And it was so incredibly normalized. Still is, honestly.

ComprehensiveAmoeba9 · 2020-12-31T02:05:11+00:00

Yikes, that’s not romantic at all. I’ve met older couples where the husband said he asked his wife to marry him multiple times until she finally caved and said yes🤢

BashRunes · 2020-12-31T01:53:04+00:00

The marriage and birth certificates I saw when I worked for the VA, I swear to God. The past makes me fucking MAD.

Mcccy · 2020-12-31T03:06:24+00:00

And how she had 8 kids, first at 15, cause her husband wanted a boy but all their first 7 were girls-

Also let's not forget how incredibly low the bar always was cause they'll say stuff like "well yeah he was 10 years older than me and was missing 2/3 of the day and was drunk the 1/3 he was home, but he never hit me once!"

BashRunes · 2020-12-31T04:00:49+00:00

Same! My grandma was 15 and my grandpa was 24 years old 🤢! She had 7 kids, multiple miscarriages, and infant deaths! My mom's not sure how many of her siblings died... it's like oneday they were there and then the next day they were gone.

ChristmasPriestess · 2020-12-31T04:43:46+00:00

Straight up. My grandmother told me last year that she met my sexual predator Grandfather when she was 13, and he was 20, AT A SCHOOL DANCE HE WENT TO THAT WAS ONLY FOR HIGH SCHOOL KIDS.

She said she always wondered why he was there but was too naive to realize. He married her as soon as she turned 18 and he absolutely destroyed her. She is mentally unstable, has 8 dogs and has pushed away anyone who ever tried to help her. I now know it is because of him.

My Grandfather has hurt every single person he has ever come across and I am glad my grandmother can talk about it now.

MagnfiqueMaleficent · 2020-12-31T04:35:54+00:00

My great grandmother was 13 when her 21 year-old boyfriend tapped on her window, snuck her out of the house and took her to get married because her parents didn’t agree to the marriage. Thirteen. 😱

MACMUA · 2020-12-31T06:03:44+00:00

I’m Latina and I’m 40yo.

When I was a teenage this kind of stuff wasn’t really a big deal. The age gap and the machismo was/is accepted and no one want bats an eye.

Now my daughter is 21yo, the hell if anyone would do that to my baby.

Bubbly-Manufacturer · 2020-12-31T05:08:55+00:00

My moms friend was telling me about a woman she knows who got taken by a man in his 40s-50s when she was like 12 or something. The parents were ok with it. Married him, had his children and she “ loved”him..misses him now that he’s dead.

Like.. she was saying it like nothing. That’s Mexico for you tf. I was like that’s pedophilia why is she saying it so casually?

2020-12-31T04:55:14+00:00

Most of the women in my town were kidnapped or sold by their dads....

christmasforoutlaws · 2020-12-31T13:55:43+00:00

Both my grandmothers got married as teenagers. One was 18, the other was 13.

Title	And it was so incredibly normalized. Still is, honestly.
Author	iaintgonnacallyou
Upvotes	288
Comments	31
Date	December 31, 2020 1:38 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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