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| 24 | What’s with men not giving a damn about birth controlI’ve had some pretty bad allergic reactions to certain birth control meds. I broke out in painful itchy hives from the bc patch, it was awful and I feel a lot more comfortable using a condom instead. Also even if you’re just on birth control and don’t use a condom, there’s still a chance you can become pregnant. Asking your partner to use a condom is a great way to vet because those who refuse or make excuses not to wear one are pornsick and/or selfish and doesn’t care about health and well-bein… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 08:36 PM |
| 28 | Man(27) gets 17 year old pregnant after one night stand and absolves any fault "she was drunk but she wasn't sLoPpy dRuNk"Wow so sorry that happened. even though this guy was 18 at the time, what he did was still vile. I don’t believe men like that change unless they had some serious self reflection, IMO once a rapist always a rapist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 06:41 AM |
| 204 | Man(27) gets 17 year old pregnant after one night stand and absolves any fault "she was drunk but she wasn't sLoPpy dRuNk"This makes my stomach turn. From what he wrote, it didn’t seem like he was drunk when they slept together. Any man willing to have sex with someone they just met and are drunk is a rapist. He took advantage of her in that state. This is unfortunately very common and is normalized among the party culture. No responsible decent men that I know would ever have sex with a woman when she’s drunk, even if they’ve been married for several years | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 12:29 AM |
| 17 | The bar is in Hades. When will we stop glorifying terrible men?I would give you an award if I could, but Reddit doesn’t deserve a penny. this is hilarious😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 06:45 AM |
| 279 | Reason 20000000000000007 To Align With FDS, Vet RUTHLESSLY, Enforce Boundaries And Say NO To Casual Sex!This is a common tactic to get their dick wet with minimal effort on their part. It’s so disgusting and these men are most likely doing this to multiple women so they don’t want to pay for all the meals. Something like this happened to me before and at the time I didn’t think much of it but after reading experiences on FDS, this guy had an ulterior motive all along. He did stuff like this on our first two dates. On our first date, we ate at a nice restaurant he paid for and we sat on the patio n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 03:13 AM |
| 19 | NV/LV men will recruit other women to be nice/caring/friends with you to cover up the degradation and cheating he does behind YOUR back.Several months back I briefly dated a guy who was in a friend group of mine. One of the women in the group started using him when I was unable to attend a group outing, acted like they were dating to make another ex of hers jealous. She knew I didn’t approve and said she would never stab me in the back or date him because she really liked me and valued our friendship. I soon broke up with the guy for other reasons. She started arranging events with the guys in the friend group but intentionally … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:44 AM |
| 290 | Piggybacking off of the not clapping back at men who neg you post. What are some examples of negging that men have done to you?“Wow when you pull your hair back, i noticed how big your forehead is, but that’s okay because I have insert his own insecurity of his appearance” “No way your hair is naturally that curly, you must have gotten a perm” “Your looks are above average and you’re pretty but you are not hot like a model” “You’re the only girl who has made it to the third date. At this point I usually find something wrong with a woman I’m seeing. You’ve made it the farthest out of all the other women.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:15 AM |
| 7 | Life hack: 💡Yes, there is a time and a place to “take things personally”.💡I needed to hear this👏🏼 I’ve been told I’m too sensitive or I need to “suck it up” because I expressed hurt feelings from someone else’s shitty behavior. When I broke things off with a guy for several reasons, especially when he didn’t do anything for my birthday (no gifts, no one on one plans made, barely any acknowledgment of it at all) and when I found out he was drinking alcohol WHILE he was at work, I had a couple so called friends tell me I was overreacting and that I should’ve given him m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 06:13 AM |
| 16 | The "huh?"I had a narcissistic ex several years back who would do that. I told him my grandma was dying and I was pretty upset about it. He just shrugged and said “well anyway..” then went on about himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 01:11 AM |
| 51 | Beware of neggingThat’s when you immediately know they’re a fuckboy. A few years back, I matched with a guy on OLD who asked me to meet up with him and asked to talk to me on Snapchat after he sent just one message. I added him then right away he asked me to snap him a selfie of what I looked like at that moment because he had “trust issues” due to women not looking like their profile photos and not always having their hair and makeup done for his viewing pleasure | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 06:31 PM |
| 49 | Are you okay with your male partner only having female friends?Yes! A guy I dated who turned out to show a lot of signs that he was a covert narcissist had a lot of female friends. When we first started dating he straight up asked me if I think it’s weird that most of his friends are women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 05:12 AM |
| 83 | Women: Don't accept a single neg. Check out the dating advice men give each other.I’ve found that the most insecure men have treated me the worst and are the most misogynistic. If he had confidence he wouldn’t try and tear down women’s self worth. A HVM with confidence would just be himself and not play games. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 04:58 AM |
| 184 | Women: Don't accept a single neg. Check out the dating advice men give each other.Backhanded compliments are a huge red flag. Once had a guy tell me my looks were above average and I was considered attractive but that i wasn’t “hot” like a model. Of course he complained that he had trouble getting girls to want to go out with him, now I know why😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 04:48 AM |
| 54 | Make sure you are his first option. Men can fake and pretend you’re his #1 because they’re lonely, when in fact you aren’t the one they want.Any mention of an exgf during the first few dates and I’m gone. If they bring her up, they’re almost always not over her and/or still talking to them. One guy I dated got out of a 6-7ish year relationship 6 months prior to our first date. I had a weird feeling and wondered if it was too soon for him. Turns out I was right, they were still talking, he had commitment issues due to the breakup and not being emotionally ready to move on yet, and pretty sure I was used as a rebound. Trust your gut an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 05:22 AM |
| 20 | My NVM STBX’s response to me enforcing my boundaries with him. We’d separated; he called wanting to reconcile. His condition: I stop drinking. My condition: he stops watching porn. He broke his word and so I started a respectful conversation trying to clarify boundaries. This is how he reacted.It seemed like he was pointing out something he knew was an insecurity of yours because he was mad you set a boundary and he didn’t want to give up porn. His brain is so pornfried he can’t imagine a world without it so he’ll put people behind a screen over a real human being. I don’t even know the guy and I already can’t stand him! Abusive men like him will never be satisfied because they are so insecure themselves and they’ll do everything they can to destroy the confidence of their partners to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 04:51 AM |
| 48 | My NVM STBX’s response to me enforcing my boundaries with him. We’d separated; he called wanting to reconcile. His condition: I stop drinking. My condition: he stops watching porn. He broke his word and so I started a respectful conversation trying to clarify boundaries. This is how he reacted.Wow, according to him, women cannot have pimples and must have perfect skin at all times. It’s so insulting because I’ve struggled with hormonal acne for more than half of my life, and it’s extremely difficult to get rid of scarring. I’ve noticed how much my skin would breakout when sleeping with unhygienic scrotes, especially with those unkempt beards they rarely groomed/cleaned🤢🤢 thank god you rid yourself of this NVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 02:59 AM |
| 199 | Buzzfeed pushing dangerous LV shitFrom what it sounds like, she was probably dating him for 3-4 months at that point if they went on one date per week. The mask usually slips around then when they start to get more comfortable in the relationship. It’s not worth having sex with a stranger on the first date and risking your health and well-being. There are other ways to vet someone outside of sex, and the three month rule deters most fuckbois and low effort men. I’ve never had a positive experience sleeping with a man I’ve known … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 06:12 AM |
| 18 | Can we talk about loneliness?Yeah, it sucks but I’ve felt a lot happier and more peaceful after cutting off people who were never real friends. I was tired of letting them walk all over me. I distanced myself from a couple of toxic people who seemed to resent me for being single, choosing to focus on myself, and not seeking male attention. One would make excuses as to why we haven’t had a girls night in months while she would hit up her fwb and his friends to hang out in a heartbeat. I always felt like a last resort, and a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 06:51 PM |
| 22 | Globally, most cultures, books, movies, media, the internet etc portray attractive women or women in general as bitchy, manipulative etc. The whole mean girl trope is so false in reality. In fact in real it it men who are manipulative, liars backstabbing, bloodthirsty, murderous & many worse thingsYes and if he treats you like crap, it’s not you it’s him. I had a guy manipulate me into having sex with him by lovebombing me, he gradually withdrew effort but would leave me just enough breadcrumbs to keep me hooked. Thankfully I opened my eyes and saw how manipulative he was, and it really helped to have a strong support system to deal with the aftermath. I broke up with him, blocked and deleted. He claimed he was afraid of “hurting my feelings” so that’s why he didn’t tell me he no longer w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 04:58 AM |
| 73 | If he wants an*l sex from you, chances are that he has the potential to be, or is, abusiveI had an ex who was really into anal, though I refused to ever participate in it with him. He also wanted me to deepthr**t him and give him a bj that made me choke. I left him after just a few months thankfully, he also turned out to have a lot of misogynistic views, he lied a lot, and had a victim mentality. He was a walking red flag 🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 05:06 AM |
| 244 | You don’t need to have experience to know he will suck in bedAlso if he’s low effort with dates, he’ll be low effort in the bedroom. One LVM would go down on me when we first started seeing each other, then after he got the bjs he wanted, he stopped. Of course he told everyone how much I sucked at blowjobs while he never gave me an orgasm😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 07:59 PM |
| 11 | Suicidal threats and threatening self harm, and staying because you are worried about your partner doing the unthinkable.A few years back, I went on a few dates with a guy who told me he tried to take his own life a month before I met him and that he was recently released from a mental institution. He said he was still so fragile and tried portraying me as someone who came to save him🚩 I went on a couple more dates with him out of pity and it was a big mistake. He told me he didn’t know if he was going to wake up alive the next morning when I started acting more disinterested and communicating with him less. He tr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 05:33 AM |
| 195 | we were having a nice convo and then he hits me with this "date" suggestion. 🤏🏼🤡Walking around the mall? Is he 12? He’s wanting to be as cheap and low effort as possible so he can date a bunch of women and increase his chances of getting sex | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 05:16 AM |
| 167 | TEA ☕️: If a guy has a small dick, he WILL very likely (try) to cheat.Yep, the LVM I’ve been with who have small dicks or are insecure about their size wishing it was bigger turned out act like fuckbois the most. One of the LVM I dated would make a bunch of self deprecating jokes about how tiny his dick was and complained to me saying he wished he was bigger (he was average sized). He was the one still sexting other women behind my back and also fucking his ex in the office at his job. He also would tell all of his bros a bunch of intimate details about his sex li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 03:09 AM |
| 10 | Coping with Ex having large circle of friendsSo true about quality over quantity. I’m happy having a small tight knit circle that I know I can rely on. Though I’ve always been an introvert and slow to make friends/get close to people. I also have a very busy schedule with work, school, and other hobbies and so do my closer friends. It’s a lot to keep up with a large circle of friends so it’s easier as an adult to have a lot of them as acquaintances. Me and one of my closer friends hang out in a group sometimes with 7-8 people, guys and gir… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 06:28 AM |
| 76 | A Self Healing Post - Understand why you may be attracted to certain men - or why the bond feels so strongI often found myself going for guys I knew would treat me poorly because I believed that I deserved it and that I wasn’t good enough to find a partner who would treat me with respect. I was constantly told I wasn’t good enough and there was something wrong with me. You start to believe those words if you hear them often, especially during the crucial years of development. The scars of emotional abuse throughout my childhood cut deep and followed me for years. I’m continuing to heal now and every… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 06:13 AM |
| 27 | Woman from Harry Styles’ concert is prouder than ever.I cant get over how cringe the American flag belt in the first pic is. Even in the current pic, his shirt looks like something fuckbois wear🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 05:38 AM |
| 89 | Open communication doesn't seem to be a thing anymoreYep, I have a friend who met a guy offline (not even OLD) and he told her he wants to be exclusive but he’s not ready to put a label on things. She told me she’s looking for a relationship and that’s what she wants with him. It’s been two months (they’ve been exclusive for one month) since they first started seeing each other and he still hasn’t made it clear that she is his girlfriend. He wouldn’t even intervene in public when another man was hitting on her. He seems to be playing along and tel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 10:00 PM |
| 47 | When in doubt, do withoutYeah, whenever Ive left a job that isn’t the best fit, I started second guessing myself and wondered if it was truly the best decision. But with relationships, as much as the breakups sucked, I don’t regret leaving but usually looked back and regretted missing red flags and not ending things earlier. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 08:18 PM |
| 39 | Let's aim for higher than THIS.And being that person who settles and puts up with minimal effort is bound to be unhappy in the long run. It’s exhausting being a servant in a relationship that benefits LVM/NVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 12:45 PM |
| 237 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.If he was really interested in you, he would initiate conversation and get to know you and then if he continues to feel a connection with you, he will ask you out on a date. We need to stop wasting our time with these low effort men who lead women on for attention and sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 07:55 PM |
| 388 | “Men always complain about being friend zoned, but do they know how much it hurts to be fuck zoned? As if our friendship only had value to him because of possible sex?”It is insulting to be used only for sex. It’s like I can’t be seen beyond just an object, I have so many interesting qualities and getting to know me for me is a privilege he missed out on. Sadly these men complaining about being friendzoned cannot think beyond their dick. Their member dictates their thoughts and feelings🤢 Scrotes: “Women have it sO eAsY! They can swipe on tinder for five minutes and get a bunch of thirsty men willing to go out with them!” But most of these men just want a quick… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 04:02 AM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Check-InI know I’m a bit late listening to last weeks podcast on narcissistic abuse, but so much of what was described as signs someone is narcissistic sounds so much like my ex in high school. Even my friends could tell he seemed entitled and had a grandiose personality. He appeared haughty and felt above everyone else. Of course when he first expressed interest in dating me he put me on a pedestal and said he’d never felt the way he felt about me with anyone else and how we connected and understood ea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 03:52 AM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Check-InI’ve asked men to send me memes they like and ask what their type of humor is. One guy I dated said he was hesitant to send me his memes because they contained some pretty dark and messed up humor. Well once he got to know me more and his mask started slipping, he felt more comfortable sending them and most of them were pretty sexual and contained porn jokes and slang. So a subtle way to find out if he watches a lot of porn is to ask him to send you memes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 03:09 AM |
| 42 | What are our thoughts on this culture of rushing into marriageI was raised in a religious community and getting married at 19 wasn’t uncommon. Some of them knew each other the majority of their lives and others got engaged after just a few months of dating. It’s hard to know exactly what goes on behind closed doors so I can’t speak for the couples but I would say the majority of the time, marriage that young caused them to miss out on some amazing opportunities. Most of them had their first child by age 20, which is a lot of responsibility. When I was 21 I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 11:45 PM |
| 75 | NYT - Why Sex-Positive Feminism Is Falling Out of FashionPorn is ridiculously easy to access now and is barely regulated at all. Young children are able to access porn and an addiction can start at young ages. A lot of young boys get influenced by porn and start to believe that the objectification and abuse of women is normal. They learn about sex through porn and develop a warped view of sexual relationships. Porn has entire categories that are fucked up such as barely legal teens having sex with old men, anal sex, and categories that sexualize certa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 07:49 PM |
| 65 | Cringeworthy :/Gross. It’s such a degrading act, I’m not about to ruin my skin with a man’s sticky body fluid🤢🤢 Even the compliment “ur face is pretty” is low effort imo. He couldn’t be bothered to type out the word your. Is it just me or does something about just focusing on her face seem kind of weird? Maybe a subtle neg insinuating he doesn’t care for the rest of her body if that’s the only compliment she ever gets from him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 07:36 PM |
| 219 | I don’t really have words for this one.Yes, I’m sick of men trying to push being a pedophile as a sexual orientation. Also old men dating 18 year old girls should be taboo. I don’t care that she’s a legal adult at that age, she is still naive and can be more easily manipulated than middle aged women with more life experience. So many celebrities are trying to normalize the age gap relationships. If you’re a 50 year old man and you’re attracted to a woman in her 20s who barely has started adulthood and who’s brain is still developing,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 03:14 AM |
| 97 | I don’t really have words for this one.4-5x a day is a lot. Any sane normal person would workout more like 4-5x per week. Unless they do workout sets 5 minutes at a time but spread it out throughout the day? That would be the only explanation for 4-5x a day that makes sense | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 03:06 AM |
| 11 | When to take a break from datingI know a lot of pickmes and LVMs who constantly complain about being single (that used to be me but after several bad experiences with men, finding FDS, and taking off those rose colored glasses I no longer care). Some of them will try and make you feel bad for not having an SO. I’ve found that dating men when you’re busy building your career and education usually turns out to have a negative impact on you. You’ll be more likely to find a HVM when you’re set financially and mentally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 11:06 PM |
| 19 | Experience of men who mention their ex and a past behavior that their ex called them out on, but claimed their ex was wrong.Block and delete! I dated a guy who told me his ex would cook for him and get upset when he didn’t want to eat what she made. He said he was just a picky eater and that she’d complain he’s not grateful that she made him food. Well, he turned out to be a big manbaby. I found out from his friends that his ex would do all the chores and cooking for him and he’d do absolutely nothing. She was a forever girlfriend and she finally left him because he never planned on proposing. Once we went on a date … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 07:05 PM |
| 39 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 29 - 50/50 is a Scam: Why Men Should Always Pay More +Patchy Beard McWhiskeyD*ckMen I’ve gone on dates with have always paid for everything on the first date. Though several stopped paying for me and we went dutch after the third and fourth dates. You want to know the excuses they made? “I’m bRoKe”. This was especially common when I dated a few guys in college, they didn’t have a lot of money but they couldn’t even be bothered to pay for my $1 mcchicken at McDonald’s. One LVM ex of mine only paid my way for our first date, then after that everything was 50/50. Though he did… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 05:09 AM |
| 37 | Do not date recovering porn addicts, this post is another example of the misery and pain dealing with a pornsick man. So many scrotes defending him in the comments🤢There are also pop ups or spam that contains porn. Young children can easily access it if they accidentally click on it. It’s sad how easy it is to access porn. All these porn companies care about is money. They don’t give a shit about it ruining marriages, relationships, and even an entire generation of men. When I have kids I’m putting lots of restrictions on their internet use and limiting how much time they spend on the internet. Even when I was young the internet was bad but now it’s so muc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 01:06 AM |
| 110 | Do not date recovering porn addicts, this post is another example of the misery and pain dealing with a pornsick man. So many scrotes defending him in the comments🤢Men always want what they don’t have. They’re never satisfied, they continue to crave more. Women have been gaslit to except much less than the bare minimum from their partners. Not wanting your partner to watch porn and emotionally cheat on you does not make you insecure, toxic, or controlling. Knowing your partner is fantasizing about other women and imagining having sex with them and refusing to put up with that is perfectly reasonable. What has happened to society where looking at other nake… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 12:57 AM |
| 118 | Do not date recovering porn addicts, this post is another example of the misery and pain dealing with a pornsick man. So many scrotes defending him in the comments🤢Yes, apparently these LVM have no imagination. Their brains are so fried | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 12:49 AM |
| 70 | Some scrotes actually think like this--can you even imagine the privilege to complain about this???Ugh my ex would complain about this all the time, so glad he’s now an ex. He did use Reddit often and seemed to have a similar mindset of the average male redditor. Some of the stuff he mentioned came straight out of the redpill also saying how much easier women have it in this world, and how they get more compliments and dates than men do🙄 Oh the poor men! They’re so oppressed because they don’t feel “comfortable” when walking home at night, they feel like women are intimidated by them. /S This… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 07:50 PM |
| 29 | Weekly FDS Check-InHow embarrassing. The pickme friends of the single men are giving free emotional labor plus unpaid matchmaking services to low effort men who couldn’t be bothered to ask women on dates themselves | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 07:39 PM |
| 14 | Why you shouldn't stay in a relationship with a Porn Addict (PA)I dated a guy who almost always kept his eyes closed when we were having sex. He showed a lot of signs of being a porn addict. I didn’t think much of it before, but now I’ve being hearing multiple people say their pornsick ex closed their eyes during sex like they’re imagining a scene in their head | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 05:34 AM |
| 141 | Let’s create a megathread: What is one of the best pieces of advice you’ve learned from this sub that has blown your mind or had the greatest impact on your life?Never lower your standards for someone. If you are into taller men, don’t feel bad about it. You don’t owe anyone your time or reciprocation, so if you aren’t attracted to them you don’t have to date them. Also the fact that unattractive men don’t treat you any better, even if you are a 10/10 model they’ll still abuse you and cheat on you. LVM won’t magically change their poor behavior for more attractive women or their “dream girl”. After finding FDS and realizing the reality and how prevalent … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 07:46 PM |
