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Some erotica is more depraved than live porn, with more severe topics, since the acts described don't have to happen to a real woman. It really depends on what its about. But as far as effect on the brain, I would think written erotica is less harmful, but I have yet to come across any statistics about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 08:26 PM
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Yeah god forbid a man date a woman his age when he has power or success 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 04:37 PM
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None of those women are ugly, and Zuckerbergs wife actually looks like a model. I sense some racism there too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 04:12 PM
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I LOVE Drew. This is a really good video from her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 08:43 PM
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Better to not have children than have children with a LVM just to have them. I’m sorry society treats you this way. I wish we could normalize alternative lifestyles and life choices. Not having children does everyone else absolutely no harm. It shouldn’t matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 06:48 PM
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People claim femcels exist when men like this exist. You can’t be a female incel when men would have sex with anyone and anything just to get their dick wet. Only female volcels exist because they’d rather not have sex than have sex with these trash men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 07:44 PM
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If I am blunt at work, I get told I "have an attitude". If a man were to do the same thing, no one would care and people would think he was being "direct".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 12:56 AM
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It shouldn't even count as babysitting. They're your own children. You are not sitting, you are just being a parent. More women need to be childfree until a man who will care for their children like a father comes along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 08:02 PM
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I'm considering reading the book The Body Keeps Score. I flipped through it the other day when I saw it at a bookstore, and it made me realize how all the trauma in my life has affected me and left me as this person with crippling social anxiety. But I know now that, I have the wisdom to avoid those situations. It is SUPER important to listen to your body. If someone makes you feel anxious or nervous, that is your body signaling danger to you, even if it doesn't make sense to you because you lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 06:25 AM
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Ew, break up with this manslut asap. He was probably is still using them all for emotional labor, as well as using their bodies before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 04:43 AM
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Maybe if the cops spent their insane budget on these kind of departments that help women and children victims of abuse instead of unnecessary shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 03:44 AM
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I'd rather make a scrote uncomfortable than risk losing my life when a man actually has ill-intentions walks towards me fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 02:06 AM
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Is that actually Brian's twitter or some other sick fuck making a joke?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 02:01 AM
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I feel like there is a really suspicious reason he needs someone with a car. Like he got his license suspended for some reason. He is offering to pay for everything, but can't afford a car.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:28 PM
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To be fair, I've had little to no interactions with cops in person, aside from walking and driving past them. It's sad that POC have to be taught how to act around them from a young age or risk losing their lives. And there are people who act like nothing is wrong or this doesn't exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 05:03 PM
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Never really seen one be misogynistic like that bearded one in something that was clearly not the case. I knew not all cops were good, and I had heard the domestic violence statistic before, but seeing it play out in the reality of a video was pretty eye opening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 04:21 AM
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I'm never dating a guy that looks like that lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 01:20 AM
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Once I tried to explain to an acquaintance how he was gaslighting a few of us women. He legit could not see it, and thought he was doing nothing wrong. Even though I didn't understand gaslighting at the time, and he explained the definition to me, and it fit what he was doing, he still didn't think he was doing it. They can understand everything perfectly, and still not have the self awareness or take the time to self reflect and understand how their own actions are toxic. The only thing I could…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 12:49 AM
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Okay, I'm going to guess the bearded cop is one of those then. That's why he ignored the fact the 911 call was *because* she was being hit by him, and then proceeded to claim she was primary aggressor. Brian's smug face when they tell him she is the primary aggressor should say it all. He's glad he got away with it, and the bearded cop was more than happy to let him get away with it, and continue gaslighting that poor girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 12:37 AM
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If you watch the cop cam footage, she says he had his hand on her face. Most likely the scratches came because she was defending herself against him being physical with her first. She’s gaslit into thinking she’s the one acting ridiculous. This is a typical cycle of abuse. The cops never mention his hand on her face, and just assume she is the primary aggressor. It’s fucked up, and the bearded cop is just a misogynistic ass who is all for “equality” if it means prosecuting women. Luckily the cop…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 12:17 AM
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Yep, had a guy who told me his height, was the same as me, and I was looking down at him. He tried to hide it by having us sit down the whole time. It was weird as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 04:17 PM
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She even says more, then that isn’t good enough for him. Seems exhausting to date him, no thanks 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 04:09 AM
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At work, I can be a bit blunt, and it comes across as rude or “having an attitude”. If a man is blunt, he is perceived as being direct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 01:10 PM
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Time for a divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 02:15 AM
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Great idea! Thanks for the suggestion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 07:04 PM
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His wife probably bought the frame and he had only bought a fish tank lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:38 PM
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There are men’s only spaces everywhere. We can’t have a single place to ourselves in peace, so this subreddit is like a breath of fresh air.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 03:31 AM
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Yep, I had shared with him my salary info (not intentionally or directly but I said I was paid twice as much as another company when he was questioning me without realizing I had disclosed how much I made before). After that he was constantly commenting on us going out (not offering to pay for us both) and he saw me holding bags and ask me if I had a ps5 in there for him 🙄 like we make about the same amount and he wants me to buy him stuff? We aren’t even dating, aren’t even talking. It was hell…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 03:27 PM
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Omg a guy at my work does this. At first I thought the same, that he was just attracted to me, but he was leering so much I thought he just wanted to bone. When we had a conversation for the first time he was asking super personal and odd questions, but it didn’t feel like he was getting to know me genuinely. It’s like what he had to do to get me to be comfortable enough with him. But it just gave me major red flags. Eventually he got my number, which I regret giving him, but I was still feeling…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 07:48 PM
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I think it’s kind of questionable his last response, but the comment you said before kind of prompted it. I’m not sure. Like if everything is super casual, his comment is too far I think. Need more examples to say either way.
/r/askFDS15/08/21 06:38 PM
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Me too, I like Shawn Mendez. I haven’t watched any interviews or anything but he seems like a sweetie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 08:04 PM
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Imagine the life she would have had if she disregarded Charles the Creep and did go live with her Econ friends that had backed out because she was dating an older man. He is absolutely predatory, and she still doesn't see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 03:36 PM
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The mental gymnastics she does to justify all his weird behavior or the fact that she literally does not know him at all is so familiar. She has a whole inner monologue about making him uncomfortable when really she should be calling him out on all his weird choices along the way. At the very least she could have gotten his real age out somewhere. Age is something I try to figure out right off the bat, because I am worried the guy is either too old or too young for me. In my past, I’ve done that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 10:32 AM
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"If I shove enough love in her face, she will *have* to love me. That's got to be how it works." Yeah, forget genuine connection and building intimacy over time. The fool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 03:28 PM
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This is why you can't have guy friends. They always have an ulterior motive, and his is painfully obvious. You should outright reject him and stop beating around the bush. Tbh, the only time I see attractive men anymore, as in dressed and groomed well, there is like at least an 80% chance they're gay. I really don't know what happened to straight men. It's like they gave up because some pickme will accept them and applaud them for their zero effort no matter how shitty they look. And it's hard t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 03:56 AM
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Yeah, it was during an argument about this subreddit in a small, private discord. It was all women, and they were calling FDS female incels under the guise of female "empowerment". I actually found FDS when they were making fun of it earlier this year. As I looked at the subreddit I became absolutely obsessed, because it opened my eyes to how fucked up it was I let guys treat me the way I had been doing. But yeah, when I pointed out how the subreddit is actually against the fake female "empowerm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 03:31 AM
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If this was a male rectum exam, it would be illegal already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 12:53 AM
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Last time I mentioned liberal feminism to one she went off on a tangent about how she hates how everything about liberalism is demonized these days. Like… that’s not even what it’s about. No one gives a shit if you’re a politically liberal or not. It’s the type of feminism you believe in that’s off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 12:39 AM
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I knew/kinda dated a guy who said his ex would punch him and be physically abusive, but it kinda felt like to me like he was milking the sympathy card. Maybe she was genuinely abusive, but it was like an excuse for him being fucked up and not treating me properly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 12:32 AM
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You can get divorced and be free of someone instantly after the divorce. If you have a kid you’re tied to that person the rest of the kids life… the kid could be 35 getting married and you’ll have to see your ex at the wedding. There is no end to it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 12:30 AM
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There are a lot of good women authors these days :) if you ever feel compelled to read again, don’t let the patriarchy dissuade you. The online book community is very diverse these days. The New York Times top whatever, not necessarily, but it’s getting better. Booktube and booktok are going strong. Stories about people of color and lgbtq characters are more mainstream now, like on television and movies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 02:53 PM
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So delusional. They’ll look 20 years older than they are but expect to date someone 30 years younger than them. Even guys who are like 35 looking 50 trying to snag 21 year olds (or younger). Makes me want to puke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 08:30 PM
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Preach! The only way I’m quitting my job to have kids is if the husband is paying me a salary in a separate account from his.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 02:57 AM
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I know, and I love it. True Queens here 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 12:57 AM
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He could not realize it implies sex, but I doubt it. He probably was trying to see if you were down to fuck so he could get laid. I would hope a HVM would realize what the invitation implies, and would be understanding of how an invite like that puts your safety at risk as a woman and wouldn’t want to put you in an uncomfortable situation. You could explain why before you drop him and see his reaction but again I doubt the guy is that dense. He probably wanted sex.
/r/askFDS17/07/21 04:42 PM
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I can’t remember a single time I ate in the car with a boyfriend. I do remember being taken out to dinner at restaurants or to places like the beach, the bird sanctuary, even the damn movies. Car meals are not a date lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:03 PM
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Thanks for this perspective. It’s always better to be true to yourself and follow your own path than to be tied down to someone, following theirs. I’ve had such amazing experiences in my life and it was due to things I decided to live out on my own. Up until recently I always thought I would meet someone or need someone to have a good life, but now I know I will have a good life regardless and the only way someone else is joining me is if they add value to my life and treat me better than I trea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:22 PM
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I had a friend send me a few page essay of stuff, and she basically blocked me afterward so I couldn’t respond. I’m not going to read something I can’t even respond too, and I won’t feel bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 11:15 PM
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I’m very confused after reading this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 08:44 PM
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Well the goal is a long term partner, but I know it’s a lot of weeding out to get there, so I think enjoying some dating experiences on the way would be nice. Definitely no hook ups or anything that goes against FDS principles. Would be nice to have some different people to talk to so I don’t crush on anyone at work, but I’m trying to unlearn that and am doing pretty good I think. Thanks for your input! I think I’ll consider a blend of both. I just dread the OLD profile making process but maybe …
/r/askFDS08/07/21 10:12 PM
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Thanks for this reminder! It’s always good to remember that if someone leaves your life and hurts you in the process, that should be their one and only chance. If they wanted you, they would have tried their hardest that first time. All you get second time around is their regret at losing you (due to their actions) and someone who is coming back because they have no better option (at the moment). That could change in at any moment, only now you’ve wasted more time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 06:10 PM
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Meanwhile you have to do the mental labor of delegating basic tasks to a man child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 04:21 AM
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Nope, even without makeup a lot of women are more beautiful than men, who rarely even use skincare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 04:51 PM
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Ugh the amount of times I nagged my ex to declutter the shit he had, a lot of which he never touched for the years we were together, and I had to move all his shit when we kept moving too. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:41 PM
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All those examples are more like 80/20 with the man paying less. Women do the choosing. He has to treat me right if he even wants to be considered. Also over time a woman will give more in a relationship anyways, especially if child rearing is involved. 50/50 is never equal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:49 PM
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That’s a great idea if anyone has a leach like this in a group. Just ask for your bill separately and let the rest of the group figure it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 04:12 PM
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Yeah I don’t like that phrase because that implies once you marry you will be doing all those things. I still expect my future husband to pull his share and do extra things for me on top after marriage. More like don’t do maid things for a man period. If he can’t do his own cooking and cleaning for the rest of his life or hire a real maid himself, pass. Edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:28 PM
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And then women are shamed into accepting it or else they’re shitty partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:20 PM
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I do five years younger or older at the most. Any more than that, pass. I’m interested in hearing others opinions, because I’ve never heard specific years, just that a large gap (usually 8-10 years or more) is bad. I think this varies if you’re really young. Like obviously a 20 year old shouldn’t date a 15 year old. Feel free to disagree.
/r/askFDS28/06/21 08:30 PM
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They’re obsessed with us, and get angry because we don’t want them, so they take it out by inserting themselves in any way possible. That’s their way of getting our attention they so desperately crave. That’s why it’s best to ignore and block, no responses or clapbacks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 06:54 PM
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So many guys will deck out their gaming systems (“battle stations”) spending thousands of dollars, but act like it’s ridiculously expensive to buy an engagement ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 06:44 PM
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You’re not wrong. Should have called him an “unempathetic” scote instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 07:55 AM
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He makes 3 times as much as her and forces her to go 50/50? Her stomach is literally growling because she is starving herself to pay for these expensive vacations, and you can’t buy her food? This oblivious scrote doesn’t deserve to date anyone. This is why you NEVER go 50/50. You want to date someone generous, or else it’s not worth it. She can live her own life, save money, and not be his fleshlight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 11:20 PM
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You make NYC sound disgusting. I’ve never been there but now I really don’t care to go 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 09:31 PM
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yawn No one cares tbh. But thanks to the mods for keeping us shielded from these losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 03:11 PM
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Being “expensive to date” is the new energy I want to give off. Edit: reminds me of my other favorite quote from here “Do not approach a goddess without offerings.” By /u/mscristalconnors
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:28 AM
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Yep, my step dad has it for work, and when my mom flew (like the first and only time in her life), they got it for her too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 12:21 AM
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Ah yes, another example of men making things worse rather than helping uplift women’s communities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 06:53 PM
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Going out to drink with a girl is a red flag to me, especially if they hooked up before. The other stuff is questionable as well. If he wanted to be with you, he’d have saved his money and do something nice with you. This shows he is spending resources on spending time with this random girl, and that seems like a conflict of intentions to me. A HVM wouldn’t have drinks with a female friend. He’d respect you and not see women in inappropriate places like a bar late at night.
/r/askFDS24/06/21 06:17 AM
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This! If you aren’t feeling it, that’s all you need. Your intuition is telling you things you maybe cannot put into words. That guy seems exhausting. Like he’s taking up all your energy and time, and then not even being fun to be around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 12:36 AM
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All great perspectives! Thanks for this post. Lately I’ve trying to learn radical self acceptance. Love myself first and be in a state of joy and well-being as often as I can. If things are not bringing me pleasure emotionally or physically, I push them away or pretend they don’t exist. I’m also having to learn boundaries and when to say no, and feel out what I am comfortable with. Sometimes these things don’t come to me until I realize that a boundary has been crossed. Recently this guy has bee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 12:24 AM
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Yo I was straight up about to report the fuck out of this post until I saw it was tagged Humor and realized it was satire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 07:18 PM
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He’s so close to getting it yet so far.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:58 PM
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Then men would fear us like they should, and sex would always be consensual, because he’d be too scared otherwise 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 02:25 PM
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You’re totally right. This is what I’ve realized since discovering FDS. I wasted so much time on men I never met and would never meet. Reading this was just confirmation of what I already had learned but if there are any women out there reading this who feels like OPs post rubs them wrong, reread it and begin to accept. These relationships are not real relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 11:07 PM
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For what, sis? What did he do for you besides waste your time? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 10:35 PM
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Definitely judge that man, and all men who you date. It’s how you weed out the ones like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:21 PM
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This comment should really be higher up. It’s actually not okay. I hope OP blocks the flasher and considers blocking the enabler too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:50 PM
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Don’t give away $75k PER YEAR for a man. That man better give up his life for you if you make that much MORE than him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:47 PM
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Look at any older male celebrity today vs when he was young. Men are way more attractive in their youth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:58 AM
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Move on and don’t worry about him unless he makes the effort for a date. Don’t let him hold you up from meeting other men. You aren’t exclusive with him, and FDS encourages us to be open to dating multiple men at once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:27 PM
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Exactly this! I also observe beautiful women, but I don’t creep on them or do things to make them feel uncomfortable. I am not entitled to their bodies or their time. Women observe and respect femininity in a way much different from men. So it’s clear where the problem lies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:19 PM
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I just started Intercourse, and it’s been an experience so far. I want to read more by her.
/r/askFDS13/06/21 02:14 PM
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Keep at it, because sex is really not worth the risk if you aren’t having an orgasm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:59 PM
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Yes. Like her point in the video was correct, but damn sis, don’t do men’s emotional labor for them, especially for free. Don’t be men’s therapists unless you’re actually a therapist being paid by them. I used to have guy friends who I discussed things like this with, but what I noticed is there was an imbalance. They could discuss their relationship problems and confide in me, and I would offer help dissecting it and making them feel better and understand, but whenever I went to them with my re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:49 PM
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Is that a bunch of pickmes pandering to scrotes? I love the mods for protecting this subreddit from men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:32 PM
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All comment sections on Reddit are just a pile of dogshit. I can’t ever read one outside FDS without my eyes rolling constantly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:36 AM
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It’s really true they only listen to other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 01:14 PM
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Once I said here that I wanted to understand what MRAs believed (so I could recognize it and block them preemptively). And one guy wanted to DM me and go into the beliefs 🙄 no, I don’t want to talk to you as an ally, I want women to tell me the red flags they’ve experienced. They never understand this is women’s space, we don’t CARE about their opinion or perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 11:33 PM
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You can look but don’t touch 😛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:08 PM
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And it’s never the men being shamed for the same choices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:23 PM
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I think you handled the situation perfectly. I am against conflict and don’t feel like we should be obligated to clapback if we don’t want to. That’s honestly the only reason I hate going to the gym. It’s all guys and it feels like they’re all either creeping or judging me. I wish there were women only gyms.
/r/askFDS08/06/21 01:39 AM
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Ugh, off topic but I want to rant about how anything about women outside of this subreddit is just a bunch of men arguing the details of topics that don’t concern them. I saw a post about a drink “condom”, and the comments were arguing about how they were bad for the environment, and women had to say that one piece of plastic waste is better than being date raped 🙄 I hate Reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:24 PM
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Thanks for sharing the average people make from OnlyFans. That’s less than I make in a day at my job. It’s not worth it. Work, live a simple lifestyle, and put yourself through school instead. You’ll be earning more by doing so and not risking your mental health or future employment prospects.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:15 PM
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Yes, I love that. If she gave him a reason, he’d just waste another woman’s time by not being upfront about his real expectations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:50 PM
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It is not your fault! This man lied to you for many years, and that is on him. Just because your sex drive was low, it did not mean he had to cheat. People can live without sex. He betrayed you by doing this. Don’t let him gaslit you! You deserve better! Stay strong, we are here for you 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:34 PM
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If they had children, he’d probably just be whining she spends money on them and takes them places and gives them more attention 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:26 PM
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Just updated after I saw it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:16 PM
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I just count the comments shown vs the comments it says there are. Only approved comments which have been removed will show [removed]. Unapproved commenters (either women not given flair or men not allowed to post) don’t show that, but if you count comments you can tell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:25 PM
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This has been my mood lately 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:54 AM
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That’s the most hidden comments I’ve ever seen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:52 AM
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During an official interview prior to the murder he said he had a fascination with serial killers and doing a mass shooting was a “soothing thought”. Even if the patriarchy caused them to ignore his wife’s side of things, how the hell did they still ignore that? Like huge red flag. Are there other cops out there with guns that find mass shootings a soothing thought? For fucks sake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:42 AM
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Yeah when she’s like “you’re proposing to me in a parking lot” 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:39 AM
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Lmao I love the end. I wanna know what happens next. Edit: To watch what happens next you have to request to follow his insta 🙄 I’ll edit if I find out, whenever this dumbass accepts my request (I’ll unfollow right after) Edit 2: so I finally found it. Basically she snaps the ring case closed and told him no. She told him he needs to replan it because she “deserves better” (not wrong there, sis). He was like, babe I already planned all this. And she was just like no you have to replan it and wal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:34 AM
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Low body count, but high orgasms given count is what we need in a man 😉 if he pleased 2 women really well it’s waaaay better than having sex with 100 women and giving them all 0 orgasms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:12 AM
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The times I’ve been coerced into sex were a lot. Guys just don’t let up. And if you were on the fence or wanted to have sex anyways it’s easy to give in earlier (at least it was for me pre-FDS). Most women don’t consider this rape, but do you want to be with a guy that has coerced a hundred women into sex? It’s scummy as hell, and it means he does not respect women or what they truly want. You can’t ever be fully respected in a relationship like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:05 AM
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I love it here because of this, and any pickmes who just parrot men’s opinions get downvoted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:12 PM
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There’s seriously something true about becoming the person you want to date. Clean up your own act, and keep batting off the men that aren’t worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 07:31 PM
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He sounds more like an adoptive father than a potential husband, and that’s kind of fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:38 PM
168

