI really hope she uses one of them to pay for an incredible education and then gets the fuck out. Yep, for me the only way I would see it as an option for a young poor girl is if she's smart enough to use it as a way to graduate debt free. Otherwise, if it's to live day by day, it's freaking awful and leads nowhere...but then to have the drive and the clarity to invest in your education I imagine you need to be already well off... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 09:33 PM |
| 6 | Whenever I hear people say “sex work is real work” I assume they’re saying it from a place of non sex work privilegeThere was a great article on consent being shared on fds. I can't retrieve it but if someone has the link, please post it! The notion of consents sucks. It's such a way for people in place of power not to be held accountable by making you sign this verbal "contract"...a "yes" and anything flies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 09:24 PM |
| 65 | Dump that trash!I had a woman professor do that to me in one of the most dangerous cities of the Unites States. She dropped me 5mn away from my house because it was not on her way....I was in a dress. She calls herself a feminist. Needless to say she never checked on me (and she has a daughter). She also took a pic of me once without asking for my permission and showed to a guy saying "isn't she pretty". I reported the incident to a guy friend who said it was like a "privacy rape". For once that a guy was able … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 07:52 PM |
| 2 | They insist on only sex until they money is in the picture, then they want a "connection"And I forgot to add the number of scrotes who insist that they are doms. Going on that website made me mad as I've rarely been in my entire life. It acted as a magnifying glass of low value porn sick male who believe they are the kings because they can flaunt some $$$ (that you won't see mind you). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 05:04 PM |
| 5 | They insist on only sex until they money is in the picture, then they want a "connection"oh no...most of them are married. They don't want to be married, they want to give you ideally nothing and when they figure out it's not possible, they try to lure you in with "gifts" and "vacations" as if being half naked by the pool in his company was the dream of your life, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 05:00 PM |
| 3 | Derrick is such a male FDS supporter! 🙌 #realitycheck #straightfactsI've heard that Derrick has been problematic in his own life but hey, that would make him even more knowledgeable about LVM ;) I've binged watched his videos after I dated a psycho and it was soooo helpful. Also he's hilarious: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F87e2g6Xmtg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 12:59 PM |
| 4 | Derrick is such a male FDS supporter! 🙌 #realitycheck #straightfactsHe was that way before fds existed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 12:57 PM |
| 3 | Derrick is such a male FDS supporter! 🙌 #realitycheck #straightfacts"GET the guy".... excuse me should I also peg him? Just asking (and no offence to guys who like that, it's just not for me). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 12:56 PM |
| 5 | Derrick is such a male FDS supporter! 🙌 #realitycheck #straightfactsYes, there were some screenshots circulating of him insulting a woman he used to date...apparently he was also dating a white woman for a while...so I can see how it would be seen as hypocritical. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 12:53 PM |
| 2 | If you're considering becoming a sex worker, read this.Tony Blair, Putin....while having the toyboy as a cover apparently. Lol, the bright side of the dark side huh? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 12:40 PM |
| 3 | They insist on only sex until they money is in the picture, then they want a "connection"A dude on his profile listed only "18-19" in the age bracket while he's 55 so probably 60. Absolutely disgusting!! As I said above, good for you for not being manipulated by him! Unfortunately too many young girl are jumping in the wagon without knowing what sugaring entails and probably not having a person to call if things go south. It's extremely dangerous and full of scammers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 12:19 PM |
| 3 | They insist on only sex until they money is in the picture, then they want a "connection"Yep, I also noticed the "no professionals"...seriously now the dude is giving the holier than you vibe while he's still married? Rich or not rich, I think here at fds we cracked the code of men in one word, audacity! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 12:14 PM |
| 3 | They insist on only sex until they money is in the picture, then they want a "connection"Yep, the friend of my parents is not even rich, but when he was in his 40's and dating that model there was no freaking way he wouldn't pay for her bills. Gosh! So sugar baby from mom to sister, to you? That's interesting. Did she use the money to invest? Did she meet them in the wild? That also explains why you handled the rich mf with brio. I was so naive at 18 that even if I tried sugaring I would have been so lost. My mom has told me so many stories of how some of her gf were sugaring, and s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 12:12 PM |
| 3 | Some pickme from the New Yorker trying to sell us walk date as a romantic gestureJust see how things unfold for your friends...it has never panned well for me even when the guy was decent...and she asked him out? No no no. He may be passively reciprocating, because it's lockdown and he's horny and lonely but watch out for when he'll stop reciprocating and she'll realize he never pursued her actually. I guess they are already intimate huh? How convenient. I dated during the summer when everything was open but I refuse to date during lockdown. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 11:47 AM |
| 3 | Some pickme from the New Yorker trying to sell us walk date as a romantic gestureThere is this myth that a man can begin with low effort dates like walking and coffee dates and then after he sees what you bRiNg To The TaBlE he'll start courting you properly and start putting in the effort. So true! In reality, the woman can start feeling attached while he remains low effort...this is exactly how the cycle of "nagging"/not feeling valued starts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 11:39 AM |
| 40 | This article blew my mind. "America and the world would collapse in 20 seconds if women were showing up for each other instead of being exploited for every form of labor.” - From "Feminism Has Failed Women" by Kim BrooksBecause choosing not to pass on your genes is selfish when you have a career that demands your full attention? You know what is selfish? Having kids to leave a "legacy" behind even when one knows they can't emotionally and financially fully be there for their kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 12:22 AM |
| 1 | Ring Pics: Married Edition. Also one of my Christmas gifts (and different lighting for the ring)I'll keep the name for later...when I can afford. I'm absolutely in love with the color! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 12:07 AM |
| 1 | Ring Pics: Married Edition. Also one of my Christmas gifts (and different lighting for the ring)oooh wait, I thought you were getting "married" with yourself following the recent trend on fds. I was thinking, "wow she really really splurged, good for her" hahaha, now I feel like a fool. In any event, I wish you all the best and much consistent and serene joy!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 12:04 AM |
| 8 | I'm joining too! I celebrete myself.So pretty...but I'm so distracted by the laptop....I go crazy for laptops and word docs/power point haha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 11:58 PM |
| 17 | Can we talk about how conventionally unattractive men manipulate their way into dating a woman completely out of their league, and then destroy her self-esteem so she starts to believe this scrote is the prize when really she is.My dad was sooo repulsed by fat that I never ever dated fat men. Some were short, some did not have nice faces but they were all fit and had stamina....but it ended up messing with my own eating habits. Yep, men...the reason of our problems. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 11:57 PM |
| 20 | Can we talk about how conventionally unattractive men manipulate their way into dating a woman completely out of their league, and then destroy her self-esteem so she starts to believe this scrote is the prize when really she is.no neck ed, skipped leg day Clay and (fat) bulking phase Chase. Even when they go to the gym, they end up looking ridiculous because they want to resemble the stupid image of masculinity they have in their mind which is closer to Bibendum (the Michelin tyre man) than anything else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 11:52 PM |
| 16 | Can we talk about how conventionally unattractive men manipulate their way into dating a woman completely out of their league, and then destroy her self-esteem so she starts to believe this scrote is the prize when really she is.Oh my God, you cracked me up!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 11:46 PM |
| 12 | Some pickme from the New Yorker trying to sell us walk date as a romantic gestureJoke aside, if it were up to me I'd resort to old school letters. I can't stand being interrupted non stop by texts...and guys who feel they are entitled of my time, only to drop the conversation without closer or misbehave...it's like they're playing peek a boo. So yes write me a sonnet for our first date, a play for our second and serenade me below my window for our third date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 11:14 PM |
| 8 | They insist on only sex until they money is in the picture, then they want a "connection"One guy said he was saving up miles to purchase tickets to Hawaii in the lay flat seats. I'm a flight attendant. I fly for free Lol, better not to miss that connection ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 09:36 PM |
| 9 | They insist on only sex until they money is in the picture, then they want a "connection"The thing is my dad always paid the bills and everything....a friend of my parents who was dating a model also mentioned paying for her flat and her bills... So the joke is that now having a man pay for your dinner turns you into a gold digger, having him pay for your rent turns you into a full blown sex worker and the sad thing about it is once you decide to embrace the lifestyle, you find all these clowns who happily give you the label but won't give you the financial benefit that comes with i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 09:33 PM |
| 6 | They insist on only sex until they money is in the picture, then they want a "connection"I hope your side job helped you to graduate debt free...but good thing these uni days are over ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 08:12 PM |
| 8 | They insist on only sex until they money is in the picture, then they want a "connection"Well I did not know, I just reported what I saw on the website. I imagine that now the website has become popular and known so it's invaded by Mr. Broke? Yet I find it very illuminating how LVMs can't help but try to gaslight and redefine the terms of the contract in their favor. It must be infuriating for SB to have to wade through all these broke newcomers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 07:52 PM |
| 14 | They insist on only sex until they money is in the picture, then they want a "connection"This is exactly why these type of men don't want a real relationship where they have to invest anything into the woman, because she actually does have power in that type of relationship and can benefit herself and fulfil her needs. In the relationship he wants the woman gets nothing and has nothing. Exactly, that's why I made the parallel with Tinder. In both scenario, it's the same principle: they don't want to give anything and particularly not what you want, be it emotional and real support (… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 07:48 PM |
| 1 | If you're considering becoming a sex worker, read this.Are you being ironic? I'm not reassured by sociopaths being paid so much but for once I'm having a guilty pleasure to see a woman who started from nothing using her brain (and her charm) to get where she is....but now I'm thinking that she is indeed a Chinese spy because there's no way she could have achieved all that by herself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 07:37 PM |
| 9 | They insist on only sex until they money is in the picture, then they want a "connection"lol really? That's a huge dealbreaker...I can't deal with someone who has spoiled teeth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 07:33 PM |
| 14 | They insist on only sex until they money is in the picture, then they want a "connection"Mentoring in self-awareness said the scrote with a serious face. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 07:32 PM |
| 10 | They insist on only sex until they money is in the picture, then they want a "connection"Yep, which again speaks volume about how deceptive they are. They go on a website called "seeking arrangement" where the transaction is crystal clear, young and beautiful with rich and old/non attractive guy and then they pretend they have no idea what the deal is. They always want free sex and will use any means to have it with women out of their league: relationships for the traditional websites, money for SA...without providing any of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 07:26 PM |
| 14 | They insist on only sex until they money is in the picture, then they want a "connection"That's what I thought until I made my account and read the profiles of these "SD". They got the "young and beautiful" part right, but forgot the other side of the arrangement which is money. So many of them are pretending to want a long term thing, a connection...it's ridiculous. Basically they put the women in a place of begging for crumbs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 07:21 PM |
| 16 | They insist on only sex until they money is in the picture, then they want a "connection"Exactly! I think it's both trying to get the max benefits for free, while keeping you in a state of servitude. Aside from having these pedo fantasies, that's why they go for very young women, thinking that showing them the world is enough. It's always hilarious when men think that dinner or vacation with them is our ultimate pleasure in life. Hence us being golddigger because of a free meal or free vacation. They probably think that way because for them it is the preliminary to sex. I personally… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 07:15 PM |
| 14 | Some pickme from the New Yorker trying to sell us walk date as a romantic gestureI loooove walks with my good friends, my mom...basically people I can trust. I also love them when I was IN a relationship...not as a first impression. I made the mistake last summer to indulge them as I was going through a hectic period at work so I figured out it would be a good way to have those steps in while dating (you know, win win for me, or at least I thought). LOL. What a mistake, it does set the tone for low..wait I should say zero efforts. I had just discovered fds and it took me a w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 07:08 PM |
| 32 | Its sad how many women don’t believe in HVMI don't really know where to start. I like your post a lot and yet there's something that...seems amiss to me. I like your optimistic view and I share it. Yes, so many things are possible and we need to dream big...but at the same time we also need to take into account our reality, which is that patriarchy is everywhere and ingrained in both men and women's minds. Whenever it is being threatened, it morphs and evolves to take new forms such a liberal feminism (sorry if I sound like a broken reco… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 07:01 PM |
| 12 | Its sad how many women don’t believe in HVMThey’ll say “all men” when it suits them but “not all men” when they’ve got feminists on the internet to argue with. The ones who say "all men" are usually your male relative trying to protect you...even if they're LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 06:38 PM |
| 17 | Its sad how many women don’t believe in HVMand in this modern age, being treated as free prostitutes by LVM who have nothing of value to offer. That. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Men talk too much....and why this can be a good thing 😈Yeah, I also went on vacation by myself to Portugal, so that came right in the middle of it. And we called everyday, since he was in my top 3 (those would get daily calls 😉) That sounds lovely... and pretty much how I envision my next dating phase: no endless texting but phone calls and quality dates that still leave me plenty of time for myself, and why not traveling. Oh Egypt, I love this country so much. I can pass for a local so I'd say I was okay (and I speak a little bit of Arabic) but eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 05:54 PM |
| 39 | Some pickme from the New Yorker trying to sell us walk date as a romantic gestureyep, a digestive walk to the mall so you can make sure I look amazing for our next dinner at this nice upscale restaurant...oh not interested in the walk anymore? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 05:41 PM |
| 36 | Some pickme from the New Yorker trying to sell us walk date as a romantic gestureNo, Kyle who plays video games 35 hours a week and takes you on a walk in the park like a dog isn't Mr. Darcy. Hahah yep, the pandemic has been glorious for scrotes who can offer you walk dates to warm you up followed by netflix and chill. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 05:39 PM |
| 3 | The most powerful woman in US politics.. and she started as a housewife. You can do anything.In fact you can do anything, especially without a man (unless he's amazing and contributes to your rise). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 03:59 PM |
| 7 | When you’re out of a lvm/nvm’s league, he will do anything to keep your self esteem low so you won’t know you can do better.Lol did we date the same nvm? We've all dated the same nvm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Men talk too much....and why this can be a good thing 😈Wow, thank you so much for taking the time!! This is GOLD :D You are right about dating in the ME. It can be deceiving because it's the cultural norm so it does not mean anything about the guy's intention, but at least it got me used to be dined and wined on the very first date. And God forbid that you pay your half, he would be offended and mad at you...I actually tried to do it with a guy I had no intention of dating (no spark) but he would have none of it. Unfortunately after two cheap guys I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 03:38 PM |
| 1 | Ring Pics: Married Edition. Also one of my Christmas gifts (and different lighting for the ring)The ring is so beautiful, this blue!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 01:46 PM |
| 17 | I just realized beauty is power. It is why men have wanted to possess us, as if I'm an object. I might not be as big or strong as men, but I'm powerful through my femininity.Let’s not confuse attractiveness with power. Beauty is only skin deep and it fades. That’s not real power. And look at how abused beautiful actresses and models are treated by men. They don’t respect them. That’s not power. This. And the sad part is, as men want us to believe that beauty is power, these actresses and models, if they are not aware of the game, end up even more miserable and confused: desired by most and yet used and abused. Gaslighting pretty much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 01:45 PM |
| 7 | I just realized beauty is power. It is why men have wanted to possess us, as if I'm an object. I might not be as big or strong as men, but I'm powerful through my femininity.Exactly! In fact even the great seductresses of history were not particularly beautiful but they were incredibly smart. It's not their beauty that gave them power, it's their intelligence and then they knew how to use the little beauty they had for the advantages. See: Seductress: Women Who Ravished the World and Their Lost Art of Love | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 01:42 PM |
