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I’ve never liked that term. It doesn’t sound like an insult. It just sounds like a coping title, to label a man who just won’t do whatever it is romantically you had hoped for. It indicates more about the person using it, than the person being labeled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 06:51 PM
38

Anytime I ever asked a guy out first, he was usually taken or already pursuing someone else. It’s a path to heartbreak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 06:50 PM
7

Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 03:32 PM
2

This would be the most sensible way to do this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 03:20 AM
1

This is impossible if you have to work as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 08:25 PM
1

Nope, they are the weakest and most fragile emotionally speaking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 08:21 PM
5

This is great. Men automatically do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 08:20 PM
3

These are great tips. I personally believe some guys use texting all day as a free form of courtship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 08:18 PM
4

This advice is geared toward the type of guy who will constantly need validation. Even if you do this he’ll be seeking it out from other women desperately. It’s a hole that can never be filled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 08:16 PM
2

A lot of men just aren’t capable of true, consistent intimacy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 08:14 PM
6

I never thought about this but I can see how just having sex and going about your business is a better way. It’s less time consuming. No one is deluded to think it can be more. FWB is a scam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 08:11 PM
4

Men need so much validation, it’s the perfect way for them to get it with very little investment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 08:09 PM
6

A former male therapist of mine told me that men are primarily sexually motivated so it makes sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 08:07 PM
4

Men just want you to feel insecure about your age because it suits their agenda
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 08:06 PM
4

This is great. The emotional detachment process is very important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 08:36 PM
10

He sounds like he wishes he could be a kept woman. He’s jealous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 08:31 PM
38

That was on purpose to weed out women looking for more than sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 06:27 PM
6

Bet he doesn’t act like that at work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 06:47 AM
15

If you don’t like something, do something about it! These men complain as if the onus is on their wife or gf alone to make their sex lives better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 08:43 PM
7

So many lonely men I had one or two dates with contacted me out of the blue during the pandemic trying to circle back out of loneliness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 08:24 PM
10

Married men live longer while single women are happiest according to research. That should tell you all you need to know about who brings what to the table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 08:22 PM
2

I hope she never returns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 08:19 PM
16

Women definitely do not get any special benefit for being low maintenance. Matter of fact men like to pretend they like that but they despise women they have to practically do nothing to win over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 08:18 PM
100

Sounds like a controlling p o s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 08:16 PM
17

Anytime a guy says his marriage isn’t great, it’s probably his own fault. Spare me the sob story dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 08:11 PM
30

Yes they’re out there, but it doesn’t guarantee they’ll treat you well within the relationship itself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 08:54 PM
20

Guys can use you emotionally as well as physically. Plus a man who is really serious about you won’t dump his problems on you cus he wants to impress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 06:58 PM
153

Yeah, the basis of friendship is respect and equality which most men reserve for other males.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 06:55 PM
2

Sorry but we would be physically fighting. This would enrage me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 10:39 PM
2

Perfect example of why men can get away with the things they do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 11:57 PM
169

Men are willing to risk their real-life relationships over IG?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 11:54 PM
15

So he obviously wanted to have sex with her but can’t handle the idea of coming into contact with her bodily fluids?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 10:10 PM
42

Emptying full bath trash is a basic thing you do before a guest comes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 10:10 PM
6

That was my immediate thought. Followed by the disgust when I realized I have personally experienced a male nest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 04:13 AM
9

I love the concept of a life budget. I need to utilize this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 04:10 AM
34

Right, as if all that’s wrong with messed up hetero M/F relationships is a lack of communication on the woman’s part
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 04:08 AM
156

There is zero reward in emotionally supporting a man when he’s down and out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 04:06 AM
9

They’ll use their kids as an excuse not to treat you properly, when that would be their plan regardless. As if he’ll suddenly turn into Prince Charming when the kids are off to college.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 04:02 AM
6

I hate this extreme of choice. They’d rather live in filth because it doesn’t bother them, rather than compromise on some things, meet halfway, and be a little cleaner. Like no, being the only one cleaning shouldn’t be the only option to having a clean home. It’s so selfish and passive aggressive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 09:37 PM
55

Even if they pay half he’ll still expect sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 09:28 PM
59

So did she get the dusty Internet points or DMs she was looking for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 09:16 PM
2

Well yeah, men do a lot of jobs that keep civilization running smoothly but that’s a job. They’re paid to do it. Women are not paid for the emotional and domestic labor that keeps family life and homes running smoothly which is literally the basis of human society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:19 PM
5

There really is no need for boyfriends to hang out with his girlfriends’ friends like that. I mean, showing up to an event with others is one thing but just all women and the one guy, no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:14 PM
5

Yep. Have heard a man say he doesn’t ever get physically violent with women as though it was an attribute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:11 PM
3

So what would that man do if he lived alone? Just live in filth? Those are things adults just do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:10 PM
7

Who thinks an actual mountain is a good place for a first date? That just sounds unnecessarily arduous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:08 PM
15

Because they know deep down we don’t truly need them, they are just accessories to our lives but they need us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:07 PM
7

Tell me how to make my space more comfortable so I can have as much casual sex with as many women as possible in it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:05 PM
91

Obviously she is enjoying this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:02 PM
14

Selfish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:24 PM
21

This is especially infuriating when you’re trying to talk about a personal issue. Like who needs all these hypotheticals when I’m talking about real problems!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:31 PM
8

Let’s see how cool he is to her if she gains 50+ pounds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:29 PM
236

Oh yeah, I was told growing up to avoid being the only woman/girl in a room of boys/men. How sad that is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:27 PM
28

The next row’s reward is gonna be “threesome” for sweeping the floor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:26 PM
37

Son or boyfriend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:23 PM
2

This made me laugh out loud. This is ridiculous. Like he can’t make sense of the words? He needs photos?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 04:08 AM
3

I couldn’t even read past the first few lines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 04:03 AM
8

It seems like tons of guy out there dating are actually married or taken already. Like you have to do a background check, social media check, just to make sure he is actually single first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 04:02 AM
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I would love some arrangement like this for when I’m older. But unfortunately this Housing dynamic would not last, the moment a man in need of shelter enters the picture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 03:59 AM
4

The thing between Mr. Bates and Anna was only appropriate for the times. She was realistically probably her only shot at marriage, given the circumstances of those days. Otherwise, it would have been gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 08:19 PM
14

I think the best approach is to ask how it made you feel. If you felt offended or bothered rather than happy or positive, then your instincts are trying to tell you something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 08:17 PM
18

Those women friends are pseudo-girlfriends. He probably does “boyfriend” favors for them in hopes of getting sex one day because he’s attracted to her. I don’t think most men have women friends unless they consider the woman physically attractive. This is such a pain in the butt to deal with, having a partner whose female friends rely on him for regular favors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 08:06 PM
23

Poly/ENM/the cool gf seeking out threesomes for her partner are pretty common with urban artsy people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 08:02 PM
9

I have never done it but this is my prerequisite to doing it. You first!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 10:09 PM
39

They want you to be available for them when they’re ready. Like a dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 10:08 PM
38

They know how you feel and what you want. They just don’t care. No one has to be banged over the head and ComMunIcAtED with verbally over and over to understand what your desires are. That’s why the advice to just “tell him how you feel” is total bs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 09:13 PM
62

Yeah, countering with dinner is a bad idea. Like who wants to have dinner with a man who didn’t want to be doing that with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 09:11 PM
14

I love that this is a thing now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 09:10 PM
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Encapsulates all the male redditors giving dating advice to women. He doesn’t clean himself? Well what are you doing to help?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 09:09 PM
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I preferred celibacy over being used like a human sex doll. There is no way to sugar coat and pretend like being celibate is ideal, but when your choices are casual, unsatisfying and potentially dangerous sexual encounters versus peace of mind/good health, celibate wins. Better to hold off for more quality sexual experiences with someone who actually cares, then to give in and be regretful after the fact. If it takes years, so be it. And don’t be afraid to let men pass you by, when they realize …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 09:07 PM
75

I can see no good reason for him to reveal this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 09:02 PM
29

These shows center male love, affection, and commitment as a prize women have to compete for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 04:28 PM
40

Who or what is the line towards the end about? A woman? A dog? Someone or something that the wife doesn’t like being around?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 01:56 AM
11

Yeah, honestly what he did was theft.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:41 PM
1

But this isn’t good for someone you don’t know already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:39 PM
8

They’re triggered because they see themselves in this behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:37 PM
24

The conversations have to be rehashed because the boundaries are forever blurry. Exhausting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:34 PM
30

This comment hit home, especially about the ones who pretend to be pregnant… never again…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:33 PM
165

I’m sure the wife earned her cool-girl brownie points with her husband that night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:30 PM
68

I also read the ethical slut, it’s just a manual for how to ignore your natural feelings of wanting someone to be yours only as though that is an evil impulse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:29 PM
41

She should’ve responded to sister and other family members with screenshots of their texts. All the 3-way plan making, sexting, whatever proof she had then blocked everyone on everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:28 PM
46

So now he’s basically trying to cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:27 PM
47

Actually, we gotta take responsibility for wasting our own precious time in these scenarios. After a while we just have to proactively walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:22 PM
31

Learned this in sociology. Men tend to purposely take up more space and women tend to shrink ourselves. So take up more space right back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:21 PM
93

Right, like something out of the 60s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:19 PM
5

I hope this isn’t real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 05:14 AM
3

Redirecting your energy away from negativity and toward positivity is essential to FDS. You can only control your own actions, not his.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:43 PM
6

I feel so sorry for Daniel, Tiffany’s son. Dragging him to South Africa and calling her fiancé “dad.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:39 PM
65

This is probably the real reason he wants to leave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:35 PM
30

To “grant her an opportunity” eye roll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:34 PM
1

She’s so cool and chill
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:31 PM
8

He was a liar, plain and simple
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 09:54 PM
9

I don’t know about class differences per se, but definitely do not date men who are housing insecure. There seems to be some kind of push culturally for women to be okay with this or think it’s cute. Hobosexuals can ruin your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 09:47 PM
5

Well, what roles is he supposed to do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 10:48 PM
57

Why would men willingly give up free emotional/household labor and the social/creature comforts that come with having a woman at home whether she’s happy or not. Meanwhile a woman can reclaim her peace and sense of self by initiating divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 10:46 PM
2

I don’t think a woman should move in with a man unless she will significantly save money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 12:40 AM
15

Mid-life crisis mode
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 11:48 PM
30

Typical. Is there someone out there who goes for this??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 11:47 PM
14

I cannot imagine this level of privilege. And now here he is whining on the web for someone else to show him how to do something. What a useless waste of space. And to think he could always find a woman despite his clear lack of positive attributes. Good on his ex for waking up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 11:43 PM
190

I think it went mainstream when 50 Shades came out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 11:37 PM
28

If the laws were changed to favor women protecting themselves against assault, these crimes would go down dramatically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:03 PM
12

I can’t believe this was even a question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:58 PM
24

He’s clearly very bitter about not getting laid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:54 PM
25

What kind of loser lurks all-women subreddits and harasses their users
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:50 PM
13

Men say the most depraved things when they think it’s just them listening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:45 PM
37

Moron
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:42 PM
24

I would have wanted the same. But then again, he could have flipped out on her. So maybe she made the mature and safe choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:10 AM
6

Women into this are out there. Hence his level of confidence with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:07 AM
48

Usually mean they’re taken or already into someone else
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 11:37 PM
17

Reason is another woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:56 AM
21

That is ridiculous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:56 AM
11

They know, they just don’t care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:54 AM
55

Women always do more emotional and domestic labor, there needs to be some balance from his side
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:52 AM
29

Have you ever swiped as male on dating apps. Most women, regardless if they’re plain or pretty, put general effort into their looks. You can still be homely and plain and “put together” - decent wardrobe, flattering hair cut/style, moisturized skin, and a rounded set of personality attributes that make you a great partner. Most naturally unattractive men don’t even try.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 12:18 PM
17

I had a couple friends like this and we stopped being friends. Oddly enough those men didn’t even stay with them for long so they lost a real friendship over nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:00 AM
378

Men also need to step up and become better lovers to get consistent sex. Statistics show increasingly young single people are having less sex, especially men, and I’m guessing this is part of why. A lot of men don’t care about our pleasure and women are realizing that. It’s better to self pleasure and be celibate than deal with the risks of casual sex. Also some guys in general have poor hygiene practices, there is no reason any woman should deal with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:58 AM
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Partners should be so in tune that they pick up on nonverbal emotion cues. Your sadness should sadden him, to an extent. If he’s not then he’s just actively ignoring it or so self involved that he doesn’t care anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:53 AM
1

But people are supposed to clean up behind themselves. Even children should be doing this. It’s not an accomplishment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 11:14 PM
58

It’s her “husband” she should be talking to, not this innocent woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 09:30 PM
77

If he isn’t looking down on her yet, he will be soon. There is no way a relationship can last with that level of resentment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 09:28 PM
39

So many women lack self-awareness of how much of our behavior and interests are just a show to attract men. I’m sure I’m guilty of this in certain respects, as well. All we can do is try our best to deprogram from the brainwashing one day at a time. Of course this deprogramming doesn’t serve male interests hence the hate FDS receives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:23 AM
21

I know this is true from personal experience
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:20 AM
2

The sad part is, is that it’s still relevant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:22 PM
2

That ending seems a lot more realistic, Big ending up with Natasha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:21 PM
6

Miranda was way out of his league. Their relationship never made any sense to me, despite how endearing he was supposed to seem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:19 PM
1

It’s true. I actually had a guy say that he never physically abuse or hit his partner as though that was an attribute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:18 PM
2

Men will stay with a woman for years they’re not really into because it’s comfortable, kids and all. Then leave you and propose to a woman who is “the one” 6 months after meeting her, because they just know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:17 PM
1

Exactly why 50/50 is a scam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:13 PM
3

The sad part about this is that there are so many women happily fulfilling this role out there. Like they happily work a stressful job, pay 50% or more, then come home and cook, clean, perform emotional labor, turn into a p-star in bed, and pretend to love all his exact same hobbies/shows/friends, while the man might just work and that’s it. Some of these women are even enthusiastically playing stepmom to his children from before her. Wondering if this is the new norm of expectation for most wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:10 PM
3

For men it’s so much easier to just go to work and contribute to bills with no real domestic expectations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:08 PM
2

This is setting up an awful precedent in their relationship. I’ll bet he doesn’t have to pay her to clean up after him and listen to him whine about his personal issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:05 PM
1

By look after does she mean financially? Because most men aren’t in a position these days to financially care for two sets of families so her own standards aren’t even realistic unless she’s with a millionaire in a LCOL city.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:04 PM
5

