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MALE DEPRAVITYPinkFurLookinLikeCam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 08:41 PM
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REMINDER 👑PinkFurLookinLikeCam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:27 PM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEPinkFurLookinLikeCam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:49 PM
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STAY WOKEPinkFurLookinLikeCam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:55 PM
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QUEEN SH*TPinkFurLookinLikeCam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:34 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?PinkFurLookinLikeCam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:44 PM
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Story time ☕PinkFurLookinLikeCam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 01:45 PM
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RANTPinkFurLookinLikeCam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 06:02 PM
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NAH, SISPinkFurLookinLikeCam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:06 PM
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LIES MEN TELLPinkFurLookinLikeCam/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 01:59 AM
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They became mods, removed all the mods they didn’t like, took user submitted stuff, and then moved off reddit to sell it back to us, all while pretending that they invented every facet of fds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/23 01:58 PM
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Don’t worry, you’re not missing out. I paid for the Patreon like a sucker for like 4 months. All they do is read articles once a week and call it good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/23 06:16 PM
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My issue with fds, which I couldn’t see until I followed them off reddit to the app, is that theyre actually not concerned with what women actually want. Theyre concerned with a specific set of standards and morals that they lay out for women to follow. Polyamory? No. “Scrotation” with no communication to all partners? Yes, apparently. Marriage? BAD. Savannah’s sister is married? Then marriage GOOD. Babies? BAD. Personal life plan? BAD, if it includes babies. Sex? BAD. Unless it’s missionary, wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/23 06:04 PM
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I gave up recently on FDS after a solid 3 years following and sending friends to it. They’re picking at the most random shit and …well let me stop here, I don’t want no fds drama I already saw how nasty they are off reddit 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/23 05:46 PM
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Yeah this. I love the podcast and FDS has literally been everything to me but she’s been giving “not like other girls” for a minute now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/22 08:31 PM
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I needed to read this post SO bad..thank you 🙏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 02:30 AM
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I’m convinced Jedi are all trained and manipulated into being sociopaths. I’m not impressed with their holier-than-thou, ultra zen but still pressed about being better than you, bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 04:31 PM
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The best thing I ever did for friendships was to stop being a pick me friend. I started meeting friends who respect me, reply to my texts, and are on time for meet ups. Just don’t be a pick-me in life for anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:42 PM
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Yoooo the last one is so spot on lmao. They really do be trying it. And my husband is high value so the jealousy is outrageous with women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:06 PM
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I’m so sorry to you too that your first birth experience was so dehumanizing and inhuman. Even animals are cared for better during childbirth!! It’s just such a miracle that your second birth went well- although this all is to say that women are routinely at the mercy of whatever mood people are in at L&D! And to them it’s a shift; but to us, it’s traumatizing and scarring. That was with my second and last kid, I’m done 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 04:17 AM
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💕💕💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 11:26 PM
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When I was pushing out my second child, the L&D nurse told me to “keep it down” and I “don’t need to yell”. She also attempted to block my husband from plugging in my heating blanket. He ended up yelling at her and telling her to stay away from me at all times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 10:56 PM
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Thank you so much ❤️ my life is honestly so much healthier after cutting my entire family off 7 years ago and never looking back. Family is trash, with Pick Me moms being probably the worst of it. I’m so sorry you dealt with the same thing. Your strength for leaving was a reflection their weakness smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 10:35 PM
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Usually the moms end up seeing the daughters as competition. After I told my mom about my abuse (I was 10 when I told her, mind you) she kicked me out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 10:15 PM
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I love Meg too. I think she’s a breathe of fresh air and so sweet while also being a bad bitch and knowing her worth💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:37 PM
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My ex from 15 years ago still tries to friend me on social media. He must still not accept we broke up, RIP to his common sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:28 PM
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🎯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:16 PM
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While every single word of your comment is completely correct; I do wanna point out just from experience that whenever I’ve had the flu, I barely have the energy for a slice of toast. Actually as far as sick food goes, this looks good because anything too rich would make me hurl. Bland soup with bland rice. Leave the avocado though, that’s too rich. So while men do get to make lower efforts with higher praise; I also think that this is legitimately sick food 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 11:59 AM
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Your manicure is so beautiful 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 12:36 PM
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I’ve recently kicked out more pick me’s from life because they got irrationally angry when I said that I don’t give head. I’ve been married for 10 years and for some reason it’s a challenge for them to accept this. I give head when I want to. It’s a special thing, not the norm. I’m not going to prime him so much that he’s already on the edge by the time we start. He goes down on me most of the time, because he understand that my orgasms are important while his are inevitable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:41 PM
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I don’t give head anymore except for when I personally decide to do so. I know many pick mes who swear that I must suck in bed or I don’t care about the man; and yet I’ve been married to a HVM for a decade while they’re all still hopping from man to man performing all kinds of specialized sex acts hoping to be eaten out at least once. We are not the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 01:52 PM
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This is sending me, cause I always have a thing about chins when I’m making a sim😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 03:51 PM
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Not who you asked but an ex was a submissive and demanded that we get into BDSM. It was literally just work, while he reaped all the benefits. I hated it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 01:50 PM
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She cooked for him, and waited 7 years for his ass😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 11:14 AM
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Also men: DUh womenz hate nice guys😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 11:20 AM
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This why I love y’all and scrotes can live in a dumpster for all I care 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 10:57 AM
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We don’t “need” to do anything, first off. In my case I kind of did approach my husband, but that was after a few days of us both flirting and I was already interested in him for a while. We do what we want to do and what feels right and emotionally safe for us. Whew chile so early in the morning for these scrotes to start up. So now we NEED to approach them too? Whilst also parenting them??🚮🚮🚮🚮🚮🚮🚮🚮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 10:51 AM
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That’s the one 😍🥰🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 03:12 PM
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Oh see that was my mistake, I need to approach this like a podcast 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 02:40 PM
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Dang I liked it up until number 4, when I realized the movie clips were endless 😕 he’s absolutely correct though, and he should defidently create a more concise checklist with short summaries of each.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 02:30 PM
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My husband and I prefer mostly the making love type of sex. However we’ve been together for such a long time, we’ve grown together and have (as a couple) tried interesting things. Some things work for us, some dont; but we went through those decisions together as a couple. I’ll be damned if he started talking about some fetish on a first date. Those are things that should arrive in the bedroom with time, as the couple develop love and trust and have open dialogue about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:24 PM
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This. I had an ex who insisted on doing BDSM. It was so annoying to do all the work, and never get off because there was just so much role playing. He was lazy and just wanted to be pampered. It’s a scam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:17 PM
