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RANTdevoushka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:06 PM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESdevoushka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 08:51 PM
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NAH, SISdevoushka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:03 AM
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PICKME CULTUREdevoushka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:58 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEdevoushka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:13 PM
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DISCUSSIONdevoushka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 03:19 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEdevoushka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 01:49 PM
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devoushka/r/askFDS26/09/20 03:59 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEdevoushka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 04:34 PM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMEdevoushka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 07:19 PM
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SEX STRATEGYdevoushka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 10:52 PM
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RANTdevoushka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:49 PM
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RANTdevoushka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:50 PM
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RANTdevoushka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 05:40 PM
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Is this a sign for me? Lol I went on a first date last week where the guy was a perfect gentleman. Planned a fun date with multiple activities, paid for everything including my uber, texted me nonstop for 3 days afterwards, then abruptly switched to texting once a day while still claiming he wants to plan a 2nd date. I'm not dumb so already decided to let him go, but this was a good reminder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 08:26 PM
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Someone needs to have some sense smacked into them. Edit: smacked as hard as possible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 04:03 AM
5

I would only be a SAHM if I married a rich man with no pre-nup. Financial security above all else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 08:29 PM
1

I dumped a guy for not walking me to my Uber or checking if I got home safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 11:24 PM
9

Show me a man worth forming a bond with, and I will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 11:21 PM
1

How'd you meet him??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 07:30 PM
1

Yes. I went off bc a little over a year ago shortly after finding FDS. All of a sudden my depression went away (even though we were in the midst of the pandemic). I wouldn't sacrifice even an ounce of my mental and physical well-being to make a man's orgasm feel better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 08:21 PM
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As if there's something wrong with us for not liking them the way they are. Maybe the way you are isn't that amazing bud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 03:29 PM
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She came off as annoying and bitter if I'm being honest. She was really harsh in rejecting guys and calling them losers for seemingly no reason? There was also a weird conversation about Bolivian salt flats that gave me pause (it's been a while since I've watched though). I don't shame anyone for having standards, I have super high standards myself and own it, but her personality kinda sucked in my opinion. Like, I wouldn't be her friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 03:04 PM
2

That guy came off as gay. He just played it off as "no girl is hot enough for my model looks." I'm sure his parents would rather believe that as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 03:00 PM
21

I've been getting ogled by married men forever, now that I'm in my mid-20s some of them actually come onto me. I guess now I'm age appropriate to be their mistress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 02:56 PM
1

A guy I've been dating who has planned super fun dates recently told me he's a planner, loves planning dates and feels weird when a girl tries to plan the date because he feels like it's his responsibility. It might have been the hottest thing a guy has ever said to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 02:53 PM
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I ended one friendship with a friend that didn't respect my covid boundaries. Since then a lot of old friends reappeared and I've never had a busier social life. No regrets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 02:38 PM
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If anything, married men stare even more than single men. They're desperate to bang anyone other than their wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 02:26 PM
2

It makes such a difference when you're with a guy who's actually enthusiastic and vocal about sex. Never going back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 01:13 AM
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In the past I've lied but now I would just tell the truth tbh. I feel no shame about my sexual history, it's pretty normal for an attractive woman my age who has had a few bfs and spent a few years single. I also wasn't raised in a culture that attaches shame to sex so I legitimately don't get why it might be an issue. Any attractive secure guy would not give a shit and would have had plenty of his own experience. Having said that it's also totally fair to say "its weird to discuss past sex part…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 06:35 PM
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😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 06:21 PM
3

I think it's fine to go "below" your social class as long as your SO isn't resentful of you. I've met a loooooooooot of people (male and female) who think I'm somehow a worse or less mature person because I never struggled financially growing up and have parents who actually give me more than just the bare minimum of food and shelter until the age of 18. Going above your class is awesome because it affords you opportunities and wealth you probably wouldn't have otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 06:18 PM
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I'm a Libra and yeah never heard of anyone hating Libras! I have a lot of Gemini in my chart too though lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:22 AM
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Muscles and big D, not balding, good jawline.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:49 AM
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I never felt like I owed men anything in exchange for dinner/drinks. I always felt perfectly comfortable turning them down in the future if I wasn't feeling it anymore. If anything they're paying for the privilege of spending time with me 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:28 PM
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Even if your g spot is only 3 inches in, a tiny skinny dick is not going to properly stimulate it. Plus, the feeling of feeling full helps me achieve orgasm. And let's not forget stamina. A guy who can fuck long and hard is just 🤤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:13 PM
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I broke it off with a guy before we even met because he stopped replying to me when we were in the middle of planning a date. He kept texting me on and off for months afterwards with me responding maybe once every 4 times just for my own amusement. The last time he contacted me, he asked if I'm free for "coffee or tea." Like really, I've been curving you for months and that's the most enticing offer you can make? I finally put him out of his misery and sent a "we're not a match" text
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 02:01 PM
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Hell yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 01:48 PM
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I get some moderate pressure, but nothing crazy. I'm a little worried for when I hit 30, if I'm single I'm sure it'll be viewed as a catastrophe lol My cousin recently told me that my grandpa who passed this year had apparently been super concerned about me still being single which makes me sad for him. He was 91 and from a completely different culture so I'm definitely not offended, and he never said anything to me about it, bless his heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 11:06 PM
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Yeah it's a cope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 11:03 PM
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They're boring and don't understand the concept of going out for fun. I've dated guys who didn't understand why we should bother going out when we can just get takeout and watch TV. Meanwhile I was bored out of my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 03:16 PM
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She was 24 when she married him. I was an insecure mess at 24 dating an emotionally abusive boyfriend. Thank God he dumped me and I never saw him again, but if he had decided to marry me, I might've said yes and ended up in her exact situation. In fact I'm sure I would have because he was obsessed with thinness and encouraged my eating disorder he definitely wouldn't have liked it if I didn't immediately snap back after pregnancy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 10:15 AM
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As I enter my mid-20s I am finding guys in the 23-25 more attractive than guys in the 30-34 range. Even if they're not wealthy (yet) they have already started their careers so you can easily tell if they have earning potential. They have great hair and skin, fit bodies, and show more respect to an older girl because they know we have higher standards (especially in the bedroom)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 10:10 AM
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I love kids and would want to be a mom one day but I'm not willing to do that unless I feel like my health and financial/emotional well-being will be provided for. Most men can't provide that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 10:07 AM
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I recently ended things with a guy after a few dates when he didn't even ask if I got home safe after taking an uber from his extremely sketchy part of town late at night. I told him that was (one of) the reasons we weren't going to work out, and that I dont have the time to teach someone to do basic things like that anymore. It's possible I could have trained him to do that but I prefer to block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:55 PM
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At 26 I also have been preferring younger guys lately. They're more respectful and supportive of you in career etc. And they try really hard to please in bed because they know you've had sexual experiences before them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:41 PM
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Sounds like something out of r/BadWomensPsychology
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:28 PM
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Hack TVs? So these TVs have webcams attached?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:19 AM
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Men get so entitled about not wanting to use condoms. If you let them do it without a condom once they will never stop pestering you for it. I've had exes tell me they didn't want to have sex at all when I asked them to put on a condom because I needed backup birth control for whatever reason. After the 2nd time that happened, I vowed that I will always use condoms with any man regardless of relationship status, lest he forget his place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:08 AM
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What is pair bonding?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:04 AM
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200+ experiences or 200+ partners? Important distinction lol..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:03 AM
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10 women in a month is impressive. Id also love to know more about the logistics (and see who they're banging).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:02 AM
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But he's not thinking about how you're his one true love. I don't think of men that way either, not even if I really like them. Not since I was a high schooler crushing on cute boys in science class did I think that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:51 AM
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I had a BV issue when I was on BC and having sex with my exes without condoms...now I use condoms 100% of the time and that issue magically went away. It's like my body was rejecting the male presence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:47 AM
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We know that its easier to get into a relationship if you have no standards. Standards exist for a reason. Being single is better than most relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:35 AM
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I have to assume any man who says this barely has 2 pennies to rub together
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 01:50 PM
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So why is she engaged to him...?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 01:09 PM
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60 lb kettlebell swings!? That's super impressive. I think I'm pretty fit (though I mostly do pilates and dance) and I think the heaviest kettlebell swing set I can do is a 15 or maybe 20 lb. I would definitely get into weightlifting more if it wasn't 99% men in that section of the gym though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 12:39 PM
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The bonus would be putting hot sauce in the dolls "vagina"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 12:28 PM
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That doll would end up dismembered lmao he can play hide and seek with its body parts 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 12:27 PM
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Probably because male porn stars tend to be ugly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 12:22 PM
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Right back at you, sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:19 PM
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These people must be of a lower socio-economic class than what I'm used to. I struggle to think of any engaged or married couple I know where the woman doesn't have a diamond ring that cost at least a few thousand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 01:29 PM
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My biggest hurdle in dating is finding guys that are on my level who are not socially awkward. I get asked out a ton by attractive guys - but if they don't make enough money to match my lifestyle, especially in our extremely expensive area, then I am by definition downgrading by dating them. Men, do better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:19 PM
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Maybe if the government actually sees this as a problem they'll start providing benefits to incentivize births. But realistically, they'll just let in more immigrants to make up the difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:15 PM
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Chrissy Teigan is dumb, talentless, and has a horrible take on basically everything. Her biggest accomplishment was convincing Jon Legend to marry her (after he said he wanted to break up lmao) and now the media is shoving both of them down our throats constantly. I'm over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:01 PM
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I had this happen recently with a woman and her short balding boyfriend after talking to him for 10 minutes at a party. I was very close to obliterating both of them, but didn't because I didn't want to risk offending other people there who had done nothing wrong. It's jealousy and protection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:46 PM
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I just talked about this with my therapist. I have a couple of "friends" who have been taking weeks to reply to my texts lately. If it happens once okay, but if it happens consistently I start to lose interest in the friendship. My therapist said that I need to respect my own time and not waste it on people who might not want to be spending time with me. If anything, you are protecting yourself from people who don't actually care about you at all. Rejection is your protection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:38 PM
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As someone who is a picky dater I think it's okay for men to be picky daters too. Just because someone is a "good" or high value woman doesn't mean that a guy necessarily wants to marry her, same as I'm not attracted to every seemingly high value man because I also have personal tastes and idiosyncrasies. So I don't see a guy being single as a red flag in and of itself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:07 PM
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Wow they are raking in the dough, especially considering it's an extremely high margin business.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:03 PM
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It's often best to just pretend to not care about an issue, it takes all the wind out of their sails.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:45 PM
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Oh, I think I blocked the last few minutes out of my memory 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 12:55 PM
5

I saw My Fair Lady and this is basically what happens at the end?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 12:48 PM
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It's happened to me several times that ugly men are mean to me, sometimes being egged on by their pick me girlfriends. Being a confident woman with standards really offends insecure and undisciplined people for some reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 01:17 PM
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What a fucking piece of shit. How long did you know him before he asked you to be his gf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:00 PM
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I always get fresh highlights and a haircut after a breakup, the best excuse to trest myself to a salon visit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 12:37 PM
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The guys that I date don't have a problem with the 6/6/6 rule because they not only satisfy it, but exceed it. Why would anyone care what some small dicked broke scrote thinks lmao of course they want women to be guilt tripped into giving them sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 11:19 AM
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She should just straight up refuse to use her own money for household expenses. What's he gonna do, divorce her? That would actually be a benefit because she would probably get a good chunk of his money in the divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:58 PM
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This makes me really thankful for my dad, he always got me anything I even barely mentioned that I wanted. Even at 26 if I offhandedly say "oh that purse is really cute but overpriced" he'd say treat yourself you deserve it! And transfer money into my account even tho I'm an adult making well over 6 figures lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:57 PM
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I wouldn't care if it doesn't interfere with our time together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 04:31 AM
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Excessive cardio made me freakishly skinny with no muscle tone and gave me hip issues and plantar fasciitis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 04:24 AM
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You have to believe that you are enough! There are so many things you can do with your spare time. Read, watch a movie, volunteer, do school work or get ahead at work, work out, practice cooking something new, hit up a friend and go out to eat, or even start dating someone new if you're ready! If friends aren't nearby, have a phone call or video chat. Plan a future outing or trip to give yourself something to look forward to. It's hard, but anything that is worth doing is hard. You'll be happy t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:51 PM
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Tbh I've had a lot of first dates and not a lot of second dates in the past year or so because I've gotten pretty picky and have no tolerance for bs. I have had 4 long term relationships in the past though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:31 PM
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Sounds like a sugar daddy thing more than a real relationship tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:04 PM
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Women are far better at interpersonal relations and communication than men. These are essential tools for success in the corporate world. Women also succeed more in academic environments. There are very few highly paid jobs left that are not in tech, banking, law, medicine etc. I think once these old Boomer execs are gone, we'll be seeing a lot more women "breaking the glass ceiling." Hopefully subconscious biases against female employees will also lessen as more and more women assume positions …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:13 PM
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Imagine prostituting yourself for a few bucks and then sharing that with a man🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 01:46 PM
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Do these journalists have an IQ of 50?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:21 AM
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No, if I have a partner I need them to be physically there for me most of the time. If he was really that HV he would switch careers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:02 AM
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Block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 11:53 PM
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Wtf? Which app or site is this? I've done OLD a lot and have never been asked this. I've been propositioned for hookups right away and other disrespectful things but never a question like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 12:39 PM
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Exactly what my thoughts are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:33 PM
9

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 02:55 PM
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I guess because of nonbinary people? Edit: and LGBT people who doesn't want to out themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:18 AM
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You said it better than I could've, thanks. That's exactly my gripe with it. All for people using gender neutral language to describe their spouse. At the end of the day it's just a word but words have meaning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:14 AM
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For what it's worth, I fully own that I'm being a bit of a hater with this post. Don't take me too seriously. I'm specifically thinking of some people I know in not great relationships who haven't been together long who use the partner title even though they're not sure they want to stay together long term. I feel like it devalues the entire concept of actually being someone's life partner and reminds of guys who claim their girlfriends should get over their desire to be officially married becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:42 AM
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I petition that we start using a different gender neutral term. Partner should really mean life partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:20 AM
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HA you crack me up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:17 AM
9

