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| 63 | Lazy/useless men & the 'Why should I? It's my time' mentality.This just reminded me of a time in high school where a buddy of mine asked if he could look at my book report for inspiration for his. This jackass literally copied it word for word. The teacher called us out of course but thankfully she made it clear she knew who had written the original. (Mine was typed up and printed, while his copy was handwritten.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 03:31 PM |
| 4 | Weak men project so hard and get so in their feelings when women don’t want to settleThey really do bond over hating women. My shitty ex used to hang out with one of his buddies and every single time he would come back and bitch and moan and complain about him. When I got to know his friend more that’s when I realized why they got along so well. My ex hated him… but he hated women more and so did his friend. My ex could say all kinds of sexist, racist, and homophobic things and his buddy would support him in it. So even though he thought his friend was stupid and was always mad … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 03:49 PM |
| 25 | Have a nice day!Whenever I encounter a man that I predict will want to come hit on me I use a very masculine response to them. If we lock eyes I do a “dude head-nod” and then maybe even a hand salute from my head. For whatever reason using a masculine gesture to acknowledge them without smiling at all keeps them at bay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 07:53 PM |
| 68 | Positive stories of finding a HVM or enjoying singlehood?Oh my God the release of anxiety!! I nearly fainted when I left my emotionally abusive ex-boyfriend. I closed the door behind me and suddenly experienced an intense whooshing sound as my vision disappeared and reappeared in a flash. It was the strangest thing… Almost as if I was stepping into another timeline. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 02:30 AM |
| 21 | Mini-tip for vetting (OLD)Bahahahaha!!!! That’s gold! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 04:51 PM |
| 224 | If he wanted to he wouldI totally get where you’re coming from. It can be really hard to just give up on someone and it’s taken me years to get faster at blocking. But don’t feel like it’s you ‘giving up on him’ because if you look back on it, he gave up on you first. You made plans a MONTH in advance, he said yes. You checked in a WEEK ahead of time, he said yes. And then you literally flew there and he bailed on you for a selfish reason. At the end of the day, a flake is a flake. Doesn’t matter if it’s a guy friend, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 04:35 PM |
| 39 | How to deal with men who want to be “orbiters”I strongly recommend blocking. I had an orbiter for TWO YEARS and I ended up caving one night and spending time with. We ended up dating and it was literally the worst experience of my life. When I first met him my body intuitively knew he was no good for me but I didn’t know blocking was an option at the time. I could have saved myself so much suffering. If you know they are not a good match for you block and delete because they WILL hang around until you’re vulnerable… they’re vultures I swear… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 06:54 PM |
| 100 | TW for sexual abuse survivors. Disgusting scrotes use prostitutes to act out their incestuous nightmare. Pick-me women who enable predator kinks are also a danger to all women and children. Mass grooming has only gotten more accessible with the internet . I first came across violent porn at age 6. 💔Porn is not a “personal decision” when overtime it’s contents slowly shifts your sexual desire towards interests and kinks that you never would’ve desired if left to explore your own natural sexual blossoming. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 01:18 AM |
| 55 | This was on my LinkedIn feed with hundreds of likes and positive comments about how clever and hilarious it was.Like my mom always said. “You don’t have to buy the pig to get a little sausage!” 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 12:11 AM |
| 791 | Woman shuts down "nice guy" b.s. Love to see it“Being nice” is literally a default quality… If ‘not being an asshole’ is your best quality you don’t actually have anything to offer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 08:48 PM |
| 17 | "Moving the goalpost" at its finest. Nothing good comes of long-term relationship, especially ones with wife benefits and no future in sight. At this point, this guy is enjoying making his girlfriend BUST for a ring while he blows money on a boat. A BOAT.Reading this brings back terrible memories of one of my exes. The crazy thing is I ended up on antidepressants after finally breaking up with him. I remember my doctor saying to me at one point months later of “maybe you’ll find a boyfriend and then you’ll feel better. “ All the meanwhile it was the boyfriend that caused the trauma in the first place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 06:56 PM |
| 5 | Red flag: The man who disagrees with everything you have to sayYou did a true service for her here. You’re an inspiration. Thank you. 🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 04:05 AM |
| 33 | Red flag: The man who disagrees with everything you have to sayI dated this man. I laughed my absolute utter ass off when he met one of my bad ass girlfriends. He said something about it being impossible to get back into a canoe when you fall out. She laughed in his face and then described it because she had done it herself many times. I watched as he sat there on a barstool kicking his foot aggressively against the leg of the stool because he was so uncomfortable with being told he was wrong. When she was finally done demonstrating how he backpedaled and s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 03:10 AM |
| 21 | You are never safe when online dating EVEN IN PUBLIC. Please be careful. TRIGGER ALERT: Assault and rapeThese men should be put in jail. I’m sorry but if they feel comfortable and confident enough to rape a woman in a public space at the age of 16 and 17 it’s only a matter of time before they become murderers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 08:09 PM |
| 9 | I’m 23 today sisters and had to thank you all.I second this! 👌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 09:25 PM |
| 109 | OP gets gaslit for an appropriate response to a gendered slurGotta love how they’re policing her method of calling him out on his bullshit. I love it when I voice my opinion and then am told I am doing it wrong. Sure, let’s go ahead and divert the attention to her incompetencies instead of his. 🙄 Reminds me of the time I told a woman quite frankly that it was embarrassing her two 30 something sons still lived with her and the only comments that ever happened afterwards were jokes about how “drunk” I was. Sorry sweetie, my comments had nothing to do with b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 07:37 PM |
| 8 | Suspicious?Seems to me that a good person to ask onto his podcast would be one of the lovely women that RUN the FDS podcast. Don’t you think? 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 08:16 PM |
| 7 | Let's Talk About Woke Bros and NeggingAargh! It’s so frustrating! I love being able to have a spiritual conversation but if you can’t live in reality, then we can’t build a life together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 05:07 PM |
| 17 | Let's Talk About Woke Bros and NeggingThis absolutely is a thing. The downside is sometimes that wokness is actually a representation of a god complex. I dated a guy who wanted to be a guru or something and would wake up at all hours of the night to write up his insightful thinking. Go ahead and take a guess that what his living conditions are like. It always amazes me when people wanna lead other people‘s lives before they get their own lives together. It’s offensive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 03:18 PM |
| 8 | FDS Speaks: "[You] have yet to find a man you can fall in love with."🤣 Sephora Who? So good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 06:43 AM |
| 7 | What is the most low value reason a scrote has tried using to manipulate you?They always cry like a little bitch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 11:52 PM |
| 25 | FDS Speaks: "[You] have yet to find a man you can fall in love with."Imagine if we did this! I was on a date with a guy who had a giant pot mark in his nose. Like the pore was so enlarged I could barely stop looking at it. (He also didn’t seem very intelligent so it wasn’t his nose that turned me off the most.) Now would I be an asshole if I told him “hey did you know that there are pore filling creams you can get from Sephora that would cover that? You have to apply it every day just like women do with make up but at least it wouldn’t look so horrible.” No. I di… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 11:44 PM |
| 78 | The “empowerment” propaganda has to stop.Oh that’s awful. I wish there was more information about the aftermath of porn for young girls. Why isn’t there somebody on TikTok interviewing women about this. You could put a filter on their face so they wouldn’t be recognized. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 03:47 PM |
| 96 | The “empowerment” propaganda has to stop.See and that’s it, there are a few outlier woman that are mentally stable, non coerced, or well-rounded women and they dabble in sex work. But they don’t fully rely on it in the same way that 90% of the women do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 03:26 PM |
| 100 | The “empowerment” propaganda has to stop.I wish I had the ability to completely memorize and repeat posts like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 03:24 PM |
| 104 | What is the most low value reason a scrote has tried using to manipulate you?The last time a guy told me him and his ex went months without sex it was because his dick didn’t work anymore. Well no wonder! 🙄 Nobody wants to watch you repeatedly try to roll up your cookie dough dick and try to wedge it in. I wouldn’t be so harsh if this man had any other sexual skills at all. No interest in going down on me, not very good with his hands, terrible kisser, literally no skills at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 04:37 AM |
| 133 | Rejected by 300 "hot girls", NVM cries about having to settle for "average" girls to get laidnorepeatcustomers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 06:41 PM |
| 49 | Rejected by 300 "hot girls", NVM cries about having to settle for "average" girls to get laidMy body literally shuttered with disgust when he bragging about “banging” three women in three weeks. I don’t know if I ever want to touch a man again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 06:35 PM |
| 12 | When men in professional settings treat you like sh*t when you don't wear makeup. I'm sorry, was this supposed to be a date?!This reminds me of the philosophy professor that proudly stated that “sometimes when a woman says no, she isn’t really saying no” 🤨😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 10:27 PM |
| 3 | If you broke just say that. If you’re insecure just say that. If you’re inadequate just say that. Men get on my damn nerves. One minute relationships should be 50/50. The next minute if we are too independent and have our shit together then we’re unqualified. Pick a damn struggle.I am loving the guys laughing at him!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 09:24 PM |
| 2 | D.L Hughley on Kanye West stalking Kim KardashianThis explains how Pete Davidson does so well on dating. He’s such a goofball and so non-threatening that any woman who date somebody who is abusive would immediately fall for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 10:28 PM |
| 201 | Kind of mad I wasn't born 2-3 generations later so I can experience "enlightened" menOh my God! I literally had this thought the other day. I was saying “I wish I was born during Gen Z instead of now because all of my dating options end up being left over red pill guys.” It saddens me to know I’m wrong and that your generation is still suffering. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 01:37 AM |
| 11 | Strategy: How to get your ex to move out.Omg!!! Wow. Three years. I just… wow. 😳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 04:13 AM |
| 156 | My ex tried to follow me after I told him I was moving. Now he’s stuck in the cold mountains and I’m elsewhere 🎉Omg. That is absolutely hilarious. Seriously!!! Serves him right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 04:07 AM |
| 28 | Revenge body? Try a revenge LIFE!Thank you for this, I’ve been working on a big project and hit a huge roadblock today so I’ve been feeling pretty shitty tonight. Thanks for the pep talk. 💪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 04:02 AM |
| 12 | "But hon, in this city no one will want to wait 2+ months to have sex with you" -- female acquaintanceExactly! I also had a friend who introduced me to a buddy of hers when we went out for drinks. She knew I was looking for somebody. After we left she asked my thoughts and I said he seemed like he wasn’t looking for a relationship. She immediately laughed and said “oh yeah he is a huge player!” Well then what the fuck are you doing introducing me to him?!!!? That night he had grabbed my phone and put his number in as a contact and texted me. I blocked and deleted in the morning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 01:21 AM |
| 8 | Strategy: How to get your ex to move out.It’s pretty pathetic isn’t it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 01:18 AM |
| 14 | Strategy: How to get your ex to move out.Yeah… there’s no way a partner is ever moving in with me. Nope nope nope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 01:18 AM |
| 24 | Strategy: How to get your ex to move out.That’s exactly it! They’ll just keep putting it off. Bullshit excuses when they aren’t even trying. Well done! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 01:15 AM |
| 14 | Strategy: How to get your ex to move out.Damn you are stealth! 🙌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 01:13 AM |
| 21 | Strategy: How to get your ex to move out.Good on you for setting boundaries! You’re mom is lucky to have you. Thank you for the kind words, I’m new to lying so it was really uncomfortable for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 01:12 AM |
| 36 | If you could write your ex's Tinder profileGrumpy McGrumperson, Male, 25. Hi, I’m a grumpy old man even though I’m 5 years younger than you. I can make any situation miserable by pointing out and exaggerating how bad things are. I’ll dazzle you with my ability to make everything a problem. “This restaurant chair wobbles, the lighting is weird, this ice is too cold…” Not only that but I’ll also find everything wrong with you! “You cut your oranges wrong, you drink your smoothies too fast, you walk up the stairs incorrectly.” Professional … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 04:06 PM |
| 21 | Never EVER share financial information with a man. It starts with $20 now but can easily escalate to much more over the years. Come across the wrong one and they will absolutely destroy you financially.Honestly, I think his response to everything is a bigger flag than him taking the card in the first place. Any normal human would just apologize. She’s not the one making a big deal out of it he is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 03:00 AM |
| 64 | "But hon, in this city no one will want to wait 2+ months to have sex with you" -- female acquaintanceThis is so true about coworkers. I had one of my coworkers tell me I should have a “hoe phase”. After I scoffed at the idea she started to get really passive aggressive with me and bitchy at work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 01:50 AM |
| 3 | "But hon, in this city no one will want to wait 2+ months to have sex with you" -- female acquaintanceYou can still please a man without sex. Two months is nothing. Besides all the other activities you can do before actual penetration will give both people a perfectly fine understanding of sexual compatibility. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 01:48 AM |
| 22 | LVM Love To Spread the Myth That Women Should Settle Lower Than What We're Attracted To But Mistreat the Women Out of their League Who Give Them A Chance Regardless - SO don't settle and don't make this mistake!Awwww, 1st person to say that. Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 04:26 AM |
| 78 | Friends with Men?“Him using you to make his girlfriend jealous” I STILL CANNOT believe how much one guy friend did that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 03:27 AM |
| 81 | Friends with Men?I can relate to this a lot. No matter how you play things out… men eventually get pissed off that you don’t want to date them. If they have any trouble in the dating world they will hate witnessing you date other guys and they’ll get butt hurt and moody. It’s truly sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 03:24 AM |
| 84 | LVM Love To Spread the Myth That Women Should Settle Lower Than What We're Attracted To But Mistreat the Women Out of their League Who Give Them A Chance Regardless - SO don't settle and don't make this mistake!I’d be married right now and probably would have a great life with him if I had been attracted to him... I choose to say no because it wouldn’t have been fair for him not to have someone that truly desired him. I was terrified I would end up cheating because of our abysmal sex life, so I side-stepped out of that potentially terrible timeline. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 03:11 AM |
| 8 | Friendly reminder that your career will never betray you like thisOne of my ex’s told me that he regretted marrying his wife the day after they got married. They didn’t divorce for nearly 15 years. Can you imagine being with somebody for 15 years and they don’t even want to be with you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 02:29 AM |
| 23 | What types of OLD websites or apps do you prefer?That’s such a great vetting strategy! Slow and steady or not at all. I might actually start telling people that I’m going to be out of town for a couple of weeks just to see how they respond. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 04:48 PM |
| 72 | What types of OLD websites or apps do you prefer?The Moment! I literally did a video chat with a guy as a first meeting and I told him I was going to Mexico in two weeks with an undetermined timeframe of returning. (Over a month) He had been soooooo interested in me and very very excited to “get to know me” but you could literally see the light dim from his eyes and then about five minutes later he said he had to go. He had even said he was looking for a life partner. Ha! Me going away for a month is too long and you’re not willing to even rem… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 04:12 PM |
| 71 | 21yo woman and her 30yo 🚩 homeless boyfriend 🚩 has moved in to her home 🚩within 2 months 🚩Yeah him saying that he’s only living with his dad temporarily because of a divorce sounds like bullshit to me. Wouldn’t he have more furniture if he had lived in his own for a while? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 11:57 PM |
| 128 | Dump him firstThe most interesting part of this is that he literally said he didn’t like her that much. And then is somehow shocked that she doesn’t want to be with him? Do they really think we can’t sense it sometimes; that they’re not actually that into us? Women’s intuition will forever be a mystery to men. Our decision to leave them is confusing because us knowing something instinctually doesn’t feel right, without any concrete logic behind it will forever leave them blindsided. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 03:19 AM |
| 4 | This poor girl needs saving. Porn sick, limp dick... and abusive.I’m genuinely shocked someone could write all of that out and still be confused as to what the solution should be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 04:26 AM |
| 11 | Scrote refuses to marry forever gf because of “dead bedroom” and has been stringing her along for 3 years. Can you count the red flags in this post?THIS!!! You said it do well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 04:24 AM |
| 7 | How'd You Find FDS?I had another account and had joined Reddit to read some of the Manosphere forums out of curiosity. I had dated a red piller so was looking for more information. They were bitching about FDS so I joined and was immediately banned from the group. Naturally I was so curious I then made another account as a “female” and was completely converted to the much better and much more logical team. I was shocked how much I had in common with you ladies… I’ve never read so many sentences that I myself had p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 02:55 AM |
| 11 | He wants to move in togetherI’d bet money that those “certain older people” are giving you advice based on their own intentions for you… not based on what’s actually best for you. If you tell him you don’t want to move in together and he breaks up with you, it was never really meant to be anyway. If a man truly wants to be with you, he’ll wait. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 03:07 PM |
| 11 | Learning the full story of how my aunt was burnt from head to toe.I’ll bet any money he said you were being dramatic or that it wasn’t a big deal. Good riddance. It reminds me of the TikTok video of the woman who sees a tornado and literally 70 people on the block area died while her husband is like “oh don’t worry about it honey.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 02:47 PM |
| 9 | Learning the full story of how my aunt was burnt from head to toe.THEY ALWAYS USE IT AS AN EXCUSE!!! I’ve had a guy friend of mine for years and he has ADHD and all he does is bitch and complain about it and use it as an excuse. He’s medicated and has been since he was a kid but I have literally never heard him talk about reading up on coping mechanisms for ADHD or having any tips or tricks or techniques that he uses. The only thing he has is some AirTags on his things now. Turns out I have ADHD too! So now in my late 30s I’m finally medicated and what a diffe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 02:42 PM |