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Recently I had some friends talk about how they’re all into BDSM, asking me if I am. I said no, never have and never will. They acted shocked, as if not liking BDSM is the same as vanilla/missionary/sex only for procreation (which btw, none of those are bad things). BDSM used to be considered this niche fetish that only some were into (I think that’s why it’s called a fetish? Because it’s niche and not really what the average person is going to be into); and now it’s basically considered your st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 11:54 AM
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I really thought that giving head like a porn star meant I was special or something. And with a lot of women being told this, men have been winning 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 04:14 PM
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I think it’s pretty clear I was being facetious about the HR department.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 01:36 PM
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This is actually why I am dumbfounded that Mark Wahlberg is even taken seriously. He is (was?) a racist who beat up black people and has a long list of hate crimes behind him. He has no value as a person based off that, and yet this has been completely forgotten unless you know to Google it. Because he’s so cuuuute🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 12:56 AM
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Oh absolutely, I was there as well. I feel so awful for her because I truly believe she has boundaries but doesn’t know that she can absolutely enforce them ...I really hope she levels up and treats herself better 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 10:03 PM
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Our love is a drug?? JFC I’m so sorry, that’s really awkward 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 10:00 PM
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So I’m thinking about both Joker and Suicide Squad. Joker depicted him as a misunderstood loner who had a mental illness that “elevated” him and made him crazy enough to make sense, so people followed his craziness and burned the entire city down (this is just for scrotes that never leave the house and have zero social skills so now they can claim they’re like the joker). Suicide Squad depicted his “romance” with Harley Quinn. She was his therapist and he basically tormented and mentally abused …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:45 PM
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One good thing about that movie, it’s been WAY easier to out all the pickmeishas. I don’t wanna argue with anyone about how iTs jUsT mEnTaL iLLnEsS and he didn’t abuse her until she broke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 10:54 AM
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What I don’t like is that now we’re suppose to call it “sex work” and parrot the phrase “sex work is legitimate work”. Like ok if it’s legitimate work, then why isn’t it a potential career path at colleges? Why are there no tax forms or HR department? Why is there no company health insurance?oh, right. Because it’s not a legitimate career. Women aren’t dreaming of becoming prostitutes. Women are forced into prostitution by way of sexual slavery and sex trafficking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:48 AM
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I always knew therapists were peddling trash. I haven’t found one therapist that was even willing to talk about my childhood abuse and rapes. They usually go straight into medications and mindfulness. Because mindfulness is going to change the fact that I still haven’t had a chance to work through so much trauma. And on that note, I know this will sound controversial, but I rarely appreciate when someone tells me to try mindfulness as if it’s a special Yugioh card for keeping people at an emotio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 11:36 PM
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Thanks so much for that 💕 and muting is great for people who can’t be cut off for whatever reason. They get an answer whenever you might feel like it, and that could be days 🤷🏻‍♀️ people get real uncomfortable when the tables turn and they aren’t getting immediate replies back when they’re used to leaving you on read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 04:11 PM
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A while ago a friend did this to me so I did it to her and for a while she started being attentive and answering. But then at a certain point it went back to how it was, until she left me on read when I told her my mammogram came out clean. After that I realized that they enjoy being chased, and they’ll chase just enough to get you to chase back. Those aren’t friends. I either cut people off or I muted all my texts and people just never know when to expect an answer at this point lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:21 PM
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Jfc the accuracy. I started muting most of my texts and now that I rarely answer texts anymore, people are suddenly very attentive and have their phones on them to send a god damn text. That gets ignored 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:18 PM
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FDS has been a godsend for ALL types of relationships. I’m finally setting real, solid boundaries with people and they’re not liking it one bit. People who used to have 24/7 access to me to make me feel like garbage are now scrambling to find someone else to abuse. Not my problem anymore🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:16 PM
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Yup this is true. Any time I’ve ever tried to be a good friend and let them know, it’s always blown up in my face. Last time I found out something about a friends husband cheating I cut them both off. I don’t wanna be the one to get blamed for telling her and he was trash to me by that point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:28 PM
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Why do people do that it’s super obnoxious 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:19 PM
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I know why I do this, but it’s weird how men literally never have a good reason to do this lol. I do this because anytime I haven’t, people will look at my phone and make whatever is on the screen a whole entire topic. Scroll through random insta pics and get badgered and questioned about whatever random thing that popped up, like I dunno why that’s there you should ask whoever owns the account???. So now I just angle it away, I really don’t care for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:35 PM
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Sis clocked me with the attachment style 😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 09:40 PM
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And the second you establish even a basic boundary that should already be there, they throw up their hands and act like you’re too much to deal with and walk off in order to make you feel like you overreacted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 11:49 AM
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Thanks 😍🌊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 10:51 AM
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This is how I cut off friends, as I also attract narcs due to the same upbringing as OP. I literally use to wring my hands about what emoji to use in order to come off as friendly and agreeable no matter what the situation was and how awful the abuse was, and this type of obsession spread across all interactions, which led to toxic abusive friends. These people relished the power they had over me, to watch me squirm in discomfort and wallow in sadness. Blocking is freedom, baby💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 10:13 AM
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You’re entire life story is so eerily close to mine, I could have written it. I’m so proud of you ❤️ my current situation isn’t exactly the same, but the sentiment still stands. I literally don’t put up with shit, because I don’t have to 🙂 due to that, I quickly learned that it’s actually men who argue. Not women. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 10:07 AM
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Oh no I understand you, I’m sorry 😕 those phrases are used to attack and demean black women, that’s so true. I think here the commenter didn’t mean any harm but I see what you’re saying. I’m sorry ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 02:56 PM
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I dunno, I truly believe the commenter was describing males in general and how they get in your face and fling their feces at you. Just how it read to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 12:57 PM
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And best part is, it’s a very quick procedure that’s usually done awake- so there’s even less complications. Usually about 15 minutes. And everything operates the same, so he won’t tell the difference - semen is still semen, it just doesn’t have any DNA material in it 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 03:53 PM
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It’s a joke when it doesn’t work a lot of the time and it makes us sick. They need to do better if we’re going to be taking BC. The concept isn’t a joke, the execution is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:35 PM
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It’s so awful, BC is a joke. Makes you feel depressed, hungry, sick, and not horny. Plus, it fails a lot 🙃 nope. Husband got a vasectomy as soon as I asked him to get one, right after our second and last child. College tuition is too much to be popping out babies left and right plus it’s dangerous and wears our bodies down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 11:46 AM
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I use FDS for ALL my interactions and relationships- Ive recently pretty much cleaned house and booted all the toxic friends that caused me extreme anxiety. I’m starting at somewhat of a clean slate currently. Scary, but anxiety is down so I did something right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 11:36 PM
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This hit, sis. Damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 11:33 PM
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Eh it’s all well and good that she turned on him especially the horrible way he clowned her but I think any type of violence just makes me uncomfy. I personally wouldn’t do that to any of my exes, even the most abusive ones, because I have humanity in me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:03 PM
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This that r / red pill women bullshit 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 10:59 AM
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I legitimately believe that federal drinking age should be 25. Brains aren’t even fully developed until that age and many women are pressured to be the cool girl that keeps up with the boys, so that the boys can take advantage of her without a fight. I don’t even understand the point of taking shots anymore, I feel so dumb for taking shots just to feel drunker faster...and it was all pressure to fit in and not be the sober one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 10:57 AM