| 80 | Words of caution against attachment stylesAn LVM ex told me I was too clingy and that he couldn’t fulfill my needs, and I thought we were just in the “anxious-avoidant” cycle and that I could take steps to get out of it. But he would start shutting down and would grey rock me whenever he started feeling down or depressed. Once he told me not to text or call him at all and that he needed space because he got so upset over a dog he adopted being too big in size and tearing up his small apartment. I’ve always been an empathetic and caring … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 06:41 PM |
| 267 | Hahaha what. #hobosexualWow they don’t even try to hide it anymore. He asks specifically for a single woman. What confuses me is that he’s a traveling mechanic and claims he’ll cover all your expenses but he doesn’t have a car. Something doesn’t add up🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 06:25 PM |
| 32 | Why you shouldn't stay in a relationship with a Porn Addict (PA)For sure, it’s also really exhausting to keep up with their fantasy. Most of us work full time and have lots of hobbies that keep us busy. Add having kids with the pornsick scrote if you end up in an LTR and his demands get even more ridiculous. Pornsick men may demand sex from you everyday and expecting a pornstar like performance while you’re exhausted and just wanting to sleep and get it over with. They’ll turn to their precious pixels for their sexual fulfillment even if you do have sex with… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 05:25 PM |
| 72 | Why you shouldn't stay in a relationship with a Porn Addict (PA)Once I had a guy unable to maintain an erection when we first started having sex. We tried multiple times that week and he’d lose it when he put a condom on. It made me feel embarrassed and like I did something wrong. I didn’t know that that was a sign of a porn addiction at the time, thought it was nerves, and I decided to try and give him another chance, he no longer had trouble when we went condomless🤡 I should’ve left after that week he couldn’t keep it up. He continued to gaslight and manip… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 05:04 PM |
| 387 | Methods they use to stealth unsuspecting womenI avoid one night stands, hookups, and casual sex for this very reason. Whenever I have had casual sex in the past, the man always put his desires and well being over mine. All of the men I had casual sex with bitched and complained about wearing a condom, saying that they just assume the woman is on birth control. Even if I did take birth control, i wouldn’t want to risk getting an STI from his filthy dick. And if you have sex with a total stranger he can easily lie to you about his sexual heal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 03:01 AM |
| 30 | Comment Section of Reddit’s “Popular” Posts Today on a P*rn Meme…Yep they’re trying to convince everyone that watching a lot of porn is a “normal and healthy” part of your sex life. The other day I was looking at comments on a thread in a popular subreddit and one user said they spent a whole hour on pornhub and felt guilty about being unproductive and wasting their time and then another user replied saying “only an hour? That’s nothing. I’m usually on there looking at videos for several hours at a time”🤢🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 05:45 PM |
| 8 | You make me laugh. All because I said men should please leave a relationship with a woman if they can’t handle her choice to grow out her natural body hair and NOT just withhold intimacy (emotional abuse in this instance). Also sir your active communities says it all ... Reminder to block DMs! 🤦🏻♀️Maybe if they got off Reddit, logged off pornhub, and went out into the real world they would know that there are people out there who treat others with respect and see them as human. But no, they’d rather stay inside and harass women on the internet | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 09:51 PM |
| 254 | There's our answer ladies.I’ve met men who don’t have female friends or invite any women in the friend group out to hang with them unless they are attracted to them and want to sleep with them. Have you noticed it’s almost always women who make the plans in the group inviting everybody? These men will make plans with their boys in a heartbeat but if you reject their sexual advances they don’t even see you as a friend or human to them anymore. All they do is take from women with nothing to give in return. Vet male friends… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 02:36 AM |
| 227 | We are taught that dating and life in general is easier for conventionally attractive women. I think they have it worse.It sucks because I’ve been lovebombed by NVM only to find out that their sole purpose was to get sex from me. They didn’t even see me as human, just a fleshlight to use for their sole pleasure. A couple years ago, a redpilled asshole of a scrote I went on a date with tried to portray himself as the prize telling me how he’s dated all gorgeous women and models (lies I know😂). But to keep me “humble” he told me I was above average in the looks department but I wasn’t as hot as 10/10 women who make… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 12:19 AM |
| 104 | Tell him you don't like to drink (even if you do)Men who try and get women drunk to get laid know that they themselves are losers with a subpar personality. Not drinking on dates weeds out the predators and borderline alcoholics. I once went on a date with a guy who drank three margaritas at the restaurant then wanted to DRIVE to a bar and drink beer. A few of my friends knew this guy personally and from what I found out, he tended to drink several beers while working at his job and a lot of his hobbies and hangouts with friends involved going… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 05:51 PM |
| 100 | LIMERENCE: How to Stay UnattachedI’ve fallen prey to some of these symptoms in the past especially when I had been lovebombed by LVM/NVM. They’ll use tactics to get in your head such as “Goodmorning beautiful” texts first thing in the morning and they’ll feed off of your empathy. It also helps to keep a clear head if you wait a few months to have sex. That oxytocin released after sex is a bitch! I’ve noticed I don’t idealize or put a man on a pedestal if we’re developing a relationship in a healthy way and he’s not trying to cr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 03:20 AM |
| 18 | When did you realize that FDS was working for you and helping you make better dating decisions?It’s been so much easier for me to say no to people. I don’t owe anyone my time or an explanation. I’ve also been able to pick up on red flags and detect low value behavior even with men my friends are talking to/dating. First man I dated after discovering FDS showed early warning signs of being emotionally abusive, manipulative, and most likely physically abusive if he didn’t get his way. I’ll admit I missed a few subtle red flags at first but Ive been getting better at spotting them now that I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 10:17 PM |
| 66 | Stop Giving a F: Quit “Paragraphing” For Men IRL, Too.A couple weeks ago I joined a group chat some friends were in. There were two LVMs who would send offensive memes and criticize women whenever they got a chance. One claimed that women are liars and “twist things around on him” to make him look like the bad guy. Another said that women deserve less because they prefer larger dicks. They were purposely trying to get a reaction from the women in the chat, but I chose not to engage because I was not going to magically convince them to get rid of th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 09:20 PM |
| 295 | FDS isn't "wild" it is the same standards i learned in therapy especially with how to recognize abuseYes I definitely agree! I’ve been a victim of emotional and mental abuse throughout my lifetime, from family members, peers, and ex boyfriends. It’s so sad how it’s normalized in relationships and women are gaslit by society that their feelings are not valid. I love how FDS teaches us to walk away at the first sign of disrespect and that if we feel anxious or uncomfortable around a man that we need to cut him off. No second chances, we need to listen to our guts🙌🏻 I’m working on cutting out the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 08:02 PM |
| 166 | “Coersion isn’t Consent”Also do not get in the car with a man for the first few months, especially if you are implementing the three month no sex rule. Do not let him pick you up from your place and do not ride with him to go to a different destination on a date. I had a guy I dated once offer to pick me up to go to a nice dinner. I told him I’d rather meet him there and he respected it, but after we were through with dinner and dessert he offered to take me to another place with a patio so we could continue our date. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 04:58 AM |
| 3 | Two shy introverts go on a date…I agree, I’ve met a few girlfriends off of bumble BFF and it took time to get to know each other and build the friendship. We didn’t instantly become close or “hit it off”. Though in my experience with men I had this “instant chemistry” with, I was being lovebombed. I was lovebombed by a couple men on OLD and their messages were long and detailed and they would start feigning intimacy by sending the Goodmorning and goodnight texts, and wanting to talk throughout the day. People I got to know in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 09:40 PM |
| 148 | First date quick vetting tipsDefinitely keep the first date no longer than 1-2 hours. I dated a guy who took me to multiple locations and the date lasted for 6 hours! We got along really well and back then I wasn’t aware that long dates plus multiple locations early on in the relationship was a tactic used to create a false sense of intimacy. I thought the reason the date lasted so long was because we hit it off so well but he ended up lovebombing me and when we got into an LTR he turned out to have narcissistic traits. The… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 01:01 AM |
| 94 | I’m just so over dating at this pointBlock and delete! He is not consistent with communication. If there’s a sudden change in the way he texts and he started having drier responses after you guys started dating, he’s starting to lose interest now that he knows he has you. You say he’s never dated before and he’s in his 20s. There may be a reason for that, maybe he has commitment issues or is emotionally unavailable. Maybe he doesn’t care to keep up the effort and is trying to get you to chase him. Though the reason does not matter … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 03:31 AM |
| 16 | "Exclusive" is not a relationship status. You are either in a committed relationship or singleI had a friend awhile back who was seeing a guy who called them “exclusive” but they were not officially dating. He didn’t want her going on dates with other men🙄 This same guy told my other friends and I a few months before he met her that he was not ready for a relationship because he was “still figuring his life out”. Guess where he took my friend on their first date? A fast food restaurant: In and Out Burger. She was a pickme and said “It doesn’t matter where he takes you on a first date bec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 01:55 AM |
| 82 | Men continue to stay in power because the average woman does not understand how they truly think.I’ve met so many men who put on an act. They act like they’re our allies and that they’ll protect us, but in reality they have ulterior motives. They’ll say that they have our backs and that they’ll be there for us, but when something bad actually happens to a woman, they turn a blind eye and blame her instead. They say things like she was “too trusting and should’ve seen it coming”. They have male friends, coworkers, and family members who abuse women and treat them poorly, but they watch and l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 01:43 AM |
| 25 | From pickme to picky: This sub has made me fall in love with being single!It’s so much better and a freeing feeling to be single! It’s given me time to focus on myself and continue improving and gaining confidence. LVMs have tried to worm their way into my life and then spit me out once they’re done using me. FDS has given me the tools to spot them quickly and cut them off at the first red flag. There was one LVM who was still trying to keep me as an orbiter for validation even though we only went on a few dates. I blocked him so he couldn’t reach me but he still trie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 01:20 AM |
| 12 | Vetting for low value behaviour in men doesn't just apply to romantic relationships. It also applies to your friendships and associations.I had to cut out an entire cohort of male “friends” because they would make misogynistic jokes and talk poorly about women they know, their exgfs, and even their other male friends when they weren’t around. They began to resent me when I started pushing back and standing up for myself. I was no longer seen as the fun cool girl who lacked boundaries. They don’t have much going for them and aren’t working toward a future career goal like I am. I have a degree and just got into my dream school read… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 07:52 PM |
| 8 | Don’t be fooled by pickmes who seem to attract a bunch of menEspecially if the men are misogynistic or toxic. They almost always have an ulterior motive with female friends. They have these female friends for possible sex, clout, and feeding their ego. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 07:29 PM |
| 15 | Don’t be fooled by pickmes who seem to attract a bunch of menNot at all, like you can keep him😂 I had one of the pickme friends in a friend group make plans with all the guys in the group and not include me. Her reasoning? She claimed because I used to date one of the guys (FYI we only went on like three real dates) it would’ve been weird if I tagged along because he was now dating her and she said it would’ve been “weird”🤣 he wasn’t even good looking and I was the one to break things off with him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 07:21 PM |
| 29 | Don’t be fooled by pickmes who seem to attract a bunch of menApparently this post triggered a bunch of angry lurkers. They’re accusing me of also being against women despite this being a female centric sub🤣 I have HVW friends too, I just cut out the toxic female friends in my circle which has tremendously improved my life. The lurkers don’t want us to learn to level up, they want to encourage pickme behavior🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 07:10 PM |
| 58 | A Man and Sexual Harassment (?), + I'm not crazy right?It was 100% sexual harassment. When he brought up getting a tattoo in that area, he was insinuating that she was going to get to see it🤢🤢 why else would he have asked her if he should do it? I don’t talk to any of my friends and family members (male and female) about my private parts in detail. Those things are meant to be kept to yourself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 04:21 AM |
| 221 | Pressure to take hormonal birth controlBeing on the pill for a long amount of time can have some really devastating effects. It can really mess with your mental and physical health so feeling pressured to be on birth control because your partner claims “the sensation is not as good with a condom” is not empowering. If a partner complains about having to wear a condom, next him, he doesn’t give a shit about your health, he is putting his own pleasure above your well being. This is another reason why I stopped engaging in casual sex an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 11:00 PM |
| 8 | People will try to pull you back down to your old pick-me self. Don’t let them. Level up anyway.Yep, with people like this I stopped initiating hangouts because I didn’t feel valued and appreciated by them. Sometimes they’ll come back when there’s no guy in their life to distract them, other times they drift away from you on their own. It can be hard to find close and solid female friends but they’re out there! The ones who have stuck have a life of their own, lots of hobbies, and are working towards a major life goal like a career that doesn’t revolve around men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 08:47 PM |
| 72 | People will try to pull you back down to your old pick-me self. Don’t let them. Level up anyway.There’s a pickme “friend” who I just met three months ago. She just moved to my city and wanted to meet some of my friends too. The past few weeks she has been starting to show her true colors. She has been hitting only the guys up in our friend group to hang out and not inviting the other girls. She’ll text us girls saying how we should have a girls night but never follows through on those plans while she’ll go and drop everything just to hang out with the guys. One of my girlfriends in the gro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 06:15 AM |
| 68 | Listen, then LeaveI had an ex tell me on our third date how he always managed to find something wrong with all the women he’s dated in the past and how I was the one who made it the farthest and how he was impressed🚩 He turned out to show signs of covert narcissism throughout our relationship. I endured severe anxiety, gaslighting, and emotional abuse from him. When he broke up with me he told me what he believed I did wrong and what flaws he found in me, though he still tried to gloss it over with other complime… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 04:53 AM |
| 70 | What are some of the reddest red flags you’ve ever seen on a date or during a relationship?—One guy told me he just got released from a mental hospital two weeks before our first date. —Another guy told me he drank 5-6 beers in his car by himself while he was on lunch break and only a large bag of potato chips to eat. —A guy I went on one date with my first year of college told me all of the car accidents i was in throughout my lifetime was the devil causing them to happen because he was trying to hurt me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 04:47 AM |
| 65 | I feel that I’m always walking on eggshells with you.My ex LVM said that to me right before our relationship ended because I started questioning things and bringing up concerns about us. I was trying to CoMmUnIcAtE with him because I started feeling less important, he was starting to show some red flags. He showed signs of covert narcissism and I told him about some personal issues of mine he started weaponizing against me to make him out to be the victim. “I feel that I’m always walking on eggshells with you” is NVM language for “How dare you que… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 03:04 AM |
| 10 | Keep Your SilenceYou don’t owe them your time or an explanation. I had an ex who wronged me and I crafted a long message calling him out on his behavior. It didn’t solve anything, it only wasted time and it did not make him change. He was a manipulator and I’m sure it brought him a sense of superiority knowing he upset me. He was broken and found joy in hurting other people, especially women. My message only gave him more leverage against me and he probably used it to twist things and make me out to be the “craz… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 08:33 PM |
| 104 | Low Effort Dates | Online DatingWhen they say they’re new to the city and want you to show them around, they plan on taking you back to their place to “show you their bedroom”. I wouldn’t expect a complete stranger to give me a tour of the city, it’s low effort to ask someone online that because essentially they’re making you plan everything so they don’t have to do the work. If they say they are only going to be there for a short time, they’re looking for a quick hookup and most likely have a wife or girlfriend back home. Ask… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 06:04 AM |
| 193 | short women. be extra careful about men's "pReFeReNcEs" for your body type.It’s so gross how often I’ve heard men say they want to throw around a short girl in the bedroom, basically they’re saying they want to overpower and abuse them. I had a white male guy friend in the past tell me a dream of his would be to date an Asian girl. The way he said it creeped me out too. Men fetishize Asian women a lot because they tend to have a smaller frame and are typically shorter. So I find it to be a red flag if a man tells me he has a thing for Asian women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 05:56 PM |
| 147 | The amount of hypocrisy I've seen from men is just staggering.Saying a woman is “easy” is a misogynistic double standard. Scrotes will manipulate women into sleeping with them on the first date and then discard and disrespect them because they couldn’t keep it in their pants. They don’t give a shit about getting to know her or see her as human. They say how it’s empowering for a woman to embrace her sexuality by having sex with a stranger and casual sex while talking shit about her behind her back to their bros. It’s disgusting🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 04:36 AM |
| 197 | We're finally seeing the effects of porn use in boys and menExactly why men who’ve been coddled by their pickme moms their whole life look for a mommy like figure in the dating world who will take them in and do all the emotional labor. I refuse to cater to a manchild with a soft dick who jerks off to porn all day. I dated a guy who I’m pretty sure was a pornaddict, showed all the signs of one, including going limp in the middle of sex. He takes medication for ADHD symptoms, surprise surprise | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 12:38 AM |
| 25 | The real reason your ex left and came back months laterYep I would’ve avoided so much drama over loser men if I went to an all girls school. Also pretty sure my narc got addicted to porn at a young age because of how he coerced me into sex and doing stuff I wasn’t comfortable with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 12:20 AM |
| 37 | "73 percent of respondents in their study stated that they had more than one back burner...56 percent of those in committed relationships" Is this what male and female" friendships" are these day?Yep, I had an ex who had a close female “friend”. They’d hang out one on one, he even told me she used to have a crush on him. She even had the same name as me. He claimed he would never date her because he thought she was too sl*tty and too much of a party girl. Me being a cool girl pick me back then ignored the glaring red flag right in front of me. Even if he wasn’t cheating with her (though he definitely could have but I didn’t know it) he most likely kept her around as an option so he would… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 09:02 PM |
| 7 | Dating your friend is okay in the FDS strategy book?In my experience, a lot of male “friends” I had would mainly hang out with me because they found me sexually attractive. Eventually they would either make a move on me or drop off the face of the earth and ghost me if I didn’t show interest or one of us ended up dating someone else. It’s not possible to fall in love in 8 seconds, that’s infatuation. If you have been friends with him for several months and he just asked you out, I don’t see that as settling. High value people take the time to pro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 08:54 PM |
| 55 | The real reason your ex left and came back months laterSo true, I had an ex back in high school who showed all the signs of being a narc. He started out with the classic lovebombing and gave me an excessive amount of compliments. Then a couple months later, he started the negging. He broke up with me multiple times and would come back begging for us to get back together and that he made a mistake until I would stupidly take him back. He’d do the lovebombing again and the same cycle would repeat. Since we went to the same school, even when I blocked … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 08:24 PM |
| 48 | I don't give a shit about what men think or what men care for in a womanUghh there are so many articles like “How to Be the One For Him” and “How to Attract Men” and it’s usually all this pickme bs and about CoMmUnIcAtIoN and being submissive. I grew up being a people pleaser, I lacked boundaries, had a hard time saying no because I didn’t want to upset or offend anyone, always scared I was too much or in the way. A lot of it stemmed from the emotional abuse I constantly endured as a child, also growing up in a misogynistic male centered religious community. We were… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 06:51 PM |
| 33 | Weekly FDS Check-inI have a friend who started seeing this guy in our friend group. He asked to be exclusive but they aren’t officially dating. It is so confusing and the whole ordeal makes no sense. According to my friend, they’re “talking”. He got mad at her when she said she had a date with another guy lined up and that’s when he asked to be exclusive. He claimed he was wanting to “take things slow and see how it goes” because he was afraid if they broke up it could cause drama in the friend group. So he doesn’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 08:03 PM |
| 20 | What makes YOU so amazing??!I’m hardworking and reliable. People can always count on me at work because I show up and do my job. I’m also very intelligent and have a degree in the sciences to show for it, I kept up a high GPA at an academic minded college that only accepts the top 50% of high school students. I’m dedicated and motivated to keep leveling up in my career and I get to find out this next week if I got into the next school I applied to to further my education🤞🏻 I’m also witty and love making people laugh. I’ve … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 09:48 PM |
| 26 | What are your personal pickme horror stories from hell?I still cringe that I even gave this guy a chance, but I was naive and inexperienced with dating at that time as I was still in college. I matched with this guy on bumble who went to the same school. We started talking and his photos were okay looking but he was so ugly in person, he looked like a gremlin. Im an above average looking person and even my pickme friends said I was way too good for him🤢 We texted constantly for several days and he’d tell me how we were so alike and we had so much in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 08:13 PM |
