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BOOK REPORTshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 09:16 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?shortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 12:41 AM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 04:34 PM
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SCROTES MADshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:06 PM
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NAH, SISshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:47 PM
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FDS HUMORshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:58 PM
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LibFem Logicshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:03 PM
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#JustLVMThingsshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 10:37 PM
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 REDDIT HATES WOMENshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:59 PM
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PICKME CULTUREshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 02:08 PM
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FDS HUMORshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 09:08 PM
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LESSON LEARNEDshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 03:33 PM
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DISCUSSIONshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 10:19 PM
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SCROTES MADshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 01:44 AM
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 REDDIT HATES WOMENshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:54 PM
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THINGS SCROTES SAYshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 04:15 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 04:46 PM
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DISCUSSIONshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:12 PM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMEshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 04:01 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:27 PM
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RED FLAG 🚨shortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 01:12 AM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 04:48 PM
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PICKME CULTUREshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 09:14 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:02 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 08:37 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:52 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 01:59 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:46 PM
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DISCUSSIONshortywannarock/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:21 AM
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Please, the more the merrier! I’ll attempt fire and you can gather berries for our delightfully disastrous cake
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 01:29 PM
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Welp, time to smear mud on my face and scuttle off into a hovel deep in the woods, because it seems I’ve hit my hag years 😂🧙🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 10:36 AM
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I’m only ever flattered by women tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 10:10 PM
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He was hoping you’d be too drunk to resist; he was trying to rape you but your consent was getting in the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 10:05 PM
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Her next post will be, “As a woman with DDD tits and a 25” waist, I feel like I have to work extra hard to make sure my bf doesn’t feel insecure— but it’s worth it! 😌”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 10:03 PM
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Intelligence is inherited maternally, so thank ya mama 😜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:50 PM
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Yeah at least cable towers are useful..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 08:57 PM
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Yes, I realize that, and that part of the argument is obviously not what I take issue with— it’s the part about legalizing it. By legalizing before providing all of these safety measures, all you’re doing is taking away any disincentives that pimps and Johns might have to limit their abuses, and the situation for SW will not only remain dangerous, but get significantly worse as cheap (trafficked or coerced) SW flood the market.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:01 AM
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I don’t believe that bullshit— if he wasn’t ready he would have already known before he even approached me. I’m fully in support of these men taking themselves out of the field.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 04:05 AM
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Looks like that’s something we can all agree on 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:36 AM
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You’re 100% correct. Most young women don’t have the experience to know how traumatic sexual relationships can be when you’re with a manipulative or abusive person. When you’re young the idea of being a sex object is in itself sexy, because you don’t know what that truly entails. The validation you might get from being desired enough to the point where men would pay for your time and attention is incredibly enticing, and they know that. Not to mention you’ve probably never had a job that pays mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:32 AM
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I don’t disagree, but if a man isn’t ready for a relationship, then that relationship is going to be a distraction regardless of how great his gf is. I guess I don’t personally see the negative connotation to “distraction”, because cake is a distraction for me but that’s no fault of the cake, only mine for poor habits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:22 AM
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Firstly, her bills? Secondly, why isn’t he doing it then? Oh that’s right, it’s because it’s a hypothetical excuse to continue doing nothing lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:19 AM
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I remember watching a true crime video about a woman who might have “consensually” murdered a woman who sent months worth of chat messages about wanting to be murdered (as a kink) and was never seen again. The presenter said something like, ‘well if she consented to it and it just got out of hand, then that’s not really his fault’— yes tf it is!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:16 AM
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I get that, but I don’t see the insult— am I missing something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:13 AM
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Maybe I’m reading it wrong, but his statement doesn’t sound bad to me..? I’m perfectly happy for men to leave us alone and level up until they feel secure enough for a relationship tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:16 AM
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I think everyone here agrees that it is quite literally work— and hard work at that. I would love it for sex workers to have access to healthcare, security, and childcare services etc without facing criminal charges . but the conversation is almost never about those things. The conversation is always about a bunch of incels one-handedly typing “lEgALiZe iT”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:36 AM
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There was that Olympian who was a part time escort— but wait she also suffered from severe mental illness 🤷🏽‍♀️ The sex work industry preys on the most vulnerable people in our society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:32 AM
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Pickmes love being “one of the guys” even if that means sexual harassment 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:31 PM
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No one can consent to being killed (suicide is illegal). Anyone who kills someone during sex should absolutely face murder charges even if the victim recorded a video message “consenting” to the deed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:25 PM
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“Spanking until there’s blood”?? I’m pretty sure that’s just a beating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:22 PM
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The thing that gets me about the “sex work is work” crowd, is that they always try to reframe the discussion as though they’re talking about a fantasy world in which women don’t suffer any negative consequences from sex, the stigma of sex, or sex work itself. I consider myself pretty gd progressive, and I still don’t get it. I wish we lived in such a world, where we could post shirtless selfies on the beach, and no one would bat a single eye, where it wouldn’t limit your job opportunities or mak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:23 PM
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It could be a joke, or it could not, the context of her actual life is pretty important imo. She bought her cheating ex a 600K car for his birthday while he bought her a rolls for 300K. Guess she don’t walk the walk 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 12:38 PM
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We’re talking about Cardi B right? The one who’s in an “open relationship” with her ex husband who cheated on her publicly many times? Only she knows what she meant, but “grass” is a common slang for weed, so it’s open for interpretation I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:33 AM
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Oh haha I’m pretty sure she means weed tho Edit: this is the woman who bought a 600K Lambo for the guy who publicly cheated on her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:10 AM
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What’s the joke?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 12:33 AM
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So it’s “humiliating” for her that her husband is a violent abuser, but it’s somehow not humiliating that she’s choosing to stay with him? As for her kids, they’ve now learned that being an abusive husband is A-OK 👌 so they have a fantastic future of internalized misogyny and escalating violence to look forward to. He’s also learned that slapping her is fine, and she won’t dare leave him— in fact she’ll apologize! Also, what is an “unapologetic Dixie”? Is that a euphemism for racist? because col…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 12:09 AM
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Oh okay, I was just being careful because the mods got angry at my including the sub name in the post. TwoX is a men’s sub tbh, most of the mods are men, most of the commenters are men and way too many posters are men. Thank god for FDS or there wouldn’t be any women’s spaces on here at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 09:06 PM
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I wonder how much he paid her to play the role of “entitled feminist who gets put in her place” 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:13 PM
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The reason they want to fuck women they disagree with is because LVM view sex as domination
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:31 PM
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Chronic stress raises cortisol levels which leads to fluid retention which leads to weight gain, also dampens your immune system which leads to acne and low levels of inflammation in the gut, it also leads to fat deposition in the face, back and abdomen, and finally to lowered metabolism which leads to all of that plus “brain fog” and cold intolerance. It’s horrible for your health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:50 PM
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His love language isn’t relevant to how he should be treating her. I bet if she chose not to do anything for his birthday because her love language was “quality time” they’d be crying about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:14 PM
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First off; I’m almost completely certain this video is staged to satisfy the incels who are hungry for some “feminist humiliation” materials. Second off, everything she does in this video (and the follow up) is against FDS advice. The ‘Dumb Fox Credo’ is part of the handbook, and a vital part of FDS. If he insists on splitting the cheque, do it with a polite smile! DO NOT argue, or show irritation, FDS does not believe that women are entitled to have their meals paid for, we believe that HVM wou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:07 PM
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Yes, he has a son named Levi from a woman he dated before his wife. He soon moved away for his career and since they had an informal agreement, didn’t pay any child support. His son calls him “Bernard”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:57 PM
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Don’t confront men like this, it’s dangerous at worst and a complete waste of your time and energy at best. Read the handbook on how to handle sticky situations like this. The best course of action is to stay polite, pay your half without a word, and block as soon as you’re safely away. Would you take time to yell at a dog shitting on the sidewalk? No, because worst case you’ll get bit, best case, the dog is just confused but will continue to shit at his leisure. You have the privilege of removi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:52 PM
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There’s no way this isn’t scripted. Why would she even want him to open the door for her after that? This looks like some gross incel fantasy about “humiliating feminists”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:46 PM
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Uhh.. no way I’m getting in a car with a dude who just attempted to publicly humiliate me like that. I’d have paid the bill and called an Uber or a friend. I’m not risking my life to save on cab fare and a burger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:43 PM
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400?? Damn. I briefly dated a guy who, in a moment of candor, admitted to me that he’d slept with ~100 women in his life, and after he saw the look on my face he started trying to walk it back, but the truth was out. There’s no way a man can have a body count that high *without being absolute trash. Guarantee he cheated, lied, and manipulated to get to that number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:39 PM
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I feel like I’m on stage any time I leave my house, and it’s not entirely comfortable because I’m a very private person, but I deal with it by just owning it. One time I asked one of my ex’s what he thought about me before we met (worked together), and he said he thought I was full of myself because I acted like I was “being watched all the time.” I asked him how he would know that if he wasn’t watching me and he shut his mouth lmao. Men love being voyeurs, but it’s ruined if their subject reali…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:24 PM
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Lol, you’re absolutely correct, “female” is an adjective used to describe someone. Obviously it can be used as a noun but it’s not proper and it implies that we’re speaking about a different species. Any time I bring this up, incels are crawling all over themselves to link the dictionary definition, as if the dictionary includes implications and nuances of language and culture 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 01:41 PM
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Ohh yess, please link this 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 12:55 PM
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Not sure his baby mama would agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 11:54 AM
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Haha I don’t wanna brigade them, but thanks :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:54 PM
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Oh, gotcha thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:29 PM
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That’s really the point I was trying to make, that just because something “feels” empowering, doesn’t mean it actually is. I think motherhood should be empowering, we absolutely should give mothers greater support, understanding, and agency, but we don’t
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:52 PM
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Yes, this is exactly my point! You can be empowered by some external factors to become a mother (supportive family, financial security, social safety net etc) but actually becoming a mother doesn’t empower you to do anything other than be a mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:40 PM
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Yeah, having children is expected from us, yet once we have them we’re expected to put our careers and all other relationships on the back burner, so how exactly does that empower someone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:36 PM
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This is 100% the truth. Ladies, his friends are vital clues to who he really is, most of the time they don’t care enough to pretend to be what they’re not, so you’ll see his true self reflected in their words and actions— especially how they treat their gfs/wives
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:44 AM
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Eyyyy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:39 AM
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Is there a difference? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:11 PM
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Ikr? Definition of the Streisand effect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 11:50 PM
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Pfft— they’ve got it all wrong— we don’t harvest the blood of babies we harvest the blood of virgins. Why do y’all think we’re on reddit 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 11:48 PM
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Ikr? At least I’ll know for sure what his motivations are, plus my pleasure will defiantly be a priority, and maybe he won’t smell like bathroom cologne and live in a hamster nest 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 12:52 AM
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Are you actually a man? Because this is exactly spot on 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:23 PM
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I’m really curious about the reports 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:22 PM
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Now it’s perfect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:17 PM
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I mean that’s pretty bare minimum I hope 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:57 PM
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You’ve definitely come to the right place then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 05:33 PM
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Well I guess you leaned something new!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 05:13 PM
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Him: “cat lady haha” You: “wanna go out with me?” Him: “.. yeah” You: “see it’s that easy!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 05:12 PM
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You’ve never heard of a woman wanting sex? Lol, I used to joke with my friends that I wanted to set up a high class escort service for women in which the escorts would cosplay as HVM. I still think there’s a market there because most women do not feel sexually attracted to losers lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 04:45 PM
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Failure to meet standards has consequences in literally every aspect of life, from work, to friends, and even with strangers. It doesn’t make sense that romantic relationships are the only aspect of lives in which that shouldn’t be the case
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 04:42 PM
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That dude sounds insane. If anyone touched my steering wheel I’d pull the fuck over. That being said, I asked my ex for a ride one time because I’d lost my license, so on the hour ride there, he decides to completely take his hands off the wheel while we’re going 60mph, because according to him “it’s a straight road and the car won’t turn— why can’t you just trust me.” I begged and begged him to just hold the wheel, and then finally pull over. I was practically in tears and he acted like I was e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:35 AM
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Men fancy themselves F1 drivers for some reason. Half the guys I’ve dated have all considered themselves to be some kind of stunt drivers. They’d constantly brag about driving manual, and try to mansplain driving to me lmfao. Meanwhile every single one of these idiots got into at least one major collision while we were dating, and I’m over here with a clean record.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:22 AM
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This should be on the FDS reading list. It’s the perfect explanation for what comprises women’s “invisible” labor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:13 AM
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That’s what helped me get over my ex, after an on-and-off relationship which lasted way too long. I came to the realization that the man I kept missing and running back to never existed to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:04 AM
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Her expressions are hilarious 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 12:23 AM
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Unrelated, but every time I see that *font, my mind reads it in Homer Simpson’s voice for some reason
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 12:22 AM
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Yeah, we don’t know what kind of circumstances they were escaping from, but at the same time, as bad as your dad sounds, it could have been much worse..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 11:36 PM
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Wow, that’s terrible— you deserved so much better. You seem to have a pretty mature perspective in hindsight though, and I hope you’re doing well now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 11:31 PM
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Dw this is based on a true story 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 08:06 PM
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Anyone who can’t admit they’re wrong requires a wide berth imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 06:35 PM
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Because they distort their self-image in order to keep their ego protected, anything that might risk that is unthinkable to them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 06:16 PM
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“It doesn’t need to be explained” == “if I explained it, I’d sound like a douche”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:21 PM
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No no no no— you have to COMMUNICATE with him, how else is he going to know that you expect consistency?? Just sit him down and say, “hey babes, I’ve been noticing recently that you’re less enthusiastic about talking to and spending time with me. I’m not trying to put you on the spot or anything, but is there something going on? Did I do something wrong? I can change I swear! And if it’s not me then are you okay?? If you need a therapist/SW then my heart, brain, and vagina are all here for you w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:26 PM
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Yup, I instinctively knew this for a long time, but I never really worked out the logic of it until my LVX made a sexist joke after I fixed the sink he’d been struggling with for months in about a minute. It seemed to come out of left field because I’d been expecting him to be happy, or even grateful, but I realized that it was his way of attacking me because he felt threatened. I’ll absolutely never again in my life bother to explain to a man why a joke is inappropriate or unfunny (outside of a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:15 PM
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Every joke does require an agreed upon “truth” in order to find it funny. If you were to tell a blonde joke with Einstein as the subject instead, it wouldn’t make sense, and no one would laugh. Similarly to if you told a “women are dishwashers” joke but about a man, it wouldn’t be funny, because no one believes that to be true. This is why men who make racist, misogynistic, classist, etc. jokes are all LVM. It might be a “joke” but there’s truth in there for them, and if we don’t find it funny (…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:26 PM
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Her "Sugar Daddy" appears to shop at Wish. LOL! Stop it 😂 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:01 AM
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Whaaaat! Damn, stay safe out there ladies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:25 PM
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It’s not FDS to take a guy’s number, and it’s also not recommended that you text with your private phone before the first date. If you met on an app then message there until the first date at least. Also, there’s no need to text back once a man sends low effort or mixed messages, just ignore or block. If it was a mistake, a HVM will clarify that and apologize quickly. Once he’s been established as a LVM, there’s no need to waste time or energy on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:45 PM
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Same here— whenever I see my brother acting like a bum I remind my mom that I was doing laundry for the entire household at 13, and she at least has the good manners to look somewhat embarrassed and change the subject.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:32 PM
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I can’t believe this is my first time seeing this— I love it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 03:11 AM
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I’d throw it back at them, clutching my pearls and fainting at the sound of haram 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 01:44 AM
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I would have no qualms about gps tagging them like dogs and arresting them the moment they come within a mile of a school or playground
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 01:03 AM
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It’s always some woman’s fault.. even with serial killers, they always find a way to blame their “overbearing” mother. They never stop to think that maybe they shouldn’t be taking a fking murderer’s word for it, and just maybe they’re misogynists who hate their mothers because they can’t stand taking orders from a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 12:59 AM
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And when they do brag about it they say they “made” us orgasm..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 12:56 AM
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If he didn’t want his wallet washed he shouldn’t have put it in the laundry. pretty simple tbh 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 01:37 PM
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It’s not a “privilege” if you work for it.. if we had the diet/ exercise/ dress/ grooming/ communication habits of the average LVM we wouldn’t get any attention or free drinks either lol. When they talk about “female privilege” they’re only talking about young, attractive women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 01:03 PM
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Did you try asking her through the hive mind?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 10:09 PM
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The best theory I’ve heard so far is that women (young women in particular) understand that they’re relatively disempowered living in a patriarchy, so they gravitate towards men who seem to be powerful in order to share some of that power. Notorious prisoners are made powerful by public attention, and they’ll likely never be released to the public so it’s like having a dangerous pet in a cage. Another theory is that women often are unable to successfully use either fight or flight in life-threat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:39 PM
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Wow thanks for the knowledge 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:31 PM
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This reminds me of one of my favorite jokes, about “reverse racism” https://youtu.be/dw_mRaIHb-M
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:14 PM
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It’s because women naturally base their entire identity around their current owner /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:49 AM
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I love my name, and I wouldn’t ever change it. I was telling this to a friend one time, and I expected her to agree with me because we both share similar views when it comes to relationships (I thought) but then she acted surprised and asked why. I told her it’s because I’ve worked too hard to make it mean something to just abandon it now, not to mention it’s my damn name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:27 AM
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It’s like having a mom you can boss around! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:14 AM
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... what
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:13 AM
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Tbh this is me, just because dirty dishes just bring down my mood— plus everything is much easier to wash when you do it immediately
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:09 AM
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Yeah, really shows you what their priorities are (not protecting women)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:00 AM
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And obviously being “busy” doesn’t necessarily mean you’re going to night school or prepping for a 4K, it could just as easily be movie night by yourself, or a home-spa day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 12:18 AM
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I’m still working on this, especially when it comes to my family— they’re the one ones who can push all of my buttons in sequence until I lose it. Distance helps, waking away helps, silence is a valid response. Mindfulness has helped a lot; taking a moment to contemplate what exactly it was about the tone of voice or word choice that riled me up, and why that insinuation was unfair/hurtful, and then accepting that they’ll never change, and it’s not my job to disabuse them of their mistaken notio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 01:29 PM
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Lmao yes 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 12:42 PM
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Yeah, it’s one thing to maintain strict boundaries between your romantic life and your own life, but it should be because you’re actually busy, or you’ve actually set time aside for non-man-related activities, not because you have to construct the facade of a full life to keep him interested
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 12:00 AM
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I don’t know why you’re being downvoted when this is correct lol. SE Asian is Thailand/Vietnam/Indonesia etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 11:54 PM
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Thank you! I feel like people never grasp the weirdness of someone like that. It’s kinda creepy..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 08:29 PM
5

Okay, well either way you’re bringing water to your face and not throwing it at yourself— and I would suggest that you use your hands to rub it off your face because soap can cling to the keratinized layer of your skin and cause dryness/chemical damage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 12:51 AM
9

Well I usually bring the water up to my face gently and rub with my hands. Do you just keep splashing until it feels clean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 10:23 PM
4

Lmao! Well at least you clean up after yourself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:58 PM
13

Haha oh wow that’s disgusting.. I can’t stand people who splatter the mirror with their toothbrush. I know it’s not always avoidable but then wipe it down damn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:16 PM
10

Just the image of him standing over a sink splashing around in the water every day for years just delt a major blow to my attraction for him lmao. I never looked at him the same after that, and after I’d finished laughing I realized the sink was pristine ever day hence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:15 PM
14

Haha no shade on your facial routine, but are you literally cupping water in your palms and throwing it upwards into your face? Because that’s what he was doing 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:11 PM
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Omfg. My ex did that exact same “spilling water everywhere when washing his face” thing! I asked him a million times not to do it, and even went so far as to buy a goddamn squeegee for the counter lol. Then one day this waste of space gets water into my expensive af powder foundation which was closed on the counter, so I get pissed and tell him I wanna see exactly how he washes his face in order to figure out how tf he managed to flood the area each time. This... man was splashing water onto his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:49 PM
8

What if I don’t want any other hussies admiring my man’s luscious locks?? Shouldn’t he keep it halal by covering up for me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:10 PM
7

Oof.. been there :/ Thank god for supportive families though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:14 PM
20

Yeah, she should outsource them to a poor woman who is desperate for cash according to him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:30 PM
1

It’s a fun way to spend a lazy afternoon haha It’s called No Men Beyond This Point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:25 PM
38

I’m gonna give her the benefit of the doubt and hope that she actually has AMC stock lol but if that’s the case this is an FEC violation 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 01:55 PM
34

Yes definitely a joke, but they assumed reality at the base of the joke is that this is how you behave with a woman you like
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 01:02 PM
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Yeah, why the hell aren’t men hearing hijabs and burkas? There’s no difference between male and female hair lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:49 PM
14

Religion is such easy cover for low-empathy manipulators. The script has already been written, all they have to do is read it, and no one will blink an eye, because people believe what they want to believe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:44 PM
20

Maybe the devil won, and this is all a massive disinformation campaign
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:41 PM
32

“No honey, marriage is about taking advantage of the unpaid labor provided by women and creating more loyal subjects to indoctrinate :)”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:37 PM
28

Someone should actually write a pro-FDS script. I think people are hungry for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:26 PM
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Single women: luxurious life of comfort Single man: living in a hoarders nest of empty beer bottles, while gaming with online “friends” who talk trash about him to their gfs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:23 PM
2

It’s a dumb concept truly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:16 PM
3

Yeah, this is my nightmare scenario as well, but after discovering FDS I don’t feel that scared about it really, because I know I’ll be able to leave without regrets. You’re totally right about our culture normalizing disrespect and abuse towards women. Sadly, I think most desi women are just happy as long as their husband isn’t physically abusive.. As for my friend, I think she just got scared by her nosy aunties and mom telling her to find a husband before it’s “too late” lol.. luckily they do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:03 PM
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I’m well aware of the voyeur in my own head, so I imagine myself to be the lead character in a villain origin story, and it’s at least entertaining to me if not healthy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:22 AM
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Hmm, got it. So you needed to see his duplicity with your own eyes before believing it— that makes total sense.. They haven’t been married too long so maybe she’ll see it once things return to “normal”... but then they just started counseling because he doesn’t do jack shit around the house and so far her takeaway is “I need to learn anger management” lol, so things aren’t looking great imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 01:38 AM
1

Oh yeah definitely— no Indian is forgetting that any time soon 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 01:32 AM
2

Ew, I had no idea about Jinnah being a pedo, but it tracks.. the two state solution was the beginning of the end for the entire subcontinent imo. The fighting has literally never stopped since then and it’s getting worse. The Modi government is only getting more powerful, and it scares me to think about where this is all going
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:37 PM
1

Oh, okay that makes sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:25 PM
3