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What’s sad to me is that I do like the idea of younger teens having access unlimited to the internet in theory. It all goes out the window once pornhub and social media get involved. In my head I’m thinking they have research to learn about things that they otherwise wouldn’t have access to learn. For example when I was younger I was very curious about using psychedelics to escape mentally. I was able to get a ton of research in (I was 14, mind you) and I concluded that psychedelics weren’t for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 10:53 AM
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Oof Hard Candy was intense but worth a couple of watches just to feel like I wasn’t insane for feeling groomed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 10:44 AM
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No this place doesn’t exist, you are clearly delusional and invented this place completely in your head. Go speak to a therapist. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:52 PM
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So there are a few things that can help drastically- keeping a normal BMI (this isn’t a judgement on weight, it just helps is all) not drinking or keeping drinking to a minimum sleeping on your side rather than go to bed dead tired exhausted, go to bed when you’re reasonably tired. If my husband drinks, hell stay awake until he’s more or less sober instead of just passing out into the bed. These things have helped so drastically, that it makes me wonder why people even snore lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 11:30 PM
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The women here are so level headed and honestly sweet and kind. I don’t think on my ~7 years on this site have I met a group of women who so consistently want the best for other women and for me ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 08:50 PM
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Do 👏🏼it👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 08:05 PM
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ITs aLwAyS tAcO tUeSdaY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:01 PM
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I’m a bitch. My husband, when we were dating, would keep me up ALL NIGHT with his snoring. So I recorded his snoring and played it for him whenever he snored so he could have the same sleep I had 🙂 there are ways to address snoring, they otherwise literally don’t care. My husband got the hint and made some adjustments and now he really only snores maybe once a month for like 5 minutes (when he’s very tired + he’s had a couple of drinks usually causes it, but it stops because he turns to his side…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:37 AM
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He probably really did build the house. The house building kits were around for decades, I personally know people who’s grandparents built their houses with those kits. Except that time frame was an awful time to live and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, so it’s always sus when males bring up 1950s housewives 🥴 But now we want actual human rights, which to them means they can start punching us again and and we pay for everything while they play video games and demand BDSM every night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 10:58 AM
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😭😭😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 10:51 AM
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Cause the wife wanted to score points and be nOt LiKe oThEr GiRLs (WiVeS)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 10:24 AM
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Why do all men snore 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 10:12 AM
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I don’t shave anymore once I figured out that hairless is honestly a lil gross if you really think about it 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:51 AM
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You’re right about this, I take precautions with my son. I don’t stand in the way of his feelings and validate and protect him early on (if I think my husband was wrong about something I’ll step in, fuck the unified front nonsense) cause I know that mommy issues affect men very badly. I encourage him to take good care of his sister in the form of chivalry and openness. I’ve explained to him that his sister loves to hear that he loves her, so he says it to her freely. So far so good, he’s very sw…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:39 AM
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Yuck. Expect the very victims of this policy to now have twice the babies with multiple males?? Jesus fucking Christ how gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:57 PM
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I love that we’re getting real meta😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:31 PM
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You made me realize some things sis, bless you AND your kin AND your dog🙏🏼💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:37 PM
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Yes this is very true and often overlooked. I see people who will grandstand about what someone else’s intentions are or yOu doNt kNoW wHaT tHeYrE gOiNg tHrOuGh and there’s no real benefit to that argument except to make them feel mature and enlightened but usually all it does it victim blame 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 07:36 PM
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I’m so glad you came here! I really hope that you feel a sisterhood here ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:11 AM
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This the real reason 💯 it’s not because they’re “mature”, it’s actually because they’re not mature enough and don’t know any better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:05 PM
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That last part - so true. W2 really seemed triggered by W1’s LVM, to the point of getting into how emotionally unavailable her father was - but then making excuses for it. Sis is hurting and she’s gonna keep being hurt because of the trauma inflicted by all the men in her life unless she steps up and says no more 💔 I know someone who doesn’t fit the criteria in the DSM but also he seems to have a real consistent issue with showing ANY type of emotion so it makes sense that he doesn’t have the an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:04 PM
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Soooo well said, in every way. I also just at a basic level have a problem with people who need to play some sort of Devil’s Advocate, especially when they don’t know the person and it doesn’t even benefit them to do it. W1 sounded so sweet just talking about this guy and W2 seemed to be doing that, to your point, to project her own issues and absolve a man she hasn’t even met (based on more of their conversation, she doesn’t know what he looks like so she hasn’t met him indeed). This is what so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:14 PM
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You’re welcome ❤️ but also a HUGE thank you for this post because I feel like I can always learn or ALWAYS have a reminder of these things. Like it’s crazy how easy it is to slip into a comfort zone in a relationship where this behavior seems normal or not at all problematic. I love this sub, I love you women for keeping me on the right path❤️💯💅🏼 Edit: ok I had to repost this because I commented wrong and it wasn’t visible 🤦🏻‍♀️💆🏻‍♀️🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:41 PM
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No no no this is beyond fucked up and I’m so sorry you experienced this omg ...All kinds of signals are going off about this for me, I’m soooo glad that abusive POS was kicked to the curb!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:53 PM
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And you felt crazy by design, not because you were crazy 😤 this was ALL well said sis 💯💯 it needs its own post tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 01:11 PM
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Damn you spoke facts down to the tears even. And then they proudly puff up their chest and say “I don’t cry, I’m not emotional like that.” Meanwhile you’re crying because there is a literal hole in the wall made by his fist, which is an indirect threat to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:36 AM
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Girl yes!! Especially when they use you emotionally and unload on you but then turn their backs once you need them?! Like no fuck that. FDS has been a godsend for friendships!!❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 02:26 AM
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Why am I just seeing this!!!! FDS is a total game changer for me all around 💯 for all relationship types
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 12:41 AM
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Once I found out this secret, I was so weirded out. I give no reaction or I tell them to leave the room (so I can react alone) and suddenly it’s all flipped and he’s open to communication and worried about me. K.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 08:59 PM
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Omg like a decade ago there was this guy I was chasing for years, he dangled the carrot at me every so often. Once he told me that he “wouldn’t be with a woman who refused anal” and “totally didnt want me to do anal just because he said that”, the pick me went into overdrive to prove that I would do anal. We did anal (I had done it before but never fucking liked it one bit. It was an older boyfriend who manipulated me into it) and it sucked and was humiliating. I was so angry that I never spoke …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 08:45 PM
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Exactly. Trust AND believe me when I say that helping them through trauma is the last way to get them (unless you’re married and the marriage is a healthy one where he’s also helping you as well).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 08:19 PM
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And we don’t even have the luxury of “overreacting” like men do, since we’re usually attacked whenever we react appropriately to anything! Men can react however they wish, since they know nothing will happen to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 06:23 PM
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But mUh wErE nOt eXCLuSiVe🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:30 PM
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Omg same. It’s sad, how there are some very hard core pickmeishas there and they’re otherwise so nice so I wish they’d level up. ALL OF THEM indicated that they had some very small, hairless vulva, which is actually quite scary ..to want a LVM that demands a child like body part. Major yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 03:48 PM
3

