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25

My kitchen is set up for me coming down in the morning. I never have to accommodate the feels or bad moods of a man My dog can sleep on my bed So many positives
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 10:30 AM
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I’m a similar age, also divorced a long time ago, had a few LTR. Now something has shifted in me, idk if it’s FDS, the pandemic, hormones dropping or just finally making the connection that dick is abundant and low value. Focusing now on levelling up my career, spending time with family and friends and wasting zero time on LVM. Anyway no advice, just agreement 🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 09:05 PM
11

My LVM ex did it a lot on video calls so yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 12:01 PM
77

Lots of people do drugs in college but show me a man still smoking dope 30+ and I’ll show you a man lacking in motivation with nothing of interest to say. I am from a background that I have such men in my family and wider social circle. You’ll want to go out and do stuff, he’ll want to stay home, game and talk shit and eat crap food. It is not a trait of a HV man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 05:26 PM
51

Have you read The Stranger Beside Me? Off topic a little but it changed how I feel about the death penalty, and made me less anti in cases such as Bundy. Porn is so accepted now that the levels of porn addiction are only getting worse, with associated abuse and sexual dysfunction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 08:17 AM
39

So succinct and so very right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 12:37 PM
2

This this THIS Times I’ve gained weight have been down to a stressful bad relationship with a LVM. And those LVM have not been shy to tell me I look less attractive as a result of them causing me to emotionally overeat. I just think if you’re not on the same page health and fitness wise now then it only gets worse as you get older.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 06:51 AM
2

My LVM ex proposed CONSTANTLY whilst I protested weakly and tried to deflect (far too soon, living in different countries etc). I now understand that as a tactic known as future faking, there’s an actual name for it As a more mature woman it just felt off to me, too much too soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 10:52 PM
42

Thanks for the field report. I’m not ready to go back out there, it just feels like a waste of energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 09:11 PM
367

This 🙌🏻 For every relationship I’ve eventually left for red flags, I ignored many more in the run up Save yourself the hassle and heartache, leave at the first 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 07:02 PM
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These are really true observations 🙌🏻 A relationship with a LVM will slowly but surely unalive a woman with poor diet, emotional overeating due to abusive dynamics, poor lifestyle choices etc. Eating a poor diet alters brain chemistry, as does stress, both are leading causes of obesity. Yet another reason to vet out these guys. I’ll only date a guy with a BMI under 25 now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 09:13 AM
27

A soul depleting relationship with a LVM is way more exhausting than using vetting to head them off at the pass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 09:50 PM
14

Are you actually a MAN? This reads like something a LVM would post 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 10:39 PM
16

Exactly he could be delivering groceries by day to bring in some money and job hunting by night, like a woman would be doing basically. That’s adulting 101.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 02:10 PM
31

In the current market in the U.K. he absolutely could and should be working even just something temp to tide them over
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 08:47 AM
30

Me too, no men 2022 as I’m working on myself personally and my career. I’m also feeling much more emotionally stable now I’m not wasting time analysing the objectively shitty behaviour of a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 11:31 PM
82

Accurate. I love your cake, treating yourself better than a LVM would is 👸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 08:38 PM
351

So nice not to have a LVM in my life saying it’s a Hallmark holiday and he doesn’t believe in it etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 07:55 PM
20

Football culture is toxic AF. My Dad doesn’t like sport so this was never a thing growing up. It’s so pathetic, my vagina dried up even reading of such childishness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 01:35 PM
119

ITA, would expect my friends to text me back same day, let alone someone who supposedly loves me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 07:52 PM
74

I’ve got a swarm of bots/catfish following my dog’s Insta. Scrote are gonna scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 01:56 PM
10

I’m horrified, I just thought it was for bespoke scatter cushions and stuff like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 07:23 AM
5

Awesome comment 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 We’ve all been the woman that put up with LVM , mediocre or even abusive relationships. And now we aren’t doing that anymore I’m doomed to do whatever the fuck I want for the rest of my life without tiptoeing around a LVM and his fragile ego? Good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 10:37 AM
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This is so true. My NVM ex once refused to pick me up from a wedding when I couldn’t get a taxi. Last time out for dinner with my friend she drove me home (10 mile detour in opposite direction to her house) rather than have me get a cab late and alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 08:57 AM
70

Me too. I’m sure they’d have more in common with another single parent but the one I dated wouldn’t want the inconvenience of someone else’s child, whilst expecting me (child free) to put up with his 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 05:09 PM
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Single dads don’t WANT to date single mothers. A man would expect you to put up with his kids but wouldn’t tolerate yours. Have literally heard single dads say this, unironically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 02:47 PM
1

An unusually well balanced article ruined by the overly sexualised image of a d**d eyed woman dressed like a sex worker 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 10:01 AM
224

This article gave me chills. Porn is wrong. Yes all porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 05:49 PM
50

This is a good post. Women do become less pick me with age and experience, for sure. And also less tolerant of pickme antics in others. This is some chicken and egg stuff, I think it’s both!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 05:36 PM
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There was a news article shared last week where an abusive man unalived a woman and her small child who was a friend of his pick me girlfriend. The girlfriend had given the friend’s name as an alibi for some cheating. Abusive men and their pick me girlfriends are a danger to other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 12:31 PM
64

Predator instinct on display
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 04:31 PM
226

Hope the comments were throw the whole man away rather than cOmmUniCate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 04:30 PM
105

I’m saying porn is wrong PORN 👏🏻IS 👏🏻WRONG 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 11:50 AM
150

Men have literally started subreddits for revenge p*** and trp on women, teenage grooming subs etc. Those are the ones screaming hate speech the loudest at FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 11:04 PM
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I ended up dating a single dad and he honestly was so obsessed with the kid he made me feel like a side chick. Not sure if that’s normal though? Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 08:37 AM
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Preach sister ✊🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 05:59 PM
77

