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| 122 | Revenge porn & the justice system | DISCUSSION | noscrubsdotmp3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 08:29 PM |
| 3 | Is there such thing as low-value women? (lgbtq) | DISCUSSION | noscrubsdotmp3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Imagine hearing a confession from an abuser and still saying this with your whole chest | THE AUDACITY OF SCROTES | noscrubsdotmp3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 04:55 PM |
| 1 | “just... idk” ???? ? ? WHAT exactly? imagine admitting to hearing an abuser’s confession and STILL saying all this with your whole chest | NAH, SIS | noscrubsdotmp3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 11:55 PM |
| 1 | Hindsight has me shook to my core. Lost the longest 15 months of my life to an abusive man who loved to tell on himself. Don’t be like me. Run the first time, ladies. | RED FLAG 🚨 | noscrubsdotmp3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 07:58 PM |
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| 2 | Revenge porn & the justice systemThank you for the recommendation! Checking her site out now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 04:33 PM |
| 9 | Revenge porn & the justice systemHoly shit, I’m so so sorry. That’s my worst fear, ngl. Part of me is scared that I’ve waited too long, but part of me is glad because I know I am a lot stronger now and I’ve done a lot of healing to be at a place where I will put my neck on the line to get justice, consequences be damned. I will be thinking of you and every other victim when I find the courage to file my police report. These predators can’t keep getting away with it. I pray you are able to get yours one day, too. 🤍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 05:56 AM |
| 8 | Revenge porn & the justice systemOh, my abuser is an absolute idiot, he literally confessed through FB messenger and had the audacity to say he was going to “just erase everything” so he could “move on”. I hope that could be considered tampering with evidence or something because that and his confession are really the only evidence I have, as well as the account from other victims who have come forward, including one who voice recorded herself asking him if he did to me what he did to her. Of course, he said yes, so that’s conf… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 05:50 AM |
| 6 | Revenge porn & the justice systemIf you’re comfortable, could you share your experience? I’m so happy to hear it was worth it for you, that gives me a lot of hope! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 05:30 AM |
| 9 | Revenge porn & the justice systemThank you 🤍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 12:49 AM |
| 41 | Revenge porn & the justice systemJust filled out the form on her site and sent it! She sounds amazing. Having women in these positions who truly know and have the firsthand experience is a completely different ballgame. There is another firm with a similar team that I’ve had lined up for months here in my state (CA), so I think I’ll be taking the plunge and reaching out to them, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 11:17 PM |
| 96 | I'm sppeechlessThe more posts like this I see the more I want to hire a lawyer and sue the fuck out of my ex for revenge porn. Trust one guy and it will be the biggest mistake of your life. I’d never so much as taken a naked picture of myself before meeting my abuser. These men need to suffer consequences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 10:38 PM |
| 202 | If ever in doubt, ladies, read this.In the long list of terrible things to experience at the hands of men, getting treated like a fleshlight is a dehumanization that hurts in a supremely special way. It’s not just the ones they find unattractive, you can be the hottest woman they’ve ever been with and they will still treat like you are nothing but a hole on legs. Oh, but wait! Maybe you’ll get a kiss! Fucking ugh. Also, “confusing” ?????? How condescending. The only reason any of us are confused is because men stay beating around … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 08:24 PM |
| 47 | I will stop “generalizing” men when THEY stop using, abusing, and killing women. When THEY stop treating us like disposable source of labor. I will stop when MEN start ruthlessly policing & holding OTHER men accountable for all the shit they do to women.The craziest part to me is hearing them say “Oh well, men can generalize women too”, and then the examples they use are completely incomparable, like women are materialistic or women are shallow. How on earth can they think generalizations like that can even be on the same spectrum as us saying every man we meet has the potential to hurt, use, abuse, r*pe, and murder us? We generalize to protect ourselves while they generalize for petty and entirely insubstantial reasons. Absolutely mind blowing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 05:12 PM |
