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CULTURAL MISOGYNYPeak_Tree/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 08:17 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYPeak_Tree/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 08:10 PM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEPeak_Tree/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 02:58 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTPeak_Tree/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 01:57 AM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEPeak_Tree/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 10:24 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYPeak_Tree/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 05:48 PM
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TRIGGER WARNINGPeak_Tree/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:44 PM
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LEVEL UPPeak_Tree/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 05:42 PM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEPeak_Tree/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 03:45 PM
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DISCUSSIONPeak_Tree/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:17 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYPeak_Tree/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 04:17 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYPeak_Tree/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 08:08 PM
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SCROTES MADPeak_Tree/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:07 PM
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“Like a compass needle that points north, a man's accusing finger always finds a woman. Always.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 10:22 PM
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I remember when I first got into reddit as a teenager that discovered a feminist subreddit( the real kind, no libfem BS and therefore since long banned from here) by mistakeand I thought women over there were paranoid when they said they were getting fixed and getting IUDs when Trump won because abortion would be outlawed... They were right as always. My apologies to them. As a non american It's even more unbelievable to read this as my country that is basically thirld world has decriminalized a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 10:20 PM
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Holy sh*t you are dealing with a lot of serious nut jobs over there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 10:12 PM
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I HATE cartel content ( speaking as someone whose country has a long and bloody history with drug lords. It enrages me to see all this glorification )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 06:22 PM
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I don't have a netflix subscription since 2018. And I don't misss it, I've heard that even their asian shows are full of softcore p*rn and I'm so not interested. I mainly watch C-dramas now ( and that's a very loose thing, now that I'm back in college in person I watch maybe a chapter per week), documentaries and the odd nordic series now and then ( recommended, the nudity is treated in a totally natural way in those).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 06:03 PM
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I feel like cattle are treated better than women some times. Ditto.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 10:31 PM
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Pick mes ARE DANGEROUS. I don't really give AF about her mental health, she's dangerous to other women and I don't have pity left for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 09:31 PM
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She's 46!!! My goodness I'm sorry but I expected and early 20s naive pickme or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 10:07 PM
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Taking it out on the other woman that a man she likes has a crush on her is LV/ pickme behavior. You need to do nothing, just ignore her and be on your guard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 05:58 PM
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There's tons but from media (fictional) I'll pick Shen Minglan and her grandmother. Those two knew what was up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 04:37 AM
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I use makeup when I feel like it (a couple times per year usually, with the pandemic 0 times in two years and counting ) and I'm the kind of socially inept person that has gone to college or work ( not the ellegant kind of work) with pollution alergy, pimples, acne scars, etc... in plain sight without giving a sh*t about concealing them tbh. It wasn't always like that tho. As a teenager I would die before touching the stuff because unconsciously I felt the pressure to conform and resented very m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 10:02 PM
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It's not about dating but can we have this on the habdbook as an honorary mention or something. And take my standing ovation as a working class woman trying to get up the proverbial ladder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 11:19 PM
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LED therapy We need a link to the home LED treatments. Please and Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 10:43 PM
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In my culture we don't do that so It's a no brainer for me. I 'm having my doubts about what to do if I have kids tho...I'm seriously tempted to give them my last name in a ot of cases and I can see that being a contention point with a future SO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 04:19 PM
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I want to read her new book so badly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 02:43 AM
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Was looking for this comment about Briggite and I'll just say I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 11:18 PM
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An engineering student won't learn better here than at home ( a graduated engineer could come to work tho, there's lot's to develop as per thirld world standars). OTOH an antropologist/ paleontologist,etc...student could gain a lot coming here because there's a lot of potential research to be done. Medical students come sometimes to study trauma related courses becauses we get shootings, stabbings, different kinds of beatings,etc... all the time and the learn things here that they just can't bac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 01:23 AM
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I live in one of those countries and I confirm so hard. BUT you are lacking some extra info: - Men from all ethnicities and religions are sus. Over here we have had cases of white men, black men, Asian men, middle eastern men, etc... fishing for mail order brides, going to prostitutes or involved in pa.ed0 shit. -Men come here in big groups all the time. I'm even distrustfull of men from certain career paths that come for estudent exchanges (this place is a gold mine of material for some careers…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 07:09 PM
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those women take them to the cleaners after they get citizenship. As they should.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 07:00 PM
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Quoting from another website: ​ Allowing this enables rapists to target women who are known to break the law, knowing that the woman won't dare to submit a rape kit if it could lead to her own prosecution. Men who rape a woman in that category unknowingly also become safe from prosecution
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 11:19 PM
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This is me. Beards being a trend now makes not dating super easy,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 07:18 PM
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Someone get that woman here. What s role model for us all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 06:32 PM
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Starter wifes are a whole category by now. All of them were replaced at home and many didn't even get their part of the money they helped to create. You have better chances of fighting if a job dumps you unjustly tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 06:26 PM
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It's so difficult because parents can not fight against all this societal tsunami of porn approval on their own...but people doesn't want to implement real institutional measures to protect minors either (like making porn access strictly accesible only to legal adults and using verification checks like the do with online bets). They'll start crying about the goverment having databases of co*mers and how UnFaIr and DaNgErOuS and ToTaLiTaRiAn that is. But letting children be indoctrinated into bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 06:16 PM
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That's not a friend, that's a pimp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 07:23 PM
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Men only support sex work when they are masturbating to it. They absolutely despise sex workers tho and want to see them fail at life outside of being their p*rn. This is a prime exmaple of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 03:24 AM
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I always answer no to men because I don't discuss feminism with them at all. Never. And because I will not let myself be publicily associated with libfems ( the only recognized kind of feminist nowadays as it seems). EDIT: that doesn't mean I don't act like it...just not in the way many women associate with it like going to parades and the like. I'm not very social in that aspect. With women is a marvelous vetting tool... I have my agreements and disagreements with feminism but I recognize all t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 03:02 AM
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I side eye ANY single parent that utters the sentence "I need to date someone without kids because I already have mine and don't want to deal with theirs" SO HARD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 04:45 PM
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Which is why I already jumped ship and migrated to Asian media. None of this BS on there. Not that media over there isn't abusive AF with the women actrecess/singers,etc.. ( like everywhere. Depressing), but none of that happens onscreen or is a plot point or is gonna be made into a series to glorify it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:42 PM
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Pick me mothers are the worst. Advice:if your mother isa pick meyou better arrange to her to keep a healthy distance from your boyfriend, no matter how HV he may appear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:02 AM
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It's called "forced teaming" but with activism: they are trying to get under the LGBTQ+ umbrella so if you object to the danger they are they can call you a f*scist sum/extreme right winger and ruin your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 05:23 PM
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That's the thing, Rihanna is RICH, real rich. Her life experiences should no inspire anyone outside her socioeconomic bracket because they ( Rihanna, The Kardashans,etc...) will be fine in the end. Is we common working class/ middle class women that would condenm ourselves by following on their steps. EDIT: Now I KNOW that the father is a LVM on steroyds...but even then she's in a better situation to dump him when she wants, even more so if she's not marrying him which I think is a smart move on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 12:23 AM
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Someone on twitter said she believed this was goverment propaganda or something....and *puts on tinfoil * I'm inclined to believe maybe some lobbies really do push to make this kind of thing more mainstream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 12:20 AM
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Wait until you try to tell men that prostitutes have rthe highest rates of PTSD ( higher than war veterans) and look at them trying to deny it and even get mad at you and acusse you of lying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 05:38 PM
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Good to see her ditching the loser ( losers if she ditches the gaslighters as well). We need more of this energy. and we also need to make it an expectation to other women that tolerating this level of disrespect will NOT be enabled...just like men expect other men to take no shit from their significant others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 05:33 PM
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Of course they are. They need all the good publicity they can get in this moment ( sorry if I sound mean but the same Taliban are getting afgan feminists sacked from their house to KILL them so I'm not looking kindly to anyone falling fot this publicity stunt). This is not to be taking as a way to excuse western NVM tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 02:32 PM
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Just like they do with anything that is not libfem BS. Women need to learn to trust their own judgement over a bunch of random men on the internet tbh, there's no other way around this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 12:36 AM
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It's like foot binding. I consider modern chinesse culture where it has gone extinct less misogynistic than old chinesse culture where it was a desired thing (not that there's a culture in thisworld that I consider no misogynistic at all being honest). And the day FGM dies in those cultures I will consider them less misogynistic too. Ditto for other cultural practices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 03:19 PM
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Some women from my country have done so ( conversion included). Not a single story has ended up well and many have lost custody of their kids. Honestly a man from that background would have to be completely cut off from his family and a known ex muslim to be on the same ground that the average non muslim non desi man to me to start vetting him...so It's not worth it to me to even consider it. EDIT: and no one on this planet will convince me that they see non muslim women as any other thing that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 02:54 PM
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I'll never forgive my grandma for being so hard on her daugthers ( my mom included) while being a total enabler with her sons. Sorry not sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 11:26 PM
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Remember this the next time you see Indian men on here ( or twitter) complaining because they are "unfairly stereotyped" and most foreign women avoid them. EDIT: typos EDIT 2: Holy sh*t I'm watching This DW documentary about female infanticide on India (and a hero matron defying tradition). ZERO f*cks given about those scrotes ( they show a village where the men buy themselves wifes from other states because in their village there's has not been a single girl born in YEARS because they abort the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 02:46 PM
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Ohh are you talking about d*ck rocket guy? ( after I saw the d*ck shape of that thing I couldn't unsee it)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 05:24 AM
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Ugh I've seen the unraped candie memes floating on the net. Absolutely horrendous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 03:54 PM
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Honestly? I can't trust women that take back scrotes. Therwe I said it. I know it can be because of many things but the point is that they prioritize their relationship with their scrote over their best self interest and I can't trust them to have my best interest either after seeing them act like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 09:07 PM
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OMG!!! you really got Lundy over there. Woah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 01:29 PM
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Everything can be a good vetting oportunity if you are observant enough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 06:03 PM
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For me 3-ish years sounds like good timing (you can even make the engagement longish and try the live in situation on those months for further vetting. )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 08:09 PM
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I honestly feel that many women are ot aware of both the power and responsability that we have just because we've got the uteruses over here. Also even less are aware of how aware the scrotes are of it. (Hint: VERY AWARE. To the point they have denied women education and autonomy for milenia based on this fact). I've loved this sentence since the first time I read it on here (it was someone saying this is common knowledge for women in China/Asia or something of the sort) I was in awe because it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 07:47 PM
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I knew about the white sex pests that are more aptly named as "sexpats" because they also come here to get mail order brides...but the asian MRAs were a surprise (a disgusting one for sure).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 05:27 PM
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I once read abusers say they can keep it up for 18 months or even more just to hook their victims in...that's why the "we need to get married in a year" POV of some FDS users is insane to me. The hormone high of falling in love decreases more and less by the 2.5 year point mark...you shouldn't be signing any kind of legally binding agreement before that point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 05:22 PM
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This is me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 07:41 PM
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Still is not illegal in many places in the world EDIT: typos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 04:11 PM
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I honestly don't give a f*ck. I participate in mixed spaces online and that's ok but whenever I feel like discussing things only with women I do exactly that ( and not just on FDS). I'm not going to justify my need for that even if men didn't behave horrendously in women oriented subs all over reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 08:32 PM
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I made the switch to Asian dramas a couple years ago and it's the same: basically the ML is expectd to be handsome, capable, considerate and in many dramas even also rich. It was a very eyeopening experience tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 03:23 AM
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I feel this in my soul. There are no words that can express how much i DESPISE beards and even living in a place where they don't have cultural significance there are lots of men over here that love them and it has made my decision NOT to date much, much easier tbh. EDIT: Writting wans't clear enough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 09:35 PM
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I usually don't really enjoy Western dating show because it's mostly about who slept with whom rather than each person trying to seduce the other. In Single's Inferno, due to Korea's conservative values, they're not sleeping with each other or kissing or cuddling. So to seduce each other, they have to rely on words and non-sexual actions. It's very refreshing for me but also very interesting to watch the strategies that they use. This but applied more broadly to movies/series ( and other Asian c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 06:34 PM
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I had a pickme try to plan my r@pe just like you said (fortunately I discovered the plan on time). And I'd bet all my money that those "moral police" women that exist on some countries that target other women to send them to jail/get flogged are pick mes too. Moral of the story: pick mes ARE DANGEROUS, the bodily harm kind of dangerous. Be on your guard around them at all times and if you are in a position to do so NEVER let them get power positions ( specially over other women) because they wil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 05:36 PM
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I'm not european but I don't get it either tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 03:30 AM
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If sugaring was all it is portrayed to be you bet men would be pushing women out of it as hard as they can just like they did with coding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 01:04 AM
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This. Don't let them get away with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 06:54 PM
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Absolutely not. The more open they are about the scrotacy the better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 09:04 PM
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Thank you !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 04:29 PM
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Do you have the link? I really want to read it And for any other FDS ladies that can't read french like me: you can translate whole web pages using google translator. Just put the link here: https://translate.google.com/?hl=en and the link that pops out on the "translated" side will take you to the same web page but translated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 04:55 PM
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Iron clad boundaries are a MUST and excluding people from something ( like your dating prospects) is not the same as discriminating them on housing or employment. I need more women to understand this: inclusivity is not always good, exclusivity is not always bad and people trying to erode your boundaries in the name of progress are manipulating you. Don't let yourself be guilttripped. EDIT: typos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 03:28 PM
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Classical reddit hypocrisy ( otoh maybe it's not hypocritical of them. They are looking for their best interests after all)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 01:34 AM
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I'll never forget how sick I felt when I went to look what "dead eyes" was. Pornsick scrotes have killed all their empathy for women or they coulodn't stomach watching that horrendous sh*t
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 12:29 AM
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Tik Tok is BS. I've watched the chinesse version ( Doujin) because of my taste for C-dramas and over there all that degenerate BS is banned. But somehow they are just fine and dandy with it on their international version.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 04:37 PM
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Oh hell no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 05:16 AM
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LOL pickmes are dangerous and many other bad things...but pickes don't have the institucional power to strip me of my rights in several countries. That has been done by men for men more and less exclusively.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 11:02 PM
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It's not only patronizing but delusional all together. Some of the indigenous cultures that do the ayahuasca trip thing over here have other traditions like FGM and menstrual hubs. I'de even argue that deniying how evil some people around the world are is like denying how good some people around the world are: deshumanizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 01:40 PM
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And if he likes ANY kind of violent/degrading sh*t in bed ( towards you) he is a misogynist. Funny how those things are "banned" on conventional tv because they would count as hate speech ( there's "holocaust play " too btw) but we are EXPECTED to be fine and dandy with men yanking off to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 03:34 AM
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I've observed this too. The conditioning of american women to ignore every survival instinct is on another level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 04:16 PM
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A couple. One I know because of a medical procedure we both had to have and other because a girl friend introduced us ( a girl friend that is not a pick me off course). They are nice but I never got as close to them as I am to my woman friends (I've always been good at making woman friends since forever, so those cool girl in a group of men triangulation techniques never worked on me ) and I've had NO incidents of innuendo, or anything that gives me a whiff of second intentions...the moment that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 03:20 AM
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The school part happened to me (for God's sake I had to tutor a kid that tried to stab my eye with a pencil!) and it made se SO resentful that The conditioning never took place. Unexpected results I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 02:57 AM
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This is where cultural relativism obscures violence against women in other societies. she was thought that it was not “PC” or intellectual if she imposed her own values into the interaction with a male from a different culture Louder for the people in the back. Aa a latinamerican living in an INCREDIBLY diverse place I can only scoff everytime I read women ( some even here) that honestly believe that "racialized" scrotes are any better than white ones. Their level of delusion is off the f*cking …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 02:52 AM