Buy yourselves some heart shaped chocolate and feel happy in the knowledge a LVM won’t be able to let you down this year. That’s what I’m doing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 05:57 PM
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Me alone… the ship is stable, I’m not constantly in crisis management mode. Haven’t cried in months (and even then it was a sad dog story), haven’t had to ask anyone for advice on managing a situation or shitty behaviour of a scrote. More energy for family and friends *(not managing jealous behaviour and tantrums) Just a nice calm, fulfilling life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 09:19 AM
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I’m with you on waiting a few months, vetting, getting to know each other. I think the sink costs fallacy would kick in if you were already married to someone who ended up being shithouse at sex 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 08:49 AM
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Be kind to yourself, you’ve learned a hard lesson from this horrific man. Take some time away from dating to work on yourself. Female Purity Culture is in itself a massive red flag 🚩 and this guy sounds like a red flag parade but you will recognise these signs in a future relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 08:26 AM
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Does not look after his health, including dental. Doesn’t have well educated, well read world views Has that white crusty shit at the side of his mouth 😱 There are so many things on my ick list
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 08:19 PM
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All men are potential predators. And if the man you’re vetting turns out to be HV then that’s great, but you are protecting yourself first and foremost. I don’t like the blank slate concept as many LV behaviours in our culture are romanticised or laughed off as “Boys will be boys” By following FDS you are learning to centre YOU in your own life ✊🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 12:26 PM
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This belongs in the handbook, you are the LVM Whisperer my friend ✊🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 11:39 PM
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I don’t get this OP. You don’t come across like you’ve read the manual at all tbh. Even asking the question that we should give men the benefit of the doubt 🤯 We don’t do that here, we know better. You think vetting would put off a HVM when in fact a HVM would EXPECT a woman to have an abundance of caution. It’s not an “offensive” strategy to vet, it makes absolute sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 11:35 PM
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I work with data and there’s no orange metrics in my professional life, either the minimum criteria is met (green)or it’s not (red). Glad I’m now applying this rationale to my personal life too, but wish I’d done it sooner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 11:52 AM
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👆🏻This It’s plain and simple bad manners to just drop out I’d expect a catch you later from my friends and family
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 11:50 AM
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Have you read the Handbook? This is covered in the Handbook extensively. All men are to be vetted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 11:31 AM
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I think physical attraction takes less than 1 second so yeah first sight. Love noooooo, that takes spending time together to develop a relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 11:05 PM
12

Great post, really spot on. For every LVM I allowed in my life I ignored red flags 🚩 Not a single one of them passed the 12 month mark without red flags
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 10:58 PM
2

MAFS Australia is a red flag parade which I just found a bit depressing. I have stopped at Season 7 as it was getting obvious that they were putting some pretty awful people in it just for the ratings. There’s no scrote like an Australian scrote and I speak from experience ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 11:33 PM
3

Yeah this is the worst Sliders universe ever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 11:26 PM
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Thanks for sharing this very accurate breakdown of body shaming as a shit test from LVM. I’ve experienced this from a man who was noticeably larger BMI and less fit looking than me. He was one of the least attractive guys I’ve dated in fact. I was 21 at the time and genuinely puzzled. It is absolutely a slippery slope, accept it and the negging will escalate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 02:04 PM
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I’m so here for this sentiment. I’ve been married plus lived with someone. Whilst neither were HVM neither were they messy or untidy, but their behaviours lead me to feel unhappy in my own home. I have also had a couple of relationships where I refused to live with them as they just weren’t clean or tidy. My house is my sanctuary, I can do whatever I want, can have visitors, let the dogs sleep on my bed, whatever the fuck I want all the time. No moody men to accommodate, no getting woken up, no …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 09:40 PM
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I don’t think there’s a safe way to date rn especially for someone working in frontline healthcare. I’d honestly advise letting this go until April or so, I wouldn’t count this against him even. With hospitalisations about to soar it’s just not going to be possible for him to be properly available to schedule dates etc as he will be working short notice overtime or catching Covid himself very likely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 12:02 PM
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Her friend was someone’s rude NVM UNCLE? The pick me level was high with that woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 11:54 AM
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Have a nice dinner with family, drink some wine, watch a movie and hang out with my dog. Covid is really bad where I am so it’s best to limit any mixing sadly. Going to make dim sum on New Year’s Day and start learning Spanish in the hope for some travel in 2022 🤞🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 10:02 AM
78

Men need a lifeboat. Every time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 11:21 PM
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No HVM is doing anal. Anal provides zero change of orgasm for the woman and very high chance of physical damage which could even be life changing. No HVM would ask a woman to take this risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 05:34 PM
38

Yep I can do a hike if there’s a gastro pub lunch at the end probably but camping? Hell no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 05:47 PM
24

Yeah I like cooking and I’d be happy with that from someone I wasn’t cooking for on a daily basis, but not a SO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 05:46 PM
382

Why do outdoors scrote always feel superior? It’s legit a thing isn’t it. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 01:55 PM
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Pandora stuff isn’t even nice. Bare minimum is a stretch here Also,lingerie is not a present for the woman Neither is anything for the house eg saucepans etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 11:36 AM
120

I love this, thanks for sharing, genuinely lol! She’s great Maybe I should get TikTok but I’m old
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 08:27 AM
99

Scherzy is such a catch too, talent to burn, funny, beautiful. I’d marry her and I’m not even bi
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 08:20 AM
5

It’s good that you’ve had that self reflection Talking up the sex in the early stages only indicates seeing a woman as a breathing fleshlight, doesn’t even mean a strong D game will be brought
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 08:10 AM
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She’s not wrong except the good “past version” of the man was just the representative he sent until the masked slipped. But yes there’s comes a time when as a woman you emotionally check out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 09:15 PM
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I love this post 💕 As women we need to learn to cherish and spoil ourselves. I’m going to spend Boxing Day morning sale shopping online in my new pyjamas. Treat myself to a very small laptop for my language studies next year. And some beautiful wall art for my newly renovated dining room. Got my eye on a lovely emerald ring for my next birthday
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 09:10 PM
60

I’d agree that any kind of sex talk in the early stages is a red flag 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:00 PM
239

I wear the vanilla badge with pride. If it puts off the porn sick crew GOOD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 08:49 AM
44

I spilt up with someone recently, and won’t even consider dating til after the pandemic. Tbh the whole process just seems…unsanitary I’m in a country where being anti vax isn’t a huge thing, but with Omicron even walking past someone in the supermarket could get you sick. I don’t see how I could trust a total stranger to have their boosters (though I could ask for proof) and to restrict their social contacts and to test before they met me (though I could ask for proof of that). I have a tight gr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 08:46 AM
38

It’s not you, definitely The whole vibe is dehumanising/infantilising these young women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 10:32 PM
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This gives me the deep ick, they appear like drugged/unhappy children Clothes also hideous but the whole aesthetic 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 10:29 PM
6

Depends on how established the relationship is. Going on past relationships £250-£500 for an ordinary birthday or Christmas seems reasonable. Down the track I’d like him to organise and book a trip to somewhere (post Covid) so that would be £1000+ again that’s going on past relationships. Gift needs to reflect some level of knowledge of what I enjoy, but also as a professional with a good income should have a reasonable monetary value. Any guy who spoils himself whilst nickel and diming you is L…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 10:46 PM
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So very accurate. Men don’t like women. I’m pretty sure I knew this as a child but then unlearnt it as a teen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 03:36 PM
50

I think this is a useful exercise, I need to work on one of these. Your list looks good, thanks for the post No addicts of any kind Mentally healthy and well balanced personality Healthy body weight and reasonably fit, goes to doctor and dentist appropriately Makes an effort Financially secure and in stable employment Well read with an interest in current affairs Not right wing No kids, or maybe one grown up independent adult kid Vaccinated Does not play The Devil’s Advocate I’ll keep working on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 09:43 PM
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You seem to be struggling still if you need your mum to live with you, might it be worth returning to therapy? Finding a man doesn’t solve any problems in life, and can destabilise you emotionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 06:32 PM
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Sounds like you need a dog rather than settling for a LVM. Living alone is actually very liberating and so much better than being in a bad relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 10:53 AM
11