I’m just gonna lie about how much I make to men lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:11 AM
47

Trauma bonding is part of the training. All people in the military need therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:08 PM
7

Yay! Been looking forward to this. Recently changed jobs and the amount of attractive men here is unreal, but unless one of them proves to be interested and HV, I don’t want to crush on any real life men, so I can fantasize about some hotties posted here instead 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:02 PM
43

All I see is a man who would rather watch porn than touch a real live woman. He should be so lucky to have anyone want to have sex with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 11:43 AM
2

Wow wtf. The difference is the wives in his life probably improved it with their physical and emotional labor, and he added nothing. So yeah, if I make a lot of money, I’m keeping it separate from a future husband. But I expect him to allow me access to his if needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 11:06 AM
94

That’s hilarious. The comments on that video are amazing. So many women caught their boyfriends with OF accounts and broke up with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:55 AM
39

I love it because it’s so subtle most men wouldn’t notice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:42 PM
11

I think lying about how much you earn is a good idea because some men are actually gold diggers. If you never join finances, they never have to know!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:24 PM
2

Every time I see an attractive man lately, he’s gay 🤷‍♀️ not sure when strait men stopped caring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 08:20 AM
9

So she works 40 hours a week? That’s also a lot. You chose the work you did, and if you can’t contribute with your own physical labor, you can hire a maid. You can clearly afford it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:45 PM
52

Right? Like just accept it as a meet up and stop acting like it's a date then. Don't act like meeting up for a cup of coffee is the same as pursuing the person you're meeting up with. It is literally the most casual thing in the world. I also have heard of women on here using a quick coffee meet-up (like less than 1 hour) with OLD guys to verify the guy is real (other women use a video call as an alternative to this). I can see this being a possibility, because I have encountered some guys who c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:15 PM
118

It’s sad they just dismiss it as us wanting a “free meal” instead of trying to understand we want a man who shows he can take care of us and values us. If he doesn’t value me enough to drop $20 on me, he’s not taking me seriously, he has a rotation of women, and he doesn’t see it going anywhere so he doesn’t want to invest in me. I could care less about him paying and getting a “free meal”. Like, dumbass, I drop $50 easily when I’m eating out with friends. You think I give a fuck about wanting f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:59 PM
111

Some big guys still have small dick syndrome though 🍤🤏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 12:19 PM
14

Don’t pay him back lol it should have been gifts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:39 PM
36

I report posts like this if I see them, which I don’t very often
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:25 PM
15

I think that she is trying to say, this person isn’t a true friend, but just keep her at more of a distance because of it. Like she doesn’t need to be in the most inner ring, where you share all your vulnerabilities to her, but she can be on an outer ring, where you are cordial with one another and hang out sometimes. I’ve started keeping a bigger barrier between me and people who aren’t considerate of my vulnerabilities, and it has helped me maintain friends and not cut people out. Not all of t…
/r/askFDS30/05/21 03:07 PM
22

I would pay money for that ebook!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 02:37 PM
2

Omg this! Men need us, and older women (read: women his age) won't put up with his shit, so he has to find a younger one to groom to do all the shit he can't do. Hire a maid and a cook, and be done with it, if your "kingdom" is really doing all that great! (doubtful) Meanwhile, we're trying to teach our younger generation of women (and the older ones who haven't learned) that you don't need a man. All women can be perfectly self-sufficient and take care of their own without a man. It's the men w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 01:41 PM
45

It’s insane how many times I’ve seen women consider or tell me I should consider it. Like yeah a lot of them do it jokingly, but that doesn’t make it okay. They’re dismissing the realities of the situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 02:04 PM
71

Nothing else makes me lose interest so fast than a man doing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 06:14 PM
67

Like you can learn? How the hell do they think we learned? If my mom didn’t teach me, I googled it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:54 PM
125

How embarrassing for the both of them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:49 PM
55

Why is this so spot on 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:37 PM
13

I have a friend who’s biological dad is black. She looks beyond white, practically albino. You can’t tell people’s ethnicity by their looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:25 PM
12

I’m sure other ladies have great advice, but this is mine that I want to make a point of. Even if you get married, have your own account on the side that your paycheck goes into. You can have a joint account his paycheck goes into, but you need to have your money and income separated from him to protect your own financial resources. There are horror stories of men draining the mutual account, so don’t let him have access to all your funds. I wouldn’t make a big deal out of this to him, and if he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 12:30 PM
31

I can only see 11 out of 18 comments at the moment. Bless the mods for all the comments they have to see and spare us from seeing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 12:12 PM
70

I’ve only had gay men and women tell me I should consider Only Fans. It truly is an epidemic. Yeah, let me expose myself for men’s benefit and to make less than I would at my job. Totally worth it 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:35 AM
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I love this episode! I am going to relisten to it for sure. Here are my thoughts so far. I have wondered if I was on the spectrum before, and back then it was hard for me to find information before because autism presents itself differently in women than men. I am going to see if I can get tested for it in the future. Hearing these ladies speak about how they have to move through different frames with interacting with different people makes so much sense to me. I have to script myself in a certa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:16 PM
17

She’s me too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 11:27 AM
26

Block the guy. He just wanted you for sex, and now he’s mad another guy gets access to what he considered his sex object. Find someone that wants to be with you, not just use your body. If that’s how the new guy is, then great :)
/r/askFDS27/05/21 04:15 AM
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I like how it’s the actress that played Pam calling it out. It shows how a real woman would think and feel during these situations, and notice inconsistencies in the relationships Pam as a character has on the show, because Jenna lived through them when she acted them out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 04:01 AM
29

You just proved why men are better as fantasies than in real life 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:12 AM
93

If I did this with my ex, he never have gotten any gift. Not even a candy bar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:42 PM
15

These days they don’t have any gold to dig anyways 😂 Very interesting video. Thanks for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:15 PM
5

I might change it to that. I don’t get angry DMs very often though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:34 AM
5

I don’t have elaborate conversations with them or anything. It’s only happened once or twice, and I assume they are just lurker women or just found us and haven’t made enough posts to be approved. Like one gave me advice on cleaning. We know it’s not a scrote if they’ve got pro cleaning tips 😂 but sometimes women who are OPs here or at askfds also DM me and elaborate on their situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:23 AM
11

If I remember right, the scene would cut right before the woman was about to be raped. I don’t think they showed actual rape (I could be wrong) but it was heavily implied some of the female ai people were raped. And you’d see some grabbing and stuff right before it’d happen. It’s been a long time since I saw it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 02:37 AM
113

Guarantee a lot of those likes are from overweight men lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 02:28 AM
15

I wanted to do that too, but sometimes women from here DM me if they aren’t approved commenters yet 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:56 PM
15

I totally agree with you about parents needing break, and it’s up to each one to provide the other breaks. We all know he will get his 3 hours of gym time, while he spends almost no time taking care of the kids or helping the mother outside gym time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:55 PM
17

His anger and your tears are not the same. For one thing, his anger caused your tears. And second, both men and women can be angry and cry. He can’t imply these two emotions are the same in different genders. His anger was caused my him being agitated with you. Your crying is caused by him being mean towards you. I agree with your friend. This is not good behavior. It will likely repeat and/or escalate again later on if you just let it slide this time.
/r/askFDS25/05/21 11:11 PM
85

Please make a list! Would love to read that. RPers are our big enemy that I know very little about as far as ideologies goes. We need more informative posts about them so we can spot them and respond accordingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:03 PM
16

She needs to dump the husband and date the guy who is actually putting in effort. Scrote wanted to fuck around not realizing his wife was already a prize someone else would gladly snatch up 💁‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:25 PM
97

I don’t even entertain the guys that message me acting like allies to FDS. If you’re a man and you’re reading this, this is a space only for women. We don’t want your comments, replies, or messages, even if they’re positive and you’re an ally. We didn’t ask for your input. If you’re an ally, great! Be an ally and leave us be, thank you. If you really want to help, tell your female friends about us. Be supportive of us around your male friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:45 PM
139

Because men have to mansplain everything so your tiny female brain can understand (sarcasm). How would we understand anything without their help? It’s a toss up between that and needing to outdo everything because they need to be the center of attention. Or... stupid porn addicted brain comments like “need source... for science” or some other stupid sexual remark that somehow gets thousands of upvotes and dozens of awards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:37 PM
40

84/100 and you’re supposed to be flattered?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:26 PM
9

They met and dated in high school I think, so that’s why it’s been so many years without a ring. I don’t think high schoolers should get engaged. But now they’re out of high school, it’s time to figure out what is going on for the both of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:08 PM
16

I went to it, and it is. They have a bunch of unfunny videos, like him pranking her and making her cry because she’s scared. It’s ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:06 PM
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If they had nothing to hide, it wouldn’t be snooping. A lot of people discover this stuff by accident anyways. Like my friend discovered her fiancé never deleted his Tinder account because she opened his computer and his email was up, and he had gotten an email from Tinder. She didn’t snoop, she was looking something up by borrowing his laptop, and it was right in her face. And if women want to snoop, why is that wrong? It’s protecting yourself from wasting more time in the event there is someth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:59 PM
19

Omg lol I would have just been like “I don’t know” so they can’t judge me. It’s probably considered discrimination lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:28 PM
59

The last one is ridiculous lol like your rising sign doesn’t even affect your personality as much as the other stuff. Also who hates on one sign and refuses to speak to them? There are always good and bad eggs in every sign. It’s ridiculous to assume they’re all bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:32 PM
39

A conversation that is like “so are you my girlfriend?” And then getting a “yes” from you is actually way more respectful of you and what you want, and someone is not HV if they do not respect your boundaries and wishes and ask for consent on things, even non-sexual things, like at the beginning of a monogamous relationship. My ex also didn’t ask, he changed my Facebook status without officially asking me, and in hindsight it wasn’t okay. Towards the end of our relationship he raped me by initia…
/r/askFDS24/05/21 02:58 PM
34

Ehhh, it’s a red flag though.
/r/askFDS24/05/21 01:56 PM
17

Did he ask you to be his girlfriend or was he just assuming lol
/r/askFDS24/05/21 01:46 PM
23

In my opinion, in over 10 years, not accepting and overcoming that, and still holding onto the grief where it affects you in a way that makes you actually cry, is a red flag. It shows me he has poor coping skills, has not been to therapy, or tried to move on. Even without a therapist, most people overcome that grief where they can talk about a passed loved one and not tear up. On the other hand, I have had traumatic things that have happened to me in the past over a decade ago, and if I had to e…
/r/askFDS24/05/21 01:39 PM
48

I love this. I have it saved on my phone as a reminder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:34 AM
15

Yep, men don’t realize they’re gaslighting. They’re not like “teehee I’m gonna gaslight her”. They are conditioned to operate this way to get what they want or feel better about themselves or as you said stay out of trouble. So if you call them out on it, they will get defensive and not accept it and never change. Like you can’t call a narcissist a narcissist. They won’t ever see what they are. Unless they get therapy and try to change (which probably would just enable them more tbh). They’re br…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:01 AM
33

