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Ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/22 10:12 PM
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Why? I was talking about a specific group of rotten people who purposefully hurt and abuse people. What's wrong with calling them demons? There's nothing wrong with it, but as always you'd rather focus on me than the real issue. Ive never used or abused a person in my life but I'm a female incel because I take issue with those who do...riiiight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/22 09:56 PM
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I call them demons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 11:21 AM
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Yep. I hate that so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 02:39 PM
11

That guy is trash. I hope he suffers for his hypocrisy but he probably won't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 01:37 AM
2

So true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 09:19 AM
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So true. The crazy things they want to do to women now because of porn is honestly absurd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 02:01 AM
17

Yep! It's truly tragic because trauma is no small thing to deal with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 01:07 AM
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Really, though, no one's having good sex with these men because they don't desire the wife enough and they don't respect the women they're cheating with. So it's just bad times and trauma because these guys or too narrow and stunted to see women as complex beings all because they want to be able to do degrading porn shit with one and give the impression of being the stand up good guy with the wife. Really, they're split but, as always, they project their insecurities onto women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 01:01 AM
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This makes perfect sense. Damn! I've never really thought about the complex but she explains it perfectly. Great video! This is also one of the reasons why so many women are having unfulfilling sex with men. How can you have great sex with someone who doesn't desire and respect you? It needs to be in alignment...respect, consideration, desire, etc. Really, it all comes down to a lack of emotional intelligence in lvm. They are stunted by their selfishness, insecurities and entitlement, and it man…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 12:45 AM
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WTF to her recommendations about joining OF and dating older men?! This chick is not your friend. Really, you can also treat friends the same way fds recommends treating relationships. She doesn't seem remotely sincere or positive. I would leave her alone. I really don't know what world we live in where a friend recommends sex work especially one who doesn't do it themselves. That's some crazy shit to me. There's no reason to even rationalize it. Clearly, she's making you feel some type of way. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 12:16 AM
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I agree. I think this is the case for a lot of women or some mixture of the two cases.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 03:17 AM
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Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 03:13 AM
6

