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Content quality on the sub is pretty low if nypost is proof
/r/AntiFeminists26/08/22 01:05 AM
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I get this very much. 2 years after my separation (we have a kid) and I still grieve. Let yourself feel your feelings, it's incredibly dissaponting. It doesn't feel good it feels sad and it's a bummer, that's ok. You don't have to be happy right now, you know that over all/eventually this will allow you to be happier but it's totally normal that you don't feel any joy about it. Besides being emotionally taxing going through the actual divorce, don't forget that you married this person originally…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 04:02 PM
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It's code for, d6rink girls are easier to gaslight and treat like shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 11:36 AM
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This is what the engagement period is for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 12:25 PM
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My best friend was recently talking about how her eldest son (13) is arrogant and how her daughter (12) is more responsible and trustworthy. My best friend also has a 1.5 year old and they both help with the baby a lot, but dynamic wise it's just easier to rely on the daughter. It was really hard to figure out how to articulate that continuing to give the daughter responsibility was not the reward she thought it was. My best friend is very intentional in her parenting, wants to raise responsible…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 12:35 PM
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Love is blind was just as bad. All seems fun and games until you see your embarrassing drunk ass on Netflix months later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 11:41 PM
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we need to fight for Mandatory child support orders
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 09:38 PM
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My boyfriend send me voice messages often bc our work schedules differ and when he can't text. sweet things he thinks about me or just checking in, but yesterday he sent me one thanking me for the time and attention I gave him when I had been flexible about something specific the day before. It was nothing to me at the time, but he knows I Love positive feedback. He takes care of all my handy man and motor vehicle needs, though I am perfectly capable. Changes my oil, cleans my car 🧡 and takes ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 12:51 AM
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These people are drunk. I love how blatant the producers are. It's hilarious, and also tragic bc alcoholism, but makes for incredible tv.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 02:11 AM
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To hell with this concept of loyalty to men who are happy to destroy everyone. Fucking seriously. It's not a mood, it's the patriarchy and it's time to tear it down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 05:16 PM
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Don't respond to his messages and everytime you see him ask him how are his wife and children. Ask if they like clubbing too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 01:03 PM
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You gotta let it go bc it's energy you're still giving to him. Just keep being a great mom. Whatever fuckery he gets into and exposes your kids to, well I trust you've mitigate that best you can and either kids are in danger or is their disappointing other parent. Sounds like you've come to terms with that already, doesn't mean it's not fucking annoying as shit! But breath, center, let it go. Let him go, let her go, be one with the buzzing bug in the room. You already did the hard part of leavin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 02:35 AM
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🎉👋 boy bye!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 03:04 AM
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short temper rush job doesn't clean while cooking, or doesn't cook at all doesn't "agree" with you if your upset about something trival 🙄 lack of empathy struggles to maintain a personal hygiene poor time management skills looks for easy way out/short cuts being hyper ritualistic about gaming/tv sports/alcohol misanthrope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 02:54 AM
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This is a topic very near and dear to my heart and I will tell you exactly why. Men LOVE to put the onus on you. They love it, it's EASIER than taking the initiative - especially when they do not actually have initiative. The result is you are nagging wife/girlfriend - PERFECT!! Now that's a dynamic that is familiar and easy to maintain. Why didn't you tell me? Why didn't you communicate? How could I have known?? I am and I always will beat talker. I like to get real specific, and I like to give…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 01:09 PM
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I can't imagine I would ever let my best friend cheat on her husband nor would my best friend ever cheat on her husband in my vicinity like that without immediate expectations of accountability and consequence. That friendship is long dead. I'm sorry for your loss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 04:56 AM
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Oof that one is rough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 11:13 PM
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Look, this is all about personal preference my friend Some people are lukewarm and that's how they like to live. I'm sure there are very polite women who would enjoy a quiet and polite man and they can both be mediocre into the sunset. But I know I am not that way. I'm HIGH ENERGY BABY, I like to laugh and sing and cry and talk and I need someone to match that energy I like intense and pointed interest in me to be clear as day, and I'm not interested in guessing. So when met with "lukewarm" vibe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 10:51 AM
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You mean when he was trying to walk it back after you were upset or he said that I'm context of why he was sharing it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 07:27 PM
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Maybe an unpopular opinion, but comedy is meant to cause a stir. That comedian is playing off of a damn truth, and from my perspective is extremely important to understand that the reason this is funny is because it resonates with people - bc plenty of these men will drop you when they have money and they are laughing bc he's telling the truth about them. And we know this, that many men are shallow materialistic entitled dogs who only care about looks. You can find a million artists whose conten…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 12:21 PM
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The PS is the real lesson here. When people talk shit about other people to you, you better believe they are saying shit about you too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 11:40 PM
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It's just as bad with the men who want to be breastfed.....😒 Wat the fuk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 11:31 PM
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Why use wanting to be degraded as the example women's sexual desire. Also, love the birds?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 01:39 AM
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Ok but what gay man would wear a v-neck braided sweater shirt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 02:12 AM
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Yes but I don't think it actually matters where it what forum, it's your approach always. Look at the recent post about how to beware of the losers you night meet volunteering ! They are everywhere....but her first point was poignantly - don't volunteer looking for "the one", do it because that's what you want to be doing. Tinder is pretty entertaining when you don't really care whether you can find a date or not, especially if your HILARIOUS like I am. Purely sociological experiment wise, I mad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 12:23 AM
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I'm dating someone younger than me so I definately agree 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 11:37 AM
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I'm 33 as well and I think 10 years is absolute max. I would consider it, but I also don't see myself getting on too well with someone who is 43 bc that age group is still pretty old school mentality. As an older millennial with heaps of older family and friends, Gen X was a trash fire in a lot of ways in terms of men. I think -/+ 5 years tends to be a good rule of thumb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 09:35 PM
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The tip you need is learning mindfulness. Distracting yourself is not helpful. When you start to think about the future with someone, learn to recognize that your are doing it. Then, in the moment breath and remind yourself that you are filling in blanks and that can be dangerous bc it gives a false sense of security and lowers your guard before it's warranted. Ground yourself to the things you CAN celebrate today in the moment and when you're ready, move on with your day. When the thoughts retu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 06:11 PM
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I have never in my life laundered or cleaned for a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 03:57 AM
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The letter is good, for yourself. Don't send it, I promise he won't read it. just leave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 01:49 PM
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Wow thank you 🙏 I think I needed to purge and process a bit myself! Look up cold therapy. Yoga is a bit so shocking but cool way to get into that kind of practice as your focused on holding an Asana pose even though it's uncomfortable. Then it gets easier and easier ...as you become more flexible. But if you feel adventurous, try doing an intentional few minutes under the cold at the beginning or end of your next shower. See if you find anything worth exploring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 06:58 PM
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Drop the hand?? 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 01:04 AM
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Nope nope nope nope I would like these men to get rejected over and over and over and over until women stop being a fucking object for males to get their needs fulfilled by. How about learn to treat a woman with respect and dignity and then reap the benefits of being cared for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 12:55 AM
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I also find this insufferable, and call it out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 02:30 AM
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Who is this chick telling you that you suck the air out of the room?? While there may be some truth to that, mostly that kind of feedback is more indicative of insecurities that exist in the person saying it. Let your character speak for itself. Learn about active listening or conversation skills if you think you should improve. People are self centered, they don't care about you nearly as much as our inner monologue likes to tell us they do. If this chick felt the need to say this, my guess is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 01:34 PM
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Haha oh yes companies will drop you just like these men, for something newer and cheaper. What lasts is self respect, self compassion and integrity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 12:41 AM
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I was being facetious. From his perspective. You were mentioned that you were planning the dinner, that is all he needed to hear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 01:05 PM
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Well you were traveling to him and planning the date, you asked him out so probably he expected you to pay, what more does he need to know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 12:35 PM