It was so bad and they make a post like that once a week too, but I just report them and my friend removes them smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 03:15 PM
3

For real 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:39 PM
3

I don’t have twitter either😅 I got this from insta. And clearly she is a goddess💯💅🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:38 PM
22

This also applies to friends. I ain’t chasing down someone for a friendship if they’re not showing interest, arriving at the function at the agreed upon time, or making an effort to build the friendship too🤷🏻‍♀️ Don’t forget ladies, we also need surround ourselves with friends who care about us as much as we care for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:39 PM
20

Imagine being a father and bonding with the baby and doing skin to skin as often as possible. A concept.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:53 PM
28

I agree. I’ll admit that I got lucky in several ways with my two kids so if I were ever alone I don’t think it would be too hard. But the reality of most child rearing is that it’s a difficult task that quite literally takes a village. And the average woman is suppose to trust that she’ll always have help and support when she’s risking her health and body for his LeGaCiEs??? Because I see way too many single mothers who are married to absent fathers. That’s 👏🏼why👏🏼we👏🏼vet👏🏼so👏🏼hard👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:17 PM
21

True queen moves 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 02:58 PM
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Im in a Facebook group and there was a post with drawings of various vulvas, asking women to state which was theirs. The OP said that if any woman had any of the vulvas that appeared bigger (I don’t even wanna repeat all the gross terms they use but you know the ones) that those women should k-ll themselves. Over a vulva. Something that has zero to do with ability to Orgasm nor number of partners. Of course all the pick me’s readily stated all of the conventionally accepted ones, to the point wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 01:41 PM
6

Not my LVM George Costanza🤣🤣🤣😂😂 Edit: ok he needs to be THE FACE of the typical LVM because he’s trash yet somehow had women in numbers lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 02:08 AM
9

Thank you for this, this is true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 01:53 AM
21

My ex who was ~enlightened~ and obsessed with David Icke and Illuminati conspiracies always talked about how everyone was “trapped in the box” and he wasn’t. Turned out he was violent against literally every woman in his life, including his mother, who’s hip he broke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 09:38 PM
42

Also I think men cheat to feel more manly and wanted and they also love the idea of keeping a secret. Because years ago I had concrete proof that an ex cheated, me being a pickmeisha, I didn’t confront him and instead asked if he wanted an open relationship. He starkly, definitively, angrily said NO. It was about the secret, because he didn’t want it out in the open.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:21 PM
2

Tbh that comes from my bi-sexuality deadass 😅 but I agree that you’re right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:16 PM
49

Ok cause the side gossip is actually a good point, and fuels these theories that males post online about cheating bitches and unfair divorce. My husband came home a few weeks ago with some work gossip. He said that a co-workers wife randomly cheated on him when he left for a business trip and now he says that she’s super angry and bitter and trying to take everything, down to some expensive collectibles he has. I explained to him that it doesn’t make sense that she would cheat and then be so agg…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:07 PM
70

Plus why do the work of finding a lawyer, initiating filing, figuring out what comes next, mauling it over for months to years...when someone else can? Like literally scrotes will stay in a marriage because it’s too easy to stay and they don’t think the woman is important or threatening enough to worry about the headache of divorce. And then when the divorce doesn’t go their way, it’s mUh uNfAiR cUsToDy and dUh wOmEnZ hAvE dUh aDvAntAge on all the typical subs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:55 PM
34

Women are just so beautiful and 99% of men just can’t measure up😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:38 AM
25

I ..I...😟
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:59 AM
147

Dobby gonna have to punish himself most grievously for this one 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:26 PM
14

And that’s on period DOT💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:20 PM
6

It’s so chill!! I actually love going to the gym on my time and not waiting on anyone, that’s one nice perk 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:50 PM
37

This the one. I’ve had to recently completely clean house and say goodbye to all of my friends. I have attachment disorder and I also have a need to be confirmed, validated, and loved by people who push me away. all of the people I was “friends” with were treating me like dog shit and while I completely aware of this, I still had that tiny voice in the back of my head telling me to gain that love, any way possible. I even reached out to one friend during a really suicidial depression and she tol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:45 PM
58

🤏🏼👀🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 08:55 PM
2

Yeah it’s so cute too - I swear all kids are just so interested in what the grown ups are doing, so if you start early, they don’t really know that they’re learning real life skills 🤣 actually now that I think of it, that means these moms literally deny their kids this when they’re little, because it’s so common for them to want to do what mom/dad is doing! It starts with “no, you cant toss that shirt into the wash/no just go eat and I’ll clean up the toys” and ends up with “honey toss me this w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 06:17 PM
16

Jfc the slut walk. She claimed that the objective of the walk was to announce women’s ability to exist without rape (which I agree with) by...looking sexy for men/dressing up in kink wear and walking...? I get the idea that our freedoms should include dressing as we want without fear of violence but why is that way of dressing conveniently and specifically sexy in a way men typically like and why are they also promoting kinks that men enjoy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 05:01 PM
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Girl, same. I don’t cook except for simple meals for my kids (in which their palates arent refined enough yet to know moms cooking is mostly uncle bens rice, broiled chicken, and fruit😭) but I didn’t grow up in a home where cooking was taught and I just can’t cook. I literally can’t. EVERYTHING I make tastes like ass. My husband grew up in a family that cooked together a lot so he does the majority of the cooking and really enjoys doing experimental recipes for me and the kids and he has a menu …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:15 PM
3

Perrier 💅🏼✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 01:07 PM
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Not the beer gut and payment a plenty 🤣🤣 either they’re completely emotionally checked out and just masturbating with her body or forcing his kInKs on her...and she better be a cool girl and deliver kinks a plenty!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 01:03 PM
2

I think it’s the mama’s boys who act like all other women are inferior to her, so he doesn’t have any life skills and no women can measure up to his mother (🤮). I like to spoil my 5 year old but you had me thinking- I do have to insist on actually doing things for him because he enjoys doing for himself. I let him watch me or his dad doing chores and practice for fun (I gave him a cleaning set a couple years ago so he could do like me and his dad and now he likes to clean his own messes, stuff l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 05:00 AM
18

The emotional unavailability hits😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:33 AM
10

Thanks 🤗 he was super awful and smoked weed 25 hours a day smh. I’m sorry you witnessed such a cruel act - and over some pee?? That’s really scary and hopefully he never became a sperm donor because kids have a lot of pee accidents and clearly he couldn’t handle that...thank god you had an option to move to!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:11 AM
6

Me neither. I legitimately feel that everyone here wants to best for women ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:07 AM
7

