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So you already went on a "coffee date" with him? OP he's already signalled he's not interested in dating you. He would ask you to dinner if he wanted to seriously date you, case closed. A man asking you to coffee either has you in the friend zone or the fuck zone. Neither of those will ever transition into the wife zone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 01:28 PM
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That sounds crazy to me although I know it was a big big hit. Was is maybe the most successful indie rom-coms?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 05:19 AM
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Reminder to lock your DMs and unsubscribe from Reddit Cares messages lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 03:41 AM
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Reminder that these sorts of posts are only allowed in the AskFDS sub!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 03:40 AM
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She's just being a Pick Me "cool girl". Classic case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 03:36 AM
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The millennial erasure lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 07:09 AM
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Accurate. Also it's important to not just be out but be SOCIAL, including talking to strangers (as much as I, an introvert, hate that!) It's one of the few good pieces of advice from Matthew Hussey (book report post coming soon!) If you go out but sit in a corner on your phone or just talking to your same gal pal all night it was a waste of an evening. You need to TALK TO NEW PEOPLE and put yourself out there. This does NOT mean pursuing men, but you can, for example, strike up a convo with a wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 10:57 AM
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That 1950s cultural misogyny really jumps out in the Flintstones lol, especially since it was a sitcom aimed at adults so they weren't really making nice for the kiddos too much haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 11:32 AM
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Meg was always by far my favourite Disney heroine. Sharp as nails, sick of men's bullshit, witty comebacks, and she kind of looked like me so that helped too haha! That movie is severely underrated, it has one of the BEST Disney soundtracks ever AND funniest, campiest villain AND coolest animal sidekick AND hottest prince AND strongest female lead PLUS a body-diverse WOC chorus of muses - literally why did everyone sleep on this goddamn gem??? 😍😍😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 11:31 AM
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Just because people on YouTube use some of the same language as FDS doesn't mean they mean the same thing universally. Masculine and feminine energy is not "bull", it's part of the Female Dating Strategy, period. Learn more about how we define if you want to but you can't reject it out of hand and still claim to be into FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 08:43 AM
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This! Definitely get the gym involved if he gets pushy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 08:40 AM
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No a HVM wouldn't need you to help him but insecure women often try it anyway, that is the point. MANY FDS newbies are extremely indoctrinated in libfem and PickMe behaviour such as trying to pay on dates, refusing a jacket if it's offered, turning down gifts that are "too expensive", etc, etc. Feminine does NOT mean submissive. Your own internalized libfem biases are coming through. Hating femininity is literally just internalized misogyny. Having feminine, receptive energy is a crucial tenet o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 10:54 PM
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They also agreed years ago that he wouldn't come to red carpets anymore because he didn't want to do it. Supporting your wife's incredible career too tough, bud?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 09:17 AM
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I wouldn't make "exclusive" and "bf/gf" separate categories. Why would you commit to him like that, taking away one of your biggest tools, dating around, and not get being officially in a relationship in return? It's VERY important to keep roster dating while vetting so that you don't get hyper-focused on one man and start excusing or overlooking his faults and letting him feel like he's "got" you so no further effort is required. Don't be in a rush to give that away. You want to be actively vet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 09:01 PM
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I thought there was definitely a possibility you meant "when asked by anyone what I’m looking for in a relationship, I tell them I’m looking for a man who is everything my dad is not" figuratively but you genuinely never know with this sub lmao. It took me personally a long time to get to grips with how to approach dating as an abuse survivor but I have ALWAYS played it close to the chest regardless because I had to keep it secret growing up so it was second nature. Still, now that my parents ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 08:52 PM
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As the daughter of an abusive addict NVM I totally feel this but I (and FDS) would NOT recommend you actually tell people you're looking for someone unlike your father. It's an overshare for absolutely everyone but your closest girlfriends and a major liability to share with potential romantic men. We NEVER want to give the impression that ANYONE has EVER treated us as less than gold, period. Every ex was amazing but we didn't work out, every job was fulfilling but we wanted a new challenge, and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 07:33 PM
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The only thing I don't agree with is the little "not all men are like this". Yes sis it's ALL men!! A HVM just won't stick around using and resenting you, he'll gracefully exit the situation because he knows he wants to be a provider to a feminine (read: not domineering/running everything even though it's technically helpful) woman. Being unable to accept masculine provider energy is a huge pitfall I hear from newbies here, which is why suppressing the libfem/PickMe urge to offer to pay on the f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 07:14 PM
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Casanova should have never been used for a man who was respectable or a catch though, it's the name of a community dick literary character lmao. It would be someone like Jude Law I guess, handsome and charming but a cheater or promiscuous man who's never going to commit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 08:04 AM
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TW: Graphic explanations ahead. Sexual assault is the umbrella term for any unwanted, sexualized contact. Rape is a form of sexual assault, but other forms could be groping, tearing someone's top off, rubbing their erection on someone in the subway, etc. Rape is generally defined as forcible vaginal (and sometimes oral) penetration by a penis, and sodomy is often used to describe forcible anal penetration, including with a foreign object.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 07:56 AM
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Season 1 is super explicit, that's a big part of why it's so popular.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 06:36 AM
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Absolutely this. You "joking" about his sex life with him gives me major ick OP, sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 11:39 PM
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Reminder that Male Depravity posts are now only allowed on Mondays and never allowed without useful commentary or strategy attached.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 09:31 PM
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If he already doesn't pull his weight or uses weaponized incompetence around the house you will be 100% on your own when a baby comes. This is my sister and BIL's situation and they really want kids... I know he's going to be worse than useless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 01:13 AM