| 7 | I just realized beauty is power. It is why men have wanted to possess us, as if I'm an object. I might not be as big or strong as men, but I'm powerful through my femininity.Beauty is cool and all and if it lubricates social interactions in a way that benefits you, fine, cool, but for real power you have to concentrate on education, economics and defensive/offensive capabilities. THAT!!! Beauty in itself and for yourself? Come on....how does it benefit me? Maybe OP means confidence? Self-love? Because there is no way I can experience beauty from inside...it always implies that I take an external look at myself. Unlike beauty, wisdom and knowledge grow with time and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 01:35 PM |
| 43 | Beware of men that ask too many questionsIn the past, he wouldn't have to ask, I volunteered to share everything...because we're "bonding"...gosh I was soooo freaking naive. Not anymore! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 01:12 PM |
| 1 | Men talk too much....and why this can be a good thing 😈Oh I just saw your recent post with the fondue and couldn't help check your profile ^ First of all, congrats and you look glowing...but how on earth did you secure a wonderful man who is the provider kind in the Netherlands? No shade but hey doing dutch exist for a reason haha, and I've seen some women complaining here that guys there don't really have the provider mentality. I'm also in Europe and in a country where most guys wouldn't invite you for dinner for the first date and as for paying t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 12:30 PM |
| 4 | If you're considering becoming a sex worker, read this.No doubt she's a sociopath!! She got sponsored by a family to move to the states, slept with the 50 something dude (she was 19 or 20), married him for a green card, then dumped him, used another guy to finance her MBA at Yale and then Murdoch. She is evil and as such has no pb hanging with people of her kind. I just couldn't help but be blown away by her trajectory even if I couldn't do the 10th of what she did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 12:14 PM |
| 1 | Men talk too much....and why this can be a good thing 😈Did you meet him online? Using ruthlessly fds principles. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 01:12 AM |
| 23 | The decency: “I have a wife and a gorgeous kid but you’re georgous”i rarely see them away from the people they're at the bar with in the first place. yep, not on the lookout for the drunkest woman to take home. Thanks for your long and elaborate answer. It does make sense. I never met anyone who ended up being a serious prospect at a bar for all the reasons you list above. Also for me, I'm not sure I'd trust a partner I met at a bar...especially if it was during one of the "nights with the boys" and he keeps the habit. I'll assume he'll keep hitting on women wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 10:17 PM |
| 4 | If you're considering becoming a sex worker, read this.I see. I learned about him through other you tubers "what would Graham do?" in terms of saving money and it turned into a joke as he's known for being extremely frugal if not cheap. I believe he also analyses other people expanses. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 09:49 PM |
| 41 | The decency: “I have a wife and a gorgeous kid but you’re georgous”Do you attribute it to the fact most people are drinking and not using the healthiest coping mechanism? (I'm not talking about the drink here and there but the regulars)? Or do you think people tend to shift their mindset when going to the clubs/bars? A little bit like guys on OLD. Even the decent ones are up to no good when they resort to the apps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 09:46 PM |
| 12 | I love how pressed men are about this subhahahaha because I guess if we put money in it, we're serious about living our best life without them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 09:31 PM |
| 9 | I honestly don't think I want to get married (and I'm tired of my family saying I'll change my mind)you no longer have to worry about what he does. It's not your problem anymore. you no longer have to worry about what he might do. This really helps with long term plans and goals. Amen. This paper I wrote that got me to a top university? I was single. Everything I have achieved was made possible because I had peace of mind and I could use the totality of my mind space as I wished. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 08:08 PM |
| 3 | I honestly don't think I want to get married (and I'm tired of my family saying I'll change my mind)All of the above ten times (even the age...well, this one just once). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 08:05 PM |
| 28 | Don't debate with men about your FDS standards. It's pointless.Don't ever tell your male friends....but the way you carry yourself is enough for them to pick it up. When you discuss it with them, you give them the opportunity to bring you down. I don't discuss it with my gf either...unfortunately they are ALL pickmes. Thank God for fds and our virtual sisterhood. This, really, is my safe space where I feel understood. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 08:03 PM |
| 6 | If you're considering becoming a sex worker, read this.I find that women are less interested in technical fields and more interested in creative fields but we need to push ourselves and become indispensable as a professional, no matter what field we're in. you're so right! I wish I were interested in tech and economy...but I'm definitely the artistic kind. This being said, the great chefs, the famous hairdressers, designers, filmmakers, writers....still most of them making big bucks are men. At the end of the day, regardless of the field, the top is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 07:26 PM |
| 14 | If you're considering becoming a sex worker, read this.Exactly!! I mean look at the GOAT of the sugar babies: Wendi Deng. This woman has not scruples whatsoever and her rise to wealth is unbelievable. She was securing the bag with a dude twice her age and got a toyboy once she divorced. The thing is, not every one is Wendi Deng and she was aiming high, no only fan nonsense. I prefer women to be badass and in place of power but for the one who can pull it off and know how to gain financial independence through it? Go ahead lady, secure that bag! Anyt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 07:14 PM |
| 4 | If you're considering becoming a sex worker, read this.Any interest in starting a post on financial tips and investing? I'd LOVE that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 06:54 PM |
| 11 | If you're considering becoming a sex worker, read this.Graham Stephan actually made most of his money through you tube :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 06:53 PM |
| 30 | If you're considering becoming a sex worker, read this.Yes! And you are so right...the competition is so fierce and it makes one a slave of male attention/validation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 06:52 PM |
| 3 | What successful women share in common.Same! Although I have never married but I had serious, relatively healthy relationship. Yet I would say I only had one where I bloomed tremendously because he was in my life...but that happened because we were in the same field and he kept inspiring me for my work and my ideas. I, unfortunately, don't make a lot of money because I did not pick a lucrative job but I'm very fulfilled with it and I know I'll find a way to make more money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 01:22 PM |
| 2 | What successful women share in common.Exactly! Time to be the main character of our own story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 01:18 PM |
| 2 | What successful women share in common.Yes!! I'm so happy you're on fds at such a young age, you have your whole life ahead of you. I wish you a lot of success! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 01:14 PM |
| 3 | What successful women share in common.Same! I rang the new year in a total state of bliss since I cut all the noise (from men) in my life. I can start the year being focused and aligned with my goals. Cheers! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 01:13 PM |
| 2 | What successful women share in common.love and relationships are great There are but as you said it's not enough and true, helpful, healthy partners are so rare! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 01:10 PM |
| 8 | What successful women share in common.And ironically it was made possible by writing soap operas. Yes!! Initially I was a bit mad...I mean she labels herself as a huge feminist. In fact in one of her talk with Oprah she talks about not wanting a "husband in her house" and someone commented that she talks about a husband as if he were a cockroach, that seriously made me laugh. That goes to show that unfortunately the few women in place of power still have to play the game/are not enough to truly change the patriarchy...but I can't de… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 01:09 PM |
| 3 | What successful women share in common.get into ballet once we can to meet new women and get in touch with my body again. That's lovely! Just before covid, I also wanted to take some dance classes for the very same reasons. I also liked the idea of exploring sensuality in a way that is not sexual at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 01:01 PM |
| 12 | Leveling up physically for 2021!I want to go back to keto as well, it did wonder for my sugar cravings but gosh it is hard at the moment to keep bread at bay. By the way congrats on losing 50 pounds the steady way. Funny that you quote Shallon Lester, she was the first you tuber I started to watch when I had the pickme epiphany (then read why men love bitches and few months later stumble upon fds). She got a lot backlash recently but she has so many good points and as she always reminds us "the sperm swims to the egg, not the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 12:49 AM |
| 9 | Leveling up physically for 2021!For 2021, I want to lose the 10 pounds I gained during lockdown Get laser hair removal Stick to Intermittent fasting and keep coffee at bay | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 12:45 AM |
| 3 | The trope of the broody, mysterious, damaged, bad boy who deep down just needs to be loved by a woman and he’ll be saved needs to die.They managed to romanticize chess instead of the main character just because she's female. Yes! And it's such a wonderful feeling isn't it? I agree, I don't mean to adopt a moralist tone because it usually backfires but I wish and hope more women have great, fulfilling lives so they don't rely on this type of fantasies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 12:42 AM |
| 7 | The trope of the broody, mysterious, damaged, bad boy who deep down just needs to be loved by a woman and he’ll be saved needs to die.If I want to see a woman working to solve a dark mystery with a genuine feeling of reward at the end I'll watch Miss Marple hehe exactly, solving mysteries not fixing pseudo mysterious scrotes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 12:39 AM |
| 7 | Don’t fall for the halo effect, girls! Looking at his face you may think Henry Cavill is the perfect man but unfortunately he has a cognitive dysfunction that makes him confuse rape with flirt! In conclusion, a rotten apple might still have shiny skin.troglodyte Hahahaha I thought only my mom used that word to insult people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 11:17 PM |
| 7 | Men respond better to silence vs cOmMuNicAtIonIf you explain they will interpret it as pleading and they may even enjoy misreading your words just to get a rise out of you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 08:58 PM |
| 25 | Men respond better to silence vs cOmMuNicAtIonHim: "I'm not interested anymore" Her: "Oh cool, bye" Him: "Wait what?? Aren't you trying to ask for an explanation and plead for your case?" Crickets Him sending a wall of text. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 08:54 PM |
| 15 | The trope of the broody, mysterious, damaged, bad boy who deep down just needs to be loved by a woman and he’ll be saved needs to die.Compulsory reading of "Why does he do that" to all the ladies. The perfect cure against the sensitive boy who is, in reality, very abusive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 08:48 PM |
| 9 | The trope of the broody, mysterious, damaged, bad boy who deep down just needs to be loved by a woman and he’ll be saved needs to die.Or maybe to have more empowering fantasies? Like the Queen Gambit? Amazing show to escape and it sends a much healthier message to young women. I personally don't think that fantasies are completely removed from the reality we live. It's not about banning fictions, it's about offering alternative ones that are much better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 08:46 PM |
| 10 | The trope of the broody, mysterious, damaged, bad boy who deep down just needs to be loved by a woman and he’ll be saved needs to die.I did not want to say it, already wrote post about it....like I'm OCD, but yep, I'm not just looking, I'm STARING. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 08:43 PM |
| 11 | Being hard to get is a way of life, not a manipulation tacticYes, and this is why even "be hard to get"...is slightly off to me because it still take into account a certain outcome with men (they get you with great difficulty). I prefer the idea that I am so enamoured with my life as it is - its serenity and joy - that the dude better bring things to the table big time for me to accept a date with him over chilling at home or reading a book. See, it's the other way around. I'm not filling my time with hobbies so I'm hard to get, I am fully aligned with my… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 02:08 AM |
| 8 | Being hard to get is a way of life, not a manipulation tacticMen who love Bitches is way better, and funnier...but same idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 02:02 AM |
| 9 | Being hard to get is a way of life, not a manipulation tacticIts like all the women who were okay with moving in before engagement or marriage because they need to test the waters not realizing that that’s the perfect way to get demoted into the forever girlfriend/fiancé category. Lol, you can test the water when he books a nice apartment for your holidays, no need to move in...and yes it can take a while for the mask to slip but come on there are always red flags beforehand. ALWAYS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 02:01 AM |
| 5 | Bridgerton: Commentary + Disturbing Points and Sexism Still Alive Todayhaha yes!! I was the one being super MAD. OP, join us once you're done watching the full show...get ready for a lot of cringy moments. https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/kn2o1u/bridgerton_or_the_epitome_of_liberal_feminism/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 01:49 AM |
| 6 | Bridgerton or the epitome of liberal feminismThat being said, it isn’t Daphne or any other woman’s job to heal him. Exactly! As many said, women are not rehabilitation centres for broken men. Lady Danbury is amazing, one of my favorite characters, single and takes no shit from anyone! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 08:37 PM |
| 4 | Bridgerton or the epitome of liberal feminismNever but pop culture has convinced us otherwise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 08:32 PM |
| 6 | Bridgerton or the epitome of liberal feminismYes, it's a major disappointment and I cringed many many times...despite enjoying as entertainment, which is preoccupying, because what better way to spread a toxic mentality than to convey it in an enjoyable way? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 08:31 PM |
| 9 | Bridgerton or the epitome of liberal feminismI read the article and I find it highly problematic. Fantasize about a rake but don't date one in real life? Does this woman know that what we think about/fantasize about does influence our real life choices? Ever heard of the subcounscious? Just asking. Here's my pb with the idea that it's mere escapism: we pretend that it's a mere simple little escape that has no bearing on how we conduct our lives. What I came to realize is that if one wants to become bulletproof to abuse one has to be turned… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 01:20 PM |
| 4 | It’s the last day to use this flair! At the start of the year I NEVER thought I’d have the strength to do it, yet here I am single and thriving thanks to this sub. How many queens were able to KickHimOut2020?!After MeToo: MeFirst2021 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 12:28 PM |
| 5 | Ringing in the New Year with this gem! About 30 minutes in and it's just oozing with FDS satire.Emerald Fennell was the showrunner of Killing Eve (second season)..that makes PERFECT sense. I can't wait to watch it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 12:24 PM |
| 9 | Women who are not similarly women-centered will take you for granted.Yes if she wanted to, she would. And if she valued the friendship she would explicitly let you know when she's going through a rough patch and can't be available much or she would communicate how she likes to communicate...because she doesn't want you to be left in the dark. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 12:13 PM |
| 7 | Women who are not similarly women-centered will take you for granted.That is true, but I feel that, as with men, if the friend values the friendship, she should give heads up or explain/apologize if/when she replies way too late, or set the expectations by communicating how she communicates so there's no misunderstanding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 12:10 PM |
| 14 | Women who are not similarly women-centered will take you for granted.So true! I first got rid of the LVM and shifted all my love and attention on the few remaining girlfriends that survived the last big Marie Kondo episode...then I got severely disappointed and now I'm perfectly happy giving this love to myself. I have friends but I don't expect much and I certainly don't give more than I receive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 12:01 PM |
| 6 | Women who are not similarly women-centered will take you for granted.That’s really relatable. I guess now I think it’s more important to set a good example of what it means to be a woman empowered by self love than to caretake people. Someone else can rescue the women that I was trying to rescue; meanwhile, I’m going to create, build, and express myself in much larger ways that will hopefully have a greater impact on more women. LOVE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 11:59 AM |
| 6 | Women who are not similarly women-centered will take you for granted.Yes!!! I feel that meeting people through work and career (granted you love what you do) is the best, because you don't start the relationship talking non stop about LVM going in and out...eventually you get more personal as you get closer but the foundation of the friendship was your true interests and that makes a big difference. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 11:56 AM |
| 5 | Let's start off the new year well queensIt's a great first book for recovering Pickmeishas, but it definitely gives off a 'how to catch a man vibe', which we don't do here. Yes, this book made me see the light before I discovered fds (and was the first step). I somehow agree that the second part can be a little...manipulative but even in the best relationship, I believe there is a slight part of manipulation...for the good of the relationship. I don't think it's "how to catch a man" but more "how to keep a relatively good man in check… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 11:45 AM |
| 3 | Let's start off the new year well queensHey, poetry it is not about giving the cool vive energy...actually it's quite the opposite. She really emphasizes the necessity to focus on your own life and let the man do the chasing no matter what...now of course it's flawed as it presents itself as a guide for every situations, but it helped me tremendously to see where I had been a pickme (living my stuff at his place after barely a month of dating, remembering his last name after the first date...). It's not about playing emotional games, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 11:39 AM |
