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NAH, SIScatsuramen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 02:59 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYcatsuramen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 02:10 PM
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DISCUSSIONcatsuramen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:36 AM
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FDS HUMORcatsuramen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 11:18 PM
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DISCUSSIONcatsuramen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 10:40 AM
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FIELD REPORT catsuramen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 08:33 AM
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FDS HUMORcatsuramen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 08:53 AM
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DISCUSSIONcatsuramen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:34 PM
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PARENTINGcatsuramen/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 01:45 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEcatsuramen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:49 PM
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DISCUSSIONcatsuramen/r/RedPillWomen22/04/19 08:15 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEcatsuramen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:57 AM
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RELATIONSHIPScatsuramen/r/RedPillWomen16/12/19 12:07 AM
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ADVICEcatsuramen/r/RedPillWomen14/01/19 05:43 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEcatsuramen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 05:02 AM
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Question For Mencatsuramen/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 03:36 AM
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ADVICEcatsuramen/r/RedPillWomen17/06/19 01:28 AM
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catsuramen/r/RedPillWomen10/10/19 05:38 AM
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LTR/MARRIAGEcatsuramen/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 01:18 PM
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DISCUSSIONcatsuramen/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 07:25 PM
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catsuramen/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 02:17 AM
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DATING ADVICEcatsuramen/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 02:02 PM
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catsuramen/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 09:32 PM
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DATING ADVICEcatsuramen/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 11:28 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYcatsuramen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 03:18 PM
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catsuramen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 01:24 AM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEcatsuramen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 11:11 AM
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FDS TRANSLATES MENcatsuramen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:08 AM
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DISCUSSIONcatsuramen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:14 AM
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DISCUSSIONcatsuramen/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:59 PM
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DATING ADVICEcatsuramen/r/RedPillWomen07/03/20 03:07 AM
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I agree with poster above. It sounds like he is hiding something (whether it is a resentment towards an unresolved issue, affair, or guilt from an incident). If he wasnt like this and is emotionally distant now, something might have changed. You can offer him a safe space to talk about it, but can only go so far in extending an arm. Remember, it is NOT your job to mother his emotions, you cannot help a person who doesn't want to be helped. I suggest you go about your days without letting his neg…
/r/RedPillWives03/08/24 03:00 PM
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You have two nannies, one for your toddler and one for your husband
/r/RedPillWives01/08/24 12:58 PM
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One of the solutions is a CPAP machine.
/r/RedPillWives25/07/22 09:00 PM
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Single and 31, no children with a STEM doctorate. While I plan to stay single for a year in the home I own, there's so many good options out there so it is to stay single
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 10:59 PM
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I think it depends on the classification system. If classified by genetics, then the sex of baby is already determined in conception. If classified by morphology, then all babies started out as females where male characteristics are later expressed. Both aren't wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 06:24 PM
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Could she get a restraining order?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 02:43 PM
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Public restroom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 01:34 AM
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Yass. There's even a classic book about this: Lolita LVM dates mom so he can groom her young daughter. I was a teen girl when I read it and thought it was romantic, now I am disgusted by knowing better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 05:47 PM
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Wow. This was my life word for word. Thank you for writing this, it puts my past life into perspective
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 07:28 PM
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Speaking as a landlord, kicking people out as a trespasser is more expensive, drawn-out and complicated than a tenant with non-payment. The idea is why did the rightful owner allow the trespasser to stay for such a long time? For example, you can't kick a grandma out who lived in your home for years just because you feel like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 02:01 PM
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Is it just me or is the woman in the graphic looks like a clown 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 11:38 PM
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Simple men offloads complex problems onto their women and peers....and that's how they keep it simple!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:46 PM
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Yepp. This guy called himself an automotive engineer. Dude drives a bus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 07:30 AM
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Lol I knew this guy who got called out for saying he is a pharmacist at his own pharmacy when in reality he is a pharm tech at his parents' place. The other guy says he is a lawyer when in reality he studied criminal justice in community college and is unemployed now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 07:21 AM
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It's a HV trait to not be so judgemental. HV/LV is not black & white but works in a continuum. I see her as a human, someone who recognized her past & current flaws, jokes about it, and do better next time. We are not perfect and I don't expect my partner to be either. As long as we both recognized our shortcomings and willing to truly work towards the relationship, I'm okay with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 08:39 AM
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It's not he wouldn't cheat. He can't cheat because he got no options lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 01:53 PM
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If a guy had real interest in you, he would give himself a million reasons why texting/technology/logistics won't work before arriving to the conclusion that you simply not interested. Don't fall for the lukewarm and save yourself the trouble
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 02:12 AM
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Unlike what other posters suggested, I'd say instead of showing all your cards stating what YOU want, ask him what does he envision you guys future life be like. It's a futile effort to 'communicate' your non- negotiable anyways, so might as well VET VET VET his answers. Go in with your own solid expectations with a actionable plan. If you are no-no in splitting 50/50, leave if he mentions it because he isn't gonna change his mind or resent you for it. If you are okay with splitting it by contri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 02:08 AM
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good one. I love the irony of this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 02:05 PM
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Ambivalence run deep. That's why when you witness a crime, point to a specific person and say "you! Call 911!" Or "you! Get him off me!" It gives responsibility to the individual to act instead of shuffling "not me" around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 08:17 PM
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Day trading = gambling Dude needs therapy but don't be his therapist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 02:46 PM
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Have you always known you'd be a mother or were you ever on the fence before deciding having children?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 03:49 AM
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He dead but Mr. Rogers was 👌👌👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 06:50 PM
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Her: yeah, not a sugar daddy. More like a Splenda daddy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 01:49 AM
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I have to respectfully disagree. To me, pretty privilege isn't about gaining access to things, it is the LACK of obstacles compared to a lower rank in attractiveness person. For example, the bouncer might let you slide in the club even though it's on max capacity or the lady at the check out lane let you go first when you buy only one item. Sure, pretty privilege might earn you a drink from stranger, but the real advantage having cops on your side when there's a conflict, or having plausibility …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 05:24 PM
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Your writing is on 🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 06:31 PM
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In my culture, women don't change their last names. I'm quite glad that is the case
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 12:37 AM
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I've actually heard the reverse is true due to advances in hormone replacement therapy (HRT). HRT delays menopause and modulates estrogen so women have an easier time for transition. HRT is now safer and more widespread use than before.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 06:03 PM
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By post-wall, do you mean post-menopause? I do agree physical changes happen abruptly (hot/cold flashes, weight gain, loss of hair) for peri- and post-menopausal women, but that happens at 45+, not 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:10 PM
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The witch hunt sounds a lot like present day Texas's abortion ban
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:30 PM
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I watched a lot of Asian dramas...so overly protective BF used to be romantic to me. Now, 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 09:42 PM
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The reverse would be Shallow Hal, no?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 10:13 PM
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If they are in the US, it is not surprising because marrying could've disqualified her for disability claims, Medicaid, and a whole bunch of need-based government assistance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 09:34 PM
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I doubt the issue is actually the $80+ subscriptions. It is that the LVM is insecure because he lost his provider role, his job, which gave him his identity. His boss fires rejected him The society rejected him (job rejections). He retaliated by holding onto one thing he has control, his wife, by holding onto the subscriptions with an iron fist. Clearly this man is depressed but that's not an issue for OP to fix. I've seen this happen. My mom's friend's loser husband lost his job and after multi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 04:59 AM
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If society deem it acceptable to be childless and a woman is worth more than her womb, I wouldn't have spent years of youth agonizing whether I have kids or not. So much waste time and mental energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:10 PM
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I am a frequent lurker at the financial freedom subreddit. It always irks me when someone says they will be retiring in 5 years at 40 because of their "sacrifice and hardwork", while their wife will still be tolling away at 60 because she doesn't make enough/save enough. I love the idea of FIRE but it attracts the most money hungry, unappreciative scrotes who wants to do nothing at everyone else's expense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:03 AM
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It's projection for these women. "I helped my ex to get through school/cook & clean to support HIS career , other men would help me too when I am in need too, righttt?" "I help men before, now it's only my turn to get the same treatment I gave to others". Lol, no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 04:24 PM
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The part about child support is, you only gets up to half of his salary regardless of number of kids. Since Elon got 6 kids, her child can only get a maximum of 1/12 of Elon's salary...which he can so easily hide with his off-shore accounts anyways. Being a baby momma is NOT the same as a legal marriage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 04:04 PM
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Birds of the same feather flock together. Be friends with other HVW and mingle in their crowd. At best, you meet your HV friend's brother/best-friend/cousin and start vetting. At worse, you still surround yourself with HVW to knit and be cat ladies together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 08:02 PM
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It took 8+ months because he didn't want to pay for therapy because emotional work = women's work. In men's mind, the solution is simply " why won't you just tolerate all my BS and let me play my games!?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 04:57 AM
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Life isn't done after you found a "HVM". Continue to vet, vet, vet or you might slip out of FDS principles if the act drops. Also, you gals are funny AF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 03:26 AM
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Porn. Easy to manipulate for low cost. Social clout within men's group.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 09:35 PM
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I once overheard this blue collar man talking with his colleague about bringing his girlfriend to a vacation. The colleague was surprised, asking if he already got a wife and 2 kids. He nonchalantly answered, almost gloating, said "yeah, my wife will be at home working over the weekend (during his vacation with his gf). She will watch the kids though so no worries".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 06:06 PM
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Men operate by incentives. "what's the least cost (to me) for the most benefit (to me)?" Even at the expense of someone else. You can fight tooth and nail over it, or nag to the ends of earth. But my suggestion is don't waste your energy; instead speak their language...by making yourself higher cost & bigger demands from the very beginning. High quality services deserve high prices. After all, chanel products got customers, and they never go on discount.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 11:43 AM
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Where's the tips to look after your wife? Oh right, they don't read that at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:39 AM
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Yes. These pranks are camouflage for insecure pick-mes to push past people's boundaries so they can get some attention in their lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 01:40 PM
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They should rewrite the law to be "half of current agr + 7" , which makes 17 the youngest one can go for a 20 year old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 11:50 AM
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These are the same scrotes that think women wear makeup just for the men's eyes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 07:00 AM
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So true. When men ask "why do you women talk so much? Have opinions on everything?" and proceed to half listen on the things we say with uh-huh, whatever. It is because women CARE. We have empathy and care about if others are hurting, if they need help, if they need support. If only men can get out of their narcissistic bubble and look outside that NOT EVERYTHING IS ABOUT THEM, instead of retorting to "why don't you just ask?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 06:48 AM
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I once read on Reddit that this one guy thought the friend was JEALOUS and want him instead, therefore she pulled her friend away. I LAMO'ed so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 06:34 AM
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OP's boyfriend is probably too poor to treat his gf to nice places. Matt is expected to split the bill, but it will hurt the BF's ego of appearing machismo & rich if he cannot pay for OP too. Basically, OP's boyfriend got some growing up to do...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 04:23 AM
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This is why I believe single dads should only date single moms...with kids having similar ages. Else, just WAIT till your kids are adult age requiring little to no parental support for second marriages & cohabitation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 04:10 AM
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Women are emotional. At least they aren't emotional AND physical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 04:49 AM
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Or worse, if a guy breaks up he already have the next one lined up. Being in a bad relationship is still better than single for guys because she can always be a sugarmama bangmaid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:54 PM
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Yes. I had an impression of that happening, despite I already told them about my SO (who was not present at the time). One guy was like... "oh so you are like 28? 29? I can do that " What do you mean "DO THAT?" Why in the world would I ever, ever consider to date a lump of LV, fat, poor, misogynistic scrote as him? Plus I had already told everyone about my relationship status. It's like he views all women as products to be brought off shelves and what they think/say/want doesn't matter. Such dis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:57 PM
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Friends of friends. First time meeting them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 02:33 PM
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Your analysis on the general population of men is spot on 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 01:42 PM
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So true. In my pickme days, I was dishonest with myself and try to conform to whatever my ex wants me to be. Now, I am unapologetically myself and most importantly - be honest about what I am and what I want. Luckily, I found my HVM fiance who brings joy and peace everyday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:40 AM
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Wow. Who hurt this guy? ​ No need to feed the troll, but for those who are wondering - he switched to a much higher-paying, less stress, and much closer job that he enjoys. We have a wedding date planned for next year. We are having sex now since the medical issue is solved/under control. Every HV aspects about him still hold true, all day, every day. Do I appreciate him? Hell yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 06:40 PM
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You should seek therapy for narcissism. Everything you posted has been about me, me, ME. "How her past trauma affects ME?" "How she is not fulfilling MY NEEDS?" "How her reacting to my insecurity is affecting ME?" "Why is my wife having a supportive system other than ME?" Flip the script around and see it from her perspective.
/r/RedPillWives30/07/21 07:55 PM
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Exactly. Statistic says 80% of divorces are initiated by the women and LVMs pull that out all the time to play the victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 12:57 PM
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LOL literally happened to me. The bride threw the bouquet and I stood at the furthest corner of the group, thinking that there's no way the bouquet would land to me. Well, it landed right in front of me. I was shook. So I stepped aside and the maid of honor rushed in from the front to pick up the bouquet and continue the events. Maybe I should've just picked it up and....NAHHHH what am I sayin', stay queen y'all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 05:42 PM
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Because they knew some chick (or mom) would eventually can't take it anymore and get them new ones. They call this FrUgaL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 11:41 AM
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My mom was the same way. Apparently "self-sacrifice" is a virtue because she wants to validate her pick-me ways in me and my sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 11:38 AM
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When men give criticisms, he is a careful leader. When women give criticisms, she is a bitch. Women aren't supposed to be angry at anything, remember?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 11:29 AM
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Throw the man away If the wife finds out, great. If not, you don't need unnecessary drama in your life. You can also give anonymous tip to wife
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 11:13 AM
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To add insult, guys be like "Why are you always taking so long" when they give you 5 minutes head up to get ready to go out. YOU try doing all these under 5 minutes. Sheesh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 10:51 AM
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So much this. My uncle moved to Canada to live with her wife (she wanted to be near her family). Even though Canada is a much better place than his origin, he got so much flack about how pussy whipped he is for leaving his job and family for her. Looking back, he made the right choice because their children grew up with excellent education and living conditions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 11:45 AM
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This is like Yelp but for people lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 11:25 AM
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It might've been a sugaring website but it could've been anything. A promise of rich men, a cushy job, a modeling gig, ten million Nigerian dollars. The point is, these girls are kidnapped regardless of the method of persuasion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 11:23 AM
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I was just at a dinner least week with friends and the wife of a friend's brother half jokingly said "when I asked my husband to watch Carly while I'm gone, he calls his parents over so he can go play his phone games upstairs". Dude......that's some sad shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:51 PM
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Exactly. For what reasons did you ask him to pay the bills, when the family finances was fine when you handled it? Paying the bills does not automatically letting him lead. Clearly he has too much on his plate, or the job is not suitable for him. You delegated a task that doesn't play to his advantages, makes him struggle, all for the name of masculinity and leadership? Even a CEO has an accountant.
/r/RedPillWives27/06/21 12:36 PM
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If he is HV then he would be prioritizing YOU...and wouldn't left you wondering what's going on. Sorry, he just doesn't like you that much.
/r/RedPillWives27/06/21 12:05 PM
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I just brought a small townhome (1100 sq.ft) by myself. Personally, I didn't have any problems with a realtor. He showed me every house I requested to see. Every friend and family member congratulated me for being able to purchase a home as a young single woman. Not to make assumptions, but it might not be a single/couple issue. Couples usually can borrow more so they might make a larger offer. Going above the asking price is not uncommon these days, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:43 AM
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A. You don't go "convince him" to "change his mind". He already made a stance that he does not want kids until later in life. That is manipulative to try changing his mind. B. You two have already talked about this before engagement and both agreed on kids later in life. Maybe you didn't understand the depthness of this conversation, but that is the verbal agreement that you signed up for. You were the one that changed your mind. If you absolutely cannot wait to have kids, let him know and be re…
/r/RedPillWives15/06/21 06:45 PM
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So true. A guy that loves you will respect your wishes. Men doesn't NEED sex. I had some medical problems that made sex physically painful (infections, PTSD from previous abuse) that I am currently getting treatment for. It has been 6 months since we had intercourse and my fiance still loves me just the same. Sure, he expressed that he wanted sex but never pressured me into one. There's no mind games and I've got the love and attention just the same. We still cuddle and do everything but penetra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 06:27 PM
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So true. When I caught my ex cheated and got the other girl pregnant, he shifted the blame onto me because I drove him to his cheating actions. Uh-huh...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 10:51 PM
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Very well written. Shifting the focus to living my best life is great. I am actually looking forward to aging. Imagining me with silver hair, a fat bank account, a little house filled with my treasures from my own journeys, maybe a cat or dog, garden in the back and my knitted projects in the front. I don't need male validation; I only need to look good for my health and for my own respect. I don't need to impress people that don't matter....my mindset is shifting away from the narrative and it'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:11 PM
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Yep. In my 20s, I used to think getting a bf meant I was successful. What a massive waste of time. I could've study abroad, went on ski trips, went to a better grad school, etc. But no, I threw it all away because "my man needs me". My life isn't bad now; I have a house, PhD, nice job, nice pay. But hello naw am I sacrificing my dreams and disrupting my peace for someone else
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:49 PM
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So true. Men: I'll just take Betty over here until Stacey comes along. Because I can't do anything on my own and needs a mommy bang maid to take care of me. Meanwhile I'll extract as much resources from Betty and discard until I can afford a newer version....oh wait- she's is just like that old 1997 Toyota I run to the ground!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:43 PM
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Very insightful. Being a house manager needs to be paid a manager's salary. This is why 50-50 doesn't work..because it's NOT 50-50.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:30 PM
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Someone gives this woman a label! 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:58 PM
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I don't think it's too extreme. For OP, it's either stay or leave. The boyfriend made it very clear that he will not be marrying her, and unfortunately she can't draw blood from a stone by years of.... lingering....hoping he will some day change his mind. She needs to ask herself if she is okay serving him without legal protections and not the priority of this man. Otherwise, it's just wasting time.
/r/RedPillWives09/05/21 12:00 PM
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Yup. Chinese culture harass women for not marrying their sons who bring nothing to the table. For those bottom LVM, his family would KIDNIP women from vietnam/thailand/cambodia to have his children. They call this marriage finding services but honestly, it's just taking advantage of women and tricking them marrying overseas is all they got. oh wait - that sounds familiar in the first world country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:08 PM
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Just curious, does the bride's family also expect the couple to pay an allowance to them? or just the bride's share is expected?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:57 AM
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No women wants to spend 1hr getting ready to put on a face of makeup and tight clothes, with the NERVES of meeting a new person, just for a chipotle dinner. Not even for a $100 dinner. Good company > good food. Too bad he just wasn't a good company. It's a cope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:51 PM
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Yes. I'm from Penn and the family are all well-rounded, down to earth great people. Her husband moved several times for her work/passion, took care of home and earned money from a more steady traditional job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 12:56 AM
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Honestly, I think only the family who set up the arranged marriage benefits. They get to claim "I set your marriage up, now you owe me". They also have massive say in your children's upbringing and basically every part of your family life. It is about preserving the family line and strengthening the power dynamics of the parents. Your wages and your husband wages no longer belong to yours alone. It becomes the "family" - which includes grandparents, cousins, uncles, nieces, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 12:59 PM
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I saw this on Facebook and this guy had the AUDACITY to tag his girlfriend in his repost. It was do embarrassing for the girlfriend and hopefully she dumps him soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:08 PM
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This is the same guy as "don't worry, I got the bill" at a restaurant on a first date, then later Venmo requests for half the bill. FAKE FAKE FAKE. This guy probably isn't as rich as the he led the girl to believe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 08:44 PM
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I do agree with that statement. Women's cutoff is from carrying child to birth, whereas men's cutoff is from contribution to genetic disabilities Fertility is much harsher on women because....can't see down syndrome if there's no babyyy!!11!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:06 AM
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uNCoNdITiOnAl lOvE🤮 I found repeated pickme behaviors stems from childhood abandonment trauma. They want somebody to NEED them, because that's the only way they know somebody will stick around. Disclaimer : I'm no psychologist so.... TLDR: Pickmes need pets and therapy, not another LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 03:28 PM
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Yes, unless there's children involved. It's quite difficult to schedule things and expensive to buy two of everything. Also, many married couples purchase homes together where an individual would not qualify
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 03:59 PM
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Lack of incentive. With the advent of video games to distract the mind, the social acceptance of living with parents beyond college years, the easy access to porn for quick gratification, there's also exposure to movies portraying an unkempt loser with bombshell trope. "If this hypothetical fantasy guy doesn't have to put effort in, why should I?" Male validation revolves around a cool guy gets everything he wants without making effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 03:48 PM
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Men overestimate women underestimate. This is also seen in career progression. Know 👏 your 👏 worth 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 01:05 PM
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Parents want sons so the sons can do well in later in life. Parents want daughters so the parents can do well later in life. Son take. Daughters give.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:48 PM
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Love gurus and coaches are only for women, because only women would self-reflect on their behavior and think "what's wrong with me?". Men would just hop onto the next best thing. There's no coaching money in that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:37 PM
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Really? Why do women have to resort to these "tricks"? My fiance asks me before, during, and after to make sure I'm comfortable. "Does it hurt?" "It's okay to stop" "let's stop and cuddle" if I show any signs of discomfort. He always makes me a hot bath after. There's no guilt-tripping, no nagging... he stresses that sex should be enjoyable for everyone. A no is a no....and it shouldn't even be that explicit. He SHOULD know when he needs to stop. This should be the norm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 01:51 AM
3

