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8

Don't feel bad, that was a good one! lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 11:24 PM
49

Was he expecting you to jump in and say you prefer Mcdonald's? so weird haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 03:01 PM
61

omg my ex said something like this on our first date (a coffee date). after getting to know him I realise he is a narcississt who needs to stay away from women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 10:18 AM
20

men think they are sooooo oppressed because they are "forced" into paying for the first date. As soon as he starts complaining or tries negotating for a 50/50 split just press block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 10:13 AM
13

There are so many social media pages dedicated to arguing with nvm on dating sites. Women need to realise how much time and energy they waste doing it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 10:09 AM
118

My ex was a porn addict and it influenced his behavior towards women. his male friends don't think its a problem of course
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 09:08 PM
13

he planned for you to see the ring so he could trick you into staying with him by stringing you along. Dump him now!
/r/askFDS18/10/21 10:06 PM
155

any man who enjoys strippers and lapdances is a total sleaze. do not marry this NVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 10:01 PM
9

Wtf are these comments
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 10:40 PM
5

Granny speaks the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 10:20 PM
24

Yet another example to show men we aren't living life on eAsY mOdE because we're women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 10:24 AM
5

Facts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 10:12 PM
18

Block and delete. That is his issue to solve and you don't want to get tangled up in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 08:25 AM
29

I'm sick of men having random temper tantrums because something happened they didn't like. Especially the older generations who think mental illness doesn't exist but display textbook behaviours of emotional immaturity. My father is like this. He can show HV traits but randomly fly off the handle over something so non important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 08:23 AM
4

I would laugh uncontrollably then get up and leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 10:13 PM
1

Haha I love this answer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 10:12 PM
3

I couldn't finish reading it because the first couple of lines of the second date made me cringe so hard. I feel for that woman. She made the right decision
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 10:10 PM
3

If only he ended himself first instead of killing innocent people but then women and feminism would be blamed for such a "tragedy" because nobody wanted to sleep with him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 10:05 PM
35

YES. It was so fucking unsettling. I assumed it was his autism but in hindsight it was definitely his narcissism. Like he was trying to force something that wasn't there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 09:59 PM
7

I will never date a short man ever again because I'm certain that it was the reason why I was dumped by a short man. He has a job that involves meeting lots of new people and was single for years until (big surprise) he met a woman much shorter than him and married her. imagine being that insecure about your height you marry the first short woman you come across.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 08:18 PM
35

Girl end it with him and RUN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 10:18 AM
15

Never underestimate the bro code or pickme logic lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:03 PM
8

I will never unhear this when the song comes on the radio lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 12:07 PM
15

If the group asks why you aren't dating anymore tell them what he did. Then you can weed out the ones who play dEvIlS aDvOcAtE for his behaviour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 11:59 AM
73

Should have told him it's illegal to think "girls" are hot. It's fine to think women are hot though lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 11:53 AM
26

Time to throw out the whole man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 09:29 AM
29

I've gone off streep ever since she dedicated her Oscar to Weinstein (because he's "god") while being aware of what a pervert he is. She's a pickme hypocrite
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 09:23 AM
127

My ex would slam doors so hard he broke the doorknobs off and would always complain about not being allowed to be independent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 09:23 AM
62

I'm so sorry for your pickme mom and I hope you're doing better now x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 09:21 AM
38

Fucking scrote. he clearly thinks every woman should drop what theyre doing so he can grace them with his presence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:09 PM
25

Remove that sarcasm tag lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:34 PM
27

Those men don't need sex. They want to rape
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:32 PM
109

6 different women? This is why men should be aggressively s*** shamed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:29 PM
11

"My body is an instrument, not an ornament you tool"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:24 PM
20

Block and delete. Forget about him. If he bothers you at the gym again call security. Don't be scared of making a scene. He sounds like an abusive man
/r/askFDS02/06/21 02:20 PM
7

It needs to be drilled home it takes TWO to make a baby but that would hurt the poor men's feelings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:31 PM
18

There was a man on a certain anti parent sub whining and complaining how his gf on birth control got pregnant and wanted to keep the baby. He didn't use a condom or get a vasectomy but it's all HER fault! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:26 PM
9

It's insane how women family members are expected to put up and shut up because we're called the nUrtUrInG sEx. So doormats then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 08:27 PM
6

You're absolutely right. His family bends over backwards for him and he keeps demanding more because he thinks women exist to serve him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 08:26 PM
20

I completely agree with you. I definitely fell to the martyr mentality. He was violent with his family so I dumped him before he could lay a finger on me (this was before FDS days). He always blamed them for getting him angry. My friends told me to dump him over the phone in case it turned ugly. He is blocked and deleted forever!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:48 PM
33

I googled everything my ex did which he claimed was his autism. Turns out his violent "meltdowns" were nothing to do with autism
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 12:57 PM
130

So women during the horrors of birth need to remember to tell the doctors not to add those extra stitches wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:32 PM
14

he only got a dog because the breed is trendy. The number of idiots who went out and got huskies because of game of thrones is ridiculous. Owning pets as status symbols is fucking wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:05 PM
18

Oh he's just shy/awkward/no good at expressing himself/suffering from the hard expectations for men to man up Next!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 05:34 PM
8

I found it! That is the greatest answer I have ever heard re marriage lmao https://people.com/human-interest/dr-jane-goodall-opens-up-about-2-marriages/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:35 PM
11

Jane Goodall is a hero. She basically said in an interview last year that she doesn't need men in her life lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:06 PM
2

Always supervise your dog when the sprinkler is on. Dogs can drown from drinking water from sprinklers and hose pipes. I had no idea until a vet told me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:27 AM
7

They were always LVM they just disguised it well. You didn't turn them into LVM so don't blame yourself
/r/askFDS27/05/21 11:35 PM
23

This is the best comment. Just block and delete his weird ass
/r/askFDS24/05/21 07:19 PM
20

He dated her for 8 years without commitment (first red flag) dumped her right before she died (2nd red flag) hasn't been with anyone since (3rd red flag) Is still grieving her (4th red flag) Gushes about her as soon as you met (5th red flag) Confides in you about her (6th red flag) Told everyone you're his gf now without your consent (7th red flag) To hell with his feelings. Block and delete before he gets worse. I doubt this woman even existed and even if she did he treated her horribly.
/r/askFDS24/05/21 07:17 PM
18

That's a red flag. It's a boundary breaker and makes me highly suspect he's using the memory of his dead EX gf to gain sympathy. NEVER make excuses for men no matter the reason because they will keep abusing your nice nature.
/r/askFDS24/05/21 07:12 PM
40

leave him and get checked for STIs
/r/askFDS21/05/21 07:10 PM
14

This article is 100% correct especially the "too much choice" complaints from men which confirms they see us as products and not people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 11:56 AM
16

Because the dating app companies don't want you to know. They just want you to keep swiping
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 11:54 AM
31