| 18 | Bette Midler recommends all women refuse to have sex with menIt’s a form of manipulation to say you’re lame because you won’t allow them to perform abusive acts disguised as “kinks”🤢 scrotes are hoping you’re insecure enough to give in so they can do what they want. In fact if you do engage in those acts they won’t respect you more, they’ll respect you less because you’re only an object they can toy with after all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 12:09 AM |
| 76 | Bette Midler recommends all women refuse to have sex with menMen expect us to perform like pornstars at all times while they do less than the bare minimum and constantly disappoint in bed. It doesn’t sound so bad not to have sex with men, you’re not missing out on much🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 10:04 PM |
| 49 | When men withhold feelings/emotions: do they have them or do they just not care?I dated a guy who didn’t even have the balls to tell me he wasn’t ready for a relationship even though he called us exclusive after seeing each other for a few weeks. He claimed he thought he was ready but his ex left him just a few months before so he was still healing from that. I had to be the one to break up with him because he was becoming low effort and our conversations couldn’t go beyond surface level and I realized how little I knew about him as a person. When I told him I was done, tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 09:33 PM |
| 34 | For all the ladies who feel lonely sometimes...I have felt lonely when single because I felt like I was missing having someone I could always confide in and turn to for support, but I’ve also felt lonely while in a relationship. It’s because having a man will not fix all your problems and we can’t rely on other people to make us happy. They can definitely add to your life if their high value, but if they aren’t the right fit or are toxic/abusive it makes us feel more drained and worthless than if we are alone. What has helped me deal with lo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 08:42 PM |
| 81 | Ladies of Reddit, what’s the sexiest thing an overweight gamer in his 30s can do to make you have sex with himI love it when they play video games all day! It shows they have a competitive side which is so sexy! And they have hobbies😍😍 /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 06:08 PM |
| 40 | Unlearning my perception of pubic hair.I prefer pubic hair to be trimmed, not a big unkempt bush. Some men will just let it grow wild and just like we prefer men with neatly brushed hair and facial hair, it’s not unreasonable to prefer them to keep it cut down there too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 04:56 PM |
| 72 | Ah, the classic “Passive Reciprocation”I remember complaining to some friends about a LVM ex who initially put in tons of effort when we first started dating and after just a few weeks he started pulling away and stopped putting in effort, no longer asking me out on dates. Those friends told me that I needed to be the one to start initiating dates and texting him first because “men love it when a girl shows appreciation and starts making the plans instead. He probably feels like he’s under appreciated and you aren’t interested too”. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:19 PM |
| 40 | They aren’t even hiding the fact that they want to be babied into adulthood. 🚩MOMMY ISSUES🚩He looks like he’s 12 years old with his unkempt hair too🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 10:55 PM |
| 14 | I’m really curious to know..I wish I could go back in time and tell myself that dick is abundant and low value! Attention from men isn’t worth shit because they’d fuck a donut if they’re desperate enough😂 If only I knew how much trauma and heartache I’d avoid if I prioritized myself instead of LVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 06:35 PM |
| 78 | Women who are only your friends when they are in between boyfriends, are pickme and LV.I recently cut off a so called “friend” like this. She’d do anything to get a mans attention, including calling “dibs” on a guy she barely knows because she thought he was cute. She would have a bunch of crushes on men she talked to just once and get mad if he started talking to another girl. It was too much drama for me. She did disappear for a few years right after graduating high school because she got in an LTR with a guy. Didn’t reach out to me once during that time, then once they broke up… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 06:30 PM |
| 36 | SeXual SeLecTiOn is A hAte CriMe aGainSt mEnWe’re damned if we do and damned if we don’t. These same scrotes screeching about how women should choose better men don’t realize they are part of the problem and instead of being willing to put effort into their personal leveling up, they play victims and blame women instead | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 03:32 AM |
| 31 | What are some red flags about men’s cleanliness?Hair doesn’t look neat or brushed very well. Facial hair isn’t trimmed, they just let it grow out and it looks like they grew a giant bush on their face or their facial hair is patchy, only grows in certain parts of face making it look uneven. Dandruff flakes in hair plus it looks greasy meaning who knows when they last showered🤢 shirt looks too big on them, if they can’t put effort into their appearance and the way they dress, you bet their house won’t be clean either | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 09:31 PM |
| 31 | Don't take initiative in adding or interacting with your crush on social mediaI stopped getting crushes after high school and the first couple years of college. There was one guy I found attractive and kind of liked shortly after I had gone through a breakup with an LVM ex, but at that time I think I was trying to fill an empty spot that I felt was missing after the relationship ended. The short “crush” (I don’t know if I’d even call it that because I didn’t think about him often outside of seeing him or make up a fantasy of what a relationship would be like with him) did… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 04:16 AM |
| 47 | Watch this scrote get roasted for his views. Hands up if you’ve encountered an angry short guy with a complex like this 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️Yep, guys like this reek of insecurity so try and compensate by belittling women and being extremely misogynistic. Then they ask why women don’t want them🙄 Edit: I met a guy like this who complains about how it’s so hard for him to find a girlfriend and how much the dating world sucks because they’re “so shallow” while he’ll nitpick at gorgeous women’s appearance. Like once he told a girl to lose weight (she wasn’t overweight either) and another time he said my hair was too curly. He also said w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 02:32 AM |
| 96 | I’m glad that pick me’s are getting called out on just how crazy they soundSo true, a guy I dated who turned out to be a fuckboy said he was a picky eater. One of his favorite dishes (and one of the few he’d eat when at a restaurant) was chicken Alfredo. I on the other hand find Alfredo sauce to be disgusting🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 05:46 AM |
| 11 | How to Test for Bros Before Hoes MentalityI agree, I dated a guy who had a close friend who was extremely disrespectful and openly misogynistic. A lot of people didn’t like this friend and weren’t that close with him because he was trashy, but my ex still kept him around and invited him to group outings. The friend would even get them kicked out of clubs because he’d get angry drunk and punch holes in the wall and break glasses. I knew this friend was nothing but trouble. My ex turned out to be very misogynistic and had zero respect for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 08:36 PM |
| 3 | Quick question: what are some narcissistic traits?I have an ex who displays a lot of the signs of a covert narcissist. Since I’m not a professional I don’t know for sure he’s narcissistic but reading about covert abuse, I realized it described almost exactly what I went through in the relationship. One thing I noticed early on was when we matched online, he would talk about his interests in really long paragraphs. He went on and on, would just keep talking. He seemed pretty self absorbed, but I also thought he was passionate about his interests… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 08:14 PM |
| 86 | Pickme’s sacrifice living situation for LVMExactly. As women, we have a higher risk of being assaulted by men, or worse. So we need to look out for and protect each other. Pickmes who have men they barely know over are endangering their roommates lives for some mediocre dick. OP is correct for not renewing their leases | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 05:53 PM |
| 32 | ‘Guy friends’: the real evil men?I had a guy friend who pretended he would do everything he could to protect women from gross creepy men. When a group of us went out to a club, he would ward off men I didn’t want approaching me. His ex also went and he saw a guy he knew was shady talking to her so he got her to dance with him so the guy would go away. He claimed he would do that for anyone, because women deserve to have a fun night out without fear of being assaulted as he put it. At first I believed him and appreciated him for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 05:01 PM |
| 21 | The dangers of the Slow Fade and circling back to small talk/Good morning textsScrote’s like that don’t want to bother to put in the effort, they know they aren’t good enough for you so they’ll try and get you to chase them instead, make you feel like you deserve less for putting up with them. Inside theyre extremely insecure and want to take you down a notch so you’ll also doubt yourself. If they find that you won’t fall for their tactic or aren’t easy to manipulate, they’ll get bored and move on to a different prey. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 11:51 PM |
| 14 | Is there a benefit to not adding men on social media, to "keep the mystery" and require them to invest time and effort into getting to know you? What are your thoughts?It depends on how long you’ve known each other and how close you are in person. For example, if he’s a childhood friend it would be weird if he didn’t already have you on social media but on the other hand, if it’s someone you’ve met on OLD or an acquaintance you don’t know too well yet at work then I wouldn’t be friends on social media until you two are exclusive. I got in a relationship with someone from OLD and we didn’t add each other on FB, Instagram, etc until after three months when we ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 08:43 PM |
| 65 | The dangers of the Slow Fade and circling back to small talk/Good morning textsTLDR: He has to show consistency in effort with both texting and in person. If he still texts you consistently but you can tell he’s slacking on effort in person, dump his ass I had a guy try and pull this with me once, but he still texted me consistently and instead started slowly pulling away in person. It threw me off kilter because I thought “well he’s probably busy with work and stressed. That’s why he hasn’t been making plans to take me out on dates as often.” Though the texts were mainly … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 08:31 PM |
| 216 | When you see it..Exactly why I block and delete. Most of them get the message they no longer have access to me, they don’t deserve the satisfaction that I saw their name popup on the screen. I had a couple weirdos make new accounts just to bother me again but they finally gave up when I still ignored them. Edit: All my exes I didn’t block in the past came back, whether it was randomly messaging me asking how I’ve been or asking straight up if I want to get back together with them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 06:11 PM |
| 10 | Sex study into whether size matters leaves much to be desired (The Times)Gross🤢🤢 This one obese scrote I know always complains about having a small Dick and that women shouldn’t care because sMaLl DiCkS mAtTeR tOo. He’s one of the most openly misogynistic men that I know too, complains about how when men state their preferences of women it’s labeled “body shaming”. He said that’s why women deserve less, because they prefer bigger dicks when “men can’t control how big they are”. He’s so delusional it’s hilarious, if he actually put effort into losing weight he can cha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 06:05 PM |
| 45 | If he pulls away, don't give him space...My ex said I was too much and too clingy when he shut down, refused to communicate with me, and started pulling away from me when he was under a lot of stress. Of course back then I thought being a “supportive girlfriend” and doing all this emotional labor was the right thing to do, but it didn’t make him respect or appreciate me more at all. When he told me he felt like we had to break up because I was too clingy, too much, and that I needed to be with someone more “outgoing” as he put it, I ju… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 05:56 PM |
| 8 | How to tell that he’s pornsickYes! The pornsick scrote I was with had ED the first time we had sex. He told me he didn’t know why and said he thought he was nervous, claimed it never happened before (right). I told one of my friends because I was embarrassed and she claimed it was my fault I didn’t turn him on enough🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 03:19 AM |
| 275 | Expose them early and often!Even with friends, if they’re the ones to initiate the plans I assume nothings happening until they give me a specific day, time, and place and then follow up the day of. Sounds like this man wanted you to make the plans for him so he could get by with minimal effort then he got mad when you didn’t bite. He has nothing but the audacity🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 02:16 AM |
| 191 | This is probably exactly how some scrotes process mundane, everyday transactionsThe fact he had to post about it on social media if it really did happen (I highly doubt it though) is pathetic. A normal person would just go about their day and forget about it. I know a scrote who mentions girls flirting with him all the time. He always says he turns them down while in reality it’s just a normal interaction and she wasn’t trying to imply anything and he’s always seeking out women on Tinder and is “on the prowl” as he loves to put it🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 02:10 AM |
| 64 | How to tell that he’s pornsick💀💀💀 They’ll get scared when the teeth come out and their soft peens can’t handle it💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 07:12 AM |
| 73 | How to tell that he’s pornsickI always wondered about the pornsick scrote i mentioned in the example. He seemed really nice on the surface when you first met him and that’s what initially got me interested in dating him. He had this facade up for the first few weeks and since he could only keep it up for so long it started slipping and more evidence of how depraved he actually was started to come out. I caught him using the Kik app on his phone and from what I heard it’s a common app where pedophiles lurk, he was mid 20s so … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 07:10 AM |
| 107 | Women have been shamed and bullied into staying silenct and tolerating shitty, dangerous behavior so they don't look like a "Karen". Why is there no word for men who misbehave in public, much less men who creep out women?Just the other day I was at the gym and an old creep approached me and asked me what my name was. A couple years ago I would’ve tried to be nice and engage with him, but instead after finding FDS I just ignored him and walked away. I didn’t owe him any politeness because he was rude and tried to hit on me even though I had my headphones in. Thankfully he didn’t try to follow me and left the area instead | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 10:26 PM |
| 55 | FactsI’m no longer wasting my time with a man who is emotionally unavailable. If they cannot have a conversation with you about the relationship or you don’t feel like you can come to them about any issues, expect to feel miserable and lonely because they lack basic aspects of emotional intelligence. I used to be attracted to those types of men because I found them “mysterious” and thought I could figure them out and solve their problems. Now it’s such a turn off to me after I started gaining confide… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 07:17 PM |
| 43 | Women regret doing too much, men regret doing too little.Yep, if I left the moment he offered to go back to his place after dinner on our first date, I would’ve saved so much heartache after he told our whole friend group that I sucked in bed and humiliated me. He showed his true colors so quickly, I wish I knew what I know now, but I’m working on forgiving my pickme past | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 07:00 PM |
| 98 | If its meant to be then you wouldn't be asking me for adviceSo true, I wasted way too much time complaining about scrotes nonsense to my friends in the past. If he’s trash at communicating or is too emotionally stunted to have a mature conversation with you, move on from him. It won’t get better. If he shows bad signs this early on in a relationship, imagine how much worse it would be in the future | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 06:42 PM |
| 118 | It's not him being turned off, it's meA man feeling emasculated because a woman is more intelligent and has a happy life without catering to his every whim?😨 oh how terrible, we don’t want to hurt his little feelings /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 06:34 PM |
| 14 | Pickmes and memesI just ignore the sexist memes I see on Reddit and other parts of the internet. I can’t control what other people think and if they post or say offensive stuff that is demeaning to a certain group of people, I distance myself from them and unfollow them on social media. Don’t dwell on what pickmes and scrote’s are doing. Part of being a HVW is not giving a shit and only allowing things into our lives that add value | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 06:07 PM |
| 46 | Pickmeisha in Training: Very SadHer pedophile “friends” probably manipulated her into sharing suggestive profile pictures to get guys attention. Those men are so gross🤢 it’s so sad to see young girls sexualized at such a young age. Almost all of us have been since 8 years old or even younger. We live in a world where many predators walk among us, some we even know personally. We may have no idea who because they hide it so well. I hope this profile gets taken down and this young girl will learn that the majority of men have il… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 03:46 AM |
| 74 | "No one likes a know-it-all" and other stupid things LV's say. Comment your own!Automatic block when a man texts “sup” or “wyd”🤢🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 07:30 PM |
| 72 | "No one likes a know-it-all" and other stupid things LV's say. Comment your own!“Women can’t do ______.” I’ve dated misogynistic men who have made generalized statements putting down women. A scrote told me women can’t play basketball after I told him I played for several years as a teen. Next🚩 “I thought I was ready for a serious relationship when I first met you but turned out I wasn’t because I dated my exgf for soooo long.” He said this after I dumped him for becoming low effort after a few weeks of lovebombing. I just laughed in his face then blocked him when I got hom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 07:28 PM |
| 77 | Actions don't lie, how does he react in these situations?Yes, red flag if they start talking negatively about the staff when they’re no longer present. Also watch if there’s any difference in how they treat a young, attractive woman in customer service vs. anyone else in the service industry. They may only treat the younger woman nicely because they place a woman’s worth only on how “fuckable” they see her as | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 08:59 PM |
| 82 | Men will say crap like “Marriage is something serious and needs to be done after more time has passed”…Actions speak louder than words. LVM will make up ridiculous excuses to keep stringing you along and keep you as a forever girlfriend without having to commit. They know even if you have children together, you’ll be the one doing all the work while they sit around and drink beer and throw the empty cans on the floor for you to pick up. They want to stay 21 forever, they claim they don’t believe in marriage or they need more time. Bullshit. If they wanted to they would | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 06:23 PM |
| 102 | Dodged a crafty LVMCongrats on blocking and deleting after identifying red flags! Especially when he texted you goodmorning when you just met him which is a sign of lovebombing because he was clearly trying to get in your head and be the first thing you thought about when you started your day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 05:05 AM |
| 80 | “Build a man” 🤡🤡🤡This screams codependency. I hope she can learn that it is not healthy to revolve your life around a man. It looks like she started dating him when she was 18, barely an adult. Most 18 year olds don’t have a lot of life experience and if they’re not sure what they want career wise, they are not ready for a serious relationship. I certainly still had a lot of growing to do and was figuring out how to navigate life on my own when I was that age. I’m a different person now at 23 than I was at 18. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 06:40 PM |
| 27 | Lessons from Fboy IslandSome of the Fboys are really good at tricking women into thinking they want a relationship. Watch out for men who hint at not knowing what they want or ones with ex girlfriends still in the picture. They’re likely using you as a rebound and if they haven’t cut contact with their ex, block him. I don’t have HBO max so I haven’t seen the show but I want to, it sounds interesting! I’m curious how well I’d do at distinguishing who the fboys are with the knowledge I have now. Last fboy I dated used e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 05:10 PM |
| 16 | How has FDS made you reevaluate how your father/brother(s) treat you?I realized how my dad will push the boundaries of both me and my mom. It seemed harmless at first but when I told him to stop he wouldn’t. Even when I had to beg and plead for him to stop he kept doing it. For example, when I was younger (and even still now sometimes🤢) he would try and tickle me. I don’t like being tickled and I’d tell him to stop, but he never does. He keeps doing it and laughs thinking it’s hilarious. I used to think that was okay and normal, maybe that was part of the reason … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 03:57 PM |
| 111 | You should NEVER give ugly men a chanceI dated an ugly man once. I was embarrassed to be seen with him and my friends even told me I could do better. I thought I’d give him a chance because he seemed nice but he turned out to be the most manipulative and abusive NVM I’d ever been with. Thankfully we only dated for a month but even then, he had enough issues to create drama to affect me for a long time afterwards. I’ve noticed ugly short men are the ones who insult my appearance. More attractive people have never said anything negativ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 08:14 PM |
| 135 | What changed when you started giving back the same energy you got?Exactly! I’ve noticed a big difference between how my girlfriends text me how I’m doing and low effort men. For example, a girlfriend wanting to catch up will say “hey girl! Miss you! Just wanna catch up and see how you’re doing!” vs a low effort man texting “hey what’s up” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 08:06 PM |
| 77 | I'd say any super common/basic/unimaginative chain restaraunt is a no *for the first few dates*, with few exceptionsLol💀 I’ve had multiple scrotes looking to get laid take me there. Is a Cheesecake Factory date a fuckboy thing? I have a feeling it is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 06:36 AM |
| 122 | I'd say any super common/basic/unimaginative chain restaraunt is a no *for the first few dates*, with few exceptionsBonus LVM points if he uses a gift card to pay for only his meal🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 06:28 AM |
| 49 | Podcasts to screen forUgh I hate that podcast. some scrote showed me an episode of it on how to keep a man interested in you by giving him a 10/10 BJ. Also an NVM ex made me listen to that episode because according to him “I needed to step up my head giving game and this podcast gives some good pointers”. Of course this NVM never made me cum once😂 The host of Call Her Daddy is a major libfem pickme | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 04:28 AM |
| 115 | If anyone gives you a backhanded compliment or neg at the start of a conversation, walk away...“I’m just being honest” and “I have strong opinions and I’m not afraid to speak my mind” are statements I’ve gotten after receiving a backhanded compliment. Men love giving unsolicited advice and opinions. The other day a guy told me he liked my eyes and I had a pretty face, but that I needed to work hard and go to the gym to lose the extra weight I have (I’m not obese, just a few pounds overweight). I did not ask for his opinion, and he was unattractive and obese himself. I left that conversati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 04:30 AM |
| 104 | A reminderAs women, we’ve been conditioned to blame ourselves for someone else’s problems. Trying to convince someone and prove ourselves is exhausting, and not worth our time. If they don’t accept you for who you are, they’ll never be happy. Trying to jump through hoops to prove your worth to them will turn you into a doormat. It’s not you, it’s them. When you start asserting your boundaries and not let people walk all over you, LV people will resent you. They’ll try to tear you down because they are mis… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 04:09 AM |
| 6 | A therapist and coach shares her dating advice. What do y’all think of this? Screams massive pick me vibes to me.A man who is truly interested in you won’t leave you hanging for days or just drop off the face of the earth. Even if someone isn’t big on texting they’ll put in effort to reply in at least 24 hours. I feel like the girl writing this is giving off pickme vibes simply because she’s excusing low effort behavior and placing the blame on the woman who senses something is off and telling her she’s insecure for thinking that. A lot of times when someone is worrying about when a guy will text them back… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 03:51 AM |
