(kinda) Red flags for dog owners

loftycries · 2021-05-30T15:59:44+00:00

Omg my ex used to let his dog pee on his balcony because he was too lazy to take him down to the park literally BESIDE the condo building. Don’t get a fucking dog if you’re not going to take full responsibility for it 🙄

He also never bathed him because he said dogs’ fur naturally cleans itself??? Like yes to a point but this dog was literally running around in mud all day. He was filthy and then he let it up on the bed all dirty 🤢😒

bananababy101 · 2021-05-30T15:28:53+00:00

-Won’t get his dog fixed because removing balls makes his dog “less of a man” or gets “rid of his manlihood”

idiosyncraticg1 · 2021-05-30T15:46:21+00:00

To add to the list: I find that anyone who lets their dog off the leash in a park or path that’s not leash-free is automatically LV. I know you trust your dog, but other dogs can attack your dog if your dog runs up to them.

gravedestruct1on · 2021-05-30T15:58:01+00:00

Talks about how dogs are “better than women/or people” because they’re loyal. It just shows that he expects devoted loyalty without actually earning it. A lot people who stress preferring dogs over people actually have no friends or can’t keep friends due to their own shortcomings. A lot of dogs will love you no matter how you treat them, people are obviously not like that.

You can also tell just the general selfishness of some men who get dogs....my ex worked 8-9 hours a day so when he got a new lab (puppy) he literally locked up the dog the entire time he was out. Then he would come home and get mad that the dog was so full of energy and wanted to play. Like what did you expect? It’s a puppy. He got the dog not caring whether or not it would actually have a good existence.

Interesting_Day1188 · 2021-05-30T17:57:13+00:00

When a guy you just met with puts the responsibility of the dog on you. The guy doesn't know you that well, yet he expects you to cater to his animal.

It shows he doesn't respect you. It's a power move to make you take care of his dog. He's also basically subliminally saying that you are less than the dog, but he owns it, by making you take care of it. And/or, he's trying to automatically throw you into care-taker mode, by luring you in to take care of the dog.

Dogs are both bait and status markers.

Although, I do have to say, I've seen a few couples in my neighborhood lately, where the dog clearly favored the woman. It'd let her lead with the leash and not cause any trouble, but wouldn't pay attention to the guy if he had the leash. Another couple, the dog got nervous when the girlfriend or wife went into the cafe to grab coffee, the boyfriend couldn't console it and didn't care at all about the guy. Once the gf got outside the dog was fine. That made me chuckle.

sleepysiri · 2021-05-30T18:30:37+00:00

Straight from the scrote’s mouth is “I prefer dogs to people because they are obedient and can’t talk back.”

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-05-30T16:41:11+00:00

I was surprised to read about how cats can get Chlamydia. I wonder if dogs do too.

I would be wary of anyone who lets their dog hump other dogs without their owners' consent. That's just irresponsible behavior and a lack of caring attitude.

alphasquish · 2021-05-30T16:04:47+00:00

Lets dog ruin furniture, chew items, etc (I have seen a situation where dogs literally ruined the yard, almost all the furniture, the walls, and were never bathed).
Lets dog go in the backyard and never, ever cleans up their poop.
If the house reeks of dog and dog hair is everywhere - it’s a double red flag that they aren’t grooming/bathing the dog or cleaning their home appropriately

LittleWinn · 2021-05-30T16:35:42+00:00

For me, someone who doesn’t learn and properly care for their pet. Mental stimulation, training, medical care, or who uses them for an obvious emotional crutch. Like the poor dogs can’t escape their toxic neediness.

Twolipz_78 · 2021-05-30T17:08:00+00:00

“Trained” his dog to attack POC, gets a dog (knowing his work hours) to triangulate you and “ex” he lives/lived with just to leave the dog tied up and neglected all day long (4am-7pm), does that ear/tail cutting thingy for “aesthetics”, kicks and mistreats tf out of his dog because “they’ll never leave you or cheat on you”..

