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| 42 | If you dated men who expressed they were not attracted to women from their own culture, what red flags did they have? What other problematic behaviors and personalities did these men exhibit?Wow. Written like a true colonizer. And colonial mentality isn’t restricted to being in the west. Please educate yourself. This topic is not an excuse to let your bigotry shine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 03:15 AM |
| -47 | Abusers wait to reveal his true colours until you’re baby trapped. Vet ruthlessly by enforcing your boundaries during courtship.Thank you for clarifying. As a WOC, I hear so many people outside of my group (…yt ppl; The downvotes indicate that I hit a nerve 😘😂) jump in with the stereotypes and generalizations, and it makes me defensive. I’m sorry for coming at you like that, Queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 02:37 AM |
| 44 | She did that! A woman can’t even run a business without a scrote having the audacity. She cleared his ass and I know his ego was deflated.Thank you! I’ll look her up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 02:32 AM |
| -73 | Abusers wait to reveal his true colours until you’re baby trapped. Vet ruthlessly by enforcing your boundaries during courtship.I really hope you’re South Asian, otherwise you sound incredibly racist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 02:29 AM |
| 220 | Abusers wait to reveal his true colours until you’re baby trapped. Vet ruthlessly by enforcing your boundaries during courtship.And that she doesn’t tell him until she’s at her parents and has consulted a lawyer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 02:29 AM |
| 813 | She did that! A woman can’t even run a business without a scrote having the audacity. She cleared his ass and I know his ego was deflated.“A man like you being turned off feels like Christmas” 🤣🤣🤣 I love her. I want to order something from her to actually support such a Queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 02:27 AM |
| 74 | If you dated men who expressed they were not attracted to women from their own culture, what red flags did they have? What other problematic behaviors and personalities did these men exhibit?Going back to my comment about colonial mentality: for people who have it, whiteness is absolutely a prize. We’ve been brainwashed and tortured to believe that white European beauty standards are the end all/be all. Conditioned to believe that we will never be beautiful or worthy because our skin is brown, our noses are flat, our eyes aren’t the right shape. So proximity to whiteness? We’ve been trained, for generations, to believe this is the next best thing if we, ourselves, cannot look like B… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 02:11 AM |
| 68 | If you dated men who expressed they were not attracted to women from their own culture, what red flags did they have? What other problematic behaviors and personalities did these men exhibit?As a WOC, I just want to point out that colonial mentality is a much bigger issue than calling a scrote a scrote. It’s best to simply block and delete these types. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 01:49 AM |
| 128 | Never EVER share financial information with a man. It starts with $20 now but can easily escalate to much more over the years. Come across the wrong one and they will absolutely destroy you financially.And look, health concerns are real, but if he lost his job because of it, how likely is he to find another very easily? And did he lose his job because of health, or is he like my friend’s ex who was always citing his mental health because he just didn’t want to hold down a job? (He somehow managed to hold down a job just fine when my friend dumped him, and his parents were basically, “LOL you’re not moving back home and we’re not giving you money.”) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 12:54 AM |
| 37 | Never EVER share financial information with a man. It starts with $20 now but can easily escalate to much more over the years. Come across the wrong one and they will absolutely destroy you financially.My late husband wouldn’t even go through my purse when I expressly gave him permission (ie “could you take my phone out of my purse?”) He’d bring it to me, apologize, and say it felt like he was disrespecting my privacy by opening my purse. I’m worried that OOP thought her title sounds bad. She needs to dump this sketchy scrote. This was just a ploy to get her PIN number so he could go splurge at a later date: | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 12:52 AM |
| 53 | HVM and HVW in pop culture?Black Panther? If I recall correctly, T’challa and Nakia are in love, and while he wishes she’d stay close to him, he recognizes ses the value in the work she does and respects her dreams. And I’m on the fence if she’s HV, but I love Krysten Ritter’s character from Don’t Trust the B—— in Apartment 23. She knows her worth and doesn’t let anyone take advantage of her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 12:48 AM |
| 10 | What the fuck is w one with my friendAlso, if he’s saying it to me now, someday he will say it about me to the next woman. No thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 11:55 PM |
| 12 | "But hon, in this city no one will want to wait 2+ months to have sex with you" -- female acquaintanceI think you’re going to be unhappy if you have sex with someone before you’re really ready. And your co-worker’s dating methods sound MLM. You invest your money (aka have sex with all your dates) and surely you can quit your day job, girl boss! (aka stop being single and get married) lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 06:28 PM |
| 37 | What the fuck is w one with my friendI remain astounded by the number of women I know who are otherwise intelligent, savvy, and accomplished…but believe men who say they’re staying married for the kids, he and his wife sleep in separate beds, etc | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 06:23 PM |
| 13 | What the fuck is w one with my friendWhat’s with the influx of people writing about their pickme friends? lol If this isn’t new behavior for her, why do you keep her in your life? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 06:21 PM |
| 628 | I’ve been saying this… It only takes men just a few months to know if you are the one! 👆Someone commented about women shaping men into good partners for other people. I disagree. I think he always knew what was expected and how to meet those expectations, but didn’t value previous partners enough to put in effort. I’m other words, don’t settle, sisters. If he doesn’t treat you well, leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 06:18 PM |
| 24 | Kanye wants to take away her right to remarry through court wtf. He also wants to make it difficult for her to divorce and claim her prenup.I did a quick search and it seems like it’s bullsh-t that prenups after 2001 aren’t valid. He might be able to make things difficult in court (like Kelly Clarkson’s garbage ex), but the laws didn’t change just because his lawyer allegedly said so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 08:20 AM |
| 13 | What happened to the men that told you they dumped, dated, or married someone because of their parents?I don’t remember people like this lol It’s like I see the red flag and my mind does a block and delete. I do what I want (as long as it doesn’t hurt anybody). I’m not going to get along with someone whose parents can still tell them what to do. I refuse to go to extremes to get his family’s approval. I don’t want a future where I have to be the bad guy because Mr. Spineless won’t speak up: just no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 08:15 AM |
| 54 | Can an LVM turn into a HVM later in life?How long ago was high school or college for him? If it’s 10+ years and everything else in his life checks out, I would continue vetting. I think it’s important to make sure he really has changed, however, and that you (general you, not you specifically, OP) aren’t falling into old pickme habits of excusing LV behavior because you think the good things he’s done cancel it out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 08:07 AM |
| 19 | I just got dumped mid-abortionSo he just outed himself as the ex who would go to great lengths to punish a woman. Gross. Every woman who dates men need to level up their standards. Stop allowing trash to propagate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 04:50 AM |
| 210 | I just got dumped mid-abortionAnd he’s probably patting himself on the back for breaking up after she had the abortion. What a champ. What a hero. He didn’t dump her when he wanted to. He waited. /SARCASM I seriously want to leave flaming bags of sh-t around the perimeter of his home, and hide a dead fish in the box spring of his bed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 05:41 PM |
| 33 | I just got dumped mid-abortionSis, how can we best be of help and comfort right now? Would you prefer gentle soothing and empathy/sympathy, or unmitigated rage on your behalf? ❤️🩹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 04:05 PM |
| 16 | Always keep this in mind, ladies ✨This is what I’ve always done, but when I bring it up here, I get told I’m humblebragging and arrogant lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 04:01 PM |
| 30 | TW: nasty as hell. I don’t even have words..I clicked, saw one sentence, thought, “Oh hell naw” and closed it right back up. This is cause for divorce. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 08:42 AM |
| 168 | Dating men who are grievingA HVM will not be dating during such a big life event. A HVM knows it’s time to focus on his mental and emotional health, and will do so in a constructive way involving self-care (which may or may not include counseling). He’s not going to date because he recognizes he’s not in the right headspace to do so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 11:02 PM |
| 3 | What in the patriarchal standards!? I just puked on my shoes.10 being the worst, and 1 being gold. I’d say she’s at least a 2 or 3. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:49 PM |
| 35 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.lol ilu for this recommendation and I’m gonna start “not all men” on posts re: male accomplishments. Are you familiar with the satire account Man Who Has It All? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:11 PM |
| 20 | Safe spaces for women CANNOT have men! If men are included it ceases to be a safe space for women.Kinda along these lines: my school has a club dedicated to a specific group. We do a bunch of fundraising so that we can support people who are in this group: tuition assistance, paying for books, grocery cards. And inevitably? People outside of the group come out every semester, whining about why they can’t get some of these funds. That’s what scrotes/NVM sound like with their whataboutisms. They won’t put in the effort, but sure want to be recognized. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:10 PM |
| 12 | Since y’all liked part one here’s more of her wisdom for the girlies who don’t wanna download TikTok 😫If you ever feel like downloading again, search hashtags for things you actually care about, then like, follow, and comment. That sets the algorithm real quick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:06 PM |
| 10 | Since y’all liked part one here’s more of her wisdom for the girlies who don’t wanna download TikTok 😫The ones that initially appeared on my fyp weren’t even that good. Like, come on, TikTok, I see your agenda. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:05 PM |
| 13 | Co-Worker Randomly Offered to Rent His Room to Me 😅🤣My mom would have asked why tf some man I’d just met offered me a spare room. My dad would have been roaring that I better not even consider it or my body would probably end up on the six o’clock news, and he would have to seek vengeance. What you described sounds like the basic, predictable banter of a new employee: what’s your name, do you live in the city. Ugh. Ugh to your coworker and eyeroll to your mom. Scrotes acting like us breathing in their general vicinity means we want to f-ck them… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:01 PM |
| 82 | Man wants to have a kid with his wife's younger sister....the traditional way. This poor woman is actually confused about it. WHAT.Does the sister know he wants to do this? I kinda skimmed the post because he grossed me out. Assuming OOP’s sister doesn’t know…this is even more gag worthy. Can you imagine being willing to help out your sister and then you realize her nasty POS husband has been harboring fantasies of f-cking you all this time? I’d reaching the surrogacy offer and offer instead to pay for my sister’s divorce lawyer! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 06:55 PM |
| 206 | Financially abusive Scrote strings along his 4.5 year live-in girlfriend, finally "gets engaged", yet cries when he finds out that he wasn't entitled to ALL of her money after all, etc. Next, he pitches it to the audience about whether he should take the money, then dump her any way.What I’m reading is that Sis subconsciously knows he’s not it, but she’s settling for whatever reasons. I can imagine my late husband being thrilled if I had made such a concession, and we would have continued with the old budget, with my “extra” continuing to go into savings. I’m basing this conjecture by his previous encouragement that I open an account solely in my name and deposit a set percentage from each of his paychecks (I was a SAHW). F-ck this OOP. Sis did the wrong thing transferring … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 06:48 PM |
| 209 | when men have nothing else they have the audacity“We could do the traditional r-pe and plunder, but we’re gentlemen who care about consent!” 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 06:41 PM |
| 71 | Have you ever walked out of a first date and why?“but I’d let you suck my dick” Oh, sweety…cute of you to assume I could even find it. And then the answer would still be no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 01:51 AM |
| 29 | Being attracted to something you want to be / feel you're lackingJulia Cameron calls something gthis being a shadow artist: specifically, creative types who seek out people actually engaging in their creativity. It’s an attempt to succeed by osmosis I used to date musicians for the same reason. Once I put my energy towards my own musical goals, the quality of men I dated improved. When I subsequently dated fellow musicians, they were the ones with actual goals and a plan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 01:42 AM |
| 26 | Why is "do literally anything other than a coffee or walk date" so hard for so many men to handle?I think they either don’t read your profile, or, like the men old enough to be my grandpa, think they should just shoot their shot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 01:34 AM |
| 536 | Forever girlfriends turned wivesThe only friend I have who got engaged, then married, after 5+ years of dating met her now-husband during their freshman year of college. They were always a solid couple, but wanted to finish school and start careers. I think that’s what made them an exception: they had their forever plan and were literally just making sure they crossed off certain things first. I have acquaintances who have yet to realize they’re wasting their time. 5+ years to get engaged and another 5+ years with no wedding p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 01:30 AM |
| -1 | When You Ask Men What They’re Looking ForYou are giving scrotes too much credit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 08:09 PM |
| 74 | is planning the same weekend trip with a different girl one year later an issue?And he was dumbfounded! “But I brought you to such a nice place! Are you really that mad that I brought someone else here? That’s so petty.” No. It was because he didn’t care enough to plan something for me. It was because he took the lazy route. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 07:31 PM |
| 95 | Two OLD apps have coffee dates as part of their ad... admitting they're trash. Made me laugh.These ads look targeted towards men. One, the women look more attractive than the men (imo). Two, the faux enthusiasm for such no-effort dates appeals to the lowest common male denominator who would believe he, too, can obtain an attractive, successful, obedient woman for the low, low price of a regular coffee. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 06:18 PM |
| 222 | is planning the same weekend trip with a different girl one year later an issue?My ex told me during what was - WAS! - a romantic candlelight dinner: “Are you enjoying this? Isn’t it romantic? I thought you’d like it. I came here with [ex] on Valentine’s Day and she loved it, so I was sure you would do.” Scrote said all of this like he had just discovered the solution to world hunger. I made him take me home. We broke up not long after. Wtf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 06:15 PM |
| -6 | When You Ask Men What They’re Looking ForNot at all, because I’ll already have decided I’m not going to see him again. I may as well have fun, let him think he has insight to plan his next move, and then cut him from my life. Holding myself back is exhausting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 03:15 PM |
| -6 | When You Ask Men What They’re Looking ForIt doesn’t matter in this scenario, because I already know I won’t see him again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 03:13 PM |
| 310 | is planning the same weekend trip with a different girl one year later an issue?Do you even like trips like this? Or is this his low effort, “Worked on the last one! Why reinvent the wheel!” I was mad when my ex did this to me. It was hurtful because it made me feel that I was replaceable: just a body to take up space and do girlfriend things, and no effort from him to plan something especially for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 07:12 AM |
| -24 | When You Ask Men What They’re Looking ForWhat a tepid response. I hit him with everything I’ve got: the specifics of what I’m looking for, with all the energy of someone who knows she’s going to find exactly that. But not with him. Because he doesn’t know what he wants UnTiL hE FiNdS iT. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 06:14 AM |
| 49 | guys who say they don't know what they are looking for on oldHe was not conventionally attractive! He had long, scraggly hair, and a beard to match. He seemed nice, though, and my creep radar didn’t go off. My impression was that he was the type to say what he means, means what he says, and tries to move through life without hurting anyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 06:05 AM |
| 234 | guys who say they don't know what they are looking for on oldI briefly messaged with a man who stated on his profile that he was just looking for a f-ck buddy. I asked how honesty works for him because I was genuinely curious. He said it works great. He meets women who wants what he does, and women who want more just pass on him. Liars who say they don’t know out themselves as LV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 12:45 AM |
| 94 | How do you respond to men who ask you to teach them something as an OLD opener?Unmatch. I mean, ugh. Their idea of planning a date is making you put in all the effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 12:41 AM |
| 201 | 8???How old are they? The only time I wouldn’t totally side eye this is if they’re high school sweethearts and wanted to finish post secondary education first. I know, I know, probably not, but I can hope! What does everyone think is a good timeline to know if he’s marriage material/he should propose? I think minimum one year and maximum two. Anything longer, and he’s just not into you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 10:19 PM |
| 24 | Never go backThere are people in my life who were in abusive situations. This is how I learned, the long and hard way, that you can’t love or talk a victim into seeing the truth. Not like it happens in the movies. Abuse is insidious, starts small, and usually by the time outsiders realize, the victim has been conditioned not to see it as abuse: she made him angry, she isn’t patient enough, etc etc The most helpful thing in both my experience and in articles I’ve read is to provide a nonjudgmental space and m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 10:14 PM |
| 15 | Never go backI think this is an idealized reaction, sadly. There is a higher chance the abuser will further harm the victim because she “embarrassed him,” further isolating the victim. Also, when things are at this point, the majority of victims are in too deep to rationally see things - hence why they “just don’t leave.” The articles I’ve read said it’s important to stay in the victims life until she’s ready to leave. Friends and family can listen, perhaps ask questions to help the victim arrive at the answ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 09:53 PM |
| 190 | Red pilled Twitter caught encouraging men not to wear condoms and thinks STIs are part of a government conspiracy to keep birth rates down🤡I saw a series of tweets about how people like this deny science because the stuff they made up is what they want to believe. Boy, bye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 04:00 PM |
| 41 | Never go backI’m glad you and your sister are okay. And I’m mad for both of you that you had to hear the BS about letting them apologize in person. F-ck that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 03:35 PM |
| 82 | Never go backSerious question: what was her family supposed to do? A friend went through something similar (although thankfully she did eventually leave and her ex didn’t unalive her). Her family couldn’t do sh-t. They tried to talk to her, but that pushed her into the defensive and she went NC with them for awhile. I understand how all of this makes us feel helpless and upset, but it’s really not as simple as family stepping in, or the victim just choosing to leave. Especially when the victim has reached th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 03:33 PM |
| 106 | What has been your biggest bullet dodged, and which vetting strategy do you attribute to it?lol “Sex should happen right away. Don’t you see how much I respect you by acknowledging your right to casual sex?!” I feel a mad who identifies as feminist is blind to his own misogyny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 04:58 AM |
| 69 | Please don't approach anybody's grown-ass son...And just like that, the men stop telling us “you’re so exciting and fun to be around” and start complaining “you’re too much!” Nope. Pass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 01:46 AM |
| 39 | My third grade French teacher hit on me at the gym today🤮 It’s gross enough when someone close to your age comments on your body, but (a) that age gap, and (b) your former teacher is just 🤮🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 10:24 PM |
| 200 | Please don't approach anybody's grown-ass son...I am a fireball. I have no problem approaching someone first, but - BUT! - if he lacks the courage to initiate, he lacks the ability to keep up with me. So I’m gonna spare both of us and not approach first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 10:17 PM |
| 146 | What is a yellow/orange flag?A yellow/orange flag is like being a little pregnant: in other words, the flag is either red or not 😅 In general, I think if you’re asking, you should just consider it a red flag and take your leave. I might consider something an orange flag if it’s an opinion expressed in ignorance and they genuinely correct themselves when informed. Your vetting abilities needs to be top notch to make that call, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 10:15 PM |
| 10 | Women leaving the dating appsDefiiitely, it’s just that your method of gathering info would need to be different based on the medium. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 05:23 AM |
| 11 | Women leaving the dating appsAn article that you plan to shop around, or something like a blog or Medium post? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 04:32 AM |
| 221 | Ladies, what have been your experiences with dating men that have unresolved and untreated intergenerational trauma?The ones I dated expected me to save them, which we all know isn’t how things work. My friends who dated these types for longer stretches were eventually at the receiving end of emotional abuse and general tyranny because these men chose to see everyone else as the problem rather than address their issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 04:31 AM |
| 328 | Men can be fucking psychoticBut we’re the emotional, clingy ones. I’d block that one so fast. Wtf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 03:30 AM |
| 42 | We had been chatting for less then a day and this happened...Is cunnilingus really that rare in a relationship? These scrotes are acting like they’re some rare prize that gives oral when I have never been in a relationship where my partner wasn’t enthusiastic about giving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 03:29 AM |
| 63 | We had been chatting for less then a day and this happened...He held out an entire day. Wow. He deserves a cookie 😐 Anyways, the NVM out themselves too easily. Is he already blocked and deleted? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 03:27 AM |
| 211 | Why didn’t her husband just clean the house shirtlessI argue that it wasn’t a gift for her at all. She just conveniently happened to also enjoy the present he acquired for himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 01:07 AM |
| 26 | Divorcee's and DatingSomewhere, there are men who were like I was many years ago: they just don’t want to date somebody who is divorced. (I can go into my reasons from back then, if anyone is curious.) I’d feel deceived if I was dating a man and he eventually dropped that he was divorced. Even now that it’s not necessarily a dealbreaker, I feel it’s a lie by omission. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 11:05 PM |
| 414 | Only 19 years old 😭 she shouldn’t tolerate thisI can’t imagine why Mr. Pompous Overtalker target d a 19-year-old 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 09:09 PM |
| 258 | Another post promoting sex work as “real work” and an OP that is probably one of the top 1% of earners on OF… I feel for these people struggling to make it financially but sex work ain’t it.At the start of lockdowns, I read an article about desperate women flocking to OF, and earnings all around decreasing because supply exceeded demand. And this person? She’s the same as the person at the top of the MLM pyramid saying she’s a success and you can be, too! 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 09:08 PM |
| 169 | This. Is. Horrifying. Husband thinks it’s okay her sister was physically abused and went to the hospital by her boyfriend. Wife hasn’t mentioned leaving him in either post (that I’ve seen)She needs to run. Run to her parents and file for divorce. He has just outed himself as an abuser in waiting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 01:41 AM |
| 23 | Pickmes contributing to the idea that women should be low maintenanceYour dad sounds wise and understanding. I know a couple who are happily married but live separately. It makes sense to me now. My social battery fills up really quickly, and that doesn’t change just because the other person is a romantic partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 08:28 PM |
| 169 | Men want me to back down even when I am right“he doesn’t need verification he needs me to admit I am wrong” Give this man a cookie for being in touch with his needs!! /sarcasm I would laugh in the face of anyone who said this to me. And, sis? Your current needs to be an ex. This is not about food. Who tf uses slurs? Trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 06:29 PM |
| 50 | Pickmeisha hall of fame 😂🤦🏻♀️I’ve read about this before. It works when you have two HV people who, for whatever reason, have become complacent. One person breaks the pattern, resulting in the other person returning to the HV behavior, too. But once again: you need to have two HV people with HV behavior to return to. You can’t turn sh-t into platinum by treating it like a king. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 06:24 PM |
| 43 | Pick-Meisha Wedding RantIt sounds like you were her only real friend, but she’s not yours. I’m sorry that you found out this way. You don’t owe her anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 06:19 PM |
| 65 | Pickmeisha hall of fame 😂🤦🏻♀️She gives off a vibe like she’d say with a straight face, “My husband and his Secretary had to stay in a room with one bed because the hotel messed up. But I know he slept on the floor.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 09:11 AM |
| 397 | Pick-Meisha Wedding RantMiss Manners has repeatedly written that a wedding invitation is not an invoice for a gift. You are out $400. Consider that her wedding gift. Also? It was a sh-t move to (a) not invite you to go dress shopping, and (b) not stand up for you! If any of my friends tried - tried! - to trash my MOH, I would have ended that discussion real quick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 09:08 AM |
| 23 | being male in america hard, so hard“we are just trying to use men for their money” This fascinates me, because I got the vibe that OOP’s wife is the real breadwinner in the family: way more than $60k/year, with all the stress and time commitments that go along with it. I pictured her working 60-80 hours a week, coming home/logging off, and OOP complaining that she doesn’t do enough. I picture her bankrolling their entire lifestyle, but OP mad because he can’t f-ck off on a two week long guy trip with his scrote friends. ETA Re: F… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 06:01 AM |
| 49 | Pickmeisha hall of fame 😂🤦🏻♀️This only works if you’re already with a HVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 05:10 AM |
| 296 | Pickmes contributing to the idea that women should be low maintenanceI always thought that being an independent woman meant I could marry a quality man I love, even if he’s not pulling a six figure salary. I never thought it meant “take the first thing to pass my way.” It’s a shame that any woman settles. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 05:07 AM |
| 131 | being male in america hard, so hardIf facts are as presented, this isn’t okay, anymore than it’s okay when a woman does it all. BUT his line about “welcome to being a male in America” is telling. It implies the lie that the world is built on a matriarchy, women have alllll the power, etc. I think his wife’s version might be very interesting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 05:03 AM |
| 136 | HeartbreakingI saw a post elsewhere about one woman telling another, “My husband threatened to unalive me. I’m not sure what to think. Is this abusive behavior?” I’m so sad for her for even wondering. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 01:02 AM |
| 688 | Somehow this is worse than those room rentals on CraigslistBeing a CEO of a startup doesn’t mean anything. I could be a CEO of a startup right this second, with my complete lack of experience and business plan. I could also say I’m gonna be rich soon. See? Meaningless. I pity anyone who falls for this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 12:59 AM |
| 28 | A man i've never spoken to in my life dealing with abuse "allegations" and losing custody of his daughter who is barely a month old decides now is the perfect time to talk to random women. Should pass this along to the mother in case he tries to get back with her?My issue is when they don’t bring up DV against men unless we’re talking about women being abused. Why aren’t they bringing up violence against men as a separate issue? Answer: because they’re trying so hard to derail the conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 03:56 PM |
| 159 | Men start looking for reasons to hate/intentionally misunderstand you when they realize you’re smarter than they expected?I tell people like this, “I’m smart so I can read for fun. I don’t need to try to compensate with obscure titles.” lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 02:37 AM |
| 334 | A man i've never spoken to in my life dealing with abuse "allegations" and losing custody of his daughter who is barely a month old decides now is the perfect time to talk to random women. Should pass this along to the mother in case he tries to get back with her?“Acting like I’m dangerous when she provokes me” Aaand I don’t need to read anything more. I bet he’s also told her, “I wouldn’t beat you if you didn’t make me angry!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 02:35 AM |
| 69 | Polyamorous PickMe comes *so* close to getting it... but doesn't 🤡She’s right: one person can’t meet my needs. That’s why I have friends and hobbies. 🙄 It’s not impressive when women have a lot of sex, even with different partners, because it’s easy for us to get laid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 02:24 AM |
| 64 | From a FB group: male rando on OLD sends woman low-effort opener asking for personal information, woman states boundary, pickmes are upset she didn’t coddle him enough.Why are women always expected to sound nice? She was nice enough to tell him what he needs to change lol. I would have blocked and deleted as soon as he outed himself as too lazy to message through an app. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 02:22 AM |
| 346 | Scrote Takes Out His Girlfriend to McDonalds for Valentine's Day, "Rewards" Her A Year Later for Tolerating ItSooooo..,scrotes get mad that we take our time to get to know a man (i.e. vet him), but applaud this NVM for this cruel “test”? We are making sure the men we partner with are good people. He just wants to see how much abuse she’ll take. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 12:51 AM |
| 71 | When they show themselves in the second message…. Boy bye.“Active activity!” And then I would spam him with links to marathons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 08:49 PM |
| 27 | 21yo woman and her 30yo 🚩 homeless boyfriend 🚩 has moved in to her home 🚩within 2 months 🚩Her mom said that, which… Yeah. No. My mom would have said not until he puts a ring on me and we get married. But maybe she wouldn’t say that, but that it’s a bad idea since he lacks the motivation to get our own place that’s bigger, nicer, and along the lines of what a man of his age should earn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 08:48 PM |
| 54 | 21yo woman and her 30yo 🚩 homeless boyfriend 🚩 has moved in to her home 🚩within 2 months 🚩The line he fed her about helping his dad through a divorce is a lie. He can’t take care of himself, which is why he’s jumping to move into her place instead of just moving out from his dad’s. Or saying they should get a bigger place since they’re joining finances. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 08:46 PM |
| 57 | Valentine’s Day cringeThose are the weddings where the man wants a casual event and insists he’s dressing down, but the bride can wear what she wants. Women need to see it for what it is: he doesn’t care enough to dress up for ONE DAY. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 03:59 AM |
| 28 | Looking For Someone to Create Celebrity Gossip Graphics For Female Dating Strategy Blog/Twitter/Instagram!!What sort of frequency are you projecting, and is this a paid position? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 03:55 AM |
| 16 | Ali Wong’s “Don Wong” ShowI think she’s HV based on how hard to get to where she is in her career. Iirc she strongly hints in her book that her routine is maybe a droplet of truth and the rest is all for show. I also think she’s done a great job making the public think her stage persona is her real persona, thereby leaving her private life private. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 03:52 AM |
| 43 | Re-watching Buffy Post FDS Levelling UpYES! And knowing what we now know of Joss, Xander was probably a projection of him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:48 AM |
| 75 | Re-watching Buffy Post FDS Levelling UpI rewatched as an adult and Xander comes off like a Nice Guy who sticks around hoping Buffy will fall for him, and only much later accepting he’s been friend zoned. And don’t get me started on how he did Anya dirty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 11:50 PM |
| 142 | Man Deducted $1 From Fiancee's Valentine's Day Gift Every Time She YelledI feel like my heart stopped for a second. So he initially set a budget of $360 and she bought him something that starts at about $1500US? No, sis, this has become an FDS Rescue Mission! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 09:03 PM |
| 132 | Re-watching Buffy Post FDS Levelling UpXander sucks, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 09:01 PM |
| 53 | Why you can’t take men seriously…Have you said this? I need to know his reaction lol I’ve laughed at men and pointed out, “I wasn’t an ugly stuck up b-tch until I told you ‘no.’” They get real quiet at that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 08:50 PM |
| 26 | If you can't see any good reason not to date a man with a female best friend, LET THIS BE IT! Selfish pickmeisha got stood up, so she ruined another womans valentines day. To add insult to injury, she & this mans girlfriend are related 🤢This is so underhanded. I wouldn’t call my best friend (who happens to be a woman) away from her Valentines Day plans for this. I definitely wouldn’t call any of my male friends. And he’s trash, too. If he wanted to do something, the right response is, “We’ll grab coffee tomorrow and I’ll lend you my ear.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 08:46 PM |
| 73 | If you can't see any good reason not to date a man with a female best friend, LET THIS BE IT! Selfish pickmeisha got stood up, so she ruined another womans valentines day. To add insult to injury, she & this mans girlfriend are related 🤢Many people think cheating is just sex, but emotional infidelity is just as bad, if not worse. It takes away from the intimacy that should be directed solely at your romantic partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 08:42 PM |
| 58 | How police officers cheat and vetting strategies to get the truth.The system is so broken. I’ve read stories from good people who wanted to be good cops. They ended up leaving because their concerns weren’t just glossed over: there was internal retaliation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 08:26 PM |
| 19 | When a man blatantly says he's the jealous type, you better believe he's a toxic, controlling and manipulative man.I’m putting your last line on a t-shirt. lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 08:21 PM |
| 63 | Why you can’t take men seriously…I laugh at how filterless I used to be, but also now feel bad for my friends. I thought I was so righteous and they were probably wishing I’d tone it down lol But yeah, those types never say it to our faces. I think I mentioned a classmate who was talking trash about me (and apparently other women in our major) on social media, but when I confronted him in person? Silence. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 08:16 PM |
| 45 | It’s that time of the month, ladies! I mean when men on PPD try to justify creeping on 18 year olds, of course.He should not be in a role where 18-year-olds are exposed to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 08:08 PM |
| 102 | No 🥰One of the things that impressed me about my late husband’s group of friends was the way they would occasionally call each other to say, “I’m going through a rough patch. Do you have time to grab a drink?” They all had girlfriends and wives, but still maintained different social and emotional outlets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 08:07 PM |
| 71 | No 🥰Never date for “potential.” Decide if the man in front of you is the one you want to spend your life with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 08:03 PM |
| 145 | Why you can’t take men seriously…I had some scrote at a club stage mumble something rude when I politely turned down his offer to but me a drink. Um…since I’d been drinking my filter was looser than usual so I whipped around and yelled, “WHAT?!” He was all, “Nothing” but I heard him say again, “Ugly stuck up b-tch.” My drunk ass went over and loudly asked what he said, was told nothing, so I said even louder, “Oh. I thought I heard you say someone’s an ugly stuck up b-tch so I thought you were talking about me ‘cause I turned y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 08:02 PM |
| 222 | Man Deducted $1 From Fiancee's Valentine's Day Gift Every Time She YelledINFO How does he define “yelling”? I legit have seen men tell their girlfriends/wives to stop yelling when all they’ve done is say something like, “Don’t forget Abby has soccer today.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 07:55 PM |
| 8 | The term Pickme gaining traction? thoughts?I think it’s telling that he got a guilty look after his friends questions, and she’s not smart enough to pick up on the real reason. He didn’t look guilty because he didn’t get flowers or take her on a date; he looked guilty because he knows he doesn’t value her enough to make an effort. Meanwhile, she’s all “lol I’m so low maintenance!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 01:04 AM |
| 69 | Male depravity makes it to the front page.I asked scrotes irl why they aren’t “just being friendly” or “trying to make conversation” with other men and was told, “‘Cuz that’s gay!” One, no it’s not. I’ve seen men make small talk in other spaces, it wasn’t weird, so it can and does happen. Two, I want nothing to do with a homophobic NVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 05:51 PM |
| 42 | Male depravity makes it to the front page.I was in a mood one day and, with my most vacuous expression, chirped, “Oh, but hell know somehow! He always has someone secretly watching me and even installed a key logger on all my devices just to protect me! Isn’t he the sweetest?” The scrote looked completely freaked out lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 05:48 PM |
| 23 | Male depravity makes it to the front page.I feel like I could make a bingo card with all the idiot things scrotes say. I had an Uber driver say my man doesn’t need to know. Uber driver! Who knew where I lived 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 05:46 PM |
| 158 | Male depravity makes it to the front page.But that’s gHeY (being sarcastic, in case that’s not obvious) Scrotes try to act like they’re just being friendly with no ulterior motives. If that were true then yeah: they’d talk to other men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 05:43 PM |
| 14 | Male depravity makes it to the front page.OMFG Someone needs to tell this scrote that women don’t exist for him. It’s fine to ask if a seat is taken. Don’t try to converse after that. ugh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 05:41 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts? How would you debate that? Seems like it's from a male perspective?!A person who does not love herself cannot receive love from others. The lack of self-love is like a hole at the bottom of a cup. You can pour an endless supply of water, but it will all run out through that hole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 05:38 PM |
| 83 | “Do you know how much more successful I would be, if I had a wife?!” - highly recommend her new Netflix special!Does anyone remember Katherine Heigl’s career drying up because she was labelled difficult? But men do a lot worse and it’s excused because they’re pASsIoNaTe about their work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 05:34 PM |
| 15 | The term Pickme gaining traction? thoughts?Loving anime and pizza is not what makes her a pickme. She’s a pickme for putting down other women while thinking and acting like she’s some sparkly special unicorn. She’s not. Lots of girls and women like these things. She’s basic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 05:32 PM |
| 55 | on personal space in general and in datingI have elbows and shoulders. As a WOC, I’m dismayed by how many people, especially men, try to block my way if not attempt to walk into me. I may look small, but I’m sturdy! In situations like yours, I am not above shifting my position to make it harder to pass, or maneuvering merchandise/carts for the same effect. Guess it’s not easier than walking around now, huh! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 05:29 PM |
| 43 | I’m not like other girls, and that doesn’t mean what LVM think it doesI dated someone like this! I told him what I wanted, but instead he kept giving me very extravagant things I didn’t want. No. Not good! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 02:02 AM |
| 25 | What Do You Ladies Think Of The Following Films? | My boyfriend dislikes all of them, but I do find it a bit of a cOiNcIdEnCe that all of them ~happen to have~ female leadsI don’t like Star Wars Better than Ghosrbusters:Afterlife Loved it Campy, fluffy fun, but not something I’d watch again Haven’t seen it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 11:58 PM |
| 5 | What’s your take on this advice: telling a new man you’re dating all the ways your ex treated you well and that it ended because on cheating? She says it will let the man know that your standards are high and nothing could make you put up with it.Ugh, that is so suspect! Why did he want to know? So he can find out how many exes it takes to think of you as easy? Because he’s insecure and would compare himself? There’s no good reason for him to want this info. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 06:07 AM |
| 78 | More straight people than gay / bisexual people being diagnosed with HIV for first time in a decade according to U.K. health secretary. We’ve been telling you these men are doing too much. Protect your cooch!Nope. The second he says to trust him/I can trust him, that means I definitely can’t. Trust is earned by actions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 02:41 AM |
| 17 | Incel saying the quiet part out loud: we’re not people to them.By this logic, women don’t like men at all because there’s nothing to like. Dirty balls and d-ck. Dirty everything because if they shower they think water running down their bodies is good enough. Obviously no skin care routine. Oral hygiene? Ha! Boys, have fun with all your “not all men” and “but! but! but!” retorts being unseen thanks to the auto mod. 😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 12:39 AM |
| 57 | If he doesn't do anything for you on VDay you need to block him. Period. Any low effort? Bye.Just a small edit from somebody with anxiety exacerbated by crowds: if he doesn’t do something for you for, not on, VDay. My late husband and I would always celebrate a few days before or after. We could have a nice, romantic dinner, and I wouldn’t feel overwhelmed and overstimulated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 12:35 AM |
| 231 | A teenage boy full of gratitude to his mom & treating her after years of sacrifice is a good thing to see. This is what a (possible) baby HVM looks like. Take note, lurkersBiggest Aww for both of them trying calamari and his reaction. His momma did a good job raising him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 12:32 AM |
| 232 | More straight people than gay / bisexual people being diagnosed with HIV for first time in a decade according to U.K. health secretary. We’ve been telling you these men are doing too much. Protect your cooch!Every single one of my women friends and acquaintances that I’ve spoken to has heard this line at least once in our lives: “I don’t need to wear a condom. I don’t sleep with that type of women.” Unsurprisingly, many of these have never been screened for STI/STDs because, you guessed it, “I don’t need to because I don’t sleep with that type of woman.” So yeah. We don’t need a new strategy. We need men to use the one available for last couple of decades. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 12:30 AM |
