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| 27 | A man wrote a book for women on how to text men to get them to not be absolute trash. I just… what?He can always build a nest from his clothes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 07:54 AM |
| 30 | 💯Yeah if she's his mom and he's a child, then maybe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 09:29 AM |
| 13 | "Most of television and film is men making stuff for other men" - Netflix documentary called THIS CHANGES EVERYTHING shows the under- and mis-representation of women in mediaI will probably look this up and watch it tomorrow. It sounds super interesting. Fun female centered female writer comedy show I recently discovered - Pivoting. Same writer as 2 broke girls but a very different tone. Three 40yos lose their best friend to breast cancer and it shows how they grieve in their own ways. Ginnifer Goodwin, Maggie Q and a third actress that was on Scrubs the last season and hilarious. Show is a little kooky but also really fun to watch. One of them is a SAHM has many ki… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 10:58 PM |
| 11 | Never EVER share financial information with a man. It starts with $20 now but can easily escalate to much more over the years. Come across the wrong one and they will absolutely destroy you financially.You need the pin in Canada. We don't do signatures and use chip so you can't swipe most places. The only exception is if you have contactless. It's up to 100$ in a transaction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 08:39 PM |
| 10 | Man wants to have a kid with his wife's younger sister....the traditional way. This poor woman is actually confused about it. WHAT.At first I thought, turkey baster method. Well that's not bad... SEX?! Throw that garbage out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 08:15 PM |
| 16 | How does this community feel about female characters and typical plot of Hallmark movies?I do love your perspective. As an educator, I remember getting excited two years ago because they came out with a novel for preteen girls about a girl dealing with ADHD and it was wonderfully written. I would have loved to read that.as a kid as I struggled with the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 11:50 AM |
| 2 | (TW) Her husband PEED IN HERIt requires concentration, sure, but if he's had enough practice on his own, he wouldn't have to go soft. It might just look like he's about to come. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 08:22 AM |
| 3 | (TW) Her husband PEED IN HERYep. She's a commodity to his fetish, not a person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 06:15 PM |
| 38 | (TW) Her husband PEED IN HERIt doesn't cause any damage. It's just usually uncomfortable or painful for most. There's a sphincter responsable for closing it off and it can be opened. He was not the only person I knew who could do it, just the only one I saw with my own eyes lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 04:05 PM |
| 37 | Has anyone read Faith Jenkin's book "Sis, Don't Settle"?Okay so, it's pretty good as an introduction. She has a boat full of FDS values on being HVW and not jumping all over some random that seems great on first impression. She promotes waiting and vetting lots. She encourages sleuthing social media and ditching if there's any sign of scrotey behavior or gross jokes about females on social media or if he has mostly female follows. Okay, so he’s interested, but what is he interested in? Texting you until the wheels fall off, a once a month casual dinn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 04:01 PM |
| 106 | (TW) Her husband PEED IN HERIt's not. It just requires practice and a shitton of focus on the man's part. Meaning it can't happen on accident. My ex boyfriend was into water sports and I've seen him pee while hard in the shower. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 03:45 PM |
| 11 | My third grade French teacher hit on me at the gym todayI remember my cousin's husband looking at me weirdly when I was 15 as if he had just suddenly noticed me as grown up. I had been 6 when they got married and he had 2 sons. And it made me uncomfortable as fuck. He died when I was 19 so I didn't have many more awkward situations, but the way he looked at me then is permanently etched in my mind as up until that point, I never had dealt with that kind of look from men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 10:07 AM |
| 46 | My third grade French teacher hit on me at the gym todayI mean .. when I was 18, I had a 29yo hit on me. We got into a really intense conversation, we were vibing and then he asked how old I was and when I told him, he turned just as white and told me it was really nice to meet me, good luck with everything, but he thought I was at least in my late 20s and moved to another table. And I remember my dumb ass being bummed that he wasn't interested anymore. From 18-30 I was a chameleon. I could both look younger and my age depending how I dressed and tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 10:02 AM |
| 24 | Midlife crisis is reconciling your youth and impending death…another one bites the dust 🙄He literally wrote a blog post about it. https://medium.com/the-entrepreneurs-journey/the-backbone-behind-my-entrepreneurial-success-47da46a9eede I'm so grossed out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 01:53 PM |
| 47 | Midlife crisis is reconciling your youth and impending death…another one bites the dust 🙄Short answer. No. Long answer. His (Gary Vee's) helped him get rich and successful so that he could leave her and bang this young girl in her 30s instead, Mona Vand. He wrote long blog posts in the early 2010s about how his wife is the source of his success because she was his greatest supporter and balanced his life. They have two kids together. These insta posts are confusing because up to this point he was claiming to be happily married, and suddenly gf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 01:45 PM |
| 15 | Midlife crisis is reconciling your youth and impending death…another one bites the dust 🙄How does she make you happy. Hahahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 01:45 PM |
| 121 | Straight from the horse's mouthI had a sunset date. Crappy beach. Check. Just walking around. Check. Took me to the convenience store and made me buy my own beer. Check. Told me about texting girls for movies on DVD and chill dates. Check Didn't even walk me safely to my train. Check Even then as a pickmeisha I knew what was up. He texted me a week later to ask if I wanted to come over for a movie wink wink* I didn't respond. It gets even funnier because I met a guy who was obsessed with me over a single conversation. Except … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 05:23 PM |
| 6 | She "taught her husband a lesson" by not doing his laundry or grocery shopping after he refused to put away a handful of clothes from the dryer, because he's a guy and "not good at communicating". Someone pointed out basically he has no empathy and only reacts if there's consequences for him.I remember one time I had to go in for a 6 hour shift at work last minute and my ex was staying over as we'd driven up in my car. I left him my car in case he needed to go somewhere and took my mom's as she was on vacation in the tropics. I came home to my car being spotless. He changed all my tires, cleaned every nook and cranny of the interior, replaced my windshield fluid and tightened and cleaned my battery caps. 4 years into the relationship. I cried tears of joy because work had been exhau… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 07:45 PM |
| 248 | She "taught her husband a lesson" by not doing his laundry or grocery shopping after he refused to put away a handful of clothes from the dryer, because he's a guy and "not good at communicating". Someone pointed out basically he has no empathy and only reacts if there's consequences for him.It's okay bEcAuSe i'M ToXiC ToO. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 10:26 AM |
| 356 | She "taught her husband a lesson" by not doing his laundry or grocery shopping after he refused to put away a handful of clothes from the dryer, because he's a guy and "not good at communicating". Someone pointed out basically he has no empathy and only reacts if there's consequences for him.She made another pickmeisha video where she says that saying that he has zero empathy is toxic and expecting perfection and everybody makes mistakes. That not everyone has the pSyChoLogicaL sKiLLs or emotional intelligence to understand how hurtful what they say is. She even uses the words weaponized incompetence in this video. She has two kids with this man child! "Oh wow, honey. You really showed me. I'll pretend to care for a week and then go back to my old garbage ways." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 10:04 AM |
| 3 | Some of the most telling screenshots from men from that front page post about 🌽⭐️s needing to face the ‘consequences of their actions’. Men don’t think coercion exists on ‘big name’ websites and think sex work = any other industry, ignoring that exploitation is a key feature, not a bug, of porn"my PoRn sTaRs haVe AmEriCaN aCcenTs so they aren't trafficked." What. "Plenty of girls have discussed being coerced/trafficked into porn in America, even on reçoit" "WeLL tHoSe are oUtliErs" What. The denial and delusion is so telling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 10:45 AM |
| 96 | I'd leave. Straight up would not make it down that aisle if my man was dressed like thisThat is an Irish traveler wedding. She's only 16. I saw this on TikTok. Kind of like the stuff you'd see on the "my gypsy wedding" show. In a now deleted post she said they're called travelers.https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Irish_Travellers The bride is supposed to be as extravagant as possible and also get married as early as possible, so 16 is very normal in their culture. Her parents put their stamp of approval and are excited to have her married off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 07:03 AM |
| 32 | Beards change way men look a lot more than makeup. Makeup comes off every day while you only see what men looks like if they shave. Don't trust men with beards.It's positive for you because you won't be beardfished lol. The idea is that they hide a bad jawline with facial hair | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 03:05 PM |
| 27 | When your 11 year old son starts watching violent and degrading rape porn all you gotta do is let him know that it's totally not a guidebook nor an okay portrayal of women!According to him, he has parental locks on everything including phones, tablets and regular computers, but his son started taking an old decade old laptop they had to his room and that's where he found the History. He then backtracks to say they take the laptop away at night now but I doubt it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 12:57 PM |
| 29 | She quit her job and is live-in childcare for her husband’s affair baby and is now being asked to cancel her birthday trip to babysitShe was 21 when they got married. He was 28. He was grooming her from the time she was 18 and he was 25, if not earlier. Ughhhhhhhhh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 04:50 PM |
| 46 | On what men do with nudes of their exes, majority responds “they are mine to do what I want with.” This is the entitlement they feel towards our bodies. LADIES DO NOT SEND NUDES EVER do not even watermark as those can be removed with photoshopEh. I would assume that 100% with every other guy. This happened 6 years into the relationship and I questioned why he had stopped talking to his best friend all of a sudden. I messaged the friend himself. And I threw up in my mouth. The friend was exactly that kind of scrote to expect that from. The fact that nvx didn't tell me himself even though he was sitting on that information for months was the beginning of the end. Years after we broke up, I got to talking with him and I questioned why h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 01:06 PM |
| 154 | On what men do with nudes of their exes, majority responds “they are mine to do what I want with.” This is the entitlement they feel towards our bodies. LADIES DO NOT SEND NUDES EVER do not even watermark as those can be removed with photoshopCheck my dumbass who let my ex take multiple videos of us doing the kinky dirty. I couldn't have the videos because I'd let them get into the wrong hands because I didn't know how to be secure with my technology obviously. Him? He was fine keeping them. Until he stayed the night at his best friends and his friend copied every one of them while my boyfriend was passed out on his couch. I found out because said friend got a guilt Boner and said he "knew" my ex and me were insanely compatible becau… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 10:42 AM |
| 3 | A Dude leads her on for 2.5 months leeching her emotionally daily saying he wants to take things slow. Of course the advice is to *communicate* and talk to him honestly.Eh. It's a pretty garbage 10k memberFacebook group for girl positivity started by some YouTuber. I joined for the lols years ago and never left. A chunk of the girls there are on this level and I think it's a bit to do with literacy being low in some communities. I knew a few highschoolers from such communities that wrote walls of texts like this over Facebook messenger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 09:01 PM |
| 11 | A Dude leads her on for 2.5 months leeching her emotionally daily saying he wants to take things slow. Of course the advice is to *communicate* and talk to him honestly."You're right but then I think about it we've 'planned' /spoke about a whole list of stuff we're going to do together, places we will go, holidays we will take, places the children would enjoy. We've created a little bucket list as it were, he's romantic bringing me little gifts, reminding me of events that are happening I've mentioned (he has a real good memory, I don't lol) we've been on 2 dates but I'm only child free every other weekend so makes things difficult. This I suppose is why it fee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 09:14 AM |
| 3 | Cosby Documentary: "Sex Therapist" Sonalee Rashatwar Claims "Sex Negativity" Caused Cosby's RapesShe's an awful therapist INFLUENCER. She spreads nothing but garbage. I had an amazing therapist at one point. Complete opposite over this "fatlogic misogynist apologist." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 05:44 PM |
| 3 | Cosby Documentary: "Sex Therapist" Sonalee Rashatwar Claims "Sex Negativity" Caused Cosby's RapesI knew I recognized that stupid bing bongs name. Anything that comes out of her face is pure dumpster fire. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 05:38 PM |
| 55 | I don’t know what to say other than ewwwww!Holy crap. Cringe 😬😬😬 Reminds me of this girl I knew through my exes work. Gorgeous girl. 23. Someone with real charisma. And she was with an abusive dick because her parents kicked her out at 18. They were engaged to be married. When the wedding pictures arrived, she was dressed to the 9s beautiful dress. Professionally done hair and makeup. She looked like a princess. And he was wearing a tuxedo tshirt and greasy jeans with greasy hair. Representative of their future. She puts in Max effort an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 04:51 PM |
| 4 | Negs her, calls her response a meltdown, asks reddit if he is wrong or if she is overreacting.This is exactly it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 11:58 AM |
| 14 | Negs her, calls her response a meltdown, asks reddit if he is wrong or if she is overreacting.As a joke between really close friends of the same age, I wouldn't mind it. It's the silly sort of thing I'd come up with. But then again, depends on the person. If I know they're really insecure with their age, I wouldn't poke the bear. I think I just talked myself out of using it with people I don't know well. I wouldn't put up with it from a partner, though. No thank you. But the response to her well thought out response cemented his scrotiness. Zero responsibility. He can to hell and stay ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 11:58 AM |
| 18 | Saw this elsewhere and yupOr they do get all the pussy AND the dick and call you up crying and saying they feel suicidal because now they're of less value to you then before. Which tbh. They are. Like you couldn't wait to have sex with other people but you still wanted to pretend we had a chance at a relationship. Yeah that's on you, buddy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 09:39 AM |
| 23 | We are living in a clown world 🤡Different cultures, too. Eastern Europeans for example have the kids live at home rent free until they decide to move out or start a family. it's a very close knit family centered culture. My grandmother had her mother live with her after she got married. Then my married mother lived at her family home until she was 27 and followed her LVM husband to North America. They had the whole upstairs to themselves and free childcare. Worst décision of her life moving. She had multiple businesses started… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 01:52 PM |
| 128 | We are living in a clown world 🤡If they can afford it, I don't see the issue. My parents gifted me vacation trips many times as an adult. Traveling within Europe is dirt cheap. They also offered it to my ex-bf who I was with for 6 years, but he never accepted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 09:15 AM |
| 21 | Ask Amy: Your boyfriend is abusive. You should get out.This just reminds me of one of the last times I was supposed to dress up as foreplay with my ex. Something I honestly enjoyed for years before. Something I'll probably never do with anyone again. It was just quirky roleplay with me dressing up in a very cute outfit he had bought me because I specifically told him I wanted it. He suggested the night before I was supposed to drive to his place (privacy reasons) it would be fun to do it again. I asked him point blank if he wanted me to drive up dre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 01:39 PM |
| 11 | Basically they admit to everything FDS warns us about.Guy is a prick. A girl did call the problems with his post and he pretty much explained exactly who he is. -doesn't matter if it's good for the girl, it matters that I have good sex. I told myself I'm phenomenal in bed. -don't want lots of sex, just want to check off as many women as possible in the process of getting my dick wet and give other guys the formula to do it -guys future tripping on their profile but only looking for a lay, sounds like a WOMAN problem I live in Canada, and prefds I h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 10:11 AM |
| 41 | [deleted by user]Honestly I learned this very early on at 19. I had a crush on my friend who was mildly chubby. Like overweight BMI but he had a cute face. There were garbage insecurities that he would never grow out of. He did not improve. He never learned to take care of himself or his surroundings. He perpetuated incel ideology more the fatter he got. And he absolutely tried to neg me, because I was young pretty and rejected him when he tried to touch my thigh while we were hanging out. He idealized our short… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 11:26 AM |
| 13 | This shit is still going on in 2021. Unbelievable!I remember I met a dude on those online listener sites that said that he refused to marry a girl who had any gynecological exams or used tampons because she's no longer a virgin. He said pap smears are unnecessary unless she's whoring around. He was white, American in his 30s and claimed he was going to find an 18 year old with an intact hymen to marry so that there's less chance she has had intercourse. This was before FDS but omg 😱 I was appalled even then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 04:24 PM |
| 278 | 'When rape is inevitable, enjoy it’: Karnataka (India) Congress MLA in AssemblyYesterday was 9 years since that poor soul was brutally gang raped and left to die. I'm glad that those disgusting vermin were exécutéd. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 04:19 PM |
| 4 | F.R.I.E.N.D.S. is one of the worst shows I've seenHave you watched community? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 10:54 PM |
| 12 | Men calling women crazy, for a justified reaction, isn't new. The fact that so many women are gaslighted into believing it, is terrifying.This is the fascinating thing. Because I grew up being my own person. I was into toy cars and hated dresses and loved playing with my long hair, reading and drawing portraits of girls and eventually women and I was always on my bike. I was a creative and funny. I refused to be put into a box. And then I started meeting boys and men who didn't share my world starting in highschool and college. And suddenly I was fed crap like women are naturally unfunny. Being girly is a flaw. Spending as much ti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:22 PM |
| 4 | The main character is catfished by some ugly guy but she eventually falls in love with his “personality”. Safe to say this is my least favourite film everReminds me of "she's out of my league" where a dude at a dead end job gets a gorgeous very HVW to fall in love with him. I honestly only watched it because I love that actresses work but the actual story made very little sense. She is well rounded, smart, and yet stupid enough to fall for a guy that brings very little to her life. " I don't care if you're a pilot, a TSA agent or scoop elephant shit, all I know is i miss you. " Her friend calls it dating a "safe guy that won't hurt her". But he's… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 09:58 AM |
| 2 | "Men don't actually like women, they want to have sex with female anatomy, but they don't like women."His audience is predominantly young and gay, but i do appreciate more guys pointing it out. I also like his videos on gay misogyny. It's something I actually experienced a lot in college. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 07:29 PM |