Yeah, someone that actually helps out around the house after a long day’s work and offers fully reciprocal emotional labor/support? Sign me up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:03 PM
2

Until men bleed monthly, give birth, and are automatically expected to show up places with a “natural no makeup” makeup look or risk being accused of looking “tired,” “plain,” or possibly just negligent of their appearance, there is no equality between the sexes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 07:57 PM
5

Women who post things like that are looking for validation, hoping some man will swoop into their comments or DMs seeking them out. A cool girl mating call.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 07:53 PM
27

So many men out here are dating as though they’re single. I believe it wasn’t always like this. A recent shift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 07:45 PM
2

That sounds really nice! Inspiring me to try this one day, as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:06 PM
705

Of course he waited almost three years to reveal this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:00 PM
210

I’m almost thinking, that just maybe, her friend might have enjoyed the solo attention a bit at her friend’s expense but don’t wanna be presumptuous either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:57 AM
6

I couldn’t even get past the first few tweets. This is why a new technology called blocking exists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:24 AM
22

I’ve encountered my fair share of these traits in men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:17 PM
58

Another way of ignoring “no.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:15 PM
3

If more women analyzed their emotional labor value, they’d see that 50/50 is a complete joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:32 AM
43

She needs to relax and stop being so uptight/s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:24 AM
292

Will dump you and show no emotion - so someone got rejected by someone like this in the past?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:18 AM
147

He sounds proud of himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:16 AM
61

Shamed for not being oPeNminDed~ or sEx poSItive~
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:24 PM
196

This one really sucks, because guys tend to hide this until like a year or more into things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:32 PM
117

I don’t get this. If he wants a woman who can do 50/50 he needs to date CEOs, lawyers, doctors, engineers, or trust fund women. Why would he pursue a relationship with a teacher and expect her to afford his lifestyle? Ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:44 AM
17

Now that I know it’s the same woman I’m going to go back and read it again, this is sad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 10:43 PM
2

Makes a lot of sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 06:24 PM
32

My first thought, as well, was this is probably dangerous propaganda. Not that I’m going to click/search/give this any more views to find out for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:22 PM
29

Enjoying the new Doja Cat album!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:21 PM
17

Nearly anytime I hear about a woman’s mental health/behaviors taking a steep decline, I wonder what man in her life/interactions with males throughout her life led her to that state. I firmly believe that most women do not just act out without some kind of provocation from males or as a result of some trauma inflicted by them. (Of course this isn’t 100% always the case, nor are grown women exempt from taking responsibility for our actions, but still.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:20 PM
21

The “relax - not all but some men!” disclaimer could be taken directly from any mixed gender comment section on Reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:16 PM
74

So, I just told the guy in a very matter of fact way that I wish him the best of luck, then I got up and left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 12:58 PM
5

Why are these men complaining about women’s personal preferences not including them as though they are victims? Obviously based on those responses to the OP there are pickmes who would gladly take their small size. But of course they don’t want the sort of women who want them back. Same as when 50/50 guys complain. If you want 50/50 then get a 50/50 kind of girl and stop aiming above your level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 06:01 PM
10

They want to be women. Wooed and pursued and taken care of and they’re resentful. What they’re saying is, they want a strong man in their lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:52 AM
3

Male feminists who are all into Hilary, AOC, BLM, protesting, female authors/thought leaders etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:51 AM
10

For some men, putting BLM activist on their profile is their bat signal to BW. It’s just a ploy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:50 AM
49

I feel a bit silly for knowing about this at all, but she got lucky cus Justin Bieber treats his wife like trash. Also I love her earrings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:45 AM
9

I am so happy someone is saying this! Some of the posts I’ve seen from women on various subs, even more serious women-only ones, where the guys don’t live near them, are just sad to read. There is no relationship when you can’t see one another, find someone local!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:43 AM
7

One sided
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:37 AM
11

I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:36 AM
191

Men are only as faithful as their options. Is there some way I can formally make a post request? Can anyone do one on signs he feels he settled for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:54 PM
82

And I’ll bet he’s like 12 years older than her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 09:55 AM
12

Is there any age past which it’s okay for a single woman to date a man with kids? I understand the sentiment behind the caveat and it does make practical sense. Just wondering because after a certain age group limit, and particularly if you live in certain regions, more men are likely to have kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 09:37 PM
172

It’s cheap and easy to get. There’s a surplus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 09:25 PM
32

I wonder if they even dared offer them under 20s as an option. The chart would probably look a whole lot different.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 09:25 PM
1

I’m sure he thought that his international move would be a natural, convenient end to whatever it is they had.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 10:51 AM
17

Men who do this, don’t actually want to go on a date. They’ll just text and text and text to build emotional bond then hope to “meet up” and hook up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 10:29 AM
15

Making alternative plans when he fails to make real ones. Plans can be just doing your nails, cleaning your apartment, and taking a nap. And when he finally does come through, oops too late you have plans already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 10:27 AM
6

That’s my first thought when I read about this setup. Sounds nice but how do you factor in their dating lives. A woman in the home dating a LVM can disrupt the ecosystem. I mean, this is a wonderful system but I’m guessing ultimately some women in the house would still be seeking out the standard nuclear family, and possibly to the detriment of the rest of the group.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 10:17 AM
17

Any guy who’s ever asked me to pay for my own dinner he’s invited me to turned out to be insufferable and entitled in other ways. It’s best to just pay, walk out the door, and never speak to them again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 10:06 AM
4

I’ve had similar thoughts and questions. Good to see it make it to a post here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 10:02 AM
18

She moved to another city to start over and grow, only to do OF? Not sure much progress is being made on her end. He knows exactly who she is and what she’s about. She’s an easy target for this kind of stuff as long as she’s on OF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:47 PM
43

I would really like to know the specific brands and which products.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:45 PM
15

I’ve always said male feminists are the worst! They’re worse than regular annoying dudes, redpill men, or conservative men because at least those guys will probably do what it is they think men “should” do (pay for dates, cover most bills, empty trash etc) unlike those male feminists who think women have to do everything themselves. Male feminist is synonymous with “kink friendly” “ENM/poly” and all of that other alt junk that degrades women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:40 PM
17

Yep, he sounds like an additional child to care for but worse because he controls the savings accounts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:33 PM
36

Self preservation doesn’t equal being a jerk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:32 PM
268

If he doesn’t care about your health he can’t possibly love you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:26 PM
5

Having a woman he both desires and does favors for in his life, should only be reserved for his actual partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:30 AM
9

I can’t stand when a guy asks you a question and you answer back directly, then you ask him and he says something vague. It turns me off of continuing the conversation altogether.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:25 AM
7

Sounds like it, and maybe not so open
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:24 AM
11

What’s wrong with not being into kinky sex? Everyone has preferences sexually and it’s okay to voice them. Isn’t that what they advocate for? Sex positivity? Why can’t vanilla only be your way of expressing your own brand of sex positivity?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:21 AM
27

Would you ever consider writing a separate post about your experiences? 17 years in an open relationship sounds tough, to say the least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:12 AM
58

I’m starting to get jaded and feel like nearly all men do this 3-month facade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:07 AM
93

That’s disturbing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:03 AM
15

That is so passive aggressive. She should realize he’ll do this running and telling thing whenever they disagree on major decisions in their marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:58 PM
9

Thanks for this because I couldn’t see the real logic in her choice from the post itself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:56 PM
19

This is why some men get annoyed when you refuse a drinking date and instead opt for something neutral like dinner or lunch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:53 PM
54

She’s just a young babysitter and future live-in nurse. She benefits nothing from this situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:52 PM
49

The video reminded me of that bdsm stuff where a woman dominating a man is actually just her pleasuring him while he lays there inert. That’s not a punishment, that’s a man’s dream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:50 PM
31

And if you have to ask, it’s just more work for you and doesn’t really count. He’ll probably just do it begrudgingly with an attitude or purposely screw it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:47 PM
4

Loneliness beats mindless and even dangerous casual sexual encounters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:54 PM
43

It seems like poly and ENM is mostly women giving into men’s sexual needs to keep him satisfied. Like a sort of, he’ll just cheat anyway and if I can’t beat him join him, cool girl kind of thing. Also the same mindset with couples seeking MFF threesomes. I wonder how many women truly deep down even want to do that, and just succumb to male pressure. The funny thing about it is that these men want multiple women, but will eventually fail to fully satisfy any of them. Men just aren’t biologically …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:52 PM
40

This was so perfectly stated. Single males are the issue. Poly revolves around fulfilling their sexual needs, which is the source of a lot of dysfunction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:48 PM
19

I always think a guy is closeted or a p*rn obsessed or something when he can’t get off to “vanilla” sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:16 PM
23

Unfortunately thanks to all this fEmInIsM~ and BoDY!1 poSItiViTy brainwashing, this is becoming more common than not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:22 AM
96

A lot of men just want other men in a woman’s body
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:20 AM
28

Perfect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 09:44 PM
127

Trust and love don’t support children or pay bills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 09:41 PM
10

Men know this. They rely on their male friends for authentic emotional connections and true friendships. Women are for home, sex, day-to-day companionship, and keeping up with family/social obligations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:26 PM
35

When guys say something will be “fun” sexually it often means it’ll be awful for the woman. It’s also a terrible dating profile buzzword for “casual and careless treatment.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:19 PM
11

I’ll bet if she left he’d magically find some way to feed himself. He survived all those years before he met her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:14 PM
8

So I’m guessing he doesn’t scrub the shower bottom out with disinfectant after, either so whomever showers gets traces of fecal matter under their feet? Because you have to clean your toilet bowl at least weekly for this very reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:11 PM
23

So incredibly sick and selfish. Divorce was the only option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:07 PM
135

But she’s carrying and birthing their child. That is more work in and of itself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:04 PM
79

And he has way more money for “extras” while she barely has any leftover.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:03 PM
74

He wants someone to do all the work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 08:20 PM
39

A man I knew admitted to doing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:16 AM
22

There’s no point sending likes, just log in and accept or reject messages received. Back when I used it I really disliked the idea of men possibly sorting through my likes as though they were a prize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:52 AM
6

This is definitely a type. Bonus points for unwashed bedding, an apartment that hasn’t been cleaned in months, their main hobby after work is Call of Duty, and some undercover fetish/kink/questionable political/racial viewpoint.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:59 PM
6

Cool girl humor, so edgy~
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:54 PM
24

This sounds really dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:51 PM
11

Unabashed honesty is not an attribute!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:46 PM
46

Why do so many men go on about the virtues of Chad but not realize most guys can look well kept with some basic grooming routines
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:43 PM
30

If a man asked me to get that done I’d ask him when his surgery for a larger member is planned for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:52 PM
43

He would’ve been passive the entire relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:51 PM
99

I feel like whenever I read a Reddit relationship post the man is always 6+ years older for some reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:49 PM
77

It’s like men don’t realize that women are not aroused and only worn out after pushing a vacuum and scrubbing a bathtub with no finger lifted by them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:45 PM
75

Oh yes, like can I just relax in my PJs after a long day’s work and watch true crime without some sex pest pawing at me like a baby needing milk?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:43 PM
68

Men feel they are entitled to sex no matter what is going on. Even when their sexual tastes evolve and become far more hard core than what his partner ever agreed to in the beginning. I’ll bet a significant majority of dead bedrooms come from some guy wanting more kinks than his wife/gf can keep up with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:42 PM
74

Even worse - the “girl bro” who thinks she’s cool and one of the guys, who engages in the bro code to protect her male friends/relatives/acquaintances over her fellow women as if that makes her somehow different or better than other women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:39 PM
13

Scrotes have such particular sexual tastes and overwhelming desires to do it with as many women as possible, while simultaneously lacking the erectile ability and sexual skillset to please even one woman in bed. Ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:36 PM
16

I got 10. Relieved to see that my experiences have been so universal and I’m not alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:34 PM
16

Is it weird that I think male partners shouldn’t really be hanging out/communicating too much with your female friends, especially one on one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:28 PM
12

Yes! I not only needed to see this today but regularly. This is great for women who are in LTRs/marriages also to keep some perspective on what really matters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:25 PM
4

I needed to read this today!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:24 PM
7

Or fishing for some woman to step in and do their hair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:23 PM
4

Unbridled, unabashed honesty is not a redeeming quality. Being an “honest” jerk doesn’t negate being a jerk. It’s called having a filter, you cannot get by in life without one. He clearly knows this and reserves his unfiltered hatred for conversations with women he “dates,” hence the women only disclaimer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:19 PM
2

The devil’s advocate, so overdone by men to try to invalidate our feelings. We do it ourselves even in our safe online spaces.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:15 PM
2

If he doesn’t do it it’s cus he doesn’t want to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:09 PM
42

The first time I went outside maskless a man old enough to be my father asked me on a date. I made the mistake of stopping to talk to him initially because I wanted to be neighborly. During the height of the pandemic, I didn’t go out much but the few times I did those lame guys who always hang outside because they aren’t employed would try to come into my personal space. It wasn’t like that before the pandemic. They’re getting bolder out of desperation and lack of consequences from police author…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:18 PM
119

Men asking for exclusivity is sometimes just another tactic to get you to sleep with them. It means nothing without actions to show exclusivity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:44 PM
40

I can’t stand these male social media street-style harassers. Obviously her body language showed she didn’t wish to participate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:15 AM
25

Well they never really have to deal with the fact that a random man on the street might try to assault a woman if they can just get close enough. How obnoxious that those guys lacked the empathy to understand that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:14 AM
21

Every disagreement is a win or lose with them and they have to “win” or be right each time. It’s hard to make any personal agreements or decisions with them. They’ll try to find a loophole in everything to go back on their word to get their way. Everything turns into an exhausting battle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:12 AM
38

This makes so much sense. After ~3 months, it’s hard to keep up that fake image. That’s why women should wait before sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:06 AM
107

There is nothing wrong with not wishing to have sex with men who have sex with other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:02 AM
1

I know this from experience, some of them are looking for a free babysitter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:55 PM
5

Energy matching, basically. Minus the hate part it makes sense and is a useful life skill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:38 PM
25

It was really bad during the pandemic and any woman doing OLD this summer needs to be careful. There is no telling what these men were doing out of desperation while everything was shut down and they couldn’t just order a woman over like Seamless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:32 PM
3

He already knew that about her 8 months ago, it wasn’t an issue then apparently. Men get into relationships expecting to mold the woman into what he thinks she should be, it’s ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:26 PM
24

Men think women want to have sex with them automatically if they approach first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 07:23 PM
8

Ugh, I’ve heard all variations of the responses in this subthread from various men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 07:15 PM
21

Just a step away from “you’re crazy”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 07:15 PM
1

