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Yeah I understand that. It does get hard to read. No worries
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:02 AM
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You don’t have to read anything. Whoever wants to know how to protect themselves, especially newer FDS members, should read it to know men use purposefully vague language and will string you along. The post is helpful for others who are looking to date and vet for a HVM. And make no mistake, the men sharing their manipulation tactics throughout the post have indeed had sex with women. It goes a lot deeper than Incel terminology in the rest of the post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:54 AM
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It’s important to understand the manipulation so you don’t fall victim to it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:55 AM
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Pretty sure it’s satire
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:47 AM
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Bet he wasn’t afraid he’d be raped though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:57 AM
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Multiple medical problems and chronic pain. All went away when he left
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:50 AM
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Exactly.. true crime is 90% women victims, male perpetrators
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:03 PM
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I feel so bad for these girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 12:46 AM
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Thanks to internet porn now more and more of them actually get aroused by and want to inflict crying. Dark days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:37 AM
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Patriarchy has always benefited from intimidating/brainwashing women into parroting their own oppression back as empowerment. Libfems are no different from trad wives. Major publications are all still owned by men. They would never want to publish or support a truly woman-benefiting philosophy. That’s how you know this is real feminism, unlike liberal feminism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:35 AM
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I don’t have children but I come from a background where children are openly taught about sexuality/reproduction from a young age. I think it’s important to get ahead of the curve and address it with them before kids at school can set the tune for them with their porn influenced “findings”. Unfortunately that age is getting younger and younger especially for boys. We’re talking <10 years old. It’s obviously uncomfortable to have that convo with your child especially because you may feel you’re e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:48 AM
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I think people on the sub pornfreerelationships would have good suggestions!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 09:25 PM
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A lot of boys who would not turn perverse and sexually violent do because of porn so I understand that fear. Unfortunately until we have internet regulation, it’s on parents to do everything they can to protect these kids and their future partners
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 09:24 PM
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Vomiting right now. Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:33 PM
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Lock up their phones after school so they can’t access porn and get addicted. Install porn blockers on all devices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:27 PM
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Only one guy I’ve been with was able to. Others were too lazy or incompetent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 05:07 AM
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Porn addict, definitely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:54 AM
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He sounds like a creep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:37 PM
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It’s also not even a compliment when a guy no matter how handsome wants to sleep with you. They’ll have sex with anything/anyone if it’s convenient.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:42 AM
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I was banned too and had never posted or commented on it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:41 AM
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They start watching violent torture porn at 8 years old
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:48 AM
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Lmao they act like sperm is hard to come by. It’s the women who aren’t willing to be pregnant. These commenters are embarrassing lol. Who’s writing these articles and whining from the government that women won’t have babies? Men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:43 AM
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She should be allowed to sue him. Why is this any different from him drunk driving and accidentally hitting her and severely injuring her? He literally coerced her to consent to the pregnancy so it’s not even like you can say well she wanted it so it’s fine! Ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:13 AM
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I bet if his mom weren’t in the picture he would have already left
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:12 AM
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He’s not embarrassed he gave her the ring. He’s second hand embarrassed she accepted it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 07:48 PM
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Oh this dude definitely saves for his consoles and personal hobbies. He just doesn’t give a shit about this girl lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 06:58 PM
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“Have sex right away! But only if you want to! But if you don’t want to you’re upholding misogynistic purity culture! So have the sex now!! But consent to it! Have we convinced you yet you prude??” -cosmopolitan, owned by Hearst corporation whose ceo is a white male boomer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 06:43 PM
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Wait really? That’s interesting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 06:38 PM
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I also got banned. Never posted or commented there before lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 06:35 PM
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Liberal feminists*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:14 AM
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Murder her more like
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:14 AM
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Thanks for pointing out that women get desensitized as well. It’s really important to remember because it explains why “consenting” to being brutalized sexually isn’t real consent at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:13 AM
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Yup. Indoctrinating young boys with violent porn is insidious and it’s spreading like wildfire. Internet porn has definitely made things worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:11 AM
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Porn addictions don’t work like that and plenty of men (even lvms!) know it. Idk what to say about these guys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:00 AM
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I love this. Since becoming single again a year ago, my family, hobby, friend and self love have gone up. Way better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 11:58 PM
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Not all Eastern Europeans are mobsters.. pretty offensive generalization in the OP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:15 AM
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Spot on. Don’t agree with the European one though lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:33 AM
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I do as well. We have to fight it cus it really doesn’t work in our favor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 02:29 AM
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Exactly the consent piece is irrelevant because women are groomed and gaslighted to accept this. How can these libfems claim patriarchy exists and then turn around and say that men wanting to hurt women during sex has nothing to do with patriarchy? Like ??? Madness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:15 PM
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I agree with everything you said. When I call a woman pornsick I really mean that she has become desensitized to seeing women like herself be brutalized and she even becomes aroused by it. That is definitely a type of mental sickness, even though it’s the result of grooming. Different from male pornsickness definitely, but still something many women aren’t even aware can happen on a mental level for them. If they’re aware, they can be skeptical of articles like this one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 10:23 PM
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This was difficult to read but it’s very true. Fuck porn, fuck misogynists. We need to protect ourselves and children from this poison as much as possible so it stops spreading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 07:30 AM
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Can there be a nsfw trigger or something? That photo was jarring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 07:15 AM
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No doubt the woman who wrote the article is pornsick and needs help ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 07:14 AM
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Or become full fledged pedophiles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 07:05 AM
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Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 05:28 PM
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Thanks!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:09 AM
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LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:56 AM
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I literally have gotten a hand cramp from left swiping so fast lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:38 AM
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I wish I could Save this comment specifically too. Would you consider posting this on its own?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:24 AM
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Best of luck to you in your healing sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:22 AM
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I love how she doesn’t mention housework because she damn well knows he doesn’t step up 50/50 on that and can’t come up with anything to say about it 😂 Also tf? Women have been serving the lowest men like kings for a long time and getting nothing for it. Since it’s illegal to force us to fulfill that role now, they brainwash pickmes to shame us into subservience. Fuck that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 07:44 PM
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LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 05:47 PM
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and they have death grip lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 01:15 AM
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Oh it’s definitely the cause of the ED issues, and more boys and men are acknowledging it. There’s a subreddit specifically for teenage boys to encourage each other to abstain from their porn addictions to become healthy again. It’s really sad that it’s needed at all. The porn industry is a human rights violation against women and children who are coerced to participate in it. It’s also a child neglect issue on the other side where children have access to it online and become addicted, desensiti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 11:26 PM
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Sad thing is a lot of men in their 20s now have the minds of a pornsick dinosaur. They’re desensitized addicts and demand the latter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 10:35 PM
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He’s definitely jacking off to porn. 100%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:37 PM
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Nah. Leave sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:42 AM
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Read that too. Seems like the same guy. Sounds like a triangulating pornsick cheater
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:32 AM
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“Any woman in that situation would probably beat her ass” No
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 12:38 AM
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The female sex workers who do that feel the need to defend and uphold the porn cult. They’re brainwashed and it’s too painful for them to acknowledge that they themselves are victims of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 12:31 AM
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Even Ted Bundy was more subtle than they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 08:44 AM
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Yup. Those are the guys to avoid like the plague.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 10:07 PM
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What if they follow you? Do you leave the house?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 09:58 PM
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Pop music has progressively gotten pornier over time. It’s mostly just strip club dancing with music in a studio instead of a club 🤷🏻‍♀️The music may be for men and women but the music videos are mostly just soft core porn for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:31 AM
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All “doms” are desensitized coomers lol imagine having to come up with a whole game on top of sex and not being able to just get off to a living breathing naked woman in front of you 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:28 AM
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The thing is a 70s bush = all pubes before the 70s as well. Like it’s just normal. The only reason we call it a 70s bush is because that’s when they started coming out with more hardcore porn videos. Like our bodies literally are defined by porn eras. Isn’t that sad? And then all the pedophiles in porn really ruined everything for us in the decades following and now it’s “gross” to have pubes. Systemic brainwashing...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:03 AM
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Men shouldn’t be allowed to complain about pubic hair either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:18 AM
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This is why liberal feminist men and their “sex positivity” are so insidious and dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 12:18 AM
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I block so much now. No explanation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 12:14 AM
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I’m so sorry. He’s a monster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:02 PM
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My ex insisted on and was able to get condomless anal sex from his ex multiple times. ZERO care for hygiene and safety. And he hid that from me in our relationship. I almost threw up when I found out. I really don’t know that it’s worth it to give a man oral anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:19 AM
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Exactly LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 01:00 AM
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Lmfao they love that loophole of amateur porn being somehow okay. Like oh for real how do you know it’s not fake amateur porn which is all over the internet? If it’s real how do you know the bf didn’t coerce his gf to do it? How do you know she isn’t a former sexual abuse victim or current one? Is she being financially coerced? Emotionally? Is she doing it out of self harm? Right you don’t know any of that so sit down Jim 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:02 PM
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Protecting a woman from sexual degradation only matters when it’s their own daughter/sister/mom. And even then not all of them care. Men are disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:59 PM
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When I found out my ex cheated on me, I told him I felt extremely violated and dirty in my own body, and that I never would have let him touch me had I known, much less have sex. I told him he didn’t have my consent any of those times. He didn’t like how that sounded. But it’s the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:04 AM