Happy for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 03:00 AM
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Great idea! I like this because it takes a concept they use to degrade women and turns it back around on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 09:39 PM
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Men abuse the hell out of consent now by using every trick in the book to get a lackluster ok or yes for sex just so they can say it's not rape. I'll take it a radical step further and say it should be against the law for guys to ask for or initiate sex with anyone other than a longterm partner. Because as it stands, a lot of rotten guys are just manipulating vulnerable women (low self esteem, mentally ill, peaple pleasers, depressed, etc) into consent, knowing full well what they're doing. Cry …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 06:00 PM
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The thing is, these men are fully aware of what they're doing. Yes, you have to reflect to prevent it from happening again, but a lot of people don't understand how diabolical low value men can be. The abuse and change in character is not by chance. They play a role so they can abuse you, and they are fully aware of they're intentions from the start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 04:35 PM
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I've noticed that a lot of people don't think there's anything wrong with this if the women are older than 18. Yes, the target teens as well but some are good about going after adult women with issues as well so they can side step any blame. However, the fact that, for the most part, the degradation is mainly for and towards women makes the foul agenda so obvious. Predators and abusers are always looking for ways to get away with their bad behavior. It's crazy that they've managed to legitimize …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 02:18 AM
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So true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 05:39 AM
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How refreshing! Parents not coddling rotten kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 04:45 AM
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Amazing response!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 11:24 PM
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The sh*t men get away with is not cool. They've pretty much taken full advantage of consent. I bet he asked for it and she relented. Consent is just relent for vulnerable women who, unfortunately, don't care enough about themselves for whatever unfortunate reason to take care of themselves. These guys take advantage and they know it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 01:05 AM
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Scum, absolute scum. I hope someone tells her about this soon. It's not even to have sex. They literally want to destroy women for an ego boost. Damn shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 11:32 PM
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Daaaaaaamn, she's a BOSS. She handled that promptly and correctly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 10:23 AM
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Well, what awful consequences do they suffer for this deplorable behavior? It's far more likely that the women in these stories will suffer more consequences in society than then men who did the awful mess. How frustrating and sad?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 03:12 PM
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Anything to excuse their behavior. It's your fault for thinking I'm a human capable of empathy, kindness, consideration and decency, but when we say otherwise we're men hating women without just reason...of course lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 02:54 PM
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As always, thinking of himself/ themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 08:22 PM
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I can't thumbs up this enough but unfortunately I only get one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 08:21 PM
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Perfect lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 08:13 PM
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Thanks for the recommendation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 01:57 PM
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That's something rarely mentioned about reckless hypersexuality in women...that it's usually a symptom of a bigger issue, but then it might make it more difficult to slut shame if people understood that the women were hurting or confused in some way. Best wishes on moving passed the past. I hope you're able to forgive yourself. I understand the pain of disrespecting yourself with guys who don't deserve you. It's painful but crap like that only happens when you're going through things. One of our…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 10:16 AM
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Not at all. I've thought about this a lot given my own bad experiences, and for my own sake I had to learn how to carry those experiences, and I refuse to count guys who don't deserve it. I count them as the abusers and manipulators they were. Truly what happened with them didn't feel like sex in the sense of pleasure, desire, passion, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 08:14 PM
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I think it's up to you on who you count or if you count. Only you know why you're having sex and you're the only one who has to live with your sexual history so you decide how you want to carry it or share it. Also, so much sexual contact is either forced, coerced, manipulated or unwanted...it's better to put all of that in a different category so it doesn't ruin sex for you imo. Some guys really don't deserve to be counted so don't count them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 07:15 PM
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So much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 07:12 PM
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How did the stereotype for feminists go from men hating lesbians to whores? That's crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 07:08 PM
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TRUTH!!! (yes, I'm yelling this)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 07:58 AM
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That's how I got f*cked over. As always, it's such scummy and predatory behavior. This is why I stress that it's best to not be friends with guys or to even allow them to think you're friends because you never know when or how you'll be vulnerable. It's so crazy because rotten people have like zero empathy but they are so intune to spotting vulnerabilities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 03:33 PM
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It's expected but still disappointing. Apparently their hurt feelings mean more than women protecting themselves. My feelings are hurt that you think of and treat me as a potential predator until you know otherwise so fuck your safety and precaution. That's the gist of their anger. I find it absurd that so many people pretend like many men don't act like sex fiends, and that women should be cautious around men they don't know won't hurt them. They seriously want us in a vulnerable state to be sc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 09:46 PM
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Coerce you into any sexual activity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 11:23 AM
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Men know the horrors of every rotten thing they do. They just don't give a fuck. This video had me lmao though. I will definitely remember this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 03:29 AM
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A lot of LVM have a rape accusation in the past. Sometimes they'll even bring it up and claim that it's a lie. In any case, awful people are great at pretending but they are what they are so they'll usually tell on themselves in some way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 01:12 PM
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Kate?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 06:27 AM
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Same. Being like this only makes you a target for predators, narcissists, control freaks, etc. People love to take advantage of the weak. Although, I do think it's pretty damn shitty that people blame people pleasers and pushovers for the shitty shit rotten people do to them. I mean, yes, you need to protect yourself but their abuse is all on them and their fault. Nobody asks for abuse or to be exploited otherwise it wouldn't be abuse or exploitation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 11:58 PM
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Portnoy was probably some ugly dude in youth that got no play, found a way to get rich and now he takes out all of his rejections on naive young ladies. Insecure men are the absolute worst! LVM are such followers. This rapist ugg mug is their idol?!...Of course. They're all the same ugly insecure pieces of shit that want to do what he does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 04:44 PM
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All the morals for women while men behave like demons. Of course!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 04:25 PM
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This dude is a straight up demon that preys on weak and naive women so he can abuse them without repercussions. It's a damn shame what scum gets away with. I feel awful for these young women. These situations are the worst because they have the trauma to deal with and will be blamed by most people. It is truly unfair. Our society literally props up violent rapists to detriment of girls and women. The bar is in hell for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 04:23 PM
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I hope this is explored more because I think it could genuinely improve the sexual dynamics between men adn women. Studies already show that women regret casual sex more than guys especially when they didn't initiate it. So, I think instead of just writing girls and women off as hoes, that people need to be aware that something deeper is going on, and they may need help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 05:37 PM
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Great response. This is right on the money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 05:25 PM
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I love this lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 05:10 PM
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So true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 05:03 PM
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Right as if guys like this have anything good to give including pity. No matter how they try to spin it, those ungrateful bastards always get more from casual sex than the unfortunate women participating. The only thing any of them should write is thank you but look at this BS...the audacity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 04:35 PM
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Insecure ugly men are the damn worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 04:23 PM
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I think something may be wrong with some of the women participating in risky unfulfilling sex. For me, I ended up in bad situations (completely opposed to my normal standards) when I was dealing with mental OCD related to sexuality. So I'm able to recognize that something is likely off with women participating in casual sex which is really self harming behavior. It could range from low self esteem or people pleasing to a skewed view of sex due to past abuse to a mental illness. A women who truly…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 04:09 PM
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Ugh...disgusting and despicable. I am glad it did not escalate to that point. It's funny how he had little concern for the person he's having "sex" with but had so much consideration for his friend (it was most likely planned by both of them). Guys like this are great manipulators. Why even ask something like that as if it's not something that requires more thought or something you can ask for yourself if you want it, but he's thinking...what else can I get her to do, how far can I take this, ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 02:39 PM
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I don't really know how to classify it, but I know it's not right and it's rampant in society because guys get away with it. I bet this guy was thinking the same way as a rapist...his motivations were the same, he just went about it differently, and that matters imo. Everyone screams consent but when guys are literally targetting the inexperienced and/or the mentally ill to convince them to do harmful things, it's predatory and it's not ok imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 02:10 PM
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I wasn't like that either but I learned to think and be like that. A lot of people want to tear your down for selfish ressons. So we have to build ourselves up and keep ourselves there. Why not?! I've seen plenty of shitty people think highly of themselves. So, there's no reason to be uber critical and unnecessarily humble. This mentality is all about protecting yourself. Once you know what you deserve, you will never accept or allow less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 02:04 PM
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You're not off base. Listen to your intuition. Plus, they get paid too much money to be impartial ears. I'm starting to approach all interactions through FDS lens, and if a therapist is not helping and guiding you to a better you, they shouldn't be in your life imo. So, good on your for leaving them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 01:20 PM
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It's not bragging. It's knowing your worth. How fortunate that hetero men get to leave these bloody experiences, pretending like they did nothing wrong. I swear we live in twilight zone sometimes, but it's just patriarchy (the worst shit in the world).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 01:04 PM
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I hate that you experienced this. I, too, am trying to recover from being taken advantaged of while in a vulnerable mental state. It's tough but I believe it can be done. As everyone else has stated (FDS is so bomb for this), this is not your fault. You were literally targeted and manipulated probably because of your lack of experience. It's something to learn from (the tactics bad people use and how to better protect yourself going forward) but it shouldn't be carried like it's your fault. Best…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 12:57 PM
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So brave. I hope you get the justice you deserve. I truly do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 11:58 AM
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Wouldn't it be wonderful if men who placed an importance on virginity also stayed virginal until marriage?! I agree, don't tell but if he finds out and he has a problem with it, leave him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 10:16 AM
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Thanks for the recommendation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 07:53 PM
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She didn't really have a chance. Terrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 05:14 AM
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Damn, she must know how foul this all is. I don't know the purpose of sharing vids like this if you're still with the dude and protecting him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 11:40 PM
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Most men are, which is why they are so horrible. Fronting like they're the best at everything. Pot meet the kettle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 11:14 PM
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Damn straight! It's so messed up that so many women have to l learn this lesson the hard way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 07:55 AM
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And why they brag about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 02:39 PM
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Yeah if these men really knew why most women are having casual sex they wouldn't be able to deal so they lie to themselves...oh, I must be attractive. Yeah, that must be it rolls eyes. Delusional as long as it suits them. You're not sleeping with her because you find her attractive but of course it couldn't be the same for her. LVM don't give a fuck about the truth. They care about feeling good about themselves and will use anyone to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 02:35 PM
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Consent to men means convincing. That's not sexy at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 09:09 PM
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And men don't give a crap about the damage this does to women. They will actually blame the woman for agreeing to it. When has any man ever done anything that doesn't benefit him? A man would never so we should never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 09:06 PM
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Right like who would justify this shit?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 08:36 PM
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Truth!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 05:10 AM
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It should be criminal for men to ask for sex imo. If a woman wants sex, she should be responsible for initiating it unless she's in a relationship and signs a document stating she doesn't mind if he initiates. Studies have shown women have more sexual regrets and trauma than men. So, women should have full control over sexual interactions to prevent trauma, regret, unwanted pregnancy, etc. It's not enough to say no, that's why we have all of this coercion and manipulation. Rotten men don't give …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 03:34 PM
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I read about that. Casual sex is more like self harm with all the risks and dangers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 02:49 AM
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Thank you! I'm glad you caught it early and cured it. Men usually have symptoms from gonorrhea so he's knowingly infecting women. Despicable asshole, good on you for warning others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 02:45 AM
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Why does he have it for life? Did you have symptoms? They say it's usually asymptomatic. Eta: Asking out of genuine curiosity and knowledge. I know about super strains of gonorrhea that are bacterial resistant, but I didn't know it could be incurable for other reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 03:14 PM
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I think a lot of people struggle in silence. Mental health is just as important as your physical health so, if you're struggling, try your best to get proper help as soon as you can. There are two parts to our being, the mental and physical, and if one is out of wack it will negatively impact the whole. If you have a broke arm, you go to the doctor asap, but people don't do the same for mental health. However, it needs to be treated like any other ailment imo because the potential damage it coul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:59 PM
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Why was I watching the new Cinderella recently and thinking the exact same thing. Eta: I had the thought at the beginning of the film. The film ended up being way more progressive, which was refreshing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:40 PM
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Congratulations! Once you experience the good you'll never accept the bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 10:50 PM
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Dodged that bullet...congrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:48 PM
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In my experience...fast friend, selfish (talls about self a lot, selfish in bed, etc), rarely takes responsibility for anything (pretends like he will but always blames someone else), manipulative (always trying to get you to do shit to see if they can control you), limited range of emotions (either anger or contentment from some form of validation or by hurting others), no respect for boundaries, constant put downs many cloaked as criticism, says one thing but behaves in a totally different ins…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:07 PM
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It's sad how normal this is. This is what your average insecure shitty pick up artist joe is doing now. Porn is reality now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 04:23 PM
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Honestly, this is something parents and schools need to teach because you're literally a target for predators, and it's especially needed for women because these guys want to sexually degrade you to oblivion. A nice guy might be out of a little money but a nice woman will get a dick everywhere it can go and most places it shouldn't go. It's a cold world. However, I also wish they would deter people from being predators. I mean, these guys are not really made to feel bad about their behavior. The…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:56 PM
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In my wildest dreams, I would never ask a person to do any of the humiliating things they do in porn. So, what is really going on? This is not even about sex. It's about dominating and degrading women so they can feel powerful. Then, they don't want to take responsibility for the mess. How many of those women ask to do these things vs someone asking her to do them? It's so unfair and upsetting because it causes a tremendous amount of damage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:38 PM
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Right. They think it's ok to degrade another human who did absolutely nothing to you. To treat someone horrible for...fun. Come on, that's sociopathic and they have the nerve to sit in judgement and ridicule, and society allows it. Most of this humiliating shit would never happen if some horrible man didn't ask. They find a weak and/ or vulnerable woman (she said she didn't know how to say no) and they take advantage so they don't get stuck with the rape sticker. She gets stuck with the whore st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:28 PM
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It's not going to stop him from cheating or leaving. Men walk all over women like this. Many are incapable of appreciating and reciprocating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 06:15 PM
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Congrats on being rid of that mind f*ck. I hate abusers! He would only get worse so good on you for checking out. He doesn't know how to communicate and would rather play mind games to control you. He's a stunted person who needs help but probably won't ever self reflect enough to get it so he'd rather make others miserable. Goodness, imagine being so awful?! Like why, you two could have had a good time together but he'd rather you both be miserale over a peek at your phone. The thing with abuse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 11:34 AM
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It's such a simple concept and makes perfect sense. If someone is making you unhappy or uncomfortable, remove them from your life asap. She's clearly high value and I'm sure you are as well. I love to see and hear about women being straight bosses for themselves!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 11:15 AM
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You're not alone. I understand the confusion and shame you live with because of the past. It feels unbearable, but you're doing good to seek therapy. I genuinely hope you get to a point where you're able to live and thrive with the trauma, to somehow minimize it enough to feel better about life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 09:45 AM
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Go Sister! (for cutting people off quickly when they act up)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 07:45 PM
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For the most part, no. Screwing women is seen as a badge of honor for a lot of men. For them to change, they would have to change their perspective on life and their way of living. I don't think it's impossible but it's highly unlikely for most l/nvm, especially in a society that enables them to be cheaters, porn addicts, sexually irresponsible, etc. If they change, it would have to be a total change like a true reset of their mind, changes like that are rare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 12:54 AM
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Damn, this whole comment is so true and awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 12:40 AM
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Better the narc than the victim of a narc. They say many people have narcissistic traits but that true narcs are rare (idk how true that is).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:59 PM
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I learned all of this the hard way (targeted by narcs at work). Honestly, I wish they taught these things in school or something. After you're a victim you learn but it's too late then. The bad shit has happened. Everything that FDS teaches basically protects you from dating narcs, and the concepts can and should be used for all kinds of relationships and interactions, not just romantic ones. I initially found FDS looking for support for narcissist abuse so this is a good post imo. It's all abou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:57 PM
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In my experience, they kiss their asses (people with healthy boundaries).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:33 PM
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Who would possibly think this is cute?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:05 PM
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I think you should do whatever you feel is going to make you feel better. If you move forward with reporting this and it's too rough, you can drop it at any point. Whatever you decide, I really wish you comfort, and I hope you overcome this trauma. Narcissistic abuse is pure retrospective hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 01:50 PM
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Spoiled rotten!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:46 PM
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I hate abusers. They're just cowards who manipulate and exploit weak and vulnerable beings. Nothing but demons, spreading misery wherever possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 11:23 AM
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It feels good to find true contentment in life. Good for you and your girls!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:29 AM
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It's good that someone said something, but seems like she already figured it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 05:57 PM
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Thanks for mentioning this Bancroft tip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 01:04 PM
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Think about someone other than himself...never! How could he pretend to be the victim if he did that?! Self enabling 101...never take responsibility unless it benefits me to do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 12:52 PM
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It's not my fault...one of the go to concepts from the classic n/lvm playbook. Later to comr...not all men, men too and men have it worse. They're so predictable. That's how you know they're full of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 12:49 PM
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Great vid and thanks for sharing. I learned a lot of this stuff the hard way at work, unfortunately, but once you learn you notice that they all use the same tactics. I wish I knew about this stuff before I started working. It would have saved me a lifetime of pain and regret. The thing with these people is consistency. Once you recognize who they are, be consistent in how you deal with them even when they pretend to be friendly. Everyone who f*cked me over the worse pretended to be a friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 02:00 AM
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N/LVM blaming someone else all their crappy lives. The end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 01:16 AM
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Lol pretty much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 01:13 AM
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It is disturbing. When you think about all of the bad things that happen in society, a large number of those things are because of men and their lack of empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 08:13 PM
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Some of these guys really are devils. It doesn't matter if there's good in them if they're treating YOU like shit. You're just a punching bag for some shitty insecure abuser. If only she knew what he really thought of her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 11:56 AM
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Damn, that's sad as hell. She doesn't care about herself at all. If she ever wakes up, she's going to be so upset about this phase of her life. As usual, the dude is a piece of shit for taken advantage, but I'm sure he blames her. He could leave her alone but give up free crappy see...no way. Clearly, something is not right with her. I feel sorry for the child as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 11:51 AM
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If they don't have anything else, they have the audacity. They better thank patriarchy ever day of their rotten hypocritical lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 11:19 PM
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Congrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:50 PM
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Dis true?! It's crazy how she's worried about his wellbeing after. Lady...WAKE UP!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:39 AM
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These are really good. Thank you for sharing. I wish more people understood a lot of these things. It would change a lot of the dynamics in society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:15 PM
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That is beyond awful. I hate that you experienced this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 08:28 AM
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OMG the stress of getting tested for STDs and the risk of pregnancy is like no other. It is scary as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 08:27 AM
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Yeah, there's definitely a problem that needs to be further explored and resolved. Thanks for sharing the article.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 07:38 AM
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Go Riri!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:30 AM
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I like that they are publically recognizing the negative impact porn is having on society. A lot of people try to blame this on young girls for not being assertive vs boys for being awful. All of this is painful to read because when will it really change? The sexual dynamics between men and women have been getting worse for a long time, but the masses refuse to address it. I'm tired of young girls and women having to learn hard lessons they shouldn't even have to learn. This shit is blantantly i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:08 AM
31

All wins are major imo. You handled that wonderfully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 11:34 PM
11

If this isn't spot on...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 11:30 PM
48

They think if you can get her to do it, it's all good but what about the whole...get her to do it...sounds sexually consensual?! These are not chores, this is access to a woman's body and possible endangerment to her physical and mental health and well being. Gawd damn right it's rape!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 11:27 PM
10

Congratulations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 11:22 PM
2

Thank you and same to you. That's the goal, to do better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 11:11 AM
2

She knows. One thing I have learned is that people screwing you over know exactly what they're doing. As long as they get away with it, they don't care and can pretend like they don't know as long as they get what they want. This is a big deal! We spend so much time at work. It's a big deal when you feel like crap at work and/ or it intrudes on your off time. This is such a tough predicament to be in because...it greatly impacts your livelihood but it's worth it to fix imo...whether that's a new…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 10:59 PM
5

Congratulations and best wishes going forward!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 06:40 PM
2

Thank you and you're right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:07 AM
9

Work has been my hell too. I've had to deal with the worst people I have ever met at work, and they all pretended to be friends (self proclaimed). They need to prepare people for the true workforce because trying to be a team player, helpful, etc will get you f*cked up at work. I wish you well. It's a tough spot to be in. It seems like once they have your number at work you're locked into that box and trying to get out feels impossible. I'm going to try for a new slate by looking for a new job s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:12 PM
5

I'm trying my best to get there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:07 PM
16

Lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:05 PM
39

Agreed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:58 AM
69

They gotta care about you, which is why casual sex is no good. Eta: There's always exceptions but, in general, you've got a better chance having good sex with guys if they at least care enough to make sure you enjoy the experience. Not pretend caring, fr fr listening to you and your body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:55 AM
54

