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41

What is wrong with people coming on a DATING sub asking where to meet HVM? This isn’t flus, this is female DATING strategy. Asking where to find a HVM is definitely strategizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 06:57 PM
12

This is the truth . I can honestly say I never ever in my life attracted broke men and I carry myself this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 06:53 PM
76

What does “/s” mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 06:09 PM
7

Best quality answer!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 01:13 AM
33

I am sorry you feel this way and I hope you find comfort in knowing that I was in your space and things changed for me. I’m with a HVM now and I am over the moon. But I remember being in your position. I cried a lot. Believe me when I say it will pass and you will get what you want. What helped me in that time was making single friends and going out a lot . It’s how I met my HVM. Sending you hugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 09:13 PM
86

You can meet a HVM in your network. Befriend your coworkers and go out with them. It is likely that your coworkers associate with people who are highly educated like them. Educated/ successful people hang around others ones. Most educated and successful men want partners on their level. Ivy men typically prefer Ivy women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 01:27 AM
19

Yes 100%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 05:16 PM
15

Wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 12:01 PM
20

Queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 11:55 AM
62

Don’t put men on pedestals, there is ALWAYS someone else . ALWAYS..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 02:39 AM
55

She isn’t saying effort equals reward. She is saying in order to increase the likelihood of meeting and being compatible with a HVM you have to put the effort in meeting them period. She is telling the truth. If the majority of men are trash and you’re not positioning yourself to meet a lot of men survey says the likelihood of you meeting these trash men are extremely high. She is trying to encourage women to not give up. Her message is directed towards women who are serious about being with a q…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 08:27 PM
31

Yup I totally agree, if you’re serious about being in a commitment with a HVM you have to put a level of effort in. It won’t just drop out of the sky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 07:35 PM
46

I think it’s because some women feel like that’s the best they can do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 07:11 PM
-11

When did I say people are canceling fds? I’m responding to the OP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 11:18 PM
117

Exactly this isn’t a cult. You don’t have to agree with every single fucking thing. That doesn’t mean you cancel fds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 06:58 PM
278

Weirdo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 06:43 PM
5

Just curious why do you feel the need to say this when she’s sharing a positive experience? I’m sure she knows this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 04:12 PM
89

That’s great! It’s nice to read posts like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:36 AM
3

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 11:28 PM
1

Being on the job hunt for 3 months is normal for a person making over 100K. There is an abundance of entry level jobs, not higher level six figure jobs. This is also dependent on your field.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 11:27 PM
563

I really advise against women letting men record them. There is a high chance you won’t be with him in the long haul, and yet he will always have those recordings and pictures of you. I remember my ex from years ago would always ask for nudes and I always stood strong saying no. Looking back I am so happy I never gave in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 08:44 PM
16

Ohhh ok understood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:04 PM
16

How would you know you’re being sent a mass text though. Plenty of guys say good morning babe or good morning beautiful. And personally I prefer babe or beautiful. Calling me by name all day is so serious lol….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 01:34 PM
26

Wait so a guy we are dating texting good morning everyday is a red flag?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 01:25 PM
314

They want women asking them out for easy sex or easy lazy relationships. They don’t actually respect or like you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 07:47 PM
-1

I literally don’t care if you believe what I’m saying or not. Literally don’t care. It’s not my life and I don’t care what you spend yours doing. Keep being negative and keep dating LVM, it’s not my problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 12:27 PM
-1

We don’t agree, cry me a river! It never fails that someone derails the entire thread
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 10:41 PM
-5

What I said stands. We can’t time stamp when we want something to happen, but if we believe it will happen, It will. It isn’t a coincidence that when women start requiring more , they magically get more. These things coincide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 09:20 PM
151

Also nurturing is reserved for those dearest to us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 08:14 PM
-6

So it’s okay for the other poster to tell OP that she is fantasizing about a make believe man who doesn’t exist. ( her personal spiritual belief) But it isn’t okay for me to say we manifest our thoughts and if you think men like that don’t exist, you won’t get one?? Lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 08:07 PM
-9

So are you telling me that a lot of women don’t BELIEVE that they only deserve LVM? Are you serious? If that’s the case then why do we preach on here that women should LOVE themselves and BELIEVE they deserve the best . We preach this because a lot of women don’t believe this and their past dating history proves it. Why is 50/50 such a topic on here? Because a lot of women don’t BELIEVE they deserve to have dinner paid for. They BELIEVE they deserve to split . They BELIEVE they owe someone sex f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 07:48 PM
680

Lol the first comment! How are you playing hard to get when you have already slept with him twice?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 07:13 PM
-15

We manifest our thoughts. Google it. She is manifesting the life she desires, and she will get it because she BELIEVES it’s achievable. Your thinking and focus is negative, and you’ll manifest just that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 07:04 PM
3

So true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 06:06 PM
106

this has to be a troll post lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 06:05 PM
-7

She’s putting stock into someone who doesn’t exist? Isn’t this a dating sub? Why would you tell her her future husband doesn’t exist? Just Wow lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 06:04 PM
216

I’m pretty sure If it weren’t for so many women desiring children and desiring the nuclear home , we would rarely date men. So many are just useless and burdens .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 03:51 PM
4

I agree . Sometimes constantly seeing these posts make you want to give up on dating all together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 06:22 PM
20

Wow this is deep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 12:51 PM
208

Usually they are fucking someone else though lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 12:38 PM
68

It’s hard dating as a successful woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:48 PM
17

It’s okay don’t be so hard on yourself. This is a learning experience and you will not repeat the same mistake. You got this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 02:45 AM
36

Making a lot of money and being educated is nice and you will live the lifestyle you dream of every night. But, there is more to life than money and nice things. Nurture all of your relationships, both romantic and platonic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 03:45 PM
27

The ones in my area don’t even make eye contact with non Jewish women lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 08:30 AM
2

Nobody is blaming single mothers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 05:02 AM
89

Because a lot of women want kids and statistically it’s healthier for children to be raised in a healthy nuclear home. We all know marriage doesn’t equal healthy and happy. But it’s true that children do better in those healthy nuclear types of homes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 03:42 PM
9

Only talks about themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 06:37 PM
64

Don’t do it. A lot of the time the wives know and you can possibly be putting yourself in a dangerous situation. Love makes people do crazy things and you do not need to be entangled in that cobweb .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 09:41 PM
156

I agree most men will cheat if they can because most men are lvm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 07:04 PM
1

I agree OP is right, she’s telling a harsh truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 08:02 PM
-1

This post is the truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 07:55 PM
7

I really wish people would stop acting like it’s cool to like old men. They are not hot. Cut it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 06:04 PM
27

It’s a generational thing. I don’t think it makes them low value. You can be high value and heavily into your appearance or engagement. However it is an indicator that the guy is more than likely impressionable and cares about what people think of him lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 12:27 PM
4

It’s because they are rare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 11:58 AM
4

I’m going to go against the grain here and assume he is telling the truth . Even in this event, let it go and if he’s truly being honest he will come back around. When one of my friends mom was terminally ill and eventually passed, she ghosted everybody including me. I don’t think she was low value for that she just didn’t know how to process what was happening. A few years later, she reconnected with me and told me the entire story, everyone including her boyfriend got ghosted. Today, she remai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 01:16 AM
18

It’s okay to veer off sometimes you’re human, please don’t be too hard on yourself. Even strong people have their moments ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:13 PM
25

Hugs. I’m sorry you had to experience such ugly treatment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 08:36 PM
108

Yup once I was at dinner and said “ whew I need to watch my carbs “, my date proceeded to put the bread under the table. Like you, I’m slim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:20 PM
93

I stopped at she loves her husband more than her kids???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:51 PM
3

Queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 12:41 AM
14

gold star *
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 12:25 AM
40

YES. I thought I was the only person observing this. Whew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 03:57 AM
344

