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SHOWER THOUGHTButterfliesHurricane/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 08:55 AM
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I really wish I’d done that! Nordics guys are hotter on average, tall, well built and good looking 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/23 09:06 AM
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No it is absolutely not too much to expect for someone you just met to not touch you! Even less so bulldoze over your intimacy and boundaries! If it’s not someone you have already established consent with, anything else but holding your forearm to stop you tripping or help you out of a car or something like that if not on! You don’t have to verbalise your boundaries (to someone youve just met to not touch you inappropriately!). You can but don’t let anyone make you feel bad if you haven’t. The o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 06:39 AM
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You are not compatible. He wants children, for whatever reasons which are very personal to you, you know you probably won’t have any and it’s not right for him to convince you otherwise after 3 dates! He sounds like a control freak with a control freak mom (if you are considering marriage, be mindful about the MIL from hell…). You don’t sound that much into him either tbh. He comes across as the ‘least worse’ option out there. Where’s the sex tourism coming from? Did he mention it? Why is tellin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 06:23 AM
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That is reaching a whole new level of pathetic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 01:11 PM
6

Short and / or fat 🤣. My first thought too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 07:14 PM
8

I agree, if he were so successful he would give a bit more details….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 06:36 PM
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Probably never interacted with any woman and has no clue 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 06:35 PM
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A chef with a special interest in take-out…. We love an edgy manly man 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 06:33 PM
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Yeah, I was wondering how he could possibly this was a positive and not manipulative…..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 06:28 PM
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Gosh sounds like you dated my ex! Down to the ‘traumatic experience’ detail that they use to guilt trip you into accepting their bad behaviour but more often than not made happen themselves. This guy sounds like a narcissist and you have been amazing at spotting the red flags and strong and brave to move on. The earlier behaviours that you interpreted as HV were love bombing. FDS rules are really helpful to see through those until you get used to spot them automatically. Check out Angie Atkinson…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 10:38 AM
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Is Utah not where polygamy was (is?) practiced…..?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 10:21 AM
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I’m on the fence with this one. I personally don’t want to ‘make him’ pay. If he doesn’t then he is not for me and that’s that. Thank you, good luck, block and delete. He is a buffoon and I have no time for those. It’s also rude because in my case, I never ask a guy out so for him to ask me out and ask me to pay, again no time for people with no manners. I would be annoyed he wasted my time though. If I’m going to pay my share, I’d much rather go out with my friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 08:03 PM
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Mass gaslighting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 06:09 PM
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I am very sorry for your loss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 05:44 PM
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I read somewhere a man commenting that ‘these feminists are confused’ because they wanted equality but want to date men who earn more than them 🙄. First, fighting for women equality of rights (half of the world population!) doesn’t mean that we are part of a cult and all have the preferences, standards, dislikes, etc. I’m sure some HVW don’t mind someone who makes less than them and that’s ok. Secondly, we are so far, so so so far from closing the gender pay gap and even further away from having…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 05:02 PM
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I noticed (just my observation) a lot of short men display strong narcissistic traits. No matter how great a partner they find (often victim of abuse, childhood trauma or also narcissist herself), it will never fully fill the gaping hole their personality is so they will always feel wronged, angered and ultimately deeply inferior and envious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 06:15 PM
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That’s how they make their money. Duping those stupid enough to buy into their coaching, conferences, books and whatever else the produce to sell their recipe to fake dreamland.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 06:10 PM
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He has already argued with her when she refused to go to his house. She states she knows he won’t take no for an answer in the future and will argue if told no. This is advice the police would give OP here. Until she tells him clearly to not contact her again no one will do anything and he will deny pushing her boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 06:47 AM
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There’s a strong concentration on reddit though, present sub excluded!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 04:09 PM
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All the commenters were rooting for their creepy bro!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 04:08 PM
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Oh my goodness! Whatever happens to setting healthy boundaries. Maybe she was dating Fester Adams 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 03:17 PM
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Never mind wedding dress, granddad has the big rusty key to the shed where she will live a happily forever after (no need to ever go out, it’s soundproof and there’s a skylight…)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 02:51 PM
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That’s creepy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 02:34 PM
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Make sure you send him a message before blocking that clearly states, you are done and do not wish to socialise with him anymore. Then screenshot and block. Anything he tries after this is stalking and illegal. Make sure you report it formally to the gym and if needed to the police. Stay safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 09:47 AM
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I can totally see your point. Tbh I really enjoy giving and receiving but both as an act of pleasuring the person you love. The idea of casual sex churns my stomach. Thinking a dick has been heaven knows where, it wouldn’t come anywhere near me for sure, but within a trusted loving relationship with mutual respect, it’s different. I wouldn’t give it first either. My first very long term relationship, I was young and didn’t like the idea of asking. After a couple of years, I mustered the courage …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 07:22 AM
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If a guy ever asked you with those words ‘suck my dick’ its an automatic red flag and you shouldn’t do it. Pushing your head down is sexual assault!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 07:02 AM
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What’s really sad is that he probably believes his own bs 🙈. Angrily swiping while muttering a frustrated: she blocked me because I have a scientific 0.5 and she has 0.3. LifE Is UNfaiR 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 06:44 AM
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Simple in their selfishness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 08:58 PM
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🤯 it doesn’t mean anything, from what I read men swipe on all women to maximise their chances so going by number of swipes has no significance if the majority of men look for sex and women for relationships. The poor dude is comparing the GBP price of an apple with the USD price of 1lb of pear. Someone please tell him to go out and enjoy the fresh air, sunshine and flowers because if he can’t find anyone to date it’s probably because he spends 24/7 producing non sensical gibberish from the depth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 08:51 PM
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Ffs! Sorry to hear this hun, you are strong, you can move on. Hugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 12:46 PM
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Good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 12:07 PM
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They had to petition for divorce for one of the existing grounds: unreasonable behaviour, adultery, 2 years separation with the other party’s consent or 5 years separation. Most would petition on the ground of unreasonable behaviour and they would normally get it but it meant that the other party could dispute it and make legal costs go up and up just to stop their ex getting a divorce. Now after 6 months the divorce is finalised, the ex-spouse can scream and shout all they like, they can no lon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 07:06 PM
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Unbelievably no we didn’t! Massive step forward especially for victims of coercive control and other domestic abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 03:23 PM
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He is bad at communicating with words (I don’t buy the ‘being bad at texting but good face to face’). If they can communicate face to face they can do it in writing when they have more time to formulate their thoughts. At best, he is low effort, at worst he is pushing your boundaries to get you to meet you in person and progress to physical stage. Other red flag of the ‘I’m bad at texting’ to me: I have so many Textionships, I can’t keep up and you are number 10 in the queue, I’ll get to you whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 09:21 AM
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Glad you got out eventually 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 07:13 PM
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Oh gosh, I had that too!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 07:53 PM
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Ex husband, constantly cornering me when I was trying to express how unhappy I was and wanted out. And then for hours brainwashing me that I had absolutely no reason to be unhappy and therefore there was something wrong with me. What did I do until I could leave? I completely shut down, did not share any little bit of emotion (narcissists feed off our emotions) and I put all my energy in preparing my exit, planning carefully and keeping it all to myself, with a little help from my friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 05:41 PM
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What is he on about? 🤯🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 12:27 PM
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You don’t need to buy a pig to get a little sausage… I’m going to log off the internet for today. I m not realistically going to read anything better than this today 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 10:57 AM
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Oh I meant dating apps, where you meet those types of individuals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 07:01 AM
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Ladies, please stay off those apps! It’s a waste of time at best, and at worst…..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 06:18 PM
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Lol that is pretty pathetic 🤣. Either they have very boring to no lives or they really want to become better people and religiously follow us to self improve. I guess either way, it’s free advertising, right? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 05:33 PM
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Now I might have to call my exes to verify your theory or I’ll be wondering forever 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 08:40 AM
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Rapist vibes all around… sad shared experiences 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 05:44 PM
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Definitely not clueless! They know exactly what they are doing! The shrugging is gaslighting, pretending there is wrong something with your reaction to their intrusion. It’s like a ‘cheer up, love’ or a ‘smile!’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 05:41 PM
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🙋🏼‍♀️ You should make a poll!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 05:37 PM
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It’s a cope. That’s so they can have preferences and get angry when the women they want have preferences that exclude them. From what I noticed, there is rarely a self reflection. The onus is always on others (the women) to bend their preferences to include the ones wanting them. It’s a complete self-deceit to say looks don’t matter. Say it matters more or less amongst other preferences or one grows into someone’s looks as they get to find out they have other desirable traits such as kindness, h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 05:30 PM
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In another sub, I saw a man advising another man to not do dinner dates but coffee dates because if you have lots, it gets expensive. So they absolutely know we are not requiring dinner for the monetary value or because we are poor but because we have no time to waste on serial daters. Most of them probably hope to get lucky on the cheap and want to maximise their chances of that happening!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 01:41 PM
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Oh my gosh! They do get moody if you give them helpful advice, don’t they! And then, they moan that women don’t come with a manual (pun intended!) and are not clear communicator 🙄! Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 01:37 PM
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Ha! Exactly and how does he know she’s still in the bar? Because he is still there himself! 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 11:53 AM
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You can still block and delete, a friend of mine set an email address just to communicate with the ex about the kids only. He is clearly peeved that you found yourself a better one. That’s a credit to your levelling up and boundaries enforcing. Really pleased for you by the way (that’s inspirational ;)) and happy belated mother’s day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 06:24 PM
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Boundaries pushing and securing his score by cockblocking competition. Good on you for not falling for it. Those apps are the bottom of the barrel 🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 03:13 PM
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He is repulsive. Me me me and my needs. Gaslighting himself that masturbation equals porn and going to a prostitute is ok. Also hilarious (in the cringest way) that he thinks, she actually moaned out of desire for him 🤦🏼‍♀️🤣. The comments are even worse: don’t dismiss the option of an open relationship… actually I almost agree with that. The dude is such a loser, he can’t sleep with a woman without paying so it’s safe and on the other hand, his poor wife might get decent sex with another guy! I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 07:24 PM
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You are probably right about HR protecting the company, however trust me in this day of social media, someone going to court or sites like glass door even is really not good for the company so please report and hint at that. Record with your phone if you can, any strip cam comment. This is just shocking!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 04:12 PM
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Your comment had me spitting my tea out 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 10:00 AM
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I find your post worrying. Please make sure you stay safe. Report to HR any behaviour outside the line or any stalking to the police. Don’t engage in any personal chats, do your work and go home. Start looking for another job if you can. Good luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 07:08 AM
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You have just summarised my last 2 year relationship to a T…. When things go south, jump off there and then. When people ask us why we date a**holes, well because they don’t come with a label and hide it until we are emotionally invested in them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 02:20 PM
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I know right! It’s like every little bit of acknowledgement by law that a situation is unfair, they find a work around so they can do it anyway!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 08:02 AM
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Domestic abuse is heartbreaking. I hope she finds the strength to leave and eventually finds a decent guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 06:00 AM
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I often think some (most?) of these vile creeps would be secretly quite happy to return to a primate world where men can just help themselves to any woman they see and even ‘consent’ is a fun challenge to overcome. No wonder only cam girls and prostitutes gives them the time of day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 06:03 PM
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You just described eVerY guRL’s dream 🤦🏼‍♀️🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 05:55 PM
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I’ve just checked the gutter and found the bar…..😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 05:54 PM
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It wasn’t OLD and the meeting place had quite a few restaurants so I didn’t click that he hadn’t actually made a plan. Once burnt twice shy, I will get more details in the future
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 05:48 PM
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I think it’s a cultural trend. Can’t answer on the OLD side of things but I met a guy ‘online’ (common hobby which was online due to pandemic). We chatted for a month and he asked me out, seems to be the perfect gentleman. I asked to meet at lunch time because dinner was tricky for me and when asked for preference, I said lunch (thought provoking right?). Gave me the name of a place to meet. Got there all dolled up and visibly in heels (he was 6ft 🤣…). He asks if I fancy a stroll 😵‍💫. I reply I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 07:20 AM
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The most worrying is that because of her real medical professional will be harassed or even assaulted at work when trying to save lives. Has to be a prostitute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 07:08 AM
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You did really well, we all have wobbles. In the future, don’t sleep with a guy who is not investing in you outside the bedroom and that means anything to get to know you, text you, talk to you. If he is not actually seeking you / your time, he is likely to be after sex only. I have a 48hrs texting privilege rule. I don’t tell them, I simply block. Work on yourself and shine in the meantime, more interesting people will want to know you :)!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 10:32 PM
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I completely get the missing intimacy bit but do you get it with a hook up / casual sex? What you are describing is missing the relationship side of it rather than the act of sex? I agree with everything else you say too about risks etc. When I think about what it takes to achieve good sex (i.e genuinely enjoyable for a woman), I really don’t see it happening (for me at least!) with someone who doesn’t care enough about me to commit!! Great sex is about being in tune, emotional intimacy, communi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 11:41 AM
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I was very confused about the initial laughter. But then the camera moved onto Chris Rock so couldn’t tell whether Jada to him she got offended but until then he found the joke funny or if he genuinely didn’t get the joke at first. It went very fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 09:24 AM
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Absolutely no from me. LV red flag 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 09:21 AM
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Lying on perceived less desirable traits instead of owning them (e.g. portraying themselves as taller than they are), being jealous about other men (saying things like ‘men who make a decent living will treat you bad’), projecting their insecurities on women (women are stupid and go for attractive guys instead of giving nice guys like me a chance), being passive aggressive or downright aggressive, etc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 05:12 PM
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I agree, they will project and won’t respect you. They think they are unlovable so only someone equally unlovable would want them and they would subsequently try to ‘upgrade’ any chance they get and despise you in the meantime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 05:06 PM
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And tiny ones…. Even tiny broke ones 🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 04:21 PM
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Of course, women have to be reasonable and settle for short guys 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 03:36 PM
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He even recognises it in the comments saying he has no self-esteem. What a pathetic low-life! Yes, we should absolutely save our emotions for a man (adult emotionally and mentally fully functioning male) who is worth it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 02:57 PM
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Brilliant 🤣! You should have flaired it Queen Shit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 02:42 PM
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Men are ViZUal 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 07:02 PM
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The whole thing sickens me. There is no moral, physiological or logical reason to view sex as a right by anyone in any circumstance EVER. Physiologically, you cannot die of lack of sex (I’d have a 20st male bouncer offer these guys a bit of flesh light action at a push). Logically, recognising this as a right means that if no woman is willing, one must be forced then? What about her right? What about disabled women? What about gay disable men? 🤯 To me, the worst bit is the guy receiving £23 a we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 02:15 PM
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It wouldn’t be pushed on men because they have millennia of patriarchal privilege. It’s pushed on women when they attempt to exit their box. Tut tut tut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 11:41 AM
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That statement: ‘men are visual’ has always triggered me. It is socially well accepted that there is a rule for men and one for women. It is socially acceptable for men to sleep around and it is socially expecting for women to be object (OBJECT!) of desire. They then work backwards (wow the mental gymnastic 🙄) to link it to scientific evidence. Bingo men are visual 🤦🏼‍♀️. There you go, now it’s ok to cheat and watch porn all day 🙄.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 08:16 AM
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Obviously one rule for them (it’s ok to fry your brain on porn, cam girl, buy sex in other forms), but not ok for women. Women are held to moral judgment while men have needs…. poor them 🙄.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 06:39 PM
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Sounds like Dean is a loser too. The last sentence reads to me: I was worried at first but then accepted that we were equals even though I was making so much more. Maybe I’m reading this wrong? She is unable to articulate her needs and wants which is the case for most women (I honestly could have written her story 🙈). The first guy lost his job and got depressed…. Well what did it do about it? She turned from being his wife to being his mother, obviously she wasn’t fulfilled. Having a career and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 10:16 AM
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misogynistic extremism 🤯. Is there such a thing as ‘acceptable moderate misogyny’?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 07:36 PM
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I can’t think of anything worse than being on a date with a guy seeing me as ‘a random woman’. Your perspective is definitely the one you need to eliminate users, serial daters and meh-I’m-too-lazy-for-my-shirt time wasters! Also, don’t chase guys, therefore if HE asks you out and expects YOU to pay part or all then he not only is low effort but downright rude too. You want someone asking you on a date because they already value you and want to know more not someone who sees you as ‘any random w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 06:40 PM
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I agree! These guys never get any attention so negative attention to them is better than zero attention. Ignoring them feels even worse to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 10:20 PM
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Agreed! And that’s why OLD doesn’t work for long term. Work or professional field, friends group or hobbies are much better options, you already weed out the ones with no real career etc snd as for height, you see them beforehand if thats a requirement as apparently they lie on dating apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 09:53 PM
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Sex sells….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 11:38 AM
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Sadly all this advice is accurate. Why? Because men have always had it, that’s only recently that the rise of women’s rights started to slightly (SLIGHTLY!!) tilt the balance of power back a little so men are depressed 🙄. It’s hard, they are confused, not happy about losing their privilege. So absolutely, the best way to make them happy is to restore their privilege and accept (ACCEPT) to go back down to where we cater for their every need. As long as there will be pickmes sadly, these views wil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 09:13 AM
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Before clicking play, you see the scruffiness…. Tells you all you need to know!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 09:01 AM
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It’s a recurring pattern sadly. Part of the minimising tool box… ‘I didn’t cause her any harm, I was just looking. What’s wrong with that’. Then you get all the variations from that: ‘she is dressing to be looked at so we, men are not doing anything wrong, we are JUST looking’. We are visual (possibly the worst pile of b.s. I have ever heard).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 08:59 AM
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You have just described my ex. He hid his political views and values in general for so long that when it first came out, I genuinely thought he was joking and impersonating an LVM. The first time I think it was when we were watching TV and there was a piece on the gender pay gap. He suddenly let slip: if you (women) want to be paid like men, shift boxes yourself and don’t ask for help. I think that was the moment when the covert narc’s mask slipped and a lot of things came out. Political views c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 09:58 AM
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And these are adults right? I can’t imagine being on a date and the guy start talking about his toys 🙈🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 07:59 AM
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https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/976731/The_Relationship_between_Pornography_use_and_Harmful_Sexual__Behaviours_v1.pdf For anyone interested. This study was commissioned by the UK government and published 2 years ago. Due to ethical reasons, experimental research in that field is of course is almost impossible. This research is evidence based through interviews with front line workers in the field.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 07:45 AM
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I hear you! Part of me thinks: good on her! but most of me wishes she didn’t have to share a bed with those slimy potatoes! 🐛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 01:28 PM
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There would be an outcry of rage if genders were reverse!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 08:09 PM
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I have not seen that yet but that’s absolutely disgusting. I noticed a lot of LVMs turn to ‘foreign women’ for the sole purpose of using the power dynamic in their favour and not because they happen to fall in love with a woman who happens to be from another country. They ‘purchase’ a bride from countries where socio economic conditions are horrendous to women (because yes let’s be honest in those countries where socio economic conditions are bad for all, the human impact on women and girls is a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 09:45 AM
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Exactly this! He temporarily deviated the conveyor belt of women he is dating to THE cabin to tick the trip away box. Some have suggested he might own the cabin, maybe but then he would go more often and take OP somewhere else for actual ‘trip away’. You deserve better OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 12:13 PM
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You are stronger than you think. Good on you for making space for someone who deserves you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 09:23 PM
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Getting bad vibes off your current bf. This is not normal and yes it is absolutely a demonstration of power. An HVM will give credit where credit is due because he doesn’t have such crippling insecurities that he needs to dominate you somehow. If your relationship doesn’t bring you love, security and mutual collaboration, you need to evaluate before if escalates. Stay safe x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 07:18 PM
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That’s why we block!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 03:48 PM
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He is violent and outing himself He knows ‘women are emotional’ 🙄 so preying on potential victims by playing the ‘Poor Me I’M So Upset’ card (cheez, capitalisation is hard work 🤣) All me-centred! She is mean to me, she did this and said that to ME… I didn’t get MY way, my fee-fee are hurt. Doesn’t give a shit about his daughter, in fact it’s the very last thing he mentions and just sounds like bruised ego because he didn’t succeed in using her daughter to get back at her. I wholeheartedly hope t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 08:56 AM
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Oof this is so messed up! No moral judgement BUT no casual sex is in our interest. He has not supported her emotionally because he didn’t have to. It’s sad but it’s the bottom line. If we don’t vet to ensure the guy is serious and committed, if we just hand it over straight away, this is what will happen. He will take it and then move on AND feel he is doing nothing wrong. What about women’s sexual freedom? Well, in a fully equal world, maybe (casual is not my jam but hey!) but we are far from t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 11:38 AM
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Yes that’s so true. Someone mentioned in the comments that statistically a lot of relationships form at work. It’s harder to lie to someone you see everyday, that other colleagues know etc. Obviously, it still can happen and there are pathologic liars everywhere but if you join a workplace, it’s more likely to be known within the team who is single etc. You know what job they do and what they actually look like. Same with meeting through groups of friends or hobbies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 03:28 PM
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That’s why it’s best to stay off these apps. They are a waste of time. Most men lie on their job, height, marital status etc. At best you would waste your precious time providing your image and data to increase the apps’ catalogue, at worst you will be catfished / scammed or used for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 01:31 PM
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Even a dildo would be an upgrade from that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 01:53 PM
29