| 54 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 24 - Pre-Sex Sexual Compatibility Tests + Birthday SadBoyYes if they bring up sex or ask about your sexual history too early on, block and delete. I’ve also been burned in the past by men who didn’t bring up sex in conversation but would arrange the date to suggest the possibility of going home with them later in the night. I had a guy ask me out on a second date where we were to go to dinner and see a movie but when he made the reservation for the restaurant it was not until 8pm! I asked him why so late and he claimed it was because he thought I want… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 11:47 PM |
| 46 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 24 - Pre-Sex Sexual Compatibility Tests + Birthday SadBoyBefore I found FDS and learned about the three month rule, I thought I owed a guy sex if he paid for our dates and put in the bare minimum of effort. Just because they treated you right doesn’t mean you should be obligated to sleep with them. Plus, once LVM get what they want from you, they either dump you or their facade begins to crack and they’re no longer on their best behavior. Looking back, if I applied the three month rule to my past relationships, I would’ve weeded out the scrote’s and w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 11:37 PM |
| 66 | Even the doctors who vow to save lives can't be trusted :( Stay woke, and get multiple doctor recommendations if possibleAnd then they don’t take you seriously if you have severe period pains or you feel like something is off with your period. It took several years for me to be diagnosed with pcos even though I insisted something was wrong and needed to be fixed when my cycle was so irregular to where it would be every three months and then get another period after two weeks. Several doctors told me I needed to lose weight even though I had the same issue when I was at my healthiest weight. The most I ever weighed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 08:52 AM |
| 87 | Believing your gut feeling the first time is crucialYes, always trust your gut! I’ve also learned not to tell just anyone about a guy you recently started seeing. Limit who you tell to one or two close girlfriends that you trust or close family members so they can know your whereabouts in case you are in any danger. If a lot of people know too many details about your dating life, you’ll get a lot of unsolicited and bad advice and feel more pressured to “make things work” because you don’t want to let them down. I’ve been accused of sabotaging a p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 09:12 PM |
| 23 | LVM Lie: He treats you badly because he's out of your leagueDon’t give men you aren’t attracted to a chance! They’ll take you for granted or try and bring you down to their level! Just the other day I had a guy who is a friend of a friend and has expressed interest in me the past few weeks tell me I needed to try harder and step up my game by losing weight and going to the gym more if I wanted an attractive man. First of all, I already go to the gym several times a week and though I have about 10-15 extra pounds, I’m eating healthier to lose that weight.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 05:17 PM |
| 41 | LVM Lie: He treats you badly because he's out of your leagueYes, this is why I avoid insecure men. Any mention of “leagues”, I’m out. I’ve dated men who would lovebomb me at the beginning of the relationship and constantly tell me I’m too good for them and how lucky they were to land a “woman like me”. Later, the negging would start and they would start to resent me. One guy was intimidated because of my career choice. We were both in college and he knew I was going to outearn him once I got my degree. After his mask slipped, he made me feel bad about my… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 04:57 PM |
| 8 | Redpill men are everywhere - and im now frightened of men.A lot of redpill vocabulary and propaganda has spread its way among the low value male population. The majority of males on Reddit have the redpill mentality. Even before redpill started, there were lots of negative/low value men who manipulated and abused women. Any man who chose to adopt these principles was never a HVM to begin with. HVM recognize that the rhetoric is toxic and because HVM respect women, they’ll stay away from toxic ideologies that are demeaning to women. At least today with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 04:16 AM |
| 10 | That part (swipe) And we need to start calling them out on it, because there's nothing more offensive or emasculating to a straight man than being called 'fruity' or 'gay'. Let me just add this is NOT a dig at gay folks, it's a dig at straight men and the irony of their rampant homophobia.Men don’t see women as people. They use women for sex and see them as trophies they can collect for other male validation. Heterosexual men are not sexually attracted to other men so to get what they want the most (sex) they’ll string us along, manipulate and abuse us, while playing nice around other men and showing us off to their male friends. I dated a misogynistic scrote for a couple months who I would accompany to the bar he frequented. He got lots of attention from other men, one told him … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 04:06 AM |
| 2 | Can we share about our LVM experiences?I’ve had more than one guy who turned out to be LVM take me to multiple locations on our first date which took up my whole evening and lasted several hours. One guy took me to a restaurant, we ate and chatted for a couple hours then he wanted to show me an outdoor patio with a drink stand nearby and we sat there for another couple hours, then he wanted to go to a bar nearby but claimed it was too packed and offered for me to come over to his place when Id only known him for two weeks. He turned … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 03:37 AM |
| 181 | This is what reproducing with a LVM looks like. She says she paid for everything her last pregnancy (getting by on her savings) and that he won't let her be a SAHM even though her whole salary goes towards childcare.Eww, I’d dump the man at that point. He doesn’t care and he’s absolutely useless | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 02:21 AM |
| 212 | PSA to the kinky pick-mes.I once dated a NVM for a little bit and even back in my pickme days, I described myself as more “vanilla” when it comes to sex. This NVM didn’t like the way I did things in the bedroom. He wanted me to choke on his Dick, be spanked, and he wanted to be rough. I wouldn’t let him do any of that because I didn’t feel comfortable, so he started losing interest and then spread around to the whole friend group how I was “trash at giving head”. First of all, I’m not going to choke on your disgusting me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 08:16 PM |
| 59 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑“I tried to get her to talk about herself but she didn’t have much to share so I ended up rambling on about a number of different topics the entire time” I’m guessing he didn’t care what she had to say so he didn’t let her talk and made everything about himself. He didn’t seem to care about her comfort, only his. Notice he didn’t say anything about her probably being too uncomfortable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 07:42 PM |
| 65 | What is it about video games that I, and many others, find so repulsive?When played every once in awhile, video games can be fun, but the problem is a lot of men calling themselves gamers play for hours at a time and neglect basic responsibilities because they get so wrapped up in it. They’ll also put their games before you, and you’ll have to keep reminding them to take out the trash, not leave their crusty dishes in the sink, and you’ll be stuck scheduling their doctors appointments like you’re their mommy🤡 they’ll use their gamer title as a pass to ignore you bec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 07:35 PM |
| 17 | break up reminderI wish I had read this post several years ago! We don’t owe anyone an explanation, we don’t owe them our time, or emotional labor. We also do not need to feel obligated to give the nice guy a chance nor do we have to stay with someone we are not attracted to. Wow, of course the scrotey lurkers took offense to this post because we know the truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 08:30 PM |
| 31 | In a Happy Relationship with my Twin Flame and Wanted to Share…I found my twin flame as well: my dog! I knew he was the one the moment I laid eyes on him. I was at the animal shelter and I saw his adorable face staring back at me. Gotta love your twin flame! That cat picture is so adorable 🥰 I can tell they’re a High Value Cat! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 06:44 AM |
| 155 | First phone call & first date red flagsDefinitely see what kind of memes he finds funny. I dated a guy who was hesitant to send me his favorite memes because he knew it would probably “scare me away”. He claimed he just had dark humor. I knew him through mutual friends and we were in this group chat, later after I stopped seeing him, he sent random memes in the chat and they were highly sexual (a lot of porn stuff like anal and bdsm jokes), extremely racist and misogynistic. Both he and his NVM cousin started making fun of their frie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 03:48 AM |
| 94 | Why LVM love walk/hike/coffee datesWhen I was on OLD, I had several men suggest coffee dates after 6pm. Who drinks coffee that late in the day, especially if you have to get up for work the next morning. I never had a successful relationship with a man who asked me out on a coffee date. My LVM ex I dated for almost a year who showed some narcissistic qualities asked me out and guess what our first date was: a walk around the mall at a sketchy area of the town. He took me to the Subway there at the food court🤡 then we went to a co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 10:39 PM |
| 51 | I don't even know how to describe this, why are men the way they areWow, I have no words. I’ve had some pretty bad sexual experiences and so have many other women. This is why we need to keep our standards high and cut men off immediately when they disrespect us. Implementing FDS into our dating and sex lives can protect us from these predatory men and weed out abusive NVM. I had a pretty bad first sexual experience when I was still a teenager. My first boyfriend coerced me to sleep with him even though I didn’t feel comfortable doing so. For many years I though… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 10:19 PM |
| 14 | What's the most insane thing you've heard from a pickme friend?I had a former friend who was a major pickme. She would sext married men and even sleep with some of them. She got off on being the other woman and didn’t care about the consequences. Once I was telling her that I don’t want to date a man who watches porn and she told me how all men watch porn and how I’ll never find anyone if I am that picky, I should be more UnDeRsTaNdInG because you never know what they’re going through🤡 Another one I have: a coworker would constantly complain about her boyfr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 06:40 PM |
| 15 | Don't send nudes to friend-turned hookups!!Gross🤮 any guy who asks for nudes is a low value scrote. Doesn’t matter if you met him last week or you’ve been married to him for years, if he asks for nudes, he is trash. I refuse to send nudes and put my body on display now, but even back in my pickme days when I sent provocative photos, I never had my face in the pictures. They can share them without your consent. That actually happened to one of my friends a couple years back, and when she said she wanted to stop seeing him, he posted her n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 06:35 PM |
| 96 | Silly questionI had a scrote of an ex who would complain about how because he was so tall (around 6’7) women would look scared whenever they passed by him on the street, especially at night. One woman clutched her keys and another had pepper spray on her keychain. He took offense to that and got so butthurt that they would be intimidated by him, because he (in his words) was such a nice, sweet, and soft/caring guy. No one shouldve felt scared when he was around. He never stopped to consider other’s feelings, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 06:25 PM |
| 10 | My friends abusive narc ex sent her a so called love letter after she went NoContact for 2 weeks, it contains 108 I's. It's the LVM manifesto of the year!For real, I thought this guy was in his early 20s from the way he sounded😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 06:15 PM |
| 16 | My friends abusive narc ex sent her a so called love letter after she went NoContact for 2 weeks, it contains 108 I's. It's the LVM manifesto of the year!Wow, the way he says “I’m not asking for another chance.” then followed up with a bunch of lovebombing but making it all about himself is just…. Yikes. Classic narcissist move is to try and get back into your head and live rent free there. They can’t stand it when someone cuts them off and loves their life without them. They’re so self absorbed they can’t fathom someone moving on. “I am done gaming. All games have been deleted.” Highly doubt that, and even if they are, he’s going to download the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 06:14 PM |
| 41 | “Sexual harassment should be normalized!” and other wtf scrote quotes from dates.“Women shouldn’t be afraid of passing by men on the street at night. Most men are decent people and are not dangerous!” Right when I first met this guy from OLD in person the first thing he said to me was “Sorry, I know I’m ugly” and when I said nothing he said “Haha that’s when you’re supposed to say NOOOO YOU LOOK GOOD! YOU ARE NOT UGLY!” I didn’t fall for that self deprecation tactic. I played basketball for several years and told a scrote who liked me all about it and his response: “Woman ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 05:57 PM |
| 1 | I have no words. Treat him like a baby and he will act like one. Lady you better RUN!!I’m disgusted🤮 of course the one he did the most was clean up kids throw up. Why is stuff like this normalized? Grown men should not have to be treated like children just to do the bare minimum of being a parent | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 01:56 AM |
| 1 | I have no words. Treat him like a baby and he will act like one. Lady you better RUN!!I’m disgusted🤮 of course the one he did the most was clean up kids throw up. Why is stuff like this normalized? Grown men should not have to be treated like children just to do the bare minimum of being a parent | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 01:56 AM |
| 486 | Men admit to being sexually attracted to their 15 year old daughter’s UNDERAGE friends and gets THOUSANDS of upvotes. Honestly I think 99% of men are closet pedophiles and this is what most women with daughters will have to deal with.“One of his girls is really hot.” Sir, she is a child. Stop sexualizing children. Don’t trust men around kids🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 05:07 PM |
| 103 | Gaslighting red flagsMy LVM ex started acting differently with me towards the end of our relationship and whenever I tried discussing how I felt about his change in behavior he’d shut me down and tell me I’m over analyzing things. I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder several years prior and he 100% used that against me. He told me my anxiety was getting worse and that I was spiraling when I asked him if something was wrong. He’d get defensive, shut me down, belittle me, and twist everything into it bein… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 07:42 PM |
| 21 | The Bachelorette Viewership - Internalized MisogynyOne of the top comments on the After the Final Rose YouTube video is a pickme saying how Katie “tore him to shreds” and “her anger was out of control” and poor Greg did everything he could to apologize and poor Gregs feelings are so important. Greg knew what he was doing and he always had this deadpan and blank stare during his conversations with Katie. This whole show is misogynistic and favors the men at the expense of the women. Any woman on the show who shows any form of anger or other negat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 05:47 PM |
| 27 | I hate how Reddit made me believe porn and being the ‘cool girl’ is perfectly normal.I remember going on Reddit for advice when I found out my ex was subscribed to several girls’ only fans accounts. A lot of the responses said it wasn’t considered cheating because he didn’t know any of the girls personally and he wasn’t texting any of them. Also a bunch of pickmes saying how their boyfriends/fiancés had subscribed to a couple OF accounts but that it was okay because they knew he still loved them and he had no emotional connection to any of the OF girls🤡🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 06:15 PM |
| 111 | [deleted by user]Any middle aged man who has any interest in pursuing a relationship with a girl who is still a teenager and was legally considered a child two years ago while it’s been several decades since he graduated high school is a juvenile who is too immature to find a woman his age. He is also a predator. A 48 year old man and a 19 year old girl are in two very different life stages. This man goes for young girls because they are still naive and can be more easily manipulated than women in their 40s🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 06:08 PM |
| 85 | I despise the way the porn industry has made it normal to be abused.Last year I had a couple friends proudly show off these nasty bruises they had on their neck after going to hookup with their tinder dates. I hadn’t even discovered FDS then and I still thought that was degrading and unhealthy sex. But I tend to be labeled as more “conservative” (not politically though) when it comes to the way I dress, act, and on my view of sex. I never watched porn or had any interest in it, and my body count is low because I’ve always been very selective with who I have sex … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 06:01 PM |
| 8 | Scrotacity again?My eyes rolled so far into the back of my skull when I read that guy’s comment🙄🙄🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 03:53 AM |
| 79 | Future Faking and Its Cousins: A Field ReportI steer clear of men who say they’re so bad at remembering people’s birthdays and use that as an excuse to forget yours. The majority of the time, they’ll remember the exact date of an event theyre excited about like a concert of their favorite band they bought tickets for. You deserve someone who is excited about you and cares for you! They’ll mark your birthday on their calendar and set a reminder if they value you. Narcissists especially are too self absorbed to prioritize you and make you fe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 05:46 PM |
| 360 | The F*ck boy hotline. See? Men know what they’re doing.I’ve gotten “I’m too depressed to be in a relationship right now” after we were together for 9 months. Lol I swear they all follow the same script🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 02:49 AM |
| 33 | Never trust dudes who have the female “best friend” in adulthood. Normally this woman is someone they strung along for years as a back up hook-up. 90% chance he is already sleeping with her.A friend of mine is in a similar situation with her boyfriend! There’s a girl he’s been friends with since high school who is one of his closest friends. He claims she’s like “one of the boys”.🙄 My friend who is his girlfriend is in an LTR with him feels uncomfortable that he is still super close with her because when she first met this girl, the girl told her that she wanted to sleep with him. My friend told her boyfriend what this girl said and he claimed he has never had a thing for her, want… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 07:25 PM |
| 117 | What's a 🚩red flag you encountered this week?A guy who seemed decent at first showed me a picture of something on his phone and I saw he had kik notification icons in the top right corner (he has an android). No one uses kik in 2021 unless they have something to hide because the messages disappear after logging out. It was very off putting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 06:50 PM |
| 26 | Daily dose of scrotityI definitely turned down hundreds by swiping left when I had OLD🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 10:48 PM |
| 22 | This is enough internet for me today I’m done. Porn addicted scrotes are out here getting used items mailed to them from cam girls and giving themselves yeast infections and lord knows what other diseases. (warning extremely nsfw language)What the hell? This is enough internet for the day😂😂 his brain is so fried from porn he gets horny from eating gummy bears strangers shoved up their asshole, but that’s probably the closest this scrote will ever get to touching a woman | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 03:22 AM |
| 90 | Ugh, expect?I have never heard of a woman using a beer bottle. But it would probably bring her more pleasure than this guy ever would | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 09:54 PM |
| 67 | Why they're hung up on their exThey tend to take their forever girlfriend for granted when in the relationship, then once she’s gone, they realize how much she did for him and they have a hard time functioning on their own. Their ex only stayed with them for so long because he either gave her a promise ring or future faked promising marriage one day but making excuses as to why he hasn’t proposed yet. This is why I refuse to give a man wifey benefits when he hasn’t put a ring on my finger. I’m not wasting my time with someone… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 03:05 AM |
| 145 | FDS is not about finding a HVM, it's about finding peaceI grew up in a Christian community that pressures women into marriage and kids, and a lot of girls there married young (18-23). Before finding FDS, I placed a lot of my worth and value into what men thought of me and it led me to pickme behavior. Now, I’m focusing a lot of my energy on my personal growth such as leveling up in my career and my journey to becoming a HVW. It has been so much more fulfilling, and even though I have had a few setbacks, I remember that growth is never linear and does… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 10:09 PM |
| 5 | Pick me women make for awful friends. They don't value female friendships and/or are obsessed with men should be avoided.TLDR: I cut off a pickme friend who also has some narcissistic tendencies. She would make everything about herself and whenever people called her out on the drama she caused, she’d deny it was her fault and twist things to make it look like everyone else’s fault. She constantly would play victim and she couldn’t go a second without trying to get a mans attention. She started a conflict with a girl who came with a guy she liked but they weren’t even dating because he told her he just wanted to be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 08:54 PM |
| 119 | Don't worry if you miss one red flag, they come in groups.Yep, the last guy I dated had gotten out of a long term relationship with his ex a few months prior to our date. He casually mentioned her a few times in our conversations🚩 once when I came over to his house, he pulled up netflix and her account name was still on there🚩 I noticed he still followed her on Instagram🚩 he showed me a picture on his phone of something he made and i noticed he had Kik notifications, what grown adult still uses kik unless you have something to hide and/or you are a ped… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:39 PM |
| 31 | The Bachelor franchise is a treasure trove when it comes to dating red flagsHe always gave off the vibe that he is emotionally unavailable and expects a woman to cater to his every whim. Claimed he didn’t expect to fall in love with her when he went on the show so because of that she should have dropped the other men to focus only on him, which is not the point of the show plus she signed a contract so probably can’t just end it and choose him too early. The whole time he made her feel bad that she also had relationships with other men on the show. They only know each o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 11:26 PM |
| 16 | Why is blocking sometimes a reasonable response/action to take in both platonic and romantic relationships?It’s not flattering to have an ex or a date who ghosted you hit you up later. It’s not because they’re so in love with you and they couldn’t stop thinking of you, if that was the case they would’ve put in effort and treat you right when you were still in contact. They’re trying to keep you around as an orbiter for their own validation, that’s why we block and delete them so they don’t have that access to you. I use the block button religiously, and it makes my life so much more peaceful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 08:15 PM |
| 91 | As a woman all you can do is create the oppurtunity for the guy to make his move.In the majority of cases when a woman chases a man, he begins to take her for granted. He will seem interested and string her along because he gets free sex and emotional labor with minimal effort. It’s like LVM heaven. Meanwhile he gaslights and manipulates her while he flirts and cheats with other women behind her back and follows models on Instagram. She will constantly question if she is attractive, smart, and interesting enough for this LVM. She can be a 10/10 in looks, personality, and in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 07:54 PM |
| 156 | As a woman all you can do is create the oppurtunity for the guy to make his move.He is sending mixed signals, and when you start questioning things it’s time to move on. A HVM would’ve communicated to you beforehand if he is unable to text due to poor reception, but I find it strange that this guy didn’t have any signal at all for a couple days, considering this day and age where we have smart phones and there’s at least some cell tower coverage in most areas. Unless he was completely out in the middle of nowhere. It sounds like he’s seeing other women and/or he’s playing ga… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 07:40 PM |