Thanks for pointing them all out! We should list the red flags for men we feel unsure about, and seeing them all at once will suddenly give us a clear picture. For the telling her he’s a good person part: It’s a fine line between, they always tell you what they are, and if they have to tell you good character traits then they’re actually not those traits. We need to learn to identify the difference. A guy once told me he had an addictive personality. At first I took it as, at least he’s aware an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:40 PM
5

I think it depends on what it is. If it’s something serious like cheating, no second chance of course. It should be an instant break up. If it’s something minor, I don’t know? I would need an example. Like even minor things FDS usually considers to be red flags and breakup worthy. Small red flags are predicting future bad behavior, that’s why we don’t allow for small red flags and cut them off at the first sign.
/r/askFDS23/05/21 12:01 PM
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1-2 days is more time than he spent while living with them? How is that even possible, he must’ve been going out of his way to not spend time with them! Imagine divorcing and forcing 50/50 custody. Women would suddenly have SO much more free time! While men would just struggle, but good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:44 AM
81

If you have more chores and less sleep, what is he good for then lmao oh right, probably orgasmless sex. THE DREAM (sarcasm).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:34 AM
24

Someone go rescue her please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:27 PM
44

Probably because a lot of men are colorblind. I can see this being a genuine issue even if the husband isn’t playing dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:24 PM
327

If a woman wants that cute cottage house she’s gonna have to do it on her own pretty much. Looking for a trad male will only get you abused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:17 PM
20

Maybe he means condoms, idk lol or furs? None of the things coming into my brain for that are good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 11:53 AM
7

Fuzzy teeth lmao that’s worse than when I went on a coffee date with a guy who had face dandruff and looked way worse than his photos in person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:54 AM
35

I think they are trying to change the narrative so that it is empowering for women in the future, by acting like it is now, but like men are still going to treat us like trash until the patriarchy is completely dismantled. Hoping for the best for sake of “empowerment” while exposing yourself, your body, your reputation, and your mental health is stupidity. Libfems are just allies to the patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 01:31 AM
31

I wonder how much of the shift is from an entitlement mindset that a lot of western cultures have. Great post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 09:26 PM
28

He’s definitely a LVM as a character, but the actor is dreamy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:42 PM
39

Yeah, it’s like they have nothing to attack so the call her old and ugly because they think all our worth is tied to being young and pretty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:45 PM
47

I don’t understand... I would probably just block as a default. I can’t interpret what that means, and I’m scared for you.
/r/askFDS19/05/21 08:46 PM
19

Yeah, if someone is really excited about their type, they’re probably mistyped. When I discovered my true type, I hated it for being so accurate that it made me uncomfortable. I wished to be any other type. They’re probably ISTPs or ISTJs instead, and just haven’t bothered self-reflecting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 08:45 PM
29

I know right! A lot of “ENTP”s aren’t really ENTPs lmao I had a female ENTP friend who I knew very well how she functioned, and all those fake ENTPs just want to think they’re super smart like comic book characters (had one literally compare himself to Iron Man when he told me his type).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 08:15 PM
18

Yes, I think he means he’s built like a Clydesdale, but he says he is a Clydesdale 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:48 PM
77

Young Jude Law is absolutely dreamy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:38 PM
3

That’s a good point. I prefer to talk to people privately than in a comment on a post, so I get him liking but not commenting, especially if you’re newly dating. I would give it time. Maybe he’s going to congratulate you in person with a gift and/or flowers. If you meet up, and he literally does not mention it, I would re-assess after that. He should at least have shot you a text imo, even if he didn’t comment. So unless he redeems himself in person or over your next talk, I would say he is not …
/r/askFDS19/05/21 03:18 PM
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I know right, even he knows it’s the truth, but he’s got to make a disclaimer so he doesn’t get people pissed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:12 PM
50

Megan Thee Stallion has a lyric that goes “probably got your favorite [man] on my block list”, and I live for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:51 PM
5

I can’t stand watching them and their dumb libfem views, so I’m just here to read the comments 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:48 PM
124

When she said he’s subscribed to other girls OF, oh no no no. Are there women out there letting their boyfriends subscribe to look at other women naked, meanwhile they’re probably going on 50/50 dates? What the fuck shit is this-
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:46 PM
154

As I watched more of her videos, you can tell all she’s seeing in OLD is driving her nuts haha just makes me glad I’m not on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:16 PM
73

Saw a video of a man fucking a stuffed animal in Target. They don’t even need a vagina to cum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:35 AM
144

Just have them go undercover as nail salons, and men won’t give a shit or even realize . I’ve never seen a man in a nail salon (save the ones that work there). I would love more women only spaces. I get anxiety going to the gym mostly because it’s mostly men, especially in the free weights section. If all women gyms existed, I’d be way more comfortable and willing to go. I actually never realized until now but men are mostly what have always made the gym uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:42 AM
35

Men who just want to live in peace and be left alone in life don’t get bothered. If women want the same thing, it’s like we are treated like we are mentally ill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 10:36 PM
3

They willingly come here and look at these posts LOL I don't go to [redacted] and get triggered then threaten violence on the users.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:45 PM
3

I believe in the US. I can see why in some countries it’s worse. So globally my coworkers argument has even less to stand on. Also there’s a lot of unreported rapes by women who are with a long term partner. Her argument was that it was because men and boys are ashamed so they don’t report it. That might bring the statistics closer a little, but no way is it 50/50 with that big of a gap, and considering some girls also don’t report.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 12:29 PM
53

I just started Men Who Hate Women by Laura Bates. I think it might be what you’re looking for, but I haven’t gotten too far yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 08:10 PM
12

Just had an argument with a coworker about how women are typically victims of sexual abuse as young adults or children. She had to convince me that things were equal between men and women statistics for abuse. I told her I highly doubt that. She wouldn’t let it go and tried to convince me that they were equal. Well I actually did some googling. 1 in 5 women are raped, whereas 1 in 71 men are raped (probably by men more than women). So yeah, things are TOTALLY 50/50 🙄 Edit: here are some more sta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:11 PM
24

Probably the same type of guy that argues how OF is empowering to women, only to steal their content for free fap material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:05 PM
13

24 hours? I give it 2 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:04 PM
9

Yep, other men smell really good naturally. But smelling good naturally doesn’t indicate HV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:01 PM
19

You want more babies? I want a ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 09:56 PM
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They probably don’t find her attractive because they’re attracted to children
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 08:27 PM
24

Don’t pay money if you’re not on the paperwork. Also why is he not trying to marry you? Is it your choice? And answer that honestly, not if he is gaslighting you to believe you don’t want marriage.
/r/askFDS16/05/21 02:25 PM
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I went and gave her a bunch of hearts on her videos. This is pathetic. Scrotes can wear makeup if they want to be beautiful too 💁🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:51 PM
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The last LVM in my life had immigrant parents who left him with trauma that turned him into a covert narc who gaslit me on a daily basis. Don’t assume being non-white is a green flag. The rest of your commentary is pretty on point though. I think these men are why we have so many Trumpies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:49 PM
16

Kinda same to be honest, but its because I am prioritizing paying off my loans and then saving/investing before buying furntiure and decorations. I am making the most with what I have though. It sure as hell isn't a mattress on a wrong size frame and an outdoor chair LOL and like the other person said, it isn't something I am PROUD of like the guy who posted those pics. My futon sofa and twin sized bed are just how I have to live right now until my income picks up. At least my mattress isn't on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 12:30 PM
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Came to the comments because he is just... wow. I hope he is okay :( I just want to point out, these types of comment you would NOT see on a post about a woman, because men don't care if their sex objects / fap material are doing okay. Women on the other hand actually see men as people, and care for their well-being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 12:10 PM
16

lol don't be ashamed. His cheap ass could have bought a couch if he wanted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 12:05 PM
12

That was a good read. Thank you for pointing out how TRP basically limits the dating pool for itself by existing and encouraging these tactics. Women wise up, but unfortunately it takes awhile, and that's how these young women get exploited, and then when they're over 25 (or basically smart enough to see the red flags) the men consider them "over the hill". That's why they target the young ones (aside form being pedophiles). Still, I have faith in the younger generation. These young women are ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 11:43 AM
23

Yep, even when I want to have a nice time on Reddit, only posting in FDS, I still get DMs from the scrotes who can't reply here. I don't CARE what they think, AT ALL. Yet they still have to interject their opinion by messaging me. Like fuck off dude. Even if you aren't against it, I still DONT CARE about your opinion. That is the damn point of a women's only sub. Even if you support us, keep your mouth shut and leave us alone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:17 AM
56

Oh wow, with short hair he is even more attractive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:57 PM
134

Right? And I don’t go to those porn subreddits and feel bad about myself, I stay out. So they can stay out too. Actually good on us, I hope we do this next week too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:24 PM
394

Not all the scrotes getting mad at fine af Friday 🤣 How do they think it’s been for us on this site filled with porn subreddits?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:18 PM
100

This is why I won’t tell strangers my name when they approach me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:37 AM
3

Yeah if I do I was gonna ask if I can transfer my flair when I do switch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 10:45 PM
44

My LVX was one of these guys. His wife divorced him while the child was still in the womb. He never told me details why she wanted to divorce him. He acted like he didn’t know (probably a lie). He wanted nothing to do with the kid, since the mom divorced him. He ended up having to pay child support and was pissed about it. A HV man would have wanted to take care of the offspring he helped spawn (willingly) even if the mom did want to leave him. I should have seen the signs early, yet 5 years was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 06:17 PM
89

This is how they grow up and just look for mommy bangmaids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:11 PM
48

I had someone scroll back to my one post in another sub where I commented how the persons fireplace bookshelf was cute. They commented “oh you wouldn’t like it, a man made it” or something stupid. I went back to the post and there’s no indication of gender. For all they know a woman made it. They scrolled back so far in my history to make one snarky comment. Probably trying to stalk me for identifying info. Don’t trust any men on Reddit. I’m considering changing to an alt account even though I m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:33 AM
22

Can’t believe we’re already at episode 10! I’m listening now. This opening story had me on edge 😰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:28 PM
7

For me, I try not to fantasize about them. No future fantasizing, no fantasizing about romance. I only acknowledge actual actions they take. If I do end up fantasizing, I acknowledge it’s a fantasy, and try to stop. Or I try to switch the fantasy to a fictional person, character, made up, whatever. I haven’t been romantically involved or had a crush since the last one months ago, so I’m still learning too. But maybe because I haven’t had a crush recently that means it’s working.
/r/askFDS12/05/21 04:10 PM
22

I knew a guy who legit wanted to do that but he kept failing the psychological test. I didn’t realize this at the time, but that must have meant he had some serious issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:03 PM
21

Yeah, the last line really got me LOL it was just the cherry on top of a perfect scrote cake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:09 PM
88

They’ve been gaslight beyond sense by the patriarchy. The poor dears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:00 AM
121

No, he is “above average” 😂 I came here to say he hit a wall too, but he can’t date “post-wall women” (probably just women in his age range).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 10:57 AM
2

Yeah, the best I could do was listen to her and offer my perspective. She’s gonna do what she’s gonna do. She saw my points and I guess I understand why she wants to continue. She made an okay case for the guy. I just wouldn’t do the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:48 PM
58

Or they’re projecting
/r/askFDS10/05/21 10:32 AM
43

Playing with women only is such a different experience. I’ve met a few kind, patient male gamers, but there’s so so many more that are how you described. I did a super competitive game for years, with roughly 45-minute matches, where if you didn’t do things almost perfectly, the other team would win. It caused a lot of toxicity because the other team could just be better players, but that didn’t stop the people on my team from flaming each other. So I was afraid of going on mic at all, because m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 10:14 AM
8

Trust me, I’ve tried to convince her of all of this and she just won’t hear it. She’s also considering not marrying him, but is still considering buying a home with him??? I just don’t know. We talked for hours about it, and I couldn’t sway her mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:45 PM
11

Hi, I would like to message you some more details so I don’t post her super specific information publicly. But I was advising her against putting his name on the house since he is contributing nothing, but her logic is that she believes if they separate later, they can just sell the house together. She believes he will help pay and split things accordingly. He also is aware of how much he owes her, and brings it up regularly on his own. All of that is still nuts to me, but I couldn’t talk her ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 02:07 PM
10

Yeah, she would be an amazing mom too. But one idiot swayed her away and she’s too tired to date again. I will keep talking with her, and try to hang out with her more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 01:44 PM
40

I’ve tried but she doesn’t want to worry about dating again at her age she says. I’m like... do you see me stressed about dating? Before him she was single for a long time living a good life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:30 AM
218

My friend who is not on FDS (that I’m aware of) told me she doesn’t want kids with her fiancé because she doesn’t think he’d help her out enough. She’s already paying off his debts and putting her savings down for a house, while he contributed bare minimum financially. She already does most the housework. So she decided she didn’t want his kids all on her own without FDS there to help her, despite wanting kids all her life. But this is just fundamentally something wrong with women, right? The ot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:53 AM
7

He deserves it all? Sis what does he give you besides mediocre dick?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:07 PM
53

It’s like any of their real issues with us are actual lies, or just broke scrotes being mad we don’t want to do 50/50.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:55 PM
59

A man is a choice, not a treasure 😂 we should treasure a person who can’t even clean their asses properly and stop masturbating to porn? Like, sis... you are so confused. What happened to you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 04:31 AM
14

I don't think they would compare it to revenge porn, but you never know the type of mental gymnastics they might go through. But I think it might be illegal to record someone without their knowledge in some areas? Either that, or at least it wouldn't be able to be used in court, depending on the state (they sound American).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:14 AM
83

I kind of want to see more of this type of content. Like genuine treatment of women by their boyfriends recorded without their knowledge. I don’t think I ever dated anyone this verbally abusive, and it is eye opening to me. I have been gaslit before but not in such a tense manner. Obviously those that find this triggering should avoid watching more, but I find it fascinating to see what kind of treatment other women have to endure. Honestly I hope more guys like this get recorded and exposed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 09:52 PM
89

Also a red flag if he called other women names, even casually or non aggressively.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 09:23 PM
71

Ew. I knew a guy who actually believed that, yet his wife waited 8 years into the marriage to have a kids and still kept her job lmao whoever wrote that, I hope his wife just thought “yeah okay Paul” while she continued enjoying her hobbies and life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 10:15 AM
4

“Stop expecting other women to be her free therapist” Yep. I had an online friend who spoke to me daily who would make these bad decisions, and then she would come and tell me about them and expect me to break down the dumb situations she willingly put herself into. We were both 30. She was seeing a new guy every week, or even less, and sleeping with them. And she, like me, just wanted a relationship, but why sleep with all these guys then? Then she had drama with them every few days, and I had …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 09:28 AM
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Yeah, I agree with you there. Around my friends, I state my standards as if they are normal. I find that a lot of women will not disagree with me, as long as I am not attacking them for their experiences, but rather focusing on the men in the situations we are discussing. If anyone, friends or otherwise argues with me about any FDS standards, I just pull back and don't waste the energy. But I agree keeping standards to yourself during dating and silently being aware of how people are treating us…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:57 AM
182

Men always be saying theirs is touch but my ex didn’t even hug me when he came home lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 12:31 AM
29

Because we are still living in a patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:32 PM
20

You’re a blessing! I wish more women would do this for women. Men promote men all the time. Let’s look out for each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 07:19 PM
53

Yes yes yes If your mental state is better without him in the picture, why the hell is he there?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 07:18 PM
35

Oh yes, some people are obsessed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 06:22 PM
57

I’m not even combining finances when I get married, what the hell 😱 I’d get a joint account for bills, but my paycheck is going into my own account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:06 PM
50

I’m fostering 4 right now, and it’s too much cleaning 😩 2 are actually mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:04 PM
33

She should buy the house she wants. She’s paying for it anyways. He is contributing nothing for a down payment. He might pay “rent”. But he does not need to be on the title for her home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:02 PM
133

