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Stick on camera covers for all laptops and tablets that have a webcam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 10:22 PM
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Because people twisted things so far that wanting a quality ring or gift doesn’t just mean you’re ungrateful, it also means you hate the working class.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 03:27 AM
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Throwback to the video of dozens of men lined up outside of Pandora during Valentine’s Day, with tons of pickmes in the comments wishing their man would at least get them a $5 gift card to Claire’s. Pair that with LVM in the comments saying that women are too ungrateful for not wanting generic, Shein quality jewelry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 08:15 PM
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I think it’s something some LV men have always done, but now it’s trendy to post it on the internet for other pickmes and LV men to hype up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 01:29 PM
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Im leaning towards the second one since there’s been a slight influx of posts in other subs of managers asking how they can let go of employees with boyfriends and husbands that constantly call during work hours or lurk to keep tabs on their gfs. There was a brief tiktok trend of girls posting videos of their boyfriends staying in the parking lot during their entire restaurant shift and they said it was cUtE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 12:22 PM
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And if you guys get tired of explaining why you cut someone off to pickmes and red flag apologists, start lying or being vague lol. If a pick me friend asks why you broke up with someone: their plans for the future didn’t align with yours, you didn’t feel a spark, you don’t have anything in common, you want different things. Hell, if you didn’t introduce them to your friends and you’re in a big city, say you broke up because they are moving away and you don’t want to do long distance. Chances ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 10:46 PM
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Honestly, it’s her fault. I’m of the mindset that if someone is not ready to hear a different opinion or real advice, they should not ask for it. If she wanted a pity party, she could have said that. It’s not like you went off and told her a crackhead has higher standards, you simply told her that she needs stronger boundaries. She’s not ready to confront herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 02:29 PM
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🏅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 02:12 PM
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Reminiscing about a relationship he had when he was only 16? Did he peak in high school?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 06:42 PM
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I’d love to see the wife’s side of the story. I wouldn’t be surprised if his endless family drama is partially the cause of her not being interested in him anymore. It’s not her fault he can’t put up boundaries with his family. She’s probably been dragged into their mess at least once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 07:58 PM
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Not sure what he said on the show but just the other day he went live on Instagram live and accused her of being addicted to the booger sugar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 01:56 PM
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Someone in the comments wrote again, you are basically asking your partner to pay you have your baby. i guarantee your genes are not in that high of a demand. In reference to the fact that she could lose a lot more than 50,000 if she becomes disabled through childbirth, leaving her to eat those extra costs. Iconic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 08:08 PM
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it was kraft mac and cheese with some shredded cheese on top Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 07:48 PM
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Thank you for sharing! I’ve been seeing different videos on tiktok giving opinions and even his lame apology, but I hadn’t seen the original explaining the situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 04:28 AM
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Whats her @? Id love to follow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 03:09 PM
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If he stopped putting in effort into his friendships he’s not going to put any effort into you down the line. The bar for men in friendships is pretty low, so the fact that he can’t even meet that is concerning. If you end up in a long term relationship with him and want to hang out with your friends he will probably get jealous and try to make you feel guilty because you will be his only means of socializing. By hanging out with others you will accused of taking that away from him.
/r/askFDS22/02/22 12:35 AM
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Don’t threaten me with a good time lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 04:48 PM
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How old is your boyfriend?? She’s nearing her 50s and tried to date a man in his late 20s/early 30s? That’s weird.
/r/askFDS21/02/22 03:58 PM
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May i ask what your current bf/previous exes did? The not a real doctor comment sticks out to me because I know someone who had to deal with this a while ago. She had her masters already and was a PhD candidate but whenever she dated guys that weren’t as accomplished, almost all of them would get super triggered over little things like this and tried to ‘put her in her place’ to feel better because they made low wages or weren’t as educated. I know that a person who is equally accomplished can s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 07:46 PM
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I second this. OP, if you still decide to move forward with building together, you need to make sure you’re at least legally protected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 10:50 PM
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Imo you should continue not giving someone your number, real or fake, until after you have met them in person. I think it is a good test to see if someone will a respect a very minor boundary. The fact that he assumed you were crazy for wanting a little privacy is a bad sign. I personally would want a man that is understanding of the fact that giving out your phone number to a new person can be unsafe for any woman, and that it’s not something they should take to heart. I think it also gives you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 09:17 PM
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HVM/HVW were terms that existed prior to FDS. FDS adapted them to make them more holistic. Whenever I saw people use them before or outside of FDS, it was to describe a rich/wealthy man or a ‘classy’, attractive, feminine, and often childless woman. In FDS, it is acknowledged that being high value should be more about being a well-rounded, good person since men of all classes can still be disrespectful, some of the women who meet the femininity criteria can still be pickmes or grifters, and bein…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 03:37 PM
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Spot on. Guys like this are so lame. There’s kink-centered dating sites they can go on to find kinkmeishas that would actually be interested in it , but they’re more excited by the thought of ‘convincing’(Re: coercing) different women into ‘trying’ it out in the wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 05:31 AM
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Grandiose thinking. They’re always talking about the next big thing they’re going to do that will make them rich or famous. If he’s not a consistent achiever, does no research, or makes strange career moves on a whim hoping it’ll work out, he’s just talking himself up in hopes to impress others. He will rope you or other people into his half assed plans and lose money along the way. Probably over idealizes Elon musk. They don’t understand that most people don’t become or stay successful with dum…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 07:36 PM
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When he unblocks you, be the first to block him back during the cool down and leave him like that so you’ll never have to worry about it
/r/askFDS04/02/22 06:20 AM
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Also get an AAA membership! I remember a mod in here saying that she took a separate car to her date and on the way back it broke down. While waiting for triple A the guy was acting like he was going to help and then tried to attack her. Cover all your bases! Triple A will prioritize getting to your car with a membership.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 07:07 PM
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Absolutely. I don’t want her to end up like Adele.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 06:34 PM
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At the very least if they’re not technically lying about being in one they are most certainly lying about how ‘ethical’ it is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 04:46 PM
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♬ It's never who you want to be polyamorous who's polyamorous You're never like, oh sweet! It's usually the guy at the Verizon store Who wears vests to parties ♬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 04:43 PM
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I love this song
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 10:12 PM
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I got far enough into the comments where someone said they got their wife a <$1 ring from a souvenir shop during their vacation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 01:56 PM
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Excellent post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 03:12 PM
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Whenever I see poly couples, at least one of them is in a transient job. Having a stable, corporate in-person job and polyamory doesn’t mix well. A coworker will see them or their partner out on a date with someone else and the whole office inevitably finds out. They assume their colleague is cheating or getting cheated on. That’s not really a problem if they work at a place with high turn over and a revolving door of coworkers, but that can lead to significantly less pay. This man could also ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 04:17 PM
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Part of the problem is how media tries to convince audiences that men can “snap” overnight. I watched Netflix’s interpretation of the Christopher Watts case and it was so bad. The guy showed signs of being unstable long before he went through with it and they completely glossed over the signs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 05:10 PM
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How is cider’s quality? I keep seeing their ads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 05:24 AM
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Jubilee did it on purpose because it’s just a farm for trashy, “controversial” content where the audience pretends it’s nuanced and interesting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 12:45 AM
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You should be worried about her. No one should trust a man who lies about how many kids he has or lies about having them at all. He’s comfortable lying. He will lie about big things, small things. For all anyone knows he’s still sleeping with the mother of his kids. The logic is that he wants to trap your sister. He gets people attached to him before he starts slowly revealing he’s a garbage human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 08:59 PM
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What is your question exactly? The translation is that she’s a pickme. She probably didn’t tell you because deep down she knows it’s wrong and she doesn’t want to risk anyone disagreeing with her choice. As long as she tries to make it work with this man she’s doomed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 08:55 PM
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It means she’s a pickme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 08:50 PM
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What I like about Jia too is that she says she likes to communicate with her eyes. The contestant who followed her around like a puppy eventually accepted that she wasn’t interested back and she didn’t even have to break it down for him further when he asked her to talk alone. It’s proof that men understand more non verbal communication than they let on and that no one has to over explain or defend themselves to a man to be understood. A lot of relationship subs promote cOmmUniCaTioN even when t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 06:34 PM
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7 part series on tiktok where a woman goes live to tell off her boyfriend/husband (not sure if they're married) because he won't clean up after himself, he won't get a job, an education, and he won't take care of his child. He had a meltdown because she went to the movies and he had to watch their kid despite that he had no plans that night. Instead of taking responsibility for all the problems she mentioned in their relationship, he gaslights her and makes thinly-veiled accusations that she is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 07:27 PM
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They absolutely do. A video of a plus sized woman went viral a long time ago that showed her fit boyfriend bringing her breakfast and dinner in bed. There were sooo many comments like “good idea, keep her fat so she wont leave you.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 02:22 AM
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I did that and I couldn’t find it :(. I even used quotes around the search terms so it would only show results with those exact words. I think something is up with my Google algorithm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 10:57 PM
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Can someone send me the link to the thread I want to keep tabs on anymore updates
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 05:58 PM
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This is why It’s sus to me when men encourage other men to treat women better by saying “would you want your sister, mom, or daughter to be disrespected?” As if being a person isn’t enough, because in their minds a woman’s worth is based on how she’s related to a man, and this shows how even that connection doesn’t guarantee anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 05:18 PM
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😷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 03:47 PM
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I absolutely need to cut back and focus more on hv content and social circles. I need to desperately stop reading relationship subs and judgment subs. They're all rife with women and children in abusive situations. Even if there isn't blatant abuse, a lot of them are getting disrespected by their partners or pickme/enabling relatives. It makes me angry that so many people are socialized to accept the bare minimum and it all starts in the home. It's been hard not reading the content though becaus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 05:54 PM
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As others said, don’t give out your phone number. If you want to keep doing this method, download a fake call/text app that can send all calls to voice mail and lets you pick a phone number from another state. To account for the numbers you have given out, make sure all your socials aren’t allowed to find you via contacts. Don’t give Instagram your phone number, Facebook has a setting so that people can’t search for your profile by your phone number and linked in does too. Tiktok and Snapchat al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 01:23 AM
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High value partners help their loves have balanced lives so demands like this are unnecessary. This last sentence is chef's kiss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 08:38 PM
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queen shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 08:35 PM
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Institute for advanced study of human sexuality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 05:41 PM
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She’s definitely not an expert, the for profit diploma mill school she attended to study relationships and sexuality shut down after it was discredited. She’s given advice that received negative criticism by a bona fied doctor of gynecology and instead of accepting it she argued with her despite that she went to a real school and studies real medicine. Her man is only with her because she admitted herself that he didn’t want her and they didn’t start dating until he was homeless and he needed a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 07:27 PM
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The most horrible one I saw came from a wife who was on DB and told her side of the story. Her husband was complaining about not getting sex for a month and he didn’t at all mention that he was so rough that he DISLOCATED her hip the last time they had sex. Yet he has multiple posts b1tching and moaning that she didn’t do enough for him. Sociopathic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 11:28 PM
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By any chance do you still have the link? This is some solid yet horrifying birth control 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 11:26 PM
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“wE cAn fIx iT iF wE coMmUniCaTe”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 01:42 AM
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It’s also hard to find out if someone thinks long distance relationships are valid. I met a guy who introduced himself as having a girlfriend. Later that night he asked me out several times and I said no. He tried to say that his LDR isn’t a real relationship to him because of the distance and he would take her more seriously if she didn’t live out of state, as if that would make his cheating attempts any better. Total clown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 10:56 PM
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She should call the woman from the chess post to help her 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 09:56 PM
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Can you PM me too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 11:12 PM
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I’ve found that in many ways FDS can still apply in WLW relationships. I learned the hard way that men aren’t the only ones that emulate toxic masculinity. FDS Also made me significantly more cautious. I saw a post from a bi woman here who said she went on a date with another woman. The date kept insisting that they meet at her place but the OP had said no. Later they’re out at the bar and the date just springs her boyfriend on OP and proposes a threesome. I’m way more careful about not going to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 02:02 AM
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I looked at her other videos and she said she met him on discord. Explains so much. I wonder how bad her home life is that she moved out at 18 for an internet relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 04:05 PM
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I wish I had a success story but truthfully a die hard L/NVM family member cannot and will not change unless it’s by force. All other family members or family friends would have to be on board with holding them accountable. If said family member has even one standalone enabler they will have no incentive to change. Although the change isn’t genuine since it’s coming from a place of not being given a choice, it’s better to have the local NVM under control. If they can’t be controlled they need to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 12:05 AM
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Don’t debate them. If you don’t want to cut any of them off for whatever reason, grey rock or change the subject. If someone says you’re jealous for wanting monogamy and your only response is “ok” or “I hear you” and they keep going, they’re only arguing with themselves at that point. They’ll get tired of trying to get a reaction and not getting one. Poly is trash for reasons a few people have already listed: it’s difficult to open an already established relationship, the other person will lie a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 12:23 AM
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I saw someone on Twitter get called a gold digger because she thought her date was getting her a Starbucks cakepop but he actually ate the two that he bought himself lol. Wanting a $1.99 dessert and $4 coffee makes someone a gold digger now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 06:21 PM
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Isn’t that the guy who said he doesn’t shower in an Interview
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 04:09 PM
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What’s her username I would like to subscribe 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 11:19 PM
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❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 05:10 PM
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Thank you!! Like you said, men understand other men’s body language. Look at men that play or watch sports. In a sport, you have to predict the body language of the opposing players very quickly and anticipate their next move and respond accordingly. Depending on what they’re doing, they have to make a decision within a split second. If someone is just watching a sport, sometimes they can tell who is going to win by analyzing the behavior of a player so they can make bets. This can be really tim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 06:53 PM
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Sounds like it’s time to grey rock everyone who encourages you to stay in garbage relationships. “You’re being too shallow.” “Ok.” And then keep repeating that every time they try to say something. Be as bland in your responses as possible. If anyone asks about your dating life, say it’s fine. I’ve limited all communication about relationships with specific family members and it’s been peaceful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 02:24 PM
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Sorry if I word vomit all over this. I think it depends on the occasion you're dressing for. A long-time ago I saw a comment from someone on FDS who said they showed up to a very casual date without make-up and they weren't dressed up and the man got upset about it. She replied saying that since they were only meeting at a cafe the date didn't warrant going all out on an outfit, hair, and makeup. Some men are used to seeing pickmes go the extra mile on their appearance just for a netflix and chi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 02:00 AM
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There was an FDS post awhile ago where someone said this older man at work started trying to use her as a therapist with the intent to start an emotional affair. He was so eager to talk about how he was missing out by being with his wife. I don’t think your theory is that far off!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 03:33 AM
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A lot of people are telling him he’s TA but they’re prefacing it by saying he should cOmmUnIcAtE with her and explain his side again despite that his side isn’t valid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 02:01 AM
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I need that tiktok guy who does all the equations on people’s videos to calculate their height to see this video and respond 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 10:05 PM
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You're an inspiration
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 03:57 PM
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I watched the whole video and one thing that struck me was how she said her harasser got a girlfriend out of his campaign against her. His gf is either a massive pickme, a clout chaser, or both. I could never date someone who does shit like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 10:15 PM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:18 AM
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He has to be mucinex man size
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:15 AM
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Welcome queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 02:17 AM
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Did she make out with Armie Hammer!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:38 PM
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Ty!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:36 PM
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What in the fresh hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:19 PM
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Drop the brands 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:18 PM
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There’s this article called “Joe Rogan faces backlash for laughing about his friend coercing women to perform oral sex” I didn’t link it because it might be behind a paywall, but if you search the title there should to be other articles about this issue that are free to read. Title is also self explanatory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 01:58 AM
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Might be obvious but The Joe Rogan Experience, Jordan Peterson podcast
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 11:12 PM
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It’s not abnormal. I think someone on FDS once put it this way: a lot of the guys on apps aren’t people you would typically meet in real life for a reason. Some of them are people who wouldn’t leave their house to take women on dates, they don’t have hobbies, and they don’t have ambitions. Some of them just want the ego boost of having a lot of women’s phone numbers, snap usernames, or they’re pic collectors. They think a woman is just supposed to fall in their lap out of thin air with no effort…
/r/askFDS18/08/21 04:46 PM
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It’s largely for clickbait. Netflix put on that stupid Chris Watts documentary trying to spin the story as if there were no signs. It really got audiences talking because people were asking, “how can someone switch up overnight?” While some men can change their feelings towards their partners really quickly, it’s rarely on the extreme end. However, if you go on true crime YouTube or even true crime Reddit, there are plenty of users that have provided proof (Social media screenshots, interviews f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 11:27 AM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:13 PM
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Omg this was a plot in a tv show too 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 09:47 PM
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💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 09:42 PM
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Ive seen it stunt growth because the woman in the situation became codependent on him. She specifically started dating him because he had a car and an apartment. That was impressive to her at the time because she was too young to have those things. That’s where it began and ended. As she got older and more independent, her man stagnated and she ended up financially supporting him like he was a kid after she started making her own money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 01:22 PM
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Twin flames is metaphysical woo speak for Stockholm syndrome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 03:55 AM
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This post was a great way to finish off my monday 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 02:59 AM
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No this isn’t normal. That’s fucked up. You dodged a bullet. He might never get out of the FOG. This screams Jocasta. ETA: I know we aren’t allowed to specifically mention other subs in here because of brigading, but if you hop into the most well known JustNo sub and search Jocasta you’ll find plenty of threads about women going through this same problem with their SOs. It’s not particularly fixable. It’s good that you got out now because some people don’t get out until a decade and several kids…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:23 PM
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👏 May I hear more about what your SIL put in her prenup?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 02:29 PM
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Hearing “chore play” always makes me choke ahhaha I can't believe the person who made it up is taken seriously but that's the internet for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:05 PM
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Was this the same one who made her pay half of a 3 bedroom apartment she couldn't afford and where she couldn't even use one of the rooms because it was exclusively for his gaming?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:46 AM
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I'm in a LTR with a good man He has some habits I don't like (gaming, lack of physical activity, ...) I wanted him to take better care of himself, get fitter, see a doctor about some issues that he has. He has not done any of that, and in his spare time mostly sits in a dark hot room gaming. Do you see the inconsistencies here?? The reason we are not married after a decade is mostly me; he has hinted at it but I have never felt ready. This is your gut talking. Listen to it. You’ll never be ready…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 01:57 PM
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You cant stop it from getting to you. Most people can’t deal with a constant stream of negativity, and that’s ok. Being hurt by their lack or support is a normal human response. Since you can’t change them, one way is to keep them on an information diet if you don’t want to cut them off. They can’t talk negatively about something they don’t know about. Reserve updates on your successes for friends and relatives that can be happy for you.
/r/askFDS13/07/21 12:26 AM
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They get mad about everything lol. Someone posted a screenshot here where a woman was in a dating forum talking about how much she liked short men and a bunch of them attacked her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:49 PM
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I watched some of the other parts on tik tok and it seems like she just met this ‘friend’ at the hotel she was staying at and they didn’t actually know each other
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 01:45 PM
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This is good layout for analyzing the cost of your emotional labor too. Love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:45 PM
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👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 09:13 PM
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More: also sis, you wrote in your history that you just went through a difficult break up just two weeks ago. Are you sure finding someone so soon is what you want? Now is a great time to reflect on what you don’t like in a relationship, learn more about how to read and predict red flags that push into your dealbreaker territory, develop strong boundaries.
/r/askFDS09/06/21 09:31 PM
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Don’t give anyone your phone number until after you meet them. If someone asks for your number, say you prefer to not exchange numbers until you see them in person. If they get upset to that small boundary, unmatch them because they barely know you and they’re already being pushy. If you keep the convo on the app and they get crazy, it will be easier to report them so you can get them banned before they can try and harass anyone else. Even when you do meet someone in person, leave them with a Go…
/r/askFDS09/06/21 09:24 PM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:07 PM
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Someone please help lol. I’m looking for two things. A user here posted a quote from a book on feminism about how men’s relationships with women are more about impressing other men than about their girlfriend’s humanity, or something along those lines. There’s also another book about generational trauma and neuroplasticity. For the life of me I can’t remember the title, but in the examples the author talks about: An older client who got therapy to become a better partner to his wife. It was used…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:59 PM
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I was just reading this because I know people who think women that don’t want to marry down must be gOlD dIgGers lol. Wanting to marry in your own tax bracket isn’t gold digging, it’s predictable. If you earn a decent salary in a field that requires higher education, you’re probably going to be around others that are also educated and earn a similar salary, and plenty of people date within their environment. Even if you don’t have these things, some of the poorest of women have had more to offer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:44 PM
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For real I will be using that lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:44 PM
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What a loser, he just wanted someone to carry the burden of socializing for the both of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:27 PM
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There are some legitimate fitness coaches that use only fans to post SFW content and advertise it as such, but they are far and few between.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 12:48 AM
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It is disappointing. All my favorite men in fiction were written by women haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:00 AM
4