“Devil’s Advocate” is such a red flag 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 08:09 AM
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It honestly sounds like you’ve outgrown your friends and need to seek out a friendship group you’ve got more in common with. I don’t think it’s a bad thing, more circle of life stuff. Spending a desperate new year with drunk high unvaccinated people doesn’t sound good anyway it sounds hella risky, hang out with your family, stay safe and wake up in your own bed without a hangover.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 12:51 PM
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Very much telling that they don’t see sex workers as human or worthy of love. But still consume their products 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 12:41 PM
58

LVM steal your joy, just because they can Lose the LVM and find yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 06:10 PM
27

My friend was really overweight and had a diabetic child so she had very good reasons to want to get to grips with her weight. Now she’s divorced the prick she’s in much better physical and mental health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 10:29 PM
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One of my friends had put on around 80 pounds due to her miserable marriage. When she went on a diet her LVM husband presented her with a retail box of 100 creme eggs (chocolate sugar candy for viewers in America). I’m getting the same energy from this post. A fat woman is less likely to leave in the reasoning of a LVM, they view a glowup as a threat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 08:27 PM
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Is it just me who’s thinking where do they go to the toilet, shower, wash clothes? How is it her responsibility to clean and work? If they eat a lot of takeaway why aren’t they fat yet? Is she paying for everything with her remote working whilst he skis? What if she needs the toilet in the middle of the night. I have questions, many questions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 07:46 AM
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Yes! And money
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 08:47 PM
220

I’m dying on the inside for this woman. I hope she gets the help she needs. That’s money she could have invested in her home, education or travel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 08:47 PM
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It’s a relic of patriarchy, a woman is not the possession of a man anymore. It’s only in Anglo Saxon cultures btw, many other cultures have never done this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 08:30 PM
6

Thats horrifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 01:27 PM
71

Tbf abortion is still available in the U.K., probably because our PM is in the habit of impregnating random young women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 01:21 PM
66

A misogynist with a history of groping women, currently married to someone ages with his daughter. He’s textbook LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 01:19 PM
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Those aren’t just minor red flags, there are some black flag do not pass go items on that list. I’m glad you’re out of the situation but I’d seriously recommend working on your boundaries before considering dating again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 01:07 PM
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I really hope this happens but the current U.K. government is no friend of women so won’t hold my breath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 08:20 AM
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If he’s got debt then he’s not in a position to be dating or marrying 🚩🚩🚩 You don’t want to end up isolated in a foreign country busting your arse to support this guy. Time to throw out the whole man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 06:35 PM
38

NAMALT gives me the rage, denying other women’s lived experience to go into bat for the patriarchy 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 11:37 PM
30

This has legit cheered me up, I’m bathing in the tears of DM readers here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:00 PM
65

Thanks for this thought provoking post. I’ve been guilty in the past of this saviour behaviour. Now I channel my energy into fundraising for rescue pets, at least the animals are grateful (well maybe not the cats 😂)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 10:54 AM
12

I hope she dumped his ass. Also now googling microfibre towels, I need to try this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 09:32 AM
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I was a member of a women’s only gym in my home country. Current country doesn’t seem to have such a thing unfortunately. Even if not for the sexual harassment men are grungy, sweaty and practice poor hygiene on the equipment, I would happily pay a premium not to endure any of that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 06:37 PM
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Walk away. Read the handbook. Seems like you are moving in without being married, to someone you’ve only known a few months. And you’ve done minimal vetting So even before he lied the situation wasn’t good. Only solution is to go scorched earth on the guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 12:21 AM
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👏🏻all these things. 🚩🚩🚩🚩 galore, spare yourself any further time and effort with this guy. Also, have you read the handbook? You wouldn’t need to ask if you had
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 01:06 PM
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I’d agree with this, I’ve been in relationships with partner who worked away but was still based in the same town. I myself have had jobs with substantial international travel. That is all ok, but only if you are based in the same place. Otherwise you are investing hella time maintaining something virtually and a lot of time/money travelling to see a man that would be better invested in yourself, your education, nice holidays with girlfriends etc. This is why the FDS Handbook says no LDR.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 01:01 PM
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Replace “sensitive” with touchy, and that’s more accurate. Yes I’ve 💯 encountered this. What I’ve learnt… A sensitive man would care not just about their own feelings but how they made others feel. A touchy man cares only about his own feelings and not how their acts impact how others feel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 08:59 AM
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I only had this awakening this year, but somethings once seen cannot be unseen. I don’t think exercising boundaries and prioritising /protecting myself is militant though, it seems just sensible and I wish I’d come to this sooner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 04:01 PM
12

Came for this comment, OP he’s still drinking and will drag you down with him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 10:49 AM
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Sounds like you’re trauma bonded to an emotionally manipulative LVM, who doesn’t have to adult because mommy *(that’s you) will look after him. Also I’d bet the farm he’s still drinking hence unable to hold down a job. You seriously need to break up with him, read the handbook and work on yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 10:49 AM
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He wants the CREDIT for THINKING of taking you out for a steak dinner without the actual expenditure and effort of doing so. Classic shit test, mark of a LVM A mild form of future faking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 12:12 PM
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SPOILER his parents aren’t great people and neither is your boyfriend for letting his father talk to you like that. He should’ve nipped it in the bud the first time it happened and now he’s allowing them all to shit on you. Chances are he also holds the same pre historic beliefs and views on women I don’t think this relationship is viable for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 08:02 AM
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The man is sending in his flying monkeys? Set a boundary with them not to speak of him to you again. I’m not sure they are really your friends though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 06:58 PM
9

Block and delete, why would you want an anti science conspiracy theorist LVM that already makes you uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 06:35 PM
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My LVM ex saw a full length photograph of me in front of a world famous tourist attraction and immediately said “You have such big feet”. I’m on the tall side of average. He can’t buy his clown shoes in a normal shop his are so massive. Difference being I’d never be such an arsehole as to point that out,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 07:38 AM
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Thanks for this thought provoking post. I’ve never considered that expecting women to go quietly into the night was misogynistic, but framed this way you are onto something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 10:01 PM
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My late partner was a mixed bag of characteristics but was clean and tidy in the home , it’s absolutely a choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 08:20 AM
5

Commotion this comment, it can be a narc tactic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 01:35 PM
3

I would say it IS a dirty job, if it was that empowering and not dirty more men would be doing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 09:39 AM
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This is brilliant, women have sex without coming very often but so much outrage when you suggest men could too 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 08:39 AM
5