| 24 | “I liKe HaNgiNg OuT WiTh GuYs, ThEy’Re LeSs DrAmA!!” And other lies people tell themselves.Men can definitely cause a lot of drama. I had a guy I dated in a friend group tell his guy friends rumors about me, like he told them I gave him an STD after I told him I was no longer interested in dating him because I could not see us working out long term. When we first met and when we started dating, he acted all nice and chivalrous but I could see little slip ups that suggested he was acting. Two of his scrotey friends were asking me all these questions about what all happened when I ended… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 06:11 PM |
| 29 | The Devil’s Advocate! I wish we could delete and block these men in real life situations…I got my first redditcare message this morning. I've had a few scrotes send me hate messages that I just ignore and choose not to engage with. They get so angry I don't respond at all or share screenshots of their messages on the sub LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 05:45 PM |
| 144 | Women should not go on hiking dates whether as a first one or as a married couple.I’m seething with anger after reading about both of these men. The married one definitely lured his wife out to the cliff and pushed her off because the greedy scumbag wanted to collect his share from her life insurance. As for the second story, the man is a policeman (sad how men like this are in law enforcement) and he knew damn well that his date was an inexperienced hiker. Plus Arizona is extremely hot in the summer and the fact that she didn’t have water with her when she was found is plain… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 05:13 AM |
| 37 | Expensive rent/housing is the biggest proponent for monogamy and cohabitationYes it’s so much better to be roommates with other women rather than a man who can’t be bothered to pick up after himself and leaves the toilet seat up in the middle of the night. Cohabitating before you get married puts you at risk of becoming a forever girlfriend plus you can’t really get a prenup for your assets if the relationship ends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 11:50 PM |
| 10 | The date isn't happening until he contacts you ahead of time to confirmIf he can’t properly plan a first date, don’t expect him to be good at making plans with you in the future. This weeds out the low effort and lazy men just hoping to get laid. I had a date back in my pickme days with a guy who asked me what I wanted to do for a date, had me choose the restaurant and which day we wanted to go, but the day of he didn’t have an exact time or location until 2-3 hours before dinner time! We end up meeting up still and after dinner we went to a small outdoor patio wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 08:29 PM |
| 71 | Share your badass breakup stories!I broke things off with a guy who seemed like a nice, gentlemanly and well put together guy for the first month but during the second month his mask started to fall and out came all of these red flags. He pursued me hard when we first met, he’d take me out on nice dates and bring me lunch to work whenever he was on break. Then after a few weeks he started slowly withdrawing his effort. I found out he had an ex still in the picture, she showed up to a club me and him both frequented and he claime… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 08:03 PM |
| 52 | 🚩 Don't get suckered into "protecting/respecting" the guy you're dating by keeping his dirty deeds a secret from your longtime trusted family/friendsYeah he seemed to always find something bad to say about one of my friends or family members. Once I got rid of him, the gaslighting and questioning myself disappeared! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:36 PM |
| 140 | 🚩 Don't get suckered into "protecting/respecting" the guy you're dating by keeping his dirty deeds a secret from your longtime trusted family/friendsI agree, my family has always been able to pick up on red flags right away after I mention something. One guy I dated was using covid as an excuse to not meet his family (turned out to be a commitment phobe). My parents said I could always meet them over zoom or FaceTime and when I brought it up to my ex he claimed they didn’t like using that. Keep in mind I had seen him FaceTime them before. My ex would tell me my parents were illogical and I shouldn’t listen to them🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:17 PM |
| 136 | Keeping in contact with ExesI have a friend whose ex is one of her best guy friends. She told me the other day she thinks that they’re back together but she’s not entirely sure🤦🏻♀️ As for men I date, I find still being in touch with an ex to be a red flag because of not having the time and space to fully move on. The way I got over my exes were through blocking and no contact. I wasted my time with a guy who ended up not being fully moved on from his ex, they would still talk and I found out they still worked in the same … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 06:29 AM |
| 158 | And Another One Bites the Dust! 🥳🍾Chill and crash at his place if you get too drunk is scrote code for hooking up, this man sounds like such a low effort clown, good riddance! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 06:20 AM |
| 29 | Realization about “not like other girls”Yup, I used to think he was such a great guy and that I messed up because of my insecurities, but turns out he was negging and gaslighting me to the point where I felt insecure about us. Once we broke up, I felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. I thought it was going to hurt more then I found FDS and saw the red flags I missed when we first met | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 01:31 AM |
| 74 | Realization about “not like other girls”I had an ex who claimed he “was not like the other guys”. He was the nerdy soft boi type who would say that he just wanted to be loved and be married to a nice woman and have kids. He used that facade to get me hooked and I fell for it. He’d talk about the future, making plans together like getting an apartment, him proposing, etc. But some things seemed off where it seemed like he wasn’t as willing to commit as he portrayed himself to be. For example, he told my parents about how in a couple ye… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 12:44 AM |
| 24 | The new trick on the block : LVM pretending they ‘struggle’ on dating apps or ‘hate modern dating culture’.Ughhh I dated two of these LVMs and your description is spot on! The first one I met preFDS and he exhibited some of these red flags I didn’t quite pick up on till later. He lamented about how difficult it was for him on the dating apps and how he didn’t get a lot of matches. He claimed he was on there for three years with hardly any luck and how women have it so easy. Claimed it was so hard for the average looking guy. I met him through a dating app, he said I was the first real relationship he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 12:20 AM |
| 432 | Getting hit on by gross old men is so bewildering to me. Do they really think I'd ever f*ck them?I’ve found that the majority of men who hit on women in public are at least ten-twenty years older. I think it has to do with power dynamics, some of them love getting under young women’s skin and harassing them. And if she gives him the time of day, he gets an ego boost out of it. Even better when they’re at a bar, the alcohol boosts their confidence and they feel entitled to women way out of their league. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 11:21 PM |
| 20 | God the pickmes are REALLY TRYING to hand out p*ssy to their LVM friendsThis reminds me of the time a former pickme friend wanted to set me up with her LVM boyfriends best friend. I had just graduated with a bachelors degree and was preparing to apply to a grad school to get a Masters while this guy was two years younger than me and lived in his car! I was not about to adopt a hobo sexual🤢🤡 Low value people in your life are going to introduce you to other low value friends or potential dates | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 06:17 PM |
| 62 | Don’t be a forever fiancée. This scrote leaves his family high and dry with bad choice after bad choice.He went by “Big Mike”🤮🤮 I wonder how long they were engaged for and if he felt obligated to propose just because they had 5 kids together | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 05:54 PM |
| 131 | Walk away from people who overshare EARLY on in dating⚠️Trigger warning ⚠️ Once I went on a few dates with a guy who told me on the second date that he struggled with depression and that only one month prior he had to be in a mental hospital because he attempted s**cide. Being young and inexperienced back then, I felt like I owed it to him to keep dating him because I would be so terrible to cut him loose because of mental health issues🤡 he was very manipulative, he’d use his mental health as an excuse to lie to me, triangulate me with other girls,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 10:43 PM |
| 39 | "You look like my ex..."I had a guy triangulate me with his ex, of course he claimed she had all these jealousy issues only to find out that he was the one with those and he was projecting🤡 he led me on, lovebombed me, didn’t have the balls to end our relationship because he wasn’t over his ex. They still spoke, yikes. I had to be the one to end things with him, and I left feeling hurt, used, and angry. So much time I wasted entertaining LVM in the past🤡 Now any mention of an ex is an automatic red flag, and I block an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 04:44 PM |
| 65 | Anyone who is actually high libido who is now low libido because of disapppointing experiences with men... that thinking about having to deal with their BS in order to have sex is just too unappealing?Yeah, I can go without sex for a couple years at a time. I don’t have a high body count because I grew up religious so I was taught to wait until marriage. Once I had a random hookup but the sex was pretty bad, no foreplay whatsoever. I had a pretty high libido when I was in an LTR with a guy who was generous in bed and we had a strong emotional connection. Another guy I had a high libido with was pretty well endowed down there and he was the one I’ve ever been most physically compatible with (w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 04:01 AM |
| 30 | is it just me or is it weird if a guy that isn't your boyfriend texts you too many winky facesExcessive use of emojis is a red flag IMO, especially if he’s older than 23. Winky faces can hint at something sexual, depending on the context. For example, I’ve had men text me stuff like “Let’s watch a movie together at my place😉” (fuckboi code for netflix and chill) and “Let’s see where this goes😉” (mainly wants to get laid with minimal effort so he hints at the possibility of a relationship to get you on board). Also some men will try and create a false sense of intimacy over text because e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 03:44 AM |
| 116 | Why I Stayed Single in College and Why You Should TooI agree, in college I didn’t have any boyfriends because my major was very intense and required a lot of work. I simply didn’t have time to meet guys! I’m glad I didn’t date much then because I got to spend a whole summer overseas working on an internship project and it really helped build my resume. If I had a boyfriend he might have not wanted me to be away from him for over three months. I also got to focus on building female friendships, while the friends I knew with boyfriends got sucked in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 10:33 PM |
| 11 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 21 - Our Best Flirting Strategies! + Pencil D*ck & SpoonsI lost it when she described his dick🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 04:51 PM |
| 46 | LVM wanting to be coddled when doing simple housework is so widespread they even pitched it on Shark Tank as a businessMan medals? More like manchild medals for the scrote-olympics🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 04:41 PM |
| 110 | Being in a good relationship has made me realize how women are being gaslit on a mass scale to ask for lessSo true, we’ve been pressured by society to accommodate to men even if it means sacrificing our autonomy and comfort. I’d been afraid to take up space or speak up when something isn’t right in fear of being “too much”. That’s something I’m still working on, and I’ve noticed that after gaining more self worth and confidence, I’m not as afraid to set boundaries and cut off people who cross them. I cut off a guy who was pornsick and was into choking, anal, and other forms of abuse and I cut off a L… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 04:24 AM |
| 27 | Marriage is a bigger commitment??? Huh!?!Yikes, I’m embarrassed for her. It’s better to wait and have children when your brain is fully developed (after 25) and you’ll have more life experience and emotional maturity vs. someone who is 24 years old. And when you’re 30, you’re going to be more established in your career so you’ll be more financially stable and able to provide for your children. As for the father of your child, he needs to be high value and show that he is committed to you by getting married and prioritizing your relatio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 02:43 AM |
| 127 | Blocking is therapeutic.I used to feel bad about blocking but now I don’t anymore! I block LVM/NVM who did nothing but disrespect me. One guy got so mad I left him on read after he gave me a one word response before he drunkenly passed out on his couch, he then said he was gonna leave me on read the next time I texted him. I blocked his ass and he couldn’t speak to me again. Major bullet dodged, it was going to be exhausting arguing with him trying to explain myself. My past pickme self would have felt so sorry for him… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 08:10 PM |
| 152 | Never want to go through a heartbreak again? Then establish these boundaries.Watch out for people who initially respect your boundaries when you first meet them, but then slowly try to push them as you get to know them and their mask begins to slip. For example, I dated this guy who for the first few weeks respected my boundaries especially in the bedroom, as he would have condoms available and always wear one during sex. Later as he felt more comfortable, he started complaining about using protection and making excuses to not wear one like he claimed he ran out. I told … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 08:01 PM |
| 11 | Women choose to reduce their quality of life to let a man go raw and I‘m tired of itI was put on birth control in high school for my PCOS symptoms. It messed me up so bad, I had mood swings, suicidal ideation, weight gain. It made me feel so miserable. And I had a severe allergic reaction to the BC patch where I was covered in welts and hives. I stopped taking birth control in general and started a low carb, keto diet and that managed my symptoms and helped me lose weight. I’ve met men who would say they never wear condoms and expect the woman to be on birth control🙄 great way … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 03:33 AM |
| 21 | An open letter to men who will have sex with me but won't date me.It has nothing to do with the way you look or how much you weigh. A man who strings you along and uses you for sex is insecure and needs attention and validation to stroke his ego. I’ve seen unattractive men who are emotionally unavailable tell absolutely gorgeous women that they don’t want a relationship with them and only want to sleep with them. In fact, attractive women are often used by unattractive men just because of their looks. I’m considered to be conventionally attractive and I’ve had… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 11:48 PM |
| 12 | Comfort tests, shit tests and healthy vettingI’ve dated men that failed the comfort tests. I used to think I was the one being insecure, but turns out it wasn’t me. I have healthy people in my life who I know care for and love me. I don’t have to question if they’ll be there for me when I need support. I don’t seek out reassurance from them. With men who were manipulative and emotionally unavailable, I did feel the need for reassurance and I constantly felt like I had to keep my guard up. I had an ex who triangulated me with his exgf. He’d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 09:56 PM |
| 21 | Ladies, it’s OK not to force yourself to feel attraction.As women, we have been taught to give the nice guy a chance. So many times, a man would pursue me and ask me out, but I wasn’t attracted to him romantically. There was nothing wrong with any of these men, on paper they were very nice, respectful, and good looking, but I didn’t feel a connection beyond a platonic friendship. People would tell me to give them a chance, some would even say they weren’t immediately attracted to their boyfriend. You won’t connect with everyone, and not everyone is go… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 09:08 PM |
| 57 | A Little Humor For Y’all :)This is my ex in a nutshell. Always vaping, beer belly, and never cooked a meal in his life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 12:01 AM |
| 13 | This was on a post about a man having dinner with a blow up doll.They can keep their blow up dolls. That way they’ll leave the rest of us alone! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 06:11 PM |
| 41 | Repeat after me: Statistically casual sex for straight women does NOT include orgasms!It definitely was not worth the STD and emotional scars I got from some scrote I knew through mutual friends. And to make matters worse, he told everyone I was bad at sex and spread other rumors about me. This is why we are careful and selective when it comes to sexual partners! I learned the hard way that situationships are not worth it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 04:34 AM |
| 90 | POV: Date with a LVM 😂The snapchat and bad rap music though🤮😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 04:20 AM |
| 239 | On a dating break, starting to notice I'm getting way more rest now! 😴🥰Even when I am actively dating, I stop replying at bedtime and wait until morning. If he doesn’t respect that then I block and delete. Back in my pickme days I lost sleep talking to an ex and looking back it was never worth it! They will hit you up in the late hours and try and create a false sense of intimacy that way to get you hooked. They’re trying to get you to have them as the last thing on your mind before you go to bed because they feel entitled to your time and thoughts. All my exes who… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 11:01 PM |
| 55 | When did it “click” for you that’s what posted here/the principles were helping/helped you? Let’s start a list for others…I discovered FDS through another popular sub. I was a lurker for a bit but then I started reading more posts and the handbook. FDS helped me realize that my feelings are valid. I don’t have to cater to a man and I don’t need one to fulfill my goals in life. I used to think I was just being insecure when I felt uncomfortable that my exes would watch porn and look at other women’s nudes. This sub also helped me realize that my intuition matters and that if I start feeling anxious and unhappy in a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 01:59 AM |
| 9 | Obtaining Self loveRemind yourself that’s it is not you, it’s him. I know it sounds cliche but if he feels entitled to stringing you along for THREE years to stroke his ego, he is a seriously messed up pos and has low self esteem. And if he has had a relationship with another girl before, it may look like he treated her better, but he did not! And he won’t treat the next girl better either. I was in a similar situation as you before and it really sucked. He initially lovebombed me and had me meet his family, brag … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 09:28 PM |
| 5 | It’s always a breath of fresh air seeing Queen Shit in the wilds of Reddit 👑👑I saw that post and thread! The comments gave me hope! More and more women are raising their standards and refusing to put up with men’s bullshit👏🏼👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 07:42 PM |
| 220 | My colleague (27M) fasts almost all day so he doesn't have to cookA guy in my friend group told me he doesn’t eat dinner, just breakfast and lunch. He grabs some breakfast from McDonald’s on his way to work every morning then goes and gets lunch from another fast food joint during his break. He told me he doesn’t know how to cook and rarely ever steps foot in his kitchen (he’s 25 btw). His exgf used to be the one who cooked him meals but they broke up so he only eats out now. Ever since him and his ex split, he’s been swiping on dating apps and chatting up wom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 07:03 AM |
| 41 | Just because he’s spiritual or religious doesn’t mean he’s a HVM.I met the worst NVM who was a devout Christian, he lovebombed, manipulated, and verbally abused me to the point where I was terrified for my safety. He used his belief in God as a way to rope me in. During the lovebombing stage he told me that god brought us together and we were meant to get married. I was very young at the time and fell for it because I grew up with the belief that god forgives even the worst of sins and changes your life (basically you become a child of god and you’re a good p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 04:40 AM |
| 60 | You are allowed to eat.For the longest time, I was terrified of eating in front of people, especially men I liked. I grew up with parents who would comment on my weight and that I shouldn’t eat too much, and they’d constantly make me feel bad if I ate something unhealthy. My mom would give me a disapproving stare whenever I ate a candy bar or a cookie. Like I was shamed even when I had just one. I was never overweight, I was always involved in various sports and workout groups so I have a toned and athletic body. That… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 04:25 AM |
| 10 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?He bought me a bottle of Miller after showing up already pretty drunk off of a 12 pack of beer he had at his house🤢 I dumped his ass a couple weeks later, he was waving a banner full of red flags😂 my last straw was when he admitted to buying a 12 pack and sitting in his car alone drinking half of the pack in just half an hour during his lunch break at work. I’m pretty sure he had a problem but was in denial and refused to get any help | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 02:49 AM |
| 37 | Tonight’s ‘The Bachelorette’Yeah Katie has given me some major lib fem/cool girl vibes. Sadly, that’s what’s mainstream on these modern dating and love shows now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 05:06 AM |
| 64 | There is no such thing as a "pRuDe"I don’t care if I’m labeled a “prude” by some scrote because I won’t be choked, humiliated, or spat on during sex. I also refuse to send nudes because I don’t want someone to have access to my body whenever they please and they will likely send those intimate photos to show their friends. A HVM would NEVER ask for those pictures. If some scrote thinks I’m prudish because I set boundaries and have high standards, then they can take a hike | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 04:48 AM |
| 127 | Tonight’s ‘The Bachelorette’The guy who painted something sexual on a canvas for the group date is being portrayed by the producers as “sex positive” when in reality he’s just another pornsick pervert. Last week the bachelorette lead supposedly told all the guys that she challenged them to go for one week without j**king off, and all of the guys whined and acted like that was so difficult and impossible. Then I think one of the guys said that the bachelorette should take it as a compliment that they can’t go a whole week w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 04:33 AM |
| 265 | What's the most high-confidence, low-skill thing a LV date's tried to do for/to you?Had an ex who after I gave him a birthday gift that he loved, and all he did for my birthday was buy me a beer at the bar. Didn’t even take me out to dinner. He really thought that was enough and when I expressed to him that I was upset, he said WhAt? I tHoUgHt ThAtS wHaT yOu WaNtEd. Then he said he didn’t understand women’s logic and now I’m glad I’m continuing to level up so I won’t accept that sort of treatment again | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 11:32 PM |
| 134 | Vetting a man while chattingWhen he talked about his friend in a negative light, he was also insulting you by hinting that you didn’t make good choices. If he is negging you like this before you even met, imagine what he’d do when you’re in a relationship. Glad you blocked this piece of trash and moved on! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 04:17 PM |
| 68 | Instead of worrying if he likes you, ask yourself: “Do *I* even like *him*?”Good reminder! I’m still working on changing my mindset since I was taught since birth that my world should revolve around pleasing a man. Now that I’m gaining more confidence and self respect I’m no longer worrying about some LVM who doesn’t change his underwear and only showers for two minutes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 11:16 PM |
| 49 | "Good Morning" small talk and other irksI hate it when men want to text you throughout the day. It’s always pointless banter, usually I have deeper conversations with them in person. I recently had a guy I met who would text me Goodmorning right when he woke up and when I responded it was always “how’s it going” or “what’s up”. I was usually heading to work at the time so nothing exciting really happened for me. Then when I went to bed he would always say “goodnight cutie”🤮 it was like he was following a rehearsed script and did the s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 10:26 PM |
| 38 | This guy has convinced himself that his girlfriend is the problem, despite his explosive anger toward her...Of course they’re not a good match, it’s barely been two months and he’s already this controlling and abusive! He needs to go to therapy and work on himself before he starts dating, he’s using an anxious attachment style as an excuse for his shitty behavior. This girl owes him nothing and I hope she leaves him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 05:42 PM |
| 66 | We need to start talking about pick me teachers who use girls to keep the bad boys in class behaved. Because I definitely experienced this and it was terrible.Yeah when I was younger I could care less on whether or not a boy liked me, I just didn’t want to be bullied and humiliated by them. I hate that we’re conditioned to believe that our worth depends on the approval of men | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 11:48 PM |