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Hahaha you have to break down the barricade of gaming consoles she’s bought her LVM to defeat her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 11:08 PM
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Women have never been free of men’s bullshit, coercion and porn influence so we can never really know. Choice is an illusion under patriarchy. All we really know is a choice for sure is when we resist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:18 PM
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🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 05:39 PM
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“If you like anal, great” I just want to add that in coercing you men will say “well you’ve never tried it maybe you’ll love it!!” If a woman has already been pressured to do anal and has learned to enjoy it, it’s still worth it to re-examine how and why this happened. Was it really her choice? And how often was it painful until it became bearable?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 05:37 PM
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Yeah 80% is super conservative lool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 11:44 PM
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I’d be willing to bet 80% of men have sexually coerced a woman at least once in some manner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:55 PM
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He says it’s only her kink, but clearly he got off on it until now otherwise he wouldn’t have posted. He’s been happy to degrade her for years.. He should be concerned that he ever got an erection from it to start with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:43 AM
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Most porn created and viewed is just simulated rape if not actual rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 01:37 AM
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“Sex positivity” only serves men. Men show up to a date with zero financial, physical, or mental investment and expect sex. The girl? She’s supposed to spend upwards of $50 on a Brazilian wax that she’s learned to endure like some medieval torture for a man who cries when he plucks one eyebrow hair. Just that wax costs more than he’ll spend on his meal. Note: HIS meal. We know she’s going dutch! How can anyone pretend sex positivity makes sense in a world where women are expected to have their p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:07 AM
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It’s ridiculous how young they hit us with this brainwashing. The only thing that kept me from having a boyfriend before middle school was that boys thought girls were gross at that age. And at the same time they were starting to watch online porn... which is ironic. And so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 12:32 AM
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I can forgive that much of an addition. But dudes will be 5’6 calling themselves 5’10 like bro lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 12:26 AM
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Hahaha I know it’s a typo but the “highest fulfillment as a woman is to marry a woman” part works too LOL. But yes exactly! Being single is coded from day one as empty and subpar. I was a serial monogamist before FDS. Feels so freeing now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 12:25 AM
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For the first time in my life, I don’t mind that I’m single. I see the destruction that men have caused in my life and I know it wasn’t my fault. I feel content not being with a man. I couldn’t get to this peace before FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:43 PM
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Future you is going to thank present you sooo much. This took incredible strength and you’ve asserted your self love and respect here. We’re all here for you! I’m so excited for you not to have to deal with this awful manipulative burden of a LVM anymore!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:20 PM
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Amen 👏 👏 👏 proud of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:18 PM
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FDS really opened my eyes about porn and BDSM, and expecting more from dates too. Then it all clicked. I feel a hundred years wiser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 05:58 AM
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I wouldn’t consider a boys high school team the weakest men. They’re young and in shape..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 06:33 PM
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The weakest men cannot beat the strongest women at most sports hahah I cannot imagine a neck beard beating Serena Williams
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:45 PM
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This is just depressing. Girls growing up in the 2020s really have it worse than I did 10 years ago. At some point the mental gymnastics of liberal feminism completely contort back on themselves and we get this shit. It’s now okay to hit a woman again. Thanks to these women. What is the difference between this and tradcon?? None
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:30 AM
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As someone who used to photoshop as a hobby, this is really obvious to me but I recognize it won’t be to everyone. TikTok should never have allowed a filter that can be reversed like this. They had to know the filter could be removed with editing, and should’ve given a warning message to every user before they tried it. Men are always disgusting when allowed. Tech companies need to do their part in protecting women who have trust in their apps when they clearly should not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:28 AM
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Perhaps it would make more sense to center sports around height and weight like wrestling rather than gender in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 03:56 AM
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The thought of doing a man’s laundry or cleaning up after him makes me cringe. I don’t enjoy cooking so I do it out of survival for myself. And that’s it. So glad the chances a man will manage to use me for domestic work are low lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 03:33 AM
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They’re not, at least not to real women. More and more are masturbating to cartoon women (lol anime). It’s pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 12:18 AM
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It’s a big child endangerment issue. Who knows maybe that could work. Except women deserve any class action money way before men. Porn has been abusing women for a long time. Suddenly men’s pps break and they give a little bit of a shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 05:12 AM
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Lol definitely a porn addict coomer with classic delayed ejaculation from death grip. They’re the worst. You can definitely blame it on porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 02:56 AM
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They cherry pick what works for them. They’re scum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 06:23 AM
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Men have a vested interest in hiring these women to write these garbage articles for their male owned “feminist” magazines
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 05:54 AM
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I was there with you until you said polygamy with a single man works. Nah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 12:12 AM
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His anxiety about the situation is an additional burden to her. He’s not helping her here at all. Selfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 12:11 AM
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Pls tell me this isn’t a kids show
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 12:10 AM
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“Behoves”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 12:09 AM
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They’re trying to flatter their way into your pants. They’re too lazy to try to say anything personalized based on your profile. They’re LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:08 AM
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Queen shit! This is honestly such a power move
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 11:32 PM
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And then they’ll tell their future daughters the same thing. They know it’s bulllshit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 11:01 PM
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Holy shit we need a word for this too. Tired of these misogynistic liberal men. They’re all wolves in sheep’s clothing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:58 PM
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His 3 brain cells didn’t think it thru
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:57 PM
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Idk why the Kpop one caught me so off guard I snorted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:57 PM
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He just described misogyny and thought he did something lmfaoooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:53 PM
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Life sentence or bust. Fuck this murderer. The attempted part is irrelevant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:50 PM
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It is unethical for him to be doing it. It is not momentary. He will continue. He may just lie that he has stopped. No girl is okay with it. They just lie to themselves (like I did in the past.) It is not too much of a demand to make. He most definitely has unrealistic expectations that he will push you to fulfill, and if you don’t, he will look outside the relationship for it. Do not do these things for him. Porn makes him objectify you and not care about your true consent. Men who watch porn a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:28 AM
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True. This is also why we tend to turn anger inwards and blame ourselves for being inadequate when our boyfriends hurt us. Because then it’s in our control. It’s not the case though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:46 AM
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Username checks out. I aspire to be like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:38 AM
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You can also refuse to have children with him. Having kids only gives him more power over you. Without kids, you can leave at the drop of a hat and never speak with him once divorce is finalized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:09 AM
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Most men really view tinder and similar apps as a free escort service. They don’t even have to pay for her meal and they get to have sex with her. Because it’s labeled a “dating” app, women come in to it with the hope that a relationship will blossom from the dates and sex. But that’s never what it was about for 99% of the men on there. It would be more appropriate for these apps to be called Meat Market or Girl To Go but women wouldn’t use them then. They’re getting smarter about how they use u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:32 AM
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Straight up projection. Reminds me of when my ex told me he tried to be somebody I would like. Makes my skin crawl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:28 AM
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Straight men heard about it and realized they could use it to sleep around and make straight women put up with it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:27 AM
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Pickmes reduce women’s negotiating power as a whole when it comes to men meeting basic standards. It sucks. Oh well, I’d rather be single than date a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:09 AM
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You make 6x the amount he does? Lol girl why are you talking to him at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 03:57 AM
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ED is awful and it hurts the female partner too. But I’m grateful for it. That one thing is what will cause men to change. Cause children to be protected from online porn. Because we all know damn well if it didn’t hurt men even a little bit, there’d be no fucking change
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 04:12 AM
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It makes me sad that my ex didn’t know or try to change. This gives me hope that younger women won’t go through what I did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 04:10 AM
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It’s so sad that men describe sex with a woman as a conquest or worse in violent terms like “destroyed”. So emblematic of the objectification and sadism they’re full of
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:45 AM
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I’m so sorry girl. I feel your pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 10:19 PM
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Male subs top from the bottom all the time honestly. Sorry u went thru this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 04:26 PM
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They get off on struggle, non-consent, forcing it on you. That was part of it for him.. same for my ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 08:47 AM
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Let him expose the sordid truth of his own LVMness, and the libfem pickmes who fuel it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:56 AM
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...oh man. Yeah.. sounds like it was on purpose. Jesus Christ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:54 AM
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Isn’t the word thot sexist?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:49 AM
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? I’m expressing shock that anyone would engage in group sex during the pandemic. What is confusing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:43 AM
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That’s literally a threat to public health and safety wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:30 AM
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Hmm weird how rough sex never means men getting choked, slapped, spat on, called degrading slurs. It’s almost like it’s just violence against women......... 🙄🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:29 AM
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I agree. I’m going to be getting rhinoplasty and a chin implant to have facial harmony, but I’d never make my boobs or butt bigger. It feels too demeaning to me, and it’s purely for men’s sexual fantasies. That being said, I think there are exceptions like post-mastectomy reconstruction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:22 AM
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Yeah, it’s definitely not unless she experiences traumatic injuries in childbirth. That’s the kind of “ruin” I worry about. If everything’s in working order I wouldn’t call a woman’s body ruined just because she gave birth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:01 AM
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Lmfao right? It’s like “oh he only does meth once a week” Yeah..... sure...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 02:18 AM
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Their self esteem is heavily wrapped up in how other men view them. Other men’s perception of their masculinity is their own perception of their masculinity. When a woman slights them they can wave it off with misogyny. They can’t use misogyny to deflect against other men’s attacks on their character
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 02:10 AM
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Musk is 🤢 but wasn’t grimes a famous musical artist before they got together? Rly don’t know what she’s thinking having a baby w him. They’re not even married lol. Holy crap just read that he has 5 other kids w his first wife. What a LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 02:07 AM
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Agree with all of it except that only 1/10 men are actively being bad to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 11:41 PM
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LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 05:28 PM
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It’s way more dangerous than red pill. At least women stay away from that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 05:30 AM
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Yeah if he’s still jackhammering that long he def has death grip haaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 05:26 AM
20