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Just take out "I'm looking for XYZ".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 01:39 AM
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Fuck it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 12:50 AM
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Approach a man and it doesn't matter your intention, it will be read you as approaching for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 03:17 AM
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Hey, if you need someone to talk to feel free to DM me. Pregnancy is scary, abortion consultations are scary, having to deal with the rollercoaster that is male emotions during this time is not cute. I've only done one of the two but women's health is very important to me and I just want to offer if you need to vent. I'm glad to see you are feeling confident, but it's all really disappointing and your allowed to feel really bummed out. The fact is that he is reacting to you having bodily autonom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 01:04 PM
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Oh you will find me in the comments 👌 I frequent that sub and I'm so done with the husband bull shit. But I love my fellow baby mamas so I stay and lift them up as much as I can. Praying for this lady smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 01:26 AM
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Wonderful post. To add, on the counterpoint to "entitlement". This is not about being entitled to anything, this is about vetting competence in planing skills, attention to detail, generosity, and authentic interest in you. SORRY GUYS but y'all are the ones who coined the term body count, and will go to the ends of the earth pretending to be something that you're not in order to get sex, so don't come at me/us about entitlement when this shit is NECESSARY just to determine if a man is even worth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:43 PM
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mood
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 01:54 AM
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Liberal feminism is NOT feminism as a whole. Emphatic YES, AREN'Y YOU? is my answer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 01:00 AM
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Facts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 12:37 AM
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Just stay away from all of em
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 02:54 AM
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I'm sorry but "he keeps buying me expense stuff" doesn't add up with "and I keep paying".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 03:03 AM
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As a single mother of one incredible daughter, never again. I would love to have another baby, but for many of these reasons, that I meditated on hard after I left, never again. Not so much the worry of what night happen or accidental raising of an asshole, but climate change for sure was my number 1. I am the youngest of 4 and never wanted an only child, but my God is it a brutal wake up call to be so incredibly vulnerable and for the first time in your life place your entire livlihood in the h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 03:25 AM
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Good Goddess I almost accidently down voted you bc I read this comment and threw up in my mouth a little bit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 02:45 AM
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👀 chocolatier near me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 01:57 AM
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🤣✌️ Oh lord I thought this title was the joke but she really did
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 02:53 AM
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Great post thanks for commenters for links!!! My ex fought me in meditation SO HARD to reduce his time from 2 or 3 days a week to 2 days, and now that the parenting order is in place of the any day I ask extra from him he will (suddenly and without any communication) tell me that he's not doing a different day "to make up for it". He definately loves her very much, but I trust here being in his car because his mother and sister baby him and are always around and by turn are there when she's with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 01:06 PM
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igure out when or why you're making these thoughts about yourself. **Think about this objectively. Without shaming or blaming yourself. Forgive yourself for doing what you could do what you had at the time. 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:47 AM
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I don’t know why I’m starting to feel so insecure around him. Just keep being kind to yourself. It's a daily practice, when you're feeling like this, take it as a sign that you need to give yourself a little love and attention. Feed your soul. Your thoughts are just thoughts ☺️ so acknowledge them and let them go, but they don't have to be your truth. If you don't feel comfortable, spend some time thinking about what would make you feel better about yourself. I'm sorry to hear that you felt like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:40 AM
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You can still get a woman pregnant having sex and coming into a condom or the pull out method. Any women who takes cum from a condom to try to get themselves pregnant is also baby tapping themselves. I mean unless she then went through pregnancy and birth and then successfully proceeded with a long and expensive court process to reliquish her parental rights where he would have to be present and accept full custody and then raise the child by himself Doesn't quite have the same zing to it as fin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 07:04 PM
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Yeah baby trapped is a funny one for men. Not so funny for the rape victims forced to birth the child of their abuser and fall into a life of crime and poverty bc the government shut down access to woman's health services, social care programs and any paths to financial stability for single mother. But he was trapped and now has to pay child support!!! That's an easy one to fix, don't impregnate anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 06:54 PM
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"I came inside her, and she purposely got pregnant"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 01:29 AM
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Brutal, truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 03:54 AM
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Regardless of my actually personal feelings, which sometimes fluctuate, I tell any man that wants to have sex that if I were to get pregnant I would keep the child and your gonna want to only have sex with men who respond maturely that they are prepared for the possible repercussions of procreation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 01:36 PM
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If he’s panicking about the thought of you accidentally falling pregnant then he shouldn’t be having sex with you because he sounds immature. "we agreed if I every got pregnant I'd get an abortion" 🤦‍♀️ There's two parts to this Convo. I understand and support that some women know they don't ever want kids. I'm not trying to be that bish that's says "maybe you'll change your mind", but at the least you should be vetting for both scenarios (and that an adult conversation can be had without romant…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 01:27 PM
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Oh this is so very spot on. As a mother, it makes me absolutely cringe when I hear about a man who says he wants kids. Really? How fucking romantic, that you want to impregnate someone else and then promptly abandon and resent them. The worst mom in the world still sacrifices no less than one year of her entire body mind and soul to birth a child. This is why you vet for his dedication to your needs and how willing he is to sacrifice his own early on, selfish men are a death sentence. Honestly e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 01:14 PM
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Never date military anyway, cesspool of fake family values.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 12:59 PM
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Find a therapist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 12:45 PM
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Start with a phone call. I personally prefer to just see if conversations go naturally, without any faces to distract. I'm pretty personable so i find if it's dragging then it's a no go, but if they're interesting and take initiative to secure a date and time with me before the end of the call, then it is an exciting kind of anxiety before the date, not the dreaded feeling of rather staying home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 01:37 AM
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Owns a property with his GIRLFRIEND. My ex used to pretend he was so modern, yet his expectation were outrageously dated. Don't fall for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 09:28 PM
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Just because you wouldn’t prefer that doesn’t mean she doesn’t deserve it Did you read my comment? I literally said that if she wanted this, she deserves it That she made the wrong choice moving in with and expecting said thing from someone who clearly wasnt going to be able to provide it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 12:05 PM
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: “It’s so weird to me how you let anyone mess with your peace . Nothing outside of yourself should alter your peace and if it does and if you are not emotionally stable enough to not have a complete mental breakdown if someone say something about you and have to block them to not alter your peace is not healthy . You control your peace and if you still on the level where outside words and people affect you and your internal well being it’s sad.” I mean cool that a teenager has the words to take…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 12:25 AM
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Dude. She moved in with him right after he lost income, seemingly to help him keep his house, why is she surprised? Seems like he was honest and then made her dinner and a cake. I would love if someone made me dinner AND a cake over going out any day tbh. I've had boyfriends who woukd just pay for things so they didn't have to be thoughtful or do the leg work. And HEY, whatever works for you maybe she needs expensive dinners and cakes. But she doesn't know herself, she's just feeling disappointe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 12:08 AM
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Maybe instead of guilty until innocent, look at it as unworthy of my extra time love and attention until proven worthy. It is ENTIRELY possible to live a life where you treat men and women alike with dignity and respect, as a professional as a stranger, without actually giving your energy to anyone. I simply do this in the context of dating, I treat it like any other new person and reserve my energy until they're true intentions are clear. I think treating men like they could be a predator is gi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 02:11 PM
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So I'm a single mother of 1, financially stable and very happily independent. I successfully Co parent with my daughter's father, she stays with him 2 consecutive days each week, she is 3 and I left him 1.5 years ago. I didn't set out to be a single parent, but she's lives with me the majority of the time and I am responsible for all her school, health care, developmental and extra curricular needs. I love being her mother and I'm grateful for the constant opportunities she gives me as a parent …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 04:20 AM