Omg Im thinking of like the 50s-mid 2000s literally everyone had a C section and all of the women I personally know who had one was ALL because they were “taking too long”🤨 now I know there are legit reasons for C sections but so many women getting them because they were taking up a hospital bed aint one of em. I had two kids vaginally and it was honestly too easy. C sections are just cruel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:59 AM
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In a way, she should have also called the cops and reported this. I’m glad about the lawyer and I can tell she is horrified as well, but I think the dad needed to be arrested here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:54 AM
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That dog is their only father figure truth be told
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:53 AM
6

This is the one. Some hospitals will literally rush to do a C section. Thankfully I worked with a doctor who was not for C-sections so he said the room was obviously set up just in case, but giving me time to have my baby if all went well was ok too. This doesn’t seem to be the norm. Also OP is the queen 😍🙌🏼congrats ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:47 AM
4

Wow he really did that. I’m glad he actually left too! Why are they literally slobs without women involved 🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:41 AM
6

Water is just ...necessary for health. I love diet soda but if I haven’t had water all day I wouldn’t be able to stomach it. People will don’t drink water are making a choice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:38 AM
7

Diet Coke is really the best. Why drink liquid sugar? Just eat a cake and drink Diet Coke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:34 AM
17

It’s true. My ex murdered my new baby kitten, years ago. I don’t even want to explain how, it’s bad. He ended up beating me up soon after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:21 AM
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How do i upvote but also downvote a post?? I’m so sorry this happened, and I also wonder if any evidence was left so that he can be reported to authorities. He is dangerous and will kill again, and I hope you’re safe 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:17 AM
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My husbands family had this cat, died at like 25 years old in 2012. His family went downhill so fast, it was the cat that glued that whole family together 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:16 AM
13

No that’s literally abusive I don’t care. Taking all your emotional and mental labor just to laugh and call you clown. No 👏🏼 more 👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 01:00 AM
2

24🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:54 PM
4

Years ago, like years years ago, an ex would leave the bed to go sleep in the bed with his mom who’s house he lived. Seriously barf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 07:30 PM
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I just wanna say, I fucking hate when they play devils advocate. Like why? Why can’t I just vent without you defending the other side?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 07:13 PM
3

Wow I’m glad that relationship didn’t pan out! I literally don’t understand straight up cheating on someone just because they’re unhappy. But rather than say “hey I’ve noticed you’ve been unhappy, what’s been going on and how can I help?” They just ...cheat. (Or become emotionally unavailable in my case). Why does it always come down to sex with them? How awful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 05:33 PM
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What he is really saying when he says he misses the easy going, happy go lucky version of you is he misses when he could put minimal effort in and still see you happy. Don't let him tell you it's because YOU are negative. If he truly felt like you were unhappy and depressed he should have helped figure out some way to support you and get to the bottom of your unhappiness, why wasn't he concerned when you acted outside if your normal happy behavior? Instead he is using that against you as a weapo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 05:03 PM
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Agreed💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:45 PM
1

I wonder like...what the thought process is for deciding who gets the “on time” version and who gets the “ohhh sorry I’m running 3 hours late...again” version. Cause it doesn’t make sense who gets what!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:20 PM
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Thanks for this ❤️❤️ and I really respect your approach, you want to be involved in the community as a team; not just organize events while he basically lives his own life. And that’s on being valuable to you 💯 I’m so glad that it all worked out and you two are in a better place. With my marriage, we had this “love at first sight” situation. He’s always taken care of me in every aspect; but he became just emotionally checked out, whereas I continued to love him fully and deeply. Once he decided …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:15 PM
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I do similar. If he starts arguing and creating an argument out of thin air, I just say “I’m not arguing about this” and leave the room. I literally refuse to argue and communicate anymore. Suddenly he’s very open to communicating, about things he never talked about. Because I refuse to indulge the arguments and silent treatments. I will say that we’re currently in separate bedrooms and I told him that he will have to earn the marriage back, from the ground up. But I’m planning the exit just in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:09 PM
15

They do know it. Because I’ve mistakingly interrupted and I usually say “I’m so sorry for interrupting you, what were you saying?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:56 PM
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I’m married too and I started doing this. It’s just funny how now that we stand by this idea that we’re not gonna repeat ourselves just to get exhausted and give up, suddenly they’re ears work the first rime 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:53 PM
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I think it works great for male friends too. I have a male friend who does this exact thing so he got demoted from close family friend to arms length. This was going on for years omg. And any time I talked, he’d interrupt me to say “is that what they’re saying on the reddits?” Because he needs to remind me that whatever I’m saying is not an original thought. He’s also on reddit too so I guess it’s fine for males. Once I did something similar to this post, he started coming correct but tbh the da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:51 PM
2

I knew a girl who did shit exactly like this, except we also met up for play dates with our kids so I’d literally change my kids schedule just to meet up, only for her to be 2 hours late and walking in laughing with someone else while holding lunch. See I didn’t have the self respect back then but now....baby it ain’t going down like that 💯 after the third time explaining to her why her consistent actions were wrong, I just gave up. It’s all a power move meant to test you. That’s that middle sch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:45 PM
6

I never thought I’d do it but about 1 1/2 years ago I stopped shaving and switched to light trimming with dedicated tiny scissors, and it’s been glorious. It’s so neat and looks way better and healthier than the ingrown hairs and shaving rash😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:19 AM
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I tell people this and they hit me with the “there could have been traffic” and the “you don’t know what they’re going through”. Well I know what I’m going through and I’m only responsible for managing myself, not them. I’m not playing devils advocate or conjuring up excuses for constant lateness power moves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:14 AM
5

I do this with new friends too. I don’t have much time to even invest in friendships and I won’t sit there at a cafe waiting 30 mins because you “ran late”. I don’t care if it makes me a bitch, I got kids and my own life so my personal time is valuable. Don’t ever let anyone clown you like that💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:33 AM
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I don’t do nature, I don’t care. Why are all men obsessed with the outdoors and stewing in bugs and sweat?? Am I crazy??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 11:38 PM
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Exactly. They don’t listen when we’re trying to rationally cOmMuNiCaTe without being called a psycho for daring to talk about important things and they for damn sure don’t remember anything we communicate (even though they claim to have been listening and “OK ALREADY I GET IT NOW LET ME GET BACK TO WATCHING THIS BORING FOOTBALL GAME”)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 11:11 PM
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I don’t care what anyone’s standards are because at the end of the day, another woman’s standards will cancel all the other LVM so why would anyone ever be mad about someone’s standards? 🤣Like deadass it don’t add up. Let’s make it hard for these males. Have the highest and hardest to attain standards! Shoot I love it lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 08:13 PM
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Damn girl 🙌🏼✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 07:59 PM
3