Women contribution to a man’s life is her presence alone, which introduces risk into her life and yields great benefits to his. This has been proven by actual research.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:44 PM
2

Men who complain about women never initiating want to be the woman. They want to be courted and chased and paid for and provided for. They’re jealous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:42 PM
1

What use is a man who doesn’t help around the house?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:21 PM
2

So he only cleaned out of embarrassment from Internet strangers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:20 PM
3

Having to ask your partner to help you, especially around the house, almost negates the help because you have to do labor in order to get it done. Asking is planning and thinking, he should relieve you of that and just take initiative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:17 PM
1

What kind of man is so fixated on a woman’s hair and makeup?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:13 PM
24

Why is having marriage as a goal viewed as a bad thing? It’s like any other milestone, you have to plan for it to happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 07:17 AM
5

Sex feels like a chore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:09 PM
4

Why can’t people just admit that it’s just casual sex and not “friendly?” What’s with this euphemistic label? It’s NSA sex between consenting adults, friends don’t have sex with one another. There is no such thing as FWB.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:07 PM
2

Men want you to be everything to them and can’t even get their own basic partnership “roles” of emotional support and sexual satisfaction right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:04 PM
2

Men like this make me think they actually want to be women and provided for, like they’re jealous of women. He sounds resentful that he has a “hard” job and his wife has an “easy” job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:01 PM
5

Cus he’s a liar. Conveniently leaving out all the socks, underwear, jeans, PJs she’d also need to wash and dry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:59 PM
2

At their income they should definitely have a dishwasher, and so doing dishes simply becomes unloading and loading which he could easily manage to do. Something’s off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:59 PM
4

If she left he’d probably just clean up after himself but since she’s there he feels like he shouldn’t have to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:57 PM
6

And the additional hours required of sex, being an unpaid therapist/personal assistant, etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:56 PM
3

Dealing with one man is so tiring, there is no benefit for hetero women to be poly and have to deal with extra men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:52 PM
2

This also applies if he only sees you on weekends... basically for anything to be serious you need a steady mix of both
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:45 PM
5

She is the only one reaching out in this photo and he’s just sitting there doing nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:41 PM
10

Fear of CommItMent~
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:40 PM
10

Men have been deprived during the pandemic. They will be very desperate for sex and physical touch, leading to unpleasant dynamics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:37 PM
20

The more I realize this truth the less inclined I am to be with anyone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 01:59 AM
9

I did watch the latest season. Briana really is too good for Vincent. It’s a dangerous mix when the guy is not accomplished/educated and the woman is beautiful/well-earning/educated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 01:57 AM
2

How can she be aroused by him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 02:51 PM
1

Poly seems like just a way for men to have expanded sexual access while maintaining the benefits of having a woman in the home. Same as ENM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:58 AM
1

There is no possible way to have a stable, healthy home life and be poly at the same time. This is especially so when children are involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:57 AM
7

I feel like I’ve seen a lot of ads lately geared toward single women. Like Swiffer ads where a woman is just home alone in her sweats or a girl dancing around in her undies eating specialty ice cream in her underwear. I mean there was no back story but the implication was these women were letting it all hang out doing things that made them happy, no nuclear family life or lazy live in BF involved, and could afford these sort of “luxury” home items.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:52 AM
5

They do this because it works sadly. Some women falsely believe if he’s less attractive he’ll treat them better or won’t be able to cheat, which is so far from the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:47 AM
2

It’s so important for us as women to find the right workplace, and that goes far beyond salary and benefits. Work culture and environment is critical to our happiness and safety, having to get this just right makes the working world that much more difficult for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:45 AM
3

Men who call themselves feminists are such a turn off and a nuisance. They are essentially looking for a woman who acts more “masculine” in ways that benefit him (financially supporting a household, being InDePendENt~, having little emotional needs) while also offering the softer benefits of being with a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:43 AM
5

This is a great idea. FDS should have local chapters and events.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:40 AM
6

Your man should be a refuge, a shield, and a cushion from the harshness life brings. If he’s not actively making your life easier and more comfortable he’s useless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:38 AM
8

Or they’ll play devil’s advocate when you discuss a recurring work issue with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:37 AM
12

There are some guys who treat their friends, even newer or casual ones, way better than their own partner and children. They’re so focused on impressing people who don’t matter that they don’t care about letting down the ones who do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:35 AM
13

This is the only way to know a man’s real personality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:33 AM
39

Especially bad if they look nothing like you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:27 AM
96

I think women are strongly normalized (?)/socialized to believe a man who is 4-12 years older than her is okay and maybe even ideal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:26 AM
37

This is not the flex either one of them thinks it is. It’s just sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:21 AM
3

Never heard of this term micro cheating but it makes so much sense to describe some men’s questionable behavior on social media. Like, no, following some other woman to admire and ogle over her pics isn’t the same as physical cheating but it’s still not right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:53 PM
8

One of my absolute worst dates was with a guy who fit this category.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:41 PM
33

He reacted that way because he felt outsmarted by someone he clearly saw as beneath him, and entitled to keep talking to you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:39 PM
34

I love this privacy propaganda term. I guarantee had OP posted this to a gender mixed sub guys would respond that she invaded his privacy. I hate when guys say privacy is invaded through cell phone snooping when a woman rightfully needs more info or suspects something is wrong. Like, reading a guy’s texts/Whatsapp messages/internet search history will give you true insight to who he actually is versus who he displays to you. Why does that info need to be private when the truth can be harmful to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:37 PM
24

What makes this so much worse is the children being harmed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:30 PM
33

It’s always intentional. Why are men given the benefit of the doubt every time?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:28 PM
8

This seems reasonable. I’d prefer my actual time back but money’s the next best thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:36 PM
5

The use in dating is for marriage, romance or companionship or whatever you want it to be. What’s actually useless is casual sex, having sex with just any guy. Celibacy with masturbation is a far safer and pleasurable feature to incorporate into one’s dating life until an emotional commitment is made with one time/financially invested man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:33 PM
2

But cooking and cleaning is a job, it’s a significant contribution
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:29 PM
130

This is a lose lose cus sex can only hold someone’s attention for so long if they don’t like you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:28 PM
95

Women do most emotional labor, household maintenance, and child care. There is never such a thing as 50/50.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:27 PM
20

I went out for the first time in a long time without a mask yesterday, per CDC mandates for vaccinated people in my city. And I was approached and asked out on a date, by a man twice my age. I don’t think that’s a coincidence. Men see the dropping of masks as some sort of a signal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 07:15 PM
36

Women like this are why guys can get away with being slobs and still get laid. Will never have motivation to do anything better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 07:13 PM
182

Also it makes them think you want to have sex with them. Men take any sign from women as an opportunity for sexual access which is so tiring and annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 07:11 PM
10

I’ve seen this dynamic play out so many times. Women as pimps to bring in other women for their partners that have grown bored of them sexually. It’s even worse than outright cheating IMO, at least then the man makes his own efforts to find and see other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 06:08 PM
14

Right? Like the wife should be gift enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 06:07 PM
15

They use the woman as bait. It’s gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 06:06 PM
14

This happened to me as well. She was trying desperately to appeal to the guy who wouldn’t commit to her as a serious girlfriend. If you have to resort to this to maintain a relationship you already lost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 06:06 PM
25

It’s such a let down to chat with a woman then she springs the, want to join me and my man thing on you. And the man isn’t even in the profile so it’s extra insulting and sneaky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 06:05 PM
3

I also learned this the hard way also. Level of attractiveness has little to do with how he’ll treat you, as a matter of fact more handsome men have better personalities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 08:19 PM
4

He could meet someone else and marry them within 6 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 08:15 PM
1

And this is why I don’t date any man calling himself feminist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 08:13 PM
1

I would love to see this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 08:12 PM
2

I wonder how many hours of work that $180 a month is for? Better off working in retail/hospitality or temping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 08:10 PM
6

It’s so sad how “doesn’t force physical intimacy” is actually a gold standard of courtship rather than a basic human expectation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 08:05 PM
3

He couldn’t even offer to grab food at the store and eat on a park bench or something, smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 08:02 PM
9

I’m guessing OP wasn’t the first or last he’s done that with. Men with looks and status can do this cus it works, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 08:00 PM
5

Cities with this ratio are super problematic for dating as a woman...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 07:59 PM
5

Sadly I participated in my share of those in the past and none of them resulted in anything longterm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 07:57 PM
12

Sometimes longer than 2 weeks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 07:46 PM
12

This logic applies to celibacy while dating casually, as well. Sex isn’t something we as women need desperately, it’s safer and wiser to wait until we have a deep, mutual emotional connection from someone first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 07:45 PM
10

I definitely regret all the time I wasted going on dates during a certain period of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 01:17 PM
13

These feminist types are the ones most likely to believe in s3x PosITivity~ which is a big no for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 01:13 PM
16

That women are using men en masse for free dinners. As if most of us would waste the 4-5 hours of time we’ll never get back of our evening (including getting dressed) all for an entree. Some men are so entirely unpleasant, that a lot of us would largely prefer Netflix. That women just stop having sex with their husbands for no reason. How about that when they feel like they “have” you they stop putting in efforts, helping around the house, and leave you exhausted from the unpaid emotional labor …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 01:04 PM
33

What a passive aggressive comment. Yuck. He is implying that women get offended or fearful for no reason when men make unwanted comments toward them in public and he sounds ignorant to the dangers women face from men in doing so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 01:00 PM
6

He sounds insufferable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:55 PM
21

Women bring our presence to the table and this shouldn’t even be a question
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:51 PM
15

Instant block. Also I may be overthinking but I don’t think husbands should be texting their wives’ women friends unless it’s about a surprise gift/party for their wife or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 12:21 AM
117

If you feel confused just making basic plans it’s a wrap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 12:14 AM
42

He doesn’t respect her. He should be embarrassed to stink in front of her. He doesn’t care about how he comes across to her. If they had just started dating he would not do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 12:11 AM
12

I’ve also been intrigued by this topic. This aligns with what I read about Lauren Southern and her departure from the alt right world. She used to be a figure/spokesperson then just distanced herself slowly mainly due to sexual harassment from the male leadership. It’s like these women join for the attention and cool points from the males, but still don’t quite get the full validation they want because they are not considered equals, just breeding material to propagate “their kind.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 12:32 PM
3

He sounds very immature for his age, to be nearly 30 talking like that is pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 12:24 PM
235

This is how women realize early on to think of all men as potential creeps
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 10:58 PM
71

This guy has painted nails, hand tats and a dress shirt that’s several sizes too big. Enough said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 10:57 PM
6

So he wants a longterm, live in sex doll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:36 PM
13

This sums up everything that’s wrong with sex work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:31 PM
30

Best case. If he says yes, and it actually leads to a relationship, he’ll just go along with everything never really initiating anything ever. Worst, uses you for sex while pursuing a relationship with who he really wants. He will gradually end the fwb once the other girl says yes (or just keep you on the side to cheat with). Ofc the guys on other subs always rec we do the asking so they have the power of choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:19 PM
36

Good vibes only = I will not acknowledge your emotional needs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:14 PM
33

Is this legal?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:37 AM
74

If I had a daughter I would advise her not to. Boys and very young men have little to nothing to add to a young girl’s life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:24 PM
23

They don’t do it cus they don’t have to in order to have a wife, GF, sex, etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:23 PM
39

What value does he add to her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:20 PM
1

Too many to count
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 01:31 AM
101

The idea behind men having multiple wives is for him to provide for all of them and their offspring. The idea behind polyamory seems to be for men to be able to b*** as many women as possible while barely providing any emotional support for any of them, let alone financial support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 01:22 AM
49

Did she get the validating chill girl points she was looking for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 01:20 AM
9

This is why going 50/50 with men is a scam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:23 PM
126

Fun almost always means “let me use you.” Can also be used in insult form - “You’re no fun!” to complain that you won’t let him use you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:16 PM
12

I don’t understand why this isn’t part of more mainstream thought. Sex positivity is a dangerous concept.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:13 AM
20

Real friends don’t have sex with one another! The term is not even valid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:11 AM
12

I wish that more women could be honest about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:10 AM
3

I have this question, as well! How far apart is too much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:04 AM
31

I’ve been watching the show and theirs is the absolute worst arrangement. I see no benefit to her to agree to divorce so someone else can legally marry her husband. Actually none of these arrangements really make sense except, to a tiny degree, the one where the husband is financially providing 100% for all of the women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:56 AM
53

Because there are lots of women out there are ready on the first “date.” It’s just odd to me that men complain about what an individual woman does with her body rather than choosing to just deal with the first night types only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:52 AM
165

Weird flex but ok. Am I supposed to feel bad that I don’t qualify to RuN~ da KiNgdOmm?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:50 AM
47

This is ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:46 AM
1

What is she saying in it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 06:23 PM
22

They somehow think their personality and charm when you meet will make up for whatever it is they’re hiding from you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 06:10 PM
16

Yeah. Sounds like she went on a date with a married man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 06:09 PM
5

Are there any resources or articles about this? I’d like to learn more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 06:06 PM
153

This needs to be more mainstream!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:15 PM
5

That’s an awful arrangement they had. So was it basically some kind of open marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:52 PM
21

Sometimes I think men prefer to go to work so they can get away from their wives and kids. Not cus they’re motivated to be providers. So this study makes a lot of sense. When they’re the ones having to stay home, a family life is a lot less appealing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:47 PM
2

Yes, this is exactly why Discovery ID Channel exists
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:45 PM
7

None of this pertains to how it benefits the younger woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:44 PM
14

Nothing wrong with it. Just find the woman like the pickme in the comments who is cool with it. But no, he wants to be able to split with the types of women who have enough self worth, to not entertain that. Why do guys always complain about women’s standards? As if he should fit what all women want? Just seek out your level and leave the rest of us alone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:42 PM
12

Yes so why not just say that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:40 PM
2

Not yet but I purposely don’t use this handle to comment in other relationship-oriented subs cus I know it’s a possibility. I have a more “subdued” handle for when I want to venture into those mixed gender forums.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:36 PM
4

Honestly this is what all women bring to the table. We put up with men, one way or another. Our very presence is enough, we owe them nothing more than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:34 PM
28

Yeah, it’s that “I’m a cool girl” brand of humor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:32 PM
71

When men do this they don’t care about how you perceive them anymore. Couples shouldn’t even go to the bathroom at home together without closing the door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:32 PM
8

This photo spoils my appetite
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:30 PM
14

Yeah, just let them have a text convo with themselves!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:29 PM
29

I wish I could see stats on average age differences between men and women within marriages in the US. I have a feeling that most men are 5-10 years older than their female partners, at least anecdotally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:28 PM
118