They actually know most women aren’t gold diggers lol. They know that gold diggers wouldn’t target them. They just spread this lie to manipulate us and it works. They are liars.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:32 PM
50

Hugs. I’m so sorry you went through that. I hope you are in a better place now sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 02:44 AM
10

I’ve observed HVM ages 25-40 with age appropriate women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:35 PM
15

Queen 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:31 PM
7

This account is a man. MODS need to remove this person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:51 PM
11

Yup I do. I love being glammed up FOR ME. It makes ME feel good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:29 PM
7

LOL!!! I love this. So true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 07:53 PM
5

So do mine! Sending you hugs. It’s hard keeping our standards when we have our parents in the background asking for prayer and contemplating if we are cursed. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:05 PM
16

If you are really pretty you primarily get the high earning assholes with a sprinkle of high earning HVM. In my experience, low earning men absolutely avoid me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:58 PM
20

Absolutely. My parents have gone as far as asking the church to pray for me 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:51 PM
62

The thought of using a sperm donor makes me uncomfortable, so I wouldn’t do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:43 PM
8

😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:37 AM
89

Lol men are literally encouraged to be animals
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 10:18 PM
121

No splitting dates, i don’t care. Must be educated, high earning, & attractive like me. I don’t care. Not budging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 10:10 PM
7

Wait what is daddy energy??? Um real daddy energy is being a HVM father which most of these scrotes aren’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 08:40 PM
8

In the provider sense yes, but the superiority thing is amongst all cultures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:18 PM
59

Are you serious??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:00 AM
19

It’s so crazy how they ASSUME we want them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:58 PM
161

They all have one thing in common: put yourself first. Do not enter arrangements that do not benefit you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 06:05 PM
174

Make it expensive to waste your time. They will back off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:16 PM
14

I was you. When you talk to your colleagues one on one , talk about things you can relate to them about on a personal level. They will find you more personable and be less insecure around you . Don’t give them work tips if they aren’t asking. Navigating the corporate environment is all about relationship building skills. As you climb up the ladder your success will be contingent upon who likes you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:21 AM
56

Well I’ll be honest. If you want the majority to not see you as competition , you can’t let people know everything you have going on and everything you have accomplished. I’m not saying dumb yourself down, but keep certain achievements to yourself. That is what I’ve had to do because I’m a chatty extrovert so I have that need to socialize a lot. If you’re transparent about all of your accomplishments , and you’re pretty, and you’re confident, and you’re smart, a lot of people won’t like you beca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:27 PM
65

A lot of people don’t make the connections. Men like this are typically those men who take you on walks as a date in the beginning. They don’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:17 PM
44

Me too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:11 PM
290

I literally used to get called a prude for not wanting a friends with benefits. So glad messages like this are being put out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:42 PM
10

Thank you !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:14 AM
48

Can you share?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:10 PM
6

I’ve been called this too 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:00 PM
20

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:39 PM
2

I really don’t think height has to do with it. I’m just responding with my experiences. I’m sassy and I think that coupled with the “princess” attitude silently delivers a message to men who encounter me. I would never offer to split I’m not that nice and men read it off me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:12 AM
1

Idk what to say sis, this is what has worked for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:05 AM
4

I never pay and I’ve never been asked to pay because of how I carry myself. I carry myself as an unapologetic princess and I’m very girly . As obnoxious as that sounds, it works. Men expect me to expect them to pay. I don’t give off cool girl by a long shot. It works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:02 AM
16

I don’t hike but my friends have done this for a first date. Why is this type of date considered low value? Because it’s free right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 12:08 AM
1

You’re in wrong sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:18 PM
40

Lol please. So your “very wealthy “ cousin is evaluating women based upon if they are willing to pay for pizzas? Fucking ridiculous. I’m not trying to say you’re lying but I actually date very wealthy men, and never once have they expected me to pick up tabs or judged me for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:23 AM
3

Mine was normal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 10:07 PM
55

When we sit back and vet them we are silently doing this 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 08:30 PM
1

Cash it, you deserve this. Hang on to the money for a few months incase he tries to pull any bs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 07:48 PM
1

Lmao this is so funny and true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:12 AM
12

Yup happens a lot with brokers. Junior male brokers go ape shit when junior women brokers close big time deals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:10 AM
99

I also think it’s because they don’t want us to have any expectations of them smh. It’s almost like if we have expectations it offends them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:17 AM
201

Why should we offer to pay if you plan to pay anyway? What’s wrong with us expecting you to pay??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:58 AM
-1

It’s true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 10:28 PM
15

Loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:01 AM
22

100% this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 10:28 PM
3

Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 10:22 PM
3

In the park 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 09:31 PM
12

Hopefully Hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 07:49 PM
11

Broke people it’s like 4 for $2😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 07:48 PM
59

This is why hookup culture must stop. This homeless man feels NO SHAME in using women. A homeless man! Feels entitled to pussy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 05:29 PM
4

Lol exactly. I always make them pay for everything because -gasp- most of these men are wasting our fucking time. Who cares! Obviously marriage is another story, but high chance we aren’t marrying these guys we are going out on dates with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 05:47 PM
1

Same lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 05:27 PM
28

I hate to say it, but in my experience when you have to guide from the very start it never changes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 03:51 AM
107

Then when women oblige they complain that woman are too easy 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 03:38 AM
1

Can we stop lying about young women thirsting over men over 30?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 09:04 PM
8

You are gorg 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 06:01 AM
2

Men are opportunists and they try to condition us into believing it is us, who are the gold diggers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:39 PM
11

Spot on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 09:25 PM
15

😂 valid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:27 AM
17

Damn. I’ve been there. I’ve begged the universe to heal me and give me the power to move on. It’s so beautiful when you wake up one day and you’re just OVER IT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:24 AM
19

It’s not just Italian culture, most foreign cultures work like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 11:26 PM
13

I used to say this all the time and people would SLAM me 😂 I even had a scrote tell me that he feels bad that I haven’t experienced a genuine male friendship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 06:46 PM
31

Same 😂 I also don’t watch or listen to men. They spew rhetoric that benefits them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 06:45 PM
28

I know plenty of Africans who stay home until marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 05:20 PM
82

Yes this is very common and normal. American culture is very much so centered around independence and standing alone. Foreign cultures are wayyyy more communal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 05:11 PM
45

My mom shares the same traits as yours. I was always high maintenance like her but I used to think...damn she’s so particular about EVERYTHING. My father adores her and holds her in high regard. Now that I’m an adult I recognize what a Queen she is. Cheers to our mums.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 03:47 PM
3

If he doesn’t respect her culture he doesn’t respect her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 03:44 PM
17

I disagree. Realistically, I doubt Kylie is a present mom. She’s so busy I suspect her children much like Kim K are with nannies all day. Some women want to be financially stable and present mothers . Having kids young and tossing them over to nannies and grandparents isn’t a luxury IMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 03:27 PM
11

Women are great 🧸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 01:01 AM
81

Men are literally encouraged to treat us like shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 05:24 PM
12

Any sort of disrespect is a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 07:25 PM
1

The best strategy to have !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:30 PM
12

Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:03 PM
0

It’s so cringe when pick me’s won’t allow men to do nice things for them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:48 PM
3

I agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 01:43 AM
5

You cannot be serious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:32 PM
36

No, on my end they are still loud and proud to not have friends smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:36 PM
238

She’s right. But I still hate age gap relationships lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 05:54 AM
35

I strongly feel they aren’t fit to be mothers when they are still in that state of mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 08:57 PM
36

It’s important for us to recognize this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 07:58 PM
14

All of the above
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 08:34 PM
90

amazing that he has the audacity to tell us how much time it should take us to allow a man to enter our body 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:19 AM
58

I think it’s because they don’t feel like they deserve to be treated 100% or majority of the time. A lot of the pick me I know feel that whatever a man does for them; they have to give them double.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:09 AM
2

