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LESSON LEARNEDSamuelaTheThrifty/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 05:14 PM
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STRATEGYSamuelaTheThrifty/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 08:06 PM
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That’s a great post! I really like your writing style!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:29 AM
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A screener at your apartment? The audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:23 AM
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When I hear men say “I was used for a free dinner,” what I hear is “I took a woman out for dinner and I turned her off so she wasn’t interested in going out with me again let alone have sex with me.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:19 AM
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Those are the same reasons I initially chose to be childfree, then I had unplanned pregnancies and became a mother (1/3 survived) and I feel I’m better treated by society for being a mother, even as a single mother. Probably because I’m white, educated, was professionally established before having my pregnancies. My child is special needs and I’ve had to leave my career because of it and since then I’ve been fighting the government in my region for better resources for disabled children. I’ve be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 11:33 PM
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With a special needs child she is not living any sort of life for herself. Can confirm as I’m a special needs mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:31 PM
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I’m from the UK too and have researched my family history going back hundreds of years and ALL the women worked. No dowries, my ancestors were too poor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:26 PM
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Domestic abuse bingo. All the same for me too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:25 PM
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One of my LVM cousins posted this meme on Facebook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:48 PM
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That’s serial killer sort of stuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 03:36 PM
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Be careful with male professionals too like therapists and lawyers. Don’t believe for a second these men won’t use what you told them against you as well. A lawyer did it to me. The situation is still not resolved and I’m at a huge disadvantage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:26 AM
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Hilarious!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:40 PM
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She’s about to snap. This video won’t change anything, her husband is going to continue doing the same things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:34 PM
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That’s one reason I haven’t been with a man since my son was born, I’m worried about being targeted by pedos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:27 PM
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I really hope your cousin wises up and leaves him. I have a special needs child who has needed therapy since he was 4 months old, and my NVM was more work and took more of my attention than my son did/does. Glad I left him when I was pregnant. He was trying to impregnate me to trap me but fortunately I was not financially dependent on him so I was able to leave when I finally mustered up the courage to do so. Having a LVM or NVM around is a drain on your energy, they suck the life out of you and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:23 PM
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Yay! Congratulations! Thank you for becoming an OT! My son is developmentally delayed and autistic and occupational therapists have been immensely helpful to him. I have a lot of respect and gratitude for individuals in your chosen profession. You’re very special people with a gentle bedside manner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 11:45 PM
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I also think men who say they like smart women enjoy the challenge of breaking and controlling smart women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:45 PM
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As a Gen Xer, I think millennial and Gen Z males are more violent and misogynistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:44 PM
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They want it this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:41 PM
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Women never have the upper hand on men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:35 PM
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I love this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:35 PM
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We have been silenced by Western men. It’s horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:28 PM
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Search “escape the corset” and you’ll find a lot of info about South Korean feminism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:27 PM
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I don’t think women enjoy being oppressed by religion even if they have been brainwashed by their society to believe in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:25 PM
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Men wrote Islamic scripture so why can’t scripture be blamed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:22 PM
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As an economically privileged white woman, I don’t find liberal feminism empowering in the least. It’s empowering only to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:21 PM
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India seems like a hellhole for women. I’ve never been there but it just sounds like such a nightmare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:18 PM
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Noticed this too. The term “white feminism” has opened the door for more discrimination and exploitation of white women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:17 PM
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Wow! Worst advice ever. You could literally have a video of a man cheating and he’d deny it was him in the video. You don’t need CSI-level evidence to prove a man is cheating or leave him for cheating. If you have a suspicion of cheating, he’s likely cheating. Men accuse women of cheating all the time as a power play move, to get her on the defensive to deflect from their behaviour but men don’t understand that women don’t do that. What’s with this “no snooping” business too? Worst advice ever b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:11 PM
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It’s not just “our” money, it’s if they “our” anything that’s yours. They’ll do it with pets too, with furniture, your car....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 01:52 PM
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Also don’t tell any man if you are in line to inherit a big chunk of money or if your parents or other family members are well-off. Many men will try to get to their money through you too. My gold digging NVM ex used to brag about living off me, I discovered a couple of years into our relationship all the while making a big show of looking for a better job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 01:48 PM
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Music for sure. Being into metal is a dealbreaker for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 12:35 PM
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My male defence lawyer hit on me. He threatened to accuse me of harassment if I told his significant other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 07:36 PM
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And avoid male lawyers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 07:33 PM
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I hate surprise cringes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 07:15 PM
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You’re welcome. It is a hard topic and I gave sharing it a lot of thought but I finally decided to do it because I ignored warnings from my own mother that my ex may be genetically unfit due to his disabled son and his own health. He didn’t have autism or learning delays but he had a heart defect and a family history of Type 1 diabetes and early death, and a weird simian crease on his hand, which is another congenital anomaly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 07:14 PM
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Thank you very much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 07:04 PM
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There’s a huge difference between not striving for perfection and doing the bare minimum. Perfectionism can be crippling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 06:58 PM
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Do men really believe we need to be “grateful for the opportunity”? When did this attitude become normal?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 06:56 PM
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That’s disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 01:23 AM
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Women have always been in the workforce. I don’t know why men believe there has been a period of time where women didn’t work. I’ve traced my family back centuries and all the women had jobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 09:39 PM
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I bet she doesn’t see him as the leader of the relationship and he’s going to get a shock of reality if he moves into a house she buys. My NVM ex was the same—a gold digger. He left himself logged into FB on my laptop and I read all his DMs going back years. He had a message from a friend asking for advice about financial trouble and he wrote: “Get a white girl to pay for everything. Trust me.” (He wasn’t white). It was like a punch in the stomach. It hadn’t even crossed my mind that he was just…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 06:25 PM
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I find blow jobs demeaning too. I can remember the only time I’ve enjoyed giving one and that was after he gave me mind-blowing oral.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 06:06 PM
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What an ungrateful oaf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:45 PM
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Wow. He can’t distinguish real affection from a stripper making money off him. Sad and pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:39 PM
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This is one reason why I don’t want to date men. I have a special needs child and I know they’re extra attractive to pedophiles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:37 PM
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I know what you mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 10:28 PM
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Western world is still better for women regardless of the misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 10:25 PM
