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LibFem Logicsikulet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:16 AM
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#JustLVMThingssikulet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 07:59 AM
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NICE FOR WHAT?sikulet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:13 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYsikulet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:54 PM
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DISCUSSIONsikulet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 10:59 PM
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#JustLVMThingssikulet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:37 PM
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SCROTES MADsikulet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:32 PM
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sikulet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 01:08 AM
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DISCUSSIONsikulet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 01:21 AM
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Muh PENISsikulet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:07 AM
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#JustLVMThingssikulet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:28 PM
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LIES MEN TELLsikulet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 12:38 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYsikulet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 04:48 AM
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How-To High Valuesikulet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:22 PM
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STRATEGYsikulet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 10:34 PM
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NAH, SISsikulet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 12:24 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYsikulet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:32 PM
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DISCUSSIONsikulet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 11:47 AM
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DISCUSSIONsikulet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:14 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYsikulet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 07:07 AM
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NAH, SISsikulet/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 01:55 PM
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I think this is possible if the girl has an avoidant attachment
/r/seduction22/05/24 11:54 PM
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You’d find it as fun field report - that when you genuinely don’t want a relationship with the guy that is when they treat you best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 04:31 AM
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The only time my dad backed down from an argument he was clearly in the wrong in was when I was paying all his bills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 11:42 PM
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Yea. I know that now. At that time I was so focused on saving a relationship with my then fiancé
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 01:17 PM
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You know those arguments where he claims to be so busy that you cannot understand his schedule ? So he accidentally left his phone in my car. I plotted the times/dates of text with her versus the days we had arguments. So now I had proof that when he was having a fight with me he was making date nights with someone else. You probably don’t need to do something as asinine since it took me 1 week of no sleep to do it but it helped me move on real quick knowing that a) my gut wasn’t wrong I was bei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:31 AM
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I took up embroidery because I was forced to sit for a webinar that requires your camera on for 36 hours. So I finished a pillow case after that. Reading, shifted from hard copies to ebooks now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 02:26 AM
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Yes. The girl best friend who I shouldn’t worry about flaunted the flowers he got from my ex two months after our relationship ended. Now she’s like totally mum after a year of dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 08:08 AM
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The female best friends are still delusional that the ex gf just didn’t understand the guy better. Then they end up filling the role of the next gf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 07:56 AM
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At 8 years it’s no longer the guys fault but hers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 09:11 AM
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Yes. I’ve done that in the past two years. That’s where I got my first ban tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 05:00 AM
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Please remove the subreddit and user name otherwise you can be flagged on Reddit for brigading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 05:00 AM
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Thank u for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 02:07 AM
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By the same logic if they can’t earn at least 100k then they don’t deserve to get married as it’s the basic cost to cover two people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 01:17 AM
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I got that too from one of the dating subs when the girl was clearly in an abusive relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 01:16 AM
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Thanks. Haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 01:14 AM
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Sorry what is Maus? Im curious and want to check out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 01:13 AM
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It’s funny because in all, as in all, self improvement female subs you will see hot women trying to gauge each other’s opinion on how to be better. By the range of our discussions here also I think the general income of the women here is at least at the upper 30% of the general population. Have they seen the female posts on the jewelry threads. So those who are hating, could just never. haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 01:11 AM
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This pandemic is the longest time I’ve been single and it’s also very eye opening how my life is way easier, and many of my girl friends in relationships suffered. Many complained of their boyfriends or husbands being stagnant as fuck and doesn’t carry the weight at home in terms of chores, bills, bad temper, and ED during sex. Without contributing anything they expected unconditional love like babies to a mother. And these are couples who met in college or grad school and graduated from top uni…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 12:29 AM
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Hi. Let’s edit that screenshot and remove the name of the other sub lest it’s treated as brigading OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:59 PM
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It’s like when you want to exercise but you can’t get the motivation to, just go outside and walk. If you have a lot of work but don’t feel like doing it start sitting on the chair in front of your papers and you’d end up doing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 01:55 PM
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Emotional Band-aid by Guy Winch It’s coming from the concept if you had a physical gash you would get betadine and band aids on it. Why do we not take the same opportunity to heal and do self care when we get inflicted with emotional wounds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:58 AM
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men who boast that they are good at roasting can’t handle the jokes when it’s on them. Watch how fast they suddenly get angry and state that their lines were crossed lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:40 AM
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Assuming it were true, would the girl be losing out on a being single when here she is with a 50:50 guy therefore it’s like being with a friend plus sex and added chores?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:36 AM
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Pre FDS. He apologized. We were apart for a year so I thought it was great to give him a chance and we’ve grown as people. Nope. It’s like the fights got worse with the ammunition “this is why I broke up with you”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 12:24 AM
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I think I pmed her, not too sure…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 01:18 PM
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I think being single really benefits women too 1 cooking for only one 2 cleaning for only one 3 laundry for only one 4 care only for pet not an overgrown human with moods 5 groceries are bought in bulk without hassle on asking help to get stuff, dealing with huffing to do it and suddenly goes missing because a man ate it all in the middle of the night 6 no one acting entitled to your body forcing you to have sex with them 7 skin care and make up and clothes and jewelry without whining on how exp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 01:09 PM
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I had an ex who totally lied about being divorced and I found out when his former gift register for a marriage appeared on google. He also said the classic line “you wouldn’t have given me a chance”. So in the end he just wanted to keep lying so I would be too “in love” to leave him. No wonder he got divorced the first time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 05:49 PM
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Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 05:43 PM
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This makes me remember a vague memory of a cheating ex. He said something about not getting attention until he got into NYU. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 05:41 PM
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Sorry what is HAES?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 11:40 AM
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They always have the same playbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 10:53 AM
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I know. Diets are easy but life gets in the way especially if it’s not really incorporated as a lifestyle. The studies showing successful weight loss lasting 5 years is actually very low.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:33 AM
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I cook but I have too much on my plate to actually do it so people always assumed I don’t. It’s really a good way to see if the guy even offers to cook for you or at least not foist the household chores on you because they know you aren’t the cooking type.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:21 AM
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So this starts with a female redditor asking for advise if she was in the wrong and bf was in the right for not sticking to a strict keto diet plan when the bf travelled to take care of parents who have Covid. Apparently guy only picked a fight so they’d break up because he is ready to move on from his starter gf now that he has lost weight and girls started paying him attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:16 AM
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This is so true. It will take a few break ups to learn this irl or you can take her words for it and save yourself the heartache
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 02:24 PM
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I just comment on what I would have left on their post privately and ask them to come here and read. I usually get seenzoned. A few would say thank you. Two in the past two years said this was too feminist. 🤣 What I’m saying not all people can be saved or see your point of view but I’d like to think that the more that FDS got traction the more the women spoke up and it’s making its way in more popular subs or TikTok’s that actually help other women from being groomed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 11:54 AM
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I heard a podcast last night which I will paraphrase “When you break your leg, you dont go around walking with a limp after it has healed. Not putting the proper weight on it is the surest way to get injured again” What I’m meaning to say is learn how to not break your leg next time but don’t let the resentment make you act like it’s still hurting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 11:22 PM
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I’d like to pose an alternative POV here. In asia it’s not so much about the engagement ring, it’s more of the wedding being the cost covered by the groom / his family. So there might be no engagement ring per se but there are other significant purchases towards making the engagement a firm commitment within a short time table (Getting married Within a year of the proposal) like the guy putting down payment for the wedding celebration + house. Those things I don’t see in western dating. It’s lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 03:29 PM
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Oh yes. I got called fat (BMI 21) after I turned down a catfishing man who used a ten years younger picture and when I met him he had a kid, was baldwith a pouching stomach 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 02:59 PM
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They brought it upon themselves when they discourage other males to provide them emotional support - they level them as gay. Contrast to middle eastern culture, like Syria, where guys can eat out together, hug, spend time over brunch together there’s no such complaint. It’s the western men or westernized ones who brought it upon themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 02:34 PM
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I hope you enjoy your stay. A lot of men call women here as femcels. Nope we might not be having sex but it’s because we reject these type of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 12:08 PM
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If you guys were having sex without having the intention of keeping a baby why was there no protection involved. It’s definitely a red flag as condom use is very much his responsibility as well and if you chose to keep the baby, regardless of what you guys talked about before he should have monitored that on his end as well. If there are consequences then it should be suffered by both parties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 03:48 AM