"My person" 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:15 AM
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When I was younger I thought I had to wait for a man to buy me fancy things and take me on nice vacations. I thought I needed a date to get my hair and nails done. Now I do all that for myself because I'm worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:09 AM
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I live alone but in a huge building with 24/7 doormen and this still scared the shit out of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:26 AM
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Frank Gallagher?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:59 AM
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Ok but I actually do have all those physical traits and it doesn't make dating easier at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:29 AM
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A lot of people probably wouldnt bother with marriage if they couldn't have kids. For these seniors that's obviously off the table so why bother getting married? The guy would have to be super wealthy and generous to make it worthwhile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 10:48 PM
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Sadly I feel like it would be apparent you have kids/husband from your social media, unless you have that locked down and only you in your profile pics and no one you know at the new company is already connected with you or knows people who know your business (I'm in a small industry and it would take 2.5 seconds to find out all my personal info).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 04:35 PM
3

Women are too good and willing to look past ugliness. We should be as ruthless towards them as they are towards us and see male attractiveness dramatically rise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:34 PM
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I was also envisioning a hot guy, this ain't it sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:28 PM
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Fellow NYC woman. You nailed it. I read an article on here recently that said there are 50% more single college educated women in NYC then there are men. That pretty much matches my perception. I fully expect to stay single as long as I stay there because I only want the best of the best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:51 PM
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Having no body fat and toned muscles has nothing to do with being 18. At 18 I hadn't yet started to work out and had no muscle tone at all. I had more flab on my belly at 18 than I do at 26. Just say you're a pedophile and go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:44 PM
5

Wow, she should have let him off himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:25 PM
3

She should lock him in the bathroom with her when she takes a period shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 12:54 PM
1

If anything physical attraction decreases for me when I get used to banging the same person over and over..cant imagine physical attraction growing (unless they got way fitter/hotter). Someone's personality grows on you but not their looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 03:48 PM
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This is so false, even my guy friends who are casually dating brag about the accomplishments of the girls they're seeing. They're super impressed by fancy careers and education. This sounds like a cope from someone who doesn't have any achievements themselves. In any case, my career is for me and me only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 01:35 AM
5

My parents' friends tried to set me up with a guy that is very much not my type. I don't want to be mean but I know there isn't a snowball's chance in hell I'd ever want to sleep with him, even if he was the most amazing person ever. I ended up in a screaming match with my parents who thought I needed to give this guy a shot because he has a well paying job. I'm still in my 20s, what's with the desperation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:52 AM
2

This is a very common thing with Jews. Like that isn't the only criteria!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:49 AM
5

Out of curiosity I asked 2 of my male friends if they care at all how many partners a girl has had. They categorically said no, even if it was many more than they had. I've never heard anyone else say that they care either, only heard pickmes telling other women that men care. Pretty sure it's only incels and pickmes on the internet that believe this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 02:47 PM
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I've never seen a couple where the woman was more successful where the man wasn't resentful or trying to make her life harder in some way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:10 PM
3

Truth. The amount of men I've met that make great money but want to take you on a cheap date or ask you to order the Uber......why bother dating them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:08 PM
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As a single in Manhattan, that 3:2 ratio is depressingly true. I don't even understand how anyone survives in NYC without a college degree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:55 PM
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The only way a relationship with this type of guy can work is if you are just as cheap. If you actually want to go out and experience life you will have to pay for him or endure constant complaining. Save yourself time and money and just focus on yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:43 PM
1

Going parasailing with my best friend!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 07:19 AM
7

My ex manipulated me into taking him back just so he could dump me. And when I dumped him I told him I had problems with the way he was treating me clearly communicated everything, when he dumped me it was completely out of the blue. I was literally at his mom's bday dinner a week prior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 12:42 AM
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Being willing to date a waitress doesn't mean a guy can't be HVM. Value isnt determined by salary, for men or women. However, you should really consider getting a career for your own benefit. If you having money and independence turns him off, then he's LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:30 PM
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First dates are only for girls who do anal and take cumshots to the face after a pre-date "walk"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:26 PM
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I was really glad he let that slip on date 1, easiest block and delete of my life 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:20 PM
19

Stay strong, you'll stop feeling so lonely after a few months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:39 PM
45

I went on a date with a guy who said he was paying only because it was a first date. I was floored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:37 PM
5

👸 queen! I'm so sorry that happened to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:09 PM
7

I'm eastern European too! Raised in the US though. Wtf. What a predatory creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:55 AM
20

Exactly! Emotional vulnerability, physical vulnerability...all of it has led to heartbreak and humiliation. What's that old saying about insanity again?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 05:22 AM
3

Well yeah, probably. I'm just saying there's an established relationship before this takes place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 05:14 AM
5

Amen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 04:47 AM
5

Wow that's very sweet of you to say, thank you! I have made strides in the past year or so and I no longer have feelings of being unworthy of love or anything like that. I just have a hard time trusting and letting myself have feelings for someone. I plan on getting into therapy next month and unpacking some of that to hopefully get myself into a better place so that if someone genuine and good comes along, I'll be ready to receive them into my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 02:52 AM
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Truly despicable. It wouldn't even enter my mind to treat someone that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 02:07 AM
4

I actually dated him for 6 months before sex, but since some of that was long distance, it probably impeded my ability to vet as well I normally could've.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 02:06 AM
41

I wonder how they act when confronted with a woman who makes more than them. Do their brains explode?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:59 AM
36

He was blocked and deleted back in October, haven't seen him since August.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:47 AM
13

With this particular guy there wasnt anything about him I didn't like (until this happened). He was handsome, polite, a good conversationalist, intelligent, social, outgoing, generous with his time and his money and generous in bed, from a similar background to me and pursued me as a romantic partner. So that's why I chose to spend my time with him, and why I ended up in bed with him in the first place. Sometimes everything is peachy until he lets the mask slip or he decides he doesn't want to d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:45 AM
9

His body isn't disgusting, in fact it was actually quite nice, I just used that expression because I was so angry. But I'm very sorry that happened to you, of course we kick them to the curb right after, but it doesnt lessen the pain of it happening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:44 AM
63

This is so bizarre to me, isnt it hot to watch a woman react to what you're doing to her? I know when I go down on a man or do any sexual act with him his reactions are a huge turn on. Why bother with living breathing women at that point. Just get a fleshlight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:14 AM
33

Mocking someone is really one of the cruelest things you can do, it's so insidious and makes you feel so self conscious. I really think this incident is a major cause of my dating anxiety now, which is funny because I was only mildly annoyed when it happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:11 AM
67

I used to think I thought pubic hair was gross but I'm actually realizing I was scared of men finding it gross. I have no problem with it. I shave just so that it's not visible in a bathing suit (not quite there yet) but otherwise I go au natural now. No plans to get naked with a dude in the near future but when I do, I will come as I am. No shaving and no special prep beyond a shower.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:08 AM
58

Yup, he was all over me and blowing up my phone for months, after we have sex a few times and I'm actually feeling good and comfortable with him, that's when he starts making those comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:04 AM
40

Thanks, I appreciate that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:02 AM
67

👏🏻 preach sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:02 AM
65

LOL what an amazing retort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:01 AM
21

Yes, the main culprit of this initiated our first kiss and many makeout sessions after that, enthusiastically went down on me etc. I think he started mocking me after changing his mind and deciding he isnt that into me after all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:58 PM
22

Yeah I had been dating him for about 6 months at that point but most of it was long distance. I'm not getting involved in any long distance relationships for sure. Tbh dont want to date even locally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:10 PM
37

I get what you mean. Yes, that downgraded him to bad in bed. What's the use if he can make me cum but makes me feel self conscious?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:43 PM
33

I just said that because I'm pissed, up until that point I was attracted to him and he has an objectively nice dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:41 PM
51

The thing is, the main culprit of this actually was quite good in bed, good at foreplay, maintaining an erection, making sure I finish before him etc. Which is why I let my guard down and got comfortable and was actually really enjoying myself - and then that happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:40 PM
61

Wtf?? Guys that you're actually in bed with/have been in bed with told you that? I can't even. They find new ways todisappoint every day I swear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:33 PM
172

I fully agree. I'm so incensed by this even though it happened months or even years ago. It took a while for it to sink in how disrespectful that actually is but it kinda just hit me and I'm so pissed that happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:19 PM
1

When I'm done entertaining a scrote I block 90% of the time. Sometimes it is amusing to see them trying to save face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:43 AM
16

Yeah, probably trying to exert control over her or guilt trip her into losing weight or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:49 PM
-1

When a man has hips/ass that protrude in any way it's a turnoff. A man's body should be shaped like a yield sign or at least straight up and down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:45 PM
39

I have never heard of a man giving more than a passing glance to calorie counts in food. Sounds like an eating disorder tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:43 PM
10

That basically describes me, I feel best when I cut back on carbs and dairy, but will still eat whatever when I travel/special occasions. I can't be with someone who wants to eat like they're on vacation 24/7 but also can't be with someone who wouldn't eat an egg yolk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:27 PM
2

Career: anything with high earning potential and good work life balance. I don't want an investment banker who works 80 hour weeks but he has to make good money, like $150k+ Education: doesn't matter, but the career requirement necessitates that they have a bachelor's at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 07:51 PM
2

Even just watching a TV show like The Bachelor or Keeping Up with the Kardashians from the mid-aughts to now you can see how much faker and more extreme the beauty standards have become. Bachelor contestants now almost all have hair extensions, fake teeth, fillers, plastic surgery. Even the Kardashians when they started had way less exaggerated body proportions and imperfect skin and hair. These are all women who were considered some of the most beautiful at the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:52 AM
5

Truth. I'm someone who performs beauty (though to a far lesser extent now than when I was in my early 20s) and half of it at least is driven by insecurity and a sense of obligation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:45 AM
5

Yeah of course. That adds up to a solid chunk of change for him. Good for you for dumping without hesitation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 01:57 AM
2

Out of curiosity how much was he asking you to pay? Any amount is crazy but I have a morbid curiosity lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 01:49 AM
1

If I had a spare room for a friend and was letting them stay more than a couple of weeks I'd think it was rude if they didn't offer to help out in anyway, but would never ask them for cash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 01:47 AM
6

What's so crazy is he could have given her a place to stay at no additional cost to him, but his greed got in the way of what should've been a win-win situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 01:42 AM
4

He was prob just saying that as a cope to make it "mutual" and secretly crying inside tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 11:58 PM
3

You wasted 4 hours driving with a potentially dangerous stranger just to get a meal? I hope you wouldn't do that now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:16 AM
5

Omg I used to double book terrible dates. Now you can't convince me to go on one. I'm sorry that happened to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:08 AM
3

I've never heard of jerking off to music...wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:51 AM
70

Are you me? I had the same exact situation. One drink on a first date followed by him aggressively trying to get back to my apartment to have sex. I had to clandestinely call an uber while he yelled at me, and literally sprinted to it when it arrived (thankfully only took 2 minutes). I didn't even meet him online, we met in person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:38 AM
61

The only winning move is not to play.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:23 AM
2

On the day I finally dumped my ex, he yelled at me for forgetting to bring cash with me when we went to our local pizza joint, which is cash only. He screamed "you think I'll just pay for your pizza!?" When I dumped him he was floored. Later I ran into him and his friend. The friend called me a c*nt for dumping someone who "treated me like a princess." It's amazing that did not traumatize me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 08:31 PM
1

I wouldn't have kids unless I can afford a nanny for while I'm at work and a housekeeper a couple of times a week. My partner needs to be on board with those expenses being non negotiable. I also wouldn't have kids before I've achieved a higher level position in my career so that I can chill out and have more of a work life balance after having kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 08:19 PM
6

I'll do it only after a guy makes me cum from oral.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 08:16 PM
37

Ouch lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 07:44 PM
2

This happened at my first job out of college. The male founder/CEO resigned and made the female COO the new CEO. This was when the company was far past the point of no return and about a year from going out of business. Jenna Lyons of J. Crew also comes to mind as does Marissa Mayer of Yahoo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:58 PM
1

All jewelry is worthless, save for the value that we ascribe to it. It's all symbolic. The more expensive the symbol is, the more meaningful it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:52 PM
14

Doing chores or unreciprocated favors for a man is mothering. My former pickme self once took my ex's necklace to the jeweler to get the chain shortened - he easily couldve done it himself. That's mothering. Being nurturing is caring about how they feel, their goals, dreams, fears etc. Listening to them. Supporting them emotionally. But only if they are doing the same for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:07 AM
7

I basically did that this year minus a few short meaningless things that fizzled quickly and I honestly don't want to start dating again. Lol. Quarantine is a good excuse to continue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:01 AM
8

This is how ~50% of guys get eliminated during the vetting process. A guy was supposed to take me out this past weekend and ghosted me. Now he's sending me selfies from his vacation and asking if we can talk again. Nopeeeeee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 05:59 PM
7

My exes made me pay for events we attended together too (unless it was a bday gift). I too thought it was normal. I feel like they were just with me for regular access to sex without the cost of dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:31 PM
60

A guy wanted to come over to my apartment for a date tomorrow. When I said "nope try again" he ghosted rather than come up with an appropriate date option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:39 PM
14

I didn't say I want to split, I asked him if he wants to. I did also consider that he may be trying to be politically correct but when he said "I pay on a 1st date but never on a 4th date" - that was the red flag for me. The implication that he never pays on a 4th date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:17 AM
6

How else can one vet for stinginess? Just keep going on dates until he asks you to split eventually?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:13 AM
88

Right?? He said that because we video chatted 3 times prior to that so he considered this to be date 4. I told him it was date 1.5 at best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:12 AM
21

My tone and mannerisms when offering to pay where obviously not insistent at all. I was merely offering to be polite and to see how he would react. I was never going to press the issue if he said he wanted to pay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:11 AM
40

He even remarked "it looks like you're engaged" and I just said my engagement ring better be a lot flashier, this one is just for fun. He's an ex now lol. Your nails also look really cool!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 07:28 PM
37

I should clarify it's my ex, I got it a couple years ago. And yes, I buy myself the luxury items I want (within reason) because I want to set the standard for how others should treat me too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 06:23 PM
76