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Diarrhea is a great excuse for all occasions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:16 PM
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They understand consent, they just feel entitled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:57 PM
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Same with scraping the car. Never scrape ice off the car for a man unless he has two broken shoulders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:57 PM
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Also, beware if he has a Waifu.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:23 PM
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NUGGET PORN? Sex with someone with a torso but no limbs? Who comes up with this sick stuff? Pornruinedsociety, your username just sums up the conclusion I reached after reading your comments. Are you a professor?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:22 PM
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I feel like it encourages male depravity. Men copy Peter’s behaviour and think it legitimizes their own poor actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:14 PM
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Male appropriation of female culture. I think this YouTuber is great, by the way, a really engaging speaker!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:13 PM
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🤮The stench must have been horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:36 PM
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This LVM looks familiar to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:33 PM
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I truly think they’re gorgeous!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 11:12 PM
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I became a LVW through narcissistic abuse. I have so much anger and fear of falling for that kind of BS again that I keep everyone at arm’s length. I am in therapy and I find it very hard to find a therapist who will take the DV I experienced seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:55 PM
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“Community dick”! I love that term.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:37 PM
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Your life story resonates with me. My mother didn’t teach me anything except how to hate myself. She had too much body shame and internalized misogyny to discuss how to be a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 12:56 AM
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They want to feel like they’re the provider but without actually being the provider. Many LVM and NVM will back off if you appear too mentally unstable for them. Acting needy, acting desperate, will make you undesirable to them because they lose interest if they can control you easily and if you act like you’re emotionally dependent on them. They don’t actually want you to be dependent on them emotionally, they really just want you to act, to role play the kind of girlfriend they want. Acting ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 12:51 AM
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I can 100% vouch for this strategy. It really really works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 12:45 AM
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Your post really resonated with me, especially the portion about how you’re guaranteed to lose something when you invite a man into your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 12:42 AM
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She can’t “reach” him, she can only leave him. It boggles my mind that men take their wives so much for granted that they purposely botch simple jobs with the goal of exasperating their wives so that she’ll take over. Millennial and Gen X men aren’t less sexist than Boomers, they’re just more deceptive about their misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 08:30 PM
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He’s paying her for sex. How humiliating it would be to be left one of these packages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:38 PM
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Yikes. Using a remote-controlled vibrator on a public park bench and then driving a man around while he masturbates? No thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:55 PM
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Take the risk for advancement and jump ship to another company before the company fails.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 01:36 PM
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This certainly happened to me. I was appointed editor of a magazine that was struggling and only when it was struggling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 01:36 PM
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I’m sure Hitler’s dogs liked him too. Don’t be fooled by men who use their pets to make them seem HV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 09:31 PM
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I’m so proud of you! Breaking the cycle is so hard and I’m glad FDS principles are working for you already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 07:35 PM
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That’s helpful advice for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 07:29 PM
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My friend’s ex-husband purposely kept her awake all night before she took the LSAT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 07:27 PM
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At 35 I was described as having a geriatric pregnancy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 01:00 AM
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One of my exes said to me “why should I pay for a therapist when I have you?” He was deadly serious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 12:26 AM
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I wonder if his wife wants a lot of sex because that’s the only benefit she feels she gets from the relationship. I bet he doesn’t show her any affection either. I actually think I hate this man. He’s like someone I went out with 10 years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 12:25 AM
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I think you’ve really nailed it with “he associates his wife with dread.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 12:23 AM
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I’ve only had men drag me down, never had a man lift me up or truly support me in achieving my dreams and goals. In fact, they’ve derailed me and I let it happen because I couldn’t wrap my head around their desire to control me and their pathological need to have the upper hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 12:14 AM
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“I don’t like short hair on girls but it looks good on you.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:19 PM
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Most males see losing their virginity as reaching the height of adulthood. Why would they have to mature any after that, they think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:18 PM
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Hahaha! I’m too old for men in a ball cap. Men over 25 should only wear ball caps when playing baseball, are in the sun, camping, doing manual labour like home renovations. Ball caps are for boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:15 PM
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Twin Peaks? Is that referring to their breasts?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:13 PM
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It was the first half of my 30s for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:11 PM
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Ooh! He got the powder stuff!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:06 PM
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I have not had the experience of a man adding value to my life. Why would I even try to date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 07:19 PM
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A drying rack for laundry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 06:39 PM
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A man in a relationship came onto me multiple times and I saw him on OLD sites, I want to tell his significant other but I can’t find out who she is. He’s got all his social media locked down, obviously so he can keep up his serial cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 06:29 PM
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George Clooney has too big an age gap with his wife to be a HVM. Mr. Darcy also not HVM as he initially shunned Elizabeth Bennett and her sister for not being wealthy enough, viewed Jane as a gold digger. Matt Damon married a woman with much less money and clout than him, no doubt so he could have the upper hand in the relationship. I’d agree with Keanu Reeves but don’t know who Cameron Hamilton or Khalid Al Ameri are and I don’t know anything about Noam Chomsky’s marriage. I think Obama has alr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 06:21 PM
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She must leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:56 PM
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I bet he thought he was witty with that comeback. “...not spending $200 on dinner when I can see you naked for $6.99 right now.” That just sums up the male mindset for you, doesn’t it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:10 PM
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I’m so sorry. What are you going to do? Are you going to be forced to go back home?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:07 PM
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Who was this guy? I’ll have to Google him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:04 PM
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Talk about wolf in sheep’s clothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:03 PM
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Why doesn’t he vent to a journal? I don’t understand the point of having a public tantrum like this. He’s obviously unhinged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:01 PM
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Oh my God....I’m not ready to unpack the memories this story brought back. Something to discuss in therapy next week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 10:53 PM
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Who would do something so horrible to the most “beautiful” woman and “kindest soul” in the world? I hope she doesn’t marry him—what he did was unforgivable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 10:34 PM
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I’m horrified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:50 PM
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I’ve been arrested for self-defence too....it’s hard to think about, talk about and not be angry about. It changed my whole perception of society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:48 PM
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He’s rather teaching how to be low value. Any man who’d kick a woman to the kerb for having boundaries is a LVM or NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:46 PM