Is that why so many guys are into Shrek? Met a guy off tinder who literally went to a Shrekfest across the country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:57 PM
3

Lol really? I don’t follow red pill ideologies enough to know the details of what they truly believe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:40 PM
25

They’d complain about a box of chocolates too. That’s actually more than most men give as far as gifts go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:58 PM
83

I know right? Like it sounds outrageous until you realize this is already what’s expected of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:25 PM
322

Yeah, that reinforces he’s a red piller. If his own brother is like wtf, he didn’t learn this logic from them. If the red pillars all turn out to be gold diggers, I’m gonna laugh my ass off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:32 AM
136

Men not wearing makeup is normal, but if you see men wear subtle natural make up, it does make them look more attractive. Yet men can go without makeup and be taken completely seriously. A woman risks missing out on job opportunities and promotions. Men and women are both attractive with or without makeup. In an ideal world, it should be personal choice and our character what determines our career choices and likelihood of growth in our careers. Unfortunately this is not always the case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:21 PM
5

I didn't realize the first time I saw the first pic. So he is recording a girl working out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:00 PM
38

Asking Reddit for dating advice is just asking to be gaslit. You should point her to here or tell her to ask in AskFDS or even here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:18 PM
24

They can’t show empathy for women, only other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:16 PM
55

Definitely, but she seemed into it, and didn’t seem against it, so I don’t think she considered it harassment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:05 PM
109

Imagine 5 years when they’re trying to get jobs or their coworkers dig up their nudes and spread them around work. Or their future spouse finds them. Like... why is this encouraged? And people at work were saying, just don’t show your face, like that’s gonna make it okay or even get you a lot of money to make exploiting yourself for gross men worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:20 PM
42

Like 21ish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:15 PM
202

It was female coworkers encouraging her. They were even saying things like her clothes and manicures could be written off 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:27 PM
743

Yeah, I just act like it’s normal too. Like people encouraging a coworker to get only fans. I was like, why would you want to sell your nudes? and went on about how it’s messed up to advertise to teens to get only fans. They kept encouraging her, but I still acted like it was fucked up, because it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:05 PM
246

Lmao those terms. A lot of men are just maid-diggers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 06:54 PM
15

I don’t, maybe if I heard the name. You could DM me it. I made a comment about it on the level up discord I think, where they were advertising it. They said it’s one of the top ones that shows up when you search women in disboard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:43 PM
19

Actually just pulling out your phone and recording might make them uncomfortable enough to stop. But be careful if you are alone, because this could cause some men to become violent. Or they could think it means you like them or something and approach you. Maybe not the best idea actually.
/r/askFDS03/05/21 01:45 PM
207

Yeah once someone was advertising a discord server for women and women’s issues, and at the top the owner/head admin was a man, judging by their profile name and how the present themselves. And then they wanted me to send a video of myself to get access. I left right away. Too often there’s men running these servers and women acting like it’s completely normal. Like, no, gtfo. Even if you’re an ally who is sitting back and listening, why the fuck are you on the top / the owner of the server, whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:44 PM
1

This is so helpful, thank you for this! I’m saving it for later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:05 AM
35

It would be adorable if crowns were a normal daily fashion item.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 12:53 AM
2

I look for red flags that are commonly talked about here, also any I am able to recognize from personal experience. The reason red flags are important is because they indicate behavior that will be damaging to you or the relationship later on. The example I can think of recently, a guy at work who is married but in an open relationship, I happen to be his exact type. He tells me his wife is bi. He’s a narcissist, constantly mansplains me. I don’t find him attractive in the first place but a youn…
/r/askFDS02/05/21 10:44 PM
6

Yeah that’s a good point. With my friend group at work it’s half gossip that’s good to know, and half “backbiting” gossip. So I’m trying to find a balance, and not participate in it unnecessarily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:50 PM
132

Is that why Reddit always gives me toilet paper ads? I was always so confused but I guess with their demographic, now it makes sense 😧
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:27 PM
37

Lately I’ve been wondering if my work environment was toxic because of all the gossiping but maybe it’s just people warning each other about other situations they have been in 🤔 maybe some gossip is useful?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:30 PM
5

Hi love. I have definitely been there. I would also put everything aside for the person I was interested in. I wanted to be with them as much as possible, and quickly neglected stuff I needed, yet they would easily deny me when they had things to take care of. Try to cultivate that same love with yourself only. Now I can identify situations where my love and care for myself outweighs anyone else. I can see people who are interested in me and identify immediately how being with them would cause m…
/r/askFDS02/05/21 01:45 PM
5

I had that nagging intuition and I was gonna listen. A few months it was all “break up with him”. But I didn’t listen and wasted years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 11:46 AM
59

Yes, I would be pissed my husband is lying to me and can’t tell me if the jewelry he got me is real or fake. Probably some $3 ring off Wish too. All the people gaslighting her for wanting real gems 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:26 AM
1

I had a network error, and my post was a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 06:26 PM
1

OPs name is sus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:46 PM
34

Poor girl probably trusted her boyfriend to not share and had no idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:23 PM
2

What does “athini” stand for? I realize it’s probably the subreddit but idk what it means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:07 PM
5

“If the genders were reversed” Okay, let’s see you be a great wife then, pop out some kids, raise them well, and take care of all the cooking and cleaning, and still be “hot”. I doubt this scrote helped out with any of that as the husband. Let’s see if he can do the same as a wife lmao he acts like he wants her to get a job, but he even if they retire early, I bet the house work will still fall on her. Alternatively, make her get a job then hire a maid and personal chef. Let’s see how much you s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 12:20 PM
7

That would be a want then, not a need. A woman who is self-sufficient doesn't need a relationship in life. She can want one, and many of us do. But we will be able to live without it, in most countries at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:54 AM
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You should reread the handbook. Romantic relationships are not a need. They are a luxury that we can chose to seek out on top of an already fulfilling life. The rest of the sentiment I agree with in that, people act like we are boring or wrong if we just want fulfilling vanilla sex, and not to fulfill the fucked up depraved fantasies of a LVM sexual partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:42 AM
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I found it from female friends. They were making fun of it, then I started to read the posts here, and I had a moment like "wow look at these misandrist women *nervous laugh* wait..." then I realized they were right about everything, and I couldn't stop reading, and here I am. Total flip for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:34 AM
91

Don’t tell them to fix themselves so they can get a second date and waste more of these women’s time 😩 lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 08:04 PM
38

That’s why it’s better to not call them out. Just block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 07:45 PM
17

For me, lately I have been determining if I want to do something when asked. Like whenever someone asks anything of me, I have to think, will this bring me personal pleasure and enhance my life? or is it only for their benefit? If it is only for their benefit, I gauge whether or not they add value to my life in other ways. I struggle because maybe I have become too harsh to where I am not looking out for friends, but then I filter that by looking into whether or not that friend was a good friend…
/r/askFDS30/04/21 05:23 PM
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Yeah there’s no way around it. Don’t go to their place, might have cameras. Don’t take them home, might get stalked. There is a reason we avoid sex until we have vetted them long enough. Not to mention a lot of LVM weed themselves out after we don’t sleep with them for a few weeks. A relationship isn’t a good indicator either, because some men will enter a relationship just to get you to put out. I plan to wait a few weeks or months into a relationship, but I will NEVER tell the guy my timeframe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:15 PM
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If they’re inviting you to their house, they’re trying to get sex. They might pressure you until you give in, or wear you down until you say yes, or even worse. Don’t go to their home, even if it’s someone you’ve known for awhile. Vet in public places for several months. This guy might just want sex.
/r/askFDS30/04/21 12:35 PM
3

Yep! Best to just protect myself and avoid the drama, because they’re all good friends with her, even if it’s just something minor I wanted to talk about.
/r/askFDS29/04/21 05:57 PM
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It could be that they haven’t experienced that type of sex. But I’ve had partners do anal without consent and it’s not okay. Since I’m still relatively new to FDS, trying to figure out my beliefs, it’s challenge but also maybe helpful, to be confronted with stuff that contradicts a lot. edit: deleted some details for privacy
/r/askFDS29/04/21 05:35 PM
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Thank you, I’m reading about how to grey rock today. It’s just unfortunate because I don’t see a need to do that with the whole group. It’s mainly the one friend who is the problem for me, and they’re all like sheep for her. Even now something is going on in the break room and I want to text the group about it, but I don’t know if that one friend will elevate the situation later, or make it out to be something it wasn’t because of other similar situations she did that.
/r/askFDS29/04/21 05:33 PM
3

I am very private about my sexuality (as in sexual stuff I find arousing, who I sleep with, etc). I don’t like to share that with other people. Yeah, that is a good plan, just keeping a distance. I struggle because I don’t have many friends irl. I often wonder if I am the hard one to get along with. But that’s probably something I need to dissect in therapy 🤔
/r/askFDS29/04/21 05:20 PM
3

Yeah you’re right. It’s objectification of women, and even if the woman in the friend group is okay with it, it doesn’t mean I have to be okay with it. The strip club example fits perfectly. Im not sure if I can educate them, because then I’d just be like a Debbie Downer (which I really don’t care, but I also don’t feel like expending energy to defend my discomfort).
/r/askFDS29/04/21 05:14 PM
2

I made a post in AskFDS today where I was in a similar situation as you, but I haven’t actually seen anyone naked yet. So far the advice I’ve been given is that, it’s fine for me to feel uncomfortable in these situations. If you want to go read it, they commented on how it’s not me being too prudish either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 03:22 PM
6

Recently I had car issues, and I asked her for help. By her enthusiastic response, I suspected she enjoyed the fact I was in a situation where I had to be dependent on her. edit: deleted some specifics for privacy
/r/askFDS29/04/21 03:17 PM
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Thank you. I’m reading about grey rocking today, because I’ve heard the term but never tried to use it. This seems like a good solution to dealing with that one friend. I struggle because it’s not me being sexualized personally, but it is a person in our friend group. I question if I have a right to be uncomfortable because it’s not me? Especially when the other girl is okay with it? And I think it’s still not okay. It’s usually so black and white for me when it comes to men and LVM. But with fe…
/r/askFDS29/04/21 03:16 PM
3

I thought it looked really familiar too but maybe it was another guy with a similar rant?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:09 PM
28

Even femdom is focused around male pleasure. There is no winning with BDSM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 11:29 AM
23

I would feel uncomfortable going to a burlesque show my friends were starring in. Only exception would maybe be a women only one, but ever since that thread about red flags with dating women, I realized a lot of lesbians also sexualize women. How can I see that as empowering? Not even just the male gaze but looking at stuff from a sexual gaze weirds me out. Our sexuality should be what we find attractive and arouses us, not how we want to display it to others, becoming those lenses through which…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 11:24 AM
16

I’m early 30s and the thought of meeting more than once or twice a week for a casual date would throw off my routines. I would end up neglecting other areas of my life. Even a spontaneous dinner out with friends after work throws me off. I agree with the other poster it might be normal depending on his lifestyle. If I was in a relationship, maybe I’d see them more but I haven’t hit that point yet since my lifestyle changed. My time for plans are my “weekend” which are my two days off. If it isn’…
/r/askFDS29/04/21 11:10 AM
10

This was a fascinating read. No judgement from me, but thinking about juggling this many men seems so exhausting to me. Were you seeing them all at once or did they just overlap some? I want to date multiple men at once, but I find social interactions tiring 😩 Maybe it will feel like less work letting the men pursue, as is the FDS way. Jason sounds like my coworker lol I can’t even have a normal convo with him, because every sentence I say gets mansplained instantly as a response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 02:13 AM
22

I never realized how pickme most disney princesses were. Like I've been to Disney a lot, and the princess are always adored by everyone, but the new princesses, or princesses that are more independent, are just not as popular as the classics. But I love the new wave of independent princesses like Moana (haven't seen the new movie). I want to see more of that. It's just sad that "princess" implies you need a "prince" to become a queen. Nah, Disney. I don't need a prince to become a queen, get out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 08:53 PM
40

This is still me right now lol I wish it was me when I was in high school though...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:00 PM
11

You aren't replying in any way are you?
/r/askFDS28/04/21 01:27 PM
40

Forward the email to his mom lol But joking aside, that’s worrisome. I would consider keeping a copy of correspondence in case you have to build a case for the police. Otherwise just block his email. Is he emailing from different ones?
/r/askFDS28/04/21 12:30 PM
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I made the first move with a guy at work once because he was moving, and I was like why not, if it gets weird he’s leaving. Better try now before I miss out in my chance 🤡. Well I think maybe he was kind of interested too but never bothered because he knew he was leaving. (Basically he didn’t want me enough) So we dated for like a month, and he was an okay guy, bought me food, took care of me, he even let me meet some of his family. Never had official dates though. He kept talking about the futu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 12:13 PM
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Sometimes I get women from the sub who message me, but it’s a risk. I think one was a poster not approved yet, giving me cleaning tips I had asked for, and the other two just wanted to elaborate from their posts. If you’d rather not risk reading a hate DM, instantly blocking is probably best. Because I have gotten those too. They’re usually so contradictory it’s kinda funny, but at the same time it can disrupt your peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 12:00 PM
6

Never realized this was a thing. Now I know what it means if his dick is bent to the opposite side of his dominant hand. Another way to check for porn sickness, nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 03:02 AM
11

Yeah I never will get sport pride. It’s all super boring to me. The rivalry between teams? I just don’t get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 02:57 AM
2

Hey ladies, I am late but dropping in to say I loved this podcast! I know everyone is anti-OLD, but I unless I date men at work (also discouraged), it is more difficult to meet men to potentially date in person. But I loved the mindsets you guys presented about dating. How women are the prize, how men outnumber women, and how we should go into a mindset of easily dismissing men that have even a hint of a red flag. It is all great advice, also loved the idea of a "scrotation". Last time I used OL…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:10 PM
2

You can turn off notifications from your phone and discord. If you use discord outside of work, make an alternate account to use when you are off the clock that is not tied to this one. Don’t answer or respond unless it is during work hours, and then keep it professional only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 09:10 PM
38

Don’t marry this guy. All of these things are huge red flags. Anger is not justified. Those things he calls you are abusive in nature.
/r/askFDS26/04/21 07:14 PM
3

Knitting sounds awful lmao the other things sound fun though! I have been wanting to get into cooking more than the basics. I read books a lot when I have time! I enjoy it a lot. If I did horticulture I’d do indoor plants only most likely. I just rarely find these as relaxing as “vegging out” but it’s because I spent so much time for years gaming instead. I’m just having to relearn how to be different, which is why I think gaming and tv are such bad hobbies to introduce to children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:40 PM
5

I definitely think it’s fine to like “veg out” once in awhile. As like as you aren’t neglecting kids and pets, but I came from a place where I would use it as escapism all damn day. And that is definitely not healthy. I used to be horribly addicted. And having left that behind, I have trouble letting myself know it’s okay to just relax and veg out for a little while (not all day). Im struggling to find ways to relax, and accept it’s okay to just relax, when the escapism used to be my main relaxa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:15 PM
12

It depends on the game and how it fits into your lifestyle I think. I still have a gaming computer and a Switch. I just can’t game as much as I used to, and I want to use that time for other stuff like my hobbies. I have friends who ask me to play a lot and I have to tell them no because I’d prefer to read or sleep early or even just “relax” watching some Netflix. I think gaming culture overall is incredibly misogynistic. If I have children, I’m going to try to encourage them to have another hob…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:02 PM
3

My vagina dried up watching this video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 10:15 PM
78

Right? It’s their job to impress us, and let us know they are worthy and can provide for us. Women these days are so confused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 06:55 PM
10

You can share stuff by men, but not direct links or showing the subreddit, only screenshots with names and subreddits blurred. I’ll search it. And ikr. Like she didn’t divorce you because you left dishes in the sink. She divorced you because you expected her to be your maid 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 09:56 PM
26