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What the actual fuck. I can't help but wonder what benign thing you two talked about that in his mind opened the door to THIS hellish comment. I literally feel like you can't say anything without some how insinuating to a man acceptance of SOME WEIRD SHIT that you never signed up for. Why 🤦‍♀️ how could he possibly rationalize it? Or I guess that's legitimately a move? Like hail Mary to test if your self esteem is low enough to brush this shit off? 😣 I guess realistically this is a concerted man…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 02:56 AM
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As a single mother especially, this shit is so rampant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 12:24 PM
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I can't control it! I just keep choosing to act this way 🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 02:06 AM
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Strawman in action
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 01:20 PM
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Yes I have quite a few from my college cohort, they are still close friends. I'm not hanging out on Saturday nights since with these friends, most live elsewhere - we catch up on the phone. If I were to see them it would be inclusive of their girlfriend or spouses, or in a group reunion of all our friends. But as a 33 year old smoking hot single woman, no Im definately not make a new male friends. To be fair, I was not this hot in my 20s. But also to be fair, the 10s were pretty rough for fashio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 02:38 AM
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If I did you bet your ass there would be a prenup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 12:55 PM
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Saw an amazing comment thread on houseplant sub where a bunch of women were taking about how Karen is overused to undermine women who are being vocal and it warmed my heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 12:17 AM
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Oh this is Gold. I will carry this on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 01:25 AM
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No no. Feminist is all you need to include in that list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 01:17 PM
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THIS IS THE MESSAGE WE NEED TO BROADCAST
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 02:29 AM
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We're not mind readers = I'm not listening when you talk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 03:12 PM
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Ok but what if I'M the avoidant one 😂 Oh right! I still communicate effectively and take accountability for my actions and I've never abused anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 11:53 AM
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Yup keep the commentary to yourself until you've established the mutual trust and understanding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 12:39 AM
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Has he tried communicating with her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 02:23 PM
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Hey! You actually don't have to pay someone's bills for them to keep being nice to you! Please tell him you cannot support him financially, give him the price of what is half the bills monthly, and his very nice parents can pay their 31 year old son's bills. Don't worry, since he cares about you so much he will understand! If he doesn't, he doesn't care very deeply for you and maybe he's just using you. That's unfortunate, but it's a poor reflection on his character, not yours then, isn't it? It…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 04:04 AM
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You didn't really say anything positive or neutral about him except his car and job. He argued with you for 20 minutes last year, has he had any behavior that ties back to that flag? It sounds like these things have been on your mind, so follow your gut!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:18 AM
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So it always makes if my personality is shitty enough because I'm incapable of making a guy stay with me even when sex is temporarily out of the table. It makes me feel old-fashioned, excluded, misfit. Do you think you have a shitty personality? I think it's always good to be introspective. It's possible that you are overly protective or more stringent about these things because you've had bad or complicated experiences in the past, and it sounds like you've grown from those experiences and lear…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 02:14 AM
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This one really touches my heart strings sis, my ex always made jokes about our relationship that we both settled bc it's too much work getting to know someone new. Jokes like this (partnership is a death sentence) were often. Honestly I thank God we were never married because his lukewarm inaction was enough for us to grow apart as I realized, this ain't it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 01:38 PM
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Yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 01:25 AM
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This one is close to my heart. I'm an avid music listener and have many many male friends who are serious discographers. These friends are wonderful high value people who never ever gave a fuck that I couldn't spit out names of producers on one obscure B side from '94 bc, wow simply, they valued me as a human friend 😂. I was one female in a group of dudes where we all hung out bc of music and I was always shown respect. Outside them though, it was a shit show. I heard a woman talk about herself …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 03:16 PM
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I love being driven around, but I'm also a great driver. there's definately a difference between a guy who offers and a guy who insists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 12:31 PM
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I call this farm strength
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 03:14 AM
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Oh this is a fun one! I was with my ex for 8 years total, I left him 1.5 years ago (holy shit!) And we have a 3 year old daughter. After about 1 year of dating I got him and I tickets to go see Common in concert for some holiday or birthday. He's a big fan. A day or two before the show we got into a big fight and I told him to just take a friend. And he did!! Guess who wrote him 3 page letter that he never read? I think about that moment all the time. My reaction was from a wounded place of feel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 08:12 PM
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This is how I feel. I don't do vavavoom on a first date but in general I love to feel well dressed and enjoy the occasion to wear something from my extensive closet that I don't normally get to wear. Also, if I'm going on a first date then I've already been talking to this person and have vetted that I will at least enjoy the conversation and company, even if it doesn't turn into a romantic endeavor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 03:35 PM
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That dick is abundant This is the only advice y'all need
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 03:17 AM
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Oh they really don't. They REALLY don't. Not only do we work the SAME hours as you guys professionally, but we have to produce MORE from those same hours in order to make LESS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 12:50 PM
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Similar story- my ex apparently is on the spectrum and I rationalized him coming home from work (when we had a small child 🙄) and taking a 'nap' at 6pm. Would wake up when I was going to bed, then stay up all night. Probably porn and video games. Rinse repeat. He always needed extra alone/down time after work week or after social gatherings in general and honestly as someone who gets over stimulated myself- I fucking take care of myself and my relationships and balance things appropriately so th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 12:48 PM
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As other comments allude to, extremely possible for men who are long term committed relationships to view their partners an an inanimate object. From my experience, especially after being mother Mary herself and giving them a child- your sacrifices met with 'but when can you fuck me like a porn star again'. On that point, if knew then what I knew now. My ex was a "good, nice guy" and while there were many positive aspects and he's a really great part time father and for the most part coparent, o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 12:25 PM
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Mortifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 02:44 AM
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Woooooooooww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 01:32 AM
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Yeah it's called swipes for daddy!! 😂 It's hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 01:31 AM
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The part where he tells you he's doing you a favor by fucking you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 01:30 AM
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Swipes for daddy on insta for satisfying roasts of men like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 12:14 PM
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Observe unprovoked is the best advice!! We as women tend to lead the witness off the bat!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 02:50 PM
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Seeing and maintaining personal boundaries is really hard and takes a long time to be natural so first off it's perfectly normal to feel the way you are feeling! I'd call myself a seasoned vet and I still have to check myself when I suddenly realize I'm engaging in a bit of stuff abandonment. I think actually a big part of this learning is trial and error (like everything in life) simply because everyone is different. Checking in with yourself (mindfulness) is the best strategy to evaluate wheth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 02:49 PM
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They'll go to their friends "watch me prove that chicks don't actually want honesty"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 12:13 AM
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Uuuuh yes, totally. I don't ever want to be near someone who gets that intense about finding the perfect female....ick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 12:09 AM
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His first message was already a red flag. Oh really buddy? You're never going to use your phone again? He makes himself seem like a psycho with a phone full for dating apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:09 PM
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when women are at our most vulnerable This is the most important point to fully grasp. How common it is that men abandon woman at their most vulnerable, 1 in 6 children in the US are being raised without a father. I experienced it, it was shocking. Someone I was with for 6 years and it was a mostly positive relationship, many great times. Don't get me wrong, the signs were there, but it's truly unreal to experience. Pregnancy and birth are transformative, and to watch your partner regress IMMEDI…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 03:09 AM
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You're getting through the thick of it now with those ages! Stay strong mama.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 12:50 AM
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With you sis! Im very proud of myself though bc I left when my daughter was 18 months, I desperately wanted more kids (not right then and there, but it has been my plan) and when I realized after she was born who he really was? I had to come to terms with a lot, and I understand why people keep going and have more kids and how for the best because it was all very devastating. But I'm so glad I left, multiple kids are a whole other ball game. It's just me and my daughter and I've learned to balan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 11:21 AM
7