Wait give me the tea how long must a future mom have a good diet to maximize the reduction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:58 AM
12

Same. There’s this book called It Didn’t Start With You and it talks about how generational trauma gets embedded into our DNA regardless if the next generation has personally experienced the trauma or not. I’d rather not have kids and never marry than burden the next 4 generations because of one mistake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:16 PM
5

Same!
/r/askFDS04/06/21 06:23 PM
93

I love watching his videos on YouTube. He mentions that he tries to talk to talk people out of certain procedures wherever he can. One woman wanted a face lift but he gave her a retinoid that gave her great results so she changed her mind on the facelift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:16 PM
35

Tonyyounmd on Instagram and tiktok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:13 PM
17

Moving back home is temporary. Your relationship with your kids is not. You won’t be able to get a good relationship kids back if he has so much room to manipulate them in person. Kids understand so much yet so little at the same time. Trying to recover a relationship with them that has been damaged by manipulation on his part could take years. Time is priceless.
/r/askFDS04/06/21 01:22 AM
13

Im tired of the relationship/marriage counseling industrial complex. They’re all just there to keep people coming back instead of helping them leave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:31 AM
15

Peep the book Why Does He Do That? It explains a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:28 AM
16

Emotionally stunted is right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:23 PM
10

That was a ride
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 04:01 AM
16

That dude is brain dead lol
/r/askFDS25/05/21 05:10 PM
35

Regé-Jean Page
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:12 PM
8

Damn 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 03:33 PM
50

Only LV people hold this against their partners for no good reason. The US has the highest rates of single parents and honestly, even if two het people are married and both working, a lot of wives still get stuck with so many responsibilities that they might as well be single parents. There’s statistical proof that wives are doing the majority of the child rearing and managing the household. I’ve seen several married women write think pieces about how divorcing was the only way to get their exes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 03:06 PM
45

This reminds me of when a tiktok star went viral because he said he hated seeing girls with hair on their arms. Super weird thing to be upset over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 11:25 PM
7

I’m not sure why but Shonda is claiming that it’s to follow the arc of the books. However, there’s people in the Bridgerton sub reading the books right now and he’s still alive so far and they’re 4 books in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:16 PM
10

I’m so sad he’s leaving the show 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:02 PM
315

having a bitter subscriber screenshot or screen record the content and upload it to other platforms where people can view it for free. I’ve stumbled upon subreddits where men trade or repost content from women’s only fans accounts because they’re mad they spent $50 on nudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:03 PM
118

I saw one where a woman had a dislocated hip and her husband was still on DB playing victim about not having sex when she couldn’t even walk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:37 PM
9

For profit schools that only have a few years before they’re shut down by the state for not being accredited institutions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 02:17 PM
106

On the rare occasion they say why it’s completely inaccurate lol. We allegedly encourage women to “play games,” as if matching a man’s energy when they try to ghost you or removing yourself/blocking them when they disrespect your boundaries is “manipulation.” We also apparently scam men for dinner dates, as if we have something to gain from spending time getting ready and commuting to a restaurant only to still be disappointed by: Their bad conversation skills because they only talk about themse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:47 PM
8

Pls add Regé-Jean Page 🤤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:19 PM
3

I second not telling men about your trauma. It could attract people with savior complexes. It also gives people with more sinister intentions a better idea of how far they can take negative behavior. They will think, “she dealt with x in the past, so I can get away with y because it’s not as bad as x.” It can be difficult to get out of abuse patterns because some people, for example, think that because they’re not physically abusive it means they’re a good partner. They will pat themselves on th…
/r/askFDS06/05/21 12:31 AM
3

I’m actually not sure where it is. It might have gotten deleted and I didn’t save it. I can’t remember what sub it was in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:16 PM
19

I’ll never forget that post from the guy with the baby daughter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:37 PM
70

Apparently some women are still dating guys who leave shit crumbs in the bed, pee on the floor or in bottles, and game all day according to relationship subs. The bar is in hell. If these animals can get girlfriends other guys have no excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 04:45 PM
61

I second getting a lawyer sue his ass if you have to!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 04:38 PM
6

It probably did because pretty much everyone was (correctly) telling her he’s abusive, to leave him, and she was upset because she started a lot of getting DMs too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 07:12 PM
4

Yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 12:28 PM
12

It made me so mad when she hooked him up with a job after being too broke for a studio and he thought it was beneath him until he realized the gig was for a popular producer. Then she STILL helped him after he snubbed the producer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 12:18 PM
16

He was unhappy for like 15 seconds. I thought it was going to be a growth story where both women realize he’s trash but just as quickly as he breaks up with the model they get back together. I was disappointed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 12:16 PM
2

❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:53 PM
24

If the post went viral these situations wouldn’t be identifiable because these scenarios happen often enough to not be unique to the three individual couples mentioned in the post. I’ve seen several variations of 1 and 3 posted on multiple relationship or judgement subs. It would be different if they were really weird stories that wouldn’t happen to just anyone or discussing something that would have ended up in the news like a car accident or a house fire cause by an angry partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:49 PM
27

So many things I want to say but I’ll probably get banned from Reddit 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:39 PM
20

Honestly you might want to dump the friends who are telling you your standards are too high for not wanting to waste your 20s on a creepy deadbeat loser. There’s this book called the defining decade that talks about how important your 20s are for career building. People used to think it was 30 but it’s not. He should be further than where he is now. At the bare minimum he should be scrambling to make up for the time he lost. My dad is over 50 and he’s still “finishing his degree” because he does…
/r/askFDS28/04/21 01:33 AM
6

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:44 PM
36

I wish I could give this description an award 🥇
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:02 PM
79

He proposed in an episode but she said no because he was a mess and he’s still a mess. Throughout the show he never took recovering from addiction seriously so he keeps quietly and publicly relapsing a decade later. Now he’s dating someone 20 years younger than him because his girlfriends mom is a massive clout chaser and wanted to offer up her 19 year old daughter to a crusty unstable man for fame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:10 AM
1

Omg can you PM me this thread I need to see this weird dumpster fire
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 01:44 AM
21

I saw a comment on Twitter where someone said that she posted in another tik tok that her parents hate him but she hopes they will warm up to him one day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 01:51 PM
5

I saw this on Twitter and I was so 😷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 01:47 PM
70

The biggest downside is that women with curvier figures have a harder time finding clothes that can “cover” them so to say. Some of my larger chested friends talk about how difficult it is to find shirts and blouses that are more conservative but not super baggy,give the uniboob effect, or look like a bedsheet. A lot of men are so depraved that just seeing a hint of an outline of boobs and hips on a conservatively dressed person turns them on (a man told me this 😷).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:57 PM
61

This reminds me of a thread where a guy left a door open before he left the house with his wife despite that she reminded him to lock it. A burglar walked in and their daughter had to run out of the house to a neighbor’s. Thank god because she could’ve been kidnapped, trafficked, killed, etc. His wife wanted to divorce after that because that was the last straw since he was always disorganized with their marriage. He was like, “would I be a 💩 hole if I told my wife that it wasn’t entirely my fau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:33 AM
292

Throwback to a thread posted here where a guy shit in a bush because he thought the park had open bathrooms and people on different platforms were bashing the woman for not wanting to date someone who shits on the ground for a first date 🤡 Coffee is a laxative and it makes the breath stink
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:33 AM
3

She kinda started making weird posts and then deleted all her accounts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 09:49 PM
6

Has anyone been seeing what’s going on with actualblackmermaid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:09 PM
37

I’ve seen a video where he took her shopping for some cheap clothes and shoes. That’s as far as the “sharing” goes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:20 PM
5

Omg how did you find them? Networking? Online research? That’s my dream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 08:40 PM
5

Men that wanna be called daddy or zaddy are so basic lol. They offer nothing to a relationship and except to be called daddy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 08:20 PM
14