They won't acknowledge Mother's day but they will raise hell when the mother wants full custody in the divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 10:05 AM
3

The fucking idiots praising him for being a creepy stalker. And the pickmes saying oH yOurE sInGlE?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 10:53 PM
26

That's terrible. And the UK prides itself on having free birth control and sti treatment for everyone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 10:19 AM
7

Yikes. I can only suggest finding the nearest public phone and give an anonymous tip for a car driving erratically. Make sure you log all the times the police refused to help or pulled you over.
/r/askFDS14/05/21 10:17 AM
18

Block and delete him. Why waste your mental energy on that psycho Next time your mom drinks and drives call the police.
/r/askFDS14/05/21 12:17 AM
39

That 3rd date should prove in giant letters he only wants sex. DO NOT GO TO HIS HOUSE
/r/askFDS13/05/21 09:38 AM
3

I don't blame you, she wants to drag down everyone with her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:51 AM
17

She's a frenemy who is a sore loser at sports AND relationships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 09:37 AM
7

Never settle. Don't fall straight away for a guy right at the beginning of dating. Read the handbook.
/r/askFDS09/05/21 09:52 PM
78

It baffles me how people use the 'tRy It yOu MiGhT lIke It' mentality when it comes to sick sexual acts or drugs but never apply it to anything useful. Like it's obvious why anyone wouldn't ever want to do bdsm or ecstacy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 09:51 PM
2

This is the word!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 08:31 PM
23

This. My first thought is that he thinks "affection" means the type he has seen in his porn.
/r/askFDS08/05/21 06:06 PM
32

It's a gigantic red flag. I gave a guy the benefit of the doubt when said he loved me after a very short time and things got worse from there (pre FDS days). this guy is definitely love bombing you and you should block and delete him now. He didn't get any affection from his last partner because she was clearly grossed out from him being so intense and creepy.
/r/askFDS08/05/21 06:05 PM
42

You made me think of those weird reader letters they sometimes print in newspapers. 99% of them are men saying things like 'Seeking tall blonde woman who smiled at me on the 7am train last Wednesday. Would you go out for coffee sometime? - Infatuated man" BARF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:10 PM
7

I always wonder if the real reason I don't want children is because I'm surrounded by NVM who don't deserve to have their genes passed on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:59 PM
10

I agree with this. If you're vocal about why you don't accept coffee dates you end up getting a pointless lecture why all women are gold diggers or how we expect too much. Block and delete all the way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 12:33 PM
9

Women already post things like that but it gets laughed off as bOyS wIlL bE bOyS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:12 PM
9

Men are PRAISED post-childbirth hence the 'dad bod'. Oh well done for letting yourself go while your wife struggles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 09:03 AM
23

Stay cautious. That "You're so smart, thanks for helping me with this" makes me think he's using you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 09:16 PM
75

It's better to regret not having children than regret having them. You can't take kids back if you decide you're not cut out for parenthood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 08:54 PM
46

"Children deserve better" And women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 08:47 PM
8

No coffee dates. It's in the handbook
/r/askFDS04/05/21 05:27 PM
11

"But but but men have thicker skin and more collagen etc" Then explain why they still look older than women their age. I'm sick of the message that men have superior biology to us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:25 PM
10

Tell them to enjoy their unnecessary risk of hpv and cut them out of your life for good.
/r/askFDS30/04/21 10:12 PM
12

I hope you get the chance to leave him safely soon x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:56 PM
10

I had no idea I'm sorry :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:41 PM
16

He sounds awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 03:46 PM
7

Denying racist name calling even with a recording of it WTF?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:33 PM
12

Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 09:17 PM
13

Then they weed themselves out of the gene pool so only the HVM can pass on their genes. Win win for us as far as I'm concerned lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 09:17 PM
58

Tell him to get a george forman grill if he wants something warm to fuck and makes him sandwiches
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 09:11 PM
7

Just because everyone else tolerates it doesn't mean its normal. You deserve better
/r/askFDS24/04/21 09:38 PM
46

I know it's a meme and a joke but now I know the man is wearing a diaper to support his partner it feels wrong to make fun of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 09:41 PM
2

Thanks for the support! I definitely do not agree that all cops are good but believing the first story we hear without knowing the full picture still isn't justified. We need to appreciate police officers soldiers etc who need to make a split second decision in life or death situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 08:45 AM
12

Whoa this was the woman who said 'we should retire the saying 'avoid it like the plague' because apparently humans don't do that'. She's a comedy genius!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 10:51 PM
12

I've already been downvoted for pointing this out so prepare to be downvoted too. One user said it would be 'very unfortunate' if she was stabbed but the knife holder was in the right for trying to stab her. Uhhhh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 08:03 PM
13

She had the knife ready to stab down into the victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 01:06 PM
11

If you see someone with a knife in their hand about to stab someone else you don't dither about whether they were the one who called the police, or if they're defending themselves, or if you should use the taser or the gun, or how you can aim for a non lethal part of a moving target, or if you can talk them down or whatever else you can think of. She was going to stab the other woman, the cop had a split second to decide what to do, they chose correctly. If the cop hadn't shot her or used the ta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 12:43 PM
20

She was about to take another woman's life. Why are you defending a would be murderer?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:36 AM
11

She was about to stab the girl in the pink suit. If the cop didn't shoot she would be dead. Does her life not matter?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:57 AM
4

FYI male fertility also decreases by age 35. It hasn't been acknowledged publicly as much because the patriarchy makes men believe their precious sperm doesn't age (and because of the way its made it actually degrades far more than women's eggs).
/r/askFDS20/04/21 03:58 PM
38

And then they manspread because their huge balls are more deserving of the space than you /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:57 AM
13

I've seen ASD men openly say they know certain behaviours are wrong but don't think it's important to change. Wtaf. Obviously at that point it is not their disability that's at fault but their selfish personality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:39 PM
27

No such thing as unintentionally abusive. ASD men are coddled enough without being given more excuses for their abusive behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 12:54 PM
49

Men truly will fuck any woman on their 10 point scale. The only reason it exists is so they can brag to their bro dudes that they fucked a 10.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 11:43 AM
27

When men say "but they're extreme cases" my reply is, well how do women know that you're not one moment away from raping or killing us in a fit of rage?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 10:52 AM
4

I blocked my ex after I told him to stop calling me all the time after we broke up and tried to be friends (this was pre FDS). He stepped all over my boundaries so I blocked and deleted and haven't regretted it since.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:36 AM
3

Wtf was that last season? So many things went wrong lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 08:34 AM
10

Sister Rosetta Tharpe. I wouldn't have said it if it wasn't true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 08:32 AM
13

He was a HVM in theory but very much a LVM in practice. Nirvana would not existed if it weren't for his first girlfriend doing all the housework and working jobs while he stayed home and played guitar. He repaid her by cheating on her. It's all in the heavier than heaven biography.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 08:31 AM
30

Same. Women invented rock n roll, wireless technology, health and safety, scientific breakthroughs and many more things the world benefits from!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 10:35 PM
20