UnforgettableBevy · 2021-05-30T20:30:50+00:00

I had a boyfriend in college who always talked poorly his dog. She was a sheltie, was absolutely beautiful, and was smart as she was sweet. He would get upset when she would see me - she would be beside herself because she was so excited, give me her belly, "talk", the whole nine yards. I always told her how pretty she was and how she was such a good girl. He would get upset that, the minute I showed up, she stopped listening to him and would stay by my side. He ended up being abusive to me, and we broke up three days after 9/11 -because not only was he horrible and physical with me, he said he didn't care that thousands of people had died just days earlier, and it wouldn't affect him. Needless to say, it did. He graduated with a degree in mechanical engineering and couldn't get a job between his laziness and his overinflated ego, and had to go to grad school to even make himself halfway marketable or palatable to employers.

He offered to give me his dog when we broke up because he knew she loved me better. I couldn't take her because I didn't have a fenced in yard. When she crossed the rainbow bridge, he emailed me to let me know. I wrote him back to tell him I had said I missed her every day.

I didn't miss him like you don't miss period cramps.

Dogs > Men

IndividualRoutine661 · 2021-05-30T19:22:30+00:00

Anyone that shit talks your small dog and says they don’t like small dogs (especially when you live in a city and don’t have 2 hours a day to walk a larger breed) can just fuck right off

lifesok · 2021-05-30T16:17:22+00:00

Any time they try to show off with, “I am sooo good with dogs!” “All dogs love me!”
When they talk badly about small dogs.

I had a terrier and guys would make comments about my small, useless dog.... obviously they had never been around a terrier before. This dog was a Viking.

CrepeCraze · 2021-05-30T19:24:29+00:00

If they hit their dog! I think a light little spank on the rump is maybe ok depending on the situation, but if they actually hit them hard or hit them on the face I’m DONE talking to that person.

Fun fact: my dog is specifically afraid of male strangers. Women are fine. My family members are fine. But most other men are very scary to her. When she meets a new man, their reaction to her barking at them and cowering in fear always tells me SO MUCH about them. Some try to force a pet onto her. Some are SUPER annoyed by it. Some of them just try to ignore it, and if they really follow through with it, she sniffs them when they aren’t looking and she stops barking and slowly cools off. Some of them look to me for guidance, and usually I try to hug them and show her they are a safe person.

Best case scenario: I have ONE male friend she has never been afraid of. I have no idea what makes him different other than he has a baby face and he’s kind of an anxious, gentle type of guy.

Villanelloh · 2021-05-30T21:05:17+00:00

he only got a dog because the breed is trendy. The number of idiots who went out and got huskies because of game of thrones is ridiculous. Owning pets as status symbols is fucking wrong.

numbers213 · 2021-05-30T16:21:44+00:00

This isn't the guy I'm vetting but his roommates dog.. I don't blame the dog in any way, but she's eaten the dry wall in the house, will eat ANYTHING that's within distance of her cage during work hours. Her nails are talons. She has no training. The roommate runs a mile a day maybe more but won't bring her with because it "won't tire her out" ????? Pretty sure her glands need to be expressed and if they aren't done are pretty painful and can become infected. Shes a sweetheart when she's calmed down and clearly wants to learn.

DancingCatflower · 2021-05-30T22:14:59+00:00

When they love dogs, but hate cats. In my experience, 100% of the time that means he's a controlling asshole.

They'll usually say things like "dogs are just so loyal" and "cats are too independent", which proves they don't know what consent means and expect women to be subservient to them 🤷🏻‍♀️

Jaelismyhomegirl · 2021-05-30T16:04:20+00:00

I’m always wary of men who like/have dogs, but hate cats. Not saying he has to be a friend to all living things, but if a dog-owner immediately tells you he hates cats when you mention you’ve got one, then it’s likely that he just likes the master-slave relationship that owning a dog provides.

staywiththecrown · 2021-05-30T19:42:11+00:00

Goes from ignoring the dog to yelling at it. Doesn't have a calm, neutral command voice.

poison_snacc · 2021-05-30T19:49:18+00:00

How about none of the above but just total lack of responsibility?