| 115 | What’s your take on this advice: telling a new man you’re dating all the ways your ex treated you well and that it ended because on cheating? She says it will let the man know that your standards are high and nothing could make you put up with it.It’s bad form to bring up exes on first dates/initial dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 08:03 AM |
| 32 | He’s really dumbfounded, guys. He really has no words.Not every woman follows FDS, but look at the ones in the comment to this post. Again, this group often proclaims “block and delete” yet forgets about it in instances like this where the woman’s retort really isn’t anything great. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 12:55 AM |
| 73 | He’s really dumbfounded, guys. He really has no words.Yep. Everyone is always saying “just block and delete!” except, I guess, in situations like this? idgi This isn’t the flex people pretend it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 10:30 PM |
| 143 | 22F dating a 34M finds out he co-owns a house in the suburbs with a woman sharing his last name - If he’s making excuses for you not to see HIS house even though he’s seen yours, there’s a reason. (REThe nice part about thin walls and good relationships with neighbors is that he can’t show up at her place and start sh*t without being detected. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 06:09 AM |
| 13 | What's your phone numberI have yet to meet someone who has made it to the stage of getting my real number. If/when we get to that point, I’ll say, “Now that you’re in the Circle of Trust, you get the secret number. Use it responsibly. Only a handful of people have this.” I don’t tell them it’s a Google number. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 05:16 AM |
| 23 | What's your phone numberI think it’s partly a control thing, and partly projection. Because what does it mean when a man is evasive about his contact info? They can’t comprehend that we’re being cautious, not hiding a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 01:54 AM |
| 6 | So many problematic songs. Now that I get FDS I see it everywhere.Are we doing lyrics? I got some: “You know I love my girls a little bit older. I just wanna use your love tonight.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 10:23 PM |
| 3 | It wouldn't have anything to do with that hateful, repulsive personality. Nah, must be the cheekbones. B*tches so picky 🙄This is not a good picture. If he’s mugging like this when he talks to women, it’s not a good look. As a someone with resting b-tch face, I know there are things people can do to look more approachable. Or, in his case, not like some scrote whose gonna roofie me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 10:21 PM |
| 29 | What's your phone numberI have Google phone. I reserve my actual number for official purposes, family, and close friends, not that I’d tell a potential date about this. If he doesn’t like my boundaries, then he’s not the one for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 10:11 PM |
| 76 | Anyone wants to partner with a Scrote? I’m sure he’s 100% sincerelol I new a man who found out a male friend of a friend was in the adult film industry. So of course he asked to be hooked up so he could make porn. And the other male laughed, said almost every man wants to be in porn, and he won’t get in. They’re always looking for women, obvs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 11:59 PM |
| 131 | Shower thought: Society literally had to coin the term ‘gentleman’ in order to accentuate behaviors that show a minimal level of consideration and respect towards women. Also, it indirectly shows that the vast majority of ‘other’ men don’t care about such values.Its origins are actually a class thing, although that has changed overtime to be a coverup for something else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 06:44 PM |
| 233 | In Australia one step back. This timeline is need fudged…Do these laws actually help the sex workers? Or does it just make it easier for the forces in the shadows to further abuse them? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 05:31 PM |
| 122 | Precautions for POC women while seeing/dating white menYes! It’s the worst kind of mansplaining! “WELL ACTUALLY your region is like this and I know because I was stationed there for a few months.” Stuff like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 05:07 AM |
| 283 | Precautions for POC women while seeing/dating white menI’m Asian. Dealbreakers include waxing overly poetic about my country of origin, “teaching” me about my own culture, and telling me he only dates (my specific ethnicity). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 03:30 AM |
| 131 | Once again, Guard Your Womb, Sisters.I hope OOP’s mom read him to the riot act! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 03:28 AM |
| 16 | There is hope!My major is pretty specialized, so I’ve been with the same classmates for the last year. It’s a good group, and the men have been great about being quiet and listening, and not centering things on themselves. So I guess they already showed HV traits, and this is just cake icing lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 12:00 AM |
| 29 | Next time he says women are “gold diggers” for wanting a stable guyI love it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 10:23 PM |
| 58 | "wait to have sex" labeled as "bad dating advice"...and all of the people in the comments applauding...“But, baby, can’t you see you’ve just been brainwashed by society into feeling like you need to wait?” (I am being sarcastic. I hope that’s obvious.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 08:34 PM |
| 99 | "wait to have sex" labeled as "bad dating advice"...and all of the people in the comments applauding...Sex-negative is a woman who puts her own comfort and needs above a man who wants to bust a nut 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 08:33 PM |
| 98 | "wait to have sex" labeled as "bad dating advice"...and all of the people in the comments applauding...Putting this on a pink background doesn’t make it any less written by a male. This advice is terrible. “Exploring sex from the beginning” is just another version of the lie some men barf about, “I can’t fall in love with a woman before having sex with her.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 08:30 PM |
| 38 | "What do I do when a man give me expensive gifts/do something nice for me?" - Say "Thank You", Smile, and Feel Happy that He CHOOSE to Do It.Expensive gifts early in a relationship are red flags, and would be my sign to break things off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 08:29 PM |
| 84 | There is hope!This is amazing! I love it! And our reactions refute men who think women are hypocrites who want women only spaces but won’t let a man have the same thing. We are against toxic spaces, which many, if not all, men only spaces were in the past. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 08:27 PM |
| 52 | al i can say is… jfcI had a FWB. We were friends first. When I found someone I wanted to date exclusively, my FWB said okay and congrats, and then we just went back to being regular friends. Tbh, if he had ever flirted with someone in front of me, I’d probably feel a moment of instinctive annoyance before remembering, “lol He’s not my boyfriend. Calm down.” I wouldn’t dwell on it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 05:56 PM |
| 266 | Next time he says women are “gold diggers” for wanting a stable guyI’ve asked men like this, “What’s wrong about wanting someone who is my equal?” But I ask just to push their buttons. Someone with this attitude is clearly a misogynist looking for an excuse to hate women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 05:51 PM |
| 9 | Anyone else had their "low quality posts" removed by the male overlords recently? High five. Free speech is scaring some of the boys. Discuss below and make bets on how quickly this thread will disappear and prove us right. If we're not right, the thread will stay.I thought I just pissed off someone so they flagged and contacted a mod 🤷🏻♀️😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 11:19 PM |
| 117 | A man will date you for weeks, have you be exclusive with him JUST to have sex and leave as soon as he gets it. This scares the hell out of me about dating, I wonder how one can vet this kind of behavior.The second he asks how I’d feel if he’s away a month at a time, he’s out. To me, that translates that he at least has a girlfriend already, maybe a wife and kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 10:48 PM |
| 175 | "Are you a feminist?" How do you answer this?“Are you a feminist?” What do my actions tell you? I dislike labels because people tend to get caught up in using them and not embodying them. So what do my actions tell you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 06:05 PM |
| 448 | She quit her job and is live-in childcare for her husband’s affair baby and is now being asked to cancel her birthday trip to babysitThis is going to make me angry if I read all of this, so I won’t (I made it about 3/4 of the way through the first image). I want to firmly take her by the shoulders, look in her eyes, and say, “Stop. Being. A doormat.” Her husband is a sh-tstain. He would never have come clean about the affair if tangible evidence hadn’t been produced. I’m not buying that it’s over, either. LW is behaving like a sucker. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 05:34 PM |
| 24 | this woman is a “love coach” she’s literally paid to say shit like this and scrotes are all over this shit 🤣One of the more ridiculous and offensive things I heard was a date who said, “I’m modern man. I expect you to work FT too while taking care of any future kids and the household like my (SAH) mom. I’m not going to oppress you by saying you have to choose one or the other.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 07:15 AM |
| 21 | this woman is a “love coach” she’s literally paid to say shit like this and scrotes are all over this shit 🤣Only the weakest of weak men targets “soft” women. No thank you. I need a real man with a spine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 07:12 AM |
| 10 | Age Gaps in the MediaWas Joaquin also accused of sexual harassment, or was that just his former BIL Casey Affleck? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 07:10 AM |
| 25 | Some of these aren't even dates 🤦Okay, I hear you, and could see this being part of a good date with a HV man, provided this isn’t the entirety of the date and he planned it specifically with you in mind and not a generic, “ This site said thrifting is a good date idea.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 07:03 AM |
| 50 | Talk of wealth is a redflag“Girls only like me for my money!” Like, my dude: there isn’t anything else of note about your hobbyless, interest-less self! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 02:56 AM |
| 23 | A FDS sister isn’t going to be on a coffee date, tho… 😂If not for privacy concerns, I would ask you to post pics from your pup’s photo shoot. It sounds adorable! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 01:42 AM |
| 27 | A FDS sister isn’t going to be on a coffee date, tho… 😂I’m stoked for you! Two of my friends wanted the procedure and were given so much trouble. Both were asked, “But what about the feelings of your future boyfriend/husband!!” Barf. One of these friends was really happy when she was diagnosed with a medical condition the necessitated a hysterectomy. It was the easiest path to get what she wanted for years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 11:29 PM |
| 114 | A FDS sister isn’t going to be on a coffee date, tho… 😂I interpreted it as “having sex with a LVM is like falling down the stairs: both will ruin your day.” Now I see what you see 😳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 10:28 PM |
| 131 | Talk of wealth is a redflagThe type you mentioned: - no gold diggers tho - no women who earn more because the men will feel bad about themselves - no women financially on par with them because these scrotes want someone better than (h they think of) themselves - final assessment: “Why am I still single! WoMeN’s StAnDaRdS aRe ToO hIgH!?!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 10:27 PM |
| 152 | A FDS sister isn’t going to be on a coffee date, tho… 😂I saw this on social media and guffawed on so many levels. One, we aren’t going on any coffee dates. Two, we aren’t having casual, unprotected sex! Do any of you start seeing new people around the holidays, tho? I avoid it because it feels ripe for misunderstandings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 10:17 PM |
| 2 | Episode infinity on "Men Who Tell On Themselves"I don’t know you, but I do know people who sound like you and go through a lot of mental gymnastics to excuse their prejudices. If this isn’t you, then it isn’t you. Have the day you deserve! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 10:07 PM |
| 59 | A Baby Cannot Trap a Man. A Baby Cannot Trap a Man.It’s hard for me to imagine not knowing this. My dad told me from almost my earliest memory how easy it is for men to walk away and leave a woman to save everything. Even now, in 2022, it’s so easy for a NVM to avoid any responsibility (I’m thinking of my friend’s ex and his enabling family). Lastly, I have zero respect or concern with men saying they didn’t want kids/want kids with that particular woman. They know the consequences of sex. Instead of trying to ban abortion, law makers should be … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 09:44 PM |
| 116 | About dating multiple men simultaneously : the etiquette?I wouldn’t tell unless he asked. I don’t think there’s a need until or if he decides he wants to commit to you. You don’t owe him anything. If he hasn’t clarified that you’re going to see only each other, it’s implied that you’re both still dating around. Which is fine. As you seem to already know, just don’t throw sex in there until he’s vetted and committed. No. A HVM will realize that you’re both free to see other people until you have that discussion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 09:38 PM |
| 235 | Talk of wealth is a redflagI started having negative associations surrounding men and their “wealth” when I had barely graduated high school and all these men my dad’s age waxed about their incomes, cars, property. It made me feel like they thought I was a prostitute. As I got older, I realized the best case scenario (and it’s still not great) is that a man bragging about his wealth has no other identity, nothing interesting about him, except his money. Insecure people do not make good dating partners! I’m glad you ditche… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 09:34 PM |
| -2 | Episode infinity on "Men Who Tell On Themselves"This sounds suspiciously close to, “I’m not racist BUT…” 🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 09:30 PM |
| 84 | for all those single dads who think I REALLY, REALLY NEEEEEED to marry again... what possible value would it bring to my life?I knew a man who said it’s because single moms come with dRaMa. Me and my ever happy big mouth asked, “And you don’t? I know your ex isn’t out of the picture.” lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 06:09 PM |
| 48 | Episode infinity on "Men Who Tell On Themselves"It’s Christianity, too. My friends thought they were meeting good, god-loving men like themselves, only to find themselves still subjected to the same sexual pressures. The only difference was the judgment and hypocrisy served with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 06:05 PM |
| 107 | Are most high value women “doomed”?My late husband was a HVM. I dated a few HVM before him (in the days of my glorious youth when I wasn’t ready to settle down lol). I feel that pairing with a HVM is partly a numbers game, and partly luck. You increase your chances of meeting a HVM by immediately cutting away LVM, and men who don’t match your criteria. This is what it looked like for me: I don’t expect a man to be the richest in the room (dated that. A high income and padded bank account doesn’t preclude him from being an inconsi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 06:00 PM |
| 293 | Comments tell her to "commUNIcate", OF is Not BAdHe just doesn’t understand that his lack of financial contribution and expecting her to cover child support is not okay. She needs to explain this to him!!!! (Everyone can see my sarcasm, right?) I do think she needs to talk to him, though. Her script should be something like, “This relationship isn’t working for me. You need to move out.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 05:24 PM |
| 423 | Comments tell her to "commUNIcate", OF is Not BAdOld. This is a test, and she’s failing herself. He’s fooled her into paying all the bills, and now he’s plotting to get her to pay child support. She better cut off sex from this fool and kick him out. And men say we’re gold diggers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 05:21 PM |
| 35 | LVM f*cked around, found out.When he mentioned her windows aren’t tinted, I thought, “And no one will know what she’s wearing unless they come right up to the window. Which they won’t.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 09:28 AM |
| 3 | LVM f*cked around, found out.“I missed two days of work because of her pettiness” Oh, sweetie… I know you thought you had a slam piece that doubled as a mommy, but in the real world? Nobody is going to put up with your LV crap. I guess nature was stronger than nurture, since your brother called you out, and your mom made sure your ex heard what an ass you are. It sounds like they’re good people, so I don’t know what went wrong with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 09:22 AM |
| 5 | That's NOT a date. Stop romanticising no effort! Tired of seeing awkward couples looking uncomfortable at thrifts and parksI don’t like thrifting, so this sounds like a godawful time to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 07:41 AM |
| 2 | The word “rude” is overused.Maybe the wrong sub, but OP isn’t wrong to call out people who weaponize “rude.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 07:37 AM |
| 1 | Why do men show up to our homes uninvited?I’m not reading your comment because you’ve shown you’re just here to try tear me down lol Work on yourself instead of hating on people who worked to get to where they are. Level up instead of indulging in petty jealousy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 12:24 AM |
| 46 | I've had to tell myself this after cutting a few toxic people out of my life, especially with long-term friends who have felt the need to pat me on the back and tell me that I've "come so far" every single time we speak. It comes off very patronizing and forced. DAE understand what I mean?There’s a version of this that goes something like, “Some people will refuse to acknowledge your growth because they like the version of you over which they held power.” I heard a lot of sh*t from a particular family member when she saw I shared it on Twitter. You’ll never guess why lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 03:35 PM |
| 15 | Is it a crime to wear fake brand?I spent good money on branded T-shirts of small, local businesses that I like. They can use the support and I’m happy to pay to advertise for them. Established designers who have been raking in the cash for decades? No. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 03:32 PM |
| 31 | Is it a crime to wear fake brand?I’m Asian American, but not specifically Korean, so I wonder if there is a cultural component to this? Maybe it’s a large scale version like snobs in high school who would ostracize someone for buying brand name jeans at Marshall’s instead of Nordstroms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 03:29 PM |
| 167 | No words…I LOVE DOGS. Surprising someone with a puppy is an a—hole move. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 02:51 AM |
| 94 | I love herBrb Gotta find the OP and gift her with platinum! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 01:08 AM |
| 57 | Woman levels up, LVM ex is vengeful and escalating. She's trying to co-parent for their daughter but it's entirely one sided.I couldn’t get past the third image. The absolute audacity of a cheater complaining that his ex-wife has moved on! Is she getting child support? If not, then she should have listed “father unknown” on the birth certificate just to completely sever ties with the sociopath. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 11:09 PM |
| 215 | Promise rings are a fucking joke.Same. I think it’s sweet when a teen on the path to being a HVM saves his allowance/earnings from a part time job for a promise ring signifying his sincerity and a placeholder for the bigger ring he will eventually buy for her. Promise rings aren’t cute once you’re in adulthood. Get a job and save up for a proper engagement ring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 07:00 PM |
| 10 | Spotted this ad under "housing" on craigslist 😬I’m willing to learn to code! Can you imagine the possibilités? Scrote: “Women care too much about height!” Scrote translator bot: “It sounds like you’re saying you have no redeeming qualities, but you choose to pretend the problem is stature.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 06:19 PM |
| 27 | Spotted this ad under "housing" on craigslist 😬lol Can you imagine if I made it into a bot and it auto replied to scrotes in all the subreddits? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 06:51 AM |
| 14 | The title was « exactly why you should do coffee dates first »I may try this the next time a man proposes a coffee date, but to a more expensive local restaurant (where the coffee is listed on the dessert menu lol) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 12:21 AM |
| 16 | On the term 'old wives' tales' in the English language and its cultural relevanceFor real? I thought it dated back to when older women were considered wise women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 12:15 AM |
| 426 | Spotted this ad under "housing" on craigslist 😬(runs through scrote translator) He’s actually 65, 300 lbs, and his ex has a restraining order. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 12:12 AM |
| 85 | Dirty Talk in the Sheets: Yay or Nay?I can maaaaaaybe see this working for somebody in a roleplaying/fantasy sense, where mutual respect had long been established. One of my coworkers has been married for forever, so I can imagine this coming up during one of her and her husband’s dates where they arrive separately, pretend they don’t know each other, and “go to his place for a one night stand.” (Awesome side story; one time, a woman she didn’t know enthusiastically approached her, treated her like they were best friends, pulled my… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 12:11 AM |
| 0 | Why do men show up to our homes uninvited?I’m as strong as I am because I fought to be here. I won’t lower myself to make you feel better. I wish you all the best on your journey to betterment. A good start would you do away with using“honey” the way you did. Your usage here makes you sound like a scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 11:58 PM |
| 154 | My friend says "I don't like men that are kind to me, they're boring, I like my men a little bit toxic" how to respond to her? She keeps ending up with trashy men, and when they use and discard her I'm the first person she comes running to and I'm sick of it😩Her: I like my men a little bit toxic. You: I don’t think you do, since you literally cry to me when they dump you. Why do you choose to set yourself up to fail? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 08:09 AM |
| 27 | Fresh Take: Men Who Rush For SexLike I said, they’re driven by their basest instincts, which means no thought. I understand the desire to assign motivation and thought, because then there’s a chance to hold them accountable to do better. But the type you mentioned? They’re barely human. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 12:36 AM |
| 30 | Let’s talk safety tips all women should know (even the obvious ones)Meet him at a well lit, busy location. I would never let a man pick me up at home (thereby letting him know where I live) unless I already knew him well via a social group. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 11:29 PM |
| 117 | Fresh Take: Men Who Rush For SexI think you’re giving them too much credit lol Men who rush for sex are simply the lowest of the low: creatures still functioning solely on the basest of evolutionary function. That is, stick it anywhere they can. No thought is happening at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 11:26 PM |
| 0 | Why do men show up to our homes uninvited?Wow. I expect this kind of “know your place” put down from a scrote, not a fellow woman in FDS. If I don’t think I’m amazing and HV, why would anyone else think so and treat me as such? If you do something well, own it! Don’t continue to buy into the patriarchal bullshit that women should be modest, and good things will come to us as long as we silently persevere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 06:11 PM |
| 21 | Vet the restaurant or venue he asked you to, especially if you're new to townDive bars are a no-go, but many of my favorite restaurants with literally the best food in their category are in places that look sketchy on Google maps. This is one of those things I’d need to take on a case by case basis, and dip into my extensive network when applicable to verify whether a restaurant has any sort of reputation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 04:20 PM |
| -11 | Why do men show up to our homes uninvited?This has never happened to me 🤷🏻♀️ I suppose I vet well enough so I don’t date people who lack a basic grasp on manners. Edit: I hope every person who downvotes hasn’t feigned support on posts about not lowering yourself to make others feel better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 04:12 PM |
| 98 | He accused me of being a “gold digger” and threatened to end the relationship after me not wanting to put out on date #5. It backfired. How grey rocking can protect you!!!The worst part is that it’s not about her making the exception. If she was this “easy” with him, she must be so for everyone. Never mind that he didn’t wait, either. Oh no. The hypocrisy is infuriating. Bonus scumbag points for scrotes who plead that they depend on women for moral guidance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 01:26 AM |
| 477 | He accused me of being a “gold digger” and threatened to end the relationship after me not wanting to put out on date #5. It backfired. How grey rocking can protect you!!!lol He wants a woman with dignity who doesn’t rush into sex. If this is true, he basically showed you he doesn’t see you as ltr material. If you went away for the weekend, y’all would f-ck, and he’d either ghost or tell you YOU move to fast. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 10:58 PM |
| 36 | Men who give unsolicited feedback during dating?For me, it depends on the vibe I got when I was with him. If I had the feeling he was snobby, the job app remark wouldn’t sit well with me. If we had a lot of good banter, I might take it as an attempt at a joke (and most likely reply, “We appreciate your interest, and will keep your application in our pool for six months should anything arise that fits your skill set.”) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 10:32 PM |
| 17 | As a psychologist, I think something we need to do is stop using men’s mental health as an excuse for their asshole/disrespectful behaviorWhat the actual f-ck?! I’m not a psychologist but I don’t think any of this behavior stems from a diagnosis. He’s a creep who needs his balls shoved down his own throat, just for starters. Wtf. Have some standards, women! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 07:03 PM |
| 44 | Getting to see men's true colors after some pictures of me were used in an advertising campaign.Ugh, I know right! I got mad thinking of these scrotes assuming, “Wtf, b-tch? You let them post your photos so obviously you’re a sl-t!” These scrotes are so stupid they think a woman breathing means we should put out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 07:00 PM |
| 40 | Getting to see men's true colors after some pictures of me were used in an advertising campaign.Congrats on being included in the campaign, OP! That’s amazing! And it’s amazing that you do triathlons. That’s on my bucket list. I’m sorry you’re dealing with nasty, inappropriate scrotes, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 06:59 PM |
| 16 | 10 year age gapExactly. OP, how did you meet? OLD? Only sketchy 30somethings actively seek partners 10 years their juniors. It’s predatory, stemming from the fact that women in their age group know better than to date them. Your instincts are realizing something your brain hasn’t articulated. Ghost this one. Block him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 06:56 PM |
| 64 | One thing these scrotes gonna do is drop their masks. Their real intentions show when they feel they have trapped their wives. Girl run!I’m the days where it was “a mother’s job to push through,” there was a community. Grandmothers, aunts, cousins converged and mutually helper each other. Western society, especially men, conveniently ignore this in their push for women can do everything and have done so for ages. I hope she divorced him and drags him for alimony and child support. Have fun losing most of your paycheck AND turning off your own lights, POS scrote! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 06:53 PM |
| 251 | This poor woman thinks this is funny 😳I have a ribald sense of humor, but I think this is crossing a line. Google suggests that the starting price for something like this is $200, which to me says, “I’m willing to spend a lot of money to let you know how I think you’re trash.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 06:48 PM |
| 11 | Groom smashes bride’s face into cake & she rightfully is leaving himI read another columnist whose response was “get divorced” when the LW’s husband said he didn’t like their child’s fiancée because she’s Black. The comments section was rife with people saying nobody values marriage anymore. Excuse me sir, but we are not talking about cake flavors. Grossly conflicting morals/values are a perfect reason yo divorce. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 04:40 PM |
| 60 | Groom smashes bride’s face into cake & she rightfully is leaving himWhat what WHAT Ditch all of these people, too. What the actual f-ck. If any of my friends was with someone who did something with traumatic associations, I would be by her side telling her she’s a hero for leaving; let’s go grab brunch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 09:49 PM |
| 7 | Men are crying out that no one cares about their mental healthIs it really that common for men not to have close male friends? With the exception of one ex, every man I dated had close male friends he could talk to and call on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 05:37 PM |
| 121 | Men are crying out that no one cares about their mental healthIs this because women aren’t making the appointments and nagging them into going? Edit: In case it’s not clear, I’m not looking down on women or saying this is our responsibility. In my experience, men don’t do any kind of regular health maintenance…unless the women in their lives make them. And then men get mad about that! Men have to take responsibility for themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 07:36 AM |
| 44 | He lied to this woman (and pretty much everyone else) for TWO YEARS and, of course, she's the problem.It’s not about his height. It’s that he lied, never came clean, and it is 100% fair that she’s concerned about what else he might be hiding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 02:45 AM |
| 74 | And she has no plan on divorcing him. Just wants to protect her cash. 🎪This cannot end well if she stays. What’s she going to do when (not if) he opens lines of credit with her info? What good will it do her if she isn’t responsible for his debts, but all their money is gone, their home is repossessed or their credit is too terrible to qualify for a lease? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 02:43 AM |
| 167 | Nothing Good Happens After 10pmAt the time I thought they were ruining my life lol The most laughable part was that I thought they couldn’t remember what it was like to be young. Oh, they remembered. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 12:36 AM |
| 317 | Nothing Good Happens After 10pmI had a 9 p.m. curfew all through high school and was only allowed to hang out with boys if we were in a large mixed group. My parents dropped my girlfriends and me off, and picked us up. They talked to my friends at the site to make sure my info coincides with theirs. Thanks, Mom and Dad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 11:59 PM |
| 11 | Whyyyy do men comment on this sub, knowing they'll be deleted........🧠🦧I saw this happen once. It was especially wild because the contents clearly revealed he was male (but Nice Guy male 🙄) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 02:54 AM |
| 23 | You will KNOW when a man wants you as his everything. Because HE KNOWS right away.What?! Men who were interested in me always got in touch by the next day, tops. Many squeezed in a quick same day, no pressure message: “Just checking to make sure you got home ok. I had a great time and can’t wait to see you again.” I feel two days shows a lack of interest. Forget about a week. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 01:13 AM |
| 132 | Whyyyy do men comment on this sub, knowing they'll be deleted........🧠🦧I think it’s hilarious. Imagine them expending energy, thinking they’re about to tell us what’s up, and nobody ever sees it lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 01:06 AM |
| 105 | Ladies who have taken back an ex, did he change and what made you take him back?My sister had a coworker whose ex made this threat and followed through. My takeaway is to find a good therapist post-breakup so that women don’t incorrectly blame themselves in the worse case scenario. I personally wouldn’t feel guilt because I believe it’s an indication of things that have nothing to do with me, but my sister’s coworker had a breakdown. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 09:41 PM |
| 33 | Ladies who have taken back an ex, did he change and what made you take him back?I was raised in a religious household, which largely affected my views on sex, and my value thereof. I took back an ex because he was the first man I had ever had sex with. This is why I am strongly against attaching a hypocritical value to sex. Women are adversely affected by this idea of pUrItY. Oh and he didn’t change. Thank goodness the next breakup stuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 09:39 PM |
| 123 | A Curated Selection from OLDI feel like this is really common but people in the poly community don’t like to talk about it. I know a woman who used her “veto power” on every potential her main BF brought up (he only vetoed her once). I know a man who, after having multiple others, was hysterical after his main gf found somebody she was interested in. The ones with the best intentions might want to prove that this is doable, but let’s be real: maintaining a 1:1 relationship is already work. Adding more people does not make … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 09:30 PM |
| 153 | A Curated Selection from OLDI know one person - a woman, for what it’s worth - who is poly and seems thoughtful and well adjusted. The men I’ve encountered have all been gross, and the other women either reluctant or delusional. No thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 04:58 PM |
| 388 | A Curated Selection from OLDEvery time I see “ethically non-monogamous,” I wonder if their partners know 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 04:55 PM |
| 18 | The Fantasy vs The Reality ✨this one 😂🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 06:14 AM |
| 84 | Play stupid games, win stupid prizesWait, the man’s sperm determines the sex, right? Am I the only one who finds it suspicious that he had four daughters, and suddenly a son with the woman who wanted to baby trap him? I feel like, while definitely a possibility, the probability was very small. Regardless, I’m glad that his wife is free. This scrote is an idiot and I just can’t with these cheaters and the “my wife was the love of my life.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 12:18 AM |
| 192 | The Fantasy vs The Reality ✨I always hope this was her wake up call that she could do better and deserves better, and that she left his sorry scrote self over this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 11:16 PM |
| 641 | The Fantasy vs The Reality ✨lol Things like this make me think of the Redditor who pressured his girlfriend into an open relationship. Surprising no one but the scrote, she was bombarded with 🍆 and he got nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 10:44 PM |
| 112 | Valentine’s Day Has Always Been the Saddest Year of the Time For MeCan we redefine something? Making our needs known is not clingy. It’s completely fair to state your needs, then see how he responds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 06:03 PM |
| 96 | Being single protects men from drama and politics, ladies. Leave them alone.If I was as mean as scrotes think I am, I’d date them, let them have a peek at my home, and passive-aggressively never let them inside. And lol at the man cave and stacks of money. Most men these days don’t even know how to change a tire, never mind power tools. And they don’t have the money to pay someone to do that setup, The ones who defy everything I wrote are happily coupled, because guess who brings the drama and stress when a LVM is involved. I just saw the other slides. LOL at plenty of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 05:59 PM |
| 34 | Eve doesn't date single fathers, or: cultural misogyny in a nutshell, or: the audacityI bet if the penalty was to get their d-ck chopped off, all men would realize fidelity is indeed a choice for both sexes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 05:03 PM |
| 84 | Eve doesn't date single fathers, or: cultural misogyny in a nutshell, or: the audacityI just applaud all the women here, everywhere really, who recognize this is Bs. What if anything ever happens to the mother? What if she decides she’s had enough and drops the kids off with dad? A LVM like this won’t think twice about passing them off to whatever woman is in his life because women are so much more nurturing, she’s better at this than he is, etc etc | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 05:01 PM |
| 113 | Eve doesn't date single fathers, or: cultural misogyny in a nutshell, or: the audacityAnd it totally works since women are always being told, “Well you knew it was a possibility!” Men, these biological superior and solely logical /SARCASM) creatures of the world know that pregnancy is a possibility, AND a woman have the ultimate choice in whether to carry to term or terminate. If a man doesn’t like that, then he needs to keep his legs closed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 03:26 PM |
| 85 | Eve doesn't date single fathers, or: cultural misogyny in a nutshell, or: the audacityDo they really count as divorced men when their exes are always at fault? /sarcasm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 03:21 PM |
| 190 | Eve doesn't date single fathers, or: cultural misogyny in a nutshell, or: the audacity“they don’t even have custody” All the red flags have suddenly combusted, casting light on a crimson sky that is actually the biggest red flag of all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 03:20 PM |
| 8 | When they come back please tell them to go straight to hell, do not pass go, do not collect $200!!I’m also not here for his equivalent of “I’m sorry you feel that way.” F-ck him and good riddance! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 01:51 AM |
| 5 | When they come back please tell them to go straight to hell, do not pass go, do not collect $200!!Omg He hasn’t changed at all! Too selfish to comfort his girlfriend after a robbery. Now too selfish to accept he f-cked up. He had a lot going on. Like she didn’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 01:50 AM |
| 246 | Scrotes don’t know what they wantlol ok, true “I want someone to dote on me, take care of me, and do all the things people do when committed to each other, but without the commitment. And I won’t do the same for you.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 10:50 PM |
| 30 | Same dudes who have/want to have casual sex will look down on YOU for having a history of it. The hypocrisy. Yet another reason to stay away from casual sex AND slutty guys, they're hypocrites with insane Madonna-whore complexes and STDs/STIs who think they're a prize to be won.All these boxes yet this scrote probably can’t get his underwear in the laundry hamper. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 10:10 PM |
| 44 | Guy I dated thinks a woman should design and furnish his new apartment. Proudly establishes he WANTS to be a project.Men: we are biologically superior and natural leaders Also men: elementary tasks like cooking, cleaning, and basic decor befuddle me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 10:08 PM |
| 83 | Pretend you can't cookAh, flashbacks to the man who said my food is good but nobody cooks as well as his mom. Out the door he went! lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 10:01 PM |
| 5 | How to approach multi-dating?I think it’s a given that we are both dating multiple people until there’s the discussion about becoming exclusive. I wouldn’t volunteer the information, partly as a precaution. If touch clouds your judgment that much, I suggest doing your best to avoid whatever forms affect you the most. This could even be a vetting process: tell him that you want to get to know him as a person, and even these little intimacies cloud your judgment. A potentially HVM will respect that. A LVM will proceed to take… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 05:34 PM |
| 2 | How to approach multi-dating?We like to be called cReAtOrS now, not influencers lol And I would never want to date another “influencer.” I have an actual product (NOT mlm, lol; I’m an artist) to promote. I feel most influencers, or at least the most known ones, get by on being the outrageous flavor of the moment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 05:28 PM |
| 6 | What are warning signs that the man may become physically abusive?Isolation is a big one and sneaky too, I think. It looks nice that he wants to spend more time with you, then all the time with you, and next thing you know your best friend is jealous and trying to break y’all up, and your family obviously hates him, and and…! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 05:24 PM |
| 52 | Trust your feelings and the strategyEw, no. I would be so turned off by a man’s “wait and see” attitude about issues that can and should be considered ahead of time. Good for you for walking away! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 05:22 PM |
| 197 | Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him powerActual nice guys don’t stay single for long, even if they’re ugly. That’s all I have to say about that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 05:20 PM |
| 1 | he has abs and attends uni, so because of this he believes he should be drowning in attractive women. proceeds to whine for several paragraphsIt’s funny how people like him will think going to the gym 6x a week = maintaining health, but a woman doing the same thing isn’t healthy if she isn’t also a size 00. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 05:01 PM |
| 1 | “Do You Like Kids?”, Being Used to Judge if You Are a Bitch or a Nice PersonDoes she ever call you that your face/to get your attention? My aunt had a coworker like that in the 60s, but using racism. She chose to ignore him during a crucial work event until he finally started using her name. Maybe ignore your coworker the same way, because she does not deserve your attention to begin with, even less so if she’s so derisive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 11:19 PM |
| 85 | Proof that the main beneficiary of casual sex & relationships is men!!!!My parents always said that sex means different things to men and women, and no matter what anyone else says, this is still depressingly true. Women tend to associate sex with feelings. I think some of us are lying to ourselves if we deny it. I know so many women who insisted sex was casual, just a good time for both of them…and then they get mad when the men don’t call them. That’s not casual. There’s some level of I vestment. For men, sex is usually just a means for physical pleasure. They don… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 08:32 AM |
| 38 | Men need to stop being celebrated for the bare minimum. 👏🏼 All neurotypical/able-bodied adults should know how to take care of themselves & have their basic needs met. The coddling needs to stop.If all somebody has dated are manbabies, then a functional male adult does initially look like a rainbow unicorn! lol This is, in part, what we should look for, however. I’m not against making soup and putting a straw in a bottle of Gatorade for a partner, but I don’t coddle adults. As an aside, I briefly dated a man who claimed his mom wasn’t very nurturing. I think that’s sad, but also not my responsibility. At least he let me know upfront that he was looking for somebody to compensate for tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 02:48 AM |
| 25 | he has abs and attends uni, so because of this he believes he should be drowning in attractive women. proceeds to whine for several paragraphsWell I just dry heaved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 02:12 AM |
| 74 | he has abs and attends uni, so because of this he believes he should be drowning in attractive women. proceeds to whine for several paragraphsThe worst are the ones who say they don’t act their age. Oh… So you look like my grandpa but act the fool like younger men when you should know better? If I was into that I’d just date the younger ones. At least they’re nice to look at. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 02:11 AM |
| 38 | he has abs and attends uni, so because of this he believes he should be drowning in attractive women. proceeds to whine for several paragraphsHe’s not even a gym bro. He’s someone who goes to the gym six days a week. lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 02:10 AM |
| 23 | he has abs and attends uni, so because of this he believes he should be drowning in attractive women. proceeds to whine for several paragraphs“I’m lean enough to have visible abs” … …lol. That’s not work or achievements; that’s youth. So he has a mediocre body and no personality. Gee. I can’t understand why he’s having issues dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 02:08 AM |
| 58 | Are men seriously trying to normalize erectile dysfunction now??? 😬😬One of my exes was so used to jerking it that he could not get off through any means but his hand. This was a man in his early 20s. Quit the porn and master debating, boys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 02:05 AM |
| 37 | another one from the online dating worldThis is one of those “jokes” where you need to know the person. It’s not a casual drop thing. My best friends and I tease each other about who’s an old woman (we’re all like a month apart in age, but also we’re never insecure about this stuff so it’s okay among us). I have a coworker whose mom would pit her and her sisters against each other though: who’s thinnest, prettiest, looks her age or younger. I would never even hint at an age joke with her because it would devastate her. You need to kno… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 02:02 AM |
