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Listen to yourself. If he just ignores you, he's not interested in you. you don't chase a man that isn't interested in you - that never works. He "doesn't respond at all" because he doesn't want to be romantic with you. He's now taking 5-6 days to respond because you are making him uncomfortable and coming across as desperate, pushy, and unable to take a hint. on the off chance he has any interest, then he isn't mature enough to actually act in response, or he is happy to lean back and let you c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 04:18 PM
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I am going to keep my genitals groomed the way I like. No way am I going to remove OR RETAIN hair, either to appease or test a man. You vet based on whether they make ANY comment about your hair regardless. my best quality partners are too focused on my pleasure and being in the moment, and too focused on snuggling in the afterglow, to make a comment about my pubic hair. I could have a 70's bush, I could have a brazilian everything plus a little landing strip. he's down there for the intimacy an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 05:18 PM
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Your friend is a LVW - your friend is NOT high value with pickme tendencies, she is down in the shit with the lvm and cheating to boot. you need to clean up your social circle to not associate with this trashy conduct. don't bother talking to your (ex-)friend - you already mapped out how that's a waste of energy. Just skip straight to CUTTING HER OUT OF YOUR LIFE. I would tell the husband, but you aren't obliged to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 05:09 PM
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Holy low-effort, Batman! What is this post? Stay off OLD, you do not know this man, you are WAY too early in the vetting process to describe him this way. high value is demonstrated through the way he lives his life, and the way he treats you over a LONG time horizon. You should not be trawling through out-of-town Tinder or w/e. This ain't a good place to be putting your effort or attention. OLD being "stale" in your area tells me you have been on OLD like WHOAH. cut it out. you don't need to th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:31 AM
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if you run out again, you're on your own". IF. IF you use the consumable that he bought for that purpose, that you need every month for up to a week? the fuuuuuuck? "here, I bought you some food because you literally begged me to and I threw a fit over it. Don't eat it! If you eat it, you're on your own." WOW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 05:06 PM
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so only give him attention when he performs for you. is he eating you out to make YOU feel good, or to give HIMSELF a show and ego boost? literally men don't care to change unless you put their own skin in the game. let him see what it's like for a partner to put voyeuristic enjoyment of his performance over the enjoyment itself. Literally hand him back the big bag of "I eat you out for ME not for you, so when I stop getting off on it, it's over". If you're supposed to love holding it, there sho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:14 PM
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next time he is dead quiet, just stop and walk away. tell him "I thought you weren't enjoying it, so I stopped" In fact - just stop and walk away right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 04:37 PM
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It doesn't matter how many times you tell a man what you need - cuddling at night, him to initiate sensual kissing, whatever. If he's selfish and getting what HE wants out of the physical side of the relationship, he won't care. if you don't bring it up (over and over and over again) how you want more physical intimacy, how you want more physical affection outside of literal sex-having, he is content to just let you go without. I tried to explain to someone he needed to make out with me, that I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 04:27 PM
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all you have to do is 1) take it upon yourself to become the kind of person a good partner would be attracted to, and 2) keep the position otherwise OPEN. Women are learning how important 2 is, and how it helps accelerate 1. nice job!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 08:33 PM
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also - him tagging along while you manage your daily life (e.g. doing the shopping) is not a date. let him show you his personality and interest in you (and let him demonstrate that you are a priority in his life, and demonstrate what fun activities with him really look like) by letting him select activities and carve out time in his schedule for them. he has to do his grocery shopping anyway, doing it alongside you is NOT a date any moreso than sharing a bus ride into town with someone. that's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 09:19 PM
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I sent most messages to my friend instead! this is great advice and I think should be maybe broken out into its own post (if it isn't already)! It's like how men might have a "wingman" in public to help them present themselves in the best light to women - we should each have in our lives a designated "anti-cave-in maven" (i'm a dork don't ask LOL) that has agreed to receive all the texts and messages we want to send but we know aren't going to actually fix anything or change anything and in fact…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 04:11 PM
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Yeah, if it's putting him down it's putting him down by putting words in his mouth that put YOU down. We don't need to participate in shitty gymnastics when we could just say "he had qualities you like, but disappeared early in the courtship after alerting you to a major bad-news, life-altering, time-sucking event that a good person WOULD stop dating to refocus over. whether or not it's true is irrelevant - if true, that's a good reason to move on bc he's not available. if he's using the story a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 03:51 PM
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I mean, he's not responding to her, he didn't promise he would, there's no reason to act like he wants the attention or isn't just focusing on his mom's cancer. let's not cross the line from FDS ("Stop texting him, even if you like him and even if you believe him and even if you "forgive" him, the proper thing to do is stop contacting him and move on") to bald man-bashing ("he is getting off on the attention and I guarantee he comes back for her vag") let's keep it tactical. OP - stop texting an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 03:25 AM
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No - stringing along would actually be messaging back and pretending he was more available than he is. She still needs to stop messaging him, because he already told her why he was not available, and is following thru on reasonable behavior of applying his focus to his family (which is the correct thing for a HV person to do - too early in their relationship to not 100% focus on the parent with cancer, if genders were reversed OP would do the same if SHE were high value). Her fuckup is she is no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:46 PM
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right. i've tried to say this before, but FDS is NOT the posts. FDS i an ideology reflected by CERTAIN posts and comments, as catalogued in the sidebar. The actual posts on FDS are, at best and at most, an ongoing contemporary discussion of how FDS intersects with real life, our emotions, and our past experiences/future goals. the emotions and intentions in the posts themselves do not necessarily reflect FDS, they reflect people acting and feeling after being exposed to FDS and also non FDS dati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:53 PM
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I think we need a vent post. so many new people are coming here, actually REFLECTING on how they were treated (including by themselves) and the natural response is outrage. as a safe space for women to "dry out" and "sober up" from society's grooming to accommodate as many men as possible, as one of the few places free from male influence on how women should make themselves available romantically, I think we need to carve out some explicit space for people to say "holy shit i never realized all …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 10:11 PM
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So really it's just FDS principles all the way down (be more selective with how we deploy our attentions, lest we suggest that we value that which we do not)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 10:04 PM
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THANK YOU honestly it's hard to defend this sub against claims it's just flat man-hating when so many of the posts were somewhat bald content about how half of humanity is fundamentally irredeemably flawed. I understand it comes from a position of deep injustice and long-overdue venting about just how bleak some of our experiences have been, but this is a place for moving forward from experiences that leave us feeling vitriolic, when that energy could be invested in ourselves and our future happ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 09:58 PM
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he got a hug and a kiss! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:22 AM
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Oh, the experience is real now that a man went undercover and had it? ok. it wasn't real until a man verified it. Oh, other men will get it now, that a man is telling them it's real? ok. it isn't believable until a man tells them. Thanks for the long post about how you can't empathize with women. thanks for the long post about how much work you are willing to do to test what women are telling you about our feelings is legit according to YOUR FEELINGS, instead of just BELIEVING US WHEN WE TELL YO…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 06:41 PM
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Say this out loud, every time you hear the phrase "sex scandal". I've just started saying "the problem isn't too much sexiness - the problem is sexual assault, rape, abuse. you have an abuse problem. you have a consent problem. your problem isn't too much sex, your scandal isn't about consensual sex. I don't want to associate sex which can/should be positive with the unacceptable shit that went down, which certainly is not accurately described as just "sex". Oxfam has a RAPE SCANDAL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 06:25 PM
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I know I’m a huge catch. I feel like he was just mediocre. So why does this keep happening? Explaining how great of a catch I am to mediocre men? Why am I attracting men who have no space for an emotional connection? REEEEALLY important thing to understand (and work to internalize) about FDS and LVM/HVM: Leveling up/being a HVW yourself will help attract a HVM (after all, like you, a great guy wouldn't bother with a potential partner unless she's also great.) BUT - it won't STOP LVM from sniffin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:42 PM
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Thank you for demonstrating how to woo a nature-loving gal without literally feigning homelessness. This also analogizes to how a man knowing you love cooking should NOT turn into a "i'll come to your house and you can cook for me/service me" non-date. Ladies - you liking things that CAN be enjoyed at home/for low-effort/cheap (e.g. walking, reading, nature, cooking, movies) does not translate to you needing to settle for a low-effort courtship! That's just him freeloading on your enjoyment of y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 09:09 PM
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This is why it's so sad to see so many women treating any form attention from men at all, any man, as the prize. like at least half the time, attention from men is either an extraction or a straight up PUNISHMENT, a form of exerting control over our time and attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 08:10 PM
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THEY TELL ON THEMSELVES. Literally they will run to you and tell on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 08:09 PM
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Green flag. Note the focus is on her not "us", because it's not "our" new apartment, it's hers. Note the lack of shifting the attention onto him or what he doesn't have, since this is a moment in her life. (Any negative self-talk - "I wish I could get out of my shitty apartment into a nice place like this", any attempt to make "her" place into "our" place - "this place is so big, I can bring my XYZ over so we can spend more time together!", and in general anything other than focusing on the acco…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 06:18 PM