I’ll be honest, I don’t know enough about the ethnodemographics to have an opinion on that, but I will say the vast majority of my experience has been with Urdu speakers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:08 PM
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Yeah, they don’t like identifying with the “oppressed” classes even though the sad truth is that many of their ancestors were converted at knifepoint. Politicians and religious leaders in particular like to play up the religious and class divides in order to get people riled up, and allow them to feel superior and righteous— and it works incredibly well unfortunately. It’s like a form of cultural Stockholm syndrome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:53 PM
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I know what you mean. I’m Indian, but live in the US, and for a while I worked at a place where the majority of my co-workers were Pakistani. One day in the lunch room, they were discussing meal prep in Urdu, so I joined in because my family speaks Urdu as well. Most of them looked at me like I’d grown another head, even though I know without a doubt that I spoke perfectly. I ended up being really close friends with one of the women there and she was very clearly a HVW married to a HVM. I guess …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:23 PM
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Might I ask what snapped you out of it and made you finally leave? I have a friend in your position, and I don’t want to alienate her, but I can tell she’s stuck and unhappy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:15 PM
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Hi fellow Desi 👋 I know what you’re probably feeling right now, and it’s totally understandable. I had a friend in that same position (known her since grade school etc). She was always a bit of a role model for me when it came to dating because after a horrible first bf (100% LMV) she steered clear of most guys and tried to date serious contenders only. Unfortunately the pressure to marry gets to us all, and eventually she gave in and agreed to date a friend of hers who had been asking her out f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 03:08 PM
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Lol, they’re all literally the same aren’t they? At least be original with your abuse 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:54 PM
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My family is the same, and it’s not an issue as long as everything is clean and organized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:28 PM
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Oh damn you’re totally right.. wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:25 PM
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This was my ex, I opened up to him about my childhood abuse, and a month later he threw it back in my face calling me a “whiner” and how I was “lucky” compared to him lol.. lesson learned!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:21 PM
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The problem is that a lot of the fat is below the muscle layer, and if they have liver issues there’s a ton of fluid buildup there as well. Unless they’re devoting the majority of their day to weightlifting, that is not “all muscle” lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:15 PM
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see if this link works for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:59 PM
2

Oh damn now I have to hear this story 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:57 PM
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Forreal— this is how every adult should feel about children
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 11:14 PM
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“You thought I wanted to have sex with someone who can’t do the SATs” 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 11:13 PM
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Oh man, sometimes this sub goes a little nuts with the red flags.. why are there so many comments trying to paint dogs as slavish dimwits preferred by misogynistic assholes, while cats are wise, regal creatures preferred by HV people lol? Both animals are just animals, their ownership, or preference doesn’t say anything about that person’s psychology. Cats can be needy and obedient too, while some dogs can be extremely independent, and guarded — it depends on their training and personality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:24 PM
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I mean all of that is true of dogs as well.. cats weren’t bred like dogs because they only had a single purpose (keeping rodents at bay) unlike dogs that have almost as many occupations as humans ourselves. They still require a lot of communication and trust. It just happens to be easier with dogs because we’ve evolved to read their body language and vice versa
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:15 PM
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I’d be careful in attributing emotions to animal behaviors. Many animals have nonverbal behaviors which mean something completely different to them than they do to us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:11 PM
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FDS needs an opsec section lol (not joking though)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:20 AM
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Plus he’s hot af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 02:03 AM
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That quote is so well concisely and poetically LVM that I’m genuinely impressed at it. It’s like he managed to fit the entirety of his smug, slovenly superior attitude into a single paragraph.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:16 PM
8

The new trend of allowing nurses to practice as psychiatrists is incredibly dangerous. I love nurses and I’ve met some fantastic ones throughout the years, but their area of expertise is nursing not medicine (which can look the same from the outside, but the knowledge bases are significantly different). A psychiatrist spends at least eight years learning what to do— and more importantly what not to do, and that just cannot be taught in 2 years. If you’re looking for a refill then nurses and PAs …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:47 PM
11

I work in the mental health field and I can confirm that there is the difference of night and day between a PhD or MD and someone who got a 2 year degree. I’ve seen patients who had tried outpatient therapy for years with no results because they went to some “therapist” who just took their money and listened to them talk for an hour a week. Actual psychotherapy is work just like physical therapy. It requires someone who’s knowledgeable enough to navigate through the minefield of a damaged psyche…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:41 PM
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Then it would be aBUsE lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 01:54 PM
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Guaranteed he does not “take out” any liberal women lol. His description reads like a typical conservative male fantasy about “sexually liberated city girls.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 08:50 PM
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Yeah but Louie also had a lot of concerning jokes in his routines, mostly about his ex wife, which were uncomfortable before, but giant red flags in hindsight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 08:36 PM
11

Sis finally got picked 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:54 PM
15

She said it’s been a problem for years though? Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 02:20 PM
11

What a fucking sociopath.. I bet that’s exactly why he did it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 11:17 AM
17

Ugh wtf where do they learn this shit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:02 AM
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I cringed so hard my entire scalp is crawling. I’ve been there lmfao.. poor baby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 11:58 PM
15

Let her sleep in after she was up all night caring for their baby lol.. not like she just decided to take a lazy day off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 11:17 PM
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I never let anyone into my house with shoes lol. I make it very obvious that shoes stay at the door and the only people who have completely blockheadedly chosen not to notice are men.. go figure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 11:15 PM
3

It’s possible that some of his previous weight was muscle, and now he’s all flubber
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 11:12 PM
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Lmao— very good point. Every meal requires at least this amount of work lol. Incredibly sneaky to try and pad it out like a goddamn resume
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 11:11 PM
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My ex started crying and said that he had cancer.. he absolutely did not have cancer lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 10:10 PM
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“Waaahh! wimmin are manipulating us with their victimhood ☹️☹️☹️” — men probably
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:37 PM
8

Ending a long serious relationship like that is heartbreaking and there’s no way to avoid that. Sure there’s relief and fear and happiness etc. but the brain doesn’t just sever strong emotional connections at the drop of a hat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:24 PM
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Wait what— I’ve never seen his responses where can I find these
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:22 PM
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Lmfao ikr? It sounds like r/menwritingwhattheythinkwomenwant Omg so qUirKy 🤪🤪🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 11:48 PM
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What made it worse was that the wife actually worked as his secretary (he had a private practice) and this all happened right under her nose. I didn’t work directly with any of them so idk if she knew or not. They had at least one child together
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:42 AM
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Oof this is so true.. my ex-boss was Lebanese, and his wife had had everything done.. lips, as, waist, chin, nose, boobs, hair etc. She looked *better * than a Kardashian, but he was still cheating on her with my blonde coworker who was 20 yrs younger than him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 12:29 AM
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Idk... but those girls need to love themselves more 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:17 PM
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He looks like Chris brown’s inbred cousin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 11:13 PM
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It’s hard to paint it all with the same brush, because as others are saying, there’s definitely good and wholesome stories out there along with the awful stuff. It would be like saying anyone who watches cartoons is one way or another— you’ve got Finding Nemo on one end and then Transformers on the other
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:03 PM
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Yeah idk if it’s fake or not, but for my own sanity I’m gonna say it is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:57 PM
1

This happened because of a viral tweet in which a woman said she switched her political affiliation to “conservative” in order to compile evidence against Capital rioters and report them to the FBI..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:01 PM
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Definitely less stressful— at least the baby grows up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 11:32 AM
8

Yeah I was thinking the worst.. not that this is great, but..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 11:24 AM
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So true. My first bf’s friends tried to pressure him into sleeping with a SW because they thought we weren’t sleeping together, and only backed off once he confirmed we were.. but why the fuck would that be okay even if we weren’t? That should have been my cue to peace out of that relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:58 AM
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Yeah, you’re actually kinda on to something here. As a reformed kinkmeisha, I’ve really tasted the rainbow so to speak, and from experience I can truthfully say that the moments where I felt the most vulnerable— the moments that took the most emotional courage during sex were always the “vanilla” ones. It takes a vast depth of passion and trust in order to execute missionary with eye-contact. You absolutely cannot have sex with a stranger like that. Kinky sex creates emotional distance by couchi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:52 AM
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Haha well that’s a bit terrifying.. but it won’t deter me! Thank you for the insight!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:43 AM
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Yeah the “addiction” may or may not be true, but it sure is a convenient excuse to feed mom and dad to explain his budding rapist behavior
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:41 AM
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Lmfao— Comanche is so handsome 🤩 and your outfit is amazing 🤩 I’ll be honest I’m super scared of falling off, but I guess there’s a strategy to it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:15 AM
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Wow. Thank you so much for all of this info! I’m definitely going to take all of this advice— and don’t be surprised if I message you out of the blue a year or so later for more haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 01:30 AM
9

Hmm yeah that’s true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:57 AM
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Idk but they’re almost all immature manchildren. It’s one thing to throw in a few bucks at the office betting pool, but it’s a whole ‘nother thing to turn it into a hobby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:47 AM
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Aaand of course the “advice” is for women to do even more work lol. Sure I’ll advocate for myself, but that won’t solve the issue. If I want a man to turn me on, no amount of foreplay on my end is going to change his disinterest in that aspect of sex. If a man wants to please me he fuking will, and if he doesn’t he can go please himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:45 AM
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I have to say, it’s my goal to one day ride horses as a hobby— at the moment I don’t have the spare time or money.. how did you get into it? What should I look for when I get started?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:42 AM
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Yup, and some people do buy jewelry as an investment, but there’s no fuking way something like this will appreciate. What an idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:33 AM
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For someone desensitized enough to buy that, it would work exactly zero times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:32 AM
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I believe we need more mothers with your attitude about raising boys. If we can’t hold them to the standard of not being rapists then what fucking standards are there for men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:19 AM
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Yeah, they’re not holding him accountable— they’re excusing his behavior and trying to save face. They care more about their reputation than this girl’s safety smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 11:57 PM
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I know it’s hard not to lose faith in humanity when so much pain and trauma is hand-waves away by the perpetrators themselves, but don’t forget about the rest of us! There’s so many good people trying to fix the broken parts of humanity, but it’s hard because for every evildoer, there 10 more that are just willfully ignorant. Don’t let it overwhelm you, you’re not alone, but don’t give up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 11:24 PM
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This woman is struggling to afford underwear and meanwhile, her husband is spending $1000 a month on loot boxes smh.. I would be fuking livid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:47 PM
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I posted his response in another comment, but it sounds like he masturbated in front of his cousin or sister. She probably told her parents and his excuse was “porn addiction.” This is a rapist in training and his parents are fine with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:34 PM
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apparently he “exposed himself” but he’s still making excuses about his behavior
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:22 PM
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He just responded my response “im moving forward. That’s all I can do!” Oh and his top subs are no surprise now he’s getting defensive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:21 PM
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Yup that was me, he didn’t respond ofc lol. I’m so sad for that poor girl— her family clearly cares more about his feelings than her safety 😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 08:32 PM
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And then of course there’s her, “I don’t wanna fight tonight, imma let you be right” lol what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 01:39 AM
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NYT Opinion articles are garbage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 08:31 PM
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Spot on. The “bad memory” trick is a short term tactic to escape any immediate consequences and get you to shut up about it, and also eventually set the stage for gaslighting in order to convince you that it wasn’t as serious as you remember, or perhaps it didn’t even happen at all..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 08:21 PM
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I agree, and sadly the answer is simply that most of the users here are very young women (as is evident by the veritable cornucopia of tiktoks) who may have been cheated on by a school bf or two. Obviously the betrayal is still painful, but not comparable to a spouse with whom you have children and shared assets. Being with someone for that many years you absolutely grow (or shrink) together, and it becomes impossible to imagine a life outside of that relationship. Another gross tendency I’ve no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 08:12 PM
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I agree, while it is important to debunk a lot of patriarchal superstitions about womanhood, it’s important not to do so while maintaining the framework that made it problematic in the first place. That is to say, that the reason the “wall” argument is flawed is because a woman’s worth should not be a measure of her physical beauty, and attempting to combat the idea that women turn into hags at the 30 mark by posting pics of hot ladies is unproductive, if not counterproductive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:42 PM
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Okay, as much as this is hilarious to think about, I feel like I have to point out that this is misinformed. This is not actually how zoonotic diseases spread. It’s almost always due to animal consumption and improper food preparation or livestock housing. The AIDS virus jumped from apes to humans in Africa due to the consumption of bush meat. Most STIs are also bloodbourne or transmissible through mucus membranes. Now I’m not saying that it’s impossible for it to have occurred through sexual tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:00 PM
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Lol yeah I don’t mean she’s going to discover the fountain of youth, just that she’s going to keep milking the cash cow until she finds a different grift or fades into obscurity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:54 PM
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Yeah I don’t care about her personal finances, but I feel there is a difference between a vulnerable young woman going into SW because of poor coping mechanisms for past trauma, or peer pressure, and someone who knows exactly what kind of sickness they’re contributing to, and doing it anyway because it makes money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:51 PM
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Thanks Edit: I’m not seeing the sub when I search for it— is it private?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:53 PM
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You can look no further than Reddit for an example of this lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:46 PM
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No I get what you meant. My point was that even if she gets attention in the short term, it could potentially interrupt her revenue stream if there’s enough bad press
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:42 PM
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Not all publicity is good. YouTube banned her account for exactly this reason a few months back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:03 PM
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As you can imagine, fascism and misogyny go together like chocolate and peanut butter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:00 PM
6

A pickup artist tried this weird crap on me at a Starbucks once. I had a couple hours to kill and decided to go in an read a book while I sipped some coffee. The moment I sat down in the armchair, the older man next to me get my attention and starts striking up a convo. I was just a baby then so I decided to “be polite” and humor him. Then he started involving this other dude who was obviously as uncomfortable as me but also too polite to say otherwise. Eventually I decided to just read in my ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:19 AM
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She won’t let that happen. If she hasn’t had work done yet, she will
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:05 AM
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She may enjoy the fame and notoriety, but in her case it’s all about the Benjamins. She seems like a straight up sociopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:04 AM
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Even in the 60’s that would be a child’s outfit. No adult women were walking around in Mary Janes with a headband and white pantyhose. She literally looks like Alice from the Disney version of Alice in Wonderland, who is like 12 or something. What a load of horseshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:00 AM
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She didn’t start out with the creepy pedo angle, but she quickly discovered that it’s where the money is.. she seems a bit sociopathic to me tbh. I haven’t seen any evidence of a single scruple of hers since I’ve been aware of her. She’s completely mercenary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 10:57 AM
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This is so true. Since then I bought myself a USB tape recorder which just looks like a regular flash drive. I keep it on or near me at all times just in case because you never fucking know when you’ll need evidence for the courts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 10:44 AM
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That sounds like a hell of a glow up ma’am. The vast majority of men are a complete waste of space. You could say that about a small minority of women, but even then most women take care of at least one or two other people or otherwise contribute to the family— but men? Just big useless leeches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 10:42 AM
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Male culture is hilarious, on one hand they ridicule any hobbies or interests that are “girly” but at the same time they stereotype women as revolving our entire internal lives around men when literally he opposite is true. How many times have you read an interview of a famous man, and when asked, “why did you get into singing/photography/art/engineering?” The answer is always some variation of “to get chicks”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 10:38 AM
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I recorded an audio of my ex going on a 20 min unhinged rant about how worthless I was one time, just to remind myself. I didn’t say a single word and it only provoked him further.. I still have it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:07 AM
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Like the other lady said, they feel more comfortable being their authentically shitty selves once they feel you’re trapped. Examples include: baby, marriage, moved to a new town, unable to afford moving out, lost a job, illness, etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:05 AM
3

This might be weird but I love her accent 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:40 AM
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In this case he likely only left because he knew he had another option
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:36 AM
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Sex is a privilege for them because everything else is a “right”.. they can’t even imagine not having access to the automatic power and authority that having a Y chromosome brings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:28 AM
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Teen girls: because they haven’t yet been beaten down by the patriarchy and are very headstrong and passionate about their likes/dislikes and goals. They hate it when women have lives that don’t revolve around begging for their attention, no naturally this is free game. Then of course hating on teen girls is a culturally acceptable form of misogyny because it can be framed as though they’re simply making fun of kids (and kids are annoying no doubt) but teenage boys get nowhere near the same leve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 09:30 PM
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Men: women should give up their hopes and dreams in order to pack me lunch and do my dishes Women: men suck.. Men: what did you say b*tch?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 02:55 AM
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Oof.. reminds me of my NVM ex and his NVM buddies (they were all surgeons for reference). One time I was forced to be in a car with the lot of them while on our way to the department head’s party (plastic surgeon). And they all started making gross jokes about how hot his wife was. Then my ex piped up and said something like, “I heard he delivered the baby himself, and then threw in an extra stitch to keep things tight nowhadimsayin 😝😝😝” So I piped up in the back and told them all that was a dis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 11:40 PM
16

That’s how Michael Douglas got esophageal cancer iirc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 11:25 PM
59

That was much worse imo.. at least this lady doesn’t have to live in filth, the only thing spray tan girl won is humiliation and eventually a child that shares those bummy genes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 03:19 AM
14

Too true.. not all men are complicit, but the vast majority are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 03:17 AM
48

Okay I think I understand the motivations here.. Her: hehe what a fun and cheeky way to publicly embarrass him into finally proposing! Him: Laaadieezzzz— guess who’s still single 😎😝🤚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 03:15 AM
32

All dogs are HV ❤️ Props to both of the pooches who saved you from getting raped, but holy fuck how vile
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 03:10 AM
5

That just honestly sounds like abuse..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 12:54 AM
5

Oh wow, so hypocritical.. sounds like she regrets marrying outside of her ethnicity and is taking it out on you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:21 PM
13

Wow, I love this video— big Angelfire energy 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:56 PM
11

“I was gonna use her but she used me... 😡”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:50 PM
3

Lol, too true.. ALL of the women in my family are miserable (except for one who got lucky and married my HVM uncle) and despite that they’re desperate to make sure I’m just as miserable as they are. My mum spent countless hours trying to badger me about marriage, and after dodging for years I finally came out and said I don’t want to even think about marriage until both my career and finances are stable. When I said that she just went quiet, then turned to my dad and said, “see?” Neither of them…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:44 PM
8

I’m the black sheep of my family because I’m unabashedly vocal about my feelings about our culture and the way our family members behave towards women, so any “weakness” I might show them would instantly be used against me. The only way to rise above it is keep your self to yourself around them and heal in private.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:31 PM
11

Yup same.. I had to learn all of the tough lessons myself, and without any emotional support. That was super fun! I’ll discourage my kids from dating and tell them exactly why instead of hand waving about culture of grades, and if they fuck up I’ll make it clear that they can come to me for anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:19 PM
3

This is a fact. I bet if we had a way of accurately determining gender, it would be nearly 100% men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 04:48 PM
4

People are arguing there that SW “isn’t for desperate women only” and that it can lead to a lucrative career lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 04:47 PM
2

Haha, thanks for the endorsement ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 01:30 AM
14

I was banned for that along time ago (I made a post about it) after responding to some misogynistic asshole (he was allowed to continue participating lol)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 12:53 AM
145

Yup, my ex would sneer and ask pointed questions any time I dared to put on lipstick or a little blush— god forbid I do my nails.. they want you to feel like shit and look like shit until and unless it benefits them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 10:25 PM
6

Oh sorry it’s hard to tell in text
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 10:22 PM
29

Yup, self-destructive behaviors are frequently used as coping mechanisms when people don’t have healthier tools to use, but that doesn’t mean we should be okay with people cutting their wrists, or becoming alcoholics just because they’re “adults”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 10:21 PM
17

Just because men aren’t capable of friendship with women doesn’t mean every woman knows that. She’s probably still young..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:39 PM
48

Sounds like she actually thinks they’re friends.. poor girl is in for a shock
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:26 PM
137

Having dated a few doctors, I can say with complete certainty that you’re either getting a saint or the biggest, most abusive pile of pus on the planet. Personally I don’t like the odds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:21 PM
76

10 is extremely young to even know about porn let alone be actively searching for such vile crap. I would be a little more suspicious of the older brother tbh..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:14 PM
135

Holy shit. LVM hate it when women have their own interests or hobbies. He could very easily not give a fuck since it’s not his money, but he chose to stick his foot in there because he’s jealous of inanimate objects She’s gonna be a dermatologist one day, she can do so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:11 PM
155

I really hope that’s not true.. if some guy made me jump through hoops to have his child, I’d get a sperm donor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:05 PM
2

Damn I feel for that poor girl.. though he could have done it with more tact, and organized a day trip with the two of them while she went out for the evening, giving them the day to themselves, but obviously COVID makes it hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:04 PM
62

Plus LVM get extra angry when their wives/gfs get pregnant because they’re literally jealous of the baby. He’ll hate anything that takes her attention away from him, including friends, family, hobbies, jobs (unless they pay his bills), and even their own goddamn children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:51 PM
55

Why do pickmes always sound like the nervous mothers of entitled, angry brats, trying to preemptively soothe their fragile egos before they turn their anger on them? That’s not how you get a child/man’s respect anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:45 PM
7

I hope they draw and quarter that site. They need to make an example of it or it’s just going to be repeated over and over in other sites
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 12:07 PM
8

The face-slasher was a cop.. of course he was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 12:04 PM
10

The only thing that can beat a man’s laziness is his ego. Nicely done 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 09:28 PM
6

I didn’t realize that putting a meal away meant exactly everything you just said until I read that. I do it without a second thought because it’s just the most efficient way to do it all. This is more like r.maliciouscompliance than “boys r dum”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 09:27 PM
11

Not being allowed to have sex with someone is not a “punishment” lol, if anything it’s a negative reward (in terms of behavioral conditioning). If she really wanted a piggyback ride from him but he wasn’t in the mood because he strained his back that wouldn’t be a “punishment.” They’re so spoiled by the patriarchy their entire world view is warped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 07:41 PM
22

I dated one for a while, but never realized it as most of our relationship was long distance (I tried breaking up but he begged me not to). Only once I moved to the same area I realized that there was something wrong, and decided to check out his laptop that he was so careful to hide— and yup, TERABYTES of porn. Not only that but he’d recorded a private session with a camgirl recently.. I lost all of my sexual attraction for him then and there. I confided this to one of my male friends and he di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 10:48 PM
38

Yup, i lost my “best friend” after I realized that she treated me like crap despite the fact that I was doing all of the emotional labor in our relationship even in the middle of a messy and dangerous breakup with an abusive ex. She resented me for my ex’s attempts at stalking and harassing me because the guy she’d flown to see multiple times was ghosting her again. I realized I had to raise my standards for all of my relationships, and I’ve been so much happier and healthier since then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 10:32 PM
49

Implies the abuse is bi-directional, rather than instigated by one party and responded to by the other
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 04:39 PM
52

Something tells me the “dream” thing is an excuse, and the truth is probably even more sinister
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:10 AM
63

Utter desperation, lack of any useful skills, and misogyny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:05 AM
12

Yup lol— he’s really just saying “ugh now you need me to do a whole song and dance to convince you my intentions aren’t exactly what they are?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 08:59 PM
15