Exactly 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:01 PM
2

Yet somehow being fit is the only lifestyle I’ve ever seen as a problem here any time there is an argument like this here. Why. Why not shame other shit too while you’re at it? No it’s the fit lifestyle that’s the issue. Smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:30 PM
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I wouldn’t bother. The person you’re arguing with is implying that being overweight or thicc is automatically ugly and that’s why they’re arguing. Because if she doesn’t work on herself in some capacity like the other commenter who goes to the gym, then clearly no one else can acknowledge or feel proud of themselves lest she feel guilty. No one ever said that being overweight is unattractive yet she has projected as such and is arguing with someone who probably wants the best for her too. It’s s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:27 PM
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I was talking to husband about this last night and we agreed if I even have to home school my daughter to ensure no one breaks her spirit, tells her to be nice because “yOu dOnT KnOw wHaT aNyOnEs gOiNg tHrOuGh”, or even try to teach her that having standards is somehow oppressive to males. As it stands she’s a very strong, defiant person and institutions will only attempt to break that in the hopes of creating another timid pick-me that LVM would benefit from. Not on my watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:21 PM
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Even for me, I agree with supporting and uplifting my partner but he’s not gonna pick a fight and then say he’s “just had a bad day at work”, not when I’ve heard that excuse enough and when women are expected to be happy and fresh when they return and hide all our problems?? Nah. You got a 3 time limit on an excuse and then you can’t use it anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:47 PM
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Also him dating someone else and trying to keep options open with you - are you suppose to believe he wouldn’t cheat on you?? What he’s doing is banking on a theory that you’re gonna act like a pick me and try to “win” him. No fuckin thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:44 PM
8

This reminds me of Don Draper. Men never change and never will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:44 PM
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This is exactly why I don’t do the coddling and the “oh you had a bad day now I understand why you came home with an attitude and it’s not because you have built up resentment towards me because I saw you at your worst”. You had a bad day? Tough shit, that excuse is all used up. You’re tired? Take your ass to bed earlier. Cause what you’re not gonna do is have me building you up and then act brand new when things are going well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:16 PM
9

AML is so resistant too, I hope she’s been treated ok and doing well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:07 AM
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On the flip side, as someone with a few chronic illnesses, I dunno why this is but women doctors have been the only ones mean enough to me to make me cry 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:05 AM
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Yeah I read this (realizing this is me and not about anyone else, because my trauma doesn’t mean everyone else should suffer too) and it literally hurts so hard. But that’s why I try to be that mother to my two kids, though. So they can feel as loved as you ladies 💖💘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 08:07 PM
21

Ok thanks for saying this, so I don’t have to and then be afraid of downvotes and attacks lol cause this is about the only thing I can say with certainty about poly people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:24 PM
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Oh man I agree. I don’t harbor negative feelings towards OP on this, but the last thing I’m gonna do is waste my youth like that. My youth is fleeting and that LV male that can afford a stupid handbag is defidently NOT getting the version of me with a quality skincare routine and fit body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 11:41 PM
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Saw the age difference and already know it’s toxic, don’t even need to read the whole post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:54 PM
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This. And also, if my daughter hits my son (rare), she gets called out for it too. My son isn’t going to learn that physical abuse is warranted under any circumstance. When I take my son out to do errands, I always have him pick out something for himself (could be like a pencil, a little ball, nothing insane) and I always have him pick out a gift for his sister and present her with it (it’s usually the same thing he got haha). She always loves being presented with gifts from her brother and it e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:51 PM
4

A male I don’t know randomly complimenting me is actually scary, since we all know they’re prone to violence and emotional outbursts if we don’t go “oMg Meeeeee😍😍😍😍” 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 11:58 AM
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😌🍰 I love it! It’s a legit big screen, Dolby surround theater with all the workout equipment I need. It’s literally so relaxing and I stay longer so I get a better sweat 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 11:55 AM
4

Oh you KNOW it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 11:54 AM
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Girl omg it’s so crazy - in my area which is in the stupid ass Bible Belt, most gyms around here have a dress code of no crop tops, no bras showing, no short shorts. Like no, I have a specific need for my clothing to be body-conforming when I workout and males can just go jerk eachother off. So I usually hide out in the empty yoga room and/or the dark and empty gym theater 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:07 AM
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As a bisexual woman, I laugh at the notion that males (especially young males in schools and teachers- looking at you school dress codes) cAnT cOnTrOL themselves. Yes the fuck they can. And I specifically chose the gym I go to because it’s the only one in my area without a dress code, because yes, males should control themselves and I should wear comfortable workout clothes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 12:40 AM
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And us women give legitimate opinions to eachother, whether positive or negative, which is why I will ALWAYS highly value a compliment from another woman💅🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 09:38 PM
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This the one 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 07:33 PM
8

Well said 💯💅🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 07:11 PM
21

The sunk cost fallacy is what keeps my No Contact NMom married to a NV molesting, cheating drug dealer. She ain’t gonna lose out on a whole 3RD marriage that’s 20+ years deep, dammit! Even if she’s always getting arrested cause of him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:58 PM
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Exactly - cause any guy who’s interest swings all over the place like that don’t mean shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:55 PM
10

See that’s what I’m saying, and I HATE to be so against my own culture, but Hispanic males are just known within the community to be so abusive and controlling. I dunno why, I feel so bad about it because I love our culture so much and know we could do better. But we’re not 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 08:28 PM
2

Omg I’m sooo sorry I think my mind just read that you wanted research on silicone I dunno why 😂 I didn’t find anything on pubmed about saline breast implant illness, but this is from Cancer.Org, but it cites 4 sources, 3 of which are studies on silicone implants and 1 is just a FAQ that reiterates the article. It’s defidently something to think about. Surgery always comes with risks involved and between anesthesia, the tools, germs, aftercare, body response, etc etc I could totally see that, if …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 07:32 PM
1

Sure!😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 07:15 PM
4

As far as I knew up until recently, silicone can leak or even bust out (such as during a minor car accident, a fall, etc) and the leaking silicone can cause silicone illness. However I recently learned that just having silicone implants can cause many autoimmune diseases, a quick pubmed search shows this being shown going back to the early 90’s, and if you scroll down on that link you’ll see other studies. I know people with silicone implants and they think it’s laughable to worry but I didn’t e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 06:57 PM
1

And you’re a queen for it sis, you enjoy 💯❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 06:51 PM
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I just want to give another perspective, I agree on the boob jobs making you sick when you go with a silicone implant. I would never trust a silicone implant like that. I have saline implants for the last 6 years and personally, it was the best decision I’ve made about my body. I went through puberty early and fast, so my breasts grew too quickly and were very stretched out and uncomfortable. So implants to me were more reconstructive than cosmetic, since I wanted to repair the flat stretched ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:01 PM
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I’m hispanic and I would never date a hispanic man, not in a million years, not in a million and one years. The most LV males I’ve ever had the misfortune of dating were hispanic. I know that there are HV hispanic males out there too- so why are they so hard to find smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:51 PM
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I’ll fight my husband if he said some shit about me going to the gym. That’s my sanctuary. He’s really great about it, comes home at the same time daily so I can switch out and go do my thing 💪🏼 gym is health, those husbands are literally abusing their wives by preventing them from seeking health in that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:48 PM
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I posted this the other night queen 😭😭 assholes really watch way too much porn, they’re imagining things instead of getting off their asses and quit being a loser ass loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:59 AM
3