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I doubt he even now thinks i'm "political wife material", he just realized post-breakup that life pretty much never turns out how you would order for yourself off a menu at 22, that i'm doing great, that he's doing not great, and that he dumped me because he assumed he was going to be hot shit at law school, only to pull straight c's and d's first semester, and to have no better romantic prospects. He assumed that dumping me would turn him into some 1L lothario, when in fact it just made him und…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 06:39 PM
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self-absorbed men will only ask you questions about things they are personally interested in, which often means things that literally overlap with him and his interests, his experiences, etc. He literally asked me no questions about my upbringing, he knew where I was from and whether I had siblings and whether my grandparents were alive and didn't ask beond that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 04:36 AM
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My healthy vice is getting hot, so i'll do that extra this weekend ;) the best part? I didn't take this away from him; he could also be right where I am (and in fact would have an easier time - he went to his top choice school, he's a man in the law and thus hooked into a good old boy's network); he took me away from himself while saying I would hold him back, and then I flourished and he stagnated. and he oop!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 10:11 PM
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I literally legally blonded an ex (they dumped me because they had decided they were destined to become a successful XYZ in City A, would do BIG THINGS, and would then become a prestigious political position, like secretary of state - and I was not "political wife material" - I was opinionated, I was a dual science/art degree holder and not his clearly superior political science/econ degree, I expected the same amount of support that I was going to be providing as we pursued educations and then …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:53 PM
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Like i don't know why we treat jealousy as a bad word. she's jealous because he's behaving inappropriately, which is reasonably going to make her feel insecure while she's WATCHING him demonstrate with his actions that he values his friend more than his gf. jealousy is an alarm bell for a boundary being disrespected, of a standard being left unmet. it should be focused on and honored as a signal to exit the situation that is making you feel jealous, and to exzamine how you let your standards get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:54 AM
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Could you share some sources on that? I don't doubt you I just want to learn - I went by this Harvard article
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 03:43 AM
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for the price of la mer you can get an online dermatologist, go on tret, buy a dermapen, and enjoy much cheaper actives/serums actually penetrating your face properly. which is to say, it's WAY WAY WAY expensive but still on the "not actually as effective as other treatments available at the same or lower price". If you were going to drop La Mer money on skincare, I think you could spend that much money WAY more effectively, pretty much regardless of what your goals are. The point of La Mer IMO …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:45 PM
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"I've been trying to reach out to you for years....to tell on myself"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:14 PM
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And when they cry about their feelings, note you'll take theirs into account with your comments when they take YOUR feelings into account with theirs. They treat you like trash, so it's reasonable to asssume that's how they want to be treated. you are not obliged to absorb their behavior without reaction or consequence to how they are treated in return. you can't block and delete people you live with so easily (assuming you live with these people otherwise the clear advice is "set boundaries and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 06:44 PM
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Shame your brother and mother right back. your mom is a shriveled old turd who lacks tact or kindness; your brother is too stupid and lazy to eat a damn sandwich to stop looking like fuckin' slenderman. your mom is jealous of your youth and your brother is jealous of your strength. you don't have a body to appeal to their aesthetics you have a body to carry your awesome self thru life. fuck both of them with a traffic cone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 06:23 PM
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Playing with makeup with no intention of showing anyone else, then washing my face really well. Doing my hair really nicely, dressing up in my nicest outfit, sitting in my hammock outside. Long walks in an open space
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 09:33 PM
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Yeah the elevation of being attractive as holding a value that eclipses objectively more important facets of a person (like their contributions, or their kindness) is a terrible terrible habit humans have. And even given that bad habit (obsession with looks), the faster we can decouple our society's definition of "attractive" from the notion of fecundity/fertility to something at least suggestive of anything real and sane (and applicable to people of all ages), the better. We certainly do not ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:46 PM
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Genetics and lack of (bad) stress, paired with the discipline to continue practices that train the body with "good" stress (i.e. exercise). Lotion is great because it plumps the skin and pushes out the lines (and time spent with the lines pushed out is LESS time spent with the lines reinforcing themselves/creasing, so the temporary improvement becomes a cumulative improvement). But genetics, suncare, sleep, maintaining a consistent/helathy weight, and lack of stress are likely just as (if not mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:39 PM
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Also note Oprah's lack of interest in making a romantic relationship the center of her life (and note her objective success).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:37 PM
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she posted here in these comments in fact (either she or mods since deleted it). she is at least grateful that we are confirming that NO this shit it NOT normal. she straight up literally explains her failure to be appropriately WTF in the moment was because she is an explicit pickme and wanted to be the cool girlfriend. /u/soytypicallyme, please understand that men will WEAPONIZE your desire to "be a cool gf" and "not overreact" to intentionally overstep your comfort boundaries, cheat on you, l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:41 PM
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"I only cook for people waiting in line to vote as an act of protest". There are so many ways to mock the entitlement...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 05:57 PM
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One of two possibilities: Well-meaning white-knighting (because again, men can see pickmes, and some men can see how they are problematic, and some men can see that a pickme will only shut the fuck up and stop being problematic if a man says exactly what women have been saying saying) Appropriation of women's suffering, because "ally to women" is his identity...one that he likely uses to ingratiate himself with women (like "acknowledging men's predatory nature" is what he has to offer women).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 09:50 PM
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What sucks is it takes a man saying the exact shit women have been screaming at the top of their lungs for people like the pickme in the video to actually consider what stupid fucking advice they're giving out. because she's a pickme, so she'll likely agree with the man to be cool that yeah of course trust your instincts... but she's ignored the literally millions of women who share this exact fucking experience first hand. Pickmes need that info to be hearsay from a man, because "man" makes the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 06:12 PM
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For the most part, I think yes, even party girls take better care of themselves than many men who consider themselves "non-partiers". mainly because the consequences for failing to care for onesself tend to be more severe as a woman. I also think we are living in a renaissance of glamour and styling and beauty finally acknowledging the beauty that exists beyond mere youth, and I think women are trained (Again by society's expectations) to consider their aesthetics. So even with the same amount o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:17 AM
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Sticky this sentiment. FDS isn't about shitting on LVM. FDS isn't about "how to snag a HVM". FDS is about how to live your life with the awareness that today's woman no longer needs a man, a man is not a plan, your life is yours to make flourish, and that a poor quality partner is only going to rob future you of time and energy. it's natural and ok/healthy to WANT a romantic partner, but you should only consider men who will be your ally, who also want to see your flourish. A tremendous number o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:53 PM
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Biologically men tend to have thicker skin (literally not emotionally lol) which tends to help them stave off wrinkles all things being equal. They also shave their face, which used to be unseemly for women to acknowledge doing, but which is a GREAT physical exfoliator. I'd also suggest that a lifetime of not tugging at their eye skin to apply and remove liners and shadows might help slow stretching/drooping... then again are things are NOT equal- that convention was BEFORE Retin-A, and doesn't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:00 PM
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One glaring logical hole in this whole narrative: it's not "women can choose not to have babies, not to breastfeed" etc., it's that men are not able to carry children, men are not able to breastfeed (excepting extremely rare weird circumstances). because men will NEVER end up pregnant at a time they don't want to be, they cannot experience first-hand what that is like. Like the whole thing was bullshit but in terms of "equality" you just flip that around and it's not about you calling women weak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:42 AM
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NVM told me that I am undeserving of a nice date Funny, because you can take yourself on a nice date, and he's the one who just proved himself undeserving of a nice date with you. If he thought you brought nothing to the table, he wouldn't have wanted your company in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:33 AM
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This is a repost, we have a 3-4 hour old robust discussion going already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 05:55 PM
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HE should feel bad for making you jealous. if you were jealous of him saying "thank you" to the waitress for topping up his coffee at breakfast, you would KNOW that was a you thing (tho really probably not, it probably signals that he generally leaves you feeling insecure). No matter the "Why" of the feeling, you get away from people who make you jealous. either they put you in a bad mental state for navigating life, or they are emotionally manipulative and trying to make their abuse your self-f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:27 PM
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men use the word "jealous" in an attempt to posture like owe no duty of care to their own loved ones. it's sick and cruel and is just victim blaming. at least the feeling signals a compatibility issue. at worst the feeling signals the man knows but doesn't care that he hurts her. neither of those are things the man gets to wash his hands of; neither of those are solely the woman's problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:26 PM
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NEVER EVER buy a house with someone you're not married to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 10:26 PM
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Let's talk about that word being used to attack her - "Jealousy". It's used as a put-down, to indicate that women aren't entitled to their feelings if it's anything short of approval/adulation for her man. Nah. I frame jealousy as a boundary crossed yet unenforced. That feeling of having someone defiantly fail to meet reasonable standards as if the standards are the problem, that feeling of your boundaries being crossed by a person who you expected to want to protect your boundaries, that feelin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 10:25 PM
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"His personality was the smallest penis of all"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 05:47 AM
