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| 23 | I love it when these men reveal themselves right away;Health issues lol good bye | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/22 03:08 PM |
| 151 | The Bar Is In Hell. The Audacity Is Sky High. I'm Scared For My Generation.Pretty sure the generation before ours (or yours) felt the same way. I wouldnt be too stressed about it, pick mes gonna pick me, and they’ll learn. You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make them drink🤷♀️ I like being around like minded women so I don’t feel stressed or feel like I’m not the normal one. And I don’t argue with women either, y’all want trash?? Great have fun. I don’t like it and will never be convinced otherwise | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/22 08:51 PM |
| 30 | Incels and the Great Fakecel RealizationGirl!! Dropping gems right here 🤌🤌🤌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/22 06:38 PM |
| 49 | Incels and the Great Fakecel RealizationDealing with m3n who push the “dream girl” on you is really traumatic. For me, first I was idolized because I am very different from the people I grew up with, from my schooling and how far I’ve gone in my life. But as I became “real” to my ex, he then began to hate those very things that made me stand out. And he hated that he could not bend me to his will, no matter how hard he tried. But I was close. Thankfully I began to realize that I was not being myself and I didn’t like the version he wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/22 06:37 PM |
| 316 | “If Beyoncé can get cheated on, then there’s no hope for us” is a cope, not the standard.Rihanna knew the type of person ASAP was. Beyoncé also knew about JayZ, as JayZ rapped about her reluctance to date him in “Excuse me Miss”. we, too, have dated scum and saw the red flags and ignored it. This isn’t a lesson on the pretty woman getting played. It’s a lesson on a woman thinking she’s different with LVM. once you get past the fact that you will never be different to a LVM, then life opens up. You learn to turn your eye away from trash, no matter how prettily it’s packaged, and vibr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 11:52 PM |
| 2 | What options are there for kicking out a LVM who refuses to leave?Take the kids?? If that happens you call the police. Years ago, my sister was cohabitating with her child’s father and foolishly thought she could take her child and move out. He called the cops on her and she was nearly arrested for kidnapping. There was no court arrangement in place. I hope OP gets everything worked out, but it took years to finalize my custody. 3 years, to be exact. So she needs to get him out first and if he kidnaps the children he is facing charges. I would have went crazy … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 11:28 PM |
| 22 | What options are there for kicking out a LVM who refuses to leave?You can go to a court and speak to a pro se lawyer about eviction. They will give you the paperwork to start the process. They don’t charge in my state but you can check. I wouldn’t file for custody just yet. Just get him out and then move to the next step. Basically you can fill out the paperwork get it reviewed and signed by the county clerk and then you start the next moves. Dont worry about how eviction will affect him. You can first start by sending him a 60 day certified letter that he is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 11:31 PM |
| 115 | Rihanna & Her Pregnancy AnnouncementShe gonna learn the hard way. 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 07:18 PM |
| 338 | Rihanna & Her Pregnancy AnnouncementYeah, I agree. It’s sad. She’s successful though, so her child won’t lack for anything. But honestly I’m surprised they’re even together bc he seems so childish and hates on women constantly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 05:35 PM |
| 48 | The absolute bare minimum, and an automatic dealbreaker. NEVER, no matter the circumstance. Do not ever let a man think that it is justifiable to try to physically intimidate you. There exists not a single excuse for violent behaviour. It will always escalate.These actions are absolutely meant to intimidate you and bully you into submission. But, it’s sort of like, you don’t really understand what’s going on in the moment? You’ve seen them act in a completely different way and you have to force yourself to realize that everything up to that point was fake and was not the real him my ex was super aggressive and controlling but it never really hit until he was driving wildly, screaming and punching his phone because I had refused to speak with him for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 03:52 PM |
| 38 | Man wants to bring his young daughter on a first dateGross. I remember I would visit my dad after my parents divorced and would meet a new woman every single time I went. One time a woman was particularly enthralled with my dad and had her daughter calling him dad. Next visit, new woman. If a man wanted to bring his daughter on a first date, I’d probably just block. The only exception I’m making is for men I’ve known for 20 years (since high school) I’ve pretty much seen their children grow up on social media, I feel invested lol. But they ain’t m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 05:04 PM |
| 50 | A cautionary tale on why you shouldn't settle for less. Break up at the first sign.Even at my lowest point of finances, I saved a bit each month and would travel home for the holidays. This man is saving money bc she moved in and is covering a lot of expenses. Even saving 15 a month adds up to 180. Honestly I don’t think she’s the asshole but she isn’t smart. They are grown, he should be able to afford this and she should be with someone that suits her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 10:04 PM |
| 5 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 45 - Lundy Bancroft Takes The Queens Inside The Minds of Angry & Controlling Men (Part 1)Holy crap you got Lundy?!?? That’s amazing. I read and reread his book so many times after I broke it off with my abusive ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 02:40 PM |
| 124 | Giving up sex with men has been the best thing everYep, it’s def a MOOD. I also find it easier to sift thru men, bc I don’t have sex with them. I told myself, I’ll give up sex for riches, and I really feel like it’s worked out. I feel like Samson sometimes, should I have sex and possibly lose my riches? The stakes are much higher this time around lol. Now I know once I do have sex, my riches won’t be lost, but I enjoy strategizing on if it’s worth it to have sex or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 12:13 AM |
| 180 | What’s with men not giving a damn about birth controlSome men don’t care. Don’t care about kids and def don’t care about you. They just want sex. Then they get mad that they have to pay child support. That’s why, way back when, even a man kissing a woman meant he had to marry her. Bc men had to held accountable. Nowadays tho? Hmm. One time a guy paid for a hotel for us , picked me up, we went and he didn’t have a condom so I refused. He got angry but my logic is, you paid for all this and didn’t get protection? He was still obsessed afterwards eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 06:12 PM |
| 20 | A breakdown of Jason Mamoa's red flags now that he and Lisa Bonet announced their divorceYep, I’ve always thought he seemed super immature and Bonet just dealt with it. But I don’t believe they had an open marriage, I think he cheated and she never said anything, allowing people to speculate whatever they wanted. She prob was gaslit as well, I remember mine would tell me it was for press or they were a fan, and it was all b.s., he was just cheating. I agree with so much here….dating actors, the money really can flow when all’s well, but there are many periods when money is stagnant.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 05:42 PM |
| 67 | Stupid rant about Kim & KanyeYep, my ex cheated when I was in grad school. He felt like I cared too much about my future instead of his. It always was his career first, until it wasn’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 10:01 PM |
| -7 | No one seems to be asking where he got this STD?? And she gets frequent UTIs because of him 🤢🤮All you have to do is tell your partner to include it in the testing lol. This isn’t new information to me, but maybe it is to you? I grew up in the 90s, doctors have always told me about what to test for, look for and what to ask for. If your doctor isn’t doing this you should get a new one. What I’ve been doing works since I’ve never been burned. I always make them test in the beginning but sometimes I make my partner test multiple times even in the relationship. Never had a problem either way… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 12:40 AM |
| 82 | No one seems to be asking where he got this STD?? And she gets frequent UTIs because of him 🤢🤮I personally don’t care if the std is common, I’m not willing to risk myself and get it. And I agree, I like my partner to be tested in the beginning so if it’s a while in and you have an std, you’re def getting dumped. And that’s that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 03:38 PM |
| 37 | Men will marry women who they don‘t love, find attractive or even hate. How does one even vet for this?Sometimes they are narcs themselves. But often the man will tell the side piece that their partner has cheated, refuses to leave, lazy etc, so the side piece “sympathizes” and tried to force the partner out. They are pick mes in the lowest form. Also, if the man does leave and go with the side piece, she will pay the price when they cannot torture the former partner anymore (perhaps she ends up blocking them or never responds) the side piece part is done, but she will suffer more abuse bc the ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 12:05 AM |
| 7 | Men will marry women who they don‘t love, find attractive or even hate. How does one even vet for this?Such an informative post. Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 12:01 AM |
| 41 | Men will marry women who they don‘t love, find attractive or even hate. How does one even vet for this?Most of the time narcs give red flags, even at the beginning. They’re not super clever, they just catch you at an importune moment. That’s why you have to really, really love yourself first, always. That way when the first red flag pops up, you just dip out instead of negotiating with yourself (“he’s so nice,” “he’s never acted like this,” etc etc). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 11:57 PM |
| 48 | Men will marry women who they don‘t love, find attractive or even hate. How does one even vet for this?You vet by matching energy, always. Your relationship can end at any time and you should be prepared to walk at any time. When a man starts spending time with an unattached woman and gaslights you, it’s over. Walk. When a man starts taking you for granted, walk. And so on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 05:21 PM |
| 79 | How often do you go on a date?My friend went on a date with a guy and invited me lol. We all hung out, went to an exhibit (I paid for myself for the exhibit). He seemed nice for my friend. He drives an expensive car. But when the bill came he wanted to split it three ways. I don’t mind paying for myself but I’m not going to continue hanging out lol. He wanted to go to a club after but I told my friend I was punching out ….and she should too, since he made her pay. It was just weird, him nickel and diming (it was like 30 each… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 01:44 AM |
| 1 | When he says “You will never do better than me.”Just want to update that it’s now at 7 years. Time does fly ☺️☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 03:40 AM |
| 8 | LVM/NVM Child Predators Grooming Young Teens For Nudes in the Guise of “Sex Positivity” - Mom Says She Tried To Prevent Daughters From Falling Victim To Online Predators, But They Were Still GroomedI have children, they’re 10, they don’t have cell phones yet but they have tablets and many, many search engines are blocked. Many sites are blocked. I get an email when they try to download something and I have to approve it. They each have a desktop and it’s in the living room only and they aren’t allowed to play with their tablets in their room. At night all tablets go into my room. some might think this is a lot but I have to do this bc I caught one child looking at porn like a year ago? I w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 04:03 PM |
| 37 | Have you ever been depressed about being single? How did you get out of that state of mind?No girl. With a relationship, nothing is worse than a man who is actively against you and wishes to have nothing to do with you or the children he helped to conceive. It’s even worse when the pregnancy is planned. After it ends, depression and trying to raise children is so difficult. You don’t want to ruin their lives and you’re stuck playing the role of your life while miserable. And there aren’t any oscars being given out. you’re better off just having children via a donor. No one to fight yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 01:02 AM |
| 7 | Would you date someone divorced/ have kids?I think it’s pretty honest and not selfish at all. I’ve dated a man with a child, and it did seem strange at first, mostly because of them lol. The mother instantly determined that I was trying to take over her role (which is absurd) and the father seemed like he wanted that as well. I loved the child, just like I love my children. But it’s important to me that I get along with the mother. It’s natural for me to want this, because that’s how it is in my family. Later I realized my boyfriend was … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 06:37 PM |
| 5 | Would you date someone divorced/ have kids?Yes, why not? I don’t consider it a red flag, lol I’m divorced with kids. Regardless of any situation, people just have to be vetted. And my interests change over time. For example, when I was childless, I never dated men with children. I will do it now, but I have caveats: not too young, not too many, not multiple mothers floating around lol…. I mean I also wouldn’t want to date a divorced man who divorced because of domestic violence. So either way I just see what their story is. But I don’t i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 09:19 PM |
| 3 | I have no wordsAs a person with extremely long, super curly hair, that towel and any products I use are so important! Esp for my well being. I hate when my hair looks messed up and even if you put the same effort into your hair, it can end up looking very different. I hate that the guy removed the towel! I would be livid! I just hate when people try to act like they can do whatever they want to me. He’s dumb as hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 11:12 PM |
| 48 | Do you think most of us were very naive when we were younger?Lol the first thing I saw - militant FDS? Sheesh we’re just trying to pick high quality guys and better our lives. We’re not hurting people and we’re not harming men lol. I agree that FDS is about falling into feminity but also being a woman of the current times. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:38 PM |
| 21 | Piggybacking off of the not clapping back at men who neg you post. What are some examples of negging that men have done to you?I have a few- once I put a dusting (literally can’t even call it an application) of makeup and my ex called me a clown face. said I was ghetto (I always lived in the suburbs, while he lived in the city, but okayyy) always laughed whenever my accent came out (I’m from a little town in Cali, and it’s very small and we locals speak a certain way) my other ex called me ugly once once I fell asleep and didn’t call him he also would scrutinize my face as if he was looking for imperfections. I’m pretty… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 12:40 PM |
| 16 | What are the red flags that it’s emotional abuse?One thing you don’t need to do is try to understand or justify the reason for his abuse. Many people have had trash childhoods, been abused, literally have to fight for every small success because people are just against them and they still don’t abuse. It’s a choice. also if he cannot reconcile his religion and his place in this world, he needs therapy. You cannot help him. No matter what you think, you cannot help and cannot save someone who doesn’t want to be saved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 01:53 PM |
| 14 | Share your experiences with violent homeless men. I'll start: he punched me in the face on public transport...Yes, it’s really bad, particularly in New York City. I’ve been saving and saving but I’m not quite there yet. And now that I can’t do remote anymore I’m even tempted to leave my job, but my student loans are attached to public service so I’m stuck for a bit. We have a new mayor that is a former cop, so hopefully he will focus on city safety | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 01:05 PM |
| 12 | Share your experiences with violent homeless men. I'll start: he punched me in the face on public transport...I appreciate the advice, but I can’t attack someone, esp when I’m with my kids. I’m in nyc, I have no idea whom I’m dealing with. I don’t touch people, ever. I have to be vigilant and when I see a possible threat, turn the opposite way or run into a store. Even self defense can have consequences. And at the end of the day, I’m never trying to fight a man so there’s that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 12:52 PM |
| 9 | I have to wonder what kind of vibes I'm putting out these daysOh I don’t think 40 is “old” per se, but another poster had requested insights from the 40+ crowd. My children are literally 10, so I don’t feel old at all. But I also don’t feel as young as mid or late twenties. It’s interesting though, I worked hard in my thirties and am enjoying my career right now….well, until I shake it up again lol. Idk, I always tell my friends you can have a new life every 20 years, so I can’t wait for the 60 year vibe, the 80 year vibe and the 100 year vibe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 12:14 AM |
| 199 | Share your experiences with violent homeless men. I'll start: he punched me in the face on public transport...It’s gotten so bad where I live. When I was remotely working, I had to arrange for my ex husband to escort me and my daughter around because they were everywhere and super aggressive. Now that I have to go back into work, I have to be in a high vigilant state, on the subway and walking to and from work/ getting my daughters. I don’t go outside if I don’t have to. This is why I will be leaving the city soon, because it’s gotten out of hand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 12:09 AM |
| 1 | In most cases, it is a bad, bad idea to buy a house, especially your childhood home, with a bf, not a husband 🚩10 years together, no ring 🚩he makes > $100k, she $60k, but planning to split mortgage 50/50 🚩house is barely affordable even with their combined income. Ways this can go south in 3…2…1I would never risk this. Either I’m getting the house by myself or my parents can sell it. Period | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 08:12 PM |
| 7 | I have to wonder what kind of vibes I'm putting out these daysI’m 40. I think being youthful can be a mindset after a certain age but who knows? I lift weights and take collagen supplements. I also spend a lil more on my face treatments. I look a lot younger as a result, but I think the weight lifting has had the biggest impact. I look more toned and don’t shuffle about lol. I’m loving life so that’s the vibes I’m giving out. I get approached quite a bit and I appreciate a good date but I don’t stake my life on them. if you have to question your vibes, it … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 08:08 PM |
| 10 | What communication between dates an FDS lady would expect ?In the beginning, I certainly don’t expect communication every single day, but I also don’t think a full week should go by either. When I’m not exclusive with someone, I just keep it light. And I’m def not trying to attach myself to him. Once things start to get more serious, (meaning he has become more active in the relationship)I actually find myself still acting the same…because nothing has changed in my mind. if a certain amount of time has passed and he hasn’t asked me for exclusivity then … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/21 01:39 PM |
| 7 | This post will probably be removed.Exactly! Yes yes and yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 03:34 PM |
| 94 | This post will probably be removed.I think it’s important to show these red pill posts because many women, especially who are new to FDS, are aware something isn’t right, but can’t put their finger on it. When we break down the imbedded issues with red pill posts, we allow women to view the content and discussion quietly without having to expose themselves or their past pick me behavior. The more detailed posts model the appropriate behavior to have. it’s easy to be exasperated at the barrage of posts that come in that show the b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 12:46 PM |
| 11 | So, how’s it going these days now that you have to make women like you to get their interest? Men:In the 90s, growing up on the west coast, “saucy” meant you looked good, effortless…. “Damn girl, you looking saucy with that car, money and clothing” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 12:44 PM |
| 147 | Sis needs helpI remember when my ex started dating someone ten years younger, he was 39 and she was 29. And we were so different, she was very thin, white and a partier; I’m a curvy Latina, and I’m more focused on money lol. I’ll admit it crossed my mind that she was younger and childless and that probably appealed to my ex. but I also remember how much I did for my ex and how exhausting he was. I was really nice to him and he abused me terribly. So, I just feel sorry for her and anyone he sucks in. they’ll t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 06:29 PM |
| 132 | I'm sppeechlessAnd they will look at it, regardless if they are in a relationship or not. One ex proudly told me he kept our recordings and constantly watched them. You would have never guessed he did this by the way he lovebombed his current girlfriend on social media. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 11:43 PM |
| 9 | Do not underestimate male entitlement and their capacity for retroactive jealousy.Oh I know. I just jumped into my next line of thought, which is to state that even if a infection is curable , most people don’t want it. also. Regarding the vaccine, it’s covered for a certain age. I’m older and when I tried to get it, it cost 200 dollars, with insurance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 10:53 PM |
| 113 | Do not underestimate male entitlement and their capacity for retroactive jealousy.I had seen this post in the original sub and someone responded that HPV wasn’t a big deal. I was tempted to write that it’s perfectly normal to not want an infection, even if it’s curable. Like, who wants a virus? Who wants even a cold or a fever, let alone to be rendered sterile from an sti??? Please. Please. In the end, I was silent and comforted myself - because if a dude gives me a hard time about a condom, he can go kick rocks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 10:56 PM |
| 2 | What happens when a forever girlfriend finally gets married.Well, yes…but in my case it was because that’s what the ex promised. He would be everything I ever wanted because we had “elevated” into marriage. But he didn’t change. And then it became uncomfortable for me, having legally committed to a lvm. So I noped out as soon as I was legally able to- which is six months after marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 02:21 AM |
| 30 | What happens when a forever girlfriend finally gets married.Was with my ex for about 15 years…got married and then I filed for divorced after 6 months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 10:28 PM |
| 8 | 122k likes on reddit 🤮I am not doing this PERIOD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 04:30 PM |
| 87 | Be careful out there with these hobosexuals‘Twas my life for many years…still had to use my entire weekend to do laundry and grocery shopping because he didn’t want to move his car during the week. He did cook but it was never enough for me. I divorced though so I don’t focus too much on it anymore | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 04:21 PM |
| 46 | Be careful out there with these hobosexualsLots of women want extra cash so it’s better. Many women are overwhelmed so they try to justify a man who stays at home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 04:18 PM |
| 221 | Be careful out there with these hobosexualsI feel like they lack in cleaning skills and aren’t qualified to be stay at home anyway. What they’ll do is work out all day, cook some basic food and text all their other women all day. Better off paying a woman to do the job, don’t give jobs to men lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 03:17 PM |
| 30 | UPDATE: Finally visited the city after breaking off my situationshipNice! I remember when I visited the city my ex lived after I dumped him. It’s very much a vacation destination and it made me sad to think that I could no longer go there in fear of running into him. he actually liked several of my posts while I was out there🙄 (this was before he blocked me lol) but never reached out , thank goodness. in the end I reclaimed the city as mine again and I’m glad I did. Kudos to you for not living in fear!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 02:05 PM |
| 215 | Really worried about the Gabby Petito situation… ladies, please be careful out there.This is the NUMBER ONE reason why we should never bother to train/tell/help men learn to treat us; and instead focus on helping women learn about FDS. I’ve spoken to many women about FDS and one of the first things that they must learn is not to accept bad behavior OR EXPLAIN it in behalf of men. It’s really key in their healing. I haven’t told a man how to treat me in years, if he doesn’t act right, I just move on. No explanation-for what?- so he can run game on the next woman? Nah, not me. Edi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 02:05 PM |
| 12 | All Women Should Watch This: How a LV, Violent Scrote Can Gaslight People (and You) into Believing He's the VictimExactly. The physical abuse seemed pretty clear cut. It was the emotional abuse. I just couldn’t understand it, and sometimes on really bad days, my mind wants to cycle through it all again. My mind wants to know why. My mind wants to know what I could have done differently. It is an effort to not go down that rabbit hole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 05:37 PM |
| 25 | “Coersion isn’t Consent”Misrepresentation, or better yet, FRAUD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 10:33 AM |
| 18 | "If He Wanted to, He Would" The B Side DiscussionYep. Narcs are masters at lovebombing and getting you attached. I also left my narc ex and he found another woman right away and I remember watching their posts with horror (smh) because his movements with her were almost exactly like his movements with me. Eventually I stopped watching, but I remember during that time, I felt like he maybe had changed…for her, and I wasn’t worth changing over. but was I really happy? Well, there was a lot of drama, he was controlling and possessive and just mea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 06:26 PM |
| 120 | All Women Should Watch This: How a LV, Violent Scrote Can Gaslight People (and You) into Believing He's the VictimI’ll never forget when my boss, who is a woman, asked me to explain an incident that occurred between myself and another coworker. I was so upset by it and was explaining it and out of nowhere she says “well you seem to have an attitude now, so you probably had one then.” I was so taken aback and I remembered I paused, and thought “you know what? Eff her. I will not continue this.” So I changed my tactic and basically became indifferent. I basically yes’d her to death and have felt nothing towar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 05:21 PM |
| 123 | All Women Should Watch This: How a LV, Violent Scrote Can Gaslight People (and You) into Believing He's the VictimI never really understood the dynamics of an abusive relationship until I was in one and escaped. It changes you on a cellular level and it took many months to not be triggered by things. I wish there was more teachings about the topic because everything I learned afterwards really saved me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 05:16 PM |
| 37 | Why are the comments saying this is cute?!Yeah that part. And then he has the nerve to say it wasn’t by choice?! Sheesh y’all. That’s a whole closet for clothes or accessories. Living in nyc, I’m super triggered 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 04:17 PM |
| 11 | No lies told.Wow. Perfectly said. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 01:56 PM |
| 157 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑Incel men and fuckbois do this all the time, in an attempt to increase their desirability. However in this day and age, if you don’t communicate quickly, most people just block or ghost and move on right away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 07:49 PM |
| 688 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑Haha, he tried the “dread game” and told her the vibe was off when he knew he had messed up. She dipped out after that, and it was well deserved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 05:31 PM |
| 17 | Broke up with my bfI don’t know why you are getting messages asking why you broke up for marriage. You clearly wanted that and he didn’t. If anyone doesn’t want to be married, fine. But there are benefits to being married. For example, I was with my lvm for 14 years before we married. I divorced him after one year of marriage. If we had married back then, I would qualify for his SS benefits when I retired, because we passed ten years. That’s a small consolation of what he put me through. I would have liked that. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 03:23 PM |
| 3 | Expensive rent/housing is the biggest proponent for monogamy and cohabitationOh wow, that sounds great. What a great experience! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 08:56 PM |
| 8 | Expensive rent/housing is the biggest proponent for monogamy and cohabitationMine said he was solely responsible for my daughter’s remote instruction since March 2020. They live with me. I created the templates and manipulatives. I found the extra instruction. I kept them in schedule, while also working a demanding job from home. He would visit, be late, forget to log them in, turn in work…. *yet he’s dad of the year🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 01:57 PM |
| 14 | Expensive rent/housing is the biggest proponent for monogamy and cohabitationGirl it’s crazy how much a low value man will drain you and keep expecting to drain you, even after a divorce🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 01:45 PM |
| 49 | Expensive rent/housing is the biggest proponent for monogamy and cohabitationI remember back in the day there were boarding homes for single people, they got a room w shared bathroom and meals. It’s unfortunate those went away bc some people could really use them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 02:55 AM |
| 52 | Expensive rent/housing is the biggest proponent for monogamy and cohabitationLol!!!! I remember an article about a movie that was based in nyc, basically people were only together because they could not afford the location otherwise. I can’t remember the movie, sorry. but I totally settled when I was in my early 20s bc I needed help with the rent. I will say this was in the early 2000s and internet wasn’t really a thing that I used ( for forums and self help). I was super restricted to my internet use bc I could only use for school related things, at the college library🙄… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 02:52 AM |
| 25 | God the pickmes are REALLY TRYING to hand out p*ssy to their LVM friendsIt’s the consumption for me (screams in 1800 ) 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 04:28 PM |
| 9 | This is why women must be selective in what men we allow in our lives. Most men are jealous and possessive if women. They'd rather kill us than see us be happy without them or with another man.Yep. Was just thinking about what I wrote like damn, I should have listened when he told he what he did to his exes. You know what’s crazy? Thinking that they e changed for the next. The facts are there that he hasn’t and won’t. But the denial whew | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 02:50 AM |
| 22 | This is why women must be selective in what men we allow in our lives. Most men are jealous and possessive if women. They'd rather kill us than see us be happy without them or with another man.It’s really unbelievable until it happens to you. The whole situation was terrible, but the after effects from abuse and now stalking linger hard. I feel sorry for any woman who has gone thru this. I also feel sorry for my exes long term ex girlfriends, at least I walked away but some of them stayed for years and were treated terribly (his own admission). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 11:40 PM |
| 62 | This is why women must be selective in what men we allow in our lives. Most men are jealous and possessive if women. They'd rather kill us than see us be happy without them or with another man.Yes, I remember this feeling. I still feel watched years later, because of the past fake accounts. I rarely post now and am thinking of deactivating all accounts. Their rage is terrible | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 06:25 PM |
| 1 | This is what happens when you marry a Scrote and do the 50/50 thingNo, my mom enforced child support. What I meant is that some states mandate it and some allow for it to be waived. For example, in NY, you can waive CS. But in Hawaii you cannot, even if you don’t want the money the state mandates it. And at any time, if an order is in place or not, a parent can take you back to court to change it. If the father abandons the child and comes back years later, it absolutely has standing in the courts and is considered. He’ll still likely get visitation either way.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 06:19 PM |
| 1 | This is what happens when you marry a Scrote and do the 50/50 thingIt happens with all couples, married or not. Sometimes the men won’t even show up for court, and the mother gets all rights. “If he’s unsafe, he has to pay for a person to supervise” lol, nope, I don’t where you heard this, almost anyone can be appointed for supervised visits (a sister, mother or friend) , and they aren’t always granted, even if you know the person is unsafe. I can see you haven’t gone thru this or know anyone who has. many, many women would rather have a man not pay anything th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:07 PM |
| 1 | This is what happens when you marry a Scrote and do the 50/50 thingIt’s different for every woman. For some women, a couple hundred a month isn’t worth their ex having a say if they can leave the state or not. Or having visitation. Some would rather keep a distance without court orders, particularly when they are dealing with abusive fathers, or fathers who don’t care for their kids - they leave them with other women or alone. many women will give up CS for peace of mind. Some of these women have had the worst experiences with court and exes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 02:48 AM |
| 26 | I’m simply not attracted to noncommittal menA young man’s dream within an old man’s folly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 12:21 AM |
| 18 | I’m simply not attracted to noncommittal menAgreed. It’s really not authentic at all. They aren’t sustainable and they covet their 30 dollar peanut butter. I find these type of men utterly disgusting. They want a hippy lifestyle on your dime. And they want Gucci boho hippy vibes at that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 12:19 AM |
| 2 | This is what happens when you marry a Scrote and do the 50/50 thingIt depends on the state. Some states require CS and some allow the primary custodian to waive it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 09:58 PM |
| 3 | This is what happens when you marry a Scrote and do the 50/50 thingSome men will pay “under the table” to avoid a CS judgement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 09:57 PM |
| 2 | 🎵If he's married and you know it, just say no,👏👏 if he's married and you know it...The “silent battle.” I’ve moved away from that but still sometimes have a sick feeling in my stomach from how he made me feel, or tried to make me feel….I knew it was fake and he was trying to hurt me, but it still hurt all the same. Thank you. I’ll read it. I hope you will be posting more on FDS. I’ve enjoyed your insights. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 12:40 AM |
| 3 | 🎵If he's married and you know it, just say no,👏👏 if he's married and you know it...Everything you said is correct. The hypersensitivity, even though he pretended to be indifferent. Lol, at one point he even blocked me, which was weird to me. I was corresponding with a fake account and he slipped up, which made me think it was fake. I go to check his account to see if he had a girlfriend still (this was like a year after I dumped him) and I discovered I was blocked. So I stop communicating w the account and he created another one smh. nowadays I don’t hardly engage at all on so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 03:51 PM |
| 18 | 🎵If he's married and you know it, just say no,👏👏 if he's married and you know it...This is well said. I like the term “criminal disorder” versus mental, because although Lundy said in his book that most abusers do not have mental disorders, there is an unexplained imbalance. How well you framed that imbalance! That it is a criminal disorder. Someone else I knew mentioned “entering the relationship by fraud” which I agree with completely. You would never if you knew that abusers true face, which they try so hard to hide. and the neediness. Man, I remember this. I remember my ex… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 01:06 PM |
| 15 | Jackie Kennedy was committed to a mental hospital and given forced electroshock therapy after fighting with JFK about his infidelitieshttps://allthatsinteresting.com/rosemary-kennedy-lobotomy Mental illness was stigmatized back then. Rosemary’s combination of mental illness and disability from childbirth probably led to her erratic behavior. And back then, people trusted medical professionals (not to say that people don’t nowadays, but in today’s world people have access to the internet, medical journals etc etc that can help them make better informed decisions.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 07:06 PM |
| 101 | Jackie Kennedy was committed to a mental hospital and given forced electroshock therapy after fighting with JFK about his infidelitiesYes I remember reading about her years ago. I can’t remember what I read, but in the story she was characterized as being mischievous, a rebel….tbh I read it as she was an outspoken woman, maybe slightly troubled, during a time when women’s rights were very limited. Her story always sticks with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 04:28 AM |
| 82 | Jackie Kennedy was committed to a mental hospital and given forced electroshock therapy after fighting with JFK about his infidelitiesRose Kennedy? The story is terrible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 02:45 AM |
| 7 | This is so real and it makes me sick.Same! It’s a beautiful thing, getting divorced. I’m happy for you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 04:37 PM |
| 65 | This is so real and it makes me sick.Yep. Parenting is exhausting, esp when your partner does so little. I used to be so happy when he made a meal and didn’t make me clean up the huge mess bc he had to use every single pot and pan we owned. I hate how I was expected to never tire and smile when I worked, cleaned, made appointments for EVERYONE, and was expected to be fit and beautiful. My ex husband would be so annoyed whenever I got sick “what?! You’re taking off TWO DAYS from work?!?” Sometimes I’m filled with rage. Then I rememb… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 10:13 PM |
| 14 | Why ?Right?!? I pay for my mom when I’m with her. She’s older wth. This guy is disgusting and she’s trying to justify it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 05:26 PM |
| 12 | Tl;dr I hate that my girlfriend is more successful than me and takes decisions about her life without consulting meI hate hate hate that he attributes her success to luck and not her working hard. My job is easy for me now, but I worked extremely hard to get to where I am. It’s easy for me because of my experience. I had an ex that believed everything I had was due to luck and/or my looks, I worked hard to pull myself into a new state of being and men like this one just suck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 03:01 PM |
| 4 | EXPLAINING WHY 50/50 IS BAD FOR YOUNGER GENERATION OF WOMEN (TEENS)You’re welcome! It’s really helpful…and you can have a good laugh as you play a sleazeball lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 01:11 AM |
| 27 | EXPLAINING WHY 50/50 IS BAD FOR YOUNGER GENERATION OF WOMEN (TEENS)It’s also important to explain that as women, we don’t owe men an explanation or dialogue about how we should be treated. We aren’t here to teach men, we are here to find men who have taught themselves. And you can always role play. with my daughters (10) I role play. We act out a scene and talk about it after. So I’ve acted out taking her out and not paying lol, I’ve even acted out possible toxic behaviors such as threatening or hitting. She responds and we discuss later. We also talk about blo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 07:04 PM |
| 3 | My grandpa is dying in a nursing home and STILL gave me a Birthday gift- "If he wanted to, he would"Oh wow, I was thinking about my great grandma this morning and then read your post. I’m so glad you get to enjoy your grandfather, I loved the time I had with my great grandmother. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 03:17 PM |
| 11 | Nah Sis, you didn’t forget you told him where you are. He’s stalking you.That’s how my ex found me, through my sister’s SM account. When I dumped him, he ended up blocking me but still remained friends with her. I kept my SM page public for a long time, then I went private and deleted a bunch of posts. “Someone” has attempted to access my account twice since making it private. I wonder who it is??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 02:31 PM |
| 14 | How to stick to practicing celibacyTeam 2018❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 09:36 PM |
| 5 | Refinery29 Article: I Earn Much Less Than My Partner, But We Split Costs Evenly. How Do I Stop Resenting Him?That’s terrible. I got it written in my divorce paperwork that I’m allowed to leave the state, but that mediation is recommended. Even then, I know if he pushed it, I might lose that and it be revoked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 03:23 PM |
| 54 | Refinery29 Article: I Earn Much Less Than My Partner, But We Split Costs Evenly. How Do I Stop Resenting Him?They can prevent you from leaving the state until the child is 18. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 10:49 PM |
| 124 | Refinery29 Article: I Earn Much Less Than My Partner, But We Split Costs Evenly. How Do I Stop Resenting Him?Ugh, I had to stop. The few women I read about seemed to agree to 50/50 bc of “pressure” and admitted they felt resentful. One even said she covers all these extra costs bc the guy didn’t want to pay for them. I had to stop reading bc it’s stupid. You resent him bc you’re paying more and/or doing more. YOU ARE RESENTFUL BC YOURE PAYING MORE AND YOU HATE IT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 10:48 PM |
| 26 | A scrote blocked the sidewalk with his car in order to flirt.Ugh this has happened too many times. Once a police officer pulled up (about half a block) and as I walked towards him (which I had to do, as it was the only way home) he was like “I’m a police officer, don’t worry” and tried to hit on me. Another time I was with my sister and some strange man grabbed my hand. We walked to my friends house and he showed up! He knew my friend and had followed us. Had the nerve to say “hey I grabbed your hand” and I was like “I’m not interested.” I was 16, he was … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 06:09 PM |
| 58 | So few words, so much accuracyLol told an ex once “I’m not having fun anymore” and he was literally breathless with shock. The next day he brought it up and was like “I want to respond to that, I want to say I’m not having fun either” and I was like “perfect that’s why I’m breaking up with you” the rage that followed after!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 08:17 PM |
| 47 | Yes, by all means, walk 20 feet ahead of your wife and children, you asshole.My ex parked extremely far away every time we went to a store and said he didn’t want anyone hitting his very used car. I tired easily from dealing w twins and multiple surgeries and this was his excuse every single time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 02:11 AM |
| 0 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 13 - Roastus Scrotus Deletus + How an Early Childhood Educator Motivates Boys to be HVMWell thankfully you aren’t running FDS….it’s not a cop out to expect men to provide more bc women are doing more tasks in the home, especially when women are currently doing more for free NOW. Not back in the 50s, now. I couldn’t get thru your entire text wall, but more women have left the workforce than ever, due to the expectations of domestic and childcare put on them during the pandemic. At minimum, women should not be doing more around the house unless a) they want to, and b) they are compe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 04:00 AM |
| 1 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 13 - Roastus Scrotus Deletus + How an Early Childhood Educator Motivates Boys to be HVMIn response to one of your questions, if the woman is the sole provider is she expected to do the childcare and domestic 24/7? The answer is a resounding YES. FDS strives to avoid that situation by having your partner/spouse be comfortable in a providing role and to understand that women a) don’t make as much as men b) women will be expected to do more domestic/childcare and it should count as paid labor, therefore the man is providing to cover that cost. It’s better to have a man like this, tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 01:55 AM |
| 62 | It’s quiet ain’t no talk backNah I’m not answering “what do I bring to the table.” It’s an immediate “this isn’t going to work out” because I’m not explaining my worth. Don’t care never will and have never been asked anyway… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 12:35 AM |
| 34 | A tale for the ages... a scrote and his complicit family...Disgusting. “Hey I got your daughter pregnant here’s an 8 dollar raise” smh…..ugh this is just horrible | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 12:31 AM |
| 3 | Red pill /abuse tactics I’ve seen on the field over the last few yearsI agree..the whole family is toxic and enablers. Vet that man and his family, always. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 07:04 PM |
| 18 | Don't over-complicate your relationships: if a relationship is not making you feel good majority of the time, it's time to leave.Take note of the domestic workload as well. If you are doing the majority of housework and he is not paying for your time, you are doing unpaid labor. A HVM man will want to see you in a softened state of being, not used as a work mule. If you feel like you’re doing too much YOU PROBABLY ARE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 05:18 PM |
| 13 | Red pill /abuse tactics I’ve seen on the field over the last few yearsSame. I ended things but I fell for charade for at least a year before I got out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 04:27 PM |
| 37 | Red pill /abuse tactics I’ve seen on the field over the last few yearsAlso be mindful if the family is over the top accepting and/or goes out their way to accept you in a way that feels fake/red flaggy/weird. My ex and I were LDR and when I met his family( he was living with his relative), they pressured me a lot to stay with them although I had an Airbnb. We had literally just met. They asked a ton of questions about my financial status, looking back they just wanted someone to take my ex off their hands. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 04:26 PM |
| 5 | To my fellow WOC - if you date outside your race be careful of “woke” guys. There’s a good chance he’s a LVM putting on an act to impress you.Omg yes that part! I didn’t want to say it but that part!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 07:26 PM |
| 10 | Thanks to this sub, I’m divorcing my extremely LVM husbandI remember going through this with my ex lvm. They knew they were terrible but man, they fought hard to leech off me and drain me, knowing they were no longer wanted. Stay strong! Lvm husbands are especially insidious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 05:19 PM |
| 21 | I don’t know who needs to hear this ,but if you don’t like his past, you are not obligated to stay with him.Let me tell you, it took years of intense self change, desire to be a better person, learning about God, therapy, sometimes medication to be a better person than I was. And after all that, I still feel like a “junkie” because the bad thoughts remain to be a bad person. I have to actively ignore them EVERY DAY. yet I believed my abusive exes propaganda when he he appeared to have changed and seemed so loving to his new boo after I dumped him. I was sad I missed out! Then I realized he and the new… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 08:09 PM |
| 20 | Woman on Tik Tok reminds us that LVM neg confident women, and that patriarchy relies on women hating themselvesLol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 02:57 PM |
| 142 | Woman on Tik Tok reminds us that LVM neg confident women, and that patriarchy relies on women hating themselvesYep, if a man insults me or tries to police me, I just laugh and say “We aren’t compatible so I won’t converse w you further”. I don’t argue with those men and I don’t even engage in their fake scenarios “but what if?””would you ever pay 50/50, ....” I don’t owe men a conversation especially ones that I don’t like. There are no scenarios to discuss. Face reality , we will never be together ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 01:24 PM |
| 50 | STOP normalizing polyamory while we still live in a patriarchy. Tired of these “wax poetical” think pieces about the obvious.😴🤮Exactly. They harass women that they know aren’t interested, then become monogamous, then try to force the woman to change lol. I feel like they never want poly women bc those women usually have other male partners and surprise! They don’t want to share. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 01:18 AM |
| 10 | Why is waiting 3ish months to have sex seen as such a deranged/controversial thing?Because men rage at the power women have over them. I read a post once where a man said he expected sex on the first date or he never contacted her again. Many men said they expected the same, but who knows? I’ve never been asked that lol...I would laugh so hard! Men are ridiculous, a lot of them have nothing to offer. Nothing. I appreciate a gentleman , I really do, because many men out here are really grasping at straws. There’s pick mes out there that might give it up but men never want them🙄… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 07:16 PM |
| 6 | Reminder: Mamas, you CAN do this alone - you don't need that ScroteIt’s important to think nothing ever lasts. I remember being broke, working really hard, with twin babies and also trying to go to grad school. I actually practiced smiling all the time back then. I kept up appearances for my girls while trying to elevate to the next level. And it was hard, I couldn’t afford anything and I was paying for everything. but nothing ever lasts. Eventually I graduated with a master’s degree, got a great job two years after that. And then, with enough money, I left wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 10:22 PM |
| 1 | How porn-brain destroys relationships in one stupid breath.Sigh... lol it’s been a rough road trying to get “professional help”....I have decided the stars will tell me everything I need about human existence and suffering. And they will never steer me wrong ✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 05:17 PM |
| 13 | I hate how women have been brainwashed by libfem. No, you're not a bad girlfriend for wanting to be monogamous. It's NOT a dealbreaker!Yes so many young girls PAY for everything bc of “independence” and to keep the guy. I agree that any man who questions you about money HAS NONE AND SHOULD BE DROPPED | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 09:08 PM |
| 16 | I hate how women have been brainwashed by libfem. No, you're not a bad girlfriend for wanting to be monogamous. It's NOT a dealbreaker!That’s exactly how it happens. Actually, they lovebomb and make sure you are deeply in love, then drop hints how they would love a woman who lets them “do their thing”. You may start to feel like you’re limiting them with love, when the reality is that you were very clear about what you wanted and they agreed (lied; entered by fraud) and NOW you see the real person. Then they become super possessive and jealous and it’s confusing; if he wants freedom, shouldn’t you have it too? Why are you being… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 09:06 PM |
| 9 | We appeared in public again today. Mods did their job, thank you <3Lol! A lurker once pm’ed me and said dumb shit, then said he would block me. All because I post on FDS. He was enraged at my audacity lolz | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 08:59 PM |
| 2 | How porn-brain destroys relationships in one stupid breath.Thank you. I really like who I’m becoming 😍 Also, when you hear a man going on and on about anything just start humming,“ he’s a cold hearted snake, look into his eyes, uh-oh, he’s been telling lies “ 🎶 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 11:52 PM |
| 26 | What is everyone’s thoughts on Billie Eilish now “showing skin”? What does her defense make you feel?Baggy clothes don’t matter anyway. I used wear baggy clothes all the time, men would drive off the road to speak to me, approach me, scream at me, etc. Not just men either, some pick me women have also stared at me aggressively and made comments while with their boyfriends. Once I was with my children, they were 3, and I’m wearing a dress and a woman (with her boyfriend and other men) the men just stared but she felt the need to say “look at her ass, look at her body” and the way I stared at her… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 05:21 PM |