| 10 | Learning the full story of how my aunt was burnt from head to toe.Whoa! What happened? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 04:06 AM |
| 6 | How do you remove a guy from your life when you see him everyday?Every time he interacts with you talk about the dates and other guys you’ve been seeing. He won’t wanna talk to you anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 08:01 PM |
| 84 | Learning the full story of how my aunt was burnt from head to toe.That’s the story that came to mind as I listened to the entire thing!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 07:59 PM |
| 45 | Don't trust your male friends.Holy shit! Everything makes so much sense now. My ex-friend wasn’t just a shitty distracted friend… he didn’t care and was sulking when he left me multiple times at bars or clubs when I would talk to guys. Jesus, what a child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 06:40 PM |
| 2 | Scrote wants to "adopt" a 20 year old "adult daughter"....a homeless pregnant woman from Austria who lost her father at a young agrDear God this is a train wreck. At one point during my worst pickme phase my boyfriend wanted to have a threesome so I chatted with a friend who has an open marriage. She explained how it worked and that it worked for them. The entire time her eyes were so glossy she was clearly trying to hold back tears. At that very moment while she had raised their two oldest kids and was watching their youngest child he was at some young 20 somethings house fixing her van and snorting blow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 06:14 PM |
| 3 | How to deflect dating questions from friends/family/coworkersI did this too but with my family. Literally skipped Christmas, sent a disclaimer of don’t ask, these are my answers, and enjoyed NYE with my family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 05:50 PM |
| 4 | Dating Apps Are Not Only Mentally Dangerous . . .It happens!!! Then the move a block away from you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 05:07 PM |
| 6 | It wouldn't have anything to do with that hateful, repulsive personality. Nah, must be the cheekbones. B*tches so picky 🙄Your last comment about non-moisturize guys reminded me of a date I went on… The guy’s nose was flaking off the entire time and all I could think was that I would never as a woman I have permission to not have my shit together enough to realize I should moisturize my face before going on a date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 05:02 PM |
| 3 | It wouldn't have anything to do with that hateful, repulsive personality. Nah, must be the cheekbones. B*tches so picky 🙄Has he tried smiling? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 04:54 PM |
| 7 | Signs that your female "friend" might intend to traffic youJesus. It’s all so sad. You’ve got me realizing one of my guy friend has definitely been triangulating his girlfriends against me. Using our friendship to make them jealous. Several have over time stopped liking me… and two of which were friends with me first. 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 04:59 AM |
| 32 | Signs that your female "friend" might intend to traffic youWow. Damn that is a crazy story… It’s insane to me how much effort they can put into these types of things. I have an ex that years later I found out from his best friend that he literally moved a block away from me on purpose. I had been declining him for nearly two years prior to that. It’s crazy how much strategy men have to put into dating. Like what the fuck is wrong with them that they need so many tools and techniques to trick us into being with them? Like wouldn’t it take less work to ju… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 04:39 PM |
| 3 | I've had to tell myself this after cutting a few toxic people out of my life, especially with long-term friends who have felt the need to pat me on the back and tell me that I've "come so far" every single time we speak. It comes off very patronizing and forced. DAE understand what I mean?💗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 11:56 PM |
| 16 | I've had to tell myself this after cutting a few toxic people out of my life, especially with long-term friends who have felt the need to pat me on the back and tell me that I've "come so far" every single time we speak. It comes off very patronizing and forced. DAE understand what I mean?Right on! You don’t need the extra dead weight of a pickme keeping you down. I had one woman I had met that I started a friendship wet with but as she got to know me the same thing happened. She was resentful. She made comments about how my dates took me for dinner and she was clearly pissed off that I was being treated well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 05:32 PM |
| 61 | "The Tinder Swindler" on Netflix is a parade of red flags 🚩🚩🚩I watched it last night and also had a bit of a struggle in the beginning. The third woman who had been dating him the longest made my heart happy, I’m glad she got some pay back. It pisses me off though how in the end it doesn’t sound like got enough time for the damage he did. 🤬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 12:58 AM |
| 2 | Why do men think their sudden, unplanned, SpOnTaNeOuS trips are a positive?Brutal!!!! I read ‘The Game’ when it came out so I knew the signs for most assholes but somehow a red piller slipped past me using fake vulnerability to reel me in. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 08:51 PM |
| 3 | Why do men think their sudden, unplanned, SpOnTaNeOuS trips are a positive?Oh yes. I’ve had 7 relationships. I’d probably categorize them as 4 boyfriends (weren’t gonna go anywhere but nice irregardless), 2 genuine partners, and one red pill asshole. The red pill one taught me a lot. I’d never hated an ex before. It’s a great lesson though because now even if I wake up single and alone it’s still WAY better than being with that guy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 12:40 AM |
| 11 | Podcast humour“Cause your Alpha years are slippin’!!!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 08:18 PM |
| 14 | Pinnacle of being a privileged liberal feminist 🙄I watched most of it but did skim through near the end. Honestly they seem to be agreeing with many parts of what they were reading. Especially the woman in the left. I’m shocked they didn’t look for posts that were more “man-hating” and would put us in a bad light. Hopefully it’s a start. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 05:07 PM |
| 3 | Beware of men who repeatedly turn conversations sexualPreach it!! Tell this to my ex-friend who was going on and on about several sexual encounters with online dates she’d had. Including describing a man requesting her to stick a finger in his ass, and then another one, and then another one, until her whole hand was in there. It’s also noteworthy that it was about 7 PM in a restaurant and there was a family that clearly had just done a round of golf with their tween children sitting at the table next to us. shutter | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 04:03 PM |
| 27 | This guy telling women we don’t know how beautiful we are and then blesses us with shirtless “clarity”. The bar is in HELL. 🙄Yeah… I don’t see how this post is helpful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 03:44 AM |
| 1 | Why do men think their sudden, unplanned, SpOnTaNeOuS trips are a positive?Dear God. Why!?!? 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 08:54 PM |
| 8 | Why do men think their sudden, unplanned, SpOnTaNeOuS trips are a positive?I broke up with him. At the time I wanted kids and he clearly didn’t. He’d lie to me that he did but regularly make jokes about how shitty kids are. When I shared why we broke up, his best friend said “Yeah, he DOES NOT want kids!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Why do men think their sudden, unplanned, SpOnTaNeOuS trips are a positive?Wooooooooooowwwwww. 😳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 08:49 PM |
| 7 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.Meh. At the time I was a “cool girl” so I just laughed it off and then teased the crap out of him for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 08:47 PM |
| 8 | Facial expressions- can't control them. Help.This is helpful! Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 08:42 PM |
| 5 | Facial expressions- can't control them. Help.Oh my God I suffered from this problem as well!!! My face is so expressive you can read me like a book. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 08:41 PM |
| 264 | Why do men think their sudden, unplanned, SpOnTaNeOuS trips are a positive?I one dated a guy who when we went on a trip together he had arranged so many things. The flights, hotel, activities, tons. He made sure I had my boarding pass downloaded to my phone and picked me up from my place. We basically valeted his car and immediately hopped on the provided bus to the airport. Then after checking in we went straight up to the lounge because his credit card gives access to the lounges which have free food and alcoholic beverages. It took every ounce of me not to drag him … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 05:47 AM |
| 71 | Why do men think their sudden, unplanned, SpOnTaNeOuS trips are a positive?The last guy that hit on me in public started by telling me a story about the time he injured himself snowboarding. Apparently he waited a week to go to the hospital. “Like OMG!!! You are SUCH a badass!” swoooon I guess the doctor told him he had additional permanent damage because of the delay in getting treatment. Nice my guy, nice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 05:42 AM |
| 39 | When you realised that in hetero relashionships mistreatment and disrespecting the woman was the 'norm'?What I also find interesting is anytime I can think of a scenario where a guy is rightfully treating his woman well, there are two sceneries. If she’s presented as just a regular woman he gets mocked and made fun of for being pussy whipped but if she is a total dime, some sexy bitchy bombshell babe, then his buddies respect it. Like oh, treating a women well is justified but only if she’s hot enough. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 03:44 PM |
| 90 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.A couple of friends of mine and I dropped in on a male friends house one night. His mom said to head downstairs he was in his room. He was in the bathroom so when we walked into his room there was a blown up photo of me on his desktop computer. Full screen. When he came in all the other guys with me burst out laughing and he turned bright red. It was pretty damn obvious. And they all wondered why I didn’t sleep with anyone in the group. I knew too much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 03:28 PM |
| 30 | On "Roasting"Next time some guy negs you, say… “Aw damn! You remind me so much of my brother. He always used to pick on me like that. I guess we can’t date now, sorry I can’t unsee it.” 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 04:33 AM |
| 5 | Pays 40K for his gambling addiction or his incompetence (dunno which is worse)Great advice! It’s so true, you actually don’t “lose” any money until you choose to sell at a loss. If you can hold and the company isn’t bankrupting entirely, it’s best to wait it out. (Again why you should never play with money that you need.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 03:44 AM |
| 34 | Not accepting text conversations is THE BEST!I once had an entire evening of a text conversation with a guy only to have him admit that his roommate was texting for him the entire time because he gets “nervous” with girls. Wtf? This isn’t a teenage rom-com buddy, this is my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 03:39 AM |
| 18 | Men’s “goofiness” and “clumsiness” is usually just laziness and lack of considerationSometimes I honestly feel like we are being Punk’d. Like they can’t all really be this stupid can they? I lent a guy friend some things for a project. I knew what day he’d be working on it. I assumed he’d text afterwards to arrange dropping everything off. Nope. I opened my door the next morning and everything was just left on my front porch all night because he dropped it off when he was done using it. No arranging or even texting me to let me know. Like WTF? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 08:19 PM |
| 7 | Warning ⚠️ Some red-pill guys have started adopting FDS lingoDear God. I landed on a live TikTok where a woman dating coach was sharing tips about moving across the country for a man. Omg nooooo!!! 😳🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 06:30 PM |
| 141 | The things I had to freaking hear.Hearing women cackle is my favourite sound in the world. 😈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 07:24 PM |
| 51 | Foolproof vetting strategy : tell him "a man did something to you"It really is!!! I had no idea just how many reactions there is to being told something that or genuinely not helpful and don’t even acknowledge the experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 02:57 AM |
| 12 | Have any of you ever known a man who initiated a split with his partner WITHOUT getting into a new relationship right away?Yikes! I accidentally was the other woman. A male high school friend was visiting the city for work. I didn’t realize he had had such a crush on me in high school. He ended up visiting more and more often then started talking about moving here. He was going to move here but then the pandemic hit. One night while hanging out with mutual friends I mentioned spending time with him in 2019, one of the guys then scoffs/laughs and says “he was engaged, no wonder.” I had no idea he was engaged, he had … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 06:12 AM |
| 2 | FDS Unite: Young girls need us!I love this! I would love to do this, not only giving out some kind of card to young girls but maybe even something to young boys telling him not to fall victim to porn addiction… not sure if that could be considered child abuse, I assume that any male boy over the age of 13 has heard of porn at this point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 03:34 AM |
| 2 | Addition Facebook Profiles will be a Safe Haven for CheatersI literally called out a guy who had that written on his profile. “Age is wrong, don’t know how to change it.” His job title was computer programmer. I’m sorry buddy but you can’t be that smart and then play stupid at the same time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 03:23 AM |
| 25 | Dunning-Kruger.I feel like this topic should be a whole post.I myself have been a “squirter” since I was about 18 but it doesn’t happen during sex and only with a few partners. I had one partner who was consistently able to do it but looking back on it I’m questioning how enjoyable it really was. He had to be pretty aggressive and it certainly felt like a “release of tension” in the body but I wouldn’t necessarily call it an orgasm. Like it’s VERY different that clitorial stimulation, which I prefer over the t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 07:06 PM |
| 2 | FDS Unite: Young girls need us!This one is SO TRUE! It’s depressing how many girls get bullied in school after trusting some teenage scrote with their image. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 01:52 AM |
| 2 | FDS Unite: Young girls need us!Agreed!!! How do we prevent this? I know confidence helps girls care less of what others think of them. Can you think of anything else? Strong female friendships? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 01:51 AM |
| 114 | Two of the biggest lies patriarchy tells us: “men age like fine wine” & “age gap relationships are totally natural”Jesus he’s not even trying. He has all the money in the world and he can’t even pay for a personal trainer? Come on Leo, stop embarrassing yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 04:06 PM |
| 26 | FDS Unite: Young girls need us!Erg. Yes. So much yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 07:04 PM |
| 27 | FDS Unite: Young girls need us!So helpful! Yes this is such a good topic. At the end of the day having no sex is still better than having bad sex. Staying a virgin until you find a quality sex partner should be the expectation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 07:03 PM |
| 3 | Thanksgiving blues..Arg. Reading your post is like reading my journal from 8 years ago. Several years ago I finally had had enough and literally didn’t go home for Christmas. Instead on the 23rd, I sent a long winded message to my entire family to express that I would not be coming home the holidays. I would only visit for New Year’s and expressed it would happen only under the following conditions. I’m single, don’t ask why. Do not ask when or if I’ll be having children. Absolutely ZERO comments about my fertility… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 07:21 PM |
| 8 | Information to withhold initiallyI respect her thinking in this, it’s not a good idea to share your financial means with everyone. I have recently decided to tell acquaintances and casual friends that I have a roommate. The fact that I can afford the size of my place on my own has been questioned by others many times. It’s become clear to me that their own financial failings has become a point of annoyance towards me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 01:21 AM |
| 19 | “The sex lives of college girls” a new disgusting HBO specialI just watched the trailer, I find it utterly comical that one of the taglines is “no regrets.“ Right, so you’re telling me that girls in college are going to have promiscuous sex with no regrets? Highly unlikely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 01:17 AM |
| 4 | A warning against having children with NVM. Can’t even join a pregnancy sub without seeing this shit. Oh but it’s okay because she can work on her “insecurities” and of course ComMunICaTe! 🙄Oh my god this is such a good fucking point! I feel like your comment could be an entire post. How much of postpartum depression is actually chemical and because of the pregnancy vs. how much of it is enduring society’s pressure and expectations of being a mother with very little help from those around you. The emotional turmoil a woman goes through when dealing with a pregnancy with a LVM would absolutely send her into a world wind spiral of depression. We’ve all seen it with couples where wome… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 07:25 PM |
| 11 | New to me LVM tacticI did this! ☝️ I made a post about it awhile back. I literally sat down, texted him that I had arrived and he immediately unmatched me. It was fucking hilarious! Can you imagine being on your couch at home and being such a grumpy, grumpy pants that you decided to bail on a date with somebody, not tell them and then unmatched them. I think he was upset because I admitted that I had had a date earlier that week. Dude. It’s online dating… WTF. So sad really… not for me but for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 07:15 PM |
| 20 | New to me LVM tacticThis happened to me! We set a time and location and when I arrived he wasn’t there. I waited a while and when I finally got a response he said he had just got home from work. Thinking he was going to rush over feeling terrible I was surprised when he replied saying that he needed to shower and then take his dogs for a walk. I could come over to his place after that. 🤮 WTF? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 07:11 PM |
| 18 | A refusal to engage: How I came to terms with the reality of pornFunny how it’s thought that women who disagree with porn have insecurities when in fact, if you are in a position to decline men and become intentionally celibate based on the merit of your morals, you are in fact not lacking in insecurity but overwhelmingly and abundantly secure in your identity and your adherence to that identity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 06:56 PM |
| 49 | Exposure to pornography in childhood can lead to the worst of porn addiction. I don’t think this is happening on accident, either.Not only is the causing of ED an issue, there’s a high probability that men watching all these porn videos want to be able to “perform” like the actor. Porn stars used to be picked specifically because they were able and capable of having raging hard on‘s and then coming on command. The average man can’t do that. Viagra is a way for them to act out the sex that they perceive to be the best sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 03:15 AM |
| 6 | Guy got fired because he refused to get vaccinated.I was chatting with a friend the other day, telling her about a guy that likes me. I expressed a number of red flags and she kind of shrugged her shoulders. He doesn’t sound that bad. When I said he wasn’t vaccinated she lost it! That was the thing that she just couldn’t except. It just says so much about a person. In someways I kind of wish they weren’t forcing people to get vaccinated so that as time goes on you could indefinitely use this as a vetting question. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 11:57 PM |
| 36 | This is what we've been told sex is - and it's pretty dehumanizing🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 11:55 PM |
| 163 | I will let you guys tear into this one 🤣 keep in mind that the screenshots are NOT from a dating app so that makes it even worse. This app is solely for writing letters to people in different countries and making friendsThat did stick out! WTF? So he doesn’t want somebody who is vapid but he DOES want to use her as eye candy & social leverage? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 11:41 AM |
| 101 | I will let you guys tear into this one 🤣 keep in mind that the screenshots are NOT from a dating app so that makes it even worse. This app is solely for writing letters to people in different countries and making friendsOoooo! Good notice! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 11:39 AM |
| 31 | Be careful around maintenance men if you live alone. If possible, have a male relative with you when you need something installed/repaired. I’ve heard some ladies say to have used men’s shoes just in case they try something u could say ur husband will be back soon. Imagine if she was alone with him😳This just unlocked old memories. Wow… the suppression is strong. 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 12:00 AM |
