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| 8 | Today marks the 32nd anniversary of the Polytechnique massacre in which 14 women were killed for being engineering students.Ugh, that's unfortunate and disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 04:29 AM |
| 28 | Today marks the 32nd anniversary of the Polytechnique massacre in which 14 women were killed for being engineering students.I watch and listen to true crime frequently, but I have not heard of this story. I would love to hear about it in a podcast type format. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 12:55 AM |
| 5 | This is what we've been told sex is - and it's pretty dehumanizing. This had actually stunted me massively as a woman now in my 30s and single. Right there with you sister. Hang in there. 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 12:19 AM |
| 129 | This is what we've been told sex is - and it's pretty dehumanizingThis has been my experience for the majority of my relationships even after trying to have multiple discussions and be the best girlfriend. It's honestly easier just being alone... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 12:50 AM |
| 10 | Amazing response by a woman who was prepositioned by an LVM to be his side pieceThank you for saying all that you said. It's beautiful. It rings so true for me because the worst and first abuser of my life was lowest of LVM, my father. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 10:15 PM |
| 24 | Share your experiences with violent homeless men. I'll start: he punched me in the face on public transport...I don't know if he was homeless, but he was very disheveled looking and mentally unstable. He was at least 15-20 years older than me at the time as well. I was reading my book when he came up to me to ask me about my day. There were other people around us and I was really into the book I was reading, so I didn't pay him any attention as I didn't realize he was speaking to me. He went from 0 to 100 before I had even fully processed what had happened. He was yelling at me and calling me racist bec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 02:52 AM |
| 32 | if a pacarana can lather his butt, pits, and balls then so can your bfGirl, samee | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 09:39 PM |
| 68 | Why are the comments saying this is cute?!Don't insult HP! Harry Potter had goals and aspirations. This man just has his game room broom closet and his pickme gf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 03:56 PM |
| 22 | Being a people pleaser is a major tenant of being a pickme. Men will only love the 50/50, sex supply, and maid service, not you as a person.Dealt with this realization pretty recently and it hurts. But it's important to put myself first instead of being in relationships where I'm not respected or appreciated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 09:40 PM |
| 1 | Broke up with my bfI recently had to do the same. Sucks, but I am looking forward to a future of putting myself first for good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 05:57 PM |
| 39 | Most of that is still happening today ...In addition, they can also be pretty selfish, which partially explains their need for power. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 05:14 PM |
| 39 | “But sex is only a small part of a relationship.”I escaped that fate very recently, though I know I have a long road to recovery and it's very freeing. I feel a little hopeful again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 03:56 AM |
| 11 | The amount of entitlement here, and he's seeking empathy from peopleThere is a special circle in hell for guys like this. The lack of empathy is sickening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 04:16 PM |
| 12 | Blocking is therapeutic.I've had to do this recently. It was amazing how much better how felt after a day, after a week, after a month, etc. My only regret was not doing it sooner! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 12:26 AM |
| 11 | Gets particularly spicy when you have screenshots or other material to prove what he did✨I have an admittedly horrible memory. Though I cannot remember specifics from conversations or situations sometimes, I often remember very well how it made me feel. After being gaslit my whole life by my abusive father, it's really shitty when exes have used my horrible memory against me, but what woman doesn't love having her experiences invalidated or trivialized by the person making things worse for her? /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 04:37 PM |
| 17 | When they lie about their ages on dating apps and think we won't notice 😂I encountered this frequently on OLD. It's definitely plausible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 04:29 AM |
| 19 | When they lie about their ages on dating apps and think we won't notice 😂I'm drunk and all these comments are killing me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 04:26 AM |