| 7 | I just remembered something my Nex said at the beginning“Whatever happens between us, at least I’ll know I had you first.” That’s what mine said. I’ll never forgive myself for not walking away in that moment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 02:54 AM |
| 15 | For women of color/ minorities, be extra careful of fetishization or familial racismAs a Persian, the number of times men have said this to me makes me want to 😀🔫 Had a porn/sex addicted, light skinned, latino NVX who once literally sent me a porn of a Lebanese girl who looked like me and even lived in my city, like that was somehow not the most sociopathic shit ever???? Hindsight is 20/20 but god it’s horrifying that I didn’t see that as the biggest red flag. I had no idea how much worse it was gonna get. White, black, brown men, doesn’t matter. They’ve all made me feel like a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 11:56 PM |
| 13 | Dating a woman and ignoring the men who want me has been the best dating decision I’ve ever made.Bumping bc same. I’ve received just as much trauma from wlw relationships as I’ve received from hetero ones. Last woman I dated was a total narc (love bombing, extremely demanding, god complex, sexual coerciveness, absolutely brutal discard, the whole nine) and she ended up being more misogynistic than my NVMXs in a lot of ways. One moment that stands out to my therapist and I in particular: picture the “go make me a sandwich” meme except it wasn’t a meme at all and she literally told me to do t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 06:26 PM |
| 61 | I literally don’t even have wordsFawning. There’s fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. You’re definitely not stupid for having done it, as it’s your body/brain’s way of trying to survive a dangerous situation and is literally a trauma response. It’s definitely instinct for the most part, unless you somehow train your brain to react differently. I know for me personally, I freeze and fawn. I wasn’t as lucky as you and ended up getting assaulted more than once because of this. It’s a scary world for us no matter how you spin it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 08:01 AM |
| 27 | why we don't do hookups.. straight from the horse's mouthThanks sis! FDS made me realize men simply don’t deserve me tbh. I’m smart, hot, funny, witty, and have all the love to give, but I’m never going to let an undeserving asshole like that have it ever again. Lesson learned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 05:14 PM |
| 44 | why we don't do hookups.. straight from the horse's mouthIt is fucked up beyond measure. I would do anything at this point to meet a dude who is upfront with his intentions. My narc ex was so horny, so sex-addicted, his brain so porn-fried, he pretended to love me for a year and a half of my life that I will never get back. I’m done with men. Just done. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 04:51 PM |
| 5 | To all the LVM, NVM, and pervs who think we are threatened by younger women... “no, you’re never going to get it!” 🎶 🎵is also known as a bustaaa 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 02:06 AM |
| 6 | To all the LVM, NVM, and pervs who think we are threatened by younger women... “no, you’re never going to get it!” 🎶 🎵hey 😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 08:52 PM |
| 4 | The fact men have admitted to going home to look up porn featuring a specific type of woman who happened to piss them off that day tells you literally everything you need to know about what men think of the correlation between real women and pornographyLiterally same. Found a girl with a similar ethnicity, hair texture, features, etc. To make it even more creepy, this poor girl was from the same exact city as me. Men scare me to my core. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 05:15 AM |
| 3 | Daily reminder that some “nice guys” are the oppositeHey, that’s why we’re all here on this sub. I 100% relate to what you’ve said. Don’t be too hard on yourself, it’s not your fault when a man chooses to be coercive, whether intentional on their part or not. It’s especially not your fault for wanting to believe he’s a decent human being because that’s what YOU are, and you would never ever make someone else feel the way he made you feel in these moments. Women are trained to ignore their intuition and give men the benefit of the doubt; I can’t te… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 07:25 PM |
| 29 | Daily reminder that some “nice guys” are the oppositelmao that line about tokens and sex he fed you wasn’t even an original thought, it’s been recycled so many times across the internet going back years and years, all the fucking way to the recesses of my tween brain where peak tumblr culture was burned into my retinas forever. How pathetic of him. The extent of a man’s projection truly knows no bounds. So sorry you had to deal with that asshole sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 05:31 AM |
| 5 | What are some good FDS-positive female singers and songs?seconding TLC for obvious reasons lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 09:29 AM |