Wow that’s literally my ex! We started off as FWB and he got all butthurt that I wasn’t in love with him so I thought if he’s that pressed why not give it a shot?.. terrible idea. Awful. BAD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 08:34 PM
26

If these same men that will later victim-blame women for being too trusting and naive— “she should have known better!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 08:24 PM
2

Yeah.. that too :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 07:15 PM
116

I imagine she didn’t go to the same doctor every time or he cared more about money than her health
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 01:38 PM
8

Also it’s incredibly stupid to imply that the most likely explanation for this misogynistic garbage to hurt his wife is mental illness. Apparently the Y chromosome causes mental illness then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 05:44 AM
8

They’ve spent so much time and energy trying to convince the world that teenage girls are airheads, it kills them to see that illusion shattered
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 03:46 AM
7

This is how I’ve come to feel about Hollywood in general; it’s all a bunch of pro-patriarchy propaganda with the veneer of liberalism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 03:43 AM
6

Thanks 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 02:03 AM
8

Fascinating! I’d love to read that study
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 12:27 AM
39

Pickmes and scrotes get so mad when you point out that “empowerment” should lead to power, and there’s nothing “powerful” about SW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:00 PM
58

You just know there’s a whole ocean of pain behind that grin, she’s desperately trying to win his love and attention but all she gets is a backhanded compliment and humiliated on the internet :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 04:58 PM
84

Arousal is a pretty psychologically complicated phenomenon. I hate smoking and smokers gross me out, but my first bf was a smoker so now the smell of cigarettes turns me on.. I just have to stay mindful of the fact that just because something is arousing doesn’t mean it’s healthy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 04:21 PM
2

Any time gf— enjoy! ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:04 PM
7

Every woman should trust her intuition. We’re told we’re sensitive or crazy for calling them out on their obvious bullshit so often that we start to believe it ourselves. We are sensitive— to lies. My NVM ex hosted thanksgiving one year for his closest friends and me (we hadn’t been dating long) and one of his friends happened to be a woman, which wasn’t an issue for me in itself but As he got drunker I realized some concerning behaviors; such as touching her lower-back, this weird giddy attitud…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 02:20 PM
2

“Ladies, find a good man. A man that’s rich in the things that matter a man that wipes his own ass, a man that breathes without assistance, a man that carries his own leftovers to his gaming station, a man that drives his own mobility scooter— a real man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 01:54 PM
2

Yeah, we live in a capitalist society, money is really the only thing that matters most of the time lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 01:47 PM
8

Yeah, the nuclear family structure is a terrible way to raise children. Where’s your social support if things go sideways, or you need advice? Why does everyone have to figure it out on their own? Leads to a lot more stress and financial difficulties imo. Even in the West, they say “it takes a village to raise a child” for a reason
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:23 PM
9

You leave Benedryl alone.. I love his weird face 😩😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:46 AM
20

I remember reading about a study which found that women on average find fit body types more attractive, while men find ridiculously proportioned men and women more attractive, go figure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:41 AM
3

Ohh, I really liked Thief of Hearts by Teresa Medieros. Just about done with Heather and Velvet but it’s a bit lane imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:37 AM
7

Yeah, you’re right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:43 AM
11

Haha yes that’s what I was thinking of— thanks 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:41 AM
21

Poor lady doesn’t have a husband so much as an adopted manchild.. hopefully she doesn’t form an unhealthy attachment to her future son and continue the cycle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 01:06 AM
26

I think the shorts were a deliberate attempt to provoke the bride into an argument which she didn’t fall for, so mommy dearest had act quickly before the ceremony ended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 01:05 AM
10

Troglodyte? Doesn’t that mean disdainful of technology?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:49 AM
47

Literally a servant.. you’d have to shell out GOOD money for service like this. My mom would laugh in my fucking face if I asked her for 2.5 ice cubes lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:49 AM
82

Omg same, my ex told me that “dresses are for old ladies” and I should wear more baggy clothes.. 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 09:41 PM
8

That is kind of what she implies in her article.. and now he’s knocked up his new gf too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 06:02 PM
9

What a disgusting thing to say.. I’m so sorry for your loss, and I’m glad he’s your ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 06:01 PM
20

Same thing happened to a friend of mine who married a guy after rejecting him for years. Now he expects her to be his mommy-wife and plays video games all day 🤡 If you reject a guy, he’ll stop seeing you as a person and instead an object to be conquered. The post-victory afterglow doesn’t last long..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 05:58 PM
28

From what I know about their “courtship” he was actually a bit obsessed with her since their uni days and kept asking her out over and over again while she kept rejecting him, but eventually he did manage to change her mind.. personally any guy who can’t take no for an answer is automatically NVM in my book. I listened to a really great podcast about him and his shittyness if anyone’s interested, I’d definitely recommend it: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/behind-the-bastards/id1373812661?…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:52 PM
28

Because they think they own us, they believe they’re better than us in every way and so naturally we should admit our inferiority and submit to them lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:57 PM
77

He told Justine that grieving their dead child was “emotional blackmail”?? I knew he was a piece of shit but this is the first I’m hearing of this..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:53 PM
21

I’m assuming she can’t leave for whatever reason, but if that’s the case she should focus on planning her escape instead of trying to “teach him a lesson” which he’ll never learn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:40 PM
9

I don’t think she listened past the first 20 sec because he does frame it a certain way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:38 PM
2

Oh I didn’t see it but thanks for the heads up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:30 PM
6

Haha, yup, I should have put “woke” in quotes because most of them aren’t truly capable of empathizing with another human being. They have a very egocentric view of the world which is hyperinflated by their paychecks and valley culture about being in the center of a new tech revolution. They literally all actually believe their own self-aggrandizing bullshit about “saving the world” through their dumb little startup, or they dream about being the next zuckerberg, jobs, or musk (bunch of sociopat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:43 AM
10

Yup, without getting too much into it I have a lot of close connections with silicone valley techbros and even the most woke ones are all blatantly misogynistic, openly arguing with me about women’s “contributions to history” lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:31 AM
22

Don’t forget the Calvin peeing on something bumper sticker and trashy tattoos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:51 PM
45

That wasn’t my experience at all moving to the south, personally. People are definitely more approachable, but not “nicer” in any discernible way. They’re more willing to engage in small-talk, but they’re also way more judgmental and petty. As for the dating scene? Forget it. Guys get married younger here and cheating on their wives is like an acceptable group hobby. You’ll never know that the sweet guy you’ve been seeing for two months actually has a wife and two kids until he ghosts you sudden…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:25 PM
37

Oof, sorry but that couldn’t be further from the truth.. silicone valley is fully of douchey tech bros who unironically-ironically wear Nvidia shirts and the same pair of cargo pants every day. They’re all misogynistic as hell, and extremely open about it. Every big city is the same. They’re all different shades of douche.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:18 PM
15

Yup, fuckboys are the loneliest people I know, hopping from woman to woman trying to fill that hole in their soul which only seems to get bigger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 08:51 PM
28

Yeah, in my case he used my empathy against me by playing the victim all of the time, which I fell for completely. His family was mean to him, his friends didn’t appreciate him, his bosses took him for granted, his exes cheated and lies, his coworkers were lazy and stupid, his alcohol addiction was impossible to overcome without a stint in rehab which he couldn’t take time off for etc etc. Eventually it all came to a head when he was injured in a collision (due to his drinking) so I moved in wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 03:01 PM
26

And notice how he waited TWO YEARS to drop the “loving bf” act, right after he thought he had her in a corner..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 02:22 PM
18

She used to pass out during filming?? I remember hearing something about how she mentioned something vaguely negative about SW in an interview and Reddit mysteriously lost interest in her after that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 02:19 PM
15

Haha yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 02:09 PM
75

Yeah, back in the day when I was dating my abusive ex, I posted on there a few times and I was genuinely unsure of myself. Looking back I realize it was so obvious what was going on to everyone but me. Abusive relationships really do destroy your ability to think clearly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 02:09 PM
22

Lol yup— it’s a bullshit diagnosis, and it’s not in the DSM V for a reason
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:54 AM
3

Good point 🤔 The bare minimum is apparently too high of a standard, as long as he’s not literally raping her every day, he’s a keeper
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:03 AM
19

“Intimacy in my fornication?! Not on my watch..”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 11:51 PM
15

Because silly women don’t understand that sex is supposed to hurt a little (for them) and they should be grateful that their man is trying to get them off at all .../s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 10:54 PM
3

Wow. This presses all of my buttons 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 10:07 PM
21

Guaranteed he’s just as emotionally manipulative in other aspects of their relationship, but she doesn’t mind so much because it’s not physically painful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:43 PM
18

All good points. Even if she’d been as meek as possible in expressing her discomfort, it’s on him to stop what he’s doing, not on her to stop him. The fact that instead of apologizing, he refused to take any blame and then shuffled off to pout in order to manipulate her into apologizing is even worse. He’s an abusive prick and no amount of communication is gonna change that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:41 PM
88

But in all other aspects he’s very respectful! Just the part where he doesn’t get to treat her body like his personal sex toy :( Also note how the sex has been “getting worse” meaning he knows exactly what she likes, he just doesn’t give a fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:58 PM
149

Another commenter actually pointed this out and dudes got steaming mad lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:52 PM
148

I like how they frame foreplay as pointless— quelle surprise..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:35 PM
3

Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 03:01 PM
5

Thats kind of right, but your definition of “pickmeisha-ism” must be a bit different from mine, because I define it as someone who is so desperate for male attention/approval that they don’t mind throwing themselves and other women under the bus— not women who have been raised/lived/are living through traumatic circumstances which prevent them from fully spreading their wings. I know there’s a lot of young women on this sub who (luckily) may not have lived through an abusive romantic relationshi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 02:02 PM
12

This has remained invariably true across every single relationship I’ve had. My ex’s friends were all drug dealers or ex-criminals (that I knew of). His best friend was an alcoholic serial-cheater so I guess it shouldn’t have come as a huge surprise when that’s exactly what he turned out to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:39 AM
7

My point is that their behavior isn’t necessarily ’pickmeishaism’ it may also just be good ol’ trauma, so I would take it with a grain of salt and just be glad you didn’t have to deal with that they went through
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:28 AM
16

Women of that generation had to deal with “consequences” of being outspoken as well, which may have been social, emotional, financial, or physical depending on their situation, so their “meekness” is also self-preservation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 11:55 PM
11

It’s because their dads came home from the war with an Asian bride or stories about banging poor women who’s homes, families and livelihoods had been destroyed, and bragging about how “submissive” they were. An older friend of mine is one of those women and luckily divorced her NVM ex after years of abuse and has her own home and business, but I’m sure not everyone was that lucky
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 11:50 PM
42

Personally, having grown up with him, Brad Pitt, Leo etc as sex icons, I consider him a HVM from the little I know about him. He’s never dated anyone significantly younger than him (that I know of) and he was single for years while all those other scrotes were off cheating on their second wives with teenagers. Then when he finally did find a woman he wanted to be with she turned out to be a human rights lawyer for the UN. So props to him honestly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 11:31 PM
20

Sounds like he is employed ...as a really cheap part time sex worker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 11:06 PM
32

It’s funny you should say that.. a friend of mine has been dating the same dusty scrote for over a decade now (he doesn’t “believe” in marriage) and she jokingly mentioned that it annoys her when he asks her for advice, then ignores it until his male friends give the exact same advice. I was like.. uh, I think that pretty much spells it out 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 10:58 PM
25

He’s probably aiming for it tbh (especially if he’s trying to keep the sound to a minimum like she said)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 10:09 PM
18

I actually commented on this post, and some gross incel came and tried to argue with me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 10:01 PM
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Her priority is not being alone, self-respect and other women be damned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 09:57 PM
23

Woah ok.. I’m not saying that this is how I view Eastern European women, but this is generally the image that American men have of them (ie. the current First Lady)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:26 AM
10

Yeah, he could have proposed with literally anything, and it didn’t need to be an item of jewelry to be valuable, but instead he chose something you can find in a 7/11
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:23 AM
3

I’ve studied a lot of anatomy, and the answer is pretty boring, the truth is that a nongravid uterus is pretty small, only the size of a couple golf balls, so it doesn’t take up much space. Pregnancy is a whole other deal however
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:16 AM
8

His douchey little smirk makes me so dry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:05 AM
3

Is that necklace really $17K? 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:54 AM
6

That sucks.. I hope she comes to her senses before she has children with him..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:50 AM
17

Sounds like a cult in the making
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:07 AM
29

Veterans Affairs I’m guessing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:03 AM
16

Sadly, I think it’s the opposite, because Eastern European women are often desperate to leave the country as mail order brides and such.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 01:26 AM
34

I bet she didn’t even say any of that and just straight up blocked him; then he had a 45 minute cry/argue/wank session in the shower where he came up with the perfect Reddit post to really stick it to her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 12:38 AM
23

It’s.. strange, I guess men find it attractive? Personally I find it is a bit over the top..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 12:32 AM
19

Haha I LOVE this 🤩🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 12:30 AM
31

Lmao, I can imagine him typing this with a smug grin on his face, half-dreaming ahead to his inevitable Pulitzer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 12:21 AM
39

I bet he thinks that’s a compliment too, like she’s sitting there thinking, “holy shit— this guy thinks I’m so sexy that he can’t help but send me creepy texts? I’ve never felt so beautiful🥰😍”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:52 PM
55

If a man is trying to get you to feel sorry for him thats manipulation and he absolutely does not have good intentions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 11:43 AM
56

The one thing FDS has really changed my mind about is the role of money and gifts in a relationship. I used to be one of those 50-50 girls and it absolutely made the men I dated think less of me. They were already garbage to begin with, but their true nature would have been revealed a lot more quickly and painlessly if I’d been using FDS back then. The way I see it, a man can lie about anything; emotions, career, family, beliefs, even physically maintain a decent body and diet for a few months— …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 11:21 AM
75

Yup, my first bf was really sweet towards me until one time he deliberately spoiled the ending to a book I was reading, so I got angry and decided to go home. He blocked the exit, and despite my asking he wouldn’t budge, so I slapped him, and he finally let me go. After that of course, he complained about how “abusive” I was to our friends, and they all turned against me. Good riddance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 09:27 PM
39

Sounds like a white supremacist thing tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 03:22 PM
10

Yeah, poor girl is completely delusional.. he’s probably talking shit about her to his OF girls, telling them how she doesn’t make him feel like enough of a man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 03:45 PM
13

Because he has aNxIEtY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 03:42 PM
12

Maybe the mods can add a tag about parenting advice? I think we need to be the change we want to see in the world
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 01:41 PM
71

Well i guess my brother already is a middle aged man in his 20s then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 09:24 PM
5

If I could make this happen, I absolutely would
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:25 AM
11

All I know is the ceremony better involve a bathtub full of jewelry 💎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:18 AM
7

Very good point. Additionally I propose we flip through OLD profiles and have a roast 🍖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:13 AM
5

Because men deserve to be celebrated! Do they really have to go and do something inspirational and difficult just to get that sweet, sweet Google artwork!? s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:07 AM
12

In this context I think it’s the girl saying she’ll protect him, with the caption implying that men are just vulnerable little puppies who just want someone to wuv
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 12:17 AM
25

Ok yes! And Friday nights can we have red wine by a giant fireplace with a view of a stormy cliff? 🥺🍷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 12:07 AM
44

Seeing her refer to a grown man’s unwashed asshole as “a smelly booty” grossed me out more than the actual post somehow 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:19 PM
9

You’re totally right. My ex was a proudly self-proclaimed sociopath. While he definitely had antisocial traits, it was pretty clear to me that he wasn’t, so eventually I managed to cajole him into therapy. Turns out the doctor diagnosed him with BPD, and he got BIG mad lmao 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:03 PM
74

It’s like how you would train a dog to do something. Giving food incentives to do chores isn’t effective anyway, since cleanliness and organization should be the rewards, and once the food is taken away, so is their incentive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 10:50 PM
54

I want to form a secret society with capes and hoods, where the greeting is, “if he wanted to he would”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 10:47 PM
18

Either he’s a fool or he’s trying to play you for one by manipulating you into a game of chase that you’ll never win. My ex played this one with me— constantly accusing me of lying, or cheating and then grinding me down until he found some small detail I’d left out of my story which he could use to “prove” his suspicions correct. Eventually I was so exhausted by the mind games that I started to wonder myself if I was just an inherently untrustworthy person? Eventually the scales fell from my eye…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 10:43 PM
2

Yeah, like you said, she’s talking about a very specific phenomenon, wherein mothers emotionally manipulate their sons into an unhealthy parental relationship, for their own benefit. No, of course not every doting mother is guilty of this, and not every man child is the fault of his mother, but this isn’t a phenomenon that can be ignored. Luckily pickmes don’t hurt anyone but themselves, but pickmommies definitely do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 09:24 PM
19

Right, if you want to be depressed for a while just read up on Aileen Wuornos— one of the very few documented female “serial killers.” She grew up with abusive parents who dumped her with an even more abusive grandfather who raped and pimped her at at very young age. Not surprisingly, she ran away and resorted to sex work to earn a living, but remained an incredibly troubled woman. She claimed until the very end that all of the men she killed were in self defense, but Texas convicted her of murd…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 09:18 PM
17

Side note: I can’t stand Bill Burr, and his show ‘F is for Family’ is like if Homer Simpson was actually a selfish, lazy, misogynistic, asshole, and all the writers were too. So no surprise it was one of my ex’s favorite shows..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 07:25 PM
4

While I completely agree that deadbeat and abusive dads are the cause of a lot of this trauma, the sad truth is that some women truly do just crave power and attention above all, and emotionally manipulating a male child is an easy way to get that. I’ve seen it happen in households where the father was a great provider and never absent. Sadly not all women are feminists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 07:16 PM
6

I agree with everything she’s saying— and while I completely understand people’s irritation at women being blamed for yet another symptom of the patriarchy, the truth is that many women are complicit, and enthusiastically so. I know it’s a bit hard to hear, but some people really don’t mind grinding their “group” into the dust so long as they get to call themselves “one of the good ones.” and as a WOC see it with gender as much as race. Many women see their sons as not only a source of unwaverin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 07:11 PM
155

I watched a documentary about divorce once and every single counselor, psychiatrist, and lawyer agreed that the absolute nail in the coffin for any marriage was contempt, which is a complete loss of respect, and usually irreversible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 05:56 PM
22

Lmao, I mean I’ve seen Brazilian women, and I can’t imagine that’s an insult
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:48 PM
9

The thing is, those actions have occurred in real life, and are possible in real life— so no, it’s not “just a cartoon.” If I created a cartoon of myself viciously murdering my neighbor’s family, I’m pretty sure the judge would never buy the “it’s just a cartoon” defense. If we lived in a world where pedophiles and murderers didn’t exist then sure.. but we do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 03:49 PM
28

All of your points are good, and so I’d like to add some extra background. The reason that porn is a gateway to pedophillia isn’t only because it’s the logical conclusion to escalating perversion, but also because the porn industry (as we’ve seen with PornHub) relies heavily on victims of rape and trafficking— and sadly, more often than not these victims are vulnerable people, such as children from abusive/neglectful/impoverished households. They’re easy pickings so to speak, and make no mistake…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 03:44 PM
19

What is a “Brazilian” body type?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:41 PM
5

They hate being reminded of their inadequacies, don’t they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 12:20 AM
1

Lol it really is just one of those movies you put on while you’re making dinner and downing a few mugs of eggnog
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:27 PM
17

I’ve definitely dated my share of losers in the past, but what the fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 02:43 PM
98

Sadly they’re already normalized..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 02:39 PM
11

Yes, exactly this— if they truly were secure in their relationship, they wouldn’t feel the need to comment on other women’s boundaries. You’re fine with your bf liking his roommate’s gf’s bikini pics? Okay, cool. Not sure what that has to do with anyone else though? 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 01:46 PM
17

Aw shucks, I’m glad this is resonating with everyone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:54 PM
11

They didn’t like it when you handed her change back to her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:34 PM
53

If a guy values my “femininity” more than my degrees, he’s too dumb to waste my time on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 02:20 AM
167

Mom: “go make your father feel like he’s contributing to your life so he’ll continue to contribute o your life”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 02:06 AM
17

Reminds me of the “magical negro” trope in movies where a kindly, old, and possibly magical, black person serves as a spiritual guide for the white protagonist. This serves not only to mark the protagonist as a good person for listening to someone the rest of society might ignore, but also righteous, as they’ve been “chosen.” Books also have a lot of “wise old women” who are basically there to be 2-dimensional markers of “goodness” for whatever moral dilemma the author wants to hand-wave over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 10:01 PM
9

Haha go ahead!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 08:28 PM
8

I think this actually is what she was trying to say. I have a NVM Russian ex, and on one hand he was insane possessive, jealous and controlling , but on the other hand was very upfront about his interest and took me on proper dates and all. Granted, that is not a high bar— but she still has a point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 08:10 PM
20

Same in India. I actually smile a lot when I’m around friends but in public and professionally I’m completely straight-faced. It really confuses people I think..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 08:04 PM
8

Like a reverse beauty and the beast situation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 08:02 PM
3

Some waste of breath: you should give me a chance Me: why? Him: because I’m a nice guy? Me: and? Him: you’d like me if you gave me a chance Me: that’s what they all say 💅🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 07:58 PM
12

My peace of mind and well-being is worth the entirety of the male species. Just because I’m hungry doesn’t mean I’ll eat shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 07:32 PM
41

The only times women have tried to “pull me aside” and explain the fundamental inequities between men and women, they’ve framed the “solution” in such a way that it sounds like subservience. For example; “men are opportunistic rapists, therefore you should dress and act like a nun, and we’ll still blame you if one of them attacks you” .... or how about we take women seriously when they point out a fucking rapist instead? How about that asshole gets ostracized from society instead? How about we p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 07:29 PM
49

Also, men that jump straight to sexual innuendo sound desperate af. No I really don’t want to fuck the guy that 20 women before me rejected lol, go waste someone else’s time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 05:19 PM
28

They want a smart girl because they want someone who is smart enough to be choosy, but obviously not smart enough to not choose them. Cant be both buddy 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 05:17 PM
170

Men: *enjoy painless, pleasurable, low-effort orgasms, without the possibly of becoming pregnant, or being socially ostracized, and almost no chance of being murdered, beaten, or emotionally scarred, and highly reduced chance of catching an STI leading to a life-threatening or fertility-threatening condition* Also men: why won’t women fuck me after I buy myself a plate of spaghetti in their presence?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:30 PM
2

Well if you’re a fan of Sherlock then I highly recommend the series by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, they’re all pretty short and very fun to read. I haven’t personally read the Patrick Melrose books, but from what I’ve heard they’re even better than the show. If you’re a fan of a specific genre, I could suggest more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 11:19 AM
1

Haha definitely don’t watch it before exams XD But it’s on prime video whenever you do get around to it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:16 AM
10