Why Prostitution Shouldn’t Be Legal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:49 PM
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People always act like legalizing prostitution is liberating because it’s work just like anything else. They act like prostitutes deserve protection, but who will protect them from men’s degrading desires. Those people who support it are so, so wrong. here’s a link about the effects of prostitution in countries it was legalized
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 12:30 PM
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“Only now that I'm preparing for divorce does he "care" and want to get/do better.“ My ex also started to care once I was leaving him as well. Too little too late. They will claim we should have “communicated” all these years but we were. They chose to ignore it and take advantage until they realized there would be consequences. Even the things we didn’t communicate verbally, they should have known. Men like to act like they know everything, but when it comes to relationships they act dumb as ro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 11:48 AM
10

All of my names are unique. I don't think I have a way around this one. I just don't have a social media presence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 11:38 PM
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This! I will never understand those women (in this sub even) who act like incels can just shower and put on deodorant, and suddenly women will pay attention to them. That's just not how it works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 11:31 PM
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He’s probably older than her parents 😬 or very close to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:48 PM
21

Like what do her parents think?? I just can’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 11:58 AM
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“Blueballing women is fun, it keeps them coming back for more” No. No it does not. I legit stopped sleeping with a guy because the first time we had sex he went all out with foreplay, then the second time he just stuck it in and pumped until he was done. He seemed so confused why I didn’t want to talk to him anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 11:47 AM
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Don’t tell him anything, just block. He’ll get enjoyment from even a crumb of attention. Ghosting (followed by blocking & deleting of course) is always the answer.
/r/askFDS22/04/21 11:26 PM
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Yeah, I think some of the ones here are that cheap plastic, and the chrome has worn off some. There's still some buildup in general, and I have tried scrubbing. I'll try soaking with what I have, and next time I'm in a shop, I will look for descaler.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 08:01 PM
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Thanks! About to put on the FDS podcast and go to town cleaning. Someone messaged me and told me to soak the vinegar on it first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:53 PM
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I try to politely correct someone if I think a non-native speaker is mispronouncing a word they didn't realize (reading language vs speaking it causes mispronunciations a lot, even with native speakers), but I would never do it in a way that is looking down on them or interrupting them. I would let them finish speaking first. I can't speak their language at all, so why would I give them a hard time when they learned mine and are doing their best to communicate with me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:45 PM
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She is totally a pickme, but what cleaning product is she using on the drains? I moved into an older house by myself and I’m having trouble getting off calcium buildup like that 😭 I think the issue is the metal has just worn off some though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:43 PM
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How about connecting with actual human beings and having true intimacy with another person, instead of having weird fucked up, disconnected, abusive sex? That's the true decline of civilization.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 05:22 PM
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True, much less cleaning than would be expected of me if I dated a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 04:11 PM
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I’d rather be divorced 5 times than be married to a LVM for my entire life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 03:36 PM
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With how much he has abused her, I would say he is deep in the negatives here. He’s taken so much value from her life and left her way worse than he found her. At least most LVM don’t do this much damage (not that we should settle for one ever anyways). I spelt out the negative so people wouldn’t think it meant “no value”. There’s also “zero value man” but he’s not good enough for that.
/r/askFDS22/04/21 02:08 PM
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It’s because they pee standing up. Think about the physics of it. A waterfall like Niagara Falls has a bunch of mist and splashing at the bottom. A short waterfall where the stream goes over some rocks has zero mist and splash back. It’s gravity plus liquid hitting liquid at a higher height. You don’t see it but it’s there. Living with my brother the floor would get slick in front of the toilet if I skipped cleaning the floor for awhile. He would also always get pee droplets on the toilet becaus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:02 PM
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Hahaha same. Taking care of 4 right now, only 2 are mine. One sprays, and constantly gets in trouble. And someone keeps pooping on the floor once a week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 11:20 AM
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You can have him. Enjoy being gaslit on a daily basis. I’ll take my freedom and my peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 11:15 AM
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Yes, your friend cares for you way more than this NegativeVM ever would! Please get there safely. Please don’t let him know where you went. You must break contact, block, and ensure he doesn’t know where you are. Keep safety in mind #1 here. Be overly cautious please. It will be worth it. Just picture you and your pets safe in your beautiful new home at the end of this. Honestly I believe his illness is a form of karma for the way he has behaved in this lifetime. Don’t feel bad, he is pathetic, …
/r/askFDS22/04/21 05:15 AM
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Does he know the location of your “safe” place? If not never tell him. First get your pets safe. This guy sounds psycho and you and your pets are in danger the longer you are around him. Literally. Your lives are in danger. Do whatever it takes to get this in your brain. This man could actually end your life. That fit he went into has me super concerned he will turn violent against you one day, especially once he realizes you are leaving. Leave without telling him. Are there ever any moments he …
/r/askFDS22/04/21 04:55 AM
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Aw, no problem girlie. I hope I wasn’t too harsh, but it’s hard for us to tolerate those old mindsets once we’ve been here awhile. I hope you figure things out. We have all gone through the same things here. Stick around and keep reading. Read and reread the handbook. The mindset shift that happens takes time. It takes weeks or months to unlearn what we’ve been taught is standard all our lives. Parsing through all that is an entire damn journey. Go easy on yourself and just be more aware in your…
/r/askFDS22/04/21 01:05 AM
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I can agree with that. I used to be addicted to gaming when I was unemployed. Now I work full time. There is no time for games unless I neglect upkeep of myself and the house. I live alone with cats. Only on my two days off I can, and I have to dedicate at least a few hours each day to cook, grocery shop, clean, and do laundry. I say my max gaming time can be 10-15 hours a week if I don’t neglect things. But I usually read or watch Netflix instead. Definitely don’t have that time if I want to se…
/r/askFDS21/04/21 08:04 PM
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Lmao maybe her “low libido” was because the sex was bad. Probably no foreplay, no oral. He probably came after a few minutes and rolled over. I’d have a low libido too if sex was just that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:58 PM
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Probably doesn’t have close “emotional” bonds with his guy friends. It an indication of a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:54 PM
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For real, I was cozied up in my bed with two kitties and a heating pad. Fell asleep by 10, and I slept like a baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:46 PM
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I’m not a mother either, but be wary of being upfront that you have kids. I’d save it until a few dates in. Pedos will target you to date to get access to them, especially if it’s on a dating profile. Definitely never put it on a profile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:34 PM
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And if he pees standing up, and never cleans the bathroom floor, a thin layer of pee will build up and get slippery due to splash effect. Plus pee droplets he won’t clean up, so either you catch it and clean it yourself or they dry and you sit on them. Sharing bathrooms with guys is disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:32 PM
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You shouldn't have to nag him to do stuff, he should just do it. You nagging is also work from you. You have to expend the energy to nag someone to do basic cleaning things that anyone should do automatically, and even then he doesn't put in 50% of the work. He should take care of you and add value to your life. Look again at your HV list, and actually think about what adds value. None of that stuff does really. It's just standard decency. Him waiting for you if you need a ride is just something…
/r/askFDS21/04/21 04:50 PM
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Your LV list is waaaay longer than your HV list. You’ve recognized these traits are LV but let me reemphasize them. Too much time on video games = LV Not helping with the housework = LV Never helps cook = LV Split 50/50 despite you doing more housework/cooking = LV!!!! Friends with people who disrespect you = he doesn’t respect you = LV Forgets important dates = LV 4 years, live together, never proposed... LV. You’re his live-in maid, chef, and source for free sex. He basically upgraded from his…
/r/askFDS21/04/21 04:14 PM
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Guys just cut the rape scene out and put it on porn sites, don’t let them fool you. It’s masturbation material for sick men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 02:58 PM
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ATM I only trust women only spaces for most of my internet dialogue. You still have to be wary of pickmes, but at least you won’t get gaslit by men. Some men are true allies but it’s hard to discern. I was trusting of Derrick Jaxn but then I got burned when he was a cheater, so now I’m just out. Even if they seem like allies, I’m still sus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 02:14 PM
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I love all these. I haven't thought about how I would raise children yet because I don't see them in the next few years of my life, if ever, but I wish I had these things as a lesson growing up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 12:30 PM
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Not men on the internet trying to gaslight her to defend her boyfriend who is gaslighting her! Please go rescue this woman. She needs a woman-only space like FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 12:19 PM
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I know right! I saw a cute guy when I was out with friends the other day. I was thinking, "wow that guy is so handsome, haven't seen a guy looking like that in the wild in a looong time". Well, he was gay. His date showed up later. Straight men don't try with their upkeep, hair, fashion because the bar for them is so low. It's depressing. Even if he tries for the first few dates, its quickly downhill once he gets comfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 12:04 PM
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They're ViSuAl creatures lol They're really just lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:12 AM
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This is so cute!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 11:29 PM
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I had a guy who “gaslit” me but as a joke. Like he knew we both knew what was really going on, but he would deny it strongly, and sit there and argue with me. Even though we both knew. He eventually tried gaslighting me over serious things later. So yeah, if anyone forces you to question reality (seriously or jokingly) get out 🚩🚩🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:12 PM
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Thank you so much for this. I never made that distinction, but now it makes so much sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:40 PM
21

Like an ankle strap would be perfect and cute. My only fear is I’d accidentally kick someone in a crowd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:18 PM
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Because they want to bang everyone unprotected, but are mad if she gets pregnant because society pressures him to take care of the situation then (legally and socially). They want to spread their seed no strings attached 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:07 PM
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Could be a type of love bombing too.
/r/askFDS20/04/21 12:29 PM
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I wonder if the 4 comments not shown are women not approved yet or scrotes who got offended 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:26 PM
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Omg so true! Think of all the male birds that have colorful plumage to try to attract a mate. Males in all species really just need a hole. It’s the females that are (ViSuAlLy) looking for a male who appeals to them and are worthy of mating with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 10:59 AM
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If men like this were allowed in our spaces, they’d be flooding every post, and the newer women who know this stuff is true, but just need time to digest it would be able to justify the continued denial of the truth with idiots like this confusing them. I’m so glad this sub is women only! Because I also needed to go to the comments to get his post broken down into all the ways it’s ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 10:33 AM
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His whole post is basically saying, be with someone unattractive, but you must be fit and attractive. “Adventurous in the bedroom” So he wants someone to reenact his porn that he’s addicted to “Young/fertile” Pedo alert. I bet this guy thinks women peak at 18 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 10:27 AM
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He said he relapsed, but he never said he quit porn after that. All these dumb flowery words, and you still missed the point. The love died because you are addicted to cheating on your wife by looking at porn stars. Dumbass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 10:13 AM
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Well, date to be happy ofc. If he’s not making you happy, then why is he around at all? However, if you’re dating and happy, and you haven’t gotten married after a certain amount of time, red flag. If he doesn’t want to marry you, then he is still expecting his dream girl to come along, and he will leave you when he thinks he’s found her. A girlfriend in a long term live-in relationship without marriage is just a bangmaid for the man. He is just using you for sex, cleaning, and other benefits. H…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:52 PM
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Good on you! You sound like you are making the right moves. Never quit your job or settle for a man. Him asking you to quit your job is selfish. It sounds like you are passionate about what you do. He seems like a LVM. Working less, not wanting to find a job in his career, drinking and Netflix his only hobbies. Forcing the housework on you is a big red flag. He’s not a child, he can do 50% of the work. It would only get worse from here. He might even start to resent you for his own choices. If h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:45 PM
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I'm sorry that happened to you. It feels rapey when they just keep pushing after you've said you don't want to. Like why do I have to say no so many times. I've been there too recently. Two years ago a guy did the same thing. I told him I didn't want to have sex (because I wanted to get to know him more before doing it) and he just kept pushing until I gave in. I think he wanted a relationship with me but after that happened, I couldn't take him seriously or trust him. These things happen, and i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 01:04 PM
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Tried to explain yesterday how urinals splash pee back on you. My coworker had to mansplain how that’s not true and how toilet seats are much more unsanitary. They’re unsanitary because people either hover or guys pee in them standing up, causing a splash effect and a thin layer of pee on the bathroom floor over time. I just have up fighting him. Enjoy having pee splashed on you the rest of your life, you deserve it. I’m sure there are others but this was the most fresh. I will have to think on …
/r/askFDS19/04/21 11:36 AM
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She’s not orgasming because they’re probably forcing her to have fucked up “kink” sex. Could even be r*pe at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 05:00 PM
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Half of the text is “LVM/NVM”. I think someone’s projecting 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:23 PM
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Thank you for this link.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 12:47 PM
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A few months ago I made a joke about a guy having a small dick while we were gaming (he set it up, asking why I was looking at his dick with a telescope right in front of him zoomed in, when I was really looking at his face with it). I joked by saying, idk why did you think I needed this to look at your dick, what are you implying (implying it was small assumably). And he didn’t even laugh or respond, just seemed uncomfortable and was serious after that LOL I never got confirmation by seeing his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 11:00 AM
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For me, I just wanted a relationship, and thought I had to have sex to get one. My number is still in the single digits, and I’m in my 30s. I rejected a lot of men. There was no cock carousel for me lol even the couple of one night stands I had, what was the point? The guys didn’t make me orgasm. And having sex with them never got me a relationship. So fuck all that, I’m trying the FDS way now. I can reject men much easier, discern the losers from the guys with potential. And no point in having …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 10:52 AM
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Show me a story where the woman pays and then they get married - oh wait, it’s never happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 12:45 PM
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I think it’s suspicious the pics from other girls are up. And if he didn’t capture your moments, even though it’s been the same time frame, yeah kinda suspicious. Maybe he is hiding you because he has another girl. Trust your gut like the other poster said.
/r/askFDS16/04/21 11:35 AM
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Because it gets him attention from pickmes 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:48 PM
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“God Given desire” okay so if he desires to beat me to get his nut, I should let him? It’s not his fault for having fucked up desires, sure. It’s my fault for not wanting to be beaten or choked. Okay lady. Shes nuts. Has she even seen what kind of porn is out there? Men watch the most depraved shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 06:41 PM
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Why hasn’t he been elevating himself this whole time? I’m not gonna let him leech off me, devalue my car, or lower my credit. Fuck off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 06:10 PM
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Ew, they just don’t get it. How sad for them. They pity you but they are the pitiful ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 08:15 PM
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I’m on the same page as you. A few years younger, and I wasted a lot of time worrying about pleasing others, and a lot of those people aren’t even in my life anymore. Now I live to please myself. I have yet to have a romantic interest since starting FDS. I don’t know if it’s because I dismiss guys I see as LV now, or if the chance just hasn’t come up for me. I know when I start to date again, I will have to fight my old pickme ways some. It will still be a learning experience and a chance for me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 08:14 PM
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Yes! When I found it, I went through the top posts for hours, just like in awe. And the handbook has so much info too. Enjoy! We are glad you made it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 08:08 PM
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She’s a young hero. I didn’t even listen to the scrotes rant because I don’t care 💁🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:22 PM
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This is so wholesome. I love how everyone here has the same or similar experiences and mindsets. In a society where we are treated like we are insane for these feelings, thoughts, and experiences, it’s so refreshing to have them validated by other women who have gone through the same 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:18 PM
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Thanks for explaining. Hmm, if the sex sucks and she has to lie there bored, who’s fault is that I wonder 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:00 AM
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So it’s women’s fault men are pornsick? So we should be your fleshlight every time your dick gets hard? Nah. I guarantee they still watch porn even if we have sex with them. Wtf is starfish sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:13 AM
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I’m glad the top answers weren’t too cringe, and I even saw an FDS-er there! She got my upvote. It was a nice expedition outside of FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:11 AM
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We should shame men who are rapists or assault people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 08:22 AM
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If you chase them, they will likely entertain you because it means they can get easy sex. They know they don’t have to put in effort because you made the first moves, so you already want them. You’ll never know how much they like you truly. Do you want someone who wants you because you’re easily available or do you want someone who wants you because they couldn’t miss out on a chance to date you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 08:36 PM
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Sometimes gay men can be very handsy. I’ve never had a man just grab my tits or ass out of no where, but I’ve had multiple gay men do this. It gets dismissed by most women, like I used to dismiss it, because they think the men aren’t attracted to them or would never do anything. Yet I’ve know “gay” men that are borderline bisexual, they just never date women. Whether he is all the way gay or just mostly there, neither is okay to grope women without their consent. Editing just to add that straigh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 06:39 AM
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How can people look at this dialogue and not conclude that most men hate women? Even gay men hate women. And women have internalized misogyny from reading all this crap too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 06:35 AM
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Yeah if it was so great, why aren’t they married now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 02:28 AM
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I’m not an expert on narcs but I’m sure there’s something going on psychologically there. Probably something with their childhood translating to poor coping skills in adulthood. The LVM ex-situationship mentioned in my comment told me when he was a kid, he kept a stray kitten he found hidden from his strict parents, and his dad found it and “gave it away”, then he found it dead in the driveway later. He is 100% convinced his dad killed it to teach him a lesson. I’m doubtful but who knows. It def…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 02:22 AM
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This narc guy at my work is having issues with his sick grandma, and I haven’t known him pre-issues but he constantly comments on how it makes him easily irritable and puts him in a bad mood. It’s true he is very toxic. I just can’t compare to how he normally is because I don’t know him well. Last LVM (possibly covert narc) I had a thing going on with pre-FDS legit was afraid of death. Not just him dying, but he couldn’t handle anyone dying. He said his life goal was not to die. He was going to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:13 AM
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If I wanted chipotle that bad, I’d order it and save myself the trouble of having to make small talk with a stranger. I love eating alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 10:08 PM
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There are so many books with 10 year age gaps between the romantic partners. The girl is 22 and the guy is 32, and I hate it. I would refuse to read them but it’s kinda hard to figure out if it has it before actually reading it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:34 PM
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I love the comments on this post lol Yeah, every guy I knew who liked him was low key /high key very misogynistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:14 PM
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I don’t want to know exact numbers either. But I also don’t want him to have an insane number. Im in the single digits so if he’s like past 20 I’d feel uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 05:16 PM
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Maybe he is gaslighting her about it. It’s more effort to make that damn rope than to go to the courthouse and sign some papers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 04:46 PM
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Like... the mental hoops she is jumping through just to justify having sex. Go to the courthouse and get married, god damn. Then plan your big wedding later. But instead, the guy gets to live rent free in your home, forcing you to move back in with your parents, sex without even proposing to you or actually committing. I gurantee this guy will bounce within the next few years, because he has no reason to stay. They are not even married! Nah sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:44 PM
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A stray cat had kittens in our yard when I lived with my mom. We had to take them so they could get adopted. My mom ended up keeping one. It was so sad to take them from the mom, but at least she still gets to see one. He is just an inside cat mostly. We got her fixed but she still stays outside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 10:01 AM
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Like he was gonna solve that for you? As if being single is a problem to begin with?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:35 AM
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Sis wtf you are not a maid. He probably didn’t even buy your dinner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:40 PM
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Yeah I feel the same way. Like don’t ask at all then. It makes me feel less safe because if I did have a problem, I’m actually fucked because they didn’t get my message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 03:56 PM
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I’ve come to this realization as well, only I was probably the female version of male gamers. I gamed sometimes all day when I wasn’t working. I did branch out and have other hobbies like hiking and bicycling. But I always assumed I would meet and date a gamer. Since I’ve found FDS, gotten busy with work, and moved out on my own, I rarely game anymore. I know guys who literally come home, launch their games, and game until it’s time to sleep. It’s way more hours than you used as an example. I’ve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:54 PM
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Ah yes, another guy just looking to waste women’s time to satisfy his own needs. Chances are he doesn’t have his shit together and doesn’t want to work on it. He will trap some poor, probably younger girl, into being his forever girlfriend while he never works on improving his circumstances, and steals her time where she could be improving her own and finding a man who does want a life with her. And when that relationship ends in 5-10 years, he will be back on Reddit complaining about women agai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:20 PM
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Exactly! You will never change their minds, you only give them more ammo and agitate your own mental state further having to explain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:06 PM
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It’s kinda weird how the only one that survived is structured more for dating men. This could easily have been something named that and still had the same effect, but because our “goal” to anyone glancing at the sub is to still date a man eventually (even though we know that’s not what our true goal is) this sub has managed to survive being banned. That’s actually truly terrifying. FDS continuously opens my eyes to all the ways the patriarchy affects us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 12:13 PM
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I watch anime sometimes. It’s more about the objectification of women, even cartoon ones, and then putting them on cars. It’s a weird association also because we get compared to cars a lot. Also these type of guys who put a lot of money into their cars tend to be LV a lot of the time. Just an observation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 12:03 PM
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Lmaooo if it’s ED that’s hilarious. Why would a woman leave a man already ready to move to the next stages of life with her for a scrote who’s dick doesn’t work. And I agree that he is miserable and sees her happy with her other man and probably just wants to bring her down. If he were to get back with her, he will just end things when she wants to get serious again. This is why you block and delete exes, especially the ones you wanted but they ended things with you. Don’t give them a chance to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:55 AM
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Even if it was an edited take on another character, that would have been cool and creative. Definitely not trying too hard lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:47 AM
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Personally I wouldn’t care. I have friends ask, and I tell them, and they don’t even acknowledge I told them even though they asked lol but it would also depend on how serious we are I suppose. But if this is a standard for you, then I think that’s perfectly fine for you to have that standard. You shouldn’t feel bad for it. If you feel it is neglectful or a behavior that has changed from how he was originally, it indicates down the line other things might also begin to get missed or forgotten ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 11:41 PM
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Yeah and he will be asking her to schedule all of those things too lol
/r/askFDS09/04/21 06:45 PM
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Personally I’m not sure if I’d want to know, because it’s not like I could do anything about this. I just prevent this by not allowing any nudes to be shared. If they were nudes taken without consent, then yeah I’d want to know so I can press charges.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 06:25 PM
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That’s really weird that it cost so much. Also wtf he was trying to scam you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 06:14 PM
4

