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Here's one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 01:12 PM
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Every time you read something as stupid as this, remember that the CIA intentionally introduced this into American universities to destroy class consciousness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 01:04 PM
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Supreme Court nominee. Apparently the powers that be are dedicated to picking the worst people possible lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 01:00 AM
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Gee this didn’t come in to question until she’s up for a supreme court spot Yeah, that's a problem. It should've come up way before this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 12:54 AM
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This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 10:38 PM
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I applied too but never got a response back lol. Maybe it got scrapped?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 09:59 PM
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Coming out of the gate with a hot take: I think a lot of men are over diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder while women are criminally under diagnosed. I think a lot of men who are diagnosed with autism are probably narcissists or another Cluster B disorder. There are HV autistic men and LV autistic men. The difference is not in the level of functioning, but the level of effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 06:46 PM
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Dudes are all "mUh LegAcY" until they realize it costs money. There's a reason the legacy card is the 10 of Pentacles lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 07:45 PM
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Men get depressed during a woman's pregnancy or after the birth of a child because they can't handle not being the center of attention anymore. It's not just that the woman is preoccupied with her own health and a new baby, but everyone else is too. Her parents, the in-laws, grandparents, friends, coworkers, sometimes even strangers. He gets relegated to a level of invisibility usually reserved for women and resents it. A very few quality men experience depression or anxiety after the birth of a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 04:52 AM
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The infertility is likely on his end. I have heard of scrotes getting a vasectomy and lying about it to their wives who they know want children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 08:44 PM
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So you don't care that a young woman was raped on camera and forced into obscene mockeries of a religion by the men complicit in her rape? You don't care that she's been threatened with execution by if she ever returns home to the middle east? If not, then why the fuck are you here? Female solidarity means supporting all women even if you don't personally like them. Their rights are your rights. What happened to Mia Khalifa could happen to you too. It could happen to any of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 03:35 AM
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It seems like people who think sexism is over don't realize that women got most of their rights only very recently or that sexism is centuries behind us. Like, no, my grandmother was 30 and married with four children before she and all other women were legally allowed access to money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 02:33 PM
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He's acting like women aren't held accountable for anything. Dude, we're hElD acCouNtaBlE or blamed for things we didn't even do/had no say in every damn day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 02:11 PM
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Honestly though it probably will be, especially if OP lives in an area with little police funding. Most police officers are abusive themselves, so they have no incentive to investigate. This is part of the reason I believe all police forces should be 100% female.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 12:53 PM
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I've had the same experience. I've only ever seen 7"+ or 5" and below with no middle ground. It's weird. Maybe there's slightly more 🤏🏻 men and that's bringing the average down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 07:23 PM
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It's not because they're genuinely asking what to do. They're asking for permission to be upset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 12:41 PM
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How do we know it was her idea and not something she was forced to do? Edit: The producers told her to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 10:47 PM
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Mia Khalifa is her birth name. She didn't use a stage name as far as I can tell. She's made TikToks saying she's so recognizable after 3 months in the porn industry (nearly 10 years ago!) that it's basically impossible to hide. She sees no point in trying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 10:44 PM
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God made us equal to men, but Kalashnikov will set us free from them (in the Fallout universe).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 09:58 PM
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Jumping on the bandwagon to say I did this too! It was almost instinctual. I have two journals full of entries from the years I was dating and later married to my ex-husband. After a while they become less about introspection or recalling the events of the day and more a near daily log of abusive episodes. In a weird way I'm really glad I did it because I know for a fact I wasn't crazy and I wasn't the abusive one. It was always him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 08:54 PM
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I found FDS a few months after it was created. I remember when FDS had under 10k subscribers and honestly I didn't think it would take off. It was being shared on another female-only subreddit that is now banned. It was being talked about as basically dating for straight radfems. I lurked for a while before I started commenting, but yeah, I've been here a loooong time lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 08:49 PM
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"Just lucky, I guess!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:29 PM
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This is how men got poisoned in ye olde days. I'm so sorry you're going through this OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 01:19 PM
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You can go into your settings and turn off all DMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 03:54 AM
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The Y chromosome once again proving it's a disability. Edit: of course he's a fucking philosophy professor lmfao. I have yet to meet a male philosophy major who wasn't fucking deranged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 12:23 AM
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My personal experience has shown that men are obsessed with hierarchy. They always have to know who is where in the pecking order of things and experience distress when they're uncertain of their own standing in the group. This is why there's the endless competition. Who has the biggest dick? Who has the nicest car, the most expensive shoes, the latest gadget, the hottest wife? It's basically the business card scene in American Psycho ad infinitum until they die. Therefore, masculinity and male …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 08:19 PM
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You could try reporting it to the FBI tipline.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 04:58 PM
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She should've hit him with the "a man provides" speech from Breaking Bad and driven the point home with "That's what's expected of you, Jake. If you are too weak or too lazy to do that, then I have no reason to continue this pregnancy and you have no business being here." You gotta shut that down immediately. This is his first attempt at overt abuse and you show his dumb ass it will be his last. And then you leave forever as soon as you can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 06:28 PM
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I mean they still do, we just have more of them now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 04:46 PM
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I don't know if anyone else has experienced this, but I didn't get first impressions of men in the past because I was so conditioned to gIvE THeM a ChANcE. I also wasn't always able to tell whether or not I was attracted to someone because I was taught that's not a valid reason for rejection. I will say though, the few times I did get a first impression, it was negative and my instincts were right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 07:00 PM
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Probably a powermod.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 04:18 PM
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“he’s the greatest boyfriend I’ve ever had”. CLEARLY not. They’re either deep in denial, or bracing themselves for the shitstorm that will ensue because they know the sub will side with the man. Or maybe she's telling the truth? For as bare minimum as this man is, there are far worse out there around every corner. This loser might genuinely be the best man she's ever encountered and that's just sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 09:42 PM
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Yeah, I gave up on dating apps permanently after maybe two months? It was kind of like going to 4chan for the first time lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 08:33 PM
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L M F A O Bold fucking words for someone who doesn't know me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 06:05 PM
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Probably not. I tried dating women after my divorce and it didn't go anywhere. I was using apps and all the women I spoke with were either men using female pics to try and get nudes (or much worse, almost fell for that), couples looking for a 3rd, or women posing as single when in reality they're looking for a 3rd for their scrote bf. The only woman who was actually remotely normal and cool lived on the other side of the state from me. The issue isn't that so many women are low value. It's that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 12:35 PM
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I mean, if you wanna be ruthless about it, a woman is the only thing standing between a man and a svic!de at middle age. If women really had no value, they wouldn't be throwing themselves at us and complaining about their lack of OLD matches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 04:36 AM
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Meh, let him visit Oz. The wife and kids will be better off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 10:50 PM
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He was friends with Elliott Rogers and admitted it in his police interview, so I hope he was labelled an Intel killer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 02:04 PM
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It's like what they do with Adam Driver. All these media people keep trying to convince us these gross dudes are hot as if we don't have eyes. At least Adam Driver looks like a poorly drawn Keanu Reeves and not like an artist's sketch of his face is about to pop up on the Doe Network
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:12 AM
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People keep trying to make Pete Davidson happen. It's not going to happen. He has literally nothing going for him. Just stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 11:07 PM
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TBH, I haven't met a man who was avoidant attached and not abusive🤔 I've noticed a pattern. Avoidant men are abusive, avoidant women are deeply traumatized. This message is sponsored by the avoidant woman gang
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 06:02 PM
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You would have to search on a county basis. Not every county makes this information publicly available.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 03:13 AM
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Texas is now fighting to remove sex-ed books and stories about gay and lesbian experiences from school curriculum and libraries because it's "pornographic." Ken Paxton also recently wrote a bill to make same-sex marriage illegal in the state because of a tEcHnICaLiTY. People are stupider and more reactionary that ever before. Some days it feels like we're back in the 1600s. Based on the evidence, I have no reason to believe Roe v Wade will survive this year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 01:12 PM
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It's the same empty insults and threats we hear today. So little has actually changed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 01:07 PM
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The same way the government enforces authority. The suffragettes knew the answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 09:48 PM
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So many men don't mature past their teen years so I suppose through their eyes it's like interacting with their peers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 05:55 PM
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Girl, don't just leave him. End him. Jfc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 12:34 PM
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Gosh, there's a lot. It started when I moved to the place where I currently live. I have very unusual characteristics for this region and I was highly fetishized for a while. It was made worse by the fact I was dependent on public transit. The first homeless dude started chatting me up while I was waiting for the bus. Female socialization was still a thing for me in those days so I felt compelled to talk to him even though I really didn't want to. I was 23 and he was at least in his 40s, but he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 04:41 AM
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These tips really only work if you're in public and there are other people around. My policy is to answer one question. If they press for more, the second answer is "I don't know" in a flat, bored/annoyed tone. Don't make eye contact and go about whatever it was you were doing. Usually men don't get to question number two with me because I just walk off without answering lol. Act like you don't have time for this and you're bothered. If he keeps going, the answer is "What, is Google too hard for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 03:25 AM
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He's lying lol he'd be pissed if his girlfriend (assuming she exists) left him. His meal ticket/masturbatory aid would be gone and he'd be hard pressed to find another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 04:34 PM
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They see being gay/same-sex attracted as either a kink or a fandom you can opt in and out of at will. The subtext is that the kink/poly/MOGAI invaders don't see same-sex attraction as normal and instead see the gay community as "this is where my fellow degenerates are." It is incredibly regressive and homophobic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 09:22 AM
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I did this because I didn't understand no was an option. I didn't know what attraction felt like or even that it was possible. I was conditioned to believe I had no value outside of serving a man and that women didn't have the right to set boundaries or live for themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 07:22 PM
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He's looking for an excuse to become overtly abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 07:12 PM
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Are a lot of men in this world who will get a woman pregnant simply out of negligence. They don't care if they. They know they can always leave and nothing will happen. No lie, I know a woman who is now a single mom because the baby daddy got her pregnant immediately after starting the relationship to make his ex jealous. The sad thing is that it worked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 07:51 PM
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I am a woman who was baby trapped. I was in an abusive relationship but wasn't able to register it as such because it wasn't as bad as other abuse I've suffered. I couldn't leave because I had no money (financial abuse!) and nowhere to go. I had to have my Mirena IUD removed two months before I got pregnant because it was wreaking havoc on my body. I was put on an estrogen dominant birth control pill despite begging the health department doctor to not do that. I know from trial and error that es…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 07:08 PM
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No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 12:40 PM
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He wasn't considered a suspect by law enforcement at the time he vanished. He might be a person of interest now, but only because they have proof he used Gabby's bank cards and stole her money prior to arriving back in Florida. It could be argued by his defense that Brian and Gabby broke up, Gabby said she was going to continue the cross-country trip with the friend she was supposed to meet up with, and told Brian to take the van back to Florida and get her stuff out of storage for her or someth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 10:55 PM
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They'll either use the rough sex defense or they'll try to sow doubt in the jury's minds that it was Brian who killed her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 06:02 PM
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Is his name actually Farmer? Creative if true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:05 AM
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Some of them might be. I've mostly encountered completely clueless counselors and abusive ones. I have only had one that was good! Absolutely worth her weight in gold. But my ex made me stop seeing her after only two visits. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 09:07 PM
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I'm sorry you're going through this. I briefly took on a social work major with the idea of going into counseling. I didn't make it more than a few weeks. So many people are well intentioned but genuinely do not have the critical thinking skills or intelligence to be of any good to anyone. So many people who choose those career fields are looking to validate their own worldviews or look for answers to their own problems. The worst experience I had with a male therapist was when I went to marriag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 08:47 PM
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They don't care if it's the best sex an inexperienced girl has ever had, they just don't want her to be able to compare him to anyone else and realize it's better elsewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 11:26 AM
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All but one of my past partners has threatened self-harm if I left. Every single one is still alive. Men who make threats like this are manipulative shitheads Actual suicidal people don't broadcast their ideations to the world. They don't tell people who might stop them if they're seriously in crisis mode. I'm firmly in the camp of "fuck around and find out." They wanna threaten to harm themselves? Hope they enjoy the hospital bill from an involuntary psych hold. Words have meaning and it's abou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 12:28 AM
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When I was in Criminal Justice, my professor told us outright that the police don't have to know the laws they enforce. Maybe it's just my state, but it doesn't seem like it considering the complete ineptitude of police departments across the country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 12:57 PM
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Texas! This place is a hellhole. They've also just recently made Plan B abortion inducing drugs, ie pill abortions illegal too. I wouldn't be surprised if there are plans to make all contraception illegal soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 07:34 PM
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If you're a younger Millennial or Gen Z (~30 or under), basically every man your own age is a porn addict. I believe we have this problem because the "big name" porn sites made their videos free around 2011/2012. I think Gail Dines said something about this in Pornland.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 01:15 PM
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I doubt Elon is autistic. There are men out there who will get diagnosed with autism by unscrupulous mental health professionals who see no problem in giving them a free pass to be as dickish as they want. Autism in women lends itself to a particular kind of naivety. It's like a childish innocence combined with a genuine lack of understanding of how people work. You assume the best in everyone because it doesn't even register that not everyone is a good person. It's like blood in the water to LV…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 03:56 PM
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I read somewhere that they broke up for a bit, then got back together and Grimes got pregnant almost immediately after. It's been mentioned offhandedly that the baby was planned and something she thought a lot about beforehand. But I remember that Elon would get real petty with Grimes while she was pregnant. They would "break up" because she was hormonal and he was inconvenienced, then they'd get back together a couple days later. Or he'd unfollow her/block her on Twitter to start drama. I've al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 04:08 AM
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He's already trying to lock down another mommy for when he leaves the house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 03:52 AM
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That's incredibly common
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 02:01 AM
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I don't think it's either. I think it's considered "standard" for male behavior. Nudes are a sort of social currency for men. I've watched men show off nudes of their exes or random women from the internet at work. One of them justified it by saying she was his internet gf who ghosted and if she didn't want her nudes shown, she shouldn't have sent them. As if that somehow makes it ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 12:23 AM
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I kind of understand it but it takes a shitload of mental gymnastics because men as a whole are not smart or logical. I have observed throughout life that men understand male and female just fine but see man as "one who does the fucking" and woman as "object to be reviled and fucked." There was a commenter who had an absolutely brilliant statement sometime ago who said "Men will create women in situations where there are none." I have heard no truer statement in all my life. So if men as a class…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 04:50 PM
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Ok, so sissy hypno porn is basically straight dudes who condition themselves to fetishize womanhood, femininity, misogyny, and violent male sexuality via porn addiction. Men who find this kind of stuff and related horrors are too far gone to be fixed. Their brain is basically sludge and it's a matter of time before they become a sex offender if they haven't already. There is a HIGH overlap between autogynephelia and narcissism. Their porn addiction becomes their identity. They can get violent an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 12:01 PM
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Men don't have real problems lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 10:29 AM
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Edit: submitted too soon whoops I was coercively married to a man who had started watching porn around age 10. I had only really known him for about 3 months before I was shoved to the altar. I didn't even know porn addiction was a thing. I was young and sheltered. He was into the kinds of porn described here as well as other atrocities. Child sex abuse material is "terminal" porn addiction IMO. Their "addiction" descends into sex offender territory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 01:27 AM
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There are men out there who understand the privileges of having a wife. They no longer have to do any domestic labor, they have a free therapist, personal assistant, escort, and nanny all packed into one. Being married is an asset in the work force (but only for men) and it gives them respect and a sort of credibility in the wider world. But it also means that they are expected to have responsibilities to the woman that they marry and they hate her for it. They can hate the woman they intend to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 05:09 PM
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I have to admit I thought there was a possibility he just stranded her somewhere out in nature. That was when the story broke a couple days ago and few details were available. Unfortunately it's almost certain he killed her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 12:29 PM
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Men don't deserve rights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 06:37 PM
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I will if he's worth it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 01:06 AM
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Point #7 made me realize something but I think I'm too sleep deprived to make it make sense. I don't know what the right word is. Men see us as being always sexually available but also always sexually responsive. It appears as though they think we find any and all men attractive when that isn't the case. They think every man has an equal chance with any woman because they are attracted to her, so she should be attracted to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:32 AM
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Honestly I've been curious about psychedelics as a way to move past trauma but I've been too afraid to try them. I can't even smoke weed without reliving every awful thing that's happened. I'm glad you had a good experience. Your story has given me hope that psychedelics might help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 12:40 AM
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I've noticed this. If he's tall and has a low voice, the odds are in your favor!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 06:10 PM
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I heard this exact thing from my baby daddy once 🙄 Ten years, my ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 06:01 PM
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Lol I'm currently studying terrorism. FDS is not it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 05:53 PM
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I'm brilliant, I'm interesting, I'm well-read, I'm resourceful, I'm tenacious, and pretty, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 03:11 AM
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I have a theory (based on nothing but my own experiences lmao) that there's either really big or small and very little in between. I haven't been with many men, but only two were the 5" average. All my other partners have been 7"+. I know this for fact because I measure. There were no special selection techniques on my part. It was all random chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 02:42 AM
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Every day I thank my lucky stars that I didn't have a boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 09:08 AM
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They did a whole damn study to prove that rapists have things in common with other rapists?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 01:33 PM
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You can't tell men about your trauma because they take it as an invitation to beat the "high score."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 07:03 PM
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I didn't get a proposal the first time. I got informed over text that he wanted to marry me. I was a teenager and thought he was trying to be romantic. I didn't mind the thought of marrying my boyfriend, just not right now. Three months later he tells me that I have two choices: I can marry him or be homeless. If there ever comes a day where a man decides he wants me as part of his life, he better put some thought and effort into how he's going to ask. I've been through this rodeo before. I lost…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 08:03 PM
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So what incriminating evidence does she have on him that he doesn't want getting out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 07:30 PM
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It's unfortunately a common tactic, especially if the guy is older than the girls. I had that pulled on me when I was 15 by an adult. That was 13 years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 12:36 AM
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It's the same in the book. Laoghaire, the girl with a male name that isn't pronounced correctly, is like 15 or 16 whereas Claire is 27 or 28. It's also not explicitly clear that Laoghaire was the one who reported Claire as a witch. It's intentionally left ambiguous. There are other people who had motive to make such a move against Claire. It's also completely plausible that Claire was simply at the wrong place at the wrong time and there was no plot against her at all. Anyway, the fans have such…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 11:01 PM
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Spoilers Jamie is not HV at all. He beats Claire for disobeying him at one point in the first book and she's not in a position to fight him or run away. After this she's understandably mad, scared, and horrified and pulls away emotionally and sexually. Jamie doesn't stop being an asshole and rapes her later in retaliation...and somehow this resolves all their issues? This particular rape (there are many) is portrayed as just "really intense angry sex" that clears the air. That is literally not h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 07:38 PM
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Yeah, the excuse is that Jamie doesn't have the magic ability to time travel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 07:23 PM
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That's heartbreaking. How is she so blind to it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 06:46 PM
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Yes, a couple of times. Both were massive wastes of time, but could have been avoided had I just had more life experience and boundaries. The first one was my ex-husband. We were in a LDR (cringe) and we had sex when he came to visit me for the first time. He was small and had porn dick. Unfortunately I was a teenager, he was only my second sexual partner ever, and I had been force-fed "size doesn't matter!!" bullshit from the internet. Sex was the cause of much strife in our relationship and ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 12:38 PM
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I am fortunate enough to know one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 03:36 AM
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Outlander. Absolute garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 03:23 AM
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So many men don't even know what they want in a woman other than a pretty face and a compliant personality. There is little to no vetting of us by them. Most don't bother to get to know their love interest and become repulsed when they discover she has her own interests and goals and needs and expectations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 12:13 AM
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Where'd you hear about this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 01:05 AM
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Not being the center of attention at all times = abuse in their minds. They truly live in another world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 12:46 AM
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I immediately become suspicious of any man who says he was in an abusive relationship. Chances are he was the abuser and is deflecting blame. Lundy Bancroft can back me up on this. Also, to your point, the things men believe to be abuse just...aren't. There's a domestic violence researcher in Australia who recorded the testimonies of abused women vs abused men. The women said stuff like "my boyfriend/husband has threatened to ki11 me and the kids, he's tried to hit me with a car, he's strang1ed …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 11:32 PM
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Some interesting facts about family annihilators: They are almost always male. Most common w3apon is a gun. Guns are often chosen because of ease of access, the ability to use them impulsively, and their effective ability to threaten or terrorize a victim. "In the research for his book, Adams asked those who ki11ed with guns if they would have used another weapon if a gun were not available; most said no." 70% of relationships between the annihilator and his gf/wife had prior incidents of domest…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 07:36 PM
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Also it’s rampant in Hispanic community with the machismo shit. For real. I don't know a single woman who doesn't have a horror story about some pendejo who thought he owned her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 07:11 PM
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I'm in the process of transferring to a new college and I'm so excited!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 01:31 PM
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Literally how intimate can it be if he can't even get you off? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:18 AM
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She should take a vacation. Go to a family member or friend for a week. Then he'd beg her to come back and that he'd do whatever she asked. He'd force any daughters they have to pick up the workload mom left behind and freak out on them if they don't know what to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 02:45 PM
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There is no difference for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:28 PM
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It was the one opportunity I had to put my niche hobby skills to use. You're welcome lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 07:20 PM
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So I found some answers. First, John Morris's ad was a response to a different advertisement somebody else placed in a newspaper. The thing he was responding to was a gentleman who claimed to know how to get guys a wife really easily. John responded in earnest and got the contact information for an insane asylum (implying he could get a wife there). He got pranked and people of the Victorian era thought it was hilarious. See here for more examples of old-timey humor This story got reprinted in a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:15 PM
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Time to put my genealogy skills to work! So this particular ad seems to have been published a few times in different papers. The earliest one was July 27th, 1865 in the Wheeling Daily Intelligencer. The young man identifies himself as John Morris. I will look around in some online archives to see if I can find what happened to John Morris of Aroostook County, Maine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:23 PM
5