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 02:25 PM
2

Omg lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:51 PM
19

😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:22 PM
8

How does this work?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:40 PM
8

What is red pill and is there a name for this tactic? I’ve experienced this too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:39 PM
32

Yea I kinda hate when people push this agenda that we can’t possibly like our partner as much as he likes us. I feel like that’s encouraging us to date men we don’t really want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:38 PM
30

You’re spot on, however there are men who don’t mind fully secure women they are just in the minority. Don’t lose hope, these men are out here and he will find you sis. My mother and aunt are very secure women who are married to men who love that about them. Always remember “ the partner I am seeking is also seeking me”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 04:54 PM
8

The key is to be succinct. Do not go back and forth , say what needs to be said concisely and end conversation. Maintain eye contact and speak with confidence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 03:50 PM
27

I’m game 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 02:56 AM
12

Yes it’s ridiculous 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:10 PM
54

I was a virgin until age 20. Surprisingly I was never waiting for anything I just found the various boyfriends I had as unfit so I held out. Throughout the years I never told anyone I was a virgin because 1, I was in the “in ” crowd and people assumed I wasn’t due to who I dated and who I was friends with. 2, I just didn’t want any man feeling like he “ took” something from me. I guess I always knew I was “ behind” sexually but I never cared because I wasn’t comfortable or interested in casual s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:04 PM
65

I’d say it’s a scam if it isn’t done in the most healthy way. With knowing all of this, we can actively enter marriages where it’s understood between husband and wife that child rearing will be equal effort. Yes, we can enforce this. Some men don’t child rear because it isn’t expected of them, yes it’s dumb , but yes some people don’t expect their husband to child rear. We can set that expectation from the beginning. A HVM won’t fight you about this, he will understand that he has to nurture and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:26 PM
2

Awww thanks sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:17 PM
22

Absolutely. She knows that on average women bring more to the table than men. These “ princesses “ that people swear most women are is fiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 07:52 PM
6

I’ve noticed this too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 06:56 PM
0

That’s your decision sis. I personally communicate my expectations and if they aren’t met , I leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:15 AM
17

You’re right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 03:46 AM
44

In that case, He gotta go sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 02:16 AM
85

Because they want us to settle like they did 😂 when you’re single you still have a chance of landing the guy you’ve always envisioned and some people envy that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 02:10 AM
22

Proud of you for blocking right away 💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:48 PM
2

LAW⚖️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:11 PM
2

I second this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:03 PM
2

Right 😂 but it’s totally acceptable if it’s coming from a man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:03 PM
3

Very true!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:45 AM
10

I agree. But would you say the men win when they are with them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:15 AM
101

They exist but we don’t have to date them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 04:24 AM
11

🤩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 01:42 AM
10

They would come looking for us with torches 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:47 PM
8

Omg really 😂😂😂 I never knew sex could be this good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:34 PM
17

This! That’s why as women we always do what’s beneficial for US and our children. ALWAYS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 10:59 PM
26

Same sis. I had a friend toy with me like this and I had to cut her loose. It’s so insensitive to just pick up and drop your friends like we are toys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 07:34 PM
17

True you have a point. I honestly don’t pay attention to that though because I don’t care lol. But I think I might be in the minority. If I don’t respond right away , I won’t respond for days/weeks because I’ll forget.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 07:30 PM
147

How is responding within minutes blowing up someone’s phone 🥴 I could see if someone is double texting but it sounds like she just responds when she sees the message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 06:53 PM
32

True 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 06:29 PM
78

What is wrong with people?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 06:23 PM
0

100% . I grew up in a diverse area and the non- US women were super relaxed about dating/men during the elementary/ high school days. I’ve noticed they date with intention of marriage whereas casual dating is more of a western thing. Alot of them weren’t even allowed to date before age 18. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:45 PM
64

LVM specialize in ruining lives 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:50 PM
74

I feel like when healthy men are getting to know you they aren’t focused on what you can do for them or “ even 50/50 exchanges”. They court you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:16 PM
3

True I’ve noticed that too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:13 PM
1

whose talking about scrotes? Jennifer said men seem to get useful at whatever age she said and I said from MY experience the age was 25. Idk if Jennifer was talking about scrotes I assumed she just meant men in general .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:11 PM
144

He’s mad because she’s guiding women to focus on themselves if they’re under 33 😂 I’m still in my 20s but in my experience, they become useful at 25 so I think Jennifer is on to something!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 03:21 AM
0

Is this where I give you a cookie for calling me a ignorant fool? Oatmeal or chocolate chip?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:48 PM
-2

Good for you! I don’t care what you think is dumb. I’m not in a relationship that exists solely on the internet so I don’t know why you’re mentioning it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 01:59 PM
2

It definitely isn’t going away anytime soon. It will subside a bit in the summer and reignite fall 2021.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 10:36 PM
-1

I got it from her comment citing that a lot of women here think working on themselves is a pastime to get a man and that if you’re dating right now you’re terrified of being single. The only people that can agree with that sentiment are people who are healing unaccomplished or traumatized. A healthy person doesn’t see working on themselves as a pastime to get a man or is terrified of being single. Hence why I said some people are in great places in their lives, are dating, and do not see it that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 10:33 PM
8

Very nice 🤩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 01:27 AM
11

Congrats! Love your ring and nails 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:30 AM
8

You explained it perfectly it has nothing to do with viewing the kids as property.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 07:03 PM
10

Congrats ❤️ always nice to read some positivity !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 06:57 PM
60

Love to see it ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 11:26 PM
27

I can’t think of one genuine reason to not post your s.o.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:26 AM
179

She knows he cheats and doesn’t want to hear it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 12:15 AM
64

Congrats ❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 05:44 PM
18

Yup he’s attempting to brainwash you into feeling old and pressure you to scramble for a man lol smh. Men have done this to me too to see what I’ll say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:34 PM
47

It depends on their upbringing. Most people didn’t grow up in healthy households. Those that didn’t tend to not know what love is. I agree though that they get more infatuated than women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:31 PM
2

Rejecting and refusing to entertain inappropriate behavior. HV people don’t even bother trying to reason with that sort of behavior but LV people do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 01:58 PM
87

being opinionated having boundaries being dismissive being happy single prioritizing self improvement over men prioritizing/ valuing your family over your boyfriend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:13 PM
90

What country is she from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 05:06 PM
13

I disagree I’ve seen women take longer to leave and still go back because of the time they have invested
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:23 PM
72

More collaborative and peaceful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 04:39 PM
10

Send it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 03:17 PM
6

They probably have a lot of chemistry. Real Chemistry is in its own category and like a drug. Hopefully she relaxes soon lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 02:43 PM
4

Lol no way !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 01:00 AM
13

congrats !!! ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:45 PM
5

That’s her prerogative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:46 PM
18

No seriously 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 04:46 PM
100

So he could get approved for a mortgage loan 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 03:22 PM
21

Right I don’t do shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:29 PM
20

😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:34 AM
10

So true 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 04:30 AM
4

I’m so sorry you experienced that. Sending love. You are definitely far from alone in your experiences. Like you said it’s something people don’t talk about but is actually common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 04:28 AM
18

You’re absolutely right. They are probably triggered that you read her. The sad truth is a lot women care more about MEN versus their own kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 06:59 PM
6

Same. I only admire my parents marriage and that’s because I was actually living in the house and can confirm what went on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 08:47 PM
12

Why does spending your money make you feel empowered?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 03:32 AM
26

This is so true. I’ve never been on BC and I’ve told men to kick rocks if that makes them uncomfortable idc it’s my body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 02:18 AM
39

They are absolutely the real gold diggers. That’s why they work so hard to brainwash us into expecting nothing from them, so that they can take everything from us for free 😂 Men who get upset with us for having expectations out of them had plans of using us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 07:50 PM
33

