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GREEN FLAG 🟢FDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 04:38 AM
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#HeAin'tTheOne2021FDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 09:34 PM
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FDS HUMORFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 04:53 PM
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STRATEGYFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 05:13 AM
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REMINDER 👑FDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 06:27 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFEFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:27 AM
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PICKME CULTUREFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 01:55 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 04:54 AM
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DISCUSSIONFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 02:15 AM
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STAY WOKEFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 11:00 PM
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SHOWER THOUGHTFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:23 PM
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PICKME CULTUREFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 09:05 PM
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LESSON LEARNEDFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:39 PM
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REMINDER 👑FDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 05:06 PM
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LIES MEN TELLFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 02:32 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 12:02 AM
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FDS MOVIES & TVFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 10:06 AM
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RANTFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 06:34 PM
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LESSON LEARNEDFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 11:19 PM
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SCROTES MADFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:18 AM
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FDS HUMORFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:26 AM
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FDS MOVIES & TVFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 01:38 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 07:00 PM
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BOOK REPORTFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:02 AM
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LESSON LEARNEDFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:12 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 06:00 AM
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FINE AF FRIDAYSFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:21 PM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 10:34 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:59 AM
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LESSON LEARNEDFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 09:23 PM
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SCROTES MADFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:13 PM
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DISCUSSIONFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 07:30 PM
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QUEEN SH*TFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 07:14 PM
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FDS-GFY/r/askFDS12/05/21 03:17 AM
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MINDSET SHIFTFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 05:17 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFEFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:38 AM
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MINDSET SHIFTFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:53 AM
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How-To High ValueFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:22 PM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMEFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:24 AM
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FOREVER GF TALESFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:18 AM
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PICKME CULTUREFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:06 PM
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FDS-GFY/r/askFDS03/04/21 05:59 PM
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NAH, SISFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:22 PM
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FDS RESCUE MISSIONFDS-GFY/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 11:47 PM
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I am at present not sure I ever want to live with a man again. I am open to the idea of a steady beau to travel with, see a few times a week, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 05:45 AM
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What are the suction cups for? Are you using this on a table?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 05:01 AM
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Came here to say this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 03:26 AM
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This. If He puts his hands on my head during oral, I stop.That is my rule. Don’t like it? There’s the door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 06:03 AM
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Yup. It’s like an entire universe of cognitive bias.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 02:16 AM
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Basically, this. Right on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 02:15 AM
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Would rather not. You’ll see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 02:12 AM
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Exactly. When I was younger I struggled to understand the concept if Econowife from Handmaid’s Tale. Now I get it. Scrotes who aren’t in the elite expect a mommy mcbangmaid to be given to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 12:16 AM
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Google how goat farmers deal with young male goats. I think they’re onto something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 09:10 PM
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This was casually dropped into a LinkedIn conversation where OP was honoring the female founder of Bumble for going public. Not a fan of hers but this was delivered by a scrote as “OMGWTF OLD HURTS TEH MENZ”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 03:39 PM
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It’s an absolute joke of analytics. Full pf cognitive bias everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 03:19 PM
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I was dead reading this. Like everything FDS tells us men think, he actually put out there for the world to see as a so called “objective” analysis. “It seems hard to avoid a basic conclusion: that the majority of women find the majority of men unattractive and not worth engaging with romantically, while the reverse is not true. Stated in another way, it seems that men collectively create a “dating economy” for women with relatively low inequality, while women collectively create a “dating econo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 02:34 PM
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Women should be able to see the age range settings men picked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 01:59 PM
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Well. Done. Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 07:13 AM
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Don’t shave your coochie for him. There, I fixed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 07:12 AM
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Because we should for our own safety assume all men are selfish a-holes until they prove otherwise. If they don’t like it, they can get involved to change their buddies because they sure af aren’t protecting us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 07:11 AM
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I refuse to listen or deal with that part of FDS. I expressed my take on it when Elle appeared and stayed away ever since. My opinion was shared at the time by a lot of women of color and Black women. No need to rehash that-I won’t participate in that discussion further.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 07:07 AM
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And Kevin Spacey still is in the Academy, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 07:02 AM
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I'm seriously considering not ever living with a man again. I'd be open to a companion with his own house, seeing him 4 times a week, travelling together and doing plus one things, but unless the house was big enough for me to have my own space and he was a grown up enough to not be a man baby when I'm in there 2-3 nights a week, then maybe I'd consider it. And he has to either be a fantastic cook OR be incredibly handy (or willing to pay 100% for one or the other). he needs to contribute in a m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 01:16 AM
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my dear friend with the HV husband told me recently her father and she did most of the housework because her mother has horrible back pain. Her mother is a delightful and giving person, she just had a physical issue. Guessing that model taught her a lot about what a HVM was and to wait til she found him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 01:09 AM
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I'd like to hear from more Black women in general, not only Savannah, but also an American Black woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 01:05 AM
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I'm glad he didn't R*pe you. it's happened. you let him in your house and that's enough for most cops to basically ignore anything you say after that. Please be more careful next time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 01:04 AM
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thanks for that last line and for catching what I was trying to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 11:38 PM
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and the responses to this post demonstrate it. the speed at which they came for the woman was...telling. I'm sure the fact that the FDS hate sites are up in arms over this post and that their minds are blown because half the people here agree with them about the bad rich lady asking for what she deserves will be of no interest to anyone at all. Ah, internet, where thoughtful discussion goes to die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 11:30 PM
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Thank you for expressing this. it's my point exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 11:26 PM
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This is exactly my point. All the comments in here defending the guy....I get that it's a class issue and I promise you I'd never mistreat anyone who was in service. but he wasn't serving her, he was telling her his very uninformed opinion. As men do. A woman responding to her would have said, you know, that's not my area of strength, let me get you the somm, or the manager. Oh well, it's the internet, at least everyone got to feel righteous today. :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 11:25 PM
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I see your position and I understand it. I also see it differently. A man who asked that question would not have gotten the same response from the waiter. And a woman server would not have inserted her opinion if she felt unqualified. I really do see how people could take it this way, and that's why I asked the tale teller a lot of questions first. I was satisfied that she was simply asking for what she wanted and the guy thought he knew better. But it's the internet and everyone's going to read…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 11:23 PM
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Thank you for explaining it this way. The server was perfectly capable of asking "I'm not really sure, how do you define best? " or simply saying, "let me get you the manager." she made a simple request. he wasn't qualified to answer. but he couldn't admit that so he had to launch into his uninformed opinion. I guarantee you if a man had asked him the same question, he wouldn't have inserted his opinion. And I guarantee you a female server wouldn't have inserted her opinion if she didn't feel qu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 11:21 PM
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your response is perfectly acceptable, as is "what do you like? "
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 11:19 PM
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ALL THIS. NVX tried to ask me what I had to do to get him back. I suggested a substantial financial figure. He never replied.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 07:06 PM
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any friend who tells you to go out with a guy when you don't like him, is giving you dangerous advice. This advice is how I ended up in a 15 year relationship with a LVM. I wasn't that attracted to him and she said, "who else are you dating, give him a chance." I was, to put it mildly, an idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 07:03 PM
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When I read these kinds of stories and reflect on my own experiences, I have realized something. A great vetting strategy would be to get a guy to tell us about his best friend and how he celebrated a big birthday, or other life event. If he doesn't have a best friend, another red flag. Heck if he can't even tell you what he did for his mother's last birthday? DUMP HIM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 06:58 PM
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If you piss off the scrotes you did something right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 04:46 PM
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This is a true story. In my teens and 20s the men I liked never liked me back. and that is how I became a pickme. I am learning now how to pick myself. first and foremost. and if a man wants to come along on the journey, he will let me know. I have decided it may mean I never get it, but the occasional pain of the loneliness outweighs the stress and the constant pain of living with someone who doesn't treat you well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 10:26 PM
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I've book marked this to have handy as I grapple with the pain of missing my LVX of 15 years. I have had to see him occasionally to wrap up things from our life together and sometimes I just miss having someone around to help or to listen. He was always great around the house. He was, however, emotionally abusive and he was selfish to the core. so reminding me that when I'm missing him, I'm missing a mirage, is incredibly helpful. I don't miss HIM. right now I'm probably a combination of lonely …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 10:19 PM
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the short answer for me is that they prioritize their own happiness, or anxiety, or any other feeling; over the well being of anyone they profess to care about; in the moment it counts. I'm not talking about being a doormat, I'm talking about "my wife's sick and I'm being a jerk because it's inconvenient to me" type of stuff. when it counts, can he be selfless without expectation of immediate return? Can he let the balance sheet of the relationship be lopsided for a period of time? This can also…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 10:14 PM
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this is so true. And I'll even add that you show your pickme friends (those of us still early in our FDS journey and probably dealing with self esteem issues) that the good stuff is possible. That being alone til it's right is ok. That we deserve the good stuff. my dear friend is married to a person who as far as I can tell is very HV. I've known them for years and it makes me cry sometimes to think about how good he is to her and their kids sometimes, in the smallest and most gentle and loving …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 10:06 PM
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couldn't this be done with a google voice number and a separate account?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 10:00 PM
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IDK if this is related but dogs yawn and lick their lips when stressed. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 12:55 AM
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If I have had a busy day and leave my dishes in the sink that night, no one calls me names. If I don’t feel like eating dinner til 7, someone else isn’t having a hangry meltdown No one is commenting on my every move. Everything is exactly where I left it. (For better and worse haha) “Girly” bathroom decor with pink towels and my face creams artfully arranged on the sink. No pee drips on bathroom tile. No one snoring and hogging bed covers. Being able to work, meditate, workout when I want withou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 12:44 AM
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Married men shouldn’t be allowed vasectomies without the wife’s notification.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 05:29 AM
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Do I look like a man with a plan? Nope, and now you don’t look like a man with a date, either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 06:57 PM
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A woman I know told me about some guy asking her out and HE HAD NO TEETH. (The FDS podcast made me laugh double on their story as a result). The fucking scrotacity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 06:56 PM
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Dick is abundant and low value. Dicks attached to HVM are quite rare. And why it’s so difficult to find a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 06:50 PM
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Felt this in my fucking soul
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 06:45 PM
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And this is why I say I am keeping my mouth shut as a white woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 01:41 PM
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As a white woman, I am choosing to not get involved. Kevin Spacey still has his Oscar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 06:04 AM
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I am def going with The Godfather next time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 05:24 AM
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The last two sentences are amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 06:02 AM
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“Brilliant, witty, powerful, and loaded. How about you?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 05:58 AM
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So glad you got out. I turned down a job once like this. When I went for the interview the male founder was in his own office while the entire female staff was in a bullpen. Hard no. The male recruiter could not understand this and was pissed off at me and even though he had successfully placed me twice before that never placed me again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 05:21 AM
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This conveniently leaves out working on their own sexist beliefs. My list includes going to therapy treating women as complete human beings Basically this article is the bare minimum a human being needs to do to stay out of jail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 05:19 AM
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I maintain in my now golden years that the best way to judge a man’s character is to disagree with him as soon as possible. It saves SO much time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 03:06 AM
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Assume he is married and ignore him. Pretend he has an STD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 03:04 AM
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O. M. G. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 03:03 AM
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Yep. I just left a fb group for singles because the “nice” men were getting pretty fucking toxic when disagreed with. You keep standing up for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 03:01 AM
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I am so glad fds exists so you can tell this story without some scrote insisting you misunderstood. I am angry on your behalf fwiw. You deserve to be upset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 02:59 AM
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As someone with a very top tier IQ, all this. I have turned being underestimated into a super power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 09:55 PM
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Yes. And blonde. And thin. Tiny, and child like even. Eg unthreatening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:22 PM
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I couldn’t help but think about whitney houston and bobby brown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:17 PM
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Years ago I got a plum assignment a man wanted. So he made up a sexual harassment claim against me. And the bosses wanted to be “fair” so they tried to get me to quit. Joke was on them. I hired a fantastic attorney and kept all my stock options and benefits as well as a guaranteed good reference. I took time off and got another great job. He was fired six months later. Play hardball w them. It’s fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 07:55 PM
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Grace sounds depressed. Which any of us would be if we lived w this scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 07:49 PM
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Looking at his bio he runs a shitty “Christian version of the onion.” Nuff said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 06:48 PM
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One guy was saying how unfair it all ways because his girlfriend abused him. I blocked him because a) if that’s his defense of misogyny who wants to date his ass, and b) just on fds principle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 12:20 AM
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Can confirm. Happened to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 10:12 PM
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I hate the word hubby. I don’t know why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 11:25 AM
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Econowife!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 11:16 AM
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She is smart not to have his kid if she isn’t carrying the burden. Seriously this is Queen Shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 09:02 PM
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My LVX because we lived together and both worked from home even pre covid, would listen in on some of my conversations at work. I own my own company and let’s just say it’s not a small one. That m fer had the absolute GALL to question my decision making and comment on my meetings He has a decent job. But he isn’t an entrepreneur at all. The audacity of men can never be underestimated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 01:07 AM
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Esp over 45.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 01:02 AM
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They know. They just don’t want YOU to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 01:02 AM
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I am so worried that he will get a g*n and hurt them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 12:53 AM
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The thing that surprises me even at my advanced age is just how many men are not suitable life partners. Very, very few males are quality people worthy of procreation; between anger issues, substance abuse, mental illness, unemployment, criminal history, and selfishness. If you had asked me twenty years ago I migh have said most men are good. Now, I say the single men are like the clothes at TJ Maxx or Ross: the leftovers. A few hidden gems but most of the time it isn’t worth the hunt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 12:51 AM
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Still, I’m proud of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:01 AM
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I am Not hooking up with anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 05:41 AM
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I know you are beating yourself up but please don’t. Given that you are only out a bit of cash and wasted time, it’s a very cheap lesson. I want to congratulate yourself on not letting him upstairs. You did good. It’s not your fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 05:35 AM
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I recommend finding a class near you. You meet new people, too. I also recruited some friends to do it with me and it’s deepened our bond.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:32 PM
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What a fucking loser. He deserves to be alone until he grows the fuck up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:45 AM
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I am learning bridge. It’s intellectual stimulation and social af. Lots of smart and awesome people play.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:42 AM
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Jordan Peterson is the gateway to the alt right for crybaby scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:39 AM
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“Unknowingly “
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 01:15 AM
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just one person but it's a more casual thing. ;) I was using “them” not as a plural. Not sure why all the downvotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 12:40 AM
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I totally just used this. I didn't get any flowers, either. I just asked if it was from them. it's driving them crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 12:07 AM
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Exactly right on not texting before. If they can’t be bothered to plan, I will assume it’s not happening. You snooze you lose, scrotes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 12:53 AM
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I am very skilled at ordering one drink and pretending to drink when not drinking. I have closed many business deals this way. Let the man get drunk and vulnerable. The. Egg. Does. Not. Chase. The. Sperm!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 12:52 AM
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Colleagues, yes. Siblings, yes. Lovers, yes. Friends? Absolutely not unless I am friends with husband and wife, and not in the creepy threesome vibe way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 12:50 AM
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I saw this in another forum today. Straight truth “HELP! Talking to a guy and we are talking about meeting when he gets back from a work trip. He put me in charge of our first meet up. Need some fun unique ideas.” Gah!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 12:00 AM
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Just block and delete. Don’t waste a second more of your one beautiful life on this clown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 11:57 PM
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If he is in tech hmu. I know people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 05:49 AM
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He had 21 pieces of flair!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 05:48 AM
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“I am a complete loser and want to prostitute a young pretty naive girl for cash.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 05:47 AM
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That is exactly why his family should know.
/r/askFDS11/02/22 05:43 AM
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Def send to the wife. Don’t say anything to him. He will just argue.
/r/askFDS10/02/22 07:06 AM
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This. He couldn’t even be bothered to pay for an uber. We are about 1 step from them assaulting us openly. Oh wait we are already there https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-10491929/British-man-arrested-woman-claims-raped-United-Airlines-flight-London.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 07:05 AM
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And their face at that moment says it all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 04:49 AM
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I went poking in the replies. He outed himself and was apparently doxed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 04:42 AM
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“Potentially have something good on a regular basis.” What a catch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 09:43 PM
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I wouldn’t date a man who didn’t know what la perla was either. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:49 PM
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For years i have thought that if women pepper sprayed the living fuck out of creeps they’d have a bit more care. They don’t pick on each other because they know other men will kick their asses. We need to instill fear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:40 PM
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Fat norman bates!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:38 PM
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I would pay to watch this movie. Wonderful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:36 PM
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One reason I stayed with nvx so long was the cost of housing. Finally saved up enough and made enough to tell him to fuck right off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:33 PM
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Not fat shaming but that 300 pound shortie has a lot of fucking nerve asking for a 120 lb woman to fuck him. Christ he could suffocate her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:29 PM
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Thank you for calling it out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 08:24 PM
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This is amazing. Have a friend entering divorce and sent over. Bless you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 08:12 PM
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she was SO invested in praising cops as husbands and of course all the violence was due to alcohol and drugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 05:40 PM
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It’s such a simple thought: if he were a woman would we be friends? If not: into the trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 05:20 PM
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I so want that number to troll him. But obviously we are not going to do that. We are better than him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 05:14 PM
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She went on to double down. She was married to a cop and had a cop kid. God forbid you got her in a trial if your cop partner beat you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 05:10 PM
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15 years I spent listening to what he said, not what he did. 🤬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 09:54 PM
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This. After I left my nvx, I have dumped friends who helped me leave. Because what became clear is that they wanted to be the narcissist in my life. Bitch, bye!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 09:51 PM
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Except that being afraid of disagreement means you’re less likely to hold a man accountable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 10:08 AM
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It’s all good. Just backing you up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 06:39 AM
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Cheryl Strayed wrote this. Please don’t plagiarize. https://therumpus.net/2011/06/dear-sugar-the-rumpus-advice-column-77-the-truth-that-lives-there/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 05:19 AM
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I hate judgmental people. Curiosity is sexy. Anyone with such close mindedness can launch themselves into the sun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 05:15 AM
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If I flaired this it would be “Queen Shit.” Keep us posted, your Majesty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 05:12 AM