Bald is definitely a flaw. Put two identical men side by side and the one with hair will always get more ladies.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/21 06:31 PM
203

Yep...and that would be labeled as "don't blame me. What's wrong with valuing individual happiness?" 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:10 PM
130

That's disrespectful. My ex used to so this. I came home after a day of work and still got another 2 hours of housework to do. Fast forward to now, I come home and would find all the dishes cleaned, the trash taken out, the floors vacuumed, and big hug incoming from my fiance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:03 PM
5

I hope she leaves. But the reality of many "traditional" marriages involve children, and many women rather stay for the children and play of a façade of happy marriages then leave an abusive relationship. I mean, who can blame them? Call them pick-mes, but their happiness was based on an image of a complete family in a house with a white picketed fence. If she leaves, her Christian community and family members will resent her for it because --- abuse is unseen and unheard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 04:29 PM
13

One of the best gifts my fiance gave (wasn't even a special occasion) was that he downloaded a list of games that he thought I would like to play. Sure, he gave me other gifts like laptop, phone, tuition money, expensive jewelry....but it's the CONSISTENT effort that he puts in everytime even without a special occasion that wins me over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:41 AM
2

I thought I was a late bloomer to start dating at 18. Helllz naw, I would've gotten so much further ahead in life and much less headaches if I start in my 20s (~junior in college).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:43 AM
2

Agreed. The same is true for women as they do not have to rely on men for survival. There will be more of a class divide (1% vs everyone else) than a gender divide.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 11:47 AM
1

Marriage and divorce rate continues to drop. Those who marry really wants to be married for love. Singleness is no longer a stigma. One person households and co-op living will normalize. Sexlessness continues to rise with women not wanting any (high risk low benefit) and men turning into artificial replacements (technology or services).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 11:39 AM
1