It's disappointing when I find out my male heroes are actually NVM. So far the only one who is safe is Brendan Fraser - but I'll prepare myself if he isn't HVM after all :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 10:23 PM
7

Either way he is putting his feelings above her health. She needs to get rid of him whatever the reason.
/r/askFDS09/04/21 04:22 PM
33

You could widen the age range to 2 or 3 years younger depending on your age. I say this because at certain life stages the age gap is more significant eg an 18 year old and a 21 year old only have a 3 year gap but they're often at very different life stages (college freshman vs college graduate etc) What do you mean by a mentor? Because that sounds like a student-teacher dynamic which is very unhealthy. A supportive partner is what you should be seeking.
/r/askFDS09/04/21 10:02 AM
23

He's 41. He's too old to be embarrassed by a sti test
/r/askFDS09/04/21 09:48 AM
12

Dump him and run
/r/askFDS09/04/21 09:45 AM
32

It makes me laugh and cry when a woman says her bf is "shy". Uh yeah he's so shy that he managed to get himself a girlfriend and drag her down to his standards for so long /sarcasm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 10:23 PM
10

If I go on a first date and he shows up with messy hair creased clothes and jeans thinking he's rUgGeD I'm turning back round and going home
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 01:02 PM
59

He doesn't win if you break up with him. Pack all your things when he's not home (including anything you bought for him) and leave. Block his number social media etc so he has no way to contact you. Get yourself checked out for STI . Start living your life.
/r/askFDS02/04/21 11:05 PM
17

Block and delete.
/r/askFDS02/04/21 10:35 PM
47

Tell her and show her the messages as proof. Link her to the handbook so she's prepared for the inevitable excuses
/r/askFDS02/04/21 10:19 AM
4

What makes it worse is there are also charities set up just for men's mental health but they aren't being used either. Of course men will only bleat about men's issues whenever women's issues are mentioned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 06:42 PM
28

I've seen so many men complaining when their partner dumps them because they can't cope being their therapist anymore. But they refuse to see an actual therapist because to them it means admitting they are the problem. Even in the UK where healthcare is free men still won't see a professional. Instead they search for another woman to dump their issues on while whining how nobody cares about men's mental health
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:34 AM
73

Leave him now.
/r/askFDS30/03/21 08:43 AM
13

Some men are just scum. There is no reason why they act the way they do, that's just who they are. You haven't done anything wrong. Don't waste your time trying to figure out their twisted logic. They're just bad people who cause misery to you because that's their nature.
/r/askFDS29/03/21 10:34 AM
27

Next time a man says he has one of these attachment styles I am outta there. You know he's seeking free therapy and or excusing NVM behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 10:26 AM
20

"Guys choose the lowest possible effort you allow and then they go lower because you decided you weren’t worth royalty." This. This is why we need FDS. For one of our last dates my ex "treated" me with a shitty park ranger tour at a local nature reserve. He paid for that and I ended up paying for everything else 🤡 He was a tightwad who wanted all the benefits of a relationship but without any effort on his part because he always got away with doing little to no work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 10:23 AM
10

Then get a vasectomy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:54 AM
30

TIL salmonella is a STI lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:18 PM
3

He doesn't give a damn about his kids otherwise he would not have risked his job for such a stupid reason
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:17 PM
5

He cheated on you. You can try to minimise it but that was a HUGE act of disrespect he made. It was a total betrayal of trust. You deserve so much better. It will be hard but you will survive and come out even better than before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:56 PM
74

Lmao "your sperm isn't in hot womens bodies. It's being tested for the effects of bad lifestyles. The results are disturbing"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:42 PM
16

Definitely pro
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:11 PM
38

I don't think I ever heard my ex say women even once it's always girls. He's nearly 40 ffs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:37 PM
11

You married someone who let you down but you made the choice not to go back to them because you learned a valuable lesson in self-care. Divorce is a good thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:35 PM
26

On her door step?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:52 PM
13

Am I reading this right- the only thing that makes him stop mentioning anal is to remind him that he wouldn't like anal being done to him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 11:37 PM
4

Lmao that's a perfect comeback. But also depressing because the only way most men will empathise with women is when they are faced with the same situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:16 PM
15

'Community dick' makes me laugh every time lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:12 PM
3

I wouldn't believe them even if they worked in healthcare. It's expected of them to be vaccinated anyway so broadcasting it screams 'I want ONS!'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:09 PM
4

"I know how to pretend to be HV but I just want sex. It's her fault for believing I'm HV".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:07 PM
3

I would rather be single than be with a man who only does the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:04 PM
1

If he isn't making you feel special then it's time to call it quits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:01 PM
16

I would love a FDS curated list of tiktok channels!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:59 PM
199

It would explode in the UK right now. So many men and pickme women are offended by the necessary conversations about men's behaviour after Sarah Everard's murder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:57 PM
12

Thank you for this. Every single article about the horrible murder of Sarah Everard has a comment section filled with nOt AlL mEn. I'm sick of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 10:25 AM
44

"When I'd only asked him to keep his eyes on the road or to please not fart in my face." WTF To answer your question the only way to deal with men like that is to block and delete
/r/askFDS15/03/21 10:16 AM
7

99% of the time their oPpoSiNg OpInIoNs are things like "Women should go 50/50 on dates. Women should communicate when men screw up. There's nothing wrong with p0rn" This is why FDS was set up in the first place! 😀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 10:00 AM
4

Huge red flag. You're completely right that you shouldn't have had to sit him down and have a long talk about why he shouldn't talk about his ex. Dump him.
/r/askFDS14/03/21 08:29 PM
8

No wonder you feel insecure if he keeps talking about her! You need to break up with him and keep going to therapy.
/r/askFDS14/03/21 08:27 PM
3

Legality issues aside no 18 year old man "needs" a 15 year old girl. The age gap may only be 3 years but the maturity levels are vastly different. He is manipulating your sister and you are right to be worried. You need to tell her to stop seeing the "potential" in him and judge him by his actions. Are there any adults in your life who can give you support?
/r/askFDS14/03/21 08:25 PM
27

Honestly you need to break up with him now. Promising to do things with you only to cancel it because his buddies want to get drunk? He knows what he's doing - why should he bother putting in effort to make you happy when he can have fun with his bros while you say nothing? You deserve better.
/r/askFDS14/03/21 08:13 PM
51

Vasectomies are simple operations with low risk but if you suggest it to men who are scared of being tRaPpEd they act as if you are castrating them forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:26 AM
6

Wtf that's so sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:32 PM
12

I'm getting flashbacks to that post by a woman who unknowingly went on a first date with a homeless guy and when asked by friends where he lived she said ON THE GROUND lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:31 PM
35

I picked up on that too. It sounds like a variation of the classic 'I'm not good enough for you' line
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 01:12 PM
10