I think the main thing is honestly to avoid lv/nv people. They like to cause damage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 11:08 PM
56

Yes!!! It should be mandatory for all women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 10:52 PM
25

You would hope so, and I think anyone with a decent level of self esteem and awareness knows how to separate the two. However, the problem is when people got sh*t going on that's already skewing their reality. They tend to look for anything to guide their behavior because they're too confused within themselves and this is where this type of crap can influence bad decisions. Of course, it's no excuse but crazy or naive people tend to be desperate and/ or easy to influence in trying to find normal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 08:43 PM
65

Yeah, Im still waiting for entertainment to consistently exude more FDS-ness. It's still so problematic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:44 AM
10

They can dish it but can't take it. Hypocrites...the whole lot of em. Legit, I kind of understand why they needed to brainwash women into believing they needed men...like who would f*ck with anyone who behaves like a nv/lvm otherwise. For real for real, they're behavior is appalling. These men wouldn't date women who acted like them but they're out hear acting like they're a prize for behaving like manipulative neanderthals. Ugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:29 PM
5

Yep, they're aware. That's why they hate and use us. It would change the world for the better if they genuinely worked on improving their insecurities and self esteem from within instead of temporarily boosting from taking advantage of a woman but that would be too hard. They'd rather traumatize someone instead evolving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:27 PM
357

If she's getting ran through, that's your brethren's fault. Tell your homeboys to stop screwing women over. Oh yeah...the obligatory whore and over the hill insults, so predictable. Sh*t is tired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:24 AM
56

It must be nice to think you're so high and mighty you can judge another for doing the same mess you're doing. Superiority complexes, the whole lot of em. The crap women have to dea withl to try and find a mate or to simply live is not right by any means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 05:59 PM
82

Most of these lvm are insecure trash but I don't care. Their insecurity manifests in such awful ways they deserve to be treated as low as they behave and feel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:17 AM
2

Love her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:14 AM
5

That's actually an excellent idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:09 AM
2

I don't care what anyone says, something is wrong when so many women have these horror stories of men. This shit should not be normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:02 AM
50

Patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 10:56 PM
11

Lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 10:44 PM
3

Wow, I feel like this is a sign for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:26 PM
9

I wondered what this show was about. For some reason, I thought it was a suspense crime show. The struggle love movies live to normalize. sigh maybe they feel like it's growth since she's looking to have a baby on her own. Anyways, I'm sure they sre end game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:23 PM
48

Damn, this is so true. It makes perfect sense. All they want to do is hurt women. Kiss a man's ass all day though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 12:16 AM
4

This is a great question. I don't know how healthcare works in the UK, but I was also going to mention planned parenthood or an obgyn with good reviews. Be assertive wherever you go. This is your health, so ask whatever you want, say whatever you need, say no if uncomfortable and if they don't respond the way you like leave or don't return (sounds like vetting right lol). Also, educate yourself on STDs and sexual health for your own benefit. It will scare you into making great your decisions for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 06:50 PM
20

At least she's not stealing all of his money or something because if this was reversed...well, he wouldn't be "friends" with her but let's use our imagination...he would use her for sex, discard her and drag her to his friends and anyone else who would listen. So, he should feel lucky she's still calling his creepy smelly ass a friend, but lvm never think like this. It's all about what they want. I hope she drops all communication with him. If she ever finds herself vulnerable, this guy will exp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 06:36 PM
5

Yes! I'm doing my best to never ignore my instincts again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 06:00 PM
4

Same...it's like what was wrong with me but you know something was wrong. There was a twisted mentality there for whatever reason. I have to remind myself of that but it'll probably always piss me off to some extent for a very long time lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 05:59 PM
1

Right, I think this narrow mentality has gotten a lot of women into some bad relationships. Mainly just feeling like you need a man or husband to feel valid in society. Big up to you for doing it your way. Whatever we do, we shouldn't do it until we want to because we truly desire to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 05:52 PM
50

I'm so glad they helped her. Fuck the "friend" and that old evil man. Look at how hard he's trying to control the situation. That woman speaking is a bad ass boss!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 05:44 PM
1

Right, here and doing better for ourselves!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 04:50 PM
303

It's sooooo hard dealing with the regret, disgust and humiliation but this is a good reminder that you're on the right track.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 12:10 AM
27

You've already survived the worse. This guy is nothing. Reject him and keep surviving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 01:57 AM
27

Wow, disgusting! I hate that you went through any of that. Some of these guys act like they crawled straight out of hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:05 AM
15

Lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:57 AM
2

Great post!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 10:45 PM
22

It's best not to tell them anything they can use against you. Sad, though, and it shouldn't be like that but it's all about the competition and ego for a lot of guys. They want to feel special, but don't care about doing the same for you by caring for your feelings and being faithful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 10:08 PM
67

Everything is about self for a lvm. Oh you were in pain and hated it, but I I I I me me me me...everything will always be about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 10:04 PM
65

LVM like to blind you with their words and screw you over with their actions. They love talking!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 06:49 PM
1

It feels so good when the trash is gone. I remember feeling similar like shouldn't I feel sad but nope, I felt like a war was over. These guys are bad news and it's all the better when they are out of your life. Now, you know your worth, you know if it doesn't feel right, it's not right and can recognize the signs to avoid similar situations in the future. This was just a lesson to learn. No sadness just valuable knowledge! You're ahead of the game because you see the truth imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 06:46 PM
6

Wow, you are spot on like..damn lol. FDS is so refreshing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 06:31 PM
63

Lol! Right, that's not an insult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 06:20 PM
2

I hope this doesn't sound bad (I know it's a breakup) but I'm happy for you. You should be proud of yourself for putting you first. You're absolutely right about the sex and everything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 06:10 PM
56

That's all con men do at every opportunity too. So true about the emotional abuse as well. Guys always look for loopholes to trashy behavior. They work so hard to look like a good guy instead of just being a good guy (that's full rotation back to the 1st quote and why they have to say they're so amazing at everything). Great reminder. Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:48 PM
3

Truth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:44 PM
14

Lol you've got to read it to the end but that's hilarious. I was rolling my eyes until I got to the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:12 PM
3

Such a good post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 02:38 AM
10

Yeah, I'm like f*ck that too. People who abuse you just because they can...hell no. They don't deserve anything but contempt. The only reason they (the abusive scrotes) ask you to forgive is to prevent retaliation. They could give a damn about you moving on, and this is further proof that they were always aware of how horrible they treated you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:04 AM
63

It's so crazy how shitty people will be when they can get away with being shitty. I've met very few people who will not take advantage of or manipulate an easy target. You see the lowest of people when you're a doormat (I say that in the gentlest way possible), which is why you must change. People really don't deserve that kind of consideration off the bat, they need to prove themselves worthy of your thoughtfulness. I suppose that's pretty much what FDS is about. Congrats again because I truly …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 04:15 PM
27

I'm so happy that you've reached this point. I've had similar issues and I'm trying my damndest to change things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 04:09 PM
13

Yep! Dude in the video was unsettled by the truthful questioning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 02:30 AM
37

Truth hurts right lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 11:20 PM
118

That video sums up the average lvm perfectly. It's ok for him to do whatever but women who do the same are apparently not good enough. Delusional hypocrites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:22 PM
7

Yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 09:21 PM
3

Yeah, it is still important to get because types 16 and 18 cause the most cancer. I wish there was a way to test for HPV through the blood so you know what types you already have. The vaccine can only protect against the types you don't have, but the latest version protects against 9 types (I believe).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 06:23 AM
3

Sometimes I read this sh*t and it's like...I don't want to shame him but he literally wants to do the worst crap in the world to some unfortunate woman...the least he deserves is shame. Too many things are truly off and wrong in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 05:32 AM
10

Teach him to expect rejection and how to handle it. All of the bad guys I had dealings with talked about a past rejection. They take that rejection out on any woman they can, usually a vulnerable woman...mentally ill, too kind for her own good, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 05:30 PM
10

A sociopath/ narcissist said something similar to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 03:45 PM
41

Pretty much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 03:43 PM
91

She's right. Take it from me, you want to avoid these bad experiences at all costs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 08:14 PM
86

Porn free for 40 days and he thinks that's enough to rewire the brain. This is a doozy for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 07:36 PM
26

I have it saved, guess I'll go ahead and watch it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 08:04 PM
26

Yep!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 08:02 PM
30

So many reasons...it's easier than admitting the truth, they truly don't see it, may be a mentsl illness, social conditioning, low self worth, etc. You really never know what's going on with a person but it's truly sad when they're being mistreated and undervalued. I allowed bad shit while mentally ill, but I'maure.most think of me as a stupid fool even the healthy me has a hard time understanding by past behavior, but I couldn't see the extent until I got well. It all boils down to not caring o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 10:16 AM
3

Good on you for wanting to help her. She's blind right now. So, I doubt if anything will work but there's nothing wrong with trying. She really needs help, though, because she doesn't love herself enough for whatever reason. Good luck and those poor cats. I hate how cold the world is for fragile women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 04:25 PM
21

I am bug eyed right now. How disappointing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 03:35 PM
5

That makes so much sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 03:24 PM
4

I hate the awful men get away with this mess. They should never be able to nut anywhere near another living being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 03:23 PM
2

Good content in the video. I think he's spot on and it's refreshing to hear a man trying to teach boys to be better people and being honest about how many view women as objects and think of consent as a game to win. I wish videos like this went viral. To me, this is a global issue that needs to be addressed. It's just crazy that basic decency needs to be taught. This is not above and beyond. Good guys (hvm) really need to be mentors. I think that would make a world of difference. You have this P…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:25 PM
1

I think they like getting the resistors. To them, it's like hunting prey. Doesn't matter if you want to do it, actually even better if you dont, if they can get you to do it, they've achieved something and get an ego boost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 11:50 AM
1

But they still don't want to be called rapists. All of this manipulation, premeditated planning, etc and it's not rape??? It's definitely not right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 11:41 AM
32

They call this consenual?!..Damn monsters. This is premeditated manipulation and exploitation. It's so hard for girls and women heavy sigh. ETA: How about just leaving her alone and letting her decide if or when she wants sex. No more grooming or tactics...damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 05:06 AM
14

It must be nice to hold everyone else up to standards you don't live by. And the low value cycle continues...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:53 AM
70

I don't know why it's not an option to say no either. I hate that they're able to do the most deplorable crap and then brag about it. Really though, how about not manipulate and coerce. I highly doubt women are throwing themselves at these guys vs them playing a role to get what they want. People talk about easy women like they're the worst but not a word for the guys taking advantage of them. Not a word to the fact that women may be "easy" because of past abuse, poor mental health, etc. It's ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 06:17 AM
3

Lesson learned for a lot of us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 09:27 AM
3

That's the thing, when you have emotionless sex you always feel like you have to up the anty to get a high from it because it gets boring. It's like they're porn viewing habits. Most start out with the tame stuff but it gets boring so they move to more extreme viewing. However, if they experienced how good emotional, vulnerable and mutually pleasurable sex feels, the authenticity and passion of it, they wouldn't feel the need to do crazy things. A lot of guys really don't understand true intimac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 08:22 PM
92

Go Selena! Damn straight!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 07:56 PM
42

If you're dealing with anyone who can't take responsibility for their behavior and honestly self reflect and change (not say it but change in behavior), get the hell away from them. All they will do is enable their shitty behavior so they'll always blame someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 10:34 AM
25