This is an argument of individualism vs. socialism. Sure, a straight white man gains nothing if he supports feminism/abolished slavery/promotes equity. But society as a whole, becomes a more fair and balanced place for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 11:27 AM
3

Young girls are inexperienced and predated upon. Rich guys have to watch out for golddiggers and deal with resentment. Hot girls and guys got the genetic advantage but constantly have to work hard to keep up. Everyone got it hard, just different areas in difficulty.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 11:14 AM
2

20% is irrelevant if you are a monogamous, make or female. You only need one afterall.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 11:02 AM
7

Both attractive and unattractive men, successful and unsuccessful men, can find older women darling. Who wouldn't wants to be loved and adored?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 11:00 AM
2

It seems like nobody mentioned health insurance. Getting on your spouse's health insurance from work is significantly cheaper than cobra/Obamacare. DINK still got moments of unexpected losses/unemployment while these safety nets are beneficial
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/21 04:40 AM
10

In this video, it was a PR tactics for those chips you see towards the end of video. Nevertheless, shaming as a manipulation tactic is very real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 10:40 PM
1

No. I don't have kids of my own (yet). I'd imagine someone with kids would be more willing to date a single dad/mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/21 08:37 PM
1

One thing to bridge this gap, in my opinion, is scheduled communication. I had this problem before where my SO is playing video games and there's important stuff on my mind that needs to be discussed. I recognized that each one of us has our own biological clocks and our me-time and we-time operates on different schedules. A solution is to set a scheduled meeting twice weekly to solely discuss anything that's bothering you or her. Any other time, I would just wrote out my frustrations and not br…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/21 08:11 PM
0

Agreed. Perhaps those couples are mismatched in their emotional needs? I do agreed that anyone is free to do whatever when their duties are fulfilled and allotted appropriately.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/21 06:47 PM
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They are angry because the men are having fun at the EXPENSE of women. Women, on average, does 80% more housework than men. If the woman also works, it is quite reasonable to feel resentful when he is out hanging with the boys and she is doing his laundry...dishes...grocery shopping...etc. It would be beneficial to determine a set amount of "me-time", where both sexes gets the same amount of self enjoyment after all duties are completed
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/21 04:44 PM
-1

Not doing his own laundry, not cleaning up after himself, not paying his portion of bills/rent, relies on others to fix necessities (broken light bulb, car), relies on others for food (mom or gf prepares meals for him), relies on others for personal hygiene (he may take a shower but never cleans the bathroom), and does the bare minimal so the caretaker won't discard him. Not clear goal to become financially independent and life-skills independent. Reliance on others for survival. Take more than …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/21 04:26 PM
2

It's luck and you can increase your luck stat by being a well-rounded person.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/21 05:20 AM
3

I would recommend you to start as a real estate agent route. You do not need a degree, use your current social media as a networking platform, meets lots of men who are able to afford houses and potentially a stay at home wife, and able to show off that you work independently as a Realtor. The first year is hard, and getting clientele is hard, but it is a respectable job that looks better than social media influencer in the eyes of a UMC man
/r/RedPillWives12/01/21 07:21 PM
13

Maximum alimony and childcare is 50% of income, maximum outcome of violence is DEATH.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 02:36 AM
5

I have a PhD in bioengineering. When I was explaining some science material, this guy at a party completely dismisses me because he claims bioengineering isn't real engineering. It wasn't until another man shows up and endorse my expertise that he acknowledged my presence. Now, this doesn't happen too often but these are occurrences really irked me. Also, that guy got a bachelors in general engineering. Bioengineering is considered the lower/less well paid engineering subsector and is also the h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 09:35 PM
64

This reminds of how my uncle gave away their entire retirement savings account to his other woman only ONE month after my aunt's death from breast cancer. My aunt was basically mommy 2.0 and did everything for him. The house was almost lost too but luckily my cousin contested it back into his name. Needless to say, the other woman is long gone after she got the money. My uncle is now penniless and dependent to his son.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 08:56 PM
4

If they aren't willing to learn good sex, they aren't willing to communicate. Nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 01:18 PM
18

When I had to explain that getting period cramps is like getting kicked in the balls multiple times for hours, guys are so surprised. This may be why women have higher pain tolerance than men, and why the man-flu exists. Who knows?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 01:10 PM
5

Yeah, I think so. My parents had been married for who knows how long. He isn't rich but always made a living for our family. He contributes in and out of the house, and treats my mom as equal. Of course, I see them argue sometimes, but within 30 minutes they cool again. My mom got real sick that she was wheelchair ridden. They say it's a permanent disability but thankfully, she had gotten better over time. My dad quits his job to take care of her full time. It took awhile for him to get used to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 06:35 PM
29

Yep. Been there, done that. People make it that the gf is the "crazy one" when in fact all her suspicions are true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 06:15 PM
28

Yep. I know this one dude who says he is business owner...of a dog walking business. Okay, how many employees? Just himself....and he uses an app to get jobs (very occasionally). 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 06:12 PM
2

Agreed. Perhaps we can mitigate the scammers and doxxing by doing a MOD supported gift exchange using a trustworthy selling platform. Here's my idea: step 1: Players sign up on google forms. Players must have accounts >1 years old and posted at least 5 times on FDS to qualify. Posts that are made within 1 month counts as ONE post. The form will asks for links to the posts. step 2 : everyone go make a profile on Mercari.com (it is a peer to peer selling site with 10% transaction fee). You put in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:09 PM
8

Work on yourself, not on him. Your body is your temple. CHERISH IT. Eat right, sleep right, say no to abusers (boyfriend, boss, toxic friends and family members). Remember, you are worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:55 PM
99

It'd be nice if there's a FDS secret Santa gift exchange. We here all have at least one thing in common and just like men, quality >>> quantity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:39 PM
3

Women caught up in the work place and men have yet to catch up on home-making/family building affairs
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/20 08:01 PM
4

If they are moobs...ew If they are muscular big chest, not my cup of tea but maybe for others LOL no. We would not get jealous if his chest is bigger. That's ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/20 07:55 PM
175

YAS. I don't think about other cultures, but in China, there's a saying of 重男輕女 that is still very prevalent today. Other than female baby genocide, mothers would give the best resources to their sons while neglecting/abusing daughters as slave labor. They would give beds to sons while daughters sleep on the ground. Sons get first dibs to dinner while daughters get left-overs. Sons get education while families outsource daughters to factories for child labor. Anecdotally, my fiancé's grandmother…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 04:51 AM
6

Your lady instincts are always right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:35 AM
143

Cute. Not to take away his credit, but wives have been making treats for husbands way before social media. So much that men expects it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:24 AM
7

Yas. Be unapologetically yourself. This applies to everything in life. Practice saying "excuse me" instead of "sorry" when passing by strangers. Listen to other's opinion but stand your ground. Be comfortable with uncomfortable situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:15 AM
5

If he needs money, he can get a side gig himself. If he asks you for money, you are the job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 09:34 AM
30

Agreed. It's not "cute" that he failed basic cooking. It's not "adorable" that he tried to make some nuggets. He is a grown ass man, not a little boy who attempted to cook for the first time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 09:21 AM
1

straight men hate straight women (rejection) straight men hate straight men (competition) straight women hate straight men (lack of commitment) straight women hate straight women (competition) straight women love gay men (no conflict of interest) gay men love straight women (no conflict of interest) ​ Basically, not meeting expectations breeds resentment.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 10:04 AM
1

It takes two to conceive a child. It is SHARED responsibility. If he doesn't want a child, he can 1) don't have sex, 2) use a condom, 3) get a vasectomy. If you argue that vasectomy is dangerous, female contraception also poses severe life risk to the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 09:56 AM
1

Because supporting one baby is easier supporting two babies (aka - man child) The women doesn't go into pregnancy thinking, "hmm...I will have a fatherless child, great idea!". They usually hoped for the man to be better partners, or the man turned out to be bad partners later on, after their child is born. Many hoped that their partners will become more committed, more ambitious, more tending, and use childbirth as leverage. When that failed, no man is better than a negative value man.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 09:52 AM
2

I am in a woman and I will be all for equal 50-50 if the following are also solved: How are childbirth, pregnancy risk, and long term health consequences (vaginal prolapse, calcium depletion, stretch marks, high blood pressure) be split 50-50? How are lack/ decrease in income of pre and post-childbirth be compensated? Many employers don't offer maternity leave and often it is not enough time to fully get back to pre-childbirth state (1-2 years)? If motherhood penalty is solved, then sure, most w…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 09:34 AM
1

Manliness is Traditionally associated with self-motivation, not motivation via contract. Tell that to the loan officer / mortgage lender / gym when signing up lol 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/20 07:50 PM
1

You sound sensitive around this issue. Are you hurt? Establishing a contract for agreements on major issues is quite normal in today's society. Renting with a lease, paying for gym memberships, hiring a lawyer, all requires legal obligations for commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/20 12:42 AM
1

Your argument doesn't stand. He is not being forced to sign the contract, he is CHOOSING to go to the gym, to purchase a home, to get married. Signing contracts means he is an adult that understands the legal ramifications if he ditches later on...and that is manly and not a boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 09:05 PM
4

It is "manly" that he is not afraid to invest and stay committal to the relationship. It is similar to pledging at boy scouts, enrolling into a university, making a deposit in purchasing a home...there are significant societal and financial consequences if he breaks the vow. Anyone can say "sure, I will go to the gym", but signing a contract and paying a yearly fee in advance will motivate him to stay the course.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 08:43 PM
4

If YOUNG men want a woman to love them for who he is and not what he can provide, he should go for YOUNG women FTFY ​ If you want a woman who isn't in it for the money, find one that has similar income as you regardless of age...and she is likely to be same age or older as you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 08:06 PM
19

My narcissistic abusive ex made me sleep on the ground when I'm on my period because it stains the sheets that I PAID FOR. Also he makes me get out of the bath when the warm water is the only thing that helps my agony in pain because he wants a shower. Yeah, that was my first relationship. Young and gullible. I wish I have FDS or older women to talk to back in the days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:51 AM
59

I still got DMs from this guy I've met TEN YEARS AGO, of those 9 are absolutely no reply. He calls me for 'happy birthday" to reconnect every year with no fail. Couldn've blocked him, but it's interesting to see how long he gonna keep this up 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:52 PM
2

My fiancee brings me water randomly and reminds me to take "big breath in, breathe out" when he notices I'm stressed. All these cuddle sessions are definitely better than anti-anxiety medications.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:37 AM
6

My fiance cook me meals, bring me hot water, and stay by bedside in case I need anything from him when I'm sick. He's not a social media man so no one really knows our private life. Also, stay away from junk food! Home cook healthy meals are fulfilling and heal you back up faster!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:29 AM
23

Sounds like you are a forever girlfriend and he is looking around, appearing single, and hanging around for the next best thing. Either way, focus on you (hobbies, friends, self improvement). If he stays for marriage, great. If he leaves you for another woman, you wouldn't waste time from self betterment. Win-win scenario.
/r/RedPillWives09/09/20 06:49 PM
26

YASSSS. I dodged a bullet unknowingly before meeting FDS because my gut instinct felt it's not right. My man-child ex wanted a child while being broke and jobless. I said no way (I wasn't rich but I made enough earnings). He fully expected me to birth his baby, take care of it while working to provide for him and baby. I felt like I am his breeder, an incubator, the moneymaker and mommy-bangmaid. By having his child, he would get all the respect from his parents/peers, lock me down, all the whil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:10 PM
20

I think this is really sweet. She might've requested it to be recorded and shared among friends and family, who suggested her to share it among tiktok. For all we know, she is extremely happy for his gesture. No need to rain on their parade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 12:40 AM
2

I definitely need to learn to just receive. I feel so uncomfortable when I don't pay...maybe it is because of how my mother is never asks for gifts from my dad. She taught me early on to never be selfish and be generous, which leads me to having a hard time of receiving. Even in birthday gifts (from family to SO), I often pretend I don't like the gift very much so they could return it because I know the gift was expensive, and it would stretch out their budget of the month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:58 PM
11