| 8 | What is everyone’s thoughts on Billie Eilish now “showing skin”? What does her defense make you feel?She looks so pretty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 05:18 PM |
| 23 | How porn-brain destroys relationships in one stupid breath.Yep this is important. Reddit is super small, monogamy is the norm and don’t let anyone gaslight you to think otherwise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 02:28 AM |
| 30 | How porn-brain destroys relationships in one stupid breath.This is so important, you don’t have be open minded, you don’t have to wonder why he said his fantasy to you...he’s literally depraved and don’t let anyone tell you anything else! I had a THERAPIST tell me that a man can ask for whatever he wants, because people “change” in relationships. WHO WAS TRYING TO CONVINCE WHO HERE??? I told her “I don’t care, I didn’t like him after he suggested it, I’m OFFENDED that he dared, and I’m angered that I have to have it in my mind that I’m not making some b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 02:26 AM |
| 16 | Men who take naked pictures of sleeping women, and men who use hidden cameras to secretly film their sexual encounters, are compelling reasons to avoid casual sex until you have thoroughly vetted his character.I knew a guy who would take photos while he worked; he worked at auto place, so he was under the car and as the women stood by their car, he and other coworkers photographed them. Later he told me he never cheated on his ex, I told him taking photos of strange women was cheating; could be perceived as assault and criminal. So disgusted that he still crosses my mind from time to time. He also photographed me, both while sleeping and videoed me, and later told me he would never delete the photos. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 11:01 PM |
| 5 | Men want traditional women until its time for them to be traditional men and be providers.Lol, he just stared at me. Listen... in the past, I might have argued or said “I’m not supposed to pay” but I don’t do that anymore with lvm. I just “hold”. He wanted to argue, I know he did, but indifference is key. I started getting myself and my daughters ready to leave and that’s that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 07:37 PM |
| 126 | Men want traditional women until its time for them to be traditional men and be providers.I think it’s cringe too. I’ve never been asked though while dating. I go out to eat with my ex husband sometimes with our daughters and he always pays, but the last time he tried to push me the bill and said, “Mommy is going to pay.” I didn’t even pay him any mind, just told my daughters “thank daddy for taking us out” and he got up and paid. He’s my ex and my standards are still there lol.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 02:11 PM |
| 4 | Poverty rate in the U.S. by age and gender in 2019 - Debunking lies about men being worse off than women "these days." In every age group, women are poorer than men. Women, always have your own money, and save it where other people can't touch it.This is why I say you absolutely cannot afford 50/50 as a woman, unless your retirement is fully funded. Every time you consider paying 50/50 or paying for a man, put that money towards your retirement instead. Those dollars will be around longer than any lvm will be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 03:14 AM |
| 30 | The RaTiOnaL SexHmmm, nothing mentioned about black and Latinos being unwilling to take the vaccine because of past medical wrongs and then being infected with diseases or sterilized. The stories do pass down from generation to generation, even if they aren’t mentioned in print anymore. There’s a lot of mistrust w the medical community, why not acknowledge that and let people know they understand their fears? Sigh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 11:43 PM |
| 20 | Textbook narcissistic abuse. Luckily, most people warned OP!I remember my ex was like this. I have a very strong mindset but it still messed me up, exactly how she described, I would feel numb and withdraw, which would enrage him more. The text wars, his pressure for me to be perfect while he acted crazy, his abuse...I walked away but the effects lingered. Fuck that dude | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 01:26 PM |
| 71 | Black women and weaponsIf you ever go to a Walmart, they have a wall that posts women and children that have gone missing. Depends which Walmart that you’re at, but I saw one in Vegas that was huge. Also in New Jersey. It’s really terrible that women are stolen every day. I live in NYC, and have been saving to move out. I moved here 20 years ago, but the city is so unsafe right now. The men...they follow you and stare at you, they don’t care if you’re with kids or not. It’s terrible and terrifying. Be safe out there l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 01:01 PM |
| 18 | How are you teaching your daughters?I’ve taught my daughters about consent, and also about abusive relationships, be friends or future partners. I’ve spoken to them about porn and how it harms women. I’ve even spoken about high value behavior to expect from friends and future partners. My daughters are ten. I’m also teaching my daughters about God, how to love themselves and how important they are to me, and to this world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 05:17 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InSecond this. One of my dreams growing up was to own a ranch with animals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 03:59 PM |
| 112 | Nothing but truth was spoken.Me too! It warms my heart that young women are getting it and taking a stand! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 02:43 PM |
| 88 | Context: the boyfriend has sex with other women for OnlyFans and promotes it on TikTok. The girlfriend says she is “happy”. Comments are saying “y’all mad you get cheated on for free while they’re in a healthy relationship with boundaries, trust, and more money than you” 🤦♀️Most of these men that follow this depraved thinking are abusers. She’s literally dating someone who has sex for money. I don’t even bother looking on Tiktok, bc then the algorithm will start sending you this bullshit and you’ll have to block block block it’s ridiculous | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 02:58 PM |
| 18 | Found this on a relationship sub. Women think this kind of behaviour is endearing ?! Nah sis 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ makes me wonder what else he thinks gets done by magic. Some guy commented and argued with me about how men do more domestic labour lmao I can’t handle this sub. I never want to be married.It’s exactly this which made me hate being in a relationship. Men who are literal idiots, yet think they are superior to women. They want a cookie every single time. I never explain anymore why I’m not interested in dating, but for y’all...it gets old really fast, taking care of a man. It also gets old that men spend hours on the internet but literally will not read a book...some make the goal of reading five books a year. 🙄 I just can’t | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 02:23 PM |
| 24 | FDS isn’t about finding HVM. It’s about decentering men from our lives and centering ourselves instead.Yep. Woman asking about HVM are literally living in “lack.” We aren’t doing this for men. We are trying to be the best version of ourselves and if a man comes along, our vibration is so high, we can’t accept lower. That’s all. I don’t even look for a man, I’m so busy living my best life ✨ I’m perfectly content and I remember how triggered people get when I respond in such a manner 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 10:50 PM |
| 2 | What do y’all think about snooping through a SO phone?I don’t give out my passwords to my phone. I don’t cheat or have anything to hide, but it’s my phone and I don’t allow anyone to snoop through it. I used to snoop thru my ex’s phone, because I had the password- I always felt like he didn’t really love me anyway but I found out he cheated by snooping so it is what it is. I don’t really have feelings on the matter, some people are nosy and will snoop thru your whole house🙄 I don’t tolerate bad behavior but I’m not explaining why I don’t have to gi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 09:24 PM |
| 60 | I'm so proud of you ladies for sharing and normalizing FDS concepts on tiktok, Instagram, and other social media 😂I’ve seen it and I’m sooo thankful! I’m glad that women are realizing IT DOES NOT HAVE TO BE THE WAY MEN WANT. Even more so, the embrace of femininity. We’ve come a long way, and I’m glad women are not settling anymore! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 01:47 AM |
| 2 | Is anyone else dreading the end of WFH?I mean, I work from home and both of my children are learning remotely. One is fine but the other needs support. It’s hard but I still prefer it to going into work. So I hope I can continue or at least go in infrequently. It’s to the point that I’d rather look for another job that offers remote or just move period. New York is a mess right now, I hate being outside. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 04:52 PM |
| 14 | A bumble date threatened me after I walked out of the date instead of going home with him . I’m shaken up by the messages (adding a snipped here). Has anyone else experienced this and did the guy follow through with his threats?Report him to Bumble and also the police. Fuck him, let a cop call him and he’ll never do that shit again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 04:47 PM |
| 34 | Anyone else?Same. Even if I find one that’s attractive, they make no money, barely afford their living area (whether it’s a roommate or living w their relative) and literally don’t read. How are you gonna have like 1 book in your house? And you haven’t read it yet?!? I don’t care if I ever date again, I can’t date a loser | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 04:46 PM |
| 26 | Another control freak father trying to control his ex with their child... And the law.I also have right of refusal and I’m not playing no games. It’s def off to court if I’m denied. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 11:52 PM |
| 72 | Another control freak father trying to control his ex with their child... And the law.I was friends with a girl who had an ex that took her to court constantly. She had sole legal and physical custody because he abandoned their child but then came back. Anyway, he’s supposed to pick their child at her house. She had taken the child to an appointment (that he refused to drive her to) so my friend took a train. The doctor ran late but the ex refused to meet them there so my friend ended up taking a cab and was about 5 minutes late. He wasn’t there. He was at the police station fili… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 10:05 PM |
| 110 | Another control freak father trying to control his ex with their child... And the law.He agreed to the pick up time. If he can’t pick up then he should have let her know 24 hours in advance. I have physical custody, this drives me crazy bc my ex swears I have nothing better to do with my life but wait around for him to get our children. Who’s late for a pickup anyway? Sheesh. He needs to take her to court and get clowned by the judge, who will probably move the time, resulting in less visitation 🙄 Edit:Another commenter talked about “sabotage” and I totally agree. I had to stop t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 09:54 PM |
| 65 | How do you you switch your mindset?For some, it comes naturally. And for others (many many others) it’s literally a skill set. What helped me a lot was first understanding detachment, not in a negative way, not in a “hippy” way; just basically “I want what wants me.” Being stoic helps with that. Look up stoicism, look up how healthy exchanges should be AND FEEL, look up how people approach “helplessness” via religion or meditation. It takes time to learn how to be indifferent if you’ve been taught the wrong way YOUR WHOLE LIFE. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 03:40 AM |
| 5 | Men and the COVID vaccineThanks! I know it’s a sensitive topic but there’s a valid reason why people may not be willing to take the vaccine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 11:04 PM |
| 2 | Men and the COVID vaccineIt’s hard. You want to trust, but the history is there. It also doesn’t help there is an overall air of mistrust surrounding it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 11:03 PM |
| 3 | Are there any successful women here with tattoos?Yes I have tattoos and I have a high level position. I don’t feel any way about them, and no one says anything. I don’t gravitate towards jobs that have super strict dress codes or covering tattoo policies anymore. Worked at one once, never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 08:31 PM |
| 17 | Men and the COVID vaccineI don’t think women should be making appointments for grown men, but taking the covid vaccine is a personal choice. Edit: I see I’m getting downvoted. Allow me to explain. Many people of color have been fearful of this vaccine, bc they do not trust the medical community. The community that in the past, sterilized puertorican women and gave syphillis to black males, etc etc. I understand that we shouldn’t be afraid anymore, because it’s a different time, but people weren’t afraid back then either… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 08:18 PM |
| 2 | "IM HIS FIRST LOVE. HE'LL ALWAYS COME BACK TO ME."Lol! I need to be as light hearted as you when it comes to narcs! Sigh one day! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 06:28 PM |
| 11 | Don't Date Men Who Devalue Your InterestsSame. Mine also got mad because I got car sick. How I am at fault for being car sick?!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 03:40 PM |
| 23 | "IM HIS FIRST LOVE. HE'LL ALWAYS COME BACK TO ME."Look up narcissist abuse and “bread crumbing” or “hovering”. Dealt with a narcissist like three years ago, he was the worst, and the abuse amplified when I dumped his ass. It’s terrible that a lot of people don’t know about narcissists and can’t help you. My friends thought he was great🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 02:43 PM |
| 11 | Do you guys speak out openly about FDS principles and feminism?I mean, why are you worried about his money and how he spends it? If you’re having trouble rationalizing it, look at your retirement accounts. Are they maxed out on a yearly basis? Bc if they aren’t, you’re in danger girl lol....you can’t afford to date AND PAY. When y’all go out and you want to pay 🙄 just put your share into your retirement. Pretty sure that dude you feel bad for, won’t be around then. Protect your future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 02:42 PM |
| 6 | Do you guys speak out openly about FDS principles and feminism?I do speak openly about it, but only to other women. Never to men. I don’t argue w men about this stuff. A lot of women have been brainwashed into “independence” or just are so hard up, 50/50 eases their wallets bc they can’t afford rent. some women are so stuck on the narrative bc they see their friends doing it. Why do a walk date? Why live with someone before marriage? Honestly my parents were super distracted so I had to learn the hard way. But now I’m 40, it purely falls on me now. these wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 02:35 PM |
| 11 | I'm getting so frustrated with the number of drinks/coffee/walk dates I'm being offered and would love to discuss this phenomenaI’ve always been very nervous to eat with people and I just got over it. I would never eat on dates, for years...but I still got taken to museums, art shows, painting classes, the zoo, basketball games, movies, etc etc. eventually I did start eating bc it was important to me. It’s important for you too, to be able to eat comfortably around others and trust yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 11:13 PM |
| 39 | I'm getting so frustrated with the number of drinks/coffee/walk dates I'm being offered and would love to discuss this phenomenaYes!! It gets old super fast. Nowadays I just see what they say, if it’s low effort, I take it as they don’t think I’m worth the effort, so I keep it moving w/o giving advice about my preferences. I appreciate men who approach life with their best foot forward, always. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 11:05 PM |
| 30 | I'm getting so frustrated with the number of drinks/coffee/walk dates I'm being offered and would love to discuss this phenomenaThey’re broke and just want to fuck, while spending as little as possible. Why would someone actually “walk” with someone? Weird. Men will do the least. What sucks is that many women have been burned by bad relationships and think this is okay, because they can leave after a few minutes versus staying the whole dinner. I’ve never done drinks or coffee bc for many years I drank neither, so it didn’t make sense. I’m also not randomly walking with a stranger. I don’t allow bad behavior, and low eff… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 11:00 PM |
| 12 | If you are just wishing he would hit you, so you can have a legitimate reason to leave, leave anyway.This is a really good thought process. I remember when the mask slipped and my ex went absolutely crazy; he screamed at me while driving at high speeds, while also punching his phone and dashboard. He didn’t hit me and we made up, but I told myself “ if he ever does it again, I’m leaving.” I felt super tense in the few months that followed and began to feel really unhappy. Then we argued and he called me “stupid,” and I dumped him. He was so mad about that, but the reality is I shouldn’t have wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 08:14 PM |
| 25 | Men want to humble you so badly, they’ll defy logic to do it. Stay woke.It was the bullet for me🤣🤣 Men do want to humble you...lol, just laugh at them and keep it moving. Indifference hurts them soooo bad. Remember, negative attention is still attention🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 08:11 PM |
| 10 | Beware of the men who pretend to be *woke*.Men who really care about women’s issues won’t condescend to women. They have no idea what we go through. I had a fake “woke” man tell me that “women are so strong, they are the portal to life l, they give birth” yet abuse me in the SAME BREATH. if you really care about the “plight of women” man up and take care of yourself and don’t expect me to do it for you. Don’t expect me to take on all parenting and child rearing. Don’t expect me to be 50/50 yet I have to do all domestic chores. And so for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 04:52 PM |
| 15 | How to let go of the anger and disappointment?It’s the hardest part about being abused IMO. Physical pain can fade, but the self loathing is definitely real. Especially if you pandered to a toxic individual. For me, I had to realize that my thought process, the one where I thought if I treated people well, they would treat me well - was incorrect. Some people are trash. I was raised by toxic, disinterested parents and i struggled w external validation a lot. Learn from this. Eff the bullies, people who neg, are jealous, etc etc. Be happy an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 04:46 PM |
| 45 | Gaslighting me by telling me not being comfortable with sex talk with a stranger is “unhealthy” 🤢 Analysis in the commentsYes, explained so well. I was gaslit to bend my boundaries and it really affected me, it caused me to feel bad and question my morals. Ultimately I stuck to them, but there was a bit of damage as a result. I am super triggered by gaslighting. I am getting better and am willing to walk away immediately now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 07:25 PM |
| 170 | Gaslighting me by telling me not being comfortable with sex talk with a stranger is “unhealthy” 🤢 Analysis in the commentsAh, yes. The “I want someone to accept me for ME,” never mind if it’s not socially acceptable, poor taste or just stupid. Wait, you won’t do anal? “I don’t like feeling restricted w sex”. Wait, no open relationships? “ I should be able to date who I want. But you can’t, of course, unless I give permission.” Wait, I have to pay my own bills? “I want an independent woman who will just throw her paycheck into a joint account and we’ll figure it out.” He’s a loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 07:22 PM |
| 13 | Other things he does in Bed that are Red Flags and Manipulative!Agreed. “Open minded” or “I just want to be myself and be accepted” are huge flags. No one has to accept your depravity, no one is responsible for maintaining it and NO ONE is acting like we aren’t allowing you to live in your truth if we don’t accept it. We don’t have to do anything! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 04:14 PM |
| 13 | Is there a way to stop our (future) sons to become porn addicts.Yes! This happened to my daughter. Her teacher read a story about two boys kissing and she looked it up on google...and saw images she didn’t need to see. I caught her and I had to inform her that women were abused in these situations. I Also had to block websites, as well as chrome. My children aren’t allowed to play on their tablets in their rooms, it has to be in the open (living room) at all times. Also I have timed locks, so they are not always on it. And I have full access, I can check the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 01:51 AM |
| 40 | Is there a way to stop our (future) sons to become porn addicts.Same. I told my daughter the same and that men who watch it support poor treatment of women. There’s tons of literature online to speak to your child. I used it and I’m glad it helped | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 01:47 AM |
| 2 | "He Might Not Be A Good Partner To You, Doesn't Make Him A Bad Person"No one said it was. And plenty of people are compatible lol what are you even saying? Lots of people are in loving relationships. But if you’re terrible you’re going to always be terrible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 12:51 AM |
| 26 | If you’re out here still using dating apps, please be really really careful. There’s a new bait and switch method men are using to lure trafficking victims. This among a million other reasons is why I stopped using dating appsYep. This is so true! I’ve had men pressure me HARD to drink. I just laugh, fuck you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 09:38 PM |
| 44 | If you’re out here still using dating apps, please be really really careful. There’s a new bait and switch method men are using to lure trafficking victims. This among a million other reasons is why I stopped using dating appsThank god I don’t drink. Also would not buy a drink for a man I never met. Just hate how men say in a way where someone is like “sure no prob,” because they want to believe people are good hearted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 07:59 PM |
| 57 | "He Might Not Be A Good Partner To You, Doesn't Make Him A Bad Person"It’s these passive statements that really grind my gears🙄 If y’all are not compatible, that’s one thing and it happens. But if he is a bad partner to a woman, no woman can “change” him to be better. It’s like this, I used to be extremely manipulative, I only became nicer or hid myself better when the stakes were higher. But it always came out eventually, because it cannot be maintained. I have changed, after years of self reflection, sacrifice, and therapy. But. Like a junkie, the urge to get my… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 05:16 PM |
| 3 | "Women, more than men, tend to feel stultified by long-term exclusivity—despite having been taught that they were designed for it" - Basically it's the "ICK"You’re welcome! It’s not always as simple as a diagnosis. There are some men that I absolutely never tired of; never felt like I was avoiding intimacy, but their nature to abuse and gaslight me turned me tf OFF! So I felt trapped. The right person will not make you feel trapped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 03:14 PM |
| 38 | "Women, more than men, tend to feel stultified by long-term exclusivity—despite having been taught that they were designed for it" - Basically it's the "ICK"Same. At first, casual felt better bc I could easily walk away, but eff that, I feel casual relationships are sooo low vibrational. Now I recognize those feelings of suffocation as me avoiding red flags, a lack of compatibility, etc etc. I’m in a self care phase right now, I don’t have time for a man, but eventually I will date and I won’t allow those feelings to occur again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 12:06 AM |
| 172 | "Women, more than men, tend to feel stultified by long-term exclusivity—despite having been taught that they were designed for it" - Basically it's the "ICK"Yep. I was in a 15year relationship and felt trapped. But then again, I always felt trapped in relationships, that’s why I’ve had so few. I realize now it’s bc the men stifled me, were ungrateful and made me do everything. I was just so tired. So now I’m not accepting that and feel encouraged about dating again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 05:32 PM |
| 11 | The annoyingly persistent manIt is sexual harassment to repeatedly ask for dates when they have been told no, one time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 03:21 PM |
| 32 | Female socialization starts youngIf you don’t buy it, if your child is ever tested, it def comes up. I’m have a daughter w ASD who saw a psychologist when she was two. I didn’t buy her a stroller, shopping cart, baby doll, play kitchen bc I thought those things were stupid and encouraged the wrong idea. So she gets tested and amongst other things, she actually gets tested on how she interacts with a baby, play kitchen, etc etc! She failed that part lol. The psychologist was like “she doesn’t seem to like dolls” and I had said “… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 01:02 AM |
| 1 | Is Saweetie a FDS icon?Narcissists, toxic and abusive men want drama. They create scenarios in their head and scripts that they expect you to follow. They go nuts when you don’t. *saying “take care” is just that. It’s indifferent, and doesn’t feed into their narrative. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 01:48 PM |
| 6 | Is Saweetie a FDS icon?I’ve said “take care” before and trust me, it fucking works. Especially when a narc is gaslighting you. I hope she holds and doesn’t go back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 02:56 AM |
| 36 | Uh-oh, the scrotes found our podcast Patreon and are BIG MAD. "How DARE those evil bitches monetize their own podcast!!!" Misogynists don't see any value in anything a woman does, so when women receive money in any way shape or form, they freak out and call it "scamming" "grifting" "a cult" etc.It be the same men who froth at the mouth when you tell them you want someone “six feet or taller” bc they’re 5’4 and have the audacity to think you’d ever EVEN LOOK THEIR WAY. MY EYES LOOK UP NOT DOWN 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 10:16 PM |
| 24 | Uh-oh, the scrotes found our podcast Patreon and are BIG MAD. "How DARE those evil bitches monetize their own podcast!!!" Misogynists don't see any value in anything a woman does, so when women receive money in any way shape or form, they freak out and call it "scamming" "grifting" "a cult" etc.I just wanna pay bc FDS changed my life. I’ve paid 20 bucks to McDonald’s and wasn’t as satisfied. I’ve also done 50/50 with a man before. Talk about paying for a dead end, scummy, no returns ever, probably caused cancer and def ruined my life investment. At least w FDS I get a cute tote and life changing advice yeeeee | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 10:14 PM |
| 7 | And her comment section was filled with women agreeing!Haha the last one...look at who the men are calling “Daddy” 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 06:00 PM |
| 27 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itThat’s terrible. We are all adults. I mean, it’s a damn drink... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 08:47 PM |
| 142 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itYes! Some toxic and abusive exes take away your “little joys” bc they just want you to think of them as joy🙄 My ex said the same about flowers, but growing up, my neighbor had a literal field of rose bushes and I loved to walk through them and admire them. I also love Valentine’s Day, and I was denied that. I also love to clean and cook and just create a homey environment and I was denied that joy bc I was made to do everything. I was always so exhausted, and my joy was gone. It’s back since I l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 05:23 PM |
| 4 | If he wanted to, he would.I’ve lived out here for 20 years...I don’t have a social circle but I’ve hopped in and out of other circles...NYers def hit the sauce regularly...if not at happy hours then at brunch, before a movie, before and while eating....and so on... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 01:26 PM |
| 7 | If he wanted to, he would.Lol! I’m pretty sure the people I’ve seen fumbling and throwing up in the street weren’t drinking cider...but I like that some were fooling men lol.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 01:24 PM |
| 21 | If he wanted to, he would.I feel like city folks do this regularly. I’m from a small town and now I live in nyc, the amount of drinking people do is off the charts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 01:29 AM |
| 21 | Why Old Women DGAF: Reproductive Freedom Equals Psychological & Relational FreedomI’m 40, I feel more beautiful and the self growth has been amazing. What helped immensely was the fact that I do not need a man, but I don’t mind if I have one. I don’t operate from lack. In my early years it was harder, I was much poorer and depended on men to save me, emotionally and financially. I never could have kids “without assistance” though, so my reproductive freedom has always been my choice (I later had children via IVF) I agree that some women go in a different direction. I feel tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 03:53 PM |
| 4 | How the 90s Became the Era When Women Started Leveling DownThank you! Everyone wanted to party and enjoy life esp after the Vietnam war, I guess. The 80s and 90s were cool, but carried a sinister undertone. And as long as you didn’t get caught in that, you were lucky and you might have enjoyed yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 11:26 PM |
| 9 | im starting to think its not ok when guys approach women in public without making conversation 1stI’ve been so snarky lately...lol when men do this I now say “do not approach me in a familiar way” I explained this concept to my niece, which goes back to the “age of innocence” when you literally could not meet someone unless you were introduced. It was a way to vet people. Anyway, I love it. And the best part about it is that some men actually get embarrassed and slink away lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 10:25 PM |
| 10 | How the 90s Became the Era When Women Started Leveling DownI didn’t view it as attacking, but I do think it’s unfair to 90s women. I composed my response as a woman entering the 90s as a teen or early womanhood ( growing up )and what I saw, went through, and witnessed my friends going through. While I don’t believe FDS has a lot of these types, I could be wrong, just like you were wrong about my not living in the previous decade ( 80’s? I was there too). I don’t think 90s women or any women from an era didn’t “level up,” not even sure if they knew that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 11:01 PM |
| 45 | How the 90s Became the Era When Women Started Leveling DownAww, this seems unfair to women who grew up in the 90s. Y’all might not have been there. But I was. And what I saw was not women leveling down but young women heavily influenced by the wrong things. Let’s discuss: in the 80s, many women returned to the workforce stronger than ever. Men still were in the provider role though. But where did that leave children? Largely unsupervised. It was encouraged back then to leave your kid at home while both parents worked, for hours. You had 8 year olds comi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 09:52 PM |
| 23 | 3/14, Steak and BJ DayJust say “never heard of it” and move on. I can’t argue about something that’s literally on the internet lol. And your husband is a scrub. That’s a whole other issue right there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 06:02 PM |
| 227 | Just saw this on Tiktok and SO MANY GIRLS IN THE COMMENTS ARE AGREEING IM SO HAPPY!! The message is finally spreading. 🥳🥳🥳I don’t get jealous either. I get turned off. If I sense you are trying to make me jealous, that’s low vibrational behavior and I will block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 06:00 PM |
| 141 | BDSM and IPV (intimate partner violence) are related. Men look for women who tolerate BDSM because they know there’s a better chance they’ll be able to abuse them non-sexually. Hopefully this poor girl makes it out alive.Yep. Once you realize it’s trauma it’s literally not fun anymore, it isn’t edgy, you’re basically re-enacting scenes you either experienced as a child or witnessed through porn or even watching others get abused in real life. I liken it to being dead inside, but once you wake up you slowly come back to life and realize you deserve so much more❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 05:58 PM |
| 27 | What is your all-time favorite FDS post?I loved that one, she was so unbothered and not willing to take any disrespect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 10:41 PM |
| 22 | WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLEFor sure. It took years to even admit it happened. More years to finally tell someone. Even more years to get therapy. So clearly not all therapists are trained in trauma or abuse; always do research when looking for a therapist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 01:15 AM |
| 23 | WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLEHer defense was because he attempted something once, that it should not still impact me 25 years later. In many ways it did not, but in relationships with men, it absolutely did. People are gonna feel like you should get over things, who knows what she was taught. But I was there. When it happened i was there and no one takes away how I felt then and how I feel now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 01:12 AM |
| 103 | WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLEMy bio dad tried this w me and it really messed with me. I remember I told a trusted friend and they were like “did he do drugs? Drink? There has to be a reason??” yeah. The reason is that he’s depraved and a pedofile. And absolutely arrogant to believe I’d be interested and that it could ever ever be okay. I’ve even had therapists say “it happened so long ago, it shouldn’t impact your life” but it does. There’s a special kind of fucked up that this situation produces; when a man wants to fuck h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 10:47 PM |
| 38 | If this has been posted before please remove it. But sisters, this is where 50-50 will get you. It's their kid, but her bills.True! I feel like 50k is good for rural only lol, or low cost areas like vegas or tennesse. Def not California or NYC. Even in a small town in California, 50k is not enough. (I grew up in a small town in Cali) and honestly, 50k for a man entering his 40s? It’s a no for me, I make double that and I’m 40. I couldn’t afford him lol!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 04:06 PM |
| 12 | If this has been posted before please remove it. But sisters, this is where 50-50 will get you. It's their kid, but her bills.Just get child support at this point. Then he’ll have to contribute towards his child🙄 Sad how women get themselves into these situations....we really need to have hard conversations with our daughters. Trust I’m going to. I’ll be pissed if she marries a low life. I’m not even putting it into existence so strike that remark. It simply isn’t going down that way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 04:02 PM |
| 16 | Do FDS rules change for dating a celebrity?Ha! My ex husband is a celebrity, I wish I would have had FDS back then. They are literally no different from any other man. My biggest mistake was giving him passes regarding his behavior because he was “famous” and “rich.” He turned out to be the absolute worst. Don’t be fooled by any man. Period. Apply all the rules no matter the man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 09:20 PM |
| 5 | What are your thoughts on being married to a man who works seasonally and is away several months a year?Exactly. Even men who hang out at work late, like all the time, when they have responsibilities is a big no no for me. Again, I’m not doing everything while you have a grand ole time. In fact that’s what I told my ex husband, if he continued to go out and didnt help around the house I would leave him bc I’d rather be single. I told him he was trying to make me masculine and I didn’t appreciate it. I felt hard and pissed off all the time.....anyway I left and even though more is on my plate, I en… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 12:22 PM |
| 2 | What are your thoughts on being married to a man who works seasonally and is away several months a year?Smh! Absolutely not for me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 03:33 AM |
| 6 | Guy records a disturbing, upsetting conversation between him and his exasperated mother after she finds a tiger plushie he modified with a fleshlight. He refuses to go on family trip unless he can bring it with him.Yep. I’m a parent and this line of thinking hits | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 10:26 PM |
| 101 | What are your thoughts on being married to a man who works seasonally and is away several months a year?They could literally have a whole other life and family on the side. It’s a no for me. Also I’m not entering marriage and then having all the responsibilities dumped on me while he travels the world. Nope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 06:00 PM |
| 5 | Women aren’t difficult nor are they a burden.Be strong girl❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 12:09 AM |
| 42 | Women aren’t difficult nor are they a burden.This. My sister told me that she gets upset at her ex but she’s afraid to find someone new because she gets cranky, annoyed and tired. I told her maybe when she met a new guy that respected her, he wouldn’t dump all the housework on her, he wouldn’t scream that he doesn’t want to watch her kid and he would want to help you instead of giving you goals that you literally cannot reach and then punishing you for it. Literally what her boyfriend is doing now. We aren’t defined by how we react when we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 06:15 PM |
| 6 | Finally escaped 3yr relationship as a Cluster-B abuse survivorTherapy does help, along with no contact. The hardest I faced when dealing with now abusive personality disordered ex was that I felt responsible. I felt to blame that I allowed him to manipulate me; I allowed myself to stay despite glaring red flags; I allowed myself to be tricked; I should have know better. something changed in myself - for a long time, I simply could not see the joy in life because my mindset had been altered by the abuse That was a tough time. Nowadays I vaguely recall the s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 03:54 PM |
| 5 | "He doesn’t like real things that are right in front of his face. He likes imaginary things better."I’ve also read her work for years. It always hits whenever I need it the most. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 02:36 AM |
| 12 | How to find out if he honestly watches porn or notExactly. That’s why you avoid these long paragraphs when you break up with men. Just be like “it isn’t working out” and dip. That way they can’t enter another relationship by fraud, using your information. Don’t let anyone bully you or try to negotiate why you should be with them. It’s on them. They need to work on themselves. We dont need to help them figure it out for the next person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 06:08 PM |
| 4 | Wife threw cheating husband and friend out of her house and proceeds to divorce him intending to get full custody of kids. Commenter decides to blame HER for not being home to look after the kids.“Womenz” lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 02:30 PM |
| 4 | Wife threw cheating husband and friend out of her house and proceeds to divorce him intending to get full custody of kids. Commenter decides to blame HER for not being home to look after the kids.True! I agree they’re probably living off their relative, most likely a woman....as they waste their existence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 02:29 PM |
| 165 | Wife threw cheating husband and friend out of her house and proceeds to divorce him intending to get full custody of kids. Commenter decides to blame HER for not being home to look after the kids.You can lose custody to reckless behavior and cheating with a woman in the next room while having a child watch the other children fall under that. Her having to work isn’t important. But menz are gonna menz lol, men love to comment thru the internet while they’re on break from their GameStop cashiering position. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 03:45 AM |
| 32 | FDSers in NYC, what’s it like?I’ve lived in NYC for 20 years...born and raised in California and moved out here when I was 18. the dating scene. You might do all right if you date a transplant tbh. Most local men are just soooo boring and into happy hours. Most men don’t drive. There are a high number of college grads that make money, but they’re broke paying 2k for an apartment and 2k for their loans. Lots of alcoholics and smokers, sigh. network? You can be friends with people at work for sure, and use them to springboard … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 01:51 AM |
| 47 | What happened to first dates?I have younger friends and my niece is 21, men may expect sex on the first date but they aren’t getting it lol. I’ve never been asked for sex on a first date but if I was, I’d decline and that’s that. Men don’t make me pay either. If a man was like “I paid for dinner so I should get sex” I’d laugh sooooo hard. It’s the quality of men you allow in your life. Just cut them off and keep it moving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 10:01 PM |
| 7 | Would you consider her a pickme ? I feel like I understand her message but it seems like she’s using this for validation given the men in her comments...It doesn’t even make sense, Kings were rich and didn’t need anything from a Queen but her baby | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 09:57 PM |
| 41 | Here's What Testing 5,000 Backlogged Rape Kits Just Told Us About RapistsAlmost 5000 rapes in one county. Just one county. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 04:25 PM |
| 5 | beware of men that aren't over their EX and the subtle ways they let you knowSo..I had a guy I knew from high school and he really liked me. About ten years out of high school, we reconnected but he had a girlfriend and it was a bit strange bc I had a boyfriend as well. We were just friendly but I started to feel like it was crossing a line so I ended things. A few years later he reached again, this time we were both single so we pursued a relationship. It was bad, he was abusive, but when I ended things he just wouldn’t let go and stalked me for a while. Things have bee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 04:21 PM |
| 12 | Pick-mes, please stop embarrassing yourselves. I hope she's learned her lesson after thisHmmm. Guess it depends. I’ve always had Spanish men treat me very well and provide long term. It’s just hard for me to be attracted to them long term lol...For me, I’ve learned that any man’s money will run low if they aren’t financially stable. So I don’t date broke men, regardless of race. Because our lifestyles won’t mesh long term. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 04:12 PM |
| 31 | Yet another reminder why you vet men, so this won't be your future. It's way too common. No thanksSame and it was so disrespectful. I felt like I was a servant and it made me soooo sad. Now I’m single but I’m happy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 09:26 PM |
| 38 | The misogyny of the Cooling off policy re: DivorceI requested a divorce after the required 6 months and then had to do mediation. This was July 2017. Due to mediation being super slow, and them not returning calls, we didn’t complete mediation and sign a separation agreement until November 2018. The divorce was finalized March 2019. Thankfully we did not have to wait the full year of separation that some states require. It still took entirely too long and it was def skewed towards my ex husband. At one point he accused me of being vegan (I was … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 05:03 PM |
| 17 | 50/50 Relationships are NOT equal. It’s a SCAM, ladies.I don’t believe in love languages anymore. I feel it puts unnecessary pressure on the WOMAN to adjust their behavior to suit a man. More women than men read it anyway, 🤷🏽♀️. A mans love language could be acts of service but I don’t have to do anything about it. YALL ARE ALIGNED OR YALL ARE INCOMPATIBLE. I’m not changing myself to align for a man. I don’t care what his love language is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 07:23 PM |
| 2 | Women in their 30s are more attractive than women in their 20s.Yes I also agree. My face was sooo fat lol when I was in my twenties and now I’m 40 and it slimmed out. I look at myself and I’m amazed how fine I am! I mean my beauty...whew!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 04:50 PM |
| 22 | Reminder to keep standards high this Valentine’s DayHe can totally order food and have it delivered. It’s always gonna be the effort for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 04:24 PM |
| 42 | 2 Fantastic articles dispelling the myths of family Court being biased against fathersI’m glad this was posted. Before women had the right to vote or really had any rights at all, when women married, their wealth became their husbands to control fully. Men were granted sole custody of children, always. This is why so many women were trapped and Susan B Anthony and other suffrage rights women fought so hard to change this. if you do any thing today, take a moment and read Wikipedia’s bio of Susan B Anthony to really grasp how little women had and how they were viewed. men are slow… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 07:09 PM |
| 165 | Why is it “gross” for women to have body hair despite the fact that every adult woman's body naturally grows hair, but when a guy has hair on his body and armpits it's okay?Men love to police women’s bodies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 07:04 PM |
| 7 | I hate that we always have to expect the worst of them.I reallly like her but I don’t think she has IG 😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 05:07 PM |
| 41 | Wow dude, wow..! Don’t you think you gotta figure out how to make WOMEN say “wow” first..?First thing I saw! Issa no for me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 04:59 PM |
| 5 | "it's just biology" is psuedoscience that LVM gravitate to. In the past it was used to justify slavery and racism. And now it's used to justify mistreatment of women.I love this and appreciate this so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 12:14 AM |
| 20 | "it's just biology" is psuedoscience that LVM gravitate to. In the past it was used to justify slavery and racism. And now it's used to justify mistreatment of women.It’s why so many women died in the 1800-1900s, because childbirth combined with extremely young maternal age is VERY high risk. I also agree that the “biology” argument is stupid and would find myself enraged when I read these articles. But men have been trying to con us since the beginning of time. Read any period books and you’ll see....men thought we would be affected by vulgar words ( we weren’t) men thought women had no interest in politics (we did) men thought we wanted to be married and g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 12:12 AM |
| 3 | The words we use: Is he a male or a man? Is she a female or a woman?I work in legal, we use female and male in reporting and reports, unless specified. For example, someone who identified as they/them would addressed as such during the report and it would be noted in a footnote that they requested this pronoun. We do not use woman or man. example : a female staff member, who told {company} that she wished to remain anonymous, reported that she observed a male staff member who she later identified as (name) groping (name). however in casual conversation I would n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 12:54 AM |
| 22 | Thank you for saving me!I’m so happy for you for leaving! And I hope you continue to choose yourself❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 12:47 AM |
| 4 | Tell me why Valentine's Day is worth celebrating.I love Valentine’s Day! I never even had a valentine in HS lol, my stepdad would buy my sisters and I chocolates and candy and place it on my bed so I would see it as soon as I got home from school. I love the holiday bc it’s nice to have a day reserved for all kinds of love, romantic or otherwise. I use it now as a way to indulge in all the seasonal treats and my daughters love it. I mean, it doesn’t have to be about a sexual relationship. I guess since it wasn’t like that for me in the beginni… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 12:44 AM |
| 6 | Before FDS I told myself it was a *few bad apples*; even though in reality it was 90% of men I encountered. Ladies, these are not *a couple of bad seeds* in a sea of princes. HVM are rare. Remember this and vet accordingly.I think divorced men are not too bad, bc they have at least been married and at some point, committed legally to their ex spouse. A 50 year unmarried man (never married) with or without kids is such a huge red flag to me. But you do have vet stronger with them, just like men that have children. I’ve found that many times they were the problem or have lingering issues and rightfully should be passed on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 10:36 PM |
| 34 | Before FDS I told myself it was a *few bad apples*; even though in reality it was 90% of men I encountered. Ladies, these are not *a couple of bad seeds* in a sea of princes. HVM are rare. Remember this and vet accordingly.Society brainwashes women to stay and deal with it. You are taught at a young age to bend. Lvm just follow the script | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 10:33 PM |
| 29 | Rape by deceptionIt’s “relationship by fraud.” And men should be held accountable for it, because they are out here actively ruining lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 07:18 PM |
| 2 | Do LVM’s treat the next girl well?They attempt to use your moves or relationship to have a higher love bombing, but they cannot maintain it. Such is the way with abusive men. They cannot maintain being good, they prefer to abuse. The nicer they start off the meaner they will be when the mask falls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 08:54 PM |
| 2 | Do LVM’s treat the next girl well?The worst is when the new woman is toxic and feels like she is better, based off what he said. She loves the attention, may have even cheated with him while he was with you. She posts as excessively as he does, so in the end, they are both abusing you. However she doesn’t realize that it will all turn. You were once terrible, now he will triangulate your greatness with her. She will fall so much harder than you ever could, because she flew so high with the lovebombing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 08:51 PM |
| 11 | I made a terrible decision of checking my ex's instagram and now I feel awfilLol! The second one- posts too little and is hiding- is def me!!! I post so little because I’m def hiding and plotting 🤣🤣 No one knows what goes on with me. I have a YouTube where I also hide. This account on Reddit is also a hidden one, but it’s my favorite so I use it more than my real one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 03:16 PM |
| 13 | I made a terrible decision of checking my ex's instagram and now I feel awfilAww, I’m sorry you feel awful. I used to check my exes insta as well. He posted like crazy after we broke up and it was very hurtful to see him “so in love” with his new person. I def think some exes, who may be narcissists, use social media as a weapon. They try to hurt you by splashing new supply, and try to show the world that you were the problem, not them. they won’t show the problems but sometimes you can see them. I used to see excessive, over the top posts, it reminded me how excessive (… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 03:11 PM |
| 47 | And there it isBasically was the story of my life, until I got out. The amount of policing a lvm man does to his partner is unbelievable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 04:25 PM |
| 2 | This post on the front page makes me want to barfLol! 🎶 “It’s so harrrrrddd, to say goodbye....to yesterday... 🎶 He’s a bum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 09:31 PM |
| 96 | Men who obsess over ”being dominant in bed” and defend their right (entitlement) to be soLiterally the bedroom is the only place where these type of men feel “safe” enough to expose their real feelings, their hatred for women. It’s not kink shaming it’s a fact. It’s the man’s last stand. They are losing in education, losing at parenthood, losing at making any real money. The lifestyle they saw growing up, they can’t afford. They rage at women in the bedroom. And now that women are collectively requiring more and not engaging in casual sex, they are enraged. They hate women. Period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 09:08 PM |
| 34 | This post on the front page makes me want to barfHe probably made way more than she did. For me it was 25% the first child, I think 15% the second?? Guess what, kids aren’t cheap. However, he was entitled to a free lawyer and it sounds like this was all settled in mediation. He could have went to court. He could have done a side agreement with the ex. Wonder why it didn’t happen? No mention to how the marriage went, just that the wife cheated and dipped out. I also dipped out a 15 year relationship and it shouldn’t have been a surprise, ex had… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 07:22 PM |
| 4 | Men want to trick you into doing it ALL but won't even pay for your dinner or celebrate your birthday anymore. Dont fall for it.Exactly. And thank you! I’m not bitter about anything, just relieved that I’m in such a happy frame of mind now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 07:04 PM |