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She has to end it. Just the fact he brought it up means he’ll watch it behind her back and resent if her he doesn’t. The point isn’t that they just don’t watch porn, it’s that they don’t want to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:22 PM
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This infuriates me so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 01:48 PM
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I’m naive. What is that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 01:45 PM
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That’s what I do too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:05 AM
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It’s a sad state of affairs. I had thought some were spared because they grew up before the Internet but it’s really that generation that’s been behind Internet porn all along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:02 AM
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I bet this man has already given himself permission to cheat. “If she isn’t thin in six months....”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 10:50 AM
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The instant pot has a pull out insert too. He could have at least pulled out the inside pot and covered it with foil or plastic wrap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:14 PM
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Financial abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:54 PM
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I remember him yelling at me and I imagine what it would be like if he escalated further to violence like a previous NVM I was involved with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:53 PM
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Texting for me all depends on his schedule and my schedule. Is the amount of his texting reasonable for his schedule, his type of work and activities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:51 PM
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I’m a single mom and I want that. Like the 80s show, Kate and Ally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:47 PM
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So much easier. I say this as a single mum with a non-verbal special needs child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:46 PM
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What is this show?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:45 PM
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Hilarious!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:41 PM
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Beautiful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:38 PM
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That woman is too young to have seen and experienced that much male depravity—at least compared to my generation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:37 PM
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Hahaha! I laugh but I did develop hypertension in my early 30s when I was with a NVM. I would also get so angry I’d have nosebleeds trying to keep it in to be polite and “the bigger person.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:34 PM
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That’s not an accurate depiction of a 30 year old single woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 01:15 PM
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I’m sorry about what happened to you. I wouldn’t hold out hope he’ll pay you back. If he does, it will be a long drawn ploy of paying you back slowly to keep you in his life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 09:44 PM
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I got rid of so many books and I miss them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 09:31 PM
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Isn’t it already classified as domestic violence?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 08:58 AM
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I’m so sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 12:16 AM
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My lawyer came on to me during my sentencing hearing in a criminal case. (It was a political crime).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 11:36 PM
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I once saw a bio that said “no criminal record” and “doesn’t live with mom.” “No criminal record”=I’m abusive, I just haven’t been arrested for it yet or the charges were dropped “Doesn’t live with mom”=great, the bare minimum Oh and “spontaneous road trips” meanwhile he has three dogs and a horse. That just screams married. How can you go out of town spontaneously with four high-maintenance domesticated animals unless you have someone back home to care for them? Any pictures with puppies or kit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 12:30 PM
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I think many of these women are in denial about the true nature of men. They don’t understand that men have a different social reality to us, evaluate their worthiness by different rules, one of them being how capable they are of manipulating and controlling women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 11:42 PM
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He has no choice but to keep paying if he wants the relationship to last because he’ll otherwise feel emasculated, and if he truly loved her and wanted to be with her, he’d recognize that she’d bear a huge financial penalty and risk if she had children with him thus he ought to be supporting her to accrue as much wealth as possible before her motherhood years begin. This man seems the type to marry her, divorce her and then demand alimony.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 11:39 PM
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I could have lived without seeing that photo. 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 11:28 PM
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Black women are already dehumanized in porn by virtue of being women, racism just provides the industry with a further excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 11:27 PM
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Seriously men can’t even take time to learn basic photo composition rules like the rule of thirds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 01:41 PM
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It was when he addressed me as my bra size instead of my name “Hello Ms. 38 C”, cupped both my breasts and asked me to wear a low cut top when we went to meet one of his friends so he could prove he could get good looking women too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 01:39 PM
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I remember my NVM ex stomping his feet like a child when I said “No” after he asked to borrow money for money for alcohol and cigarettes. Then he filled a bag with his stuff, swung it at the wall and knocked a huge hole through the drywall in the hall of my apartment. I called 911. Be prepared to back up your “no’s” with calls to emergency services when dealing with NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 01:37 PM
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There are no words. I can’t stop thinking about this since I watched it. The level of depravity needed to leave you spouse during this sort of hugely physically and emotionally torturous experience is immense. He’s so cold. He couldn’t deal with what he did to her because he didn’t truly love her or respect her. I bet her looks were all she was to him. With those gone..... I bet he’ll track her down 20 years from now during his mid life crisis to apologize and try to get her forgiveness. Let’s f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 02:38 AM
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I have been around men like this including a NVM ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 02:17 AM
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This really resonates with me. I mean, why have some of us been so conditioned to explain our ourselves all the time. I didn’t used to be like this, not until I had a relationship with a NVM. I now overexplain EVERYTHING to people who aren’t supportive of me. It’s draining, it makes me feel worse. I vow I won’t try so hard to get anyone’s approval again but the cycle inevitably repeats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 02:09 AM
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I am so happy for you! It sounds like the fog is lifting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:54 AM
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It’s happened to me too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 04:34 PM
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My NVM ex didn’t ask me any questions. He didn’t even know where I worked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 04:34 PM
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You’re not MGTOW if you’re seeing prostitutes. Men really do see us as objects, not people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 04:24 PM
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It’s not uncommon for abusive men to be extra abusive about child loss. After my stillbirth my ex told me “your daughter died because she didn’t want you as a mother.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 04:16 PM
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That’s why it’s prudent to avoid men who say they like “smart women”. They want a woman to break down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:41 PM
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Journalist here. Men try to tell me how the media works, and when I express an opinion they disagree with, they will tell me I must have based my opinions on non-credible sources and further mansplain how to distinguish between a good source and a poor one. Men also like to crap on ideas I have for books and news articles. Right now a man is intentionally withholding information from me about a criminal case I was involved it that I’d like to write about. He’s decided I shouldn’t write about my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:29 PM
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Do you participate on related Saidit subs or on Spinster?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:10 PM
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Just want to add there’s always the risk of a man pushing his way into your life and pimping you. Happened to one of my friends, he took all her money, raped her twice a day and sold her for $80/hour. Prior to that she had her own dominatrix business but she couldn’t stop a customer from taking over her apartment and setting himself up as her pimp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:46 PM
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FDA standards for men really just outline the bare minimum so it’s really sad that so many scrotes find FDS too much for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:36 PM
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Honestly, kegels as well as masturbating and trying different ways of giving myself orgasms with and without sex toys. I taught myself to have better, more powerful and longer lasting orgasms, multiple orgasms, and to control when I orgasm. Mastering my own orgasm has made me more sexually confident and has reduced my desire to have a sexual partner unless he puts in the effort to give me a great orgasm. I now expect way more from men because I know what kind of pleasure they could unlock for me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:22 PM
67

