Do Men Care if You Come?

2020-12-15T02:17:50+00:00

I can't come with vaginal penetration alone. My last ex made me feel like it was my fault because every other woman he dated could come that way (yeah right). I also couldn't come with his scraggly ass finger flicking my vagina as hard as possible or him licking down there randomly.

I enjoyed penetrative sex with him quite a bit - even if we had to use my vibrator for me to get all the way after. He and I were compatible heights and he had an awesome D. He just couldn't make me orgasm without the vibrator and would tell me to "CALM DOWN" when he was flicking me or going down on me with out any lead up (exactly what you need to hear when you aren't feeling relaxed during sex). I tried to tell him that I really preferred making out, grinding, penetrative sex and then using toys but the orgasm just didn't count unless he did it was his manly tongue or fingers. He made it seem like cared that I came but in reality he only cared if it made him feel more manly.

Sorry if this is TMI.

myousername · 2020-12-15T02:18:29+00:00

If they do care, it's usually only because their ego was hurt. Most of these dudes would rather lash out at you or demand that you comfort and reassure them, rather than making an effort to become an actual good lover.

CountingDownTheDays5 · 2020-12-15T02:20:42+00:00

HVM care but other than that no

heythere360 · 2020-12-15T02:35:18+00:00

I got so excited when I read a man could make you come everyday for 6 years.

But then it registered that he was an ex.

Of the small population of men who are consistently good in bed, they all seem to be LVM.

christmasforoutlaws · 2020-12-15T02:02:07+00:00

I can count on one hand the number of men I've met that cared if their partner enjoyed sex. As for the rest of them, they didn't care if their female partner had a good time. A lot of them were repulsed by female pleasure.

misszazie · 2020-12-15T02:14:33+00:00

When they do, it's about their ego

shutup201 · 2020-12-15T03:00:50+00:00

It depends on the man. Plenty don't, though.

level_up_always · 2020-12-15T08:09:50+00:00

they care in the sense that it strokes their ego but no they don't actually care. for instance some women squirt but don't like it and prefer to orgasm other ways but they don't care because squirting is more 'proof' to them. i think they probably are miffed and tell themselves something to feel better about why they couldn't make you cum.

cat_lio · 2020-12-15T09:01:33+00:00

LVM don't, or they do for the wrong reasons. They just see it as a challenge and an ego boost.

Example: I've never been able to come with an ex, so I insisted on trying with a vibrator, and I came, but he was upset because I didn't came with his dick.

PinkBlair99 · 2020-12-15T06:46:33+00:00

I’ve had three who legit cared. They still weren’t HVM though. Ha.

pinkcloudzzz · 2020-12-15T07:24:51+00:00

The good ones care. But tbh if you’re moaning every so often that’s good enough to most men. They just assume that means you had a great time even if you didn’t orgasm.

2020-12-15T09:38:54+00:00

I’ve been with one man that cared if I came but not all the time.

shoesfromparis135 · 2020-12-16T02:04:54+00:00

In my experience, no. Sex has always been a massive waste of time. Ditch the man and buy a vibrator. There’s no point in trying otherwise.

SamuelaTheThrifty · 2020-12-15T02:28:55+00:00

Yes I’ve been with men who cared.

Misswinter69 · 2020-12-15T11:59:46+00:00

If you have a hvm he cares. My current bf is all about my pleasure each and every time. I get off several times before we even touch him no matter how long that takes. Has been the same since the start he's the only partner I've been with who has been like that!

hotsouple · 2020-12-16T06:00:39+00:00

It doesn't seem to bother them one bit in my experience unless it hurts their ego

devoushka · 2020-12-18T16:01:18+00:00

They care, but not all of them have any idea how to make you come, hence all the orgasm faking.

Partypuppers · 2020-12-16T12:04:50+00:00

Previous bf of mine cared and would try and make me cum more than once, or would sometimes just go down on me without expecting anything in return. If I didn't cum for whatever reason I would be honest about it and he wouldn't take it personally.

I also had a fwb who kinda cared but was offended massively when I told him I hadn't cum that session. I'm sorry hunny, I'm not going to sugarcoat it. If I cum, you'll know. If I don't cum, you'll know.

Women need to start being more honest about this.

Title	Do Men Care if You Come?
Author	painmakesyoustronger
Upvotes	50
Comments	27
Date	December 15, 2020 1:54 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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