I was once in Vegas with a pickmeisha I was friends with at the time. Now I was also in a somewhat pick me timeframe myself, but with limits. Like I never would have dreamed of ever taking catcalling seriously. So we were walking into a restaurant and this guy starts babbling nonsense lines at me and catcalling. I keep right on walking as if he didn’t exist. My friend literally stopped me and screamed at me that I was rude to the cat caller and I could find a boyfriend if I wasn’t so rude to guy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 11:42 PM
5

I was 16 with a 23 year old, and I literally had to parent him. All men want mommies, I don’t even get it but it’s true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 04:15 PM
6

TrollX is a garbage, gave up on them years ago
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 01:38 PM
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Literally this show is a dumpster fire, and I kept watching it until covid hit and they stopped production. It’s just the characters going around in circles dating eachother and getting pregnant. Even the surgeries are trash. Sandra Oh brought the Queen energy and it left with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 01:33 PM
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Literally I’ve had men flag me down at the gym as if there were some kind of emergency so I take off my headphones, just to get a “hi” and a shit eating grin. I’m rude af though. I’ve said “I was working out leave me alone”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 01:24 PM
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So mad we’re not wasting our lives with their little gummy peens they make up a whole fake list of stuff we supposedly use, since clearly we MUST have something inserted to Orgasm. And if we don’t want their peen, obviously we’re just insane and will shove just any old junk up there instead of their sparking perfect peen. Clearly.🙄🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:02 AM
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Jesus I love this place😂💘 finally I can express my disdain for shit like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:57 AM
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Omg you just reminded me of all the cringy stories they post of the horrible oppression they experienced when they were at Starbucks and gasp- a mother and child walks in😱 and just their presence in the establishment is worthy of PTSD diagnosis😭😭😭😭 the trauma 😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:34 PM
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They say stupid shit like “crotch goblin” and “mombie” ad nauseum. Notice they don’t have an offensive term for fathers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 05:29 PM
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Females. As if we’re a different species.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 05:10 PM
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I don’t put my kids pictures online either and I really don’t get using them as profile pictures??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 03:24 PM
10

Also adding to your last point, women are programmed to say “I understand that I have issues too/I know I’m not perfect either/etc...” when trying to CoMuNiCaTe something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 03:22 PM
5

I never once, never not even one single time, ever seen an attractive penis in person, photo, or video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 03:12 PM
9

Precise, concise, put your dick in a vice (if you keep bothering me, sir) 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 11:03 PM
26

Males literally urinate and stuff their gummy dicks right back in their boxers with zero thought of cleaning it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 09:30 PM
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I had a huge pickme phase..a NV ex once told me he hated going down on girls but also blowjobs were important. Nothing new that we haven’t heard from this sub, but man, during that phase I literally convinced myself I actually didn’t like to get oral sex🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 09:28 PM
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It’s by design. There’s many reasons why, mostly money but also privacy. When you’re lower ranking you live at the whims of the higher ups who can go into your room and through your person belongings with no notice and without you there. When you’re married that doesn’t happen and you have to wait 3 years if you’re not married. Also there’s some extra money in it and more options of where to live. Also if two people have orders to go different places, they get married to help stay in the same pl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 04:24 PM
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I’m SO sorry you were a victim of this, and I’m not even surprised at the porn addiction and using other Pick Mes. Like I don’t know what it is about military males, but they’re ALL trash. I really hope you heal sis and glad you escaped that💘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 04:20 PM
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There are too many people in their mid-20s in the military with multiple divorces under their belt already. Meanwhile we had to put up with don’t ask/don’t tell as if gay people were the predators instead of your average E6.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 02:31 PM
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💯💘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:53 AM
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Thanks for this, I came here for this comment. If that was a “phase”, like she claims, then why not apologize for using elements of black culture to make herself interesting? Since her little dirty foot country shtick wasn’t working, And which she has since returned back to. I wAs rAiSEd In tHe CoUntRy headass. Whole time knew she needed to elevate using black culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:16 AM
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But on the flip you got guys wanting to be pegged and basically completely pleasured in all ways, with zero reciprocation or earning that level of intimacy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:10 AM
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If I ever divorced, I’d never date or have any male around my kids. Not until they’re adults. Too many women just have any male up in the house playing daddy and it’s gross. Same for divorced males, but they usually never have custody or care to anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:07 PM
12

I love Salma to death omg..but I dunno if she has a social media manager or something because even just looking at her juxtaposed against them background it’s clearly shopped and she doesn’t need to be shopped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:42 PM
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Same here sis. I don’t share that shit with anyone because pretty much 100% of people try to figure out how it was your fault, especially when it was a parent doing it since in their minds, parents always love and never harm. Literally my mother in law told me it was my fault that I was sexually abused by a step parent and that I needed to “make amends” ...so I get this treatment from other women, pick me’s I guess. It’s just better not to tell anyone unless it’s your partner you feel absolutely…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:38 PM
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You just triggered my PTSD for that Pick Me movie He’s Just Not That Into You. The ending with the main Pick Me girl who’s chasing the bar owner makes me wants to throw my tv out the window and never watch a movie again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 12:50 PM
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I used to have pepper spray in my purse until I read too many times that women were charged with assault for using it 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:17 PM
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Omg are you me?? I used to be sUcH a gOoD LisTeNeR- to the point of being dragged through the mud picking up the scars and stress of handing out free emotional labor. I even had my listening queues down to a science, because I was so concerned with others feeling heard and my degree in psychology made me feel like I needed to be that person but moreso my attachment disorder and lifetime of wanting the love that I never got in my childhood. People benefited from my trauma. What did I get for all …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:11 PM
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Whoaaaa!! I seriously thought he made a comment and went his own way for once, unlike MGTOW 😂 Thank you for bringing all that to his attention sis!! I can only imagine what choice of disgusting words he had after he wasn’t being fed grapes by 10 virgin women after his comment 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 12:50 PM
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I have to agree. While the sentiment is helpful and I can tell that he is thoughtful person, this fully came across as mansplaining. As if the typical female experience isn’t valid until a man comes along to verify. Surely the same comment on other subs, particularly male-oriented, would find it more helpful and less preaching-to-the-choir. Men need to really see that we are literally ignored for everything we experience while expected to dole out cookies when someone ...explains what we already…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 12:30 PM
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Omg I did the same thing, I was so god damn DONE with this one pickmeisha friend. It’s actually liberating to stop the balance between giving the cold, hard facts and staying on good terms when they’re back with NVM. She dated this asshole who kept coming on to me literally everytime he was around me, and she saw it and acted like she didn’t. To be free of that type of toxicity🙌🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 04:07 AM
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He’s gay so I just assumed it had something to do with dating experience and stuff- But hell, straight men will cop to the weirdest stuff to other men so who knows lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 03:04 AM
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That is genuinely disgusting and NVM STILL out here acting like they’re entitled to high standards whilst not washing their ass 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 01:47 AM
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Jesus Korean men are so beautiful. Between their sense of style and athleticism😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:42 PM
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Omg me and male friend talked about this, and he said it’s highly common for men to literally not digitally clean their ass and instead just let the water run down their butt🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:37 PM
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Thank you for the unpaid and dedicated work keeping this place safe❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 06:15 PM
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QUEEN ENERGY 😭😭😭😭😪😪🤧🤧🤧🤧
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:04 AM
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Oh a male would absolutely, full stop, never deal with anyone forcing upon them a ridiculous, non-symbiotic climate 24/7 under threat of screaming, shaming, or even violence. They’d take care of that REAL quick. It’s funny the little, everyday things that were expected to just quietly live with while they get to live in absolute comfort knowing full well that no one is going to attack them for asking who put fabric softener on the towels again? Who left a rotten crusty bowl in the sink when a di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 11:34 AM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 10:15 AM
2