Please don’t bond over bad breakups with men in the future. It will tell them how much you’ll tolerate in a relationship and sets the bar low. He probably thinks he’a a good person for being non-committal just because he was upfront about it.
/r/askFDS15/04/21 01:04 AM
29

I wouldn’t call 5 months a new break up unless he was with his ex for a very long time
/r/askFDS14/04/21 12:35 PM
3

Omg thank you I was looking for this. I only have The Seduction Mystique.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:51 PM
15

Yes. I’m dealing with this in my family and they will rue the day when they’re old as shit and need someone to take care of of them after leaving everyone else to pick up their slack for decades. I’ll be sending them to a home where they can die mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:48 PM
23

I heard the first $300 course she was selling was just a summary of Ginie Sayles’ books that anyone can get for $5-10 dollars.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:37 AM
45

Omg I remember that post and I was dying. A whole group of girls roasted him in harmony and made him rethink his whole life. It was glorious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:39 PM
100

He’s right lol to an extent, I do want a man to feel safe enough to open up about their desires for other women so I can molly whop the block button
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:03 PM
16

Im curious about this too. Family and friends introducing OP to men that can’t keep up? Doesn’t sound well meaning to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 12:55 PM
10

Bruh there are whole married couples that don’t even do that 😂. This man at my old job said he and his wife were looking for a bigger house because they realized sharing a home office is too inconvenient for them. Why tf would anyone think this is a good date? Big yike.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 12:52 PM
15

I wish it was she posted pics of the slugs and everything 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 12:40 PM
33

Same 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 12:32 PM
36

😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 10:29 PM
54

Im really hoping that a miracle will happen and someone with authority sees how fucked up this is and sends this psycho to prison. This is so heart breaking because I have so little hope in the justice system when it comes to crimes against women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:01 PM
13

Everything you said is right. IMO, no one should have kids with someone who shuts down and locks themselves in their room when they’re slightly inconvenienced. Eventually, they begin to see their own young kids and babies as an inconvenience instead of as very vulnerable human beings that need to be changed, fed, and watched to make sure they don’t hurt themselves. They’ll lock themselves in a room to play games for hours. Then their partners post on a relationship sub saying “My husband/boyfrie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:06 PM
44

I don’t think she’s actually attracted to him, the real housewives subs are talking about how it’s purely a clout relationship that her carpetbagger mom pushed her into.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:35 PM
14

I wish I go on a night skate because there wouldn’t be as many cars in the street, but alas 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:59 PM
3

Anyone got advice for buying someone out of their portion of a house? I know it technically varies state to state but isn’t it possible to refinance a house anywhere in the US to buy someone out of their portion as long as you have good credit and a solid job?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 08:06 PM
276

“INcEl wOmEn r WoRsE” I’m looking for the women incel mass shooters and bombers 🔎 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:21 PM
47

I remember that post! This update makes me so happy. Congratulations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:58 PM
10

I’m also curious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:56 PM
56

This has made me paranoid as well. I heard from career advisors that not having a profile picture can cause recruiters to skip over your profile. I do have some tips, not full proof but they can help: LinkedIn has an option where you can restrict who sees your profile picture. You can set it to only linked in members, your network, or first degree connections. That way at the bare minimum, someone has to have an account to view, and linked in tells you who looks at your profile and when, unless …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:20 AM
42

Lmfao Please someone tell me this one word that allegedly ruins lives so I can start
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 11:46 PM
95

Having a degree unfortunately doesn’t mean intellectually compatible. I’ve met men with master’s degrees that subscribe to the idea that a man paying for a first dinner date makes him a simp. That’s the lOgiCaL gender for you. I’ve also seen other comments/posts on here from women in PhD programs that have mentioned how men in their cohorts or in other PhD programs act like knobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 04:24 PM
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I saw a post in a relationship sub about a year ago where a woman had this same issue. OP was in a male dominated engineering type of field. Her boyfriend bragged to all his friends about how hot and smart she is as if that’s impossible to find. When he introduced her to his friends they all acted like they couldn’t believe a woman can be an engineer and be hot so they spent dinner grilling her with engineering questions despite that she was visibly uncomfortable. I was so happy when I read the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 02:51 PM
28

Don’t help him. He’s just going to use this info against the next woman. If you tell him it’s clear he has issues because he sexualized women in real life and on tv, he’s going to take that information and not do this to the next person he dates for 1-3 months and then he’ll go back to doing it once he sees she’s invested. If he wanted to help himself he would. Stay no contact instead of giving him a chance to weasel his way back into your life.
/r/askFDS29/03/21 08:20 PM
7

Dm me the name 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 12:38 PM
7

Jesus Christ
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:44 AM
160

I actually just saw a tiktok today from a woman who said she identifies as bi but wants to reframe her sexuality as queer with an aversion to men. She said she can be attracted to men but overall she’s not attracted to how they’re socialized. Most of the ones she has met are bad conversationalists, make sexual comments within seconds of meeting, and have no emotional intelligence. Really resonated with me 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:40 AM
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Tell me why the exact same thing happened to me lol. I don’t know why YouTube thought they should recommend this to me when it has nothing to do with what I regularly watch. I selected “don’t recommend this channel” so fast like I was blocking and deleting a clown lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 06:08 PM
17

Yes! I think a key way of finding out a man’s stance on abusers/predators is to ask him, in a nonjudgmental way, what he thinks about particular celebrities that are flagrantly abusive but have been “forgiven” by their acolytes. Being neutral is key because a lot of men will happily give a speech on why what said celeb did was: not as bad as everyone thinks -Imply the person isn’t at fault because they have existing mental health issues -talk about how they have changed now and that by donating …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 02:40 AM
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To whoever sees this comment do not mention jack shit because even if isn’t used against you, your story will now be told to others behind your back. Also TW for rape. I was in a zoom gathering and a mutual invited their Nigel. We were all discussing relationships and the Nigel started talking about an ex girlfriend from 10 years ago, who after two years of dating him, confided in him that in the past she was coerced into sex acts she felt were demeaning by her partner of 7 years. He said he had…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 08:54 PM
29

How does going private work? There was a sub or two that I was a part of and they went private permanently. Even though I was subscribed before they went private the site said I didn’t have permission to view anymore 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 01:44 PM
7

Someone on here once said they’re tired of running into guys where it’s obvious that the last book they read was green eggs and ham. I think about that a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:13 AM
30

I’m tired of it too. I think people really underestimate how shitty most people are in monogamous relationships because unequal power dynamics and unfair treatment has been so normalized. Adding more partners to a pre-Existing, dysfunctional 2 person relationship adds fuel to the dumpster fire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:10 PM
5

I’m dying I just found a post in another sub complaining about the 6/6/6 post and I’m 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:31 PM
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Even if she agreed to try it, I highly doubt it would be enough to make him happy. I randomly saw an AMA from a fart fetish model. IIRC she talked about how men are shelling out money for custom fart videos where she does it for a few minutes straight. If they got married he’d probably start taking money of their joint account to ask for custom fart videos and she’s going to end up with a whole new slew of problems. If he feels comfortable lying about their sexual compatibility for years what el…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 05:04 PM
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I saw a Reddit post where this woman said she went to dinner with her husband’s family. She said she loved how they were a big family. They were trying for a baby and she couldn’t wait to have a big family of her own and everyone was quiet. His sister pulled the OP aside and told her that he had gotten a vasectomy before they met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:44 PM
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I’ve been on Twitter for the past 30 minutes and I’m crine. The “city boys” are mad when women leave cheating men while also being mad at women who stay with cheating men. They really don’t hear themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 05:08 PM
63

It costs 15 cents where I am to run a dishwasher and it saves more water than washing by hand. That’s cheap af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:54 PM
23

👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:51 PM
17

Great, now she has to deal with reparenting her boyfriend since his parents didn’t do it. She shouldn’t be cooking all his food. I searched for the post and I can’t help but wonder why the OP didn’t ask this question in an autism sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:47 PM
14

Men would just start secretly recording regular conversations and frankenbiting a fake audio together to make it look like someone gave consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:07 AM
31

Wish I could give this a gold 🥇
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:03 AM
71

Meeting up along a highway to hang out with an internet date and the local gas station crackheads. So romantic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 10:54 PM
78

If they only became recluses it would be ideal. A lot of them become delusional and start acting extra creepy and predatory towards women irl because porn distorts their reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 03:20 PM
41

So many kids end up watching it before they’re 12 and think they need to do it so they can fit in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:48 PM
92

They’re terrible because they don’t understand that boys are harder to raise. All the raising they aren’t doing just gets outsourced to future girlfriends who end up mommying their boyfriends that were never taught emotional intelligence, healthy coping mechanisms, what a normal relationship looks like, how to maintain a home or apartment, etc. Someone could teach their boys responsibility at home, but they end up having to deprogram their sons every time they leave and return. I’ve heard from w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:14 PM
9

Time to move out
/r/askFDS15/03/21 12:15 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/l771dq/the_last_thing_he_did_rest_his_soul/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 09:41 PM
323

My favorite post was from a woman who said she was walking with her boyfriend to meet his parents since they had recently agreed to be exclusive. On their way there they run into a lady friend of his, and he introduced OP as “just a friend” instead of his girlfriend. OP said they’re actually not friends, they’re barely acquaintances. She tells them goodbye and leaves with the dessert tray.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:11 PM
8

That reminded me of another story where this homeless man asked a woman on a car date, they went to McDonald’s, she paid for his massive order, he scarfed down all the food and disappeared into the night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 06:36 PM
18

I’ve been thinking about this too now that it’s getting warmer where I am. I have a long coat that looks like a men’s coat with a big hood. When I’m wearing it I never get hit on because men can’t look at me. Now I won’t be able to wear it 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 06:02 PM
3

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:11 PM
22

Most popular dating apps are owned by Match group with the exception of Bumble. Match group’s model involves making AI bot accounts of women to talk to men and make them think they’re getting matches when the men are really talking to bots. This is a enough to keep men paying for premium versions of apps like Tinder. They have algorithms that can tell when a man is using the app less and it triggers the fake notifications to get them using the app again. Some guys, even LV ones, realize this and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:07 PM
3

I could get over it if they were only faking because I could break up with them safely since the main issue is laziness. I’m concerned about situations where maybe the person is secretly crazy and the best way to give them the boot is to trick them into thinking they’re the one that wants to break up. 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:56 PM
8

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:24 PM
90

I can’t find it right now but last week someone dropped some links and stats on an FDS post showing that the amount of unpaid childcare women have to do at home has skyrocketed due to the pandemic. Majority of men is accurate. It was bad before and it’s even worse now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:37 PM
10

Can you drop some tips 👀 I don’t plan on dating for a while because of the Panasonic, and I’ve read enough FDS to spot red many red flags, but I’m still cautious about how someone can seem normal and then switch up 8 months in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:28 PM
67

Thanking pickminique for the free publicity 🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 11:33 PM
9

Tbh I don’t think the manager would give her a good reference right now. But I can see the value in waiting. Once I’m 7 months into a new job I’m definitely leaving a bad review for the old one. By then they should cycle through enough new employees that it’ll be hard to trace.
/r/askFDS10/03/21 08:02 PM
14

Don’t forget to leave a bad review on Glassdoor
/r/askFDS10/03/21 07:12 PM
37

It definitely does explain the rush in automation. I’m also in tech. It’s going to be bad. Education in the US is pricey and it gets more expensive by the year. When a ton McJobs are automated there won’t even be crappy jobs left that don’t require a Bachelor’s. I don’t want to have kids if I don’t have money to send them to school so they can enter a future proof career. It just seems cruel to be confined to a lifetime of being treated like dirt for nickels and dimes. I can’t fathom be married …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:57 PM
86

I don’t have anything valuable to add but I just wanted to comment that I can’t wait for all this shit to collapse due to declining birth rates lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 03:19 PM
6

You don’t have to tell them that. It’s not relevant.
/r/askFDS10/03/21 01:47 PM
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I agree with this. If anyone asks if you believe in picking up the tab or going 50/50 in the future, you can also tell them that’s a weird question and block them afterwards. Questions like “what do you bring to the table?” Or “do you go 50/50?” are questions that don’t need to be asked because they’re obvious. The whole purpose of dates is to get to know someone. A man can observe right away if the person they’re taking on dates will go 50/50 or not, if they have good conversation skills, inter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 04:31 PM
22

Yesss. I actually saw a Reddit post where a woman said her boyfriend proposed at the same time she caught him cheating. The woman he was cheating with hadn’t even left their apartment yet, she was gathering her clothes to rush out during this “proposal.” There was no ring, he was just on his knees crying and begging. Thank god the OP broke up with him because it sounded like a shit show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:41 PM
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That’s one of the options I’m looking into as well. I feel underwhelmed by this option sometimes though 😩. Polyamory seems to be the new wave in wlw relationships these days. When I go on apps geared towards bi/lesbian women every third profile in my area says they’re in a poly relationship. Pre FDS I went on a date with a poly person because I was curious and naive lol. She spent the whole time talking about how bad her main partner is. Mam this is Wendy’s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:21 PM
51

Facts. Since he can’t get away with lying in this day and age, he’s jumped on the “i’M aN eNtrEpRenEur” trend that’s happening now. He wears his business t shirts everywhere but it was over before it got off the ground. He’s still convinced it’s going to make him rich but I’ve listened to one of his meetings with “investors” and he sounds ridiculous. No one with a modicum of common sense wants to invest with someone who advocates for cutting corners and underpaying future employees. He’s always …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:06 PM
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They will lie for decades. My mom met my dad in college. She told me he dropped out because he was partying too much and getting bad grades. I always knew he didn’t have his bachelor’s, but no one else did. He told his first wife and my half sibling that he had a degree. He even tried to tell my sib that they need to do better in school and be more like him because he’s just sooo smart. Who tries to flex on their own kid? Anyway, my sib only found out last year that he never had a degree after I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:35 PM
108

Can’t make adjustments on a ring she paid for and will wear 24/7. Big yike.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:39 AM
187

I’ve arrived to present the gay agenda
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:37 AM
32

That’s exactly what I was wondering. I have no doubt he’s giving all of them the exact same speech, hoping that one day someone will put money on his books.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:21 PM
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Someone I’ve known for a while started talking to their ex who is in jail. They never answered the “you are receiving a phone call from x penitentiary” voicemails because they thought it was a scam call. The number had been calling for 5 years. They finally answered and it’s an ex who was arrested for reasons we can’t figure out. The guy never gave my friend his real name so it’s impossible to look up why he’s in jail. I asked my friend why they’re talking to him and they said it’s because “jail…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 01:43 PM
40

