One of my friends finalized her divorce last week year. Thank goodness her parents have money because he was abusive and controlling to the end. If her parents had not paid for the divorce expenses, he would have bankrupted her quickly with all the times he tried to change things.

I’m not sure if I should feel bad for thinking, “Would it really be that bad if he’d follow through on all his threats to unalive himself?” It was his go-to method to guilt her to return when he’d beat her and she would leave. He tried it again when she left for the last time, again when she filed for divorce, and every time she made a reasonable request through her lawyer. She changed all her contact info and cut off anyone who still called themselves mutual friends, because he continued to make these threats even after the divorce was finalized.

She initially decided she just wants to “have fun,” “see what’s out there,” and “make up for lost time.” And I’m not going to judge her because she met her ex when she was 18 and he was 35, she didn’t know what lovebombing was, and he spent the last 14 years telling her she’s ugly and no one will ever want her because of that and she’s “damaged goods” (he was her first, not that it makes his statement any less f-cked up)

Well she ended up having what was supposed to be two flings. Despite agreeing each time that it was NSA, these scrotes tried to treat her like a girlfriend without the security of the title! Asking to borrow money, wanting to spend “quality” time together on the weekend (yard work. One of them wanted her to come over and do yard work!), expecting her to act as their human appointment keeper. She’s mad and disappointed because she just wanted to have fun but apparently LVM can’t even do that right.

I just needed to get this off my chest since she called me to vent and now I’m angry for her. Stupid LVM saying they don’t want commitment but still expecting all the benefits of one.