The low low bar that men can't even bare to meet is absolutely NOT a reflection of you as a human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 11:53 AM
14

Hell yeah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 02:47 AM
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It's just so impractical to ask men out on all accounts. For me it's not even that I'd be assumed as the financer but WHAT ELSE DID YOU DECIDE I'VE AGREED TO WITHOUT MY KNOWLEDGE!?! Tread carefully, the unspoken contract of what women owe men once they've given her any lick of attention is fucking sneaky and brutal. I'm ruthless to men who want to give me attention, no. Doubt bother bc I'm gonna shut down the cute bullshit upfront I really don't give a fuck about playing the game 🤣 it's so liber…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:18 PM
2

This is really sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 10:55 PM
4

Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 10:50 PM
7

Spot fucking on sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 12:10 PM
1

Thank you SO MUCH I am belly laughing 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 01:03 AM
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"I'll NEVER care about cleaning up after myself" "I never realized I was suppose to use deductive reasoning in my adult relationships" While I appreciate men telling each other to respect their human wives, this is breadcrumbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 02:24 AM
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Hey great timing, I've started a new grassroots campaign where I'm reminding married working mothers that they should start paying themselves for services rendered if their SO isn't doing their share of childcare, domestic duties and emotional work. These men out here think having a job (like we all do) entitles them to a 1950s housewife while, meanwhile their wives are working the same hours, for less pay. Stay at home moms need to start paying themselves from his pocket for services rendered d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 08:25 PM
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They insist on being leaders but they make dumb, short-sighted decisions that don't take into account all the aspects of the problem I won't deal with this anymore. my cardiovascular health is at risk of I have to manage even one more situation of feeling like I have to politely take over where theres been gross incompetence that could have been avoided if someone's masculinity wasn't at stake. I lead, you listen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 02:51 AM
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For added poignancy, use a picture you hate from the most awkward ugly insecure point in your childhood life, my prepubecent low pony tail days for example 🤣, and use that time to ACCEPT HER and love her and tell her you will absolutely do right for her. And in a lot of cases, will do a hell of a lot better by her than our mothers and fathers did by us! Break the cycle🤘 and be better to ourselves and better to eachother. Mary the Goddess bless you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 08:36 PM
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I have a childhood picture on a shelf at the bottom of my stairs I greet her every morning and try to do my best by her each day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 11:41 AM
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...I can't begin to express how good it feels to have someone "get it". I will tell you that being raised by a narcissist (my father is one as well) is a live long journey to truly tap into your inner security. You were raised to NOT trust your self NOT believe yourself!! When I crossed the threshold, it was incredible. I'm at a place in my life where I truly cherish my stuff for all my parts, I not only believe myself when feelings size but I believe IN myself to work through things and be ok. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 04:46 PM
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I'm so sorry 😣 my sister is like this. I'm not in contact with her anymore, but she has 3 sons with 3 different men each 7 years apart. My oldest nephew I'm close with as he was able to get away to live with his dad when he was 8, she used to do similar things to him. I just wanted to send you some love bc she tormented me as well when we were young and up until I cut off contact with her. I understand the absolute devistation that's kind of primary socialization does to your nervous system. Gla…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 03:15 AM
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You are correct, they don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 11:43 AM
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This brings me much joy! I'm no expert yogi but I do love to draw from different frameworks. I do yoga with Adrienne on YouTube and she's just so wonderful with integrating how we show up on the matt to how we show up in life. I also love that Asana is a practice that essential trains us to be resilient to the adversities of life but also to spend quality moments in rest and reflection, the breath being the constant. 🧡 Good reminders all around to take time for intention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 02:32 PM
2

Awesome, I found it all very inspiring and useful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 12:55 PM
36

Ya bc this is not exactly the fucking reason you twat 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 11:40 AM
65

💯% of unwanted pregnancies are caused by male ejaculation. But we're the ones who don't want to 'deal with the consequences'...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:27 PM
24

Where is the website that I can whistleblow and personally sue dead beat dad's!?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:25 PM
70

The British version of this love affair, zee original, was where it was at
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 01:58 AM
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The minute my conditions aren’t met I’m out the door because my love is precious and rare and under the wrong conditions will be used against me. I have been savage about this point to the man I've been seeing the past 10 months. He seems to be well aware that love is not enough and I've been pretty impressed with his work ethic and commitment to the relationship. My mentality shift around my conditions were offset by some very important realizations about my inherent self worth. But I'm finding…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 12:52 AM
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they get in the real world and now their held to patriarchal standards such as height, fitness, and ability to provide Create and contribute to the rules, get upset when they are applied to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 11:58 AM
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I just went over there and died a little inside so yeah I'm good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 11:44 AM
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I don't give back the same energy I get. I only match energy if your vibrating on my frequency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 10:32 PM
9

****he can also always get a perfectly safe and reversable vasectomy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 02:46 PM
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'let's just skip the nonsense and go right to the gyno for Chlamydia treatment' Dude your fucking quoting journey, get your basic ass back in your room
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:44 PM
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Yes it is. They've enjoyed our economic contributions now for decades without having to do much of anything different. Now woman don't need men so we can choose, and it's disrupted the good deal and they're "confused". It's amazing to me that increasing emotional intelligence, domestic skills, and planning/scheduling/project management seems unfair. Be better, or don't and stfu.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 12:13 PM
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Be glad it wasn't 7 years + a kid. No regrets, every bad experience is an opportunity for growth. Seriously good for you for staying true to yourself. It's heartbreaking to be the one to end things, and then there's this fucked up voice being like "bUt hE diDnT eVeN aBuSE yOu!" Which is the settle-devil trying to convince you to go AGAINST your intuition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 03:07 PM
9

Where is the "has all teeth" metric here? 🤣 The bare minimum has gotten spicey
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 02:51 PM
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Lady you might as well just off yourself bc what is the point of living if you're SINGLE AND 30!?!?!? Looks around at my peaceful clean quiet garden apartment Oh yes that's right, my worth has nothing to do with whether or not scumbags want to fuck me over and call it a relationship. And I'm single bc I'm not saying yes to that anymore. She needs to go take a class or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 12:53 PM
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Omg can I just say how much I fucking hate when people say "it's laughable" in their comments!? Just hold up a sign that says "I'm insecure"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 11:53 AM
7

This poor girl really said "incompatibile libidos"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 06:42 PM
48

Honestly, these are basic human social skills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 02:12 PM
61

Oh this is the one to look out for and call bullshit on immediately. "We just need to communicate better" is another gem. Just no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 02:07 PM
30

Ugh this post is both hopefully and terribly, terribly depressing. It's the truth, that men come from a place of receipt entitlement, expecting the other person to give give give exactly how they want and understand why they want it without ever being Introspective and trying to understand the other person perspective. 'i give her everything!!' no, you don't. You expect her to give you play by play directions on how to keep her happy and then get mad about it constantly. Good on that guy for fig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:57 PM
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Oh yes the entitlement to my parenting time is the icing on the cake. He expected me to do everything then, but now he not only expects it but is eTiTLeD tO iT bc he she's her once a week and pays the least amount of child support possible....bc somehow he doesn't notice that I'm alfinancially supporting my child 🙄 bc she fucking lives with me full time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 01:50 PM
3

It looks like you have set yourself up for the best possible scenario given your circumstance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 01:43 PM
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I can only afford it with him there to split the monthly mortgage payment. Good on you sis for keeping this in mind. I think that we as woman are proactive and we are now learning to be protective so is you guys had this conversation is very natural for you to go forward and figure it the fuck out. But exactly as you said, what is he doing here? If he wants to cohabitate, let him present you with an environment that doesn't restrict your personal liberty. If he's taking but not making moves, the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 01:40 PM
12

I rested for like two years after we divorced. Im one year into my multiple year rest and recovery from that bullshit ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 01:33 PM
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Funny because every month I pay rent I think to myself, best money I ever spent!!! Peace is worth every penny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 12:59 PM
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💯 behind this comment, but curious if you have any actual sources I could peruse? Can do my own research later but I'd just love to get my hands on these stats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 12:57 PM
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Emotional energy to decorate and garden, the quiet to read and do yoga. My NVX couldn't shut the fuck up for 2 seconds, he would yell-sing just to be annoying it maybe compulsively I don't know but it was I was so clear that constant stimuli caused me so much unnecessary stress. Guess what? He didn't care 👍 I love my quiet peaceful clean well decorated and well organized home. You'll have to take it from my cold dead hands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 12:54 PM
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Isn't this the fucking truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 04:35 PM
14

Seriously. It's so fucking DUMB.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 11:47 AM
28