| 111 | Not having children in this pedophilic society.Growing up in a religious community, I was sexualized since I started developing. They would tell us girls to cover up and wear modest clothes to keep men from staring at us. My dad would tell me how men just can’t help it and get aroused if a woman is wearing something inappropriate so it would be my responsibility if they started thinking impure thoughts. No accountability on the mans part. My dad and mom started scrutinizing every outfit I wore since I was 12. That really messed with my self … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 09:01 PM |
| 199 | We need to start talking about pick me teachers who use girls to keep the bad boys in class behaved. Because I definitely experienced this and it was terrible.Ugh I hate how boys bad behavior towards girls are excused by saying “he’s mean to you because he likes you”. I’d come home to my parents or tell the teacher that a certain boy was bullying me and they’d tell me it’s because he probably has a secret crush on me. How about they teach young boys to treat girls with respect whether they have a crush on them or not? But patriarchy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 08:36 PM |
| 114 | ALL of his exes can’t be the “cRaZy” ones…Watch how he handles conflict. If a female coworker or friend of his disagrees with him, sees if he treats her any differently than if she were a man. If you notice he treats his male friends, family members and coworkers with more respect, that’s a massive red flag 🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 06:16 AM |
| 43 | If he’s not escalating the romantic relationship, MOVE ON! 💕Had a guy I met through mutual friends I’d been on a few dates with make dinner reservations for 8pm. I thought that was super late considering I got off work at 5, he asked me to come over to his place beforehand. This was back in my pickme days and since I’d known him for several months already I didn’t think much of it. When I came over, we talked for a bit then he started trying to hook up with me. Huge red flag 🚩 after we went to dinner, we were originally going to see a movie but then he s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 12:44 AM |
| 6 | How do I stop comparing myself to other women and craving attention?I’ve struggled with this too. What helps me is that when I occupy my free time with hobbies that I enjoy, I spend a lot less time worrying about what men think of me. I recently joined a woman only dance workout class and even though I’ve never been that great at dancing, I really enjoy learning! I’ve also been working on improving my health by cutting out fast food and refined sugar, which has helped me feel more confident about myself because I’m not randomly tired during the day anymore. When… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 10:30 PM |
| 175 | Are You The “Clingy” Type?If a guy says you’re being too clingy, it’s because he’s trying to manipulate you into accepting his breadcrumbs and low effort behavior. Narcissists will lovebomb you at the beginning of the relationship and as the months go on, they start giving you less and less attention until eventually you have to fight for it. Also watch out for LVM who say their ex was too clingy or a friend or family member of theirs is “just too much”. It is likely he’ll tell his next dating prospects the same thing ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 05:12 AM |
| 21 | Anyone Else Cut Off A Lot Of Friends/Situations That Didn't Serve You Recently?I had to cut off a longtime friend who was a major pickme. She couldn’t live without receiving validation from a man and would get mad if I didn’t be her wingwoman and get a guy to go talk to her. She came across as desperate and I would be so embarrassed to be around her. I had to end the friendship because she wasnt supportive of me leveling up and improving myself, she’d try to drag me down with her. I didn’t realize how drained I felt whenever we hung out until she was no longer in my life. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 04:55 AM |
| 36 | Parental seekers – Juveniles and Baby BoysI dated a Juvenile. Mid 20s and he acted like a frat boy. He had a pyramid of beer cans displayed on the mantle above the fireplace in his living room. He also worked a dead end job, had no plans to continue his education past high school. His diet consisted of alcohol, fast food, and frozen pizzas. He had the humor of a junior high kid and constantly made jokes about anal sex and suicide. He’d tell me his ex used to cook for him but since he was such a picky eater he wouldn’t like a lot of what… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 04:42 AM |
| 70 | Don’t you just love it when LVM tell on themselves? Do not settle for a man you have to “change.” You’re not a therapist. A HVM will see your worth without expecting you to “fix” him!If he meets who he sees as “the right kind of woman” I bet he’ll make her a forever girlfriend who makes all his doctors appointments and cooks him meals. Notice how he didn’t say he’d propose to her, he went straight to saying he’d have kids with her. No thanks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 11:04 PM |
| 167 | Lol, do we have a Self Aware Wolves flair?Why is he at the bar alone then? Men who go to a bar by themselves are there just to pick up women. Also the fact that he notices when they come and go means he was watching them and the women picked up on that and left because they felt uncomfortable. This guy is deluded | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 06:07 PM |
| 55 | Beware the wolf in sheep's clothing.Once I was driving a group of guy friends home because they were too drunk to drive themselves. While I was driving one of the guys started grabbing my shoulder. I told him to stop multiple times but he wouldn’t. Same guy started out acting like a gentleman and saying he would do everything he could to make sure his female friends were safe from the creeps and rapists out there. He told me how he swooped in and saved his exgf from a creep at the bar and told me how he’d do that for anyone becaus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 03:19 AM |
| 35 | What do you ladies think about gaming? (Video gaming, phone gaming, computer gaming, etc)If he has other hobbies outside of playing video games and he doesn’t self identify as a gamer then that’s fine. Though if he plays for hours on end and it seems like he’s ignoring his friends and family, if he is neglecting his hygiene, housework, or is surrounded by fast food wrappers because he can’t be bothered to cook a decent meal then that is a huge dealbreaker of mine. Also what type of people does he often game with? Are they racist, homophobic, or misogynistic? Who he chooses to surrou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 03:01 AM |
| 103 | There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being high maintenance.Some scrote called me a “princess” as an insult because I wanted dinner to be paid for and I expected more than to be taken to our local KFC or Jack in the Box. I also bought myself a nice expensive handbag and for some reason he was mad about that😂 He had no job and mooched off his parents so he didn’t have a chance with me anyway. I took his derogatory commentary as a compliment since raising my standards weeds out LVM like him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 07:48 PM |
| 15 | Survey: Single Men Change Their Bed Sheets How Often?!How disgusting🤢 especially during the summer when it’s hot out and they tend to sweat more. I used to work a night shift job and would sleep during the day so since it was hotter I’d sweat a lot when I was asleep. I felt gross if I didn’t change and wash my sheets AT LEAST once every few days | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 07:33 PM |
| 29 | Survey: Single Men Change Their Bed Sheets How Often?!I dated a guy who would almost always wear the same boxers. I thought surely he must wash them during the week but I found out his exgf used to live with him and do all the housework when they were together so she probably washed his clothes too. I shudder thinking how long he went without washing his own underwear🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 07:29 PM |
| 343 | Being an HVW is just as much about what you *don't* do as what you doI’ve noticed I’m so much more productive when I don’t have any men to think about. I used to get these crushes on certain men, and I spent too much time daydreaming about them when I couldve been channeling that energy into writing a cover letter for a better paying job or applying to grad school. Now that FDS has helped me see my worth despite growing up in a patriarchal society where we’re conditioned at a young age to believe that having a husband should define your happiness, it’s been becom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 07:35 AM |
| 59 | The Red flag of Parasocial RelationshipsI steer clear of men who don’t have much of a life outside of social media or the internet, because they don’t usually have a lot going for them. They can easily create a fake persona on Instagram and make themselves look more desirable and charismatic than they are in real life. I know a NVM who brags about how his Instagram feed is full of pics of half naked women and cars. He’s almost always active on social media, has a pretty large amount of followers, but he’s also an alcoholic and porn ad… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 07:16 AM |
| 32 | LVM Men Can't Be Friends w/ Women + My ExperiencesYup. I had a guy in a friend group of mine ask me out shortly after we first met. The first month, he took me out on some really nice dates and paid for everything so I assumed he was serious and wanted a relationship, even claimed he did when I asked. Turns out he never told his close friends who he saw all the time that we were dating. I found this out because they asked me if me and this guy were official or just sleeping together. His cousin later admitted that this guy “accidentally” called… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 04:55 AM |
| 191 | Don’t be settled forThis is why being FWB with a guy is a bad idea. You’re being used for sex hoping that maybe one day you’ll get to be his girlfriend, and if a relationship does happen it is because he settled and didn’t find anyone else he’d be more interested in. And who wants to be with someone who didn’t see you as a potential girlfriend at the beginning, just a warm hole to fill the void? LVM will make excuses as to why they didn’t want a relationship at first. They’ll claim it’s because they’re overwhelmed … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 12:57 AM |
| 39 | Could there be a more dumpster fire LVM tinder profile? I need to unpack with the FDS ladiesThe way he words everything plus his use of emojis creeps me out! How much do you wanna bet that his “open relationship” is just him cheating and his girlfriend or wife does not agree with an open relationship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 03:23 AM |
| 99 | Random male acquaintances when you wear anything revealing or flatteringThey really love making everything all about them🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 09:27 PM |
| 157 | LVM ditches wife and newborn, she still loves himHe’s been gone two whole months after the birth of his child? Wtf? How do these men not give a shit about their own family? Also with him taking out all this money and not contacting his wife much shows that he’s most likely seeing another woman on the side | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 08:47 PM |
| 50 | Signs you have been benched or 'kept warm' and how to avoid it happening to youOr “I thought I wanted a serious relationship but I ended up not being ready”🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 03:30 AM |
| 61 | Signs you have been benched or 'kept warm' and how to avoid it happening to youAn LVM I dated for a couple months started showing his true colors when he was keeping his ex girlfriend from high school around. He told me he was over her and that he moved on but he still had her name as one of the “Who’s watching” profiles on his Netflix account plus he still had some of her decorations in his kitchen from when they lived together and I saw he still had her on social media. He told me she would show up to a place he frequented just to see him and try to win him back. I didn’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 11:09 PM |
| 45 | Signs you have been benched or 'kept warm' and how to avoid it happening to youI totally agree! I had a guy bail on me because he got way too drunk EARLIER IN THE AFTERNOON. He was also spending a lot of his money on alcohol and then complained he couldn’t take me out on a date because he was having money problems, go figure! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 10:58 PM |
| 120 | I will no longer be the only one who doesn't get an orgasm...Men will feel entitled to receiving a bj that makes them weak in the knees while they flail their tongue around down there for three seconds then say they had to stop because they got tired | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 08:40 PM |
| 21 | Is the transitioning stage always this hard?It’s common for people who have been using you as a doormat for their own benefit to get angry when you no longer comply and give them what they want. Keep enforcing your boundaries, you feel much less drained when you don’t let people push you around. It’s always been hard for me not to give in because I tend to be a people pleaser and hate confrontation, but the most toxic people have walked out of my life after I stood up for myself and no longer tolerated their abuse. The trash will take its… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 07:12 PM |
| 144 | No, he doesn’t just “meet the right woman” and become a good man. He meets a woman who doesn’t know any better, hides his 🤡 shoes in the back of the closet and cheats on her throughout their marriage. 🤡gonna🤡Once a cheater always a cheater. Cheating is disrespectful, and that is why you should leave at the first sign of disrespect. He WILL cheat on you again even if he begs and pleads for you to stay and claims it will never happen again | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 06:55 PM |
| 9 | “I’m gonna lie to you if I think it’s in your best interest”I had a guy ask me out on dates and treat me like I was his girlfriend for the first few weeks then he started slacking on putting in effort. I broke up with him and then he had the audacity to tell me that at first he thought he wanted a serious relationship but changed his mind because he felt like he hasn’t fully moved on from his ex. He claimed the reason he wasn’t honest with me and didn’t let me know what he wanted was because he “didn’t want to hurt my feelings”. GTFO, that makes you a ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 07:13 PM |
| 84 | This is a sign of a future one sided relationshipI had a guy ask me “what does a pretty girl like you enjoy doing for a date?” Like have you never asked a girl out before? He ended up being low effort and lazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 04:13 PM |
| 32 | Instincts/gut feeling - we have them for a reason!Before I found FDS, when I started getting a bad feeling about a friendship or relationship I just thought maybe it was due to being insecure. But now I’ve been listening to those feelings and I’m always right about something being off! I had a really bad feeling that started eating away at me when I first started dating a guy, turns out he wasn’t over his exgf! Also after my six month anniversary with an LVM ex, I started feeling really uneasy and anxious about our relationship, turns out he wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 05:37 AM |
| 30 | Stop asking why he did that—start asking if it’s acceptable to youI needed this reminder. I wasted so much time trying to come up with a million different reasons why certain LVM acted the way they did. I’ve always been an over thinker, and it’s easy for me to get sucked back into the cycle of blaming myself for LV behavior. I was recently involved with an LVM who after a few weeks slowly started withdrawing his attention and affection towards me. I blocked and deleted him when I found out he had a serious drinking problem that he hid from me when we first met… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 05:27 AM |
| 66 | Men will complain about the mental health of their girlfriends as if they aren’t the problem. This guy can’t deal with his depressed girlfriend but his comment history reveals something different.He’d be doing her a favor by breaking up. It’s obvious this scrote is contributing to a lot of her depression and anxiety. LVM take a huge toll on your mental health | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 11:17 PM |
| 109 | NvM “forgets” his gf is taking an important test, gets naked and thinks it’s funny.He knew she was being recorded, especially because she didn’t speak to him at all when he came home. His sick mind thought it would be some sort of a joke to strip naked in front of the camera. A normal person would go to the bathroom or their room to change if they’re sweaty, not do that in the kitchen. Is this guy 5 years old? The GF needs to dump him, she’s dating a man child | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 05:30 AM |
| 9 | Subtle signs of manipulation and psychological abuseSorry in advance this is so long, but I’ll include a couple examples on signs I saw in a man I dated who turned out to be pretty manipulative and emotionally abusive: —they have a “crazy ex” still in the picture. Often abusers will triangulate you and try to manipulate you into feeling like you need to prove yourself as the new girlfriend. I dated a guy who claimed he moved on from his ex of several years who was his high school sweetheart but she would show up to the club me and him frequented.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 04:49 AM |
| 185 | I refuse to believe this is real but if it is… Holy MolyWhen you feel the need to put that youre in a happy relationship even though he keeps pushing your boundaries and gaslighting you into thinking it’s okay to hang intimate photos of you on the wall of his apartment for people you know and work with to see, you’re not actually happy. This guy sounds like such a creep! Also, AGE GAP🤢🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 01:21 AM |
| 56 | The emotional labor of being hurtI still struggle with having the urge to call someone out if they exhibit LV behavior. I made the mistake of sending a paragraph long message explaining why I was angry at him to an LVM ex and we only dated a couple months. I wasted so much time being butthurt over his shitty behavior it makes me cringe. His response was just a bunch of word salad and full of manipulation and lies, saying he’s the victim and everyone makes him out to be a bad guy, etc. It really was not worth arguing over, and t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 04:18 AM |
| 5 | Texting all day is low value.I used to talk to an LVM on Snapchat everyday, both of us would usually respond to each other within an hour and have meaningless, dumb conversation. And he eventually showed all 3 points you made which led me to blocking him! He would sneak on his phone during work to text me, he really thought that would make me feel special when in reality it was irresponsible and he was likely texting multiple women during that time🤡 he also turned out to be extremely possessive and controlling. If he didn’t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 04:03 AM |
| 8 | Ladies the so called men of fucking RedditThese scrotes are delusional. They also fail to realize that women still get paid significantly less than their male counterparts performing the same type of work. With Jobs that don’t even pay a livable wage such as in childcare, cleaning services, and hospitality, the majority of that workforce are women. Don’t forget the hardships of being a single mother and busting your butt just to provide for your kids and put food on the table while scrotes whine about having to pay child support because… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 03:25 AM |
| 12 | Don’t Date Insecure Men! I LIVE For This Goddess’ Channel.I dated a guy who told me he was afraid of disappointing me in the bedroom. Looks and education wise I was out of his league. A few of my friends even said I could do way better😂 this guy started out doing everything he could to impress me and when he felt like he won me over, he stopped putting in effort and made me feel so miserable. He started acting like he didn’t care about me and that I needed to fight for crumbs of his attention. Thankfully I had enough sense to dump him as I felt like he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 12:32 AM |
| 36 | Men do not form meaningful friendships with other men. It is not your job as a woman to fill in that void.A LVM ex of mine hung out with a group of other LVM and they would hardly ever open up and talk about personal stuff in their lives. They’d mainly drink together and talk about cars. One of my exes friends started talking bad about my ex to me, and he told me all of this negative stuff about my exes past. If one of my friends started gossiping about me to an ex boyfriend, I would be furious and cut her out of my life. Another time, a girl started taunting a guy friend of mine and humiliated him … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 04:47 AM |
| 55 | Is anyone else here a virgin who is disgusted by slutty guys?It’s crazy how a lot of men who sleep around never get tested for STDs because they either don’t care about their own or other peoples health or they assume they’re clean if they have no symptoms! I had an ex who never bothered to get tested after sleeping with multiple women and he gave me an infection that thankfully was treatable, but after that I learned it wasn’t worth not asking him for proof of a clean test beforehand and putting my health at risk. He did not take good care of himself as … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 01:56 AM |
| 132 | How is this even funny? Just plain ass disrespectful.Ugh my mom told me my dad wanted to watch the hockey game on TV while she was in labor. She was about to bring a child into the world and all he could think about was the score of some meaningless game. And men say women are the weaker sex…🙄🙄🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 04:42 AM |
| 45 | If he did not ask you to be his girlfriend YOU’RE SINGLEI dated a guy whose friends told me they didn’t even know we were officially dating. Apparently the guy I dated “slipped up” and called me his girlfriend when he mentioned me to one of his friends. Never again🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 02:07 PM |
| 79 | I feel like I saw my Past Pickme self standing in front of me in line today... Thank God for FDSI remember dressing up to the nines to go to a nice restaurant with a LVM on our first official date. I put so much effort and thought into my appearance. Nails done, cute spring dress, curled hair, makeup done only for him to show up wearing a polo shirt with his work logo on it, untrimmed facial hair, and a baseball cap with a beer logo on it. I was shocked and turned off by the way he presented himself but I looked past it because I didn’t wanna seem shallow and thought maybe he just doesn’t … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 03:46 AM |
| 58 | This is why single women live longerUgh the skid marks made me lose my appetite🤢🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 02:37 AM |
| 75 | Remember, men have no problem using you for relationship benefits until they find someone betterYep. Men will string a woman along for years if they feel like they’re getting something out of it. This is why we do not play house with them until they put a ring on it. I dated a guy who acted like he was really into me the first month of dating and then stopped caring once the newness of the relationship wore off. He was shocked when I dumped his ass because I wasn’t about to put up with his bull crap. Afterward he kept telling me he’s changed, he stopped drinking everyday, etc. trying to wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 08:43 PM |
| 49 | "HURR DURR I FEEL CONFIDENT IN MY APPERANCE I ACCEPT MYSELF" a tale of mediocre life copingMen will complain about how shallow women are in the dating world when they only shower once a week and can’t tell the difference between an exfoliater and a moisturizer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 08:27 PM |
| 71 | I am tired of the pickme cultureFor real. I have a pickme friend who told me that she’s mainly attracted to men who act like assholes and are fuckbois. Me and another friend have told her to cut a guy off that she’s been talking to because it’s obvious he’s using her for sex. She dated his best friend and roommate while they were both fucking around behind his back. She won’t cut him off so we stopped trying to convince her to, some people can’t be saved | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 08:21 PM |
| 102 | On a popular sub not even an incel sub, i used to enjoy that sub but good lord it's a circle jerk of misogyny. But men have great senses of humor right. As long as no one jokes about them.And scrotes who laugh about the degradation and humiliation of women love to say that women aren’t funny and have no sense of humor… newsflash: the scrotes are the ones who aren’t funny | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 04:06 AM |
| 11 | Apart from a few ! These red flags r legit !My LVM ex showed at least half of the red flags listed. These seem insignificant at first glance but there’s typically more to the story if you dig a bit deeper. Discord: He used discord to chat with the boys (and some girls) he gamed with. The guys he played with were extremely misogynistic and would treat their women like shit Watched anime: he was a huge anime fan, most of the shows he mentioned weren’t sexual, but I overheard him talking with one of his guy friends about how hot he found an … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 06:41 AM |
| 4 | Share your “ex came back but I didn’t give him a second chance” storiesSame😂 I have an ex who will try and message me or try and follow me on social media. I have to block all the accounts he makes. He really thinks he still has a chance with me when he looks like a wrinkled Yoda doll. Desperate scrote lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 10:17 PM |