Oooh it did work indeed! Jealous now, it looks delish!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 08:15 PM
31

‘’He says I’m an amazing wife and deserve someone better’’ When someone tells you who they are, trust them. No need to communicate the previously communicated communication. Time to move one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 08:12 PM
30

Can’t see the cake! Enjoy though and Happy V-Day to you 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 08:06 PM
32

I found this sub through another forum for mums, it was recommended by several ladies there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 11:11 AM
44

Please tell me he did not describe himself as ‘charming’ 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 08:58 PM
94

Sounds familiar!! Though luckily I had the wake up call before sleeping with the jerk! He had planned a ‘romantic’ weekend away and by that time, I had serious suspicions so I insisted to go to HIS house instead…. Oh the string of pathetic excuses 🙄🤦🏼‍♀️. He didn’t realise that was me giving him one last chance to come clean and part as friends. I did some digging into the house and found what the young lady in the OP found. The wife owned a business so her details were out there. I screenshot a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 10:27 AM
15

Good on her! ❤️👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 10:08 AM
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I think she waited to introduce the boyfriend to her son, but the boyfriend knew she had a son, just never met him. I have a six months minimum rule which has the added advantage to repel the hobosexuals. Double wammy!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 06:19 PM
30

You made my day 🤣. Pathetic 🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 08:53 PM
43

Global Head of the Chilli
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 08:47 PM
170

He sounds old and disgusting too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 08:45 PM
104

He has some unique ideas to stand out 🙄. This guy sounds so sickening 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 07:03 PM
106

Just that word irritated me more than anything 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 09:28 AM
48

What? His amazingly charming personality doesn’t work? I’m baffled 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 09:27 AM
102

If you get that question from a date, it’s worrying 😳. I would answer: why, you’re not?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 07:47 PM
37

It doesn’t sound good hun, especially the last bit about kicking you out of the car. The fact he is friends with an abuser is also not great. The advice would be not to share your trauma with new dates because that would make you a magnet for abusers so I would assume you didn’t tell new guy why the 4 years situationship was traumatic but regardless, your last comment about him kicking you out is worrying. It’s not your fault, you are still finding your marks and healing is not a linear process.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 05:26 PM
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Just had a mental picture of the guy making millions of origami swans whilst sitting on the toilet 🙄🤦🏼‍♀️. Sad as it is, your theory is probably spot on. Bowel issues wouldn’t appear out of nowhere snd if they did, it would be very worrying and you would seek prompt medical advice….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 01:37 PM
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Oof! The gaslighting and stonewalling, I would say, she needs out asap. No explaination, cOMmunICation required. What were the comments telling her? This lady is financially supporting him, doing the cleaning and cooking and is raising his child half time while he is off? She would be A LOT better off on her own with her baby, though she is probably stuck now. I wouldn’t sleep at night knowing such a waste of space has my son 50% of the time and doesn’t give him care and a healthy routine. Also …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 12:25 PM
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Makes so angry when this happens to young ladies, probably because I wish I had known then what I know now. We have a responsibility to look out for the younger ones of us. Well done! When you wrote: ‘I just wanted to make you smile and love you like no one else’, I had a vision of cheap movie where the psychopath killer says those words to the victim he just murdered. So cringe 😱! Side note: always self-centred on men’s needs and wants. I STRUGGLE with my weight (never: I’m a lying manipulative…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 09:16 PM
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And it’s him telling his version of the story… It probably was a lot worse and not the fist time… lack of self awareness is a very narcissistic trait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 03:37 PM
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Good on her! So she told him, his brother told him, his mum told him and he still to come ask the internet if he was an asshole… there’s no hope is there 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 09:31 AM
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Gad to google thrifting…. First date in a charity shop is the new low 🙈. Why bother at all? I wonder if they warn them before… if a guy was telling me we were doing that, I’d just say ‘I’m not’🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 08:22 AM
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I’d be careful if I were you. A lot of guys will use that as free sex events….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 08:29 PM
63

A ring to promise you that maybe one day I might ask you to get engaged to me in which hypothetical scenario, I might subsequently (maybe though only maybe) actually marry you 🙄🤡. Tell me you are a commitmentphobe without telling me you are a commitmentphobe 🤦🏼‍♀️.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:40 PM
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Yes I can see how they would keep your data in their back drawer but I don’t think it would be visible to other users. I wondered if they kept pics users delete for profiling purposes. These OLD apps are really nog good :(.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 05:07 PM
42

Sigh, it’s so sad if you think about it 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 02:30 PM
76

In this day and age of data protection laws, I doubt any app wouldn’t allow you to delete your account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 02:27 PM
204

Eww he sounds vile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 02:25 PM
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The problem is he will still have access to the baby even if unmarried and if he is violent, she won’t rest anytime he has the child in his care. A lot of women stay with NVM for fear they get shared custody or right to have the child at the weekend and the worry is unbearable because you’re not there to make sure the child is cared for properly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 11:40 AM
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It’s just ego. She clearly dumped him and didnt seek him when she came back to town, in fact she is marrying someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:19 PM
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At the beginning of your post, I thought you were talking about guys having a middle life crisis but then realised we are talking about early-mid 20s guys… By bragging about being reckless, they are telling you they are unreliable, irresponsible and likely don’t take commitment seriously. If you proceed towards a relationship with them (I suspect they want someone fUn, wHo WanTs tO eNJoy LiFe - YOLO!), they’ll probably disappear on you when they had their fun and tell you: you knew I was a free …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 08:44 AM
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The level of creepiness is sickening and boils down to the belief that sex is a basic right and everything is angled from a man’s perspective. ‘Why do you care? It doesn’t hurt you and I need it so why shouldn’t I?’ is how they justify it. To navigate the modern pseudo equality, they invented a suite of self justifying concepts forced on women, like for example: you don’t want discrimination? Well don’t discriminate my kinks or don’t police my fantasies. Until we see genuine (GENUINE) respect fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 01:06 PM
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This!!! Women’s empowerment through sex is an illusion. Our society is not ready for this, we are still in patriarchy and giving out free sex plays right into the patriarchy. Maybe one day, if the society becomes truly equalitarian and fair… maybe. Right now the hook up culture doesn’t benefit women in any way because we are not in a level playing field!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 09:11 PM
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OLD is men’s tool to free hookups. No idea why any woman looking for a relationship would play into that. It’s fading anyway apparently, there is an overwhelming women to men ratio.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 09:05 PM
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Exactly! Where do you stop? Selling your organs? Selling your babies?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 12:05 PM
61

I like what you did there. You just broaden their horizons , hopefully they are open minded enough to follow this wonderful advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 12:02 PM
78

Typical pretending to be on women’s side to get in their panties 🙄. The nice guy….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 11:58 AM
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Any human considering it’s ok to use another human’s body and intimacy as the object of a transaction clearly sees them as just that… an object. She, herself explains it very well: any man who needs sex because x, y, z… she defines her whole post from the point of view of the man’s needs. She also recognises that it’s ok to view sex workers (by implying all sex workers enthusiastically perform the job - not even mentioning abuse and trafficking…) as objects but also all women (see how she dehuma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 08:52 AM
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You forgot: I don’t look my age 🙄. Every single old creep pestering younger women is deluded that they don’t look their age when they really all do 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 07:36 AM
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Some deleted comments have over 150 upvotes. They probably were along the line of : maybe if they hadn’t been such a dick, they wouldn’t have been exited out of the relationship…..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 10:31 PM
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Sadly they rarely leave without securing the alternative first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 10:27 PM
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Oh my word! Why even marry the wife one?! Her family’s money, I guess?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:40 PM
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That sounds awful. I’m glad you didn’t up stuck in marriage / children with one of the bullies you describe. I wish the best finding a decent man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:35 PM
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I threw up at the last page…. Thank you for sharing, this is needed. The empowerMENt gaslighting b.s has to stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:21 PM
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Oh I wasn’t disagreeing with you at all! I have noticed on forums and such that views seem very harsh on single mothers in the US. My comment was more towards the UK folks, if anyone else has experienced this too as I haven’t seen too much of it personally. I agree with you though, the double standard is mind blowing and rooted in misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 01:59 PM
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I was very confused at the beginning of your post… how can they be single and a dad and not a single dad! I don’t know if there is a cultural / geographical element (feel free to disagree :)!) but I haven’t really felt that where I am. Most men I interact with seem to be proud to be dads and to contribute financially. Also never had negative comments for having children myself. I would be a bit nervous about childfree men (more because I’d be worried about lifestyle incompatibility than anything…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 01:16 PM
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Great post and it’s exactly that, a pyramid scheme/scam. Except if you sell plastic boxes for peanuts when you were 20 as opposed to distributing your nudes all over the internet, that won’t ruin all future career prospects (and potential serious relationships too).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 08:44 PM
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Because by NICE, they mean nice enough to get with them. They will play on the emotional cord and only a NiCe gIrL would be kind enough to have them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 07:25 PM
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What did I just read 😳🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 09:28 AM
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She could have stopped the story at ‘fuck buddy’…..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 10:09 PM
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‘I liked you until you called the cops’ 😳. Clearly if she called the cops on you, the feeling wasn’t mutual, mate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 07:18 PM
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Probably and it’s sad for them too but the outcome is that they benefit from it and probably don’t feel any need to change. If nobody was to marry them because of their antiquated views, their views would have to evolve., like every dent in the patriarchy…..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 10:13 PM
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Maybe the way to break the circle is to not restrict the dating choices to just one culture? That would be for any culture though imo. Of course if you live in a place where that particular culture is predominant then again your options would be more limited.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 09:29 PM
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Yes thats another one. The aggression is there, they try to contain it but sooner or later they slip
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 04:22 PM
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Oh yes absolutely, thank you ❤️. It wasn’t that horrible but there were definitely anger management issues. Left him over a year ago and been healing since.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 02:24 PM
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The punching walls is a less obvious sign but it’s a definite red flag. Don’t ask me how I know…..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 02:12 PM
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This is actually hilarious!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 07:07 PM
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Thanks for Monday giggle 🤣!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 10:31 AM
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I think it’s not as obvious now as it used to be but it’s still there and it will take several generations to have fairness and equality at a societal level. For example, there are laws in place now but a law is only as good as its enforcement, rape is illegal but is the law against rape, police forces and judicial system fully protecting against it and adequately punishing it? Also misogyny is not yet up there with other types of discriminations. Then you have society as a whole…. More insidiou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 09:17 AM
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Happy birthday for next week :)x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 08:02 PM
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Love your post! You said suffragettes were ridiculed by men at the time…. They weren’t just ridiculed, they were also bullied, beaten and raped by men, including police forces because they were fighting for equality. We should never forget the sacrifices they made for us all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 04:47 PM
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Yes they know but I appreciate those who are honest about it and don’t engage in the collective gaslighting. HV trait right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 08:21 AM
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Classic: ‘she rejected me, she must be gay!’ 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 09:38 PM
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My money is on this ‘polyamorous’ love story being glamorised cheating and her hoping boyfriend leaves his wife for her. Can you imagine him getting both women pregnant and the wife tightening the leash, I bet that would be two very happy families 🙄.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 04:59 PM
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I love your thinking!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 04:54 PM
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Yep now physical and financial domination is less easy than it used to, let’s go for emotional coercion to keep the patriarchy going…..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 04:53 PM
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I’d be heartbroken to realise my daughter thinks so little of herself that she accepts to be a leftover. Really goes to show how having children with a cheating LVM affects your daughters to the point they internalise this pattern as normal and acceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 04:46 PM
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I find it funny that when you reach that point, that’s exactly when you start attracting people without meaning to. Happiness and confidence are the most attractive traits!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 09:24 AM
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Your comment (and username!) made my day 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 09:22 AM
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And we are lucky as English speakers we can use ‘they’ as neutral singular pronoun. It’s also more and more common in newspapers, schoolbooks etc to use ‘she’ in hypothetical scenarios rather to always default to ‘he’ but it’s far from being the case everywhere. In most European languages, there is no real neutral form and never ‘she’ by default. Millenia of patriarchal culture will take a long time to change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 12:58 PM
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You need to find somewhere else to stay. This guy sounds unhinged and it doesn’t feel safe. Is it just you and him living there? The short answer to your question is yes some do genuinely, most however will use the word ‘friend’, ‘friendly’ or similar as a way into your bed. This is linked to high value or lack thereof. I have a good male friend who is married, he has never been flirty with me, I actually never saw him flirty with any woman, I have never ever heard him crack a sexist joke, criti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 09:32 AM
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I’m in between two minds about videocalls with someone you have never met before. This is definitely a great example on how you saved yourself from a waste of date (20 minutes vs. getting dolled up, travel time to the date location and back) and the risk. Well done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 05:22 PM
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I agree with all the comments here. I would add that it’s terrifying to think people are pushing the discrimination agenda to effectively force / guilt trip someone into dating them. That’s why we should never give a reason for rejecting someone. A simple ‘no chemistry, good luck’ and block is more than enough. Because the governing principle of dating / intimate / sexual relationships is consent. We shouldn’t allow people to comment / judge / rate our reasons for rejecting them or not consentin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 08:25 PM
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That’s a really good point. If he can never do weekends / always sets something up last minute, chances are, he is in a relationship and / or sees other people and you live on his back burner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 07:39 PM
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If he sends 2 separate texts to tell you 2 separate things, it could be innocent but in the case you mentioned (chasing you up for a perceived lack of reply), he sounds either controlling or clingy. If it’s early days of you texting, I’d probably end it there and move on if I were you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 02:36 PM
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I agree, it’s important to find someone who respects your time and your schedule in early interactions (part of the honeymoon period) should really not make you feel frustrated that going on a date is an inconvenience. I’m with you on a no date during the week (work, childcare etc, it’s too busy, as you say it can change when the other person is part of your life). I actually quite like the idea of a pub lunch on a Sunday, I think it can be nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 02:32 PM
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She’s probably told him it was good to get out of there safely and asap. That’s also probably because the sex was bad that she blocked him and left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 10:46 PM
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All he wanted was a little bit of DEceNcY! At least he spelt that word right….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 10:39 PM
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It’s got to be fake, surely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 10:33 PM
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I left my NVX just over a year ago. FDS helped me a lot through my journey, realising being in a bad relationship wasn’t my fault but it was my responsibility to find a good one. I have been single since and in and out of lockdown due to covid so I haven’t met many new people but I have been on a couple of dates recently. I can see that I am a lot more able to set boundaries and recognise incompatibility early on. I find it a lot easier to walk away at the first red flags. That’s my success stor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 11:05 AM
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Thank you for sharing! Very inspiring, good luck 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 10:57 AM
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Yep and have him find his wordly possessions neatly packed in bin bags outside the door (it should rain a fair bit in 3 months….). Oh and change the locks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 10:06 PM
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There really is no way to regulate how many women a guy casually sleeps with in the wild either. Some guys live double lives with separate families. They can even circulate STDs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 12:36 AM
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I read an article a few days ago (will link it below). It’s an interesting take linking the trend you are describing to a crisis in identity in men. They don’t know what being masculine is so they interpret it as domination and seek emotional instability (younger > less stable > easier to manipulate). So basically, they want girls because they are boys. https://www.theguardian.com/world/2018/aug/18/mens-fixation-on-young-women-is-another-sign-of-masculinity-in-crisis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 08:28 AM
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Then will proceed to go on reddit to post that you dumped him because he is short and you are so shallow despite him doing 50% of the household chores….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 08:18 AM
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Just reading the word hurts. I wonder if they do saggy balls surgery for ageing men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 08:14 AM
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I know someone who has done it. A family member moved in with her and they raised the child together. I would recommend to check forums online to find women who have done it and share similar experiences because you will receive all sort of ‘advice’ from all sorts of sources which will not always be neutral / in your and your baby’s best interest. Maybe try counselling too (if you have doubts and feel you need an external judgement free ear to help you sort your thoughts on whether you are ready…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 07:20 PM
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That’s what bugs me. Irrespective of who he is and what he has done, which are both great, and of his looks, which frankly I have no opinion on whatsoever (unless it’s a potential date which I would need to find attractive, I couldn’t care less about other people’s looks), what’s up with the unsolicited advice / threat? Unless a woman specifically comes to him and asks: why can’t I find a man? Why the patronising attitude of thinking it’s ok to tell women they need to lower their standards and t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 05:24 PM
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He doesn’t sound like he cares. He just wants sex 🙄.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 07:25 AM
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Yes his story is completely fishy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 07:23 AM
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She is turned off and repulsed by him. It doesn’t mean she wouldn’t enjoy sex with a decent man. And yes it is out of duty because she is trapped. I suspect her friend telling her she is nuts if that’s even true, did so along the lines of: do you want to end up on welfare with 2/3 kids in a dingy flat/house if you divorce him - rather than: oh he is amazing, are you nuts for wanting out? She doesn’t work, hasn’t got a career. I’m not sure she has that many options in terms of finding a guy who g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 12:50 AM
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Did I also read right that when he tried talking to her about it, he sat her down at the dining table, she started yelling and stormed out of the bedroom? So is the dining table in the bedroom? He has probably reinvented most of the story to make himself look like the perfect husband, dropping he has 2 jobs and her friend likes him but slipped a bit here and there. She sounds repulsed by him rather than by sex but can’t escape because she has no income as she doesn’t work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 12:38 AM
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Not advice as such from me, just wanted to say I’m in a similar situation. Met someone through a hobby (online because of pandemic) and asked me out but struggling to set a date because of covid uncertainty (it’s more me being reluctant / concerned). He is very understanding and shows continuous interest but not at all pushy so maybe in your situation I would look at similar markers? Is he expressing the same level of interest? Is he understanding? To me, the fact he is covid-responsible is a go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 09:26 AM
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Ffs that behaviour is really threatening on top of misogynistic and racist. Sorry you went through this and glad you’re unharmed. Have you tried big (visible) earphones. Sometimes they think you can’t hear and they give up unless they are close enough to tap you on the shoulder. Have a lovely New Years Eve x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 08:17 PM
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Thank you! Happy New Year to you too 🤗x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 01:33 PM
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BDSM (this gender way around) is the legal and now socially accepted narcissistic abuse perpetrated on vulnerable victims using their past trauma as a way to manipulate their consent. Of course he will not reveal himself after just 5 months. The Commentor is gives it away: it’s ok to have a kink of violence as long as he loves you more than his kink. It really doesn’t matter that he doesn’t love you enough to stop watching it in porn or stop porn altogether or not yell at you (transition has alr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 11:42 AM
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Even when men worry about women’s pleasure, it’s always from their (men) perspective because they think they are the sole source of the woman’s pleasure (meanwhile she’s probably mentally visualising some Hollywood hunk to get there but never mind 🙄).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 10:13 AM
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Alexa disco party in my living room with my wee ones :)! Chilled bottle of Champagne (for me!) and blinis… hoping they make it to the fireworks! Happy New Year to you x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 10:03 AM
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Me me me mummy, I was here first so I deserve all your attention…!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 10:14 PM
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Wholeheartedly agree with this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 08:07 PM
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Powerless keyboard warriors
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 07:26 PM
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You said it all, the fact they are triggers shows it works and no redditors aren’t dating material. They are not representative of all the men in real life. S lot are like that, granted, but quite s lot actually agree with FDS values. There are HVMs out there, not in here :).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 07:25 PM
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This young lady is an inspiration. She’s got it nailed down to a tee!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 03:11 PM
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I don’t think the situation is complicated at all. He has been triangulating you with his girlfriend. He has been wanting to see if the grass was greener and made sure he had an option on the back burner before dumping her. The fact he has entertained any such feelings talk with you BEFORE he split up with her (left her, divided assets and moved on emotionally - not just tell her ‘oh I think we’re over so I’ll go to my friend’s to figure it out) means he displayed LV behaviour by dragging you in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 09:33 AM
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To me, you sound like an amazing mum! Don’t guilt yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 08:20 AM
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In my mind, there is a massive difference between wanting a guy who does well financially while you also stand on your own two feet and being a gold digger. I personally want a man who does well financially but he will never own me. If the relationship ends I will still stand on my own two feet. When a woman chooses a man only for his wallet and doesn’t develop herself financially and her career independently, they have that man as their sole source of income, that’s when they play in the narrat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 05:25 PM
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A lot of them are…. Physical coercion is harder (debatable, granted but there has been improvement in domestic violence support), financial coercion is also considerably harder now with the rise in women’s education and good career. They only have emotional coercion left. They are clutching at straws…..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 12:59 PM
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The problem with those apps is not the idiots who tell on themselves right away. Those apps are breeding ground for narcs and other pick up artists who will know how to manipulate the system to maximise the number of plates they spin. Why would you even give them that opportunity? Between those, the clueless, the lazy and the one who enjoys shopping around the candy shop even after wanting to go exclusive. It all sounds exhausting for little reward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 09:59 PM
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Completely agree. It’s a basic. It’s the defensive and manipulative approach that is highly disturbing, a bit like ‘age is just a number’. The only men who ever told me that were 20 years older than me and looked very confused when asked if they would date a woman 20 years older. Negging and shaming you right of the bat so you allow them to take advantage of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 09:07 PM
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That’s called dating odd optimisation 🤣. Appeal to as wide an audience as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:21 PM
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You forgot ‘it’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:18 PM
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I read somewhere most men lie on their height on dating profiles so he is probably 5’6….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:18 PM
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I’m glad I’m not the only one who got annoyed by this 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:15 PM
117