That could have turned out a lot worse than just getting ghosted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:24 PM
388

She should buy the house she wants and live alone in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:22 PM
18

Men became far more desperate and aggressive during the height of the pandemic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:34 PM
16

Half the time men don’t even parent. Women do most of the child rearing/home domestic work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:30 PM
16

Advertising lack of self control like it’s cool. Brainwashing garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:28 PM
30

What does he contribute to her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:19 PM
19

I think this was the plan all along. To make her seem edgy and cool with her tomboy thing, then start showing more skin once she gained a foothold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:17 PM
68

Men don’t even have to do that much for some woman out there to be interested. Plenty of pickmes will take a rehab and try to build him up. Like how hard is it to not be obese, not stink, not be rude, not be dirty, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:11 PM
203

Some guys will try to keep the date going all night long in hopes that you’ll go home with them after. Venue switching is a classic PUA tactic. Other guys will try to build an entire emotional bond from texting, foregoing having to make actual effort to get to know you IRL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:09 PM
6

I don’t understand why he is saying she never worked. Raising kids, managing a household, and fulfilling the emotional/sexual needs of a hardworking spouse is a full-time-plus job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:35 PM
5

This is spot on! I’ll bet if he ever wanted a threesome he had no issues bringing that up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:29 PM
4

Any man who is truly interested in you will not dump his emotional load on you in the initial stages of getting to know you. He’d be too concerned with making a good impression.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:26 PM
5

Did she get the validating likes and DMs from random Internet men that she was fishing for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:25 PM
10

This is why I’ve just shifted away from certain more popular, aggressive, sex and violence obsessed musical genres altogether and listened to other ones more. I recently deleted a ton of stuff from my Spotify and it has helped so much with my anxiety levels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:18 PM
33

D is cheap and plentiful. Over saturated in the market.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:14 PM
24

Any woman can get sex if she wants. No matter how naturally physically disadvantaged she may be. It’s just that none of us wants garbage sex or to be used like a hole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:13 PM
46

What is with all these couples where the woman is like, 5-7 years younger, slimmer, and also prettier? Seems to be sorta typical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:11 PM
55

Yeah, for some guys like 6 months after he “has” you the effort goes down. And forget about once you move in together, lol, he can be a whole new person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:09 PM
112

Any man you have to do any of this with isn’t interested and no amount of effort will change that. Women do not have to offer much but our presence, men will do the rest if he’s determined. As a matter of fact, showing some reticence despite being crazy about him is not a bad thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:07 PM
8

Funny. It’s so much easier to just stay at home and watch Netflix than to deal with this..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 01:14 AM
157

Wow, foodiecalls really? As if I can’t buy myself whatever I want for dinner any night I want it. Dinner is not some special privilege.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 01:08 AM
237

Why is it so hard for men to just be, like, acceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 01:07 AM
17

This is unbelievable!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 12:30 PM
43

Alot of them just want easy sex, hence the advice from guys to just make the first move. If you’re cool with ONS/FWB by all means, ask guys out! This is a sure path to being a back up hole while he carries on dating women he actually wants or a side piece to a taken guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 08:00 PM
17

Men only seem to pay you genuine attention if they feel you could leave at any time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:14 AM
19

I tried watching it. From the first episode it was clear the men were the issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:09 AM
67

SEx PoSItiVity~ is just another lie that benefits men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:04 AM
15

This is why I stopped making moves first. 99% of the time they’re taken, they’ll meet up a few times while hiding their status in hopes of easy sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:07 PM
22

That first one sounds like a polite excuse. If he found her cute or charming, or merely just felt the urge to have sex with her for a night, he’d have said yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:06 PM
11

Centering yourself is always good whether you’re single and dating, in an ok relationship, or a happy one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:00 PM
16

Not a good idea to take a man clothes shopping. A gifted garment here and there, fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:58 PM
4

It sounds like she’s doing all the work and he’s just sucking up oxygen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:56 PM
179

Men can barely sexually please one women let alone multiples in a short time span.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:49 PM
24

Either that or he is single and would like to continue actively dating until he finds someone he finds suitable for a real relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:20 AM
52

Ignoring f*cal matter on your floor is disgusting in and of itself. He opted to live in literal filth for two days to avoid the appearance of handling someone else’s problem? That had to have smelled terrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:17 AM
148

This advice only benefits men. It’s easier for them to get laid if he already knows she’s interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:14 AM
12

I couldn’t get past the first few seconds of her video. She looks like she needs help
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:12 AM
154

Tinder Gold is worthless. It just shows you all the guys you would have instinctively swiped left on anyway. Don’t question that instinct!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:54 PM
7

Not 40+ but just wanted to note that some men in their 40s who don’t already have kids, could have been super focused on their career )which is not necessarily a bad thing IMO).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:19 PM
47

He doesn’t need to lie. There are some women out there who will house, feed, and wash him like a stray dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:15 PM
18

This is frightening
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:06 AM
47

And yet for some reason it’s controversial to say that casual sex is so different for men and women, and thus women shouldn’t take it lightly. This sex positivity bs doesn’t benefit women at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:03 AM
786

If he can’t spend $4 on someone else he has no business dating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:00 AM
16

Also sex. Celibacy, abstinence, virginity are just fine as temporary lifestyle choices when there is a lack of suitable sex partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 07:48 PM
38

A man who is truly into you couldn’t go a week without being in contact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 07:46 PM
20

This is older men, as well. It’s not something that is outgrown or a function of age, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 07:45 PM
128

Most men are so comfortable living in filth it blows my mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 01:35 AM
15

These are mostly roundabout ways to say they’re only seeking low effort sex with as many different women as possible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:17 AM
10

I’m sure this isn’t what the person had in mind who created these terms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:13 AM
20

This will save so much time wasted on bad first dates. How you feel over text is how it’ll be IRL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:12 AM
5

Men who contribute nothing have no right to have opinions about anyone’s appearance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:08 AM
72

The video is very daddy -daughter -esque, which is probably a kink or something for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:05 AM
2

Therapy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 08:28 PM
12

Got his place cleaned then probs blocked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 08:27 PM
14

Yeah, pickme aside doing this on a first “date” is just odd
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 08:26 PM
84

They always want to act like we’re acting that way for no reason. Behind nearly every “crazy” woman is a man who did something to cause it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 08:24 PM
33

I heard on the news that johns are not a part of this new measure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 03:11 AM
6

Thanks for updating on this. I cannot bring myself to watch the video anytime soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 09:31 PM
12

Learned this the hard way and never again. It’s just not worth it. You are wrong if you think a guy being unattractive means he’ll treat you better than a cute guy. He’ll just resent you for being better looking and try to pull you down to his level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 09:24 PM
19

Women want sex just as much as men do. What is he doing that turns women off to him so much that he feels the need to explicitly state a need for sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 09:16 PM
8

Just reply in the morning, regardless if you’re awake or not!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 09:12 PM
15

I’d like to read the update to this if there will be one. Sounds like BF has two GFs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 08:33 PM
29

Yeah, if that’s her BF, and that woman is always over there, how is this the first time they’ve met?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 08:31 PM
27

Your boss did you no favors
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 08:28 PM
55

You can tell by his writing style that he’s obnoxious IRL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:42 PM
45

Love it! He sounds so self important. Nothing he said was profound as he clearly believes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:42 PM
24

Some guys understand that coffee is instant friend zone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:47 AM
10

Polyamory and ethical non-monogamy are becoming more acceptable mainstream now. I think it gives in to the worst impulses of men, to keep collecting as many women/sex partners as possible to affirm their flimsy sense of self-worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 10:39 PM
3

Good for you for being brave enough to leave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 10:38 PM
99

It’s dangerous for women to marry down, men’s insecurities can manifest as violence. It can also lead a woman to economic instability to be married to a lower-earning or no-earning man (actual studies have been done at least on that one in the black community).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 10:30 PM
17

I like to lurk on this sub, it’s a real trip
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:06 PM
33

But he probably doesn’t want the van girl type.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:05 PM
18

His having a rental house isn’t saying much. He still has no actual home to live in, he can’t just ask renters to leave on a whim. He also may not have regular renters depending on the market/location.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:04 PM
57

Just more unpaid work for the woman to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:01 PM
56

Men should have no opinion or say on what we use during our cycles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:58 PM
2

Exception to the rule.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:17 AM
73

Homeless men more readily approach women than men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:14 AM
20

Pick mes can never win. Men want more and more depraved stuff, if you give in you’ll become an empty vessel who can’t even look in the mirror with pride anymore. You give an inch, they’ll take a mile and dry you up. And he will still leave you in the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 08:46 PM
15

Men are never satisfied.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 08:43 PM
76

This is why once women get in their mid-30s, all the men old enough to be their father think it’s okay to date them. What sense does it make for a 35 or 40 year old to be with a 60 or 70 something guy, give me a break.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 08:20 PM
51

If a man asks if I want a threesome, I’ll ask if we can do one with a man. If a man asks for back door sex, I’ll ask if he is planning on taking it that way, too... What’s good for me is good for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 08:19 PM
25

She’s not picky, that’s part of the problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:45 PM
26

Men are the ones that start looking bad in their 40s cus they don’t take care of themselves. If you prioritize self care you will stay looking good for life. It’s about looking good for your age, at any age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:40 PM
26

And “communicate” more and “ask him out.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:42 AM
7

So weird, he devalues the condition that brought him into actual existence...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 05:23 PM
7

So he has to be motivated to come home?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:41 PM
13

Wow, he can’t even buy someone a couple of tacos from a truck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:39 PM
87

Men need women. Women don’t need men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:35 PM
15

This vid is a mating call. Girls make these pickme TikToks and hope some hot, wealthy guy will start following their sm and pursue them IRL. The key is for them to display how attractive they are while also looking “cool” and low-maintenance through the advice they give.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 08:02 PM
2

Yeah, speaking from experience unless it’s a certain kind of friendship where you can talk without a filter it’s best not to offer love advice that contradicts with what it is they already wanna do. Cus they’ll blame you for their unhappiness and cut you off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:59 PM
4

Because men do things like this is why FDS exists. It’s a problem they created.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:55 PM
33

It seems like so much of the poly/swinging community is super male-driven. Just women acting under pressure from their male partner to seek out other women to join them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:53 PM
43

It’s so annoying to be propositioned by women to join them and their ugly boyfriends. Bisexual women aren’t disposable playthings to cure a dead bedroom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:50 PM
21

I burst out laughing when I read this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:49 PM
8

Willful ignorance. It suits them to not acknowledge what you do around the house, so they won’t feel compelled to contribute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:45 PM
14

Is he the breadwinner? Is he a multimillionaire? What does he contribute?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:42 PM
21

He is saying this as though it’s something to be proud of. His wife having to do all the man’s work is a shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:40 PM
6

He denies sharing their views while simultaneously profiting off being adjacent to them/propped up by them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:38 PM
41

Men take up so much of a woman’s potential creative energy with their attention needs. It amazes me women are considered the needy ones, it’s definitely not true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:35 PM
18

This doesn’t seem worth it. Between browsing for a SD, chatting on the app, preparing to fly out, flight time, overnight, the constant texts back and forth, taking selfies for him, did she divide what she made by time spent. Not to mention cost of hair, nails, gym, outfits. How much did she make hourly? A standard job may be less of a headache.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:32 PM
9

This sounds so incredibly ridiculous that I’m wondering if it’s satire?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:25 PM
17

Condoms seem the be the best choice. And any man who whines and complains about having to wear one, should be avoided.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:21 PM
149

This video is odd. The posing, the facial expression, the movements.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:19 PM
14

This reeks of “I’m a cool girl” who can take a joke vibes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:41 PM
8

She has to leave him in order to save her health. It’s a matter of life or death. The other stuff is irrelevant compared to the heart issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:39 PM
28

I think if a woman has any other available or viable options, she should exercise those. Sex work should be a last resort and I empathize with women born into cultures/societies where this is the case. I understand why sometimes it has to be done. It’s not something to be glamorized by privileged women who can pick and choose their clients. Because that is a false representation of sex work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:18 PM
12

He looks way older than her, his commentary comes across as weird cus of this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:14 PM
37

He looks old enough to be the girl’s father, it’s pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:13 PM
3

Open to all his kinks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:11 PM
3

I don’t want to wait too long either, I want to know if my partner and I click in bed before we get married. But there’s a different between waiting until marriage and having sex on the first handful of dates and he’s not really discussing that nuance. Leads me to believe he wants it upfront, and probably with a hefty amount of kinks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:11 PM
17

That part threw me off. You don’t need to have sex to know you’re compatible sexually on a basic level. That can be discovered in a conversation around intimacy and desires. It sounds like he has some serious fetishes he cannot live without, and needs to know if she is cool with it or wants to ease her into something dark and depraved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:09 PM
4

I have a female relative who works in the medical field tell me they had so many patients coming in to have BC devices removed from their bodies due to the side effects.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:04 PM
30

It’s a cult
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:43 PM
2

They know, they just don’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:40 PM
11

I think we’re already seeing the effects of this with women just overall being better students, more likely to graduate/attend college than their male peers, starting to be breadwinners , etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:36 PM
5

I saw a post the other day on Reddit normalizing this stuff, as well. It was under the “Popular” setting, so had many upvotes and people discussing it like it was cool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:30 PM
53

It seems to only benefit men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:25 PM
44

This post reads like she’s their caretaker, and they could not have afforded that house without her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:24 PM
31

Poly is just sanctioned cheating. I cannot see how it benefits the women involved given that men rarely bring much to the table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:23 PM
23

The person you live with (versus the people you just see)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:22 PM
35

Would love to read a post about this if you ever have the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:21 PM
8

Bumble is by far the worst because women have to message first. Higher quality men, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 08:34 PM
87

Hinge is for dudes who aren’t conventionally appealing enough to get casual sex IRL or on Tinder so they have to pretend to want more than that to get laid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 04:53 PM
27

Usually when this happens, he is taken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:20 AM
126

Men don’t really desire the women who ask them out. They want the women they actually want, to ask them out but those women don’t have to cus so many other guys are proactively doing it already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:16 PM
77

Just doing the bare minimum required of being an adult
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:15 PM
43

He wants easier sexual access.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:13 PM
36

Anyone who calls him an actual genius may not be too bright themselves. Nothing genius about sharing basic life skills with men that they should already know. He’s also alt-right adjacent, so that says a lot about where his ideologies lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:07 PM
44

Why not just meet up with the women who don’t require much effort, it’s like they want top shelf quality for dollar store prices. Nothing works like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:06 PM
1

Yes, this doesn’t seem real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:20 PM
7

Guys show up to Zoom meetings looking like cavemen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:18 PM
5