| 15 | Men want to trick you into doing it ALL but won't even pay for your dinner or celebrate your birthday anymore. Dont fall for it.Yep. My ex husband did sooo little. He was perfectly content to be in a dirty house and I constantly had to clean bc I can’t live like that. He would just toss clothes and empty packages on the ground and step on them, not caring if it spilled or caused the clothing to get dirtier. the worst is that he policed me like crazy. When I first met him, I would take my laundry to get done (I live in nyc) and it cost 20 bucks, but it was worth it bc I didn’t have to fight over machines. Let me tell you,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 05:59 PM |
| 6 | Dita Von Teese breaks her silence on Brian Warner aka "Marilyn Manson"Yep. Talking about abuse is really tricky because most people believe the victim could just “walk away”. Or, why weren’t they strong enough to stop it??! Anyway it’s a huge blame game and it doesn’t stop. No matter what she said she would be attacked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 02:53 PM |
| 3 | Dita Von Teese breaks her silence on Brian Warner aka "Marilyn Manson"Yeah sometimes it’s better to just be passive and be left alone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 02:51 PM |
| 4 | Dita Von Teese breaks her silence on Brian Warner aka "Marilyn Manson"Exactly. Also who wants to talk about a cheating ex from ten years ago? Smh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 02:51 PM |
| 48 | Dita Von Teese breaks her silence on Brian Warner aka "Marilyn Manson"I mean, it’s just a statement. We don’t know the truth behind it, she could have signed something not to disparage him, etc. So many women remain silent about past abuse because it is embarrassing, humiliating, etc etc. Even me - I go back and forth about my last ex....I prefer to not acknowledge the relationship and act like he doesn’t exist. Y’all are strangers so I discuss a bit freely, but friends don’t know anything at all. I’ve never even said his name to my therapist. I just refer to him … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 05:29 PM |
| 8 | There should be a website where we can leave reviews for men we've dated.I’ve talked about this before, but a man I followed in Quora made a FB page called “daffodil.” He was the one who I first heard about men entering relationships by fraud. The FB group was private but one day he posted (he was gay) his partners photos and why they were narcissists and then everyone in the group did it. I had posted a pic of my ex, right after he had abused me and even though I didn’t say anything about that incident, the women asked me if he had just abused me because he looked “… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 08:49 PM |
| 6 | Held off on sex, it was horribleThis is what goes thru my head when I think about me being with a man when I’m elderly 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 04:48 PM |
| 9 | men having high body counts and wanting a romantic relationship?A lot of women are commenting that he probably has stds and/or herpes and HPV...lol, it’s possible he’s been tested and had nothing. Or he could have been tested, caught gonnorhea and got it treated. We just don’t know. I think being 20 with 63 partners is concerning because he probably started having sex around 15/16, so it’s a lot per year. If I were a virgin, I’d probably pass. He could be clean now, but the high number is a turnoff. They obviously weren’t relationships. Even having sex w a p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 02:19 PM |
| 14 | I unfollowed my ex’s family on social mediaDon’t feel bad! Really, don’t. They are his family and you aren’t tied to them. When I broke up with my ex, I was still friends with his mom on Facebook. A few months afterward (when I spoke to him and refused to get back with him) all of a sudden his mom was getting tagged in videos of him and his new girlfriend, which showed up on my timeline. She never even commented - my ex dad (whom the mom divorced bc he was abusive) tagged her. I kept getting triggered but I held on bc we were cool wo my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 02:07 PM |
| 20 | Held off on sex, it was horribleYes you hit it exactly. My ex always wanted me to position myself a certain way, I had to lie on my stomach in a middle split and I feel like it was annoying and stupid. I feel like my ex triangulated as well, since the “other women weren’t as flexible.” Which I’m def not lol 🤣 I’ve learned it’s just to make you work harder, to be proud to be different🙄 it’s pick me behavior. Now I’m like hard stop 🛑 because I’m not going to be 70, having to be in a split 🙄 no, just no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 01:32 AM |
| 27 | Held off on sex, it was horribleThis is how I vet sex. Is there a connection? Do I feel awkward or weird during sex, or am I comfortable? Do I feel like we’re just doing the act of sex, or do I feel resigned about it already? okay, it’s over. How do I feel now? Do I feel warm and happy? Or do I feel like crying? Do I feel confused! Do I feel like the person I like and the person I just had sex with..are the same? There has been times when I felt such a negative energy afterwards that I burst into tears when they left. do I wan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 11:31 PM |
| 75 | Held off on sex, it was horribleIt is a big, big issue that isn’t discussed enough. My ex husband went from cumming too fast to never cumming. He’d last for hours and I always took it personally that he never came. I dealt with it for years before I learned that he watched porn and masturbated multiple times a day. Not cumming created such a disconnect and I will never be with a man that has those tendencies ever again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 08:55 PM |
| 8 | Organised Religion is the patriarchy’s weapon. The tenements are written by men for men, to help keep women under - and we willingly bow our heads and slip our own necks in the yoke. Look at the things you are taught criticallyExactly. They are base level individuals. Hence the raging that exists even now...in this so called modern world. Any man griping that sex is a need is pure trash. No man is entitled to ANYTHING from a woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 02:34 PM |
| 9 | Organised Religion is the patriarchy’s weapon. The tenements are written by men for men, to help keep women under - and we willingly bow our heads and slip our own necks in the yoke. Look at the things you are taught criticallyI think some people find comfort in the Bible, as I have, but I’ve always skimmed over the parts about women serving the husbands or other trash because that’s how it was during that time. There was polygamy, which I hate, but that’s how people got down back then. I’m glad I live in a somewhat modern world. I’m glad for my rights. I’m drawn to the Bible because even though it has been translated to benefit men, I can feel the deeper message. I don’t go to church I’m def more spiritual. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 02:32 PM |
| 2 | Vegan FDS ladies, what do we think of vegan men?I’ve dated a vegan man and he was abusive. He also wanted any future children to be raised vegan, but I wouldn’t commit to that (even though at the time I was vegetarian) I’ve learned by having children you never know what to expect. And if a baby isn’t thriving on a vegan diet and you insist on continuing that diet, you are at risk for being accused of child abuse. Same with someone I knew- only wanted to feed her baby soy formula and baby was allergic 🤦🏽♀️ So it’s complex bc I know people hav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 09:36 PM |
| 14 | Hot Take: There is no 'way' to meet a High Value ManOmg same. I have more money and time for myself. I also get to focus on my interests and hobbies, because my ex wanted everything to be about him. The only thing that’s hard is childcare, which is why I suggest making sure you can afford a child before having one, but my children are almost at the age where they can be “latchkey” kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 08:26 PM |
| 7 | Y’all be safeWhere were y’all in 2009?!? I needed y’all😩😩😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 04:47 PM |
| 8 | Y’all be safeNah, I got a few marriages left in me ☺️ Never with a lowlife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 04:47 PM |
| 27 | Y’all be safeIt’s not part of a marriage agreement to split expenses lol or even chores, that’s just what that poster believes. Clearly there are subs on here that contradict that 🤦🏽♀️If you are dating and the man is providing more, why would that change upon marriage? FDS promotes setting the standards high while dating so they carry on through marriage. The original OP chooses to split and that’s fine (if it works for her) but I know many married couples where the man pays the majority of expenses and it’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 02:50 PM |
| 12 | Y’all be safeI always think they are two separate issues tbh. At any point people change, but you can protect your interests prior to marriage (prenup) and marriage can be a beautiful thing. It’s okay if people grow apart, sometimes things end, but we deserve good experiences. You may change, he may change, but we don’t know what the future holds. It could also be a lovely, lovely time. with children, you can be child free, you can have a child with him, or you can have your own child with a donor. I always … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 02:45 PM |
| 18 | Y’all be safeYou’ll have to split your money when you divorce, unless it’s pre marriage. Hopefully you won’t have to pay alimony. I had 20k in savings, which my ex’s lawyer tried to obtain half....luckily it was all before we got married so he didn’t get a cent! I was still responsible for paying half of our credit cards though. Luckily, he didn’t want to pay mine, so we noted that in court. But I could have totally been responsible for half his debt if he felt like being petty. Never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 02:38 PM |
| 17 | Client Sent Me A Nude At WorkYou can also file with the local EEOC for sexual harassment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 04:11 PM |
| 7 | You deserve to have high standards even if you are overweight.Her flaws, according to my ex: * requiring that her man be 6 feet when she was 5’2 * wearing “ratty” wigs * hair was too short * (Because not all women have 6 packs even if they are skinny) making a man have one but not having it yourself * acting demanding and bossy * a drunk | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 12:38 AM |
| 7 | Hot Take: Therapy is No Substitute for MoralityThis is so, so true. I was once fooled by a “spiritual”man, who seemed kind, gentle, loving.....he was terribly abusive. The worst man I have ever dated. He viewed morals as something to break. He didn’t believe in God bc he wanted no rules in life. He wanted to have many wives and believed this was his right because it happened in the past. Society outlawed it. Women “wanted” it. Some things to note: a lack of morals was noticed and he was judged for it. He was passed over on jobs, and overall … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 09:52 PM |
| 13 | Saw multiple men repost this on FB - especially the "if I'm giving her (money), she giving me money" took me out... What's your take on that ladies?I don’t do 50/50. I may consider 90/10. But I’m def not doing this list FOH. If a man doesn’t want to provide, that’s fine. He can get with a pick me and I’ll get with someone else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 09:41 PM |
| 101 | Women should approach dating and life with a sense of stoicismBeing stoic is such a wonderful mentality to have. Before I even knew what it was, I had practiced it a bit in my younger years, especially regarding friendships. I just went with the flow, didn’t force things, didn’t assume, and def did not react to things out of my control. With men, I was very direct and quick to cut off with bad behavior. I lost myself along the way, but the first thing I did when I divorced is read about stoicism and it felt like coming home. Edit: when my last ex attempted… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 09:35 PM |
| 15 | You deserve to have high standards even if you are overweight.He was sooo angry,🙄 arguing with me trying to point out her flaws. My ex is so insecure. It is what it is🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 09:31 PM |
| 17 | You deserve to have high standards even if you are overweight.Exactly! My friend taught me so much about being high value. Women helping women is such a blessing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 09:29 PM |
| 3 | The Post-Breakup Revenge Glo Up: Opinions?I was with my exhusband for 14 years so I understand the numbness and also understand why you feel like telling him anything would be useless- you probably told him over and over in the 12 years! Strangely, getting over him was easy for me. He was given soooo many chances. My last ex was harder because I was soooo open for love. Anyway, lesson learned from both! It’ll all be okay. What helped me for narcs was watching narc videos. That’s way I was like “this is how they are, they are abusive” an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 04:42 PM |
| 112 | You deserve to have high standards even if you are overweight.Story time! I had a friend that my ex husband hated. She was pretty, with moss green eyes ( really green eyes are so striking!). She was slight overweight, I’d say she was maybe a 14? It was hard for me to tell because she looked so nice in clothing. Anyway, one day I’m telling my ex that my friend only dates men that are over 6 feet with a 6 pack. My ex (who is 5’6 and def does not have a 6 pack) was in a fury. I remember being really confused. He raged that she didn’t have the right to make th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 04:36 PM |
| 146 | The Post-Breakup Revenge Glo Up: Opinions?I’m sorry that you’re still in your stage of grief about the end of your relationship. It’s a terrible place to be, and no one can tell you how long it will last. For some, it’s a few months, for others, it’s a few years. I’m still recovering from my last relationship and it’s been two years. I would say I’m 90% there. I used to think like you, so I worked out super intensely, and I just wanted to be this super interesting, exciting person that my ex lost. Somewhere along the way, I began to get… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 10:53 PM |
| 89 | A Woman Is Going Viral For Sharing How A Man Shamed Her For Not Sleeping With Him, And Her Message Is So ImportantAbusive and predatory men ALWAYS enter a relationship by fraud. ALWAYS. They will not obtain a woman if they are upfront about their intentions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 04:47 AM |
| 77 | Divorced Women of FDSI’ve been divorced since 2019. EDIT: I was a forever girlfriend for about 12 years, got married Dec 2016, I asked for divorce January 2017. Separated (he moved out) July 2017. I had been carrying my ex for years. He was successful, but ran through money. We had very little material wealth, because he wouldn’t invest in the family and I was too busy paying all the bills. He cheated in 2015, but I stayed bc of the advice of friends (we have daughters as well) but I don’t know, after I got married,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 11:48 PM |
| 35 | Genetic counseling before having childrenI did genetic testing prior to pregnancy (was required for IVF) and there was nothing to indicate that one of my daughters would have autism. You can do genetic testing but also obtain medical history by asking your future partner. Alcoholism can be seen in generations, as well as abuse and some mental disorders. Also, you just really never know. That’s why you pick a good partner and make sure you are ready to have a child financially. Literally anything could happen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 08:22 PM |
| 7 | Social Media and including your partner in your display picture: Pickmes usually have this habit... are your thoughts on this?I saw my ex new girlfriend create a new account with her, her boyfriend (my ex) and his child for the profile pic. I wondered what the child’s mother thought about it....and she still had her own personal account. Seemed like a weird flex lol. Also in the beginning my ex posted her in his stories only (but like 50a day) and then before I stopped looking, he had stopped posting and she tagged him only with her photos. But I agree. Heavy posting, saying you’re in bliss ...it all just seems so cont… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 01:58 AM |
| 5 | Why a man taking drugs is an immediate disqualifier (yes, even cannabis)I was a heavy stoner in high school, every day, multiple times a day. I stopped when I began adulting bc I had to random drug tests. I do think weed helps when you’re sick. I was super sick and couldn’t eat (like needs surgery sick, not a cold sick) and the medication made me nauseous. The weed helped my nausea and gave me an appetite. But I saw the troubling habits reform (laziness, not giving a fuck about anything) soon as soon as I got better I stopped. Overall, drugs and heavy drinking are d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 06:03 PM |
| 5 | “Tell me the moment you realized you were gonna get a divorce...”We had gotten married after being together for about 14 years. 🙄 about 6 months in, we argued and he screamed “you forced me to have kids! You forced me to get married!” Yep, because that’s what I do, physically make men go to IVF treatments to have children, and physically make men show up for their weddings. Divorced. on another note, with my ex (not ex husband) we were at the beach with his daughter. She threw some sand at him and we all laughed. Later, his daughter and I were sitting by each… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 02:47 PM |
| 12 | Childish mutant spends nearly $10k on video games as his wife wears literal rags. But not to worry! He’s a “good husband and father, otherwise” 😅 Anyways, wifey just needs to know how to raise this minor topic while respecting hubby’s “financial autonomy” 🥺No “good” person steals from their family. He’s pure trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 11:34 PM |
| 10 | Emotional F*ckbois: The Subtlest Gaslighters of AllThey are high functioning - probably could fool a medical professional but they can never maintain their energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 11:33 PM |
| 47 | The vibes of liberal men towards me since I started with FDSI agree. At least with conservative men I can just walk away. These liberal men are soooo toxic. They’ll say “you’re so strong” with a sneer on their face. They be so adamant that you’re on your “period.” But in the same breath, women are goddesses and should have everything the world can offer. They’re toxic, most lie, and they almost always enter relationships by fraud. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 04:00 PM |
| 5 | I've decided to not date or sleep with men for an entire year.I’m on year 2. I had dumped my abusive ex in 2018 and it was hard to get over. But then, I made an agreement with the universe (God and Gods) that if I didn’t have sex, to be blessed with money to fulfill my dreams. Last year I paid off 18k towards my debt. I put that sexual energy into me instead. I also go to therapy because I don’t want to be abused again. And I don’t believe in casual sex....men don’t deserve it and it steals my energy. I don’t care if I never have a ex again I’m never lower… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 03:46 PM |
| 14 | Stats about women killed by men in "sex game gone wrong/BDSM" defense cases. (Age gap relationship, man had previous criminal record, women often worked in caring professions that pay low wages, etc.)Yep. After that I kept a knife in my purse and under my pillow. I also practice with it, which sounds strange- but you have to be comfortable with a blade. You can even look up hand to hand combat that they teach in basic training. The internet is amazing. My goal for this year is to practice my shadow boxing, (I hate boxing in real life) learn hand to hand and improve my knife skills. All via the internet. I will not get caught unawares ever again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 01:52 PM |
| 56 | Stats about women killed by men in "sex game gone wrong/BDSM" defense cases. (Age gap relationship, man had previous criminal record, women often worked in caring professions that pay low wages, etc.)I was strangled during sex once, I never approved it and it literally came out of nowhere. It was hard enough and prolonged; I couldn’t breathe and I struggled...I also had pain in my collarbone area for a few days afterwards. I only spoke to him once afterwards, he claimed he started therapy and that I should attend. I later found out he had a girlfriend during this time and eventually they broke up. I never asked about him but had a former friend who would tell me about his comings and going’s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 10:22 PM |
| 1 | This is SO hilarious time so I just had to post it! Explanation in the comments...Right?? I’m so busy. I don’t even watch TV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 04:27 PM |
| 1 | This is SO hilarious time so I just had to post it! Explanation in the comments...Trust me it’s not having kids lol. They only change is there is no other option. My ex husband comes over to see our daughters and I’ll go in my room to give them time alone- sometimes I randomly come out and they are asking him questions and he ignores them as he frantically pushes his cell buttons to play his dumb ass video game. He had to work since I’ve kicked him out and we divorced, but he has never changed and never will. Having kids only changed me, because I feel the mounting pressure t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 01:56 AM |
| 41 | My girlfriend always made me feel so secure when I was the one fucking other people and refusing to get married. What happened???Or perhaps the new man wants to be monogamous? It seems more appealing that what she’s working with atm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 12:31 AM |
| 6 | Your friendly reminder that unicorn hunting and polyamory are one and the same. Both are bad news for you.Exactly. You know, I feel like I was traumatized by my experience, even though I didn’t partake either. The constant “plowing through boundaries,” as you say, really hurt my soul. I don’t like having sex with friends. And it made me actually feel bad that I couldn’t change my mind about it. I never felt less enlightened or less mature though- that’s bullshit. But I did feel like a loser for not wanting to be poly. I remember he once said “instead of approaching it w negativity, why dont you appr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 04:35 PM |
| 30 | Your friendly reminder that unicorn hunting and polyamory are one and the same. Both are bad news for you.I also agree it’s a scam. I tried to be open minded about it, but it’s so stupid to me. Even the way I was approached about it reeked of fraud and deceit. “If I tell anyone I’m poly on the first date, they aren’t interested so I have to get to know them first.” (Enter a relationship by fraud) “I want many women but I can be the only man.” (I’m a fuckboy) “I want everyone to contribute to our financial pot and live together” (I will not be contributing, just y’all womenz) “If I can’t be poly I wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 04:00 AM |
| 7 | This New York Times article might have confirmed my belief in the patriarchy. Are you fucking kidding me.... there is NO SHORTAGE OF SPERM!!!Who wants a pandemic baby? Horrifying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 11:44 PM |
| 6 | Vintage queen shit.Curved with a machete | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 11:35 PM |
| 4 | FDS Art Therapy - I drew my ex from a 5 year situationship😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 04:20 PM |
| 14 | What is an early sign of LVM behavior that makes you drop someone REAL quick?If they eyeball women, at any time, while with me. This goes for my male friends as well- idgaf, please don’t disrespect me by drooling over some woman. Even worse if he starts a convo with her and she’s standing there awkwardly, because she doesn’t know if he’s in a relationship with me or not. Nope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 02:33 AM |
| 34 | I just found out that my partner of the past six years stole $7,000 dollars from me.True. Esp if he’s a narcissist, they hate being exposed. I threatened to expose my ex and he repaid me 4K. I didn’t have to go to court thank god. But these men are terrible. Good luck! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 10:08 PM |
| 71 | I just found out that my partner of the past six years stole $7,000 dollars from me.You make mistakes and learn. Just because you find about FDS doesnt mean your life magically changes overnight. You can still get duped, but hopefully it’s a shorter time and you don’t have a child with them. Also you block and walk away faster. I would take him to small claims court if you can bc that’s a lot of money. But don’t be so hard on yourself. You have to keep your foot on everyone’s neck, including your own. Be accountable and learn. But also recognize that you’re human. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 06:57 PM |
| 65 | A question to FDS members: why do you think there are women who are against FDS?Some women just feel like they know everything🙄 It usually takes getting hurt to realize you don’t know shit about men and how they process relationships. I used to feel proud for paying for things. The reality is I had low self worth and didn’t believe anyone would stay with me otherwise. It’s a pick me dance. Now I don’t care, I’m back to the vibe I had in high school, I don’t pay and I’m enjoying my hobbies and living life. Somewhere down the line, life got me twisted and that’s not happening… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 08:44 PM |
| 51 | Ladies, how much do men you date tend to spend on you, per month, during the early phase?If a man can’t afford you, he should not be dating. A woman will cost money for the rest of her life. You will always need to provide otherwise someone else will. 🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 08:41 PM |
| 2 | Separate the need for a man from your desire to have childrenIf you have good childcare and can afford it, or even a cleaning service from time to time, raising children can be pleasurable. The heavy cleaning and lack of childcare (for breaks) can make it tough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 02:09 PM |
| 7 | The divorce forums are sobering...Exactly! Mine didn’t have a job either! I used to be soo triggered back then. Couldn’t enjoy anything because he was sucking my life away. And the girl was younger too. But you know what? It’s all a dream until she starts looking at my ex for money and help. It’s all paradise lol!!!! You gonna keep dreaming lol! They deserve each other, you won! We are free 💫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 05:16 AM |
| 15 | The divorce forums are sobering...Exactly. I cant be with someone that I have to worry if they are cheating on me. My relationships have to make me feel safe. Otherwise what is the point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 10:41 PM |
| 27 | The divorce forums are sobering...Girl, you ain’t got to tell me! I feel the same way. Cheating is soooo hurtful. I didn’t tell anyone but my “best friend” and she was like for me to stay with him. I stayed for a year, and he still treated me like shit, making me go out all hours of the night (because otherwise I was boring, never mind I was working, paying all the bills and had twin babies) and then I got married! Girl not even a month after I signed the marriage license I was like “I cannot be at war with myself, I’m all I got… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 10:38 PM |
| 17 | Separate the need for a man from your desire to have childrenI did IVF in 2009, it was covered by my job. I just paid for copays. I also wanted a sperm donor bc I was not married at the time. My ex (who later became my husband, but is now an ex) tried to shame me so I let him participate. Big mistake. It was really radical for me at the time, to want a sperm donor even in a long term relationship. If only I had FDS back then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 10:26 PM |
| 92 | The divorce forums are sobering...You have to be prepared to walk away. You have to believe in your value. And you have to understand that men will say anything. ANYTHING. I divorced my ex about a year after I caught him cheating. To this day, he claims all he did was kiss her🙄 The messages I saw indicated that he was in love with her. It is those messages I remember whenever I think I made a mistake. Some people would tell me “damn, you threw away 15 years over a kiss?” I didn’t throw anything away but the trash. It was all him… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 08:28 PM |
| 22 | Hot Tip: If you have to consult Google to see if his behavior is okay, it's time to dump him, sis.It’s time to dump for sure, but don’t be ashamed of obtaining knowledge, ever! Remember, most of our moms and def grandmas did not have access to the internet. They had to rely on other women, most who were caught in the same toxic trap. When I was in my late teens/early 20s (2000s) I realized my mom was super toxic and nothing I did would stop her. I ended up keeping low contact with her. This is called grey rocking, and I discovered it and narcissism when I began researching her behavior. So y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 05:00 PM |
| 7 | I want it, I get it!Very pretty 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 04:11 AM |
| 3 | Thoughts on this?People can change. But I believe it is excruciatingly hard to do so. I’ve changed from who I used to be. But the massive amount of energy it took, books I’ve read on behavior, the degree I received in abnormal psychology, and just being harsh with myself in my life, resisting bad influences, resisting certain fun activities, just resist resist resist. It took about ten years to see progress. Ten years. I am now in therapy for the lingering issues I could never resolve on my own. For many years I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 12:27 AM |
| 4 | Ladies, what are some of the things women should know about pregnancy and giving birth, but that society keeps quiet on?I realized I didn’t answer your other question. You can’t really tell what will happen until you become pregnant. Some people have really good genetics and bounce back, others not so much. I was reasonably fit and my pregnancy wasn’t difficult. I had an c section and the recovery from that was hard. My back hurt for about a year after pregnancy, mostly in the area where I had an epidural. I’m now 10 years out and I have a tiny bit of loose skin on my lower belly. But the weight was really hard t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 05:00 PM |
| 17 | Ladies, what are some of the things women should know about pregnancy and giving birth, but that society keeps quiet on?Yes, the doctor was male too! Ugh. When my ex asked me for another child a few years later, I told him that I would never have another child with him again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 04:19 AM |
| 37 | Ladies, what are some of the things women should know about pregnancy and giving birth, but that society keeps quiet on?The last part - about waiting- no one mentions that women with c sections should wait too. I gave birth to twins via c section, my ex had sex with me the first day I was sent home. Day 3. Apparently he had asked the doctor and the doctor said it was fine because it wasn’t a vagina delivery. Since I couldn’t have sex from 6 months on, he pressured me because he had waited so long. It’s terrible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 03:20 AM |
| 15 | I'm curious if anyone else feels like this is a block and move on situationI’d block. The other girl doesn’t even know you exist she probably thinks they’re dating 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 10:45 PM |
| 13 | What to say when men tell you you’re so pretty 😍😍😍Me too...I got it from some 1950s movie....I want to say it’s a Marilyn Monroe movie but I’m not sure. Anyway, some of the women in the 50s were so classy and shady at the same time. They curved men with a machete lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 10:44 PM |
| 22 | You decide who contributes value to your life 🙌Why did I think this was Albanian? I think it’s the way she says “have.” She says it just like my Albanian friends. I can’t tell if she’s American or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 10:42 PM |
| 94 | You decide who contributes value to your life 🙌The best line I ever dropped was when I told my ex “I can’t afford you.” He was so embarrassed and later told me I scolded him....lol I use it all the time. I cannot afford a man, I need to invest in my retirement fund. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 10:40 PM |
| 93 | What to say when men tell you you’re so pretty 😍😍😍I say “what a nice thing to say.” I say that for literally everything...you love me? “What a nice thing to say.” You want to buy me something? “What a nice thing to say.” Because that’s all they are doing...just saying something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 04:34 PM |
| 22 | Raise your hand if you’ve been personally asked to fly/drive across the country to meet a man. Do some pickmes actually do this? Is this a real thing that happens?I’ve done it. I flew to see him and he flew to see me. We were about 5k miles apart. We were both lonely I guess. It didn’t work out in the end, he was abusive. We attended high school together but now we live on opposite coasts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 03:43 AM |
| 3 | If a man says they are ______. They aren't.“I believe women are Goddesses because they give life.” Then proceeded to tell me that when he was with his ex (his child’s mother) at a club, he PEED on her because he thought he was “cheating.” She never cheated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 08:46 PM |
| 5 | Do you ever imagine flexing on your ex? How do you stop?This is really important. I know now I was too good, that’s why he lashed out and was completely controlling and abusive. He’s like that with every women tbh, because either he feels like he’s too good (age difference) or they are too good (we were the same age but I had accomplished much more, and overall am a loving person). So he raged. I didn’t realize how amazing I was for a long time. Self love is really important. He broke me down into thinking he was better, but real love would never go … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 05:26 PM |
| 2 | What’s your dating experience in nyc like?I want one soooo bad. Unfortunately NYC lvm are bold af and will probably show up🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 04:20 AM |
| 61 | Do you ever imagine flexing on your ex? How do you stop?I imagine it all the time. I dream up scenarios about this. I don’t stalk my ex, I don’t reach out. I agree there is some aspect of letting go that I haven’t done yet. But if I am honest with myself, it’s because I’m the bomb. It’s my ego. It’s my confidence. It’s me, wanting to stunt on someone lame af. If you put it that way, the scenarios should lessen. Because at the of the day, they are lame. They’ll always be lame. So yeah. I just work out, read or do anything to better myself when I think… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 02:54 AM |
| 57 | Have you ever been too embarrassed to accept your man is an LVM? Share your experienceYes. I think it’s sad when your friends see it but you can’t. I was always very secretive and a lot of my family had no idea how toxic my ex was. They saw my reactive abuse, but never his abuse. My ex was pretty perceptive, he knew what friends hated him and tried to sabotage those friendships. The friends who liked him and knew about his abuse ended up getting cut off. Anyway, there’s no need to be embarrassed. We learn. For me, I began opening up about my relationships so that my friends could… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 05:02 AM |
| 23 | I think I miss being singleYes you have to continually vet, but it shouldn’t be a chore to do so. I think you’ve noticed that you may be losing parts of yourself (not doing your hobbies for example) and you’ve worked hard to get to that place of contentment. I would advise to remember that you are the most important person in your life and reconnect with your hobbies and life’s pleasures. A man should add to your life. Meaning...it’s a pleasurable thing when he comes around. Not waking up a few weeks in like “damn I haven… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 12:35 AM |
| 26 | What’s your dating experience in nyc like?I have lived in Nyc for about 20 years and I think the dating scene is pretty bad. Lots of men don’t have it together, either living with parents/relatives or lots of roommates. They are sooo desperate to move in lol. Also, sometimes I’ve found that the man is okay but when I meet their parents, they are super racist. That’s the low end. The middle end of men are the ones who do live alone, but are super cheap. They are barely making ends meet, drink heavily and don’t have kids. They have degree… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 07:48 PM |
| 30 | Andrew Schulz’ incel fans taunt his ex-gf relentlessly over his “success” with a new Netflix show, trying to make her feel bad and ungrateful for leaving him. She reveals she left because of his insane abuse.My ex said the same “you’ll never find anyone better than me.” I was so shocked and it stung like crazy. I told him that I’d had exes who treated me really good and he wasn’t one of them. But I thought about his comment for weeks afterwards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 12:12 AM |
| 2 | Cost performance girlfriendGirl I lived it. Mine was “at least he’s an actor is rich.” I let so much shit slide. Never again. I’m not letting anything slide. I’d rather be alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 06:02 PM |
| 27 | What are your dealbreakers?Mine are: Cheating expecting me to pay 50/50 does not own a credit card no car smokes cigarettes heavily in debt has 2 or more baby mamas does drugs does not cook lives with an ex poor dresser terrible kisser flirtatious w anyone but me Uses the word “money” towards me with a question mark in it. Such as “Could I borrow some money?” I haven’t decided if having children are a dealbreaker or not. They were a dealbreaker for many years, but now I have kids. It’s more that I like lots of kids, and I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 12:35 AM |
| 25 | This Level of Possessiveness? RED FLAGAlso reported | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 09:03 PM |
| 5 | Cost performance girlfriendThank you lol! I’m pretty ranty but my friends/family love it when I “sprinkle game”!! (This is a Cali saying; it means giving highly sought after knowledge/advice) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 08:06 PM |
| 2 | Cost performance girlfriendExactly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 11:14 PM |
| 140 | Cost performance girlfriendUnattractive guys can be just as toxic as attractive fuckboys. I could never justify dating someone that I don’t have a physical attraction to as “okay but [at least] he won’t hurt me.” I have to have attraction to a man, but that attraction has changed over the years. Some are drawn to “popular” men and some are more drawn to “outgoing”men and overlook red flags. I feel like FDS isn’t advising to date down in looks. Rather, we are saying to look at the ENTIRE man and vet for a particular outcom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 10:21 PM |
| 22 | In the spirit of the holidays... What is the most OTT gift you gave to a man who absolutely did not deserve it?Winner!!!!! Lmao this is it right here 🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 09:20 PM |
| 3 | DAE find the forever-GF thing scarier than getting f*ckzoned?Thank you 🙏🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 08:22 PM |
| 3 | DAE find the forever-GF thing scarier than getting f*ckzoned?Thank you🙏🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 08:22 PM |
| 62 | DAE find the forever-GF thing scarier than getting f*ckzoned?It’s not talked about enough tbh. It’s a hellhole, because you’re trapped because of all the time you’ve put in, and also knowing that the man doesn’t think you’re good enough to get married to. For me, it made me dead inside. I tried harder and harder and I could see that he cared so little about me. When he cheated, I felt so sad. He said I deserved it because I wouldn’t dress nicer and go on a cruise (I know but he really said this). And I remember going out with him after I forgave him, he w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 04:17 AM |
| 3 | WDHDT should come with a trigger warning!I remember when I first read this book. I reread it multiple times bc of the truth bombs he dropped. The book really opened my eyes bc before I was “blaming” his abuse towards me as a result of him being abused. Never mind I was also abused and worked my entire life not treat people the same way I was treated. It really showed me that abusers know exactly what they are doing. Every time, with every person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 12:30 AM |
| 1 | The entitlement when men want to decide what to do to a pregnant woman’s body and unborn child when it doesn’t benefit themI swear there was a movie on lifetime where a woman was with an abusive man and tried to get an abortion, he kidnapped her and trapped her for months and refused to let her abort, she escaped and went to court, they refused to let her have the abortion, she screamed and raged, and when she had the baby all was well and she was okay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 12:09 AM |
| 14 | Husband tries to convince wife to let him buy a sex doll. Wife’s self esteem is low due to people in his social circle criticizing her appearance. A lot to unpack here. I think we have a rescue mission.I don’t know if i can save anyone who refers to their husband as “He” and “Husband”. It’s weird to me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 11:30 PM |
| 2 | 2021 - is my year of celibacyLol! Girrrrrlllll. After performing for men for many years, sometimes I am repulsed by any contact with men. So I feel you. I don’t know about you, but I can cum from two areas...the clit and lower( I guess the gspot) I have to position the dildo so it’s almost laying flat and that cause me to cum more than once. It’s weird because it’s a intense orgasm but really hard to position. I wish I could draw a picture to show you but you lay the dildo more flat instead of at an angle. But yeah, if you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 11:27 PM |
| 10 | The entitlement when men want to decide what to do to a pregnant woman’s body and unborn child when it doesn’t benefit themOh for sure. This tale is old as time. They know that can’t force a woman to abort, yet still engage in practices that create a child. That’s why a lot of men are scum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 07:52 PM |
| 4 | 2021 - is my year of celibacyIn a way it was at first. It was kind of hard for me to get in the mood by myself. I don’t watch porn and I just never seemed in the mood. I also didn’t like inserting things in me- so for a long time fingers and dildos were a no. Vibrators will make you orgasm fast, but the issue is transferring it over to real life scenarios. It can’t be duplicated with men. And sometimes vibrators can make you numb. So here’s what worked for me. I bought a realistic dildo and tried inserting that, while rubbi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 07:50 PM |
| 6 | 2021 - is my year of celibacyI wish it wasn’t weird to show women how to orgasm. I suffered a lot for many years before I taught myself how. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 06:57 PM |
| 21 | The entitlement when men want to decide what to do to a pregnant woman’s body and unborn child when it doesn’t benefit themThis is true. However the narrative of abstinence- which was encouraged for many years in sex ed and still may be encouraged today - isn’t really the case for many people. Mostly men will push for unprotected sex. They don’t want condoms. They don’t want spermicides. They dont want vasectomies. Some have the audacity to not even want you to take birth control, because they are “concerned” about your body. Some don’t want you to have an iud, bc they might feel it. But damn, they are pissed when y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 06:55 PM |
| 107 | The entitlement when men want to decide what to do to a pregnant woman’s body and unborn child when it doesn’t benefit themAnd punish the women if she decides not to have one. He wants it be like “well, you want it so you have to cover all costs.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 05:01 PM |
| 78 | The entitlement when men want to decide what to do to a pregnant woman’s body and unborn child when it doesn’t benefit themI mean, they can use a condom and gel inserts that reduce pregnancy. You could not have sex with women that you do not wish to carry your child. These men are trash. They want unprotected sex and get mad when a woman decides to keep a pregnancy. I hate this about loser men. I also hate that women get sucked into this by loser men. I had a man tell me he was not ready for children. I told him I don’t believe in abortion for myself. He then pushed HARD to have unprotected sex with me and would tel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 05:00 PM |
| 2 | I’m really enjoying looking at some men’s reactions to this Pornhub situationIt crazy. I’m sure his life is a mess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 10:38 PM |
| 22 | Another Failed Flex from the LibFem Logic FilesThe book could literally be posts and your response. Just like this one, but pages and pages of goodness | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 10:36 PM |
| 10 | I’m really enjoying looking at some men’s reactions to this Pornhub situationLol! Well I barely watch tv so that’s probably why. You’ll be okay! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 03:24 PM |
| 71 | I’m really enjoying looking at some men’s reactions to this Pornhub situationThe depravity is real folks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 02:45 AM |
| 71 | I’m really enjoying looking at some men’s reactions to this Pornhub situationIkr?!? I have like 50 videos on my watch later for YouTube and that took years🤦🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 02:44 AM |
| 232 | I’m really enjoying looking at some men’s reactions to this Pornhub situationSomeone said they had like 500 videos on a playlist that was reduced to six. And they were sad because amateur porn is so “real.” No. You had 464 videos that could not verified for consent and/or hit the markers for exploitation, trafficking etc. trash. Pure trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 01:26 AM |
| 24 | Pornhub removes all unverified content, following reports of exploitationUgh I hate how chlorine feels on my skin. A beach date seems weird too. Or hiking. Just no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 09:06 PM |
| 7 | Am I bugging or is this a real thing? The first thing I thought was “sounds rapey to me” I’ve had this happen to me, but idk how the person could really be sleeping. A lot of folks in the comments agree that it’s a thing.Exactly. It would be a no for me because literally anything could happen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 05:54 PM |
| 16 | Am I bugging or is this a real thing? The first thing I thought was “sounds rapey to me” I’ve had this happen to me, but idk how the person could really be sleeping. A lot of folks in the comments agree that it’s a thing.Haha. My stepdad is actually really great. He cleaned up his own messes. He’s never been inappropriate with my sisters and I. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 05:53 PM |
| 46 | Am I bugging or is this a real thing? The first thing I thought was “sounds rapey to me” I’ve had this happen to me, but idk how the person could really be sleeping. A lot of folks in the comments agree that it’s a thing.It’s a real diagnosis, however, I would have asked for some paperwork indicating he was actually diagnosed by a medical professional and not just take his word. So many people self diagnose and they are wrong. I would not want to continue with this man. My step dad sleepwalks and makes food. It was so bizarre growing up he would make odd things like cheese and peanut sandwiches and there would huge messes of food all over the counter. It was fine for years, everyone was used to it and just left … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 02:31 PM |
| 17 | Any advice going into my 20’s?Open a Roth IRA and if you can, ALSO participate with your jobs 401k. Work hard and focus on saving, both for retirement and to purchase property. I waited until 30 to have children and I’ve never regretted that. I would also suggest getting married first if plan on having children with a partner. And finally, don’t let a man live with you unless y’all are married. It can turn into a forever situation real quick. My ex and I moved in together at 24. We didn’t get married until I was 36. Divorced… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 01:19 AM |
| 4 | Rejecting patriarchy is hard. Let’s get that shit straight right now.Lol! I think she was trying to say I was bad with money. Which is totally not true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 01:14 AM |
| 34 | Rejecting patriarchy is hard. Let’s get that shit straight right now.The part about looking women doctors and friends really hits. Growing up, the women I knew (my friends moms) were so freaking pick me!!! They were so competitive with little kids (aka me) and hateful. Me at ten with a woman physician: “omg, she’s so flat chested haha she looks like she’s 6 years old.” me at 15 trying makeup w a friend and her mom walks in: “eww, your eyeliner is so ugly. It makes you look ugly.” me at 20 speaking to my mom about job choices: “never work for a bank. You can’t do … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 10:26 PM |
| 10 | She realized she’s basically single but with more choresLol! Ok here’s the story: I visited him in Hawaii. On wednesdays he had his daughter, and he worked mornings, so I was prepared not to see him all day. However he was abusive 🙄 (I didn’t realize this) and he blew me up via telephone all morning, because the thought of me having fun and “potentially fucking other guys” couldn’t happen on his watch! 🤣 I didn’t know this till later. He shows up at my Airbnb as I’m getting dressed. I let him in and I’m confused bc he’s supposed to be seeing his daug… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 05:02 PM |
| 18 | FKA twigs Sues Shia LaBeouf, Citing ‘Relentless’ Abusive RelationshipHe lovebombed her after her breakup with Robert Pattison. I’m sure she’s looking back now thinking wtf, but back then she probably was grasping at anything that made her feel special. That’s how it happened to me. In any other circumstance, I really feel like I would have been strong enough to stop it at the start. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 12:11 AM |
| 1 | To the women who think we are equal to menI actually didn’t mind putting it in the paper. That’s not what this post is about, I just mentioned it as part of the process. The part that bothered me was after I did that, my husband was required to fill out a form saying he was in agreement of the name change and it had to be notarized in order to revert back to my maiden name. I could have waited until I was divorced (you can add it as a provision) but that took 3 years. This all occurred during year 1 of my separation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 10:42 PM |
| 19 | She realized she’s basically single but with more choresYes! It was constant and never stopped. Also I would clean the kitchen and then use the bathroom, I’d come back out and my ex would have finished a two liter and threw the bottle on the kitchen floor. Then he would sigh heavily when I complained because he was on playing on his phone. The rage I felt back then was huge. Huge. Happened all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 10:37 PM |
| 17 | She realized she’s basically single but with more choresIf I can’t open a jar I take it downstairs to my doorman. He’s never complained lol!! I bought a stool for the high stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 10:33 PM |
| 39 | She realized she’s basically single but with more choresI dated a single father once. He cancelled his visit with his kid to hang out with me (we were LDR and I was visiting) and I let him have it. I refused to hang out with him....dude, go to your daughter. I shamed tf outta him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 10:31 PM |
| 43 | She realized she’s basically single but with more choresIt was crazy how unhappy I was. He had the nerve to tell me he was mad at me for divorcing him and that I’d never do better. I told him I’ve had exes that treated me really well but he wasn’t one of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 10:26 PM |
| 1 | FKA Teigs alleges physical and emotional abuse from Shia LeBoufThanks! I deleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 10:21 PM |
| 92 | She realized she’s basically single but with more choresMy ex earned more and had nice clothes, went clubbing, drank heavily..meanwhile I had very little and never went out or bought nice things for myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 06:24 PM |
| 50 | She realized she’s basically single but with more choresCan confirm. When I divorced my ex, my life became so much better. I did all these tasks anyway, and I also cleaned up and took care of my ex. Losing that responsibility became so much easier. I have way more money, I don’t feel guilty about buying myself clothing, and I don’t have to take care of a bum. I actually don’t mind cleaning up and taking care of my daughters...they are a part of me and I love them. But I hated, hated HATED taking care of my ex. He would be mad that I didn’t dress supe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 06:23 PM |
| 31 | Men: porn isn't violence against women Also men: spams a women's sub with porn to "teach us a lesson"He was the first person to ever do that to me, so I was unsure how to respond. I used to think that people had a right to live and do what they wanted. I felt guilty when I didn’t accept their choices, and he shamed me for not letting him “be myself.” Thanks to this forum and others, I now know that I don’t have to accept anything from anyone. I also know that it’s not my responsibility to help others adapt to society. I’m absolutely confronting those who attempt to force their views on me now. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 05:15 PM |