I think as tough as it sounds, it really comes down to location. HVM are physically near other HVM. LVM are friends with other LVM. If you are in a city where women outnumber men or the predominant industry is women (such as NYC/fashion), then no amount of picking will get you the right apples because the farm is dying. Situating yourself in a HVM hotspot will best increase your chances. It is difficult to identify, may not be suitable for your career path, and takes LUCK. In the end, HVW outnum…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:09 PM
10

Took me awhile to get this. Now I always compare their efforts of XYZ gestures to how they play videogames.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:20 PM
12

Yas. I was (and still recovering) a pick-me that will excuse behavior like this. "Oh, he has the best intentions", "next time I'll just plan my surprise for him 🤡", "he is a bit forgetful but it's cute". If he wanted to bad enough, it would've happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:18 PM
74

Heineken bottle - $0 Tools to make ring - over $20,000 Skills - priceless All these hypothetical is nonsense because too many variables
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 12:24 PM
23

He is also a PhD student, meaning that your dates will consist of canned beans and cheap beer. Great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 12:15 PM
2

They want to make average sized babies for most chance of survival. It's nature. Average height ladies want average height men. Short girls want tall men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 12:33 AM
11

Just like letting a kid fall down on a bicycle and get himself back up.... We should collectively let men fail at tasks (packing for trips, cooking meals, doing the laundry). Short term, it will damn hurt. But long term, he learns there's nothing to fall back on and start shit himself. But that's his mother's job. Not yours. Don't baby your son, don't baby someone else's son.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:48 PM
3

Yes. In my culture (Hong Kong) the women don't take up their husbands last name I honesty don't see the benefit of added hassle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 09:55 PM
8

I've talked about thus with my fiance (children taking my last name), and given all the points discussed above. Although he acknowledges his mom won't like it, he strongly agrees with my point of view and the children will be taking my last name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 09:51 PM
14

The odds are good but the goods are odd storyofFDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 05:57 PM
6

He is not wrong either. Good to know you two have incompatible views on public health. Better ditch now than later. Honestly, you shouldn't be dating during a PANDEMIC
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 02:40 AM
25

It means he sees you as a masturbation toy but for emotions. Basically, an emotional cum dumpster. Sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 10:13 PM
2

Wouldn't read too much into it without CONTEXT. Lots of people like to cook as a hobby. Some men enjoy grilling for their friends. Ask him if he like to cook. Maybe he is fishing for a servant, a wife, or just seeing what activities you enjoy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 04:17 PM
120

Yeppp. I love my own shit, my own mess. Also, although you are doing 100% of the housework, you are also living in 50% less mess. Half the size of laundry, half the load of dishes....and you know exactly where everything goes (where you left it).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 04:29 PM
35

Men need women. He needs her for sex, cook, emotional support, children. A modern woman can do all that nowadays. In the eyes of a man, it's a winter jacket conundrum..."settle now or you are going to freeze if you don't buy that jacket soon!" However, this logic is flawed for women. Man is an ice cream treat. You don't need it, but it is nice to have on a sunny day. It's better to save our calories quota for a good ice cream bar than a terrible tasting or average one. But be careful, or you mig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 12:56 AM
2

Wow. Potential is plans, not dreams.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 08:41 AM
5

Love that last rule. Could you explain what's the difference between hanging out and planning something specific? What if his plans is to order take out, watch a show that we both following together, then play a co-op video game (~30 min) together before going to bed and be ready for work the next day? Should a bf come over only on weekends? Even I find it difficult to have real dates on a work night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 08:38 AM
23

I remember a distinct moment when I dislike rom-coms. I used to only watch shoujo anime, read romance mangas, watch romantic kdramas. I swoon for the male leads and enamored by the female lead. I absolutely loved rom-coms, it was my late night guilty pleasure. Then my ex cheated and dumped me after 7.5 years, and after a heart break and reading FDS, I can never look at my beloved shoujo/rom-coms again. I am disgusted by it. It's like a slap in the face that I have failed in love. I knew rom-coms…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 12:41 AM
11

But how do you make a distinction between those who substract from one area and adds another? Do you do a an average, a weighted average, or throw the whole man out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 07:12 PM
20

If only these dating apps have an ex-gf/ex-date reviews! "1/5 stars would not recommend"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 04:01 AM
23

So much LVMs in the video. All these men sitting immediately around her just waiting on the women to de-escalate. The guy who is filming even chuckled... completely invalidates the 2 women and writes it off as comedy. God awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:20 AM
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I think her way is the least hassle for her (doesn't have to go through police report) and most importantly, the safest. If she cannot be physy contacted, he cannot assault her. Men are most dangerous when they've rejected... especially for narcissistic LVM that he is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:12 AM
8

Ew. I'd rather have a cheaper ring that he can afford that a ring he proposed someone else to. Ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 08:53 PM
36

I always thought that a girl-cave version would be a walk in closet with a window 💁 Yeah, if I'm paying 50-50 on a house, I want my privatr escape room
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:30 AM
38

Men knows if they want to marry you with 2 weeks. The rest is just planning on how to propose. If he is hesitating, then you are second choice. Leave!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 02:15 AM
164

We shame pickmeshas but we are all raised this way. The society tells us to bend over backwards for a man and to put a man in the dead center of our lives. Only until 18 do I realize men gives no thoughts about romantic relationships other than "what feels right". Let's not shame each other, ladies. Help each other to move forward by educating your peers so maybe, one day, your daughter will not be so deliberately misguided.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:35 AM
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Yes. I have a PhD in engineering and guys mansplain me about basic mechanics/electronics all the time. Usually I let them talk about themselves though. Ladies, pick your battles. This one is not worth your mental load.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 11:11 PM
3

He cooked a full-on 7 course meal for two and deliver it to a designated place (with flowers and wine), where you will pick it up and have a tele-dinner. Or he order a meal for you at a fancy restaurant where you pick up, bring it home, and have a tele-dinner. Honestly, just work on yourself and don't even try. high value means being high effort consistently. Without face-to-face interactions it'd just be onlyfans with a local twist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 08:40 AM
3

I don't believe in pricey bling or hassle-some weddings. So gimme $10k in Hermes bag (my name only) and $30k in mutual funds (also my name only). I'd like to see my conditional gifts grow 👈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 08:53 PM
24

No, he wasn't reluctant because in the established LTR stage (think 3-6 months in) I asked to handle his finances and "saved for the future". I was always the financially savvy one so I was cut out for the job. Being a man-child he is, he has no idea how money worked and set up auto deposits into my bank account (which was funded by mommy bank). The amount equates to $400 every month. Get that insurance policy, girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 04:30 PM
91

Yep. Happened to me. Wasted 7.5 years to man to the aforementioned above. Lucky me, I had him contributed a "future fund" under my name while we were dating. Being a broke man that he is, his mommy paid for it. Little do they know, that was my insurance policy ✌️. "Love" may not be real, but this $$$ sure do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 08:26 AM
21

What perplexed me is taking food from a sick person. A possible deadly virus with no cure, even more so. LVM really lack the brains here too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 07:16 AM
63

YAS. I semi-recently got a Reddit hate reply on a post completely unrelated to post on a personalfinance sub. I was really confused on the animosity until a fellow FDS-er pointed out he has been targeted people on FDS Some people are really the worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 02:34 PM
15

I agree with this. It's passable if he knows you as a distant acquaintance or friend of a friend of a friend. But if he suddenly starts pursuing you after years of friendship....girl, you are just a intermittent gf for passing time. It's really toxic that male fantasies disguised "girl-next-door" trope often portrayed in media
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 06:39 AM
75

YAS. There's so many media (movies, anime, dramas, shows) about women getting plastic surgery or getting promotion to be his boss to get back at their ex. The attempt is futile and all it does is damaging your own mental health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 10:03 PM
3

Probably a bot "Come talk to me at xxxcamgirls.com" mhmmm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 11:13 PM
25

If I had to draft out a gnatt chart and deadline to graduate in my PhD dissertation proposal, then I expect no less from a marriage proposal 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 10:55 PM
14

Statistically, I would have to agree with you. Say men matures fully by age of 25 and nothing will change drastically from LVM to HVM, your chances of grabbing a HVM decreases over time because of they are likely to be paired up. A committed HVM will select a very good fit of a partner and not likey to be divorced; a HVM will take care of his health and family, where they are likey to lead healthier longer lives. Divorces, deaths, and high standards do happen, but they will not be the majority o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 09:09 AM
7

29 and just got engaged. I followed FDS religiously for the past 4 years, made some minor variations to fit my lifestyle, no regrets. I'll continue to vet and level up probably for the rest of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 08:47 AM
7

Anything that makes the SO remotely uncomfortable is a sign of disrespect. It's not a matter of the sleepover, it's putting your SO a priority above all else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 08:42 AM
13

Yes. On a much poorer note, an acquaintance (32?) had a baby with with her boyfriend of 7 years. She probably thinks that will get her the ring. Her best friend warned her not to but she got pregnant anyways. Forward 2 years later, she is still unmarried. Allegedly they are still dating. Her Facebook is full of baby pictures but without the dad...she is essentially a single mom now. Nothing wrong with being a single mom, but getting pregnant thinking that the man is gonna change is not the way t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 08:34 AM
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Yes. While I do prefer if he had done it over a traditional candlelight dinner, I think his idea is for it to be a surprise. He originally placed the ring in opened case by my pillow so I would wake up to a surprise proposal, but since I didn't notice after waking up, he grabbed the ring and did a round 2 in the bath instead. I think it's because he often organizes a candlelight dinner with all the flowers/music/alcohol at home that it loses its special meaning. Anything else outside requires tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 12:55 PM
3

I'm all for the "you split, I pick" strategy. Meaning, one person splits up the tasks, and the other picks which set of tasks to do first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 08:55 AM
2

Yep. My friend from HS has been engaged for 10, going on 11 years
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 02:45 PM
62

Along the same lines: Don't wait for a proposal. Either you are single or married. Would you ever wait on a job offer for months while not applying to anywhere else?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:53 PM
5

Love that top! Those highlights are 🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:32 PM
108

Inferiority complex. LVM may be low-skilled, but they don't like to be the last on the ladder. I would like to see data on low-skilled men on child abuse rates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 09:47 PM
3

Hard no. As soon as he is done breeding and the kids are out of the house (or even before that), he'd bail. That is the recipe for bangmaid baby incubator. No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/20 08:43 PM
19

Yeah. I begged him to go and all his friends are waiting for him, he was mad raging from a lost game and refuse to go. Didn't even consider how much effort or embarrassment got me at all 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 11:55 PM
43

I went through the trouble of gathering all his friends, booked the restaurant, pre-ordered the food....for his surprise birthday party. He didn't want to go and rather stay home and play video games, even after I begged him to come out cuz it's his party. I was so embarrassed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 09:06 PM
2

By yearly costs, I think men actually paid more (US). On average, men goes to get hair cut every 2 weeks. On the low end, it $6 + $4 for tips, that's $260 per year. Women gets hair cut every 6 months, and trim it themselves in between, which equates to $130 including tips. If you add in extras like hair dying, not every woman gets it. Similar to not every man gets a professional beard trim (if they can grow a beard). Time expenditure wise, men spends less time for actual work per visit, but incl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 02:26 PM
256

While Fathers: Yes, all men. Not me though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 07:35 AM
9

Why are they combining finances like that when they aren't even married? 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 10:14 PM
46

A lot of these girls are from dysfunctional families. They want to move out and have independence but do not have the financial means so do so. it might take months to couple years to earn enough for an apartment at a minimum wage job. Basically sugar baby is glorified escorting for one guy. These LVM dudes get attention from these young girls that no self-respecting older woman gives, thus an economy is created. It's a complex problem. A man wouldn't reach out for a sugar baby if he is satisfie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 09:27 AM
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Yeah, I'm just gonna stick with Dr.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:11 AM
18