| 56 | Trust He SucksHe won’t change- not because you aren’t good enough, but because he isn’t good. Thank you for this! I went through a hard lesson relating to this not too long ago and I really could have used this, but I am still so glad to have found it. Your words are truth and thank you for sharing them. There's a reason we dump men at the first sign of him being inconsiderate. It's for our safety. I think there are plenty of other good reasons, too, but safety is certainly the priority. I also have no intere… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 01:56 AM |
| 8 | New faveToo relatable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 08:29 PM |
| 55 | 👇Same, sis. Being single is safer, though marriage sounds nice in an ideal world. But why take such chances when the risks are so great and the odds are so poor? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 12:58 AM |
| 2 | Too little too late. I know him but not his wife, and all I could do was shrug and say "you go sis". Hope he really learned that lesson. He earned this.Put that shit on a t-shirt and I'd wear it with pride. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 09:27 AM |
| 34 | Social conditioningHe's one of the good ones. Rare, but so very much appreciated for his wisdom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 02:26 AM |
| 14 | A forced “Yes” is not consentI'm sure there are many different analogies that you could use in this scenario, but the one I thought of was more specific to emotional manipulation as that is how an ex used to treat me. Instead of using physical violence, he'd just ask for a "smaller" sexual favor and frame it as easier and less involved. So instead of asking for the full $10, he'd be only asking for $5. So sick. Really hate having the memories creep up, but it's also good to see how far I've progress. Thanks for sharing the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 09:32 PM |
| 37 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋I love the energy of the photo. 💕Congratulations!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 09:10 PM |
| 10 | FDS isn’t about finding HVM. It’s about decentering men from our lives and centering ourselves instead.You don’t find HVM, you just get lucky. Ain't that the fucking truth. Thanks for your honesty! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 03:39 AM |
| 14 | Pew pew. And then you eventually get sick of it, question your up bringing, invest in a good vibrator and call it a day.GIRL, SAME! I'm rolling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 03:54 PM |
| 9 | If your partner does this, RUN in the opposite direction. This is abuse and a power play.I had a bf who did this. And he *still* wondered why I stopped running with him even after I told him I didn't appreciate being left in his dust when he was well aware how much I hate running. Thanks FDS for making me feel validated. Side note, the last paragraph as the word "these" linked to something. I wanna see the other warning signs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 12:31 AM |
| 13 | A tale about my elderly neighbor who embodies FDS.I needed this more than you know. Thank you, /u/JesusisKingisLord | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 04:17 AM |
| 27 | “don’t protect women, teach men how to behave!” 👏🏽 this brown queen is spitting FACTS! I wish more people in Desi culture adopted this mentalityI think it's Mother Nature being all like PREACH 👏 IT, 👏 SIS!👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 03:51 AM |
| 12 | Don’t let them baby trap you ladies. Very bad things can happen.You speak the absolute fucking truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 04:32 AM |
| 6 | I found a child porn sub and reported to the FBIAmazing work! The world is a much better place with people like you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 02:27 AM |
| 8 | So glad he is her exI'm sorry about your inbox, but I think you're right... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 04:07 AM |
| 40 | Why are women expected to change for men?All of the guys I have dated have not liked football, but they've all been addicted to video games. Feels like you can't win sometimes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 03:10 AM |
| 53 | "YoU CaN'T TeLL mE WhAT tO WeAR!!!"Slight difference. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 07:57 AM |
| 2 | Don't EVER buy the lie that gaming is a 'cheap hobby'I've only dated gamer LVM (I'm going to change that!). Not only is gaming not cheap, but it's also time consuming as many other posters have mentioned. In addition, I've heard it used as a good alternative to bad weather and/or when "there's nothing else to do." More BS. LVM have small minds. HVM are creative and think outside the box when it comes to things you can do. There are plenty of things to do indoors during cold weather if you are creative. Also if money is the issue or there truly is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 05:21 AM |
| 18 | Oh look another double bind for women. Damned if you do, damned if you don't 🤷♀️I also gave a nice guy a chance and he abused me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 03:02 AM |