I think that’s a great list! The things I can think of to add under must-haves are: - good conflict resolution skills, - good hygiene, - has reasonable fashion sense and can thus pick out his own clothes and shop for himself - picks up after himself and takes the initiative to keep the house clean - cooks well - eats a healthy diet - doesn’t talk to exes Under deal-breakers I’d add: - Gaming - Obsessed with watching sports - Watches porn, anime - doesn’t have any long-term friends - only has fem…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 04:49 PM
12

“Enjoy your trip!” Organize divorce while he’s gone, have papers for him to sign when he returns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 01:26 PM
16

This is me at 43. I own my own house. I was in relationships constantly until I was 35, got rid of a NVM, who left me pregnant and now I’m never letting a man in my space again. I want occasional male companionship, just like you said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 01:24 PM
3

Does he really conflate masturbating to texts with having sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:27 PM
14

Dressing too young for their age is another. No, I don’t want to see a 50-year-old lawyer in converse and jeans, put on a suit like you should be wearing at this period in your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:20 PM
34

Of course it took a man for action to be taken. I’m glad he’s made porn his cause but that doesn’t mean he’s a HVM to the women in his life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:27 PM
52

That’s what I did with my son when was a toddler. He’s got a genetic syndrome. I wouldn’t even look at him while he was flailing about on the floor. He’d just stop once I saw he wasn’t paying attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:24 PM
24

Very good! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:00 PM
13

I want to add lawyers to this list, defence lawyers, especially. They know how to be LVM while skirting the line of the law.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 08:57 PM
6

That stuck out to me too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 08:52 PM
25

Pandemic or not, love is love. Men are equally capable of feeling it during a pandemic and during so-called “normal” life. Life is NEVER returning to pre-Covid conditions so if a man doesn’t love you before widespread vaccination, he won’t love you after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 08:41 PM
16

Wow....what a douche.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 08:31 PM
4

That’s far too spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 02:35 PM
56

You don’t even have to be spiritual for them to dump “manic pixie dream girl” onto you, you just have to have a haircut or fashion sense that they believe a MPDG would wear and they latch on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 02:20 PM
29

But yet they’ll never see us as spiritual leaders...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 02:17 PM
8

I love your perspective on this. I’m also an information digger. I was able to turn it into a career reporting on science and technology. Men just love talking a woman’s ear off about their areas of expertise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:11 PM
26

It’s not really a choice when it’s a losing situation, is it? I just get hysterical and let men win. It’s a great way to turn them off. Being polite keeps them coming back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:00 PM
37

Do these men actually have a diagnosis from a professional? Autism only afflicts 1% of the population and 80% have intellectual delay. Don’t trust anyone to self-diagnose. I have an autistic son and there’s no way his behaviour could be confused for a personality disorder. Autism is a neurodevelopmental disorder not a mental illness. More comparable to Down Syndrome and other genetic syndromes than cluster B disorders. The autistic adults I know with normal or above average intelligence are some…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 01:54 PM
24

That’s some great writing right there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 01:49 PM
12

Sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 01:42 PM
12

That was my experience. I was charged for defending myself against an abusive man. I lost LOTS of friends and business contacts and money in the process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:43 PM
22

Sounds like he preyed on her because she’d be easy to manipulate and no one would believe her if he abused her due to her depression. Never tell a man if you’ve ever had a mental health diagnosis, he’ll use it against you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:40 PM
12

Why will men stay involved with women they don’t want to be with?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 12:19 PM
64

I’m speechless. My son is going to go deaf. I’m going to keep an eye out for these pervs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 11:26 PM
17

This is about domination because she makes more money than him. He wants to see her in the subordinate role, cooking and cleaning. She should just ditch him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:33 PM
3

I know, right? What do they have to offer?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:16 PM
5

So are lawyers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:13 PM
9

I recall telling that to my ex “you’re not going to be cute forever and that’s when people will stop letting you get away with this shit.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:08 PM
22

Right on, sister!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:58 PM
42

The police will likely arrest her. Stand your ground laws don’t cover “domestic violence.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:54 PM
58

The police could protect her with criminal harassment laws but they’re choosing not to and it makes me ill. This poor woman. I hope this man backs off before she gets hurt but something tells me that this astrological compatibility stuff means he’s unstable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:53 PM
30

And he usually has multiple addictions: drugs, porn, alcohol, video games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:50 PM
45

I’ve been with a hobo-sapien and he did all that, so did his hobo-sapien friends. He inherited $20k and didn’t give me a dime, didn’t even treat me to a meal. Instead he fucked off and spent it all on himself, didn’t even repay the money he owed me, which I only lent him knowing he was getting this money. Hobosapiens will also try to act like what’s yours is theirs too. They like to say things like “our bed” “our apartment” “our dogs” “our money” when it’s all yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:49 PM
22

Just leave. Don’t argue, just leave. He’s cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:42 PM
42

And a competent village.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:41 PM
4

I think they’re headed for divorce
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:39 PM
79

“I respect you.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:20 PM
2

This mindset is infuriating. He doesn’t view women as people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 04:59 PM
64

That’s a great analogy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 11:07 AM
-10

Never attack the other woman. Always treat the woman with kindness when you out a cheater.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 07:46 PM
10

Wow, that’s extraordinarily cruel. I can’t believe he had the audacity to be angry that she left him to find his own way home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 11:00 AM
41

How hurtful and awful. I can’t believe there exist men like this—well, I can believe it, I’m just still shocked when I see this level of depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:57 AM
53

Or where you work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:54 AM
82

I hope she ends that relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:41 AM
109

He’s masturbating a lot. How can she believe 1 to 2 times a day is normal?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 05:42 PM
145

Cat + Hitachi > Man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 05:35 PM
7

I feel very bad for this poor woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:31 PM
56

I don’t believe a word a man says unless it’s backed up by objective facts and a number of credible witnesses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:14 PM
41