You did the right thing. I'm proud of you. I didn't dump the last guy I was dating when he told me he hits his family 🤡 It took strength to do what you did.
/r/askFDS13/03/21 09:52 AM
-17

Not a fan of piers but he is the only public figure who confronts the "poor Meghan" narrative. She knew what she was getting into but arrogantly thought the rules didn't apply to her. I don't understand why people are falling for her and Harry's story. Why would you go crying to the biggest talk show host in the world if you want privacy? (And when your grandfather is in hospital)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 03:58 PM
502

Imagine how few takers you would get for a cat ad. Single independent female seeks male who knows how to look after himself. Runs own successful business with variable working hours. Enjoys expensive food and luxurious spa days. You can look but don't touch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:10 PM
1

I agree with you. The b word is too loaded so I don't use it in a friendly way either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 09:42 AM
4

Very important point. That was the first sign of LVM behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 09:38 AM
9

This. If he can't speak to you with respect then it doesn't matter what the reason is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 09:26 AM
10

NEVER let a man use autism as an excuse for insulting you. They will keep using their condition as an excuse every time they say or do something insulting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 09:25 AM
-4

See what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 08:56 PM
0

or maybe people hate Meghan because she is a horrible person. nothing to do with race or envy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 03:14 PM
-2

She's the head of the monarchy so they are criticisms of her personally. The argument of whether the monarchy is still relevant or not is a different argument for another day. Agreed that the British press are vicious to women in general but in Megan's case she created her own mess and expects people to feel sorry for her. I don't feel sorry for anyone who actively seeks publicity then turns victim and says she wanted privacy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 09:29 AM
4

Exactly. She wants the benefits of being royalty but none of the responsibility. I can't believe people think she's an innocent victim in all this. She just wants to boost her profile
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 10:02 PM
23

I guess I'll be the unpopular one then lol. Megan isn't a rebel or underdog in all this. The Queen has been nothing but welcoming towards her. She never held Megan and Harry against their will or restricted their freedoms. The Queen even stayed on good terms with her uncle and Wallis Simpson despite the rest of the Royal family hating their guts. I'm honestly shocked to see FDS tearing down the Queen (a woman) with their preconceived ideas of her instead of the facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:33 PM
39

If I knew my son did this I would make him give me the cost of sanitary products every month until he leaves home
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 05:36 PM
86

All boys around the world should be forced to take classes on how to respect women. I know teachers shouldn't have to take on even more parenting responsibilities but most parents of boys are clearly failing at teaching minimum standards of behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 03:51 PM
3

Misogyny and zero reading comprehension skills in one comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 09:46 PM
14

Ugh this hits close to home. My intuition was screaming at me and I ignored it until I couldn't anymore. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 09:40 PM
6

Where have you seen this happen? I've only ever seen one user excusing the other woman when she was known to both the girlfriend and the NVM.The rest of the time I see the other woman being called out as the scummy Pickme that she is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:30 PM
6

Because a couple is choosing to conceive a biological child instead of adopting. It's a stupid argument because children are very much wanted by the couple so they usually are great parents. The fertile couples pumping out children they don't look after properly are selfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:19 PM
11

I hate those subs. They're supposed to be supportive but they always devolve into abuse. A recent thread said IVF is "the most selfish thing ever" and it got tons of upvotes. Way to kick people when they're down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 10:21 AM
22

Men in a popular sub said their love language is "acts of service" and no joke they said doing household chores were examples of how they carry out this love language. Oh they bragged about how happy their wives were when they washed dishes without being asked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 10:14 AM
4

Imagine looking at a sandwich and thinking of your daughters vagina WTF (it's actually the vulva btw)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:06 PM
40

Block and delete.
/r/askFDS04/03/21 11:50 AM
3

This is good satire!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 09:49 AM
9

BOOM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 10:58 PM
32

"Men: GTFO 15 min of fun ain't worth a lifetime of misery" More like 15 seconds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 10:56 PM
22

Misogynists dying out is a good thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 10:51 PM
34

The world is overpopulated. Governments should be paying people not to have children if anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:56 PM
8

She needs to block and delete. It's his job to think of a good date
/r/askFDS03/03/21 09:50 PM
11

Time to block and delete
/r/askFDS03/03/21 09:49 PM
9

You can do it!
/r/askFDS03/03/21 09:47 PM
5

Congratulations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 08:00 PM
10

Block delete and get an STI test ASAP.
/r/askFDS03/03/21 07:59 PM
38

Yay you did it! Stick with it.
/r/askFDS03/03/21 07:53 PM
12

It's been 2 weeks and he won't even make the effort to call you on the phone. His date suggestions are poor even with the lockdown. They are things he was planning on doing anyway. Don't say we didn't warn you.
/r/askFDS03/03/21 07:47 PM
13

Low effort date ideas after 2 weeks of texting? Drop him and read the handbook.
/r/askFDS03/03/21 06:26 PM
34

He wanted sex and kept mentioning he wants a family as a way to trick you into thinking he was after something serious. He wanted sex and nothing more.
/r/askFDS03/03/21 06:24 PM
36

Well maybe if the cost of living didn't rise so much that both parents have to work full time just to barely scrape by them maybe you wouldn't have this problem (poor you). Let's not forget it rose out of spite because women started to enter the workforce and shock horror wanted to have good careers instead of staying at home all their lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:40 AM
30

Cancel it and ghost. My ex never respected my time and kept texting me obsessively even when I told him not to do I ended up blocking and deleting.
/r/askFDS02/03/21 10:07 PM
17

Exactly. Don't even give him an explanation. Just block and delete. It's what he deserves for expecting you to wait until his semester ends. Fuck that.
/r/askFDS02/03/21 07:12 PM
17

Go to your phone right now and block and delete. Done.
/r/askFDS02/03/21 06:58 PM
11

I still think it's weird how he dropped $1000 on a bag for his roommate but not a $175 hotel room for you straight away.
/r/askFDS01/03/21 07:29 PM
18

Wow all the signs are good. I'm happy for you and I hope your surgery goes well x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:27 PM
33

Let me get this straight - he thinks his WIFE is the stupid one even though he pressured her into marriage because he "decided" they should be together forever because she showed interest in him? Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:49 PM
14

Don't message if you voted for _____ = I will never respect your opinions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 02:23 PM
4

That was an awesome comeback and you should be proud. Blocking him is the icing on the cake! I would find another group therapy session preferably all women. The therapist is an idiot for not shutting down his BS and not booting him from the call and the other men are misogynistic assholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 09:18 PM
11

Meanwhile on OLD nearly every man's hobby list is gaming, drinking Netflix, fishing/hunting travel and gym.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 11:38 AM
39

They're probably the same men who think parenting is easy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 11:34 AM
19

I've realised the old insult against women is calling us old mares. But men have stud and stallion as compliments. The double standards are ridiculous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 11:45 PM
52

Wtf we aren't purchases with a money back guarantee. If we didn't hit it off then you can't blame us and demand a refund
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 03:01 PM
8