| 363 | Proof that the main beneficiary of casual sex & relationships is men!!!!My mom gave me similar advice, which I didn’t take. It took me years to realize she meant to go out, get to know people, and stop hyper focusing on marriage because I would make better decisions if I saw men as people instead of a means to an end 🤦🏻♀️ “Date casually” means to not tie yourself down: date multiple people until you find one that you want to spend more time, then focus. Don’t pick one, focus on it, and trap yourself for weeks or months until you realize he ain’t it. Definitely get … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:58 AM |
| 23 | 'The audacity': TikToker calls out man for requesting $4 via Apple Pay after saying he'd pay for their coffee date. She’s a Queen 👑! I’m Glad She Called Him Out. The Only Person Playing Games Was Him! $4 Coffee Dates Don’t Equate To Sex! He’s Just Upset, He Didn’t Get What He Wanted.😂It’s 2022! You think it’s easy to get a man to pay for coffee? Good luck with your unreasonable expectations! /sarcasm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:52 AM |
| 12 | 'The audacity': TikToker calls out man for requesting $4 via Apple Pay after saying he'd pay for their coffee date. She’s a Queen 👑! I’m Glad She Called Him Out. The Only Person Playing Games Was Him! $4 Coffee Dates Don’t Equate To Sex! He’s Just Upset, He Didn’t Get What He Wanted.😂Lol at that scrote acting like coffee is a refundable downpayment for a second date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:51 AM |
| 2 | “Do You Like Kids?”, Being Used to Judge if You Are a Bitch or a Nice PersonI believe people like this are aggressive a—holes but they think they’re sneaky. Hell, I guess they are sneaky because their methods can be excused as they’re just making conversation, they didn’t realize, etc. Idk; I feel like it’s common sense that people shouldn’t insist on a conversation when it’s obvious the other person doesn’t want to engage but maybe not? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:49 AM |
| 0 | I asked my boyfriend what he would do if I decided to keep the baby - was his answer a red flag?A lot of this post read like a friend asking me what I think her boyfriend/husband/whatever meant. Like I told my friends before they, too, leveled up: ask him, and whatever he says, take it at face value. This works for any type of relationship: what did my sister mean when she…, what did my best (girl) friend mean by… Don’t ask me. Ask them. I don’t know if I’d call my previous comment communicate as much as clarification. His response is going to tell her more than we ever could, and she’s th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:45 AM |
| 12 | Dating strategy: If you're single, carefully cultivating a group of male friends is a great way to vet for mate compatibility and secure resourcesI have male friends and think it’s a bad idea to actively try to turn a man into a friend if you know he’s attracted to you. It’s a waste of time to turn this into a long game. Initial attraction is one thing, but HVM (and HVW) can tell early on if something has the possibility of working out, and friendzone accordingly. That’s friendship, not a long term effort of conditioning and testing somebody to see if he respects your boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 06:47 PM |
| 27 | “Do You Like Kids?”, Being Used to Judge if You Are a Bitch or a Nice PersonYour comment reminded me of a pushy coworker (not about kids but something else) who caught me when I was having a bad day about something else. So I just let loose with the tears I’d been holding back. Other nearby coworkers came to check on me and a whimpered about pushy coworkers comments and how I was just at the edge. Lol. She left me tf alone after that and it was weeks before everyone else stopped giving her the cold shoulder. Note: I’m normally very stoic so I think seeing someone like m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 06:40 PM |
| 14 | “Do You Like Kids?”, Being Used to Judge if You Are a Bitch or a Nice PersonI only read about 1/3 of your post because your coworker is making me very angry. I would tell her that my siblings are very uptight about privacy and don’t like people discussing their kids, period. If she pushes, I’d make up some BS story that they saw on the news that a mom’s coworker was actually a human trafficker who asked too many questions so she could steal the kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 06:35 PM |
| 132 | Awww, this poor baby! Let’s guess what actually happened.What’s that zipping in the air above his head…? Oh, it’s the point. ETA: Lol at the man who replied “not even the FBI would be able to get this out of me.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 06:22 PM |
| 179 | Someone in the comments said stories like this are why FDS exists 😂I love this comment: You ain’t shit, I swear to some deity you better not use any of that shit she bought or even look at it. Sit on the floor, buy YOUR OWN sheets for the bed and don’t use anything “you don’t need” What the fuck dude do you not use soap when you wash your hands? Why wouldn’t you need a soap dispenser??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 07:35 AM |
| 248 | Someone in the comments said stories like this are why FDS exists 😂I’m angry just thinking about it! “AITA for wanting to take half the furniture even if I didn’t pay for it? The way I see it we were in a relationship for xx years so isn’t she petty for not giving me anything? And I had to put up with her which I think can’t be calculated in dollars.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 05:46 AM |
| 119 | Someone in the comments said stories like this are why FDS exists 😂You know this cheapass scrote is going to take all the credit when his friends say how nice “his” place is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 04:16 AM |
| 176 | Studying for a psych test. Thought you would appreciate this tidbit- postpartum depression in men is related to feeling “replaced by baby” 😭😭😭The last part sounds like pouty manbabies refusing to parent because they’re jealous. This is why we need to stop allowing L/NVM to procreate with us. A HVM coparents. In the caveman days, the L/NVM were the ones who ate their own young. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 04:15 AM |
| 536 | Someone in the comments said stories like this are why FDS exists 😂I want to laugh, but we all know he’s going to end up using every single thing he professes he doesn’t need, and have some stupid excuse for why it’s okay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 03:07 AM |
| 3 | Scrote is trying to take his date to a storage unit to make her clean it!Um…if somebody invite me to a storage unit for a first (or second or third…) date, I’d think he’s a serial killer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 01:46 AM |
| 2 | Should we avoid dating men of certain occupations if we don't want kids?I have friends competing for the title World’s Best Aunt/Uncle. They love their nieces and nephews. They enjoy hanging out with them and doing stuff with them. They don’t want to actually parent anyone, though. People can like kids/like working with kids, and still be child free! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 01:44 AM |
| 5 | Should we avoid dating men of certain occupations if we don't want kids?lol Nah sis, not how it works. And as many child free people can tell you, they can enjoy working with kids and even like kids while still not wanting to have their own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 01:42 AM |
| 52 | Did anyone else hear about this? idk if they’re trying to be the new edgelord couple, but if my man designs an engagement ring that hurts to take off, Imma have to pass on his assExactly. Megan Fox’s formative dating years were spent being groomed by her NVX. She’s having them now, with all the “edginess” of a teenager who thinks she’s not like other girls. I really hope this is all for show and he’s not a douche behind closed doors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 01:40 AM |
| 26 | Ladies please don’t do this. You deserve your dream ring!I can’t imagine sticking around for six years if I want marriage. If we haven’t talked about it, and more importantly if he hasn’t proposed, after one year but before the end of the second year, then he’s not that interested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 01:35 AM |
| 12 | Ladies please don’t do this. You deserve your dream ring!The other day, I learned that you can save thousands of dollars by going down .1: .9 instead of 1 carat, 1.9 instead of 2 carats, etc. Visually, you can’t tell the difference. That said, he doesn’t want to marry her. If he did, she wouldn’t be waiting. I hope she sees the light soon and leaves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 01:31 AM |
| 3 | Man wants to bring his young daughter on a first dateI know!! But it makes sense when you think of all the single sperm donors who date just to have free childcare. They’re looking for the path of least resistance, always. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 07:02 PM |
| 525 | You can date a man for ten months, think you're his girlfriend and he will still say you're "casual" and go behind your back and find a whole new girlfriend.This queen must have sensed something was off with him (he was seeing other women) and didn't sleep with him.lol Plot twist: he’s been friend zoned this entire time, with her occasionally leaning in because she wanted a cuddling partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 01:01 AM |
| 309 | This is what we mean when we say don't go 50/50. You'll be doing 100% of the childrearing while he's at work and he will expect you to give up your savings as well.No. That’s an emergency fund. If he pushes, then I guess he’s moving by himself. Have fun paying for all the moving expenses plus child support. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 12:37 AM |
| 12 | There are plenty more fish in the bucket.I didn’t even notice the other two! Alt caption: “Babe, I brought some of my boys home to game! Make us some food? Thanks babe! You’re such a good cook. Can you run to the store and get us some beers too?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 11:23 PM |
| 177 | There are plenty more fish in the bucket.Clockwise from top left: thinks women’s standards are too high because they think he should bathe more than once a month, and brush his teeth twice a day all of his exes are horrible people and what does a common denominator have to do with anything? looking for a woman to take care of him like a mom, but also endure his “kinks” blames the liberals and f3mc3ls for his inability to get a date | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 06:00 PM |
| 46 | Man wants to bring his young daughter on a first dateRight? And I’m not talking about taking the kid on a cross country flight with him and the girlfriend. He thinks it’s a-OK to send the child solo with a woman he’s known all of six weeks. Wtf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 05:07 PM |
| 33 | This Queen nails itI have feelings on this! Like when people wax about how people knew how to love, commit, and compromise in their grandparents’ day. No. Women just had fewer, if any, options. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 05:05 PM |
| 35 | We don't do that no moreHow… how can they actually express this without being revolted? How can these same scrotes want this but mock us for any perceived “daddy issues”? Lastly, I have NEVER, and never will, want a partner who is my father. WHY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:54 PM |
| 70 | Man wants to bring his young daughter on a first dateOne of my acquaintances is going through this. The last I heard, she was bringing in the lawyers to formally adjust the custody agreement, and rightfully so. Her ex wants to do things like let his girlfriend of the moment fly cross country with the child (kindergarten age), and trying to gaslight my acquaintance into thinking she’s overprotective. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:51 PM |
| 83 | Man wants to bring his young daughter on a first dateI would be so turned off. This screams that he lacks common sense and/or concern for his child’s well-being. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:47 PM |
| 16 | Man wants to bring his young daughter on a first dateWell, at least he let you know early on that he’s looking for a free babysitter. Like dude, dare when your child is with her mom or a sitter. And don’t introduce her to dates until/unless it becomes something serious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:46 PM |
| 37 | How to not get anxious before dates?lol We’re never going to see all the autoblocked comments from scrotes whining how dare we think they’re lucky to sit across from us, but it’s true! Like sex, getting dates is easy for women. (It’s true, sisters. If you think about it, you’ve turned down a lot of men who aren’t suitable for you.) Men are lucky we’ve let them into our space. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:45 PM |
| 56 | How to not get anxious before dates?If you are vetting properly, it shouldn’t feel like getting tossed next to someone you know nothing about. I go into every meeting with the belief that people are fortunate to spend time with me. I’m awesome, and as long as I believe that, it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. And only a loser would try to knock me down a peg or two instead of thinking it’s amazing that two awesome people managed to connect. Unleash your inner awesome, sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:42 PM |
| 597 | They always tell on themselves, sometimes sooner than othersBullet point version: - cheater - slob - what’s his is his, what’s yours is his also - thinks his pnis is more impressive than it actually is - doesn’t believe in consensual sex | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:39 PM |
| 164 | FDS exercise: How many red flags can you spot before he went bashit crazy?“Thinking of drawing my white trace all over you” Blocked and deleted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 07:19 AM |
| 69 | 'He proposed and a few days later we went ring shopping'“I don’t know what style she likes!” pay attention to the jewelry she wears. Take a few photos when she’s not around and bring it to the jeweler so they can give suggestions ask her. Look, you can maybe fail a little if she realizes you don’t pay attention, or fail spectacularly by proposing without a ring. The latter conveys that you’re lazy, don’t give a sh-t, and she should probably dump you. Choose wisely bring her sister of BFF, but have your own ideas beforehand. She’s there just to confir… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 12:20 AM |
| 136 | She Needed FDS a Long Time AgoSome people have been completely fooled by…I just drew a blank. Liberal feminism? The thought that marriage is just a piece of paper, it’s archaic to get married before having children together. Granted, he still would have cheated, but she’d have a good chance to go for half of everything during the divorce proceedings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 12:13 AM |
| 30 | A few months ago told my friend dating a particular single dad is a mistake, she said I'm being prejudiced. Today sent me a long paragraph about how right I was.Never date a man who talks trash about former partners, period. Because when you break up? You’ll be in that line up too. Ugh. I can already hear him telling future gfs that your friend wasn’t nurturing, hated children, and made his feel unwanted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 07:55 PM |
| 4 | How to reconcile with the fact that my brother doesn't support the FDS strategies, although he is an HVM?INFO What kinds of things have you told him about, and how did you present it? I’m going to generalize about something I see a lot in this subreddit (get your downvotes ready! lol): some people miss the forest for the trees. I’m not saying this is necessarily you because I obviously don’t know you. But I remember a few posts and comments expressing surprise that a man with a high income who spent a lot of money on dates was LV. I see remarks from people who seem to think ticking off items in the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 07:52 PM |
| 53 | Saw this elsewhere and yupAnd let’s not forget her: First day: he was the love of my life and I do t know how I’ll ever be okay! In a week: I forgot how much I loved doing certain things, and stopped because he hated it and ridiculed me. This feels…good! In a month: I didn’t realize how much of myself I suppressed for him. My heart feels lighter, I’ve had several men ask me out, and I’m realizing that he was far from the best thing out there. My life is way better now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 04:50 AM |
| 4 | Could dating be anymore discouraging for women today? 🤦♀️ I found a log book today that logs potential online dating matchesYou can get it and fill it out like a memoir! I might get this and share entries here lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 04:46 AM |
| 94 | Saw this elsewhere and yupIf these came with thought bubbles, it would go something like this for him: First Day: I’m gonna get so much p-ssy now that I’m single! In a week: “I haven’t had sex in a week!” In a month: “I’m going to be alone forever.” Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 10:36 PM |
| 106 | Why is there so many "crazy" mother-in-laws? (Let's discuss from the perspective of FDS)My friend’s now parents-in-law thought they were making a huge power play when they told their son it was them or my friend. He chose my friend and didn’t talk to his parents or siblings for over a decade. Mail was returned to sender. Calls were ignored. Occasionally, he would throw them a bone: “We can be a family again when you accept my wife and are at least civil to her, and you owe us an apology.” And then more distance from him when they how-dare-you’d. But they eventually apologized to th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 10:34 PM |
| 25 | Why is there so many "crazy" mother-in-laws? (Let's discuss from the perspective of FDS)The majority of my relationships have been with HVM. I believe healthy family dynamics lead to a higher probability of raising a HVM, so most of my boyfriend’s mom (and my late husband’s mother) were wonderful people who respected others. When I think of monsters-in-law, only one comes to mind: the mother of the man who drove home that taking me on elaborate vacations, buying me expensive gifts, owning property, and a high income do not a HVM make! His mom simply wasn’t nice. And that’s putting … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 10:26 PM |
| 91 | He knows he’s hurting her but he enjoys it 🤮Let me run this through the scrote translater: Her: I don’t like it. Him: IDGAF. That’s it. Nothing cutesy or (weaponized) incompetence like, “I know your love it.” He doesn’t care. And it doesn’t feel better than PIV; he c*ms from the lack of consent; NVM don’t want to believe this, but feeling like you can’t say no is NOT consent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 10:13 PM |
| 20 | Could dating be anymore discouraging for women today? 🤦♀️ I found a log book today that logs potential online dating matchesIs this a journal? Because I love topic journals, even messy ones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 10:10 PM |
| 47 | Why Casual Sex is a heck no! UK men admit they only disclose chronic STD’s to women they aren’t just using for sex.Hm, standards and dying alone after living my life the way I want, or no standards and being somebody’s servant until I die first… It’s such a difficult choice (/sarcasm) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 10:27 PM |
| 56 | Why Casual Sex is a heck no! UK men admit they only disclose chronic STD’s to women they aren’t just using for sex.I saw a Tik Tok where someone said a quick and sharp vetting strategy is asking a man to login and show not just the results of his most recent STD tests but also when was the last time he had a checkup. Or if he even has a primary care physician. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 10:25 PM |
| 39 | Let’s talk about choosing not to blocklol I bet that teen is running to her friends asking what people really mean when they…!? For me, blocking is a way to put someone in their place: I’m gonna pretend they don’t exist, and blocking facilitates this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 10:23 PM |
| 69 | A cautionary tale on why you shouldn't settle for less. Break up at the first sign.Oh no, I cringed at her moving in five months ago. That doesn’t read as relationship progress but moving in to pay the bills. Nope nope nope. And I get that he’s making less but he owed her that cake for all the money she saved him. (Since the horse has already left the barn and she’s already moved in.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 10:19 PM |
| 21 | We have a fragile one.There are some straight members who only post and comment to say men are trash (and then downvote me to hell when I ask why are they here if they have no intention of ever dating again lol), but they’re not the whole subreddit. But of course scrotes are going to ignore the overwhelming helpful and informative posts that don’t fit their narrative. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 10:16 PM |
| 18 | We have a fragile one.“An echo chamber for dating horror stories” Considering how many scrotes think they’re “nice guys,” it doesn’t surprise me that they think we’re swapping isolated bad experiences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 10:12 PM |
| 158 | I’m just going to leave this here: “Mick Jagger, 78, is finally settling down with 35-year-old ‘gal pal.’”I read a line in Crazy Rich Asians where the matriarch says the “right woman” is the one who happens to be there when the man decides he wants to settle down. I think this is just true for LVM, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 06:04 PM |
| 13 | Back up the handbook? Anyone want to help??I wonder if there’s already one on the FDS website. If so (and I’ll check myself when I get to my computer at home), mods, I volunteer to help put together the wiki! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 06:01 PM |
| 60 | I can't get over my ex-LVM dating someone 15 years younger than him. Also, thank god for this sub.I wouldn’t solely because of the high probability she’d cling harder to prove she didn’t make a mistake. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 05:59 PM |
| 122 | I can't get over my ex-LVM dating someone 15 years younger than him. Also, thank god for this sub.She’s 27? And they’ve been dating for a few years? I hope she snaps out of it soon. I can well imagine what she’s thinking (“he hasn’t realized his dreams because no one believed in him!”), but fingers crossed that her friends are doing better and she’s realizing your ex for what he really is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 05:58 PM |
| 613 | girl whatlol I looked it up, and in my state, they have documents in case one party tries to evade being served. Good luck with his soap opera fantasy of refusing to divorce. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 05:36 AM |
| 432 | girl whatWow, is he ever a piece of garbage! I want to believe the post is made up, but one of my friends went through something similar (her ex wanted to be a professional gamer). I’m glad that she has a good head on her shoulders and is divorcing instead of second guessing herself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 05:33 AM |
| 47 | The audacityDid she, though? I suspect she got up to use the bathroom and he took his chance. If I somehow found myself married to this, I would call the nurses to kick him out and then file for divorce. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 02:23 AM |
| 8 | I know there are creative types here. Shall we use this as a writing prompt?I like anime and manga, and notice many male writers excessive use of lolis (but she’s actually a very 10,000 year old elf or whatever so it’s not p*dophilia, okay!), harems, and r-pe. And these do nothing to further the storylines. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 01:38 AM |
| 86 | I know there are creative types here. Shall we use this as a writing prompt?I should self-publish on Amazon then bask in the one star reviews from scrotes crying that it’s unrealistic lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 08:05 PM |
| 133 | I know there are creative types here. Shall we use this as a writing prompt?Well, he’s an old man: 25 going on 26. Things just aren’t as perky as they were in his youth 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 08:04 PM |
| 5 | How to navigate questions about my family (when No Contact) while dating?I think you misunderstood my comment. I am not supporting what your parents did, nor saying it’s okay. I was illustrating how my suggested script isn’t exactly lying. As well, the immigration aspect suggests cultural barriers which means a decent date will not press you for details you are not ready to provide, and which he doesn’t need to know in the early dating stages. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 06:09 PM |
| 223 | I know there are creative types here. Shall we use this as a writing prompt?Of course! A) 20 inches is small, and B) his turgid tool is erect with excitement, rising like a salute to my womanhood and thereby allowing a straight line of sight to his gently swaying testicles 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 06:04 PM |
| 121 | I know there are creative types here. Shall we use this as a writing prompt?I shouldn’t have been sipping tea while I read this 😂🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 03:58 PM |
| 630 | I know there are creative types here. Shall we use this as a writing prompt?He was a lithe man of average height: 6’7” with bulging pectorals that winked as they met my gaze. His 16 pack abs rippled under the soft glow of the bedside lamp, and while his 20 inch member was certainly way below average, it was attached to a man who was kind and docile. His testicles swayed gently in the small breeze generated with his every ethereal step, and I knew it was almost time. Time for me to make him moan my name. Time for me to make him a man. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 03:33 PM |
| 137 | Non-fatal strangulation is an important risk factor for homicide of womenI’m thinking of all these lengths men go to to make sex “interesting,” and they’re all lazy, often dangerous, things. They need to invest the effort to learn to do things that we actually like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 03:20 PM |
| 8 | How to navigate questions about my family (when No Contact) while dating?Are your parents immigrants? If so, your answer could suggest that cultural barriers made it hard to be close in the [current country] sense, but they loved you as well as they could (which sadly isn’t much/enough, but that’s not something that needs to be discussed on a first date). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 02:12 PM |
| 6 | Rules of misogyny: the default is always maleAre you interpreting this as the OOP wants to start over and hopefully get a boy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 02:05 PM |
| 32 | What I hate most about reddit.It really depends on the subreddit. I’ve come across many posts where the humor is subtle: if you’re not well-read or well-versed in pop culture going back several decades, it’s easy to miss. The only subreddits where I haven’t seen this are the ones for dating apps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 02:00 PM |
| 196 | Why do they keep romanticizing “toxic love” ?It’s rOmAnTiC and suffering means that they, like Romeo and Juliet, are destined for each other! lol. Tell me they didn’t understand the play without telling me they didn’t understand the play. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 01:08 AM |
| 289 | Why do they keep romanticizing “toxic love” ?“We asked for magic” I, personally, would have asked for courage: the courage to call something what it is, know it’s not for me, and to walk away. “Magic” is a fancy two syllables to try to excuse accountability. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 01:07 AM |
| 72 | Apparently his wife is TA for kicking him out of his own houseI got the feeling he’s refusing just for the sake of not giving her what she wants, which is a total a**hole move. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 11:31 PM |
| 153 | Apparently his wife is TA for kicking him out of his own houseScrotes galore in the comments over there. She’s asking for one f*cking day. You’d think she’s asking for his kidney and half of a lung. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 11:30 PM |
| 54 | Advice: He seems wonderful but isn’t as financially secure as meOne of my friends has been with her husband since they were teenagers (they’re in their 30s now). He’s an entrepreneur. He has good ideas and found his niche, but to date, I have lost track of how many times his business failed. They’ve lost their home twice. If my friend was like OP, they wouldn’t have lost their home ever, but is OP okay with carrying such a burden? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 06:25 PM |
| 23 | Advice: He seems wonderful but isn’t as financially secure as meI would not date an entrepreneur whose business isn’t established and thriving, especially at your age. Despite what he says, you will be supporting both of you if his ventures tank. It’s sounds pretty to say you’ll keep finances separate, but what’s really going to happen if you’re married, his current endeavor doesn’t work out, and he has no savings or income? I’m already imagining how he’ll say he’s not using your money as promised; you just happen to be paying the mortgage and utilities. And… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 06:21 PM |
| 172 | This is what people on reddit consider "heartwarming"-women doing all the emotional and physical labor for men while they have breakdownsIn a fair and equal relationship, each spouse will have times when they carry the other. But let’s be real: someone posting this meme leans in and practices excessive weaponized incompetence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 06:09 PM |
| 288 | This is what people on reddit consider "heartwarming"-women doing all the emotional and physical labor for men while they have breakdownsAny man posting this is the type to roll his eyes and tell his wife she’s dRaMaTiC when she’s burned out and asking for help. My late husband never posted memes about us (except the one about wives and where did this new dog come from, which…guilty as charged lol) He showed me everyday that I was appreciated. He cleaned. He cooked. He left the house when I had midterms so that I’d have a quiet place to study. That’s how you show appreciation, not with a meme that’s really a veil for dependence, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 06:04 PM |
| 289 | Trust your intuitionMy life became a lot simpler when I stopped thinking/asking “what does this mean” and acted on things at face value. Bonus points: people put themselves as LV when they try to strike back with, “But you should know that it really means…” Nope. No sir! Your profile said you don’t like drama? Drama-free 101: don’t expect and act like people are mind readers! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 06:02 PM |
| 268 | Scrote just find the pettiest sh*t he can from his girlfriend and proceed to share it with the whole damn world. It is like he determined to make her hate him.Plot twist: she is filling every wastepaper basket with the rubbish he just drops wherever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 04:29 AM |
| 204 | This 4chan story is fake AF, but if there’s even a grain of truth in it, good on the ex-gf on leveling up!lol This is every scrotes fantasy: “she left me, and then she got ugly, and now no one wants her! Hahaha! I won!!” Reality: she left. Maybe she ran into another scrote or two, but she learned her lesson and didn’t let them drain her like her ex. She’s now with a very lovely HVM who is a true partner and doesn’t whine that he’s tired after work, her job isn’t demanding, and she’s so much better at cooking and cleaning anyways. When somebody mentions her ex in passing, she is unfazed and doesn’t g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 03:50 AM |
| 115 | Ask Amy: Your boyfriend is abusive. You should get out.🙄 for the pickme in the comments who acts like this is just a simple matter of sexual incompatibility and no need to shame the boyfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 02:55 AM |
| 17 | Men Double TextingTwo weeks? You’re obviously not serious about him. Why are you wasting time keeping him on read instead of blocking and deleting? Men’s reading material needs to include advice not to hurry into new relationships. Figure out where things went wrong in their old ones first. I’m not going to deny that I haven’t had this thought but anyone with an iota of self-respect doesn’t vocalize it, especially to the person they hoped to date! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 04:16 PM |
| 9 | Men Double Textinglol He is being so petty. Be glad you found out early. This type is ripe for weaponized incompetence in a long term relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 04:10 PM |
| 80 | how many have ever met a HVM living single by choice, and doing well?I know many, and they’re committed to being single. I can’t even say it’s my loss, because I get invited (well, prepandemic. A lot of us don’t socialize and travel like we used to) to dinner parties, and wine tastings when one of them returns from an international trip and brings some new wines. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 04:00 PM |
| 28 | Dating 'travellers' and the VisaAre you Canadian, or is your friend? If so, she will need to pay back the Canadian government of this fellow ever goes on public assistance within a certain number of years, even if they are divorced. If you’re not Canadian, there might be a similar clause in your country. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 04:25 AM |
| 11 | Dating 'travellers' and the VisaThe only one I know of that didn’t make my skin crawl: my friends are of the same ethnicity, and they had trustworthy family who could vouch for them. The ethnicity matters, because we’re all pretty tight knit and connected. If the international person was sketchy, it would have been brought to light. Otherwise, no: I think this power dynamic is too risky: | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 04:23 AM |
| 16 | Just found this on tumblr. They call us ‘femcels’ for having high standards and help each other while incels hate and k*ll women.Exactly. I was out for a run and looking sloppy and some scrote still tried to hit on me (I hate this more when I’m running because it breaks my concentration and therefore my pace). There is so much easy sex out there for women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 05:35 PM |
| 712 | Just found this on tumblr. They call us ‘femcels’ for having high standards and help each other while incels hate and k*ll women.That term cracks me up. I’d rather be a f3mc3l than an inc3l. At least I choose my celibacy lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 12:37 AM |
| 103 | How quickly widowers move on from their wives shows that they don't see women as people, just bangmaidsAre we related because this exact thing happened in my family, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 11:48 PM |
| 60 | How quickly widowers move on from their wives shows that they don't see women as people, just bangmaids“started dating the nurse who was looking after his mother…only a week after his mother died” All the sympathy and condolences to your friend, but he only found out about the relationship after his mom died. Which is bullsh-t behavior on his dad’s part. I get that prolonged illnesses mean the surviving partner grieves the end of the relationship sooner, but come on: show some f-cking decorum, widowers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 11:32 PM |
| 84 | So not wanting your man to hug/take pictures with other women is toxic? Okay that’s fine. The man I date wouldn’t even think of doing those things in the first place because he will be high value lolWith my late husband, I didn’t have issues because he had a very firm grasp on boundaries. If he was taking pictures with friends who were women, they weren’t hanging all over each other. In fact, he is as very much hands off with his women friends…as he was also hands off with his men friends because he wasn’t a very tactile person in general. In contrast, I have exes who would not enforce boundaries. I’m exhausted just remembering examples. A HVW with a HVM will not have issues because both of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 11:28 PM |
| 76 | "Daddy issues"Terms aside, we all need to remember that our upbringing affects all of our relationships, whether we’re aware of it or not. It’s why people need to have a plan and actively and consciously work to change patterns, not just think, “I’m never going to be a pushover like my mom” or “I’ll never cheat like my dad.” Our upbringing forms what we perceive as “normal.” Even when we don’t want to repeat patterns, it’s easy to do so because, deep down, we’re conditioned to feel comfortable. Even when we’v… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 06:42 PM |
| 104 | I prefer men to have the emotional strength to call out their fellow men, thanksI can drop the average man on my own, thanks. Anything bigger or more deranged isn’t going to be stopped by some gym rat who mistakes his gainz for functional strength. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 03:57 PM |
| 109 | No one seems to be asking where he got this STD?? And she gets frequent UTIs because of him 🤢🤮I’ve had variations of this conversation and I’m not ashamed! Him: I can’t believe you’re leaving me because of this! Me: No, I’m leaving you because you literally just admitted that you wouldn’t do the same for me. I’m leaving you because you’re SELFISH. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 03:56 PM |
| 2 | This made me throw up in my mouth just a littleIt disgusted and infuriated me on so many levels. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 03:52 PM |
| 43 | On dying alone:One of my friends said her goal is to go out like a senior citizen she read about. That woman completed a marathon, went to her hotel room for a nap, and passed peacefully in her sleep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 03:49 PM |
| 57 | On dying alone:He literally ate all of her food? Like, he was starving her?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 03:48 PM |
| 42 | On dying alone:I never believed that I needed a man to be fulfilled, and being married to a HVM (RIP) only solidified that. It’s better tone alone than with someone who occupies space and potentially makes my life more stressful and difficult. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 03:46 PM |
| 282 | No one seems to be asking where he got this STD?? And she gets frequent UTIs because of him 🤢🤮She can respect his decision AND acknowledge it makes him a sh-tty person, and therefore she’s leaving. Boundaries are amazing like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 03:39 PM |
| 82 | No one seems to be asking where he got this STD?? And she gets frequent UTIs because of him 🤢🤮Here’s how my mind has always worked, and why I’ve avoided long term entanglements with people like this: it’s not “he wouldn’t stay if she had HSV.” It’s “he will let her down at every opportunity because he is not a trustworthy human being.” Too many women make excuses. No. He sucks. Leave him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 03:38 PM |
| 121 | No one seems to be asking where he got this STD?? And she gets frequent UTIs because of him 🤢🤮Right? This is the same mentality that results in a man disappearing when his so-called partner is seriously ill. Nope to that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 03:35 PM |
| 6 | This made me throw up in my mouth just a littleSo I’m Asian and there are a depressing amount of men who target me solely for that. Have you seen the documentary Seeking Asian Female? It’s a lot of that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 08:28 AM |
| 246 | This made me throw up in my mouth just a littleI wonder if there’s also a fetish going on here. I did a little bit of sleuthing and it looks like she might be from Japan. We know how the old white men love the submissive Asians from the homeland (who aren’t “difficult” like Asian Americans with our opinions and demands for fair treatment.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 03:09 AM |
| 25 | This made me throw up in my mouth just a littleRight, it’s not regular people bankruptcy that will ruin him so he can’t get back up again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 03:07 AM |
| 26 | Only a scrote takes it personallyLines I’ve used face to face that avoid answering and redirect the conversation (and then I won’t go on a second date because…ew. Boundaries much?) Where do I work: “I think about work enough while I’m actually getting paid to work! I don’t even want to think about it while I’m off the clock lol So your profile had pictures from Peru? Have you been before? What was your favorite part?” What gym I go to (coffeehouse I frequent, favorite bookstore, etc): It’s hard to pick just one, so I don’t real… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 07:05 PM |
| 21 | Never stop vetting! Even after being faithful to your partner for 8 years, he could still think that he can do better and want to bang other women. Scrotes like this just want to get their dick wet and are never satisfied no matter how spectacular their gf is.Did he every blame you or start arguments with you because you were doing the very thing he wanted to do but couldn’t? I think there are a lot of scrotes who, if their women don’t leave them, eventually berate her for being “loose” and not “committed to the relationship” 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 07:00 PM |
| 161 | Apparently not wanting to be assaulted in the bedroom is "vanilla".Once, I asked a man like this, “Do you actually believe that’s going to work? You insult me, and then I do this thing I don’t want to do? The answer is still no.” He got quiet, except for maybe calling me an ugly b-tch and who would f-ck me in the first place (spoiler: many, many men, if only I gave them the time of day. I’m sure that scrote would have accepted my offerings of “vanilla” sex if I offered it). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 03:28 PM |
| 276 | Never stop vetting! Even after being faithful to your partner for 8 years, he could still think that he can do better and want to bang other women. Scrotes like this just want to get their dick wet and are never satisfied no matter how spectacular their gf is.It will never not be funny to remember the scrote who pressured his girlfriend into an open relationship, and she got tons of action while he got none lol https://jezebel.com/dudes-demand-for-an-open-relationship-backfires-spectac-1578409074 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 09:27 AM |
| 241 | Never stop vetting! Even after being faithful to your partner for 8 years, he could still think that he can do better and want to bang other women. Scrotes like this just want to get their dick wet and are never satisfied no matter how spectacular their gf is.lol Yes. Please leave your girlfriend so you can discover what a desert it is for men in the dating world. Report back with the tears when your girlfriend d realizes she’s in demand and has upgraded. It amazes me that scrotes honestly believe that attractive women are queuing up to f-ck whoever happens to cross their paths. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 09:23 AM |
| 31 | This shows how misogynistic most of the gaming community truly is in this day and ageI could tell by your title that it would make me angry so I didn’t click lol I prefer organically meeting people who game: face to face at parties and other in-person socializing events. It seems like all the damaged people congregate in the online forums, resulting in gatekeeping and generally the people who actually don’t like gaming, only pretending that they know things others don’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 06:50 PM |
| 187 | The idea that men peak in their 30s is a male fantasyEven that’s not always true. Combine partying without any balance of otherwise healthy habits and possibly a bad hand in genes, and you have a man that peaked at 25 then nosedived by 26. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 06:47 PM |
| 253 | Husband cares so little about pregnant wife who has an immune disorder & lies about wearing a mask & social distancing, forcing her to leave the home because he can’t be responsible. Poor woman.That sister would not be wrong to permanently distance herself with the assistance of divorce papers. I hope she leaves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 04:54 PM |
| 68 | Him making new numbers to text you after being blocked is harassment. My state says it's "not enough" to file a restraining order. I am not changing MY number bc a scrote won't listen to "no"Is there a setting so only people in your contacts can get through? You should not need to change your number! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 07:53 AM |
| 101 | This idiot asks "how do you rate yourself on a scale of 1-10?". And she responded with the best 5 o'clock news voice 🤣, while roasting him in the process.YES! That’s what made me laugh so hard with adoration. He’s repeatedly explaining that 10 is the top of the scale. How stupid is he to not understand her answer? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 06:50 PM |
| 253 | This idiot asks "how do you rate yourself on a scale of 1-10?". And she responded with the best 5 o'clock news voice 🤣, while roasting him in the process.I laughed…but then I got angry. How dare he. How dare any man, especially a 4.7 man (and she was being generous!) try to tear down a woman. These LV, pathetic little scrotes out there, crying about where are the good women. Probably with men who adore us for the queens we are! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 04:46 PM |
| 109 | When men imply that sex is eXaCtLy tHe SaMe for men and womenMy friend hooked up with a friend who is gorgeous. In the middle of intercourse, she pushed him away and said, “Stop. STOP.” He stopped and asked if he was hurting her. She blurted, “No, but you’re just so BAD at this! Has anyone ever told you that you need to do more than stab at a woman?” He asked her to guide him but she was so turned off that she told him to finish off in the bathroom lol Their still friends btw and this happened over a decade ago lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 02:43 PM |
| 6 | It is SO easy for women to access sexI think I’ll do that as an added layer of security, thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 02:37 PM |
| 29 | It is SO easy for women to access sexThis is also true! It’s easy to be with the wrong person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 02:35 PM |
| 68 | It is SO easy for women to access sexThank you! I’ll remember for next time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 02:20 AM |
| 6 | Age Gap Gross OutHe should feel attacked, not you! You didn’t know any better at the time…and he was a predator who took advantage of that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 10:39 PM |
| 2 | He didn’t really ask, but I’ll answer (scrotes, pay attention!)What the… Even when I saw an attractive customer at work, I was always professional. Don’t these scrotes cate about staying employed? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 05:38 PM |
| 4 | Say “no” to breaks and open relationships!No, the author is a woman, and she’s on the autism spectrum. I mention the second part because I’m still in awe of the way she writes stories with characters who happen to be autistic, but that’s not what everything revolves around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 05:37 PM |
