Sex work is not empowering. It’s exploitation and the men know it. Sorted comments via controversial and got all of these replies.

pecanspinwheel · 2021-08-17T13:18:10+00:00

Men want wholesome women. Women with class not ones that shove things up their ass.

...for money. He's angry about the "for money" part. Because you best believe that as soon as he gets that classy, wholesome woman in his bed, he'll be crying about how she doesn't do anal.

ChgItToRayGunYouFuck · 2021-08-17T12:53:26+00:00

"Men want wholesome women" hahahaaa okay, Kyle. Don't get pissy and whine on Reddit when your girl doesn't want to be called a whore while you slap her and spit in her face.

electroloop · 2021-08-17T11:58:24+00:00

Men are the biggest hypocrites.

They’re quick to cheat on you with a prostitute or jerk their peen to random OF girls, and when you tell them that’s a boundary and you dump their ass for it, they call you iNsEcUrE!!!1

If men are SO enamoured with women who partake in these activities as we can all tell by your instagram/snapchat activity and onlyfans subscriptions, then why don’t they date them?

Platipus6 · 2021-08-17T12:20:36+00:00

I have no respect for a man who beats his dick to rape on tape 5x a day. It's not mentally healthy, even tho men who do it claim it is.

ThatOneCuteNerdyGirl · 2021-08-17T12:29:27+00:00

“Men want wholesome women”

Hahahahahahahahahahahah. Until they say no to whatever fucked up “kink” the dude wants to try. Okay bro. Sure.

Vaahla · 2021-08-17T12:29:07+00:00

There’s no winning.

If you don’t, you’re a dried up prude.

If you do, you’re a skanky dirty hoe.

Someone please provide me the cheat sheet with the correct answer because I can’t figure it out.

arnezuara · 2021-08-17T11:27:17+00:00

Men just love putting us in their little, fucked up boxes. Hypocrites and misogynists.

FrenchHeel · 2021-08-17T15:09:27+00:00

Men will lie to your face, but they have no problem telling the real truth on Reddit.

Cersei_Is_My_Queen · 2021-08-17T14:42:01+00:00

"Men want wholesome women"

and who do wholesome women want? Not an asshole who sleeps around with multiple women and lies to their faces to get what he wants. They really think they can go around acting like degenerates and a wholesome woman would want them??? Just LOL the lack of self awareness and entitlement.

sassyheather · 2021-08-17T12:10:25+00:00

Women with class not ones that shove things up their ass

“But she needs to let me shove my pencil dick up her ass because sEx LiFe NeEdS tO bE sPiCeD uP 🤪🤪🤪”

inlovewithaloser · 2021-08-17T15:26:10+00:00

It’s crazy cause their standards for “wholesome” are not even... realistic?

I’ve seen even really ‘good girls’ get pumped and dumped, used by scrotes. So I don’t really buy the “she just has to be a good girl!!1!!” schtick. Like okay, there WAS a girl that was willing to commit to you but now that she had sex with you and suddenly she’s so unpure and you can’t even look at her?

I swear men are SO DAMN WEIRD when it comes to sex, and how they feel about women before vs. after seeing her have sex. Like sex is so dirty in and of itself. The only way to stay pure in their eyes is to literally not have sex or show any sexual interest whatsoever. Creepy and weird, not worth the battle. It’s clearly something fucked in their heads.

FaithWithoutSight · 2021-08-17T12:37:18+00:00

It's amazing, the mental gymnastics these cretins do to look down on sex workers, all the while consuming porn, and think they are somehow superior or have a moral highground.

The supply exists because of the demand. Men who rape prostituted women or consume porn are the real scumbags, undeserving of love.

4laika · 2021-08-17T12:22:44+00:00

Even if you just sort by best/top, all the top replies are "No." The same men who consume porn are the men denigrating the producers of it.

Okdetective1_1 · 2021-08-17T12:04:19+00:00

Scrotes be like: "would totally not date OF women or pornstars,"

Also scrotes: I can't perform sexually for more than 30 seconds after trying for 10 minutes to get it up without porn, because I've rubbed off my tiny pecker everyday 5 times to unrealistic videos and body standards

FemclFleshBeckyBones · 2021-08-17T15:31:33+00:00

Men are the biggest sluts there are. They'll use and abuse others just to get off. Hell, they'll stick it in anything that even slightly qualifies as a warm, moist hole. Then they have the audacity to offload their shame and guilt on women.

Donttellmehow2feel · 2021-08-17T13:44:04+00:00

Why do they all talk like they have options?

_differentmentality_ · 2021-08-17T15:11:26+00:00

men recognize that there is something disrespectful about the way women are treated in pornography which is why they wouldn’t date porn stars, it’s just that they too want to treat those women in the exact same disrespectful manner which is where the hypocrisy stems from. their dilemma is that they want the women close to them to be protected from other men that are precisely like them

WorkaholicParty · 2021-08-17T12:40:58+00:00

There was a stripper on one of the relationship subs that danced for a bunch of guys who were bullying her step brother. You can't imagine how suddenly the male commenters became "anti sex work" 🙄. Slut shaming her for what she does for money, some telling her she should refuse people who know her family and so on 🤣🤣.