This is my favorite one I've seen. What kind of stone is that? I've been rocking a big colorful gemstone ring for a while, when I first bought it for myself it definitely made my boyfriend feel uncomfortable lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 05:16 PM
8

Same, but actually no one has asked me that since I was a teenager.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 03:25 PM
99

Anyone that asks me what my number is will get the answer that I think they want to hear. My real number? That's a secret I'll never tell gossip girl voice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 06:00 AM
38

P.F. Chang's is delicious and it's actually a sit down restaurant, I would be into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 05:32 AM
15

I assume that means big booty/muscular thighs and small waist? Idk how that can possibly be a bad thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 06:11 PM
34

The toddler voice thing!! Why is this so universal 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 05:06 PM
2

I'm happy that even before FDS I knew to ghost a guy who suggests splitting a check.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 06:45 AM
3

If a guy is extremely nice but not for me through no fault of his own, I'll insist on paying. Otherwise, it's on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 06:44 AM
11

I agree that femininity is power but why can't you make money and be feminine??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 06:14 AM
28

He literally ghosted her from prison and she still is "waiting for him." Her ex-husband dodged a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 06:11 AM
24

He sounds exactly like Adam Driver to me, I'm picturing that it's him under the mask lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 05:39 AM
28

Imagine using OnlyFans money to pay for a man's shit...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:46 AM
1

Lmaoo, I've never actually done this, but I've definitely thought about it with some guys who act so rude and presumptuous even before you meet for the first time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:55 PM
7

The only response to this is to say "Yes my King, I'll take you wherever you want" get him all excited then block and delete him right after sending your "on my way be there soon!" text.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 05:01 AM
6

I got abs during quarantine 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:23 AM
1

If you're not comfortable with it it's probably because you know deep down some of your friends are snakes. I know my friends want the best for me and they've been there for me through heartbreaks and other fucked up relationships with men, so I'd want them to meet whoever I'm seriously dating. Sometimes when you're in love you're blind to red flags and it can help if trusted friends say something. I don't think you need to do group hang outs all the time but you don't want to be isolated from y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:06 PM
2

They care, but not all of them have any idea how to make you come, hence all the orgasm faking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:01 PM
2

I actually do use snapchat to chat with friends - sometimes I want to send the same snap to my 5 closest friends at once without turning it into a group chat. But the last time a guy asked me if I have snap I told him I didn't. You're gonna have to text or call me to contact me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:43 PM
2

2 of my exes had very similar stories of girls cheating on them, when I pressed them for more details it came out that in both cases the girls were not their girlfriends and they had only known them for like a month....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:25 PM
67

If you use a condom with 100% accuracy AND pull out, the chances of impregnating someone are negligible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 09:48 PM
148

It's also impossible to be alone with a man without having to fend off sexual advances. Maybe I just want to check out your apartment to see how you live, watch a movie with you, or sample your cooking. I've stopped going to a man's house unless I'm ready to have sex. It just makes me nervous knowing I may need to turn them down and not knowing how they'll react/if they'll rape me anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:29 AM
20

I had an ex with a cuckold fetish and possibly a humiliation fetish. It started off slow but eventually he was sending me MMF threesome/cuckold porn and asking me if his dick is too small for me. I had plenty of other reasons to end it but I know this is the one that would have ended any possible questions anyone might have. It was wayyy too NSFW to tell my parents though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:43 AM
35

Yeah because attractive women are never cheated on, abused, dumped, used for emotional and household labor, have their time wasted intentionally by men who either can't or won't be a good husband, or fall victim to conmen. Men are willfully ignorant of the bad behavior of other men. That's why they can't fathom the need for a strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 09:42 PM
3

Fully agree. You can have a "full life" and not meet any HVM naturally. The whole point of this dating strategy is that HVM are rare. The poster you replied to seems to imply that it's a normal experience for eligible men to be throwing themselves at you everywhere you go - that's not been my experience as a conventionally attractive person. I guess they don't need to put any effort into meeting people because they're just so gorgeous and we're uglies. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 09:25 PM
4

Are you still physically attracted to him? If so, I'd proceed. However if the thought of kissing him fills you with no desire or even turns you off, it probably won't work. I also feel like if you're not feeling chemistry, chances are he's not either, which doesn't bode well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 09:01 PM
2

Men are using the pandemic as an excuse to not commit, not plan dates, and put in even less effort than before, which is why the apps feel even more bleak than normal. Personally I have fatigue from only communicating with people virtually. Even if a guy seems nice over FaceTime I still can't be bothered to respond to his subsequent texts. With the vaccine finally approved in the US, I don't think there's any further reason to try to figure out a way to date while this is going on. It's easier a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:43 PM
3

Yeah that poster was super rude. My company is 70% female - not that I want to date coworkers anyway. All the eligible men in my grad school program are coupled up. My friends are mostly women. I occasionally have friends suggest setting me up with someone, but they never follow through. OLD is a perfectly valid way to meet someone. Even if you do meet someone in person, chances are they're on OLD anyway so it's not like you found some exclusive catch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:33 PM
3

Growing up I obsessively watched America's Next Top Model and Project Runway and I still get a bit butthurt about not being tall enough to model lol. I'm slightly below average height but am usually mistaken for being a couple of inches taller - I wear heels often and have good posture I guess. I'm always so proud when my height is overestimated, I love to stand tall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:23 AM
3

I assume they're trying to reject women before they are rejected themselves. But I never interact with them so I can't speak from experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:13 AM
5

These people obsessed with kink are overcompensating for a lack of attraction or excitement towards their partner(s). Alternatively they're trying to attract a partner with sexual gimmicks. It's not an effective way to get into a meaningful relationship. It's a good way to attract someone who sees you as a set of holes for them to penetrate. The hottest sex I've ever had has been relatively vanilla sex with a partner that I was insanely attracted to, and he was to me. I'm not saying we only did …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:09 AM
3

The issues are not underlying, they're blatantly obvious lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:02 AM
1

This is definitely still a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 06:39 AM
4

Yeah, I had a man waste my time earlier this year. But guess who got a nice 100% paid for vacation and dozens of meals at fancy restaurants out of it... The longer I'm single, the more expensive it gets to date me tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 06:30 AM
11

Is it a foodie call if you aren't super attracted to the guy but want to give him a chance to woo you to see if his other qualities make up for it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:21 PM
3

She should just say she already gave it to a charity. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 10:38 PM
6

Where'd you find this guy? I just need my tuition paid lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:03 AM
5

Lol I wish someone would love bomb me by paying my tuition. I'm about to shell out the last of my savings to pay for grad school and then have to take out loans. OP where'd you find him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:02 AM
1

Honestly you're right. This sub isn't truly a dating advice sub, more of a vent/support sub (which is fine) but in the dating world, both men and women prefer to be with people that have a levity about them and a fun, open personality. If you're immediately defensive and bitter towards potential dates it won't get you far, and a man can definitely be HV and be turned off by that I myself have issues with holding on to negative feelings/assuming the worst of men and I know it's not doing me any f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 08:15 PM
3

Idk if judge is the right word but it does give me insight into them. For example a guy I dated for a while that I met on OLD told me that he once met up with a girl with a prominent face tattoo that he met on the app. He's a clean cut upper middle class family oriented type of dude and I'm 99% positive he wouldn't consider a girl with a face tat to be a potential girlfriend, so that story told me he wasn't dating intentionally and didn't know what he wanted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 08:09 PM
3

I sincerely think that no men don't watch porn. The number of men that dont watch it is so small that it's statistically insignificant. I do think there are some that watch it rarely and don't need it every time they masturbate, or only watch basic vanilla porn. Personally if a man can get hard for me and doesnt have any fetishes or kinks, that's good enough for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 08:03 PM
6

TIL $1100 is hundreds of thousands. The whole point of an engagement ring is to show you're putting your money where your mouth is. Anyone can say "let's get married" but there's no proof/social weight to that without a ring and a date. Backing out of an engagement after buying a ring will hurt you financially and socially (as it should).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 07:28 PM
7

You wear an engagement ring for life (or until divorce lolz)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 07:25 PM
2

I knew they were all LVM except for one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 09:20 AM
35

I saw a guy on a dating app on Wednesday, he posted a happy 1 year anniversary post to his gf on Sunday. Hmmm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 08:56 PM
11

My ex did the opposite - he would pull me out of the way if I was even slightly in someones way on a path and berate me. As women I think it's ok to let people go around us sometimes and not be jumping out of everyones way and apologizing constantly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:52 AM
25

There's zero point in bringing this up, just leave if it happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:50 AM
66

The last time I cooked for a man he couldn't even get hard afterwards. So much effort and I didn't even get good d. It ended a couple weeks later when he broke down and confessed to going on a date with another woman. Yeah, I'll cook for my husband but that's about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:39 AM
11

Of course he's the exception to the rule. He deserves sex without commitment or even putting effort into courting someone, but if you give it to other guys you're a disgrace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:15 AM
3

Yeah that's wild, if my room is messy and I don't have time to tidy up before a video chat I at least make sure nothing is in the shot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:38 AM
10

Seriously what scale are these people using that a 5'6 dude is a 10 but Adriana Lima isn't. Not sure anyone would want to be a 10 by these fucked up standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 08:25 AM
1

Just looked up Sami Wunder. Yeah I don't think anyone really needs advice to snag a guy that looks like that, just making yourself available to him should suffice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 08:18 AM
12

It's crazy how you're told to settle and ridiculed for it all in the same breath. This is exactly how I feel. "Oh you should give this underemployed/unattractive/socially awkward dude a chance. Maybe he'll treat you well and you'll be good together." And at the same time "Oh you wasted your time dating someone who didn't meet your standards? That's your fault, choose better."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 07:55 AM
41

I had this same exact experience a couple of months ago, forehead kiss and all. Except for I wasnt at all emotionally invested in the guy, so I honestly thought the forehead kiss was overly cutesy and a bit weird. When he texted me again I said I was busy and subsequently ghosted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:30 PM
4

So true. My grad school acquaintance recently dumped his gf of 9 years but because they werent married its technically not a divorce. It's the same as a divorce for all intents and purposes, honestly she can probably sue for support of some kind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 03:21 PM
2

The most HV guy I've ever dated was an aeronautics engineer. I doubt his profession had anything to do with it though. He also didnt make much money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 10:41 PM
3

I did this except I didn't even cancel, just blocked and deleted lol. If a guy doesn't set a time and place by the morning of, there's a >50% chance I will ghost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 05:55 AM
4

Ladies what's worse, a walk date or "come over to my apartment" date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 05:31 AM
1

Do you think Bumble has better guys than Hinge?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 09:09 PM
9

I went on a date with a guy that had weirdly long nails. He was fine apart from that so I agreed to go on date 2. On date 2 he still hadnt cut his nails and I was so grossed out that I mentioned it to him. He was like oh I forgot to cut them lol There wasnt a date 3.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 04:24 PM
1

Looks like a good meal for someone who is sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 04:45 PM
3

Thanks for sharing! And oh yeah totally agree with that. I just keep my preferences to myself because that's what polite people do, wish men would do the same. Literally no one cares what gets your dick hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:25 PM
2

Wow this girl is stunningly beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 06:32 PM
6

"Big clit move" LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 06:28 PM
12

I'm in amazing shape thanks to 6 months of tough workouts and pushing myself outside my comfort zone. Used to run a few times a week but was weak and had little muscle tone, now I can do push-ups and planks without breaking a sweat. I made it to the final round of interviews for my dream job at a very competitive company, I might not get it but I consider that to be a huge achievement in itself. I am completely unbothered by any man right now, don't have anyone I'm currently flirting with and it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 06:22 PM
39

I love Chanel bags but this one ain't it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 06:17 PM
11

He sold your Chanel bag? I'd be in prison for murder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 06:12 PM
9

Fins...? That's a new one. I actually think some are nice to look at, the ones that are a uniform color, nice length and girth, and point straight. Especially if it's attached to someone you're attracted to. But I have declined hook ups with pretty hot guys because their dicks weren't very nice and I didn't fancy touching them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 06:06 PM
2

Lol seriously
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 05:57 AM
68

Imagine reaching this level of clownery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:05 AM
5

It was the best example of that happening that I've ever witnessed lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 12:37 AM
1

Lol right. I just want a boyfriend to entertain me when my friends are busy. When I'm hanging out with friends I never even think about men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:02 AM
93

I had a man cancel our date when I expressed that his suggestion of meeting at a bar and then drinking wine in a park at 7 PM seemed a little sketchy. I didn't know so many of these guys loved the great outdoors so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 05:49 AM
22

Outdoor dining. If that's too close for comfort you shouldn't be dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 05:46 AM
3

She deserves it if she's being this dense. Don't even feel bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 05:37 AM
27

If you even hint at wanting a relationship a man will assume that you want one with him specifically. Even the ones that blatantly don't meet my standards still think I'm coming on strong by wanting a relationship at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 02:51 PM
7

I get exhausted just watching these women put elaborate meals together for boyfriends. I don't even have the energy to do that for myself😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:49 AM
1

This actually takes more planning than just showing up to a restaurant. If he actually provides good quality champagne, homemade food, snacks, etc I'd be pleased by a date like this. Not as a first date but as a 4th or 5th date I'd be down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 06:44 PM
17

I'm no watch expert but it looks cheap. Also this dude is bald and looks like he weighs 130 lbs soaking wet. Honestly the amount of times my friends have said to me "just text him! Just ask him out! Just tell him how you feel!" I can kind of see how a pickme's pickme friends can convince her it's a good idea to propose to a man if he's not doing it fast enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 06:28 PM
5

Idk in like 6 weeks I only received 2 messages from guys that met my preferences (5'10+, not orthodox, within 6 years of my age and doesn't have kids) and only one of them asked me out and didn't follow up when I said yes. I stopped checking after that. And I'm objectively attractive. I've had better experiences on Tinder and that's not saying much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 02:52 AM
4

It's for Jewish people but yeah stay away no matter your religion lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 02:43 AM
14

The only one I can comment on is Jdate. Everyone is heinously ugly and you get to see the messages from people that don't even meet your preferences. I felt mentally assaulted from seeing creepy sexual messages from men older than my dad and ugly as sin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 02:13 AM
2