Telling men to stop acting hysterical is my kink
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:57 PM
1

Oh he’s fantastic! If you liked Sherlock I highly recommend Patrick Melrose, it’s a limited series based on a novel about a man struggling with childhood trauma and addiction. He really knocks it out of the field 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 08:34 PM
7

He really was such a ridiculous little man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 12:57 PM
7

I’m 99% sure I’ll never meet Benedict Cumberbatch, so I’m probably safe haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 12:57 PM
10

I only allow myself to crush on men who are unattainable, that way there’s no possibility of disappointment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:46 AM
14

That sounds familiar sadly.. my ex would literally talk non-stop for hours and then get butthurt if I got up to use the bathroom and say that I “didn’t find him interesting anymore”— which was true, but at that point I’d learned that if I kept him talking long enough he might not fly into a rage and ruin my day. Stopped working there at the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:41 AM
24

It’s true, my ex thought he was the smartest guy in the room despite never having read a book for fun in his life. I’m fairly certain he was partially illiterate because he kept making up words in lieu of actual existing words, then would treat me like the dumb one for pointing them out. His theories on life and philosophy were all based off of mind-numbing Hollywood movies and it was obvious.. I feel like I actually got dumber while I was with him despite finishing my doctorate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:38 AM
29

Yes ma’am o7
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:35 PM
449

This has to be one of the best modded subs on this site. I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve even seen a marginally troublesome comment on here. I can’t imagine the filth they have to read— so kudos!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:35 PM
7

This is the type of “dominance” displays that LVM attempt. They know it’s disrespectful, and it’s a type of “light violation” that they can get away with because they can play it off as “just a joke”. Even LVM don’t do this to people they respect or fear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:13 PM
5

If no make peepee hard, then y u do it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:09 PM
9

He might be referencing the book “The Good Earth” in which the main character does exactly that. I’m pretty sure Chinese women don’t have childbirth on easy mode haha. But knees to chest is a common birthing position which is used even while lying in a hospital bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:04 PM
5

Uhh.. guess they had their priorities straight /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:27 AM
19

I was reading this post about Shirley Temple earlier, and someone posted a video about how she was exploited by her directors for pedophilic audiences... it was disgusting, and eye-opening. Men really have always been predators. Edit: here’s the video if anyone’s interested
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:18 AM
12

Yellow is OP responding to some guy who says that’s his new kink (his date choking to death)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 11:25 AM
5

“Sharing”?... gross. He literally thought of you as an object.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 01:10 AM
16

Or even just wildflowers tbh.. at least that wouldn’t be destroying someone’s hard work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 12:33 AM
6

Specifically his own brother?? That’s creepy af.. my ex would purposely start making out with me when he knew his brother was around or about to talk in, even though I told him I’m uncomfortable with pda. Later he told me his brother had a crush on me.. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 12:23 AM
48

You’re 100% correct. Here’s one of the comments “she” replied to https://imgur.com/a/3sOJjJM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 11:18 PM
12

Frosty the fuccboi wanted to be exclusive when I told him I wanted to keep it casual— then he blocked me for 8hrs on a Friday night and insisted his phone wasn’t charged lol 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 09:35 PM
8

I would have just stared at him, looked back at my coworker and just burst out laughing. That kind of stupidity doesn’t even warrant a response. The fact that he doesn’t even have the slightest clue how human reproduction works, but is still willing to chide you about it really illustrates his character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 09:21 PM
8

Honestly could’ve started and ended with just that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 03:04 AM
18

I’ve seen too many cases of crazy cop ex’s who managed to convince the entire PD to stalk and harass the woman until she left town. I wouldn’t touch one with a yardstick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 03:02 AM
11

Paging Dr. Pickme. Dr. Pickme to the bedroom code blueballs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:58 AM
68

My guy “friend” of many years started making weird jokes about how he’s so glad he doesn’t have to ever take another exam (I’m doing my postgrad) and don’t I ever feel embarrassed about having to still sit exams at my age and not make 6 figures like him etc. At first I played along because I thought they were just tone-deaf jokes, but then I pushed back and started saying that I enjoy academia and I’m happy to be in a career where I’ll be mentally stimulated for the rest of my life— a week later…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:38 AM
7

Plus she’s underweight because he’s literally starving her!? The abuse is already physical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:27 AM
4

Also those are the posts that get the most attention. If it were a post about “my bf sometimes forgets to take out the trash Monday nights because he gets home late from work” no one would bother to upvote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:25 AM
5

This is the true reason he “confessed” OP— he sees you’re on the market and thinks he’ll throw his hat in the ring because why not? If anyone deserves to waste your time for the next 3-5 months, it’s him! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 12:39 AM
15

She should at least be trying!? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 12:24 AM
8

That’s honestly 80% of the work right there. Coming up with something that works with everyone’s dietary restrictions and preferences and is nutritious but still tasty. Then going through the options and remembering what you have at home, how much you have left, how long it’ll keep, if you can/should substitute things, getting the best price, etc. That’s why meal kit services are so popular— they do all of that for you.. for a price.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 04:56 PM
7

Some of my favorite rap/ hip-hop songs: STREET LIVIN’— Black EyedPeas Bad Bitch — Lupe Fiasco Po’ Folks — Nappy Roots
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:19 AM
166

Because they’ve found new victims who haven’t realized who they’re dating yet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:35 AM
40

Bet she plans the meals and does the shopping too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:29 AM
23

Looks like it’s amitheasshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:27 AM
-1

And I wasn’t disagreeing that the way he went about it was wrong, just pointing out that there are many reasons (pharmaceutical side effects being only one) why it would be necessary to double-check for safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:31 PM
2

Well I’m saying that I’ve never met a doctor who would be even vaguely uncomfortable by those answers, more likely they’d find it funny. They’ve had their hands inside the vaginas of elderly corpses, so saying something mildly non-PC wouldn’t even register lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 06:10 PM
2

Right, and of course they should be mindful of your feelings when they ask the question, but some questions simply are uncomfortable by their very nature, and it would be so much worse if they decided to spare your feelings and potentially risk missing a life-threatening illness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 06:07 PM
1

That’s very true, in your case it was definitely rude of him to go about it the way he did, however I will point out that no single method of contraception is 100% effective, and It’s still possible to ovulate without obvious signs of menstruation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 06:03 PM
1

This is exactly the answer. While of course doctors have to be empathetic and validating, their main concern is your health and not your feelings. Many women/girls either don’t feel comfortable being truthful about their sexual activity, or simply don’t have enough sexual education to answer the question accurately without some prodding. Some women might not consider oral or anal sex “sexually active” or they might not consider a one-night stand two weeks ago “sexually active,” etc. While it may…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:55 PM
3

It would be malpractice not to ask a young woman if she’s sexually active. As the other user pointed out, not only does it open up and narrow the list of differentials, but it also restricts the medications that can safely be administered and the imaging tests which can be conducted. So yes, even though it’s an uncomfortable line of questioning, it’s medically relevant, and your answer from two months ago will not necessarily hold true today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:43 PM
1

Lol, it would take a lot more than that to make a doctor uncomfortable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:40 PM
2

Not trying to defend his actions/ words because I wasn’t there— but I’ve worked in the medical field for over a decade now, and it’s actually standard procedure to do a urine pregnancy test in women of reproductive age for any type of visit because many drugs and tests can cause fetal defects or miscarriages if given to pregnant women. Also, unfortunately not every women feels comfortable being honest about their sexual activity (even to themselves).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:21 PM
2

Lol even better XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 03:49 PM
9

Coming on too strong? lol, as if anyone wants to have children with him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 12:53 PM
9

Lmao, guess he couldn’t handle the heat 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 03:52 AM
10

Yeah that’s how I feel too. It’s very reminiscent of running to the teachers on the sidelines when someone trips you during recess; it feels like a loss. He wanna play dirty? I’m gonna win anyway and humiliate him to boot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 03:51 AM
111

I literally just keep talking. I don’t care how awkward it gets I’m fucking talking til I die or he shuts up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 11:57 PM
2

Lmao 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 11:55 PM
11

bunch of screenshots from the thread— they’re not in any kind of order (sorry)] https://imgur.com/a/hHuxyCM https://imgur.com/a/ZwMhszM https://i.imgur.com/McU8gGS.jpg https://imgur.com/a/v0LWoHM https://imgur.com/a/zpBXVEr https://imgur.com/a/j2AV8Wc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 02:56 PM
20

You should check out the thread, it’s actually wild
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 02:46 PM
19

So true.. I think they’re all just terrified of growing old (you know, the thing they accuse us of all the time). My ex refused to tell me when his birthday was, then “let it slip” once when we were both drunk and told me he hated it and didn’t want it acknowledged, and THEN got passive aggressively angry when I didn’t... 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:46 AM
9

Miserable people stay miserable because they don’t have the self awareness to improve. You’re lucky to be rid of all of that dead weight just in time for the holidays!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:43 AM
23

Honestly it’s impossible to speculate, and in the end it’s irrelevant. He lied to you, allowed his “friend” to publicly humiliate you, and then ghosted you. If he wasn’t cheating, then he’s still a gigantic shit stain and you’ve just been handed a blessing (even though I’m sure it doesn’t feel like it).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:19 PM
63

Goddamnit I am so angry for you! She’ll get what’s coming to her, as all pickmes eventually do, and he’ll come crawling back as soon as he realizes cheating isnt as fun when you’re not cheating anymore.. stay focused on your goals but accept the pain for what it is. You’re going through it, but you’ll come out stronger once it’s over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 09:55 PM
20

I’m a huge fan of Scrubs, but I always hated JD. I know he was supposed to be a little irritating but generally a good guy, but he always came across as just arrogant with a veneer of goofiness. I feel bad for this girl but I’m sure she’ll grow out of it in a couple of years and cringe at this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:55 PM
28

😶😶😶😶 bet he felt like a really big man beating the shit out of a child with a bowl cut
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:50 PM
24

Wtf a 12 yr old?? Dude sounds deranged
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:46 PM
14

Lmao, it’s like they all take the same “Emotional Manipulation 101” course.. I dated a guy 12 years my senior when I was fresh out of uni, and he would use the “you’re so mature for your age” line all the time. Which wasn’t true.. he was just immature for his age
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:36 PM
13

What’s this now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:32 PM
4

Wtf.. was the guy threatening him? Was he armed? If so then I kind of understand wanting to protect himself, but otherwise he should be charged. It’s not okay to threaten murder unless your life is in danger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 04:50 PM
8

..shot someone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 02:18 PM
3

A man going into hysterics because he can’t find the slotted spoon is whatever the opposite of a kink is for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:29 PM
15

It is.. she’s still stuck with him in a way since they’ve got kids, but apparently he doesn’t contact them more than once or twice a year, and usually it’s on birthdays to ask for more money :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 04:51 PM
24

My friend’s mom got an arranged marriage in India when she was still pretty young. They barely vetted the guy because her brother and his new wife just wanted her out of the house. Turns out he was an abusive gambler and threw them into a massive hole of debt. Luckily she had some personal savings as a physician and used that to pay off his debt if he agreed to a divorce, which he did. She’s the head of her department now and they’ve got an amazing (almost) beachfront property
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 04:20 PM
34

I agree completely; I lived in a very culturally diverse neighborhood growing up and was exposed to a lot of different religions when I was pretty young, that alone helped me completely turn away from the idea. Nearly every religion in the world has stories about women being saintly by shutting their mouths and suffering in silence for years and years because they’re just too pure and perfect to tell anyone to fuck off. Somehow it’s always a virtue for women to be servants of their fathers, brot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 04:13 PM
5

Could it be possible that it was asking about sexual side effects? I know those are the most common reason people stop taking their antidepressants
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 11:15 AM
14

That’s exactly how it feels.. they hijack the insanity of love and twist it into something vile and selfish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 03:03 AM
5

What’s the sex question?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 02:53 AM
3

Absolutely this played a part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:34 PM
7

Yeah, HVMs don’t define their masculinity based on what their gf does it doesn’t do for them. Guys like that are NVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:33 PM
11

Holy shit.. you were literally a meal ticket for him. What a complete loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 12:39 PM
2

Glad I could help! I’ve been there myself..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 12:37 PM
64

He should absolutely want to spoil you— but if you choose to be kind for whatever reason, that shouldn’t make his dick turn inside out. Clearly men like that just see their gf’s as extensions of their ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 12:47 AM
92

Yup.. poor girl learned the hard way, they don’t see us as equals, and if you insist on acting like one it makes them feel bad about their penis :c
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 12:44 AM
83

Right? I’d rather be single every day if the week than stuck in a shitty relationship looking after kids and a manchild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 11:07 PM
50

Ah yes.. the unprecedented privilege of having control over my own finances, relationships, and body. Those poor men are missing out /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 03:58 PM
21

At least escorts are allowed to separate their personal lives from their sex work.. only fans promotes the “girlfriend experience” as part of the package, so these women are forced to play the part of “hot girl who actually responds positively to your creepy DMs and eggplant emoji comments”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 01:58 PM
26

Because he doesn’t have anything to offer the older ones. Plenty of young women would date just for the clout and he knows it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 01:44 PM
15

Hopefully she can get the support and resources she needs to leave him once she’s there. In fact I wouldn’t be surprised if that was part of her decision.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 01:38 PM
32

I think that’s a big part of why you should never dare an insecure man. They view you as a status symbol, and since they know they’re garbage, they think less of you for falling for their bs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 01:19 PM
3

Yup, I wasn’t disagreeing with you, just pointing out the other side of the issue
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 01:35 AM
8

I understood what you meant, and I agree that there’s probably an element of predation from both brothers against these sisters, but my point was that the OP would really have to be extremely callous in regards to her sister’s mental health and safety in order for her to get involved with her ex-stalkers brother in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 01:30 AM
13

This makes a lot of sense.. but honestly it goes both ways. If someone close to my sister’s abusive ex started perusing me, I’d be running for the hills! How she could even entertain the idea of getting close to someone like that makes me wonder if this story is even real, or if she just straight up hates her sister bcs wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 11:41 PM
24

My ex thought he was the smartest person in the room, no matter which room, and it killed him that I knew more than him about pretty much everything aside from his job— especially politics. He would go on unhinged rants about female politicians, and when I would ask leading questions and introduce facts that he wasn’t aware of he’d just double down and tell me I was taking it “too seriously” lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 08:08 PM
9

Yeah this is big overcompensation energy. Whenever I see posts like this on my ‘friends’ pages, all I can think is “oh shit, bet there’s some juicy drama going down.” Like I can understand a post on Valentine’s Day, or mother’s/father’s day or birthdays etc, but just out of the blue “CHECK OUT HOW HAPPY AND STABLE MY RELATIONSHIP IS GUYS!!!” just really screams desperation and denial
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 06:42 PM
11

Damn.. sounds like he feels the same way about her that you do 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 06:40 PM
38

Provide for her sister *without telling anyone or expecting a trophy for it, because he’s just a decent human being who cares about people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 05:36 PM
552

I remember being a really awkward teenager, and really insecure about my looks for a lot of complicated reasons. One day I got a piece of advice from an older lady who I volunteered with sometimes, which changed my perspective completely. She was a really classy woman, and men would constantly flirt with her, but she definitely didn’t fit the “traditionally beautiful” archetype. She told me that no one is a “visual creature,” we’re all mental creatures, and our interpretation of what we see is c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 02:15 PM
9

As an English speaker, I think this guy might actually just be illiterate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 12:48 PM
28

Translation: “none of them would sleep with me :c “
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 08:13 PM
50

you’ve inspired me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 07:22 PM
91

Lmao, okay allow me to translate: I’m broke as a joke I know how to use the thesaurus on my phone, and I’ve found a way to advertise my pornsickness while making it sound exciting! (If you manage to achieve orgasm in my bed, I promise it’ll have been entirely your own fault) I’m neither emotionally nor mentally stable, so if you find that appealing, step right up! I probably use the word “libc*ck” unironically I definitely use the word “libc*ck” unironically I’ve learned that most women who peru…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 07:15 PM
77

More likely he’s pornsick and got a death grip dick, and is so desensitized that he can’t feel anything unless his penis is in a vice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 10:59 PM
7

He was super mean to Cordelia.. but she was pretty shitty to him too tbh. I see where you’re coming from though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:18 PM
4

The first step is to accept that you made the decision you felt was right for you at the time. You might have known better, but you were overwhelmed by sentiment and fear which kept you from making a healthy choice. You aren’t the same person who fell for that man, but you wouldn’t be where you are today if it weren’t for her, so forgive her, and console her. She was lost and hurt, looking for love in all of the wrong places. You’re the shoulder she needed at the time, and you’ll never make that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 02:46 PM
3

Aw.. what’s wrong with Xander?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 11:39 AM
9

Ugh..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:21 AM
6

Yeah, that’s when you excuse yourself to use the bathroom, then slip into a different theater and enjoy your night
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:14 AM
2

I see where you’re coming from, because I really hate change, and I do anything in my power to rid myself of it. However, it sounds like she has use for it so in this case he’s probably just being thoughtful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:12 AM
39

Women and girls are shamed into silence everywhere, but in India it’s a whole different level. Women are killed for ‘bringing shame’ to their families. So a false rape allegation from an Indian girl? Nah. But tbh this is probably 100% fake, and whichever creepy incel made this was probably just rejected by this poor girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 12:45 AM
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But as an important caveat, this is what vetting is for— plus you shouldn’t be alone with the guy after the first or even second date. I don’t let guys drive me anywhere, and I sure as hell won’t meet anywhere private.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:37 AM
61

I had a boss who is easily a decade older than me ask for my age. Once I told him, he acted surprised and said, “you hide it well.” dafuq? Hide what homie? I’m shouting it from the rooftops that I’m not a naive little girl you can manipulate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 02:28 PM
21

The problem with Reddit advice forums is that the person asking is almost certainly only asking in order to get validation for a decision they’ve already decided to make. Commenters get (rightfully) irritated at the OP for defending a bad decision, but don’t realize that their irritation is causing the OP to get defensive in the first place. I’m sure we’ve all been there, whether we can admit it or not, where we’ve defended a bad relationship because an attack on them feels like an attack on our…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 02:21 PM
11

(To them) It sounds better than “Ahhhh— ya caught me! ... so yeah, interested?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 02:01 PM
4

Yes. Exactly this. If your “activism” doesn’t include raising up your mothers, sisters, and female friends, then it’s just subjugation envy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:56 PM
14

Unfortunately they don’t actually learn any empathy from their experiences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 07:58 PM
32

Yeah, then they use that as an excuse to turn around and treat WOC like shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 07:54 PM
8

Yup, exactly right. We’ve all a seen it, and it’s not just sad but gross that these women feel that their only emotional support is their male children, which (regardless of gender) is not healthy for the emotional development of the child. Boys then grow up seeing their mothers as weak, downtrodden, victims, which they further project onto women who they haven’t already dumped into the “wh*re” category. It creates an unhealthy partnership between the mother and son which should ideally be betwe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 11:39 PM
13

Pfft, I guarantee most of the women on there agree, and most of the men are butthurt about it because they get rejected all the time lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 11:34 PM
3

He claims he didn’t bother preheating lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 05:10 PM
33

Please tell me where you find these dudes proud of France 🇫🇷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 05:03 PM
23

Tbf we don’t really know anything about either of them. There could be any reason of number why he was hesitating, and if I were her I’d be mad as hell at that friend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 04:28 PM
51

The issue is systemic and cyclical, as I see it. In an extremely patriarchal culture like ours, women’s only power comes through her relationships with her male family members; and of those, her sons are most likely to have heavy attachments to her (since women do 100% of the childcare). This of course leads to the woman “babying” her sons far past the appropriate age and refusing to set up any healthy boundaries, so the sons become completely emotionally (and otherwise) dependent on their mothe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:07 PM
88

Everything I’ve been saying about desi men for decades. Finally told my (very conservative) mum that I’ll never marry one, and she didn’t so much as bat an eye lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 12:58 PM
8

At my secular school they just showed us 11 year olds a regular video of a woman undergoing labor, and the baby crowning and all. We. were. shook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 12:41 PM
23

If a single penis can spiritually soil me forever, then why are we even letting the penis-havers into the church?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 12:39 PM
1

Well, I understand that, but it just isn’t a logical interpretation of the concept anyway. If my language is French and yours is German, I can’t then continue speaking to you in French and expect you to just deal with it (if I care about you understanding me that is).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 11:43 AM
212

People seem to misunderstand the purpose and significance of “love languages.” It’s not meant to be an excuse to behave selfishly and carelessly— it’s meant to be a way to remain mindful about what your loved one(s) need in order to feel loved. My love language may not be words of affirmation, but if that’s what my partner needs to feel loved then by golly, that’s what I’m doing. It’s not asking for much; it’s literally just being considerate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 01:54 PM
65

Yeah, divorce is a beautiful concept. We’re lucky go live in a society where it’s not only legal, but common. If someone is abusive towards you, or even just incompatible with your lifestyle, you absolutely shouldn’t be forced to spend the rest of your life with them! especially not for the children!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 01:51 PM
11

“Frau” is the German word for lady, but in this context it’s short for “house frau” which is a term that describes a (dumpy) house wife. So yeah.. not good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 02:39 AM
51

Where’s the lie 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 02:29 AM
49

Wow, congratulations on being such an amazing mother!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 02:08 AM
2

Well he cheated on me to be with her so she got her prize, and probably isn’t gonna let it go any time soon 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 06:54 PM
12

Yup. He made it his mission in life to prove he was better than me for some reason, and at first I thought he was like that with everyone, but no, the hate was specifically reserved for the women in his life even though it was only the men that had actually ever hurt him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:27 PM
20

Wow. RIP your spare ribs, but what an idiot.. this sounds like some shit my BPD ex would pull. I used bake a lot (for fun— not for him lol) and he would of course decide to argue with me about shit he didn’t understand whenever the mood struck him. One time he was insisting that we could change the ratio of flour in a recipe without changing the consistency of the resulting pastry, and I tried to explain why that was a ridiculous idea. He got angry and rhetorically asked why I thought I knew mor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:17 PM
4

Looll! I’m pretty sure this guy would too, but his wife is the type of woman to eat him alive for breathing the wrong way 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 11:19 AM
16

All of my LVM ex’s have done this... the only one that hasn’t is married lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:43 AM
75

Yeah.. the only way this is possible is if he tried to “hurry it up” by setting it to a higher temperature than it called for.. if you’re not an experienced cook, why improvise? The goddamn audacity smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:24 AM
2

Which set is that from? I love him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 08:27 PM
8

He’s always treated women like shit in his sketches, but it was “forgiven” because he was playing shitty misogynistic characters.. in the same set he talked about how marriage is a trap and he doesn’t like his wife “just a joke guys lol” and that she was fine with jokes at her expense because she get to spend his money.. contrast him with someone like John Mulaney and it becomes clear pretty quickly that you don’t have to be a misogynistic asshole to get laughs..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 07:37 PM
9