Not_2day_Baby · 2021-08-17T13:39:30+00:00

They really hate and love the same thing. Bet these scrotes are all virgins though. 😂

iacint · 2021-08-17T13:59:41+00:00

pff men don't even date models of fears of being in constant competition of attention

Thestral-glow6 · 2021-08-17T12:10:04+00:00

OF women are only good to have sex with/sub to and yet they will put real life relationships with REAL women in jeopardy in order to keep subscribing to OF women’s content?!?!?🤨😡

Edit: word

ItsFreezen · 2021-08-17T11:58:56+00:00

These Scrotes don't even have the ability to provide for a family. But they still spend their money on Onlyfans. Hypocrites!

adelinaidontknow · 2021-08-17T22:10:32+00:00

Men really will jerk off to hardcore porn 10 times a day and then say women in the porn they jerk off to have no self respect

Lost_Kale90 · 2021-08-17T13:38:30+00:00

Yeah sex work is not empowering. It took me awhile to understand that (thanks fds!) I seriously wish women and girls would realize this and stop being the cool girl (the ones that are choosing to go into sex work by choice). Also men want their cake and to eat it too. They know watching OF and porn is dehumanizing, yet they do it anyways. And they want a woman who “respects herself” - well a woman who respects herself will not put up with guys that watch that disgusting content.

ylang_ylang · 2021-08-17T18:40:07+00:00

MADONNA WHORE COMPLEX.

ChocolateBiscuit96 · 2021-08-17T19:57:46+00:00

If I were a guy I wouldn’t date a sex worker, but don’t be hypocritical about it. Don’t shame the same women you’re paying $5.99 a month to see. Men have made the porn industry a million dollar industry… so technically they’re the problem, not the women.

BasieSkanks · 2021-08-17T16:26:09+00:00

One of the biggest issues with libfems is that they refuse to listen when men tell/show them who they are. Men have demonstrated that they do not respect sex workers or any woman who shares her sexuality in a public forum, yet libfems will still stick their fingers in their ears and say its empowering. Something that is empowering will give you more power. Sex work diminishes a woman's options across the board. Men are the only people who have real power in the sex industry because they collect all of the rewards whilst absorbing none of the risks.

IndividualRoutine661 · 2021-08-17T13:23:06+00:00

Yep if sex work was empowering men would be doing it

CloacaDiddler · 2021-08-17T19:40:50+00:00

So sickening how men are the ones demanding women show them their buttholes to make the rent money, then also saying those women are disgusting and they would only date “wholesome” women, after also needling them to put out. Can’t hate someone you’re still looking up and jerking off too, like the disconnect is so wild. They threaten to murder people if women don’t put out for free for their consumption, and literally would die at the thought of taking away porn, yet hate the women who provide their “necessity”

Now how come they’re allowed to hate onlyfans women and want nothing to do with them, despite still desperately obsessing over them, but women can’t say they don’t want to be with a guy who views porn and has disgusting views on women??

Maleficent-Waltz- · 2021-08-17T16:04:32+00:00

Thank you for posting this! This sub feels like the one part of reddit that actually exists for women.

pascalines · 2021-08-17T14:31:13+00:00

I have conflicting feelings on this. Yes, I think sex work including OF is a scam and women have been duped into believing it’s empowering.

But the disrespect from men towards these women?? FOH. Calling them whres, slts, denigrating their worth (even though THEY watch them!!), all of that bullshit I’m not cool with. These women have been misled by patriarchy; they are still worthwhile people and they are deserving of respectful treatment.

thatafricanchick · 2021-08-17T21:40:21+00:00

It’s interesting their replies. They’re all heavily laced with misogyny but not cause they don’t find sex work something they want in a partner just the language they use to refer to sex workers. Like a lot of them if you noticed still would utilize a sex worker but they wouldn’t “wife” them. That’s for the “good clean virginal” girls. It’s incel talk all the same. That whole “don’t wife a hoe” crap. Sex work isn’t empowering at all but you can see the way these men want to benefit from it.

judithyourholofernes · 2021-08-17T19:03:55+00:00

The respect they talk about is like the respect they have for a dog who obeys them.

lessadessa · 2021-08-17T19:04:43+00:00

They can call me whatever they want to. I will never let a man pressure me into doing something I’m uncomfortable with every again. My body, my rules, dipshits.

creamtart_ · 2021-08-17T12:48:37+00:00

Last comment is pretty accurate though. I know these men are scrotatious hypocrites, but hey, at least they’re honest.

Besides the scrotes audacity, I also find the audacity of libfems to be hilarious. The fact that they’re offended when men don’t give them the response they wanted that “prostitution is eMpOwErInG”. No shit, sis, no shit.

happy4thbirthday · 2021-08-17T12:24:21+00:00

And I don’t want to date a man who rips his dick off to porn, OF whores, and naked IG “models”.