Oh good post! For me it was patronisingly being told - unprompted - ‘money is not everything’ (I think it was on the first date and the question was: what do you do?). Then proceeded to ask me if I owned my house and then on another date, how tough the renting market was these days 🙄🤦🏼‍♀️. So ‘money is not everything’ is definitely a cope for lack of ambition, career prospects and self sufficiency. Definite red flag for me now! Btw, I agree money is not everything but I am self-sufficient so it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 02:37 PM
1

Amazing! I hope you’ve been enjoying some delicious coffee! The original post really struck a chord as I got one of the Christmas presents I got my ex was a PS and I didn’t even get a book lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:36 PM
15

Another really good drawing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 12:03 AM
75

Oh gosh! I can relate so much to your comment! I reckon most starfishes have just given up for that very reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 11:52 PM
44

I loved the original series. Those were the days!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 09:17 PM
24

Only if you make him laugh though. He is looking for a performing seal 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 09:02 PM
56

Amen! I have absolutely no idea why this is not discussed snd researched more. Only now the medical community seems to be getting an interest in that topic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:49 PM
533

Lol I’d confidentially say that a lot of men are shit in bed and would not accept helpful guidance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:37 PM
24

I am screeching in unison with you at the memories 🤣. Why just why do they do that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 06:46 PM
47

Especially when you have spelt out what you actually wanted 🤦🏼‍♀️! Good for you on the skincare and spa!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 06:24 PM
359

Been there, got the T-shirt…. This year, I got myself some nice expensive presents! Amazing Christmas!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 05:03 PM
84

All mothers should put their own name on their kids. Single or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 10:33 PM
43

This!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 09:14 PM
31

Agreed, we are too conditioned to save their fee-fees. Not that I’m advocating to be purposely nasty but men don’t take velvet gloves when pointing out women’s perceived physical shortcomings. Heaven forbid we dare say we like tall, handsome, well endowed men 🙄. Most of us, even if doing it feel the need to apologetically justify it. Now what’s really sad is why those gorgeous women go along with that poly bull crap for the benefit of their LVMs….? Probably because the scrote negged her and gasl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 06:21 PM
34

If you have any male colleagues, maybe you can all swap names for a day? No point in that if only for a giggle at the scrote trying to flirt with Kevin 🤣. That happened a lot unfortunately when I used to work in customer service. That’s disturbing and very intrusive. We are not flirting back to stroke your ego but because we are doing our job and conversations are recorded so we can’t tell you what we really think of your behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 09:51 AM
26

I pretty much put my social life on hold, only meeting friends (1 or 2 at the time) locally or at each other’s house. Last date was a couple of weeks ago and actually I wasn’t nervous about the date himself as I knew him through friends and I knew he was very responsible. He even offered to test just before but the whole going out in crowded places really didn’t feel great. Better be safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 09:35 AM
80

Toys are better than some men and they don’t snore 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 09:32 PM
45

The whole thing his vile but his pervy face somehow makes it even worse if that’s possible 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 06:03 PM
17

For a man to place value in a woman’s virginity is the ultimate form of objectification. Women are just goods classified as used, second-hands, having had few/many owners. Nothing more than property, you want them new and not preowned, some want them decently covered so no other men can look at your goods…. In addition, it’s an interesting way of getting around natural selection. How will a woman know he is shit in bed and/or has a tiny appendage if she doesn’t know better? If we shame women eno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 12:09 PM
110

It varies from one person to the other I think but saying it doesn’t matter at all is definitely for crowd pleasing. I don’t think anyone could physically enjoy having sex with a tampax if they are honest. Historically, women are conditioned to not expect pleasure and heaven forbid not talk about it. In some cultures, it is still very much present today with FGM. It’s still taboo for most women to admit they like a certain size whatever the size. We need to get better at voicing the fact that ot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 11:03 PM
6

Did you get a third one after your Edit? 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 04:56 PM
9

Wow that’s the cult that needs banning. They don’t deserve to be raped into submission as they would likely enjoy it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 04:51 PM
16

No and there is not such a thing as not understanding it, unless severe developmental impairment. What are the terms? Denial? Weaponised ignorance?…. I would strongly suspect those are the most misogynistic of all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 02:20 PM
6

🤣🤣🤣 for his brother. Pathetic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 02:18 PM
12

The fact they comment (negative or positive) on looks on a post about a pet tells you all you need to know. What has it got to do with anything and who gives a hoot about their opinion? Your cockatiel is a cutie by the way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 10:42 PM
6

The ‘thank god I’m married’ is so cringe. Why obsessing about a sub called female dating strategy and NSW material? Hopefully his wife will find us soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 10:37 PM
30

That post is soul destroying. She needs to leave the abusive self centred idiot in her and her son’s interest. If she rang social services, they would probably advise her to kick him out before he does anymore damage to her mental health and the baby’s health too. Breastfeeding is hard enough as it is, not that he would have any clue about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 06:18 PM
49

Absolutely seek legal advice and try to find and put to safety any evidence of what she spent to support him (bank transfer of rent paid by her etc). What won’t help her is the fact they sound young from the OP I assume they haven’t been married long, have no kids or assets and he probably isn’t earning that much yet so she needs evidence of how much more she put in. Good luck to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 09:42 AM
42

Yes! It’s only when you reach the point of realising you don’t need it that you have cleared the space for something less toxic. If you are genuinely happy and content on your own, you will only allow in your life someone / a relationship that enhances it instead of making a decision based on fear of being alone and needing. Have you noticed the first thing LVM will neg you with is ‘if you don’t lower the bar, you’ll end up on your own or you won’t get any dates’. Their criteria is quantity and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 03:53 PM
5

Im glad mine got it 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 08:51 PM
21

Really cool drawing! I can see myself with the 🤏 sign! 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 01:14 PM
26

🤣🤣🤣 Mine has that too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 01:13 PM
83

I did too. Never realised he was a failure. Fresh out of school, it was normal to me (and peers my age) to not have much. 10 years later I had started to build a career, put deposit down for a house etc…. He was still a failure. It’s important to date, enter LTRs and / or marry people in the same stage of life, and age is part of it. If they are 10/15 years older, why were they never married before? If they were married before then it’s best for them to find someone in the same situation (with s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 06:23 PM
154

Those stories chill my blood. Signs of abusers…..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 01:15 PM
23

For what it’s worth I think your kids have an amazing strong role model in you. I’m sorry for all the ordeal you’ve been through. You’ve got this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 09:41 PM
4

Thank you for the insight and best of luck with your date 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 08:09 PM
27

I agree it seems like a playing field for free hookups. Out of curiosity, did you manage to find a few genuine / interesting people on there?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 03:28 PM
132

That’s a really good post! To me it shows yet again that all the dating advice is geared towards men. Basically show yourself as warm and non threatening (i.e sweet and submissive) to appeal to more men. Only, men do that… trying to get as many as they can because most want increased chances of getting laid. Women in search of genuine relationship will prioritise quality over quantity. Her profile is great, you absolutely want to scare off the tossers. I’m not optimistic about OLD but if I were …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 02:48 PM
15

My thought exactly…. Yet it’s an ‘accident’ rather than a misogynistic hate crime. It’s like a rapist saying ‘she wanted it and she enjoyed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 09:26 AM
37

Yes I think so too. I tried to google it and the only results coming are health accidents as you said, heart attack etc. Nothing about chocking to death or the likes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:48 PM
78

Does anyone know the stats for men dying of heterosexual rough sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:28 PM
28

🤣🤣🤣 You would have hoped that hundreds of imaginary ONS would have given him a hint…. Well at least it’s out in public now so ladies can try to resist his flamboyant charm… not worth it… hopeless in bed 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 03:03 PM
47

If you send this link to him, he will probably think you agree that women over estimate their capacity to orgasm 🙄🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 01:09 PM
110

Somebody, please be kind enough to tell him…..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 11:27 AM
61

Somebody sounds a little butt hurt at the realisation he is a hobosexual (or cocklodger as we call them over here)…. The need for a man isn’t immediately obvious so I will neg you until you are so low that you think you need me. Don’t drag a man who is insolvent, unemployed, crippled with debts or has no personal goal for growth. The relationship will start with the doubt that he could be using you and that’s not a good foundation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 02:00 PM
57

You really need to build your scrote translator into an app and copyright © it! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 09:23 PM
24

I personally think it helps being with someone who is at the same stage in life and similar age. Although not a deal breaker, I prefer a guy who has kids because I have and it’s easier. It’s a bit harder if one has kids and the other doesn’t because one can just do things in the spirit of the moment, spend more on holiday for example and the other has got other constraints. Also because of my stage in life, I wouldn’t want to date someone who has never had a long term committed relationship, tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 03:18 PM
12

I think you nailed it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 10:25 PM
30

Absolutely, a lot of women see it as ‘just giving in for peace’ as opposed to what it really is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 08:24 PM
17

What an a**hole!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 07:26 PM
23

Oh my goodness! Buzz off! What if some like early nights? Bring on fluffy PJs, glass of wine and a good show of TV! Unless the guy can offer better than that 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 07:23 PM
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Never been my type. He went from looking like a baby to looking like an old baby, skipped the hot manly stage altogether.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 03:35 PM
72

Amen! I actually think it’s very positive. Not only because the article itself is so silly and click-baity (women like big dicks how dare they 😱) that no one with more than two brain cells will take it seriously but it will spread the message into the general public and maybe who knows help women being gaslit out there find their voice. Look at what the Daily Mail stands for….. wasn’t there a positive article in the Guardian a while back? There we go 😊!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 08:57 PM
118

FDS is scary and toxic because it worryingly reduces the pool of women available for scrotes to manipulate, use and abuse….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 08:51 PM
30

NoT aLL mEn. Only the ones with small penises…..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 08:44 PM
10

You should have caveated your statement by starting with ‘in a ideal world’ 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 08:41 PM
7

If you have a wander around the dating subs, you will occasionally see outbursts where they cry about women being shallow, stupid, mean etc for their preferences. When challenged and told every gender is allowed preferences, they always end up spitting out what they truly want: being entitled to their preferences (a super model), being accepted as they are (not a supermodel), for women (this is a big one) to not say out loud they have preferences (you can’t say you don’t like short guys but you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 08:34 PM
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That’s a really good post. I also find the the whole fusion between porn and masturbation silly but if you think about it that’s a way to self justify watching porn by associating it to something that’s actually normal. You are right in saying we shouldn’t ask dates directly or they will hide it. Also agree about the average redditor fiercely justifying porn so it’s actually part of my vetting now. Quick chat about social media and I slip in there: are you on reddit? If they say yes, I will prob…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 11:33 AM
52

Oh really? I never heard this one! We are developing a fetish for normal people here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 07:30 PM
58

It is exactly that! A power dynamic between abuser and victim. You can argue the victim doesn’t know any better and the abuser is mentally sick but how you explain society normalising it, that I have no idea…..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 07:17 PM
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I don’t know how to call it but it is a diabolical sign of sick minds. And we celebrate it instead of treating it. The world has gone to pot…..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 07:04 PM
10

You should have said: ‘who the hell are you?’ 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 07:43 PM
49

I would be worried they only sexualise it and the artistic perspective is completely missed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 07:26 PM
22

I can’t beat you but your post gave me a giggle 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 07:20 PM
27

That’s a lot of words… ‘Desperate guy who has no money and no ego would like free prostitute’. For anyone who can’t be arsed reading 4 pages of narcissistic garbage 🙄.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 02:11 PM
45

It’s really sad these other men in your life have that trash attitude. Good on you for not internalising this as normal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 02:01 PM
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They don’t want another man to raise the bar so that there’s no competition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 02:00 PM
11

That’s infuriating that women had to go to this extend to have maintenance done. It’s disgusting! Good on you though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 10:42 PM
79

I could not believe he didn’t throw him out and had him fired. Vile creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 10:35 PM
1

Absolutely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 01:53 PM
1

They are visual but not interested in visualising their partners. The truth is, they just like the thought of having sex with lots of different women and gradually escalate this from thought to watching, to interacting (cam girls, onlyfans etc) to increase the buzz and stimulus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 01:25 PM
2

Because then it justifies it. That’s self soothing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 01:22 PM
3

What is it with the global gaslighting of masturbation and porn are the same? You don’t need porn to masturbate. But mEn Are VIsuAl 🙄. Why do they never ask pics of their partners to masturbate to? That says more they variety than visuality! I like the one saying her boyfriend watching porn doesn’t actually think of of want to have sex with the person he is watching (of course he is thinking of you at that time honey 🙄). I also like the one saying that sex with no emotion is not cheating….. says…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 12:29 PM
37

I can’t imagine how the stripper conversation would go…. Actually I can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 08:20 PM
50

Talk about having high standards 🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 04:34 AM
30

I have no words. Feel sorry for her though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 09:48 PM
19

It’s not an attractive woman he needs, it’s a magnifying glass 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 01:20 PM
14

That was absolutely vile to read 🤮. OP, thank you for reminding us all how men see FWBs and why it rarely (rarely? Never? 🤔) benefit us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 01:19 PM
23

How good of him to announce he finds you sexy, I’m sure you were sitting there anxious stressing about whether you could embark in a happily ever after with him 🙄. It’s all about them isn’t it? Their wants and needs. It doesn’t matter one bit who you are, what you want. You’re ‘very sexy’ so that will do. Trash out time…..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 01:13 PM
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Now that’s cute 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 12:59 PM
22

Good for you :). You sound like a really well adjusted young lady! Good luck 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 08:11 AM
25

He is not a real life friend though. He made the decision to go on a dating site and then approached OP with allegedly a view to date her, how else is she supposed to assess if he is worth her time for a date if he can’t sustain a text conversation? Also I don’t think she should give her number / facetime strangers. Disappearing for 3 days sounds serial dater to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 07:57 AM
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You don’t know him, he hasn’t earned the benefit of your doubt. He is probably entertaining several other people, OLD is the candy shop. I would personally block a guy who expresses interest and then doesn’t message for 48hrs but I’m not on OLD. In your shoes, I would have allowed him 24hrs then block. You took the time to think about it for 3 days and then post on here, he has stolen way too much of your head space already. If he doesn’t care, why should you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 07:50 AM
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In my circle of friends too, my female friends of colour (Black and South Asian) are happily married to White guys. Of course not disputing fetishisation happens on both sides too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 07:38 PM
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I have definitely heard that often from Black men in my younger years of going out and like OP I never found it was a compliment, especially when those same Black women they were slagging off were my friends. I always took it as men making those comments had a stereotypical assumption that Black women would stand their ground vs. White women being doormats (impression I was getting then).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 12:12 PM
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Maybe in the US. Here they are worth toilet paper and can be reversed by a family court on divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 08:43 PM
84

I had to think about this one. Instinctively I would say no but it’s based on my own experience and I was young (i.e we both had nothing back then but I built and progressed). I’m not rich but I’m comfortable, ex on the other hand has always been lazy, had no goal nor ambition and a deep rooted conviction that the Universe owned him everything because he was awesome…. So splitting was very expensive for me. Having said that, we always come back to vetting and HVM. I want to believe that if you c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 08:39 PM
58

Only now are they starting to take crimes against women a little bit more seriously. They push women to report unacceptable behaviours such as groping on public transports etc. Look what it took…. A policeman kidnapping, raping and and killing a young lady. Even then I’m not sure anything will really change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 10:03 PM
42

Hang out what? The washing, no thanks I have a drier at home 🙄🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 08:33 PM
3

Well yes you can’t tackle it 100% but the inclusion questionnaires are usually confidential (only HR has them not the hiring manager) and if eventually all the people self identifying as neurodivergent get rejected, they will start looking into why that is. Same with the other types of discrimination.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 11:47 AM
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I agree with you and she must scared for her children and the neglect they go through while she is at work. He could well be retaliating on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 10:18 AM
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It always comes back to domination, which was once based on physical aptitude (i.e in prehistory, with survival, hunting etc), but somehow half of the world population is still struggling to evolve out of prehistory 🤷🏼‍♀️. It’s all about domination: height (short guys get angry if short women reject them but they reject taller women feeling entitled to women a few inches shorter than them), weight, age, sex, money (hence why I would always advise young ladies to look for a man who does well fina…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 10:08 AM
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I don’t know where you ladies are based but in the UK they are starting to ask about neurodivergence as part of the inclusion and diversity questions which is a massive step in the right direction in my opinion because it will because a lot harder to discriminate against.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 10:01 AM
14

Reading this hurt my soul: make up is not what sponges the life out of her and needs to be disposed of why ask him to delete them? Just delete them, she is a mother first and foremost and needs to make decisions for 2 human beings who cannot fend for themselves, not 3 he left his job because the evil boss was mean? Won’t accept another job? Seriously? He needs to go to work and provide for his children. He doesn’t even look after those poor kids properly if all he does all day if watching 5 diff…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 09:50 AM
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What’s his height got to do with paying the bill? 😳 I see a guy paying for the first date as a sign that he values me and is not a serial dater and also a gentleman thing to do. I am completely independent financially and I expect someone to have similar level of income and same values towards money management. I would always offer to pay my half, and never argue if taken up on it (though it never happened) but that would be a dealbreaker. There won’t be a second date. No argument, just a polite…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 09:25 AM
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Love your post! And you enjoying the friendship with no sex when you need them to do things for you with no committing to sex! Men have got absolutely no shame enjoying sex with women shrouding them in the vague unspoken hope that maybe one day, they might possibly ready for a relationship… perhaps. They do it all the time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 10:01 AM
15

