I'm sppeechless

shljock · 2021-09-30T21:14:12+00:00

First of all if you say NO once (and especially to something extremely sensitive like this) if they still try to talk/guilt/gaslight you into it YOU NEED TO RUN. He has zero respect for her trying to bulldoze over her boundaries and gaslights her like no other. Iit's only going to escalate into more vile territory. Did I say RUN

Far_from_deceived · 2021-09-30T21:11:13+00:00

“I’m not sure if I should just do what he wants as long as he’s not ignoring me and my phone calls”

WTF IS THAT????? Seriously, unbelievable.

catlady4u · 2021-09-30T21:03:58+00:00

She doesn't yet realize she's an amateur p*rn star.

all_or_nothing_bet · 2021-09-30T20:19:50+00:00

"Highly uncomfortable"? That's straight up criminal offense!

giftofnocondemnation · 2021-09-30T20:17:56+00:00

How sad that this woman doesn’t realize he is creating porn with her for other pigs! He doesn’t respect her at all. Women have been brainwashed that men are good for us regardless of their disrespectful behavior.

gigi_chi · 2021-09-30T20:44:19+00:00

I really advise against women letting men record them. There is a high chance you won’t be with him in the long haul, and yet he will always have those recordings and pictures of you. I remember my ex from years ago would always ask for nudes and I always stood strong saying no. Looking back I am so happy I never gave in.

boiledgatorade_ · 2021-09-30T21:52:28+00:00

He’s posting them somewhere 😒

datthingy · 2021-09-30T21:20:18+00:00

Severe violation of trust and boundaries and she thinks she’s just uncomfortable??? Press charges jesus!!

donttextme_k · 2021-09-30T20:54:20+00:00

The last part doesn’t make the situation any better

guava-cat · 2021-09-30T21:18:13+00:00

The age gap too 😬 This is appalling and she needs to make a swift exit. Sadly it doesn’t sound like she’s going to. Hope she sees the light.

eveloe · 2021-10-01T01:33:48+00:00

Her boyfriend is a rapist.

He’s coercing her into sexual activity she doesn’t want and it’s frustrating that she doesn’t realise this.

noscrubsdotmp3 · 2021-09-30T22:38:19+00:00

The more posts like this I see the more I want to hire a lawyer and sue the fuck out of my ex for revenge porn. Trust one guy and it will be the biggest mistake of your life. I’d never so much as taken a naked picture of myself before meeting my abuser. These men need to suffer consequences.

dembar126 · 2021-09-30T22:36:29+00:00

It blows my mind that a 23 year old genuinely believes that her 30 year old boyfriend sees her as anything but a sex object.

Mcccy · 2021-09-30T22:29:33+00:00

And of course they have a 7 year age gap.

arnezuara · 2021-09-30T21:21:28+00:00

Also: never have sex at a boyfriend’s place, even if the two of you are exclusive and he’s proven to be HV (so far). He might have hidden cameras at his place to record the two of you having sex.

Never trust a man. Watch him silently, be very vague about your life, and leave if he does something you don’t like (never react to or say anything about it).

povofme · 2021-10-01T01:11:26+00:00

He either shows it to all his buddies or posts them online somewhere. Doesn’t matter if he doesn’t need money, some men just get off on knowing other guys are jacking off to their gf/wife.

If a guy EVER gets mad or expects you to apologize for setting a boundary than he is an abuser who wants to wear you down to never setting any boundaries with him. Leave

camille_san · 2021-09-30T21:36:09+00:00

Ohhh bb noooooooo

FlockAroundtheClock · 2021-10-01T01:20:29+00:00

What do his finances and family have to do with anything?!

How does she not realize this is not okay, it is in fact criminal behavior.

throwawayastrogirl · 2021-10-01T10:14:38+00:00

That age gap though. She needs that legal advice subreddit and FDS

neatsqueefs · 2021-10-01T03:02:59+00:00

23f..... 30m..... there's your troubles.

blackmetalbetty · 2021-09-30T22:16:50+00:00

I'm sorry, I know we're supposed to maintain compassion and not victim blame and whatnot, but I'm really starting to hate these women.. Why are you seeking counsel from the internet when you already know in your heart what your damn boundaries and tolerances are? Just throw the disrespectful bastard away and stop treating this like some philosophical conundrum. Why are people so afraid to be alone?

xfelugirlx · 2021-10-01T04:22:28+00:00

If you don’t want to dont do it, doesn’t matter what he says or thinks.

NotMyRealName814 · 2021-10-01T17:15:55+00:00

Another woman is suffering due to a creepy man who's probably been watching porn daily since he was 12. She'd better find a way to check if there are videos of her online.

Ironsculpture · 2021-10-01T05:19:49+00:00

I've accepted how crazy and disgusting men can be, but I still can't stomach women's spinelessness when dealing with them. I can't even feel any empathy for these tools anymore lol.

Patriarchy has been fucking with our brains since day 1 of our lives? That's true and all, but for how long are we going to use it as an excuse? Just tell men like this to eat shit already.

Title	I'm sppeechless
Author	Peak_Tree
Upvotes	899
Comments	61
Date	September 30, 2021 8:10 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/pyrtmn/im_sppeechless/
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