They try to sexualize anything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:16 PM
7

He just doesn’t do it because he doesn’t want to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:15 PM
59

Then I’d be too busy for sex, nurturing words, being a listening ear, providing advice, rubbing or scratching backs, showing compassion, looking sexy/cute around the house, watching the dumb stuff he likes, etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:12 PM
18

This is such crap logic. If she doesn’t do it, it’ll never get done and create such an imbalanced, resentful dynamic in the home. Men also apply to this cleaning. So they want the woman to stop and the two of them just live unhappily in filth?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:10 PM
35

It creates an awkward situation. If she wants to continue eating decently but he just doesn’t care, then she’ll have to plan and cook nice meals for herself while he’s beside her resentfully eating a hot pocket or something. They’re lovers not roommates, that dynamic will not work and he knows that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:08 PM
40

Guys “finding their own food” turns into a scavenger situation real quick. Unless he regularly buys his own fresh groceries, he’ll be taking whatever she has lying around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:07 PM
11

Then there are the ones who will talk through you, just kind of going through the motions of a “date” so they can try to have sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:04 PM
7

This is somewhat of a relief to read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:02 PM
35

TikTok is toxic for kids. Too much exposure to alternative identities/lifestyles for them to adopt that they’re too young to even understand. Now all these gross subcultures are becoming mainstream. Soon it’ll be considered hateful to proudly be “vanilla” and “monogamous.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 08:59 PM
6

Sort of OT but I hate it when men message you with “What about my profile caught your eye?” Like they’re looking for an ego boost and help with their profile to attract other women all in one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:09 AM
2

I felt a similar sentiment. She obviously needs serious help. I think she left the guy (?) but her posting style and just so many details came across as bizarre. Like she needs a family member to intervene in her life and get her into intensive counseling. Cus if she can be victimized like that once it can happen again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:08 AM
15

There is nothing wrong with only wanting hookups. Why complain about women who want more, and spend energy finding women who want hookups too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:48 AM
8

Why doesn’t he just come out and say he’s seeking only casual sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:47 AM
7

The women in these MFF scenarios behave just like men, seeking out a sexual receptacle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 11:41 AM
39

So sick of propositions from coupled women to join them and their male partner. I get the vibe that the women are just trying to be cool and spice things up for their bored, ugly boyfriends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:47 AM
8

Absolutely. Most men are only concerned about creating offspring and not about STDs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:41 AM
7

The man is a criminal. And she genuinely sounds like she needs psychiatric help and strong support system. This is terrifying. The whole story is bizarre.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:40 AM
7

It’s so weird how men complain about women’s standards. Like if you don’t wanna take her out to dinner then just find a woman who is cool with coffee?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:37 AM
31

They stop putting in effort once they’ve “got” you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:32 AM
30

Like who has the motivation for sex after having to ask ten times for the trash to be emptied.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:30 AM
11

This made me sad to read. This breaks my heart. I’m guessing due to her own mental issues she doesn’t have any real recourse or people to help her. He is a criminal, and she sounds seriously in need of mental help and a couple real friends to rely on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:27 AM
18

Been there, done that. Never again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:12 AM
6

Is it any wonder that you never see these types of ads placed by woman? Most of us know how to just hire someone to do things around the house that we can’t manage to do ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:55 AM
11

It’s probably worse past 35. More men with ED, who are out of shape with no retirement fund and older, trifling adult children. I’ve heard enough stories from an older female relative to know this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:54 AM
33

This service has gotta be worth thousands of dollars when you add it all up. That’s the job of at least five or six different professionals right there, some of whom are highly skilled/paid (therapist, chiropractor).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:51 AM
29

Yes, this is what all men want and what we all ultimately end up doing in a serious cohabiting relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:51 AM
5

I took one look at his ratty beard and tattoos and knew he had nothing of any value to say. Next post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:50 AM
18

Men want to play devil’s advocate at any cost. So sick of the “but what if” and “but what about” game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:49 AM
19

How hard is it to just do what you’re supposed to do!? If I have to ask, then I’m practically doing it for you/might as well do it myself but I guess that’s their whole point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:47 AM
79

I literally laughed out loud when I got to the end
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:37 AM
7

Being sexy is not a personality attribute or character trait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:53 AM
6

Hostessing is kinda like that, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:52 AM
34

Men largely, naturally prefer the company of other men for socializing and emotional bonding. Women are primarily for sexual needs, validation, attention, mental/physical health care, financial assistance, and family building.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:43 AM
73

They have a chip on their shoulder, they’ll resent you for being better looking and try to bring you down to their level. It’s a no win situation I’ve learned the hard way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:39 AM
143

It says a lot that their only advantage was us not having any selection. Like they want to go back to the early 2000s when we had to date whomever hit on us at the local coffee shop, bar, or bookstore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:39 AM
29

Switching over to women on apps and selecting you are a straight male is night and day. Women on average are just so much more well-kept, whether pretty or plain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:37 AM
32

This is true except for women who don’t earn much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:36 AM
15

This strategy was recommended by my male therapist. He said it’s a must when dating men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:33 AM
42

Some women do this cus they hope he’ll respond with, sorry and I’ll change/do “whatever thing” you’re asking of me. Clap back is low-key begging a guy to value you more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:32 AM
71

Alcoholism has become a huge problem, it’s a mask for something more. once a guy goes sober he has to face whatever it was he used alcohol to cover up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:29 AM
32

They’ll always be able to find a woman to put up with it so most don’t bother to get mental health treatment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:26 AM
51

If they consider her hot enough or so close to their ideal, this “offer to pay” thing goes out the window.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:24 AM
26

I sometimes think women being overly complimentary to a man’s posts/comments is some pathetic attempt at e-flirting. Like they’re using the sub as a dating app. Especially if they’ve randomly discovered through his post/comment that he’s local to them or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:01 PM
77

This same sub allows men to post questions that are just creepy or weird for their own sexual/dating advantage, like “what’s it like when you get aroused?” type stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 05:59 PM
1

You have your whole life ahead of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:49 AM
6

And then men wonder why we don’t want to split the check. Basic maintenance is expensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:45 AM
2

I identify with this so much. It’s just so invasive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:43 AM
3

It’s not an excuse to be a neglectful partner or father.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:41 AM
16

Of course he waited until well after they were engaged to say this. That was just a gateway to more depraved stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:30 AM
54

Also known as demisexual. As though a term needs to be made for, you know, wanting to actually like who you have sex with?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:29 AM
9

Now you have to specify that you’re into monogamy, depending on where you are. That didn’t use to be a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:27 AM
31

Cus there’s always some woman out there who’ll have him no matter what
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:20 AM
41

If he can’t accommodate condom usage at her request I guarantee he cares nothing about her safety or pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 11:55 AM
7

Men just can’t be bothered to do their own “administrative” tasks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:50 AM
7

Those images showing the man doing all the housecleaning are so outlandish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:07 PM
5

They treat dating apps like Seamless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:02 PM
10

This happened to me also. and the conversation never went anywhere after that. Like if I’m in that area, it’s going to be to meet someone or do something else preplanned, I’m not going to remember to text some random stranger that I’m there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:01 PM
15

That’s basically the Tinder subreddit in a nutshell. Bunch of dudes patting themselves on the back for some pickme laughing at their nasty pick up lines or being DTF tonight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:59 PM
4

TikTok is a cesspool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:55 PM
15

Some men think this way because it works for them, sadly. There’s always a woman out there willing to just come over or go for a walk or have a coffee or whatever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:54 PM
53

If you’re doing OLD it’s best not to even put that out there. You’ll just be hit up for threesomes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:50 PM
13

Sounds cool in theory but really It’s just more work for you. He’ll say, do whatever you want to me. That means You’re the one driving the scenes. You have to be creative and come up with everything. You’re the one doing the hurting and the abusing, while he just lays their immobile. If you want him to do something to get you off sure he’ll do it, but you have to demand it and it won’t be his idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:47 PM
10

Personal responsibility is at play here. She let it get to this point over time. First of all, being with a man who earns so much less is a bad idea. But in any case, if she works so much he needs to do 99% of the housework. This is a terrible situation and I wonder if this woman ever spoke to a therapist. She needs to leave him, he adds nothing to her life. She’d be better off if they split custody so she could have time to live her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 06:33 PM
41

You shouldn’t buy someone who is just a boyfriend gifts, at least not within the first year or so. He should be buying you gifts and treating you to things even before you’re official and especially in the early stages of the official relationship. Maybe once you two are engaged and super serious you get him something nice for like, his birthday, or something lol. She’s wasting her youth onthis guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 06:25 PM
173

I don’t think you can “convince” a man who wasn’t already inspired to ask you out to an initial dinner date, to do so. It wouldn’t be coming from a genuine place because that wasn’t his original intention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 06:22 PM
9

She didn’t immediately jump his bones so there was no spark but we’re in a pandemic so he’s so desperate he’ll overlook that for a chance to have sex on the next date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:39 PM
17

No, it’s not you my male therapist told me that most men are sexually motivated. 99% of men who meet you will only want sex, just use FDS til you find the ones who are genuinely interested and show it through consistent action (and financial investment but that’s another story).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:26 PM
10

I think they are on there but there are so few of them and so many bad ones on the apps that you have to endure a lot of horror stories and bad dates first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:24 PM
75

I think there is some correlation to a guy having a greater chance of being decent and not having been on the app for long. Versus guys who are on their for years becoming more bitter and jaded over time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:22 PM
9

I thought it was so funny, as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:33 PM
-1

Emma would be an FDS girl, though, for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:28 PM
4

I’ve had three male friends in my life and they all stopped communicating with me once they got engaged/in super super serious relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:26 PM
6

That’s why we need subs like these. Men tend to pollute conversations with their own grievances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:24 PM
14

What’s so hard about them just admitting that they’re naturally stronger and more dangerous than us?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:23 PM
8

She should pretend she’s running solo next time. Slow down a bit, enjoy the scenery, and forget he’s there. Run past him when he slows down, or simply jog in a whole new direction and head home whenever. When you do it back, they don’t like it and tend to switch it up next time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:21 PM
6

If you do meet up just be on the lookout for signs of alcoholism. It sucks to date an alcoholic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:14 PM
19

A woman’s value to a relationship isn’t financial so them saying that dating a woman who makes less is not comparable to a woman dating a man who makes significantly less or nothing at all. We have so much more to offer than a bank account, such as our presence, natural compassion/companionship (which often men seem to lack), and nurturing, whereas men are usually only good for whatever job they have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:11 PM
25

He spent more space talking about why he should be able to violate your boundaries than on your future trip to Ecuador. Shows where his interests and intentions lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:06 PM
96

Why would anyone be so obsessed with using the n-word? That in and of itself is troubling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:04 PM
33

I never want to be pregnant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:03 PM
78

If you tell him it makes you uncomfortable and he’s unwilling to make any changes then he doesn’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:01 PM
7

Hopefully by some miracle the boys man up and do not ask anyone, just go as groups of friends and let the girls be. The lack of consent here is disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:49 PM
92

Then why do so many women have so many of the same stories about the men in their lives? Some of these traits are almost universal at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:43 PM
155

How he’s treating the wedding is probably how their married life will be, if it’s not already like that. It sucks how she’s doubting herself as though she’s at fault for wanting a romantic proposal/wedding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:39 PM
1

This also showed up in my feed. It amazes me that content like this thrives but simple posts on how to stay safe as a single woman dating get so much hate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:34 AM
2

Guys will also lie about moving away soon or only being in town for the weekend or whatever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:31 AM
10

They’re the main ones spouting all the sex positivity nonsense. They’re even worse than trad guys in a lot of ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:23 AM
1

Yep! This is esp true for the East coast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:13 AM
14

Absolutely, and so many guys do this irl even to the point of being offensive (like who needs devil advocate on serious issues!?) that it’s ridiculous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 06:59 AM
15

Post common sense advice to a woman seeking help for why yet another man used her for sex, anywhere else on this website, and you’ll see how openminded this place is to debate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 06:58 AM
22

I joined then unjoined just days later. That place rubs me the wrong way for some reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 06:55 AM
39

I wish they’d bring back Gen Crit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 06:52 AM
38

This is why it’s so important to figure out exactly what value any man you choose to date, will bring into your life. He has to elevate your life significantly and tangibly in some way or it’s just not worth the risks he’ll bring by being in your intimate world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 06:47 AM
62

It’s shocking how many women on average have themselves together on all levels while it’s nearly a miracle these days to meet a man who is employed, pays his bills, is not overweight, is emotionally/mentally stable, AND can maintain an erection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 06:36 AM
54

I received so many desperate pandemic texts from men I hadn’t seen in months/years, so I know these guys are just itching for human contact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 06:32 AM
34

He did you a favor (albeit in the most obnoxious way ever).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 06:29 AM
65

I don’t see any allusion to what his “assistant” will get out of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 04:42 PM
3

I sometimes think guys go on apps like a sex chat. Like they get off knowing a real woman is on the receiving end of their jacked up digital fantasies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:53 AM
3

This can.not. be for real!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:50 AM
4

Cus they know it’s the truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:31 AM
6

Go to therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:29 AM
110

Yeah, cus guys think sex is payment for rent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:24 AM
101

I realized this when I was in my late 20s thinking somehow men in their late 30s+ would be better than all the guys my age. They were just the same with even more baggage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:23 AM
60

Why does a woman being not conventionally attractive have anything to do with how she should be treated? That does not correlate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 09:56 AM
126

So true. They’ll choose a guy who treats them like garbage over you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 09:50 AM
7

ENM is cheating out in the open. I mean, I guess it works for some people but it just seems like a way for men to have in-house therapy/maid/babysitter while he has sex with any woman he can manage to. Meanwhile women get... extra, useless D and a partner whose sexual/emotional energy is diluted? Idk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:56 AM
7

Lots of deceit by omission. The onus is now on women to verify that a guy she meets off an app does not currently have a GF or wife because he’ll just say well YoU NEver~ askED Me if I wAs SinGle or not ~ .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:53 AM
4

When I used Hinge it seemed popular for professional, educated guys who weren’t attractive enough to get casual sex on Tinder
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:52 AM
7

It looks like Hinge, a dressed up version of Tinder where men have to at least pretend to want a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:51 AM
6

He’d be better off just saying what he wants
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:50 AM
8

Personal independence and support systems = we will be strangers outside of sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:49 AM
6

Yeah. Like what is so fun about being rammed into like a blow up doll, not getting off, and being ignored for two weeks until it’s time to get rammed into again? Doesn’t sound fun to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:48 AM
10

Yeah, like the guy is heartless toward the child but this woman requesting an open relationship really made a mistake. Like open arrangements don’t have any benefit whatsoever to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:47 AM
10