And we're still not out there committing the vast amount of crimes. Imagine if women reacted to all of the ill we deal with the way many men react to a simple rejection or not getting his way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 10:18 AM
15

As long they keep blaming someone else, they'll keep being the problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 10:13 AM
11

Exactly and truth be told only someone who isn't trustworthy would ask or expect anyone to let their guard down simply so that they can be seen as not dangerous. It's all self motivated and not based on facts. Statistics and experience tell women that they need to be on guard with men and women aren't responsible for that so we shouldn't be responsible for making it not like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 09:57 AM
2

Right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:15 PM
8

So true, they want to rape but they don't want to be called rapists. Women suffer a great deal because weak ass man can't find another way to feel in control, which they think they're entitled to be in control simply because of their gender. It's so angering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 07:04 PM
13

I can't imagine being ok trying to trick, manipulate or coerce someone into having sex. I mean, why don't men want to have sex with women who want to have sex with them when they want it? This can't possibly be good sex even for him so maybe the goal is to hurt women which lends itself more to the fact that it's rape. Then, to avoid the label, the gaslighting. It's all so dispicable. I don't know why so many think sex is like a hand shake or a pat on the back to be stealing and coercing to get i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 06:45 PM
25

51% is high, damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 06:05 PM
3

Thanks for the explanation. It makes sense, it really does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:56 PM
3

Wow, I always got a stronger vibe from her than that, but there might be more to the story or maybe she's changed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:05 PM
5

Not Mandy Moore?!?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:58 PM
5

Lol he knew he was a crappy lover so what does he do, blame you. Insecure boys and men are selfish trash. I'm sure he was young as well but that was lousy how he treated you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:42 PM
8

He's loose, that b*tch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:37 PM
12

As the post said, no ones telling the whole truth because most people aren't willing to be honest about how awful a lot of guys are. If you aren't assertive and confident, you should not sexually mess with men at all. Most are blaming womem for making bad choices, not speaking up and not being assertive but there's a whole other problem that society refuses to address. Most women simply get taken advantage of even during consensual sex (usually coercive in some way). How many of these experience…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:34 PM
29

So beautiful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 04:14 PM
109

Abuser ain't sht. Of course he looked down on her, they need to feel superior to someone. It's one reason they abuse. I hope she leaves his "changed" ass. I hate ain't sht people!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:29 AM
317

Then, men need to have sex with women who truly desire them..not the ones they can convince to have sex with them...and give women pleasure so they'll, you know, desire them. Men want everything how they want it without giving anything in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:10 PM
3

You're right, you cannot be friends or even nice to many guys. Best wishes in this meeting (if you decide to go through with it). You were being a human, he was being a manipulative predator. You're not responsible for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:02 PM
17

Everything comes down to sex for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:49 PM
32

Sounds about right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:20 PM
29

So much effort to be scum. I wish I could say I was surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:19 PM
170

Good guy, that's damn near an oxymoron lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:12 AM
21

LVM will screw you out of everything without a care in the world or a 2nd thought about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:08 AM
56

I look at this as one step above rape because rather than flat out raping, they're going after easy prey to take advantage of. The lack of regard, the objectifying, the exploitation, etc is all the same. Ugh! I hate that men get away with this. It's so damn rampant. They get a cute little nickname like fuckboi and it's like...no, this is a whole damn sexual predator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 08:59 AM
36

Most people reading this would find nothing wrong with it but it's like...geez, this guy is 40 and messing with vulnerable women, a 24 yo in AA and naive 19 yo. He's wrong and foul as hell and he knows it, but so what they're adults. I hate how almost anything is allowed if a woman is 18 plus and you can convince her to say yes. Eta: It's not ok to target vulnerable people at any age and they're should never be any convincing to have sex imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 08:53 AM
40

"Men overestimating their abilities"...explains everything lol. It's great that toys can get you an 11/10. Really, there's no need to put yourself at risk for subpar sex. Get yourself where you want to go! Great post. I'm enjoying the recommendations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:23 AM
22

Hmmm I hope this is fake but when you're blibd, you're blind. She's in for a rude awakening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 09:51 PM
10

This is true and terrible imo. It's great to have a place that understands but this shouldn't be common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 09:37 PM
78

I hate how it's the norm for girls and women to experience or deal with sexual trauma in some form. It's not a joke, this is our bodies and our minds that are being hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:14 AM
51

She's amazing for doing this. I hate hiw much animals suffer because of this people do. Imagine how painful and uncomfortable that is for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 12:49 AM
19

Just being a woman is enough to be honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:20 AM
15

Go Ms. Williams!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 07:30 AM
6

Happy for you and hope that things continue in this positive direction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:48 AM
27

Always listen to your intuition. Put yourself first (love yourself, believe in yourself, etc) in everything you do and with everyone you interact with. If it's not yes, it's no. Stay clear of fast friends (self proclaim themselves as friends quickly), they mean you no good (as least in my experience). It's usually a tactic to create a quick bond so they can control you. Be bold, be you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 12:34 AM
73

It got worse and worse and I'm not even sure the happy ending is a happy ending. I hope she doesn't wake up one day and hate herself for...him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:34 PM
75

Damn...I hope she recovered and moved on. If men don't have anything else, they have the audacity. I swear!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:09 PM
152

Oh my goodness, gonorrhea makes sense for an oral infection. STDs can reek serious havoc if left untreated. That's beyond sad. Even worse, I bet he's great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:40 PM
242

Do you remember what STD it was? She was infected orally? That's terrifying. This is one of the reasons I don't understand why men are so blase about sex, but they're less likely to get infected so that's probably why. Even anatomy enables men to rotten...ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:28 PM
2

Thank you and the same to you. Yeah, it's so frustrating after coming out of it because it's apparently all your fault, but that's bull because they target, groom, and abuse vulnerable women. Of course I own my part, so it doesn't happen again but I refuse to own the part that isn't my fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 02:25 PM
18

Same. A lot of music is triggering and degrading for women but it hits home after experiencing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 02:10 PM
24

The hypocrisy, it's how they live.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:56 PM
7

Yes! The younger the Bad Ass Boss the better lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:52 AM
16

I went through a rough 3 years of mental disorder and unsurprisingly I had the worst experiences of my life with men during this time. I got screwed over every which way that is possible, and I couldn't even recognize it at the time because of what I was dealing with. Abusers know when they see a vulnerable woman who is easy to manipulate and abuse. You're literally easy prey for them to f*ck with and get away with it because you're an adult who allowed it. That's why this is such a great post. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 10:33 PM
11

Wtf kind of thing is that to say or do. Geez, f*cking monster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 10:22 PM
61

Dang, this is from 1983 and it still holds true for the most part, but I think it's required to maintain patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 04:27 PM
3

Probably feeling good as hell...the delusion of grandeur is real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:53 AM
13

The thing is, it's not difficult to get women off. This is not rocket science; it is a clit, vagina and a woman who can tell what she likes or doesn't like. So, what's really going on? I agree, no more faking because men clearly don't mind being placated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:10 AM
8

I truly hope you do. Would he continue to have sex if he wasn't having an orgasm? I've learned that you've got be aggressive and demanding when dealing with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:08 AM
12

Guys like this are so rotten imo. Your body has a reaction that can't be faked when it's real. So they just go with the lie because they're that cheap and desperate for ego boosts. This shows they have no real desire to be good lovers because they lie to themselves as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:53 AM
5

Whoa, sex is a team sport gawd dammit. That's the problem...he's on some every person for themselves mess instead of properly assisting you. What if you acted like that...hmmm. Good on you for no longer having sex with him. You probably should remove him altogether but it's your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:44 AM
12

That's a good question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:19 AM
68

Im glad more women are telling the truth. People need to stop pretending like women get pleasure out of simply sticking something into the vagina. That's total bs. Eta: I mean women should be aroused and many need foreplay (mental and physical stimulation). A lot of this bad sex is mainly because many men don't care to truly give women pleasure. They care about screwing like they're in a porn, which usually means to shove something somewhere into a woman's orifice (how sexy does that sound for t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 09:27 PM
81

It's tough to live with the fact that you allowed yourself to be used. Hard as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 09:25 PM
10

So true about something else motivating the behavior. Sometimes it's also a mental illness or something at play.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 09:23 PM
30

If only the majority of men cared about giving pleasure sigh As always, they're too concerned about themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 12:39 AM
38

A lot of things women do is a manifestation of trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 09:42 PM
13

As always, the whole post is about himself. LVM will never change, everything will always be about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 09:39 PM
1

Yep, just some made up bs to control the narrative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 11:51 PM
8

Ugh....AhhhHhhh...GRRrrrr!!!! It all just pisses me off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 03:47 AM
25

Sounds about right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 08:47 PM
51

This is beyond heartbreaking and sickening, pure evil and what's going to happen to the men who did this...nothing. Nothing ever happens to these evil deviants. It's enough to make you crazy. My goodness...I feel so much for anyone who has gone through this. It's too cruel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 08:51 PM
1

Something a lot of guys mention online about women forming a connection or attachment to their man that prevents the woman from cheating. They say the more partners a woman has the more likely she will cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:00 AM
2

Very cool post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 01:36 PM
43

Yep, I've been through something similar and it haunts me as well. I was good at protecting myself then later in life I lost myself because of a mental disorder and ended up letting a couple of really bad guys get over on me sexually. However, the fact that you hate it is just proof that you've changed so much. I try to remind myself that I had those bad experiences to grow and become a stronger person and as much as I hate them, they're a part of my journey, for better or worse, so I gotta lear…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:25 AM
17

HPV that can cause cancer as well! Plus, there's no official test for oral HPV so use protection for everything or abstain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:11 AM
89

Yeah, I never understood how they were able to project that onto women either. Even the whole, women with many partners are most likely to cheat and not pair bond when...hello, men cheat all the damn time. It's absurd what they get away with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:06 AM
9

I don't think this is that uncommon. I wish society was more honest about this. Im sick of sex scenes in movies and there's not even any foreplay to build up penetration that they pretend is so great. Honestly, I don't know if it's even suppose to feel good. Sex is for reproduction not necessarily pleasure, but it's so misused in today's society because of....you guessed it....men's pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:38 PM
32

I cannot believe the state of sexual encounters these days. The shit men want from women is beyond degrading. The norm is bad enough, but now it's straight up...I want to beat your ass until you cry and pass out. How..HOW...did we get here? We need a hard reboot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:13 AM
4

But they will judge and criticize women all damn day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 01:33 AM
27

This, right here...is the truth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 09:24 PM
19

Dehumanizing women...that's their favorite past time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 12:30 AM
27

Same thing I said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:41 AM
1

Oh ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:12 PM
25

Im starting to hate consent. Why do I have to consent to sex or sexual activity? If I really wanted to do it, I would ask for it, right? Men should be discouraged from asking for sex unless they're in committed relationships imo. Actually, it should be criminal imo. We literally let sexual fiends run amuck in society. Women suffer more damage and take more risks with sex so we should have more control over sexual interactions and no, I don't mean by saying yes or no. I mean by initiating it alto…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 06:40 PM
4

I could read it. I just clicked Full Article.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 06:21 PM
2

I think about going back in time and doing things differently all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 06:06 PM
10

I am dreading it. Mine ends next week sobs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 10:44 AM
21

Hard as hell!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:23 PM
26

That us troubling to say the least. How are these guys going to care about anything if they don't care about a child being raped?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 07:54 PM
287