The “one that got away” aka an off-again-on-again situation from pickmeville informed me at some point that his dogs had never received rabies shots or been dewormed. They were rescues who were fixed and that was about it.

He didn’t remember that he’d lied to me before and said that he took them to the vet regularly 🤡

I was shocked and horrified bc they’d been around my own pet. Not to mention his young children (whom have apparently not been vaccinated for anything either— yes this dude is a full on antivaxxer, but that’s a story for another time).

Suffice to say this was one of the many reasons I did not stick around. Moments like these, when I remember the type of idiots I used to date, make me want to die of embarrassment.

ivy176 · 2021-05-30T16:05:29+00:00

Ew sounds like what we call a bogan here. Thank goodness it's the law to desex your dog here. People show a lot about their personality by how they interact with animals. Some people are just scared of them, but any weird egotistical or aggressive crap is not ok

purasangria · 2021-05-30T16:46:52+00:00

Hits or yells at his dog. Dogs WANT to please you; you don't need to hit them to get them to do what you want. Ditto for yelling.

If he does any of these things except in instances of extreme danger to the dog or other people (like dog is running into traffic, so he yells) RUN; you or your kids are next up for the violence.

FDS-GFY · 2021-05-30T15:51:33+00:00

Asks: “what do they want?” When it’s obvious dog wants to be petted. Some people have no experience w dogs. But if they can’t show any empathy or imagination for what a pet might want, they are broken people-and could be terrible fathers.

Let’s face it a pet’s needs are simple: feed, exercise, snuggle, play, soothe. Empathy is required to notice if a pet is feeling poorly.

If they can’t empathize (different from no experience with) w a defenseless animal, fuck them.

WestAtmosphere · 2021-05-30T21:13:36+00:00

You brought up refusing to get his dog fixed, but also has an obsession with his dog's balls and them being kept.

Also, I always found guys only choose a certain breed of dog (dog's specifically that look "tough" and they don't like other breeds/cats).

xpuddinpopx · 2021-05-30T23:12:43+00:00

Dude my roommate does the "alpha" thing, and I immediately rolled my eyes. He also gets mad at the poor dog for not listening and has "trained" it via intimidation and basically locking him in a crate for 80% of the day. Like, why do you even have a dog. That is a "certified support" animal to boot. Everything where his dog is concerned is a parade of red flags.

It's what I get for rooming with a man.

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-05-30T21:23:36+00:00

Deliberately go to outdoor children's events-- without children, mind you-- and with their toddler-face-height hunting dogs off the leash, just to make parents cringe so they can bellow, "Leashes aren't required here!"

Gouda8995 · 2021-05-31T01:11:52+00:00

Conflates criticism of how he treats the dog, or any annoyance with the dog, with criticising the dog himself.
Feeds him basic cheapass dog kibble AND from his own plate. AND THEN complains when he buys the expensive kibble, that the dog won't eat it. Just buy the ground up real-meat dog food from the same butcher shop you bought your steak from, and incorporate a transition. Quality up, dog health up, plate sovereignty up...
Feeds him treats constantly, complains that the dog is fat.
Tries to train him to do gimmicky tricks like he saw this one dog on youtube learn to do over the course of several years, and then calls his own dog "an asshole" for not getting it that same night/week/month.

bizzybumblebee · 2021-05-30T16:04:15+00:00

dog is aggressive towards other dogs. it means the dog hasn't been socialized or trained enough = lazy and uncaring owner

hoff_mull · 2021-05-30T15:37:06+00:00

Owns a small breed dog, lets it roam around leash-free, and posts sad photos of his injured dog with even sadder captions when larger and more aggressive dogs attack it, for sympathy points from their online pool of potential hookups. This is very specific, but this person turned out to be a textbook narcissist.