I read an article a while back saying that OLD is an absolute heaven for narcissistic men. I’ll try to find it and add it here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 08:36 AM
10

Might be genetic but it doesn’t mean you have a duty to be attracted to it… no one is owed a relationship and no one should settle or feel settled for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 08:34 AM
10

Women SHOULD absolutely withhold sex until they get genuine commitment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 08:25 AM
8

Your perspective makes a lot of sense but I think it can only work if both share this view. What I’m getting from the young ladies on here is that guys would use those statement to get free, non committal sex. If the guy agrees that during the ‘friends first’ period, we get to know each other and there’s no sex, then I think it’s a really good way to start a relationship but as always, stay woke as those guys on OLD haven’t always got the same goals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 08:21 AM
7

Sounds exhausting OP. I wouldn’t have the patience! You have more chance to find someone in the wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 09:05 PM
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I thought the same, it made me uncomfortable. To me, it screams out s guy who will constantly invalidate your emotions. He will act like a d1ck and expect you to NoT mAKe A dRamA of it….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 09:03 PM
20

And obviously you would want to or wouldn’t mind having fun with that? A random should never be allowed to call you babe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 09:00 PM
49

Who is this guy? How did get your number? Cat looks terrified!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 07:41 PM
5

Not necessarily unless it’s unexpected and / or unwelcome. If that’s the case, it means he is either pushy (boundaries challenging) or genuinely clueless on body language. Both scenarios are indeed red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 01:05 PM
2

You are just confirming what I thought about those apps. Better of off them really, that’s the only way or they’ll find a way. It’s all a game to them. I guess you can just use them when you’re bored and fancy an evening out but girls evening out is a lot more fun than staring at a fishless fish holder 🙄.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 09:47 AM
3

Don’t they verify them with credit card details? I can imagine they would try all the tricks in the book out of desperation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 08:06 AM
14

Yes that’s a very good point and I completely agree. If you think about it, it’s genius marketing, as you say women pay to be sold men to buy and it’s a lot more profitable if people have casual sex, they keep coming back and paying. If people found a relationship they would be one-time customers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 09:08 PM
24

Oh if you outfish him, he might cry. Especially if he was oblivious and so proud of his little fish 🎣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 06:55 PM
14

I guess if you can report and they actually do something about it. That’s a step in the right direction. They are probably starting to realise women are leaving those apps and men moan about the ratio.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 06:52 PM
66

He wants to show you how manly he is… can catch a fish with bare hands so you never have to worry about what you will eat next (it’s fish!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 04:16 PM
57

Out of curiosity… are there any apps that are for relationships only and not hookups? All I hear from my friends on OLD is that all guys are after sex. They all claim to want a relationship but suddenly become unsure about wanting a relationship after sex. One friend found an HVM, it was on a high end dating app. I don’t know the name or details of said app but I know it is quite pricey to join (here is to hoping guys wouldn’t spend that much to get sex but then again…?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 04:13 PM
16

Depressingly accurate!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 09:59 PM
39

Except the only ethical short / long term borrowing of body or body parts are neither marketable nor have monetary value (organ donation, surrogacy). Prostitution is a human right violation and saying it’s a woman’s right to do what she wants with her body including sell it is only a pathetically thought through response to allow men access to sex. Can I go to the doctor and ask them to extract some of my organs so I exercise my right to sell them and feed my hungry children? Could have held in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 08:47 PM
33

You can ask to borrow their phone. If panic or anger ensues, you know…..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 05:42 PM
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Sigh… it’s bleak for the younger women out there. Until we put a stop to that hook up culture / dating apps, this will get worse. It does absolutely nothing for women apart from causing them to lose sight of their amazing value and believe that to find love they need to be ‘sweet and submissive’ and stay in their place. Not saying that we should be loud and aggressive but we should embrace who we are and celebrate our successes without seeking validation. The high value will follow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 12:32 PM
30

It’s by choice so it’s different and I imagine you would be very upfront with anyone you date that you are waiting for marriage. It’s different if you are a virgin and desperately trying to pop your cherry but can’t find anyone willing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 10:24 PM
54

I’d pass if I were you. Whatever the reason, it’s probably not one that would be positive. If it were by choice, he would have told you when telling he is a virgin. Besides, I can’t imagine you having a great time, especially if he’s one of these redditors….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 09:55 PM
16

The bottom line is LVMs are fully convinced they are god’s gift to women under the sheet so no matter how incapable, inept, disastrous they are in bed, they see no reason to change. As long they finish, that’s all that matters, right? Not worth the effort trying to help them, their ego won’t listen. We’re better off just moving on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 07:27 PM
76

Always listen to your intuition! We have been taught to suppress it so much that we doubt it but we shouldn’t. If your gut is telling you something’s off it’s because there probably is! Once passed the vetting, in an established, trusting, loving relationship there is room for benefit of the doubt and such concepts when we are confident we have each other’s best interest at heart but at the beginning? With a complete stranger? Absolutely not! The date is about assessing compatibility so no benef…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 09:37 PM
142

If you put that in the tiniest red flags category, I’m scared to ask you what the biggest one was 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 09:19 PM
173

Yes! Either that or manipulate you and pretend they are what you want them to be until they get what they want from you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 02:01 PM
28

Exactly! I thought you knew when I said I wanted forever exclusivity, what I really meant was ‘I’m horny, I need sex until the one comes along’. But then again, if you assume that from the get go, you’re the one with trust issues. You can’t bloody win 🤣🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 09:31 AM
7

That’s why no woman should put herself in that situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 11:21 PM
136

The more women know, the less men will get away with it. ThAT’s ANnoyINg!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 08:48 PM
52

Well done you! You identified he didn’t respect and valued you and you cut it short. If only all women could do that, scrotes would have no choice but to level up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 08:41 PM
44

The key sentence is ‘if you love someone’. They love neither you nor themselves…..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 09:53 AM
64

The problem is whilst you’re right, society will automatically silence you and label you as a ‘kink shamer’. That’s how eventually pedos and killers (oh she asked me to choke her only I went a bit too far, ooops 😇) are gaining ground and voice. EDIT: BDSM is a power dynamic to crush every last bit of humanity out of women. Look up the case of Agnes Wanjiru, the Kenyan woman killed by a British soldier, tells you all you need to know about narcissistic abuse of vulnerable women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 09:06 AM
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Haha brilliant! I developed an antidote against zombying, it’s called the Block Button….. works a treat! They shall forever remain in Ghostville 👻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 04:44 PM
16

Look I’m taller than my chair when I stand up! See? I’m 6’5 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 08:32 AM
143

One’s 6’5 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 08:32 PM
18

Thank you mods for the hard work keeping the space safe. I had to laugh out loud visualising your description of drag queens trying to infiltrate 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 04:58 PM
23

I don’t like beard anyway ewww. I think it ages a man and make them look scruffy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 04:47 PM
4

I am very much wanting to do so! Posts like yours do help spreading the motivation :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 01:31 PM
32

It is an absolute red flag if they did not intend to end up being a virgin at that age. If he was waiting for THE ONE after focussing on his career for 12 years and identified OP as the one, he would surely have shared this with her before ending up naked in bed with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 10:15 AM
19

You’re an absolute inspiration!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 06:50 AM
143

Queen’s response you’ve shown! If there was one valid reason for him to be a virgin at that age (asexual, long term life goal to become a priest, impotence 🤷🏼‍♀️) he wouldn’t have ended up naked in bed with you in the first place. It could only be social skills issues (not interested in seeking a relationship or not able to successfully form a bond with a woman even if he wanted to). Another red flag for me is if a guy has never had a long term committed relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 06:47 AM
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This! I remember when I left my ex the ‘point scoring’ had completely drained me emotionally. I was a bad person for wanting a separation because there was nothing wrong with the relationship or him (the fact I was unhappy per se was not a valid reason, I had to explain why I was unhappy…. Repeatedly… for hours), then would start the point scoring of him proving me wrong on every single reason why I was unhappy and even if I still thought I wasn’t happy, I was just as bad even worse because unli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 02:20 PM
22

That’s when you need to show empathy and ask: ‘of course, let’s talk about your feelings’ and observe the blank look in their eyes…..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 02:10 PM
13

Can we have the name of that ‘therapist’ to make sure we avoid them at all cost…? Chill out, don’t worry about it…. For goodness sake, she is right to worry who she invest her life and potentially her body with (meaning if they have children she will likely sacrifice her career and her shape) for a man who doesn’t care about being an adult and lives ‘in the now’ like a toddler 🙄. Save yourself therapy and run
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:30 PM
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Gosh that’s so sad and sorry to read your comment. I’m sure OP worries about cancelling because of cost, time and telling everyone. Marrying the wrong person cost you a lot more, years of your (and possibly children’s lives) and you still have to face family and friends at some point. Men very aggressively defend the fact it’s only dancing but they all lie with interest. One of my friends who was a dancer did a brief stint in one of those when she was a student for money. She lasted one shift. S…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 06:48 AM
10

Aww I’m sure your geriatric dog is very cute!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 09:38 PM
121

Patriarchy is very ‘traditional’ and sadly women writing for women magazines are not all woke and can also suffer internalised misogyny. If this is your boundary, you have to stand firm on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 09:33 PM
41

Agreed! Especially if he gets angry when you challenge the friend’s behaviour, he is projecting, tells himself it’s not that bad after all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 09:25 PM
189

The guy purposely put himself in a situation to be at touching distance of naked girls paid to arouse him and the collective gaslighting has it that there is nothing wrong with it 🤷🏼‍♀️. In your shoes, the fact that your fiancé wants to go or doesn’t mind going along would be all I need to know. You need to assess your own level of comfort but please do not buy the bs of: he only went along under peer pressure. If he goes, it’s because he wants to. You are lucky you already know they would be co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 09:22 PM
43

Yep, I read it as: I can be as much as a jerk as I want to you and you shouldn’t call me out (loyal) but cut off the people who genuinely care for you and tell you to dump my sorry ass (not a follower)!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 08:58 AM
76

Well yeah being a pretty lady, you’ve got to be dumb right! 🙄. It’s like being in the playground…. Being mean at the girl they like to get their attention… sigh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 08:48 AM
58

Argh the end of privilege and universal impunity….. that must be tough if you’ve been used to that for millennia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 08:00 PM
309

Try to post about small appendages, receding hairlines or short statures, you will see that men are not eMOtioNaL but very respectful of women preferences in a rational and mature way…..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 07:53 PM
25

He is not ready to be a family man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 07:49 PM
38

That wouldn’t surprise me if he did take it out on her. I can’t imagine him being rich or successful as a lawyer if he put things like that in writing…. Or he is just an incel fantasising someone married him (and fantasising he is a lawyer… or has a job) 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 05:17 PM
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Thank you for the additional background. I think he knows it’s wrong but he knows she can’t prove it as it was presumably said over the phone and his wife won’t report it as assault and rape because…. Well she likely is the victim of narc abuse. He just wanted to prove he can get away with it and be smug about it. As long as we will continue putting all the burden of the evidence on the victim and treat abusers as the victim: poor guy, this could ruin his career, nOt ALl mEn and all that jazz), …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 01:19 PM
4

You keep them by chaining them to the radiator? Believe it or not, they love it 😏😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 06:09 PM
19

And if you complain to Linkedin, they won’t do anything about it. They say none their policies were breached!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 08:20 PM
60

Exactly! Why does she think this needs confronting? What could it possibly achieve?! He says sorry, wont do it again and creates 50 more better hidden accounts so he can carry on being a closet pedo in peace? That’s making my blood boil!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 11:21 AM
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If this is true, why even go on reddit asking why he does that? He is a pedophile and from all the secret accounts he has, it doesn’t sound too big a stretch to expect him to act on it. His self-soothing (I’m only playing devils advocate that’s all) is sickening. She wants advice on next steps? - follow your pedo husbands advice and don’t let your emotions cloud your judgement - go get yourself a good family solicitor, file for divorce and apply for a restraining order to safeguard your daughter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 09:57 AM
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Great post! There is no one model, it’s all about compatibility. Compatibility of person (we encourage ourselves to level up too!), compatibilities of values (we seek HV values), lifestyle, goals. Setting standards is part of knowing ourselves, our worth, our wants and needs and assess our compatibility with potential partners. I have never seen any post on there promoting tactics to change other people’s minds or lie to them to make them date us. I’m also a believe that if a guy asks me out and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 06:33 AM
23

Most useless pile of 💩🤣🤣🤣🤣 I’m dying 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 06:09 PM
131

Would be a crying shame not to…. 🍑👋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 12:59 PM
139

Look at his booty shake 😍!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 11:10 AM
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I don’t think HVM have any issue with FDS or FDS-like strategies as they want balanced women with healthy boundaries for healthy relationships which is what we also want. It is to our mutual benefit but of course it reduces the pickme pool available for LVMs to use and abuse so they fight it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 09:01 AM
44

Sounds like a pub quiz question! The answer is; mr. Potato head!! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:27 PM
10

Yes my mistake, I just checked and I’m size 6-6.5. I thought it was closer to UK sizes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:48 PM
17

At least, he gave us all a giggle. We’ve got to give him that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:43 PM
55

You’d probably get gravy out of that beard if you jet washed it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:41 PM
26

And surely feet size is a bit big in proportion with his other requirements? I might be wrong though, I’m not too familiar with US sizes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:34 PM
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Because all you need to know is what HE wants! Narc alert 🚨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:32 PM
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Oh look, a control freak with a filthy beard. Also doesn’t look too skinny himself 🤣. That’s funny!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:15 PM
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You are attracted to who you are attracted to. Own it! Of course you have to accept that the more you restrict your criteria, the more you restrict your pool of suitors but I personally don’t think anyone should settle. You can’t sustain a romantic and physical relationship with someone you find unattractive and it’s not fair on the other party to be ‘settled for’. Some people put more importance of emotional connection, others on intellectual, other physical etc, ultimately chemistry is a combi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:49 PM
11

That’s so true :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:21 PM
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This is so relevant to our dating life too sadly. As part of the vetting, we need to ask ourselves if this guy across the table wanting coffee date first to check if we are fat / old / whatever, or that guy arguing we should pay for our meal…. What will he do / say when life strikes hard?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 01:33 PM
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https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/mar/30/the-men-who-give-up-on-their-spouses-when-they-have-cancer I remembered this article from last year…. I’m just going to leave this here…. And that’s divorce… how many don’t divorce but just cheat because it’s so honourable to stay with your sick wife but you still need your needs met (lack of sex per se has never killed anyone but he can keep telling himself that).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 09:16 AM
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If HE puts us in a position of competition, she can have him, not interested. Hopefully she does the same and he ends up choosing to date his right hand!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 05:32 PM
69

These are rape threats, the police can track numbers even anonymous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 05:29 PM
22

Lol who’s triggered and butt hurt?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 05:56 PM
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Amen to that….! We should refer back to this when we start seeing a misalignment between words and actions. If words are positive but actions don’t follow then he is simply just not that into you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 05:49 PM
3

Good on you for vetting before meeting them and not wasting your time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 03:37 PM
7

They didn’t want to talk to you on the phone before you went on a date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 01:11 PM
34

I don’t know how true it is but from what I read online, a lot of women are turning their back to OLD now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 12:52 PM
18

Absolutely true. She used to be a military driver during the war.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 08:14 AM
9

Always loved this story! Our Queen really is a baddass driver 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 08:10 AM
12

This was meant tongue in cheek….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 07:50 AM
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Good vetting strategy if they out themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 05:45 AM
34

I wouldn’t hop while drinking coffee if I were you. Basic health & safety, you could end up with second degree burn!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 05:41 AM
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Yep and he will go back to that poster. That’s why we need to block ex’s and cut all ties if no children are involved. We deserve better than a seat on their back burner!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 06:43 PM
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Its now more and more talked about that sperm quality decreases with age….. https://www.newscientist.com/article/mg21929275-500-mens-sperm-quality-decreases-at-age-35/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 06:41 PM
1

Anger management course that way 👉👉👉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 02:50 PM
17

What a lovely gesture!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 02:35 PM
4

Oh dear and that post is not hateful at all 😆!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 02:34 PM
4

My thoughts exactly! Let me pat you on the back, we deserve it 🤗!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 12:32 PM
4

That’s the life of every single parent…..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 12:20 PM
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Don’t you like how they need time to process if they are ready or not ready yet, can run away at any time because it’s tOO MuCh pReSsuRe…. Women do not have that luxury, we carry the baby and get on with it (all the pain, sick, hardship, and of course joy and emotions). We don’t run away from our bump. They will never understand that. It simply is not the same! Here in the UK, you hear Saturday dads whining that women make them pay (maintenance) to see their kids. They should be thrilled to cont…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 10:57 AM
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Not condoning lying on profiles but from what I read and heard from friends, men consistently lie on their age and heights on dating apps to bypass women’s filters and secure dates. Two wrongs dont make a right but why not be upset by the fact she misled him as opposed to being relieved she paid half? This is a bizarre and worrying comment. If she offered free sex, he would have accepted because it was free then? Even though he probably told her he wanted a relationship? Who is catfishing who?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 09:01 AM
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Don’t assume short women want them especially if they feel entitled to us just because we are short too when we are perfectly capable to attract gorgeous, handsome tall men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 07:27 AM
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I went on a date once many moons ago with a very short guy (can’t have been more than 5’4). Coming out of the restaurant, after insisting on giving me a lift home in his car which I turned down, he decided to wait for my taxi with me and randomly picked me up from the floor and carried me across the parking lot for no reason and without warning. I was utterly fuming! I was young I guess that’s why I didn’t yell but needless to say there was no second date and he got blocked! I was so embarrassed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 07:16 AM
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So he could be old enough fo be her dad and she trusts him enough to use and abuse her safely as opposed to strangers abusing her. Heartbreaking unbroken circle of abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 07:36 PM
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Yes exactly, that’s why we should never chase them and vet them carefully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 07:06 PM
11

GGE 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:52 PM
9

I laughed so much, my soul cried a little…🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:28 PM
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Probably because they have never come close to any woman at all in real life so they have completely unrealistic expectations. The only women giving them attention (because they want their money) are the gorgeous instagram models and camgirls on porn sites so they are utterly baffled when normal women turn them down!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:27 PM
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This is the bit I find the most shocking, like we have so very little value in their eyes that we are not even entitled to decide who we allow in our bodies. Another thing is why be obsessed with people who don’t want you instead of focussing on the ones who either fancy their height or are at least willing to give them a chance (oh wait…. Let me guess their are not super models maybe?).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:24 PM
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That’s so true some men draw no attention to their height at all and are just charming. Somehow the ones whining can’t accept the issue is not height but their personality, lack of confidence and entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:18 PM
4

Oh my goodness! This is so funny thank you 🤣. Not just a pretty beard cracked me up!🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 03:33 PM
14

Yes that’s true though ‘lad’ is more of a northern term here but yes it’s affectionate for behaviours that really arent endearing at all. Where ladette would automatically sounds a lot more ‘inacceptable’ behaviour for a lady….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 12:37 PM
28

I saw that on linkedin this morning. Amazing lady!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 11:25 AM
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You are right. We wouldn’t be referring to adult males as ‘boys’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 11:23 AM
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Good grief 🤦🏼‍♀️! They’d have a meltdown if they knew said prostitutes fake all along, have a shower and probably throw up after being with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 05:11 PM
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Exactly! It seems the aim of the game is getting things unclear, blurred and undefined so they can get casual sex as long as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 12:28 PM
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BUt buT bUt ShE sAiD shE LOveD ME!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 12:17 PM
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I was a bit confused by the second page being downloaded before the first page. This guy is an idiot and deserves to have lost every single last penny that’s been conned out of him. That poor girlfriend at home who thinks he was ‘just talking’ to that girl and then blocked her. They never ‘just talk’. They start with an emotional affair and rationalise it by convincing themselves it’s not cheating because it wasn’t physical but the end game is always sexual gratification. When it comes to cheati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 11:44 AM
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They seem to be the bottom of the barrel. I think you summarised the whole thread right there….. OLD is just easy cheap sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 09:14 AM
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Why is she accepting that? She needs to block the loser. She can’t force him to have a relationship and let him use her for sex won’t have her gain his respect. She needs to move on. Guys like this can only treat women like that because they find enablers like your friend. She is worth better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 07:07 AM
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You just can’t help but wonder why a man would choose a career where they have to stare and touch women private parts all day. In some countries, part of the annual OB/GYN check up includes breasts examination for cancer prevention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 09:56 PM
105