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??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 12:02 PM
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I STRONGLY believe that a crucial part of FDS that many many newbies don't want to interact with is that YOU ALSO HAVE TO BE A HVW FOR IT TO WORK. You're expecting a man in tip-top condition and you have to be at that level too. It's imperative that you take the time to level up your confidence (including your looks, style, mental health, career, etc, IF those areas need improvement in order for you to feel confident.) Let him go with grace and keep working on yourself. In time you will be able …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 04:11 PM
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It gets better queen! My amazing HV mom left an abusive marriage of 30+ years and as soon as she was ready to date again (a few years later) she met someone! (Right now he does seem HV although I am on extreme high alert since she hasn't given me any reason to trust her judgement in this area haha...) If I was you I would cut off communication with my ex though, even if you share custody you should keep convo exclusively to logistics and not entertain questions about your dating life. Confessing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 04:05 PM
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I hope you updated the review to include that he threatened you with violence and frankly I think you should go to the police as well. Even if they only caution him you will have a paper trail and he will hopefully be taught a lesson. I would interpret "drag your ass through the gravel" as a death threat, honestly. It's not okay and he shouldn't get away with it. SO sorry you are going through this queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 01:23 AM
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THANK YOU!! I've been reporting low effort posts like crazy and I was worried I was going to get in trouble for being a nuisance, there's just SO much of them!! I was tempted to make a post like "can we just have a Male Depravity sub for those who seem to love to post that shit and circle jerk about it??" I get the argument that it's helpful for Pick Me reprogramming but most of us queens are well past that point. Having the tag once a week works too! I ended up just waiting and seeing and trust…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 05:35 PM
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This is why FDS doesn't support friendships with men, period. I have one that I've been okay with because he is asexual (I can also be tentatively okay with gay men), but honestly I think I'm phasing him out. Otherwise I can be friendly with say a friend's BF but I would never try to hang out with him one on one or try to have a friendship beyond through her or if they break-up, etc. Same with my brother in law, etc. There's a gay couple I've been acquainted with through a mutual hobby for years…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 05:13 PM
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This has me deceased queen 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 02:31 AM
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It was just a boundary test to see how much he can push other, more serious boundaries in the future ("I know you said you don't like [depraved sexual act] but let's try it anyway evil grin " Oo it makes me shudder just thinking about it. Yes men ARE that smart and manipulative, whether consciously or unconsciously. This is why we do like OP says and RUN at the first sign of fuckery. VETTING 👏 BAD 👏 MEN 👏 👏 CAN 👏 SAVE 👏 YOUR 👏 LIFE. 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 03:04 PM
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Interesting how "she knew what she was marrying" works for him but he's posting trying to find out how to change what she was when he married her. God I hope she leaves him. She can do SO much better on her own and he should be happy to see her go too since she'll NEVER give him what she wants because she's simply not attracted to him that much 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 06:55 AM
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Reminder that you cannot know if someone is HV from casual interactions. You can have not seen any LV signs but just because someone was nice to you in passing does not earn them a HV badge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 12:48 AM
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If a man struggles with condoms that much he is pornsick, guaranteed. A man who's not addicted to masturbation WILL be able to cum from protected sex, no problem. It's the desensitization and death grip that get them and then they whine about a few microns of latex 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 05:08 PM
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Sounds like it's time to raise your prices too sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 04:06 PM
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^ OOP, THERE IT IS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 07:14 PM
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You got him in the comments haha! Update us with the replies and likes/dislikes you get 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 07:14 PM
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It's truly not even that, AskFDS is for personal advice questions but posts there often don't get much feedback so we're getting an onslaught of entitled posters here who think the rules don't apply to them (or couldn't be arsed to read the rules in the first place along with the Handbook....)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 03:34 AM
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It's not about "getting cheeky", it's about sub members frustrated with an onslaught of posts that 1) shouldn't even be here, but in AskFDS instead, and 2) are coming from women posting multiple times about the same bad relationship and asking for advice when they clearly haven't read/don't respect the Handbook and therefore the community. It's disrespectful to the tens of thousands of women here who follow the rules and the guidelines of the Strategy. These posters are coming into FDS but not f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 03:32 AM
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I once read that she was dating a non-wealthy man and gave him a 40,000$ a month allowance so he could pick up the tab and buy her and her kids gifts and she could feel like he was taking care of her... Never forgot that. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 09:45 PM
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As soon as you hear yourself saying "maybe I'll never do any better" you need to RUN because you are not making decisions with your head OR your heart, only your fear. You know what you need to do. You have our support. Please do it, or leave us out of the rest. The only answer is you'll get from us is to do what you already know you need to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 09:42 PM
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Ma'am you are a Forever Girlfriend at this point. You are trying very hard to rationalize this incident when it's very clear to everyone here that your man's true LVM colours were displayed as clear as day. This relationship is not compatible with FDS and never will be. It's time to rediscover your dignity and walk away (or walk away from FDS because you are not going to find validation for your situation here.) You are "pot committed", to use a poker phrase. Basically you've fallen into the sun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 02:04 PM
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100%. HE found the joke funny. The video doesn't lie, he was laughing when Chris said it. THEN he realized Jada was pissed and decided to "do something" about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 01:21 AM
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"Smurfette" has me DEAD 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 11:38 PM
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Don't forget that it's an enormous red flag he would ask you out the day of. You should have strong boundaries about advance notice for dates (most FDS women use 3-7 days) and asking last minute is grounds for block and delete because it shows he doesn't think you're worth any effort or planning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 11:36 PM