Sorry, but what license and why does it cost that much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:37 PM
4

Yeah I know some people like doing the clap back. I just see it as a waste of energy because he won’t even care or learn from it. It just resulted in him blocking you. That’s your decision in the end, but I don’t care for clapbacks, even to defend myself. It seems like such a waste of energy for me. If I have to defend myself to someone then that person doesn’t need to be in my life. Only exceptions are people who I can’t block or remove from my life.
/r/askFDS09/04/21 03:07 PM
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It’s best not to call out shitty behavior because it just allows them to hide it better for the next woman. Also it allows for unnecessary interactions we regret like yours. I’ve been there too. Last guy I ended things with I definitely am not proud of my interactions with him before it ended. But now I know just to not bother, and to block and delete. It sucks to look back at the embarrassing things we did but now we know what not to do in the future. I’d block him just in case.
/r/askFDS09/04/21 02:59 PM
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I’ve definitely been there before. What I’ve realized lately is the act of blocking is taking back your power in the situation. Instead of wondering if he is ever going to reply, you deny him the chance to ever do so. Is it possible he will hit you up one day? Maybe. Will a successful relationship result from that? Hell no. If it was gonna work it already would have. Take your power back, block that loser, and focus your energy back into yourself. I recently blocked 4 guys who had wasted my time…
/r/askFDS09/04/21 02:22 PM
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That’s awesome! Really surprised to see it coming out of Utah lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 12:11 PM
11

You really hit the nail on the head. The man is always ugly! I saw so many of these on Tinder. I actually dated a couple in my early 20s, but only one date. The man was like 30 and bald, and the woman was like 25 and very pretty. I was like 20ish. So looking back it’s a big yikes with the age difference. Luckily they lived too far for me to continue dating them. Also very true about the women being recently bisexual and wanting to explore their sexuality for the first time. Even if I ever got on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 09:12 AM
17

I think I had heard this before and forgot about it. I wonder why there isn’t one.
/r/askFDS09/04/21 04:06 AM
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“If he wanted to, he would” applies to this. Him asking for you to schedule his appointments is a red flag imo. He is an adult. He should be doing this himself. If he doesn’t, I guess he doesn’t want to have sex with you that bad. Could also have something like HPV or HSV and is stalling for that reason to. I think it’s about time to end it tbh. Unless you’re fine continuing indefinitely like that without sex. But I wouldn’t be. To me it indicates laziness, and the requesting you to do it is a r…
/r/askFDS09/04/21 01:57 AM
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I’m so disturbed he tried to feed her her own pet snail (from the other post). Like what the fuck. All the other stuff is equally wtf but damn he murdered her pet, then wanted her to eat it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:57 PM
21

Wow you described my last LTR of 5 years exactly. Only 2 is being too generous 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 11:54 AM
55

wow, he found his perfect match!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:41 AM
26

Okay, that's good to know! I was just imagining this random guy showing up on her doorstep after one convo in India and getting bad stalker vibes. But if they kept in contact that is indeed cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:00 PM
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This is so minor in the grand scheme of my life, yet it was consuming so much of my mental space for no damn reason. So I went through and cleaned out all my online gaming friends to only people I remembered having positive interactions with or actually know irl. I deleted all the ones that had given me weird vibes / red flags (that my pre-fds self didn't really see clearly), any that were rude to me, and people I just won't ever speak with again. I had gotten into this habit of accepting friend…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:55 PM
8

Yep, I forgot I also had one with face dandruff. That was yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:41 PM
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I'm assuming they were like pen pals after they met, or else this is creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:23 PM
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Idk but like, the way she has to defend her position so much gives me weird vibes. Like, she is totally right. No, we don't have to marry financially unstable men. But I disagree in that, we also shouldn't date them either. None of this "we can grow together". I've been growing on my own this whole time, he should have been too! It's okay if he isn't 100% yet, because I am not either. But if he is at like less than 50%, zero, or a negative. No no no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 12:32 PM
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Okay a lot of that was wtf but you lost me at the “expected me to clean his flat even though I didn’t live there” Men really expect us to be free therapists, maids, and prostitutes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 09:17 AM
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Ew. Like the other commenter said about single dads, he was probably just looking for a replacement mommy asap. “Hard for him to make that call” 6.25/hr is not enough to be someone’s therapist, fuck off FlockAroundtheClock’s manager.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 09:08 AM
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Right? My list would be “offers to pay/takes care of the check before I even have to think about if I need to take out my wallet” When I did OLD years ago, I had a guy not look like his pics (was way fatter), had a guy be late, had a guy literally staring at the tv screens nonstop during the dinner, and had a guy look like they rolled out of bed in their cargo shorts and tshirt. Like bruh 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 08:55 AM
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I’d be curious to know what a list from guys who aren’t Redditors would look like. Not because I would want to be any guys “perfect lady”, but I’m curious what standards are out there outside of the Reddit sphere. I can’t take anything seriously from a man I know is a Redditor. It’s actually a red flag to me if he mentions using this site.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 08:48 AM
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Maybe this combined with love bombing? The denying it later part is gaslighting for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 04:30 PM
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Ice Queen sounds badass to me tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 04:27 PM
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Idk what to tell you sis. You aren’t getting what I’m saying. You bring up one example of a guy you find hot but you ignore all the actual unfuckable guys. Men would fuck a McChicken. They don’t care. Any woman can get dick. I can’t really give examples without being insulting to women. Not every man can get pussy. There are some guys no one would fuck. It’s not the guys wanting models lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 07:43 AM
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No, the term incel comes from men who are involuntarily celibate. They can't find anyone to have sex with them. With women, this is not possible. A woman can always find a man to have sex with her. Incel men can't lower their standards enough to find one because no one will fuck them no matter how much they lower them. Women can always lower their standards and find a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:51 AM
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I guarantee there are men that will have sex with every single one of those women on that sub. They might not be men they want to have sex with, but some men would. It's impossible to be involuntarily celibate as a woman. You can always find a man to have sex with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 02:59 AM
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Being single is an insult? Lmao I am LOVING being single atm. I moved out on my own recently, and I realized today, I love being alone! I can do whatever I want in my own home. And if I wanted a man, I could find one easy, but why give up this freedom for a guy who will most likely add nothing to my life?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 06:12 PM
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Yeah, and captains are typically responsible for the whole crew on board. They’re like a manager of a boat. There is usually navigation crew as well. Just because she is captain doesn’t mean she is always driving the boat. She may at times, depending on the size, but it’s more like her job to make sure everyone else is doing their job. A pilot is not part of the crew either. They work for the port. They only come aboard when the boat gets close to port.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 05:30 PM
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Incel women don’t exist lol keep living in delusion, dumbasses
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:23 PM
62