From lovebombing to breadcrumbing…. Sigh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 09:09 PM
36

I hear you, it’s disheartening! Hugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 09:06 PM
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I don’t know about OLD but it’s clear from other dating subs that a lot of guys these days want an exclusive friend with benefit and call it a relationship. Sex on tap but no living together, no seeing each other or hearing from each other everyday, no responsibility. They feel they have already done that with their ex wife and not prepared to commit again but still want regular sex. Just as and when, as you said convenient and functional. I don’t know why anyone looking for an actual relationsh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 08:50 PM
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Can you stay with friends or family for a bit? You need to block this guy completely and call the police on him if you have to. You are strong. You can do this. Wishing you the best of luck. Hugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 06:44 PM
9

That’s a good point… the bait was shiny but when the prey was caught it was a different story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 03:01 PM
8

You have made my day 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 07:29 AM
6

Patrick from Eastenders?🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 06:30 AM
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Yeah exactly! Don’t get me wrong, these are nice things but they are also normal. From experience, women who are vocal about their amazing boyfriends doing those normal things are usually very very quiet about other things he does such as not pulling their weight at home, drinking, spending more time out with the lads than with their family, you name it….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 08:37 PM
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I know right!! ‘You’ll never have a relationship if your first response is to leave.’ No, what we are saying is, if you accept anything and everything like a doormat, don’t come whining to strangers on the internet that he is treating you like a doormat while soothing yourself with self affirming mantras such as: he calls me from work, he is amazing. He buys me tampons, he is amazing…. Some people need to learn to not be in a relationship in order to be ready to be in a healthy one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 07:42 PM
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BuT hE bUYs HEr tAmpOnS 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 07:34 PM
221

Seriously what is it with people asking someone out AND asking them to pay?! 🤯. Do they want a date or a get together like an afternoon tea with the girls?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 10:33 AM
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That’s true…. Men used to go to the moon and back to win the heart of women and women used to fall in love for all those genuine thoughtful attentions. Now what? We have to tell young ladies that it’s ok to be unimpressed because he asks you out and wants you to pay for your burger! Sigh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 08:21 AM
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After 10 dates+, he still hasn’t assessed if he wants a relationship with her and still seeing other people. What is he doing anyway? Starting a collection of cheap friends with benefits? She just needs to stop wasting her time and move on, he is no boyfriend / partner material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 08:17 AM
9

Absolutely shameful. Sorry this happening, I hope your friend is ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 03:18 AM
106

Your children should always have your last name regardless of anything else! Some add both last names but yours who birthed them should never be in question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 09:37 PM
73

So is punctuation 😱!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 09:30 PM
34

Ladies, we are worth so much more than standing in line waiting to be picked or ‘swiped on’!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 01:42 PM
3

That’s got to be a joke right? 😵‍💫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 08:29 AM
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Lol I was expecting an ending such as: she took all his remaining money and left with the pool boy or she waited to have a passport and left him but no they are just having a normal relationship…. That OP probably never went on a date 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 06:34 PM
11

So much truth in your comment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 07:26 AM
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Dogs won’t take you to accountability for your actions and sadly accept even bad treatment and neglect. That’s probably why they are so lovable to LVMs. I hope she takes her dog and ditches the scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 11:37 AM
29

I wasn’t sure if a court would order a sibling to take a dna test
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 11:32 AM
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I would have washed my hands of the scumbag and let the mistress handle and pay for his funeral and have the cheater on her spot. At least now this lady won’t have to share 50/50 of their worldly possessions. She can keep the whole lot as they were still married. Not sure how the mistress would prove paternity though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 08:54 AM
58

I know right! Never met or been with a grown up mature man not understanding women had hair and / or expecting them to look like a barbie doll 24/7! That’s insane
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 08:10 AM
21

You left and then they sneezed…. Wait they also coughed… maybe it was covid… maybe COPD…. Maybe they haven’t got long to live at all 🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 08:02 AM
17

Wait a minute….. you know my ex?? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 07:59 AM
92

Apparently he would regularly go awol and just not come home. He was spending the night at the victim’s apartment. Locking him away forever would be the best service to the community!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 06:47 AM
154

Never ever stay (let alone marry) with someone who is sexually deviant. He will not stop, he cannot stop. The best case scenario is that he will respect your boundary, find someone else to fulfil his sick perversion and cheat on you. That guy sounds like scum of the earth, heavy drinker, junky, unemployable and cheater. She is getting a PhD. Ladies, let’s not get ourselves dragged down the gutter. Forget about nice guy and nOt aLL MEn shite, walk away and save your emotions and affection for som…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 06:37 AM
81

By getting you drunk they get a return on their investment (sex in exchange for drinks). Feeding you is dead money to them. Ragingly sad that is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 07:24 PM
193

Very good point. BUt ShE sAid YEs bEfoRe PAssINg OuT 😵‍💫. Suggesting drinks with the intention to get drunk is an LVM move.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 05:19 PM
3

It’s because they have a decent sized brain 🐙
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 06:31 PM
175

More needs to be done to promote enthusiastic consent. The same way consent is not valid if the person is under a certain age or too far gone under influence (drugs, alcohol). The same should apply to anything - ANYTHING - that would make consent coerced. You don’t have a car to go home and have to stay at his so you feel you have to. He threatens you of physical violence unless you oblige. He erodes your boundaries by begging, harassing, blackmailing you. You are dependent on him (financially, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 10:48 AM
29

However hard it is, I would see that as a positive. You went from not knowing better to being woke. Before you used to suppress that little voice inside you (your gut feeling / intuition) so hard that you could no longer hear her warn you. Now she is finding her voice again (flashbacks) and as you grow from strength to strength she will NOT allow you to put yourself in and tolerate those situations anymore. Trust your intuition, always. If if doesn’t feel right, take control and stop (it’s hard …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 09:54 AM
16

I went through something similar! Also during lockdown! And yes, when they tell you who they are, believe them. I hope you’re healing from that situation 🤗.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 04:21 PM
38

Veey true and we need to apply several basic principles inclusively such: ‘too much too soon’ and ‘if it looks too good to be true, it probably is’! Basically keep a cool head and take your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 03:52 PM
98

I would go further than ‘not beneficial’. I would say detrimental.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 03:20 PM
403

I still stand by if ‘he wanted to, he would’ 100%. And if he does, it doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t vet and stay woke. I completely agree with you on the love bombing. What ‘if he wants to he would means’ is: don’t chase after guys because if they put in low effort from the onset, they never will and they probably never value you either as in their mind you will be ‘easy’ (as in low effort/value/maintenance). If he wanted to, he would. When he does, you start vetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 02:54 PM
41

I see nothing to frown on, it sounds very healthy to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 07:11 AM
33

I would argue that supporting your kids doing something you know as a parent is harmful instead of giving them the proper support to deal with trauma is not loving them, it’s neglect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 11:15 PM
21

Sigh. Even more reason to break the circle of abuse. Not glorify it. That patriarchy led mass propaganda is vile
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 11:03 PM
11

🙈🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 06:29 PM
7

That’s funny! How did you find out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 04:06 PM
86

OLD is the pick up artist’s candy shop or better…. argos catalogue! I saw an excellent comment on a dating sub once. The poster only had sex with someone when the relationship was out in the open. Too many guys will say they want a relationship but are either fukboys or guys who are happy to get free sex while they wait for the one. This is especially true with OLD as you don’t know their real dating history. Delaying sex until you meet their friends or are public on social media is a better gua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 01:21 PM
46

Really good post! Although a little sad this needs reminded as it makes so much sense. Libfem have shot themselves in the foot on so many topics sadly not realising their rhetoric has been manipulated and completely used against them. That’s you have the 50/50 tablebringers men chanting from their hymn sheet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 07:01 AM
39

Same if you are short! Good on you for owning your preferences!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 06:58 AM
19

I can relate so much to this article! The London commuting is ruthless and male entitlement is rife, not giving way and seeing their lost, confused, puzzled, howdareyoubitch look is amusing! Especially when you top it all up with a smile 😁!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 06:36 AM
26

Well in your case, it wasn’t really shouting profanity at a man, it was more putting an idiot back in their box.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 06:33 AM
24

That’s sick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 12:45 PM
93

Seriously? Are there any actual women in there? Or are these guys unknowingly talking to other guys pretending to be women ‘call me ‘it’ baby!’ The thing that blows my mind on top of what another lady commented (why do they have to shove their f***d up kinks down our throats publicly) is that mostly the ‘kinky’ party always claims the right to negate someone else’s basic hunanity and seek to perpetrate degrading, illegal, racist and misogynists acts on other humans. In what civilised world shoul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 11:09 AM
10

There’s nothing empowering being put there and judged on your looks no matter what the end scope is, objectifying women for profit, charity or whatever else is still projecting the image that you don’t need to have anything to say, shut up snd be pretty. I’m not sure about the inclusion of more non-white ladies. It’s less racist but still misogynistic so definitely not a win for them imo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 05:34 PM
13

Exactly, you will never have to explain to gentlemen. I always offer, never had a gentleman letting me pay! They would get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 02:45 PM
126

Idiot 🙄. Why do they ask women out? Ladies don’t argue with idiots, just pay, say bye and block them as you walk home. Not worth time, energy or headspace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 07:42 AM
35

I always thought that even when he was younger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 09:38 AM
96

It’s a lack of maturity. Most men are adamant ‘they don’t look their age’ in most cases, they are right, they look 10 years older but they don’t see it. When they go after a woman 20 younger they think they are 20 younger themselves. They have the Peter Pan syndrome. Younger women have overall less life experience (well it certainly was my case) so we don’t realise they are immature until we mature naturally and they never do. When I was young, I was a lot less likely to openly and loudly call t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 02:01 PM
72

That’s good advice. Sadly the guy doesn’t sound solvent and OP would probably need a contract of some sort as a proof he committed to provide services
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:06 PM
23

For crying out loud! First of all, I hope the person who received this is ok. My first reaction is ‘yes they should probably drink my brain, they might see some benefit 🙄’. Please report to the police so hopefully the bored little boy gets in trouble for watching too much rubbish and using his mom’s computer when she’s at work. Pathetic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 12:44 PM
70

Very unprofessional, are you able to get your money back? I wouldn’t trust him after that. Did you find him via a gym you can approach for help getting your money back? It sounds like it’s not his first rodeo and he gives discounts as s way to squeeze cash out of people fast, like he is in serious debt or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 12:33 PM
34

🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 05:29 PM
90

Put on his HVM boxer shorts and give me a sexy tiger growl 🐯. CaN’t gO WRoNg 😳!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 05:23 PM
22

I must admit I have tolerated some bad behaviours from my last boyfriend on the account that ‘he wasn’t as bad as my ex’. I agree with the lady saying we need time alone after a bad relationship. It’s time to reset our standards and readjust our perception of what is normal and what is not acceptable, basically seeing the gaslighting for what it is and no longer allowing it. I’m glad I took a year out and worked on myself and my confidence. This sub has also been a great help! Another thing I fi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 10:35 AM
49

Seriously? 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 08:35 AM
22

The level of delusion is mind blowing 🤯😵‍💫. They don’t care, to get so low as paying for sex, they will only ever view it as transaction. Even the old scrote you mentioned first…. I hope the wife has her fun on the side and when she finds better, dump his cheating deluded ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 01:26 PM
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‘Their sweetness, friendliness and femininity gradually diminishes away to uncover a colder more unappealing personality. Perhaps they start to secretly despise men and start viewing them as objects which hand over money.’ No shit Sherlock! We have one with a PhD here 🙄. How can any of these scrotes remotely believe they have an ounce of desirability in them? If they did, they wouldn’t have to pay for it…… Obviously these poor ladies are repulsed by them and are forced to do it (premium bonus fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 09:49 AM
13

He cba to move from his house, then he should buy a newspaper and look for a pen friend ad 😳.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 12:53 PM
62

Absolutely and all the points you raised have got one thing in common which can summarise the whole discussion…. Privilege and entitlement. About Afghanistan, I was reading that a lot of women, outside the main cities in the countryside support the taliban regime and are happy with their lot because they have never been out of the house, never had access to education or information and think it’s ok for the man who owns them to have total power over their life or death. They are born slaves and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:43 PM
51

Sadly I think you’re right, the road is long. I don’t think this is something we will see in our life time but hopefully one day… :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:27 PM
4

He’s an angry elf!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:19 PM
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I would go further back and say that the rise in women’s rights and equality has given rise to this misogynistic movements which in turn have given rise to the decrease in relationships you describe. Some / a lot of men, instead of embracing equality have been resisting and fighting it and are trying to make it go away, that’s your red pill movements. They feel the previous situation was normal from an evolutionary perspective and so there was never any reason to challenge their privilege. They …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 01:24 PM
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Exactly this, just like how many rape victims do not report it for fear of either being accused of lying or ‘asking for it’ by being dressed inappropriately. Women are by default guilty until proven otherwise and silenced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 10:17 AM
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Sadly that’s the misogynistic mindset that helped porn becoming so mainstream. These comments are what they really think deep down. On the surface you will hear the ‘porn is harmless’ mantra or the ‘be sex positive’ one which enabled it any suppressed rightful societal shame. Those comments should be used and broadcasted straight into the pornisharmless brigade’s face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 09:10 AM
26

It’s not a profession at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:22 PM
208

Starting his own drug cartel 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:16 PM
3

Exactly! They are more qualified because they are more clever, not because they had access to good education (including good networking in gentlemen circles….!) 🙄 My eyes are rolling so hard I’m developing repetitive strain injury of my optical nerve….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 06:43 PM
6

The age gap and the ratio men/women in leadership roles!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 06:12 PM
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Scrotes’ logic (which I have actually heard!): they take away jobs from men to give them to women, privileged bitches! (I conveniently omit the fact that before that, men had 100% of the jobs because women didn’t have access to education and / or under societal expectation to not work so now we have to reluctantly share our privilege). And so on 🙄… Just let them talk to just prove your point 🤣.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 05:27 PM
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If you earn little, you’re a gold digger. If you earn well but want a man who makes at least as much as you, you’re an uptight bitch turning your nose on blue collars. You really can’t win. Also where’s the privilege? We’d be happy to have equality, let alone privilege 🙄 Let them whine I say 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 05:16 PM
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My humble opinion is that this shouldn’t be acknowledged. A bit like a toddler’s tantrum. So, what’s for dinner? 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 05:07 PM
41

That’s why they need you! Do what you need to get in because you can and change it from the inside! I’m rooting for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 09:01 AM
4

So true best to not engage, not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:34 PM
16

What does a feminist look like? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:33 PM
33

That’s so true! Look at the projection! You say I like to date tall men. They hear: you hate short guys. I’ll never understand that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:20 PM
24

No matter how high or low, you will always be criticised for having too high standards by those who don’t meet them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:17 PM
49

That put me right off my marmite sarnie 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 01:09 PM
1

I can’t understand either…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 01:05 PM
26

They rely on the power of suggestion (after listening to ‘I’m too sexy for my shirt’) everyday 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 09:11 AM
47

Good to know he’s not a creep. How vile can a human be….. I can’t help but think somehow somewhere someday some woman accepted and that’s why they do it 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 07:38 AM
8

Goodness, where do I start 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 08:11 PM
1

Yes in the travel agent. There’s the US version where she is a receptionist in a hospital 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 07:48 PM
36

I don’t know how these guys land in your mailbox but assuming you don’t know them (other than social media / OLD), I find it a red flag and really rude to not get to know you a little better before suggesting drinks. Even if asking general questions and showing interest in you and as you said what you like / don’t like. That sounds very wide net casting strategy and I would assume they send the same request to every woman whose mailbox they have access to. I would just block there and then, you’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 12:56 PM
19

That’s a surprise…. Sigh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 08:39 AM
3

I just had this vision of David Walliams dressed as Carol, the receptionist saying ‘nah’ 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:17 PM
2

That’s step up the hiking date though… at least he had a car!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 03:58 PM
8

Youre joking but I saw a post on a dating sub from a guy asking women if they would date a guy living in his caravan / trailer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 03:57 PM
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It bothers them because the talibans and men who are part of those cults are an inspiration to them. They know how to handle women and they dream of having similar power over women in the Western world. How many times have I heard: ‘it’s their culture, who are we to interfere’ when talking about Human Rights (well of course, are women humans is another debate here)? They are angry because they project. How dare they help other women take away male privilege.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 02:49 PM
60

That was written by a guy. That kind of messaging makes me sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 01:20 PM
172

It’s all about property and being territorial ultimately. They want to be the first and only one to use a brand new object. They would use an overused object if it’s free and they can dump afterwards…… To men who have these views, there’s no discussing, reasoning or negotiating. Dump, ignore, stay away. Eventually, they will only have pickme and sex workers left until those wake too leaving them with them, themselves and their pencils.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 12:29 PM
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Were those hiking dates a thing pre-pandemic? I heard a lot of park dates here during the pandemic (but public park, sitting on a bench, chatting with take away coffee as all venues were closed). Assuming this is OLD , I’m baffled that a lady would meet a complete stranger in remote place. Also, from a practical point of view, I like being active (gym, walks etc) but a date is a date. You want to show up looking nice nice and fresh and have a conversation to assess compatibility, not sweat toget…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 09:00 AM
322

Only one is already too many!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 08:56 AM
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If that’s what it took to maintain her marriage, I’d really challenge if there was something to maintain in the first place. Why would you want your partner to cheat let alone watch him do it right in front of you. I wouldn’t be surprised if the comments told her to work through her insecurities 🙄.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 04:09 PM
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It was her idea and she planned it so yeah he will probably have his cake snd eat but she baked said cake. Some people are not right in the head….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 03:40 PM
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I’m going to hazard a wild guess (not on OLD) but do they take smile for validation and are these men just looking for a quick nookie and really not that interested in knowing the real you? Happy to be corrected here but that was my first thought. I am an introvert too but due to my work and having to interact with people I don’t know all the time, I put up a brave (I guess you can say smiley/friendly) front but in the context of a first date, I would be reserved/in observation mode too. These m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 11:50 AM
12

🤣🤣🤣 and abs day….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 08:29 AM
8

Well didn’t want to say but from the video he doesnt come across as a gym bunny! You can fin love everywhere but using non designated area as hunting ground is just wrong!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 08:27 AM
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To be fair his imaginary wealth is probably the only asset he could put forward…. He could have just said: sorry to have bothered you, take care. But instead he made himself sound like a pathetic sore loser……
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 08:00 PM
49

That made my day 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 07:55 PM
107

Absolutely disgusting. Of course it’s rape, where is the enthusiastic consent and why are people other than the victim allowed to make profit out of her body?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 06:38 PM
170

Do they actually have any interest in exercising or is their only scope is to bother ladies who go the gym to….. exercise 🙄. Honestly, it’s the last place I’d want to meet someone when I’m in sports gear sweating! Here is a business idea… women run gym, strict policy of one lady complains about being harassed, the guy’s membership is revoked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 03:13 PM
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You can feel the nostalgia in some behaviours….. oh the good old days! When women shut up and did as they were told? The thing is it’s on men now to level up and become attractive (overall attractive, not just looks) or they’ll be alone. Some men (HVMs) naturally get it. Others prefer to spend their days being miserable and working on strategies to manipulate consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 08:17 AM
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Women being seen as second-class citizens, treated as property and hated as equal is universal. Only in the West, it has been tackled for longer and I wouldn’t necessarily say things have improved, they have but on the surface. There is still a lot of covert misogyny. A lot…! I think what is ‘new-ish’ in the incel culture is the result of the loss of privilege. They didn’t need to be incel before because it was socially acceptable to acquire and own women. The rise in these movements aligns with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 06:40 PM
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Look how far behind we are compared to other area of discrimination. Misogyny doesn’t qualify as a hate crime and not prosecuted unlike other hate crimes on other discriminated group.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 06:33 PM
1