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I'm almost certain the second commenter is actually a woman (note the use of "we" in the second paragraph). It reeks of internalized misogyny and a LVW who blames others for her problems to me (i.e. men don't want me because sOciEtY, skinny women are clearly sick and crazy!!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 09:55 PM
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It's a LVW who hates fit women because she thinks that's unattainable for her so she's decided they are all secretly unhealthy and mentally ill and the reason she can't get a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 09:49 PM
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This is some nasty internalized misogyny. Working out and running do not equate orthorexia and "ample fat" is not any human's "natural state". Our species are the best long-distance endurance runners on the planet, we evolved to designed to live off plants and the occasional meat meal that we had to track and chase for 2-3 days to attain. I'm NOT a fitness nut, I barely exercise lmao but the science is crystal clear that obesity, even to the extent that we societally embrace as "curvy" or "thicc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 04:09 PM
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Don't you love how the second article talks about supporting a "live-in girlfriend" when the first one clearly states that HE moved his bum ass in with HER? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 03:18 PM
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As the child of a MASSIVE stoner NVM I 100% agree, don't have kids with a pothead. He used it to medicate his serious mental health issues so it was only the tip of the iceberg too. He drove high with us kids in the car all the time. Raise your standards and say no to drugs (users) ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 03:06 PM
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With weed, as a non-smoker my definition of "occasional" use is basically never the same as theirs lmao. Personally I'm talking "once every 2-3 months max" like if someone offers a puff at a party, never buying your own. The average scrote's definition of "occasional" is gonna be 1-3 times a week but realistically it's every 1-2 days lmao 🙃 I just don't like it, don't like being around it, don't like what it usually does to men's ambition, don't like the health effects, don't like that most men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 03:03 PM
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Being white does not negate the extreme oppression of being a woman and being "racialized" does not negate the extreme privilege of being a man. That's why intersectionality fucking exists. Libfems really just moving feminism backwards at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 02:54 PM
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Yes. This. So many women posting "epic clapbacks" here... That is not FDS approved. Just block the dude. Screenshot his stupidity and send your sick burn to the group chat for your girls to appreciate if you must! Get your validation from female solidarity, not "male tears". Drinking salty tears only dehydrates you... We don't need ANYTHING from LVM, not even to "score points" off them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 03:02 AM
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You deserve so much better than him sis!! Any man who puts you in "the fuckzone" is not worth an iota of your time, energy, care or attention. A HVM who's truly interested in you will have no problem waiting (even until marriage if you choose!) for sex because he will be so excited to get to know YOU as a person and spend quality time with you. He needs to value you as a human whole-heartedly before sex comes in at all. Always remember you are worthy of real, true love and it's out there! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 07:01 PM
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Sounds like need to reread the Handbook sis. FDS women do not "share back and forth imaging dating life together" with men on the internet. We don't "play along" with "sexually flirty" texts, especially after 1(!!!) lunch date. We also don't "remind him" that we want to "move slow" - sex should not even be DISCUSSED for weeks or months. We certainly don't privately think "why cant he 'play it out *a few weeks*'???" You allowed yourself to be drawn into a virtual conversation and be future-faked.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 03:35 PM
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Your username... I do have questions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 08:15 PM
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In re: "why did she feel the need to cheat?" I believe there are absolutely terrible LVW in the world who would cheat on a HVM for no real reason. I highly doubt there's a lot of them, but hey... Some people do just grow apart naturally, or maybe got married too young and weren't actually well suited. I would proceed with a high degree of caution with divorcees but I think there are valid reasons a marriage even between two HV people just doesn't work out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 11:00 PM
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She is getting set to leave and good for her! She's had enough of all the BS he's clearly leaving out lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 05:04 PM
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BLEH! The incel fantasy fulfillment is STRONG with this one, YIKES! "Aw that's so sweet of you! :D" lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 09:35 PM
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YES SIS! I wore clown makeup for a toxic man who didn't respect or appreciate me for SIX. YEARS. Know what FINALLY made me snap and walk away cleanly after aaalllll that? He swore at me and hung up on me, again. I told him so many times I hated it, it's so disrespectful, I understand what I said made you mad but you can't treat me this way, please don't do it again... 🤡🤡🤡 He'd still be cheating and playing me today if I hadn't finally had enough. He said "Fuck off. click" and I ACTUALLY DID! Bes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:48 PM
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This story was jaw-droppingly twisted. Imo the mother was the biggest villain of all. These stories make me appreciate my lovely mama!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 05:30 PM
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Cruella is such a cool character (in the original film especially). I also always loved Ursula. They are strong women with agency, some of the only ones us millennials and older were exposed to growing up. Women thinking they are cool is totally different from men idolizing the Joker, IRL serial killers, etc!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 10:50 AM
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Lower your expectations to about 0 with OLD. You might swipe for a year and not meet someone HV who acts right and meets your standards, it's a tundra out there. I only use Hinge exceptionally sparingly and vet so hard I only get 1-2 matches a month on average. Most of those don't even ask me out on an approved date and none of them have got to a second date. When you give off HVW/queen energy a LOT of LVM on OLD will weed themselves out because they don't want the "high maintenance" and most of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 09:10 PM
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That's not an unpopular opinion, it's a factually wrong opinion, (not to mention insensitive.) OP said "raw low fat vegans", that is a very distinct and small subset of plant based eaters. It's actually not even possible to be vegan just for your health because being vegan is a lifestyle, not just a diet, and includes things like not buying leather clothes, not going to the zoo or circus, and only using certified cruelty-free cosmetics. Veganism is an ethos that seeks to avoid animal exploitatio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 02:17 PM