Yesterday I read a documentary about manga kissas. It's a phenomenon in Japan that 30-40 yr old men (some with wives and children) decide to live a secluded life in a manga rental store. Instead of living in their home, they go to work and sleep at these rented stalls/pods. They offer communal shower, microwave, and most of all INTERNET. The residents (mostly males) says they prefer it because they can escape the responsibility of their home duties and doesn't have to talk to anyone. Talk about …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:02 AM
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YAS. I just got genetic testing and I'm freezing half eggs/half embryos (embryos are more stable). Since my hormones was tested normal, I'm expected to have 13 or so in one round. My thinking is like yours exactly. Great dad/husband+kid > kid + single> single > bad dad/husband + kid. Marrying the wrong guy literally can turn first choice to last choice. TOO RISKY. Since my work covers the procedure and medication and I pay some low fees for storage, I think it's worth to have the assurance of th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:51 AM
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Agreed. I used to get hit on in sweats, dresses, make-up on, make-up off, after classes, before going out etc. All of these are from creepy older men who'd think they have a chance (LOL). It was so gross that I started to look disgusted whenever they talk to me. Never had a hot guy randomly hit on me on the street though 💁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 01:32 PM
42

Most men operate the same as for-profit cooperate businesses do. They inflate their value, sell you the product (them), aim for the highest bidder with below market value, and operate on a tight budget (time/effort) for the highest profits (free maid and sex services). When the buyer wants more (marriage, kids, house) or got another bidder, he reevaluates if it's worth keeping the current one. He factors in re-training costs (woo the new girlfriend) and come up with the best separation plan bene…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 02:46 AM
20

Yas. When my abusive ex left I had a friend to help me reinstall new locks. I was legit scared but nothing happened. He was getting violent when I kicked him out so it was the right thing to do anyways. Actually, he did break-in to get his computer while I was away at work...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 09:58 PM
14

Definitely agree on the clothing. Why a women's cotton t-shirt is paper thin and men's t-shirt can substantiate multiple washes is beyond me. The time spent on shopping and re-shopping for the same items can be better allocated elsewhere. Women also does bulk of shopping in a household...often using her own money because SHE wants to increase quality of life. Since when is a airfryer or a fancy bowl is a "gift" for women but a "socks and pants" is a gift for men? We both eat out of the same bowl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 04:26 PM
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I think the simple fact that all adult women has to wear pads/tampons or on some birth control is more expensive than a man. Gosh getting new undies from bled throughs get pricey!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 03:47 AM
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When my mother was sick and in the hospital, my BF dropped his week long vacation trip (scheduled to leave the next day) and stayed with me. He would drive me back and forth between food/apartment/hospital and wait in the car for hours while I tend to my mother hours at a time. Having him there was such a relief at that stressful time. Not the first time either, few years ago we were on a trip and was scheduled to go on a boat ride. I had crazy allergies that day and just knew I had to sleep it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 09:44 PM
13

My BF has a snoring problem. We were going to get it treated but the Corona made it pretty impossible at this point. When he have work the next day, sinus congestion, or had some drinks, he would tuck me in bed first and then go sleep on the sofabed outside so his snoring wouldn't bother me. Some people condemned sleeping in different beds but I think it's a relationship savor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 08:07 PM
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I hope the best for you and your mother and sister. Stay strong! To comment on what SHOULD'VE happened was when my mother was diagnosed with a debilitating illness over a year ago, my dad stood by her every day and night at the hospital. That includes bathing her, handling the doctors, and bringing up her spirits. When the diagnosis didn't turn out so well, he quits his job so now he is her full-time caretaker. She is doing better now but is on disability. He cooks all the meals, prepares the me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 02:00 PM
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YAS. My ex did this BS too. He didn't come home till 9pm claiming that he has soooo much work to do and I didn't appreciate his work. In realty he was playing video games, hanging out at bars, anything except work. He knows if he comes home he'll have to do the chores that he agreed upon so he just waited for me to do them instead. That fucker also went to his co-workers place to cheat, thinking it was so slick to lie about going to a hooklah bar (I can smell that feets away from him) and goes, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 03:43 PM
6

A little side if that's okay...I am turning 30 soon, what is it like post 30?
/r/RedPillWives26/06/20 06:15 PM
4

Sure, he might just moved to a new city, or got out of a relationship, or his pet just died, or whatever. Either way, his priority isn't you right now. From an investment stand point, you working on yourself (hobbies/career/therapy) is 100% guaranteed return. I would choose that over maybe or someday, which might turn into a "sorry". I wish you the best of luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 11:50 AM
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Yes. This is about control. He is obviously a narc with no remorse for what he has done. He enjoys repeatedly violate her self-worth again and again. I'm not a psychiatrist but this guy might be a sociopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 10:58 AM
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There's no second-guessing his intentions or actions. You know what to expect from him for each escalation step....the level of commitment matches from meeting to dating to proposal to marriage. There's no excuses like "I'm too busy, I've got no time". If he wants you, he will prioritizes and makes time for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 10:43 AM
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Ask yourself, would a queen do this? Does she bend over backwards for someone who doesn't respect her? Does she respect herself? You can't control your emotions, but you can control your actions. Hormones ebbs and flows. In Buddhism, instead of fighting against urges (neediness), control your monkey brain and re-focus. Focus on you, a better version of you. Be mindful of your feelings but cautiously act. You already know what to do. Stay resilient.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 09:45 AM
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If I wanted to run a foster care, I'd rather get dogs & cats instead 💁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 08:56 AM
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Girl, I've been in your shoes. Maybe it's male validation, attention, losing a good thing (it's not), social status, boredom, or a combo of all these things. Think bigger picture. You think he is the precious one because he is the best SO FAR. But in 1 year, 5 years, you are going to meet countless people. Why waste your time on a half-assed resume when you got loads of eager applicants just because he is the first ones on your stack?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 08:44 AM
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Girl, you go focus on other stuff. Work, friends, yoga, whatever. Like legit not pretending to be busy. If he is HVM, you will have more interesting things to talk about when conversing. If he is LVM, you don't waste time and picked up an interesting hobby in the process. Win-win
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 08:30 AM
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There are soooooo many men with the misconception that their sperm never expires till 60. They think women's aging eggs are the sole reason for failed childbirths, yet completely discounts the decreasing vitality of sperm. It's due to either misinformation or revenge fantasy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 10:53 PM
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Male attention doesn't worth shit. I'm guilty of my younger self trying to gain validation from guys, trying to fit the "cool girl" trope, thinking the world is over after 18/21/25 etc. They push the ideas that we are only worth what males price us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 10:42 PM
18

I just looked up Vera Wang and all I can say is...WOW Such an inspiration
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 02:56 PM
54

I have gotten an IUD before because I wanted to get rid of my period due to cramps and hassle of pads. Although it obliterated my period (yay!) And cramps (super yay!), I have also gotten UTI, BV, Yeast infections that I have never had before. Now I no longer have the infections but the period where I was under antibiotics, my BF insisted, INSISTED, to not have sex. We would cuddle, kiss, whatever in bed but never a hint for penetration. Until I got cleared by my doctor did he try sexy times aga…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:35 AM
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I'd say DO plan, but PLAN not do. Discuss the timeline of proposal, wedding, cohabitation and then kids. Follow the order. Budget and plan for future finances but don't actually give him the power/money until legal commitment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 03:20 AM
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Sounds like he treated her as a business transaction with wifey benefits on the side for free. I've seen this in my friend group. She (33) pushed and pushed for engagement, he ended it after 12 years, and then found another piece real quick. Sorry, but the ball is in his court. I would suggest she starts checking out and protects her own best interest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 02:59 AM
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We tried couples counseling and he bailed on it because they therapist was “mean” and called him abusive. Well done! Any man who shy away from counseling means that he already checked out and no longer wants to work at the relationship. If he truly cherishes your happiness and knows that talking to a therapist will bring you peace, he WILL go to therapy for that reason alone. Good job at Marie Kondo'ing him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 10:36 PM
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My SO and I just had an honest talk about our timeline. It was logical, unromantic, and completely necessary. We talked about our career timelines and when to have children, and then worked backwards to formulate a solid plan on when is a good time to propose and have the wedding. Yes, it was unromantic but we got down to the details to the months (1 year to plan the wedding, ~2-3 years to getting the house, and 4 years to start trying for a baby. We also budgeted a plan to anticipate the costs …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 10:22 PM
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YASSS And when they hit you back with a "it just didn't work out" when spotted with a new girl in his arms the day after breakup...Girl, the world just done you a favor to lose that piece of trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 10:04 AM
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Great work! Keep it up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 10:47 PM
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Your last sentence is a relevation for me. When I suspected and confronted of my ex's cheating, he turned angry. He was not apologetic. I was not the cool girl. I was disgusted by his actions and for a long while, I thought I was the problem. Was I not good enough? Should I have handled it differently? Did he felt guilty and men expressed that in anger? It was none of the above. He was pissed because I wasn't cool with him dating his co-workers on the side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 06:17 PM
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He got daddy issues
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:56 AM
13

Height, small penis size, and fitness (to a certain extent) Some males just get handed the short end of the stick, but it's what they make with it in life. As long as he is healthy and isn't overweight, a little bit of flab here and there is okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:40 PM
10

May I ask what culture/ethnic is that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 04:44 AM
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In my culture, the women keeps their maiden name. The child gets their fathers. However, I've brought it up that since I will be giving birth and makes more dough, it would be fair if the baby gets my last name. He said of course I deserve the baby to take on my last name ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 04:42 AM
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If he wanted to be a good father then he should've treated his kid's mother better 💁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 01:20 PM
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Okay. Here's an unconventional thought but take it as you will: go to Eventbrite or a goal-focused equivalent site in your area. Start treating it as Bumble 2.0 and go to social happy hours for (insert respectable professions), conventions for (interesting hobbies). Even nowadays, there are virtual meetups but don't actively date until it is safe to do so. Now, meeting is only prep-work, but you will likely find more goal oriented people with an interest (hence why they actively reach out to the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 12:29 PM
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I agree. Guys cheat on die-hard starter wives. Well-established men decide to drop commitment at the altar to run off with his hot new thing. There's also highschool sweethearts growing old together and people finding their "soul-mates" at a C-suite meeting. For the ladies, investing your years on a man is a risky dangerous thing that often has no results. Invest in yourselves. This route ain't easy, but safest.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 04:15 AM
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YASSS. Here's an example: I was watching a movie with my BF and we see very different things. In this scene, a girl is telling a boy that she just got a huge scholarship to go to a prestigious far-away school that she worked hard for. The boy, having a crush on her, storms off angry after yelling "do you want to move?" The girl looks down and says no reluctantly. My BF and I discussed this scene. He took it at face-value that she doesn't want to leave and be with him. I explained that if the gir…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 04:03 AM
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He needs to see a sex therapist and she needs to reassess her pet project
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 05:15 PM
1

Great post. Love that last paragraph. I always lamented about how my BF doesn't make as much as XYZ's man, never be as financially successful as 123's boss, or aren't as outgoing as who-who's husband. But he is my rock. Dependable, stable, loving, and I know he always got my back. He makes me feel like queen everyday. He corrects me when I'm about to make a mistake but encourages me to explore my own interests. He makes an average money, drives an average car, do average things. There's no glitz…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 08:23 AM
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I like how he completely neglects the information about his wife caring for his son (may or may not be step), educating him, caring for the household duties etc. all for free. He is an A1 Ass Sauce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 08:06 AM
16