| 17 | Scrote only has sex if it means his wife is pegging him while watching the kind of porn he likes. She does so begrudgingly. And he refuses to clean up the poop afterward.fr i need a fucking blunt after reading that, what on god’s green earth- | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 01:29 AM |
| 18 | Girl (16) gets free from creep boyfriend(20) in a close call situation.This. Literally had flashbacks to when my abuser told me: “No matter what happens between us, at least I’ll know I had you first.” I swear I commented on a nearly identical post to this one just the other week. Thank goodness, the poster ended up going to the police and getting that predator arrested, but fuck does it leave me feeling so helpless for girls and other young women who are preyed on and traumatized. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 09:03 PM |
| 232 | Men can’t make women orgasm because they don’t “cOmMUniCatE”LMFAO SIS U ARE A LEGEND. You are so spot on. It’s no coincidence that I can relate to everyone who has commented in this thread so far. And that’s because men don’t want to have sex with us. The sex is done TO us. Very different. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 07:27 AM |
| 64 | As a former gym rat (thanks covid), this makes me angry. Just a few, sadly predictable, comments.It doesn’t matter what we wear. Men just want to be animals and will gaslight everyone into thinking it’s normal. I‘ve been assaulted by a man while wearing sweatpants and a hoodie. Scrotes gonna scrote no matter what we wear or where in the world we are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 08:04 PM |
| 4 | Why can’t men get this through their brains?And when you DO have sex with one of them because they manipulated and coerced you into it, the only way they know how to finish is by calling you their little whore anyway because porn has brainwashed them into only being able to get off through verbal abuse and degradation. Meanwhile, they’re the ones relentlessly cheating, catching STDs, and gaslighting you to hell and back. You know, #justLVMthings 🤪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 08:09 PM |
| 9 | Good men hold other men accountable. End of story.No. They don’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 06:29 PM |
| 16 | Ah yes, only interested & want to be affectionate to your gf when you want to get your dick wet. The dudes in the comments defending this as “Post Nut Clarity”sis the way you hit the nail on the head ughhh !!!!! legit they b sounding like asthmatic gorillas 🤢🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 06:12 PM |
| 13 | If he’s still blaming women for his behavior, he is NOT a HVM. A HVM is not “the right man for the right one”, he’s the right man 100% of the time and does not exploit Pickmeishas just because he can.99.9% of the time, they are accusing their ex of doing the things they themselves have done or are actively doing. Projection is king to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 12:35 AM |
| 9 | “PoRn iS eMpOwErInG” ok sisYou are absolutely correct, especially with that last line. Not only is it most of the time just as degrading, coercive, and painful as regular porn, but amateur/homemade/“loving” porn is a LOT of the time not posted consensually. I am a victim of nonconsensual pornography so I can attest to this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 12:26 AM |
| 11 | I see so many young girls 15-21yo on tiktok saying that they want to become pornstars... And it makes me feel so weird like why would you want to do this to yourself? Just for male attention? Are they that naive? you get nothing from this you just serving men and the patriarchyI’m the same age as you and I wish I didn’t relate so hard. I’m traumatized, sex-repulsed, full of fear around men. I can’t imagine ever wanting to be touched in an intimate way again. It’s sickening, just sickening thinking about all these girls younger than me falling prey to this. This wasn’t a very constructive comment, but I feel your pain and I’m right there with you sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 07:15 PM |
| 14 | Legal and moral obligation of Tinder to vet rapistsI agree with you. I have no more energy to try to meet men in the middle on this. I know for a fact my rapist is still using OLD to this day to prey on girls the same way he preyed on me. These apps are literally perfectly designed to aid in the abuse and assault on women. They are a cesspool of narcissists and personality-disordered abusers. The people running these platforms do not care about us. Why would they when we are the product they are selling? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 06:01 PM |
| 56 | And there are STILL men AND WOMEN in the comments saying "not all men 🥺🥺🥺". DisgustingDisgusting. A woman’s existence is reason enough to for a man to demean, degrade, and harass her. They are monsters. Sickening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 01:50 AM |