| 39 | Men: porn isn't violence against women Also men: spams a women's sub with porn to "teach us a lesson"Yes. I used to think that he didn’t recognize social cues, but now I know he’s abusive to friends and family. Now that I’m on the outside looking in, I can see how little his friends and family thought about him. He makes the choice to do this so they will accept him. They don’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 05:11 PM |
| 105 | Men: porn isn't violence against women Also men: spams a women's sub with porn to "teach us a lesson"I think about this a lot. In my last relationship my ex would randomly send me porn videos and memes and I never responded to them. One day he confronted me angrily about my lack of response and I told him that I wasn’t interested in porn. He went on to say that none of his friends responded when he sent them porn or if they did, it would be one word answers. he sent porn to people and it seemed that many people weren’t interested but he didn’t care. This is why some men are trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 04:29 PM |
| 3 | To the women who think we are equal to menYeeeeeee! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 04:24 PM |
| 4 | To the women who think we are equal to menI agree. Even if I never had children, there are so many factors which would make it impossible to do 50/50. I’ve done 50/50 prior to having children and I hated it. There was this simmering resentment and I literally felt like my ex wasn’t a real man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 04:24 PM |
| 3 | To the women who think we are equal to menThe minute I changed it, I hated it. I spent the whole marriage trying to change it back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 01:27 PM |
| 2 | To the women who think we are equal to menThat’s a good idea! I have a friend who is a lawyer and she reached out to the congressman before AOC because she was so infuriated for me. I will see what the process is for AOC to get my information. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 12:25 AM |
| 4 | To the women who think we are equal to menYep lol!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 12:03 AM |
| 7 | To the women who think we are equal to menAgreed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 12:03 AM |
| 16 | To the women who think we are equal to menYes. And what you’re saying is so true. It’s almost....insidious, the way the responsibility falls on you. Here we are, in modern times, with men that are supposedly modern. But there are so many things they won’t do and it falls on us. OTHERWISE IT WOULD NOT GET DONE. The hard part is that women feel drained. But they suffer silently, you know? They pay their half and think they are living a modern life but they are being forced to do these menial tasks that are draining. So yes, it’s wonderful… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 12:02 AM |
| 9 | To the women who think we are equal to menI live in the United States. Currently in NYC. You need permission from your husband to change your name (from married back to maiden) while married. To be clear- this was because I wanted to change it while we were married, but separated. A divorce decree can allow a provision to allow you to reclaim your maiden name. But if you are not divorced yet then you need your husbands permission. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 11:57 PM |
| 27 | To the women who think we are equal to menA meal doesn’t equate to sex or kisses. That’s propaganda. A meal is a meal. And nothing is owed from it. Even when a man pays for something expensive, it does not ever equate to a woman having to use her body for payment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 08:54 PM |
| 13 | To the women who think we are equal to menI wouldn’t even care if a man gave birth. He still would make more than me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 08:51 PM |
| 35 | To the women who think we are equal to menYou really do. Every woman that says “no” is setting an expectation for men. Consider it your duty lol!!!! Trust me, women do more than enough. We don’t need to prove anything, because we are everything ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 08:51 PM |
| 38 | To the women who think we are equal to menYep. Even when I divorced him, our accountant said “some women aren’t meant to be married” as I was the problem lol. I did ask for the divorce, after he cheated. My ex and the accountant can kick rocks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 08:49 PM |
| 27 | To the women who think we are equal to menExactly. They are transactional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 08:48 PM |
| 15 | To the women who think we are equal to menThe courts. They literally would not accept the name change unless I submitted a notarized document with his signature. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 08:47 PM |
| 198 | It might be time for me to unsub from AITA. This one made me want to cry. My heart is broken for herJust no. She is not responsible for the well being of his new family. How dare he. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 04:14 PM |
| 6 | YOU CAN’T CHANGE HIM. PERIOD.Yes! I’m sure this was it. He would sometimes lash out bc he seemed aggravated that I was “good” “spiritual” “loving” etc etc lol. He was mad because I embodied something he could never achieve. Well, he could have...just didn’t want to. Some people willingly embrace the dark. Others are taken there by force and fight it everyday to bask in the light. The ones who fight discover one day, they are no longer in the dark. It’s so beautiful when that happens, to be in the light always. He hated that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 01:13 AM |
| 4 | YOU CAN’T CHANGE HIM. PERIOD.Thank you for your support. It’s hard. I would try to be loving and understanding, and he showed me something terrible. I had to let it go and realize we could never speak to each other again. I had to block mutual friends, unfriend his mom, and basically act like he doesn’t exist. It was never me. There was nothing I could have done differently, except walked away sooner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 01:07 AM |
| 54 | YOU CAN’T CHANGE HIM. PERIOD.I find this reassuring, especially when I think about my past abusive ex. He portrayed a loving relationship with his new girlfriend on social media, sometimes with at least 30 story highlights per day. I never commented but would watch with fascination. I wondered if he did change and if it was me all along. That I somehow caused the abuse. I know it was for my benefit (the posts) because when I visited his hometown but did not reach out ( he also stalked my page during g that time and knew I w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 05:30 PM |
| 5 | It’s so crazy that once I’m approaching mid 20s so many people have talked about the biological clock that women have — to explain how they are in a rush to get married and settle down. One NVM even brought up my age when I told him my plans of doing a rigorous post graduate health program WTFIdk I was super poor and stressed in my twenties. Like, if covid had occurred in my 20s I’d be soooo fucked bc of the type of jobs I had to take so I could attend college. But now, I have a really good job and I’m doing really well. I feel like life’s really good right now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 04:26 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, expecting a father to support his child financially is LITERALLY MURDERI feel you. Even if you ever did have, the weight of the world and it’s effects on your child would weigh you tf down. I try to think “this is what people born in the 50s felt about their kids growing up in the 70s” but it ain’t hitting the same. At all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 04:15 PM |
| 5 | Clueless scrote in the dating over forty whining about how his "date" wasn't an "adult" because she didn't want to talk about his dick after only 1 "date". Then has the NERVE to advise the rest of us that he did HER a favor and DOING US a favor by putting PSA in the subject line.He sent her a nude drawing🤦🏽♀️ ugh he is soooooo lame | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 04:12 AM |
| 63 | My ex-husband used to say "Well, I work" as a reason for him not doing more. But dude, I work tooooo. So, everything defaults to me because I have a vagina?Yes. This. I feel so much lighter and freer because so much resentment is gone. I literally hated him for his laziness. I hated that he was a grown man and did nothing to inspire me, motivate me or ease my load but somehow I was charged with being his “peace.” Some days are so stressful but at least I can curl in my bed late at night after a draining day with a scented candle and a cupcake and not be asked for one more thing, like sex. Lol, it’s beautiful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 12:44 AM |
| 44 | My ex-husband used to say "Well, I work" as a reason for him not doing more. But dude, I work tooooo. So, everything defaults to me because I have a vagina?I never thought of the work week like this. I do know I struggled hard when I was in a relationship. I was so drained. I’m better now that I’m not with my ex husband anymore. It does take planning to get everything done. Hopefully one day I’ll be able to afford hired help. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 12:32 AM |
| 11 | Ladies, expecting a father to support his child financially is LITERALLY MURDERThis infuriates me because men who don’t pay child support are literally scum. My dad was abusive and when my mom divorced him, she had five kids and he was supposed to pay 1k a month. This was in the 80s, I’m sure it would be more now. He didn’t pay anything, and instead had more children by other women he could not afford. Finally the state told him if he didn’t pay he would have to go to jail. However this wasn’t until we were all over 18. So he paid my mom for many years. But the money was n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 03:25 PM |
| 1 | Why do LVM/pick-me's always come back into your life and unprovoked start telling you about their self growth as if you care?They act on societal norms. When someone tells you they’ve improved or are doing well, the automatic response is “that’s great to hear” or “congratulations” or “I’m happy for you.” I had to work really hard on when I should acknowledge people. It’s not my purpose to make anyone feel good. You could have gotten married but were abusive to me. I don’t have have to give out that standard response. And I feel like that’s what grinds their gears the most. The fact that I will not even give a standard… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 04:06 AM |
| 25 | Made me roll my eyes, more like 🙄🙄🙄I think this is important. If a man tells me he believes in equality, I may ask what has he done for the fight of equal pay and abortion rights. He doesn’t have to protest. Protecting my abortion rights could also mean using a condom in previous experiences or paying for birth control. I don’t really care what a man says though. We aren’t equal and I will not be with someone who believes that we are. That mindset shows a lack of insight on world topics, lack of knowledge of women’s rights and ov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 03:55 PM |
| 6 | Vegan vs. Non-vegan menI dated a vegan man. I was vegetarian at the time. I started not wanting to be vegetarian for health reasons, he seemed okay with it. But I remember after I left him (he was abusive) he said he wanted someone who ate the same food as him. I guess he found a vegan person lol. The thing is, he cheated on his diet a lot. I feel like he went vegan to lose weight and liked being spoiled “I can’t have that, I’m VeGaN......” but he cheated on the diet all the time. It was a turn off because why cheat i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 01:25 AM |
| 32 | It’s a pandemic of LVM men everywhere!! Another story of an LVM man taking a woman out on a date. PandemicIt’s because of all the pickmeishas paying🙄 and also the men that are broke. I do think she shouldn’t have offered to split though. He got confused and now he’s over it lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 11:26 PM |
| 44 | No girlfriend benefits without exclusivity.True. Or have the last word. These men don’t care, but the indifference has always worked for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 03:36 AM |
| 89 | “Nobody hates women more than straight dudes”Men hate women for the power we hold over them through our vagina. Men hate women because they can no longer control them like they used to ....in the 1950s. It hasn’t even been that long... And the men of our generation hate us because they will never control us the way their fathers or grandfathers did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 03:33 AM |
| 106 | No girlfriend benefits without exclusivity.I think women are struggling to ask for exclusivity. I see the posts and I’m like 🤦🏽♀️ but I remember back when I would never ask for exclusivity. I never really asked for anything. I guess these women need more practice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 03:29 AM |
| 1 | Just got divorced today.Haha I love this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 11:21 PM |
| 50 | Just got divorced today.The lawyers tried to make me split mine too, once they found we had been together for 15 years. But we were only married for one. I didn’t put in any money that year. I politely told them I would be keeping all my money since it was pre marriage. But if we were married they were going to to take 1/2! Smh. He blew threw his money and I saved mine but I would have suffered. It’s a damn shame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 03:49 AM |
| 6 | The "phone thing"I’m not giving up my code. I don’t cheat. If I get the feeling to look thru someone’s phone we would need to talk ASAP | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 08:22 PM |
| 4 | The "phone thing"I’ve never given access to my phone for anyone,including one of my exes who I was with for over a decade. I have looked thru their phones though. That’s how I found out that aforementioned ex was cheating on me. I’ll look through yours but you will never look through mine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 07:26 PM |
| 45 | How to juggle menYou can just say you’re with friends. If he asks if they are male and you don’t want to lie, say yes. The second problem, just because he doesn’t want to see anyone else doesn’t mean y’all are exclusive. You can always clarify the next time you see each other. If you are not ready to be exclusive tell him so. But he needs to spell it out for you and what being exclusive means to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 03:22 AM |
| 5 | Appropriate age gaps?I was 23 and dated a 30 year old, he was kind but we were at totally different stages of life. He wanted a baby and I wanted to finish college. When I was 16 I dated a 23 year old, it was weird and toxic. My ex had appeared to start dating a 28 year old...he is ten years older and I’m like 🙄...what do they even have in common? Oh well. I stopped looking so I don’t even know how that shitstorm turned out, but he was toxic and abusive-I’m sure he hasn’t changed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 01:49 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else annoyed that the average man is straight up ugly?lol, it’s def a worldwide issue 🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 11:44 PM |
| 12 | He asked me to split the bill on our 3rd dateIt was hard at first because I naively thought that men and women were equal. But we’re not. Paying for half of a meal doesn’t make us equal. At the end of the day, a man has to stand out in order to have access to me. I can split with friends. When a man asks me for money, it’s a red flag. If he thinks I’m using him, then we are not in alignment. And I’m okay with that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 08:28 PM |
| 23 | 'My daughter had an abortion. Her bf did some decent things: he is a true HERO now. And if she ever might break up with him, I won't hold a grudge to her about it.' Imagine this as your mother 🤮 Poor girlYour mom should have called the cops because he was 21. I’m not with the shits, my daughters better not try me. I’ll have him sitting in the living room while I call the cops in the next room, then I’ll be feeding him snacks, calmly waiting until the police show up to arrest his ass. BYE! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 06:08 PM |
| 31 | 'My daughter had an abortion. Her bf did some decent things: he is a true HERO now. And if she ever might break up with him, I won't hold a grudge to her about it.' Imagine this as your mother 🤮 Poor girlRight?!?? Like he’s banned forever lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 06:07 PM |
| 11 | 'My daughter had an abortion. Her bf did some decent things: he is a true HERO now. And if she ever might break up with him, I won't hold a grudge to her about it.' Imagine this as your mother 🤮 Poor girlIdgaf if my 16 got pregnant and had to get a abortion, ain’t no way this boy gonna be “cuddling” her in my house. No. As soon as she’s better, I’m getting her on the shot. We gotta stop enabling teen pregnancy. I would be horrified if I had gotten pregnant so young, whole life would have been messed up🤦🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 06:06 PM |
| 85 | Anyone else annoyed that the average man is straight up ugly?Yeah. I’m 40 but easily look late twenties/early thirties. The men my age have huge beer bellies or are ridiculously wrinkled due to lack of sunscreen. I’ve worn sunscreen since I was 16. I work out twice a week, lift weights,take vitamins and eat well. These men drink heavily, don’t save money, wear tattered clothing from high school, and are dirty - they don’t clean and live in filth. The younger men flock to me, but they all want kids lol🙄....I can see the start of deterioration and I’m like … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 06:02 PM |
| 3 | NOTHING will “keep a man”, and it’s not your job!Yeah for years I strive to be the perfect woman for my ex husband. He always seemed disappointed and would say things like “if you would just try harder, I’d like you more..” Eventually I left him, but even now he’s like “you’ll never find anyone better than me.” Like who says that?!? Once the children are grown he won’t even be in my life so how can he even say that? Also...he went from a fairly well paid actor to driving for Uber. What the hell. Anyway, it’s not even part of my mind anymore. T… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Example of high value behaviorOmg 😍😍😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 08:13 PM |
| 4 | Posted on r/unpopularadvice... they went OFF. Find the perfect comment! 🤡The government considers those stores essential. In NYC they tried to close down the liquor stores early on, and crime rose so they reopened them. Grocery stores are essential. I don’t get cannibus but I guess your government considers it essential too. I mean, everyone here is stating their opinion, no one is going to ban you from the sub for dating during a pandemic. Do you. But don’t expect anyone on the sub to take you seriously. Because basically anyone dating right now is operating from a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 06:10 AM |
| 15 | Posted on r/unpopularadvice... they went OFF. Find the perfect comment! 🤡Maybe you shouldn’t date and go places if public venues are closed. But if you really want to meet someone, you absolutely must, because liquor stores and cannabis stores are open (I don’t see the correlation but that’s fine)...y’all could always walk to get Covid tests together. Some states have drive thru movies...other states have it so you rent the entire theater for 100 bucks... But honestly, if my state was on lockdown, I’d probably not date. I mean I live in NY and it’s about to get locke… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 04:09 AM |
| 13 | This is genius. But it’s sad men need visual representations (they probably still won’t watch 😒)I love him.is he only on Tiktok? Can’t find him on IG | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 04:06 PM |
| 5 | When it comes to custody, men fight hard for the right to...This is so, so true. I recently dated a man with a child. We were long distance, and I would FaceTime the child for HOURS while he slept or watched TV nearby. I never allowed him to do the same with my children, he actually never met them in person, just FaceTime. I arranged play dates with his daughter and my girls - via FaceTime, and once we all went to the movies at the same time, so we could talk about it afterwards. I was close to her, but the child’s mother hated me. I didn’t know why at t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 12:13 AM |
| 32 | Thought you all would appreciate this.Ridiculous 🤣🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 09:23 PM |
| 28 | Dating a divorced man with children?Thank you! I left mine after more than a decade because he cheated...my daughters were 6, and I waited🙄. I absolutely agree that women won’t leave when children are so young unless it’s cheating or outright abuse. I’ve also seen so many men look for young women to parent their children ...they love childless women to help fund their child support and cover other costs. When I had no children, I would NEVER date a man with kids. I thought I had to start now because I have children now. Nope! My s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 03:35 AM |
| 15 | How To Get A Man To Legally Claim A Child You Know is Not Biologically HisI used to look over at red pill because it was so ridiculous to me. So..I read this post when it came out. Smh. I know of men who did these things to women. Pure trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 11:58 PM |
| 121 | A pickmeisha lesson: LVM are expensive.We cannot afford lvm. Period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 11:56 PM |
| 6 | If you could go back and give your 23-year old self dating advice, what would it be ?Abusive men love to isolate you and say “it’s no one’s business”. Tell your friends about issues so they can pull you back. Even a friend refusing to engage with a partner is something to pause over and wonder what they are seeing that you aren’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 11:47 PM |
| 2 | Trying to find purpose in the day to dayI feel you totally on the part where someone isn’t confirming your existence. I think that’s the hardest part of being alone, at first. At least it was for me. Going to restaurants alone, I even went to Hawaii by myself and at night, I would think how lovely it would be if someone was by my side. But my experiences were still really good. I exist until I don’t. It’s pleasant when someone acknowledges me, but I’ve learned a lot about myself. I just enjoy it. So when someone says to me “I love you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 11:04 PM |
| 2 | If you could go back and give your 23-year old self dating advice, what would it be ?50/50 means that your partner wants you to pay for half. Half of the rent, half for food, expenses anything. That’s 50/50. Did you have a specific question about 50/50? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 10:57 PM |
| 28 | Another reason not to sleep around or sleep with manwhores. Newborn babies can die from herpes.This post and the original OPs history is just sad. A lot of people downplay herpes. It’s terrible what happened to her child. Her post is chilling because all this shit is happening to her within two years of the relationship! She already has another child! That child has concerns and her boyfriend is abusive. This is fucking terrible and stories like this are why I don’t build men or give men advice anymore. I’m only here to help women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 07:56 PM |
| 10 | Trying to find purpose in the day to dayThis is a perfect opportunity to rest, recharge and invest in yourself. No one telling you “put yourself out there” or such because....pandemic. I’m 40. I’ve given myself till about 45 or so to still consider children...I have children already but I’m still open to it. 34 seems young to me still. Anyway, during my days, I practice new hairstyles, practice my makeup, I organize my house, I work out at least twice a week, I work remotely, and I take care of the children- raise them right, help wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 05:10 PM |
| 15 | If you could go back and give your 23-year old self dating advice, what would it be ?I’ve only lived with a man twice, but it was a lesson learned. I was so poor at 23 and put up with so much, just grateful for 50/50 🤡 Now I know better. I’d rather live alone or I would move back with parents/sister/relative before living with a man and doing 50/50. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 04:06 PM |
| 111 | Today a guy accused me of 'playing hard to get' because I wasn't free for his spontaneous date invite.I love the blocking and then they reveal their psychotic nature by calling you anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 03:29 PM |
| 104 | If you could go back and give your 23-year old self dating advice, what would it be ?Don’t do 50/50....ever. Don’t let your boyfriend live with you until you are married and he has proven that it will not be 50/50. Don’t be impressed by someone because they are a celebrity. If you can’t afford to live alone or with roommates, you may not be ready to leave your parents house. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 02:47 PM |
| 38 | Beware of men who want open relationships but later decide to change their minds when they see that their partner have way more options than themI remember it. I never forgot it it was soooooo good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 11:09 PM |
| 98 | Beware of men who want open relationships but later decide to change their minds when they see that their partner have way more options than themYeah this happened to me. I was asked and I was agreed and began to “think aloud”.... “lots of guys are interested, but I can only fuck them every other weekend when I should be fucking you so you’ll have to be patient while I figure out scheduling” “I think I’ll fuck dudes until one of them wants to be exclusive then everyone is getting dropped, including you” “I’ll probably have sex at least once with my exhusband, it’s easier” “once I start fucking other dudes, our relationship will change fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 11:08 PM |
| 44 | Men Shaming Anger, Gaslighting/ Manipulating Down Your Concerns, then Getting Angry When the Problem Pops Up AgainSo well said and not discussed enough. There is no time frame on your validity of your feelings. Men will literally say anything to make you sit down, shut up, and take their bullshit. I had a man shout at me when he was angry, curse at me, and after letting him speak, told me “I talked too much” when I addressed my concerns in the relationship. When I would not be silenced, he then began to mock my voice and then just started shouting gibberish over and over to silence me. And I was silenced, b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 05:50 PM |
| 4 | Do you think that a lot of women identify as asexual, demisexual, or are completely uninterested in sex is because of how male-centred and degrading sex is portrayed in society?What? My post had to do with a conspiracy theory that porn is created by the government to weaken families and infiltrate male minds, not about the choice that women make to do porn. I’m unable to see the connection to how your post ties in with that. Edit: oh I see. I think you meant to respond to Lady Grimes, not me. I was so confused... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 05:39 PM |
| 13 | Do you think that a lot of women identify as asexual, demisexual, or are completely uninterested in sex is because of how male-centred and degrading sex is portrayed in society?Yeah. Some stuff is pretty far fetched, but the porn one? Porn is so destructive and it’s terrible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 01:39 AM |
| 13 | Do you think that a lot of women identify as asexual, demisexual, or are completely uninterested in sex is because of how male-centred and degrading sex is portrayed in society?One conspiracy theory is that porn is meant to destroy families and weaken men so they accept what the government hands down without fighting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 12:44 AM |
| 18 | Do you think that a lot of women identify as asexual, demisexual, or are completely uninterested in sex is because of how male-centred and degrading sex is portrayed in society?For many years, I felt like having sex aged me. It was a vice, like alcohol or cigarettes. The same side effects were there- possible death from unhealthy use, being addicted, etc etc. But I felt drained afterwards. I didn’t appear glowing or happy the next day. Often, I felt residual pain (sore vagina, bruising around thighs, abrasions on face from rough skin/beards) and I leaked vaginal fluids and sperm (sorry if TMI) all day. I was tired from being up all night. I had to dish it out sparingly… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 12:30 AM |
| 13 | r/AgainstHateSubreddits plunges further into hatred and misogyny, calls women "scum" and "piece of shit", says we deserve to be paid less than men and are unsuitable for management, implies women should be used as incubators by low income men to keep the birth rate highThey hate being rejected. And they know they messed up, but it’s too late, I’m not giving a bum another chance. I’ve never had a man not pay for my first date, but once a man made me pay the tip. I should have dropped him after because I remember I never carry cash so I was confused. I ended up square cashing him the tip. I should have dipped then. I had a lot of anxiety when I began dating again, but in the end, if this happened, I would pay my half then block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 11:57 PM |
| 29 | r/AgainstHateSubreddits plunges further into hatred and misogyny, calls women "scum" and "piece of shit", says we deserve to be paid less than men and are unsuitable for management, implies women should be used as incubators by low income men to keep the birth rate highMen get so angry about women WHO ARE NOT INTERESTED IN THEM. It’s okay if you don’t want to pay on a first date with me. I’m not interested in the date, then. It’s okay if you want me to cook and clean while you pay no bills and tell me through magical thinking that we will make it - while living with your parents. I’ll pass, thanks. And some women completely accept your rules. But the men don’t want them lol! The men want me. High quality, educated, beautiful, out of their league ME. Y’all can’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 11:10 PM |
| 8 | I got married, queens! ❤Awwwwww ❤️❤️❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 11:08 PM |
| 37 | I hate reminders of my pick me past.Lmaooo! I remember rushing home after a long shift, cleaning the mess with my work clothes still on. I look back and laugh....poor thing. I could never now!!! I’m glad you are more aware now, it’s a blessing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 04:57 PM |
| 3 | After seeing a guy I was dating on a date with another woman, this Tiffany ring symbolizes me dating myself, choosing myself, coming back to myself, and loving myself.This is such a good idea! I need to get one with my birthstone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 07:27 PM |
| 38 | Nice to be reminded sometimes!!I ghosted a man who was indifferent to me and we made contact a few months later (we’ve known each other since high school and neither of us can even be bothered to unfollow each other) and I do think about “what if” from time to time. Then I see him post weird shit and I’m like “thank you god .” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 02:00 AM |
| 10 | Man wants to control what his girlfriend wears, lies and blames his mother. Although everyone in his life tells him he's wrong, he continues to think he was in the right. But fortunately, there is a happy ending here.Omg yes. I drink water out of them because it keeps the water from getting filmy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 01:07 AM |
| 49 | Man wants to control what his girlfriend wears, lies and blames his mother. Although everyone in his life tells him he's wrong, he continues to think he was in the right. But fortunately, there is a happy ending here.I remember that one! I love mason jars so I was pissed about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 10:25 PM |
| 62 | Pickmes are just as toxic as the low quality men they worship and defend.They’re just as bad as lvm. They encourage poor choices in men, are grateful about 50/50, and then will complain about why their life is fucked up. You’ll use so much energy trying to save them. You gotta bounce from them, they can’t be in your circle. They are so jealous of you, they’ll attempt to sabotage your relationship🙄. Just no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 12:05 AM |
| 13 | Stop calling Jason Momoa a HVM. He's lowest of the LVMS.Yeah this part. I’ve already babied my ex husband, I’m never doing that again. Thankfully I have no reason to need a man at this point in my life🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 03:33 PM |
| 7 | Not one person commeted on the fact that this woman is still a girlfriend after having several babies with this man and that she's treating HIM to a vacation. We're officially living in The Upside Down. 🤦🏽♀️No you misunderstood. I don’t like the idea that she excluded the other child. I don’t think she should be paying at all. That’s why it’s messy, there’s several layers than her just not paying for the kid. Imagine if your husband paid for all your kids, but not the one you had with someone else previously. It’s wrong to exclude “stepchildren”. Of course she cancel the trip, he’s clearly a deadbeat. And we don’t know if he can cover anything, since she’s paying for it all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 01:28 PM |
| 1 | Date eating off my plate..?I hate when men try to eat off my plate. That’s a no for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 02:57 AM |
| 20 | Not one person commeted on the fact that this woman is still a girlfriend after having several babies with this man and that she's treating HIM to a vacation. We're officially living in The Upside Down. 🤦🏽♀️I don’t think it’s worth it bc some of these men are so toxic after a separation. Can you imagine dating a deadbeat, then trying to reach out the child’s mother for vacation money?? It’s laughable, she probably doesn’t get anything from him and he probably makes her life miserable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 02:23 AM |
| 7 | 'I Come Up Short Every Day': Couples Under Strain As Pandemic Upends Life At HomeYeah. So much this. I mistakenly let my ex husband stay with me for a few months because I was working from home and struggled with my daughters many zoom calls, in addition to my own. At first, it seemed okay, but quickly we fell into this toxic pattern, where once again I was expected to clean and manage the girls. He bought more groceries but he eats so much so I didn’t feel like it was enough. He also drank heavily on zoom chats with his friends, not caring that I had to “work” the next day … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 02:14 AM |
| 38 | Not one person commeted on the fact that this woman is still a girlfriend after having several babies with this man and that she's treating HIM to a vacation. We're officially living in The Upside Down. 🤦🏽♀️Yeah. But he doesn’t care about anything or anyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 11:25 PM |
| 127 | Not one person commeted on the fact that this woman is still a girlfriend after having several babies with this man and that she's treating HIM to a vacation. We're officially living in The Upside Down. 🤦🏽♀️Ugh, just messy. I’ve only dated one man with a child, but I loved her and always wanted her around me. Clearly they aren’t right for each other since she’s paying for trips single handed and they arent married AND have kids together. I personally think it’s wrong not to include the kid. But it’s almost like she’s taking it out on the kid because her man won’t pay for things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 10:50 PM |
| 1 | sEx pOsiTiVe dating coach who is in polyamorous relationship with NVM discovers that he's not attracted to her during pregnancy (but don't worry, he's pro-fetishization of pregnant women!)For real. I took my passport photo when I was pregnant. It looked so good all I had on was mascara 😩😩😩 Then I had to renew it and it’s not the same 😩😩😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 08:10 PM |
| 93 | sEx pOsiTiVe dating coach who is in polyamorous relationship with NVM discovers that he's not attracted to her during pregnancy (but don't worry, he's pro-fetishization of pregnant women!)I blocked her lol! She had posted something about them being fwb, but “he needed a place to live” so she said let’s be fwbs AND live together 🤡 Now she’s sad bc he isn’t attracted to her while she is carrying THEIR child?!? He’s so low value and gross to me. Pregnant women are so beautiful. I felt so pretty when I was pregnant, strange men literally fell over to help me all the time and said I was beautiful. But it all fixes itself in the end-hopefully she will smarten up, leave him, and learn a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 05:56 PM |
| 48 | What my 6 years LVM boyfriend thinks about 50/50 before I moved in vs. when I moved in.Actually, he promised no rent or groceries. And then once she moved in, appeared to make her pay 50/50 on groceries and dining out. It doesn’t really matter why he changed his mind, she made a decision to move in based on his terms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 04:09 PM |
| 12 | Could your lack of sexual interest in your man actually be the result of hidden contempt?It’s because when trashy men reveal themselves, it’s a huge turn off. And it really can’t be rectified, because you can’t take back something you’ve done. That’s why I approach my relationships with such integrity. I don’t curse at men, I’m not abusive, I don’t nag. I just leave now. Because your mind won’t change when they act up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 04:06 PM |
| 3 | Avoiding types that are dead-ends: can artsy men ever be HVM?This really hits. My ex husband was a “creative” (actor) and while he appeared HV, he was super lazy about his craft and his life. He wanted people to take care of him and felt like he deserved it. He loved having an audience of lower minded individuals who hung on his every word. No one could tell him anything, because he was successful and they were not. Being from a small town I was initially impressed but as my own prestige grew, he became resentful and cheated. So I left but he still feels … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 04:42 AM |
| 28 | Anyone else feel weird about guy's paranoia towards women that want kids?I feel it’s guys who obsess over women and having their child. I’ve had so many men tell me they want kids with me - on the first date- and it’s shocking tbh. I’m almost 40 and I feel like that makes them pressure me more. But it also be the same men that freak out if your period is late or if they cum in you too many times. Like make up your mind🙄. I can’t have kids without IVF anyway but I see the mood shifts and it’s such a turn off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 07:45 PM |
| 4 | Gratitude Follow-UpWhew, that bolded line was a word though! Though it fits the aforementioned context, it really applies to a lot of situations. The lying is always a turnoff for me, even if you deeply believe it’s to “protect” me or yourself. Hardest thing to do is live in truth and speak truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 09:22 PM |
| 3 | I just got dumped for being “too opinionated”Omg yes! My friend said the same about a guy, she met the kid on the first date! These men have no shame smh. I used to tell myself I would never get a child free man( I have twins) but my mom had 5 kids and my stepdad never had any. We only limit ourselves there are so many men out there! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 06:31 PM |
| 35 | I just got dumped for being “too opinionated”I totally agree about the child being discussed on date 3! I was like, Issa red flag for me, you need to discuss a kid the first time we SPEAK, not on date 3. Anyway, he seems gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 03:22 AM |
| 5 | Why dating costs money (for them)Well said. You have to look at dating from an analytical perspective. Also wanted to point out, if your retirement accounts are not maxed out, you CANNOT afford to split a check with a man. If this bothers you, have him pay for the date in whole and put your share into your 401k. Your dollars saved will be your man in your later years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 03:59 PM |
| 8 | This makes me feel so sad...Yep. It’s terrifying how easily they win. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 05:14 PM |
| 4 | This makes me feel so sad...You really can’t leave the state with your child. You can be accused of kidnapping. She should not be afraid of filing for divorce, but she also has to face reality that it may not work in your favor. You don’t know how low these men go sometimes in court. My sister left the state of Arizona with her son to move back home to California. The child’s father called the cops and they went to her home in Cali and she was nearly arrested for kidnapping. She had to report back to Arizona during the cus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 05:13 PM |
| 10 | Megan Fox calls out Brian Austin Green( who groomed her when she was 18 and he was 30) for doing LVM things.I did it all for many years, but when I divorced my ex, I made him start doing these things- making appointments, taking them, making him do work with the girls etc. He now thinks he’s Dad of the year, but still slacks off for many things. However, because he does these “bare minimum” he swears he’s a better parent than me. He’s literally a “parent” because he LEARNED how from me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 02:43 PM |
| 6 | Faking pleasure- pick me behavior?Women who fake it do this for the man though. That’s the point. They aren’t faking it for themselves. I used to tell myself I felt pleasure regardless if I had an orgasm or not. Shalom is just telling a man’s view, he’s not centering it around the man at all. And mind you, I’m paraphrasing his words- you can always check out his work to see if he’s “gross.” I’ve always found his work to be for helping women. But it’s your opinion🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 02:36 PM |
| 56 | Megan Fox calls out Brian Austin Green( who groomed her when she was 18 and he was 30) for doing LVM things.Yeah. I would love to block my ex husband, but I check randomly to make sure he isn’t violating the paperwork by going out to a club and dumping them with his sister. Which he explicitly cannot do, as I have “right of refusal.” 9 more years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 01:19 AM |
| 102 | I Feel so sorry for oglers’s partners .Haha once a man stared at me and grabbed my arm while I was with my boyfriend at the time. I didn’t say a word but I swung my elbow up and elbowed tf out of his side. He said “Ow, what the hell,” and STOPPED my boyfriend and I, in the street, and COMPLAINED to him that I elbowed him when he grabbed my arm and it “really hurt.” I stood there silently, and my boyfriend was like “Yeah, she doesn’t like to be touched without permission.” 🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 06:12 PM |
| 5 | Faking pleasure- pick me behavior?Learning cosmic sexuality | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 05:59 PM |
| 54 | Faking pleasure- pick me behavior?For sure. Faking it or not, some men are pigs. And because of this, women should never fake it. Period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 12:48 AM |
| 121 | Faking pleasure- pick me behavior?There is a theory that is talked about - his name is Shalom and his IG is learning cosmic sexuality. He talks about never faking it for a man, because the man’s ego becomes inflated and he will eventually cheat. Instead, make him work to satisfy you, so that he understands his role. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 11:08 PM |
| 21 | I'd like to get everyone's thoughts on this post in response to mine on why I feel hypergamy is a good thing and women should want a partner who is able to provide and make their life easier.As a Hispanic woman, studies show we make 50 cents to a man’s dollar. We make the least. So as far as I’m concerned, I cannot afford to go 50/50 because I don’t even make the “50.” However, I’ve been in long term relationships where I put up my measly “50”. I was still expected to do so much more. In the end, being alone actually saves me money,time,effort and energy. I cannot afford a 50/50 relationship and I will not do one again. If a man can’t provide that’s fine, but he isn’t for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 10:27 PM |
| 30 | Don’t EVER go in any form of debt for a man!I received a Claire’s gift before from a lvm. In my late 30s. I was genuinely confused, like what is this piece of crap lol! And then I remembered Claire’s from being a teen and I didn’t buy stuff from there back then either. I always spent my money as a teen at piercing pogoda, where I could buy my lil 14k plated jewelry and think I was all that. 🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 09:32 PM |
| 6 | 3 Conscious Men Talk About Sex: Authentic Mindset Shift or New Manipulation Tactic? Let’s discuss.I mean, it’s always nice to see possible HVM out there. But I also want to say to use caution, I had a lvm that believed and practiced what these men talk about, but was very much abusive and pornsick. It’s almost like he used these tactics to lovebomb, and it hurt so much more because it caused dissonance- he was actually abusive. When he was still in my brain living rent free, I racked my mind as to how he began this thought process and why he chose to align with abuse. But, it is what it is. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 02:18 PM |
| 1 | Even if he says he wants a relationship, plans trips with you, puts in a ton of effort. He will still change his mind in a heartbeat.I’m sad. I don’t want you to go😞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 10:45 PM |
| 9 | THIS!! I see women on here sometimes arguing with men and posting their “sassy” or “savage” clapbacks, he doesn’t care he just enjoys getting a rise out of you. Bad attention for men is still attention. Block them and pay them no mind.It’s really good to practice this because it helps so much in real life. Don’t respond ever! Just block | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 11:22 PM |
| 12 | “If he wanted to, he would”... what matters is he didn’t! Who cares! Keep doing you!!Man I wish I would have walked away at 27, my life would have been so different. Oh well. It was when I was 36 and I’ve never felt better!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 10:37 PM |
| 66 | My ex-husband called me aggressiveGood for you. My ex husband feels the same way, now that I make him pay his share upfront and will not “cover” him so he can pay me back in tiny increments. Anytime he asked for money for or said he needed money from me to buy something for my daughters, I responded “How does it feel to be a man asking me for money?” So he stopped and barely speaks to me now. Which is lovely 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 10:33 PM |
| 14 | Even if he says he wants a relationship, plans trips with you, puts in a ton of effort. He will still change his mind in a heartbeat.I agree. Mine was an abuser, but I didn’t want to believe it until I went on a abuse forum as well as a narcissist forum. The women’s stories for the narcs were just like mine. I had to check to see if they lived in the same state and dated him that’s how similar they acted. But yep, abuser tactics for sure. It’s that hot n cold, withdrawals that make you addicted to the abuse. They’ve played the game many times, and know how to get the results. That’s why it’s best to just block, it will cause … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 06:37 PM |
| 16 | Even if he says he wants a relationship, plans trips with you, puts in a ton of effort. He will still change his mind in a heartbeat.This has a lot of truth to it. After I abruptly dumped my last ex, he was shocked and I went no contact for a few months. He stalked me, then when I spoke to him and said it was over again, he splashed his new girlfriend on social media. My old pick me ways were to reach out and confront him but I didn’t, which only escalated the behavior. She was in bliss at his lovebombing🙄not realizing he was liking my posts and saying he missed me. He was still making fake accounts trying to talk to me, last… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 03:35 PM |
| 10 | A man wanting to have sex with you does not mean he likes about you. Male sexual attention is abundant and low value. Also, the same men who are going bareback with women are also the same ones who will complain the woman “trapped them” if she gets pregnant and decided to keep it. 🤡Mine went hard for seven, worst relationship of my life when the mask fell off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 02:11 AM |
| 17 | Understanding the cycle of abuse from the perspective of the abuser 🚩🚩🚩🚨🚨🚨The abuser takes so much time from you. When the abuser I knew abused me, he would then keep me on the phone for hours (we were LDR). I mean like 10 hours. At first I was flattered by his intensity but then when he was riled up at any point during these calls (I had to do chores, bathroom too many times, leave because I had plans) he would rage and be sooo abusive, and not allow me to get off the phone. I was drained after I dumped him, I was also a bit numb when he started dating someone else b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 03:08 AM |
| 64 | Don’t be the “live-in girlfriend” for someone that will leave you in a heartbeatIn 2004, Portman gave an interview for Allure magazine. I used to love the magazine, I was a broke college student but I paid for a print subscription for Allure for years. Anyway, I’m reading her article, and she is quoted saying “I know what it feels like to be black” and while I don’t remember the exact context, she related it to acting, I believe. So I never liked her after that. It was a wake up call for me, that a successful woman like herself could be so stupid. Eventually I stopped readi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 02:57 AM |
| 19 | So many bitter men over the age of 24I don’t feel bad because they are exposing themselves. I’m glad women are smartening you and ditching these bozos. I’m excited for the future! Let these men stay mad, broke and alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 06:32 PM |
| 17 | "I’m NOT into beautiful women ” - Men, Beauty and Power 💄One of my exes always stared at me and noticed the smallest changes to my face ( if I wore eyeshadow etc) I wore natural shades of makeup so I found the scrutiny a bit creepy tbh. He also said he dated “whoever” and claimed that beautiful women had no power over him. But it’s just like another commenter said- they out themselves out for whatever reason, either you’re too beautiful, they’re too insecure, or they just don’t understand that your beauty is effortless and you don’t need to con anyone… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 11:15 PM |
| 6 | LVM do not like seeing us happy.Yeah, it’s all good times now❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 11:10 PM |
| 34 | LVM do not like seeing us happy.Reminds me of my exhusband, who would buy one takeout dish for four people. His excuse was that the kids (2) and I didn’t eat much. Actually, I wouldn’t eat until they finished and I felt bad leaving him so little. So I would end up barely eating and while he stuffed himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 06:23 PM |
| 1 | Do actions like these make a HVM?Eh, not sure. She could have been a hoarder. My ex always lashed out because I wouldn’t let him collect magazines. Another ex collected Star Wars toys. We had limited space so it was annoying. Tbh, it’s hard living with others because we all have objects or collections, right? For me, it’s books. I have so many books. But I also store them properly and take care of them. I wouldn’t rely on anyone building me anything, I bought shelves to store them properly. Because I know I need to manage my ho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 03:35 PM |
| 5 | Manchild created a mess and yelled at his girlfriend for not cleaning the houseThe thing is, aside from the general fact that we shouldn’t have to clean after grown ass men, is that it wears on a person constantly cleaning. I dealt with this for years. My ex husband was so gross. He would drink out of a two liter and throw the empty bottle on the ground. Packages were opened with the packaging tossed on the floor without a thought. Empty cups, laying on their side. Clothes, crushed because they were tossed in the floor and he had no issue stepping on them. When we used to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 03:42 PM |
| 20 | My friends hvm bf never let her payLol! Lots of men pay for women and treat them like shit. I know men who fully fund their wives lifestyle and still treat them badly. I don’t usually post so negatively off a few words, but the “used to be a fuckboy but he changed for her” trope is TIRED. I had a man pay for all my friends and I’s drinks repeatedly, to the point that one of my drunken friends would look for him when we went out. He covered all my meals. He wanted to meet my daughters and said he wanted a baby. And the first and o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 11:16 PM |
| 9 | Saying a man will act right for the “right woman” is deeply misogynist and a huge lie.These lvm men will try it though!!!! 🤣🤣🤣 They’ll splash their new supply on their social media and post after post about how happy they are and how’ve amazing their life is. Then it goes quiet. I’ve seen this happen and while it was happening, it was very hard to see it for what it was - a lie. But in the end, they don’t change. If you’re a good person and they didn’t appreciate you, they won’t appreciate anyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 09:11 PM |
| 14 | When they complain about being expected to provideThis. When I decided to get pregnant I wanted to use a sperm donor so bad. My ex was furious but was not a provider and did t even want kids. So we have them, and now he’s a thorn in my side because I have to defer to him regarding the children. He’s my ex now, but he swears he’s the best dad in the world because he does minimal effort. I don’t think I could go through that again. You will have primary custody and will never have to defer to anyone if the child is only yours. Period | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 04:18 PM |