| 2 | He went silent because he knows. They all know. Stop accepting their bullshit.I can see how a therapist from a different culture could be a jarring experience for something emotionally venerable as a therapy especially the way you perceived your former therapist. How are you supposed to feel comfortable/open up if the person who's supposed to be helping you has a cold affect (regardless of culture)? Thanks a lot for the book recs; all look good especially the last one. You've been so very helpful!! I can't thank you enough! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 11:55 PM |
| 2 | He went silent because he knows. They all know. Stop accepting their bullshit.Wow, thanks so much for a very detailed answer! Exactly what I was hoping to hear. Your story is very inspiring especially the part where you were able to help a friend. I know there's a lot of stigma against mental health and getting help for it, but I for one am glad that you were able to get the help you needed. I guess I would be considered being closer to the "normal people" category, but I, too, have had trauma in the past and bouts of depression. Lots of stuff I've tried unpacking in the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 11:57 PM |
| 5 | He went silent because he knows. They all know. Stop accepting their bullshit.I totally get that. I just wanted to hear someone's personal journey/story with therapy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 11:48 PM |
| 24 | He went silent because he knows. They all know. Stop accepting their bullshit.Unrelated question, but if you've been in therapy for 10 years, do you think you'll ever get to a point where you don't need it anymore? Has it been helpful overall? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 05:22 PM |
| 19 | Societal gaslighting about women and their “mood swings” when in reality men have mood swings way more often. Do not be silent about this any longer! Bring it up! Are they having erectile dysfunction mood swings? Is it porn induced? Request they see a mental health professional about this!In what universe? The patriarchy. It's bs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 12:02 AM |
| 10 | YesNVM at its finest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 02:38 AM |
| 3 | Lets throw FDS an all day Birthday Party when we reach 100k subscribersI've been feeling burnt out and this sounds like a lovely idea! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 10:42 PM |
| 15 | I don't argue with men. Not over anything, for any reason.I would love to have a strong willed friend like you in my life! I really like the minimalist approach as well, though I admit I could do better. You're inspirational. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 01:32 AM |
| 28 | Always be ready to leave. As soon as you feel yourself having the scarcity mindset, remember you’re a queen and deserve peace.The older I get, the more I realize how true this is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 03:31 PM |
| 7 | HVM, these are the kind of stories I love to seeThis is my dream now as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 03:58 PM |
| 20 | When men think your options will dwindle without their golden penisNasty rotten carrots. Definitely trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 10:31 PM |
| 16 | Question regarding a unique situationThis is the only answer. | /r/askFDS | 17/08/20 02:07 AM |
| 3 | Old pervs have no shame 🤮That reminds me when my sisters and I were 10-15, we were on the beach and some man wanted pictures of us. One of my sisters is conventionally very pretty, but I was always protective of my sister. I am the eldest and I had my gut telling me that this was wrong, even though I couldn't explain/understand why. I told him no, but he kept asking and I kept saying no, which is a lot for a timid 15 year old. He eventually went away without a picture and I watched him for bit, but I don't doubt that he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 07:58 PM |
| 2 | I've been considering dating men recently. Unfortunately, this is the 'best' response I've had so far, and it STILL contains red flags.Not too harsh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 07:43 PM |
| 10 | I've been considering dating men recently. Unfortunately, this is the 'best' response I've had so far, and it STILL contains red flags.In addition, the "learning" bit seems a bit off and strikes me as odd. What if you just want to to appreciate an SO's skills and don't want to learn how to do it? You're not obligated to learn something. Then to follow all of that up with a completely normal/appropriate question might have some women questioning their instincts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 07:43 PM |
| 5 | Sorry!!!! (Not) guy was so damn thirsty.dishes: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288 you should've asked/mental load: https://www.workingmother.com/this-comic-perfectly-explains-mental-load-working-mothers-bear#page-2 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 07:29 PM |
| 10 | Look at the edit, men are idiots 🙄Are the comments for 1-3 in his post history? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 05:10 PM |