Yeah, It's good that he told her. Of course, her boyfriend was bragging to another guy about his psychotic behavior. It's crazy how predictable and consistent lvms/nvms are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:54 PM
23

Wtf! This guy is going through a lot of effort to do this. This is insane and premeditated. I hope she leaves him. She can't even trust him to make food.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:52 PM
11

Everything rotten men do is self motivated and if you're in their path, you're just collateral damage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:33 PM
14

You never what a woman has been through or is going through to "subdue" her. However, she needs help, not criticism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:17 PM
4

They most certainly take advantage of that (relying on women to say no or stop) and society allows them to and they are fully aware of that. It is absolutely rape and wrong but they know they can get away with it, which makes it all the worse. I hate that you went through that. You should have never been asked or pressured in the first place. I hate how people can blame women for not saying no or stop vs blaming men for initiating these horrible situations. A lot of men do anything to avoid the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:03 PM
19

For real, I don't know how we got to a point where such degrading behavior is normal for women to deal with in society. It's obviously wrong but here we are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:21 PM
7

I took what you said as men exploiting consent to use it like a rape loophole. I detest how men use the...she consented arguement nowadays when they know they manipulated and pushed a women against her boundaries. Sooooo many people blame women for bad consensual sex, but I wish people would not simplify it down to consent or a lack of no because it leads predatory men to target young, naive, meek and timid women. They are fully aware of what they are doing and the motivations behind it are the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:09 PM
24

Right. A man would never!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 09:05 AM
8

Right, it's not happening to them and they're getting way. End of the story for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 10:00 AM
5

Yeah, it's a challenge (in their mind). There really is no winning with irrational and inconsistent beings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 09:58 AM
3

Damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 09:35 AM
8

For sure, no disrespect or disregard to anyone who has been abused or hurt. I was speaking in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 04:41 AM
58

I get the impression that many men really feel like they're the victims. The same way we call women who cater to men pickmes, they call men who cater to women simps. However, women really are most often the victims of rape, abuse, exploitation, manipulation, treated as 2nd class citizens, etc so...our issues have a long history and pattern of abuse and misuse as evidence. However, men seem to also think that they are victims, which is why they always try to offer a male counter point when these …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 11:48 PM
258

Straight up, men are spoiled rotten by society. Many simply cannot handle not getting their way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 01:54 PM
5

Men gonna protect men because most of them do the same thing. They're so used to doing whatever they want without any consequences. How dare these women speak up?! But silence is a predators best friend so big up to the few who are speaking out and taking the insults. They may never get the appreciation and understanding they deserve but they are brave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 10:10 AM
10

Society enabling men to be the lowest creeps yet again. It's always the same insults, too. sigh I'm glas they're putting him on blast, though. Hopefully, this will prevent others from falling in his trap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:21 AM
3

Me too! It's changed how I look at the world, though, and it's why I found FDS. The guys taking advantage of me were trying to blame me and I wasn't well enough to recognize what was really going on. I feel for any woman going through something similar because you are targeted. It's not solely your fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:00 AM
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I honeslty believe many women participating in casual sex, who stay in abusive relationships, etc are self harming. I had some mental issues that made me hate myself and feel disconnected from myself. I felt lost and hated what my mind was doing. Anyways, I ended up making some horrendous sexual decisions because, at the time, I thought it would help me get better, but in hindsight it's clear that I was determined to hurt myself. After that, I was able to understand that reckless behavior is an …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:54 AM
8

The game is rigged against women in every damn aspect. It's just so unfortunate that this is not a game. It's life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:34 AM
23

The worst experiences of my life involve being taken advantage of while mentally unwell. I didn't tell anyone what was going on but I guess I exuded vulnerability (read as easy to manipulate). Now I'm healthy, but living with the fallout of that is hard as hell. If you know something is not right, I recommend seeking help from professionals or loved ones you trust asap. Women are already targeted just for being women, but add on a mental health issue and it's like a beacon for abusers, predators…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 05:22 PM
3

...And imagine hurting so many girls and women over something they don't even appreciate. Ugh, makes me so angry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 12:35 AM
65

I wish soceity was more honest about how bad many men are at sex, but I know who's controlling the narrative. Most are simply too selfish to be good lovers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:45 AM
9

Thank you. I will look into that. I am happy to research anything that may help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 08:13 AM
3

Agreed, never again hugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 07:21 AM
60

Yes, every damn day. I honestly don't know how to stop, but I have an OCD mind. It burns me to my soul that I let some rotten assholes take advantage of me. Granted, I wasn't in my right mind but I don't think anyone who allows ill treatment is in their right mind because it goes against our most basic instincts to protect ourselves. I've forgiven myself but it's hard for me to leave well enough in the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 05:52 AM
10

Good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 03:58 AM
9

I'm glad you reported him! It's very important to tell someone because then they know to back off. They understand there will be repercussions for messing with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 03:56 AM
2

Truth! They're users, manipulators, exploiters and liars. Whatever technique to get what they want. Then, toss you away like a piece of trash. It's the only way they know how to feel good about themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 05:30 AM
3

Misery loves company.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 05:23 AM
1

It's not even that this dude is a pathetic psycho because we all know. It's just the fact that women have to deal with this shit. I legit wish this scum would get their rocks some where else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 05:18 AM
7

What?! Wow...wow, that's insane. Porn overriding basic knowledge as well. I wish they would stop making porn or at least make it more difficult to get, but if not that, at least combat the damage porn does. I guess people would have to admit that porn does damage first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 03:41 AM
1

Yes to self love and confidence! I truly believe they are the key to contentment in life, especially for women. That's probably why society has always tried to make women insecure about something...to control us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 03:26 AM
8

Surely, they know porn is not real, but they want it to be real so they emulate it...ah ha. Men are largely responsible for porn narratives so all roads lead back to the same thing. It's so unfair. I truly hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 03:21 AM
17

So true. Tell me that's not evil...I'm going to leave a mark on you one way or another so I can feel important and like I did something in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 02:12 AM
21

I've been thinking about this a lot lately, why so many men think it's ok to invade a woman's body without any concern for her wellbeing? Why they don't understand how damaging and digusting it is? They want to put things in your mouth, vagina and/ or ass that don't belong there and probably aren't clean when they put them there. Things that they wouldn't want anywhere near their own orifices but they somehow think it's ok to do to women. This disconnect is beyond sad and frustrating, and truthf…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 02:09 AM
6

Awful but that's exactly how many behave, and then want to pretend to be alpha. Oh please... I hate that the relationship went that way, but Im glad it's over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 05:41 AM
26

So true! Everywhere!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 09:30 AM
13

The podcast is amazing and an easy listen. Everyone did a great job. Great introduction podcast for FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 07:02 AM
6

I wish he would ask the boys why they feel this way and where they got that mentality from. Most of us know or have an idea, but what would the guys say because this is scary. This is boys being boys and they're rapists and heartless predators. By all means, tell them not to rape, but where is this coming from? Analyze that as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:36 AM
13

Many girls and women, unfortunately, have a similar story so you're not alone. The guy was pure scum. I don't understand how you can treat another living creature with so much disregard. It's evil imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:26 AM
27

Many men are cowards. They just want to stay in the boys club. It's the sad truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:08 AM
7

Unfortunately, they consider them easy targets. This is absolutely predatory behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:06 AM
11

Terrible hugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:02 AM
326

I like how they cower to other men. Treating women badly is the only way they know how to feel like dominant men. They're insecure assholes and they know it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 04:52 AM
9

Yep, every time I have ignored my intuition about people I ended up regretting it. Don't even deal with them with a long handled spoon. If your intuition says nope, keep as much physical and emotional distance as possible (even if they are coworkers).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:21 AM
10

They don't care. I feel like if they were capable of truly caring they wouldn't do it in the first place. Some will pretend to be sorry to reduce your anger to reduce any potential negative consequences they may have to deal with (it always goes back to them), but they're not worth giving the benefit of doubt. They simply don't have to regret or care. They're not empathetic and rarely suffer any negative consequences for their bad behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:12 AM
5

It's hard and it huuuuuuurts. You're definitely not alone in feeling this way. This may be the pain you carry that reminds you to appreciate the present. Best wishes in dealing with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 11:10 PM
2

Great post. I appreciate the tips!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:06 AM
14

It is hard being a woman, that's for damn sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 11:28 PM
11

Men don't take responsibility for anything they do. Why constantly put women in positions to have to say no? You never know what a person is going through or if they're not good at saying no (which men take advantage of). This excuse is just passing the buck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 11:18 PM
45

Feeling good about being the scum of the earth, must be nice...I guess. By all means, avoid situations like this, but if you didn't (like I failed to) don't let it define you. Do not let scum like this define who you are. He's the crappy human in this scenario, not you. Basic human decency is unheard of with scum like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:39 AM
5

Yes, it is a big deal and a big issue. He did not care about what you wanted or how it made you feel. It was completely self motivated, but sex is a team activity. If you're only concerned about yourself, self pleasure or use toys, not another person. This happens way too often, and women just carry the shame and burden of it all, as always. We're just collateral damage. I am glad he's your ex-husband. I just wish women didn't have with this so often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 12:00 AM
44

I think this is a huge problem, and I'm glad it's being addressed. More often than not, it's women who have these bad sexual encounters. This begs further questioning imo, is consent good enough, what kind of consent was given, was she coerced or enthused when she consented? Seriously, manipulation and exploitation is all too common nowadays for the good old...consent, which is often more like a hesitant ok or a lack of a firm no. This leads them to targeting women in bad mental places....cause …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:46 PM
3

That god she did something. Sick world we live in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:52 PM
3

Yep. It's all really a nightmare to think about the damage a narcissist caused me, and I wish I had avoided.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:46 PM
44

I'm sure those young women have some interesting opinions about him as well. It's a 2 way streer, least they forget.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 09:40 PM
80

It's only attractive if they control it. It's all about theur control, dominance, ego, etc which they feel they have a right to simply because they are men. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 09:09 PM
130

Never knew there was a name for it, but this is one of the main things that make western men so awful. They take advantage of women for a pat on the back from another man. It's crazy how insecure and awful they act for male approval. Shitty men are probably the worse pick mes ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 09:06 PM
28

You can and should do both. We should protect ourselves but men should also be encouraged to behave better. Otherwise, it's just enabling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:55 PM
16

Very true! It becomes a necessity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 10:22 PM
64

I love her transformation, that she didn't start out the most bad ass woman. She transformed herself into that person. Sometimes when I come to FDS I feel bad about the mistakes I made in the past, but all to become stronger I suppose. Sometimes we start off weak to become strong. Incredibly inspirational!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 10:12 PM
7

It should be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 08:48 AM
35

Selfish man 101
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:03 PM
5

I liked it. As long as you take it for what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:00 PM
38

Yep, that too. So true .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 09:48 PM
2

No, thank you for responding! I really appreciate it and need it. You've helped me think about how best to proceed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 09:25 PM
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He didn't even tell her the truth. He wasn't worried about her discomfort. He needed to even the score in his mind by sleeping with someone too (even though she didn't sleep anyone, she was raped). This is her red flag. I hope she doesn't ignore it. I don't know how crappy men rationalize this crap to themselves. It's insanely wrong and selfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 09:10 PM
16

I watched the whole season. The bad boy neighbor got a little better but the start and middle were very problematic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 09:05 PM
3