| 3 | Yesterday morning I closed on a house. Yesterday evening I was dumped via text. This is not a coincidence.He can have his word salad for breakfast, lunch and dinner while you block his ass. Cheers to an asshole free new year and a great house of your own!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 11:20 AM |
| 7 | Hey gurl. I’m an intersectional feminist. I’m also a shaman. 🚨🚨🚨uuugh so gross! Why doesn't he stick to acting? This dude has always given me major creep vibes...as if it were not enough to be a famous actor and a musician to get laid, now he needs to be a guru? I guess his desire of power has no limits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 12:41 AM |
| 11 | Yesterday morning I closed on a house. Yesterday evening I was dumped via text. This is not a coincidence.I thought OP was interpreting what he meant...but maybe I'm wrong. OP, did he really say that or were you reading between the lines? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 12:29 AM |
| 3 | Know your worth (and risks!)YES!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 01:20 PM |
| 3 | Bridgerton or the epitome of liberal feminismOh I missed it. Which one was it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 01:39 AM |
| 23 | Bridgerton or the epitome of liberal feminismSame!! I would have totally swooned over Simon..and you know what? As probably 99% of women I found him incredibly handsome and charming...but I was quickly turned off by the red flags parade. FDS really is the best antidote to LVM. You're right, the Prince's proposal was rushed as Colin was to Marina...but in that context it seemed that getting engaged was a way to signal one being serious and the possibility to get to know someone. Yes, the speech at the end was the utmost ridiculous thing in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 01:36 AM |
| 2 | Dear ladies who love too much: You MUST protect yourselvesIt can turn into a martyr complex, wherein we derive our sense of self-worth primarily from how much we sacrifice. If this isn't nipped in the bud and FAST, it can be used emotionally manipulate others via acts of service in extreme cases (I've never gotten this bad but I have actually been on the receiving end of it). Gosh that reminds me soooo much of someone. Perfect description (even the slight manipulation). Hmm, I actually tried to be honest. You may be right...so far I thought we, as wome… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 01:05 AM |
| 13 | Bridgerton or the epitome of liberal feminismIt's VERY entertaining and that is one of the many pbs. It's how brainwashing works. Well, the duke can totally provide for her but you're right, it does not make any sense to ditch a respectful and relatively handsome prince over a smooth but LVM. Typical pickmeisha behavior indeed, where she looses sight of a her true, long term interest for some immediate physical satisfaction. Yes the whole "pretending" act, slow societal gaslighting I guess. I am also disappointed big time. After being on f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 12:30 AM |
| 3 | Bridgerton or the epitome of liberal feminismEven better, she'll chose herself and see the prince whenever she wants ;) But hey don't forget to communicate, that's the key, lolS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 10:31 PM |
| 4 | Bridgerton or the epitome of liberal feminismit’s such bullshit and definitely has influenced dating culture and women too much. This is why we have so many doormat pickmeishas running around going “my husband beats me every night what did I do wrong!?!?” And people going “you didn’t communicate that you don’t like to be beat! He loves you he’s just depressed!” BULLSHIT!!! LOL, guess what was the take away of the show? It starts at 3:33 mn, I kid you not: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a8hA4q4gPN4 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 10:24 PM |
| 18 | Bridgerton or the epitome of liberal feminismYES!! That disturbed me as well. I didn't like Simon but I was annoyed at Daphne as well because he was upfront yet she used deceit both to marry him and then try to get impregnated by him. Then her argument felt too much like some subreddit where guys play on words: "you said you couldn't give me children not you did not want to". Whatever girl, let the man be and stop playing the shrink on top of being the bangmaid. I agree, Siena almost felt like a fds user for her time, not being fooled by h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 10:20 PM |
| 5 | I love the “Here’s my hand with my new ring I bought myself” pics. This is my “here’s my hand with the keys to my new house I bought myself!” pic. Resolve to evolve, sis! Here’s to our new year!That's amazing!! Congrats :) I hope to get there soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 10:09 PM |
| 50 | Bridgerton or the epitome of liberal feminismExactly my thoughts !! The Prince was kind and respectful...and yet she choses the one who resists her...but "secretly loves her". What kind of bullshit is that? Oooh wait, that sounds familiar: He didn't call? He's too shy. He's rejecting you? He deeply wants you but he's convinced his love is not reciprocal. He obviously rejects you? He sabotages the very thing he wants the most...keep trying, keep morphing into a doormat. Also can we talk about how he blatantly ignores her once they're marrie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 10:01 PM |
| 8 | Bridgerton or the epitome of liberal feminismWait for Arianna Grande being played by the orchestra during one of the balls! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 08:47 PM |
| 15 | Shallow Hal is now my lifeThe one I have in mind said he was probably on the spectrum..but I'm not sure he got a medical diagnosis. It may have been used as an excuse for him being "clueless". The other one was just an asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 02:02 PM |
| 17 | Shallow Hal is now my lifeOh yeah a narc is the worst!! I did not mean to generalize...but sadly my experience with guys on the spectrum has been confusing at best :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 01:07 PM |
| 51 | Shallow Hal is now my lifeYes!! The rite of passage of any fds queen: the wake up calls and the fall of rose colored glasses. I don't want to insult any aspie women who may be on the sub but I sadly convinced myself that my two options were either an aspie or a narc...they don't have to really be one or the other but sadly society turn men into versions of aspie/narcs (the lack of emotional intelligence, the selfishness, the manipulation...) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 12:18 PM |
| 3 | Dear ladies who love too much: You MUST protect yourselvesI fully agree but the trick is that as an empath I genuinely enjoy giving to people and I don't think (at least) consciously that I'm trying to prove how lovable I am...but deep down maybe this is what is at stake? In any event, redirecting all this love and focus on myself allowed me to drop people who don't step up. If I treat myself really well then I can't stop tolerate sub par behaviors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 11:17 AM |
| 36 | Dear ladies who love too much: You MUST protect yourselvesSame here. The first time I said no without over explaining and apologizing...I felt bad, but the guy reacted normally because he knew he was pushing a boundary. It's like a muscle, it hurts at first but the more you use it the easier it gets: 2021, the year of nos to assholes and yeses to myself :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 11:11 AM |
| 44 | Men talk too much....and why this can be a good thing 😈yep every single time...whenever they tell you their love language is touch..."sorry babe I prefer acts of service and gifts" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 11:04 AM |
| 18 | FDS Principles Are Essential to Professional Success In a Man's WorldI love your post so much! I am also at the top of my field and I can see that my success is correlated to wether I was in a relationship with a NVM or a HVM. The former stalled my progress for too many years, while the latter stimulated me and encouraged me. you must be with a partner who takes equal responsibility for it (if not more) Yes!! Just like a man needs to love you a little more for the relationship to work, he needs to do a little more if you want to be successful while in a relations… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 10:09 AM |
| 18 | FDS has led me to fully embracing how much I care about height and it feels sooo good! Boy bye 👏one of my exes said "if I can protect you I can also hurt you" chilling... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 12:26 PM |
| 7 | FDS has led me to fully embracing how much I care about height and it feels sooo good! Boy bye 👏I'm also 163cm and I felt like a midget when I visited the Netherlands, like 180cm is just average...even women are super tall! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 12:24 PM |
| 7 | So much respect for her father in-law for correcting his son’s behaviour!I don't get it either. They are not funny at all...like not at all (and I crack up very easily). But then I don't get fans/stans...and all that nonsense...I guess most people are braindead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 07:53 PM |
| 5 | If he wanted to, he would...and he did!I’m starting to see that this isn’t abnormal behavior In fact it is perfectly normal :) It's what caring, non-selfish people do. I'm glad you found a guy who values you, so even if it ends up not working out, you know what to expect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 01:11 PM |
| 10 | I'm so curious if anyone understands why she wants to be made to feel bad even though he made her cry and bought her bad gifts."I'm hoping someone can put me in my place" So sad, she's literally asking strangers to gaslight her cause she knows deep down something is wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 12:58 PM |
| 47 | I'm so curious if anyone understands why she wants to be made to feel bad even though he made her cry and bought her bad gifts.lol and it's ALWAYS "touch"...never gifts, how convenient. So the dude can justify putting his gross hands everywhere on your body and do nothing else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 12:55 PM |
| 11 | Men would be terrified of “sexual compatibility” if the concept was reciprocal/if the woman’s sexual satisfaction mattered, and if men faced the same risks to test ‘sexual compatibility’.Fortunately my life currently is scrote free but if any dare to come closer I will try that on him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:59 PM |
| 7 | Why This Isn't Working: They Can't Reconcile Their Image of "The One" With Their Fundamental Contempt for UsOne of my best friends thinks that relationships should be thought in terms of chunks or periods rather than lifetime and I tend to agree with her. I mean I'm a totally different person from the young woman in her early 20's. I think men seeing us as a placeholder is less of a problem if we don't focus on them. And I don't say it in a "let's turn the tables" manner. I genuinely don't see myself with the same person for ever because I want to grow as a person and I know that what I look in a part… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:58 PM |
| 2 | Why This Isn't Working: They Can't Reconcile Their Image of "The One" With Their Fundamental Contempt for UsWow! Who is this self aware guy giving us insight in the fragile male psyche? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:50 PM |
| 8 | Why This Isn't Working: They Can't Reconcile Their Image of "The One" With Their Fundamental Contempt for UsVirtual high five! Aside from one guy, I have always seen my bfs as placeholders (no matter how much I loved them) and in competition with my career..it makes it easier to leave when things go south. And despite all of this...I had my embarrassing pick me moments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:46 PM |
| 10 | Men would be terrified of “sexual compatibility” if the concept was reciprocal/if the woman’s sexual satisfaction mattered, and if men faced the same risks to test ‘sexual compatibility’.I know, that's why I said dickslexy ;) I was just riding your imaginative wave haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:15 PM |
| 42 | Men would be terrified of “sexual compatibility” if the concept was reciprocal/if the woman’s sexual satisfaction mattered, and if men faced the same risks to test ‘sexual compatibility’.So true! And the funny thing is that if anyone had to test drive for free, it really is us given that men can orgasm pretty much any single time. Do you imagine if we were like, "alright, I need to see if we're sexually compatible....before I sleep with you. You can keep your clothes on, while you go down on me, I don't mind". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:02 PM |
| 12 | Men would be terrified of “sexual compatibility” if the concept was reciprocal/if the woman’s sexual satisfaction mattered, and if men faced the same risks to test ‘sexual compatibility’.you mean dickslexy? Why despite its name is not a sexy affliction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:00 PM |
| 3 | How to safeguard against future faking: Ask "When?"I like that! Yes, I think future faking can be used as a way to prompt you to organize the said plans, to make you more attached by painting this picture of a future together or to gauge your reaction and see if you're eager about him. I think we got them all covered, did I miss something? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 12:42 PM |
| 2 | How to safeguard against future faking: Ask "When?"Exactly! In fact it often comes as a surprise...he's not talking endlessly about the future, he's planning and letting you know. If you have to corner him by asking why, it's time to leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 12:37 PM |
| 1 | How to safeguard against future faking: Ask "When?"Yes! We also discussed organizing marriage to oneself in the chat! I think a Divorce Party Planner who double in Marriage Party to oneself would be amazing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 12:26 PM |
| 5 | How to safeguard against future faking: Ask "When?"THIS A HUNDRED TIMES!! Most of my exes have planned things, but the last dude I was seeing would always mention things to do in the hope that I would organize and plan them. He did that all the freaking time....until I realized the trick. At the beginning I internalized (because that's what we do right?) and thought his lack of efforts meant he was not that into me...but then I realized in the way he spoke about his ex that he did the same thing. As you said "His brain doesn't work that way. He … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 12:21 PM |
| 6 | Oh dear 😂lol, and sometimes they even act as the prize...like they're not sure if they want a relationship, they have to think about it (believing in their state of delusion that the next hottest woman will give them the time of the day, so hey better not miss the opportunity by settling with you). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 11:37 AM |
| 5 | Oh dear 😂"the sun shines out of your ass" lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 11:32 AM |
| 1 | Ugh I’m sick of dumb OLD profiles of broke menIt should be in the handbook!! You're so spot on. Thanks for writing the post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 08:50 AM |
| 2 | HVM proposed with a Tiffany diamond after 1 year, then surprised with a bouquet and a thank you note <3Unfortunately I can't access the article as i don't have a paid account on medium :/ Thanks for your reply!! So far, for me the hardest is not to rush. I've mastered the block and delete but I still have work to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 06:09 PM |
| 182 | A man taking responsibility, we love to see it!Please the green flag is ironic??? She had to tell him, like it did not cross his mind? It's the freaking bare minimum. Even my narc ex, or nvm were amazing at cleaning, tidying and cooking. Ladies we need to expect more, waaaay more! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 04:18 PM |
| 2 | HVM proposed with a Tiffany diamond after 1 year, then surprised with a bouquet and a thank you note <3Did you date other people? Or did you guys become exclusive quickly? Also did you wait to become intimate? So many questions, now I'm like "what's your formula" which is silly because all the fds strategies we implement are here to protect us, not to "get the guy"...but well I'm curious :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 02:09 PM |
| 3 | I just realizedIt is kinda funny to check the "Stevie Nicks gone BAD" flavor of my old pics LMAO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 01:55 PM |
| 8 | A HVM will make you know you’re irreplaceable 💅🏼💖Great reminder! Thanks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 01:43 PM |
| 3 | NVM ex wanted me to choose between him and career in 2018. I chose career. Ending 2020 with 168k, halfway through my master's in CS, and just signed an offer letter with 400k of tech stocks vesting through 2025. NEVER sacrifice your career or education for ANYONE. (PS: He's still unemployed.)I'm so happy for you!! Kudos to you and to that mentor! I was also close to drop from my program because of an abusive ex who happened to be a classmate. So glad I did not!! Cheers to a scrote-free, thriving, life full of cats, girlfriends, money, ambition...and maybe a HVM if he ever exists! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 11:01 AM |
| 5 | HVM proposed with a Tiffany diamond after 1 year, then surprised with a bouquet and a thank you note <3Wishing you all the best! That ring, the flowers, the note!! Thanks for setting a great example :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 08:55 PM |
| 58 | HVM proposed with a Tiffany diamond after 1 year, then surprised with a bouquet and a thank you note <3haha yep! More like "tell us your secret?!!! Where are ALL the HVM hiding"? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 08:52 PM |
| 22 | The LVM responses to this post should convince any woman to never get into an FWB relationship. People think you are less of a person for being in one.yes and fuck buddy implies you're free to sleep with whoever you want while fwb implies an emotional aspect that is used to keep the woman monogamous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 05:36 PM |
| 24 | The LVM responses to this post should convince any woman to never get into an FWB relationship. People think you are less of a person for being in one.I was in the same conundrum recently, not wanting a bf but still desiring sex and I came to the conclusion that my self-esteem is more important than my pleasure and some occasional company. I'm willing to wait till a guy I like really wants me. You can do fwb and be respected if the guy sees you as more, if not, even if you only wanted sex to start with, his lack of respect and desire to please you, will erode your soul. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 05:23 PM |
| 13 | Patriarchy uses a bizarre combo of monogamy + sex positivity + equality to limit women's standards and potential.So insulting! He knows you really well after 5 hours... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Besides Jordan Peterson, what are the worst red-flag authors/books LVM/NVM read the most?I mean, I can see how some incels would love the monk who hates beauty ;) This being said, I really liked the book when I read it, not sure if I would post fds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 10:05 PM |
| 5 | I waited for a year to have sex with my bfI totally agree! Some advice are to masturbate before a date to take the edge off...I'm not sure about it. For me it's like sugar, the more I engage in it, the more I want it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 09:41 PM |
| 7 | I waited for a year to have sex with my bfAnd making sure I don't drink, and don't see a guy while I'm ovulating. Best way to be super clear headed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 09:38 PM |