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Not sleeping with awful men is LITERALLY A HATE CRIME GUYS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 05:45 AM
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Right. Sorry honey, those options aren't the only two men in the world, you can keep 'em both for all I care...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 05:42 AM
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The general vibe of that entire gender is gross and body shaming...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 05:27 AM
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That's fine. I'm more asking if there are further actions beyond ignoring people who do this in response to participation on this sub. my blocking a person doesn't stop everyone else from seeing their comments about us. it's all fine and good to ignore. I'm hoping for a discussion of whether a man can badmouth you enough to require a different approach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 05:23 AM
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no? i'm disagreeing with Minkiemink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:42 PM
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check the username and account age. troll acount. report, block, and move on. probably a dude at this point role-playing a "cRaZy WoMaN" so they can screenshot their own dumbass comments as proof we suck LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 06:33 PM
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oh my god your comment is bad just be wrong. this is not "barbarism" to want to know before you're naked whether you don't want to have sex with him. part of the natural progression to sex includes multiple opportunities to gauge what he's working with. don't get let things go further. Reported. make better quality contributions. talk less, read more. in fact, given your handle (throwaway for trolling?) and and account age, i'm curious why mods would even let you comment here. bleh. Edit: And no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 06:31 PM
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Once more for the ladies in the cheap seats: It's a myth that men with unattractive features are nicer guys - they usually aren't, because they tend to internalize their unattractiveness and take it out on us while still doing little to change what they CAN control about their suitability as a partner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 06:03 PM
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FDS is soooo simple: Take away any energy spent on ANY romantic interaction with a LVM. Apply that energy to yourself. If you want a man in your life, start by being a fully-formed, effective person who brings a lot to the table, so you attract the best possible person. continue to apply the policy of not spending any time or energy on LVM. the natural consequence is you're available when you encounter a HVM, and you're your best possible self, and you have a lot going for you to help you decide…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:53 PM
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7:30pm in the restaurant-y part of town might as well be noon in a coffee shop. I don't know why women think they are safer during the daylight. Meet in public, date in public, take your own transportation. easy. if you have a nice time to the point where the idea of spending time in private sounds nice/comfortable, that's a green flag for compatibility, but that's NOT a reason to go into private with him on date 1. let him book the next date with that "ooh I want to see more of HER" energy he s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:33 PM
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I mean.... I will say that a small penis is not something he can control. that's straight genetics, same as height. This does not mean you have to settle for it any more than you have to settle for a short guy if he doesn't do it for you. but it DOES mean that a man could be SOMEONE'S HVM while rocking a tiny penis. Just like a short man is absolutely capable of becoming a HVM....to a woman who doesn't want a taller guy (or is herself even shorter). The problem is that 99% of the guys who got sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:28 PM
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LOL imagine a guy not consenting to hand stuff during foreplay but wanting PIV....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:25 PM
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The comment you replied to was deleted in shame, but i'll paste it here because it's important for people to learn from how dumb it was: This is such bad advice!! It is sexual assault. I really don’t like seeing it on this sub. If you see his penis and don’t like it just excuse yourself from sex. DO NOT go groping. Can you imagine what we’d say if some manosphere douche wrote a post advising to grope a woman’s chest to estimate her boob size? YES they do it, NO we do not need to sink to their le…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:25 PM
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LOL "his personality had an even smaller dick!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:08 PM
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And he was selfish in bed as well, did not know how to use his tongue or his hands. just....how. another HVM distinction - hvm will know how to use his dick AND his hands AND his tongue. he won't say "oh i have a good dick i don't need to bother". but HOW could a guy who knows his dick sucks not have been told BY OTHER DUDES that he needs to learn how to eat it like crazy. even the mainstream subs and the dude-centric subs will tell a dude with a bad dick to learn to eat pussy like a madman to c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:06 PM
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natural selection and more specifically, "sexual selection" which is the near-universal practice of the female member of higher organisms vetting and refusing to mate with a poor male specimen. she is effectively looking out for her children in doing so, by ensuring that they have the best possible genetics and parenting inputs. humans are smart enough to understand the concept of their future selves, so we can execute that same sexual selection for our long-term benefit. Also, how is men having…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:59 PM
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i just wouldn't accept a date from a guy who I didn't want to spend a whole dinner's amount of time with. I'm not getting dinner at midnight nor on the moon. broad daylight? I work, and the sun isn't going to save you from a boring time. like if he's not a whole dinner's worth of into me (LOL), I wouldn't want to go on that date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:54 PM
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23 YEARS. LVM always come back if they sniff the potential for you to give them attention. Even if they dump you in the first place, they always come back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 09:39 PM
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While i don't think of this as evidence he didn't grieve his wife, it IS evidence that single fathers want help raising their kids just as much as single mothers do, and are a LOT less shamed by society for putting that out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 09:15 PM
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I recently had to go to the ER (food poisoning so bad I couldn't hold water and was getting dangerously dehydrated), and because I was throwing up the mask would have to come off periodically, and I was distraught due to the COVID risk of removing my mask a bunch. He called the doc for me. he put me in the car and took me and, after checking me in, he put me BACK IN THE CAR and waited himself in the ER lobby on my behalf (for 3+ hours, under 2 masks and a face shield), so I would feel safe remov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:42 PM
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This isn't the silent treatment, this is withdrawing positive effort and attention from people who squander it. it's not manipulating to be honestly and outwardly bothered by the shitteness of someone else's behavior. it's not your job to smooth over their rudeness or lack of positivity. Silent treatment is when a person is TRYING to talk about a problem but you refuse to talk to them entirely, acting as if they weren't even there or making any noise. no longer being bubbly after a crappy commen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 11:31 PM
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The message is fine but I don't come here to listen to men talk about their opinions, even if I agree with them. And further, his whole vibe was he talks about men needing to get their shit together, and not how "women have problems too" because he intends to address an audience of men about how men should work on themselves and improve themselves. So why exactly should I watch this video, and what business does it have on a subreddit for women to discuss our concerns with each other? TLDR: it's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 11:23 PM
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He only wants back in because he can see someone better than him is interested, which means in his mind he's better if he gets you intsead of the doctor. what a turd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 07:17 PM
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I never said my STEM friends were men. off the top of my head, 5-6 STEM friends, 4 of them women, would roll their eyes and think less of you upon learning you have a capricorn tattoo. They would all agree that the tattoo has nothing to do with work product, but would flatly question her intellect. She should just say "it's a goat, I just really like goats". But even that sort of reinforces why I say "no" to tattoos visibly in the workplace (if your primary goal is success). I don't want to talk…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:22 PM
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If a normal workplace outfit won't completely conceal the tattoo, and you don't work IN the arts, it's only a potential impediment to your success. Full stop. you're saying sometimes it doesn't hurt a person, and maybe. but it won't ever help you, and if the goal is to be successful, you don't do things that potentially work against you. Nobody says you have to value career success. but if you do, you need to be ruthless and literally decide to make your personal aesthetic expression secondary. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:59 PM
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It's not about what you WANT the answer to be. It's about what the answer IS. Equating visible tattoos with wearing skirts is laughable. the distraction is in some cases literal writings or drawings, as opposed to the normal spectrum of dress that has been acceptable for decades. (and in fact 100 years ago women in pants was the "distraction") Should OP get to wear a string bikini to her office job? Would you be so cruel as to tell her that won't impede her chances of being successful? be helpfu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:38 PM
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NONONO. I'm literally talking about distractions that impede business function. I'm not talking about blondes v brunettes, or being "too attractive" (yes men have tried to fire women for being distractingly beautiful). A man OR a woman with visible tattoos in my legal office would be a distraction *in that it would directly impede the business function. This is not a "men need discipline to not look at my tits, they're put away let's move on" thing. This is not a "construction site where the men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:31 PM
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Why, he's a lawyer, not a rapper. Lil Wayne's Pizzazz is a tactical decision for his career. Lil Wayne's lawyer's aesthetic is doing the exact same thing as Lil Wayne's aesthetic - leaning into/working within his industry's expectations/values. This is kind of my point - the public might "expect" Lil Wayne's lawyer to have "pizzazz" but Lil Wayne had his choice of lawyers, and THIS lawyer beat the crazy looking ones. By definition, this lawyer is more successful than the crazier looking ones. he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:24 PM
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OK....well I can't see your tattoo and you called it a carpicorn? and it sounds like you're TELLING people it's a capricorn? so maybe just take the feedback. this isn't about being seen for who you really are. this is about wanting to be successful in a CAREER which is about demonstrable results in the context of the venture. I mean this with love and as direct feedback to your question: nobody gives a shit about whether your weird goat tattoo is a capricorn or not a capricorn. it's distraction.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:20 PM
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a Capricorn inspired goat on bottom of my right forearm Sorry this might sound judgy but I know people who might think what you're afraid of people thinking (refusing to take you seriously) not because you have tattoos at all, but because you have a star sign tattoo. My STEM friends lose a lot of respect very quickly for people who are very forward with their astrology and/or tarot interests.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:51 PM