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1 thought I had no hobbies. It’s just that I had wasted so much time in these consuming relationships that there’s no other available time left for me after work. When I decided to be single, I got into a masters program, had a great bump in position at work and I’ve finished a lot of books / movies / music and activities that actually interests me, not being forced to go to all the starwars things that he enjoyed or listening to some obscure artist that no one really cared about outside their n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 02:48 PM
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I had a pick me friend who always advocated to give my low value ex a chance everytime I wanted to call it quits. Turns out the very secretive bf she has is married and promised her that he will leave his wife for her, for five years and counting. She basically wasted her 30s with this guy. Her pick me ways eventually drove us apart because when I finally dumped my ex she couldn’t understand why I had no mental headspace to listen to her rant about her life being treated as a mistress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 02:28 PM
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They admit doing this on other subs so they can date as many women at the lowest cost possible. So basically if you agree to a coffee date, you enable the plate spinning behavior. If he was really into you, the cash spent on a full dinner would be an ‘investment’ This is why online dating with coffee date is a great indicator of low value interest - it’s a very cheap way for men to get a woman’s time and attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 02:25 PM
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It just goes to show sex doesn’t even seem pleasurable for women so it’s a no incentive labor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 06:10 AM
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Silver will tarnish. And moissanites I mean yes they are pretty and economical, but in an engagement ring not as one of your other jewelry sets, one has to be honest with themselves - it’s settling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 05:58 AM
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Exactly. That’s why vetting is important. This man is basically auditioning to be your partner for the rest of your life. A role longer than a normal job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 03:03 PM
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All it goes to show is that they don’t value the women they intend to date. Again I compare it to how one treats their boss. If they wouldn t try it on their boss, how the fuck is it acceptable to try to a potential date. It just shows one thing - no respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:53 PM
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I like this idea. Most men can’t keep up with the routine women have to abide with, for one session. Ie eyebrow threading
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 12:21 AM
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True!! The high school hotties were terrifying when you see today. It’s like they didn’t take care of their looks thinking it will naturally carry over without effort and they are just looking even worse than their peers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 11:08 PM
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That’s why there’s already the article the other day that more women are single and it’s not because of lack of men per se. They choose not to hitch with these guys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 11:06 PM
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In my case she’s tweeting that he volunteered to be a househusband and cook for her. My ex always cooked my lunch and had it brought to work and always said he’d rather do this and let me focus on my career. Lol 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 01:25 PM
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Sorry! My mistake I just saw it on reels
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 06:26 AM
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Olivia Rodrigo’s lyrics is so spot on as to why some date women way younger than them - the moves and lines they used on women their age will not work anymore unless they go for someone who hasn’t heard that before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 12:38 AM
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The argument I encountered yesterday was oh hey it’s women siding with women ! And seriously, what is wrong with that? It’s exactly what they wanted to get advice on about right ? Be cause they couldn’t understand their spouse so another female explains it. But since it doesn’t fit into a pick me narrative to validate their ego and further devalue their spouse they are so angry and will down vote to oblivion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:33 PM
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Agree with you here. It amplified how little men contributed in their lives emotional support, the men went Huhu woe is me I’ll stick by video games or find various escape mechanisms. lack of financial support. Really have you seen how much men eat especially if they aren’t paying for it? I know one who eats pistachios worth the salary of a minimum wage worker in my country in two days, but He never buys it when it’s his turn for groceries because he does know how expensive it is when it’s his t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:30 PM
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Although be ready for brigading and being attacked by the butt hurt ego men when they you start telling them like it is. Like yesterday. A guy wanted to serve divorce papers on their kids bday because the wife got a job that made her busy at work. And clearly the guys are all out to defend this SOB. HAHA logic where art thou?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:25 PM
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Well whatever reason it is, they DO marry. So don’t get in the trap of being a forever gf also :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:14 PM
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Yes. I know it’s harsh. But throw them out the first time they disrespect you. Can a man do that to his boss no matter how angry he is? Nope he knows he will get canned. But they don’t have any problem doing it to women they claim to love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 02:00 PM
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Two Christmases ago I remembered my ex making all the plans for months and shit and cancelling them on the day itself nevermind how much I was looking forward to them, in tears and all, not even giving a promised planner which is really what, 10 USD? Today a guy friend called, made a solid plan for lunch same day at a fancy hotel for a Christmas catch up. I gave him the planner I have since ordered for friends since September. To my surprise he got me jewelry, which was from the style I was coll…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 01:58 PM
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This. Like hell. It’s not even looks match at this point. Even credentials. Men recently are so mediocre. No degree. No career. And not even looks but basic hygiene and fitness is missing. No stability of income and yet they try to get the pick of top choice women. Like how??? Look at all the 30 -50 something’s that are hitting on you on dating apps. Like why??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 01:30 PM
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Yeah the moment they check out, you immediately see the switch in demeanor and the slope towards devaluing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 01:21 PM
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Yeah. They really marry you fast if they wanted you from the get go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 01:17 PM
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I find that most women who had the successful marriages 30+ years in, have at one point drew the line that if they don’t get prioritized by their man they are going to throw the man out. As in packed bags by the door rather than accept the disrespect ( fight arising from a mother in law situation or a girl best friend). Those men with wisdom knew what to do. If the man stayed, he is for keeps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 01:16 PM
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The thing I measure a potential someone now is - considering how happy I am where I am, will this person add value to my happiness or diminish it in terms of cost + added responsibilities + mental health load. If they fail any of the three, they are out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 12:43 AM
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I feel this to the core. Like they are actually surprised when they look 3/10 at best and out of nowhere offer to be fwbs. And I’m like wheee is this confidence coming from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 08:52 AM
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If he has Snapchat and is in his 30s It’s only for quick nudes really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 03:14 PM
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you have to deal with so many expectations and if you fail one suddenly you’re not perfect and must be replaced. Good bye sucker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 12:31 AM
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I remember this guy we were talking he claims he is single and the first video he sends of himself there’s a baby wailing in the background. Definitely not a neighbor’s by the level of decibels, it’s just another room and the level of audacity to pull it off while the baby or baby mother is nearby is just astounding. No I didn’t investigate and stay around for clarification for a possible misunderstanding. Block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 12:29 AM
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Gottman’s love languages should be read as how you want to be treated, not just as a way you express your love. In this context you like showering them with gifts because in a way that’s how you wanted to feel the love that you’re giving out. When you’re experiencing the need to keep him buying stuff, catch yourself and ask yourself, what have you really been wishing to get for yourself but think it’s too expensive or something you wish somebody will gift to you and then give yourself that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 10:17 AM
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As much as I loved TSwift music in my teen angst dating days, I find myself not loving it ten years after, simply because I am not “there” in the angst anymore. I’m glad that all too well highlighted what narcissism looks like and how young girls can be educated about this mainstream but I seriously wondered tho, for the sake of mental health is she really okay? You’re talking about rerecording for IP rights. Then we’re making it into a new release. But those memories they are so there, they are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 10:13 AM
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It happens if the career woman is not married so she can have it delivered to herself after a long day to a not messy house she kept well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:43 PM
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Had an ex like this pre FDS . Wrote me love letters but I distinctly remember how annoyed I would be after I read it. He always thanked me - for everything that I did for him (caring for him for x thing) but where was him telling me he loved me because he loved my wit or my brain or my gee let’s go superficial my looks? Nope. Always about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:31 PM
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Lol. Remember you have to block them everywhere. They’d find ways to message you even on LinkedIn. Haha 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:15 PM
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I’m glad you got away and I hope you’re in a better place now. I wish you would go back to get the degree if you have the chance so it’s one less thing he got from you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 03:41 PM
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I disagree with this because the same logic is going to be applied with rewarding a person for sex for good behavior etc. Come as you are. Your normal state is how he will see you for 80% of the relationship. So if you’re a girl who is typically the takes 2 hours type to do everything or the thirty minutes is all I need to get there, be you. Otherwise it will just be a lie you can’t maintain later on. If he shows up underdressed/unprepared or really just a slob for no good reason (like you know …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 06:57 AM
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The sad part of this is women friends who are defending this stance of men. Like come on who are you fooling. I’ve never and I mean never, encountered the all female friends of a guy trope unless he was good looking or rich enough and they fall in line in the hopes of getting together with him/covert narcissist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 11:41 PM
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For the record I got three pms for lurkers being angry at this post. Good job, it just shows this post was not a lie. Women should be informed and know better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 07:44 AM
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This sounds like a guy I know. I used to be impressed with their degrees. But it’s really a Peter Pan syndrome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 01:55 PM
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Pre FDS I came upon that sub that emphasized on tapping on your feminine side. It got me in trouble at work and love life for being too vulnerable and being used. I’m happy the way I was before that and now that I’ve found FDS getting myself back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 10:05 AM
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I feel this to my core. I think part of this is why I started to develop a resting bitch face to not be tagged as accommodating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 09:52 AM
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So much this. I don’t hate women. I hate how men make me feel towards other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 07:07 AM