Oh sorry hun 🤣🤗. It’s more him, why bothering if he doesn’t like how you write 🤣🤣.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 09:21 PM
1

Why is he wasting his/her time messaging her then 🤷🏼‍♀️🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 07:57 PM
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That’s an excellent point. Cowardice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 07:03 PM
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He should have started by himself and done humanity a favour. The worrying thing (even more worrying than what he has done) is how lenient society is on the ones who display all the signs but have not acted on it yet. Come the guy was on youtube, it’s not like he woke up one day and lost the plot…… Thoughts with the innocent victims and their loved ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 02:02 PM
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NoT aLL mEn…. Rarely you will see a man calling another man out and step up his game so he is not associated to him. Instead, they blame the victim for being a bitch and saying aLL mEn. Look at dating threads, most guys would just stay away from women who have been abused because it would make their life harder (i.e they will have to prove themselves). Real men are not scared to call out those bad behaviours. NVMs don’t see anything wrong with rape or abuse so why make such a fuss about it…….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 09:05 AM
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It’s like they soothe each other. Do you think I’m a pedo? 😱 Nah you’re ok don’t worry 🤗 That’s so disturbing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 07:01 PM
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The first one literally sends chills of horror down my spine. Everything about this creep likens him to a pedo. Why would you even call your daughter ‘attractive’? The whole comment is so self justifying. It’s just vile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 05:54 PM
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Yes, the numbers in the OP don’t look right. Especially the last one, 5’9 average salary, any race, shape, not married 8.4%. Does that mean almost all non married men are jobless or on low income? Also why include married men to begin with? Not American so maybe I have the wrong perception but this calculator seems a bit off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:17 AM
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Yes it will take centuries sadly we probably won’t see it in our lifetime but collectively any baby step we can make to help will help get there faster :).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 10:08 PM
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Oh the good old sexist joke! Look at them dead serious straight in the eyes and say: could you please explain? I didn’t get it. And watch them crumble……
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 09:51 PM
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Agreed most religions in the interpretation humans have made of them however very few are currently in the modern world institutionalised to that extend. Pretending that this is an isolated case is like saying ‘not all men’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 09:36 PM
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That’s just a cult and women are worth less than cattle. Sold for money, in some countries, they haven’t got the basic civil rights. They have to comply to certain dress codes or they are labelled ‘sluts’. In some places, they can be punished for being raped. A cult called religion to make it untouchable…. Sigh bless her young soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 08:35 PM
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That’s what I think too but they will never admit it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:26 PM
18

Exactly this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 12:35 PM
6

Amazing and accurate article!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 09:30 AM
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My favourite pickme line is: We HaD SeX oN tHE firSt DaTe, NoW wE’rE HapPiLy maRrIeD 🙄. The only way to weed out the bad ones is to make them wait. HVMs will understand that and won’t have an issue with that. Sadly nowadays with the combination of women having more power to choose who they have sex with and the hookup culture that leaves a lot of men sex starved and ready to use any excuse (wanting a relationship, lying, shaming, bullying) to get sex. We need to remain vigilant at all times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 08:55 AM
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I’d like to see him give that line to (hopefully lady) judge when he gets done for sexual harassment….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 07:19 AM
79

That word gummer is horrendous 🤢. Just for that he needs therapy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 11:37 AM
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I’m proud of every woman proudly broadcasting her success! I have mentored younger women and the talent is incredible, the lack of confidence however is heartbreaking. Those ten negative comments for each positive comment you mentioned are a success! They show that this woman has successfully challenged the establishment and by doing that, she has won!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 11:27 AM
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Your ex sounds vile. Please don’t beat yourself up. We all have to go through life experiences, no one is born knowing. I am saying this as someone who came to the same realisation as you but much later. You have done amazing walking away and should be proud of yourself. It’s him being deviant and sadly we are talking large scale gaslighting here. That propaganda that porn is ok is instilled in the younger generations. Why? The porn industry is worth more than Hollywood…. $$$! And the insidious …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 11:19 AM
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Everything I hear about these apps make them sound like a total self confidence crusher and a store box for men lying and/or with no social skills. Well done for getting out of that circle!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 06:09 PM
9

I am on the fence with ranking people by looks. I find that very immature. There is so much more to attraction and ‘handsomeness as well as beauty are really subjective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 05:32 PM
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Your first point reminds me of the post yesterday where the poor girl just wanted to enjoy her burgers and the guy rocked up with his dead mother’s ashes! Future faking (part of the love bombing toolkit) is all aimed at securing narcissistic supply. Always remember too good to be true is just that…. Not true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 05:28 PM
59

Your comment is tragically funny! 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 10:49 AM
39

I must say, I didnt either. Great post OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 10:48 AM
7

You need 2 separate accounts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 10:43 AM
22

The mod banning was probably an incel..,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 10:42 AM
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Exactly! Or else why would we be here levelling up to find a decent MAN. OP got banned by an LVM 🙄. Best to DM women in need of real support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 10:40 AM
5

Surely if that was the case, FDS would be banned off reddit then? That’s a really poor excuse!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 10:36 AM
51

I hear you and wanted no part in it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 05:49 PM
85

I know right! Actually, he was invested with the job as it was his company but I guess you’re right about the relationship. I blocked him this week so will never know for sure!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 05:00 PM
354

Guy texting regularly while at work and barely during evenings and weekends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 03:23 PM
85

If you have to chase a guy, he will probably use you for sex and dump you for what he perceives to be a better option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 09:11 AM
44

A very dusty business indeed 🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 10:29 PM
51

That poster should download the film ‘Psycho’ and watch it at the weekend instead of wasting her time on hookup apps. At best you meet dysfunctional weirdos, at worst you get used for sex and dumped or meet a psychopath! It’s not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 09:11 PM
125

How do you know he isn’t hiding his mistress’ ashes in his other pocket…? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 09:09 PM
8

Presumptuous too. Like why assume that if she is single, she is automatically up for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 08:48 PM
3

Earphones are great. Sometimes they still wave in your face and gesture to take them off. Just reading the OP is reminding me that uncomfortable feeling….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 08:45 PM
35

Made me spit out my tea 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 09:52 AM
50

You somehow struggle to feel sorry for him….. how sick can people be, sick in the head and the mouth in his case 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 11:51 PM
22

Good on you for taking control back and blocking!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 11:13 AM
7

If it’s not a joke, she got herself a GeM…. Literally! 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 11:11 AM
94

BDSM is rooted in trauma and the tool of choice for abusers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 07:12 PM
30

It’s heartbreaking how many beautiful women are riddled with often unfounded insecurities. The media, society have always been extremely harsh on women. In some countries, it’s still widely accepted that women have to look a certain way and it’s completely normalised to see job adverts worded along the lines of:’ receptionist position, must be under 30 and of beautiful appearance’. There has never been such a pressure on men to ‘look’ good. The perceived loss of privilege must hurt somehow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 06:30 PM
16

What’s baffling is the inability to read social cues. If we are not smiling, making eye contact or if we are wearing earphones (!) it means we are not receptive to being approached. If they initiate contact with eye contact or smile and it’s not reciprocated then again, no point going any further. Also asking for number or anything else that is so overt is not flattering from the receiving end! It really doesn’t give off the vibes that they are interested in you as a person, just sex if they can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:59 PM
217

I don’t understand why it is not classified as that! Those dating apps require payment or other form of identification I guess if they are trackable, they should be fined or banned at the very least. They wouldn’t walk into a pub and randomly flash their bits! 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 10:22 AM
21

I can relate to this feeling after my break up last year for about 6 months. I wouldn’t say addiction but definitely practiced a lot of mindfulness, a lot! It actually helped me spend more time with myself without that feeling of void. Even had earphones on while working. You need to allow and validate your emotions and accept them. Whatever you are feeling it’s ok. Don’t put any pressure on yourself to be in or seek a new relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 12:35 PM
20

Great suggestion!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 12:28 PM
64

Sadly the pandemic has normalised those ‘hiking dates’ as most venues were closed but safety rules we used to follow before should still apply. Never meet a stranger or near stranger in an isolated place. Always in a public, crowded place. I would also recommend giving their contact details to a friend and let him know that. Those hiking dates have opened the door to the lowest of the low effort and potential risky situations! Oh and to those saying, it can be dangerous to men too, unless a woma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:27 AM
45

Just like pedos always seeking to work in schools. This is all so vile and sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:19 AM
82

Exactly this! Never seen a post defining LV as physical features! There are posts about LVMs and other posts where we discuss our preferences in dating. Total projection right here! Can only see women for their looks and thinks women are the same. And finally cover yourself up by saying: i have never bothered them (just to preempt someone saying: ‘maybe they said that because you harassed them’). We could help him write a better story 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 06:58 AM
102

Law enforcement is heaven for misogynists and narcissists. Even gives them access to guns as a substitute for self-esteem. Sadly free pass is often the outcome unless they kidnap a woman and leave her body somewhere or sit on a human being’s neck until they die asphyxiated live on youtube and people / the media end up making too much noise about it to ignore it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 06:47 AM
4

Best way to be. Hugs to you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 09:05 PM
19

Not dating because I got out of a bad relationship last year and we spent most of our time in various states of lockdowns since! This has been a great opportunity to find myself again, enjoy family time with the children, focus on work, do plenty of exercise, enjoy my friends and be happy again. I’m not on apps so I don’t serial date, maybe will be months before meeting someone interesting, hopefully meet a good man in the future or not. Ready to be happy in both scenarios :)!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 06:58 PM
33

Morning confirmation feels a bit like plan A let him down so he’s going through what’s left on his back burner…. 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 04:26 PM
12

Glad you’re out of that situation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 03:46 PM
15

Nothing of it is real, they are master manipulators. Good in you for walking!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 03:46 PM
156

I think you’re a bit generous with the morning of the date. If he hasn’t been in touch for days and doesn’t bother reconfirming the night before the date, I’d say make other plans already!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 02:25 PM
5

Engaging will not work I agree! Just an opportunity for OP to get guilt tripped and sucked back in. No point in taking that risk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 12:40 PM
9

You need to place your safety first. What I’m hearing through your post is that this person is caught up in his addiction and does not (cannot) love you. It will be hard but the only way you can help yourself and him is by leaving him. He has no plan of having a future with you, he made it clear. You owe it to yourself not to waste your youth on a person like that. Do not share any of your plans. Seek as much real life support as you can get and prepare your exit. Stay with friends, have them he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 12:38 PM
98

That’s a really good post, thank you and it’s so important to raise awareness. My last relationship had most of the flags you mention here! I had no idea about any of it as it was new to me. It was all very sneaky and started with the love-bombing which I think is the biggest of all and hugely underestimated. Once that dopamine rush that’s induced by the love bombing sets in and we feel good and in love, we just cannot believe what follows are red flags. Maybe we misunderstood? Maybe it’s a blip…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 12:26 PM
6

That irritated me so much 🤣! Obviously he knows what she is dealing with! 🙄🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 05:28 PM
18

Oh absolutely agree with you on this. Money talks and it’s a weapon. Good on you for spending ethically, society has made it hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 03:30 PM
104

Imo, the guy who whisks you away to a romantic weekend away and watches porn does not qualifies as a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 02:02 PM
415

Goodness! This guy sounds just like my ex!! He tried to help me stay slim throughout my pregnancy and was concerned I’d become fat 😳. A guy who says: I understand what she is going through deserves a slap!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 01:58 PM
71

You should have told her to date him herself if he is that AmAZinG
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 02:33 PM
14

I completely get it and there’s no denying it will be tricky (your pool of suitors will be smaller) because you earning your way is an essential part of being independent rather than a way for a guy to have a commitment-free girlfriend (as in them thinking you can look after yourself so they don’t have to make any effort towards the family unit). At your age, your potential suitors if single dads will also likely have young children which makes it even harder. This is why the vetting is even mor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 09:49 AM
32

I’ve been there and I felt the same way. Good on your you for owning it! The ones who put you down, do so from a place of envy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 09:27 AM
20

I can’t really answer your question from personal experience as I am not CF but my observation is the CF men I have dated (I am not generalising as like women there could be any number of reasons they were CF) were less emotionally mature than single dads and very self-cantered, mummy boys type. That’s why my preference now goes to single dads although I am open minded and it’s not a hard stop but I feel someone who has experienced taking care of other people is a little bit more in tune with pl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 09:15 AM
74

Sadly that’s often breeding ground for gaslighting. Certain things are not appropriate if you are in a monogamous relationship but some would just keep pushing boundaries and gaslight you into believing you are jealous, insecure, controlling, you name it....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 03:06 PM
7

Actually exercising doesn’t make you lose weight. Muscle mass is heavier than fat. He should know that if he is into sports. I use to go to the gym everyday and had to cut down because life got in the way and I actually lost weight. Balanced eating is just as important as exercising!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 01:22 PM
10

Maybe he was an athlete training for a pizza eating marathon (you should have asked him that whilst wearing 4’’ heels)🤔. Seriously, personality goes such a long way! Good on you for standing up for your right to have preferences!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 01:17 PM
18

Yes! Actually the only times I got short jokes (which I don’t mind I’m a shorty!) it was mostly from short guys a bit taller than me. And no you shouldn’t explain basic social skills and attraction to them. We can’t make them stop trying to make us responsible for their feelings but we can refuse to become responsible for their feelings. There is no short guy hatred intended when I say I like tall guys and I point blank refuse to be shamed for my preferences because someone who doesn’t meet them…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 12:14 PM
29

The negging and (attempts at) domination is a major turn off but they won’t be told their personality sucks. I get approached by taller guys more and I find them generally a lot more chilled, relaxed and confident in a non-dominant way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 11:25 AM
83

Your standards are yours and no one should argue them. If they don’t like it they can move onto someone more compatible but the hypocrisy is rife! FWIW, I also wouldn’t date someone who had casual sex / FWB as an option/substitute for relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 08:44 AM
39

That’s so very sad no matter how you look at it, it is objectifying. Mutual attraction is my kink is now my new motto! Can’t be kink shamed now :)!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 08:41 AM
77

Amen to that! And dare you say you won’t deal with SDE, oh boy! It is a personality thing. Attraction is physical as well as emotional, mental etc so really if you start barking at me because I should give you a chance then it’s not very attractive.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 08:38 AM
40

Same here. Though 5’10 is not really considered tall. My preference is 5’10 - 5’11 but I’ve dated over 6’ too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 08:15 AM
178

Can you imagine reversing that and saying you prefer dating short guys because they are so desperate that they splash the cash to impress? Reddit would self combust!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 08:08 AM
57

This is the core of the issue. They perceive their height as an issue and try to make someone else responsible for it. It’s not their fault (it’s not, it’s mother nature) but instead of bullying others they should spend more time on self acceptance. I can’t imagine a woman suffering from a mental illness such as severe depression and not be told to go to therapy to manage and accept this instead of dating and forcing others to date her. Also, off topic but I would imagine that dating with a disa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 08:04 AM
72

That’s so true, the same way they insist on dating shorter girls because that makes them feel manly and they perceive it as a chance to dominate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 07:57 AM
119

Oh my goodness! I have noticed the same 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 07:48 AM
263

Love how you put it! No equal opportunity vagina!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 07:45 AM
600

There is no discrimination in dating because it’s the private / intimate sphere so the ruling concept here is consent. You consent / decide who you have sex with. Would a straight short guy be called out discriminating for turning down a gay guy on the basis that he shouldn’t discriminate against the LGBT community? This debate is ridiculous. No one is owed a chance. You like / prefer / want what you want and shouldn’t have to justify yourself any further. I have seen posts on dating subs where …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 07:02 AM
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I personally think that causing a scene is still feeding their ego and need for attention and I wouldn’t stoop down to their level. Be done and be gone is my preferred reaction. They can whine all they like, I’m not giving them that much of my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 10:32 AM
24

Complety agree on this! No matter what the answer is, it’s very personal and knowing it brings nothing to the person asking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 12:13 PM
229

The game playing is an absolute turn off but also if he doesn’t pursue you, he just not that into you..... A guy will almost never turn down the opportunity of free sex so if you pursue them, even if they are not that into you, they will likely use you as a placeholder. What do we do with freebies? Leave them on the side and discard them because they have no value and we had to put no effort to get them.... I don’t buy the ‘maybe he is shy/scared of rejection b.s’. If a guy has basic social skil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 10:16 AM
93

I find that question so incredibly rude, never occurred to me to ask it. I was asked a few times before having children and it would really confuse me. What is it to you? Was my default answer 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 10:09 AM
126

What I have observed is a lot of claims of poor mental health ‘appear’ to justify bad behaviours and zero willingness from the men to actually do anything about it. My ex was only bringing up his depression when I had enough of his behaviour and was about to walk out but then when I asked about counselling or even medication, he would laugh at me or become angry. As OP rightly points out, why always the victim mentality, ‘why don’t you care’? We are not charities, care for yourself! Now it’s dif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 04:46 PM
38

I second that. Block him now. Don’t allow the b.s in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 04:00 PM
4

Ultimately, you need to decide what’s best for you. As an outsider, what I’m reading that he claims he is telling you the truth but there are already two different stories, so which one is the truth? His mom wouldn’t know about his private jokes with his friends. Being bisexual or gay is not wrong but the question is ‘do you feel comfortable with being with someone who is’. There is still a lot of stigma around this today so he might not have acted upon these feelings yet but they are definitely…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:42 AM
12

I would say it is possible he struggles accepting his sexuality or at the very questions it but as someone else commented, there is truth in the joke (especially a recurring joke like you described). Protect your heart and take care of yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:18 AM
10

She should go to each date with one of these cute little hamper pack they give you in hotels with a mini soap, shower cap, mini toothpaste and a couple of Q tips 🤣. That’s his complementary gift for buying dinner 😁.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 08:16 AM
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He is not dating, he wanted to get laid and hopes it continues as long as possible. He is not mentioning any attribute / quality he likes about her (apart from the fact she is equipped with a pulse and a vagina...), just that he was desperate and eventually found one with low enough standards to go along with it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 09:38 PM
44

Yes! Unless you have been together for years and work all week but seriously? On a first date? 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 09:35 PM
37

Love this 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 09:24 PM
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That’s so bloody rude! In a way I would say, you dodged a bullet and it’s blessing to know he is still playing knight in shining armour to his ex before you develop feelings but I can understand your astonishment!! Please block the loser. Don’t feel you have to ‘be nice’ just because you’re part of the same group. Hugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 09:22 PM
71

Is this a hypothetical story? If not then she’s got to decide if she’s happy marrying a bi guy but mostly someone who didn’t disclose his sexuality until engagement
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 12:01 PM
19

Too early to wreck your brain over. Block and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 10:39 PM
12

Some people are beyond help 🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 06:00 PM
30

Yes! I’ll teach you or ‘try, you might like it’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:51 PM
7

Great comment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:49 PM
169

NOt All MeN....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 08:02 AM
17

Wait he is starting it, he hasn’t fully started it yet 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 09:01 AM
14

Of course it’s women’s fault! And that bloody water 🤣. Not the sugary drinks and snacks. Oh wait maybe it’s a little bit their fault too. Nah nah it’s his wife’s fault for buying them 🤣. Do you remember the big bang theory episode when Howard tries the estrogen meds and get moobs? 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:59 AM
268

There have been plenty of surveys showing that single men have a shorter life expectancy than married ones. This is also why ‘traditional men’ really can’t stand feminists (loss of privilege, loss of control)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:39 AM
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My money is on married. Women his age (like is wife) have grey hair, wrinkles and saggy boobs - the evil woman dared raise his child and is tired. Younger women are more fun (they are easier to manipulate and don’t nag like his wife - that evil woman won’t let me on tinder!). He has 2 accounts so he can’t get more swipes for free (my wife looks at my bank statement and would get mad if she sees I’m on Tinder) and also I had to give a fake name so she doesn’t find me......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:31 AM
2

Ha yes sorry I misread :)!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 06:01 AM
132

Is he available for cloning 😁?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:34 AM
90