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Industry specific: Lawyer here - not really. But then again, working in a client-focused industry means you can't just "take it to HR" if the CLIENT is being weird about something. I had a large corporate potential client from japan demand to know the blood type of everyone who would be working on their case. The firm obliged. Because the firm wanted the work. There's no recourse for the client refusing to give business to someone with tats, or even refusing to give business to female lawyers. T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:45 PM
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I'm sorry, get this "make sure you talk about church" shit off my FDS. This is not FDS, this is social climbing. Reported.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:20 PM
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I didn't know bisexual meant non-monogamous. i thought non-monogamous meant non-monogamous, and bisexual meant bisexual. her bisexuality is "for" him. gag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:12 PM
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also they use your response, twisted and distorted, as a bogeyman to pre-shame the next girl. they weaponize your feedback. leave them thinking "That tactic didn't work" don't tell them how to change their tactic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:04 PM
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You remove your attention. That is the response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:03 PM
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"Or the homeless as an act of charity."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:01 PM
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I mean, i might volunteer at a soup kitchen, but that's where my brain goes when I consider this proposition LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:59 PM
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In the guise of wife material "Are you asking me on a date, or to a potluck?" If it's spouse auditions, I'll bake cookies if he builds me a deck (including pulling the permits - and you gotta stain and seal that shit!) These guys coming out the gate first thing expecting YOU to cook like a wifey when they are dodging buying you dinner like GD bullets in the matrix make me laugh. back when women cooked dinner as part of courtship, she did so at her father's house, dudes didn't expect to get fucke…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:52 PM
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You wouldn't lose your shit if you had a Hollywood Bum Hole 😂😂😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:42 PM
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Many men looking for dominant partners It's literally right there - they aren't submissive because they want the relationship on THEIR terms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:38 PM
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"submissive" men really want both you and he to be submissive to his weird kink. you're not in control - his penis is still in control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:37 PM
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The outfits are way less important than her words. Enjoy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:09 PM
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We all were. if most men were great (and were true allies in dealing with the minority that weren't), we wouldn't have need for subreddits like this. That's why it's so encouraging that girls are able to see first hand both FDS and men talking about women when they think only other men are around BEFORE they enter the dating world. this is a chance for sea change for women and our agency, by breaking the cycle of learning about this stuff by being a victim of it. that's a HUGE thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 07:20 PM
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She may have learned it from HERE for all we know. That's the beautiful part of the attempts to misrepresent FDS - it just Streisand-effected the philosophy. men and mainstream society's (which men control) attempts to discredit this ideology thru misrepresentation is really....conspicuously...pathetically obvious to anyone who actually looks at the source. And because both the ideology and its critics are online, just going and seeing for onesself (and exposing the critics' lies) is instantaneo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 06:23 PM
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do they think this amounts to an invitation? what even is that? Do you bother signaling you need an actual invitation? this shit is epidemic apparently...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 05:20 AM
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Tammy is a LEGEND!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 05:12 AM
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that taking charge would cause him to escalate to actual abuse instead of his low grade resource sucking that he's currently engaging in. She should leave him. that was the undercurrent of my "single parent to 2 instead of just 1" i'm not suggesting she bother staying, she should take her child and her larger income and disappear from his life. take every joint expense out of her name. done. She's covering the majority of the bills PLUS his bullshit. that means she can survive without him BETTER…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 07:09 PM
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This is also a totally reasonable takeaway. As long as women can see the coffee date invitation is as big a data point (or bigger) than the 4 minutes of not-fucking-up OP initially experienced, FDS is doing its job in keeping women alert about their preferences and options (and aligning their actions accordingly)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 05:55 PM
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I hear you and the more I sit with your comment, the more I understand the rhetorical value of leading with something that would allow the people who DO think "tall + hot + can carry a conversation + asked for my number = catch" after 5 minutes... to consider that what seems like catch is often times a LVM leveraging those positive qualities. I hope my response (and our further repsonses here) help further educate the gals (and lurkers) reading. You're right - lots of people think "catch" when t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 05:54 PM
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Note how much of his abuse is at HER hands. She could have just ordered the glasses. She could just NOT do things for him, forcing him to go without or do them himself. She's choosing to be a single parent of 2 instead of a single parent of 1, and she's letting her oldest dependent whine for toys instead of the breadwinner having functional eyesight? it's sad, but she's doing this to herself. she's not trapped except by her own learned helplesness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 05:39 PM
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At face value, he sounds like a catch. Quick question because I was about to rip into and then report your comment as anti-FDS... but then saw you are a recently added mod, so I must instead respectfully ask: How in the WORLD are you concluding a man she has talked to for FOUR minutes sounds like catch? because he's "tall and educated and interesting (but only 4 minutes worth of interesting so far)"?? NAH sis - he sounds like a STRANGER. This is not a thing she should think while vetting. Don't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 05:17 PM
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HVM are, because they care about their bodies and want to be healthy! I don't understand - obsessed with their dicks, don't do things they can control that would give them better dicks. sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:50 PM
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Here's a selfish angle I wonder if porny men have considered: If you DONT break your dick/sex drive with excessive porn use, ED can be a sign of a more serious underlying medical condition. Would I play a game that's kinda fun for like a few minutes, that is going to give me ongoing symptoms of a heart attack? What happens when I start having a REAL, actual heart attack, and just wave it away as a side effect of the game? I would want to avoid any self-induced ED, because ED can be a symptom of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:30 PM
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Never seen it. Maybe. Like I said, it's very close to the plot of Legally Blonde, too (turd dumps gal for not being "good enough", she turns out able to out-perform him in every way, while refusing to let his rejection suppress her personality or individuality, ends up realizing she doesn't WANT him anymore, has happy life.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:24 PM
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My HVM offers to take care of my needs even if he's not feeling like having sex right that momen. Like you said - he has hands, he has a tongue, he knows how to use a toy. He doesn't have ED, because he hasn't broken his dick with porn. so 100% of the time this happens, his cheerfully taking care of me turns him on, et voila - I end up having the sex I felt like having in the first place. Not because I force him to, but because he cares about my sexual satisfaction, he's into me, and importantly…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 01:08 AM
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This is another phrasing of the "block and delete, first chance is last chance" core FDS philosophy. It's just the act of placing your efforts and attention in the places that are actually rewarding, and that includes interactions with people. WHY would you have anotheer conversation with a man about something you don't like that you've already explained? that's putting MORE effort and More time and MORE energy/attention into a place that has been a demonstrable waste. It's not that you chose NO…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:41 AM
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I sound like a man-hater but i'm actually happy in my relationship. Being with a HVM just makes me MORE ruthless, because it puts what LVM do into such sharp relief.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 09:39 PM
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Who fucking cares. at this point it's not about the porn. his pornsickness didn't cause him to lie to you over and over and over again. he could have told you without you cornering him that he failed to stop. he could have just been honest the first time you knew and asked him. he could have told you when he PROMISED THAT HE WOULD. it's just him wanting to move the goalposts. who gives a shit what he pays for -that wasn't your boundary. who gives a shit if he "can't" stop, it's a DEALBREAKER for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 09:26 PM
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No, not all men are like this. Not at ALL. The men who ARE like this have a STRONG interest in CONVINCING you that all men are like this, so that you worry that you can't get away from this exact behavior by getting away from the LVM. You can totally get away from this behavior. my HVM does not look at porn at all. if he wants to enjoy a lady's naked body, he will drink in mine :) 40 and rock hard whenever we want to play, never had a problem with ED, never had a problem with condoms making him …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 09:18 PM
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about how the women should be responsible for their actions. But the bad actors were men. Like where is the expectation that men take responsibility for their own actions, rather than women having to modify our behavior so as not to exercise our bodily autonomy in a way that MEN respond to with violence?? And they wonder why our advice at this point is to not to bother with the vast majority of them, and that it's easiest to just assume they're all awful and leave it up to them to prove otherwis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 08:59 PM
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The nice part is once you realize the "why" of what makes coffee dates feel crummy, you can just say that honestly in response to the invitation, and watch the response. You don't say "coffee dates are low effort and lazy and cheap" because even if that weren't true, it's STILL a no, as coffee puts you in work mode, which is not conducive to dating. Say that, because it's a declaration that you know yourself and what you like and, and he can either be compatible with that or not. A HVM you're co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 08:44 PM
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LOL @ men trying to "test" me with a coffee date when they have like, 5% of my spending power and 5 figures in debt. Like, you're just showing me you're not at my level. That's all it shows. His attempt at a test is just him failing my test! I associate grabbing a coffee with career-centric networking chats with colleagues, a chance to take a quick walk from the office on a busy day, or explicitly cozy me-time with a book and a kitty. Romance me, don't put me in work/interview mode, don't make m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 08:19 PM