| 3 | Say “no” to breaks and open relationships!Quand is my favorite! I love him! I finished it within a day, with breaks. Some of it was just too real: not just the things with the sh-tty “open relationship” boyfriend, but also her anguish in trying so hard to fit the ideals she thought other people expected. And her awful sister with the unrealistic expectations in a scalding gaslight of “I’m only doing this because I love you”? Too close to home. But the reader gets to see Anna grow and come into her own, realistically where she fights for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 06:46 AM |
| 19 | So done with avoidant men.Can you just act friendly and engaged towards them? That’s what I do, without actually divulging too much about myself. People tend to be more than willing to talk about themselves if you go about it the right way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 02:56 AM |
| 1 | Say “no” to breaks and open relationships!Could ML’s response be attributed to his autism? There are other parts in the book where people close to him have to spell things out and then he’s like “oh sh-t!” and works to make amends. Also, one of the things I love about the Bride Test is that ML doesn’t save FL. He could have. He would have. But she chooses to save herself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 12:31 AM |
| 340 | Men's reactions to having their lies exposedI’ll play! “You wouldn’t have given me a chance if you knew I had a girlfriend!” No sh-t! Men’s wants do not translate to my obligations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 10:59 PM |
| 3 | Say “no” to breaks and open relationships!Which book? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 10:21 PM |
| 120 | So done with avoidant men.Is aloof who you really are, though? I tend to go into relationships full throttle lol Let the weak men find the door early so they don’t waste my time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 08:58 PM |
| 124 | My sister is dating a guy who lied about having kids, thoughts?What else is he lying about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 08:55 PM |
| 44 | "I WORK and pay ALL the bills" and "she agreed to it" does not justify being a man-childOne of the most beautiful things I have ever seen is a woman coworker telling our bosses, “I will need at least a pay raise commensurate with the duties you want me to take on.” She was fed some like about how that wasn’t in the budget and she needs to be a team player, but she stood firm. Somebody else took up the responsibilities, and ended up quitting because the stress got to be too much. On this note, we shouldn’t have exhibit pick-me behavior at work, either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 08:54 PM |
| 82 | "I WORK and pay ALL the bills" and "she agreed to it" does not justify being a man-childImagine that you start a job with your contract outlining your responsibilities as X, Y, and Z. You get into the job and your employers also try to pile on responsibilities Q, F, J, P, and W. When you speak up to say those aren’t what you signed up for, your employers say, “But you agreed!” No. You didn’t. So a smart employee stands her ground until her employer complies…or she leaves for a better job. A wife isn’t even an employee! She can definitely “renegotiate” and/or leave if her scrote of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 08:23 PM |
| 217 | Age Gap Gross OutWhen I was in high school, one of my friends was dating a senior in college. Our group of friends thought she was so mature. Obviously. When I was a freshman in college, I realized the vast difference between me and a high schooler. When I was a senior in college? Forget it. And you better believe that only losers were still dating high school girls. Same with a 19 year old and someone in their 30s. Vastly different life stages. Any man who dates younger like this is damaged goods. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 07:57 PM |
| 18 | Why she doesn't care for him during sex...When done properly/well, therapy enables couples to actually hear what the other is saying. He needs to hear what she needs to say. I also think she could benefit from therapy to unpack whatever mess he’s burdened her with during the marriage. Have you ever gotten out of a bad relationship, looked back and thought, “Holy f-uck,” and then your healing could begin properly AND you avoided men like OOP in the future? I think therapy would help his wife most of all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 07:52 PM |
| 19 | Say “no” to breaks and open relationships!YES! I wasn’t familiar with her before this weekend. I love her now. Are you a fan? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 07:48 PM |
| 164 | Say “no” to breaks and open relationships!I forgot to mention that the male character also says, “You don’t expect anything from me,” and my blood boiled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 06:50 PM |
| 70 | Why she doesn't care for him during sex...I was over it when he said now that he’s 40 he needs help. Women are told to take responsibility for their pleasure early on, but also take responsibility for men? Pass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 06:48 PM |
| 174 | Why she doesn't care for him during sex...This sounds like a couple who needed to go to therapy a long time ago, and like a man who is reducing some huge f-cking issues to, “wah wah I don’t get laid.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 05:34 PM |
| 55 | He didn’t really ask, but I’ll answer (scrotes, pay attention!)Lol! We can tell by his refusal to read our cues that he isn’t worth our time. I can finally laugh at the NVM who interrupted my reading only to eventually say he hates reading. Sir that means we will never have anything worth discussing or conversing about! lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 07:10 PM |
| 64 | He didn’t really ask, but I’ll answer (scrotes, pay attention!)Lol! I love this. My sister did this once and the scrote went away big mad because he though “girls like you are supposed to be submissive and nice!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 07:08 PM |
| 19 | He didn’t really ask, but I’ll answer (scrotes, pay attention!)I hate when most people (my close girl friends are exceptions) are the exception try to talk to me when I’m chilling in my car. No. Let me decrompress. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 07:07 PM |
| 79 | He didn’t really ask, but I’ll answer (scrotes, pay attention!)He was just a temporary, but not exceptional, annoyance. These scrotes need to stop thinking we’re stupid enough to believe they’re nice and just want to be friends. lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 07:04 PM |
| 16 | Happy New year lasses, and REMEMBERI think he can still be HV, if he’s not divorcing for another woman. She can be the last straw that made him realize his marriage is unsalvageable, but he must not be leaving because she is His One True Love and Only Path to Happiness he does the intense work post-divorce, and before pursuing her, to truly understand why his marriage failed, and his role in making future relationships succeed he spends time alone - no dating, no casual sex with anybody - for a good deal of time post-divorce. I r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 05:39 PM |
| 25 | Happy New year lasses, and REMEMBERI remain gobsmacked by the number of otherwise smart and successful women I know who fall for the above. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 05:29 PM |
| 114 | Self-aware guy realizes he doesn't take debate seriously when he perceives the person to be a woman.Your comment reminds me of a scientist who had a scrote mansplain, “Well according to McCarty et al” and she had to tell him she’s McCarty (et Al) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 05:28 PM |
| 71 | Self-aware guy realizes he doesn't take debate seriously when he perceives the person to be a woman.This kind of sounds like a humblebrag, unless he mentions or shows elsewhere that he’s actively working to undo his biases. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 05:25 PM |
| 41 | looking men in the eye, and being receptive vs naturally feeling defensive -- how do you navigate this?I have resting b-tch face, which weeds out a lot of men with questionable intentions. The ones who frivolously approach me get my active b-tch face, combined with angry aura, and one word answers that specifically answer their question but leave no room to expand a conversation. This is at the gym. Random public places like transport or parks? I don’t speak English. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 05:13 PM |
| 7 | Yeah yeah I know the answer is just to leave, but this visual is hilarious!This makes me twitchy! Obviously the water pools in drinkeware when it’s set to “dry” like this! What a boob. Good on you for exiting! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 05:04 PM |
| 9 | Yeah yeah I know the answer is just to leave, but this visual is hilarious!I need clarification because I’m wondering if I and everyone I know have been doing things wrong all our lives lol Aren’t dishes supposed to be put in the drying rack upright? I turn cups and glasses so that the rims are facing down. How are dishes supposed to be placed? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 04:45 PM |
| 11 | Yeah yeah I know the answer is just to leave, but this visual is hilarious!Is this from a longer article? If it is, I want to read it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 09:37 AM |
| 23 | Anyone else experiencing the desperation going on in OLD right now?Do you even like thrifting? And do you indicate that in your profile? I have friends who are into it and they say you really need to go with people who have the same level of interest. In other words, it’s a weird/bad date idea if he doesn’t know if it’s your thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 08:27 AM |
| 18 | Queens, what are your plans for NYE?Is it an organized 5k with a bib and t-shirt? I wanted to do one but couldn’t find any locally. I’m cooking a feast (egg rolls and homemade ramen) and opening a few bottles of rosé. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 08:22 AM |
| 40 | Yeah yeah I know the answer is just to leave, but this visual is hilarious!There are two types of people in the world: Those who can extrapolate from incomplete data | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 08:18 AM |
| 90 | STORYTIME: "Parking Lot Peril" Safety Tips I Always Follow and Trusting Your InstinctsSo sorry: I don’t speak English so I’m gonna stare straight ahead and keep my doors locked! Seriously, no one with good intentions becomes unhinged when someone very reasonably locks their door when a stranger approaches them with intent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 01:08 AM |
| 20 | Man tries to challenge my standards when I say walks are not datesActually, I’ve been thinking and concluded, depending on my mood, I might accept just a walking date. My walking speed when I’m alone is jogging speed for most people. If I need to get in my workout anyways, why not leave an angry, embarrassed scrote in my wake? I kid, I kid. I don’t need that slowing me down lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 06:23 PM |
| 81 | A man who values you and wants you, will move mountains and go to the ends of the Earth for you... for NOTHING in return but your Divine Goddess presence. You are to be doted on. No matter what is invested, no matter what they do for you, you owe nothing.“What do you bring to the table?” Me. And if you lack the conversational skills to actually get to know me, that’s your problem. See ya! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 06:20 PM |
| 27 | Man tries to challenge my standards when I say walks are not datesWalk dates don’t do something different when they’re (apparently becoming) the norm. I might accept, “There’s a great cafe at the entrance to LOCAL PARK. We could do outdoor seating, but if you’re game, there’s a man made waterfall at the park with picnic tables. We could eat there then stroll around the park?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 04:52 PM |
| 318 | First, your wife had a baby, not you. Second? You’re the problem.I had a high sex drive throughout pregnancy and couldn’t wait to get back to that. My husband was the one taking care of everything in the household, and getting up to do diaper changes in the middle of the night. He kept telling me not to rush things, and to rest and heal. And when we did get back to it? He was exceedingly gentle and made sure I was comfortable throughout. I think our sex life resumed six weeks post partum; whatever was the earliest to get my OB’s approval. All because I had a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 04:44 PM |
| 171 | First, your wife had a baby, not you. Second? You’re the problem.In the comments, he whines that he “helps” with chores but she still won’t put out. Gee. I can’t guess why 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 04:40 PM |
| 5 | "Just live in the moment!"Oh my word. Please tell me that your acquaintances aren’t having multiple one night stands throughout the week. Connections really aren’t that rare if we really pay attention. Meaningful connections are much harder to come by. I feel like your acquaintances can’t tell the difference. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 04:39 PM |
| 36 | Men of ALL ages will take advantage of women when it suits them- 62 year old man whines that his girlfriend wants him to contribute rent to her home.My dad taught me a lot of basic maintenance so I “will never need to be in a relationship so some man will fix things.” Most repairs that I can do are an inexpensive fix. The bigger items aren’t what that man is making them out to be, if you find a good, trustworthy worker. It’s like the car dealership quoting me $2500 to replace my brakes, while the indie mechanic (referred by friends; I could not be happier!) completed it for $600. And really: it is highly unlikely that previous workers did su… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 03:49 PM |
| 90 | Men of ALL ages will take advantage of women when it suits them- 62 year old man whines that his girlfriend wants him to contribute rent to her home.Your suggestion makes sense, but I strongly suspect his next trick will be to cry that in a loving relationship, people don’t “keep score.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 03:42 PM |
| 33 | not supposed to represent feminism on a feminist subreddit... what?That mod sounds like a pick-me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 03:38 PM |
| 184 | This should be how women approach sex. If he can’t make you orgasm he can’t get access. 💅🏾👑deep, calming breath A considerate partner would explore ways to help her achieve orgasm, not shrug and express, “Just because you can’t doesn’t mean I’m not entitled to sex!” I wish I knew his girlfriend. I would tell her to run far away! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 03:35 PM |
| 26 | I sure as hell enjoyed every minute roasting this scrote. Based on his response, he 100% deserved having his ass left 🤣I just checked the OOP and there’s someone saying he didn’t know his wife was unhappy either. I call bullish-t. I told one of my exes point blank I was unhappy and why. He had the nerve to tell mutual friends he was blindsided! Fortunately, that group doesn’t play and called him out. He updated his lament to, “I didn’t know she was serious!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 06:12 AM |
| 12 | If I was bundled with my own FAQ (please feel free to add your own answers!)That poor man with only a small peen and no hands or mouth 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 05:21 AM |
| 97 | "Just live in the moment!"The people you know are doing it wrong. Live in the moment in a way that you see things clearly. If you’re focusing on the here and now, and not thinking if/how this date will fit in your life a week/month/year from now, you’ll see who he really is. Then you can decide if you want him in your life at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 04:54 AM |
| 80 | I sure as hell enjoyed every minute roasting this scrote. Based on his response, he 100% deserved having his ass left 🤣I feel bad for his soon to be ex. Based on your comment, it seems that she was the primary provider of both finances and emotional support. How exhausting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 03:39 AM |
| 87 | I sure as hell enjoyed every minute roasting this scrote. Based on his response, he 100% deserved having his ass left 🤣lol LOL He’s the kind of scrote who whines that women were only attracted to Hugh Hefner’s money. No kidding? What woman is going to be attracted to a brokeass old enough to be her dad or grandfather? lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 03:37 AM |
| 67 | Sons of single mothers = a huge red flagAll I’m going to say is that one of the fellow widows at my grief support group is a boy mom. She’s talked about how her brothers and nephews stepped in without being asked to provide positive male influences in her sons’ lives. She was in tears and guilt ridden because she didn’t think to ask since she was overwhelmed with her own grief and settling his estate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 03:29 AM |
| 14 | If I was bundled with my own FAQ (please feel free to add your own answers!)Lol That last “okay” is so dismissive. I love it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 02:49 AM |
| 19 | Bizarre pickme post in another subreddit: woman so excited that the office "hot guy" flirts with her that she goes out to celebrateOh, yuck. I hate when people flirt with waitstaff/retail workers/any employee who can’t tell them off or run away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 02:45 AM |
| 38 | Bizarre pickme post in another subreddit: woman so excited that the office "hot guy" flirts with her that she goes out to celebrateThis is feasible. The coworker sounds like he’s just a lighthearted, easygoing person. He’s probably like this with everyone but OOP thinks she’s special | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 10:35 PM |
| 46 | Bizarre pickme post in another subreddit: woman so excited that the office "hot guy" flirts with her that she goes out to celebrateAnd as women, it’s not like we lack opportunities for easy sex. Why would we go for the pathetic men in so-called “open” relationships? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 10:34 PM |
| 107 | [deleted by user]I didn’t get through the entirety of this pick-me’s video. All scrotes believe that women should be racing to f-ck their “sparkling personalities.” This pick-me is doing a disservice to all women by posting this rubbish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 10:14 PM |
| 67 | [deleted by user]I’ve seen the sentiment expressed by jealous pick-mes. I prioritize morals, values, and character in any man I date, and if those are combined with someone rich? I’m not going to say no. lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 06:46 PM |
| 56 | The change in Spiderman films reveals how men have normalized and encouraged pickme and LVM behaviorI haven’t seen the latest Spider-Man, but what I remember of the first one (within this incarnation) is that Zendaya’s MJ is a loner because she’s honest and real. She doesn’t play games. She doesn’t humor fools. She’s herself, and that’s hard for others to take, especially in high school! What I remember of Kirsten Dunst’s MJ was that she succeeded in spite of herself. lol Also? Being unhappy at a friend’s success because her life isn’t where she wants it is a LV trait. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 06:43 PM |
| 75 | This sh*t right here!!Here’s how it should work: I had a male friend at work. And then he asked me out. I told him that I had a boyfriend. He apologized, treated me the same as always, and the next time there was an event, invited me AND my boyfriend. My coworker friend behaved exactly as a man should when he actually sees a woman as a fellow human being. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 06:35 PM |
| 513 | Angry right now“You’re right. You don’t sound like a rapist, just a sexual predator.” PoTAYto, poTAHto. People need to learn that rape isn’t just something that happens between strangers in a dark alley. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 06:30 PM |
| 289 | This sh*t right here!!Scrotes: “Well maybe if you f***ed him you’d still have a friend!” 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 05:49 PM |
| 431 | Bizarre pickme post in another subreddit: woman so excited that the office "hot guy" flirts with her that she goes out to celebrateI stopped reading about halfway through, but…the cynical part of me thinks this is either fake, or her husband has been wondering how to broach the “open relationship” talk and the new coworker is the magical door to do so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 05:46 PM |
| 25 | Why you shouldn’t live together before marriage: 2 real-life examplesOoh, a road trip with the family is an excellent vetting tool! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 12:01 AM |
| 21 | Going for a man you think is below you, only to have it backfire. Has anyone else dealt with this?lol Not in my family. We’re raised to set our goals and standards high, and look for men that are at least on our level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 12:00 AM |
| 5 | For the angered men lurkingWhat happened to the post? It was a good post! I hope it wasn’t removed because crybaby scrotes reported, creating more work for the mods. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 11:58 PM |
| 33 | Going for a man you think is below you, only to have it backfire. Has anyone else dealt with this?I have never gone for someone I think is below me. That, to me, feels like an a**hole move. It’s like a pity date. I’d feel insulted if someone did this to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 07:47 PM |
| 47 | Going for a man you think is below you, only to have it backfire. Has anyone else dealt with this?I hope, like so many scrotes I’ve seen, your ex learned the hard way that he was not starring in his own personal romcom where girls were queuing up for the “new and improved” him: | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 07:43 PM |
| 31 | For the angered men lurkingWhat on earth…? He “can’t help it”? lol So is he cheapa** or brokea**? And how scared is he of his girlfriend leveling up (if this girlfriend actually exists)? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 07:40 PM |
| 31 | For the angered men lurkingPrint it out and mail it to him anonymously lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 07:38 PM |
| 324 | Why you shouldn’t live together before marriage: 2 real-life examplesOne reason I’ve seen to move in together is that people can see if they’re compatible. There is an easy way to figure this out without trapping yourself - I mean, cohabitating with someone before marriage: go on a long roadtrip together. You’ll get to see how each of you handle unexpected changes, like traffic jams, getting lost, possibly unpleasant accommodations completely contradictory to online reviews, etc. The best part? It’s a lot easier to disengage from the relationship if you learn som… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 07:34 PM |
| 124 | Frauds on datingsites/appsIf they aren’t close family or my best friend, I’m not sending money. Women also need to learn that it’s okay to say no and we have zero responsibility to save the whole world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 07:30 PM |
| 7 | Look, he'll have breakfast with you if you cook him dinner!See, your last line is what I think when men old enough to be my dad tell me they don’t act their age. That’s not something to brag about! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 07:47 AM |
| 15 | Look, he'll have breakfast with you if you cook him dinner!I see you’ve met my ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 07:46 AM |
| 4 | Have any of you ever known a man who initiated a split with his partner WITHOUT getting into a new relationship right away?I know two men who initiated a split and decided to either stay single, or never get married or live with someone again. They communicate this at the beginning to women they meet. It’s worked out so far. And yes, they seem HV. One of them is someone I would date, if our relationship goals aligned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 07:41 AM |
| 3 | How should a man act with female co workers?I’ve mentioned this before, but a HVM is aware of boundaries. This means that, at work he knows to keep sexual innuendo out, and doesn’t ask personal or prying questions. I think calls and messaging are bad form if he’s not the type to do so with male coworkers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 07:16 AM |
| 186 | Trust him, he’s worth it“A handful” and “bull in a china shop” give connotations of physical violence, at least to me. He’s that friend you can’t bring to a bar or club because he gets belligerent after a sip of beer. Also I have yet to meet someone who literally says they’re honest/direct and want the same…who can actually deal with “the same.” So far, they’ve all really wanted carte blanche to be an a-hole with no filter, while not hearing anything negative about themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 07:04 AM |
| 303 | Tell the world you abuse women without telling the world you abuse women 🤫🤭lol Guaranteed if he does oral he thinks he’s great just because none of his disappointed partners wanted to hurt his feelings by pointing out how terrible he is at it. And he probably thinks he’s the sh-t for pumping back and forth. And don’t go blaming women because p*rn got him so used to jerking off that he can’t climax any other way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 08:49 PM |
| 37 | Reminder: Dont be with a man like thisFair. There’s a difference when someone actually refers to himself as a “gamer.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 06:20 PM |
| 132 | Reminder: Dont be with a man like thisI know HVM who play video games. The key is whether they balance out the rest of their lives, which the ones I know do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 05:37 PM |
| 74 | Reminder: Dont be with a man like thisI’m a casual gamer, too. I don’t usually bring it up around men because certain scrotes like to insist I’m not a real gamer if I don’t play (game that’s popular, but also obscure enough that it’s popular only with people who desperately want to believe that they’re special) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 05:35 PM |
| 524 | Reminder: Dont be with a man like thisIif I was his girlfriend, I would be okay with a book…if it was a specific one missing from my collection, out of publication, and the last time I checked was going for $800 on eBay. But we all know it’s not. A person who pays attention to his partner doesn’t just get her a book. The only way this might be acceptable is if they only recently started dating. Sisters, be cautious about splurging, especially at the very beginning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 05:33 PM |
| 91 | Guy dumps his GF over not enthusiastically having oral and not doing anal, and gets hailed as an upstanding guy for doing this in the commentsMy vote is denial. “He’s a really great man when he’s not coercing me into sexually uncomfortable situations, cheating on me, stealing from me, etc” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 05:27 PM |
| 100 | Guy dumps his GF over not enthusiastically having oral and not doing anal, and gets hailed as an upstanding guy for doing this in the commentsMy first thought is, “What does he mean by she doesn’t show enthusiasm? Does he expect her to look like the women in p*rn, like nothing could ever feel as great as a d-ck punching hole through the back of her neck?” My immediate second thought was, “What kind of jackoff is paying THAT much attention when he’s getting head?” Anyways, lol and good luck finding what he thinks he wants. The women into his so-called kinks are not queuing around the block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 05:25 PM |
| 38 | Rejecting men is harder on women than menSome scrote is going to want to argue that women should ask out men to even things out, but we all know what happens if we express interest first. We’re labeled as sl*ts, lacking self-esteem, etc. Once in awhile, we might get a lazy man: he doesn’t hit us, but he also doesn’t plan dates, cook, or do housework. Finally, any man who is thinking that he’s HV and we could be missing out? LOL! HVM aren’t crybabies about rEjEcTiOn. They take chances after appropriately weighing the risks and benefits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 02:34 AM |
| 29 | Rejecting men is harder on women than menHow many of these men are trying to model themselves into someone worth dating? As well, the rejection wouldn’t hit so hard if they didn’t wrongly feel entitled to women’s attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 02:29 AM |
| 251 | We're not doing it anymoreUnconditional love is to be expected only from your mommy and daddy. Anyone else, you’d better bring your best self. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 02:27 AM |
| 53 | Beware: don't respond to Holiday / New years Texts from New numbersExactly. If a call or message comes without being attached to someone I know, I generally delete it. When my friends get new numbers, they announce themselves: “Hey HC, it’s Anna. I got a new number.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 02:25 AM |
| 90 | Saw this on Twitter and it felt discussable/appropriate to share hereI don’t think it’s a double standard. Gyllenhaal looks down on Tom Holland because, to JG, Tom is just some dumb kid. JG dates younger for the same reason: he thinks they’re dumb and easy to take advantage of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 06:34 PM |
| 408 | Saw this on Twitter and it felt discussable/appropriate to share hereIt makes it obvious that this is all about power. Tom Holland is just a “kid” who isn’t as worldly as Jake Gyllenhaal, just like JG’s girlfriends are too young and inexperienced to know he’s full of sh-T. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 06:32 PM |
| 2 | Vetting LVM guy friends...I know this topic has been mentioned a lot recently but WOW cant stress enough!!!Exactly. Like, I have a friend who can take anything, and then I have a friend who is very serious, and lots of friends in between. It’s not “playful teasing” or whatever when neither of you know each other’s limits. And another red flag is a person who tries to play it off as “that’s just the way I am.” Someone without basic care or consideration? Because that’s what it means when people just act without thinking how it will be received | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 04:51 PM |
| 24 | Vetting LVM guy friends...I know this topic has been mentioned a lot recently but WOW cant stress enough!!!I, personally, have found it’s better to be alone than with toxic people. Boyfriends, platonic friends: I’d rather be alone and feel like sh-t than with someone who is working to make me feel like sh-t, you know? And yes: no chances for new people. Like, my bestie and I roast each other now and then, but our history goes back to childhood, and our relationship has always been one of love and respect. A new person doesn’t have that. At best, they’re presumptuous with their bad behavior…but it’s m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 06:34 AM |
| 20 | Vetting LVM guy friends...I know this topic has been mentioned a lot recently but WOW cant stress enough!!!I don’t think it even needs to be confirmed. If some male I don’t know well starts with the sexual innuendo, then he’s trash and he’s cut out of my life. People with very basic common sense know not to make those remarks. We know these types have the sense not to go up to a woman boss and make sexual remarks, so doing it to anyone else makes it obvious he’s trash to be avoided. Trust your instincts! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 06:29 AM |
| 55 | Vetting LVM guy friends...I know this topic has been mentioned a lot recently but WOW cant stress enough!!!Okay, see? I have a one strike rule with new people in my life. One obvious offense, and they’re out. Hard teasing is something that works between few people, and only after much time and understanding has been built. Anyone who starts with this out of the gate is an ahole. You should have blocked after the very first instance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 06:26 AM |
| 131 | Don't Let A Man Waste Years Of Your Life Keeping You in the Forever Girlfriend RoleI know who she is but not him. He totally looks like the type to never realize how lucky he is, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 08:39 AM |
| 20 | The OP was a man bragging about six babymamas and not paying child supportAre you saying I’ve lived a sheltered life? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 10:38 PM |
| 61 | The OP was a man bragging about six babymamas and not paying child supportOne memory that still breaks my heart is a little kid telling me, “My sister is spending the week at her dad’s. My dad was supposed to see me this weekend, but he [I don’t remember the excuse] again, but he promised to see me next week!” That child was shining and trusting like only a kid can be. They hadn’t seen their dad in a year and a half at that point 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 09:55 PM |
| 36 | The OP was a man bragging about six babymamas and not paying child supportWhy would she be insecure when she’s managed to hook a man with ten kids from ten different women (that they know of so far!) and she has five kids with bio-dads who don’t pay child support? /sarcasm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 09:51 PM |
| 72 | This Woman's Date Sent Her Home In An Uber — He Was "Too Embarrassed To Be Seen With Me" In The Outfit I Was Wearing... At least she broke up with him immediately!This answers my question. Since I used to work in fashion, I wondered if her outfit didn’t fit with the stores brand. Even then, it would have been his responsibility to provide her with a detailed dress code! I also wonder if he was suddenly stupid mad because she looked cute and he didn’t want to be upstaged/have other men look at her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 07:44 PM |
| 133 | and another thing on not ever dating single fathersI know a married couple who bought houses next door to each other. When they retire, the plan is to buy side by side condos in a retirement community. It works for them and they seem happy! One of the things I appreciated about my late husband was knowing if we didn’t work out, he’d either never date again or would be extremely selective about who he would let into his life. Something I notice about my divorced dad friends is that they keep their dating lives separate from the kids. They go solo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 07:38 PM |
| 27 | The OP was a man bragging about six babymamas and not paying child supportThis would cue men to start caterwauling about their body, their choice 🙄 - emoji for the people, men who are all sanctity of life until their bodies enter the narrative | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 07:18 PM |
| 61 | The OP was a man bragging about six babymamas and not paying child supportI think penalizing men is a good start, then educating women. Our knowledge only goes so far when our choices are threatened. If we make men bear the greater burden for procreation - like legally punish men for getting women pregnant instead of, say, charging a woman with murder because she miscarries or seeks a medically induced abortion - then women’s rights and choices will expand exponentially. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 05:39 PM |
| 20 | 'Body count': Do people count and what even matters?I keep track, and, like many people raised in the a Catholic community, I only count PIV (lol) If I’m being honest, I am concerned about a man’s “body count.” Sisters, raise your hand if you’ve ever dealt with a man who “doesn’t need to wear a condom, because he only sleeps with clean girls” or whines about wearing a condom because it doesn’t feel as good. I think that the higher a man’s count is, the less likely he is to have taken precautions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 04:30 PM |
| 110 | 'Body count': Do people count and what even matters?For what it’s worth, I see it as you making a decision with your head and not your heart. It might have been disappointing, but it’s something you walked into with full knowledge of what it was. I have so many friends from high school and college whose first experience was with someone they loved and who they thought loved them…and then they were ghosted the next day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 04:19 PM |
| 46 | ever been shamed? a case for being shameless/shame-less... it is, after all, externally imposedI’ve had men try to shame me lol Let me just say that some people need to learn not to criticize if they don’t want me to air their dirty laundry. Bonus points to the one who passive-aggressively tried to shame me for having a sexual history. Sir, it is neither my fault nor problem that you are a 29-year-old virgin. (Yes, I walked out when I finally picked my jaw up from the floor.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 04:02 PM |
| 25 | What does an involved father look like?Re: the “man’s role” - I get so mad when I hear men say that it’s a woman’s job to cook and clean, and a man brings home the money. Most of the time these men aren’t bringing home enough to support the household financially so they’d better grab a mop and toilet brush! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 03:58 PM |
| 256 | The OP was a man bragging about six babymamas and not paying child supportI have a lot of love for blended families that make it work, but miss me with this “super blended family” sh*t. If you’re a woman, love yourself and level up. If you’re a man…well, you’re gross and are never going to have the kind of woman you believe you deserve. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 03:34 PM |
| -2 | 19-Year-Old Billie Eilish On Starting To Watch Porn At 11, And How It Damaged HerWell, that is interesting, because in the group where the information was posted, everybody knew what the word meant. Level up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 05:12 AM |
| 82 | NVM screeching about losing money in a divorce 🤣🤣🤣 get wrecked. They always blame the woman for a failing marriage and make her out to be LaZY as if she did not raise kids and do housework full-time. She DESERVES some equity.And it’s also not like people are blindsided about the reallocation of assets. His lawyer would have prepared him for this possibility, and I’m pretty sure he’d have a decent amount of time to vacate the premises. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 01:38 AM |
| 166 | NVM screeching about losing money in a divorce 🤣🤣🤣 get wrecked. They always blame the woman for a failing marriage and make her out to be LaZY as if she did not raise kids and do housework full-time. She DESERVES some equity.Have you noticed how successful women, especially if they have kids, are asked how they do it? And men are never asked that? Are the interviewers even cognizant of the fact they’re really asking women, “How do you have time to get at the top of your field when you should be cooking, cleaning, and taking the kids to soccer practice? Negligent woman.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 01:36 AM |
| 44 | NVM screeching about losing money in a divorce 🤣🤣🤣 get wrecked. They always blame the woman for a failing marriage and make her out to be LaZY as if she did not raise kids and do housework full-time. She DESERVES some equity.A Quick search shows his net worth is $8million, and he has projects coming out in the coming year. If he’s paying $12,500/month in alimony, that’s based on his earnings so he’s not poor. And I want a source for him being homeless. Men can be so dramatic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 01:33 AM |
| 128 | NVM Ben Affleck blaming drinking problem on his marriage to Jennifer GarnerDid Garner also drive him to bang the nanny? He is a walking mess. He blames his alcoholism on the mother of his children. He’s a cheater. He introduced his kids to JLo as soon as they got together. Trashy trash trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 01:28 AM |
| 132 | NVM Ben Affleck blaming drinking problem on his marriage to Jennifer GarnerThey have children old enough to encounter classmates: “I heard your mom is such a b*tch that she made your dad an alcoholic!” Way to go, Ben. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 01:25 AM |
| 189 | Why do males not accept it if their SO's want to start an only fans account? While it's acceptable for men to watch porn?So the kind of man who watches porn thinks there are only two types of women: “cheap wh*res” who were born for degrading, and “good girls” meant just for him. “Good girls” that he owns, so no one else is allowed to look at them!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 01:21 AM |
| 82 | Marriage and prenups which truly benefit womenI’m interested in the answers. I thought prenups were ironclad, and then Kelly Clarkson had hers challenged. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 01:16 AM |
| -6 | 19-Year-Old Billie Eilish On Starting To Watch Porn At 11, And How It Damaged HerIt’s a racial slur. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 05:42 PM |
| -57 | 19-Year-Old Billie Eilish On Starting To Watch Porn At 11, And How It Damaged HerI will forever sideeye her for saying she didn’t know ch*no was a slur when she was 14. She’s problematic in ways that shouldn’t be excused as that’s how young people are. Edit: lol I hope non-FDS Billie Eilish fans are responsible for the downvotes, otherwise some of you truly need to level up and stop excusing racism in your faves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 04:00 AM |
| 21 | I thought for a long time that my male friends were actual friends, but everyone of them ended up trying (aggressively) to get me to sleep with them. So it's a NO for me.I would look at this as a way to improve your vetting skills. I have friends who are men. These suckers (and I use the term affectionately lol) have helped me move houses with the only expectation being that I’d need to help them move when the time came. Which is fair, and what I’d do for a girl friend. LVM can’t maintain friendships. HVM recognize appropriate boundaries. Hone 👏 your 👏 vetting 👏 skills! lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 03:58 AM |
| 116 | Reminder: If you want children you need to be 100% clear on what you expect from the dad (for yourself). Division of labor for house, etc and especially child care is so important ladiesStop normalizing necessary errands (like Target, grocery shopping, etc) as “self care.” Moms, let the dads f*ck up within reasonable expectations: let them fumble through tantrums, burping babies, changing diapers, and all the other parenting stuff so they can get good at it. That’s how you avoid a husband who acts like you can’t go to the store for 30 minutes without things imploding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 03:53 AM |
| 265 | Carrie & Mr. Big Show How Toxic "Endgame" Relationships Can BeTheir relationship is one of the reasons I could never get into SATC. It was so toxic and I was appalled that it seemed presented as some great love affair. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 11:59 PM |
| 37 | A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you?First, I don’t think you sound conceited. Second, by basic hygiene/fitness, I’m calling out these scrotes that don’t even try. I have a whole routine so that I’m looking and feeling like the best I can be. This is for my own sake, obviously, but like you, I also know I look good. What makes these slackers think they have the right to approach with their no effort selves? Side rant: and f*ck all of them for complaining that some of us only want partners who put in at least the same effort of self… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 11:10 PM |
| 144 | How do you handle being approached by scrotes?Step one: pretend I don’t hear him Step two: (assuming step one fails) Pretend I don’t speak English | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 11:07 PM |
| 58 | 2.5 Year together and he doesn’t know what she likes. How is that even possible?I know a lot of people and literally have only one person who is truly difficult to buy for. I know where she likes to shop, so I give her gift cards. And sis is over here saying they’ve been together two and a half years and he doesn’t care enough to notice where she shops? And he’s so NV that he won’t even get her a Visa gift card? Come on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 09:13 PM |
| 18 | Wife’s message to husband on TinderI hope she consulted with a divorce attorney first, and that she gets everything due to her! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 07:50 PM |
| 5 | They really tell on themselves. They do not find sex work empowering nor do they respect it. Yet, we are told the opposite.It’s not one of those topics that I follow closely, so I need to ask: who is saying it’s empowering? Everything I’ve read that isn’t an interview with a specific type of sex worker says it is NOT empowering. There’s the human trafficking aspect, and social norms that cause sex work to be viewed as degrading. There are better, true ways for empowerment other than “lol I’m defying this social norm! lol” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 07:45 PM |
| 50 | A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you?If he has to ask, then the answer is no. I’ve dated men that fit the description and are the type to ask. Inevitably, one or both of the following happen: (1) I’m expected to play the perpetual cheerleader to his sh*t poor self-esteem (2) he turns abusive because I’m just gonna cheat on him anyways 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 07:39 PM |
| 89 | A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you?Imagine not realizing that the entire world is structured to validate men’s opinions and feelings, so they think the problem is the scant places they aren’t welcome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 07:36 PM |
| 89 | A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you?I can’t help but wonder if the men rejected for their looks have even a basic hygiene or fitness routine. Even if they don’t, they need to make the connection that they, too, have preferences. Do they owe women dates? No, and they need to be honest with themselves that they wouldn’t give someone’s potential sparkly personality a chance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 07:31 PM |
| 18 | Fitness advice - what does your go-to routine and diet look like that's helped you in levelling up?Before social distancing, my at gym routine was: MWF: 5 mile run, Bodypump TTh: Step class, Pilates SaSu: hiking, yoga I should pay attention to what I’m eating, and probably will if and when my metabolism starts to slow down. My fitness goals are simply to remain fast. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 07:27 PM |
| 144 | The "wired differently" excuse...Even if people are wired a certain way, one of the fabulous things about being human is our ability to go against nature. This ability is why I don’t get into fisticuffs with the woman who grabbed the dress I saw first at J Crew. Scrotes, just admit to being too lazy to care and learn to be alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 01:43 AM |
| 156 | Men are losing their sh*t over on IG and the pickme's are making lists that aren't even the equivalent. I see nothing wrong with this list except her numbering. Why are women shamed for having preferences?Men: I want a woman who is a size zero, wears a 30GGG bra, and looks like she’s 12. Also men: WTF THESE F3MC3LS AND THEIR UNREALISTIC DEMANDS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 01:38 AM |