No negging followed by “only joking” I ****ing hate those guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 09:04 PM
23

This 👏 words matter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 10:28 PM
26

This is your day, the one you have waited for 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 07:32 PM
262

Employers should be legally obliged to advertise the salary. Keeping salary a secret only benefits the lowballing sexist, racist companies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 10:26 AM
28

So well articulated “no drama” = red flag 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 08:32 PM
33

“I’ve not personally experienced x thing so I feel f*** all empathy for others who have. And, I’ll side with the oppressors for keeping the perverted status quo as I might gain some personal advantage from this” There, fixed it for you Dakota Johnson
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 02:47 PM
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My LVM ex was “friends” with all his exes on socials. This article has really given me pause for thought, thanks for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 08:01 PM
3

Awful, so glad you saw the light as one of these depraved scrotes might have killed you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 07:34 PM
5

Da f*** did I just read, fanfic? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 06:18 PM
3

Won’t do it. Think the bald vag come from the world of porn and attracts LVM who expect that porn star look. I have a cordless rechargeable bikini trimmer which cost £15, have had it 4 years, it does a tidy trim job in a few minutes, no hassle of extra beauty appointments etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 08:26 PM
47

I legit have a phobia about folk with the white shit at the corner of their mouths
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 08:03 PM
10

Tell me you’re a paedo without telling me you’re a paedo. The same guy who asserts that every man watches porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 07:18 PM
15

Brilliant analogy, thanks for writing this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 06:20 PM
21

Unfollow. I don’t compare myself to others it’s a road to hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 04:42 PM
29

Wish I could like this post more than once. This is absolute gold standard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 05:49 PM
55

Yep, that was a come to Jesus moment for me. Female therapist, straight shooter. We need more of these women giving out the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 12:02 PM
854

I wanted to try couples therapy with my ex husband as he had me convinced that it was partly my fault. He wouldn’t go. I went alone, therapist listened for 40 minutes then told me to leave him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 11:43 PM
11

Great post thanks for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 05:33 PM
29

I begged my boyfriend to seek help. He ended up dead at 42 It’s an extreme example but that was my lived experience (incurable cancer)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 12:50 PM
22

Great post. I’ve been watching the Body Panel on YouTube, such an interesting topic. I’m practicing on watching and spotting LVM on tv🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 09:23 PM
16

Well done on prioritising yourself at this time. I’ve made a similar decision to centre career and friendships for the next 6 months
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 08:33 PM
44

Thanks for this post, it’s a really important point well made.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 12:09 PM
15

I always describe my job in the most boring terms possible. It’s total bs that this is necessary, but reading this confirms my worst fears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 02:41 PM
32

Can confirm women’s only gyms are way nicer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 07:01 PM
24

I have a friend who always prefers men, doesn’t get on with women. Sometimes makes remarks shitting on other women for eg spray tans and acrylic nails etc (I’m in a city where that is the prevailing aesthetic). Miserably married but won’t leave her husband. Been friends forever but I’m doing a slow fade, I just don’t think this type of chat is healthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 09:54 PM
22

Those aren’t low key, more like glaring red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 07:26 PM
9

Thanks for this great well written post. My LV ex would meet all those objective points and none of my needs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 08:33 PM
15

Greetings fellow Manager 😀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 04:12 PM
32

Any other SJ’s out there? I’m a rare breed by the looks of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:51 PM
82

This so many times. I used to think I needed to find the magic words to cOmmUnicAte 🤡 Nope, he didn’t want to do whatever entirely reasonably adulting thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 08:20 PM
31

Apparently this is satire written by some scrote who got offended reading the profiles of women who openly…checks notes…had STANDARDS. Comments are an absolute binfire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:35 AM
46

This 🙌🏻 Turns out my depression and anxiety and eating disorder were CAUSED by being in a miserable relationship with a LVM and I recovered and thrived alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 07:14 AM
19

This x 100% My lived experience was crippling depression caused by 1 non working LVM, making me emotionally overeat and pile on weight. With another it was anxiety to the point where my body was so tense I’d wake up multiple times with hypnic shudders so violent he’d complain about them. Both times went on ADs but it not numbed things a little as the root cause was a LVM. Your body is trying to tell you GTFO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 07:03 AM
3

Yeah the spanking was a bit out of step with the rest of it. I prefer the books set in Scotland to the ones in America. New book coming soon 😀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 10:15 PM
78

You need to block and delete him AND his friends, starve him of oxygen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 09:20 PM
34

Even before FDS I told my last bf I would judge him on what he DID not what he SAID. Talk is cheap for a LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 09:18 PM
6

The Outlander series from Diana Gabaldon portrays the relationship between a HVM and HVW. If you enjoy it there are loads of big books and novellas in the same universe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 04:17 PM
20

They like to argue for the status quo particularly where they have no skin in the game Devil’s Advocate is a true red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 11:08 PM
69

Check, I’ve had that said to me as well. That and “I could kill you right now with my bare hands” followed by “only joking” Those only joking fuckers are a walking red flag parade
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 10:58 PM
37

There were 3 people in my marriage 🤢 My ex’s mother wielded a negative influence the whole time And was passive aggressive to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 09:53 PM
24

This 💯 LVM will mess with your professional life whilst being financially irresponsible themselves. This is abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 08:53 AM
17

I wouldn’t date someone who didn’t have his own place. BUT I had a LVM ex who had his own place but his Dad had a key. Every weekday morning he’d let himself in the house at 6am and sit there watching History channel and smoking til 7:30 am 🤢. Weird and a deal breaker for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 12:23 PM
36

Great post, deserving of adding to the Handbook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 07:38 PM
27

This too!!!! In my LDR he was too busy, guy was a Tech manager so was online all day every day. It really upset me, no one ever did that to me before, and like the idiot I was so tried to cOmMuniCAte 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 07:05 AM
10

Thank you for doing this, this needs to be put in the Handbook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 07:02 AM
46

Oh god YES. Had to force my ex to buy some decent bedding, he was sleeping under a summer divet with one flat ancient pillow. Should have known then 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 06:57 AM
43

That’s an excellent one and a CLEAR INDICATOR of maturity. A man should not suffer and make you listen to his health related moaning whilst doing nothing about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 06:55 AM
31

This made me feel sick. We can’t consent to this is doing good work in this space but legal system needs to be updated. This scrote got away with murder
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 11:06 AM
79

He’s a fuckboi not a HVM, you needed to block and delete the first time he showed you who he was
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:46 AM
9

Dated a guy who’d been a friend for 10 years and had always liked me in a low key way. Was still a disaster. I gave him far too much leeway because of our friendship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 08:18 PM
32

In the winter a heavy Maglight torch. In the summer something pointier. Something you can buy in a hardware store and use to open boxes. A lady in my dog walking group carries a compact horsewhip, but that would be more effective against an attacking dog than a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 12:56 PM
148