Somewhat close, yet so far No sympathy from me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:55 AM
117

Tbh you probably have to leave the town. I temporarily went from a big city to a small town surrounded by corn for school and dating was impossible. I also noticed this phenomenon where a lot of beautiful women on my campus were considered average there, but their beauty was more appreciated in their larger home cities. At my school, a lot of students’ idea of beauty standards only fit into 2-3 types. Don’t move just to have more options in men though. While there’s more dating opportunities, th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 01:24 AM
20

👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:39 AM
22

He’s not your boyfriend he’s the roommates’s boyfriend. It’s only been 3 months cut your losses.
/r/askFDS25/02/21 11:27 PM
2

He’s telling other girls he’s single, disappearing, going on overnights with old flames, etc. You’re only 3 months in there’s zero loss in cutting him off. You don’t need proof to know it’s time to dead the relationship. Him invalidating your feelings is enough, but if you’re dead set on not dropping him until you get proof just go through his phone and I’m sure you’ll find all the proof you need.
/r/askFDS25/02/21 05:44 AM
3

Mam he’s cheating
/r/askFDS25/02/21 04:17 AM
511

Don’t settle for butt crumbs ladies 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 12:24 AM
1

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 06:20 PM
8

There’s no point in getting a FWB, especially with someone you meet on a dating app. He seems fine now, but the main reason FDS says to wait to be intimate with someone is because they could turn out to be controlling, entitled, violent, have a criminal history, actually be married or in another relationship. The easiest way to find out more from a person is by going on dates. Men who only want a FWB aren’t going to give you months to build up trust with them. They’re going to leave after a few …
/r/askFDS24/02/21 03:06 PM
2

What types of follow up questions did you ask?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:02 AM
50

Someone said in another thread they’ve given 2 friends a copy of Why Does He Do That? and it helped them get out of their bad relationships. Other than that, your friend is being abused so you can’t really help her unless she makes the decision to leave and makes that decision permanent. You don’t want him turning up at your house in the future looking for her so it might be best to keep your distance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:52 AM
14

Bring a friend, preferably a strong one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 11:20 PM
9

You don’t need to wait for him to reach out to you, you don’t need to correct him, you don’t need to do a damn thing. He sounds crazy as hell. Even if you confront him he’s just going to twist your words around. There’s no point in debating someone like this. He’s probably out trying to use the break to get laid right now. Actually, at this point it would probably be best to send a message that says something like, “I’m no longer interested in seeing where this goes after the break is over. Don’…
/r/askFDS23/02/21 10:41 PM
8

Block him during the break and don’t let him come back
/r/askFDS23/02/21 09:45 PM
19

Sounds like a predator
/r/askFDS22/02/21 06:16 PM
111

Everyday our favorite butthole sub has new threads that remind me of how important FDS is. Today there’s a thread where a man is asking if he’s wrong for being mad that his wife “let herself go” after she just gave birth. He’s mad her hair isn’t shiny anymore, that she’s wearing baggy clothes, and that she’s had no time to shower while he does Jack shit to help. His mom came to “help” but MIL only came to chastise the wife for not getting done up for her son anymore. This shit is so embarrassing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:07 PM
15

It might have been shadowbanned from YouTube. I saw it when to first came out but I had no idea it was brought back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 05:17 PM
22

I then found out he missed a cc payment last week Is he in debt??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 05:59 PM
6

They can also find your addresses and social media accounts through your phone number
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 10:24 PM
21

Don’t reply to these guys unmatch and report them😩 He’s going to slowly learn that he needs to hide his intentions to con the next woman vs if you unmatch they’re going to think it’s random and not because of their behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:11 PM
65

Damn isn’t that same school that fake sexologist Shan boodram went to 😂 God why are these quacks so predictable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:35 PM
57

She didn’t say but it sounds like he had a porn addiction on top of being addicted to video games She’s so much better off without that ugly low effort troll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:22 PM
80

God damn what is that couch creature
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:04 PM
50

She’s not even attracted to them and they’re predators that whole post is dumpster fire
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:03 PM
3

What book is this 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:41 PM
60

Pedo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 01:34 AM
12

Handbook ✍️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:03 AM
141

I can’t imagine name dropping a dead ex spouse as an excuse to get laid. Knowing the stats he probably left before she passed and now brings her up to everyone he matches with in hope of getting pity sex. Women get used even in death. I’m tired of earth 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:12 AM
395

Her main concerns don’t sound like age related problems they are actually his fault lol. It sounds like he doesn’t brush his teeth or shower. If he has a bad diet he’s probably eating things he can’t digest anymore that make his breath stink. Unless he has dementia or something he’s just not disciplined. Whew if she thinks she’s a caregiver now...if he’s not exercising he’s going to be immobile soon and he will need someone to wipe his ass. 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 04:02 PM
37

They say stuff like that and then get mad when groupies that other celeb men pick start doing groupie things lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 03:52 PM
49

Please get the divorce OP. There’s this book called If You’re In My Office It’s Already Too Late. The author is a divorce lawyer and he went on a podcast to talk about his book and the conversations he has had with his clients. One woman said she knew her marriage was in trouble when her husband stopped paying attention to the little things that made her feel loved. It didn’t seem like a big deal at first, but in hindsight she realized it was the start of him not caring about the marriage at all…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:31 PM
42

What’s her @ so I can send this to all my friends that believe ugly guys are nicer 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 06:34 PM
127

This screams cheating but no doubt that in the comments everyone will come through saying mAybE He’S dEpResSed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 06:27 PM
12

I saw an Instagram post about a man who didn’t believe the gorilla glue woman about how strong it is and he glued a cup to his lip
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 04:17 AM
3

Start building up interest in free or cheap hobbies. Podcasts, books, writing, knitting, coursera, free courses on YouTube, udemy, etc. Catch up with old friends and family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:04 AM
41

I’ve seen some women say they get their guys Valentine’s Day gifts with his money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 10:35 PM
18

So even after all this happened he put you in a position where you had to comfort him despite that he ghosted for two weeks, told a friend about your trauma despite that you told him that in confidence, and he asked for a FWB. Please, the soon you experience any kind of ghosting or disrespect like this again just block and delete. Don’t explain how they hurt you, don’t be gentle, just remove them from your life and never let them contact you again. They know what they did wrong and why it’s hurt…
/r/askFDS11/02/21 09:42 PM
26

I think it’s great you’re prioritizing this considering how many LVM want to be fathers but don’t want to raise their kids. Some even try to convince women that already started the IVF process to stop but it turns out they’re just future faking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:19 PM
43

This is abusive. It’s time to move on.
/r/askFDS11/02/21 06:45 AM
6

They're only open, honest, and upfront because they want to maximize pity in the very beginning so anyone they're dating will feel bad for holding him accountable. They want you to feel guilty for calling them out because “they’re just having a hard time” and they will use that as an excuse to get away with everything.
/r/askFDS09/02/21 03:24 PM
88

If dating apps actually cared about producing relationships they would ban or algorithmically punish men who swipe yes on everyone. Some men go as far as making bots to swipe on everyone while they're not on their phones. Match rates for women wouldn’t be so high if men stopped calling and treating dating apps like “numbers game” and actually took the time to look at people and swipe selectively. However, a lot of them would never do that because they'll still date and talk to women they don’t l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 08:09 PM
19

You saved yourself a lifetime of marital cheating and no longer have to worry about someone who would put your sexual health in danger. 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:02 PM
154

This is what happens when men just listen to just anyone on the internet lmao. I wouldn't be surprised if he's watching the “dating coach” that sounds like a hoarse preacher and tells men they're HVM if they have these traits. 6 figures, depending on how much it is, isn't enough to provide for a “gold digger” these days in any major city. Maybe 100k could make someone feel like a high roller if they live in Oklahoma/any low cost of living area. The bar for what men think a gold digger is today i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:13 AM
8

https://twitter.com/staceynycdc/status/1264005641867276300?s=21 u/honumaluhia Ok so I did a search to try and find the tweets of her defending him but it looks like she deleted her twitter account. They also took out her full name and her husband’s full name but it was pointless because it was already on the internet lol. But I did find the thread with the most replies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 03:12 PM
30

Username checks out 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 06:17 AM
59

How do people like this not end up in the clinic or hospital at any point? Yall ever seen those stats about how most people have a habit of touching their face 16-23 times every hour and almost half the time they touch a mucous membrane? Does he just never get pink eye? Any type of infection? Nothing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:29 AM
11

I don’t have the links to the threads anymore since it happened so long ago :(. They're buried deep in my likes somewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:15 AM
127

He’s so ridiculous. I've been angry ever since I read it. I didn’t feel an ounce of concern when it came out on Twitter that the husband was getting dragged all over the internet. She tried to defend him and make it seem like it was worse than it was but it was 3 damn days! Further proof that having kids with LVM doesn't ruin the lives of individual families. A single LVM who can't raise his own kids can hurt over a dozen single people/families in less than a week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:07 AM
259

Oh my God someone posted an article here a while ago about a white woman(relevant) who shut down her business because her husband couldn't handle watching the kids when schools became virtual. He lasted three days. Her company was big on diversity in tech, so several people came to the conclusion that after the company closed all the POC/WOC(biggest groups impacted by corona) lost their jobs because her husband is an asshole. She said she closed it so she could spend more time at home to help hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:41 AM
143

It’s true, there’s a documentary called the Dark Side of Tinder that someone posted in FDS. They talked about how the apps know how to get men hooked back on them after their match rates slow down. When the algorithms detect that a man isn’t using the apps that much anymore, they’ll send bots to fake match with men or send them alerts about matches that don’t exist just to entice them into opening the app again. It’s an addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 07:00 PM
26

These dollar tree gifts though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:56 AM
28

Please tell us how y’all met 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:54 AM
11

This so embarrassing lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:50 AM
13

Please don’t do it
/r/askFDS03/02/21 08:43 PM
25

This doesn’t sound functional. It sounds too codependent.
/r/askFDS03/02/21 04:37 AM
54

This ☝️ OP have you thought about sending your friend a copy of Why Does He Do That? It goes into detail about the behavior of people who enable abusers by giving them the benefit of the doubt and exactly why it’s harmful to others and to society. Your friend needs to develop a thorough understanding enablers. Maybe once she knows she’ll realize that she can’t be so forthcoming about her past experiences. I understand she wants to be upfront but it’s possible to tell people she’s divorced while …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 04:18 AM
16

Go to the main sub’s sidebar, then go to the menu and there should be an option to read the handbook. It’s a collection of posts and recommended reading for dating. It has helpful info about boundaries, identifying LVM, and it explains in why one-sided relationships don’t benefit women.
/r/askFDS02/02/21 03:17 AM
74

Your friend is on a road to entering another abusive relationship if she thinks that’s reasonable behavior
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 02:57 AM
16

It’s not the real reason. Some guys are just weirdos and want to lurk or want followers. They’ll stop responding to your messages but continue to like your posts and stories on Instagram. Some are just asking everyone they talk to for their numbers regardless of how interested they are so they have a Rolodex and can mass text “wyd” to all of them at 12am. I guess for clowns it’s a confidence boost to have so many random women in your phone. I wouldn’t give them your snap at all. Tell them you do…
/r/askFDS02/02/21 02:34 AM
34

Please read the handbook front to back. Don’t be the person that tries to make things “work.” If you’re the only person putting in effort, if you have to give them detailed guidelines on how to treat you, then you’ve already done too much. Well adjusted people don’t need to be taught how to respect others. Adults can hold themselves accountable. If they’re not holding themselves accountable it’s because they’re choosing not to and know they can get away with it because you don’t leave. Start rem…
/r/askFDS02/02/21 02:16 AM
88

Handbook worthy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:30 PM
3

Yes you don’t owe anyone shit especially not for a creep
/r/askFDS01/02/21 07:09 AM
49

Time to breakup and branch out
/r/askFDS31/01/21 07:27 PM
11

You’re getting used
/r/askFDS30/01/21 11:02 PM
19

Kick him out
/r/askFDS30/01/21 07:02 PM
34

She needs to leave him. Everyone on the main post is saying cOmmUniCate. This sounds like the Kissing Booth 2 with a crappier plot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 10:11 PM
10

Getting back together will undo all the progress you’ve made to move past him. You’ve been doing so much work on yourself and he’s just barely getting started. I bet he’ll stop going to therapy immediately if you agree to take him back. If he wants to string you along he’ll go for two months and quit.
/r/askFDS29/01/21 08:53 PM
217

They’re so emotional
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:21 PM
38

I rarely see a poster come into relationship-esque sub that is dating someone who is autistic or disabled and isn’t already sympathetic. Usually they’re asking for advice on how to accommodate them. We don’t see those cases often because it’s somewhat above Reddit’s pay grade and you might only catch 7 comments out of hundreds from people with the same condition that give real advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:15 PM
397

The diet is a big one. I see so many A*ITA posts where women get told they’re petty for wanting to go on dates to a standard restaurant but they can’t because their boyfriends can only eat chicken nuggets, fries, or pizza. People do everything to justify why a man might only eat chicken nuggets. “MaYbE hE’s AuTistiC, mAybE hE hAs a DiSAbiLiTy wHeRe He cAn oNly eAt that.” Theres no way EVERY woman that goes to the sub with the same problem are coincidentally all dating someone disabled or autisti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:38 PM
7

It’s no wonder Nicki allegedly stabbed him 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:53 PM
29

Yeah I agree it’s all over. I’ve seen people post articles here or talk about their own experiences growing up in places where families expect women to be married off by 20. Once they get to a certain age relatives will always ask if they have a boyfriend or when they’ll get grandchildren even though they spent the last 19 years shaming their kid or niece into not dating. Then out come the “old maid” and “you’re going to be alone” comments when they get to 25 and they’re still single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:27 PM
5

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:32 AM
344

Main character vibes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:12 AM
37

People on these subs always doing all kinds of mental gymnastics to explain ANYTHING. I honestly think this post I saw might have been fake but there was one where a woman said she went her husband’s work party. She starts chatting with other guests and eventually a woman that works there joins the conversation and the first thing she says is “I can’t wait to see [OP’s husband’s] dick again.” The wife plays it off because she thinks it’s a joke. The alleged side chick realizes she’s his wife, pa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:54 PM
70