| 71 | And there are STILL men AND WOMEN in the comments saying "not all men 🥺🥺🥺". DisgustingI’m sorry—what the actual fuck? Is wrong? With men??????????????????? I’m so fucking sorry. Fucking yikes and a half. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 01:23 AM |
| 7 | Rape by ManipulationThank you so much. The women on this sub keep me going and help me see the light at the end of the tunnel. You are my heroes. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 03:53 PM |
| 3 | Rape by ManipulationThank you so much. Thank you. It’s absolutely world-shattering and it really is like falling in love with an illusion. A person that never actually existed to begin with. It’s so difficult to come to terms with that. And thank you for the recommendation, I am checking it out right now. 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 03:51 PM |
| 23 | Rape by ManipulationThank you for your post. I have been feeling so very, very alone in this. The amount of emotional abuse and gaslighting and sheer indifference from my nex, his flying monkeys, and pickmeishas made me feel so helpless and stupid. Like it was my fault for not knowing better, like the things he did to me and other women wasn’t horrific and traumatic and abusive in every sense of the word. Twitter feeds stacked with “believe women” all day everyday, but that energy is disappointingly fake and I am t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 07:52 AM |
| 21 | Saw this comment on a pro-BDSM YouTube video. So close to approaching the point, yet still so far away.Sis you are coming off real messy in this thread. Please reread the FDS handbook and attempt to understand the trauma and emotional/physical toll that abusive men and sexual violence have taken on women in this sub. A lot of us have been (often times repeatedly) manipulated, coerced, and violated by men under the guise of sexual liberation and BDSM, so please try to understand that this is our safe space. I’m sorry you bit into the BDSM fruitcake but none of us on this sub want anything to do wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 06:38 PM |
| 17 | Wise words to keep in mind, queens ❤Mashallah, sis 🤍. My heart feels your pain. Your child is blessed to have such strong women to look up to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 06:46 AM |
| 51 | BlowjobsSpitting on, choking, slapping, borderline beating, and forcefully thrusting into a woman like she’s their death grip of a hand is not only what the front page of PornHub looks like. There are subs on this very site dedicated to men to get off to the degrading of women, and there’s just a constant, non-stop supply of it on every corner of the internet. Instagram is basically soft core porn these days, too. Hate fucking, pornsickness—call it what you want, but these acts are things you do to some… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 05:46 PM |
| 38 | Feeling the need to dump your trauma is a form of codependency. Don’t tell romantic interests your traumas until you’ve vetted them with time and patience. Best case scenario is to never tell them at all.Me. I’m a lot of women:(. Never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 04:36 PM |
| 16 | Reminder, it's never your fault when a man hurts you.I’m so sorry you had to meet such a cruel person. They really don’t give a fuck lmfao. Mine started dating someone else for entire months behind my back, cheated on both of us regularly, and when she came back positive for chlamydia, he gaslighted her into thinking her rapist gave it to her. The amount of psychological damage that does to a person??????? Like??? And she was the one who had to tell ME to get tested because he sure as hell was never going to. Men can be so, so foul. Sending you hu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 12:46 AM |
| 30 | HVM in media done right, David is a HVM and all the rest, in my opinion, LVMGirl thank you 💕. I’ve been diagnosed with PTSD on top of already having depression and anxiety lol. Ngl, the flying monkeys and pickmeishas even further traumatized me as I was trying to leave that relationship 🤩. It’s been super hard to process that I was basically used as a convenient, faithful hole on legs for him. The things I listed above were just the tip of the iceberg. He opened my eyes to how truly depraved men can be, and like Ms. Angelou said, “When someone shows you who they are, be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 05:26 PM |
| 132 | HVM in media done right, David is a HVM and all the rest, in my opinion, LVMFirst relationship here! He was sex addicted, porn addicted, drug addicted, and mentally 12. Also a huge narcissist. Sent unconsensual pornography of me to his coworkers and female friends, who in return would send him their homemade pornography for him to get off on. Spent our entire relationship lyinglyinglying, future faking, mentally abusing me, being coercive and constantly boundary-pushing, sexually abusing me, cheating left and right, and ultimately gave me chlamydia lmfao. To other young… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 03:48 PM |
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