I used to have short hair because it’s cute. I literally don’t even find this insulting because there are so many beautiful lesbians with short hair like what’s ur point bro hahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 05:22 AM
7

It sucks because with any other prejudice or oppression, at least you don’t have to fall in love or desire sex with your oppressor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 03:56 AM
81

Poor woman... that is such a serious injury.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 03:41 AM
9

Since when do men get off on pleasuring women? Lolll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:49 AM
7

That makes me so mad and sad to hear. What a disgusting liar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:37 PM
21

Yeah, great way to make ur gf sympathetic and supportive of you while you jerk off to other women every day 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:57 AM
34

My PA ex literally lied about why his dick didn’t work. He said it was a special medical condition. 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:54 AM
58

Guys will literally choose their own hand and some pixels over a real woman. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 02:25 AM
22

Rumor has it the person tweeting is her new fiancé(e) 😏 jk ... unless...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 01:51 AM
104

“I am not like what men have told me other girls are like. They’re wrong about all women” :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 12:34 AM
8

I wrote my comment before the OP was edited
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 10:25 PM
4

Congratulations!!! You showed true strength :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 07:54 PM
18

Yeah, I’ve heard those apps stop showing a profile if they haven’t been active in the last week so.. he was lying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 07:53 PM
2

Knew something was wrong with this dude. Why are the sensible comments on here getting downvoted?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 06:53 PM
123

Feels like my brain wasn’t even my own. Trauma bonding is a mf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 08:36 AM
196

Umm holy shit, aside from how fucked up this is, he should be fired for sexually harassing you with that image. Do you feel comfortable reporting to HR?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 08:35 AM
18

This is the case in a lot of non western countries except all of the domestic and child rearing work gets dumped on the oldest women. I don’t see men agreeing to take more duties on unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 07:25 AM
33

I also wish there were some kind of social structure like this where two women could platonically co-parent a child. I’ve just never seen a man contribute a true 50/50 in parenting, period. I’m not a tradwife nor am I “she can do it all” pickme. I have a life. I’m not raising a child and a husband 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 07:23 AM
53

Bumble is classic libfem “empowerment”. Guys love it bc they don’t have to put in the effort to show interest. No surprise they immediately were worried about losing their male customers from this. They always virtue signal that they care about women, that they’re the woman friendly app. Bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 07:15 AM
-3

I don’t see this as high value at all. Why is he assuming everyone he speaks with is 18+? Sounds like victim blaming. He should always keep in mind that they may be a minor, regardless of the sender’s behavior. Scrote is annoyed he can’t sext strange women online bc of this? Yawn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 07:01 AM
38

I think it’s sarcasm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:25 AM
76

I’ve been reading your comments on other subs Chard, and you’re doing really important work. I wish I had the guts to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 11:31 PM
49

Even if she did say these things, they’re all either true or warranted. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 11:30 PM
30

They know what failures their sons are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:42 PM
59

No need to insult mentally disabled people. He’s just a misogynist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:18 AM
5

I hope it goes well and your recovery is fast. <3 I can relate a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 10:58 PM
4

Thank you. I’m sorry that you have also suffered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 10:57 PM
4

Thank you. Yes, it’s never “just for us”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 10:57 PM
21

This is my dream
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 10:31 PM
7

Thank you for the thorough reply. I have been seeing a therapist for years, but not for this. I do worry sometimes that my dissatisfaction borders on BDD. I’m not sure. It could cause me to continue getting procedures (to my face) past the point of it making any sense aesthetically. You’ve given me more to think about, I appreciate it. <3 I still have a few months left to call it off, if I need to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 06:57 PM
15

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, and I agree with you 100%. I guess I want to get FDS women’s opinion on this. In the pandemic I scheduled multiple facial surgery procedures for this spring. Nose job, neck tightening, chin implant. I’ve hated my profile for a long time. Finally... I stopped fighting it and decided I’d just remove the issue. I’ve struggled reconciling this with my feminist views. I know that if women weren’t objectified like we are, and if my face were conventionally a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 06:33 PM
6

“Yeah my bank verified my credit score!” “Oh how do they do that” “Idk the lady just asked me and I made something up, we’re all good to go!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 06:24 PM
4

I can’t take any guy who lusts after anime cartoon women seriously. Immediate turnoff lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 06:21 PM
56

Grew up in the 00s too. Most men our age have been watching hardcore porn since they were 11. Now we have to deal with the fallout
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 06:19 PM
696

We don’t call other women females
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 06:11 PM
4

Exactly. Thank you for putting this so eloquently
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 06:06 PM
193

Yep, that’s what porn addicts and their depravity do to their girlfriends and wives. I’ve been there. You end up hating your body and then yourself deeply. Suicidal thoughts. Self-harm. Never date a porn addict.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 06:39 AM
3

Sarah’s honestly a badass hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:58 AM
1071

“Are you on a date that isn’t going well?” “Yes. I’m at a Hooters.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:44 AM
107

Erotica written by pornsick people sounds like a crime report
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:09 AM
8

If it doesn’t come from porn, he’s probably a serial killer. So I’d wager most cases are from watching violent porn. OP, the porn itself has been proven to make men view women in their lives as objects. There are men out there who won’t ask you to do these things. They will also treat you better in other ways
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:05 AM
131

Aside from it being misogynistic and violent to women and children, what they do requires no imagination on their part. They’re sexually stunted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 01:59 AM
125

Doctors and therapists placate men with PIED and low empathy all the time. “Just take viagra! Just tell her to communicate!” The whole system is rigged against us and patriarchal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 01:57 AM
3

Yes, I def missed those two. They’re big ones
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 11:28 PM
25

You’re right. Self-harm through sex is a real thing women need help with but they don’t even know it exists. If only women’s magazines wrote about that... but they’re all owned by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 11:16 PM
25

I know you’re replying to the other commenter not me but this interests me a lot. In my last relationship I felt inferior for never having had a fwb or a threesome or done certain sex acts. That that meant I was less sexy. But I’d had more satisfying sex than all the girls I knew who had done these things. Is this just because of being triangulated with these girls or porn stars?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:56 PM
22

I think it’s more helpful to frame this as a skill set issue rather than an emotional maturity issue. Like you said, in the absence of an anxiety disorder as the reason, advocating for yourself has less to do with emotions and more to do with utilizing a set of skills which few parents and teachers prioritize teaching their daughters and female students. If a young woman doesn’t have the tools and practice she needs to stand up for herself and assert boundaries, that problem has existed since sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:44 PM
24

One question I want someone to ask her, that’s all. How often does she orgasm during sex with him. Sorry I said sex I meant kink performance*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:27 PM
28

I did too. And I didn’t even realize that all that emotional abuse could cause my sexual attraction to go away when emotionally I felt more needy than ever. I literally got vaginismus from it lol my lady parts really said Girl you are not having sex w this asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:25 PM
364

He treated her like a human being not a sex object. Of course she was surprised. The fact is, and I’m surprised he didn’t know this himself, that if a man invites you to his house for a first date 99% of the time he expects you to have sex with him. That’s why HVW say no to these offers. All men should view women and treat women like whole human beings, like this guy. I do see this as the bare minimum, but it’s nice to see regardless. Especially because he doesn’t come off as trying to get prais…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:23 PM
60

Yes. Many women don’t respect their partner once he disrespects them but women blame themselves for it. Women lose their sexual attraction when the man shows he doesn’t respect her and therefore he himself is not worth respecting. At that point we need to walk away, not question our feelings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:13 PM
20

Since FDS I’ve decided that if I feel I need to break up with a guy, I’m not telling him why and I’m ghosting/leaving. I cannot give him the opportunity to manipulate / gaslight or beg and plead / pull on my heartstrings to stay. When you communicate this, you run the risk of not following through (for women like me who have struggled to leave in the past.) I feel like this will help me to leave in the future. I understand if you live together you have to say something and it’s a bit more diffic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:34 PM
27

Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:31 PM
11

He’s the only man who’s actually a well meaning idiot. And he’s fictional. Real guys just pretend to be idiots so they don’t have to lift a finger for you lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:24 PM
55

I didn’t know it was porn induced until FDS either. You can definitely tell once you’re having sex with them though. Goes soft often, jackhammers when he manages to get erect, can’t ejaculate without his own hand. I don’t wanna get to that point because if that ever happens again I’m getting out of bed and kicking him out/walking out myself I feel you on the disillusionment. More and more men develop ED as time goes on, both from porn and aging. But honestly, sex with a guy who has ED doesn’t ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 07:43 PM
70

Oh my ex had PIED. I’m definitely asking a dude if he has ED before we get down to business from now on. Can’t lie about that forever lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 06:49 PM
13

Yeah, men who call themselves feminists are just manipulators
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 06:46 PM
3

Haahahahaha love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 06:33 PM
18

“You’re still breathing” 😭😭 girl you didn’t hold back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 06:30 PM
24

Hahahah it’s so sad and true. Men’s political identity says absolutely nothing about their respect for women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 06:29 PM
16

They always forget that Ricky literally kissed Lahey’s ass for his daughter to have encyclopedias 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 06:22 PM
17

If they’re not threatened by it it’s because they aren’t objectified constantly. They get to be human beings. They know women don’t objectify them the way men do women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:42 AM
19

Hmm where else do we see men giving a woman cash after sex.... oh right 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 02:24 AM
26

Exactly. If porn had videos objectifying the most sculpted, beautiful men zoomed in on their every body part, on their faces showing pleasure and dirty talk for hours of content like it does women, men would call their gfs disloyal whores and leave them. Why would a straight man care if a woman is watching another woman get objectified? Libfems really think if both partners view porn it’s equal or something. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 02:22 AM
33

Women’s preferences don’t matter to pornographers. Have you ever watched “feminist porn”? For the life of me, I cannot tell the difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 02:19 AM
17

The misogyny runs deep with this one. Maternal gatekeeping??? How about men actually step up to the plate and bother to parent their children properly. What a fucking joke. Amazing how he manages to financially provide for the family when he can’t even do the dishes. How does he not get fired? Oh wait... it’s because he’s faking incompetence at home. Honestly seeing this just makes me so mad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 02:13 AM
172

He wants all the pickmes to praise him like a god for the iota of empathy he suddenly gained
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 01:04 AM
22

The fact that he posted this REEKS of entitlement
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 01:03 AM
20

Overpowering*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:25 PM
4

Yeah, I’m aware
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:35 AM
86

She’s disgusting, her followers are pedophiles, and anyone who engages in rape role play sex is either a deeply damaged woman or a scum trash bag misogynist wannabe rapist man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:35 AM
9

In mainstream publications?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:51 AM
108

He already started the family in this scenario. No it’s because he knows the woman feels trapped and he can get away with being an asshole abuser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:50 AM
92

Thank god this is finally getting into mainstream publications. The illusion of libfem empowerment can’t last forever..I hope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:26 AM
149

That’s common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:22 AM
80

Let me guess they called it hate speech
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:02 AM
34

Is the pinkpill sub pro-FDS? I’ve seen all these colored pill subs and idk which ones are crap or not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 01:03 AM
3

You’re right. I’ve been through it too... it’s a sign of codependency bred from trauma bonding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 01:01 AM
11

This is why you never make the first move or chase a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:50 AM
7

This is NOT what FDS promotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:46 AM
47

People should have to take psych courses in order to become cops.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:40 AM
148