This is nice in theory but unfortunately I don’t think it’ll work until she can 100% commit to not being a pickme anymore. I just saw an AITA the other day where a woman said her pickme mom that depended on men financially got broken up with. She thought it would be the easiest to move into an apartment together so the mom could work on herself. Not many months later the mom was trying to move to the countryside with a new, mediocre boyfriend and the OP was freaking out because she couldn’t affo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:49 AM
158

Check out the handbook and also read Why Does He Do That? N/LVM have no incentive to leave a relationship where they are easily extracting sex, emotional labor, etc even if they don’t like the person they’re with. Their behavior gets worse the longer it goes on because they realize there’s no consequences for not reciprocating emotionally, sexually, financially, and so on. If someone is getting all of this for free they won’t give that up because it makes their lives easier. Although it’s at the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:52 PM
12

Great post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:12 PM
7

u/AbundantOverflow left a great comment on an older thread
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 01:41 PM
1

Sending u a chat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 12:19 AM
19

I’m curious about this because I date girls too but I haven’t been on a walking date with a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 03:11 AM
127

Plss read the handbook again this man is 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 08:34 PM
89

Paying half wouldn’t stop someone from feeling entitled. There are men that feel entitled to sex after taking a woman on a walk date where absolutely no money has been spent. Some men will feel entitled just because a woman dared to exist next to him. If you catch the slightest whiff of entitlement while you’re messaging in the app, unmatch and move on. You might have heard of the story where a man in Georgia attacked a woman on their first date because he said it cost him too much money. He had…
/r/askFDS18/01/21 08:16 PM
7

Yes pleaaase
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:44 AM
27

This would make a great standalone post if you haven’t made one about this topic already ✍️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 09:08 PM
1

Thank u!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 06:14 PM
3

What’s her at id like to follow 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 05:57 PM
5

u ArEnt bEinG uNdeRstAndInG tHerE’s NoThInG tO dO! evErYtHiNg iS cLoSeD sO wE have tO go bAck tO mY dAmP aPaRtMeNt aFtEr OuR wAlk dAte
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 05:21 AM
63

I know he has his hooks in your friend but if it was that easy for him to use biphobia of all things to break up the friendship she might have been biphobic all along and you don’t need that anyways 🏳️‍🌈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 01:28 AM
7

Was there any follow up on that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:47 PM
5

I don’t think this falls under FDS rescue mission because they’re both men, but I do hope the younger boyfriend gets out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:38 PM
9

This is horrible lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:15 PM
29

Why Does He Do That? By Lundy Bancroft is my number one rec He explains a lot of abuse patterns that are based on his experience working with abusive men. It teaches you how to recognize subtle red flags and big ones in someone you’re dating and gives people tools to identify different types of manipulation. It’s beneficial info for people who grew up in abusive households, but due to unresolved trauma, continue to seek out abusive relationships that mimic what they went through in childhood.
/r/askFDS14/01/21 05:24 AM
14

Yeah it was this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:04 AM
28

Throwback to the study someone posted here about men that are more drawn to women with BPD traits if they’re physically attractive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:03 AM
74

Lol I’ll bet $10 he hasn’t changed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 01:56 AM
13

Wow thank you 😍😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:30 AM
5

No walking dates 🙅‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:27 AM
13

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 11:15 PM
28

Know where a girl can get their hands on the books at a reasonable price and not $999 for a box set? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 10:37 PM
14

👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 07:45 PM
3

This man treats you bad and you’d risk getting evicted by letting him stay. Kick him out so you don’t have to be a slave anymore. Where would you and your kids go if your landlord found out and decided not to renew your lease? Is that worth staying with a deadbeat? ETA: Also just block all his friends. Problem solved. You should check out Why Does He Do That? By Lundry Bancroft. The author outlines all the ways men do things like this to take advantage of women, to make you feel guilty so he can…
/r/askFDS13/01/21 05:22 PM
3

👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:01 PM
4

What did you have to do to treat if afterwards 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:48 PM
3

👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:20 PM
49

Just a HOLE? 😷🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 12:24 PM
548

i WaS tRiCkeD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:29 AM
26

Not all prisons ban cell phones. Some people in prison even have Tiktoks now. 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:27 PM
121

Wish 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:56 PM
2

Please follow everyone else’s advice and leave. Additionally, there’s always going to be crazy people on the internet that get over-invested. Facebook groups like that attract people who love drama. You should make everything on your profile wholly private or create a burner account with no content or friends on it. Someone in the group 100% went through your page, found him, and sent screenshots of your post to him, hoping to tank the relationship. Honestly, you aren’t missing out if this man a…
/r/askFDS09/01/21 04:02 AM
7

You are being manipulated
/r/askFDS09/01/21 03:37 AM
8

I’d like to know too pls if OP doesn’t mind sharing so I can protect myself in the future. I’ve seen petty ways other people have stolen money on here so when I was dating pre-covid I password protected my Venmo, cash-app, and PayPal accounts in case anyone got into my phone. OP, did you sign anything? Was he an authorized user of one your cards?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 09:17 PM
187

Yes. When my grandma passed away the men in my family all got worse. Only my mom has shown any growth and strength since my grandma passed. You can tell she was the main person holding them together because they outsourced all their mental and emotional labor to her and when she died they didn’t know how to self regulate. I know it isn’t the result of trauma or mourning. It’s purely from lifelong laziness after decades of never having to manage their own emotions or mental health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:55 PM
6

Dm me too 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 02:12 AM
90

TIL it’s gay for men to date women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:01 PM
3

Also curious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:59 PM
55

Apparently she called her manchild’s dad to see if he would give him a place to stay if she kicked him out and he told her “he’s your problem now” and hung up. She also met him when she was grieving after a family member passed away. He clearly saw she was vulnerable and took advantage of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 04:49 PM
3

Me 2 pls
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 11:48 PM
20

Happy new year! 🎊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 09:03 PM
138

Seriously. There’s no doubt a lot of clowns trying to “settle down” until the panorama is over. Once quarantines are lifted they’re going to break up with their pandemic partners and get back on tinder to scrounge for hook ups again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:55 PM
67

I third this. Someone at my job got fired immediately because they looked up the personal phone number of the manager on the company database and called them after work hours. It wasn’t to ask them out but it didn’t make the situation less weird or any less of a massive privacy overstep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:28 PM
24

They really do. When I peep the astrology subs every now and then there’s a post from a pickme asking if there’s anything in their birth chart that explains why they’re attracted to narcissists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:34 PM
40

Yes it’s horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:06 PM
74

The Black Ink Crew Chicago edition is just as bad 😩. This one guy cheats on his girlfriend all the time, cheats on her when they were engaged, and cheated again the night before the wedding with a stripper while the other tattoo artists they worked with watched. Then she still married him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 05:48 AM
18

hahahahah what???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:36 PM
8

I was just talking about this with someone. My friend is on a dating app and this guy was like “I travel a lot for work and I’m leaving town tomorrow. Want to take a week off work and be my travel buddy?” She asked him what he did and dude is a truck driver. He wanted her to just to up and drop her job with less than 24 hours notice so she could go drive around the US corn belt with him to deliver supplies. They’ve never met in person. They’ve never even had as much as a phone call. She said no …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:50 PM
16

This is such a great example Thank you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 11:36 PM
26

If you find one DM me the amazon link 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 11:18 PM
9

I just saw this flaming hot garbage. Unless she has enough money for the both of them he’s going to get them evicted because he cares more about his parasocial internet girlfriends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 11:15 PM
39

I’m allergic to pollen and trees so nobody can ask me to go on a date to park and be walked like a dog. 🍃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 02:51 AM
7

“Fellas, is it gay” to eat an Easter dinner?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 03:08 AM
9

“Mixed feedback” girl what. Everyone should be saying no. Whoever is even slightly encouraging her to do this needs to be kicked to the curb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 07:16 PM
10

👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 07:15 PM
2

Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 07:01 PM
17

Where’s her @ I can’t tell what it says 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 02:35 PM
5

If you ever go back to the sub and search profile review you can see how crusty these guys look IRL 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:06 PM
25

They’re so tragic. My friend once told me about how her NVM brother was only a stay at home dad because he couldn’t keep a job. She had to step in when she was only 15 to help take of her niece because he had zero standards. If she didn’t get up early to help her niece get ready for kindergarten, her brother would send the girl to school in unwashed or mismatched clothes. I met my friend when we were 21 and he just had another baby girl. I would help her babysit and when he brought the baby over…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:41 AM
43

Good god she’s going to be responsible for having a career, the kids, and the cows while he just sits on his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 10:09 PM
81

This guy is dumb as hell. He said he wants to be a stay at home dad because he’s already primed for it. If he’s tired of working after 8 years how is he going to have the energy to be a stay at home dad for 18 years straight or longer if the kids can’t afford to move out? Parenting provides even less breaks than a 9-5. He thinks his wife is delusional but it’s him. 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 10:05 PM
21

Men who have time to write about women on the internet not being wifey material after sleeping with x amount of people don’t have girlfriends, spouses, FWBs, or hobbies. If they miraculously do get a partner, they start posting on the relationship/retroactive jealousy subs, crying to anyone who will listen about how mad they are because their partner dared to have a dating life before them. Your body count could be 1 and they’ll still freak out. Don’t give anyone this information. Normal guys do…
/r/askFDS21/12/20 08:02 PM
188

Damn what kind of work culture do they have where this doesn’t immediately get sent to HR... unless this job doesn’t have an HR if they’re under 10 employees
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:43 PM
31

🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:42 PM
32

You’re still really young and have time to find someone. I’m not that much older but many younger guys that are 20-24 still have the cognitive development of a single cell Protozoa. People can grow out of relationships really fast in their early to mid 20s because there’s so many milestones that force growth all happening within a short period of time. There’s finishing school, entering the job market, going back to school, switching careers, etc. Don’t worry and take this time to get to experim…
/r/askFDS18/12/20 03:41 PM
31

I hope everyone who heard that reported him so he and the person who invited him get banned from the app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:53 AM
12

Well his financial status can’t change in a year without a windfall or unless his art takes off. If you see it being a problem now it most definitely will be a problem in a year. Learning how to invest and having enough money to see a good profit will take some time if he doesn’t already do it. Stocks are something you could bring up casually to see. The student loan topic might come up naturally if you ask about where he went to school and what he studied.
/r/askFDS17/12/20 11:19 PM
17

How long have you been seeing him since you’re already asking about marriage 👀
/r/askFDS17/12/20 10:49 PM
3

This artistic analysis belongs in a museum 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:30 AM
3

🤮 Ugghhh no where is safe from LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:27 AM
15

Damn where was she meeting all these psychos? Stories like this make me happy I completely locked all my socials.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 01:23 AM
4

Not relevant but her hand is backwards lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 06:25 PM
9

🥇 Take my poor gold
/r/askFDS16/12/20 12:33 AM
27

May I ask how you found out about the fiancé 👀 I need to up my snooping skills
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:56 AM
7

I’m paranoid too tbh. My ex knew my core friend group but never fully integrated into it. I was happy about that because we had a bad breakup and I got to tell everyone about it when I was ready. This is preferable to a public break up where people may take sides. I only want to introduce a future partner to my friends once things are very serious with them and I’ve vetted them with the knowledge I have now after finding FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:02 AM
63

She left everything behind to move in with a guy who just goes online and complains about their sex life. Tragic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:43 AM
281

Pleaaase never date someone at any job you have in the future ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:52 PM
4

Don’t feel bad 🤗. You made it out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 12:55 AM
7

May I ask how you found out he was lying? 👀Background check? Alt social media accounts?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 04:26 PM
22

He’s so sociopathic. He specified that she was suicidal when all this happened, and he wants her to relive this mess for his dick. He wrote he’s been “explaining” to her that all married men want threesomes with their wives despite her saying that she’s very disgusted by men who want that. He keeps commenting he can live without a threesome, and that he’s been “playing it cool” so she doesn’t know he is so bothered by it. Nagging about how men need threesomes to his traumatized wife doesn’t soun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 10:12 PM
152

A lot of the comments are telling him to get therapy and he compared the therapy suggestions to torture. He said he thinks if she got naked with another woman for him it would solve all his issues. Lmfao. Why is getting therapy torture, but pressuring your wife into doing something she did 16 years ago when she was mentally struggling and under the influence not torture to her? He’d rather blow up his marriage than take the normal route. The lOgiCaL gender everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:43 PM
51

I think it’s likely she was pressured into it. He said she did things like this when she was into drugs and drinking because she was going through a difficult time in her life when they were in high school. This is so sick. I can’t imagine being mad about something as benign as this when it happened 16-17 years ago. Especially when she wasn’t in the right state of mind to make this decision.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:31 PM
58

He really hasn’t. I found the post and when you see the ages, this happened 16-17 years ago. What an insane thing to be hung up on. He must have peaked in high school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:26 PM
9

I’ve been seeing women have really positive experiences following the single mom by choice route and I’m looking forward to reaching whatever outcome is best for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 05:27 AM
6

Thank you! I don’t have any gold but here lol 🏅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 09:56 PM
16

Mind sharing what questions you ask in a PM? 👀There’s an abundance of pick me therapists. I don’t see anyone now but if I wanted to in a future I’d like to be able to weed them out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:25 PM
15

Kevin Samuels’ casket ready headass made one viral video and LVM couldn’t wait to start making memes that agree and disseminate his “men are visual creatures” propaganda.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:28 PM
79

This reminds me of a video that went viral of a young couple. The dad’s shitty enabler friends were recording the mom trying to drop off their daughter. She asked to strap the daughter in the car seat so she could make sure it was done correctly. He started freaking out and saying he would do it. Since she was so adamant about doing it herself I have no doubt whenever he previously had the daughter he wasn’t making sure the car seat was in the right position. He was being super combative. She de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 11:25 PM
20

Oh my god that stupid trend of women buying men random guys lunches on the internet with cashapp and venmo is back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 09:16 PM
23

Build with him so he can get a better job, save more money from going halfsies, and then leave you in the dust after you've put in all the work ✨😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:04 PM
5

For her sake I hope she leaves as soon as she turns 18 so her mom and dad can’t convince her to not go to school or work and help with the younger kids instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 08:28 PM
106