| 42 | Look at the edit, men are idiots 🙄I like the way the Handbook is phrased (linked post is very detailed, too). It's not men vs. women, it's high-value vs. low-value. Although, this sub is women-exclusive for all the right reasons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 05:07 PM |
| 17 | Always about them 🙄🙄🙄I don't deny that there are men who are DV victims during quarantine, but this is her money, her time, her effort, and her history. Let her do what makes her happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 04:58 PM |
| 18 | When men pull up other men for their irresponsibility. Mod message to r/AskMen.Apparently because we have standards, we are hateful against people who don't align with how we'd like to be treated by our SOs??? Typing that doesn't make sense, but that's what I think goes through those kind of people's head about FDS. I'm just out here trying to hold the men I would be interested to the same standards that I hold myself to instead of settling for guys who get lazy and stop caring for me after the honeymoon period because I have no desire to stop caring for my partner after a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 04:54 PM |
| 9 | When men pull up other men for their irresponsibility. Mod message to r/AskMen.I don't think she's a closet FDS member. E: If you haven't noticed, we've been brigaided by some less than savory individuals. CoronavirusCirclejerk is completely expected and unsurprising. FemaleDatingStrategy though? Finding out y'all support this post is nearly as bad as finding out a racist white person thinks I'm "one of the good ones". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 04:43 PM |
| 18 | Can we send an FDS rescue squad for this woman?The best part about a vibrator is that it won't sexually abuse you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 06:26 PM |
| 27 | Can we send an FDS rescue squad for this woman?She needs to read this... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 06:25 PM |
| 34 | I see no liesSame, sis. A dog or cat is plenty because I can take care of either on my own. But taking care of kids on my own? No thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 12:28 AM |
| 18 | Imagine being so insecure you can’t event hold a conversationHe's definitely looking for a relationship... with a sugar momma. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 12:16 AM |
| 20 | The audacity is astronomical .. Can you say toxic?He sounds like a real asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 03:40 AM |
| 32 | The audacity is astronomical .. Can you say toxic?We're rooting for you! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 03:40 AM |
| 10 | Let’s talk about future fakingMy understanding of determining if a man is HV or not is simply summed up with "actions speak louder than words." It's a mantra to live by. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 06:49 PM |
| 17 | I’d rather be single forever. Who the heck would ever want this life?!Ugh being into “femdom” or “female led relationships” is the new way men now frame having the women do 100% of the emotional, sexual and financial work while framing it as “her leading.” Yes, it's perceived female dominance, but the perception is false. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 05:43 PM |
| 103 | If they want to impress you they will 👏Louder for the angry lurkers: Hvm behaviour is NOT dependent on money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 04:11 AM |
| 9 | The lie misogynists tell about female/male happinesI'm not entirely certain, maybe "mental (work) load"? It was over 10 years ago, but he described it to a T as did the research. There were at least 1-2 psychologists whose specialty was the study of male/female work/life balance and we studied their results and implications specifically, but I can't recall any names sadly. I will do some digging and I will PM any studies I can find. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 07:57 PM |
| 22 | The lie misogynists tell about female/male happinesA guy 20 years older than me recently told me he went on a date with someone "age appropriate" who was 15 years younger than him. Pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 03:04 PM |
| 72 | The lie misogynists tell about female/male happineswith porn and junk food lol I'd like to add video game addictions to the list. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 03:02 PM |
| 74 | The lie misogynists tell about female/male happinesI first learned about this at my university as I was a psychology major. In my psychology of happiness class, my male professor did a short unit on the differences in happiness between single/married men/women. We listened to and read about countless studies on how single women are the happiest group of adults because married women work full time jobs but are also stuck doing all the childcare and emotional labor (he used a different term for emotional labor, but essentially described EL as the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 02:58 PM |
| 37 | Wisdom of our elders...Dorothy is my role model. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 03:59 PM |