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Before you block next time tell him if he ever contacts you again you'll report him for possessing child p*rnography, and then actually do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 03:37 AM
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If you have to wonder just walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 03:34 AM
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If he had the gut when I found him that's totally on me and if I couldn't accept I would leave. If he used to be fit and let himself go I would communicate about it, once. Have a good talk, let him know this change in his appearance is not welcome or attractive to me and if he doesn't want to keep up his healthy lifestyle that will be a deal-breaker. Then see if he takes meaningful action. If he does but the weight is stubborn you can reassess. If he doesn't then he doesn't care enough to priori…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 11:04 AM
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The Bachelor sub is a MESS right now, it's not just the PickMes defending sleeping around and attacking Susie for having boundaries but apparently (I haven't watched) Clayton had a MAJOR mask slip last night and was really horrible and scary to her and anyone calling that out is getting run into the ground. Definitely warrants its own discussion here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 06:47 PM
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If they invite me to dinner I will usually then ask for a video chat prior to making plans. I will also do so if they ask me to drinks (that is the first date standard where I live.) If they don't revise and ask for dinner after the video chat we're through. I don't bother with a video chat if they offer coffee, a walk, or some other free activity - they are a write-off, full stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 02:23 AM
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If you've been talking for more than two days and he hasn't asked you on a date he never will sis - he's using you for free entertainment and nothing more. If I match with someone on OLD I expect them to ask to meet IRL very quickly. I am willing to chat briefly at first but especially if they start asking "get to know you" questions like "what are your passions?" I will hit em with a "shouldn't we save that for dinner conversation?" Usually they'll take the hint and issue an invitation at that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 11:11 PM
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Soylent Green is scrotes???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 11:56 PM
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Dr Michaela Quinn, aka Dr Quinn Medicine Woman. That show was SO ahead of its time, feminist and radical to its core! Jane Seymour plays a female doctor in the 1860s, leaves her Boston practice (because misogyny) and goes to the frontier in Colorado Springs and encounters just so much more misogyny. After the sudden death of a friend she ends up raising three kids even though she doesn't know anything about mothering so there's lots of interesting story to cover there. She kicks ass and takes na…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 02:29 AM
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Yeppp, saw this as well. Columnist is a MAN! Basically lost respect for the whole column after this...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 05:27 PM
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"Treasure the little time us men are giving you as we are trying to work out the SUCCESS code." No thank you, I'll stick to men who already cracked the code and treasure their time spent with ME! 😘💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 05:26 PM
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Reminder for everyone reading that "the 3 month/6 month rule" is supposed to be waiting that long AFTER A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP IS ESTABLISHED. The clock does NOT start on the first date and should not be used as a strong deadline regardless, and NEVER communicated explicitly to a man. It should be "I'm very traditional and I want to wait until I am ready and we have a serious relationship and commitment. If you have a problem with that and aren't prepared to wait even for engagement or marriag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 04:50 PM
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Very this, it's just a romantic fantasy that women and children were prioritized and allowed off a sinking ship first. In actuality, when that mortal danger kicks in the male crew members and passengers are physically shoving their way into the lifeboats, doing anything they can to save themselves. In many sinkings ALL of the women and children ended up drowning. Sometimes there was an inquiry, sometimes it was just shrugged off...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 12:26 PM
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Males are biologically of far less value than females because males are only needed for conception but females bear and raise the next generation. This is why male birds are bright and colourful and females and young chicks are drab. The colours make the male far more visible and vulnerable to predators but it's okay since he used his bright plumage to mate and pass on his genes so his life's work is done. The females and chicks are much better camouflaged to give them the best chance to survive…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 02:23 AM
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Part of being an FDS HVW is having your mental health and self-confidence on point. It sounds like it's worth investigating whether you have that right now. It's a very tough thing to say "I'm not in a healthy enough place to date right now" and take yourself out of play but it's CRUCIAL to long term health, happiness, and romantic success. I'm not saying you are definitely in that boat but it is worth doing some self-reflection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 02:10 AM
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The newer "No Low Effort Posts" rule was meant to address this but people have not been respecting it. Screenshots without strategy added are not actually allowed! 😤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 06:58 PM
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Holy shit you're so right 👀👀👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 04:44 PM
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Michelle Obama and Priscilla Chan are both gorgeous and the white women are just middle aged. OP is clearly racist and ageist on top of misogynist, I'm shocked...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 04:38 PM
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This was a great post!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 06:49 PM
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She's gone viral recently because this is the first time she's been exposed to a "mainstream" audience (i.e. women) instead of just pornsick scrotes and people are FREAKING OUT over her horrifying blow-up doll lips. She's literally clueless and astounded like "no one ever told me they look crazy??? I don't get where this is coming from???" well no DUH ma'am you were in porn world! Here in the real world you look like a literal CLOWN and it's not cute, at all. I feel bad for her, she's so far dow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 05:33 PM
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Any man over 30 on OLD who's not "ready" for marriage can literally get out of my sight lmao, I have no time or patience for your Peter Pan ass 😂💀✂️✂️✂️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 05:24 PM
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My mom FINALLY ran from my abusive narc dad a few years ago and then he tricked her into moving back to the house by swearing up and down he would be finding a new place ASAP, it was only for a couple days, then a couple weeks... They lived "together, apart" for over a YEAR. He really thought being in his lovely presence would be enough to make her want to come back... I BEGGED her not to move back in while he was still there, I knew she'd have absolutely no leverage to make him leave. The key i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 05:19 PM