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As someone that studied engineering...the men to women ratio is still unbalanced ( VERY) to this day. Now I'm wondering exactly how many men were there and just stood while their classmates were murdered by an inc3l scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 12:45 AM
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This is not a thing in my corner of the world and I find it unfathonable that women in more advanced countries do this. I don't share a surname with my mom and it has not affected our relationship AT ALL. And tbh...to me same last name= blood family. Me having the same name with my husband would make me feel like I'm marrying my sibling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 12:41 AM
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If you watch Asian drama you won't see nude scenes (this is what I did and I've spent years watching actrecess that have carreers without having to take their clothes off)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:25 PM
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I want more women not taking back the scrotes. And not only the cheating ones but the useless "weaponized incompetence" ones too. Also pairings when the actors are the same age. Absolutely tired of MEGA age gaps on screen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 03:01 PM
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It's like this latinamerican obsession with soccer. Men even get offended when I tell them that I understand the gam just fine (it's not nuclear science for God's sake) but that I find it BORING AF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 08:28 PM
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I think it's appealing to many new FDSrs because it's a pretty light book and talks about not being a doormat ( which is a novel POV for many women because they come from pickmeland) but I also don't like it because of what you said. I had already outgrown that book several years before FDS because I was recommended "why does he do that?" and after reading that book there's no coming back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 07:33 PM
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Good that you are here and you WILL level up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:47 PM
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You see how scrotes get so mad at women getting educated? That means we are doing something right [And their silence about onlyfans and BDSM means we are doing something wrong].
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 07:28 PM
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I think this sub has gained come 2-300 members since yesterday. Free advertising is a marvel of this modern world (?) EDIT: holy shit. I think yesterday we were in 206.1xx and now we are 206.548. Just wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 05:12 PM
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I've to read that one yet ( but I will as son as I can) and from what other ladies have said about that book here I think I'll agree with you on this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 05:11 PM
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Lundy Bancroft has been saying this for ages. "why does he do that?" is definitely a GREAT book. If I had to pick one book to be "FDS mandatory reading" it would be this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 02:54 PM
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This is a vetting tool for me (what isn't?) and it's one of the most depressing (beause basically all men fail it). But I just can't imagine building a life together with a man that activelly avoids emphatizing with women and tbh I resent it because reading books centered on men's POV has been good for me, broadened my mind.etc. because men are 50% of humanity too and I expect the same in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 01:33 AM
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Let's be clear on one point: men learn how to treat women from other men (their fahters, uncles, grandpas, friends, men in movies, men in music,etc...) so there's not much you can do. The only thing that you really can do is to make his bad choices have consequences: I've seen MANY women trying to save this falling men by helping them submit schoolwork, so their housework, lend them money etc..and that only reinforces this patters where they expect women to run their lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 06:31 PM
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THIS. Pick me awareness is a MUST. I've told here before that a pick me supreme was helping one of her fiends so he could r*pe me. It doesn't matter if this because of societal conditioning, because of low self esteem, because of whaterever...what matters is that pick mes ARE dangerous not only to themselves but to other women and If we can hold scrotes accountable the we can hold pick me groomers accountable to. To me THAT is the real women solidarity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 05:39 PM
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And they could talk about media as a whole ( series, movies, music, books,etc..). When I think about the sheer ammount of grooming content out there I feel FDS needs 200 million members and not just 200k so we can start tackling all this insanity. EDIT: typos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 04:05 PM
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I have to wonder what impact shes had on an entire generation of women who’ve grown up watching this mess and having it set the standard of what romance and relationships should be in their mind A lot of media is just another vehicle for grooming women. I know we have talked about this in FDS before but I'd like a post ( or podcast) specifically about this topic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 02:26 PM
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The only way to know if he treats his partners well is to see how he treats his partners...many men are angels in public wit animals, children , their moms, heir daughters...while shitting all over their girlfriends/wifes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 06:31 PM
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The self defense tactic for women I feel no one talks about: you need to be able to RUN and move freely. And that may imply changes on your clothing depending on the style.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 05:11 PM
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DD/LG is straight pe*do shit to my eyes. Horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:07 AM
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Try terabytes and I'm not being hyperbolic at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 12:07 AM
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I was listening to Adele the other day and wondering how many women with her talent live to this day in societies where they will never be allowed to delevelop it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 04:30 PM
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THIS. EDIT: and no matter your profession try to become as much of a "tech girl" as you can. Nowadays self defense is not only physical, you also need to be able to protect yourself online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 02:44 AM
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The first time I read the expression "womb discipline" was here. I think the woman that posted about it said it's pretty normalized in Chinesse culture (?) [ If anyone remmembers that post please give the link because I didn't save it] and I could not agree more with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 02:04 AM
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You need to start paying attention to these ones yesterday. Asian dramas don't really portray too much sexualization/nudity/ hook up culture but some ( many tbh) show very toxic relationships in a normalized way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 06:53 PM
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Over here catholic and christian churches behave the exact opossite way than they do in America (meaning: catholics are the lad back ones and christian the religiously strict ones). It's so jarring to watch how hardcore american catholics are compared with the average catholic over here that is mostly a secular person that goes to the church for baptisms and funerals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 04:40 AM
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Oh yeah Tom Hiddleston is another fantasy that sells quite well abroad ( over here he's got tons and tons and tons of fans). Then you read the Dailymail's comments and that fantasy is broken forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 04:36 AM
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I'll add a point: scrotes get ideas watching women be treated like dirt in their religious communities. Case on point: I could use my hands + feet and not be able to count the number of western men I've seen interested in Islam that have said they like it specifically for the way the women are treated by their families/comunities in places like Pakistan/ afganistan and Saudi Arabia and hoping some western countries become more islamic so "feminists can be stoned to death" (literal quote).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 04:22 AM
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Yea, I think there was an article posted here a couple of months back about pregnant women having their seats in buses vandalized with slurs (think something crueler than “cum dumpster” when translated) and men refusing to give up their seats for pregnant women. This is so disgusting. I'm surprised the birth rate over there is not lower than the current 0.98 kids per woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 10:19 PM
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This is it. If you do feminism for women (instead of men pandering libfem bs) you will face open hatred.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 09:06 PM
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I couldn't have said it better. Teenagers going over there trying to find an "oopa" are an alarming trend if you ask me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 08:52 PM
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There's more like you here ( I'm one of them).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 08:08 PM
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Also. A interesting article about antifeminism in Korea: https://www.scmp.com/week-asia/people/article/3155871/south-korean-women-fight-back-disillusioned-young-men-seek-cancel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 08:04 PM
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Korean scrotes are on another level. Much strenght to Korean women because with the absolute state of men over there they need it. EDIT: please, PLEASE if you live outside Korea and know women fans of kpop and kdrama try to make them understand that their idolized version of korean men is a curated product fabricated by an industry that caters to female fans and does NOT represent the reality of the average Korean man. I'm reading more and more abput super young women going to Korea to "find a m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 07:53 PM
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After you have as many kids as you want with him, persuade him to get a vasectomy (if possible an irreversible kind if there is such a thing). You don’t want him pulling an Alec Baldwin having 7 kids with the next woman and your kids getting screwed. WOW this is legendary level advice. I'll alsp add that if you can you should do a " hidden kid search" before marrying him so there's no surprises down the line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 08:52 PM
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. But at the end of the day I prefer countries where my rights are explicitly protected by law and where men have been brought up in a less misogynistic way so they don't even dream or think they could get away easily with extreme misogyny. You and me sis, you and me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 06:46 PM
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You didn't ask but I'll leave advise on skin/makeup here: I don't really wear much makeup but for the ocassions I've needed to Lisa Eldridge's channel has been the only one I've found where makeup makes sense ( no contouring techniques designed for pictures, no extrange looks with your brows,etc..) she gives pretty realistic and practical advice and after finding her videos I feel I wasted time watching other makeup gurus. For skin care I'd advise Dr. Dray. That woman is a mine of knowledge and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 04:37 PM
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tried all those techniques of contouring and carving out brows etc. but I didn’t like the way I looked afterwards and felt something was off. It's because many of those technques are made to look good on pictures/videos...not so much in real life. I've found the only makeup "guru" that gives tutorials on practical makeup for real life is Lisa Eldridge. You can just skip the rest of them and not lose on anything of interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 04:31 PM
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In cultures where men have use, yes there is still some hostility toward women, but it's not quite like the Western world. You are right, in many of those cultures the hostility towards women is so much worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 04:02 PM
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3 fucking days and he is already being a PoS about it all? she need to dump him!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 02:43 PM
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It's about cultures. I've reflected and now I think I know more and less which cultures are compatible with my own and whicj ones are definitely not so for the men that belong to the former I'll vet, vet, vet and for the ones that belong to the later I don't even bother (He would have to be someone that doesn't live according to his culture AND HIS FAMILY WOULD HAVE TO FULFILL THIS CRITERIA TOO).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 04:00 PM
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Good you left but please, PLEASE don't tell men they are misogynist pornsick pricks and don't EVER try to "negotiate" with them to meke them change this kind of thing. It doesn't work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 02:53 PM
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I mostly watch historical C-dramas...and over there everyone is too busy plotting for the throne (and trying not to get poisoned) to do any kind of scrote worship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 02:00 PM
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I went the asian drama route and won't come back because of this. So relieved that I can skip all that BS at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 05:38 AM
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I guess it's part of the process. Glad you are over that phase tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 05:15 PM
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I had my metal head phase as a teenager and I remember being SO disgusted at this song: Yeah, it really is called "addicted to vaginal skin" ( and the title is the less bad part of it, the lyrics are disgusting af and I would never get the guys that wrote/sing this be near me ). Music is so misogynistic in general and once you notice you can't really "unsee" it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 04:41 PM
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THIS. Motley crue is a great example of this to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 03:53 PM
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You really are what you consume ( food, music, series, books,etc..) but people will fight you so hard on this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 03:51 PM
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I don't know if latin america counts as "the west" but ditto. Also even when they have plenty of shitty MLs in asian dramaland ...there's a lot of HV-ish looking ones too. None of this "mediocre guy with amazing wife wayyyy over his league that he resents and calls a nag" nonsense. TL;DR: an Adam Sandler's type of ML would NOT be accepted on Asian dramaland.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 03:44 PM
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This but with series and movies (I already hated misogynistic music since I had to grow up in this reggaeton era for latinamerica). Now I look quasi conservative Asian dramas and I'm relieved I don't have to watch softcore p*rn nor r*pe as a plot point everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 02:07 PM
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Good. Now let's go for 250K subscribers ( + the lurkers). It warms my heart every time another woman says she's out of her abusive relationship thanks to this sub. EDIT: typos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 05:41 PM
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I'm surprised this has this many downvotes when It's handbook worthy post. Being confident doesn't mean you stop being atractive or dressing atractive...but that your every action isn't oriented to being seen as atractive/sexy by others. I've seen women from both categories with similar levels of physicial atractiveness/style and even then the difference between them is very obvious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 03:05 PM
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Wait a minute...I literally come from a post about LV pornsick losers where a comment says they can't keep normal eye contact during conversations ( along with "one thousand fap" dead eyes off course).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 02:54 AM
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Add the latinamerican left to that list (as depressing as it is). Even tho there's more pushback against ignoring the elephant in the room over here than in Europe it's not nearly enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 10:51 PM
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I will never understand how things that everybody would consider abuse outside the bedroom are magicaly not abusive when they happen inside of it. It's a whole other level of cognitive dissonance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 04:25 PM
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This is all so horrible. I guess the only hope is that women wake up and start leaving quietly ( as you did). Maybe the help should be to help them in getting the h*ll out of there?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 03:58 PM
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Thankfully you got out of there. But I think we [as we women of the world] will have to reach an agreement to do something about it sooner or later (as soon as enough of us get the power positions/resources to do so). If there's even one country where is legal/normalized to treat women like this ALL os us (even those in western countries) are in danger because scrotes over here will see their dream distopy being carried out and will want to bring it here [they already do tbh, but many women (som…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 02:54 PM
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LOL but most men are bad! Let's get some random starting point: how many pornsick scrotes are out there? I'd wager they are like 60-70% of men at this point, and then start adding some other pretty bad qualities (weaponized incompetence, emotional manipulation, financial abuse,etc..) How many men are left after you filter for those? and at this point I haven't even touched the qualities that would make a man comtatible with a particular woman...I'm just discarding abusers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 03:33 PM
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This is what some feminists I follow have been saying about men that use sex dolls for years. What the mainteance guys report finding on the dolls ( like cigarette burns and destroyed parts) is not enough for them. They want the real deal (the real pain and humilliation) and end up scalating to real women. This gets even more disturbing when you remember there's child dolls too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 08:34 PM
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ame here to say this but concubine drama version.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 08:31 PM
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I'm a lot taller than the average woman over here. In fact I'm the height of an average men and many women have told me ther SOs say they can't walk with them because "short legs" so how come I can do it If I'm as tall as those men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 01:43 AM
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I'm on my homeland so I'm the default and have not had to deal with the fetish side of dating. I'm also weary of foreigners that come here looking for a girlfriend (Some have entire blogs talking about coming to latin america to fuck around as much as they can. In the best cases that means them getting poor women as mail order brides, in the worst means pedos coming here to r*pe little girls).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 10:23 PM
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Indian men have been the only ones that have harrassed me online even in accounts without pictures just because they believed I was an easy western f*ck (In a group for english learning). I have got a lot of respect for south Asian ladies because the misogyny they have to live with is on another level. EDIT: typo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 05:51 PM
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Men are literal monsters on the internet They just say what they also think when they are offline but can't say in face to face conversations. I mention this because many women here on FDS are in denial "oh those reddit scrotes are just some rejected minority, let's ignore them". No madam they are the majority and if you are in denial about that fact you won't be nearly as efective to vet them as you cross paths in real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 06:46 PM
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Same tbh. And I HATE it because I despise cheaters so much...but I coud never live with myself if she ended up dead ( or a victim of an acid attack) because of me telling on her. So I just shut up about it and cut them off because cheating is LV behavior even if they are women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 06:30 PM
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Because we see men as humans and feel bad when they are being cheated on and the like...just the opossite of what scrotes see women like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 05:44 PM
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Scrotes ALWAYS cover up for each other, that's for sure. Look at them excusing literal murderers ( and r*pists, and theocracies that treat women like sh*t, etc...) just because those are fellow scrotes. Reading scrotes on the internet has made inmune to guilt tripping about putting women's well being ( individually and as a class) before their feelings tbh. It amazes me how they have dupped us collectively to support things that go against our best interest when they would NEVER to it for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 04:31 PM
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Imagine men as a class announcing to the world that they want their partners/the mothers of their children to be as vulnerable and dependant on them as possible or they are not interested and thinking it is a flex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 09:56 PM
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Sometimes I think porn has gotten this widespread on the western side of the world as a warfare tactic tbh. Just yesterday I read a man saying that the difficult thing was not finding a woman to form a family with but not becoming a violent misogynist...I don't think years and years of watching woman be degraded onscreen have nothing to do with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 04:50 PM
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Ditto. Sorry but I'm avoiding both of them like the plague.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 04:46 PM
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Oh God I still remember when they found a dead rat nailed to the door. And when someone tried to put another dead animal into their mail slot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:33 AM
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I'm a wary MF in general so for privacy reasons I share NO pictures of me on social media ...and I'm one of the few women I know in real life that really likes her body. So I find no correlation between feeling well with myself in general and making pictures of my public for other people to judge tbh. Curiously enough I've been told I'm insecure for not "showing off the goods" online so to speak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 02:58 PM
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I naturally cry when I feel anger and I've been acussed of being "MaNiPuLaTiVe" and kooked down for it. And men talk about women crying being a manipulation technique all the time. In what world are women allowed to be emotional without consequences? I wana live there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 02:27 PM
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As a non south Asian woman I'd say: it's a combination of INTENSE social/ family pressure to get married and slim pickings out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 10:20 PM
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arents who believe they "should" love their children unconditionally are a menace to everyone around them : How many times have I read over the last few decades about parents who felt obligated to help their Li'l Raping and Murdering Sociopath evade the police or even help them flee the country-? Thank you for putting this out there. Enabler parents/ relatives are a menace to society and I will die on this hill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 05:53 PM