Hmtnsw · 2021-05-30T15:58:58+00:00

Like I was a PickMe before but some of the shit I see I'm just like "that's an obvious red flag" like... what are you doing?

ferociouslycurious · 2021-05-30T17:05:33+00:00

Is a fan of Cesar Milan. Uses a shock collar. Double red flag if he thinks the shock collar is fun. Actually, just report him for abuse.

tootired2too · 2021-05-30T21:30:29+00:00

A friend's ex left her the dog when he left town (they tried long distance for awhile it didn't work). He wouldn't let her take the dog to the vet, kept saying he wanted to be the one to put the dog down when the dog (at the time a 10 year old rottie X) no longer had quality life. He walked the dog once per week, and yelled at it because he was the "Alpha". She hadn't raised dogs growing up, but under her care this senior dog flourished. The dog, who had been listless and in mediocre health, lived another 4 years. It got 3 walks a day, acupuncture and laser treatment for arthritis, a raw food diet and was allowed to sleep in the bed. It was like a different dog, although it still had behavioral issues due to its first 10 years of life.

Imagine this dude as a father, ew. My friend brought that dog back from dying a sad life to living a fulfilling and enriching final few years.

LavaDogged · 2021-05-31T00:52:45+00:00

Shoving their face in their pee when they have an accident

NewtonsArooo · 2021-05-31T01:16:06+00:00

I have a large-ish puppy who is still working on learning appropriate doggy etiquette. Men see my pup do something like jump up for attention or pull on the leash and just HAVE to offer me "training" advice. It's always about "dominating" my sweet pup--forcing him down to the ground, forcing eye contact by holding his muzzle, flipping him over on his back, kneeing him in the chest, etc. I fucking hate it. It makes me sad to think there are still so many men who treat animals so poorly based on misguided, long ago debunked information.

Just typing this bummed me out. I'm going to go pet my handsome little snuggle puppy.

LonelyWineAunt · 2021-05-31T13:36:51+00:00

If he puts down small dogs and says only big dogs are “real dogs.”

If he won’t have his male dog fixed because he doesn’t want to harm his dog’s “manhood.”

If he doesn’t poop and scoop.

If he leaves his dog in a kennel or crate for long periods of time.

If he doesn’t take his dog to the vet.

If he doesn’t register his dog with the city.

If his dog isn’t microchipped and doesn’t wear a tag.

If he doesn’t keep his dog vaccinated or give him tick treatments in the summer.

If he dresses his dog in biker leather or studded accessories.

If he refuses to leash his dog when appropriate.

If he only feeds his dog human food.

If he humps your dog, even if it’s “just a joke.”

If he doesn’t train his dog in the basics.

twoormoreraces · 2021-05-30T16:19:08+00:00

I have recently sworn off men forever. I love my dog, he is loyal and makes me smile. I don’t feel comfortable in bars, restaurants, etc. The only place I feel comfortable outside the home is at our local dog beach. It’s mostly “dog people” and the men are usually older and don’t hit on me.

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plumabean · 2021-05-30T17:00:46+00:00

several days ago i was at the dog park with my roommate's border collie/aussie mix. he just turned 6 months. he is still a baby and we are currently coping with adolescence, which has been difficult, but not impossible. due to aforementioned adolescence, he has developed new fears, one of which involves unfamiliar men - especially ones with hats/beards.

at my apartment complex, there is a basketball court next to the dog park. a few guys were playing, but they'd recently stopped. a young woman jogged by, which riled the puppy up - he wanted to run too! i heard one of them yell, "get the bitch!" which pissed me off immediately, so i was already in a bit of a 'don't fuck with me' mood.

one of the guys, while walking home from the basketball court, decided to bang on the fence, purposefully making our puppy FREAK the FUCK out. clearly this was funny to him. i immediately approached him because my puppy is already afraid of and reactive toward strange men! we don't want to justify his reactivity! we want to show him it's okay, and that not every man on the street is going to harm him.

i told the man to back away because he's overstimulating our puppy and making him fearful. how does he respond?