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You're right, the creator of YOI is indeed a woman! It's basically an idealized world where there's no homophobia and no toxic masculinity and everyone is sweet and lovely lol. It's such comfort watching, I basically love every character, even the minor ones (yes even J.J. lmao, I think he's misunderstood by the others because he's the only North American and has a different vibe but he's fundamentally a sweet guy who wants to fit in with the gang but can't quite manage it haha)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 06:04 AM
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My mom and I have been arguing through the entire series about whether he and Midge will get back together. I seriously hope they don't, he didn't appreciate her and disrespected her to the moon and back and that's that. I thought it was so twisted how in the last couple of episodes he called Midge his "wife" while his girlfriend was sleeping the the next room and then when Mei called him out on cheating on Midge he was like "hey WOAH WTF???" like it was SO out of line when... That's you bud. Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 05:52 AM
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A show that I LOVE that showcases a very healthy (gay) relationship between two HVM is an anime called Yuri on Ice. Been wanting to talk about it here for a while but since there's no female dating it seemed a bit off topic haha. It's about elite level male figure skaters and the main characters have SUCH a loving, supportive, non-toxic dynamic, it's beautiful to see. If you like anime at all I can't recommend it highly enough but you will probably end up obsessed and/or in love with the charact…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 10:29 PM
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The page wouldn't load so I tried searching for this title and I literally got a child p*rn warning from Google. That says it all about this nasty topic...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 09:39 PM
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The hobosexuals are at it again! I hope the comments are absolutely roasting him and telling her to RUN! (And she's only 24! Imagine supporting a 30 year old child at that age...)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 09:31 PM
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I think this website is designed to make fun of women for having standards though, "I got standards bro" and "Delusion Scale" measured in cat food bags is definitely giving misogyny to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 05:19 PM
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These are serious red flags for abuse. Women get killed this way. Try to get in contact with her and make a date to take her to lunch, alone. If she can't do that (read between the lines, he won't let her) or you can't get a hold of her at all call in a wellness check to the police saying you suspect she's in danger (since you do.) SO many stories shared here start the same way and end up with her disappeared, murdered, or having "committed suicide" (aka definitely murdered but the cops can't be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 05:04 PM
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The only thing to do is let her know in no uncertain terms that you think it's wrong, don't support it, and think it will harm her, and then the matter is closed. Let her know you don't want to hear ANY further details about it, whatever they do, and reassert that boundary whenever she tries to bring him up. That is the best and really only way you have to influence her and it protects you from her LV PickMeism (to a degree.) I'd probably also distance myself in general but it sounds like you're…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 04:54 PM
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It's about a man testing a woman, why would there be backlash lmao. If the genders were reversed and it was a mother telling her daughter "when he picks you up wait to see if he opens the car door for you. If he doesn't then just turn and walk away, date's over, he's history" the comments would be UP IN ARMS about how he deserved another chance, that's bullshit, eQaULiTy, etc, etc 😂🤡🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 03:06 AM
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BIIIG difference between having a SHAVED head and being jacked vs the average balding middle aged Joe Schmoe lmao. Same as how a muscly Scottish Highlander might look sexy af in a kilt - doesn't mean your average chubby suburban dad can pull it off...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 09:12 PM
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This does exist. There are gay BDSM sites, "bum fight" videos of homeless men fighting or being beaten used to be hugely popular, and the dark web has endless amounts of snuff content, executions, real torture, etc. The stuff that isn't marketed as "kink" (and thus a modern form of protected speech 🙃) is highly stigmatized, but men in general are just super depraved. ANYONE weaker than them is a target and considered lesser, be it a child, an elderly person, a racial minority, a homeless person,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 08:53 PM
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You're never truly safe in this world. The best you can do is take all reasonable precautions. DO have girlfriends with you, DON'T accept drinks from anyone but bar staff, DON'T leave your drinks unattended, DON'T walk alone, even short distances, DON'T get drunk or take drugs, DON'T entertain guys excessively, etc. I am ICE COLD to strangers, won't dance with them, won't let them buy me drinks, etc, because men in bars get MAD entitled and it's not worth the hassle. If they approach respectfull…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 06:28 PM
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Definitely similar chances of LVM (extremely high) but at least if you meet them IRL you can see what they truly look like, get their initial vibe, assess their style, hygiene, how they approach and speak to you, etc, etc. It cuts out a lot of steps over OLD. I wouldn't ask for a pre-date video chat if I met them IRL, for example, that function was already fulfilled. Of course that means HE already had a chance to get interested in me, get the measure of me, etc. There's literally no excuse or g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 04:48 PM
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"In this moment I know he has chosen jars of *curdled turds* over his own wife." I'M DECEASED! It was worth the dry heaving to get to that part. Part of me hopes this is fake but the latter part of the story feels real. Assuming it is legit I'm SO proud of her for getting out and not rationalizing the physical abuse. She got the ick and GOT OUT! 24 married to a 42 year old, what a disgusting scrote. Who leaves her bathroom smelling like death and does no housework to boot! Filthy JOS... (Jar of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 06:06 AM
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Why are you offering to do free tourist stuff with them tho?? The dinner date standard is an integral part of FDS. You need them to show investment (of time and money) and to be available for a proper interview (i.e. talking and vetting over dinner). Anything less than lunch should be a no go!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 11:52 PM
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The way I thought you were just making fun of her being a mommy bangmaid with the "breastfeeding" title but it turned out to be LITERAL 😭😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 03:47 AM
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The answer is ALWAYS block and delete. "Clapping back" is just a waste of your time and energy and leaves you open to smooth talking, manipulation, verbal abuse, etc. It's never worth it. You can send your desired devastating response to the group chat instead and get the positive reinforcement for your wittiness from the people who really matter, your girlfriends!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 01:37 AM
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Seems like he's coming around and seeing the light? Who knows, could become an FDS success story lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 12:25 AM
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Not really though, he's still in his 30s hitting on a 22 year old. Glad he has boundaries with former students but let's not applaud him clearing a bar that's literally in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 10:09 PM