First Boyfriend was upset that his mom was a "wh0rë" (his words). He tolerated his dad but had issues with him too. His dad was an emotionally distant manchild. He had lived with each parent intermittently but always ended back at his grandparents' house. The Parent Trap was upset that daddy didn't love him more (his dad is a really wealthy businessman) and that his mom wouldn't coddle him/do everything for him like grandma did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 12:13 PM
20

First real boyfriend: raised by paternal grandparents. Parents were teenagers when he was born and neither was intelligent or responsible enough to raise him, though both of had regular contact with him all throughout his life. Grandparents loved and cherished him and did their best to raise him right, but he was an ungrateful little shit. Instead of acknowledging the numerous sacrifices his grandparents had to make to raise him, he chose to be an angsty asshole over the fact that his parents ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:03 PM
42

Another one is a man having a job or some form of income but hiding it from you so he doesn't have to pay rent or bills. That one happened to me. Edit: Thought of another one. If you have a child, a financial abuser will put all childcare burdens on you so you can't work, go to school, or do anything at all to improve your financial situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 10:25 PM
10

Damn, got my hopes up thinking this was going to be riffing off "The Most Dangerous Game." Instead it's another stupid dating show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 03:39 PM
62

I've heard of feminist groups that help abused women and children get new identities and help them get away in cases like this. Obviously it's all highly illegal but the law is blind to morality. I hope they're still out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 09:47 AM
78

Another man being abusive because it gives him what he wants with minimal effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 05:06 PM
19

People think he's funny? For real?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 02:14 PM
9

May they get gangrene on their penises 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 01:51 PM
16

I hope someone makes this into a movie!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 07:01 PM
285

There are so many of these. The jars guy. The socks guy. The dress guy. The plant guy. The childhood memento guy. All basically the same story. "My gf has/wears/owns something that makes her unique and I don't like it. She embarrasses me/doesn't give me enough attention/does stupid things. I don't think she actually needs [item] so I got rid of it. She's mad, AITA?" I don't doubt that some of these stories may be fakes because they're all so formulaic, but it's genuinely hard to tell. I will rep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 10:30 AM
15

One of the last straws in my marriage was the day my husband decided to watch Fargo. I guess there's a scene where someone gets murdered? Idk, I've never watched it and I didn't have glasses at the time so I wasn't sure what was happening on screen. My ex-husband decided to pause the show after that scene happened and tell me in gratuitous detail how he would murder me and dispose of my body if he ever felt inclined to do so. It was completely unprovoked. I had been puttering around cleaning the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 02:42 PM
12

Does anyone know if the DarkTriadWomen subreddit is still open?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 08:08 PM
67

Those guys look like they were getting ads for Colonial Penn before you were even out of high school ☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 05:51 PM
18

I figured as much. There was more to it that I won't go into, but he was basically treating me like a mini-wife for years. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 04:42 PM
30

My stepdad did this to me too. The only difference is that I was 12. To this day I don't know why he did it. I have my theories but I'm not good at understanding other peoples' motivations sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:26 PM
2

I don't force my daughter into femininity. I don't buy her uncomfortable or restrictive clothing. I don't buy impractical shoes. I only pull her hair up to get it out of her face and to prevent it from getting dirty. She doesn't wear bows or jewelry or anything like that. She doesn't show an interest in those kind of things. I don't try to correct her natural personality. She's loud and boisterous, insatiably curious, sometimes a little mischievous. I let her follow her interests without regard …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 03:25 PM
6

When my ex-husband brought up polyamory, I was all for it. I wanted him to find a partner to share the burden of dealing with him. I wanted a break and was essentially hopeful I'd be able to find a babysitter for my manchild. Not going to lie though, I also wanted to find a partner of my own so I could have the sex my husband wasn't giving me. That seems to be the case here in this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 03:08 PM
50

Johnson & Johnson has known about the link between talc and cancer since the 70s. My mom has been using it basically her whole life and she got ovarian cancer. Granted, there were also genetic factors at play but no doubt rubbing a carcinogenic substance all over her body for like 40+ years didn't help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:39 PM
78

I went through a lot of male-induced stress while pregnant. In my experience, men get violent when their partner is pregnant because they can't handle not being the center of attention. Most men are surrogate children that don't want to grow up. They want all the benefits of fatherhood without any of the responsibility. There's more to it but that's the most concise explanation I can give.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:13 AM
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I have so many of these for y'all. Morning sickness sucks. Not every woman gets it, but it's terrible if you do. I hate throwing up. Low quality prenatal vitamins can make you vomit. So can stress. You can vomit so hard you break capillaries. Happened to me. I had to puke while riding in a car. Pulled over, let it happen, and it wouldn't stop for what felt like forever. After it subsided, I looked awful. Broken capillaries in my eyes, face, neck, and chest. I'm sure we all know about the food cr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:32 PM
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This lines up exactly with my experiences. I used to work in a more male dominated part of a business doing overnight shifts. I was the only woman in my section. If I wore no makeup, I was either ignored or treated with contempt by the men around me, especially my bosses. If I wore light but visible makeup (foundation, concealer, eyebrows done, mascara), I was invisible. If I wore a full face of makeup, I was sexually harassed by customers and employees alike and treated with outright hostility …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:27 PM
10

Back then, when exactly? Which culture, what time, which ethnic group ? I'm only speaking from my own experiences. I grew up in a rural conservative American culture, spent my late teens and early 20s in an American military culture, and now I live in a Mexican culture. The messaging about women has been the same: that I am inferior on the basis that I am female. That female = stupid, servile, weak, sex object, domestic servant, waste of resources, inconvenience, necessary evil. My refusal or in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 08:30 PM
15

I actually had a discussion with a HVM about this last night. I don't think men really have gender roles. They did at one point in the past, but they didn't adhere to them even back then. Ask any elderly woman how men were back then. It's heartbreaking. Basically men can do whatever they want whether it's "protector and provider" or "50/50 LVM," but women have always had a narrow box of what's considered "acceptable" behavior. More or less based on biological facts...They all regulate roles with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:37 PM
22

Maybe the hosts were stuck between a rock and a hard place? I really hope so, but if that was the case, why air it? This has me a bit worried for the future of FDS. You can't simultaneously say "everyone should have the freedom to be and do whatever they want" and "gender roles are a good thing and need to be enforced." That is libfem doublethink. I thought we were against that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:19 AM
31

Yep! I developed asthma and potentially celiac disease post-pregnancy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:25 PM
125

I'm a younger millennial woman and I've had only one sexual partner that didn't have something weird going on with his dick. I've seen it all and I haven't had very many partners. Whether it was difficulty getting/sustaining an erection, being hard all the time, finishing too quickly, not finishing at all, lack of sensation, friction burns, calluses, or a bent penis. I wouldn't be surprised in the slightest if 90%+ of millennial men were pornsick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 03:06 AM
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That whole bit about "feminist gender roles" was nauseating. I couldn't finish the episode. Literally what a massive setback. Of course gender roles aren't feminist. Who do you think created them to justify women's oppression? Diversifying the tools of our oppression doesn't make us any less oppressed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:17 PM
51

Came here to comment this. Quite disappointed by this episode tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 08:32 PM
3

I can't do much beyond basic adding, subtraction, multiplication, and division.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:23 PM
2

HTML.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:05 PM
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I'm scared my math disability is going to get in the way. The Code Academy app is not great. I hope it's better on desktop. I hope they explain things more in detail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:22 PM
17

I gave myself a haircut yesterday and it looks good! I went from a buzzcut to a short bob in the span of 9 months. Time to let it grow! I'm not cutting my hair above earlobe length again. My hair type doesn't look good when it's short. At least my curl pattern is coming back. I tried starting Code Academy today and I feel stupid for the first time in my life. I understand none of this and I'm terrified! 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:15 PM
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But women will leave and women are technically the product, so it doesn't make a ton of sense to me. That's why other dating sites have to use bots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:49 PM
14