| 36 | Do not accept negging at all. It's always made to make you feel insecure so that you emotionally depend on them for validation.It’s just so mind boggling. Even if a guy doesn’t know what negging is why would anyone want to be friends with someone like this. I don’t understand how men can be pissed off that women aren’t acting like “ladies” anymore when they turn around and treat us like their guy friends… poking fun of us, trying to trip us, pranking us, etc. I literally broke up with a boyfriend because he treated me like my brother did. Sorry but I don’t want to have a sibling rivalry style relationship. 🤮 I shouldn’t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 07:21 PM |
| 13 | Did your dad/brother/male figures understand when you were being harassed as a teen?When I was in grade seven my brother asked my if I spit or swallow… I didn’t understand the question so asked my dad about it later. My brother got in shit. 😆😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 05:38 PM |
| 23 | “The idea that a woman can live a happy fulfilling life without a man is nonsense.” Did I hear him correctly? Did these words really just come out of his mouth? Ladies, make sure your life is successful, happy, and fulfilled without a man, or risk ending up with one like this.Ahhhh… another man thinking pussy will solve all his problems. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 10:35 PM |
| 81 | Hookup culture is a scamThe last sexual encounter I had was with a long time acquaintance… my goal was to check him out sexually to see if I’d consider him for dating. It went like this. Lovely evening with wine. We make out, go to the bedroom, he fumbles around trying to please me with his hand. He gets frustrated, I go down on him only to be told to grip harder (porn sick limp dick). Him: Want to have sex? Me: No Him: So I can’t penetrate you? Me: No Him, disappointed flips me over and proceeds to jerk off onto my ba… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 03:00 PM |
| 55 | It doesn’t serve me to tell people that I’m happy not having had children.Woooooow. Thank you for sharing. Women never get to hear stories like this. I was thinking about this the other day I have a friend who has gotten into a dangerous community of people. His parents worked so hard to try to raise him right but it didn’t matter in the end. It just goes to show that you really have no control over what your child will ultimately be like. There are so many outside influences these days (internet, gaming, drugs, subcultures, etc.) that there are no guarantees. This is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 07:35 PM |
| 40 | It doesn’t serve me to tell people that I’m happy not having had children.Oooo, free mother’s, I like that. My mother would hate me if she heard me call myself “free” of children. 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 07:23 PM |
| 51 | It doesn’t serve me to tell people that I’m happy not having had children.It really is a societal issue. Hopefully this independent generation of women will change how future generations are treated in regards to choosing not to be a mother. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 07:22 PM |
| 73 | It doesn’t serve me to tell people that I’m happy not having had children.OMG! Queen. Fuck that’s funny. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 07:21 PM |
| 3 | You should have a “hoe phase!”Yeah, it’s really her encouraging it that shocked me… especially since so knew the truth and that she didn’t truly enjoy it. I’ll assume it’s her own way of coping with having done something she clearly regrets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 08:58 PM |
| 5 | "I just don't want to hurt you"Love this!?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 05:20 AM |
| 94 | You should have a “hoe phase!”This is so true!! It's not sex I miss the most it's the experience of sensuality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 07:57 PM |
| 38 | "I just don't want to hurt you"Kind of reminds me of a shitty boss I used to have. “I don’t want to overwork you” followed by a whole bunch of extra bullshit things that he wanted me to do for him. I swear if that ever happens again in an email I’m going to copy and paste that sentence and then reply with “then don’t.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 04:43 PM |
| 6 | This is what you get if you act „low maintance”. You are worth less than a good PC setupWow! Are you fucking kidding me? He’s where he is in life because of her. He can’t even return the favour in a way that she wants? What an ass hat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 02:07 PM |
| 75 | Men literally believe murder is a justified response to a woman leaving. Also men still think a woman who was literally murdered by her partner was just “pulling the abuse card”I hate to the news reporter used the word “allegedly”. He was convicted of the crime. Why use Hedge words… HE’S A MURDERER!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 12:38 AM |
| 52 | What would you consider going above and beyond?THIS! my emotionally abusive ex once hand made me a piece of jewelry. The guy is the only ex I’ve ever hated. He was awful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 06:20 PM |
| 36 | The Real Reason Men Always Pursue the Women Who Want Relationships as “Hookups” - Summarized Perfectly in this TikTok *chef’s kiss*I would love to see this hook up checklist! I’ve been celibate for multiple large chunks of my life and now that I’ve decided I won’t be having kids my checklist for a partner has changed and I’m less concerned about long term. I’m thinking of just taking lovers for the rest of my life. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 01:27 PM |
| 118 | Make sure you are his first option. Men can fake and pretend you’re his #1 because they’re lonely, when in fact you aren’t the one they want.I literally finished a first date with a guy where he complemented me for “not being like other women my age.” When I asked him to elaborate he used the word bitter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 12:48 AM |
| 50 | Make sure you are his first option. Men can fake and pretend you’re his #1 because they’re lonely, when in fact you aren’t the one they want.I read a paragraph like that and wish we could infiltrate the Mano PhD research to share this type of information. Can we hire an “alpha” male actor to speak for us, maybe guys would finally learn some real self-awareness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 12:46 AM |
| 99 | Make sure you are his first option. Men can fake and pretend you’re his #1 because they’re lonely, when in fact you aren’t the one they want.She’s called “the one that got away” because by the end it was so bad that she was literally struggling to get away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 12:44 AM |
| 6 | Porn addict behaviour is looking a lot like alcohol addictionI feel you on this! Years ago I scoffed at the word Patriarchy. Now I see it everywhere and funnily enough I remember exchanges with older women clearly trying to show me the light. In my 20’s I saw glimpses of it but never made a full connection. As if all the experiences were separate somehow. Now the full picture has revealed itself and it hit me like a truck, I was disoriented for months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 02:23 PM |
| 5 | Be careful out there ladies - they're finding new ways to target usThanks for these replies. I’ve been researching sober curious and can feel myself shifting towards sobriety. Maybe not 100% but even just a handful of times a year would be better. (Currently drinking at home alone or wine with girlfriends, stopped drunk dates 4 or 5 years ago… was the best idea.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 02:15 PM |
| 37 | Porn addict behaviour is looking a lot like alcohol addictionOh my God thank you! I was having a discussion that turned into an argument with a friend when said anybody (myself included) who has watched any amount of porn has witnessed a woman being raped. She wouldn’t/couldn’t agree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 02:20 PM |
| 172 | Be careful out there ladies - they're finding new ways to target usI have literally been thinking about this for weeks. If somebody marketed a necklace camera I would absolutely wear that shit. Also if I could find a comfortable pair of chastity underpants I would where them out any time I wanted to drink. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 02:15 PM |
| 88 | PSA: For the love of God, STOP faking your orgasms ladies!Great sentence! That’s the way to do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 02:05 PM |
| 78 | PSA: For the love of God, STOP faking your orgasms ladies!Well I guess we can add that to our list of vetting strategies because if you feel like he would turn violent if you didn’t feed his ego… that’s a serious red flag and he’s not worth keeping anyway. 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 02:05 PM |
| 110 | Message for side plate pick me’s. You’ll never win by disrespecting yourself & other women.A part of your story stuck out for me. You made a hard decision and it was the right one. Don’t ever let anyone ever make you feel otherwise. 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 02:02 PM |
| 30 | Buzzfeed pushing dangerous LV shitYou can still get HPV even with a condom, it’s skin to skin contact. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 01:58 PM |
| 2 | The high cost of pick me and LV friendsKinda reminds me of a 35 year old ex guy friend who literally said he preferred dating women in their 20’s because “women in their 30’s expect me to have my life together.” Pfffttt… hOw DaRe tHEy!?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 04:26 AM |
| 2 | The high cost of pick me and LV friendsOmg! The chuckle you just gave me. 🤣 That was gold. Thank you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 04:23 AM |
| 22 | The high cost of pick me and LV friendsI had a woman I was considering a friendship with tell me “you’re not as open as my other friends, they are all really chill.” (This was after discussing sexual ‘adventures’.) I’m sure that she meant it to be somewhat of an insult but honestly I felt REALLY proud of myself in that moment. As a previous people pleaser it felt good to hold my ground and voice my opinions. 💪 I don’t want to be open, I want to be closed until you proof worthy to let in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 02:52 AM |
| 66 | PSA: Anyone claiming FDS supports a “TradWife” lifestyle or never criticizes conservatives is willfully ignorant and a liar. The Tradcon logic flair has been there from the beginning and it’s been cleI’d say the only way FDS is related to Red Pill is the fact that tons of members in this forum have suffered at the hands of Red Pill tactics within dating culture for years. FDS is a collective and necessary response to Red Pill rhetoric. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 01:33 PM |
| 6 | UpdateWow. This is a great resource. I don’t remember seeing it in the handbook. 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 11:05 PM |
| 132 | I'm done with men shorter than meThere’s a guy at work that bitches about how he can’t find a girlfriend because he’s so short. He really doesn’t have the self-awareness to realize it’s not his height that’s the problem it’s a shitty personality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 01:44 PM |
| 29 | A very subtle sign of a manipulative, gaslighting LVBF.Oh my god yes! It got to a point that I really preferred telling him stories about my life when other people were around because of this. If it was just him and I he would scoff and not even let me finish the story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 01:40 PM |
| 39 | A very subtle sign of a manipulative, gaslighting LVBF.Yes! This has happened so much. I had a boyfriend that repeatedly would make fun of any interests or hobbies I would have and not only would he listen to me in public but he would also seem to be attentive and listening to anybody else who was interested in a topic. He could go on and on with some other dude or a woman about gardening and then literally make fun of me for having a garden. WTF. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 01:33 PM |
| 131 | Your intuition as a woman is more powerful than you realiseOh my god this is so true! I am regularly scaring the guys at work when I am walking around the office but never any of the women. Not one of them has ever said I snuck up on them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 01:29 PM |
| 73 | FDS Works. It's best just to ghost men with no explanation when they do something shitty particularly in the early stages of dating. See link for why.Like the male friend of mine that made me feel so bad for him that is ex yelled “I hate you!” at him. He painted it like it was the worst he’s ever felt from someone that he “loved.” Looking back on it the guy is definitely a porn addict, has a God complex, would constantly flirt with other women in front of her, leaves things all over the house, and whenever he would cook he would make a huge deal about it… I could go on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 06:59 AM |
| 6 | Conservative men can be so misogynistic that I can no longer tell the difference between reality and satire.This isn’t Starbucks buddy. The ABOUT section is supposed to be about HIM… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 12:21 AM |
| 27 | After all these years he realizes at 57. So all those men realize this when they get old snd deserves appreciation for it? Instead they should have realized at their youth and keep his partner comfortable and loved?! Such a wasteI love a good call back joke. Well done! 👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 02:11 PM |
| 3 | When dating, do you have certain professions that you avoid?Thanks for saying that… I felt bad writing it but really don’t think I’m wrong. 😬🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 01:32 PM |
| 43 | When dating, do you have certain professions that you avoid?I’d put Engineers on there too. Often times they’re too smart for their own good and it’s rare to find an engineer who has empathy or normal social skills. There’s high probability that they might have asbergers and although it’s very different than narcissism the result of dating one is similar. Prepare to have your self-esteem crushed, you’re never good/smart enough, they’ll belittle you, and are incapable of understanding your pain. Pro Tip: When you start dating an engineer and you find an e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 01:42 PM |
| 33 | Men who lament they “never fought” with exesThis! ☝️ Such a good analysis. 👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 06:40 AM |
| 69 | What’s something that you thought you had to do but realized it’s misogyny and actually doesn’t benefit you?Oof. I have had three sexual partners that were very much TOO BIG for me. Two were great boyfriends that I ultimately had to break up with. The saddest part, the most recent time I found a product called “the oh nut”. It’s a silicon bumper piece a man can wear so he can’t insert all the way. It worked great! Except it drove me nuts that I ALWAYS had to tell him to put it on. Not once did he do it without me asking. So basically my pain and discomfort didn’t matter to him… 😕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 02:05 PM |
| 65 | The most painful part of heartbreak is realizing that he’s never truly loved you. He might’ve even hated you. How to cope with it?If he hated you, he probably hates everyone… including himself. I definitely find solace in knowing that my ex will continue to go through life being grumpy and butt hurt about everything around him without any amount of actual self-awareness. He will never be happy. But you can be. 😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 05:14 AM |
| 50 | I'm sppeechlessAll I hear when she shares that is that this man have a very good lawyer to cover his ass. 😈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 10:55 PM |
| 10 | I don’t want my life to revolve around my relationship. How can I find friends who believe in FDS when I work from home?Group outings! That is great advice. Fun fact, if when you say no to a shot she calls you a bitch and starts making fun of you pressuring you to take it, she’s not a keeper. 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 02:00 PM |
| 21 | Scrote defends abuse scrote who physically assaulted his bride with a 5+ layer wedding cake, claims "it wouldn't be traumatic"Whee is the video? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 07:45 PM |
| 50 | Tell him you don't like to drink (even if you do)Speaks volumes to their motives doesn’t it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 10:44 PM |
| 31 | Another series of men projecting Ep. 124842: Women using men for free foodWhen I guy says women use men for meals… “Ah…. You know we’re allowed jobs now right?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 06:57 PM |
| 13 | “Coersion isn’t Consent”Absolutely!!!! I had two exes that were accused of rape. I thought it was so unlikely because they were decent men to me but now that I’m older I understand it so much better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 06:55 PM |
| 21 | “Coersion isn’t Consent”“Let me buy you a shot.” Shots are the worst. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 02:21 PM |
| 15 | “Coersion isn’t Consent”I’m sorry that happened to you. That was my experience as well… it’s a shock to your system. When I look back at some of the situations I’ve been in and realize just how malicious they were. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 02:20 PM |
| 21 | “Coersion isn’t Consent”Awww thanks! I’m embarrassed at how many examples came from my own personal experience. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 02:14 PM |
| 46 | “Coersion isn’t Consent”I once literally got up to get a condom because he said he didn’t have any. I knew he wouldn’t stop forcing himself on me and would just have sex with me without one. I had to at least protect myself. Did I want to start a fight and potentially turn this man violent? No. Not worth it. I just laid there for a few minutes until he was done… He called me TWO WEEKS LATER and was shocked when I didn’t want to see him again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 02:11 PM |
| 31 | How do you not desire love when you have independently accomplished everything else you have wanted in life?Oh this question is really great. I have done so much with my life. Things that would shock my younger self. I have accomplished all of my dreams and aspirations, I’ve travelled the world multiple times, I’ve had great success in my career, and I’ve had incredible notoriety. I paid off my first mortgage and I’m almost done paying off my second mortgage. I’m financially stable and have everything I could possibly need. Honestly, I’m to the point I’ll either start focussing on retirement, or poten… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 02:18 AM |
| 42 | I know it's usually frowned upon, but I want to try vetting/dating/finding HV people (friends and potential romantic partners) using apps and OLD. Any advice for creating an FDS approved profile? How do I portray that I'm HV and attract healthy individuals?The last time I did an online dating run I kept a database of each person I communicated with and noted why I unmatched them. I’m not running the risk of ending up on a date with somebody that I’ve already clearly vetted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 11:02 PM |
| 8 | Such Entitlement!Sometimes I wish I could turn on a super low baritone voice so that when a guy hits on me I can reply and he’ll back off thinking I’m a dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 10:30 PM |
| 186 | Y’all, he put a stuffed animal on me.I thought the same thing!! Instantly waiting to read that it had a camera in it. 🤣 FDS is keeping me on my toes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 10:28 PM |
| 60 | Hotels in Turkey are banning men from staying without women because "they're harassing girls to try and hook up with"God is mad that woman can make people too. He’s jealous he’s not the only one anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 10:27 PM |
| 63 | Hotels in Turkey are banning men from staying without women because "they're harassing girls to try and hook up with"Arg… as a women who has masculine/Tomboy vibes I’ve been hit on by so many couples it’s astounding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 10:25 PM |
| 39 | I love it when the trash takes itself outIs there any correlation between baldness and porn use? My ex had a recessing hairline by 22. 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 08:56 AM |
| 10 | He asked to borrow moneyWoooooow! That’s really pretty shameless of him. What kind of person does that? I once had a date where we were talking web design and he asked me to design him an entire website with ongoing and ever-changing items for sale. He offered to pay for dinner. Yeah buddy, because a $20 meal is definitely worth a $5000 website. 🙄 EDIT: when I declined he tried to refute me, saying “no I think you can do it, it’s not outside your skill set. You should really have more confidence in yourself.” Ahhhhh ye… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 08:15 PM |
| 7 | Leveling up this weekI’m doing a big house clean today that has been needing to happen for several weeks now. I also hopefully get my test results back on a potential diagnosis for ADHD. I’M SUPER EXCITED ABOUT IT!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 10:53 PM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Check-inEwwwwwww……… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 10:49 PM |
| 32 | Weekly FDS Check-inYes definitely! On the more innocent side of things… he might have just been into you a lot BUT that much snooping falls into stalking/obsessive type behaviour and is very unhealthy. On the more sinister side he was doing “research” on you that would then be helpful in manipulating you into thinking you have more in common than you do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 06:34 PM |