Saggy moobs....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:30 AM
155

I read that as he is married and trying to cheat on his wife.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:30 AM
1

Maybe THESE were his best pictures
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 07:29 PM
2

The dirty t-shirt is the new mafia suit! #trending
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 07:26 PM
2

They obviously missed the self-care step in between relationships 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 07:24 PM
2

How much objectification can the objectifier subject the object to, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:13 PM
11

That’s a good example too. Mine was a post where she was about to agree to a threesome with another woman and explore her bi side, he was basically nagging her to let him sleep with another woman in front of her and she was scared to lose him because apart from that one tiny detail (🤦🏼‍♀️) he was a great guy 🙄.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:28 PM
10

Hugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:32 PM
10

Sadly I have to agree with you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:32 PM
92

I seriously wonder what his goal was posting this on that particular sub, beyond the obvious attention seeking. Optimistic me thinks he is just an idiot, pessimistic me thinks he was looking for victims to indulge his sick fantasies. I saw something equally as out of place once on a normal dating sub. The OP was very distraught about her boyfriend trying to force her into a threesome and she was reluctantly about to give into his bullying. Most comments were advising her to dump the POS. One guy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 10:39 AM
12

You’ve done the hardest part, hang in there 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:20 AM
98

I cannot upvote your post enough! As someone who spent years dragging a dead weight in the ever faded hope he will improve himself while I slowly and steadily built a career for myself, I would say unless the guy who lost his job is fighting and succeeding to get back on track, it’s not good. I heard all the excuses under the sun. The reality is he was lazy, had no drive and relied on me. I’m no gold digger, I work hard for what I’ve got, I enjoy my life style and I wouldn’t be with someone who …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 06:41 PM
55

She is clumsy because she needs to improve her response to his bullying to a standard that is satisfactory to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 05:15 PM
20

There are so many theories that just rationalise bad behaviours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 05:12 PM
7

Regardless of his value, in my experience when you get the ick, there’s no way back. It might just be incompatibility of values but if you are not fulfilled, you can’t force it, you owe it to yourself to have a fulfilling relationship with yourself and someone else
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:14 PM
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I think you nailed it. I really don’t see any point in labelling that a relationship if they’re going to bang around, never mind getting married. He probably thinks this, he’s got one tied at home for the dry spells.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 07:05 AM
2

If romantic / dating partner, dump. Any other relationship, don’t engage. Either go silent or if you have to talk just repeat your point calmly without budging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 05:51 PM
52

And the sex on tap!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 05:26 PM
156

Not harsh. Best advice I ever followed! Make room for THE ONE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 05:25 PM
3

It’s far from over I agree because it’s so ingrained into society, in everyday language. Ever seen eyes rolling when you ask a complete stranger not to ask you darling? There is no valid excuse why it’s taking so long to catch up. Misogyny is the only pocket of socially tolerated hate crime left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 09:25 AM
1

Partying sounds good :)! Thank you for the advice snd I will definitely report back on my experiences on here 🤣!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:17 PM
57

I would have replied: WOW I earned your respect, now what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:15 PM
7

It can’t agree more. It’s a sad reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:16 PM
2

This was definitely a great post. I was considering meet ups but really more to meet people and perhaps something could develop rather relationship hunting per se. Looking around me though, that won’t be until next year at the very least. We had very strict lockdowns in the UK and all the players would feel sex starved and probably out to manipulate everyone and anyone to get some action......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 11:02 AM
63

The whole story was disgusting. This guy committed indecent exposure. Sarah complained and despite this, his gun wasn’t removed from him. He later kidnapped her, raped her and killed her. This was in the middle of the lockdown. Women organised a peaceful vigil for Sarah and to protest against violence against women (peaceful is the keyword here). Police officers used the lockdown breach excuse to lash out and commit violence against the women at the vigil. It has taken all this to finally label …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 08:59 AM
90

I don’t know where in the world you are but look up the tragic case of Sarah Everard in the UK. We have to remain vigilant at all times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:36 AM
8

1991 😢 Cannot believe how recent this is......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 06:33 AM
25

Good on you for blocking out the noise and finding your HVM!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 06:21 AM
14

❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 03:25 PM
3

A walking red flag. He is not trying to help you. He is forcing his presence on you. Don’t give him your number (tell him you’re busy that day), he’s giving off predator vibes. Try not to engage in conversation, hello and that’s it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 01:49 PM
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There is a lot of support on this sub and I can relate to your feelings. I previously tried to have constructive conversations on other subs but there wasn’t a genuine interest in discussing, it was mostly point scoring. It was very much like: you have an issue? You’re a woman, men have the same issue but bigger 🙄. Another side point as well, sadly a lot of men share those views but it’s not surprising. This used to be the norm (patriarchy). They used to be in control of everything so pushing fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 10:40 AM
181

...and a xanax
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 09:41 PM
36

That’s true, I was planning to try with my friend. At least, we’ll get a giggle and girls day out out of it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 02:44 PM
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Oh my goodness! I was interested in some honest feedback on meet ups, as I thought I might try that after everything goes back to normal and a few more months.... I might still try but doesn’t sound very encouraging 🤣! Thank you for your post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 02:22 PM
39

Makes me ashamed of my country :(. Direct correlation between football chavs, domestic abusers, xenophobes, brexiters and misogynists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 11:06 AM
17

I agree! And I like walks/outdoor etc but definitely not a date activity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 10:58 AM
85

A dude turns up at my home address and is there lurking for 40 minutes (if she has no idea how tall he is, would she give her address to a total stranger?!)... I call the police let alone go on a date with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 07:26 AM
11

His wife took a break from knitting him socks. Now the pour soul looks ridiculous 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 07:17 AM
34

Sounds plausible 🙄! Even if it was true, why not simply accept she has preferences? Also I doubt she’d wait for 5 minutes before the date to ask for his height.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 10:07 PM
117

The one and only thing you should know about me..... bye 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:33 PM
79

These dating apps are awful. Most men on there don’t have any social skills. There might be a minority of genuine good ones but there are so many liars, most lie on their age, height, marital or professional situation. Anything is game to get a date / sex (let’s face it, if they had genuine long terms intentions, they would know that sooner or later you would realise). It’s really not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:52 PM
1

She says they didn’t know the other woman was pregnant after they got back together. It wouldn’t surprise me if she didn’t know there was another woman at all. I can imagine his pleading: BuT wE wErE oN a brEAk!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 02:33 PM
14

Rubgy players 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 09:29 PM
12

I really like how you put it. I would just add that sadly the battle is not over in the West as not all discriminations are not equal, discrimination against women is deemed a lot more acceptable than discrimination against religion and as a result of certain non Western ideologies gaining more and more momentum in the West, it is often deemed acceptable to treat women as inferior BeCauSe iT’s THeiR rElIgIOn.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 04:00 PM
28

You absolutely hit the nail on the head! The era of just being a good party is over. Now they have to work for it and (shock horror!) women are even allowed to say no!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 07:33 AM
8

What you have been through was terrible and all those emotions you are feeling are very valid (anger, despair, sadness...). You need to allow yourself to feel them and go through them because it’s part of your healing process. You will have to take accountability, it’s hard and it’s terrifying but you need to get to the point where you can say: this was not my fault but now, I’m strong and I will not allow that to happen to me again. It won’t be an overnight process but you can do it. That littl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:18 AM
73

There is a world of difference between someone you love going through hell and someone you love putting you through hell. I would be empathetic to the first one not the second one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 08:31 AM
39

The question is... would we have listened then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:37 AM
9

I don’t understand why they get their knickers in a twist about it. ‘If you don’t want to pay for me, don’t ask me out. Problem solved!’ It is an indication of their value system so we can probably tell and weed out before first date. If not, it’s best to know at the first date. Past the initial awkwardness, I wouldn’t say anything or get upset about it. I would just pay my half and if they ask for a second date, just decline based on incompatibility and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:00 AM
8

You can by going on your profile. Under your username. You can block them so you no longer see them but I don’t think you can block them from seeing your, your posts or following you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 05:45 PM
84

All the credit for using your voice. I wish you the best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 02:38 PM
106

Preeti had the balls to dump the scrote! She is a danger to the other scrotes and the other women who could follow in her foot steps. Go Preeti!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 02:36 PM
37

If the man asks a lady out, surely he expects to pay? Otherwise it’s not a romantic date, it’s a meal with a friend and automatic friendzone 🤷🏼‍♀️. It’s like inviting someone to your house for dinner and asking them to bring half the food 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️. Tbh looking at him though, not sure how often he goes on dates.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 02:32 PM
84

If the man asks a lady out, surely he expects to pay? Otherwise it’s not a romantic date, it’s a meal with a friend and automatic friendzone 🤷🏼‍♀️. It’s like inviting someone to your house for dinner and asking them to bring half the food 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️. Tbh looking at him though, not sure how often he goes on dates.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 02:32 PM
18

🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 10:08 AM
46

She might be too exhausted for sex because he doesn’t pull his weight with the housework so the husband posted this out of spite....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 09:22 PM
18

Oh my gosh 🤮. Go get a second husband 😁!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 09:21 PM
6

I’m glad you’re out of that situation. And I agree, asking yourself why only opens the door to b.s., gaslighting and self-doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 04:28 PM
2

Heehee 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 04:27 PM
26

🤣🤣🤣 LVMs can’t take feedback! 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 02:21 PM
36

The pathologic self-justifying unapologetic liar type 🙄🤦🏼‍♀️. It’s always out of selfishness and to save their ass from being aggravated or dumped. I once got a ‘if I had told you, you would have told me to buzz off’. Guess what happened....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:42 AM
29

LVMs are going to be LVMs. Not all men who are into petite ladies are fetishising them. If you get those vibes from a guy, don’t go there regardless of the reason, you don’t want a creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:36 AM
319

When a man tells you something negative, believe him the first time and run for the hills. When he says something positive, check his actions to see if they match his words. If not, run for the hills. At no point, ask yourself why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 10:42 PM
5

To take away?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 10:36 PM
20

Nice camera! You’ve got to like a man with a good equipment 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 07:37 PM
61

Instant turn off!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 04:32 PM
150

I can’t think of anything sexier than a man who has drive, passion, control over his life and doesn’t let himself controlled by sex or whines all day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:27 PM
2

They know exactly what they are foing aren’t they
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 09:30 PM
14

What a disgrace!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 02:33 AM
40

Eternal beauty inside and out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 06:56 PM
8

Statistically men get higher paid jobs and more promotions than women because they are more confident and have a more risk taking attitude. Translated in lemans terms, they happily lie on their application and bullshit their way through interviews. Women would go for jobs where they meet all requirements, men would check half the boxes and wing it. The sad part? It works....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:18 PM
18

That’s a very chav population indeed! Good luck Ukraine 🇺🇦!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:05 PM
240

Yes that’s exactly the message it gives off. Same applies to organised religious groups hiding women under layers of clothes to protect them from males’ lusty gaze and then seeing little girls adorned in the same fashion really highlight those predatory behaviours and how female children are perceived. Unacceptable on any ground.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:09 AM
56

Poor love 😢. Some people really are pathetic 😤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:05 AM
70

I did too. I candidly asked once: is it in? Oh my! He got so angry 🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:28 PM
1

Oh no, I was expecting a Jason Momoa look a like 🤣!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:49 PM
37

6’’ is really not that big, you shouldn’t find it difficult to find and don’t settle for less. As others have said, quiet confidence is a sign he has a decent size. You don’t want to deal with small man/willy syndromes anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:45 PM
4

I’m game, does it mean: I’m too lazy to introduce myself, my good looks speak for themselves?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:41 PM
57

Wow! If being a piece of shit was an Olympic discipline this guy would get a gold medal! He HAS been having an emotional affair with that woman for 2 years so he is cheating on his wife! If this younger lady is willing to take on a cheater then at least she knows what to expect! The poor wife in the background doing the pick me dance 😔. I so hope she cleans him out for all he’s got and the other woman dumps his ass. Why would she want a guy who could be her dad. Deluded 🙄.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 12:16 PM
74

Ha! Didn’t I read somewhere that feminists were all fat and ugly? 🤣 All her points are valid but, sigh, this is basic. We need repeating them to ourselves regularly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 11:47 AM
30

Lol bless. They can always try 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 08:17 PM
78

What I don’t get is the obsession. Ok you think I’m ugly and you wouldn’t date me and also I will alone. Fine, I appreciate your concern but move on now. Whereas i don’t particularly spend my days dreaming of these guys. I only really think about them when setting myself boundaries and spot n avoid the sneaky ones. There is also there mild entertaining value of when they get mad but either than that I think about my family, me, the kind of guys I’m hoping to attract 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 07:18 PM
70

Yet how many people would minimise those point, roll their eyes or call you prude... this is an uncomfortable truth for some (sadly most)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 03:41 PM
14

All ladies need to stay off dating apps unless they want a hookup. Nothing wrong if a hookup is all they want but anything more is a minefield. There are a lot more men than women seeking hookups so some men will pretend they want more just to get that hookup / date. Look at the dating over xx sub, all the posts and comments from women being catfished by time wasters lying on their age, height, marital status, financial situation etc. Whilst there might be a few genuine ones, the vast majority s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 03:35 PM
26

Good on you! I’m glad you took yourself out of there! They market themselves as ‘nice’ so presumably, they mean they have a nice personality, right? But if a woman only seeks casual sex what does the personality matter? She might as well go for the handsome one! So already, they are completely manipulative pretending they are ugly are nice and wants to treat us right but they just want sex, then get angry because the woman who only wants sex goes after the good looking one and the woman who want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 07:54 PM
26

Can you self-award? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 06:58 PM
37

I hope this third date was also the last!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 06:57 PM
183

Womankind can only be grateful for this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:05 PM
296

I’d say they are worse. The only reason why they sleep with less women is because less women are interested but given a chance, they would. Having low self-esteem, they are likely to wander off at any attention given.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:02 PM
59

That would tip me over the edge and would grant a: ‘welcome Sherlock, want a medal?’ They do know and always target young, pretty girls who mind their own business.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 09:07 AM
35

I loved the: ‘don’t give women money for nothing but support my patreon that will surely get you ahem... nothing?’ You can’t make it up 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 08:08 AM
9

Enjoy 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 08:02 AM
73

I really don’t think they care whether it’s welcome or not. An answer is better than no attention to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 07:59 AM
124

They are vile and always the predators tactics. Is this chair free? How are you? What’s your name? Always always the same. I remember awkwardly answering at that age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 07:58 AM
4

That’s true, if you say no, alternative options are plenty. The more give up the pick me dance, the less the options but we are a long way away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 10:54 PM
69

I just spat out my tea 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:44 PM
13

Indeed! I sometimes spend up to 10 seconds wondering what their end goal actually is. Then I carry on with the rest of my life 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:54 PM
16

Indeed! I sometimes spend up to 10 seconds wondering what their end goal actually is. Then I carry on with the rest of my life 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:54 PM
40

I think it really is a great analogy! I am fully convinced I previously was a cat and brought my feline traits over to this life so if they don’t like cats, that simply would not work. Joking aside, I have seen a couple of posts from people considering rehoming pets on a new partner’s request. I find that totally appalling. It’s controlling to say the least. I also tend to think that people who don’t like animals have little/no compassion and are just not very nice so to me that wouldn’t be a re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 06:09 PM
31

I’ve had many of these discussions, truly sad and disappointing. Happy to be boring 🤣!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:26 AM
115

Because it fits in perfectly within the narrative: you are a modern women, therefore you are empowered to have sex with no string attached, you can’t admit that it’s not what you want because it’s so uncool and twentieth century. You must be sex positive and accept that the other party can do anything they want. It’s now so common place that there is a huge pressure (from men and pick mes to go on these dating apps - even the terminology.... ‘dating’ apps when really it’s really hookup apps). If…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:16 AM
349

Your post made me cry, it reminded me of my grandad so so much ❤️. He is probably the reason why my bar is so high. Beautiful story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:12 AM
57

One hair dye a day keeps the scrotes away 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 09:28 PM
8

Oooh forgot it was Friday.... 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 12:32 PM
67

Maybe this is it, the universal explanation to LVM behaviour.... constantly repressing their gay tendencies makes them angry, bitter and envious towards women 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 09:19 AM
26

That put me off my marmite sandwich! 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 08:50 AM
10

You are so strong and an inspiration ❤️. Please get yourself and your cat to safety (can you be rehoused where he won’t find you?). You have done the hardest part, be proud of your strength. Sending you hugs 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 07:09 AM
67

That’s a really good point. If I get bad vibe or don’t fancy him/his manners for any reason, I’ll insist to pay for my meal as there’s no romantic vibe and I know there won’t be a second date. If I like him enough for a second date, I’ll offer once to split. If he accepts, I’ll view that as friendzoned and I won’t go on a second date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 06:51 AM
68

That’s terrifying. Young ladies should stay off these apps. Men use them as an easy low effort way to get sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 06:45 AM
16

Her low self esteem makes her a prime target for users and abusers. Living in a place where women objectification is rife and mainstream (on tv women host are just there to be pretty, hyper-sexualised and nd half naked) must be really hard to think this is not ‘natural’ and how things should be. Her account sounds that of a redpiller or whatever these incels are called.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:40 PM
20

Stop torturing yourself. It’s hard but you need to block him and move on, for your own good. You will get there, it will take longer if you dwell on the past. If he doesn’t care (anymore), why should you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:33 PM
2

I completely agree and really grateful for good men (real men) like him investing his time to help and mentor the next generation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:12 PM
2

It actually is. Consent when under pressure or alcohol or drug is not enthusiastic consent I was listening to this this morning. A guy who explains the consent of consent to boys in school and the fact that Consent is not a game you have to win. I thought it was a really good speaker https://youtu.be/yJiKeWtTWA4
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:00 PM
7

No idea how old your mom is (I guess not much older than me) and certainly don’t mean any disrespect to her but most guys will try for sex given a chance and if they can get that on the cheap, they absolutely will! I would never tell my daughter to go for drinks! And don’t insist on dinner date (I don’t), if he asks me on a date and it’s coffee or drink or other low effort activity, that’s all I need to know to politely decline! When going for dinner, especially if a first date, don’t get drunk …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 10:28 AM
3

That is exactly why there are so few rape convictions. Rapists are trying hard to demote consent from enthusiast consent to just consent so they can fully exploit that ‘grey area’... bUt ShE SaId YeS! Their intent is never to ensure consent is enthusiastic but to bypass the hurdle (yay a challenge to conquer!) in order to obtain sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 06:38 AM
1

Harvey Weinstein? 🤔 Bad bad women. Can’t they just shut up and get on with it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 06:29 AM
5

Probably to test who has low enough self esteem to go along with this bs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 09:46 PM
9

🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:17 PM
32

Of course they will never admit or else no one would sleep with them (ie even less options)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:13 PM
21

Look! One hidden comment, he is trying to respond and spread the love ❤️!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:05 PM
177

Our eggs are scroteproof! So should we be!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:03 PM
40

This is exactly what I asked a male friend about his daughter once, he flew into a rage!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:30 PM
40

Amen! It’s like the world has gone crazy and porn has become a very acceptable exception to monogamous relationships! That together with the gaslighting that porn and masturbation are the same thing, well they are not!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:22 PM
49

That is so vile, imagine moving in with a man with your daughter (effectively she becomes his step daughter) and finding out he watches that trash....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 04:31 PM
304

I don’t think anyone would be so naive to believe that porn is not abusive and that it’s empowering to women. It suits their purpose so they don’t want to hear / know otherwise. Setting aside the abuse, trafficking, pedophilia and prostitution aspect of it, how someone can justify that porn would be compatible with relationships is beyond me. I guess for most LVMs, that’s the closest to sex they will ever get.... quite pathetic. Real men don’t need porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 11:00 AM
3

Thank you 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:23 AM
65

You would wonder! If you don’t work you’re a gold digger, if you work, they get mad 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 06:09 PM
286

Don’t ever place your fate in somebody else’s hands!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 04:12 PM
100

I don’t blame him, FDS is awesome, I’m sure he is learning a lot and becoming a better person or else why would he do it 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:34 PM
31