Yep, that was definitely me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:05 PM
6

My son is six and autistic, non-verbal. He knows what No means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 11:11 AM
2

Thank you for saying that..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 11:09 AM
10

She’s just not the one for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:24 AM
15

Modern feminists see our hardships as an intermediary step towards equality. They still believe men will “step up” as a sex class. They’re wrong. We will always bear the burden of childcare and housework and we must negotiate a better social system where our contributions are equally recognized and compensated as fairly. Libfems recognize we still get a raw deal, they just believe it’s still better than what their mothers had. I’m not a LibFem because I’m older and think young women have it wors…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:22 AM
2

Special needs kids benefit from going to daycare. A quality daycare is actually great for kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:15 AM
18

Ugh. I was once with a guy who refused to get his infected tooth looked at. I once saw him use a qtip to remove a huge chunk of pus from the tooth. I nearly vomited.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:26 PM
25

I don’t understand fantasy sports teams. What’s the point?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:24 PM
1

You are so right about pickmeism occurring when you like the man’s looks. That’s when it’s hard to restrain yourself from chasing and lowering standards for behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:44 PM
1

I don’t mean to put you on the spot but wondering how you could fall in love with him if you weren’t attracted to him because I’d call that friendship. How was the love different for him different than the love you feel for friends?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:42 PM
3

I’m 5’5 and my ex was exactly the same height but insisted he was 5’8. He always wanted to stand back to back with me and compare in the mirror, then he’d complain my shoes were too high even though I only wear flats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:40 PM
3

Women also give broke men a chance too so as to prove we aren’t “gold diggers.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:33 PM
11

I swear men, no matter their education, status and role, will always find a way to shirk their responsibilities and slough them off onto women ESPECIALLY when they have a responsibility to another woman. I once retained a well-known male lawyer who has been practicing for decades and had good reviews, yet I found myself reaching out in desperation to his younger and subordinate female associate when he didn’t respond to me in a timely fashion because she’d get on his ass and have him respond or …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 01:37 PM
25

I’d say women are still heavily censored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 01:23 PM
14

Men don’t want us to have any standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 01:16 PM
4

I’m truly sickened by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 01:14 PM
29

Been through that phase.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:47 AM
119

All men who are bad at sex are bad at it in the same way. They can’t even be original about the way they suck in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:45 AM
117

I have a child with two chromosomal abnormalities and one symptom is autism. The bio dad was almost 40.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:18 AM
2

He pimped her to pay his rent? Poor woman. He abused her terribly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 08:52 PM
1

I turn myself off by imagining what it would be like to have really disappointing sex with him, I imagine him yelling at me, forgetting my birthday, not doing any housework, etc., and reality snaps back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 08:17 PM
-1

Journalists hardly ever contact the defendant, just their lawyer. Four months is way too harsh for what she did, she doesn’t deserve to be pubicly humiliated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 07:49 PM
1

That’s an extraordinary harsh sentence, IMO. What was Ramgeet’s sentence? I don’t like that the article was solely shaming Skylar Mack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 07:46 PM
3

“Sorry, not interested” is the appropriate level of honesty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 07:39 PM
1

I spent five years with a man with a child but I told him I’d never babysit her or caregive for her even if we got married. He was okay with that and never pushed me on it. I liked his daughter a lot, she was such a great kid I decided I wanted to have have kids—I had previously planned to stay childfree—and I left him because he didn’t want more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 07:35 PM
2

Two of my exes have become pedos. One started out as a HVM but got into porn, then he started grooming his daughter. I noticed his ex’s criticisms , watched him, noticed things too and contacted the police. The other, I found out, had impregnated a 13-year-old when he was 20.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 07:13 PM
6

That’s literally where my life was headed seven years ago and I ran.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:35 PM
26

What a jerk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:24 PM
19

That’s a great gift. I’m sorry it went unappreciated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:21 PM
38

What an idiot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:07 PM
4

There’s not enough brains in there for it to be a full meal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:39 PM
12

I’m in my early 40s and I’m not at all lonely for a man. I’m rather relieved there aren’t any around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:57 PM
14

I love being a single mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:26 PM
6

Oh. My. God. What. Is. She. Doing? How could she sabotage herself like this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 02:13 PM
2

I initially assumed a man wrote this for another man...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 11:23 AM
3

One of my friends married after 10 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 11:16 AM
3

Ugh. One man called me by my bra size rather than my name. It was exceedingly creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:53 AM
2

You’re asking for men or have women become the minority?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:34 AM
0

I stabbed a man who blocked my access to the phone. Grabbed a knife off the dish rack. I was initially charged, sent to jail and spent two weeks in solitary confinement before my parents bailed me out. Lost lots of friends, the ability to travel to the US for work. It ruined my journalism career. The charges were dropped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:29 AM
1

This is a good reminder that parenting doesn’t end at 18 and that having sons with seemingly moral men is not a guarantee those sons will turn out well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:23 AM
1

More education and culture less than genetics and parents’ skills. There’s just so much parents don’t have control over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:20 AM
2

It’s a red flag if men like Neil Gaiman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:12 AM
2

I have really had men try to do that to me and they get resentful when their dick and their attention don’t turn out to be cures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:11 AM
2

I have had legit breakdowns and men have tried making them into “sexy breakdowns” including my defence lawyer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:10 AM
4

My mother (and father) is British and I was raised in Canada. This explains so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:52 AM
1

That’s my father.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:37 AM
1

That’s my mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:36 AM
7

Is that why I also have an autoimmune disorder?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:32 AM
20

He’s deliberately sabotaging things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:28 AM
13

I once tried that and the man caused damage to my apartment nullifying my saving his rent to move him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:22 AM
39

“Treat people how you would like to be treated,” only works in friendships between women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:19 AM
2

He implied it, called it “criminal”. I’m on probation. It was an implied threat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:47 AM
11

I don’t know why so many people are under the illusion that a relationship can be saved after cheating. Why is the partner who was cheated on always the one clamouring to save the relationship? Is it a trauma response to the disbelief of what has happened? I’m in a position right now where I think need to out a cheater. He was a lawyer I retained. I flirted with him too, though but he concealed his relationship from me. Then I saw him looking for hook-ups on OLD and then I found out he was in a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 11:52 PM
40