| 49 | You can increase your standards at any time. Try it with me.Them having a job they actually enjoy is so important to me. I love what I do for a living and being around somebody who’s grumpy all day because they hate their job is no way to live. Because I love what I do it can be very frustrating for a partner if they live in a world where they don’t have the strength to fight for a job that they enjoy. It creates jealousy and resentment so the relationship crumbles anyway. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 05:25 AM |
| 5 | What percentage of women would you say are affected by redpill thinking in potential partners?After dating a man who was heavily redpilled and porn addicted I have now been able to spot them quickly on dates. I immediately avoid them like the plague. For how emotionally abusive and toxic that man was I would rather be alone and celibate for literally the rest of my life than to be in a relationship with a redpiller again. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/09/21 02:35 AM |
| 7 | Question: Who has it easier in finding relationships/casual dating Women or Men?THIS! ☝️ Also sadly, hook ups for women, rarely guarantee an orgasm. 😕 | /r/ExRedPill | 01/09/21 02:24 AM |
| 4 | Question: Who has it easier in finding relationships/casual dating Women or Men?There is no harder/easier situation… both groups just encounter different problems. Women might it better in terms of quantity… But harder in terms of quality of interest. Having 100 guys want to sleep with you does NOT make life easier if 95 of them have no interest in a relationship and will leave after sex. If anything it’s more depressing… degrading… and disappointing. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/09/21 02:16 AM |
| 12 | Fuck boy is broken, gotta let him goI LOVE THIS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 04:18 AM |
| 98 | Male business clients - How to set boundaries?I second this. Become a combination of business pragmatic and straight up boring. Don’t spend any extra or off hours time with him and keep personal conversation to a minimum. I’m a chronic chatterbox, falling in love with silence is life changing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 04:17 AM |
| 2 | Why do so many women still want to get married?Oops… I must have missed the memo that we’re supposed to keep them. I always ask them to leave after about 9 to 12 months. #nottheone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 03:51 AM |
| 58 | Prime example of why opening up on the first date is never a good idea.“You lied to a man!” Way to not have any sympathy for the fact that her entire family and culture coerced her into marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 04:53 PM |
| 4 | I thought this belongs here...👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 02:40 PM |
| 30 | I thought this belongs here...Oh my God, this reminds me of so many hippie lovey-dovey chakra type guys. They gush about “energy” and how they can so clearly feel our connection while the entire time in my head I’m literally thinking “this guy is so annoying, I can’t wait to leave.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 02:35 PM |
| 6 | Wanted to share this -I hate the number of times at festivals I’ve had OTHER WOMEN tell me to go topless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 07:26 PM |
| 2 | Excellent thread on why sex work will never be empowering, no matter how much libfems want it to be. It’s a man’s game.In truth they would be friends, he’s not skeezy himself but around a lot of hyper liberal people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 02:00 AM |
| 2 | Other FDS-friendly podcasts?THIS is what got me started on my journey. She is so great. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 02:11 AM |
| 29 | Excellent thread on why sex work will never be empowering, no matter how much libfems want it to be. It’s a man’s game.I had a discussion about this and only fans with a male friend. Regardless of what I said the only thing he’d reply was “I just feel bad for the friends of mine who are now going to lose an income because of the changes.” (Women using the service) The only thing I could think to say back was: “Why don’t you feel bad about the society we live in put that your friends in that position in the first place?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 03:01 PM |
| 276 | I broke up with my boyfriend because he uses p0rnIt just shows how addicted he was. He didn’t even have to think about it or say he would try. Gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 08:55 PM |
| 47 | Anyone else notice this? How come men's convenience is put above womens health & comfort? If you're not making him wrap it then you're playing yourself.The number of poly people I know with herpes is too many. 🥴 EDIT: Oh! And they tell me “it’s fine” because they are open and honest with their partners. CRINGE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:03 AM |
| 3 | Ladies: Don't be afraid to LIE. Nobody is entitled to any information about you, EVER.Can you share more of your process on this? I have some experiences I’d like to reframe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 02:53 AM |
| 8 | Again. Single dads will use younger women for childcare.Arg, the fantasies… never again will I both to let my mind run wild with bullshit that will never happen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 01:52 AM |
| 6 | So I'm deleting my Facebook. A strategy?I have to keep Facebook for some of my connections but last year I went through and did a HUGE clean out. I unfriended hundreds of people. I literally went through every single photo and removed any that were deemed inappropriate or questionable. I also went through every single one of my statuses and removed any that could be misunderstood. I was always over sharing online and now I’m happy to now have a fresh clean slate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 11:08 PM |
| 119 | Woman tells her Scrote boyfriend about a bad sexual experience she had; he is upset because that means "He had a big enough dick to hurt you, and I don't. :("God is so immature! I remember one women on here posting about testing a man by sharing a fake insecurity and then waiting to see how long it takes for him to make fun of you for it. I’m excited to try that one out as a vetting strategy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 10:46 PM |
| 224 | Woman tells her Scrote boyfriend about a bad sexual experience she had; he is upset because that means "He had a big enough dick to hurt you, and I don't. :("You are so right that man will get off on hearing about your trauma. I had to ditch a guy friend when he explained to me how he had was “helping” a girl 25 years younger than him get over her sexual abuse trauma. He actually thought it was appropriate to send me long winded texts describing their sex life with him pulling her hair, pushing her up against the wall aggressively, and having his way with her. 🥴 They’re not together anymore. I was so pissed to hear this whole story. She confided in h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 10:43 PM |
| 177 | Breaking news! Poor man had to sit hungry because his wife didn’t make his plate, even though his arms work and he is perfectly capable of standing :( so sad. Thoughts and prayers. /sThe only reason I would be fixing my husband’s plate would be to control his food intake to prevent dad bod. 😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 10:29 PM |
| 5 | Please stop “gifting” threesomes. Also, your friends aren’t “gifts”.I’ve been single most of my adult life and was regularly around poly people and BDSM kinksters. The number of goddamn times that I’ve had a couple assume just because I’m single and a Tom Boy that clearly I’m into them. Seriously, fuck off! No I don’t want to go in your hot tub. No I don’t want to come over to play board games. No I’m not interested in having drinks. I swear the next time someone calls me a unicorn I’m going to scream like a pterodactyl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 05:33 AM |
| 5 | This is simply vile. How they went from "not all men" to "not all pedos". There is so much to unpack, and there are at least 398 pedos who agree. Absolutely disgusting.YES!!! And any porn with violence, slapping, hitting, choking, someone tied up, gagged, etc. Anything that mimics abuse should NEVER be promoted. It only trains viewers to become sexually attracted to those things and creates dangerous desires. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 04:33 PM |
| 3 | This is simply vile. How they went from "not all men" to "not all pedos". There is so much to unpack, and there are at least 398 pedos who agree. Absolutely disgusting.👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 04:30 PM |
| 4 | This is simply vile. How they went from "not all men" to "not all pedos". There is so much to unpack, and there are at least 398 pedos who agree. Absolutely disgusting.Agreed! It is a Porn Induced Illness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 04:29 PM |
| 5 | This is simply vile. How they went from "not all men" to "not all pedos". There is so much to unpack, and there are at least 398 pedos who agree. Absolutely disgusting.I’ve heard about this, they call them selves a MAP which is short for “minor attractive person.” 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 04:25 PM |
| 9 | “wHaT dO yOu bRiNg tO tHe tAbLe?”This is so true, I’m not going to perform to convince you to like me. A prerequisite to dating me is liking me. If you don’t… then step aside. If you can’t already see it, you’re never going to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 01:40 PM |
| 22 | Don’t date men and you won’t have any problems. Well, Grandma knows best.Omg! Seriously? 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 04:48 AM |
| 2 | Sex buyers want to normalize Sugar Dating. That's regressive and dangerous.A woman I know mention her friend had all of her college paid for by some old dude. “They never even had to have sex” she said. And she clearly believed her. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 06:32 PM |
| 1 | I don't even know how to describe this, why are men the way they areI just heard a story from a friend about a woman who went for a hook up and was slapped so hard across the face that her jaw broke. Yep celibacy it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 06:11 PM |
| 1 | The audacity of a zero value manHe’s also smiling and trying to play it off all cute… like a child who will do it again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 05:19 PM |
| 2 | The Myth and Trap of the Female “Type A” Personality, or how LV society branded having internal discipline as a neurotic personality type in women & how men continue to benefit from women’s uncompensated mental and emotional labor. Stop letting men ride your coattails, queens!EXACTLY! “Oh I’m not Type A, you’re just Type B.” 😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 04:36 PM |
| 4 | Men who "hate" influencersI bet the male influencer he like has a skin care routine, a barber that does his beard maintenance, gets his hair professionally cut, has more than just a 2-in-1 shampoo in the shower, etc. He’s not being natural so why should the women have to be? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 04:01 PM |
| 8 | i must’ve subbed to this ‘dating coach’ back in my pickmeisha days... No, he hasn’t responded yet 😆 *mods pls delete if not allowedIs there a way to tag this as a podcast idea? Like #podcastidea | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 02:52 PM |
| 27 | Broke up with my bfSome relationships are solely there to teach us things. You’ve learned a lot and are stronger for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 02:20 PM |
| 34 | The audacity of a zero value manOh people definitely go raw. Most of my female friends are on birth control and most guys absolutely hate condoms. Even women will complain about condoms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 01:05 PM |
| 18 | Can we collectively update Urban Dictionary?Wow! I never would’ve guessed. Why haven’t women had access to this word! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 01:03 PM |
| 41 | ..did anybody see this?I’m confused, he said “imagine if the roles were reversed” and there were forums that speak about women as if they were one singular group. Except there are several forums EXACTLY like that!! 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 02:53 AM |
| 205 | The audacity of a zero value manMy coworker was complaining about having trouble dating. He’s got four kids from three different baby mamas. Sorry boy… you’re done. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 02:47 AM |
| 16 | Single fathers will date women for free child care. Don’t let a man dictate which car you buy because they don’t want their child in it. This woman needs to 🏃♀️Some people might think, while they have been dating for about a year. In my head a year is nothing. Most of my break ups happen around the one year mark because that’s the point where you realize it’s not gonna work out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 01:56 PM |
| 2 | I don’t agree with the beginning. (she’s wasting her energy helping him) BUT, here it is…Guys caring more about what other guys think then their own feelings. But tOxIc MaScULiTy doesn’t eXiSt right?This is such a great point. It is the height of toxic Masculinity truly means. It’s men behaving as they think other men want them to behave. It’s male “pickmes” and “cool guys” performing for other men. I love when I can see a man act like a dork. It’s a sign he’s safe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 01:51 PM |
| 6 | "I went to a doctor and he said it's normal because I'm stressed all the time!"“Either lying or mentally retarted.” Wooooooooooow. Yeah, they really do out themselves. I found a horseshoe shaped metal scrap at work and when I asked about it the guy looked at me and laughed saying, “maybe it’s a dog collar?” He was not thinking about a dog when he said it. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 01:47 PM |
| 38 | Responses to “what are you looking for in a partner?” (OLD report)I had a guy finish a date and he literally told me how much he liked that I didn’t seem angry or bitter… “like most women our age.” He really liked how “fun and playful” I was… right up until I told a story about a great mushroom trip. He couldn’t hide the look of disgust on his face. Oops. Nope. That’s TOO much fun. I forgot that I have to behave myself while having fun. My bad. 😇😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 02:48 AM |
| 94 | A thank you to this sub!Yes yes yes!! This is what it’s all about. Logically looking at someone and seeing them for who they really are. Well done! 👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 02:24 AM |
| 161 | A man attacked three women on a busy street and no white knight came to the rescue...I feel so sorry for those women, while also being incredibly proud of them. I understand that people can be paralyzed when traumatic things happen but to witness violence like that and to do nothing just blows my mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 02:09 AM |
| 51 | “Not all men” brigaders…smhMy ex used to say rape culture doesn’t exist. I wish I could put him in a dress and send him to Stanford. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 12:48 AM |
| 9 | "I went to a doctor and he said it's normal because I'm stressed all the time!"Please don’t say class is something that you’re born with! I’m trying to learn how to be more classy… it’s hard not to shift into my college cool girl self. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 12:40 AM |
| 22 | "I went to a doctor and he said it's normal because I'm stressed all the time!"One man sulked in the kitchen in the morning because I wouldn’t have sex with him. He was literally acting like a toddler, it was so disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 12:39 AM |
| 39 | "I went to a doctor and he said it's normal because I'm stressed all the time!"It’s so true. I was on a lovely picnic date in a park with a gentleman I’d been seeing for a few weeks. He had brought wine, a fruit platter, a homemade meat cheese and cracker platter, a blanket, everything. It was delightful. It was on that day that he felt was a good time to tell me his favourite porn was watching women get choked. I choked on my wine as he said it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 12:37 AM |
| 63 | Pick-me-men.I’ll take one ‘back bone’ in my man please. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 02:00 PM |
| 73 | Today I found out that quora can be as bad as RedditOh man… the “I won” part. Cringe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 01:58 PM |
| 6 | Why do so many guys and girls say size doesn't matter? Do they genuinely believe this? Because it does matter for me....Size absolutely matters! I’ve literally broken up with two quality boyfriends because they were too big for me. It made sex painful and I hated watching them be cautious instead of enjoying the moment. Size matters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 12:52 AM |
| 2 | Unruly scrote duct-taped to seat after allegedly assaulting flight attendants l GMADamn his tape sound effects are on point!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 04:05 AM |
| 3 | What's a 🚩red flag you encountered this week?I’m gonna have to stop hanging out with coworkers after work hours. Too many of my coworkers are male and one of them is starting to get overbearing with the compliments. He agrees with everything I say and has repeatedly said “is there anything you can’t do?” He also has called me a unicorn and said “how are you not married?” I replied: “Because I said no when he asked.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 03:42 AM |
| 12 | Just had an unfortunate experience at a store..Men joke about putting a bag over the face of unattractive women so they can manage having sex with her. Just another example of how men will fuck anyone even if they don’t like them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 01:01 AM |
| 18 | 101 Lies Men Tell by Dory HollanderThere’s got to be a PDF version somewhere for free online! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 12:23 AM |
| 2 | "Normal marital woes"Omg! This for sure is an accurate read on things. It may actually be 50-50 who wants a divorce but the reality is women end up “initiating” because their scrote husband is too lazy to take care of business. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 06:39 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-inYesterday I had a male coworker say “Wow, you’re like a unicorn. How are you not married?” I cackled and replied “Because I said no… twice.” I never used to mention previous proposals from exes and now I find it incredibly empowering and it’s the perfect shut-them-up answer. 😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 05:07 PM |
| 13 | 🤡🤡🤡Yes because violent video games will definitely solve his inner turmoil. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 05:04 PM |
| 20 | Just some scrotes and pickmes raging against FDS on another extremely misogynistic and sexist sub that still exists (hopefully they are next)!🤣 I’m glad no one else is in the lunch room because I just hyena-laughed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 06:32 PM |
| 95 | Just some scrotes and pickmes raging against FDS on another extremely misogynistic and sexist sub that still exists (hopefully they are next)!There’s an Instagramer I follow and her husband is 20 years older than her. They did a relationship Q&A and when he described early interactions he openly said “I aggressively pursued you.” She laughs awkwardly, “you were very persistent.” When they got to a question about what he likes most about her, surprise surprise he praised her for her ‘ride or die’ abilities. “I just love that you don’t give up on things. You keep working at it.” You just know he was referring to staying in their probabl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:40 AM |
| 185 | Just some scrotes and pickmes raging against FDS on another extremely misogynistic and sexist sub that still exists (hopefully they are next)!Omg, that sent me! Meanwhile I’m happily living in my three bedroom home with my adorable dogs, comfortable lifestyle, and still getting hit on by men 25-50. Oh gosh… clearly life is so pitiful for unmarried women over 30. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:34 AM |
| 11 | A little dating satire based off the platformsAll of them are ex friends, including the girl. I know I’ll run into them eventually but have declined any invites since things opened up. I’m hoping nobody notices I’ve moved on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:18 AM |
| 14 | A little dating satire based off the platformsUnfortunately it was a small festival with no Sanctuary for this exact problem. Hopefully the organizers recognized they need it now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:13 AM |
| 191 | A little dating satire based off the platformsI have a group of friends that all did acid at a festival. One of the girls was told to take two tabs and then when she tipped into a bad trip everyone abandoned her. Afterwards I got to hear a version of the story from all 6 people and everyone was so disrespectful to her. She felt so guilty and was forced to apologize to everyone for being an inconvenience to their night. My longest guy friend literally said he grabbed one of the guys and took him away so he wouldn’t feel obligated to help her… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 06:12 PM |
| 21 | STOP THE VANILLA SHAMING!“Sexual Flavoured Domestic Violence” Woooooow. I’m just gonna add that to my list of new word combinations. tucks into pocket | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:58 PM |
| 16 | STOP THE VANILLA SHAMING!If someone ever tells me I need to spice up my sex life I’m going to smile and reply “vanilla is a spice.” 😏 (It’s also the second most expensive spice in the world next to saffron.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:53 PM |
| 178 | LVMs be likeIt’s always physical touch. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:36 PM |