| 2 | I am a masters level trained nurse, ran a mass vax site in a major city and lead a hospital staff vaccine education initiative and this is my male cousin with no medical background explaining immunity to me.Your cousin is over there telling us he doesn’t have an eighth grade level of science education without telling us he doesn’t have an eight grade level of science education. I’m sorry you have to deal with this. I have relatives who are like this and I’m gobsmacked by the things they spin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 01:31 AM |
| 121 | Opinions on dating a man whose dad is a serial cheater?Part of leveling up is constant awareness of how our upbringing affected our perception of “normal.” Most people, like the man OP referenced, only get as far as realizing “I don’t want that to be me” and fail to work on the things that set people on the path they wish to avoid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 12:57 AM |
| 5 | Need advice to level up a guy.“Leveling up” a man is like pouring water into a bucket with holes. The second you stop pouring, the bucket is empty. I’d rather remain single. OP needs to put that energy on leveling up her own self. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 12:38 AM |
| 6 | Need advice to level up a guy.Yeah. Maybe flag the post for not reading the manual? It isn’t even FDS 101, but more like prologue to FDS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 12:36 AM |
| 109 | Male depravity has no bounds. Remember that the same men you see on a daily basis have these thoughts and fantasies.I posted awhile back about a type of female bird that figured out how to reproduce without males. We don’t need men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 11:49 PM |
| 74 | Is violence towards women n general misogyny in literature acceptable under the thin veil of fiction and historical context?Without having read the book, I can speak in general that there needs to be a stronger storyline and character dimension. “This was the old days and people were misogynists” is laziness, and uninteresting. It’s also a sign of a mediocre writer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 09:47 PM |
| 5 | The Truth in the replies to this tweet.Lol! I didn’t know there was an actual study! I thought men just said this in a sh*t attempt to hide they’re LV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 09:39 PM |
| 568 | “How to Cure a Feminist...pretend to share her beliefs”, published in the Maxim magazine. Beware Ladies, vet the men claiming to be advocates.Okay, this is hilarious on so many levels. One, men hate when they even suspect a woman is trying to change them, and then Maxim runs this drivel. Second, if we flip the script and make it about undesirable traits in man, smart women - never mind FDS sisters! - block and delete. We don’t entertain scrotes. We don’t think, much less write, articles on how to reform a LVM. But here are these scrotes, showing their scrotiness lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 05:43 PM |
| 120 | The Truth in the replies to this tweet.It also adds a layer to why they hate this sub so much. If women, we lesser creatures of emotion and no logic 🙄, are leveling up on our own, with no need for a man to believe in us, what does it say about their sad scrote selves? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 01:20 AM |
| 329 | The Truth in the replies to this tweet.A scrote replies to her and acts like she’s going to damage all the men she meets in the future and she claps back: “The flaw is sitting around wasting time trying to believe your SO into becoming what you think he could be instead of accepting who he is and deciding if it’s enough for you. Just because you want to believe a person is more doesn’t mean that they are or will ever live up to that” Also, the replies to the original tweet are so far men agreeing, women saying hell naw, and men telli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 10:54 PM |
| 195 | The Truth in the replies to this tweet.It’s different because men are visual creatures /sarcasm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 10:50 PM |
| 17 | What Do You Guys Think About People Playing Matchmaker?I’m usually game to meet new people, but sometimes my intuition is triggered and I just don’t want to go. I can’t help but wonder if something Inc your subconscious picked up something about your dad’s coworker, and you just don’t want to get entangled. Even if your reasons are much simpler, you still don’t owe coworker of his cousin anything. At the very least, it could mess with your dad’s working relationship. Maybe approach it from that angle if your parents won’t leave you alone about it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 05:13 PM |
| 18 | The kids are gonna be alright! (Scroll for comments)This is messed up…because at least shar-peis are cute 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 12:12 AM |
| 74 | Woman sees tornado and frantically moves her kids to safety. Husband questions her sanity, slights her for “scaring the kids,” and foolishly goes outside.In his case, I think it was “I am a moron.” Like “cool! A natural disaster! It’s not everyday that I get to see one up close!!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 11:41 PM |
| 61 | Found one in the wild! "No drama, no kids, no wife, no GF". Then posts 3 of 5 pics with a random woman and his family???🙃🤣🙄Or she’s an ex. Regardless, I’m not swiping right on someone who lacks common sense and posts pictures like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 11:25 PM |
| 64 | “Cuddling”“with your pet” cue me screaming as my cat proves you wrong - Seriously though: I don’t know about the rest of you, but I have friends I can cuddle with if my social contact needs peak. A stranger using this term is obviously code for “lacks boundaries; will attempt penetration.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 10:56 PM |
| 131 | Woman sees tornado and frantically moves her kids to safety. Husband questions her sanity, slights her for “scaring the kids,” and foolishly goes outside.Are people just constantly recording videos, or was she filming something else and noticed the tornado? Genuinely curious, since I only record with specific things in mind. Also, this reminds me of a story one of my friends told me. Apparently there was some natural disaster approaching, she told her then-boyfriend and tries to bring him to wherever people go for that sort of disaster, and he’s trying to stop her because “I wanna see!” I don’t understand people like him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 10:53 PM |
| 60 | The kids are gonna be alright! (Scroll for comments)SERIOUSLY?! I guessed way, way older, and he’s probably using filters here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 08:04 PM |
| -14 | Sometimes men of all classes just don’t listenIt’s not about Kanye for me. It’s about people with mental health struggles, especially in FDS, who are trying and seeing the thoughtless, ableist comments going unchallenged. I don’t care about changing certain minds; I care about affected sisters feeling seen and that somebody has their backs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 06:34 PM |
| 55 | Gaslight-proof way to definitively show yourself you do more than your LV/NV domestic partner: have both of you write down everything you do around the house for a week or month.I mean “screwed over” by scrotes who take advantage of people who need things clean. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 06:11 PM |
| 4 | Sometimes men of all classes just don’t listenIf I’m remembering correctly from my physiology of psychology class, brain chemistry affects Kanye’s actions and choices. My late friend who was bipolar described her manic phase as a high where she felt like she could do anything, and everyone else was a lowly commoner who couldn’t understand or were afraid of greatness. Or were trying to hold her down. When that phase would pass, she’d remember everything, but also realize where she was wrong. The mental health options where she lived were app… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 06:06 PM |
| 6 | Sometimes men of all classes just don’t listenI absolutely support her in leaving. As I mentioned elsewhere, it’s not easy dealing with, much less living with, someone who is bipolar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 05:56 PM |
| 10 | Help! Any tips for dealing with interfering colleagues?Are you seeking an ADHD diagnosis? I am, based on a close family member who was recently diagnosed, has similar traits to me, and has made a lot of progress in ADHD specific therapies. If you can get a diagnosis, and thereby access to these therapies, it could be extremely helpful! As for right here and now, all you need to do is keep things strictly professional. If it’s not work related, you don’t have time to talk about it. If they try, you keep repeating, “Let’s focus on work.” As for being … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 05:53 PM |
| 77 | The kids are gonna be alright! (Scroll for comments)So how old is he? lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 05:41 PM |
| 179 | The kids are gonna be alright! (Scroll for comments)I found a teacher on Tik Tok and I think his whole routine is playing up the stereotype of a “cool teacher” lol It’s over the top so it’s obvious he’s not serious, which is what makes it funny. But no to the older people trying to act like they’re 16, 20, and whatever. That’s embarrassing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 05:41 PM |
| 112 | The kids are gonna be alright! (Scroll for comments)This is completely different and totally okay! It’s one thing to be a seasoned adult and still know what’s going on. It’s another thing if someone is…doing what he’s doing. We know he’s on the dating apps targeting women in the 18-21 range while saying he doesn’t feel or act his age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 05:38 PM |
| 73 | Gaslight-proof way to definitively show yourself you do more than your LV/NV domestic partner: have both of you write down everything you do around the house for a week or month.lol the joke has been on every man I have ever dated. I have a high tolerance for clutter/mess. Any man who wants something clean now or to a certain specification better get off his ass. lol That said, I have a question for the rest of you: were you raised or conditioned to feel that you had to have a certain standard of clean? I’m talking about your parents’/relatives’ expectations. A lot of my friends simply can’t stand mess and I’m wondering if they’ve been screwed over by nurture. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 05:35 PM |
| 190 | How the Big Business of Divorce Benefits Men.... Please read ladies and realize that many lies have been spread about how men are "divorce r*ped" and taken to the cleaners. However the data shows something completely different.I know one man - one! - who was unfairly and disproportionately affected by divorce. The majority of the time I’ve heard men complain about getting screwed over, it was because they had to pay something like $200/month child support for two kids. (For those who don’t know, that isn’t sh*t towards the cost of child rearing). Also, the family courts are incredibly biased towards fathers. I’m getting mad when I think of the men I’ve listened to complain about their wives having custody…but these me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 05:31 PM |
| -26 | Sometimes men of all classes just don’t listenIt’s ableist to ignore the mental health aspect. Actions have consequences, yes, but it’s a LV move to ignore the available information about medical conditions just because it’s convenient to our narrative. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 04:39 PM |
| -33 | Sometimes men of all classes just don’t listenI’m approaching this more out of concern for mental health issues. Yes, actions still have consequences, but some mental illnesses complicate things. As someone with a bipolar family member, I 100% support Kim leaving. It’s not easy dealing with, much less living with, someone who is bipolar. I just strongly dislike when the narrative seems to be that people with mental health struggles choose to be assholes the same way regular old scrotes choose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 04:35 PM |
| 11 | Reminder: never chase men, this is what they actually think when you initiateThat’s hilarious but also f*cked up because it reinforces that a lot of men always have ulterior motives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 06:49 AM |
| 207 | My response when LVM try to triangulate with other women:This is one of those lines that would instantly tip the scales. I couldn’t stay with someone who thinks I’m replaceable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 02:46 AM |
| 327 | Is it just me or do men not know how to talk to women anymore? It seems like every conversation involves some sort of pick up artist technique instead of being genuineWhat ever happened to, “Can I buy you a drink”? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 02:43 AM |
| 147 | There are so many things wrong with this. I don’t even know where to startLOL! I just checked out TikTok. What she actually says about notifying his employer and Duke Law is that professionalism dictates not to reply in the heat of the moment. Reading between the lines, that implies his employer might be hearing from her after all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 12:29 AM |
| 47 | There are so many things wrong with this. I don’t even know where to startShe wouldn’t even get a free coffee out of this! I read that’s how these sessions are traditionally done: the person asking meets the expert at a coffeehouse, and pays for their coffee as a small thank you for the gift of their time. And we can bet that a scrote who uses “telephonically” and throws tantrums isn’t going to limit himself to 10 minutes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 11:54 PM |
| 85 | There are so many things wrong with this. I don’t even know where to startI’ve heard of this before, but re: hiring, specifically about male lawyers who aren’t talented, barely passed the bar, but have daddies who paid their ways for them. If they don’t have connections, nobody wants to hire them because they won’t do the work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 10:41 PM |
| 161 | There are so many things wrong with this. I don’t even know where to startYup! I’m so over the mentality that we don’t want to “ruin” a man’s life for “one little mistake”.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 10:29 PM |
| 96 | This ain’t no Build-A-Boy, ya know?There is something about paying a man’s child support that feels extra wrong. Maybe it’s because women have fought to find ways to support the family when men fall short? (Thank goodness this is a women-only group because I can already hear all the f*ckboys wanting to tell me about their friend’s brother’s nephew’s cousin’s neighbor’s dog walker’s sister’s friend’s brother who knew of a gold digger and that’s how she supported her kids because she refused to get a job. Sure, scrote 🙄) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 08:55 PM |
| 111 | Defining pickmeism: what it is vs what it isn'tI think a pickme lacks a true sense of self and crafts her persona around what she thinks men will want. This may or may not be a conscious choice. A pickme will eschew things solely because they’re associated with women, and she’s “not like other girls.” Example: “I hate pumpkin spice anything. I’d drink stout in the morning if I could get away with it at work, amirite?!!” Or to use your example: a pickme would make something for a bf/spouse so that he’ll notice, love, and validate her. This is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 01:19 AM |
| 6 | Been dating a decent guy for about 3 years years on and off. Sent me a screenshot that had message notification from another girlI suppose his excuse is possible, but he’s lying. I would have been tempted to ask if her dog died too, and did an ex appear to steal her pickup truck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 08:35 PM |
| 68 | Automatic dealbreaker for me, but are men who use intentional misspellings lv/nv?With autocorrect/autofill there is no excuse for lazy texting like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 08:32 PM |
| 42 | Reminder: never chase men, this is what they actually think when you initiateIn men’s fantasies, the see themselves as average attractivesness with Good Personalities. It’s like no. Maybe he’s average, but the entitled scroteness is oozing from his pores and follicles. And not taking no for an answer just adds to the grossness! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 08:31 PM |
| 68 | Reminder: never chase men, this is what they actually think when you initiate“If she can’t even take care of herself, how will she take care of me?!?” 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 08:29 PM |
| 114 | Reminder: never chase men, this is what they actually think when you initiateI think the best thing to do is just start laughing, loudly and without reservation. If you deny it, he’ll think you’re just embarrassed. Laughing without comment conveys how ridiculous he’s being. Source: I saw a friend do this, and she wasn’t even trying to be mean but the man was so embarrassed and silenced. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 08:23 PM |
| 128 | Reminder: never chase men, this is what they actually think when you initiateAlso, and I’ve mentioned this before, but I go after the things I want, except when it comes to flirting with men. Experience has taught me that if a man can’t even initiate things, he won’t be able to keep up with my ambitions. Why tf would I want to carry some NVM who is eventually going to complain about the things the scrote in the OOP says he wants? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 04:44 PM |
| 176 | Reminder: never chase men, this is what they actually think when you initiateDid he write that there’s three women chasing him? lol I had to skim because I was so annoyed. He sounds like a scrote who was in one of my classes. A woman couldn’t talk to him about a group project without him snapping, “I’m just here to learn, not to date!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 04:41 PM |
| 3 | This is not how you ask about financial healthIf it was just the two of us and this kept happening, I might have passive-aggressively said in an overly cheerful tone (that didn’t mask my fury the way I thought it did lol), “Let’s just go home then!” Really, sis, I’m just pissed for you. People like this have a lot of nerve! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 04:38 PM |
| 6 | This is not how you ask about financial healthI’m not blaming you! These types of very tricky and it’s easy to miss if you haven’t dealt with them before. The last time this happened in one of my groups someone else started laughing and asked why they came If they were broke. And the mooch was never invited again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 04:05 PM |
| 9 | This is not how you ask about financial healthAh, but did she specifically ask you for money? That’s how they get you. In her head, if she did not specifically say, “u/Basem3nt, can you spot me the cash?” you “chose” to front the money, so it’s not her responsibility. It’s BS, I know, but that’s how they operate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 04:00 PM |
| 252 | Reminder: never chase men, this is what they actually think when you initiate“as soon as you approach a man he now things you’re defective” Exactly, suddenly men think you’re a sl*t who propositions all men 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 03:56 PM |
| 481 | Reminder: never chase men, this is what they actually think when you initiateWho is this scrote co-opting our terminology? I laughed out loud about women allegedly approaching men more attractive than they are. Welcome to what women deal with everyday, except with ugly men getting violent when we don’t give them what they want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 03:54 PM |
| 26 | This is not how you ask about financial healthAs someone with multiple family members diagnosed with ADHD, and is pursuing my own diagnosis, I don’t think it’s “fix yourself” so much as “learn hacks to survive in a system made for one type of person.” You got this, sis! You’re not a loser! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 03:13 PM |
| 48 | This is not how you ask about financial healthI have a friend who won the lottery. Not the jackpot but $100k is still decent especially considering the low cost of living in her area. But this is how I found out lottery winners info is publicized. She had people she knew in elementary school tracking her down to ask for money! So gross | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 03:07 PM |
| 6 | This is not how you ask about financial healthThough if you’re a vindictive person (like me!) you can string her along for awhile. Whenever both of you are out, you pay for your thing and if she asks, point out, “You still owe me!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 03:05 PM |
| 11 | This is not how you ask about financial healthYikes, sis! I have one - one! - friend I’m close enough to that I know I could ask to borrow a large sum of $$$ in an emergency (and Vice versa) but I would never think that means her money is my money omg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 03:03 PM |
| 9 | This is not how you ask about financial healthWhat did she mean by “paid on your own terms”? The people I know who use this mean, “I didn’t specifically ask for your help so I bear 0 responsibility” which is BS when they purposely mislead you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 03:00 PM |
| 9 | This is not how you ask about financial healthI didn’t write the OOP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 08:56 AM |
| 36 | This is not how you ask about financial healthThis isn’t talking about finances; this is asking how much she makes, which doesn’t answer the important questions. It might sound impressive if I, and this is all an example, tell you my take home pay is $10k/month. It’s less impressive if my mortgage or rent is $6k/month, car lease is $2k, and I have $40k of credit card debt on which I pay the minimum payment due every month. If he really cared about a solid future with her, he’d ask about her financial goals, saving habits, etc. “How much do … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 07:55 AM |
| 390 | This is not how you ask about financial healthIncome does not equate to good financial health. I used to live in a really expensive city, where many people had huge paychecks, but also huge amounts of debt. I would find it really suspicious if I was dating someone who kept asking how much I make, and not how much debt I carry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 04:22 AM |
| 3 | My last OLD chat. He got blocked.Isn’t a gym date a free date? Pass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 12:15 AM |
| 130 | Serious question, do any of you not want to get married?Thank you. It was fairly recently. I read another comment in this thread about how a sister’s house has never been cleaner and I thought, “Wall, d*mn. My husband did all the cleaning, so my home has never been messier.” lol I dated my share of sh-tstains before I met him though. If he hadn’t been part of my life, I might not want to get married either | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 11:32 PM |
| 66 | Serious question, do any of you not want to get married?I have a coworker in her 50s who stopped dating because all the men she met got offended when she said she’d never mingle finances with a partner, even a husband, and all her assets are eventually going to her (adult) kids. Her explanation is reasonable: her kids have been at her side from the rough days to the now successful ones, and why would she leave decades of built up wealth to somebody she’ll be married to for 20ish years if they’re lucky? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 11:29 PM |
| 14 | Serious question, do any of you not want to get married?Judith Martin was adamant that the act of getting married if a wedding. I always thought it was amusing when people would write to her that they got married at the courthouse but wanted to have a wedding too, and MM was all, “That was your wedding.” lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 11:24 PM |
| 1 | Van life with a grown up child! Any ladies jealous yet?I keep thinking of one group of friends (all women) who asked me if I wanted in on a girls’ trip? (Sure!) They were planning to go camping in a remote area. (Um…maybe not.) Well, not really camping-camping: they weren’t sleeping on the floor in tents. (Ooh, tell me more!) They were…! …not glamping. Renting a few vans, but nice vans equipped like tiny apartments! (Nope. I’m out. lol) As for this, yup: not enough info. Are they both influencers? He does some ski thing and she’s a master of video e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 11:22 PM |
| 12 | Van life with a grown up child! Any ladies jealous yet?Your comment reminds me of a question I saw somewhere: what’s acceptable if you’re rich and/or white, but not if you’re poor and/or a POC? Can you imagine the derision and hate they’d get if they were brown people without “real jobs”? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 11:17 PM |
| 309 | Serious question, do any of you not want to get married?My late husband was a HVM, so I know it’s possible. If the chance came to me once more, I’d go for it. I would like to grow old with someone who has my back just like I have his. While my friends will never let me crash and burn, they have their own families and it would be a LV move to impose on that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 10:25 PM |
| 54 | Van life with a grown up child! Any ladies jealous yet?Is there anything to indicate that she’s not on board with this? I have friends who love stuff like this, while I’m just…thanks, but is there a hotel nearby and I’ll meet up with you guys later? After I’ve had breakfast? lol Just because this isn’t my ideal doesn’t mean it’s not someone else’s dream lifestyle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 06:07 AM |
| 10 | Need advice, feel like giving up on datingIf you had sex when you slept over: he got what he wanted and he’s a LVM who loses interest when there’s no thrill of the chase If you didn’t have sex when you slept over: he realized you’re not an easy target and he’s a LVM who is incapable of being in an emotionally fulfilling relationship To be clear, I’m not shaming you regardless of what happened. You’re a HVW who can make your own decisions! I’m just throwing out probably explanations. Lastly, he is a LVM who uses BS words like “spark” and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 11:25 PM |
| 24 | As a Black woman I am (sadly) familiar with fetishization in the dating pool. Black women and other WOC, PLEASE be advised that LV potential suitors will not see you as fully human, just as someone who ticks a specific box.Even if this is satire, the type exists. Things I’ve heard: “I prefer to date Japanese girls who are new to the country. Not American Japanese. They’re too…you know. They have attitudes.” (Scrote translator says: “American girls have opinions. I want some girl who will say tee-her and be my sex doll) “I always thought Asian girls were submissive, but you’re…not.” “other [anime] series are just plebian (sic) stuff” (Scrote translator says, “Doesn’t think it’s hentai because there’s a storyline”) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 11:20 PM |
| 17 | As a Black woman I am (sadly) familiar with fetishization in the dating pool. Black women and other WOC, PLEASE be advised that LV potential suitors will not see you as fully human, just as someone who ticks a specific box.I want so badly for this to be fake but I’ve encountered this scrote multiple times in the wild. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 11:15 PM |
| 28 | What theme would you like to see displayed more in movies?In real life, that boy is more accurately like Martin from Love Simon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 04:45 AM |
| 99 | What theme would you like to see displayed more in movies?Genuine, non-dysfunctional friendships. Men who respect boundaries. Straight men who are actual, platonic friends with women. Women who have complete lives and maybe romance would add to that, but no big deal if it doesn’t happen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 03:21 AM |
| 54 | Watch him say he isn’t interested in a relationshipLike, how to you agree to stop using condoms without having the DTR conversation? No. Just no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 02:32 AM |
| 26 | Heads up: block and delete practice sessionIsn’t there also an option to report? I’d do that too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 08:28 PM |
| 53 | Adding on to the funny post earlier about hobosexuals. Men using women to have a roof over their head is common this time of year. Here is a very helpful video I watch every now and then that I believe will be helpful to you ladies in weeding out men who just want to use you to have a place to stayI’m running on two hours of sleep, but is she talking about a man asking to move in together, or him asking to crash at her place because he needs somewhere to go? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 06:27 PM |
| 6 | Unpopular opinion: you can still be high-value even if you're not rich or well-educatedI feel you. I kind of cringe when I see posts equating expensive dates with HVM. I’ve dated a lot of rich men. Money really does not equate to good character! (And now I’m remembering one real estate developer I dated who took me to the most expensive and exclusive restaurants and vacations…and always asked if my friends were jealous when I told them. And was disappointed when I said I hadn’t mentioned it to them yet. Yuck. So much yuck!) Similarly, I think women can be HV without making six fig… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 03:52 AM |
| -31 | Browsing Through Tinder (FDS Art by Me)I’m trying to be as polite as possible, but I don’t feel like these drawings really open up a discussion. It’s great that FDS has inspired you, but maybe create an anonymous IG to collect these and share links in the comments of other posts when relevant? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 11:22 PM |
| 11 | Don’t Panic, Have a PlanmAyBe MoThErHoOd WiLl CuRe HeR mEnTaL iLlNeSs But seriously: she should not have to persuade her doctors. Maybe have patients sit through a video or sign a waiver acknowledging they know the risks, etc then do the procedure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 11:20 PM |
| 5 | Don’t Panic, Have a PlanThis is amazing, and I’m so happy for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 11:18 PM |
| 18 | Would you date someone divorced/ have kids?Third time’s a charm! /sarcasm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 11:16 PM |
| 8 | Would you date someone divorced/ have kids?I would consider it. It would add another layer to the vetting process, which is a good thing. The relationship, or lack thereof, with his ex is a big one. They need to have respectful, appropriate boundaries. They need to be effective co-parents, without crossing that border where they act like they’re still married. He needs to have proper boundaries, expectations, and consequences with his kids. I know far too many dads who feel guilt about the divorce/not living with their kids the majority … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 06:27 PM |
| 22 | Would you date someone divorced/ have kids?I still remember when I was 22 and a 22 y/o single dad criticized me for not dating people like him. I was discriminating! How many men could I find to date if I refused single dads? Uhhhh…a lot? lol Young single dads were a tiny group where I lived. Why would I settle for someone’s baby momma drama and responsibility? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 04:53 PM |
| 199 | Would you date someone divorced/ have kids?runs your post through scrote translator “I have five kids, and I want to baby trap you because I don’t want to parent any of them.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 04:46 PM |
| 141 | Unbelievable... my brother can't come visit our dying mother several states away but has time to go to a further state to sky dive with his bros.What you describe in the first part sounds like he had plans to use you. Free cooking? Free cleaning? It’s just sus that he’d feel so strongly about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 04:37 PM |
| 63 | Don’t Panic, Have a PlanI’m kind of mad about how difficult it can be to make this happen. A few of my friends are staunchly child free and they had to fight so hard to have their desire honored. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 04:34 PM |
| 18 | STOP investing in men too early on. You never truly know him until at least a YEAR of ruthless vetting.Yes! Just like the ones who profess to hate drama have several baby mommas, a record of cheating, etc | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 04:09 AM |
| 79 | This made me feel dirty, I'm glad I broke up with him“Message #1”? I’m almost afraid to ask how many messages you received 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 07:59 PM |
| 31 | Just saw a post about someone tricking a woman into a date…99% of the time, “not ready to go on a date” means “not ready to go on a date with YOU.” I hope she ditches any socially instilled Nice Girl vibes, trusts her instincts, and says no to errands and everything else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 07:36 PM |
| 25 | You Really Are the Prize Followup - As a poster mentioned earlier- guys will do/spend anything for your attentionI actually think sports cars are a turn off. It’s one of those things that screams scrote desperate to score with someone who looks 15. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 07:34 PM |
| 9 | How to have quality dates in lockdowns/high COVID incidence?Do you have outdoor or patio dining where you live? I would hope a good man would suggest that, or plan a meal outside of the typically busy hours. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 07:25 PM |
| 398 | This made me feel dirty, I'm glad I broke up with himI, I, I…! Me, me, me…! There really isn’t a thing about you in this note. I’m glad you dumped him, too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 07:20 PM |
| 117 | This is all bad. This poor woman😩.Once again, I’m glad for my big mouth. I’ve countered “you’re the only one with a problem” with “I’m the only one with a problem WHO SAID SOMETHING!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 07:18 PM |
| 159 | STOP investing in men too early on. You never truly know him until at least a YEAR of ruthless vetting.My late husband told me, when we first started dating, “I will never ask you to trust me. You can watch my actions and decide for yourself.” Hearing “trust me” and/or “I’m a good/nice guy” is a red flag for me. It almost always means they’re anything but. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 03:59 PM |
| 148 | STOP investing in men too early on. You never truly know him until at least a YEAR of ruthless vetting.I’m surprised by the number of posts I see where women still allow men to pick them up at home, when they don’t know each other well. It seems potentially dangerous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 03:57 PM |
| 30 | An increasing number of women are paying alimony to LVM husbandsI think it’s hard to break out of social conditioning, even when we know we’ve been fed lies. Is your husband at least working on his feelings? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 03:55 PM |
| 13 | An increasing number of women are paying alimony to LVM husbandsVetting is important, but would a prenup help to fill in the gaps just in case? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 03:54 PM |
| 86 | This is all bad. This poor woman😩.I think people should snoop only if they’re willing to do something about it. Otherwise, it’s just torturing themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 03:52 PM |
| 442 | This is all bad. This poor woman😩.First reaction: six YEARS?! Second reaction: Oh, please, Mr. Scrotastic! Who’s the childish one trying to force her to leave so he can play the victim? Just be an actual man for once and make a choice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 03:50 PM |
| 152 | Yes please, more of that eagerness and love.I prefer to believe OOP is a Lyft driver, and this man is like an acquaintance who I saw get sloppy drunk, then got teary eyed and sniffly as he waxed about how amazing his girlfriend is, and how he’s so proud of how ambitious she is, and he’s going to work extra hard so he can always stand proud by her side 🥺🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 03:48 PM |
| 47 | The bar is in Hades. When will we stop glorifying terrible men?Idk, Pete something, Travis something | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 12:19 AM |
| 48 | My HVM was actually just a golddiggerAt least, unlike my coworker, you cut him loose before he moved in with you. I shouldn’t be surprised, but here I am, side-eyeing his audacity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 12:14 AM |
| 187 | If any of you have made an account on ThePinkPill.co I highly suggest you reconsider itI’m imagining what my late husband would have said about this. It most likely would have been, “lol Why would I sign up for something like this? Women should have spaces they can go to. You don’t need me to weigh in with my penis.” I think any of the truly good men would feel the same. All she’s going to let in are pushover emo boys. It makes her look like a pickme. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 11:30 PM |
| 68 | Sitting in a Starbucks and hearing the following conversation between two womenI don’t understand why she can’t picture herself with anyone but him. Love yourself, sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 06:57 PM |
| 73 | This had me howling!! 🎶Leave us alone, please leave us alone 🎶..Is this the “relationship coach” who cheated on his wife, or is that someone else? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 06:53 PM |
| 196 | Beware of men who engage in avoidance, intimidation, infantilisation, or emotionally abusive manipulations when you bring up a concern. The very moment he displays any of the following (& more), DROP him! Do not let men damage your health.Kind of a tangent, but an issue I have with “women abuse men too” is that I haven’t ever seen men support this except to derail a woman. A woman starts discussing domestic violence and suddenly some scrote is screaming what about the men, why don’t women talk about violence against men. It’s a problem, sure, but why do scrotes expect us to do everything? And look after them before we take care of ourselves? Why aren’t these NVM quitting their “no homo” and calling men simps for showing basic car… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 06:52 PM |
| 67 | Beware of men who engage in avoidance, intimidation, infantilisation, or emotionally abusive manipulations when you bring up a concern. The very moment he displays any of the following (& more), DROP him! Do not let men damage your health.One and three sound like assault. I will defend myself. Don’t get me started on two. Four will result in me acting like a mom addressing a dumbass child who thinks his five year old brain came up with something ingenious. This will precede me dumping him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 06:46 PM |
| 16 | US-based women who are actively dating/in relationships: Protect your wombYou know how Texas pays people to snitch on women getting abortions? Let’s extend that to men. If he tries to hide or quits his day job to work under the table, then people get paid for turning him in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 06:44 PM |
| 14 | The FDS Podcast is doing a 2021 wrap-up. Nominate your favorite Queen, Roastable Scrote, Pickme, or HVM!I just checked his TikTok and he is a jewel lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 09:45 AM |
| 250 | Lmao at his whiny edit. The holidays really bringing the scrotes out.First to suggest that divorce is a quick way for his wife to lose 150+ pounds 😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 06:12 AM |
| 57 | US-based women who are actively dating/in relationships: Protect your wombIt’s no sweat off my back, but I worry about our younger Sisters who might have to resort to back alleys once more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 03:48 AM |
| 28 | Men calling women crazy, for a justified reaction, isn't new. The fact that so many women are gaslighted into believing it, is terrifying.I think these scrotes are stupid enough to believe that any words contrary to their inflated opinions are b*tchy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 03:46 AM |
| 212 | US-based women who are actively dating/in relationships: Protect your wombThe most accurate thing I’ve heard is, “This isn’t pro-life: it’s anti-women.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 12:30 AM |
| 485 | US-based women who are actively dating/in relationships: Protect your wombThis situation would very easily be solved if, in addition to restricting access to abortion, we legislated child support payments. Mandatory paternity tests. Automatic garnished paychecks. Financial penalties upon the man for enabling this procreation. I bet there would be far fewer people screaming about tEh SaNcTiTy Of LiFe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 11:20 PM |
| 28 | This is too funny 🙄Right! We find or make time for the things we care about, and also? What is he saying when six hours of gaming is more of a refuge than his family? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 11:16 PM |
| 164 | Men puts more thought into a high-school sweetheart proposal than the "proposal" to his current wife. Of course the onus gets put on the woman and she gets told to cOmUNicatE.It sounds like he considers her his “sure thing” so he doesn’t give her the Queen treatment she deserves. The lesson to the rest of us is to continue to have expectations. He doesn’t need to rent out a baseball stadium or hire the local symphony orchestra, but his proposal (and all the small things entailed in day to day life) should show consideration and effort. We should never settle for a man coming home with a ring and basically emoting, “You’re gonna say yes anyways. Why do I have to act l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 10:13 PM |
| 35 | French scrote lives in a world dominated by woman (trailer)This is hilarious…but it made me realize they only use conventionally attractive men for roles like this. I mean, I know all the scrotes think they’re this smooth, but no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 09:14 PM |
| 122 | Porn is the worst template for what real sex is: an exampleI don’t need to imagine. Every man I dated who has aggressively pursued anal was disgusted when I said we should shove something up his ass first. To quote, “That’s disgusting! That’s gay! Things are supposed to come out of asses, not go in!” Oh really? Then why was he so desperate to get in my ass? “That’s different. It’s hot when girls take it.” I think these types are just sad beta scrotes who get off on humiliating women. Who needs or wants them. lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 09:03 PM |
| 90 | Men calling women crazy, for a justified reaction, isn't new. The fact that so many women are gaslighted into believing it, is terrifying.This reminds me of the last time I saw my childhood friend. She was wearing a t-shirt that read, “Want me to show you what ‘hit like a girl’ really means?” It’s hilarious because she’s super cute but also athletic. Heaven help any man who thinks she’s just a girl and can’t defend herself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 08:54 PM |
| 180 | Men calling women crazy, for a justified reaction, isn't new. The fact that so many women are gaslighted into believing it, is terrifying.This reminds me of a boyfriend who told me I was being a b-tch. I looked at him with the same calm I’d maintained since the beginning of the conversation and asked, “Do you want to see what it’s like when I’m really a b-tch?” Spoiler alert: he didn’t, acknowledged that he used an inappropriate term, and got really apologetic. One of the things to learn on our path to becoming HVW is to stop lowering ourselves, and apologizing for existing and expecting kindness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 08:50 PM |
| 60 | Male friends are a myth.People are going to get mad at me for saying this but only LV people can’t have platonic friendships with the opposite sex. HV people recognize boundaries, respect, and appropriateness. If a man doesn’t embody those things in all aspects of his life, then he’s not a HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 08:45 PM |
| 34 | Male friends are a myth.Maybe Flowers in the Attic was really inspirational for him okay /sarcasm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 08:41 PM |
| 38 | This is considered a success? Guy never initiates giving oral sex, only wants to receive, then presses his junk against her mouth, she needs to keep asking for him to go down on her and he laughs at her and calls her demanding WTFI understand this. Some women are so heavily conditioned to believe that it’s bad to ask for what they want, be “demanding,” etc. Too many people are also too quick to buy that “boys will be boys.” Here’s how it should be: he should be engaging in foreplay that will get her excited. If he thinks pinching her nipples and rubbing her crotch is all he needs before penetration or fellatio, nope right out. He’s already shown he’s terrible at sex. Don’t waste anymore of your time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 04:54 PM |
| 132 | Two of the biggest lies patriarchy tells us: “men age like fine wine” & “age gap relationships are totally natural”He was one of the focal points of a pickme’s article a few years back; something about dad bods are hot and should be celebrated. I’ll celebrate dad bods as soon as society stops expecting women to look 12. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 04:43 PM |
| 216 | This is too funny 🙄“mostly be tired and he’ll only need to take a bath and sleep” And borrow a woman’s body for 2.5 minutes while he gets his rocks off - if he hasn’t already done so with the sidechicks he miraculously has time for. I know some hardworking rich (because working hard doesn’t mean making a lot of money) men with a lot of commitments, but they also manage to be partners. Maybe they’re not going clubbing every night or all the places to be seen, but they’re being romantic and helping to care for the h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 04:39 PM |
| 14 | Hot Take: Why I demand a beautiful proposal and an EXPENSIVE ring.A diamond ring doesn’t have a lot of resale value, not if you’re expecting to get what was paid for it. If somebody’s line of thought is, “I want the big diamond because I can sell it and get a lot of money if things don’t work out,” reality will be a disappointment. I’ve been married twice: divorced once, and widowed once. In both cases, when things became serious, I was added to their bank accounts. I was in charge of paying the bills, but also knew i could use discretionary income as I please… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 07:08 AM |
| 19 | Hot Take: Why I demand a beautiful proposal and an EXPENSIVE ring.There’s nothing wrong with wanting a costly ring, but (a) it’s highly unlikely that you’ll be able to sell it at anything close to its evaluated price; (b) if your line of thought is to aim for an even more extravagant ring to potentially get more money, that’s such an inefficient way to access his funds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 03:18 AM |
| 20 | Hot Take: Why I demand a beautiful proposal and an EXPENSIVE ring.There are better, smarter ways to get his money. Level up, good sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 02:09 AM |