Men didn’t used to be this lazy in bed. They are now due to porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 09:02 PM
2

Older woman here. Not interested in young men. 40 is my hard minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:57 PM
1

A NVM ex of mine used to steal my laundry change when I was renting. I’d go to do laundry and all my change would be gone. I stopped using the laundry in my building, as a result, and just started going to the laundromat so I could use their change machines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:54 PM
7

The pimp who held my friend captive and trafficked her for six weeks tried to pretend he was her with me over text. I figured out it wasn’t her because he used tons of emojis to convey my friend’s supposed love for him. Please. He was 32, she was 52 and I’m in my 40s. Women in their 40s and 50s do not generally use emojis with fervour, and my friend was a phone person too, not a texter. His trial just wrapped up on Friday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:48 PM
3

So true. What are some of your other LVM tests?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:44 PM
6

Exactly. 24/7 texting is awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:44 PM
5

Agreed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:36 PM
6

He rekindled his best female friend after she said she loved him solely to leverage her career contacts after he lost his job? 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:27 PM
16

Men have been needing to step up since the 60s. Instead they’re getting lazier and entitled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:18 PM
7

I think he looks like Billy Corgan from the Smashing Pumpkins but that’s not a compliment either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:17 PM
14

My sister-in-law’s mother was a mail order bride from Slovenia. She was 18, her husband, 36. She was no shrinking violet, she became a powerful matriarch, had her husband under her thumb and raised three great children, two HVW daughters though I don’t know if their brother or if my brother she married are HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:17 PM
9

Should we blame the Pick-Me’s for raising LVM or blame the LVM ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:13 PM
45

I might actually watch that episode of Rick and Morty. We could program the sexbots to service men once every two hours so they literally have no time to be productive. Then we could easily take over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:11 PM
54

Men could get more sex from their wives if they were good at it and cared about their wives’ pleasure, did housework, childcare and weren’t entitled a-holes. Sex is also not a “need”. It’s a “want”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:07 PM
16

I might just start asking for dick pics from men to make sure they don’t have a curved dick with a bump.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 11:08 AM
60

Likewise! That was a great line!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 11:03 AM
117

It’s been going on forever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 10:18 PM
1

They come back when they want attention or want to see you get mad over them being with another woman because it strokes their ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 02:58 PM
8

Yes I’ve been with men who cared.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:28 AM
34

I’m so glad you’re free. I still default to overexplaining things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:13 AM
32

Ugh. I caught a cheater just recently. He threatened to try to get me charged with harassment if I tell his partner. Now I’m frightened because he’s a lawyer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:11 AM
15

Canada is not progressive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:01 AM
4

Has to be practiced for years for ultimate value. It’s a life strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:59 AM
11

Or it means they neglected her really badly and one day she had an opportunity. Divorce usually ensues shortly thereafter, instigated by her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:52 AM
18

Whether they were married before or not I’d say all single dads are red flags, especially ones whose ex-wives were more successful than them. Those men are bitter, especially men like lawyers and doctors whose ex-wives are more successful lawyers and doctors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:49 AM
39

One of my friends is testifying this week against the man who trafficked her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:44 AM
15

That’s such a lonely way to live. I used to think my standards were too high when I saw my friends putting up with this behaviour, so I lowered mine and discovered these are the loneliest of relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:39 AM
2

One of the only HVM I know likes the Smiths.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:45 PM
1

Metal definitely LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:45 PM
31

Cringe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 12:38 AM
12

THIS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 12:33 AM
8

😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 12:32 AM
17

If someone does it to me, I do it back to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:03 PM
106

He’s trying to steal her house. She should not marry him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 12:53 PM
27

Wow! That’s not how it should go at all. My mother just had a hip replacement and my father took two months off work to care for her full-time. They’ve been married for over 50 years, he’s 77 and a semi-retired physician. He’s in good shape and still does all the garden, house and car maintenance. Didn’t complain once about having to take on 100% of the household duties, plus helping her use the toilet and bathe. Similarly, when my HVM brother’s wife had a bad concussion from hockey, he took car…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 07:42 PM
2

I love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:46 AM
4

I’m so sorry you experienced him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:35 AM
65

I hate the word “nutted.” I could never tolerate a man who uses that word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 12:25 AM
1

Definitely true with lawyers. Avoid avoid especially criminal lawyers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 01:51 PM
7

Apparently men with sisters are more misogynistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 05:16 PM
4

Please tell me that’s a comedy sketch. And then their lifestyle has been glorified by a TV show celebrating their slovenly lifestyle?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 09:39 PM
6

I know a lot of men who don’t spit and I wouldn’t say but I notice it’s more common for men to spit in other cultures or locales. I’m white British-Canadian.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 09:34 PM
35

“No one will ever love you as much as I do.” I know that’s a common LVM/NVM thing to say but when he said it, I was suddenly hit with the courage to stand up for myself and I calmly responded along the lines of: “You don’t love me. You don’t even like me. You can’t stand me. You won’t have sex with me, you won’t spend time with me, you steal from me, you won’t pay for anything. You aren’t even nice to me. You know what? I am NOT required to put up with this shit. This is my apartment, my lease, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 09:29 PM
20

That’s some next-level gaslighting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 09:03 PM
2

You’re totally in the right frame of mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 09:41 AM
2

Lawyers are especially not HVM, especially criminal lawyers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 09:38 AM
4

He’s anti-daycare and never home. He trapped her on purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 09:35 AM
81

I’d say regular daily contact too. No getting into a routine of daily good mornings and goodnights. I’d also not post anyone on social media until he was both committed, and I’d be introduced to his friends and family as his girlfriend and included in events. Holiday plans too. No spending holidays with men who aren’t committed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 07:10 AM
20

I just expect a man to be exclusive if he’s dating me. I’d walk if I found out the man I was going on dates with was seeing other women at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 07:02 AM
115

You don’t ask for exclusivity, you just walk away if the man won’t make a commitment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:59 AM
8

Force yourself to remember the negatives and imagine him exhibiting even more red flags or having really disappointing sex with him. I imagine yelling at me, us having an argument and him stonewalling me or gaslighting me. I imagine being exhausted caring for a sick crying baby while a man child acts like nothing is going on. Think of the awful things men would do and when you interact with him go into it with the mindset that you’ll treat him like someone to whom you’re indifferent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 04:34 AM
5

