I just saw a post on another forum of a woman who had an ex that was refusing to move out. It had been months since they had broken up. Every time she asked him about it he would start crying and manipulate her into letting him stay there.

My old roommate did this to me too! Here’s how I handled it.

Tell him you have someone else moving in.

This is a bit of a long con so you’ll have to be lying for at least a month, possibly two.

  1. Make a post on Facebook Marketplace and share it to your personal Facebook.

  2. Talk about the messages you’re getting. Hmmm this person looks good, one person seemed awful, etc.

  3. Tell him you’re leaving the house to go have coffee with a girl who might become your new roommate.

  4. Come back excited! She sounds great and really needs this place for whatever reason.

  5. Give him a deadline time for when she moves in.

  6. Tell him he has to be out by noon the 1st.

  7. Start packing up or organizing your things to “prepare” for her arrival. Maybe sell some things you already don’t need because “she has a better one.” I literally sold my couch
 she no longer had a place to sit around and be lazy all day.

  8. Make it less pleasant for them to be there. This one is critical. For example, Turn off the internet randomly. This will annoy the crap out of him. When he asks about it say that it’s working fine for you. (Bonus if you have an Internet provider that allows you to turn off specific access to the Internet based on the devices.)

  9. Hire cleaners to come in and clean your place the day he’s supposed to leave. This will make it really uncomfortable for him as realizes he needs to get the fuck out.

In the end my roommate never actually found a place to rent. She barely looked.

She didn’t even start packing until the night before and then she called a friend crying saying she needed a place to go.

The intensity of the situation was the ONLY thing that pushed her out.

She really believed somebody was moving in and I have no doubt in my mind that she never would’ve left without that thought.

P.S. If you have an ex who is violent I don’t recommend this strategy, this is best for lazy men or ones that manipulate you to let them stay by crying and playing the victim.

Know that he might try to beg or cry right to the bitter end. Remember, crying is a form manipulation. Don’t feel bad for taking charge of your life and your living situation. It’s your home and he can’t stay there.

She was literally crying as she was walking out the door. It was hard to watch. Stay strong, it’s not right to hold somebodies home hostage.

Note: Yes, of course I agree this is completely terrible of me to do
 I normally don’t agree with lying or manipulation but it had been six months of trying to get rid of her and I was at the end of my rope. This was the most strategic, calm, and polite way for me to go about it without having things escalate and it was the only thing that worked.