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Working. I have a fully paid in advance 3 week vacation coming up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 05:08 AM
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I have recently been quietly stepping back from a years long friendship. I got so tired of this woman talking behind literally everyone else’s back,and just generally being an emotional train wreck and PITA. One day I opted out of an event we had planned together. She had others along. But that didn’t stop her from texting me all kinds of crazy accusations. Her behavior was so rude it opened ny eyes. And ever since, I Now focus on people who are two way. And I don’t miss this woman very much. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 05:04 AM
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I just had a years old cyst removed that suddenly got inflamed. Same day a bitchy former friend tried to weasel her way back into my life. Mercury in retrograde is NOT to be fucked with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:54 AM
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Girl you are the reason my middle aged self comes here. Because we can save you even if it’s later for us. You nailed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:42 AM
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I love us. This sub is life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:40 AM
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Mind. Blown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:36 AM
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Humiliating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:35 AM
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Public service announcement. 👍🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:33 AM
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I have this image of the naked trucker in “Sideways” running out and it amuses me. Queen shit right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:32 AM
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Flair NAILED IT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:29 AM
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When you marry a man who cheats on his wife you marry a man who cheats on his wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 05:29 AM
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A whole high school degree. What a catch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 05:26 AM
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They’d have to use a credit card and most are teen boys in mom’s house in the developing world so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 05:25 AM
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And coming on REDDIT to discuss it? Jesus Granps, take your pills. It’s past your bedtime
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 06:26 AM
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Jokes on him when some pretty golddigger marries him and pushes him off it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 06:24 AM
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Once a man turns 30 his license to hit on 18-21 year olds expires. Tattoo it on your heads, scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 06:23 AM
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Lundy Bancroft says it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 06:21 AM
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We can’t speak about the fetish without being labeled bigots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 06:18 AM
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“I’m really a woman.” “Please accept lower pay and clean the toilet” “Not like that.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 06:16 AM
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“Not all men” my ass. Literally. Fucking pigs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 06:07 AM
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I am an only child. I have a small circle of only children friends. We have promised to be each other’s support for big stuff like surgery etc. it helps. One of us is married w kids other 2 are not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 01:30 AM
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This is also why social standing mattered. People knew if sir so and so was abusive, broke, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 08:04 PM
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Way too many women are over protective of their precious sons. You can see it all the time and Facebook in terms of how much shit they let them get away with. If the mom has bad boundaries, the boy gets away with it and no one ever teaches them not to. Moms often act like their sons’ shit don’t stink, meanwhile they talk about and treat their daughters pretty badly too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 08:02 PM
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Men are by and large a waste of my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 01:27 AM
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Broad daylight. Man asks me for directions on the street. I live in the area. Then he argues with me about whether I am right. Helping men is an annoyance at best, potentially a life threatening situation at worst. Not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 04:31 AM
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Don’t waste time explaining. Block after his first pushback.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 04:37 PM
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Not to mention furniture, bedding, a vacuum etc. so make rent “fully furnished luxury rent” for an even better pikachu face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 03:11 PM
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They ruin everything they touch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 06:49 AM
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They are no better than animals. They have earned our contempt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 06:46 AM
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“Lays.” We aren’t even human to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 06:39 AM
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At least the advice he gave on profiles was good. But his social media game is straight up exactly what FDS warns us about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 06:31 AM
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Seriously fuck that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 06:28 AM
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QUEEN SHIT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 05:07 PM
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I wish they hadn’t said how they caught him. Also what an ugly fucking neckbeard You know he has a reddit account. Fucking pig.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 05:29 AM
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As the old joke goes How many shrinks does it take to change a lightbulb? One, but the lightbulb has to really want to change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 05:23 AM
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Normalize this. Maybe once they realize being left is a thing that happens (like the ghost of Christmas yet to come) they’ll make like scrooge and do better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 05:21 AM
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Sex is not a civil right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 05:19 AM
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Queen shit. This is why they want to outlaw abortion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 05:17 AM
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This. My nvx chose his house hold chore and resented me every minute. My jobs were more abstract: laundry, automobile maintenance, social calendar, medical, complex problem solving, tech, research etc. If our genders had been reversed as a woman he would not have thought twice. When I suggested hiring help to ease his burdens he got even angrier. He wanted ME to do it. Still pisses me off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 05:13 AM
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Spent xmas day flitting from one luxurious long call to another catching up with friends-one in a 12 hour difference, another single, one who is Jewish. Watched tv with one friend online and drank wine. Hearing people bitch about their families on xmas drove home just how happy I was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 05:08 AM
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They can ask me too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:53 AM
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Love when some incel wanker has nothing better to do then try and pretend he’s smart. Hey kid, your mom just made some hot pockets. Run upstairs now. Minecraft can wait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:45 AM
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And once you are past fertility, you are even more terrifying to them. It’s AMAZING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:43 AM
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All this. Die mad, scrotes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:40 AM
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The only time I saw this happen the woman was legit toxic and he fought for full custody of his daughters which he got.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:38 AM
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Men will fuck anything, including starfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:36 AM
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They’re low value incels who think women are property they are entitled tp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:35 PM
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All this. Even though My fibroid surgeon had to be male, he always had a woman nurse present. I never had to ask once. She was delightful too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 05:59 AM
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These stories make me so grateful for the kindly old man who is my primary doctor. I don’t know what i will do when he retires. It’s terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 05:57 AM
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I always have a female OB/GYN. I had to have a male surgeon for fibroid removal. He did a fine job, but I will still never forget how this man in his 60s asked me sheepishly why I wanted to keep my uterus and ovaries since I was peri menopausal and didn’t want kids. I gave him the science reason. I can’t write with that is here because it could identify me. But I know I was thinking “ hey buddy, your balls itch should we remove them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 05:54 AM
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Meanwhile I saw this on a thread about abuse: “I don’t think admitting men experience abuse is sweeping other forms of abuse under the rug. Generally, men do abuse more women than other women, but they have abused other men more than women. Speaking exclusively of men as the perps in conversations of domestic abuse is just false and perpetuates machismo.” Ok pickmeisha, so reporting facts contributes fo machismo. Got it. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 05:39 AM
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I know that I am working hard on accepting things from people. So this hits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 02:42 AM
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I am explicit right now at this phase of my life, because I am in Recovery from a long-term relationship I just left. I tell people not to fix me up. If you don’t want to go, say no. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 02:40 AM
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I shit you not I once saw a picture of a guy in a public bathroom. Bruh Was That the best you could do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 05:56 AM
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This is a really good point. The guy who is doing this has no ability to put himself into a woman’s shoes. And that means he’s not likely to be a great partner. Marketing requires empathy. No empathy is a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 05:55 AM
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I did laundry but he cooked and cleaned. No shade on your standard, just sharing another experience. I prefer laundry to cooking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 11:05 PM
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Word. And my nvx was 40 when i met him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 11:04 PM
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Also let’s talk about the awful woman now the ceo. That’s a real piece of christie hefner work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 10:40 PM
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I hope she continues to ignore them. Too often children of narcs keep going back and the spouse gets exhausted from defending them. Ask me how i know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 03:49 PM
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I believe the idea is that when the guy sits down she tells him about the dating app, which I’m sure goes over really well 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 04:42 PM
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If there was a bowl of candy and 10% of them were poison, would you just reach in?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 03:50 PM
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Bingo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 03:47 PM
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I saw this on LinkedIn posted by the creative director for a dating app. It’s just…uggggggh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 01:56 PM
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They did this BEFORE uni? Terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 01:47 PM
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Ngl My eyes got damp. This. 💖💖💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 04:20 PM
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I am sorry you had to read that trash. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 03:15 PM
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Not down voting because I mostly agree. The thing is why behave as if husband and wife and not get married?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 02:35 PM
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If you aren’t ready to marry him, you aren’t ready to own a house with him. This post goes deeply against FDS principles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 02:33 PM
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Siri, why do I hate “the giving tree” so much? This answer explains.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 05:18 AM
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“I don’t think I’m obligated.” he actually said that shit out loud. Men are not like women at all. And fuck him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 12:32 AM
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This is the number one reason I dumped LVX. He jad serious and unresolved trauma about his narc mother which he took out on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 01:58 AM
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I dumped a guy who refused to treat his diabetes. I wasn’t gonna nurse his ass. His own father had amputations and went blind. He didn’t learn a damn thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 01:57 AM
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As we saw with all the fawning over sara blakely of spanx, how closely women clutch the spandex that binds them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 01:53 AM
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This is a shitty way to behave. I am out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 01:50 AM
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and what some of us are saying is that life is complicated and that we can celebrate Sara and still discuss problems here. Based on your comments to me in this thread, you seem to be consistently struggling with the idea that people and situations are complex. In your defense, that's part of the internet. It takes advantage of human psychology's innate drive to tell ourselves easy-to-understand stories. I know you want a heroine. We all do. We have a strong desire as a species to believe, suppor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 05:02 PM
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I’m saying that it’s not quite as happy making as the OP made it out to be. Selling to private equity means the company was in trouble. Philosophically we should all be concerned about wealth concentration. None of this takes away from the fact that a woman built a company that she could sell for a large sum of money and then she did something for her employees. The Internet really does flatten The discussion, meaning it’s easy to paint Sara as good or bad, When the reality is that she is comple…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 03:41 PM
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No one said it was. At the same time no one is above being criticized even women. When you think about it a product capitalizes on women’s insecurity about their looks. And she herself maintains a lifestyle standard that most women who buy her products will never achieve. I can think all of these things and still respect her. Because complexity is the way life is. The Internet flattens that level of thinking, it forces us into black or white thinking, so it’s important to keep in mind as we disc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 03:21 PM
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A lot of women don’t understand how the game of business is played. And they accept crumbs when they should be asking for more. Just like in dating, a lot of women take what they are given and don’t negotiate to maximize their own benefit. There is a lot of research on why this is and it’s not all women’s fault. It’s proven that women who negotiate are often looked down upon when men are respected. At the same time, the only way to improve our situation is to fight for it. It will never be hande…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 03:17 PM
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Jesus christ is this real?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 04:40 PM
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“Pick mes are addicts who need to hit rock bottom.” Love this. Resonates wholly with my expectations in life with addicts (family alcoholism) and my own recent rock bottom experience with LVX.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 02:53 PM
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This. She sold to PE because company was in trouble. We aren’t buying spanx as much working from home. I am not knocking her success and nor do I begrudge the money. But let’s be honest here. When your business is doing well you go public or you sell it. Where the business is in trouble and you don’t want to stick around to fix it, you offload to private equity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 02:40 PM
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There’s such a thing as a PickMeisha when it comes to work too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 02:38 PM
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Men don’t see women as humans. That’s why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 05:33 AM
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Exactly. She sold to fucking BLACKSTONE. all this BS about an all female deal team. Private Equity are assholes. If I worked there I’d quit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 05:31 AM
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Half a million on $1.2B isn’t much. It’s nice. But it’s still problematic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 05:30 AM
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I tried watching this a few Months ago because I love Reese Witherspoon. I couldn’t finish it. Pick me trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 11:52 PM
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It’s like they never learned to stop talking through the close.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 03:16 PM
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“When you marry a man who cheats on his wife, you Marry a man who cheats on his wife.” -my granny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 03:13 PM
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Not ever having been a cool/pretty girl, this is like watching aliens from another planet. I am glad I was spared this, in a way! Being a nerd meant I had to find friends elsewhere. Oddly enough perhaps because I wasn’t toxic, I often ended up with very pretty and popular friends who are very good people. There’s apparently a lot of toxic crap in pretty-ville. I am not ugly at all, just not your typical petite white lady with straight hair and stilletto heels. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 03:08 PM
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This was a good conversation. I appreciate that the hosts were able to recognize that they had different definitions of PickMes and their motivations. This dichotomy is probably one reason people think FDS is too harsh to women. Reaux’a experience is probably not typical for most women not in celebrity/athlete/pretty people circles, but it’s true that toxic women are everywhere. Lilith’s strategy is probably resonant with a lot of us who either are, were, or have friends who have struggled with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 03:05 PM
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Fuck this guy. He isn’t worth any more of my time composing a reply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 07:41 AM
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They want to be needed only for what they want to give. Nothing more. If you need their money you’re a gold digger. If you need their emotional support you’re “needy” ah the fucking irony. If you need them to help around the house you’re lazy They want to be needed for sex. And lifting heavy things. That’s about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:40 PM
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Report this guy to whatever service you met him on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:35 PM
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It’s so so much worse for people of color in America.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 03:55 PM
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FDS success story: scrote avoided!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 01:09 PM
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Me too. I was so upset by it. And then this guy SAT DOWN NEXT TO ME. it wasn’t the same situation at all but in some ways it’s the same idea. He literally pretended like I didn’t exist. It pissed me off. Would he have sat down next to another man without asking? Doubtful. I respect the fact he was a senior citizen but he wasn’t THAT feeble. His much younger wife did the work while he sat. There were so many FDS comments in my brain simultaneously that I really had to think to decide what y’all s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 03:13 AM
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I remember being taught to yell fire if I was being attacked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 08:23 PM
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Yep. I did not want to post the link as its own post because it’s triggering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 06:50 PM
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He sat down just as I was reading the part about how the rapist sat down next to the woman before assaulting her. Now of course I wasn’t in any danger from this guy, but because I was reading the article the coincidence was too much to ignore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 06:44 PM
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They watched it. https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2021/10/16/woman-assaulted-on-septa-train/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 06:43 PM
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Instead of fixing this, my fear is men will try to stop us from being educated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 04:18 AM
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I have a friend in her early 50s with kindergartners. It blows my mind. I can’t imagine it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 04:15 AM
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Early data says there may be a connection between autism and old sperm. That alone should be enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 04:13 AM
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We stand on the shoulders of giantesses and I’ll be damned if some scrote is going to take that from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 04:08 AM
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I like that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 09:13 PM
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You do you is my motto! My intention was to share my rationale in case it’s useful for anyone else. Great thread you started!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 09:56 PM
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This is why open ended questions are better. If you are paying close attention you can spot the fake with well chosen follow ups-and observing the behavior to see if it meshes. Dating should be fun, and discovery is part of it. Being super defensive and prosecutorial in style has the potential of scaring some good guys off. This isn’t about lowering standards, just being more strategic -and likely more accurate-about how we assess a potential partner. People who are relaxed let their guard down.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 09:53 PM
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Love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 09:42 PM
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“Why?” Can be a very intimidating question. At least in the beginning we want it to feel less like an interrogation. EDIT: It’s not about being intimidating per se, but about making him relaxed so he’s HONEST. ) For example, if pet ownership is important to you, you might smile at a pup in the restaurant (if you are eating outdoors.) If the date is indifferent to the dog, or asks no follow up questions, that’s probably a good sign he is not into pets. A guy I went out with came out of the restau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 09:28 PM
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My only feedback is to be wary of Yes/No questions. Open ended q’s usually reveal more. I love this question: what is something that other people say about you, but with which you vehemently disagree? What is the best advice you were ever given? Who contributed to your success so far? What keeps you awake at night?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 05:14 PM
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This sounds like a potential narcissist/bully/control freak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 04:28 PM
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1000%!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 01:11 AM
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The point here is that “good enough isn’t enough.” The man in question was polite, well off, courteous, respectful-at least as much as we are shown on a tv show. I understand your point too. It’s not wrong. Like all things fds, one point of info is not enough. But neither is simply an absence of red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 02:30 PM
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Straight up truth bomb. I know exactly what you describe. I grew up in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 02:26 PM
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All this. It doesn’t work and it wastes our time. It’s passive as fuck. If you can’t discuss it face to face, let it go or dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 09:59 AM
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I was introducing to my now former business partner by his high powered mother, who had been my mentor for many years. After I fired him for cause she stopped speaking to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/21 09:26 AM
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It’s also bullshit. My dearest friend is a huge sports nerd. It freaks men out when she knows more than they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/21 09:06 AM
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Even the use of the word “dentisting” is a turn off. The correct term for the field is dentistry. This sounds like he is a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/21 09:02 AM
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Esp as a poster I’d like to understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/21 01:13 AM
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I got a Pickmeisha and I never argued with a mod. I don’t understand why some posts get removed. It bummed me out. Then I realized… Here’s the thing: the mods don’t get paid. I am a grown woman. If FDS stops being valuable to me I can always unsubscribe. No online forum is worth too much stress in my life. After 30 years on the internet I have been in so many flame wars I just can’t be bothered. I am so happy to have a scrote free zone that I take what’s great and leave the rest behind. It’s not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/21 01:06 AM
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Working long hours, wasting time on social media, and sleeping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 07:06 PM
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If they wanted to, they would. When free pussy suddenly requires work, they show their true colors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 07:05 PM
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I wondered of Savannah was totally on board. She and Lilith seemed dubious af. But I may just be projecting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 07:00 PM
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I am getting more fiscally liberal but I also believe in a strong defense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 04:30 PM
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Nailed it. I am one of those.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:53 AM
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There was no cancel culture on the podcast post. I saw women stating their opinions clearly and without rancor. This op post was jarring. It sounded like a tantrum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:50 AM
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Owns an emerald mine. Fucks his stepdaughter? Checks out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:47 AM
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Paglia turned out to be a female Jordan Peterson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:44 AM
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Nope. Men spend money on what they care for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:42 AM
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I believe a fancy breakfast is ok but can’t be coffee and bagels. Sit down, high quality brunch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:40 AM
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This doesn’t deserve down votes. Glad you are here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:21 AM
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Here here. I vote Democrat because I think the gop went nuts. I am not a socialist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:20 AM
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As a fellow older woman, agreed. I learn a ton from the hosts but Elle was a stew of half baked internet memes. She was clearly looking for a savior much as I was in my 20s. She will be a liberal by her 40s, mark my words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:16 AM
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Just one if several unchallenged comments that left me disappointed. Like I was watching Brian Stelter letting Kellyanne Conway Gish Gallop all over the place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:14 AM
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So. As a woman who was a “gold star Republican” (Elle’s phrase, note that it was co opted from Lesbian terminology but whatever) until mid life, I had some thoughts. Ladies, it took everything I had to finish this episode. I trust you, so I white knuckled it through. I decided to share my feedback instead of just saying nothing. I see the power in FDS being used on both sides of the aisle. And Elle has a lot to offer us all. She’s witty, she’s a woman of color and a Muslim, and ex military. All …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:13 AM
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That’s so fucked up. And we’re lucky you were able to turn that shit into the gold of fds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:24 AM
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Lvx said recently “things used to be almost equal between us (!) now you have all the power.” Insert walter white “you’re goddammned right”’gif.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:16 AM
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Yep he is the gateway drug to the alt right. Watched a man close to me disappear down his rabbit hole. Oh the stories I could tell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:13 AM
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And they have the audacity to be shocked when we dump them. It was worth the heartache just to watch him freak out when I left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:10 AM
15