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It's tricky because religion is very important to many women. Personally I' m not atheist but I'm very, VERY wary about religions because they all have shown that they can ( and DO) advocate for absolutely atrocious treatment of women. So I just pray when I need it and the like but the "social" aspect of religion is something I avoid like the plague. I even dress conservatively coz' I love the style but I HATE religious pickmes pretending that they are more worthy or that men respect them more b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 05:42 PM
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Elementary school. Of course I was assigned to him because I was doing GOOD on a subject and my Prize for it was to get partnered with the worst student out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 03:02 PM
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I wonder how would things like metaverse and the like influence the evolution of p*rn, s*x and relationships in general? . If just plain old internet can do this much damage...how bad will it get with virtual reality and metaverse? EDIT: typos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 06:00 PM
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But if he does it in bed you are supossed to believe it's harmless. Pickmes really need to get through their heads that anything that is considered abusive outside the bedroom is most definitely abusive inside of it. This ridiculous idea that a man a good partner while being a woman hating mysoginist that mistreats you in bed so badly that you need "afercare" because you are traumatized is some of the most ridiculous nonsense I've seen in years. EDIT: typos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 03:21 PM
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I've already spend years at this point in my own paralel universe of C-dramas so I'll give you two examples from dramaland: Shen Minglan fron "story of Minglan" ( period drama). She is, like someone else said "like a deadly breeze" smart, cunning, compassionate, and has not a single pickme bone on her. Also her grandma is goals. Gu Jia from "nothing but thirty" (modern drama). Absolute queen, mom, bussiness woman, friend, daughter, wife,etc.. Also, not a pick me bone in sight. They are the kind …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 03:10 PM
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Tbh I have the exact opossite opinion, but maybe that's because the experiences I know of latin women with muslim men have all been atrocious without exeption ( Over here we definitely don't know how to vet them, that's for sure).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 03:52 PM
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I used to enjoy them until I started to see how men see them (the "memes" where they put the pornstar's faces while they are giving one, using "suck my d*ck" as an insult",the joking about ejaculating on women's faces, etc...) that has made me think they see it as humilliating for the woman ann now I'm very weary about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 01:19 PM
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As a latina I feel this post screams "latino men" to me. TBH being born, raised and living in latinamerica I feel I have a decent chance at identifying machismo from local men...but I don't feel so sure about foreigner men tbh. Does it happen to women from other cultures too? that you can smell BS from men of your culture kilometers away but don't know where to look if his culture is different.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 07:12 PM
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Don't mind them. Like a post today says "you can have an opinion without it having to be validated by everyone" and I had that lesson internalized before FDS. I'll survive just fine. Edut: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:02 AM
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Are you ACTUALLY gonna turn your back on the ENTIRE FDS community and podcast because of ONE episode you didnt like? YES they are. I don't know if it is because FDS is majorly compossed of american women that lean left but I see the american polarization of politics playing here quite a lot. That kind of sanctimonious "Don't read them. Block and stay safe" BS that I've also seen on other left leaning american spaces. It's like they literally can't just listen to the interview, disagree and go on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 12:05 AM
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I read an article that said that one of the selling points of the talliban in Afghanistan is that many men were mad about the women having rights...so when you think about incels and the like never understimate them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 10:23 PM
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Thank God. We need more of this energy around reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 11:12 PM
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That's gotta be one of the perks of being a latina in latinamerica. You are the default and therefore all those gross cliches don't apply to you here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 02:41 PM
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Cops and military men. They are dangerous and good luck trying to denounce a cop with his buddies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 03:16 PM
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She should feel THE ICK at seeing him with such a young woman ( and if her social circle has any hint of HV-ness on it they should feel it too).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 06:41 PM
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This is how you know you are doing some real "EmPoWeRiNg" sh*t. Because scr0tes mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:50 PM
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The average gamer redditor wishes he was like Hirotaka EDIT: every otaku in that anime is a responsible adult, gainfuly employed, well dressed with tidy homes and able to socialize like a normal person but with some otaku hobbies ( cosplay, gaming, manga reading,etc...). Not p0rnsick couch creatures peeing in bottles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:12 PM
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It makes me SO ANGRY when people tell me "Oh you don't watch porn? what about amateur?" when "amateur" most surely means "women recorded and posted by scr0tes without consent"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 09:57 PM
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It's basically mass indoctrination at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 08:18 PM
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I feel calling them up doesn't do sh*t...what really works is making other women aware of the depravity ( just like FDS does).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 06:36 PM
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MY thirld worlder ass just looks at first world goverments (and the pick mes) in speechless silence over this. The naivety is off the charts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 05:34 PM
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Lundy Bancroft says it best when he says "men learn their treatment of women FROM OTHER MEN" he himself mentions that growing up he encountered himself in masculine circles where there was a disrespect of women that bordered on hatred.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 05:29 PM
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I have it but have not started reading it because the afghanistan situation made lose it and I don't think I can stomach reading it...yet. But I must sooner or later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 05:21 PM
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The comments saying being a house husband would be awesome and fun. You just know they would neglect the children to play video games all day and if you are an specially unlucky woman they would also pee in bottles and spend hours on p*rn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 02:54 PM
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I'm watching the rational life right now and enjoying it, also loved nothing but thirty (Gu Jia is an absolute queen, all fds should watch her and take notes). And I absolutely agree that c dramas (I've only watched C dramas until now) version of a strong woman tends to be better than western version (where they show us a pick me that can punch men twice her size and weight instead ). Characters like Shen Minglan and Ruyi blew my mind when I watched them. Also curious that real life men seem to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 02:45 PM
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Not only pot. For what I study I've had to read some about fentanyl addictions in America (among other synthetic drugs) and it's bad over there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 02:39 PM
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Curious how I live in the other side of the world from India but the same BS excuses are used there too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 12:42 AM
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I'm in latinamerica.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 12:39 AM
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Freaking scary and disgusting. I guess those are north Korean women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 11:59 PM
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I need this kind of energy in my country. I live in pick me hell where women justify men's cheating because "he was a victim of witchcraft" (I'm being serious about this one).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 11:56 PM
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Please add India to your list. Over there it seems that the women left are dealing with an even more hostile enviroment. EDIT: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 11:40 PM
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But nah. Tons of single-by-choice women. This is so interesting putting it in contrast with the C-dramas I watch ( where off course there is always a love interest in the horizon) reality vs fiction. EDIT: my comment was incomplete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 11:39 PM
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Oh you reminded me of an Indian scr0.te that was pissing all over my dms last year because I commited the horrible crime of comenting in one of the (multiple) reddit threads about gang r.ap3 in that country (there's another one every couple of months at this point, absolutelly appaling) and he was super pissed because I was generalizing Indian men. Well yes I am, If you want to stop being generalized change the treatment of women from your countrymen or die mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 03:17 PM
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. Oh, and please consider learning some self defense real quick because these losers will make an uproar for it and we won't be protected by the police. SO MUCH THIS. We should meke a physical conditioning sharing thread once a month or something here. We will need it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 02:40 PM
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So much this. We need to get ready to fight. FDS came just in time but still this is gonna be SO hard just to try and retain what other women gained us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 02:54 AM
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I'll cite this comment I read outside reddit because I have mothing else to say that the commenter has not said. TL:DR: don't be gullible. ​ They leave out details that paint the opposite picture. Women are taking on the lion’s share of student loan debt, men are opting out. As the economy becomes unstable, demand for “men’s work” increases or stays the same, and the jobs women are college educated for decrease. Women having enough paid employment to live independently from male owners is consid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:42 AM
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I don't understand that "love languages" BS tbh. I give all (the touch, the words, the quality time,etc..) and I also expect all in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 03:59 PM
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Talulah Riley dodged a bullet by not having kids with this man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 04:46 AM
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It's from the book "why does he do that?" by Lundy Bancroft. That book it's THE BIBLE for any woman in this life and should be mandatory reading for all of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 07:59 PM
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autogynephilia (I won't include links to search results because as far as paraphilias go this is a VERY polemic one in recent times and I don't want to get this sub in trouble. )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 02:00 AM
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I'd bet anything he is watching sissy hypno p*rn and that s*it is even more dangerous that "mainstream" p*rn ( and also not very discussed. If any of you find the slightest hint of sissy hypno in a man's devices you gotta RUN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 01:54 AM
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This just seems so...wrong. I don't even know how to put it into words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 08:17 PM
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I don't have many exes ( basically two) and same. I'm even glad it didn't last too long with any of them, I could feel in my gut they were not the one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 04:25 PM
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And cheaper and better made in general (also they have REAL POCKETS!!! ). I'm as tall as the average man of my country and I've used it to my advantage by buying men's clothing that fits me just as well or better than women's clothing (specially hoodies but some shorts and pants fit me too) many times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:48 PM
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I had a very FDS mindset before I discovered FDS ( thank you Mom) but the lessons about the importance of finding a man atractive and how he also shows effort by dressing himself up and the like...I really needed to read those.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:00 AM
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Korean scrotes seem to be something else (I'll NEVER get over them wanting a double gold olympic winner to have her medals stripped away because she was "suspicious of feminism" for having short hair). Otoh Korean feminists are quite something too. Those are some hardcore feminists that really don't pander to libfem BS. Lately I've been thinking if Korean goverment ( among many others) will try to force them to have kids as their birth rates are at something like 0.85 kids per woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 02:00 PM
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The jealousy is off the charts when teenage girls set their sighs on atractive men in their age range instead of finding super old/ ugly scrotes atractive "as they should". EDIT: I hope the younger generations of women can admit to themselves they want to find their partners attractive too as soon as possible. It took my until my early 20's to admit it to myself and my life has been better for it tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 06:12 PM
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And the tantrums when other men put effort into their looks. I've never listened to k pop but I support k pop fans out of spite after seeing SO MANY men complaining because those guys dress well, are on top their skin care game and grrom themselves and obviously that's atractive to women. EDIT: and have good posture. Have you seen the "gamer's hunched back"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 04:03 PM
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But according to some "They are not dangerous" not dangerous my behind. They would help him bury you it it came to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 01:36 PM
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It's always been very clear to me: be a woman with mental health issues in your medical history and you are f*cked. Which is SO unfair because many women need mental health counseling ( In fact I think most people do) but men and intitutions weaponize it like noboby's bussiness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 01:48 AM
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Ugh It's so difficult to find good fiction. When I was a teenager I decided to improve my english reading fiction books and the female leads were atrocius 90% of the time (and the relationships were toxic af) while our dreamy male lead was almost always a scrote but with more morey and good looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 04:18 PM
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Can you imagine the derrailing if scrotes and pick mes were not blocked? mods are doing the goddess work on this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 08:04 PM
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Oh but they can call us b*tches, wh*res, h*gs, k*rens, c*m dumpters, and all sorts of things? Until all those women specific slurs are no longer used society wise without it being frowned upon scrotes it is and you can die mad about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 07:47 PM
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Good to see the biggest age range be sub 25. We are the ones that are more "lost" and need the guidance the most too. Older women tend to be wiser because they have gotten smarter or because the learned their lessons the hard way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:23 PM
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I quite literally NEVER talk about feminism with men. I can discuss feminist topics like abortion to gauge their reaction but that's it. Don't disclose and don't discuss feminism or fds with men, that's my code and I'm sticking to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 11:54 PM
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I just let it be a reminder that men's movements (religions, political movements, nofap,etc..) are by men for men and whaterever benefit women are getting is incidental and not by design.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 05:36 PM
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This. I think we need to remember this because many of us want to believe the progresive ones will be on our side but that's not true at all. Just like religions are almost entirely made by men for men and women are allowed to participate as subordinates politics are too. Stop thinking women right's are something else than a marketing strategy for politicians until after you see solid proof of it. If there's not proof no matter what they say or how right/ center/ left they are: they are not for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 07:43 PM
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I've been thinking the mothers ( and other women that are surrounded by children) of FDS would do well with a safeguarding guide for children but I have no idea of how to write one coz I see children once in a blue moon and I also don't know if the post goes here. But I think It's OF SUPREME IMPORTANCE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 02:51 PM
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Yes. We have A LOT of pageants (even for things like coffee or fruits). There was a big uproar some years ago about a child pageant called "miss little thong"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 03:44 PM
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And if yu change it anyway to a last name of your choice intead of your husband's last name? I just can't imagine myself sharing last names with my husband. From my point of view shared last name= blood relation ( say siblings/cousins).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:30 AM
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No one does that in latinamerican countries, so no. Also it's pretty disturbing to me how so many american women have been conditioned to believe they have to change their names (!) to be a united family tbh. Men are never socially expected to change their f*cking identities to prove they love us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 12:48 AM
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Most likely. Also a road to abusive plastic surgeons doing things to you when you are unconscious ( like boob jobs when you were supossed to get a nose for for the contest ) But some contestants ( not all are/were drug lord endorsed some come from RICH families) get a ticket to work in entertaiment being the fresh meat we are all pitted against by men and pick mes so everything is fine!!!/sarcasm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 08:19 PM
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And they feel that's unfair because men don't have to think about it...but men are literally guaranteed their basic rights in every corner of the planet while we...are not. And as long as there exist countries where women have less rights than men scrotes will get the idea that's the natural order. We are not really free until all women are free and the lots and lots of men excited and interested about implementing taliban rules for women over here if they had the chance (as they expressed very …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 06:12 PM
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Pick me convention and in my country the contestants were endorsed by ( and indebted to) drug lords quite literally. This is the problem with choice libfeminism. Just because a woman does something it doesn't make it empowering, feminist and much less good for women a a group. You have to make the right choices like men do (How many men are there talking about men pageants being empowering and signing up fo those in droves?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 03:36 PM
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You can't be a pick me and a HVW at the same time. You just can not. FDS not only looks for the best interest of each individual woman, but of women as a group and that means each one of us has to go through this process of : "Is this choice of mine that makes me feel "EmPoWeReD" hurting women as a whole (me included)?" and that obviously makes pick mes defensive but it is what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 03:19 PM
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8 million views and almos a million likes. Scrotes really tell us who they are if we pay close attention to the signs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 03:03 PM
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Pick me af. And I also get the impression they would be horrible mothers in law and their sons complete mooma's boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 02:56 PM
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My country's situation is in this super tense calm right now and money would give me the peace of mind that I could migrate elsewhere legally if I wanted to. I'd bet my degree that money would have gotten many women out of afghanistan safely too. Money gives you security and freedom and that's pretty f*cking close to happiness if you ask me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 11:49 PM
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This. Lack of standars is a turn off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 08:46 PM
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A wise woman once said on the ( defunct) GC that "Most men are atracted to feminity, not to women" and as time passes I'm getting more and more convinced of it. I mean I'm atracted to men and men don't need to prance "sexily" , acrylic nails, makeup, "sexy" super short and flimpsy and uncomfortable clothes, butt implants, an*l bleaching or to shave 100% or their body hair for it to happen. And basically all hetero women I know would agree with me on that. That what seems to be most hetero men ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 06:32 PM
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They hate teen girls for liking k-pop ( groomed, handsome men that are or look around their age) but god help you if you don't like old scrotes lusting after teenagers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 01:31 PM
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LV trash. I have nothing else to say about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 03:38 PM
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I have some gamer guy friends and from what I've seen even the more HV-ish among them still are in horrible physical shape and have social interaction problems. So anything beyond "casually games a couple hour per week (and not every week) on the weekend" is a no from me. Edit: I know other gamer guys ( not my friends ) that got introduced to the manosphere by their online gaming buddies and my firneds have told me more than a history about the combination of gamer/pornsick in some of their ex b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:11 PM
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lol they don't care. I read a twitter thread with reviews of punters and many said that the girls even asked them for help because they were traficked and they still r*ped and then left without an ounce of guilt. Now why would they feel ashamed about it when the woman is on the other side of the screen?.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:08 PM
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They are betting their ( and ther childrens) futures on a man...and like another FDSr commented "hoping a man will feed you is a sure way to starve". Even if they find a HVM that man could die young and they will still be f*cked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 09:14 PM