What the actual fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 01:33 PM
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every time in the past I’ve been criticized and had my spirit crushed for wanting things I think that wanting things/asking for things is also traumatizing bc of what you may be asked for in return. The score chart is absolutely terrifying to me. I do not have the problem of feeling like my needs are too much or crazy, it just seems like every man on earth feels. OWED bc being kind and decent to your partner is an inconvenience for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 11:04 AM
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I simply would never feel at peace if I had a baby with a boyfriend. Nor should you. Most men in marriages fail to be adequate fathers and partners, it's basically a 100% fail rate having a kid with a boyfriend. Marry you after? Haha yeah, no. More likely he'll go straight for 'we never have sex anymore!' as your vaginal tears are still healing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 02:27 AM
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Cheers to the first real lucid moment watching a guy be a total fucking creep when you previouslyl would have blamed yourself for being too uptight or some other bullshit ✌️ it's only up from here sis!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 12:40 PM
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Ooh girl 😣 I'm a single mom and honestly love my life but that's only bc I make good money and can provide theses things to my kid solo. Also bless daycare ✌️ I never wanted to be a sahm, first year maybe... But I get it, and ouch that has got to be the fuck over of the century and just about exactly why I don't ever want another kid. Honestly men can be ok solo but have their baby and they will abandon you for a regressed manchild state so fast it's not funny. It's a Shane because I would love …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 10:33 AM
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As a woman with a child, I whole heartedly agree with your post. I very much struggle with the idea that being able to bare children and the sacrifices I've made for my child shiver her father is my only reason to deserve better treatment. I think that if you can have children but don't want them, it still rings true as it is the risk of pregnancy you are protecting and a man can take from you without much repercussion. That's kind of where I'm at now, I don't want more children and I'm extremel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 01:01 PM
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Why the rush then? Just wait
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 11:34 AM
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Why don't you like the idea of marriage? I feel weird getting married just so I know he won’t leave me… This sounds like the echoing of the patriarchy. My ex said shit like this joking about why marriage was a sham, how commitment was between two people... He expressed his commitment to me too before we moved in and again when we got pregnant, the whole world was going to be ours. But this commitment to be in a relationship with me and live together assumed I'd play the role of mother, wife, vir…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:34 AM
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Implicit expectations without a ring. Trust, if that offer isn't coupled with a real honest commitment to love and cherish you in marriage, which is a mutual and explicit vow to each other no matter what institution you want to discuss, trust that you will be suddenly paying for shit you did not sign up for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 12:40 AM
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Active Pickmes who have children is what keeps me up at night 😣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 11:44 AM
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Bitch I am the table! My new line 👌, thank you for this much needed PSA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 06:09 PM
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•we vet for generocity This is one all you need 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:19 AM
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Sidebar: a second job to pay for a vacation with HIS family?!? Hell no. So, so, so disgusting. He watched her work 2 jobs for 2 months, let her stay home while they fucking went out while in a different country, listened to her stomach grumble, and is SO CONFUSED he has to post on Reddit. FUCK this dude's parents for raising a shit son and also Shame on them all for putting her in that situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:57 PM
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It's so sad I'm watching this play out with my best friend who is trying to divorce her husband. She had to move her family home from another country after he abandoned them and now she has to wait 4 more months until she's a resident to file. He won't fucking leave her alone now 🤮 I'm so proud of her though she's finally standing up for herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:26 PM
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I just learned about the acronym DARVO, which is a tactic used in psychological abuse. Defend, attack, reverse victim and offender.... I encountered this particular sentence from a guy I was dating after I had gotten much better at identifying how my body feels in moments when someone's language turns me around. He'd made the date weird then I was distant after we parted ways. I responded with "why would you say that? Why do you think something is wrong?" Which wasn't what he expected and he tra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 08:07 PM
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Hahaha Im in love, this chick rules
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 06:19 PM
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"I can feel something's wrong ever since I did that really shitty thing to you"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:21 PM
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"it's all that I have" he says to his fucking wife
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:27 AM
13

For all my mistakes with men, having a hard limit about strip clubs was a no brainer even before I woke up. when I met my daughter's father I was 24 and he was 21, I found out he had gone to the strip club with his friends a few times in the past and I told him if he wanted to date me he could resign to never enter another one again To his credit, he didn't bat an eye and never went again in the almost 8 years we spent together and it was never an issue. However, the fact that this was the activ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:51 PM
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"I love your love handles" when your trying to exercise and eat healthy 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:43 PM
15

👏💯 yes. And yes again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:42 PM
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he thought my crooked teeth were cute He thought you might get better than him if your teeth were straight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:14 PM
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God it is so fucking sad how true this accusation could be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:23 PM
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This is the way. My daughter is only 2.5, so not quite at the point where I'm sharing mortality statistics, but I'm an adamant believer in honest conversations especially around problematic content. A lot of kids shows and movies are terrible when it comes to gender tropes and I'm 💯 pointing out things I think she should challenge and asking her what she thinks. I also read with her every single day and now that the library is open we've been going bi weekly to get books, she and I will sit toge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:07 PM
13

I love this sub 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 12:20 PM
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Similar scenario, I'd provisioned and packed the car for camping with our baby and he was insisstant that I take as many trips to the car as him caring or gear to a walk in site. He got incredibly pissed when I'd asked my brothers friend to help me get the wheelbarrows over the hill. Because I'm lazy? Smh. Me and my daughter are going to the same spot this year, I'm an avid hiker so I've got everything I need, I'm going to pack light and I bought a wagon. I'm so excited to be peaceful with just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:53 AM
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I wish I didn't know that sub existed. Today I'm praying for all the teenagers who are preyed on by gross men. I just looked for a second, saw a commenter talk about how he understood lots of women are fetishized when it comes to men dating younger, he "gets it" because he's 42 and his BDSM girlfriend is 19 😣.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:23 PM
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I peruse the subreddit and you are not kidding, there is a real tough vibe of "can't do anything about it so I'm not responsible for outcome so I'm disengaged" on things they have complete control over but don't understand. I would not discount a guy for owning this book, unlike some of the other books on this list, but if it's his BIBLE that's a huge red flag. If he's using "stoic logic" to shirk responsibility, red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 01:50 PM
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Meditations - Marcus Aurelius Have the LVM officially ruined stoicism for everyone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 10:41 AM
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How fucked up is it that so many of us experience this direct gaslighting to feel bad for these clowns immediately after calling them out not just bc society has taught us to shut up and sit down, so any boundaries or constructive feedback feels like you are high maintenance, but because they are so entitled to this conditioning they legit come after us in the moment like pros no matter how fucking "nice"- GASP how dare you call me out I'm NOT EVEN BEATING YOU, you must be [projection] if that u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 06:31 PM
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Seriously! We've all heard of a 3 martini lunch but fucking 6!?! I can barely drink than much when I'm TRYING to party 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 06:23 PM
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Hella sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 01:58 PM
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Hi ladies!! Coming in hot this morning on mother's day, me and my 2.5 y/o daughter who is an absolute FORCE To be reconned with-she will lead the rebellion to topple the patriarchy- are having a lovely morning playing and laughing in our messy buns and pj's ALONE and in peace. Her dad gave me a half assed 'happy mothers day" as I picked her up yesterday before making a rude comment that I didn't hear all of bc I was already driving away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 11:43 AM
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Same except I'm not expecting any gifts from anyone I'm psyched not to cook though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 01:40 AM
12

You are not freaking kidding!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 07:12 PM
19

It felt pretty direct to me! I was like great thanks, I don't like jerks buuh bye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:30 PM
9

Yes, and we're finally learning EXACTLY how men need to be treated!! Thank you FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:47 PM
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My favorite pickup line on ODL was "I'm kind of a jerk but you seen predominately nice"....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 10:51 AM
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Also the abismal state of fatherhood is no longer brushed under the rug. These men have no domestic skills and ignore the Existence of emotional intelligence, women know that having kids with most men is a crap shoot. I have one daughter who is my world, I would love more kids and I can afford them!! But no fucking way would I put myself through that utter disappointment again of watching their father regress the moment the baby arrives. Poor me poor me I haven't had a blowjob in so long your no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 11:05 AM
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You see there how he made it convenient and sensible for you to invite him in and let him shower there, which is CRAZY who asks that on a second date??? I'll tell you who, fucking VAMPIRES. Literally do not let them in. They will not leave. Shutter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:44 AM
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🤣🤣 please. Just stfu. You're welcome 🧡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:51 AM
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This reminded me of when I was in college so like 19, I saw an older woman outside in the summer heat (middle of the city) pushing a tv on the sidewalk trying to get it out to the main road for idk why. I stopped and helped her and she was go grateful she gave me $2 to "but myself a soda" 🤣 it was the cutest thing ever and I totally didn't even drink soda but I bought one with the $2 bc I thought the gesture was so sweet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:30 AM
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Posts about your boyfriend in general make me tired. I was never overboard with that with my ex but certainly did a birthday post or whatever, 8 years together he posted about me a small handful of times and begrudgingly. So many lessons I've learned, but hyping up a man who barely fucking acknowledges your sacred existence is one I will never forget. Everyone I see someone make a post about a man like that, you better believe he not got a single trace of her on his account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:07 AM
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You are right. In her defence, because the girl became famous as a child and still is a child, she has probably just seen and heard people talk about her body ad naseum. Her style when she first came out reminded me of TLC when they first came out wearing baggy overalls, and Billie has stayed with a very unique style that has generally not been provocative at all. Now they get you to do a cover for vogue and if course it's going to be sexy bc she's 19 now- and I think we all go through this at s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 12:27 PM
25