This is why the "half your age + 7'" age rule exists
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 07:55 AM
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Thanks! Without the extra weight holding me back, these past 4 years I got a PhD in engineering, started a e-commerce business, and become a newly landlord. My current partner is so much more supportive and although I know I could've done it without him, he makes the journey much more joyful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 12:14 AM
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YASSSS. I spent 7.5 years nagging my ex to clean up after himself. I nagged him to do his laundry, put his clothes back in drawers, do the dishes, take out trash at least some of the time etc. It was easier to just do the chores myself then nagged him for days, so I just did them myself for years. I see my mom nagging my dad to do chores for years and I don't want my future to be like that. I decided that enough is enough (actually reddit helped me realized that), so I stopped doing any of his p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 06:00 PM
3

High standards is a good thing. You only need 1 husband after all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 09:25 AM
3

Not in the field but have many cpa friends - yes Forensic accouning is better than general though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 09:24 AM
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If a guy is in love with you he'll still see you the same after 50 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 09:21 AM
3

Eh, everyone got a little weakness. As long as yall complement each other and there's a designated bug killer in house, all is well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 09:17 AM
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At this point, don't think of him as your SO. He is now a roommate at best. Don't do his dishes, don't clean his mess, and don't sleep with him. Your feelings are valid. Your gut feelings are are here to protect you. YOU ARE NOT WRONG. Use this POS and keep your composure. Last thing you want is to look like a hysterical crazy lady. A queen is steady, think before action, ruthless and unforgiving towards inexcusable behavior. Don't feel bad because he brought this upon himself. Leave when you ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 09:10 AM
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"Do you want your children to grow without a father?" "You are old and can't find any other man now. Who is going to take care of us in old age?" - said by wife's parents (oftentimes wife is stay-at-home and children is parents' retirement plan) "No one wants a woman over 25/30, now we have to find a suitor for you at the marriage market." Basically, divorced women means a failure, which brings shame to the family name. There's a Chinese tradition where a single woman is forced to get married to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 09:01 AM
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I found that in general, FDS women should stay clear of men with stay-at-home moms. Can't fix a project. Save yourself a heartache.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 08:03 AM
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Yes. I couldn't think of any couples (under age 40) that are not looksmatched.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 10:55 PM
3

I asked for a cheap $300 Etsy ring and then a nice car lol. I think that's a better investment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 06:04 PM
2

I don't see how reproduction only falls on the woman only. Statistically, the quality of male sperm is the reason for IVF. Male sperm falls in quality at 38, similar to women's egg quality at 35. Both sexes have the same urgency to reproduce if they decide to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 04:36 PM
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Yes. Because in my immediate circle of friends and family, the men tend to live better lives than if they were single and unmarried. They are more content, stable, and generally happier lives than single counterparts. There are many cases where the women saved them from drug addiction, alcohol addiction, gambling problems (a big one), frivolous spending.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 02:02 PM
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Seems like a MLM (mediocre value men). If you want to struggle, live a less than satisfactory life, get social validation perks like presents and weddings, and talk yourself into "it's all going to be okay", then he is a fine choice. His lack of proactivity makes him a boy, not a man. Not a crime, but would you want to get involved in that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 06:44 PM
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Give yourself time. Humans are habitual. Your infatuation is hormone and chemical-related. Work on yourself, keep no contact with him, and take as much time as you need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 03:13 PM
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I spent 7.4 years in a relationship with a LVM. It's a common trope, I was young and didn't know better. After we went official, he moved in and we played house. Although we were in the same uni program, he spent his days playing video games and I was cleaning, cooking, and doing his laundry. He refuses to do the activities I would like to do and even refuses to do his responsibilities in chores. I had to beg him to go grocery shopping (need his help to carry stuff) so then we could eat. I had t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 11:43 AM
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Yep. Even worse, starter girlfriend with nothing substantial left after the relationship is over because "we need more time/money to get ready yet".
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 10:36 AM
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Experience is bad for men, because it is not his idealogy of "she is only for me". Experience is good for women, because it gives her the protection against predators and know what to look out for.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 10:34 AM
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But a woman who has devoted herself to one man from her prime years and takes good care of herself will be loved into old age by that man. That's fantasy. Plenty of girls who spent their prime years devoted to one man got broken up for various reasons unrelated to the girl ability/willingness to make it work.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 10:31 AM
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Might be cultural. I am from Hong Kong and most of the women (actually the norm) keep their last name. Only the traditional ones would add on their husbands. Children use the father's. It's just simplier this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 03:56 PM
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Number one rule on being a construction ho is not to date your pimp. That aside, if he isn't willing to invest in your future, he is NOT GONNA MARRY YOU. He might propose and make you a forever fiancee, but legally wife, no. Dangling a carrot in front of a horse, do to speak. If you want to be a sugar baby, make him pay cash. if you want to be a girlfriend, make your own money and pay for yourself. If you want to be a wife, have that paper signed first and then work for him for free.
/r/RedPillWives16/04/20 11:11 AM
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You are becoming a physician for YOU, not to support your spouse as extra income nor make yourself a more viable candidate for a potential husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 02:50 PM
12

I politely said "fuck you" to my abusive boss and found myself a better job environment with better pay, that invest in ME and respect my boundaries. Did it without crying and drama, just match on through and never looked back. Stopped feeling sorry for myself. Stopped justifying this is right or wrong. Just do what is best for myself. Empowerment is a great thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 11:47 PM
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I got permabanned at dead bedroom for saying "wtf did I just read" on a post about how this one guy cheats on his wife with a junior ~20 years younger than he is. No explanation. Just banned. The sub wasn't much of a discussion, just a circle jerk of men complaining
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 08:18 PM
1

One partner or both partners earning 100k? What's a good measure for a savings account?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 01:47 PM
12

What's woc?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 06:40 PM
4

Getting a job isn't for a man. It has nothing to do with making up the lack of income he contributes to the household. It is, however, financially independance for yourself in case the relationship doesn't work out.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/20 12:56 PM
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What does she mean by back up plan? As in financially, romantically, subsistence?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 09:05 PM
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Agreed. But how do I find men with a healthy bank account and good characteristics? A man with good work value + good job likely leads to money. But those men are not likely to be nuturing, supportive, and put in as much effort as someone who doesn't have a hectic work schedule. Men with ambition likely work 12 hr days before they "made it" and will continue to work 12 hr days after. Are you willing to spend large amounts of time alone/away from SO as a lifestyle?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 10:19 AM
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When my mother was sick, my BF cancelled his trip just to stay by my side and making sure I have the transportation to visit my mom. The biggest of all....he helped rebuild my self confidence. He doesn't just love me, he makes me love myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:03 AM
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Agreed. I think the whole diamond ring industry is a scan but the meaning of engagement is still there...to make a signifcant irreversible gift to the love of your life. Therefore, I'll opt for a cheap ring + a sizable donation to my student loans. It's a gift that keeps on giving (via early interest payoff), a financially wise decision, and most importantly...it's for me only. Alternative is a flashier choice...a Chanel bag lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 05:16 AM
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Yes! I still love my BF very dearly, but I love him in a empowering, on-my-own-terms healthy kind of way. With all the LVM out there, I appreciate everything he has done for me and what a gem he truly is despite being real rough around the edges. FDS taught me to be ruthlessly loving myself, choose carefully who to allow into my life, and be ok to be alone. I choose to be with him because he adds value to my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 04:26 PM
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Men who don't go to the doctor are selfish. Because inevitably they will rely on his wife, gf, children to take care of him and put stress into their lives. I got no time or condolences for selfish men so I remove myself from them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:39 PM
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What is the benchmark for financially healthy? A 34 year old man making 45k a year, who is frugal enough and saved enough to support himself but not a family, is that financially healthy? How about the guy who is unable to buy a house alone so he asks the woman to chip in 50/50?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:14 PM
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Unfortunately, most higher paying jobs that allows women to remain financially independent do not have part-times with a select few exceptions. Also PT rarely provides benefits that traditional FT do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:07 AM
2

Thank you for your insight. If you are in your twenties again (before marriage and children), what would you have done differently? When do you think is the right time to have children? Last but not least, what are the qualities of man that cannot be compromised on during vetting stage?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:49 PM
1

How old are your coworkers? Are you the youngest? Maybe they are looking forward to going to your wedding as a way to "party" up and relive their twlight years. Now that it's no longer possible, they feel that you have taken an opportunity from them. Distant friends/aquintances aren't looking out at your best interest. They want to have fun for themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/20 01:19 PM
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Totally agree. However, a stay-at-home dad cannot breast feed and a working mom still has to pump milk throughout the day. What would you recommend a stay at home parent to do to remain financially independent and minimize career sacrifice?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:16 AM
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What is concerning isn't his lack of taste nor cost of the ring, it is his apathy towards his fiancee's feelings. If she doesn't like it, then respect her wishes, and choose a ring she loves no matter the cost. A right woman would not choose a ring totally out of his budget that would impede their financial goals. A right man would slay monsters, run through fire and build a castle just to see his woman happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:47 AM
5

Yep. There's little to no benefit to me. I don't like sex enough to undergo all the risks.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 02:00 AM
6

Yep. My bf isn't a rich man. He makes an okay honest living. But i know he puts in 110% effort in me to make sure I smile on the things I care about. I would downplay how much I like to celebrate or choose another date because he would spend a lot for the occasion on me and then not spend for weeks on himself to get his savings back on track. We are in this together. I don't want to blow his budget on little things while we are saving on bigger things (house etc.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:40 PM
1

Female here. If married and can afford: Raise Bio > Raised Adopt If married and cannot afford: none If unmarried and can afford: Raise IVF baby > none If unmarried and cannot afford: none Note that sperm retrieval is significantly LESS damaging to the donor than egg retrieval
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 11:28 PM
1

I think 'real' as in not Bots....as in a human being
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:52 AM
30

Yes. It means he doesn't care about your well-being. He perfectly knows the chores need to be done and how, but he is counting down the timer on who can't stand it anymore -- which is almost the woman. This is the switch between a giving mentality to a taking mentality....and that's how you drive yourself to exhausion. JUST SAY NO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:58 AM
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Makes sense. In reverse, 30k-40k a year is not enough to justify dealing with a shitty personality, lack of compatibility, lack of attraction, lack of social status and so forth...But 5m+ maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 07:30 PM
3

Men pay for dates, movies, dinners and the women still have a CHOICE to have sex or not at the end of the night. It is not transactional sex, it's a gift for your service -- her choice. Going to a hooker is completely transactional. If she takes your money and doesn't give you sex, that's a breach of contract and someone is gonna be f'ed up
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 06:33 PM
1

My friend has 5 sports cars and 2 vans...as a single bachelor. He makes bank so no hate. My girlfriends got tons of makeup and clothes, but they also make bank as single women. As long as an INDIVIDUAL, regardless if gender, spends within their means, that is ok. My opinion on guys spend $$$ on 1 thing, and girls spend $ on multiple thingS still stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 01:37 AM
0

Women tend to buy small things in large quantities, men tend to buy large things in small quantities. Woman buys clothes/home goods/handbags. Man buys cars. Both depreciate and ate not good investments but add to quality of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 03:09 PM
3

PurplePillDEBATE is the perfect place for gender swap threads. It is a debate forum for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 01:29 PM
2

Nope. I'm not into that look
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 01:20 PM
2

Yes. My ex tried to use me as a baby incubator/vessel. His mom supported this man-child financially and she wanted him to have a kid. He was nowhere near ready (career & maturity wise) but as a mama's boy, he knew he had to pop out a grandkid in order for his mom to keep giving money to him. Of course, I refused. So he cheated with another girl in his lab (and lied about it to me). Soon after he broke up with me, I found out he has a baby. In hindsight, I dodged a bullet because that girl is not…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 05:32 AM
2

Thanks. I think I have gotten too caught up in the RP narrative: finding an ambitious, intelligent, caring man who can provide for me and kids....all the while with fearing the approaching "the wall". Him and I work very well together when it's just us. I feel relieved to see him no matter how difficult the day gets. It is usually when I am away from him do I have these thoughts.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/19 09:16 PM
2