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When you’re alone You can eat at wherever expensive / hip / fun / cute place You can without wondering if it’s “too much”.. You can go out and buy the things you liked without being nagged for being spendthrifts; when in reality it’s not because of saving, they just cannot afford you and the lifestyle you’re accustomed so you have to scale it down to not make them feel small… You’re not scrolling social media wondering why they are online but they haven’t replied to you yet for the past 6 hours …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 05:16 AM
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I’ve always loved your comments 💕 thank you for your service
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 01:07 PM
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My mom didn’t get a ring but my dad spent the amount as a downpayment for their house
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 09:53 AM
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This is so true. They avoid places where you can easily be recognized
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 01:04 PM
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My BFF regularly gets me flower bouquets and games during special occasions. I bought her a small Prada bag on my last bonus. LVM? you can count that they will mention these stuff they did for you when things get rocky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 08:00 AM
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Exactly. It allows them to have a good time at someone else’s time and expense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 04:30 AM
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A dude I was seeing since June confessed he liked me . Then went distant. Turns out he is going out with another girl because I was too far. And he is lonely so it can’t be helped. I kinda wish I didn’t prepare a birthday present for him two weeks before I learned this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 02:05 AM
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This. Or make two plans. Hahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 01:25 AM
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The only reason they can focus on their career is because they had a woman to make them presentable. I succeeded in my career (VP by 30) not because I had a man. I had a parent who took over everything a wife would have done for a man. And that parent was my mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 02:00 PM
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So apt especially the first sentence of that article “They're called "my wife," and it seems they've done it all: typed, transcribed and even researched for their scholar husbands.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 01:55 PM
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This is not a checklist. More on an operative guide on how to high value. It takes time to get things in order. Be kind to ourselves. The best is yet to come.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 12:56 PM
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Note that she even did the chapter notes. She basically wrote it. Source? I was a research assistant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 12:07 PM
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I always say I eat cup noodles and take out. Haha 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 08:01 AM
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Funny enough I was talking about this in Twitter Spaces and all I encountered were pick me’s highlighting why it’s not a bad thing. One even discussed that she was BFF with a guy she rejected to date before and how supportive he is of her that he comes even at 11 pm when she feels like crying and the wife of the guy is totally okay with it and friends. And I must have no friends for not being okay with this. Imagine how painful this is for the wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 06:56 AM
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Even amongst fellow female lawyers which I expected to be more calculating and rational, the pick me vibes is real. At 30s being the only female in a group of males is still the crown for some; or being the girl best friend of a married man expecting him to prioritize her because “that’s what real friends do” never mind that she had a history of turning him down before and the wife of that guy is seemingly “okay” with this. It’s getting harder to find friends when you try to keep your standards …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 01:31 PM
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The irony of all this.. pick me’s are the reason why there are so many red pill guys. I had the unfortunate time to get into an argument with a scrote in AITA forums and I waded into the threads he goes to - the general theme is the same. The red pill transformation journey started because they realized when they did less and started being emotionally abusive for the women, they get treated better by the same women. How do women stop the abuse? Stop rewarding bad behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 11:14 PM
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I enrolled in a masters degree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 10:29 AM
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Same thing happened to me from that sub lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 08:59 AM
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So far I buy myself: Jewelry, that I truly like every work anniversary. A girly SUV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 08:53 AM
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The worst of this is when you see a guy using a woman for emotional crutch as the girl best friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 10:43 PM
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I was following a very good psychologist who came out poly and I went unfollow after :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 05:29 PM
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Thank you for sharing this. It’s really a good example why women should be on their guard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 10:19 AM
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Consider the handbook is your Bible. You cannot defend it if you do not gain mastery over it. You read something once, what you remember is what you agree with. You read something two times then you see something you missed out on the first. You read something a few times more then you can quote it easily from memory because then it resonates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 12:31 PM
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This is discussed in the handbook extensively.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:43 AM
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Coffee dates are low value triggers because it is very low investment on the males. Secondly since males love business terms, you misunderstand how valuable female attention is to them. By allowing yourself to be placed on a coffee date value, you’re lowering the minimum price for your availability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:43 AM
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https://www.instagram.com/p/CTS_JPbDLLk/?utm_medium=copy_link
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:39 AM
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Yeah. The 3 exes all gave me the excuse nothing happened while we were together so it wasn’t cheating. But there was definitely emotions that were displaced, that led us to not being properly paired of. Imagine as a girlfriend, your boyfriend has another confidante, who would be entitled to know things first, who deserves a level of priority because they knew each other longer and the gf becomes too controlling/immature when asked she be put first or not understanding the relationship. I stay cl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:37 AM
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A salsa dancing instructor ? That’s the ultimate profession of a male gold digger. He won’t be for exclusivity and you will be forever a lady in waiting. Good for you to cut it off. Now find someone your own age and enjoy earning your money and pursuing your career !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 12:51 PM
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Check out his book, “only dull people are witty at breakfast” for more quotes like these!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 10:55 AM
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The best time to plant a tree was twenty years ago. The next best time is today. Congrats on making it out finally unloading all this weight dragging you down. Now the work of rebuilding your life begins. You may cry over the lost time - your youth, but think of all the learnings and resilience that you’ve built up. If you can survive that you can survive anything. Make a list of five easy things to achieve. Once done, write five things more. Before the year ends you’ll be surprised at what you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 10:49 AM
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All the female best friends became the next girlfriend after I dumped the guy. So I agree with your post wholeheartedly. May it be aged 13 or 23 or 31, the pattern is the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 10:31 AM
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I’ve been the dead horse’s faithful cheerleader. I wouldn’t listen despite 3 people clearly telling me to dump him. It took 7 more months of crying over the circumstances I was placed in before I wisened up. The advise didn’t work. What worked was reading through the handbook or basically seeing the stories of how the other women were also abused / taken advantaged of to recognize that what has been happening was not a matter than can be justified by logical jumps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 10:18 AM
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For this comment alone you deserve a change of flair. Hahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 09:05 AM
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Yesterday there’s a post on IG : Forbes with single child free women earning the highest over males, and women with children. Many females who have seen the light easily explain it with the lack of marriage dragging them down it’s easy to level up. Cue in enter the big number of butt load hurt men. Even going so far to deny the existing wage gap. Of course there’s also pick mes in support of the men shame, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 07:41 AM
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This has been the style of my parents and happily married for 4 decades now. My dad is fully aware and complicit of my moms own account, in fact he gives her a separate allowance after he has paid all the bills. And this is not because he was rich. He was this way even before he was an executive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 10:52 PM
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The focus on a long term commitment should not be love, rather security on different aspects : Does he securely keep my emotion? Meaning is this person safe enough to trust that he will not stray with other women. Do I feel not anxious when I have to go abroad and leave him behind for some time and still have a spouse to come home to without cheating. Does he keep us secure financially? It’s not just being able to carry his weight and keep a job and contribute, if not cover, the household expens…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:29 PM
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Seriously are you going to brigade each comment you disagree with ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:19 PM
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I think the purpose of a post is to inspire a discussion. Feel free to voice your dissent. As much as possible I made the post with a very nuanced caveat on Its applicability towards male addiction towards gaming. Don’t miss the point of the post - Even a country leadership realizes the detrimental effect of gaming addiction. It’s not about being woke and China is suddenly one of the good guys. Human rights violation is a separate discussion. When a comment attacks the poster’s character per se,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:18 PM
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In corporate I see some women who think the best way to get up the corporate ladder is by sleeping their way up. It’s just ruining it for the rest of the women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 07:23 AM
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You can start over anytime. It’s easier than going through a divorce with kids. Hugs 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 06:54 AM
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He bailed on you at your lowest (currently). Cut him off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 06:45 AM
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Masters program. If you take further studies you’d find individuals who are in it to have self development rather than being forced to do it or everyone is doing it mentality in college. Most of them also have their careers going for them. You don’t need to be the social butterfly. Just find the good people in your corner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 06:44 AM
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All my girl friends treated me better than any man. We had the dating perks - nice trips, nice restaurant dates, random gifts sent to each other just because, flowers, even jewelry/prada pouches for birthdays 🎂 And it really raises the bar. If a friend can do this for you, why do you need a scrummy man for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 06:19 AM
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I didn’t know this …. So either stay single or it’s an elusive hunt for someone who has never been married 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 01:56 PM
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Thanks for the tip. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 09:02 AM
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This is a really sad picture to post. It screams help! I need my wife to adult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 09:00 AM
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This spoke so well of my 3rd to the last relationship. And Thanks to FDS it’s been way easier to move on from failures in dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 08:58 AM
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I noticed with guys even my own father, are very fussed up to go out. But if I foot the bill, take myself out or take my mother out, and suddenly he is curious about being left out and next time comes and rolls along, wants to participate in the fun. Now I don’t mind doing this for parents (Asian perspective), but I am certainly not tolerating this need for coddling from a partner. If he is not enthused to go out then he is nexted. I have been told by guys I look high maintenance who don’t eat f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 08:53 AM