Fuck. Off. Love, Bearnaise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:07 AM
139

I wish i had learned 30 years ago that beyond making myself happy and high value, I don’t have to do a fucking thing to attract men. They want us whether we want them or not. The egg does not chase the sperm. EVER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:03 AM
225

Basically “I don’t want to do any work.” Lazy scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:00 AM
33

Yes, this! and the women are so strong and cool!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 05:27 PM
15

Why do they always misspell you’re/your?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 01:46 PM
11

Omg. This. I will be alone until I have this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 01:44 PM
11

This is the reminder I need. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 01:42 PM
24

My grandma used to say that when you marry for money you earn every penny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 01:53 AM
31

I got myself all dolled up to go to a fancy party with rich people. I was one of the very few single women there and it was wonderful! It felt so good to be among the living and looking pretty. I wasn’t on the hunt. I arrived with no expectations and came away with several invitations for fun things to do. Felt good to make new friends!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 03:57 PM
1

Grannies are fucking smart. I miss mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 03:53 PM
11

Has done the work to make the most of what he has emotionally, physically, spiritually. Has a sense of humor -and not one that puts people down. Optimistic: sees the bright side Curious about life. Especially travel and a life of the mind. Can dress up or dress down: comfortable with rich and blue collar folks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 03:47 PM
7

I have bookmarked this post. So true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 03:39 PM
21

Went to a party recently(all vaxxed) full of very rich people and every time I talked to a scrote either he’d mention his wife was there or a woman would see me talking (about our industry) with her husband and come over and act all possessive. Honey I don’t want your saggy scrote. I am here for the fine food and drink and maybe to find a new client. Men will always assume you want to bed them because that’s how THEY go through the world. I am realizing this is why we don’t have to do anything t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 03:37 PM
10

All this. I recently had some kind of date/coffee whatever the fuck you wanna call it with a former coworker who asked me out. I was over the moon about him buying me coffee. What. The actual. Fuck. This is when I realized my bar was in hell, and why I should not be dating at all until my standards are much much higher.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 04:18 AM
11

I told my niece to ideally take the first 1-2 years of college and learn to be a College student. To build her friend network. I told her I saw so many girls drop out of college because they started dating too early and when the guy broke up with them they had no girlfriends to back them up until college became very lonely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 04:17 AM
5

My blood pressure dropped 30 points when I left him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 04:14 AM
28

Being alone is a reasonable choice in a world full ogf scrotes. My mantra now is to live my life and be happy. If a man wants to share it he will make himself known.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 04:13 AM
9

I was hoping this was flaired as Queen Shit. I was not disappointed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 04:23 PM
3

They hate us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 04:14 AM
3

You have my 100% support. Thank you for speaking your truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 04:12 AM
14

Rapist island gets a new resident
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 04:09 AM
8

I have my ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 03:49 AM
15

Dear heart. I am so sorry. You do not deserve this.
/r/askFDS23/09/21 02:54 AM
9

I have friends in certain places. This will be dealt with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 02:49 AM
5

What a POS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 02:45 AM
14

Massage is my #1. But have been known to buy jewelry or a bag to mark certain milestones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 02:43 AM
44

I don’t see a difference between violating and rape. But I support you no matter what. It doesn’t matter what we call it. This guy is scum.
/r/askFDS22/09/21 10:19 PM
56

This is rape.sorry I hit send too soon. I feel Awful for you.
/r/askFDS22/09/21 09:38 PM
5

I had a trauma specialist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 01:50 PM
7

Nice of them to save you time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 05:53 AM
32

I ain’t building shit. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 05:50 AM
63

I am still angry I wasted five years in therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 05:48 AM
56

My mom and friends didn’t abandon me when I went back for the umpteenth time. They said “I am worried about you” and “you will leave when you are ready.” That steady support from so many was a critical part of feeling safe enough to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 05:47 AM
7

This is why I recommended this book to everyone in my life a couple months back. It’s truly life changing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:08 PM
319

Another one on the way? Gfy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 04:56 AM
7

All this. FDS helped me see how my LVX was escalating. Y’all may have saved my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 04:08 PM
46

I don’t smoke. But I absolutely had some unhealthy habits I developed to cope with my horrible relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 03:57 PM
7

That next to last bullet point is my LVX as we speak. I am keeping him unblocked til I can transition off his insurance. For now I am letting him think there’s a chance so he will finish taking care of some things I need. Then I plan to dump him hard. Block, delete, buh bye. His long letters fucked up my head for a few days but thanks to FDS I am staying strong. He’s in his 50s AND LIVES WITH HIS MOTHER WHEN HE OWNS A PLACE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 10:29 PM
15

All this. My low value ex wasn’t really a drinker and sometimes it bothers me because he could never let his hair down, at the same time I felt safe around him as a result. Plus he didn’t need alcohol to be an asshole lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:22 AM
22

I just want to congratulate you on the progress you’ve made so far with alcohol. I went through a period of time in my 20s where I did have a difficult relationship with alcohol. I went without for a number of years while I got it under control. I now have it in the proper place in my life, but I respect the people who have determined that they can’t take it at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:21 AM
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I have I had a policy of never drinking more than two drinks around men I don’t know.The nice part about getting older is that I am now “the old lady” at office functions, so no one expects me to hang out to be cool, and as the boss They just want my credit card anyway. Lol. Seriously though, back in my middle-management days, I’d leave after two drinks and I’d share this quote from Dorothy Parker, which always left them open mouthed “I only have one drink Probably two at the most At three I’m u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:17 AM
7

Excellent advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:14 AM
51

Men are so fuckin lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:11 AM
308

When they say the quiet part out loud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:08 AM
4

And this is why I am remaining single for the forseeable future. It’s exhausting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 03:33 PM
89

Watch what they do. Ignore what they say. This is the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 10:53 PM
56

Porn is part of it. Also conquest. “Taking” virginity is like my dog pissing on a tree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 10:52 PM
38

A lot of libfems in these groups. Proceed w caution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 10:45 PM
99

This last sentence is it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 03:23 PM
2

Wish I had known this 15 years ago😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 05:21 AM
2

This. Even lvx said it unprompted three months in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 05:08 AM
15

Handbook worthy! Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 04:28 AM
6

I just finished “consent: a memoir” and hoo boy should that be on our book list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 12:58 AM
48

My new favorite expression is “honey if I was a gold-digger I’d find a deeper mine.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 12:56 AM
8

If you have a right to be there that’s a separate thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 03:51 PM
23

Please note that any one on his property without his permission can be charged w trespassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 05:29 AM
1

Thank you. 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 09:28 PM
2

One reason I know I can’t date yet is that I was over the moon about someone buying me coffee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 06:07 PM
13

“So tell me about your little business.” (I started and run a seven figure company.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 06:04 PM
24

This strategy has been life changing. I have been putting all of my energy since I left my NVX into my friends. I cook for them, we go out for dinner, we send each other cards and by each other flowers. I get just as much pleasure out of this as I did when I did it with a man. And without all the bullshit. It’s Really a positive way to think about the difference between high value and low value. What would your best friend do? And if he’s not doing at least that, he has to go. And if you have no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 05:53 PM
3

It’s my favorite part. I listen all the way to the end to hear it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 10:33 PM
2

All this. I got a lot out of therapy. Truly. I processed a shit ton of trauma. But this was a major miss on her part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 10:30 PM
33

Amazing story. Your story could have been mine. FDS taught me what years of therapy did not: if he wanted to, he would. “Terrifying to jump in the river”-girl right there with you and 20 years older. So happy you got away. I found an online DV group that helped me a ton. Hope you can find one too. My best wishes and congratulations to you. And i can especially relate to the “fuck it it’s only money” part of the credit cards. I have been Spending like a drunken sailor to outfit my new apartment a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 03:48 PM
7

I like it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 03:43 PM
1

💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 05:51 AM
2

For real. Coffee date coworker last week referred to himself as early 50s and he’s 55. Pfft
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 05:49 AM
6

If that 1100 sq feet isn’t on Park and 75th in Manhattan, he is a loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 05:47 AM
1

I threw up in my mouth. PAY HIM? What a fuckin LOSER
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 05:45 AM
2

I’d rather move in with my mother. She makes me good things to eat, plays board games, and doesn’t ask me to put out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 05:43 AM
7

All I can add is INDEED. 💪🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 01:19 PM
35

Smash the fucking patriarchy. This gen x er has had enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 05:13 AM
6

Years ago I read an article about how many women cut their hair after a break up, and about the history of long hair and sexuality. I absolutely revel in my very short very tight haircut, because I do it for me and not for the male gaze. Fuck them. Seriously if they dressed for our gaze, maybe they’d lose some weight, put on some muscle, work on their skin, and dress a little better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 03:53 AM
3

After fifteen years, my nvx proposed less than a week after I moved out. It still makes me angry. It makes me think of The scene in “the princess bride” where Inigo Montoya finally catches up with Count Duggan. He tells Duggan to offer him anything- his money, anything. Duggan offers it all. Then Montoya says “I want my father back you son of a bitch” and stabs him. It’s perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 03:48 AM
28

Those last two lines hit hard. That’s me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 03:17 AM
23

Mom said 20s<30s<40s<50s So far she has been right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 03:15 AM
9

Mah, more hot pockets!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 03:26 PM
11

These comments you get only continue to convince me men should be avoided until they prove their worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 03:24 PM
19

I wanted to scream. LVM mindset to a tee even when it’s not about sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 03:22 PM
65

I used to think my mom was LV because she always needed a man around. Thanks to FDS I noticed all then men were incredibly good to her. She KNOWS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 03:15 PM
6

Just a thought. Next time skip the explanation. It may feel good. It’s far more effective to just delete and block
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 05:10 AM
106

Omg the “I have a girlfriend” comment. I have been thinking about something that just happened to me since I left NVX. A former coworker, also single, figured out I wasn’t attached anymore. Probably through mutual friends. He pesters me on LI for coffee. Plans it, pays for it. End of coffee time, “I’m late to see my girlfriend.” DUDE LITERALLY NO ONE ASKED. I didn’t even say why I had moved. “Time for a change” is my answer when pressed. I literally laughed when he said it, and said “oh please t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 02:25 PM
3

Like browsing the racks at the discount store. Except at the store you might actually find something useful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 06:38 AM
8

I could be your testimonial. “Scrote infestation? Call FDS. They will help you eliminate your man problem once and for all. You thought bed bugs were hard to get rid of? Been washing that man outta your hair so long you might go bald? Call FDS. Satisfaction guaranteed. “
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 01:39 AM
19

I am so proud of you. You deserve a man who cares about you. I am so happy you got away from that violent, sadistic man. You have done a brave thing. Well done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 01:35 AM
13

Right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 10:31 PM
4

Looks like the mods agreed thank goodness! 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 09:27 PM
25

When I went off the pill for health reasons, mail order kept sending it. I have stock piled about 25 months figuring at some point a woman I know will need it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 09:25 PM
72

Have you seen the Scrotes posting about knocking women up then taking the bounty to report her of she has an abortion? I wanted to post this but i appear to be blocked from posting photos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 09:22 PM
18

If he wanted to, he would. His emotions are not your problem. And you deserve to be treated well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 09:19 PM
19

I was in a 15 year relationship, and in therapy the last five years, and I couldn’t seem to justify leaving. After just two months on FDS I had the mental clarity to make the break. I now live on my own and it was absolutely the right decision. Welcome. It’s not easy and there’s much healing to do but I feel so much better equipped for what’s next as part of this community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 09:18 PM
53

Many of them are teenagers too. That’s why they have so much time. I bet you could correlate attacks with school time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/21 09:10 PM
241

Degrees of low value is like ranking the smell of dog shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/21 09:08 PM
1

I wanted to punch him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 05:24 AM
42

I see it as a way to meet more HVW, who may if the stars align, be great friends who know good people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 02:48 PM
3

If he wanted to, he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:48 AM
6

I am right there with you at this time. It’s so manipulative that it pisses me off!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:43 AM
2

I prefer to not use Reddit, so thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 02:37 PM
7

Loving home? What the actual hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 07:19 PM
30

I tried joining but I couldn’t figure out how to see anything-and I’m a patreon subscriber
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 07:19 PM
18

Can’t like this post enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 07:18 PM
10

Favorite part of the podcast is Ro saying “die mad!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 05:42 AM
3

In my top business school we women noticed a dynamic: Our male classmates could get dates anywhere on campus, all women had to hear was they were getting their MBA and it was game on. Women MBAs…we found most men turned off by it. Intimidated. And then there’s the classmate now a partner in a global consulting firm who said he would never marry a woman MBA because he didn’t want to argue about whose career came first. All the women in my class who married a classmate are now stay at home moms. S…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 03:08 PM
33

I am a patreon subscriber and tried to join the discord server but it said a month wait for verification. Should I try again?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 10:20 PM
19

Love this. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 09:25 PM
33

You know they brigade and downvote too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 09:22 PM
163

Oh god. Scrotes def gonna scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 04:01 AM
57