| 36 | Regretting meeting and old male "friend"I had two old buddies come out of the woodwork in the same week. I decided to browse their Facebook, look at that! Both had recently divorced. Surprise surprise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:19 PM |
| 72 | Everyday I am reminded that not starting a family with a scrote was a good choiceHe looks one step away from cheating on her with a woman who makes him “feel like a man.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 11:37 PM |
| 7 | Share your badass breakup stories!Yeah, now that I know more about it, he was definitely a Redpiller with a high probability of Asperger’s syndrome. 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 11:32 PM |
| 2 | PSA: For rohypnol you have 12-25 hours for a blood test, 60 hours to 28 days for a urine sample and 90 days for hair strand analysis.Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 11:31 PM |
| 3 | PSA: For rohypnol you have 12-25 hours for a blood test, 60 hours to 28 days for a urine sample and 90 days for hair strand analysis.Wow! The future is now!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 03:08 AM |
| 3 | PSA: For rohypnol you have 12-25 hours for a blood test, 60 hours to 28 days for a urine sample and 90 days for hair strand analysis.I second this!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 03:04 AM |
| 4 | PSA: For rohypnol you have 12-25 hours for a blood test, 60 hours to 28 days for a urine sample and 90 days for hair strand analysis.Can you add to this list that there is also a pill you can take within 24 to 48 hours that will prevent you from contracting HIV if you have unprotected sex. I have a male friend who had another guy “slip it in” without asking, he declined to have sex. It was only a second but he is now HIV positive. He regrets everyday not going in to get the prevention meds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 03:03 AM |
| 14 | Share your badass breakup stories!Wooooooow?!?! Wtf?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 02:20 AM |
| 47 | Share your badass breakup stories!I had a final phone conversation with one of my exes whom I had hooked up with a few times afterwards. He wanted to get back together and his last words to me as our conversation ended were… “I still love you, and you look great, you haven’t hit the wall yet.” Wooooow! What a compliment! Blocked and deleted everywhere and haven’t spoken to him since. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 02:16 AM |
| 54 | The truth about the "honey moon phase"Arg. I hate this. My family is all about picking on each other and teasing as a sign of love. Screw that. I want a husband, not a guy that acts like a middle schooler with a crush. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 01:52 AM |
| 22 | Normalize breaking up because you’re unsatisfied; you don’t have to wait until everything’s burningOh my God the number of times I’ve been talking to a scrote and they somehow share their opinion that “Nobody really tries anymore in relationships these days. Everyone just always gives up so easily.” You just know it comes from an ex girlfriend ‘giving up on him.’ It is coercive indoctrination to encourage struggle love. “Why are you giving up on us so easily? I thought you were stronger than this? Aren’t we in this together?” 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 11:03 PM |
| 33 | Does anyone remember the video of the wife asking her husband to delete instamodels, which he refused and he ended up getting smacked by his bad? They got divorced 😂🤡🤡I wish every woman could see that video because you could hear in her voice the frustration of carrying their household, child, and marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 03:49 PM |
| 125 | Does anyone remember the video of the wife asking her husband to delete instamodels, which he refused and he ended up getting smacked by his bad? They got divorced 😂🤡🤡Is this not also the same woman where there’s a video of her ranting in the kitchen while he’s sitting on the couch. She’s talking about how her whole morning was doing all of the laundry, preparing the baby, cleaning the kitchen and basically doing everything while he just sat there. At least women are getting divorced faster these days rather than suffering the wait till the kids are 18. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 12:11 PM |
| 26 | Start embarrassing them for low effort or for seeking a mommy, calling it out helps combat some of the scroteryArg. This is so true. I’ve met so many men that prefer having a debate over a genuine conversation. Anything that’s confrontational gets them going. Hell, I’ve seen them argue for something they don’t even believe in just to play “devil’s advocate” and be combative. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 11:23 AM |
| 35 | Start embarrassing them for low effort or for seeking a mommy, calling it out helps combat some of the scroteryShe was the queen at playing the ‘dumb fox’. So much talent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 11:20 AM |
| 5 | Do you love True Crime? We're looking for a new co-host for our spinoff podcast!This is such a fabulous idea! What a great way to reach women outside of the “lense” of dating while simultaneously making related comments. This is genius. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 03:29 AM |
| 65 | I’m simply not attracted to noncommittal men🤮 I hate hippie van life men. Trust me. If they are starting vanlife after mid thirties they are running away from their current life and are unable to stabilize their own happiness. He hasn’t accomplished anything interesting and is now going through a midlife crisis. It’s not your fault it took him nearly 40 years to do something adventurous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 09:58 PM |
| 35 | This is what happens when you marry a Scrote and do the 50/50 thingI remember that one! I think he also complained to her that he was embarrassed that she wasn’t eating at every single meal. What a dirt bag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 06:43 PM |
| 48 | Men Condition Women To Accept Poor Results in EVERYTHINGI once was sleeping with a mid 30s grown man who was renting a room in a home with four other people. We were making a meal and his can opener wouldn’t work. I was struggling with it for 5 whole minutes and told him he should buy a new one. His reply was some hippie bullshit about “accepting what life provides and being grateful for what you have.” Seriously? I appreciate the sentiment but not everything is an awe-inspiring metaphor. You can get a new can opener for like $10 and it won’t ever wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 04:06 AM |
| 88 | What are some tell tale signs a man is into porn?That is so true! And slapping your vagina with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 02:27 PM |
| 111 | What are some tell tale signs a man is into porn?This is how I learned that one of my dates was into porn where women get choked. Needless to say I ran for the hills. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 02:09 PM |
| 2 | Obtaining Self loveThe truth about obtaining self-love is to remember that any feelings or emotions of love you have for someone else is chemically induced and entirely created by your own body. Which means that if you ever want to feel that sensation again, you can use your own mind to remember how you felt at any given moment and re-experience that sensation. Your love for others is built within you. Apply that sensation to yourself and you can exist within the feeling of being “in love.“ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 04:33 AM |
| 2 | Violent Sexual Lingo…I had a guy complain when I said no to sex. He legit replied with “What… no penetration.” Ewwww. Don’t say penetrate. 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 04:19 AM |
| 337 | POV: Date with a LVM 😂That lean back crotch presentation was quite the mating ritual. “Sup, you gonna suck it?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:11 AM |
| 52 | Living rent free in his head: A guy I criticized YEARS ago turned his life around because of a comment I made.Whenever a man shows me a picture of his girlfriend I feel like he’s holding up a fish being like “Look what I caught! Look what I caught! Look I can catch an attractive female, you’re an attractive female – you should like me too. Please like me.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 01:16 AM |
| 124 | This is an actual “settlement” proposed by the pro se defendant in a divorce case. Unbelievable.And then men go and give a derogatory term for a woman not enjoying sex…. “Dude, she was such a dead lay.” They keep having sex with her when she’s clearly not into it and she’s the one who gets mocked. Utter morons. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 03:52 PM |
| 94 | Step sister waited over 13 years for her boyfriend to propose to her.I have a friend who dated someone for 10 years, they got married, and were divorced a year later. It happens time and time again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 03:17 AM |
| 33 | ' gOlD DigGeR 'Whoa. “Sex as self harm”. 🤯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 06:36 PM |
| 4 | When women swap stories about their spouses’ parenting fails“Standard-Shaming”. I like that. I’ve literally felt that. It’s like we can’t even speak our opinions without people getting mad or assuming we are judging them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 01:59 AM |
| 5 | "6. It Doesn't Make Him Deviant" 🙄Except that MOST pornography should be illegal. 18 year old girls are being give alcohol and Valium to get through violent “scenes” and tons of “amateur” footage is posted without consent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 10:37 PM |
| 3 | "6. It Doesn't Make Him Deviant" 🙄Except that MOST pornography should be illegal. 18 year old girls are being give alcohol and Valium to get through violent “scenes” and tons of “amateur” footage is posted without consent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 10:37 PM |
| 5 | Man, I cringe! But you learn and you glow ✨I’ve started speaking my mind with friends on topics a lot more lately… It’s not going well and I’m definitely being seen as a bitch. People don’t want to be called out on their shitty behaviours. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 08:37 PM |
| 10 | God help the woman married to this manOmg. That explains Gretzky’s success in hockey… it was likely his only means of receiving love from his father. CRINGE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 08:31 PM |
| 5 | With no disrespect to other religions, I do NOT get this. At all. It’s a no from meSo a second woman would behave like a true partner and share the household burden. Why keep the man at all? 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 07:50 PM |
| 16 | When a man cancels on the first date, don’t reply and just delete him. Learn from my mistakes.Arg. This is solid advice. I once had two dates planned on a Sunday and within a matter of minutes they both texted me because they BOTH had a headache. It was a Sunday morning and that basically means they were probably hung over. I was being nice and decided to have a date with each of them later in the week but shocker, both were duds. One of them was definitely 10 years older than his profile stated and the other one was a grumpy redpill guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 02:07 AM |
| 9 | FDS Weekly Chat / Check-InEvery time I see a grown man using a vape I cannot for the life of me not think of an infant sucking on a pacifier… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 02:00 AM |
| 6 | How do you end a date early?FML There’s so much truth to this it hurts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 11:33 PM |
| 14 | When they lie about their ages on dating apps and think we won't notice 😂Woooooow! 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 01:34 AM |
| 5 | How do you end a date early?Thank you!!! ☺️ I am for the record… not from a classy town… I hate how my voice goes most of the time. I can’t help it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 12:56 AM |
| 13 | How do you end a date early?He shall forever be know as: “I like psychology” guy. Said in a Neanderthal voice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 10:40 PM |
| 5 | How do you end a date early?It felt so goooooood! 😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 10:39 PM |
| 14 | How to stick to practicing celibacyI got it from the time I finally caved and decided to “hook up” with a guy from OLD… even with a condom. Thanks roomie for the great advice. “Just try it! It’s liberating!” She said. FML 🤦🏻♀️ ALL IT TAKES IS ONCE!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 09:31 PM |
| 34 | How do you end a date early?It was a coffee date. I had another date cancel and wanted to fill the time last minute. Nope. Never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 08:38 PM |
| 180 | How do you end a date early?🤣🤣🤣 He kept saying sentences that went “Yeah, I’m really into (insert a topic of interest I had included in my profile)” My favourite was when he said “I’m really into psychology.” I turned it on him and asked what his favourite study was or his favourite book on the topic. He literally could not answer. He did the same this with Buddhism and Hiking. Couldn’t name ONE piece of information to proof his interest. WTF. He also said he was really into reading and then mentioned some obscure novel th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 01:53 PM |
| 292 | How do you end a date early?I was in and out in less than 15 minutes once. I looked down at my empty tea cup and politely said “Well looks like I’ve finished my tea, this place is lovely, thank you but I’ll be going now.” It happened so fast I even shocked myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 10:50 AM |
| 1 | LVM has no emotion or respect.Dammit. I know this is so true it hurts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 04:52 AM |
| 6 | Why is someone like you single???This reminds me of a time an ex said that one of his favourite things about me was how much other guys were jealous of him for being with me. He was a great boyfriend and probably the kindest person I could ever know but… that shouldn’t be near the top of your favourite things about me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 04:31 PM |
| 35 | It’s so hard for me to forgive my pickmeisha pastI do this too. Was intentionally celebrate from ages 24-26 after a bad party experience. Didn’t even kiss a man. Instead I started a company and completely changed my life. Best decision ever. 💪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 04:27 PM |
| 214 | 🚨Vetting Strategy: Watch how a man drivesPARKING LIKE A JACKASS! 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 05:30 AM |
| 21 | Why is someone like you single???Yeah… generally a guy who asks why I’m single isn’t worth dating in the first place. 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 03:18 AM |
| 112 | Why is someone like you single???I’ve started being completely honest about this question and I reply with “Well, I could’ve been married twice already but decline their proposals so I could focus on my goals instead.” 🤷🏻♀️ EDIT: What’s interesting is the difference in men’s reaction to this versus when I used to JUST mention my decision to focus on my career instead. There’s something in sharing that other men wanted to “wife me up” that somehow results in them respecting me more. Like WTF? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 06:03 PM |
| 57 | The type of gold digging never talked about: men will date you to boost their careers, status and ultimately to make money.This is so true. I have one ex friend who was always depressed and down in the dumps whenever he didn’t have a girlfriend. It was his one self validation in life and he otherwise has very few accomplishments in life… ESPECIALLY if you subtracted the opportunities and resources I’ve given him over the years. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 02:50 PM |
| 47 | 'Spiritual'/hippie menI can second this! ☝️ You’ll end up looking for someone to be a third in a poly relationship. 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 11:04 PM |
| 1 | The sad reality behind Only Fans that no one speaks aboutP.S. Isn’t it funny that even though she knows most women leave at 28, there’s somehow a gap in comprehension when they come up with their bRiLLiAnT sUgGeStIoN??? Thanks for reading my comment. I never get to tell that story because it’s rude to tell a story that finishes by saying your friend is a moron... Even when it’s true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 10:14 PM |
| 2 | The sad reality behind Only Fans that no one speaks aboutThey have to PAY to rent the stage!?!!?!! But the dancers are the reason the guys even show up!!!! It’s insanity, pure insanity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 10:11 PM |
| 5 | The sad reality behind Only Fans that no one speaks aboutA friend started off gogo dancing and then eventually ended up stripping. She’s been progressing worse and worse as time goes on. I had decided pre-pandemic to no longer hang out with her because we hung out and I told her how I was bored with my work and looking for a new side hustle or hobby. Her suggestion. “Why don’t you start gogo dancing!?!?” She then rambled on for over 20 minutes about how much she loved her stripping job and that I’m hot and it would be a great fit. The whole time I was… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 03:47 PM |
| 71 | A Case for "Vanilla" SexEwwww… I agree. Prostate play could be done with a toy. Ideally AFTER a bath/shower. 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 10:03 PM |
| 40 | Update: reining in the subThank you for the outrage post banning. Sometimes I come on here hoping to feel uplifted but walk away feeling more defeated in my opinion of men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 08:09 PM |
| 115 | A Case for "Vanilla" Sex☝️ FACTS. 🤤 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 08:05 PM |
| 9 | Don’t end up in that situation. Vet like your life depends on it, because it does. I found this in a financial group I’m a part of and was horrified reading it.Omg, that one was the worst! Over the course of her career she would ultimately be losing $1.5 million! And that’s just the money as is… it would be exceptionally more if she was investing 75k annually. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 08:26 PM |
| 5 | Bullied for being a FDS-er. How do you react to this ?Oh there’s definitely misogyny here, especially in rural areas where there’s a lot of trade workers. (Electricians, truckers, rig pigs, etc.) I think the racism in Canada is more subtle. As they say it’s racism with a smile. Usually a lot of micro aggressions, ignorance/avoiding the depths of our racial problems, and subtle undertones. I’d say there’s definitely more racism towards the Native Americans than there is towards African-Americans. A lot of the aboriginal here are still dealing with g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 08:21 PM |
| 31 | Don’t end up in that situation. Vet like your life depends on it, because it does. I found this in a financial group I’m a part of and was horrified reading it.FDS is spreading. 😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 05:11 PM |
| 3 | FDS teaches independence. “Men’s rights” teaches exploitation and control. The differences in internal discussions about being a HVM versus a HVW are staggering.Now I’m incredibly happy that TickTock is allowed for three minute videos because better conversations can start happening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 05:03 PM |
| 3 | I can’t unsee this now…Hahahaha!!! Omg. I wish I was an animator or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 04:56 PM |
| 9 | Bullied for being a FDS-er. How do you react to this ?I’m in Canada and we all like to pretend racism isn’t here but when you ask any POC you hear differently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 04:55 PM |
| 15 | Bullied for being a FDS-er. How do you react to this ?Gross. I’m sorry that happened to you. How embarrassing for them to be acting like middle schoolers at that age. Pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 04:39 PM |
| 9 | Why do other women get so angry at us? Because patriarchy is a religion, and we are heretics.The comparison to a religion is also the part that struck me. Every time friends or family sit around a table asking me about when I’m going to partner up it really does feel the same as a bunch of religious people sitting around asking me why I haven’t let God into my life. You can argue all you want and express your own opinions till the cows come home but at the end of the day, they are indoctrinated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 04:28 PM |
| 16 | Asking Men: Why do you need women? 90% get the answer wrong ... to be expected.Oh sweet Jesus. Looked at the Swedish women’s Instagram. I was just traumatized by a selfie with her caption expressing her gratitude for her period and then realizing all the red stuff on her face and hands was definitely menstrual blood. WHY?!? I know menstruation is natural and isn’t gross but seriously… wiping blood all over yourself IS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 02:05 AM |
| 12 | Asking Men: Why do you need women? 90% get the answer wrong ... to be expected.I bet this is Goa India. I’ve been there… beautiful place. Didn’t really care for the tourists. 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 01:47 AM |
| 8 | Asking Men: Why do you need women? 90% get the answer wrong ... to be expected.I call those men Spiritual Predators. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 01:44 AM |
| 7 | I am out hereI like this! No I’m wondering if we could have some sort of covert alliance ring of alternate accounts? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 01:10 AM |
| 12 | Has anyone else had this pop up on their Instagram feed being promoted by influencers? I don't even really know what to say. It appears to be a new dating app with a "bedroom feature" where you select your preferences.🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 12:25 AM |
| 23 | I can’t unsee this now…Dear God… it’s an epidemic. They’re popular here too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 12:24 AM |