I usually carry $2000 handbags (not saying it's a worthwhile investment for everyone, but it is for me because I love fashion) so men know what's up as soon as they lay eyes on me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:08 AM
1

I've started doing this, came really close to confusing the text threads tho lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 12:14 AM
1

I'm a year out of a relationship, and only had sex with one guy in the past 8 months. I am looking for a relationship but without lowering my standards it's not looking like it's going to happen. But I'm glad I'm at a place where lowering my standards isn't an option for me anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 10:48 PM
4

This is so true. Since FDS I've been able to spot red flags so quickly that I can screen out 99% of men before we even get to the first kiss. That's great, but I'll prob be alone for way longer than I ever have been before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 10:32 PM
37

"....if you want some" oh lord. Seeing this kind of thing makes me feel a but better that I'm not the only one that gets ridiculous requests/offers from men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 10:28 PM
3

I don't get infections when having sex with condoms, but I got it with 2 different partners when having sex without a condom. I think it's literally their body fucking up my pH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 06:50 PM
6

I dont bother shaving or washing my hair specifically for a first date. I only brush my teeth if I ate something pungent. I only wear something special if it's a nice, expensive restaurant. Otherwise I do my regular daily makeup/grooming routine, put on an average outfit (like something I'd wear to grab coffee with a friend), and I'm out the door. If he doesnt think I'm gorgeous in every day attire then he's not for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 05:54 PM
6

The mushy peas killed me lol I mean really?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 06:49 PM
3

They're making it seem like the low effort proposal was their choice, when really their loser husbands were never going to do anything thoughtful regardless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 06:49 PM
3

This is kind of infantilizing women. $1,200 is not a lot of money for any adult to be able to pay in expenses. This makes it seem like that is some sort of rare thing for women. Kind of "not like the other girls"-like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:39 AM
18

This bitch is just so dumb. Her fanbase wouldn't exist if she wasn't conventionally attractive, but she definitely thinks it's her brains and piping hot social commentary keeping her semi-relevant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:48 PM
33

A guy recently asked me what my ideal Sunday is. I said a workout and hanging out in Central Park. He was like perfect, let's do that. Like nahh. Just because I enjoy doing something doesn't mean it's an acceptable date. I like to get a bacon egg and cheese and eat it in the park the morning after a night out while people watching but doesn't mean that is a good date idea. Jeezus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:46 PM
12

How do people have time for all this stuff? Between school, work, and spending time with people I care about I don't have a ton of time left over. I do very girly workouts (sculpt, pilates) - there's never any men in those classes, if classes were even a thing now with covid. I like to go for runs but I prefer doing that on my own with my music. Sorry to whine at you, it just seems impossible to meet people normally. Like it's a second fulltime job to constantly be going to meetups and joining v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:43 PM
10

I ask my male friends and friends' boyfriends all the time (while trying to appear as not-thirsty as possible lol). Every single one says that their friends are all coupled and the few who aren't are fuckboys. I have plans to hang with a male friend and his gf this weekend, I jokingly told him to bring a man for me and he said "everyone I know is too fat or too dumb for you." Having standards is exhausting sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:33 PM
5

I'm only cool with phone calls after the first date. I've had guys call me unexpectedly to plan a first date and that kinda weirded me out tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:06 PM
11

Seeing something like this would actually make me feel better, lmao. Would remind me what a loser he is. Kinda like when I see my ex's new gf paying him back for things on Venmo - he a 50/50 type of dude. Do NOT miss that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 06:03 PM
11

Make out with him, get him hot and bothered, then feel him up through his pants lol. If you're having sexual banter with a guy who has a big d, the guy will usually tell you or strongly imply it. Also when you are planning to have sex and sending each other sexy texts/pics, you can usually figure out what you're working with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:55 PM
16

I had a few partners early on in college who were clueless, but I've had 4 semi serious relationships and all of those guys could make me cum. Of my hookups, about 50% made me cum. It's not that hard to do for me, which I'm thankful for. I think I'm just good at guessing if a guy is good in bed. Before hooking up I usually ascertain if the guy is generous in bed and roughly how big his d is through bantering/flirting/feeling him up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:49 PM
6

Don't get impregnated by gamers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:19 PM
49

As if I care whether some scrote thinks I'm adventurous. I'm fun and adventurous when it's convenient for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:12 PM
7

Oh I fully agree. I'm vetting harder than ever and have only gone on dates with 3 people since pre covid. I don't make physical contact on a first or 2nd date. But I still want to find that real, healthy relationship so I'm gonna do what I gotta do. I think it's worth it and I'm mature enough to not take it personally when stuff doesnt work out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 09:43 PM
5

I've been single for 11 months and would like to have a romantic connection with another human. That's why I'm dating even though there's a pandemic. It's possible a HVM is in the same boat. Sometimes people just get lonely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:17 PM
40

Yeah if you can't pay for my dinner how are you going to pay for our entire family when we have 2 kids and I take a year or two off work to birth/raise them? If I wanted to be totally self sufficient for the rest of my life I wouldn't bother dating at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:08 PM
3

My ex's girlfriend Venmos him daily for drinks, food, ubers, trips, gifts etc. Hate to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 02:28 PM
1

I bought myself a Gucci purse, golden hoops, and a pair of designer jeans for my birthday! Those things make me happier than almost any man ever has.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 10:48 AM
9

Wow that's psychotic to act like he never received phone calls or texts. Next level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:21 AM
53

She thought her precious boy was perfect just the way he was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:21 PM
131

When I took my ex to a museum for the first time in his life his mom was like "don't let her change you." God forbid he's exposed to some culture🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:07 PM
5

I tell guys I don't have Instagram now. When I do let them follow me, I don't follow back. Fuck your follower count lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:24 PM
3

I've met some really cool people on OLD, and I've met some horrific people IRL. It doesn't have a high success rate but neither does dating just in general. I just keep my expectations low and my standards high when dating whether its through apps or meeting in person. I think it's great to have as an option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 06:15 PM
2

I do this and it still doesn't help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:57 PM
2

I like sex but if I'm open to having sex/hooking up with someone I'm seen as thirsty. If I'm not open to it or want to wait I'm seen as a prude. It makes me just want to avoid the entire thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 05:51 PM
16

I mean it was kinda bad in that I didn't cum and he couldn't stay hard lol. It was good that he at least tried though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 06:06 PM
39

Meh, the best sex of my life was with a guy who was nervous the first time and couldn't stay hard. He still went down on me and did his best to make me feel good. Gradually as we became more in sync the sex became incredible with multiple orgasms each time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 05:45 PM
18

The whole "shitty person attracting shitty people" thing is such victim blaming garbage. Some troll used that argument on me when I described a bad experience with an ex. My rebuttal was, oh are DV and date rape victims also all shitty people? The scrote accuses me of putting words in their mouth lmao. Anything to avoid the reality that 90% of men are trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:19 PM
3

This doesn't reassure me at all because I only ever see this from men old enough to be my grandpa. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 07:25 PM
1

I'm in NYC too and a lot of outdoor bars/restaurants are open. Some extremely nice ones too. The men still suck though. I go to the restaurants with my friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:33 AM
1

I drink pretty frequently, occasionally smoke weed, and very rarely but sometimes do other drugs. Kinda just the mid-20s grad school/corporate social scene in NYC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:23 AM
1

Being exclusive Taking him into account when it comes to weekend plans, holiday plans Meeting each others families Being the default +1 to functions Spending literally any amount of money on him. I'm open to paying for like every 5th date when I'm in a long term commited relationship but when we're in the "talking" stage it's all on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 04:23 AM
32

The most average male torso of all time lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 01:51 AM
2

Recently got the Lelo Sonic Cruise 2, it's way more effective than the basic Hitachi wand knockoff thing I was using before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 06:48 PM
8

My ex and his friends screamed at me and called me a selfish see you next Tuesday for dumping him, saying "he treated you like a princess." I straight up laughed in their faces, this man took me out to dinner maybe every 3 months and wouldn't even buy my coffee or ice cream on our pathetic low-budget dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 04:15 PM
27

I was gonna say why does he talk like someone's grandpa
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 02:38 PM
41

How do pickmes think a man shows his love? By not dumping them? Genuinely curious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 01:02 PM
1

I went off birth control for the first time in 4 years about 3 months ago. My suicidal thoughts and random bouts of depression went away, and I found it easier to lose weight. Couldn't recommend it enough. Condoms work just fine with perfect use and plan B is always an option. I don't plan on sleeping with anyone again unless I'm very serious about them, and at that point we can discuss me getting an IUD. But I may just opt for condoms and pulling out over that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:11 AM
12

I'm not satisfied with the quality or quantity of men that approach me in the wild. All the men in my school/work circles are either coupled, not age appropriate, or not attractive to me. The vast majority of men on OLD are scum, but the vast majority of men in general are scum. I only entertain men on OLD that meet my standards and take me on proper dates, and don't do hookups. I hold every potential partner to the same standard whether I meet them on OLD or in person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:39 PM
3

My mother told me the same stuff and I didn't listen. Well I'm listening now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 07:43 AM
2

I've cooked for guys before partially because I had pickme tendencies and partially because I was just learning to cook for the first time and wanted someone to eat with me lol. I decided it wasnt worth my time a while ago but now I've gotten into cooking again and I do it for my girlfriends! They're so much more appreciative and I love making them happy. We have nice little dinner dates and I honestly love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 07:42 AM
33

What is he on about. I've literally never once wished I was still with an ex or even thought about any specific memories I have of them once in a new relationship. I wouldn't have gotten into the new relationship if I didnt think they were better than my ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 07:29 AM
4

This woman is just dumb. She would probably fall for a Nigerian prince scam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 06:34 PM
5

Checkmate, snowflakes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 01:50 PM
3

Yes, he couldn't get it up, when we broke up he started crying and saying he has a "type" that he can't openly be with. I think he was talking about men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 09:32 PM
1

Yes, that's why I only date extremely smart men with interesting careers. I'm smart so I need a man to be well educated, cultured, well-read, well-traveled etc otherwise what are we gonna talk about? The score of the football game? Don't bother going on dates with anyone that doesnt meet at least most of that criteria.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 05:13 PM
1

Home girl is not early 20s. 30 is probably more accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 03:16 PM
1

Meadow ends up being a mob lawyer, so the apple didn't fall far from the tree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:57 PM
6

I'm not trying to pass judgment on them as a person, just trying to gauge my level of physical attraction to them. Plenty of things can't be changed (honestly pretty much everything apart from your weight and hairstyle) but those things still influence how attracted you are to someone. I do get how that can rub someone the wrong way, but I'm a pretty blunt person and if something like that offends them we probably wouldn't gel that well in person anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:56 PM
11

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:53 PM
22

I include numerous recent full body pics in my profile so I feel like knowing the guy's height is only fair!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:50 PM
10

I'm not tall 😅 I just find it hot when there's a large height difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 04:02 PM
5

It's normal to want to have a rough idea of the relationship history of someone you're dating. I want to know how many girlfriends a guy I'm thinking about dating has had and how long each relationship was. I just answer honestly but don't volunteer any details and if they ask why the relationships ended I just say "we grew apart" or something equally nondramatic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 12:54 PM
9

Ladies I had a man talk to me throughout the entire pandemic then fly out to see me, take me on a fancy vacation, meet all my friends and then ghost me 2 days after returning home. He's your quintessential tall dark and handsome, good job, good social skills type of guy that is so hard to find and I'm taking it pretty hard but not as hard as I would've pre finding FDS. I just need someone to tell me it'll be okay 😫 my friends are all busy today and I need to feel better so I can focus on my work…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 07:24 PM
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To each her own. If the penetration is at the right angle and the man has a nice dick I've had explosive orgasms from getting pounded like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 06:26 PM
1

What kind of group is this? Is it career related?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 05:00 AM
9

I really regret going to grad school in NYC, now I'm stuck here until im 28. I already know my husband is not in this city.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 12:55 AM
63

As a woman with big boobs I roll my eyes at the idea that I'm somehow better off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 05:49 PM
13

I used to be so emotional in my last few relationships because they were so wrong for me. Now I'm single and barely ever feel like crying. I had a guy I really like tell me he's not ready for a relationship recently and I think he's breadcrumbing me now. The old me would be sobbing but I'm just disappointed and focusing on the 10,000 things I need to do this week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 03:18 PM
74

"Tinder has ruined modern women" Looks for women on Tinder. Lol great logic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:15 PM
16

Depends on how old she is, if someone asked if I have kids and I'm 20 years old, I'd think that to be a pretty odd question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:14 PM
9

You don't have to do this. Men don't need oral to have an orgasm. Some people out there don't even have sex or barely do and it works for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:05 AM
1

No because I only date college educated guys with careers who all have/had good jobs. But once I'm done with grad school I hope my earning potential skyrockets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 02:05 PM
3

Make out with him and feel him up through his pants. Give each other oral/hand stuff and if he doesnt measure up (lol) don't allow it to progress to sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:45 PM
1

Gotcha. Yeah it sucks that he pushed your boundaries just to say he's not ready for commitment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:41 PM
2

Am I the only one who thinks 5 dates is too quick for exclusivity? At that point you should not have had sex yet and I would personally consider myself single and be open to dating others, so I would consider it fine for the guy to also be open to dating others. For me the 2 month mark is when I would leave if he still wanted to keep dating new people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:19 PM
8

Tbh they're a bit awkward but not much more awkward than a regular date. And they're a great time saver.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:16 PM
7

During covid I started doing the video chat thing and I actually really liked it because it helped me screen out quite a few guys and saved me from a lot of really awkward dates. I haven't dated anyone from OLD in a while but will definitely do that moving forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:04 PM
16

I have a very neutral attitude towards every first date. A guy needs to meet certain standards for me to go out with him, but in person vs online is an entirely different story. I've had guys who I thought I would be super attracted to based on photos and initial conversation that I didn't like at all in person. Not to mention the amount of guys who lie about height, use old photos, etc. So why would I be super optimistic and excited going into a first date from OLD? I'm just curious and maybe c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 08:59 PM
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Honestly I've only had this issue with one guy and I think he either was pornsick or possibly closeted homosexual. Maybe I just get lucky. I only sleep with attractive, confident, and healthy men in their 20s and early 30s that take good care of themselves. Disagree that guys over 25 look old. It fully depends on the person and their lifestyle/genes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 07:36 PM
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This is one if the only parts of FDS that I don't get. I much prefer a shorter date and feel a bit weird having a full meal with someone I'm just meeting for the first time. 9/10 times I'm not that into the guy and want to leave after an hour. I expect dinner for the 2nd date. Having said that I don't accept walking or coffee dates, and if a drinks date is during dinnertime I just say I'm getting hungry and order myself some bar food. I've rejected a guy before because we had a drinks date durin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 07:24 PM
2