I’m so sorry your father treated you and your mother like that 😕 the part where you all got sore throats and coughs really hit home, I have kids too and I’m always checking the temp in their room at night because letting your child be too cold and denying them comfort is legitimate abuse. Not to mention the coughs meant that the HVAC system was probably full of dust and mold 😣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 10:13 AM
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I don’t even understand why they couldn’t at least attempt to communicate with you the costs of heating. No, clearly you’re just selfish and bougie 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 10:08 AM
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I had my second kid and I point blank told my husband that I was done having kids. He had his vasectomy completed, with lab confirmations of no sperm, before she turned a year. He laughs at how quick and easy it was and when he’s mentioned it friends, they always whine bUt dUh maNhOoD🙄. Ok so if you’re married you’re gonna have your wife do an invasive surgery that can cause lifelong pain and complications because you think that semen without sperm means you’re not a man? I’ve had friends point …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 12:12 AM
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You get your own house and set that thermostat to 71 sis, you deserve it 💯💅🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 12:06 AM
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Dumbest thing to me is when it’s legitimately freezing and he doesn’t actually know if he’s hot until he looks at the thermostat and depending on the temp, he’ll either lash out in defiance of the “heat” or claim the damn thing is broken. What’s wrong, thought you were sweaty? Can’t tell if you’re hot unless you visually see the temperature? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 09:31 PM
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Ok cause👏🏼 And yeah that relationship was just chock full of angry outbursts. But for whatever reason, his biggest issue was that I was always cold 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 06:55 PM
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Oh yeah, the OPSEC lol. Several years ago a friend was sent overseas and not even allowed to tell anyone so he told me when he was already there lmao. Then one day he randomly texted me to pick him up on base 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 05:39 PM
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🎶And that's the sound of me not calling you back🎶👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:30 PM
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I just wanna say, I’m sooo happy cause I knew I wasn’t crazy. I knew building someone else up usually translates to tearing myself down. So glad to know I can actually talk about this in a safe space without pickmeisha yelling at me about hOLdiNg dOWn yOuR mAn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:02 PM
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Wow I’m so jealous honestly😍 those conversations legitimately advance the courting and you’re also learning that she’s interesting and can bring intriguing conversation to the table. I swear that’s downright impossible otherwise- most men will hit you with a combination from the very generic list of video games, cars, marvel/DC movies, and some dry joke that comes out of nowhere🙄 also the fact that she take the time to have these conversations and doesn’t use her work as a weak excuse. are you g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 01:20 PM
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Holy crap that’s so sweet 💖 I’m bisexual and I sometimes find women a little mean and hard to read 😔 I’m loving her dedication during deployment! When my husband was gone when he was still active, he’d contact me every chance he had which was often. They do work 12 hour shifts so a text 1-2 times a day was fine and skype once a week. Or just male friends who would actively contact me. Compare that to other people who claimed not to have any internet and when you do hear from them it’s just like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 12:56 PM
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The truth 🙌🏼 he literally had a moment to physically type out and send her this bullshit, yet dialing her number and talking for a few minutes is somehow impossible? Cause I know I actually hate texting. It’s tedious. Fuck him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:58 AM
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“Omg stop being so dramatic and cLiNgY!!”🙄🙄 imagine not wanting to be straight up ghosted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 01:18 AM
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I was gonna say. I actually had a LV ex about 15 years ago who was secretly gay and anything anything that even pointed to homosexuality, and I would get a punch in the face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 12:27 AM
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Also have us do all the emotional labor while feigning ignorance on many well known problems, in order to frustrate and break us down as we explain the problem again for the infinityith time 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 12:11 AM
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Literally I love being a woman, it’s so amazing. Women are soooo soft and beautiful 💅🏼 it’s rare to see males out in the wild who are attractive...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 11:38 PM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 11:15 PM
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All the while wondering why they have indigestion and constipation, and then using those things to claim their sympathy points so they can be bedridden all day while mom deals with the kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:55 PM
14

8 hours out fishing and no sunscreen 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 08:35 PM
2

Thanks for this. My SIL has a very weird fetishization for racist white males. She’ll chase them and then talk about how she’s different and won’t try to “change” him. I put my foot down when she brought one to my home, who told me a racist “joke”, all the while my dark skin SIL is laughing.i looked him dead in the eye and told him he shouldn’t be telling jokes like that, disrespecting my husband and kids. She got mad at me later on. Like !? Sis are you projecting?? Anyway I cut her off for shit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:14 PM
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I cut off a long time male friend for this. He’s gay, so he’s not into me like that, but gay men aren’t excluded from the narrative. He spent years practically harassing me in my own home with jOkEs, to the point where my skin would crawl just avoiding saying anything I thought would trigger him into getting worked up again. I decided that while I valued many aspects of the friendship, I couldn’t continue it any longer because he didn’t value me. I love a good roasting or a joke, but literally n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:07 PM
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Omg you touched on something I’ve witnessed so much in the last decade with my husbands shit family (who were now officially and forever no contact with); this whole notion that wanting to spend money and time to look beautiful is vain and somehow devoid of God and even taking a goddamn shower too long is suspect because you might be enjoying their bodies too much. Except his mom don’t mind stealing money and running up credit cards for herself though so it don’t apply to everyone I guess 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 12:59 PM
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Thank you, this needed to be pointed out. I hate the cute little excuse people ram down our throats for abuse (sexual, physical..within childhood, relationships, etc). That they have a mEnTaL iLLnEss so it’s totally ok (usually anxiety from their mom telling them to pick up their mess or some stupid shit). Yes, trauma and mental illness exists and needs to be addressed but I don’t accept that it’s this magic cover-all for abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:05 AM
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😎✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:49 AM
52

How do I get a flair🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 12:25 AM
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😂
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