Lmfaooo right? Like why are YOU crying? Oh wait it’s a manipulation tactic so I have to be nice to you about you hurting me 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:31 AM
32

Don’t date broke men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:28 AM
15

Amen!! First instance of him treating you like crap, you don’t beg you don’t “communicate”. You disappear from his life. THAT is empowering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:24 AM
9

Yeah you don’t even need to “communicate” that they hurt you. They know and don’t care. Also girl saying “my truth”... it’s just the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:22 AM
17

Congratulations, really!!! What you did takes so much strength. Your body and mind are going to thank you for getting rid of this awful burden and stressor. You go girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 07:07 AM
2

The last couple sentences reminds me of when my ex made everything as difficult as possible and I ended up breaking up with him, which is what he wanted all along. Good for you for staying covid safe unlike him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 07:04 AM
8

I see. So he never confirmed he was your monogamous boyfriend? That’s rough. Sounds a bit like he might’ve lovebombed you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 06:36 AM
1

All the projection and adjustments of previous projections that go on in her head... this was so specific, so accurate.. wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 06:31 AM
1

Beautiful. Thank you for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 06:29 AM
63

Damn, I think this needs to be pinned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 06:25 AM
5

I understand he says right now he doesn’t want it. It can still happen years later. Don’t worry about it but still be careful. Having some savings is definitely important. It’s good you’ve discussed this stuff. I think, before 2021 is over, he should have created and shared a projected savings plan like a spreadsheet so that he can point to the month he’ll be able to afford the ring (in addition to the emergency fund being ready). The next two years will be elucidating. Wish you the best :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 05:05 AM
3

Tag yourself im the girl on the left
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:54 AM
94

Wow I bet this was really hard for him to get off his chest /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:44 AM
4

(I’m 24 for reference) I don’t think you guys not being married yet is a red flag since you did just finish your studies. What is a red flag to me is that he has not expressed any sort of plan for it, which indicates he most likely does not want it. And by want it, I mean actually wants it enough to take the initiative to make it happen. Likely he is super comfortable with you and isn’t worried of losing you if he doesn’t “lock you down”. In my opinion, if finances were the only issue, he would’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:39 AM
2

Omg I used to worship her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:23 AM
5

What were the communication issues?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:20 AM
5

Twice. One was a great relationship overall. The other one was the worst experience of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:19 AM
9

That lethargic “oh my god” from him made me cringe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:14 AM
5

I don’t think I’ve ever responded to a guy who didn’t ask a detailed question or made a witty joke about something specific to my profile. And I still ended up dealing with assholes and addicts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:55 AM
36

I still can’t believe it’s now a miracle when a guy stays hard and comes in a reasonable amount of time. Like literally 10-20 years ago I think anything else would be unfathomable to people. Sad world we live in. Happy for u tho!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:53 AM
6

I’m picky, not a pickme. That’s why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:50 AM
64

It’s nice to see two very popular male comedians who do not put down women and minorities and still manage to gain respect and attention from young men. Who knew it was possible....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:48 AM
56

Pickmes love to project
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:45 AM
55

Let’s be real, her bf is the poly one. She’s probably devoted to him and picks out who he should sext each night 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:45 AM
15

And can definitely benefit from learning about specific gaslighting and manipulation tactics that have most likely been used against you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:41 AM
26

Make sure you never let yourself experience that. It is GRIM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:27 AM
15

My ex couldn’t either :-) lmfao sick PA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:26 AM
2

Another one bites the dust!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:26 AM
128

Yup, they want you to look prepubescent because they’re pedophiles in the making thanks to porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 01:55 AM
29

Desensitized addict. Gross. Then there’s the guys who want to watch it during sex. Why don’t u just completely dissociate from reality at that point bucko
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 01:43 AM
23

Exactly. What’s the point of being exclusive partners if you’re gonna jerk off to every woman on earth? They’d have sex with them too if they could get away with it, but women still view that as cheating and will leave their ass. Fake poly guys tryna turn physical cheating into normal guy behavior too 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 12:27 AM
15

“Worth the risk of losing me” He knew that was never at risk, lmao. She’s still with him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 12:26 AM
13

🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 12:24 AM
42

The only thing you need to do to deserve a man treating you with respect is exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 12:16 AM
40

Because there’s a hundred pickmes who will continue to date them while having terrible sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:58 PM
24

Few try. Even fewer succeed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:57 PM
14

I disagree. The sex worker not knowing him doesn’t stop him from sexually bonding to her. This is why men escalate to paying specific cam girls to say their names and perform custom acts. Men worship and lust after women who don’t know their names all the time. But let’s leave it at that, I don’t think either of us are going to change our minds, and I respect your right not to view it as cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:57 PM
18

I’m not saying masturbation is cheating. Masturbating to porn is. There is another participant. It’s the sex worker on the screen whether it’s prerecorded or live, free or paid for. At the end of the day, whether you call it cheating or not, it makes a lot of women feel the same way getting cheated on feels, and that’s what matters most. I do wish we had a specific term for this that had a negative connotation because frankly porn use is too neutral.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:42 PM
24

Where do you draw the line then? Is having FaceTime sex with his ex not cheating then because there’s no physical contact? Is that not an affair? To me, it is. One could argue that not calling it cheating is minimizing the fact they are redirecting their sexual energy onto other women instead of on you. Especially when it gets to the point that they become so heavily addicted to porn that they choose it over you even when you are physically available and willing. Emotional cheating is a thing to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 08:20 PM
57

In high school this guy told me during class “Your hair looks nice that way. Makes you look less dorky” Same guy, but saying it to a group of people instead of my face: “She’s weird but she has a nice butt” A pickme classmate told me what he said. I was like “how am I weird?” She was like “at least he thinks you’re attractive!” She couldn’t understand why I was offended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 08:03 PM
11

I’m so sorry. He made his interest seem like the voice of logic and reason. They weren’t. What is logical and reasonable is to protect yourself from a sadist. Your gut was right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:54 PM
19

Tradwives and libfems are two sides of the same coin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:40 PM
14

And the more women who start watching porn (and degrading porn), the more they lose their gut feeling of how wrong their own objectification is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:34 PM
174

Keep in mind that just because other women have had boyfriends/fiancees/husbands even before doesn’t mean they were treated with love. Real love comes with respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:33 PM
4

There’s multiple pics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:26 PM
6

“I’m totally a woman!! Not a man!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:26 PM
18

THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:17 PM
37

There are modern hairpieces for younger men with premature balding to get glued on their heads. They look super realistic. It’s not available everywhere but I think it should be. I’m not dating a half bald dude, and I’m not gonna pity him either. With everything women are expected to do for beauty, the least they can do is figure this out :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:15 PM
105

”As early as 40 years old” Laughs in ex had ED at 21
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 08:59 AM
35

So true lol. I can’t even imagine telling a future boyfriend that I love him anymore. For what dude? What have you done to earn my love? The best I could muster is “having sex with you has chemically bonded me to you and I like that we share hobbies”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 08:51 AM
67

They know that’s what you want to hear. If they wanted to imagine you, they’d close their eyes, look at a (clothed) picture of you, or have sex with you instead of jerking off. I say that as a woman who’s been told this same line countless times. It’s a lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:00 AM
23

Dating men with children is a headache I wouldn’t deal with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:17 AM
1

My Spanish teacher used to stare at our chests and tell us not to start wrestling during class... we were 12.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:15 AM
119

Yup, you are 100% right that it’s cheating. What do women think their boyfriend is thinking when he’s watching porn? Lmfao he forgets you exist completely. All he’s thinking is “I want to fuck this slut” on the screen. And they do think in those words exactly. As far as their genitals go, they are convinced in the moment that they ARE having sex with that woman. If women could hear their bf’s thoughts at these times they would vomit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:50 AM
5

What an absolute piece of shit. I’m so sorry. That is SO awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:46 AM
7

Make that 75% at least
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:43 AM
14

I used to with a mellow guy I felt comfortable with. We had some hobbies in common so we’d hang out too but I didn’t see him as bf material (less accomplished than me, younger). It worked for a while just as a release. But this is the only time casual sex worked for me. Other times were all emotionally manipulative or disappointing. I don’t think I could do it again tho with anyone after FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 06:58 AM
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So weird she misspelled child and wrote husband lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 06:48 AM
2

Hahahaah mine did too!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 06:33 AM
7

Omfg I’ve watched these videos. They’re great examples of types of men you should never give the time of day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 04:36 AM
2

Or anxious or confused!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:33 PM
2

You can always do color shampoos and go lavender or light pink!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:31 PM
5

Oh man I think I need to do one of these at some point. I looked at a picture of my ex recently and was like... was he always this ugly???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:30 PM
9

Wanted to say the same thing qhqhahaha I’m dead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:29 PM
2

It shook me to read that he did that to you. I’m so sorry.... When I discussed it the first time it’s because my ex wanted to do it. I said I was uncomfortable with it and then he described how hot it was doing anal with his ex gf. That thought haunted me for weeks. Funniest thing? He broke me down eventually to try it but he couldn’t keep it up to even get it in 😂😂 his PIED saved me And yep doing it doesn’t earn you any brownie points with them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:00 AM
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<3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:46 AM
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“Well I don’t wanna lose him” Honey you never had him Edit: thank you for the award! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:14 AM
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Ah. This is very important information. Even though he knows that marriage guarantees you can stay together, he still calls it “just a piece of paper”. This is not promising. Marriage is not just beneficial to you. It’s crucial for the future of your relationship and therefore it should be incredibly important to him as well. A man should be enthusiastic about getting to marry you. Especially if it means you won’t be torn apart by legal issues. He shouldn’t feel the need to devalue marriage as a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 04:58 AM
3

Unfortunately. Well, at least we can channel our resources into other worthwhile pursuits 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:20 AM
5

It’s ok, I don’t plan to have kids for many reasons, one of them being the scarcity of HVM. I’m pretty sure there’s a way to identify devices in your house though. Taking technology may not work in all cases. I guess it depends how rebellious your child is. I was never rebellious and respected my parents’ authority so it’s hard for me to imagine having a kid that brazen. Having a talk with your son about sex doesn’t stop boys from watching porn. They will definitely seek it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:12 AM
9