She’s so young, she has time to find someone else. Also it’s pretty pathetic for a man who is almost 40 to be behaving like that. Doesn’t have any meaningful hobbies or interests.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:40 AM
13

They want to be provided for, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:29 AM
25

People are glued to their phones nowadays. There really is no excuse to go 24 hours without saying something to someone you’re really into.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:28 AM
24

I know it sounds bad but I cringe at hearing a guy say he wants someone independent. Like today I was watching Married at 1st Sight and the guy was like, I need someone independent because I’m away a lot... like it’s just a set up for someone he can neglect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:25 AM
6

Yeah, it sounds like a discreet business transaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:23 AM
24

This communication thing puts the responsibility on us to teach them how to behave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:21 AM
24

There’s always a woman out there willing to entertain this, and is just one of the reasons men will continue to behave this way. That’s why FDS is needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:13 AM
118

This is why you should never buy into that “equal splitting” financially stuff. With men nothing is ever 50/50 because we do most of the domestic and emotional labor (cleaning, listening to their problems, etc.) , whether in the home or in the relationship itself. It also takes us more time (getting ready) and risk (assault and pregnancy) in terms of casual dating, in comparison to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:05 AM
10

This is true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 04:52 AM
13

Wow, I wasn’t aware of this... just.. how low and depraved some men can be astounds me daily
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:20 PM
5

Talking stage is cyclical and never ending. It’s what you are in with him while he dates/actively pursues a relationship with someone else. Talking phase ends when he’s committed to someone else and no longer needs sex/attention from you... It resumes when they break up and he needs sex again.... ends again when he finds a GF, this can go on until he gets married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:19 PM
24

Men only want you to approach if you’re their type or already find you attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:15 PM
13

Some men think we should want them only for sex/their bodies and personalities, forgetting or not understanding that most guys are mediocre in that dept.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:14 PM
17

A lot of men live so selfishly, putting themselves first always even above their wives and offspring, it’s in their nature. The ones who don’t probably just were raised better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:04 PM
41

There’s definitely a correlation between self identified nerdy guys and bdsm/kink/poly lifestyles. And these are the same guys calling themselves feminists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:01 PM
134

When men act like this they’ve found someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 04:58 PM
62

Men aren’t necessary for anything anymore. If you must be with one, find one who brings much value to your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 04:56 PM
4

Thanks!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:45 AM
1

They act like that cus they met the woman online, know no one she knows, and thus can speak to her disrespectfully without facing any social censure or shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:19 AM
3

I’ve never regretted not having sex with a guy. Back when I was single and celibate, I let the happiness I felt being emotionally stable and secure as a celibate person guide me to continue doing so. Read some of the Reddit posts about women regretting their causal sex encounters and that should be enough to deter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:14 AM
3

So many men are followers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:07 AM
32

I hope this woman never births a daughter. I mean, it’s dangerous to teach little girls to give up things just because a boy or man demands it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:00 AM
19

I guess posting the direct link isn’t allowed but would anyone feel comfortable DM’ing it to me? I just want to marvel at how ridiculous these men are. ETA: These men are unbelievable. They can turn a heartwarming story of female solidarity into something about themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 04:56 AM
2

Well I guess I’m sex negative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:14 AM
79

Men and women cannot have a truthful dialogue about dating in one forum because our needs and interests are opposed. There’s always gonna be conflict around this. I think most women either don’t want to admit or simply don’t understand that we are wired differently biologically and casual sex is neither safe nor beneficial for us (for the most part). And of course men don’t want this discussed or acknowledged out in the open because it doesn’t benefit their depraved and ever present urges.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:10 PM
28

Hope this is scripted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 06:51 AM
228

That’s why subs like these are necessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 06:49 AM
12

This made me smile
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:35 AM
2

How is he so sure that some of those women were just looking for sex, too? His post assumes that all of those girls wanted to be with him forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:06 AM
8

Protecting ourselves is never in their interests if they have bad intentions., it says a lot when men get triggered over our defensiveness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:03 AM
2

Yeah, I’ve let sheets sit in the washer or dryer for days on end and get that bitter soggy moldy smell since he wanted to load the laundry and then pretend he forgot about them so I can come along and finish up. No thanks, two can play that game. You want to ruin the sheets you paid for, then go ahead!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:01 AM
11

I don’t even want to hear what he has to say. Men who wear jewelry beyond maybe a classic watch (and wedding band if that applies) have nothing to communicate to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:57 AM
4

Very helpful post. Need more like these summing up these types of incidents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:54 AM
9

She really thought some guys were gonna love her work, reach out to her, and it would lead to some kind of cool girl notoriety online and the man of her dreams IRL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:48 AM
14

She thinks guys are gonna come to her IG/Twitter off the article buzz. She’s just advertising that she’s an easy target, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:43 AM
5

So he can’t cook?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:41 AM
7

I hope she got the pick me Internet brownie points she was looking for from her male followers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:04 AM
11

Choosing her means nothing. He can choose to stay with her physically in the home, leeching off of the benefits he gets with her in his life (emotional support, emergency contact, companionship, etc.) while giving emotional attention to someone else. Just a shell of a partner to his wife basically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:42 PM
83

From the same network that produces stuff like “Slutever.” eye roll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 05:45 PM
398

Just like those guys who say, “just fun for now but open to more,” on their profiles like they’re dangling a commitment carrot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 08:01 PM
112

I went on a date with a millionaire who asked me if I wanted to split an appetizer for our lunch, instead of even getting our own entrees.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:32 AM
11

This is ridiculous and shameful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:20 PM
33

I had several men contact me during the pandemic, guys I only had one to a few dates with who just disappeared, anywhere from months to years ago. I had sex with none of them of course, some of them I only just hugged after a coffee or dinner date but never even kissed. I made the mistake of meeting up with one on the off chance there was some potential. He was several pounds heavier and he just looked pathetic. Do not give these guys a chance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:18 PM
9

Men get bothered when we’re unbothered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 07:55 AM
9

I’m convinced most men don’t do better because they don’t have to. They’ll always be some woman out there who will put up with their bare minimum ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 07:54 AM
25

There’s a woman out there willing to tolerate anything from any guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 07:50 AM
3

But what does she get out of all this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:37 PM
2

I was wondering if that was the same guy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 08:04 AM
6

Why don’t these articles ever discuss the risks and downsides of SeXual LiBerAtioN and PosItiVity? Like fine if you want to sleep with every guy who buys you a coffee go ahead but there are consequences to that sort of behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 04:53 AM
9

He took great joy in this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 04:40 AM
8

Or that you like to walk in parks. Cus then guys will always suggest going on a walk. (This was pre-covid)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 08:31 AM
8

Is splitting engagement ring cost common? It seems like a bad idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 08:29 AM
7

I’ve seen some of this before IRL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 12:59 AM
25

She’s very young. She’ll learn. Hopefully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:52 AM
26

You stated your preferences respectfully and upfront. Men are just so entitled, they think they should be everyone woman’s preference and if not something is wrong with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:16 AM
28

He just wants delivery sex, using Bumble like Seamless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:14 AM
149

She did the right thing. And good for her son for taking her side, as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:20 PM
63

Men love to pretend like who pays has no significance on their level of romantic interest or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:36 PM
6

It’s a PC term.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:35 PM
44

He probably doesn’t even want to have coffee. That’s just a nicety, he’d rather have a woman show up to his door, hook up, then leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:32 PM
6

Just no to dating a man with a PH account, that he actively posts personal videos to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 08:45 AM
1

Sadly this will attract women, and he knows this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 08:43 AM
14

Yes! It’s the worst when you actually put effort into your outfit and they roll up in a linty coat and some wrinkled khakis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:43 PM
65

If he can’t part with $35 (for three separate dates so really 10 a piece!??) he shouldn’t be dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 02:58 PM
94

Men don’t seem to understand that it takes women far longer to get ready for dates wrt beauty maintenance, and we take a safety risk actually being in their company.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 02:57 PM
63

This was my first thought. So if she’d have had sex with him no money payment would be required?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 02:56 PM
11

I once heard a guy describe a NSA sexual encounter as being with “a prostitute you don’t have to pay.” Hooking up is a scam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:43 AM
3

I think men take pride in dating women significantly younger than them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:41 AM
8

Men act ignorant so they can evade responsibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:36 AM
20

Men get praised for doing the bare minimum. This isn’t anything to praise or post about and she needs therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:33 AM
19

But for some women depending on where they live walking outside freely is not safe, either. It’s still a privilege in certain areas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:30 AM
11

They’re all the same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:26 AM
35

Every time a girl posts on a mixed gender sub men tell her to just TaKE iNItiAtive ANd aSk HIm Out. It’s so predictable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:24 AM
28

This happened to me and I just kept on walking past the doorway we were supposed to have reached together at the same time. He was dumbfounded because expected me to follow behind him like a dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:19 AM
41

The subreddit name should really be changed its to something more all-encompassing. It’s so much more than a dating strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 06:24 AM
10

When children are harmed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:15 AM
43

This is horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:12 AM
15

Exercise. Meditate. If you have faith, prayer. Juicing/cooking/baking nutritious foods. Reading something substantive you’ve always wanted to know about. Listening to self-improvement podcasts. At home spa day. A day watching guilty pleasure TV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 12:19 AM
15

It seems like you think you may have ruined a potential LTR with this guy by having sex upfront. If he were truly interested in you longterm, he’d know it after that first date and your having sex with him would not have changed his desire o be with you. Men know what they want with you pretty quickly. Now up to you whether to keep on as a booty call or accept your solitude with dignity and keep going in life. There was never any potential for more with him. Also, have you ever considered therap…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:06 PM
5

And all men are expected to do is go to work, if even that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 07:36 AM
2

“You’re not fun”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:30 AM
7

I used to have a list of positive attributes or “must haves” a man should have, when I was like, in my early-20s. Now I’ve realized screening for any kind of positive attributes like “must be kind to their mother” or “must like kids” or other stuff, will not weed out the guys who suck cus of lot of them just suck by default, regardless of any positive qualities they may happen to possess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:27 AM
46

And now women are expected to do all this along with contributing 50/50 to the bills. Raw deal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:06 AM
17

That’s all they do cus they’re overgrown babies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:06 AM
23

This is clever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 04:55 AM
21

This is so bad it seems like satire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 04:49 AM
5

It’s almost as if they’re trying to get off to their texting conversations with you. Like a real-live, digital p*rn chat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:11 AM
1

If you ignore the questions they’ll just keep prodding pretending to be oblivious to your discomfort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:09 AM
16

Yeah, often times “I want to see you” = “I need sex now”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:13 PM
9

How do these various arrangements benefit women? That’s the most important part for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:11 PM
44

I doubt they’re interested in her pleasure. Which would make it more like a g*ng bang than a threesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:03 PM
2

This is a set up to be used and abused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:29 AM
14

I have given unattractive and/or substantially overweight men a chance before and learned this the hard way, never again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:23 AM
3

Women putting up with stuff like that, is why men will not bother to do anything differently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:22 AM
17

Good catch. I didn’t even think of this initially.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:13 AM
10

He’s no prize
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:04 PM
26

Having a decent job and taking care of your appearance is the bare minimum for basic adulthood. He feels entitled to sex with women he buys dinner for (not dates cus he’s not actually dating) because he can shower, dress himself, and pay his bills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:06 PM
2

I hope this “King” thing doesn’t become a trend. I’ve been seeing it both online and IRL. Or maybe I’m just late and it’s already a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:06 PM
11

He clearly hates her but doesn’t want to leave at the same time?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:03 PM
11

It’s a lack of respect when your partner refuses to tend to their hygiene. Like okay, if you personally DGAF how you smell and live alone that’s thing , but when you’re living with someone else be considerate of your odor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:57 PM
33

Men regress into who they really are the more comfortable they get with you over time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:44 PM
37

It’s one of the worst ones because the guys are extra, super lazy since they don’t have to message first
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 03:53 AM
20

They are trying to build an emotional connection for free via phone, so they can skip straight to first date sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:07 AM
13

This isn’t even 50/50.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:04 AM
50

It’s only the trad parts that benefit him. It’s a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:03 AM
80

This is the result of popularizing the cannibal fetish. Now cool girls are gonna act like this is okay and any girl who’s not into that is not “SeX PoSitIVe.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:32 AM
12

“Renaissance” men don’t tend to call themselves that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 10:13 PM
17

Learned this the hard way. Actually, the unattractive/less desirable ones treat you worse than the good looking ones cus they’re insecure in themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 10:03 PM
6

Vanilla sex movement needs to happen...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:31 AM
9

This is why I’d never go 50/50 on rent with a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:27 AM
7

That’s pretty much what modern dating has become in the eyes of a lot of guys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:24 AM
15

Weird. I thought subs were supposed to be all about pleasing their “master” or whatever. For guys it just seems like you being creative and doing stuff to turn them on...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:23 AM
1

Are massage places open where you are? That could be an option for receiving touch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:16 AM
21

Yeah, my (male) therapist told me that men are primarily motivated by sex. Just the way it is, apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:14 AM
39

It sucks that (most) men’s main motivation to do the right thing, is fear of social censure and not just, you know, being ethical for its own sake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:13 AM
15

“Her” bills? Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:11 AM
62

So many women are oblivious to this, tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 06:55 AM
6

Give him a really nice massage or something. Don’t spend money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 09:45 PM
36

She has an obligation to leave him, if only for the sake of her kids. I have so little empathy for women who keep their kids exposed to abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 09:44 PM
6

What is wrong with women wanting “something” out of men? Like, it’s a crime to look out for our own best interests in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:53 PM
19

(Some) Men think everyone wants to have sex with them which is odd because it’s so easy for us as women to get laid. Like they greatly over value their “goods.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:11 PM
82

Yeah, a pick me would’ve ended a friendship over this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:07 PM
14

He’s talking about her as tho she’s a random, casual hook up, not his life partner. Just no regard whatsoever for her body or boundaries. He’s just so excited he talked her into this and nothing else including her Health matters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:04 PM
12

This was the most annoying part of his post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:03 PM
20

I’m not impressed by wealth. Like, if he’s not sharing it with me what good is it to me? If he’s not using it to actively better my life what’s it to me? What does it have to do with me? Nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:02 PM
11

Delusional-level of confidence...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:44 AM
63

Maybe they’re just upset that you’re not isolated for them to take advantage of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:41 AM
25

I’m so glad to have found this community. It feels good to know that I haven’t been alone in my experiences. It’s borderline therapeutic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:39 AM
22

Yes. Which is why you have to request them to wash their hands before they touch your face or vaginal area, even your own partner. UTI risk not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:37 AM
15