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Read the play Lysistrata - men were warned that women would eventually get sick of men's awful shit and pack up their pussies and go home LITERALLY 2400 YEARS AGO. They just though this was a funny notion because they knew they were stronger, more violent, and literally held all the power and wealth in society, so we could not escape. Lysistrata was a comedy in part because it was written at a time when invading armies raping women was just seen as a natural mechanism of empire expansion - the s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 07:43 PM
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I got a 7-page one of these, after the guy dumped ME. 7 pages about how he loved me and missed me and I was the love of his life....but also that literally all our problems were my creation, even the ones he conceded wer his misbehavior. It felt somewhat validating that he tried to un-dump me, but mainly the attempt just made me TIRED. the tone of the letter REALLY crystallized his insane narcissism, that I was having a hard time seeing because I was stuck in the frame of "dumpee, so I must be t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 07:05 PM
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THIS. Anyone in a similar situation - OP's response was pretty good, but I can think of two even better options: Don't respond to the e-mail at all, block the e-mail address used (he literally tells her what to do several times in an attempt to force intimacy/access: "Tell me your address so I can send these shoes or else let me see you in person (NO and NO - unsafe!), "Respond so I know you got this (OP DOES NOT OWE HIM THE COMFORT OF KNOWING SHE READ THIS. NO) and "Brush the cats" (OP IS AN AD…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 07:00 PM
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"Hey I've had your shoes for months, but selfishly kept them to exert control over you and to drag this out -ultimately as pretext for this email. "You know how I ignored and dismissed all the ways in which I abused my body, that I burdened you with both mentally and physically? turns out without your encouragement I used to knee-jerk reject, I was confronted with my own unmitigated gross shittiness. I was super shitty and gross, alright! "give me more of your time and attention so I can waste i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 06:49 PM
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There is lots of good advice in your post. I just want to share that I LOL'd at They could die because, well, everybody eventually dies. Just imagining myself vetting to avoid men who could die someday. (of course this is why we value men who care for their health - if we marry and take that "sickness and health, till death do us part" vow seriously, we don't want you acting frivolously with your health.) Men will say FDS is unfair, but to them I concede - HVM die too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 07:55 PM
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no. more. visitation. It sounds like mom has it IN WRITING that the step-turd is a sexual predator, and they have no intention of parenting him appropriately in response. A HVM parent would say "we are having a behavioral issue with Turd, why don't I take Daughter on a daddy-daughter weekend and we will discuss how I can be present in daughter's life without exposing her to Turd while he fixes his behavioral problem." A HVM would tell her it's a nice top, too. It's important to praise adolescent…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 12:33 AM
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I bet you anything the boy has learned to weaponize the poor parenting response to his sexual aggression to harass his stepsister (non-sexually). This is a TOTAL Cartman move. "moooommmm, Her arms are giving me a boner, tell her she has to put on a big hoodie!" sticks out tongue at sister
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:49 PM
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Your daughter is getting burqa'd. literally covering her body as a solution to the boy's behavior is sending the message that he is allowed to be out of control and she has to make herself uncomfortable to stay safe? NO It's the boy's obligation to control himself. he will control himself or you will call the fucking police on him, because you daughter's body is hers to dress. You should contact the lawyer that handled your divorce about your concerns over your daughter's safety, I don't think y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:21 PM
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If you're going to bother engaging them, make sure to remember one fundamental truth: Men are angry about FDS because the alternative is women listening to men about how we can "find happiness". ask if the downside to FDS they threaten isn't JUST AS APPLICABLE under the old system (women being lonely, women dying alone, whatever). Ask if the only difference is that men get what they want under their system. Because that IS the only difference - whether we put ourselves first or whether we illogi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:15 PM
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I'm crying with laughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 10:52 PM
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Real talk? Historically, the woman dies alone (or more accurately, without a romantic partner holding her hand) ANYWAY, because her husband will typically pre-decease her. Doubly so when you consider men historically take younger women as wives. So really, the plan for men is to make sure THEY don't die alone. The threat to FDS is that THEY will die alone. so don't listen to them when they say " if you follow FDS, you'll die alone" - because the response is "And when we listened to you, we also …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 10:51 PM
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when both parties are over 40, it's two fully formed, established adults. My mom's husband is 8 years younger than she is. they're both over 50, so they're close enough LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:54 AM
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Keanu Reeves is consistently friendly, generous, humble, hard-working, and non-creepy. He has an age-appropriate (still gorgeous!) girlfriend who is independently successful. He endured public trauma early in his life, and yet did not have a meltdown that affected other people - he took time to grieve. To my knowledge not a single woman who came across Mr. Reeves, regardless of her appearance or status, has ever left feeling disrespected or used.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 06:49 PM
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I don't know how much more direct "do better" could be interpreted in his context besides "do better deciding who you let into your life." how do you interpret it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:30 AM
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I interpret "do better" as "take responsibility for the reality that dating is an affirmative choice to associate with someone, and that you need to mind your life better if you're bringing yourself around awful people." Pickmeishas and doormats SHOULD do better <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 10:56 PM
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I don't think you need to draw gay/straight barriers when discussing being victimized by men, hunny. this isn't really a gay/straight thing, lots of men you THINK are straight fuck all sorts of people, and would fuck a damp hole in the ground. this is good advice from a person who knows women can do better than to bother with LVM. your comment ain't it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 10:54 PM
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Thank you for helping so many people! I make comments here but I haven't bothered trying to post because the time I tried it never showed up. I'm not asking to have that post restored or anything. But - should I just keep commenting, or do I need to try again to make posts to eventually advance my flair? I figured that people with "Strategist" and "disciple" etc. flairs would be the ones who should post, since a bunch of newbies chatting might just dilute the quality of posts. Thanks again for t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 06:31 PM
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SAAAAME. I don't stress about the flair, if you make a good point here it WILL be noticed. If someone is making a pickme comment, it's a teaching opportunity for the community. one aspect of pickme behavior is women are trained to do it, trained to shame other women who DONT do it. LVM give "atta girl"s for it. we are sold a whole line (benefitting men) about how it's more important that we be nice to them than we protect ourselves. that we have to put their feelings/preferences first, even when…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 06:22 PM
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This is a really important observation - MOST MEN DO NOT NATURALLY HAVE EMPATHY FOR WHAT WOMEN LIVE THRU OR EXPERIENCE OR THINK - THEY HAVE LIVED AS MEN AND THINK AND THEY AUTOMATICALLY EMPATHIZE WITH THE POSITION OF THE MEN IN ANY STORY YOU TELL. This is a major reason why men knee-jerk to "gold digger!" at the slightest whiff of standards, but are unapologetic about wanting the body type they want, or not feeling bad about refusing to pursue women they find physically less than attractive. you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 06:16 PM
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Right on. Sometimes I end up re-stating what others say but longer or a slightly different way. you're def not wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 06:12 PM
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Thank you! This is important. It's not "you're being weird and lying here I know this isn't Tiffany's, are you really trying to pass off costume jewelry as something fancier? i'm going to get this appraised what the fuck is wrong with you?!" Don't give any foothold to saying you overreacted, or calling you a harpy who "flew off the handle" because "I bought her jewelry but it wasn't nice enough". You basically say anything and they will ret-con everything to make you the villain in the next stor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 05:06 PM
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lots of people see HVM and assume it's money. money represents time and effort. men get it in the business world, they get it in salary negotiations. they play dumb with women because they KNOW money is time and effort, and they want to conserve both. they just call US focused on money to throw us off when we call them out for being low-effort with us. Show me I'm worth your time and effort. money is only one of many ways you can do that (And for some money WONT do that, many of us know/dated LV…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 05:00 PM
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sounds like he's already ghosting her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:56 PM
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which is nice if it meant anything but since he was cheating? nah. Thing is, saweetie can buy her own everything. she's grown and rich and smart and talented (and gorgeous and fit and healthy). so while her fella needs to be showering her with affection which includes gifts, it's because the magnitude of his genuine affection needs to be that big, because she's a fucking CATCH. it's also because he needs to be on her level, or at least able to make her feel "treated" (which is harder when a girl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:51 PM
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he didn't give her everything she wanted. she wanted him not to cheat. ????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:45 PM
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Also,report even the libfems, sorry but reading the handbook is mandatory and this space is a privilege. THANK YOU. I got into it on twitter with someone shitting on this place and after a while it became clear that 1) he hadn't read the sidebar/handbook and 2) he was cherrypicking the most meme-y, man-hate-y post content and saying "see y'all just bitter and entitled, and you want men to be so generous, guess FDS is just a bunch of awful women that don't inspire men to treat them well!" (this i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:42 PM
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why is it every time women try to create a safe space apart from men to get some breathing room from all the testosterone-fueled insanity, men see it as some sort of fuckin' cosplay invitation? Best part - guaranteed that some of the men focusing efforts pretending to be a woman on FDS have an actual woman in their lives whose time that they are actively neglecting by instead getting sucked into this scene. Fellas, worry more about the actual women in your lives. If this sub makes you uncomforta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:20 PM