Why this even has to be said...smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:48 AM
54

Please. Please do it, lead the way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 09:57 PM
19

These woman tolerate a whole lot to get picked...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:57 AM
26

I'm not just a free dinner 🤣🤣🤣 Why are you even mad I'm not a mind reader/ignoring direct feedback
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 12:42 PM
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You expressed an opinion and I didn't care. Oh that's going on the arsenal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 02:16 AM
10

Yeah, this exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:57 AM
2

Oh yes, you are not kidding. I've become much bolder louder and unrelenting in my boundaries for emotional labor in the context of dating. If I feel like I have to explain overarching social and emotional concepts in detail before I'm able to have my point of view understood, I just stop. If I feel the need to explain anything really I just don't. Most of the time, they don't even ask or care, so I just take that as a sign and move myself along. It's actually hilarious to watch the confusion at …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:16 AM
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I've read a lot about it and this is definately true, but LVM find and defile everything n one way or another. Ive also talked to people who are in female led relationships (FLR) and that is fascinating to me. It's basically living in an egalitarian relationship. That's how low the bar is, a kind respectful man who is loyal and dutiful to his partner is labeled as a submissive and kinky. (Cue my joke!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 12:53 AM
1

✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:25 AM
6

A joke! I should have added /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:55 AM
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My femdom fetish is a well groomed man who is well rounded attentive and thoughtful. Don't kink shame me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:11 AM
48

extroverted and naturally assertive Now I'm extracareful and naturally assert my boundaries
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 12:55 AM
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That's funny bc of how untrue it is. Also, I had to double check what sub I'm on. No emphasis on this post so it seems like you're giving me this feedback. But I think you are pointing out how men constantly contradict themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 09:31 PM
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Same idea, after my daughter's first birthday around the 18 month mark, when I was already questioning whether this dynamic was really my new reality, my ex said to me that his issue was that the frequency of sex went down and I "wasnt willing" to take things to another level. 2+ years sacrificing my entire body mind and soul for our child, pregnancy (gained 70lb !!! Had to handle discrimination from my boss), Birth (3rd degree tear), post partum as a first time mom, starting a BRAND NEW JOB fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:57 PM
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First of all, I do want to acknowledge that decades of neoliberal policies have led to massive wealth inequality, Fucking love you coming out the gate with this, and just because I can never say it enough FUUUUCK YOU REAGAN!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 06:34 PM
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I think there’s always that part of men that want to just be done when they’re done This is why I call myself the Queen and, with full consent, have control over when where how and IF he cums. When he's done, he can be done, bc I will have surely gotten my kicks by then. I just don't allow it as often as he would have on his own valition. It's a coveted gift he will go lengths for in the hopes of winning my favor. Role reversal should just be called 'it's about damn time'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:45 PM
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My boyfriend doesn’t enter me until he’s made me orgasm YUP. The one time I didn't orgasm before he did was the last, I basically broke up with him and he turned that ship around *real" fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 10:23 AM
25

You're mom sounds great!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 11:25 AM
11

Damn is she ok? I'm good on taking advice from a teenager with neck tattoos ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:38 AM
3

I buy myself fresh flowers everytime I go grocery shopping!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 01:30 AM
18

If you trespass on my property, it'd be nice if you just encountered a fence, but if you stumble into an electric fence, that's your business. Preach girl, preach. I'm very vocal about my boundaries, and the electric shock starts about 10 ft from the mother fucking fence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:09 PM
39

Baaahahaha this woman is a damn queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:01 PM
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Agreed!!!! This article is so we'll written every woman should read this and have theses points ready at any given moment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 12:55 PM
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I find it erie and repugnant that people cannot see this is the context for the incredible specificity we have here. Unfortunately, because men lie and society pays them handsomely for it, Im not realistically able to date a guy and just trust he has his shirt together just because he looks like he has his shit together and he tells me I should trust him. Because most men don't even register 80% of what it actually means to have your shit together....EQ, good hygiene, routine mental and physical…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 02:39 AM
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Ok cool 🤙 then you go girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 01:24 AM
13

remain alone and at peace Aah true happiness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 01:22 AM
2

There is, in fact, an in between! You don't need to settle for watching someone read!? Haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 01:07 AM
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It's impersonal, they just want to posses women and children, make them extensions of himself and exist as his personal property. I was dating a guy who told me he just wanted to know everything about me. I kept thinking about it, about all the moments I had told him little anecdotes about my life and instead of being interested and asking me more questions, he wouldnt even acknowledge what I'd said and immediately relate what I said to himself. Then he would micromanage my reaction when I would…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:06 AM
76

I was a fool. There is no safe way to do SAHM without your own separate significant financial savings. We repeat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:04 AM
54

As a former forever girlfriend and baby mama, I thank the stars it was that way bc I make and had saved way more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:58 AM
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It makes me physically suck to my stomach thinking about the risks these woman are taking. Watching my best friend of 22 years have to divorce her lying cheating husband of 11 years too damn long. They have FOUR CHILDREN, 9, 11, 12 and 8 months! She was a stay at home mom for a lot of those years but thank God got her bachelor's via the GI bill (met him in the air force, honorably discharged a year when he got her pregnant) and before she recently got pregnant again was working as a nurse. She h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:56 AM
12

Fact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:26 AM
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Is FDS against raising children exclusively? Sure if you've got a well negotiated prenup and a private savings account with your name on it. If you can figure out how do this without giving up your buying power then go for it, bc then you have cracked the capitalists code. The system is is designed to keep mothers who raise children "exclusively" in indentured servitude. Honey if you are a stay at home mother and your husband works full time to support your family financially, your childcare hou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:20 AM
31

Holy shit I'm 32 and have never had twitter I might need to sign up just to follow FDS 🤣🤣 that's amazing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:43 AM
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Fucking so glad to have this in my rear view. In the long run, the 50/50 guy will not make any effort to go above what he feels is the halfway point. There is no stronger proof that you will be constantly losing on his imaginary scoreboard than a man who even mentions 50/50.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 08:37 PM
29

Good. I can't tell you how many moments like this I've had before I even knew about FDS. So many times where men said wildly inappropriate things to me and I just noped out. Point blank left physically or metaphorically. I've been told too many times that I am a bitch, too aggressive, and generally viewed as overly politically correct or uncooperative because I have ALWAYS struggled to laugh off this bullshit and I cannot hide the way my face looks when I'm faced with it. It was only recently ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:40 PM
5

I'm 32 but look 22 and the death stare serves me very well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 11:48 AM
14

I'm so lucky to have some seriously amazing women in my life including my bff of 22 years! Could not have gotten where I am today without her and the rest of my HVW friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:39 AM
18

YUP! what's yours is mine and what's mine is mine. In other news I just accepted a job at 40k more than I was making and will be buying my own house in the very best future for me and my daughter 🧡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 12:38 PM
40

This one hurts bc I just left a job where I did everything and the men loved to sit around and talk about what they thought should be my career trajectory. I'll take that boys, fuck right off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 12:11 PM
17

Now it's time to get your own crop and dominante sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:29 PM
27

The man I'm dating right now ran to brush his teeth after eating so he could kiss me. The first time we were together he asked if his grooming was good enough and took note on my response. I've not had to confront too many cheesy dicks in my life but I have confronted one to many tight ass butt cheeks. Men are afraid washing their ass thoroughly makes them gay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:26 PM
16

Fuuuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:18 PM
45

Holy shit mic DROP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:06 PM
15

"I don't have any desire to date" is not uncertain terms for a LVM. If you can't block and delete bc he knows where you live and you have mutual friends and a history, then you need to be incredibly direct and ditch the succotash graces. --> "I don't have any desire to date YOU and we do not have plans Sunday. I need you to take a big step back and do not contact me or try to hang out with me 1 on 1, but I will be happy to chat with you as a platonic friend if I see you out. This is not about yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:12 AM
8

you’ve done no actual work to analyze the power dynamic that underlies them. The very concept of Equality has been rooted in men as the baseline of measurement. Give me a different system entirely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 01:57 AM
19

Lighting cigarettes and getting drinks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 10:34 PM
17