I kinda like having home turf advantage. I'm comfortable at my place, have all my clothes, makeup, skin care products, my personal snacks and teas etc. and I live alone so I'd rather have someone come over than listen to the roommates TV blaring in the next room. But to each her own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 09:49 PM
11

I mean I've tried every variation of approach to dating and they lose interest in me every time anyway lol 🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 12:20 AM
1

Why is she looking to the side instead of at the camera?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 12:54 PM
14

Right!? Even without setting spray my makeup doesn't fully come off unless I scrub my face with makeup remover.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 12:45 PM
14

Do they actually think we can only swim bare faced? 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 12:44 PM
5

Maybe you're onto something because the cleanest man I've ever met was French, while all American men have had gross living spaces unless they're wealthy living in a luxury apartment and probably paying someone else to clean. I also have a male friend who is American but very neat, but that might be because he's a little overly conscious about his image - always perfectly coiffed and constantly dieting and working out. It's just his personality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 12:24 PM
6

I love salads. My favorite is to make a salad with lots of fresh garden veggies: peppers, onions, cucumbers, tomatoes, radishes, toss in some grilled chicken, avocado, diced jalapenos, and drizzle with light ranch and a bit of lime. It's healthy and tastes great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 08:14 PM
2

Does anyone feel that they don't have the mental bandwidth to properly vet more than one guy at a time? Whenever I try to do it, it confuses me and I can't make a decision of who is a better fit for me. Especially if I'm further along with one of them and he's been acting HV so far, my brain just kinds wants to default to him, even if the other guy is promising too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:55 PM
1

I don't get this either, just because it's hard for me to find 2 guys I'm equally interested in, let alone 3.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:48 PM
17

In my city covid is thankfully more or less under control and going to restaurants (outdoors) has become a normal part of life again for a while now. I had a guy on Hinge say he wishes he could take me to a restaurant. I said, uh, you can? I just went to one yesterday? And he said that sitting outside on the street ruins the ambiance or something. All I heard was "I'm too cheap to buy you a meal." I just stopped responding even though he was pestering me for my number. I knew his next suggestion…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:22 PM
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Idk why they keep insisting women can't tell the difference between 5'10 and 6'? If we can differentiate periwinkle from lavender, and eggshell from ivory, we can notice when something is 2 inches off lmao. I know what a 6' guy is supposed to feel like compared to my height.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 03:16 PM
46

I didn't know you only need a job if you have a kid. Are the rest of us supposed to live off the government?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 07:07 PM
58

Truly amazing how men convinced women that marriage only benefits us and is a favor they're doing for us. What does a woman actually get out of being married other than being able to flex on insecure single women. And without a rock you don't even have anything material to flex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 06:22 PM
5

Is that a kosher dill I see? Yum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 11:11 AM
9

Yes, I give my girlfriends lots of hugs and occasionally kisses lol. They deserve and appreciate it more than a dude anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 10:53 AM
25

Buying snacks at the movies is one thing. But buying him a whole suit? And a nice one? I'd rather just buy my own shoes at that point lmao he's gonna make me go broke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 10:45 AM
2

I've had the last one happen to me recently. It was a Tuesday and I told him I'm free on Sunday. He said it made him feel like my last date of the week. First of all, even if that were true, it's none of your business. Second of all, I work, I study, i workout, I keep my apartment clean, and I have friends that keep me busy. My friends who are always there for me and make my life more fun are more important to me than you, Tinder rando.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 05:54 AM
3

What do you say no to?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:11 AM
1

I think they think the reason we take issue with so many men is because of sour grapes? But that's not the issue at all lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:54 AM
11

Guys will invite you to their place or ask to come over. Obviously you can just keep saying no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:47 AM
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Reading between the lines, I agree. Why else would she be so drawn to his clothes if they didn't represent something that was lacking? I get pregnancy is ridiculously uncomfortable but I'd just buy my own oversized tees instead of stretching out my husband's clothes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 01:02 AM
6

All my hobbies are super feminine and I work with all women and married, gay, or significantly older men. I don't go to church, temple, or do any family oriented activities because I'm a single 20-something city dweller. If it wasn't for apps I probably would've only had one or two dates in the past year. It's not ideal but it is what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:28 AM
9

Jesus christ I'm sorry you went through that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:07 PM
8

I mean to be fair as a straight woman I have experienced that exact scenario with men I've dated in the past. They're not all terrible and it is possible to have a fun, sexy time with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 03:18 PM
7

My male friend walked me home recently after hanging out with our other friends at 4 am and then proceeded to walk half an hour home. In all honestly I dont know if I would've have survived that walk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 01:23 AM
11

I had a guy get upset because I wasn't free for our first date until Sunday. He asked me out on a Wednesday. Like sorry I have a life and friends?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 08:43 PM
18

She's giving me gold digger vibes. If this guy has an apartment in NYC big enough to casually move in 2 people, hes significantly older, has an important sounding job, she's probably using him for rent or just money in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 08:32 PM
21

Hear you cooking and cleaning? Like are you supposed to be scrubbing dishes while on the phone? Nah lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 08:07 PM
62

Literally me getting fit during quarantine and just sitting at home admiring myself lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 08:01 PM
49

Who is out here buying 3% of men drinks and meals on dates. I just wanna talk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:19 PM
5

I do want to have kids, but holy shit C-section only. Although I don't want to ruin my abs either ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:57 PM
5

Noooo, my childhood memories of Winnie the Pooh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:36 PM
13

Same. I already had an hourglass figure before I added strength training, now I have the same but more lean and my booty is more lifted but its size hasnt increased. Grateful my ass is already fat so I don't need to put a lot of effort into growing muscle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 05:38 AM
3

I simply sent a text saying "Hi ____, I enjoyed spending time with you but don't feel a spark. I wouldn't want to waste any more of your time. Wish you the best!" and then blocked because I dont need to see any butthurt responses nor is there anything left to discuss between us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 06:40 PM
6

These pickmes are always like "He shows his love in other ways!" but those other ways are letting you split the bills with him? Doing some of the chores? Almost always remembering your birthday? Nah, sis. Expensive gestures - whether in terms of money or time - are the only thing that really matters. As long as my man can afford it, he should never question whether something that I want is too good for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 02:17 PM
20

I quit birth control because it was making me have suicidal thoughts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:23 AM
11

I hope he does!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 02:50 AM
1

Sometimes I haven't felt a spark but the guy was very attractive so it didn't bother me and I could wait for it to grow, with this guy I wasn't attracted enough to keep trying. But imo it's a waste of time with no spark.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 01:07 AM
22

Soooo true. I dated a 6'5, super handsome, super educated and sophisticated doctor that had this problem. Can't even describe what a letdown that was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:55 AM
3

I've had 2 partners that were mindblowingly good and a few more that at least could stay hard, go down on me, and keep going till I came. They're out there! Make sure he's fit and healthy (more likely to have good stamina) and you have good chemistry with him. Also don't fuck anyone unless he goes down on you first, good way to weed out the selfish ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 11:59 PM
12

Maybe the woman in the OP lives in a very high crime area? Or just has incredibly bad luck>
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 06:02 PM
10

Haha to be fair the first month and a half was purely virtual. I thought I liked him based on video chatting but in person is a different story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:23 PM
32

She bathes him? And he's not disabled or otherwise incapable of doing it himself?🧐 Yep, would much rather be single forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 02:54 PM
3

Girl, same! Since covid has gotten better in my area I have been seeing friends once or twice a week but I really don't miss the company of men. I'm a flirt and love to banter with a good looking man but when they want to meet up, I realize that I'd rather spend time with a friend or alone doing my skincare routine and working on my own stuff. Truly a mindset shift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 02:39 PM
29

Part of it is the fact royals have to behave/dress a certain way and wearing a sexy tight black low cut dress is a way of her saying f you to the entire establishment. Also since she's so famous literally the whole world would see and comment on it. Doesn't apply for us commoners lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 10:59 PM
22

Idk why but this comparison made me chortle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:10 AM
2

Even pre-FDS my resentment would have set in around 2 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 02:18 PM
11

This is why I don't date men who are still in school. Everyone thinks I'm crazy for not wanting guys in med school but I have zero interest in giving them emotional and financial support for all those years with no guarantee of it working out in the end. I only want the finished product.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 02:13 PM
2

I would laugh in his face and if it's a man I was dating it be would be over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 02:05 PM
14

Just don't offer to pay. Let him deal with the bill, the waiter will give it to him anyway. After he pays, or after you leave the restaurant, smile and say "thank you for dinner" and the guy will say "my pleasure" and that'll be it. I know it's awkward to just sit there but it only lasts a minute or 2, you'll be fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 06:46 AM
1

No
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 06:13 AM
3

Im 25. I'm putting myself out there on OLD and just in general and seeing who is willing to put in time and effort to court me, then choosing from there. Not interested in exclusive relationship unless there is concrete evidence of the man's investment in me and our future together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 07:18 PM
1

This is true. As long as they aren't being rude I don't care. It's good to have a reminder that you're hot shit and can drop any man that disrespects you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 07:05 PM
2

I had an ex that would watch every single game of every single sport that was on. I wish I was exaggerating. He and his family tried to convince me that I wont find a guy who isn't equally obsessed with sports, well since him I havent dated anyone who has watched more than the occasional match of their favorite sport/league, at most one per week. Guys with actual interests are out there believe it or not! It brings me great joy to think of his reaction when all sports were cancelled due to covid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 07:00 PM
48

Many reasons. Women are having casual sex with guys who would not date them. I've seen many a model-level good looking guy on OLD who immediately tries to have sex with me and while I just unmatch, I'm sure many many women would be down. What incentive do these guys have to ever take you out? They won't unless you're extremely attractive and unattainable in their eyes. Libfems have soiled the idea of a man taking a woman out on a nice date or courting her in any way, even sending flowers is seen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 03:42 PM
73

This is why I'm extremely cautious of guys playing video games, watching sports, and other useless, time consuming hobbies. When a guy brings up either of those, I casually ask how much they like/do those things without letting them know how I feel about them, even acting like I'm interested. If they answer with too much enthusiasm it's a big red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 02:10 PM
2

So let's say a guy asks you to be exclusive after 3+ months of dating. Do you say no, I'm not going to be exclusive until I have a ring? Also how does this work with sex, no sex until engagement/marriage?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 05:34 PM
2

Idk how that would work either though. Like if someone else asks you on a date, do you go even though you've been dating/hooking up with one guy for 6 months and it's going well?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:14 PM
3

I don't have a lot of experience with free YouTube workout videos, but I used to do a fair amount of workout classes pre-covid and obé instructors are on par with that! I like it because there is so much variety and the instructors are really enthusiastic and encouraging. There's also a fun Facebook community. There are challenges and workout plans. Also I'm pretty amazed that thanks to the sculpt classes I can now plank for 3.5 minutes whereas before I'd give up after 20 seconds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 05:55 AM
12

Working out a lot, specifically through obé fitness. I'm building strong curves and having a lot of fun! Also investing a lot of time and energy into my friendships and making stronger connections with people outside of just dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:44 AM
6

I wholeheartedly believe this and want to apply this to my dating life going forward but totally confused as to how it works logistically, short of lying to everyone. I wouldn't want to lose a good guy because I was caught on a date with some loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 01:15 AM
1

For sure, it's really frustrating to feel like you're doing everything right and still not getting the results you want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:52 PM
2

You don't have to let go of that desire. Honestly just focus on yourself. I also have all my shit together - my own apartment, good job, fit and looking great, great friend group, getting my masters, and I struggled with the same feelings that you're describing. It was annoying to hear the advice of "work on yourself" when you've already done the work. So now I do a couple of things. First, I try to treat dating as a fun social diversion that is meant to add fun experiences to my life. This mean…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:45 PM
7

This is why you cant compliment men. They take it way too seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 04:02 PM
2

Just take the gift, it's the least they can do for wasting your time. My heartbreak over a boy is temporary, my diamond earrings are forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 02:28 PM
3

New York state is relatively safe, but still social distancing from dates until I decide I want to keep seeing them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 10:37 PM
5

After you have 10 or so matches, stop swiping for a bit and see how it pans out with those. Chances are you'll only end up wanting to go on dates with a couple and the other convos will fizzle. Also if you have that many matches you can probably afford to be pickier. I only swipe on guys I can actually picture myself introducing to friends and family just based on looks, job, height, matching my religion, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:00 PM
3

Lmao😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 02:51 PM
0

I've been going out to outdoor bars, going to friends' houses, outdoor birthday parties, going on a trip with friends, etc as of a couple weeks ago since restrictions have been eased in my area and cases are steadily declining, down to double digits in new cases per day. If you guys live in Houston or whatever the current epicenter is it's a red flag but if you're in most of the world where it's getting better then it's fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 01:53 PM
16

Notice how he says her insecurities started coming out, no she's not insecure, you just don't meet her standards anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 12:14 AM
3

Can you imagine giving half your income to a man, or anyone really... I hope he out earns her significantly at least, but I highly doubt it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 11:31 PM
14

I like what I like. Try as I might, I don't see guys below 5'10 as potential partners. I need to be able to tilt my head up to look into his eyes, otherwise I feel nothing romantically or physically. It's not logical it's just a preference. Also there are more than enough tall dudes, it shouldn't be an issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:34 PM
11

Bumble is even worse than Tinder because you can't tell who is actually interested enough to reach out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:01 AM
2

Oh I know, he specifically said "meet up," I already knew it wasn't going anywhere but gave him one more chance to redeem himself and not surprisingly, he didn't pull through lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:36 AM
48

Paying for porn is a sign of fiscal irresponsibility and poor impulse control. The same guys that pay $25/month to random naked women on the internet would probably call you a gold digging whore if you were dating them and asked them to cover your Netflix subscription.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 05:56 PM
11