Wow can’t make this shit up 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 12:41 AM
3

This 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 12:40 AM
10

😂😂 you’re too funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 11:07 PM
15

This is the truth. People delude themselves into thinking they enjoy it when they really don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 07:00 PM
118

Tbh I’m over sex all together. I have no desire or interest to engage in sex with someone I don’t think I’m marrying. Such a waste of time. I like moving on from men knowing they never touched my body. Less hurtful .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 02:57 PM
10

I’ve noticed this too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 01:05 PM
13

Out of sight out of mind sis. Unfriend on social media. Delete pics. You’ll be ok, it just takes time. 6 months from now you will laugh about this. Also don’t blame yourself. Life is about learning. Learn from this and move forward ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:52 PM
43

I live in a big city and according to my friends who live in smaller cities there are more hvm in the big cities. My friends in smaller cities struggle to meet men in general, and when they do there are issues with their appearance or financial standing . I can definitely confirm that here in the big city most men take care of their appearance . I’ve literally never ran into a hygiene issue before. There are also a lot of business oriented men here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 11:55 PM
13

Don’t date men unless it benefits you in some way. Stop being emotional and recognize you are wasting time with a man if you’re not benefiting and he isn’t making your life better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 01:11 PM
11

Yup this is my experience
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 08:40 PM
71

He should get whatever his fiancé wants lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:10 AM
9

You are hilarious 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 08:12 PM
13

This needed to be said. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 10:35 PM
1

Love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 10:39 PM
11

I understand because I’m around the same age as you and grew up with social media. Maybe Instead of deleting your account, delete the app. I deleted my account and honestly a few years later I regretted it because I had a big following and am out of touch with some cool people. None of this sounds silly to me because we are in the same age range but it will sound silly to older people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:11 PM
3

Holding a mirror to them 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 03:03 AM
5

I actually love this concept 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 11:32 PM
39

He’s actually a decent man to tell you this upfront instead of stringing you along and being emotionally unavailable. Respect his boundaries and carry on. It’s for the best that he doesn’t want you to shoulder his burdens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 11:11 PM
16

Ill give you an unpopular opinion. I’ve been a hvw my whole life and hvw are NOT common. Pick me’s are like lvm, there is an abundance. In my experience it isn’t really possible to have a large group of friends who are hvw. It just isn’t. You’ll have a few though, cherish them! I went through a time in my life where I distanced myself from pick mes, and guess what , almost everyone I associated with was gone ! Lol. Personally , I’m an extrovert and I need social interaction so that wasn’t going …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:20 PM
24

THIS. I strongly advise against allowing toxic people to re enter your life, they typically repeat inappropriate behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:54 PM
13

Same, in my experience they repeat the behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:53 PM
28

THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:42 PM
55

My go to gift in new relationships is baking something small 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:37 PM
3

Love this tip 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 08:00 PM
16

LOL I love this title
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 07:15 PM
3

Lmao seriously!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 04:32 PM
9

Lol wow I can’t believe he actually admitted this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 12:24 AM
1

Lol seriously, no words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 08:44 PM
20

What is the point of living with a man who isn’t your husband I don’t understand it. Are people bored?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 07:04 PM
-3

Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 06:54 PM
35

I think we all go through this at some point in our lives. It sucks. She’s definitely a LVW and the two of you no longer have things in common . Some friendships are truly only meant for seasons and she was one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 10:51 PM
7

Yup I get this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 11:21 PM
4

Yup I can understand this 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 11:20 PM
101

Why do you think kids idealize the parent that is missing? I can’t understand how the hard working parent who raised the child gets overlooked so much 🙁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 03:33 PM
19

So sad that this is true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 03:21 PM
4

I think you’re overthinking. When it’s all said and done, if you communicate with him and he ends up being a douche then you block and move on. It won’t be the end of the world. We run into problems when we experience blatant disregard or disrespect and just push through. In my opinion I don’t think this is a big deal because I’ve done it plenty and had no type of malice. But I will say it it persists then yes it’s a red flag and block delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 12:34 AM
3

I’m bad at responding on social media even if I am interested. I always read messages and forget to respond . I also don’t get the notifications sent to my phone. I’d text him and if the behavior persists drop him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 12:19 AM
16

I never pay even when I am in a relationship lol. Dinner dates are for women to enjoy not men. I do nice gestures for boyfriends like bake cupcakes or get them cards. A poem. Stuff like that. I don’t shell out money unless it’s a holiday or birthday .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 08:48 PM
13

Just let her come to you and then decide if it’s a friendship you want to be apart of. If I were you, I would definitely stop reaching out to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 08:43 PM
16

Vietnamese women are very beautiful ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 12:37 AM
3

It’s ok 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 12:33 AM
1

Idk why you directed that to me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 12:12 AM
3

It’s fine as long as you make your own money. I’ve dated men who have paid my bills and nothing crazy happened. Some men just have it like that and don’t mind spending it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 09:22 PM
87

Why won’t he just take you on a proper date. Why do you two need to go to the park first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 01:13 PM
0

Lol totally unrealistic if you are under age 30.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 04:58 PM
1

I wouldn’t be offended, naturally men are going to try to pursue you if they’re interested. It’s just a friend request it’s not like he tried to grope you when he saw you or sent you an inappropriate message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 04:53 PM
1

In my city men are approaching in the grocery store, walking down the street, etc. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 01:25 AM
15

😂😂😂 “ in the land of milk and honey”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 12:41 AM
0

How am I being negative? You really think I want the world to lack having HVW?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 12:24 PM
2

Almost 8 billion people in this world and you think 100K is a lot?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 09:47 PM
2

FDS women are rare in real life. If we were common, we wouldn’t have this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 09:08 PM
14

This is where you have to work on having good judgment. For me, I know it’s a looks thing when they instantly invite me to be plus 1’s at weddings and just in general prematurely inviting me to events where I’m the arm candy. I just met you last week and you want me to be your date to the huge company holiday party, why? I never go, you shouldn’t either. I also know when they prematurely tell their friends about me or ask to post my pictures on their social media. Decline all of this and see how…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 04:18 PM
17

It’s about confidence. You have to believe you’re all that and then naturally you’ll go on dates believing you’re the prize .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 04:09 PM
10

When you’re beautiful a lot of people want to befriend you and a lot of men pursue you. That’s your advantage. You have more options and are automatically liked by most people you come across . You need to work on gaining good judgment and having a high self esteem. Beauty, good judgment, and a high self esteem will get you very far. There is a lot of power in being a beautiful woman, don’t be one that snoozes on her power because she hasn’t developed herself in other areas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 11:00 PM
3

Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:45 PM
3

Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:45 PM
3

Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:45 PM
12

How do you pronounce pickmeisha? Is it pick- meisha or pick-me-isha ? Serious question 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:02 PM
14

😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:54 PM
0

we have different opinions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 11:07 AM
3

Exactly . “ Be human”. You didn’t deserve to be blind sided like that. How was that ok?? Now some might defend your friend and say “ nope cut off instantly because nope she knew what she said!” And you certainly didn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 10:07 PM
0

All I said was if he reaches out I’d confirm it’s over that’s it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 10:05 PM
2

Exactly they are stupid. And not to sound rude towards OP at all, but we have to understand people treat us as we ALLOW. So if you’re allowing a man to shit on you in any fashion , as fucked up as it is, he will normalize that behavior and see it as the usual. Us healthy people will stand back like wtf is wrong with him but once you introduce bad behavior it becomes NORMAL to them. Which then leads them into being blind sided because they thought the behavior was normal and ok because we allowed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 08:39 PM
5

I’d respond once because I’m an adult who knows how to begin and end conversations. I don’t struggle with these things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 08:00 PM
6

If he reaches out to you and asks if the two of you are broken up , just confirm it. Only if he reaches out to you, no need to seek him out. I’m going to go against the grain here, I think ghosting people is extremely childish and conveys that one doesn’t know how to communicate or doesn’t have the confidence to do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:25 PM
5