| 10 | Idk, thought this belonged hereSounds like a dream, but the median price for a home in my county is $545,000 and I'm just a teacher lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 03:02 AM |
| 13 | Flowers sent to my house even though he was seeing me later that day.Damn, that's a HVM power move if I ever saw one. I'm so excited for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 06:43 PM |
| 6 | Glad to be this man’s second choice. We went on a date back in October. This virus is bringing out the desperation in menI'm sorry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 03:13 AM |
| 32 | New Beginning. Starting over. Story.I love the vibe I get from your home. The meal looks delicious! Congrats! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 07:08 PM |
| 82 | Imagine going out of your way to play your own damn self like thisI really hope it's not a woman. This is many levels below a pickmeisha. So sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 07:03 PM |
| 8 | The Girl From Avril Lavigne’s “Sk8er Boi” Responds 18 Years LaterThis article may be satirical, but I cannot say this enough: self-worth should not be determined by external validation from others. was a line mentioned in the article and is 100% true. I thought you wonderful ladies might appreciate the reminder. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 06:59 PM |
| 7 | If a Guy Ever Tries to Shame You for Ghosting/Giving Excuses/Not Giving a Hard "No", send him this and TELL HIM TO FUCK OFF!I told my (male) friends, my (male) professor, and my (male) university student counseling hotline operator. They all dismissed me and made light of the situation. Some of them even told me to give him a chance and date him. Makes you wonder how many of these men would do/had done something similar to your stalker or knew someone who was a stalker and just wanted to excuse the behavior. Disgusting. I'm sorry nobody listened to you, but in a way I can see the silver lining. You learned to be self… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 06:45 PM |
| 6 | A sad realityThey were still N/LVM, but can you imagine being with a N/LVM that has horrible behavior in one or more area's and doesn't even add some of these things to your life? Feeling this one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 04:05 AM |
| 5 | A sad realityOn top of that, you bet your ass the women would be lugging half the shit to the location she had to pick out as well because "equality." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 04:03 AM |
| 11 | A sad realityI've told past partners that I don't like flowers (as a pickme/cool girl) when in reality, I actually do. I just don't need them all the time or for every special occasion. I also like the thought of being gifted a potted plant/flower/vegetable, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 04:02 AM |
| 11 | A sad realityI'd fucking pass out if a guy surprised me with this magical date. And guess what? It's not overly pricey or complicated. Just goes to show that a HVW wants some thoughtfulness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 03:59 AM |
| 7 | The true love languageInstant saved. It'll serve as reminder just in case I need it later. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 04:43 PM |
| 20 | Don't build a Man ladiesThis has happened to me at least once. Shitty, isn't it? Never again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 05:18 AM |
| 1 | HANDBOOK TO DOWNLOAD - Protect your knowledge.Thank you, queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 02:46 PM |
| 6 | IT'S HERE!! WE'VE LAUNCHED THEREALFEMALEDATINGSTRATEGY.COM WEBSITE! SIGN UP ASAP IN CASE WE'RE BANNED!Thank you for setting up a FDS website. I feel like a ban is inevitable at this point. I don't think I have any other subreddits that I'd actually follow onto a website like I would for FDS. This sub is sooo important to so many women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 02:29 PM |
| 9 | Giga Pickme gets fatass husband to lose weight by rewarding him with anal and blowjobs. Can’t make this shit up.Hopefully a divorce. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 10:44 PM |
| 3 | Facts 💅I read this and couldn't stop myself from 🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 02:40 AM |
| 8 | I feel proud that this kind of stuff is being spread more on tiktok and girls in the comments are saying they never want to talk to men again/have always felt uncomfy with this stuff but didn’t know why"Spam" us with the good ones, please! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 03:34 AM |
| 3 | Really felt for this woman. I just hope she keeps her standards high and knows her worth now.Some of my local sushi places are doing delivery and some aren't. The one I notice that is doing delivery is putting a lot more rice with their stuff instead of fish. It all makes me so sad. More economic relief for small business and sashimi for me, please! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 10:40 PM |
| 14 | Really felt for this woman. I just hope she keeps her standards high and knows her worth now.I hope to have the confidence to do this. Sounds like a lovely evening! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 05:50 PM |