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And they also have a height preference for women shorter than them in general and many for short ( as in shorter than the average) women in particular. So women are not doing anything different than what they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 11:00 PM
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Harder for the women in the back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 09:18 PM
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All the comments were like “find another girl,” “you’ll meet the right girl” Disgusting. As much as reading scrotes on reddit is very eye opening I really HATE to be made aware of how replaceable we are to their eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 05:02 AM
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He can't get over his HS classmate after 10 years?!!! A girl that never dated him, never slept with him, never kissed him and he is still obsessed a whole decade after they stopped sharing a space. This man needs therapy and to be dumped asap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 04:24 AM
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https://joycearthur.com/abortion/the-only-moral-abortion-is-my-abortion/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 04:20 AM
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And it's potentially going to become worse ( not to scare you but I feel it's a safe assumption seeing the geopolitical climate in many countries). I was always so depressed...until I realized that we had it much worse before there were couragous women who fought so we could have what we have today. So my advice for any reader: buckle up because this is going to be a long and bumpy ride. And don't let they take what cost generations to gain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:22 AM
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It doesn't really matter. Some can care but they don't want you to know because they think that makes them wipped...and that's very telling of what they think of us saying what we feel for them tbh. You just need to make it a part of vetting and spare yourself the pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 09:37 PM
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the laws have been weilded against women for using self defense in dv situations When I learned this about Canada I was so surprised..and dissapointed. Live and learn I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 07:02 PM
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A southamerican country here. 1.Your overall assessment of how women are treated in your country compared to men. As less than. Not as bad as africa/ middle east ( MUCH better than in India/Pakistan and better than Korea/japan but worse than most of western europe/canada/usa) 2. What is the situation for women regarding equal treatment in the workplace? There's a short (3 months) paid maternity leave ( and and ridiculously short paternity leave) but it's enough for employers to want to never hir…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 06:48 PM
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At this point they are willing traitors aiding men to oppress us and should be viewed with extreme suspicion. TBH I've already arrived to this point in life. My college has a lot of lib fem pick mes and I don't trust them at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 05:57 PM
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They don’t understand why women are ganging up on them or getting angry because they have no idea the Pandora’s box they have opened up to women and the damage they’ve caused already THIS. Sex positive libfems will never understand my ire because "their" men don't behave with them the way they behave with the little poor girls of my country they come to r*pe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 04:51 PM
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Texan republicans have been doing a lot of gerrymandering over there. Not sure how much staying and voting can help with that tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 04:45 PM
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Parenting only does so much And society is super hypocritical about this, they want children because "muh pensions" and "muh replacement rate" but when parents say they need society on board to raise healthy children (i.e: things like requesting proof of majority of age to access porn like it already happens with gambling, maternity leave, affordable childcare,etc...). the all are like "you spread your legs and now you are on your own".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 04:10 PM
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I HATE that "You're responsible for your own orgasm" BS. If I'm to be 100% responsable for it then what is the point of having sex with you? I know how to do it by myself without risking pregnacy, STDs or being beaten coz "MuH KiNkS". Having sex with someone else makes finishing a team effort so get cooperative or get lost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 03:23 PM
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Also constantly shaving there can make you more prone to infections (but oh how women have been dupped that not doing it is unhigyenic)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 03:19 PM
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My thoughts exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 03:17 PM
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That's also my fear. Some women don't want to believe how f*cking much scrotes plot with our uteruses ( hint: A LOT). I've read incels saying that "the great replacement" is women's fault for years at this point. And saying they need to push us out of the labor market so we stop "riding the c*ck carroussel" and start having the 3 children we should have had before 25. And like some other women have already pointed out in here, so much more men than you would think operate under the assumption th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 02:56 PM
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Too many to count. I think a part of me enjoys c-dramas because of this. In those the ML is supossed to be handsome+ smart+ capable+ good at fighting+ whaterever else they can make him good at ( and half the time they make him rich too). Nothing of that "unacomplished and badly dressed slob gets super hot and capable wife (and then complains because she is "a nag" ) " nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 02:49 AM
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That sounds like the tenets of the 4b movement of Korea,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 12:31 AM
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Ditto.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 12:21 AM
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These anti self-defense laws (Canada) seem to be disproportionate weilded against women. Not cannadian and not living there either but I've gotten the same impression from some cases I've read about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 12:12 AM
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I'm not even in America but my country tends to follow whaterever socoal/political thing is trending over there. Sometimes I think Americans understimate how much anything happening over there will affect other countries by mere influence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 10:53 PM
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Pick mes are dangerous to themselves, to their children and to all women around them. I know some women here say we have to be compassionate, and that's fine...but it doesn't imply that you can let your guard down around pick mes. Try to help them if you can but keep your distance ( and your secrets).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 10:34 PM
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The days the sub was off I invested some time reading the FDS twitter account and there was some random scrote saying FDS was horrible dating advice and the proff was that men hate it. .And FDS's answer was "you are supossed to" which he interpreted like "fds hates ALL men" instead of "I'm a scrote and fds is designed to filter out men like me" and I couldn't stop laughing. I think many scrotes don't even understand that they can be filtered out in the dating process because they think all men a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 10:28 PM
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WTF?!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 09:45 PM
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This is horrifying. Cementing my decision to never tell a man I'm pregnant until I've decided to keep it ( and cementing my decision of not having pick me friends who would rat me out either).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 05:34 PM
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I think the most sensible plan would be to make contraceptive plans that are long term ( like a subdermal implant or a IUD) so you can lower your risk until after you have got your degree...but I don't know if your body will agree with those methods. Still, I'd give it a try.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 05:00 PM
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A mod here linked an article in a comment about how women are carrying at record numbers ( some even have their own business offering other women gun friendly purses and the like). So you are on to something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 04:58 PM
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Do you have a link to that IG post? I'm interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 04:45 PM
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And then some still say pick mes are not dangerous. Pick mes WILL throw away your rights and have a party about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 04:19 PM
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Good point. But I think we all agree that there's leagues of BS. Cases like the Tik Tok woman in Pakistan that was grupally r*ped by 400 men on the street because she was walking outside is a very distinct league of horror. And there are several other countries with THAT level of shitty treatment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 03:06 AM
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Oh hell no. I would never x2
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 03:03 AM
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It makes me angry tbh. In many countries the prison that keeps women hostage is not a physical one a la afghanistan, but a mental one and I don't know how to help other women to get out of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 07:13 PM
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And remember thet women do not own half of the world's wealth before investing on things that will benefit industries controled by woman-hating men. Thank you for coming to my mini ted talk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 07:01 PM
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I'll add: please, PLEASE don't give tourism money to countries that treat their women like sh*t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 02:46 PM
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If he obviously doesn't like going to the strip club and is only doing it because his friends think it's funny ...then he is spinless. Is HIS night, he should be calling the shots on what they are doing. In fact this is a great vetting tool, a real HV person will have boundaries with their friennds and enforce them too. If my friends got the idea a strip club is fun and tried to drag me there I would absolutely refuse because I don't like the idea tbh. And I'd expect the man I would potentially …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 11:43 PM
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Oh oh someone is mentioning the elephant in the room.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 06:34 PM
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Go to any Twitter or Reddit thread getting opinions from married men and you will see how much the common man hates his wife This is a truth that many women don't want to accept and many other ( like me) will never get over after we have uncovered it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:22 AM
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“Like a compass needle that points north, a man's accusing finger always finds a woman. Always.” ---Khaled Hosseini
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 11:55 PM
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This. You are what you consume and as much as scrotes are the sick porn they consume you are the tv shows you watch/ books you read/ music you listen to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:15 PM
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I'll add to this asking about his vaccination status regarding de HPV vaccine. The vaccine helps men prevent penile, throat and anal cancers too ( yes, they can get cancer too) but it also reduces the spread of hpv to possible partners...so if he's a HVM who cares about his health and yours he should be getting it imo. Even better vetting strategy if you don't mention the benefits he gets out of the vaccine and just mention the "helps curb the spreading" part and then gauge his reaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 04:21 PM
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I remember when I was a teenager and it weirded me out so much watching other girls my age OBSESS over complete strangers (liking someone's work or even looks it's normal, obsessing is not)...now I'm a grown woman and the women that STILL are on that pick me mindset regarding celebrities are women I avoid as much as I can. Anyone over 19 is too old for this kind of BS and anyone under 19 needs to be highly supervised so famous scrotes don't groom them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 03:52 PM
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Honestly, after hearing about Afghanistan, I am worried that scrotes will reach a boiling point and take women's freedom by force as an ultimate act of entitlement. I do not feel secure in our future. My thoughts exactly tbh. I'm scared of the sheer number of men on internet spaces I've seen saying the labiban way is the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 10:23 PM
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THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 12:39 AM
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THEY ARE and our incels wiould gladly become taliban if they were guaranteed child brides.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 05:25 PM
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I'd never go on a kayaking date with an unknown man...sounds potentially dangerous tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:18 AM
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If anything I thank the internet for taking my blinkers off - much better than sleeping next to a potential terrorist, abuser or murderer unknowingly. Men have made their thoughts on us very clear and widely known. It’s no secret anymore- it will help pick mes wake up instead of sleepwalking into abuse. Things they’ve always been saying in private have been exposed online. Our suspicions have become crystal clear common sense. And all our experiences have something in common. My exact experience…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 04:05 PM
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No. In fact they hate prostitutes and I'm inclined to think they would be (already are?) extremely resentful and dangerous johns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 05:12 PM
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See how one of the articles she links is literally titled "the redistribution of sex"? Just a few days back I wrote a comment here on FDS saying that goverments will first try to assign us to incels than to admit the problem...and It seems I'm not the only one that thinks it is a potential future for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 05:09 PM
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FDS made me realize my mom followed FDS norms by instinc ("I ended it up at THE FIRST bad sign" "I dated many men but never went beyond second/ third date because they showed their true colors",etc...). I also always knew my dad was a pretty HV person and that most men in my family or that I know suck as partners tbh. I have like 2 decent cousins and that's it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:26 PM
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The more I hear abput Canada in what concerns certain women's rights...the less appealing the country sounds a a whole tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 09:28 PM
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I don't think so...women are condemned very harsh ly for killing men ( a case in my region was like that, she killed him and was sentenced to 47 years and her face was shown everywhere while feminicides happen here almost everyday and those men are free or receive a wrist slap and their faces are NEVER showed).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 09:26 PM
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Ditto. Take note ladies, this is not as far away as many of you wish it were.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 07:33 PM
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In south Korea you can get in serious trouble if you are "suspicious of feminism" (I.e. things like having short hair ) I remember an idol girl was pictured reading a book that tells the story of another woman in Korea some years before ( a domestic slave) and the incels made her apologize for that after SEVERE boycott...therefore Korean feminists are HARDCORE. I've never seen something quite like them on the west.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:04 PM
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Well I was a member of the GC for almost 3 years and they also had a very strong moderation team ...and they were banned anyways. I think the safest bet it's just not to touch some polemic topics at all and even then I think it's a matter of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:01 PM
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Preach it. Now I need to know how to make more women understand this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 02:10 AM
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Semen changes vaginal pH and just because of that I'll require condoms for life tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 11:33 PM
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I really think we all should learn self defence as much as we can in our personal circumpstances and the whole incel thing ( plus the horrific ammount of men I've seen in glee about the afghanistan thing) has made me reconsider my position on firearms...thos f*ckers are getting them, if women in America that can carry legally choose to do so I'm never jugging them again tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 11:23 PM
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Thay saying about how women don't know how much men hate us? each day i confirm it more and more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 05:56 PM
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Also: NEVER talk about fds ( or if you support any feminist cause of any kind) with men. IT IS DANGEROUS. You never know if you are talking with a manosphere follower. Not your male friends, not your male relatives...some women here talk abput fds with their SOs but I would avoit that too tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 03:41 PM
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It's like when they say women hit men at the same rate men hit women, they just want to make their BS seem equally distributed among us all but when talking about intelligence, bravery or anything good they vehemently deny women can also be those things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 03:38 PM
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I'm seeing a grim future for us about it...goverments will try to asign each incel a woman so that she can be his violence sponge before naming the problem, i'm like 80% sure at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 03:15 PM
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Terrorism against women, that's what those motherf**kers are, terrorists, and I'm tired of media and goverments being silent about it and focusing on their "depression". Thank god places like this exist where we can discuss about it because I feel this problem is snowballing and we will have to be tough as nails from now on against it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 04:57 AM
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Oodly enough many taliban were raped as children and are VERY against pedophillia (In fact the taliban used that as a selling point of their recruiting strategy)...only when it applies to little boys obviously. So the young boys will be ( I hope) safe from that. About the XX part of their population...we can cry together I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 12:31 AM
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Thanks. I don't know if it is because I'm not a first world person ( no matter how much I hang out in places like reddit) but I find pretty disturbing how many women willingly turn a blind eye or even try to dismiss important safety concerns just because they are associated to a apecific culltural background. You are not being culturaly sensitive, you are putting women at risk by obscuring important information they need to vet men. EDIT ll put an example to clarify the concept Several (almost a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:37 PM
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I was aproved long ago ( and glad to do it, we don't know when reddit will kick us out of here) but I really prefer the reddit experience interfacewise. Like the way the forum posts appear on the web site is not my favorite so I'll keep posting and commenting here until reddit bans this subreddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:31 PM
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Came here to say this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 06:29 PM
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You have not seen the half of it. I've literally between yesterday and today read men that said "taliban know women are society's achilles tallon and don't let those b****es get out of hand, have them on a tigh leash" [Spaniard men if someone is interested]. Every single one of us should be taking note of how men around us are reacting to this ( thank god FDS has made many more women alert) because their reaction to this is THE MOTHER OF ALL RED FLAGS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 03:39 PM
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I'm so fucking sick of this. I was raised catholic and I don't even tolerate "my" own religion because it's full of mysoginistic BS. I'm not tolerating any other religion that has the same kind of BS, and if that means I've to tolerate no religion on this planet...that's ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 06:28 PM
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I think so. But that women don't even dare to try it ( trying to suicidally get into a plane as a last resort) says it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 01:34 PM
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I've watched a lot of videos of the Kabul airport and there's women and children but there's also a frightening (and much bigger) number of young alone men trying to get on those planes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 12:56 PM
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I've cried for a whole fucking day watching this until I have no tears left. This very famous quote ( famous here on FDS too) " Like a compass needle that points north, a man's accusing finger always finds a woman." from Khaleed hosseini is from his book "one thousand splendis suns". He is Afghan-american and his book depicted the absolute horrors women have suffered under the taliban. And his book is happening in real life. Again. Also: I've seen men on 4chan triying to give afghan women's only…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 12:50 PM
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What worries me the most is how many women around the world really believe something like this can't happen to us too. Seeing how many men on social media (men from all around the world) I've seen joking joking about this or even trying to pass afgan women's onlyfans handles to the taliban so they can muerder them...Let's see I think we need to debate more about this kinds of thing on here tbh. I'm not only sad ny pretty angry and disturbed at what I've seen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 09:06 AM
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Cried all day reading about afganistan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 05:18 AM
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Ditto for me. After several years reading them I have no delusions anymore. Hard times coming ahead ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 10:09 PM
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Holy shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 10:03 PM
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I've read it two times already and it's apalling how the partners of several friends and family members came to my mind while I read about the different types of abusers. It should be mandatory. I want a hardcover copy on my mother tongue when I can afford it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 09:20 PM
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scrotes really are pornsick in every corner of this planet at this point, aren't they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 02:23 AM
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I don't know if it's autism related or not (maybe it is for some individuals but not for others) but from my POV ( outside that community) many seen to have emotional/socialization/communication related problems and instead of looking treatment for those (unhealthy necesity of control, extreme fear/ avoidance of intimacy/conection with other human beings,etc..) they just are coping with them in this infinite loop of doing the same over and over again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 03:08 AM
27