Why would they want to use such unflattering information about men as an advertisement? That's the fastest way to not get women to use the site and thus lose money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:25 PM
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It's not an ad, it's a study OkCupid did back in the day. They did a number of these studies and none of them are flattering to men. The study showed that women from 18 to 40 find men who are close to their own age attractive. The men's study (and the others) showed how pornsick they are. They only find the youngest possible women attractive, spend disproportionate amounts of time seeking out the youngest women available, and refuse to consider women their own age if they can't find a near child…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 12:05 PM
16

Mine too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 11:41 AM
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I read that they put down a carpet so the judges couldn't hear the sound of high heels on the floor. It's absolutely incredible how the most minute details immediately change perceptions of women and their abilities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:44 PM
6

The app must provide verified background checks on all men before they're allowed to use it. No rapists, no abusers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:43 PM
35

Because it causes us pain. They want to see us suffer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:34 PM
47

I typically respond with something like "If you were intelligent you wouldn't be asking." And then immediately leave/delete/block. The kind of men that try to ask about your intelligence are the sort to always assume they're smarter than you when it's so obvious they aren't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:55 PM
19

Yep. Religious guys use their religion as justification for their misogyny. Atheist guys use sCiEnCE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:23 PM
55

The first red flag was "aquarius." 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 08:25 AM
8

What's a scent that you can't stand, but other people like (or are neutral toward)? For me it's wintergreen, bubblegum, and cinnamon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:36 AM
8

I've had to put off a lot of important chores because of how intense this past school semester was. The list of things that have to get done keeps growing. This week I've got to schedule a physical/vaccinations for the little one because they got put off due to Covid, put together a bed frame, see how close my computer is to getting fixed because I need it in June, deep clean my house, and start donating plasma again. I would also like to go thrift shopping if I have an opportunity to because I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:25 PM
53

There are also some good books about making friends written for ASD people (autistic) where techniques for making friends are spelled out. What books might those be? 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 06:56 PM
11

Kitchen knives can be used as a self-defense implement in a pinch, but they won't hold up in any kind of sustained attack. I recommend something from here. Be warned though that knives aren't the best tool to defend yourself with. You are just as likely to seriously injure yourself with your own knife in a fight as you are to harm someone else with it. It's for that reason that knives should be an absolute last resort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:37 PM
14

The declining birth rates cannot sustain a system which is unstable by nature due to its need to acquire more capital by any way possible. Well someone has to die in the climate wars and it won't be the Boomers that got us into this mess! How thoughtful of them to volunteer our children to do it for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:32 PM
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If we don't get a choice about being mothers, men don't deserve a choice about being fathers. Maybe then they'll have an attitude change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:24 AM
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This, among other things, is why I am afraid of hyenas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:06 PM
60

My life is amazing! Yeah, I struggle with finances and stuff, but I'm not trapped indoors with no human contact. I'm not being abused every day by some fat, entitled loser. Everything I do isn't monitored anymore. I don't have to debate my humanity. I'm free to express myself and there are people who care about what I think. I have glasses. I have been a celebrated employee. I got to go to college. I had a kid and I cherish her above everything else. It's been 4 years. Leaving was the best decis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 01:15 AM
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5?! He's positively blessed if he has 2!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 01:06 AM
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God, that whole post was a trash heap. The OP was literally arguing that FDS needs to be banned because men are an oppressed class. They're so oppressed they've managed to install themselves in every position of power ever created and have barred women from most spheres of political, social, educational, and religious life up until fairly recently (in the grand scheme of things). His feelings got hurt and now FDS has to be banned. Top tier logic! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 01:06 AM
64

I wish I had your optimism 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 06:13 PM
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Soon they will realize the problem isn't that women are lining up around the block to get abortions, but that women are choosing to not have sex at all. So they will ban Plan B and birth control so we have no protections. We all know that rape is practically never prosecuted. I don't know how these politicians can't that they're only going to create a radicalized generation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 06:06 PM
316

Yeah, it's time for separation. No marriage, no children, no sex, no domestic labor. The last point alone would grind society to a halt. It happened in Iceland.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 04:58 PM
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In the wake of the Texas abortion ban, I say women need to fight it with malicious compliance. If life begins at six weeks, so should child support. So should life insurance for the fetus. If the mother doesn't have insurance and doesn't qualify for Medicaid, CHIP should pay for all her maternity bills, as they are now checkups for her child. If life begins at 6 weeks, then she should be able to claim the fetus on her tax returns. I'm sure there are hundreds of other details that would apply her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 04:49 PM
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Exactly! Stoicism on its own isn't a bad thing. A lot of people could stand to learn about it. I was prone to anxiety when I was younger. It was especially bad when I was a teenager and early 20-something. Stoicism helped with that. I didn't have good guidance when growing up and I spent much of my life surrounded by terrible people (not by choice). Reading Meditations was the first voice of reason I had encountered. It was honestly eye-opening for an "adultier adult" to tell young me "If you do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 02:04 PM
15

Yes. They can't understand what it actually is. They use it as a framework to be even more emotionally abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 11:25 AM
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He literally believes he's a prophet. One of his former colleagues wrote an op-ed about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 11:18 AM
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No irresponsible man disposal. Compost your men today!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 12:51 PM
63

Gross, what's this man doing here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 12:44 PM
47

I didn't change my last name when I got married because it was too expensive. My ex-husband seethed about it throughout our marriage. He couldn't handle me having an identity outside of him. Just the fact it pissed him off so much confirmed it was the right decision.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 09:12 AM
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Exactly. He'd be able to shift the blame to her when he was the one encouraging her illness in the first place. It's so awful to think this man is probably still alive (regrettably) and most likely victimizing another vulnerable woman. He never faced consequences the first time (beyond the poor girl's death). Why wouldn't he try to do it again?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 06:07 PM
276

Came here to comment this. It's so sad. He really doesn't care about her at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:16 PM
25

They were refusing me Adderall or any other stimulant medication. Basically they were like "You're a white 20-something female. You only want Adderall so you can starve yourself, not because you have severe ADHD."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 04:19 PM
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The worst part about the whole learning disability excuse is that women have learning disabilities too. Probably pretty close to equal rates of men and women suffer from learning disabilities, but the diagnosis rate for women is WAY lower because the studies and diagnostic criteria weren’t made with us in mind. SO TRUE. I didn't get diagnosed with ADHD until my early 20s despite showing symptoms since early elementary. I tested in the 98th percentile, so it's not like nobody noticed. I've also h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:51 PM
643

Mad sad that his fetish object died, not the fact he killed her. More at 11.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 01:58 PM
14

I have so much free time now that the school semester is over! I've spent much of it listening to audiobooks while I deep clean my house. I finished The Man in the High Castle last week and I just finished The Handmaid's Tale this morning. High Castle was okay. 3/5 stars IMO. The female characters get the short end of the stick, Juliana especially. That's a bummer. I kind of wished Philip K. Dick had gone ahead with a sequel but I totally understand why he didn't. It was probably for the best. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 11:59 AM
74

I'm white and I don't like white dudes very much lmao. They're petty, desperate, entitled, and usually balls-to-the-wall insane. They know they can do what they want to you and face no consequences. I'm really over it. They also age quickly and get ugly fast. Sunscreen who? They've never met her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:27 PM
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You're gonna do great!I was in the same position two years ago, having the same thoughts and worries. The fact that you recognize the danger men that men pose and are taking steps to protect her from the moment she enters this world puts you head and shoulders above most parents. This is how we create the next generation of strong women. This is how we help them create a better world where they don't have to suffer the same traumas as generations past. ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:20 PM
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There's a guy I was involved with once who specifically went after women who had low self esteem, traumatic pasts, and mental health issues. He said it made him feel needed. Naturally he cheated on me relentlessly because my life wasn't a complete trainwreck. I was too independent to be loyal to lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 12:25 PM
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Because for the first time in their life they aren't the center of attention. The baby is and they can't handle it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:50 PM
29

Spoiler warnings y'all. I first read the book when the TV show came out in 2015(?). I thought it wasn't bad. Like it was awkward in places but overall it was a decent escapist read if you could ignore the fetishy stuff. Then I re-read it after finding FDS in 2019. My view was completely changed. Claire makes a big deal about how she just can't be with Jamie because she's married, then immediately after is like "Frank who? Lol." Claire's character is just a self insert. She's the only character w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:48 PM
11

It happens in the book. There's a scene where Jamie is mad at Claire about something, they have sex that evening, Jamie is being really rough with Claire and hurts her. She begs him to stop but he refuses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:05 PM
12

And rapes her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 08:51 PM
20

Yeah, the Outlander book series is terrible. The show mitigates a lot of the horrible writing and nonsensical plots. I hope they deviate from the rape as plot device shtick that happens in the later books.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 08:50 PM
2

Wanting to place men in women's shelters under the threat of removing federal funding. Also buying into the erasure of LGB history.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:52 PM
26

The same thing happened to me when I was married. My husband hated me. He was resentful that I was young, attractive, and that I had a sex drive to rival most men. The only times he ever seemed to enjoy sex with me was when I had just taken his virginity and (later, after I'd moved in with him) when I was so drunk I was barely conscious. I can recall only two times that he initiated sex in five years. Once was when I was doing dishes. He pushed my face down into the counter and just started havi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:09 PM
69

I once posted on DeadBedrooms a long time ago when I was married. My husband had a porn addiction and I was a naive 20 year old who didn't know that porn addiction was a thing. I barely got any responses aside from "hAvE yOU tRiED cOMMunIcaTiNG" and "idk what to tell you" and "divorce him and find a real man." Nobody blamed me for it. I just got ignored for the most part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:00 PM
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I know who this is. Not personally, but he's a recognizable name in some communities or hobbies. He's been interviewed a number of times because he has an unusual lifestyle and he's also done TED Talks. He comes across as really sanctimonious. I'm not surprised he behaved this way considering the stunts he does for his activism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 12:04 PM
8

You'd have to take it up with the feminists of the 80s, then. Other commenters have explained the correlation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 08:11 PM
39

So for all the talk of an equal rights amendment and equal pay and whatever else she promised, she was completely ready to throw the most vulnerable women under the bus and keep them trapped over men's hurt feelings. I can't imagine the horror of women's shelters becoming as hard to access as abortion clinics are now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:53 PM
20

The point is that the wives and aunts are also handmaidens in the sense that they are upholding the patriarchy. They are willing to make other women suffer so long as they get to feel like they have power. They're all serving men in different ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:50 PM
23

I didn't learn about the cycle of abuse until I was 19 and in college for the first time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:40 PM
111

Handmaiden is also a term from the Bible. It literally means a female servant. Handmaidens are the servants of the patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:34 PM
107

I can't find the articles now. Google probably scrubbed them, but she was going to require women's shelters to accommodate men or she was going to deny them federal funding. Warren was one of my top candidates along with Bernie, but her policies on women's rights were focused only on what would win her popularity with the LibFems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:18 PM
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She had some very questionable policies outlined in her last bid for president. Essentially she was going to require that women's shelters accommodate men as well under threat of their federal funding being taken away. Those articles appear to have been scrubbed from Google since the last campaign, but they caused quite an uproar on the other women-focused subreddits (before the banning).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:17 PM
216

Men absolutely will show signs early on that they have the potential to be abusive and we need to be educated on what those signs are. So most men are abusive to some degree. The average LVM is emotionally and occasionally sexually abusive. They have a tendency to show their ass early and that's something can can be avoided. However, Lundy Bancroft, probably the only expert/researcher on abusive men wrote that most abusers wait 12 to 18 months before initiating abuse in their relationships. It's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:55 PM
13

It's evident in our DNA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 12:02 PM
171

"I don't want to associate with nobodyyyyyyyyyy!" My life motto.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:28 PM
100

In a word: handmaidens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:51 PM
1

When in reality half their clients would probably kill them (or try to) for the most mundane shit. A lot of Jane Does were prostitutes. Who does pussy save, exactly? Not them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 09:55 AM
96

This also applies if you're on the spectrum. I've gotten the Manic Pixie Dream Girl/Born Sexy Yesterday treatment from so many LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:13 AM
105

If she dies, it will be entirely his fault. I agree with the other posters that his level of neglect is heinous abuse. Even he admits that he didn't just nOt NoTicE. He knew she was sick. He wrote down all the systems she was experiencing!!! They didn't escape his notice! He didn't give a single fuck! They always tell on themselves! I legitimately don't know how this isn't some form of homicide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:50 AM
40

She's pimping out her kid before it's even born.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:50 AM
15

I have to say that from the outside it seems like sexual abuse of young women by close family members is the norm. Obviously I have no hard evidence to quantify this but I would agree with you. I mean, there are billboards in the deep south reminding fathers not to rape their daughters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:05 PM
165

There is so much grooming in conservative/trad/right-leaning spaces it's not even funny. It's partially what got me married off as a teenager. I'm completely serious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:26 PM
63

Exactly! She had a traumatic birth and is in counseling for it. That's not a gift. It's a curse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:36 PM
257

Low effort husbands are low effort parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:02 PM
14

Brb, digging a grave for this man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:11 PM
7

Idk, I was thrilled to give up my marriage because it meant I didn't have to babysit anymore. She could be happy because this scrote is about to not be her problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:34 PM
19

She doesn't have a husband. She's raising a man child. Literally half her post is my day-to-day with a 2 year old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:17 PM
9

Why do those guys look like Paul Flores 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:10 PM
142

And I thought it was bad when I was a teenager. Good God...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 01:58 AM
60

Yeah, it's called male entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 10:58 PM
3

He was always like that. I just didn't find out until too late.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 09:18 PM
7

I heard about the Marine thing when it happened, but I swear there was a similar situation with the Army around the same time the Marine one happened. I've searched for an article or something about it but can't find anything. I know this happened because I was leaving my husband at the same time the news came out. But I do know that a lot of information stays with military sources only and doesn't really go "mainstream." All I remember is that it was a pretty big group on an overseas post that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:56 PM
49

There was a revenge porn ring happening either in Iraq or Kuwait around 2016/2017. Bunch of army dudes were swapping nudes of their wives and girlfriends en masse. I found out about it as I was divorcing my husband while he was at one of those locations. I have no idea what, if anything, is out there now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 11:45 AM
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I've been around way too many porn addicts. The only thing they think about is sex. How to get it, what they're going to do, how great it will be, and how to get more. Everything else falls to the wayside. They basically have porn in their heads 24/7 because that is their primary reference as to what sex is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:29 PM
26

Yep! There's roughly 150-200 female rapists total in any given year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:20 PM
67

About half of women according to recent research.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:32 PM
6

I don't know. I'm just going to try CodeAcademy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:41 PM
37

The "women and children first" rule is only remembered because it was a novelty at the time. It was not commonly practiced. Just look at the Lusitania. Even in the present day, women and children are the most likely to die.during a maritime disaster
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:25 PM
8

The semester is almost over. I'm so glad. I need a break. I'm going to try and learn coding over the summer, but I'm afraid my math disability will get in the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:09 PM
119

Sorry to detail but you got me thinking. How "involuntary" can make celibacy be when they do nothing to be attractive? Isn't it voluntary at that point?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 01:37 PM
19