I don’t really care if it’s a first date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 04:00 AM
171

Once had a man propose a spot notorious for a wait. He offered to get there early and stand in line. Def green flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 03:10 AM
58

Absolutely not proposing this as a global standard. I am a fairly early riser and absolutely love breakfast out. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 03:09 AM
22

This should be in the handbook. 1000%. A HVM is a positive set of traits, the most important being that he gets pleasure from your happiness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 02:06 AM
4

ha! I can fantasize about that....but really, I deserve nice things. and while I appreciate the block and delete sentiment, and will likely do that at some point, after 15 years, there are still logistics to be unwound so that's not an option right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 03:55 PM
35

No energy given. Can’t block yet still some logistics being handled. Just leaving him on read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:31 AM
30

Me: “you have no idea how much worse you’re going to feel when I ignore your big gesture”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:30 AM
26

They really think we are stupid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:29 AM
42

And he’s already texting to see if I got it 🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:01 AM
43

Exactly my thoughts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 11:27 PM
61

I BEGGED him to buy me flowers over the 15 years. I can count on one hand the number of times he did it. it's so unbelievable it makes me ANGRY AF. A friend asked if I was going to keep them. OF COURSE I AM I SHOULD GET SOMETHING FOR MY TROUBLE. M-fer. GRR.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 10:58 PM
11

I am child free too. Still the possibility of childbearing is almost always there and as such they still need to earn it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:53 PM
23

“No one cares here” Yassssssss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 03:41 PM
29

I wonder if the reason they stopped bothering was because they are getting so much free sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 03:39 PM
49

This. If a man wants a woman to bear his child, which is the purpose of sex overall, he needs to earn it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 03:29 PM
2

You got all that right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 03:28 PM
4

I recently had an exchange with a very successful and somewhat famous acquaintance who has a very large and public reputation for ethics. I asked him on a public linkedin post to reconsider some male privilege and this was the reply: “Thanks for the feedback in my latest post, I appreciate it and understand it. If simply being a white male makes me “extremely privileged” (and arguably, in today’s world, it does), then I’ll plead guilty. However my background is anything but privileged, I’m afrai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 03:24 AM
76

There’s a reason most apex predators are extinct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 05:19 AM
6

JustNoSo got me an FDS recommendation by Reddit. Life is forever better. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 01:20 PM
10

Mind. Blown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 01:12 PM
18

Nailed it. One reason young women get so much attention at work is because they aren’t seen as actual competition for jobs. Once they start kicking ass look out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 01:10 PM
43

$20 says a guy wrote that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 01:06 PM
18

He’s not even the first. There are whole books on this idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 01:06 PM
8

Came to say this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 01:04 PM
45

“But I’m WORRIED about you!” -NVX asking about my new place, 90 days after threatening to hit me with a frying pan. He would always open doors, carry heavy things, check in on me if I was alone. It was the start of him controlling everything. So this is my gentle reminder to put all behaviors in context and keep vetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 12:59 PM
1

Nope. Got all my stuff. Have to drop off some things but I won’t go inside where he lives because his horrible mother lives there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 11:20 PM
6

Thank you for this. It’s a message I need to hear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 04:05 PM
3

I can so relate. We lived in close proximity for years 24x7.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 04:04 PM
5

I am in both a therapy and a dv group. They help for different reasons and agree fully
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 03:40 PM
88

As someone who was a boiled frog for fifteen years, THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 02:39 PM
5

Thank you for this. I am reading and processing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 02:35 PM
32

Yes! Great coverage. Way to go, ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 05:33 AM
56

We aren’t married. I was a forever girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 04:22 AM
9

Any tips? I really value the experience of those who paved the path.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 03:29 AM
12

Thank you for this. It is hard. I wish I grasped why. Bit it’s BETTER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 03:28 AM
12

Thanks for this. One of the hardest things i have ever done. Any sense of why it was so hard for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 03:28 AM
14

It’s brutal to watch. I felt horrible. But it’s done now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 03:27 AM
115

Holy shit girl, I am glad you are safe. Please be careful if he is out on bail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 03:26 AM
68

This morning he said “you seem really excited and happy” NO SHIT SHERLOCK. Jesus h, dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 03:24 AM
2

His name was South East Asian. I don’t know enough to know if Pakistani, Indian (or Sikh, Hindu, etc)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 09:22 PM
22

Hi. I am someone coming out of an emotionally abusive relationship of 15 years. I too am a survivor. I have been in group counseling with a domestic violence org in my city. They counselors are helong me a lot with issues similar to yours-blaming myself. I haven’t fully internalized it yet and I’m working on it, but the counselors have stress to me how important it is that I come to understand that I did not deserve how I was treated. I think about this a lot. I was raised in a pull yourself up …
/r/askFDS07/08/21 05:47 AM
29

Agree. Waste of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 12:59 PM
61

Shoot guinea pigs? I have to laugh. He sounds like a 13 year old. I don’t mean to make light of your pain but honestly just sounds like a complete loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 03:07 AM
16

I love this idea as a response: Sex Childbirth Domestic Servant Breadwinner Pick one, scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:46 PM
20

Bwahaha. Even a simple: no, I don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:45 PM
257

The minute he said love languages I knew he was looking for the act to put on. Thanks for the training, Queens!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:13 PM
96

“Ladies, do anything rather than settle. You are much better off single, than with some scrote going 50/50 on the bills and 0/100 on all the labor. If someone says, "that's why you're single!" to your standards, just say, "exactly, I'm glad you get it." You deserve the best.” All of FDS can be summed up in this paragraph. It really is that simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:48 AM
6

This. Most of my business’ clients are women. The men who are are very high value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 09:13 PM
5

This made me lol and reminded me of something about my lvx that was an early red flag. He said his height was x. That’s my height. Imagine my surprise when I met him and he was an inch shorter. 15 years later…as I was preparing to leave he passed me in the hall. I was wearing sneakers, he was barefoot. He said “why are you so tall?” I said i have always been taller. He STILL DENIED IT. Thanks for the laugh. It’s been a hard couple of weeks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:11 PM
2

Something very similar happened to me and I didn’t take action until he violently threatened me. Good for you for getting out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:07 PM
5

The day he threatened to hit me over the head with a cast iron frying pan he was cooking with because he wanted me to shut up. As I said when I walked out of the room “there’s no coming back from this.” I moved into temp housing a couple weeks later (leveraging his remorse and love bombing for safety) and this weekend move into my new beautiful apartment in a gated community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:58 PM
2

I think The secret is the same as it is for high-value men. Live your life. Do the things that you enjoy and are interested in. Seek out others who are interested in the same things. Relationships will naturally develop from there. As I’ve said on other posts, I’m not dating. This applies to friends as well. I am living my life and the people who wish to join me will make themselves known.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:55 PM
2

Agreed. One reason I stayed w lvx was the ability to live in this area. However, I used the opp to build a business now so successful that I dumped his ass when I could get the place I wanted. It wasn’t worth the 15 years on one hand, but the dirt cheap health insurance made it possible to build the business. Had I had a reasonable and affordable living situation and health care I would have left sooner. Btw scrotes, I paid 50/50 and for all my insurance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:52 PM
2

Jail? Jesus Pickmeisha get a life. What a trash mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:42 PM
4

I love this story. You did really well! And I agree. FDS has helped me beyond breaking up w my LVX Example: a professional colleague asked me out for coffee, for networking purposes, I assumed.) I am new to the specific area we were to meet in so I asked him to pick a place. And he was reluctant to do that. I left him on read. A friend told me I should reach out and thanks to FDS I said, “I don’t ask for men’s time.” He proposed the coffee. It was up to him to suggest the place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:38 PM
5

I love these posts. It reminds me to raise the fucking bar. That’s a high value man right there. In the end, HV isn’t money. It’s “gives a shit about people besides himself and shows it”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:24 PM
4

“My bitch”. Smdh Let’s start referring to men as “my scrote” or “my wallet” 🥸😈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:22 PM
4

You haaaaaaate to see it. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:20 PM
21

I am pretty but not hot in the way the media defines it. And I cannot fucking believe how at professional conferences men assume I am flirting with them when I say hello at a coffee break. Me: in line for coffee is this your first time here? Them: I’m married Me: That’s nice. Seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:17 PM
7

Megan Markle married down. He left his family for her and hers.
/r/askFDS04/08/21 03:07 PM
44

All this. Money is power that’s why they try to keep it from us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 02:18 PM
4

I can’t seem to find the article now but the gist of it is that that’s the time most of our social circles start having kids and you grow apart. I had to find new friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 03:39 AM
398

You are not alone. I am not dating. I am living my life and if a man wants to join me, he will make his interest known. Edit: thanks for the awards. I learned it here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 03:42 PM
14

To my point, the CF community is vast and varied. None of which takes anything away from your excellent point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 03:34 PM
58

Wow. Enlightening. Thank you for sharing with us. I learned something today. I have noticed in discussing race that Black men have a very hard time grokking male privilege. It reminds me of how us White women often struggle with race privilege. They are rightly angry about how the world treats Black men. At the same time it’s as though that experience blinds them to their own views as men. As I said, relatable as a White woman. Only Black women and other women of color see both at the same time.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 03:31 PM
27

While I am wary of the language you use to describe what other people should do, I can relate to the sentiment behind it. LV ex didn’t want children, but it took him a long time to admit that. I came to see only in hindsight that the reason he did not want children was because he could not even take care of me. I saw the way he treated our dog, as though it were a stuffed animal or an object placed on earth solely for his benefit, and I saw clearly that he would’ve been a terrible father. I am n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 03:24 PM
36

This. NVX looked like a good listener. He was emotionally stunted from an overbearing NPD/BPD mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 02:08 PM
53

IDK. Someone this gross isn’t worth my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 02:05 PM
151

Spoiler: no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 02:03 PM
51

Exactly. If he was truly interested he would try. Everything else is a half assed attempt to get in our pants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 03:48 AM
37

Yup. Boundaries are typically about the word No. and anyone who can’t respect them-male or female, friend or family-is toxic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 01:10 PM
32

But can’t you ComMunICaTE to me why? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 07:46 PM
2

This hit hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 04:48 AM
5

Absolutely true. Wtf? My lvx showered every day and still left yellow stains on the sheets and mattress. Then had the fucking audacity to complain about the cost of a mattress pad. I get my own place next week. I am ordering a top of the line mattress…a zippered enclosure for it, and he will never ever fucking sleep on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 04:13 AM
19

It’s so lazy of them to say that. They might as well be saying “what do I have to say to have sex with you”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 01:53 AM
12

thanks to this sub I am leaving my LVX of 15 years. I move into my own plaace next weekend. he was trying to be all nice- offered to loan me furniture while I bought my own, and so on. He probably thought there was still hope, and maybe there was -if he had stepped up. tonight, a story about how far I have come. I've been trying to get my blood pressure under control for months and he knows this--trying various medications that are having horrible side effects. tonight my bp was 175/90. I felt a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 01:00 AM
8

Agree. I work in the tech field so early on the boundaries were less clear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 03:12 PM
13

I have professional acquaintances I am friendly with. Have been quite helpful. But yes their friendship is rarely every true. Exceptions exist. But overall, nah. Better late than never for me to learn this I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 02:52 PM
21

As I said in my post last night, it can be a useful way to see who are low value but in general my fb circle is very closed. Limited only to people I know in real life. Use LinkedIn for professional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 02:49 PM
27

Professional connections are necessary and useful. But indeed, friends is a stretch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 02:08 PM
1

And he was lying, you know it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 05:13 AM
2

Exactly this. If you make a list you are high maintenance. No list and they think you are desperate. I am loving the non comittal answers I see here like “someone who can be his true self around me.” All the other answers will come off as defensive (for me.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:32 AM
14

I used to be my real name on the internet. I had short hair for awhile. When men were upset with what I said they went straight for calling me a lesbian due to my hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:16 AM
4

This. Not saying it never happens but I agree that way too much emphasis is being put on men’s feelings when domestic violence is overwhelmingly perpetrated by cishet men on cishet women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:15 AM
92

Oh HELL yes to this. Once FDS slapped me awake I could see it every day and the ick set in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:13 AM
22

This. It’s not the hobby(MOST hobbies LolSob) but its place in his life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 03:18 PM
133

I don’t care what a man’s hobbies are if they are a good partner. I won’t contribute to toxic masculinity by deriding Legos, as just one example. 2 of the most high value men I know are terrific dads and do Legos with their kids, seriously. Legos are better than weed, booze, and video games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 01:29 PM
24

I facepalm when i think about why NVX liked my personal ad 15 years ago. I said at the time I wanted someone who was funny and kind. He liked that because “the list wasn’t long.” 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 01:56 AM
15

Da fuq?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:15 PM
37

It really depends on how he copes with adversity. Does he blame others, soldier through, work on himself? Does he get his worth internally or externally? Is he lazy in any way, cheating is often about laziness. Were his parents faithful to each other? None of these alone are guarantees but together they can help triangulate towards lower risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 12:58 PM
18

Worked in the games industry. It’s a cesspool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:01 AM
10

He hates himself. So obvious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:00 AM
23

Ohio is the new Texas. It’s sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:08 PM
30

Lowering one’s standards can be useful in certain situations. Not in a life partnership
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 02:59 PM
46

Under rated comment right here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 10:32 PM
3

Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 04:20 AM
10

A good deep tissue massage preceeded by orgasm and hot tub can do wonders. I like to think the person who put hand held showerheads in the private showers at the spa knew what they were doing. Have a light lunch with a glass of bubbly. Shower. Hot tub. Massage. Steam room to let the oil penetrate Relax, nap. Go home, eat dinner and go to bed early. Life changing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 03:25 AM
2

What’s MSM?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 03:21 AM
2

A lot of them got their asses divorced in the pandemic no doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 03:16 AM
2

4 drinks alone on a first date is a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 03:08 AM
1

For real. 15 years and I STILL don’t know his net worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 03:05 AM
4

I am kicking myself for seeing him starting to keep Stuff at my place six weeks after we met as cute instead of gross. One of many, many red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 03:04 AM
18

I always felt ambivalent about children: I could see a way being happy with or without them. There is no way to avoid regret, whatever choice you make. A close friend who spent large sums of money to have her children is constantly complaining about how hard it is. I feel pangs sometimes as my friends’ kids leave the nest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:19 AM
8

Everyone isn’t entitled to a baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 01:23 AM
1

They know. And if they wanted to fo things for us, they would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 02:16 AM
5

I like “could you repeat what you said?” Or “which part, exactly, do you not understand?” Also fond of “it’s not that I don’t understand, it’s that I disagree.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 05:42 PM
-7

They actually did not. Have a lovely day, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:17 AM
-7

They didn’t put it down. They said what THIS sub is all about. That’s their right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:46 AM
15

Seems legit to me! I am not invested in him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:44 AM
21

Thank you for staying on the case!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:18 AM
10

This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:17 AM
28

I block the ones who do nothing but argue
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:15 AM
6

Ladies, fucking nailed it again. People-scrotes AND women- need to listen to these podcasts before they critique. Edit: I enjoy the downvotes from the haters. Get a life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 04:09 PM
22

For real. I read once about most literature with a sexually aware woman ends up with her dead or in permanent despair. Men project on us. The data show they need us FAR MORE than we need them. And it’s time to act like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 04:22 PM
26

I also listen to and subscribe to the podcast. They really do complement each other. I am as a middle aged woman consistently blown away by the mods’ intelligence, understanding, and crystal clear insight. You all speak the truth. And from what I see you are right, men have gotten worse. Much worse. The advice you are giving is exactly what my mom and grandma raised me with: assume all men are bastards until they prove beyond a shadow of a doubt otherwise. Mom taught me to never drink the punch …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 04:18 PM
36

Brava! I am recovering and I know I need the tough but fair love our mods use to wrangle us. If in any way I ever Contribute to this dynamic I want to apologize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 01:40 PM
34

I don’t think I am qualified to advise. I want to tell you it’s normal, you’re human, and to say I am proud of you for noticing your feelings and not just reacting to them. Please take good care of yourself.
/r/askFDS12/07/21 03:17 PM
9

I am not a veteran FDSer. However I did move in with a man who was my financial equal, and eventually we lived in a house that he owned. Even though I was paying half the bills, and carrying half of the household work, (truly, he cooked and cleaned) he became controlling. He wouldn’t let me decorate the space in my way, he wouldn’t compromise, he became very defensive about what went where. This may not apply to your guy, I just want to share my experience as one more thing to keep vetting for o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 03:13 PM
132

This never happened
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 10:01 PM
13

I was thinking about that other story I heard too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:56 PM
91

Like y’all said on the podcast, they never change until there are consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:33 PM
1