Lmfao like kids who say their mom won’t let them do something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 12:28 AM
26

Libfems’ whole argument is literally “Women have the right to be groomed by men into behaving in self-destructive ways.” And that’s feminist how? Their lack of desire to protect girls from predators disgusts me. They are so brainwashed they can’t even see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 12:04 AM
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Of course it’s conflicting. He’s saying he’d like marriage someday to appease you for as long as you don’t push him on it. At the same time he tries to normalize his real views which are anti marriage by bringing up those unmarried couples so that when you eventually feel pushed to give him an ultimatum, the seed of his excuses will have been planted in your mind and the fabric of your relationship. He told you he doesn’t see it as necessary or beneficial. What makes you think he’ll go into what…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:39 PM
6

Yup. They want a mommy bangmaid who doesn’t get a 2 weeks notice when they fire her 🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:37 PM
6

Men only ever call something anti-feminist if it doesn’t serve them and they want to manipulate a woman with boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:31 PM
5

“What’s the point of getting married to you when you already do everything a wife would do for me? This way you cook and clean for me and I can dump you in a heartbeat with no legal proceedings which I inevitably will when I find my dreamgirl”*****
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:28 PM
15

Great example. Einstein’s wife’s name was Mileva Marić. Watson and Crick? Stole credit for the double helix discovery from Rosalind Franklin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:23 PM
21

I envy you, really. I didn’t think about or discuss anal sex with anyone until I was 21. Now girls as young as 15 are being pressured to do it by their pubescent boyfriends. Men my age have been watching porn since they were idk 12 and boy do we women suffer for it now :-) It’s only going to get worse if nobody intervenes. I pity everyone who comes of age in this decade. There is nothing sex positive about pornography and the misogyny it perpetuates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:16 PM
17

I didn’t even know it was possible until FDS lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:03 PM
3

Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:00 PM
1

I didn’t know about the warning shots that’s very interesting, thanks! I understand you are less likely to have your gun used against you, but statistically speaking it may be true for more women than men (if what I heard is true). If it is true, I don’t know what causes it. Are women less educated on gun use in general, or less likely to have practiced using the gun before the assault happened? (Again not you specifically.) I would be curious what are my chances of having it used against me if …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 10:45 PM
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Many parents do not acknowledge the problem and that’s huge I agree. They share the blame there. Porn blockers should have existed 20 years ago. It should be illegal for a minor to have access to a device without blockers on it. Parents don’t see it so they feel absolved. It’s child neglect. I feel bad for parents who try and are unsuccessful in keeping their sons from it though. We need education and awareness for the parents who don’t even try. I really hope there will come a backlash from the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 10:35 PM
2

I found the case I was thinking of. I don’t understand why she was arrested based on the stand your ground law here. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.nytimes.com/2017/02/07/us/marissa-alexander-released-stand-your-ground.amp.html. I’ve also heard that women are more likely to have their gun used against them by a male attacker but idk the scope of the study. These concern me because a gun would probably make me feel safer but there’s so much conflicting info online and I’ve never even held a gun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 10:19 PM
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No yeah you’re definitely right. I do think going on a date with another guy can be helpful to start the emotional detachment process if that helps you :-) But as far as what you end up doing with/to the (ex) bf, silence speaks the loudest. I think what I found empowering about this thought was knowing that I do have the capability to hurt a guy back. Doesn’t mean we should waste our time on doing it though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 10:14 PM
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We live in two realities: in-person and virtual. In regular life, you can’t enter a movie theatre screening nudity until you’re 18 or 17 (I don’t remember). But the internet has no rules. There are laws around advertising to children on tv. Internet? Anything goes. Every lawmaker who has looked the other way has failed entire generations of children and now adults. It’s pathetic and insidious and evil. It’s adults’ responsibility to protect children from this mind-twisting filth and violence bef…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:58 PM
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They identify with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:55 PM
79

Most of Reddit is a cesspool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:55 PM
6

What’s a CCW? I’ve heard news reports of women being arrested for shooting in self defense in their own home against an intruder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:53 PM
28

And they ask to go 50/50 on rent and groceries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:51 PM
18

He took her tubes out without her permission and didn’t even tell her or anyone else? What the actual fuck. I have no words. That’s... assault???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:47 PM
2

Mhm!!! Funny how that works
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 05:26 PM
3

You’re so right. We have to be our own advocates
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 05:26 PM
1

I’m not really sure how
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 05:24 PM
29

She should definitely dump him. But sometimes it’s fun to fantasize about revenge hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:21 AM
10

What the hell......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:19 AM
6

Fuck him. Sexist pig.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:53 AM
2

Agreed. I find being clinically polite and emotionless helps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:43 AM
9

I learned this in high school. In my chem class I came up with a formula that aggregated all the steps of process to solve for a value which some of my classmates were struggling with. I was surprised it didn’t already exist tbh. I took it to the teacher (old White Southern man) and he put it on the projector. He said “one of your classmates /found/ this.” He didn’t even say my name or that it was my idea. My friends chimed in “didn’t pinkcloudzzz come up with that?” He mumbled something. I hear…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:41 AM
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This is literally how cults behave. They brainwash their female members to ignore anger and pain, that those feelings are caused by a big ego and are bad for the soul. Just to gaslight them into accepting abuse and polygamy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:32 AM
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I’m so sorry. That must be extremely painful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:31 AM
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Fuckboys love to call themselves polyamorous. It’s one of their best manipulation tactics. So weird how most “polyamorous” guys only want a harem of women, never to be a girl’s 4th boyfriend huh? Couldn’t imagine why /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:31 AM
5

Because she won’t go viral and make $$$ appropriating Slavic women’s accents
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:27 AM
3

I find it insensitive too. Russian women have long been sex trafficked to the US. She’s a privileged woman who doesn’t belong to this ethnicity who couldn’t find a way to get her point across without demeaning other women. Sad. It also perpetuates the stereotype of the Russian mail order bride. :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:26 AM
3

Yeah she used the wrong seize lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:23 AM
4

Lol. He does realize there sex toys for men too? He’s comparing apples and oranges.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:22 AM
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I’m not engaging with any user who calls me a bitch. You don’t belong here if you can’t have a disagreement without using misogynistic slurs against another woman. Hopefully the mods see this. Until then, bye girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:14 AM
6

Lmfao. You really showed me. Why are you at all surprised that a post about a pedophile isn’t the best place to shift the conversation to mental health? Ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:02 AM
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I think it’s hilarious that it’s pretty well agreed on that it’s disrespectful for a man to ogle women when he’s with you, but if he’s doing it alone watching porn, “that’s just how guys are” 🙄 All it shows is that they completely compartmentalize and don’t even remember you exist when they’re jerking it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:58 AM
6

They always take for granted what they have
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:56 AM
3

Then I don’t see the relevance of your comment to this thread
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:43 AM
9

LOL yes, the classic PIU (penis in uterus) sex!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:41 AM
26

Men will jerk off to a prolapsed anus but get queasy around a tampon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:40 AM
9

They just don’t give a shit about women lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:39 AM
7

Ah. I wonder if he’s telling the truth lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:35 AM
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That’s clearly not what that dude described. He didn’t even call it a nightmare. He’s a pedophile. We know what anxiety/OCD nightmares are. This ain’t it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:35 AM
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He’s not going to jail and he’s not losing his daughter like he should be. He really didn’t get what’s coming at all. His poor baby girl will suffer because of his depravity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:34 AM
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For men, watching porn is literally just a digital prostitute simulation. That’s why there are so many POV videos. They have hang ups around finding and paying a prostitute so they watch a video simulation of it. It makes me want to vomit. And then people say it doesn’t count as cheating. Like OKAY SURE 🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:30 AM
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What horrifies me is that he will likely never tell his wife and she won’t be able to protect her child from this fucking pedophile predator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:26 AM
10

I think about this too. The thought of being chained to a man who turns out to be a LVM for the rest of my life because of a child terrifies me. You never know if they were just pretending to be HV until the baby comes. I could eventually afford to raise a child on my own given my line of work but I would always feel guilty for forcing the child to live in a single parent household. I just can’t see myself having kids because of this, and it makes me... really, really sad. I see it as the degene…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:22 AM
41

It’s true that no happy marriage starts with an ultimatum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:09 AM
7

Mmmhmmmm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:48 AM
15

Ok is it just me but I feel like he gave the side chick a sexier name than his gf for a reason
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:47 AM
5

They’ve only hung out 3 times and she’s so important he needs to get breakfast with her? Boy bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:44 AM
65

What a piece of trash. Gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:39 AM
53

My ex did this to me. I cannot believe I fell for it. He was hiding me from his ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:39 AM
12

I’ve never witnessed a man do that stuff. I assume they exist, or at least I like to hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:34 AM
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I feel ridiculous for ever having given into being indifferent about it. Fuck no, it’s infidelity and it’s disrespectful as hell. Not to mention the industry is straight up abuse and violence against women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:03 AM
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You know, I just think about how men don’t care if their girlfriends watch porn and it really is because porn is not catered to women. It’s not focusing on the guy, he’s not cute or hot. Men feel more threatened by their gf fawning over an actor than her watching porn for a reason. Women watching porn with their partner is the biggest cope I’ve ever seen and I’m so glad I’ve never done that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:01 AM
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I’m so sorry. In my situation the video that was loaded was a POV one. Like that is literally the closest you can get to cheating without cheating. POV VR. I really just lose all hope when I remember this. I’m seriously considering I may never find a man worthy of marriage for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 06:21 AM
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9/10 times it means he’s met a girl he likes more and doesn’t want to deal with the guilt of knowing he hurt your feelings. Don’t expect to hear from him again. If you do, it’ll only be because the other girl ghosted him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 04:14 AM
3

I don’t have any advice but I’m in the same boat and know how you feel. We’ll get through it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 04:06 AM
7

I think OP said they’re having trouble making friends during covid so they’re lonely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 04:03 AM
5

Oh my god...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:58 AM
2

You are courageous. You did the right thing. Congratulations <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:57 AM
25

Yeah I get you. I’ve just been lied to before so words are cheap to me. It sucks that we women face so many fucking hurdles to just having a healthy respectful connection with a man. If I could change my sexual orientation I would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:41 AM
10