That made me so mad. Also her future husband's stupid comment about 'women in NASA?! Lolololol'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 10:28 AM
17

The first time I visited those subs after joining FDS I was even more shocked at the "advice" than I was before FDS. The number of YoU nEeD tO cOmMuNiCaTe posts is too damn high!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 11:24 PM
13

You have only been dating for 3 months and you're going to foot the bill for your birthday trip? Sis get rid of this stingy guy and enjoy your birthday without him!
/r/askFDS25/02/21 11:19 PM
13

You're awesome. Your life will only get better and better!
/r/askFDS25/02/21 11:01 PM
121

And he only got there because of women (watch the movie Hidden Figures!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 07:30 PM
15

Block and delete.
/r/askFDS25/02/21 06:45 PM
18

Him following all those women and making a big deal out of it means he's a fucking creep. Block and delete for good this time.
/r/askFDS25/02/21 09:24 AM
6

To be clear you ended the relationship? Because that's the only solution. You can't be with someone who "needs" other people to make him do what is required of him. He is sucking you dry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:02 PM
11

Give him even less and ignore his questions completely. Block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 10:18 PM
24

Wtf. I'm glad you're continuing to ignore him. Queen energy!
/r/askFDS23/02/21 03:56 PM
4

I agree with this. He will only agree to counselling because it will make you stay, not because he wants to improve himself. Get out now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:23 PM
24

Dump him. He's - supposed to be - in a relationship with you not your ex so he shouldn't be comparing you both like you're both cars or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:21 PM
7

All the above is my ex summed up as bullet points. Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:17 PM
56

Dump him and remember how great it feels to be free of trash
/r/askFDS23/02/21 12:02 PM
5

What a creep. Are there any park rangers or security guards you can ask for help? I agree telling him straight that you want to be left alone could be dangerous. If you tell him to stay away because he's not wearing a mask he might come back wearing one. All I can suggest is to do what other women have said and tell him you're too busy to talk. Does the park have areas with more people around in case he does get mad? Then you can shout for help.
/r/askFDS23/02/21 09:48 AM
110

Is it just me or are men getting uglier?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 12:45 AM
103

Lmao and his friends are still waiting on their phones for the plans
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 07:11 PM
30

Leave him now. If he wanted to marry you he would.
/r/askFDS22/02/21 07:08 PM
26

You're not reaching. He is a useless bum.
/r/askFDS22/02/21 04:30 PM
5

BURGER KING There are literally hundreds of nice restaurants doing takeout options but obviously he put no effort into your date so he wouldn't have researched that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 12:46 PM
108

Lmao yes! He's probably sitting there wondering how a nice guy like him could be treated so badly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 12:37 PM
38

You did the right thing. Not entertaining a NVM for another second is a Queen move. Wear your crown! After dating men with mental health issues/disabilities I will NEVER again give them the benefit of the doubt. Using their disability as a get out of jail free card is shameful and disrespects other people with disabilities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 12:35 PM
8

There's no such thing as unconditional love for a man who treats you badly. You absolutely have control over who you want to be with. You might be afraid of being single but you will kick yourself for not getting rid of him sooner. You will feel much less alone once this scumbag is out of your life, I promise.
/r/askFDS21/02/21 03:30 PM
14

Fortunately most of the comments are telling her to break up with him. Let's hope she does
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 01:15 AM
23

There was another thread about a husband who locked himself in the bathroom for 4 hours so he could masturbate in the bathtub wtf Edit it was actually FIVE hours and the thread has been deleted but the original text has been copied into the comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 01:10 AM
6

I bet he shot most of his own soldiers in "friendly fire"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 11:35 PM
9

This should be made into a movie. I can't think of a snappy title right now lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 08:44 PM
58

Men date as a hobby because even a bad date to them is a good date because tHeY lEaRn So MuCh AbOuT tHeMsElVeS. Meanwhile bad dates for women are being assaulted or even killed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 08:30 PM
0

Thank you so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:01 PM
9

That sounds delicious! Do you have a good recipe?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:34 PM
141

It's like the wOmEn CaNt DrIvE thing. Err who is most responsible for driving offences and deadly road rage?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 12:18 PM
18

The sooner men like this go extinct the better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 08:43 PM
1

I would now text him saying Hi this is lalalalaika from (location) yesterday. Short and sweet.
/r/askFDS19/02/21 07:01 PM
16

You need to stop seeking validation from lowlife men and start taking care of yourself. Start doing things for YOU. Read the handbook to learn how to vet men. You will soon start noticing red flags and cutting toxic people out of your life.
/r/askFDS19/02/21 06:55 PM
12

When was this? He needs to be reported for sexual harassment and sexism
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 04:44 PM
11

The mindset needs to change to 'oh he's the provider of the family so he doesn't need a bigger tip'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 04:44 PM
11

I bet your brother doesn't even care either. Feeling guilty shows you feel bad for forgetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 04:42 PM
6

If the man needs to be praised every time he does something nice or he will stop doing it then he's not worth being with. You're putting the blame on women for when men no longer give a shit.
/r/askFDS19/02/21 02:53 PM
9

Just block and delete him from everything. You already know what he is so stop wasting more of your time.
/r/askFDS19/02/21 02:45 PM
25

So another fix it baby, because the first fix it baby didn't save the relationship. So fucked up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:19 PM
4

Thank you for sharing your story. That took courage to do!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:16 PM
13

You can do it Queen! Take each step as it comes :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:14 PM
6

Amazing quote!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:00 PM
87

But if you tell them you prefer clean shaven men (because let's be real the current trend of facial hair is terrible) they will use that argument against us. Removing hair from 90% of our body cannot be compared with face shaving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:00 PM
93

If only we could do that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:02 PM
8

A foot lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 11:34 PM
38

Online dating is a CESSPOOL. So many arrogant LVMs thinking they're God's gift to women when they have nothing to offer but bad skin, bad facial hair, bad grammar and bad views on feminism. I'm glad I'm single but I still want a HVM some day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 11:33 PM
11

I'd give gold if I could
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 11:29 PM
16

Block and delete. Being busy with work is no excuse to not make any contact with you. Don't think about the potential you think he has, focus on the reality
/r/askFDS15/02/21 11:36 PM
13

Have you tried the advice given to people with anxiety/panic attacks - name 5 things you can see, 5 things you can hear 5 things you can touch? It's good for making you focus on the things around you in that moment when you catch yourself daydreaming.
/r/askFDS15/02/21 11:32 PM
12

Cut your losses and break it off with him. I know it hurts but if he wanted to be serious with you then he would have made his move weeks ago. NEVER be a man's backup or second choice.
/r/askFDS15/02/21 08:34 PM
50

Block and delete.
/r/askFDS15/02/21 10:20 AM
3

Page not found :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 12:17 AM
15

Listen to everything MelatoninNightmares said (her post is worthy of the gold award) and also get a sti test ASAP
/r/askFDS14/02/21 10:29 AM
30