| 6 | Ladies, if you need some pointers on how to spot red flags: DING DING DING WE HAVE A WINNER🚩🚩🚩Gross. People gotta stop settling, he’s pure trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 01:33 PM |
| 3 | This is why we don’t take a man back, even once. He WILL do it again and you WILL find it increasingly harder to leave. I feel bad her daughter will grow up and see and accept this treatment by men.Yes. And then when you do escape, these men lash out for you having standards and resisting their abusive ways. Cardi is lucky because she is successful, so many women aren’t. But we all matter. And trust me, I was deep in denial for a long time. You just have to have high self worth, and believe a better man-lifestyle-job is out there. Because it is. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 11:45 PM |
| 14 | So apparently this man is engaged but still has the time to write an essay on why FDSers are evil and entitled b******. If he was so happy, why would he care about what women he’s not dating are doing?For real. They get obsessed 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 11:42 PM |
| 3 | Understand the consequencesPoor thing. You can’t help but pity them because they have to deal with their abuse and deal with their ex as they parade woman after woman around their children | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 11:42 PM |
| 1 | Understand the consequencesYeah, before I had children I was terrified to have kids lol. I don’t get it either! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 11:40 PM |
| 9 | What made you question or doubt if your abuse was abuse?For me, it was realizing that it’s happened in different ways- my entire life. Starting with parents, to boyfriends. I still denied it because it was not physical. But the last one almost got there and I had to really see it for what it was. You read the books and realize they have a pattern. I’m still struggling because I can’t believe he put so much effort and time to lovebomb me (from a huge distance no less) only to abuse me but now I see it’s because he had to work hard for me. So the suppl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 08:13 PM |
| 10 | What made you question or doubt if your abuse was abuse?It hits hard when you realize you experienced abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 08:09 PM |
| 109 | This is why we don’t take a man back, even once. He WILL do it again and you WILL find it increasingly harder to leave. I feel bad her daughter will grow up and see and accept this treatment by men.It follows the cycle of abuse, with the honeymoon period getting shorter and shorter. Because of her childhood wounding issues (growing up poor etc) she equates these gifts with love. They are both rich though🤷🏽♀️ The gift isn’t much for him, and she can afford her own rolls. She justifies his abuse by operating from a scarcity mindset, she believes she’ll never do better, because she believes she’s low value. She has her own money but places her worth on a man. We’ve all been there, but someho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 02:42 PM |
| 173 | So apparently this man is engaged but still has the time to write an essay on why FDSers are evil and entitled b******. If he was so happy, why would he care about what women he’s not dating are doing?Nothing riles a man more than indifference. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 01:28 PM |
| 42 | So apparently this man is engaged but still has the time to write an essay on why FDSers are evil and entitled b******. If he was so happy, why would he care about what women he’s not dating are doing?Ah, nothing like a low life spreading propaganda! I love dating men. I love going out with them and getting to know them. But I’ll be damned if a man nickel and dimes me, period. I mean, I’ve read posts that men will ghost a woman if they don’t have sex on the first date. A man will fuck you in his car if you let him. Talk about the audacity, lol! I don’t need a fancy restaurant but I do need effort. A coffee shop aint it bro. He needs to hop off our mindset and keep craving us from afar. Who ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 01:27 PM |
| 1 | Understand the consequencesYep. Just because it was done before doesn’t mean it was right! This mindset literally applies in all aspects of life! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 01:11 PM |
| 4 | Understand the consequencesGirl. Girllllllll, lol. I wanted a sperm donor and my ex husband said no, it would embarrass him. He was lvm, tried to turn my daughters against me and told me to give him full custody bc I didn’t want them (I have twins). I didn’t want them with him! And here I am, paying down debt from the divorce from supporting the entire family 🙄 I fought tooth and nail for physical custody 🙄 but I won! And if I want to move back home to my family he can stop me?!?!! The guilt is real. Especially when I’m s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 02:39 AM |
| 3 | Understand the consequencesThis last paragraph tho! Yes, yes, yes! When we make bad decisions, it literally affects us and the world around us. A commenter mentioned earlier how family, friends, your workplace etc can be affected by an abusive ex. I work so hard to ensure my daughters have a different and better life than I did. Which means I had to make real decisions, when to have children, could I afford them, is my partner a good partner...you do your best to have the best outcome! So when you enter it knowing it’s ba… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 02:30 AM |
| 5 | Understand the consequencesVery true. Thank you for sharing your story. Mental illness is so hard. Abuse is hard. I wish you the best❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 02:24 AM |
| 3 | Understand the consequencesI’m glad it worked out for you! Thank you for sharing your story- when we have real conversations about the struggles - the decisions we make- the outcomes- we help change the world. Thank you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 12:25 AM |
| 2 | Understand the consequences❤️❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 12:23 AM |
| 6 | Understand the consequencesThis is such a wonderful response. I’m glad you left before having the baby, lots of people don’t realize that the father can prevent you from leaving once the baby is born. My sister left and she went back home with her son; eventually the police showed up and even attempted to charge her with kidnapping because he was born in Arizona and she crossed state lines to her home in California. All for the father to not even want any custody at all. We need stories like yours and from other women so … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 10:17 PM |
| 7 | Understand the consequencesThank you so much. It feels good to be heard and understood. I also felt like teachers and parents didn’t know and they should have, especially because I had such troubling behavior as a young child/teenager. My mother simply states that I was the most “difficult” to deal with and that’s that🙄. And you’re right, it is distressing when you can’t relate to others the right way. People almost seemed to sense my “otherness” and excluded me instinctively, so I got used to being alone. I learned that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 10:12 PM |
| 10 | Understand the consequencesOh wow. I didn’t realize that. I’ve actually never known a woman that got an abortion after having a child already (that disclosed it). All my friends who decided to have an abortion (some had more than one) got their abortions prior to having their first child. Makes sense though. Once you become a mom, the hard work and sacrifice has literally only started lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 07:46 PM |
| 20 | Understand the consequencesI don’t believe monogamy is the issue here, people have been monogamous for ages, but I do think that society almost seems to punish women for being independent. I feel that men feel like they don’t have to try as hard and some women don’t help that thought process by picking up the slack with loser men. However, I see more and more women choosing to be single or vetting HVM ruthlessly than deal with low life men”just because”, and that warms my heart. These pick mes are a force, but they are be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 07:42 PM |
| 16 | Understand the consequencesIndeed! Like she was truly blasé about the medication part - taking medication sucks. I was misdiagnosed initially with anxiety and the anxiety medication made me feel somewhat normal 🙄 but it was wrong. So when they took me off, I had to get weaned off and deal with brain zaps and jiggering body spasms. It took forever and it sucked. The mental illness I have is literally like a person residing in my body that I’m constantly telling them “please don’t bully me,” “no drugs okay?!?,” “no I don’t … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 07:33 PM |
| 9 | Understand the consequencesSo true and very good additional points being made here! Your family has to deal with him, possibly your job, etc.. but the part about the you trying to be with a new man and this toxic ass ex clinging onto you! THAT PART! Also it’s super costly. Childcare issues, schooling expenses (if you’re still in college ugh, those too) etc etc etc. I make good money and I feel like I never can buy my daughters enough! One outgrows shoes and clothing so fast! I need clothes too lol. But yes girl yes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 07:27 PM |
| 29 | Understand the consequencesFor sure. The abusive part is so bad. My ex was abusive and I dumped him two years ago. He’s finally starting to let up w the stalking. Or maybe it’s a trick🙄 Either way, the torment he put his child’s mother through was insane. I tried to get him to be cordial but he was terrible. I considered having children with him🤦🏽♀️ in the end, I wouldn’t even let him meet my daughters. Literally the most painful relationship ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 06:14 PM |
| 16 | Understand the consequencesYep. It’s def a cautionary tale. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 06:06 PM |
| 55 | On Disclosure: Your Past is None of His BusinessI liken this to being stoic. You just approach these questions with a general statement “it didn’t work out,” “I don’t discuss past relationships.” That’s what healthy people do. It’s also what we should do, as we elevate from being an “unofficial therapist” for men.🙄 We all would love insights about our past and some of us even feel that divulging is a mark of honesty. But people tend to be really narrow in their thinking. Even the “evolved” ones will judge you with a quickness if you have a so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 06:23 PM |
| 3 | Does anyone notice this happens to them a lot?My ex stalks me now and he’s very attractive🙄 but reading this post, he probably isn’t as attractive to others as he was to me. I remember showing people his photo and they were like “not my type” lol. Makes sense though. Stalkers are also unstable/mentally ill, because their behavior is unacceptable and points to inner mental issues. That’s what I think of first when I imagine a stalker. I’m still attracted to my ex but he’s unstable, toxic and abusive so it is what it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 07:12 PM |
| 5 | how do we get rid of toxic friends?I just cut them off. I don’t owe anyone anything. Friendships can end, it’s a way of life, as kids we played with others and sometimes we stopped. Toxic friends will sometimes not get the hint though. I’ve blocked toxic friends and they will reach out to me on unblocked areas (such as email) and act like we’re cool. There’s literally nothing to discuss. I understand if you need to reach out because of entangled resources (you owe them money, vice versa, etc) but if you don’t, they need to move o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 07:06 PM |
| 19 | Today I sold my engagement ringMine was appraised at 14k as well. I was going to give it to one of my daughters when she grows up🤷🏽♀️ it’s super fancy and has a diamond when I really wanted a emerald. Oh well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 02:34 AM |
| 64 | Does following FDS leave you a little guarded in relationships? Or are you open and all in, but still “ready to walk” at a moment’s notice (if he acts up)? Does the balance come naturally with time?You’re everything, you’re guarded, yet open and committed when you are ready. Yet you are always able to walk away. It takes practice if you are not used to putting yourself first. You’ll find a million reasons to stay when someone is treating you badly because you love them. But if you are truly aware of your self worth, you’ll realize how easy it is to walk away from someone who would risk it all by demonstrating red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 12:37 AM |
| 4 | I’ve released the scarcity mindset & I can’t turn backGirl I’m trying ...I got NY debt 😩😩😩 I’m paying it down and then I’m heading out!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 07:12 PM |
| 8 | I can't read relationship subreddits anymore...Same. It was always depressing but after FDS, I cannot read that trash anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 01:18 AM |
| 8 | Grateful for my dad ❤I read your post too! And I was mad for you, because your husband and friend are pure trash! I’m so glad you found your way here!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 10:19 PM |
| 12 | And on today’s episode of men are oppressed...He’s so ugly, I didn’t hear a word he said, was just staring at his face. Edit: went back and listened without looking. He made no sense. I learned nothing from him (a man), as usual | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 11:38 PM |
| 96 | Men want casual sex/relationships, till the woman wants that too. Then suddenly they aren’t so cool with it.My friend and I were discussing this the other day. I expressed that I was hesitant to date again because men are so pushy, and she said that they always want to be with me, and I should try not to be their girlfriend so soon. I told her i actually don’t try to “be their girlfriend.” I’m usually moving super slow and won’t commit to anything right away. This makes men crazy obsessed and they end up want to be exclusive, which I do, reluctantly lol. Then my friend got mad and was like “you’re bei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 09:11 PM |
| 20 | Rape by ManipulationHappened to me. I heard a term for it, called it “relationship by fraud”. And it was. Because had you known the truth from the jump you would have dropped the guy. My ex admitted to waiting until I fell in love because he knew if I had a choice I would have left. Which is what I did, when I was informed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 01:31 PM |
| 10 | “I was raised to take care of my husband...”Yeah, I wouldn’t mind a lot of shit if the man paid for it. But, alas.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 01:16 PM |
| 7 | “I was raised to take care of my husband...”Ha! Reminds me of one time an ex and I were thinking about opening an joint account and I was extremely interested in this “payout” if he would die. The banker seemed so annoyed with me, he even said “ that’s not this meeting is about” and I was like😑 Ended up not doing the joint account 🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 01:15 PM |
| 14 | Or maybe don’t go having kids all over the place when you only have $800 a month to support them?? Why is that so difficult?They probably haven’t put him on CS. Which they all need to do | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 08:09 PM |
| 3 | Ladies what's your beauty routine like?I’ve had a chemical peel as well and they are different. With a chemical peel, you experience peeling and new skin is revealed. With lasering, it’s a soft, heated pulse that goes over your skin, reducing fine lines and age spots. My laser guy also removed the pigment from moles, and removes skin tags if you have any. (I didn’t have skin tags but my friend did and he removed them all) The pulse also helps boost collagen as well. My laser guy told me not to do chemical peels because sometimes they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 03:40 PM |
| 59 | The most empowering takeaway from FDS is "you don't have to put up with this"Yep I’m done teaching them too. I save my teachings for younger women who actually listen and benefit from it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 01:02 PM |
| 4 | Ladies what's your beauty routine like?It’s been amazing since I started this! All worth it! I’d rather buy steak than clothes lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 11:53 PM |
| 35 | Ladies what's your beauty routine like?Yay! I love discussing my routine! FYI, this is a long post! Morning: wash face with Garnier miceller water $10 use vitamin c serum (K beauty Seoul Ceuticals, prevents sun damage and repairs face) $16 Kiehls facial moisturizer $20 La Roche Posay sunscreen spf 60 $35 Evening: same miceller water curology cream (30 every two months, this stuff has helped my skin sooo much) same kiehls cream Makeup: Becca highlighting primer (gives a glow) IT Benefit concealer around my nose, little bit of redness … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 05:58 PM |
| 2 | A Seeming-HVM Explains Why He Won't Leave his Forever Girlfriend for Someone Else He Likes More, Using Economic Theory as ExplanationThank you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 04:06 PM |
| 30 | A Seeming-HVM Explains Why He Won't Leave his Forever Girlfriend for Someone Else He Likes More, Using Economic Theory as ExplanationWell said. It’s interesting how some women can be “turned” into despising a person they don’t know, based off someone who they know is a jerk. I had an ex that constantly talked badly about his child’s mother, and I usually didn’t respond because i know what it’s like when people are breaking up after being together, having a child together etc. But one day when he said he wished her dead, I was horrified. He immediately sensed he went too far and apologized but I told him the problems he had wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 03:01 PM |
| 31 | I’ve released the scarcity mindset & I can’t turn backI’m so happy for you! Your story gives me life! I’ve been in NYC for 20 years because of a lvm, and I’m dying to move back home to the west coast! I’m so close! I’m so happy you are doing it!!!!! To barbeques, beaches and backyards! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 03:20 AM |
| 10 | Grown Men with Room Mates🙏🏼 You will move to a place of your liking 🙏🏼 A place you can afford and design to your heart’s content 🙏🏼 There will be chocolate 🙏🏼 There will be smooth tasting coffee 🙏🏼 You will go home every night, change into your silk pajamas, drink hot tea and remember those past dark days with a smile; for you will never live them again🤞🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 01:53 AM |
| 4 | Grown Men with Room MatesGood luck! I also plan on leaving Nyc, I just find it gross and I’m sort of over it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 01:14 AM |
| 3 | Yet women somehow are to blame for initiating divorces...🙄It was def the most troubling relationship I’ve ever had. I chalked it up to his abusiveness and moved on. 🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 01:02 AM |
| 8 | Grown Men with Room MatesThank you! I totally agree. I’m almost 40 so it would be really off putting if he lived with roommates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 12:59 AM |
| 9 | Grown Men with Room MatesWait you rent in San Francisco?!?!! Holy.....whew😅😅😅😅 Show us your ways! But for sure, hustle can get you there. That’s why I expect so much from others I guess. Started from the bottom, now we here 🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 12:57 AM |
| 12 | Grown Men with Room MatesI mean, even where I’m from it’s super expensive - California prices went up so much due the to tech boom. So I went from one expensive place to another. But housing prices aren’t going to change unless you move to a low cost area. And even then, you’ll still find people not able to afford it! For example, My niece pays 650 for a one bedroom in Tennessee, in a moderately nice area. Her ex was paying 400 in another apartment as a roommate and refused to get his own place. They both have the same … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 12:54 AM |
| 10 | Grown Men with Room MatesI was talking about renting lol, I would never buy a house in nyc. And you’re right, there are some cheap apartments still, but yes, they are in the hood. I paid 1000 a month for a one bedroom in highbridge (the Bronx) about 5 years ago. Also in Far Rockaway (Queens) there are so many apartments that are under 1500. They tend to include all utilities as well, but the commute is 2 hours. NYC isn’t just Manhattan, there are other boroughs but they are not usually wanted because of the population/c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 12:45 AM |
| 52 | Grown Men with Room MatesIt’s a deal breaker for me because I live alone. I got my first apartment making 10 dollars an hour (the apartment was 800 a month) I was 24. I did have a relationship eventually and we lived together but I mostly paid the rent 🤦🏽♀️. So yeah. I also want to point out I moved from a small town to New York City. And still had my own place. And now I’m 39 and have my own place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 11:49 PM |
| 15 | Do not get in a car with a man you are fighting with/breaking up with. PSAI would have never thought my ex would have raged so bad when we got into our first fight. I ignored him for a few days and then he came over to talk and drive me to breakfast. He seemed calm. The minute I stepped in the car, he went nuts. Screaming, punching his phone, swerving and racing around town. I was so frightened, I told myself I would never go through that again. Be safe ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 09:12 PM |
| 6 | Yet women somehow are to blame for initiating divorces...🙄Literal walking pieces of trash | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 07:00 PM |
| 3 | Yet women somehow are to blame for initiating divorces...🙄Thank you for this. There isn’t equal love, people don’t get treated exactly the same and I can totally see getting annoyed if someone they just met had equal footing as you, the long term partner. And I agree, most women aren’t into it period. Also I had an ex do the one penis policy, he wanted me to only see other women and not men. But that seemed dumb to me. I had never even been with a woman lol. And the worst part is that he spouted about being insecure if you didn’t want to share, but wou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 06:58 PM |
| 26 | Yet women somehow are to blame for initiating divorces...🙄Can confirm. Father was a womanizer growing up, I met a different woman every summer I spent with him and he had multiple children with women. He never paid child support until was finally threatened with jail time; but by then my siblings were already over 18. The struggles we endured growing up...lack of food,clothing, proper care. My mother was too tired to deal with 5 kids after working long shifts. It was a terrible childhood and a direct result of his actions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 02:42 AM |
| 18 | What would you tell black women who are experiencing racial bias when it comes to dating?Spanish culture also indicates that women should be more submissive, my grandmother always served my grandfather first, then the kids, then herself. I do think abuse is more prevalent in this type of setting. That’s why it’s important to know when women are being fetishized or picked solely because of their race and refuse to allow it. Many women like the idea of being chosen or selected specifically over another race🙄 You can see the outcomes of women/men who look one way, then they have kids a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 05:32 PM |
| 37 | What would you tell black women who are experiencing racial bias when it comes to dating?I can only speak about my experiences...I’ve had men cheat on me with white women and been told it’s because “they are easier,” “will pay for everything,” and turn a blind eye to cheating or forgive easily. I’ve also known men who are with White women because they think it makes them look better outwardly. One guy told me he liked that he “couldn’t tell what race I was, but it looked like I have white blood.” I have white female friends who have none of these characteristics🙄 I used to be crushe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 03:49 PM |
| 1 | In an ask men post, I came across hundreds of comments in a thread talking shit about FDS, saying no one here has a boyfriend or has ever been near a man, and that women here have only baby daddies and have no jobs. What the heck?Yeah. I lived in NYC in my twenties (still here now, but I’ve been saving to leave and go back home) and I was ridiculously poor. Barely eating, having one pot, almost 80% of my take home pay on my rent poor. I went to college part time and everything was so hard back then. A man paying for half or anything was literally a godsend🙄 I was so happy when my ex bought me pots and pans....but he was super lvm, so I put up with a lot. It’s so different from my niece. I helped her get her first college… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 12:23 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on dating younger men? Current thoughts: they always want someone younger and it puts you at risk of waiting for him to grow up/supporting him/always unsure if he is secretly pining for a younger woman...Change my mind.When I’ve dated younger men, they want me to have a baby with them ASAP. It’s really off putting. I’ve never thought about them leaving me for someone younger but then again I never thought I’d be asked how soon would I have a baby with someone either 🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 08:37 PM |
| 16 | In an ask men post, I came across hundreds of comments in a thread talking shit about FDS, saying no one here has a boyfriend or has ever been near a man, and that women here have only baby daddies and have no jobs. What the heck?Yes, it did take until my 30s but my 30s have been amazing due to my earning power and lifestyle. I look back at my twenties as a period of being poor and and desperately wanting to be with a lvm because I needed so much help back then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 07:37 PM |
| 28 | In an ask men post, I came across hundreds of comments in a thread talking shit about FDS, saying no one here has a boyfriend or has ever been near a man, and that women here have only baby daddies and have no jobs. What the heck?I’ve seen that too and it’s weird. A lot of us have been married at one point or been in long term relationships. Many of us have funded our previous exes lifestyles in addition to our own🙄 Many of us are educated, have good jobs and can afford our own places/cars/bills. And that’s why they’re mad. They have nothing to offer us and actually have to work for it lol! We are a menace because we help other women see the light. I’ll never forget some short random started dating my friend. My friend w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 04:02 PM |
| 68 | “wish ALL girls would do this tbh”How boring 🙄 Let me chase a man, because he’s too lazy/scared/stupid/poor to do it himself🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 03:26 PM |
| 43 | What sort of touching do you think is acceptable on a first date?It’s really about your comfort level. If it bothers you, you must be able to speak up. I’ve been on a first dates and had guys kiss me. Sometimes I was shocked and immediately broke off contact with them, others I allowed it. Same with casual touching. Sometimes I’ve allowed men to hold my hand some I won’t. No one can really tell you about your level of comfort. Only you can. You have to learn to speak up for yourself. I don’t feel comfortable please stop I don’t know you well enough for this t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 03:24 PM |
| 9 | nothing says traditional more than rocking her box for 10+ years with no ring or kids or a marriage. Sure I'll commit after getting the milk for free for 10 years and then "Maybe" we can get married and start a family. Sooo tradition you people!Girl I have so many stories! But thank you all for allowing me to share them. I started sharing them here on FDS every sunday to pass the message. The best takeaway is that you always speak your truth and tell your story! You never know who needs to hear it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 05:08 PM |
| 24 | nothing says traditional more than rocking her box for 10+ years with no ring or kids or a marriage. Sure I'll commit after getting the milk for free for 10 years and then "Maybe" we can get married and start a family. Sooo tradition you people!Thank you! It was hard when I was going through it. I remember our accountant was like “some women aren’t meant to be married,” when I told him. Fuck him and his business lol! My story ended up helping another woman though. She was a coworker and was brand new. She had just married her husband too, after being with him for about ten years. He was hitting her though. She thought she was trapped and was embarrassed because the wedding was expensive. I was like “girl idgaf about costs, if people go… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 04:35 PM |
| 49 | nothing says traditional more than rocking her box for 10+ years with no ring or kids or a marriage. Sure I'll commit after getting the milk for free for 10 years and then "Maybe" we can get married and start a family. Sooo tradition you people!I got married after being with my ex for over ten years. We got married and like a month later I decided I didn’t want to be married anymore because I decided I was still mad he had cheated in 2015. You had to wait 6months before filing for divorce. So I filed and it took forever to get divorced. Legally separated by 2018, divorced by 2019. Feels good though. I’ll never wait that long again though. The thing is, before he cheated, I was so invested lol! And then I wasn’t 🤷🏽♀️ The thought of bei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 03:53 PM |
| 3 | How much time do you guys give to see if he can make you orgasm?Twice. The first time ca be awkward because you’re still getting to know each other. I’ve been with guys and we both didn’t come the first time. But the second time, he can eat you out until you come. I’m no longer waiting past that. 6 months is too long for me, I can make myself come in like 2 minutes so I can’t wait that long for some dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 02:52 PM |
| 2 | When he says “You will never do better than me.”👌👌👌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 03:00 AM |
| 6 | When he says “You will never do better than me.”Omg lol! He’s gross | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 11:20 PM |
| 7 | When he says “You will never do better than me.”👏👏👏👏 There was a time when I would have believed it. But that person no longer exists, I stopped and looked at him like “I’m screaming” and “It’s the homelessness for me” 🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 10:24 PM |
| 12 | When he says “You will never do better than me.”Right? Please God, make sure no one loves like that man 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 09:24 PM |
| 23 | When he says “You will never do better than me.”Seriously! You could totally low blow if they wanna compare (and compare their sizes, stamina, skill etc lol) but yeah, these men think they’re gods gift to earth. No bro. I don’t want that gift, no matter how pretty it’s wrapped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 08:42 PM |
| 12 | When he says “You will never do better than me.”Yesssssss🤣🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 08:40 PM |
| 9 | When he says “You will never do better than me.”Thank you. It’s important that I be a positive influence to the young women in my life, including my daughters. Today, my sister was like “I wish you would talk to my son, he never wants to listen to me.” And I was like tell him he has to earn his computer time by talking to you for an hour lol. You gonna get this knowledge by any means 👏👏👏 But thank you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 08:40 PM |
| 8 | When he says “You will never do better than me.”Yes. I used to have the same worries especially because my ex husband is an actor. However, a lack mindset never benefits anyone. I never even liked the actor part of him, it was annoying because women were always trying to sit with us or get pictures with him. We can’t let factors like children, age, looks, etc stop us from living our best lives. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 08:37 PM |
| 38 | Sweet As Pie : I’ll add the backstory in the commentsI love “playing nice!” It’s the best, these men will think their game is working and you’re all “ yeah, it wouldn’t work out because I only like men who are honest, too bad, so unfortunate” 🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 05:35 PM |
| 17 | LVM Bitching About Paying $20 For A MealThe minute the receipt was thrust into my face I would have put a hand up and asked for silence, paid my half and tell him to never contact me again. He’s doing entirely too much talking for 20 dollars. I had a man bring me jewelry on a first date tf? He’s gross. And then he got mad because she told him he’s going to be a friend? Played victim because of her “stank” attitude? Why bother arguing with him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 09:16 PM |
| 2 | HVM anticipate your needs!Thank you for the book recc. My mom never discussed these things when I was a child. She was super neglectful, but I think she had her own issues. Not excusing her but it is what it is. Anyway, the books I’ve read tend to give super generalized. And I find it better when speaking to other women. For example, I had no idea women got their period at the same time every month because I don’t, but it makes sense because of the “I’m late” thing. I know I’m older now and could research things but I ho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 06:34 PM |
| 7 | HVM anticipate your needs!Haha! What a jerk. What’s interesting is that like a week before is when I get the extreme tiredness and irritability. Not during the actual period. Now that I have a tracker (like I said I never get mine the same time each month) I can see the week before is when I get the most symptoms. However, you never know what you’re gonna get when I wake up, even with a normal situation. So him running at the first sign of tenseness is funny as hell to me, because I’m always tense lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 03:23 PM |
| 8 | HVM anticipate your needs!Armchair parenting 🤣🤣🤣🤣 gotta love that! I remember the kids tearing up the house and my exhusband just sitting there playing games on his phone 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 02:58 PM |
| 1 | HVM anticipate your needs!Yep, it’s like you figure something out because it’s your fault you’re out of commission 🙄🙄🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 02:29 PM |
| 3 | HVM anticipate your needs!Wow. I have to track my period because it always comes on different dates how did he know? Does your period come at the same time each month? I never discuss this with women so I’m curious | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 02:27 PM |
| 4 | HVM anticipate your needs!Thank you so much. I’ve read Lundys book, it helped me stay away when it all went down. I agree with everything you said. I know I was abused and he’s done this a million times. I also know he’s dead inside. But I’m not so there’s that❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 02:19 PM |
| 18 | HVM anticipate your needs!Yeah I won’t lie it’s been the hardest to recover from. I have a tolerable mindset now, but the amount of heaviness in my heart and pain I suffered after the breakup was astounding - and I broke up with him. I struggle still because I constantly think about him. I really respect my mother, my dads a narc and she left and never went back. I don’t know how many times it took, but she did it. I feel really weak around my nex so I just try to pretend I don’t exist so he’ll forget me, which hasn’t ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 03:53 AM |
| 41 | HVM anticipate your needs!Yeah mine was a narc. It’s crazy how similar they are. Mine also said “are you on the rag”, and once I called him out- said he was sexist and mean to women and later he tried to laugh it off and make me take it back. Nope. But yes, I do get pain but mostly just tired. And since I do so much, I can’t afford to have even a little less energy. But yeah narcs are the worst. He’s my worst ex ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 02:48 AM |
| 134 | HVM anticipate your needs!Ugh triggered to when ex was like he hated my mood swings when I was on my period. I used to have a lot of pain during periods and he hated it. I was total pick me back then and I remember feeling so sad because I didn’t know how to control my tiredness/pain/irritation🙄🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 02:07 AM |
| 14 | Serious question: Have older men ever became obsessed with you?Yes. The first one started when I was 15/16. He was in his mid to late twenties. He managed to obtain my number and then would call me, using fake names (who is this ? Ken? No I don’t know anyone named Ken) this happened until I literally moved out of my house. The other stalkers I’ve had are usually more discreet, and this was before social media so they were sort of limited to phone only since I moved so much. In my early 20’s I was shopping when I glanced up and saw an ex staring at me from o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 02:04 PM |
| 28 | I’m really disappointed and y’all are the only ones who will understand.Girl. The rage I used to feel around the holidays. The absolute lack of attention to detail. Getting clothes that were clearly on clearance, imagine only wearing minimalist clothing and being gifted an acid washed trench coat?! Or white jeans splattered with black paint and wings on the crotch?! Or specifically asking for a scarf that’s timeless to be instead given ugly wool monstrosities? 5 to be exact?! Imagine the rage being with a person who tells you they only wear high end items and you ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 09:08 PM |
| 84 | I’m really disappointed and y’all are the only ones who will understand.Oh, yes, I remember those days....when my ex husband was just a boyfriend at the time. What a time to be alive. Stupid gifts, future faking and bemoaning the fact that he couldn’t do what he wanted for US because of his job and lack of funds. And then we got married, it sucked, now I’m divorced and treat myself. A leaf blower is nice but you know damn well he should have saved that for just a random purchase and bought you something more appropriate for your anniversary. Damn I remember half ass… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 06:31 PM |
| 21 | Have your boyfriends been “straight”? Depends on your definition...One of my exes said he was sexually abused by a relative who was transgender. This was in the 80s early 90s. The relative was MtF. The relative would babysit my ex and performed oral on him every night starting when he was 6 years old until about 11. My ex stated no one had told him his relative was born a man, he always thought she was a woman because of the way the relative dressed and did makeup. My ex said he was very confused because the relative was once massaging him in a family setting b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 03:41 PM |
| 28 | Thank you FDS for teaching me to drop the customer service act with menYep, I’ll never forget standing on a train platform when a strange man approached me and said hello. I politely told him I didn’t know him and don’t speak to strange men. Would you believe this man then chose to argue with me? He scoffed “what are you, five? Don’t talk to strangers?!?” Then I said “yes. I don’t talk to strange men. I don’t like you. Leave me the fuck alone.” And then he moved away. Being nice didn’t do anything, he had to be cussed at before he believed I wasn’t interested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 04:15 AM |
| 4 | The pain of realising I was brainwashed and finally breaking freePeople post like this all the time. We read it if we want to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 11:28 PM |
| 2 | Communicating my boundaries and being shamed for it? 🙃 How can i do this better?Yes, this rubbed me the wrong way, not only because OP is telling me exactly what she is looking for, some of it is approached wrong. Telling a man he is required to love you more than him? Oh, baby girl 🤣🤣 some things are shown via action than words. You can’t tell someone they have to love you more than them, that never works. He either will or he won’t. You have a good list but some of the things I see are not realistic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 09:12 PM |
| 2 | How do you perceive male anger?In my past relationships, male anger was always too excessive/aggressive. If they were a “calm” mad they were usually trying to manipulate me. The men I’ve dealt with believed that when angry they could say whatever they want and apologize later. But this literally chips away at me until I have nothing left to give. I def believe we are allowed emotions but when men express them I’m always like 🙄 because it’s always too much. I will not tolerate raging or any excessive bursts of anger anymore. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 01:50 PM |
| 18 | I’m wondering if this is a form of negging.Yeah, it’s really unfortunate. Because sometimes I wonder the intent behind it. Some (very few) aren’t even aware, they think they are being open but you see that they are unhealed and not over their ex. Others have a more sinister purpose, which is to make you work harder for them, which I really feel comes from an insecurity that these men have. It never works on me, because I get bored so fast. My response is like “maybe you should be with your ex if you’re still thinking about her.” And that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 10:12 PM |
| 98 | I’m wondering if this is a form of negging.It’s not “negging” it’s called triangulation. They reminisce about the likeable or unlikable qualities of an ex, which makes you feel jealous/sad/competitive. Like the blowjob one, you’re supposed to then become “better” by trying harder at blowjobs🙄 It could turn into negging though. At the end of the day exes shouldn’t be discussed in a wistful manner🙄 it shows they aren’t over them and you aren’t the ex and never will be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 09:40 PM |
| 3 | Keep yourself safe at all times.Yes she was a teenager. The footage showed someone running, but it appears that it might have been the killer. Still, it’s very frightening. I always say I would fight but I’ve never been in the situation. With my ex, when he acted crazy and driving, when he pulled over I should have got out and ran. Instead I cowered in fear because I was in pure fright mode. He appeared so loving but that day I saw how unstable he was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 08:19 PM |
| 5 | Keep yourself safe at all times.This is amazing. I agree that I don’t know if I would have opened the door since women can be complicit in crimes but it’s terrible what happened to her. It’s so scary when you are going through it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 03:01 PM |
| 2 | Keep yourself safe at all times.Mostly they discussed using physical strength to overpower, they relied on Netflix and chill dates or any situations that they would be alone, including riding in cars. Some drugged their dates in their homes. They used a nice guy approach which women fell for. I’ve been guilty of this, a guy asks you over for dinner, and you’re hesitant (because you don’t know them🙄) and they’ll try to ease your mind and say “I’m a nice guy.” Then you go over and either get trapped or drugged. So the key takeaw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Keep yourself safe at all times.Yep. With my last ex, the nicer I was to him, the more cruel he acted. It made no sense since he was the one who wanted to be friends after I dumped him. He has a girlfriend too, like why stalk me and be crazy towards me when you are with someone else? He’s disordered, though, a narcissist. He’s pissed I left him and didn’t fall for any of his bullshit of trying to triangulate. It’s best to block. They will never stop trying to hurt you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 02:51 PM |
| 3 | Keep yourself safe at all times.Oh yeah. Men will be the first to shame you when you say women have to be extra careful around men, but statistics don’t lie. A lot of men have a depraved nature and you literally have to be on guard all the time, which is exhausting 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 02:48 PM |
| 2 | Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome is the definition of insanity. This is why FDS is important.It’s really absurd how these men think. I’m not interested in dating rn, because when I think of a man, I feel disgusted. Hopefully it will pass soon🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 02:47 PM |
| 4 | Keep yourself safe at all times.👏 👏👏👏👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 02:25 AM |
| 5 | Keep yourself safe at all times.Right? I visited my friend in Cali and she had a simple turn lock. That’s it. Her door was thin af. And it led right to the street it wasn’t an “indoor” apartment. I was horrified. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 02:24 AM |
| 3 | Keep yourself safe at all times.Gross, but accurate smh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 01:24 AM |
| 3 | Keep yourself safe at all times.The one when I was 15, I was more disgusted than anything, but it def seemed unbelievable when it was happening. He checked himself because his friends were like “dude she’s like 12” and he backed off thankfully. The thing with my ex, wow, I totally feel you. I was really scared that day. He had abruptly pulled off to the side after going crazy and I thought he was going to hit me and shied away. We made up, but I was in a real funk over it (which of course made him angry, because I wouldn’t let… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 12:27 AM |
| 23 | How will/are you instilling an FDS mindset in your daughters? Is leading by example enough? Should we ban traditional Disney princess movies etc?I have daughters. We discuss age appropriate scenarios. They’re 9. So, a lot of talk about friends and what is considered toxic, blocking techniques, etc. Also, learning to control emotions and not let people get the best of them. Creating structure and keeping their space clean and their body hygiene is discussed, as well as bras panties. They try on my makeup if they want. I teach them etiquette as well, excusing themselves from the table, cleaning up after themselves. We talk about porn becau… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 12:20 AM |
| 5 | Keep yourself safe at all times.Your last line is so important! I’ve dealt with my fair share of low life men, but the last one I believe is mentally ill in a really bad way. At first, I was sort of amused by him and his obsessed nature, but now he just seems sick. I think about him sometimes and try to imagine his thought process. I don’t even look him up because I get really anxious and nervous. He was the worst. It makes me sick how many untreated mentally ill men are out there harming women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 12:12 AM |
| 11 | Keep yourself safe at all times.That’s horrible. I’ll look up her story. But yes, you def have to scan the area at all times and make sure your safe. Her story sounds so sad 😞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 11:17 PM |
| 8 | Keep yourself safe at all times.I’m planning on leaving NY and when I get my place, I’m def getting a dog. I don’t have room for one now but I really want one for the girls and I. Yep, people have told me I look mean when I’m in the streets but what do I care? Please don’t approach me. 🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 11:15 PM |
| 23 | Keep yourself safe at all times.How scary! So true though, sometimes we forget that some men are very aggressive and don’t like to be rejected, regardless if you have just met or have been dating them for a while. There was a how to rape Reddit forum a few years ago where men discussed tactics to have sex with women. One man said he deliberately made his house freezing so that the woman would request a blanket. They would snuggle up and he would eventually pin her down to have sex with her. Preference was toward smaller girls.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 09:57 PM |
| 3 | Keep yourself safe at all times.Lol he was my boyfriend at the time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 07:52 PM |
| 12 | Keep yourself safe at all times.I’ve been looking at batons lately so this is helpful! Ladies remember that if you have a baton, knife or other object meant for striking, to practice using it and becoming familiar with it. It would be a shame if you pulled out a baton, only to have it knocked out of your hand and used against you. Be familiar with the objects you use to protect yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 07:43 PM |
| 10 | Keep yourself safe at all times.Yes! The bug spray is a great idea! Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 07:41 PM |
| 9 | Keep yourself safe at all times.Thanks for the tips! With the car, I find it weird when people get in their car, immediately blast music and allow all windows to be rolled down. Just why??i don’t like being on my phone late night but I do wear headphones in it happens. This way my hands are still free. Once my ex and I were arguing and I was at the park with my daughters. He insisted on FaceTiming me, which I declined. I need to be watching my children not his reactions🙄 I went in about that and he never did it again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 07:40 PM |
| 2 | Strategy UpgradeHmmmmmmm that’s pretty good actually 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 04:34 PM |
| 2 | The vetting FaceTime is the perfect alternative to the coffee/walk snooze-fest and avoids those "awkward dinners" to "keep it casual" - but LVMs won't go for it.Why am I triggered by the Amway remark tho?? 🤣 oh yeah, my ex made me go to one of those schemes and I was like eff no. Smfh why are these men like this?! But yes he wanted that or random “rich dad, poor dad” seminars and I was just like why am I paying some bum to tell me how to be rich? Seems weird. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 04:03 PM |
| 1 | LVM shows his true colors, pickmeishas are in the comments blaming his reaction on women🙄🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 03:59 PM |
| 3 | LVM shows his true colors, pickmeishas are in the comments blaming his reaction on women🙄The reply is dumb af. Why would I offer to go Dutch? Why do I have to be concerned about him feeling like I’m a gold digger? He’s gonna think whatever he wants, with or without my input lol. Also she was like “oh this could be from prior women treating him bad” but most men want sex, which is why they are on the date in the first place? HVM would never be “afraid” of a bad date🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Stay the course.Thank god! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 03:54 PM |
| 2 | Stay the course.For sure! Thankfully I’ve never had iron issues, but when I was vegetarian for about two years (36-38) my depression/manic stages were super hard to manage. Looks wise, my hair was falling out and my skin looked gray. I decided to switch back and I’ve never looked better. But it took a lot of work to recover. Weight lifting, supplements, heavy meat/potatoes/yogurt (dairy makes my stomach hurt but my doctor recommended it, I can tolerate yogurt.) also my teeth suffered a lot, they need that enzym… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 03:52 PM |
| 9 | Strategy UpgradeLiterally me, even did a domestic partnership for literally ten years before I got married and then filed for divorce 6 months later. Now, before I make the men in my life move to the committed phase they have to be vetted by two people in my family🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 03:12 PM |
| 2 | Stay the course.Yes, I saw a post that you should follow accounts intentionally, so I deleted a ton of IG models/fashion nova/cheap clothing/ etc and it helped a lot! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 04:14 AM |
| 3 | Stay the course.True! I’ve never felt so good! I have money and I don’t have to cater to a bum ass man! I’m excited about my prospects, I just get nervous and low vibrational from time to time. I was very shy the first time I had sex with someone other than my ex husband because he was the only one I’d been with after I had kids. (I had plenty of sex with other men before children but it seemed different after, you know?) Thank you for your kind words! I’m excited for the future ahead! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 04:12 AM |
| 13 | Stay the course.Will do! Such a great idea thanks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 08:18 PM |
| 3 | I don’t care, I don’t care, ✨I don’t care✨🧏🏻♀️✨I gotta find her again thank you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 08:17 PM |
| 2 | My post FDS level up collage. Focusing on my family, studying, God and healthThat’s a good question. Let me start by saying this first. I am Catholic. But I’m also puertorican, part of my culture is the knowledge that my people had their own religion that is older than Catholicism. Santeria, is an Afro-Cuban based religion which I also believe in. The Catholic Church accepts Santeria but on a limited scale. And some ideas of Santeria conflict with the Bible, particularly that you shouldn’t worship other gods except for God. The reason why I’m okay with my soul is because… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 08:12 PM |
| 9 | My post FDS level up collage. Focusing on my family, studying, God and healthLove the God pic. Fellow woman of God over here! I restarted going to church (online for now) and it’s such a good feeling 😇 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 07:12 PM |
| 7 | I can't believe this male combs through our sub and even dedicates time to writing future posts for when we hit 100k. Haha. I assure you buddy, there isn't any risk of us becoming "inclusive" or "average". You males have shown us what average looks like and we are not interested!One point was that there are a lot of weird posts lately that are either against FDS or they argue when corrected. I don’t mind schooling newcomers but the ones that argue annoy tf outta me. You’re here complaining your man ain’t shit but you still want to pay for him? Ugh just remove them and be like “your line of reasoning is against FDS values.” But it is what it is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 07:11 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 18 2020If you lift weights and do less cardio, you’ll gain weight. If you drink protein shakes you’ll gain weight I actually can’t do any cardio at all because it makes me lose weight too fast. I also struggle with eating because I literally have no appetite ever. So I make each meal heavy with protein and carbs and I weight lift. Lifting heavy weights caused me to get a few hunger pangs lol so i like it. I bought a weight bench so I work out at home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 07:04 PM |