No such thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 09:51 PM
1

Lol I’m not deluded I know celebrities. Their life is nothing like ours. They are literally encouraged and pushed to be low value in relationships to maintain an image. I wouldn’t say us regular people are encouraged and pushed to be low value in relationships it’s usually core principles we build from our upbringings . That’s all im trying to convey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:48 PM
1

No, monogamy is not an illusion. The fact that you think it’s an illusion is telling of your environment. Monogamy is very real and hvw have it. Cheating is a low value behavior. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:37 PM
4

Don’t compare yourself to Beyoncé lol. Celebrities lead different lifestyles than us regular people, they aren’t monogamous . 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 03:04 PM
173

Because women lost their standards and stopped requiring effort 🤷‍♀️ if we want to see a huge shift, women as a collective must level up and demand it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 03:08 PM
57

Congratulations he sounds like a good one❤️ I definitely feel a man can be HV and not super romantic. I’m sorry but that’s not everyone’s personality type. If you don’t like it, then you communicate that to him and see if he puts the effort in to change. From the information you have provided, I’m sure he will put the effort in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 02:33 PM
73

No
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 12:57 AM
57

Why are so many women proud to be servants to men 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 10:38 PM
22

This man is mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:26 PM
5

Men should pursue so you can gage their interest and intentions . Men rarely reject women and will happily take most offers from women because they think it’s easy sex. The couples I know where the woman pursued the man, the man thinks he’s the prize , you don’t want that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 12:49 AM
3

THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:08 PM
4

Men have no type of shame whatsoever smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 12:25 PM
356

I can’t believe men have brainwashed women enough into believing standards are gold digging 😩😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 01:19 PM
7

Hey you asked a question and I answered lol. I’m not saying I’d engage in that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 11:24 PM
32

Exactly he’s a star athlete the Kardashians have money. They date for social status lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 11:03 PM
35

Kardashians are about social status lol. A star athlete is their type.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 11:01 PM
8

Lol he is a star athlete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 11:01 PM
66

Loneliness and social status lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 08:16 PM
3

I totally agree that women who think 98% of men cheat have a low value social circle. I know a lot of HVM, and I do believe our social circles will reflect our perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 08:14 PM
95

I think dating would favor women more if we made pussy expensive again. Women lost the power when they started handing out pussy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 02:09 AM
19

Nah people can’t help how they look or that they get a lot of attention. In my experience men who are popular with women simply have a choice most men don’t, which is they actually get approached by a lot of women. I’d say the men popular with women who refuse to approach women tend to be lvm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 11:21 PM
43

Where did you hear this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 11:17 PM
2

Can you verify is through our reddit account?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 02:57 PM
10

I’m glad he changed. It helps when we use our voices 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 02:52 PM
60

I know people generally suggest children stay out of marital affairs but I think you should directly ask him why he’s laying around like a piece of shit when she’s in such pain. Shame him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 01:04 PM
28

I said he’s just mad I don’t want to be his girlfriend lol. We were the same age so I know he didn’t mean it , just trying to manipulate me into being with him lol fail!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 05:36 AM
109

I’ve very briefly dated ALOT of jealous men. None were my boyfriends. My examples: Had a terrible relationship with his family while I have a great one with mine. He would tell me how I’m a little girl and immature because of how close I am to my family. Said I’ll never know how to be “ an adult” because my parents paid for my education and I didn’t have to work through school. 🤡 Asked to be my boyfriend and I said I’d like to date more. He said I’m too old to just be dating to date (25) and tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 11:59 PM
71

Pick me’s think this shit is so cute. My friend was laughing the other day saying how men truly are like our children 🙄 no the hell they aren’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 09:10 PM
4

The good thing is that you can be brutally honest with your sister. You don’t have to pussyfoot around her pick me behavior just call her out. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 08:53 PM
117

He’s absolutely right. An old ass man becoming a father puts the responsibility of child rearing on the young woman. She becomes slave to him and kids. Though I suspect men who hold out on marriage due to that toxic mentality are actually seeking out that very arrangement smh. No real interest in raising their kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 07:55 PM
16

That’s why from time to time I love vocalizing my disdain for broke ass men. Nudge them real quick and remind them that they aren’t shit. Their ego comes flying down when we bring them back down to earth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 06:52 PM
29

SMH, I am not surprised they grow to be these types of moms. Just obsessed with male validation. My sympathy for PickMes end as soon as they have children smh. I have never in my life met a good pick me mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 06:49 PM
18

I’ve experienced that as well except I ghosted her ass when she tried to return. The experience deeply hurt my feelings and I didn’t want to experience that twice. Women like that have deeper internal issues and need to seek therapy. I don’t need that toxicity in my life. As I’ve gotten older, I now enjoy friendships for the time being and make sure to create new ones as I go on. Whether it’s at a new job , school, whatever I just keep it pushing. We are outnumbered by pick me women and we can’t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:34 PM
11

You’re right. Every single one smh. To be honest as I’ve gotten older, I now enjoy friendships for the time being and make sure to create new ones as I go on. Whether it’s at a new job , school, whatever I just keep it pushing. We are outnumbered by pick me women and we can’t position ourselves to get our feelings hurt when they almost CERTAINLY plan on ditching us once they find their husband/bd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:17 PM
31

It’s ok sis. I know it’s hard not to get your hopes up but try not to. Try seeing men as regular people and not potential anything. Learn from this for next time 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 02:22 PM
47

Good on you! It’s time for women to uncondition ourselves from being pushovers . We need to learn as a collective to hold everyone accountable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:44 PM
198

We need to stop pandering to our friends who legit cut their girlfriends off when they enter relationships too. A lot of women see female friendships as placeholders until they get a boyfriend/husband. When their relationships end and they decide to come around , ignore them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:31 PM
2

Lmao love it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 04:32 AM
80

Forgive yourself sis ! Society and misogynistic cultures brainwash us into being pick me. It’s really not your fault and you shouldn’t feel ashamed, just bury that part of you. I’m so excited for you and your level up journey ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 01:32 AM
1

So what’s the problem then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 07:12 PM
1

Self sabotaging is overthinking and creating situations in your head that don’t exist. If it’s genuinely time to leave the person has acted in an inappropriate disrespectful manner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 07:04 PM
35

Lol 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 02:36 PM
2

She truly is! If you want I can DM you my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 02:29 PM
177

Totally agree that if women collectively stopped dating men much older than them that men would stop thinking they are so invincible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 11:51 PM
7

I completely agree. I believe marriage gets a bad rep sometimes because majority of women are pick me’s and enter marriages as pick me women. Or they are former pick me who were in former pick me marriages. Thus cultivating an oppressive miserable pick me life. I never hear marriage is this oppressive thing I read online from HVW. HVW enter marriage leveled up and don’t marry trashy men. My mom is HVW and at no point in my life was my dad a shitty LVW because SHE would never allow such a thing. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 01:37 AM
23

Lvm/ nvm absolutely abhor spoiled wealthy women smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 02:47 PM
7

In my state all assets before marriage are yours .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 04:59 PM
80

So proud of you sis ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 11:11 PM
11

Consulting Marketing IT Finance Human Resources
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 09:44 PM
64

When you’re a HVW your dating pool becomes smaller because most people are LVM/LVW. You’re not too picky you’re looking for your equal which is unfortunately hard to find, but you will find it. You aren’t doing anything wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 08:25 PM
3

Take a mental note and proceed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 03:15 PM
79

I take every chance I get to educate men and women about this . Men love acting like they have a leg up on women when it comes to fertility when they really don’t. Society loves making women out to be defective so whenever a couple in their mid to late thirties have fertility issues it’s automatically ASSUMED it’s the woman and people don’t bother with investigating if the man is the problem smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 04:06 PM
20