I don’t think there is any practical reason for a woman to date before 18 years old (or have sex). Men in adulthood barely have much to offer, let alone as high schoolers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:31 AM
13

Yeah, I mean her science is probably off but her message makes a lot of sense to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:29 AM
3

Tell me the basics? Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:30 AM
10

Of course he’d say that. It benefits whomever this is (and all men) of women were less defensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:25 AM
3

I think FAS would be better than FDS, this sub is so much more than a dating strategy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:19 AM
3

I needed to see this! The second half is super useful for cohabiting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:58 AM
28

This sounds sad, but plausible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:41 PM
8

They feed off the energy, even if it’s annoyed energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:31 AM
38

Wonder what it must be like to have such a delusional level of self importance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:36 AM
6

I find it difficult to make friends with women who have partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 07:11 AM
7

Why did he feel the need to mention a preference for blue eyes? Like, just chat with the women who have blue eyes and don’t reply to the ones who don’t...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 07:00 AM
123

If he doesn’t care enough about you to be embarrassed by a dirty house, he probably isn’t all that interested in you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 06:56 AM
24

I can’t speak on the authors’ intention, but I’m guessing it wasn’t to have a bunch of guys default to physical touch for their preferred love language.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 06:54 AM
58

Men feign ignorance to get away with the most underhanded stuff... “but I DiDn’t KNow I HiRt You...” Hence why the whole, “just communicate more advice” is BS. They know already, that what they’re doing isn’t right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:50 AM
63

“Morning sex” is just them using your body for getting off so they can clear their minds and get on with their days
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:47 AM
14

Comments like these are why I love this sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:44 AM
25

Blocking is protecting your energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 11:21 PM
83

I understand, similar situation here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 11:18 PM
26

I’m starting to accept this as reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 11:15 PM
122

Feminist men are even worse in some regards...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 08:10 AM
26

sarcasm on dating profile = automatic left swipe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 06:06 AM
14

Men don’t need to be communicated with about how to be decent and do the right thing. They’re not children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:26 PM
21

I think that (some) y t males purposely seek out WOC because they are aware of the societal privilege imbalance and want to take advantage of that...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 07:00 AM
19

I’m so sick of being a therapist to men. I wish someone would do a post on how to avoid this manipulation and being siloed into this role. It’s exhausting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 06:57 AM
3

I just can’t understand sticking around for months and months on end without even establishing that you’re actually in a relationship, if what you actually want is a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 06:56 AM
12

The straight women on Tinder all generally look better than the straight men. Even the women that others would deem “average” looking are presentable, styled, and well-put-together. Men just don’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 05:27 PM
34

Men on dating apps have no real social accountability. They can treat you any kind of way cus they don’t really know you or anyone you know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 05:20 PM
20

They might think we have it easier in terms of dating and maintaining social relations. But lots of women’s relationships are based on providing some form of care and emotional support to others, especially in dating/romantic relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 05:13 PM
13

I just posted a similar comment in another thread on here. Communication just equals more work, constantly explaining what should be obvious. Having to tell someone to clean up after themselves or remind them to do something hygienic or basic, amounts to you being their secretary/mommy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:20 AM
11

I’m becoming tired of sex with men in general, now sure how I feel about that. This post sums up the reasons why. Even actively avoiding casual sex, sex is starting to feel like a hit or miss chore where the guy always gets off but for you it’s a toss up. I’d rather work out or take a nap, they’re more refreshing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:18 AM
7

It should definitely be an article somewhere. I hope OP will take credit for this and post it somewhere it can be seen by more people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:15 AM
53

They act like men can’t pick up on nonverbal s cues. Men know when they’re doing wrong. They just want you to take on the emotional labor of spelling it out and responsibility for solving the problem yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:02 AM
28

Men who comment in all-woman Internet forums are sus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 06:56 AM
80

I feel like so many women don’t know the difference. If we stopped to actually think about the true difference so many of us would be celibate for many years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:46 AM
10

I love this mindset
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 07:53 AM
60

Older is no guarantee of more maturity. I learned that years ago, thinking opening up my dating field to older men would offer some improvement. Actually older guys are even more jaded and set in their ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:11 PM
3

I mean, ideally you’d have a help mate to get through life together with. That is the dream, that is the aspiration. A mate with whom to raise children with all the resources two people can bring. The problem is that men tend to bring so little to the table, that that ideal is not necessarily achievable for a lot of modern women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:08 PM
12

They’re leeches
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:06 PM
36

Guys use pregnancy as a weapon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:47 AM
8

If a guy says he’s into sex pos women, run...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:26 AM
7

A man who actually wants you and is into you, will not be able to tolerate just being friends with you. It would be torture for him and inevitably unsustainable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 08:22 AM
15

This triggered me. Been there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 08:06 AM
2

And this is another example of why women can’t be too available smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:03 AM
31

Sex with most men just isn’t worth the trouble
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:56 AM
2

The couple of male friends I had stopped communicating with me once they got serious girlfriends. They had found what they wanted and no longer needed my “friendship.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 09:25 AM
1

How inconsiderate. Like if she’s not replying back right away it’s because of him? Some men truly think all we are is holes. Ahem, we have responsibilities, and bills to pay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 12:24 AM
25

Yeah, it wasn’t even this bad in 2012. I honestly think when dating apps became a thing, things went bad. Even when it was just dating websites only, accessed on your laptop, it was a lot better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 12:18 AM
3

I hate that, everything-is-a-joke, just chill mentality. It’s toxic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 12:07 AM
8

Definitely an under reaction to obvious abuse. The solution to someone almost killing their own spouse is a bottle of lotion and some p*rn? I think not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 12:05 AM
30

I never thought of it this way. Makes a lot of sense. Chefs get paid. Babysitters get paid. Maids get paid. SAHMs work for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 12:03 AM
24

Well, he’ll certainly weed out exactly the type of women that he expects to with this nonsense. Because it immediately disgusted me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 02:43 PM
4

I’m curious if BDSM is also bad in the context of woman as the one in control? Could that ever be viewed as empowering, or is it just negative all around?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 02:42 PM
11

Feel free to ask a guy out if you’re not looking for a relationship / only want sex. Cus that’s all that’ll come out of it 9/10.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 09:55 PM
10

My mom and I were trying to figure out what their plan was for her. We guessed murdered but raping first makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 09:49 PM
7

I matched with a guy who was like, I’m going biking this afternoon in X park, care to join? I instantly unmatched. I mean, does this stuff actually work on someone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:37 AM
5

This is true and it personally stings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:35 AM
3

Maybe they’re EthICalLy Non-MoNaGAmoUs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:30 AM
1

Does anyone have a link to this original post? I’d be interested in reading the comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 11:08 PM
6

“Why didn’t you do all the work?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 11:01 PM
12

A man who can’t afford to buy dinner for another person has no business even dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:58 PM
32

He wants sex. But he’ll do some half a**** chore first. And he wants you to do all the work in bed cus he’s a sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:50 PM
24

He’s not interested
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:48 PM
1

Usually cus they have nothing to lose. It’s the internet where their rep really doesn’t matter to people they don’t know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:32 AM
4

Yep, came here to say this. She can still meet a cool German guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:28 AM
3

Does anyone have a link to this trending topic from yesterday? I’d love to read it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:26 AM
8

I don’t even want to go downtown or to another borough for some guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:12 AM
16

One guy asked me if I wanted to go for a walk in the park, and find a spot to get to know one another better. What a creep!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:41 PM
10

We’ve all been there. She just had the audacity to go through with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:39 PM
17

She’s doing too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:37 PM
46

Absolutely. They probably sense the impending dumping and thus advertise themselves for the next guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:36 PM
3

And there are so many women out there who expect nothing. Stop trying to knock down the ones who do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:34 PM
3

It says a lot how the guy feels about her comfort, that he just wouldn’t immediately pick up a few pillows from Target or whatever. Like he wasn’t willing to part with $20 to make his girlfriend more comfortable?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:31 AM
3

Classic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:27 AM
15

Toxic = whatever doesn’t comply with my interest of getting laid as much as possible by as many different women as possible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:23 AM
15

This pretty much encapsulates the mood of / need for this sub as a whole!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:23 AM
14

Or a little crossbody bag with just the essentials. A granola bar. Some water.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:21 AM
8

Fun adventure chill good vibes only - avoid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:20 AM
3

This is nuts, unless he’s actually buying her groceries which I doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:19 AM
24

Guys tend to go for what they want. The advice he’s offering is setting up men to be able to more easily access no effort sex and women to offer themselves up on a platter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:16 AM
25

Chill = sex only
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:13 AM
2

An alternative would be a picnic. Perhaps he picks up some food and wine of your choice and you enjoy it on a park bench.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:09 AM
2

Honestly when he suggested going to a field she should have ended the convo. You shouldn’t have to ask yourself out to dinner, if you do he doesn’t want to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:58 AM
1

Also relevant - what are you looking for? So he can pretend to be looking for that too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:44 AM
1

Hyper focused on physical. Red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:36 AM
17

Flip flops aren’t even real shoes. They’re for showering, beach, pool, or house shoes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:30 AM
4

DOT is a sad sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:28 AM
3

Yes, esp your best young years
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 05:02 PM
51

I mean, a male therapist I had straight up told me men are primarily motivated by sex, so...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 05:01 PM
325

Started an argument so he can spend his birthday with his actual girlfriend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:59 PM
9

If you flip your gender, you’ll see that straight women look so much better than straight men. It’s really not fair being a woman who wants a straight man. Men have such better choices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 06:20 AM
20

Why is she even asking WTA? Having boundaries makes her an A?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 07:18 AM
3

That sounds like a mess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:39 PM
4

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:32 PM
2

Brilliant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:02 PM
3

I hate when they try to be all coy about their lame sexual text advances. Just come on out and ask if you’re DTF, it would be much less insulting mentally than this nonsense !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:11 AM
9

It’s not, in and of itself. I suspect men are using it as a substitute for real in person dates. Using video chat to build comfort then meet in each other’s homes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:09 AM
1

Shouldn’t really be cleaning anything for a guy within the first few months let alone the first date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:06 AM
2

No, this cannot be real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:06 AM
35

Men only offer advice that’s tainted by their own self interest. That’s why we need a place to discuss things on our own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:57 AM
3

Omg someone asked me this on Tinder and I just didn’t know what to respond. It was so off putting. This is perfect!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:55 AM
11

Unfortunately lots of guys on Tinder think like that cus they’re on Tinder. The story will be possible for some woman, just not ones they meet on Tinder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 01:21 PM
14

Me and the homeless men who approached me this summer, smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 09:08 PM
9

A guy I was seeing straight up told me his therapist recommended he have other male friends for emotional connections and women for like, dating, (sexual?) purposes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 05:43 PM
3

(most) Guys know this and they don’t care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 06:20 PM
45

The general dating advice subs are skewed in favor of men most of the time. Men on there will advise you to ask him out, take the initiative, split the dinner bill, because that’s what they think they want, and it serves their own self interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 06:37 AM
59

I was recently asked , so what are you looking for on Tinder? Fun? Relationship? What a crap question, as though relationships are not “fun.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 06:31 AM
2

Unfortunately it’s a double standard that he has to be more into you than you are to him. Guys have to be crazy about you for a relationship to last. Women just have to be, interested enough, so to speak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 03:48 PM
2

This guy has it all wrong. She probably has to contend with supermodel types throwing themselves at her husband, so of course she tightened up her body. If anything, she did it to keep up with her husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 03:40 PM
10

Agreed. It’s an even exchange.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 03:26 PM
101

That’s fine for her, if that’s what she wants to do. Most men won’t respect a woman who does these types of things, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 05:39 AM
83

Her race was his justification to dehumanize her in his eyes and green light the experimentation of his sick fantasies. He had probably just been waiting for someone to come along where he felt like he could do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 10:52 AM
3

That’s how they trap you by getting you to suggest the real date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:17 AM
5

They will find a way to sexualize anything even a pandemic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:00 AM
1

I pretty much treat all guys the same in the beginning since I don’t have ONS or FWB.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/20 09:02 AM
1

I don’t feel special that any guy is willing to have sex with me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/20 09:00 AM
1

I have. Lots of women sitting around on a Friday night willing to grab a glass of wine, gave me some perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/20 08:56 AM
7

Red flag - if it feels like work Green flag - if it feels effortless When he wants to be with you he’ll make it known. It won’t feel like guesswork and you’ll just know because he shows you with his actions and words.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/20 08:51 AM
1

He’s made it clear he wants sex, since he’s pushing for that, but not a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/20 06:05 AM
3

I’ve had multiple men tell me they only use OkCupid to find recreational sex partners. And they date women they meet socially IRL who share their interests. The sex questions on there allow them to filter for their potential sex partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:31 AM
1

There are so many taken men on Tinder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:16 PM
9

I've met a few guys on Reddit and they were all highly problematic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:11 PM
6

Cuddling has always meant cuddling to me. Until a recent date explained to me, it's euphemistic. Ugh. I am so naive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:10 PM
7

So an exclusive, free, escort service on demand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:08 PM
10

Adventures, fun, explore - these words pop up a lot on Tinder
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:07 PM
8

There will always be another girl lining up to take her place, tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:05 PM
8

Yes, me too. When I hear that he likes to play video games, I get anxious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:04 PM
7

I've met so many men who play video games as their after work hobby. Like men in their 30s. I don't know how to feel about that tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:04 PM
7

I recently had a date tell me that he wants to have sex first, then suss out whether he even likes the woman or wants a relationship. Like he said he would outright refuse to have any level of commitment or exclusivity to someone whose genitals he has not sampled. So, I think this is pretty typical and a huge conflict with your stated way of thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:02 PM
6

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:59 PM
11

I shed some extra pounds thanks to a man, as well. So I guess someone being a jerk to you has that benefit, at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:58 PM
2

Yeh, I am surprised by the number of responses saying balding is a dealbreaker. Men start to bald in their mid-to-late 20s. By the 30s, most guys have at least a receding hairline.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:39 PM
2

Hinge is slightly better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:18 PM
113

I think this is what guys mean when they ask what a woman brings to the table. It’s totally self serving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:30 PM
16

That men are primarily sexually motivated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:13 PM
30

My male therapist told me you have to make men spend money on you on dates to invest/show some level of commitment toward you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:44 PM
27

I side eye any guy who calls himself a feminist. They're usually hand in hand with those sex positivity creeps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:43 PM
7

I no longer like pics and I automatically delete conversation starter invites. Anytime you like a guy's pic, he'll just invite you to talk to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:42 PM
91

That happened to to me a few times when I used to live outside the city and matched up with guys in the city. They'd ask me to text them next time I'm downtown, but not make any actual plans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:41 PM
8

