How Do You Handle This Comment/ Argument Tactic by Men

BlueSkiesOverLondon · 2021-07-17T17:24:40+00:00

I know this isn’t the response you were hoping for, but if he’s saying this, you should stop talking to him as much as possible. We don’t do snappy comebacks on FDS. We refuse to reward bad behavior with attention.

If for some reason you must respond, just keep asking him “Do you not care about my feelings?” Until he gives up. You don’t have to explain why you feel something to justify that feeling’s existence. Men certainly don’t.

ETA I similarly recommend “You don’t have to understand, you just have to stop doing (thing).”

AngryTiger69 · 2021-07-17T17:35:38+00:00

In dating, the only comeback is to stop engaging. Throughout the years, I have heard many entertaining excuses from men regarding their justifications for ghosting me. 😂

“Never to wrestle with a pig. You get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it.”

Work is trickier. I’ve had men gaslight me to the point where I literally just tell them “get out of my office”. There was also one time my coworker told me I needed to learn how to be “logical” and “have good judgement”. I got angry to the point where I said “you need to shut the fuck up” - this was in front of my boss too 😂. It actually worked. He shut his mouth and apologized the next day and my bosses didn’t care.

In a meeting full of people, the best strategy is to go to every meeting as prepared as possible for all possible insults. So if they criticize your work, you will know exactly how to respond and how to explain why their judgements are incorrect in a confident tone. I always over prepare for meetings since I’m a woman working in a male dominated field.

flowerpower102938 · 2021-07-17T17:22:32+00:00

No comeback. No arguments. Grey rock them.

They feed off your energy

thepsychopathhunter · 2021-07-17T17:30:16+00:00

I agree with the other comments to not engage. But if you want to say something before cutting contact, I usually stick with something like, “I don’t have to justify my valid emotional reactions to outrageous behavior. It’s unacceptable” as a closing statement.

millions_ofpeachs4me · 2021-07-17T17:38:22+00:00

Two things, really. First, you don’t roll in shit with pigs; the pigs like it and you get dirty, which is to say, don’t engage with them. Know that they’re trying to get a rise out of you so don’t reward them with energy. Be a gray rock with a cold stare and they won’t find you fun to antagonize. If they continue anyway: “That’s not very professional/polite/whatever/That’s gross.” Cold stare, cringe, move on. Second, if you’re truly offended and/or they won’t back down from their denial strategy, simply call it out. “I don’t think you’re stupid. You know what you said.” No more words to waste after that.

In dating, you’re correct. That’s an immediate dump.

ButterfliesHurricane · 2021-07-17T17:51:21+00:00

If romantic / dating partner, dump. Any other relationship, don’t engage. Either go silent or if you have to talk just repeat your point calmly without budging.

SuitablePerformance3 · 2021-07-17T17:38:07+00:00

I don't play scrote games period. There's no winning with an idiot, they'll just talk you in circles, they have no logic just words.

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