_RustInPiece_ · 2021-08-17T14:23:00+00:00

So they basically want to date and marry FDS women and pump&dump libfem kinkmeishas.

Unfortunately for them FDS women refuse to take on the madonna role while throwing pickmes under the bus. No, kinkmeisha, the whore/slut role is not beneficial to women. No, "tradwife", you don't really want to be the madonna either. Know your worth.

jiyonce · 2021-08-17T14:10:56+00:00

A lot of people often mistake liberation with sex work. One is for women to have a choice, a voice to say no and to set boundaries and own their bodies and not let men own them or control them. The other is dehumanizing and turns women into objects for men's pleasure. I am tired of hearing about sex work being compared to actual work with the same argument of "people are selling their bodies in different ways". I am sorry it's not and it will never be.

MiidniightStarr · 2021-08-17T19:44:31+00:00

Just sad lol. They dehumanize them so much yet watch them almost daily. Like.. if they think it's so gross and dishonorable then maybe they should stop funding it 😳

MySonderStory · 2021-08-17T19:53:33+00:00

Those comments are gross, so they're fine with it when it's them viewing Onlyfans and exploiting girls that way BUT they won't date those same girls cause "men want wholesome women". This is why women out there need to think about WHO benefits from promoting how "empowering" it is to have an Onlyfans - it's those deprived men. For a quick $100 your photos and videos are out there in the hands of these type of men.

lutjaye · 2021-08-17T20:39:14+00:00

"Men want wholesome women" but comments are filled with men who would bang sex workers then turn up their nose at them, if a person is "unwholesome" why are you who is choosing to sleep with such person think you are better or deserve better. Synonym for delusional in the dictionary should be men smh

boiledgatorade_ · 2021-08-18T01:05:39+00:00

“I’ve banged a couple of girls with only fans” they can’t even distinguish their fantasy for real life

daisy_0720 · 2021-08-18T06:40:58+00:00

So they agree a woman participating in sex work is degrading and disrespectful? Cool. I assume in that case they also:

Don't consume porn

Don't subscribe to any OF accounts

Don't follow women on Instagram

Don't have casual encounters or ONS

Don't want sex unless it is gentle, soft, consensual, affectionate and in the context of a mutual loving relationship

Oh wait, they do all of those things as well? Okay, turns out they're just misogynist hypocrites with a raging Madonna/Whore complex who NO 'wholesome' woman would want to be within 10 feet of.

You want a quality woman? Then be a high-quality man.

Big-Respond8481 · 2021-08-17T14:03:58+00:00

The one who says women don't understand. If men didn't want and demand prostitutes, they wouldn't exist.

Hippofuzz · 2021-08-17T18:50:29+00:00

I don’t even know what to say. I mean I know how disgusting they tend to be and yet still, it disgusts me.

Bezzazz · 2021-08-18T00:39:34+00:00

Oh, there's a name for these mental gymnastics: Madonna and the Wh*re Complex I think? It is absolutely wild. Before a woman is sexualized, she's pure, beautiful, and worthy of respect and protection. She is put on a pedestal.

But the second she fucks him or is an any way a sexual being, she becomes a wh*re. She is to be disrespected and degraded.

In either scenerio, the woman is an object for the man to project how he wants to see himself. Is he the white knight for the Madonna, or is he the sexual conquestor for the wh*re?

hyperjinxx · 2021-08-18T05:29:11+00:00

So you agree, you think participating in pornographic activities is a bad thing 🤡

AnniaT · 2021-08-18T10:39:50+00:00

They dont respect women who do sex work (or women in general) yet they use their services and don't lose respect for themselves for being "man hoes". Men who don't see every woman as human beings who deserve respect are LVM. He doesn't have to date sex workers and that's fine but has to treat all women as human beings.

myeggsarebig · 2021-08-17T18:43:46+00:00

It is the only business that relies solely on young women being sexually abused, to later exploit them. If sexual trauma didn’t exist, neither would sex work.

cookiemonstergirls · 2021-08-20T09:05:24+00:00

Those comments reek of entitlement. I hate how 99 % of men are constantly shitting on “whores” for having only fans or doing sex work, while at the same time constantly watch porn and beg “whores” for sex. If a woman is not a “real woman” for doing porn then a man is not a “real man” for watching it. These guys act like porn and acess to woman’s bodies is some sort of human right. Men have no clue what they want. Actually maybe they do. They want to have their cake and eat it it too at the expense of women. They want a shiney trophy wife to cook, clean, breed with him ,pop out kids and pay half the of his bills. While also enjoying the married life and pretending to be a “good old fashioned family man”. They want to go to strip clubs and watch porn even while their married to one woman who apprently was good enough to “earn” her ring.

Title	Sex work is not empowering. It’s exploitation and the men know it. Sorted comments via controversial and got all of these replies.
Author	sikulet
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Date	August 17, 2021 11:16 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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