You sound like you have been unhappy for a long time. Break it off with him and find someone dedicated
/r/askFDS13/02/21 10:14 PM
6

Lmao!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:19 PM
5

Sounds exactly how my ex talks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:18 PM
8

Make sure you tell her you sent the flowers in case he removes the card lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:11 PM
1

The fact you had to explain your feelings in a way that he would understand says to me that he has no empathy at all. Do you always have to tell him to think about what's it like to be in your shoes? That's a huge red flag.
/r/askFDS13/02/21 08:57 AM
15

Okcupid is full of men openly saying they enjoy biting and breaking skin wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:11 PM
62

It's sad when you think about few babies are born to couples who actually want them while the rest are born because of reasons ranging from bad life choices to rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:04 PM
2

FDS advises not to use bumble for dating because men should be making the first move.
/r/askFDS12/02/21 12:59 PM
12

You're both in the beginning stage of a relationship where everything is new and exciting and feels perfect. But keep yourself grounded in reality. You only met 3.5 months ago and you still have so much to learn about each other. I can feel the intensity of your relationship by reading your post. Try not to get carried away. Read the handbook on how to properly vet your new bf
/r/askFDS12/02/21 12:56 PM
4

I would tell your neighbour your dog is on a special diet and gets sick from eating leftovers. If he says something like A lItLe TrEaT wOnT hUrT just repeat what you said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:41 AM
11

Then it's time you started embracing it! You have a man who wants to treat you - enjoy it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:18 AM
6

He should date men from college if only a few women are worth something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 11:46 PM
16

If men had to use hormonal bc it would be safe and predictable. For us it's an absolute lottery. What works for one woman could be bad for another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:39 PM
5

We already told you to forget about him and to stop confiding in internet strangers in your previous post. He's moved on so should you.
/r/askFDS11/02/21 06:28 PM
12

He must "compliment" a lot of women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 11:31 AM
41

"Onlyfans girls need to eat!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 11:19 AM
9

There was a meme going round the UK of a group photo of stereotypical British 'lads' (think tight buttoned up shirts, skinny jeans, tattoos, haircuts with shaved sides) last year. They complained about being jUdGeD on their appearance while women commented how we are judged every day for how we look. Most people laughed at them fortunately lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 10:28 AM
26

Leave him. This is abuse. He is controlling you. Move back into your parents house if you must. Start packing now.
/r/askFDS11/02/21 09:07 AM
28

Made of plastic and bad for the environment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 02:02 PM
41

Whoa the fact he said himself that he wouldn't tolerate YOU having many close male friends is a valid reason for you to dump him. Why are you putting up with double standards?
/r/askFDS10/02/21 12:34 PM
22

I saw a dating profile last night that seemed OK until I saw his answer to a question about abortion - "I believe in a woman's right to choose but men should not be forced to be fathers" FORCED TO BE FATHERS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:10 AM
5

Going to therapy and manipulation are completely unrelated things. Sounds like he's working on the things that bring HIM pain and carrying on with the things that cause pain to other people.
/r/askFDS09/02/21 11:23 PM
6

Anyone who jumps from relationship to relationship isn't truly happy. Do you really want to live your life like that? It's better to be single than to be in a relationship for the sake of it.
/r/askFDS09/02/21 08:59 PM
7

It seems unlikely he would have any legal right to anything. He has only been there a couple of months and OP calls it her place so he must not be listed as a resident.
/r/askFDS09/02/21 06:12 PM
8

First of all you need to take a break from streaming. Don't message him again or anyone else you play games with. He was just an online gaming acquaintance not a potential partner. You can't tell who someone truly is from their online presence. Don't beat yourself up over what you said on the stream and in the messages. We all fcuk up sometimes but it's what we learn from it afterwards that matters. You need to work on yourself. Go to your doctor and tell them about your anxiety. If you can't go…
/r/askFDS09/02/21 06:10 PM
19

"Block and delete. Don't ever look back. I mean ever. In ten years he'll resurface and he'll seem like he has all his shit together, and has had his therapy and dealt with his demons, but getting together with him at that point will just put you both right back into the boat you're in now, and without even realizing it, old patterns will resurface and once again, he will be drowning and you'll be fighting to keep from being dragged into the water." THIS. his problems aren't yours to deal with. J…
/r/askFDS09/02/21 05:10 PM
25

He needs to leave like yesterday. Its YOUR home and he's disrespecting you in it. Ask a family member or friend to be with you when you kick him out if you think he might lose his temper.
/r/askFDS09/02/21 04:31 PM
4

Far too wordy. Just say nothing block and delete.
/r/askFDS09/02/21 04:29 PM
7

Strong disagree to this too. Youre giving him a reaction instead of nothing. Block and delete
/r/askFDS09/02/21 04:28 PM
6

We need more information - does he pay attention to what you like? Does he know your hobbies? Are you always giving him ideas for gifts he can buy you for your birthday Christmas etc?
/r/askFDS09/02/21 12:20 PM
36

Block and delete. Give him no explanations. He's using you for free therapy and as an outlet for his manipulation. He sounds dangerous.
/r/askFDS09/02/21 12:10 PM
1

Every time you catch yourself thinking about the good times stop yourself and think of how bad he used to make you feel. The key is to train your mind not to look back on the relationship with rose coloured glasses. Remember that all the bad things he said about you are FALSE. You deserve better
/r/askFDS09/02/21 12:08 PM
39

Block and delete. Fuck being nice to a pervert
/r/askFDS09/02/21 12:03 PM
33

At least you learned after 1 date and not many weeks later. Well done for blocking right away!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:32 PM
5

Here's your crown comeback QUEEN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:29 PM
9

Please do, many are doing telephone calls and video chats now because of the pandemic. Stay well x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 02:06 PM
6

Are you able to get help from charities if you can't use your main health care provider?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:51 PM
48

Them: oh I'm in so much pain why doesn't anybody care Us: here's where to find help Them: oh I don't need that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:44 PM
17

Oh wow that is several dumpster fires worth of drama
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:42 PM
258

She should specify not to do ALL the housework when married but I agree with the message
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:38 PM
12

A man with a 6 figure salary who makes women pay for dates so he can weed out gold diggers, what a catch /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:53 AM
39

She also supported Weinstein. She is a pickme of the worst kind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:46 AM
28

I lost all respect for her. She dedicated her Oscar to Harvey Weinstein because she said he's "God" then when he was charged with sexual assault she said something like oh it's been going on for years. So she knew Weinstein was a rapist but only spoke up when the metoo movement went mainstream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:42 AM
11

This pisses me off so much. I hear colleagues say this all the time. If jobs weren't so scarce right now I would tell them to stick their non apology up their arrogant ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:27 PM
13

I have a friend with multiple health problems and her HVM husband has stuck with her all the way. It's depressing to to know he's the exception and not the rule
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:24 PM
42