| 4 | Really felt for this woman. I just hope she keeps her standards high and knows her worth now.Love your username! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 05:49 PM |
| 50 | I found one! HVM stays with and cares for girlfriend of 4 months after her spinal cord injury.The craziest part to me is how young he is (she is too, obviously). I feel like young HVM are less common than older ones. That's just my experience, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 02:56 AM |
| 16 | 8 years on a person like this? Girl, you better run now!Many of us were THAT girl. I had some asshole exes that would give me a hard time about wanting to give/receive sweet gestures like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 02:25 AM |
| 3 | And this is how you spot HV relationships: 💚🚦💯Thanks for the rec! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 07:04 PM |
| 11 | And this is how you spot HV relationships: 💚🚦💯Do you mind sharing where you learned to be more spiritual? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 03:01 PM |
| 24 | And this is how you spot HV relationships: 💚🚦💯I really love this. There's so much talk of red flags (and for a very good reason), but it's good to see what constitutes green flags. It's pretty easy for me to cling to the negative of things, so reminders of positive things are really helpful and healthy for me. Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 02:59 PM |
| 8 | Elon musk LVM tweeted “take the red pill” and Grimes mom called him out.$20k? Ffs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 03:25 PM |
| 28 | Elon musk LVM tweeted “take the red pill” and Grimes mom called him out.Incredibly eye opening comment, thanks for sharing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 03:09 PM |
| 8 | Scrotes can't see it any other wayI'm 100% sure it was a man who said that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 06:46 PM |
| 4 | I came across this “birthday card” my ex had written for me while I was deep cleaning my bedroom this morning. It was written with my lip liner. I still stayed with him for a year after this. You literally can’t make this shit up.What a fucking loser. Sorry you had to deal with that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 02:32 PM |
| 33 | I came across this “birthday card” my ex had written for me while I was deep cleaning my bedroom this morning. It was written with my lip liner. I still stayed with him for a year after this. You literally can’t make this shit up.What a fucking barbarian. Go find a pen. Lip liner is expensive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 02:31 PM |
| 69 | Scrotes can't see it any other wayI had a bf who didn't watch porn (which I mentioned in a thread) and was told by a redditor that he was lying about his porn use. Redditors always thinking they know better... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 02:10 PM |
| 78 | How many other NVM phrases can you think of ?I've never heard of this line, but I imagine it's akin to men bitching about women who are high maintenance and saying they prefer low maintenance women. I'd rather be a mature adult and communicate. I thought I was the "cool girl" by saying I don't need flowers, etc. on special occasions. Fuck that. I love flowers and the thought that goes behind gifts/actions in general even though receiving thoughtful gifts is rare in my experience (but boy do I dish out the thoughtful gifts!). I just need a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 01:58 PM |
| 12 | HVM trait - celebrating your interests, quirks and hobbies. Men who make fun of you or make you feel badly for these things do not deserve you (more details in the comments).I'm so over LVM who only have interest, or maybe even an expectation that their SO will celebrate their interests, hobbies, quirks, etc., but when it comes to celebrating the woman's passions, there's zero concern, unless the LVM are belittling the woman's passions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 05:44 PM |
| 8 | Words of wisdomI was originally thinking of saying "thoughtful", but I like the way you worded it better. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 01:18 PM |
| 10 | Words of wisdom"I'll know when I see one". I love that, thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 01:16 PM |
| 22 | Words of wisdomWhat if a man asks you what your type is? Should you respond vaguely or say something like, "I don't have a type?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 05:19 AM |
| 25 | Why waste your breath?I saved this comment so I can remind myself later why I set boundaries/standards in the first place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/20 09:49 PM |
| 51 | We have set the bar for men SO low"He called me mom. " My vagina sealed shut. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 12:51 AM |