I need scrotes to keep wearing the pornhub themed t-shirts in public. Easiest scrote filter ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 05:02 PM
2

He's not clueless. I've seen this happen MANY times. A man enters a man-free space and pick me mods/ admins think it's perfect...only to end up with their group being overrun by scrotes. Many of those actively seek positions of power in those kind's of groups...they have demed themselves the arbiters of what we can and can't do and discussiong things in spaces that are men free is something they think we shouldn't be able to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 09:11 PM
350

I just read a twitter thread bemoaning that sex that requires men to make a woman orgams before he gets his own in "piling on expectation on men" and "orgasmcentric" and I couldn't have rolled my eyes harder if I tried.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:43 PM
9

I'd add that they HATE this place because it is, unapologeticaly, a man free space. Scrotes HATE those with a passion, it drives them crazy when women can compare notes on men and they can't derail the conversation con "NoT aLl MeN", "CoMmUnIcAtE" "DeViL's AdVoCaTe" or whaterever scrote tactic they choose. That's because they don't think of us as people with the right to have expectations and discuss those among us. To their eyes there should ALWAYS be a man in a position of power on any women's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 04:05 PM
7

Same scrotes will be complaining in the future that FDS is like fort knox ( just like they did in the past). Shot out to the mods by the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 08:30 PM
2

It's curious because in my country many people have this "canadian dream" and plan/save for years to be able to immigrate over there and I'm like Nope. The place is nice, the people seems nice too...but some of the politics ( specially woman related politics) make me very uneasy about living there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:05 PM
11

She deleted her channel some time ago. I think she was called Camila.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 05:44 PM
41

I watched a woman on youtube. She is from my culture and migrated to south korea and worked dubbing K-dramas ( which I don't watch) and I remember She ALWAYS evaded the questions about dating korean men and made this face of "concealed disgust" when asked about it. Now I think I'm starting to understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 04:38 PM
53

Even finding a LVM that is not pornsick is difficult tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 02:29 AM
838

The best answer to this question is to say "I'll know what I'm looking for when I find it" and avoid any kind of concrete answer like your life depends on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 07:10 PM
11

I will reject a public proposal even if we already discussed the outcome of him proposing beforehand. Any man that thinks of proposing to me has got to know me enough to know i would absolutelly HATE being proposed to in public and if he can't make me feel at ease at the proposal he's not the one. Anything can be a vetting tool if you are cretive enough...proposals are not an exception to this,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:58 PM
102

Honestly for me public proposal=rejection. This because basically all public proposals I have seen have been men's attempts at manipulation in some way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 03:06 PM
13

It's heartbreaking, isn't it? seeing men you think you know do a180 on you when they are with their militry friends ( happened to me with a couple of my cousins) but truth will set us free I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 10:47 PM
56

He’s an army officer The first red flag. I don't know the details of the kinds of bonding/ adoctrination men get in the army ( in all armies) but I've seen my own family memebers that took that route become ultra misoginistic ( some are good at hiding it tho) and honestly very dangerous in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 05:34 PM
8

I love boundaries and safewarding..just talking about them you can filter a lot of LV people without even having to enforce them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 05:23 PM
28

Oh hell NO. Could never be me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:42 AM
90

And the "BDSM is empowering, the submissive is the real dominant here" trope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 02:06 PM
39

It's not selfish. I hate the "mommy marthyr" trope BUT when you have kids you have responsabilities towards them and I'll side eye every mother that puts a stepfather over the wellbeing of her kids. It's a hill I'm willing to die on tbh, your kids >>>>>>> any random scrote, ALWAYS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:21 PM
61

You are doing the right thing then. THe farther away your children are raised from certain parts of indian culture ( the UTTER misoginistic ones) the better. Also I don't know if FDS would see it as discriminatory but I think we need to make a post talking about differences in laws about certain topics ( like this one) between the countries. I think knowing about it is all about maximun female benefit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:09 PM
1

WOW. I can't believe how polarized USA politics are, this post's comments are a mess. I ( as a non american, not anglo, not first world person) appreciate your efforts tbh. It really worries me how both liberal and conservative people in America are just so invested in dehumanizing the opossite political counterpart as the literal devil...it speels bad things for your future as a country tbh, and as we third worlders will, as always, be affected by whaterever big powers decide I PLEAD with you a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:00 PM
26

Can we take a moment to appreciate how she feels sorry for this scum of the earth (and wants to introduce him to unsuspecting poor souls!) instead of seeing the GIANT red flag that is her boyfriend having this kind of friend? Good God, this woman is deluded beyond belief.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:11 PM
18

99.999999999% of religions are by men for men so I'm extremely wary of religious men of any kind. Also in my experience (family experience) many religious women are super brainwashed into giving men a pass while policing other women so even when I love my religious women relatives...I don't trust them with certain things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 03:09 PM
25

Or children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 05:56 PM
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Hard truth. Also the main reason I don't date now. I'm not on a good league and don't want to date men in my situation. The solution? leveling up of course. So i'll be very busy doing that and will be very happy with the results even if it ends up being single for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 06:39 PM
11

One of the kids ( boys) tried to stab my eye with a pencil ( thank god for glasses or I don't know what would have happened). Now as an adult I think about the things that could have happened to my kid self and I get so ANGRY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 03:52 PM
16

I remember when I discovered porn I saw thumbnails of videos of literal grandpas having s*x with super young and super fit women. I'll never unsee those images and the visceral repulsion they caused me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 09:06 PM
47

Happened to me. I felt like I was being punished for being well behaved and having good grades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:51 PM
40

I'm latinamerican ( raised and living here) and I also don't get it. No one does it over here. Like NO ONE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 04:49 PM
31

I blame pornified western media for my adiction for chinesse historical dramas ( and a couple modern ones). So refreshing to see chemistry, non sexual touching, how much flirting/loving/sexuality the actors can show with a single glance...while over here we have GoT and the most famous actrecess ( think Alexandra Daddario) HAVE to strip off on screen if they want to have a career.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 07:06 PM
25

And she better be shorter than him too or else. I'm always so baffled at men saying they don't have height preferences, when they absolutely do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:38 PM
2

Forocoches is the tame forum. There's another one called burbuja. info ( delete the space afer the dot if you wanna look for it) and over there they reaaaaaally let lose. I recommend every spanish woman go and take a look so you can recognize the linguo and also so you can see the scr0.tes discussing how abortion should be ilegal and plotting with women's uteruses ( and seething at the birth rate fall). It will be a very enlightening ( but not very nice) experience, I can assure you. Edit: make …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:39 PM
24

You don't need to imagine. There's "snuff porn" where, from what I've been told by wikipedia, actual murder scenes are shown. And men are getting off on that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:52 AM
3

Love this. Many women in my life have asked me how do I manage to always make good female friends and It's because I've never been a jealous catty pick me tearing down other women for men's validation and other women can feel it. That's it. There's no secret. Also I (and the other women you will want to be your friends )can feel when other women are catty/ jealous pick mes and stay away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 03:46 PM
112

Can confirm. no s*x >>> unfulfilling potentially risky s*x with a pornsick sc0.te.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 07:20 PM
12

I don't know if it's FDS or not but I'm VERY weary of dating men that are too wealthy compared to me. I've seen it end up badly before ( specially with those same men taking revenge in the divorce/custody agreements). No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 03:47 PM
3

Yea, future it's not looking peachy for us, that's for sure. Also I didn't even touch on preventing STDs, I can't imagine if some crazy politician somewhere banned condoms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 06:33 PM
13

Look. I don't care in which continent you are living now, how democratic or not democratic it is, how secure you feel on your right to make your own reproductive choices ,etc. The population is falling almost worldwide and women will be blamed for ti ( we already are) . So you better start saving and get yourself an emergency stash of plan B pills (that no man gets to know about) and some emergency savings for an emergency abortion. If you never need to use them? great...but if shit hits the fan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:51 PM
10

I hit the jackpot and never truly realized it until I discovered FDS: my mom is unconsciously so FDS oriented and it paid coz' she got me a pretty great dad and is the only one of her sisters that got herself a good husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 12:25 AM
41

This has got to be the most difficult pill to swallow that FDS had taught me BY FAR...but the truth will set us free. Edit : typos + I've started to think very seriously if I want to share the custody if I have kids someday tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 11:28 PM
62

Look this is going to sound SO bad but in my country women with kids don't leave paedos because they are afraid of this...so they sacrifice everything and continue with them until the kids are of legal age so they can ALWAYS be there. At first I didn't understand...but when I started to read/ hear about cases like the ones posted here I got it. What a horrible situation to be in. I really feel for this woman and her children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 08:44 PM
35

Maybe it's because i've never see this man as attractive but if I was a WORLD RENOWED human rights lawyer you wouldn't caught me death with an old celebrity. No matter how much money and fans he has. Just no way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 08:22 PM
7

Also, his attitudes about women driving. Example: I injured my ankle shortly after I "learned" to drive and got my license ( over here it's not like america, you get your pass with some 20 hours of practical experience at most). So when I was recovered enough I basically had forgotten almost everything about driving I knew. What did my dad do? he went to drive with me afternoon after afternoon for months while I relearned everything again and...NEVER MADE ME FEEL BAD ABOUT IT. Compare this with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 05:13 PM
6

However, whenever I ask them why they sleep with easy girls that they end up talking shit about, they try and play innocent and deflect the blame by saying "What do you want me to do, say no?" Is that supposed to be a trick question? YES, I DO WANT YOU TO SAY NO. THIS. Just like men, other women and even ourselves expect us not to oogle other men on the street, watch men degrading porn or not date teenage men. Because IT'S THE BARE MINIMUM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 05:06 PM
2

I remember when my teenager friend lend those books to me (I was also a teenager) and I couldn't believe that kind of garbage had gone so mainstream. Not only do they depict a very abusive relationship in a romanticized way... Those are just plainly badly written books (the "internal goodess" parts made me cringe so bad at how bad they were). As someone who actually read fanfiction when I was a teenager....there are so so much better writters on those sites that would have deserved the opportuni…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 04:07 PM
39

"ShE dIvOrCe R*PeD mEEEEE".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 06:14 PM
3

When you read about how bad it will get on the global south...and you are a woman living in the global south ( in a non overpopulated part of it though).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 08:39 PM
1

Agreed. They are very worried because this is a global trend now. Europe, big parts of Asia, heck, even several countries of South America (including the one I live in) are already below replacement rate. Everywhere where women can get their hands on contraception/tubal ligation/abortion they are getting them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:59 PM
2

Shocking/ sarcasm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:52 PM
57

Tbh I live in a literal third world country and even here you get a couple months of paid maternity leave. The dismal treatment of mothers in America has always been utterly shocking to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:23 AM
28

Oh this is amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 11:46 PM
33

But they all DEMAND a makeup wearing woman most surely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:21 PM
28

I had a "friend" confess to me ( when she was very drunk) that she had been planning with a scr0.te so he could r*pe me (didn't happen somehow, but I was in danger and didn't know about it for years) Pick mes are not inofenssive like many ladies here want to believe. They can be very, VERY dangerous. Be alert about them and keep your distance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:59 PM
32

I...wouldn't talk about anything FDS related at work tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:25 PM
34

They own pornhub, brazzers, redtube, youporn, among other sites. From their wikipedia article: ​ In February 2021, a U.S.-based civil class action lawsuit was launched against MindGeek on behalf of child sex trafficking victims whose child sexual abuse material was uploaded to Pornhub. Many journalistic outlets accuse the company of having a monopoly over the online pornography industry, with 3 out of the 10 most popular online pornography sites owned by MindGeek.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 10:23 PM
104

Let's hope they can get the owners of mindgeek next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:50 PM
135

Ditto. Being this sheer level of pick me should come with ( legal) consecuences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:47 PM
6

I would change myself to a better health insurance even if I had to work and study at the same time to afford it ( I lost my years from 21 to 25 very sick because of a bad health provider and had to drop out of college because of that). It's my only big regret in life ultil now, those lost years are going to cost me dearly all my life and career because I had to reestart college at 25 and I'm going to be entering the work market almost at 30. Take care of your health ladies. Everything else you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:18 PM
4

Exactly. We may not have conomic power like men have,but we are not completely powerless either and they fear us realizing it. Bad luck fellas, we already have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:10 PM
3

I think you would like the feminist current podcast. Is on their web site that has the same name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:45 PM
16

I'd like to add turkey to the list of countries whose women and children I'd like to rescue ...and then seal the MF frontiers so not a fly ( much less and scr0.te can EVER get out of).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:41 PM
13

OMG I read the comments on that and there are quite a few agreeing with him...all of them with upvotes. The jealousy is real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 01:10 AM
31

Yeah. Heck they even have the audacity to say men are more discriminated than women nowadays. The gaslighting is on full swing and FDS is doing the lord's work cutting through the BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 11:56 PM
60

At least the woman part of society should ( I'm not putting my hopes on men as a class). And that's why men all over the internet are so antagonistic towards this sub: It's making women realize they don't have to live as enablers for LVM. Women are after all half of society. The half whose unpaid unapreciated labor the whole thing relies on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:43 PM
64

Men's jealousy towards younger men is no joke. Before he went full scr0.te I remember older men being jealous of Justin Bieber and his baby face, and I also remember older men being jealous of one direction some years ago. Men hate when young women have age aproppiate handsome teenage crushes....and that is THE signal we need to promote handsome age appropiate crushes for younger women as much as we can to protect them from grroming old scrotes ( I'm not ignorant to the pornsickess on younger me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:58 PM
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Because they don't respect them ( or women in general). Most of the things we complain about in FDS are not because scr0.tes don't love us. Make no mistake: they don't love us, but that's not the point. The real point is that THEY DON'T RESPECT US. you have to vet, vet, vet, for a man that respects you above all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:26 PM
7

Yes. I have few male friends and it always has been that way. I can not connect with someone that doesn't respect me as a person and very few men do that, ( and I can FEEL when they don't) therefore I connect with very few men on a casual friendship level and with even less men further than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:31 PM
12

Yes China too. And I'd also like to know more about japan . But I can't even get info on my fav chinesse dramas from weibo because you need a chinesse phone number for registration...so i'd better not get my hopes up about it tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:10 PM
31

South Korean women are on another level. Wish I knew Korean so I could read more about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:55 PM
20

MUST read. I was very fortunate and read it before I started dating and I couldn't believe how many of my female relative's and friend's broyfriends and husbands I recognized as the different types of abusers he describes. Book chilled me to the bone but I still re read it semi frecuently so I don't forget.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 08:26 PM
12

I identify myself as a JERF or PERF (john/pimp exclusionary feminist) and I regret nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:07 PM
191

The infamous ick. And you're right, there's not coming back from it. Once the ick sets in it's over for that relationship. And it's the reason grown men dating teenagers creeps us up so much: because that's not the reaction a well adjusted adult has no matter how much MuH bIoLoGy they try to use to justify it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:57 PM
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It mades me deeply uncomfortable to see men like that and I don't feel the need to use them tbh...because I'm an empathetic human being that sees them as people and I have the reaction men should be having when seeing women like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 12:41 AM
47

You need to google "chump lady" on google and on facebook NOW. They are a great support resource for people that has been betrayed by their partners and will explain you what to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:36 PM
32

I'm not scandinavian and I don't live there either but some women from my country that have dated scandinavian men told me they are really obsessed with bdsm. Does anyone else know anything about it? I found it very alarming/ offputting tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:27 PM
1

Ditto.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:56 PM
2

Not only you shouldn't, with some things ( ie: " To be commitment and marriage minded" ) you literally can't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:06 PM
36

This is not the first story of this kind I've heard about ( I even read one about a man trying to cut the subdrmal implant out of his girlfriend's arm) If you have a IUD I BEG you to ask your doctor to cut the strings short and to NEVER tell men about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:05 PM
2

More data would be cool but you'll have to ask the mods I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:20 PM
56

When you see your country in extra dark purple on the MGTOW search even when they women over here are pickme supremes and the men are incredibly misoginist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:48 PM
8