| 7 | "Men don't actually like women, they want to have sex with female anatomy, but they don't like women."I don't agree with the message about queerness in this video perse but from watching his other stuff, he brings up very valid points about gay misogyny so it's still a very enlightening watch. I've been pretty much 10% into women 90% into men my entire life but I knew this already at 9 years old and it's way more likely and easier from a cultural perspective for me to seek out a guy for creating a family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 04:49 PM |
| 11 | See how he treats his family, especially the womenAbsolutely. They already have issues. It's heartbreaking but I couldn't do anything. I was only there for a month. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 04:44 PM |
| 71 | See how he treats his family, especially the womenI remember I had this little girl (7) at the school I worked and she was quite a troublemaker. Always doing something to get attention. I hated giving bad reports at the end of the day. I'd be so excited when she did something wonderful. Like helped a younger kid after they got injured on the playground or helped hand out the snack. So when the dad came to pick up on his days I'd happily tell him about it. Dad's response was "okay? And? Why are you wasting my time telling me that. Just tell me i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 11:47 AM |
| 8 | Do you think most of us were very naive when we were younger?This is the comment, honestly. Being a woman we experience dumpster fire men all the damn time. It doesn't matter if you're super attractive or barely average, you will come across these men. Gaining the skills to recognize red flags and green ones gives you power over who you choose to let in. It can just as easily apply to what relationships you have in general. Being naive is also part of growing up. We need strong female role models to show us how to be our own person, have good boundaries a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 10:26 AM |
| 2 | Love life season 2. - How to be the perfect scroteYeah. I haven't rewatched more than two episodes of season 1 in a while. I hated the dating her boss episode. I did remember loving the episode where she gets divorced after her husband is completely unsupportive and jealous of her career success while refusing to level up in any way in his own life. Now I'm rewatching it from the beginning and it's legit two different shows. Season 2 seems like a parody of a guy faking it through relationships and a whole fucking marriage because he wants to en… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 09:52 AM |
| 7 | Lets talk about COWARD MenI think that's a high quality of one of my exes. He was the first person that really jumped on the "your mom treats you like crap and doesn't respect your time and I need you to stop putting up with it because I see how much you suffer because of it." When I started dating him, it was the first time I stopped dropping everything to go save my mom from her next crap situation that wasn't even real. He also pushed me to confront my best friend after she started randomly ghosting me. It was a painf… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 09:01 AM |
| 8 | No. FDS is not about clapping back at men who neg youNo. All situations. I worked in the same building as a very miserable dude. I was always nice and cheerful. I even saw him at Starbucks outside of work regularly. We were on amicable terms, aka I'd say hi when I saw him, but no deep conversations. Then one day he comes in and negs me. Something about the way I dress. I gave him a frown and said I don't think I'd be well off taking advice from you. The fucker reported me to my boss, a woman, who already had it out for me because she felt threaten… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 08:46 AM |
| 15 | 365 Days on Netflix really helped when I was feeling horny AF.http://imgur.com/a/9aO4gjU Ship scene I'm talking about. 11/10 realism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 08:48 PM |
| 17 | 365 Days on Netflix really helped when I was feeling horny AF.TBF... The ship scene was of quality. Their English also left a lot to be desired, but it seems few Polish productions invest money into intonation and accent training if you've ever watched other movies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 06:16 PM |
| 17 | She asked a guy out. Scrotes responded "good, you deserve it. Now you know what it's like to be a man." She responded with a list of the garbage women have to go through.I still like the message, but I do agree. As an ex Mormon she probably was raised... Nevermind... Groomed to have the age gap be a normal thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 08:02 PM |
| 46 | She asked a guy out. Scrotes responded "good, you deserve it. Now you know what it's like to be a man." She responded with a list of the garbage women have to go through.She's an ex Mormon. They aren't from the same religion. Just to clarify. Probably never déprogrammed herself from the acceptable age gap thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 03:51 PM |
| 134 | She asked a guy out. Scrotes responded "good, you deserve it. Now you know what it's like to be a man." She responded with a list of the garbage women have to go through.To the men trying to comment here, idgaf about what you would answer. Go away. Got a lot of "😢😭😭😭😭 boohoo men have hardships too". Go suck on a bull testicle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 03:40 PM |
| 46 | She asked a guy out. Scrotes responded "good, you deserve it. Now you know what it's like to be a man." She responded with a list of the garbage women have to go through.55 and 35. I did the digging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 03:38 PM |
| 161 | She asked a guy out. Scrotes responded "good, you deserve it. Now you know what it's like to be a man." She responded with a list of the garbage women have to go through.She's 35, he's 55. I looked it up. She's also an ex Mormon. She married him when she was 28 and he was 48. Not as terrible as the 19yos bragging about their 44 year old boyfriends, but still pretty ick. And yes, the cancer treatment still aged him. I know plenty of older men who look better than he does. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 03:36 PM |
| 758 | She asked a guy out. Scrotes responded "good, you deserve it. Now you know what it's like to be a man." She responded with a list of the garbage women have to go through.To add background, she was telling a story about asking a guy out 15 years ago before she was married. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 12:25 PM |
| 88 | This is terrifying. Scrote at a thrift store tries to lure a 17 year old at to his farm talking about getting injured and needing help.1) socially inept. Sure but not really an excuse. Really it's "girls are a different species to me and nothing more than an object because I consume so much porn that my brain has stopped recognizing them as human a long time ago and I don't feel empathy." So therefore he feels no shame or embarrassment. It's the equivalent of petting a dog too much but this particular girl won't bite because she's young enough that I'm convinced it might work if I keep at it and make her feel trapped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 01:21 PM |
| 13 | Husband suggests she stop buying formula rather than get a job and cancel his $80+ a month subscriptions."BuT wHaT if He'S dePreSseD? YoU sHouLd coMmUniCate." I was reading another post today where the woman complains about her husband and father of her children being a literal child who does nothing to help out and doesn't work. His answer to her confronting him on this is to give her the silent treatment for 2 days at a time. And someone STILL suggested her "communicating her needs" and pushing him to go to therapy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 10:58 AM |
| 13 | Sad, unfortunate truths about the “friend zone”i thought mons pubis aka mound WAS the fupa? >"What Is FUPA?The mons pubis, also known as the pubic area, mons, or FUPA (fat upper pubic area), is the fatty tissue located above the pubic bone." https://www.verywellhealth.com/mons-surgery-2709827 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 12:11 PM |
| 162 | Sad, unfortunate truths about the “friend zone”And then you fall asleep while watching a movie in his dorm and he ends up feeling you up to check out and then idéalise your "mound" for the next 5 years (fupa area really). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 08:41 PM |
| 3 | The IckI wish I had made that my first and final ick with my ex. I had a mixed group of friends when I met him. We actually did things together. One day we were supposed to meet up with them at an icecream place and we were having trouble finding it. He spent more time screaming about the inconsideration of not having us follow them and wanting to just turn around and fuck the outing than actually focusing on finding the place so we came literally 5 minutes before closing and I didnt get to have any ic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 03:59 PM |
| 7 | As an essential worker, I’ve honestly met more male ‘Karens’ in my life than the stereotypical lady ‘Karen’I remember working at a euro bakery/deli. I had a customer come in with his wife. They were incredibly pleasant. Making jokes. I even complimented the woman's hair. She had a gorgeous balayage and told them they were one of the nicest customer couples I'd met at my job. Then they left. That's when I realised that I forgot to give them a refund on their deposit on the Mennonite cow milk glass milk bottle they returned. It was literally $1.50. I was going to write a note about owing them that fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 03:49 PM |
| 14 | The IckWhen I told my ex bf I got raped while sleeping and that's why I couldn't have sex when I was barely awake and had to be fully woken up for ten minutes or so. Like him waking me up with fondling my breasts or vagina was incredibly triggering and I had to be 100% awake to get turned on. "So you're just going to be broken forever?" "I'm going to therapy for it. I am trying to fix it." "Well maybe find a different one. This one is obviously not good." This was the first therapist that actually had … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 10:15 AM |
| 12 | When we say some men are delusional, this what they mean. Your wife is not yet born is creepy! Calling women pretty young things is gross and dehumanizing.I find it fascinating how pretty much all of us cringe to our cores at reading this kind of fantasy. The 36 year old Persian guy who went to my college literally was the epitome of this. And he was gross. He thought his age and maturity and claimed financial success made up for his very LVM personality and all these early twenty young'uns would be all over him and he could continue sleeping around. It only worked on a handful of pickmes with low self esteem. He was balding, unfit, smelled terrib… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 09:22 AM |
| 39 | When we say some men are delusional, this what they mean. Your wife is not yet born is creepy! Calling women pretty young things is gross and dehumanizing.Okay, so my mom had my brother at 30, 31 dad. My brother ended up with regressive form of autism, meaning he was social, speaking in 2-4 word sentences, seeking affection and recognizing us by name until the age of 2.5 and then everything regressed to antisocial, non verbal, avoiding physical and eye contact practically overnight. But, my dad has had pretty autistic traits his entire life, never diagnosed, and his mom had him when she was 39 and his dad was 43 so I can definitely see it there. P… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 08:32 AM |
| 37 | Polyamory and the normalization of dissatisfactionI remember taking a break from the relationship and consciously knowing that my partner was sleeping with another girl. And I couldn't get over it. And I thought something was wrong with me. I remember going on 7cups to anonymously complain to a stranger and the guy on the other end being like. "Call it what you want but your bf is cheating on you and you feeling jealous is 100% valid. I don't understand why you'd ever accept something so vile." He didn't want a relationship with the girl he was… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 02:02 PM |
| 69 | I don’t cook nor clean for any manReminds me of my college "friend". Actually reminds me of the entire polish culture of raising sons to be taken care of by their mothers while daughters are pushed to do everything at home. My mom was actually discussing this with me recently. Most of the men are raised where they expect their wife/forever gf to pick up the slack when they get married or move in. It's more often get married at 20-24 and never grow up. But back to shitty nvm friend. We all got a dorm first in college..some people… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 10:43 AM |
| 7 | A short film on Gaslighting - Quite educational for those who haven’t gone through it and relatable for others who have gone through it.The betrayal bond is a great book about that very trauma bond that makes people, mostly women stay with abusive partners. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 01:18 PM |
| 2 | A short film on Gaslighting - Quite educational for those who haven’t gone through it and relatable for others who have gone through it.Thank you for naming it for me. I had the same dynamic with my mom growing up, unfortunately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 01:16 PM |
| 6 | A short film on Gaslighting - Quite educational for those who haven’t gone through it and relatable for others who have gone through it.Depending on where you are in your journey, I have a few. 1) stop caretaking the borderline or narcissist. Margalis Fjelstad It describes a lot of the mind traps you end up in because of your ex partners behaviour and mental gymnastics. Very easy to read through.. 2)James Masterson - Search for the real self More of an educational text about how personality disorders come go be, but also has some gold. He explains why we ignore the red flags. We thought we were getting into an relationship with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 01:13 PM |
| 12 | A short film on Gaslighting - Quite educational for those who haven’t gone through it and relatable for others who have gone through it.I'm so very sorry you went through any of that. I hope you have found ways to heal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 07:31 PM |
| 21 | A short film on Gaslighting - Quite educational for those who haven’t gone through it and relatable for others who have gone through it.Yes. Literally that. When we wake up it will be all okay. Except that I didn't read his mind that he wanted to wake up in the morning to me wearing the teddy he bought me so I ruined all our plans and probably his sex drive forever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 06:10 PM |
| 27 | A short film on Gaslighting - Quite educational for those who haven’t gone through it and relatable for others who have gone through it.Yep yep yep. All same. But he actually did do text fights too. But if I wanted to take a break from a real life conversation he'd refuse. Keep poking at me until I broke and started screaming. Then he'd call me unhinged one in the relationship. Phenomenal . | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 05:57 PM |
| 38 | A short film on Gaslighting - Quite educational for those who haven’t gone through it and relatable for others who have gone through it.All that idealising "if only I could find a way to fix it" we'd be fine. What about if only my partner wasn't an abusive pos, I could feel safe being myself again. The holding onto "better". Like if something was even 2% better it justified staying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 05:51 PM |
| 126 | A short film on Gaslighting - Quite educational for those who haven’t gone through it and relatable for others who have gone through it.Well..that was horrifying. The part where her own version of events is so skewed fucks with my head so much. I used to literally record fights because I knew I would have trouble remembering the horrible shit said to me the next day. Wish I didn't know first hand what it's like. The silent treatments. The "you embarrassed me" and I can never take you out in public again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 04:54 PM |
| 3 | Rapist redemption on TVI watched it and honestly. I loved the first season. The black woman who commits suicide in the end had a haunting monologue about how she was looking for a father figure mentor but ended up with a dick inside her instead. It was probably the most capturing moment of what it's like to grow up as a woman. Where we naively trust these older men to be insightful and contribute to our lives, while they can pretend to see us as people but really are just looking to get what they want and blame us for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 03:35 PM |
| 11 | Men think we are crazy, ugly psychos for having physical standards. Never change your standards and these “short kings” can go cry themselves to sleep. (The last guy seems hopeful though.)I know this was discussed elsewhere, but my ex literally lied about his height. He said he was 5'6. An inch shorter than me. He was actually 5'4. He also told me I was less fat than he expected. (I had only dropped 50lbs year before. Ugh) My other ex ... He was exactly who he said he was in terms of aesthetics. He said he had actually thought my pictures were somewhat filtered (we met through a Facebook friend) and was intimidated when he met me because he didn't expect me to be so gorgeous and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 03:24 PM |
| 10 | Your reminder that polyamory is a complete scam for women. This woman is trying to convince herself that she’s okay with hearing her husband have sex with another woman.I honestly decided it was a scam after my loosely described friend got a divorce at 23 and moved in with a dude 15 years her senior who had a wife with a 12yo kid. At first it was all kinky dory, we share each other, have fun. Then she admitted and laughed about the 12yo walking in on them having sex in the middle of the day. There was dozens of other huge red flags and it was all just plain gross. That kid is probably hopefully in therapy at this point. A year in, the wife moves out with the ki… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 07:17 AM |
| 42 | Spotted in another sub. Subtle red flag that I (as a short-legged woman) have experienced too!I had a very athletic friend early in my first year of medical school. She was also the most inconsiderate person in the world and actually held a lot of disdain for me which I didn't realize for the longest time. One time she told me that me calling her 3-4 times in a row was not okay when I tried to reach her to find out what time our mandatory pe class started as I had misplaced my schedule. She compared me to a clingy bf the next day. The first real sign that she was really off was when she … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 09:50 AM |
| 21 | Spotted in another sub. Subtle red flag that I (as a short-legged woman) have experienced too!Especially when it's guaranteed their GFS/wives would bend over backwards to accommodate them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 09:33 AM |
| 15 | I wouldn't touch that guy with a ten foot stick after he pulled this kind of shit. He agrees to pay first date if she pays for the next, she ends up being footed with a bill 4x what he paid.I think at that point he was just taking her for a ride, looking for the hookup he inevitably got. He no longer had any respect for her. You'd be surprised how little men give a shit and the shit they will pull if they've got nothing to lose with a girl that they don't respect. (aka most women except a few chosen family members). That's why a huge red flag for a dude is the way they treat service people who they don't have to impress. That's where their disdain for women shows bright. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 08:39 PM |
| 55 | I wouldn't touch that guy with a ten foot stick after he pulled this kind of shit. He agrees to pay first date if she pays for the next, she ends up being footed with a bill 4x what he paid.I remember this one scrote went out for sushi with us, 7 do łu people. He ordered a full jug of sake for himself along with appetizers. I literally got a plate of California NM for $23. He got pretty much $120 worth of stuff. Final bill was 360 bucks. And he was like... Oh we should just all split the bill. Like why the hell am I going to pay more than double for my meal? Thankfully the other people were like, no thanks. We're just gonna pay for what we got. Plus to add insult to injury. He had … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 07:10 PM |
| 113 | I wouldn't touch that guy with a ten foot stick after he pulled this kind of shit. He agrees to pay first date if she pays for the next, she ends up being footed with a bill 4x what he paid.Unfortunately all the next dates were movies at home dates. It was cringe to watch. I can count on my hand the amount of times I ever pulled out my wallet at a restaurant when I was with my ex over 4 years. And it was usually because I had gotten $200 in gift cards from my job and using them up on coffee on road trips was my jam and he would always go, are you sure? You could use it up to hang out with your girlfriends. He always, from our third date on had a date fund from all his extra change … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 05:37 PM |
| 53 | Sex without intimacy is boring and low value.Honestly, something that really spoke heavily to me recently was in an episode from the first season of the Morning Show. Hannah, an executive booker at a television network is talking about how she looked up to the main anchor on the morning show, how he was her mentor, a father figure and how he took advantage of her and then bragged about how she had just used him as a way to get a promotion. What do I have to say? I was violated? I was scared? I was powerless? That I think about it every day… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 06:58 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Check-inI have been trying to find another way for 3 months. I'm on a limited income. I can't afford 600 $ fuckups. If i had a way, I'd do everything in my power to get it. My parents keep in contact with him as well.They consider him family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 09:41 AM |