Just FYI...freezing an embryo (fertilized eggs with sperm) has a much higher success rate than unfertilized eggs....it's around 95% If your friend is set on this man, I would suggest her to freeze a fertilized egg instead.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/19 06:03 PM
2

You cannot vet for accidents, deaths, unemployment, sickness.. Hell, you can't even vet for a change of heart. If a woman is able to hold her own financially, she is much better off when shit hits the fan.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/19 05:56 PM
1

Thank you so much for your response! Your married life is looking a lot like my future. My guy is definitely a literary bohemian. He dives himself into online novels but not knowledgeable about practical matters. Like your husband, my guy is very frugal/thrifty but terrible at long-term planning. He is the type to save a dime, waste a thousand. We are compatible physically and have a loving intimate relationship. However, anything practical (housework, career, money, planning) is something I wou…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/19 02:22 PM
3

Women do not like emotionless men, they like men who can properly control their own emotion. Sound familiar? So does men. Everyone likes people who can properly express, reflect, and control their own emotional state. Those who cannot are immature and difficult to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 12:02 PM
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It sounds like you could probably coast along just fine in this relationship, take the reigns and build the life that you want with him next to you. But, you will always be the leader and if you go along with this plan you need to accept that. He will always be content in a low-level job, and you will always be at least somewhat ashamed to show him off. You've said exactly what is in my mind. I have been in a very tough situations in the past 3 years (PTSD from cheating ex, total demolition of h…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/19 03:52 AM
2

Thank you for your insights. How are you doing now? I am very much afraid of "the wall", the biological clock, the commitment chase, the possible inflated self-worth phenomena. If possible, could I skype you/message you? I could really use a friend :')
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/19 02:24 AM
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Coming from a breakup due to my ex-cheating on me (together for 7.5 years), my non-negotiable is COMMITMENT.....which my man score 100 on. As for others that I would very much desire: a good career, leader, ambition. My man is totally lacking in these areas. I am leading in this relationship (pushing forward for marriage/house/kids/better job prospects). I can get these tasks done, but it is not my intuitive nature and I am very exhausted. He is a great supporter though. Through thick and thin.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/19 02:20 AM
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You gave me very good questions to think about. So thank you for that. To your question, "are you happy with your relationship?". My answer is...most of the time. Although he is not my 'life' rock, he is my emotional rock. To reflect on myself, I am an anxious person who always plans ahead whereas he is a stable type where he lives in the moment. I'd say we complement each other pretty well for most parts. With that said, there are few big issue items that need to be addressed. First, I am not h…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/19 02:14 AM
2

I'd say it becomes a question of what is the socioeconomic background of the girl. Everyone wants to find someone relatable. A born-rich girl will find guy #1 more attractive whereas a born-humble girl will guy #2 more attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 06:34 PM
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True. This sub definitely has a survivorship bias. Men who are happily married do not visit this sub; they are likely working on something better than arguing online with strangers. It's like we don't think of water & electricity until there's a power outage/water shortage.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 02:15 PM
1

Your argument is there's little incentive for already financial successful men to undergo a major financial risk for the proposed rewards. However, most couples marry when they are late 20s/ 30s, where men are NOT financially successful (reached the peaks of their career yet). For older men who had reached their financial peak, money isn't so important as to maintenance of lifestyle. Health declines, and the wife duties shifts to a caretaker (ranging from household chores to legal/medical decisi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 06:04 PM
0

Marriage means both partners should have the same long-term goals. Therefore, your spouse should definitely be game for FIRE, which marriage can accelerate this process (a DINK reaches FIRE quicker than a single man can because consolidation of assets/lowering expenses/divided duties). If your spouse isn't FIRE oriented, for you, she shouldn't be your spouse in the first place. A single bachelor lifestyle is great until you need help. In life, you are definitely going to get old, get fired, lose…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 05:50 PM
2

Your question of "does it worth the risk"merits a good point. If the man marries a woman who does not contribute financially, that's a couple points deducted. If the man marries a woman who has a sizable nest egg and willing to share (no prenup), that's a couple points plus. If she is on your health insurance/you get better benefits, then the worth decreases. If you are on her benefits, the worth increases....you get the idea. It's based on calculating the pros/cons/opportunity and risk. You can…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 05:40 PM
1

No. I also do not want to be a stay-at-home wife/mom. I have a strong desire to contribute financially and I would demand my partner to do the same. Therefore, if childbirth/illness comes up, I would classify it as exception where it's ok for him to stay-at-home. My ideal is 50-50 in contribution. That means if either one of us stops working, the other should be taking over all the household duties. Realistically, I'd prefer a 75%work/25%house + 25%work/75%house dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 04:05 PM
0

Yes. You can't negotiate attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 03:54 PM
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Contrary to popular RP belief, married men live longer, have healthier lifestyle, earns more and happier than their unmarried counterparts. Also, having married partner allows for power of attorney in case something goes wrong. You have a lifelong companionship, eligible health insurance (if one of you loses job), claims to estate...and generally have someone to fall back on in case you get sick/loses job/dies. In return, the legality of marriage is a woman's bargaining chip for you to obtain al…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/19 03:50 PM
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So true. My guy would finish me off and when it starts hurting, he would pull out, finish off in the bathroom and then come cuddle with me. I usually dozed off feeling....very satisfied. I love his selflessness and patience in dealing with my sex issues (PTSD from previous relationship)...and of course, he is really hot in my eye too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 01:11 AM
7

The thing about China is there's no re-education. People just....disappear.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 05:27 AM
2

As a woman, I don't value Mysterious/Intrigue at all. They are stand-offish, hard to deal with, and generally like talking to a wall or timed bomb waiting to explode. I actively select out these men
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 08:43 PM
2

Yes, I play the guitar because I want to impress people (parents, family, friends, etc.) Life is more than boys LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 04:50 AM
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it's not so much of a gender pay gap than a motherhood penalty. There's an insignificant pay difference between childless full-time women and men. However, women who take maternity leave and childcare (and rightfully so) has to suffer opportunity cost where catching up to their childless peers becomes difficult.
/r/RedPillWives29/10/19 04:16 AM
3

These traits are not binary but on a spectrum. A slightly dominant person is also somewhat arrogant but sure of themselves and able to make executive decisions, he/she would be compatible with a somewhat submissive person who is friendly, make peace, but takes a long time to pull action and decisions through. This is also why abusive relationships happen. A very dominant person is attractive to a very submissive person and vice versa. Moderation is key.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 04:32 PM
1

Neuroengineering with a subspecialty in Gene editing
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 06:20 PM
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I wish there's more people like you. My ex left me after 7.5 years saying that "we grew apart, I feel resentful towards you, you are the problem etc." I suspected him cheating, confronted to him about it, and he denied it. One year later I found out he has has a one-year old kid (do the math, he knocked her up when we are still in relationship), and she was a co-worker we both knew. I stared straight at her face before we broke up and she was nothing but SHAME in her eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 01:47 PM
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I would like a man that is very similar to me but different enough to be compatible with each other. Physical: I am 5'6", so I would like him to be 5'11 to 6'1"; I am so average/slim built, so he doesn't need to look buff or athletic, healthy weight is great. As for facial features, I have feminine facial features so it'd be nice for him to have masculine features (jaw line, strong eyes). Emotional: I am INTJ so I'd like someone that is compatible with me (prefers to stay home but like to go out…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 04:58 PM
1

Definitely. If steps are taken towards to treatment, I don't see why it would be a problem. However, men are less likely to go seek treatment than women (Source: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5734543/)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 12:00 AM
1

It can be a symptom of obesity. Other than aesthetics, it is also a health issue that affects other people and predominantly affects men in older ages. Whether that signifies the men's wall is another debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 10:53 PM
1

Median is a better measure of a population, which is 161.2lb. for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 09:13 PM
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I'd say if the girl is willing and capable of taking off her clothes, then it's with consent. If you undressed her yourself, then it's rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 12:50 AM
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Different situations work differently on people. My sister met her husband for only 4 months before engagement, then married within a year. Before you start judging, she holds a high salary position (100k+ position) and was very comfortable in life. When they met, her fiance holds a less salary position (80k+) but was going to get transferred overseas (160k-200k). He wanted her to come with him, but he knows she doesn't want to go without commitment. So they got engaged in 4 months, moved overse…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 12:29 AM
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Lol OP thinks popping out babies is like pooping.he clearly has no knowledge in basic biology
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 12:18 AM
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Although I agree that mothers are essential in early life and father's can be just as important in later stages, a break in career often leads to lower wages. If you ain't climbing the ladder, you stay out of touch with current tech, then you get left behind. This applies to both men and women. But men can choose to have paternity leave, women cannot because they needs months to recover fully. Months turn into years if they choose to have multiple children.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 12:14 AM
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False. Dads cannot breastfeed. Breastfeeding provides not only nutrients but also immunity (via antibodies). These antibodies are not stable long term so mom needs to often pump for breast milk. Also, moms needs more than 6 weeks (which is the # of weeks recommended by federal guidelines) to recover. Doctors often recommends 3 months (if natural birth) and up to 1 year (for c section babies). During the recovery time, obviously mom cannot work.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 12:08 AM
1

I own a small time ecommerce store selling specialty goods. I am into skincare/beauty so I spend a lot of time studying and practicing in it Yoga, cook and home organization is a basic life skill that everyone should know Jeez I need to spent less time on PPD this shiet is useless AF lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 09:57 AM
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Yes. I actually almost fell into this. Back then, my (25, F) ex (26, M) and I finished our Masters and I got a full time job first. He wanted to do a PhD (that's great) but I want to too (yay me!). So I applied, got accepted, and here's want he and his mom said "women don't need a PhD, just support me while I do finish school with your fulltime job." I was offended and lol'ed no. A couple months later, he broke up with me after 7.5 years, knocked up another girl, and moved in with her. I knew he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/19 10:42 AM
10

You can't negotiate attraction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/19 05:55 AM
1

78% masculine; 31% feminine Pretty much what I expect seeing I am a female in engineering ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 05:27 AM
1

Quality post
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 09:16 AM
2

Definitely. I'm everything that I look for in a partner.....maybe a little less neurotic but I attribute that to hormonal changes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 08:24 PM
2

Can someone post stats about men's fertility vs age?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 08:21 PM
1

Haven't found anyone better ¯_(ツ)_/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 08:18 PM
2

If she cancels, she gives it back (or not, up to him). If he cancels, she doesn't have to give it back (it's a gift, up to her). She spent all that youth time on him so at least give her something to pawn her off of
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 08:14 PM
2

Women are like luxury import cars. If you put work/time/money to regularly maintain it, you'll always be in demand by a certain subgroup of population - the vintage fanatics. You won't appealed to everyone like a younger model, but a well maintained vintage car is rarer, priced higher, and generally, the buyer is more refined in character. You only need 1 buyer after all. Economical cars: young men, cheap to buy early on, good investment, but nothing shiny Luxury import cars: young pretty women,…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/19 11:14 AM
1

My coworker went through IVF that also selected out of a hereditary disease. It's all covered by insurance and takes 2-3 months. Have you thought about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 05:03 PM
1

Maybes. There's hot bald guys that lift and ugly bald guys that gave up. Then there's hot fat women will curves and ugly women that also gave up. Both attract a subtype of people (gymrats and chubby chasers).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 04:58 PM
1

The wall for women is like luxury import cars. For men is like economic cars. Both are at its best when it's physical best when they just got made. Luxury import cars requires a lot of work to be maintained; but if you put time/money, the value stays and be always be wanted by a certain population. The group is smaller but they appreciate it more. If neglected, it will just be an old useless car that can't drive anymore and no one wants it. For economical cars, they are an ok choice early on bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 04:47 PM
2

I think everyone just wants to make average height babies....
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 09:47 AM
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Straight up pheromones. Not cologne, not shampoo....if I smell his neck/armpit and it smells right, that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 10:20 PM
2