| 1 | Hot Take: Why I demand a beautiful proposal and an EXPENSIVE ring.Like other types of abusers, they don’t say it to our faces - not until we breakup with them or stand up for ourselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 01:20 AM |
| 9 | Hot Take: Why I demand a beautiful proposal and an EXPENSIVE ring.Exactly, and as a HVW, I don’t need to hear justification or explanation (as long as I’m not being asked to pay for it lol) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 01:15 AM |
| 12 | Hot Take: Why I demand a beautiful proposal and an EXPENSIVE ring.Exactly. If that’s what you want, go for it! Don’t settle. I cringed a little at the beginning of the post because OP sounds defensive. Why? There’s no need, especially not in this subreddit. If a big ring is her priority, she can own it. Saying she doesn’t care what other people think conveys the opposite. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 01:13 AM |
| 24 | Hot Take: Why I demand a beautiful proposal and an EXPENSIVE ring.As someone who actually did this, what it sold for was below its appraisal value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 01:11 AM |
| 365 | Things you used to find romantic before FDS?My first serious relationship was with an alcoholic who was significantly older than me, but women mature faster than men am I right 🤦🏻♀️ And it was nice that he believed the love of an 18-year-old would cure his addiction. On the bright side, this relationship taught me that you can’t change someone who isn’t ready to do the work to change. I didn’t make the same mistake twice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 08:46 PM |
| 101 | Things you used to find romantic before FDS?I don’t feel it’s about the price tag but the effort, which aren’t mutually inclusive. The big expensive restaurant is sometimes just a sign that he knows how to throw around money. Make sure that he actually pays attention to who you are and what you’d like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 08:42 PM |
| 125 | Things you used to find romantic before FDS?I thought it was sweet in movies, and then I had it happen to me in real life. “No” doesn’t mean “stay in her face until she relents”! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 08:36 PM |
| 67 | Things you used to find romantic before FDS?“What is inflation art Basically a kind of art where a character is drawn as if he/she were bigger, through fattening, or inflating like an air balloon. “ I was very careful to avoid seeing actual examples. I’m sure the above definition doesn’t properly capture the visuals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 08:35 PM |
| 11 | A Different World: Was Dwayne Wayne LV?I think it’s simply so that she can never 100% be free of him. I wonder what legal obligations she would have if he did win the embryos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:33 PM |
| 53 | Why do men think that saying "enjoy being single forever" is supposed to insult us?The last time this happened, I laughed while boldly and honestly declaring, “Thar has never been a problem for me.” That scrote was so mad lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:22 PM |
| 18 | A Different World: Was Dwayne Wayne LV?“who continues trying to conceive by someone they broke up with” Sofia Vergara’s ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:20 PM |
| 28 | yes. yes I am here because of the Hair Towel :D - share you're favourite LVM stories if they fit the rules of my post, as told in the main body.I used to be a picky eater. There are ways to work with this so no one else will notice. I can’t stand when grown adults are worse than my nephews and nieces when confronted with a food they don’t like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:17 PM |
| 103 | Woman posts about her LVM in 2015 . . . and then updates SIX years later about leveled up lifeI noticed that too re: judge’s decision. There seems to be a trend of downplaying what women are going through. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:11 PM |
| 34 | Woman posts about her LVM in 2015 . . . and then updates SIX years later about leveled up lifeI’m glad that so many things worked in her favor. I have a friend who was in a similar situation re: order of protection, but her NV ex screwed her over when he got one because she never called the police on his BS. I’m not blaming or judging her; she was abused and suffered from all the kind games that entails. I’m just really angry that her piece of sht ex found another way to fck with her. I wonder if the statue of limitations ran out for him to get support. I should research before I clarify… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:07 PM |
| 178 | Keep those career goals high, Ladies. Fight the system and aim for those top professions!!Boise State Professor: Keep Women Out of Medicine, Engineering, and LawI would love, love, LOVE if nobody registered for his classes this semester and going forward until the school acknowledges he’s a liability and boots him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:56 PM |
| 13 | The 30+ playboy life style isn’t what you think it is.That second one is perfection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:01 AM |
| 159 | I have no wordsI’m livid for you. Your ex didn’t buy himself cheap drugstore scissors because he knows they suck, but that’s what he offered you as a replacement? Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 04:44 AM |
| 85 | The 30+ playboy life style isn’t what you think it is.That says a lot about him, doesn’t it? If he was better looking, there’s no way he’d be faithful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 07:57 PM |
| 262 | The 30+ playboy life style isn’t what you think it is.I laughed in the faces of a few male co-workers complaining that young women. “They’re so shallow! They’re only dating these men for their fame and money!” Like, duh? Um, that version of me didn’t have a good filter so I may have blurted out, “Why else would she be with an old dude? If she’s going to be with someone broke, she may as well go for someone her own age with a hot body. Why would she go for someone like you?!” lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 07:56 PM |
| 229 | Even in a best case scenario with a seemingly “ok” man, age gap relationships still suck“my (26f) Husband (36m)” I don’t think 10 years is that bad - “We got together when I was 18.” Oh. 😒 I bet there are deeper problems than signs of aging, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 07:48 PM |
| 4 | What do you ladies think about women empowering men by calling them “kings” / “short kings”?I’ve heard men refer to their girlfriends and wives as Queens. It seems to be a regional term (like King) to denote a HVW. I guess if he’s a HVM and also calls his partner a Queen, I don’t care. If this is a woman’s way of trying to make him something he’s not, then that’s not cool for her. Aim higher, good sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 07:45 PM |
| 201 | ANYONE who weaponizes your self improvement efforts against you is low value and should be immediately blocked and deleted.It sounds like she’s mad because your suggestion requires her to take charge of her life and her choices. Hopefully she sees the light sooner rather than later, and realizes choosing to level up is better than suffering with a scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 05:38 PM |
| 19 | My brother is becoming more and more LVM as he grows up, how do I reverse this?How long have you been taking care of this relative, and does your brother’s behavior change correlate with the timeline? He still needs intervention, but the nature of it depends on the situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 05:29 PM |
| 31 | The main character is catfished by some ugly guy but she eventually falls in love with his “personality”. Safe to say this is my least favourite film everThe conversation about how some races/cultures have been portrayed and stereotypes in society: I.e. Asian men aren’t sexy (and conversely, Asian women are living, breathing sex toys). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 08:03 PM |
| 27 | The main character is catfished by some ugly guy but she eventually falls in love with his “personality”. Safe to say this is my least favourite film everOr imagine what a different film it would be if the ML highly filtered his own picture because women don’t want to date MOC. We could have an important conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 05:01 PM |
| 223 | The main character is catfished by some ugly guy but she eventually falls in love with his “personality”. Safe to say this is my least favourite film everOn the one hand, I want more representation and to see minorities as love interests. On the other hand, I don’t want to see them participate in the old trope that he’s a liar BUT HE HAS A GOOD HEART | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 04:22 PM |
| 15 | Help me out of this spiralI’ve had this happen and find it annoying more than anything else. Imagine a man being so full of himself that he thinks a woman was waiting for his apology. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 04:01 PM |
| 92 | He wanted a free prostitute… he was ditched and ghosted instead 😂Aren’t scrotes always like that? It’s the same way they’re all “give me your number/come home with me! No? F*ck you; you’re ugly!” Oh now I’m ugly. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 06:30 AM |
| 232 | He wanted a free prostitute… he was ditched and ghosted instead 😂lol he has a dedicated account for participating in porn subreddits? Gee, I can’t imagine why she ran. I rolled my eyes at the way he shifts it all on her. Oh, she’s just another shallow b*tch into guys with race cars. She’s missing out on a Nice Guy like me! 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 06:01 AM |
| 54 | Raise your hand if you’ve ever lowered your standards and NOT regretted it.✋✋✋ Jk. I’ve never lowered my standards, not even when my sister made a persuasive argument in favor of one of my male friends. My intuition said NO and as the years went on, I noticed that he was excessively needy and always blamed everyone but himself for the hard times in his life. I can only imagine how he would have tried to passive aggressively hold me back, citing how all my opportunities were just good luck, and he never had good luck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 05:57 AM |
| 146 | Help me out of this spiralLet’s look at it from another perspective: he disregarded your perfectly reasonable boundaries - being blocked on social media - and sent you a letter, not for your sake, but because of his needs. HE needed to tell you. HE needed to get under your skin. HE wants to communicate. Any pretty words he wrote are instantly negates by the fact that he doesn’t care about what you need. This is all about him. Sis, burn that letter, then pretend it never existed. You are leveling up and heading towards aw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 05:53 AM |
| 40 | “mAh LeGaCy!!!1!” Writes the wife incubator out of the equation and reduces her to an appliance. No mention of her at all and she’s the one doing all the work! At least the comments are sane. Be so careful who you breed with, the truth trickles out in strange ways so make sure you’re listeningSo true. Thanks for the assist! 😬😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 04:15 AM |
| 63 | Why do men “not want a relationship” because of a breakup ages ago, but women are still willing to seek real connections and love despite the amount of horror we’ve gone through?People tend to make things pretty for social media, though. Based on the packed lunch posts one of my friends makes, you’d think she has the best househusband who loves her and makes kawaii bentos for her. You don’t see the way she told him if he’s not going to look for a job that’s “beneath him” the least he can do is cook and clean, including packing her lunch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 01:12 AM |
| 129 | “mAh LeGaCy!!!1!” Writes the wife incubator out of the equation and reduces her to an appliance. No mention of her at all and she’s the one doing all the work! At least the comments are sane. Be so careful who you breed with, the truth trickles out in strange ways so make sure you’re listeningI think men are treated differently because of weaponized incompetence. “He’s a man! He can’t possibly know how to take care of another person!” I’m just like…seriously? A good man is not incapable of making the connection between something like “my mom brought me chicken soup and 7UP when I was sick. I will ask my girlfriend/wife if she would like some chicken soup and 7UP right now.” I don’t want to hear this garbage about men being natural leaders and so logical when they can’t even grasp the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 01:09 AM |
| 183 | Why do men “not want a relationship” because of a breakup ages ago, but women are still willing to seek real connections and love despite the amount of horror we’ve gone through?I think it’s a learned skill, because society doesn’t believe in “girls will be girls” and give us a bunch of passes for sh*tty behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 12:31 AM |
| 131 | Why do men “not want a relationship” because of a breakup ages ago, but women are still willing to seek real connections and love despite the amount of horror we’ve gone through?How do you know he did more for the ex? Also, men who use this excuse were LV to begin with. Can you imagine the uproar if women did the equivalent? In my case, letting a man subsidize my lifestyle but giving nothing in return - emotional or otherwise - because being widowed was traumatic and I can never put myself out there again? (Being widowed was traumatic, but that’s what therapy/bereavement groups are for. And leveling up for my own well being. Only a LV loser wouldn’t even try to pick the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 12:29 AM |
| 267 | “mAh LeGaCy!!!1!” Writes the wife incubator out of the equation and reduces her to an appliance. No mention of her at all and she’s the one doing all the work! At least the comments are sane. Be so careful who you breed with, the truth trickles out in strange ways so make sure you’re listeningWonderful. Another dose of men who think their wives’ pregnancies are hardest on them. 🙄 I hope the women who chose them level tf up. Kick their butts out of bed and make them deal with some middle of the night diaper changes. Put their feet down and say no these scrotes aren’t going on a men’s weekend because parenting is hard and women are naturally nurturing. Nope, nope, nope. You want to play like men suffer the most? Let’s make that a self-fulfilling prophecy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 12:26 AM |
| 6 | Dating men on a similar level of attractivenessAre you sure your choices are based on appearance and not because you gravitate towards a certain personality type? One of my friends had a “type”: blonde hair, goatee; they all looked similar enough that it could have been an episode of a sitcom. And they were all aloof cheaters. She decided to date outside her visual type, thinking that was the issue, but just gravitated towards aloof cheaters who looked different than her exes. Rather than focus on dating men who look different, make a list o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 11:38 PM |
| 6 | Dating men on a similar level of attractivenessDid you read the manual? The reason for a dedicated account is explained in it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 11:33 PM |
| 16 | I present you the most useless man on planet earth!That user name… 😂😂🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 10:58 PM |
| 28 | I present you the most useless man on planet earth!When women quote emotional needs and unpaid labor, we’re being hysterical and dramatic. Men misuse the words and suddenly we’re all supposed to bow down. No thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 10:53 PM |
| 8 | This is what negging looks likeGood for her. Weed out the scrotes who don’t want an equal, much less a strong, confident woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 06:09 PM |
| 14 | IMO, there's no fixed way to determine whether a man you're dating is actually good.What you’ve described reminds me of my early days here, when I saw a few posts and comments suggesting that paying for an expensive date was definitely a sign of a HVM. Like being kind and gentle to smaller creatures, it can be a sign, but it’s not definite. I prefer a longer term observation of his words vs his deeds, with a heavy dose of listening to my intuition. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 04:39 PM |
| 110 | I present you the most useless man on planet earth!My friend’s ex tried countless times to force her to engage after she left. lol cheap bastard stopped when her divorce lawyer told his lawyer that all missives would go through them and there would be no personal contact. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 04:32 PM |
| 93 | I present you the most useless man on planet earth!The world needs him!!1 Don’t you understand that Reddit - nay, the entire fabric of society!! - would crumble if he wasn’t a mod?!? /sarcasm Moderators do perform an important job on busy, helpful subreddits - say, like this one. However, it’s an absolute shite move to ignore personal responsibility, especially when it means somebody else picking up his slack. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 04:30 PM |
| 163 | I present you the most useless man on planet earth!It’s a stretch and I can see how he could defend his stance BUT - and this is a very big but - it’s like boasting that he feeds orphaned children while his own children are starving at home. Actually, no, it’s worse. It’s like saying he buys lunch for his coworkers everyday like that excuses taking care of his family. I absolutely hope OP divorced him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 04:28 PM |
| 23 | Scrotes still want us to wait on them and their friends, like we’re a restaurantMy opinion of him plummeted the moment he said he helps with the kids. It’s not “helping” when he’s a parent, for the same reason it’s not babysitting when a father spends time with his kids. He’s not doing his wife a favor by “helping”: he’s doing the bare minimum. This dimwit also needs to calculate how much it would cost to hire someone to do what his wife does. Being a SAHM does not negate the value of what she does. I don’t know if cultural norms would prevent this, but if I was in her shoe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 09:57 AM |
| 3 | My chats aren’t off (I know) so I got this message - he wants “advice” AKA free labour. Who cares about my time, energy & emotions right?!I believe these kinds of messages are just a bomb ticking down to a d*ck pic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 05:53 AM |
| 2 | My chats aren’t off (I know) so I got this message - he wants “advice” AKA free labour. Who cares about my time, energy & emotions right?!lol I get these too, although they lean toward more sexually graphic. Not today, Satan! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 05:52 AM |
| 78 | Never feel bad about enforcing boundariesOne of my friends was the wake-up call I needed when she said, “No matter what you do, somebody is going to be upset. It may as well be the person disrespecting your boundaries.” Since then, I’ve been especially confident in making choices that benefit me. After all, my friend was right: those people were getting upset because I wouldn’t be a doormat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 03:46 AM |
| 18 | If you won’t bother checking the FDS handbook before posting your question, at least ask yourself this…I love how high your bar is set! ETA: have you noticed one quick vetting method is how a man feels about cats? I’ve met more than one scrote who said he doesn’t like cats because they’re too independent. Mm-hm. I see how it is. Delete and block! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 04:27 AM |
| 8 | “Play by ear” 🤮Most of my dates have been in the early evening, often dinner and a movie. I will not go out for a late evening “date.” I definitely won’t go to his house for a “date,” not in the early stages of a relationship anyways. The last two are most often lazy, LVM who just want sex. That’s not what I want, so why even entertain them? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 09:41 PM |
| 204 | I see posts like this weekly - thank god the comments unanimously say GTFO ASAP. But how heartbreaking that this woman WITH AN MBA has resorted to CAMMING and is putting up with this for some scrote she's dated for 5 WHOLE MONTHS?!?!?!??!I feel rage because my friend’s ex did something similar and pressed charges against her. I really hope she gets out and files a report with the police before he does. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 09:38 PM |
| 89 | If you won’t bother checking the FDS handbook before posting your question, at least ask yourself this…I think doing things solo is groundbreaking if someone never believed that was an option. And no hate at those sisters; I remember being as surprised as you when one of my friends said, “I really admire the way you do activities by yourself.” Like, why wouldn’t I? Why would I let lack of company - dating or otherwise - stop me from doing what I want to do? Not everybody thinks this way, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 08:15 PM |
| 29 | If you won’t bother checking the FDS handbook before posting your question, at least ask yourself this…I agree about the intuition, but (a) the methods to level up and thereby trust our intuition is in the handbook; (b) like u/extraodi mentioned, it’s awkward to see the very questions we dissect when screenshot from elsewhere…posted here by somebody looking for advice. Which is addressed in the handbook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 08:12 PM |
| 77 | If you won’t bother checking the FDS handbook before posting your question, at least ask yourself this…I feel that a lot of them are the same as what are found in non-FDS subreddits, which is awkward. We have a handbook that addresses 99.9% of those questions. We should be using that to level up, not ask questions that show we don’t understand the assignment (and didn’t open the textbook). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 07:50 PM |
| 112 | Brilliant Strategy for Getting Men to Pay on DatesIt’s amazing how one small sentence said in the right tone is a game changer lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 07:23 PM |
| 48 | Men’s Rights and TeachingOP did the right thing by just sticking to the subject matter. People like him don’t want to understand and will cast aside statistics because they’re lies created by the feminist agenda or whatever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:16 PM |
| 52 | Imagine celebrating men for doing the bare minimum!I thought safe words were used in the BDSM community (which is a whole other conversation). If this isn’t OOP’s situation, then there are other problems going on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:11 PM |
| 54 | Reminder of why it's prudent to never go off appShowing up at someone’s house unannounced when they never gave you their address sounds like something straight out of a movie! And I can no longer enjoy movies like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:06 PM |
| 21 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMAll of your questions - and much, much more!!! - are addressed in the FDS Handbook | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 10:39 PM |
| 195 | “Play by ear” 🤮He suggested Friday evening because he just wants to get laid. He was probably going to invite OP over for pizza and Hulu or something similar, then make his move. Block! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 07:17 PM |
| 55 | Just a friendly reminder that men will date and marry women they don’t like.I just made the connection that he’s probably the type to think any woman who rejects his advances is a wh*re and disloyal. I hope this woman leaves him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 06:40 PM |
| 16 | Just a friendly reminder that men will date and marry women they don’t like.Um, she is cute. Way cuter than him. She can do better, and I hope she does. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 06:37 PM |
| 250 | When Karma come to bite you.This is where I, in her shoes, would throw him under the bus: actually, hubby wanted an open relationship. I realized I didn’t, so we’re getting divorced. ETA I found the original post and am cackling. Men always seem to think that there will be women queueing up to ride their d*ces and everyday will be a cornucopia of women who desire them. Instead, as often happens, OOP connected with someone while her soon-to-be ex just had passing interest, if even that. I was a little scared for her when sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 06:30 PM |
| 6 | Child preaching the good, FDS wordKids remember and repeat the darndest things lol Maybe he heard the word and asked his mom what it was, and this is what she told him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 06:26 PM |
| 29 | This is it. I've found the neg to end all negs.I thought he was going to segue into sexual innuendo. I’m not sure which would be worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 02:00 PM |
| 190 | “The sex lives of college girls” a new disgusting HBO specialIt looks like she’s the only woman executive producer, which gives me “not like other girls!” vibes. I just checked out the trailer. It looks terrible: a bunch of young women who seem to lack the intelligence to get into the school they’re in, and only there to do the supposed modern version of earning their MRS. Did Kaling notice Sex and the City getting by a reboot and think, “We need vacuous, self-centered barely legals!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 01:29 PM |
| 150 | Which one of you is this aboutAnd he always does what she asks! Not he pays attention to her so that he knows where her sensitive spots are. He isn’t really putting in any effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 12:48 PM |
| 40 | How do you get rid of narcissistic partner?One of my friends blocked and ignored people who acted as middle men. She told them once to stop relaying messages from him. They didn’t listen. She cut them out of her life. She extended this to people who nagged her about cutting the first group out lol Good riddance, I say. Some of my family has trouble keeping their opinions to themselves but at least they won’t play messenger for some pushy abuser in training. It’s telling that this scrote has “familiarity to the chaos from [OP’s] childhood… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 12:47 PM |
| 327 | Which one of you is this aboutThis is brilliant. I shudder to think of the replies on the original post from men who don’t get it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 12:36 PM |
| 57 | Successful novelist wife writes a book on her lunch hour. Husband is mad.Ugh…how much do you want to bet that he would try to get “his half” of the $100k he’s criticizing her for? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 03:44 AM |
| 28 | I deserve better than this relationship, but I have never experienced love this deep.Have you worked on yourself, though? If we were talking face to face I could moderate my tone so you’d hear that I’m being gentle and you wouldn’t feel like I’m just being an a**hole: you need to make yourself a HVW first. You need to work on yourself. Get to know yourself and your dreams, and then build on that. Emotionally healthy people seek equals in relationships. We can help out a friend who hits rough times, but if the foundation is neediness and uncertainty, that’s out of our league. We … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 03:43 AM |
| 58 | I deserve better than this relationship, but I have never experienced love this deep.They’re not friends if you had to cut them out of your life. You’ve done a great job clearing out the crappy people in your life. Your next task is to build yourself into a HVW, then create a social network of likeminded friends. Why would you clear out the rabble just to bring in more of the same? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 03:20 AM |
| 16 | I deserve better than this relationship, but I have never experienced love this deep.Are you being facetious? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 03:14 AM |
| 177 | I deserve better than this relationship, but I have never experienced love this deep.Are you dating my friend’s ex? He kept getting fired too…until she left him. Then he moved back with his parents. Miraculously, he stopped getting fired when his parents kicked him out. He’s using you. Stop letting him. And don’t let him gaslight you into thinking that you’re being petty, keeping score, etc. This isn’t a case of his company suddenly downsizing. This is someone who won’t adult because he has you to pick up the pieces and clean up his messes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 03:14 AM |
| 111 | I deserve better than this relationship, but I have never experienced love this deep.Make sure you stick to this. No extensions. No takebacks because he says he tried, 30 days isn’t enough time to apply, interview, and get hired. If you tell him he’s out in 30 if he doesn’t find work, then you need to follow through. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 03:11 AM |
| 49 | Child preaching the good, FDS wordMy vibe was that one of the other adults must have made an inappropriate joke/remark (🙄) and the kid was responding to this. Idk though. It didn’t seem to be just off the cuff and said for no reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 03:07 AM |
| 6 | You can’t be better than me - even on your lunch break!Somebody already posted this one or two posts down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 12:20 AM |
| 140 | Successful novelist wife writes a book on her lunch hour. Husband is mad.I was in line at Target and heard the male cashier complaining to the mother checking out that his wife’s pregnancy was harder on him. He has to listen to her complain that she’s uncomfortable! He has to deal with her food cravings! The OOP’s selfish, narrow attitude doesn’t surprise me one bit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 12:17 AM |
| 188 | "I’m Convinced That A Lot Of Y’all Men Don’t Like Woman, Y’all Like Little Girls" | The granddaughter story actually made me gag.A long time ago I read an interview with a fashion designer who praised Elle Fanning for having the ideal body for a woman. At the time, Fanning was 12. The men described in this video are basically pedophiles. They should be shamed and locked away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 12:07 AM |
| 44 | Complimenting other women - red flag?To me, this reads as trying too hard. It’s like men who wear the Nice Guy facade. They don’t really believe that the famous women are that great; they want you to believe that he’s this great, enlightened fellow - not like other men! - who isn’t intimidated by accomplished women. It’s a Nope for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 12:02 AM |
| 2 | Wah! Women have high expectations! Wah! Women won’t date me!Equally? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 11:59 PM |
| 668 | Successful novelist wife writes a book on her lunch hour. Husband is mad.Why tf didn’t he decrease his workload or something? Why does she have TWO JOBS, and he expects her to give up the one that probably fulfills something for her? I’m so upset for her! My late husband used to encourage me to sign up for workshops I was interested in, go to the gym, just get out of the house and do something for myself because he could parent, too. He would have been over the moon if I’d managed to write and publish a book, especially for this kind of payout! But no: this LVM is al… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 11:58 PM |
| 65 | My cousin turned into a LVW and Pick-me since she married an LVM.This is all kinds of sad. I’m Asian too, and I’m thankful my mom wasn’t completely brainwashed by the whole culture that our worth as women peaks at marriage. What’s the divorce rate/acceptance like in your culture? I would consider not shutting out someone completely: a kind of “the ball is in your court” situation so that if/when she comes back to reality, she knows she doesn’t have to stay with him. But that’s just me. You do what’s best for your well-being. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 06:50 PM |
| 119 | Just wow. This dude let his girlfriend’s friend get him hard in a restaurant (he almost orgasmed) and is now blaming that friend for “doing this to him”. The commenters: “this is sexual harassment, you should tell your gf to stop being friends with herrr!!!”Well, this was some great insight as to why so many men don’t believe rape is real. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 07:35 AM |
| 26 | Men don’t have sexual needslol But you’re not lying! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 04:18 AM |
| 58 | Ladies, can you help me interpret these yellow/orange/red flags?I think you should review the FDS handbook, decide what you think, then advocate for yourself. I say this with all love and respect. One of the basics of FDS is figuring out your priorities. Asking us to interpret is a huge step backwards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 04:17 AM |
| 198 | Christmas is around the corner 🎄 Here's some queen shit to get you in the holiday spirit! 🎅 | A.K.A. How one woman on TikTok dealt with a LVM who tried to dump her before Christmas“I felt like a grinch. It was exhilarating.” 🙌🏽All hail The Queen🙌🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 02:07 AM |
| 315 | Red pill favourite Jordan Peterson doesn’t agree with their views on women and dating…One of the problems I have with this part of his statement is that what these men consider “average male” is what I call “bottom of the pile.” The average woman: strives to eat healthy and get 30 minutes of exercise per day, maintain self-awareness and balance The average man: eats and drinks whatever because “you can’t fight biology,” may or may not use soap or brush his teeth | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 01:44 AM |
| 5 | FDS themed fanfics?Two translated Chinese light novels I love are Trial Marriage Husband: Need to Work Hardand Reincarnation of the Businesswoman at School. While some parts drag on, both have MLs and FLs who are HV, and love and trust each other. The conflicts arise from people trying to take them down, not because the couples’ bonds are shaky. Edit: I just noticed you’re looking for fanfic. I don’t read those because it’s so hard to weed through the gross, explicit ones to find decent stories. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 01:36 AM |
| 27 | Pick me gf and pornsick bf vibesThis was from a few years ago, and I was able to access research data bases through school. Sadly, I didn’t save any of these, and i no longer have access. Sorry! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 09:40 PM |
| 96 | Advice for grey rocking/not responding/not entertaining LV people that you can’t avoid and/or just anytime an LV person comes your way?I play dumb. These types can’t get very far if I act like I have no idea what they’re talking about. Example: I had a coworker who, in his words, “likes to debate politics.” This was code for wanting to scream at anyone who doesn’t think like he does because clearly they’re idiots, unlike him. So I reacted to him as if anything outside of a Facebook quiz was too much for me to process. lol he left me alone real quick when I said, “I don’t know a lot about the presidential candidates, but did you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 09:28 PM |
| 326 | Pick me gf and pornsick bf vibesPick me…or a sister whose antenna is up and she just wants confirmation that he’s a scrote and she needs to lace up her running shoes? I hope he shares the stuff he likes and his girlfriend leaves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 08:52 PM |
| 24 | Stance on posting sexy photos on social media?I’d post it to my finsta, which is comprised of my closest, truest friends who know me and would admire the aesthetic. No way I’d post it to a publicly accessible account for scrotes like my friend’s ex to drool over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 08:11 PM |
| 140 | Have you recently met any man who was actually willing to wait to have sex with you under YOUR TERMS?Men who respect my timeline for sex is one of my vetting processes. I grew up in a religious household so I still feel a sense of shame about sex even if I know it doesn’t affect my worth as a human being. I really need to trust a man before we have sex, and that’s not going to happen before we spend a lot of time together just talking and hanging out (and maybe some kissing. I love kissing! When I feel the time is right) The men I’ve been in relationships with were the ones who let me take the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 08:05 PM |
| 8 | I have 2008 can anyone beat me?Count me in with the 2005 group. My ex finally signed up for social media and found me through mutual contacts. His first DM to me was littered with my old nickname and an unwanted trip down memory lane. Blocked! ETA I’m in the mood to rate my exes whenever they come up, and this one hit the bare minimum levels of nice, but is ultimately LV because he drank too much, liked to run around with his “boys” like they were still 16 and stealing from their parents’ liquor cabinet, and - as I found out … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 07:46 PM |
| 12 | Guy got fired because he refused to get vaccinated.Speaking of conspiracies, I just realized how many of these science deniers also believe all the “history” taught in the public school system. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 07:41 PM |
| 45 | Guy got fired because he refused to get vaccinated.I have anti-vaxx family members, and initially I did take a look at the links they sent. Even a broken clock is right twice a day, right? Ohhhh boyyyyy… I am still shocked about how these otherwise thoughtful, intelligent, and highly educated family members buy into that crap. ETA my point: I won’t date an anti-vaxxer. Their views are based in bullsh*t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 07:39 PM |
| 13 | Guy got fired because he refused to get vaccinated.I’m glad I didn’t come across as snarky because I really am trying to be helpful! And my suggestion to review the FDS handbook isn’t just directed at OP. Sometimes I see dating questions here that are totally addressed by the handbook and it makes me sad. This shouldn’t be like the other dating subreddits where we are in bad situations because we might not know any better. The handbook helps us to level up and be better so we don’t second guess ourselves on what are actually obvious warning sign… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 07:37 PM |
| 133 | Guy got fired because he refused to get vaccinated.If you are too uncomfortable to be honest, then that’s your intuition manifesting. If you can’t even be honest about vaccination status, what else are you willing to suppress yourself over just because you’re worried about his reaction? Also, and I write this with all the love and respect, brush up on the FDS handbook and commit to working on yourself and the way you approach things. Become that HVW who will say you’re vaccinated…or won’t even need get to that point, because it’s super weird for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 05:45 PM |
| 125 | Is This A Case of Too Good to Be True?The second OP mentioned “a couple of red flags” she noticed, I thought, “I don’t need to read anymore. If you see red flags, delete and block.” One of my cousins asked me why I never had huge relationship problems, and this method is why: the second I notice a red flag, I’m out. Unlike my cousin, I don’t make excuses. I don’t think, “Maybe he just means it’s important for men to express emotions.” OP specified small things and he’s already making excuses? No. And texting he hates her, and her de… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 05:44 PM |
| 12 | How do you handle exes who, whilst not harassing you directly and having no contact with you, are still acting in strange ways around friends you have in common? Crying to/in front of them, tirades about missing you, asking them to deliver messages, etc?It sounds like you and he work in a field where everyone knows each other, so everyone knows he’s telling his sob story to them. That means that everyone realizes he is the common denominator, while you’re just living your life and are a decent person. If he spilled his guts at me like this, I would be distantly polite but think, “What the heck? We aren’t close. We aren’t even friends. No wonder she dumped you. You are completely inappropriate and this is weird and awkward. Good for her for leav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:49 PM |
| 146 | PSA Holiday Gifts that both of you use does not count as a gift!One of my cousins is 14. We were out as a family when he suddenly dashed into a specialty store, checked the price tag on something, and asked with a grin, “Mom, can I borrow $xx? I’ll pay you back with my allowance over the next few weeks. Linda’s birthday is coming up, she collects these, but doesn’t have this specific one yet.” If my 14 year old cousin can notice what his girlfriend likes , a grown man can. Side note: Some of his friends were at my aunt’s house and I almost died laughing when… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:44 PM |
| 86 | Tropes I’m tired ofYou forgot men who just need a chance/haven’t met their soul mate. He can change given either of those conditions!!! I also despise the trope with the boy who won’t take no for an answer, and endlessly pursues the woman until she realizes they are meant to be. No. In real life, that’s stalking, and it’s scary and threatening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:35 PM |
| 35 | Shawn Mendes dumped Camilla Cabello and called the relationship “stale and complacent”… this happened conveniently after she gained weight and publicly spoke about her cellulite, fat and stretch marks. Coincidence?Didn’t the mentality come up in a hair loss post? We women are expected to go to great lengths to look like time doesn’t touch us, but some men act like there’s nothing they can do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:18 AM |
| 81 | Shawn Mendes dumped Camilla Cabello and called the relationship “stale and complacent”… this happened conveniently after she gained weight and publicly spoke about her cellulite, fat and stretch marks. Coincidence?Robsten was a publicity stunt, but I feel they presented as a believable couple. Camilla and this guy? It always looked like they were trying too hard to convince the public. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:17 AM |
| 69 | I’ve reached a point in my life where I advise my child free friends not to procreate with men. Exhibit a:He’ll tell her she needs to lose weight, and nothing else. I hope he has trouble staying employed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:12 AM |
| 10 | I’ve reached a point in my life where I advise my child free friends not to procreate with men. Exhibit a:“We’re both med residents” What do you call someone who graduates in last place from medical school? “Doctor.” I can’t believe this idiot is doing his residency yet is blatantly stupid about how pregnancy really affects a woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:09 AM |
| 68 | Piggybacking off of the not clapping back at men who neg you post. What are some examples of negging that men have done to you?I know I must have been begged because there’s been a few first dates with scrotes. I guess I just can’t be bothered to remember them - the negs or the men. lol I do have an ex who outright criticized me for not being more talkative. He gave me a blank stare when I said it’s because I need a few seconds to read the room when meeting new people. He finally said that’s stupid and I should just immediately start saying something, anything so people don’t think I’m boring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:06 AM |
| 131 | Piggybacking off of the not clapping back at men who neg you post. What are some examples of negging that men have done to you?I started laughing then realized there are women who probably are tricked 😢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:04 AM |
| 2 | Famous HMV?Boys Over Flowers has been recommended to me so many times! I cannot get through the first episode. ML is such an ahole and I’m not here for his tragic backstory or whatever they use to try to excuse it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 03:59 AM |
| 16 | If he wanted to, he would... another postI just felt myself go dry. Starbucks has its own place but I’m incompatible with somebody who seriously asks this question the context you’ve given. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 07:01 AM |
| 147 | Posted in reddit 'Made me smile'. The bar is in hell.😒 I guess her husband didn’t know if he looked after her for one day, he could humblebrag about it on Reddit (y’all remember that post, right?) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 04:49 AM |
| 76 | Gomez Addams 💚“no that’s just how siblings are” 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 03:45 AM |
| 149 | Tech Boss, Venture Capitalist Michael Goguen Kept a Spreadsheet of 5000 Women He Slept WithAnd I bet he was in love with each and every one of them. (/sarcasm, and backstory: I dated a man who had lost count of his number. He couldn’t even give me a guesstimate, but said with a perfectly straight face, “I may not remember their names or faces, but I was in love with each and everyone of them. I can’t fall in love with a woman without having sex with her.” And that was when I noped right out lol) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 03:41 AM |
| 328 | Never beg a man to marry youShe summed it up near the end where she lies to herself about how they’re happy in their day to day life. It’s the same mentality of all the women who stay with NVM because he’s so wonderful when he’s not cheating, stealing from her, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 09:28 PM |
| 71 | Never beg a man to marry youDid she even get a ring? Or a proposal? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 09:27 PM |
| 182 | Never beg a man to marry youMaybe she always viewed marriage as the goal, and she’s been with him for so long that she can’t imagine any other outcome? Meanwhile, I’m over here imagining the outcome where she’s with somebody who actually wants to be with her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 09:26 PM |
| 102 | Never beg a man to marry youIs it bad if my eyeballs start bleeding…no, wait. It’s not blood. My vision is just obscured by all the red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 09:25 PM |
| 23 | Male friends and brothers will 'pity' my bfIt sounds to me like a good chance for a HVW to improve her vetting process, which shouldn’t be limited to just dating. I can’t remember if it was here or one of the spin-offs, but somebody mentioned we should be using what we learn here for all of our relationships: friends, family - everyone. Find which relationships are good for us. Discard the rest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 07:34 PM |
| 80 | If he wanted to, he would... another postHowever, I am totally down for a coffee date if it’s one of those barista experiences some indie coffee bars offer where it’s a whole experience in learning to make coffee, and then a taste-testing session afterward. Level up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 06:19 PM |
| 23 | Men will scream misandry when you warn women to weary of all men until proven otherwise. Then, proceed to say the exact same thing the moment their daughters or sisters start dating/working/entering high school! So GTFO!Oh I know he’s not wrong…now. When I was a kid/teen, I still believed in the best in people because nobody had proved me wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 06:14 PM |