Have I commented here before how almost anything can get you named a T*rf nowadays and how I was told I was one for admitting I don't watch p*rn?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 02:17 AM
6

I hate the "safeword " BS with the heat of a thousand suns. Why would I need some exotic word when "no", "get off me " and" stop " exist and I've been trained to use them since I was a small child?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:11 PM
20

Not true in my experience. I don't know if it's because I'm tall too but tall guys generally love to tell me how being tall only looks good on men and how I would look good If I was a couple of inches shorter. Edit: also, I'm not a fan of big height gaps tbh. Being taller than the average man where I live has helped me several times when things were getting dangerous with men so men that are much taller than me made me anxious about them throwing me around like a ragdoll in the bedroom or someth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:03 PM
2

I'm in love with that drama. The cinematography, the costumes and the acting are all top notch if you ask me ( specially Chen Kun's acting, dudes acting chops are insane).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:15 PM
2

I just started rebel princess ( as in, I'm on chapter 1) but the FDS seal of approval sounds good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 07:59 PM
2

Yeah, he is ok...but the soul of the show is Minglan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 07:27 PM
3

There's no going back after you watch nirvana in fire. The plot is very very very solid, so much that if you rewatch it you can still find new details on your second or third rewatch and little subplots that seemed pointless all end up being relevant at some point in time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 07:27 PM
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Oh I forgot the trailers so you can choose if you want to watch or not more quickly ( all the dramas I recommended are pretty long so I also recommend watching the trailers first just in case you are not convinced before losing time). Nirvana in fire: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RpGxOMeWLhM The story of Minglan: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yzXPV4X2b0s&t=147s The rise of phoenixes: (this show is sooo visually gorgeous) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DyAsfo6rEz0 Nothing but thirty: https:…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 07:23 PM
19

And in the movie Steve cheated on her and she forgave him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 07:14 PM
14

Life pro tip: treat any man that wants you ( or women in general) to marry before 25 as a walking red flag. bonus points if he thinks men are too young to marry at those ages, then you must run for the hills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:08 PM
2

Read my reply to the comment above yours please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:55 PM
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I've become really picky over time ( FDS has made me pickier in life in general tbh). I watch mostly chinesse historical dramas. My favorite one has to be "the story of Minglan" ( mainly because of the FL and her grandma). She's pretty FDS for her time (more FDS that many modern time drama leads even) and most of the time the male lead is ok, I guess. If you want to try a modern one I recommend "nothing but thirty" the male leads ain't sh*t but you are not here for them, you are here for Gu Jia …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:54 PM
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Absolutely. Add to that that I started to watch Asian shows in quarantine and, if you know how to pick those (not all are worthy), they offer you very interesting female leads (ambitious, cunning, scheming and ruthless without being portrayed as the villains), almost zero hypersexualized women and, in general, try to make the male lead a match for thee female one (age appropriate, handsome, accomplished, decently dressed) and now most western shows and a Lots of Eastern ones are ruined for me an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 02:12 PM
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On this topic I'd like to recommend a movie called Suddently seventeen. It's on youtube and it's about a 28 year old woman that commited two FDS cardinal sins: she stayed for 10 years with a boyfriend that outright refussed to marry her and ditched everything for him...until by "magical" circumstances her mind regresses to her 17 year old state. The scene where our 17 year old lead stands in disbelief as her best friend explains to her how she ditched all her dreams for a man that didn't even ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 05:37 PM
19

I had a phase of watching lots and lots of anime when I was like-16-18 but after I got out of school, started college,etc...my tastes started to shift and I started to notice how much creepy s*it I had glossed over ( and I never watched anything hentai, but mainstream anime is super saturated with gross things too). Also as you grow up most of the ( school/ teenage themed) content stops being relatable to you and anime produced with adult audiences on mind that is NOT made for pervert men is few…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 09:46 PM
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I start to think about what they w*nk off to and it makes me want to be celibate for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 08:10 PM
19

And they specially don't want women to enjoy anything if they are mothers. I have no children but it makes me SO angry when I hear people ( specially other women) implying that mothers that go out with their friends/ have hobbies/ retain their personalities and sense of self in a significant way after having kids are bad mothers. You are supossed to live like your life is over, not be in public with out your kids and nor do anything not related to them or you are a monster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 04:30 PM
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Most goverments think that just throwing some money at mothers will solve the problem ( not danying that it does help) but for many women, me included, the biggest fears around motherhood are: Having a NVM in disguise rear his ugly head so you get a partner that doesn't do his share with the kids ( and this is not a unjustified fear, as that subreddit abput mothers that are losing it shows) Society's judgement of mothers no matter what they do ( you breastfeed? judged. You bottlefeed? judged? yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:20 PM
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Repeat after me: we don't discuss our standars outside this space (and SPECIALLY NOT WITH MEN ) because that is giving scrotes the blueprints to fool us. Sorry, I appreciate the intention behind this post but I can't think of any reason to do it. Scrotes get ammunition and pickmes will try to gaslight you about them. If he isn't what you are looking for just leave ( and if you must give a BS excuse but NEVER reveal your hand)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 05:03 PM
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Sounds horrrible. No sh*t the fertility rates are at an all time low over there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:58 PM
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ditto in the desire to visit japan but I'll admit I still rewatch a few select animes near and dear to me. But as I grow up I am increasingly repulsed by adults of my age that are trapped in a "high school/ teenagehood themed anime" phase. It just screams arrested developement to me at my age range ( mid 20's )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:52 PM
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Oh I remember a sacandal in japan where a med school lowered the scores of it's women applicants and was discovered. Here it is ( it was more than one school): https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-46568975 From the link above: At least nine Japanese medical schools manipulated admissions, in part to exclude female students, a government investigation has found. The inquiry was launched in August, after the prestigious Tokyo Medical University (TMU) was found to have tampered with the scores of fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 02:40 PM
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My tastes have evolved since I started watching (at first I wasn't very discerning tbh) so I'll try to recommend the best ones. -Nirvana in fire: this show is the GOAT of Asian dramas. Not just chinesse dramas, Asian dramas in general. This one could compete with the very best western shows imo. -The rise of phoenixes: This one has my favorite male character of all times (An incredibly complex character that was incredibly well acted) and great chemistry between the main couple. I don't like the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 02:54 AM
17

Does Homer Simpson count? Because I definitelly count him as LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:44 AM
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At this point I've watched about 30 (?) historical C-dramas ( many with fantasy, magic, dragons, all the works). You know how many of them used r*pe as a plot device? 2 . You know how many of those two showed anything remotelly related to r*pe on screen instead of just implying it happened and delving on the consecuences and their impact on the central plot? ZERO. It can be done, It is being done in media around the world. Never let them fool you. If they wanted to treat r*pe respectufully inste…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:28 PM
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Add to this that you NEVER say you snooped. Never. You just dump, block and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:15 PM
9

I can only say: It's lonely at the top.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:42 PM
5

And men on dramas pay attention to their clothes ( so it's seen as an expectation). I have seen complete C-dramas about videogames and professional gamers where the male leads dressed cassual but decently. None of that "superhero T-shirt+ shorts" BS that you see on western shows about geeks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:44 PM
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If you like historical dramas I'd recommend "the story of Minglan" It's very long and at the beginning it can feel quite confussing but the FL is worth it in my opinion. Modern drama wise i'd try with "nothing but 30" Forgot to say I mainly ( almost exclusivelly ) watch c-dramas so there can be LOADS of good k-dramas out there I know nothing about because i don't know abput them. Reddit has r/ KDRAMA and r/ CDrama where you can ask for more specific recommendations. Edit: removed the links to ot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 09:02 PM
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My story it's very bizarre but hear me out: A couple years ago watched a chinesse drama ( my second one ever) called "the stoy of Minglan" where the FL is a sweet, caring person....but at the same time she is scheming, super cunning, ruthless and has very clear boundaries and it blew me away. I had never seen media that specifically presented women as that kind of gray character and showed their cunning and plotting as something inherently good. She did what she needed to do to survive and it wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:28 PM
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My mom ALWAYS said ( and says ) to me "a man that is not picky about when, how and whom to have children with doesn't deserve a second glance". And here you posted a perfect example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:08 PM
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Reason number 920547594856635 I have not looked back since I boarded the wagon of asian dramas. They are not perfect but the inmense majority of what I've seen presents males leads as acomplished, handsome and age appropiate interests to their female counterparts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 06:56 PM
7

Noticing the exact same thing but at college.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 09:22 PM
58

Hello fellow latinamerican ( I'll bet my FDS membership on this).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:29 PM
4

This is horrifiying but not surprising tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:33 AM
1

I sort of like some tall men to a point but being tall myself the height difference between us would be much smaller than with a shorter woman and I'm not only used to that, after hearing them talking around throwing me around like a ragdoll as you said, and more important, hearing the experiences of my shorter friends with that kind of behavior I've actually developed wariness of men that want us to have a massive height gap. Edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:45 PM
15

He wants to be more stable but he didn't think about that before having a child...yeah right *cue eye roll*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:51 PM
39

Pfff as if women crying weren't seen as "manipulative" an angry women ( the horror) weren't seen as abhorrent and gaslighted to hell and back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 04:40 PM
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Can with talk about extreme height gaps in relation to this? I'm really tall compared with the average women over here and men and women alike trying to shame me into only dating men like 30 cm taller than me is super creepy. Men saying to me "you are tall but I'm tall enough that I could easily throw you around in the bedroom " is scary AF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:17 PM
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My ( born and breed and living on a developing country) self begs to differ. There are very few white men here but the scrotation of the rest of them ( that are of many color because this is a really multiracial place) is the same ( red pill tactics included) or even worse in some way. TL;DR It's not just white men, It's a cross cultural problem like another commenter said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:27 PM
14

And today in a new episode of "Why are't women having more children?. It surely it's because they are selfish".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:44 PM
2

I just realized I was reported to reddit care too for a post I made a couple days ago. I had no idea of what was that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:14 AM
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Look, I despise cheating in all it's forms, but I'd prefer to be cheated on with a random woman he met at work than to know my bf ( or, God forbid, my husband) was such a looser that he decided to pay for sex, even worse knowing how messed up the prostitution industry is. I don't care how "empowered" she feels, to me discovering my man is a John would be utterly repugnant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:04 AM
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Can you get herpes from kissing? Even if the guy shows no sores? I've had a couple of guys steal kisses from me in the past and it's made me super anxious about it tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:17 PM
2

We need this screenshot in the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:17 AM
18

This week it's been hard as f**k. Losing loved ones because of coronavirus and seeing your country explode because of a social, economic and political crisis that was years in the making and finally got out of hand, in part because of the pandemic ,all in the same week has been a WILD ride tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 08:45 PM
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Ditto. I hate oversexualizing in all forms. heck I even started watching C-dramas in part beause they are waaaaaay less sexualized than our dramas. Hipersexualizing anyone on fds ( even when men don't have the courtesy of not doing it to us) doesn't sit on well with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 08:38 PM
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Agreed. I think we need a FDS post's series on how to protect yourself if/ when abortions and birth control are VERY restricted or unavailable because I can't get rid of the feeling the time will come ( and sooner than we think) when that advice will be CRITICAL for all of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 09:47 PM
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I read it as "male posture" and was going to comment about that awful tell tale "game/p¨rn addict hunched posture™ " but oh well both posture and posturing have gotten worse over time I guess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 09:37 PM
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In my culture it doesn't exist so for someone like me that knows millions upon millions of women that never did it it's a really alien concept tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 08:14 PM
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Deal breakers: beards, unkempt nails ( i'm always looking their nails like a hawk), unkempt skin ( the lack of suncreen and moisturizing just shows) and that tell-tale hunched gamer posture. and beer bellies, sorry but I just can't with them. Weaknesses: good posture, dark hair, groomed skin and nails. If it looks like he works out but not in a "violent bro that maybe does steroyds" way but in a "active person who does sports" way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 07:02 PM
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Like when they say representation is important but then it suddently isn't when you point out how women are presented in media and in p*rn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 03:22 PM
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The why it's because men try to keep the bar as low as possible and other men caring about their appeareance threatens their "keep the bar lower than the deepest level of hell" policy. TL;DR it's the classic crabs in a bucket.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 12:11 AM
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I'd love to see it please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 10:17 PM
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To me is in the same camp as prostitution "just because you can pay to use someone else's body it doesn't mean you should or that is moral" . Also about altruistic surrogacy I know the story of a woman whose cousin convinced her to give her her eggs and she did it...just to end up with orange sized ovarian cists and the cousin bailing on her and letting her to seek ( very expensive and painful) treatment on her own. You just can't convince me this doesn't happen when altruistic surrogacies go so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:14 PM
9

Preach it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 03:30 PM
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It was discussed on my college ( unofficial) facebook groups. It was literally hundreds of college aged scrotes laughing about it/ dismissing it as ridiculous because "just 0,0000001 of men are r**ists AT MOST " I'm so very thankful for those facebook groups, I've got to know my classmate's scrotery to such an intimate level that any temptation to date in detriment of my studies is basically non existant now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 03:19 PM
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Boys are not easier. Most people just don't give a f*uck about doing the work they should be doing to raise them to have heathy actitudes about themselves and about women so off course it's easier on them. When I think of how hard has to be to go against the entirety of society so your little boy doesn't, for example, doesn't become p*rnsick, it sounds really overwhelming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 11:30 PM
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It's absolute madness that they even think *rn is sex education and "they watch to learn". That's the point! they are learning dangerous BS that very few will see the need to ( and make and effort to) unlearn in the future while most will be scarred for life and hurt others in turn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 10:14 PM
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I asked the same question in a college group and men went crazy and acussed me of wanting teenagers to grow up without sexual education.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 08:39 PM
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The original video has 22K dislikes. I can only wish a single video of p*rn torture in r*apehub would have that number of dislikes. Touched a nerve I see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 06:54 PM
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“Like a compass needle that points north, a man's accusing finger always finds a woman. Always.” I don't know how many times I've seen this quote on FDS but EVERY. SINGLE: TIME. It still applies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:14 PM
6

How do I learn to express anger? I've always repressed it until it manifests like ugly crying and that's not how I want to express it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 06:20 PM
29

THIS POST IS HANDBOOK MATERIAL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:47 AM
2

Hi fellow latin american. I also live here and can confirm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:06 PM
1