I agree, I was being mildly sarcastic whilst poking at those lurking bears a bit 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 11:12 AM
89

Why do they feel so threatened because they have been gaslighting women for centuries into staying in their lanes and they don’t want us having a voice these women can hear. HVMs have no issue with us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 11:11 AM
66

Well I guess in a way, we’re providing a service to the community then, entertainment so they’re not out in the street causing trouble 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 10:42 AM
172

Good reminder thank you. Do they have that much time on their hands? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 10:07 AM
45

They always come back, that’s why it’s best to block them. If in person, I just ignore and keep control of the situation, i.e excuse myself and don’t engage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 08:41 PM
2

You live rent-free in their heads 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 08:29 PM
3

Oh good to know, thank you! Actually was very confused at first but now I know they do that, I think it’s hilarious 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 08:10 PM
9

Oh that’s what it was!! I was wondering where that came from 🤷🏼‍♀️🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 07:08 PM
16

Yes that’s very true and I also noticed some tall women are happy to go for shorter guys but that’s no good to them, they have a preference (!!) for women shorter than them (i.e whom they can dominate). Sigh we can’t win so we might as well stop caring!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 03:41 PM
87

BBD: big beautiful dick?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 02:02 PM
43

My vagina does not have an equal right to access to all, cheers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 01:53 PM
25

🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 01:50 PM
80

Size affects pleasure and reaches more pressure points, it’s nothing to do with being loose. This has also nothing to do with the guy’s skills. He may or may not have great skills but at equal skill level, size makes a difference. What’s worrying is the societal pressure to shut women up always about anything they perceive as remotely negative. Downvoted and shamed for saying they prefer a more generous size, meanwhile, they are queuing at the plastic surgeon waiting for their breast augmentatio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 12:55 PM
1

Lovely story, thank you for sharing, it lifts the spirits :)! 2 dates is not a lot though so don’t drop your guard and protect your heart :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:38 PM
2

Sigh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:05 PM
4

Good grief, is there a profession where we are taken seriously and not fetishised?! I mean, we know about the sexy teacher, the sexy secretary, the sexy nurse... the sexy estate agent now too 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 05:38 PM
2

So close, so so close! Poor him: they FORCE him into acquaintances status.... I’m so torn between rolling my eyes and laughing 🙄🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 04:22 PM
2

You don’t have to have or give a reason to leave a relationship. It’s not always abusive, there isn’t always cheating sometimes people just change and grow apart. You need to do what makes you happy. One thing I noted in your post, maybe I’m reading between the lines wrong, but he changed jobs and had a significant reduction in his income. To me that’s a decision that affects both of you as a couple and it should have been discussed rather than imposed. Do what feels right in your heart and don’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 01:38 PM
8

I could have written your post! Glad you’re out of it 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 10:51 AM
61

The not getting attached too quickly is crucial and the only way to weed out the love bombers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 02:30 AM
12

Such a shame... :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 01:17 PM
32

They hate us AND the fact that we are spreading the word thus reducing their hookup pool....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 01:16 PM
9

And she agreed? :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 01:03 PM
103

With the vaccination programmes progressing and various lockdowns / bans easing across the world, all the entitled sex starved LVMs will be out hunting with a view of any game is fair game. Ladies stay aware and increase vetting. Please stay off OLD for a while if that’s what you usually use but generally speaking stay aware everywhere. Excellent post OP. Being around HVW helps building a network. If we meet a guy through that network, we can get more insight into his personality/history and cut…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 07:41 AM
21

Quite amazing for the times! I could never have got my head around changing my name and whole identity / family history and / or have my children have a different last name (they have both names). And I’m not in a country where it’s common to keep your ‘maiden’ name or for children not to have the father’s name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 07:30 AM
428

How very sad to not have the children you bear for 9 months into this world not be named after you 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:46 PM
15

Yes I agree, fight on all front. Women who need to understand they don’t need to be pickmes. Still can be sexy but there are so many more ways to be sexy other than making ourselves look like porn actresses. Stop dating porn addicts. Reject objectification by simply not giving them that attention. Confidence is sexy! So all ways to be independently positive are good ways to not pander to the patriarchal model that women have been put on this planet to be pretty, to passively wait to be chased, t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 07:18 PM
75

Great post! It also comes down to LVMs not liking when we have preferences. They don’t like high standards, preferences, think it makes us shallow and that we should give everyone a chance. I will defend my right to have preferences and to choose whoever I find sexually or otherwise attractive until my last breath. We have almost been put in a position to deny we find anyone attractive for fear of being called shallow or objectifying men. Well sod that 😁! If they try to project their insecuritie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 04:58 PM
81

They usually complain it’s objectifying when it’s another guy you find attractive and not them 🤣.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 04:51 PM
3

Now I remember why Friday is my favourite day of the week 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 11:52 AM
10

Well OP.... Happy Friday to you too! 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 11:50 AM
58

He is doing a spreadsheet with columns (fav food, fav colour, date number 1,2,3) 😁! I also thought serial dater!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:53 PM
6

I have read a lot about mindfulness and dialectical behavioural therapy. I got Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:58 PM
70

I’m so proud of you for walking away. It can’t have been easy. You are going to have to start practicing radical acceptance and let go off what has happened and cannot be changed. Your daughters will come around, they don’t see everything you have been through and in a way it’s thanks to you who has sheltered them from that toxicity. You can’t make people love you or accept you so keep loving them, be neutral to their dad and don’t accept judgement, no one but you knows what you have been throug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 06:43 PM
2

You need to tell him what he is saying does not make sense. If he avoids or gets angry, you have your answer.... he is not an HVM. He should make sure he is transparent with his past and you are comfortable with it. We all have a past, no point lying about it unless there is something bad to hide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:01 PM
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It sounds a bit fishy, in my experience if something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. The story of the crazy ex always raises alarm bells with me. Of course it is very possible that she suffered from a mental health condition and it is also very possible that he suffered from domestic violence but from the way you relate it, it almost feels like he was telling you this lightheartedly. If you have been together for 6-12 months you are within your right to ask questions: did he seek therapy …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:30 PM
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You summarised your own post in one word: ‘pickme’. Please pick me, I’m begging you, I’d do anything.... It blows my mind how people can inflict people they claim to love pain but there you are, the horribly stuck up kink shamer. That’s the extent of today porn culture propaganda. The problem is pickmes are actively contributing to the other party having options and the luxury to go minimum effort. Also, what’s wrong with the STD acronym? It’s like being part of a cult where they all act and tal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 06:46 PM
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They are not compatible, she should release that fish back in the pond. She will regret it. And to echo the comment below, domestic violence rates and misogyny are high in that field.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:21 AM
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So much energy wasted in my younger years worrying about being too much this or not enough that! Oh the joy of developing a dontgiveafuckness 😁!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:25 PM
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Don’t worry about what other people think. Let the negativity pass over your head and be confident in yourself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:27 PM
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True story! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 12:47 PM
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I can relate to your post even the timing of the break up. I can’t say I feel lonely though. I will be honest, walking away was very hard and I have missed the good times (emotional reaction to trauma bonding) but as time has passed I have been feeling so much better. I have focussed all my energy on myself since, starting mindfulness again, zumba, yoga, spent more time with my friends. It doesn’t feel lonely. Physical affection is amazing but only with that special person who will genuinely car…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 12:21 PM
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Dying love apps!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:50 PM
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Instant gratification.... if this one doesn’t match my expectation, I’ll swipe off to that all elusive perfect girl.... too much choice to hold anyone’s attention long enough to delve deeper into the inner layer of someone’s personality. It’s not meant to work on a larger scale. It’s meant to keep people swiping for profit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:25 PM
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Great post, thank you! I can relate too. Glad you found your happiness ❤️🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:05 PM
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It’s a crying shame on humanity that in 2021 (when human is clever enough to go to Mars), we still have to ‘fix it’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:59 AM
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Awesome!! 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:35 PM
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Oh hello there 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:23 PM
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So young it’s heartbreaking! The narcissism and gaslighting in this post is absolutely vile. It’s easy to tell her to leave him but how hard it must be at her age and with 3 young children. I always advocate for young women to take their time before getting married and start a family to vet their partner and allow the HVM mask to drop and run away if they find out they are dealing with an LVM. Mostly, please ladies know your worth and keep your independence! We all look after our home and our ch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:20 PM
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Men using any type of sex workers (porn, prostitution, cam girls) are an instant turn off for me. That makes them unattractive and desperate. Apart from the obvious horror women and children abuse the porn industry is (because I heard NVM say - ‘that’s ok, I only watch amateur people’ whatever that means) why would I want to be in a relationship with a guy who ‘needs’ to stare at 100s women in the vjj in order to jerk off. Ultimate turn off, they may remain in a long term relationship with their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:55 AM
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It was a poor attempt at mild sarcasm! ‘Hammerthrowing’ sounds better 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:04 PM
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Not the kind of individual that would take any notice of what she has to say. I wouldn’t waste my breath apart from maybe inform him that I will never have sex with that pig ever. Then pack his bags in bin bags and stack them neatly outside the front door from when he comes back from work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:35 PM
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It will be tough, then tougher, then it will start getting better and better. You need to go no contact and stick to it. Block him from all platforms. If you need to get personal belongings from each other’s house, do it via third party. It will really speed up the healing process. List the reasons you left on sticky notes and put them on your fridge. Finally keep your head busy, do whatever makes you feel good, go out with the girlies, gym, swimming, basically anything that doesn’t let you sit …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:13 PM
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Glad he is an ex. Hugs to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:00 PM
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Yes and that’s why men always scream that we shouldn’t diagnose them in the absence of a formal diagnosis (which I guess is a fair point for any condition) because in reality there are very few true narc. Well there are actually a lot more than the statistics show because they think they are so perfect that it wouldn’t occur to them to seek therapy. They also think they are a lot smarter than the rest of humanity including doctors and counsellors so why seek their help. There are a lot (A LOT) m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:50 PM
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Aaah that makes a lot of sense! I did wonder, thank you :)!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:44 PM
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I thought when removed, they would still show a [removed]
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:04 PM
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Sounds familiar, sigh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:04 AM
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I can relate to this but please don’t under value the amazing positive influence we have on them. We shape the men of tomorrow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:20 PM
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Let’s make the L/NVM an extinct breed for the sake of future generations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:14 PM
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That reminds me of my first job (customer service) training: never admit responsibility or the customer will ask for a refund, just say: ‘I’m sorry you feel this way’ promptly followed by ‘but we haven’t done anything wrong’. Then the extra step with the ex.... I’m sorry you feel this way >>> I haven’t done anything wrong >>> there must be something wrong with you (overreacting? Paranoid? Crazy?)!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:20 PM
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Both points are very valid. HVMs don’t engage with porn and / or pickmes, which means HVMs are the needles in the haystack. They have always been very rare but before the choice of sex was so available, LVMs had to seek commitment in order to get sex (didn’t mean there weren’t wannabe cheaters, just that they didn’t have that many easy options to have sex/gratification outside the relationship). Even the most charmless, ugliest inside and outside LVMs now thinks he is a desirable hunk because pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 09:37 AM
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Well if your view is cast away as retrograde, I’m quite happy to sit with you on the retrograde bench. I think sex should be withheld until if not marriage but at least until meaningful monogamous commitment and the only true measure of ‘meaningful’ is time. You can’t go half naked in a bar, get drunk meet a guy, become exclusive and have sex the same night and then be disappointed he ghosts the following day. Zero moral judgement here, it’s about self respect and doing what you need to do to re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 08:46 AM
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So lovely to hear. Happy for you. A bit sad I’m straight now after reading this 😊!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:19 PM
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The fact a man is rich can certainly (but does not automatically) demonstrate commendable character traits such as personal drive, desire for growth, entrepreneurship, resilience, hard work etc. It doesn’t necessarily mean this person will be a good partner, they might (of course they also may not) see you as a property / trophy they purchased or simply a maid/breeder. So we really need to remain aware and look at the whole picture: how is this person treating us, do they care and us, our feelin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 02:28 PM
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Exactly, it’s a contract. He pays her, she serves him. If they are both happy with it fine but it can be revoked unilaterally at any time by either party. There is no entitlement as such and although there is a level of (financial) security on divorce especially if there are children, the price to pay for not working is still placing your fate into someone else’s hands. As long as it works for them.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:23 AM
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So she entitely relies on him for her livelihood, if he loses his incomes, something happens to him, he cheats or dumps her for the younger model in 10/20 years time, she has nothing. She doesn’t do anything more than what a single working mum/wife does. She just relinquishes her independance. That wouldn’t work for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:51 AM
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Closure is important. Get your power and emotional independence back and give yourself closure. That’s the only one worth getting (you won’t get anything from the one who treated you bad and that’s why the relationship is over).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:37 AM
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I had never heard of it, that’s interesting insight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 08:50 AM
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I highly doubt these women want to enter those temples for the sole purpose of spitting hatred and criticise those monks. They are places of worship as well as cultural sites so unless they behave inappropriately, there is no reason to ban them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 08:47 AM
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Agree with everything she says but also, she’s beautiful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:33 PM
15

Money talks. We have to be extremely careful as to where we place our money and who we sponsor and thoroughly research these organisation are not a front to cover darker motives
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:02 PM
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You forgot: keep downvoting, it’s funny to know you’re pissed off 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:27 PM
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Well... actually.... porn use makes it limp overtime (it’s not a funny topic but it had to be pointed out 😁)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:30 PM
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... and to complete the mental gymnastic , gaslight everyone by shaming the kink shamer. There you go, you really can’t win now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 01:48 PM
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Never heard of it but it sounds abject. Probably another pearl of the porn culture and another reason why it needs to stop. The gift that keeps on giving :(.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 11:56 AM
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Exactly! If he’s turned on and finds something like that sexy, there’s something not right with him. I dread to think what other fantasies relating to illegal sexual activities would be acceptable......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:52 AM
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This makes me feel sick. I hope this poor girl needing space is her realisation that this guy enjoys hurting her and has no respect for her body or her feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:45 AM
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I am sorry to read this. I know you are scared but that is how he holds you. Your feelings of fear and anxiety are completely valid. Please seek real life support. Can you tell your boyfriend and stay with him or a friend/family for a bit? You then need to send this man a clear and short message: ‘please do not contact me again’ and then block him from all media. No explanation. Any further contact from him go straight to the police. I know it’s scary but finding your power back is the only way …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:41 PM
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Good on you! If he can’t take the feedback he shouldn’t put (impose?) himself in the firing line! I’m sure love blossoms everywhere but if he couldn’t even read by your body language that you weren’t interested, he needs to go and work on his social skills. Did you report it to the gym (they should make sure their fee paying members are not coming in to endure harassment)?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:36 PM
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Saying no is the only defensive weapon against LVMs. Sex is all they are after for gratification, control or ego boosts. They feel they deserve it and anything is fair game to obtain it (lies, manipulation, future faking, paying, etc). Saying no until we are sure we are not dealing with a wolf in sheep’s clothes is the only way. Over the centuries, we earned the power to say yes and have sex with who we want, sadly men have used that against us to get free sex. With the power to say yes, we also…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 08:12 AM
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That’s so sad. The best advice I ever received was to match the level of interest. If he doesn’t care, why should you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 08:02 AM
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BuT I’m A NiCe GuY 🙄🙄🙄 (triple eye roll)! They can’t handle being figured out. How dare you not seeing them as the flawless superhero they are... superheroes don’t need therapy, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 11:52 PM
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Why o why even go on this date? When he started with the directions for the first date. I would have just excused myself that i was tired and blocked him! Actually no, even before that... he is making me go go all the way across the city to his place for the first date? No way. Then a walk in the wood? I hope she thought about asking him to confirm he wasn’t a serial killer!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 10:23 PM
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If only!!! Good idea :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 05:32 PM
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Things haven’t changed much... if you are a woman and successful today, it will be assumed that you climbed the ladder thanks to sexual favours. Sigh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 05:26 PM
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I’m British. I haven’t seen that often (unless it’s very discreet and/or I’m oblivious 😊). But in Europe too there is more protection of privacy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:15 PM
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Beautiful post, very inspirational. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 11:30 AM
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It’s highly creepy but also illegal to take pictures of people without their consent. I don’t care if he is a professional photographer or a professional monk in search of transcendental inspiration, it’s lack of basic human respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 11:28 AM
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🙄🙄🙄 She should have tried the labour contractions simulator, now that would have been fun!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 09:25 PM
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You can play with your empty jar, I make my own money, thanks! If you can’t buy me a thoughtful present just because you love me, then it says a lot about you as a human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:42 PM
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Gosh what she requires is pretty basic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:38 PM
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Wow what a piece of trash!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:56 PM
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You’re preaching to the choir!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 09:30 AM
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That’s disheartening. I read the porn industry is worth more that Hollywood and aims at creating addiction. All porn users are potential addicts. I don’t see things changing though sadly, it’s made for men by men. They have pushed such a propaganda that it’s now widely labelled ‘normal and healthy’. So you don’t get shamed for it but you do get shamed for not embracing it (prude, stuck up etc). Even a lot of feminists have played into their narrative and been brainwashed into calling it ‘empower…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 07:28 AM
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Seeing how low can low be, dying alone doesn’t sound like such a punishment after all.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 07:05 AM
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If the other woman had everything the SO had plus one thing the SO didn’t have, then the cheater would have dumped the SO for her. Instead, he much rather have his cake and eat it. So much easier than being a good partner. Truly sad that women blame themselves for their partner cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:50 PM
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= open-tomybullshit 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:58 PM
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Oh gosh! The ‘don’t take yourself too seriously’!! That’s a gem! That’s what women have been told for centuries!! ‘I’m only slapping your butt, why do you take yourself so seriously! You should be flattered’ said the complete stranger on the street 😳. Basically training you to comply with whatever bullying from the get go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:50 PM
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Yes I guess it’s more about how do you find out in the first place. Gaslighting is a weapon of choice. Once you find then you need out, trust id gone and there’s no going back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:13 PM
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Exactly how my first relationship was. No snooping but being open and relaxed about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:40 AM
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Oh absolutely agree! And actually, my first long term relationship where there was no cheating involved, we had access to each other’s phones. It came about naturally that he would sometimes use my phone when he couldn’t find his and vice versa. No snooping but no hiding either. Its awful to live without trust so I agree if you constantly feel the need to check on someone, it probably means, your alarm bells are ringing and/or there are broader issues. I would hate to snoop but knowing I can and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:37 AM
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Those ones only see being in a relationship as a necessary evil to get regular access to sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:21 AM
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I never understood the ‘that’s invasive of my privacy’ argument - which by the way only seems used by cheaters in the first place. Ok so what about your behaviour? Shall I just ask you: are you cheating? Having an emotional affair? Engaging in sexual behaviours real or virtual outside our relationship? So that you can reassure me you’re not and proceed to gaslight me 🤔? I’m now increasingly thinking I’d like an open phone policy in my next relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:01 AM
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It sadly is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 08:35 AM
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It’s always a red flag when they insist on open-minded. I read it as: ‘you must be willing to flex your boundaries for me’. Or ‘you have to be understanding of me being monogamous but wanting to eXpLoRe’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 08:18 AM
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Has anyone got any tips on how / where to find a HVM in the wild (I don’t do OLD)?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:40 AM
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Sex is sadly often used as control. They want sex with the feminist to put her in her place and dump her afterwards. Like the Suffragettes in the 19th century were raped by policemen so they shut up and obey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:35 AM
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Good on you! I was in your situation but didn’t walk straight away. I wish I did.... When you said he / the relationship was great in many other areas in my opinion, it’s just a front. At some point, the mask would have dropped. In my experience, it went from caring and considerate to downright abusive. I read an article about a survey stating, we can’t prove the porn makes them abusive but most if not all high offenders in prisons display porn addiction behaviours. Add to that, the erectile dys…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 06:40 AM
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To me a green flag is a guy who, very early on is vocal about how amazingly good hearted he is, selflessly generous to everyone, never lies, never cheats, etc.... those have often proven to be the opposite afterwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:09 PM
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