It is truly unfair. Honestly, it's best not to deal with men in an exploratory way. If you're with a man, you better be in your right mind, have strong boundaries, enjoy saying no and be assertive, and if you're exploring, you're probably not going to be that way because you don't know what you're doing. It's best to explore yourself first and then slowly move into sex when you've found a partner you love and trust. Most of these bad exploratory phases are interactions with crappy men when you d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 08:48 PM
2

How is everything for you now? Have you successfully moved past the past? If so, what helped the most, therapy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 08:43 PM
77

It's so upsetting because they still push this toxic narrative on teens. I just watched a show called Ginny and Georgia on netflix and the teen Ginny has several toxic interactions with her neighbor, a boy named Marcus. Somehow, this damaged kid is going to be endgame for her lol. Entertainment really needs to do better for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 08:17 PM
11

Exactly. They never address the real issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 08:00 PM
46

I agree, this is important to protect yourself, but a lack of boundaries is still no excuse for bad behavior. People should still be expected not to abuse or take advantage no matter what imo. It's not unfair to expect a lack of abuse without telling someone not to abuse you, but people cough men will get over if they can so we must be proactive is protecting ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 04:44 PM
51

Damn, I hate people preaching this old bs. As always, men can do whatever, but women must stay chaste for men. At this point (moving towards post hookup culture), most women know they should not or to stop having sex with most men because they're shitty humans who don't deserve to...open a woman. I wish these old fashioned people would preach for men to be better husbands for their wives, or even better for the world. No woman is being unjustly opened unless some shitty man is trying to invade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 04:34 PM
28

Exactly! He most likely did nothing for her either, but here is thinking he's her 2nd coming or something. Again, to boost himself. That all men ever do when it comes to women, boost themselves. They'll kiss another man's ass though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 07:53 PM
15

This is a masterpiece! The damage they put women through for so little (to empty their balls and an ego boost) is grossly unfair, and they get away with it...clean scott free. How can this be? Why can this be? It's infuriating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 07:47 PM
2

Yes, it tests for antibodies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:01 PM
2

I was talking about the blood test, which does tell you the type. You may never have symptoms but the virus is still contagious during shedding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:53 PM
2

No difference at all. I wish they would use a fleshlight too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:40 AM
3

I hate that. That is absolutely awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:35 AM
13

Also, don't have any kind of sex if you are mentally ill, unwell, depressed, etc unless you really want to because you desire to do so. If it's not yes, it's no. Honestly, I say no blow jobs, anal, bdsm or vaginal intercourse until you're certain you want that. A person who is not getting you off first and concerned about your comfort is not worth your time. Also, educate yourself on STDs, get tested (don't trust what they say) and be safe for all sexual activity because throat cancer is on the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 11:16 PM
1

Wow, another woman. I am amazed. I always thought it was such a unique situation that not many would experience the same thing. Please pm if you need someone to talk to who understands. I hope you're better now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 11:35 AM
14

Men act like they can't be replaced as well. However, I'd rather they used sex dolls for bad sex than real woman any time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 11:20 AM
4

OMG, I went through something very similar with pure OCD and being manipulated by a coworker who was pretending to be a "friend". Wow, I never thought I would come across another woman who went through something similar. It's bittersweet because I wouldn't wish my situation on any woman. I feel you on not being able to share. Who the hell is going to understand? From the outside looking in, it looks like you happily participated, but little do people know you weren't quite yourself at the time a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 04:23 AM
3

I hope he stays this way or gets better. Also, best wishes on your surgery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 05:23 AM
54

Narcissists are literally the worst. Every thing they do is to create a bond so that they can abuse you and get away with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 05:15 AM
124

So true. Also, don't keep them as "friends" thinking you've got it under control because you never know what will happen to you to leave you in a vulnerable state, which they will happily exploit. I learned this the hard way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:44 AM
9

Unfortunately, her mental is not strong enough to recognize that at this time. Plus, she doesn't know enough about sex to understand it, which is why he targeted her. I hope this is fake sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:26 PM
14

Sex ruined men for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:21 PM
1

Fuck him! Guys can be so disappointing. You know better now and that's what matters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:09 PM
4

I agree. I hate that people think abuse is ok if you can get someone to agree to it. It's consenual is not enough for any sexual activity these days when guys exploit and manipulate women in a vulnerable state for sex. I wonder who initiates most of the casual/ hookup and bdsm sex? I'm sure we can guess. Consenual at this point to me means...could I get her to willingly to do sexual things that she probably doesn't really want to do...because if the sex was good and all parties were happy to par…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:07 PM
12

Science proving what life has taught most women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 02:38 AM
15

I've found that bad people lie to themselves so well they think they're the best people...better than others for sure while doing the most heinous things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 02:33 AM
5

So true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 02:30 AM
30

This is also a grooming technique. It's all shitty behavior to get over on women. LVM spend so much time learning to be shitty human beings to bestow bad sex on unfortunate woman. So fucking disgusting and despicable. How about sleeping with women who display an interest in sleeping with you. Instead manipulating and exploiting women. It seems so simple but they'd rather hurt someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 02:23 AM
3

All these men need a serious ass whooping and poking, to be frank.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:01 AM
2

Honestly, men gotta be brave enough to be genuinely good men (unfortunately).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 03:58 AM
2

It's always to victim blame because most people take advantage of the weak and vulnerable, and instead of owning up to their shitty ways they'd rather put it all on the victim....why didn't you speak up, why didn't you leave, etc. However, abuse is always the abusers fault imo. The abuse wouldn't happen if they didn't abuse, the end. However, it's also important to find out what's causing the victim to stay in an abusive situation so she or he can change their behavior and prevent it from happen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 03:14 AM
5

She's gonna have to see the light when she sees the light.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:16 PM
5

Everybody and every woman is not the same. Tis life, but I'm not going to put their bad behavior on women...fuck that. I'm tired of women being blamed for everything. I want every woman to know her worth and move accordingly as well, but that's realistic for a number of reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:12 PM
2

This...for everything and everyone in life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 02:55 PM
2

I understand where she's coming from. I think we need to warn against bad sex but also how to get passed it if you fall victim to it for whatever reason. Sexual regret is one of the biggest regrets for women, but I think it's more about self than anything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:56 AM
39

I agree. The intentions are the same imo. It's just a long term attack instead of quick. Unfortunately, this is pretty much normal and standard in our society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 05:18 PM
8

Many women in these situations don't orgasm. I honeslty think it's mainly about their own orgasm and ego boost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 10:00 AM
1

Yeah but most of the time they initiate it. I mean, who knows why she's participating, she may not be well. I suppose the truth doesn't matter, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 08:29 PM
1

Me too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 08:26 PM
2

Whaaaaaaat?!?! Frustrating and disheartening to say the least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:37 PM
5

Exactly. It's rape, pure and simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:29 PM
62

I don't think these men care if women have any positive feelings during sex. Rapists want to hurt you and the goomers, coercers, manipulators, etc don't even care if you really want to have sex (hence the underhanded tactics). It is truly selfish behavior imo. It's so crazy, though, because there are so many alternatives, but they still want to cause damage. I think that must be a part of it as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:13 PM
57

I suspect the odds would be much worse if we included groomers and manipulators, which aren't that much better than rapists imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:02 PM
6

The fact that they would add it to her sexual history vs recognizing it as an unfortunate traumatic experience she had no choice about speaks volumes. If it's not this, they don't want to deal with the trauma. In any case, it's always for selfish reasons. Men are selfish as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:45 AM
1

All I know is if I was her, I would consider him amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:39 AM
1

Men are so insecure. I hope she got out of that relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:56 AM
3

Everything is only when it comes to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:42 AM
2

Conquests? How many of those women even had orgasms. Dan can't handle the truth of how mediocre he really is. This is why they keep doing what they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:36 AM
5

Non-consensual consensual sex because it's always consenual...supposedly. Consenual may be the most abused word in relation to sex at this point. Did she want to do it or did you get her to do it? I wish people asked that instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:24 AM
2

Happy for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:16 AM
11

I agree. I think patriarchy really does them a disservice as well, but they don't recognize it because they seemingly get their way but you can't tell me it feels good to be heartless and to not be able to truly love and appreciate your wife and children enough to not cheat. To constantly need shallow ego boosts by damaging unfortunate girls and women. That can't truly feel good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:05 AM
13

I can believe it. What more perfect of a facade is there? He probably feels it was consensual (i.e. he groomed and manipulated them into doing things I'm sure they regret). Men are going to men I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:00 AM
17

It never fails, many only care about themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 02:48 AM
8

If they're with them, they leave. If they're not with a vulnerable woman, they're trying to have sex with them. What's a vulnerable woman to do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 02:45 AM
7

Or how about just leaving us alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 02:27 AM
11

Wow, this is beyond troubling. I feel horrible for this poor girl. An entire fire department of predators. I don't know how anyone can believe this was ok. At this point, consenual is such a triggering word for me because it's used to justify so much bad shit. This is so obviously wrong, the law letting children and women down once again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 02:25 AM
3

Very true. Thank you and everyone else for the kindness and understanding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:40 AM
2

That's true. I was thinking of sexual misconduct altogether. I feel that, in general, if they tempered men's sexual desires, the bad to awful sexual experiences would greatly diminish and maybe more would get their ego boost and need for power some other way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:36 AM
5

Exactly. It is an option even though they act like it's not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:12 AM
3

If this was for me, thanks. It was bad situation a but it probably was for a lot women who have been through it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 09:13 PM
8

Thank you. I try to show myself kindness now, but it's a constant struggle to be honest. I appreciate the sentiments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 09:09 PM
17

I feel like you might be talking about me lmao (the unfortunate coworker). I quite possibly have the most pathetic and despicable story in the world all driven by my mental illness. Before my mental illness - I knew better, during my mental illness - hell on earth being used for sex but couldn't recognize it, after my mental illness - I have no idea how I was stupid enough to let it happen and don't really know how to recover from the ill treatment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:56 PM
2

Don't tell men anything about your sexual life or lack there of. Everyone is right, they're predators. Any information you give, they will use it to trick you. They will also try to trick the information out of you like...oh, I thought you were sexually active...still, do not respond in a way that will give them any information. Always protect yourself no matter what! It is truly dangerous for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:41 PM
11

Not only that but they will also talk shit about her to everyone else. Like they can actually judge but they do. Talking about rotton hypocrites, but why not...they get away with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:07 PM
30

I wish men would not sleep with women they are not interested in. No, women should not be friends with benefits but some women find themselves in relationships with guys like this. I just hate how basic consideration is lost on shitty men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:05 PM
5

I completely agree. I wish people were more aware of these possibilities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:53 PM
5

Maybe she eas bipolar or a victim of sexual abuse. You never know. In any case, low value guys will exploit any weakness, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:44 PM
3

His bad behavior is all on him. Who knows what's responsible for her behavior, but she's only hurting herself, unfortunately. Hopefully, one day she'll leave his awful behind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:39 PM
11

It's clear to me and anyone who is honest about society that men have a proclivity for sex. So, instead of trying to manage sex through women, society should have tried to temper men's sexual proclivities but that would make too much sense and this is a patriarchal society so...there's no way that was going to happen. If women had control over sexual practices (they initiated sex for the most part, controlled sexual content and practices for the most part), sexual misconduct and perversion would…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:27 PM
34

Hell, they should barely be allowed to work with grown women as well. It's really a shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 10:49 PM
2