That stuff scares me so much, our learned behaviour makes us a target for these creeps. I am so much more careful now. Also when I’m walking my dog I do carry something for defence, I’d rather be explaining why I defended myself with an illegal weapon than dead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 10:54 AM
71

Preach sister 🙌🏻 I die inside thinking of spouting the same libfem nonsense myself pre FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 06:24 AM
45

Brilliant! We have the same awful taste in men 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 08:37 PM
55

😂 this is the video I needed to see tonight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 08:30 PM
37

My dog doesn’t like big dogs unless they are super placid. So she acts as a deterrent - LVM are usually anti small dog too. In fact a man saying “Get a proper sized dog” is a reliable red flag that he sees a pet as a penis extension
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:58 PM
19

It sounds dreadful so I’ll probably give it a go 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 07:23 PM
14

This is great advice, if you feel the cringe at the compliment you definitely KNOW inside something is wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 09:20 PM
9

My ex did both,and I felt uneasy about it but did not act on the red flag. Next time I will though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 09:18 PM
139

Yep if sex work was empowering men would be doing it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 01:23 PM
33

This is mental illness, no responsible physician would have carried this out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 07:52 PM
10

Every time you check it’s like picking off a scab. Literally anything is better than doing this, read a book,shoe shop, anything. It gets better with time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 05:14 PM
46

We are simultaneously rolling in wall to wall sex whilst frigid virgins 🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 10:36 AM
193

He’s disgusting but so is she 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 02:53 PM
6

Yep there were 3 people in my marriage. Have any of you ladies watched “I love a Mama’s boy”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 09:53 PM
60

Wish I could like this post more than once, nice analysis 🧐 We still see these same LVM tropes in modern day movies too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 09:12 PM
15

OMFG yes, I’ve had LVM tell me how funny they are. If you have to tell a woman you’re funny… you’re not!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 09:08 PM
15

Ding ding ding 🛎 porn has addled their brains so badly they think that we all want to get with other women whilst they watch 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 08:50 PM
5

Preach 🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 05:54 PM
16

It’s a really interesting question. Every single man from lowest to highest value benefits from the structure of the patriarchy from cradle to grave. If a man has an awakening and decides to speak out against patriarchal constructs they also get praise heaped upon them. I don’t consider a man can be a feminist per se, an ally, yes. I think a HVM would be willing to STFU and listen to our lived experiences as women, and support /speak out against sexism (and racism) when they observe it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 05:17 PM
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I’m not saying they don’t exist, but Im not sure I’ve ever met one. Kind of like unicorns, we can’t prove a negative 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 07:23 PM
4

Pitiful that she begs for attention from a fat man child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:40 PM
8

“Non straight men are objectively better looking” Yes this 🙌🏻 In my city if I see a man with great skin and well styled hair, that man is gay, I’d bet the farm on it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 10:43 AM
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I’m older working in a field with predominantly younger people. I like a little Botox, I’m not doing it for the male gaze. I’d never judge another woman for getting a little freshen up. It’s surely more effective than any jar of skincare
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 01:14 PM
47

Yeah she was a bad ass who didn’t put up with any shit. I’ll never forget the coffee table lying there in two halves because fuck that guy 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 10:01 PM
154

My friend’s sister split up with her cheater husband. He wanted to split all their effects like furniture etc. She got her dad’s chainsaw and sawed every piece of furniture in half 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 09:40 PM
12

Agreed. Broke up with someone recently, can’t be bothered right now either. Add to that the risk of catching Covid from dating. Would rather hang with my dog tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 09:16 PM
5

Totally, if you start breaking down the low value behaviours you realise that this is a binary question, high value…or not?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 07:51 AM
7

Thanks yes, that’s so true. I had indeed cOmmUNicaTeD that I wasn’t happy with low effort behaviour and nothing changed. If he’d wanted to he would’ve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 07:41 AM
20

This is the post I needed to read tonight. Recently broke up because I just wasn’t feeling treasured. Yes, that is indeed reason enough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 09:41 PM
34

Split up with my LDR a couple of weeks ago. I wasn’t sure if he was a HVM or not. And started to realise I was not getting treated as I deserved. A few years ago I’d have tolerated/made excuses, so I’m learning to assert some boundaries. Consider me a pick me in recovery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 08:12 PM
58

Preach 🙌🏻 And if you rightly complain about substandard (insert thing here) be prepared to get called a Karen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 09:03 PM
6

Hookups have always seemed pointless to me, it takes time to build a connection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 06:58 PM
28

I fail to see any problem here ☝🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 06:06 PM
21

Playing Devil’s Advocate is 100% a sign of assholery, he’s playing with you for his own amusement
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 07:31 PM
6

I needed to hear this, thanks for sharing the wisdom 🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 09:42 PM
113

The exact story of my former marriage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 04:53 PM
39

This is why, just occasionally, we CAN have nice things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 04:49 PM
7

I needed to hear this today, thank you 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 10:45 AM
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I will also not date a grown man in a football shirt. Football culture is misogynistic and in Scotland you can also add sectarianism to the mix
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 08:48 AM
19

This is a great post. Overcome your female socialisation ladies. If a man is is in your space dont give the benefit of the doubt, get up and walk away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 05:20 PM
16

I’d spot those red flags now. But as a younger woman, raised to appease men not so much🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 11:45 PM
20

The study followed a sample of couples and observed them for these behaviours, then followed them up 10 years later and most of the ones showing The Four Horsemen behaviours had divorced. It’s an interesting read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 11:18 PM
7

Thanks for sharing, I’m so glad you got out this situation. Your ex seems to have zero empathy, there was no way to win in this situation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 07:29 AM
20

🙌🏻Language is important, I’ve started to write “corrections “ to headlines in social media articles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 07:15 AM
11

Me too, I was the Pick Me’s Pick Me. What matters is what I do from now on, now I’m aware. I’m still a work in progress, but I’m getting there. Forgive yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:47 PM
14

He looks like her grandfather. He was her boss. Poor girl got groomed by an ancient yet grasping scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 10:20 PM
8

Ugh 😣 she needs a full blown come to Jesus intervention
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:17 PM
47

💯 Agreed, best to have those conversations and settle it all upfront and not later when you hate each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:14 PM
148

Everyone should do this. Standard practice in the Netherlands but much more unusual in Anglo culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:20 PM
53

This 💯 In previous centuries FDS would be burned as witches for our heresy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 10:12 PM
15

This is one of the best responses I’ve read on here ✊🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:57 PM
5

Not got married in my early 20s, to an older LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 09:38 PM
68

I like a bit more coverage myself, prefer the shorts style. Fancy matching underwear generally has scratchy lace. Be comfortable, the chances of you ever needing to throw them at someone unless you start going to Tom Jones concerts is not high.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 09:15 PM
16