I wouldn't have been with any of my past partners if I had known about FDS. Most of them wouldn't have made it past the first interaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 01:45 AM
4

I'll make the handmaiden post as soon as I can. It's finals week 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:01 PM
101

You can make more doing fast food, scrubbing toilets, stocking shelves, walking dogs, literally anything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 09:33 PM
35

Maybe this video applies to some pick-me's, but it hasn't been my observation. I've said it many times before and I'll say it again: being a pick-me is the goal of female socialization. It's meant to be our default setting. Men don't want us to have class consciousness because then we'll flip the script on them. They want us quiet, desperate for validation, insecure, and dependent on them for our sense of self. Internalized misogyny is a hell of a thing. We are socialized to view womanhood as co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 01:19 PM
23

Teenage and early 20-something girls who have been groomed online by redpillers into believing their only purpose is to be a wife and mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 06:57 PM
17

Yeah. This is probably going to spread on tradfem Tumblr.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:40 PM
8

Let that "mango."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 03:41 PM
14

Adoption has issues too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 12:52 PM
61

Good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:11 PM
68

I only know one HVM that I'm not related to. Every other man that I've encountered as an acquaintance, coworker, friend, or partner has been garbage. No goals, no interests, no hobbies, no plans. They only care about weed or alcohol, video games, and their next orgasm. They don't have a sense of shame or self preservation to goad them into action. I kind of wish someone would study this phenomena. It's oddly fascinating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:31 PM
19

I would ignore them if anything they say doesn't directly relate to buying something from the business. Maybe tell them to stop messaging you if it doesn't pertain to a product.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:46 PM
177

Supporting your partner through a rough time, offering advice and a kind word? 👍🏻 Trying (or being forced) to navigate another person's serious mental health issues and unresolved trauma as their sole source of support? 👎🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 02:46 PM
163

Do men think Generally no. That's why this happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 07:44 PM
70

I waited until he was deployed to tell him it was over. He decided to be petty and stopped sending money for rent and bills and blocked me. I packed what I could carry in the back of a Toyota and sold what I couldn't. Then I moved six hours away to a different city and filed for divorce. I've been free from him since 2017. Here is what I recommend: How often is your husband out of the house? How long is he gone? That's the amount of time you have to work with when it's time to GTFO. You need a p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 11:13 AM
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Yep. You can see that exact sentiment play out over and over again. They don't think young boys being raped by adult women is rape. They think it's a positive experience for the boy, but they still want the woman punished. Unsurprisingly, the same men can't understand why rape is traumatic for young girls. In one thread they once chalked it up to "brainwashing." 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 12:52 PM
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It's mind-blowing that men are incapable of understanding why women don't want to be their free prostitute. I legitimately can't tell if these are different men or all the same guy. NPCs, the lot of them. These guys' lives would improve so much if they quit watching porn, quit jerking their dick raw every day, and worked on fixing the damage in their prefrontal cortex. If they're that adamant on being in a relationship, they best stick with the one they have. It is incredibly unlikely that they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:50 PM
26

Cosmo once recommended getting an Alka Seltzer tablet and putting it inside you before having sex. The idea was that the fizzing from the tablet would be pleasurable. Alka Seltzer contains baking soda, anhydrous citric acid, and aspirin. That sounds dangerous to be shoving up your vag. Another one I read was to give a guy a handjob by giving an Indian rugburn to his dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 10:58 AM
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Most medicines aren't tested on women to begin with. Women were banned from drug trials until 1993. Medical trials also don't sex disaggregate data, nor do they track phases of the menstrual cycle or how birth control may effect certain medications or vice versa. Basically, women haven't been considered at all in medical science and we're just now starting to hear about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 06:49 PM
72

This. My narc ex-husband had completely changed our marriage counselor's opinion of me after his first solo visit. To this day I don't know what he said, but it was enough to make the (male) counselor ignore every major sign of abuse I had recounted to him and paint me as the abusive one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:12 PM
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I would expect him to support his child. Pregnancy is a natural risk of sex regardless of how well protected you are. But I wouldn't be having sex with a guy if I didn't think he'd be a good father anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 10:38 AM
55

That's me lol. I'm the researcher of the friend group.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 07:27 AM
48

Ah yes, women are going to subvert patriarchal norms and constrictive gender roles by checks notes doing everything the patriarchy wants them to do. Got it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 12:17 AM
37

For the same reason men rush to defend other dudes they don't know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 09:40 PM
59

The turd doesn't fall far from the shit tree. His parents have enabled and protected him his whole life. He's been violent since elementary school and had been creeping on/stalking girls for years before Kristin. There are some theories that his family is somehow connected to law enforcement, which is why such an open and shut case has taken a quarter of a century to reach any kind of resolution. However, there is no evidence to prove that. It's all speculation. But really, what else would expla…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 09:39 PM
23

Get a big dog that hates men. It mostly worked for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 08:55 PM
20

Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:46 AM
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This is nothing new. Much of Freud's "theories" were him rationalizing away women being sexually abused by their male family members.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:05 AM
15

I don't like the Harry Potter series. I read it for the first and only time when I was in middle school and haven't touched it since. Even at 12 years old I could see that Harry was an insufferable douchebag. He's a trust fund baby that all the important adults believe is The Chosen One even though there is a very real possibility they may be backing the wrong horse. He can do basically whatever he wants because he's so sPeCIaL!!! He doesn't face any significant consequences for any of his shena…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 03:20 PM
18

He shouldn't be allowed custody of his kids. Their mother needs to know. That kid on TikTok is being groomed and your husband is part of the process. She's not at fault here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 11:31 AM
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Both Harry and Ron are trash lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 11:04 AM
3

Honestly? Utah as a homestead location doesn't sound so bad. 🤷🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 01:35 PM
21

I've had strange men come up to me while in public to just offload their bullshit onto me. This happened near constantly when I was 23-24 and working the day shift. I would have to take the bus to and from work and there would always be a man all too willing to share his emotional garbage with a literal captive audience. I didn't know what to do in those situations so they'd get a lot of "ok" and "wow" "haha damn that's crazy" responses. Clearly uninterested reactions. They couldn't get the hint…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:36 PM
12

I don't have the words to express how deeply I agree with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:07 PM
12

So many men rationalize away everything they do as good. It doesn't matter if they're the biggest piece of shit alive. If they assume someone out there is worse then they can't possibly be bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:28 PM
18

You can find more testimonials of johns here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:14 PM
72

Sex abuse is rife in Amish communities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:54 PM
9

I don't get how anyone could think it's fun and eMpOwErInG. Having sex with men is already disappointing. I can't think of anything worse than having sex with multiple men a day who feel entitled to do whatever they want while also pretending to care about their stupid problems if they feel like whining to you. There is nothing to get out of it -- certainly not an orgasm. It's equal parts "Sir, this is a Wendy's" and the worst one night stand of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 09:54 AM
21

It's a fetish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:46 PM
73

XYs are a plague.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:46 PM
97

Funnily enough the economy is what garnered hatred of 2nd wave feminism. Women were fighting for jobs outside of the home, bank accounts, access to birth control, and no-fault divorce. Then the economy took a downturn in the early 80s and men said "The economy has gone to shit, must be women's fault. Women entering the workforce is why men can't find jobs!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 03:11 PM
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This has been going on since at least the Regency era. I remember reading an anecdote years ago of a man whose only exposure to the female form was in paintings and sculpture. Eventually he got married and was reportedly so repulsed by his wife having body hair that he couldn't consummate the marriage. Wouldn't be surprised if it was John Ruskin but I honestly can't remember. Edit: I was right. It was John Ruskin. He refused to consummate his marriage to Effie Gray. She finally asked him about i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 10:15 PM
7

Hahaha I'm so sick of college! I'm not going back after this semester. I genuinely can't take any more. I no longer get help with childcare. I'm struggling to complete homework on time because of it. The workload has only gotten worse with the pandemic. My grades are slipping. One of my teachers is the worst writing teachers I've ever had. She has insane expectations and she's condescending in nearly every interaction with the class. I'm regularly putting out university level work at a shitty co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:57 PM
57

There is a single female mass shooter: Brenda Ann Spencer.) She was 16 years old and lived in abject poverty with her alcoholic father. He allegedly abused her sexually. She also had an untreated TBI from a bike accident that wasn't discovered until after she was arrested. She was known to have been suicidal and her father refused to let her get treatment. Instead, he bought her a gun. Roughly a month later she shot up the elementary school across the street from her house and killed the princip…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:27 PM
12

Yeah, the old "Why are you continuing to do things that aren't beneficial to me???" spiel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:52 PM
29

Daria gets it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:20 AM
56

They're all basically Gaston from Beauty and the Beast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 08:59 PM
256

When you're getting to know a man, do you ever feel like you have to prove your humanity to him? Does he seem completely taken aback that you have hobbies? Is he incredulous that you have interests? Do you ever get the impression that he thinks women just sit around and do nothing and wait for a man to appear? Does he ever seem confused that you would do something that is not explicitly for male approval? Does he fail to remember basic information about you that does not immediately benefit him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 08:21 PM
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I'm hoping she has an escape plan in place and is just biding her time until she can leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 12:17 PM
3

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 01:27 PM
76

Meanwhile his wife feels like she has an extra child she never asked for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 01:23 PM
178

He's a loser and he's only going to ruin your life. If you go back, all you're doing is telling him he can disrespect you to the ends of the earth and you won't do anything about it. Make him face consequences for his actions. He offers nothing of value. He has to improve himself if he ever wants a chance at a relationship with any woman. It's not your job to hold his hand while he does it. Besides, you have so much going for you. Don't throw it away on a man. Focus on yourself and improving you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:05 PM
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In my experience, you're safe to scream back if you're in public and there are other people (particularly men) around. Men don't give a shit about women, but they do care about the opinions of other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:59 PM
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It's what they fired Ellen Pao over. She banned jailbait and a number of hate subreddits and made traffic go down. So they blamed a bunch of unrelated shit on her, stoked the ire of the scrote masses, and forced her to step down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:38 AM
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Oh yeah. It's practically tradition for men in the military to seek out the most vulnerable women they can find, pressure if not force them into marriage, then divorce them when their contract is up. It's a tale as old as time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 05:24 PM
82

Why is it so rare for a woman to be able to say "No, fuck you, you fucked up already and now you can't even let me have fun with my daughter, you have to make it all about yourself on my birthday and ruin the fun time I did manage to have!" Because so many men retaliate with violence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 04:54 PM
5

Strangers would regularly assume I was about 13 or 14 when I was in my early 20s. Thankfully it was all well-meaning women asking what grade I was in or if I was old enough to be on my own in the waiting room of the doctor's office. I'm in my late 20s now and I have "mom hair." I look indeterminately young, but most certainly above legal age and I get left alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 12:02 AM
3

I was badly needing some enrichment in my enclosure and I've been wanting a banjo since forever. The thrift gods smiled upon me yesterday!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 02:56 PM
31

Guess who's the proud new owner of an autoharp AND a banjo?? I found them both at the thrift store. My neighbors are going to hate me lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:12 PM
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Block, delete, and go stay with a trusted friend or family member for a few days. I would also recommend putting in a report to the police.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:39 PM
10

It's not. It makes the problem worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 12:17 PM
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Men will write 18 paragraphs about why kinks are great but won't go to therapy. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:53 AM
83

Realistically, a knife is actually one of the worst self defense weapons to carry. The loser of a knife fight dies in the street. The winner dies in the ambulance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:44 PM
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NVM/LVM think of things in terms of hierarchy. There is no such thing as equal with them even in their friendships. Only one person can be the "alpha." This is why men can get into physical fights with each other yet walk away with no hard feelings or even become friends. They're just sorting out the hierarchy. It's stupid as fuck, but no one ever said they were smart. Naturally this mindset bleeds through into their romantic relationships. They always put themselves as the "alpha" because naTur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:37 PM
26

There is legitimate controversy over sex/porn addiction being a real thing. I'm not saying that sex/porn addiction isn't a problem -- it absolutely is! It just doesn't meet the clinical definition of addiction. It appears to be more of a compulsion, though there is no consensus from the medical community yet. However, it's been my experience that self-professed "sEx AdDicTS" use it as an excuse to not have to change their behavior. It gives them an "out" for cheating on their partners and a way …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:41 PM
159

Women build society -- literally. 💅🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 11:08 PM
12

It has to do with obscenity laws. Since porn is on film, it's an issue of "free speech." It got taken all the way to the supreme court. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:02 PM
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Yeah, I wrote this while really sleep deprived! The rape happened 1.5 years before the other stuff. I found out it was premeditated around the time they started bullying me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:54 PM
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I appreciate the concern but I had to oversimplify because it was a complex situation. We were all roommates. My relationship imploded, I lost my job, the lease was up and I couldn't afford to stay at that place. HVM and I became roommates and moved somewhere else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:47 PM
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Helped me get out of an abusive relationship Supported me throughout an entire pregnancy Helped me go to college Lets me use his library Helped me get groceries/essential supplies in the early days of the pandemic Did all the grocery shopping so neither my daughter nor I were exposed to Covid Best conversationalist I've ever met Doesn't care if I go off on tangents about my special interests Only person I've met who shares my hobbies and interests Just to name a few!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:18 PM
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It may have more to do with the fact he was a police officer and the resulting brutality at the vigil. I think a lot of women are realizing that there is no justice. The whole system is against us. Hot take but I think true crime podcasts have something to do with this but it's late and I'm tired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:30 AM
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First was my stepdad. It's too triggering to write about. Several boys in high school started a smear campaign against me because I didn't want to date any of them. One of them deliberately put me in a situation where I got raped and then tried to blame me for it (this was about a year before). I lost what few friends I had and was harassed well outside of high school. Been creeped on by coworkers and customers, sexually harassed by doctors, had a landlord make my life a living hell for a few mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:22 AM
70

You're not alone. I'm a single parent to a daughter and I know exactly what you're talking about. My daughter is a typical fire sign. She's loud and exuberant and extroverted and endlessly curious. She has boundless energy. She doesn't like having her hair done or wearing uncomfortable clothing. She likes roughhousing. She gets into everything. She makes messes on a daily basis. In short, she displays a lot of "masculine" traits that I don't try to curb. Why should I? She is who she is. I want h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:46 PM
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I can relate. I was "one of the guys" for a long time because I am probably on the spectrum. I have never had many female friends despite my efforts because I wasn't able to "mask" very well. I can be an awkward person to hang out with. However teenage boys don't care how weird you are if they think there's a chance they could have sex with you. I didn't understand that for a long time. I found Tumblr back when I was in high school around the time the big "feminism/social justice" thing took off…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 04:33 PM
21

What was your journey like with feminism? Was FDS the first time you'd heard of other types of feminism?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 10:19 AM
21

The Washington Post: Guinea pigs or pioneers? How Puerto Rican women were used to test the birth control pill Wikipedia: Contraceptive Pill Trials in Puerto Rico Public Discourse: Birth Control, Blood Clots, and Untimely Death: Time to Reconsider What We Tell Our Teens?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 01:50 PM
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Meanwhile women died during the initial trials of The Pill and it was swept under the rug because they were WOC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 01:43 AM
24