This is like the third time I’ve read about a situation where a guy has had to poop or pee outside on a first date lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:57 AM
33

I don’t think it’s hard for me to strike down the equality argument after I heard some great points from a group of great women. I tell people we don’t have equality and I’ll pay half when the gender pay gap is closed. The pay gap is even more pronounced this year because women were disproportionately affected by pandemic induced job loss. Women typically have to spend more money and energy making sure they get to and from a date safely. Yeah I could accept a free ride home from a date, but it’s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 04:47 PM
62

Equality doesn’t mean women helping men subsidize their access to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 04:28 PM
68

Match makers and dating coaches can rake in 100s if not 1000s for a service like this and they want to pay women $10. Lmao. That’s the value of a child’s allowance. What happens after they go on the date and the woman realizes the guy is way less interesting in person? Are they going to start showing up to their dates with an earpiece while their friend coaches them on what to say from a van?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 02:09 AM
4

Since he said he doesn’t want to talk to you again let him disappear. Good riddance. He’s abusive.
/r/askFDS26/11/20 06:26 PM
25

🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 04:17 AM
69

The university I went to rejects qualified women and has affirmative action for men. They want a more gender balanced institution because if they didn’t have affirmative action for men the student population would be 80% women and 20% men. Men don’t realize they’re the ones benefitting the most from the system and they still complain lolZ
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 11:23 PM
40

They’re mad the don’t have any type of degree at all. They just have a birth certificate and the last book they read was Green Eggs and Ham.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 11:22 PM
164

Elon Musk is an LVM, check out the accounts from his previous wives about how treated them. Actual HVM aren’t obsessed with sons and if you meet someone who is like that break up with them. It’s possible to find out a man’s stance on that long before things get more serious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 10:26 PM
5

For my alt Facebook account with 10 friends I tell guys it’s only to keep contact with my family and that I’m not active on Facebook. For my backup Instagram account I have people on there that have added me through meetups so there’s a variety of men and women on there. Sometimes I make it public and it gets followed by spam accounts. The spam accounts are usually women influencers that bought a bot to follow random people so they can get follow-backs and increase their audience. The alt accoun…
/r/askFDS22/11/20 07:27 PM
26

I just saw her post history too. This is so sad and horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 06:20 PM
11

I strongly recommend LastPass to make it harder for your accounts to get hacked. They have strong password generators with a random assortment of symbols, letters, and numbers and you can decide how long you want the password to be. It creates a vault for all of them. If you have the app you can also make sure it’s only opened with Face ID. Also make sure your venmo, PayPal, cashapp, or credit score accounts can’t be opened without a pin or password in case a guy tries to get into your phone and…
/r/askFDS22/11/20 04:24 PM
115

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/el32ez/aita_for_taking_my_wifes_lasagna_to_work_without/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Husband has a work party and asked his wife to cook for it because he’s too stupid and entitled to make his own dish or buy something from the grocery store. When she can’t cook because she has to take care of their child, he takes his wife’s recently deceased grandmother’s lasagna out the freezer and brings it to the work party. She told hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 05:21 PM
49

They’re not even embarrassed about admitting that they basically need to be spoon fed information in order for the coMmUniCaTioN to be effective. If you’ve ever driven or played a sport, part of being a good driver or athlete involves reading cues of multiple people at one time, and quickly, to make your next play or avoid an accident. Many of us do this shit everyday. I do not believe an adult man needs every little detail laid out for him to understand that exclusive means exclusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 06:26 PM
245

Men on Reddit always scream “cOmMUnIcAte” but she communicated months ahead of a problem arising and following through on something that was long established is now an issue. Lmao. Mental gymnastics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 02:46 PM
23

Bruh you can’t even trust other women sometimes. I distinctly remember a post on this sub where a bi woman said she went on a date with another bi woman. I think they met on OLD. Her date kept insisting that they meet at her place but the OP said no because they thought it was weird. They decided to meet at a bar or restaurant instead. At the end of the date the woman’s boyfriend popped up and explained they were a couple looking for a third. There was no indication on this woman’s profile that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 03:04 AM
26

I’m bisexual but I haven’t dated a bisexual man. I may not have direct experience but I think it’s important to check if they take PrEP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 02:55 AM
1

There’s no way this is real lmfao. Imjustfu decided to wake up on Tuesday and type up some bait for pickme and ashy knuckles twitter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 02:45 AM
19

Your friend is goals
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 02:41 AM
103

It’s weird af honestly. He can’t just ask someone to open up to him. It’s supposed to happen naturally. Sounds like he wants to trauma bond.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 02:35 AM
23

It’s international men’s day and international toilet day. The timing for your post is impecable. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 08:02 PM
31

You don’t have to keep that promise. He’s just going to use any further discussions to try and dissuade you from leaving, or try to gaslight you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:26 PM
9

Going back will be the biggest waste of time and energy. Block and delete so he can’t keep begging for you to take him back.
/r/askFDS18/11/20 06:40 PM
6

Her page says she’s 20 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 04:54 PM
1

Check out the sections of the handbook about age gap dating. I think there’s also posts in the handbook on how to be private about any past issues with people you’re dating in case they decide to use any vulnerable information you’ve given them to gaslight you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:26 PM
5

Please focus on working on yourself before dating. Your post history about previous, but recent romantic pursuits is concerning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 04:50 PM
39

I promise your mental health will significantly improve when you no longer have someone terrorizing you emotionally. You might feel sad for a short period of time, but after that you’ll feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. A year isn’t a long time. Honestly I think the best way is to just ghost him. Get all your stuff he might have. Give back anything he may have left at your place so he doesn’t find an excuse to make an alt account to message you saying that he left his crusty…
/r/askFDS15/11/20 01:19 PM
25

Take my poor gold 🥇
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 03:58 AM
14

I think this PS5 trend on social media is making them worse lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 11:44 PM
8

Love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:46 PM
9

I don’t know if you got a lawyer yet but please see one ASAP. I saw your other post where you said your husband asked for more phone privacy and that he blindsided you with asking for a divorce. He is obviously cheating. You can’t fix this. You will get the best outcome if you have a lawyer instead of letting him try to force you into following his laundry list of demands so that he doesn’t divorce you. He’s probably stalling so he has more time to figure things out.
/r/askFDS13/11/20 02:53 PM
11

It is detrimental especially since it seems fake. I forgot where I saw this but there was a link to a video where she was talking about her “poly” relationship with him and she said the furthest either of them went only involved kissing another person. In another video she said they were going to have an open marriage but he said they weren’t. It makes sense that he wouldn’t act on it if she’s the jealous type and goes as far as trying to get her ex back. I don’t understand why she’s still pushi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 09:18 PM
72

She wrote about it in her book where she convinces other women to try it out and called it science when it worked for them as if it wasn’t confirmation bias lol. It outlines someone going to the bathroom and then putting the fluids on their wrists and neck before going back to their date. An actual professional, a woman with a doctorate from an accredited institution, tried to explain that this doesn’t work and her rebuttal fell flat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 05:47 PM
138

It’s a shame how social media can give anyone a platform lol. She gets paid to give her “professional opinion” but her degree for sexology is from a diploma mill. She also tweets about putting her vaginal fluids on herself as a perfume to attract people with her pheromones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 05:26 PM
9

Are you giving them your phone number? Give them a throwaway number instead so they can’t keep trying to contact you if you block them. They also wouldn’t be able to reverse search your number and find your address or social media if you haven’t disabled the search by phone number option on your accounts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:51 PM
15

Tell me your secrets I’m dying out here lol I don’t know how to meet women post covid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:54 AM
18

I saw a headline today about a man who killed his girlfriend/mother of his child and her whole family. The fight started because the morning after she spent the night at his house she was too tired to cook for him and do his hair like he demanded. He responded by shooting everyone. I can't get behind the abolish prisons movement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:28 AM
19

“Little things” Doing the work of a chef, maid, masseuse, and a bartender all in one aren’t little things 😂 Edit: oh my god I saw another tik tok of hers saying that it doesn’t matter if someone supports Trump or Biden Americans can unite through watching porn 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 09:29 PM
1

Professionalism doesn’t mean anything in this niche corner of internet dating coaching. The aforementioned dating coach that got surgery in Colombia is arguably more “professional.” She’s nicer to her clients, shows plenty of pictures and videos of the luxury shoes, bags, and the car her alleged suitor bought her. She wears expensive bundles and the works. What she conveniently left out of her profile is that she’s an escort. The HVM she’s claiming to meet are just men that contact her on escort…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 04:17 PM
2

This is respectability politics. Professionalism is just a performance that limits self expression for women like Imani. You can expect “professionalism” from a brand or a company. She is neither and she’s established herself as such. Her terrain for is on the internet, not in a corporate office. If that’s what you want look somewhere else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:01 PM
4

Whew the respectability politics. Clearly they do come to hear her yell or else she wouldn’t have clients. Being soft when giving dating advice can only get people so far. Every time there’s a new influx of followers on her page they come in asking the same stupid questions. I can understand why someone would be irritated if there’s hundreds of forever girlfriends in your inbox all asking how they can get their LVM to buy them gifts or stop talking to other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 12:59 PM
8

Imani said that she gained a lot of weight after she broke her ankle. Her new focus on her health doesn’t mean she’s not body confident anymore. I think it’s just her trying to get more active and going back to her baseline weight after being stuck in a boot and crutches for 3-4 months. Her rants are justified because I do see several popular “dating coaches” tell women that to get HVM they need to lose weight. I’ve even seen one “dating coach” talk about how after she went to Colombia to get pl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 04:27 AM
107

Why are they against self reflection lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 12:24 AM
8

I would say it’s FDS aligned. I distinctly remember a line from the book that said something like, as a woman you’re better off dating multiple people to increase your chances of finding someone who’s serious about you, rather than spending so much time dating one avoidant hoping they’ll change. It also gives stats that justify why people should vet. Since there’s more avoidants in the dating pool than any other group, you’re more likely to run into them and you need to establish if they’re time…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 02:29 AM
2

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:56 AM
2

Sauce I hope this is fake for clout or some weird Target advertising scheme because why 🚮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 11:00 PM
40

Damn is this the hunger games
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 10:54 PM
13

Sounds like the start of a True Crime YouTube episode
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:28 AM
16

I needed this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:54 AM
57

This is disgusting. She was 17, he was 33 and nobody did anything. They just recorded and watched. She was knocked unconscious and either he took her purse or someone else did while she was out cold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:46 PM
23

This is the only acceptable answer. Block and delete. If you happen to run into him in person ignore him or grey rock him until he leaves. Don’t give someone the opportunity to guilt you into letting them back into your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:41 PM
34

The amount of gaslighting by her boyfriend and by commenters on her post is insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:53 AM
285

God I hope she dumps them and leaves them homeless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 02:38 PM
29

While FDS doesn’t promote casual hookups just remember that you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone in any situation. Telling people you can’t do a relationship or some other arrangement because of mental health or emotional energy can be used against you in the long-run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 02:21 PM
0

Say something came up and you can’t go anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 02:15 PM
2

Can you PM me too 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 11:53 AM
49

Totally. This reminds me of Lundy’s book because he talks about how he always tried to get the woman’s side of the story when he was running his abuse program. Abusive men go to great lengths to convince therapists, friends, and family that they’re the real victims when the reality is that they’re always the perpetrators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 04:08 PM
204

Thank you. Pickmes are extra dangerous right now. My friend has a desperate pickme roommate that’s been out meeting random guys from OLD for walk dates in a high case volume state. The pickme roommate caught covid and didn’t say anything until she passed it to my friend. It’s highly likely the roommate caught it from a tinder date and not anywhere else because she works from home and gets groceries delivered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:47 PM
38

Don’t date your coworkers.
/r/askFDS27/09/20 12:43 PM
2

The name is still in the second pic. That’s tragic though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:30 PM
3

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:33 AM
4

Can I get your sources I love science 🧪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:58 PM
7

This hits so close to home for me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:15 PM
5

Just when you think it can’t get worse you get to the end of the thread where he says this to target black women. 🚮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:21 PM
35

This sounds like a nice phrase to make my phone background
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:47 PM
18

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:45 PM
83

Someone tell her to drop by lol I’m sure there’s some people in there saying gHoStInG iS bAd
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 11:16 PM
15

I’m going back to school soon and my anxiety is really kicking in. I can’t shake the feeling I’m doing something wrong when I take a day to rest and not study after working full time during the day and trying to prepare myself by reviewing material in the evening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:19 PM
54

No
/r/askFDS14/09/20 06:32 PM
5

Lmfaooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 10:35 AM
24

He did only want to sleep with you. What’s worked for me was following Shallon Lester’s advice. Every time you think about someone you shouldn’t be reminiscing on you do an act of self care. I know you said you try to keep yourself busy, so I would keep doing that until you forget about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:14 AM
35

This sounds a lot like an anxious attachment style. He needs therapy because there’s nothing you can do to make him feel more confident about himself or the relationship. Edit: also pay close attention to how he treats you after he loses weight. There’s a lot of cautionary tales on Reddit where women experience their partners treating them worse after their partner gets more fit. It is concerning that he tried to mock your appearance to make himself feel better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 04:17 PM
82

He knows it’s hurting you and he knows he can keep doing it because there’s no consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:40 PM
145

There’s red flags everywhere but let’s start with how you told him you were uncomfortable with something and he turned it around on you. It wasn’t just a joke, he was trying to make you feel insecure by triangulating you with other women. It’s a plot to make you feel like you have to compete for his attention and make you work harder in your relationship while he does whatever he wants. Now he knows for sure you feel uncomfortable about it like he planned, and he’s going to keep doing it because…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:20 PM
112

Loool she only has three deal breakers and out comes the “sHorTeN yOuR LiSt”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:25 AM
19

Mhm. The new trend is guys “joking” about their girlfriends buying them the latest playstation with their OF money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 12:30 AM
8

Most people’s friends don’t come over 4 times a week
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:21 PM
51

Love to see it 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:02 PM
82

You might feel better after dumping him 🚮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:01 PM
3

They’re getting done up to Netflix and Chill followed by posting videos of themselves cleaning up their guy’s kitchen or bathroom afterwards 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 09:03 PM
5

I’m in the US. It seems like most of them are dating exclusively. Still not worth the effort. It’s funny because there’s a lot of comments saying that no man is worth all of that and the posters get really defensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 09:02 PM
24