| 142 | There is no obligation for you to stay with an unaffectionate man.I was with a guy who put in zero effort once he got comfortable with me. I remember for my birthday I was expecting him to get me a gift even after I got him one for his. He did not get me anything, just texted me happy birthday with kiss emojis🙄 he also stopped complimenting me and I just felt like I was there as a placeholder for his own convenience. I dumped his ass because I did not want to waste my life with a LVM who makes me feel like shit for expecting more from him. I’m so much happier … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 08:24 AM |
| 55 | Beware the pick-me in your social groupI recently cut off a pickme friend who was extremely toxic. We’d been friends for years and I didn’t realize how much our friendship was holding me back and draining a lot of my energy. She made me feel bad about myself by making subtle comments about how ugly she thought I used to be when I was a teenager and how I’m weird and a prude because I don’t watch porn or do random hookups. She was always vying for a mans attention and would prioritize a guy she just met over her girlfriends. She’d get… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 05:42 AM |
| 273 | This reminds me of the slug storyThey moved in together after only four months of dating?! Did I read that right? This NVM is definitely abusive, he knows what he is doing and he is purposely breaking down her boundaries and likely lovebombed her at the beginning and then rushed the relationship by asking her to move in with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 05:33 AM |
| 4 | The bigger a dude, the nicer he tends to be. I don't even care about height from an aesthetics standpoint, but I don't date short men because they usually have a Napoleon complex and terrible personality.Men who are highly insecure love to use women and feel entitled to sex. They think we owe them a date just because of their height. I prefer taller men because they tend to feel more confident. A HVM can be short and not conventionally attractive, it’s about the way they carry themselves and respect others around them that would make me attracted to them. I met this guy who was 5’8 and he was conventionally attractive, but you could tell how insecure he was of his body. He did not respect women … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 12:09 AM |
| 43 | “If He Wanted To He Would” and “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Centers Male Desire: Empowering Alternatives To These PhrasesI always tell myself that a LVM does not meet my standards. I shift the focus away from how he feels and start focusing on how he makes me feel. If he doesn’t add value to my life and does not make me happy, I cut him off. Also the first time he disrespects me and treats me poorly I cut him off and stop entertaining him. I have had countless LVM try and woo me, get me to have feelings for them, and then slowly start negging me and try and chip away at my confidence. But all these men have one th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 01:13 AM |
| 7 | Always listen to your gut & let’s count the red flagsI had a NVM lovebomb me when I was still very young and naive, preFDS. After he took me out on a date, he kissed my hand. Later he texted me saying that he was so embarrassed he did that and he meant to give me a real kiss but I made him so nervous because I was out of his league (which was very true). It was all part of the “I’m not good enough for you and I want you to feel sorry for me” ploy🤡🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 02:43 AM |
| 114 | A female only gym and scrotes are comparing it to segregation and racism. Im not jokingThese same scrotes complaining are the ones who make women feel uncomfortable by gawking at them when they’re trying to work out🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 09:51 PM |
| 14 | ALWAYS leave if you ever experience any of these 'red flags'. They are predictors of future violent behaviour and are behaviours that have been precursors to fatal DV.I saw a major red flag very early on in a relationship with a guy who clearly has a drinking problem. He drank at his job, claimed his coworkers were the ones who offered him alcohol and they would drink together in the parking lot outside of the building he worked at, but he bought himself a six pack of beer and drank all of it on his lunch break. Him and his buddies were hanging out and drinking everyday and bragging about how they had a drinking streak of 30 days in a row. The first few dates… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 05:36 PM |
| 6 | Smelly scrotesI had an ex who showered everyday and did laundry regularly but his diet consisted of beer, frozen pizzas, and fast food. He always smelled of beer and vape juice🤢 when I would spend the night at his place, it looked like he lived in a frat house (he was in his mid 20s way past college age). Dishes were piled up, he had a pyramid of empty beer cans on his mantle above the fireplace, he had no water bottles or water filter because he mainly drank sodas and beer, and random pairs of shoes and shir… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 12:18 AM |
| 1 | "My ex is crazy" is still a red flag, even if he's telling the truthI dated a guy once who had a “crazy ex” still in the picture. She would frequent a bar he’d go to often, and she saw us together but did not try and talk to me or make a huge scene. One of his friends told me that the ex was the one to break up with the guy I dated and that she seemed fairly stable when they were together but supposedly snapped and pulled crazy stunts after she dumped him. That seemed strange to me because it’s very likely the guy told his friends his ex was crazy just because s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 03:54 AM |
| 80 | Do not take that condom offReminds me of this guy I was seeing for about a month who told me he didn’t have any condoms! I asked him why he didn’t feel the need to be prepared and he claimed he rarely ever uses them. I dipped out after he told me that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 11:33 PM |
| 31 | Men will be on their best behavior until they get what they want.Yep. I cut a LVM out of my life after he started disrespecting me and my friends. He started out very chivalrous, charming, and sweet when we first met. He would pay for everything when we were together, go the extra mile to make reservations at a restaurant, he would bring me lunch during his lunch break when I was at work and we’d have a small picnic in the parking lot, he showed interest in getting to know my friends, and he would respect my boundaries. Then once we became exclusive after one… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 07:53 PM |
| 32 | Truly yes!🥰I just broke up with someone because he was drinking alcohol on his lunch break at work (he had five drinks). I saw that as a huge red flag so I called it off, it sucked at first but now I feel so much relief not having to deal with him being low effort and last minute with his plans. Now more stuff about him is coming out because his friends starting telling me all this stuff about him. I realized I dodged a bullet | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 10:53 PM |
| 23 | Women Experience More RejectionIt is true. Women tend to put a lot of their time and effort into making a relationship work, only for the man to be lazy and not even do the bare minimum. A lot of my girlfriends dated men who would act like they were really invested for the first few dates and then stop the chase and putting in effort once they felt like they “got the girl” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 01:29 AM |
| 6 | I just get more and more flabbergasted with what women put themselves through to be in a relationship. I just think it's just so sad they don't have self-respect enough to drop a guy like this.Oops, sorry I misread the post! Thank god they’re not married! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 12:55 AM |
| 25 | I just get more and more flabbergasted with what women put themselves through to be in a relationship. I just think it's just so sad they don't have self-respect enough to drop a guy like this.She’s with an adult child who can’t even be bothered to brush his own teeth! Let me guess, the comments are suggesting she buy him one of those kids electric Spiderman toothbrushes?🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 12:34 AM |
| 13 | I want to share an eye opening conversation i had with a guy friendHow does he know that the women in those porn videos consent? They could be trafficked and forced into it for all we know. The male brain is so depraved | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 10:33 PM |
| 36 | We Don't Understand How Dangerous the Manosphere Truly IsLeft wing misogynists claim that women doing sex work is EmPoWeRiNg when it actually reduces women to objects in the porn fried brains of these men. Right wing misogynists are definitely easier to identify as they’re beliefs are not as mainstream and are not disguised as liberal feminism | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 04:40 AM |
| 120 | She’s 18 and he’s 23Gross 🤮 seems like he wants to date a young girl and not a grown adult. He’s waving red flags right at her face. Poor girl is only 18 and likely has little experience with dating. I hope she knows enough to run far far away from him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 01:49 AM |
| 15 | Girl posts about not liking her boyfriends hentai habit, gets flamed in the comments for being apparently insecure and jealousWhen someone starts a post off with stuff like “we have a really healthy and happy relationship” and “we have a healthy sex life”, most likely the opposite is true. The fact he admitted he played hentai games is a massive red flag. If he claims it was only in the past, that likely means he still plays them now because these men lie. Then he gaslights her when she pointed it out saying it’s just for fun and it doesn’t make him horny. Of course seeing semi naked girls makes him horny even though i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 01:36 AM |
| 75 | Shes so young but she already knows what’s up with men and their goofy priorities 😂Men complain about how expensive it is to take a girl out on dates while they spend half of their income on their computer and video game setup😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 02:59 AM |
| 145 | You need to hear this to be able to LEVEL Up. Also that ending had me rolling.It’s so much better to be alone and using all your time and energy leveling up and improving yourself than be with a LVM who can’t be bothered to wipe his own butt or do his own laundry. Love this message! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 09:05 PM |
| 11 | The REAL reason men are on dating sites often isn't to find a date.This is why I do not speak with any of my exes or use tinder. I have a full time job and I am a part time student. My time is precious and I will not waste it on low effort half assed conversation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 10:31 PM |
| 30 | For real though.Guys will say “Has anyone ever told you that you’re beautiful” thinking they’re smooth AF, but it’s insulting! It’s not flattering for some random stranger to come up to me acting like he’s the first and only one who has noticed that about me🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 11:02 PM |
| 8 | Let's start CELEBRATING the END of LV relationshipsOne of my best friends is about to finalize her divorce and we’re planning a huge party post Covid! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 06:08 PM |
| 227 | Let's start CELEBRATING the END of LV relationshipsI dropped 200+ pounds in 2020 after kicking that scrote out of my life👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 04:38 AM |
| 33 | "He cheated on me and then cried about how life is hard" men: "wow you're abusive for not letting him speak about his feelings, thats why ur single".I’m not staying with a cheater. A HVM can go through painful things in life but he would never cheat or mistreat a woman. Scrotes act like being single is an insult when it’s actually a good thing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 01:10 PM |
| 6 | I’m so sick of men interrupting me while I am running to give me advice or try to chat me up - I am WORKING OUT. I do not WANT your attention.This is why I prefer working out at home. Everytime I go to the gym, I feel guys there watching me. It makes me really uncomfortable which is discouraging because I love going to a gym and doing some weight lifting. The worst guys will come and try to mansplain to me how to have proper weight lifting form. They can go fuck right off, I did not pay for their coaching. There needs to be gyms exclusively for women because so many of us feel unsafe when there are a lot of men around. Even when I’m w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 04:48 AM |
| 138 | Back to the FDS Basics for anyone new hereDo not date men who are insecure and make self-deprecating comments like “I’m not good enough for you”. Insecure men I dated in the past have tried to bring me down to their level and say things that made me feel bad about myself. Never let a man lower your self esteem, they are not worth it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 05:05 AM |
| 17 | FDS saved me todaySo proud of you! You did not let your guard down! It’s easy for a man to put on a show the first few dates but once they think you’re comfortable, their true colors start showing. FDS keeps on vetting whether it’s been one date or 100 dates! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 02:37 AM |
| 31 | The same type of men that shake the piss off of their willies and then have the audacity to expect a bj 🤢🤢Exactly, I always close the lid before I flush to avoid that. Disgusting to flush with both the seat and the lid up🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 05:40 AM |
| 62 | The same type of men that shake the piss off of their willies and then have the audacity to expect a bj 🤢🤢It is not that hard to move the seat up or down, men act like it’s such a chore. I had a guy tell me he will never put the seat back down because “women have so much makeup stuff they leave on the sink so it’s not fair”. So childish🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 05:34 AM |
| 59 | And it was so incredibly normalized. Still is, honestly.That’s awful, sadly that is not the only story where a woman had married her rapist to avoid social stigma | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 03:36 AM |
| 15 | Imagine thinking this is funny/cute "relationship goals".gamer guys really enjoying violence and shooting makes me uneasy... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 02:13 AM |
| 128 | And it was so incredibly normalized. Still is, honestly.Yikes, that’s not romantic at all. I’ve met older couples where the husband said he asked his wife to marry him multiple times until she finally caved and said yes🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 02:05 AM |
| 7 | Raise your hand if you’ve been personally asked to fly/drive across the country to meet a man. Do some pickmes actually do this? Is this a real thing that happens?This was in high school but I had a guy I was in a long distance sort of relationship who asked me to drive several hours or fly out to see him. Bad idea to have a LDR with a guy you only met a handful of times but I was pretty naive as a teenager. I’m glad I knew that it wouldn’t be worth it to drive all the way over there by myself while I’m still a minor. He also wanted me to change colleges to somewhere close to his but i had my heart set on a college a lot of my family members had attended … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 02:38 PM |
| 9 | As if we didn’t all see it coming but OOOF are these pandemic relationships are gonna end badly 🤡😬Ugh I had an ex hit me up during lockdown telling me that he lied about admitting he lied to me during the relationship. He was blocked immediately. These scrotes will stoop so low just to feel less lonely while playing video games and viewing onlyfans subscriptions | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 05:19 PM |
| 7 | Where are the hot men?The most attractive men put time and effort into their appearance and take good care of themselves! A lot of men just don’t put in much effort because they can easily find a quick booty call from a pickmeisha to keep them company🤢 Though I’ve met some pretty hot men who either are LV or don’t have much of a personality so they no longer appeal to me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 11:16 PM |
| 95 | NEVER trust a male who says he is a feminist. They're either saying it to get into your pants, or as an attempt to earn social brownie points as we can see here.A man claiming to be a feminist wants to make women’s issues and topics to be all about him🙄🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 11:10 PM |
| 14 | If guys hate children and single moms so much why don't they just wear condoms?And these same men have the audacity to say the girl they got pregnant “baby trapped” them🙄🙄🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 02:59 AM |
| 9 | Absolutely Speechless- Scrotes doesn’t get GF an Xmas present but gives £1000 to his OnlyFans lady. GF doesn’t dump him.WTF???? He is spending a large chunk of his income on OnlyFans and giving nothing to his own girlfriend? This girl seems to be too far gone to dump his ass. What a bulls hit excuse on his part to tell her these cam girls help his anxiety🤢 he’s so porn sick his brain is fried. I am hoping the post isn’t real but I’ve lost faith in humanity nothing surprises me at this point | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 02:55 AM |
| 12 | I just realized that "nOT aLL mEN" includes male family members and I'm floored.I dated men who would try to control different aspects of my life and act like I can’t do anything myself because I bleed out of my vagina every month. It dawned on me how controlling my dad is after discovering FDS. He tells my mom how to spend money even though she has her own job, he gets angry at her whenever she treats herself. He tells me how to spend my money even though I’m in my 20s with my own job and income. His example made me believe that is a normal thing and that I should accept i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 02:44 AM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 20 2020This lady who’s cats I pet sit for has a life I strive to have one day. She lives in a nice house in a beautiful suburban neighborhood surrounded by a park, has two adorable kittens, and a cellar full of wine. I’m still pretty young and am still in school working on a degree but I’ve dreamed of a life where I have a stable, fulfilling career, a house in a quiet neighborhood with no man child or crying babies to deal with | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 10:37 PM |
| 16 | i have no words , i can’t believe she’s trying to not hurt his feelings about his hygiene when he doesn’t even wipe his butt ??? and this is a man she’s probably having s*x with ... all the possible bacterial infections he could give her . She needs to leave ASAPEwww Reddit has really opened my eyes to how disgusting men can be. I knew guys in college who rarely washed their sheets or cleaned up after themselves, but this guy on the post can’t be bothered to wipe his butt? Really? Makes me glad to be single😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 10:28 PM |
| 64 | *full face palm* 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️So I’m guessing he’s broke and cannot afford to take a girl out on a nice date and pay for everything, but spends all his savings on porn and video games | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 02:43 AM |
| 59 | Oh dear 😂Yep, I know men who’s girlfriends/wives do all the cleaning and without the woman being present the man is living in a rats nest of an apartment. That’s why I’m not gonna settle for a man who doesn’t clean up after himself. I’m not gonna be his maid, that’s a full time job🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 11:54 PM |
| 21 | Men who cry wolf really irritate me - if you want therapy seek it but don’t compare it to “therapy is for women”.Men have a higher suicide rate than women because they tend to use more violent means. Women survive their attempts more because their method typically is not as violent (won’t go into anymore details due to TWs). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 07:02 AM |
| 43 | Being gaslit and manipulated so much that your SO talking about murdering you doesn’t look like a 🚩In the comments she said she has no family and is isolated from her friends due to quarantine. She’s defending her husband because she’s in denial it’s an abusive relationship. I really really hope that she can get the support she needs to leave for both her own and the baby’s sake. The fact that she asked for advice on Reddit is a sign she is starting to realize that something is off. That’s a step in the right direction, and maybe after reading all the comments she will have the resources and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 06:57 AM |
| 38 | Porn acting is notoriously bad, except for when it portrays extreme degradation of women, then suddenly it's "not real, they're just acting"You’re right about not dating men who watch porn. It doesn’t matter how often they watch it. If they justify watching porn and do not acknowledge any negative aspects of it, do not pursue a relationship with them. All the guys I dated who watched porn did not make great relationship material. They were selfish with sex, pressured me into sexual acts that I did not feel comfortable with, would try to make me feel less than by comparing me to a model/anime character. For those who say that you wil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 04:14 PM |
| 28 | Another meme summing up relationship subsI just saw a post where a girl got her boyfriend a PS5 but she followed some tik tok trend and smashed his PS4 that he originally had. Of course most users said to dump her, she’s crazy, heartless, etc. If the genders were reversed they would say “get counseling”, “communicate” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 12:36 PM |
| 35 | It’s time for: Spot 👏 The 👏 Flag! 👏 🚩 🚩 AKA profiles that made me give up on OLD.Ive seen so many profiles advertising their baggage and personal issues. Like I saw a few profiles saying something along the lines of “just got out of a two year relationship, new to this stuff”. Swiped left! I haven’t done OLD for almost a year so I can’t imagine how much more low effort profiles are out there since COVID restrictions began | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 04:10 AM |
| 106 | 🤮 “ion see shit wrong with this” EXACTLY why we don’t do dinner at home dates ladies - the queen in this story up and left!!Gross🤢 I would never eat that because 1. So many carbs and 2. That man doesn’t bother to use actual dishes even on a date! If he really wanted to impress her he would’nt have put his spaghetti in a bucket... he was just looking to get laid with minimal effort | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 04:02 AM |
| 42 | It was her birthday and he forgot, so she broke up with him. Yes Queen!!I had an ex who would remember what month I was born in but not the exact date. You know what his excuse was? That he was bad at remembering numbers😂🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 10:13 AM |
| 7 | Guy continually pees in bathtub or shower instead of toilet, tries to blame adhd, gets angry at his girlfriend for calling him out, and doesn't even say sorry for it. Just things scrotes do.His voice too, how can people stand to watch his streams when he sounds like a nagging child | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 05:12 AM |
| 4 | Lifting up the other women in our lives 💕I’m applying to get a second bachelors in nursing! A little nervous but I know I am smart and capable and will not give up if I don’t get accepted into nursing school right away | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 05:03 AM |
| 16 | Guy continually pees in bathtub or shower instead of toilet, tries to blame adhd, gets angry at his girlfriend for calling him out, and doesn't even say sorry for it. Just things scrotes do.Oh god, he’s such a loser. The tie he’s wearing makes him look like a 12 year old😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 04:42 AM |
| 14 | So many gems from unpopular opinions today. This person just sounds lazy, or they want someone who's easier to control. Notice how it's women in their past? 🤔 Red flags all over the place.His family can absorb? Sounds like he’s looking for more of a sister or cousin than a girlfriend🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 04:36 AM |
| 38 | The Universe Loves MeI used to believe that when I was younger so I catered to a guys desires so he would like me. I was pretty unhappy then but thought I was just insecure. I wish I could go back in time and talk some sense into my younger self! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 05:11 AM |
| 32 | Another example of a woman encouraging another woman to accept lessMy ex would tell other girls “I love you” and make it seem like he was saying it in a platonic way but I still found it weird. It made me feel that when he told me he loved me it wasn’t as special. We broke up shortly after he started doing that to other girls. Good riddance | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 05:07 AM |
| 127 | Mum: “Still single?”It’s nice when men show they are LV in their online profile, it makes it so much easier to weed them out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 06:46 AM |
| 22 | I know we aren’t supposed to feed the trolls, but they make it so easy sometimesI saw some comment from a LVM saying how women and other minorities having the same rights as white men will lead to censored speech and fascism. He was trying to defend cultural misogyny by saying it preserves our freedoms (only for white men though🤡). Scrotes are mad they can’t get away with their shitty behavior and unsolicited sexual comments anymore | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 09:44 AM |
| 28 | Rando PMs an active FDS member (me). Biggest takeaway here? To those women here wondering if they are GOOD ENOUGH: all you have to do is be a woman to be a prize. That’s it. Even the worst of the worst redpillers will tell you!I’ve met men with that mindset and they are not pleasant to be around. That’s why it’s so hard for them to find a date. No woman wants to be compared to a video game🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 05:05 AM |