AIM? What is he, 60 years old?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:37 PM
1

Every time I come here my jaw falls on the floor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:37 PM
6

Men are disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:19 PM
5

Oh god. I threw up in my mouth. Before breakfast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:04 PM
141

He got airline points? Da fuq?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 12:53 PM
71

At a minimum. Big city, higher education, big job, peak earnings years? Double.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 12:53 PM
44

Asking a lot of questions that are intrusive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:42 PM
26

Wholesome!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:41 PM
3

Many even have movies and music on cd too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 09:24 PM
86

A hot bubble bath and nice candle is my frugal Splurge. In finance terms: saving when you are young gives you not only the benefit of compound interest but also “go to hell money” for any Scrote who messes with you at work or at home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 07:19 PM
11

An after dinner stroll? Maybe. Beyond that the guy is cheap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 07:16 PM
3

Thank you!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 09:48 PM
109

This. All this. It happened to me with so many people when I started patrolling my boundaries. All those users I lost made room for more amazing people. I used to say: “our relationship is a bank account and you are overdrawn. “
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 05:28 PM
7

I simply think those brunches are the debates I had with myself in my 20s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 05:24 PM
30

I have a pet theory they are all one person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:14 PM
2

Sing it, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:09 PM
40

Queen Among Queens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:23 AM
2

Make sure it’s anonymous or it will out you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 05:43 PM
5

“Same reason I don’t have an iguana.” “My third breast is a turn off.” “It’s not easy to find my equal” I like to make jokes when dumb questions are asked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 04:06 PM
13

Lovely. I will add “ok.” With the same polite smile. It drives them berserk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 04:03 PM
18

I stopped telling people what I was going to do and just did it. Men assume we are asking for permission. And for me, I probably was. I started keeping my own counsel on most decisions when I became a CEO. It’s impossible to lead people if they think you don’t know where you are going. I seek input all the time but I make it clear that I am doing so (eg I am looking for perspective on this topic before I make a decision, what’s yours?).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 04:01 PM
7

If it makes you feel better I was a clown for many more years. To me, you are a superwoman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:52 PM
5

“The dissent of my soul” That’s a poetry collection title if I ever heard one. Well done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:50 PM
13

So proud of you both. You won’t regret it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:50 PM
10

This. Scream from the rooftops. 15 years of my life asking why. One of the powerful things of the idea “he’s just not that into you” is that it makes us stop asking why. If he wanted to, he would is one of the most important FDS ideas I have learned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:47 PM
3

Mood for life is exactly the right flair. Mazel tov.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:44 PM
26

For real. Absolutely not a hill i need to die on. On a holiday weekend no less! 😂😇💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:41 PM
23

Holy. Forking. Shirt. Balls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:40 PM
45

This is a lifetime pickmeisha award
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:39 PM
34

I still think it’s a scrote saying this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:36 PM
129

The age difference makes me physically ill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:36 PM
4

Like in “The Polar Express.” Annoying AF!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:51 AM
2

So inspiring!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:50 AM
11

I have had some success with this framework Stop. Wait. Wonder. Take no action then get curious.
/r/askFDS01/07/21 04:43 AM
1

Much appreciated! 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 03:57 AM
12

I’d sue for revenge porn. Absolutely no nude photos ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:01 AM
9

Fuck yeah. Get that deed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:00 AM
14

Jesus. How desperate can you get?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:59 AM
95

I hope she dumps his immature ass. He sounds like a total loser and deserves to cry himself to sleep out of loneliness until he grows up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:57 AM
39

Well hung HVM don’t seem to feel the need to talk about it. Some can even be self conscious about it or insecure if it was too big for a previous partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:15 PM
5

Thanks for the advice. We are not yet done separating our lives so that’s not possible just yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 12:58 PM
2

I hope he gets pick pocketed along with his scrote raising parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:43 AM
109

Recently my ex (of 15 years) asked me if I would accompany him to a function. He offered to drive, pay for hotel and dog care and do all the arrangements. All I could think was “if you’d done this about two months ago we’d still be together. “
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:25 AM
37

She will learn. As we all did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 10:07 PM
22

A classic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 06:11 PM
32

He sounded intoxicated too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 12:59 PM
1

This. Men always marry up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 03:38 AM
14

Really appreciated the recommendation for this movie!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 03:26 AM
20

Indeed. Unrelenting standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 12:42 AM
24

“His schedule was the inflexible one” This. Away from LVX a month now and I feel so free for not having to live on his schedule.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 05:57 AM
13

JFC he can buy her pre check for like what? $100? Fucking Scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 05:53 AM
8

Those grey pants are an abomination. Something Randy Quaid’s character would wear in the movie “Christmas Vacation.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:18 PM
10

No is the most feminist word. It’s the word of agency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 05:50 AM
6

This is precisely why we have to vet the fuck out of these animals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 05:48 AM
4

I am 51 and it is you who are teaching me. We all have to stop giving a fuck what other people think and live our gd lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 05:46 AM
9

I have so much anger built up that the next guy who gets in my physical space is likely to need a nose job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 05:45 AM
7

As someone who spent 15 years w a similar man, you are doing the right thing. He sounds codependent and needing a mommy, but hates his own mother and treats all women as her stand in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 05:41 AM
21

Yuck! Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 08:17 PM
224

Oh idk. He makes a lot of money. Edit: his net worth is $500M. She wasn’t poor. But she wasn’t that rich either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 03:54 PM
574

She’s a world renowned human rights lawyer, btw
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 03:44 PM
1

Got it, thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 03:43 PM
26

I get the overall point. At the same time male mentors and professional contacts have been helpful to me. And I fear the idea gets very close to “can’t be in a room with a woman not your wife” which hinders women’s career progress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 12:44 PM
30

Yeah all this. This is probably my worst pickme behavior. Always grateful for the reminders!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:20 AM
8

As a friend of mine said, “never stay in a relationship for stuff that can be done by a Task Rabbit. “🤣 Congrats on building your furniture. Feels great doesn’t it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:15 AM
17

I am so proud of you. This is hard stuff. Congratulations for choosing you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:13 AM
1

...maybe? I'd rather not eat pizza than eat bad pizza. (no judgements on the casual hookup whatsoever, but this sub isn't called "casual hookup strategy)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 06:34 PM
2

When did you write each day? Been trying a long time to get into the habit. I have so many notebooks and pens!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 03:30 PM
30

Taco John just seems to fit better. But this is like something off a tv show. Hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:35 PM
28

This should have the flair “wholesome content” 🤣💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:23 PM
11

Why Tinder, of all places?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:18 PM
4

For a second I thought she said Sphincter! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 04:20 AM
2

Tell me about the journal. How did you start?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 04:20 AM
6

Are you me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 04:17 AM
19

Every time I had a comment auto modded, it was fixed without my even having to ask. I have had posts taken down too. I see it as part of my journey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 04:03 AM
154

This is the mood for life. It’s a super example of HV thinking. There are some things in the FDS handbook I don’t agree with. I’m not even going to describe them here. There is a lot I get out of FDS, and I don’t have to agree 100% with everything in order to get value from being here. Put another way, This isn’t my house, so I have two choices: follow the rules or leave. I don’t mind playing by the rules, because that’s what human beings do if they want to have relationships with other human be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 04:02 AM
24

There is this high drama woman in my grad school alumni network. One day I told her to take a hike. She proceded to tell others in the class. A few mentioned it to me. “K says you blocked her. You guys fighting?” “No. She’s just too high drama for me.” “Cool. So how are things?” Your post leads me to believe you are quite young. Keep cutting LV ppl out of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 01:55 PM
67

Guys often say, regarding breasts, “more than a handful is a waste.” So I got a guy with bigger hands. 💀💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 01:45 PM
19

This kind of man deserves to be an incel forever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 06:22 AM
57

Men select for looks. So fuck em if we select for…other things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 06:21 AM
9

QED. Thus it is proven. AKA: “This is the way.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 06:20 AM
37

All this. Today I went to one of my favorite stores and bought a boatload of clothes and a new necklace. I hadn’t really bought anything since pandemic and I just separated from my partner of 15 years. A lot of my stuff is in storage and after a year of pandemic livibg who even knows what fits? A new dress that shows my curves in the most fetching way. Two pairs of light summer pants in Fabrics that give me joy. Two beautiful comfy tops. And a pretty, floral, feminine necklace. I have no plans f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 06:17 AM
34

This is the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 06:07 AM
147

If a stunning girl like this is struggling to stay at peace with herself I can be a lot kinder to myself than I am.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:03 PM
37

The problem with the fancy bar is that it will be assumed you are a prostitute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 05:59 PM
40

This. Have been thinking that “dating” isn’t for me. Living my life is for me. If a man I encounter along the way wants to try and get my attention he knows what to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 05:48 PM
2

Appreciate the explanation! Carry on-or not! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 02:54 PM
13

In the US the mines are basically coal country and not big $$ at all. Oil and gas in texas perhaps might be the closest? But thank you-I was all “he’s poor….” -which clearly he is not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 02:04 PM
54

My dearest: if you think leaving after three years is hard, be glad you aren’t trying after ten. Read “why does he do that” by Lundy Bancroft. He will. Not. Change. If he wanted to, he would have. Keep repeating it over and over again. Take care of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 02:01 PM
30

This. FDS really does believe no OLD. I did it one time this week after not having done it in 15 years just to examine the concept. FDS is right. It’s like browsing the clearance racks at a discount store.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 01:59 PM
8

Does “working in mines” mean something different in Australia than in the US?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 01:57 PM
0

Ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 10:40 PM
0

As a white woman, I have said things with absolutely no intent to be racist. I came to understand why those statements were racist, or the origin of the expression. I believe the same dynamic may be at play here. You may not have intended to refer to an older woman as a decaying piece of fruit with no value,I get it. Put a different way… If a person of color wrongs me, using a racist comment to describe them is never ok. Intent is not impact. I understand how you were wronged here, and I hope yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 10:36 PM
0

I can only know what I read. Hearing now that you thanked her and tried to take what you could is good to hear. At the same time, the “old banana” comment was ageist. It’s not an appropriate way to refer to older people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 10:31 PM
0

This post smacks of ageism and internalized misogyny. You assumed you had nothing to learn. Yes, it sounds like she had unexpressed expectations and should have been more explicit. At the same time, you could have expressed yourself earlier, too. The old banana comment communicated to me at least, and probably unintentionally, that you think you had nothing to learn. You didn’t express that your boundaries were violated (or at least you don’t say that you did here). There are always two sides in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 10:04 PM
10

I am laughing about how Facebook gave 12 hour bans to me and some of my friends just for saying “men are trash.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 05:11 PM
25

Yup. And the response could be from me “sure I will send you something” then block and delete.
/r/askFDS19/06/21 04:37 PM
8

In the age of online reviews these men are lazy af. Block and delete
/r/askFDS19/06/21 04:35 PM
32

I wonder what the research would say about video games as a gateway drug to porn?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 04:30 PM
133

Young women: I am so sorry about the shit hand you are being dealt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 04:29 PM
2

This. I don’t ski. I have tried. My balance is shit. I do not mind cross country skiing or sitting in the lodge by the fire with a book. But the people who ski every weekend just aren’t my speed. And so many men ski.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 04:26 PM
5

For real. I am only in my early 50s. I sure AF do not want to be raising kids! Get your life together man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 04:23 PM
3

The analogy for over 40 dating as an antique hunt is so apt. Online it’s a garage sale.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 02:21 PM
16

This. Saw so many with a hat on in pic 1, dead giveaway. Bald isn’t a deal killer but being sensitive about it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 02:16 PM
43

I am sorry to hear about this. There appears to be no end to what Black women have to deal with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 02:11 PM
3

Yikes! I went and saw that. These were all on Bumble and supposedly all wanted a relationship. And the goods were so, so odd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 01:58 PM
19

I think: you’re 60. You have maybe 15 good years left. And your kids aren’t in college? I want you focused on me. Hard pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 03:55 AM
29

Word. But both are a waste if time if what you need is a little black dress that fits perfectly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 01:49 AM
50

Oh god. The ENM/GGG bs was just too much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 11:57 PM
22

Exactly. Marshall’s is like TJ Maxx. You find something right but it doesn’t fit. Or someone left makeup on it. Or the material is itchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 11:53 PM
35

🤣💀 I had to see for myself. Wow did FDS principles make it easy to notice how messed up so many of them are. Not sure if will get my same breed (poodle) or a rescue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 11:26 PM
29

Welcome. You are not alone. I am excited at all that is ahead of you now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 11:09 PM
52

Word. These tortured souls are soul sucking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 11:08 PM
46

I live in hippie heaven. Can confirm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 10:27 PM
3

I guess as I turn 50 I know a lotta men are likely to have had kids. It will be interesting to see. I am a long way off from dating anyone right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:51 PM
3

For real. All That time wasted!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:49 PM
9

This. My mom helped me a lot as a kid. Untidy was mostly ok. But dirty was not ok. Ever. It was a health issue. There may be clutter in my space but my bathroom is clean, dishes are done (I never live without a dishwasher for this reason) and laundry must be in my house or very accessible (same floor of an apt building). Btw I discovered I love tidying right before bed. I left the house “go” during the day, then reset as a wind down. It works for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:47 PM
3

As an ADHDer please be careful. In my experience men who want to “rescue” me turn into hating me. They get resentful of picking up after me (when I don’t need then to, it’s that they can’t rest if a glass is on the counter a few hours), and take it personally. Far better is the person who can laugh with me, not at me. Who doesn’t see my less organized house and find a project but rather shrugs, asks how/if I want help, and otherwise leaves it alone. Or doesn’t get mad if I drop something (ADHD i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:44 PM
1

That’s my point. It’s ok for a childfree woman to date a single father if kids are older, so long as kids are not assholes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:36 PM
3

Omg. Lol!!! 💀🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:32 PM
1

Seriously! These are my favorite kinds of posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:29 PM
1

This is the story I need to hear. Normalize men being healthy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:26 PM
4

I like the idea of a weekly or even daily vent thread.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:19 PM
1

Grown/college kids would be ok right? (Assuming they aren’t assholes)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:11 PM
3

I was so lucky my lvx didn’t make it hard to leave. But I was 100% ready for him to be violent. Had multiple backup plans and could barely breathe til it was done. He surprised the hell out of me by actually being a calm and reasonable person but I would never tell anyone to count on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:05 PM
16

When my lvx threatened to hit me with a frying pan, y’all told me to go research family annihilators. I did. It was chilling. Most of them had never had a prior domestic incident and nearly half annihilated their families with nothing more than a kitchen knife. Women simply do not do this, at least not in any statistically significant way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:02 PM
4

All This. My lvx was all about this. Til the day I woke up and asked what he was saving all this money for. He. Had. No. Idea. No. Answer. Big red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 05:56 PM
2

I don’t judge you. Your story is your story. Point being you DIDN’T Become a SW. and I doubt most who do planned to do it as a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 11:43 PM
62

A prenup is essential if either of you have assets. It can be literally whatever you both want. You just tell the lawyer and they write it up. I would add to specifically exclude inheritance from community property.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 10:20 PM
2

Basically at this point I plan to never date again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:12 AM
18

Omg. I was on a subway platform in nyc in my 20s waiting for a train when some scrotes threw a peach at me. Hit the wall over my shoulder. Men are assholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:09 AM
4

Good for you for not committing a felony. I am so tired right now that any mf who did that would find me calling 911 for harassment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:08 AM
96

This. I have always said no little girl grows up wanting to be a SW. by the time it happens, something has gone terribly wrong. You are a very strong person to have survived this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:03 AM
17

Once I saw Fight Club I became skeptical of support groups
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:14 PM
12

It really makes me wonder about some of the people who talk to me here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:11 PM
2

I make no judgement. People come in so many nuances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:44 PM
1

I will miss you here Lilith. And will seek you out elsewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:40 PM
5

I cringe when I think about what my ex said about why he picked me: her list wasn’t too long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:49 PM
8

This is the humor I love here! Y’all help me laugh about a super painful subject.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:46 PM
15

On the day I graduated from high school, the principle of my high school told me, “no man will ever want to marry you because you think too much.” And I believed him. Which is why I married the first guy who came along in College who cheated on me. Fuck this shit. Why don’t we say to men “get your shit together or no woman will ever want to marry you” WE DON’T NEED MEN ANYMORE. They just don’t get it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:46 PM
5

Ok so one good thing about turning 50 is that everyone stops asking you about kids, and tells you how much they envy you. Hang in there, ladies. I built my own business and have money and it’s amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:44 PM
7