| 28 | I can’t unsee this now…🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 12:21 AM |
| 26 | I can’t unsee this now…He offered to “walk me to my car” and then a moment after a woman with a stroller, that clearly knew him walked past us. He immediately turned saying “see you later, nice catching up with you!” and ran off to talk to her. Omg. 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 12:21 AM |
| 81 | Has anyone else had this pop up on their Instagram feed being promoted by influencers? I don't even really know what to say. It appears to be a new dating app with a "bedroom feature" where you select your preferences.WTF?!? Why is “Vanilla” ONE category while nearly everything else is rough sex? They forgot: Foreplay Actually Orgasming Music and Sex to the beat Edging (nearing orgasm and stopping only to start again) Tantra* Synchronized Breath Work Meditation Massages Mood Lighting Sensation Play Food and Drinks in the Bedroom Bathing/Showering Each Other Unique Settings Milking (woman massages penis using PC muscles inside the vagina) Spooning/Cuddling Full body exploration G-Spot or Prostate Play *Several… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 11:36 PM |
| 9 | Women drink alcohol to tolerate low frequency men.I also have a tendency to make annoying or fuck boy guys into a challenge. I want to toy with them. But at the end of the day, it’s just such a huge waste of energy and time. I need to keep strong and just ignore them entirely. Glad to know I’m not alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 11:16 PM |
| 44 | I can’t unsee this now…EXACTLY!!!!! It seems like I’m always getting hit on by 20 somethings that think we’re the same age or 40/50 somethings that are being creepers. There’s literally no winning. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 10:45 PM |
| 19 | I can’t unsee this now…Using this!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 10:40 PM |
| 10 | How could any woman sacrifice this much??$1.5 MILLION DOLLARS! 🤑🤮 That’s what she’s sacrificing. If she works until 60 years old that’s 28 more years of working. Let’s remove 8 years for potential early child rearing and say she has 20 years left in the workforce. 20 x $75k = $1,500,000 AND That’s just cash as is. We’re not even talking about if she invested that amount into an index fund every year. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 10:21 PM |
| 50 | I can’t unsee this now…It was maybe 10 minutes in but I’ve had it be less then that before. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 08:37 PM |
| 88 | I can’t unsee this now…“Have a day you deserve!!!” I’m cackling!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 07:53 PM |
| 300 | I can’t unsee this now…Right!?!! Like wtf? I like that, “trickle-truther.” I’m gonna use that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 06:13 PM |
| 109 | I can’t unsee this now…Oooooo… Please elaborate! I want more perspectives on this. I get asked ALL the time. I mean it makes sense if someone looks under 18 but it’s very clear that I’m “legal.” It never really feels like they’re asking my age… they’re asking if I am appropriate for them to sleep with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 05:53 PM |
| 12 | Sat folding my underwear & getting upset.I remember watching a YouTube video by some guy who was bitching about Bridget Jones diary. He talked about how unrealistic the whole thing was. How could a woman like that, who’s not even that attractive possibly be able to pull two handsome and well off men at once. It’s completely unrealistic. Yeah buddy… that and every Billy Madison movie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 03:11 PM |
| 78 | I don’t agree with the beginning. (she’s wasting her energy helping him) BUT, here it is…Guys caring more about what other guys think then their own feelings. But tOxIc MaScULiTy doesn’t eXiSt right?So men can be a pickme too. “Dude, look at how cool I am, seriously bro, hold my beer and check this out.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 07:21 AM |
| 15 | I don’t agree with the beginning. (she’s wasting her energy helping him) BUT, here it is…Guys caring more about what other guys think then their own feelings. But tOxIc MaScULiTy doesn’t eXiSt right?Ahhhh… that makes sense. We can’t use that term… it’s too triggering for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 07:19 AM |
| 38 | I don’t agree with the beginning. (she’s wasting her energy helping him) BUT, here it is…Guys caring more about what other guys think then their own feelings. But tOxIc MaScULiTy doesn’t eXiSt right?Is there a flair for Toxic Masculinity? I almost put this under Message for Lurkers because I think it would be good for them to see and unpack. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 06:01 AM |
| 2 | hope everyone has a good Friday ❤️This made me happy. 😁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 03:09 AM |
| 10 | hope everyone has a good Friday ❤️My mom is 65 and barely has any grey hair. Here I am being sad I won’t get to rock silver locks till I’m 80. 😞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 12:02 PM |
| 43 | Men: all FeMaLeS are liars, they’re so fake. Damn, they want a guy who’s honest and respects them?!? Wow FeMaLeS are so entitled😤… and then they themselves do this..🤔Wow, what an idiot. Getting an MBA is intense. It also changes your whole perspective of money and work in a way that guy will never comprehend. Have fun working your hourly wage buddy. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 02:09 PM |
| 11 | F*ck the culture of shame for being unmarried.Funny that she dislikes you being single while also thinking she gets to classify who you should date. 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 02:06 PM |
| 13 | F*ck the culture of shame for being unmarried.🎤 BOOM! Well said. 👌🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 02:03 PM |
| 12 | F*ck the culture of shame for being unmarried.Nice! Why no mention of the boyfriend? I’ve been thinking I won’t share the next one unless we get engaged. They always give me a hard time or make me feel bad after each relationship ends… even though I wasn’t the one being dumped. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 02:02 PM |
| 13 | F*ck the culture of shame for being unmarried.Ha!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 02:00 PM |
| 27 | F*ck the culture of shame for being unmarried.Great advice! Thankfully this was nearly a decade ago, they know better now. It’s still disgusting to me that they could clearly see how upset I was getting and not one of them stopped it. It’s so messed up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 01:59 PM |
| 5 | What's something that always bothered you/felt weird while growing up, but you could never place why until you realized it was misogyny?I wish they would’ve released two versions of the movie trailer, one for men and one for women so that we could actually get men to watch it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 03:39 AM |
| 20 | The people who defend Onlyfans.I’m sorry but the blonde looked like she was going to cry the entire time. I don’t believe for a second that she “loves what she’s doing.” I can’t believe they didn’t talk about the negative affects of those who have tried doing only fans and didn’t fall into the category of the top 1%. Talk about missing the mark on a story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 12:34 AM |
| 9 | Stats on how FDS is spreading compared to male tactics. They’ve been strategizing for 15 years, it’s our turn. 💪Oh I am HERE for boycotting dating apps!! It’s just not worth the risk, trauma, and dumpster fire of experiences. 🤮 Can we make fake dating app adds with tag lines like “He’s such a catch, he’s already married!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 03:04 AM |
| 1 | Stats on how FDS is spreading compared to male tactics. They’ve been strategizing for 15 years, it’s our turn. 💪Yep! You can search pretty much anything. Just Google: Google Trends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 01:23 AM |
| 27 | Stats on how FDS is spreading compared to male tactics. They’ve been strategizing for 15 years, it’s our turn. 💪How can we remedy this? Has the handbook been translated at all? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 05:43 PM |
| 21 | Stats on how FDS is spreading compared to male tactics. They’ve been strategizing for 15 years, it’s our turn. 💪Oh no! You might be right, each one was rising, then dropped or level off, then rose rapidly. 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 05:42 PM |
| 14 | Stats on how FDS is spreading compared to male tactics. They’ve been strategizing for 15 years, it’s our turn. 💪Whoa, your username? Can you tell me about it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 04:51 PM |
| 24 | Stats on how FDS is spreading compared to male tactics. They’ve been strategizing for 15 years, it’s our turn. 💪There’s more data, it’s pretty informative. I would love to do a survey with all of us and ask about location, treatment, experiences, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 04:50 PM |
| 53 | Stats on how FDS is spreading compared to male tactics. They’ve been strategizing for 15 years, it’s our turn. 💪PUA stuff was pretty mainstream years ago, it’s actually died down a lot. I attribute it to the TV Show with a guy named ‘Mystery’ teaching his mystery method and Neil Strass’s book The Game. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 03:39 PM |
| 17 | Stockholm syndrome victim rationalizes her trauma bonding.There is power and control in using foreign or new words to separate someone from reality. It’s the same tactic used by gurus in tantric cults. They offer their student a sensual massage and then offer to massage the student’s yoni (vagina) with their lingam (penis). 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 11:29 PM |
| 42 | Stockholm syndrome victim rationalizes her trauma bonding.Omg. I didn’t see that one. How disheartening 😞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 07:26 PM |
| 73 | Stockholm syndrome victim rationalizes her trauma bonding.cough love bombing cough | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 05:25 PM |
| 71 | Stockholm syndrome victim rationalizes her trauma bonding.Arg THANK YOU!!!! It minimizes the severity of what’s happening and gaslights the sub into taking more abuse. It’s on par with when men say: INSULTS (emotional abuse): “What’s the problem, it was just a joke!” IMPACT PLAY (physical abuse): “Come on! Don’t make a big deal about it, I was just playing!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 05:24 PM |
| 44 | Stockholm syndrome victim rationalizes her trauma bonding.I think she’s just using chocolate and peanut butter as analogies for other terms do she can talk about vulgar things without TikTok banning her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 05:19 PM |
| 92 | Stockholm syndrome victim rationalizes her trauma bonding.I like the part where in an earlier video she admits she struggles to orgasm. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 04:37 PM |
| 11 | Trading her self-respect for a Lego setI bet she bought and paid for all the furniture in that room too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 05:08 AM |
| 12 | Men 👏 Dont 👏 change 👏 EVEN FOR THEIR DREAM GIRL. FDS works ladies. Left my NVM fiancée 4 years ago and he immediately started dating the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. My heart was broken then, but this is them now!!I love vanilla. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 10:02 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Check-inDo you tell people this when they ask you about your status? I.e. Friends, family, men who ask you out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 08:09 PM |
| 9 | More evidence the red pill ruins relationships, makes insecure men irrationally paranoid and cheat on their partners to make them jealous/unstable and is full of bitter late bloomers seeking ‘revenge’ on the types of women who ignored them in school.Looks like somebody peeked in high school. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 01:21 PM |
| 16 | More evidence the red pill ruins relationships, makes insecure men irrationally paranoid and cheat on their partners to make them jealous/unstable and is full of bitter late bloomers seeking ‘revenge’ on the types of women who ignored them in school.Oh my God this brings back memories!! I rejected a man in University and later got a three-page hand written letter about how he could’ve been on so many other dates when he was spending time with me and how dare I reject him. “Don’t you know I’m the Kappa Sigma president!?” 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 04:35 AM |
| 5 | Eye Opening.I literally had a guy friend who would issue me “cool points” whenever I said or did masculine/mysogynistic things. I shutter at it now. So cringy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 03:51 AM |
| 5 | Avoid joining an activity if your sole purpose for joining is to meet menWhat activities did you try? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 03:03 AM |
| 12 | Green Flag BaitYou are ruthless! Love it. 😈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 08:19 PM |
| 9 | Green Flag Bait“Yeah, I mean, I’m a nice guy.” Ha! 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 08:18 PM |
| 29 | Green Flag BaitOooooo, the travelling a lot. Yep. There is a type for sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 06:34 PM |
| 13 | Green Flag BaitExactly! We all know social media isn’t real life... even men can play that game. This last guy was so smoooooooth. I really hope Instagram never makes people’s Following list private. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 05:45 PM |
| 33 | Green Flag BaitI think it’s the combination of things that are stereotypically appealing to women that concerns me. If they are curating their feed based on “what women want” then there’s a good chance they live their life being motivated in getting women. It’s got that Pick Up Artist kind of vibe, it’s effortful and intentional with women as the goal in mind. Which is weird to me when it’s on Instagram. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 05:44 PM |
| 23 | Green Flag BaitHahaha, oops, I could see that. I think that’s why I put in the note about reading it as a whole. Too perfect and too nice could be a red flag. It’s kind of like profile love bombing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 05:33 PM |
| 2 | GOOD NEWS! I went to see what teen Redditers talk about, saw this. Comments include links to the NYT Pornhub article & others saying they’re quitting too. Collective consciousness for the win! 💕I had to delete this snd repost it without the username in the picture!! Sorry! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 02:19 AM |
| 5 | GOOD NEWS! I went to see what teen Redditers talk about, saw this. Comments include links to the NYT Pornhub article & others saying they’re quitting too. Collective consciousness for the win! 💕It’s sadly not uncommon for kids to be exposed to porn by 12 or 13... there’s zero regulation online for it right now and all it takes is a “buddy” to tell them about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 01:54 AM |
| 39 | Went on a lot of coffee dates in my pickme days.. never again!My last dinner date asked me to build him an e-commerce website for free. I feigned the inability to do so and he went on and on about me underestimating my skills. Ah... no thanks. I’ll just pay for my dinner if that’s the transaction happening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 11:01 PM |
| 3 | I love Reductress. They cover a range of topics, I just grabbed ones I thought you all would like. 👏Check out their website! https://reductress.com/post/im-not-looking-for-anything-serious-says-man-who-will-rely-on-you-for-all-his-emotional-support/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 03:20 PM |
| 2 | I love Reductress. They cover a range of topics, I just grabbed ones I thought you all would like. 👏You’re welcome! They crack me up all the time. 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 03:16 PM |
| 11 | NEVER call a man attractive to his face.He must have forgot to veer left to the approaching wall. Guess men aren’t better drivers after all. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 01:23 AM |
| 11 | Smelly scrotesAlso Vaping! Some guys secretly vape and I swear that stuff leeks out of their pores all day. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 12:58 PM |
| -1 | Do men that dont watch/dislike porn even exist?My father had to quarantine with me for 14 days. We’ve always been close but things got pretty hilarious near the end. One day he got up from the couch to go have a smoke and said “what is up with porn these days!??? What’s with all the anal?!!!” I cackled and we had a funny chat about how bad porn has gotten. My dad is a solid guy. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 10:11 PM |
| 3 | It’s tragic seeing women like this. You know how this story ends. But you can’t save them. If you want a relationship avoid these disgusting men and don’t give anyone sex before committing you poor, poor fool.“Learning how to cook, being bubbly” 🤢🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 11:24 PM |
| 3 | Let's talk birth controlI had a similar experience. Told them I could feel it, it hurt, and when they finally agreed to remove it, my body instantly was flooded with a feeling of relief. It felt amazing to finally have it out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 11:05 PM |
| 3 | For the love of God be careful about things we've been conditioned to feel good about.☝️ THIS! I used to go to electronic dance parties and one of the “photographers” would always follow me around all night taking photos. He would egg me on to pose for the camera incessantly. Then he’d tag 25+ pictures of me posing with complete strangers at a party that was all of 2 hours of my life... The worst part is that many photos would include men being... well... kind of handsy with me. 😬 I finally went through and untagged myself in all of them. It was surprisingly cathartic! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 11:08 AM |
| 7 | For the love of God be careful about things we've been conditioned to feel good about.One of my previous guy friends literally started his Instagram to show his ex fiancé how great his life was without her. He regularly weaponizes his posts to send subtle messages to the people in his life instead of actually talking to them about the problem. He’s 35, it’s sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 10:58 AM |
| 8 | For the love of God be careful about things we've been conditioned to feel good about.What!?!? Engineers being condescending?!? No way! 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 10:53 AM |
| 5 | All the comments are “omg this is literally my husband 😂❤️”. What a joke.I confessed to my ex about my hardship with depression and suicide... He responded by telling me that it’s okay, it won’t bother him, after all... he has an ex wife and three daughters, so don’t worry he’ll be able to “handle me”. It was so disheartening. Here I was being vulnerable and sharing a deep dark secret and he brushes it off as nothing more than lady hormones. Instead of having a deep connective discussion, he took one of the most defining parts of my life and acted like it was nothing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 09:57 PM |
| 5 | What if men aren’t actually bad at sex, what if they just enjoy hurting women?I’ve been trying to teach a new guy and every time I think he gets it he goes back to something else. I did the same thing, made the motion I like on the back of his hand, a side to side action. A minute later and he’s tapping/vibrating violently and I’m just like... 🤬 Maybe we should pretend we suck at blowjobs, force them to “teach us” and then when we have to do the same it softens the blow to their egos? 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 08:44 PM |
| 7 | What if men aren’t actually bad at sex, what if they just enjoy hurting women?My brother-in-law once gave his mother a birthday card with a list of 30 reasons she is the best mom. One was “You could take a donkey punch from Mike Tyson.” Literally WTF. That’s his mother. He’s 34, obsessed with video games, and only moved out this year. 100%scrote | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 08:39 PM |
| 7 | What if men aren’t actually bad at sex, what if they just enjoy hurting women?☝️THIS! Omg. Yes. I’ve experienced this. They are intermittently soft, can’t keep it hard the entire time but undoubtedly when they start being rough, raunchy, aggressive, fast, and/or I’m being submissive, suddenly it’s rock hard. This is such a sad realization... 😳 Maybe that’s the reason I thought I preferred rougher sex... it’s not the roughness; it’s the fact it was the only time he’d truly be hard... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 08:36 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on being friends/hanging out with men who see you as more than a friend?I was friends with a guy for 14 years and everything was platonic the entire time. Obviously we wouldn’t hang out as much when the other person got in a relationship but to me that didn’t seem unusual. At one point when I was in a really tough spot and finally had a good guy as a boyfriend. Really attractive, super smart, kind, funny, the whole package. After him and another guy friend met him they BOTH got really weird around me... like moody/bitchy all the time. While at an event I was talking… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 08:05 PM |
| 6 | Potential Red Flag QuestionsI had a video chat with a guy who asked me if I get Botox or fillers. I called him out and told him that that was a terrible question to be asking any woman ever. He said he talks about it with girls all the time. I turned it around and said I’ll answer your question if you tell me how often you watch porn. He didn’t like my question. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 12:56 AM |