| 7 | Boyfriend doesn’t like when tables turn on him and he doesn’t get to finish after months of not caring if his girlfriend does! Also confused why it’s considered a high standard for her to expect him to want her to enjoy sex too?He has to stop watching porn for her? She’s crazy and abusive —the rest of Reddit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 06:02 PM |
| 185 | 41 y.o. husband and father is upset his wife no longer wants him to spend several nights a week partying with friends now that they’re married with a childWow, if this behavior continues, which it very likely will, his daughter is going to resent him for not being present in her life. If he thinks his drinking buddies are more important than his own daughter I hope his wife ends up leaving his ass in the dust | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 03:30 AM |
| 70 | NEVER beg for a man!I once had a guy tell me he doesn’t know if we should break up or not. I made it easy for him by going ahead and calling it quits and he seemed surprised like he thought I would beg him to stay | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 04:52 AM |
| 11 | Found this lol. "What myth is still widely circulated as truth?" Sorry, didn't know what flair to use.Very true! I’ve met attractive men who are respectful toward women and stay faithful and ive met some uglier men who are complete jerks and are resentful toward women. Also another myth that is toxic: the more attractive a woman is, the less likely her man will cheat. That myth is definitely false. A man who cheats will make up ridiculous excuses for his behavior. It is never your fault if he cheats on you. You did nothing wrong, he is an asshole for treating you that way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 12:57 PM |
| 67 | Don't let these men use you!All those video games and jerking off to porn really wore him out🙄🙄🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 05:22 AM |
| 76 | if that ain’t the truth. we need to start looking at cheating as the man’s defect and not what the woman was lacking.Some pickmeisha was telling me the other day that if a guy cheats or looks at other women’s nudes it’s because his SO isn’t giving him enough attention or sex. I then said that a man will cheat no matter what you do if he’s a cheater. She still didn’t get it. If a man thinks his impulses and behavior stems on how much sex he gets from you, throw the whole man in the trash 🗑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 06:44 PM |
| 8 | Girls who are mature for their age...When I was 21 I had a 33 year old man take me out on a date, paid for everything. He told me how I was mature for my age, sat real close to me where he kept touching my leg and I remember how gross and creepy it was. I was not flattered, I’m glad I knew right off the bat that he was trying to get in my pants🤢🤢🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 11:39 PM |
| 14 | Question: If a guy is doing everything right, texts first, etc. Is there a time you can start taking some of the initiative or do you just have to let him lead forever?If your gut is telling you something is off, I would address it. I recently dated a guy who was seemingly high value at first glance but turned out to be unsure of commitment and had an avoidant attachment style. I suggest reading up on attachment styles as that has helped me identify those who aren’t compatible with me. I spent almost 9 months worrying about being good enough for him and if he truly cared about me. It hurt my self esteem but thankfully I found FDS which has been helping me gain… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 06:07 AM |
| 17 | Question: If a guy is doing everything right, texts first, etc. Is there a time you can start taking some of the initiative or do you just have to let him lead forever?I totally understand, when you see a man potentially meet your standards it is fresh and exciting. I’ve been guilty of being too trusting especially if he initially appears to respect me and value me. Plus the pressure to find someone and settle down from my father and friends around me influenced me to become a bit of a pickmeisha from 16 to 21 years old. I hope this guy works out for you but continue to apply FDS and do not make excuses if he does not meet your expectations | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 05:57 AM |
| 31 | Question: If a guy is doing everything right, texts first, etc. Is there a time you can start taking some of the initiative or do you just have to let him lead forever?It’s only been four dates, do not let your guard down. I’m assuming you two are not in a committed relationship yet and still in the early stages of dating. Keep vetting and if he continues to meet your standards then that’s great! I’ve made the mistake of becoming comfortable and considering a man to be of high value too soon. Get to know him more before taking the lead | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 05:49 AM |
| 3 | Anyone else seen this self righteous narc on the bachelor?I knew this guy was nothing but trouble from the very beginning. Between the drama between Yosef and that blonde guy from West Virginia I knew both men were self righteous assholes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 01:07 AM |
| 44 | It should be considered child abuse to teach daughters to be "good, submissive wives."A lot of them will say how parents who don’t approve of these men are too judgmental and don’t think any man is good enough for their daughter. If my parents found something off about a guy I’ve dated, they’ve always been right. Them and friends of mine have noticed red flags I was blind to. PreFDS I was gaslighted by different men into believing that my parents were only wanting to control me and that they don’t actually care about me. Now I no longer believe any scrote’s opinion, their subpar … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 07:27 PM |
| 45 | Excessive 'buttlicking' is a red flag.A HVM has hobbies and a life outside of the relationship. He also listens to you, makes you feel important, and you never doubt that he loves you. He will go the extra mile to make you feel special and treat you with respect. Consistency is key. A LVM who is very insecure will question if he’s good enough and try to compensate by over complimenting and lovebombing. If they know you are comfortable in the relationship after months, they may start projecting their insecurities on you. I was with a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 05:06 AM |
| 7 | I feel like this guy raised a red flag by sending me a video of him hurting/annoying a dogRun. That’s not funny at all. If that’s his sense of humor that is a blaring monster-sized red flag. Glad you are trusting your gut and blocking that sociopath. If he’s showing this to you when you’ve barely got to know each other, I can’t imagine what else he would try to pull later on in a relationship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 01:17 AM |
| 20 | Another reminder why COVID dating is not IDEAL..I’ve met guys online and ended up in a couple relationships, but none of them panned out. To be fair, I didn’t have the knowledge to vet properly as I was also a bit of a pickmeisha. I used to think there was something wrong with me if I didn’t have a boyfriend, but now that I’m out of my previous relationship, my anxiety levels are ZERO and I am feeling so much more confident in myself. My last ex often made comments about my family, friends, and even toward me (though subtle) that made me feel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 02:07 AM |
| 82 | Most Likely Not.This another reason why we shouldn’t jump into sex with a guy before commitment. Once hooked up with a guy then got a yeast infection shortly after. Not worth the mediocre sex with his pencil dick | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 04:20 AM |
| 27 | A word about Insta-voyeurs.I’ve been gaslit into ignoring the fact that my ex watched porn. I was younger and more inexperienced and went to get advice from friends who told me that their boyfriends also watch porn so it’s acceptable and they are “still happy”. And I confronted my ex and told him that porn is degrading and if we’re together he shouldn’t watch it and he came up with all these excuses as to why he should still watch it and it’s not cheating plus a bunch of other bs. Glad he’s out of my life now, I’m glad I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 09:58 PM |
| 69 | Women are finally allowing themselves to admit that they do not support the porn industry and they do not want their partners to do so eitherSo true, several guys I’ve dated have admitted to watching porn and the relationship has never ended well. One kept pushing me to do things in the bedroom I was not comfortable with only caring to please himself and not me, another had some serious mental health issues that were borderline psychotic, and another I found out has a thing for polyamory and older women in their 40s and 50s (he is early 20s). If a man watches porn even if it’s only once a month or at all I’m walking away. I give zero… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 08:11 PM |
| 17 | Can't even be free in the fitbit app...smdh. All the comments were women agreeing and thanking her for saying what needs to be said.Who the hell thinks you can pick up girls on the Fitbit app? I’m imagining some scrote talking to his friends about some girl he chatted up, when they press him for more info he says he saw her on Fitbit😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 02:48 AM |
| 6 | Eh... I truly feel bad for her and I just cant stop being amazed at what some men r like.... they really don't give a shit, do they...I used to feel like I was being rude when I blocked a guy even if he was an absolute creep or asshole. It took me months to block a NVM ex, but when I finally realized that blocking someone who did nothing but hurt me was best for my sanity and mental health, I felt a weight lift off of my shoulders. He’s finally gone from my life and his ugly ass can move on | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 03:22 AM |
| 16 | Why are we ALLOWED to sleep with anyone we want? How dare we have requirements when we invest in a partner?If only these men can figure out that a lot of us want a put together guy who treats us with respect, has high self esteem, and knows what he wants. But they don’t want to change their ways so they complain about it instead saying how it’s the woman’s fault she doesn’t want to sleep with him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 02:40 PM |
| 155 | “PoRn iS eMpOwErInG” ok sisPorn has also ruined so many relationships because the guy had some really unrealistic expectations in the bedroom plus watching porn is considered cheating because the guy is using another woman for his sexual pleasure. It doesn’t matter if he has exchanged messages with her or never said a word to her, THAT IS BEING UNFAITHFUL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 02:32 PM |
| 40 | If he’s still blaming women for his behavior, he is NOT a HVM. A HVM is not “the right man for the right one”, he’s the right man 100% of the time and does not exploit Pickmeishas just because he can.Yes! I had a friend who dated a guy who had this “crazy ex” that he was still best friends with because he claimed she had no one else in her life and he couldn’t cut her out completely because they knew each other for so long. Turns out he was sleeping with her the whole time. Massive red flag | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 02:25 PM |
| 92 | If he’s still blaming women for his behavior, he is NOT a HVM. A HVM is not “the right man for the right one”, he’s the right man 100% of the time and does not exploit Pickmeishas just because he can.Or they have that “crazy ex” who they still talk to but claim they can’t control what she does🙄🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 01:34 PM |
| 5 | I think I hit the goldmine here. “Imagine how a man feels thinking that you are scared he will rape you.”Men with this attitude make me so mad. They’re lucky they don’t need to keep an eye on their surroundings when walking alone. They don’t need to worry about rejecting a girls advances and getting stalked, harmed, or possibly killed because they couldn’t take no for an answer. I’ve met guys who complain about how women have a “p*ssy pass” and can use their charm and looks to get ahead in society. They whine about being seen as a potential rapist and how they can’t be trusted by women, it’s pathet… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 01:40 AM |
| 28 | Hard pass.His bio is screaming “I need validation!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 01:29 AM |
| 42 | they did it to themselves. 🤷🏾♀️Lol I’ve dated college guys and they are low effort AF, they think they can woo a girl by bringing her to their apartment, drinking beer and playing video games with their bros. Of course broke college guys are cheap AF when it comes to dates but have no problem dropping $500 on a PS4 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 11:03 PM |
| 2 | Thank god this girl realizes he wants a new mommy. Stay strong girl or you’ll be participating in #kickhimout2020Scrotes replying to the post like “come on, give him a chance! You can teach him how to do basic chores and be his second mommy, he’ll learn!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 10:53 PM |
| 138 | After I told him about my job. He has a point.When I was online dating I got so many “what made you swipe right?” questions. Like why did you feel the need to ask me that right off the bat? Those guys always gave me weird/insecure vibes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 03:12 AM |
| 8 | How we handle LVMI dated a guy who told me that the last girl he dated was a solid 8/9 and she was fit and skinny. He bragged about how he has dated “up” when it comes to looks. Apparently personality didn’t matter to that scrote, in fact he actually got annoyed by them at some point. I was naive and stayed with him. Now I look back and cringe at the fact that I had little self respect back then. Smdh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 07:21 PM |
| 13 | Lies are like cockroaches. For every one you discover, there are many more that are hidden.When they say that it’s not your fault and then say things that apply to you which indicate it is your fault they want to blame you instead of admitting they were in the wrong. For example, many times a man has cheated on his SO and told her stuff like “it’s not your fault, but you’ve been working so much lately”. Then she may start doubting herself and thinking that if she made more time for him that wouldn’t have happened and she would be more likely to stay with him. If he told her the truth … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 02:31 AM |
| 13 | Redpill scrote (former incel) sats FDS is for “unattractive women”. Help me roast this scrote ladies.He said himself he used to be an incel. He has not grown out of that mindset and finds women’s worth in their looks. Women who join FDS are tired of NVM like him and want to level up. It’s easy to find a LVM who does the bare minimum and/or doesn’t respect you. I’m not planning on going back to my pickme ways and placing my worth and attractiveness on my relationship status. That’s why I joined this sub, to be more confident and sure of myself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 03:16 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 29 2020That is strange, do you think he has an avoidant attachment style? If so, they typically do need space and it’s nothing personal. Maybe ask him about it, if he gets upset that you brought it up, he’s not the right person for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 11:45 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 29 2020It would be acceptable if he worked a night shift and slept most of the day, but if not, he’s probably talking to other women. Block and delete, if you’re sensing it’s a red flag, trust your gut! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 03:40 AM |
| 18 | Why you should never date gamersI used to date a guy who typically played 5-6 hours at a time and he always complained he was tired and didn’t get enough sleep. I wonder why /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 04:26 PM |
| 9 | Man freaks out over girlfriend’s period products, then apologizes and begs her not to leave him. She needs to throw the whole man awayMen are grossed out by period blood but they have no problem wearing shit stained underwear🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 04:08 PM |
| 121 | No a laundromat is NOT A DATE !!If that’s the best date she’s had, I wonder what other dates she’s been on | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 09:55 PM |
| 37 | Ladies, don't treat your boyfriend like he's your husbandAll my exes once told me they want to marry me someday. LOL. Actions speak louder than words | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 09:59 PM |
| 15 | It’s not possible to tell if a man is high value after a few dates/weeks/months. Vetting is an ongoing process, and you should be glad that it isWell said! I didn’t know what lovebombing was until I found this sub, I’m only 22 and still pretty young and I’d always fall a man showing me a lot of interest because it made me feel special. Thanks to this sub I know to be wary and that a man saying he’s in love with me after only a couple dates is a huge red flag | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 12:47 AM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 18 2020I was just in a similar situation. I was afraid of us breaking up because I wanted companionship and someone I could talk to anytime. But when we did break up, I realized how problematic our relationship was becoming and I felt miserable because I knew I wouldn’t have been happy staying with him in the long run. Believe me it hurt to leave him but at the same time, I felt free and I gained so much more confidence. I’ve been working on bettering myself and have given time for my healing and I’m c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 04:34 AM |
| 50 | Stay awareI had an ex put on an act for 8 months, I think cause he was lonely and looking for a girl to fill the void. Once his friends came back in town and he was able to hang with them everyday, he dropped me like a hot pocket🤡🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 11:18 PM |
| 1 | If he isn’t open to hearing other people’s opinions that aren’t the same as his, walk awayEspecially prosecutors hahaha🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 05:15 PM |
| 5 | If he isn’t open to hearing other people’s opinions that aren’t the same as his, walk awayExactly! Everyone’s experiences are different, I agree this also applies to friends. If they disrespect others with different views, they’re out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 12:07 PM |
| 21 | If he isn’t open to hearing other people’s opinions that aren’t the same as his, walk awayI’m pretty sure he was talking shit about me to his friends saying I’m clingy and that my parents are controlling. My last straw was when he was talking to his friends about our relationship and was complaining about how I always want more attention than he could give. I honestly just wanted him to treat me with respect when we spent time together🙄 thankfully I was able to get out after 8/9ish months instead of years later! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 01:25 AM |
| 2 | BIRTHDAY MEGATHREAD! HAPPY 100K BIRTHDAY FDS!🎂 IN CELEBRATION PLEASE POST ONE WAY THAT FDS CHANGED YOU AND YOUR LIFE. KEEP LEVELLING UP QUEENS🥂🥂🥂🥂🍾🍾🍾🍾Congrats! So proud! Finding this sub helped me see my worth and that I do not deserve to be manipulated and used by anyone. Before reading the handbook, I felt that my dating values such as do not live with your boyfriend before marriage and waiting to have sex were outdated. Now I am so glad to have found a community that aligns with my values and my standards remain high <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 01:44 PM |
| 9 | Relating FDS to Christian Values in Regards to Dating and MarriageI love this! Growing up Christian, I’ve encountered so many self proclaimed godly LVM who use the excuse “well Eve was the first to eat the fruit” to disrespect women. But they forget about the serpent who tempted Adam and Eve lol. In the end, they BOTH decided to eat the fruit. It doesn’t matter who did it first, what matters is that they both knew to listen to God but they ate it anyway. Another thing about mainstream Christian culture is the pressure they put on women to find “the one”. They … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 06:39 PM |
| 2 | So this woman has been sleeping on this scrotes brown pillows prior to this?!!!DISGUSTING 🤢 My curiosity got the best of me and I decided to look up her tik tok and read the comments. She replied to a few of the comments saying how she’s not gonna leave her “healthy adult relationship” over some pillows😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 02:24 AM |
| 26 | This is the kind of attitude we need to have👏🏼👸🏻Awww cats are the cutest! Love your username btw😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 03:34 AM |
| 56 | This is the kind of attitude we need to have👏🏼👸🏻For real! This man seems like a LVM since he felt that getting his lazy ass up off the couch to walk her dog was a chore. He is not worth any woman’s time or tears | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 01:40 AM |
| 10 | A post about attachment theory and why it's important for you to be aware of itI have a secure attachment style but I’ve dated a couple avoidants and they only brought out my anxious side in the end. I have always questioned why I’d felt secure in some relationships but not others. My last relationship ended because he was starting to pull away. It was stressing me out a lot and I knew we had to end things before it took a toll on our mental health. Right after we broke up I started to blame myself and think that if only I kept my anxiety under control we would’ve worked o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 04:17 AM |
| 4 | 10 Types of Guys You Should Immediately Block If You Have An Anxious Attachment StyleLast guy I dated had bad communication and a commitment phobe. We finally broke it off after he said I was clingy whenever I came over to his apartment and expected him to give me the time of day instead of watching tik toks in his bedroom. Just nope | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 10:26 PM |
| 9 | this is really how some people be sounding 🥴And yet they have no shower curtain or hand towels in their bathroom | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 11:34 AM |
| 25 | "Women are so lucky! Everyone takes their feelings seriously!"“Is it that time of month again?” Ummmm no, but when my uterus is being beaten to a pulp I’ll be sure that you’re the first person I yell at. Also I have heard the term “man period” when dudes get super emotional, like what? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 06:25 PM |
| 47 | Sad but trueThey only asked the women? How sickening that this day and age the justice system still favors men. No one should get off the hook for sexual assault, it’s so damaging and can affect the victim for years. And what’s sad is that a lot of us have to live with the memories | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/20 08:43 PM |
| 3 | Don’t be ashamed to tell him your dietary needs when having dinnerWow, more people need to understand how serious celiac really is. Before I discovered I had an intolerance to gluten, I had to go strictly gluten free for six months. All my stomach symptoms were gone and I had so much more energy. A lot of people asked me what happened when I had gluten and asked if I’d die. Lol Now I’ve started the keto diet where I eat more protein and fat so it’s so much easier to feel full plus I avoid the gluten free options full of carbs. So that works for me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/20 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Don’t be ashamed to tell him your dietary needs when having dinnerThanks! I went ahead and edited my post | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 11:26 PM |
| 2 | Don’t be ashamed to tell him your dietary needs when having dinnerThat is weird. The format came out strange on my end too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 07:50 PM |
| 21 | Don’t be ashamed to tell him your dietary needs when having dinnerI actually found that the majority of men I’ve dated have made healthier choices and are pretty active. I’m thinking we have that in common as our lifestyles are similar so it’s makes good conversation like “hey you played basketball, I did too”. But wow, making you believe you’re acting like his mom when you’re just trying to look out for him? That sucks, you deserve so much better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 07:49 PM |
| 57 | Women: Birth Control Causes me agonizing ongoing pain both physically and mentally. Men: BUT HWAT ABOUT MUH PENIS?!! CONDOMS SUCK. YOU HAVE TO MEET US HALFWAY!!😡😡🤦♀️ (Scrotes mad about my last post)I remember this one guy who felt so entitled that when I told him BC made me sick and I had really bad side effects he still refused to wear a condom and told me to “trust me, I’ll pull out. I got this. You’re just being awkward about it.” Etc etc. He didn’t even try to make me feel satisfied, he just went straight for it, and after he finished, he did nothing and told me to get off his bed. Made me so mad because he was bragging about how he had such great sex while for me it was the worst. (Cu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 02:50 AM |
| 29 | I'm ok with being rude for a minute. I'm not ok with being dead.You’re right about “be rude, be weird”. I was raped by a guy who told me that I was just being awkward and weird for saying no. That “normal“ girls would agree to have sex with him and not see any issue with agreeing. It enrages me that a rapist can manipulate you into agreeing even if you don’t feel comfortable at all. It’s sick. It makes them look like the good guy and that there’s something wrong with you instead, when really it’s them. So be rude, be weird around them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 07:39 PM |
| 33 | How to shut down men who are only interested in sex. Straight from the horse's mouth.I literally just dealt with a guy who brought up sex after only a day of talking/texting. I even mentioned to him that I don’t want to talk about sex because we are not in a relationship and I barely knew him. At first he seemed fine with it but then he would keep sneaking it into the conversation. I guess he got bored with me because I wasn’t giving him what he wanted and he moved on. It was a big red flag | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/19 10:03 PM |
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