Yeah, guys do prey upon women at work by pretending to befriend them when all they want is sex, but any woman who engages in this behavior is especially hurting her reputation, job, body, etc for someone who doesn't care for her. So no matter what, mental illness, fake friendship (which is grooming by the way)...women must have strong boundaries. Keep in mind, men gossip more than anyone so always protect yourself. I wish people could go to work without having to deal with this mess, but life is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 01:11 PM
1

I don't think it would be awful if men and women were segregated from working with each other. I know some same sex hookups may occur, but nothing like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 12:54 PM
2

Why are men so gross for sex? Same messed up shit, just a different unfortunate young lady who will be blamed for thr bad sexual experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 12:21 PM
2

Honestly, consent is not enough. I wish the dark aide of consenual sex was spoked about more because guys literally use it like a loophole for rape. Some engage you for sex for the sole purpose of humuliating and degrading you. You might be a bad mental space, have low self esteem, be dumb in love, etc and they exploit your weak boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 10:33 PM
2

Trust me, this woman has said all of this to herself. Waking up from this type of abuse is bittersweet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 09:55 PM
32

Exactly. This is why sexual predators are just as bad as rapists imo. They're still taking advantage of a woman and are fully aware of what they're doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 07:03 AM
7

Good for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 10:46 AM
9

Ding ding ding!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 10:35 AM
21

Honestly, most sex and sexual contact is nasty when I think about it objectively. That's why most are probably either in love or mentally ill when they're taking crazy risks imo lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 11:49 PM
36

IMO most women aren't interested in giving blowjobs (they get nothing out of it and it's nasty). It's just so standard because of porn, and as always men are good about exploiting and manipulating weak or vulnerable women out of blowjobs. However, with oral cancer on the rise for men and women, I'm hoping this trend will end along with casual sex in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 09:50 PM
14

I wonder why they don't just use a fleshlight then? Instead of treating a living and feeling human being like a sex object, risking her health and mental well being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 04:59 AM
30

I can't believe this is what so many men aspire to be. You wake up and think about how you can rape a young lady to death with your equally perverse friends. Seriously, how can this be? If it's not flat out rape, its treating a woman like an object to use and abuse for sex, thinking they're better for not technically raping but it's still the same lack of regard and consideration. These guys deserve the same treatment. Men like this need to know how it feels to be treated with such disregard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 01:47 AM
5

That's true. Maybe a large part of her knows it's wrong, which is also why she posted it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 10:51 PM
9

There's something completely odd about this. She must know this is wrong and the comments she will get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 01:51 PM
14

You would think it was rocket science but they either don't know, don't care or both. This sketch is disrespectfully respectful lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 05:10 AM
1

Good men?! Where dude lol? They're so few and far between and would never say something like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:43 AM
4

THIS!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 12:28 AM
5

This also makes you a target for all kinds of shitty people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 03:53 PM
4

He's mainly with her because she's a people pleaser with weak boundaries (she's a magnet for predators unfortunately). Hopefully, she'll wake up one day. It's so sad the things women have to deal with or elude. I'd much rather someone trying to take all of my money vs disrepecting me and my body with bad, inconsiderate sex. Woman Hardships 101 - they just wanna screw you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 09:07 PM
3

This thumbnail is so accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 11:12 PM
67

All women are preyed upon by men. For that simple fact, I think FDS is good for any woman. Aside from that, I don't think the not attractive enough notion applies to women because any woman can get a man. Women are the prize as much as somr men want us to believe differently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 11:10 PM
13

Great post and best wishes to you as you level up in life. It feels good to cut out the people in your life who never really meant well for you, and it's also surprising to see how many there were.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 10:36 AM
14

Congrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 12:31 AM
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It doesn't really have anything to do with the other woman imo. It has everything to do with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 12:34 AM
14

I hate people who lie to themselves. They're the worse people to deal with. Christian when convenient.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 12:29 AM
17

Go Sassy Gran!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:17 AM
37

Evil. Many of these same men are punk ass bitches with other men. As with most bullies, narcs, sociopaths, etc, they always go for easy targets...children, women and animals unfortunately. The world would be a better place without most of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 12:14 PM
22

Hmmm sometimes I think when you're in a toxic relationship you're blind in some way for whatever reason. One of the things I wish I had done when I was messed up is to look at my actions like I was watching a movie or to have an objective view of everything. I bet she would be livid to watch a scene with a dude who tried to pressure his girlfriend into disrespecting herself and then got pissed when she refused. Good luck but she's the only one who can help herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 12:06 PM
17

The truth hurts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:17 AM
7

Disgusting. What about reporting this incident to the landloard, cops (even with the bad past experience), other neighbors, etc because he could do it again? This world is such crap for women a lot of times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 08:58 PM
3

Great article!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 06:24 AM
67

It seems impossible. If they're not thinking of you as a sex object and you're not family, you simply don't matter, which may be better. However, I don't know if they are born like that, taught to be like that or a combination of both. All I know is it's a serious problem, but instead of trying to curve this behavior in men society puts all the responsibility on women to prevent rape, manipulation, exploitation, etc. It's like instead of fixing the drug user, they try to make the drugs responsib…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 10:15 PM
12

I don't even know how it became popular. Is it because of 50 shades of gray, porn...all of the above? I feel like people are not having good emotional sex (takes healthy a lot more work) so they're upping the anty, trying to feel something to mimic the same high but it's beyond crazy at this point. It's similar to what happens with many porn viewers but this has leaked into reality, damn. Guess this is what FDS has been saying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 01:40 PM
10

So glad you've grown into a healthier perspective of...everything really! Vanilla is underrated. It's an essential flavor for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 01:29 PM
15

I hope she learns to love and value herself more. Unfortunately, things like this happen for many reasons. She's probably just trying to cope or maybe she has a skewed view of sex because of past abuse...who knows. Whatever it is, I hope she wakes up soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 05:29 AM
15

I'm happy for any woman making wonderful dating decisions for themselves and enjoying their life. When you start receiving backlash from men and some women, you know you're on the right path lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 08:47 AM
6

This has been a hard lesson for me to learn as far as telling people I knew but didn't really trust but felt like I needed someone to talk to. I've had a lot of bad experiences and back stabbing because of this so I finally know better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 10:34 PM
32

My God, Junka Furuta is beyond anything...no words come close to the horrors. Just because she said No. Those fucking monsters aren't even in jail right now. I swear we're already in hell. How can you do that to an innocent young girl and not at least be killed? I don't know if they are made evil or born that way but a lot of men are pure dark evil. Have any men ever been kidnapped and tortured by women to this degree? Is this only ever a woman's story? No living creature should experience such …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 05:08 PM
9

It depends on the man. Plenty don't, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:00 AM
6

Men try every thing to detract women from good advice. This dude is nobody and incredibly foolish about dating if he thinks women are passive participants. Men have no clue what it's like to deal with men as women so they should shut up about it. They can talk when they know what's it's like to be preyed upon all the damn time. Also, the woman in the photo is beautiful so whatever to this ridiculous fool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:53 AM
37

Appreciate the reminder and inspiring words. It's difficult to be on the opposing side of what feels like the majority, but resolve is so important. I've failed at it in the past, but I've promised myself to be confident and resolved for the rest of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 09:33 PM
5

Treat yourself! Very cool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 09:22 PM
5

Awww so nice and well worth it. FDS is an incredibly positive and much needed place for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 09:20 PM
5

Create your boundaries and stick to them no matter what and only change them because you want to. Also, be aggressive and speak up. Guys will always try to get you to do crap, f all of that. Only do things you want to do with people you want to do them with. It's always No unless it's a clear and happy yes, and be careful not to make any rash decisions if you're in a made mental space. Freaky is so overrated. Hell, there's only so much people can do and women really need to be aroused to enjoy s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:48 PM
32

This is accurate and disgustingly frustrating. This is one of the reasons why consent is not enough imo, and I hate that many hide behind that word. Was everybody is their right mind when the shit happened? Was it enthusiastic consent? The damage some consenual relationships have left women in is beyond sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:17 PM
7

He's so insecure. Do it for me too so I can feel better rather than him working on his own personal issues. It's hard to believe this makes perfect sense to him, especially since she expressed no desire to do so again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:04 PM
59

I was wondering why the chunks of meat were so big lol. Good for her on all accounts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:52 AM
10

Troubling, to say the least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 04:51 AM
15

Takers always look for givers to abuse so it's rarely equal, unfortunately. This is definitely a good lesson to learn. Judge people by their actions, not what they say. If they're treating you well and giving to you as much as you give to them, it's a balanced relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 04:43 AM
8

It's a must to survive!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 11:47 PM
10

Yeah a lot of the content is absurd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:34 AM
46

Idk if this is real. It reads like some crazy fanfic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:23 AM
2

Selfish and insecure, a common theme I'm seeing in these AITA posts about men. If it was the other way around, he would fully expect her to be elated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:08 PM
4

What a piece of insecure shit. She tells you what she likes and you would rather sulk and skip sex instead of doing what she likes? Ok, she should leave him. He is inconsiderate and selfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 12:57 PM
7

Good point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:46 PM
118

Truth! I hate that anyone thinks otherwise. It doesn't matter how pretty you are or how well you treat him. He's going to do what he wants to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:30 PM
43

Keith had no proof or sources to site. Apparently, his opinion is enough all by itself vs a sex abuse therapist who did research and a thesis on the topic. Still, it's crazy that this argument needs to be made. There are After Porn videos that verify the truth, hell...the content in the videos is enough to know what's up, but many men want to pretend like they don't see the truth so they can continue partaking in the bs. I feel like a pornstar could say to most of their faces that I was sexually…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:19 PM
2

Beautiful and a great way to celebrate your growth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:00 PM
131

And people pretend like there's no gawd damn problem. How can it be normal for so many girls and women to suffer?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:43 PM
2

I didn't know, but I shouldn't be surprised. A man is a man is a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 08:53 AM
15

I always thought it meant being more about the appearance of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:04 AM
2

What are you describing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 11:57 PM
2

Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:10 PM
7

Truth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:48 PM
17

I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:36 PM
36

It should be taught. Honest, real life social education. It's just as important as math.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:33 PM
80

I don't think so. Many are far too selfish to understand. Honestly, toxic masculinity has done a doozy to them but they don't know and won't understand because they still get their way and have mediocre sex, which is good enough I guess. Also, the whole visual creature thing affirms that many are surface level beings and will not get or understand the true depth of what it means or how it feels to be loved. It's all just a shallow way to live, which is why they can't appreciate people, and why t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:22 PM
5

Right on time for me. Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:57 PM
16

The truth hurts so men like to side step it. Plus, the original title is more feminist men would definitely avoid it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:47 PM
25

Great post and may you continue to enjoy life. Also, you're not old by any means imo. A lot of women don't really get comfortable with themselves and free of the BS that doesn't matter until the 30s. The younger the better, for sure, but, as you mentioned, it's a blessing to experience that day at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:44 PM
9

Some woman hater recently tried to start chatting with me. They must lurk on this board and look for targets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:37 PM
11

I love this post. It's essential to a good life. Passivity only leads to being exploited and manipulated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:29 PM
16

Great post and I'm glad you have avoided bad situations. Also, mental illness and trauma contributes to this behavior so I also say don't make any big decisions while you're dealing with things and if it's not a clear and happy yes, it's no. I actually didn't have these bad experiences until later in life when I was dealing with something so...any age should stick to these principles, for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:13 PM
49