| 2 | I disappointed myselfIt’s okay! Changing up your sexual rhythm will take time. I had the same struggle. My tip is to spend more time together in non sexual environments. Plan daytime dates, outdoor activities, outings, and anything else away from the home that you can. Have him over to hang out but mention you have to be up early in the morning and he can’t stay. See if the entire night can go without any sexy times. Be sure though to leave him knowing YOU would want to do more too... your not teasing him or withhol… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 12:42 AM |
| 4 | It’s been a week...Omg “business drag”. I will definitely be repeating that. It feels like putting on a costume but there’s a ton of power in wearing a uniform. It’s like when people put on sports attire before playing a game. It gets your head in the right zone and improves performance. Maybe there’s a way you can find a business attire you enjoy. It’s a tricky combo to find the right power style while adding your own personal touch but it’s so worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 08:31 PM |
| 8 | It’s been a week...Get glasses. I’m not even joking. I used to wear glasses and got lasik, I’m aware of how people treat me differently. It happens to men too in terms of agism. My dad had this problem in his 20’s, no one was respecting him, he grew a beard, problem solved. It’s stupid but it works. People will believe what you show them and media has still programmed many to think people with glasses are nerds, smarter or somehow more mature. I wish we could write the rules ourselves, but until we can, imma explo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 04:57 PM |
| 16 | Dating as a woman irl: low effort coffee dates and disappointing sexMen that I’ve had 2-4 dates with before telling them we aren’t a good match have actually said lovely things to me afterwards. One in person said “thank you” (because I didn’t ghost) and two others sent compliments and best regards texts. We’re all in this together. Quality men are nice even when rejected. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 07:54 PM |
| 3 | Do we look young for our age or is it the patriarchy?Absolutely! I was dating a guy five years younger than me and when people found out there was a five year difference they thought I was the younger one and he was the older one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Do we look young for our age or is it the patriarchy?🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 02:02 AM |
| 4 | Do we look young for our age or is it the patriarchy?I agree with this but once you’re over 30 it’s pretty irrelevant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 04:46 PM |
| 4 | Do we look young for our age or is it the patriarchy?Omg you are awesome. So matter of fact. I don’t want to become that woman. That woman that craves the compliments on her appearance vs. her age. I’ve said so many compliments like this to women and their gitty reactions are truly both cute and sad. We are living in a strange world. I once had a woman I’d just met suddenly say loudly to me so everyone could hear “I have tattoos older than you.” Ummmm... okay? Are you feeling weird because a younger woman is garnering attention and you’re feeling … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 04:44 PM |
| 4 | Do we look young for our age or is it the patriarchy?I LOVE These! Let’s add: - I’m 444 months old. - Fun fact, my 100th birthday will be on a Tuesday! - Omg fun question. What grade are you in? (Kinda mean and sarcastic but...) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 04:38 PM |
| 5 | Do we look young for our age or is it the patriarchy?Ha! I like the old Englishness of this. I get immortal vampire vibes. 🧛♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 04:33 PM |
| 4 | Do we look young for our age or is it the patriarchy?I think you’re right. That’s part of the problem. The reason for asking this question is because they’re trying to suss out if I’m appropriately aged for them to sleep with? Which in some ways is good, especially for people in their early 20’s but I don’t look THAT young and we were in a bar. It just goes to show that their reason for asking is because their first thoughts of me are “can I sleep with her?” And that in and of itself kind of sucks. 😕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 04:32 PM |
| 23 | Do we look young for our age or is it the patriarchy?The lesbian moms look terrific. Random Person: “What’s your secret to looking so young?” Lesbian: “Orgasms.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 04:24 PM |
| 1 | I'd rather be a cat lady than to have a miserable life with a LVM“I don’t have to try to sleep next to a human foghorn.” 🤣🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 09:21 PM |
| 2 | Ah yes, because unsolicited touching gets us ready to be raped 🤮Nope nope nope. I had a long time coworker drive my roommate and I home one afternoon. When he went to hug her goodbye it was quick and short like a “Bro hug” with back tapping and everything. When he hugged me he lingered awkwardly for multiple seconds. I was so grossed out I nearly shuttered in his arms. My roommate later said “you need to talk to that guy, he definitely likes you!” It sucked that I had to be the one to bring it up and finally tell him “no” I wasn’t interested. He never asked … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 03:11 PM |
| 8 | DO NOT SHARE YOUR TRAUMA: Men will turn your pain into entertainment, or a way to get another woman.This is why I stopped spending time with a male friend. He’s an older guy that told me how he was “helping” a twenty something girl get through her previous sexual trauma. I couldn’t stand to look at him after he texted a long winded description of pressing her against the wall, forcing a kiss on her, and pulling her hair. It was so disturbing. He’s like 65. Instead of being a supportive father figure, he got horny. 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 01:33 AM |
| 5 | Take a wild guess as to why he suddenly sprung this on her...Sounds like my ex. “I love you, you’re amazing, it’s okay, you haven’t hit the wall yet, and I still love you.” Ummmmmm... thanks for the conditional love. Byyyyyyeeeeee! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 05:40 PM |
| 5 | My mother never taught me how to be a woman.I dunno, I disagree. Spoke to my cousin today and she told me how it happened with her husband. It was all very casual of course but at the end of the day it was a negotiation. Both parties talk about their vision for the future, what they want, how the house should run, who will do what. Any disagreements are discussed until to conclusion. It’s smarter to discuss these things up front. Otherwise we risk a marriage on the wim of our emotions. Without negotiating our wants and needs in advice we … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 05:03 AM |
| 15 | My mother never taught me how to be a woman.I truly hope so!! I can dress the part but as soon as I open my mouth... the jig is up. I’m never going to be soft spoken, it’s not in me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 01:16 AM |
| 33 | My mother never taught me how to be a woman.😢 You’re here with us now. You’re in a safe space and can be as feminine or as not as you want to be!! We’re in this together. 💗💗💗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 01:00 AM |
| 6 | My mother never taught me how to be a woman.Love it!! When you say polygels, do you mean you do your nails yourself? Like not stick on but gel nails that keep for 3 weeks or so?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 12:58 AM |
| 23 | My mother never taught me how to be a woman.As a reformed Tomboy everything you just said hits right home for me. It’s so much work to maintain status quo. Makeup, hair, nails, well dressed, etc. I refuse to do lashes or lip injections. What if I can’t keep it up? What if I make new friends and they would drop me if I changed back? It’s gross. I think the jury is still out on this one for me. So far I’m getting WAY better treatment by dressing up daily, so I’m going to stick it out. It’s getting easier the more I do it, so that’s good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 11:47 PM |
| 35 | My mother never taught me how to be a woman.“How to behave in social situations” YES!!! I’ve been watching etiquette videos all year. I know it but it’ll take YEARS to internalize. It would’ve been nice to have the early knowledge at least so I’m not nearly halfway through life still trying to figure this all out. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 11:33 PM |
| 7 | Reminder: You are allowed to reject a man for any reason you chooseI feel like this story should be it’s own post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Lowkey can't wait for my hair to turn gray 👀I’m actually sad that my mom is 65 and only has a handful of grey hairs. I may never get to go Grey before 80. 😕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 06:06 PM |
| 7 | Why is she cleaning his apartment before she moves in?Even the dog is confused by this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 07:37 PM |
| 2 | Seeing everything through the lens of FDSJesus! I’m sorry but don’t we get extra credit for the all the men that we fend off? EDIT: OMG. I HAVE A NEW FLAIR! 😆😁🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 04:28 PM |
| 2 | Seeing everything through the lens of FDSRight!?! It doesn’t make sense with her character at all. Ahhh. Love. It’s blind... Because it’ll stab you right in the eyes so you can’t see what’s happening right in front of you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 03:59 AM |
| 9 | Idk if this has already been uploaded here BUT THE ACCURACY☝️ This. Honestly that is such solid advice. I have also done the beauty YouTube rabbit hole and some of the skin care influencers can be the worst. It’s really shocking to me the number of creams, treatments, procedures and more that are available these days. There seems to be an endless number of “problems” that women should be trying to solve. Like WTF, we’re injecting fillers into our temples now??? It’s very much that the industry creates a problem we never would have noticed and then marke… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 10:42 AM |
| 8 | Did it ever hit you that in your pickme days you didn’t date one man who was “your type” and you dropped your standards of physical attraction so much?You’re safe here. 💗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 10:14 PM |
| 55 | Idk if this has already been uploaded here BUT THE ACCURACYI agree with everything you said. I’ve opted to start following older women online. Looking up women who are growing out their gray hair and liking their posts while selecting “not interested” in other overedited or teenage girls posts has started changing my algorithm. I’ve already noticed a difference in when I open up my Instagram and how it makes me feel. 💗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 08:23 PM |
| 9 | Random Things That Are An Immediate Swipe LeftOmg!!! Right?!?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 06:02 PM |
| 13 | Random Things That Are An Immediate Swipe LeftI had one guy his profile said he was 30 but then his description said he was 36 and that he didn’t know how to change it. His career listing: software developer in tech Suuuuuure. So you are good with computers but can’t figure out how to change your age? Pfffft. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 06:02 PM |
| 29 | Imagine being this much of a pathetic degenerate. 🤢🤢🤢Weird so they continued having sex with someone who clearly wasn’t enjoying it? Yep rapists. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 03:15 PM |
| 43 | NYT Journalist Nicholas Kristof, whose article exposed Pornhub and instigated the unverified video Purge, has set his sights on Reddit. Reddit ALSO hosts underage rape videos, involuntary porn, pedophilic content, and extreme sexualized violence with zero verification.Is it bad that your story makes me want to become an expat with a dozen wigs, disguises, and a sleek purse sized pistol? 😡😏😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 10:23 PM |
| 44 | Male Attention isn’t A Prize! (Letting go of male validation 2021)This is true. I overheard ex buddies of mine both talking about an ugly woman they had both had sex with. They laughed about it and made fun of each other over how gross she was. A man wanting to have sex with you means nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 07:49 PM |
| 0 | I literally don’t even have wordsHow old are you if you don’t mind me asking? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 05:38 PM |
| 7 | I literally don’t even have wordsI dunno... all of it feels very different. The culture of dating has changed. Hook up culture is rampant and the mindset of even normal none violent men has changed. The bar of the average has been lowered and it’s become common place for a man to assume that if you’re in his bed, sex is happening. Never before did I have men so awkwardly poke around at me with themselves and repeatedly attempt to “slip it in” without so much as asking or checking. Let alone the fact that the only guy in ten yea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 05:37 PM |
| 201 | I literally don’t even have words10 years ago you could go to a man’s house and have a nice conversation all night and never be expected to do anything physical. This was my entire high school, college, and university experience. I graduated in 2007. This rapey treatment of women NEEDS to stop. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 04:01 AM |
| 25 | Men Don’t Romance. I Don’t Fuck.The same thing happened to me! When he did finally say I love you, he said “I love you...... I just thought you needed to hear that.” WTF? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 03:52 AM |
| 2 | I’m really crying over an LVM on Christmas... someone talk some sense to me.A suggestion to OP. Copy and paste this post into a word document and make it into a numbered list of each shitty thing he did to you. More memories will pop into your head as you format what you already have here. Then anytime you think of him fondly, refer to your list. I like to drink wine and laugh maniacally while I read my exes list. 🤣😂😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 11:20 PM |
| 9 | The comments from pickmes saying no one can judge this girl’s relationship hurt me. Never give the benefit of the doubt because men are opportunistic. Having no boundaries doesn’t mean you’re not insecure.Yeah. They’re great friends till you’re dating, then they get all pissy. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 06:38 PM |
| 2 | Got the proposal just shy of our 1 year anniversary! Cheers to never settling 🥂Me too!! I love positive posts! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 06:07 PM |
| 2 | mAyBe hE’s JUsT tOo dEpReSsEd tO wIpEI ran into him at a bar not to long ago (20 years later). Still doesn’t look like he showers... 😟 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 05:56 PM |
| 1 | Men would be terrified of “sexual compatibility” if the concept was reciprocal/if the woman’s sexual satisfaction mattered, and if men faced the same risks to test ‘sexual compatibility’.Wow that sounds oddly similar to my ex male friends labeling their ex girlfriends as being bipolar or having borderline personality disorder. No sweetheart; you’re just an asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 06:02 AM |
| 2 | Unique struggles of dating and vetting as a plus-sized FDSerIs there anything specific to look forum terms of fetishizing? I have an acquaintance I’m interested in, his ex was my size (I’m a tiny white woman with A cups) but a few years ago he was interested in a curvy black burlesque dancer. He was too vanilla for her she said. (Which I am keen for after a pornsick ex, vanilla sounds lovely right now) I’m worried that the burlesque dancer might be more of what he is attracted to... which obviously I can’t provide the same aesthetic at all... I did just … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 05:10 AM |
| 5 | What are your dealbreakers?My ex LVM friend likes to post pictures of his bookshelf on his Instagram stories ever so often. He had the same six books he raved about 15 years ago when we first met. He literally hasn’t read anything since... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 04:56 AM |
| 8 | Delusional older men 🤢Oh thank God... I though I was a creep. A lot of guys also hit preverbal wall in their 30’s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 04:01 AM |
| 6 | I’m really crying over an LVM on Christmas... someone talk some sense to me.This is why I’m terrified to have sex with someone new. I don’t want to get trapped in another situation that’s going to take over a year to heal from. 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 02:01 AM |
| 13 | Scrote refuses to acknowledge true intentions (even to himself) and abandons personal standards to cheat on wife.Jesus; get a hobby!!!! Why do men always think they can fix their mid-life crisis with another women’s vagina? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 12:53 AM |
| 13 | mAyBe hE’s JUsT tOo dEpReSsEd tO wIpEA stoner friend of mine in high school told me about an oh so funny story of him not showering for over a month to see how long it would take for his girlfriend to dump him because he didn’t have the balls to do it himself. He still expected blowjobs of course. Har har. Sooooo funny! 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 12:46 AM |
| 28 | I just realizedI used to have a guy friend who at 32 took months trying to get a 23 year old to finally date him. When we chatted about it he said the same thing. “Women in their 30’s expect you to own a place.” Rather than stepping up he just wasted his money and dates younger. Now he’s renting a shitty apartment with another guy in his 30’s and the drink and play video games together. It’s a match made in heaven. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 07:41 AM |
| 99 | I just realizedI love when people say, “just wait till you’re 30” I’m 37. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 02:01 AM |
| 11 | Some women will risk their own health just so they would satisfy their LVM dirty fantasiesIt is absolutely predatory, I’ve been on both sides of it... with a boyfriend who was obsessed with trying to find a third... and being the other girl who was coerced into something I never would have done if not for their set up. A set up that included hiding my purse and keys from me so I couldn’t leave the party at a house miles away from the city... 😕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 05:45 AM |
| 2 | This touched my soul. I'm hoping you ladies love it, too: "Ask Polly: Why Don’t the Men I Date Ever Truly Love Me?"My ex was so terrified of love I saw in his search history (alongside porn viewings) that he had Googled “How to fall out of love” I wish now that I hadn’t seen that, it made me stay longer... 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 06:59 PM |
| 3 | Share FDS with your girlfriends today!Oh! Good thinking!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 04:52 PM |
| 5 | Share FDS with your girlfriends today!Erg. Yeah the cam girls are reeeeeaaaaalllly reluctant. I have a friend who started with cramming and has since gone full blown stripper and keeps multiple BDSM boyfriends at once. I don’t know how she has any time to herself between servicing each of them. Not everyone can be saved. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 04:51 PM |
| 4 | Share FDS with your girlfriends today!Addicting is so true. I’ve deleted the Reddit app a few times to take breaks... but it always brings me back. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 04:48 PM |
| 13 | “I don’t even like banana laffy taffys”Laffy Taffy!! I am so here for the inside jokes. 🤣 Love you girls, after the pandemic let’s throw a meet up party in a field. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 03:41 AM |
| 6 | Share FDS with your girlfriends today!This! Yes. I am in the same boat with a girlfriend. She is a full on Kinkmesha and it drives me nuts to watch her suffer. If I see something I’ll post it here. Might even be good to send a few memes/photos over time. Then if she brings it up in person, remind her of the forum. Phrase it as “a good laugh” rather than the completely mind-blowing ideological shift that it truly is. 👌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 03:37 AM |
| 5 | Share FDS with your girlfriends today!Yaaaaaaaaaaas! 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 03:33 AM |
| 3 | I keep coming back to the anger in my stages of GriefIt’s been nearly 5 years since my ex and although I still have memories of his cruel comments.... NOW I actually find them funny. It took awhile to reframe things. I needed to step back and accept how his brain works. That his view of the world is completely unlike mine and that with his view... I know for absolute fact he will be grumpy for the rest of his life. Now that I see how sad and pitiful his world must be to see things the way he does, his words no longer hurt me. 😁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 03:41 AM |
| 26 | Another Failed Flex from the LibFem Logic Files“Sex is just sex to me, it’s not that deep.” Things people say when they are repeatedly having bad sex... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 03:10 AM |
| 5 | Just wanted to give praise & power to the pussyCongrads!!! How they are intimate with you matters, not good at kissing, no sex, don’t eat pussy, no sex, bad at pleasing, no sex. 🤷🏻♀️ EDIT: Why? Because if they aren’t good at any of those things... the sex will be just as disappointing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 11:48 PM |
| 22 | The guy “friend” who secretly likes youI’ll second that! There also seems to be some correlation between celiac disease and endometriosis. You may find your endo symptoms are lessened from going on a gluten-free diet, especially bloating. 👌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 05:31 AM |
| 15 | A small one, but a red flag nonethelessHoly hell exactly! I was once hit on by a 22-year-old, I was 36 at the time. After I explained to him how old I was and that I wasn’t interested he continued to pursue saying “but you look great!“ As if him finding me attractive was the issue there. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 02:08 AM |
| 51 | Negative reviews of FDS on YouTubeExactly! Ultimately if some of the rules or ideas don't sit well with someone that's fine. Viewers need to look through this content, read the manual, keep what serves them, and leave what doesn't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 11:20 PM |