| 73 | For anyone who’s lurking and still on the fence about wether they should try to CoMmUnIcAtE and work things out.. ✨I found appropriate endings to this: My boyfriend doesn't think I should ever settle for anything less than I deserve and so he puts in lots of effort to make me feel special and loved. He is thinking long term. My boyfriend doesn't like it when I'm suffering through my time off the month so he'll go all out to make sure I'm comfortable and have everything I need to get through it even if it means personal space away from him. My boyfriend doesn't want me to speak to anyone I don't feel comforta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 04:14 PM |
| 36 | I am SO pissed right now, I can't even see straightSo then stop passing the time talking with him. It's better for you. If someone's not building you up in some way and improving your day, why should they get to talk to you at all. The moment someone doesn't respect a boundary that's the end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Check-inYoure right. He's not. Any contact we have is mostly for business purposes. I relocated across the ocean and need someone to mail me things because most American companies refuse to. I tried to get multiple family members to do it for me, but they fucked it up so bad it set me back $600 USD. He's the only one who has always been incredibly reliable and consistent. So either my parents or I get in contact with him once a month to speak details. We haven't had a conversation like this since Februa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 04:02 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Check-inEx boyfriend of 7 years calls me this morning to complain about being suicidal and depressed. We've been broken up 6 months since he told he's been sleeping and in a quasi relationship with his coworker who is 7 years younger while we were separated by COVID border lockdown for 12 months. Obviously that was the end. Oh no it got better. He now started sleeping with dudes too. Says he can't turn off his sexual deviant thoughts (read porn limp dick?) He also convinced this poor severe PTSD pick-me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 09:38 AM |
| 29 | Do not underestimate male entitlement and their capacity for retroactive jealousy.Also IUDs can fall out of place if you gain weight over two years and stab you in the uterus, causing horrible pain and cause you to have a 3 week period followed by no period at all for 76 days making you think you are pregnant and scheduling an abortion you then have to cancel because you're mentally not handling anything well because your hormones are so out of whack. Yeah. It's a wall of text with no periods. Just like I was for 76 days. Also male gynecologist who took it out told me I shoul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 08:16 AM |
| 10 | Four years for choking her during sex. This is not okay.It makes me think. My ex was a self.proclaimed kinkster. He liked to play with electrodes and rope play and some of the more taboo crap, but after we did it one time he decided he didn't want to do that with me because he was too afraid that he'd injure or hurt me on accident. And I thought that was weird. Like a guy actually being interested in my safety felt abnormal. I still don't think I have nor do I ever think I will process through the shit I put up with. It's been 7 months. And it still … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 05:12 PM |
| 1 | Why do men always bring up women's height preference when factually speaking we know men have a race, weight, look, and physical feature preference?You're spot on with #3. He married a beautiful 38yo Persian girl and he regularly still tried to get with early 20s swedish girls all the time. Before any of this happened to me, he was "dating" a very insecure 21yo Pick me..he would go to the mall with her and his friends and have her walk behind them. It was the most ridiculous thing anyone saw. When I later asked him about it the one time he approached me, he was like. Nah. That's nothing. My first thought after that was I had no intention be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 08:04 AM |
| 27 | Why do men always bring up women's height preference when factually speaking we know men have a race, weight, look, and physical feature preference?I was 23 in college, extremely fair and blonde. There was a 35 yo guy in my year. Short darker skin, looked 45. His name was Alireza but I called him alizero to my friends. He "fancied me". 🤮. His words. I had no interest in dating anyone more than 2-3 years older, but even so, he wouldn't have any actual conversations with me. He would just tell me I'm really beautiful all the time when we were out for dinner as a group and make me uncomfortable as shit. One time he invited me over to dinner at… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 08:50 AM |
| 2 | “Build with him”I was literally coming here to say the same. That story was infuriating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 04:49 PM |
| 4 | Older queens if you woke up as a 20 year old again, what would you have done differently?I would call out the much older scrote who tricked me into a date and been more blunt with him about how gross what he did was . (Made it out to be a group outing, but he was the only one in the taxi) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 09:41 AM |
| 5 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 13 - Roastus Scrotus Deletus + How an Early Childhood Educator Motivates Boys to be HVMI was a little girl surrounded by boys. I used to wrestle with my boy cousin all the time. He would overpower me often but it was fun to try to challenge it. What blew my mind was how much stronger he got right around puberty. I went from having almost a chance to zero chance at all. We were similar height and even weight and I was strong for a girl (especially grip wise, I actually did a physical test for this) but his strength was out of the ballpark of what I could manage when he was 12 and I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 11:46 AM |
| 26 | This reminds me of the slug storyI mean this guy is a complete piece of s***. But this also reminds me of the story where OP had a narcissistic mother who put coconut oil into her hair her entire childhood. She ends up with twin girls and one of the girls has a coconut oil allergy. Full on anaphylactic shock severe. She repeatedly tells her mother that the one kid can't have any coconut oil. The mother agrees but doesn't completely believe her and one night when she's babysitting the two year old twins she puts some in each of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 11:40 AM |
| 5 | Men believe that women exist solely for their sexual pleasure. Vet carefully - if he doesn’t appreciate women’s art/music/literature it shows what he thinks of you.I've seen that argument used a lot against me when criticizing any woman by guys. If I don't like somebody's attitude it's because I'm jealous of them. If I'm not a fan of the outfit it means I'm jealous of them. If somebody treats me badly and I complain and I'm told that I'm just feeling competition, that's why. I don't make friends easily. I know that. I once got kicked out of an online friend group of mostly 30+ people because I pointed out that at my job there's a lot of women that simply s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 08:04 AM |
| 4 | The bigger a dude, the nicer he tends to be. I don't even care about height from an aesthetics standpoint, but I don't date short men because they usually have a Napoleon complex and terrible personality.My ex was 5'10. I'm 5'7 We took a break for 3 weeks. He hung out with some girl that wanted to date him and I openly told him he could hang out, so that he'd give me the space I need. I come back and he's like.. Damn, you're taller than I remember. Blank was shorter and I thought it was cute. Why the hell I didn't just walk right out of his life right then and there. Like you beg me to come back into your life, tell me this other pickmeisha ain't shit compared to me and then you complain that I'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 08:39 PM |
| 8 | Yup. Especially how creepy most of the men giving out compliments areI love doing that. I love seeing things I like and speaking up about it. Anything that's cool and looks good, I jump on the chance to point it out just to make them, mostly women, feel good about it. When I get those kinds of compliments, it sticks in my mind forever. I want everyone else to experience it too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 07:07 AM |
| 104 | Oopshttps://i.imgur.com/dVt8vMy.jpg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 07:17 PM |
| 5 | Just read a thread about the worst rejection men have experienced from a women that made the front pageThey enable that shit behavior in each other unfortunately. They don't grow up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 05:53 PM |
| 5 | Just read a thread about the worst rejection men have experienced from a women that made the front pageYeah it was absolutely fabulous. He wore one under his sweatpants when he went to pick me up at the train station just to see what my rawe reaction would be. That way he knows how I actually feel. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 12:47 PM |
| 14 | Just read a thread about the worst rejection men have experienced from a women that made the front page"i drove up to see her after two years of a relationship of texting and she and her friends laughed at me for driving up." You didn't meet for two years?! What are you? An episode of catfish? This is insanity to me. Until you meet, it's not anything. I fake dated someone for four months because I was halfway across the world. We were supposed to meet right before I left, but they had canceled the trip. After four months we meet and they were suuuuuch a dud. Zero chemistry. Huge disappoint. Also … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 09:56 AM |
| 3 | Podcast interviews with sex therapists ain't it./u/space_gators You bring up a few really good points about the host. I have been listening over half a decade so I never been changed on a bunch of episodes. At least never in the recovering pickmeisha state that I'm in right now. I never listened to the rape survivor podcast episode. I have missed about 2 to 3 months of podcast. I come back to it after a while usually. That sounds absolutely disgusting. Someone talking about their trauma related to giving birth and the host responding with thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 02:48 AM |
| 4 | Podcast interviews with sex therapists ain't it.Omg.. that's hilarious. 😂😂 I was looking at her postdoctoral school and on the Wikipedia it says that they currently have an enrollment of two students. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 02:34 AM |
| 41 | Podcast interviews with sex therapists ain't it.I think this is especially prevalent in sex therapists, both the pseudo and licensed ones. Licensed pickmeisha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 10:12 AM |
| 19 | Podcast interviews with sex therapists ain't it.This was huge in my relationship at one point. We started off super monogamous. Ex had a girl cheat on him and felt incredible anger at the idea of such betrayal. In fact, the first red flag in the relationship was the violent way he discussed that sort of betrayal but I was too pickme hellion to ignore how insane he sounded. It never developed into anything past that first conversation, thank me lucky but very idiotic stars. Things were too good sexually I guess. We genuinely enjoyed each other… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 10:09 AM |
| 11 | Podcast interviews with sex therapists ain't it.I agree that's what I've seen historically. Some schmoe after a few courses claiming to be an expert. This particular one claimed she went as far as a PhD program and that the lack of courses on human sexuality outside of one in undergrad frustrated her. Seeking out her background, she only got her bachelors at a public university and got both her master's and PhD at very small for profit schools. She is licensed but that's about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 09:49 AM |
| 35 | Pickme Poodle 🐩🥴 goes on walkies!! 🐶😩💦My ex used to take me on rides on his motorcycle. He bought me a really cool pink helmet.. Got me my own scooter when we did that.. Got to tour the city on the regular. I miss that part so much. He would also save up every year for the county fair. Enough so that I could go on unlimited rides, eat as much garbage as I want and do all the games. Got himself a bunch of Dramamine so he could go on the rides with me. Had extra painkiller on him in case my endometriosis ramped up during. Walks. Pfft. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 03:13 AM |
| 42 | YEP👏🏼I went for The millionaire Matchmaker mantra along with my best friend in my twenties. No sex before monogamy. I stuck to it. Saved me from a lot of scuzz bags. I lost my virginity at 25 to a guy that was incredibly devoted to making me feel good and jumped through all my hoops for two years. On the other hand I feel like it all fall apart after those two years in, once he decided that he no longer wanted to be monogamous and wanted to experiment. He was upfront about it but my reaction should h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 09:04 AM |
| 18 | Have men buy pregnancy tests when you start sleeping togetherYeah. My ex made sure we both always had a supply of condoms and paid part of my IUD. I took the dollar store pregnancy tests so that was not a biggie for me, but he also tracked my period himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 01:11 PM |
| 45 | Having children with an HVM is STILL hard - protect yourself against LVM at all costs!Omg! I honestly was super confused! It must be a pregnancy reddit abbreviation. I'm sitting here like why are you a female to male to the baby. Wouldn't you be a mother to do the baby (or father? Whatever floats your pregnancy boat.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 08:13 PM |
| 111 | I appreciate FDS for being one of the few places to actually be FEMALE ONLY"bUt iTs So GrOsS. HaVe yOu coMmUniCaTeD tO HiM wHy yOu aRe BeInG sO InCoNsiDeRaTe aNd NoT cOmPrOmiSiNg." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 01:47 PM |
| 3 | Women are being shamed online for having standards nowDiscounts are great, sure, but industry standard prices have gone up since he started coming to me ten years ago and he still demands the same discount and price. If I have to cancel any appointment, he's probably number one. Some people get a discount because they give a lot of referrals and that makes sense to me. Other people in his situation are the ones that will pretty much give a tip every time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 06:28 PM |
| 12 | Women are being shamed online for having standards nowIt makes me think. One of my clients it's a guy who lives with his mother and he has over a million in his bank account. And he's the one that always asks for a discount. Everyone else always pays full price and he always wants 10% off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 03:05 PM |
| 12 | Women are being shamed online for having standards nowMy ex got me a little promise ring 3 months in. It was real gold with tiny stones in the shape of a heart. I found the receipt for it one day too. It was beautiful and meaningful even though it didn't cost a crazy amount, but it was definitely a real gesture that spoke how much I meant to him. He packed it Russian doll style in boxes with penguins on it with little notes in between. But then one valentine's day he didn't get me a card and I told him that really sucked for me. He said he had trou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 03:03 PM |
| 37 | I am a pickmeisha through and through. Tried convincing myself I am not like that...but after today, I’m realizing I totally am. Ugh 😭If it makes you feel any better. I was once really into this guy that I was in university with. His name was Victor. He had pretty dark brown hair that was perpetually greasy and bragged about his expensive jeans. But physically he was my type because he had the levi's jeans model face without the body to go with it. (skinny and kind of short) He also had a nice voice. I obsessed about every single encounter we had. I didn't even form a friendship with this guy, most likely because he was a piec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 02:49 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-inI couldn't have sex with women for 2 years after that and couldn't even get aroused by a woman for well over a year but now I have an amazing girlfriend who would also be able to defend me from such attacks in the future since she also knows some martial arts so I feel safer now as well but I know that's just a psychological feeling and that it could happen again if I have very bad luck but the feeling that I have a loving gf who also is able to give me at least the feeling of safety from now on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 09:53 PM |
| 22 | Keep it up sisters! Toss the trash in the can and slam the lid.Absofuckinglutely. Even when I was paying with work gift cards which were free to me, my ex would be like, are you sure? You could use those in the future, you don't have to spend them on me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 07:29 PM |
| 41 | Keep it up sisters! Toss the trash in the can and slam the lid.My ex paid for everything food wise for 6 years straight. It was never even a question for him regardless of where he was financially. If I had gift cards from work, then I'd end up offering to pay with those and he'd be super grateful. I bought all his t-shirts and hoodies for him for those 6 years. Not because he asked but because I knew what designs he liked and what he needed and I loved thrifting. He also got me a phone, laptop and smartwatch and a ring I liked and if we were at a store and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 07:28 PM |
| 14 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-inSo yesterday there was an ama by a guy that claimed that he was raped by a woman. I'm not one to question something like that but half his comments gave off a very this is my kink fantasy sort of vibe. He kept talking about being a virgin trying to not get aroused and her being very experienced strong knowing judo and much bigger than him. It sounded like the intro to a huge woman on Tiny guy porn. He said he was 17 when it happened. It grosses me out. The idea that someone would fake post about… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 07:13 PM |
| 9 | 'It is what it is'. This is dismissive at best, gaslighting at worst.HVM qualities mixed in with NVM to qualities can make for a toxic relationship as well. He had mental health issues that made the relationship very tumultuous. After a year of being apart because of covid we called it quits. I'm still in the process of mourning and recovery and he's in therapy. We still talk from time to time. They're always very positive conversations so I haven't found a reason to cut contact entirely. He's dating someone else and I'm enjoying my singlehood. His family still s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 05:22 PM |
| 8 | What we do to remain “proper, considerate and polite” keeps us meek.If you reread the quote and add in according to men at the very beginning as it applies to the entirety of men's thinking, the tone changes to show exactly what she's trying to say. Since it's a quote out of context that part is missing.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 01:06 PM |
| 1 | How is this even a question??!!/u/kasdeyalupa "I don't even want to know" can be colloquial for 'I can only Imagine how bad the commentary is'. It's a very nuanced turn of phrase. It can also mean that 'I don't want to even look because it must be so cringy.' So I responded with a summary version lite, something that I would appreciate myself if someone had done for me. If i was mistaken and that was disrespecting their boundaries, then I expect the person would have let me know. Sometimes people aren't being literal, just ve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 03:03 AM |
| 13 | 'It is what it is'. This is dismissive at best, gaslighting at worst.Well it's simple. I closed the door. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 02:15 AM |
| 129 | 'It is what it is'. This is dismissive at best, gaslighting at worst.Holy shit.. That story is insane. When I was sick and too weak to get out of bed my ex-boyfriend gave me a bath. When I had food poisoning he drove me to the hospital and brought me extra pants from my place. When I was depressed for a month because of a fight with my family and feeling self conscious about my grooming he washed my hair for me and even shaved my armpits for me which still blows me away. He took me to the county fair and made me feel normal again. And it's not like I wouldn't and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 02:03 AM |
| 51 | How is this even a question??!!Most were telling her to leave him, even the guys.. Frugal people were calling him cheap. There was one dude that was like well are you willing to pay for him? It has to go both ways, but I think he was like 12. One claimed this was toxic feminity but it's because he's very broke and salty he can't afford to get a bangmaid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 11:47 AM |
| 61 | Men will believe women are the problem even when their own #1 cause of death/misery is themselvesI don't debate this guy at all, thankfully. I just listen to his rant and then go home and laugh about it. I've started a #shitscrotermansays in my head. I usually stay silent, but he always starts at the topic because he needs to tell everyone about his incredible insights about the world. My parents recently moved permanently back to Eastern Europe to a house they built and have completely paid off. Silence for 10 minutes and 5 minutes before I get to his destination, "You know "country" isn't… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 01:23 PM |