| 2 | Do not let him gaslight you! You're not crazy, it's your intuition saying something's up, follow it.Does it mean you don't sleep with them at all? Only let them spoil you? haha, now we're talking friends with benefits (for women)! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 07:45 PM |
| 18 | This ain’t it sisI came here to say that! Politicians use it as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 12:46 PM |
| 3 | The more I felt accomplished the more I dated downWe want the details! Ok I do... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 10:16 AM |
| 2 | The more I felt accomplished the more I dated downUnfortunately, by not having more expectations from our date, we shoot ourselves in the foot. Right? It is a recipe of disaster. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 10:11 AM |
| 3 | The more I felt accomplished the more I dated downaww thanks! Yes there is definitely an assumption I need to work on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 10:09 AM |
| 5 | The more I felt accomplished the more I dated downYes! I'm not dating at the moment, but I have my list for whenever I re-enter the dating scene. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 10:09 AM |
| 2 | Do not let him gaslight you! You're not crazy, it's your intuition saying something's up, follow it.Once you have seen and experienced enough, you realize that all relationships have an expiration date, that men are predictable, and that they will inevitably bore you. When you're done mourning that, you will begin to embrace it, and focus on something more tangible, like material benefits. This!! Also you say only date (no sex)...do you follow the handbook? Waiting three months? That is the most difficult part for me...especially if I'm not in the mindset to commit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 09:49 AM |
| 7 | Message for women stumbling upon this subSame story and it only lasted two months before I caught myself feeling anxious for no apparent reasons. Everytime I read these stories, I wonder "did we date the same guy"? It turns out we all dated Scrote at some point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 10:44 PM |
| 10 | Do not let him gaslight you! You're not crazy, it's your intuition saying something's up, follow it.It's a question of perspective, I don't mind them running after me while I'm minding my own business, I just don't want to keep running from them when I have other things to do :) ps: I hope it doesn't sound like scrotish! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 10:28 PM |
| 13 | Do not let him gaslight you! You're not crazy, it's your intuition saying something's up, follow it.Even as someone who did not grow up with the Disney fairy tale, I do grieve the romantic in me and I'm still not sure if I totally want to let it go, and yet after each relationships everything became clear to me, their motives, what they said, why they said it...(yes, in short their own benefits, period) It would be nice if I could reprogram myself to be attracted to guys who add things to my life BIG TIME....but truth be told, the nice romantic feeling with a cutie is getting old very quickly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 10:14 PM |
| 16 | Do not let him gaslight you! You're not crazy, it's your intuition saying something's up, follow it.the only way a man can feel sexually content and accomplished is by feeling like he barely snatched something that's about to bail on him any minute. that sounds freaking exhausting. I have better things to do in my life than run anytime he gets closer, I'd rather run after my goals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 10:05 PM |
| 14 | I saw the violence my ex fiance was capable of and it made me realize something.Wether everyone is capable of this, or not, you have lost trust in him and you won't ever feel safe. An ex bf said, it is because I can protect you, that I can hurt you as well. As you said, it's one thing to protect you and make sure everyone is safe, it's another one to lose control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 08:42 PM |
| 2 | Putting FDS into practice with datingI agree! Ideally you'd multi date but do not force yourself and disturb your balance just so you try not to be focused on him. As someone else said, ultimately he is competing against yourself. Things that worked for me to stay level headed, when I did not have many options, was not to drink and keep a journal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 08:29 PM |
| 3 | Scarcity vs. Abundance Mindset: What's your approach?wow, you explained it sooo well!! I love it. You somehow answered the post I deleted, saying that I have no problem going for the utility mindset at certain time of the year (basically when I can take a break from work and around spring) and it works..for a while, but when fall rolls around I tend to get attached and this is when, either a my favorite guy from the roster will step up or I will cut most of them before I lose. I tend to be the romantic kind and sometimes I get played at own game i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 04:18 PM |
| 6 | Seriously disgusting. And I left his name visible, as he is a public figure and has an entire page dedicated to this nonsense. 🤬Scrotanamo Bay Laughing so hard | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 03:41 PM |
| 3 | This is a fresh look compared to the horrendous bios written by LVM’s.Madame je sais (vraiment) tout! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 03:09 PM |
| 8 | This is a fresh look compared to the horrendous bios written by LVM’s.Men are their own worst enemies. They are the best at wasting their own time. It's nonsensical. lol, that is so true! No wonder they can't keep up with regular, basic life stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 03:06 PM |
| 2 | LVM are always scared of commitment. Don't date guys that act like your boyfriend but say they aren't ready for 'a relationship'!spot on!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 09:20 PM |
| 11 | FaceTime date with seemingly HVM reveals his repulsive apartment. This is why you FaceTime first, imagine arriving here in person. Needless to say, that was our last conversation.I had a guy say "I need to clean before you come to my place"...it was fine but nowhere near tidy for a date, I can't imagine how it was before...and who say that anyway? It was the last time I saw him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 09:13 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Usually you have to start afresh. Guys will quickly put you in a category....but you can see how things evolve. Evaluate him and if he's not putting any effort you know what to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 06:39 PM |
| 24 | Dating is supposed to be funhaha i like the analogy!! Particularly the cat café. On a similar note, I remember having a date with a guy and we agreed that we'd only cuddle and watch a movie. He stayed true to his words. I enjoyed it...but it was still weird. In my head I thought "it would be amazing to have someone I'm attracted enough to cuddle but nothing more"...it still didn't work out. At the end no matter how I twist things, and consider all the scenarios in my head, if it's not a relationship I'm likely to end up co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 05:40 PM |
| 54 | Dating is supposed to be funDon't ever say anything to the guy - just observe how you feel around him. Women tend to overshare at the initial stage of courtship under the mindset of developing a chemistry, but that's will put us in the position of vulnerability. Between men and women, women should be more secretive since we have more to lose. Observe, don't share. Yes!!! I've been guilty of oversharing. I need to be quiet and observe. As for fwb, I was just saying that guys will focus on semantics if you ever mention frien… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 04:03 PM |
| 119 | Dating is supposed to be funI think that being in relationship should be as easy as spending time with your (healthy) bestfriends Don't ever say that to a guy though...his twisted mind will think "oooh yeah sure...let's be friends...with benefits" sigh. I remember asking a guy I used to date why he would sleep with a friend of his...I mean if he's attracted to her and she's a friend, that's a freaking relationship no? It baffles me that a guy can like you just enough to be attracted and enjoy your company but not enough to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 02:38 PM |
| 2 | Strong women 💪 👑How is the book? I'm tempted... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 08:05 PM |
| 4 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...lol, oh no women are definitely allowed to have a lot of fun according to the illustrator, and what kind of fun! So glad a guy got to represent my everyday life very accurately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 07:21 PM |
| 13 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...Exactly, aside from the he flat looking like trash as if she were depressed 24/7, she's an alcoholic (look at how many bottles of wine are stored in her kitchen)...but hey that's the modern woman, what? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 02:53 PM |
| 23 | My boyfriend was worth the wait! He’s been taking care of me since I broke my foot.Not unconditional!! It's very conditional on him being respectful all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 02:35 PM |
| 4 | Men having a type and women having a type. How men fake interest and clown women. Ways to avoid this happening to you.Exactly! At the time i thought he'd be grateful and happy...LOL! Nope, he did it once, he now thinks he's a casanova. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 10:28 AM |
| 6 | Men having a type and women having a type. How men fake interest and clown women. Ways to avoid this happening to you.Me neither! But if you hear them speak...it's all economics, the sexual market, quantifying and objectifying us.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 10:26 AM |
| 3 | No girlfriend benefits without exclusivity.But he was happy to be exclusive when covid started right? Your story reminded me of the guy I was seeing who was happy to be exclusive when second lockdown started...lol, of course he's happy to be exclusive when there's no one around!! So you're right, titles mean nothing if he doesn't take you seriously and my point was that we must be even more careful during the pandemic and the lockdowns. They'll pretend to be on board with anything for the convenience of having access to regular sex. Also… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 10:48 PM |
| 46 | Men having a type and women having a type. How men fake interest and clown women. Ways to avoid this happening to you.And they'll still cheat because getting her inflates his ego so he then thinks he can get anyone (my ex told me that, not that I'm a ten, but I was way out of his league). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 09:16 PM |
| 2 | No girlfriend benefits without exclusivity.Sure! That was not a real question, mostly a rhetorical one...kind of sharing the same idea as Carpedictum before I realized she already articulated it perfectly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 09:00 PM |
| 5 | No girlfriend benefits without exclusivity.maybe acting in a reassuring libfem approach, asking not if they watch porn but asking what genre they're into, assuming they watch it. Yes!!! Play the dumb fox, so here pretend to be a libfem so he opens up about his porn preferences (or if he watches any). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 08:51 PM |
| 5 | No girlfriend benefits without exclusivity.I hope she kicks him out...phrasing monogamy as something he was forced to agree on rather than honoured to be granted because he values her...ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 08:47 PM |
| 5 | No girlfriend benefits without exclusivity.You beat me to it! Yep, you gotta put things in context. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 08:43 PM |
| 6 | No girlfriend benefits without exclusivity.ugh, I guess the lesson is to be careful of men who want to be exclusive when there is a pandemic...it's very convenient for him, but is he still sticking around when there's no lockdown and health related risks? edit: word | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 08:42 PM |
| 16 | I've been dating a man for 2 months nowHe could also still be hurt from the previous relationship if his wife really cheated hence the "how can you know that"...He may have wanted reassurance from you as he does not know you well yet. In any event, if there's something fishy you will feel it soon enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 07:22 PM |
| 8 | No girlfriend benefits without exclusivity.Yessss!! A month is plenty of time, I'd even say by the fourth date he knows perfectly where the two of you stand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:57 PM |
| 8 | No girlfriend benefits without exclusivity.Really? But aside from lovebombing, three or four dates max should be enough to know if he wants to give it a chance. Guys know quickly. Lovebombing is a whole different story (future faking, grand gesture...) but wanting exclusivity can be established early on. ps: for me exclusivit and gf is the same. So I guess he should know if he wants to pursue a relationship early on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:55 PM |
| 6 | No girlfriend benefits without exclusivity.oooh is it the video Derrick Jaxn comments? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EqHPCyyOmF4 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:49 PM |
| 9 | No girlfriend benefits without exclusivity.Do you say it though? Or do you expect the guy to bring it up without having to mention exclusivity at all? As Unlikely-Marzipan said, from my experience the only time I had to clarify, the guy obliged but he was not actively pursuing me (and I had the feeling he was still talking to other women). The relationships that worked, I did not say anything, he's the one who felt the need to DTR. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:47 PM |
| 5 | Strong women 💪 👑Yep definitely, she has to...which means she's probably silencing her gut feeling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:13 PM |
| 11 | Strong women 💪 👑Right? She's way more at ease with her own hosts. They don't try to lecture her in public. ps: the one with Evy Poumpouras is amazing!! The way she explains how she fished for information, without showing her cards, with her ex bf to know where she stood before cutting him...she definitely has fds/not taking any shit energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:11 PM |
| 3 | On today's episode: men collectively sharing one personalityoooh yeah!! I dated people in my field and they always do that. I have no pb putting them in their place though...it's just the lack of empathy that is a deal breaker for me..I mean then why not just dating a robot? Sigh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:10 PM |
| 17 | No girlfriend benefits without exclusivity.Same here!! The only time I actually asked was with the guy who was smirking at his phone (you commented that I should listen to my gut). I saw him few times, felt the need to ask for clarification..but then he proceeded to throw me a flag parade. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 02:39 PM |
| 22 | No girlfriend benefits without exclusivity.If he acts clueless about what dating is supposed to lead to, he might even agree to a relationship if the woman asks him - if he doesn't have a better option. Spot on!!! I was close to fall into the trap...before I retrieved my common sense and blocked him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 02:34 PM |
| 20 | Strong women 💪 👑She said once "someone could send me a pic of him being close to a woman and I would not be worried because I trust him" huuuh really? There was another video where he was mansplanning her the whole time and cut her in a really dry way "what are we arguing about?"... That was a good example for me of listening to my gut. He seems to be a doting husband but there is something off...the power imbalance is way too big. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 02:19 PM |
| 4 | On today's episode: men collectively sharing one personalityIt drives me crazy when all the sudden, out of the freaking blue: "Hey I don't get notifications of the app, here's my number" Lol, sure, do you want me to bring you flowers and open the door when I pick you up from the hair salon? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 02:08 PM |
| 5 | On today's episode: men collectively sharing one personalitynobody nobody nobody...nobody.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 02:06 PM |
| 8 | On today's episode: men collectively sharing one personalityspontaneous and adventurous! let's go on a last minute adventure: a walk to my place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 01:59 PM |
| 7 | On today's episode: men collectively sharing one personalityOh and the new one: "You like walks and don't mind getting lost" LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 01:55 PM |
| 7 | On today's episode: men collectively sharing one personalityyep!!! Don't go out with me if you don't have a sense of humor, i.e if I can't neg you and have to be a shrodinger douchebag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 01:54 PM |
| 4 | On today's episode: men collectively sharing one personalityInteresting, I always thought I should date my counterpart if i wanted someone with empathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 01:53 PM |
| 7 | On today's episode: men collectively sharing one personalityhahaha so true!! I used to be attracted to ENTP as an outgoing INFP... they were passionate and a lot of fun to be around but they always struck me as slightly psycho. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 01:48 PM |
| 2 | FierceHell yeah! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 01:46 PM |
| 2 | For any women out there that has been disrespected by their partner in a heartless way. Leave. Even if it’s the first time.No one will disagree...quite the opposite, you're in the right place :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 01:45 PM |
| 33 | Strong women 💪 👑Can we talk about Tom and Lisa? Sometimes I like their dynamic...but most of the time he's condescending towards her, there's one video in particular that made me cringe big time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 01:30 PM |
| 2 | Do not ever, ever put yourself into the situation where your last friend is your boyfriendOooh I see! I'm very bubbly introvert, so I have the opposite pb, people thinking I'm always like that and sometimes being surprised or even disappointed when i'm reserved and quiet. Well, honestly I would just ignore the assholes trying to prove anything to you. The older woman you're talking about does not deserve a iota of your politeness and your attention. i would just ignore her so she can just smile (with a smug) right back at herself! This being said I love how you put he in her place in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Do not ever, ever put yourself into the situation where your last friend is your boyfriendI used to have huge groups of friends but there was always something off. I genuinely loved the dynamic at times and the laughter but I also hated the feeling of being held hostage by a group.. It took me a very long time to get rid of most the friendships I deemed toxic...and I was left with very few people. You're right! Being outgoing and extroverted is seen as high value even when it's fake or superficial, because let's be honest no one can have that many real friends. As I am reconsidering … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 12:10 AM |
| 1 | Do not ever, ever put yourself into the situation where your last friend is your boyfriendOhh good to know it doesn't affect you! It looks like she over compensating. Well if you feel comfortable then it's their problem...and not having a friends, or a lot of them, is very handy in this time of pandemic! I have few acquaintances complaining big time while I'm just doing fine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 11:26 PM |