I had a guy ask me to hang out, and when I asked what he'd like to do he said "not sure." Sigh, unmatch. You're either braindead or fully expecting me to plan everything out. It's easier for me to just stay home and do a face mask.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 05:50 PM
11

I had a guy threaten to report me on the app that we met on. Exact words, just a few messages in "I'll report you and you'll never find love." When I unmatched him and submitted a ticket to the app with screenshots explaining the situation he says "did you unmatch me? It was a joke."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 09:52 PM
2

I think you're doing the right thing so far. Let him offer to take you out for your bday or make plans with you etc. You could also just factually tell him what you did for your bday since he asked, but dont follow up with any questions for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 10:53 PM
13

Salut! Haha I took French for years and have a huge appreciation for the language and culture, also have dabbled with some French fuckbois and while I don't plan on ever dating one again I'd be very interested in your post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 09:25 PM
9

Have you ever had a guy take it at face value when you said you don't want a relationship forcing you to backtrack? I know if a guy said that to me I wouldn't see him anymore. Men are different but idk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 08:31 PM
10

Thanks for your post! Can you provide examples of a situation in which you secured commitment before sex? Like how did it go down exactly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 06:21 PM
50

I think it's a wannabe Ariana Grande look, she always has doll like hair and makeup but oversized hoodies. Sometimes I wish I could pull off an oversized tee look and have it look intentional, but my titties and short torso make it look like I'm wearing a tent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 05:23 PM
3

Jesus I'm so sorry :( that's awful. I was taking it for acne but it made no impact on my acne...it's always been mild to kinda bad. Since I've been off it I've been using a new skincare routine and my skin looks better than before, I know that sometimes going off of it can cause acne issues months later so I'm bracing myself. Hopefully itll be fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:59 PM
42

I've stopped hormonal bc because I was having suicidal thoughts for no apparent reason and theyve completely gone away. Scary how dangerous this stuff is. I won't ever go back on it again, condoms or bust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 04:46 AM
9

It's really not that complicated. Paying for me is literally putting your money where your mouth is. And this bozo knows that he'd never dare to ask to split the bill if he somehow magically lands a date with a woman he feels is out of his league.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:59 PM
23

Oh hell no. He wants to date you without actually dating you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 11:08 PM
29

I ghosted a doctor last week because he suggested a walking date and then couldnt even follow through with confirming a date/time with me. I'm not going to get freshly showered, made up, hair blown out and put on a clean cute outfit just to walk around in 93 degree heat with 60% humidity through a mosquito-filled park. When he tried to spring last minute plans on me I simply said that I was busy and ignored his attempts to reschedule.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 11:05 PM
2

I had a man recently express surprise when I said I work out almost every day as part of a conversation about fitness. I was confused so asked if that was so surprising and he said yes...I didnt respond so he followed up saying "I'm just joking." I literally have visible abs in one of my photos and am clearly a healthy BMI. If you can't even be nice while we're still on the app, how are you gonna act 6 months in? Unbelievable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 07:35 PM
-5

It sounds like you're doing it because you like it though, not because you feel that you're inadequate if you don't. If doing all that prep is stressful for someone then theres no point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 06:43 PM
29

He is a complete POS of course, but the more I consider the toll that pregnancy has on the body the less I want kids. I take pride in my body and don't want to expose it to unnecessary stress. I would only have them with an extremely HV man who makes the whole process as easy as possible for me and would be an exemplary dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 06:21 PM
-3

I already put effort into my appearance so there's not much extra to do for a date. The most I do is stop home to shower and then touch up my makeup afterwards since it comes off in the shower. If you aren't in the habit of shaving, moisturizing, blowdrying your hair etc then it's pointless to do all that for a date since you're not representing the real you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 06:16 PM
7

Yeah I know it exists, just havent had a guy do it for me yet. I arrange my own transportation or make them come to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 10:17 PM
9

I think theres too much that can go wrong to effectively leave that up to chance. A penis that's way too big or small, erectile dysfunction, only being able to get off from a weird specific fetish, premature ejaculation. Idk if I was signing up to only sleep with one person for the rest of my life I'd need to be certain that he wasnt suffering from any of the above issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 07:20 PM
15

I feel like that's hyperbolic. Like ideally there shouldn't be a need to bring a wallet because you'll never have to reach for it. Some guys out there will actually order Ubers for their dates (not that I've ever encountered these men sadly).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 07:09 PM
9

I honestly believe in situations like you mentioned with the mother allowing her boyfriend to rough up her kid, if shes self aware enough to post about it on reddit she already knows its fucked up and she needs to take action, but is too scared to do so and wants redditors to assuage her guilt. The point of those subs isnt to give actual advice, its so that people can have a giant circlejerk and justify horrible behavior to one another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 05:41 PM
2

Yes. It takes me like 5 minutes to do and elevates me from just pretty to gorgeous. Why wouldn't I do it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 05:43 AM
5

Yes sis...short guys are not hot imo. I'm also slim with double D's and a big ass so I feel like it's fine for me to require that a man be over 6 feet. So far I havent had trouble finding guys that fit that requirement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 05:31 AM
5

That's nice, my dad is pretty short and has a similar story. I myself am average height and I am strictly only attracted to tall men. At minimum 5'10, preferably 6 feet or above. Sorry not sorry, I only find tall men sexy and manly enough for me to find them attractive. I literally can't control that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 05:28 AM
57

Face to face convo but not a date...hmm...sounds like a pathetic cover for inviting you over to his place and trying to fuck you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 01:22 AM
6

It's appalling how common it is for men to tip poorly to make their dates cheaper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 01:01 AM
1

I always see the decently attractive yuppie type dudes with the same type of girl. Usually thin or at least somewhat fit, with a pretty basic sense of style - cute but not particularly eye-catching, wearing nude nail polish, tasteful jewelry, minimal makeup. Their faces are usually average, some are pretty, some are plain, some are in between. I honestly think this look is the most appealing to the widest range of gainfully employed men at least in my area. They arent looking for the most gorgeo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 12:03 AM
3

I remember prior to FDS having this feeling of panic when I thought that my shitty relationships were potentially ending. Even though they were making me miserable and semi-suicidal, I wanted to hold onto them. Why? I have absolutely no fucking idea. It's so freeing to have the ability to say nope, this doesnt serve me anymore. And just ghost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 11:13 PM
2

I think if the guy talks about the future with you it's a sign he's serious. Like you I've had relationships where I met the family, went on trips with them, etc. and I also always had that feeling that I wasnt the one and ended up getting dumped. Meanwhile my friend who just got engaged after 3 years of dating her fiance said that after about a year he was talking seriously of future marriage, children, buying a house etc. If he never brings those things up and gets quiet/scared if you bring th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 06:15 PM
-3

I agree that the British royals and the British empire has a horrible legacy but should Prince Harry be judged for that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 04:26 PM
6

Just take a step back from the situation. I usually find that leaving these guys on ice for a day or 2 will make them step it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 04:23 PM
7

Girl no. Don't let him make you believe he doesn't have control over his own gaze. He's being disrespectful to you and to the women he's ogling. Lord knows I do not like to be on the receiving end of obvious staring/flirting from a taken guy especially with his girlfriend right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 04:21 PM
21

5 is about average, 6 is respectable. The biggest I've had were around 7.5 inches and they looked and felt really big. That last inch doesnt fit comfortably. Still hot though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 02:21 PM
45

I'd still rather fuck a guy with a big dick who's bad in bed than a guy with a small dick who's bad in bed. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 02:19 PM
10

Yes you say thank you and show appreciation. Why would anyone want to continue doing nice things for someone who doesn't verbalize thanks. Lol this reminds me of a date I went on when I forgot to say thanks after the guy paid for our drinks and got a text afterwards saying I'm the worst person hes ever met 😅 he was LVM but that def makes me remember to always say thanks so as not to make HVM think I'm rude and classless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 11:58 PM
4

And just because someone approached you in person doesn't make them any better than someone you matched with on a dating app. You still have to vet just as hard. At least Hinge tells me their education level, job, religion, whether they want kids or not, and a lot of other basic stuff that helps me waste less time on incompatible people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 07:56 PM
5

Guys like this don't deserve to ever get a 2nd date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:39 PM
12

I think a healthy mix of IRL and OLD is good. I already have a very busy life between school, work, working out, and spending time with friends and family. I rarely meet guys in person except for the occasional guy who approaches me at a bar or something, and those guys are also on OLD so there's literally no difference. Dating is a numbers game and I want to cast as wide a net as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:24 PM
50

It's a no from me dawg, and any normal man would understand that. Many times I've declined a last minute date and the guy never contacted me again. I see that as a dodged bullet. Why would I want to go out with someone who doesn't even care enough to find a time that's convenient for me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 02:51 AM
15

LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 01:39 PM
17

You're expecting way too much from Hinge/OLD. If a man texts you too late, don't respond until the morning. Mentioning a friend isn't "triangulation," it's normal. Triangulation is a man telling you about other romantic prospects. You just get way over invested in someone you haven't even met yet and waited by the phone for his text for 6 hours. Just play it cool and be more indifferent, no one wants a super clingy texter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 01:21 PM
32

I pushed for this with my ex and thank God he dumped me instead. I was such an idiot, his apartment was always filthy and he was a piece of shit boyfriend and human being in general. I'd do it after getting engaged. I don't want to be a forever girlfriend and I know from experience that bf/gf relationships are low commitment and can end abruptly. Plus I don't fully consider myself to be taken without a ring, and if I decide I want to take a step back and explore other options I need my own space…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:01 PM
10

Would any medical doctor actually tell him whether they think she's a virgin or not? Not to mention if his daughter is sexually active but isn't telling her doctor to test her for STIs, he can seriously fuck up her health with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:57 PM
63

No, that's extremely rude. Block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 01:30 AM
9

This is what's motivating me to continue my strength training and not reach for that ice cream at midnight. My physique is only getting better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 12:50 AM
2

I've gone on dates with 2 guys I knew from the past through mutual friends. I met them while I was dating other people. Both were pleasant enough experiences but I didn't really feel a spark with either. It felt more like hanging with a friend and I didn't really get excited when we kissed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 09:19 PM
6

Jeez that sounds terrible. I'm pretty upfront about being "high maintenance" so that my Sephora and ClassPass bill shouldn't come as a surprise to any future partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:07 PM
4

That shouldn't be the case. Even if a guy is attractive he should be faithful to and in love with the woman he chooses to be with. Conversely, ugly dudes often take your interest as an indicator that other attractive women might be into him too, or they delude themselves into thinking they're more attractive than they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 03:53 PM
8

I've had ugly dudes tell me my makeup was too much because they wanted to bring me down to their level. Any attractive guy I've dated has complimented my makeup for parties and special occasions, and not complained about the 15 minutes it takes for me to apply it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 03:38 PM
6

Girl. You seem motivated and ambitious, do you really need an older man, with two whole ass kids and a baby mama, holding you back? Even if he was respectful and liked you, it's still a huge red flag. You dodged a bullet. Don't give much older men with kids a chance anymore. Edit to add: having an education and not being a fat slob doesnt make him a catch. Raise your standards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 06:11 PM
4

I would date someone who lives in northern Brooklyn, Astoria, LIC, and maybe even Hoboken but everything else is a no. Most people my age who live outside the city are living with their parents working low paying jobs or still in school full-time. Aka not in the same place in life as me. The few established professionals who live outside the city usually don't like spending a lot of time in Manhattan so we'd essentially have nothing to do together. My entire social life is gallavanting around th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 03:24 AM
10

My cut off is 5'9. I won't go shorter than that and I'm 5'3.5 and wear heels most of the time when I'm out and about. I don't consider myself tiny, but average height for a woman. 5'9 is about average for a man. So I don't have a very strict height requirement, but I do have one. I've found I just don't feel a romantic attraction to men shorter than that, and I want to be physically attracted to my partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 01:18 AM
15

The majority of my friends, myself included, definitely have a preference for tall guys. Most of us are open to compromise on that depending on the guy but the preference is there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 01:03 AM
21

...because of the implication. Sorry, couldn't resist the Always Sunny reference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:07 PM
35

As someone with large boobs for my frame, there's cleavage showing unless I'm in a turtleneck or crewneck. I didn't know that meant I don't respect myself lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 02:40 PM
1

Your instinct is correct here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 05:20 AM
11

Well done! I stan the savagery of just blocking a guy you're "exclusive" with. If only I had the strength to do the same when I needed to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 01:10 AM
7

I usually shave once or twice a week, and periods last only 4 or so days so it never becomes an issue. I do know a lot of women who wax for themselves, I just never started because I thankfully dont get irritated from shaving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 01:05 AM
130

Not looking overdone is ironically the hardest part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 09:01 PM
69

I buy myself pretty bras and underwear because it makes me feel beautiful but having underwear is a necessity anyway. I'm not buying garters, thigh high stockings, lacy nighties and God knows what else unless my man has really, really, gone above and beyond to impress me. So far I haven't felt a situation warranted all that work. Hopefully one day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 08:49 PM
51

Yes! Yet another reason not to lower your standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 06:17 PM
222

I do my hair and makeup and shave because I enjoy how it looks but I draw the line at paying for waxing or buying lingerie. Men aren't worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 05:58 PM
7

This is the right answer but whenever I try to do this I can't seem to find anyone else worth on going on more than 1 date with until the thing with the first guy has either started to get serious or ended anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 09:38 PM
54

I dated a psychiatrist that had more mental and emotional problems than almost anyone I've ever met. Those fields attract people with those issues because they want to try and figure themselves out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 09:28 PM
44

I just stopped talking to a guy for future faking me about us travelling to see each other! He sent me sooooo many AirBnB links to houses we can rent, but never followed through with booking any of them even when I told him which ones I liked. The last straw was when we talked and he said he'll come visit me in my city when his job sends him there for work, which probably won't be until the end of the year, if it even happens at all. After 10 weeks of almost daily talking and late night video ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 09:09 PM
7

By 25 your personality is finished developing. Guys in their 30s aren't more mature just by virtue of their age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 02:33 PM
8

In Hinge you can hide conversations without unmatching! That's a good in-between. I doubt you're missing out on much by unmatching after 1 week of no contact though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 03:11 AM
15