| 49 | Men will scream misandry when you warn women to weary of all men until proven otherwise. Then, proceed to say the exact same thing the moment their daughters or sisters start dating/working/entering high school! So GTFO!My dad wanted me to make my own money (because independent financial stability is power), and look for a partner who is at my level or higher. It’s one of those lectures I shake my head about now, because as someone who was young and inexperienced at the time, it seemed so outdated and out of touch when he’d say, “Because men are really weak and fragile if they don’t self-reflect, and most of them don’t. If you marry a man who makes less than you do, eventually he’ll take out his frustrations on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 05:57 PM |
| 51 | Men will scream misandry when you warn women to weary of all men until proven otherwise. Then, proceed to say the exact same thing the moment their daughters or sisters start dating/working/entering high school! So GTFO!Your last line almost made me spit out my tea. I know women who stay with LVM because “at least he doesn’t beat me.” Sis! He’s not supposed to beat you anyways! Raise. The. Bar! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 05:53 PM |
| 81 | Male friends and brothers will 'pity' my bfI would bide my time for the brothers! If/when they eventually bring home a girlfriend, you wear your happiest, nicest smile and exclaim, “What’s my brother like as a boyfriend? I remember how he used to say he was glad he didn’t have a girlfriend because he thinks guys who are nice to women are simps. lol” If you say it like you’re sure he was joking, you avoid looking like the a**hole, give her a heads up, and get back at your brother. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 05:50 PM |
| 237 | Male friends and brothers will 'pity' my bfI didn’t see the part in the handbook where we aren’t supposed to have male friends, and if yours are saying the things you mention, they aren’t friends. Also, I’d start correcting them: “I’m so glad I don’t have a girlfriend” to “You mean you’re so glad no woman wants to be your girlfriend. Fixed that for ya! 😘😂” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 03:16 PM |
| 22 | Annoyed with How Pressured Women Are Not to Be Angry or Bitter After a BreakupYou sound like someone who appreciates the end game so here goes: one of my friends broke up with her scrote boyfriend. Our friend group knew she was upset about things, but she acted “normal” around him (they still saw each other at club activities.) She came across as so unaffected that, after a few months, it really sunk in that nobody else paid for his groceries when he misbudgeted, listened with endless compassion as he waxed about problems of his own making, and otherwise babied him in a m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 03:12 PM |
| 24 | When David Attenborough is asked about how his wife's death affected him, all he could bring up was how his daughter had to move in with him because he can't cook. Timestamp 16:40-17:50. This man is often thought of as a HVM because of his loves for animals. He is not.One of my friends has an analogy: she’s a runner, albeit not an innately talented one, and has worked really hard to run a mile in under seven minutes. Other people might work just as hard as she does, but can’t run at her pace. It doesn’t mean they’re not trying, however, and so I feel it goes in situations like this. I’m not saying they get a free pass. I have told people I know who are like this that they have choices; I do t indulge them in believing that they have to be caregivers. At the s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 07:16 AM |
| 45 | When David Attenborough is asked about how his wife's death affected him, all he could bring up was how his daughter had to move in with him because he can't cook. Timestamp 16:40-17:50. This man is often thought of as a HVM because of his loves for animals. He is not.They still have my sympathy because the odds have been stacked against them since birth. It’s too easy for someone like me to have opinions about what they should do. I grew up with a dad who told me my abilities made me superior to the majority of men out there and I should never settle. My mom prized independence and equity. Of course I am never going to coddle some man, but what if my upbringing had been different? What if I had been raised as per tradition in my culture, which was that educa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 06:35 AM |
| 89 | Saw a surprising amount of HVM in the wild under a facebook article today. Happy Friday ☀️It was beautiful. They filmed the both of them lighting up when he entered the hospital room: “There’s the princess! Good morning, beautiful girl!” He stayed all through visiting hours: talking to her, brushing her hair, feeding her. Before he left, he kissed her, smiled, and promised, “I’ll be back tomorrow!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 02:49 AM |
| 176 | When David Attenborough is asked about how his wife's death affected him, all he could bring up was how his daughter had to move in with him because he can't cook. Timestamp 16:40-17:50. This man is often thought of as a HVM because of his loves for animals. He is not.A sponsored video floated into my feed the other day. A man was pleading with his wife to give him another chance: he acknowledged that he messed up by cheating, and begged her to think of how much they struggled to get to where they were today. That was when she read him the riot act and pointed out there was no “we” who struggled. She cut her education short. She gave up her career. She stayed home to raise the kids and maintain the household so he could pursue his career. And I was just like,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 02:47 AM |
| 48 | When David Attenborough is asked about how his wife's death affected him, all he could bring up was how his daughter had to move in with him because he can't cook. Timestamp 16:40-17:50. This man is often thought of as a HVM because of his loves for animals. He is not.I see several layers of problems. The obvious are the man not raised to pull his own weight, and the female children conditioned to enable this. I’m sure he would have figured things out if left on his own. It might not be to the same standards as when his wife was alive, but he would have made do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 02:44 AM |
| -8 | A reminder just in time for Christmas.I’m confused: am I not supposed to put this in my mouth? lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 11:01 PM |
| 12 | LVM blocked by ex decides to plaster self-indulgent hoover letter all over her new neighbourhood (French)It works in the movies, where this is a sign that he really, really loves her -barf- | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 10:59 PM |
| 58 | LVM blocked by ex decides to plaster self-indulgent hoover letter all over her new neighbourhood (French)I’m torn between laughing at the ridiculousness of “now that I’ve screwed around, I realize no one is better than you” and outrage on Alice’s behalf. If someone I’d curious about what else is out there, they stay single to find out, not keep a security “partner” waiting at home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 04:53 PM |
| 536 | Saw a surprising amount of HVM in the wild under a facebook article today. Happy Friday ☀️The first response made me think of a senior citizen who walks 5+ miles each way, everyday, to visit his wife in her nursing home. When he talked to the interviewer about her, he had stars in his eyes as if they were both 16. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 04:51 PM |
| 127 | LVM blocked by ex decides to plaster self-indulgent hoover letter all over her new neighbourhood (French)Is this the ages old, “I made a mistake. I cheated with all of these women but it didn’t mean anything: forgive me, Alice”? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 03:00 PM |
| 77 | His bride looks mortified. I can't imagine what she felt at that moment.This is one of those things with the potential to be funny, but the keys are (a) the bride has to be in on the joke (b) it needs to actually be a joke, not some passive aggressiveness with deep roots in truth, and (c) the groom and his friends aren’t actually scrotes. And the more I think about it, I can imagine my late husband at the rehearsal dinner turning to his best friend with a look of mock worry and ask, “Do I…?” before turning back to me with a big grin and saying, “Just kidding! Of cou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 06:50 PM |
| 2 | Reject a man if you meet him in the wild and your gut screams NO but your people-pleaser wants to give him your numberOh…? Please explain the non-sexual way you want to untie me. innocent eyes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 04:28 AM |
| 29 | 'You know a man can die from blue balls, right. It's a fact!' *side eye* Being given the opportunity of earning the gift of your grace is a privilege a man must work. Don't let scrotes lie, cheat or bully you into believing they need physical attention. Obviously they can live just fine pussy free.Speaking of lies that persist: - pregnancy is always a possibility when a woman has sex with a man. Don’t let him tel you he has a low sperm count, nobody gets pregnant the first time, etc. - you should both be tested for STD/Is before having intercourses with each other; “I don’t have sex with those kinds of people” is…I don’t even know where to start with all the things wrong with that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 04:25 AM |
| 47 | Famous HMV?I only recently started getting into Kdramas, but I feel like the ones geared at teens follow the typical, toxic “her biggest bully is actually her one true love!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 08:29 PM |
| 24 | Famous HMV?What genre does your daughter prefer to watch? What are some of her favorite shows? We might be able to go from there with suggestions that are similar, but with HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 06:26 PM |
| 35 | Let’s count the red flags together!I give people in general a few minutes because sometimes stuff happens. However, if they’re unapologetic and don’t even acknowledge they’re late, that’s a huge mark against them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 04:33 PM |
| 64 | Let’s count the red flags together!Some of my favorite local restaurants don’t accept reservations. They’re very popular and, while the they are always very nice and professional, it’s no loss for them if somebody won’t go because they can’t make a reservation. And timeliness is a HV trait. In fact, if we say 7, I expect both of us to be there early enough to ensure we find parking and can get there at the appointed time. We wouldn’t play the arrival game with anything we considered important in our lives. And if someone else is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 04:30 PM |
| 194 | Let’s count the red flags together!Judging by the previous responses, it’s not an unpopular opinion that he’s not wrong to be upset by her unapologetic lateness. I wouldn’t confuse her with a HVW/FDS sister just because she ran up a bill, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 03:49 PM |
| 25 | Y’all do not be hating LVM enough for me.I feel like that subset is at the beginning of their FDS journey and are in the process of breaking bad habits and mindsets. And it’s wild to see the disconnect of the people providing advice and encouragement…but in the next post mock what they perceive as pickme behavior from another source. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 04:38 AM |
| 29 | Y’all do not be hating LVM enough for me.I think suspicion is healthy, and unfortunately deserved. While I’ve had great luck with the majority of my actual relationships, there were far too many dates who said they couldn’t fall in love with someone until they had sex with them (they said this on the first date), never mind the ones that were “separated but living in the same house for the kids’ sake.” Society gives men a pass and many of them take advantage of that, BUT I thought we’re all here to make sure we land the rare ones who a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 04:34 AM |
| 71 | Y’all do not be hating LVM enough for me.Yes, and the mental gymnastics some of them do is something else. I’ll go one step further and say that this is supposed to be about dating strategies but a lot of people sure are acting like they don’t want to deal with men. Why even be here? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 04:17 AM |
| 51 | Y’all do not be hating LVM enough for me.The friend you mentioned in your last paragraph made me think of one of my friends. The Christmas before lockdown, I received a card from her. The front was pictures of her at the best international destinations she visited during the previous year. Best life indeed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 04:13 AM |
| 373 | Professor's controversial interview defending 'minor-attracted persons' prompts statement from schoolLife expectancy is pretty decent now. Women are able to be self-sufficient. Maternal mortality rates are down from Biblical times. There is no need to pair off prepubescent children with filthy old men who took awhile to financially establish themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 07:39 PM |
| 20 | Please don’t enable menI know it’s not normal in western society, but what jumped out at me is that she seems to have been used. People here have commented about some men marrying because they want a mommy figure to cook, clean, and babysit, with a side benefit of being there for sex. I feel like this LW proved this, except the sex part obviously. Men want women to take care of them like they’re children. I think “punished for the sins of a dead woman” means she had to move in after her son’s first wife died, because … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 05:58 PM |
| 16 | How our sisters over in China are fighting the patriarchy.There was a story awhile ago about a group of women who had been friends since childhood. I can’t remember if they each built their own house on the same land or if they’re in the same building, but they look after each other, and each has a household responsibility aimed at her personal strength. It’s inspirational, and who wouldn’t go for this kind of shared community effort over a man with weaponized incompetence? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 05:22 PM |
| 5 | Is the collapse of the middle class producing more LVM?It was news in the U.S. awhile back. It’s too depressing for me to look up and find a link. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 05:19 PM |
| 145 | Please don’t enable menFor anyone interested in the advice: Kicked to the Curb: What you did for your son and grandchildren was heroic. Dropping that blame bomb on your son's fiancee is not. Your son and his new wife absolutely, completely deserve space to create their own household. It has nothing to do with you personally. And it's as much your son's choice as hers. A woman who had not lived in a crowded household and not nursed her dying mother would reasonably ask this. If I were in her place, but coming from my o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 05:13 PM |
| 97 | How our sisters over in China are fighting the patriarchy.Wow. Everything they tell married women to do is from the abusers handbook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 01:01 AM |
| 35 | I can't help itLink to your Kickstarter and we will come… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 12:45 AM |
| 208 | How our sisters over in China are fighting the patriarchy.“the population of women is more than men so I shouldn’t be picky” This sounds like some straight up scrote propaganda. lol “Settle for me! It will feel like being single and alone, but more expensive!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 12:42 AM |
| 35 | Is the collapse of the middle class producing more LVM?Are you referring to the child whose father made her pregnant and the courts agreed she must have seduced him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 08:55 PM |
| 28 | The Top Places for First Dates in my city as voted on by the populace are... Free public spaces for walking dates.I like walks as part of a bigger plan. Walking to get to the best picnic location, and he’s prepared a basket of fruits and gourmet crackers and cheese? Parking a bit away so we can enjoy the scenery on the way to dinner? Sure! Walking alone shows that he didn’t put in any effort. Before any of them think to go there, I’m not buying the “outdoor/athletic” excuse. If that’s what they’re going for, make a reservation at an indoor rock climbing location, or book one of those horseback riding packag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 07:57 PM |
| 5 | The Top Places for First Dates in my city as voted on by the populace are... Free public spaces for walking dates.Who picks the locations? Do readers make suggestions, and then vote on them? Or does some random person at the paper put down things for people to vote on? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 07:51 PM |
| 63 | Is the collapse of the middle class producing more LVM?One of my friends comes from a culture where shunning is still practiced. I used to think it was basically the neighbors ignore you, but what she (and you) describe is so much more than that. I can see how such power could be abused, but I also think it wouldn’t be completely awful if there was still some level of societal pressure. The concept of legal ramifications is one thing (and a small thing at that, when we consider a r-pist can just be like “she’s had previous sex partners” and the cour… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 07:42 PM |
| 68 | Is the collapse of the middle class producing more LVM?I feel like this post is conflating purchase power with being a HVM. I know one of the FDS tenets is to have a man splurge on a date, but taking that at face value makes us lose sight of the motivation behind that. An extravagant date usually takes effort. Effort is what a man should put in if he’s really interested in a woman. Note that I wrote “usually takes effort.” I dated a wealthy man who, for our first trip, planned an elaborate weekend getaway at a coastal town. He paid for the hotel, an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 07:17 PM |
| 92 | Did your dad/brother/male figures understand when you were being harassed as a teen?My dad knew what the world was like. He taught me how to throw a punch and said he hoped I never needed to do so, but if I did? Take ‘em down with one shot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 08:56 AM |
| 10 | I wish it was easier to block and delete NVM/LVM family.Does your brother have extenuating circumstances, or is he that family member who is an ahole because everyone else got used to tiptoeing around him? My dad and mom would never put up with a tantrum from me. To address your situation: no is a complete sentence. I’d throw in the dig that he’s always an ahole to me so he can find help elsewhere. And then I’d walk away. If/when your parents get on your back about keeping the piece, calmly tell them you don’t let friends or co-workers mistreat you. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 03:12 AM |
| 38 | Is marriage always a good idea for a woman with assets?L/NVM don’t do any parenting. All the men in my family pull their weight. One of my favorite te memories is my brother calling my mom in a panic because he did everything in the books and his son was still crying. My mom said welcome to parenthood. lol ETA: this is not in the vein of “not all men” but “don’t let men get away with things because you lowered your expectations.” Men are perfectly capable of parenting, especially when their wives don’t give them a pass (I’m better at this, my a**. Y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 03:05 AM |
| 19 | Is marriage always a good idea for a woman with assets?Somebody like Taylor Swift would only need to get married for love. What else could a man possibly contribute that she doesn’t already have? In addition, Kelly Clarkson’s divorce alerted me to the fact that prenups can be contested. Yikes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 03:02 AM |
| 39 | Sisters: They are publicly and actively supporting the overturn of Roe v. Wade. They would sooner put us back in the kitchen barefoot and pregnant than recognize us as humans with choice. How will we protect our rights?Look at that smugly face. You know he’s harassed children (“underage girls” loses the disgusting tone the descriptor should have) and has thrown abortion money at his side pieces. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 02:58 AM |
| 6 | My milkshakes bring HVM to the yard!I, too, drink my coffee with turmeric and cinnamon! Maybe that’s the trick and everything else in my post is just coincidence 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 02:54 AM |
| 43 | Chelsea Handler Says Boyfriend Jo Koy Has 'Renewed My Faith in Men': 'Never Settle'I feel like his whole routine is punching down on Asians to get approval from whites people. Total NVM move. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 02:51 AM |
| 191 | I know a pickme had to swipe right on him. 🤮Jokes like this aren’t funny because they’re too close to the truth. I can’t help but wonder if he’d turn it around on any future girlfriend or wife: “You knew who I was!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 02:50 AM |
| 66 | Reject a man if you meet him in the wild and your gut screams NO but your people-pleaser wants to give him your numberYes! I’ve used this too! Me: Sorry, I have a boyfriend. Him: Your boyfriend doesn’t let you have friends? Me: No. I say it with a straight face like it’s obvious and perfectly normal that’s not “allowed to have friends” and it’s like they don’t know how to respond. lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 10:29 AM |
| 326 | Another stage of the vetting process- are they there for you in times of grief?This poor woman… I hope that, as the grief abates, she is filled with righteous rage that sends her to a divorce lawyer. What kind of emotionally bankrupt person thinks grief should be finished within three days? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 07:24 AM |
| 38 | I need advice on how to respond and keep my composure lmao. I thought I deleted all my dating apps because I felt burnt out and this person found me (my name is unique so not that hard to find me on instagram). I have school/work going on anyways to "make friends"“Thank you for your interest! At this time, we are not fulfilling requests that fit your specification. All the best, [your name]” lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 06:00 AM |
| 107 | Reject a man if you meet him in the wild and your gut screams NO but your people-pleaser wants to give him your numberThese are all straightforward and acceptable, as long as the other person is reasonable. If the vibe is off, I’ll say something absurd with a straight face: “My dad said not to give out my number. Sorry!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 05:58 AM |
| 5 | Love Story that You Find InspirationalTrial Marriage Husband: Need to Work Hard | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 05:26 AM |
| 193 | I need advice on how to respond and keep my composure lmao. I thought I deleted all my dating apps because I felt burnt out and this person found me (my name is unique so not that hard to find me on instagram). I have school/work going on anyways to "make friends"“I’m not looking for anything in particular” Boy, how you lie! This is code for looking for sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 05:24 AM |
| 60 | "Being economically dependent on a man leaves you in a vulnerable position." - This is what the handbook looks like IRL. being tossed out like a rotten piece of meat while he goes out to groom someone your daughter's age.I actually had really good luck going through a temp agency (my background is in Accounting). I got the salary I wanted and everything. This was after 10 years away from the workforce. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 05:23 AM |
| 55 | How do you establish financial independence?No matter how great a relationship is, know where the money is! I’ve dealt with so many older women whose husbands pass and they’re lost financially. “I don’t know what we have or at which institutions. He handled everything!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 02:20 AM |
| 81 | "Being economically dependent on a man leaves you in a vulnerable position." - This is what the handbook looks like IRL. being tossed out like a rotten piece of meat while he goes out to groom someone your daughter's age.I mentioned in my comment that a woman at my old job woke one morning to find her husband gone and their bank accounts cleaned out. He had been contributing to a spousal retirement plan that lol he couldn’t touch. I Lol because he tried and the bank told pretty much told him, “Nope! You get the tax break. She gets the cash.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 02:14 AM |
| 269 | "Being economically dependent on a man leaves you in a vulnerable position." - This is what the handbook looks like IRL. being tossed out like a rotten piece of meat while he goes out to groom someone your daughter's age.A woman at my old job legit woke up one morning to find her husband gone and their bank accounts cleaned out. If someone wants to be a SAHM, she still needs to have a secret stash that she regularly contributes to and her husband doesn’t know about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 02:11 AM |
| 146 | "Should universities be offering sex work advice to their students?"I hit a paywall, but I think universities should be offering more affordable tuition and housing. Make it so students don’t feel cornered. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 12:36 AM |
| 69 | My milkshakes bring HVM to the yard!Yea! Hygiene! Good hygiene is so, so basic…but some women will make excuses for that. WHY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 12:31 AM |
| 42 | ENTHUSIASM matters. If he does not show authentic excitement to court you, DROP him.It depends on how active he is on social media, and what he likes to share. If he has an account but barely uses it, or if his account is basically catering to a hobby or interest, I don’t think it’s a big deal. If he’s otherwise active, then yes, it looks like he’s trying to keep her hidden. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 11:28 PM |
| 52 | curious why men send dick picsThat’s just nasty and predatory! I’d be tempted to smile when they pick up their photos and ask, “Not to pry, but are you an artist? You’re always developing pictures of your thumb so I was wondering if it’s part of a series or something?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 05:46 PM |
| 7 | Tired of polyamorous folks being judgemental towards monogamy, I need helplol But you instantly got a visual, right? 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 05:44 PM |
| -47 | The comment section is a dumpster fire. How dare she to have standards! Some of them are “I see her future buying dog and cat food”, “the higher they fly, lower they fall”, “phd doesn’t buy you class obviously”, etc.He seems kind of dorky looking, but I think it’s the type that could be endearing and grow on you, if his personality wasn’t so awful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 05:42 PM |
| 63 | Update: dumped him over text this morning.Feeling like a weight has been lifted is a good indication that you made the right choice. Proud of you, sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 05:39 PM |
| 55 | "Do you want to hang out sometime?"I’ve only had this directed at me as a way to gauge interest. If I said yes, it’s always been followed up with a plan: Him: Do you want to hangout sometime? Me: Sure! Him: Are you free Saturday. Me: I’m open until 2, then again around the dinner hour. Him: Okay, let’s meet at 10? I know a really great breakfast place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 05:38 PM |
| 54 | curious why men send dick pics“all think they have the one magic dick” yet get very angry when I tell them, “I’ve seen better. Keep telling yourself size doesn’t matter tho” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 03:58 PM |
| 51 | curious why men send dick picsIt’s not “now a thing,” it’s been a thing. One of my older cousins had a few emailed to her back when people had to have film developed then scan the picture. lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 03:55 PM |
| 48 | Guys favorite excuses for not giving you a relationshipOne of my biggest pet peeves is women who ask, “What does a man really mean when he says he’s not ready for a relationship?” Even during my pickme days, I knew this meant run away! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 03:53 PM |
| 28 | What's the best gift you received by a HVM?Without going into identifying details, one of my interests is in a niche where everything looks the same to outsiders. My late HV husband figured out the one that was most important to me and bought a bunch of items that were missing from my collection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 03:39 PM |
| 179 | Dating outside of your raceAdding to your list: if he waxes about how much he loves Asian cultures run if he negs you because he knows or thinks he knows more about your culture than you do, RUN if he can’t stop mentioning your race, even if the words are complimentary, run | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 03:31 PM |
| 88 | The comment section is a dumpster fire. How dare she to have standards! Some of them are “I see her future buying dog and cat food”, “the higher they fly, lower they fall”, “phd doesn’t buy you class obviously”, etc.One of the grossest threads I saw had men complaining about women who won’t date short men…while defending their pReFeReNcEs not to date WOC, “fat” women, women without hue breasts, etc | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 03:21 PM |
| 102 | Straight from the horse’s mouth: men who ask you to hook up with them literally only want you for sex. These comments were in response to a woman who was complaining about the audacity men on Tinder have in asking her if she “wants to fuck”My former roommate used to brag. I had to tell her that a woman having many sexual partners is not impressive; how many of those men actually stuck around is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 03:11 PM |
| 42 | New guy feels the need to talk shit about a dead HVM. Smells like LV/NV from where I'm standing.She sounds young, and like Max was her one and only. She also sounds like she’s still grieving. She’s not a pickme, but somebody who needs to hear that people like Dan are bottom of the barrel and her kindness is better placed elsewhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 03:06 PM |
| 41 | Tired of polyamorous folks being judgemental towards monogamy, I need helpThe one time I was seriously and intensely propositioned for a threesome, all I could think was, “…ew. I’m cute! If I’m doing it, it’s not with someone who looks like chicharron personified and a raggedy Ann doll left under the wheels of a tractor.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 03:43 AM |
| 13 | Tired of polyamorous folks being judgemental towards monogamy, I need helpWhatever the topic, people only fight you for choices like this because they question their own. Women who are really poly and not just convincing themselves they are so they can hold onto their man don’t care what anyone else is doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 03:39 AM |
| 40 | One of the biggest lies sold to women is the importance of upholding the relationship at any costGrandparents’ relationships instantly sprang to mind when I saw your title. “ThEy KnEw HoW tO wOrK tOgEtHeR! tHeY dIdN’t QuIt!!” No. Many times they stayed together because the other option was homelessness and poverty. Things aren’t perfect now, but at least we can have money and property in out names, and a better chance to get the skills to find a decent job. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 03:37 AM |
| 42 | Never Help Men With Their Woman-Seeking MotivesYeah. No. I guess I’m at a point in my life where my friends have all landed HVM lol. The most I’ve heard in recent years is, “I’m planning a surprise party. I need you to keep her out of the house from 4-6 so I can clean and get everything ready.” Re: can you give me her number - You can tell a lot about someone based on his reaction when you say, “No, but if you give me yours, I’ll make sure she gets it.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 03:32 AM |
| 80 | Perspective | For years, I pursued men and got nowhere. Then I learned how to sit in the passenger’s seat.I read this through the lens of my personal experiences, and things I learned the hard way lol I think women taking the lead is sometimes like the concept of the women having casual sex. There’s nothing wrong with either, but we run the risk of attracting LVM. Whereas casual sex leads to men who don’t see us as human, being forward/asserting during courtship runs the risk of hooking a lazy man: and then we don’t realize until we’re married, cohabitating, and he won’t do a thing unless we remind … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 03:27 AM |
| 18 | Reminder: Being The "Cool Girl" who isn't "materialistic" will get you nothing.Totally apt comparison. Think about how many STI/Ds people get from paying for a date, the pregnancy risk, and… Oh wait. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 09:17 PM |
| 205 | Came up on my FB feed. Because there's nothing funnier than hitting women, right?“If I ever get down on my knees in front of a man it’s because he’s about to become a eunuch. Oh, violence is only funny when you suggest it?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 07:25 PM |
| 4 | I’m tired of doing emotional labor, ladies.There’s one more thought I’d like to add: if you’re not already seeing a therapist, maybe know your options so you know where to turn if he gets manipulative? I dated a two men who threatened that they wouldn’t have a reason to live if I broke up with them. They’re still alive (though mad af at the time when I said I wouldn’t be the cause if they went that route, and I’m happy to call the police to do a wellness check), but it doesn’t hurt to get to a place where you know his choices are not you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 07:13 PM |
| 49 | Reminder: Being The "Cool Girl" who isn't "materialistic" will get you nothing.LVM: Pay for the date I initiated? Women expect too much! Also LVM: B*tches owe me sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 07:09 PM |
| 4 | I’m tired of doing emotional labor, ladies.If you want to pursue this a little while longer and see what happens: This feels like a “teach a man to fish” moment. If you’re not familiar with the saying, it’s something like, “If you give a man a fish, he will eat for a day. If you teach him how to fish, he’ll never go hungry again.” Instead of talking him up, I’d start by saying, “I think you’re great, so when you put yourself down, I feel sad. I encourage you, but it doesn’t seem to help. I think we need to find ways to help you flip the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 06:43 PM |
| 13 | Does anyone have a pickme family member that is always in a dilemma with men? How do you handle them?Have you asked her what she likes/loves about him? I did this with a few friends. Sometimes it was a wake up call. Sometimes it made them acknowledge that they chose to make crap life choices. The question is a starting point though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 05:57 PM |
| 239 | "Oh yeah, you want a man who brushes his teeth? I dated a guy who brushed his teeth and he kicked puppies for breakfast!"I was going to start out that this isn’t the point of the post, but then I realized it kind of relates, so here goes: poor oral hygiene can lead to heart disease. It’s not okay that these men are expecting us to have sex with them when their mouths smell like a sewer, AND we can look forward to being caregivers when their hearts go bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 05:34 PM |
| 44 | Reminder: Being The "Cool Girl" who isn't "materialistic" will get you nothing.What you wrote reads to me like “LVM just told me he’s a LVM without telling me he’s a LVM” so I can nope right out lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 05:26 PM |
| 71 | Basis for going on a date?My attraction to somebody can grow based on their personality. I feel like I need to emphasize that this means the decency, humor, and exceptional kindness need to already be present. “I’m nice” ain’t it. Remember: nice is the baseline. Nice doesn’t kick puppies, but we’re not supposed to be kicking puppies in the first place! No rewards for meeting the bare minimum standards. But I guess you’re asking what are the minimal requirements to even get to this point? I’d need a basic level of attract… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 04:52 PM |
| 101 | Reminder: Being The "Cool Girl" who isn't "materialistic" will get you nothing.I’m curious to hear others’ interpretations, but I always thought a gold digger was someone whose entire life plan was, “Find a rich dude to bankroll my existence,” which I find hugely problematic. Mostly, this sets up a power dynamic where the woman is at a severe disadvantage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 04:43 PM |
| 22 | Wife discovers that her 30 yo husband was planning to leave her after finally graduating from college "because he wouldn't need her anymore". Another reason to not settle for men who are struggling.I got to the bottom of the first screenshot and thought, “Wtf… Celebratory dinner after every milestone? That’s something my parents used to do for me when I was a child!” I hope that she says nothing to him but goes to a divorce lawyer with the screenshots. Also, sisters? Don’t date married men, especially ones with grandiose stories about how they still live with the spouses they say they’re in the process of divorcing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 05:59 PM |
| 38 | Assault disguised as "mischief"While I would never do this because I’m not this kind of a**hole, I wonder how amused he’d me if somebody laughed along: tee-hee-hee-hee body slams him into the fountain (claps hands on either side of face) “Tee-hee! It’s been so long since I’ve done something mischievous, and I know you won’t get mad because we think the same! Tee-hee!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 05:53 PM |
| 48 | Assault disguised as "mischief"And what if somebody is on a controlled substance? They’re not going to believe this, even if it’s true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 05:49 PM |
| 24 | Assault disguised as "mischief"Sis, don’t second guess yourself. A person can do everything right and some NVM like this will still see her as a thing to be screwed over for his own amusement. This is all on him being a dumb*ss. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 05:47 PM |
| 124 | When it comes to "High Value" communities targeted to women, many are belong in the trashI’m so upset for her. I bet he accused her of “keeping score,” which I’ve found is a NVM’s way of saying, “You expect me to be an equal partner and that’s not fair!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 05:45 PM |
| 78 | “Not ready to be serious … but I want to keep seeing you!!” does NOT warrant any response“Not sure if he’s read to be serious…still wants to see me again” Translation: I lied on my profile and am looking for easy, NSA sex. You sound like you’re not like other girls so you’re down right? lol What a scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 04:23 AM |
| 10 | Millionaire Scrote Pulls Powerplay and Gets Come UppanceSo I just got back from Tik Tok. lol That is not a pickme. That is a HVW who accidentally loved the wrong man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 04:17 AM |
| 76 | Fawning like "How are you single?"/"You sound too good to be true!"/"Are you real?"I would be tempted to respond to “how do you exist” with a sympathetic look and, “Your school didn’t have a comprehensive sex Ed course, huh?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 06:52 PM |
| 36 | Reminder: Nobody is nicer than a man trying to have sex with you for the first time.lol Uh-huh. I was all that until I told you no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 06:17 PM |
| 80 | Reminder: Nobody is nicer than a man trying to have sex with you for the first time.We always put our best selves forward at the beginning of a relationship/dating. I’m surprised when women give a second chance to some dude who doesn’t even try to look halfway presentable. Imagine how much worse things will get! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 06:17 PM |
| 48 | A collection of recent bios I’ve seen on OLD, and their translationslol! Actually study in an academic setting, or reads a lot of self-help books? I’m not deriding self-help books, but in this case it’s like me saying I study medicine because I’ve been on webmd. We sure do like nice guys! However, nice is the baseline. And if you’re using this line to describe yourself, you’re most likely not nice: you’re a scrote with no personality, no dreams for yourself, no spine, and you’re mad that you can’t get laid. From what my poly friends have said, this is not how it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 06:15 PM |
| 103 | Fawning like "How are you single?"/"You sound too good to be true!"/"Are you real?"I’ve been on dates where men ask me why I’m still single. They’ve all been great enough to chuckle self-deprecatingly when I grin and ask, “Well, why are you [still single]?” I think that sometimes people are just amazed that we both happened to be single at the same time and happened to meet each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 06:09 PM |
| 123 | How do you deal with HVM that know they have options?I don’t think he was a HVM if your internal warning bells were going off. Always listen to your intuition! A HVM isn’t going to cheat, nor be with you while thinking he can do better. You get over the insecurities by being a HVW and knowing your worth. When you believe in and value yourself, the hurt doesn’t stick because you know what you deserve. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 06:07 PM |
| 52 | Millionaire Scrote Pulls Powerplay and Gets Come UppanceOne of the reasons I don’t like the “why didn’t she” game is because we have all been the “why didn’t she” girl at some point in our lives. It feels like a low value move to act like we can judge because that isn’t is now. And on that note, there have been at least two (that I’ve seen) recent posts from FDS sisters who were beating themselves up for making mistakes. Are some of us secretly looking down our noses at our fellow members? Do we really believe ourselves to be infallible? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 03:46 PM |
| 33 | Millionaire Scrote Pulls Powerplay and Gets Come Uppancelol I need to find the moment she walks out. What a Queen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 03:42 PM |
| 31 | Men don’t humanise us!It’s ridiculous that the sex that thinks they are so logical can’t show sympathy until someone makes them realize, “Duuuuuurrrrr, this porn has someone’s daughter/sister/mother! And I wouldn’t want my daughter/sister/mother to go through this!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 12:02 AM |
| 101 | Sad, unfortunate truths about the “friend zone”This comment gave me chills. I’ve encountered so many NVM yelling that they were nice to a woman. So what? Nice is the baseline. They don’t get participation awards, much less a date or sex, because they did what they’re supposed to do! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 09:55 PM |
| 61 | Don’t travel for a man. Especially on your own dime. If he was interested he would travel to you or at very minimum pay for your flight and accommodations.He miraculously discovered some cash in his pocket. lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 09:52 PM |
| 46 | Don’t travel for a man. Especially on your own dime. If he was interested he would travel to you or at very minimum pay for your flight and accommodations.“I think men like the idea of having a beautiful woman waiting on them” This is funny because the scrotes in the dating subs complain they can’t get dates because women are only on the apps for attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 09:27 PM |
| 3 | If you want a complete stranger to stop and give you the time if day, call the phone company.The screenshot looks like it’s from FB messenger. Maybe he saw OP comment somewhere, thought she was cute, and tried to shoot his shot? But that’s just gross and not how to approach someone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 09:23 PM |
| 14 | Should I tell my boyfriend (very recent), that I am not sure if I want to get married or have kids?I don’t think you need to bring it up just yet if you’re unsure. If he asks, be honest. If things progress and marriage seems on the horizon, let him know about your goals and uncertainty. This dating phase is just the trial period. You’ll figure out or clarify things about yourself in the next few months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 08:35 PM |
| 8 | Asking a man for his zodiac sign can be a great vetting strategyWhat?! So what were you supposed to say? “My hobbies involve gazing at clouds and discerning shapes of obscure creatures from Greek mythology while philosophizing about the way each of Medusa’s snakes represented a shortcoming of modern society and the spiritual bonds that must be tethered to arise to my higher self”? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 06:13 PM |
| 125 | Don’t travel for a man. Especially on your own dime. If he was interested he would travel to you or at very minimum pay for your flight and accommodations.lol I can’t believe I forgot about this until now! I went on a first date and we got to the ticket window before he poorly feigned surprise and exclaimed, “I forgot my wallet!” I instinctively said, “Me too!” which…lol I could tell he wanted to call me out because I had my purse with me and everything. Spoiler alert: I did not pay for the date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 06:08 PM |
| 11 | Please don’t try to pick up people at their jobsOr how about this: Timmy, nobody is entitled to a blue balloon just because you want it, but if you genuinely work to be the best person you can be, you increase the chances of having a blue balloon. Timmy: screams I WANT THE BALLOON NOW! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 06:05 PM |
| 288 | Sad, unfortunate truths about the “friend zone”This is another for the files of Men Need to Accept No as an Answer. 1 You are not entitled to any woman’s affection, except perhaps your actual mother. Fighting “the friend zone” reinforces that the thought process in the tweet is correct. Only L/NVM think friendship is a waste. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 06:02 PM |
| 16 | Please don’t try to pick up people at their jobs“Sick of men trying to ‘own’ women who say no” It’s because they r hUnTeRs and “no” triggers their HuNtEr InStInCt /sarcasm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 05:36 PM |
| 17 | Please don’t try to pick up people at their jobsOne of the things that’s infuriating is that there’s “nothing” your bosses can do…until you point out that if something happens to you on the premises, the workplace will be sued. Suddenly, there are things that can be done. smh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 05:34 PM |
| 13 | Asking a man for his zodiac sign can be a great vetting strategyThis is my ex. I taught him a home maintenance hack and he tried to teach it to me not even a week later. He had the balls to tell me I didn’t teach it to him; he thought of it all by himself. He couldn’t understand when I eventually left him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 05:32 PM |