| 157 | Men will believe women are the problem even when their own #1 cause of death/misery is themselvesI'm an informal Uber driver at the moment. I've definitely had an older scroterman try to discuss this very topic with me during our 15 minute car ride in front of his mother. Women used to be devoted to men and their children and keeping house and with all this freedom and wanting to be men, they are not creating a strong new generation any more. Dude's been divorced twice and now lives with his mother exclusively. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 12:59 PM |
| 12 | Would love to see your additions 😂TRP Gentlemen (Put a dick in it) If Age Matters, Why's It Legal? Gonna Keep You Coz I'm Bored Baby It Ain't You (Waiting for the one) Too Many Golddiggers (Even though I'm Broke) Fuck Tuck and Roll Out of Your Life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 09:34 PM |
| 66 | He gave her a dead woman's engraved ring.Oh Good Lord! She married this dumpster diving king?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 12:20 PM |
| 23 | Men who say oddly specific things about their ex"This one time I was making pancakes for breakfast and my ex was outside with the kids and kept nagging me to come be with our two kids. Like I'm making something for you guys right now. I'm doing this out of love. Stop nagging me while I'm doing this amazing and self-less thing for our family." The kids were both autistic 2 and 4 and would get overwhelming. I'm actually super on the exes side here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 02:06 PM |
| 28 | What to look for in a HVM: The 8 C’sSome high value qualities that I learned from my ex that I couldn't ever be without in a guy was compassion and connectedness. He loved living things. Birds, squirrels, pets, snails, and especially frogs. He had a frog in his basement over the winter. It was one of those old basements that are literally used just as a cellar and he was renting it. He would find that frog regularly lay out some warm water in a bowl and put the frog in. He got super angry at his roommate for letting her cat go int… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 01:13 AM |
| 120 | Pickme’s be like...I actually watched a video yesterday where this girl is just under week postpartum and she has to wear diapers and when she told her hubby that she was feeling insecure he recorded a whole dance with her wearing one too.. It's hilariously wholesome.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 03:51 PM |
| 22 | Lundy Bancroft on PornSame lmfaoooo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 03:43 PM |
| 25 | Lundy Bancroft on PornI actually thought you did as well because that's what I always do and it reminds me of the way that I watch videos because I have ADHD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 03:41 PM |
| 2 | You might be an FDSer if...https://i.redd.it/y6q0ceom16p61.jpg Direct link to the nest story on this subreddit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 08:58 AM |
| 34 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 7 - Where TF are the High Value Men...is Online Dating Dead?!Okay so that's really hilarious because sometimes on Tinder I'll have guys that tell me that I'm so beautiful in my pictureand I'll be like oh thank you so much. Yeah I like my pictures too. ... And they ghost me. 🤡 🤡 . | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 06:09 PM |
| 71 | Being the "dream girl" isn't specialThat's something I've noticed. The guys that obsessively soon over me barely ever tried to figure out who I am as a person and keep referring to me as beautiful delicate blah blah blah.. All object words. Never determined, smart. You can tell their projecting their ideals, idealizing and putting on a pedestal and the first time I act as a real human I lose the spark. The guys that are truly into me will spend more than 10 minutes trying to get to know me. They'll actually ask me questions and en… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 04:37 PM |
| 67 | Nothing newSee that just makes me think. Back in my very young, obsessive, crazy pickmeisha days, I used to have this humongous crush on this guy. We did tutoring together and I'd get this rush of hormones every time I was near him. I obsessed about it for months, thinking he didn't know. I was always trying to get his attention but I did my best not to be creepy. I'd walk a certain shortcut because it was by his house but it stopped short of that. My other really weird guy friend knew him and said he prob… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 02:05 PM |
| 136 | Nothing newIt's obviously dressed up provocatively, wearing a carkini. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 01:31 PM |
| 115 | VaginismusThis is completely anecdotal but I had a friend that developed vaginismus pretty early on and she didn't have any sexual trauma or anything either. But a few years into being an adult she found out that her mom had been violently raped by five boys at when she was barely a teenager. It always made me wonder if there's a connection. She got married to a guy that was completely 100% fine with it. They're very intimate with each other in other ways and they are both pretty happy. On the other hand … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 03:11 AM |
| 14 | What are your experiences dating neurodivergent men?But I still don't recommend dating them if they don't have their shit together and actively work to manage their symptoms. The kink subreddits and discords have given me enough experience to stop giving neurodivergent people the benefit of the doubt when the act inappropriately. I light them up like the fourth of july. Case and point: During a video chat dude named himself peelover and started asking all the women if they liked watersports and claimed autism when someone told them that they were… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 02:40 AM |
| 22 | What are your experiences dating neurodivergent men?Yeah it's a neurological issue. Undiagnosed it can lead to comorbid mental health issues, but it's not a mental thing, just something you're born with /u/pikkpie | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 02:32 AM |
| 22 | What are your experiences dating neurodivergent men?Unless they have extra strings to that disorder with an extra side of trauma. Freaking out on you over things they just as easily do themselves. I need someone neurotypical to keep life organized and running smoothly and I'll be the strong based one. Unless it's like my friend who's ADHD husband is way too high maintenance and extra for life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 02:28 AM |
| 8 | What's the WORST COSMO ADVICE you've ever seen on the topic of dating, sex, and relationships?What the f*** is up with that s? Like why the f do they think that we want to train with butt plugs? We don't have a f****** prostate. Their stupid "ass" blame game. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 04:28 PM |
| 7 | Gaslighters typically begins gradually, with a snide comment or critical remark disguised as a joke. They may then deny having said or done something, tell blatant lies and eventually wear down your sanity. The more aware you are of their techniques, the better you can protect yourself.Oh snap.. It was because I dropped my phone into a toilet at Walmart and asked him to help me unscrew it so that I could dry the insides out. He worked as a fucking phone tech. He threw a box of screwdriver (ends) bits and told me to figure it out myself. I was having trouble and kept asking him for help but he just kept telling my to figure it out until I fucking stripped the threads on the screw, because I was using the wrong size because he didn't have the right screwdriver bit in the box he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 11:11 AM |
| 20 | Gaslighters typically begins gradually, with a snide comment or critical remark disguised as a joke. They may then deny having said or done something, tell blatant lies and eventually wear down your sanity. The more aware you are of their techniques, the better you can protect yourself.It's funny cuz they keep repeating it repeating it so many times until it gets cemented in your head and you start to question if there is something wrong with you. And then you consider trying to get some help or whatnot which eventually leads you to the realization that they're the problem. At least that's how it was for me. A year into abusive behavior and random outbursts at me, I accidentally locked his Honda Civic with the keys inside. He left the keys inside and there was a door to the pa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 04:36 AM |
| 29 | Gaslighters typically begins gradually, with a snide comment or critical remark disguised as a joke. They may then deny having said or done something, tell blatant lies and eventually wear down your sanity. The more aware you are of their techniques, the better you can protect yourself.Yikes! From a therapist or boss, positive. From a partner. 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 07:59 PM |
| 17 | Gaslighters typically begins gradually, with a snide comment or critical remark disguised as a joke. They may then deny having said or done something, tell blatant lies and eventually wear down your sanity. The more aware you are of their techniques, the better you can protect yourself.Like when you decide that on your own then it's healthy. You're working on becoming self aware and processing your experience.. When somebody else tells you that as a reaction to you getting upset about something... And they keep doing it time and time again... They start to make you question every emotion you have that's not beneficial to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 07:08 PM |
| 64 | Gaslighters typically begins gradually, with a snide comment or critical remark disguised as a joke. They may then deny having said or done something, tell blatant lies and eventually wear down your sanity. The more aware you are of their techniques, the better you can protect yourself."Isn't your reaction more reflection of you than me? Maybe you need to work on that." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 07:06 PM |
| 3 | Weird Red Flags?I honestly think it's a great topic of discussion and I'm glad you brought it up. It's definitely food for thought. They did have one episode where the son's main crash talks about being peed on and says yum that made me cringe quite a bit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 05:00 PM |
| 6 | What's the WORST COSMO ADVICE you've ever seen on the topic of dating, sex, and relationships?Omg.. That's disgusting.. the first few vacation movies seemed more tasteful and entertaining. This one looks like absolute garbage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 04:59 PM |
| 20 | What's the WORST COSMO ADVICE you've ever seen on the topic of dating, sex, and relationships?Oh snap. Yeah you're totally right! I had an old old old dude once pretend to fall asleep on a train to fall into my boobs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 04:41 PM |
| 5 | What's the WORST COSMO ADVICE you've ever seen on the topic of dating, sex, and relationships?Unfortunately in the early 2000s especially glamour was not much better. My mom once brought me a bunch of magazines from work that I was using for collages for school and I remember how crazy the articles were in both glamour and Cosmo. It might be different now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 04:17 PM |
| 18 | What's the WORST COSMO ADVICE you've ever seen on the topic of dating, sex, and relationships?I wish I hadn't gotten myself into this cycle of trying and hating it every time. It literally felt like being stuck in the middle of a mall when you suddenly get massive cramps and start to sweat and hope that you can make it to the bathroom. He kept offering me anal plugs to train myself in something I don't like. I legit never used them and he would be disappointed every time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 04:00 PM |
| 41 | What's the WORST COSMO ADVICE you've ever seen on the topic of dating, sex, and relationships?https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/a53835/genius-ways-to-hit-on-men-in-public/ I wish. It's number two! 🤡🤡🤡 Other bangers from this article. Slip him a business card, like the HBIC you are Ask him what book he's reading and then say, "That one's good, but her other work is much better," no matter what book it is ---this would work super great if he was reading mein kamf or the Communist manifesto or even the Bible. I don't know if anybody reads the Bible in public. "Trip" on the sidewalk… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 03:57 PM |
| 3 | Weird Red Flags?I agree with a lot of your points but I actually really liked the female only episode. It had some superficial stereotypes but I loved the characterization that the men were too aggressive, sex crazed and dangerous for the women to be around them and living on their own they just exponentially grew worse while the women created a functional and effective society that allowed for the survival of their species. Some of the episodes are hit and miss but I actually enjoy the ones that focus on the d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Weird Red Flags?Yeah. Pretty much. I have to deal with my ex mildly from time to time but that's all stuff I found out way after we broke up thankfully. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 02:10 AM |
| 167 | What's the WORST COSMO ADVICE you've ever seen on the topic of dating, sex, and relationships?Cut in line in front of him, then pay for his coffee.. He'll want to date and marry you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 12:08 AM |
| 28 | Weird Red Flags?He is 100% nvm. But I love the character of his daughter. She's a strong accomplished woman with a complete lvm loser because he got her pregnant in highschool. Pointing out he's a loser is a big trope in the show. Even when they supposedly do couples therapy, her mind extrapolates him as a helpless defenseless annoying slug. In one episode, they're looking at alternative realities and it turns out that had she got an abortion she would have ended up being a medical doctor instead of a veterinar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 08:07 PM |
| 19 | Weird Red Flags?Like purposefully so that if he gets a text you can't see. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Weird Red Flags?My exes therapist told him that she too like him eventually feels like she'd end up committing suicide just to shorten her lifespan. I kind of would prefer he started a practice of mindfulness to help his emotions and adhd instead of going back to her. She also accepted a session where both he and the batshit insane girl he was fucking who was also her patient came together for couples counseling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 07:49 PM |
| 33 | Weird Red Flags?Uh.. I'll see myself out. hides Rick and Morty tshirts | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 07:44 PM |
| 18 | Literally every male oppression narrative is just blatantly describing toxic masculinity from the perspective of eternal victimhoodOn number 2. If you did, by chance, express affection to a long time male friend, it can be repeatedly seen as leading them on and when a time period passes and you STILL HAVEN'T made yourself available for sleeping with and/or providing relationship benefits to said friend, even though, (gasp) you're single and obviously sex [positive](read: you PROBABLY sleep around since you're so hot) well then you've lead him on, you're a jerk, and he's going to tell all of our friends that you're an opport… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 10:31 AM |
| 13 | Flashback to when my exes would ‘compliment’ my labia by saying they were ‘perfect porn star lips’ and I actually thanked them proudly 🤡So the two previous girls that he was with had shorter cervixes and so he was more apt to hit their cervix than mine. With mine he could go deeper is all. I mean I did get confirmation of that from his super skeezy friend who had also slept with these girls after they broke up with my ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 12:44 AM |
| 13 | Flashback to when my exes would ‘compliment’ my labia by saying they were ‘perfect porn star lips’ and I actually thanked them proudly 🤡Oh I know. It took me a while to stop internalizing it. For the longest time I felt like maybe something was wrong with me for not being able to wake up so easily to sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 07:26 PM |
| 37 | Flashback to when my exes would ‘compliment’ my labia by saying they were ‘perfect porn star lips’ and I actually thanked them proudly 🤡"Wow. It's surprisingly clean down there. You must have washed. Not the nicest trim job and it seems a bit lopsided but I kind of wished it was a bit bigger to accomodate my pleasure. A little bit too much fat right above it as well. You must cheat on your diet a lot and you should probably hit the gym more often. Really wish all this acne on your back wasn't there either. Do you even exfoliate? I'm not sure I want my boobs to get infected with whatever is on your chin. The guys I have seen in p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 07:24 PM |
| 161 | Flashback to when my exes would ‘compliment’ my labia by saying they were ‘perfect porn star lips’ and I actually thanked them proudly 🤡That I was tight. That my cervical canal was the perfect length. That I was so incredibly understanding and accepting of kink and that we were so lucky that we were so compatible kink wise. It turned into "I guess we have to accept we're not compatible at all in the bedroom." Because I wasn't readily available 100% of the time when he tried to wake me up from sleep for sex. I worked such an early job that I had to feel the pain of being a frickin non functional zombie the next day if I didn't ge… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 01:09 PM |
| 15 | Even men themselves laugh at the low bar of pickmeishas 😭🤡Yes but also guys on tinder often do that crap. And in the past I've always mocked them for it. I recently posted something under a throwaway on reddit. Some guy misunderstood the story and thought I was 18 (I'm 33) and had the audacity to dm me saying he's 30 and has been a dom for 16 years 🤡🤡🤡 and looking for a sub. He told me to add him to snap. I'm like... "Wait you still use snapchat at 30🤡. Haha.. you must be a creepy perv." He didn't respond to that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 11:33 PM |
| 2 | Murder vs. menstruationI definitely couldn't lol. I would try my darndest but never could reach. That's why he offered to get a speculum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 02:11 PM |
| 4 | Murder vs. menstruationMine actually fell out 2 years to the day. I asked my boyfriend to check and he said it looked really weird, not like normal and so I made an appointment to a gyno and it turns out it fell out and was stabbing my uterus instead. Yay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 02:10 PM |
| 21 | Why it’s block AND deleteHonestly, I'm still recovering from my pickmeisha ways so I wait until my gut tells me no. Those other ones were mild to me. Not complete cut contact, but definitely stop considering him for dating. The gore was the final flag. As someone else mentioned. It's entirely possible he was love bombing me. The acting closer than we were. As someone who fell for that shit before and ended up with abusive assholes, I have an uneasiness about that shit and that's the gut feeling I probably followed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 11:53 PM |
| 47 | Why it’s block AND deleteI mean for me they're personal. Orange flags are like mild warning signs that bug you but on their own they aren't complete red flags. The situation here is that they accumulated to the point they were enough to warrant ending the two week long contact. minimized my feelings about jokes and things I said that bothered me. This ended up being the thing that pushed my decision. I told him I wasn't comfortable with visuals of blood and gore after I had a bad workplace accident where I blew an arter… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 10:46 PM |
| 91 | Why it’s block AND deleteAgreed. The one dude from a few weeks ago, I kept second guessing myself even though once I thought long and hard he had too many orange flags. If I hadn't deleted him I'd definitely have moments where the urge could be too strong to reach out. I still feel ashamed about how easily I attached to some random just because he was 20% better than most. 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 10:03 PM |
| 302 | Murder vs. menstruationLmfao. I dated a guy who was completely against violent movies, but loved wholesome stuff. He would always have a jumbo pack of different sized tampons under the bathroom sink in case a girl needed it. He was super generous in terms of all things female and even got a vagina opener thing after I got my IUD to check the strings for me every month for two years. (That didn't work out, so he ended up getting a vasectomy.) There were definitely way more downsides but when it came to female stuff he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 07:07 PM |
| 25 | Context: the boyfriend has sex with other women for OnlyFans and promotes it on TikTok. The girlfriend says she is “happy”. Comments are saying “y’all mad you get cheated on for free while they’re in a healthy relationship with boundaries, trust, and more money than you” 🤦♀️No she said she didn't want to. That's not her thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 03:43 PM |
| 3 | Plan B, abortion, and adoption are not convenient alternatives to pregnancyHow did you figure it out? Like you went to the bathroom after or you saw the condom? That's insane.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 08:26 PM |