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He wasn’t American, and he did wash his ass. Hahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 07:12 AM
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My dad always said if a guy was dumped by a good woman, it’s a freaking red flag because women in general don’t leave, even when they are abused. So if a woman initiates it, then there’s something seriously wrong. I said why is it different if a guy initiated, the same rule doesn’t apply? He said men don’t know a good thing in front of them. 😹 Sorry anecdotal at best but after dating three divorcees where I later learned it’s ex-wife initiated, I wish I listened to my dad at the onset 🤣 and not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 04:09 AM
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I literally went to four obgyns before I got my diagnosis haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 07:17 AM
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I love this answer. It helps operationalize trauma responses
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 12:19 PM
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Ding 🛎 🛎🛎!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 12:10 PM
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I’m more curious as to what were the good gift suggestions hehe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:33 AM
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You should get checked for endometriosis or PCOS. Intense period pain which I thought for years was normal apparently wasn’t. It should be managed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:18 AM
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Ah okay deleting the text then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 09:34 AM
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My dad had a rule. If I wanted to eat anything fancy even as a kid, my mom has to take me. It’s to ensure that I won’t be wowed by a date because it’s something normal at home. So that translates to nice hotel dinners on occasions. Having take outs and cake just because we feel like it. Expensive if you were lower middle class as a kid but definitely something normal for other income ranges. Definitely helped me in the practice also.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 12:13 AM
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Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 10:50 PM
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I personally think this is a great development. All it shows us is even at the later stage in life, we know who are the real dependents in a relationship and it’s not the women. It’s the men who are leeching off and who will tie you down to themselves to be caregivers when they have nothing to offer these women that these women already have in exchange.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 10:36 PM
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Can you link it. I don’t know how to treat this in the guy I’m dating now. He doesn’t respond to immediately console me. When I lost my job he sent me job links. When I needed thesis support he organized a session for two hours. But in between he doesn’t do much. Hmm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:08 PM
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I was looking for someone to save me... but I didn’t realize, being the oldest Asian daughter, I’ve ended up saving everybody - financially, emotionally, other resources... it’s like when Cher’s mom kept saying you need a rich man, I was able to say, “oh. I’m the rich man”. My last Ex, he was richer, driving a ferrari rich. And yet I was the one paying for groceries. 😟 I had to plan the dates too. Looking back there were definitely a lot of moments I did think to myself, I’m doing all these why …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:55 PM
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This deserves a rescue mission
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:43 PM
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If it’s a date it should be a solid plan. Location and time is key. You’re supposed to go somewhere solid. Also people are whimsical these days and flippant with cancellations. Men more so. Fix that, if not then you’re totally correct in ditching. If he wanted to impress you on this date he should have cleared his schedule. 2.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:56 PM
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Buy the twinnings cold infuse tea. Helps you drink as if it’s juice or soda without the calories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:53 PM
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I didn’t know this will read up thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:46 PM
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My ex used to keep me awake late at night because that was the only time he had for me and it really ruined my work days. Now he is gone I’m back to being my productive self
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:46 PM
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After the period of his begging he will deny the magnitude of his cheating please save every evidence you have. I logged mine to excel and he cannot deny it even a year after. He had his friends guilt trip me that I was over reacting, and everyone who did got that excel spreadshit. And it was so satisfying to hear them say I didn’t know it was this bad and left me alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:44 PM
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I can’t imagine this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:34 PM
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You explained why I kept getting emotionally weak men. Thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:29 PM
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I remember dating with a 10 year age gap in my 20s and the guy kept comparing his credentials to mine and I was like wtf. Of course you’re more accomplished I’m only 1 year out of law school and you’re a VP. But I was naive and thought he was so smart and stayed with him for almost 2 years. I should have known better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:19 PM
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Funny that I have two male lurkers from this sub messaging me that I can’t take a joke. Hahahahaha dude I’m the funniest lawyer in the office. This ain’t it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:43 PM
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If they feel ashamed to do it in public then it should not have been done in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:58 AM
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Hugs. I wish you didn’t marry him. Or I hope you’re doing well now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 10:42 PM
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At least the comment section is now holding him accountable. Some techbros have sense after all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:35 AM
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You know everytime I experience a failed dating chapter I go back to FDS to remind me of all the flags I ignored and should watch out for, and that my life is infinitely better without a deadweight. I realized women, are far far more capable on average. Men on general are averagely mediocre. Like. Look around you. All women I know has proper hygiene and moderate level of fitness and beauty (unless married to a low value male then they are too exhausted to care for themselves). Men who are in the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:17 AM
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Total compensation annually
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:48 PM
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They forget that the women who go here doesn’t have a problem in getting men. What the problem of the women here is that they are surrounded to by zero to low value men and there needs to be a training on how to weed the bad ones out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:31 PM
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Exactly. They count every penny coming out of their wallet but take your things / resources as free as if they didn’t cost anything. Worse is that they have no problem with paying for the convenience as long as they aren’t paying for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 11:21 PM
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You are correct that journaling helps a lot because the human mind tricks you into thinking once you’re made up that it’s all sunshine’s and roses. But I noticed that I only reach the lowest points in my life to write (on top of venting to friends) is not when I was stressed with school life or work. It was only with a no value male. And whenever I feel a bout of nostalgia, I just scroll past what ever mean thing they said or treatment they did which I documented on my journal and it helps put t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 11:23 PM
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They don’t realize this and impose the impossible standards on women not realizing they don’t have anything to offer women of that Caliber
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 02:25 AM
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It’s the tells that begs to you to catch them. We were long distance, I didn’t have to know he got a watch from her and he would say a friend got me a watch ... and I was like for what.. some random reason; and that a cousin is moving in my place - that was her moving in finally. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 01:34 AM
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The sad part of this message is that I know the reason that you know this by heart is through experience. One glance through this list and I knew that my serial cheating ex in 2018 of two years did almost all of these so now even if I have no proof I can almost, sniff a cheater out one month into dating them (my most recent reached two months because I really liked him so I waited / prayed for glaring undeniable proof until I said goodbye). Ladies, keep this list in your handbook. Memorize this.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 01:18 AM
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Trying to date at your thirties and there’s no eligible men around. Not kidding. They aren’t more accomplished than the single women in their 30s and they are definitely uglier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:55 AM
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I experienced this when I was traveling alone and went for a late night swim in the hotel pool. There were a couple of guys there who started taking pics of me while I was just floating and with my eyes closed (the flash came on.). And even when I started to head to the edge of the pool to leave the picture taking didn’t stop. I didn’t have the courage to go up to them to have them delete it as there was three of them and one of me in a swimsuit. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:54 AM
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When you get anxiety. Always ask yourself if you started having it when you got into the relationship. 9 out of ten it’s your body screaming at you to get out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:47 AM
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Every sad boi’s perfect line is “you shouldn’t care about me.” Sometimes it takes a few weeks to sink in but thanks to FDS it becomes easily recognizable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:37 AM
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With an ex that broke my heart, and whom I was really close to his cousin over the years, I asked her to maintain our friendship- please do not talk about him or tell him about me, even if I bring up the conversation do not take the bait and steer away the discussions. That was my only ask. She’s still friends with me. We trade cooking and appliances and shit and my ex is a long forgotten topic. Made it easier to move on from that guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:21 AM
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Omg this mental image is hilarious. And disgusting really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:15 PM
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I’m super glad I found out. His male arab coworkers snitched on him :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:10 PM
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The best flowers/ gifts I have ever received is from female friends being thoughtful. Makes me rethink relationships standards all around; if friends can do better what am I needing you for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:59 AM
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Thank you for this guide. I think I’m firmly on B.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:48 AM
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Yes! We feel physical pain on top of anxiety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:40 AM
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Men in my field claim they are so busy and tired for everything else but they place so much time on vices. We females work at the same or if not more (never less) hours and we still have time for relationships and social life. Carefully allotting specific hours and leaving at acceptable times like 3 hours to get sleep. Men have no such concept and stay forever then show up wasted the next day. Very irresponsible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:26 AM
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If they aren’t bringing down your value they are also trying to suddenly level up and competing with you He was already a lawyer and established in his field. I was younger in the practice and working my way through masters. What does he do next? Says he is working on getting his masters now too. Wow ten+ years in the field and you’re thinking of doing it after dating me for two months and I have to help with your ielts? Haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:07 AM
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This was the first article I thought of when I heard they are divorcing. No woman in her sane mind will agree to this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:04 AM
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Omg. I think you just diagnosed me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 11:53 PM
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The guy I was dating until yesterday was saying all the right things. Syrian French. Fellow lawyer working in popular cases against the dictatorship regime. Looked high value on paper. Went to great effort during my birthday. Had a weird Disappearing habit on weekends to spend time with the boys. Okay maybe that’s the culture of Syrians and refugees and all. Turns out there’s another woman with two kids and moved in with him this weekend. His press release to me was she was a cousin he was helpi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 11:39 PM