Did you ever try looking up the hours online? I wonder if he would still insist on going there even if it said online it was closed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 02:44 AM
14

Have you tried just...not caring that much? Who cares if you have someone sitting in your matches that hasn't messaged you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 02:38 AM
12

And the kicker is they weren't even poor themselves. They owned a house in an upscale suburb, numerous cars, and put all their kids through school with my ex's mom only working 10-15 hours a week. They ate out constantly at mid range restaurants. Compared to most people they were still quite privileged but were soooo insecure about my parents having a nicer house and traveling more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:09 PM
21

This attitude is so toxic. My ex and his parents asked me super inappropriate and nosy questions about my parents' financial situation. "Oh your parents are on vacation for the 3rd time this year? Wow it must be nice." Or when my job for the summer fell through one year in college. "What are you gonna do with yourself? How are you gonna make money? You better hustle and get a job at the mall" when I was living with my parents and had next to no expenses anyway. They also told me they felt our re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 04:15 PM
10

If the guy didn't text you for a few days, would you reach out to say hi or just write him off?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 05:18 PM
3

I was having an internal struggle like this earlier today. I am a very passive social media user (other than reddit). I use it to support my friends by liking and commenting on their content, or connecting with people through messaging, but I don't post publicly. Haven't posted on Instagram in over a year, same for FB. I feel uncomfortable posting in general and when it comes to social issues, I don't think that I have much of a platform or that anyone really cares what I have to say. I also fel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 08:21 PM
17

It got to the point where some of his nicer friends and colleagues were asking where I was and saying "Invite devoushka next time, she's always welcome!" He played dumb like he just forgot to ask me or assumed he wasn't allowed to bring a +1, even to a casual gathering like a holiday happy hour at a bar with his coworkers and their partners. Even now I'm shocked when someone actually wants me around for more than a couple hours and will leave someone's house earlier than I need to, even if I wan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 06:22 PM
33

This is bringing up my PTSD from being in a relationship where my ex would go out of his way to exclude me from things that his friends girlfriends were invited to. He saw our social lives as 100% separate even though we were in a committed relationship. He never failed to trot me out at holidays and family events to show off his perfect smart nice girlfriend to his family though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 05:38 PM
12

Exactly. All this man deserves is indifference. They want an emotional reaction out of you! What hurts them the most is being left on read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:54 PM
33

Idk calling yourself an expensive investment and smart and complicated is a bit much. Your actions should signal that, you shouldn't be going around saying that. If a guy shows you he just wants something casual or can't/won't invest in a deep relationship with you, just move on. This just makes you look like you have a chip on your shoulder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 02:17 PM
8

Imagine if this screenshot is spread far and wide and eventually someone who knows Mr Colin here sees it and tells his family, friends, employer.... That would just be awful for him /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 04:53 AM
4

This would be a huge turnoff for me personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:35 PM
80

This is why you don't share your sexual history with men. There is literally no reason for them to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 06:08 AM
3

I've found that if people aren't in a place to receive your advice, there's zero point in giving it to them. If a friend asks me for relationship advice I will give it to her but that's it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 05:18 AM
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Serious question. Where do you go that men approach you in real life with the intention of asking you out? I live in a big city and go out often to nice bars and restaurants, workout classes, parks, coffee shops, pretty much anywhere you can meet people. I always dress well and have my hair and makeup done. I'm 5'3, 25 years old, in shape and while I don't think I'm a super model I know I'm conventionally attractive. I only get approached by a guy maybe every other time I go out to a bar and I'm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:56 PM
28

I'm finally starting to internalize this. Honestly all it takes to make me not want to fuck is imagining the guy ghosting me or fucking another girl right after. Which, unless he's a HVM who has demonstrated strong interest in me, he probably will do. Nothing dries up your vagina faster!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:27 PM
9

I've literally never seen someone list a fish tank as a relevant fact about themselves. Is that impressive? I don't really want to live in an aquarium.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:17 PM
9

All he has to offer is his money, but he wants a woman to split the cost of his extravagant house? Seriously why do you need 10 bedrooms unless you have 8 kids? He'd probably expect her to pay her share for skydiving and elaborate vacations too. If I had the money to do all that I think I could find a hotter guy to do it with lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:15 PM
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I dont really get what they expect? Money, cooking skills, ability to speak multiple languages, juggle, do a handstand? I feel like no matter what it is they'll keep moving the goalposts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:10 PM
2

Oh yeah. If they're boring, just stop responding. Negative reinforcement lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 06:24 PM
38

I've never been called entitled for my standards in real life, only by anonymous neckbeards on the internet. This is because the people who know me know that I'm a fucking catch. If you've actually seen me, had a conversation with me, and know anything about my life you can clearly understand why I deserve the absolute best. So I don't sweat it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 12:24 AM
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Me too, and when I wised up and started blowing him off he was like YoU cOuLd hAve ToLd mE yOu DidNt wAnt tO AnYmORe. Like shut up, you always acted like you owe me nothing, so I don't have to communicate shit to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 11:35 PM
3

As if his love has any value whatsoever🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 11:31 PM
12

I literally was just having a convo with an OLD guy about work and intentionally downplayed it for this exact reason lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 05:17 AM
20

Omg. I had 2 cases of BV in the 2 months I was sleeping with this one guy I dated. This was probably why......ew. Literally never having sex again lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 04:54 AM
3

I would say 90% of the oral I've gotten has been good actually. But it's not that hard to make me cum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:55 PM
9

I have a 2 strikes and you're out policy for rescheduling dates. If you do it once, whatever, shit happens, I'll just say "that's fine!" and it's on them to reschedule. If they do it twice, I assume he's just an asshole and next him. It would be really hard for a guy to come back from cancelling on me twice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:53 PM
3

Also, I assume if you do visit, he has to pay for everything (flight + lodging)? Does paying for any amount of the cost make you a pickmeisha?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:14 PM
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I'd just stop sucking his dick until he starts doing it. Yeah itll make sex more boring but that's his fault. Buy yourself a nice vibrator and rely on that to get you off instead of him. He'll probably get mad, but honestly he should understand that it's only fair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:02 PM
6

This is true in my experience, they either do it or don't. I had one boyfriend who was kinda on the fence about it and I basically told him it was a dealbreaker so he started doing it lmao. He still got head way more than me but I got it like 1x a week which was enough to keep me sane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:58 PM
4

I mean these women are carrying on catfishing schemes for years. Definitely a sign of severe mental issues. I'd be disappointed if a man was ugly after falling in love witb him, and our "connection" wouldn't be able to save it. So I can't really begrudge these guys for having the same reaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:44 PM
8

What's this girls account on tiktok? Does she have more content? I love her dry af delivery and I think she would actually be able to "reach these keeds" (get through to teens/zoomers)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 05:24 AM
6

Omg!! Good for you, I applaud you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 05:16 AM
28

Not to mention it's a pandemic and going to the grocery store is risky and a hassle in some areas. We're having issues getting food delivery where I'm at and are scared to catch the virus at the store so we limit how often we go. If I was expecting ingredients for dinner to be delivered and they weren't and now I have to go to the store that's actually really stressful in this time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 05:09 AM
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You said it better than I could. It tells me what subculture you associate with. Wearing salmon shorts with a vineyard vines belt? You're a frat boy. Wearing a lacy bustier crop top with skintight ripped jeans and clear heels. You're an Instagram/party girl. Wearing a smart suit with ferragamo stilettos? You have a high powered career. Likewise, if you're out and about with pajama pants and unwashed hair, you're probably depressed or completely ignorant of social norms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 06:06 PM
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Honestly, I judge everyone on what they wear. Not that I'm saying you're not good enough to be my friend or you don't deserve respect if you dress a certain way. But it does tell me something about you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 04:44 PM
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I met a guy at a bar, he was decently cute. After hanging out for a couple hours he asks me to come home with him and I'm like uh no? I was def more of a Pickmeisha then so instead of just leaving I was like well maybe we can hang out another time and he was like I won't have time because I'm going on vacation it's now or never 😅 Like wow I'm so in love with you I cant possibly wait until after your vacation to suck your dick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 05:07 AM
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Yes, this is an extreme thing that only fanatically religious people do. Unless you are in an ultra religious community you will probably have a really hard time finding men that will wait until marriage to have a kiss. And yes even HVM will be weirded out and won't want to proceed if they can't even kiss you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 01:34 AM
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Or guys who make little effort to move the conversation along. If you send a message without a question or interesting observation, or any variation of "haha okay," how do you expect me to respond? I think a lot of them are just boring or stupid and have nothing to say or ask, but some are probably playing games and trying to see if I'll keep messaging them despite them putting in zero effort to stimulate me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 05:52 PM
11

And it's arguably the biggest factor in determining physical attraction. Hence all the jokes about "do I like him or is he just tall?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 04:45 PM
12

I must be lucky because even though I've had some shit boyfriends they always celebrated/bragged about my academic/career achievements. When I got a near perfect score on the GRE my super toxic ex was excited for me. And I hear guys bragging about their girlfriend or wife's career quite a bit. But that's probably because I live in a really career oriented culture where people are workaholics and obsessed with status.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 04:43 PM
1

Looking at fashion inspo really helps spur my creativity. I will scroll through fashion blogs, magazines, Instagram, just taking in all the different outfit ideas and take note of what I like. Then I consider what would look good on my body type. Sometimes I'll find a fun skirt or pair of trousers and find cute tops in different colors to match. Just have fun with it and make sure not to buy stuff that doesn't match anything in your closet or you don't feel comfy in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 08:44 PM
2

I used to have an insecure attachment style and now I think I've become avoidant. I had a couple of really bad heartbreaks within like 6 months of each other and now I'm kinda like empty inside. I don't even want to get to know someone unless they remind me of my most recent ex. Like that's the only thing that gets me going. Probably time to get back into therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 07:51 PM
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I've seen you post this here like 5 times. Either break up with him or accept the situation and stop asking for advice on the same exact topic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 07:46 PM
2

She's only okay with giving up her agency because she thinks it'll ensure that he stays committed to her and helps her financially. If he ever cheats on her, beats her, or refuses to give her money she'll be singing a different tune. And they're not even married so she's not actually entitled to anything financially. Idiot. Where are her parents?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 07:03 PM
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Yesss, crossover between 2 of my favorite subs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 04:15 PM
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Yes I felt like this might be a watershed moment for Shaughna watching it all play out on TV. Hopefully she uses it as an opportunity to grow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 04:12 PM
10

Proof that insisting on the man paying for dates is a good way to ensure you won't end up with some broke clown who can't afford to travel or buy a house with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:23 PM
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He never stopped to think that her girlfriend prefers scrolling through Instagram over spending time with him because he's a boring piece of shit? I'm sure given the ultimatum she would've prefered to keep the social media and lose him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:20 PM
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It's cute that they try to paint us with the same brush as male incels but it's literally not possible for a woman to not be able to get sex if she is open to it without commitment. Unless she lives on a deserted island, maybe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 03:45 PM
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So true! They went us to give up these small benefits of being a woman even though we haven't even come close to achieving equality in the corporate world or in society. When studies show that men do 50% of all housework, and 50% of all Fortune 500 CEOs are women, that's when I'll be okay with paying on a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 03:43 PM
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I commented on one of those dumb r/unpopularopinion posts about who should pay for dates saying that I won't see a guy again if he doesn't pay. Someone mentioned FDS and I was like wow this sub is not extreme at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 03:38 PM
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Intermarriage is super common so if he says it doesn't matter to him, that could very well be the case! I would treat him as any other man - if he doesn't seem serious after 2 years, move on. I don't even particularly prefer Jewish guys, but I've had been rejected because of my religion before when dating someone who wasn't Jewish, so just to protect my heart I primarily only look for guys who are Jewish. If a non Jewish guy expresses strong interest for me and treats me in a high value way, I w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 03:23 PM
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I deleted my Bumble because 90% of the men on there were looking for "something casual." I'd rather they be up front of course but I can't help but think that most of these guys wouldnt have even had the option of getting casual sex a generation or 2 ago. Women really fucked up in allowing this to become mainstream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:36 PM
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I'm annoyed by guys asking for social media (roundabout way of asking for photos) or straight up just requesting photos because like you, I have 6 clear photos including multiple full body shots on my profile. If a guy asks for additional photos I just tell him he already has 6 and that should be enough, or just stop responding. If a guy wants to see what I look like he'll have to set up a date (virtual nowadays) and actually invest 30 minutes of his time into talking to me. If he won't do that,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:24 PM
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I've noticed something like this to a lesser extent in the Jewish community. Typically Jewish women want to marry Jewish men, while Jewish men just want to get their dicks wet, although they do usually eventually want to marry a Jew if they get married at all. A lot of Jewish men are high earning with white collar jobs so that's not too hard to find, but if they happen to be over 6 feet tall and not hideous on top of that? Holy shit they literally think they are God's gift. Sadly gorgeous women …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 01:03 AM
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I'm American and I have no idea. In my socioeconomic class it's pretty rare. I've dated French men before and in that culture from what I can understand it's kind of expected to have kids before marriage. They think it's more proof of your love or something? Idk sounds like bullshit to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 12:38 AM
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Seriously, this is her fault and her fault only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 12:35 AM
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All true statements. I've been there and I support you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:45 PM
3

If this is truly the first time he did it then yeah a bit of an overreaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 03:46 PM
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From what I can tell, expecting a real diamond engagement ring worth more than a couple grand is only a controversial thing on Reddit. I've literally never met an engaged couple in person where the woman didn't have a ring with a precious stone, usually a diamond, occasionally an emerald. All of my engaged friends, acquaintances, coworkers have pretty flashy diamond rings. Liberal men on the internet will have you believe that's outdated but that doesn't reflect reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 03:39 PM
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Sounds like you think your behavior is what caused the relationship to fail but you guys just weren't compatible. Don't beat yourself up for how you acted towards him, but rather reflect on why you didn't recognize that he wasn't ready to commit. You deserve to have someone love you as much as you love them. Your clinginess isnt the problem it's the fact that you were with the wrong person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 03:27 PM
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Maybe I'm too bitchy but whenever things haven't worked out with a guy I've never once said "wish you well, hope you find what you're looking for." Not that I want them to be miserable, but I'm not actively wishing that they end up happy either. I'm just indifferent. OP is nicer than me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 03:19 PM
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Men can be dense, but I think it's common sense to most of them that if you met a girl on a dating app, she's not only chatting with you. Having said that, you don't need their consent to talk to anyone you want. Honestly if you don't have a ring on your finger, do you girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 11:01 PM
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I've been having the exact opposite experience lol. Prior to quarantine I was dating a lot and lowkey addicted to male attention. The more I had sex, the more I wanted to keep having sex. Now I've gotten so comfortable being alone, working, studying, reading, working out, talking to friends and family and barely even texting with any men, that it's going to take a really great dude to get me to break my celibacy or get in a relationship. I'll let them take me out if it's on a nice date but they'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 09:45 PM
1