| 31 | Retired #1 porn star (who now denounces the industry) sharing some of the horrific acts which are being pushed and normalized. This is just another example why we need spaces like FDS, and to keep pushing to educate young people."There's girls out there that like and want to do gang bangs and double penetration. So why the need to pressure girls who only want to do girl on girl to do those things? Not everyone would be miserable doing it." Because 99% of them, I guarantee, don't want to and they have to be pressured and coerced to do it. That magical 1% is a unicorn. "I don't blame anyone or claim rape because I never technically said no. Being young me i wanted to make everyone happy. They told me I'd be so great. I co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 04:17 PM |
| 2 | My cousin was molested by her stepbrother and his friends. The proliferation of "stepbro/stepsis" porn is something we should all be very, very worried about.Mine didn't turn out that way at all, thankfully. He probably watched porn as a teenager, but I don't know about it. His older brother definitely did and he's the one that confirmed to everyone that his brother and I were probably inappropriate. He dated one girl for 6 years before she broke up with him He met his wife at 26 while she was visited her sister but was also our other cousin's best friend in Europe, proposed to her within a year and spent every moment working to get her permanently i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 01:29 PM |
| 66 | My cousin was molested by her stepbrother and his friends. The proliferation of "stepbro/stepsis" porn is something we should all be very, very worried about.My first hentai exposure was also from an unguarded porn collection of an uncle who let me use his computer.. This was before most had the internet so he had to have gotten the material by mail. I was really into sailor moon at the time and practicing that style of drawing so... Well...I was very surprised.. And grossed out by what I couldn't understand. Regarding the cousin thing, I'm a little bit defensive. I was 9 with an 11 year old male cousin that I was extremely close to since we were tod… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 02:46 AM |
| 20 | Online dating programs you to settleI actually did tell him point blank that he crossed a line and I wasn't interested in continuing the [friendship]. He had invalidated my experience for the umpteenth time and that's the one thing that is ultimately a complete dealbreaker. The interesting part is that I have a knack for attracting people into my life that invalidate my experience and grew up with it, so at this point it's like a knee jerk reaction to cut it off at the source. But then there's a voice in my head that questions if … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 08:13 PM |
| 15 | Serious ? - Is there a drug that could be injected to stop the chemical effects of a trauma bond?This is an amazing meditation and I love it so very much. It's funny because I found a similar meditation at the beginning of my improving my mental health journey and I remember realizing I couldn't remember experiencing this with another person..so bizarre. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 03:30 PM |
| 7 | Serious ? - Is there a drug that could be injected to stop the chemical effects of a trauma bond?This was an amazing comment. Thank you for taking the time to write it out. I don't know much about the history of emdr. I know francis shapiro discovered it but not much else. I first read about it in "the body keeps the score" by bessel van der kolk and heard about it from a podcast about mental health as well. I thought it was the most amazing piece of work, and I jumped on the emdr train instantly. I didn't actually go through emdr therapy, though. I had a few guided meditations that made me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 03:27 PM |
| 40 | Online dating programs you to settleI'm on OLD right now but I've given up on the idea of meeting anyone cool after the first week. Mostly now I just mock the profiles with my friends and I use it as target practice for not okay. Currently my area is in a lockdown so restaurants are closed so opportunities for high quality dates are off the table either way. You can't picnic in the park either (as if any of these duds would come up with that and do something interesting enough), so coffee is really the only option. waited too long… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 02:49 PM |
| 27 | Dating Subs on Reddit are Social Engineering Hubs to Normalize Sexual Violence and Disrespectful Behavior toward WomenOh for real. The only people claiming that end up being the ones who still haven't processed past sexual trauma in a healthy way. It's harsh but true. Also, I was mockingly quoting what guys say if that didn't come across well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 11:06 PM |
| 39 | Dating Subs on Reddit are Social Engineering Hubs to Normalize Sexual Violence and Disrespectful Behavior toward WomenSoMe FeMaLeS aRe iNtO tHat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Stop mourning awful men dying.You can know his name and not the spelling. If I didn't know better I'd think it were spelled that way too. B | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 02:37 AM |
| 8 | Stop mourning awful men dying.Kolbee can rot in hell.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 02:32 AM |
| 6 | I rejected him, so he emailed my boss 😐There was that thread on ama, since deleted, about the 19yo that wanted to hire a prostitute by the time he was 20 to lose his virginity. "He'd treat her like a gf" 🤮 Part of his reasoning was that girls in his college had repeatedly led him on. People asked for specifics. 'She feigned interest. Asked me out and then when we went out told me she was only interested in being friends. Therefore she lead me on and she's a terrible person.' Like hello! She could have been into you and then changed h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 02:30 AM |
| 6 | Stop mourning awful men dying.He doesn't deserve to have his name spelled correctly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 01:12 AM |
| 8 | Scrotes chastising women as fake geeks for cosplaying characters they have not even heard aboutI feel you on so many levels. I'm not a gamer but I've been around enough gamer dudes to see how toxic that shit can get. I've had guys blatantly gatekeep every aspect of technology since I was 18. I was crazy into computers as a kid but I only worked on outdated systems so I had a lot of basic knowledge and would have guys in college complain about girls always asking for computer help but if I pointed out a possible solution they'd scoff and tell me I have no clue what I'm talking about. I pla… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 02:29 PM |
| 170 | Thought You All Would Enjoy This, I Know I Sure Did!I live for those outfits. Feeling good about yourself without worrying about some scrote sliming on you is the dream. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 03:38 AM |
| 42 | Men are cry babies6 years in a relationship and I rarely if ever paid for dinner. I'd regularly buy him rare candy bars, drinks and funky desserts from different places but if we went out to dinner, with his friends or alone, it was his wallet out paying for the both of us. He also regularly made me really fancy dinners at home. Even something as cheap as taco bell, there was a handful of times he would let me pay and I had to beg him to let me pay for coffee because I got hundreds of dollars in coffee and fast f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 09:32 PM |
| 0 | Yes, you’re cheap. Good for this queen for turning down this low effort “date”!My previous relationship started as a coffee date at a nicer coffee place. At this point we were just friends and I wasn't asking for more, but he was so into me and we were enjoying each other's company so much that he insisted he take me out for dinner the very next day. Saying that, I'm not vouching for low effort dates. Coffee dates are still for friends. If you don't want to jump to dinner right away have him find another way to make it special for you, but it better be good. And now that I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 05:09 PM |
| 23 | Imagine being in a Long Term Relationship...It said "unlearn that it's not about your pleasure." As in you've convinced yourself it's not about your pleasure, now you have to unlearn that idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 02:15 PM |
| 22 | PSA about hormones and hormonal birth control when dating and selectingIt's accurate. Bc stimulates your body to think it's pregnant. You want to be with people closer in genetics to you when pregnant for survival. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 02:05 PM |
| 17 | I really enjoy watching antifeminists have a meltdown every time we discuss penis size. Just take your L and leave us alone! 😂 Ladies, please enjoy this curated collection of male tears, from the left-wing manosphere 🎁My exes dick definitely hit it, but that part was never pleasurable, nearly painful from the start and so I'd always adjust to prevent it. I think his was average length but the girth was awesome and he knew how to get me home. He did say that with one girl her canal was much shorter in comparison which surprised him and he said he didn't like as much. If that's actually true, I don't know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 01:46 PM |
| 27 | I really enjoy watching antifeminists have a meltdown every time we discuss penis size. Just take your L and leave us alone! 😂 Ladies, please enjoy this curated collection of male tears, from the left-wing manosphere 🎁You know it's funny. I sent that video to my porn sick ex who used to be into my little pony, [not in a sexual way, cartoons were just the happy part of his very traumatic childhood.] I don't know what I expected, but he was like, "that is insanely depressing. Like I honestly can't imagine having a kid and having them grow up to become that messed up in the head. I seriously feel for that mother." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 01:40 PM |
| 24 | Stop sending men paragraphs. There are only TWO things that are worth saying to a guy before you block and delete... and even then, it's not recommended.Today I was talking to some dude off a dating app. My expectations are low and I've blocked/unmatched probably over a dozen dudes in a week. In the first day of chatting, I mention that we're gonna have a weird corona store rules starting tomorrow and buying socks at the dollar store will no longer be permitted. Oh no.. What will I m-m-m*** (ej**ulate) into..😏 🤮🤮🤮 I sent him a gif of Alex trebek. - I'll take disgusting jokes you should never send to a woman for 500. And then blocked him immediat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 03:22 AM |
| 1 | 💯% true for me.Okay so yesterday I had someone talk about how big boobs are awful and they hate having them."I don't like existing for male pleasure." Followed by "I love tucking (my pp). Makes me feel like I can get away with being a total slut." Pretty much. "I want bigger boobs so that I can be oppressed and complain too." They literally chose it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 04:25 PM |
| 128 | Twitch, cam girls, patreon, adult instagram pages.I am so sorry, girl. That's a great link. But what a flaming dumpster fire of a man. You didn't deserve that bullshit. And even if you were an Asian giant breasted 21yo woman, he'd be looking at other things to get him going. It was never about you or your value. What a POS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 03:25 PM |
| 34 | Starting NCI kept trying today to convince myself that there was nothing I could have done to prevent my relationship from falling apart. That it wasn't my fault. That it was never because I wasn't good enough. I didn't do any of those things. I didn't sleep with other people. I didn't take my anger out on my partner or guilt them over our depreciating sex life. I have been feeling so depressed today. Feeling like I lost this dream future i had built up in my head. That i changed so much of myself to fit i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 01:02 AM |
| 8 | So a “guy friend” tried it on with me tonightSo my ex and I had a mutual guy friend..I became close friends with his now ex gf and that friendship blossomed over the corona times. We used to hang out relentlessly all four before covid. I liked him a lot and was always sending him memes. Then one day it hit me. He never reciprocates conversation. Why the fuck am I wasting my time? He's not interested in me romantically so I might as well be air. We aren't actually friends. He did my friend really crappy as well. She moved out temporarily to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 07:37 PM |
| 7 | We 👏 Don’t 👏 Chase 👏Like if we've been dating for months and we feel pretty comfortable around each other, off-handedly making that joke could be almost acceptable, but in the first conversation? Go suck a dick. I once had an old scrote on a train start telling me dirty jokes one after the other and I'm never being "that cool girl" ever again. You can't be respectable to me, you don't get to enjoy my conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 04:35 PM |
| 3 | Don't romanticize the idea of someone who you're unsure about.It was actually being really funky. I tried to send him pictures and they weren't going through either. Or he would get it and message me about it but my phone would say cannot send mms. So I don't think he was lying about that particularly. He was okay in theory and I had fun talking to him but his jokes kept missing the point and making me uncomfortable, so I still have to remind myself that he sucked overall. I am annoyed with myself because I keep having these FOMO what if thoughts. It's har… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 02:02 PM |
| 30 | We 👏 Don’t 👏 Chase 👏There was this one guy tells me that he's a courier. Then he's like I get to see a lot of milfs. You know 😏 what do you mean oh uh. . You know 😏 desperate housewives. wait what? like you know. Like the milk man sleeping with every woman. oh :/ it's a joke. I see. Well, it's really trashy. I guess we're not gonna click. (silence) 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 01:47 PM |
| 16 | This was basically my ex's friends. Weird how so many men don't find this odd( when not actively boasting about dating teens as my ex and his friends would *vomits!*)Yikes on bikes. Reminds me of those stories from fundie teenagers being groomed out for older scrotes to have a young wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 12:18 PM |
| 47 | Funny NVM Example in an SNL Skit - Made me think of this sub lolReminds me of a guy I met at a club at 20 when I was in college. Friend of mine was supposed to be meeting me at our local university club so I was hanging out in the entranceway. A place where most people aren't drunk enough to be stupid yet unless they pre-gamed. Guy walks up to me and starts talking to me about basic stuff. He seems pretty okay. It's a very back and forth high energy conversation. At the 30 minute mark suddenly he says, "So what, can we go fuck now?" I'm like "what? No? That'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 11:58 AM |
| 10 | Yes, women can be pornsick too.Agreed about the unhealthy overstimulation. That got me thinking. When I was 9 years old I was wrestling with my slightly older cousin and my parents and his family accused me of doing inappropriate things with him. I didn't even know what a post pubescent penis looked like at that point. My cousin was somewhat odd but our friendship was very positive for me and being told I can't hang out with him one on one really fucked with my head. I was such a well behaved kid and didn't lie about stuff li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 10:45 PM |
| 10 | Matthew Hussey: Credit Card Scammer Accused of Skimming Thousands from Clients and Cheater who got his start in Redpill Adjacent ContentThe part where he told her that she was being selfish for sending that letter despite the fact that it would bring her nothing and help a fellow woman realize her husband is being a sleazebag. Then he continues to tell her that she should be more selfish and mind her own business. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 10:39 PM |
| 17 | Don't romanticize the idea of someone who you're unsure about.Recently a guy wanted to send me pictures and they weren't going through text so he asked if he could be added to my facebook. I have zero interest in sharing my Facebook profile with this guy. I mostly use it to keep in touch with family and I don't really post things anymore. I didn't want him going through my old stuff either. I have appropriate settings to make it as private as possible but it still felt way too personal so I ended up making a burner Facebook account just for Messenger not a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 09:47 PM |
| 6 | Hilarious Response to a Pickmeisha’s attempt to undermine the “don’t be polite to men who creep you out” songI've been having that moment for a while. So your rant is extremely valid. It's like what happened with the whole "sex worker" law they passed. Instead of making it safer to leave for prostitutes, they stopped arresting johns entirely. It's a backwards country parading as a safe one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 09:15 PM |
| 27 | Don't kneecap your sentences ...Exactly this! I don't owe you anything, least of which an explanation. I already made my decision. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 08:42 PM |
| 65 | Don't kneecap your sentences ...I told a guy point blank at a party: You're making me extremely uncomfortable. I have no interest in further interaction. And then I got called a bitch. Tough guy. Ass. Simply because I refused to participate in the dance and cower before his charm. "How could you be so beautiful and such an ass at the same time? What did I do?" He refused to let it go. It was insane lol. I had to leave the party to get him to leave me alone. Younger me would have been proud. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 08:41 PM |
| 38 | Rejected a low effort dateI had the dumbest conversation ever with a guy yesterday. He's like how you feel about higher education do you hate it love it? and then he went on a rant on how some people are too simple-minded to appreciate higher education and can't open up their eyes to learning. It reeked of superiority complex. I'm like well I don't have a degree. (It's technically true. I dropped out of medical school and I only did a bunch of courses online for naturopathic medicine.) I've done a lot of college courses … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 06:06 PM |
| 39 | Just because he makes 10x more doesn't mean he's HVHoly shit..I don't get how. My ex barely made more than me, but he always got me some of the most personal and wonderful and thoughtful gifts. They wouldn't be crazy expensive or even brand new but they'd always be things that I could use forever. One year he got me a smartwatch because I told him that my fitness watch broke. Another year he got me a laptop that turns into a tablet so that I could draw. It was an old version but he upgraded all the internal parts so that it could run the most re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 05:57 PM |
| 130 | Yes, women can be pornsick too.So this is a bit of a personal anecdote. As a child, I had fantasies about being tied up, restrained, humiliated; all sorts of weird BDSM-like scenarios. Starting at the age of 4 when I had my first fantasy. Then at 6 when a male cousin used fake handcuffs on me. Then there was a 27 guy living at our house for a while and I would try to annoy him and stuff to get him to restrain my wrists when I was 9. I wasn't exposed to sex or such until I learned about it at school and once accidentally turne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 04:51 PM |
| 13 | I saw this and it made me laugh and think of FDSThis is why we call him skidmark. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 01:21 PM |
| 22 | Hilarious Response to a Pickmeisha’s attempt to undermine the “don’t be polite to men who creep you out” songSame with canada. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 01:20 PM |
| 60 | Guy takes girl on a non-date and then is surprised when it doesn’t feel like a dateThis reminded me. One dude took me on a beach walk and had me buy my own single beer from a nearby convenience store. Then he proceeded to tell me some sob stories about his ex fiancee and how he invited girls for movies and chill but really just sex. I was riveted by the stories /s I was expecting more because he was nearly in his 30s and I was 24 but nothing else happened and he didn't even bother walking me to the train station even though it was getting dark. It just hit me. We were at a tou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 01:40 PM |
| 18 | Has a man ever shamed you for your orgasms?I had the opposite situation. In the beginning my ex was impressed with how quickly I would orgasm with him because with his previous it would take an hour. I wasn't faking it either. It didn't happen every time because I don't need to orgasm to enjoy sex but when I did , he'd make me squirt and it was a lot of fun. On the other hand, he was really good at making me feel like my pleasure was important in the beginning. Whatever it takes to make me feel good. Things went downhill over time. I had… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 04:17 AM |
| 16 | "I don't believe in awkward conversation, I believe in deselection"The moment he started asking why. Why why. Is the moment he lost all respect from me and I moved on. You can't accept my answer? You can go eat a dick. I don't owe you shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 03:32 AM |
| 8 | I realized most of my dating behaviours stem from some form of self-harmThis is one of those moments where I recommend "the journey from abandonment to healing". It has some great exercises on differentiating between healthy thought processes and reflecting on our core beliefs. It's dysfunctional dynamics from when we were in our formative years that seem to build this kind of attraction to terrible people and boredom by kind ones. I've worked really hard on healing this stuff for a few years even in the midst of a very abusive relationship. The more you heal the mo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 02:18 AM |