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This is actually a very good point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 09:26 AM
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Happened to me too I was being matched to him by our mothers. And I asked why was he single and he said because the Ex was jealous of the Female bestfriend - I looked at his profile on fb and full of pictures of the said BFF. And I asked him if he ever slept with her and he said he did but they decided they didn’t work out as a couple. Seems shady as fuck as they hanged out with only the two of them, if they fucked before they should just mark the hangouts as dates !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 11:07 AM
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Trepidation / anxiety during hard conversations or dealing with temper tantrums.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 02:04 AM
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This is my point of view too; female best friend that comes first before me? No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:48 AM
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When you find yourself asking for advice for something you can’t stomach, it’s the glaring red sign telling you to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:45 AM
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This is why even if the sustainability heroes hate on me I advocate use of disposable materials because otherwise all the chore of cleaning up goes to the women of the house. Whenever my dad used to wish for a party I’d say okay next time you go out buy all disposable supplies it takes his mood off holding one, which is even better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:10 AM
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Well when he is angry he tends to give you the silent treatment which I’ve read as emotional abuse. He goes radio silent for 24 hours at a time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:04 PM
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Thanks it’s looking like it’s over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:03 PM
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Yeah I felt like I ruined it with a man by not following these rules. So now I don’t know. Do I throw the whole man away because he got complacent and start over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 12:11 AM
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The guy I’ve been talking to for a month installed Snapchat today and I reacted really badly. As in crying badly. It was just so triggering that I’ve always pegged Snapchat as a cheating app where photos all disappear and it’s a huge giant red flag and it made my heart sink in disappointment so bad. The guy in question got offended because he thinks Snapchat is just a fun social media site and that when my thinking went to this mode clearly I don’t trust him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 11:20 PM
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Abortion will be legal when the default option is based on dads raising kids of unwed mothers. Basic economics and power relations right here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 07:02 AM
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Exactly why they love being in fraternities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:06 AM
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The guy referred to me by a friend said he was single. Turns out he is casual and staying over another female’s place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:57 AM
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Men are encouraged to inflict this abuse wtf this is the top google sear https://www.bunchofwisdom.com/dread-game/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 06:31 AM
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All my drawings didn’t even picture a dad in it. And my parents weren’t separated. His idea of family was to give money and go away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 08:07 AM
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So it’s not just my dad then ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:22 AM
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Yuck 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:02 PM
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My ex lost his parents lost his business I was there. I lost my job and he breaks up with me in two months. Just saying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 03:58 PM
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Notice how he knew she had low self esteem and how he is using it to his advantage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 01:06 AM
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Exactly! His own female cousin validates it by saying there is nothing wrong, the girls I was jealous of were just friends and I should just trust my ex more! Gah it was literally so painful to take in that everytime I was on my period where hormones make you sensitive I felt so angry to cry about it. You don’t know how happy and I am at peace now to be single. I’m not crying every month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 11:29 PM
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My ex was friends with 2 long term ex girl friends one cheated on him, other kissed another guy. And that’s okay they are friends now; both also wanted to get back together with him. And two other girl pals who both professed to like him / want to fuck him (said so on Twitter, recorded on video) but that’s okay because he didn’t like them back. And wonders why I was uncomfortable with that. And that I probably had issues with my self esteem. And that I was weird for taking note of those posts on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 07:27 AM
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This!!! All his closest girl friends are people who professed they wanted him!!! And he expects you as the girl friend to be okay with that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:31 PM
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Yes! Omg. Yes. Keeps an emotional harem which he bleeds all his feelings for. When you have a fight guess who he goes to? His girl best friend. His ex turned friend. God damn it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:27 PM
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I agree with your points but I think it’s easier to find these men in social circles than OLD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 01:20 AM
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I’m not the one who linked you but I do pm some women on relationship advice subs when I feel that they are truly getting bad advice to come over. Some say they will check it out. I always hoped they really did. Nice to see you did :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 11:09 PM
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“I don’t know why you’re with me” “I feel like I’m not worthy” Yep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 10:58 PM
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AWESOME SAUCE !!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 03:45 AM
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We are high up on equality index so it’s not because it’s a male dominated field. We actually have more females in law schools than males now. I think the long work hours is unsustainable. In any company you work as a lawyer for it’s already averaging at 60-80 hours a week. But with law firms it’s 100-120. The toll on your sanity and wish for a better work life balance / looking for time to date and settle down are primary concerns
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 09:52 PM
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As lawyer. It’s not that cracked up to be. Graduated in the top law school of my country. Half of my female peers left the law firms and pursued alternative careers 5 years onward. At any case thank you for this post. Informative and pretty much confirmed what I have learned and documented when I was cheated on myself. People act in patterns so any deviation, actually is a sign of coming in. From frequency in texting another female leading to less communication with you, to less energy in genera…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:43 AM
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This is why apple silencing phone calls and separating text message from unknown numbers is a blessing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 08:31 AM
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Nope. My mom ran the household where my dads money is hers and her money is hers. Married for 34 years and counting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:15 PM
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Question, this sounds stupid but I don’t know who to ask. Haven’t slept with this person - Is it also sexual compatibility when you’re with someone and just kissing them already makes you wet? Whereas there are guys who are even eating you out but does nothing for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 06:32 AM
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I think you’re a carved out exception But seriously consider adoption. Having never dated a single dad and given one a chance, you’re never going to be a priority - their finances are tied to the ex and the child, his work, his me time that he has finally regained, his chores, and then you. And my dad gave me this tip once about dating divorced men - don’t. Men only leave when they have a replacement. If women leave, that man is just bad. I thought this guy was cute, responsible, and more in tou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:17 AM
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🛎 🛎 🛎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 03:59 AM
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Yeah. It’s the only time when I feel not applying the no dating rule is best. Go back and date and don’t commit, just see the environment and choices out there and you would see that the “one that got away” is not special and other men can easily treat you better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 03:08 AM
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Honestly this is so true. I’m appalled. Why don’t men wash their ass??? Like how were you guys raised, with no plumbing? And apparently pointing out these types of things is condescending haha ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:47 AM
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Username checks out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:44 AM
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Ex said “I don’t understand why you seem upset with me” Gosh I just spent a paragraph explaining why I was upset. Just because he feels that based on the circumstances he wouldn’t be upset, I shouldn’t be upset. I had to hold my tongue so much from saying, before I asked you why you got divorced and your ex wife told you, she’s unhappy. And he couldn’t understand why she was unhappy therefore she was irrational and deserved all the blame for divorce. I almost want to make him understand after fi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 12:46 PM
2

Don’t think of it as a relationship. Reframe your mind. You were single for a year and dating. Next!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 12:15 PM
2

Hugs. I reached out to my friends list on fb. Many of them I haven’t talked to in a long while. It’s Christmas and you get out of the awkwardness of how long it has been since. Maybe when the quarantine restrictions loosen you can set up a short meet up and they can introduce you to other eligibles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 12:14 PM
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I committed a mistake of replying after blocking because what he said totally pissed me off now it’s like he was the one who broke it off. FDS really is 100% true every time. Don’t doubt the preachings here for a second.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 07:23 PM
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Thank you. I just finished blocking a guy last night - He and I have been dating online due to the pandemic. It was his bday last august and got him something some bottles of wine. He was sick I sent over food. He got me game credits which was nice because it was for a game I actually play. He used to call and text everyday. By end of November he stopped calling saying he was tired at work. And he is getting a new job so he will be insanely busy so expect less texts. Oh and if I call I should sc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:25 AM
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I kind of don’t get this. In our household my mom bought all our gifts but all of it was charged to my dads credit card
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 01:35 PM
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Read a few r/nicegirls commenting we are incels over here. They don’t realize we are actively trying not to get laid by LVM, not involuntary celibates. Anyway. Once they tell you to communicate have him on this position - remove a letter from his name everytime he messes up. When you’re on the last letter, it’s time to block and delete lol. https://www.reddit.com/r/witcher/comments/kctfnf/not_even_big_v_could_make_us_done_with_him/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:47 PM
5

Every holiday that was ruined was with a man. Every one that I enjoyed honestly was spent with family or good friends gosh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:58 AM
2

The physical manifestation of loving yourself first
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 10:11 PM
3

My exes used to post me in stories when we were new but stopped doing that. Never posted me on his accounts also. And listed himself as single claiming it was just never updated. First one cheated a lot, second one had a lot of orbiter females, emotionally cheating with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 10:23 PM
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Honestly I have a good paying job, no vices or addictions outside of using reddit, 2 post graduate degrees, supportive family and extended family, automated or outsourced chores so I don’t have to do them. In fact my previous co worker gave the feedback for a job reference, she has no problems except love life. lol Now that’s out of the way, I wanted someone to love but getting to that scares the shit out of me. Are we ready to be cheated on again for being the chill one? Footing the bill becaus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 03:02 AM
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you would always wonder if you’re his type and that will eat at your self esteem. No man is ever worth your inner peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 12:38 AM
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Thanks for the share, this is the first time I’ve seen this vid. Happy vibes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 12:36 AM
3

Please break up with him. Hugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:06 PM