| 6 | I don’t care, I don’t care, ✨I don’t care✨🧏🏻♀️✨I love sugafuzz! Is this on Twitter? She used to be on IG and I don’t have a Twitter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 07:01 PM |
| 35 | Why is there a rumor circling around that FDS women are ugly?I promise you I’m not ugly but I’ve also heard the rumors and have seen comments. I just laugh. Once I posted in nyr4r a pic of myself because I wanted to go out on a date. The requirement for me to respond was that anyone who was interested had to include a photo. I got 80 photos within the first 20 minutes. Out of those 80, maybe three were passable enough for me to reach out. I received so many posts. And even though I posted a few hours later that I wasn’t accepting any more applications, I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 05:32 PM |
| 1 | Ok, Groomer and Other TacticsIdk...I left the group a year ago. It might be. The FB is called Daffodil. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 04:17 AM |
| 2 | Ok, Groomer and Other TacticsI had joined a FB private group for people who were victimized by narcissists and we posted pics w names and locations The group was private no one knew. It was awesome | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 01:55 AM |
| 4 | Ladies, stop devaluing yourselves and shying away from proper dinner dates! A nice restaurant is not intimidating, a dinner date is not too much pressure, and if you really feel you don't want to eat a meal with someone, you shouldn't be accepting a date with him in the first place!It won’t be awkward with me. I’ll make a man feel wonderful while I eat my steak with him. And block his ass right after | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 12:51 AM |
| 1 | All the usual pickmes in the comments saying asking for child support is gold digging...smhFrom what the comments were saying is that the fathers provide her money but they are not under an order to pay child support. She still takes their money | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 12:49 AM |
| 7 | The best advice I was ever given was by a 35+ woman who said, “you have to love yourself more than you love them”.I think you can do both, but it takes being level headed and not speaking from an emotional state. When I dumped my last ex, he tried everything to enrage me and I just told him “it’s not going to work out because I want honesty and a good man and that’s not you.” He tried to argue and I just kept repeating myself. He even cursed me out via text and I was like “I’ll always love the person you pretended to be, but I need him honesty from a man.” And I never reacted, not to him splashing his new g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 12:42 AM |
| 4 | Mine is more of a grid. LolThese grids are so good lmaooo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Smh, all you had to do was be on time for work , and you can’t even do THAT!I have two in the same grade, we barely made it last year by 3pm. It’s hard because they wants breaks and you need one too, dealing with your kid who forgets 5+5 and then you scream at them and then they cry because “mom thinks I’m an idiot.” You take breaks so you can rest and not want to kill yourself and then everyone benefits. But you don’t get done by 3🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 12:30 AM |
| 62 | Me: “if you’re interested in me romantically we should go on a proper date.” Him:Haha it’s like poker and watching him bluff his way into making you think you don’t deserve a date because y’all don’t know each other. No one has to sit thru an awkward dinner, either one of you can end it at any time. He’s trying to frame it as he would be the one rejecting you, and patronize by saying he smiled through the message. YOU ALREADY SAID WHAT YOU WANTED. He acted like you don’t know better and what HE wants is better. I’d be like “not interested” and block. I ain’t doing anything e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 12:23 AM |
| 14 | Having kids in your late twenties versus thirtiesOh! No worries! Sorry I wanted to add, having twins at 29, I had been without kids for so long it def took getting used to. Now I’m 39, my ex wanted kids around 45...but I’m so drained from the children I don’t think I can have anymore. You would think the older they get, the less stressed, but actually I’m up late every night thinking about them dating, birth control, one of their friends showed them porn, another friend was physically hitting...I have so many talks with them and they are only … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 11:49 PM |
| 6 | My Ex collage! Ffs...Lmaoooo no pic just LIAR in bold | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 11:44 PM |
| 52 | Having kids in your late twenties versus thirtiesI had mine at 29, probably should have waited. I wouldn’t let anyone pressure you into having a kid, tf? The toll it takes on your body is crazy. Man, does the money flow right outta your hands into the kids lmaooo...y’all should consider marriage first. Then kids. I find it really interesting how some men won’t consider marriage, but will have a kid. At least if he dies while married you and your kid will both get money until they are 18 (social security). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 11:42 PM |
| 29 | SterilisationMy tubes are tied. I was really sick and it had to do with my tubes so I tied them at 29. I do have children though. I did it via IVF, which was fully covered by my job. So I did experience pregnancy, I just can’t get pregnant by surprise. It has to be planned. It worked out fine, but many doctors won’t do it when you have no children. So you’ll find to find someone who is willing🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 11:37 PM |
| 14 | Do not trust them with anything...I agree. Marriage is so tricky because I don’t think you should have a child with a man unless you are married to him (I just believe it shows greater commitment) but it can be a real struggle when divorcing. I agree that even the nicest man will take advantage if you let them. This doesn’t mean going through life with hardened attitude; you just to be indifferent and detached. I promise you, once you master being stoic, your life will change. You can look at situations and decide what percentag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 07:58 PM |
| 33 | Is this a pick me mentality?She gets triggered because she’s insecure. I mean, her ex basically verbally abused her by either saying he liked those bodies and triangulated her against them. At the end of the day, she’s a pick me because she thinks these strippers are a threat to her. The real threat is a low life man, period. A hvm man would never. Until she accepts that she’s not the problem, she’s part of the problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 07:51 PM |
| 1 | A collage of things I hate about my ex. Idea came from another post by an FDS Queen and the reminder to do it came from my recent post.See, that’s why I love this sub. I actually don’t drive because I moved to NYC. So I didn’t think much about it- I’m over here thinking cars are super expensive when they really aren’t. And I totally agree. At least your sister guy had his own place , sometimes trailers are nice lol. Better than a tiny bedroom packed full of stuff in someone else’s home! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 07:14 PM |
| 28 | Dear Reddit LibFems: Nobody died and made your self important asses the gatekeepers of feminism. We're not "fake feminists" because you don't agree with us, nor are you as inclusive and non-judgmental of women's choices as you pretend you are.It’s a sad day on earth when you feel PROUD that you spent your hard earned(but not equally earned) money on a scrub ass man for dinner, then allow him to fuck you and treat you like a maid. Or trash. Y’all gotta get off that. These men are getting away w too much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 12:54 PM |
| 1 | A warning as to why you should never, ever let a LVM into your life.Soooo goood. I also grew up in an abusive, narcissistic home, but survived because I’m ridiculously stubborn and petty AF! I would wait years for revenge and they wouldn’t even think it was me. But it was😁. But yeah, scummy men are a dime a dozen. They’re all over the place. Literal trash littering the streets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 01:38 AM |
| 18 | A collage of things I hate about my ex. Idea came from another post by an FDS Queen and the reminder to do it came from my recent post.No money ever, despite making more 80k (debt, spending frivolous on food and drugs) Always eating in his room because he didn’t have his own place (lived with female relative, paid her 300) $800 monthly car payment - like who tf agrees to pay this obscene amount of money when you don’t have your own place?!? Good hygiene but terrible clothing choices (black and yellow plaid shirt with army shorts) Abusive, hateful, cruel to women in his life (including female CHILD and child’s mother) but preten… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 01:25 AM |
| 3 | Do NOT blame yourself after getting ghosted after a first or second date!Every time I’ve ghosted the man has stalked me. It may be for a short time, it may be for a few years but it’s happened every single time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 01:14 AM |
| 5 | Do NOT blame yourself after getting ghosted after a first or second date!I used to read the Reddit relationship sub religiously. Many men wrote that they would not pursue a woman if they were unable to sleep with her on the first date. I swore that I would never be one of those women....I loved the posts where the men would complain that it was “all going well” then the woman ghosted. Fuck these scrubs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Ain't that the truth.Yeah, the AUDACITY be strong with some of these scrubs. “Why dont you wear skinny jeans?” (This was in early 2000s, when straight leg/boot cut was popular) Never offered to buy my clothes, just talked trash about the ones I had. (Ex husband) “Omg, I can see your makeup, eww.” (When I applied a light dusting of a shimmer brick on my cheeks, with mascara. Nothing else. No foundation. Nothing else) “You don’t have a black girls body.” (I’m puertorican, which does have black blood. But....what?!??) … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 11:39 PM |
| 22 | Goddamn, the breaking mom subreddit is just one disaster LVM story after another. They should change the title to their sub to "breakingmyspirit" insteadLmaoooo, I’m going to show it to my niece so she can stop thinking about having a kid🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 08:36 PM |
| 2 | Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome is the definition of insanity. This is why FDS is important.Listen if a man tried to tell me about his past experiences and it involves any of the above, I just say “gross” and laugh. I’m so shady, I’ve been responding “ok, weird flex,” to people who say they’re having a baby with a low life. It’s so true that the older you get, the less fucks you give🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 08:33 PM |
| 2 | Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome is the definition of insanity. This is why FDS is important.Hey Scorpio ❤️❤️❤️❤️♏️♏️♏️♏️♏️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 01:04 PM |
| 24 | Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome is the definition of insanity. This is why FDS is important.You’ve said it a lot nicer than me🤣🤣. I’m working on my delivery, I swear. But, exactly! You have to constantly deal with you fighting your mindset (which is programmed by society) and your friends and family, some will scorn you, some are pick mes, and some just don’t get it. You have to put yourself first. That’s why I can’t date right now. I tried....last October, I tried dating an old friend from high school. This is literally one year after me breaking up with abusive ex. He was sweet, but … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 10:53 PM |
| 7 | Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome is the definition of insanity. This is why FDS is important.Lol! I go on rants all the time! Anyone can get it!!! But it’s all love tho❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 09:55 PM |
| 95 | Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome is the definition of insanity. This is why FDS is important.Right?! So many newcomers are cherry picking the manual, then are writing that they’re being treated like trash. Newsflash.....unless you apply FDS the right way, you gonna end up “turned out.” You literally cannot get caught slipping. Pay once for a man? Don’t be surprised when he ghosts. Have sex with a man the first night or so? Don’t be mad when he plays you and now you’re crying. Still wanna be with an abusive man? Oh no, my lip is busted. I literally cannot date right now because I’m still… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 09:14 PM |
| 11 | Reminder: It is Okay to not be OkayThanks for this message! Yes, the aftermath can be totally unexpected, especially if you were abused. I was always able to walk away without too many concerns but I’m pretty sure my last ex was a narcissist. The abuse was awful. Afterwards, I couldn’t even heal because he blasted photos of his new girlfriend and stalked me at the same time. Every time I tried to be nice to him, he became even meaner so I just stopped talking to him. I stopped looking at his and her social media, because even tho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 05:33 PM |
| 1 | Pickmesha RehabNo one said you said it. But what you did do was try to justify why you should have casual sex, which is your right to do so, but I’m advising (as FDS advises) that you only play yourself when you have that mindset. Casual sex is a scam, period. Also, yes, sometimes we wait and find out that it isn’t worth it, but we are too far gone in love to leave. That’s why you always have to put yourself first. You can always leave. Love allows you to make hard decisions. Just make sure you’re choosing you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 06:03 PM |
| 14 | Pickmesha RehabHere’s what stands out to me. You say that it’s 2020 and you get horny so you justify fast sex with a scrub. And FDS isn’t being prudish when they state not to do that. We’re not that Health teacher that’s like “abstinence is best ladies”. FDS literally backs it up with reasoning. Exposure to STDs, possible pregnancy, possible abortion. But really, that’s all irrelevant,amirite🙄🙄🙄 The real issue is lack of respect you get when you fuck too soon. Not all men are like this but the MAJORITY are. An… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 04:31 PM |
| 2 | Most men gleefully cheer on predatory selfish sociopath traits in other men (especially those used to exploit women) but they expect TONS of sympathy from women when they feel stepped on by a much bigger sociopath male who simply has more money/power to exploit them (politicians etc).I agree and I’m the same way. I always watch and observe people’s behaviors and how the conduct themselves. I never say anything, but I’m pretty ruthless with my actions towards them. Some people have asked why I wasn’t friends with a certain person, and I’ve responded “I would NEVER be friends with them.” And if the person themselves confront me? Man.....I usually tell them. They end up avoiding me because they know that I see them for what they really are. I’ve been described as “unnerving” an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 01:11 AM |
| 1 | Divorced Queens with no kids, do you talk to your ex?Ugh. I have kids with my ex but sometimes I imagine him not being in my life or not having to run anything by him. Fucking sucks. We were child free for so long too. I love my daughters but my ex husband is always around and it’s so frustrating!!!! I even think how will I have a boyfriend because he’s always around 🙄🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 12:20 AM |
| 12 | LVM find women so easily and it’s infuriatingYeah, I find I didn’t really heal from my last ex until I actually stopped looking for him on social media. He was extremely toxic. I know now that he purposely splashed the woman he was with on social media for me to see; I unfollowed him but still followed his mom, and all of a sudden there were videos of them that were tagged. I ended up having to unfollow her. It’s been two years and he still crosses my mind, but that heartache is gone. What really killed any urges for me was how cruel he wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 02:43 AM |
| 32 | NVM Ex-husband meets new meBeing stoic is the best❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 08:09 PM |
| 4 | Going from Pickmesha to HVW?I was the same in many ways for many years. I dated an actor and he was rich so I was super impressed, because I was from a small military/fishing town and people just didn’t carry money like he did. But I was definitely a pickmeisha, I would come running whenever he called and sometimes I paid because I wanted him to see my worth. It got worse, he always dangled the carrot of marriage under the premise “if I acted right; not be ghetto; acted like a lady,” which always was upsetting because I wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 04:40 PM |
| 9 | Why are guys so obsessed with pictures?Reasons why they want your pictures: to jerk off to, even if they aren’t nudes to jerk off to, especially if they are nudes to show people y’all are together, because these pics are not on social media to hold on to forever...even after you break up, and they are with someone else....to jerk off to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 12:36 AM |
| 3 | I explained to my mom about FDS, being a HVW and what a HVM is. I am witnessing her upgrade in appearance, demeanor and now she's rising up. I'm so proud of her and I'm shocked how evident her transformation really is.What’s the name of the treatment???!!?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 10:38 PM |
| 2 | Is it LV behavior to ask a guy for his Instagram before meeting up?Exactly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 10:36 PM |
| 6 | Is it LV behavior to ask a guy for his Instagram before meeting up?I would never give my IG to a man if he asked. What does it even prove? I’m confused? So many people lie on IG so it would be a pass for me. I don’t ask all that. I’ve been asked and they are immediately dismissed. It’s so shallow to me, so I would never ask. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 10:36 PM |
| 3 | When people are used to walking all over youTrue. Sometimes I do want to go out with friends rather than by myself. It sucks we can’t do meetups with men attempting to crash them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 08:58 PM |
| 4 | When people are used to walking all over youLol! I don’t have any either, by choice. People are constantly asking to be my friend and hang out and I’m like “I’m not accepting applications for friendship.” We all laugh and they think I’m joking, until they actually see me going out of my way to not be their friend. All I care about is money and God right now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Do not date "newly single" or "recently separated" men. You are not an emotional support animal.Yeah that’s weird. I had a guy talk about his ex and I shut it down. Who wants to hear about that? I didn’t k ow he was trying to triangulate me. He would also send me messages of their fights (they had a child together) for ME to help him respond. I told him he should go be with her and he stopped that shit real quick. But I wonder why women would stay if he didn’t stop. I used to wonder if my ex talked about me to his new girlfriend because I had the strangest feeling her posts were pointed to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 07:14 PM |
| 11 | When people are used to walking all over youThey are soooo mad! One “friend” had the nerve to call me and say “I HAVE DONE NOTHING TO YOU” because I asked for her to not reach out to me because my mom was sick af and undergoing heart surgery. Like I didn’t need long ass messages about her baby daddy at 6am everyday! I ended up blocking her and she STILL sends me emails asking for advice!! I never respond!!! I cut these people off left and right this year! I was fucking Edward Scissorhands ✂️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 05:41 PM |
| 7 | Guys who swear a lot seem low value to meNot everyone was raised not to curse but that doesn’t automatically make them low value. I remember a post a few months back where someone said tattoos are low value. That’s just conservative thinking and if you are conservative, then yes, you shouldn’t date someone who curses. But you’d be missing out. Just saying. But it’s interesting what we deem low value, outside of the obvious of course. For me, I hate when men don’t take pride in their clothing choices. I used to date a guy, and I’m prett… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 03:26 PM |
| 9 | Y’all. Pickmeisha wants her fiancé to stop sending his own child/mother of his child money and then people are praising him as a good man because he sends 300 measly dollars a month to make sure his child isn’t homeless 😂 bar is on the floor and pickmes want to lower it even moreYeah, she’s an idiot who clearly doesn’t understand how child support works. My ex husband was set to pay 1500 a month in child support. He begged me not to put him “on the books”. He also would not allow me to leave the state. I agreed that I would waive it and he would pay me off the books, but he had to list I was able to relocate and give me physical custody. (We had been fighting in court for TWO years about this) He agreed. He currently pays 600 a month towards my rent plus half of the clo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 03:17 PM |
| 5 | A cautionary tale from a dating subredditSame with rejecting sex. If they tell you they’ve been rejected in the past, if you try to initiate anything they will try to reject you. They do it for power 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 03:11 PM |
| 6 | From removeddit, this guy's comment on a post by a pregnant woman who's husband is buying nudes and sexually talking with other women. I worry what he said is true: men will always feel something is missing in a monogamous LTR, even the faithful men who do try not to stare or are porn-free.Men will always try to convince you to deal with shit that you do not have to deal with to have a relationship. Stop operating with a “lack” mentality. Some men are scum, some aren’t. Find the ones who aren’t, walk away from the ones who are PERIOD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 02:03 AM |
| 3 | What are some girlfriend benefits?Ooooohhhhh😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 05:22 PM |
| 32 | Do not date "newly single" or "recently separated" men. You are not an emotional support animal.Yeah after I dumped my last ex, he rebounded rather quickly....he appeared to be into her...but he was still liking my posts, actively stalking me, attempting to abuse me ( he would try to set up scenarios where he could show off his girlfriend and would be mad when I didn’t respond). On top of this, he was paying off one of my credit cards because he used it and ran it up. That took him two years to pay off. I would never date a man paying off debt to an ex, esp one he didn’t have children with… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 05:15 PM |
| 11 | What are some girlfriend benefits?I was married and I never combined accounts. And I never will. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 05:10 PM |
| 12 | For a 37 year old scrote who claims to be having the time of his life sexually, he sure devotes a lot of time to writing about us on his blog. 🧐 (6 total screenshots)In my 20s, so many of my friends couldn’t find a good guy...most just wanted to fuck and flee. And it’s under the premise “we’re young” so you are conditioned not to take things seriously. How many women have been mocked for getting married at 19,20, even if the guy was HVM?? Then in your 30s, it’s “omg women want to have my kid 🙄” because women are conditioned again that if they don’t have a kid by 30, they’re never going to have one. Women in their 40s apparently have no value, but we’re good … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 03:36 PM |
| 12 | Normalize turning your phone off before 9pmThank you for the support. I never felt strong while it was happening, but I can’t have my girls see me abused and think it’s okay. Also, you’re so right, I was impacted, I cried a lot, I acted strong during the day, pushed through work, and when they went to bed, I cried quietly because it was super intense and scary for a long time, plus my heart was trying to betray me and wanted him back. For many months, I felt really hard and numb towards men, but I’m a lot softer now because I know what I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 12:33 AM |
| 32 | Normalize turning your phone off before 9pmI went to visit him and this was very important because I was meeting his family and daughter for the first time, plus staying out there for two weeks. He acted crazy almost the entire time. Screaming in my face, refusing to pick up his daughter on his specific day because I was there (I’m a mother myself and would never go for this) and lastly, driving like a maniac, punching his phone. I had refused to speak to him like day 2 of the trip because i felt like he was being disrespectful to me and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 11:50 PM |
| 33 | Why we don’t go to multiple locations on the first date.Also, you can get tired out easily from multiple locations. A drink here, another one at another location, suddenly he’s like let’s go to my place and chill- and that sounds great because you’re so tired. No. I personally don’t like multiple location dates ever. Even when I’m deep in a relationship, I’ve learned it can go south pretty fast if you don’t do what your controlling boyfriend wants you to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 11:01 PM |
| 78 | Normalize turning your phone off before 9pmAh, when I used to stay up until 4 or 5 am EVERY night, for over a year....because I was in a LDR with a six hour time difference. He would get up at 3am to talk to me while I was working. I thought he was so high value for making it work🙄 It was all good until I realized the fucker never slept. He was literally so controlling, he kept me on FaceTime nonstop. Even when I slept. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 10:58 PM |
| 69 | Flew across the country for a guy, heard him matching with girls on Tinder in the middle of the night.I’d just block him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 05:02 PM |
| 4 | Nothing but factsYep. They almost always have to enter the relationship with you fraudulently, by lying about poly, trying to make you heavily invest your love then telling you.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 01:10 AM |
| 7 | Nothing but factsI mean, people are more open about what they want. But I don’t feel sad for the future, while there are still a lot of pick mes out there, there’s a ton of women who are like fuck no to men who want to be poly, want to be dominant without paying, or who do not provide. The future is female, period. That’s why these men are so mad. It’s fucking happening right now, these scrubs aren’t dating without paying heavily and they are pissed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 01:07 AM |
| 4 | Nothing but factsExactly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 01:00 AM |
| 6 | Nothing but factsYes. I never cared about it prior to my last boyfriend, but he tried to force me and manipulate me into it as well. It was triggering for me for a long time. One, I felt discouraged that it was out of my control (I would not compromise on it and I wasn’t used to feeling so against something but still loving my partner) and I hated that he wouldn’t accept that I wasn’t changing my mind. I also felt like he didn’t believe I was real and I existed. Because his fantasy was really stupid and no woman… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 12:57 AM |
| 3 | Divorced queens with kids who found love again: please share your story. I need inspiration, hope, and strength to follow through on my divorce.“Smarter” meaning he’s old af and probably can only cheat with women who can no longer have children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 05:34 PM |
| 2 | Divorced queens with kids who found love again: please share your story. I need inspiration, hope, and strength to follow through on my divorce.Yeah, basically no man has ever been as lvm as my dad. I have to be no contact, every time I tried to be cool w him, he either tried to scam me or use me as a alibi for his cheating. He’s old af and these pickmeishas love him. Mind you he’s been in a “committed“ relationship for years. He just got “smarter” after 9 kids, he hasn’t had any more for about 20 years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 03:38 PM |
| 2 | This comment on r / teenagers..girl is disturbed both brother and dad watch rough anal pornography :((Really informative response. I dated a man once who initially said he was dominant, but I kept feeling off so I asked him straight up and he admitted he was submissive. Lies. It was just as you said. Highly controlling and would have meltdowns if sex wasn’t exactly as he wanted it. Which was weird, because he always told me he loved that I initiated, because women in his past didn’t. So anyway, every single time I do something, anything (role play, initiate sex,) he either rejected or started a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 02:24 PM |
| 4 | I did it! I ended things with him! But then I was weak again :(The only way I’m getting back w a lvm is to gas him up, and leave him heartbroken. Sigh- man, I miss the old me. What was the question? Oh, yeah. NO YOU SHOULD NOT GET BACK WITH HIM, HE’S A DAMN LOW LIFE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 11:36 PM |
| 2 | Remain committed to the light at the end of the tunnelYes❤️ Glad it resonates with you. We all can benefit from negativity and positivity ❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 07:56 PM |
| 4 | Remain committed to the light at the end of the tunnelYes ✨🙏🏼✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 05:36 PM |
| 2 | Feeling dread about living with a partner againThanks! Same for you! I do think we’ll look back and realize we just weren’t ready for those big changes. We are def smarter now and stronger❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 05:13 AM |
| 5 | This comment on r / teenagers..girl is disturbed both brother and dad watch rough anal pornography :((I don’t believe it means their bisexual, they just want to get off anally. Even the domination tells me he’s more submissive if anything. I don’t like submissive men so this would be a no for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 11:35 PM |
| 5 | Feeling dread about living with a partner againI totally understand. I recently divorced, and when my now ex boyfriend brought up living together, I was terrified. I felt really bad. But I could feel my irritation when we would vacation together, it triggered me soooo bad. We’re not together anymore, but I’ve decided that I won’t live with a man unless we’re married. It’s not really that unusual and no one can force you to live with someone. I can afford everything on my own so I have no desire or need to do 50/50 relationships. So I can’t b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 11:33 PM |
| 57 | We have an epidemic of high male self-esteem, and it's time to do something about it.Yessss. Let’s bring down the scum, one lady at a time. Treats you bad at dinner? Excuse yourself to restroom and walk out. At his family function and he’s drunk? Catch an Uber or drive yourself AWAY. Walk away immediately. Block immediately. Unfriend immediately. I do this with attempted friendships too. You gotta laugh at their rage when they’re rejected. It’s a personal pleasure of mine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 03:11 PM |
| 1 | I'm very insecure/jealous/compare myself to every woman. Feels like other women are competition. With regard to my bf, I view women thru a lens of "is she a better choice for him than I am?"/ "she would be better for him" /"this is the type of girl he will leave me for"Girl, I know what he meant, I had a man say it to me word for word. But it’s still a little toxic you know? Because we don’t want other people to be jealous of us. We want people to genuinely wish us well. 🤗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 01:22 AM |
| 3 | Why are there so many men on tinder who are poly or couples who are looking for a unicorn?Yeah, I needed y’all back then. He deliberately waited until I was heavily invested to say this🙄 but thankfully I have always been one to walk away. Still, I struggled after the break up and I think it’s because it was the first time I had been abused. I understand DV so much better now , a terrible lesson but a lesson nonetheless | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 01:20 AM |
| 12 | I'm very insecure/jealous/compare myself to every woman. Feels like other women are competition. With regard to my bf, I view women thru a lens of "is she a better choice for him than I am?"/ "she would be better for him" /"this is the type of girl he will leave me for"I mean, even your boyfriend saying he wants other people to be jealous of y’all is a bit pressuring-why does anyone have to be jealous and want to be like y’all? It’s weird. It probably triggers you because it’s a strange mindset. When you’re working on your insecurities, some days are great and you may feel like you’re on top of the world. Other days can be really hard, because you may get triggered by people who seem more effortless than you, more put together, more beautiful, more rich, bette… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 04:09 AM |
| 53 | Why are there so many men on tinder who are poly or couples who are looking for a unicorn?Yeah I had an ex who claimed he was poly, he actively searched for bisexual women to fulfill his threesome fantasies. Never worked for him though. One girl he was with for 7 years agreed he could see another girl but refused to have any interaction with her and he was annoyed and broke up with her. Another woman apparently agreed to see other women but he never got to date those women because they were lesbian. So he asks me, and I just break up with him. Women are beautiful but I could never da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 03:57 AM |
| 2 | She's become a free baby sitterAww that’s terrible. I really fought it during mediation and it isn’t noted that I can’t relocate, but if I do, we can utilize mediation if we want. When your kids hit about 14 or so, they can decide (it depends on each state) if they want to change that part and testify that they wish to move with you. Usually the judge will grant it because at some point the child can refuse visitation (I started refusing when I turned 15) But it sucks to put the kids in that predicament. I wouldn’t give up, I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:42 PM |
| 16 | Spiritual people can fuck offYeah, these types are the worst. I knew one that said he “worshipped” women but abused every single girlfriend he had, including me. He watched porn, drank and cheated at being vegan, but swore he was smarter than everyone 🙄 He used to call me being on my period “the rag” and was angry at my HORMONAL mood swings. Overall, just terrible. He actually traumatized me a lot, many things triggered me for a long time after I dumped him, such as eating meat, constantly thinking I wasn’t good enough, and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 12:56 AM |
| 10 | The amount of upvotes & awards this has is terrifying.So be it🤷🏽♀️ Men want me to cook and clean for them too, when they could hire a maid....oh wait, they can’t afford it. Just like they can’t afford me😃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 04:56 PM |
| 23 | She's become a free baby sitterThis is not discussed enough. The father can prevent you from moving out of state with your child until 18. Please do not have a child with a lvm. Do not have a baby to keep a man, do not have a baby one year or sooner after meeting a man. Do not do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 12:45 AM |
| 3 | If you're in a relationship are you expected to teach your partner to help out around the house or contribute if they live with you?I mean, you should have a convo prior to moving in together to figure out your “living” compatibility. Some people have mentioned they may not know how to “adult” given their childhood experiences and while it’s valid, it still should be discussed prior to moving in. When my ex and I moved in together, he had been taught from a very early age to cook, do laundry but was a terrible house cleaner and not so much outside of those two things. I didn’t really do anything in my childhood, my mom didn’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 08:54 PM |
| 4 | Here ya go ladies...a 26 year old man who doesn’t have his drivers license yet because he’s just “bEeN tOo bUsY”... 😂I don’t drink, hate the taste. I have a permit, so I use that to get into bars. If you don’t have a permit, you just use state ID. Everyone’s driver license is basically state ID with additional lettering that either says Drivers license, permit, or just state ID. People usually get excited when they find out I don’t drink but then are bummed when I can’t be a designated driver. 🤷🏽♀️ Edit: I have drank before. No issues, because of state ID. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 09:42 PM |
| 9 | Anyone else feel they're not pretty enough for FDS?I’ve always worn little to no makeup, I’m def a natural beauty that probably is more comfortable in casual clothes than anything else. But as I got older, I began to become more comfortable with myself. I wear a little makeup(I personally don’t think makeup is bad but to each their own) and I do dress up for work. I like feeling feminine and the clothes, hair and light application of makeup does it for me. However. I’m from a small town and now live in NYC. Some of these women are soo put togeth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 09:35 PM |
| 5 | Here ya go ladies...a 26 year old man who doesn’t have his drivers license yet because he’s just “bEeN tOo bUsY”... 😂True. Actually I plan on moving and now I have to get a license and I’m like 😳😳😳 at the thought!!!! I need these driving classes to open up ASAP! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 04:58 PM |
| 10 | Here ya go ladies...a 26 year old man who doesn’t have his drivers license yet because he’s just “bEeN tOo bUsY”... 😂I’m about to be 40 and I just have a permit. Not every state needs a license🙄 I live in NYC so many people I know don’t have licenses or drive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 04:50 PM |
| 12 | Here ya go ladies...a 26 year old man who doesn’t have his drivers license yet because he’s just “bEeN tOo bUsY”... 😂Lol! I don’t have a drivers license either and I’m almost 40. I do live in NYC but I wasn’t born there- I was born in CA and lived there until I was 18. I never got my license because I was too young for drivers Ed when it was offered at my HS. I just keep renewing my permit lol. Actually I had planned on getting it before my permit expired this year, but I was busy and now I can’t because of Covid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 04:48 PM |
| 7 | Ladies! Here I present psycho fiancé version 3.5.8 who tried to cut his future wife’s birth control insert out of her arm using Box cutters while she was fast asleep.I was done when he said he had no parental attachment to her child. Why be with a women who already has children if you feel this way? One of my sisters dated a guy and he always wanted nothing to do with her child. How are y’all living together and you don’t interact with a young child living with you? He always wanted to go to a bar and leave her child with a sitter. She left him, but still thinks about him🙄 Anyone who isn’t 100 percent for me and my children can go kick rocks. Thank god she w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 03:38 PM |
| 16 | "I'm a father first, with the most amazing baby"Right? Yeah, I’m passing on men with children smaller than 3 unless the mother is deceased. I just find it foul on the mans part, the child still needs so much attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 11:33 PM |
| 1 | Has it always been this way?Thanks! I initially took powdered collagen as well, but some days I would forget so I like the pill form better. It’s a game changer! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 08:42 PM |
| 1 | Has it always been this way?It helps with skin improvement, inflammation and digestion issues. A supplement or bone broth is better but the gelatin in jello does help skin. Make sure it’s sugar free to avoid calories 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Has it always been this way?Thank you! I’d rather make my own too, it’s just hard to find in the city. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Has it always been this way?Girl yes. My post was long, and I didn’t get to add everything, but you’re absolutely right, bone broth is like liquid gold. Where do you get yours? I’ve been trying to find bones at the market but no luck. Just got it once and man it was everything. Also even jello provides gelatin which is useful for collagen. The grass fed steaks are sooooo good for your skin, it’s worth the price. I will never be vegetarian again lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 06:05 PM |
| 4 | To those who feel guilty about taking a man’s moneyThank you for sharing your story. Yes, there’s many YouTube videos that point out that if a man feel emasculated (example, insisting that you pay when he should be) they will leave you and find someone who lets them be a man. Or they will accept your money, keep theirs, and find someone else eventually. It happens to the best of us. We are all still learning here. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 05:53 PM |
| 5 | About a month ago I posted about a first date where the guy insisted that I pay for myself. This weekend I went on one of the most extravagantly lovely dates I've ever had with another manAw, this is beautiful. Enjoy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 04:29 PM |
| 21 | Has it always been this way?They were constantly using their minds too. I read historical novels and the amount of knowledge these men had was incredible. Building furniture, houses, caring for animal, butchering meat, even some could blacksmith etc. they were constantly trying to build a better life for themselves and their family. And without sex. It was against society values to have sex prior to marriage, so many times they would be thrilled when they got a kiss from their courting partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 04:24 PM |
| 6 | Has it always been this way?Those big hard bellies are from drinking and years of inflammation. It’s really sad, because a guy could be attractive but have that belly and it’s such a turn off for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 04:12 PM |
| 3 | Has it always been this way?I start lifting weights twice a week and the difference in my body composition is crazy!! I bought a weight bench precovid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 04:11 PM |
| 8 | Has it always been this way?Yeah, the ones from high school always hit the hardest. Smh!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 04:10 PM |
| 31 | To those who feel guilty about taking a man’s moneyYessss! 💥💥💥💥💥 I don’t even care, I’m so shady, we could go to Whole Foods and I’ll be like “I ain’t got it.” It’s the best feeling when you move out from a lvm and they aren’t expecting it!!! I’ll pray for you, Queen🙏🏼 May you move out fast and he gets what he deserves 🌎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 03:16 AM |
| 51 | Has it always been this way?Thanks for asking! All my vitamins are critical. I use: Amazon Elements Vitamin C pills (one daily)- my skin guy says taking vitamin C internally helps the skin repair itself and build collagen. I haven’t been sick at all since using this for over a year. My skin has been doing really well too, less breakouts and itchiness. Biotin 10,000, once daily. I was cautious about using such a high amount but my doc said it was fine. My hair has improved dramatically, it was so thin when I became vegetari… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 03:09 AM |
| 74 | Has it always been this way?I agree. Always been really hard to find an attractive man, esp nowadays. If you are entering late 20’s-early 30’s, most of the effects of tanning, drinking, smoking, poor diet, steroid use, overall not taking care of yourself start showing. I mean, the changes are rapid. You can be 30, looking fab, then turn 31 and literally lose your hair and watch your teeth become stained. I credit my good looks to mostly genetics, but I take vitamins every day, work out a few times per week, moisturize and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 02:04 AM |
| 9 | Why We Avoid 50/50 "Men."First, it’s not FDS. The reasons why men should pay are noted. No one is saying you can’t buy food🙄 I began to answer your questions but it doesn’t appear that you’ve read the handbook so what’s the point🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 01:55 AM |
| 11 | Why We Avoid 50/50 "Men."No. Just no. He can spend his money and you can put your into your retirement. Unless your maxing out your retirement each year at 16k, you cannot afford to pay or do 50/50. If you are maxing out, let him pay and match his payment to a charity. Since you have your own money 🤣🤣🙄 I’m independent and can “hold my own” with or without a man, but he’s still paying for dinner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 01:28 AM |
| 15 | To those who feel guilty about taking a man’s moneyIt was in a post from earlier today....I went in on that post and went in on this post. The AUDACITY. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 01:24 AM |
| 19 | How to not feel guilty about letting men pay for things?I don’t know why you feel guilty tbh. But if you do, match his money. If he pays for you and it’s 50 dollars, put 50 into your retirement fund. If it’s maxed, consider donating the 50 to charity that benefits women. When a man pays, he frees up your money to be utilized elsewhere. No need to feel guilty about it, you’re worthy of someone spending money on you. If your love language is gifts, you don’t have to pay for dates or vacations..gifts can be the gift of silence while he’s watching TV. Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 08:23 PM |
| 7 | What made this individual think that any sane woman would swipe right?Isn’t it nice that we don’t have to choose, though? I personally like the idea of a sperm donor. No one to deal with regarding custody issues, no one to force me to stay in one state for 18 years....I make enough so I can afford a child. I’d never agree to polygamy, even in a hypothetical world. I’d rather be single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 07:55 PM |
| 17 | Ladies, is this the "50-50" or actually fair?I see several red flags here. The audacity of not covering a 25 dollar purchase at the dollar tree (wooooow) especially since he is at your place 4 days a week and not contributing anything. I also don’t get the “independent” til marriage either thing you’re doing either. Once you introduce 50/50 or “paying for myself” even under guise of “independence” it is very difficult to change that once committed. I’m independent because I can pay for my own place to live and survive without a man. But wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 06:22 PM |
| 30 | What made this individual think that any sane woman would swipe right?I don’t agree. I’ve read tons of books about polygamous marriages (particularly when I was interested in Chinese history and read books that discussed those periods)and it always seemed like the women fought over the attention of the man. They competed by having children...many times the children would be abused when in the care of another wife because the wives did not get along. The men were wealthy and it did not seem to benefit women. I don’t agree that every incel gets their own wife either… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 06:03 PM |
| 6 | This sub ruined my marriage!!! 🤣I understand why you’re doing this, to spread awareness, but it’s more important that we strongly vet the men who come into our and our children’s lives, than simply sending them away when we get a boyfriend or new husband. Thankfully, my mom didn’t do this when she remarried when I was eight. My bio dad subjected many of his daughters to physical and sexual abuse. My stepdad is great. There were 4 girls between 7-16 when he met my mom, along with my 3 year old brother. He had never been married… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 04:29 PM |
| 30 | Why We Avoid 50/50 "Men."So true. For me, I live by Times Square in NYC (which is super coveted for some reason, I’m not from NY and just like the area because of the subway access) and I live alone with my daughters. It’s really hard for me to get excited about a man who either lives with roommates or family. Who doesn’t have it together. Who doesn’t have 1k in savings. Who asks me for money until they get paid. No. I just can’t do it. I can’t remember the last time I asked someone for money. It’s been years.....the la… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 03:21 PM |
| 6 | Guy earns 5 times his fiancée’s salary and wants to split everything 50/50. Pickme fiancée has been with him for 5 years.Lol! The fact that men are doing this to women and we can all sympathize....because we were that woman....we know that story....we lived it....just shows me that we really have to hold these men accountable for their lack of character and disgusting ways. 🌎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 03:53 AM |
| 9 | Guy earns 5 times his fiancée’s salary and wants to split everything 50/50. Pickme fiancée has been with him for 5 years.Exactly. But they don’t want to have a logical conversation. That’s why people can’t rent to family or even sometimes conduct business with family. For example, You buy a house. Your brother pays 1700 monthly for a dump and desperately needs a place to live. You tell him, you can live at my house (let’s say you bought it but planned to rent it). You even give him a deal, he has to just cover the mortgage and make repairs. The mortgage is 700 a month. After a few months the brother doesn’t want t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 01:41 AM |
| 7 | Guy earns 5 times his fiancée’s salary and wants to split everything 50/50. Pickme fiancée has been with him for 5 years.Yeah. He actually brought this up later once, in a fight. Said he was mad because then he had to pay for “everything” because I never had food or extras. He threw in my face “ remember when I bought you pots and pans? You only bought cheap crap.” Which I did. I had one pan, which cost like 3 dollars because I was THAT poor. Like, I would have 20 dollars on Monday (payday was Friday) but a subway card was like 20 for the week. So I would buy single fare and eat McDonald’s. Every day. The same thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 12:15 AM |
| 7 | Guy earns 5 times his fiancée’s salary and wants to split everything 50/50. Pickme fiancée has been with him for 5 years.I don’t feel guilty because I’m still independent with or without his money. But he absolutely needs to pay AND invest in me, otherwise I’ll be fine without him. I know the type of woman I am, my guy has to understand this as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 10:13 PM |
| 22 | Guy earns 5 times his fiancée’s salary and wants to split everything 50/50. Pickme fiancée has been with him for 5 years.Ha! He was proud for “doing me a favor” since I was already paying 800. Damn low life..... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 10:11 PM |
| 55 | Guy earns 5 times his fiancée’s salary and wants to split everything 50/50. Pickme fiancée has been with him for 5 years.I’ll never forget the first time my ex moved in, I was paying 800 for a two bedroom. We moved into “our” new apartment, which was 1k a month, and he wanted to pay the 200 dollar difference only. I was making 10 an hour at the time, and really struggled with rent and food, plus I was a student. He was rich. No student loan debt (he paid for school outright) owned his car, etc. He told me his budget was 1k weekly. I was making 600 every two weeks. I made him split the rent, but man, looking back..… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 06:22 PM |
| 15 | All the money I sent to my NVM ex in 2 months. Green is him. Don’t be a 🤡🤡🤡I think this is a really great example of how us spending money on men hurts us. I’m not sure if this was for dates, but let’s say it was. There is over 800 dollars here that could have went into OP’s 401K or Roth, towards debt, towards an emergency fund, towards making her home more cozy. Even those who say “it’s only money” well, it could have been donated to a woman’s shelter or towards organizations that assist women and children with DV. Money is such a tangible thing. It can change lives, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 03:05 PM |
| 2 | Pathetic lol. Guy admits to making up a savior fantasy of him getting KO’ed by his GF’s attempted rapist. In reality, he only punched the drunk guy once he started trash talking the BF & had his ass handed to him.Thank you for holding space for me❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 12:47 AM |
| 5 | Pathetic lol. Guy admits to making up a savior fantasy of him getting KO’ed by his GF’s attempted rapist. In reality, he only punched the drunk guy once he started trash talking the BF & had his ass handed to him.Well, growing up, I would be very quiet when it happened. It impacted me because I always wanted to seem in control of my emotions and calm. It’s actually stressful to maintain your calm for long periods esp if it’s not really your nature. Now I just say “Your behavior makes me feel unsafe” and try to avoid being with people like that. You may get mocked or jeered at, but you have a right to feel safe and trust that the person you’re with isn’t going to cause a fight, get arrested or cause you t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 05:34 PM |