I got diagnosed with various mood disorders while married. I was only "symptomatic" whenever my husband was around. The depression, anxiety, panic attacks, mood swings, and unrelenting rage disappeared every single time he was deployed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 01:35 AM
14

Preach 🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:29 PM
3

It's a few connected ideas. About 8,000 years ago, 17 women reproduced compared to only 1 man. Scientists aren't sure why this was happening. They're assuming that a few males hoarded all the resources to force the women to have sex with them. But the genetic evidence is there that not many neolithic men were getting laid. Consider marriage. What is marriage other than redistribution of sex? One woman for every man regardless of status. Guaranteed sex and enforced subservience. Men control all t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:24 PM
2

That's so smart!!!!! I could do that!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:21 AM
25

Every woman knows a rape victim but no man knows a rapist. I'm so sick of this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:20 PM
98

It's staggering to realize that all the "yes" answers are individual women and not individual attacks. That number is likely quite high.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:04 AM
34

I said this on a different post today but it's worth repeating. Misogyny/Patriarchy is the oldest class war. It's been with us since the dawn of agriculture. It is that deeply entrenched. We may have a chance at defeating if we acknowledge its status as a class conflict but it's not going to be easy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:57 AM
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I didn't even know how sex happened when I was 15. Fuck outta here. He's definitely got child porn on his computer. 🚨👮‍♀️🚨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:52 AM
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I am HERE for these deets. 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:34 AM
14

Capitalism exists because patriarchy exists. Patriarchy is the oldest class war.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:48 PM
24

That's the point. These abortion bans are based on racism. If you have a population that isn't reproducing enough to meet replacement levels, you will have to open up your country to immigrants to meet that workforce need. Or -- as these demons are trying to do -- you ban abortion and make it next to impossible to get birth control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:41 PM
13

Tldr Chris Watts is a man who murdered his pregnant wife and two small daughters back in 2018. He was described as being a regular guy. He's exactly the type described in this post. Nobody thought him to be the type to murder his family. Lots of people have speculated that he's a sociopath or narcissist or something. I don't think so. He seems like a normal dude who has skated by through life on male privilege. Watts Family murders wikipedia page
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 03:21 AM
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Petition to call this type the Chris Watts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 07:54 PM
9

The US. Edit: Over the fridge cupboards usually look something like this and they have a stereotype of being useless or annoying because they're hard to reach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:53 PM
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What does everybody use that cupboard above the refrigerator for? Edit: I keep a bunch of empty jars there because I had nowhere else to put them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:01 PM
26

That's not possible. Source: genealogy nerd whose taken 2 DNA tests
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:58 PM
156

I wouldn't be surprised if a large number of men are narcissists. That plus being spoiled, unfettered internet access, and unmoderated interactions with other men are how this happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 10:52 PM
80

I'm so grateful I had a daughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 10:18 PM
6

They may not have a choice within the text 10 to 20 years 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 03:11 PM
50

Delete the texts. Burn the pictures. Donate the clothes. Sell the valuables. May as well get something from all the trouble he caused you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 12:06 PM
28

T H I S. Especially as we start running out of resources in more obvious ways. You think the elites are going to waste rare earth minerals or petroleum based materials on millions of sexbots? Hell no! They're just going to use all the NEETS as cannon fodder in the climate wars.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 11:42 AM
9

Maybe I should explain. This is my frustration with my school and teacher more than anything. My teacher (male ofc) gives very vague instruction but had specific expectations that he refuses to communicate. He doesn't teach us anything. We have several discussion questions a week that are a one liner or something with no elaboration and all we have is a textbook. It's a good textbook for people who know absolutely nothing about art (like me!) but it doesn't help in context. I wouldn't have been …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:54 PM
3

I love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:13 PM
10

The second one is Pollock's work. ☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:34 PM
19

I'm doing my best. This is an extracurricular for a liberal arts degree at a community college. I can wax poetic about Kahlo's The Broken Column or the Rottegen Pieta because there's actually something there. I can't muster more than "This statue looks like a protractor. It's on a beach. It is highly symmetrical and balanced" for that Venice Beach atrocity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:45 PM
23

Oh lol this is more of a rant about how I'm not an artistic person. The more I learn, the more I don't "get" art. For instance, the art market is like the stock market. The relative "goodness" or "badness" of a piece doesn't factor in to how much it sells for. Something can be absolutely hideous or nonsensical or just stupid and sell for millions of dollars. The art market is entirely dependent on how much some pompous ass wants to pay for it. It completely blows my mind that there are men out t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:41 PM
34

My class isn't learning about the artists -- that's too much work. Instead we have to find ways to sound as pretentious as possible while struggling to find the vocabulary to describe things like this and this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:32 PM
171

F U C K Pollock. He was dumb and his art is shit. this message was brought to you by someone currently studying art appreciation and hating every moment of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:59 PM
68

I literally have nightmares about getting married lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:37 AM
45

This man deserves nothing but misery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:02 PM
3

Foucault's Boomerang in a nutshell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:57 AM
25

I misread! Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:10 AM
18

The best time to have left this guy was immediately after he assaulted her. The second best time is now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 02:49 AM
15

For a time I was in school to learn how to be a counselor. I wanted to counsel other victims of abuse or maybe work for social services. I dropped out after 3 weeks. I don't know if it's limited to my area or what, but my fellow students were just so...oblivious. Their hearts were in the right place but there was no critical thinking, no problem solving skills, no real ability to apply the techniques we were learning. I felt really out of place and also somewhat horrified realizing that most of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:47 PM
41

I had a gigantic post typed out but meh. The mental health system pathologizes women's trauma because it makes us inconvenient to men. They don't care about helping us. They want us to shut up. Also bad therapists and counselors are literally everywhere and they are what make me wary of the mental health system. I was receiving mental health help in my early 20s. I was also in an abusive marriage at that time. I didn't understand I was being abused because I grew up in an abusive home. I told mu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:44 PM
2

A field guide to Tejano LVM? Should I make it an actual post? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 01:58 AM
105

For a long time I really did believe I had something wrong with me to be running into LVM. It's sort of like a chicken and egg problem: am I partnering up with these guys because of something psychological, or are they drawn to me because they can see I have problems? What kept me uncertain is that I was experiencing this everywhere, not just romantic encounters. I've been hit on or demeaned in the doctor's office. I had a landlord start creeping on me immediately after I moved in. I was sexuall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 01:54 AM
339

This was one of the biggest things that drew me to FDS. Every relationship I've ever had has been abusive. Nearly every single man I've ever met has been some flavor of awful. From friends and relatives to bosses to landlords to medical professionals...nearly every single one. Yet whenever I voiced this concern to the internet, I was met with "Not all men!" and "you're the problem!" and "find better men!" But how do you find better men when they're all virtually identical? What do you do when th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 12:12 AM
37

I do the same thing. Buzzed head, baggy, unflattering clothes, big glasses, no makeup. Keeps me safe. The last thing I want or need is male attention. I'm basically invisible now and it's pretty nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 09:15 PM
9

I'm struggling to find the right name for the artist/hipster types lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 05:12 PM
32

El Jefe: Super traditional hard-working guys but they carry around all that old-school machismo. They work, you stay home and take care of 7 kids by yourself, but they have control of all the money, spend all their time with the guys, probably smack you around for "disrespecting" him, accuses you of cheating on him even though he's cheating on you. You're just expected to take it because at least he provides for the kids. You find these types most often in the Boomer generation. There are some y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:53 PM
173

I think it's a couple of things. First, male entitlement knows no bounds. The alt-right plague in our society is driven by male entitlement. Men feel entitled to women, to sex with us, to our reproductive capacity, to our labor, to our time and attention. As women gain parity with men, it is harder and harder to find means and methods with which to trap us. They can't just go out and buy us from our fathers anymore and it has them in a rage. Secondly, the male obsession with sexual violence. I t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 03:13 PM
81

I try not to judge. The economy sucks. College isn't always the answer people think it will be. Sometimes we have to take work to pay the bills, regardless of what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:42 PM
3

Few men get past that age mentally so...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 08:54 PM
3

Then they shouldn't have that power if that's how they decide to use it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 08:53 PM
7

I probably belonged to this group in a past life lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:54 PM
140

Yup! He's looking to dump the responsibilities on another woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:44 PM
8

And nothing of value was lost! Valar morghulis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:56 PM
9

His name is a red flag. I've never met a decent Josh 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:53 PM
14

Here's the deets against Johnny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:49 PM
26

I can smell this picture 😭🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 06:46 PM
153

It's intentional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:38 PM
7

Texas sucks most times, but they're actually pretty decent about providing prenatal and early childhood assistance. The whole abortion thing is bullshit though. There's only like 5 clinics in the entire state.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 02:42 AM
37

This is promising, but I suppose it applies more to big cities in liberal areas. A fair amount of things in the article don't mesh with where I live. It's funny because I was just looking up demographic information on my city last night. Men dominate all management positions here and they also significantly out-earn women. The vast majority of our impoverished are women and girls. And I live in the US -- just in a conservative hellhole. Men see that they're falling behind but refuse to change. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:01 AM
51

I've met a single man -- literally just one -- that paid child support. It was the full amount, too. But he also conveniently never saw his kids unless it was for a Facebook photo op. He had plenty of opportunities to, he just didn't want to. Of course he played it off as a crazy, greedy baby mama. Pickmes would eat that story up with a smile, not realizing he was using them to make his life more convenient. Rent and bills, free household labor, a constant source of attention, sex, the works. He…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:12 PM
57

Valentine's Day is a scorpio plot to make more of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 01:27 PM
7

"i succeeded high school" wow what an impressive feat I live in an area where over half the population dropped out of high school. Some legitimately believe finishing is an accomplishment. ☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:53 PM
60

Maybe a better way to word this would be that women are expected to perform femininity at ever-increasing levels while also taking on all of the male gender role as well. We're expected to be both man and woman and get nothing for it. Men get to be in a state of permanent adolescence with few if any consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 01:45 PM
53

If I remember right they were married and he was basically never around. He was cheating on her the entire time and she filed for divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:29 PM
1

Adding that to my watch later. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:15 AM
26

S A M E
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 12:53 AM
78

Is it CompHet or am I just traumatized? A tragedy in three parts starring me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:47 PM
20

(It's the cost to transport them)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:37 PM
15

Liberals and honestly most leftists hate women every bit as much as the right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:35 PM
39

I can't believe sometimes that it's 2021 but we're still dealing with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 07:09 PM
158

It means they're going to traffick more women from poorer asian countries to be "brides." Very bad situation for women no matter how you look at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 04:48 PM
10

My hobbies include hiking, biking, identifying the plants and animals I see outside, genealogy, photography, journaling, baking, reading, listening to podcasts, discovering new music, learning new languages, and studying topics I'm interested in. Those include history, linguistics, political theories, range and wildlife management, and counterterrorism to name a few. All of my exes have been virtually identical. Video games, porn, and some kind of vice like weed, alcohol, overeating, or overspen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:39 PM
45

Big fat nope. Peterson is delusional. Just another alt-right trash heap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:43 PM
4

I went in on my period -- they told me it was ideal! No anesthetic, not even Tylenol offered to me. Then they used forceps. 😖 I could hardly walk when I left the office. I was in excruciating pain. The only time I've ever felt that since was when I was in labor. Mirena was a nightmare. Only years later after having it taken out did I discover it's not recommended for women with PCOS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 04:21 PM
15

They offer anesthetic??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 04:13 AM
21

All this pro-Kamala shit is like saying Margaret Thatcher had girl power. Just because she's a woman in a position of great political power doesn't exempt her from beng horrible.🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 05:45 PM
77

Historically I've never had many female friends. Those I did have used me. I don't know how to make decent female friends lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 10:42 PM
7

Yep. I'm struggling to keep it together every day. It's getting harder as time goes on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 06:56 PM
42

I celebrate the day my divorce was finalized every year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:45 PM
13

I've seen the statistic thrown around that 1 in 20 US men is a pedo. Not good odds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:11 PM
101

They don't see the efforts it takes to care for children and a home 24/7 Caregiver burnout is a real thing. Being at home 24/7 with kids and a house to take care of is soul-crushing. It feels like being imprisoned. It will drive you mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 11:55 PM
32

I'm a big fan of true crime and missing persons cases/unidentified people. I followed the Mostly Harmless case for a while because the way he died is such a painful way to go. I think people in the true crime community have a tendency to romanticize who we think these Does are. We imagine them to be fundamentally good, innocent people who are lost from their families. We see them as victims of circumstance and don't generally assign negative traits to them. It can be a difficult thing to break. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 12:11 AM
16

I remember that video too! It was such cringe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:48 PM
13

Armie Hammer entered the chat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 02:35 PM
27

I used to follow their channel for a little bit before they stopped making videos. I'd always had the impression that Rachel was heavily fetishizing Jun and he was uncomfortable with it. Rachel seemed to dominate things and Jun always seemed like he was just...there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 02:29 PM
32

I was married to an abusive porn addict for four years. His abuse started as soon as he got me across state lines and away from anyone who could help me. The last straw was a slow process. I was sick of his porn addiction. I was sick of him trying to cheat on me every time my back was turned. I was sick of my life being at a complete standstill because of him. He got a corporate job and they sent him across the country for training. Almost immediately he was on Craigslist personals trying to che…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:27 AM
41

I struggle with an "Am I autistic or was I just never socialized?" dilemma. I understand logically that the deck is stacked against women. I understand logically that women have to meet expectations of appearance and attractiveness to (barely) be acknowledged. I understand how vital this is having received good and bad treatment when conforming or not conforming. I'll put on makeup and try to look my best and use my soft, higher-pitched phone voice, but the effort almost doesn't feel worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:39 PM
91

I don't have much to say other than I agree. I'm in the same position. I wasn't taught how to be an adult and I certainly wasn't taught how to be feminine. I was left to my own devices my entire life. I don't know how to style my hair, how to look put together or fashionable, how to do makeup beyond a basic level, how to behave in social situations, how to have empathy, how to navigate preconceived expectations of women, how to have female friendships, really any of it. Not confirming to feminin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:30 PM
49

If sex work were really empowering, men would be doing it in droves. They would be fighting other men to get into the field. They would develop the same annoying complexes that they get when they enter finance or political science or STEM. Sex work would be a respected profession with good pay and societal prestige and respect. They also would have kicked all the women out or made it difficult for women to compete -- like what men did to coding and computer science. if a man will not do it, it i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 01:41 PM
5

Was he betrayed by his exes or was he seeking out relationships with sugar babies and escorts and finding a way to get mad about it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 01:33 PM
15

Ian Miles Cheong is some alt-right shithead and Belle Delphine is pedophilia enabling trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 01:24 PM
9