| 62 | Damn Shiva Safai (40 y.o) broke up last year with Mohammed Hadid (72 y.o) and a few weeks later she got together with Niels Houweling (28 y.o). Niels proposed within a year and she got married last October.OP can I make an edit request to remove the part about wasting her beautiful years? It supports internalized misogyny. She wasted years on him but she is still beautiful. 🙌💗 EDIT: Thank you! 👌😃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 08:40 PM |
| 17 | The realities of legalizing sex workIt’s ok... I laugh when I think about it too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 07:59 PM |
| 60 | The realities of legalizing sex workI know a girl who when asked at a border crossing what she did for work replied honestly and said “I’m a prostitute “. She was convinced that this was a fine answer to share and her sex work was legitimate. She lived in a community of friends that acted as an echo chamber that created a false “bubble” from current reality. She was declined entry and banned from entering the country for five years. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 07:10 PM |
| 13 | What are the signs a man is pornsick?I call it the “Death Grip” 💪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 09:09 PM |
| 29 | Heard by my senior at work: Men don’t leave unless they already have another women waitingUnbeknownst to me I have literally been the girl guys have broken up with girlfriends for... except I wasn’t remotely into either of them. For some reason smiling and being nice to a guy means you clearly want to sleep with them. 🤦🏻♀️ Just another reason why I have sworn off having any male friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 02:15 AM |
| 13 | Could your lack of sexual interest in your man actually be the result of hidden contempt?You had me at the title. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 05:14 AM |
| 7 | What does FDS think of this short story? This dude was lurking outside her apartment, negged her outfit, and wasn't able to be patient while she dealt with her issues on her own terms and timelineStalker vibes... if they broke up why is he hanging around her place... why move a block away?!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 06:46 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020The fact that you used the word smirk is evidence enough for me. That’s a very specific type of energy... and it never ends well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 08:06 AM |
| 12 | The Value of Block and DeleteGod they are so weird... coming to YOUR space and then dissing you. Like, go away already! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 11:54 PM |
| 6 | The Value of Block and DeleteWhat kind of arguments? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 09:38 PM |
| 17 | The Value of Block and DeleteArg. I’m so sorry that happened. Happy you are on this side of the fence now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 09:37 PM |
| 56 | The Value of Block and DeleteI remember seeing a guy post about “if she talks to her exes you should be worried because any one of those guys could come back and have a chance with her again.” From the horses mouth... that is their goal... Keep us available indefinitely... Nope nope nope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 07:01 PM |
| 65 | The Value of Block and DeleteArg. Give them an inch and they take a mile. I hate how I used to believe it was a mark of success or maturity to stay friends with an ex. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 06:53 PM |
| 7 | Joining FDS, I found it a bit weird that men couldn't comment. Joining r/TwoXChromosomes, I realised how fucking good the rule isWhat’s PPD? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 12:15 AM |
| 3 | No, unicorn, you’re a douche and please correct your age and put your own photo, thanks.This is my face right now. 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 06:13 PM |
| 3 | No, unicorn, you’re a douche and please correct your age and put your own photo, thanks.Omg I died laughing when you put “gay avatar”. What!?! 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 05:40 PM |
| 2 | Celebrated my favorite season autumn and one year of being happily single (after an abusive breakup) by cooking chicken khowsuey, baking caramel apple cheesecake bars, whole-wheat apple spice cake for myself❤️🍁🍂 happy autumn!Wow. I didn’t expect such a detailed response. Thank you!! 🍁🍂❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 04:41 PM |
| 17 | This girl on tiktok reading LVM dating profiles 😂Did it say ENGINEER. BAHAHAHAHA!! Omg I’m just going to die laughing now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 04:56 AM |
| 8 | What hard lessons did you learn over the years through dating?Wtf? What a middle schooler. The word ‘ex’ is truly a beautiful word. 😁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 06:40 PM |
| 2 | Celebrated my favorite season autumn and one year of being happily single (after an abusive breakup) by cooking chicken khowsuey, baking caramel apple cheesecake bars, whole-wheat apple spice cake for myself❤️🍁🍂 happy autumn!How do you love the autumn? I am trying to fall in love with fall. What are the things you love about it and get you excited? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 03:28 PM |
| 34 | What hard lessons did you learn over the years through dating?My ex literally made a ‘joke’ about why he was always so insulting. “I just need to keep you down with just enough insecurity so you won’t leave me.” Harharhar. He said it with a smile and playful pat on the head. Listen when they speak ladies, their jokes are not jokes in the least. EDIT: p.s. I’m now his “the one that got away” and regularly hear from mutual friends about how he still hopes we’ll get back together. 🤣😁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 03:11 PM |
| 3 | HVW Hitting Some Roadblocks, help me keep leveling up!I can second this! I have an ex friend who would notoriously post photos of her and her boyfriend and post about how great he was. It was always right after they had had a big fight. In truth she was miserable and crying herself to sleep most nights. What people post on social media is often only a sliver of their real life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 06:27 PM |
| 2 | List of men with jobs to avoid. Please bear in mind that women in these jobs could be fine, as we are socially conditioned to continuously work on self-improvement, whereas men are not. I’ll start the list in comments, please contribute.I second this. The guy was a mess when it came to expressing emotions. He was constantly negative and everyone (including me) did everything wrong ALL THE TIME. A lot of engineers have Aspergers, I have no doubt he did as well. But hey, at least he’s working hard to pay off his mortgage and save for that retirement he’ll also be miserable for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 01:39 PM |
| 29 | So... This got me thinking lolYes on the lower income emasculation. There’s no way around it. I travelled with a hippie fellow for awhile in my twenties and essentially ended up a sugar momma. He couldn’t afford to do any activities so if I wanted to do something I’d have to pay for both of us or just reserve myself to sitting on the beach all day. At least he was an attentive lover, so not all bad. 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 02:41 PM |
| 2 | FDS turned me gay🤣🤣🤣 I was literally pondering this the other day for myself. I don’t think I’m a lesbian but at this point a nice person is a nice person. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 02:34 PM |
| 19 | Matchmaking servicesTHIS! I was sent an attractive match right after signing up but then the date never happened. The rest of my dates were unappealing men. I felt like it was a bait and switch tactic honestly and wouldn’t be surprised if my first match was actually a fake profile. 😕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 7 2020You absolutely did the right thing. Stay strong sister. Always remember you got better things ahead and that we don’t dig through our old trash. 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 05:06 AM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 7 2020Three things I experienced today. A Facebook message with “SIGH you removed me from your friends list?” Ok Mr. Melodrama. We met at a party once, you Facebooked me the photo you captured of me and then we haven’t communicated since then... a year and a half ago. Yeah. I unfriended you. I’m assuming he was looking for my profile when he noticed but can still use messenger apparently. Literally 4 out of 8 of my friend requests are dudes I haven’t seen in years... like over a decade. Turns out 3 of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 04:56 AM |
| 2 | Man from high school that you haven’t seen in 20 years is texting youI kid you not, I had three of my ex-boyfriend’s contact me when lockdown hit. It was a matter of two weeks of being alone and they started messaging me. One texted, one sent a message on Facebook, and one sent me an email. This was a good lesson for me to realize the importance and value of ending a relationship FULLY by removing all points of contact and blocking. They aren’t bad guys... but get the memo, it’s over. EDIT: and one of them was from 18 YEARS ago!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 06:06 PM |
| 10 | Types of PickMes and how to heal your inner oneAgreed! This is quality content right here. 👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 03:29 PM |
| 6 | FDS hitting 100k but men STILL be like...Please. A coffee table book. 🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 03:16 AM |
| -7 | I’m quitting birth control.EDITED: Agreed with comments below. Removed a portion. I’ve gone off birth control multiple times in my life and honestly it’s always the timeframes in which I have had the most clarity and emotional stability. UPDATE: If you are going off birth control be sure to establish understanding with a potential partner so they know that condoms are a MUST for you. I would also stress not to drink alcohol with someone until you are confident they can follow this boundary. There are men that will genuine… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 04:41 AM |
| 4 | He didn’t show up, it was one of my best dates ever.Wow. You’re right. I would NEVER do that to someone. Wouldn’t even cross my mind to stand someone up. It’s genuinely hard for me to imagine that people think maliciously because the concept of hurting others is so foreign to me... It’s honestly fascinating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 07:24 PM |
| 27 | He didn’t show up, it was one of my best dates ever.I DID get dessert! I got it to go and went home, where I ran an epson salt bath, and soaked in the tub while watching one of my favourite shows and enjoying chocolate mousse. 👌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 03:01 PM |
| 10 | Style Tips and Resources for Leveling UpIs Shein actually good/decent clothing?? I love their looks but have been afraid to order as I’m worried about the quality. 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 01:25 AM |
| 6 | Help to dissolve the Disney fantasy.🤣🤣🤣 You are awesome. Ummmmm... yes please. 😈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 01:32 AM |
| 10 | Help to dissolve the Disney fantasy.I’ve looked in the SMBC group several times. Those women are very inspiring! I don’t know if I could emotionally handle a pregnancy and a child on my own... I know I could do it but being exhausted for 13+ is a lot to manage... Adoption is still on the table. I could even do it at a much older age too, which is nice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 09:43 PM |
| 5 | How many of you ladies are childfree?Thank you for this. 🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 11:29 AM |
| 17 | I bet he’s fun at partiesUmmm... I’m sorry he says men don’t need women? If you’re using religion for your argument don’t forget that it was Adams inability to live on his own that made God create Eve. Women literally exist because men are incapable of living without them. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 11:39 PM |
| 2 | How I Deliberately Revamped my OLD Profile to Attract HVM and Deter LVM (Example Profile and Rational Included)This is all excellent! I love the vetting of insecure guys by mentioning your calves. I include that I’m a home owner, I wonder if it would have a similar effect? 🤔 I think the ball picture can actually act as a good “control” photo. If somebody makes a lewd comment you immediately know where they’re coming from versus a gentleman would ask normal questions like “where was that photo taken?” without making any sexual references. Giving them the window to be crude and having them not take it, spe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 06:25 PM |
| 5 | That’s enough Reddit for me today! Off to give my ‘female brain’ a little restJesus! Does he have Aspergers? He sounds like a robot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 04:56 PM |
| 2 | Thought you ladies might like this take on the trendThank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 11:00 PM |
| 6 | Am I right to skip this date tomorrow?A lot of men are interested in younger women because a healthy, accomplished, 30 year old woman would straight up laugh at this man’s lack of growth and progress in his life. 🤷🏻♀️ Don’t kid yourself, I literally have a 32 year-old friend who is dating a 23 year old girl because and I quote “30 year-old women expect me to own a home, so I just date younger.” He is literally not willing to step up to the plate (in all areas of his life) so he instead just goes after 20 somethings... 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 10:55 PM |
| 12 | Thought you ladies might like this take on the trendWho is she? Does she have an Instagram? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 12:13 AM |
| 101 | I want a nicer bodyAnd when you feel good about that nicer body go buy yourself a sexy as F satin slip to wear JUST FOR SLEEPING because you’re so damn beautiful you’re even gorgeous when you sleep. 🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 06:26 PM |
| 29 | Why do so many men claim to be into carpentry?Had a quick coffee date with a guy who I think was literally intentionally trying to appear smart. He kept telling me how “into psychology” he was. I have it listed as an interest in my profile. When I asked him about what books or podcasts or psychologists he had absolutely no answer for me. He then told me he loves reading classic literature and told me about some rare book I’d never heard of that he read but when I asked him about other famous works he not only hadn’t read them but also had n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 02:08 AM |
| 3 | Are there any 30+ women in this sub who don't intend to marry? Care to share your thoughts/experiences?Omg. Miss Honey was the best!! 💗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 01:44 PM |
| 8 | I’m a bi woman, and a pickme just violated meI’m so sorry this happened to you. Couples like that piss me off. I’m a straight female and have been prayed upon by couples before... sometimes it’s been enjoyable... other times it was downright predatory. Serious respect to you for following your instincts and choosing to meet in a public space. I’ve started refusing drinks on the first few dates to avoid any risk of the lowered inhibitions that might promote sexual interactions with others before I’m done vetting them. It’s helping. I also f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 12:53 PM |
| 9 | How do I make more female friends? I rely too much on attention from male "friends" and that needs to change.I had your same problem. ANSWER: Bumble BFF Chat, meet, and vet them as you would a guy. Avoid red flags, people with bad habits, party girls, pickmeishas, etc. Continue meeting new women regularly until you have 3-5 solid girlfriends. Now is the best time ever for using Bumble BFF before it’s more popular. Everyone on there are either moms looking to connect or independent women JUST like us that are tired of their low effort friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 05:12 PM |
| 4 | It’s the only way.Yep... Holding a jug, pouring gas directly on the fire which results in the fire shooting up and lighting the entire container on fire. They throw it down in a panic. “Omg! What??! How did this happen?!? Why?!? Life isn’t fair!” 😭 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 04:01 AM |
| 15 | Third date adviceIt might be time to do a daytime date that is a physical activity or that involves interacting with the world as a pair. You clearly connect well one on one. This date can help you see if you connect while interacting with your environment and tackling other challenges. You could try a sport together, rock climbing, a hike, an art gallery, an arcade, walk around a cute part of town, etc. I stress that you should do this in the daytime and without any alcohol. As it’s a third date you want to avo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 02:05 AM |
| 7 | He didn’t call me for our first “online date” so I blocked& unmatched him. He messaged me on whatsapp- should I give him a chance?Who isn’t smart enough to have a phone charger in their car? 🤷🏻♀️ Nope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 03:35 AM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 8 2020Wow. Just wow. I’ve recently starting vetting guys a lot more via messaging. I only keep ones that answer in paragraphs, ask me questions, replying in a timely manner, and we genuinely already have things in common. I’m doing way fewer video chats but the quality is more consistent. Stay safe. 💗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 06:53 PM |
| 14 | FDS thoughts on starting a business with your boyfriend/significant other?Nope. It’s not only risky in terms of keeping yourself protected within the scope of your own your career but it also puts a heavy risk on your relationship. I’m an entrepreneur and when one of my exes started working from home our intimacy levels fizzled. We were doing our own jobs but the constant daily proximity effected our relationship significantly. That would be even stronger if you are working together on the same company. Relationships need some mystery to stay alive so you need to have… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 05:13 PM |
| 6 | I swear men on tinder just swipe right, message me once or twice and throw their phone awayThis! 🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 03:11 AM |
| 58 | Guys who ask to be FWBs while expecting the girl to see no one else. Be careful of these types out there ladies, especially if you’re young or working on becoming more assertive.They made a typo with number 3. I fixed it. I don’t want an STD and sulk condoms don’t feel good on my inaccurately internalized penis size. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 06:56 PM |
| 24 | My car was stolen... a HVM reactionThank you for sharing this! I think it’s important we frequently also positive examples of what to look for to help us see what behavior we should expect. 💗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 11:14 PM |
| 17 | Ladies, how to react to this? Details in comments.Yes! If you are not a priority, you are on the back burner and he’s just trying to keep you warm in case other options fall through. Don’t take it personally, see it as a blessing to know you won’t waste years of your life on somebody who will treat you like this. 💗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 02:35 PM |
| 16 | Is it just me or is this crawling with red flagsTake away the splits photo. I had one up and it triggers the wrong response in men. Instead leave it as a surprise for when you meet someone that sticks. 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 01:07 AM |
| 44 | PSA: Breakups hurt but the alternative is worseI can completely relate to this. Not only would he silence me in private he would do it in public too by basically never addressing me in group conversations, talking over me, and often giving counter arguments to anything I said. At one point we were at a farmers market and he was literally flirting with a woman in front of me asking her all about kombucha and behaving like he was incredibly interested in the topic. I had been brewing kombucha for like nine months at that point. He had never wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 03:36 PM |
| 8 | Are HVM even worth it tho?“Passed off as superior logic” Wow. I felt that one. Oof. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 03:36 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/29/2020Dudeee, you CAN’T live without us, we are the table. NICE!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 02:49 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/29/2020I suppose you could also open, read, reply, "no thank you, I'm really not interested anymore", then block. At least then he might learn something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 02:45 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/29/2020Agreed! Don't even give him the chance to interrupt your day and take any energy ever again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 02:44 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/29/2020I have a friend like this... she bragged to me about having multiple dicks in her within 72 hours. All the power to ya. It grossed me out and just confirmed that we officially have almost nothing in common anymore. Know this: YOU ARE NOT WEIRD. You are just in the wrong friend group. Find some new friends and you'll feel more at home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Well, ladies, they finally figured us out. After countless research, the bros made a dating guide based on our nails.Someone with anxiety? 🤷🏻♀️ P.S. I say that because I’ve bitten my nails/cuticles my entire life and suffer from anxiety. Then I got gel nails to stop the habit, it worked. Now during quarantine I can see it’s helped reduce it and I’m maintaining them for the first time in my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 07:29 PM |
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