I don’t add it up because that way resentment fuelled insanity lies. Though it’s human nature to what if or if only. Rather I think of how financially stable I am NOW and how I’m budgeting for my future, and no longer have the sick dread of bills etc. Amazing how much more money I have now I don’t have a leach or a just buy something to cheer myself up from a shit relationship dynamic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 09:11 PM
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This 💯 I’m so much happier in my so.o home than in my married home. No one is an asshole to me in my solo home, ever. Just hang out with my dog, no one complains about my dog
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:48 PM
8

Only truth spoken here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:46 PM
15

Yep whilst doing nothing to address the condition. When I was depressed I was sad and tired, not an active arsehole to people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:25 PM
139

Oh you mean you haven’t considered that he might be autistic/depressed etc, those kind of comments? I hate them, didn’t think we did them on FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:03 AM
6

YES My last relationship caused me such high levels of anxiety I developed sleep myoclonus, I’d have hyping jerks so violent I’d wake up multiple times a night. Sleeping alone is so much more restful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:20 AM
20

Nailed it sister, respect ✊🏻 Men don’t for the most part want a hvw, more like a fangirl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 03:10 PM
7

This is pretty sound advice, and I think there’s some good strategy in taking a man to different environments in the vetting process. Observing the behaviour in different environments EARLY in the process is really important. I also liked the post last week about vetting a man’s dog owning behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:00 AM
17

Anyone that shit talks your small dog and says they don’t like small dogs (especially when you live in a city and don’t have 2 hours a day to walk a larger breed) can just fuck right off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:22 PM
4

He was already on shaky ground then in a drunken rage texted my friend’s husband to tell him we were plotting against him. Putting his abuse in the public arena like that finally forced my pick me ass to do something about it. Told him to pack his shit and leave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:02 PM
2

This x100. Random tradesmen, and even some friends see fit to comment on how I spend my own damn money. Also in my area houses are always 2/3 storey so they only way to get a decent sized living area is more bedrooms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:45 PM
16

This is brilliant - and that culture is so pervasive I never noticed this until I read this post 🤦‍♀️ Women try and improve their relationships including using self help resources like books and forums. Men do not give a fuck. Obvious now it’s been pointed out to me - thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 06:18 AM
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I don’t think there’s a female equivalent to TRP. Wracking my brains for communities teaching women how to pick up and then abuse men 🤔 Men really don’t deserve us do they ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 12:22 PM
21

Congratulations, your life will be so much better and you’ll feel lighter without that LVM dragging you down. Throw out any food in the house that was his and fill your store cupboard with stuff you love but he didn’t like whatever that is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 09:58 PM
752

This is a really interesting topic. And just the kind of thing that should be studied academically and used to inform education policy for young women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 11:49 AM
10

Came for this comment 🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 11:46 AM
5

Crap from a Scrote sitting on a crapper...ok then...I’m second hand embarrassed 🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:30 PM
3

This this this 💯 I was the pickmes pickme and ignored myriad red flags from the earliest days on. Honest to God if I went back in time I’d kick my own young arse so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 01:05 PM
15

It will be so liberating Now you can do whatever you want all the time without a LVM negging you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 11:09 AM
42

Boris Johnson PM of the U.K. is a TEXTBOOK example of this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 09:38 AM
14

When I got my Covid vaccine recently I couldn’t believe how old most of the guys there looked from my age group. They looked closer to my Dad in age than me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 09:30 AM
9

You bit back and bit hard, it’s the only language men respect ✊🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 09:27 AM
12

Flawless logic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 07:58 AM
4

Preach ✊🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 07:55 AM
24

I have a security routine and also keep a charged mobile and defensive weapon to hand by my bed. Trust your instincts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 12:26 PM
1286

My LVM ex refused to go to couples counselling so I went alone. Counsellor told me to leave him, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:21 PM
13

I’m in my 40s divorced, child free. I certainly don’t NEED a man, but I do have along term boyfriend of 3 years. He’s proposed but I’m not ready to marry again/live with a man. Plus it’s so much less hassle not living with him, my house remains spotless and he can be less pristine in his place(though it’s tidied for my visits). I can let my animals sleep on the bed and feed them poached chicken without being judged. Decorate my house how I like, have visitors when I want without accommodation to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:35 PM
3

Haven’t watched it in ages so need to check 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:58 PM
35

“These are their stories” da dunk ✊🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 07:18 AM
97

“Unfortunately straight” 😂 hearing you sis, sadly there’s not yet a cure for female heterosexuality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 07:21 PM
8

Ikr that totally resonates with me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:19 PM
18

The mandacity 😂 I love that woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 09:10 PM
13

The video was sped up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 09:05 PM
18

Came for this, I’m shocked AF it’s a man, and I’ve even read the book 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 09:05 PM
1

This is why I rarely talk about that subject. Re the right wingers on that subject...even a broken clock is right twice a day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 10:19 PM
7

Cindy Gallop is great in some respects eg racism, workplace sexism, but not so great in others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 04:12 PM
9

I sought counselling twice with my emotionally abusive ex. By the second time he wouldn’t come. Therapist told me to leave him 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 04:09 PM
2

LinkedIn DO NOT protect women from harassment. Take care, and start vetting your friends of friends on social media
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 02:32 PM
25

Dating LVM makes a woman depressed, when I left mine I also beat depression and went back to my normal weight. As women we need to protect our health from the consequences of shit relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:43 AM
18

Me too, she puts it more eloquently than me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:21 AM
4

Well played my friend saluting you ✊🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 05:11 PM
10

Thanks for the recommendation downloaded to my Kindle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:53 AM
20

I don’t disagree, I’m still a work in progress myself. I’m in a LTR and I do get excited just from him being...not awful. So there’s definitely that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:08 PM
1

Tbh I do miss the group fitness classes which were almost all women anyway. But everything is shut here from Covid anyway. I might look for a new gym after the pandemic but it will be as you suggest the high end type.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 06:26 PM
2

I used to pay a premium for a women’s only gym but then moved countries and it’s only mixed gyms in my current country. Did join a nice hotel gym but men still ruined that. So now I dont bother going at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 06:08 PM
36

Came for this comment. Most of the time I’d be surprised if the woman hasn’t communicated and the man ignored it, downplayed it or DARVO’D. That’s certainly been my experience IRL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 08:11 AM
40

It’s to distract U.K. citizens from a criminal government, the highest Covid death rate in Europe and the collapse of peace in Northern Ireland.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 04:57 PM
162

Prince Philip was also a racist lecherous over privileged piece of garbage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:36 PM
4

Yeah that alone turns me off the brand. It’s definitely male centric advertising hive mind sex sex sex sex rinse repeat etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:32 PM
3

Yeah I just had a google and there’s even worse names out there for makeup products. What’s the bets it’s a man at an advertising agency thinking of this vulgar tat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:26 AM
2