| 22 | We have set the bar for men SO lowI dated a man like this too. Trash. He wanted to cook tuna steaks on his stupid new charcoal grill. I offered to cook them because I wanted mine strictly seared. I found a recipe to use. He wouldn't let me cook them and was mean about it. He overcooked them of course. Not even a little pink in the middle. Then had the audacity to berate for me for trying to help. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 12:49 AM |
| 33 | LVM DATING 101 🤡Hell yeah! 🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 04:55 AM |
| 76 | Mood when I found this subI've had some identical thoughts to FDS philosophy for years but to see so many other women say things I feel so strongly, right down to my core -- it's so validating. Thank you, Queens! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 04:53 AM |
| 12 | Our expectations aren’t unreasonableThe good die young... I'm so sorry for your loss. PS Love your username! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 05:12 PM |
| 4 | Don't settle for a guy who gives you worse back massages than the ones you give him.I'd never reject an offer for a book rec! Which ones do you suggest? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 04:43 AM |
| 8 | Don't settle for a guy who gives you worse back massages than the ones you give him.That's so gross. Both the men who look to receive from you or give you a massage. I'm glad you know your boundaries. You should save your "services" for a person who's actually worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 04:31 AM |
| 10 | Don't settle for a guy who gives you worse back massages than the ones you give him.I loved the way you framed that. I have to learn to be kinder to myself. I obviously want to hold myself to certain standards, but at the end of the day, I'm stuck with the same person and to beat myself up over the past isn't helpful for investing in my future. Thanks for your perspective. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 04:29 AM |
| 24 | Don't settle for a guy who gives you worse back massages than the ones you give him.The compassion I’ve received from my female friends has never been matched by any male. Also accurate for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 04:20 AM |
| 10 | Don't settle for a guy who gives you worse back massages than the ones you give him.Sounds like you have quite a few stories. Ugh, free massage jackasses. A whole new type of jackass to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 04:19 AM |
| 13 | Don't settle for a guy who gives you worse back massages than the ones you give him.This! It took me too damn long to realize this, but now I do, I'll never forget it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 04:18 AM |
| 18 | Don't settle for a guy who gives you worse back massages than the ones you give him.I promise to adhere to this mantra along with a similar one -- don't settle for a guy who can't give you an orgasm. I'm too damn old for all-around disappointment with physical touch and intimacy especially when I know I'm fantastic at giving in that department. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 04:16 AM |
| 123 | never ceases to amaze what men will demandAsking the important questions here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 03:49 PM |
| 12 | never ceases to amaze what men will demandIf I ever get married, I won't. It's an outdated tradition. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 03:49 PM |
| 44 | Hopefully after leveling up, we choose neither!I've only dated "nerds." Two of them were actually quite well-versed in something intellectual, but all of them have had video gaming addictions. As for the two intellectual nerds, they came off extremely r/ iamverysmart, which is the opposite of attractive. They could talk for hours about their interests, but showed little to no interest for any of my nerdy passions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 07:44 PM |
| 14 | ""WoKe""" dating advice from Male RedditorsWith the men with whom you made the first move with, was the breakup due to the fact you had to make the first move? I assume that by making the first move, you eventually found out that they weren't really committed/interested toward/in you as you were them. Correct me if I'm wrong! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 02:51 AM |
| 14 | “Don’t listen to what men say, watch what they do” - my mom, who passed away two weeks agoI wish I did too. My mom is a pickmeisha through and through and a complete enabler of abuse. I'm glad there are women like OP's mom to live by example. So sorry for your loss, OP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 04:24 PM |
| 132 | DON'T DATE SIGNIFICANTLY OLDER MEN.He compares women to toys... they're not even sentient beings to him because I'd wager he completely lacks empathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 09:17 PM |
| 2 | I absolutely love a woman that does not take sh*t from LVMsLow value male. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 06:28 PM |
| 6 | Reminder: LVM say anything to get what they want.I started going through her Twitter and I also found this banger from another LVM. https://twitter.com/Clairejs4/status/1243403368736763904/photo/1 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 04:15 PM |
