It's the captain speaking

AbundantOverflow · 2020-09-05T23:16:43+00:00

This is important. Too many women let men figure themselves out, figure out what they want, or grow up on their watches. Learn to be repulsed by a man’s confusion instead of leaning in to convince, perform, teach, persuade, nurture or cajole. HVM know what they want, and when they don’t, they don’t loiter in people’s lives playing games trying to sort themselves out.

lunar_topaz · 2020-09-05T23:06:27+00:00

This is a good analogy, actually.

Now that I've started to change the way in which I think (thank you, FDS), I'm starting to have so much regret over how much of my time I gave to people who didn't deserve it. I still have a tendency to hold on to people for too long, but I'm working on it.

shortywannarock · 2020-09-06T13:50:03+00:00

This goes for platonic relationships as well. If your friend is going through a hard time, then by all means help them out, but if they never stop going through hard times you have to decide if they’re just unwilling or unable to progress, and if so they’ll drag you down with them.

Pasdepromesses · 2020-09-05T22:49:36+00:00

I like him too. He’s the weirdest mix of a LVM and a HVM at the same time.

Thucydideez- · 2020-09-06T01:48:09+00:00

This is so true. The person I'm with seemed to have his life together until we got married and I realized he has a lot to figure out still. It hurts to feel blindsided but I'm going to have to move on. Life's too short to prop someone up while they finish becoming a whole person.

30SomethingScouse · 2020-09-06T05:29:29+00:00

Never before has a traffic warden seemed such a desirable career...

0kfornow · 2020-09-06T09:27:04+00:00

God I wish the captain had told me this three years ago

Title	It's the captain speaking
Author	ladyyninjaa
Upvotes	565
Comments	13
Date	September 5, 2020 10:45 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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