I’m seeing a new tik tok trend where women show their “date night” routines which is just Netflix and Chill at their man’s house. I love seeing the routine by itself because I love scrubs, soaps, and perfumes but then when they go to the guy’s house it’s like 🤢. All that effort just to show up to a dusty apartment with a bathroom that hasn’t been cleaned in months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 02:00 AM
4

I’m totally saving this question. One guy told me putting cheese in my eggs is unhealthy and I reminded him he has high cholesterol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 01:32 AM
30

I’m sorry the last book he read was Green Eggs and Ham Omg I’m saving this 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 04:53 PM
5

It’s time to grey rock anyone that’s trying to convince you to accept less than what you want in a partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:25 PM
4

You need a prenup. IANAL but I’d recommend seeing if there is a way you can ensure that your retirement and savings are off the table in the event of divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 05:22 PM
9

If you have more savings and retirement than him don’t split that 50/50. If you divorce and you lose half your retirement that’s so much hard work down the drain. I wouldn’t call 20% more similar. That’s a pretty big difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:12 PM
11

Yikes 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:30 AM
4

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 01:45 AM
38

The audacity. I can't fathom asking a partner to forgo their protective style and give themselves irreparable hair damage for something so petty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 03:47 PM
28

Cut your losses. He’s acting too much like a white knight, so even if it wasn’t your previous work enemy it would be another woman with unresolved issues. She is grown. If she ”had a hard life, ” she should be trying to discuss that with a therapist instead of finding an older man to provide a shoulder to cry on and pity her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:08 PM
2

This is a really great write up. I’m halfway through Why Does He Do That? and I love seeing similar content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:37 PM
5

You can’t apply this to your marriage when your husband is a textbook abuser. Your relationships post screams sociopathic tendencies. This post is one of the worst things I’ve read on that sub. Read Why Does He Do That? By Lundy Bancroft and leave. There's no reason for him to control YOUR money. For the curious: https://www.removeddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/gejybv/i_30f_overheard_the_most_heart_breaking/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 01:39 PM
22

This book has a comprehensive list of resources in the back for women who need to safely escape relationships/marriages that are rife with domestic abuse. Statistically, the most dangerous time for a woman is when she leaves her abuser. This is far from ”toddler psychology.” It's a survival manual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 06:01 AM
58

You never know. A twitter famous account pretended to be a black woman for 4 years. The person behind the account announced he was man the whole time and tried to launch a music career off the attention the reveal got.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 05:43 PM
13

What your dad says is BS because creeps are incapable of appreciation. Cat calling, leering, and public harassment are not forms of appreciation. They are animalistic behaviors designed to exercise power over another person. They’re some of the lowest forms of communication.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 02:36 PM
29

He was lying from the start
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 12:09 PM
56

Yes say you’re an accountant lol. There’s this tik tok song where the lyrics are “nobody asks you questions when you say you’re an accountant.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 10:48 PM
9

I’d see if there’s any free job placement programs in your country. Where I am there’s programs for displaced homemakers who are seeking employment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 08:59 PM
50

Because they don’t know how to cope with the end of a relationship and instead of dealing with it they will immediately move into a new relationship without giving a single damn if they hurt that next person. Some people are so unhealthy that they hold a torch for someone for years. I knew an older woman who said that the night before her ex’s wedding (they were broken up for a decade at this point) he called her and said he would leave his soon-to-be wife if she just said the words. She was alr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 02:58 PM
11

These are the same guys who say they don’t like drama but they’re the most dramatic people you will meet. They say they don’t like games but they feel great when you make them feel like they won an argument where they’re blatantly wrong but it’s not worth it to continue arguing because their communication skills are 0.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 09:13 PM
29

I knew I didn’t like this guy’s views from other videos but I couldn’t put my finger on it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 09:11 PM
17

Wtf did they use their Facebook business page to make an account? I know that’s not their real name. Lol they don’t even try during sign up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 09:09 PM
7

He’s going to keep doing it because you said you’d leave and you didn’t. No therapy will help that. Check out Why Does He Do That? By Lundy Bancroft
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 10:18 PM
50

A park date, my allergies could never.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 08:25 PM
9

After finding FDS I think marriage counseling/relationship counseling is pointless. If you get to a point where you need it, your relationship is probably not salvageable. Like someone else said, it’s also counterproductive for abusive relationships. Even if the person isn’t abusive, it might not work for a multitude of other reasons. Maybe the therapist is an enabler, the other person thinks showing up is the only work they have to do and asking them to do more is “too much,” you’re the only on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 03:42 PM
20

If you can’t afford therapy and are on the brink of eviction you just aren’t in a position to date. It’s not a matter of the down and out deserving love, it’s about not being so selfish that you want to bring another person down with you to feel less alone when you don’t have to. “The most depressed people around give their everything to help others find joy.” So I’m supposed to experience financial destitution with you in exchange for good vibes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:55 AM
132

God what a massive loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:30 AM
86

Shallon made a great video about this. She said their relationship has only gotten better temporarily because they’re literally in a bubble and just as the tweet reply says, it’s going to fall apart once quarantine is over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 07:51 PM
17

What she mean having a child alone? Like having a kid with someone who would likely leave for the sake of having a kid or going to a cryobank? Honestly being a single mother by choice is starting to look more appealing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 01:34 PM
182

These are the kinds of dudes that will eat 3/4 of the food you cooked and leave you with the crumbs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 12:33 AM
37

When you block him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 03:26 AM
26

Everyone is trying to explain to her that this is financial abuse and she won’t listen. There’s no hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 02:10 AM
8

I’d definitely make some new projects. Building things helps with confidence. I’m currently pursuing web dev but have a meh non tech job and seeing projects come together has been great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 01:55 AM
16

Try getting back into web dev. Do you have projects or a portfolio? An active github account? That’s for sure more important than dating right now. Come out of quarantine with more skills not a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 01:49 AM
51

Oh my god you see this often as a recruiter? That is horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 01:47 AM
42

Don’t give him the opportunity to come back just block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 09:16 PM
77

It’s a no from me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 05:33 PM
10

I know there are bisexual women here that still browse the sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 11:26 PM
5

I’m currently not on dating apps but I hope you don’t mind if I hijack to ask if anyone here has been on HER recently? I keep getting ads for it on tik tok and I’m contemplating on giving it a chance again once there’s a rona vaccine. 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 10:27 PM
4

Hahahahhahahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:43 AM
35

“I’m an open book.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:00 AM
28

Good Lord. I’m praying she follows through with filing a report against him. This psycho wouldn’t even listen to a sergeant. She has to do something because the opportunity won’t come again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 08:22 PM
2

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:16 PM
1

What’s the app?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 11:25 AM
65

You never need something new to break up over. You can break up at anytime for any reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 12:33 AM
8

r/InsanePeopleQuora
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 06:21 PM
6

It’s not ok to make the first move. It puts the ball in their court and not yours. You should try switching up your profile to experiment and see if it makes a difference. Change some pictures around or the answers to your questions. Pre-rona I noticed there were some pictures that got the most likes, or a piece of jewelry that got the most compliments and I used that info to modify my profile. Once we’re out this shit pandemic you can also combine going out to places and in-person hobbies with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 03:36 PM
18

Yes, especially after one date. Don’t share personal information like that to someone you just met. I wouldn’t even share that in a long-term relationship because if you’ve long moved past it, it doesn’t really matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:41 AM
79

The only family members condoning this are either pickmes or LVM. He’s telling her she’s cheap and replaceable. Some people would actually consider that an omen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 07:15 PM
53

I was just thinking about an episode where Ted made a white board chart to decide who he wanted to keep seeing because some of the women didn’t pay half or pretend to offer to pay half. He’s the one who asked them out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 03:44 PM
5

You shouldn’t explain. Block and delete. Don’t even explain it to your friends that willingly pay half in case they try to change your mind or make you feel bad. If they ask, say you weren’t that interested in him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 10:51 AM
1

Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:59 PM
2

Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 06:55 PM
3

Great write up. What podcast episode is this? I love The Read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 05:33 PM
3

If you remember the link or name of the study can you send it my way? I love sending these to friends and family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 04:04 PM
45

Recruit your mom and other people to report the pictures as spam
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 06:03 PM
20

So her @ is referencing being saditty but she’s promoting this broke nonsense lmao. Make it make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 06:01 PM
155

bIoLoGIcAl rEaLIty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 05:35 PM
2

I’m not a mom but I was raised by a single mom and I think this is good advice: https://www.instagram.com/p/CDAQMXmJtq2/?igshid=tvuwamkj78na
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 05:01 PM
3

Yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 02:38 AM
5

Where did you and u/booboodoughnut get this done and how much did it cost? 👀 I’m looking into doing the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 06:40 PM
17

If he asked for your number after 4 days but with no date he probably collects phone numbers for his ego and not to get to know someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 10:48 AM
38

Not crazy. Don’t tell this friend about your dating life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:48 PM
1

Perfect description. I’m saving this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 02:33 PM
8

Girl yes. People don’t even want to simply kick predatory people out of organizations anymore. They’re arguing that “cancelling” people and discarding them is just as bad as sending them prison because the prison is isolating, and so is cancelling people. They need to be isolated because when they’re allowed access to vulnerable people they continue their rampage. The bare minimum (the bar is still in hell) they could do is delegate the abuser to administrative work where they can’t interact wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 02:20 AM
8

Thank you 🙏🏼 I want as many people to know about it as possible because they don’t know what they’re getting themselves into. Lundy had actual funding for his program and saw that it still didn’t work. If he couldn’t do it, underfunded non-profits don’t have the resources to take this on. That time, energy, and money should be re-invested back into their underserved communities and not spent on abusers that won’t change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 05:36 PM
13

Oh my goood. The pheromones dating coaches are at it again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 04:23 PM
17

I don’t currently work in the non-profit sector but a lot of my friends do. There’s a strong push towards “reformative justice” and it’s very obvious that the strategies and language for it are being severely misused. Someone was telling me that their coworker physically abused his girlfriend who also worked at their organization. He choked her until she was unconscious. They broke up and now he’s moved onto another coworker who thinks she can “heal” him. The organization won’t do anything and t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 03:02 PM
5

I agree. OP, if you’re getting a lot anxiety about coronavirus, now isn’t a good time to date. Men aren’t going anywhere and it can’t hurt to wait a year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 04:10 AM
67

The sugaring subreddits are a disaster. They have the wildest stories lol. One person asked if it was normal to only get paid $30 and leftover chicken after they had sex with their date. Another woman talked about how she flew to London to meet a potential sugar daddy. She paid for her own plane ticket, hostel, etc, just to meet the guy and he didn’t even want a sugar baby. He asked her to be his maid, and she left empty handed. Meet and greets happen over coffee dates, with crusty men who show …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 07:29 PM
90

Ugh. They’re over there saying him following Instagram models isn’t a reflection of how he sees her, even though she clearly stated that he used to compare her to them as a “joke.” I’m glad I found this sub. I can’t imagine encouraging women to stay in relationships where their boyfriends triangulate them with pixels in the name of faux feminism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 01:09 PM
14

His crustiness is radiating through the screen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 12:43 AM
35

I think it’s really common, and it can be really egregious. You can learn how to do almost anything on the internet. A woman learned how to build a house from YouTube. There’s no excuse to not learn how to cook or clean. This isn’t household related, but my dad’s current wife asked him for help planning their wedding last year. He did not lift a finger. A few weeks before the wedding, my stepmom told me that she wished she forced him to contribute more, but she could tell he wasn’t interested in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:20 AM
9

This is pick-me behavior. You didn’t come here for advice on how to level up, you came here trying to convince yourself and internet strangers that your NO VALUE boyfriend is actually high value so you shouldn’t leave him. 40-60% of people with drug problems like that relapse in a year. His fake career as a trap lord can’t co-exist with recovery so he would have to give that up too or he will NEVER get better. You must not have read enough of the handbook or posts here or you would know that FDS…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:19 PM
29

What helped me was realizing that it’s possible to still have a family without a partner in the picture. Although it is unconventional, I’ve become more open to looking at being a single mom by choice through adoption or a cryobank in the future. Our time to have kids is technically limited, but you could theoretically meet your future husband at any point in your life. I’d rather start a family my way than start one with the wrong person out of a sense of urgency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 11:35 PM
27

Yes he’s lying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 06:39 PM
3

Yup. The acronym is NVM for negative value or no value man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:56 PM
11

Girl what are you doing. When you told him about your past bullying, you gave him a roadmap on how to push your buttons and make you doubt yourself. He does see your perspective. If he didn't, he wouldn't know it thoroughly enough to use it against you like he is doing now. Most rich white dudes at my school, albeit HVM on paper, have this disgusting misogynistic god complex where they feel like they can treat HVW like myself like shit. I deserve better than that, and my boyfriend treats me like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 04:31 AM
7

There are things you can do that don’t involve partying and going to bars during a pandemic. It would be one thing if he was just hiking to deal with being indoors, but he’s just being reckless. Contact tracers are finding that the spike of new cases in different states are the result of indoor dining in restaurants/bars. Washing your hands is the bare minimum a person can do to protect themselves. Don’t catch miss Rona from this guy. There’s plenty of people that “never get sick” that are now s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 01:33 PM
6

I had a little hope because not that long ago there was another bad women’s anatomy post! This woman’s boyfriend thought that women didn’t have urethras. So many comments were saying he shouldn’t be in a relationship and they got a lot of upvotes. It was a happy ending because they broke up since he felt embarrassed for being so incompetent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:32 PM
25

Her update disappointed me. The “tAlK 2 hIm” crowd won today. She shouldn’t have to talk to him first and decide to break up with him or not from his reaction from the talks This situation is already a giant red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:16 AM
42

Oh my god all the pickmes in the comments are making excuses for this. “Why are men expected to know how to do everything in excruciating detail? She’s just trying to help him.” These are the people who think that being able to identify shallots is a mental burden.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:17 PM
32

🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:45 AM
10

Yes those groups are cesspools. Before I left them I saw men in there all the time saying that they don’t like modern dating because women don’t want to talk about philosophy or astrophysics. They always look crusty in their profile pictures and give me the impression they don’t shower. They also never have careers that involve philosophy or astrophysics so they rely on information off the internet that isn’t fact checked or peer reviewed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 12:14 PM
174

The men that do that to you are abusive and they act like that because they’re controlling and want to keep you on the edge and anxious. Read Why Does He Do That? By Lundy Bancroft and look at myths of abuse #9. It’s recommended reading in the FDS handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 04:08 AM
12