I feel like you’re right. The best thing we can do is tell other women their aversion to men watching porn is valid and shame these men. “Oh you watch porn? How’s that erectile dysfunction going for you?” 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:39 AM
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Exactly. It goes further back to how peeping toms who spy on women undressing through windows are creeps but a man looking at pictures of naked women is a healthy sexual guy supposedly. This degree of separation has been excusing this shit since centerfolds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:37 AM
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The best way I can think of is to pretend I’m okay with porn and ask what stuff he’s into lol but it just kills any potential romance for me to be disingenuous. I’ve never noticed the subtle clues during sex for a light porn user though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:33 AM
4

Nah, she’s trying to say sex work is like any other working class job. She’s wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:17 AM
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I feel like raising a high quality empathetic human being of a son would be such an uphill battle because of degenerate societal pressures at school and online. I can’t do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:15 AM
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Thank you for commenting. I would definitely dump a guy for watching porn now, but how do you know they’re not lying if they say they don’t? I know how to spot an addict (ED, kinks, etc). But I’m just so fed up with the whole thing I don’t want him watching “normal” porn either. How do you spot that? :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:13 AM
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That’s because they are calling it empowering. Go on Twitter. Read some OF girls’ posts. They praise sex work. Also who here is hating on sex workers? The post explicitly says and I quote “Sex workers need help and deserve compassion. They suffer under patriarchy, too.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 02:55 AM
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The first time I dealt with the pain of finding out a boyfriend of mine watched porn these were my thoughts too. Then I got desensitized to it because it just seemed impossible to find a man who doesn’t watch it. I’m single now but I’m viscerally remembering that feeling now and feel so worthless. He is imagining banging her, he is cheating on you in his mind. If he could, he would. I feel hopeless about it at this point. My last ex was the worst of them, an ED ridden porn addict. Even the best …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 02:50 AM
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You legit said it’s just a shitty job. It’s not. Still waiting to hear what other jobs are as degrading as sex work since that was a huge part of your argument
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 02:14 AM
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Nah, sis. There are plenty of past posts you can read on here to understand why sex work is exploitative. There is literally no other job as degrading as prostitution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:47 AM
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True. Dating an LVM always makes you feel lonely and confused and stressed out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:37 AM
4

If it’s on OLD, I don’t go based on butterflies, but once it’s in person I have to feel something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 07:53 AM
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A HVM doesn’t let a woman do this for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 07:48 AM
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Education: nunya shirtless pics likes anime no college degree full time bartender/musician middle finger up no bio pics with other girls “here for a good time not a long time” “ethically non-monogamous” “let’s see if you can keep up with me” weed pics astrology sign “new to the area, show me around”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 06:15 AM
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Open minded always means non monogamous 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 06:11 AM
6

Ah after tax.. yeah that’s possible. I still think at 30 in engineering he should be past 100k but he might just be an IT guy not a software engineer lol. Men love calling themselves engineers even when it’s not in their title
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 04:12 AM
2

This is so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 04:08 AM
3

....I’m so tempted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 04:07 AM
18

It goes in one ear and out the other. I have a friend like this. I’ve spent hours trying to explain this shit to her but she never changes. It has to come from within.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 04:04 AM
4

Internalized misogyny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 04:02 AM
5

Jail. That’s it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 04:01 AM
5

The truth here....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 04:00 AM
5

As a 30 yr old engineer, $80k is pretty low
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 03:59 AM
25

It’s not just about cheating, it’s general empathy every step of the relationship. Straight men are proven to be the worst in this regard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 03:56 AM
3

LOL a walk back then was a gesture of courtship and intent to marry, and a chance for the man to show the assets he could share with the woman. What assets is Kyle who’s looking for a fwb showing me on a pandemic walk where he doesn’t offer to pay for my Starbucks? Lmao byeeeee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 06:50 AM
1

Lmao makeup more like a full halloween mask
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 06:44 AM
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After living in my family home for a year without paying rent and promising to stay in touch because he loves me so much 🤢when he left to pursue higher education abroad, he insisted I stop contacting him. He just discarded me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:54 AM
9

Definitely take diamonds and gold instead of a car. Cars devalue so quickly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:51 AM
13

Good for you. You’re just mitigating risk like a smart financier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:48 AM
5

Right, I mean I just don’t know what this sort of dead eye look actually looks like I guess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:44 AM
14

I wish there were an app where you could write reviews for guys. We could look out for each other so much better. There just isn’t that same community vetting anymore for a lot of women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:22 AM
7

I’ve never experienced this, is there a picture online that captures it somewhat? I want to be prepared
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:19 AM
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There is no way to hide a crippling porn addiction IF this messaging continues to spread. If their bf has it, they’ll know. If they truly believe the message in the Tik Tok that drew them to this kind of guy, it’s on them to then walk away. But at least they know they shouldn’t be with him unlike women before who were brainwashed to believe it’s normal and “just what guys do”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:02 AM
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Sure the kid might be faking it for attention, but at least the message is spreading. And these younger girls will hear it and be less likely to fall for porn sick men. There will always be performative male “feminists”, not much we can do about that. Right now we have a huge lack of awareness problem around porn, and this helps. Or at the very least is indicative that things may be getting better. I’m also a mid 90s baby and am disappointed in guys our age so trust me I get where ur coming from
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 02:56 AM
15

You’re so right, I’ve felt that change from fds too! I really have a take it or leave it attitude now and if someone disappears they’ve done me a favor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 02:53 AM
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Yeah I don’t see myself doing this for a man even if he’s my fiancé or husband tbh 🤷🏻‍♀️ I hate doing housework and hate that I’m expected to be more open to doing it than a man is. 50/50 on housework or I’m hiring a cleaning service 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 02:50 AM
14

What stone is that? So pretty!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:34 AM
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Plenty of guys with PIED in college now. I don’t believe in karma but damn this is the closest thing to it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 04:33 AM
318

Ungrateful for a yard sale ring picked out by mom? LMFAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:33 AM
23

Jesus Christ what a piece of trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 06:48 AM
2

That is nice. However the girlfriend’s sister should not be walking a strange drunk man home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 04:26 AM
2

Lol I tried to write the incel terms vindicta uses and my comment was auto removed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 10:14 PM
9

5 years??? Oh my god
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 09:01 PM
39

Hottest girl move: block and delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 08:29 PM
27

You’re better off being dumped if you’re not getting what you need from them tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 11:18 AM
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It’s sad because they view it like going to an unofficial prostitute but instead of handing her cash, he comps her meal. That’s not how dating works 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 11:02 PM
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Men who do this had a very superficial, fragile respect for you and any woman before the act happened. They view women as sex objects. I just don’t do this outside of a relationship and it weeds out those losers. It also protects you from getting an STI.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 10:58 AM
18

You’re implying it when you say women who were into bdsm before 50 shades knew “what it truly is” and 50 shades somehow made bdsm bad. It’s always been bad because it’s always about women performing for men whether they are submissive or dominant. And most of the time women are submissive and on the receiving side of sadism and violence from the man. 50 shades didn’t create that reality. That is what bdsm “truly is”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 08:42 AM
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BDSM isn’t empowering to women no matter the community. Most men identify as doms for a reason. It’s historically misogynistic. The woman who wrote 50 shades wouldn’t have known about it if woman-hating pornographers hadn’t pushed for more violent porn to be accepted for publication. I used to be into BDSM so I’m not just blindly against it. I was just uninformed and now know the gross truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 07:14 AM
17

Classic Stockholm syndrome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 06:23 AM
44

They aren’t all. There’s still lots of work to do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 05:36 AM
40

They’re starting to call anal vanilla. I’m so done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 05:36 AM
46

What’s sad is they begin to enjoy them after being broken down during sex where their partner re-enacts these things. They learn to get aroused from being degraded. It’s misogynistic pornographers’ (aka all pornographers’) biggest con. They are laughing at all these libfems. These women and girls need to be saved from this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 05:34 AM
95

Vanilla isn’t a kink. It’s a derogatory term used by fans of BDSM to describe non-violent, respectful sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 05:33 AM
5

They still use the nerves excuse. Nah honey your penis literally has like 10% of the normal sensitivity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:58 PM
4

Yep been through that too. Porn addict. Stay away from these men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:57 PM
8

Firstly, I’m sorry you went through that. I don’t want to label your experience for you but if your partner doesn’t stop when you say stop, that’s rape. And yes, pornsick addicts are turned on by women’s physical pain. I would start to bleed and my ex smiled at that. Outside of the bedroom a stranger would never be able to tell what depravity turned him on. He looked like a regular guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:55 PM
107

Men don’t even consider that porn may be bad unless their dick breaks because of it. Empathy for women will always be a secondary reason, unfortunately. My porn addict ex coerced me into re-enacting degrading sex for years. I developed multiple physical and psychological illnesses. I’m officially anti-porn in all respects. This isn’t a pinup of Marilyn Monroe. It’s violence and it needs to stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:13 AM
106

I’m horrified to see that there’s a nofap sub specifically for teens. That that’s needed at all. These boys are starting to watch porn younger and younger. Some now start at 8 years old. It makes me feel so sad. I don’t think I want children if these are their peers. What’s next? Kindergarteners viewing porn? It’s sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:06 AM
70

My ex couldn’t keep it up at 21.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:02 AM
45

Me too. You might benefit from reading through the posts on r/loveafterporn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:02 AM
26

This is so spot-on. The only dating advice I follow anymore is: 1) Does it make me feel uncomfortable/sad? -> Yes. 2) Has he stopped/started doing the thing in question? -> No 3) I leave him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 12:25 AM
21

Working in human rights law is also a great option! Non-profits too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 11:03 PM
4

Of course the comments that are lucid are downvoted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 07:44 AM
97

What men do after 40, dumbass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:22 AM
4

Unfortunately men will only stop this shit once it starts to hurt them directly. It takes men telling other men they’ll lose their ability to have sex and ruin their own lives to stop this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:38 AM
9

I did this too. It’s a coping mechanism
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:22 AM
3

PREACH. It took me a long time to feel that anger too and I’m owning it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:16 AM
12

This makes me so angry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:48 PM
2

I want to stay clear of LVMs at all costs even if it means not going on a single date :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:16 AM
18