I use the term “females” because my country has redefined the word “woman” to mean something other than “females”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:46 PM
3

What makes you think that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 04:55 PM
6

I have seen one “boyfriend cuts girlfriend’s hair” post. He set up a laser level to project a line onto her back along her hair to ensure he cut it straight across. Kind of like using a bowl, IMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 02:21 PM
221

I think not being able to sleep is a sign of too much emotional investment on your part or that you’ve been deprived of romantic/loving feelings so long it’s like a drug. I have been here, mostly as a much younger woman, and I always take it as a warning sign that I’ve developed an unhealthy crush and need to back off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 02:17 PM
54

That’s so passive aggressive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 01:23 AM
26

It’s got to be a woman preparing food for another woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 01:22 AM
50

Your post speaks to me. I was in one relationship where I was expected to be available for my ex all the time. I have season affective disorder and after I bought a light lamp, I started sitting under it from 6am to 7am, would play sudoku, drink tea, let me ADHD medication take effect. I told my ex not to bother me during this time and he became surprisingly upset. “So you’re saying I can’t talk in the morning?” The same man had also said “why should I have to see a therapist when I have you,” s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 09:22 PM
54

I’m not an FDS expert by any means but I don’t like the idea of being auctioned off as a product. I can also see it being problematic if you have pick-me friends and family as well as LVM/NVM among your family because they’re likely going to view your standards unfavourably. As for women “shooting their shot”, I think the handbook is pretty clear about waiting for the man to approach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:49 PM
27

Actions of affirmation. I don’t believe a word any man says unless there’s ample objective evidence to back it up. A man could say “grass is green” and I’d be skeptical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 06:09 PM
4

Beautiful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 05:52 PM
3

Not worth it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 02:10 PM
5

This is just plain offensive. As if we don’t have much much much better things to do with our time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:23 PM
7

That’s absolutely true about NVM/LVM preying on us women who have chronic illnesses and disabilities. We need to be careful about telling me of our conditions because they’ll use them against us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:19 PM
11

That’s a great take on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:15 PM
10

That’s a hard boundary for me too. I don’t want to be around someone who criticizes my tastes and invalidates my preferences so easily. That’s also why I don’t tell most men I know my future plans because they criticize them and I don’t want the discouragement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:12 PM
16

She sees it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:10 PM
9

Do you mean colon polyps?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:09 PM
8

That’s highly quotable!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 07:42 PM
4

Happy Thanksgiving!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 04:41 PM
3

I have too. Also in response to being treated like garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 04:36 PM
1

It’s not an age thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 03:20 PM
47

He didn’t even say “my wife” just “wife”. That’s as bad as “the wife.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 03:18 PM
17

I like using the term “females” because “woman” means something different legally where I live.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 10:00 PM
18

I love your quip comparing the sensitivity of the clitoris to the male ego!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 09:54 PM
12

https://www.scmp.com/magazines/post-magazine/article/1867806/gulabi-gang-stick-wielding-women-vigilantes-standing-abusers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:54 PM
3

My abusive ex would tell me he owned me and if he couldn’t have me, no one else could. I later on had a child with someone else and bumped into one of his friends. Soon after I got a voicemail from him saying he’d kill my children if I had children with another man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:50 PM
47

That’s still preferable to being with a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:38 PM
4

It’s mostly men judging each other for these things. Men are the ones who create male beauty standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:35 PM
27

That is an excellent piece of writing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 12:19 AM
25

A real Covid memory. He can tell the kids and grandkids how he had to propose over Zoom back in the old days because of Covid. That has to be it. It’s all about his story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 10:57 PM
97

Wow....that Pokémon cards comment really gave me a lot of insight. So men collect nudes of women like they’d collect Pokémon cards or in my day, baseball cards? I’m having a lightbulb moment. He doesn’t even care that she’s dead....he just feels creepy masturbating to her now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 10:52 PM
42

“It’s like seeing a really special car...”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 10:47 PM
25

I love that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 10:43 PM
17

Yes they do. I am a vulnerable woman due to my circumstances and many men try to take advantage, one reason I don’t date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 09:49 AM
6

He didn’t want to have sex with her. Not a virgin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 09:45 AM
46

A majority of men, in my experience, are jealous of their wives or girlfriends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 09:33 AM
9

So much better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 05:03 PM
8

It’s as if it’s a joke but also isn’t a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 04:59 PM
34

So sad she has a bachelor’s degree in marketing, a minor in accounting and she’s relegated to using her education to run an OnlyFans account. The world really is an increasingly horrible place for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 08:03 PM
14

I saw that....it’s disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 07:51 PM
3

Never leave something in their car or even get in their car with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 07:38 PM
2

I find chicken sandwiches more enticing than men but not to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 07:35 PM
1

I recently caught a man cheating. He’s basically threatened me. I don’t know what to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 07:33 PM
7

He seems intellectually delayed. I feel uncomfortable mocking the developmentally delayed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 07:30 PM
1

It is!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 07:10 PM
1

Trigger warnings are supposed to be for people with PTSD, not for people who just don’t like intense content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 07:09 PM
7

You’re not overreacting. You did the right thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 12:24 AM
15

It’s getting close to the holidays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 12:23 AM
260

How does he get any matches?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 06:05 PM
14

Oh my God, dealing with this right now but with someone who has significant power over me and I’d lose a direct confrontation. I’m playing the long game, being patient, biding my time, trying to find allies. It’s exhausting. He’s one of those men who likes smart women so he can defeat us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 05:35 PM
3

One of my exes bought me a shitty gift like this and then asked me not use to the lotion because he hated the way it smelled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 02:41 PM
2

I try to build them up, tell them positive things about themselves, tell them my door is always open if they need to get away from that man, try not to blame her or be judgmental because ultimately I want them to escape. One of my friends, a former social worker, lets the worst men into her life. She hates herself for being on LTD due to health conditions that aren’t her fault, so she feels she has no worth despite having so many talents and accomplishments under her belt. One man took over her …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 02:25 PM
5