I look at liberal feminists like I look at American superhero movies: They have nothing to do with my reality and what they present can only be taken seriously with an "alternative universe" lens. And tbh I think many feminist in developed countries carry this sense of guilt about not being inclusive enough of everything and anything. Well f**k that, I won't get guilt tripped in suppoting a version of feminisn that hurts me. And they can die mad about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:04 PM
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I don't know how to vet for promiscuity tbh. I just vet by behaviors, pornified preferences, ANY kind of complaining about condoms, refusal to testing, boundary pushing, etc... Also. Just testing before getting sexual is not enough, there's a window of several months is which you can test negative being positive. In my country you can test yourself free on your health care provider twice per year. I BEG those of you that can do it in America (I know it's not all) to keep testing yourselves regul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:32 PM
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I need this patters please, for science.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:08 PM
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Counting down the numbers for the 150K mark!!!! I think we'll achieve it today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 05:32 PM
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Men and libfems " DoN't Be A PrUdE, BDSM iS EmPoWeRiNg WoMeN aNd DoEsN'T hAvE aNiThYnG tO dO wItH hOw MeN sEe YoU iN rEaL lIfE" Also men: Literally write "w***e" "c*mdumpster" and "s**t" with sharpie in the bodies of women that are bounded in BDSM and take pictures/ videos and then post those all over the internet. We need to get more women to see what they do and compare that with what they say. In the facts lies the truth. Edit: Typos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 10:27 PM
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The most important part is to assess which chores need to be done once per month or per week and which ones need to be done every. single. day and DEMAND equal division for the later ones. Don't EVER let a man burden you with all the cooking and cleaning ( or childcare) that are super time intensive activities while he thinks he's a model man because he changes a bulb twice per year. Edit: And by demand I don't mean plead, do chore charts or anything of the sort. Just make clear that if he start…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:02 PM
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This is handbook material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:39 PM
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Tbh I think that's good progress. You don't need to do it perfectly on the first try, if( when?) you have a relapse just reframe it like "ok I watched p*rn today but didn't watch for 90 days so it's 1/91 days, tomorrow I'll leave it behind me again and continue this streak where I did fiene 99% of the time" instead of "oh no I broke this 3 month streak" that coud get you to continue watching because of a "why the hell not? I've already failed" mindset Source: I've had adiction problems with inte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 07:40 PM
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Other ladies have covered the big topics here but I'll mention a couple things that can help but I rarely see mentioned on this kind of thread: Good physical shape and proper shoes. By good physical shape I mean: could you pull yourself up to get over a fence? run 200 meters without having to stop? I know not everybody can because of health conditions ( been there until recently) but for anyone that can I BEG YOU, those things could save your life one day, don't underestimate them. Now on shoes,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 03:10 PM
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Oh but instead we get men labeling any man that is even half-decent "a simp" or "a white knight". Glad to know what they think about treating us well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 06:28 PM
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Ugh off course they see a completely fictional (and unrealistic ) depiction of s*x and become more entitled in real life because of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:16 PM
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Problem is outside of gay p*rn men in p*rn are mostly UGLY AS F**K. When I discovered porn as a teenager the fisrt thing I noticed was how the women were beautiful and filmed in all angles but the men didn't appear on screen most of the time except for their genitals. And when they appeared they were mostly super ugly, super old or very frecuently both things at the same time while having sex with a conventionally beautiful woman that could pass for a teenager. Honestly I think of those poor wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 06:14 PM
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Ditto for me. Mom takes pride on never having had me be taken care of boy other family menbers except for ocassional vacation trips so if I have children I'm s*****d in that regard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 03:51 PM
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I don't see my younger self in her but one thing I've noticed now that I'm entering my mid 20's is that i've become FIERCELY protective of younger women and seeing how they bash her online makes me rage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 02:29 AM
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I admit I now watch much much less anime than before and even when I was a teenager BS like "no game no life" neger got a pass with me but some animes are good and I love them and will continue to watch them in the years to come. Some that come to mind are psyco pass, decadence and cells at work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:15 PM
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I agree SO MUCH with this. Now anything short of beating her in bed while you call her a c*mdumpster while also making her do 90 percent of the work in the relationship ( while resenting her all along) is "simping" and I'm so sick of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 06:27 PM
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Ugh the contempt for Greta that is a TEENAGER has been so disturbing to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:20 PM
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I agree 100% with this. Men are allowed to exist without being hipersexualized and expected to cover because them existing in public "is too tempting" but neither are them expected to uncover excessively because their bodies are products on sale. How I wish it was like this for us too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:17 PM
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I love cells at work (100% recommended to everybody here, I learned as lot about the inmune system and the anime is super cute) so I was pretty annoyed when the pararel anime ( "cells at work black" that shows the inmune system of a body whose owner leads a not-so healthy-life hipersexualized WHITE BLOOD CELLLS of all things).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:10 PM
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I refused to watch GOT for this reason tbh, I'm just fine reading the books that don't have all those nude scenes and ( i hope) also don't have r**e as a plot device. Some years ago I love westworld but now I'm hesitant to rewatch because of all the sexualized shots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:07 PM
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And the ones that don't have other women do it for them in their videos ( case in pont LP whose music I absolutely love but whose videos have other women around her performing the hipersexualized role).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:04 PM
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I'm 5'8'' but my country being tall and thin has always been as a bad thing and being short and curvy as ideal decades before it was the ideal in america. I was so insecure and have such bad posture because of it ( that I'm trying to fix). It may be an impopular opinion but internet has helped me a lot with this because seeing taller women with my body type has helped a lot, even if those women happen to live in other countries or even in other continents. Also, being as tall as the average men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 02:43 AM
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Yes but not by men but by "friends" in my defense I was a teenager but still haunts me to this day tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 12:28 AM
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And to "the ick"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 11:21 PM
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My kink is sex being a intimate and emotional experience where I connect with a man that sees me as human. I know I know pretty exotic on these distopyan pornsick times we are living it. I'm a firm believer in that ( abuse and power plays aside) many bdsm practicioners use all the costumes, the routines and the paraphernalia as a way to hide from conecting and intimacy while having sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 02:33 PM
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Can we talk about the fact that not watching p*rn, and not following hipersexualized content as a woman (and above all not being a cool girl when your boyfirned does it )can get you branded as a swerf too? I'm really sick of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:55 AM
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I do it with movies, series, and anime ( my motto is: "everyting can be a vetting tool if you are creative enough" ). I've watched anime myself so I know very well which animes are worth watching and wich ones are not. In fact so few animes are worth watching that they are a wonderfull vetting tool. For movies and series just pop on incel forums and see which movies they hate the most ( birds of prey, new star wars, new ghost busters,captain marvel, series with female leads,etc...) and add those…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:19 PM
2

I have it on my "watch later" list but is so long :'v But now that It has another FDSr seal of approval I'll try to watch it as soon as I can. The set and clothing look absolutelly gorgeous tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:59 AM
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If someone wants to give chinesse dramas a chance a very good modern one is "nothing but thirty" it has 3 FLs but there's one of them that is such a great example of a HVw to the core. And a historical one is "the story of Minglan" with a very very cunning FL and an amazing grandma- granddaughter relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 08:59 PM
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My favorite ever is one on the art of teasing and how to escalate sexual-related things and how fun it is when a man is game baout it instead of whinning about "blue balls"...but I can't find it :C
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:37 AM
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Bs like this is why I have Opera as a browser, even when I have to wait some seconds to skip ads I never get to see those ads. Thank God.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 07:56 PM
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It has helped me to realize the leveling up I'm doing is not enough. I'm late in lafe compared to my peers because of health reasons so my leveling up has been mostly coming back to college and doing things to help my health ( sleep, exercise, food,etc..). This sub has made me realize my hobbies ( social media) are seriously lacking and that even though I don't really like makeup I could use some hair/ skin/ nail care routines and that I know nothing about interviews, networking,etc... I have lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:53 PM
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At first I believed it would be nice: incels getting themselves out of the gene pool...but some women on other sites ( and here) over the years have made the next point: "what if men get tired of using and abusing sexbots and end up up using them a a stepping stone to hurting real women AND children ( children sex dolls are a thing after all)?" and I can't help but to consider it a very real possibility edit: grammar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 05:23 PM
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But they can. I Know a family of what I would call evil people without a doubt and Every. Single. One. Of. Them no matter if men or women have paired themselves up with people of a certain profile that put up with their abuse. I'm not saying that scrotes can't just throw themselves at every women they meet hoping this one or that one will put up with their bullshit but predators beyond common scrotery certainly exist and they know how to hunt for potential victims.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:53 PM
7

They literally tell him "you can do so much better than her"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:44 PM
5

We need to talk about consensual BDSM too. Getting excited when strangling/ hitting/ degrading someone says something about the person who does it, doesn't matter if the person being hit/degraded/strangled consented or not. We really need to stop falling for all that smoke and mirrors of "sane, safe and consensual" and start pointing fingers where they should be pointed to: to the Doms abusers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:19 PM
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Since childhood I already had decided that my 30's would be the best time in my life so when I started to grow and people started to act like women become dust at 25 it was very shocking and annoying to me. I'm on my mid 20's and I can't wait for my thirties to come.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:16 PM
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They do. "Painal" is a porn cathegory for a reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 10:52 PM
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Ditto. Honestly chinesse dramas have been a great discovery for me. The women are waaaaaaay less sexualized ( and have real armors when they fight!), if you vet well what you watch you'll find HVM-ish leads and the modern ones will really school you on FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 06:27 PM
7

Rakuten viki or in youtube.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 06:25 PM
5

I came here to say this but I see it's already been said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:09 PM
6

The whole concept isjust so ridiculous to me, even more so when I'm from a place where women don't change their names when they get married. Only reason I'd change my last name would be if I migrated to another country where having a local surname would give me advantages, and even then I would be doing it for my own self interest and it would be a difficult decision. I like my last name, it's part of my identity. Edit: context and typos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:16 PM
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Over here no woman changes her name when she marries, literally millions of women that kept their own surnames and not for that are less of a family unit with their husbands or their children. So to me seeing american men whinning about it and women having anxiety over it is basically... distopian.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 06:33 PM
2

100% recommended. It's one of those books that when you read it you can "unread" it and you start to see certain things in different ways. Disclaimer: it can be a hard read for some. I'd also reccomend "why does he do that?". That book should be mandatory for all women before they start dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 09:58 PM
2

Discovering the sheer quantity of p**n videos where the actress is wearing a school uniform was so gross and unsettling to me. I have good memories of my tiemes in high school and deeply resent scrotes for sexualizing that part of my childhood with their degenerate pornified fantasies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:07 PM
6

Depends on the amine, for example cells at work it's an anime that explains how our cells work and it's super cute. Animes like cowboy beebop or ghost in the shell are amazing too,etc.. But if he likes something like "no game no life"? ABSOLUTELY NOT. Also if he only consumes media with no real people on it (no series, documentaries, etc... at all and just anime+ videogames ) RUN because almost surely the only media women roles he is watching are porn stars and he will see you like his potential…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 05:45 PM
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Can confirm as a woman from one of those countries. It's gotten to a point where I side eye exchange students that I know could and should have gone to other places that have better tech, R&D,etc... (mostly in STEM )and just assume they come for drugs and sexual tourism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 05:54 PM
2

I'm tallish I guess (5'7''-5'8'') and tbh I prefer men closer to my height. If he is more than 4 inches taller It starts to get awkward, ditto if he is much shorter . Also if I'm wearing heels I better be as tall as him, men being taller even when I'm wearing painful shoes so I'm taller bothers me to no end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:21 PM
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I was such a doormat as a teenager and now that I've realized all the BS I took that I should have never I feel so angry, Also Gender critical and FDS have made me angry at more things (mostly the disrespect and entitlement of scrotes) so I now have a lot of repressed anger but have no idea of how to express it in a more productive way than crying a river now and then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 01:44 AM
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I would like to vet longer than some women here so 2.5-years, but I certainly would not let the 3 year come and still be in that relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 03:35 PM
42

Bring pizza in and eat it while you are in labor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 07:46 PM
3

She should surprise him with a divorce...but I doubt it's gonna happen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 09:58 PM
7

Yes. You get "the ick" from baying him and can't see him as a sexual being anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 03:13 PM
5

I'm tall for a woman where I'm from and live (I'm 5'8'') and can confirm. Most men like women to be shorter as much as women like men to be taller.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 03:11 PM
8

Honestly? I consider the majority of people LV and that includes women and I'm not sorry fot it at all. I've got HVW friends but finding them was not easy and that's life. I've already assumed that finding HVW can be as difficult as finding HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 07:49 PM
3

This is why you have to vet your friends, your therapist, your mentor(s),etc... as harshly as you vet men. Pick me people in general are dangerous to have in your life in any shape or form.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:38 PM
58

Libfems can kiss my a** if they think they can gaslight me with their privileged, first world middle class "liberal thinking, conservative living" rethoric where they encourage other women to "empower" themselves doing things they would never let their own daugthers do. Being born, raised and living in a third world country has many disadvantages, but it also has some upsides...one of them being that one grows up basically inmune to this libfem BS and quite indifferent to their dissaproval too. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:51 PM
24

That comment someone posted once from a scrote saying fds is "tighter than fort nox" comes to mind. Thank you so much to all the mods on this place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:35 PM
23

Is not a mystery. The KNOW they have been choosing things that are against our collective interest as women and feel called out, so they lash out because they don't want to reflect on certain things. Just like LVM do tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:46 AM
77

I know A LOT of women that are not ready for this conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 12:27 AM
10

If he doesn't make me come he's got to go. This ridiculousness of many women "BuT i EnJoY tHe InTiMaCy" has always been foreign to me. I literally can't bond with a man through sex If I'm not orgasming, I see him not making an effort to make me come as him not respecting me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 04:46 PM
8

From Homer simpson to the protagonist of the notebook, media has it's own pandemic of LVM and I'm utterly sick of it. I've become very very picky with all the forms of media I consume. Shows, movies and books that idolize and normalize LVM (or LVW sometimes) have got to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 12:49 AM
5

This is sooo common. We need to teach younger women that if he isn't getting you off he needs to go. Men would never accept something like this, time for them to start reciprocating the effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:42 PM
5

Women over here don't do that. Never have. So the idea is foreign to me because I literrally know MILLIONS of women that never did it, never even think about it and their lifes are perfectly normal ( I've seen American men online whinning about "not being a united family if we dont share [his] surname" and other BS that I ( thankfully) never got brainwashed with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:21 PM
123

Jordan Peterson is the most dangerous because if you are not perceptive enough to catch his BS he sounds always so "reasonable" and "educated". Not author but Elon Musk idolization is also a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:57 PM
8

Yes I do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:52 PM
6

Latin american countries have differences between them but I've noticed this too with the men of my country. Many younger women like asian men ( korean idols specifically) and the men over here go crazy ridiculing them for it while talking about the asian porn they watch and fetichizing asian women ¬¬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 10:16 PM
35

I liked velvet chokers so much and now I can't stand to look at them even in pictures because of all the porny associations (specially the BDSM associations)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 07:07 PM
53

I hate it. The porn memes in a random facebook group, the porn jokes in casual conversation,etc...but it's useful as a vetting tool tbh. I never ever correct men when they do that, I don't even look pissed. I just think "my dude...you OUT. Next"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 06:00 PM
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Ditto. But since reddit has no other no libem-y subs I guess FDS became a sort of defacto place for posting this kind of thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 11:23 PM
16

I'll never forget something I read a couple years ago in facebook (I lost the link unfortunately) about abusers confessing that they can wait up to 18 months before starting to show the signs because "you gotta lure her in, you know?". So I would not give a man the HVM category until at least two and a half hears of consistent behavior and even this is not foolproof, many ladies here have shared hteir stories about scrotes not showing their true colors until after being 5-10 years together ( man…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:52 PM
3

Good God her husband is NV trash. On the other hand I'm of the opinion that not even the Highest value man in the world deserves 7 children. Women need to be smarter about it, our bodies suffer the pregnacy, we do the majority of the raising and our earning potential is more affected by children than men's so even if you absolutely love children I would advise you about having this many. It can ( and does) backfire spectaculary at many points. Just imagine him divorcing her now and leaving her a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:51 PM
19

I'll bet my right ovary that man wanted masturbation fodder or even to upload the images on pornhub. Gross. GLad she kicked him out ( but she still should check for hidden cameras just in case).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 11:43 PM
54

I miss GenderCritical tbh. You all rock, but that was the original place where I learned that I don't have to turn into a conservative just because I don't want to become public property for whaterever random men that want to use me as their personal fleshlight. My self esteem never again hit rock botton since I discovered that sub by pure chance at 21.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 07:35 PM
7

Tbh I live in a sex tourism hot spot and I'm extremely wary of american/European men that travel here. Even when they are college students because I know the universities here are not really that good/prestigious compared with many other places where they could have gone just as easily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 05:29 PM
5

I hate, hate, HATE how cliche is for the new GF to see the child support he is paying (that in 90% of cases doesn't cover his part of the expenses) as this astronomical amount of money and to make him push for 50/50 custody that sounds absolutely awful to the kids just because they don want "that harpy baby mama" to receive child support at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 03:57 PM
6

It's very long and I was lucky enough to read it before I started dating (I started in my early twenties) and my family wasn't abusive , but if you've suffered abuse and start recognizing characteristics of your abuser it could be triggering. I read it very slowly that time and try to reread it every then and now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 01:59 PM
34

"Why does he do that?" is without a doubt the most important book I've read on my whole life. I will never get tired of recomending it to other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 11:57 PM
34

Putting Elon Musk and HVM on the same sentence is like 97356658276 kinds of wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 11:51 PM
28