I agree with the sentiment but we need to stop promoting the stereotype that teen girls are vapid and media obsessed. This is exactly why young girls fall for older predators who tell them “you’re so mature and deep, you’re not like other girls your age”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:46 AM
59

So true. What they consider sex is using a woman as a masturbatory aid with a heavy side of violence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:39 AM
4

Yep, I get that. I’m not saying OP has to eat there lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 09:37 PM
4

Not everyone lives in a big city. Price wise P.F. Chang’s is not in the same category as Applebee’s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 09:36 PM
15

I also wanted to say I love P.F. Chang’s hahaahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 07:34 AM
33

Yep! Ugly guys tend to be more insecure and may triangulate you for an ego boost and seek out flirting with other women while in a relationship with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 11:14 PM
29

Pathetic liars
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:57 AM
5

So he wants a prostitute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 09:59 PM
9

He is definitely trying to make her lose the baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 09:46 PM
14

A man doing the bare minimum, we love to see it! Sis said “thanks for the crumbs! 🥰🥰🥰”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 09:38 PM
1

“I’m anti-me working, how can I make my wife understand?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 07:20 AM
10

She’s like those women who pine after convicted serial killers 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 07:17 AM
8

I’ve had a snap since high school but refuse to use it for dating anymore. It’s an LVM magnet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:51 AM
4

The internet is a patriarchy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:15 AM
7

Yeah and that’s going to be a dealbreaker for most dog owners no matter the reason he’s asking. I don’t see a dog owner seeing his request as acceptable because his cultural upbringing regarding dogs differs from theirs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 03:36 AM
17

Most of them mean this yeah. It’s nowhere near actual choking/strangling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 02:45 AM
2

I game, I don't expect my bf to sit and watch me play a game. The idiocy. SO sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 02:33 AM
-1

Him saying he's scared of dogs isn't really the point of the post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 02:31 AM
73

Women need to stop saying yes to this shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 02:12 AM
5

I would laugh all the way to the block button
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 06:49 AM
10

It’s infuriating that these aren’t already in place
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:31 AM
2

I loved Junie B Jones so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:06 AM
2

She wants so desperately for him to pick her. God it’s pitiful, I feel so bad for her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 04:20 AM
11

You said it perfectly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 09:31 PM
7

Hahaha oh yeah, I actually game but wasn’t expecting to see that term used here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 09:26 PM
7

What’s NPC?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:28 PM
51

Men are not stupid. They are great manipulators. If you put up with bad treatment now, he’ll know you’re a pushover. He’ll have ammunition and confidence to pressure you into submission if you raise a concern later on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:24 PM
42

This is straight up sexual harassment, immediate fireable offense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:19 PM
5

Yup. I ghosted a guy for using the word pussy negatively and then pulling this excuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 12:30 AM
5

Guys who then try to say pussy refers to a cat. Sure honey. Peddle that shit somewhere else you misogynist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 12:00 AM
12

FLDC? What is this clownery
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 11:58 PM
6

“I should be able to impregnate as many women as I want and experience zero consequences for my behavior!!!! I’m oppressed!!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 11:54 PM
37

Yeah lmao like I wonder how your sperm got in there and created that baby? Weird must’ve been immaculate conception...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 11:53 PM
4

Ooooof yeah that’s a big no hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 11:37 PM
18

Idk I’ve never had an exclusive thing that wasn’t a relationship. Didn’t know that was a thing haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 12:03 PM
71

If the thought of you being with someone else doesn’t hurt him and make him want to ask for exclusivity, he’s just not that into you 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 11:41 AM
7

I just want to point out that the traditional illusion of relationship stability was also fueled by women's financial dependency on their partners. But casual sex did a number on it too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 06:09 AM
7

I've been on OLD apps on and off between relationships since 2015. I have to say, this is the LOWEST effort I've seen from guys on apps right now. I don't know if it's because more women are refusing to hook up because of COVID but they are not putting their best foot forward right now at all. At least where I am, it is so bad to me that I decided to just delete all of my apps. (Not to mention that they WILL lie to you that they're social distancing and you later find out they're having casual s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 06:05 AM
1

6 months isn't long-term yet at all though.. I agree about the compliment thing however
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 05:52 AM
20

I really like this. I spent too much energy trying to explain and justify my standards with my LVM ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:36 AM
22

He was just manipulating you so that you’d soften up out of guilt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:35 AM
6

Here’s the thing.. if he disrespects you while you’re married you have a large incentive not to leave since your debt won’t be all paid off. Where do you cross the line? How important is that money to you? If a divorce means losing your standard of living that you get accustomed to with him, it may be hard to choose divorce even when it’s needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:53 AM
30

This is a failed marriage. Leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 06:06 AM
1

Oh yeah agreed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:13 AM
3

I misread and thought you were suggesting a sober man try to handle 1 beer lol. But anyway, I don’t need to offer a drink, I’d rather just ask. I don’t like drinking with strange men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:53 AM
4

If a man is 2 years sober it’s an awful idea to give him alcohol. He needs to stay sober
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:37 AM
10

Yeah no thanks I don’t want a dude getting into bar fights
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:31 AM
5

Barf. This reads fake tbh. The way she describes him is poetic, and then that ridiculous flowery compliment from him.... same person talking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:20 AM
15

I didn’t think it could get worse but it just kept getting worse. The way she says terrible first date as if any of the rest wasn’t terrible.... lol I was gonna highlight all the red flags but it’d be easier to highlight the non-red flags
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 03:37 AM
41

This is raunch culture feminism aka fake feminism
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 01:46 AM
18

The guy I’m talking about specifically was a well educated cute guy so it makes even less sense to me ☹️ I feel like for those guys it’s more about control. They can get laid but they want to degrade women instead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 01:19 AM
30

Exactly! Purely because you are in a superior financial situation, you think it’s okay to take advantage of and degrade a woman trying to make ends meet? That’s disgusting and inhumane. The lack of empathy is horrifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 10:50 PM
11

Please DM me, this sounds like a lifesaver
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 10:48 PM
60

One time I asked a guy friend who would go with his LV friends to strip clubs if he really thought the women there wanted to be doing that. Like could you imagine me doing that? And he was like no. And I’m like yeah that’s because I’m privileged. You can go through mental gymnastics to justify your abuse of vulnerable women all you want but any kind of sex work is never consensual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 10:39 PM
5

Ah never mind. I feel bad for her but at the same time it’s a risk you willingly assume when you do sex work on the internet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 09:43 PM
8

I wonder if her OF subscriptions went up after this article. It is free advertisement after all. Also I’m sure the scandal of it is alluring to many scrotes. Maybe that was her underlying goal. Maybe I’m wrong. Either way, don’t engage in sex work unless you’re ready to lose everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 09:24 PM
101

A man having paid for sex or attended strip clubs is LV trash and an immediate dealbreaker for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 09:17 PM
5

The good ones care. But tbh if you’re moaning every so often that’s good enough to most men. They just assume that means you had a great time even if you didn’t orgasm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 07:24 AM
7

Sounds like they were repulsed by having to try to stimulate her, not by seeing her orgasm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 07:23 AM
105

This is why it’s important to discuss views on abortion before marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 07:06 AM
8

Sex work literally IS selling your body lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 05:56 AM
7

Yeah that’s just being a sugar baby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 08:17 AM
71

It’s totally understandable that this interpretation doesn’t come naturally to an empathetic person such as yourself. It’s hard to imagine people can be that selfish. We learn from our past experiences with LVM and teach each other :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 06:35 AM
292

He used her as a therapist and put off proposing until he needed a live in nurse. Edit: Ty for the award!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 06:04 AM
2

What helps me is doing things I enjoy but also developing a new skill causing me to focus and grow. This way I’m less focused on the fact that I’m single. Picking up an individual sport that requires practice (I chose roller skating), learning a new instrument. Those little dopamine hits of accomplishing new tricks helps. Then there’s pampering like bubble baths, preparing a special dessert for myself. During covid I have virtual watch parties with friends and we’ve made our way through a lot of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 05:09 AM
14

What the fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 03:51 AM
19

This is the only appropriate response 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 03:15 AM
118

I love this hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:02 PM
26

Apparently he claimed to be straight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:26 PM
23

Oh my god that is so messed up. I totally understand not outing yourself if nobody asked but to claim you’re straight when you’re not is just not ok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:23 PM
8

Disappointment is the baseline at this point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 12:38 PM
22

Wow that’s massively deceiving. What does his sexuality have to do with it tho (sincere question)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 12:25 PM
12

Using it as a noun is considered degrading. Here it’s an adjective
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 10:46 AM
18

I really don't think they're personally affected by it though. It's the rest of us who suffer. To be clear, I don't want to be a man, I just want to be treated like one haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:10 AM
12

I would rather be a man in western society tbh. I could keep my ambitious career and have as many kids as I want and not have to compromise on either front.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:00 AM
19

LOL this kid is disconnected from reality. The misogyny is real with this one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 04:37 AM
12

Yeah, most of them don’t think about actual parenting since their moms did all the work and babied them, and dad was available just to play sports with them. Being a parent to a lot of men isn’t much more than being a weekend soccer coach for a little league.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:13 PM
8

Men are exhausting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:02 PM
16

Oof good catch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:27 PM
1

A lot of this is learned, yeah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:46 AM
2

I would rather never have sex with a man again in my life than have it with a porn sick ED dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:40 AM
8

You’re right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:35 AM
5

🤢🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:33 AM
1

And his father’s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:28 AM
11

There is no such thing as a decent sadist, girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 08:18 PM
4

Saw a guy I know who’s like 5’4 put that he’s 5’9 on his dating profile. 🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 12:17 PM
23

As a woman who suffered from vaginismus for a year, this makes me extremely sad. This is real, applicable information that you are sharing and women who could've benefited from your comment will continue to suffer because those people removed your comment. It's actually unethical. Also... a feminist sub moderated by a man? Throw the sub in the trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:09 AM
5

And men are supposedly protectors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:12 AM
3

You are doing important work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 09:27 AM
54

They’re trying to justify why they can’t arouse a woman enough for her vagina to tent properly... LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 11:16 AM
10