A man murdered his wife and adult daughter in a parking lot in Scotland yesterday before killing himself. Its all over the news. I couldn't help but think OF COURSE it was a man who did this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:21 PM
61

My comment was deleted from a popular sub because it wasn't civil eyeroll I said the OPS now ex boyfriend was scum for cheating on her and owing her money so she should keep the ps5 console and engagement ring as payment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:19 PM
2

Congrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:30 PM
18

Haha your title had me going for a second there! You should tell your friend you're working for another startup for free with no legal ownership over it and see how she reacts. It could make her wake up to reality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:28 PM
1

My comments won't post?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 10:55 PM
1

Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:28 PM
36

It's like they keep wanting to prove they really want to be dating men instead of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:27 PM
19

I'm proud of you for cutting him out of your life. You deserve better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 03:48 PM
36

I know a worthless gamer NVM who was asking internet strangers to validate his number of swipes from women because he wanted to know if he was doing well. It's not a leader board for high scores (though he would top it for insecurity)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 03:20 PM
158

Vanilla cake is the most popular flavour for a reason lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 01:05 PM
1

I would like to comment there too please
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 10:22 AM
18

And here we have a garden variety NVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 09:28 AM
13

I am using this analogy from now on. Let's sue them for misrepresentation lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 09:22 AM
12

YES! Off topic but that guy looked like the stereotypical NVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 09:20 AM
7

You have learned what you need to change so you are already on the right path. You can do it! Xxx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 09:09 AM
16

Great point. I wonder if they spill their heart out in a job interview when they're asked to tell the interview about themselves "Well my father left me when I was 13, my last girlfriend left me for my best friend, I worry where my life is going, women use me for free food on dates..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 09:06 AM
51

I've had men in the beginning stage of dating telling me all about their "troubled" lives and disastrous past relationships without me asking. Next time it happens I'm just going to end it there and then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:36 PM
9

You'll be okay. There's a good pro tip I saw today and it says to do 10 things for yourself that your ex wouldn't let you do. You're strong!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 10:17 PM
8

The triggered men on that last twitter link! Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 07:45 PM
20

Reading FDS stuff is a much better use of your time. You can do it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 05:18 PM
102

Haha yes like "I don't need all these words what was I thinking"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:47 PM
16

Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:46 PM
6

I feel like I'm overstepping when I tell unmarried women NOT to get a mortgage with their boyfriend but sometimes you might be the only one who gives them that advice. If it saves one woman from financial ruin then it's worth the awkwardness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 12:13 PM
46

I saw men on reddit using the YoU wAnT uS tO lOoK pRePuBeScEnT argument when women said they prefer clean shaven men. Like seriously, you're using our argument against having to remove all body hair below our eyelashes for your pleasure so you can excuse yourself from grooming your face?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 09:05 AM
114

When I think back to every first date I had with men 99% of them told me their deepest darkest feelings, insecurities, worries and problems in past relationships without being asked. I'm sick of women being viewed as dumping grounds for their issues. We have enough on our plate when it comes to our own mental health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 09:35 PM
7

I was literally thinking about this - there are all kinds of charities and campaigns tailored for men but women specific mental health issues are swept under the rug. When was the last time you saw a news article about post-natal depression? Or poor mental health caused by gynaecology related problems? Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:22 PM
28

I read a story about a mother being called "ableist" because she didn't invite a kid with autism who hit her daughter at a previous party. I'd say her child's safety comes first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:00 PM
141

I don't understand this new trend. Like obviously there are instances were an asshole kid/parent invites the whole class except for one kid just to be cruel but I don't understand why good kids should be forced to invite bullies just to be polite. It's rewarding the bullying behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 12:48 PM
5

Have you noticed how people who idealised marriage as the best thing you can ever do also call their own pre married life 'the best years of their life'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:03 PM
9

An oasis of the Internet <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:43 PM
8

Kick him out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 10:51 PM
51

Burn!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 10:52 PM
40

Ugh so true. I told my ex to get more exercise to clear his head and now he tells people it was his idea like he cares about other people's mental health
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 10:50 PM
22

If expecting men to financially support themselves plus a potential family is putting pressure on them then they can remove themselves from the dating pool immediately
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 10:47 PM
85

I think "females" is being used sarcastically but it's still painful to see lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 10:43 AM
5

I suppose men do it for fun because they can. They don't think how it's the opposite for us while also being potentially dangerous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:28 AM
17

I've never understood dating for the sake of dating. Why would you waste your time like that? Get a real hobby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 08:09 PM
3

That's next level fucked up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 08:05 PM
3

I love FDS subscribers ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 08:05 PM
24

It's like a depressing game of bingo lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 11:58 AM
15

Perfect definition
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:21 AM
110

Ooh let's start a collection of canned responses by scrotes. I've got hE mIgHt bE sTrEsSeD aT wOrK mEn FiNd It HaRd To TaLk AbOuT tHeIr FeElInGs mEn ArE vIsUaL cReAtUrEs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:17 AM
2

Lmao I can see it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 12:31 AM
3

That is one firefighter who I hope never has to carry me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 12:30 AM
11

Beards have become a shining symbol of male insecurity (and laziness)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 12:29 AM
5

A beard is seen as an achievement now. The bar is in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 12:23 AM
58

The "seductive" selfie of him lying in bed with half his face obscured by a pillow Translation: I put no effort into foreplay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 11:26 PM
11

Doctors may as well just tell girls that from puberty onwards you're just going to suffer pain for the rest of your life because you're women. Meanwhile boys are so sympathised with when they suffer the mildest amount of pain. Male scientists need to fucking prove how "great" they are at medical science by helping women with gynaecology related problems
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 10:11 PM
7

Nursing is a tough job and not everyone is cut out for it but that's perfectly ok!!! I bet his job isn't even half as tough as hers. He should be supportive and encouraging instead of making her feel like a failure. I'm happy the incident lead to her freedom!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 09:51 AM
5

So true. And if a woman takes her full maternity leave she is viewed as a liability to the workplace but if a man takes paternity leave he's praised for having his priorities straight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 09:40 AM
111

Men = praised for bare minimum Women = berated for not meeting ever increasing unrealistic standards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 11:47 AM
1

You go, queen! You dodged a STI filled bullet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 08:15 PM
11

What's her tiktok handle? I can't make it out in the picture
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:53 AM
72

"Lancing that tumour of a man out of her life" 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:51 AM
25

Raul Julia did that crappy Street fighter movie while terminally ill not only to support his family after he died but because his kids love the video games. What a guy! And he was amazing in his role despite the rest of the movie being terrible haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 09:35 PM
18

Because there's never a male equivalent. When do we ever see men making a collective effort to look good?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 09:31 PM
52

And they refuse to give recognition to women who invented all the things they enjoy. At the top of my head I can think of rock n roll (Sister Rosette Tharpe) wireless technology (Hedy Lamarr) proper hygiene in hospitals (Florence Nightingale)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 09:28 PM
151

If only a trend involving men shaving their scruffy beards, getting haircuts, showering and wearing nice clothes would take off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 10:12 AM
8