All of this! The relationship must start this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:50 AM
10

What?? I thought we were talking about confidence?? Women deceive themselves when they think people can’t SENSE they have a low self esteem. ALL I’m saying is to be TRULY confident THATS IT. You literally said in the OP that you’re not confident , and in another comment you said you hide it well?? I’m not sure what I misinterpreted here. Regardless all I’m saying is to be truly confident and not to bank off of being able to hide a low self esteem ( your words not mine) well because YES all HUMAN…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 10:35 PM
4

You said in the original post you aren’t confident and then you said you’re good at hiding it in another comment. In response I said people can’t fake confidence so although you said you’re good at hiding it I said I doubt it because confidence is hard to fake it’s something people can sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 10:29 PM
7

That’s great!! Honestly you can’t fake confidence , people are able to sense if your bluffing or not. They won’t say it to your face because it’s too confrontational.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 10:22 PM
29

Work on improving your self esteem and becoming confident. You will be surprised to learn that truly being confident serves as a strong repellent from lvm. Of course it won’t repeal ALL but it does in fact repeal a lot. Once you gain confidence you’ll have fewer men approach you but they will be better quality. Yes garbage will still come but not in droves like before. This is a very important and necessary first step in dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 09:37 PM
16

This is why I get so mad when women stay with disrespectful men. It doesn’t matter how much money or how good looking a man is don’t EVER let them disrespect you. This manifested from the husband regularly disrespecting her smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 08:56 PM
19

You don’t need to fear them. It’s easy. Don’t allow someone to disrespect you PERIOD. Men don’t get ballsy and call their wife’s boss out of nowhere. It’s telling that he doesn’t RESPECT her and he felt it was within his rights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 08:55 PM
5

I would’ve given it a chance only because some people say pet names out of habit and it takes them a reminder or two to completely drop it. A lot of women like it so I think out of pure habit in the early stages someone might make that mistake. I will highlight that I have the type of personality where I don’t like to wonder “ what if” so that’s the basis of my thinking in general...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 12:47 PM
25

Scrotes gonna Scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 12:02 AM
0

We don’t care about rumors. LVM make fake rumors up about women everyday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 01:42 AM
4

Stop tearing a woman down for something her BROTHER allegedly did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 11:51 PM
45

Love it! I am huge on shaming people for inappropriate behavior
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 10:44 PM
8

Literally what I told my mother this morning 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 09:20 PM
13

This is hilarious & you are so cute !!😂🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:57 PM
14

Yes that irked me. She’s giving him way too much power. I hope she joins!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 05:11 PM
38

Jesus . This is why it’s important to date for CHARACTER as well as financial stability. Not one or the other smh. She also needs to stop blaming this on his looks. She sounds so pick me. He’s a jerk that’s it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 04:31 PM
7

100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 03:45 PM
39

Also men who hate “ high maintenance “ women! Big red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 02:17 AM
95

Lol I love her already! A queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:51 PM
-1

I disagree. I am a daddy’s girl by all means and people would probably argue that a daddy’s girl is codependent when I’m not. I don’t think people understand what a healthy mama’s boy or daddy’s girl looks like unless they have experienced it. Mamas boy/ daddy’s girl both have negative connotations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 03:52 AM
8

It depends. I don’t like mommas boy who use their moms as crutches. But I do like mommas boys when there are healthy boundaries in place and not that enabler crutch relationship. I’ve noticed the ones with healthy boundaries tend to have respect for women in general. I am both a mommas girl and a daddy’s girl. So personally, I look for men who share that closeness with their parents. I prefer not to date men who aren’t close to their parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 10:58 PM
24

He missed coffin nails 🙄😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 06:32 PM
10

Lmao I love this so much!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 05:32 PM
44

Totally agree!! I don’t even talk about it 😂 that’s how much idgaf what my future husband thinks about my intention to keep my last name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 02:53 PM
427

Lol this is why women should stop changing their last names all together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 02:22 PM
14

The happy married couples I know ; the woman is never submissive lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 03:30 PM
9

Men weren’t that shitty during my hs experience . But in college they were full force !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 01:41 AM
19

Hell no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 12:03 AM
9

I totally agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 08:08 PM
32

Yup! I learned the truth about men in college.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:46 PM
106

lol she’s a senior in high school. She will learn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:20 PM
14

LOL!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:14 PM
19

I also have a few friends whose mothers passed away for health reasons . Ask me if their dad stuck around afterwards. The answer is no. In both instances the father remarried and distanced themselves from their children. I definitely see this pattern of men trying to literally ditch their children once the mother passes. It’s not ptsd it’s them not giving AF and literally discarding their past life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:06 PM
18

Seriously! A woman in that position would feel like she HAS to level up and be the best version of herself due to her spouse dying. I actually knew a woman who passed away after child birth and her spouse STEPPED UP. He is super dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 07:56 PM
21

I love this post, it is needed. I’ve noticed a lot of WGTOW in here who shame other women for NOT wanting to go their own way as if it isn’t in our feminine nature to desire a husband and children. I also believe we manifest our lives and if you truly believe there are no good men of substance that is exactly what will manifest 🤷‍♀️ I only date high earning HVM sorry but it’s not all about personality for me and yes I have a high earning career. I’m not dEpEnDENt on a man. It is a CULMINATION of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 02:33 PM
3

Lol I’m with you sis. I rotationally date and men financially take care of me too with NO strings attached. I am a career woman. I have no idea how these dynamics make me or her pick me’s 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:23 AM
4

Lol men take care of me financially with NO strings attached and I am a career woman who makes good money 🤷‍♀️😂 why tf should the woman not take her ex money. People are assuming she’s dependent when we don’t know!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:21 AM
6

Wow sis thank you for sharing. I had no idea this existed. I feel strongly about not wanting any sons and I will look into this 👛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 03:45 AM
46

He was bitching because he knew a lot of men would be in your DMs 🤣. I HATE this dumb topic. The very few faithful men I know do NOT excessively like women’s pictures. They don’t even want to give a woman the wrong impression and potentially embarrass their gf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 02:03 AM
108

90% of the guys who like my Instagram pictures are also in my DMs 🤷‍♀️ From my experience men like the women whose pictures they like!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 01:56 AM
9

Wow I thought I was the only person who prays to ONLY have girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 01:06 AM
11

I come from a high value family and have witnessed the power and benefits that come out of a HV marriage. Life is EASIER. You experience unconditional love that you don’t have to question. This leads you to have a high self esteem and not take bs from men because you’re genuinely LOVED. You have to feel this type of love to know it. Emotional support 24/7. Companionship. You are set up to succeed. You don’t have to worry about much because you have a strong family to fall back on . A HVM and a H…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 03:20 PM
6

If you’re under age 30 then yes it’s unrealistic because we grew up during the height of social media so it’s normal to have accounts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 02:42 PM
30

No
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 02:49 AM
13

Financial/ Emotional security & for ME it’s to create a family. When I say financial security I mean a partner who makes the same as me or more so that in the event that something happens to me and I can’t work my kids and I are good because my husband is financially successful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 01:29 PM
146

Totally agree! I’m sick of reading lvm tales 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 01:24 PM
7

This isn’t true in major cities. I live in one and my friends live in the other ones and it’s consistent that they desire perfect looking women like having surgery type women. I think perhaps in smaller towns the girl next door look is a thing but certainly not the big metros. Over here the dusties feel entitled to super pretty women lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:02 PM
6

Love this can we please include in handbook? Great post to reference .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 02:54 PM
17

You’re 100% right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 07:02 PM
28

Some men are just looking for all possible ways to exploit women. No stone will be left unturned lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:59 PM
10

Her mom. Children learn best by example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:58 PM
35

I strongly dislike women like her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:57 PM
12

I need the combination of money and looks. One doesn’t supersede the other for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 12:46 AM
208