LOL yeah... women in their 30s have no finances or social life... SURE. Also... weird how he didn't mention that booming receding hairline men get :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:23 AM
37

She’s just opening up vulnerabilities they can exploit. Terrible idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:05 AM
1

I just mean she’s not missing out on not dating guys who don’t meet her standards haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 10:41 PM
3

It did actually. I did pelvic floor therapy. It was a long process. Had to buy dilators. Wishing you the best sis. I’m sorry you have to deal with this. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 10:40 PM
37

My LVM ex had PIED, not that I knew that was why at the time. He never so much as mentioned that, of course. It was something I was supposed to support him through emotionally, like a disease or something 🙄. Reading this really brought back that self-doubt and pain for me. Knowing it wasn’t because of me but still internalizing it and feeling like I wasn’t good enough. My stomach would sink and I’d either dissociate or cry whenever he went soft which was often. In the end I became at best numb t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 05:32 AM
8

Like that’s a bad thing? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:56 PM
19

Imagine posting a video online and expecting people not to share dissenting opinions 🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:54 PM
14

Ah... reminds me of my LVM ex who on my birthday said “wait I’m supposed to get you a gift?” 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:47 PM
655

I stopped spending the night with this one FWB who was doing this same manipulative shit. He didn't hit me up anymore. It's not enough to have sex with us, they want us to fall in love with them and never get anything back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 01:39 PM
10

holy fuck. i can't anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 01:06 PM
13

I read through but I guess I missed the point. What’s the secret?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 09:48 AM
14

These guys really out here with 10 unofficial girlfriends, all devoted to him. In the words of liz lemon, shut it down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:20 AM
21

Mhm!! They know what they're doing.... They'll do anything for the ego boost. No empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:32 AM
40

I used to hook up with a guy who INSISTED on casual. I was like okay. Then he would kiss my forehead and hold my hand in public. Excuse me dude? You're the one who can't do casual. Left that shit fast
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 03:59 AM
46

I appreciate the concept but I feel like calling this self-dating isn’t that empowering at least to me because it’s still framing it as a comparison to being in the company of a man/suitor. Taking yourself to a yoga class isn’t a date and that is ok! You can live your life and do things and NOT be dating. It’s fine. I feel like saying I’m dating myself is just giving in to the stigma that as a woman I must be dating. Why can’t we just live and be single? Going out alone does not have to be conte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 11:49 PM
21

Looks like a typical vlog to me haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 11:45 PM
14

Like Borat LMAOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 11:44 PM
67

I feel so bad for these teen girls. I’m in my 20s and it’s difficult for me, I can just imagine how awful and world shattering it is for them to experience this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 09:08 AM
5

You’re making a good point. Would it be possible for mods to set up a demographics survey for the sub to take?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 11:05 PM
65

He got mad at her no matter what she did. LVM trash lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 12:48 AM
169

“She views me as a money piñata... although she probably out-earns me” hmm so which one is it honey
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 12:48 AM
27

I’d take the ring, sell it, and move out immediately 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 11:18 PM
10

The only thing anyone would struggle to keep up with is their massive egos. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 10:29 PM
8

He had a kid. He didn’t have to have one. The kid helps pay for his hobby and he turns it around that this kid has robbed him of years of indulging in his hobby 24/7. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 07:50 PM
36

Oh and the guys who are “looking for someone who can keep up” 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 07:44 PM
36

LOL the way they think girls are gonna message them first. Couldn’t be me 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 07:43 PM
2

What dating app is this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 07:23 AM
4

Emphasis on flaccid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 03:11 AM
86

I could never verbalize why I hated Adam Sandler until now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 12:14 AM
1

Oh my gosh. I’m so sorry a man made you feel like you had to do that. Jeez.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 12:12 AM
2

Neediness and anxiety go hand in hand. She should detach for a few days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 10:04 AM
2

Obviously there would be logistical problems with half the population disappearing, but just the idea of being able to walk at night alone and be completely safe feels enchanting. It’s like that Sylvia Plath quote where she says she just wants to walk in a field alone and not be afraid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 10:03 AM
8

This guy needs to be fired
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 10:01 AM
2

They want to use someone and feel absolved at the same time :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:44 AM
6

They know beforehand too. Manipulators
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:43 AM
4

I have no more words anymore. Telling people, MUCH LESS MINORS, what they should do in bed is NOT feminist. It is insanity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:37 AM
5

Is he a toddler???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:35 AM
4

What? That’s possible?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:19 AM
14

I’m surprised he didn’t include his SAT score
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:04 AM
6

Thank you for keeping us safe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:29 AM
22

That’s awesome :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:41 AM
1

Thanks for sharing! Here’s another of his vids that was useful too https://youtu.be/QCjqBLfSJdY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 04:13 AM
5

I did this when I was 15 because I didn’t know better. This ain’t it sis. This is not a date, this is not hanging out. If he’s gaming, unless you live with him, there’s no reason for you to be there. Why does he need an audience? Get outta here lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 01:01 AM
2

Facing the truth is scary and painful. My heart goes out to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 02:06 PM
4

To get freaked out as a kid I read Goosebumps. Now I peruse breakingmom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:54 PM
112

Holy shit that mom is a pickme times ten
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:06 AM
26

When I read family of 4.... Jesus Christ. How do you have not one but 2 kids with someone like this? I need to get off the internet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:41 AM
13

Do they pay for the plastic surgery and lobotomy required to change them? Sorry, make that two. One for me too if I have to actually do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 03:59 AM
8

She’ll just keep lying to herself until he makes her suffer to her breaking point. So sad. I bet she thinks she’s extra mature cus of her voice 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 03:57 AM
2

True Detective season 1 is great
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 03:27 AM
10

Most likely her mother
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 09:43 PM
7

Lol relatable. Does anyone else swipe left 99% of the time and then finally swipe right on a guy and it says “this is a popular user! do you want to upgrade to a super like?” Like stop negging me you software 🙄 of course he’s “popular”, most guys are ugly/outwardly creepy 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:50 AM
8

Oh sorry I thought this was OP for some reason haha. Happy for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 06:21 AM
8

Every girl deals with a mixed bag, I guess yours is just larger hahha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 05:35 AM
89

Amen. It is always a reflection of their self-serving proclivity to use women for their gain and nothing more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:27 AM
49

Good for you. This was definitely the right move! Just one thing, your therapist saying a “woman like you attracts a mixed bag” isn’t helpful. It’s really not about you how men treat you. They will try to pull their shit on anyone who will put up with it. What does matter is what you allow and don’t allow. You did right by you today 👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:26 AM
5

Holy crap my ex did the same thing. He was like “you can look through my phone!” and I was like noo that’s okay, I’m not like that!! 🤡🤡🤡 Well, eventually I did and LOL he was flirting with girls he’d hooked up with before🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 08:27 PM
24

Sure Jan 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 02:52 AM
8

What are your guys’ thoughts on r/vindicta?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 12:41 AM
41

Zinggggg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 12:40 AM
47

I was an inexcusable pickme. Never again 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 10:34 PM
16

We read this in my organizational management class. Most said the girl was guilty too. My question is why is this considered appropriate learning material outside of a gender studies course? Misogyny mayhaps 👀👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 08:26 PM
176

If I may add a couple more red flags and potentially provide a laugh: Gets uncomfortable or turns his phone away when you happen to glance at it Has a female best friend who is very physically touchy with him Said female best friend puts a pair of his UNDERWEAR on the table of the cafe where you are meeting her for the first time and says he forgot it when he “did laundry at her place” L O L
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 08:16 PM
48

I went on a couple hinge dates and they’re no different from tinder or bumble dates. One hinge guy even tried to say that he wasn’t sure if us meeting up twice counted as “dates”. He said this after I told him I wasn’t interested anymore 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 05:56 AM
26

Does he have a single brother? Jk. Unless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 05:31 AM
18

LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:45 AM
108

"Some poor souls" now I'm imagining Ursula posting this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 04:20 AM
20

Anyone else wish preemptive restraining orders against men were a thing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 04:19 AM
28

Hahahaa good one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 09:50 PM
10

You’re being generous assuming they’ve taken any of this into account prior to making their decision to do OF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 09:20 AM
12

He knows she has ptsd about this and he decides to laugh and act sarcastic. What a sociopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 09:17 AM
6

The owner of the company is a glorified pimp. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 09:16 AM
10

My ex in college planned surprise birthday parties for me (decorations, cake, inviting friends). He would cook me dinner after class. He took care of me when I was sick which was often. He would buy me flowers just because. We had 2 arguments in 2 years and they were quickly resolved. He had many friends (guys and girls) but always platonic. People were drawn to him since he was so friendly and caring. He spoke to other women purposefully platonically, calling them pal or buddy and so on. I neve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 09:04 AM
3

Yes, I hate to admit that my self esteem is still damaged by my ex’s treatment of me but I refuse to let it affect the boundaries I put up in the future to protect myself. Yet it still hurts deep inside haha. Yes 100% agree gauging a guy in a community setting is so much easier. I really like your plan for yourself. I will try to think about things I can do to meet HVM after covid. Thanks for the ideas and insight. It is most certainly the idea of dating and being in love that are more attractiv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 02:15 AM
1

I really needed to hear this from someone else. It definitely is only breaking down the progress I’ve made working on myself. Thank you for your response. It’s hard to envision how I could make a connection with anyone outside of OLD since the pandemic is very isolating but it might just be necessary to stay away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 02:11 AM
3

Hahaha I was so confused for a second. No prob :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 02:09 AM
5

This is a good point. I know I need to trust my gut with these things even though I am jaded. This is probably an ever better reason to listen to my gut actually
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 02:09 AM
13

It’s not really about my comfort it’s about what’s safe and what isn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:33 AM
8

I think sitting 6 ft apart w masks on outside is safer than going to the grocery store which most people do. But it’s not a very fulfilling way to date lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 05:30 AM
6

Honestly you’re probably right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 04:12 AM
58

As a woman who’s on OLD apps right now, I’m wondering what would be considered a covid safe date for a guy to suggest at this time that doesn’t make him seem like a LVM?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 03:56 AM
185

2 dates isn’t long enough to know if you have a HVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 02:16 AM
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