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That's even funnier - a rare instance where the money is just handed to him, and he doesn't have to trade his precious time that he thinks is so important for it, and he STILL can't honor what you say is important to YOU on YOUR birthday. he thinks it's an opportunity to shame your out of what would make you feel loved. Then he thinks that you dumping him is another opportunity for him to shame you out of your values, just to hold onto the notion that he is RIGHT and you are WRONG, instead of ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:22 PM
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he doesn't understand that the expensive gift doesn't represent the two seconds spend clicking "buy" but the hours spend earning the money to pay for the gift. that time spent on her is more significant, because it would show even time spent apart and working is time "for" her birthday. time spent together and cooking a meal as her present is him trying to give a present that HE also gets. which is why his brain broke when confronted with the reality that he didn't do what she wanted - this was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:01 PM
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he made his execution of your birthday totally about his preferences and values. like your birthday wasn't about you, and he resented that you had preferences that differed from his preferences. so he just ignored yours completely. on your birthday. after literally two strikes of the exact same unacceptable behavior, clearly explained to him. AND the government handed him free money so he doesn't even have to work right now. LOL. I like how he thinks buying you a nice gift is lazy and unimportan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:58 PM
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Me too. It makes me sad that a lot of the hate this sub gets is exacerbated by the determination to turn this into some sort of man-bashing MGTOW analogue. it's totally unnecessary to the sub's stated goal/the sidebar (antithetical in fact!) to even give shitty men (or shitty women) attention. save the girl if you can, but then keep it moving. the more negative attention we give NVM, the more fodder they have to misrepresent the goal of the sub. This isn't a place to shit on men. this is a place…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:37 PM
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Right. what she is doing but with the genders reversed is literally what guys are now shrieking "simp!" over, and yet they are falling over themselves to praise her for she-simping. But yes. my point is that this text basically describes the qualities of a HVM. Most men do not rise to this level, so her praise is best reserved for the few that earn it, and the rest to aspire to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:33 PM
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I might get a weird flair for this (but check my comment history, i'm no pushover), but.... I like FDS BEACUSE a Good man IS AMAZING the way a good woman IS AMAZING. and we deserve to become great women, who in turn enjoy the company of great men, which means we can't have our schedule clogged up with crap. I don't disagree with this sentiment in the post so much as I disagree that the vast majority of dudes rise to the level of "men". same way a lot of gals fail to fully level up to being wonde…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:10 PM
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If that woman were a dog, the government would take her away from him if it found out she was being fed not-enough, often-expired food. She is helping him treat her worse than we are allowed to treat dogs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 06:26 PM
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her conduct in 4 reflects she is accommodating his poor behavior to the point of voluntarily shielding him from the consequences. she shouldn't have gotten past the first date or two given the problem, but once she was there, she really should have just made herself a plate and left HIM without enough food bc HE failed to order enough. "there's not enough for me, you took most" "Yeah I thought it was weird you got so little knowing it was for both of us. But you knew the place and knew I was als…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 04:04 PM
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This is exactly why "communicate more" is so often shitty advice that pretends the problem is the man doesn't know what the woman wants. this spells it out. they know. they just don't care because they know what women want isn't what the man wants. Someone even points out that there are women out there who are willing to have casual sex that's explicitly NSA. But the men don't want to limit themselves to the women they can fuck honestly - they want to sleep with women they KNOW don't want casual…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:25 AM
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Wanna know what makes me smile? If enough women (and the RIGHT women) realize some of the fundamental truths of FDS and decide to be less sexually available, then a man rage-quitting on a girl because "me wantee pussy easy" just resets Mr. Impatient's sex entitlement clock for the next girl, who ALSO won't give it up for some turd with no interest in actually investing in a relationship. If we all suddenly realized FDS worked, LVM would never get laid again! Read Lysistrata. Women are basically …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 06:42 PM
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Well, and to build on this reality - consider that since we live in a male-invented, male-dominated society where only recently have women truly had access to legally uncompromised autonomy, that male gaze, that "benefit men" energy permeates EVERYTHING in the mainstream dialogue - same as capitalism and for-profit interests bleed into everything from scientific research to politics to education. This means ALL dating advice for women, until very recently, has been forced thru a filter of "ok bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:30 PM
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The reason people see FDS as controversial is we have men, in a society invented by men and dominated by men, confronting the reality that women have juuuuust enough autonomy to be able to ask "but since I don't need any man, do I particularly want this man?" And the frank reality is - it's never been easier for a fully formed, grown, quality man to land a GREAT gal - because they've never stood out so well against medicority. and even better - no longer does a man have to provide entirely for a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:33 AM
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This is a great reminder. Invest in yourself, and assets. Do not dump money in to liabilities. Be a steward of both your money and your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:34 PM
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Also for him to say that after your dimmer switch comment gives off a lot of "you can't fire me I quit" energy...which is just a pathetic attempt to gain control over a situation where he has lost face. That is not how you take feedback graciously. byeee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:40 PM
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We met at a bar where we were both performers - and neither of us was drinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:03 PM
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He has a bad conscience about leaving her (they were broken up before once for 2 years, same story that he met someone else and broke up with her, but still shared the car). She straight up has a ROAD MAP for what is happening to her and she STILL lacks the self-esteem and clarity of mind to bail on this loser. Yikes. Also Very impressive with the "ask her a question and then act annoyed when she answers" chestnut. what a fuckwad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 09:46 PM
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I like how men are unapologetic about wanting a "hot" woman, when "hot" is a construct centered entirely around "makes my penis happy" and "other men approve"... They are just allowed to say "sorry not sorry i'm allowed to have a preference, attraction is important." sure fine yes. me too (they don't like woman being lookist tho - that's another rant for another day). Buuuuuut when it comes to those same men hearing a woman saying that financial stability - even wealth and financial prosperity -…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 06:39 PM
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"it's not our fault" THEY'RE YOUR POCKETS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 07:01 PM
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and this shit is EPIDEMIC during coronavirus. dudes trapped alone without prospects, remembering every girl that ever gave them attention and wondering if they would give him attention now. These people will dip back out of your life as soon as they're vaccinated and able to go back to whatever had them ignoring you before corona. men crave attention from women - they are using you to plug a hole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:57 PM
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The media teaches men in other countries what women in America are supposedly like. Male gaze. Male focus. Catered to a male perspective. Why is she blaming feminists for what the MEDIA and Hollywood do to women? Because the media teaches women in our very own country what feminism in America is like, and that is ALSO thru the male gaze/focus/perspective. She is blaming feminists because the media and Hollywood told her that feminists are endorsing everyone having casual sex, and that it's anti-…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:02 PM
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As soon as possible is already, or at least right now, unless you live together. just do it - faster you do it the faster you start getting away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 11:29 PM
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This. informing someone of a breakup is for relationships. if it's not a relationship, there is no breakup, there is only you realizing that it feels better to live a life in which you don't choose to interact with him, so that's what you do. there is no status change to inform him of. it was not a relationship, now it is still not a relationship!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 07:57 PM
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That was emotional porn for the man. "Dear Penthouse Forum, After I hastily blew my wad into her and intentionally neglected her out of a mixture of laziness and cowardice, I invited her to coffee; face-to-face, I could both fully appreciate how devastated she was not to have access to me, while also ensuring she didn't go FULLY crazy with despair over losing my Very Nice Cock and my Very Nice Personality - not to mention my Very Funny Jokes. I could have done this ages ago in a phone call, coul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:51 PM
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That word is actually very revealing about what society tells women about being "too emotional", and the general perception that women feeling negative feelings is "rude" of them. She was coerced into sex, emotionally manipulated by some chode who misrepresented himself to use her...instead of buying a prostitute and admitting that he's just trying to masturbate with a woman's body, Mr. Chode ALSO needs the emotional validation of a woman willingly giving it to him - he needs to have sex AND fee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:31 PM
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It makes me sad to see my mother even now is a total pickmeisha. she taught me nothing except that she thinks a woman has no value unless a man places that value on her. she is explicit and unapologetic that she would rather be with a trashy partner than no man at all. UGH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:42 AM
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I saw that and couldn't stop laughing. let's you know the brains at work in the whole operation LOLOLOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 02:03 AM
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LOL @ Fertility peak - most of the men spewing about youth don't want 6 kids (and couldn't afford 6 kids).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 11:13 PM
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The sad thing is, having a boyfriend/husband does validate your desirability per social norms. Sure. But I said being desired isn't itself the prize, that's cheap and abundant. I think the trick is to really internalize and KNOW that you are desiredable, but that a man desiring you doesn't automatically make him desirable himself. Does that make sense? it's like we skip over that step of "but do I want this?" because we place so much importance on validating that we are desirable. If we just tru…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 10:01 PM