Wow it shouldn’t even get to the point where you’re asking a man to pretend pay for you 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 12:31 AM
2

I wouldn’t care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 08:05 PM
12

Can you move in with your family for the next few months? It sounds like you’re in danger and need to leave your environment. If you come from an environment where “ snitching” is frowned upon I think you need to make a plan as to how you’re going to move to another area because that is a toxic debilitating way to live. I’m sorry but there is absolutely no way to deescalate an angry scary man. All you can is get out of that environment for your safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 04:15 PM
8

That’s why I added “ surpassing them in any other way “
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 12:23 PM
23

I do. I broke that rule once and dated a less educated man and he grew to become incredibly jealous of me. Maybe I’m jaded but I wouldn’t recommend. From my personal experience men can’t handle a woman making substantially more money OR “ surpassing” them in ANY way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 12:04 PM
6

I practice out of sight out of mind. They need to be removed from all social media and you need to inform friends to not mention them ever again and if you two are to discuss them it must be you initiating. If they accidentally bring said person up say you no longer speak on them. It’s kind of militant but it works sis ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 03:13 PM
5

Lol this is true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 06:20 PM
179

Mentally unstable men love hearing a woman needs them for financial purposes because they can control them lol. So my guess is they were unhappy with your response because they can’t control you . Good on you .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 01:13 PM
3

Ugh the guy I was seeing did this. He made up stories to people saying his mother loves me and I have never met that woman. Months after I cut ties this man was STILL posting my pictures all over the internet and saying we were together. He just wouldn’t stop. It was a nightmare .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 11:22 PM
14

Immediately. Just say “ hey I noticed you screenshot my pictures and save the pictures I post on social media. Why is that ?” After he responds say it makes you feel really uncomfortable and it needs to stop. If he’s crazy like the guy I was talking to he will try to flip it on you and act like you can’t take a compliment or “ nice gestures”. Which is perfect because that’s your cue to go and proves he’s crazy 🤣 trust me sis I’m speaking from experience the last thing you want to deal with is an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 02:14 PM
31

I briefly dated someone like that and he turned out being obsessed with me. Go ahead and share that it makes you uncomfortable and see it the behavior continues. If it does you should let him go I know from past experience that obsessive men need to be let go asap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 02:05 PM
2

I know people in the following cities who have similar experiences as me : New York, Jersey , DC, Chicago, Dallas, Boston, Seattle , Nashville or Phoenix.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:40 PM
9

I do. I live in one of the largest cities in America and I do have to admit when you’re in a large city there are ALOT of options. A lot of different places to go socialize, have fun, and meet people. I definitely think you should move you realistically have a higher chance of finding what you’re looking for in a big city.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 03:09 PM
17

Can we include this in the handbook? I think women who believe in shacking up would benefit from seeing this break down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 02:55 PM
12

I support hypergamy. I maneuver through life FDS style though because I’m a financially well off pretty girl who refuses to date older or ugly men lmao. But I support the women who don’t mind the ugly old rich men it just isn’t for me lol ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 08:58 PM
7

Same. I was raised in a HV household. I joined because some article brought me here. I stayed because people in my life have always considered me to be high maintenance as if it were a bad thing so I was intrigued to find a community of like minded women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 11:03 PM
5

Happy to hear it sis ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 09:53 PM
10

I’m sorry to hear that sis. Internet hugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 10:40 PM
32

I have elected to not see my people during this time. I think it would be selfish and unreasonable if one of them didn’t respect my wishes to practice isolation. I live in a major metro city which is under shutdown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 02:29 PM
41

Single successful men 35+ are usually problematic .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 12:15 PM
16

🎯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 05:47 PM
16

I’m beginning to recognize that a lot of the LVW on here lack SELF AWARENESS and REFUSE to recognize and take accountability for the part they have played in their lives. I think it’s easier for most people to blame someone else then it is to face the music. And no, I am not saying if you dated a shitty man it’s your fault but I am saying if you’re a grown ass women and every single man was shitty you DO have some inner work to do. fool me once , shame on you, fool me twice and then there is an …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:06 PM
6

Why are you on this sub? Are you here to vent and cry about LV men ? Are you here to discuss why you hate men? Or are you here to date with strategy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:01 PM
6

I’m honestly confused too why are people on this sub if they have a “ fuck men may they rot in hell “ mentality. Lol why! Why not create a WGTOW sub and share your hate for an entire gender there. This is FEMALE DATING STRATEGY. A sub engineered for women who are ...drumroll....DATING. If I thought a gender was trash, I would become asexual and live my life that way. I’d stay away from any relationship type sub. Go take your jaded negativity somewhere else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 08:45 PM
19

I’m with you sis! When it gets to the point that you think an ENTIRE gender is shitty and have never experienced good men I am sorry but you need to work on your discernment and yourself. This sub was not intended to be a I hate men 101 class. Edit: thanks for the silver ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 08:08 PM
18

I wonder too. I thought this was a dating strategy sub not a “ fuck all men those motherfuckers” sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 07:52 PM
5

Be careful what you think and believe; Your thoughts will manifest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 07:35 PM
10

Lol!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 02:16 PM
0

Lol this title!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 04:55 PM
11

I agree! Why do you think so many men aim to control women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 11:54 PM
33

No level headed woman is attracted to a struggling man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 03:37 PM
4

Absolutely not 💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 12:12 AM
53

Bday and Christmas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 11:43 PM
1

They approach me. I go to events thrown by people my age such as specific brunches, happy hours, and parties. I get asked out directly .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 11:58 AM
1

It’s really not luck. When you’re a HV women HV men come to you too. Of course it’s a numbers game, if you’re sitting in your room all day obviously HV men will seem like an extreme rarity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 10:41 PM
2

To me being a HVW is a lifestyle not something to try out to get a man. Being a HVW carries over in many aspects of our lives. To each their own though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 10:39 PM
13

Creating an illusion? Lmao wtf? In order to get a HVM you have to be a HVW. When you’re a HVW, you are the catch! When you’re LVW you’re not a catch, so of course a man won’t try to court you or woo you because there are droves and droves of LVW/ LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 09:13 PM
18

It’s ok sis! Men are usually full of shit in college, from my experience (I’m 26) dating with intention becomes easier around 24-25. That’s the age almost every man I came across wanted commitment and marriage . For now make sure you look your best and go out a lot with your friends so you can naturally meet men in these settings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 01:06 PM
3

Ask yourself why you think you don’t deserve to be financially taken care of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 03:25 PM
15

Thank him and let him know you’ve enjoyed your time Together and deuce out. I have been in this position plenty of times and it’s ok. Just because someone is a gentlemen doesn’t we have to force ourselves to like them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 06:36 PM
39

“ obligatory gift giving” 😩 it’s so sad how some men operate like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 01:02 PM
3

Lmao I love this post! I only date hot men so I think this is a good suggestion haha!!! I also am curious as to why some women are commenting that hot men and hot women are different. And that we should be insecure with hot men??? Why would I be insecure with someone I am comparable to in looks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 10:52 PM
3

Same sis!! 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 10:51 PM
80

Leave on the FIRST red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 09:10 PM
52

This is why we don’t do 50/50 relationships 🗣 generous men ONLY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 01:53 PM
2

You need to train your mind to not give a shit what anyone thinks. In addition to scar removal creams there are also laser removal procedures for scars.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 09:27 AM
3

No don’t tell anyone sis . If they ask about your scars say it’s a birth mark and tell them never ask that question again ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 01:05 AM
6

I hope it goes well sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 12:59 AM
6

My dating style does not involve having multiple sexual relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 12:52 AM
12

I think a lot of people get married during that 30-35 range.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 10:20 PM
9

Doesn’t that negate that dating in your 30s is harder? Or is it more like after age 35?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 10:11 PM
31

I have read that the best age for college educated people to date for marriage is 26-35. Is this true?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 10:07 PM
1