So young. This is beyond sad and disturbing. He needs help, she needs protecting, and it's a whole perverse mess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 04:59 PM
20

I'm glad it worked for her. Maybe it could work for more women. Not necessarily being a dom but more of a you first type of situation lol, like you want anal...you first. I think the only thing that matters is pleasure and we've gotten away from that. You don't have to do crazy things to feel good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 04:53 PM
61

Who can even lie and say it's empowering to get the hell beat out of you by someone who doesn't care about you? I can see if, for the most part, women were doms and men subs getting poked in bum but is this the case most often?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 03:53 PM
132

Also, this new normal is not even good sex. You cannot beat intimate "vanilla" sex. It's the reason why they keep upping the anty. If the were having good plain old sex everyone would be satisfied but that takes feelings, mutual respect, comfort and true appreciation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 03:43 PM
78

He needs to be her ex-bf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:37 AM
154

Sounds about right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:36 AM
23

Really, it's not even fwb because there's nothing friendly about it. I'm glad you've decided to focus on yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:34 AM
12

Powerful! I'm trying to join you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 02:59 AM
12

Lol it is crazy to imagine. A lot of them do like to be babied. This guy shouldn't even be in a relationship let alone one deserving of communication.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:26 AM
29

I think it's good to self reflect to pinpoint what you can do to try to prevent it from happening, but abuse is always the abusers fault imo. Even if I let it happen, you're the one who threw the punch, said the ugly things or sexually took advantage of me. If you let it happen, you're hurting yourself so it's self harm, which is unhealthy and indicative of a deeper issue. I mean, if you knew someone was cutting themselves, you'd wonder what's wrong, not blame and shame them. Why do you we treat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:18 AM
19

Lmao of course. Sickos protecting other sickos, but he's well enough to bring entertainment with him while he smears shit on the bathroom. He's mentally ill but he's also diabolical. She needs to leave him alone stat. She's not his therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:12 AM
91

This makes my stomach turn. Vulnerability is just an opening for them to attack. It pisses me off and makes me sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:07 AM
22

I completely agree. It's beyond frustrating and this is downright nasty and disturbing like the porn he probably watches. If this is relationship advice, I hope she's not with him anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:04 AM
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You are right, they know who to target, and it's so awful because they are fully aware that what they're doing is wrong, they just don't care. I just hate how normal this is in our society. Things like this should be rare but so many young girls and women have had these bad experiences...from coercion to rape to an invasion of boundaries and a disregard for your body and feelings during sex. This bad behavior is so rampant. I wish it would end or at least decrease. Anyways, I appreciate this pos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 12:58 AM
30

Whhhhhyyyyy is this even a thing? I hate this world sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 12:42 AM
55

What?!?! He smeared sh*t in the bathroom at his own home and he's got sympathizers...lmao. Men really can get away with anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 12:40 AM
7

Lol! The exchange is funny but on point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 12:03 AM
10

We have a common enemy, so to speak. It would be great if we supported and helped each other instead of throwing stones and judgement because no one knows what it's like to be a woman more than a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 11:40 PM
16

I have, unfortunately. I was mentally troubled when it happened (that's why it happened). Honestly, the whole thing is too humiliating and disgusting to recount. I live with a lot of regret and anger now. I'm trying to work through it, but it's so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 08:19 AM
4

You've just made yourself available for something better. You took a chance and it didn't work out. It happens, you're not a fool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 08:03 AM
17

I completely agree. We really need to change the narrative and call it what it is and treat it like abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 07:23 PM
3

I agree. It's hard because men take no responsibility or accountability. Ultimately, I feel like good men need to be examples and speak out and up about it as well as women, but they're too busy claiming...not all men or not me. It's fustrating as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 07:21 PM
7

Right, a lifetime of grief and regret for me is a free phase for men to maybe become mature. That's far worse than bullshit. That's the realist shit in this unjust unequal unfair world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:16 PM
6

Lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:48 PM
13

There's probably some truth to this, but most of it is founded on a delusion because men don't really know why women decide to have sex with them. It's not always because she's in love or lust. I know it doesn't really matter to them, but if someone is giving me something because they're mentally ill vs because I deserve it, it can change how I feel about getting it. Also, most are so bad at sex, especially casual sex, that wanting quantity over quality is what leads them to using manipulative a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:47 PM
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Exactly! I'm not sure why we stop calling it sexual abuse because a woman is grown. The same grooming, manipulation and exploitation is at hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:51 PM
20

Always and it's so hypocritical because boys will be boys, right, so people know that boys/ men have a proclivity to sexual deviance, but at the same time they blame women for the sexual deviance happening. Make that make sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:12 PM
19

Society enables boys/men to be shitty. Tis the truth and has been forever, and it's one of the most unfortunate things in our society. An entire gender suffers the misfortune of being targets of sexual misconduct and abuse for no other reason than their gender, and all of this alongside constant disrespect (regulary referred to as bitches and hoes), disregard (hold few political poisitions or high positions of authority, excluded from the right to vote for a very long time), and devaluing (often…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 11:02 AM
3

Always listen to your intuition, get help for any mental or physical issues, love and take care of yourself and only be kind and considerate to people who deserve it (those who treat you well). Once they stop treating you well, remove them from your life and thoughts. Don't sweat the small stuff and speak up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 11:12 AM
11

Right lol! They're so delusional with their big sex egos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 02:31 AM
53

. ..and most think they're great at it lol. I don't know if they're liars or they really believe that mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 12:00 AM
0

Idk these guys love to spread their misery to some unfortunate woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:20 PM
3

Yeah, there's definitely something to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:16 PM
17

I think a lot of women don't like it, but I also believe that casual sex is often a symptom of a deeper issue for many women, which is why some participate. Sex is too big of a risk for women for it to be casual imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:52 AM
2

Great post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:27 AM
5

Exactly. Very similar situations and I also deal with regret. Consent is simply not enough. Most of the time it's coercive anyways. It's just so they can say it's not rape, but it's still not right (and they know it). I wish more people recognized that a woman disrespecting herself, in this way, may mean that something is wrong. I hope you're able to recover from all of your past trauma and regret. It's a burden to carry and not something you even deserve to carry, but all of this is easier said…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:21 AM
13

Many of the ones who are supposedly decent are still too worried about it being "Not all men" to call out the many men who are rotten. For the most part, men really do only care about men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 12:27 PM
24

The truth finally came out lol...I like the people who lit you on fire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 04:09 PM
17

I wish no woman ever fell prey to this but it happens for so many reasons. I wish more effort was put on both sides for women to build themselves up and for men to stop being manipulative rotten pieces of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 03:54 PM
9

Yep...so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 03:46 PM
15

mic drop Great post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 03:42 PM
30

It does make you wonder. It's so blantantly despicable but there it is without shame or worry of judgement. Manipulation 101...how to get a booty call.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 03:36 PM
18

Absolutely! Anything that could jeopardize them getting their way is bad, bottom line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 03:17 PM
50

I definitely appreciate FDS. It's terrifying to be blind to all of this in today's climate. You will end up with so much trauma of you don't wake up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 02:51 PM
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What's sad is that he won't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 02:48 PM
26

Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 12:09 PM
4

I do think that sexual norms have become more extreme like I don't think "rough" sex was as popular in the past. I feel like if they manipulated a women out of "vanilla" sex they were happy, but now it's like let me hurt every orifice, nut on you and choke you some too. I do agree, though, that domestic violence and everything has been going on for a very long time. Actually, I think that was more rampant in the past because my grandmother, great aunt, etc all dealt with it, too, but men these d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 12:02 PM
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Good debate and I'm not surprised most blamed the young girl. Most of the characters are at fault in some way but the only one who suffered is the young girl, and that's our society, for the most part. There's so many wrong things in our society that contribute to young girls and women making decisions that ultimately cause them harm (basically self harming) yet all many people want to do is blame the women for doing it or allowing it to happen, forgetting the exploitation, manipulation, unfair …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 11:45 AM
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I'm happy for you and your secured self confidence. IMO it's vital for women to enjoy life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 03:57 AM
3

Ugh...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 03:21 AM
5

I hope this is fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 03:15 AM
19

To find a man to respect you as a human being with feelings let alone boundaries is far too hard these days. Too many men are truly on some heinous shit. Sex is no longer enough, they want to hurt women for enjoyment. Something in the water ( porn, patriarchy, etc) is making men sociopaths. Why in God's name should a woman have to tell a man not to beat her, ever, but especially when having sex? This is all too much and the trauma this will one day cause her is so sad, but he'll be just fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 03:06 AM
10

This woman hates herself for whatever reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 06:32 PM
30

That's pretty damn funny!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 01:36 PM
6

You did the right thing! Be proud of yourself. This guy was wrong on all accounts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 10:56 AM
7

Yaaaaaas!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 12:27 PM
3

Congratulations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 12:01 PM
8

She's a pleaser (her words). He's with her because he can treat her like this. I hope she comes to her senses soon because this dude is a demon who wants to ruin her for sport. This is pretty enraging and sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 05:51 PM
2

I know exactly how you feel and deal with the same shame, disgust and embarrassment. Self forgiveness is one of the hardest things, but as pathetic as my situation was, I recognize that I must have my back now more now than ever because no one else will truly understand why I behaved the way I did and allowed the crap I did, and many will judge me because they don't understand. However, truth be told, you didn't hurt anyone but yourself (who is someone that didn't deserve it for sure) but you we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 09:50 AM
3

It's hard out there for a pimp lol...for real, women have so much to deal with and to overcome but at the beginning and end of the day we are only humans doing the best we can in a world that is often against us. We have our own struggles for whatever reason. So, I'm glad you have grown past many of yours. Who can be perfect all the time and what even is perfect?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 09:03 AM
5

I just hope they wake up one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 08:51 AM
5

Unfortunately, I've dealt with similar when I was dealing with a mental illness. All around reckless behavior and exploited by a narcissist. Since I've been healthy, I have a massive amount of regret and anger about everything. So, I'm glad you've allowed this experience to make you better instead of filled with anger and regret (like me). It just bothers me that so many rotten men get away with behaving like this. Most won't recognize it for what it is but they go after sexually naive and/or vu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 07:44 AM
3

Wow...so bold with his misogyny at such a young age. So sad. Is this real, this kid is sexually delusional?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 04:19 PM
1

So when the fudge is society going to start telling women the truth about sex? I seriously feel like a lot of women start out thinking, is this right, shouldn't it feel better? Honest and thorough education would be great for all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 09:56 AM
1

Similar story and feelings (with regard to narcissistic abuse). Not sure why the post was removed but at least they recommended you to this subreddit. Good luck on your recovery. Forgiving yourself is the hardest part, still working on that myself along with the regret, shame, and disgust of it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 12:51 PM
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I definitely believe it has something to do with it, and porn has gotten so much worse these days (how is prolapsed or incestuous anything remotely acceptable). It's beyond crazy where we've moved to in terms of sexual norms and expectations. I keep waiting for the pendulum to swing in the other direction but to settle in the middle for the most part. Maybe in 10 or 20 years, the awakening is only just starting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 12:28 PM
6

The basic standard for many men is whatever pleases them. A lot are very selfish and get away with it for a number of reasons. It is sad. You are young but I'm glad you have a thoughtful boyfriend and have started out on a positive note. Hopefully, you'll continue on a positive foot since you started on one. Tell your friend not to settle for less as well. It's better to do nothing then have bad sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 10:55 PM
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