I think most people misinterpreted your post. But I think the FDS view on this is that if you've acted in an LV way, you're LV unless you "level up."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 09:21 PM
1

What I'd like to know is if I meet a man and find out he acted in a LV way in a previous relationship, should I assume that he'll do the same to me? I'm currently talking to a guy who dated a girl for 6 years until she dumped him, probably because she was tired of being a forever girlfriend. He said he never saw her as "the one" which begs the question, why was he with her for so long?? On the one hand, if she wasn't the one, fair enough. I've also dated people I shouldn't. But I definitely thou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 09:16 PM
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90 days is really long. Usually I can tell if the relationship is going to have longevity or not around the 6-8 week mark and that's when I'd feel comfortable having sex. If we've made it to 90 days without sex I probably dont see a future with that person or I'm not attracted to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 06:58 PM
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I dont understand having multiple kids with someone you're not married to unless you just dont believe in the institution of marriage which I doubt is the case with her. One kid, okay fine, your BC slipped up. But 3?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 06:35 PM
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Thanks for this post. I feel like I reject a lot of HVM because I'm not attracted to them, but what can you do. My family thinks I'm too picky but I want someone I'm attracted to. I'm not looking for a model, just a well groomed, healthy, tall-ish dude without a receding hairline.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 04:09 PM
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It's so annoying when guys use what they did in their family as an excuse for not conforming to basic societal standards. I understand your parents were weirdos Bradley, but you're living in a society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 03:52 PM
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I agree with everything on this thread but honestly not everyone has the brains to succeed in business. Not saying all strippers are dumb but I'm sure most of them are only qualified to do unskilled or very low skilled labor. So I get why someone with the assets to strip will choose that over the struggle bus of working in retail or fast food.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 03:40 PM
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I'm sure the car is a lease lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 03:34 PM
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Agreed, it's a way to build someone up and make them feel slightly better after the humiliating experience of getting pumped and dumped. I've had that happen to me pre-FDS and when I complained to girlfriends about they don't want to come off as slut shaming, they want to make me feel better so they told me "whatever, you got yours sis. He doesnt deserve you" etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 03:30 PM
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Well I'm really happy I've never texted a man to confirm a date, even before FDS it just never sat well with me. It is really annoying to not be sure of what my plans are for the day in advance but I'll never go out with a guy who doesn't confirm and suggest a time/place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 04:39 AM
3

After a few weeks on Bumble I realized that I don't get a higher response rate whether I just say "hi" or if I actually put effort into it. I deleted it a couple of weeks ago because I couldn't find anyone that could carry a conversation except for fuck boys that wanted me to meet up with them for a hike or "drinks" in a parking lot somewhere. These guys of course disappeared as soon as I said I'd rather wait until after corona to hang out. I honestly feel like the woman having to message first …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:46 AM
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Being on dating apps during covid has been a massive waste of time, you're not missing out. There's nothing to talk about because everyone's sat at home and it's so hard to keep a conversation going for months without having met in person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 05:44 AM
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I recently matched with a guy on Hinge I was somewhat interested in. I was a bit surprised he hadn't messaged me so I went back and saw that his profile says "I want someone who is bold enough to message first." I'm in a drought right now, my friends are getting engaged left right and center and I only have guys hitting me up for sex. So I briefly contemplated messaging him first which I would never do. But then I was like nah fuck that. I want someone who will message me first as well, and why …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 05:41 AM
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Total future faking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 05:30 AM
2

I had a man tell me I can always call him if I'm ever feeling depressed or anxious. A week later he ghosted me. Lol. I was very much on the fence about him and knew he was full of shit but it's like why tell me something like that? Truly psychopathic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 05:30 AM
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What the hell? How do you keep a conversation going without asking questions?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 05:25 AM
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Honestly the only thing I need a man for is to fulfill my goal of having a nuclear family with a husband and children. No matter how happy, stimulated, content, etc I am that is still a life goal of mine and I don't think it's a bad thing. And no I don't have interest in raising kids alone. But this is good advice for people who are just starting to work on themselves and learn to be alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 04:59 AM
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I know, the conversations always start out the same exact way and I'm just tired of asking and answering questions. And then waiting anyway from 6-24 hours for some dude that I wasnt that attracted to anyway to be like "so what do you do?" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 04:50 AM
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This is why I honestly want to keep dating other people until I have a ring on my finger. I don't want to commit to someone unless it's for life. Idk how that is feasible though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 04:40 AM
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I feel like this only works as a temporary fix. He will chase you for a while until you go back to normal. Unless you want to keep up an ice queen facade your whole life it's probably best to just call it quits when he starts to do this. Fully agree that the guy has to love you more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:18 PM
10

"Fuck this gay earth" lmao the angst
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:09 PM
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You're not stupid for sending a text. You're just not that good at playing mind games because you're not a psychopath. It's not a bad thing! No point in beating yourself up about the past, just don't respond moving forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:05 PM
2

I was taking to a guy for all of 2 days on OLD when he asked me if I would meet him the following morning at a state park a 45 minute drive away from me. I made up an excuse to decline and as we continued texting he revealed himself to be a LVM. The pandemic is showing me the importance of chatting a lot before going on a date, because pre-pandemic I probably would've gone on a date with him at that stage and wasted my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 03:20 PM
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I'm also 25. I honestly think I already found my soulmate but I'm not with him anymore. I hope someone makes me feel that way again but I don't expect it to happen. I know what you mean by a relationship just clicking, I've experienced that with a couple of people before. In those situations it's always obvious from the first date. I just recently met someone who gives me that feeling but of course he lives across the country from me so I don't see it actually working. I've been wondering if the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 06:10 AM
1

6 months seems like a pretty appropriate amount of time to wait to start dating after ending a 3 year relationship. Nothing here to really judge imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:38 AM
1

I did this and the guy did chase for like a week or two and then was back on his bullshit again. It won't get better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:27 AM
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I had the same exact experience, when my ex pursued me he texted all day every day, literally as soon as I said yes to being his gf he felt it was okay to leave me on read for 15 hours. I said that wasn't okay and he basically laughed and changed nothing, and I stayed with him like an idiot thinking "it's just texting." I think if you get out now you'd be way better off, or downgrade the relationship to non exclusive, telling him he's not meeting your needs so you need to be free to meet other m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:19 AM
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Same, I hate 2 of my exes for belittling me, emotionally abusing me, and otherwise using/disrespecting me. I don't go around telling new guys any details unless they explicitly ask, and I'd never come right out and say I hate them, but the feeling of hatred is definitely there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:14 AM
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I'm also of Eastern European descent and my mom definitely has some pickmeisha qualities. I remember when I was younger my parents screaming at each other and it was definitely my dad's temper that was making the fights pop off. He mellowed out by the time I was a teenager but when I was younger he would use very harsh, abusive language to my mom for no reason and she'd just take it. Funny you mention the soup and dinner on the table by 6 thing, because he definitely expects that, although he wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 03:30 AM
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I've already been quite picky about looks, height, and intelligence, but I'm now categorically opposed to casual sex. I'm never doing it again. I never sought out casual sex, but it "just happened" because I thought the guy was hot and fucking him boosted my self esteem, or I was just lonely and craving an intimate connection. I did have some very good sex with very hot guys, and I definitely enjoyed some of it, but I feel very comfortable closing that chapter of my life. It wasn't all bad, but …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 06:14 AM
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I don't tell them anything unless I'm forced to, i.e, my dad wanted to drop something off at my apartment on an evening when I had a date, he kept asking what I'm doing that I won't be home so I just told him the truth. My parents mean well but don't have a fucking clue about modern dating so talking to them about it is pointless. Also most of the time it's all bad news so, maybe if one day a man surprises me by whisking me away on a romantic vacation or buys me 10 dozen roses I may tell them ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 06:01 AM
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Whenever they say this I laugh because my my makeup stays on even if its sprayed with water. Unless that pool is full of makeup remover, it ain't budging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:20 PM
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I'm definitely no expert but the relationship conversation usually comes up organically at around 2 months in. It should become clear if he wants to be with you or not at that point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 09:14 PM
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I think writing "I don't do hookups" is pointless. It just tells guys who are looking for an easy hookup to lie to you about wanting a relationship even when they don't. Listen and observe, a guy who just wants to hook up will give himself away quickly. Saying you want a relationship feels like giving them the upper hand for some reason. I think it's better to not bring up relationships for a while. What's the point when the guy is still a virtual stranger? It's a bit premature. Again, the guys …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 06:52 PM
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Why do you feel trapped? Seems like you have family and friends who love and care about you. I'm sure they hate him too and are just too polite to say it to your face. They would support you through this. If you "owe" him any money from vacations or anything at all really, just ghost him. Don't pay that shit back. Consider it a payment from him for putting you through grief.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 02:37 PM
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In New York most people in my social group (young professionals) do take care of themselves, men and women. I see lots of both at my gym, men usually in the weight room or running and women doing cardio or classes. But yeah every single guy I've met lately who is on my level looks and career wise who doesn't have a nauseating personality has a serious girlfriend or wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 02:21 PM
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Thanks girl ❤ it sucks but this community helps a lot. I feel like I'm starting to be really secure in who I am and I know I'm a catch any way you slice it. I'm not responsible for someone else's doubts. And neither are any of the other women here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 09:07 PM
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My cable package doesnt include TLC - do you know where I can watch the current season? I've seen all of the seasons on Hulu and I'm dying to watch this lol Hulu takes too long to upload new seasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 07:25 PM
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Like when I broke up with my ex but in his mind the conversation wasn't over because he was in denial about what happened. He didn't message me for 2 days afterwards, then on the 3rd day he texts me asking for an update on the situation. I'm like dude, it's over. He ended up telling his family and friends (and even group messaging my friends 😅) that I dumped him over text. Oh and he and his buddy cornered me in a bar the following weekend, threatening me until they got thrown out by security. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 07:17 PM
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Yes I've been talking to a guy throughout lockdown that I went out with twice before it started and we clicked incredibly well. We talked almost every day since our first date which was almost 2 months ago now. 3 days ago we are sending each other snapchats back and forth and he leaves me on read. Still haven't heard from him. I know I shouldn't message him but I am very disappointed, we video chatted dozens of times, he set up "dates" for us to watch movies and TV shows at the same time while v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 12:13 AM
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Wtf. This is why kink shaming is necessary. Can you imagine indulging in something like this and not even having the shame to try to hide it from your partner? And this man has children. Dear lord I can't imagine how I would react if I found out something like this out about my father. It definitely has pedophilic vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 09:15 PM
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That's why I didn't give him the satisfaction of following him back lol. I actually just checked to see if he still follows me and he doesnt😅 Blocked and deleted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 09:07 PM
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I just had this experience, but with insta. I literally only have insta to laugh at memes and DM memes to my friends. My last post was a year ago. Anyway I matched with a guy who seemed decent. He asked me if I have insta, I said I don't use it much so he dropped it. Some time later, he gives me his insta and tells me to follow him. I ignore that and keep chatting. Finally, he asks me directly, do you or don't you have insta? I barely have any photos of myself on there so I was like ugh fine, he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 06:37 PM
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That's why this sub preaches that you should fall in love with the way someone treats you. That way no one gets an easy pass just for being attractive, which is something I've definitely fallen for in the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 06:30 PM
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Getting my heart broken repeatedly by guys who when I looked back didn't have much to offer me. Getting sucked into unfulfilling relationships in which I gave men too much power. Overlooking red flags. Making myself believe that low effort was enough for me. I already knew that all of the above were patterns for me but needed the push that this sub gave me to actually work on fixing it. I would occasionally get good examples and advice from people in my life but that was muffled by all the overl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 03:04 PM
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Their audacity is offensive. They should be thrilled to have your attention, not playing with your emotions to boost their own egos. I'm not saying they should respond to everything instantly, they should have their own lives as well. But 24 hours or more, without so much as an explanation? Nah. As to why they do it, I really don't know and I don't think it's our job to figure that out, because you can't ever truly know what's going on in someone else's mind. I think my LVM did it because it boo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 03:18 AM
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Well, now you know he doesn't give a shit about your wants/needs and he wasn't taking so long to reply because "he doesn't know any better." It's common sense not to leave someone you like on read for >24 hours, and it's normal to be offended that you're literally getting ignored. Don't give him a second chance, trust me I know from personal experience it doesn't get better. My ex started doing that barely 2 weeks into our relationship, and I still stayed with that clown for nearly 2 years. If I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:51 AM
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Somewhat similar...a guy on Hinge asked me if I'd cook for him on our first date. I said not a chance, but maybe if we're still dating several months later. He just stopped responding lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:46 AM
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Just had 2 guys who I thought could be HVM ghost me - the first at the 8 week mark and the 2nd at the 7 week mark. The trash takes itself out I suppose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:30 AM
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Lol yep, like with my ex who did not value me despite me being way out of his league, I tried to compensate for his lack of care towards me by cooking for him, taking care of him when he was sick, even ran an errand for him here and there. I used to think that in a committed relationship you're supposed to do your all to make the other person happy. I didn't realize that I should've waited to see what he did and reciprocated exactly that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:04 PM
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LOL so true. I've been sleeping a lot during quarantine, normally don't get out of bed until 11 am. I've actually been thankful that I can do whatever I want without thinking of how a significant other is going to judge me for it or having to consider their wants/needs during lockdown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 06:06 PM
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Yeah that's true. I don't think divorce makes anyone a bad person by any means.
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