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Hence, date like a man and win the game. Don’t look into his future, if he doesn’t meet your standards now, next him. I went out with a guy who said he is going to buy a house, going back to college and starting a new job. Checked up on him on two months. He didn’t continue with his enrollment, the new job failed because he didn’t submit requirements on time as for the house now he is talking about renting some more and buying a house for investment. Ooookay. Next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 03:22 AM
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Everyday after shower I use my anti aging facial moisturizer. check if the eyebrow needs a trim and start shading it in. While drying my hair I start using a foot lotion to address the dry chapping skin. Do my make up in between zoom meetings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 12:58 AM
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As a 30 something lady, I found finishing a bachelors, post grad, taking the bar and taking masters again way easier, than dealing with another persons feelings. 1 your efforts are directly reciprocated - sure there’s angst and imposter syndrome but keep at it and you’ll get the diploma vs loving the wrong person and making your life miserable Thus I see dating now as chili peppers. A dish can be totally fine without it. The right amount is awesome and whets your appetite, and too much? You want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 12:45 AM
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Started reading the Mr Unavailable and the Fallback girl and it helped me immediately - it made me stop this recurring thoughts of what if or where could I have done something differently. I know FDS handbook says shut that shit down, but the mind sometimes has a way of circling back when it doesn’t have answers and now it does. The most enlightening was that it wasn’t exactly I lacked self love, but rather that I am unavailable myself that’s why I feel comfortable to angst over unavailable men.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 12:39 AM
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I was feeling this “where are all these people”??! So I couldn’t find it And I reviewed my life as to what was my comfort zone, and at that time I realized I liked being in my university as it was my happy place. I wasn’t intending to study again but I always liked taking walks in it, being in that canteen or so. And soon enough I found myself enrolling again for a short course so now that keeps me occupied and I’m meeting more people who have seemingly more direction in life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 02:34 AM
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Purposely grey wall. Tell them limited snippets of your life like shopping or stories about pets
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 02:40 PM
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I’m 32, relationship ended this pandemic. I would replay some things in my head post break up as to what went wrong or what not but like we always see, if they want to, they would have, if they wanted to make it work, they would have made it work. So everytime my mind wonders and ruminates I’m telling myself he didn’t want to go for the extra mile for me when things are just peachy - we didn’t even have major problems like illness or death and he can’t be there? Good riddance babe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 03:42 AM
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First take a breather since you’re clearly upset. In your own self, you already know this lack of reciprocity won’t cut it. Guys or girls know when they’ve found something they want to hold on to and they won’t risk to lose it. When they are waffling, you’re not on the same energy. Do you want to risk more of yourself? Was 8 months not enough? You’re not auditioning to be this guy’s girlfriend; he should be showing up for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 03:39 AM
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I think the problem is that the handbook addresses how to vet and avoid these type of situations. We need a handbook if you already got yourself in a pickle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 03:34 AM
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Bonus points that he will be so emphatic and in touch with his feelings which makes you feel like a total bitch for calling him out on his inappropriate behavior with these so called friends Good riddance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:01 AM
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You know this is the quandary I have - the more I leveled up, (have a career, travel 3x a year, law + masters, good paycheck, below 23 BMI) the more rare it is to find men on this level. So it’s not an issue if there’s no one to date, but the quality of what’s out there is bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:51 AM
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Nah this is definitely Christian Drei
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 04:18 PM
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Focus on whether or not they’ve done anything to make you happy. Not that you’re happy and they exist so you’d try your best to keep them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:31 PM
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Lol, it’s the most abusive partner there is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:58 AM
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Info request: please confirm - noticed you mention a time difference so you guys are in LDR. It’s rough as a general rule, and tbh maybe the issue is not about you per se, but rather if you have distance and if you OP sleep on the opposite timezone it means, one of you has to sacrifice sleep to talk to each other and it will be unbearable for the person adjusting in the long run. Try to set a time where you can expect each other to come online where both of you are comfy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:04 AM
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Yes. So many men. But not of the same quality you bring to the table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:00 AM
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“You weren’t asking for too much, they were just giving too little in exchange for all your effort. In the end that love bank will not be fulfilled and you’ll start running on empty.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 06:45 PM
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I think to some degree they are the same with FDS especially with the focus on vetting to her a HVM and making sure you’re a high value woman. What this sub differs on I think they would like to focus on femininity and using that as a strength to keep the male, which removes the focus on the female as the prize
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 03:12 AM
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Got me it was worth watching, funny part is I learned to watch this because one of male lawyer friends recommended this after he got so bored with umbrella academy! He said he felt bad because this were like the women in his province (but this one has a happy ending)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 10:22 PM
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Look up trauma bonds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 12:06 PM
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I just finished watching the entire series (16 episodes) and this kdrama wonderfully illustrates how much damage you can incur by staying married to a low value man. Premise of this story is that the protagonist was 19, got pregnant and marries the guy. The guy finished his education and gets a career while she’s relagated to stay at home, with no development. When their son was in high school the husband asks for a divorce saying she was too stupid and he needed someone his level and she asked …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 11:54 AM
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Please tell me you got off the car haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:00 AM
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🚩 🚩 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 07:22 AM
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Chinese billionaire family. They prefer fellow rich Chinese to be wed with and anyone not of Chinese descent would have been considered dirty blood. In this case the girl had no money, no status, but had a very pretty face for being a local with an Italian father (who abandoned her mother after the mother got pregnant). He would have been disowned had he not gotten approval. Instead they were written in the newspapers as an rl Cinderella. Now he gets to keep his inheritance and also got the girl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 09:07 PM
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I think we should also outline in this sub what traits do we have that allow us to be gauged as high value. For the longest time, it’s been indoctrinated that guys don’t want someone who appears smarter than them, with more advanced degrees and doesn’t look like magazine pretty, and like it or not that drills our self esteem down such that it sometimes feels like landing a seemingly good man becomes an achievement. No! They should thank their lucky stars they found a good partner in life! One wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 01:39 PM
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You know this isn’t even about your ex being low value. You are being low value. You aren’t together, yet you slept on the same bed. But you share houses, you allow yourself to be used for emotional support and sex. I mean really wtf... Didn’t you read at least the sidebar of this subreddit? Don’t jump into a new relationship with a guy. Sort your issues out first or you won’t know if the next situation would be abusive for you or not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 01:30 PM
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Hey. I’m sorry this happened to you. Getting cheated on really hits on the self esteem hard. You ask yourself what’s lacking in you for them to look for something else but the truth of the matter is, while they are cheating, they were never thinking about you. They just thought of acting on instinct. Ohhh shiny. In fact they thought what they have with you is good so they decided to keep you while they get their fun fun than start over and look for someone else with everything they want. They ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 01:25 PM
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Covid accelerated everything - the good and the bad. Now I see you aren’t married. So you aren’t in any obligation to stay lest you break a vow with regards to your personal faith (in sickness and health til death do you part), nor do you have any shared responsibility such as kids or dogs. 9 months rent maybe a reasonable amount to pay for your freedom for a situation no longer serving you. Have you encountered the guy who wrote the five love languages? He also wrote about the predictors of cou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 01:14 PM
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So glad you’re both on FDS program :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 01:01 PM
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Damn you’re cold like HR With a two weeks notice haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 11:13 AM
2

Congratulations in maintaining that block for 6 years Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:51 AM
7

I love the fact you know the iPhone specs hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:48 AM
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I am a chill girl for the most part then I got cheated on and the dating experiences I had right after I treated it with suspicion. With my ex, I finally calmed down on that aspect because a) he took the time to explain relationships and catered to my need for transparency b) I was really busy. As in work six days a week busy I’d sleep on Sunday kind of work and tired. So I literally don’t have time to think about other women orbiting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:46 AM
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Have you read it yet? I’m less than 200 pages in. It’s written from a historical perspective with analysis on power plays, not actual seduction. The section I am in was explaining Cleopatras rose to power so far. I haven’t seen the how to seduce part yet more of the advantage of seduction in getting goals instead of taking the longer more expensive route out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:43 AM
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We are talking about the assumption that this an uppermiddle classman maybe making 130k USD a year, with 2 girls in college , a wife in cancer treatment and a son living at home. You add another mouth to feed that you have to impress. Imagine 1. Restaurant meals or take out sent to her dorm, also for her friends, can be 3x a week so around 600 usd a week. 2. Grocery shopping allowance 200 usd a week 3. What if she asks for rent money? 2K usd a month. 4. Tuition fee support? 3K USD a month. We ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:26 AM
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I guess if your goal is not to get into a relationship then just enjoy the moment. It’s just that it doesn’t seem to align with the paragraphs over there. It’s too heavy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 12:45 AM
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FDS Tells us to keep options open but coming from an Abundance Mentality - that whatever happens, if a relationship ends you won’t feel like an old crone with a basket of dried apples. Abundance comes with the optimism that if one doesn’t work out, im a high value female who guys would jump to have a chance at the moment a competitor is gone. But your post doesn’t scream that way to me, it comes from a mentality of scarcity. That if he is gone I may not find someone else and I want to find someo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 12:31 AM
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Like mentioned above there are caveats, if it’s early twenties it’s really good to buy yourself time and see the relationship through for 2-3 years. Girls who wait longer than that waste their twenties on men too, eg. Vanessa Hudgens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 10:38 PM
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I agree with you. My boss got married recently to his 3 year gf ( girl was not the same race so it took longer to get approval ) but I distinctly remember him saying coming back from the vacation he met her in, I have found the girl I will marry. I have a question tho since you seem very good at explaining this - my ex bf was like this. In a family reunion he maybe 5 months together he declared to his family I was the girl he would marry (that made my Christmas really) but eventually we ended la…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 10:31 PM