One yelled at me for poking holes in his political arguments. He couldn't handle any disagreement about anything, period. Naturally he was a libertarian. He would also yell at me for being annoyed that he would scream at his video games. Sometimes he'd throw things at me or the TV. He was in his late 20s at the time lol. Another one would default to yelling over literally any inconvenience. There was always someone to blame. One of the stupidest blow ups he had was when he lost his own keys and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:09 PM
7

Pickmeism is just female socialization.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 01:36 PM
238

This kid is a predator in the making but no, the real issue is that she iNvADeD hIS pRiVaCY. It's not her brothers fault for looking up how to sexually abuse his siblings. It's her fault for finding out about it. They're so eager to simp for a rapist in the making and we all know why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:10 PM
5

It might not be the games themselves, but the notoriety and "clout" within their deranged circles from putting it online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:16 PM
10

I was raised in an abusive household. Showing any emotion was dangerous. I have incurable RBF lol. I can go from laughing to neutral instantaneously. I can stop myself from crying or showing signs of panic with little effort. I can just shut everything off and go back into idling mode like a robot or something. Other people have watched it happen and it's freaked them out. Unfortunately this translates internally, too. I've been through so much in my life that I can't get spectacularly angry the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:10 PM
79

Watching porn to learn how to have sex is like watching Gray's Anatomy to learn how to be a doctor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 07:07 PM
7

Full force wasn't brought upon them because Trump didn't want it. The DOJ refused to activate the National Guard until Pence stepped in. Even then, the guard was sent in unarmed. They were using "less than lethal rounds" on BLM protestors just a couple months ago. This is what the capitol steps looked like on June 2.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:04 PM
15

They had weapons. They were shooting into the court. Pipe bombs were found and detonated. At least one guy had zip ties, potentially to restrain and harm government officials. A gallows was hastily constructed outside. A group of thembwere going around all the offices looking for people to harm. but most importantly, the cops moved the barricades and let them in because the cops are on their side. The only reason this didn't go worse than it did is because government officials were quickly evacu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 12:30 PM
33

And don't report them to Reddit. Reddit doesn't care. Submit them to the FBI tipline.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 12:24 PM
3

No, thankfully!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 11:57 AM
28

In a doctor's appointment, in an Uber, on the bus, while walking my dog, while trying to get into my home, on OfferUp, at work when I was on the overnight shift. Nearly everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:22 AM
57

Who cares what the domestic abuse fandom thinks lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:17 AM
2

Fixed it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:05 AM
45

Here are some depressing facts about johns! Here are what men think about prostituted women in their own words! Here are what even more men think about prostituted women, straight from the horse's mouth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 12:38 PM
41

Find or create a situation to get that tumor out of the house, switch the title of the car back to your name, report your debit and credit cards as stolen, and change your locks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:47 AM
46

The OP mentioned he tried home health care and he didn't like it because of their "attitudes." They were supposedly being condescending and "making comments." I can't possibly imagine what about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 08:39 PM
94

Even when the man is a raging piece of shit, the commenters are still bending over backwards to excuse his behavior. Fuck off with that "caregiver burnout" shit. What he described is life as a woman, period. But in typical male fashion, asking anything of him is simply too much. God forbid he take care of the family he created. I can't put my rage into words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 07:12 PM
11

Both my grandmothers got married as teenagers. One was 18, the other was 13.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 01:55 PM
17

My pregnancy was considered easy, but I was under truly massive amounts of stress the whole time. I'm amazed it didn't affect my daughter negatively (as far as I can tell). I was in stellar physical shape when I got pregnant thanks to a physically demanding job, but my diet was kind of crappy. I immediately cleaned that up as soon as I learned I was pregnant and I credit that with the relative easiness of the experience. I cut out all caffeine and most processed foods immediately and I got regul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 11:55 PM
18

Men watch Pulp Fiction one time and next thing you know they think they got it all figured out. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 04:58 AM
11

I hope he chokes on the thesaurus he needed to write this message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:51 PM
140

The family tree dies with him because she just straight murdered that man lmfaoooo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 12:23 AM
30

I don't get why they're so sensitive to rejection. They act like no is the worst possible thing to hear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 04:18 PM
7

Her kid's name is even Onyx. Like...seriously? Her kid is mixed race. Is his blackness the only quality she can see in him, so much so she made it his name?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:51 PM
11

Who wants to bet they never have that same energy when their girlfriends or wives are uncomfortable about something they're doing? 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:47 PM
12

CAN CONFIRM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:29 PM
23

I've got one brother -- we're half siblings. I'm the older one. My dad was never in the picture. I have reason to suspect my mom didn't want to have me at all. It's a long story. My mom had me, then dumped me on her parents because she couldn't handle raising a baby. She was in and out of my life until I was in early elementary school. At some point she met my stepfather, took me back, and that was it. They got married and had my brother. All three events in quick succession. My brother has been…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 10:24 AM
55

I don't think she's used to receiving things. There's also a lot of pressure around the holidays to be grateful for whatever you get, even if it's so obvious no thought or effort went into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 04:02 AM
26

27 is still a damn baby! Sorry to derail but I needed to hear this lol. Also an obligatory "fuck this man in particular."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 12:42 AM
55

My ex husband would do that. It was never luxury goods, but he would spend lots of money on me after every blow-up we had. All I wanted was for him to treat me fairly and have sex with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 12:07 AM
4

Oh yeah, that was apparent lmao!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:50 PM
43

She named her kid Banks? Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 01:44 PM
72

Yeah, I was hoping that maybe she was just German, but it seems like some fetish shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 07:27 PM
27

She should get a dildo as big as her arm and watch the fucker seethe. It would be hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 07:26 PM
10

I find that what most men consider "male oppression" is just capitalism at work. Yet they want all the praise and glory for creating a system that they acknowledge is steamrolling over them. Make it make sense 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 05:39 PM
111

Who wants to tell this guy that daycare costs as much as rent? Children are an enormous financial hit unless you've got a supportive family or tons of money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 05:02 PM
7

Por que no los dos?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:57 PM
12

Sex work is peak commodity fetishism. If they ever cracked open a book on political theory they'd understand that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:24 AM
33

It was stuff like immediate loss of interest, going soft, expressing annoyance or disgust. Refusal to try and make a woman orgasm. Either she has to cum from his dick alone or she doesn't cum at all. And if she doesn't cum, she must be broken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:14 AM
52

I can count on one hand the number of men I've met that cared if their partner enjoyed sex. As for the rest of them, they didn't care if their female partner had a good time. A lot of them were repulsed by female pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:02 AM
15

I'm not tall, but I'm not stereotypically feminine. I'm probably on the autism spectrum. Understanding things like fashion, makeup trends, how to do hair, and anything related to stereotypical femininity are really difficult for me. I don't get it. Too many rules to remember and they change so often. I used to comply with femininity more in the past (makeup, long hair) but I don't anymore. No makeup. I have a grown-out buzz cut. I wear either t-shirts and jeans or activewear. Men still find me a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 04:13 PM
3

Yep! I wouldn't change my last name after getting married and it bothered my ex so bad. He bitched about it the entire time we were married because I "wasn't really respecting the marriage" and it "showed I didn't want to be a family." He forced me to marry him in the first place so I don't know why he expected compliance lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:30 PM
10

Yeah, same. Puns are about the only humor I understand. It's a lot better than the misogyny, racism, etc that passes for humor nowadays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 08:38 PM
5

Maybe...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 10:14 PM
23

Jordan Peterson literally believes he's the "chosen one" like he's a protagonist in a crappy YA dystopian novel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:38 PM
43

These types of men tend to congregate to a cult of personality. It's not necessarily the books but the man giving them the ideas. Stay away from men who like Ben Shapiro, Richard Spencer, Stefan Molyneux, Milo Yiannopolous, Matt Shea, Neil Strauss, Paul Joseph Watson. These guys aren't all authors, they're just alt-right talking heads. Misogyny is usually the first step in radicalizing young men online. If expresses he's a republican or libertarian, run. If he's got The Turner Diaries on his she…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:26 PM
4

My point exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 03:46 PM
83

Obviously she hasn't learned shit from true crime lol. Fuck tragedy voyeurs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 03:38 PM
2

I've been in a number of them. Normally it boiled down to not realizing the behaviors were abusive, not having money or resources to leave, and not having anywhere to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 10:17 PM
6

Hopefully cirrhosis gets him. Fuck that piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 11:17 PM
11

Jesus, this is such cringe. The poetry is terrible (tbh it all is now). The motivations are immature. Like...how the hell did anyone think this was a good idea? Who greenlit this? I have such secondhand embarrassment for her omg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 03:35 PM
39

He got the fuckboy supreme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 03:00 PM
15

Men are getting Covid-19 at higher rates than women because they won't wash their hands lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 01:14 PM
46

He didn't deserve a response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:48 PM
39

This literally never happens lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 11:54 AM
67

He's not joking. They never are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 04:55 AM
5

Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:41 PM
33

Femininity sucks. There are so many rules, they change all the time, and it's expensive. And for what benefit? To be treated slightly better sometimes? To get harassed more when you aren't "appropriately" grateful for basic decency? To get praise for restricting yourself? To having your bosses treat you better at work because you look like you're trying, not because your work speaks for itself? It's just...too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:55 AM
100

Oh absolutely. Not just asexuality and demisexuality, but the concept of being nonbinary or agender and the like. Being a woman sucks no matter where you are in the world. Trying to identify out of womanhood or femaleness is rooted in a desire to not be crushed by patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:12 PM
1

Consumerism isn't a personality, Alondra.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 03:07 AM
9

I don't know anything about that. I don't have social media anymore and I'm not part of any parenting groups. I've seen "boymom" stuff randomly online and it's just gross. Real "look at me, I'm so unique and quirky for doing my patriarchal duty and having sons! Let me brag about how I'm Not Like Other Girls for playing outside with them and letting them watch Jurassic Park!" Meanwhile if you search for "girlmom" you only find things about how it's soooo great to bond with your daughter by forcin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 03:02 AM
79

Right? I wanna know who started this "boy mom" nonsense. Point me in her direction, I just wanna talk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:39 PM
17

I support abortion but would never get one. I got pregnant unexpectedly when I was 24. It was a perfect storm of circumstances that allowed that to happen. I have PCOS and endometriosis. Many doctors told me I was likely infertile and I believed them. I had stopped taking my birth control because it was making my PCOS/endo symptoms worse and I was in a lot of pain. I couldn't afford to get more because I lived paycheck to paycheck. I also had a shitty boyfriend who didn't want to wear a condom a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:33 PM
10

I ignore all compliments that aren't specific and change the subject.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 01:10 PM
84

He looks like he wants to kill her. Lol this got flagged for hate speech.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 01:02 PM
10

Being jackhammered into dry while you have an ovarian cyst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:59 AM
13

I read somewhere that Milennial/Gen Z men are less receptive to the idea of a female president than Boomer men. And it's not an insignificant margin. Other than online radicalization, I wonder what's causing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 11:29 PM
53

If he asks you why you're breaking up with him, tell him "You have to learn to live in a world where you're told things you don't want to hear." Good riddance to bad rubbish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:18 PM
13

On the one hand, your husband is partially right. AOC has recently said that the Dems hate the actual progressives in their party and she's often met with outright hostility. They are fighting to maintain the moderate status quo. And since the senate might stay red, McConnell understands the power he wields and refuses to do business with any Democrat that isn't Republican-lite. Basically, a Biden presidency will probably be hamstrung by McConnell's senate if the Georgia runoff doesn't go well. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 09:40 AM
20

I'm assuming he was the inspiration for Joseph Seed. Looks like a bargain brand David Koresh 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 10:00 AM
12

This breaks my heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:23 PM
10

I went as the Phantom of the Opera (complete with the deformity behind the half mask) basically every halloween since middle school. I went as a literary incel for Halloween lol. Can't imagine many things scarier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:44 AM
23

Jordan Peterson is what happens when you put the brain of Joe McCarthy into Kermit the Frog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 12:15 AM
27

Literally the first thing he wants to do is turn into a psychopath. When she regrets this and realizes how fucked up it was, he's gonna blame her for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 11:33 PM
5

Not as contentious as this one. She's not going to be given any opportunity to speak anywhere. She's just going to split the vote -- probably in Trump's favor. I'm leftist, not liberal, but I voted down ballot blue because the opposition is much, much worse and I'm in a swing state.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 01:17 AM
6

No one's saying it's not allowed, just that voting for someone who has no chance at winning in an extremely contentious election is a bad idea 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 07:04 PM
16

We met at work at a retail job. I quoted "Ozymandias" as a joke and he immediately picked up on it. He saw me always reading and we got to talking about books. We've been inseparable since. He's so different from any other man I've ever met. He's ridiculously intelligent, probably an actual genius. He has a personality! He's kind, gentle, humble, altruistic, introspective, fiercely protective, brave, empathetic, brilliant...I could go on and on lol. He's the only person I've ever met that I have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 12:13 PM
19

I know. I was basing it off the stereotype of "man driving car won't ask for directions and gets lost, makes a problem for everyone else because of his pride."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 09:27 AM
289

It's not my job to care about you. You don't have the right to complain about my bad habits. My emotions are the only valid ones. Tell me what you want and I'll decide if it's worth doing. My judgement is the only thing that matters. I don't have to elaborate or explain my shitty words/behaviors/thoughts if I don't feel like it. Don't make me do emotional labor. That's your job. Don't call me on my past bullshit because I don't remember it anymore. I'll turn it around on you to cover my own ass.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 08:19 PM
2

He's just basic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 11:40 AM
11

I spent the first 19 years of my life on a farm in a rural agrarian community. I know basic horticulture, animal husbandry, how to clean stables, how to throw hay, how far apart fence posts need to be. At the very least I'm no stranger to long hours of physically demanding work in adverse weather conditions. Extreme heat or cold doesn't bother me in the slightest. Men will have 983 guns but can't tell you what hardiness zone they live in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 12:14 PM
20

It's when the (dominant) man is ok with his (submissive) female partner having sex with other men, but he wants to humiliate her for it and/or decide who she sleeps with. It's like reverse cuckolding with a side of pimping out your own wife. So not only does this jackass pressure his wife into an arrangement she resisted, but he wants the opportunity to abuse her for it because MuH pEnIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 10:59 AM
56

This a million times!!!! Lurkers, take note. I will sing it to the heavens until I die. Abuse is not depression
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 04:01 PM
71

They're already doing it now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 03:12 PM
141

Yeah, male PPD is bullshit. They start acting up because their wives want them to be responsible adults and take care of the child they created together. That and they lose their minds when their steady supply of sex is reduced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 12:50 PM
5

Sign me TF up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 11:40 PM
5

Seconding this!!! In the Heart of the Sea was an incredible read!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 09:28 PM
37

I'm glad someone said it. I'm not a PhD student. I'm barely a community college student. I'm not the smartest person in the world, but I'm not dumb. I've noticed that I've met maybe two men in my entire life that I would call smart. By smart I mean that they express curiosity, they look to find credible answers to their questions, they accept that they don't know everything, and they're capable of theoretical discussions. It's mind boggling to me that so many men just have no interest in the wor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 09:49 PM
12