I recently saw a Chapelle stand up, when he referred to Ray Rice beating his wife in an elevator as “what he went through.” I was so disgusted.. I just can’t understand why men find our pain so hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 07:07 PM
71

He clearly has no respect for her, but it seems like she’s doing all of the childcare and honestly all of the adult care as well probably... no wonder he doesn’t want to leave her despite his lack of feelings towards her; she’s his golden goose
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 01:13 PM
18

I can see how it might read that way at first glance, but the truth is that reading between the lines gives the opposite meaning. “Doesn’t tolerate” means that he knows he dumps “BS” on her, but and she fight back just enough to make him feel al though she’s “strong” enough to put up with him, therefore justifying his childishness. A HVM would recognize his own BS before dumping it (or attempting to) on his partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 10:33 PM
15

Did he say... FIVE years old?? 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 09:52 PM
3

Forreal.. what a voice 😧
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 09:49 PM
25

Yup. I asked my ex to drive me to get my car serviced because I’d lost my wallet along with my license, and he agreed. On the way back he took both hands off of the steering wheel while we were going 70mph on the highway. I started freaking out and begging him to put his hands back on the wheel but he just chucked like my panic was amusing to him. Then I begged him to pull over when he refused, and finally he did. I asked him if he was crazy and what the hell he was thinking, and his response? “…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 09:06 PM
2

Not to get pedantic, but “most” means more than half, which is what this indicates, while “majority” means the largest subgroup, which would also apply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:08 PM
13

According to this meta-analysis the global average prevalence is under 50%, but it varies drastically depending on the country, which suggests it has something to do with external environmental factors, so it’s possible that in some places/times it is more common than others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:59 PM
18

The amount of “never trust a fart” comments in the main subs had me so fking confused when I first joined.. then I realized that these dudes are out here eating unseasoned ground beef for breakfast lunch and dinner without a whiff of fiber, so I guess I shouldn’t be surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:56 PM
81

Most women don’t experience PMS or PMDS, but for some reason it’s become a meme. Most women do experience cramps and menstrual symptoms, but that’s not the same thing. Your body is producing prostaglandins and bradykinins (inflammatory signals) which cause you to feel sick and uncomfortable during menses; but being sick is not an emotional imbalance, it’s actually a very appropriate emotional response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:46 PM
23

Having kids is already a lifelong commitment to the other parent.. it makes no sense to me either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:53 PM
14

Yeah.. I hate this but it’s where we are now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 10:51 PM
13

When my relationship with my ex first started to get serious, we were half-jokingly discussing our first impressions of each other. He told me that he initially thought I was “full of myself,” and when I asked why, his explanation was that “ [I] always looked like someone was watching [me].” That struck me as a really strange comment because how the hell would he know unless he was watching me? 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 10:14 PM
1

I guess I see it differently. While men are the ones who benefit from the patriarchy, I disagree that they’re the oppressors— thats misogynists. I’ve had just as many misogynistic women telling me what I can and can’t do or what I deserve based on my gender as men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 04:02 PM
2

You’re right, that’s a huge issue to consider: If men can be feminists then why can’t feminist organizations be led by men? Personally I would allow male leadership to max out at the percentage of female leadership in the country in question, which would not only reflect our values of gender equality, but also the reality we live in. Obviously that’s just a thought, but you’ve made a good point, Thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 03:33 PM
3

I think this is just a semantic issue then, because by most definitions, a feminist ally is also a feminist regardless of gender. In fact, I would say that any real possibility of cultural change towards feminist ideals is impossible without feminist men/boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 01:48 PM
8

Why can’t men be feminists?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 03:33 AM
17

Haha, yup. It’s like the slightly more mature version of “catching cooties”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 12:05 PM
2

Yes! Thank you. It’s really easy to be reductive about fairy tales because they’re widely known, and tend to follow pretty traditional storylines so they make easy targets, but that misses the entire point of the stories themselves. It’s not about a girl giving everything up to be with a man; it’s about a girl giving everything up for the chance to live the life she’s always dreamed about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 01:29 AM
7

This is so true.. I stayed with exs for way longer that I should have because I trusted my friends judgement about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 08:38 PM
16

If you’re a homemaker you should be compensated as one. Are you his personal chef? His housekeeper? His secretary? His event coordinator? His nanny? All of these are separate professions with monetary value. Get what’s yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:04 PM
18

Yeah, as much as I love the energy of this post,(and believe that in some scenarios the woman just has to put her foot down and stop being so “nice”) the sad reality is that some men will absolutely never step up to the plate when it comes to childcare— and possibly worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:00 PM
26

It’s not feminism on reddit because almost every feminist/female oritented sub is modded by men.. :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 01:49 PM
9

You bring up a great point— I hadn’t even thought to look into “her” post history.. her two “feminist” posts are about Father’s Day and RBG? You know what that tells me? Pandering and pandering. Don’t get me wrong— I love RBG, but I find it ironic that this person would be singing the praises of someone they clearly know nothing about. RBG was famous for passing groundbreaking pro-feminist legislation under the guise of “men’s rights” by using cases in which a few men were being discriminated ag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 01:29 PM
37

Yeah this is definitely an incel fantasy of some sort. There absolutely zero chance this guy has got multiple women interested in him lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:59 PM
51

Because they heard we like romantic gestures, which are great as part of an already healthy relationship, but pretty meaningless otherwise. Also, they want to skip all of the hard work and go straight for the emotionally manipulative tactics, because if she hadn’t been married, a lot of women in her position might have caved if only because of the social pressure. I had an ex who was emotionally manipulative and controlling, but when he started to veer into abuse territory I broke it off. Of cou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:40 PM
11

Yes to all of this. I’m a pretty opinionated person, and I never really fit into the passive role of waiting to be chased. Then I realized that every guy I “chased” (read: actively showed an interest in) cheated on me, then begged me to come back when I left, and then cheated on me again. Each time their excuse was that I’m a super scary 120 lb girl who they didn’t want to risk angering. So.. yeah. Men will always want to have their cake and eat it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 04:18 AM
6

Chances are, he was emotionally abusive long before the affair, and the kids internalized that dynamic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 04:05 AM
6

If lawyers weren’t already off my list, they would be after this..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:59 AM
16

That’s really the crux of the issue with a lot of them; they’re focused on “catching” or manipulating a woman into being with them, when really what they should be doing is figuring out how to have a relationship with one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:32 AM
11

That’s the right way to go about it. I used to have a friend who would send long paragraphs like this to guys she’d been dating for a couple of weeks, and then wondering why they all ghosted shortly after. She insisted that she had a right to express her feelings and she shouldn’t be punished for that. I tried to explain that no amount of clear and honest communication is going to convince someone to care if they don’t care to begin with.. It’s not like these guys don’t realize you’re upset, it’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:16 AM
25

Because it makes them feel better to assume we’re bitter and undesirable.. and definitely not the type of women that reject them over and over again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:59 AM
35

When you’re younger, and romantic relationships are still a novelty, there’s also a certain amount of status to be gained by being in one, regardless of what your true feelings for the other person might be. Not that I would know however, because I was apparently the rudest person of all time, according to my friends, for rejecting guys who were “so nice” for silly reasons like “not being interested”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:56 AM
22

That’s why you always match his energy. Never give more than you get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:38 AM
19

This warms my heart to hear, because I’ve always felt this way deep down, despite all of the crap society and culture keeps saying about how shitty it is to be a woman. Men will never know what it’s like to be the fairer sex, and I pity them. I sometimes daydream about being a man for a day or a month or a year, just so I can finally go about in the world without all of this fear and scrutiny, but at the end of the day I love being a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:15 AM
7

Could be, but in his case (raging narcissist) the bruised ego wouldn’t have been worth it— especially since I never asked him to try in the first place..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:04 AM
3

God I hope not, for your sake..😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 01:13 AM
45

Modern Republicans are all NVM, CMV
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 11:40 PM
97

I’m gonna go out on a limb and say she was totally on board when it was only the rights of minorities and “other” women being trampled. But the moment she’s in the line of fire there’s a problem..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 07:39 PM
48

Yeah.. “opposites” should be like, “he grew up rich and I grew up poor but we both believe that human beings have a fundamental right to life, liberty and the persuit of happiness”— not, “I believe I deserve rights and he doesn’t”...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 07:26 PM
110

Not trying to state the obvious here... but what honestly the fuck did she expect from a Trump supporter?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 07:23 PM
72

Ugh so stupid.. I used to tell my ex I didn’t like oral because the few times he did (insisted in fact), it was like being licked by a very uncoordinated dog.. like, what the fuck are you doing dude? Going to town on my labia majora while my clit goes completely ignored?? And I know damn well he knew where it was— they definitely teach you that shit in med school 🌚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 07:17 PM
17

This gave me flashbacks to my ex who used to call me an open book in a mocking way. I was always confused by this statement because most people said the exact opposite. Then I realized that he only believed that because he was profoundly stupid.. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 05:46 PM
2

I’ll check it out thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 05:31 PM
2

That line makes me want to read a book ☺️ I completely unapologetically love this movie 🧜🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 05:31 PM
27

Well there’s a greater chance of him being elected to the White House than him achieving even a two pack.. so yeah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 05:29 PM
201

*a virgin who fucks like a pornstar You absolutely know he’s the type of dumbfuck who complains about women “starfishing” while paying zero attention to what his partner wants in bed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 05:24 PM
52

Yeah, I’m a bit sad about everyone dumping on my homegirl.. “part of your world” got me through a lot of dark days growing up because I knew how it felt to be outside looking in, and that’s really what her story was about. Yeah, she’s a literal fish out of water, but she never backed down from getting what she wanted, and it was way more than a single dude, it was about expanding her horizons and discovering new and exciting frontiers.. and there’s nothing wrong with a little romance on the side…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 02:12 AM
15

Oh for sure.. he probably had to swallow a particularly bitter reality pill on one of his many dating apps and realized he’s got it way better than he could ever get again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 01:11 AM
14

NoooOoooooOoomg 😭 Our faith and loyalty is always rewarded by this bullshit.. every damn time a man has gone out of his way to tell me that he doesn’t find a woman attractive, he inevitably cheats with her smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 01:02 AM
15

I’ve now had TWO ex’s who went on multi-week vacations to LA and stopped responding to my calls/texts for several days at a time.. I swear I’m either cursed or just have a very very specific type 😭 If I so much as hear a man say the word “California” I’m blocking lmao 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 11:58 PM
20

Oh lord, you poor thing 😭 It’s okay we’ve all been there.. I think the best part of having this community is being able to forgive our past selves for that clownery. I see my past mistakes as painful but necessary lessons that I had to learn in order to be who I am today, and I’m sure that’s true for you too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 11:35 PM
38

Lmao, clown solidarity sis ✊🏽😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 07:17 PM
108

I legit had a friend who told me that her ‘bf’ hadn’t texted her back in days because he’d left his phone on the charger while on vacation.. and that friend was me 🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 06:02 PM
33

A 270+ in both steps? Lmao okay sure buddy 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 01:33 PM
334

Imagine a man being coerced into sex after major pelvic trauma; gritting his teeth and bearing it while his stitches ripped so that his gf could get herself off, then going about his life while also caring for a newborn child until he became dizzy from blood loss... yeah me neither.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 01:19 PM
7

Lmao wtf..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 11:47 PM
5

People are mad at the cost of the dress, but at the end of the day that was her dress to do with as she pleased. There’s people out there who would probably be appalled by the amount of fruits and veggies that go bad at the back of the average American’s fridge each month, but that’s still not their decision to make or judge. She did what she had to do to get through an emotionally trying time without hurting anyone, and I support that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 09:19 PM
18

The fact that she’s asking means that she already knows on some level, but has been gaslighted to the point of being unsure of herself. It’s a good first step id say
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 09:08 PM
73

Oh god, yes.. I have a ‘Romance’ kink, where I can only get off of a guy treats me with love and respect during sex after months of mutually evolving affections 🤪🤪🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 09:06 PM
3

Yeah more like 1.5K from what I’ve seen but I guess I assumed she was talking about a small apartment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 08:44 PM
14

There was no shock or confusion on her face, and definitely no nervousness. It’s 100% scripted, but even still, this is a shitty way to treat a romantic partner even if she did agree to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 04:42 AM
2

I know this is besides the point.. but the guy in the pic is cute as hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 02:53 AM
19

Yeah, this constant babying of men is just so exhausting.. and don’t they ever feel fucking ashamed or patronized to when they get effusive praise for completing basic life skills? It’s not like he built a patio or even changed a flat tire. It’s a single fking meal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 02:29 AM
21

As Maya Angelou said, “Each time a woman stands up for herself, without knowing it possibly, without claiming it, she stands up for all women.” We’re all in it together sisters ✊🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 01:56 AM
35

Idk doesn’t make sense to me, especially since the leaders of nearly every racial reform movement in this country have been black women. Men are happy to have you fight for their causes when it benefits them, but don’t you dare ask for respect outside of that framework...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 01:44 AM
31

I’ve seen it a lot, though I’m not black, I live in a predominantly black/latino community, and from my perspective it almost seems like a way to stay in control and on top even when the rest of society tells you you’re not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 01:31 AM
57

Oh it’s way older than that.. ever read Taming of the Shrew?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 01:26 AM
6

I’m gonna try to give her the benefit of the doubt and hope that she’s talking about a crush and not an actual romantic partner, bcs it does sound like some shit I would have said in high school lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 02:47 PM
3

Even for NYC, $3K for rent is pretty damn steep!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 01:32 PM
5

Actual literacy is barely part of the standard education.. I think you’re expecting a bit much lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 01:09 PM
38

Holy shit you’re right.. I never actively seek out men who are “just like one of the girls,” I’m totally fine with having separate interests from my SO, but men absolutely love that shit.. huh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 02:13 AM
7

In Why Does He Do That Bancroft outlines how abusive men use custody hearings to further traumatize and exert power over their family, by forcing them to do go through a painful process of determining who the “better” parent is, when most of the time they don’t actually even want the kids. One example that stuck out to me was a man who was complaining that his wife was fighting for full custody with only some visitation privileges, so she was clearly the selfish evil one because he only wanted 5…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:23 PM
9

“Traditional” Daisy Dukes? Lol They’re literally named after a character known for being sexually provocative Here’s the original daisy duke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:12 PM
8

There was a horrible thread the other day, with one commended posting about how he’d witnessed a man walk up to a car and murder his two young daughters because he’d lost custody. They really just see us as their property.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 12:12 PM
7

Not to mention that abusive men love to play the victim once their actual victim has been pushed to the point of retaliation. My abusive ex would threaten to hurt me, my family, my belongings (and actually did several times) but after a particularly bad argument he stormed out, claiming he was going to bash my windshield in. At this point I’d been making plans to leave him for a while, and having my car was pivotal to those plans, so I followed him out and confronted him in the stairwell and pus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 12:08 PM
12

I’m laughing because I’ve dated the same guy 😂 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 10:35 AM
5

This is hilarious to me because I literally have coworkers who were hired after February and have never seen me maskless, but try their hardest to offer me snacks and water lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 07:10 PM
26

I just mean you never really know when people are hiding the “truth” behind a joke, and laughing may not actually be an empathetic response. Ideally, her physician would have further explored the issue and asked her if she’s been having trouble in her romantic relationships, but not everyone feels comfortable doing that, so silence really is the second best option in that case. Particularly in this case where it’s a young woman and an older male.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 04:59 PM
52

He probably just didn’t know what to say. I don’t blame him for his lack of response tbh. If a male patient had made a similar joke I’d probably pretend I didn’t hear it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 04:49 PM
17

Definitely not. He’s very obviously in love with his wife and nothing if not loyal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 07:05 PM
7

As someone who’s main source of “erotic” (read: furtive fictional make out sessions) material was fanfics, I can 0% relate to this.. seriously don’t kids make up wild fantasies about their crush anymore? This girl looks like she’s in grade school 😰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 07:01 PM
10

I’m having flashbacks of a blurry pfp of me with a spoon in my mouth because for some reason i thought it was artistic 😂 kind of adorable now that I think of it.. definitely wasn’t out there announcing I like rape porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:57 PM
19

I think you’re right, it takes a massive shock to see the things we’ve been avoiding in our partners. My ex would come over and smoke by my window (disgusting habit, but he said he was trying to quit) and would “accidentally” damage my succulents when he’d go to flick his cigarette. He was always so apologetic that I just kept forgiving him, even though it killed me every time. Eventually he stopped apologizing and at times it seemed he was doing it on purpose when I wouldn’t remember to move it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:43 PM
168

Yeah, the way the cameraman reacts when she acts offended at someone else calling her a b*tch? Things would have gone south quickly if she’d shown any irritation from the start
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 08:50 PM
3

Oh lord..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 12:36 PM
7

this but unironically
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:32 PM
5

Easy fix would to just have him to his own laundry. You wanna ruin hundreds of dollars worth of your own clothing? Go for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:30 PM
11

The reason is because they can start to rust if exposed to the atmosphere long enough, but if you haven’t had any issues then you’re fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 06:41 AM
12

And that’s perfectly fine if that’s what you need to do to get by in your daily life, but there’s no need to bend over backwards to please men here, this is a community of women, for women :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 06:37 AM
18

It’s alright, I’m not offended— I just wanted to explain what happened. There’s already a million places on the internet where men and women defend men against even the whiff of a criticism, so it’s not necessary here. It goes without saying that “not all men ___” , otherwise we’re all mad for continuing to try dating them... which we might be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 06:09 AM
23

Everyone here knows that HVM exist. That’s literally the purpose of FDS. You don’t need to remind any of us about that. The exceptions prove the rule.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 05:55 AM
9

A billionaire who is also simply a sentient penis in a suit 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:00 AM
9

I mean, he’s cute, but sliding into DMs? Could never be me 💅🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:59 AM
53

“Oh your bf proposed with a sponge and a bottle of Dawn? Well mine proposed with a fry-up, doll, and lemme tell you I would have been just as happy with a slap to the face and a prenup— I’m not a gold digger like some people 😇”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:54 AM
1

I get it, a lot of my female friends are massive pickmes, but as long as they’re not toxic it’s okay to stay connected just to make sure you’ve got some outside to reach out to. I keep my friend circle very tight but I know who’s gonna be there and who has my best interests in mind. If you need someone to treachery out to don’t hesitate to PM me :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 12:04 AM
8

I commented on a post about BDSM in a feminist sub where some pro-BDSMr was asking why some feminists don’t agree with it. I basically said that the risk of abuse is much too high, and it attracts abusers to victims who like to reenact their trauma, and also made the uncontroversial (I thought) point that no sexual encounter should ever be rough enough to leave permanent damage, and that “rough sex” leading to death should always be seen as manslaughter. Somehow the dude got angry at that.. I me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:53 PM
1

Idk if I was strong or just lucky that he wasn’t nearly as smart as he thought he was.. also thank god for my family and friends who were there to help out when I was living out of my car. Maintain your platonic relationships diligently; they might save your life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:42 PM
3

Rats rough 🐶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:33 PM
3

You might be right about that. Maybe it’s part of the thrill of “taming” a monster— the idea that it might kill you, but the chance to prove that you’re special enough to master it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:38 PM
0

I’m guessing that the majority of them wouldn’t feel the same if he weren’t imprisoned (like having a scary dog on a chain) but I’m sure there’s a few extra delusional ones who believe they’re special enough to be the exception.. all you gotta do to see it is browse a couple pages worth of fanfics and you’ll see the self-insert Mary sue’s charming the villains into semi-normalcy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:20 PM
10

Same 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:02 PM
1

My friends and I used to share headphones on the bus and jam to it all the time, so that makes me feel loads better, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:32 PM
18

Aw no worries, I know it’s tricky getting the right tone across over text :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:31 PM
9

Yes, exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:30 PM
23

Yeah, she’s so much nicer to him :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:27 PM
4

Get it now? I got it before actually, but was linking additional info for the person who asked. Your condescension is not appreciated, thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:26 PM
20

They did Ugandan words too https://twitter.com/nyaikae/status/1314152429223653377?s=20
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:22 PM
4

It’s certainly been co-opted by the alt right now, but years ago when it was happening, it was in young, liberal spaces. It’s one of the things that really was the foundation for the current alt-right movement, and shifted many otherwise liberal young men to the right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:17 PM
11

He tried so hard to get me to alienate myself from my family after he realized how close we were. At the time I thought he was just jealous because of his terrible relationship with his family, but now I know it was triangulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:14 PM
49

That’s her interpretation of these events. It’s possible that in a large party an inexperienced waiter may have forgotten to take an order completely by accident. It’s also possible that her husband is creeping on his daughters young friend who does not yet know how to politely decline the attention of an older man and acts nervous for that reason. It also could be possible that none of this is true at all (it’s the internet after all) but none of those situations are implausible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:41 AM
11

No worries, I know how it goes—it’s not my first either ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:25 AM
12

Sorry to nitpick, but it’s “fewer” for quantity, “lesser” implies quality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:22 AM
7

Yeah but those are more generally making fun of right-wing/conservative humor. I’m talking about the edgy Reddit humor about rape, sexism, misogyny etc. Not every asshole on the internet is conservative.. the gamergate type assholes for example
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:11 AM
22

Me too! Everyone I know has always told me how calm I am under pressure, and how I don’t let the little things bother me, but when I was with my abusive ex he would go on unhinged rants (towards the end) and just say anything that came to his mind in order to get a reaction out of me (you’re a failure, your parents hate you, your siblings hate you, you’ll never achieve your goals etc etc) while I would just sit there quietly until it became too much and started screaming back. He then claimed to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:06 AM
36

Suddenly all of these stories of men turning into serial killers makes sense.. some of them are just built to be sadists
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:58 AM
6

He left his kid in the car (in the fucking desert) then had a drawn out argument with his gf? Bullshit. If that’s not negligent then idk what is. Lock this guy up and save those other poor kids!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:25 AM
2

I guess if you’ve got the most deranged psychopath in your corner then no need to fear other deranged psychopaths? Sort of like when kids would brag that their dad could beat up your dad lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:22 AM
1

Forgive my ignorance, but I thought Hispanic girls were Latina?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:19 AM
7

I think you’re right— and honestly there’s not a single explanation for why these women act like this. It’s definitely a mix of various issues; poor self esteem, need to feel special, holding power over someone society deems powerful etc. there’s books out there about it, but the most popular ones are still conjecture
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:19 AM
2

Not all, just the abusive ones
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:16 AM
1

Lol you’re totally right, thanks for pointing it out 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:15 AM
11

Sadly no one listens til the end of the song where the guy tells Shaggy he’s full of shit and he’s gonna come clean because that’s no way to treat someone lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:57 AM
19

To add to this; not every woman experiences PMS/PMD. The majority of women simply have physical symptoms without emotional disturbances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:42 AM
10

If it makes you feel better she probably passed peacefully after becoming drowsy from the heat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:39 AM
20

You might sadly be right.. according to the article his gf (mother of the child I assume?) had called the tow company to get the car unlocked, but he told her to hang up because he didn’t like the price they quoted!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:37 AM
35