| 1 | Do not ever, ever put yourself into the situation where your last friend is your boyfriendThey always wave a little red flag in front of our eyes, don't they? Sigh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 11:17 PM |
| 1 | Do not ever, ever put yourself into the situation where your last friend is your boyfriendThis makes me really sad to read...it's incredibly hurtful, I hope she realized it/you put her in her place! I have come to embrace my solitude and it is a choice, but someone highlighting that is a deal breaker...in the case of your sister, of course you can't get rid of her but you can turn the table on her. I have gained a sense of confidence that now says "I don't give a damn if I'm by myself"...and I can't imagine any guy weaponizing that against me. My ex did it because I had just cut ties… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Do not ever, ever put yourself into the situation where your last friend is your boyfriendYes!!!! oops, I got too excited..but it has been my experience as well. I only can give my "unconditional" love to some members of my family. When I have made it clear to female friends that I really liked them and they made it to my very intimate circle (which is only few people)...guess what? The dynamic changed and they took me for granted or did something hurtful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 11:06 PM |
| 1 | Do not ever, ever put yourself into the situation where your last friend is your boyfriendThat is beyond pathetic!! And how ironic is it that he still calls you if he's soooo much better at making friends and meeting people? Mine was punching above the weight in looks but he was quite intelligent and did not say anything else hurtful...but saying that, when I was at a low point of my life, really showed me his true colors. I did not dump him right away but kept it in my mind. Fast forward few months later and I'm at a party having the best time of my life and too busy to check my pho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 11:01 PM |
| 7 | And guys wonder why they are getting ignored. I deleted the match already but I'm dumbfounded. My bio talks about my hobbies, things i like to talk about, my current goals etc. Him: 🚘🏎️🖥️✌️🤪lol, come on...it's easier to approach anyone online than irl...and you have a bio. There's absolutely no excuse for a low effort intro. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:18 PM |
| 4 | Do not ever, ever put yourself into the situation where your last friend is your boyfriendThat's gold!!! It can be tricky when you tend to be an introvert to juggle family, friends, bf, career and self care!! It put me in the situation to rely a little too much on my exes...especially if we had a lot in common. My last relatively HV bf who never said anything harmful ended up making a comment that hinted at me being a loner (I still had friends just not a lot). This was one of the reasons I dropped him...but it also showed me that I should be more careful with what I share. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 12:40 PM |
| 16 | OMG I couldn’t help myself. He shouldn’t have snooped and he should communicate. And stop being so insecure! All women do this.same thing, he tried to turn the table on me...lol, nice try! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 12:31 PM |
| 49 | OMG I couldn’t help myself. He shouldn’t have snooped and he should communicate. And stop being so insecure! All women do this.She's not a mind reader. lol!! And you know... six months is still pretty early to assume any exclusivity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 12:31 PM |
| 22 | OMG I couldn’t help myself. He shouldn’t have snooped and he should communicate. And stop being so insecure! All women do this."Maybe you have a small dick and she's attracted to big ones? We can't help what we're attracted to but at the end of the day, you're the one laying next to her in bed. You shouldn't be too worried." Any reply so far? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 12:29 PM |
| 3 | Holidays make it easy to spot LVM. Thank goodness my pick me days of cooking a full thanksgiving meal so a LVM can drink, watch football, and nap are over.Who cares if it sounds mean? Changing the subject is so freaking disrespectul and immature. I just call them out "like hey don't change the subject"...but most of the people I know/knew didn't do it. The one who did, it did not abode well and they belong to the past. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 10:47 AM |
| 25 | Personal break up boundariesWe all make mistakes, don't be so harsh on yourself and don't forget we live in a pickme society! The same thing happened to me last year...I cried for a week after blocking him...not because I lost him but because i felt I betrayed myself like I never did before (and I'm not talking about abuse but going dutch, enduring his stupid sense of humor...) Then I stumbled on fds. So the LVM led me here :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 11:35 PM |
| 75 | If you fw straight men “only ok” is hella generous.It was like that part in the Wizard of Oz where Dorothy wakes up in color. omg you ladies crack me up!!! It is like that haha. I don't know if it's "aging" and feeling really good in my own skin (also being more selfish in bed finally) but gosh the two last guys who went down on me gave me epic orgasms. Too bad they were not bf material. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 10:49 PM |
| 11 | My wish for 2021 and beyond is that more women realise that they don’t have to put up with callous, selfish behaviour in their relationships.Gaslighting! The sky is blue but he will pretend it's red and you better believe it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 05:02 PM |
| 20 | My wish for 2021 and beyond is that more women realise that they don’t have to put up with callous, selfish behaviour in their relationships.a narcissist for protecting yourself? Let me guess, the ones who called you that way were the guy you dropped projecting on you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 05:00 PM |
| 14 | My wish for 2021 and beyond is that more women realise that they don’t have to put up with callous, selfish behaviour in their relationships.Serious question though, are all men narc or sociopathic? I mean for real....I met two of them and I did not stay long enough with my apparently HVM bfs to know if the mask would have dropped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 04:55 PM |
| 36 | I finally cut the cord. [long]Yep! She's like, I don't even have a supportive family but I'm in my mid twenties with two BA, a MA, soon I'll own a house and I work out on top of that....and a penniless couch potato took me for granted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 04:45 PM |
| 2 | Imagine thinking consent is a turn offI don't like the idea of consent and I think it totally ruins the mood big time. Why? Because it tells me that my partner has no capacity for discernment, or chose not to use it. I see consent as a value signaling attitude that truly is the consequence of a transactional mindset. It's not a coincidence if the emphasis on consent has emerged with the hookup culture. If we really took the time to get to know someone and if guys were interested in a real connection, they would not have to ask at a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 02:19 PM |
| 5 | Imagine thinking consent is a turn offhahaha that's really cute. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 02:00 PM |
| 7 | Imagine thinking consent is a turn offI think we're getting there (hopefully). Just the fact that this sub exists gives me hope! More and more women are frustrated by the libfem discourses and realized that they've been brainwashed to be used. I mean just look at you tube! There are so many videos now talking about having standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 01:59 PM |
| 6 | Imagine thinking consent is a turn offI know, it is! But we also think that way because we are traditionally the reciprocator, so our desire is fed by the desire of our partner. I could never be in the mood if my partner is not...but some guys don't give a damn. In a society where we are objectified, it doesn't matter if we are in the mood or not, we are just here to receive, be it attention, sex...you name it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 01:56 PM |
| 11 | Imagine thinking consent is a turn offConsent is such a low bar anyways. It's the bare minimum to not go to jail, but still fails to pass moral standards of what's right and wrong. Hell yeah!! Let's swap consent for genuine enthusiasm. My ex serious bf could tell even before me when I was in the mood or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 01:52 PM |
| 14 | Imagine thinking consent is a turn offI don’t understand why more men don’t romance and touch and kiss their partners, hold their hands, doesn’t it feel good for them too? Sex is infinitely more amazing when you are in an affectionate, loving relationship I came to the conclusion that they are just not evolved enough, seriously. The one who were amazing for the most part, had a sensitive side and were capable of emotional depth. It's like they knew how to appreciate truffe and caviar while the other ones are just happy and "fulfille… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 01:49 PM |
| 13 | Imagine thinking consent is a turn offOn the one hand this all does weed out weak lvm, but on the other there is such a huge disparity now of hvm and lvm. Yess!!!! The gap is abysmal...it's like two different species. I wouldn't even call them HVM but decent guy vs LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 01:43 PM |
| 10 | Imagine thinking consent is a turn offmy bf when we were in our early twenties picked me up, opened the door for me, called me, cooked for me, kissed my eyelids...it turned out he was narc so it did not work out in the long run but that did set the bar pretty high and I'm glad it did. I think some of them (the smart ones) are actually quite skilled in the bedroom because they realized you're not likely to stick around otherwise, especially if they are not offering you a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 01:41 PM |
| 7 | Imagine thinking consent is a turn offLol, you're not!!! That's what I'm used to and a guy not making any efforts is a huge turn off. They still know how to do it but I agree that porn AND OLD with women pursuing them left and right has made them super entitled and lazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 01:38 PM |
| 12 | THIS IS IT. This is the attitude 👑I see your point but as an empath people do make me feel a certain way. My strength lies in discerning what comes from me (hungry and losing my patience? Sad because pre pms...) and what comes from people. Then I can decide who is adding happiness to my life and who is bringing me down and warrants to be blocked so I can keep my energy up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 01:31 PM |
| 77 | Where's the lie?Ok, so I'm not the only one who went through the shock of discovering that such things existed...Before last year and my attempt at dating through OLD, none of my partners mentioned porn nor had a fetish for my butt. I can't tell if it's OLD that frees guys to do whatever they fancy (because you don't have mutual friends and see you mostly as a hookup) or the porn getting more extreme with time...or a mix of both. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 01:05 PM |
| 17 | Where's the lie?I hear it in Oprah's voice :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 12:29 PM |
| 39 | Where's the lie?has the emotional range of a tea spoon haha I never thought of the emotional range of a tea spoon...so are we like.. a tablespoon? 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 11:03 AM |
| 18 | How to spot someone whos been redpilled or someone similarTalking about TRP tactics, there was a guy who would mention his competition like I don't mind if you sleep with other guys. In the moment I thought he just did not give a damn but I wonder if it's a reverse dread tactic. I mean if the guy really doesn't care why would he mention such a thing? It definitely had the effect of making me feel very insecure in a way that is less obvious than if he had mentioned other women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 12:02 AM |
| 14 | How to spot someone whos been redpilled or someone similarbut they always forget legs day and overdo trapezes so it looks like they have no neck...ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 11:54 PM |
| 5 | Why, why, WHY do we mother them?Oh I believe you, they are so many other ways to be a pickme. I'm going through many flashbacks, it's embarrassing 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 09:17 PM |
| 8 | If he was ever unfaithful to you - you need to leave and never turn back. It’s not that once a cheater always a cheater - it’s that you’ll never respect them the same again. And no, the disgust you feel for him despite loving him will never, ever go away.In this case it really is them, not you. We need to stop internalizing their shitty behavior as if we were responsible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:57 PM |
| 15 | If he was ever unfaithful to you - you need to leave and never turn back. It’s not that once a cheater always a cheater - it’s that you’ll never respect them the same again. And no, the disgust you feel for him despite loving him will never, ever go away.Chumplady is amazing!! Fds before fds existed. I discovered that my narc ex was leading a double life because I snooped. My gut told me something was off, and I was right. I believe that in most cases if you need to snoop the relation may be over (your gut is warning you). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:56 PM |
| 8 | Holidays make it easy to spot LVM. Thank goodness my pick me days of cooking a full thanksgiving meal so a LVM can drink, watch football, and nap are over.I can't deal with men who change the topic like you said nothing....are we going to pretend that ignoring is not super disrespectful? Glad you blocked him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:51 PM |
| 3 | Have you noticed that men aren't funny?I have been laughing a lot here on this sub, women are definitely hilarious! As for men on OLD, most are boring. I have few guy friends who are hilarious but they've been raised by single moms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:38 PM |
| 2 | Have you noticed that men aren't funny?I was going to say Dave Chappelle! Probably the funniest human being alive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:34 PM |
| 4 | Have you noticed that men aren't funny?Yes Brits are so funny and witty but I can't with the weak chin and beer belly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:31 PM |
| 5 | Have you noticed that men aren't funny?Dating American men is like trying to go out with your son I'm not American but have dated American guys, spot on. Men from other countries, particularly those who were raised by single mom were way better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:30 PM |
| 2 | A lesson learned.The idea behind blocking is that it communicates both to the guy and to yourself that he's dead to you, so who cares what he thinks? He's not relevant, he does not exist anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:16 PM |
| 2 | A lesson learned.Every time you unblock a fuckboy, every time you give a shitty person a second chance, you let yourself down. That comes at a much larger personal cost that what some idiot might think about you blocking him. Three seconds later that guy is sending messages to the next woman on his rolodex and has forgotten you entirely. But yourself won't let you forget this so easily. so true! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:13 PM |
| 2 | A lesson learned.Yep, even if you are over him, you just don't want your glorious energy to be ruined by a dude who thinks he can come and go as he pleases. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:12 PM |
| 1 | Consensual abuse is not sexy.BDSM has absolutely no redeemable qualities, Religion on the contrary has so many sound principles and they are so many badass women who revolutionizing it from within. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:02 PM |
| 2 | Unhealed abandonment trauma is what led me to be with emotionally unavaliable partners. Healing this was essential to my development. This work is not easy, but so so worth it in the end. Stay strong ladies.being in contact with him is just retraumatising myself so true! You can do it!! You may miss him at times but the relief and the peace of mind is so worth it (and I'm not even talking about the self esteem and prioritizing yourself). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 06:26 PM |
| 2 | Posted on r/unpopularadvice... they went OFF. Find the perfect comment! 🤡hahaha yes!! I know, insanity (and I'm not talking about the work out) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 06:17 PM |
| 6 | To my future daugther: Dating "Don't take anybody's shit, you are already making your own and cleaning up." "Date people who look forward to seeing you in person and as a person.""yeah fuck it, save your money" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 05:29 PM |
| 18 | Why, why, WHY do we mother them?I think the root of it is your familial upbringing. You mentioned you had to mother your siblings, I did not and as a result I have never mothered a guy. In fact I was oblivious of the male bumbler until I met one of those whom I liked a lot, but his lack of basic skills was a huge turn off. All of my exes cooked for me, knew how to clean and were very tidy. They also had no pb planning things and I was usually in the passenger seat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 05:26 PM |
| 21 | Reminder that words mean nothing, always pay attention to their level of effort through actions.my narc ex used to text me some mystical, spiritual, soulmate/twin flame mumbo jumbo between the hours of 9pm and 6am. He would get so angry with me because I always replied "what do you want now?" 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 04:54 PM |
| 2 | Understanding the female dating double bind in a new way and pissed about itYou are indeed a great writer (came from your thanksgiving post) and I feel we are relatively in the same phase of the mourning process (although I've been lurking fds for six months now). I'm starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I can't wait for your next post about feeling free from all these expectations! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 03:43 PM |
| 4 | Understanding the female dating double bind in a new way and pissed about ityes and all the "attachment" theories that make YOU responsible...as if it were in your power to be "secure" when all the clowns we are surrounded by are relentlessly trying to bring our self esteem down. Sigh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 03:33 PM |
| 4 | Posted on r/unpopularadvice... they went OFF. Find the perfect comment! 🤡Would you recommend it? So far OLD has been a joke. I'm not dating at the moment but maybe later. Also nice username, pas de promesses, pas de déception :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 11:16 AM |
| 6 | Thanksgiving for the Things That Aren'tWhen it gets difficult and I'm tempted to give in (be it unblock a lvm or date again) I like to think of the women who fought for us to be here and have basic rights, I like to think of my mother who made so many sacrifices and I like to think about the next generation. I don't want to sound dramatic nor self-centered as if the course of history depended on a silly stupid text but it is important to remind ourselves that what is at stake is always more than a silly stupid text. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 12:05 AM |
| 4 | Thanksgiving for the Things That Aren'tI love the positive queen pep talk but there is indeed a mourning process that starts when we realize the harsh reality of patriarchy and how we've been brainwashed no matter how educated and aware we thought we were!! I am starting my celibacy journey and it's scary to unlearn patterns but at the same time there are moments of pure happiness and relief. Virtual hug to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 11:59 PM |