| 7 | My parents had a traditional marriage. Everything was in her name. My uncles give their salary to their wives who do the family finances. I feel like most ‘traditional men’ nowadays don’t intent to stay with their SAH wives ‘till death do us part’ considering how they react to such a proposal.Lol! True. I’ve always wanted to be that person lounging, impeccably dressed while at home but I cannot lol! I struggle with food because I grew up eating freezer foods so while I can cook, it always is present in my mind “why?” Even though I know it’s healthier. I hate touching meat and dealing with uncooked food. Basically I have a complex about it but I’m working on it. I try to make different foods at my leisure so it becomes more enjoyable for me and not stress inducing. So far it’s been ok… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 05:27 PM |
| 1 | Pathetic lol. Guy admits to making up a savior fantasy of him getting KO’ed by his GF’s attempted rapist. In reality, he only punched the drunk guy once he started trash talking the BF & had his ass handed to him.Me too. It was hard because I really loved him. It opened my eyes to how women struggle with men and DV. He’s literally on my mind all the time and I hate it because he’s a terrible person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 05:23 PM |
| 19 | My parents had a traditional marriage. Everything was in her name. My uncles give their salary to their wives who do the family finances. I feel like most ‘traditional men’ nowadays don’t intent to stay with their SAH wives ‘till death do us part’ considering how they react to such a proposal.Thanks for the support. Yeah, my anxiety levels are through the roof since covid/quarantine. I live in NYC, and I can’t even enjoy a walk because the men are soooo much more aggressive now and the homeless population is unchecked. Added to working from home, teaching my girls (I have a teaching degree thank god but still) I moved here in 1999, but I’m so over it and ready to move away. I’ve been saving for three years and everything seems so flighty now... My depression levels are super high but… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 05:20 PM |
| 18 | Pathetic lol. Guy admits to making up a savior fantasy of him getting KO’ed by his GF’s attempted rapist. In reality, he only punched the drunk guy once he started trash talking the BF & had his ass handed to him.I absolutely hated it when my ex raged at other men/women in front of me. Mostly for trivial shit too, like road rage, or perceived slights. It made him seem unstable. But I let it go, until the day he turned that rage on me. I was more annoyed than scared, but I hated that I had to temper MYSELF because I didn’t want it to escalate to physical violence. I ended up breaking up with him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 01:06 PM |
| 128 | My parents had a traditional marriage. Everything was in her name. My uncles give their salary to their wives who do the family finances. I feel like most ‘traditional men’ nowadays don’t intent to stay with their SAH wives ‘till death do us part’ considering how they react to such a proposal.All three of my sisters are stay at home wives, and their husbands give them their paycheck and usually keep about 100 for spending cash. I kid you not. One of my sisters, man, I’m always amazed at her. Gets up at 6am, dressed with makeup before coming downstairs, cleans, makes all the meals, in charge of finances etc. I feel like during quarantine, I’ve struggled a lot, trying to get up at a reasonable time, even make food🙄. Sigh...I don’t know how she does it. Maybe I’ll need a few months to r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 01:03 PM |
| 44 | Woman finds out dirty dick husband is cheating with his mistress again. She sues the Pickmeisha mistress AND she sues her husband since he bought a condo to use as a love shack. Looks like the condo will be going bye bye.I was thinking about moving to Hawaii. Nice to know I can vengeful as fuck if needed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 07:52 PM |
| 6 | Don't settle for scrotes.I hate Applebee’s it’s so gross to me. I’ve never liked it. My friend used to insist we eat there and I would just get dessert. Which wasn’t that great either 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 06:20 PM |
| 1 | Ladies: Don’t fall into this trap! This is a great time to work on ourselves instead of desperately looking for any LVM just to be with someone.The other day, I had a rare moment without the children...I dressed up and was preparing to go outside so I could meet up with some guys....ugh! I was like wtf! I can’t do it. I’m not trying to get Covid or risk my children. Oh well🤷🏽♀️ maybe next summer. I just feel like I have all the time in the world to find a man. I’m 39, I thought I would feel different. But I don’t | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 05:30 PM |
| 8 | Did I mess up? 4th date - I paid for dinner.You’re welcome. I always try to figure out why I did something, instead of thinking of the consequences only. Yes, sometimes pickmeishas are around you, even in a slight form. Why should they care if he pays? That’s so odd to me. But then, I’ve always “don’t kiss and tell” regarding my relationships. I just don’t say too much, because people will intrude with their thoughts and while they may not align with mine, you can be influenced by them. I’m glad you figured it out though. The hardest thin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 05:01 PM |
| 4 | How not to do 50/50?Yeah you can sort of tell who doesn’t have kids on this post. Men will cover the costs of children, even if they aren’t their bio dad. It comes with the territory- I’ve had men offer to buy school clothes, cover medical costs etc. If he has a kid they would automatically be included in our expenses. That’s why it doesn’t benefit childless women to date men with kids. You WILL end up absorbing some of the costs....if you can’t deal with that you shouldn’t date people with kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 03:46 PM |
| 21 | Is it okay to not pay on bf's birthday?I really like Tony Gaskins take on this- he says it’s okay to get a gift but nothing more than a 25 dollar gift card. He actually says to do that until married lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 02:33 PM |
| 50 | Did I mess up? 4th date - I paid for dinner.What made you decide to pay? Were you feeling like “wow, he’s so great, he’s so high value, he’s paid for so much...let me show him how great I am and I’ll pay.” Because he already thinks you’re great, without you having to go into your pockets. Take a step back and don’t get caught up so soon. I wouldn’t bust out my pocketbook unless we were committed, but that’s me. Figure out why you lowered your standard. Because being a high value woman has to last the test of time. You can’t fold so early.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 02:41 AM |
| 8 | How not to do 50/50?Not sure why you’re getting downvoted but I see some skepticism when it comes to men paying for your childcare because it’s the bio dad’s responsibility. The way I look at it is that my girls dad pays half. And the new man needs to put some coins on it too, because it’s a life expense. Again, part of the package of dating a woman with children. But there’s a lot of scarcity minded thinking on FDS, while these men do exist, taking care of women and their children like they are their own. Also, I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 11:21 PM |
| 4 | How not to do 50/50?Exactly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 10:10 PM |
| 14 | How not to do 50/50?First, create that mindset in your mind. It’s more than just wanting it, you also have to vet ruthlessly. Look for men in your bracket or higher. Or look for men who are living their life the way you want. There are plenty of blue collar men making a very good living, have their own homes, boat, very low debt, etc. When you look for a provider, sometimes when we find one, we are so grateful, when begin to do things that we believe will encourage them to stay. So let’s say you meet a man, get mar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 09:53 PM |
| 8 | Once you’re in a relationshipLol! Men literally cannot deal when a woman has needs that expand past their own..... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 08:44 PM |
| 10 | Once you’re in a relationshipYep to all this. I would even occasionally have an “outburst” of sex, meaning sex several times in a day to gauge their reaction. My ex actually went off on me and accused me of acting like a porn star🙄 mind you, we were LDR. Also, do they incessantly discuss their genitalia? Mine discussed penis pumps, natural supplements for erections and watched videos on maintaining erections. Surprise, he was porn sick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 08:10 PM |
| 8 | Always be ready to leave. As soon as you feel yourself having the scarcity mindset, remember you’re a queen and deserve peace.Understood. But that’s not what I’m saying. I understand that because we lack in financial knowledge, we can absolutely be taken advantage of. I remember when I was university and very poor, but still had the mindset to be able to afford MYSELF and everything I needed to survive. However, again, that’s not what I’m speaking of. I have no problem with my future man paying all the bills. Because as he pays them, I will be able to pocket my earnings. I’m not doing joint anything so that’s irrelevan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 07:28 PM |
| 15 | Always be ready to leave. As soon as you feel yourself having the scarcity mindset, remember you’re a queen and deserve peace.Interesting because that’s exactly why I feel a man needs to provide MORE. Because all the money he spends allows me to save my own. I don’t rent anything I can’t afford by myself and I don’t like joint anything, but he will absolutely pay up for my presence in his life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 06:56 PM |
| 50 | I think my boyfriend cheated on me months ago and is still lying about itHonestly, I was done at the part where the women came up to him at Target, while you stood by the side. Sometimes women, especially low value women, will be extra af with the intent of causing trouble. It’s happened to me before, a woman will be extra af to my man in front of me. What happens next determines everything. He should have said “ladies please don’t disrespect my girlfriend,” or something to that nature. The fact that he brushed it off and invalidated your feelings says a lot about hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 06:30 PM |
| 9 | Ladies I messed up. I discovered FDS too late and now I have regrets. How can I overcome these?I mean, just take the “L” and learn from it. Don’t feel bad that you were basically conned. It happens to the best of us. I don’t know, I’m bold af, I be asking for my gifts back. I’ll say “can I have those purchases back? Or if they won’t, can you at least give me the cash?” If they don’t do it, they’re scum. But we already knew that. But I have no issue trying to recoup my losses. My ex husband used to call it the “shakedown” and said he hated it made him feel. Lol! Anyway its only money. So i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 05:31 PM |
| 8 | Advice on breaking up with someone emotionally manipulative?Girl. Yes. I can’t believe all he put me through. A large part of it has to do with me dumping him, but the stalking has gone longer than the relationship itself! I was extremely low when we broke up, it’s only because I had my daughters that I pulled myself up. Even now I still get triggered a lot but my healing is high. It took two years. It was sobering to find out he was still stalking me (the last time before this one was in Jan 2020) so I thought he was done with me. Nope. Luckily he lives… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 01:52 AM |
| 11 | Advice on breaking up with someone emotionally manipulative?Same. I didn’t understand it at the time, I thought he loved me and just didn’t want me to be withdrawn while fighting. But it was really intense, him screaming in my face, not letting me rest, sleep or eat, and grilling me with question after question. Once I mistakenly tried to leave and he screamed so I got back in the car, he drove like a madman and was punching his phone, and pulled over so suddenly I thought he was going to hit me. I should have left then. I told myself he had one more tim… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 12:30 AM |
| 23 | My little sister is dating a LVM/ predator“It’s her life?” Yeesh. Why bother to write a post then? And fuck the age of consent, I’d still call the police, he would probably back off. She’s still under 18 and technically a minor. The age difference is indicative of predatory behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 06:23 PM |
| 5 | This LVM is forcing his pregnant wife to work 5-6 days a week AND clean + cook, AND STILL CALLS HER LAZY!! The fucking AUDACITY of this negative-value shit. NEVER marry a broke man that expects you to work. Work should be a choice, NOT a necessity to make up for the scrote’s inability to provide.Exactly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 02:50 PM |
| 40 | This LVM is forcing his pregnant wife to work 5-6 days a week AND clean + cook, AND STILL CALLS HER LAZY!! The fucking AUDACITY of this negative-value shit. NEVER marry a broke man that expects you to work. Work should be a choice, NOT a necessity to make up for the scrote’s inability to provide.Reminds me of my ex husband, who would get angry if I called out of work because I was sick. More than one day in a row?!? Tantrum city | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:26 AM |
| 3 | After they play victim by shedding crocodile tears for putting their pee pee somewhere else, block and delete then never look back! You are your own 1st love, never forget that!Yep. That’s why you cannot spare a speck of empathy for them. Go just as hard on them as they go on you. Make yourself expensive so they pay the price every single time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 05:59 AM |
| 5 | After they play victim by shedding crocodile tears for putting their pee pee somewhere else, block and delete then never look back! You are your own 1st love, never forget that!💀💀💀💀💀 I can’t 🤣🤣🤣🤣 and here I thought it was for the food | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 12:00 AM |
| 4 | After they play victim by shedding crocodile tears for putting their pee pee somewhere else, block and delete then never look back! You are your own 1st love, never forget that!It came outta nowhere, and I’ll never forget how a man will grasp at anything to avoid accountability. Fuck a cruise!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 10:35 PM |
| 7 | After they play victim by shedding crocodile tears for putting their pee pee somewhere else, block and delete then never look back! You are your own 1st love, never forget that!Yeah. With stacked heels and all. Never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 10:32 PM |
| 11 | After they play victim by shedding crocodile tears for putting their pee pee somewhere else, block and delete then never look back! You are your own 1st love, never forget that!The money you make prior to marriage is yours. I never made more than my ex. He always made more than me with his acting jobs. He just blew through money. We got married in 2016.He made more than me during the 6 months we were married. I filed at 6 months for divorce. That’s what gets counted, anything made in the 6 months. He actually ended up owing me 20 a month in spousal support, which I graciously waived. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 09:48 PM |
| 12 | After they play victim by shedding crocodile tears for putting their pee pee somewhere else, block and delete then never look back! You are your own 1st love, never forget that!Girl I was like “bye.” How you gonna say something like that to justify your cheating? I’m so mad I was convinced to stay. Never again | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 08:52 PM |
| 38 | I have no words. This guy doesn’t want to live with his girlfriend and future baby because the relationship is too “new.” I hope this woman gets out before the baby comes.Yeah. Who has a baby with someone not even a year in? I always am surprised when women do it. Esp if they can’t even take care of themselves. Like my niece was obsessed with having a baby at 25 no matter what. She’s 20 now. I told her she would ruin her life. She has her own place at least but still. I waited until 30, was with my ex for over 10 years at that point and I still sometimes think I took a dub. Love my kids though. Ps every time I see posts on reddit about a girl with a scrub who is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 07:58 PM |
| 54 | Happy to see men realising porn is negatively affecting their relationshipsIt’s sort of karmic in a way, my ex used porn heavily, like all day, yanking until nothing came out, and had difficulty maintaining an erection and lasting in bed. He always was researching how to maintain erections and was extremely insecure and abusive. When we broke up, I would look at his YouTube channel from time to time, and saw that he was liking videos about maintaining erections and it made me smile. Still struggling....with his new woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 03:27 PM |
| 5 | Watch out Queens! There’s a sociopath targeting/conning women in the Chicago area through OLD and social media. I’ve seen his profile and I’m 2 states over!Wish we had a website for to watch out for these men. I use to follow a group called Daffodil on Facebook. He was a guy who had been abused by narcissistic men/women. He was a little eccentric, but he dropped those gems, baby! I found him on Quora before he left, and he was the first to introduce to me the idea that narcs/abusers enter relationships by fraud. Because you wouldn’t deal with them otherwise! They lie to entrap you, and when they reveal, you are too far gone to leave. Anyway, one da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 03:22 PM |
| 125 | After they play victim by shedding crocodile tears for putting their pee pee somewhere else, block and delete then never look back! You are your own 1st love, never forget that!Story time! My ex husband and I were together from 2004-2017. I met him when I was 18, but we got serious a few years later. We had children in 2011. In 2014, I discovered he had cheated on me. His response: First dismissive laughter when confronted, when I wouldn’t drop the topic he told me “it happened a while ago, I’m not doing it now.” Then the blow up....I was accused of never being there for the kids (he’s an actor and wasn’t working for a while, so he stayed home with the twins) while I w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 03:12 PM |
| 16 | Would moving in together be a bad idea?I think you’re being fearful and I’m not sure why. If he is only free to see you on the weekends, what’s the big deal? Y’all aren’t married and are busy with your own lives. You don’t feel comfortable cohabitating with him and you have a child to think about. On top of all this, it’s literally been 6 months. You think it’s too soon to consider marriage but still are thinking about playing house with your kid? Yeesh. He knows what he got into when he met you. He knew about the distance and your c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 09:12 PM |
| 3 | Is it okay to continue having a busy schedule with a boyfriend?This part. It’s so important to note what a HVM will do to make YOU comfortable. I could never be with someone who didn’t like my pet, (what’s gonna happen if y’all get serious?!) and also never want to come over to my place. It sounds like y’all are on different paths. This is small stuff and he isn’t willing to compromise? Nope nope nope | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 07:38 PM |
| 25 | Thoughts?Can’t relate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 01:29 AM |
| 3 | My heart breaks for this young girl, I tried to be as tactful as possible letting her know she should leave that man who’s definitely taking advantage of herMine told me he kept mine and still viewed them. This is after I broke up with him for being abusive. And he had a new girlfriend, which he failed to mention, but mentioned that he kept my videos and watched them. I feel sorry for her but I could never bring myself to tell her. I just left them alone, to rot in the garbage they have become. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 11:34 PM |
| 11 | A chilling story of a woman who almost married a cheating narcissist- her blog post revealing his true nature blew up his life in a spectacular fashion. Important reading!I love that she exposed him and he reaped his karma | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 10:14 PM |
| 6 | What are your thoughts on getting involved with men who already have children?Right? I’m in the best health of my life and I’m 39. I didn’t look or feel this good in my early twenties. I work out 3x a week, eat well, take vitamins and maintain a stress free lifestyle. I also don’t drink or smoke. So yeah. I’m actually infertile (since 29) but I just used IVF to have my daughters. The most I spent was about 500, for copays, medications and a one time fee of 150. Most IVF procedures are covered if you have good insurance. I don’t even worry about that anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 10:10 PM |
| 5 | What are your thoughts on getting involved with men who already have children?My mom had 5 kids when she met my stepdad and my stepdad has never had any kids. It’s possible to find a man with no kids. They were in their 30s when they met. As for getting with a man with kids, I have tried it (because I now have children) and I’m definitely glad I didn’t do it while I didn’t have kids. The guy I talked to wanted another mother for child🙄 which is fine, but it caused a bunch of issues when I left him because he was abusive. He tried to use the child as a pawn to guilt me int… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 10:05 PM |
| 68 | Being on this sub is making me realize I might not be attracted to menSexuality is a spectrum so I just want to say that before I go into my spiel. I’m not trying to convince you that men are better than women. Ok. You can absolutely, totally be disgusted with men. And that disgust will pervade your interactions with men. I understand where you are coming from. I always felt...mildly annoyed with men, in all my interactions with them. French kissing seemed weird, having a relationship with them seemed weirder. Many times, I would only have sex with a man once and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 10:38 PM |
| 4 | Why are men broke?Same. The thought of getting dressed up for a man to take me out and I don’t end up enjoying it turns me tf off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 12:08 AM |
| 66 | Why are men broke?There’s always a reason. Some are entitled, mothered by their parents so they don’t have awareness of spending. Some are truly broke, even though they work multiple jobs, and don’t have access or don’t want to further educate themselves. Some have money but just don’t want to spend it on you. The provider mindset is not one that all men have. The ones that do have were either raised by a two parent home, saw the father/grandfather providing, or maybe was raised by a single mother and he provides… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 07:03 PM |
| 5 | Male coworkers negging youOmg! This is a treasure🤣🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 09:59 PM |
| 3 | Male coworkers negging youIt’s a running joke that when they switch out their jackets between seasons (summer to winter for example) that they just put the coat away and when it comes time to use it again, take it out, dust it off and wear it. Same with jeans. Another running joke since many NYers do not have washers and dryers in their apartments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 03:13 PM |
| 49 | Male coworkers negging youOne guy at work tried it. I told him I read “hella” books...and he was like only ghetto people say “hella.” I’m from California, he’s from New York. I live in NY now. So I went off, told him “I use the language that is relative to my region” and “Ebonics” exists. Also told him no matter how much slang I use, I still will have read more books than he will read in his lifetime (I read about 100 per year) and I would rather be ghetto than a dirty New Yorker that “never washes their jacket in betwee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 12:13 AM |
| 3 | How many of you ladies are childfree?No, you haven’t fucked it up. We are human, and raising a child is incredibly hard and nerve wracking. Everyone just wants to be loved and be seen❤️ And if we can do that, we change the world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 01:10 PM |
| 21 | How many of you ladies are childfree?Thank you so much! It feels so good to be honest about child raising and still have someone feel proud of me! It’s def been a journey! I’ll be everyone’s mom❤️ I’m always here to help, lend an ear, pray for you, draw a picture.... I wish we could all do meetups but I know it’s dangerous, not because of covid, but because of the men that stalk FDS. But I am always here for anyone who needs me! Thank you ❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 01:47 AM |
| 20 | How many of you ladies are childfree?Hmmmm. I’m doing pretty good actually. It was a struggle the first two-three years, because I felt like I didn’t have the maternal instinct. I always felt distant. But I pretended not to be. I read a lot of parenting books and applied the techniques, even if I felt distant. Lots of hugs, affirmations, and stability. Maybe at year 6, when I started working on myself (working out, getting divorced, routines for me) I began to feel a lot better and closer to the girls. Once divorced, (they were 6) … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 01:00 AM |
| 16 | How many of you ladies are childfree?I am not child free but I had planned to be. I got very sick when I was 29 and my insurance covered IVF (a lot of companies do it nowadays but ten years ago it was really unheard of) so I felt pressured to do it. I ended up with twins. My ex husband tried his hardest to make me have more kids but I refused. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 11:40 PM |
| 20 | HVW ActivitiesI looked at all these activities. But I’m antisocial soooo. I like reading about people who do these things and then they meet a bomb ass man. I think when I move, I’m going to join a garden club, a running club, a beach club and a club where you go out once a week and eat good food. Or I’ll at least read about it for sure | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 10:53 PM |
| 2 | Say goodbye to long texting conversations AKA textationshipsY’all live far away so texting is ideal. But if you have local friends who only want to text, I still say drop them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 09:21 PM |
| 12 | “I usually paid on the first dates because I was the one asking them out. That simple.” - another pickme in the commentsThis is a really important concept that makes the FDS woman. We do not owe men anything. It is a mindset that has been instilled since birth- let’s coddle the man, let’s make him special, let’s reward him. And as a result, these men think they are owed a woman’s body. How many times have you allowed a man to kiss you, only to gently stop him when he is crossing your boundaries to be then told “you’re a tease” “I have needs” etc etc. Perhaps you are already in a relationship, but you’ve had a shi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 03:10 PM |
| 10 | “I usually paid on the first dates because I was the one asking them out. That simple.” - another pickme in the commentsThe hatred she feels for an imaginary woman, who makes men pay for her dates because she is worth it. And then she rants about some woman’s father paying for her house, like it’s a bad thing. Smh. Next thing it will be “omg her parents paid for her university”. I have never been jealous of women who get help to succeed. I didn’t get it and it was damn hard. She’s so unhappy with her choice to pay that she is literally spewing hatred in the women who don’t accept it. It makes no sense | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 02:36 PM |
| 30 | Say goodbye to long texting conversations AKA textationshipsSame with friends y’all. If your friends want to text only, drop them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 11:55 PM |
| 24 | Finally stood up for myself against a LVMIf you can’t wait and want an answer, then for sure speak up. And be prepared to head out if it’s a negative. Since you stood by this, I think it makes it okay that you brought up commitment first. Sometimes we just don’t want to waste our time🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 07:18 PM |
| 14 | This is why you VET and NEVER have sex too early - bullet dodgedThat’s what I was thinking. He tried to triangulate and make her jealous AND tried to make her feel like shit because the other girl is a better fit sexually. He hasn’t even had sex with her, no way to make that determination. Hes def pulling out all manipulative stops. He’s a bum🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 06:54 PM |
| 10 | What originally attracted you to your LVM/NVM ex?This resonates sooo much. One of my lvm exes told me he’d pay for me to get another grad degree and I wouldn’t have to work. But it wasn’t my idea, sooooo it just seemed fake and love bomb-y. And he had tons of plans, but nothing saved. He’d take me to see houses for sale, but they were super expensive, like 750k. He lived with his aunt and her family. It just wasn’t adding up. We were LDR, so when I would visit, he wouldn’t be working and he didn’t have any money. Also very eager for commitment… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 03:01 AM |
| 16 | What do we think about common-law relationships/marriages vs. traditional marriage? I would like to hear your opinions and stories if you have any ✨I was with my ex husband from 2004-2017 (we married in 2016, but had a “domestic partnership” legalized by court in 2012) Will not do again. Should have been married that whole time instead of one year🙄 I would have qualified for more benefits. NEVER AGAIN | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 02:14 AM |
| 2 | Dating in your 30s - men with roommatesWell said🙏🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 01:16 AM |
| 2 | Dating in your 30s - men with roommatesTo each their own, but to say it’s “classist” because people don’t want a man with roommates is laughable. Data shows that men make more than women (gender/pay gap) If you are both in the situation of having roommates, perhaps dating shouldn’t be considered unless you can afford to live alone. This applies to women as well. If you live alone and are knee deep in debt, red flag. Saving to buy a house? I noted this before in previous posts, not so much with roommates but men doing this with their … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 04:50 PM |
| 35 | The real reason FDS pisses people off so muchOnce a guy wrote me after I posted here on FDS. He wrote that I’ll never find a man because I’m divorced with kids and no one wants to take care of my kids. I wrote back that I’m rich, can take care of my own kids, their father pays child support, and I just look at men for fun. He then blocked me, but first told me he would block me....I don’t know you or care sir...lmaoooooo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 03:19 PM |
| 38 | The real reason FDS pisses people off so muchDeep down I do think that men want to provide. They are angry because they cannot. They were told they would get a good job if they worked hard, but slacked off and now don’t have shit. But they still want those provider benefits, without providing. And they get away with it for a little while, with younger women who don’t know better or pickmeishas. But those women don’t fit the bill because they are stagnant in their growth. A growing woman is a beautiful thing. So these men get irate...becaus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 03:14 PM |
| 64 | Men thinking we owe them a relationshipHardest thing about being friendly to a man. They think you like them, meanwhile you never gave any inclination, talk about other men, and never approach them in that way. Yet, they still think it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 01:56 PM |
| 2 | Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄She’s missing the point anyway. We are worth more than coffee. If a date sucks, we leave. But we aren’t settling for low effort from the beginning 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 11:28 PM |
| 21 | Dating in your 30s - men with roommatesLol....it’s so gross to me. Have your own place sir. You shouldn’t date until you can afford YOURSELF🙄 She can’t afford a broke man. None of us can. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 11:26 PM |
| 5 | Dating in your 30s - men with roommatesRight? Y’all’s energy has to match to even begin dating. At minimum he needs his own place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 11:24 PM |
| 29 | Ladies, "FYI typically if you’re having relationship problems that you’re embarrassed or ashamed to discuss with your family/friends that’s a huge red flag."It’s how I stayed in my toxic marriage for so long. Everyone thought we were so rich because my ex is an actor, plus we live on opposite coasts than my family, so they didn’t see us everyday. What they didn’t know is that my ex blew through money buying clothes, liquor and just living it up....while I struggled to provide security and stability...at first for myself, then my daughters. Even now, I’m fine...but the ex still can’t manage his money and lives with his sister. I just couldn’t do it a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 10:14 PM |
| 73 | Dating in your 30s - men with roommatesHow come you have your own place in a high priced city but he doesn’t? Ugh then he’ll want to move in with you if y’all get serious, I bet. Yeah, I’d pass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 09:07 PM |
| 5 | Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄You can leave anytime a date isn’t working out. It has to do with the effort that is put in for YOU. But to each their own. Could never be me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 08:21 PM |
| 18 | Divorced queens with kids who found love again: please share your story. I need inspiration, hope, and strength to follow through on my divorce.My mom divorced my physically abusive dad after she discovered he had three children with our babysitter and her supposed friend. After divorcing my dad, she met a man, much younger and with no kids. She had five kids when she met him, the youngest being 3. They are still together. My dad hates it, and to this day, talks shit....even though he went on to have two more children by two different women and has been with his last baby mama for over 20 years. My mom just be blissful....she’s goals af… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 05:52 PM |
| 5 | Thoughts from a newbie memberThank you! And the going out to eat for all meals is crazy to me. Growing up, I only ate at restaurants for my birthday,it’s so excessive to eat out everyday, not realizing it’s depleting your funds. You’ll make money out here, but you def have to pay out. And I totally agree that it hits them later- they look at a pic of themselves at 50, and finally see what everyone sees, overweight, too tight clothes, young mindset, no savings. And then they get mad at women when the women aren’t interested.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 01:56 PM |
| 151 | Has to get to know me over coffee and THEN we can go on “real” dates 🙄It’s amazing how these “pre-dates” are just casually thrown out there🙄 I can’t.....throw the whole man away, I literally get coffee every morning and speak to strangers why would I do it as a date?! Nope | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 01:48 AM |
| 5 | Thoughts from a newbie memberI mean, I get it. I’m from a small town and when I moved to NYC I met a somewhat famous actor, who later became my husband (now ex husband). But what I went through...with ex boyfriends and him🙄 literal nyc scum. So yeah, you do have the chance of meeting someone famous or successful but at what price??? And to be trapped in NYC after having their child?!? The ghettoooooo.......These men, rich or not, live life like it’s a party. Flashy clothes, drinking, boating, and will go home and have no fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 11:58 PM |
| 5 | Thoughts from a newbie memberThis. The Peter Pan analogy to describe New York men is so damn perfect. I always say they are cramping my style, but this post right here is everything. THE AUDACITY OF NEW YORK MEN! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 05:07 PM |
| 8 | Thoughts from a newbie memberGirl, yes. I’ve been in NYC for 20 years and I will be leaving soon. The men here are trash. I never even looked at it as them having choices; the mindset of the pick mes out here is embarrassingly low. Meeting men’s kids on first dates, paying for their own cabs to different boroughs (shudders) men still living with family because rent is so “high” (while they themselves make 6 figures , they just want to happy hour every night🤷🏽♀️) etc etc. The ones who seem good quality usually have mommy is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 04:24 PM |
| 1 | "Mostly all of the other girls I dated did xyz" what is this manipulation called?Yes! Glad it helped. And exactly, I’m very analytical, so most of the times these compliments go over my head or I don’t care, which always flabbergasted the manipulative ex/person/lowlife, lol! So yes, these compliments would seem weird or even disrespectful, because it isn’t “luck” or “beauty” but hard work ethic and good character, which can be achieved by anyone, should they apply structure and diligence into their lives 🙄 But I digress. You still can be manipulated, just based on your simpl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 05:41 PM |
| 6 | People really be cheating like this? I’m shook?Basically. Gotta watch the company you keep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 05:30 PM |
| 18 | People really be cheating like this? I’m shook?I agree. I would never, and I don’t hang around lowlifes who do it. PASS on the friendship, y’all ain’t getting your karma on me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 04:27 PM |
| 1 | "Mostly all of the other girls I dated did xyz" what is this manipulation called?So let’s take your comment “you’re different/unique.” The truth is we are all different/unique. That’s not a compliment, it’s an actual fact. We may have behaviors that are similar or not, mental disorders that steer us in similar directions, but we are still different/unique. It’s meant to make you think you are special, in their eyes. But we already know this. The low self esteem girl might think to herself “Yes! He gets me, I AM different.” But again, this is a fact and no one can tell you ot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 04:04 PM |
| 2 | "Mostly all of the other girls I dated did xyz" what is this manipulation called?Right? I also do a no makeup look, but I do wear makeup. Anything louder than “barely there” usually got a comment “ugh your makeup is so bright today. Why are you wearing lipstick (as I wear exactly the shade of my lips)” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:29 PM |
| 10 | "Mostly all of the other girls I dated did xyz" what is this manipulation called?It’s called “triangulation.” It can be used to pit you against previous girlfriends, moms, you can even be triangulated against their car or animal🙄 it’s a way to make you jealous and fight for their attention. You ever break up w a guy and like two weeks later, he’s posting his “woman of his dreams” on social media? It’s usually triangulation, to make you hurt and jealous. You ever have an ex say “you’re not like my ex, she would always ignore me” triangulation...to make sure you don’t act like… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 02:33 PM |
| 3 | This was empowering to watch. If you aren’t getting what you deserve, dump his ass!!Yes... stressful af, either no thought put in or just forgot. I began to hate the holidays... so glad he’s gone and I can enjoy them again | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 03:35 AM |
| 9 | How are people dating these days?At a staff meeting via zoom, my boss asked what we were all up to since we are all wfh. Someone said they were dating, and I shuddered. Who the heck is trying to date in nyc during covid?!? This was back at height of the virus too, March/May. Issa no for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 11:59 PM |
| 6 | He wants her to wear a bra because it makes HIM uncomfortable! 🤣🤣🤣Sadly I was a pick me back then and put an effort into matching 🙄 at my expense 🙄🙄 for years 🙄🙄🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 11:54 PM |
| 23 | He wants her to wear a bra because it makes HIM uncomfortable! 🤣🤣🤣Yeah🙄 I had an ex who would spout “match your panties to your bra, get your shit together” every time there was a variation. Oh those past toxic men🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 04:58 PM |
| 39 | He wants her to wear a bra because it makes HIM uncomfortable! 🤣🤣🤣It will be the same guy who insists on matching panties and bras, even though he doesn’t purchase them and doesn’t realize that they can be worn in a variety of ways. Imagine governing someone on their choices of clothing (or lack thereof) yet still thinking you’re “self-aware” or even woke🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Finding fds ladies in real life, being seen as extreme for people around meEh, you have your experiences and I have mine. I def believe when I was a pick me, I surrounded myself with other pick mes. I don’t associate with them now, I can usually tell within a few minutes of conversation. They are either complaining about looking for a man to help pay for half of the rent, bringing up past experiences of paying for a man or just very competitive for no reason. This is what I deal with. Where I live, people are always looking for connections/trying to feel someone out/fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 07:56 PM |
| 3 | Finding fds ladies in real life, being seen as extreme for people around meThey are around, they just don’t associate with pick me’s. If people think you’re extreme, you are surrounded by pick mes. Out of my family of 6 girls and 1 boy, they are all pick mes /lvm except for one woman. I’m not including myself. Many of my friends were pick me too before I stopped taking applications for friendship. But they exist | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 06:21 PM |
| 59 | How did you end a long term relationship with a LVM once you learned about FDS?Just say it. Just say “this isn’t working out.” If y’all live together, start making arrangements. It’s not easy, sometimes the man won’t wanna go, he knows he ain’t shit but he still is used to being comfortable. But it all starts with one sentence. “ this isn’t working out for me.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:13 AM |
| 2 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Omigod! The goody two shoes part tho! They think they are better than everyone because they are a “good person”! But they really aren’t! Lol, the focused on work but not working kills me. 💀💀 never again | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 11:35 PM |
| 2 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Yeah my Taurus cooked too. But that’s because he got fed that way🙄 He literally did nothing else but cook and play video games. And drink. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 11:11 PM |
| 3 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?I’m good luv, enjoy 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 09:00 PM |
| 5 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Unmotivated af! But when you try to help them, “you don’t understand my field,” “you don’t understand what I want,” “no thanks, I have a set weekly date with food and friends, can’t go to workshop [that will give them better job]” 🙄🙄🙄🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 08:31 PM |
| 12 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?💁🏽♀️💁🏽♀️💁🏽♀️ y’all got sites with carts filled with clothes y’all ain’t going to buy...at least not this pay period🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 08:27 PM |
| 4 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?I have never met a Taurus that didn’t do these things period! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 08:25 PM |
| 4 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?You know how you are LOL! I say it to every Taurus I meet and they get shook🤣🤣🤣 I could say a lot more, with y’all flirting, bossy, barely read but stay watching Netflix....okay I’m done🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 08:23 PM |
| 12 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?I attract so many Tauruses, male and female. I will never have a Taurus boyfriend again, so lazy and stubborn. I don’t even want a Taurus for a woman friend, because they are lazy, alkies, superficial af, and boring. The men and women just eat, buy clothes and eat some more🙄 I’m a Scorpio btw | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 07:18 PM |
| 21 | How does one stay unbothered, through the catching of feels?By becoming more confident with yourself. Work out, self care, have a hobby you enjoy, build friendships, strengthen family ties, become devoted to God/earth/spirituality. This helps you strengthen your character. That way, when you meet someone and they are adding to your life, your life is already full and satisfied. No need to cling or become insecure because they are merely an addition. Enjoy the time. If you find yourself becoming insecure, lean into the feeling and find out why. Don’t oper… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 05:24 PM |
| 35 | Beware of men who date ONLY outside of their own cultural/ethnic groupI’ve always said if men only date one race it’s because other races will not tolerate him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 03:24 AM |
| 24 | “Any dates so far?”I would just write “I don’t kiss and tell!” And then change the subject. If they try to go back, just write “bored!” And unmatch, swipe left whatever y’all do. I do this in real life and it works all the time...men hate to be told they’re boring you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 12:18 AM |
| 5 | If he doesn't cook and clean, he puts you at net negative.Right?!? They are pigs. If a man says he doesn’t clean, RUN | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 07:45 PM |
| 2 | Scrote Wont Leave My Apt and Im SUPER DepressedThere are always to protect people from this. You could be penalized if you did this, and he has been living with you over 30 days. Squatters rights | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 02:52 PM |
| 2 | Scrote Wont Leave My Apt and Im SUPER DepressedThat’s where it gets really bad. They have “squatters rights” if they’ve lived there for 30 days or longer. you’ll end up getting trouble if you change the locks🙄 the only way is that if it’s been a few days, then the police can help. But sometimes it doesn’t work, because they can say they’ve been there over 30 days | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 02:51 PM |
| 4 | Scrote Wont Leave My Apt and Im SUPER DepressedIt’s true tho. Men are literally dead weight sometimes. And it never pays to be nice, ever. I let me ex husband stay over a few days because I felt bad he was driving back and forth to see the kids during covid. Nice, right? WRONG. He began having extremely loud zoom meetings with his family, in which he would get drunk and pass out, leaving a big ass mess. He left his trash everywhere. I had enough and told him to leave. He refused because we had “agreed to try it out by a certain date” and it … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 02:49 PM |
| 12 | If he doesn't cook and clean, he puts you at net negative.I used to be okay with that too, but it isn’t enough. I’m not a maid and it gets exhausting cleaning up, especially after you have kids. I’d rather cook and live alone than have to live with a man who “doesn’t clean.” How is that even possible anyway? That you don’t clean? I’m confused. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 01:37 PM |
| 7 | I left because he never took pictures of usSame with my ex husband. He posted a pic of the children on Father’s Day ( we are now divorced) and someone commented that they didn’t even know he had kids?!? They are 9..... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 01:59 AM |
| 18 | 2 degrees of separation is too close with LVM/NVM, protect yourself from women with shitty partnersExactly. My former pick me friend hated her ex; and rightly so, because he kept taking to her to court for full custody after abandoning their child. Whenever I saw him, I would say “hello” and would never engage with him. Then she got back with him. During that time (6 months) I basically refused to visit her, refused to hang out with her, refused to engage in any conversation about him. They broke up eventually and we became friends again. You know what’s funny? He used to always tell her “why… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 05:59 PM |
| 1 | That Pickmeisha lifestyle....saw on IGHe posted it on IG. I use to watch him but ever since he downplayed narc abuse I stopped. But it was a real post 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 12:34 PM |
| 5 | I see no liesIt’s exhausting 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 12:33 PM |
| 33 | I see no liesOf course they criticize🤣 my ex would harp on me if I forgot one thing or was slumped in the corner from exhaustion....god forbid I called out of work because I was legitimately sick 😑😑I started responding “ You’re my biggest hater” and he was. To this day, I have never met anyone who wanted me to fail as badly as he did. Meanwhile I do everything now, am no longer with him, make money and make him kick rocks while he lives with his sister going to free happy hours. BUM! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 03:48 AM |
| 11 | That Pickmeisha lifestyle....saw on IGThank god!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 12:28 AM |
| 18 | I see no liesHardest thing about having children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 12:26 AM |
| 79 | I see no liesScrub toilet, empty trash bathroom, wipe down dirty walls from children, fold clothes, switch out clothes when they no longer fit, replace light bulbs when burned out, wipe counters and baseboards, shampoo carpets, make appointments, figure out medical/ dental/school bills, clean sheets, decorate, throw parties for them 🙄🙄, be social, drink and get up early to work, look sexy, work out, Etc etc etc. I can’t stand lazy bum ass men🤦🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 12:25 AM |
| 33 | That Pickmeisha lifestyle....saw on IGI saw this too, Derek Jaxson posted this on the left and on the right he posted an old woman, looking sadly out the window and captioned “you propose or you be single?” I was so happy when MAJORITY of comments didn’t take the bait and picked the old lady!!!! Lol! They even made up stories about how she’s not even sad but happy! It was gross trying to make it seem like if we don’t propose we will be single! Really🙄. WHERE DA MEN AT!!! Smh!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 11:53 PM |
| 42 | Imagine being so insecure you can’t event hold a conversationWow he was triggered lmaoooo! When men know they ain’t shit, they act accordingly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 07:46 PM |
| 3 | When or how do I disclose past cheating?Just know that even though I came at you hard, I’m always coming with love ❤️ be well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 05:11 PM |
| 3 | When or how do I disclose past cheating?But it’s not considered distrust or dishonest because you have done nothing to your current partner. It was something from your past. You can be 100% open and honest with your partner now, by not cheating with him; by telling him when you have feelings of unhappiness instead of cheating; and so forth. Why would a person have a layer of distrust or anxiety? You mean yourself. Because you still have shame at your poor behavior of your past self. So you want validation that you are still lovable, e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 04:46 PM |
| 6 | When or how do I disclose past cheating?Exactly! And you don’t need to be a professional...sometimes you know things from experience! Everything you said was FACTS! People love to use things against you. I have a friend who hated the girlfriend (Anne, for example) of a guy friend she had. One day she brings up about treating people differently and Anne was being a bitch. So my friend decides to expose Anne and tell everyone she used to be a stripper. My friend is a lawyer but still was petty af!! And this is what I’m talking about. Pe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 03:36 AM |
| 46 | When or how do I disclose past cheating?Why do people feel the need to reveal super personal things about themselves? It almost feels like they do it because they want the person to know how bad they were, but they are no longer that person. Or maybe they hope this will make the other person also reveal some past wrongdoings. And then everyone sighs in relief because we’ve been accepted. I’m stating this bluntly because he doesn’t validate you. You validate yourself because you’re no longer that person. It doesn’t benefit anyone to kn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 11:28 PM |
| 53 | Blocked my LVM boyfriend with no explanation. He doesn’t need one right?I used to always cut off people but then I started to feel bad about it. The thing is, you gave him a chance to talk, and he declined. So you leave. Men do it all the time🙄 There’s no need to feel guilty or bad about dropping someone but I understand why you do. Sometimes I feel sorry for my ex husband as he bumbles through life now that we are divorced. But then I remember he’s petty as fuck and treated me like shit. You can’t feel sorry for them, they don’t give two fucks about you PERIOD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 07:00 PM |
| 67 | Men doing basic things is NOT praiseworthyYep. Yesterday my ex husband and I were talking and he asked why I always had an attitude with him. I told him “I don’t like you. You don’t clean up after yourself, or the kids, expected me to do so much then and even now and we aren’t even together. Then you make dinner for the kids or do the dishes and want a prize.” Part of my divorce agreement is that he has visitation at my house 2x a week for 2 hours. He will make dinner sometimes for them but also a big ass mess. He cleans it and then he’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 06:52 PM |
| 16 | How did a guy ruin his chance with you before the first date?I remember this guy from work, he asked me out and we both had the next day off so I told him to call me and we would see. Anyway, the next day comes and I don’t feel like going anywhere, so when he called I just ignored the call. He then called me 16 times that day. This was 2004, I don’t know if he realized my cell caught each missed call, but I was over it. I told him the next day I wasn’t going anywhere with him because of the amount of times he called me. A few weeks later, (because we are … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 12:58 AM |