I’ve been trying it for the first time, and so far it’s pretty unimpressive.. the guys are even lower quality than bumble which is saying a lot. The only upside is that I can just wait for matches, even though 90% of them are gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:31 AM
1

It’s not looks, they’re attracted to the “power” of being a literal murderer. He could look like Danny Devito and he’d still have fans among disgusting broken women who think being with a murderer means that they’ll somehow be the exception. There are women out there that get off on the idea that a man would literally kill his entire family to be with them, and they’re filth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:19 AM
56

It’s crazy how many women love the idea of a dangerous man. I guess it comes from the idea that if you can get a dangerous man to love you, then you’ll have his protection, but men like this don’t know how to love anyone but themselves! Even if you have no morals and don’t care about the lives of those poor girls and that innocent woman, at the very least you shouldn’t attract the attention of a dangerous psychopath into yourself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:01 AM
92

Yeah seriously wtf.. I can’t imagine ever feeling safe with someone who was pressuring me to take out a life insurance policy with them as a beneficiary. Hell the fuck no!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:53 PM
63

I agree that they’re not different, but my point was that at a certain age society stops rewarding men for being dickish playboys, and starts rewarding them for being a family man. They learn to play the role that earns them the most social points while showing their partner their “true” face. In the case of younger women, who tend to have better family and social support, so it would be impossible for them to be as horrendously abusive when they’re alone as they might want to be, so they keep u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:04 PM
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I think it’s more that they realize that giving off the appearance of stable “family” man will get them a lot more respect from adults in general than the trashy playboy vibe from their 20-30s. A lot of studies show that men who have families and are perceived to be “providers” are usually the first to be considered for big assignments and promotions. This gives them an air of respectability which they can use to deceive others, and triangulate their victim/partner should she ever want to leave …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 08:58 PM
76

Guess his development is a bit delayed :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:28 PM
353

Lundy actually addresses this in his book Why Does He Do That?. Apparently younger men/boys tend to treat their partners coldly in public and better in private in order to show off how cool they are to their friends, while older men do the opposite, because it stops looking “cool” even to other scrotes after a certain age. Edit: Lundy Bancroft
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:20 PM
23

This is 100% a catfish. They love the attention they can’t get with their real self, so they make up a more impressive man instead. Plus they’re all incel types who get off on the idea of “hurting” women the way they believe they’ve been hurt. His ego must have been bursting out of the building when he realized she was seriously going to fly a thousand miles to see him out of her own pocket just to land in a new city with no contacts or explanation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:10 PM
5

Not sure what “Ethnic” but “non-Latina, and non-East Asian” even means in this context? I’m guessing South and SE Asian? What about Eastern European, African, Indigenous? Are all of those groups considered “ethnic”? Also why does he think non-latinas and non-East Asians are happy with gross white guys lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:53 PM
3

Plus it literally requires less effort than texting.. you can still do other stuff while on the phone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:23 PM
58

There should be a sub calling out these “jokes” because I can’t even count the number of times I see this weak ass excuse used to justify horrible comments on here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:22 PM
12

Plus it’s made specifically to sexualize and objectively women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:26 AM
7

This is truly the only correct answer. If he wants it so bad then he should be happy with allowing her to be more comfortable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:24 AM
6

Oh I am too trust me.. this man was an incredibly successful professional, at the top of his career, and you probably couldn’t find a single person to say a bad word about him, but as soon as he felt he had me locked down, our relationship turned in to a legit horror movie. He genuinely wanted me to lose my grip on reality, and he took a lot of pleasure in trying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 11:44 PM
10

Yes, absolutely— you have no obligation to save these people, and you should 100% look out for yourself first. I work in the mental health field, so I’m trained with how to deal with these types of situations, but even then it’s draining at times! Always look out for #1, because you can’t help anyone if you can’t help yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 10:35 PM
18

Agree with the overly competitive thing. I had a convo with a guy the other day and it was just so infuriating, but I couldn’t put my finger on it til after: Him: after this I’m gonna hit the gym, study, finish up some work, read the WSJ and then sleep Me: oh, late night huh? Him: it’s always a late night for me 😂 Me: oh I like to turn in early, usually by 10-11 Him: aw, why don’t you live a little? I love wandering the city at midnight when everyone is asleep! Me: I prefer to wake up before eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 10:30 PM
30

While I understand how frustrating it is trying to reason with someone in an abusive relationship, you have to bear in mind that the abuse always starts out as psychological, and rarely progresses to physical until the abuser feels comfortable in his control over the victim. It’s very difficult for abuse victims to accept thats the relationship they’ve given up so much to maintain is truly one-sided. Oftentimes the women know very well that the relationship is unhealthy, and they feel deep shame…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 09:57 PM
22

Can we please not post misinformation? And “Hollywood pedophiles”? Last I checked, Hollywood was one of the few places actually doing something about their pedophiles..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:31 PM
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I’m sorry you’ve personally had bad experiences, but you shouldn’t generalize based solely off of that. And as for racists and sexists, there’s no denying they exist and are present in every profession, so why are you only singling out medicine?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:35 AM
7

Or more likely just keeping his ego fluffed so he even bothers to contribute that much..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:41 AM
0

That’s nice that you took some classes in college, but I work in the field myself, and I’m aware of the shortcomings you listed. But obviously those shortcomings wouldn’t be common knowledge if they hadn’t already been addressed. Having done clinical research, and gone through the process of getting it vetted and reviewed, I can tell you that every medication and treatment needs to be controlled for age, sex, and various other subgroups before being approved by the IRB let alone for peer review.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:32 AM
1

Medicine is based on clinical science, and so is psychiatry. If you mean psychology, then yes, most of it is conjecture for lack of physical diagnostic tools, but that’s quickly changing as well with the advent of fMRIs. It’s not “one step away” from hysteria, it’s quite a few leaps and jumps away, after decades of progress and reforms. There’s decades of scientific data supporting the beneficial effects of psychiatric treatments for psychiatric illnesses. Many millions of people are able to lif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:07 AM
32

He’s trying to make her feel like she’s the crazy one for trying to set proper boundaries while shirking off all responsibility for the injuries he caused through his deliberately careless actions. Classic gaslighting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 11:02 PM
16

I’m fairly certain that he’s just trying to pick fights with women who will see this and get offended. Not even the pickme-est pickme would want that trash fire
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:43 PM
14

I admire her so much. She could have taken the easy path and come out on top with absolutely no risk to her career whatsoever. She’s a beautiful blonde girl who wrote country ballads, and there was absolutely no pressure on her to stray the course— but she chose to risk it all to speak out against misogyny, racism, homophobia and dirty politics. When scrotes and pickmes were bashing her for “only” writing songs about her ex’s, she kept her head up and topped the charts year after year. She’s an …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:30 PM
29

I’m adding this to my book list, thanks for the suggestion 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:51 PM
14

My ex used to get this creepy smirk on his face when I would do things that he didn’t like but also couldn’t really call me out for without seeming insane, and then say, “I love precedent” as if to threaten me with retaliation at some future point. I was an anxious, depressed, jittery mess before I finally escaped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:48 PM
6

For that last point, do you think that’s true of all men or most men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 12:49 PM
10

Not to mention the case ofJessica Gonzalez wherein the Supreme Court ruled that cops have no duty to serve or protect (specifically a restraining order in her case before her husband kidnapped and murdered their two daughters)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 12:12 PM
34

Same. I told my ex that if he ever cheated on me I’d walk out of the door with a spring in my step because I’d have nothing to feel bad about in leaving a cheating loser. He got really quiet after that and changed the subject. One day that’s exactly what happened (overheard a not-so-innocent convo between him and his ex), and I tell you ladies it was a weight off of my shoulders, and I never looked back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 01:28 AM
2

Also the “what do you look for” question.. I considered not answering at first— should have trusted my initial instinct
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 01:15 AM
15

Yeah, at least prostitutes get paid, and the high end ones get dinner to boot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 12:03 AM
34

That’s why it’s so important to never make your man your life, no matter how HV he seems. Always maintain your social circle, never stop improving yourself, and keep on top of your finances at all times. Other people are always a gamble, and even female friends can let you down after decades, but you’ll always have your own back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 09:38 PM
22

The reverse of this is when mothers raise their sons to be “the man of the house” and treat them like a friend to gossip to about their relationships and other inappropriate topics. My ex had that kind of relationship with his mother, where he was a “mommy’s boy” and she would cry to him about how bad his father treated her. He grew up hating her and becoming a violent misogynist just like dear ol’ dad 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:54 PM
2

Thanks sis, strut your stuff with confidence. Imo it doesn’t matter what you wear as long as you wear it well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 03:04 PM
5

They can pry my skintight dresses out of my cold dead hands, but I love ur energy ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 02:56 PM
19

She’s definitely not ready for FDS.. wait until the inevitable weepy post about ghosting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 12:54 PM
19

Ohhh noooooo 😭😭😭 this girl is a mess!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 12:52 PM
19

This is completely accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 09:37 AM
33

Thank you for messaging her, she’s in danger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 09:30 AM
22

Just wanna say, that red pantsuit is bomb af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 09:29 PM
214

Men love valuing women based solely on our looks but then also feel the need to “knock us down” a peg when they see us playing along. Dear “hot” girls, Please just remain insecure about your worth so that we don’t have to put in any effort to keep you around Sincerely, Scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 02:31 PM
3

Is she genuinely 33 or just 03?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:30 PM
69

I really want to know if any of those men have watched one of her matches.. she’s indomitable Edit: definitely do NOT read the comments on that article.. they’re all from the 12%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:11 PM
31

I think you’re on the money.. sounds like a pothead loser who probably doesn’t even help out with chores or groceries..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:51 PM
39

Dw he definitely doesn’t pay for that..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:23 PM
114

I can almost guarantee that these necessities are Postmates and Steam sales
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:21 PM
90

I’ve heard this reasoning a million times by now, so it’s no surprise to me. You see it on Reddit and even talking to the average person: “if she was so miserable, why did t she just leave? Clearly it’s her choice.” Or “she should have just cOmMunIcAteD better— me aren’t mind readers y’know!” It’s never on the man. His behavior is never his fault. It’s always your fault if you stay or if you go. So you might as well do what’s right for you because you’ll be a bitch either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:14 PM
11

A fruit roll up is a mouthful.. that’s isn’t saying much 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:12 PM
10

I just want to point out the tacit understanding that occurred here: a) the repair man sympathizes with the cheater because he has been in that same (or similar) situation and believes it’s okay to lie to a woman you’re in a relationship with Or b) the repair man can empathize with being in such a situation and would likely do the same if he were. In both cases, the cheater believes that either scenario is likely and therefore his gamble will pay off. I very highly doubt he would have pulled the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 11:24 AM
8

Yeah, if I had to reply to a message like that, I’d say “...pathetic.” Or something to that effect. Men like this love the idea of being a godlike figure who can get away with evil deeds because of their charm and wit. This is a compliment for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 11:11 AM
8

Yeah, I’m absolutely certain these guys would be perfectly happy if their wives were commenting on male models’ pics 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 10:48 AM
6

You’re saying the US should remain without leadership for a while? That makes no sense. Electing a president is NOT like dating, you don’t choose someone who you’re in love with, you choose the best option you have at the moment. More specifically you choose the one who isn’t a about to nominate a Supreme Court judge who believes the ACA is unconstitutional and is about to rip healthcare away from millions of people in the middle of one of the worst pandemics in our living history (made infinite…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 10:34 AM
17

Sad to say, I genuinely thought sex wasn’t supposed to be pleasurable for women for years after I started having sex. I thought that all women faked their orgasms like porn stars and the real thing was probably only with “the one”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 10:57 AM
1

Good thing you’ll be done eating by then 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 10:51 PM
6

HELL YES 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:51 PM
23

Not only does he think she looks terrible, but he’d rather she didn’t try because it’s embarrassing for him. I guess he expected her to stay looking 22 for the rest of her life?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:08 PM
15

Not sure I’d call it gaslighting, but he’s definitely trying to distract her from her own justifiable anger by throwing a pity party for himself. “Boo hoo I’m just so sad because I know I shouldn’t be a dick but I just can’t help it 😢”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:05 PM
2

Omg she’s adorable 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:54 PM
13

Thanks for showing this to me, I can’t wait to watch it 🍿 Here’s the link for anyone who wants the trailer: https://youtu.be/UUwZ5Yo3Urg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:33 PM
79

Yeah, pretty sure the captain doesn’t “hang back” and let the first mate decided their destination, course, heading, or speed.. otherwise there would be no use for a captain 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:24 PM
8

Well you’re in luck then, since the excerpt above is from the novel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:09 PM
27

You’re absolutely right that there’s nothing wrong with being a masculine woman, but that’s totally different. “Cool girl” is the feminine ideal with just enough of the affectation of masculinity to set her apart from (and above) other women. Her “masculinity” does not allow her to be rude, demanding, angry, overweight, or messy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:30 AM
1

I miss Ashanti so much.. “Always on Time” was my fucking jam
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 05:51 AM
133

That sub is incredibly toxic. I browsed it for a couple of days but then they put up a stickied post about creating a sub for rating women on a numerical scale. I was heavily downvoted for suggesting that it wasn’t a useful metric to judge looks on. It makes no sense to judge every single woman based on a single beauty standard, obviously no one is going to fit that criteria? Big lips don’t look good on every facial type, or a pointy nose etc. imagine if Audrey Hepburn had Kylie Jenner lips? We …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 05:40 AM
58

I recently had a conversation with my brother about dating, and he said that there was a lot more pressure on men to be “unique” and “interesting.” Huh? It’s not hard to have a personality; every woman on earth has likes, dislikes, wants, needs and opinions. What’s hard is pretending to be a blank slate and watch in wide-eyed amazement as a guy waxes poetic about his inane shower-thoughts disguised as philosophy so that his ego swells enough for his dick to finally get hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 05:24 AM
4

Yup, it’s basically this concept: https://youtu.be/0thpEyEwi80
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:31 AM
62

That part stuck out to me too. I’ll probably die waiting for a single man to make the effort of trying to be interested in the types of books I like, or the type of music I like, or the hobbies I’m interested in as opposed to Vice versa. I’m not ever going to pretend to be fascinated by a dude’s fake-deep taste in music ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:19 AM
2

Oh hell yes! So many great memories of jamming out to this in my room at night 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:46 AM
43

You absolutely have to watch the movie! It’s one of my favorite thrillers, plus it’s got a female lead. Also you should check out Girl on a Train, which is even better imo. I won’t spoil it but the themes of both stories are very FDS..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 10:40 PM
35

Haha I’ll leave that to someone else, but I totally agree, isn’t it great?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 10:27 PM
67

Oh that’s great! I hadn’t seen it before, and I just wanted to share 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 10:00 PM
33

But notice it was only after she said the word “friend-zone” suddenly his face twisted up like he was so offended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:11 PM
43

This argument should never happen irl but I’m also glad she took the time to catch this on tape just to show the world what kind of entitled bullshit we have to deal with. He asked her for her time, attention, and to be given the chance to enter into a relationship with her, and he’s investing what? An old hoodie and a shave? Lol! She could probably do better just walking down the street and collecting numbers..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:09 PM
3

Reminds me of the time I made Salmon with herbed rice for dinner (not a surprise, ex was there when I bought it), and he threw a tantrum and told me never to cook seafood again. Last time I cooked for him I tell ya
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 12:34 PM
3

Don’t worry, Twitter is like 40% bots and 40% trolls. Most people would agree that these women are out of their minds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 11:21 AM
1

Ah yes, as opposed to the rest of us who stare at walls all day..
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/20 11:07 AM
2

Thanks, same to you!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/20 01:03 AM
2

Brilliant hypothesis professor. I’m just beyond impressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/20 09:56 PM
2

men think animal heads are high fashion Speak for yourself buddy. No man I’ve ever dated would want a dead animal on his walls #NotAllMen As for the rest of that, I’d have to hear it from your wife to believe it. And for the last time; lazy =/= minimalist. Professional interior decorators are all women and gay men..? And you’re arguing that has something to do with a “feminine decorating gene” rather than socialization? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/20 05:29 PM
1

Appreciating and preferring the outcome of greater effort without the willingness to contribute to that is exactly what I’m talking about. Men will happily allow women to cook, clean, decorate and make their lives comfortable, but if you ask them to lift a finger their excuse will always be “but I like living in squalor :(“ if you liked it that much why didn’t you step in when all of the work was being done to change it? Why do you only have a problem with it now that effort from your part is ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/20 04:23 PM
10

If you gave the men in this screenshot a choice between this room and the same room filled with comfortable furniture, 100% of them would prefer the latter. This isn’t “gynomorphism” it’s just laziness, and the result of men being socialized to avoid any kid of work that might be construed as “decoration”.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/20 01:59 PM
10

In videos like this you always have to ask yourself why were they filming? And why would he drag around a huge dramatic umbrella rather than simply stand behind her or use a bag to help cover her? These types of videos are almost always scripted, though I do agree that it happens in real life quite often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:33 AM
45

This is definitely staged, but it’s still horrifying to know that it’s common enough for people to be so nonchalant about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:29 AM
21

Have you considered investing in an adult care center? They may be better equipped to handle that level of disability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:03 AM
62

Same, I wayy prefer a human attached to a dick, but I still prefer no sex to casual sex— and I prefer my hand to all of the above ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:57 AM
9

Yes, it’s understandable to feel some shame and regret over our past mistakes, but it’s just as important to forgive ourselves because otherwise we’ll be stuck in that moment forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 12:58 PM
34

I remember when the sex tape leaked, and I didn’t have much context for it but I knew everyone was incredibly excited about it. The truth is that people hated her way before the tape, and were primed to hate her more no matter what. She was an easy target because she was a wealthy white woman who espoused “girly” things, do it was okay to hate her because she’s the type of woman that “woke” society says is acceptable to hate. She’s the definition of privilege, and despite all of that, she’s stil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 12:21 PM
30

I identify heavily with everything you said. I wasn’t desperate, I was in love, and I thought he was too. I gave him everything I had because I thought he would too. When I realized my mistake I took steps to extricate myself. I’ve worked hard to forgive myself and let go of the shame I feel when I think back on much of myself I poured into an empty vessel. I think that the hatred this sub has for pickmes is really a reflection of how we feel about our past mistakes, and it is very unhealthy. Ye…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 12:07 PM
16

Right? It’s all ethanol my guy, if you’re not buying bulk 24 proof EtOh from an online retailer for $40 then the rest of that is idiot tax.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:57 AM
15

When in reality women have both a higher pain threshold and tolerance than men lol. If men weren’t physically larger than us they would be essentially useless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:51 AM
10

Excellent post— thank you 👏 To add to all of that, let’s also mention the controversy over the existence of marital rape
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:08 AM
25

As an Indian woman I feel much more solidarity and respect for my Pakistani and Bangladeshi counterparts than the men of my country. Who started all of those wars and bloodshed? Not us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:03 AM
21

And that was after she told him about her sick relative.. wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:48 AM
48

He genuinely looks like one of the homeless junkies from tent city who use their dogs to panhandle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:40 PM
22

The majority of men deserve to die alone without ever having had a woman touch their dick. Good men are the exception, not the rule.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:25 PM
23

Sometimes I wonder, if every man were to turn into a woman tomorrow and the technology for artificial reproduction became available, how would our society change? Without any men to impress, feed, clothe, educate, or jostle for, what would 80% of women even do with themselves? I can’t see my life changing too much aside from the structural changes at work, but women whose entire identity revolves around men and the male gaze? I can’t imagine that identity crisis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:15 PM
7

This exact thing comes up in every askreddit thread where there will inevitably be a comment from a woman or gay guy saying “omg even I loves titties!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:59 PM
0

My point was that we don’t know what the situation was and ignorance is acceptable as long as it’s not purposeful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:45 PM
1

No my parents were introduced by their parents and ‘courted’ but dating was not an option. They never spoke to me about dating because it was assumed I would do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:15 PM
0

It’s possible that he never discussed dating with the mother of his child. I can’t imagine my parents discussing that and I’m sure they’re not alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:10 PM
6

It reads like a PSA: “ladies, if you want a chance with me, remember to message first!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:27 AM
11

Makes me fucking laugh that these men are out here wringing their hands in terror over the prospect of sociopathic women “using” them for a $40 meal, while we women are live-sharing our locations in case we get fucking murdered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:10 AM
10

I’m gonna save this because of how goddamn true it is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 12:52 AM
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Tbf it doesn’t sound to me like he previously didn’t empathize with women’s issues, just that he was wholly ignorant of our experiences, which is possible depending on his social circle and how he was raised. Doesn’t seem like he tried to make excuses either, and quickly adapted his world view once he became informed about the reality of the situation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 12:15 AM
84

I’m pretty sure it’s a joke and not a confession
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 11:23 PM
2

It’s a really gross, self-centered POV— like that fake Mariah Carey quote: “When I watch TV and see those poor starving kids all over the world, I can’t help but cry. I mean, I’d love to be skinny like that.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 11:21 PM
1

It’s sad how even the “strongest” of us are socialized to not only doubt our own experiences, but to create doubt in other women’s’ experiences. I can’t wrap my head around why someone would want to invalidate such a painful experience? The psychology behind it is morbidly fascinating to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:51 AM
1

That’s terrible.. it sucks to look back and realize that someone you thought was a friend was either secretly acting against you or just pathetically incompetent. I’ve had so many such realizations that it really blew a hole in my self-confidence for a while, because I didn’t feel I could trust my own judgement of people. The more I thought about it however, the more I realized that I had seen red flags in our friendship, but chose to ignore them out of loneliness. You’re right that it’s very ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:44 AM
2

Haha, thanks, I’d like to think I’m a good friend, but I’ve got my faults like anyone else. We’re all victims of the system sis, and I’m just here to fight the man 💪💋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:35 AM
14

I’m glad you agree! Our platonic relationships need to be as high quality as our romantic relationships. I see girls posting on askFDS about how to “help” their pickme friends.. but you can’t help someone who doesn’t want help, you’re only throwing your emotional capital into a bottomless ditch. Like the flight attendants always say— you have to help yourself first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:30 AM
5

That’s gross as hell.. but holy shit it sounds like almost exactly what I went through. I reached out to this friend while I was trying to leave my abusive ex, and of course he began intermittently love-bombing me and blowing up my phone to keep me focused on him every moment he could manage. Her response was to become very cold towards me, and when I asked her what the issue was, she basically told me she was having a pity-party for herself because “no one has ever said those things to me” 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:27 AM
5

I think you’re totally right. What I learned about all of those women (the hard way) is that they are all deeply insecure and unhappy with their own lives and decisions, and though they might consciously with me well, on some level they were taking a perverse pleasure in my self-doubt. People like that never feel self-assured, so they can’t stand it when anyone else does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:23 AM
6

You’re absolutely right, and I feel that censoring our descriptions of our men because we’re embarrassed by their behavior is one of the first red flags that we often ignore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:19 AM
17