This is how it should be!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 10:03 PM
12

Yes I think it’s tough and can potentially run off men who might falsely see me as a player lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 08:55 PM
8

Thank you for sharing 💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 08:52 PM
3

Thank you for sharing 💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 08:29 PM
37

Love this and I have always lived by this. Question, I want to be single and play the field until I am engaged. I had a man get really frustrated with me and ask how do I expect to get engaged if I don’t take the first step which is being their girlfriend. I’ve noticed men get really comfortable with having forever girlfriends. It sounds reasonable but my goal is marriage not forever gIrLfRiEnD. I don’t see anything wrong with both of us playing the field until we are engaged lol. I believe it’s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 08:14 PM
26

“ sweetheart” 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 04:15 PM
6

It does help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 12:23 PM
40

I’m one of those high maintenance girly girl women lol. It’s not true, a lot of men approach high maintenance women. They expect HM women to have high Expectations out of men and at minimum they expect to have to properly court us. HM women attract men who are prepared to shell out the money and pull out the red carpet. Most men assume that is what comes with the territory. The problem is filtering and vetting the men, because men are men! No matter if they are broke or rich. They have the same …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 02:54 AM
14

This isn’t even confusing. He clearly Cares for the other woman as she is the one who dictates the tempo of your relationship with him. They call you when they get bored because they know you’re down .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:15 PM
45

Men are incapable of having platonic friendships with women they are attracted to. I had a former boss do the same shit to me and it made me feel so violated to know that my “ work dad” who always “looked out for me” was secretly dating his subordinates and plotting on each of us. I personally don’t have any male friends because this is how they all end up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 03:00 PM
9

Same lmao strong 25-33 for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 12:24 AM
2

Yes when you’ve done the concrete work you feel like the husband and kids is all that’s missing. But doing the inner work will make the waiting way less painful and you’ll be able to fully enjoy being young and free . When you’re hvw you know you’ll have all that relatively soon because you’re a catch 😉 mental.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 05:24 PM
7

You need to believe and actually be a hvw in order to patiently wait. It’s mental. Once you become a hvw and believe you are one patiently waiting won’t be as painful because you know a hvm is coming. Truly value yourself and see yourself as a prize. Everyone wants the prize! I see you said you have a successful career and are educated- great job! Do the necessary inner work and I promise waiting for the right one won’t be so painful. 💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 05:16 PM
4

These are omens of a controlling man. I very briefly saw someone like this and he ended up being a controlling monster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 01:39 PM
4

Yes there is truth to this. I would say here in the states we have more lvm due to our cultural norms- libfems. Eastern cultures are more traditional..... of course here in the states we do have hvm but due to our cultural norms they are far more scarce then they are abroad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 05:41 PM
18

It’s true but it’s because pretty girls tend to have a higher self esteem. If you’re pretty with a low self esteem they will treat you like shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 03:12 PM
4

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 01:47 PM
18

I love your answer 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 12:20 AM
4

Nah it hurt 😂 but you don’t really have to overthink this. People will assume you aren’t one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 08:34 PM
8

My first never knew he was my first for the same reasons you stated. Don’t worry about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 08:29 PM
2

Lmao !! I was like wtf is this real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 04:43 PM
2

You’re so right .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 04:35 PM
12

Yes sis. This one guy tried to call me childish because I speak to my dad and brothers so frequently throughout the day and I’m “ an adult”. This man literally told me I need to grow up. I told him not to be jealous of the fact that my family loves me and his doesn’t 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 02:24 PM
14

Omg me too, sis. I am also close with my brothers, which really scares and pisses off lvm. I actually am a daddy’s girl though 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 02:07 PM
1

Yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:47 AM
7

College men aren’t that broke. When I was in college I had no trouble dating men who courted me because that was a standard I set. Dating old men is such a bad idea they are using you and you two have nothing in common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 09:53 PM
6

Confident Discerning High standards Emotional intelligence Strong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 04:39 PM
4

Are you HVW? Are you educated and successful? If you are naturally your circle should reflect the same. If not change your social circle and frequent social activities with like minded people and naturally you will meet similar men. As far as having a sugar daddy, I know it’s hard for some women to believe but yes, there are young rich men, who spend a lot of money on you with no sex. I’ve experienced it but I met these young rich men in real life literally while being out shopping. I don’t sugg…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:57 PM
8

Lol wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 07:57 PM
2

Love this answer. Please make a post about this!! I know when I am dating I don’t tell men I’m looking for something serious right away because please don’t flatter yourself and think you qualify. I don’t know you and I don’t know if I like you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 07:00 PM
2

I’m never in favor of reconciling old relationships. Like another poster said if you are college aged and there weren’t any problems then it is worth revisiting. It’s dumb to expect any man or woman college aged to dump their career of educational pursuits for anyone. Plenty of people get jobs across the country or get accepted to different schools. I think it’s smart when college aged people put their best interest first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 06:45 PM
8

One of those harsh truths people don’t like to hear. It’s true though. To be totally honest if someone isn’t my ideal type it won’t work for me either .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:02 PM
3

I have never paid for a date, continue leaving your wallet at home or in your car . If he asks you to split excuse yourself to the bathroom and go home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:56 PM
12

Totally agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:39 PM
4

Pure evil
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:36 AM
25

Facts!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:24 AM
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No sis that’s not true. The more educated a person is the later in life they settle down .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 09:37 PM
11

I Totally agree .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 09:21 PM
3

Proud of you sis 😘🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:57 PM
20

Um she wants a relationship? Lol I don’t think she can be her own boyfriend/husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 04:37 PM
3

College lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 04:34 PM
17

For me attraction and chemistry doesn’t grow. It’s either there or it isn’t. To answer your question, yes there are attractive HVM but they are a smaller percentage lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 04:28 PM
41

I disagree. There is nothing wrong with OP wanting to be in a happy committed relationship. It doesn’t make her unhappy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 04:24 PM
36

If he isn’t your husband then hell no. My parents are business owners and let me tell you even when you are married you’ll fight over the pettiest things like what color to paint the office. I’d avoid doing business with men all together but especially if he isn’t your husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 04:18 PM
6

This is one of those truths people don’t like discussing 😩 but it’s true and in order to maximize your return from men make sure you look good at all times. Be as feminine as possible. It works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:09 PM
13

Yes and no. Some men are cheap. Some men never had to really make an effort to get women but aren’t necessarily against it. I would judge his interest in you after you’ve voiced that you want to go on proper dates. If he doesn’t do it he’s not that interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:49 PM
18

Lmao my mother was the same way and she taught the methods to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:12 PM
3

The interesting part is in reality the people in these positions would feel like the concerned friend is judgmental and the friend who is supportive is the good friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:30 PM
2

I was raised in a HV household so this was innately how I maneuvered in life. I saw a post on Reddit that led me here and I was like woahhhh there is a community of us! In real life HV people aren’t that common so I love being on here and communicating with like minded people no matter how they got to this point in life 💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:10 PM
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If you knew you deserved to be treated nicely you wouldn’t be asking this question. I’m in agreement with the other ladies , you should explore why you don’t think you deserve this treatment. Once you get to the root of it you will be okay 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:51 PM
13

I love your response!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:09 AM
40

A friend doesn’t want to secretly fuck you lol. In my opinion being friends with someone like that is pointless. Just stick with your girlfriends! When I was a teenager I had male friends like that and they honestly added no value to my life. My female friends on the other hand are amazing and added so much value to my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:08 AM
16

I believe they were separated at the time, but still lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 10:34 PM
16

Lol this is so true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:58 PM
2

This is understandable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:23 AM
2

This is understandable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:38 AM
11

This is also what I have observed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:07 AM
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Why was hearing the truth about your father too much for you? Would you have preferred to simply not know the pain your mother went through and not be the supportive person she needed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:56 PM
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