| 3 | I cancelled a ‘date’ last minute. It was the right thing to doDating with laser focus intention, and gut feeling acknowledgment, one block at a time! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 10:56 PM |
| 2 | Posted on r/unpopularadvice... they went OFF. Find the perfect comment! 🤡Yes!! So men interested in getting physical prefer to sit next to you. That way they can get closer than if they were to sit in front of you. It's also less confrontational in their mind, but also less intimate because there's no eye contact. It's the same idea with date walk...and they can accidentally brush you and get closer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 10:46 PM |
| 6 | Posted on r/unpopularadvice... they went OFF. Find the perfect comment! 🤡I read about it, like a spin class-date. The guy sees you in fitting clothes, no make up, doesn't waste his time and doesn't have to pay for anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 10:43 PM |
| 2 | Posted on r/unpopularadvice... they went OFF. Find the perfect comment! 🤡I have no idea how they deal with the dissonance...I guess in their mind it means they can afford to rotate without going broke. It's the only explanation I can find. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 10:41 PM |
| 6 | Posted on r/unpopularadvice... they went OFF. Find the perfect comment! 🤡nope, instead they shame us for "digging" their inexistent gold. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 10:40 PM |
| 2 | Posted on r/unpopularadvice... they went OFF. Find the perfect comment! 🤡WHERE did you find them? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 10:36 PM |
| 8 | Posted on r/unpopularadvice... they went OFF. Find the perfect comment! 🤡I made fun of him for bringing those girls to sit on a bench at a park. Asked if it rained. How was the nearby garbage can. If a homeless man interrupted them for spare change Thanks for the laughter. Seriously I should date women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 10:35 PM |
| 3 | Posted on r/unpopularadvice... they went OFF. Find the perfect comment! 🤡hahaha I love that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 10:34 PM |
| 8 | Don't waste your energy trying to come up with a witty comeback, block and delete!I'm the same way. When it's over, it's over, but I did stay too long in some relationships...in fact entered them when I should have turned around. What fds taught me is not to give the benefit of the doubt when the first red flag shows up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 10:24 PM |
| 50 | May be FDS or may be that after I saw myself in a picture with my “hot” crush I was more attractive... either way, even hot men are meh now.Yes, I can hear the salesman bs even more loudly than before....and I can't stand salesmen, even when they are attractive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 10:20 PM |
| 24 | May be FDS or may be that after I saw myself in a picture with my “hot” crush I was more attractive... either way, even hot men are meh now.yes, all of that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 10:19 PM |
| 8 | Spent 3 weeks on this creature. He randomly decided to ghost me for no apparent reason 🤷🏻♀️ and now he is blockedIt is abuse! It's crazy how men have introduced apparently harmless little things to "train" us to accept the bare minimum. I had two guys last year being slightly disrespectful and my friends thought I was overreacting. The first disappeared mid conversation (at night) and texted back in the morning. I told him not to do that again, if you're going to disappear then just say goodnight (his excuse was "sorry I fell asleep" dude it takes ten second to exit the convo!). The other one went MIA for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 10:15 AM |
| 3 | Spent 3 weeks on this creature. He randomly decided to ghost me for no apparent reason 🤷🏻♀️ and now he is blockedGot it, I guess the subtext of my question is more "how can he ghosts" you if you let him initiate. Then he goes MIA and that's enough for a block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 10:02 AM |
| 8 | any book suggestion?Why does he do that, such an eye opener about abusive men. I wish I read it a while ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 12:31 AM |
| 5 | Self care isn't always bubble baths.haha, well here I am to confirm your intuition ;) True! A keto cake for the occasion would do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 12:21 AM |
| 23 | HVM are so rare, I'm accepting that I might be alone forever.yes!!! In fact the irony of fds is that after a while your dating "strategy" may very well be NOT to date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 12:07 AM |
| 5 | Self care isn't always bubble baths.If you're doing keto or if you just want to remove sugar from your life (because you get addicted to it and it has absolutly zero nutritional quality) then it's better to decline the cake. It's a lifestyle not a diet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 11:55 PM |
| 3 | Self care isn't always bubble baths.I'm trying to do keto. Dang, every day I find excuses to have my last piece of bread, sigh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 11:52 PM |
| 7 | Spent 3 weeks on this creature. He randomly decided to ghost me for no apparent reason 🤷🏻♀️ and now he is blockedAnother question, what do you mean by ghosting? Not replying or not initiating? It does not matter since the guy should initiate but still wondering. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 11:46 PM |
| 3 | There's a worrying amount of posts where the woman has no idea she deserves respect and bodily autonomy...can you send her a link to this sub? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 06:30 PM |
| 8 | There's a worrying amount of posts where the woman has no idea she deserves respect and bodily autonomy...Is there any chance you can talk to them? Using the excuse of talking about their homework? I don't know how strict the rules are and if you'd be overstepping any boundaries but I guess I would try. I did that with college student when I was the TA for a class. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Pickmeisha on r/offmychestThat was my first thought! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 06:07 PM |
| 2 | Straight up abuse then love-bombing. Is this how women convince themselves with BDSM? X-post from one of my radfem FB groups.Haha, yep! In fact I ran like I retrieved my common sense and did not want it to be taken. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 02:29 PM |
| 3 | If This Ain’t A MOOD!!Good point! I wish it worked like that for me...or even better, the more you have sex with yourself the more you're in love with yourself...it would be amazing haha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 12:02 PM |
| 47 | If This Ain’t A MOOD!!Yep, I mean even when I was not traumatized and had generous partners...it stinks when oxytocin kicks in and you can tell he was in just for the fun. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 08:37 PM |
| 13 | If This Ain’t A MOOD!!you mean till the next morning? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 08:25 PM |
| 29 | If This Ain’t A MOOD!!I agree!! It's not worth it even when you think you're safe.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 08:25 PM |
| 43 | If This Ain’t A MOOD!!I feel you! I'm happy to be single but during that time of the month I'm so close to call someone who knows how to please me. Just remember, we are not our hormones...it's like any craving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 08:23 PM |
| 1 | A pickmeisha lesson: LVM are expensive.Give me some of that "evaluation mode" aura :) I do have to say I used to feel bad for not offering to pay, now if the guy suggest we split, I lose interest...so I'm making progress! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 07:10 PM |
| 1 | I’ve been seeing a lot of forever-GF posts lately and thought this was kind of wholesome to contrast (although not condoning the drink date 🙅🏼♀️). It’s rare to see men articulate emotions like this (even if it is on Reddit, hopefully he tells her as well)Yes, cheers to women who want to keep their own place! I really want to keep my own place not only in case, but also because this is the way I recharge. I can't spend all my time with someone even if they are amazing...and I like the possibility to miss each other a little bit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 01:31 PM |
| 1 | A pickmeisha lesson: LVM are expensive.No we did not but it definitely showed me what men are capable of when they really want you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 12:02 PM |
| 1 | He simply does not want to meet your needsThanks for your long reply :) I'm sorry to hear about your past traumas...and I hope you can get the emotional closeness with HV people and I include female friends...ironically I got disappointed more often by friends than by partners, because I don't trust men to start with. I don't think I'm dismissive because I crave emotional closeness and I have no pb being vulnerable..in fact I seek that I can't deal with a cold partner... but I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop, because my dad … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Choosing to stay single has enhanced my life 😁Yes! I have been celibate once and it was lovely...but I broke it for a low effort dude. No more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 02:43 PM |
| 3 | He simply does not want to meet your needsI wanted to ask you if what you're describing is not a dismissive avoidant attachment style? I just realized I may be fearful-avoidant but it does not translate into coldness. It's more a push pull tendency. I crave closeness and I have no problem being very open but then I need tones of space and I look for the first sign of BS to walk away. I don't know how you feel about it but so far mine has been very helpful. I wonder if there really is a pb with this attachement style (hypervigilance, wai… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 11:49 AM |
| 2 | A pickmeisha lesson: LVM are expensive.uugh I'm sorry but glad that he's just a memory to be made fun of on reddit haha. There will be a day when scrotes will behave because they'll be too afraid of being the scrote of the month on fds....a girl can only dream! I had something similar happening to me, but with generosity. I was dating someone cheap at the time and I was having drinks with a guy friend who, it turns out to the surprise of none, was very into me. He ended up paying for the drinks while I was in the bathroom (instead of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 11:39 AM |
| 3 | Vogue promoting FWB and age gap relationships to a probably 90% female audience - yikes.ha! True a LVM man is shitty regardless of age...so maybe it's the rise of LVM with the younger generations? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 11:19 AM |
| 5 | Vogue promoting FWB and age gap relationships to a probably 90% female audience - yikes.And in order for FWB to work, the man has to be someone you don't want to date who you run no risk of catching feelings for. That would put him securely in the LVM category. Why give a LVM the time of day, much more your time, energy, and access to your body? It makes no logical sense. Bunch of Cool Girl nonsense. Yes! But then I would not be attracted to him. Attraction + sex : feelings. I know it's 2020 but my body has no freaking clue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 11:02 PM |
| 10 | Vogue promoting FWB and age gap relationships to a probably 90% female audience - yikes.Same...but so far it has not been very successful, they've been too childish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 10:59 PM |
| 50 | If you really want to decipher men as quick as possibleYep! Also the dynamic between his parents is very revelatory! If the dad was abusive (especially in covert ways) watch out! Unfortunately you can't tell til you meet the parents. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 10:55 PM |
| 4 | TriggeredHilarious! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 06:07 PM |
| 4 | A pickmeisha lesson: LVM are expensive.lol, one dude I was seeing said "oooh I need to clean since you are coming" Excuse me? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 06:01 PM |
| 2 | A pickmeisha lesson: LVM are expensive.May I ask how old you are? I used to do 70/30 (like they would pick up the bill 7 times out of ten) and I was the only one of my group of (pickme) friends insisting on being treated by a man...I still ended up picking up the bill once in a while. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 06:00 PM |
| 5 | A pickmeisha lesson: LVM are expensive.yep, if you add the emotional labor... they for sure are! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 05:57 PM |
| 4 | A pickmeisha lesson: LVM are expensive.Yet he wouldn’t even pick me up from my place and bring me home the next day... he would pick me up, take me to dinner, drop me home at my place, and then expect me to drive to his place after dinner so that I had my car and could drive myself home the next day! Are you kidding??!!! The level of pettiness is unheard of! I can't imagine a guy seriously asking such a thing! Also 2-3 hour massages every night?! He was a lucky bastard. I spent so much money on getting them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 05:56 PM |
| 1 | Choosing to stay single has enhanced my life 😁And the feeling is amazing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 01:17 PM |
| 3 | Choosing to stay single has enhanced my life 😁That's a really good point! I'm the same way with alcohol. I went on few dates without alcohol and it was day and night. I wasn't artificially enthusiastic about the banalities they uttered. Same with food. I tried going low carb but my progress would always be derailed by dating. Just a question, your real estate license is for you to be a broker? Or to buy a house more easily? I have no clue as you can tell. Yes, the sky is the limit :) See you in 2021 for the annual report haha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 01:16 PM |
| 4 | Choosing to stay single has enhanced my life 😁Holy shit!!!! That is phenomenal. Everything is super impressive BUT you quit vaping, drinking and beating anorexia in the same year?? Teach me your way! I am trying to beat my sugar addiction and my drinking (it's not heavy but still bothering me). Also I'm starting skating as well :) Anyway, congrats, you can be extremely proud of yourself and you have inspired me! Cheers (with water) to your success and to my, hopefully, successful year without dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 12:25 AM |
| 3 | Am I the only one who is heterosexual and would - in theory - love having a loving partner and a family, but after seeing all the degeneracy of men, has just given up on it completely and deemed men in general to be undateabl/unwantable?I tell these men outright I CASUALLY date ONLY, Don't they think you casually have sex then? I absolutely love your perspective. You just flip the script. You'll enjoy the company and the novelty but you won't give anything (because you know it won't be reciprocal). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 11:15 PM |
| 5 | Am I the only one who is heterosexual and would - in theory - love having a loving partner and a family, but after seeing all the degeneracy of men, has just given up on it completely and deemed men in general to be undateabl/unwantable?I've spent a lot of time thinking about couples I know, and the dynamics (that I can see as someone not in the relationship, of course) and interactions I've observed. There isn't a single heterosexual couple that I would want to emulate. Same. Not a single one!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 11:09 PM |
| 18 | I read asktrp for almost a year to gather insight on how LVMs mind workThe saying goes like that "Hurt people hurt people"...in reality it should be "hurt men hurt people". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 10:48 PM |
| 3 | Choosing to stay single has enhanced my life 😁Same here! Ready for celibacy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 10:44 PM |
| 8 | Choosing to stay single has enhanced my life 😁Please brag away!! Embarking on the single journey by choice and I want to know how much one can achieve in a year without emotional vampires! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 10:43 PM |
| 3 | r/AgainstHateSubreddits plunges further into hatred and misogyny, calls women "scum" and "piece of shit", says we deserve to be paid less than men and are unsuitable for management, implies women should be used as incubators by low income men to keep the birth rate highI've noticed an influx in the chat as well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 06:04 PM |
| 7 | r/AgainstHateSubreddits plunges further into hatred and misogyny, calls women "scum" and "piece of shit", says we deserve to be paid less than men and are unsuitable for management, implies women should be used as incubators by low income men to keep the birth rate highThese idiots would really cut off their own noses to spite their faces. Hahahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 06:02 PM |
| 2 | I really think they are losing there minds. THE F***ING AUDACITY.I deleted everything after all my terrible experiences using OLD. Someone said it perfectly, OLD is basically a pimp. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 02:03 PM |
| 1 | I really think they are losing there minds. THE F***ING AUDACITY.yep 2020! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 01:44 PM |
| 1 | I really think they are losing there minds. THE F***ING AUDACITY.Exactly. Let's be friends with benefits (for me), so emotional labor, paid dates...maybe it could lead to physical intimacy, we'll see. Let's go with the flow. You're down? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 01:43 PM |
| 2 | I really think they are losing there minds. THE F***ING AUDACITY.yep! Europe here (yes the entire continent haha). I can confirm...although with OLD and the import of American dating it is, unfortunately, starting to shift. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 01:39 PM |
| 9 | A great article on how sexual liberalism and bare minimum expectations of decency from men has lead to high levels of sexual dissatisfaction. Peep the comments for FDS tackling some more wokebro mansplaining!Wonderful article!! I always had a problem with consent. It is the tip of the liberal ideology iceberg. It is a way for men to deflect any responsibility by resorting to a word which has no signification whatsoever given the power imbalance. I mean what do we consent to? To be treated as an object? To be brainwashed that this very intimate act is not intimate? I find the notion of consent extremely hurtful because it spreads even more the very contractualist - but not emotionally responsible - t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 12:19 PM |
| 7 | Props to this girl !Welcome to the club! This is also very puzzling to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 11:51 AM |
| 3 | Props to this girl !Yes! I always say as soon as you are interacting intimately with someone it is a relationship. It was much easier when I grew up. You're with someone or you're not. And as you said you can be in a shitty relationship but you're not in this new limbo. I always make sure to say the word relationship because if that's kryptonite to him then good riddance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 11:48 AM |
| 16 | Do you think that a lot of women identify as asexual, demisexual, or are completely uninterested in sex is because of how male-centred and degrading sex is portrayed in society?Yes! I forgot to add the cuddling for hours. You're completely right, we can feel the difference and it's quite confusing at the beginning, until we realize it's mostly about them! It puts you in a state of emotional malnutrition, you're being fed so you initially think you're good, but nothing was nutritious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 10:17 AM |