I do this for my friends let alone someone I’m involved with. So yeah he’s not that into you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:48 AM
11

Slightly off topic but on a similar theme pornifaction of stuff like make up - I’m looking at Urban Decay and Nars here. Calling products names like Perversion and Orgasm - which is a mascara and a blusher respectively- you just lost my dollar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:47 AM
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Totally. What almost all men want is a cringing apology for speaking out about the problems women face due to men. Almost all men want to abrogate responsibility for the behaviour of men onto women. The derailment of women’s issues...Is deliberate And often there’s a fair few handmaidens also ready to sell out their own sex too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 08:10 PM
28

Omg it’s even more horrible than I realised. I’d thought it was any man showing sympathy/respect for a woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:12 PM
14

They know it’s bad they just don’t care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 07:57 AM
38

I wish I’d talked that much sense at such a young age ✊🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 06:01 PM
2

Yes I think a proper smile is fine. Basically as a recruiter I’m just looking for someone who looks presentable (ie properly groomed) in a client facing role. It’s only a thumbnail so neck up headshot is all that is required, and wearing something vaguely corporate and conservative for an office job, or eg uniform for an engineering /technical job. I’m less likely to look at a profile with no pic,or a “sexy” pic. For a technical role a headshot of you on site with a hard hat and boiler suit woul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 05:51 PM
7

For LinkedIn you really should use a head shot photo, I’m saying this as a recruiter. Slightly smiling NOT POUTING and dressed conservatively. Don’t use your FB profile so they can’t reverse image search it. I do get men contacting me inappropriately on there because male depravity, but don’t do yourself out of job opportunities just delete those. Cynthia Gallop has some interesting views on LinkedIn and those guys. LinkedIn do a poor job of protecting female users from harassment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:14 PM
34

I have a friend who is a long term part of the BDSM community - he is pretty concerned about amateurs and tourists in his world. And doesn’t hold with eg rough sex defence. Maybe it’s ok left to professionals, but making it part of mainstream is hurting women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:38 AM
37

It’s not often I feel strong enough mentally to wade into a comments section, the hatred for women is too strong. I rarely share anything beyond cat or dog videos on social media as I’ve come to the despairing realisation that no one cares about misogyny and racism. I can save myself but saving other women idk, I’m still securing my own oxygen mask
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:37 AM
169

I called out a woman’s magazine recently for posting an article suggesting women try some BDSM. A scrote soon came along to mansplain to me how I shouldn’t kink shame women 😳 Next time I’m going straight in with an explanation of what BDSM actually IS Getting punched, slapped, choked, spat on, hair pulled, called names...and that’s just the lighter side
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:35 AM
37

The comments on the original article are a shitstorm of femicide/male violence apologists. For the love of God avoid the comments 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:43 PM
16

I’d be happy to sit on that board as a non exec 👩‍💼 I’d consider it a public service 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 07:33 AM
25

Quoting the song title of a convicted paedo is never a good look
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 07:57 PM
6

Sounds super stressful. My dog likes other dogs but she’s been attacked even on her leash so now I mostly avoid other dogs unless they are ones I know or very small. Last time she was attacked by unleashed dogs I ended up in a screaming match with the owner and I thought the man was going to attack me. I’m too afraid now and wont even go to the park
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:56 PM
14

Great quote. 💯 accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 07:10 PM
17

None where I live now either unfortunately. But agree that you don’t get many men in eg Body Attack class so I mostly do that kind of stuff at a mixed gym
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 09:49 PM
105

I’m hearing you! And all that aggressive grunting is really just alarming. They feel entitled to make such a big song and dance of everything. I loved my women only gym. Sadly in another country now where it’s all mixed gyms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 09:23 PM
94

Always stayed on a women only floor in hotels in India where possible. Recommend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 09:18 PM
332

I much prefer an all female environment, men are all grungy and stinky at the gym even when they aren’t deviants. It’s quite off putting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 08:02 PM
136

Yep I woke up and I was having sex 😡 I’m sure I saw a statistic somewhere that a huge percentage of rapes occur within a relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:49 PM
17

The fuck did I just read? Paging whole man disposal service
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:42 PM
9

I was the pickmeist of pickmes at various times in my life. At other times I asserted boundaries but not consistently. I’m working on myself now and doing a lot better, aiming for consistency It’s all a journey or even a battle against my female socialisation and I’m learning a lot from FDS, particularly some of the great resources shared by women on here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 10:14 AM
19

So very sorry for your loss. But a great lesson here for all of us not to give the menz a free pass on aggressive/shitty behaviour because bad day at work etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 10:09 AM
4

A simple Google search on the name would have unearthed pages of such information. Reddit doesn’t take the first lesson from FDS of vetting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 10:01 AM
29

Yep when the only safe way to get rid of a harasser male is to tell him you belong to another male.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 09:26 PM
5

15? First time I encountered street harassment I was 12 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 08:32 AM
27

This 💯 Definitely one of the early red flags of scrotery
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 11:02 PM
28

Yes 🙌🏻 LVM steal every bit of joy from a woman’s life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 06:13 PM
8

Not so surprised. Being a woman in Eastern Europe is so hard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 08:05 PM
99

Considering the amount of predators on OLD and the refusal of those companies to boot out rapists...it’s about time! I won’t book a hotel without a decent amount of research on tripadvisor and that’s for a few nights holiday. Reviews are absolutely a safety feature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 06:42 PM
12

💯 My depression improved out of sight when I dumped my LVM ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 06:59 AM
38

I dislike porn, BDSM, rugby, boxing AND violent video games - god forbid a woman has boundaries with these people. Rape apologist central on that thread I need a shower now 🙁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 06:56 AM
19

This 100%. I don’t believe in that stuff so I’m going to not only disrespect an occasion that means something to you, but judge and gaslight the hell out of you for it. Spending time together and the man cooking a meal should be a standard weeknight activity in a LTR, NOT a special birthday activity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:34 PM
3

He’s showing you how much he wants to use those fists in your face. I’d say run
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:28 PM
23

It was creepy AF, I was 19. We split up on that holiday, I consider it a lucky escape
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:22 PM
36

A guy actually wanked himself towards me at a beach in Greece once and my ex did nothing. I stormed back to the apartment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:19 PM
26

I can guarantee that getting rid of a shit man would help many cases of depression (not all but MANY). I talk from my own lived experience, nothing worse for your mental health than a bad/abusive relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:16 PM
51

I was one of those girls, tall and skinny with big boobs by the time I was 13. Puberty was an agony of sexual harassment, sexual assault, constant catcalling. Decades later I still feel those hands on my bra strap. It was AWFUL. and now being hot is supposed to be “empowering”. Just no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:05 PM
13

That queen just keeps slaying ✊🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:24 PM
66

“They become a gentle angel” 😳. I’m actually dying of second hand embarrassment for the writer if it’s not satire
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:04 PM
95