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Don't even reply, don't keep messaging for even a millisecond longer after the first creepy thing they say, just block and delete. Don't help train them to better hide their depravity with the next woman!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 03:44 AM
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I found out that on solo shifts the scrote manager at my old job used to watch truly disgusting fetish porn ON THE WORK LAPTOP. Including hidden camera/upskirt porn. I had to work with him one on one alone in the store! I left very soon after finding that out, I couldn't fucking be around him knowing he gets off on women being filmed without consent... Who fucking knows if he had hidden cameras in the bathroom! Oh, and guess what "real" career he'd just finished training for... Middle school tea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 09:05 AM
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The 1950s rule was they have to ask by Wednesday for a Friday or Saturday date and I agree! 2 day minimum in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 08:09 AM
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SE Asia is super common for backpackers. I wouldn't consider it a red flag if they went there in their 20s, especially if they also went to Australia, travelled around Europe, etc. That said, if I was an older woman and met a middle aged white man who frequently went to Thailand I would DEFINITELY be thinking about sex tourism and pedophilia! As always you have to use your judgement and stay on high alert.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 06:56 AM
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I recently had a pre-date vetting Skype with a seemingly promising guy. The conversation flowed really well but to keep from it lasting 30+ minutes I told him "my roommate" just came home so I have to say good-bye now. Never heard from the guy again! The only "red flag" I can think of is that I said I don't live alone... Coincidence? Doubt it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 05:07 AM
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It's gonna be a no from me dawg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 04:21 AM
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This is one of the wildest things I've ever read. Definitely some Female Depravity in this case as well, a grown woman having sex with her HS age daughter's 18 year old boyfriend is despicable and a predator on top of everything else. The stories of toxic Pick Me mothers in this sub are mind-boggling!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 01:15 PM
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I just tried to find it and couldn't. Can you link or summarize it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 03:52 AM
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A class for a hobby you enjoy! Ex pottery, swing dance, creative writing, etc. You should be there for your own enjoyment, not for the sole purpose of meeting men, but if you happen to meet a HVM there then you already share a common interest and it gives you a chance to observe and vet him organically over time. (And always remember to kill your inner Pick Me. HE has to demonstrate interest and effort in pursuing you or else he's just another random man that you treat as such.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 04:35 PM
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Oooh the first paragraph is my dad AF. People would literally come up to me all through my childhood and tell me my dad was basically Atticus Finch. Always doing pro bono work (at the cost of providing for our family), volunteering with other people's kids, gave blood every chance he could, etc, etc. Meanwhile behind closed doors he's an unhinged narcissist with untreated bipolar making his wife and children fear for their lives. Narcissists love to have a positive public image and high standing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 03:45 AM
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It's definitely misogyny and a subtle push to get women into a Pick Me/NLOG mindset. "All the women on this app are just into wine and Netflix and dogs and sushi, so basic! YOU should be passionate about something cooler than that. Aaaand, go!" Gross. I totally resonate with not wanting a man's approval or praise, if a man I don't respect gives me a compliment on doing something well it usually pisses me off because I didn't ASK for your approval, I don't CARE to have it and I never will. I KNOW…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 03:34 AM
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No cops and no lawyers, you do not want to be involved with someone who thinks they can control, manipulate, or generally be above the law. I know lawyer is regarded as a "good" job but they are usually workaholics with higher than average rates of psychopathy and narcissism. The real issue is trying to divorce a lawyer though, they can represent themselves and pay nothing while dragging you through endless court proceedings and causing you to incur enormous bills. My mom was trapped in an abusi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 05:29 PM
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Why would you need to mention Valentine's Day is coming, it comes every year on the same day!! YOU are already planning the dates sis, it's already too far gone. This is why a HUGE part of the FDS praxis is "block and delete at the first red flag"! I guarantee there were others you let slide over the past year but now you are in quite deep, you feel emotionally invested and the sunk cost fallacy has kicked in. It is going to hurt worse to walk away now but you NEED to always be prepared to do so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 02:48 PM
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Aaaand that's why we block and delete! Also the absolute audacity to accuse you of "ghosting" him when what you did was the exact opposite of that. They are not owed a good-bye or an explanation and stuff like this shows why they don't deserve one either. You definitely dodged a bullet ma'am!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:46 AM
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Current passions include cooking, baking, swimming, kayaking, hiking, language learning, choral singing, collecting vintage shoes, and dance. As for new hobbies I have gotten really into watching figure skating and just sent an email to my local skate club inquiring about adult lessons today! I took lessons as a child but could never learn and actually have a fear of being on ice due to a traumatic injury and I want to conquer it! Plus as a dancer it really appeals to me, there's a freedom of mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 03:05 AM
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An article in The Guardian! It wasn't as biased as many other pieces on FDS and the philosophy instantly appealed to me as being a return to more retro, formalized dating as opposed to the nasty casual sex "situationships" women accept for themselves today. I got it right away and I've never looked back!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 01:39 PM
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He shot a movie in my hometown and sexually harassed a female crew member just trying to do her job ("complimented" her appearance and rear end, if I remember correctly.) When she spoke out about it she got a MOUNTAIN of misogynistic abuse, "can't take a compliment", threats, etc. Of course he didn't do shit to call off his rabid scrote fans...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 03:22 AM
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It's important to be in a mindset and energy of receiving. A HVM will want to give you gifts and treat you, discouraging these impulses discourages HV behaviour. Instead of thinking "I don't want anything for Valentine's because it lets men off the hook the rest of the year" just think "I DO want effort on Valentine's Day and the rest of the year too. This is a prime opportunity for him to prove himself. Bring it on."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 11:11 PM