| 14 | Do you think that a lot of women identify as asexual, demisexual, or are completely uninterested in sex is because of how male-centred and degrading sex is portrayed in society?The hypersexuality of the media combined with identity politics that make it normal to invent a label for every tiny little aspect of our lives Hahaha so true! There is a label for literally everything. I'm sure one exist for people whose favorite color is yellow..I know it's coming. But that applies to behavior as well and I find THAT very handy (especially when it comes to toxic behavior, identifying and naming is the first step towards healing...but I digress). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 11:21 PM |
| 24 | Do you think that a lot of women identify as asexual, demisexual, or are completely uninterested in sex is because of how male-centred and degrading sex is portrayed in society?I agree! It's the libfem brainwashing effect. Just have casual sex because it's fun and if you don't enjoy it, there HAS to be something wrong with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 11:18 PM |
| 67 | Do you think that a lot of women identify as asexual, demisexual, or are completely uninterested in sex is because of how male-centred and degrading sex is portrayed in society?Pleasing me is only to secure continued access Second wow!!! It's funny because I was wondering if I should make a post about it. I was reading many posts about women complaining that guys couldn't be bothered. I have experienced the opposite. The last two guys I was seeing were amazing and made sure I was satisfied multiple times before they even had an orgasm. Since they can't offer us a real connection they make sure that bedroom time is amazing so we keep coming back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 11:13 PM |
| 8 | Do guys know you’re out of their league, even though they treat you bad?You seem to be young. Please read "Why does he do that" so you avoid all the douchebags we have been dealing with. | /r/askFDS | 20/11/20 03:49 PM |
| 10 | Do guys know you’re out of their league, even though they treat you bad?My abusive narc said I could do much better...he was right but he was also set on destroying my self esteem. The better the woman the more interesting it is to break her down. | /r/askFDS | 20/11/20 03:48 PM |
| 11 | Should I even bother responding to this? I don’t know this person, apparently we have mutual friends on Facebook."I was up and couldn't sleep" so I went through my catalogue of women I have the audacity to think I could sleep with....ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 01:12 PM |
| 4 | “Opening up” to menThis!!! Thank you. I understand the reaction of many women who have been repeatedly abused by narc and psycho and see that as a huge red flag...and I've been with a narc and a psycho as well, but there was always something off! Hence, again trust your gut to sense where that comes from, genuine curiosity? Collecting data? Now even a relatively good man can use what you said as ammunition so yes be careful, but I personally don't see the point of being with someone if I can't share meaningful thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 01:06 PM |
| 11 | “Opening up” to menI did not know this strategy, thanks! I'm guilty of being very vulnerable and open from the get go, and this has backfired as you can imagine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 12:45 PM |
| 4 | I deserve the best (just some venting)I feel you!! I realize I have been relatively lucky because I have found good boyfriends and the very idea of not being genuinely loved and cared for did not even cross my mind. But then I met my narc ex who loved bomb me. This is how I found FDS and the wake up is brutal. Date on your terms, and even if there is a sea of lvm, there are some guys with hv traits....and if you don't meet them keep moving, and consider the lvm as another species, they don't operate on the same plane of existence as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 12:39 PM |
| 19 | what are you proud of?I have reached a big milestone in my career. I am making peace with the idea of being single for who knows how long I have revisited all my relationships even with good guys and oh boy, is the imbalance there. Glad to have found fds. I am focused on eating healthy, working out and meditating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 12:31 PM |
| 7 | what are you proud of?Congrats!!! That's a major achievement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 12:29 PM |
| 24 | FDS is a very specific dating strategy - if you don't like it get lostNext time tell them, "You are exactly right!! No one is entitled to anything which is exactly why if you want something or someone of value you have to pay a price, be it literal or figurative." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 12:10 PM |
| 36 | FDS is a very specific dating strategy - if you don't like it get lostYes! The term "dating strategy" has been associated with "playing games" to be provided for (golddigers!!!) when in fact we are not playing stupid games at all, just vetting, and the benefit for us is simply not to get used. For them the strategy is basically all about coercing women in a subtle way. We? Just have standards and if he's not a caring, kind and considerate partner just cut him off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 12:07 PM |
| 2 | Sad but true, gotta just laugh at this point 🤣It turns into a little exercise: put the right name on the abusive tactic your gut feeling is the symptom of. I'm getting better at it, even if ideally I would not have to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 10:06 PM |
| 6 | Should I leave him? I don't look at him the same.he's also insulting your intelligence. I mean he knows that you know that it's a lie and yet he proceeds to say it...it almost made me laugh if it were not irritating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 08:20 PM |
| 7 | This is an AD I always see for Hinge (OLD). Hinge is showcasing, encouraging, and promoting LVM behavior. Stay away queens.oooh that's why! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 08:05 PM |
| 8 | This is an AD I always see for Hinge (OLD). Hinge is showcasing, encouraging, and promoting LVM behavior. Stay away queens.Uber eat..ideally you deliver yourself to his door. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 08:04 PM |
| 16 | This is an AD I always see for Hinge (OLD). Hinge is showcasing, encouraging, and promoting LVM behavior. Stay away queens.You mean, just to hook up? I had a physician "friend" telling me it was so tedious to do all this talking just to fuck...that was quite illuminating to have such a polite, educated guy saying such a thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 08:02 PM |
| 9 | This is an AD I always see for Hinge (OLD). Hinge is showcasing, encouraging, and promoting LVM behavior. Stay away queens.I thought of all the reasons why dating apps sucked (the most obvious being that it objectifies people, and particularly women) but I did not go that far....turns out you are actually right! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone really deserve to have sex with a HVW without her complete trust? What if she is too smart to trust these men, when she knows even HVM can be a years long facade? Must we wait years to have sex?but feel free to DM me Not Op, but wanted to DM as we are like minded in regard to marriage. Let me know if that's okay :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 06:01 PM |
| 115 | After seeing a guy I was dating on a date with another woman, this Tiffany ring symbolizes me dating myself, choosing myself, coming back to myself, and loving myself.That's exactly what I did. I saw a guy I was dating with another girl and cheerfully walked to him. I was literally laughing. I did not care because we had just started dating but I'm pretty sure he did it on purpose ( I told him I was going to the restaurant with friends). At the end I ended up seeing other guys and I could tell he did not like it...I don't recommend it but I knew he would be just a fling. edit: word | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 02:17 PM |
| 5 | Emotions are messengers trying to tell us something about a situation, others and ourself.reassess? No...if you reach that point it's time to cut him off. No way a guy I'm supposed to be with in a loving relationship gives me these feelings sometimes let alone consistently. My peace of mind is too precious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 01:46 AM |
| 3 | Emotions are messengers trying to tell us something about a situation, others and ourself.Yes!! Anger is my savior. I'm sad for a second and then I become angry that this person had the audacity to hurt me when I did not do anything to warrant it...the dumping act is usually pretty close. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 01:43 AM |
| 10 | How a real man asks for and accepts help.I didn't realize for a long time that typically when a man says "You're so much better at X than me" .... that it isn't a real compliment to your skills, it's a ploy to get you to take on stuff they don't feel like doing Oh yes!! I got the "you have so many good ideas for dates " and "you're much better at communicating". Guess what? The dude put zero effort in planning dates and was the worst communicator I ever met in my entire life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 01:39 AM |
| 244 | Sad but true, gotta just laugh at this point 🤣hahahah so true! I feel like I'm learning a whole new language, love bombing, idealization, breadcrumbing, gaslighting, devaluation, discard.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 01:33 AM |
| 3 | The cesspool of online dating is pure male delusion, really dude???Right? I think having a conversation and sharing stories/strategies would be a good thing. I love fds and its cut throat/no bs approach but sometimes it could be more pedagogical than...injunctive, especially when so many of us are debating wether OLD in itself is a viable dating option. Yep, with covid dating organically is impossible and on OLD guys are just thirsty like never before without having to put any effort because "everything" is closed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 04:29 PM |
| 5 | The cesspool of online dating is pure male delusion, really dude???I have no idea and it sucks because I really wanted to have a conversation about it with like minded people as a way to rule out OLD once for all (or share better strategies). I messaged the mods to no avail. I agree also about the Pickmeisha banner. I hope fds is not being victim of its success. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 02:07 PM |
| 6 | Men be like: "But women have SOOOO many options for online dating! WAHHHH!"I always understand don't waste my time = Spread your legs as quick as possible and I will be the one wasting your time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 01:52 PM |
| 8 | He simply does not want to meet your needsYep, it's like emotional starvation....you are in a relationship but you receive none of the "nutrients" of a loving one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 01:13 PM |
| 12 | He simply does not want to meet your needsoh wow! What an absolute pos! That also goes to show that guys saying "she was crazy" are simply revealing that they are the toxic ones. What did YOU do to make her crazy? The psycho I was dating told me his ex was crazy, I pitied him because I was in the love bombing phase and he seemed like a very doting bf, until few months later when he pulled the rug under my feet and I was left confused, "crazy" and feeling "needy". I blocked him when I realized he was gaslighting and breadcrumbing me....a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 01:08 PM |
| 6 | He simply does not want to meet your needsI had one FWB who I'd explicitly agreed with that things would end were one of us to develop feelings. It was just supposed to be about casual sex and maybe some socializing free of any romantic implications. But he proceeded to actively try to get me to develop feelings for him. He couldn't stand how detached I was. There was a guy I was seeing who wanted to do more "couple" things when I seemed more interested in something casual but as soon as I was on board, guess what happened? I have no do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 01:01 PM |
| 6 | He keeps telling me he's "relaxed"?I mean I also feel this is his way to say "it does not bother me" which would rub me the wrong way big time. I want someone who cares and has a wide range of emotions AND can express them otherwise I will assume they have the emotional abilities of a robot or they're just not that into me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 07:39 PM |
| 14 | He keeps telling me he's "relaxed"?Pretty much every guy I’ve ever dated go on about how ‘relaxed and chill’ they are, and they 100% of the time turn out to be the laziest, most emotionally stunted, biggest douchebags ever. Hell yes!!!!! "relaxed and chill" is usually code for "I'm lazy and emotionally stunted...you've been warned". I associate it with the "only good vibe" thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 07:37 PM |
| 7 | “Not looking for anything serious”I second that!! If you don't block him he may backpedal and gaslight you! That happened to me years ago. He is not going to change and you're lucky that he has revealed what he wants very early on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 02:13 PM |
| 41 | The cesspool of online dating is pure male delusion, really dude???Yes!! I made a post about OLD which was unfortunately removed. OLD gives you the ILLUSION of abundance which is just an illusion and allows LVM to think they even have a chance with you. Then the few good options stand out because the other are just awful..while in real life these "good" options are just average guys. Anyway, I reached the same conclusion. I prefer to spend few hours going out and meeting people naturally than being sucked into swiping on guys. Right now I keep hinge because it … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 02:06 PM |
| 12 | I would leave immediatelyI came here to say that! Soul what? My soul is whole! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 01:57 PM |
| 5 | Case Study: I was stood up today. And I can see the mistakes I made.uuugh, that sucks! This guy is a total jerk, but that is none of your problem, nor does it reflect on you. I think it's good that you take a break from OLD so you don't match with people expecting poor behaviors. Focus on yourself, go back when you're ready and be ruthless with the vetting process. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 01:07 PM |
| 22 | It’s really not that hard for him to treat you wellRight? Same here! Most of my exes would do things to surprise me and try to make me happy. Also LV in other ways but putting effort and thought into the relationship was the absolute bare minimum. The last LVM I encountered was so lazy and it was an absolute shock to me that he did not want to put thought into our dates and always acted clueless...I was familiar with the negging, the gaslighting....but I had not encountered yet the dreadful male bumbler. It looks like there is a pandemic current… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 12:19 PM |
| 6 | It’s really not that hard for him to treat you wellThe "flower" thing or the material thing does not really do it for me, but THAT? I love it, it's special and thoughtful and did not cost him anything, but definitely shows he puts thought into it...the most precious thing imo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 12:12 PM |
| 2 | How do you crush the crush?<3 Yes, abruptly and permanently...you're right it's the hardest part and yet the one that prevents you from wasting another second. Thanks for the reminder! You are absolutely right, every time I was sad to cut ties from a guy, either I realized I was much happier without him or I met a much better guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 08:20 PM |
| 3 | How do you crush the crush?hahaha you cracked me up on the guy having a soliloquy. Also thank God I've never had snap and no one ever asked me for my snap. I feel the same way about blocking. If I know I won't be tempted to reply and I know the guy is not obnoxious, I don't feel like saving a number to block it. At the same time, blocking is mostly a way to preserve your energy. Even if you're not tempted to reply, getting a message from a scrote is annoying/disturbing (I'm talking text message, for an app it's different,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 07:17 PM |
| 3 | How do you crush the crush?yep, "never forgetting what happened the last time I didn't adhere to my dealbreakers or enforce my boundaries." Also remembering there is no exception, these boundaries and dealbreakers exist for a reason. Did you unmacth the guy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 06:46 PM |
| 6 | No compromisesYes! There is actually nothing to analyze, decipher....you're right, people do betray themselves in the little things. They can be pretty transparent if we're willing to listen and see things as they are instead of rationalizing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 06:18 PM |
| 14 | Equality with head/oralSame, I never ever had a guy pressuring me or even hinting at me giving him head. Most of the guys I dated had no problem going down and even enjoyed it, the few who did not...well, bye boy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 06:13 PM |
| 15 | This is kinda cute.It's so cute, and funny (surgery edition) and thoughtful....awww. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 06:06 PM |
| 3 | How do you crush the crush?I love that! Yep, right now focusing on myself :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 05:56 PM |
| 9 | How do you crush the crush?hahaha yes the melting smile or the piercing eyes...because they don't really get us with how well they treat us right? I really like what you said...that infatuation comes from an ungrounded place. This is so true! I'm focusing right now on my routine and on grounding myself. I'm happy and serene...I was mostly writing the post from a preventive perspective. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 04:49 PM |
| 16 | How do you crush the crush?wow, that comment about his ex wife was worth ten red flags, glad you got out! You're right, focusing on how they act now and how this will not change is really helpful. I don't really have difficulties walking away, I usually end up doing it after one month with guys who are bad news...I'm hoping to shorten the time of reaction and get out at the first sign. Oh the doppleganger of one's first love! I feel you...That happened to me also, turned out the guy was a total psycho. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 04:43 PM |
| 3 | How do you crush the crush?Yes, writing down helps a lot! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 04:39 PM |
| 15 | Dating gets a lot easier when"He is not one in a million sis, there are so many other disrespectful LVM to cry about, what makes your ex LVM special?" Hahaha. Wonderful timing, this is the perfect reply to my post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 02:19 PM |
| 8 | How do you crush the crush?Oh I did not say he was great but he seems great (when he is not). You know the lingering doubt that maybe there was misunderstanding... It's simple indeed, but hard to implement: just cut him off. I was thinking of making a pledge with myself, and writing it down: I will always prioritize my peace of mind and myself over a guy, so first red flag, he's out. Now time to walk the talk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 02:14 PM |
| 2 | You don't really miss him. Trust me.oh that's great, I was thinking of getting a new phone, maybe I should go for a Samsung. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 10:19 AM |
| 1 | You don't really miss him. Trust me.ooh I mean the golden principle of FDS :) If the guy screws up, no wondering why...or what, just "block and delete". But I'm on board with you that's exactly why I don't like blocking people. I still have their number, which means I could still contact them later (which I have never done so far) but also, and I don't know if it's superstitious but I don't like the idea of still having a trace of that person in my phone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 10:17 AM |
| 3 | In all my years living on this earth, I have seen only ONE marriage that I admiredNot trying to be a debbie downer but who knows? They appeared happy...maybe they were, but it's hard to really know just from some visits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 10:38 PM |