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It really is true that men like younger women because it takes time to develop standards and boundaries and self-worth, and I suspect a lot of men realize that an equally appealing woman their own age wouldn't give him the time of day. It's not that younger = better (tho for some that might be the case). It's that younger = more able to get a girl before she realizes she can do WAY WAY better than you. I still remember being young and feeling like "having a boyfriend" was a status symbol that va…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 08:19 PM
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And nor did I expect to see someone with her head in the sand about what society "values" but this is a diverse space for women to discuss this, so it's good for folks to see differing opinions. I decline to sand down my edges for a woman any more so than I would a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 10:35 PM
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Honestly I look a lot younger than some of my classmates, the major determinants being they drank a lot of booze and i drink 4 bottles of wine a YEAR they did a lot of sunning/laying out when young I have never eaten a diet deficient in protein nor fat. Just sunning, drinking in excess, and smoking accumulate like WHOAH. I frankly do think it's about having a lot of money, when high quality nutrition, stress management, laser resurfacing treatments, tret, botox, top-tier hair and makeup, a lifet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 08:55 PM
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I think it's great wisdom tho for those of us who might fuck with 1-2 cosmetic procedures, but not really bother trying to "Freeze time" - women with smile lines and even some deep facial wrinkles who still have tits in the right place and nice neck/decolletage all get praised a TON for ageing gracefully. not all signs of ageing are created equal, and I appreciate the women in hollywood who still create SOME space for showing age, even if it's still a bit fibby about whether or not it's possible…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 08:05 PM
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I mean, i think we should all be ruthlessly aggressive about this discussion. discomfort about same is a big part of why men run roughshod over us. so nah. And i don't like being squishy with definitions. your "value", brutally speaking, like the value of anything else, is an externally defined measure of your worth as determined by the world outside yourself. you can place personal value on yourself. great! but self-esteem aside, your ability to have anything pleasant in this life is heavily de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 07:58 PM
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she is lying if she says she hasn't had work done. Also, it's STILL bullshit, because celebrities have access to insane maintenance options that many haven't, and have likely been using aggressive anti-ageing stuff since they were in their 20's. "I didn't have actual surgery" doesn't change whether or not Ms. Weaver's look is realistic (ok but she DID have a staff of dietitians, trainers, chefs, doctors, aestheticians, etc. She's likely been on the most expensive/effective anti-aging topicals, s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 05:46 PM
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And secondly, women's worth is not defined by whether they "age well" or not. Literally tell that to all of society. You can value yourself all you damn well please but please do not pretend that we are not all ageing women trapped in a sexist, ageist society. It shouldn't be that way. but it abso-fuckin-lutely is that way. Refusing to acknowledge reality doesn't make reality less brutal. c'mon. stop lying to yourself and by extension us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 05:38 PM
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This is a WONDERFUL counterexample when men whine that we all want a hot rich guy who is tall with a full head of hair. That's an attempt to misrepresent the meaning of HVM to undermine the whole FDS philosophy. Michael is a high value male because he radiates love for Amy, supports Amy, leaves Amy feeling secure in his love, and because Amy's life is unquestionably better because Mr. Michael Halterman is in it. It's not that he's wealthy. He's not a burden. he's a net positive. he brings so muc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 08:45 PM
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"Help! The men I am dating are of a poor quality" "Date worse men." I....what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:47 AM
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Let's add some extra shitty statisticts on top of yours: Men are more than 8 times more likely than women to have been incarcerated during their lives. tons of men who are physically/sexually abusive NEVER see a prison/jail cell. It's not illegal to be emotionally abusive. We start out as ~50% of the population. Men are removed from the "better choice" population if they have kids, are already married, cheat, abuse, have a criminal record that destroys their ability to earn money, are just too s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:34 AM
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YEP. And in general - what's the point of going thru all this "vetting" work if you're going to "un-vet" him in your head by writing a romantic work of short fiction in response to every red flag he is doing the courtesy of waving in your face? You're vetting - it's not a creative writing exercise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 09:43 AM
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I at first attributed this to social anxiety and tried to overlook it. Women are trained to do this - always try to give people the benefit of the doubt, don't assume, blah bah blah. You know how most men would have approached the converse situation? "she was weird bro. not fun. next!" (or else hold out for sex and then move on). They don't bother making up a good catch in their head and then making up an excusable reason why a good catch would do this weird thing. That's something women are tra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 08:31 AM
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Sure, but that's not telling heterosexual women to reject men and exercise political lesbianism (which is included in that term).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 10:53 PM
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You get a boyfriend who brushes his teeth by replacing your current boyfriend with someone who brushes his teeth. Current BF can have fun attracting a NEW GF with his stank breath (and he'll probably start brushing...until he's tricked the next one!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 10:53 PM
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It's so weird how "sexuality is a choice" exists at both ends of the political extremism spectrum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 10:11 PM
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The same men that shriek "not all men" are soooo quick to generalize men when it comes to traits that they WANT to pretend are universal, because it benefits their personal agenda. hmmmmmm I'll also note that in a society where there is MUTUAL CONSENT and women have at least theoretical autonomy, we BOTH gotta buy what the other is selling, so maybe homeboy should take his own medicine and ask if he's walking his talk (he isn't). The mating call of the LVM/NVM echoes across the Internet: "Why sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 09:55 PM
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I hate how self-care, self-love, self-respect, self-preservation, and self-prioritization is vilified in women, but Jeff Bezos is deeply respected for being so self-interested that "putting himself first" now resembles the GDP of a small nation. He's an example to all men, but a woman who loves herself and isn't shy about it is a stuck up B*tch? Nah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:18 PM
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If there's a second thing I know about Eastern European men, it's that his family is going to talk racist shit about her and he's not going to have her back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 08:16 AM
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"I want a woman with horrible taste!" Like why are you advertising that you know you suck and intend to keep sucking and just wait for a woman with bad judgment? you could just try to suck less!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:42 AM
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Men today: "Why should I pay for dinner?!" LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:36 AM
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The more I think about the "cat lady dying alone" stereotype, the more I realize that men NEED to perpetuate that stereotype, because THEY fear dying alone, and thus need US to fear dying alone to stay with them. Men are (rightfully) terrified of women realizing how much happiness we can find without men. Which is sad, because we would STILL be happier with a great guy ON TOP OF our excellence on our own. They just don't care to rise to that standard and enjoy a really flourishing life as two ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 01:31 AM
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I agree it's people pleasing. She feels the need for other people to approve of the standards she wants to apply in her personal romantic relationship. No. Men, if anything, are MORE ruthless as a result of external societal pressure. They are allowed to "reach for the stars" and shoot their shots, but women are conditioned to expect a man who doesn't meet our standards, and we're B*itches for even having standards/boundaries and enforcing same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 12:35 AM
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Do you see her attempt to defend herself? Notice that her comment in 1 completely moots her point in 2. She can see that she is totally justified to leave him for placing literally 0 value on her feelings on this and just demanding she "stop complaining" so dude can beat off juuuust right guilt free and not acknowledge her discomfort.... BUUUT she pre-undermined that point by saying "Yeah at the end of the day I WILL swallow it" and "we can move on" if he won't budge. GURL, he can SEE that weakn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 10:35 PM
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The fact that your ex weaponized his own failure as a partner as something YOU did to HIM is just...wow. It is so frustrating that society's training of women to doubt their own emotions and minimize their own hurt suppresses the appropriate response to shit like this (i assume you didn't laugh in his face, point out that him being trash is what made him feel like trash, and dump him on the spot. I assume you just accepted his narrative, "felt bad". and blamed yourself for feelings caused by his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:11 PM
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I actually like yours ("who? oh i dont know we haven't talked in a while") better than mine, but still suggest being honest about him being garbage with any woman who discloses she is seeing him or that he is pursuing her. I think women should protect each other and give each other the heads up, but i don't think it's anyone's business beyond that, and I agree that OP should give the answer that reflects that she doesn't think about him AT ALL and it's weird she's being asked about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:29 AM
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This is a good addition - decide how long it's appropriate to even entertain this social dance (again - "nice for what?" - in this case, only your personal grace and reputation is to be protected - fuck him.) He should already have your name out of his mouth. but the way that you signal he is trash should shift over time to reflect the reality that it's ALSO weird for him to STILL be making this a topic of discussion. Also, if people in your life are still talking about to you about this guy aft…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:27 AM
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My policy: Be HONEST with anyone you know is seeing him, or who discloses he's courting. This is a fundamental courtesy of protecting other women, and I think is more important than the general policy of not speaking ill of others. You wouldn't let that guideline stop you from, say, filing a police report. don't let it stop you now - warn girls. In broader polite conversation, I would say "we aren't friends any longer" and if pressed just say "I am not comfortable gossiping, it makes me feel tac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 10:37 PM
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FUCK the observation that rapists go on to commit subsequent felony-level crimes after the rape. FUCK this article for holding up like that's valuable information. NO. Do you know WHY that statistic is offensive? because this is an analysis of BACKLOGGED STALE rape kits! NO SHIT THEY ARE COMMITTING SUBSEQUENT CRIMES! YOU LITERALLY LET THEM GET AWAY WITH RAPE! There are men out there who tune out about this issue because they think "i'm not a woman and i'm not a rapist (and I stupidly assume my m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 06:54 PM