| 29 | Reminder: LVM say anything to get what they want.As someone who was abused for years, I can tell this guy really doesn't get it that nobody is attracted to your victim complex (unless they're an abuser themselves). The only way to get over trauma is therapy, finding something that makes life worth living, and to stop living in the past. Nudes will not help you heal. Goddamn LV fuckbois. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 03:57 PM |
| 25 | This is why I'm taking time to reevaluate my standards. In the past I've felt like I clung to the first guy that showed interest in me and it always went down hill the moment I asked anything of them.Me too! I like having standards and solidarity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 03:04 AM |
| 42 | This is why I'm taking time to reevaluate my standards. In the past I've felt like I clung to the first guy that showed interest in me and it always went down hill the moment I asked anything of them.These men enjoy the social status of being married, a family man, having kids they can talk about, having a wife to cook and clean and have sex with but they don’t LIKE their wife. That's so sad. And pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 03:02 AM |
| 25 | This is why I'm taking time to reevaluate my standards. In the past I've felt like I clung to the first guy that showed interest in me and it always went down hill the moment I asked anything of them.I need to drop a "are you me?" comment because damn, that's me to a T. Here's to finding better men, for the both of us. And hell, if we can't find better men, then let's just be single because that's way better than being miserable and settling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 03:01 AM |
| 5 | My ex sent me an apology emailI'm three lines into his apology and honestly, fuck him. Apology letters like that make the sender even more selfish especially in this situation. The letter is to absolve himself of guilt and in no way serves as an actual apology. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 03:07 AM |
| 12 | My ex sent me an apology emailBullet, you've been DODGED. It's such a good pseudo name, given the situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 03:04 AM |
| 11 | Don't do it, ladiesLmao I was gonna say, I don't really like taking dating advice from a man... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 10:00 PM |
| 42 | Had to make thisI had an LVM ex who started balding at 21. The balding honestly wasn't the worst thing about him, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 09:46 PM |
| 6 | Something else to watch out for regarding LVMI feel like often times, the process of gaining wisdom comes from a dark, miserable, lonely place, unfortunately. I think that's kind of where the saying "learning the hard way" comes from. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 11:29 PM |
| 17 | Something else to watch out for regarding LVMYou're one hell of a woman. I'm so so sorry for all that you've been through, but I really appreciate you sharing your wisdom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 11:12 PM |
| 8 | Don’t internalize men disrespecting you as an indication of your worth!I was kind of thinking the same thing, but I feel like there is room for some exceptions with these sorts of things. I'd understand why and accept if this particular quote made someone feel like they're being reduced to an object. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 09:32 PM |
| 3 | Another reason not to date older menIt's okay. Mistakes are part of life. At least you know you won't make that mistake ever again. You deserve better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 03:16 PM |
| 3 | Another reason not to date older menMy mom is a horrible role model when it comes to just about anything. My father was abusive and she could never completely leave him even when I was old enough to tell her she deserved better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 03:13 PM |
| 4 | They think they're HVMs just because their predecessors set the bar so low it's melting in earth's coreI've got three millennial male stories myself. It's a start. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 03:04 PM |
| 55 | 🤡🤡🤡omfg why is this so relatable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 01:11 AM |
| 3 | I’m a Pickmeisha learning how to become a HVW and I just remembered one of the worst PickMe things I ever did. Come cringe with me!My dad was a narc and my mom is an enabler. You're not alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 04:26 AM |
| 5 | LVM are whiners“I bottom out in a Pringle’s can” That's one of the unsexiest things I've ever heard. Disappointing, yes, but also horrifying. I don't want any man that big! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 02:26 AM |
| 2 | LVM are whinersJfc, that's rich. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 02:19 AM |
| 8 | It's over.I'm very new to FDS, but can a man be considered high value if he isn't ready to commit? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 04:39 AM |
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