There's a Chris Watts subreddit, r/Chriswatts. They regularly post documents from the case file and talk about stuff. I'm in the middle of a YouTube series called "Unmasking Nichol Kessinger" that was referenced there. There's audio of all her police interviews, pictures of text messages, police documents, and the narrators are great at keeping the timeline established.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 09:57 PM
61

I'm going through the case files bit by bit out of curiosity right now. There seems to be a lot of evidence that Kessinger knew significantly more than she told police and may have been involved to some degree. It doesn't appear like she was investigated by the authorities beyond a handful of interviews. The cops shut down the investigation as soon as Chris Watts confessed. I don't believe for a second she manipulated Chris into killing his wife and kids. I haven't gotten to Chris' backstory yet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 09:08 PM
1

Hair = I have a buzz cut. I don't need to wash it more than once a week and at most I make sure my edges lay nicely. Morning skincare = Wash with cool water or micellar water depending on how oily my face feels, apply Differin gel and niacinamide 10%, let dry and apply a bit of moisturizer. Finish with SPF 30 sunscreen. Evening skincare = Wash with CeraVe (I think??) bar soap and use a little silicone scrubber for exfoliating. Apply 30% Vitamin C cream and let it soak in. Finish with moisturizer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:46 AM
11

Sometimes it doesn't even deserve a response. I would just ignore it and steer the conversation in a different direction. If they keep trying to talk about your appearance or looks or anything like that, block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 09:57 PM
23

"WomEN lIVe liFe bAsEd oN em0tIoN" says the sex that commits 99% of all violent crime because of their inability to control their emotions or impulses. 💅🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:54 PM
14

Can confirm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 11:54 PM
6

I would want to hang out with all y'all because all these ideas sound awesome lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 05:16 PM
68

She should also look up Chris Watts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 12:23 PM
6

Maybe it's that there's not a lot of abuse or violence in lesbian porn? It shows an act that's pleasurable to us to some degree? IDK. I struggle with a similar issue myself. I've had so much trauma happen over the course of my life that I feel broken now. I'm repulsed by the idea of relationships and sex most of the time bbecause I automatically associate it with being hurt. But the idea of being involved with a woman doesn't always seem so bad. I don't know if this is a sexuality thing, a traum…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:03 AM
22

I find it interesting that the commenters mention having lesbian fantasies or watching lesbian content despite not being gay or bi. I wonder why that is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:06 PM
40

I believe it was Gail Dines that said porn is cultural terrorism against women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 05:50 PM
6

Unlike those women who don't obey their man, I don't care about fancy dates. #girlboss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:12 PM
30

Post-nut derangement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:04 PM
4

even men using written erotica instead of porn as an aid are reaping benefits simply by not exposing themselves to explicit material on the regular. Not in my experience. Most erotica is horrendous. It's every bit as bad as what's portrayed in porn and sometimes worse. I've known men who have used it in lieu of watching porn in public or at work or other inconvenient. So they're still using it to fulfill an addiction that they can't get met in that exact moment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:18 PM
9

Respond with "Oh yeah? So could I."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 02:22 PM
19

Forty fucking four and poly. God what cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 07:04 PM
18

I was only ever interested in polyamory when I was younger because I wanted someone to share the burden of dealing with my husband. I wanted a day off lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 07:04 PM
2

Unless a LVM can get his hands on a real live hyena, I'm not sure how that fearbwill be exacerbated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:20 PM
2

"Wake Up Romeo" - Caro Emerald "Float Up" - Galactic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:59 PM
23

I am the one who knocks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:47 PM
3

He probably gets off to abusing his wife and also to telling reddit about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:34 PM
4

Annelid gang unite!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:17 PM
59

Why are men allowed to use the internet?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:06 PM
43

Not only that, but much of marriage counseling focuses on making the woman do what the man wants. Whether that's to fulfill his pornsick fantasies, to tiptoe around his fragile ego, to take on even more work than she was already doing, it doesn't matter. There's a high probability you will be blamed for the faults in the relationship and they'll try to coerce you into letting your man get away with whatever he wants while you continue to suffer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 04:58 PM
29

She might think it's great because she's getting a sense of validation from it. I did that when I was in pick-me hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 05:34 PM
43

Also: start over sharing information about the topic. Just completely steamroll the conversation so he can hardly get a word in edgewise. Enthuse about whatever it is, go on a tangent, whatever. Just absolutely bury him in information. Make it very apparent you know more than he does to a much higher degree than he does. Punctuate your rant with very specific, pointed questions, as if you're expecting a conversation. They will stop, I guarantee you. Source: got tired of being talked down to, so …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 05:58 PM
180

Well yeah, no shit she was groomed. Her parents sold her off to that creep. Yet all anyone online cared about was whether or not she had plastic surgery and lied about it. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 10:32 AM
35

Yeah, I refused to go to counseling after a few sessions of that counselor's nonsense and left the man soon after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:30 AM
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That was basically my experience with marriage counseling. Apparently all the mistreatment I was experiencing in my marriage was my fault. The counselor decided my husband was autistic (spoiler: no he fucking wasn't) on the first visit, so any awful things he did to me were absolved. I was being abused, but that's my problem for making my husband feel bad for abusing me. Apparently I was supposed to never say anything to hurt the hubby's feelings, let go of my fury at my mistreatment, and accept…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:19 AM
53

That analogy doesn't even make sense. How are they consistently this dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 11:43 AM
4

Here's where you can look for yourself. I'm permanently on mobile, so I can't give you exact numbers because the tables won't open on my phone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 01:06 AM
60

There are more male children in the 10 to 12 age demographic who have raped more people every year than women of all demographics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 09:05 PM
11

Block and delete is the best response. The second best is using the Uno Reverse card and pulling a "sorry you feel that way" before you block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 11:54 PM
29

A lot of men will say things like "You're too good for me, I don't deserve you" when they've messed up to try and turn attention back to them. They want the woman to prioritize comforting him instead of addressing the issue. It's also a tacit admission that they know they're trash, but hope you don't catch on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 06:15 PM
5

Literally never lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 09:57 PM
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When men try that shit with me I always respond with "That would be an improvement!" or "I would really appreciate that, thanks!" It makes them splutter with rage and also understand that you're not to be fucked with because manipulation won't work on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 03:42 PM
9

The uniqueness of each man? Finding a man that even has a personality is like finding a needle in a haystack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:11 AM
22

I've always wondered what was meant by "vibing." It's such a vague term -- probably intentionally so. TIL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 04:23 PM
10

For real. Put some lime and chilito on 'em -- nothing better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 10:05 PM
9

I'm not sure. I have severe ADHD and medication was the only thing that helped. I'm working to get into a position where I could have access to health insurance. Just one more semester to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 01:39 PM
18

I'm extremely disorganized and I'm numb to everything lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 01:27 PM
24

This honest to God looks like my ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 01:49 AM
61

I'm 27. All of my partners except for two have had serious issues getting it up or lasting more than 5 minutes. I'm of the mindset that PIED is basically the norm among millennial men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 05:47 PM
3

Got rid of almost all social media Lost 15 lbs Overall fitness is improving Only 8 classes left until I have my degree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:06 PM
17

The "ride or die" chick is a useful tool to a LVM. She exists to support him and help him improve his life, like to get him out from a roommate situation, support him through college, etc. But the second her usefulness runs out or he feels he doesn't need her anymore, she's out the door. Men don't respect the ride or die girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 01:01 PM
22

This makes me feel so much better about myself. You have no idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:27 AM
9

If he was really self-reflecting, he'd change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:18 AM
9

I just say pick-me. No need to make names out of every term. A pick-me is a woman who craves male validation to the detriment of herself and the other people in her life. Women who abuse or neglect their kids because they're desperate for a man's attention are absolutely pick-me's. She's literally saying some random-ass dude is more important than her own children. You can't get any more pick-me than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:13 AM
5

Josh and Daniel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 02:38 AM
58

She's not dumb. Taking care of two small children with no help is exhausting. And having to deal with some smarmy faux intellectual on top of that? I'd be checking out too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 02:43 AM
10

Sending you hugs ❤️💜💛 so glad you got out of there, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 07:28 PM
115

Sarcasm is the lowest form of humor. Most men use it exactly as you described.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:08 PM
32

Hands down it's Capricorn. Capricorn all the way. The more planets in Capricorn, the better. They understand loyalty, dedication, and value. They know about hard work. They will do so much right by you if they know you're worth the investment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 12:38 AM
170

Let's play a sad song on the jukebox for all the men who have the utter misfortune of being valued for their skills and accomplishments instead of their appearance. I can't imagine what it would be like to spend a day in their shoes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 07:44 PM
12

Men have the ability to speak why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 05:48 PM
41

It was a culmination of things. Just about every romantic encounter I've had with men has been awful and all my relationships have been abusive. Every single one of my partners has cheated on me and I didn't know why. I was (and still am, let's be real) extremely resentful about it because I didn't know what I was doing wrong. I was doing literally everything for these men. Taking care of the house, cooking, cleaning top to bottom, sex on demand any way they wanted it, makeup, feminine clothing,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 12:25 PM
4

I didn't know that was possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 07:09 PM
10

I was married to a man in the military. I didn't want to, but he forced me into it. What happened to me technically qualifies as human trafficking but I didn't know that or understand the gravity of the situation until relatively recently. I met a number of other women who had gotten with their husbands under less overtly abusive but still uncomfortable circumstances. So many military men get married just for the money and completely neglect their dependents. They just use their wives for free m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 07:02 PM
16

He wants extra BAH and BAS. Fuck, I hate military men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 06:42 PM
31

It's due to porn. Porn wasn't always so freely available. Men had to go and physically buy it. It used to be that only really fucked up men would consume porn like that. But then we got the internet and now suddenly every man can access it starting at a very young age. Some studies show that kids are getting hold of porn now at really young ages, like 10 or 11. Now imagine what 8 to 10 years of regular consumption of porn does to a developing psyche. Eventually you have to start looking for more…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 12:24 AM
5

Hot take here but I really hate how the default action for men is to treat women badly (not necessarily abusively, just...not well) and that women need to specify that we don't like it. Like we have to have a sit-down conversation with our boyfriends and fiances and husbands and tell them "You know, I really don't appreciate it when you treat me like a household appliance. I would really like to be treated with respect because I'm a human being with thoughts and feelings and aspirations, just li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 02:28 PM
10

bUT hOw Is hE SUpP0sED 2 knOOOOOow ShE dOEsn'T wANt 2 b TrEaTeD LiKE a MAiD iF sHE d0EsN'T tELL HiM????????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:58 AM
2

He saved mine too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:49 AM
8

Landwatch.com is better than Zillow imo. I have homestead goals of my own lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:58 PM
41

Shallon Lester said in one video that Kim and Kanye don't even live together. She stays in LA with the kids and he stays in Chicago and they see each other when convenient because Kim can't handle him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 02:52 PM
6

May he die alone and unfucked 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:58 PM
26

I'm just going to ramble a bit because it's late and I can't sleep and I have Thoughts on the issue. I'm a single mom in my late 20s. From what I've seen, a lot of mothers who regret their kids didn't get the chance to develop themselves as people or have much of a chance at living for themselves. Pregnancy and motherhood causes your life to stall out. If you're married, the expectation is that you'll quit your job to be a stay at home mom. Imagine being stuck at home for at least a year with a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 06:47 AM
57

Porn. They're so conditioned to masturbate to whatever is on a screen that they can't keep it up when it's time to have actual sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:11 PM
2

That didn't happen in either of the cases I saw. Case 1: Raised by a single Libertarian dad with some narcissistic traits. Son was deeply loved and well provided for, no real family dysfunction spotted other than the dad and son both believed they were superior to other people because...reasons, I guess? Because they were libertarian and inherently more Logical™️ than the peasantry around them. Case 2: Raised by two loving, hard-working parents, encouraged to be successful in school, given every…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:06 PM
6

All the narcissists I've met have come from stable, loving households. They were told from the time they were knee high that they were special and important and superior to their peers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:37 PM
26

I read somewhere that a large percentage of women are in prison because of poverty and domestic abuse, which often go hand in hand. I don't recall if it was for all crimes or specifically violent crimes, but it was just a startling number -- well over half.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:07 AM
7

I wanna be a marriage counselor so I can advise women to leave their shitty men. Gonna spread the word of Lundy Bancroft and FDS lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 12:10 PM
13

Wait wait wait wait what the FuCK. THATS THEIR WEDDING. NO WAY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:34 PM
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This is the funniest thing, holy shit. I went to school full time while pregnant and worked two jobs. I gave birth and sat for a final the next day. I passed that semester with a near perfect GPA, but please, tell me how having high standards is impossible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 06:44 PM
21

There was a sex trafficking ring busted at Hood back in 2015. The ringleader was the head of the sexual assault training program. He was pimping out victims who reported their assaults to him -- as they were supposed to!! There was a short period of time where the civilian sector almost stepped in to take over the sexual assault program because clearly the army couldn't handle it without corruption, but nothing came to pass. The ringleader got a slap on the wrist. If that didn't make anything ch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 06:24 PM
12

One broke my glasses, took my phone, and threatened me with homelessness if I didn't marry him. Wouldn't allow me to get glasses until the end of the marriage when he was done with me anyway, so I spent 4 years trapped inside. I have extremely low vision without glasses, so I can't safely go outside or do very much without assistance. Prevented me from getting jobs, refused to let me have any amount of money, and sabotaged my attempts to create a bank account. Wouldn't let me go to college or ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 04:09 PM
15

It's always Aquarians lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 02:16 AM
34

By giving her knowledge and resources. She may legitimately not know what's happening is abuse and rape. I don't know anything about the rest of the world, what American society has this idea that rape is only committed by strangers in dark alleyways. If there's no overt violence used, it's not rape. Same thing for abuse. American society acts like it's only abuse if he's hitting you (and even then you maaaaaaaybe deserved it a little bit). You can start by telling her she's not the asshole. Tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 01:50 AM
6

It's a defense mechanism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 01:17 AM
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She is not the problem. The problem is the society she lives in. For every post of a woman asking if she's an asshole for expressing boundaries or for being upset because she's raped or because she's being mistreated and gaslit, I ask you to swallow your incredulity and disgust and remember that she is vulnerable. This is not the time to look down on her. This is the time where she needs feminism most of all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 01:13 AM
4

It's wasn't even really feminism lol. A major tenant of the ideology (at least in the 2nd wave) is that the way men and women are socialized is the problem. They were acting like socialization is an excuse to take the easy way out or something, but somehow claiming women are biologically predisposed to being oppressed isn't some wack-ass take?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 06:35 PM
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As someone who was there once, it's socialization. They've likely been told since they were knee-high that their sole purpose in life is to find a man and have a family. They legitimately (and heartbreakingly) believe they are lesser because that's what every message they've ever received has reinforced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 02:42 AM
24

From what I see, Pinkpill is an actual radical feminist subreddit. GenderCritical makes everything about trans people and they also allow men to comment there. It's gotten so much less feminist and more conservative in the past 3 or 4 years since I found it. I didn't go on Blackpill much because it was just dumb, tbh. They seemed to have this idea that women are complicit in their oppression if not somehow biologically predisposed to being oppressed. I'm not surprised it got banned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 02:36 AM
3