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Please post this message to her when she can read it. There’s a theory in cancer studies that cancer is a self destructive mode the body enters into when the person has been in a constant state of depression for years. If so true, this woman has been picking up the slack for years prior to this guy showing his true colors the moment things went really ugly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 10:02 PM
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I think honestly it boils down to if he helps in the house. Housework is no joke and it’s the first thing that gets neglected when the females (wife, daughter) get sick. If the guys at home pick up the slack that’s a good sign. The moment they start neglecting/ letting house fall apart, you’d know the resentment would start because they never thought or even really realized how much time and effort goes into these simple chores for example breakfast making, forces you to be up one hour before ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 10:00 PM
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Funny thing is that guy thinks that any college girl would just jump at the chance to fuck him coz he has money. It’s like guys who wanted a threesome and got the short end of the stick. The only times I’ve seen getting mistresses on the side work is when the man is really rich (in Asia, billionaire status) where all are still happy. Upper middle class like this couple sounds ? Nope. A mistress can easily run him financially dry. I hope that woman wouldn’t worry so much especially for her son. H…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:56 PM
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It’s not Reddit’s fault. It’s just that there a many men, 98% of which is low value
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:51 PM
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Agree with this. He appeared so nice and level headed and ghosted me twice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 04:33 AM
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When he listed things he didn’t like about his ex gf or things she didn’t do for him but would have liked to experience - I did it. Cooked for him weekends. And had to regulate his moods when he is angry about work, but when it’s me who needed support like losing my job, I asked for a phone call - nada Did his groceries when I was the one who had a more taxing job. Changed plans because he planned “online dates” last minute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 10:32 PM
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Glad your statements are a past tense already
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 01:38 PM
1

He can always come over if he really wanted to, for comfort and he didn’t. Move on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 09:37 PM
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Let him chase. Also fds handbook discussed lvm using nicknames of babe / sweetheart right away is a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 09:28 AM
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I dated a guy who was divorced, if he hasn’t done the “work” in psyche you’re going to be his therapist managing his anger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 02:22 AM
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I have a thought - maybe being a pickme is not just people pleasing in general and low self esteem but actually a sign of being Co- dependent. I just realized this based on the discussion yesterday on absentee fathers building children who are drawn to the avoidant - anxious cycle which then forms a trauma bond or codependency issue. Hence when we say raise our standards it’s not just the straightforward items of what to avoid in low value men, but also learning to be whole - when we aren’t bein…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 02:20 AM
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I feel you . I looked at tinder and omg. They are ugly. I mean before FDS I was looking at redpillwomen and they talked about women hitting the wall at 30 and made me panic inside as to whether I’ve reached past prime but damn, these guys aren’t even trying. Meanwhile late bloomer me, I’m still donning the swimsuits without the sarong haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 10:19 AM
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Add this to the handbook as an extra chapter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 11:35 PM
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Sorry, I know you’re seeing his good traits but you’re becoming his builder and mother so to speak. Take your romantic and sexual feelings aside and think of this as a coworker you had to help out. You assign him a job and he doesn’t do the job description. You allowed him to be a roommate but he doesn’t pay the proper rent. Your roommate has a lot of DIY projects cluttered around and you’d be right to be phased for it clutters your personal space. You know truly independent individuals would ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 11:37 PM
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Guys at 29 especially if they are just turning their career around won’t be inclined to marry regardless of how great the woman is I just browsed the local OLD recently and was pleasantly surprised to see 32+ people actually advertising they are looking to date for long term or marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 07:01 AM
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I think you should look for men who are more inclined to marry out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:58 AM
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I think there’s a difference between men with good career like he can be in a starting position now but you see he is hardworking and has dreams to be VP in the corp or pursue his own business one day regardless of field versus a guy who is described in the song of TLC as a scrub. We don’t want no scrub. And also, it just most of the time really hurts the male ego if the girl earns more (at least here in Asia)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:39 AM
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But if you didn’t make him happy before, he should have just left you, not hold it over your head now? It’s no different from say men who pay for dinner so they are now entitled to sex. You can still walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:36 AM
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Gamers who have actually functioning careers yes. Play away. But a big majority of men at least on dating sites now think its a personality trait
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:26 AM
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Will keep this in mind, thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 07:01 AM
1

Haha it’s okay I was being more polite yesterday when he said that the previous admin was worse than today and I asked how so? You really want me to enumerate? Yes, this admin killed 20k people, brought GDP down with 12M jobless and debt borrowing in three months that isn’t payable until 2049. Then he goes like I don’t like talking about politics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 01:55 AM
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Actually even if you were. I thought my parents were old fashioned in that my dad always saw my mom off home. But I guess that’s what made him HVM even if they married after three months only, and it’s lasted this long
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 01:51 AM
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It was only through OLD, third day of talking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 01:35 AM
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Thank you for your comment and I find this most enlightening - how should women act then to be a guy’s escape? And would this not affect the idea of being equals in a partnership, if you’re the escape? Thank you in advance for the reply. I read the handbook and I’m still at a loss at this area
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 01:01 AM
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My ex didn’t like certain topics also so i am quite wary - in that he didn’t mind me talking about my work but if i return the favor and asked him about his, he gets angry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 09:58 PM
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Thanks Alice for the first paragraph. It’s exactly why politics need to be discussed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 09:57 PM
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Thank you . I told him as much and we deleted each other
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 09:55 PM
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I’n my experience with guys who date around, they call all the girls one set of pet names so they never mistakenly call her by another name. It’s always babe, dear, hun, relationship after relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:16 PM
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Thank you for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 01:51 AM
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Go out on dates. Being asked out, shown that you’re wanted is an excellent way to raise your self esteem after such a harsh rejection. It gives a refreshing change of pace when there are people who want to impress you out there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 01:07 AM
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If he wanted you, he’d put in more effort. He is putting you in the back burner. He needs to see you as a priority. You’re not there yet and it’s not your job to make him see that. He has to come around himself, otherwise you’d be competing with everything else in his life and that’s not fun
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 01:05 AM
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My ex said he was always left behind by his exes. Now I don’t wonder why. Listen girl. Please
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 10:44 AM
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I loved this series. It was eye opening
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 10:40 AM
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I got hit by number 3...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:57 PM
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This has been my moms advice ever since I started earning well! I lamented how hard it is already to date and be married by being tall, dressing like someone who won’t be happy with a hole in the wall eating place(been told this even though I actually eat street food on cheat days lol) She said if you only wanted a boyfriend, they are a dime a dozen, you can literally pick one off the train. But you wouldn’t like to be married to one. So the hunt is to wait for an equal or better in terms of val…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 02:10 PM
1

Thing is, men who mention that they don’t like make up, just fall for the “no make up” make up look lol. Parade a woman with a body con suit, nice ass, nice tits, hot girl make up and the guy is all about her, never mind if her life is dumpster fire. That’s why we ended up having coined a term “don’t stick your dick in crazy”; coz even if the men know, they don’t careeeee! Yeah I think you’re wrong and you’re going to be wrong because you won’t see that it’s the men who go for all the looks, not…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 12:15 AM
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I know a girl who took over parental duties and raised her siblings. True she didn’t get to date around till most of them were stable and she was 27 by then, but by the time she did - she was able to successfully navigate against guys looking for casual. True that kids can be considered a baggage but it also presents an opportunity - those who are casual enough about you will not engage, and those who will pursue from the get go already know what they will commit to. Just don’t lose shape or loo…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 08:11 PM
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Women choose based on who will make a good partner long term especially as they mature for child rearing- height (good genes) or finances (ability to provide) Now you compare it to men who don’t look for height or money and who keep choosing all these women who have tight ass clothes and make up but that’s the point. Men don’t choose the taller ones than them. Men get awkward if female earns more (and it’s true really), physically plain janes who are good homemakers and with careers most of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 08:03 PM
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I was told many times before, it was never because the woman was too busy, if the guy in question wanted to see her. Men have been known to put off a lot of things, even ghosting their friends in pursuit of a relationship. Know this well in mind when you’re not being seen by the guy.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 07:06 AM
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Thanks for explaining this so well. It’s a good reminder, and I’m actually happy you mentioned Oh My Venus! It’s a favorite of mine
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 07:03 AM
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I don’t get it either. Some styling I don’t agree with but their sample is actually pretty? I don’t know have these guys been to walmart and seen what below average actually looks like!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 11:50 PM
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Sorry I feel this is a bit whiney? Sure it’s a partnership and you want him to cater to your wants as well. But at the end of the day the bills are paid, there’s a full functioning house and food. I suggest take it as a challenge to design something really well and minimalist - something that looks a lot of thought has been put into a little thing. Like do chibi room (like small doll houses on insta https://www.instagram.com/p/B-RPFY_Ham-/?igshid=dfklrf0fs94z ) if you really have to as your own …
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/20 03:29 AM
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There’s no right to precedence of a girl he knew before or after you. You’re the partner, now. Therefore you get priority. That’s why in law you get to be named as next of kin by a committed man. Friends don’t get named that. Is it really crazy to expect an apology from your significant other after a fight? Imagine how precarious and hard it will be one sidedly for you, keeping all other potential suitors at bay because you are committed and your partner is not? I know tonight you wouldn’t be li…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 07:13 PM
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That maybe his thoughts and for him that is correct. Is this an issue about who is being correct or is this a question of compatibility and being comfortable with your partner?