Was Talking to a younger woman the other day and she told me a story about some guy approaching her to chat. She looks younger than she is, and when he discovered her age, he said “oh I thought you were 16” and basically walked away. That is some depraved shit. I did drop a little FDS on her without naming us, and just said if you meet a man in his 40s and he’s single, it’s because no woman in their 40s would date him. We then both bonded over how stupid and scary only fans is. 💪🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:41 PM
5

I think a good vet is: would my gay friend think he was clean and attractive enough? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:36 PM
15

Scarcity is a powerful drug. It’s not being casual about sex that can be an asset-the problem is that it attracts a kind of man who wants to “conquer” and then loses interest after the chase. I wonder how you queens vet for that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:32 PM
4

So this reminds me of a tale I heard from a very attractive gay friend of mine in Hollywood. He’s in his 40s, Ivy League educated, extremely fit, on the business side of things. One day he told me the story that there are these men in Hollywood who are very straight, who are basically the power players in Hollywood. And most of them are having very intense gay sex, because their their belief is that women cannot meet their intense sexual needs. I have since Check the story out with some other ga…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:28 PM
13

I saw a documentary on prey animals- quick reflexes, eyes set apart to see more of the environment, constantly scanning/alert….describes a lotta women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:24 PM
8

A certain amount of this is loving kindness. At the same time if this is all i ever heard in any relationship-male or female-it feels codependent and likely to end up with that person resenting the other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:21 PM
16

Does he have a brother? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:19 PM
4

Oooh. This is a very good idea. Economics theory says humans don’t value that which is free. So, make him work for it. Like waiting in the queue at Disney. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:18 PM
22

Indeed. My ex wasn’t the greatest in bed but at least he loved to hold me while I masturbated and wasn’t threatened by a goddamn vibrator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:16 PM
3

4 months? Sis, even one time should be a sign to take out the trash. They Never. Ever. Get. Better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:15 PM
11

Right there with you. I had read that book before my last relationship and since it was so focused on physical violence I didn’t understand emotional abuse. I wish we taught these things to our young people. How to recognize it. (And in many people it could lead to more self awareness)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:13 PM
26

Was in public transit with a male friend one time and he pointed out a sketchy character to me. I said: bro I spotted him 2 stops ago. Women are FAR more aware of our surroundings because we have to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:06 PM
17

Brad. 💀🤣👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:01 PM
16

Them and surgeons, especially in orthopedics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:00 PM
20

On track to earn six figures where I live means you live in poverty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:59 PM
24

This. As a poor kid who made good and met a few rich folks along the way, the generational wealth is still mostly silent. My close friend didn’t reveal her substantial family wealth til I had known her for years. Like most things in life, if you brag about it, it’s because you’re insecure. It’s like telling people you have a sense of humor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:58 PM
93

What a loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:55 PM
5

I just want to add how beautiful she is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:07 PM
1

Is the idea that HVM should pass all these tests?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:43 PM
26

Surgeons are absolutely ghastly partners agreed. Whatever enables them to cut open a living person breaks their ability to deal with people. On top pf it it’s the most macho part of medicine, especially orthopedics and cardiology.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:22 AM
7

This sounds like the plot of that HBO series and it sucks a lot. I am so sorry. Truly. What will you do now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:16 AM
36

I wish we could launch scrotes who do this into the sun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:11 AM
106

Scrotes think our choice not to fuck with them is our problem, not theirs. It’s astonishing, really. I don’t eat at Chipotle anymore because I don’t want to risk food poisoning. But no one’s saying I’m Chipotle-phobic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:10 AM
42

I appreciate this sentiment. I started my own company for exactly that reason. My time in corporate America taught me what I didn’t like and I am determined to do better by my team. So far at least, 25 people and near zero turnover are proving me right. 💖👍🏻💪🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:40 PM
14

Sit down and write out all the shitty things he did to you. Every last one. Be as petty as fuck. I recorded some of his shitty arguments to listen to when i got weak. It helps. Also, go outside. It’s Sunday. Get a walk in. Call a friend. Get a mani. Anything to distract yourself. Yoga, meditation, reading. You are strong. You will get through this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:01 PM
15

But OuR lOVe iSn’t MaTErial! 🤣🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:39 AM
42

This right here. If I married a guy who made a lot less than me, I’d wear a simple platinum band before a small diamond UNLESS it was a very young couple. But I’m in my 50s now. It would not sell well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:35 AM
52

Omg are you me? Came here to say this. Small dick energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:30 AM
26

It’s like white walkers but with beer bellies and dirty nails. Dead eyes are the same tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:25 AM
60

As PT Barnum said, “no such thing as bad publicity.” 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:16 AM
386

I absolutely LOVE how we get to live rent free in their tiny pea brains.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:48 AM
6

All hail our mods: long may they reign!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 10:10 PM
19

He makes ginger hot!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:25 PM
1

I understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 02:26 AM
1

I didn’t feel the need. I honestly thought it was obvious. Clearly, I was wrong. My apologies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:44 AM
194

Oh god is this disgusting. As a childhood sexual assault survivor, can I ask us to use spoiler tags and content warnings??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:20 AM
-3

The OP says “we” planned the day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 07:22 PM
-5

Something extra special. Something that isn’t an average Saturday. “We” had a day planned sounds like he didn’t do much and basically proposed on spur of the moment on a good day together. Doesn’t feel queenly to me-feels like an average day with friends. Ymmv. I am ok with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 07:21 PM
7

Can be. I have so many gay men friends who are more feminist than I am. They remember that the lesbians nursed then in the AIDS epidemic. But this subset of super privileged white gay men has a real issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 07:18 PM
-1

That’s exactly the point of posting. Seven years? And honestly doing things that could be done anytime? It’s not the things but the sort of average nature of it. Proposals should require something a bit extra. I thought we weren’t supposed to be “well if she’s happy” and push ourselves to raise standards. After seven years, proposing after ziplining just doesn’t seem very romantic. I get the part about “maybe this is what she likes” but what if that was all she could get?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 07:16 PM
41

I cried when I saw Wonder Woman. Those opening scenes of strong ass loving women were so amazing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:26 PM
11

And the orgs they have for women? Ish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:25 PM
24

Peter Thiel, the notorious gay libertarian investor, brags that a woman has never been inside his home. Even gay men hate us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:24 PM
10

I have no trouble with orgasm on my own. But I find it very hard to come with a partner. I feel very self conscious and few seem to enjoy actually getting women off. So I have settled (UGH. FUCK. ) for using the magic wand before and/or after piv. I envy the ladies whose men know how to make it fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:20 PM
13

Please read: the verbally abusive relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:18 AM
6

COmmuniCAtiON is a two way street. This therapist screwed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:00 AM
39

Disgusting. I don’t want to discuss women’s issues in forums that are moderated by men. Supporting medical stuff is one thing but the rest? Bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:59 AM
16

Nailed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:56 AM
62

God I just saw this this weekend. After FDS all I could think was “dump this fat ugly fuck gurl. You can do so much better. “
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:53 AM
65

This. 15 years of it. It’s absolutely abusive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:50 AM
103

I was raped by a trans woman. I am afraid to discuss it online because of how I will be attacked as a TERF. I absolutely support trans women and think bathroom bills are stupid AF. But if I ever ask questions about what the impact of trans women has on cis women, I know I’ll get death threats. They always seem to come from white trans women who were very privileged men prior to their transition. Black and brown trans women are the most likely to be murdered but we never seem to discuss that. It …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:48 AM
8

Fuck yes, Queen. I am so proud of you. Well. Done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 01:44 PM
27

Di we have any posts on this bread crumbing shit by exes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:01 PM
2

Good point. It’s better to be clear and not play games. Thanks for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:45 PM
31

One day my pup was having issues w his paw. It was inconsistent but he kept LICKING it. The male vet called him A DRAMA QUEEN. I took him away from there immediately. The all female owned vet practice diagnosed him properly with a well read xray and a biopsy. (It was a small splinter) If my dog had been a pit bull he wouldn’t have said that. It still makes me mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:38 PM
34

I enjoyed that piping hot cup of tea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:34 PM
47

Also if they make fun of certain breeds as girly. I own a a breed that os often mistakenly thought of as girly. Imagine the scrote’s face when my dog out ran his “manly” german shorthair pointer. I love all dogs. Nothing on GSPs. Just an example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:35 PM
10

That’s why I said “no experience with.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:33 PM
109

Or not cleaning up after them! Or not having regular vet appts, feeding crap food, not trimming nails, expressing anal glands, grooming/bathing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 03:52 PM
35

Asks: “what do they want?” When it’s obvious dog wants to be petted. Some people have no experience w dogs. But if they can’t show any empathy or imagination for what a pet might want, they are broken people-and could be terrible fathers. Let’s face it a pet’s needs are simple: feed, exercise, snuggle, play, soothe. Empathy is required to notice if a pet is feeling poorly. If they can’t empathize (different from no experience with) w a defenseless animal, fuck them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 03:51 PM
-6

The funny thing is LVX and I were the opposite Edit: downvoted? Why? I was essentially agreeing it was bollocks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:23 AM
300

This is why my stock reply to requests for anal is “you first.” The offer: I fuck you with a dildo the size of your penis. Lube of course. It’s amazing how fast that conversation changes. 😈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:16 AM
12

Consider having a friend who is in a difficult relationship to housesit. (Assuming it’s safe.) a friend did this for me over the years and the alone time was super helpful for really seeing him at a distance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:44 PM
47

I so want my own home. I live in a very high cost of living area. It’s hard to do on my own. So happy for those who can and have. My money all went into my business and it’s finally starting to show real returns so hopefully not much longer!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:42 PM
56

This is a wonderful story. But, sis, eleven years as a girlfriend? May I ask why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:34 PM
5

Came here to say this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:32 PM
67

What a fab idea. We have THE BEST mods!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:25 PM
81

Chains aren’t as effective as deadbolts-but maybe when you get a new door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:24 PM
26

Hell yeah! Wtg 👑👑👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:23 PM
7

💀💀💀 Masters of their domain
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:21 PM
56

Please tell me you saw that seinfeld episode where George got a toupee, then rejected a woman because she had to wear a wig. Elaine gets so frustrated with him she yells You’re (waving hands).....BALD! Then rips off his toupee and throws it in the street. George and Jerry were absolutely two sides of the same LV Scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 10:15 PM
20

You are spot on here. Your health conditions are no one’s business. I have ADHD and I am pretty open about it but on a first date? Fuck no. I want to spend that time sizing HIM up, not giving him something to use against me later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 10:10 PM
17

No tip is an automatic disqualification. Well done staying present and observant!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 10:06 PM
9

Hello there....🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:03 PM
16

Men are pigs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:27 PM
27

Peddit strikes again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:22 PM
7

“I paid someone on fiverr to write this bio”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 04:03 AM
58

Checks out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:53 AM
96

Motherfuckers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 07:43 PM
7

It was always a shit deal as Jane Austen showed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:48 PM
6

Right? Die mad, Scrotes! Middle fingers up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:35 PM
43

I bet his mom still does his laundry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:27 PM
2

And yet oddly how we are all “cat ladies”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 03:53 AM
8

Put this on a t shirt. 💪🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:42 PM
10

This. It’s like having a sense of humor. People wjo do don’t have to tell you they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:39 PM
34

This. “I’m a moody little fuck. “
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:38 PM
10

I had no idea narcs hated cats. Fascinating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:34 PM
16

What even is this word salad? It could have been written by literally anyone. He says hello to animals? Fuck him. Back the truck up then fuck him again. Into the sun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:30 PM
8

He also looks so angry when he sees it. And looks like an ugly little eraser Girl, ditch him. He’s trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:27 PM
65

All cops are bastards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:19 PM
4

Hun? 😵🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:32 AM
2

Professional networking is a great way to make friends. I follow great women I know on LinkedIn and it usually makes sense at some point to do a meet and greet. Amazing how often pro friends turn into real friends. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:29 AM
4

Well crap. As a legit entrepreneur I am in trouble lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:25 AM
13

I work from home. When I wasn’t I loved being downtown. Now that I am I crave space -especially outdoor space, so no more downtown for me lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:43 AM
10

It’s a mixed bag. Some are ok. Some are miserable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:02 PM
18

I want him to ask my best friend’s permission. There’s more but was thinking lately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:39 PM
36

This is a red flag. It’s a sign of a lack of boundaries. Be careful please.
/r/askFDS24/05/21 02:15 PM
7

Precisely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:07 PM
9

That POS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:45 AM
80

Babe Ruth stabbed a fan w a corkscrew so 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:44 AM
98

The light bulb has to really wanna change as the old psychiatry joke goes. In all seriousness, though. It took me fifteen years to learn the hard way that I can not control anyone’s behavior. I am powerless to change it. So people who suck must gtfo my life. Without FDS it might have bern longer. Only six more days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:00 AM
62

So many of my women mba friends had to marry down because scrotes are so insecure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:25 AM
40

You are living my best life. 💖💪🏻👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:55 PM
155

One really fucking amazing thing about top tier education is that many, many men self select out. I don’t judge people for their school, but the jealous and insecure show it pretty quickly on this. Reminds me of a story from before this relationship. I was having a drink with a date at my favorite bar where I know the bartender well-and tip well. (This has enormous benefits with dating. Highly recommended.) Anyhoo, scrote “townie” got all up in his feels about my ritzy education and became such …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:54 PM
2

Stop time at will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:42 PM
125

My business is about to cross a revenue threshold that 97% of women business owners never cross. It’s done wonders for my confidence. I have overcome so many obstacles to get here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 09:42 PM
82

Our mods deserve a purple heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:39 PM
8

Awesome. Great edits!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:37 PM
60

All this. We are left with a choice of ignoring our own reality and eventually hating the fuck out of them; or having to stand our ground daily, which is fucking exhausting. My stbxlvm is exactly like this. After 15 years I know it’s not on purpose per se, but regardless it’s fucking exhausting. So don’t date men who do this-no matter why they do it. If they do it unconsciously it’s because they are emotionally damaged. If they do it consciously they’re emotional terrorists. Run for the hills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:27 PM
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At first i thought this was a troll. And I am still not sure it isn’t. But at the end, you made a good point regardless. There are fakers out there. Always be vetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:20 PM
2

Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:13 AM
46

🤣👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:47 AM
15

My dear sweet girl. Please take care of you right now. You deserve the best. You are worth it. Congratulations on taking this important first step.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:46 AM
5

This is abuse. Also that’s a shit safeword.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:40 AM
21

cOMmuniCaTe more. Ugh. Stfu bumble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:46 PM
44

HVM probably don’t have Reddit accounts either. 🤣 Or at least they don’t use them to harass women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 02:43 PM
42

I need to dig out the piece a friend told me about where the bog reason women divorce midlife is that within 6 weeks of kids going to college women’s hormones change so fast they basically “wake up” to what shit show their husbands are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:19 AM
37

Most men are terrible at sex. Source: most women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:14 AM
12

Exactly. You make minimum wage you are no fucking patriarch. You are a worthwhile human-no shade for being poor-but you can’t expect to buy a porsche on a Mazda paycheck. It’s like they forgot they had to earn anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:12 AM
14

And only getting hotter imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:07 AM
9

Really don’t like long hair or facial hair but for him ut works. Hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 02:41 PM
33

Hello and congratulations. How are you doing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 12:46 AM
16

goals
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 11:54 PM
7

Men age like milk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 01:19 PM
15

A long time ago I worked with the guy now in charge of trust and safety at YouTube. He is a horrific asshole whose colleagues call him Voldemort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 01:13 PM
54

Right on. Skin care: yes. Makeup: as little as you can get away with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 01:09 PM
221

Jesus the men look awful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:08 AM
7

This is the content I crave. Well done, Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:07 AM
12

Brilliant. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:02 AM
24

Parler should be on the list of red flag sites
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 04:55 AM
38

He is the gateway drug to alt right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 04:48 AM
66

Yes. This is a great opportunity to play dumb on first dates and let them out themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 04:47 AM
38

You’d think these internet geniuses would get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 02:26 AM
12

Reality I -the power over others-is what drives most men and most of the misery in the world
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:51 AM
37

I own my business. Child free. It’s amazing. It will be even better when this scrote sized weight i have been carrying for 15 years is dropped soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:48 AM
5

Please be kind to yourself right now. You have been through a lot and you get to feel however the fuck you wanna feel. As long as you and your therapist think you are coping well, be patient with yourself. You don’t have to be interested in men at all now or at any time. Be kind to yourself-not just wallowing, as important as wallowing is. Eating well, exercise, sunshine, a massage or facial , fresh laundry, whatever it takes to lift your spirit one day at a time.
/r/askFDS19/05/21 04:43 AM
1

I don’t speak for FDS. But I found it helpful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:21 AM
2

YES hearing their voices is giving me life. I love seeing these young women spitting fire!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 11:10 PM
4