Tragic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 10:22 PM
7

He treated her like absolute shit and she’s still concerned about his stupid feelings because he’s hurt his friends are making fun of him. I hope she thrives in her future relationships because her ex husband has no empathy like she does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 10:21 PM
49

The clown energy is astronomical
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 01:38 PM
6

My ex always belittled my family’s home. He later admitted that he did this because he was bitter that my grandparents acquired a house and land despite having little resources. My grandpa dropped out of grammar school to farm. My grandma only had a high school diploma. Meanwhile both his parents had master’s degrees. He was jealous because his family, although highly educated, still had a terrible living situation. His older brother was the golden child so his parents always throw all their mon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 03:16 PM
13

You can’t
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 11:27 AM
36

When an FDS member makes the news for blowing off their hand making a bomb meant for “hot men”, we can talk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:24 PM
11

👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 04:24 AM
16

You block them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 06:31 PM
15

I shared it because it’s laughable even if it happened years prior to her racist tirade. She decided to be trash and now her dirty laundry is getting aired out for the world to see. I'm personally tracking her because I'm waiting to see if the Manhattan DA presses charges against her for making a false report but this article came out first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 08:16 PM
97

Wow they don’t even want to show up to walking dates anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 06:45 PM
27

I think it was the same guy. Priest denied being with her, and he called her a stalker. I highly doubt they weren’t in a relationship, especially since there's proof of a second side chick and his father in law confirmed he was cheating with Amy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 04:11 PM
17

You can see more here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 03:31 PM
59

We need to normalize cutting people off for seemingly petty things lol. I know she said chewing beef jerky weird as a joke but I 100% feel that way too. If someone chews too loud, (eating something crunchy doesn't count) I get so disgusted and irritated. Like, why the hell are you offending my ears with this heinous sound, especially if you don't have to? It’s a major turn off. Some internet quote once said that if you continue to date someone with a quirk you don’t like, you're settling a long …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 10:57 AM
15

Block him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:31 PM
83

Pickmes love arguing about this and it never gets old for them. 😂 It’s always a variation of this or any of the following oddly specific situations: Who’s problem is it if you didn’t fix your man a plate and his hot lady friend at the BBQ smirks at you and runs to make it for him Do you need to cook for your man to be wife material? Collectively pickmes start arguing about it and it seems like their only standard for this is knowing how to make chicken Alfredo If your house is burning down would…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:26 PM
23

Please don’t do any of this. Use that money you would use to book the tickets and hotel and invest in therapy instead. This is man addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 02:29 PM
21

A while ago I remember someone made a comment about an Australian study looking at abuse in relationships. The poster mentioned that the woman leading the research found that some of the fully capable men view their girlfriends or wives not cooking for them as abuse. If anyone knows the name of the study please let me know! I should’ve bookmarked it but I forgot. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 01:57 PM
10

He probably felt comfortable asking because he’s asked this of women in the past and he’s gotten them easily. I wouldn’t be surprised if he has a vault app on his phone where he keeps the nudes of previous exes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:38 PM
63

Never send nudes or compromising pictures. It doesn’t matter how good a relationship seems. Even if he doesn’t leak them, someone else could. Don’t be a free cam girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:09 PM
6

He’s going to start begging for the new PlayStation soon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:19 PM
37

Forever gf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 10:02 AM
13

I overheard a woman talk about how she went on a sunset hiking date on one of the more difficult mountains. It was the guy’s idea. It got too dark before they could get back down. They got lost so a helicopter had to find them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 04:10 PM
21

I abhor hiking. So many guys in my area had hiking pics and bios implying they like hiking dates. Idfw pollen. It doesn’t even make sense because the closest hiking spots are 5 hours away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 10:49 AM
20

We need this flair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:20 AM
4

Nope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 05:19 PM
21

Thank you for sharing this. I’ve seen psych and therapy articles try and say that passive aggressiveness is a sign of weakness. They argue that clear, direct communication is key. However, this only works if the other person is honest and perceptive. It’s only unjustified if the person receiving the passive aggression is innocent. Some people simply don’t deserve healthy communication because they have no self awareness or commitment to understanding where you are coming from. You could have exp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:52 PM
14

Lmfao!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 03:38 PM
9

This recent full moon has to have done something lol. A woman from another sub was posting about having sex for chicken and $28. A woman asking if she’s being unreasonable for not wanting to get fleas from her boyfriend. Now there’s a giant pickme in A*ITA talking about how she doesn’t want her sister in her wedding because she doesn’t support the relationship. They have an age gap, the man left his fiancé for her, and he’s a serial cheater. Lord have mercy. I’m just going to believe they’re all…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 01:59 PM
16

That escalated quickly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 01:12 AM
18

❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 01:10 AM
2

No problem :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 06:34 PM
2

I’ll DM you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 04:24 PM
6

I didn’t get the chance to see the edited version because I saw the uncut version when it leaked. After seeing the uncut version I think he lied.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 04:03 PM
5

You can start by blocking all of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 08:36 PM
98

🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 08:33 PM
9

That sounds so awful. I hope your friend makes it out safely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 12:52 AM
55

He tends to compare me to his ex Triangulation. Run. He’s also dangling the relationship carrot over you. If he commits it will be reluctantly. Check out the handbook and go over it with a fine tooth comb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 01:09 AM
67

The “jUsT tAlK 2 hIm” crowd is out in full force.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 08:26 PM
7

Shes an icon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 02:06 AM
18

Some Pickmes will do it because they want to live vicariously through them. The ones that chase the men from YouTube or Instagram couples think they win something by “taking” the partner of the woman they look up to. They don’t realize it’s not an accomplishment. If McChicken sandwich had hazel eyes it would steal a man lmao. That’s how fickle some of them are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 12:50 AM
81

Some of these “fans” are deranged. I used to watch Dulce Candy and IIRC, she did a video discussing how she once tried to help a woman start on YouTube. The woman clearly wanted her life and she started copying her incessantly as well as trying to flirt with her husband and get him alone. Shallon Lester also mentioned in a video that subscribers would keep DMing her boyfriend hitting on him. It’s clear that these pickmes don’t have lives of their own so they want the life of someone they have a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 09:39 PM
79

He looks like he belongs in children of the corn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 08:58 PM
14

This makes me happy my pepper spray came in the mail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 12:33 PM
14

Especially since pickmes give relationship benefits to guys that won’t commit to them. If she was crying over him I have no doubt that she was doing a lot of emotional labor, cooking, and cleaning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 12:55 PM
36

It never stops with men like that. I’ve seen too many grandpas try and flirt with everyone while they’re still married. It’s so embarrassing but they don’t see why. The whole “I want to settle down” speech is just a facade, especially if being a “player” is the only way they’ve felt validated their whole lives. They only might change if something really bad happens to them, like getting severely injured in an accident, losing all of their money if they aren’t already broke, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 12:09 PM
5

This looks like an assignment made in PowerPoint ten minutes before it was due.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:33 PM
54

God I hope this break becomes permanent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:24 PM
12

I’m just exaggerating lol. But theoretically if her lips ever had an open wound at the same time it might be an issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 12:44 PM
9

Jesús Christ I really hope that if she gets the pouch back that she still stands by leaving him. Old creepy loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 12:40 PM
17

Disgusting predators
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 11:05 AM
25

She’s getting a star fragment instead of a ring
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 10:54 AM
21

Imagine staying with someone who could give you hepatitis because you kiss their crusty bleeding lips. You’d be safer making out with a zombie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 10:48 AM
26

RIP Pietro
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:34 AM
16

Divorce lol. In a few years all the money for 3 root canals is coming out of their joint bank account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 07:46 PM
24

Even if you did everything right he sounds broke. “Let’s walk around and look at these homes I’ll never be able to afford together.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 04:22 PM
17

I remember she once mentioned in a video that the furthest one of them has gone with the open relationship only involved kissing another person. The whole thing is a facade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:28 PM
27

This. Even if they aren’t actively following RP, they still play it out subconsciously. I follow The Bachelor franchise because trash TV is my guilty pleasure. I saw a great summary of The Bachelor UK season on YouTube. The bachelor, Alex, opened the season talking about how he grew up lanky and bullied. Eventually he became really fit and tall and noticed that he got more attention from women. The person who made the video said that’s why gets the most validation from the contestants he’s most …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 12:41 PM
22

Doesn’t surprise me that she’s a pickme. I used to follow her religiously because I was interested in her dating social experiments. I stopped after she started promoting a book written by Laci Green, a giant RP pickme. She got a lot of backlash for it and deleted the post from Instagram immediately so now there’s no proof. She said she was promoting the book because she’s good friends with Laci and implied she could see “both sides.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 12:18 PM
5

The Savage remix never made it to #1 but it was close
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 01:57 AM
45

She’s being a clown and making herself look bad. She should have just sat down and ate her food instead of causing a Twitter storm. If you look at the charts, Ariana’s #1 songs (7 rings, Thank U, Next) aren’t even about sex. Neither are Nicki’s or Beyoncé’s so she’s upset about an arbitrary standard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 10:10 PM
32

Pre-covid (and pre-FDS) I was on Hinge and there was a prompt that said “I bet you can’t...” and I finished it with “I bet you can’t beat me in spades.” I should’ve known better lol. Almost all my matches were from people who only wanted to meet up for happy hour beer and card games. I’m never referencing a card game in a bio again if I get on OLD after this is over. Played myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 04:53 PM
5

👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 03:02 PM
5

Everyone should go upvote it. If it gets popular enough it’ll go viral on different social media platforms and maybe she will see it and leave his crusty broke ass. I hope it’s fake since everyone in that sub was mad about a pregnant woman who called her boyfriend’s boss to stop his deployment. I bet someone must have been like “wHAt iF ThE RoLes WeRE ReVerSeD” and made this up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 11:07 PM
17

This is the content I love to see
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 01:18 PM
5

Your boyfriend is trash. If everyone around you would think you’re a gold digger for the most basic stuff you need to surround yourself with new people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 09:49 PM
110

I wish people would leave these balding, just shy of a heart attack men alone and enjoy their youth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:15 PM
55

That’s a funny way of saying “I’m broke.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 01:07 PM
20

Seriously
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 02:15 AM
6

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 11:54 PM
38

It hasn’t happened to me but I’ve heard from dating coaches that it’s common. It’s especially common on OLD because it’s always men that haven’t been picked. They stop getting new matches so they go back to old ones weeks or even 2 months later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:25 PM
27

“Lol u wild. Wyd tho?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 05:25 PM
9

Precisely. Now we have to weed out men that download bots for swiping right on every single profile and automatically sending every match the same message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 05:18 PM
52

He looks like the type to just reply “Wow.” if a woman sends him a long text lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:43 PM
24

Being called a gold digger by someone broke. Ex went to graduate school, received a crappy stipend, and thought that I was waiting for them to get a 6 figure salary after they graduated. It takes 8 YEARS minimum to get a six figure salary in the field...who waits 8 years to gold dig? The only scenario I see this happening is if in 8 years, someone is expected to receive an inheritance or a sunset clause in a prenup expires. Obviously neither applied to my ex because they were poor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 02:09 PM
6

Lmfaooo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 08:16 PM
27

Please break up. The best part about this situation is that you each have your own place and you’re not stuck with him. This isn’t going to workout long term.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 04:11 PM
15

Hahahahahahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 01:27 PM
21

It’s absolutely all three. My mom has an issue with her leg that makes it really difficult for her to go up stairs. There’s a bathroom on the second floor of her house, but because of her leg she has a hard time going up. There’s a perfectly fine and working bathroom on the first floor, but my POS uncle she has to live with will spend an hour in the bathroom at least twice a day. You can hear him from the living room loudly playing video games, watching Twitch girls, or watching videos about tru…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 11:45 AM
2

Gotcha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 11:54 AM
6

I’ll DM you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 01:51 AM
40

The zoom reunion for 90 day fiancé was leaked by accident. I checked some of it out and watching other cast members dog piling on Ed is comedy gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 09:24 PM
16

And that’s on growth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 09:38 PM
34

Psycho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 08:38 PM
9

Who’s uncle is this loool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 02:18 AM
8

This
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 09:04 PM
114

Lmfao an LVM tried to defend it and someone replied “that’s broke talk.” I’m dead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 03:48 AM
78

It sounds like he thought that by being with you he would be settling. He’s going to realize he wasn’t the prize when she gets sick of him and dips. Then he’s going to come back crying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 08:31 PM
42

Even if you don’t think he would leak them, there’s always a risk that another person could. Someone could hack your cloud storage. Someone could gain access to his phone and send your pictures to themselves (I’ve seen someone post about this happening before).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 03:08 PM
6

You need to cut her off because she could be relaying everything you’re telling her in confidence to the predator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 02:40 PM
70

Right! He could’ve been happily married for 28 years but he ruined it after barely one year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:32 PM
49

I love this song
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 08:31 PM
7

No, why is this a question?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 09:52 PM
6

Oh my god the person who replied using’s Rose’s reaction pic from 90 day fiancé is killing me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 04:48 PM
5

👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 01:31 AM
2

Wow he looks like a reject Justin Bieber from 2010
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 11:49 PM
38

It’s always men that are currently broke or men than grew up poor but became successful and never dealt with the resentment of their upbringing. I’ve seen the “girls weren’t interested me until I had money” types. They make their entire personality revolve around their lucrative career and the nice things they own when they’re talking to women. Of course this type man is only going to attract people that solely want him for those things if that’s all he’s capable of talking about because he has …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:08 PM
63

I hope the downtime for breast reduction surgery isn’t long. If she does get one and she needs to rely on him during the recovery phase, he’s going take every chance to treat her like shit to get back at her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 01:47 PM
1

Are any of your pictures on linked in also pictures you use on your OLD profile? He could have screenshotted pics of your profile and reverse searched them to find you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 05:43 AM
2

Hahahahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 01:56 AM
17

It’s 100% the god complex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 03:12 PM
11

Harry and Francesca’s relationship is literally the worst. I haven’t finished it but people online are saying he grows as a person but I don’t see it as I continue to watch. The Jesus guy also looks homeless and for a person that’s supposed to be spiritual he is weird and obsessive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 06:15 AM
3

90 day fiancé has entered the chat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 12:47 AM
1

That thread is so bizarre
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 02:05 PM
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