Do it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 12:53 PM
2

Done. thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:07 AM
9

I'm a moderate for single moms and what strikes me as the most heartbreaking is the amount of women I am reminding they don't deserve what their child's father put then through our are putting them through. I'm a single mother because me daughter's father and I split up but he's still in her life, The amount of mothers there who NEVER had the father in their kids life is astounding. It's so acceptable they will casually mentioned it like "obligatory, my kids father abandoned his unborn child". I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:46 PM
4

WOW you dishes a bullet holy moly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 03:21 PM
17

So I had a guy say to me AFTER taking me out to dinner with no fan fare about paying, that he "wasn't about that simp life"....which I had to Google what 'simp' meant. This was prompted bc after a very nice date, I suggested he being me coffee/lunch (I wfh). I make 6 figures and he manages a bar, I do not need anyone to buy me lunch but instead of taking it as a cute excuse to come see me, which he DID but then he says that my text caught him off guard and he thought to himself, "what does she t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 01:28 PM
3

If the man is not trembling in awe in front of that he doesn't know what love is. If he isn't a little bit afraid that he would lose it. He doesn't know what love is. If he dares disrespect the intimacy you share. He doesn't know what love is. Speaking the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 02:44 AM
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Have you seen men lately? Bc they feel attacked and I literally saw a man comment the other day that he thought men where held to high, IF NOT HIGHER, standard of beauty than women. What's that phrase, equality feels like oppression when you're used to privilege? "Equality" doesn't even fit here, it's anything less than coddling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 11:45 PM
3

What grade is this kid in an why is in my feed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 02:11 AM
3

As a bisexual women myself, it's absolutely lovely having a girlfriend who is also a Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 01:13 AM
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I am friendly enough, but I love making connections and becoming friends with woman. I have many long lasting and fulfilling platonic friendships with men and woman. I think what you're describing is relational trauma in general. I feel that way about men, but I also had to let go of one of my very best friend of 10 years last summer after I could no longer take the overt abuse any time I had an opinion or need. But that doesn't stop me from wanting to make be friends, and all the shitty LVM who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 12:50 AM
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Isn't that ironic. I was banned from datingover30 for calling someone sis!!! No fucking joke, good riddance honestly it's the same pickme BS again and again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:03 PM
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GO ON WITH YOUR BAD SELF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 01:33 PM
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It's crazy how obvious this all is but how much we woman are taught that our worth is tied to whether any ol' scrote wants you. My daughter for sure will know her worth, she's 2 and already knows her power isn't dependant on a man!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:46 PM
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When friends have asked how they can make their partner more thoughtful For sure centuries of conditioning, but I'm so glad I've learned this lesson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:18 PM
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. We’ll talk equality and split straight down the middle when men can go 50/50 on labor and birth Hell fucking yes sis 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:23 PM
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That's how I've only seen it used but I can see how very easily creeps could use this term to manipulate young woman. Either way, the actual bdsm community is thrilled when you claim your vanilla power bc like you said it is you making clear limits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 12:59 PM
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Good reminder 💅 thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 07:53 PM
2

What is TOS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 12:00 PM
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Someone posted yesterday a meme that said "let a man talk to you uninterrupted for 10 minutes and he'll be like 'wow I really like you' " 😂 I won't forget that one either, so fricken true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 11:58 AM
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You misinterpreted a lot. I don't have the energy to address the errors amidst your condescending prose. But I'm not sympathetic. We're on the same side sis. ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 11:06 PM
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Haha couldn't agree more. I definately don't want to downplay the amount of absolute shitbags that intentionally manipulate. I'm a behavioral science and psychilogy junky and I study a lot about trauma, it's all very complex but a lot of it ends up that people just don't have the tools available (think mindfulness or a community that encourages accountability) to connect with themselves. These people who manipulate on purpose are absolutely miserable (not counting psychopaths and narcissistic he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 07:19 PM
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Honestly a lot of people are idiots. I wouldn't give them that much credit of being self aware.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:09 AM
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YUP Editing to say, my ex used to tell me I 'never listened' to him. I absolutely listened to him, I just didn't then also agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 09:03 PM
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More like "continuously attempt to have adult based conversations with your seated man child while they mimick a infant to young adult based response hoping you will shut up, a minimal effort that may pacify you in the moment but doesn't not result in metabolizing the conversation for future behavior adjustment or in the moment application. repeat 100x until you are screaming and he shifts blame to you. Game over"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 09:02 PM
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What the fuck on that last one!?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 08:04 PM
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Omg haha this is literally where I'm at theses days
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 03:17 PM
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This is what gets me!!! I'm no super model, but I'm definately attractive. I was chunky growing up and had to work really hard through a lot of adverse life events, so I've blossomed in adulthood with a great sense of humor, loads of special interests, a salt of the earth outlook and a stable, intellectually based career. They can usually handle that I'm beautiful and accomplished, but once they realize I'm funny AND I like good music 😂 it's a sight to behold. I honestly see it less as "your not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 03:11 PM
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Yes. I see it as choice I am making to self preserve. You may see it as a power move AGAINST you but it's not. It's certainly a power move but it's claiming your power for yourself, it has nothing to do with your desire to hurt them and THAT'S why I think 'power play thing' made me squirm. I'm not trying to hurt anyone, but you better fucking believe that my name is number 1 on that list of people in trying not to hurt. I have no need to convince you that what you're doing is wrong, that's the c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 08:42 PM
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"power play thing" is trite. The reason this is useful is because explaining yourself that their behavior is not acceptable to you is going to be interpreted as a personal attack on them. It's not worth the energy, so you're not playing with power you are owning your own power by choosing to not engage in unnecessary conflict. They don't have to stop following those girls, they don't have to do anything-you'll just leave if it's not right for you so step up or step down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:59 PM
4

Thankfully, I'm bisexual 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 12:22 PM
5

I buy fresh flowers for my room weekly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 02:16 AM
3

🙌 was hard sis but I made it through🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 10:51 AM
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This is so great. My mother told me a bad ass story recently, I just left my daughter's father and was talking with her about the next phase of life and my own personal development. 5 years after she escaped my father, she saw one of our old neighbor at a local shop. She was a stay at home mom with 4 kids married to an narcissistic abusive alcoholic in our neighborhood's hey da. She managed to divorce him and keep us at the house and go back to school to support her children. This woman made a l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 01:29 AM
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This is the biggest reason I left my ex. I took him and our (toddler) daughter camping memorial day and arranged planned packed everything and this mother fucker just could even fathom the idea that I did get a break...no no no, he insists I help lug everything into the woods. Then he legit threw a temporary tantrum when my brothers friend offered to get the wheelbarrow up the hill for me and I obliged- because as soon as I was offered help I "offloaded". He really loved seeing me work. Fucking …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 06:57 PM
2

Amazing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 07:08 PM
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and also enjoy having your vacation ruined because he isn't doing well in his fantasy football league. I'm ded. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:33 AM
2

😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:10 AM
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Yes. There was a post on dating advice recently with a man who was able to recreate the laundry list a woman provided him circa date 4 including vacations for her and her friends, quantity and occasions that require a gift of an extensive handbags, just a ton of really specific things and while knowing what is going to make you happy is very important, the way she went about it was super trashy. It was obvious she was telling him all about FDS after he did something fairly considerate for her, a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:45 AM
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Yup!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 12:24 PM
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Love that song
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:48 AM
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So fragile
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 11:36 AM
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Hahahaha oh shit 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 11:35 AM
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Different but the same, my ex equated "listening" to him to mean complying with what he was asking me to do regardless of how I felt about it or what was the context. No no, I'm listening. I just don't agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:54 AM
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I took my current boyfriend to hike Mt Washington on our 4th date, we'd been talking for about 2 months at that point and he'd really wowed me with planning our first three dates. Im an avid hiker but I would never do it in a first date, but at that point he want a strange and it was really awesome and definately a testament to his endurance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 11:38 AM
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As a 32 year old woman who is killing it, that is the lie tell tell you. If you work hard towards financial and emotional freedom from 25-30, 30s is the best decade bc you can do all the things you were to poor or insecure to do in your 20s. Furthermore, it doesn't have to stop there. I plan on getting a doctorate in my 40s and spending a lot of time suntanning on the boat that I'm going to buy. Why not now you ask? Because currently I'm enjoying being the mother of an amazing brilliant toddler,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 11:18 AM
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Yeah it was definately bumming me out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 11:27 AM
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Holy shit, female dating strategy is labeled a hate sub, but ENTITLED BITCH which seems to be a legit circle jerk off hatred to women, is all good? Should we just rename this sub "entitled scrotes" and call it a day?!?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:16 PM
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Seriously!!! Legit in the middle of quietly flying higher into the atmosphere while a crow pecks harder at me knowing it won't be much longer before they will suffocate and fall away into the abyss behind me. Yeah, pretty fucking apt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 02:14 PM
2

Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:56 AM
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Siiistaaa 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 01:20 AM
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It's because people lie to themselves and others about what they can actually handle. You can certainly have those conversation before 3 months, and sometimes you're lucky and the answer is genuine but it's a fucking dice roll. The reason we vet is because they lie. They lie to themselves and then they lie to us and then they say fuck! This is to much!! Im 32 and I don't have the emotional bandwidth to deal with people not understanding the basics of relationship management. Three months is enou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 02:40 AM
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All of their exes did them dirty 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 02:29 AM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 02:33 AM
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Honestly, you have to transcend it by letting go of your ego. accept your part by identifying and consoling the wounds inside if you that are causing that anger to burn so fiercely. Forgive yourself, tend to your garden like you would a child who just found out Santa isn't real. Allow yourself to grieve then put it behind you and take the lessons away. Only then can you start truly living with joy because no one can harm you- If you can live in peace with yourself, the world is abundant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:14 PM
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Yes everyone touched on this but unfortunately casual just really isnt a thing if your serious about FDS for the reason that men are generally going to behave like dogs if you settle for that. Trust me, I'm horny af and would love to have a FWB situation, but I can't really imagine a scenario right now where I accept a lower caliber of guy than what I've set my standards at. And if you meet my standards, you should be dating material bare minimum and I'm not having sex with anyone who isn't excl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 12:10 PM
2

Preach
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:57 AM
4

This is fucking amazing. Yes, just yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:09 AM
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You "fell into that" because of probably a million valid reasons. You should absolutely focus some energy on forgiving yourself for letting your emotions control your behaviors, because it sure does happen. I literally just did this and I'm on the other side of it much wiser and stronger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 10:43 PM
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That's so so so so shitty. So shitty. Sorry you had to experience that, I would be mortified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 10:27 PM
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AMAZING!!!! this is so great and I'm so happy for you sis!! May your creativity flow!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 06:17 PM
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So common, this question is, that there is a word for it!! DOWRY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 03:55 AM
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I actually found this woman's Instagram from a recommendation on this site, then found this article on emotional addiction which was incredibly poignant to my life experiences and describes what "hit emotions" are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 01:58 AM
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Haha well thank you for the tip! I have a really great therapist and I'm feeling really amazing actually. Today i closed the door on any unfinished business with him. There's no reason to call, and I'm at peace with it for so many reasons that are amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 12:58 AM
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Imho that can become detrimental if you're not careful because you could end up teaching yourself to look for the negatives in people (is this person or behavior unhealthy?) And if you do that you will find justification for not getting close to other people every time. Rather, if you focus on the feelings of your own body and mind when you start getting the urge to chase someone (like I'm doing right fucking now, seriously I'm super chatty bc I want to check my messages and set myself for disap…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 06:11 PM
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Oh I'm so glad. The inner child psychological model has been invaluable in my recovery from childhood trauma and journey to queendome. When I'm feeling the pain of old wounds being ripped open by unassuming new people, I'm imagining my adult self as beautiful strong eretheral Goddess who decends down from the stars to embrace the scared fearful girl and whisper to her that she is loved and worthy of love, that she is good and righteous, that she is special enough for good people to stick around.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 03:49 PM
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I wanted to share some of my recent self-reflections with the FDS community today as I am working through a level up as we speak and sharing with you all is extremely empowering. Earlier this year I ended a 7 year situationship with my daughters father relationship- the split has been very amicable and now I have a fabulous place of my own, a co-parent for my daughter that I can actually get along with (NOT compatible as partners, but great friends), and a wide open chapter of radical self accep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:37 PM
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Yes, the mental real estate is key
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:29 AM
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I don't think a HVM would say that in the first place, he would show it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 12:56 AM
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Brilliant thank you, I've been refining my list of boundaries and my list of standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 12:50 AM
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was gonna buy me flowers oof that last one though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 05:46 PM
2

yup and let me validate that decision again sis!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 05:42 PM
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5 days between March and July is NOT cool land that's my lowest love language
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 12:57 AM
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This is why I am here, thank you for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 01:35 AM
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Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 11:50 PM
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the way he reacts when a woman says no is all you need. SAY IT LOUDER SIS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 11:03 AM
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This is the truth. I literally just had to end it with someone who showed their true colors. I waited for a commitment but not long enough to get to know his real personally obviously and sis, lesson learned. It's about not giving that part of yourself up until your sure they will respect you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 10:57 AM
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Truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 10:50 AM
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When you begin to notice these thoughts, you level up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 10:46 AM
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Than you so much. It's still hard this evening but I feel in solidarity with OP and all the women here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 12:40 AM
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Yes! I am here for this, just broke up with my boyfriend for leaving me hanging on text when i set a healthy boundary then backslid into justifying that boundary a moment later and foolishly allowed myself to be vulnerable. And guess what? POOF...no where to be found! That's not giving me space bro, that's allowing me to sit in discomfort and that is something I am NOT here for. This is my first time cutting it off then straight to block and delete. Regarding other posters praising OP for honori…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 07:43 PM
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i tried to navigate this a few times (and as an operations person i feel the pain lol)....so here's my karma for all the dumb questions i field at work: how do I write out my Reddit URL?? This is my struggle!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 07:34 PM
2

Well, he reached out and took specific responsibility and expressed genuine shame and regret for his behavior. He was able to pinpoint the issue of why he hasn't been able to keep it together in that moment on his own and propose ways he can manage it better. I was clear that part of all of that is TAKING TIME APART. I also took responsibility because I had said something very insensitive and non-QWEEN like prior to the flip being switched, my walls were down and I was overwhelmed and I was basi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 05:32 PM
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Oh gosh of course. There had been no and will not be any cross over of that trust me. I actually made the decision right after I left my ex that no boyfriend would meet her until they meet her father!! And if he can handle that maturely, that gives me insight into how he will manage not having any control over that part of my life. Because anyone in my life needs to understand that my daughter has a great father even if he and I didn't work out, that I wouldn't tolerate anyone trying to parent m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 02:30 PM
1

Fucking PREACH!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 02:20 PM
5

It was interesting to experience it with an entirely new perspective that's for sure!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 01:24 PM
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Yup!!! I'm open to self promoted repair by others for bad behavior, but I will NOT apologize for not mothering his ego or insecurities that morning. Just watching him act like a child and then blatantly expect me to chase him crying please don't leave, his face when he came to the realization that I was not for a second going to do that... Yeah, I feel WOKE AF. It's all the self love I've worked on in practice and it is LIBERATING. I'd rather be alone forever than desk with another man child. #l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:50 PM
3

Haha exactly what I thought
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:43 PM
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🙌 fall BACK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 11:13 AM
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Is a 20 year old HVM even possible?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 11:10 AM
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I equate it with tv. A few hours at night to unwind I think is fine. I believe men often underestimate time so any more than that and I guarantee the trash still hasn't gotten taken out. I don't really care what he does with his down time so long as I'm happy and the shit he's responsible for is taken care of without question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:39 AM
2

This is on point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:19 AM
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Thank you for this. That's a good point of reference for my original question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:18 AM
1

Just about a year... Having known enough addicts I do see him very engaged and dedicated in his sobriety. I'm focused on keeping my cards close the next few months with him for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:14 PM
5

Hi ladies, I'm new here and almost through the handbook. Wow. I feel like I embody a lot of the FDS ideals and live my best Queen life- i literally just left my partner of 7 years (we have a 2 year old) because if the increasing and irrefutable evidence of LVM behavior. While he's a great father, he was a shite partner. Luckily because of how I handled the situation, I was about to leave with my head held high and amicably. But I cut it off the moment it was no longer serving me about 6 weeks ag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 12:54 PM
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