Well no just they werent in a hurry, my mum would have and my dad eventually got engaged though it didnt work out , just they werent in a rush to do it Yes. There's a risk in every guy to not want to get married. But for someone who is technically still married, the chance of him marrying you SOON is very very small. If you want to keep going, you must accept the reality of never being officially married. Also, because she is technically still his wife; they might not love each other anymore, bu…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/19 02:25 PM
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I respectfully disagree with this method. Because....what's keeping a man from leaving you years down the road? An acquaintance I know stayed with her man for 9 years, essentially giving all her youth to him. He was an intelligent and as you described, had the tools to become a rich man some day. When they got together, he was a broke engineering student with hard work ethnic. She supported him all these years and he now makes 300k as a director. She always mentioned that they would get married …
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/19 04:19 PM
1

Can you direct me to some of these? I need tips tonight! Lol
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 08:25 PM
2

I am in the same boat. But sometimes I wonder, would I resent my SO/husband for being unable to provide in the future years? How about you?
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 08:07 AM
2

Once upon a time, men had the privilege of dominance in the workforce, which compelled responsibility for maintaining the nation's economy and being productive in their careers. When that privilege was taken away and shared with women (the "rightness" of which I'm intentionally not commenting on here), men stopped having any motivation to bear the responsibility of maintaining the workforce. So, we see a lot of guys abandoning profitable careers to content themselves with dead end positions. Whe…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 08:00 AM
2

ugh, I've gotten so much crap from other women when I have appreciated my husbands efforts. Many of them think of me as some sort of unable and weak idiot, who my sad husband needs to save every day, even though they have no idea how much I do and how much I've gone through these past few years with chronic pain in both pregnancies and all the health emergencies. Oftentimes it's straight on 'I'd be a better wife than you" sentiment. I hate it and have stopped openly complimenting my husband in f…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 07:46 AM
5

How much was the service? I heard it is quite hefty in thousands of dollars. Which service did you use?
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 07:00 PM
14

Going a bit orthogonal here, but I think the case with Jeff Bezo's divorce is a fair judgement. She had been there through thick and thin and is very much entitled to her settlement.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 07:48 PM
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I tried this for a month and it didn't work. He understands that these tasks bothers me but not enough for him to help out. So I ended up doing them instead. I guess he got free labor.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 07:45 PM
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Ahhh I really needed to hear this. I was having so much anxiety issues as I am coming up to 30. But then again, I was having anxiety issues as I was coming to 18, then 21, then.... Live life to the fullest everyday!
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 05:15 AM
1

He wants to get into programming. But with little/no math & science background, it's very hard for him get into it with a bachelor's in English. Also, his interview skills is lacking and he is not so good with computers. Furthermore, I don't think he is studying enough especially this late in the game.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 04:03 PM
1

Thank you for your response. I wholeheartedly agree that the plan of the action would be for him to get his own place, and invite me to move it with him with a set timeline for marriage. Right now, I cannot see how he does as an individual since his mom makes all his meals and his dad repairs/upkeeps anything around the house. However, he responded that 1. he doesn't have enough money to move out and need a new job first, and 2. he doesn't know the timeline or what he wants to do. I initially th…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 07:19 AM
1

Thank you for your advice. Yesterday I had a talk with him and the main reason why he hasn't moved out is because of money. He had been working at a dead-end job since college graduation and doesn't have enough to move out. Which I felt odd because the standard of living isn't very high in my city. $40k for a $900/mo apartment is a stretch, but not impossible. We've talked about marriage before and he plans to marry me in 1.5 years. However, he has not proposed and has no plans (financially) to …
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 07:15 AM
1

For point 1, I definitely agree. I had told him "why buy the cow when you can get milk for free?" analogy. It is a silly question, but how do people "date" before cohabitation nowadays? It seems like most guys want the sure deal before taking the plunge. Giving a drawer at your apartment to staying over 6 nights a week to full-on signing leases are very different. For point 2, I definitely prefer if he has his own space and asks me to move in with him instead. However, that is not logistically p…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 07:05 AM
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Thank you for everyone's reply. It was very helpful and puts things back into perspective. As suggested, I had a talk with him yesterday (non-confrontationally) and asks why he is still living with his parents. It turns out, it is largely due to money. He is not taking care of his parents; in fact, the opposite, his mom often cooks for his meals and his dad fixes anything around the house. He has never paid for utility bills (electric, gas, water) and does not know how to do house chores. I taug…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 06:53 AM
1

Thanks for your reply. This makes me think there's two sides of a token. He is loyal, giving and willing take cares of his loved ones. However, he is also too trusting and signs away his savings and investments easily. His motto is not to stress and is a living-in-the-moment guy, but oftentimes situations comes back and bite him due to a lack of planning and carelessness. I do want to find a man who takes cares of his family (which will be my own too). However, his willingness to commit fraud wi…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 02:41 AM
2

Yes, I definitely shouldn't make a hasty decision. However, it is not up to me to say his parents pay him rent. Also, we do plan to get married so if I were to only one eligible for FHA Loan, the loan amount would be much lower than if he can contribute too.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 12:28 PM
2

I've discussed this with my SO but he does not seemed to be as concerned as I am. He tells me I worry too much and everything will be ok. I've tried explaining to him that he will be responsible for property tax, ineligibility for FHA loans, and fraud, but no avail. Technically, I am still his girlfriend and am not married to him. So I have no right to push further. However, I am not okay with being kept in the dark especially when if I am marrying into debt.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 08:28 PM
1

care to share the name of the app?
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 12:23 AM
3

The incognito browser tab was left open, it was never closed
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 03:42 PM
1

Thanks for your reply. I do agree that it's somewhat normal to check up on exe's social media pages and I understand the curiosity. However, to hide it from me is quite concerning. I've talked to him about getting drunk at exe's house issue. He said he won't do it again, but I feel that this behavior has translated into something else (this time being shady at checking out social media). These are the only times I've found out, but there's possibility of times I didn't know. I do think there's a…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 03:41 PM
4

I logged on to my home desktop and it was one of the tabs that got left open.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 03:11 PM
2

I logged on to my home computer, and it was one of the tabs that got left open.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 03:10 PM
4

I am almost 28 and I wish I could go back in time and read Redpillwomen when I was 23. Granted, I was subdued, insecure, and obsessed with male attention back then. I thought if I stayed with my ex-BF long enough (7.5 years!), he would eventually marry me. We met when we were both freshman (approx. same age). Through parents and media, my vision was if I stick with him over the years, he would be 'ready' to marry when we finish building our careers. NOPE. He broke up with me for another girl. A …
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/18 04:09 PM
1

Thanks. That was helpful
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 10:23 PM
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Thanks for your input. I don't mind planning it, and he doesn't hate celebrating our anniversary either. We are both looking forward to the date (me more than him). He is okay with a fancy date or stay-at-home, but I would like a getaway at the beach (2hrs away). As for gifts, I would like roses but I think he is okay with anything. I always try to get him something he really wants (even if it's expensive). It's just from YouTube, Movies, or Instagram, the guy always take the girl out for a surp…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 07:25 PM
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This makes sense. Based on probability, men who get 10 girls will get 2 bad apples; men who get 50 girls will get 10 bad apples; men who get no girls will get no bad apples.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/18 11:05 AM
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It is important to look back and be grateful for the things your partner does. There's a fallacy of concentrating on the things that went wrong and not right, because evolutionarily`, there is no advantage of focusing what went right. Basically, it all starts with appreciation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 10:55 AM
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It's also the stability. Even if mom and dad both work, if one person falls ill or loses work, the SO can still help.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 10:41 AM
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Today I came across a situation where being domestic is NOT revered upon. My friend Jenny (F, 24) and Andrew (M, 32) have just broken up. To get the facts straight, Jenny has been living at Andrew's place for 2 years. She is the domestic type where she takes care of the house and he makes good money to support her. She works out daily to keep a good figure, a loyal girlfriend who completely dropped the clubbing scene after they started, and works hard to clean and cook. Basically, a well-rounded…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/18 08:20 AM
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I don't agree with this. It is not solely her fault and he definitely have played a part in this too. A lot of the times no one is innocent and no one should take all the blame. They just weren't compatible, at the right time, in the right place in life. If you can't win the game, you win by letting it go.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 05:11 PM
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I like it when the guy pays for the dinner and I will get the dessert. It shows that he is dominant and willing to step up, but I am also willing to fill in whenever possible. To even things out, I will get surprise gifts on occasions or offer to take him on a date in the later stages of a relationship. However, no splitting the bill for me....that's reserved for friends in my culture.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/18 03:12 AM
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I'm going against the grain here. I had a relationship with this guy withalmost 8 years. Like many RP-ers and coming from a traditional Asian woman background, I was accommodating, loyal, etc. Over the years, he slowly lost interest in me. But silly me, I thought since we've been together for so long and we live together, I thought I've won. One day, I've discovered that there's this girl in his lab that has been getting close to him. She gave him attention, flirted, and what not. But I believed…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/18 07:48 PM
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If you don't set expectations and boundaries in the relationship, then he will trample all over you. Decide if this is a dealbreaker and, always be ready to leave/let it go if he doesn't change.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 06:43 PM
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I heard there's a saying that men like smart women, just not smarter than themselves. Thoughts?
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/18 06:44 PM
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I don't want a hand-out; I don't want a sugar daddy. But I do want the efforts I've put in to build myself will come into fruitation. And that includes having a committed, strong, loving man that I can trust to reach our common goals together for many many years.
/r/RedPillWives11/04/18 04:20 PM
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Writing my thoughts and feelings out in a journal. Nobody wants to hear your shit after awhile, but talking out loud and writing it out helps.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/18 10:23 AM
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To be honest, this is really hard to read....it feels like a high school student writing an essay and trying to sound 'adult'
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/18 10:19 AM
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I think she meant there's only 24hrs in a day. Everyone needs sleep, eat, shit etc. If you are spending 6 hours at the gym, you are not spending that 6 hours rather reading, hanging out with family, write a book, see your parents, etc. Something gotta give.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/18 02:57 PM
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Other than tax benefits, you or him can also get onto each other's health insurance, 401k, education assistance, pension, IRA, estate, approvalof mortgage or business loans, and biggie - citizenship by DEFAULT. If he marries you when these perks are convenient for him, are you OK with that? He needs to respect your timeline and need to security too.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/18 05:58 PM
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I am on the other side of the story. I met my ex boyfriend when we were both freshman in college. We are poor, eating ramen for every meal, and I was so upset and anxious for our future lives. For 7 years, I supported him and stayed by him all this time, provide for him financially and emotionally (paid bills, clean house, make meals, etc) because just like you, I believed when he finished his PhD we would have a good life together. When he saw the light at the end of PhD tunnel and knew he woul…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 08:18 PM
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The real question is: do YOU still want him? The problems that led to the breakup will still persists after the reunion, how would you solve it or let it go?
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/18 05:04 AM
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Should? No, he doesn't have to. But it's nice for couples to share information with each other if both partners are comfortable talking about it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/18 01:56 PM
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Thanks. We dated for 7 and a half years...which really sucked because it caught me off guard. Also, he downloaded another messaging app (that required pw to get into on his phone) just to talk to this woman. I only found out about it because he accidentally synched the app to a desktop we both used. Are you his priority or is it his phone (or whatever he does on it)? Just keep that in mind .
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 07:52 PM
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A similar thing happened to me once. At first, my ex was on his phone a lot (at restaurants, dates, then even cuddling time). I thought it was harmless and he needed some space. Later, he started retracting his phone away whenever I wanted to check something (not spying, just wanted to check the weather etc). The naive me still believed that nothing is going on since he is the stoic type. Maybe I didn't know, maybe I didn't want to know, maybe I was in denial. But later I found out he was emotio…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 04:10 PM
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