Don’t tell him anything of importance, not even a good story because he’ll probably try to tear down your good memories too. If you tell him you used to be really good at a sport or hobby, for example, he’ll probably end up devaluing the sport. I’d play dumb, ask him what he means by “opening up” and wait for him to ask specific questions. My biggest regret is telling a NVM I had a stillbirth. He used it against me later, saying “your daughter died because she didn’t want you as a mother.” Men h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 02:13 PM
1

What was it called when my indigenous ex-BF, his family and friends used to berate me, steal from me and abuse me for being white? I understand it isn’t systemic racism but it’s some sort of racism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 01:56 PM
3

A quaranqueen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 01:54 PM
3

I’ve published over a thousand articles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 01:54 PM
1

I think it’s too late for this generation of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 01:37 PM
2

You earned every penny and more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 01:30 PM
5

Crazy eyes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 01:27 PM
9

I was hoping to learn she’d found some sort of great career opportunity in India or experienced some great personal growth minus Vinod.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 01:24 PM
17

Thanks, I needed this advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 01:22 PM
4

Yep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:13 PM
10

I’m laughing but I’m crying at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:12 PM
3

Preach
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:10 PM
9

Hey, how did you know how my last relationship went? He was abusive too. Never have I made such a fool of myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 08:45 PM
11

Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:39 PM
6

5’3 is average female height in the UK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:17 PM
14

I HATE it when someone tries to use that as an excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:09 PM
-8

White women are only privileged over women who aren’t white. We have no privilege over men, regardless of their race.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:07 PM
3

As a white person, I see a white person making a fair critique of white people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:05 PM
15

Hahahaha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:58 PM
26

Personality disorder, probably, not a mental illness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 07:59 PM
41

I suspected he wanted to humiliate you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 07:58 PM
16

The audacity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 04:45 PM
2

I can get KFC on my own!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 10:50 PM
3

What’s she doing? Looks like nothing. Just 11 seconds of her staring into the camera and a song, the only lyrics I can understand are “ass on you.” I’m obviously really missing something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 10:43 PM
2

That happens to me when I walk the dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:50 PM
14

I once kicked a street harasser in the ass, literally, and he screamed. It was fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:48 PM
6

What’s her name?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:44 PM
21

I don’t like over the top proposals like this. It seems to me like men resort to them when they worry their girlfriend will say no. They put her in a position of either saying yes or embarrassing him knowing women are raised to cater to men’s feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:29 PM
7

I need a nap after reading her schedule.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:57 PM
8

Just drop it. Don’t let this man be a source of more unhappiness for you. My NVM ex inherited $20,000 during our relationship, knew it was coming, promised me a piece of it and I didn’t see a dime. He spent all the money on himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:38 PM
14

Living off the avails of prostitution
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:27 PM
43

Lawyers can be such narcissists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:26 PM
34

Men will think you want them to be the one if you just say hi.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 02:34 PM
143

She looks great but I’m mostly impressed with the “Dr.” before her name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 11:53 PM
6

I remember the episode when she got back together with the boyfriend with all the terrible, crlngey tattoos....😂🤣🤣😂...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 11:50 PM
-6

Come to think of it, I have never seen two men go at it because they were competing with a woman. I once in a situation where I had a choice between two guys who were roommates. The guy I didn’t choose was very normal about it. Didn’t behave any differently towards us. We all worked together too and there were zero issues. Twenty years later those two guys are still friends. I’m obviously still friends with them too. Honestly, the men I know would never sabotage a friendship over a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 11:45 PM
26

It always comes back to anal, doesn’t it?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 01:38 PM
1

Me too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 01:21 PM
2

Wow! Did the “no emotional attachment” come easy to you? How did you turn things around?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 01:20 PM
2

I just saw it for the first time a few weeks ago! Someone linked to it in this sub and I can’t get enough of it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 01:17 PM
4

That’s what my relationship with my father is like too. I wouldn’t have been able to come up with the words you wrote. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 01:24 AM
2

So do you think a man announcing he has no criminal record is a LVM move? I’ve seen men put that on their dating app profiles and to me it comes across as “I’m a dick, I just haven’t been arrested for it yet.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 01:20 AM
1

Can you elaborate on what you mean by “dating like a man”? It resonates with me but I want to know if I’m properly conceptualizing what you mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 01:18 AM
2

Yes, most of my male partners have cared about my enjoyment and wanted to impress me—just not any since 2007.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 01:15 AM
1

I’m in the same position as you. Did the long texts and everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 11:41 PM
4

https://youtu.be/zi8ShAosqzI
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 07:04 PM
61

It depends if the man values the love of his life. LVM and NVM still have loves of their lives, they just treat them like garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 08:30 PM
49

He is definitely thinking about killing her. One of my exes used to “joke” about being an anal rapist. Then he anally raped me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 08:26 PM
30

She should really be prepping to become a divorcee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 01:50 PM
35

I’d just turn on my show, teach the kids to “ask Dad” and then proceed to slack off for a month until he gets his head straight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 01:03 PM
22

Things are much much worse, especially since the 1990s. I doubt I’ll bother with a man again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 08:07 PM
6

There’s a stethoscope on the table. Please don’t tell me he’s a med student.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:00 AM
5

This is my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 11:15 PM
65

Don’t abuse the poor moms this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 03:59 PM
13

Unless he’s a professional jewelry-maker, he should not be making the ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 01:44 PM
14

Been there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 01:32 PM
22

You lasted three days before you fought back. You must have nerves of steel—I wouldn’t have lasted that long. You said he was still your abuser, that he “was(is)” your abuser. Look, it’s going to get worse. You know that. I get the sense you know what you’re in for. It will be a battle but you’ll escape. Eventually, you’re not going to be able to wait three days while the tension builds. You could reach a point where you explode right when he starts up. You know how they start with only mildly p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 01:41 AM
2

She must be in Ottawa.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 11:40 PM
4

Why do men do this again?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 05:32 PM
4

Is that a bot?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 05:28 PM
3

I once had a boyfriend tell me I was the first woman he’d ever dated who finished her whole meal at a restaurant and that he usually always ordered less food with the expectation he’d get to finish her meal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 05:45 PM
1

That is one of the funniest things I have ever seen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 11:15 AM
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