They think the jewelry was like a rental for being his girlfriend? Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:20 PM
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The issue is, when you ask a guy out, you are never able to gauge how much they actually like you. The guy could just be going along with it because it gives him easy dates, where he does not have to put in much work. Ofc every guy even slightly interested will say yes. But do you want someone slightly interested? Or do you want someone so interested in you that they couldn't pass up on a chance to get to know you? All the guys I made the first move on eventually rejected me down the line. Becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 02:07 PM
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You can just try to be her friend, hang out with her more, find mutual hobbies together. Building a friendship with her will give your opinion more weight with her and allow her to share your mindset more easily. I wouldn't jump into her life details unless she offers them at first. No one wants to hear advice from an acquaintance who is butting into their business. But if she is talking about this stuff to you directly, then that's fine for you to ask further and share your opinion. A couple ta…
/r/askFDS04/04/21 01:35 PM
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I love that FDS gives us a guidance system to go by for judging men. It forces us to examine their behavior and make evaluations. It seems like before, I was just going in blind, hoping for the best... So, glad to have a new outlook, and legit reasons to reject men I would have entertained before. Proud of you for leaving your LV husband. I saw your other post. It's funny how with counseling and the potential of you leaving lingering, he still couldn't do his half of the housework or work on his…
/r/askFDS04/04/21 01:25 PM
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Yes, I have done it before! I've done it a lot actually. It helps me get my feelings out, and then they're gone, and the person never has to know. Or they can only know what I truly want them to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 02:09 AM
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Although I did journal out a page-long explanation for my OWN benefit, which really clarified for me that it was the right move to avoid him. I love that you did this, journaling your "response" instead of giving it to him. It's much better to come to your own conclusions away from someone rather than be reactionary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 01:26 AM
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The bamboozle was ingrained in me hard. But now that I have been unbamboozled, I cannot ever go back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 12:58 AM
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That's basically what I am going to say now. If they lose their shit, good. Means they probably can't make women orgasm LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 12:22 AM
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I think people are into kinks because it allows them to have sex while being detatched mentally. With any kink you get to treat your partner like an object or you get to be treated like an object. Real intimacy is scarier than being choked or roughed up during sex, because these people don't have what it takes to face themselves and be vulnerable in front of another person while also connecting with them. It takes more effort overall. People want something that is quick and easy instead. Not som…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 12:19 AM
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Walking marriages aren’t a thing anymore because men would have to clean their own home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 07:07 PM
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Maybe orchestrate it to where you just disappear from his life. One day when he’s out, suddenly he comes home and all your stuff is gone, and you, and he’s blocked. If you don’t want him to “win” don’t give him any reasons, or closure, don’t even explain. Either ghost, or say it’s over and offer no explanation. Just one day it’s shut off, and make it so he has no access to you, emotionally for sure, and physically if possible. That’s how you win. Leave, be better, give him no more access to your…
/r/askFDS02/04/21 09:56 PM
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Noo haha this one ends up recommended a lot and is even in the handbook
/r/askFDS02/04/21 04:28 PM
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Commenting because I’d like to know as well. Looking for some recs that are more than just Why Men Love Bitches (already own/kinda read it).
/r/askFDS02/04/21 04:19 PM
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The comment is so cringy. You’re going to watch a film of an old man who hires a prostitute because he’s alone in life? That’s pathetic. It doesn’t make anything about the situation wholesome. The man probably fucked up relationships in his life, and he most likely still have wanted the woman to touch his wrinkly genitals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:39 PM
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I also judged FDS at first, then I realized the posts had truth to them. Slowly it unraveled the misogyny I didn’t even realize I had internalized. I can’t go back now. Glad you’re back, I hope more women start to open their eyes. FDS will always accept them back. The truth wins in the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:25 PM
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I don’t even think she hit him? I think she pushed him but really he kinda dodged it? Not gonna keep rewatching it, because either way it doesn’t matter. Men have more physical strength, and he clearly injured her, when her initial contact did nothing to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:11 AM
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I know right. I'm just thinking of all the guys I was involved with who just shit on stuff I liked. I used to be so sensitive about it, if someone criticized something I like, I didn't want to like it anymore. Now I'm just like, alright well you suck. It's amazing how I've changed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:14 AM
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I only give out free awards. I’m not spending my money here lol the only award I see justified in buying is the one that highlights comments. Because sometimes a super important comment isn’t on top and it deserves a border to make it stand out. But I’ve never bought it, am not sure how much it is, and don’t really want to give Reddit money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:13 PM
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I instinctively want to downvote a lot of posts too! Then I’m like, wait, they’re posting this to highlight how it is fucked up...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 06:49 PM
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I think terms like “pickmes” are making rounds on tiktok right now, so that’s probably where she heard if. Good for her though, at least there’s other places young girls and women can learn the truth of the dating world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 06:45 PM
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I mean, I’m still relatively new to FDS, so feel free to disagree if I’m off here, but I think he was trying to be sweet. It doesn’t sound like he’s making marriage out to be a joke from that statement, rather if he had to be in an arranged marriage, he would want it to be you. The just kidding thing is more questionable than the original statement imo. Still be on alert for future faking, as the other poster said, but I say let this one go unless it really bothered you. Can I ask why you were t…
/r/askFDS01/04/21 05:34 PM
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Even in his pettiness he is lazy 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:51 PM
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My ex got with a subordinate at work who was 17 after we broke up. He was like 10 years older than her at the time. They're still together today. When I talk to my friends who are still friends with him, he is into all kinds of depraved shit now. I was confused as to how he hid it so well when we were together, but I think it is because I was out of his league and he did not want to risk losing me by exposing me to his true depraved self. It has opened my eyes to how well men can fake it, even f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:40 PM
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Depends on your friend. If any of my friends dated any of my exes (which all were LTRs) I would feel uncomfortable. If it was like someone I went on a few dates with but it didn’t work out, that’s different. But an actual ex-boyfriend, not cool with me, personally. Even the ex-boyfriend from high school would be weird.
/r/askFDS31/03/21 09:40 PM
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Yeah, that's true. It is about the addiction aspect as much as the content being problematic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 05:54 PM
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Ooh, new episodes? Yes, I needed something to play while I am being productive today. I'll edit this post if I have anything to say after I give them a listen :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 04:09 PM
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Yes, that is what erotic literature sites are full of as well. There are some stories that are about loving adults having sex, but you really have to weed through the degrading ones to get to them. I'm curious if the nice stories still have the same effect as porn. Also there are romance books that have sex scenes in them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:33 PM
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I’ve heard women say they “read” their porn. Do you think smutty books or erotic literature have the same effect as pornography that is images or videos? I know ones with degrading scenarios would of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:20 PM
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The comments on that Reddit video were disturbing. If people like that are agreeing with a guy, you know something is wrong with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 11:04 AM
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It’s possible he will hide it from his next partner now, unfortunately. I suspect my ex hid a porn addiction from me, and he probably learned to from his ex. OP’s ex won’t realize it’s a problem unless he develops ED.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 10:51 AM
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Thanks for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:21 AM
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I've been considering lately taking break from browsing the main FDS page as much. I am currently just rereading the handbook, and applying what I can to my life. I don't think the top rated posts and comments always align with FDS principles. Sometimes there are great text posts, or a good video here and there, but I don't want to become bitter or confused, so I have been lowering my exposure lately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:06 AM
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My old city seemed awful for OLD. But I kept my profile when I traveled and I got way more interesting convos in other areas, but this was years ago. I have yet to try it since I moved.
/r/askFDS30/03/21 12:45 PM
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The random slapping is probably to get you to flinch and tighten while he is inside, which is fucked up because he is causing you pain for his pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:42 AM
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If he’s broke, return him. You aren’t responsible for fixing him. You are not porn addicts anonymous. You are not a therapist. That’s on him to fix himself. If he lives the rest of his life in denial, that is HIS decision. Don’t even let him know what’s wrong because that’s on him to figure out. Stop doing his work for him. It isn’t worth it. He will only be unappreciative and ignore your advice anyways. Block and next him. Also as much as it might seem like a good idea to prep him for the next …
/r/askFDS29/03/21 09:21 PM
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Love hearing success stories like this. Lowering your standards is the opposite of what we should do. That’s how you waste time with losers and end up unhappy in a few years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 05:49 PM
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Omg the comments on that video are hard to read, because I used to sympathize with MRAs before I found FDS. It's like a test of all I have learned here in this subreddit. This is why I need to be extra sensitive about the media I consume.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:59 AM
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You do not need porn to masturbate lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:08 AM
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I’m at about 8 “hey” messages from a guy I dated briefly, none of which I responded to. I’m still just wondering why he does it, and I have him on mute, I just am curious how long it will go on for. I think he’s just doing it to see if he’s blocked yet, bc I had him blocked briefly before, but I unblocked him to see if he still texted it. Anytime my pre fds self gave him a chance and responded, the following interactions were a waste of time, couldn’t make plans, he’d constantly flake, etc. I kn…
/r/askFDS28/03/21 09:46 PM
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All the libertarians I knew thought women shouldn’t work and should stay at home and make babies, and they all voted Trump. I used to align with the literal definition of libertarianism, but now that I’ve been exposed to the men who believe it, I don’t think I can anymore. Also since discovering FDS my political views around government and economics have changed some, I am still figuring it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:07 PM
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Thanks for sharing. I used to like him back in the day, so it’s interesting to get an FDS perspective on him. He does love his wife, but he is a LVM in terms of the way he treats her and talks about women. Idk how he is off camera, but he seems like a lazy guy in the videos. Hopefully his wife doesn’t have to do all the housework and laundry for him, but I wouldn’t be surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:57 PM
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Well we aren’t partners, and you are a fucking stranger so I don’t owe you any access to my sexuality, bye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 07:45 PM
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Okay, I have not done OLD in years, but I would suggest giving them back the same energy, but raising it the tiniest bit. Like they say “hey” you raise the energy/effort level a smidge and say “hey!”. That cost almost zero extra effort on you, makes them think you’re into them, and they are getting basically the same amount of effort they put in. Extend that line of thinking to questions and answers.
/r/askFDS28/03/21 07:31 PM
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This is so true. My male friend will listen but like he gives me one sentence advice, and it was basically something I already realized anyways. Yet we’ve gone on and on about his girlfriend, parents, friends, life problems, and I listen and give advice he always finds really useful. He doesn’t do it intentionally, and he is a kind person overall but I did notice the inconsistency. Lately when he talks about his problems I just respond like a guy would, especially if it’s something he should be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 07:22 PM
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I suspect Twitch banned it because it discourages men from donating to female streamers. I wouldn’t applaud them for that, because it’s probably just to keep their profits up. But I agree with your sentiments on the word simp. Like doing nice thing for women you care about is bad now?? Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 02:33 PM
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Even as he is dying, she is his second choice, only because his current wife won’t care for him. Sounds like they have the funds, why waste your time. Shoulda blocked this scrote ages ago and never let him back in your daughters life, since they aren’t even related. Ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:17 AM
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You have a point, something is so off about her looks and body language vs his. I really wish SHE would leave him, and level up, and write a book. I’d pay to read that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 02:02 AM
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If he wanted it, he would have mentioned picking it up during the breakup. I say trash it and block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:15 PM
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I mean, both are just friction until climax happens. Men's is through PIV sex, women can be through clitoris or vaginal stimulation. So there are actually more ways for us to orgasm, and they still fuck it up. You can call that "more complicated" but I don't know if it is accurate, I would just call it more complex. If you are having complications, then I think you should probably try to figure it out with masturbation first. My experience: I couldn't orgasm with men for awhile, but it took one …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 12:01 PM
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That is how I am going to approach sex when I start dating again. He doesn't get to stick it in unless I climax first. No head or handjobs either. Basically if he wants an orgasm, he has to give me one first. This is a 1 to 1 exchange (even better if he can give me multiple in one go). My ex of 5 years never gave me an orgasm once in that entire time. I would always just do it myself. NEVER AGAIN. If they can't do it, they don't get sex, and if they can't ever do it, I will dump them. So many gu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 11:53 AM
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If I am having to pay for us, then I will swipe my own card. If a guy finds that demoralizing, fucking pay for it yourself then!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 11:31 AM
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Oof, I have been thinking about that exact same thing. Any time I meet a man that seems like a decent guy, he's married or has a girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:55 AM
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It’s very sad. It’s like her entire self worth is based off if some scrotes she doesn’t even know finding her fuckable. (Spoiler: they will fuck you at any age, but ew, who wants that). There are so many more validating, fulfilling, interesting things to life than men’s approval and desire, which will only leave you feeling either insecure or grossed out. I feel for her because I’ve definitely been in a similar mindset before. It’s basically what you hear on the internet, and even from guys her …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 11:35 AM
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I agree. I see some cringeworthy posts by Newbies getting upvoted sometimes. I kinda take it with a grain of salt unless I see the flair is someone who has been around for awhile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 04:37 AM
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For sure! I had avoided Reddit for so long because of this. When I started posting here, at first I was worried about how it came off, then after few posts, I realized it was liberating to not have to frame my post to not be offensive to men's egos. I didn't even realize I was doing it so much before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 11:18 PM
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It’s not acceptable either way, I agree. Especially because he wanted to get back with her the whole time. Once a cheater always a cheater.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 10:26 PM
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I watched a few minutes. Does she even talk? Sounds like a PR stunt so he can keep selling books. I don’t really buy it. Something drove her out of the home with her kids. Until he confesses what really happened to cause their marital problems, I’m not believing it. Definitely not buying another book of his.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 10:07 PM
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On his livestream he claims he saw other women when they were separated but he didn’t explain why they separated in the first place. Something drove his wife and kids out of the home, and he never addressed it. I wonder what he did that caused her to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:41 PM
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Okay I found the other link. Here is a comment I made about him in the FDS weekly thread that’s related: I had bought Derrek Jaxn’s book Dont Forget Your Crown awhile ago. Since this drama came out about him cheating, and his live stream explaining it, I’ve just gotten weird vibes from him. Like he never said why his wife left him and took the kids, but he claimed up and down he didn’t sleep with anyone else while they were separated, and I am just highly doubtful. Because he also talks about do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:37 PM
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He said on his livestream yesterday he didn’t amusingly enough, despite talking about flying to Miami to party with a girl. I am not doubting you, just pointing out this inconsistency with his claim. Are there any links to screenshots? I want that tea 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:34 PM
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I had bought Derrek Jaxn’s book Dont Forget Your Crown awhile ago. Since this drama came out about him cheating, and his live stream explaining it, I’ve just gotten weird vibes from him. Like he never said why his wife left him and took the kids, but he claimed up and down he didn’t sleep with anyone else while they were separated, and I am just highly doubtful. Because he also talks about doing drugs and flying to Miami to hang out with another woman. I’m just super sus. Anyways, I skimmed his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 02:29 PM
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I had that flair but somewhere along the way i got upgraded to Newbie. It’ll happen with time I think. I made this account because my old Reddit account was unused for years and from my serious pickme days. Within 3 weeks my flair upgraded to this from throwaway. Just give it time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:56 AM
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I like the comments because sometimes quality FDS lifestylers post their perspectives, and a lot of the askFDS questions are things that aren’t big enough to get covered here, or random situations. This last week it seemed to have gone downhill though...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:54 AM
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I just came here to read the FDS comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 02:30 PM
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He basically paid her $20 for sex, since she already sent him $30.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 07:42 AM
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Yes, I also get fake vibes from it tbh. Like, I don't know if this would have gone over so easily in court. I don't think they could make her do anything though, if he agreed to 100% custody and she agreed to child support, seems like the decision is clear. It feels more like a social experiment to gauge replies than truth though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 01:40 AM
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His comment has -593 karma LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 01:35 AM
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Yikes. That must be why they have communities to pass around the content for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:27 PM
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That Nicole Kidman divorcing Tom Cruise meme is honestly a life mood. My last LVM I was involved with was a huge Tom Cruise fan so it’s like a double whammy for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:24 PM
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I have a friend who is very skinny, by general standards, and men she saw would still tell her she was too fat. Poor girl was probably borderline underweight and these sickos would still criticize her for her needing to “lose some weight”. It’s disgusting. If the guy doesn’t love you as is, next his ass. If you want to lose or gain weight for yourself, go for it (as long as it’s healthy for you to do so). But don’t ever listen to a guys opinion. They’re disgusting about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:46 PM
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These hypocrites probably have zero problems with OnlyFans. They just salty because they don’t like the idea of anyone supporting FDS calling out their lazy asses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:42 PM
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They so triggered over paying $25 over some merch lmao youtubers charge insane amounts for their merchandise edit: I just realized it’s over the course of months. But if someone wants to support the podcast that much, that’s their choice. I haven’t listened to the podcast yet or looked at the patreon, but it’s fair that if you’re putting in work on a podcast you want something back. It’s getting paid for your time, even if it’s a side project. It’s not a career ofc. I doubt any of the people inv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:36 PM
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Lmao if he doesn’t like what I make, he can cook his own food!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:27 PM
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There's literally another post here where the OP post convos with her LVX, and she tries to cOmMuNiCaTe with him about similar things, and he legit just complains about her being upset. It is on my comment history if you want to go see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:25 PM
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If my boyfriend didn't speak to me for 3 days, I would assume I didn't have one anymore. I mean ofc I would make sure he wasn't dead, or see if there was a reason. But beyond being out of cell range for 3 days, I can think of zero reason not to contact me in that time. I am so glad you found FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 11:49 AM