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 02:37 PM
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You know men listen not to words but actions. If you say that this boundary is a hard no for you but just nag while he does it anyway he won’t take you seriously. If you say it’s a hard line, that’s an ultimatum already and if that line is crossed be prepared to leave. Otherwise he won’t respect what you say. Next time find a guy you don’t have to dish out ultimatums for, loyalty and fidelity is a given for a good relationship. If it has to be negotiated, then you know you’re in the wrong one.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 02:16 PM
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My bf and I are also in LDR, and in the past I’ve seen girls post on his twitter really suggestive messages and he said it was harmless flirting. When it really bothered me and I showed him those aren’t friendship conversations, and in particular it hurt me because i felt disrespected as an SO with these girls and their lack of boundaries, what he did was listen and observe and finding the nuances I Pointed out, limited their interaction dead on. What I’m saying is that the guy should put you fi…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 02:12 PM
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Mmm so the moment you turn your back you’re going to lose him? Doesn’t sound high quality to me. You’d want a man who even if a hundred naked women paraded in front of him would still say, “I still want shupup and I’ll wait for her to get home”. That is the type of man who knows what he wants and wouldn’t dare do anything to lose what he has. If he is willing to trade you for whatever reason there is, then Is he worth giving your time to?
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 02:07 PM
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You know when you’re starting to ask for passwords you hav to really brace yourself because you know at the end of the day you’ll find something there that you wouldn’t like. I think you have to phrase the issue calmly. State firmly that such actions hurt you. That you cannot understand why he would rather talk to someone else, who is not being a friend, but a flirting partner when you have issues. Make him see that those type of conversations are not friendship if it revolves around flirting an…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 01:41 PM
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My guy stays at home a lot but he cooks good meals when he does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 09:27 PM
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Got dumped two hours ago. Similar story. We will get through this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:58 PM
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First time got texted since him dumping me on New Years. So this is what it was haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 12:37 AM
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Saw this, been thinking of subbing on their paid group - is it really worth it?
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/19 11:47 AM
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This is fucking beautiful haha thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 10:40 PM
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I still think you’re adding a new child into your life rather than a captain
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 10:09 AM
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I used to walk while taking a smoothie for lunch for an hour on date nights so it evens out the calorie intake for the day and what we did was me getting a share of what he orders like two to three bites portion of his steak or whatever and I stick with the smaller food I ordered or the salad I got.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/18 12:31 AM
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It’s a long weekend over here so I’ve finished many of the items I like 1) Manicure, Pedicure, Hair Spa 2) Body Massage and Foot Scrub 3) Peel Off Nose Pore Pack and Face Mask After 4) Shopping 5) Meal Prep Last thing I haven’t done is finish the book I’m reading and house cleaning.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/18 12:29 AM
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One thing I’ve learned from lurking this subs is that if the answer to getting married isn’t “Hell Yes!” Consider other options. If he is already bailing when your relationship is at its easiest with just the two of you, would you really want a captain that will seesaw his decisions when it’s a more pressing issue like which debt to pay off first, career moves etc. no right? It’s hard to give an ultimatum but you have to give one for yourself You decide whether you want this guy enough that you’…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/18 12:24 AM
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Those are usual for H&M depending on the season actually
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/18 12:16 AM
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Hi I personally like Dorothy Perkins style. Some cleavage, show off curves but good enough that HR will not flag you for indecency. It’s fashionable, and it’s stitches doesn’t tear easily and cost wise quite reasonable. H&M and Zara are my go to’s for dresses as well but I’d stick to sales. If you have more budget, I’d go for Kate Spade but their recent bag designs are becoming impractical for me. Another but definitely more conservative is Ann Klein. For Jewelry I’m particularly fond of Kataoka…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/18 12:11 AM
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As a fellow Filipino, I think that living in is even more frowned upon, and it really disincentives him from marrying you because he totally got you already. If finances were the issue I’d share with you that I’ve just attended an 11 person wedding 3 months ago and it was the most heartfelt ceremony I’ve attended. Church wedding closed door and ate at a restaurant after. Nothing fancy. Me and a friend were the only non relatives invited. Im not yet married myself but I’ve been proposed to twice …
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/18 11:21 AM
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Morality is the internal code you live by. Immorality is if you started breaking those moral codes, as dictated perhaps by your religion. If you take Catholic faith for example, then it's certainly immoral. If you're from a country that prohibits adultery that act can even be downright criminal. If you're not of that particular faith, or under that particular jurisdiction then it does not necessarily follow. You see even with the religious, there is redemption after an act of contrition. This wh…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/17 11:20 PM
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The part on education is very eye opening. Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 08:24 PM
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I've been reading r/AskMen over the years because I find their insights more helpful in dealing with people and colleagues than guides for women. I've studiously avoids r/theredpill because any article that seems to make it to the front page is material similar to what people do not like Trump for (not really a political statement). Anyway this is my first time here, coming from pressing random sub and ending up in r/slutjustice but one post made a passing mention here and I clicked, read at lea…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/16 09:23 AM
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The right of a person to privacy in his person, papers, houses and effects is inviolable. That's constitutional, vaguely worded enough to suit the situation here. Plus there's a catch all provision in the civil code about human relations where any person who causes harm, or fails to give anyone his due, acts in violation of morals and public policy shall be liable for damages also.
/r/MensRights04/04/15 03:59 PM
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In a conversation a sales person would be like: Oh hi there, good weather we are having today Eh? I actually finished this at work. Im working at ... I'm a totally cool nice guy.. I live around the area... Maybe we could hang out sometime? See the focus on too much of "I"s to sell oneself. A girl's reaction would be, smile nice meeting ya, without leaving any contact details. If one changes the direction of the conversation to the person he is interested in and builds it from there, it's not abo…
/r/seduction10/03/15 07:10 AM
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If you were in the shoes of the other person would you like to be with you? Some things you need to check out - some people can pull off the scruffy look, most people don't without looking like a hobo so double check if: 1) you have good hygiene - do you smell? Shower often? Food in your teeth? Mouthwash ? Do your clothes fit you when you dress or do they hang loose or too tight that the buttons look strangled? You don't have to have abs, just look like you're taking good care of yourself will d…
/r/seduction10/03/15 05:14 AM
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