Right. It also says that successful self-defense with a gun is incredibly rare for anyone in the US and most people who have them are more likely to get shot with their own weapon than defend themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 02:54 PM
5

I'm not trying to say don't defend yourself, just that guns are hardly used as self defense for anyone. But women are in a unique position where guns can be wrestled away because men on average are stronger. I don't know what the answer is to this problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 02:53 PM
3

Did you not read the first link?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:45 PM
19

Guns are more likely to be used against women than they are to defend them. A domestic abuser having a gun means a woman is 5x more likely to be killed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 08:24 AM
43

Pedos legit do that. The guy who ran the largest child porn network certainly tried.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:07 PM
35

T H I S. This this this this this. You put my early 20s into such perfect clarity. My mind is legit blown. You nailed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:54 AM
21

Most of my serious relationships have been abusive with a major component of the relationship being financial abuse. I've had to stay in relationships I knew I needed to leave because I had no money and nowhere to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:55 PM
14

More men need to hear this tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 12:09 PM
18

I don't know what world he's living in. Male rape is brought up constantly on the internet. You can hardly go anywhere without seeing "buh men are victims toooooooooo!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 01:42 AM
3

I'm not a golden retriever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 03:00 AM
9

When you take out your trash, do you go outside every hour to check up on it and see if it's still where you left it? No? Why is your ex any different?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 11:15 PM
6

Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 11:43 AM
8

Twitter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 09:06 AM
10

Make sure you have a form of transportation that is more than walking. A car is best because you can pack up belongings and leave immediately if you need to. I have stayed in abusive situations longer than I needed to simply because I couldn't leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:55 PM
22

"Dogs go on walks. Adults go on dates."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 05:07 PM
4

I know. It's some real big brain shit lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 05:37 PM
9

That's a woman. BlackPillFeminism is full of women. Essentially, they believe men are biologically oppressors and women are culpable in their own oppression somehow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 04:55 PM
10

They seem to think it's romantic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:37 PM
4

It's point #4 in this article.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 05:53 PM
20

Oh lol. I know next to nothing about Lana other than she's some rich kid who tried slumming it in a trailer park for a couple months for "the experience of being a struggling musician" or some shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 05:12 PM
96

I think she's trying to say she can't understand why it's ok for women to sing about doing pornified things for men, but she's been criticized for romanticizing prostitution and drug abuse and exploitative relationships. Both of those things are wrong, Lana. This isn't an either-or.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:16 PM
80

They get someone to make them food, pick up after them, do the washing, the house cleaning, someone to remember all the important stuff for them, someone to pay the bills, and they still get to have sex with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 10:47 PM
83

He's probably calling you pet names to: 1. Force a sense of familiarity early 2. He can't be bothered to even learn your name in case it doesn't work out between y'all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 12:37 PM
35

And even then!! When Henry VIII married Catherine Howard in 1540, he was 48 and she was 17. The people of England were disgusted by it. It wasn't normal in the slightest. I really do wonder where this "iTs NaTUraL 2 wANt tEeNS!!!!" bullshit came from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 05:46 PM
15

Get 'em, Gail!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 01:13 PM
2

I've been needing a new podcast and Robert Evans does great work. Thanks for the recommendation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 12:16 PM
55

For the reasons I listed above. You seem to underestimate the value of unpaid labor. It is an extremely desirable quality to most men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 05:14 PM
101

Women IRL are useful. They cook and clean and solve problems and can be masturbated into.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 05:08 PM
135

I think it's because they value the fantasy of the cam girl more than the reality of having a girlfriend. The cam girl provides a one-sided fantasy relationship. She has no wants, needs, or desires and to a man, that's perfect. She exists for him to get off. When she's not needed, she doesn't exist. Those same men don't want to spend $2 on their girlfriend because they have to put in effort and they don't see the "reward" being worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 04:47 PM
12

Will definitely try this. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 09:19 PM
7

Thank you 💐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:06 PM
13

I just wanna be alone for the foreseeable future. I'm not okay. There's a lot of things I have to work through and there are personal goals I need to accomplish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 03:53 PM
11

There have been similar posts on FDS about this in the past and the consensus seems to be that it's a risky venture no matter how committed the couple is. There's always the risk the guy will see it as something to exploit or it will negatively impact how he views his partner. I'm someone who always disclosed waaaaaay too early and it was always weaponized against me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 12:46 PM
40

It was a combination of things. Every relationship I've ever had has been a disaster. Most of them have been abusive. I would get out of one relationship and jump into another because of the societal idea that a woman's life is worthless unless she's attached to a man. Each new guy would be worse than the last. I grew up in an extremely abusive household, so I had no idea what a healthy relationship looked like. It was in October of last year that I saw the light. A friend/former fling outed him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 11:56 AM
23

Pick-me is misunderstanding a core tenant of feminism. Women shouldn't want to be equal to men (crime stats 👀) but rather separate from them/not held to male standards of equality. But what else is new!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 06:32 PM
5

I don't think my ex was in denial. He'd dropped plenty of hints to me early on that he wasn't straight. I was just young and naive and he played it off like he was joking. I doubt he would've been ostracized from his family for his sexuality, either. My ex was in the military and they give you money for getting married. DADT had been repealed by the time he enlisted. He just wanted a societally acceptable slave, I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 11:28 PM
23

My ex husband is either bi or gay. The warning signs were there but I was a sheltered teenager from an abusive home, so I didn't know what to make of them. He forced me into marrying him and used me as "the help" for four years while he cheated on me the entire time, then blamed me for it. He was severely pornsick and couldn't get off to straight sex unless a woman was being horrifically abused throughout. Never again. Never, never, never. Men's sexuality, particularly bi/gay sexuality is nothin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 11:03 PM
35

He looks like a cross between Eddie Murphy and Luigi.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 04:04 PM
7

We used to call them emo kids back in my day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:37 PM
41

I hate this shit lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 09:39 PM
3

Pretty sure we're in Star Trek DS9.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 12:50 PM
27

Disgusted? Yes. Surprised? Not really. Most women in the criminal justice system have extraordinary traumatic backgrounds. It's usually a big factor as to why they're there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 09:29 AM
18

Or the "Why aren't you trying to look hot for me? What's wrong with you?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 02:49 PM
10

"Aquarius." Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 01:07 PM
26

Those are the same guys who wonder what's wrong with you/why you're not "trying" when you actually don't wear makeup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 01:00 PM
5

Same. Former alcoholic. Never peed in public. It's just an excuse for sex offenders that gets thrown out when everybody knows you only end up on that registry for some heinous shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 12:55 PM
101

This is abuse. This is literally the cycle of abuse. He's only being nice because he doesn't want her to tell anyone or leave. More info here for anyone who needs it. Stay safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 12:39 PM
2

Honestly, I don't think any of them are there for peeing in public. I decided to do some random searching around on the national sex offender list. All the ones I found were on the list for sexual assault of a child, attempted sexual assault of a child, possession of child pornography, or in rare cases, severe sexual assault and battery of an adult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:42 PM
12

I think it counts as "indecent exposure." But indecent exposure includes everything from peeing in public while drunk to masturbating on a park bench to flashing people. But make no mistake: an overwhelming percentage of American sex offenders aren't on a lifelong registry because they got drunk and needed to pee. They're there for sex crimes against children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:00 PM
15

The mythos of "he only peed in public and now his life is ruined!!!1!1!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 02:06 PM
74

Some half-assed idea of "if you love someone, you won't ever try to control them" mixed with "their body, their choice." But what sounds good in theory turns out to be "Expressing boundaries makes you an abusive person" in practice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:18 AM
182

And yet, he fails to explain why that value is lost in a woman, but not in a man. Edit: they also fail to define what that value is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 11:51 PM
8

There was an illegal drug business?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 05:45 AM
36

I don't think he did. First, there are several islands in the Caribbean that are much closer to Florida than Costa Rica that also happen to be tax havens. He could've been funneling his money into offshore accounts and nobody would know. Also, when investigators went to Costa Rica to find him, they found evidence of illegal business practices. The article doesn't go in depth, so it's impossible to tell what was going on. Investigators also found evidence showing he'd sold two ocelots, but it was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:03 AM
84

I know nobody asked lol but I really don't think she killed him. I think her husband fucked off to the Caribbean and tried to frame Carole for his "death."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 01:15 AM
53

The original OP: Visits MGTOW, redpill, pussypassdenied, whereareallthegoodmen on the regular FDS: Here's how not to find a man like that Reddit: DAE literal hate group????????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 04:15 PM
7

I knew a dude who was exactly like this! He would get into relationships with women that were mentally ill, had serious trauma, or were major pick-me's because he "needed to feel needed" and outright admitted he couldn't function without a girlfriend. He "needed" somebody to make him want to get out of bed in the morning, to take a shower, or do anything to improve his life. Yet he would always whine about how these women would make his life hell. Like, this is what you signed up for!!!! This is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:14 PM
10

Porn addicts spend a lot of time manipulating their partners into believing their porn usage is normal and their partner is to blame for being upset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 06:32 PM
2

My block list is all telemarketers and robocalls lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 07:01 PM
10

"In my experience, men who care about that sort of thing are terrible in bed."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 03:25 AM
7

The one I know took the opportunity to buy groceries and household items as the panic buying was getting bad in our city. I was doing midterms and was unable to go myself. He got a lot of stuff (but a reasonable amount) and split it with me. He's also insistent on donating plasma because people will need medicine now more than ever. Not only that, but he works in logistics. He's offered to deliver ventilators from the manufacturers to hospitals for no pay. He's an incredible man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 03:16 AM
32

Typical. His narcissistic supply is gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 06:30 AM
40

Sounds like he wanted a specific woman's attention (obv not his gf) and didn't get it, which is why he acted out. His refrain of "nobody loves me, nobody cares about me" despite CLEARLY having evidence of the contrary indicates it's not "nobody." It's somebody he can't tell his girlfriend about. Idk, call me crazy but I've had far too many relationships where guys would pull this kind of shit. Come to find out they were cheating and taking out their guilt and/or frustrations with the other woman…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 10:30 AM
8

Part of it was not knowing it was unhealthy. I was raised in an abusive environment. I didn't know I had been sexually abused by my stepdad until I went to therapy in my early 20s. I thought the way that I was being treated was normal and there was something wrong with me, like I wasn't doing enough or was in some way defective, or maybe I was just overreacting. Other times I was too entrapped financially to go anywhere. Either I was prevented from having any income or I was so financially enmes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 06:39 PM
35

Say nothing to him. Pack what you can when you know he isn't going to be around for several hours and leave. If you're worried about the cats, find them a home with someone else. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I've been in your position many times before. I'm here if you need more advice. Stay safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 01:44 PM
4

Lyudmila Pavlichenko and Julia Child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 03:01 AM
3

Probably not until my teen years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 01:40 PM
24

I know, I would just love to see them try to reason it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:02 PM
33

They think we're abusive. Lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:06 PM
51

This got shared on FB once by one of my friends and all the comments were about how not all sex offenders are bad and how the mythical "hE oNLy pEeD iN pUbLIc!!1!" offenders will be further stigmatized. Not a word of concern for women's safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 10:52 AM
21

Military men aren't known for their emotional stability or maturity. It can be a really toxic culture and it can stick with them even after they're out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 09:25 PM
10

Seriously, tell your doctor at your next appointment that you don't feel safe at home. Tell them what you've just told reddit. There is help available. A woman is NEVER at a higher risk of homicide in her life than when she's pregnant. You know something is wrong. Listen to your gut feeling and get help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 01:54 PM
13

Look at every first letter. "Boning." What a catch!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 02:58 PM
19

It means they intend to use you to build themselves up financially and emotionally. Then they'll leave you for someone they actually want. They want you to think they're committed to having a serious relationship or building a life with you when in reality they want a slave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:15 AM
23

My first serious boyfriend would get mad. He would fluctuate between being mad at me for being broken and mad at himself for being small (he wasn't). He'd also get upset that I wasn't able to have sex for hours and hours like he wanted. My ex-husband was an unrepentant porn addict. He wasn't able to climax from sex, which I guess meant I didn't get to either? I can count on both hands the number of times he bothered doing anything for me in 5 years. When I finally started speaking up about how I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 01:44 PM
8

Yeah, fuck that shit. I've been in a vaguely similar situation to the OP, except I got ditched at the hospital. The fuck you mean you can't handle it, dude? You're not the one in danger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 09:00 PM
39

Can we talk about how trash that top comment is? "Just tell her how you feel, let her know you're scared with her." No shit he's scared. Anyone would be. The worst possible thing you can do is tell the person who is probably about to die that you're scared too and you don't know how to handle it either. Personally, if I'm in a situation where I am physically incapacitated, the absolute last thing I need to hear is that you can't pick yourself up and help me, that you're "checking out" because it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:58 PM
12

I usually get "you deserve better but it's also your fault I cheated on you."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 12:39 PM
119

I've read through the OkCupid studies and I gotta say that the Reddit bros who whine about not getting messages are making it unnecessarily hard for themselves. They're targeting the top 1% of women when there's like 2x as many men than women and they're pissed it doesn't work. Basically the men on OkCupid were only interested in 8/10 to 10/10 women between 18 and 21. No matter what they set their age preferences at, the men on OkCupid spent almost an obsessive amount of time searching for and m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 12:09 PM
59

If he mess up, you gotta hit him up. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 03:04 PM
4

They were part of the military healthcare system. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:44 PM
6

That was me for four years. First it was Bipolar I, then it was BPD, then it was OCD and Mood Disorder NOS. None of the countless psychiatrists, psychologists, or therapists asked about my home life or what my marriage was like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 02:50 PM
28

Nope! He's trash!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 07:23 AM
68

Had to learn that one the hard way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 09:32 PM
21

Lol, before FDS I didn't really go on dates. "Date" was synonymous with "sex" and I thought that was just how it was. I know better now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 05:08 PM
4

I like to cook and bake, read, listen to music and podcasts, study new languages, work on genealogy, build things, play video games, hike, and spend time outdoors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 07:39 PM
5

Late October. There was a fuckboy/friend in my life who was constantly lying to me. The final straw was when he got a girlfriend in September, didn't tell me, and wanted me to continue being his emotional support/therapist/ego boost/validation/intellectual conversationalist. I blew up at him and deleted him off all social media. I realized in that moment that the whole friendship revolved around him. I honestly couldn't remember the last time he asked how my day was. Sadly that kind of behavior …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 12:25 PM
32

Women don't get to pick their own partner. A man decides he wants you and you have to say yes. Is it any wonder that all of my serious relationships have been abusive? A man's validation is the end-all, be-all of your life. A woman's virginity is the only thing of worth she has. No man wants to marry a woman who isn't a virgin, because she's used up and dirty. That one fucked me up for years after I was raped. Women can go to college and have jobs, but they should never, EVER try to accomplish a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 07:00 PM
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