| 41 | "I don't believe in awkward conversation, I believe in deselection"Honestly I still can't get over the weekend party guy. Like I can't get the situation out of my head. On first impression he was charming and sweet. I felt some good chemistry. He was well groomed and actively listening to my stories. On second impression he was pushy and way too intense and started asking questions about how many guys I kissed which I refuse to answer and when I told him that it made me uncomfortable he started questioning it and trying to get me to explain further. Why.why.why… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 02:11 AM |
| 42 | Share your Red Flags on men who view women as disposable objectsUgh. Reminds me of my first long term relationship. He said he has zero interest in being intimate when I'm on my period because it's gross. It's like you can give me a massage we can make out what's the issue. He also said that he would want b******* but he had zero interest in going down on a girl because it's gross down there. Like any clue why I'd end up leaving him for a dude that went down on me and made me enjoy myself before ever asking for piv or blowjobs. The lack of pressure was a bre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 08:32 PM |
| 107 | Share your Red Flags on men who view women as disposable objectsIt's very telling about how he reacts to you saying no or that something makes you feel uncomfortable or hurt your feelings. If it's anything but accepting your decision and apologizing, stay clear. A lot of the scrubs think that women should not have an opinion or be allowed to say no to them because they feel like they have qualities that women will find irresistible. Anything that makes you human and not just a coin machine to feed their ego is jarring to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 08:08 PM |
| 13 | If you have an mental illness - be extra cautious of men trying to manipulate you or gaslight you"I'm working on my mental health and seeing a professional I feel safe with about this issue." "well obviously it isn't working or you're not trying hard enough to get better. You should go see someone better." Tbh. After that conversation, I did give up. I needed support when I was outside of therapy. And now we're over anyways. So what a waste. He was supportive at times but it was never consistent and changed at moments notice. He was more supportive than my family about me seeking help so I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 06:05 PM |
| 73 | My covert narcissistic ex resurfaced yesterday with claims of changeYikes. Appreciation love bombing then bam I had to walk on eggshells around you and I was not aggressive enough in telling you how much it bothered me that you had boundaries and standards for how you wanted to be treated. What a crock of shit. I wouldn't even respond. Shoes aren't worth investing an extra second into this self serving crap sack. These aren't promises of change. They're an assertion that he now knows how to be better at being an aggressive narcissist now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 06:00 PM |
| 10 | How to let go of the anger and disappointment?Wait. He wanted you to buy your own drinks. On your birthday. What? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 05:55 PM |
| 26 | Let's hear stories about dumping/blocking a LVMHe was a guy that I was working with. About 5 years younger than me. We hit it off talking in front of the reception desk so I gave him my number and added him to SM with the intention of being friends lite TM. Ended up going out for few hang out coffees in between his delivery shifts from his second job. All seemed okay until he got a girlfriend. Then it was like this guy completely showed his true colors. He claimed to be super into her but kept calling her crazy and using her mental issues ag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 08:07 AM |
| 47 | Let's hear stories about dumping/blocking a LVMI mean I love true crime documentaries too which is why don't get into a f****** strangers car is like the number one advice they give! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 01:47 AM |
| 53 | Let's hear stories about dumping/blocking a LVMOh my god. That is insane. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 11:40 PM |
| 33 | As a Dutch woman, the culture around the red light district and prostitution is harrowing to me. This author reviews a book that was published by two women who were groomed and effectively sold to the red light district.This reminded me of that book by paolo Coelho about a bdsm relationship that started with the girl being an immigrant prostitute. I used to swoon at the end relationship in the book. 🤮 Better written than 50 shades of grey (not saying much there). 11 minutes from 2003. I'd recommend reading the reviews but not the book lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 11:13 PM |
| 92 | Let's hear stories about dumping/blocking a LVMA guy said he'd drive to my city and we could chill. I'm like where are we chilling…? "Oh we could grab a coffee and we could do some driving around the area." Dude. I'm not getting into a strangers car. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 11:05 PM |
| 37 | Reading Andrea Dworkin's ''Intercourse'' and this reminded me so much of people's reaction to FDS. She was so perceptive, a visionary.☀️✨This is so very representative of my experience last night. It was my friend's birthday and like always I'm 100% sober the entire time. Joe gross-a-lot approaches me. From the get-go he is a bit intense. He's an attractive guy and at first I respond positively because he's "listening" and being pretty okay. Then he gets drunker and starts staring at me while sitting next to me and get this... He starts massaging the couch pillows he is sitting on. Like putting his hands between them and squeezin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 03:50 PM |
| 93 | If you want to be married, do NOT become a girlfriend. It's a scam! This woman will change your entire existence. Watch at your own risk.So she pretty much says that if you want a guy to want to marry you you don't become his girlfriend. You don't give him the emotional physical and spiritual entitlements of a wife. That getting married after 6 7 or 10 years of being his girlfriend is just pushing the guy for the legal document and it doesn't make him feel like you're the prize. You can be dating but if you're dating you're dating in public so you're not sleeping with him. Unless he's willing to provide you with the security and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 07:50 PM |
| 19 | My story: Psychopath LVM destroys everything and I kept composureI mean at best I'm curious, but I believe you 100%. Reminds me of my ex refusing to go to any weddings with me, telling me I'd end up in a tire in the swamp if I cheated on him, and spending the entire time cussing me out in texts for having the audacity to be at my brother's wedding instead of with him. We finally took a break and I suddenly realized how much anxiety I felt whenever I saw a text from him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 04:39 PM |
| 1 | FDS applied to friendshipsI don't either, which is why I pretty much jumped on the first reason I could. He wanted to meet up in two weeks, weekend after Easter. Ran me through the full plan for the day. I'm annoyed with myself, though, because as much as I've been keeping my distance and setting boundaries, I still waited to ditch him? I still questioned myself. Like that makes absolutely no sense. Like not hearing from him on Wednesday should have been my first chance to completely ghost him. I think I empathetized som… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 06:48 AM |
| 4 | FDS applied to friendshipsSo as stupid as this sounds, last week I distracted myself with a guy on tinder. We kept it light, I told him off the bat there's no future since he has kids. He begged to stay friends because fun conversation. Except the conversation kept devolving to non-friend topics like seeing my butt and how cute I was and I kept pulling it back in. Then came his butt selfies while working out and humble bragging about massages, his job techniques and being a ride or die guy. He was texting with me every s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 04:19 AM |
| 2 | Another dog went after my dog and it's proof men are trashPanicking if a strange dog is charging at mine. Also the snapping is recent and it's because he has a injury from getting hit by a car and so one paw he always folds under. He won't even let me touch it and he bit me last July when I touched it the wrong way during grooming. I took him to the vet to get him checked out but because he's of such old age with pre-existing conditions(his breed only lives 13-14 years max) he said there was not much to be done and that it will stay a sensitive spot fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 03:49 AM |
| 7 | Another dog went after my dog and it's proof men are trashI've owned a dog for 14 years and this is the first time that I've heard about this. We've been using a flexi lead on him for years. He's a medium dog so I can stop him if needed but he's also the most well behaved around other dogs. Other dogs will charge at him but he won't even flinch and I never have to call him. He tends to wait for my cue. I think that I just lucked out in terms of dogs. He is prone to snapping at people who touch his tail or foot. He doesn't want to bite them, just snaps … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 11:33 PM |
| 16 | Should I return his thingsAbsolutely this. And another thing the moment he made that decision, to end it, ghost, all that shebang, it was done. Take that as a final decision, regardless if he ever changes his mind. You don't owe him a thing. There is no more analysis needed in this situation. He's a waste of mental energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 05:32 PM |
| 13 | Should I return his thingsNope. Forget about him. Block the f*** out of him don't even let him have any contact. He can't respectfully respond to you then you cut any sort of potential for communication. If those things are important, he'll find a way to reach out to get them, through a friend or something. And if he does find a way it better be on your time and not inconvenience you. You are better than that. Don't waste your breath or time girl. It's not your responsibility to get his stuff to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 05:28 PM |
| 4 | "Women don't orgasm during sex because female sexuality is more complicated." If this is true then it follows that women have a hard time orgasming during masturbation as well. How true is that🤔?See for me having PIV right after I orgasm or right during is one of the most pleasurable things ever. Like I will go to town on that guy and rock his world just out of pure ecstasy if he does that for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 05:23 PM |
| 22 | Why is no one talking about the type of rape where a partner pesters you into having sex?I wish that I could have witnessed those situations just so that I kick the shit out of those guys. Fucking disgusting assholes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 06:21 PM |
| 34 | Why is no one talking about the type of rape where a partner pesters you into having sex?That's emotional abuse and commercial. Sounds like he was using "FOG". Fear, obligation, guilt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 05:57 PM |
| 98 | Why is no one talking about the type of rape where a partner pesters you into having sex?I was half asleep and he climbed on top of me and then I woke up and realized he wasn't even responding to my prompts and I started crying because it felt like he was treating me like a sex object instead of a person. I couldn't even handle being touched while I was half asleep after that. he will try to grope me and I would slap his hand away. I went to a trauma therapist and I told her about it and she told me holy s** that's rape. That's absolutely rape. He then asked me a few months later wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 05:55 PM |
| 82 | Why is no one talking about the type of rape where a partner pesters you into having sex?Oh sweetheart. I am sorry you went through that. What an absolute bag of burning shit. 😳😡🤬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 05:51 PM |
| 36 | Spotted in the WildLike the situation was, I was supposed to come up to his house for Valentine's day, but I finished work at 3 and couldn't make it for the 4oclock bus to get to the border city by 4:40 when he was supposed to pick me up. I let him know at 3:15 I'd have to take the 5'o clock bus. He was so pissed off that when I was already on the bus he told me that's fine, but he's not crossing the border to pick me up and I have to cross by foot (30 minute walk from the bus stop and I had only brought a hoodie … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 02:33 PM |
| 97 | Spotted in the WildMy exboyfriend used to surprise me picking me up from work to take me to dinner even though he lived over an hour away. He also left me in the cold at a bus stop just barely 5 months later because I couldn't make the earlier bus This stuff is great in the beginning but never stop vetting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 01:45 PM |
| 33 | 24 hours since joining POF. My advice? Just don’t do OLD. I didn’t include the three sick fucks who asked me to be their sugar baby (prostitute).It's bizarre that I've had 10 times better interactions in the last week on Tinder than you did on plenty of fish. The one guy that told me that I look really innocent I only responded to him for shits and giggles to call him out and he told me to chill which was hilarious cuz I could see he got mad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 03:29 AM |
| 6 | By random chance, I just watched 5 consecutive shows with female leads and realised how enlivened I felt after.Hoooo-o-o-ly shit. That episode was insane. It really encapsulated the essence of a predator. I'm still reeling. And I love love the end scene where all those women walk into his apartment. We’re having so many conversations about rape culture and assault and they’re really, really important conversations, but a lot of women walk around with a lot of shame about things that don’t look like rape in the traditional way. I’ve thought about this a lot. I have way less shame about my actual sexual as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 03:17 AM |
| 3 | By random chance, I just watched 5 consecutive shows with female leads and realised how enlivened I felt after.I haven't seen it..I might look it up just for that. Some of the episodes were truly memorable standalone. And what bugs me is that they got so much criticism from scrotes because it was mostly a female cast. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 01:40 AM |
| 1 | Chronicles of my LVM ex + my former pick me self.7🥺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 10:04 PM |
| 14 | By random chance, I just watched 5 consecutive shows with female leads and realised how enlivened I felt after.I liked girls when it came out. Generally the show was slightly garbage at times but there was a few episodes that just blew my mind. Like the one where she meets her ex and he's an addict now and the one where lena lives at a guys place for a week. I am not okay with this was great. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 09:01 PM |
| 25 | Buy this authentic Tiffany&Co bag so you can fool your lady (or side chick) by making her think you're gifting her a nice ring. As seen in my local buy or trade FB group.I was having this conversation with the guy that I met on Tinder yesterday. He's like "Some of these girls are gold diggers and you can tell from the start. One girl was like oh you have your own house. Oh you have your own car. Oh you have your own business and then the moment after that I said I have kids she unmatched. And I'm like well have you considered that maybe the previous guys that she has been with were unemployed without a car lived in their parents' basement and contributed nothing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 05:12 PM |
| 19 | Atlanta was equally about race AND genderI just watched that scene from full metal jacket as it was referenced in the article. And then I went to look at the comments and it blew my mind how crazy racist they can be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 03:05 PM |
| 49 | Buy this authentic Tiffany&Co bag so you can fool your lady (or side chick) by making her think you're gifting her a nice ring. As seen in my local buy or trade FB group.My guy got me a gold walmart ring for $70 for our first Christmas. It wasn't anything exquisite but really cute little heart with tiny white stones and I honestly Ioved it. He packed it like a Russian doll. Little penguin box with note on top inside a bigger box with some little lindt chocolates so I could have a snack while unpacking it, inside a bigger box with some other silly gift like hair ties. He probably spent over an hour just packing the stuff. When a guy is crazy about you, he will pu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 02:49 PM |
| 42 | Example of men doing the BARE minimum and expecting me to be ‘laidback’ about itGirl I wish I could hug you. That's such a crap thing to go through with an lvm. I'm glad that you figured it out and found your way. We've all put up with garbage in our past. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 02:31 PM |
| 5 | News coverage about the Atlanta murders.. no mention of the problem of violence against womenReally pisses the f*** out of me. Like this guy openly admitted that it was the women that he felt were tempting him. Not asian women. women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 04:27 AM |
| 8 | Anyone else feel like the pandemic has really given them the space to Queen it up?It's a weird situation. He said he respects my choice, it is understandable but I still think he's really into me. He asked if we could stay friends because he enjoys our conversations. I told him again, okay but just as long as you know there is no romantic future in store. There's no point in wasting someone's time. I'm not childfree persay. I just spent a big chunk of time working with children and I'm kind of tired of looking after other people's kids. That's 18 years of being tied to an ex … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 04:23 AM |
| 18 | The Every Single Gen-Z & Millenial Man Starter PackI don't know. Back then I didn't know about the term gaslighting but it describes the way he treated me to a T. me:. Guy I'm going on a date with said he has this (very disgusting fetish) him: oh my god why are you being such a prude. Fetishes are insanely normal. You need to figure out why you have such a shitty reaction to this poor guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 09:11 PM |
| 43 | Anyone else feel like the pandemic has really given them the space to Queen it up?I feel like I've become a lot more assertive about the things that I need. Side story though. I really hit it off with a guy online. We had a 3-hour phone call last night. When I told him that I don't like sex jokes after he made one, he instantly backed off and apologized and validated my discomfort. I've been talking to him 4 days now and this morning I make a joke about his pet pig having a boyfriend "how does it feel when your kids go off and get into a relationship."and he responded with. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 08:56 PM |
| 19 | The Every Single Gen-Z & Millenial Man Starter PackI think that's less cat girls (women dressed in spandex cat suits with cat makeup or headbands.) And more to do with furries. (I'm dressed as a cat vs roleplay as one?) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 08:46 PM |
| 25 | The Every Single Gen-Z & Millenial Man Starter PackI actually learned the term from him because he was obsessed with the shape. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 07:54 PM |
| 6 | This doctor is on Tiktok telling people porn addiction doesn't exist. Wtf has the world come to?Let's therapy your inSeCuRiTiEs about scrotes watching women get exploited. Honestly I don't know if you guys are familiar with nxivm and Keith Raniere. Pretty much the entire concept of the cult was desensitizing women to their own instinctual reactions to being manipulated into becoming sex slaves, by the use of NLP. The entire promise was this organization is not the problem. Your reaction to find out what this organization is, that's the actual issue. Let's turn off the alarms in your brain … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 05:35 PM |
| 21 | If you removed the context from this post, you'd think it was a mother writing about her toddler son. Why do pickmeishas coddle these manchildren like this? Sis let him cook for himself!No.. chicken nuggies and itty bitty hamburgers. /s I swear that's all my child boyfriend will eat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 05:06 PM |
| 8 | If you removed the context from this post, you'd think it was a mother writing about her toddler son. Why do pickmeishas coddle these manchildren like this? Sis let him cook for himself!That reminds me of men (yes plural) that hadnan infantilism fetish and went as far as to pretend to be mentally retarded and hire a caretaker on craigslist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 05:05 PM |
| 174 | The Every Single Gen-Z & Millenial Man Starter PackThis reminds me of my first guy friend in college. He was a future red piller. He constantly needed to call his mom every night. He was obese and lived off of microwave dinners and junk food. And you can say that doesn't really predict the future for a 19 year old. You could tell that he was never intending to change. His personal bathroom toilet in his dorm was the most vile thing ever. He was big on 4chan (I recently unmatched with a guy because he said that he was a fan of 4chan. No joke.) He… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 04:51 PM |