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My sister's husband is a bumbling LVM, he's wrecked every car he's ever owned, probably because he does not treat or manage his ADHD and gets distracted while driving (I also have ADHD and in my early 20s pre-diagnosis once drifted onto the gravel shoulder and spun-out for this reason. I take extra care to manage my attention while driving since it's SO dangerous). In one of these wrecks my sister was in the passenger seat and she now has permanent knee pain because of his incompetence. He also …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 07:22 PM
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Seconding this, we usually don't (tentatively) confirm a man is HV until a year or more has gone by! The vetting never ends. Stay strong queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 01:24 AM
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The terms HV and LV predate FDS and exist in many different communities of discourse. The people they are applied to will vary WILDLY depending on who's using the terms, however.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 02:48 PM
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I hope all of the comments are telling her that this is r*pe and she needs to get out of that house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 03:05 PM
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I am a vintage enthusiast so I love to thrift. My LVX of six years was also sort of into fashion so we went together a few times but he could never keep up with me, never wanted to stay as long as me, etc. It's a PRODUCTION when I hit the big thrift stores, I want to stay 2-4+ hours most times. I don't need a man tagging along and cramping my style! If you have a hobby you're passionate about either find a ~truly~ like-minded friend or just do it alone! The advice to have shared hobbies with you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 02:35 PM
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Peep the ages and do the math, when they married she was 21 and he was 28 with a 4 year old. Groomed her to be the perfect bangmaid for him, how upsetting that she's now bucking the system and questioning his perfectly reasonable 4+ hours of porn a day... 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 01:01 PM
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This sounds like something from another sub, I'm frankly shocked someone with an FDS Disciple flair could write this. You already know what you need to do. You already know what we're going to say. You've long outgrown this relationship and this man. The pain will be temporary. You need to embrace it and move through it because you already know this relationship is over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 06:16 PM
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This post needs a MUCH stronger TW than just "harassment", this story includes gang r@pe, abduction, su*cide, and a woman almost beaten to death.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 06:42 PM
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Absolute queen shit! I do wonder if there was an age gap? He sounds older than 22. Women your age should be very strict about not dating more than about 3 years older, these scrotes in their late 20s and 30s will try to steal your youth! Sounds like he really thought he could manipulate you. FDS is really out here saving lives!! 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 02:20 AM
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As a vegan I would consider this the equivalent of buying me a non-vegan gift - a total slap in the face. He clearly did it to push your boundaries, he doesn't like how fastidious and conscientious you are with your health and wants to start chipping away at your resolve and bring you down to his level. This was not just thoughtless but MANIPULATIVE. You are well clear of this scrote!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 08:22 PM
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I think if you report "poly" and especially couples' profiles on Hinge they can get in trouble or banned. Having more than one person using the account is specifically not allowed and their TOS specify you have to be looking for a relationship, not casual. I always report them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 04:27 PM
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I'd talk about it with them quickly. Some teachers love working with kids and DON'T want them but I think the majority definitely want their own. If you are dedicated CF I would (and do) ask about their desire for family in the pre-date screening phase. I normally wouldn't get into serious topics at that point but if that's a firm deal-breaker it's worth it to save both of your time since with a teacher or similar there is a very high chance they want kids. I'd also put CF in my bio if I was usi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 10:44 AM
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As a bleeding heart SJW I understand his reasoning but he could very easily exchange it for a certified ethically mined diamond such as a Canadian diamond. There's literally no reason to dig his heels in other than "I'm offended you rejected what I chose for you and I wanna be right". If she's happy with a smaller, ethical natural ring then that's what she should get. SHE has to wear it, not him. Inflexibility like this would be a red flag to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 04:28 AM
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I find the Hinge video call interface is terrible so I usually start as a video call and see their face, confirm they look like their pics, etc, and then switch to audio anyway haha! Works well for the purpose and I don't have to deal with giving them my social media contact or phone number (or setting up fake ones)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 06:29 PM
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If someone is over say 6'5" it can be a deal-breaker, especially if a woman is not tall herself it can give a "father-daughter" vibe when they are out together and you physically just don't "fit" right. Now, a handsome NBA player type would likely flaunt his massive height but if a man is also obese, unattractive, etc, if can be more of a circus freak scenario and that's why they hide it. Had it happen to me, dude was 6'7" and like 350-400lbs... Would not have met him had I realized, for safety …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 04:54 PM
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Have you been doing pre-screening video chats as recommended? I was very skeptical of the concept at first but I find it very useful for vetting and it also helps take the pressure off of the first date since you've already interacted!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 04:12 PM
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If he was legit aggressive or comes back at you again I would consider reporting him to HR, it's really not appropriate energy to be bringing to someone (esp a much younger woman) at work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 10:30 PM
63

This pelican trying to figure out if the capybara is small enough to eat is giving me serious "NV predator trying to figure out if your self-esteem is low enough to prey on you" vibes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 02:55 AM
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Sounds like you need to reread the manual. Asking you on a coffee date, being five years older, and sponging off his parents are all deal-breakers you should have blocked and deleted him for before ever leaving the house! (Re: the age gap five years MIGHT be okay in your thirties or forties but at twenty one you should be dating people 2-3 years older max.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 02:49 AM
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Not to mention he's calling her his "trophy wife" when she's simply his Forever Girlfriend who he's been stringing along for half a decade... Clearly she's too pretty AND too smart for him, girl RUN!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 04:38 AM
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You're overthinking. We do not pursue, we are pursued. If a HVM is actively pursuing you he thinks you are a HVW and at least "in his league". Because we are not PickMes and do not throw ourselves at disinterested men it does not affect us at all if a man thinks we are "not good enough" for him, it would literally never come up. Because we vet ruthlessly we quickly and easily weed out rich or handsome LVM who are believe they are "slumming it" or "settling" with us. If a man is into you he will …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 11:49 AM