I just know that there are some women out there who will eat that up, unfortunately. The bio along with the copy pasted intro.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:46 PM
9

I don't necessarily have an issue if an individual woman decides to do these behaviors on her own, but trying to convince all of us that it's okay through these various movements, is detrimental. Like stop using movements to justify your own harmful behaviors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:42 PM
23

I don't care to be PC. Being a porn star or any kind of sex worker is never a good thing for a woman to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:38 PM
18

If you accept another date, it has to be something nice. In your neighborhood. At your convenience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:36 PM
33

I wonder why other news outlets are not reporting on his manifesto.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:34 PM
14

Men in other subs live in another world where the woman just needs to speak up, ask questions, do more, do less, etc and so on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:56 PM
13

So, helping women avoid the pitfalls of the free prostitution industry that is the modern dating scene is ruining our lives?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:51 PM
14

Cutting right to the chase I guess. That's the next step after all of these bait and switch games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:47 PM
2

It depends on the types of women you choose to date. Masculine-of-center women and even some who are more on the andro side, tend to mirror male behaviors and all that entails.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:42 PM
1

He’s got the audacity to post it because someone’s gonna go for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:01 AM
19

They will just say yes to get laid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:00 AM
6

I don’t like you enough to spend the money on you that you want me to spend. (because if he really likes her this will not be an issue)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:59 AM
10

I’m hesitant to ask men their height anymore on dating apps. They get weirded out about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:58 AM
19

It sounds like she’s doing everything to convince him to be with her. This will probably have the opposite effect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:57 AM
27

Soft drinks? I haven’t heard of that one before...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:55 AM
3

He might want one, just not with her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:54 AM
13

I hate this stuff too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:52 AM
22

I've met so many guys lately whose main hobby is video games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 05:21 PM
2

I wonder if she's supporting him with alimony now, though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:19 PM
21

A guy told me that taking his date out to dinner was no big deal, because he has to eat, too, and would like to not always do it alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:18 PM
8

The only man who has ever labeled me as insecure/needing of assurances turned out to be married. So, yeah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:11 PM
2

I don't understand why Valentine's Day is such a huge issue for guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:56 PM
1

I consider it a bonus when a guy is actually physically attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:42 PM
8

All men have to do is exist and a woman will want them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:39 PM
6

Also ED starts to be a problem in their 30s and 40s especially if they drink a lot, are stressed out, don’t work out, watch too much p*rn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:54 AM
5

My mother says she thinks that all men cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:29 PM
3

That is a great way to describe Bumble. I had the worst experience out of all apps on that one, I think because men literally don't have to do anything to use it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:49 PM
229

It's like some women automatically equate dating with sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:07 PM
19

Thanks, I stopped watching but I am not surprised by this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:03 PM
18

Unattractive men are no different from the attractive ones. They all do the same stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:30 PM
6

Men don’t respect women who financially support them or treat them like their children
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:21 AM
9

Once my therapist told me men are primarily motivated by sex it changed my perspective and outlook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:09 PM
4

I had to remove the pics that showed I have a larger than normal chest area. I just let it be a pleasant surprise once the guy shows more genuine interest in me as a person rather than display it on my profiles. Attracts the wrong attention. It’s a shame we can’t show off our natural assets without being seen as only those assets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:07 PM
82

Absolutely. Men will advise that it’s totally okay to ask men out on dates and you should follow up with him if you haven’t heard from him in a while after a first, second, or third date. Because that’s what’s in their best interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:05 PM
5

Going for a walk isn’t a real date. Just say no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:03 PM
3

I agree. I'm happy to tell them what I do because I want to know what they do, as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:55 PM
3

You'll scroll through every picture and see that beard/hat combo then not have any clue how they actually look.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:53 PM
4

He needs a physical exam check up and a therapist, not a dating app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:52 PM
7

I had a guy beg me to let him do this to me. I asked him what would I get out of this? He said he thought I might be able to masturb*te about it later on. Like, really?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:50 PM
22

casual = i don't like you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:49 PM
8

Real doctors don't tend to feel the need to wear their scrubs in their profiles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:48 PM
29

I feel that so many men just want a girl who acts like a guy, but has women parts. Men bond with men emotionally, I think, and prefer women as primarily sexual outlets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:10 PM
5

I hate when men ask me what I'm doing "right now." Asking me what I'm up to and how my day is going is one thing, but like you want to "see me" right now? No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 01:26 PM
8

So, over the past few months I met three guys who were way heavier in person. I'm talking about, they were borderline or actually obese. They used old photos. This is just a thing. Be glad you didn't actually meet him in person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 01:25 PM
3

Casual = I don't like you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:26 PM
21

I'm into BDSM, but from dipping my toe in that pond the only men I've encountered who are into it have toxic personalities and were poly/OR cheating and I am wondering if there is a correlation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:24 PM
14

Like what is wrong with women looking out for our own interests. If their interests are positive, then they should all be aligned. End of story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:23 PM
3

I honestly don’t know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:15 PM
3

This doesn’t make sense. She could’ve found a local FWB.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:31 PM
25

Men over 40 sometimes start to have performance issues, it’s not uncommon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:28 PM
167

This is why I refuse to label myself as such. Like you mean... a person?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:23 PM
3

I’m in the 3-year camp. I’ll do it when I feel safe and ready. Anyone who doesn’t respect that can walk.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/20 06:10 PM
16

Thank you for differentiating this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:09 PM
7

I think the best way, is to just not have sex until you're ready and don't explain it. I used to say things like, I haven't been with anyone in a really long time because I'm waiting to have a real emotional connection, and that just starts unnecessary conflicts and manipulations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:43 PM
25

What is wrong with a sub that teaches women to advocate for themselves? That is the basis of healthy relationships and thus a healthier society as a whole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:37 PM
16

It doesn't sound like he's actually doing anything to show you through his actions, that he wants an emotional commitment. After three months, it's perfectly reasonable to have some level of exclusivity or firm understanding of what's going on between you two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 04:36 PM
5

thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:39 PM
25

It is just coffee with a coworker until he officially lets it be known that he wants to date, and actually asks you out on one. No blurred lines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:25 PM
16

They will find any reason to nitpick your personality and lifestyle to say you aren't compatible for a real relationship so it must be only sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 03:48 PM
14

Yes! So much! I had a guy the other day tell me he was only looking for something casual, yet this guy lives outside the city where a train and a commuter rail are required to reach him. What motivation would I have to do this? I let him know if I just wanted casual sex I could get that in my city, locally. A 45 year old (so significantly older than me) talking about he doesn't want a relationship. So just sex? Like with this age difference, he needs to bring other attributes to the table beside…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 03:47 PM
7

I ask myself the same of men and so far have not seen any value that they can add.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 03:42 PM
12

Men who travel often for work are to be avoided. Best case scenario, they actually want a real relationship but will never be around. Worst case, wife, GF, side chicks in different area codes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 03:42 PM
3

Thanks, I needed to read this today!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 03:40 PM
29

That reads like an ad to hire a handyman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 03:33 PM
2

MOC women basically act like men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 07:38 PM
4

ED brought on by too much p*rn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 02:41 PM
5

But you have to wait and weed out the losers until it comes along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 02:40 PM
5

The kissing, touching, hugging, making out, and just a touch of messing around is all I'll do with a man. I don't get anything out of the rest, unless he's actually invested in my pleasure and most aren't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 02:40 PM
6

Exclusive and FWB is an oxymoron
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 02:38 PM
1

Yes. I did this a couple times and I instantly received a nasty text message (it was only to my Google number, but still). They'd unmatched by the time I flipped back over to the app we were on so I couldn't report them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 02:19 PM
2

I've dealt with similar to #2. They'll nitpick differences about you such as, we don't like the same books or TV shows, or I stay out at night and you like to go to bed early, to claim after a couple weeks to a month of pursuing you (and not getting what they wanted sexually) that you are not compatible. It's a cop out. Duh, no two people like the exact same things and live the exact same way. They're just looking for reasons to not provide the emotional closeness you need/deserve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 02:16 PM
2

I know it's supposed to be a joke but something about it makes me think this guy is either in the closet or really, really wants to be a woman. It's like they resent us for being able to pick and choose who we let between our legs and want sit back and be courted, like we are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 02:12 PM
6

I think some mens' version of happiness is that their partner must be unhappily sacrificing their own sense of self and good sense to please them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 02:10 PM
9

Men are much more in touch with their own personal needs and have no problems advocating for them, even to the point of disrespecting others' boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 02:09 PM
2

Women who date exclusively masculine-of-center women need to follow FDS. Same rules apply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 02:08 PM
27

It's utilitarian. Either you're useful to them as a future wife, so they treat you accordingly as a priority. Or no value to their life, thus treated as a disposable tissue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 02:07 PM
16

I've had first coffee dates and first dinner dates. There is no difference in the outcome, if a guy just wants sex or is a jerk the first date choice doesn't matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 02:06 PM
2

Yes, this is why I haven't had sex for years. Slowly starting to feel the same about dating in general. If it's not making me get off, making my life better than it already is, or adding more happiness (when I'm happy as I am) then what is the point of it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 02:05 PM
5

They used old, outdated photos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:00 PM
46

I think women should generally stay away from alcohol when getting to know a guy early on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 04:41 PM
7

I don't understand why our emotional labor is not valued.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 03:48 PM
13

Why ED isn't talked about as much as the Wall is beyond me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 03:40 PM
28

I'd wish I had walked out the 4 times this past few months that my dates turned out to be obese or borderline, or looking 10+ years older in person. Would have saved myself so much trouble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 03:31 PM
18

Same thing happened to me. A guy from Tinder asked for pics of what I look like "right now" so he could be sure of how I actually look. I obliged. Met him in person, and he was actually obese!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 02:43 PM
6

I have been going through this same thing myself. I think this "beta/BF game" is worse than guys who straight up let you know that it's only going to be casual (which only hot guys can tend to get away with). The only thing I know to do is to wait. Hold out on having sex. They probably won't stick around past the fourth date once they realize pretending to want to exclusively date you, or faking being your boyfriend, isn't getting them the desired results. However, it still kind of hurts when th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 02:41 PM
11

I'm there with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 02:37 PM
4

This is awesome. What does vitamin c serum do?
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 03:04 AM
14

I think it’s easiest to just receive messages. Liking pics or making comments then sending it out, as a woman, is pointless. If someone likes a pic of mine I will invite them to start a chat, and delete after a day if they don’t. I think Hinge is becoming a hook up app, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:01 AM
9

Okcupid has been awful for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:11 AM
45

Right? Why not just own it and stop pretending to be coy. Nothing coy about asking a stranger for head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 05:46 AM
20

They say if something develops or maybe it’ll happen later knowing they’ll do everything they can to prevent any emotional connection from forming should the woman agree to this. Might as well just keep it to the point without that false kernel of hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 05:44 AM
10

I really question the term demisexual. I think it's normal to want an emotional connection with sexual activity, and having to label that makes it seem odd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 07:39 PM
5

It sucks because Hinge is supposedly a relationship-oriented app, but in my short time using it I've found it's for professional, "nice" guys who can't necessarily get laid on Tinder because they aren't conventionally physically attractive or for some other reasons, perhaps personality/temperament.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 07:35 PM
3

Figure out where you went wrong and don't make the same mistakes going forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 07:31 PM
3

Don't. The last time I mentioned that the guy flipped out. Guys are weird about that stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 07:30 PM
22

This has happened to me a few times. Sting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 07:26 PM
10

Statistically speaking he just may have it, given his extracurricular activities
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:41 PM
39

Yet guys continue to try to say it’s okay if we do this. They only want women they would already like to approach themselves, to approach them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:30 AM
26

In some cultures this mindset is the norm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 07:03 PM
2

Hinge is "supposed to be" for relationship oriented types, but I've found that some of them are guys who may not as easily get laid on Tinder or other apps due to their looks or some personality flaws, so resort to Hinge and then pretend to be romantic/relationship/BF/genuinely interested on the date to woo you in when they, too, just want sex. They might realize for whatever reason, it's not gonna happen with you and move on to easier target. In addition, some of them may already be taken. Hing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:37 PM
9

I put a bunch of pillows in my bed. Then I wrap up in my blanket from head to toe. It feels almost like cuddling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:05 PM
-31

I'm actually okay with the kink terminology.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:04 PM
20

I hate getting messages like these.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:03 PM
35

These types of groups are set up to give men as much sexual access to younger women as possible. I think that is the foundation of most cults.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:01 PM
10

Nothing good can come of a man calling you a bro.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 02:21 PM
4

A guy straight up told me all he needs is the woman to be available and he will smash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 02:15 PM
9

I had been wanting to make or read a post about something like this. Basically men are pretending to want relationships and even go so far as trying to trick you into thinking you are in one, asking you to be exclusive, etc. so they can have sex with you. There are some guys out there who want casual sex, but don't want it with the women who readily and regularly offer it or have it. They want women who are choosy, who don't sleep around, to engage in this behavior with and rather lie/manipulate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 02:11 PM
3

Unfortunately these days, a lot of guys don't even do that so a guy who does is "doing something."
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/20 01:28 PM
224

This makes me feel better about my own experiences...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 01:26 PM
3

Sounds like he's looking for a fwb he can call on any time it suits his schedule, but just using a lot of words to say it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 05:53 PM
8

I agree. This is how I learned myself and my ex should not get engaged as he was discussing. It's the only way to truly know someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 05:50 PM
1

A couple of guys have recently told me this. That they're desensitized to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 05:48 PM
6

Men act like because it's the Internet that there isn't a real person behind the other side of the screen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 05:15 PM
51

It also goes the opposite way. I don't sleep around and haven't been with anyone for years. For whatever reason this fact really bothers a lot of guys, too. I think it's best just not to mention anything at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 03:33 PM
6

It sounds like you want a man who is very successful career wise, and that tends to attract women. If you want him, just remember someone else would for the same reasons.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/20 01:58 PM
9

They also work out and have nice bodies? And great careers? Your evaluation of them may be a bit shaky.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/20 01:57 PM
21

I’ve never seen it so fully and clearly articulated the type of sex I value, and the only kind I will participate in. This is why I haven’t had sex in years. I refuse to do the crap on the left and it seems what most guys are into these days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 03:09 AM
3

Thank you for sharing this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 01:56 AM
6

They expect so much more emotionally. For me my recent dating experiences have included men complaining about how they feel ill, wanting company while ill, complaining about their jobs and needing reassurance or cheering up about some thing or another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 06:06 PM
3

It didn’t use to be like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 06:02 PM
2

I feel the same way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 06:01 PM
3

I texted him that he was blocked then did it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 04:12 PM
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