That roast a scrote was a phenomenal introduction to your voices. Became a Patreon subscriber, too. y'all rock. "All of Western Civilization collapsing because men don't wanna do the fucking dishes." YASSS My take: they're obsessed that we're all golddiggers, but they don't want to get the gold. they literally think they don't have to do a g--damn thing. they don't have to work to help create a home, or a relationship. Or even money, apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 11:01 PM
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I am still unpacking it all so I don't know that I have a full handle on why I stayed yet. I am sure part of it was that I just didn't wnat to accpet that he really does see the world differnetly than I do. I was sure he was just stunted, or couldn't be just so....awful. Some of it was guilt. Early in the relationship I wasn't such a great partner either. I felt that once i got my act together, I owed him time to clean up his. Some of it was just overwhelm and the cost of living in a very expens…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 09:14 PM
61

thank you for this! I really love when folks go into detail about why something is good. :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 08:23 PM
8

awww...this is so great. thank you for sharing it. It helps me see that it CAN get better, when I get away from someone who is making it worse. I am so happy for you! You do deserve a nice place. :D I keep telling myself that as I look for my next housing situation once I'm out of the temp housing I start in NEXT WEEK!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 08:22 PM
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It is this kind of astute, self aware self assessment that both enlightens me and keeps me coming back here. Well done, you. adn you are not alone. I noticed in the pandemic that after "we" fought (him being verbally abusive) I'd skip washing my face and brushing/flossing because "I was too tired." Sometimes I'd eat candy or cookies before bed, just to make myself feel better. I realized, FUCK THAT. I come first. I was actually self harming, when you think about it. and one reason I'm leaving is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 08:20 PM
3

Hoo boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 06:11 PM
46

Reddit would ban me for saying what I am thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 06:08 PM
75

She needs to dump him. She sounds like me 15 years ago. I was upfront about what I wanted. My mistake was not dumping him when he didn’t propose after years 1-2.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:59 PM
2

I agree that will end up being the case. I am working in steps. First get me, my dog and my few posessions out of his mother’s house. Then, catch my breath. Then start the process of finding a more permanent housing situation Then split up our possessions from the storage unit. To do all at once overwhelmed me and kept me stuck. Doing it this way is helping me get momentum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:53 PM
3

Yup mine has been saying forever “if you don’t like it leave” so now I leave and he “is sad.” I have him thinking it’s a temporary separation to keep him calm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:11 PM
2

Word. Mine talked me into paying “rent” for seven years. It was cheaper than being on my own. But still.
/r/askFDS18/05/21 10:03 AM
3

I do this in my business for ideal clients. Never thought to do it for men. 🤦🏻‍♀️💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 09:45 AM
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During pandemic my stbxlvm insisted we move out of the apartment which he owned into his mother’s house. He rented out that place. Then spent the next 15 months steadily escalating his abuse, justifying it because we were living here rent free. I shudder when I think about his offer to support me years ago and am grateful mom raised me to never let any man have that kind of power over me. The more my business grew, the worse he got. Hope all young women read this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 09:39 AM
15

I have realized how narcissistic and hostile these scrotes are. They want us to want what THEY think we SHOULD want. They are incapable of seeing what we actually want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 03:58 AM
12

I am not quite out yet. But I will be very shortly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 03:52 AM
2

All this-so agreed. The ignoring and forgetting. How dis you finally get away?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 03:52 AM
3

My mom was a single parent when my parents split up. If I had the means, maybe. I have considered adopting an older child at some point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 01:34 AM
29

Also if one of your matches doesn’t “close” you can’t open another. 😈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 01:29 AM
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This is what it took me 15 years to get through my head. He knows exactly what he's doing and why. He really is not seeing the world as I see it and that is not for me. If it hadn't been for FDS I might have l et myself go through this for years more. Thank you to you and all the mods for your service.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 11:54 PM
153

This is a really astute comment. I'm sure these groups exist, but they're sure AF not on Reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 11:53 PM
20

I concur with the others that "Why does he do that" and "The Gift of Fear" are your first stops. They're about your physical safety. But hoo Nelly, did "The Verbally Abusive Relationship" make it so clear what was going on in mine and how my mindset really needed to shift. It's helped me start to get over the indecision and guilt about leaving. It's really helping me to see that he is not who I thought he was at all. for 15 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 11:52 PM
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whoa! According to a 2020 study by Pew, only 39% of regular online daters – and 12% of Americans overall – “have married or been in a committed relationship with someone they first met through a dating site”. If there was a Covid vaccine with a 39% efficacy rate, would you line up for a shot?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 11:47 PM
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I am so fucking proud of you. seriously. WELL DONE. don't feel bad about taking him back, honey, I've been with this guy for 15 years before I found FDS! be glad it was only six months and you won't ever let it happen again. A cheap lesson, if not exactly fun!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 11:42 PM
3

this is why laughign is so good. it's up to them to make meaning of it. you didn't SAY anything. you just did the thing they hate most. :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 11:39 PM
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I loved the story about bill gates, where the woman who was inappropriately approached just laughed at him. That is a Queen, laughing at Bill Gates-proof positive FDSers are NOT Golddiggers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 11:38 PM
1

that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 11:37 PM
4

Understand your approach. For me at least sometimes one needs these things. Thanks for understanding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:11 PM
8

In fact having a fake hookup tinder profile helps you see who is full of shit. Back in the stone age I used craig’s list. It was easy to have multiple lures in the water and see who used the same text on everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:06 PM
74

For real. When I go to a conference the men are freaked out. Dude, I am not here to hit on you, I just said hi.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:01 PM
5

That would also be interesting to hear!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:46 PM
74

No is the most feminist word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:20 AM
22

Even a really nice brunch. It’s so lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 01:23 AM
16

Looking back on my STBXNVM, he said the reason he liked my online dating profile was because I didn’t have a list. 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 01:20 AM
94

I want to be a fly on the wall when Melinda French Gates, Mackenzie Scott, and Laurene Powell Jobs next have dinner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 01:16 AM
34

Holy shit this could be me in < 10 years. #winning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:57 AM
30

“Entrpreneur”=I think I am more important than I am and I will never be around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:55 AM
24

Pro tip for everyone: 1st matinee showings are usually empty. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 04:16 PM
27

I used to travel on business a lot. It’s where I learned to be alone and comfortable. I had so much fun. Sit at the bar in a restaurant if you want conversation. I have had my nose in a book and people still talk to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 04:16 PM
16

Listen to the women here. They will not steer you wrong. I am in the process of leaving so I am not qualified to give advice. I just want you to know you are not alone and you deserve respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 01:36 AM
17

So excited for you! How are you feeling??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 01:13 AM
256

Money can’t buy happiness but it can buy some of the most amazing substitutes.-Rhett Butler
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 01:02 AM
114

I always say to poly people that I am not enlightened enough to be one of them. They take me seriously too 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 09:54 PM
20

Fuck yes. This is why I love it here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 09:49 PM
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It’s the stories like these that helped me too. I am in the process of leaving and seeing how HAPPY people are was the turning point. Well done. I am so proud of you and happy for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 09:39 PM
2

Exactly right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 06:01 PM
10

Here with you. Let’s keep each other strong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 06:00 PM
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Very soon I will hopefully be away from my partner of 15 years. I love hearing these stories. He had so many chances. And he has no idea I won’t be on that trip he’s so excited to take in a few weeks. 😈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:59 PM
55

They treat people like objects and objects like people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:57 PM
29

Seriously. House is a mess. He is dumpy. Maybe spend time on self care, bruh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:53 PM
29

Wtf was this? I stopped at one minute. Any woman who has tried to get her depressed/anxious/bpd husband into therapy can tell this scrote to fuck all the way off. Here’s an idea, men: GET THERAPY AND TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOURSELVES. stop shaming your “brothers” who seek help and admit weakness. Stop letting your brothers hit, abuse, harass, stalk and threaten women, children and pets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:51 PM
49

Might want to edit this so someone doesn’t track you down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:42 PM
57

“You don’t have more than looks to offer.” Same guy will tell a regular looks/brilliant mind woman she is ugly. Sour grapes much, scrote?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:41 PM
3

This. It will not get better. He will not change. Good for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 04:33 AM
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Every time he says “the truth of the matter is” I want him to stfu.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:36 AM
3

Taking the largest or last piece without asking. Undertipping. Impatience. Assuming a woman is there to be his therapist. Subtly putting you or your choices down or putting words in your mouth “oh you don’t want that”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:35 AM
155

Not all women are perfect but men are why we can’t have nice things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:20 AM
7

Word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:14 AM
92

I am 51 and I am not in menopause yet. (Sadly) Take yer wall and shove it. (Not that I want kids anyway)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:12 AM
43

When i left my cheating ex husband he got the bed which he cheated in, an ugly old chair and on purpose, a half dead plant. I still have the beautiful pots, pans, and mixer my parents gifted us with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 12:39 AM
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The day of my divorce almost 20 years ago my cheating husband asked afterwards if I wanted to go for coffee. I said, “If i wanted to go for coffee with you I’d still be married to you.” When life gives you the words at the precise moment you need them you never have to care about what happened next. Anything I said after would only dull the impact of those words ringing in his ears for eternity. I saw him stalking me on Linkedin a few years back. Let him gaze upon what he missed iDGAF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 12:36 AM
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I'd do whichever will take less free rent in your head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:56 PM
2

oh god. YUCK. I am going to enjoy being a hermit iwth my dog and houseplants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:56 PM
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as someone who has been with a man like this for 15 years, never married and strugglign to get upt the courage to leave becasue he has torn me UP self esteem wise, I am so proud of you for not waiting that long to basically see that this piece of shit has to go. I'm sorry that it happened, but Im' equally not sorry you won't waste 15 years on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:55 PM
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my 55 year gold guy doesn't, but he's an abusive shit bird, so there's that. :P seriously, though, hang in there. they are out there. they're usually working too hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:50 PM
4

I just had an idea to put a red flag next to their name and once they hit whatever number: BLOCK AND DELETE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:49 PM
2

I am so proud of you for noticing, and for kicking him off and staying strong in the no contact zone. good work. we're here to support you, exactly right. Kinda love you're living your best life and he had to resort to stalking you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:48 PM
2

Happy Birthday! I've had grat success with EMDR. Please do lots of self care afterwards--expect to be tired and sleepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:46 PM
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I have set a date to leave my abusive NVM I have my housing plan for the next 60 days after that, (and an emergency room at a friend's house for me and the pup if he goes apeshit in the meantime. ) I have a post office box reserved and a to do list of stuff. I have made plans with friends as well as a massage this weekend (self care, and first massage post pandemic!) I have been messaging with friends who are keeping me strong including one kindly FDS member and a close friend who just left her …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:44 PM
2

This is me. For 15 years even.
/r/askFDS14/05/21 07:35 PM
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*whew, fanning self* Modern day David, right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:40 PM
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if I hate something a lot, I go out of my way to avoid it. It's just like our teachers said when he pulled my hair: he must like you Fuck you teacher, I don't like having my hair pulled. Grow up, scrotes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:32 PM
4

I think there’s a correlation between food and sex. If he is not into food in some way he will be a lousy lay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:24 PM
8

This exchange is why I love FDS. How tf did I let my standards get so low. Never again, and I love you all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:21 PM
4

He is a covert narc or has fleas. But yup fragile af. I love when the dots come together like this. I am not a woman who pushes her man to make more money as I told him. There are lots of ways he could make more and I would support him in all. I told him I felt he was capable. But I can’t do it for him. Which is to me the healthy response. He hates himself and it’s all my (or his mom or whoever) fault Vis a vis Lundy, a big aha for me was how calm he stays at work. We wfh so I can see him. So he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:19 PM
5

They aren’t in the same profession! The friend is in a whole other situation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:51 PM
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I am not out of my shit situation yet but soon and I assume I will be single forever so wtf will swing for the fences here: In all things can enjoy and feel comfortable in the lowbrow and the high brow. Isn’t a snob, isn’t a slob. Can appreciate a dive w excellent food as well as know which fork to use in a michelin star restaurant Committed to self improvement. Mind, body, and soul, but doesn’t take himself TOO seriously. Lighten up, Francis. Fearless about trying new things without being negli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:06 AM
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I really should have flagged this myself in the early days. Men who don’t read don’t learn. Men who don’t learn are gonna be stuck eventually. Reading can be: listens to podcasts or audio books. But self improvement of the mind is the point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:49 AM
10

💀💀💀😵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:44 AM
8

Limbo limbo How low can you go. Lolsob
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:39 AM
20

These kinds of breakdowns are SO helpful. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:39 AM
30

Right there. That’s straight out of “the gift of fear” the behavior of someone who will hurt you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:39 AM
47

You can even test these on job interviews and dates. Just disagree with them, politely even. About the most mundane thing. Then watch closely. The flicker of disgust in their eyes, the slight flinch. That’s the tell. It never gets better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:37 AM
8

Honey, it only took three years? That’s a win. It’s taken me FIFTEEN. I am so proud of you. Go live this wild and free life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:06 AM
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I don’t know how to thank you. But I plan to donate to the women shelter when I am out of here. Paying it forward.
/r/askFDS14/05/21 03:00 AM
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Word. Once I am out of here I have a hard time imagining having any man in my life again-at least not to live with. Someone here said “a nurse and a purse” -at 51, childfree and successful, the last thing I want to be is someone’s step mom or nurse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:40 AM
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Holy shit. I couldn’t figure out why my abuser got crazy once. It was because the weekend before we were at another couple’s house where the man got a huge -we’re talking millions of dollars-opportunity. The next day he said he felt inadequate. I tried to reassure him-this friend is like a michael jordan in terms of talent and a nice guy to boot. Three days later he was threatening to hit me with a frying pan
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:33 AM
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bless you for the lies. I told the police (because I knew he was watching through the door and I'm sure they saw him too) that "oh I was looking into changing my address at the bank to a po box and I bet they overreacted." I I looked them right in the eye and said I"M FINE RIGHT NOW. and they super seemed to get it. the fact is they said "[bank name] called so I knew he probably heard that and have to proceed accordingly. He's nowhere near as smart as I am, and he thinks I'm a terrible liar, so …
/r/askFDS14/05/21 02:03 AM
1

thank you for this. yes, the time will help with the stealth since it would be very obvious if I started leaving in the middle of the day to "run errands" but by going on t the weekends it's hideable as "getting a massage" or "going to see friends"-it's part of my pattern. re: health insurance. they offer it to domestic partners. but yes, you are right I should call them and find out what their policy is. I can also get mine set up on my work plan now, and it would take effect June 1 so I'd only…
/r/askFDS14/05/21 01:33 AM
1

oh god. thank you so much for this. this is the clarity I needed. along with a specific plan on moving the stuff and the very real sense of why this is not good, to say the least. Here's what's happening next: * Have contacted a friend in Law Enforcement to see if he will escort me out that day or knows of a friend who will. The good news is that everything I have here will fit in my car or at least everything that matters. * Meanwhile, have contacted my bank to find out what they do in a change…
/r/askFDS13/05/21 08:41 PM
147

This. Like how white men have weaponized “karen”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 06:14 PM
3

My mom wasn’t great as a kid but she is now. Still I don’t know what day to day is like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 06:11 PM
2

Oh christ, really?? Ffs. Thank you for the warning. The self loathing that is accompanying my weakness here is just astronomical.
/r/askFDS13/05/21 02:18 PM
40

I feel the same for what it’s worth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:10 AM
10

As someone working on leaving, this is the kind of story I need to hear--so much about what's the other side. I am so happy for you, and so excited for you. and puppies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:30 AM
25

I highly, highly support the idea of having an account ONLY for FDS and then blocking all DMs and chat requests. it's the only way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:28 AM
2

thank you for your direct words. I really appreciate it. today I reached out to a women's crisis center in my city. they have support groups for women and I think this might be more helpful than talking about it even with my therapist. I think they may also have ideas and resources for me to help make the transition. For example, the day I pack up my stuff to go, I'd really like someone to just be there. He isn't absuive when other people are around, especially men. like would a cop or peace off…
/r/askFDS13/05/21 02:25 AM
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Oh god this is so depressing.but true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 10:33 PM
20

You are a good mother and deserve to have your children.
/r/askFDS12/05/21 07:30 PM
15

I fucking snorted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:25 PM
3

Real talk. thank you.
/r/askFDS12/05/21 06:54 PM
5

Thank you so mcuh for taking time out of your day to speak to a total stranger at a moment when she really needs it. I sincerely appreciate your directness.
/r/askFDS12/05/21 06:50 PM
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My mom lives a few thousand miles away, and living with her isnt' an option for my business, either. I like this part of the world. that said, I may have to go farther away from the urban center for a bit to lick my wounds and build my nest egg. hearing it from more than one person is incredibly helpful right now. I am so grateful you took the time out of your day to read and respond. It means a LOT right now.
/r/askFDS12/05/21 06:50 PM
3