| 53 | Stop letting men panic you into action.You forgot the famous "wall" which is a projection of their own physical demise once 30 hits. I'm not even kidding, all of the guys with whom I was in college have now beer bellies and no hair. Even the cute ones look pretty awful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 10:34 PM |
| 5 | Start your marriage off right by settling 🙂haha yep! It's crazy how we even "invent" a sixth love language to accommodate low effort men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 09:27 PM |
| 6 | You don't really miss him. Trust me.True! I still have to implement the automatic block instead of just deleting phone numbers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 01:53 PM |
| 7 | HVM Don't Lower their Standards or Need Someone to Change their Mind... He's Talking Casual? He Doesn't Know Yet if he Wants a Relationship? Easy Block and Delete ✅You are so right! It confused me so much that a guy would give me casual vibes while being into cuddling and saying things like "I feel so good and relaxed with you". I was thinking why acting as a bf if he does not want a relationship? Well he wants the asset without investing anything. Worst situation ever, the guy gets everything and you get nothing but confusion (when in fact it's not really that confusing if you read between the lines). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 01:43 PM |
| 27 | You don't really miss him. Trust me.yes!!! There's actually a guys I was dating who would disappear whenever he felt cornered..and then I'd see him and it would be lovely until he screwed up again and would disappear. Aside from the hot and cold behavior, I'm sure that he thought, "hmm let me come back when she has totally forgot the bad stuff, misses me and only remembers the good stuff". He did it once, I noticed. Second time I realized it was a pattern. I haven't blocked him but I'm over him...I'm a hundred percent he'll be bac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 01:30 PM |
| 3 | Just a few reminders for all the High Value Queens on here...Look, if he really cares about you and is going through a rough patch he would make sure to communicate very clearly what is going and not let you in the dark. Like "hey I need a day or three but I'll get back to you very soon". Not just silence after constant communication...which is why his excuse sounds a little bs to me. Also I have dated guys who when feeling bad or vulnerable were happy to talk to me because I was their safe heaven (without dumping their emotional stuff...there's a fine li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 01:22 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020ps: the dissonance is crazy by the way. I was raised to go after my goals, focus on my studies and was always very ambitious (never ever compromised my career for a man) and yet there was this lingering feeling. No matter how driven you are as a woman, it is difficult not to be affected by how society views/has treated women and we are reminded about it all the time. For instance, I'd look at my book shelf and all I could see was the name of illustrious men...maybe one or two women at most, I'd … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 12:39 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020"It's all about getting rid of attachments that don't serve you: attachment to the idea of needing a partner (sexual or romantic) and attachment to individuals or their potential being the biggest ones." That resonates. The second one is tough... ultimately it's our view of "what it could be" that gets us trapped. Otherwise when I'm single (as in no dating) I do feel great and unbothered. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 11:10 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020Nicely put! It used to be an idea now it's a reality :) Enjoy your dates, knowing that you'd be perfectly fine (even better? haha) without any of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 11:06 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020So happy for you!!! That mirrors my experience pretty much...I used to feel slightly restless with friends as if it were enjoyable but something was missing because I was single. How sad is that??! Finally I do feel whole and content with how things are and I'm very grateful for the people in my life. Cheers to the deprogramming!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 01:12 AM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020I'm on board with you. I've only recently realized that the little feeling of missing something when I'm single comes from decades of brainwashing and for the first time I'm fully happy and whole by myself without the restlessness I used to experience. Just a question if you don't mind, do any of these dates lead to quality dating and potential relationships or you just use OLD to go on fun dates and then ditch most of them when they don't rise to your standards? To be honest, I've never enjoyed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 11:14 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020Do you mind sharing where you live? Tell us, where is this magical place where OLD is not a dumpster fire. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 10:36 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020I figured out the same! It emulates a more "natural" dynamic but...they are not that attractive and they all have been disappointing so far. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 10:33 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020Little disclaimer, Shallon can be problematic, but she is on point. Watch these two videos! They should help :) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H2ZTA6dxlSg https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MpbvCIV0u30 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 06:54 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020Good riddance! A guy who refuses to go down on you is of no use. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 06:47 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020yep! I just want to be cuddled into oblivion when I'm going to have my period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 06:39 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020Sigh, I know what you mean. I was seeing a guy recently who turned me on like crazy and was very generous in the bedroom...but with that and the cuddling, came the feelings. It's just impossible for me to dissociate and I have no desire to do it so now on, every single time I'm tempted to go for something casual, I'll think of the consequences (because mind you he was unreliable). Let's embrace being celibate till a HVM comes around :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 06:35 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020It seems that there is a lot to unpack here. Maybe stop dating and try to get to the roots of your behavior? Also don't be afraid to lose anyone.. with a guy who is truly for you, it should be a relatively smooth ride. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 06:31 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020not a good sign. A guy truly interested would not ignore your message. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 06:29 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020hahah "maybe just stay unemployed...Like see you around the queer fair" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 06:23 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020If I can afford it, I get a massage for the touch aspect. For the other types of needs, I'm in the same boat, but it it's just not worth it at the end. You have to distinguish, is it just the orgasm you want or the full experience? If it's the orgasm then DIY is enough, if it's the whole experience then a fuckbuddy will never provide that. You'll be lying and cuddling and it will feel phony. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 06:19 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020I tried to make a post on OLD but it was removed (I don't really know why). Do you feel OLD puts you in a scarcity mindset and a more masculine energy? What I mean is that, there are so many shitty profiles that you end up with tunnel vision with the few good ones, and the very fact of creating a profile and swiping does communicate that you are after something while meeting organically is more neutral. Do any of you have a good experience on OLD? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 05:41 PM |
| 1 | UPDATE: Leaving LV husband of 3 yearsSo happy for you!! Congrats and enjoy your freedom and peace of mind. ps: I started watching the episode with Heather :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 08:11 PM |
| 2 | Women hit a wall..??!Haha, you beat me! I was gonna make the joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 07:53 PM |
| 2 | They really tell on themselves! We've to be vigilant and not make excuses for their words.yep! Which is why you don't mention "no hookups" on your old. Obvs, you don't want any hookups so why even mentioning it? I also got "yes let's date exclusively" after I asked him, followed by " but I don't want to waste your time". Thanks for letting me know, I'm out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 11:27 AM |
| 12 | The film "Midsommar"....if you enjoy watching LVMs get roasted, and a pickeme becoming a queen as a result, then watch this movie!yes, she goes from one submission to another one, nothing empowering at all! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 10:55 PM |
| 3 | The Mating Dance: Why a Man Needs to Be Masculine & Reclaiming the Feminine EnergyYass!! I feel I'm selling myself short when I'm on OLD because it's mostly LVM who think they have a chance when in real life they'd be lucky if I even looked at them...I tried hinge so I would not have to swipe but I got the "walk date" and the "hey I'm not here often, here's my number". LOL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 09:09 PM |
| 5 | The Mating Dance: Why a Man Needs to Be Masculine & Reclaiming the Feminine Energylol, can you tell I'm done with dating apps? I tend to think that ultimately dating apps end up putting us in a masculine energy (the swiping, the low quality of guys so when we find someone worth it here comes the tendency to pursue) but maybe that's just me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 06:54 PM |
| 2 | The Mating Dance: Why a Man Needs to Be Masculine & Reclaiming the Feminine EnergyOh I see what you mean. Sure, don't compete with a man, nor make him your goal...hence the necessity to be (work) goal oriented, dating will follow. I guess it's the same idea as "you find a HVM when you're not looking for one". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 06:45 PM |
| 10 | The Mating Dance: Why a Man Needs to Be Masculine & Reclaiming the Feminine Energy"The paradox is you attract HVM when you prioritize yourself, not when you prioritize attracting HVM. This doesn't mean prioritizing personal goals (that's fine though), but primarily your own pleasure. This is also not hedonism, which is indulgent." I would say prioritizing personal goals AND one's own pleasure, both! But aside from that, perfectly said. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 05:28 PM |
| 12 | The 🎇a u d a c i t y🎇Oh, I only heard it in her mouth and here so I made the connection haha. Thanks for enlightening me so I don't suspect all the women using such a term to be fds sisters...although I have to say that someone using it must have some affinities with fds' ideas. In any case she did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 01:19 PM |
| 45 | The 🎇a u d a c i t y🎇I know! I remember, last year, my housemate kept talking about the AUDACITY of men...it's only now that I get it! Hi housemate, if you read this message, I'm also part of FDS now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 12:19 PM |
| 33 | And I will not be stopped!!That makes sense. I have noticed lately that guys I have dated brought up the subject relatively early one while 5/10 years ago it was something that was brought up, if at all, after being in a relationship for a while...Anal the new threshold, that's so scary. I wonder what's next! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 12:01 PM |
| 17 | And I will not be stopped!!Same! I mean we ended up talking about it in my serious relationship as this slightly taboo thing but that's all...and there was absolutely no pressure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 11:57 AM |
| 105 | And I will not be stopped!!What world are we living in that we have to actually help young girls not be forced into anal? Am I too old to realize this has become the norm?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 11:10 AM |
| 24 | And I will not be stopped!!I totally second that. Perfect answer! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 11:08 AM |
| 6 | It’s probably been posted before butttt...You used to be so bubbly and now you're ossified said my narc ex when I dumped him. Straight out from the horse's mouth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 11:03 AM |
| 6 | Straight up abuse then love-bombing. Is this how women convince themselves with BDSM? X-post from one of my radfem FB groups.oh wow! I asked mine, since he wanted to be pegged why not trying with a guy but he said he was not attracted to guys. It's very interesting what you're saying because he was alsooooo so into going down (which felt great initially) and told me that when he started watching porn it was actually lesbian scenes. So maybe you're right, there's something unsolved about his sexuality. At the same he says he's not threatened at all by other men and he would enjoy me sleeping around. Like wtf? Part of m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 11:47 PM |
| 6 | Exactly! Stop accepting zero effort and start demanding what you deserve!I agree, if it's a friend they have no business being in such an intimate setting and the bf should impose upon himself some limitations out of respect for the relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 09:59 PM |
| 8 | All men do is take, take and take! Ladies keep your peace safe.So far I thought I always dated guys (I'm talking about my meaningful relationships, not the circus I ended up in from OLD) who improved my life: they paid for most trips, taught me something, genuinely wanted to be with...and at the end you know what happened? At best it ended up being even... edit: word | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 09:44 PM |
| 7 | ⚡ STRESS TESTS: How to test the HV-ness of your partner ⚡This is so true! My narc ex made any road trip and car trip a nightmare...it ended up giving me ptsd because he would yell at me if I made a mistake while giving him direction. Another ex boyfriend was a delight when we travelled for a week-end and he made me realized how much of an asshole the other guy was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 05:46 PM |
| 9 | Straight up abuse then love-bombing. Is this how women convince themselves with BDSM? X-post from one of my radfem FB groups.I was dating a guy who kept mentioning that he found it exciting if I were to sleep with other men. I took it as either he doesn't care about me or he wants to play the field. It turns out he wants to be pegged as well and just love the idea of seeing his girl with another guy or hearing about it. It really disturbed me. I mean, it felts too early to share that type of kink...and I don't know, it seems very homoerotic to me, like he competes with other guys and I'm just a channel for his fantasi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 05:21 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020I agree, so many guys are up to no good. I've made peace with the fact that even the guys who want to be in a relationship don't have the basic skills or even worse want the relationship only to drain you without giving anything in return. It's crazy how our gut is ALWAYS right, every time I catch myself thinking "naaah I'm making that up" or "give him the benefit of the doubt" I should run instead. I'm getting better at listening my gut the FIRST time...not after two many signals, but I still h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020I deleted our conversations and erased his number :/ Next time I'll make sure I block his number before I delete...but will do it if he contacts me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 04:12 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020I know! He would have the same smirk on his mirror selfies...which is quite revelatory. I saw it as a red flag and I got confirmation. I was silly enough to think he looked cute with the smirk on the selfies (while thinking it was staged...hello cognitive dissonance). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 04:11 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Yes! I initially thought he just received a text...but few days later, it struck me that he was maybe receiving nudes. Also this is not the first time something feels off with him so.... yep, definitely putting an end to that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 12:20 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Thanks! I agree, it's bad manner and the lack of thoughtfulness is a red flag in itself, plus the fact I felt...unsettled. Also I love anything related to Marzipan, even if it's unlikely XD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 03:56 PM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020I've been seeing this guy and there's something that bothered me. We were together and upon coming back from the bathroom I saw him smirking at his phone and when I asked him what's up he just changed the topic. Then I noticed he took his phone everywhere, even to the bathroom. Personally, if I saw something funny on my phone or received a funny text I would share it with the person I'm dating just so they know I'm not being secretive. I guess I just have to listen to my gut. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 12:52 PM |
| 15 | WHYYYY Are There So Many Female led Podcasts All About the Guys They Fuck? Can Women’s Entertainment Do Better please???This is so true! It should be in the handbook. We're over-obsessing over a guys actions when in fact he just does not care...he is not putting effort unless he wants sex. Simple. And then writing long paragraph to get an explanation when in fact we just want to be reassured because deep down we know what is going on. It's like saying, please keep gaslighting me. This sub has been so helpful at helping me see things as they are and not as I wish they were (because of the brainwashing). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 03:11 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Same here! I decided to end things yesterday evening after he made yet another unsettling comments (but hey just kidding). I'm really sad. He seemed so kind and sweet, but he was giving me constant headaches, typical male bumbler syndrome. But, I am also very very excited to be single and focus completely on myself and all the things I have been postponing. Deep down I'm relieved and I think that I really want to be single for a little while (but the loneliness did get me when I started to see h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 02:55 PM |
| 2 | Prevention is key.Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 01:35 PM |
| 2 | For those not actively dating for a HVM, this is basically it. Once you love yourself, other people are just an option, not a necessity. And this is the best feeling of all.That makes me think of "women are better at multitasking"....maybe we are more flexible and more fluid socially but this is anything but a learned behaviour. We simply have no choice because we have to perform in every single category. I have experienced the difference between being able to focus on my work for long periods of time, which I refer to as "nun mode" and trying to juggle multiple things at once...spoiler alert: I feel much better when I'm in nun mode and my work is exponentially bet… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 01:14 PM |
| 3 | For the women already married to LVM...here’s the answerme too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 11:53 AM |
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