This must be satire 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:01 PM
30

My mum and I have an expression of this kind of man you describe “a joy stealer” someone who can’t feel joy themselves but is also compelled to take it away from other people. If someone they love likes some thing harmless and relatively inexpensive why would they not want to do that for them on occasion....yep that’s right because they’d rather steal the joy. I’m glad you escaped
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 07:28 PM
34

Came for this comment 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 07:22 PM
14

Yeah handmaiden central in the comments, I expect men to be worthless rape apologists but women doing it too makes me feel despair. The very definition of the patriarchy in action.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 04:29 PM
9

Agreed. I couldn’t read the comments I’m not feeling strong enough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:48 PM
37

Joanna Williams is the worst kind of handmaiden and dollars to donuts that study where “only “ 52% of women were harassed was flawed by biased questioning and cherry picking the respondents. Johnson himself is demonstrably a weapons grade misogynist and extremely LVM so I don’t hold out any real hope for action from this dreadful government.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:47 PM
33

Dear God not only is he a worthless miser but he’s going to end up FOOD POISONING her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 09:48 AM
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I’d rather be alive to defend myself from charges of assaulting my attacker than law abidingly dead. It gets old though and now in the U.K. we have to watch out for dog kidnappers as well as rapists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 10:27 PM
22

Handmaidens are worse than LVMs because there’s no way they haven’t experienced harassment and assault yet they still go in to bat for the status quo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 09:27 PM
41

I love that there’s no men on this sub. Not having to listen to the NATALM crap is such a relief when we are talking about men raping and murdering women. These LVM in the rest of the internet want some grovelling apology/disclaimer for every time we call out male violence. A HVM understands that women need to vet to protect themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 09:24 PM
1

Oh enjoy! Why do men have to steal our joy, we are better without them honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 04:06 PM
17

Omg THIS. I figured this out about 2 years ago that love is in the ACTIONS but this woman puts it so much better. Thanks for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 08:19 AM
126

Preach ✊🏻 So very true. I’ve had a man say to me as I broke up with him for a catalogue of emotional abuse “but I never HIT you, I could’ve you know”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:58 PM
15

I did too, don’t beat yourself over it. I just find I get so much more enjoyment from my pet now I don’t have to constantly apologise for their existence. And if I want to cook the dog nice food I don’t get some arsehole moaning about wasting good meat etc. It’s so much nicer isn’t it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:53 PM
75

Honestly enjoying having my dog up on the furniture without a man moaning about the dog! I’ve also been cooking new things though this lockdown, stuff I like without having to accommodate a man who eg doesn’t like avocado or whatever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:01 PM
61

No one at the Met stopped for one minute to think about the message this sends to women, that’s how comfortable they are rn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 01:54 PM
6

Heath cliff was the original narcissist abuser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:38 AM
2

That’s an excellent video thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:37 AM
24

This totally! Single me is pretty stable mentally, sleeps better, retains a healthier BMI, I could go on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:34 AM
23

I’m heart sick of this shit, where the legal system is stacked against us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 09:05 AM
4

She’s old but not wise...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:23 PM
9

Yeah I’m at the point of typing “just fuck off” to those guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 10:27 PM
29

Im so sick of the whataboutery and handmaidens chipping in with “Not all men”, or “men get murdered too” . She was murdered by a police officer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:15 PM
45

This x 100. Lots of whataboutery on the comments about the woman recently murdered in London by a policeman, I feel pretty despairing today tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:30 PM
2

Total nonce klaxons 🚨🚨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:17 AM
2

You could try OMGYES which is full of masturbation tutorials, and completely female centric. There’s a small membership fee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:26 PM
9

What a fantastic role model, thanks for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 10:55 PM
43

We have a right to penis free spaces, where the hell has safeguarding gone? Not only the violation of privacy and potential for voyeurism, sexual assault and bullying - but men piss on the floor 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 10:37 PM
18

That fat ass tells women to lose weight??? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 06:51 PM
18

Mildly off topic but my dreams are rarely pleasant, usually involving being naked at work/missing planes/finding out my partner is cheating etc. I just figure my mind is still working through some shit of the last few years. It just sounds a bit like some ur evolved anxiety you have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 02:59 PM
4

Jakey boy seems triggered - what a snowflake ❄️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:32 PM
5

What the fuck did I just read 😵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 06:17 PM
15

Damn, if there is a cure for female heterosexuality sign me up now😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:48 PM
14

Came for this exact comment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:35 PM
5

This exactly nails it!!!! Thanks for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 10:41 AM
12

So true, Instagram is full of rich white women with plumped up lips, butts and spray tans almost cosplaying/performing blackface.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 08:40 AM
9

This is so true! As an older member I’ve seen fads for various body types come and go but the song remains the same. It’s a trap ladies, we all need to stop buying beauty magazines and clicking on those websites. Literally do not remember seeing a single article on fashionable body type for men over the past two decades!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 08:37 AM
50

💯 accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 05:53 PM
33

Once you see this shit, it’s never possible to unsee it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:02 PM
21

This made me actually lol. I don’t even want a dick pic from my long term partner let alone random peen 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:58 PM
15

Men have been trash for well over a century 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:46 PM
18

This is so true! This messaged is pushed onto women and constantly reinforced. I wish I’d been raised to walk , or even run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:28 PM
11

Aaaw so adorable 🥰 Maltipoo?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 11:42 AM
6

Key lesson here for all of us- it’s never too late to divorce a LVM and lead your best life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 11:37 AM
22

Well done on calling out her dangerous BS 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:36 PM
9

“BDSM community educator”...? Let’s bring back kink shaming, some of this shit NEEDS to be exposed for the dangerous filth it is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:53 PM
3

Omg This This This!!!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:20 PM
4

That’s awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 10:33 PM
11

This is sadly 💯 accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 10:09 PM
15

This right here is a perfect example of rape culture ☝🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 12:21 PM
201

THIS 💯 And let us also stop taking public policy advice from the kink community
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:35 PM
18

I love this woman Is she a member of this sub?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 07:34 PM
17

Ugh the nonpology, I hate that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:01 PM
59

Right!!!! Honesty without compassion is just cruelty. This is so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 10:39 PM
213

Preach!! The second I hear that phrase “Just to play the Devil’s Advocate..” then I know that person is an irredeemable shithouse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 10:30 PM
84

I gasped at the level of assolery here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:28 AM
19

This x 💯 I don’t know a single woman or teenager who hasn’t been assaulted or harassed by men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 09:22 AM
1

The first time I got catcalled and harassed I was 12 years old. So yeah cause and effect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:53 PM
16

This is just awful, teaching children to ignore their own boundaries
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:58 PM
6

Agreed! My late partner would say I had a Disneyland/holiday camp job, woke me up on work nights and was generally unsupportive. I’d recognise this now and run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 02:40 PM
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