| 28 | Chronicles of my LVM ex + my former pick me self.Or you decided to bring the mood down by bringing this up Are you really still on about that? Can we just stop talking about it? I'm having a good day and you're annoying me. Translation: "You showing me I'm a piece of shit don't feel good. You're not supposed to have feelings. You're supposed to make me happy. Why aren't you more like a dog?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 04:41 PM |
| 24 | Mind of a LVM - Ex Goes Off About Gifts 🙄Yeah. I showed my ex a book series that I had just found and really loved. It wasn't about reading, I loved the illustrations. I had thrifted a used copy of the first book. Cue a month later, I get the entire series boxed. I told him moving places had exhausted me and he had decided getting the box set might ease the stress. New books in the series come out every 6 months or so and like clockwork the newest one appears on my doorstep the day it's released. I even got it a few weeks ago even thou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 04:10 PM |
| 30 | Mind of a LVM - Ex Goes Off About Gifts 🙄He's not working either. He's on CRB..he gets 1800 a month for not working due to covid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 04:04 PM |
| 5 | I would absolutely leave if a man did this. LVM behaviorI think it's a great point of discussion but the actual video is a joke. In the next video she has clips with the guy. They've been dating for two years. So fake video, but shit like that does happen. And you can see all the LVMs in the comments obviously. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 03:02 PM |
| 29 | Isn’t it funny...I still speak extremely highly of my ex. This is honestly the only place I have mentioned the other things he did and the real reason we broke up. Everyone in my life thinks he's an incredible guy and that we'll get married one day once covid-19 is over. From the outside he looked like a high value male. He cooked, cleaned, listened, he didn't see a world where I wasn't in his life. I honestly still feel ashamed of what I put up with him. I only ever tell people of the good stuff. Right now he's… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 01:27 PM |
| 55 | Chronicles of my LVM ex + my former pick me self.Nah son. This happens every time. Telling you how I feel happens every time?! CoMmUniCaTiNg how I feel about things happens EVERY TIME?! ARE YOU KIDDING ME? What a disrespectful little dick. Go die mad. 😂 He got gold from this wonderful, expressive woman and he just threw it in the trash and made her feel like she's wrong for even existing with feelings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 01:17 PM |
| 52 | Isn’t it funny...I'm not sealcrab who you asked, but had a similar situation for a while. My ex loved pleasuring me and making me feel good. And he was always getting me gifts and saving money for nice dates for wherever I wanted. Sometimes a guy checks off a lot of boxes but then completely bombs the rest which makes the relationship unsalvageable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 01:05 PM |
| 1 | To hear what LV scrotes think of women and how they try to manipulate us, watch some "comedy." 100% he's not kidding. 50 years old, never been married, and this is how he treats women. High standards will save your life.You know, I got confused for a minute. Like has someone been giving you pap smears in your...coz that's not... Oh! You'd rather get a finger up the butt than a pap smear lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 12:53 AM |
| 126 | To hear what LV scrotes think of women and how they try to manipulate us, watch some "comedy." 100% he's not kidding. 50 years old, never been married, and this is how he treats women. High standards will save your life.I tried to see what it's about and couldn't get past 5-6 minutes. "Naked on a scale with a bank statement." Wtf. This is not the sort of guy any woman should have to put up with. You're 50 and you still haven't gotten your insecurities in order and project it on to women as a whole? Quite a fucking catch if you tell me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 07:09 PM |
| 9 | The FDS podcast is now LIVE!!! Weekly Discussion Thread: Episode 1This made me think. My mom got married when she was 19 to her high school sweetheart. He went off to the army and he came back just in time to impregnate her. She was okay with it. She wanted a kid. And then he flew to north america to work and live at his sister's for 2 years. And my mom thrived. Starting up businesses. She was buying corner stores. Making money every which way, while having a kid at home. Her family happily babysat. And then all the sudden my dad's mother freaked out. My dad's… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 06:07 PM |
| 1 | SAFETY TIP: IF A MAN ASKS YOU FOR HELPThe woman who put up with his shit and drove him probably left him. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 05:55 PM |
| 86 | When an ex tries to ruin your reputationHad this situation with a new guy yesterday. He started telling me how he hated when his ex would tell him to calm down when he was getting frustrated with a game. I never asked. I'm not interested. And quite obviously not wasting a second longer on you. I don't talk about exes by principle. Especially not this early in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 04:33 PM |
| 4 | A must read for women: The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist by Debbie Mirzahttp://111.90.145.72/get.php?md5=e663f37281ca96f633bbb2a589d8f2db&key=OGNF0F4BDJB04VDC&mirr=1 In case someone wants a sample to read. I recommend getting it in general. Great resource. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 03:14 PM |
| 4 | Brilliant and poignant scene from the Golden Girls on Doctors who dismiss women's sufferingThat is horrifying. I am so sorry. For fucks sake that's ridiculous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 03:08 PM |
| 28 | “Nice guys” love to say women only like bad boys, therefore they don’t get treated right but what they don’t understand is...I did that. At first I was just happy to have any old girlfriend but now I'm kind of happy it's you. I've never go down on a girl. That's really gross. She should definitely give me blowjobs. Also I'm not even approaching her when she's on her period. That is super gross Sometimes I wonder if choosing you instead of the other girl that we were hanging out was the right decision. I wonder if her and I would have worked out. You should have had sex with me while we were dating. I tried to have sex… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 03:00 PM |
| 17 | Brilliant and poignant scene from the Golden Girls on Doctors who dismiss women's sufferingI agree with all of that. I went to the doctor with thyroid issues. Hair loss constantly cold dry skin weight gain and brain fog out the hoozah. She was like oh you must be stressed from your job.. Do you think maybe you're bipolar? I can prescribe you wellbutrin. -Um.no. Thanks..I don't think I'm bipolar and I'm not interested in welbutrin. -oh okay then I'll note in your file that you're resistant to medication. So I can see things not getting diagnosed properly and I can also absolutely see m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 02:54 PM |
| 22 | SAFETY TIP: IF A MAN ASKS YOU FOR HELPYes. Literally that. I pretty much gagged when I saw that last scene. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 02:27 PM |
| 6 | Brilliant and poignant scene from the Golden Girls on Doctors who dismiss women's sufferingI've dated a guy with borderline personality disorder and I've known three others as friends or acquaintances in the last decade. My ex and his brother were a year apart and his brother is far more well adjusted and doesn't have any symptoms of either Cptsd or bpd so ex definitely had way more of a predisposition for it. Most of the girls I met with bpd were in their late teens so I can't really speak on adult women who have it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 02:25 PM |
| 7 | Brilliant and poignant scene from the Golden Girls on Doctors who dismiss women's sufferingI know quite a few men with borderline personality disorder and I've met a handful of very young females with the diagnosis when I was in my mid twenties working in a mental health outreach program. I even dated one guy who 100% had it from beginning to end. Yes, the two get misdiagnosed for each other and a lot of symptoms overlap but it still feels to me like there's a gap between them. Dealing with people who had cptsd was always somewhat easier than dealing with bpd because bpd always requir… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 02:21 PM |
| 80 | SAFETY TIP: IF A MAN ASKS YOU FOR HELPI mean Zach Efron made him look cute. Though, I also can't look at Zac Efron the same. On the other hand, that movie gave me chills. He portrayed perfectly how a man could lie to your face convincingly to give you a false sense of safety. The end scene was insane. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 01:45 PM |
| 89 | SAFETY TIP: IF A MAN ASKS YOU FOR HELPWell when you push a door open. It's closer and you're pushing out. You hold the pump close to your body as well. Pulling a door closed is a larger distance and requires flexing your pectorals. I could believe it. Like taking something down from a shelf would be more difficult and painful than pouring a cup of coffee. It's possible. At the same time, fuck that. Do whatever you can to stay safe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 01:41 PM |
| 3 | His reaction was scary 😳He's awful. Scary awful. Literally proved right and there that she was right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 12:32 PM |
| 46 | His reaction was scary 😳Ohhhh tennis shoes. I thought he was asking for tissues because he was being such a giant fucking cry baby. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 01:53 AM |
| 10 | 💯% true for me.That's such a great point, honestly. I remember one time I complimented a guy about how nicely he decorated his dorm room. His entire closet was decorated with amazing photographs. He grimaced and was like "well what the f*** did you expect? I'm gay... Fucking women." And then rolled his eyes.. First time I ever met the dude. He was my friend's neighbor. That's honestly stayed with me even though it happened 13 years ago. He was so damn rude for no reason but adored my hetero male friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 12:04 AM |
| 67 | 💯% true for me.God damn. Our token gay friend in highschool got annoyed by me and started screaming at my in a stairwell and pretended to kick me in the face. I exploded into tears but then he was like I can't be violent. I'm gay af. I didn't report it either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 01:40 AM |
| 74 | 💯% true for me.That's awful. Did anyone report it? That's full on harassment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 01:04 AM |
| 10 | Men that will not complay with the easiest of request to accommodate youYou're obviously setting these boundaries because you don't love me ENOUGH TO PUT UP WITH MY CRAP When I was on relationship forums for a dating people with narcissism issues one of the things that always came up was FOG whenever you set a boundary. Fear obligation or guilt. F- If you don't let me do this thing I will do xyz. O- You should let me do the thing because I'm your partner and you should show me that you care about me. G- I can't believe that you would deny me this. I thought that you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 10:10 PM |
| 84 | 💯% true for me.This is such a pattern with some guys. Falling for all their female friends. In the case of my female best friend, the guy she was best friends with for over 3 years felt her up while she was sleeping and then bragged about it to everybody but her. When he finally professed his love in an ultimatum and she rejected him because she had no interest in him romantically, he went around telling everybody what a b**** she was and that she knew the whole time that he was in love with her and lead him o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 10:04 PM |
| 609 | 💯% true for me.Eh. I wouldn't let all of my guard down. I had a gay friend in college who would poke my boobs all the time. After 4 years he told me he was actually bi..ten years later he has a wife and two kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 09:21 PM |
| 31 | Men that will not complay with the easiest of request to accommodate youI used to be with a guy who would hang up on meif I annoyed him too much because I couldn't hear him because his connection was s*****. He would also like to yell at me over the phone. and one day I was like I'm sorry if you're going to yell at me I'm hanging up. And then I did and then he called me back yelling again and I said okay call me back when you're not yelling and I hung up again. He started complaining that I was changing, becoming too distant with him that we might as well just end t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 06:03 PM |
| 3 | I deleted Tinder. This time for good, thanks to FDS.My friends ex was deep in IT and had a bedroom in his parents house that was just a hoarding room stacked to ceiling. She lived with him during the whole quarantine lockdown. She left for a few days to go stay with her parents at the end of 6 months and he told her that he realized she gives him anxiety and they should probably break up. Meanwhile he got another girl coming over that he was into and started dating her within two weeks and refused to let my friend pick up her stuff unless she got… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 02:52 PM |
| 31 | On leaving partnersMaybe there's something to be happy about in my break up. My ex was a verbally and emotionally abusive asshole to me, love bombing in between losing his shit, but when he found out I was on dating apps, he told me he still loves me, but that I should do whatever gets me by and makes me happy. It doesn't change my decision, quite obviously but it's nice to hear. We broke up maybe 6 weeks ago. I'm not really in a place to date but at this point talking to strangers distracts me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 01:10 AM |
| 49 | How to deal with mentally challenged LVMsMy little brother is on the spectrum. I also have a girl friend that's on the spectrum. It is absolutely not a free pass. It is something that needs to be politely called out every single time. I was in a kink group that was full of guys on the spectrum as well. it made me kind of bitter at one point because of the way that they talked about women. There are some people that are self-aware enough or have learned how to censor those comments. Not being. good at social cues is not an excuse to mak… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 04:12 PM |
| 23 | I deleted Tinder. This time for good, thanks to FDS.I had one dude where we were seemingly hitting it off and we had similar cultural backgrounds. Which is a red flag because it's familiarity not quality. He was also in IT and started going on about how he lives a comfortable life because it pays well. We agreed on a lot of things, talked for a good hour and then all of a sudden he says you know I have this constant joke running in my head little song. "Pope John paul the second, little boy butt fucker." It's hilarious hahahahahahahaha There's th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 04:06 PM |
| 18 | What's your cringiest moment with an ex LVM ?I want to cry for you lol. I mean your story is so much worse than mine. So the first time that my ex and I met (because I was stupid enough to agree that to be exclusive before we met) I was coming up by 7 hours bus ride to stay with him for a week. After that long ass trip I was hungry as fuck. He picks me up in the snow and doesn't even offer to take my suitcase which is hard to maneuver in the snow. He lives in an apartment near his college and takes me to his fucking college canteen. Where … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 02:51 PM |
| 80 | What's your cringiest moment with an ex LVM ?Okay so he wasn't doing well mentally , had asked for an open relationship so he could f*** around and said we should take a break and not see each other for a bit. I jumped on it. I said you want a break we'll do one month. We only talk one yday a week by text and it's for 2-3 minutes if you want to know I'm okay. After month we can meet up and decide what we want. I didn't want him ever using breaks as a threat ever again. I legitimately thrived for that entire month. I lost like 10 lb. I got … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 05:25 AM |
| 35 | How much of women's birth control use is simply to accommodate men?Agreed to the 15th degree. It grosses me out that they're doctors now. My first year, I was friends with a 4chan obsessed guy who ended up obsessed with two of my friends over time. I was a naive girl at the time. I was a virgin and I didn't believe in sex before monogamy and consent was a huge deal to me. And while talking to me about a guy I was interested in he suddenly started playing with my hair and stroking my neck. Whoa. We were just friends and I wasn't okay with him touching me. I got … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 03:31 AM |
| 4 | How can I avoid getting too emotionally attached early on and letting myself get led on?I had one dude have the audacity to say well if it's such a big deal to you why don't you lobby for them to change the age of majority. Big deal to me , rather than their issue for wanting a barely legal teenager as a girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 08:46 PM |
| 42 | Not All MenYour mom is amazing. But at the same time it reminds me of when I was 9 years old and I would wrestle with my 11 year old cousin and play with balloons. He was my favorite cousin since I was 3 years old. I was insanely competitive and wanted to overpower him. Neither of us had even hit puberty yet. But his older brother had told our parents that we were doing inappropriate things behind closed doors. That we were showing each other stuff and touching each other. Things that neither of us had eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 07:56 PM |
| 24 | What carries overs.Omfg did you just pick this whole story out of my brain? I just stayed 6 years instead. He took me to the fair. He was very physically affectionate. He encouraged me to dress cute. we would have pet names. Exchange pictures of birds every day. Race through parking lots. Play video games. Watch tv together. Kink wise we were peak compatible. First red flag. Early in the relationship he asked me to stop sending him loving messages. Makes the conversation boring. Then stop bitching about your job s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 04:43 PM |
| 65 | How to spot LVM/NVM by the compliments they give youI have this guy in my addiction support group that is a very self absorbed dick and considers himself well adjusted, although he's 37 and never had a long term relationship and is bitter about women. I told him that he exhibits a lot of red flags with how he talks to women when the conversation started about online dating. He says, as if what I portray here is the real me. I'm actually quite charming in real life. The idea terrifies me. That he really thinks there's a false and real version of h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 04:26 PM |
| 29 | How can I avoid getting too emotionally attached early on and letting myself get led on?Sis if he's 35 sniffing after 24yos that's a huge red flag. Why can't he find anyone his own age? If he can and prefers not to, that's WORSE. Your brain is not fully developed until your late twenties. He knows this. He might not know it, find out and ignore it. I'm in an addiction support discord where there's a guy who's 36 and was in a two year relationship with a 21yo. Meaning he met her when she was 19. I'm 33. I can't imagine for a moment dating a 19yo. They're children to me. They have a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 04:11 PM |
| 41 | Is anyone feeling particularly sad for their pick-me mom after finding this subreddit?I have felt this way since I was 19 and first found out about how bad my dad had been. My mom got married at 19. She was an HVW daughter to a very HVM and she didn't know that early on who my dad would end up being. My mom stayed for the kids and because my younger brother got diagnosed with autism when he was four. He had basically abused her a handful of times in the first 5 years of marriage. She kept the whole house alive financially because he was so damn irresponsible with money and barely… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 10:07 AM |
| 7 | Therapy saved me from my abusive Ex-LVMJust want to spend my valuable time with positive energy and loving people in the future That's exactly what you deserve. It's crazy when you realize it's not you. That it's not healthy for someone to constantly make you doubt yourself and your sanity like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 01:38 AM |
| 37 | Therapy saved me from my abusive Ex-LVMI'm so glad you got to that point and that you could leave. It reminds me of when I started a mindfulness based stress reduction course with a psychiatrist. One of the first side effects was that I would get intense breakdowns after a meditation. The psychiatrist had recommended that I do at least 6 sessions with a therapist beforehand because an intense meditation course like that can heat up some deeply guarded trauma from childhood and it can boil over if you take the lid off too quickly. I d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 07:04 PM |
| 8 | Have you dealt with having men in healthcare or other jobs belittle you during a appointment?My mom recommended me a gyno. My IUD had fallen out. The ones in north america are usually too big anyways. It was stabbing me in the uterus. I went to this gynecologist to figure out what was up and he instantly saw that it was lower than it should be and stabbing me. So he takes out the bloody thing. then tells me that I'm 50 lbs too heavy to even bother with this and that I shouldn't be getting this unless I've already had kids and am married. That if it was up to him he wouldn't give me an I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 02:25 AM |