| 3 | A perfect example of a LVM and his self-centred thought process 😑So many contradictions in a few paragraphs! He’s gross | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 07:55 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 23 2020You’re speaking nothing but truth right now. I was so overworked and exhausted preCovid. I’ve been resting while working from home. Because my student loans are being waived right now, I have extra money towards my debt. I was in such a hole from my divorce but I’ve actually been able to gain so much traction for my upcoming move!!! This pandemic was also one of the best things to happen to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 04:30 AM |
| 10 | Remember this post every single time a man complains that his ex/current wife/girlfriend refuses to have sex with him. Makes me wonder how many posts on r/ deadbedrooms are from the perspective of the abuser. No, she's not "asexual" or inherently "low libido", he's probably just an asshole.I hated sex with my ex husband and I was with him for years. I thought it was me and I was so mad at myself for being low libido. We get divorced and I get a new boyfriend....then I remember who I was before my ex husband. Anyway, it was a real fear because I always thought I wouldn’t be able to maintain a sexual relationship after my ex. A relationship felt like lifting heavy boxes, easy when you’re young, but what happens when you’re elderly? So you get fired? Replaced? That’s how I used to fe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 02:13 AM |
| 1 | How do you balance being an independent woman and FDS?Exactly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 02:02 AM |
| 14 | How do you balance being an independent woman and FDS?By actually defining independent woman for what it is. You can make your own money, you can take care of yourself. That’s pretty much it. Done. Now FDS is about understanding the part you play as a woman, in a relationship with a man. FDS is knowing that the man must provide. This isn’t about being independent. It’s the role the man plays. Men on a whole will not respect a woman that does 50/50. And why should you? Let them play their part. Save your money, and let them pay. I don’t know why you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 11:54 PM |
| 5 | MY fiance “jokingly” said he wants to marry MY bestfriendHe negged you to make you feel insecure. He triangulated you’re against your best friend, sometimes the goal of this is to further isolate you and drop your friend. He’s trash. Why be with someone who purposely causes anxiety and insecurity? Sheesh, I can do that by myself🙄 I’m not standing for people in my life not adding value. He’s adding negativity. He’s trash. Think long and hard about marrying this man. He told you who he is, you should believe him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 04:41 PM |
| 3 | When your date has high earning potential but cannot afford paying all of the couple expenses, should I split the bill until he can in years?It’s a retirement fund. Y’all need to invest at least 25 a paycheck into a retirement fund. I use Vanguard. You need 1k to start. Once you start depositing, you’ll be shocked at how fast your money grows. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 04:13 AM |
| 17 | Recovering Pickmeisha in need of advice. How do I react when the bill arrives at the end of a date?I’ve answered this before, so sorry if people are seeing it again. To me, this is when lvm try to shake you down into paying the bill. Most girls will just start messing with their phone when the bill comes. Oh you can tell the waiter to give it to the guy, which they tend to do anyway. The real test is when an lvm is bold enough to ask for a split. You can shame them, because they are def getting blocked no matter what after that. So, you can say “You offered to take me out, so you should pay.”… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 02:14 AM |
| 10 | Male lurkers: cold approaching strange women is creepy and weirdYes! I’m over the explanations🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 08:48 PM |
| 9 | Male lurkers: cold approaching strange women is creepy and weirdDefinitely. Since I’m not working or commuting, I’ve been walking everywhere. Also, during covid I’ve been working out a lot so my body has changed dramatically. Still, the men are pigs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 07:34 PM |
| 11 | When your date has high earning potential but cannot afford paying all of the couple expenses, should I split the bill until he can in years?Happens all the time. Or they drop out, not pass the bar, lose their license by being a drunk, etc etc. Never invest in a man. You are the prize, treat yourself accordingly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 07:29 PM |
| 36 | Male lurkers: cold approaching strange women is creepy and weirdYep. I’ll never forget when one of my exes was furious that I “dated” a 23 year old when I was 16. Even though I wasn’t friends with him on SM, he wanted to search him out and block him. And then he causally threw out that he was 25 and dated a 16 year old. He was different because he when he found out her age, he asked her parents for permission. He was pissed when I pointed out out that he wasn’t different, her parents should have called the cops and EVERYONE WHO WAS AN ADULT INVOLVED betrayed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 07:27 PM |
| 17 | Male lurkers: cold approaching strange women is creepy and weirdExactly. They shame you because you’re vulnerable, which is the worst type of shaming. I want to travel alone but it’s crazy because trafficking is a real thing out here. Go to Walmart and see their huge WALL of missing women and children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 07:24 PM |
| 40 | When your date has high earning potential but cannot afford paying all of the couple expenses, should I split the bill until he can in years?Nope. There is no guarantee you’ll be together. You’re paying hoping that when he has money, he’ll pay for you. You’re actually setting the expectation of a 50/50 relationship. And even if he makes 100k, his loans will be astronomical. Therefore 50/50. Invest in yourself, instead of paying 50/50 on a dinner that’s 100 bucks, that 50 dollars could go towards your 401k, debt, classes to further your career, a nice object for your apartment..... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 05:24 PM |
| 72 | Dude.They’ve been together for one year and just had a baby. So she got pregnant with 2 months of their relationship? And now she’s disappointed about the red flags? I’m not saying this to shame her but to warn y’all. Do not have a baby with a man you just met. Ever. You will pay the price almost every single time. I was with my ex husband (who had so many red flags I just didn’t realize) for years and I stayed because he was rich and he still was a scrub when we had kids. They dont change. 9 more ye… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 05:20 PM |
| 127 | Male lurkers: cold approaching strange women is creepy and weirdI remembered another forum, a woman posted that men should not approach women on dark streets and if they are walking behind a woman, they should cross it. Men were irate because they said “why should a woman be afraid of a man...just because he’s a man?” So I pulled up some data and posted it, it said that men killed women every few seconds every day, women are raped and brutalized, so it’s absolutely valid that women should be cautious around strange men. Many men on the forum mocked me, compl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 05:17 PM |
| 6 | Ladies, how do we feel about this post? Until he renders the ring, he’s not my man and isn’t entitled to my time and energy 🤷🏻♀️ Men go throw money at women in strip clubs because they look good to them, so miss me with that logic SIR!!!! 💅🏽He ain’t for me and I appreciate him letting me know early on. I’m not interested in cheap men. And I highly doubt he will change upon marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 05:23 PM |
| 127 | How can you ever truly know if this is what's actually going on or not? I know this is a meme, but seriously. What is the point in being with someone if you can't ever know for sure if they are honest or not? I don't want to live an illusion in a relationship. I don't want to be lied to.You can’t live in fear. What you can do is arm yourself with the knowledge to avoid lvm. Read the handbook. And follow it. That’s the biggest thing, really. So many women on here read the handbook and still try to excuse men. You see it in the posts all the time, “he’s so high value and we’ve known each other for 6 months but he negs when drunk etc etc.” you gotta follow through and discipline yourself. Even the best relationships can end at any time, without lies or pain. Stop having a scarcity… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 05:20 PM |
| 1 | LVM be like "who's gonna do your yard work, who's gonna clean your gutters, who's gonna open jars for you?"Hmm I’ll look this up. Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 02:47 PM |
| 14 | How to get rid of the fear of being dumped spontaneously?Anyone can get dumped, at any time. It works both ways. Scarcity mindset is a real thing. It’s never about you, always them. If it stings, allow yourself the moment to acknowledge you’re human and feel things. In my life, they’ve always come back. And then I’m the one gently explaining, “ nah, you don’t like me. You dumped (cheated, abused, lied whatever fits) me right? Clearly I don’t make you happy.” They always want to explain themselves haha. You gotta look at things from a general mindset. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 02:45 PM |
| 16 | LVM be like "who's gonna do your yard work, who's gonna clean your gutters, who's gonna open jars for you?"Lol! Sometimes I can’t open jars. I bring them down to my doorman and he opens them for me. 🤷🏽♀️ and then I take my jar and go right back upstairs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 03:47 PM |
| 14 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 15 2020He’s an lvm. Men chase, low value men liked to be chased by pick me’s. I would work on yourself first. Allow yourself to be treated on dates. I had the same problem for years and covered it by saying “I’m independent.” The reality was that I didn’t feel good enough for someone to pay for me. Also messiness and procrastination are serious issues. One of the reasons why I divorced my husband was his messiness. I was always so tired, cleaning up after the children, myself and him. He never cleaned … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 09:06 PM |
| 23 | Jumping too fast and too passionately into intelligent conversations?Wow I totally get this. I used to be told I was “acting smart” but I knew a lot about various topics, world news, books, behavior, etc. I mean, I read a lot and I also love to read medical journals. It’s a tricky situation because I have to stop myself from explaining things, even if I’m right. Some people just want you to listen to them and not necessarily correct them. So, sometimes people tell me things and I just don’t comment. It’s really not my place to tell people that they don’t k ow as … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 03:59 PM |
| 3 | How do you get over past relationship hurt and stay hopeful?It’s really good. It helped me so much to understand that my narc ex is broken and there is nothing I can do about it. He will repeat the same patterns with other women. You should also go on YouTube and watch some videos about narc abuse. I like https://youtu.be/vCnGx15xaUg https://youtu.be/wf6C5yvbgFY https://youtu.be/P-YqFhSS0EY These are men, but it’s very interesting to see that women narcs still present in the same ways male narcs do. I’ve added my favorite women channel: https://youtu.be/… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 01:49 PM |
| 3 | Yah duh, did men really expect otherwise?My last ex wanted to open the relationship because we were long distance. I told it was fine, but that I would be out every other weekend when I didn’t have the kids, on dates with men. I told him once I start fucking a dude, I probably won’t want a LDR. And I can’t spend as much time with him anyway, because I’d rather date locally. We never opened 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 12:08 AM |
| 34 | How do you get over past relationship hurt and stay hopeful?Sounds like you were dealing with a narc. They really fuck you up. My last ex was one and it was really hard to get over. At least a year went by before I could wake up without a heavy heart. I recommend going no contact, deleting pics with him in them, blocking him and his family and friends. He’s not a good person and they play dirty. I was friends on social media with his mom, and he used her page to send me messages. I had to unfriended her and other mutual friends so he couldn’t spy on me. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 11:19 PM |
| 2 | Why are LVM so obsessive! Small d*ck energy to the maxOmigod! I got one of these before. The guy said he wasnt interested so I unfriended him. He then sends me a voice text on IG talking about “You don’t know how to treat a man, because you’re older and old fashioned, you’ll never find someone like me. I can get whoever I want” I never responded and he still continued to write me. Once I was bored and looked him up months later and I was blocked lmaoooo! I went to tell my friend a few days later and I was unblocked....I never even responded....TO T… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 01:41 AM |
| 2 | Can someone reassure me that I did the right thing by walking away?It’s my go to every time girl. Even the most trifling man gets shamed when they hear those words...lmaoo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 06:58 PM |
| 24 | Why Men In Their Thirties Won't Commit — Solitary BeastThis is true. I can turn a man out so much faster than when I was in my twenties | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 01:22 AM |
| 43 | Why Men In Their Thirties Won't Commit — Solitary BeastThis sounds like such bullshit. Men may control their desires to have sex with women, but many times it’s due to ED. They can’t get it up, and the ones who can, are premature ejaculators. Also, yes, a man could date a younger, “easy going” woman, but most times they want commitment, even more so because that “biological clock” is ticking or they want to get married. I knew a guy who was in his late thirties dating a woman in her late twenties. He was constantly looking up how to prolong orgasm o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 01:11 AM |
| 4 | Can someone reassure me that I did the right thing by walking away?Girl he shook you down 🤣🤣 They say that’s the hardest part, and even harder when they try to shame you. You were supposed to say, “I can’t pay, you offered to bring me here.” AND HOLD THAT GAZE 🤣 I love the FDS quote when they tell you to say “I’ll get it next time.” But yeah, you got shook down so you should just left without comment when you paid. And if he followed you should have said “I can’t afford you.” The other day my ex husband caught me when I was paying for groceries, he didn’t want … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 08:19 PM |
| 7 | Anyone else down to read Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft and do a virtual bookclub discussion each week to process the content/discuss? Details here!!!Me too! I would love for us all to “meet.” It’s a shame we can’t have meetups like groups on reddit do. Nope, we have to worry about lvm crashing because they can’t get a life🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 08:42 PM |
| 11 | Anyone else down to read Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft and do a virtual bookclub discussion each week to process the content/discuss? Details here!!!I’m down. Can we do zoom? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 05:49 PM |
| 7 | Have you ever ended a relationship because you realized his Dreamgirl wasn’t you—it was an ex or one of his friends?This so much. It’s so obvious sometimes 😑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 02:11 PM |
| 5 | Have you ever ended a relationship because you realized his Dreamgirl wasn’t you—it was an ex or one of his friends?I began dating a guy from high school. He was manipulative, but it was pretty easy to disregard because he was low level, and my level of manipulation I have is off the charts. I basically attend a self imposed manipulation addicts (MA) because I’m trying to do right in my life and I don’t want the karma. Anyway, he talked about his child’s mother a lot, in an attempt to make me jealous, but I was raised where exes stuck around (all of my sisters and even some of my nieces have exes that are par… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 02:10 PM |
| 24 | When can I relax?I don’t know if you can relax, ever. That’s the real issue of being with a man. You relax and that’s when the mask comes off. So, don’t relax. If y’all are together after a year, for the love of everything holy please do not have a child 🙄 or move in together. There’s no point in living together unless y’all are married. If he absolutely insists on it, move in with HIM paying the rent. Let another year go by, if there are no red flags. I was with my ex for about 6 years before we had children, b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 01:22 AM |
| 1 | They want us to fee sorry for them and take them back 😒Lmaoooo I cannot🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 06:53 PM |
| 5 | Beware of Emotional LaborYep. He’s a hoarder. Used to have magazines from the 90s and whatever bullshit saved up. I threw so much shit away when I was with him. He drove me crazy. The worst is the electronics, he used to buy all these tablets for parts and did not know how to fix them. When we moved, his cousin helped us and was like “there’s like 20 tablets” and they were all broken. Ex wanted them; I threw them out. It’s why I get so damn HYSTERICAL when my house is a mess, I have PTSD🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 06:53 PM |
| 9 | They want us to fee sorry for them and take them back 😒My friend did it. She was jealous of a woman around her boyfriend, so she went and got a black magic name candle. You basically put the name in and burn it and it’s supposed to cause harm to the person. Anyway, what happened next was like out a tv show. She books her flight (they’re LDR) and right before she boards , he calls and says he don’t want her to come. She calls me and I tell her don’t go but she decides to go anyway. She arrives and he won’t get her or answer his phone, she’s supposed … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 03:38 AM |
| 18 | They want us to fee sorry for them and take them back 😒No, Santeria is an old African religion. You can do curses but it’s considered dark magic. Most of the time I just pray for my ancestors and gods to right the wrongs for me. I don’t mess with dark magic because it does mess up your karma | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 01:18 AM |
| 37 | More women like me are choosing to be childfree. Is this the age of opting out?It really matters. Fathers are able to prevent you from leaving the state where your child resides, until at least 15 and sometimes 18. It’s crazy that a low life can not pay child support but take you to court and not allow you to relocate with your child. They also can deny your child a passport as well, since two parents are needed for signatures unless you have sole legal custody. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 12:18 AM |
| 6 | Even FDS isn’t safe from Incels. I meant to say I hope it IS coddling but now I’m glad for autocorrect.He blocked me because I told him I don’t want any man that’s on Reddit anyway🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 12:13 AM |
| 18 | Even FDS isn’t safe from Incels. I meant to say I hope it IS coddling but now I’m glad for autocorrect.Eww, he’s writing me too! Lol! Talking about I won’t be able to find a man to take care of my children 🙄 Their father does that. Lmaooo the troll was fun to play with, but I got bored | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 11:57 PM |
| 51 | They want us to fee sorry for them and take them back 😒Mine was like, “I just don’t want you to hate me.” Of course I hate you, you ain’t shit, you’re abusive and you took money from me. He’s lucky I didn’t curse his ass, I was very tempted but I know how it is with Santeria so I couldn’t 😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 10:45 PM |
| 9 | Beware of Emotional LaborExactly. It was my life for so long. I used to whisper to myself as I walked home “you can do it,” “you’re happy” “one thing at a time.” It’s really sad to think about. But again, I no longer have to worry about his stupid ass so it all worked out ... I did do it, I am happy now, and I still focus on one thing at a time ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 07:00 PM |
| 26 | Beware of Emotional LaborI agree. I’ve also dealt with this before my divorce, he didn’t know his doctors phone number, he threw his clothes on the floor, he threw receipts on the floor for weeks and if I cleaned them up, he insisted he needed them and would go through the garbage to retrieve them. He would make huge messes in the kitchen (supposedly helping me cook) and then get drunk and fall asleep. I hated myself when I was with him, I was always tired, irritated, overwhelmed with cleaning, taking care of two girls … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 02:49 PM |
| 33 | I live in Boston and this guy matched with me and messaged me who lives in Maine. He mentioned taking me out for dinner and drinks then mentioned this. I live in the city and don’t drive. Was he really expecting me to somehow meet him halfway?Real men fly you out 🤞🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 10:13 PM |
| 14 | This kind of thinking does need to stop.I don’t like to fight, my nature is pretty laid back and indifferent. However, I get irritated when I’m in a one sided relationship. And once I start resenting you there’s not much that can be done to change my way of thinking- you have to change or I’m out. People who don’t clean up after themselves is probably the number one way to make me not like you. It amazes me that people think it’s okay to be dirty or to expect someone else to cleanup after them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 10:53 PM |
| 35 | LVM and doting PickmeshiasI mean, I’m not mad at the sex worker analogy. I put so much work in when I have sex with a man, he gotta pay for shit period. I’m also domestic af, I love to clean and cook and cater to everyone in my circle. He might as pay for that too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 09:39 PM |
| 14 | Anyone here succeed in manifesting?I have. I don’t have a vision board but I’ve been thinking about getting one. Mostly I just sit and think really hard about what I want and how to get it. I research, show up, and am grateful for anything that works in my favor. For example, Jan 2018 I told myself I wanted to move to Hawaii by 2020. I knew I needed more money because I had debt from my divorce and former pick me ways, but I put the manifestation out there. I think of it like the alphabet; “Z” is the goal but I could be at “A” or… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 06:43 PM |
| 70 | “You own all of those things but you still don’t have a man.” This was posted in r/trashy where everyone is bashing the woman for expecting more than an Applebee’s for a first date.My friend is a HVW, I’ve learned so much from her. She’s so unapologetic lol. She says chain restaurants like Applebee’s or Olive Garden are for girls night out or a casual lunch alone. But a man should be taking you somewhere nicer for a first date. And this woman who posted the original post is exactly right, she can take herself out to Applebee’s. We are looking for men who add value to our lives🙄. And the argument of “that’s why you’re alone” really needs to stop. You’re slaving over a man w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 06:34 PM |
| 17 | LVM alert!Just leave. My ex husband comes over to visit the children and will sometimes use my bathroom. Once I found snot in the sink, and confronted him about it. He tried to deny it🙄 I went in....so he cleaned it. Unfortunately his visitation is mandated at my house for two hours twice a week until he gets his own apartment. But there is a bathroom on the ground floor of my apartment building-he can try me if he wants to😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 07:53 PM |
| 4 | Ladies, I present exhibit A - the Friendswithbenefitsasaurus. Abundant in urban areas, he is a common sub-species of the Loserasaurus. Complete disengagement is the only way to stay safe from this species.I’m so dead at the AUDACITY of this man. Gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 03:12 AM |
| 3 | How are LVM always this delusional? 😂He is not cute to me at all. Nope. The woman is beautiful though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 04:30 AM |
| 7 | FDS stance on posting revealing pictures on social media?I feel like it’s up to to you. Women all have differing views and what one does, another would never do. Its sort of like tattoos, they don’t devalue you, but some women think they’re trashy. If you want to post, post. But remember that the judging eye you cast upon other women can just as easily be cast upon you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 03:50 AM |
| 9 | People can actually change but there is no reason to entertain someone you forgive.Right? It’s always the abusive ones🙄 they’re like “why can’t you be happy for me?!?” NO. You are a terrible human being and I’m not wishing any goodness upon you. Absolutely not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 07:56 PM |
| 16 | People can actually change but there is no reason to entertain someone you forgive.Thanks! Yes I always struggled with wishing people well...I know I’m supposed to be the bigger person but why do they need MY approval? I feel like it’s low key manipulation, like an ex calling you “I got a new gf” when a) you don’t care, b) May even be horrified because they were abusive to you. They want that congrats from you. No. “I hope you get what you deserve, may we all get what we deserve” can be received in so many ways. It can be petty lol or it can be true happiness at someone reapin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 07:27 PM |
| 21 | I’m moving to NYC this fall and I keep hearing that dating in NY is awful. Is finding HVM even more difficult in a place like NY?I live in NYC and I plan on moving and will not date until I move. I dated and ended up marrying an actor from NYC, but over the years he showed he was lvm, so now we’re divorced. I feel like NYC is segregated and classism is rampant here. If you find a HVM, who lives alone, makes a good salary (meaning over 80k🙄) and travels, you’ve truly found a diamond in the rough. My thoughts are that the men from NYC seem perfectly content to stay in NYC, and aren’t very adventurous. The transplants are pe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 04:15 PM |
| 96 | People can actually change but there is no reason to entertain someone you forgive.I don’t even wish people who’ve harmed me the best anymore. I just say “I hope you get what you deserve” because I’m not interfering with your karma. May we all get what we deserve ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 03:58 PM |
| 5 | Share your CRAZIEST "hoover" / re-contact attempts?Lol! Either they request money and send a message or they send something like a dollar and send a message with it🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 06:22 PM |
| 5 | Share your CRAZIEST "hoover" / re-contact attempts?I’m blocked on IG and his phone but he stalks on YouTube....like seriously...fake accounts on YouTube? I literally cannot🙄🤣🤣 but I have heard of people being stalked on cashapp so I guess that takes the cake | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 05:24 PM |
| 8 | If a man is this stingy, I don’t see the point in staying with him.I will NEVER buy food from a man’s house tf? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 04:48 PM |
| 12 | My guy friend sent me this, he calls her wifey....I can’t relate 🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 11:40 PM |
| 10 | Intentional single parenthood as a new default option?Yes. Now that my daughters and I are with each other most of the time (their father is active in their lives but they are mostly with me) it’s exactly as you described...good food, peaceful times, and lots of fun. My daughters have no problem blocking their friends lol or low vibrational people and I love it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 07:51 PM |
| 1 | Bf used to splitting the billI don’t think I’m manipulating...I am grateful when I get money from men. And you’re basically saying the same thing I am, I just applied “debt” to it. How are you a victim because you can’t pay for something? I’m just being matter of fact, and also letting him know what I’M looking for in a man. And HVM are generous. And I truly believe we should acknowledge that, because I also believe that HVM men like feeling that they are able to provide. Overly grateful, in my opinion, is when women say “I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 06:15 PM |
| 3 | New red flag I won’t ignore: if his ex (or ex’s) blocked him, you probably should too.I’m blocked by my narc ex on IG. But he stalks me on YouTube and makes fake account after fake account. I don’t even know why he does it anymore, I broke up with him two years ago. I don’t have him blocked on anything, I just act like he doesn’t exist. I agree with what an earlier post mentioned, one block is not as bad as several blocked past relationships. My point of the post is that if a SO is telling you he blocked an ex, find out why. Ask if the ex is blocked on other social media. For me,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 05:09 AM |
| 9 | Bf used to splitting the billYou can undo this dynamic but you have to harden your heart. I do this to my ex husband all the time. I tell him I have no money because I’m paying off my debt. He tried bring up splitting costs a few times ( like if we take our daughters to dinner) and I’m just like “I don’t have any money, I told you that.” You know how in books, a person goes to a police station and the police are questioning them? The police rely on people feeling uncomfortable with silence and then the person feels the need… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 06:19 PM |
| 3 | Pickmeisha AnthemI love SOS but this song ain’t it. It slaps though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 04:26 PM |
| 4 | What led you to find this sub?I’ve always had some characteristics of FDS but lost my way after my last relationship. I’ve been watching feminine channels but they don’t really discuss how terrible men can be and how it affects you. I saw someone recommended this on r/relationships (I hate that sub but I would read it to try to find similar stories to me) and I’ve been so glad ever since! I don’t think I’ve hit the wall, I feel better than ever! I’m highly paid, beautiful and have two adorable daughters. I can’t have trash i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 04:17 PM |
| 18 | I think FDS will hit 100k members before the year is overI’m not anti-male. I don’t like all men. I love HVM men and money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 11:31 PM |
| 2 | Insecure About My PersonalityLOL I just reread it out loud and I was like “sheesh I went off” but it’s like that sometimes 🤷🏽♀️🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 11:06 PM |
| 12 | Insecure About My PersonalityI’ve felt this way. I remember I almost gave up after my last relationship, because there are so many attributes that other women have that I don’t. I’m not that social. I don’t drink. I get tired easily. I wake up cranky and hate dirty houses. My hair is a mess. I don’t want friends but sometimes feel a bit lonely when I see other people at bars with loads of friends. Red lipstick looks stupid on me but nice on other people. Sometimes I get bored. Sometimes I’m really mad for no reason. Wheneve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 03:53 AM |
| 4 | Men subtly joking you do little workRight?! I feel like such a snob when I say it...I have it perfected, with a look up and down and then I slowly walk away smh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 04:39 AM |
| 8 | A guy’s counter-argument to my arguments about the cons of polyamoryYep! Exactly! Ugh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 01:34 AM |
| 23 | Men subtly joking you do little workI suggest speaking plainly. “Your comment is hurtful so I’m leaving” “If you continue to speak that way to me, we can’t be friends.” “I don’t allow people to neg me.” (They’ll ask what it means you tell them about the negative comment) My absolute favorite, though???? I love to say “you have an ugly personality.” They are usually shocked and I’m like, it is what it is. And if people later come to me for to get information I just say “he/she has an ugly personality, no thank you.” People get so w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 01:05 AM |
| 34 | A guy’s counter-argument to my arguments about the cons of polyamoryI’m sorry that you have to deal with this. While anyone can do whatever they want, some arguments I’ve heard for polyamory are really strange. Example: you have more than one child and you love them! Why can’t you do that with me! A: no, having multiple children that you’ve BIRTHED us different from me allowing you to have sex with several women. Also the “you’re not mature or enlightened enough.” I dont even explain myself anymore, I find that the more you counter, the more they try to convince… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 12:44 AM |
| 36 | Men subtly joking you do little workIt’s interesting right? I usually am very quiet when people say impolite things or if they hurt my feelings. For many years, I was always “teased” about little things, but I never said anything. Then I met a woman who literally changed my life. She told me that people don’t have the right to tease you. It’s actually very childish. Also, if you don’t respond, it doesn’t mean it’s okay for them to continue. I’ve learned a lot about myself and I’ve set boundaries with everyone, including my family.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 11:34 PM |
| 88 | Men subtly joking you do little workPublic service positions always make less than private. But the work you do is important, because it benefits all people, not just the very rich or people who donate( ugh sorry for the rant but I worked in private hospitals for many years, we coddled very bad doctors and people because they made money and donors were VIP) Now I work in public service and while the pay is low, I def feel like I am making a greater impact. But you already knew all this. The question is, what kind of person do you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 11:10 PM |
| 190 | My former friend's decent into madness.Lol! If y’all are working together you can def show this to HR because he’s a hot mess | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 02:36 AM |
| 23 | The ideal red pill marriage (credits to r/inceltear)This is so sad. My baby is 9, she’s such a small, innocent baby girl. This breaks my heart that in 2006, a woman had a story to tell before she would die...that she got married at 9 years old. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 05:24 AM |
| 8 | Is it okay to date a broke man with genuine ambition?He has potential, which is not a qualifier for dating. If he’s paying for dates then I don’t see the harm in dating him. But honestly, how long is his money? Because for me, I need a certain lifestyle. Which entails going to Hawaii for vacation, visiting friends in Vegas, and visiting family in Cali. This doesn’t even go into my overseas vacations. I do these things alone, but I need to know that a man I’m dating can afford me. Food dates are not enough. That’s really my only concern. Can he aff… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/20 09:45 PM |
| 1 | do you wear make-up everyday?I don’t wear foundation, I never did. My makeup is a smidge of concealer (to hide my freckles) bronzer, blush and mascara. During quarantine I watched makeup videos and did a full face but I hated how it felt. It’s so hot so I did started to use a tinted banana powder to help w sweat but idk because my skin is dry. Anyway most people can’t tell I wear makeup🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/20 06:04 AM |
| 3 | how to know what you are looking for in a manI know right? I’m so glad I found that channel, she is very unapologetic and straightforward about what she wants! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 08:26 PM |
| 25 | how to know what you are looking for in a manYou should start watching Chloe_ on youtube. I really love her because she helps you answer that question for yourself and when men ask you what you want in a man. What she says (which I love) if a man asks you what you are looking for in a man is: “ I’m looking for a strong man, a man who wants to provide for his family, and a man who is generous.” It was so perfect for me because this is exactly what I want. If a man asks questions like “what do you mean by generous? Do you mean like paying fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 06:30 PM |
| 30 | AKA, this man is forcing you to put up with his crappy LVM behavior before he can even consider you. Don’t do it.The best way to respond is “yawn, I’m bored.” And then block | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 12:38 AM |
| 40 | LVM and Pickmes belong together 💞The problem is that lvm are never satisfied with pick me’s. They like them initially as low hanging fruit but they want the highest fruit everytime | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 12:36 AM |
| 26 | Is dating even worth it?I never worried about dating at 18, but I did feel pressure from family to date. For years I didn’t bring any men to meet my family, and I waited til I was 30 to have children. No one in my family has waited that long to have their first child. I might not have had any, but that’s another story. Anyway, I credit my success to waiting to have a child and dating sporadically. Even now, being divorced for three years, and single the past two, my money has grown 20k, and I’ve advanced in my career. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 09:14 PM |
| 26 | Relationship advice succesfully pressured this woman into doing a sex act she hates with her entitled, predatory boyfriend. There are no words to describe how sad, sick and disgusted this makes me.I’m inclined to agree with this. If a man feels comfortable asking about my sexual past, he should feel comfortable with the answers he may get. Also, under no circumstances should any man “expect” sexual favors because it was done in the past. However, while I’ve always been honest with my sexual past, I’m at a stage in my life where I no longer feel obligated to answer questions about my sexual history. The only thing a person whom I’m intimate NEEDS to know about my sexual history is if I hav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 05:39 PM |
| 94 | Dinner + “Movie” = SexThere was a post once that a guy said if a woman didn’t have sex the first date, he dropped her....and I laughed....I laughed at all those times I would date men for like 6 months without sex then I’d drop them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 10:42 PM |
| 2 | Why does a part of me feel excited to potentially leave my loving stable partner to be single?Sigh. It’s hard, right? When my ex husband and I broke up, there were times when I would think back and remember how kind he was...he was nice...I felt so comfortable with him. But I also remember that he didn’t do things that I wanted, like bring me flowers or make me feel pretty, if that makes sense. And now, even three years after the divorce, sometimes he crosses my mind. Can I imagine a life without him? I’m so used to him! Why can’t I just settle down with him. Because deep down, he doesn’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 09:43 PM |
| 55 | "She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes by the Sink" - Women are fed up from having to "nag" men to do the bare minimum. She shouldn't have to tell you something needs to be done. You're an adult - Just do it!The main reason why I divorced my ex husband. I constantly had to clean up after him, in addition to my twin daughters. I didn’t want to, but he was content to be a dirty fuck. Even now, when he does visitation at my house, he makes a mess. I used to say “men will be men” when I was in love. Now I tell him we can never be together because I don’t like dirty men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 10:54 PM |
| 24 | How long do you stay on hold?I usually hang up right away....then I say I got disconnected when they switched over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 09:08 PM |
| 1 | I will accept nothing lessI literally just came in my pants reading this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 06:11 PM |
| 23 | Prime example of pickmeisha’s being a disease. A grown man harassed a minor and his girlfriend defended him by calling the little girl a slut. When you see girls defending their bf’s degenerate behavior, this is how they grow up to beThis is gross. Sometimes I thank God for not putting me in situations like this, because I honestly want to punch her stupid ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 10:51 PM |
| 20 | I wonder if I would have grown out of my pickmeisha phase without having been severely hurtI used to think the same; I’m so elevated because I went through so much with my ex and now I’m no longer a pick me. The truth is, this isn’t the first time I’ve elevated because my parents were also abusive. I was also bullied a lot in school. I honestly believe you don’t need to go through trauma to evolve. I think that’s something we tell ourselves, because we are survivors, and we need to acknowledge what we’ve gone through. But I know people who haven’t undergone trauma and they are good pe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 12:55 PM |
| 6 | Why do I convince myself I'm not pretty enough for the kind of man I want?Pretty much lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 12:48 PM |
| 33 | Why do I convince myself I'm not pretty enough for the kind of man I want?I totally feel you on not feeling pretty enough because of your moms abuse. My mom also was abusive...some things that stuck out was her constantly saying I didn’t need to be pretty; because I wore glasses I was smart instead...when I needed both braces and glasses she refused the braces because the “glasses were bad enough.” I was very small and petite and she would comment with other people that I was so little and not “womanly.” I have very curly hair and she never bothered to teach me to do … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 01:15 AM |
| 5 | NYers here, do you date guys who live in Nj or outside of manhattan ?I mean, I’m lazy. I’m not willing to travel super far for a man. If he drives then he can totally be from New Jersey. But I generally curve anyone who lives outside of manhattan because I’m not traveling to you and you ain’t coming to my house🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 06:54 PM |
| 31 | I kicked my narcissist LVM of 6 years out of my apartment after breakup and now regret it?I mean, you’re out of your comfort zone right now. Even if it was toxic, and he cheated, you are familiar with him. You are now navigating a new territory without him. Honestly, I’d consider therapy. To allow a man to cheat multiple times and still want to be with him shows really allow self esteem on your part. He escalated, too. Became more insufferable and even cheated with a friend the last time. No. Now is the time to start caring about yourself. I’d block him. It’s hard but it really helps… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 06:50 PM |
| 29 | The ghost of my LV ex keeps haunting meIt’s hard not to be triggered, which is why you should take some time from dating and unpack some of your insecurities and learn to recognize what triggers you. When you feel ready-meaning you have done the work- you can begin dating. The only expectation you have to have is with yourself. You don’t have to compromise yourself, your morals, the way you are for a man. You should adopt some changes before dating, which are FDS aligned, such as saying what you want upfront, and cutting people off i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 02:25 PM |
| 4 | What range of price is acceptable for gifts on bdays?25 dollars. Get him a gift card to Starbucks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 12:39 AM |
| 15 | 49 Red Flags You Are Dating A Low Value ManYeah and it’s weird how many women accept it. I live with my twin daughters, almost all my friends live in their own places. Here’s the thing. If they live with family, they will almost always try to move in with you and do 50/50, idgaf. And some women want that🤦🏽♀️ because they believe they are saving money, but they are now picking up extra duties like cleaning for two, cooking for two, etc. My next man has to have his own place, period. I’ll move in with him. I will not pay 50/50 but I don’t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 07:38 PM |
| 7 | How to Handle Nasty Tone/ Raised Voice?I’ve done that! Once a boss cursed at me and I just got up and left. He screamed my name as I left but I just ignored him. He later apologized, but I should have went straight to HR and complained. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 02:57 AM |
| 14 | I let a LVM pull me back in after dumping him, and he successfully pulled a power move on meEh, I don’t feel that way. I don’t take losses. I just learn more about myself. You feel like he won, but he still lost. You’re a good person and he resorted to his usual manipulative tactics. How boring it must be to always have to manipulate people and not ever be yourself..... I don’t take it as a loss because you’ve discovered that you need to work on yourself and not let people make you feel guilty. Anyway good luck! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 06:34 PM |
| 20 | Age gap role reversalThen you go girl! Yes! I’m 39 and you’ve given me so much hope! Many younger men I try to date want children....I used to be okay with it but now I’m not so sure. Pregnancy took a lot out of me at 30 (twins). I’m in the best shape of my life and I’m not sure about the newborn phase again!!! But, I digress🙃 congratulations! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 12:30 AM |
| 6 | Did anyone else used to think they were high libido just because that’s what men like?Omg yes! I only have high libido towards men that are gentle with me and my emotions first! I get turned off extremely easily. I was in a toxic relationship for over a decade and it really changed my thought process about sex. I’m sexual but I absolutely need someone to treat me like a queen. If I feel overworked or under appreciated I start thinking of my way out. You said it so well, thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 12:27 AM |
| 2 | Picked up more domestic duties around the house bc I’m WFH and he (gently) reminded me he’s a grown man and I shouldn’t feel pressured to pick up more chores.Yes❤️❤️❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 12:14 AM |
| 27 | Age gap role reversalHe appears high value, so I don’t see red flags. Of course there is a generational difference, and the fact that he may one day want kids...but I don’t see any issue here. Also, we don’t know what the future holds. Y’all may stay together or y’all may not🤷🏽♀️ What matters is right now...is he high value and meets your needs. Not his potential but what he is at this very moment. Then you move from there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 12:12 AM |
| 2 | This man boldly made SEVERAL antiblack sentiments in the face of me, a black woman.Studies have shown that the racial ancestry mixture of the average Puerto Rican (regardless of racial self-identity) is about 56% European/North African (Canary Islander Guanche), 28% Sub-Saharan African, and 16% Native Taino, with European ancestry strongest on the west side of the island and West African ancestry strongest on the east side, and consistent levels of Taino ancestry throughout the island. * Even though over 75% of the population of Puerto Rico self identifies as white, only about… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 08:38 PM |
| 2 | Reconnect to old friendUgh, I hate when people live at home with their parents. I feel like they try to push to live with you quickly. I like when people have their own place to live, and save their money that way🤷🏽♀️ I don’t think having anxiety is bad, but are they getting treated for it? Because untreated anxiety can be crippling. If y’all are in the beginning stages I don’t think they should text everyday, but it really depends on your needs. For me, I like a man I’m interested in to text or reach out at least on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 06:51 PM |
| 14 | This man boldly made SEVERAL antiblack sentiments in the face of me, a black woman.I feel you! We all know the truth but there is no reason to be racist. Ugh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 04:00 AM |
| 27 | This man boldly made SEVERAL antiblack sentiments in the face of me, a black woman.Puertoricans have black blood. Being puertorican myself, I’ve learned that many would choose to either ignore that fact or pretend they have no black blood. But Puertoricans are comprised of European, Taino Indian, and African blood. This is so sad...smh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 02:49 AM |
| 5 | Growing from my pickme ways (Dating a much older man story)Did you even read OPs post? She talked about that she didn’t believe her partner was a fuckboy because he liked to have emotional connections with other women. I told her that matters little; you can be a fuckboy and still have a emotional connection. I don’t believe the men I had sex with used my body, but to each their own. You weren’t there, so..... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 02:20 PM |
| 31 | I don’t understand women who are happy to be stay at home mums.It doesn’t help to bash women who choose to stay at home to care for their children. Yes, they run the risk of not being relevant in the workplace if they divorce, but not all women are “kept” women. Some have their own savings and some work small jobs to provide extra income. Some get large allowances from their husbands and are provided for, even in divorce. And some are not. I can’t tell if you’re a mother, but I’m a mother. And it’s literally the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life. I wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 02:16 PM |
| 43 | Lundy is a HVMHis book is so good. I reread over and over, each time I felt validated that I wasn’t the crazy one and my ex boyfriend was abusive af. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 12:06 AM |
| 8 | Growing from my pickme ways (Dating a much older man story)I also want to note you can be a fuckboy and still want meaningful relationships. I did it for many years...would only have sex with men I had a emotional attachment to. After about 3-6 months, intense conversation (or attachment) I would then fuck and flee. I did it all the time and men were really triggered about it. But I didn’t have casual sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 05:57 PM |
| 16 | For those of you who are spiritual, have you ever felt like the entrance of a (lvm) man in your life has almost literally disturbed your spirit?Yep. That’s like the first sign to me...they look “unclean” also some people will be able sense to their “evilness” through photos...sometimes I can look at photo or a person in real life and see them morph slightly into a demon like person. It used to freak me out as a kid, but more people have experienced it than I could ever imagine. And it works in other ways, sometimes I can see their “light” as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 05:09 PM |
| 20 | For those of you who are spiritual, have you ever felt like the entrance of a (lvm) man in your life has almost literally disturbed your spirit?It happened to me once and it was terrible. I literally felt like I was in the presence of evil. And it shook me, because I had always believed prior that people wanted the best for me. Honestly, many women who have dealt with narcissistic men know what I mean. They have absolutely no morals. They just want to fuck you up. And they never stop wanting to fuck you up, even years later. It took me two years to recover from one, it took a lot of focusing on God, myself and faking it to make it. I wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 05:03 PM |
| 25 | How do I stop performing for men?Work on yourself. You don’t have to delete social media but you can work on yourself. Work out, read books, learn a new hobby, occupy your time with friends...learn how to put on makeup, clean your house (like really clean it). Try not to look at social media until you’ve done something productive. You’re seeking validation, which is common in today’s world. Sometimes I look on SM and I’m like “why don’t I have 23k followers🙄” And I def want people to like my posts. But I just want to be bomb in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 04:58 PM |
| 20 | Beware of "HVM" with mental disordersMental illness is real. A friend I knew took medication years ago for a unspecified mental illness...he got better. But he hated taking the medication. He warned himself off and seemed fine for many years...but I know he’s becoming unstable...lately has been muttering a lot, increasingly more self isolated, sometimes won’t eat or sleep for days. It’s sad that there is such a stigma for the treatment of mental illness. He’s tried a holistic approach which I believe has helped a little bit- yoga, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 04:54 PM |
| 3 | Fuckboi in his 40s, a starterpackDo it girl. Every story helps someone kick his ass out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 04:06 PM |
| 2 | How levelling up has affected me socially :/For real. I would say what I had to say, she wanna argue, next thing you know 30 minutes has passed. Now my work isn’t done....can’t look online for men to pay my bills 😭😭😭 and the worst is that because we talked so long, other people at work think we’re friends🙄 People are the worst... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 05:02 AM |
| 5 | How levelling up has affected me socially :/Lol...the funny thing is that is how I really talk.....people find it offensive but they laugh too. I don’t laugh with them though....no jokes from me when I’m dropping FACTS lmaoooo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 05:00 AM |
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