We know that 99% of LVM ex’s will try to reach out again. It’s that first attempt which is the biggest hump, and if you can get past that without replying (I just hijack my natural procrastination proclivities to get this done) then the anxiety and attachment just melt away like cotton candy in the rain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 03:39 PM
21

What a selfish person.. I can’t imagine why someone would offer their friends bad advice. Either they wish you ill or they just have very poor judgement. Either way that shit is toxic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:51 PM
55

So true. I always had trouble with the “block and move on” advice because I’m one of those anxious, paranoid people who hoards things and people because they might be useful “some day.” So blocking someone, for me, just creates more anxiety and preoccupation about that person and I end up thinking about them way more than I otherwise would have because I hate not knowing.. So I came up with a method that works really well for me. Just like with items that you need to toss, you put them in a box …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 01:57 PM
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Also, very important— don’t seek advice from the pickmes in your life. Don’t even talk to them about your relationship because they’ll make their opinions known. I’ve lost respect for people who I considered to be very intelligent and strong women because all they could do was play the “devils advocate” when I told them about my ex LVMs behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 01:50 PM
4

Oh thanks I appreciate the sympathy, but don’t worry, I’ve come a long way since then and I’m back to my old ways 😜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 01:32 PM
2

Apparently most people prefer mixed-gender wards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:45 AM
10

Guys, this channel is straight up CCP propaganda, let’s not be posting this. Don’t take my word for it, look up the “controversy” that they themselves mentioned in the video. This poor country girl somehow has the production crew of a National Geographic documentary?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:41 AM
12

I’m the opposite lol, I used to be secure up until I dated my second cheating ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 11:34 PM
8

Agreed. Any guy I date has to be a feminist at the very least so figuring out if he’s a fake feminist would be a step in the right direction for me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 09:41 PM
11

Yeah, this is what I thought movie dates were; dinner and a movie.. what’s the point of just going to a movie? Unless you’re already in a relationship and just need something low-key to do for the evening. Who wants to sit in a dark room with a stranger for two hours without speaking with no interaction after? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:48 PM
34

Him: what kind of guys do you like? Me: the kind that talk about themselves a lot :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:33 PM
23

I believe that there’s a lot more pedophiles in the general population than we thought, and that once they get into positions of power they feel free to be honest about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 12:43 AM
3

And by “secret-ish” he means he tried his best to hide them from her so that she still believes he’s being monogamous but she found out anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:17 PM
12

That’s why most scrotes are smart enough to not bother asking, they just cheat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:12 PM
190

Aww that’s kinda cute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:28 PM
3

If we lived in a matriarchy then the reverse would probably be true, but we sadly don’t. Men have the power whether they agree with it or not, and our relationships should reflect our reality rather than our aspirations for a better society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 12:10 PM
14

Yeah, no shit her dating preferences are subjective, what else would they be??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:09 AM
18

I agree completely! The babies don’t have great eyesight so they chomp down on each other’s tails like a little train with their mama at the front when they travel 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:37 AM
4

Yeah the dude was a hemorrhoid of a human.. used to brag about his dads money (which he was apparently cut off from by the time I met him) despite eating at Wendy’s every night and stuffing the delivery driver lmao. I cringe to think of the ocean of red flags I completely ignored 🙁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:34 AM
26

How did you get a pic of my ex’s underwear?! Seriously though, the guy used to rag on me for coming from a poor family... bro at least my panties are from this decade 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 01:35 AM
10

I think he’s agreeing with her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 01:33 AM
17

“Do you, Lana, take this man, Corey, to have and to hold until you realize he isn’t good enough for you?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 01:13 AM
25

It used to eat me up inside that my ex’s decided to cheat on me rather than just breaking up with me. I couldn’t figure out why, because I’d always made it very clear that I would much rather be dumped than lied to. They all made excuses like “I didn’t want to make you sad” or “I knew you’d yell at me” etc, essentially shifting the blame onto me. Then I realized (thanks in part to this sub) that of course they didn’t want to break up, because I was bending over backwards to make them happy. why …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 01:11 AM
7

I try to avoid people who have bumper stickers in general. They tend to be insufferable people regardless of how “nice” the messages are (or aren’t)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 12:53 AM
52

Women are taught that we should “fight” for our romantic relationships, but “fighting” for it should mean, working on your own shortcomings and overcoming external challenges together— not accepting mistreatment..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 12:29 AM
6

Men conflate rape with kinky sex because they don’t know what it’s like to be sexually assaulted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 03:39 AM
0

Why do you say that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 03:34 AM
11

Lol, the statistics aren’t even close. The vast majority of rapists are men. The vast majority of rape victims are women. The vast majority of people who rape men are also men. There’s no comparison to be made.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 03:33 AM
10

Yes, this is so important. It makes me cringe when I hear people posting on here about their “potential” HVM or a “HVM” they met on tinder two months ago. That’s just a man, no value can be assigned to him until he proves one way or another, and HVM status takes 6-12 months at least. I know men from my friends lives who were perfect sweethearts until the engagement or marriage. Men like that wait til they think you’re hooked to take off the mask!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:07 PM
30

Gaslighting..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:51 AM
8

Ugh those poor babies🥺.. thank god for labor activists
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:44 AM
7

The character she said it to was literally forced to perform oral sex on a man though..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:40 AM
6

But that implies that victims of sexual coercion chose not to fight back.. which is just completely wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:38 AM
2

She’s not a feminist though unless that’s what you meant by “feminist”, then nvm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:36 AM
12

Uuhh.. you’re in for a bit of a shock then. She is definitely not a feminist of any sort
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:34 AM
10

Men’s retreats? Wtf.. did you work for BoysClub inc.?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:16 AM
19

But what if women start accusing their partners of DV just to get off of work huh? Won’t someone think of the employers!? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:04 AM
3

He’s such a mensch for playing along
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 11:49 AM
5

The most simple explanation is, caste = social class, except it’s not determined by wealth like it is in most of the West. It is strictly determined by which family you were born into. The highest class is the religious leaders, second is royalty and warriors, third is merchants etc,.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:01 AM
3

Luckily they’re pretty easy to filter out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 07:49 AM
25

Heyy, sounds like my ex. Told me the girl who was flirting with him was “fat” and not his type. Of course he cheated on me with her. Of course!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:37 AM
9

I don’t think religious dudes are 100% LVM, and if that’s a priority in your life then it should be one for your partner as well. However, you shouldn’t let the appearance of piety fool you into ignoring other red flags. His commitment to your faith should be seen as a bare minimum standard (like normal hygiene or having a job), allowing you to see past it and see him for what he really is. I dated a very religious man when I was younger and dumber, and he would go out of his way to help beggars…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:19 PM
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When will people understand that legality does not determine morality? Just because something is legal does not mean it’s right. It’s “legal” to call my neighbor an ugly waste of air, but it’s not right, and I would probably, rightfully be ostracized by my community for such behavior. Age gap relationships should not be normalized, and people should absolutely call out and stigmatize the men who prey on young women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:49 PM
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My ex used to be the biggest fanboy for The Weeknd, so I tried getting into his music to relate, but 99% of his songs are about how he’s an emotionally stunted, narcissistic drug addict and a manipulative manchild. Damn if that wasn’t exactly what he turned out to be..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:41 PM
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It’s not nothing.. but it ain’t something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:16 PM
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“Did you know the left one is bigger? 🤔”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:32 PM
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So true, I work in a long term care facility and the vast majority of visitors are daughters, wives, sisters and nieces. Maybe one out of 30 visitors will be a male relative, and that’s only including family groups. Men have no idea how much they rely on women for their lifestyle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 05:17 PM
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I disagree with that conclusion. I don’t think guys should settle either, it just breeds resentment, and mistreatment. It’s not fair to either party. He should work on bettering himself, which is easy for a man as multiple studies have shown that women on average date down in terms of looks as opposed to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 04:17 PM
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Dog shit probably wouldn’t be very nutritious anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 12:28 AM
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Love this! I told my ex once that if he fucked things up with me he’d regret it. At first he thought I was threatening him and got angry, but I told him he was misinterpreting me, and it wasn’t a threat at all. Then somehowmonths later he came to the realization of what I actually meant by it (not the brightest bulb) and told me that I was probably right. Spoiler alert— I was, a shes blocked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 10:21 AM
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It would have to be a terminal case of the pickmes to even begin to think about buying those shoes just to make that man happy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 09:58 AM
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Really? It’s “hell” now? All they need is a mattress and a phone, it’s literally never been easier..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 12:32 AM
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They can be super entertaining though. Idk how many are 100% true, but it’s a wild ride either way. I read one once where the OP was a woman who was waiting to finish out her lease with her ex, but they still awkwardly shared a bed, and she was asking if she was the AH for secretly rubbing one out at night 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 11:56 PM
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Funny you should mention that, but (to no ones great surprise) the creator of Rick&Morty has/had a sex doll, which his girlfriend apparently found and then wrote a freaking screenplay about. I wish I were joking, but I’m really fucking not. The sex doll talks to her. This is apparently based on real life. Let me see if I can find it.. Edit: okay I found it, it’s called Dummy and apparently it’s free in Quibi if anyone’s brave enough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 11:27 PM
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“You don’t even have to buy them” “I get free jerkoff material, and you get nothing ;)”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:51 PM
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Gosh, meeting a kindred spirit makes me happy. I’m so glad I found this sub :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 08:07 PM
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Haha yes I feel like we’re totally on the same wavelength here and I love it. I feel like I never meet women who are truly confident in themselves, and it’s so sad. I could totally hear that exchange happening in real life. Usually I either keep quiet or say something supportive, and luckily most of my female friends are more of less the same, and the ones that aren’t, I’ve dropped from my life. It just really rubs me the wrong way when other women start acting like that because it comes off as …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 04:07 PM
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Yes to all of that. I’ve definitely got things I’m insecure about, but I learned really early on that the most important opinion when it comes to my looks or decisions, is my own. And if I’m happy with what I’m working with, I don’t waste time wondering if someone disagrees. A lot of women weirdly hate it when you don’t talk down to yourself, it’s like some creepy self-flagellation ritual that we’re supposed to do undergo in order to be accepted, and I refuse but I don’t shove my confidence in a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:11 PM
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When I was a naive little undergrad working part time at a school lab, I realized I hadn’t been paid for three months because of payroll issues and the lab moving. So I politely emailed all of the correct people and CC’d all of the correct people, and got nothing back. Then I went up to payroll to speak to them directly and they bounced me back to the acting PI, who then bounced me back to payroll. This went on for a few weeks until I went back up to payroll and firmly, but politely asked that t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:47 PM
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too late
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:45 AM
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Definitely sounds like a man. Complete with the “hysterical female” bit of her crying over some internet weirdo she’s never met. Lol they think we’re so gullible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 05:44 PM
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I’m pretty sure he has no idea what “vestigial” means lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 02:26 PM
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Holy shit that dude sounds like a fucking rapist. He used sex to “punish” her father? Disgusting mindset
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 11:45 AM
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Smh men can’t take a compliment /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 02:59 AM
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It’s like every LV trait all rolled into a single person..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 02:21 AM
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Lmao, I’m sorry but this is actually hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 10:46 PM
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Everyone seems to be missing the point that you weren’t putting down the woman or her husband, you were talking about the women in the comments gushing over it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 10:17 PM
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I know exactly what you mean when you say serial killer eyes. I used to call them “shark eyes” because they look so dead and lifeless. I have never once been wrong about a man like that. I remember when I was pretty young my dad took me to meet my aunt’s brother and his kids who were about my age. I knew just from looking at him that there was something wrong with him, and I even told my dad later that he had ‘shark eyes’, which he shrugged off. I only found out years later via a news article th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 10:06 PM
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Yup. “Suck my dick” is literally an insult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 08:46 PM
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I personally wouldn’t know, but per historical records, people have been complaining about the rudeness of teenagers and the subsequent downfall of society for literally all of recorded history
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 08:01 PM
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It’s one thing to be clowning around town, but why is she posting about sucking his dick? Does she think that’s something to brag about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 05:34 PM
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Second this. It may be calling itself a “dating app” but that’s just marketing. It was originally created as a straight version of grindr complete with physical proximity for quick hookups. I’ve never known anyone who found a HVM on there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 04:26 PM
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Sarcasm and irreverence is how kids their age exert control over their lives which are mostly outside of their control. I can understand why it feels frustrating to see them act that way, but it’s not necessarily a permanent state of affairs. That being said, you can definitely call them out on rudeness, because it’s not a socially acceptable behavior from an adult, which is what they’ll be soon enough. People don’t like to be told how to raise their kids, but it takes a village.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 04:18 PM
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One of the most important prices of advice I’ve gotten from here is; if he wanted to, he would. Really simplified a lot of confusing and mixed messages I used to get hung up on. I know I’m an intelligent and socially apt adult, so if I’m confused despite trying my best to not be, then I’m being confused on purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 04:10 PM
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Or if you just asked to speak with the manager or another employee.. what would he have said then? Lol they never think these things through. When you’re caught you’re caught dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 04:09 PM
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🥳🥳🥳 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:01 PM
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This goes for platonic relationships as well. If your friend is going through a hard time, then by all means help them out, but if they never stop going through hard times you have to decide if they’re just unwilling or unable to progress, and if so they’ll drag you down with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 01:50 PM
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Haha not anymore 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 01:03 PM
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“I’d like it if you did your share of the chores” “... so mysterious. What can she mean?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 03:34 AM
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Well I’m sorry to hear about your friendship, and I hope it works out for you, but I assure you my relationship with her is not worth saving— for more than just her pickme tendencies. She’s just a selfish person at heart, but hides it well under a thick layer of self pity and sales-clerk charm. I’ve had several extremely candid conversations with her about her warped views on relationships, but she doesn’t believe there’s anything she needs to change. She just thinks everyone else is wrong. I mi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 03:27 AM
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Yeah it’s a toxic relationship. They just use you and the moment they have what they really want you won’t hear from them. This girl used to keep me on the phone for hours talking about “what’s wrong with me” “why do I keep getting ghosted” “why me” etc, and if I got a call from my bf she’d get passive aggressive and crap before hanging up, but if she got a call from fuckboy-of-the-week she’d lie and tell me it was her mom calling..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 03:15 AM
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I have a similar friend who I spent years being a life coach for while she had panic attacks and breakdowns over random tinder dates every few weeks. It was exhausting. Seriously, I tried everything from kindness, to no opinion, to tough love, and every damn time she just ran back to the OLD addiction. Then I realized that the reason she wasn’t listening to a thing I said was because she didn’t value my opinion at all, and she was just using me as a sounding board to vent all of her frustration,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:46 AM
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Haha wow same here! I tried it with my ex and enjoyed it (lots of prep on my end) and he never brought it up again lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 10:52 PM
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Yeah, it literally started off as a straight version of grindr (hence the name similarity). It branches out into regular dating afterwards but the conceit of the app is for casual hookups.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 10:47 PM
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All hail Space Queen 👽 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 10:44 PM
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Love and agree with everything you said. Personally I don’t care one way or another about saggy balls, but I don’t find small ones attractive, it feels like I’m touching a child 🤢 And I prefer straight as an arrow —and uncircumcised since they tend to be more sensitive, which makes it more fun to play with That being said, my type is pretty simple
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 10:20 PM
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I kinda like them if they’re hygienic, well groomed, and well lit, but those are only the ones I’ve explicitly asked to see. A stranger sending me a picture of his genitalia is more like a threat than an invitation. They’re the equivalent of trench-coat-wearing park flashers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 07:57 PM
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Lol I once replied to a guy like this and said if it’s that big of a deal he and his buddies should just compliment each other, and he started crying about how he’d get called gay.. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 07:49 PM
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It’s hilarious to me that they didn’t see how pathetic this makes them sound. “I know you want a ride but you’re not even gonna say hi” what does that tell you bro? Assuming her feet did hurt, the fact that she’d rather walk than talk to you should make her feelings pretty damn obvious 😂 and then the classic your friend is hotter anyway 😂 😭 those grapes are looking sour huh? 🦊 🍇
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 01:04 AM
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Lmaooo if /niceguys had an anthem this would be it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 12:17 AM
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Lol definitely.. these idiots think we can’t see right through them? Keep ur limp dick bro no one wants it anyway XD Dude’s out here acting like women are throwing themselves at him left and right when in reality he’s probably in these same girls’ DMs begging for nudes 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 09:34 PM
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I’m completely uninterested in dating a virgin, and I’m pretty sure most women are too, so idk why this guy feels the need to write an essay about this—assuming he’s also a virgin and not a complete hypocrite lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 09:14 PM
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Lol yuup. If this had been my NVM ex he would have started shit-talking my friends, accusing me of wanting to go out without him because I’m cheating or talking shit about him, and then thrown a tantrum if I did go and probably threaten to destroy my personal property while I was out. So glad I’ve leaned my lessons.. hard as they were..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:24 PM
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Yeah, he was actually making exactly the same point as OP. It’s easy to not be a disgusting pervert and it shouldn’t be seen as an accomplishment not not be a pervert.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:55 PM
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Sounds humiliating for that poor boy 😰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 09:40 PM
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Lol I actually had the same discussion with my ex! He wasn’t shitty about it to be fair to him, but he was hilariously dumbfounded at the realization lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 09:38 PM
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Yeah, it really pissed me off that even my own “friends” were defending him. Well my roommate anyway. He talked shit behind my back, to our mutual friends and made me feel like crap just because he couldn’t deal with his jealousy. Then a few weeks into the ‘break’ he comes over to drop off a T-shirt from a fundraiser I attended and she all but tells me I’m a bitch for not taking him back. Like, girl you want him so bad, you have him! Damn..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:58 PM
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Lol yeah he was definitely an abuser-to-be.. that was one of the first red flags I got. There was one time where he got angry at me potentially attending a party without him and squeezed my hand hard enough to hurt, which shocked and confused me. After that he started getting very verbally and emotionally abusive. Eventually he told me we were ‘on a break’ after I had the gall to attend a party for a school club that he wasn’t a part of, so I just made the break permanent. Everyone thought I was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:29 PM
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Wtf... I’m so sorry that happened to you! I’m glad you’re safe now 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:20 PM
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Totally agreed. “Sanitizing” sex by divesting it of all emotional connection is just a destruction of the concept of “sex.” Without the anticipation, the exhilaration, the flirtation, the buildup and the seduction, it’s not sex, it’s just fucking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:08 PM
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I guess you’re right, there must be women out there that are completely fine with shagging a complete stranger they’ve exchanged 5 words with, but I can’t relate at all. “Sexy” is a mental thing. You find the idea of someone sexy because they’re someone you might fantasize about or have fantasized about.. it’s the buildup, the expectation, the mutual desire that makes sex sexy.. if you take all of that out you’re just left with lust, which is just such a downgrade. What’s the point in endangerin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:20 PM
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I grew up in a similar situation, but instead of normalizing it I rather felt hypersensitive towards any similar behaviors and then paradoxically would second guess myself for being too sensitive. An ex once blocked a doorway as I was trying to leave, I was already upset to the point of tears and I begged him to just step aside and he refused. So I slapped him and he looked completely stunned and let me go. I felt guilty about that for ages, but I realize now what I instinctively realized at the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:36 AM
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Girls before stating a purely objective fact; “I feel like ...”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 10:03 AM
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Disgusting yet completely accurate. Men feel so entitled to everything but throw a tantrum if even a fraction of that is expected in return. Women are out here throwing ourselves at dudes who would straight let you do jail time for them while they’re out banging their ex’s. I learned the hard way that loyalty should always be earned not expected, and trust once broken can and should never be rebuilt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:21 AM
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This is what finally snapped me out of my anxiety over ending things with my ex (and future guys), I realized finally after years of ex’s creeping back into my life randomly that men never let go. They think that once you’re “theirs” then you’re “theirs” for life, which is why they don’t give a shit about closure, because in their minds it’s not over. I told one of my girlfriends who is still “friends” with her abusive ex, that she should block him, and she responded that he still asks her advic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:02 AM
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Status is very important in Indian culture, so even if she’s desperate, no ones gonna go for a broke ugly loser. “Love marriages” are less common there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:55 AM
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I had to delete bumble because I was only swiping right on maybe 1/50 dudes.. and even then maybe 1/4 of the conversations lasted til the next evening when they realized I wasn’t gonna deliver sex lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:53 AM
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My desi pickme friend won’t date dudes with less than a six-pack, and she’s got her dance card full
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:34 AM
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The issue is that they just see women as prey. Just creatures that look somewhat like them, but are not them and also only good for sex/servitude. Women don’t have any equivalent to that since we don’t see men the same way at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 08:33 PM
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So the top comment I asking “if a woman pays for the man’s meal and then they have sex, does that make him the prostitute?” And sooooo many scrotes are falling over themselves to say “nope! That just means he achived his goal with a cherry on top!” or “yes, but only if he wouldn’t have sex with her otherwise”.. ahh how the goalposts have shifted. The blatant hypocritical misogyny is just too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 07:47 PM
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Haha oh god the accuracy 😂 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 01:50 PM
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Oh man this stings... I dated a guy whose vocabulary was so poor, he would make up adjectives by adding a particular suffix to the end of simple words. So rather than “feline” it would be “cat-ish” and other weird shit like that. At first I thought he was joking, but eventually I learned that he hadn’t read a single book outside of school..and probably just abused cliffs notes throughout literature. He tried to play it off as me being a nerdy snob when I gently corrected him from time to time so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 11:30 AM
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Haha thanks, this isn’t mine though I found it on Creepypms and thought it seemed appropriate :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:52 AM
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Lol yuuup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:01 AM
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Lmao I call bs, there’s no fucking way. At the very least this has to be exaggerated for effect. You can’t bathe with your clothes on and not stink to high heaven 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 06:33 PM
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Broke as a joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 06:28 PM
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Just goes to show it’s not about the money, it’s about the entitlement..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 06:12 PM
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Ikr? Any normal person would have gotten the hint after the first two “No, sorry”s 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 06:11 PM
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Definitely stealing that for the future 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:12 PM
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Not mine, but yeah.. the fucking audacity is hilariously out of touch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:10 PM
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Or like the delusional losers who cry that a girl should work out and get a fat booty but they still want a thigh gap... human women just aren’t for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 04:35 PM
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Love this 😂 Reminds me of one of my favorite Shakira songs La Tortura English subs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:42 PM
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erotic rape fantasies are paradoxical: they do not appear to make sense. Why would a person have an erotic and pleasurable fantasy about an event that, in real life, would be abhorrent and traumatic? In this article, the major theories of women's rape fantasies are evaluated both rationally and empirically. These theories explain rape fantasies in terms of masochism, sexual blame avoidance, openness to sexuality, sexual desirability, male rape culture, biological predisposition to surrender, sym…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 09:00 PM
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Yes you’re absolutely right. I actually recall thinking at the time when he sent it that he was just looking for attention and pity points, but I wasn’t interested in mommying him so I treated him like an adult, and I guess that was just awful of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 08:04 PM
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Hm that is weird.. maybe you hit enter too many times? And unfortunately it actually is based on epidemiological research, here’s a systematic literature review for your perusal. (If you want more sources, just check the citations at the end). But it is a well documented phenomenon, but obviously the “cause” of such fantasies is open to debate and the theories I and the other commenter have proposed are just that, but they’re rooted in personal accounts and survey responses from actual women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 08:01 PM
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Interesting, I didn’t know about the poetry! She was physically and sexually abused as a child by her mother and neighbors, and confessed to her biographer that her earliest childhood memory was her mother attempting to smother her with a pillow 😞 she didn’t always make the best decisions when it came to her love life, but considering her circumstances she did amazingly well, and I consider her up there with Audrey Hepburn in terms of role models.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 07:49 PM
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Marilyn was way ahead of her time, I’ve read a lot about her, and though she’s only remembered for her looks, she was a brave feminist and a powerful ally. She had a horrible childhood which haunted her throughout her life and she struggled greatly with depression, but she had the dumb fox routine down to a science.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:23 PM
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That’s also true. A big reason why bondage/nonconsent type kinks are popular among some women is because women being enthusiastically sexual is reviled in some cultures, but women don’t have to feel “guilty” or “sinful” if they’re being “forced” to participate. Really messed up, but it reiterates my theory that sexual kinks are unhealthy coping mechanisms for issues of control/power in people’s lives. As Oscar Wilde put it; “Everything in the world is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:17 PM
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The reason it’s “common” is because people who are sexually abused/assaulted tend to try and “replay” their trauma in a safe setting where they’re in control. It’s actually just a coping mechanism for unhealed mental inflictions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:34 PM
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What a loser my god. My ex who threw unpredictable tantrums out of the blue, took a weekend trip to another city without so much as telling me, and generally acted like a sulky teenager when the mood struck him, sent me a link to a book about a year after we broke up which was basically titled “How to have Adult Conversations.” I didn’t rely ofc but it definitely cracked me up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 11:30 AM
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Haha not far off ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:13 AM
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That’s sadly very underdiagnosed in women, as the symptoms can often present differently from men (less hyperactivity and irritation, more anxiety and compulsions).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:37 AM
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Yeah this is what I’ve noticed too. The ‘street wear’ aesthetic generally relies on looking like a waifish model. The baggy clothes and ‘artfully disheveled’ look isn’t quite as charming on anyone who’s a bit softer..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:35 AM
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Yup, I think that’s a pretty common female experience unfortunately. I am also looking into mental health professionals to try to sort myself out before I start a new relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:31 AM
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Thank you, its been almost a year since I left him, but every day I realize new things about my past self which allowed him and other toxic people to push me around when they did. It’s not easy standing my ground sometimes, but it’s necessary, and I’ve never once felt bad about it. And I checked out Le Vian btw— so gorgeous!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:08 AM
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Okay, you’re right I may have been a little too sensitive, I’m just so sick of people playing “devils advocate” when it comes to shitty things my ex did, because he was very good at insinuating terrible things without actually saying them. I get very defensive when people try to tell me to see it from another pov because I spent years toggling between a million insane pov’s just to realize he was fucking with me on purpose. To give some more context; he was obsessed with perceived wealth and sta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:11 AM
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I don’t think I need just justify anything to you. I know my relationship much better than you and I know what kind of person he was. It’s quite telling to me that you’re so willing to give this man the benefit of the doubt, but not me. I truly have nothing more to say to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:53 AM
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Yeah, so sorry I didn’t write out a dissertation about my entire relationship in order to give you the details you need to accept my judgement of a situation I was in for several years! It’s honestly mind blowing that you’re giving someone the benefit of the doubt who told me that his sole priority in picking out my engagement ring was what other people thought..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:37 AM
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Right, so why do you assume I didn’t consider any of those scenarios? And why do you assume that I would ‘condemn’ a man based on a single comment?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:30 AM
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I’m a bit curious why you think you have a better grasp on what he “may have been thinking” when you yourself admit that he was near enough my fiancé 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:27 AM
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Idk if you remember the great “mom jeans tragedy” of 2009 but poor Jessica Simpson and even President Obama got dragged through the media for wearing “mom jeans.” Utterly ridiculous then as it is now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:08 AM
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I absolutely think that would be helpful! Kids start to realize in their teenage years that their parents aren’t perfect, and it can cause a lot of distress and confusion if the parents refuse to acknowledge that. None of us are perfect people and we’ve all made decisions that were not proud of, but pretending they never happened is of no help to those kids who will inevitably be faced with the same decisions.
/r/askFDS29/08/20 01:06 AM
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No.. just normal jeans lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 12:46 AM
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From my understanding it refers to high waisted baggy jeans, basically normal “non-sexy” jeans
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 12:37 AM
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Everyone’s making great suggestions, but in addition to all of this, make sure you raise your boys to be HVM as well, and model that behavior. Don’t allow them to disrespect women or engage in toxic masculinity. The best teacher is always your own behavior. Children learn what to expect from partners and themselves from watching their parents interact with each other and their siblings. You can tell someone that lying (for example) is a sin and punishable by death until you’re blue in the face, …
/r/askFDS29/08/20 12:34 AM
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If they’ve managed to keep it hidden for months/years then it’s obviously more “true” than the mask they were wearing. Women have to be very careful when letting their guard down in a relationship since it’s so common for men to turn manipulative and abusive once they think you’re hooked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 11:53 PM
30