"HoW wAs i SuPpOsEd tO kNow ThAt," calling me a bitch, telling me i should "train my dog" because he ~actively trains dogs~ and is an ~expert~

sir, with all due disrespect:

i told you what you apparently "weren't supposed to know" and you acted defensively, instead of listening and backing off
any dog trainer worth their salt knows not to rile up random puppies they do not know
because of 2, i know you're lying out your unwashed ass about successfully training dogs, male

and 4. who tf do u think you're hurting with "bitch?" LMAO not me! if anything by trying to hurt my feelings over me literally ! defending my reactive puppy ! you've instead revealed to everyone around us what a pathetic loser you are. i know i'm the shit, i don't need some pathetic manbaby to determine my worth

he walked away at the end of it while i was calling after him, sarcastic as shit, "you have a good day sir! you have a good day!"

absolutely pathetic.

WaffleDynamics · 2021-05-30T17:44:04+00:00

Refuses to get his dog fixed and is proud about his dog "hoeing" around.

Or does get the dog fixed (some rescues require it) but then gets "neuticles" for the dog so it appears to still have balls.

2021-05-31T02:32:20+00:00

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lilac-hiraeth · 2021-05-31T19:20:35+00:00

I was at the dog park this morning and there was a man there who was close in age and attractive. Our dogs were playing and he started talking about how his friend ended up with a woman he liked but it was okay because “she turned out to be a total psycho” then proceeded to ask me for my number so our dogs could play together again. How about...no.

tauredi · 2021-06-01T05:49:50+00:00

I was the “evil bitch who made him get rid of his dog.”

No, I put my foot down and told him to find another home for his poor dog because he literally never took care of her and then called me selfish for not wanting to take care of her while I worked two jobs and went to school (I didn’t sign up for dog ownership). It was a power play to make me accommodate his disgusting laziness and neglect, or else I’d be responsible for the suffering of a poor animal.

NotMyRealName814 · 2021-05-31T04:37:37+00:00

Sorry, but the actual term for a female dog is "bitch" and really should use that term properly. I've shown dogs as a hobby for over 20 years and the female dogs are always referred to as "bitches" and nobody laughs or acts weird about it.

Female dogs go into season twice yearly and only will stand for a male dog to impregnate them during a dew days during each heat season. Bitches will usually correct any male dog that tries to mount them outside of those days. That is the reason that the term "bitch" became used to denigrate women. The worst thing in the world to a man is the woman having the final or only say in when sex occurs.

NoNefariousness5137 · 2021-05-30T20:46:27+00:00

Yanks backward on the collar/leash and crosses the street because the dog is fearful. Excellent! Now the dog is fearful!

Condom-Ad-Don-Draper · 2021-05-30T21:54:18+00:00

My cane corso is gonna grow up to be a huge asshole deterrent

ogspacenug · 2021-05-30T19:08:23+00:00

I think male dog owners are a huge red flag, and a huge indicator of their level of cleanliness and ability to care for kids in the future.

-Does the dog sleep in his bed instead of its own?

-Does the dog get bathed or wiped down daily?

-Does the dog have a doggy door and a yard, or is every aspect of its life including potty time controlled by this man?

-Does he let the dog bleed over everything instead of diapering her or fixing her?

Just to name a few.

supermagnumpowercop · 2021-05-30T21:29:37+00:00

Lucky me i have a merle border collie

fdsonlynoscrubs · 2021-05-31T00:50:28+00:00

I met a guy’s dog and as soon as he told me the dog wasn’t neutered, I knew things were over.

If the dog isn’t well behaved, AND the guy has had the dog for more than just a month or two, it’s also over. Dogs need to understand basic commands for their own safety and well being and if a guy can’t even figure that part out, well... you know the rest.

BUT I have also met some FANTASTIC dog owning men who treat their dogs like royalty (while still requiring a certain level of behavior). And kudos to them, I’m glad to know they exist.

LeyMio · 2021-06-01T20:28:13+00:00

Says his dog respects him cause he sees him as an "alpha"

LMAO on this one. Do men never feel embarrassed of themselves?

Title	(kinda) Red flags for dog owners
Author	Mcccy
Upvotes	523
Comments	110
Date	May 30, 2021 3:26 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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