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He calls her "son" too. Like, I used to think being included in "the boys" was cute pre-fds, but this is gross. If he wants to date a woman and treat her like a man, he just needs to admit he is gay and go date men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 11:45 AM
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I feel like originally that is why we watched movies, tv shows, even reality tv. We wanted to see real people interacting with real people, even if it is "acting". But it's gotten so twisted since then. I mean, some of it still is good entertainment (I used to love horror movies, for example, and that has nothing to do with interacting with people), but my favorite media to watch is one with interpersonal relationships and character building. A lot of it ends up being dramatic and having struggl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 11:38 AM
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That's actually scary though. He could say that to anyone, and someone might be gullible enough to drop their location. I shudder to think of his true intentions. COuld be anything, sex trafficking, stalking, sexual assault. Scary stuff...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 05:08 AM
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It's showing generosity. It's just a characteristic to look for. The guy should want to do it because he is generous. If he can't show that, it is a huge red flag for what the future holds. If these two get serious, get married, have kids, he has already shown he will let his family starve and prioritize his own well being, because that is how he treats her right now. And as the title says, it doesnt even have to be about spending $$$ at a restaurant. A home cooked meal means just as much! A pic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:41 PM
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Its so low effort. He gets to see your pretty face without taking you out. Nope. I don’t like selfies and am not always prepared for a selfie and hate being pressured for pics, so I’m just gonna tell guys I don’t have Snapchat if I ever get into OLD again 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 08:41 AM
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What the hell. She will not have a happy relationship with this man. This behavior will only continue or get worse. He can’t even make sure you’re fed properly or had enough to eat, how will he help take care of you or your future kids together? He doesn’t even ask if 1 dish is enough. I can’t believe these women. Even in my pickme days I would be grossed out. Eating his leftovers?? Girl you don’t know how long those have been in his fridge 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 08:36 AM
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I would hope banks would require both people to consent to removing someone, but I have no experience in this. Seems kind of dumb to allow one person toss the other person off without them knowing. Its a JOINT account, not an account for 1 person with a side person who has access.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:49 AM
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Did we date the same guy o.o my first bf was like that exactly. Patchy "beard", zero chest hair, and hairy af from the waste down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:20 AM
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You got me scared now, definitely going to take precautions from anyone I date now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:21 PM
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The amount of guys I’ve talked to who didn’t know about skincare is insane. They use fucking bar soap or body wash on their faces. I try to explain how this is terrible for their face and 9 times out of 10 they just don’t give a fuck. They actually just make fun of me instead. Like bro, this is why I constantly get confused for being 8 years younger than I am, but you want to make fun of me, you’re the clown. I know in 10 years it’ll be showing so I don’t even let it bother me. Time will catch u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:23 AM
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Is it possible to pull out credit cards in your spouses name? Like with the companies knowing? Or did he do it online illegally? Like in identity theft way? Did you have to pay it or did you get it changed to him somehow?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:12 AM
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I think it’s her listening to him, but idk who he is. Is it just another tiktok video’s audio?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:03 AM
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Today at work this girl told me she co-signed her boyfriends car loan. I was like, oh my god. She’s young too. Idk exactly but under 23 most likely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:18 AM
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I think it's fine to want to date at least in your own income bracket. If someone has a problem with that, I think they're projecting their insecurities about theirs lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 01:42 AM
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Ew, they don’t have to ask to know. That would be awkward/distracting as hell. Every guy who did it for me could tell, and never even had to ask.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 05:37 PM
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Maybe buy a vest for your dog that’s easy to put on just for walks. It can say anything, like do not pet, I am not friendly, a warning that she bites, whatever honestly. Even a fake service dog one, where it says to no bother because the dog is working. Then if they proceed to do those things despite being able to read the vest, tell them to not do it. I know FDS is scared of getting angry at unknown men because you don’t know they’ll get violent but personally I would get pissy with them and te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:39 PM
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Well check out the book for sure. I found a copy online to download. That last sentence is accurate for what you’d find in the book, plus it will give you plenty of reasons not to drink! It won’t just be because you can’t control your urges. Alcohol is not good for us. It disrupts our sleep cycle, ages our skin faster, and upsets our stomach’s natural bacteria, among many other things! There are many reason to quit, and I think your sole reason right now is plenty enough. Think of it as for your…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:45 PM
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Ngl this sounds like an excuse. I haven’t had sex in a long ass time (more than a year) and I am not craving it enough to want to hook up with someone who is not up to my standards. If I put myself in environments with men where sex is super easy to get, I don’t know that I would be able to resist the temptation, so I remedy that by not going to places where I have access to easy sex (aka getting drunk around random men). The way to resist your cravings it to remove it from your environment (or …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:52 PM
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What’s wrong with quitting alcohol? There are no negatives I can think of, only benefits. If it’s your friends that have an issue with it, that’s really nothing to do with you. It’s your choice, especially if it affects your behavior. If they peer pressure you after you’ve expressed you are not partaking anymore, they’re shitty friends. I’ve had to quit alcohol because it hurts my stomach. Edit: Just want to add, if you have an alcohol problem, check out this book called How to Quit Like a Woman…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:37 PM
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It's sad the fact that this is satire is not immediately obvious lol I remember I started this podcast (don't remember the name, but it seemed like it was targeted towards female "empowerment") and in the first 2 minutes, the host talks about how if girls want to go guzzle some balls for (insert holiday) then go for it. "Go guzzle those balls" was legit what she said. I switched it off so fast. I will never understand how casual sex and focusing on male pleasure over your own pleasure is empower…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:58 PM
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Omg yes, ever since I have found FDS, whenever I go back to my YT tarot readers and they're talking about treating everyone with kindness and care, I'm like "for what?" They didn't treat me with kindness and care. But the spiritual side of me tries to think of those that hurt me in this way: "I hope you figure out how to be better (for your sake, and for the sake of others in your life), but I can't allow you in my space anymore." It is not my job to help them learn their lessons in life, but th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:53 PM
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Ever since I watched Matt Kahn’s video on it, I’ve always seen a twin flame as a toxic energy. He also views soul mates differently too. I did agree with it before, but I will have to think on it again now that I have been working on myself with FDS. One of my favorite YT tarot card readers used to refer to his twin flame a lot, and after discovering FDS, whenever he brings up his “twin” (even though they are divorced and his ex is an ass) I just roll my eyes and skip ahead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:13 AM
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Yes, men like to mention future and commitment, because all it takes is a few words, and our imagination does the rest for them. They don't have to put in any work, because they've constructed an idea of a future in our heads with a few words. As someone else said, you really have to examine the effort he has put in. Not just the promises he makes. I've really been hurt by this in the past. It's something I will have to work on and pay attention to next time I get involved with a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:13 PM
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He is also future baiting you. He is allowing you to imagine a future with him without him doing any of the work to build it when he talks about having a future together. Always compare his words vs his actions. Has he taken any steps towards that future? If not he’s future baiting, combined with the love bombing, to get you hooked and stay attached while he never builds anything with you. At 24 you’re very young and can easily date guys in their 20s who can have a long life that matches yours. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:34 PM
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Thanks for pointing out the narcissist one. I have encountered that a lot lately, in younger guys, and I didn’t connect the dots there. I have had lots of interesting jobs, traveling the world, doing insane hours, plenty of crazy stories. So many guys I’ve dropped my travel/employment history to just to have them not even ask how I ended up there or what it was like. Like I swear, I dropped I went to Iceland like 5 times in this convo, this one guy never asked why I was there lmao but we went ov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:07 PM
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“Was a me problem” Same! I always thought it was my fault I couldn’t orgasm, but it was actually the men weren’t trying hard enough. Took one guy to really put in the effort to get me there, and now I can do it easily as long as the guy is trying. All the other men prior it was half assed attempts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:51 PM
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“Bored” Not surprised. Shame there’s not many female lurkers on places like 4chan, otherwise we’d get more converts lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:07 PM
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I never realized how degrading porn was until FDS opened my eyes to it. It’s literally 99% of porn. I remember when I was dating my first boyfriend over ten years ago, I felt like it was degrading to give him oral because that’s how I perceived it from porn. I personally am not against oral sex, but in my eyes it is something for boyfriends only, specifically one who treats me well. But it’s funny how in a decade my opinion of it being degrading has not changed, yet the public’s opinion of it ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:02 PM
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Thanks for sharing your story! I’ve been thinking about this in my car this morning. I think it takes a willingness to change in order to see these things, especially when a lot of us were pickmes before. No person will change without a desire to change. So a lot of us who have been conditioned by the patriarchy resist it at first. I was basically a lowkey MRA up until I found this sub. As I’ve been unpacking my history with men after reading the info in this sub, I realized those ideologies I b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 01:53 PM
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The only potential HVM I dated from my Tinder days was a hot guy with ripped abs. I 100% thought I was getting catfished at first, but he was real and interested in dating, not sex. I am not doing OLD right now, but yeah, I didn't swipe no (I forgot which direction it is) on all ripped guys, and it worked out for me. Meanwhile, a lot of the guys i was like "ehhh, idk, I guess I will swipe Yes on him" - many of those guys unmatched me! LMAO They be delusional, and think themselves better looking …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:21 AM
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It is sad it takes people becoming victims of men like this for them to get fired. Even just one victim probably wouldn’t be enough. It’d probably take many.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:39 PM
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When I first found this sub, I thought it was sexist towards men. Statements in the comments like “all men do this” really made me assume FDS was sexist. I took one look at the “men must pay for dates” and was like nah. But something kept nagging at me about this sub. Of the few posts I had seen, I found the content kinda relatable. I realized the posters had a point. I kept wanting to check back... I realized there was as truth to the things being posted. Then the comments started to make sense…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:37 AM
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Would he wear a mask during sex because lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:55 AM
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I am an FDS noob. I was struggling with this for awhile, because I had been so brainwashed by libfem and “equality”. Even now I am still struggling tbh. However I think I figured it out (for myself at least). The way I have been thinking about it lately is like this... a man who considers me valuable and a potential “dreamgirl” is not going to risk it with any of this crap about going Dutch being equality. He’s going to do everything in his power to ensure I go on another date with him. He won’t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 06:39 PM
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This has got to be a joke lol a shitty one, but surely they can't be serious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:02 AM
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"I'll let you know when I meet the right one" Well you can get to finding her now, bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 03:40 PM
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Yeah it just gave him a chance to change the narrative (even though she didn't fall for it) and now he will know better how to approach the next chick he tries it on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 03:25 PM
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This is an old post, but I'd like to comment anyways to work out my thoughts :) I absolutely was obsessed with Bridgerton about two months ago when it first came out. This was my pre-FDS self, btw (I have changed!) Back then I thought what Daphne and Simon had was so romantic. I idealized it, because it was the kind of love I thought I wanted. I saw it as true love. The kind of unconditional love I have longed for my entire life. Where despite all odds, the connection you share brings you togeth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:23 AM
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The more I learn about Iceland the more I like it. It also has near 100% renewable energy production.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 11:37 PM
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This is gonna be a bit of a tangent, but... Why the fuck would you want to be someone's sister in a relationship? This makes no sense. The last LVM who was hanging around tried this sister-zoning thing with me. When I suggested stepping it up to more than friends (he was taking up so much of my time, even me from my pre-FDS days realized this was not good), he told me he just wanted to be friends and thought of me as a sister. I got so livid, I almost blocked him on the spot. This was before I e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 11:21 PM
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My biggest shift lately is just doing things I find fun and pleasurable for my own enjoyment, without feeling lack if I don't have someone to do it with. If I find it fun to read all night I just do it. I don't feel an urge to hang around social spaces to meet people (men specifically). I structure my free time around my own pleasure and enjoyment instead. There are a lot of other mindset shifts I am working on too, many thanks to FDS, but that's one that I am sure of atm :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:45 PM
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Thank you for sharing! Gonna check it out when I get home. I definitely can think of one potentially great guy I didn’t get the chance to get to know because I was the one standing in my own way. It’s like I thought because he liked me, there was something wrong with him. In reality he was the one taking me out on dates and buying me gifts, really attractive too. And I had sex with him on the the second or third date thinking I was obligated to. In reality we didn’t take enough time to make a co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 07:22 PM
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Me too! I also realized if men could post here they would just instill doubt and attempt to bring us down. I mean, I’m sure I will get a hate DM one day, but not having to worry about it on every comment is refreshing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:21 AM
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What you described is how I always used Reddit years ago. You have to or you get downvoted into oblivion. I was so careful with how I crafted my posts and so self conscious about getting downvoted. It’s why I stopped using Reddit until I found FDS tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:52 AM
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This amuses me, because I posted about being bisexual the other day, so I am probably one of those accounts that made them sus lmao I made this account to post here. My old account was from 7 years ago when I was a wannabe CoolGirl who posted cringy shit. I hadn't been active on it in years anyways. The rest of Reddit was always a shithole place to be in. Every time I venture out, I see that it still is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:58 AM
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I got to my early 30s without really knowing how to date someone in a healthy way. I was petrified of having a real relationship. I stonewalled people, even platonic friends, because that's how I had learned to protect myself I feel like this is me right now. I really resonate with all the other things you said. I think I do the exact same. I was wondering if I could have a link to the article, even though its behind a paywall? If you don't mind posting it or DMing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:49 AM
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This last year, I swear I had so many boundary issues with friends. I definitely needed to learn a lesson. Boundaries are super important in all aspects of our life. Friends, people we date, family members, even the media we consume. It all affects us, and we have to be aware and awake about what we let in our space (mentally and physically)! It has been worded before in better ways, but the type of friends you keep have dictate the type of life you will have. We reflect behaviors of the type of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 05:56 PM
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Omg his body language is actually not loving or even receptive at all... that says a lot!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 03:28 PM
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I had read that, but I went and gave it a reread, and the comments were helpful, thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 04:56 AM
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Heating pads also help me, as something inexpensive and something you can do at home. Feels really nice on arms, legs, shoulders when you are lacking human touch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 04:55 AM
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Thank you for the perspective. That makes a lot of sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 11:52 PM
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Thank you for this informative post! Domestic abuse exists in same sex partnerships as well. You always have to protect yourself and vet people you date. I don't say I am looking for a boyfriend or husband, I am looking for a "(life) partner". I've always been bisexual, but I am still coming to terms with the fact that a woman could be my life partner, and just in general accepting my sexuality. Tbh, it might be easier to find a female life partner with all these LVM around. But I wont be with a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 10:37 PM
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I'm so sorry that happened to you. I really wished I had listened to my intuition early on. Eventually his bitterness over his own mistakes soured our relationship and brought me down with him. It's sad that the fear of ending up with a loser like that again has just confused me further in my dating process. But I don't want some failure of a man to prevent me from meeting a worthy partner in the future. Same to you 💛 wishing you good luck on healing and leveling up! We both deserve better than …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:01 PM
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I definitely resonate with that. My last LTR basically tricked me into being with him when I was young and just feeling out what I wanted in life. We hooked up once and were hanging out a lot, and he basically forced me to change my relationship status on Facebook. He practically did it for me (I was 20 at the time, I was so young and naive). I intended to break up with him a few months later, but then his ex wife started suing for child support, and I thought I couldn't leave him when his life …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 07:43 PM
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I asked this last week, but I wasn't approved for posting yet. How do you not have crushes? What is your advice for not crushing and getting over crushes? The handbook says crushes are pointless, and I completely understand why. It makes no sense to expend energy on a man's possibility when he hasn't proved he brings any value to your life. So I just wanted to know you ladies advice for not crushing during the get to know phase with men? So far, what I have done to get over my last crush is jour…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 06:58 PM
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The Star Wars shirt gets me... Imagine you get proposed to, and hes standing above you, wearing a Star Wars shirt, and just hands you the box. Omg. I never even fantasized about being proposed to before, but sis that aint it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:09 AM
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Try googling or searching for videos or books :) whatever you want to do, the info is already out there! just got to find it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:37 AM
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Time to evict. Oh, they're married. Well time to divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:12 AM
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Funny how you worded it in your profile was nice and civil, and he projected that it made him an "automatic loser" 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:00 AM
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Only boring people get bored. REALLY doubt this guy brings anything to the table here. Or he probably only cares about tech and doesn't attempt to care about any of her interests. His only complaint was she watches the Bachelor. There is no way the woman's SOLE interest is the Bachelor and reality TV. Even if it something she watches a lot of, fucking cuddle up and watch it with her so you can make fun of it together or something. That kind of quality time is fun. I watched the show because its …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:50 AM
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I see it a lot because people want to be gender-neutral, especially with a lot of couples that bend the gender norms. Now if they start calling that same partner of 7 months a "significant other" then I agree, thats a nah from me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:04 PM
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Women literally cannot be incels because there's always men who will have sex with you. FDS women are volcels if anything (voluntarily celibate).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 12:19 AM
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If he isn't proving he can do it with the child that already exists, why the hell do you think he will do with the next one?? I mean, I guess that is what she is questioning, but damn, should be obvious!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 04:16 PM
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I have always found everyone's willingness to jump on the sex positivity train strange. I mean, men I get, but the women, I am confused about. I would struggle hearing about coworkers stories of promiscuous hookups, because it never seemed healthy OR safe to me (mentally or physically). I used to be fine with sex early on (mostly because I didn't realize you could hold out on guys), but I am hoping to change that in the future with people I date. I want to hold myself to a higher standard, and I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:33 PM
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