Thank you so much for taking time out of your life to see me and hear me and to write with such compassion and grace for me right now. I know what you say about earning more money is true, intellectually, but it's been hard to internalize, so hearing it in your words helps a ton. To me, this is one of the powers of FDS-we hear the clear signal of women with the same values, not from pickmes and men. All my company email already goes to a virtual post box and most of what I get now is virtual. Li…
/r/askFDS12/05/21 06:48 PM
7

Your first paragraph sent a chill down my spine. I didn't think of it this way. and I think you're right. this was a serious escalation in his pattern. It's got me thinking that that is what he does each time he thinks I am trapped. Thank you so, so much for hearing me, for listening, for sharing your sorrows. Thank you for the advice. It's very helpful. I need this help right now.
/r/askFDS12/05/21 06:38 PM
6

Love the fun insight we get into what happens after the block and delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:19 PM
140

It’s like the sound of music: “whistles are for dogs and cats, but not for children and CERTAINLY not for me. “
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:40 PM
17

Oh god I am so sorry this happened to you. You didn’t deserve it. What a monster. Fuck him and all like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:38 PM
3

I want you to know I am so in awe of your strength and i hope to be in your shoes one day soon. I am happy for you and toasting your health, Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:33 AM
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I always say no parent hopes their little girls becomes a SW and no little girls wants to be a SW when she grows up. By the time a woman becomes a sex worker something has gone horribly wrong in most cases.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:27 AM
2

I appreciate it. I'm not angry at you for telling me the truth, I think I need to hear exactly this right now. I can't for the life of me figure out why the fuck I am so stuck on this. there's no good reason any more. at one point it was money, now it's not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:28 AM
1

thank you for taking the time. I really appreciate you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:18 AM
107

This. I remember when i met this guy that’s now taken 15 years of my life. I was kinda meh and my friemd (at the time) said: you aren’t dating anyone right now maybe give him a chance. Fuck. Pick your friends as carefully as you pick men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:50 PM
5

This is helpful as I gather the strength to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:37 PM
8

Serena in handmaid’s tale
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:36 PM
51

The timing is super sketch. My advice? Run. No wedding with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:20 PM
10

I can help here. Think about this as you do at work. Always delegate work to the cheapest resources possible. I have help w the house because it makes FAR more sense for me to bill a client $300/hour vs cleaning the house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:19 AM
14

Could you possibly take even a weekend in a safe airbnb or hotel to just breathe, sleep, and think?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:17 AM
5

It’s ok to declare “cleanliness bankruptcy”-take time off work, hire some help and get going. If you are struggling to motivate perhaps you might try some medication-after a proper eval from a well trained psychiatrist for depression, anxiety, ADHD, or any combination thereof. Once your psyche is stabilized then therapy will make sense. You can do this via telemed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:17 AM
23

All this. The look in men’s eyes when you call their bullshit at home or at work is priceless. My new favorite saying at home is “you know exactly what I mean” and at work asking them “innocently” to explain their remark in front of a room full of people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 08:52 PM
118

This is insubordination and it’s a fireable offense. The surgeon is the captain of the ship no questions asked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 08:47 PM
41

If one had children and/or shared property -esp real estate-it’s far beneficial at this time in most place, to marry. Those are the only reasons I can see for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:06 PM
12

Given what we saw the last few years I just know it’s not gonna end well thanks to fucker carlson and the faux news bros
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 11:15 PM
22

Yep. Because poor women in black and brown countries will keep reproducing and white men can’t have that. So we white women are VERY at risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 11:07 PM
99

This here. If history taught us anything it’s that white men especially take what they want at the end of a gun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 02:29 PM
42

I have always thought reddit was full of young men. Hadn’t thought of how many must be angry Chinese dudes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 02:27 PM
7

If nothing else make your LVM stay home with kids and take YOUR FINE SELF to BRUNCH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:59 AM
5

Beards gross me out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:55 AM
8

FDS: here’s what we believe Scrotes: here’s what FDS believes but all twisted and wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:51 AM
4

Dear pick meisha, Someday you will understand. We will be here. Til then please take care of you. Love, FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:44 AM
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50s here too and amazing to see you young women killing it out here. I feel like my role is cautionary tale.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:39 AM
11

For real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 07:23 PM
20

Woof. Periodt. 💪🏻 inject this in my veins
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:51 PM
36

We are in agreement, to be clear. There is no equivalent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:47 PM
40

And. May I add. My LVM isn’t cheating, because he literally never goes anywhere. He isn’t lazy, but he is anxious and somewhat socially phobic. He hates bars and can barely manage email online. One reason i put up with his bs for so long was because I KNEW he was faithful and I was over weighting that as criteria. Can’t there be a balance between cheating scrote and clingy scrote? GAH. don’t be like me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:44 PM
23

Asshole is basically it. Also shitbird, Cocksucker works but is homophobic so I don’t use. Dick. Jerk off. Dumb ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:36 PM
33

The c word may not be used in my presence ever by any man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:35 PM
11

Reading together would drive me crazy. I read so fast. But doing it together sounds heavenly. Sigh. We often listen to podcasts like “serial” or “s-town” together and it goes well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:31 PM
30

I used to think that was old school thinking but thanks FDS I have seen the error of my ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:29 PM
1

I am here for all things Shonda. And loved this especially: “During the call, one of the moderators mentioned something Shonda Rhimes said in her epic commencement speech at Dartmouth. She said, “Ditch the dream and be a doer. While you are busy dreaming, the really happy people, the really successful people, the really interesting, engaged, powerful people, are busy doing.” The ladies had a brief discussion around how important it is to keep doing the next thing. Don’t wait for your dream to co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:22 PM
25

I dumped him and recently discovered he declared bankruptcy and lived with his mother 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:07 PM
17

The root of the word hysteria is greek for womb and was coined by “doctors” to describe “emotional women”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:16 PM
51

I feel this hard. The guy from elite law school who never got a legal job The hottie hunky guy i helped finish college, was dumb enough to marry, who cheated on me. The aeronautical engineer with a big house, a tiny limp dick and major depression The financially secure Public Ivy grad with a hot bod and big dick with mommy issues and anger management who has sucked 15 years of my life away and counting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:11 PM
38

This. I have noticed men with less education than me get pretty insecure around my friends even they don’t care either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:09 PM
64

This right here. I am high IQ with elite credentials. We women had a saying in grad school: “the odds are good but the goods are odd” Going to business school is literally one of the most conservative paths a man can take. Most of them behaved as such.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:07 PM
18

Cooking together having friends over for game night Going to a classical concert and a late night diner Long walks through the city on a warm night A country drive on a sunny day Bike rides
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:03 PM
393

If they can’t piss on a tree they want to cut it down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:59 PM
24

Steve can’t even afford a Mazda. He wants the dealership to give him a porsche because he deserves it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:56 PM
28

It’s the modern day equivalent of “the he man woman haterz club” from The Little Rascals. Immature, low value boys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:53 PM
2

Why settle for oscar meyer when we can get literally anything better at any time?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:44 AM
64

For the same reason him paying is. They feel Entitled to sex while doing absolutely the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:33 AM
12

U mad scro? 🤣😂🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:25 AM
8

Fine AF Friday
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:04 AM
35

High Quality Hotties
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 09:00 PM
40

No one likes overcooked hot dog
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 04:54 AM
31

The best answer to this is Goodbye Earl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 04:51 AM
14

Some teenage boy sent me an unsolicited dick pic when I started posting here. I felt sorry for him. His penis wasn’t especially nice, it had that bizarre mushroom tip, he had no hair on his chest and barely any on his crotch. He was def underage. I wanted to laugh. I just felt sad for him and what shitty parenting must have let him be that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 10:43 PM
20

I want this in every high school
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 10:37 PM
16

All this. All. This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 10:35 PM
36

Part of how I got on this journey was seeing the husbands of close friends being amazing and never hearing them bitch about lvm scrote bullshit. I knew it was possible. Sometimes I cried when I realized what I am not getting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:51 PM
15

🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:47 PM
3

Never date a man in med school. Marry him before or after but way too many women get dumped once tgey get their paper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:35 PM
95

Wait til we get our hands on our moms’ money too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:09 AM
2

Brokey mcScrote face deserves to be incel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:35 AM
3

Wgtow doesn’t allow “fds” commentary. So I only lurk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:27 AM
3

I love you. I would have pissed myself laughing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:22 AM
4

Any man who comes after my dogs better be prepared for a hospital bill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:21 AM
12

FDS: come for the sisterhood. Stay for the scroat roasts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:19 AM
2

This is incredible information.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:18 AM
1

He is a slob too. Eeeu.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:17 AM
5

These guys sound creepy. Turn off read receipts in text.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:14 AM
0

This is a graph of percents. It doesn’t prove the conclusion you are making. If more people are getting vaccinated men may be a larger percent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:09 AM
5

You are a queen of queens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:07 AM
6

Smart girl she is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:04 AM
5

He looks older than her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:02 AM
26

Men are disgusting animals. That preview made me nauseous. That said there is a selection bias here. Men who did not talk to teenage girls did not abuse them. We would need to know how many saw the profiles and didn’t contact them. But clearly there are a lot of disgusting pigs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:59 AM
14

This. I don’t have time to give free education.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:48 AM
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Men pay for birth control eg condoms, copays for iuds, and pregnancy tests. Non negotiable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:42 AM
9

27 years though. That’s a long fucking time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 01:27 PM
162

Men are simply too emotional to be in charge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:41 AM
3

The sub is so awful and they won’t let me comment!! -Clownhat McScroteface
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 01:16 AM
19

Played putt putt? Is that what they call it these days? When you marry for money you earn every penny. I hope it was worth it, Melinda.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 01:11 AM
22

Coal miners have a union.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:57 AM
10

Now with meal delivery kits there is no excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:49 AM
19

Explains why tech bros want to go there. Heads up FDSers. They suck too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:47 AM
102

Me: does your mom call you Papi? Him: yes Block and delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:50 PM
62

Woman half dressed in the door way. Scrotes, PLEASE STOP with this. We have our own lives. We still keep our commitments and you should too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:48 PM
59

Right? He doesn’t need a wife because he has one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:46 PM
91

Double for Latin(not necessarily Latino) men. Exceptions exist but check carefully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:45 PM
20

Mackenzie Bezos and Melinda Gates are gonna fuck some shit up. Love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:25 PM
9

I’d have your back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 06:12 AM
15

In grad school the men bitched about recruiting efforts for women and they were eliminated. Universities are hell for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 06:09 AM
7

EXACTLY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:39 AM
19

I am so pissed how white men stole a word that was defined by Black people for a specific reason, and used it to attack any woman they disagree with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:35 AM
36

Second well behind kids is buying a home. If I don’t want to marry you wtf am I doing entering a 30 year mortgage with you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:29 AM
13

I have a theory that show is about the four aspects of one woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:06 PM
58

No is the most feminist word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:02 PM
26

This is exactly it. The type of man we don’t want is someone who takes FAR more than he gives ALL THE TIME. Hit dogs howl which is why those so mad about this sub are telling on yourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:01 PM
28

Guy pretending to be a woman. Like a lot of Reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:58 AM
91

This is awesome. You are actually their boss and they freak out? Hfs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:47 AM
6

I don’t agree. People do change. Masks drop. They hit hard times and it breaks them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:18 AM
2

The covert narcissist doesn’t get enough understanding. These fuckers will ruin your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:35 AM
19

I am a child of the 80s. Spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:27 AM
35

This. If he wanted to be with you, he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 10:30 PM
43

Maybe start with just being a friend to her. Then when she asks for advice you can deliver. Until then you are just lecturing. Talk about YOUR life and what you feel and have learned. Be an example and when she is ready she will reach out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 10:28 PM
36

As granny said: when you marry for money you can earn every penny. get an education find work you can live on that doesn’t tear you down make real friends do not marry unless he fits into YOUR life, not the other way around. do not move in before marriage. (Things I wish I knew 20 years ago)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 10:26 PM
136

He is so full of shit. Tipping my hat to his gf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 10:23 PM
74

We need some of those stickers we can put up in bathrooms like “fuck the patriarchy” that have a url “Ladies: you deserve better than him. “
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 10:23 PM
41

Love the idea if an open ended question like the astra zenica one. Makes it very hard to lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 09:06 PM
65

Make sure you ask for proof of vaccine status on first date. These fuckers will lie about anything and everything to get laid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 09:05 PM
3

I love this. I am still with a LVM after 15 years and just found this sub. He was HVM to start but I am still forever girlfriend. It’s a mess. So hearing about stories like yours helps me so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:26 PM
2

I am proud of you. When you know better, you do better. Welcome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:23 PM
17

It’s downright funny to me now to look at a guy who says “I don’t understand “ and say “yes you do” and watch them basically demonstrate that yes, they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:21 PM
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Time and trust: this. You got me thinking about the forms of cognitive traps called recency bias and frequency bias. Applying those to your idea... The more occasions and hours spent with someone (or ideas) the more you are likely to overlook red flags. One date a week seems about right the first six weeks. Then time to journal about everything you see so you can watch out for red flags and patterns early. Hence FDS rule to have scrotation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:18 PM
42

“Things real women wouldn’t do.” Real women? If we ever wondered about men objectifying women they see as sexual we certainly don’t now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:13 PM
24

And that data on how scantily clad women become objects in men’s minds comes to mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:07 PM
10

She’s fallen victim to patriarchal norms. I don’t judge her for it-we have all done it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:06 PM
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Ngl I snorted. The more they lurk the more ads Reddit sells and the more important we become.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:05 PM
10

Jesus Christ. How disgusting. Men are fucking animals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:53 PM
2

When you work hard at work and on yourself every minute spent with others is precious and must not be wasted by Scrotes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:51 PM
14

Oh yes. Pear shaped men. Ishy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:49 PM
6

I never understood the ginger hate. Tell me more (I am not a ginger. )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:47 PM
17

Yeah I get this. Barrel chested but not fat. Yeah. I like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:46 PM
8

I used to say he could have no more than 2 of short, overweight, balding. Now, I think I would only take balding. I bust my ass to stay fit in my 50s. If he’s single he has no excuse either. Fat older men get sick and require nursing sooner. No thanks. Eta so my list of dealbreakers are bad breath/teeth/smoking baseball caps worn backwards/sloppy appearance lack of interests apart from sports and work a mustache by itself. Ick. Beards open if well trimmed and maintained but prefer a smooth fave.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:33 PM
14

Incel= involuntary celibate They are so fucking dumb they don’t understand we are just: Cel. Fuck you, scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:23 PM
32

All blessings to you, sister!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:12 PM
9

Smart people know this will happen and prepare for it with savings, side hustles, career shifts. He sounds like an entitled little snot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 04:48 PM
19

This. They want it all ways. And now they act whiny when we make them give something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 04:42 PM
18

Them: back hurts Me: stretching, massage, etc Them: does nothing 6 months later.... Them: OMG BACK HURTS Me: so? How is this my problem?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 04:36 PM
7

The minute someone blames other people for their problems, RUN. Take him for every cent, babe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 04:30 PM
33

This guy deserves to be divorced, broke, and alone til he stops being an abusive scrote. Fuck him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 04:25 PM
8

Women: please be an adult Scrotes: OMG YOU ARE SO ENTITLED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 12:38 AM
42

Men will do literally anything except improve themselves as human beings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 12:31 AM
25

Speak on this truth. If he is enmeshed he already has a woman and it isn’t you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:27 PM
5

Yup. Mba from prestigious college here. All the men would drop the cred in the bars to bang undergrads. The rest of us...hung out together. A few of the softer spoken ones on the less ambitious scale married the guys, had kids and dropped out if the workforce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 02:40 AM
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Oh ffs yes this. I have a bajillion head slapping moments in this sub and you have just explained every long term relationship in my life. They weren’t all mean but they all were dumber. In my defense finding an equally intelligent man limits the options dramatically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 02:35 AM
16

I loled for real at the idea of MGTOW having advice for gay/bi men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 02:28 AM
12

The day i stopped doing shit until he did it was a watershed moment. If you do it, they won’t, simple as that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 02:19 AM
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Shopping. Awesome analogy. Scrotes treats women the way we treat shoes. Narcissists treat people like objects and objects like people, so it checks out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 02:12 AM
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Tfw when I realized I earned this but it took me way longer...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 02:07 AM
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If Reddit can sell ads against it, it means the sub is very high value. 😈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:41 AM
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