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The pre-date video chat is truly a game changer 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 09:49 PM
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Wow he sounds terrible. I do think you have a bit of work to do as going to a second location, drinking alcohol, and doing drugs (HIS drugs!!) with him after that trainwreck of a dinner sounds really, really risky. I think an elite level FDS-er probably would have walked out when he said "you pay for food", Jesus what a mess. Definitely should have said goodbye after dinner at the very least. You got some SERIOUS red flags from him that he could be dangerous and it just seems like there was noth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 10:50 PM
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The thing about burlesque is that even though it's MUCH more female-led it's ultimately still catering to the male gaze. It's just old timey stripping, performers today are just doing what the "hard core" dancers of the 30s and 40s were doing back then. It's "cleaner" by today's standards but it's still entirely rooted in commodifying women's bodies for male consumption. It's very tied to the libfem sex positive "empowerment" movement. Dita Von Teese is extremely glamorous and wealthy but she's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 07:00 AM
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It was Mean Girls! "Don't have sex because you WILL get pregnant, and die. Don't have sex in the missionary position, don't have sex standing up, just- Don't do it, promise? Okay, everybody take some rubbers..." Such an iconic scene.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 06:49 AM
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Thirsty and insecure. One of the biggest turn-offs for me. Not "double texting" because I often break my messages up or think of more things to add later, don't mind that at all, but the "oh you must not be interested" or "you still there??" kind of thing is SO ick-inducing to me I'm cringing just thinking about it. No matter HOW good a prospect he seems that just ruins it instantly. I don't owe you anything sir, bye forever!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 03:57 AM
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He's getting dunked on so hard it's making the national news lmao: https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/manitoba/jon-reyes-manitoba-tweet-shovel-1.6308969 He was apparently up all night tweeting and watching tennis. Literally no reason at all it wasn't shovelled and ready for her when she got home - could have had that breakfast ready too! If he wanted to he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 09:20 PM
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When the "satire" sounds too real. Check out "Coach Greg" Doucette on YT for one of the most ridiculous voices you'll hear. In his case I'm pretty sure it's steroid use related. He's also a big scrote so it checks out lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 06:59 PM
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There's a difference between "respect" meaning admiration and "respect" meaning common decency. Someone who stops treating you with the common decency level of respect because you're acting like a Pick Me is not HV, true, but a HVM will not have the type of respect you could also call admiration for a Pick Me or a LVW (or LVM), and that is the type of respect you need to have in a relationship. A HVM will respect all human beings on the level of common decency. They will reserve that higher leve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 03:32 AM
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I was taught that women tend to be better shots and make better snipers too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 11:02 PM
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It's way too big, period. Her brain is literally not done developing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 08:25 PM
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It's a tale as old as time but certainly when it comes to the heart time heals all wounds. I was so deeply in love with my high school sweetheart and our end was so intensely painful. Now, over ten years later, I cannot even remember a fraction of that pain or that love. There is not a trace of a sting when I think of him, even when I learned he is now married. As others have stated you did not benefit from this "situationship", all you got was yanked around. It will probably take a long time to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 08:51 AM
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"He didn't tell me it turns him on... I think we would've worked something out" aka "I'm such an enormous Pick Me I probably would have said yes to him sharing my nudes on the Internet if he only would have shared iT's HiS KiNk!!1!" The lack of self respect... Also for anyone confused when he uses the term "tribute" here I'm 99% sure it means "as dues to access this nudes-sharing forum". Pedophiles do the same thing, you have to share your own CP (🤮) in order to gain access to the "community", t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 09:09 AM
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As someone with a huge collection of silver and white gold jewelry who cares DEEPLY about my personal colour palette that first slide literally made me gasp in fury 😤😤😤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 06:53 AM
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My LV brother in law refuses to take medication for his ADHD and he's SO garbage at contributing to the household. At one point during COVID he, my sis, myself and my mother were all living together for 6 months and he would literally make a mess in the kitchen daily and leave it for my 60 year old mother to clean, like to the level of making a sandwich and leaving the bread bag unsealed and the mayo open on the counter. When I finally confronted him he had THE AUDACITY to say "no one said anyth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 05:09 AM
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Very this. My abusive narc dad was utterly compelled to ruin holidays, family vacations, and road trips. Pretty sure they hate seeing others happy and not having all the attention and spotlight on them. After I moved out at 19 I agreed to go on a road trip with the family for Easter and I realized so quickly that I had made a huge mistake and vowed NEVER to travel with him again. Ten years later and I never have and my life is so much more peaceful, pleasant, and safe. A NVM is the ultimate thie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 12:10 AM
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The saying goes that dick is abundant and low value - being "fuckable" is multiple rungs below that. Being sexually desirable to a man gains you NOTHING, you are one of over a billion to him. Men will fuck almost anyone who's willing (and of course MANY that aren't). If he's not attracted in the sense that he wants to spend his time, money, and ultimately life with you, thanking his lucky stars every day for you and doing everything possible to keep you, then his "attraction" is LESS than worthl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 09:16 PM
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I'm so sorry you're going through this. When I was your age my mom FINALLY decided to leave my abusive dad and I was so happy and proud, I truly never thought that day would come. Cut to a few months later, some financial shit was happening and she ended up deciding to move back into the house with him, albeit not "back WITH him". He said he'd find his own place ASAP (yeah fucking right). I basically begged her not to do it. I knew she would lose all her momentum and agency and he would have les…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 06:19 PM
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Probably didn't have/was too lazy to use a trash can and he threw his used tissues in there from the toilet 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 06:03 PM
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