I miss the baggy jeans I used to wear in hs. Now everything is ‘skinny’ or looks like it was cut for men 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 11:39 PM
52

There’s “mom jeans” and they are evidently the most disgusting thing a woman can attire herself in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 11:29 PM
3

Yup! If only poor Megan had Generic_Ring_0781 she might be able to still show her face around the palace :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 07:34 PM
34

Once an ex sent me a “suicidal” meme, and I responded the same way I do when my friends send them, “lol same.” Then months later he brings it up as proof that I’m selfish and don’t care about him.. huh??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 07:19 PM
2

Poor Kate has a right to know :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 07:16 PM
18

According to Angelina he’s abusive to their children, so I’m not terribly shocked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 06:16 PM
2

Yup, I have a right to my own preferences when it comes to jewelry, and it shouldn’t be an ego trip. Which is why he’s blocked 💅🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:50 PM
9

On the flip side, I told my ex that I’m a fan of colored jewels like ruby, emerald, sapphire, amethyst etc, and I would prefer an engagement ring with one of those to a diamond. He seemed taken aback for a moment and then said, “yeah sure, but you’re still getting a diamond because I don’t want anyone thinking I’m cheap” 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 04:24 PM
3

See my update. Turns out he’s married to his “first” and it’s probably not going too well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 04:18 PM
5

Wtf.. I don’t understand the logic in telling a future partner that you would go back to your ex. Who the hell would want to start a relationship with someone like that? Glad they’re too dumb to know better though lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:54 PM
2

Thanks, I’m happy to hear you’ve moved up and out of that situation. I don’t have a single remaining friend from that time period and I’m very glad about it. The manipulation didn’t end until I deleted fb and cut all contact with those people. It was sad to me that they could be so easily duped by him while thinking the worst of me, but then I realized I don’t gain anything from having people around with such awful judgement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:43 PM
3

I lost all of my friends too, even friends i’d known longer than him— he was just such an expert victim, I couldn’t compete. I didn’t want to trash talk him, but it’s not like anyone bothered to ask what my side of the story anyway, so I just moved on. It hurt a lot though, and those were lonely times.. A part of me thinks that even if I had shared all of the screenshots of him calling me a wh*re when I didn’t pick up his call in my 5min break between summer classes, he would still have found a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:27 PM
6

He rly thought he had a point 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:01 PM
10

This is so true. I have never once looked back on a relationship and thought “if only I’d ...” because I went above and beyond while they did less than the bare minimum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:00 PM
9

The comment that set him off in the first place was me saying “I *wouldn’t take my exes back if they crawled to me on their knees”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 12:41 PM
19

My first bf was a classic sensitive jealous insecure man baby. Everyone in the damn world was mad when I broke up with him down to the school janitors— well sorry but just because someone opens your doors for you and wishes you a good morning every day doesn’t mean he’s a good person lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 12:39 PM
14

I honestly thought female orgasms were a myth until I met my second bf.. yeah I’m for sure not still in love with that dude 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 12:37 PM
14

UPDATE. Of course he tries to pretend he’s a woman at first lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 12:35 PM
4

men as a collective have a pact of silence Found this out firsthand when my ex cheated on me on a trip abroad with members of our mutual friend group (all guys). No one said a damn word about it and I had to find out from her a year later. Found out that day that mutual male “friends” are never your friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 12:56 AM
3

Damn that’s so disheartening... how did we get here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 10:01 AM
11

She’s much more careful now, but sadly still anti-FDS. I gently tried to convince her once that sending long paragraphs was a bad idea for multiple reasons, but she angrily insisted that she had a right to be “honest about her feelings”...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 10:00 AM
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No I’m fairly certain she was telling the truth. Besides not being the type to go for a married guy, she’s the type who wants a fairytale romance and husband to introduce to her parents. Plus she cried about it for at least two months after she found out :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 11:14 PM
13

Lmao yes to this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 11:12 PM
17

I absolutely love everything she does. She knows exactly how to say it without ever dropping her smile
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 09:52 PM
12

God I love her ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 09:51 PM
36

Some other options: do the dew get down to business make the beast with two backs get it on McLovin’ partake in a lovers embrace the Woodstock hello
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 09:38 PM
87

He looks like baby Leo Decaprio 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 09:30 PM
76

This dude somehow thinks that getting a woman pregnant is somehow related to her being sexually satisfied by him. If that were the case there would be like 30 people born a year
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 08:13 PM
24

What specialty is she? I can’t imagine the pressures of being a physician and then also being expected to be a right wing housewife on top of that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 08:10 PM
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I agree in cases like this where the other woman was knowingly complicit, but truly not every woman knows. A friend of mine met a guy on OLD who said he was in town on business for a week, and so they went on a couple of dates and had sex. Apparently she fell completely head over heels for the guy and he would say things to her like “I bet you’ll make a great mother some day” etc. so she started thinking LDR. Once he got on the plane back home, she got a text from the dudes 8 month pregnant wife…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 08:04 PM
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I will henceforth only refer to sex as “getting jiggy with it”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 05:46 PM
7

Men these days don’t know what “work” means. They want their fantasy of a woman who does all of the domestic work, but they’re not willing to lift a finger outside of their 9-5. Nope, not how that works at all. If your wife is on the job 24/7 then so are you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 05:11 PM
10

My grandfather built the house I grew up in with his bare hands in between deployments to the fucking army in wartime, and I never once caught him sleeping in, he was up at the crack of dawn tending his garden, repairing broken furniture, filing out paperwork etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 04:29 PM
130

Ladies, if a doctor or a broker asks you out to Applebee’s, it’s because he’s afraid of running into his wife
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 03:15 PM
4

I get better pick up lines from the residents of the nursing home I volunteer at lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 03:13 PM
2

I would argue that those subs are also guilty of emblazoning the NPD label on anyone who meets the criteria of selfish asshole. NPD has a very specific definition and requires clinical experience to treat, but most of the stories on there the narcs are diagnosed by people who are far from objective experts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 01:17 PM
9

White supremacists I thought?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 01:03 PM
4

I had a male friend in college who would do this with pretty much every woman who spoke to him— no exaggeration. He was obese and had poor hygiene but somehow still made “jokes” to us that the girl he’d been talking to “wants the D”. For a long time I assumed it was just a weird self-deprecating joke, because how could it not be? But one day I started talking about a female friend of mine, and he said he remembered meeting her once, but he didn’t remember aside from the fact that she was flirtin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:48 PM
2

has OP’s BF had abusive tendencies in the last 7 months? And yet again, Reddit misunderstands abuse and abusers. They don’t start on day 1, and there’s often no warning signs unless you know what to look for, and of course if you point out any of those signs (like pouting, obtrusive questions, cancelling/making plans last minute or the very subtle: literally attempting to drown her) men like this will call you hysterical and paranoid. I hope this poor girl finds a way out before he hurts her irr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:19 PM
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This— but also don’t beat yourself up if you can’t block right away. It’s normal and natural to feel anxious because it’s a very “final” decision. Instead, just reach out to your friends/community, journal about your feelings and experience, and work on self improvement however you can. Eventually you’ll find that the feelings that kept you tied to him were built on lies in the first place and the decision will be easy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 09:00 PM
4

That’s disgusting. Abuse is so normalized in our society, and yet they all preach and preach about “family values” and “log kya shochenge” until they’re blue in the face. Such hypocrites, I can’t stand it. I’ve gotten so much crap from my family for not being married yet, but I just tell them again and again I’ve learned for their mistakes and I won’t marry to make anyone happy but myself. I don’t think anything will change until we all are brave enough to reject those losers and tell them exact…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 08:34 PM
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Ha! I know right? I’m supposed to be grateful that he would “allow” me to go out with my friends and wouldn’t physically assault me when he’s mad lmao. I never got past a month with any of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 07:25 PM
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It’s great that you not only see the progress you’ve made, but realize how broken and toxic your feelings towards women were before these life changing events. The crux of your mindset shift was being able to empathize with real women and not feminine caricatures created by angry misogynistic men. Not every man has access to these experiences, and it would be silly to expect every man/boy to find a similar workplace situation. The best advice I can offer in order to build empathy is to read. Rea…
/r/askFDS24/08/20 03:20 PM
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This is the real solution here. Seems like he does realize how much work it takes to plan and execute an entire meal but wants to fob it all off to his wife. If he complains about the money then he’s very welcome to take over those duties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 01:15 PM
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I like how he’s simultaneously, “good with instructions” but also can’t follow a fucking recipe unless it’s “simple” and his wife goes out of her way to find it for him first (and probably buy all of the ingredients beforehand too)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 01:09 PM
14

Yeah I’m leaving too.. When I’m at a new guy’s place for the first time I vet the area by imagining that I’m moving in tomorrow, and that this is the level of care that he’s willing to dedicate to make me comfortable. If the decor is nonexistent, bathroom is dirty, trash needs to be taken out, papers are disorganized, then all of that work will clearly be on my plate, since I can’t live like that. Not to mention that the first time you’re at his place is probably the “best” it’ll ever be, so tak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 01:01 PM
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Yeah, it would probably be something closer to what Delores from Westworld has to endure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 12:38 PM
14

I wouldn’t ever fault anyone for having physical preferences, but as others have pointed out, this can often be a bit more sinister than just looks and be an indication of racist and misogynistic views. A lot of men fetishize women from other races because they only get a “pornified” caricature of them. Like a lot of white guys might think Asian girls are meek and subservient, a lot of South Asian guys think that white girls have no self respect and sleep with anyone. When they actually meet sai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 01:31 AM
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While I agree with the other posters that these questions can be a fishing expedition, I think it’s still possible to answer honestly while protecting yourself. Just keep the answers general like, “I’m looking for a partner who is respectful, generous and kind” and if they press for details just turn it back on them and ask what they think defines a “respectful” man etc. If he starts to dig too incessantly then you know he’s got an ulterior motive, and proceed with caution if at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 01:04 AM
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Sadly this mindset starts to make sense if you realize they don’t see sex as something you do with someone, but to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 01:00 AM
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Lmao she’s hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 12:57 AM
34

Yup, complete sociopath. Not that much money though since he’d just graduated. Learned my lesson..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 11:55 PM
53

And this guy was a fucking neurosurgeon lol. He was like the real life version of Jekyll and Hyde
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 11:51 PM
97

And men won’t bat an eyelash to let you do it either. I had an ex who had a severe pot addiction and used to keep a significant amount at home at all times. Once I stepped out of his apartment to run to the corner store for a couple of minutes and noticed a bunch of cops entering the building on my way out. I was a bit shaken and asked him if he knew what was up, he said no and I left it at that. When I got back 15 min later, I noticed that my purse had been moved and when I went to look, I saw …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 10:52 PM
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Much respect to her producer for cutting that guy off immediately too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 05:15 PM
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That’s true. According to her, he’s unemployed and she supports the both of them, and who knows how long he’s been riding that gravy train, so of course he kept his true beliefs bottled up. Looks like he’s starting to uncork a bit and see how much he can get away with now that he’s convinced that she won’t leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 04:21 PM
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LOL! I love that so much. Good for you! I used to get my ex expensive gifts as well, like a nice leather wallet when his was worn out, or a new pair of shoes etc but all I ever got in return was a cheap purse from the sale rack, and of course the classic “pick a fight the week before and conveniently not mention gifts at all.” I firmly believe that gift giving is a very telling indication of how much effort they’re willing to put into the relationship. Men who are “bad at gifts” are usually just…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:39 PM
25

It’s meant to look that way while not actually doing anything of the sort. Just a way to break the ice without saying anything of substance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:08 PM
27

Lmao that part caught my eye too. Not once does he mention what he thinks might interest her in him, and reading between the lines it seems like there’s not much there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:06 PM
4

He was deliberately and calculatingly trying to hurt you and make you feel insecure about your looks. Why would someone who loves you do something like that? Why would someone who respects your mind and soul want to make you unhappy about your body or insecure about his affections? Would you want a person you loved to suffer in order to manipulate them into seeking your approval? Would you continue to hurt someone you loved in a manner which they’d already expressed was unbearable to them? I thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:54 PM
8

I have a friend with untreated BPD, and she’s a boss-level pickme. Her only hobby seems to be dating and swiping through OLD apps. She starts off every encounter by playing the “cool girl” but then catches feelings the moment they hint at attachment and anchors her entire life and self-worth around these random strangers. Icing on the cake, she’ll sleep with them 1st or 2nd date but professes to me that she “doesn’t enjoy sex”... it’s truly heartbreaking but she refuses to get help because she “…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:38 PM
12

She’s young, and enjoying the attention she gets from thirsty incels on youtube, so I can’t really blame her. It’s obvious after hearing her comments on the “you seem like a sweet girl” post that doesn’t have the life experience to read between the lines. “Just trying to be nice” is such an age old excuse for misogyny and patronizing speech but it still takes experience to see the subtext. Hopefully she’ll disillusion herself from this idea that men deserve the benefit of the doubt before she ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:23 PM
8

Apparently her sister has been engaged for 5-6 years so therefore it doesn’t matter what tokens of commitment are offered because he pRoMIsEd lmao! As GRRM says, “words are wind” and that’s all a promise ever is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:20 PM
20

Haven’t met any personally.. they’re all manipulative mammas boys who cry if you point at a dirty dish. Some of them know how to ‘talk’ like HVM, but the minute they think they’ve got you pinned down, all of that falls off and it’s time to be the good little wife they expect. I have a friend who was recently duped into marrying a guy like this. He acted like he was ‘modern’ and laid back, but as the wedding approached he went back to ignoring the chores, expecting her to cook all of the meals, e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 01:36 PM
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Big fucking mood
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 11:38 AM
1

Whaaa?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:09 AM
13

Which is sadly true :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:06 AM
53

Sorry for not realizing you’re so sensitive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 06:44 PM
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Not just porn, but even traditional media, like movies in which 50 yr old actors are paired with 25 yr old actresses and no one bats an eye or even so much as addresses it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 06:41 PM
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I also loved the little mermaid growing up, and in my head I always imagined that Ariel is just in love with the idea of land and human culture, and Eric is just the excuse she needed to go for her true ambitions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 06:39 PM
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That’s a great question! Unfortunately I don’t know of any resources specific to this particular subject, but a lot of books written by WOC touch on these subjects among others. One that I love a lot is Infidel by Ayaan Hirsi Ali Infidel https://www.amazon.com/dp/0743289692/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_h4eqFb45BSRZ4
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 10:42 PM
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Honestly that entire comment section is just hilarious, but this one definitely takes the cake: Jeepers my high libido female brain thinks that plumbers are crazy sexy hot but my brain does tend to fill in a lot of blanks on your behalf lol i mean, if you can somehow finangle your way around installing a kitchen faucet think of what you could do with me ;) Manual dexterity and manual competence is a very sexy thing on a man holy shit But i am high libido and I think of sex first and lifestyle af…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 10:37 PM
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Ikr? When he told me that I was so grossed out. Like, dude, I reeeeally did not need to know that about you at all 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 09:11 PM
8

For sure, I’m cutting him out permanently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 09:08 PM
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Honestly I’d be fine splitting every check as long as the dude 100% matches my energy. I’m wearing makeup and doing my brows for dates? He better not be walking around with caterpillars over his eyes and visible nose hair. I’m spending $100 on a haircut and color? He better be getting biweekly trims and making sure it’s well styled when we’re out. I’m doing the dishes? He’d better be doing the cooking. I’m vacuuming? He’d better be dusting. I’m doing laundry? He’d better be folding/hanging. I’m …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 09:06 PM
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I have a friend who’s a bit like what you’re describing. We’ve been friends on and off for years, but he’s confessed multiple times to “liking” me too much to be friends, after which he said he couldn’t keep in contact with me. I was hurt at the time but respected his decisions and cut off contact, but he then got back into touch with me a few years later and I thought maybe he’d grow up a bit and matured. Nope. At first he was fine, but soon he started giving unsolicited critiques about some of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 07:50 PM
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While it is true that all of these issues (including sexism) can all be attributed to in-group biases of some sort, I personally feel that this classification is reductive and not very useful. All of these “isms” have their own traditions and have evolved differently depending on the culture they’re housed within. It smacks too much of “egalitarianism not feminism” type thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:18 PM
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I’m in almost literally the same boat, so I know what you mean. I remember some of my ex’s seeing pictures of my dad and making snide comments about how they couldn’t believe we were related— really left a bad taste in my mouth and really pissed me off to see “modern” men think and talk like that. For us, the colonialism dates back several centuries because of the Mughal invasion in the 1500’s and then European colonialism after that, so it almost feels like an inescapable part of our culture so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 03:26 PM
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Lol, my ex would give his number/fb info out to pretty much any girl that would talk to him. He used his job title and single status to lure in women who were looking for a husband and string them along. I eventually stopped believing his excuses (just friends, my mom forced me to talk to her, she’s helping me with my visa so I have to be nice, etc) and broke it off, but not before I got their names and messaged them all screenshots of his texts begging me to come back and how none of them meant…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 03:00 PM
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Good to know! I strongly believe that these issues will only be countered by us speaking out about them without shame. There’s such rampant colourism in my community that we literally have constant tv ads for skin bleaching, and people include their skin tone in dating/marriage ads 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:52 PM
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Colourism is a strange subject for me because it’s like a mix of internalized racism and classism (al least it is for Asian cultures like mine). So it’s always hard to talk to white people about it because they want to see it as a monolithic issue when it’s really many intersecting issues at once. They always try to use the white ideal of ‘bronzed skin’ as a counter, but that doesn’t apply to us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:40 PM
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“Respect” = obey
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:08 AM
5

🧟‍♂️ nuuudes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:06 AM
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