It’s really that simple. This is a dating strategy sub. We want romance, commitment, and all that gooey stuff. But we are ruthless and purposeful about it!

💕You’ve been talking to a guy IRL (one-off or in repeated interactions) and he’s not asking for your contact info? Move on. (Translation: he’s using you for validation and/or is Not Single.)

💕He did get your number and you’ve been chatting and calling, but no date offers materialize? Move on. (Translation: he’s Not Single!!)

💕You’ve been going on wonderful dates for a sufficient amount of time, but he hasn’t asked you to be his girlfriend? Move on. (Bonus: 🚩 if he tries to sleep with you too early. We recommend this waiting for commitment before gifting this to men.)

💕You are his girlfriend, and there’s no talk of a ring and marriage after a year (FDS recommended period)? Move on. (Bonus: 🚩 if he wants to move in before the 💍. And 🚩🚩 if he wants to split rent/mortgage before a 💍 - or perhaps ever, if that’s your standard.)

🌸MOVE ON🌸: sounds harsh, I get it. What I mean here is do not hold out hope, do not pine, do not project your ideal man onto him, do not emotionally invest any further if you’re not getting what you want out of the relationship. Break up if need be.

If he wanted to, he would. Vetting entails giving men a chance to perform, which means patience and waiting and observing him. YOUR INTUITION will tell you when it’s been too long and you have to move on.

Choose. Yourself. Always.