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Oh my god- yes! They love and respect each other. they have individual interests and passions. He loves his family, is a provider, only has eyes for her, would move heaven and earth for Morticia. I clicked this thread expecting the answer to be "literally none" but I love this answer!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 08:20 AM
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he's got his dick out right in that moment that she is scolding him - in this guy's head, she's staying in the room calling his dick a naughty boy while he continues to furiously masturbate, instead of her just LEAVING THE ROOM. The prize is our attention. OP is literally rewarding this behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 11:40 PM
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What did you say before he wrote "idk"? I know you felt good telling him off, but just so you know he likely got off to the scolding. Men who send dick pics are like men who catcall women on the street. their success rate has GOT to be 0%, so they must do it for some other reason - likely to see us get flustered/exert control by making us uncomfortable/get attention, even negative. look how he got 6 more messages out of you. he probably popped a weird chubby while groveling. he showed you his pe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 11:35 PM
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Real, honest question here. how does this advice resolve with a woman who likes playing video games but not in excess (i.e. it's not cutting into professional life/quality time/social life/romantic attention)? If a gal wants a fella who shares her interests, and her interests include video games (and she has a healthy relationship with same), what is she supposed to with this advice?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:42 PM
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And frankly, society tries to trick us into thinking the prize is "attention from the most men" because that encourages behavior that benefits men broadly the most. If you're navigating according to what's actually best for you, you only want to be VISIBLE to the highest quality partners - anything else is a waste.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 10:02 PM
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Even people living in the South likely don't get enough D in the Winter, because you need enough of your body exposed for long enough. Even if it's "sunny", most people aren't in a tank and short shorts for hours in the middle of the day. We are at work, in long sleeves, in pants, it's raining, etc. There's a reason our grandmothers were forced to take cod liver oil as kids - that is a natural vitamin D supplement that is vital to function in the Winter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:52 AM
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Mid 30's. it's better because I don't have to wonder if he's one of those men - because those men self-select away from me. it's sort of how a self-confident, self-assured average-looking woman is often more successful in finding romantic happiness than a hot chick with low-self-esteem. The trash takes itself out of the applicant pool. I don't want the most attention from men. You shouldn't either -that's not he prize. The price is one excellent partner. who cares if a bunch of turds don't want …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:23 AM
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ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:20 AM
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Valentine's Day is hard for single people. Pandemic was hard for single people, and it's been getting harder as it drags on. Winter is a hard time of year (make sure you're taking vitamin D if you aren't already - deficiencies make people feel even worse emotionally). I'm not saying this to invalidate how hard this time is, but hopefully to share that these feelings you have are EXTREMELY common. And you know what? You're allowed to have pickmeisha feelings so long as you a) don't act on them an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 08:33 PM
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I don't know why this post never showed up in the sub, nor why the mods never explained to me why it wouldn't. Bummer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:42 PM
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I just made a post about one of the formative times we start teaching girls this - sex ed. Another influence: in children's stories, the happy ending for girls is finding a husband/prince. the happy ending for boys is adventuring around, THEN becoming a big fuckin' deal, THEN getting a princess. Who are the older women without men in these stories? They are the dark sorceress, the crony, the evil queen, the stepmother, the overprotective bio mom. They are the women who are powerful without a man…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:59 PM
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A dick connected to a person who lacks the capacity to control himself and treat me well is LESS sexually enticing to me than a dildo, by a GIRTHY margin. I am very fortunate to have my sexual urges align well with my self-respect. Dick attached to a shitty man CANT be good dick, the man being in the room ruins the experience for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:20 PM
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This is such a knee-jerk human behavior that it's a well-advertised rule in that sub that too much refusal to accept the group's response just gets you banned. It's front and center - you're asking if you're being an asshole, you need to accept that the answer might be yes, otherwise you shouldn't be posting in the "AM I THE ASSHOLE" sub. she's being a dumb asshole, mostly to herself. WHY does she want to keep such a broken, frustrating man? so he can keep giving her experiences like this one an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 05:51 PM
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sooooooo cringey and obvious. that's such a weirdly unnatural statement to make by text message. I mean COME ON.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 05:41 PM
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UGH. look at all that effort she is spending trying to keep ahold of some trash. Look at her lashing out at people telling her to get some self control and objectivity. and LOL "they just slept together naked" and LOL her throwing anger at the other woman - both those girls have made themselves look foolish and crazy and WEAK and obsessed with a man who is somehow avoiding the majority of the fallout of HIS indiscretion and lack of self-control. And THIS is what we are told is preferable to bein…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 05:41 PM
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This is actually part of why I think a HVM will have some different interests (and can model healthy expectations regarding your time and same). I fell victim in my pickme days to thinking I should try to have the same taste as my BF, which is impossible and just means too much time is invested into the relationship before you find out he's a baby about expecting you to cup his balls while he watches golf, or just disappears during playoff season or some crap. Better for a man to display a healt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 02:17 AM
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Your entire "Separate but Together" section is super important, and I think a part of the process of vetting in the relationship. Having a BF/Husband does not oblige me to erase my personality and allow his preferences to dictate our time. I am my own person. If he selects activities that disregard my preferences entirely, the consequences will not be me willingly boring myself for the sake of being his accessory while he does whatever the fuck he wants - the consequences will be less of my pres…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 01:49 AM
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Also.....a woman's essense is not like garlic, it does not permeate one's saliva and breath after ingesting it LOL. OP is a newbie (as am I) so I wonder how much is trying to pad out a list/sound cool vs OP's authentic opinion. Some of these are BAD, some of these in combination are catch-22's and that's not the point of FDS - we are not here to trap men in a no-win maze of disapproval - we are here to understand how to avoid bothering with the majority of men, and to make sure that we only both…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:35 PM
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Many of these are good and useful. Some of these are frankly stupid or classist and thus a major turnoff for me (as someone already pointed out, hard-working people in MANY industries are out past midnight, and that includes adults with families and careers who make respectable amounts of money.) Fuck being a doctor or a nurse pulling overnight ICU shifts, right? Also please take note that many of these are "do other attractive women exist" which no shit they do - I do not think hyperfocusing on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:26 PM
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This article can be summarized as "men are literally 100% selfish, will dump you the second something better comes along, will dump you if they think they "deserve" more women, will dump you because you ate ice cream and now he's imagining you eating ice cream in excess and getting fat, will dump you if you have any standards at all about their behavior, will dump you if they like you a lot or not enough. Even if they love you "just right" they will still probably dump you." And it's true. unles…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:49 PM
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One extra layer of indignity on top of everything you mentioned: His housing costs don't really go up if you move in a meaningful amount - lighting up a room doesn't cost more if two people are in it, and he wasn't kicking out a paying tenant to make room for you. Presumably he was already paying at least most of the time for your dates, right? right? This isn't about "covering your expenses" because your presence wouldn't have been "Expensive". He saw your temporary financial hardship, that you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 09:44 AM
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I'm on reddit, looking at a post about an article on buzzfeed....that's about a post on reddit. LOL The TLDR: OLD is like 90%+ men spewing dick picks into the abyss, companies exist to make money, and, like a frog's ribbit, the human male's mating call is "Hey"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 10:17 PM
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Just like it's often other women who would seeks to tear down a woman for re-wearing clothes, isn't it typically other men who rip on and call men fags/douches for dressing expressively? seems like this is a case where groups are holding themselves back from accepting that dressing should be a matter personal preference and nothing else...
/r/MensRights18/11/17 05:27 PM
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Fun fact: that given definition of "white" isn't the one the US gov't uses, nor the one I use. It might be the one Hitler and the kkk used (it is), but why in the WORLD would you legitimize the interpretation of "hardcore racists"? White Hispanics are definitely a thing. ALL the census forms I pick out, allow me to identify both as white and hispanic. Race and ethnicity are mutually independent for US demographic purposes, and Hispanic is an ethnicity, not a race. Source: Who the fuck actually p…
/r/PussyPassDenied08/02/17 01:34 PM
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....what the fuck are you talking about? There's literally no man in this video to defend - unless you mean the cop. It's a woman and a shitty cop. You wanna complain about the lack of male victims in this video we are talking about, take it up with someone else. "Statistically speaking" you don't know what a confounding variable is and should not rely on statistics to prove your points since you don't understand how stupid you're sounding. This isn't a "woman are wonderful" effect moment. "stat…
/r/PussyPassDenied07/02/17 06:46 PM
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Absolutely he should, if it's self-defense. But that policeman violated his duty and broke the law using excessive force regardless of what the skin color or underwear contents of that handcuffed person are. Let me guess - you think any time a person defends a woman, it's because of her gender, and not because that shit if fucky no matter who it happens to. Right? There's way more unnecessary cop on male violence than cop on female violence. Except there isn't any in the linked video, which is w…
/r/PussyPassDenied07/02/17 06:29 PM
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I am a white-skinned Puerto Rican. If you look at PR demographics, the MAJORITY of Puerto Ricans are white. Nice cultural erasure she's got there - lots and lots of SJWs would tell me that i "don't count" as a Puerto Rican, all out of pure ignorance and "but you're not brown!!!!!!!"
/r/PussyPassDenied07/02/17 06:08 PM
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What if I told you that two wrongs don't make a right? This is not a pussy pass denial. This is police brutality.
/r/PussyPassDenied07/02/17 06:02 PM
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