| 5 | Male feminists in a nutshell.He went on to make a live about how he's sorry that everybody got mad. and so therefore he has apologized so they should all let it go. It was the dumbest thing ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 06:20 AM |
| 103 | One mans "thats too much" is another man's "thats all?"With my ex I told him that I wasn't going to be intimate with him until we were committed and monogamous. And I half heartedly joked that I wouldn't agree to be his girlfriend unless he asked me in front of the towel aisle at Walmart. I was trying to come up with the silliest scenario. Cue 3 weeks later, he says he has to drop by Walmart for some hygiene products. We're walking by the towel aisle and he takes my hand, kneels and asks me to be his girlfriend. He didn't even push for intimacy afte… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 05:58 AM |
| 1 | REd flags in datingNagging and negging and being a complete dickwad to the millionth degree. Girl deserves to feel amazing. She looks amazing. She deserves better than this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 08:17 PM |
| 3 | REd flags in datingI appreciate you over sharing. Sometimes I put on glittery lip gloss so I can look like a stupid 12 year old and I enjoy the fuck out of it in the privacy of my own damn home or even to go to fucking Walmart to enjoy it there. Sparkly lip gloss is fun af. I'm not even sorry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 07:19 PM |
| 68 | “I bet u want me to slap u”, “let me choke u until u pass out”, “I want you crying in pain”. LoL, no thank youuuu. These “pick-up” lines aren’t working on me.Er..i did that. Turns out he was super into pegging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 06:38 PM |
| 41 | We've all heard of gaslighting, but what about when we delude ourselves? A man like this is not "amazing"!I feel this too hard. I don't have a huge libido but I love having sex and even giving oral because it usually leads to sex and intimacy. Until it stopped. Because I wasn't readily available every time and thus rejecting him. And the entire burden was on me because I was the one who had killed the intimacy by being tired and wanting sleep since i woke up at 5:30 am for work. So much internalized shame for not being good enough. Wtflying f | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 09:23 PM |
| 39 | I've noticed that a lot of women here have toxic mothers. While it's true that mothers are often unfairly scapegoated for all of society's woes, it's important to remember that mothers also socialize their children to perpetuate patriarchy.My mom taught me to never give it up for a worthless guy, that more often than not they wanted to hit it and quit and she taught me to only be with men who were gentlemen. Opening doors. Paying for dinner.. blah blah.. She also fucked with my self esteem coz i didn't have the right body type according to her standards. She also made me a pickmeisha when it came to taking care of other people by making me her personal servant most of my life and never respecting my boundaries. She still defends d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 08:32 PM |
| 19 | Pickmes and Newbies listen up. We don't do 50/50. Read the Handbook, but also consider this:Maybe she is of the thought, if you're too blunt and honest they'll be turned off. Instead of a straight up 'nope' she might think it's better to be witty and act a cool girl. Idk. I used to be a maybe person. Nowadays it's a straight up no. I started to be unwavering and boundary full with my ex after a month long break and it scared the shit out of him. He said i was cold and distant and that he couldn't recognize me. Boundaries, baby. If you can't handle me being real, you shouldn't be with m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 07:16 PM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI have tried to make pakoras twice in the last week and i keep messing it up. They're practically burnt on the outside and somewhat raw on the inside. I wanted to bake rather than deep fry. I think it's to do with using sweet potatoes since they're much more long cooking than the other veggies. Maybe i should precook them before adding them in. I had an amazing women's day sleepover with two of my mom's friends on Saturday. Ages 33,43, and 53. I don't drink so I got to enjoy a lot of hilarious s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 04:22 PM |
| 40 | I had a date tonight...You handled yourself like a queen.p Makes me wish I did that many times in my past. I flashbacked to when i was supposed to go see a guy i had been talking to online for a few months. He told me he was afraid that I was going to be too fat for him. (1. Who says that?. 2. I had a guy friend tell me oh hey. He was just being honest and vulnerable. Don't take it personally.) We finally met up. I was staying with him for a week because he lived so far away. He said that I was much less fat than he e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 01:55 PM |
| 72 | LVM male guide to cheap dating. Watch out for these bright red flags ladiesI asked my boyfriend if we could share meals last year because portions were so huge and i was secretly trying to lose weight. He would offer to get whatever I wanted but then still order extra stuff because he's not interested in skimping out on meals if we're going out. He wanted me to enjoy myself. It's our time. He always had a date fund for us. Always saving change so that if I wanted to go to a specific place I could get whatever I wanted. The only time I felt awkward about it was when he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 02:26 AM |
| 15 | That update tho 🙌I used collage maker. Took two pictures and added text on top from my phone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 07:01 PM |
| 62 | “don’t protect women, teach men how to behave!” 👏🏽 this brown queen is spitting FACTS! I wish more people in Desi culture adopted this mentalityThere was this website called 7cups six years ago. It's probably a shadow of what it used to be now. You would get linked to anonymous listeners who did a basic 30 minute written training when you wanted to vent about a problem you had. It was text only and moderated where you could report if someone was inappropriate. 7/10 times it was a genuinely good person, usually a fellow girl. But they would get a lot of random creeps as well. I avoided someone if they claimed to be a male from India beca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 05:40 PM |
| 5 | This - exactly this.Can you elaborate on Joe Rogan? I've only listened to the episodes with Rhonda Patrick and my friends fiance is a huge fan of JR. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 05:26 PM |
| 68 | That update tho 🙌http://imgur.com/a/lv5YpoH | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 04:33 PM |
| 4 | An oldie but a goodie: Marina's twist on "Boyfriend" hits different after discovering FDSMakes me cry every time. At the end of the day i have to be that person for myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 07:38 PM |
| 22 | An oldie but a goodie: Marina's twist on "Boyfriend" hits different after discovering FDSI also really love the song Happy by her as well. Couldn't relax, couldn't sit back And let the sunlight in my lap I sang a hymn to bring me peace And then it came, a melody It felt so sweet It felt so strong It made me feel like I belonged And all the sadness inside me Melted away like I was free I found what I'd been looking for in myself Found a life worth living for someone else Never thought that I could be, I could be happy, happy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 06:11 PM |
| 2 | Pick me girl comes into my dms addressing a “misandrist” comment.So that you take them more seriously, add weight to the argument. Like look at you. Arguing with a 13yo who is this smart. You should be ashamed. Blah blah. That's why I press x for doubt. (Doubt they're actually 13.) They're articulate but the ideas go a bit too far. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 03:36 AM |
| 2 | DAE find this story fishy? This guy decided to googles his girlfriend’s adult daughter’s username for “dog pics” and just stumbles upon her nudes?? Reddit also marks NSFW posts..Yeah you probably have a point there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 04:22 PM |
| 44 | The backlash that FDS gets, both on and off Reddit, proves that society is committed to keeping women in unsatisfactory relationships to the benefit of menI remember one dude came in a greasy tshirt. Made me buy my own coffee. That should have been clue#1. Like I'm getting dressed to look cute and you can't even drop by a goodwill for a clean $2 tshirt? That blew my mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 04:20 PM |
| 7 | Pick me girl comes into my dms addressing a “misandrist” comment.I think they claimed that for brownie points. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 01:59 PM |
| 61 | Everybody, please acknowledge how wonderful she is and so not like other girls!!Walmart jewelry counter rings can be cheap and still not turn your finger green. So many excuses for this excuse of a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 11:33 AM |
| 17 | Everybody, please acknowledge how wonderful she is and so not like other girls!!Yeah, my exbf got me a $30 gold ring heart shaped with little stones and very pretty at Walmart 3 months into our relationship. He came over to my parents house to wrap it in like 5 different penguin boxes because he knew i loved penguins and the experience of opening it and getting little mini presents in between was adorable. It's funny how someone can go from 0-100 and from 100 to -60 in a relationship within a week. But really. Cute rings are not expensive, nor do they have to be to show you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 11:28 AM |
| 3 | DAE find this story fishy? This guy decided to googles his girlfriend’s adult daughter’s username for “dog pics” and just stumbles upon her nudes?? Reddit also marks NSFW posts..I was just trying to use it as a filter without posting. Screenshot and send. And it was the first and last time, quite obviously. So they definitely have the boobs with no head. I wouldn't never do it again. Overall. I'm done with all of it. You want some boobs, you come over and spend time with me. I don't assume anything disappears from any social media so I'm usually quite choosy about the things I send anyone. I had my actual videos of sex with my exboyfriend stolen off his personal compute… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 11:14 AM |
| 24 | A recovering pickmeisha. Allow me to share my story and thank two strangers on Reddit who introduced me to FDS.Oh girl. I'm so glad you're here! Welcome. Make yourself well at home! I feel you. I've met those exact types. In real life and online. You don't want to believe he's a shit faced low value crap sack, but he keeps reminding. You were his fantasy football league porn girl. You were there to make him feel worth an attractive woman. I doubt too that you were the only one. Hopefully your future will hold better standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 02:08 AM |
| 20 | Another reason why vetting is so crucial. Imagine passing away and the father of your children is so incapable that he uses your daughter as his maid & chef. Disgusting.And the people that disagreed with the change ended up starting up their own cults. Like the duggars from 19 kids and counting or the FLDS. Daughter's only function in life is to take care of the younger children while the mother has more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 03:38 PM |
| 23 | I’m tired of guys who say they just want to be friends, yet end up trying to pursue me intimately/(romantically?)Cue my gay friend of 4 years in college who's played with my boobs jokingly admitting that he's actually bi right after graduation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 02:21 PM |
| 17 | NVM afraid to be judged like he judges single moms, cry me a river. The *last* interaction I will ever have OLD, 7 months clean and a much, much happier life without it!I really want to understand but I'm really confused. He has a CF roommate and a gf with kids? oh.... his gf is CF and he is prioritizing her over his child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 11:55 PM |
| 6 | Age related fertility decline is a gaslight lie used against women. Health & sperm count is what matters.That sounds so much better than what I got. When it fell out i bled for 25 days straight and then didn't have a period for 4months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 04:15 AM |
| 3 | If men like this communicated this to their fellow men..Oh sorry my bad. He was a "nice guy" and claimed i left him for a 'bad boy'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 05:51 PM |
| 37 | Age related fertility decline is a gaslight lie used against women. Health & sperm count is what matters.I got the copper iud because my LVMex wanted me on something I was trying to avoid the pitfalls of hormonal birth control. Horrible menstrual pain as if I was being stabbed, 7 day periods and recurrent infections. Completely changed my smell down there. After two years it fell out and I had to get it removed. The recurrent infections never went away, I keep doing medication and suppositories but nothing ever lasts past two months and my LVMex told me that he didn't think we'd ever have a sex lif… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 05:49 PM |
| 50 | There’s nothing empowering about OnlyFans. The consequences of engaging in sexual acts on camera always lie with the woman, which is unfair, but it’s the world we live in (sadly).She wanted validation that she's still "sexy" and her hubbie is into knowing other men are lusting after his wife /s Stop kinkshaming /s. Barf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 03:47 PM |
| 213 | There’s nothing empowering about OnlyFans. The consequences of engaging in sexual acts on camera always lie with the woman, which is unfair, but it’s the world we live in (sadly).No, because watching porn is normal and he was just acting out his biology. Barf barf barf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 03:41 PM |
| 8 | If men like this communicated this to their fellow men..This. One ex was the opposite of this. Never held the door. Didn't pay for dates.. Was awful with sexual stuff and refused the idea of going down on me and wanted blow jobs. But he was generally a nice person. Not anyone I'd stay with in the long run. Other ex did all these things but quickly spiraled into verbal, emotional abuse and manipulation and requests for anal. It's not worth it. If he's not your partner, then he can go to hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 02:42 PM |
| 10 | Write a list of all the reasons why your ex is awfulI'm glad you're in therapy, love. Men like that love to prey on young women when they're the most desperate and vulnerable and looking for stability. I hope you heal well and move on to creating a healthy life for yourself and reclaim your sexuality. I had my ex repeatedly suggest camming for money but after his friend stole our personal recordings, I refused to ever let anyone record anything or see anything. The alcohol thing is absolutely awful, wretched and wicked. I can't believe he would s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 01:37 PM |
| 7 | Write a list of all the reasons why your ex is awfulYeah.. Seriously. It's not that hard.. Or maybe it's too hard and hoarding all the oxygen that usually goes to the brain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 03:46 AM |
| 25 | Write a list of all the reasons why your ex is awfulThey want you to be a readily available sex doll like women are in porn. I hated being woken up for sex after i fell asleep because I had a job that started early. He compared it to me not having a compatible sex drive. Like excuse me. How do u go from were super compatible to all of a sudden not at all. I told him that it fucked me up that he woke me up by getting on top of me and he was like , okay so are u just gonna stay broken forever. Ffs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 02:50 AM |
| 2 | It's not kink shaming; it's refusing to buy into the bullshit. It's calling out depravity that serves men while destroying the lives of women. It's rising up against a system of oppression every woman on earth is laboring under, due to no fault of our own.I dated a guy with this fetish for way too long in my early twenties though i never had sex with him. I told him I was fine with it. Sure. o.o My first night at his apartment he put it on and tried to lie on me during a movie. He then said "it's like your my mommy". NOPE! BIGGEST TURN OFF EVER. Go away. I don't want to cuddle. I told him. Sorry dude. I'm not into that at all. Other nice red flags. -Asked me if I was okay with splitting our first date. I was like okay sure.. told me he was glad i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 02:43 AM |
| 30 | Write a list of all the reasons why your ex is awfulI haven't seen him in a year coz of lockdown, but writing that out today left me in a puddle of tears. There's more to #5. He had actually doing custom fetish videos for gay dudes for money and they were part of the videos his friend stole and he was terrified of him putting them online. He didn't tell me this until after we broke up, of course and said it felt like he had been raped. Like how the fuck do you think I felt?ffs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 02:28 AM |
| 18 | Write a list of all the reasons why your ex is awfulGirl you might not be perfect, but you also don't deserve how much he brushed you and your feelings off on the regular. You have your love language and he completely fucking ignored it. He acted like an immature limp dick on the regular. That is not your fault in the slightest. We fall for people and then we make excuses for their behavior because we want it to be true. We try to find meaning in behavior instead of taking it at face value. You set your standards for what you want and you get tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 02:05 AM |
| 84 | Write a list of all the reasons why your ex is awfulFirst of all. I literally was just listing this in my head. So really good timing. 1) he watched --a lot of-- porn 2) asked for an open relationship 2 years in 3) got used to getting on top of me while I was sleeping and got mad at me for getting traumatized by the fact that one night it was like he wasn't even there. He was f****** me like I was a sex toy. I started sobbing.. I got super hypervigilant over getting touched while sleeping and he started calling me frigid. 4) He asked me to try an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 01:22 AM |
| 29 | Imagine trying to find a gynecologist in network and these are the only options 😭😭🥺And then you say "must be because I am not married and don't have children." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 12:22 AM |
| 136 | Imagine trying to find a gynecologist in network and these are the only options 😭😭🥺When I was 25, my new bf offered to take me to get an IUD. He paid for it and drove me there. 2 years later nearly to the day I started to have a stabby pain in my lower abdomen. My mom hooked me up with a gynecologist from our culture. Got an ultrasound and it turns out that it had fallen out. He removed it for me and then berated me for getting it since I wasn't married, hadn't had children and was obese. Said he would have never given me an IUD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 09:20 PM |
| 15 | I have my flair and I couldn't be happier!Yay for flair! Also celebrating the same. I finally found somewhere that validates all my qualms I had in my previous relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 09:02 PM |
| 1 | This is a conversation that went down in my addiction discord about men in their mid to late thirties dating barely legal girls. Blue is 36 and just broke up with his 21 yo gf a month ago.This happened after yellow (38m) talked about some 'barely legal girls" complimenting him on his eyes at the park. Blue said he should have hit that. Blue met his ex gf when she was 18 and he was 33 and he has two 4 year old twin daughters with another woman. At some point he wrote that pink (33F) is just salty and insecure because her ex bf is now having with sex a 22yo but deleted the comment soonafter. Orange is 23f female. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 08:59 PM |
| 24 | If most men can't help being attracted to teen girls "because of their biology", then most men should not get to be fathers.I was in this situation when i was 29. I worked with a 16 year old boy at a grocery store on the weekends. He was very sweet and I could tell he would grow up to a very good man. Very respectful to customers but good sense of humor. And not once while engaging with him did I ever consider anything?! No matter how mature he acted, I was constantly aware that he was a child. He didn't know how old I was because I never divulged my age. Customers would regularly ask me if I was in highschool, so I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 08:10 PM |
| 11 | How it feels to hear that other women have shared experiences with men/no longer having to gaslight yourself about how you were treated:A reminder that just because it's REALLY good sometimes. Sometimes he rubs your back, maybe buys you a gift, makes dinner doesn't excuse the yelling, gaslighting, treating you like an insolent child for having feelings and thoughts. I once wrote a very intense piece of kink fiction. It was bdsm in tone. Lots of power play, shaming, control over someone's well being, punishments. It wasn't sexual in nature, as in there wasn't any sexual scenes, but it was the sort of shit a scrote would masturbat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 05:35 PM |
| 37 | Steve Harvey Claims ugly men will make all your dreams come trueHis book is insane. 1) don't talk to your man about things he finds boring. 2) smile 3) build him up 4) don't wear revealing clothing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 01:32 AM |
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