| 155 | Don’t bother manipulating a LVM from doing weaponized incompetence. Just leave him. It will only get worse if you have children with him.“Going to take it all out today” Wow. This is akin to things I said to my mom when I was a kid - you know, after she gets tired of reminding nicely, gets upset, and kid!me fires back, “You don’t have to get mad! I was just about to do it!” Your ex enforces the idea that LVM just want a mommy figure who also gives them sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 03:55 PM |
| 9 | Asking a man for his zodiac sign can be a great vetting strategyAlternately, you share your opinion and some LVM who isn’t as thoughtful as you starts imposing his ill-conceived mumblings on you, thinking you’ll be impressed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 03:42 PM |
| 47 | Please don’t try to pick up people at their jobsThis makes me want to throw things. Servers. Are nice. To EVERYONE. Ugh. I know so many women who worked as servers and said so many shifts were spent praying that men didn’t think she was being nice to them especially. ETA: I hate when people downvote because someone isn’t telling them what they want to hear. Don’t ask a question if you only want people to tell you what you want to hear! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 03:39 PM |
| 16 | Asking a man for his zodiac sign can be a great vetting strategyI learned the other year that there are actually measures for whether something is considered a sport. Things like hiking and dance technically aren’t sports by that measure, and I think it would be hilarious if somebody WELL ACTUALLY’d him about this. Really though, I started getting secondhand anger when I realized he interrupted your reading. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 01:42 PM |
| 50 | Do not mentor/help male coworkers in their careers. It has ultra low chances of payoff.I read a Twitter thread where a female expert in her field had a male intern WELL ACTUALLY to her. The audacity… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 02:57 AM |
| 95 | Do not mentor/help male coworkers in their careers. It has ultra low chances of payoff.Correct me if I’m wrong, but does mentoring take time away from your job and responsibilities? Are your male colleagues mentoring anyone? If not, it sounds like another level of your male colleagues succeeding due to extra time made possible by you. That’s not fair. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 02:56 AM |
| 71 | Have you ever noticed that older women NEVER manipulate younger guys for personal gain? While men do it daily...One of the things I think is funny, however, is when these scrotes get mad because “young girls won’t look at you if you’re not Leonardo DiCaprio.” DUH. Like, what do these average middle aged scrotes bring to the table? They’re nice and haven’t hit a woman yet? There are no rewards for being the bare minimum standard! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 02:53 AM |
| 86 | Please don’t try to pick up people at their jobsThat last one is gross and scary! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 02:50 AM |
| 272 | Please don’t try to pick up people at their jobsHe thinks the pharmacist- who interacts with people all. day. long. - has been damaged by OLD and no longer knows how to interact with people. He actually believes this is why he was rejected, and not because she isn’t interested. The delusion is strong with scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 02:49 AM |
| 178 | Please don’t try to pick up people at their jobsI’ve heard, “Your boyfriend/husband doesn’t need to know!” Gross. I’m not a NV human being. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 02:37 AM |
| 129 | Please don’t try to pick up people at their jobsYikes. The disconnect of ranting and raving, but thinks you’re missing out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 01:31 AM |
| 367 | Please don’t try to pick up people at their jobsWhen I worked at a major department store, it made me really uncomfortable when strangers would ask me out. In the worst case scenario, they know where I work! It’s so invasive, and adds an extra layer of discomfort when we aren’t interested. Yeah, yeah, scrotes are gonna say they ain’t like that. How am I to know, especially when they lack to sense to realize their actions are cornering me? The scrote who thinks OC should keep going to the same pharmacy is an example of why some women are so wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 01:07 AM |
| 103 | Just recently found out that rock n’ roll LEGEND Tina Turner was cheated on and abused multiple times by her LV husband Ike. Can’t believe guys actually pull shit like this and then swear up and down they don’t abuse women 😑😡Anna Mae is Tina Turner’s name at birth. Some fans approached her for an autograph after she and Ike had won an award. Ike got jealous about the attention she was getting and told her to eat the celebratory cake. She didn’t want to, so he force fed it to her and then slapped her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 12:55 AM |
| 53 | The Dying Art of ConversationOut of curiosity, is this on chat, or in person? I’ve realized that I hate talking on the phone or video but do just fine in person lol I can talk on the phone for work, but yeah: I’d prefer not to do it at all in my personal life Men need to be able to at least maintain a face to face conversation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 12:29 AM |
| 135 | Just recently found out that rock n’ roll LEGEND Tina Turner was cheated on and abused multiple times by her LV husband Ike. Can’t believe guys actually pull shit like this and then swear up and down they don’t abuse women 😑😡Oh yeah: this has been out in the open for decades. Her song What’s Love Got to Do With It is a nod to this. Knowing her history, I thought it was extremely gross when Jay Z had a lyric that was something like, “Eat the cake, Anna Mae!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 12:26 AM |
| 29 | I really hope this guy did not actually sleep in a nest in his home and what he said is all satire 🤢🤢🤢It struck me that he was seemed really proud of himself, like he could have done better but chose not to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 12:03 AM |
| 154 | Asking a man for his zodiac sign can be a great vetting strategyI knew one guy who was always ridiculing everyone who liked mainstream movies. I finally asked him what was so great about his favorite movie. The conversation went something like this: Him: It’s obvious why it’s superior. Me: Not to me. So…go ahead and explain it like I’m the dummy you think I am for watching popular movies. Him: We’ll, the director didn’t have a Hollywood budget. Me: …that’s it? Him: (waxes verbatim from a review I happened to see in the newspaper) Me: No, why do you think it’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 12:00 AM |
| 63 | I really hope this guy did not actually sleep in a nest in his home and what he said is all satire 🤢🤢🤢lol “People still slept with me” Is he related to the scrote who thought the pretty, barely legal young miss at Home Depot wanted to reproduce with him? There is probably 1 in a million women who will have sex with a scrote on the “nest” this one described. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 10:46 PM |
| 51 | Leave the LVM/NVM men for the Pick-me's ladies, they deserve eachotherNo way: hope the pick mes see the light, lead them to it if they show interest, and let all the L/NVM be forgotten and left behind in the genetic pool. lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 10:22 PM |
| 26 | Asking a man for his zodiac sign can be a great vetting strategyI think astrology is fun, but I’d have reservations about someone showing too much interest when we first meet. In my experience, those people are a little disconnected from reality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 10:20 PM |
| 303 | Asking a man for his zodiac sign can be a great vetting strategyRight? There was a sis who posted just the other day about a scrote mocking her embroidery. Meanwhile, we’re expected to see value in their collection of indie movies that we know they don’t really understand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 10:18 PM |
| 134 | An observation regarding hair loss in men versus womenI feel that there is an all around double standard for women. We are expected to eat less, exercise more, dress sexy/don’t dress too sexy, wear makeup/don’t wear makeup (I know a lot of you read the last two and totally get it!), etc but some men think it’s impossible for them to fight against “nature”. Not to body shame, but I don’t think Beer Belly Bart should be telling a woman to cut the carbs while he downs another twelve back of Pabst Blue Ribbon while bemoaning “nature” and how he can’t c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 07:53 PM |
| 92 | I relapsedSis, you made a mistake as we all do. It always feels like we’ve made the biggest, most obvious, and stupidest mistakes - more than any other woman! - but you really didn’t. You chose hope. You chose love. The one who really f-cked up is your ex who chose to be a LVM. So forgive yourself, because you are a good person and worthwhile. You rock in your career! You have seen and done amazing things! The only loser in this equation is your ex. You will be his “one who got away.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 06:46 PM |
| 53 | This is hands down one of the most utterly depressing things I’ve ever seen. No matter how bleak things get, thanks to FDS we’ll never be this woman, passively rejected for a proposal by her child’s father after 11 YEARS of dating.I read that it was like this in the US up until the 1950s. People dated (I think it was a more neutral term, though. Socialized?) widely until a man proposed, and only then became exclusive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 06:29 PM |
| 77 | This is hands down one of the most utterly depressing things I’ve ever seen. No matter how bleak things get, thanks to FDS we’ll never be this woman, passively rejected for a proposal by her child’s father after 11 YEARS of dating.My friend works with a lot of NVM who are so proud of themselves for shutting up their girlfriends with a ring. They admit that they’ll never marry them, and the cost of the ring is small compared to the available sex and their girlfriends’ silence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 06:27 PM |
| 45 | This is hands down one of the most utterly depressing things I’ve ever seen. No matter how bleak things get, thanks to FDS we’ll never be this woman, passively rejected for a proposal by her child’s father after 11 YEARS of dating.For starters, she should go to court and drag him for every penny of child support she can get. It’s so important to surround oneself with fellow strong, HVW, and maintain those friendships with at least - if not more - effort than we put into romantic endeavors. My girl friends remind me of the best parts of myself when I’m in danger of forgetting, and vice versa. It helps to keep the scrotes away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 06:25 PM |
| 125 | Hookup culture is a scamWhen “sex-positivity for women” first gained traction, my dad said, “That’s BS. There’s a double standard and women are left holding the short end of the stick. Men will use this as an excuse to take advantage of women!” And I rolled my eyes because clearly my dad was out of touch. Clearly. (Sorry, Dad! You were always right…) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 06:17 PM |
| 53 | That time I THOUGHT I was dating a HVM 🤡 And the PLETHORA of red flags I ignoredRe 7: I lived in a foreign country for over a decade. I had friends within the first year because I physically connected with women I’d met through online forums. I made friends with people at work. I probably could have made friends at the gym if I’d wanted to, but I was really shy at the time. It’s harder to make friends when you’re an adult, but not impossible. If I were to be generous, I’d point out that this is yet another way toxic masculinity sucks: if men can’t even compliment each other… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 06:11 PM |
| 10 | In case you're tempted to dip your toe back into OLD...My friend made me homemade tortillas using her mom’s recipe. I’m tearing up just thinking about it. They were so delicious! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 05:51 PM |
| 61 | Hookup culture is a scamCasual sex would be perfectly fine in a world where “girls will be girls” and “girls have needs” is as acceptable as their male counterparts. There was a village - I think it was in one of the Asian countries? - where girls and women picked their husbands. They also had huts set up where they could have their trysts. Do you know why they stopped doing this? Because sh-t men from other countries found out and traveled to this remote area to r-pe the girls and women. The village didn’t shame the w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 05:50 PM |
| 304 | Doesn’t it seem like men only value women who they think are out of their league?Nah, a LVM’s “respect” isn’t even skin deep. On the off chance he does connect with a woman he perceives as out of his league, he’ll eventually mistreat her for “reminding” him of his inadequacies. (Facet of “reminding” consists of her existing. 🙄) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 05:26 PM |
| 103 | In case you're tempted to dip your toe back into OLD...This is what she thought until he explained, “You know, ornamental? From Asia?” But yeah: even if he didn’t meant Oriental it would be bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 05:22 PM |
| 60 | In case you're tempted to dip your toe back into OLD...Ouch. True | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 04:57 PM |
| 34 | In case you're tempted to dip your toe back into OLD...Even a sister who is a Vogon and just finished writing a collection of poems? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 04:56 PM |
| 94 | I updated my LinkedIn with a big promotion. The same week, I started getting LI ads for local divorce lawyers. Even the adbots know financial freedom *for* women means freedom *from* men.The first time I got a paid writing gig, my late HV husband joked, “When you’re a rich, famous writer, please consider me for the role of househusband” I totally would have. He actually liked doing stuff around the house and was good at it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 04:37 PM |
| 403 | In case you're tempted to dip your toe back into OLD...That’s up there with a scrote telling my Asian friend he likes Ornamental girls lol (Note: Oriental is not an acceptable term to use for Asians) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 04:32 PM |
| 162 | In case you're tempted to dip your toe back into OLD...Say no to men who haven’t read their Hitchhiker’s Guide. You ALWAYS have your towel ready! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 04:28 PM |
| 34 | In case you're tempted to dip your toe back into OLD...I guess it’s to show how manly they are? It’s not working on me because (a) my whole family knows how to fish, so (b) what’s that little thing he’s holding in the picture? Aw, did he catch the widdle fishy all by himself? HOW CUTE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 04:27 PM |
| 37 | In case you're tempted to dip your toe back into OLD...(Do we all understand sarcasm, or are y’all gonna downvote me and stalk my other activity again? 😂🤣🤦🏻♀️) Don’t we all want to live in a tortilla house that we can eat? What a big, strong hunter! Let me do all the cooking and cleaning and everything else because you caught a fish!!!! *Yay! Raising someone that I didn’t adopt nor came from my womb! Yay! Setting himself up so he’ll more likely need a caregiver! Is it going to be me?! Is he going to PICK ME?! Fine print: he means he’s non-monogamou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 04:25 PM |
| 2 | "Good friend" sent me a dick pic "accidentally". He has a great partner too. Let this be a lesson to me for trying to play it cOoL instead of going nuclear at the first message.We do need to stand together! I smh at my younger self who said things like, “I trust my man. I just don’t trust her” Ugh. So backwards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 07:11 AM |
| 6 | I have to wonder what kind of vibes I'm putting out these daysI have a few friends that I can be open with, and Vice versa. I said I was having trouble attracting guys, and asked them to tel me honestly I’d there was something about me that was off putting. They unanimously said I’m loud lol One said I needed to learn to be patient and let the men do more. And then there’s the one who said to act shy and helpless; I think we can all agree that’s bad advice! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 07:10 AM |
| 4 | "Good friend" sent me a dick pic "accidentally". He has a great partner too. Let this be a lesson to me for trying to play it cOoL instead of going nuclear at the first message.One of the saddest things I witnessed was a woman who told her best friend since childhood that she believed her boyfriend. Boyfriend countered best friend’s claim that he was cheating with, “She’s just mad because she flirted with me and I turned her down!” Definitely provide proof. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 02:05 AM |
| 105 | "Good friend" sent me a dick pic "accidentally". He has a great partner too. Let this be a lesson to me for trying to play it cOoL instead of going nuclear at the first message.I accident sent my boss a picture of my dog lol On my phone, I just click the camera icon, picture I want, then send. That said, if I m sending a picture of a person (myself, friends), I’m much more careful. And we’re all fully clothed! An “accidental” d*ck pic is stupidity or laziness, if not outright intentional. I’d forward this to his girlfriend with a “lol I think your bf meant to send this to you.” (If it looks like I’m giving him the benefit of the doubt, she’s more likely to take it seri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 06:22 PM |
| 60 | I have to wonder what kind of vibes I'm putting out these daysDo you have any close, local friends who will be honest about what kind of vibes you give off? This is what I did the previous time I was single (years before meeting my now late HV husband). The feedback did give me a chance to consider if I wanted to change anything, which I ultimately didn’t since the only suggestion was to pretend I was shy and helpless because men like that (lol! I didn’t have the terms for it at the time, but I fee only a LVM would want someone he thinks is shy, helpless, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 03:52 PM |
| 91 | In most cases, it is a bad, bad idea to buy a house, especially your childhood home, with a bf, not a husband 🚩10 years together, no ring 🚩he makes > $100k, she $60k, but planning to split mortgage 50/50 🚩house is barely affordable even with their combined income. Ways this can go south in 3…2…1Ooh, I wouldn’t play if my childhood home was involved. I would be devastated if the relationship went sour and he used the house against me. It would be bad with any property, but especially with my childhood home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 05:57 AM |
| 21 | Man hides 14 y/o daughter from fiancé for the entire duration of the relationship. Either he was trying to have two separate families ,or he was trying to trap her into supporting the daughter. Something malicious is at play.Oh, interesting. I looked into annulments for a friend, and one of the big things was misrepresentation. I would think having a child he never told her about counts. Regardless, I hope she gets out of there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 03:11 AM |
| 9 | I need support leaving my bf once and for allWhat is your local support system like? Do you live in an area where things are open and you can do fun things? If you can keep yourself busy, and reconnect with the person you were before him (hobbies, hangouts, etc), it will be a lot easier to be away from him. ETA: when one of my friends finally decided she wanted to leave her now-ex, the rest of us rallied around her. We’d always known she deserved better, but she had to take the first step. We checked on her throughout the week, and made ou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 02:06 AM |
| 49 | Man hides 14 y/o daughter from fiancé for the entire duration of the relationship. Either he was trying to have two separate families ,or he was trying to trap her into supporting the daughter. Something malicious is at play.If OOP married this LVM, his daughter would be grounds to get an annulment. That’s some big false representation on his part. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 11:18 PM |
| 51 | Man hides 14 y/o daughter from fiancé for the entire duration of the relationship. Either he was trying to have two separate families ,or he was trying to trap her into supporting the daughter. Something malicious is at play.I don’t think 33 is young, at least not in the sense that people will be surprised that he has/shame him for having a kid. If he lied about this, what else will he/has he lied about? RUN, SIS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 11:15 PM |
| 82 | Reminder why it’s crucial that you do not reveal any personal information or pictures on the Reddit account you use for FDS. If writing a post looking for advice, I’d suggest lying about your age, the time the situation happened, names (obviously) etc for your own protection. Please stay safe.When I was in college, an exceptionally stupid scrote in my building started harassing me on social media. The things he wrote were vile. As I already mentioned, he was stupid and I was able to figure out who he was: a meek NVM who always smiled at everyone and didn’t disagree with anyone, ever. It was so funny to wait for him in the lobby one day and say with a smile, “Hey, [Scrote]! What’s up?” He smiled that same smile that I used to think was just shy and said nothing. Still smiling, I asked… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 09:35 PM |
| 73 | Reminder why it’s crucial that you do not reveal any personal information or pictures on the Reddit account you use for FDS. If writing a post looking for advice, I’d suggest lying about your age, the time the situation happened, names (obviously) etc for your own protection. Please stay safe.No, you don’t understand!! He’s not a rapist!!! We MADE him react!!! /sarcasm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 09:27 PM |
| 26 | Reminder why it’s crucial that you do not reveal any personal information or pictures on the Reddit account you use for FDS. If writing a post looking for advice, I’d suggest lying about your age, the time the situation happened, names (obviously) etc for your own protection. Please stay safe.Did you report this NVM to Reddit? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 09:26 PM |
| 88 | A litmus test for toxic masculinity: check if he gets upset and thinks you’re less if you can tell the difference between two close coloursI need to break out the emojis 😒 I hope that fool doesn’t list “attention to detail” as one of his work strengths. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 11:51 PM |
| 439 | Chris Pratt continues to be the worstCrisp Rat | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 02:57 PM |
| 139 | Part 2 of the sh*t scrotes say about women vs. how THEY look, inspired by a previous postHow much do we know he’d lose his sh*t if we told him his size proves he wouldn’t be a good hunter/provider? lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 06:55 PM |
| 16 | I’ve been blocked by male friends on social media for getting a boyfriend 😂This is only true for N/LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 05:14 PM |
| 26 | I’ve been blocked by male friends on social media for getting a boyfriend 😂It would be funnier if the way the actor portrays anger wasn’t so close to reality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 05:13 PM |
| 85 | Cancelled a date today 😌 My first unmatch block delete!!“Grandma mode” This is where you smile sweetly and say, “Rumor has it my grandma stitched her first husband’s mouth shut so no one could hear his screams from beneath the floorboards.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 09:06 PM |
| 148 | Did you guys see the house wife unpopular opinion post on front page?Being a housewife isn’t real work! But also, why isn’t your home spotless and your kids needs being easily met? 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 08:44 PM |
| 9 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?She’s doing great! It’s crazy because she was, and is, one of the sweetest people ever. I can’t believe no one else stood up for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 03:27 PM |
| 24 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?One of my close friends in high school was rumored to have had sex with two football teams during halftime. Right under the bleachers. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 08:40 AM |
| 212 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?Pay attention to his friends. It’s never a case of “his friends are all awful, but he’s different.” Even if he’s not as bad, by associating with them, he’s shown himself as the kind of person who will #NotAllMen women in the future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 09:29 PM |
| 269 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?Also, men talk, and not in a flattering way. You don’t even need to have sex with one, especially in these girls’ age group, to have them telling everyone you put out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 09:27 PM |
| 408 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?Related: “He’s not mean to you because he likes you and doesn’t know how to show it.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 09:25 PM |
| 35 | Last Night in Soho - an excellent FDS cautionary taleOne that isn’t trauma porn is so key. I hate when creators feel the viewer needs to see all that to understand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 04:39 PM |
| 61 | This is how a HVM should reactHe’s told her a few times that if she changes her mind/wants to invite them, he’s got her back whatever she chooses. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 05:07 AM |
| 55 | this is (yes really) a marketing strategy for a dating app.Or Yelp for dating apps! You match and can see others’ ratings and reviews! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 03:28 PM |
| 68 | Help! My climbing partner accused me of “inappropriately touching her boyfriend” and I’m worried she is not a pick-me, but a victim of emotional abuse. What do I do?If she is really one of your closest friends, then you should be able to lovingly express your concerns once, so organize your thoughts and your delivery. Make sure you fit in that there is no way you were touchy feels because your previous abuse has made you averse to any of that for the foreseeable future. Also, make sure you have specific, concrete examples to cite and not just “I’m worried and think you’re in an abusive relationship.” If she “disowns” you, so be it. You did what you could. W… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 03:23 PM |
| 209 | Men think we are crazy, ugly psychos for having physical standards. Never change your standards and these “short kings” can go cry themselves to sleep. (The last guy seems hopeful though.)One dude approached me in a bar years ago and met my refusal with, “It’s because I’m short, isn’t it.” No, it was because he was oozing resentment and glaring at me as he approached, as if he was going to punch me for his perceived shortcomings (no pun intended). No sane woman wants a man who looks ready to become violent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 04:18 AM |
| 40 | Men think we are crazy, ugly psychos for having physical standards. Never change your standards and these “short kings” can go cry themselves to sleep. (The last guy seems hopeful though.)Like my ex who swore he was 5’10”, but when we stood side by side and shoeless in front of a mirror, he was shorter than me (I’m 5’4”) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 04:16 AM |
| 8 | California condors remind us not to settleI just imagined using your last sentence in response to the kind of scrote who keeps asking why I don’t want to date him lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 10:59 PM |
| 22 | Just because a man looks good on paper doesn't mean he is HVDoes anyone here actually think that a six figure salary is an indicator of a HVM? Sisters. That’s an indication of someone who knows how to make money, and money =/= good character. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 08:49 PM |
| 74 | Men and grey hairOhhh noooo you have gray hair and his scrote friends won’t think you’re 19!!1 🙄 You dodged a bullet, sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 08:42 PM |
| 388 | Let's talk about picky eaters.Sometimes cooking is a drag, but when a man says so? It’s usually code for, “Look forward to a lifetime of whining because he’s hungry, doesn’t want fast food, and you’re ‘better at cooking’.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 07:00 PM |
| 41 | California condors remind us not to settleShe is the ultimate manifestation of “I don’t need a man to be complete!” lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 06:06 PM |
| 75 | Rapist redemption on TVI skimmed this because it’s a sensitive topic for me, but there can be no redemption without atonement. Feeling bad is not atonement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 05:46 PM |
| 715 | You should have a “hoe phase!”If she was happy with what she’s doing, she wouldn’t feel the need to try and persuade you. The most any friend has ever asked me is if I ever considered a hookup just to get my physical needs met. When I said no, that was the end of the discussion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 05:44 PM |
| 101 | California condors remind us not to settleNo, men would actually need to become HVM or be laughed off the island. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 05:40 PM |
| 26 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama culture cont’d…Celebrities: they’re just like us 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 02:19 PM |
| 29 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama culture cont’d…Why are you being downvoted for this? lol It’s a perfectly reasonable question for someone who doesn’t follow a celebrity/celebrity culture. I do feel kind of sorry for Gigi, though. I get the feeling that she wasn’t raised in the most supportive family environment (Yolanda comes across as someone whose love is very conditional), so of course someone who shows a tenth of the kindness a basic person should show might be seen as loving and attentive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 02:19 PM |
| 62 | Take your SO to a haunted house and see what happens.This quote makes me want to throw things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 02:05 PM |
| 40 | A Coworker tried to get into my cell phone 😡There are people who don’t password protect their phones? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 01:53 PM |
| 35 | Lessons learned. Replying only feeds the fire. Can you spot the manipulations?lol if that last message isn’t a variation of “I was totally into you until you refused me and now you’re just a stuck up b*tch!” It’s also an instant turn off to receive communications from a drink scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 10:55 PM |
| 9 | Vetting men early in the processLong ago, I found out after two years of dating that the man I was with thought being gay was a choice. If/when I date again, I’ll just ask: Do you think being gay is a choice? Would you feel comfortable going to a gay club with a group of friends? The homophobes I’ve encountered have absolutely zero chill. I don’t think it will be hard to get an honest answer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 04:06 AM |
| 116 | "If you aren't attracted to 17-18 year olds, your either abnormal or a liar". This makes me feel so afraid for young women. As this becomes even more normalized, the number will just keep dropping.My daily commute takes me by the local high school during drop off time. It’s wild. I remember thinking I looked so grown up and mature at that time in my life, and now the students look like children to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 03:59 AM |
| 19 | Men Who are Still Friends With their ExesIt depends on two things: how he defines the friendship, and if either of them has lingering romantic feelings. On the first count, some people say “friend” indiscriminately, using it to describe anyone they know. If that’s the case and he uses friend to mean “I say hi when I see her and take her calls if I’m free,” I might be okay with it. To date, however, all of my experiences have been negative. My now exes might have thought they were just friends, but the women had lingering feelings (one … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 03:53 AM |
| 29 | Your reminder that polyamory is a complete scam for women. This woman is trying to convince herself that she’s okay with hearing her husband have sex with another woman.Admittedly, I only have one friend who is polyamorous. While she’s talked about little feelings of knee-jerk jealousy, she never sounds like this. The writer comes across like she’s afraid her husband won’t think she’s cool anymore or something. I didn’t read the whole piece, so I wonder if she was poly before meeting him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 06:41 PM |
| 66 | How frustrating can Pickmes be ....I don’t have friends like this. I do have friends who are genuinely happy for any scraps their LVM drop in their genera direction, and I feel sad. I have never been with someone I felt I needed to keep no matter what the cost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 02:54 PM |
| 29 | Are you okay with your male partner only having female friends?The reverse is exactly what I thought of, specifically my days of “not like other girls.” Even I always had at least one woman friend. If he doesn’t have even one male friend, then deep down he’s that scrote who thinks he’s just sooooo special, or there’s something else wrong with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 01:53 PM |
| 16 | How to you feel about the idea that "most men don't marry the woman they love the most. They marry the woman that’s around when they’re ready to marry."It’s not always the best quality, but I tend to see things in black and white, and therefore won’t tolerate things. I don’t think things like, “He seems normal, so I’m sure he doesn’t mean anything by [making fun of rpe, referring to his girlfriend as his btch, etc].” I don’t make excuses for people (“He’s a good person and I’m sure it was just an accident that he cheated on his girlfriend.”) I think most of us know what’s wrong and what’s right; the trick is to keep a distance from the people w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 01:45 PM |
| 184 | Are you okay with your male partner only having female friends?If he has absolutely zero male friends, I’d see it as some kind of character flaw. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 01:54 AM |
| 163 | How to you feel about the idea that "most men don't marry the woman they love the most. They marry the woman that’s around when they’re ready to marry."LVM marry whichever woman will have him when he’s ready to settle down. HVM look for compatibility in someone they’re attracted to. I don’t have friends who are LVM. My male friends were never in relationships just to avoid being alone. They had a reasonable list of priorities in a partner. They were interested in getting to know a woman before deciding whether to continue or break things off. They didn’t sleep around until they thought it was time to get married. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 11:51 PM |
| 21 | Check on your older female relativesI thought I was going to pee when I saw that! 😂🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 11:45 PM |
| 16 | Woman comments “we Stan a short king” on random videos on Tik Tok. Men take the bait every single timeOne of my friends is 6’5”. His OLD profile started “My eyes are up here.” lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 11:18 PM |
| 94 | This is what you get if you act „low maintance”. You are worth less than a good PC setupThis might sound mean, but if we were only dating for six months, my help would hinge on whether I’d feel guilty. I’m talking “OP might die without surgery, etc” And he’d better have tapped out all his other contacts first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 11:13 PM |
| 265 | This is what you get if you act „low maintance”. You are worth less than a good PC setupOh my. Oh my goodness. I hope she dumps him! He’s clearly a NVM who is perfectly happy receiving, and thinks a thank you suffices. And she might be low maintenance, but with priorities. I don’t care about jewelry, but take me to an art supply store and tell me there’s no budget? Watch me glow! Ugh. This one is such a cheap b*stard. Growing up poor does not mean one is incapable of treating a partner to something she’d like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 11:08 PM |
| 62 | Check on your older female relativesOne of my friends sent me a screenshot of a DM from “Michael Jackson.” He said he was still alive, hiding in another country, and needed her to send money to come out of hiding. The best part was that he signed off “hee hee!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 11:04 PM |
| 3 | Pick mes are delusional at this point. Some sisters can’t be saved 🥴Oh, I loathe the biology argument! If humans followed biology, all these N/LVM would be completely ignored while we women are courted by the HVM with the best genetic material. lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 10:58 PM |
| 5 | Men who value their bros over their romantic partners are probably low-key gay.Yeah, I have a problem with the way he has no problem ranking his friends over his girlfriend. It’s one thing if it’s early in a romantic relationship or casual, but if you’re looking long term, the romantic partner is going to be there in ways friends won’t or can’t always be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 10:54 PM |
| 8 | Men who value their bros over their romantic partners are probably low-key gay.In my experience, men who subscribe to the whole “bros before hoes” (insert BIG SCOWL here) are too immature to be in adult society. Obviously neither men nor women shouldn’t ditch out friends because we’re in a romantic relationship, but there’s balance! This is especially true if one has long term goals in mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 10:50 PM |
| 31 | Men who value their bros over their romantic partners are probably low-key gay.The subject sounds homophobic, OP. Scrotes are scrotes because of all the ways they fail in relationships. We don’t have to bring in sexual orientation in a derogatory way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 10:34 PM |
| 39 | Pick mes are delusional at this point. Some sisters can’t be saved 🥴“Like how are you enabling men to shit on women & put them at risk to STIs then complaining about those same men whose ego you blew up by playing side plate? And asking why women haven’t caught them like it’s women’s full time job to stalk cheaters & their side plate?” This isn’t what it sounded like to me. It sounds like she’s calling out the pickmes who stay with their L/NVM and act like the problem is the other women. The bigger problem is waiting around for a scrote who isn’t worth our time.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 09:19 PM |
| 42 | Pick mes are delusional at this point. Some sisters can’t be saved 🥴I think the problem is mainly the LVM/NVM. Take away the three types of women listed in the video, and you end up with a man who won’t do his share around the house, won’t look out for the woman he calls a partner, and all around just takes up space and resources. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 07:00 PM |
| 40 | Pick mes are delusional at this point. Some sisters can’t be saved 🥴Yeah, OP, can you clarify if the creator has done something questionable in her dating life? Because I don’t think her message (“The problem isn’t sidechicks/str*ppers/$ex workers. The problem is that you have a NVM”) is on point and what FDS is trying to teach us to notice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 06:58 PM |
| 103 | Pick mes are delusional at this point. Some sisters can’t be saved 🥴I thought this video was calling out women who think they have a HVM and that those three are trying to take him away from her. lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 02:39 PM |
| 166 | How do you guys go about walking out on a date safely?I went on a blind date and the dude was drunk when we met at the agreed upon location. He staggered off to pee on a tree, and I turned and speedwalked away, called a friend, and hid until she arrived to pick me up. lol Another time, I endured an uncomfortable hour of stilted conversation before saying I was supposed to meet friends. The FDS way, which I didn’t know about back the , is to vet the men before meeting them to decrease the likelihood that you need to run away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 07:56 PM |
| 25 | PSA: Beware of “no shave November.”All the male participants I know personally* each raised at least $1000 during the month of November. One raised a little over 15k. *It’s just a handful - no more than ten, for sure | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 05:40 PM |
| 2 | Screenshot from a facebook group. Love to see women waking up. Say no to coffee dates!Her decline is classy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 05:38 PM |
| 45 | Dinner with the gals (part 1)“Sex kept you young? Aw, that’s so cute that you remember what that’s like! How long has it been since the equipment worked? 50 years? lol” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 05:45 AM |
| 8 | When FDS Theory actually makes it in socmed: building a man doesn’t help you cement the relationship you want. Scary how many likes this post got-Yep! He’d be crying about how she’s shallow just like “all women,” won’t stay with a man when he’s down. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 05:42 AM |
| 8 | When FDS Theory actually makes it in socmed: building a man doesn’t help you cement the relationship you want. Scary how many likes this post got-They always act like they’d be okay on the receiving end of their own garbage. No they wouldn’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 05:40 AM |
| 26 | Omg lol. Scrote husband spends 4 hours a day several days a week doing online therapy. More like porn/cam girls, video games, or both. The audacity. I just can’t 😂😂My therapy sessions have all run about an hour, and definitely not multiple times a week for multiple hours! I’d book a session for couples counseling. If he doesn’t want to go, then the next step is a divorce lawyer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 04:53 PM |
| 15 | Play hard to get, be hard to wantBecause we women just can’t comprehend how hard it is to be a man /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 03:23 PM |
| 26 | reinforcing the idea: when men truly want to help they give fds like adviceHopefully, there’s also hope that pickmes will listen. One of my male friends tells it like it is…which often means just pointing out the obvious. For example, when a man says, “I’m not looking for anything long term,” it means he’s not looking for something long term/just wants sex. One of our pickme friends will still ask, “You don’t think he’s just afraid of rejection so he uses sex to keep people from getting too close?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 02:13 PM |
| 219 | Men cannot be trusted with an idea like polyamory and its popularity shows how naive and desperate women have becomeThere was a post about this on Reddit lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 01:14 AM |
| 306 | Men cannot be trusted with an idea like polyamory and its popularity shows how naive and desperate women have becomeOne of my women friends is poly and she said it’s so difficult to find men who are. A lot of them say they are, but get all weird when the women actually have other men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 01:10 AM |
| 157 | What do you think of MGK & Megan Fox? Apparently MGK cheated on Sommer Ray to be with her, then tried to make himself look like the victim when he was already dating Megan.I’m softer towards Megan because she was groomed by her last husband. I hope she heals and becomes the HVM I believe she can be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 07:51 PM |
| 78 | Navigating the FDS as a WOCThe dating scene is alright. I feel I have to navigate an additional layer of ick, since some gross, NVM Target my ethnic group because they think we’re submissive. It’s an immediate turn off when a man finds out my ethnic background and spouts something in my native language. It comes across as very PUA. LVM/NVM also have the audacity to act as if they know more about my culture than I do. They never stop to consider the effect of colonization, and why some people have, over generations, distan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Pornsick scrote can't be asked a normal question without turning it sexual...this was our first conversation 😒 Have I discovered a new vetting question??I don’t have a specific recipe! I tend to melt at least 4 T butter, then whisk in about 2 T flour (or other thickening agent). Whisk in about 4 c milk (or half and half), maybe 2 t Dijon, and pepper to taste. Stir in at least four cups of shredded cheese. Top with Parmesan when serving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 07:44 PM |
| 40 | I need help out of this headspace.I found the anger faded with time, and washed away when I accepted that I had dodged a bullet. The ex’s cheating could have been discovered after an abnormal Pap smear result, when we had kids to make divorce more dramatic and drawn out. Instead, I just found out because he was stupid and couldn’t keep his story straight. I agree not to act out the revenge fantasies, mostly because I haven’t found them to be as satisfying as I imagined. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 12:16 AM |
| 125 | “But I love casual sex. I have a high sex drive and I don’t want a loving relationship.”A lot of problems could be solved if men who just want sex hook up with women who only want sex. Unfortunately, too many men are hypocrites who don’t want a woman they classify as dirty because her goals are like his. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 11:41 PM |
| 123 | Seen on Facebook. No, teach your sons to stop murdering their partners.People like that just strike as as selfish. They always chime in to drown out the victims with their whatbouisms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 11:38 PM |
| 12 | Pornsick scrote can't be asked a normal question without turning it sexual...this was our first conversation 😒 Have I discovered a new vetting question??Does this actually help your migraine? Because I will stock up. I usually like my fries drowning in chili and shredded cheese. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 11:37 PM |
| 10 | Pornsick scrote can't be asked a normal question without turning it sexual...this was our first conversation 😒 Have I discovered a new vetting question??Now I want musubi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 11:36 PM |
| 51 | Pornsick scrote can't be asked a normal question without turning it sexual...this was our first conversation 😒 Have I discovered a new vetting question??My favorite food is macaroni and cheese. If I have time, I make my own sauce consister of sharp cheddar, Jack, mozzarella, and Parmesan. Add a dash of mustard and pepper, and why does this recipe say serves 12? This looks like a serving for one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 11:06 PM |
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