Her sister is doing the right thing. Imagine the poor niece being influenced by a pickme of this caliber.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 09:51 PM
8

Honestly? I've got ZERO empathy for men that buy s*x in any shape or form ( there's also the odd woman here and there, don't feel sorry for them either). Manipulative women my a**, those men know exactly what they are doing ( and that many women on onlyfans/webcam models/ street prostitutes are trying to make ends meet in the middle of a economical crisis caused by a global pandemic) and they. Don't. Care. At All. My country is a prostitutuion/ web cam global hot spot and it has made me see the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 06:08 PM
5

I'm 5'8'' in a country where the average man is 5'7'' and I definitely feel it has protected me against those "I love when she is very short compared to me because I can throw her around and manhandle her, specially in the bedroom" kind of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:03 PM
12

The very concept of hatef*cking disgusts me so so much. I studied for years with many men and I learned about that there ( along with how willing they are to fuck women they despise to "put those b*tches in their place"). It's made me utter paranoid about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 06:01 PM
23

To me having the same person that bruised you, probably slapped you, choked you and called you a b*tch during a vulnerable act treat the bruises and comfort you after sounds unbelievably toxic and dangerous. Like a one way ticket to a very traumatic and unhealthy attachment to your abuser that woluld make leaving 1000 times more difficult. Edit: typos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 05:43 PM
49

As others have said. It takes the same time to print that than to wash the f*cking dishes. So he does this knowing it will irk her, therefore he enjoys making her furious. He basically hates her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 12:41 AM
4

Im in. I've got a playlist of 800 (?) songs in english so I guess I'll be removing pickme BS as my listening improves and I can undertand better the lyrics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:21 PM
23

They only are mad because they have to pay for it but they are totes fine with free p*rn. I've been seeing more and more men recently that absolutely dismiss the dark things that are behind that industry while at the same time resenting the women on it because they get money ( and the inmense majority don't even get paid that much at that). In their ideal world women would be degraded for free...and it shows on how many try to make their gf/ wifes their personal unpaid pornstars. edit: grammar a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 01:13 PM
29

Just got informed that a girl from my uni ended it with her boyfriend of almost 4 years by blocking him from EVERYTHING at once. His friends are pissed off and debating if they should contact her ( they are not blocked on her social media...hopefully yet) to demand explanations. I couldn't help but think this sounds too much like a FDS break up to be just coincidence, doesn´t it?. It seems like FDS is expanding all over ladies, just wanted to inform you of that. Edit: grammar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 06:55 PM
48

That the concept of "hatef*ucking" even exists tells you everything you need to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 06:48 PM
14

Honestly this is one of the reasons I fell into the world of c-dramas. No that they don't have their own problems....but at least warrior women wear real armors on them and men and women mostly keep the same ammount of clothing on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 05:10 PM
9

This rigth here is one of the reasons I try so hard to vet pickme women in my circles. They will believe his cocodrille tears and therefore thy will put you in danger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 06:56 PM
14

Tbh in past years I've seen this trend where women "need" to be witty and sassy with men because that's the way to be a strong woman,etc..and I could never connect with that . I tried my hand at romance books because I wanted to practice more english but the "sassy" heroines and their "witty/sassy" flirting with the hero (that in this genre is usually a LVM douchebag) turned me off it pretty quick.....then I realized that there are real women out there that follow this routine even to reject men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 12:08 AM
10

I remember this gem of a comment that said that loving connecting sex was the most subversive and rare because for it to happen the man needs to see you as an human and really care about you. And doing this in a world full of hate and dehumanization towards women is basically a rarity . And I couldn't agree more with it. Edit: grammar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 01:43 PM
8

In principle I agree with you but... Confession time: I do have productive hobbies (several you listed like reading, creating things and researching)...and I also have several non productive hobbies. And I regret nothing. The idea that EVERY single thing I do has to lead to self improvement/ self care and be productive in some way is just anxiety inducing to me. I need that "wasted" time in which I disconect and just exist watching a pointless c-drama every other week. Tbh I think men need to st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 04:44 PM
21

I'm not an american an over here almost everybody drives a stick ( i do too). The obsession some american guys have over how driving a stick is so manly and superior has always been super weird to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:41 PM
13

I have a Bj rule "You stay still and DON'T F*****G DARE TO GRAB MY HAIR/FACE" or we are over". I'll be dead before a scrote makes me his "face f*****g " sex toy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:01 PM
4

I like them between 5'8 and 6'2 (I'm kind of tall but I dislike being much shorter than a potential boyfriend A LOT, I better be as tall as him if I'm enduring the pain of heels). I like them to have very good posture, hygiene (specially well groomed hands/nails), to take care of their skin, clothes, diet, exercise and sleep (I'm leveling up in some of those ways so I can request them from a significant other). And I hate guts with the heat of a thousand suns (sorry but xys don't get pregnant, m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 08:33 PM
5

FDS has been so great. I have not dated in years, have no plans to in at least another one...but I so love seeing women waking up and not letting themselves be another bangmaid. My absolute favorite part is everything related to leveling up. I LOVE it. And hope to level myself up to the standars this place preaches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 10:27 PM
6

Definitelly no other group of women can creep me up like kinkmeishas do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 02:05 AM
8

Ditto
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 01:52 AM
3

I'm SO ready for this conversation (a pick me was conspiring behind my back to ruin my life this way and several years later I still can't get over it).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 10:13 PM
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I confirm. Men that are atractive to me are men that don't date just everybody. It's exactly like you said: they do not play hard to get but are very discriminating about who they have long term relationships with and that makes them all the more atractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 01:48 PM
3

Preach it! There's this group for my college's students in social media and I got so much hate for saying men should use sunscreen and clean their nails (they asked!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 10:08 PM
3

Over here journalists have written several articles about how local women are hot but local men...are not. I literally had 0 atractive classmates in high school. There are hot guys in college but they are few and far in between ( and many of those are gay or taken, so you have very few candidates before strating to vet them for personality). Edit: typos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 07:30 PM
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Went over there to read...and HOLY s**T. No wonder they hate this sub with the heat of a thousand suns. I would too if I had to live their lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 01:43 AM
26

My favourite bot in all reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 05:57 PM
97

Unconditional love is for children and for pets. Adults should always aspire to conditional love ( ans set their own conditions).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 04:44 PM
12

I would do if we are engaged ( with a date and a plan, no forever fiance game for me ). To me it's important to test the relationship further by living together before we tie ourselves legally. Edit: typos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 07:16 PM
2

This is THE BOOK. I look at it as a kind of a bible. My only regret is that I haven't gotten my hands on a copy on my mother tongue so some women on my familuy can read it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 09:50 PM
13

ditto
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 05:08 PM
2

Me too. Good luck to you all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 03:48 PM
2

So many handbook worthy posts these days :')
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 05:32 PM
21

This is handbook material tbh. Thank you so much *taking notes over here *
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 12:25 AM
2

messaged again through the web site. Hoping my reddit story is enough...but most of my posts were on gender critical...so I don't know if that is invissible to mods now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:29 AM
2

This should have more upvotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 08:45 PM
6

Colombian here. Our vice president (a woman, mind you) just declared that obligatory military service should extend to women too because "there would not be more sexual abuse".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 09:25 PM
14

Ditto
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:25 PM
27

Girl what are you doing? :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 03:24 AM
3

Already read it but I'm in!!! I've been wanting to discuss that book for a very very long time now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 02:34 AM
11

What is your only social media account is your reddit one? I have no FB, no TW no IG...and thought that my post history (3 years-ish) would be enough, but I was wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 04:46 AM
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I'm trying to fix my hair (horrybly dry and frizzy). Cut it at home and have been doing treatments. I'm also trying to fix my chipped nails and improve my posture. Makeup to me is strictly for special ocassions only. But You do you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 07:36 PM
13

Holy s**t it's true. I actually found gender critical by pure chance once on google search and stayed there for a couple of years (until today actually). But i'm sure that "deaddeyes" sub with photos of women dissociating because they can't stand the porn they are starring on is up like always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 06:40 PM
3

Ye Hua from ten miles of peach blossoms. I've never been one to look romantic dramas, but THAT man was worth it because he just loves Bain Quian so so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 11:33 PM
9

I have read his book twice. And even when I've been very very privileged in that I have not been in an abusive relationship it was so eye opening. I could pin several of my friend's and relative's boyfriends and husbands on the kinds of abusive men described. It should be mandatory for women and girls everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 04:05 PM
12

I think Chump Lady is the like FDS for infidelity. I'm young and have not been cheated on (yet, I'm not going to tooth my own horn here). But reading her blog has been priceless even for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 12:11 AM
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I was a teenager when it became popular and one of my high school friends lend it to me....good god it was so so so bad, not only is the relationship portrayal a nightmare, but the writting is so bad. I couldn't believe an older woman had written that thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 12:30 AM
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Preach it!!! I was a teenager when it came out and I remember being spechless with how badly written it was (Inner goodness anyone?).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 12:28 AM
2

I never had male friends until recently, and limits are cristal clear: There's NOT any kind of innuendo in our interactions, touching is a rare thing and in my case communication is almost always virtual instead of hanging out in person a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 06:14 PM
22

It's like choking. A "safe" way of choking someone DOESN'T EXIST. But the pro choking croud can't just say "it's unbelievably risky but I like it" oh no, they want it rebranded as breath play and if you mention the risks you are a frigid prude and sex negative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 04:44 PM
1

This comment (the replies) is all you need to know about nudes: https://np.reddit.com/r/BlackPeopleTwitter/comments/5kxh5z/my_snapchat_is_slick_rick/dbrk769/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 04:10 PM
3

Me. From 18 to 25 ( so I've spent 7 years single as of now). My first and only relationship was good, but I noticed several promblems with myself (low self esteem, absolute lack of boundaries,etc...) and subconciously I knew I needed to fix all that before dating again because other men would prey on those things. Some time later other things got in the way ( I was seriously sick for several years, it made me drop out of college,etc...) and I wasn't gonna date in such a vulnerable state. I'm get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 03:52 PM
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Because you can't develop a effective dating strategy if you don't understand what most men are like. It's a grim world indeed but being in denial about it here of all places wouldn't do this any good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 03:25 PM
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And they have height preferences too (generally they want the woman to be shorter, some are even more specific and don't want her to be over 5'3" or even over 5'0), making them even more hypocritical about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 01:46 PM
17

Because it usually works for them. Bro code 101 is "always ALWAYS deny everything. Even if she catches you with your pants down and your peen into another woman"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 12:23 AM
11

I remember when gender critical posted about that f*****g dead eyes sub and my stupid self decided to go take a look. It's been months and it still haunts me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 10:28 PM
3

Most important book I've ever read in my whole life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 05:53 PM
8

latin american (born, raised and living) here. Lots of macho culture, lots of feminicides, lots of victim blaming, old macho culture mixing with "new" mgtow and red pill on younger guys (just my age peers, oh the joy/s). Honestly I have not dated in a long time and have no intentions to do so for an ever longer one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 05:39 PM
3

I also live in a south amercian country and all you say it's true here as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 09:54 PM
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Lowder for the sisters in the back! NEVER.TELL.MEN.YOUR.FLAGS. Those are for you to know and for him to show (so you dump him and don't look back) or not to show (so you continue dating him).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:46 PM
1

It's already happening. If any of you can stomach it look up Snuff porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 04:30 PM
16

FDS is not Cosmo Magazine; we’re not here to give you “50 tips to please your man” ... And that's exactly why I like this sub. Edit: typos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 04:39 PM
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I wouldn't discard that he was doing it on purpose tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 04:05 PM
2

Girl same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 03:40 PM
4

This...the tiniest bit of disrespect and ypu have to get out. How else do you expect to live with a human with 50% more stregth and muscle mass without being intimidated by him? he has to respect you A LOT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 02:30 AM
1

Wow I didn't know (don't really follow pop culture) I just know that I didn't like her solo music and even prefer the halo cover by LP. I feel I just lost a lot of respect of her all of sudden
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 06:42 PM
10

This seems to be the fds rule I've been applying subconciously since a long, long time ago. I'll add: NEVER EVER send them those long a*s texts or voicemails telling them how they have hurt you. Just block and move on. Don't give those men the intel to deceive the next woman even better than they deceived you. Edit: typos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 04:34 PM
2

Well now I need the names of the other four books so I read them on 2020 :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 08:07 PM
4

As everyone in this sub should... I consider it more important and life changing than any other book I've ever read (including the very expensive and specialized books of my career).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:45 PM
8

The best f*****g book I've read in my entire life. One goal of mine is getting a harcover paper edition of this book in my native tongue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 11:37 PM
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Get at least the 25% advancement in my degree with good grades. Get a resting cardiac frecuency <75 beats per minute and get more flexible and stronger. Learn to style my hair ( guess this sounds weird 'cause I'm a grown ass woman but I can't just ignore it anymore) Get EXCELLENT posture Redo my entire wardrobe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 11:35 PM
1

It's amazing!!! I always thought I was a naturally messy person but the method is so simple and effective at the same time, and seeing my stuff perfectly organized/ knowing where everything is/not having things I dislike (I'm done with clothes, books and papers now) is so freeing. I even feel more sharp, focused and happy now. Hope you can get your husband on board and do it in ypur home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 06:06 PM
1

Books and papers decluttered and organized using KonMary method= check.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 03:37 PM
2

I second this. If I was her I would be in panic searching every major and minor porn site I could possibly know of and every forum (and subreddit) after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 11:28 PM
13

Because many are uploading the films to pornhub or other porn sites and tagging it like "amateur" or directly like "hidden camera porn". Edit: forgot to specify I'm talking exclusively about sexual related films on this comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 10:39 PM
5

I got into my dream college this year...after 9 years of wanting and dreaming, it's finally real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 01:09 AM
11

wtaf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 04:23 AM
12

This is why even if he's the better, most loving, most dotting husband and father out there you don't give him a single kid that you couldn't support without him. If that's only one or two, so be it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 07:59 PM
7

My whole country is like that. There are even some articles about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 05:29 PM
3

It has to be, I feel so sorry for those women. repackaging it as FDS advice: That's why even if there's always a possibility you can be deceived (some men are just that cunning) you still have an obligation with yourself and your potential children to filter the s**t out of any man you are considering reproducing with. It's basically the most important choice of your life and if you get it wrong your lifes (not only your life, your kids lifes) will be ruined for at least 18 years and probably ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 03:10 PM
9

My mom's advice on this topic is... Controversial I guess, but here I come: you don't give a man more than two kids (except if you have twins, triplets, etc..) , ever. That's because each kid means you are risking your health (pregnancy, giving birth) and additionally your career and ability to move are always going to be more affected than his, so having a number of kids you hopefully could support all by yourself if he was to leave (or die, our lifes are not secure after all) should be high on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 02:35 PM
2

My idea of getting my shit together in december is Decluttering my spaces using the konmari method (got the book a couple weeks ago and I'm hooked). ¿Someone else up to that challenge?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 06:24 PM
19

As someone from one of those countries where first world men come to abuse women and children in sexual tourism this doesn't surprise me. I basically have an almost paranoid level of distrist for first world men that come here to vacation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 01:58 AM
3

I just ask myself "does this kink promote the imaginary of women as objects to be degraded and abused?" if it does (choking, slapping, calling me a ct or a b*h, etc...) I won't do it not only for personal preference, but because for me that's like, female solidarity 101. I am also very, extremely wary of anything that could make my subconscious associate orgasm with pain, so any talk of "exploring my limits" by gritting my teeth through painful anal, or gagging during oral or a man suggesting so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 03:10 PM
10

Came here to recomend this. THIS BOOK IS NOT AN OPTIONAL READ LADIES. It's literally one of the most important books all of you are gonna read in your whole lifes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 01:43 AM
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Smart. I kissed a guy on the first date once years ago (because I still was a dorrmat unable to say no and he didn't have any coldsores) and he gave this exact type or herpes to me .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 12:55 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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