This comment and all the replies need to be stickied especially ivy176 's comments. They're such good insightful statements.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 08:56 AM
9

"Hi" Wow so much effort /sarcasm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:49 PM
12

I've learned to bail at the slightest sign of insecurity from a man because it's always the tip of the iceberg. I'm sick of being expected to "care" and taking on the role of a therapist. I've got my own stuff to deal with without taking on a strangers. I don't even care anymore lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:06 AM
6

It's obvious we aren't made happy by their presence but it's clearly our fault /sarcasm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 11:13 AM
2

Congratulations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 02:55 PM
9

I'm glad women are realising they don't have to settle with some bum to start a family. No doubt the NVMs and LVMs are crying over their useless sperm not being considered anymore and it's the women's fault!1!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 08:23 PM
34

A guy I dated for a while would only ever talk about sex and openly told me how much porn he watches (every day). I'm so glad we never progressed to the bedroom where he could waste even more of my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:51 AM
3

One of the guys I dated was very insecure over his height. He dumped me and years later finally got with a woman shorter than him. I wonder how that's going for her sometimes...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:58 PM
11

That's what mine did too! The best friend ever to all his male friends but awful to his family (especially the women who do everything for him)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 09:12 AM
51

My ex built up a persona of a kind, sweet, giving person and everyone bought it (and still do). The real him is one of the most selfish people I've ever known. My boundaries and no's were nothing to him. The relief I felt after I ghosted him was wonderful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 12:02 AM
5

Makes sense. After all it is only other women who will truly understand childbirth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 11:36 PM
4

That's a good point. I hate all the men on that stupid show Don't Tell The Bride for not taking wedding planning seriously and treating it as a joke. I know it's played up for television but most of them genuinely don't care about what their bride want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 11:35 PM
21

This sums up modern relationships perfectly. We provide all the good stuff and they just take.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:01 PM
16

No response and no regrets. My ex tells everyone "we" stopped talking (as in a mutual decision) because there was too much history for us to stay friends lmao. Nope I just wanted to get the hell away asap
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 10:16 PM
38

FDS made me reflect on my past dating experiences and relationships and made me realise exactly why I was unhappy in them. I'll never ignore my instincts ever again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 10:07 PM
19

"Thank you for telling me" So she has to remind him to do what should come naturally
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 05:56 PM
13

Literally burning up all the misogynistic subs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 11:08 PM
12

My ex did this too. And it only clicked after I dumped him that he only ever spoke to other women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:30 AM
8

Lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:47 PM
7

Thank you, mods! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:16 PM
14

I'm so glad he's an ex now. A real soldier never hurts the people he's supposed to protect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:33 PM
18

A guy I dated asked me if smashing stuff up when he's angry is classed as violence. Uh yes, and you CHOOSE to do it. Its not your rage getting the best of you and forcing you to do it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:28 PM
2

The author is 73 and he STILL thinks women are free therapists for men? More proof "the Good men project" is a BS movement
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 09:58 AM
8

A boy would be called "an amazing young man" and an "inspiration to everyone".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 11:25 AM
34

Greta Thunberg triggering older men across the globe with her logic and reasoning comes to mind immediately
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 11:35 PM
2

I disagree with the women saying it's "not that bad". Come on! It's a checklist of clichés about single women in one picture. This could have been published pre Covid and everyone would have thought it was hilarious. "Lol look at the spinster drinking at home alone with her several cats and messy home" etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 11:31 PM
3

I'm so glad you stood up to him and got out. My ex thinks I cut off contact because the pandemic made it too hard for us to carry on a friendship. I ghosted him because he wouldn't stop harassing me! It's scary how they invent their own version of events to make themselves look innocent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 07:49 PM
31

My ex is still coddled by his mother. He thinks women exist to serve him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 10:30 PM
23

His analogy makes no sense because you would seek help from a doctor if you had any of the physical illnesses he listed. He's the one treating mental health differently not you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 12:09 AM
7

I'm probably biased but I think her music took a dive in quality after she got serious with him. She's an incredibly talented woman but she hasn't sounded quite the same since they've been together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 03:57 PM
156

Its funny how we're expected to have the wisdom and maturity of an older woman but not the body of one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 03:40 PM
11

I don't even know him but I can tell what kind of man he is from his emoji's haircut and beard = NVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:07 PM
3

I can't find it on that sub's page. Was it deleted because the comments were a dumpster fire?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 10:34 PM
8

The stories in that sub are heartbreaking but seeing people rise above their narcissistic family life is a joy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 10:56 AM
44

I saw an article on reddit (maybe here?) about how there are now 30 million more men than women in China aged under 40. You would think it would have made people wake up and see how wrong it is to have such a huge man-made gender imbalance but no, women are still treated like shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 10:54 AM
1

I would like to thank everyone in this thread for pointing out demisexuality as a logical and healthy way to live your life. For too long I thought it wasn't normal, and it isn't "normal" in a broad sense because its the opposite of what society expects. I can't count how many times someone has said they wrote off a potential partner because they didn't have sex on date 3 (and its men who declare this in 99% of cases). I'm actually glad men are weeding out themselves so I don't have to lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 11:41 AM
33

When people ask why a nice girl like me hasn't found a boyfriend yet I simply gesture towards the current men in my vicinity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:26 AM
6

Lmao to the landfill with them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:15 AM
10

They're getting confused with animals from rescue shelters. I'm 100% certain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:12 AM
13

🤏🤏🏻🤏🏼🤏🏾🤏🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 10:07 PM
8

Congratulations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 10:43 PM
48

Men: nOt aLl MeN Also men: I worry about my future daughters because of the men out there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:43 PM
5

Oh man I have so much field research I feel as if I should write a thesis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:36 AM
2

And they have the nerve to claim they are very pro feminism because they were "raised by women".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:36 PM
21

My ex was and still is coddled by his mother and female relatives. No wonder he's an entitled asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 11:14 PM
2

Thats true. The pandemic has highlighted how many people lack any empathy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 10:54 AM
19

I'm even more angry at her so-called friends and boyfriend. How the Fuck can you treat a suffering person like that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 09:12 PM
10

Straight to the point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 09:09 PM
13

I'm religious but I would never use it to control people, plus I don't agree with any sexism in religion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 12:04 PM
8

Lol I guarantee they never cared about stopping homophobia or transphobia until FDS called them out on their shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 12:01 PM
68

Then he spends it on onlyfans
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:32 PM
34

"And then I went a cafe and got myself a coffee and then I went to the park etc" Its like listening to a small child talking about what they did at the weekend. At least kids are cute when they do it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:29 PM
13

I didn't know that. Thanks for the info!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:26 PM
46

The day Beyonce leaves Jay z for a HVM will be a good one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:25 PM
14

God helps those who help themselves. They can go to professional therapy instead of burdening us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:22 PM
20

Sexy therapist lol. I love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:17 PM
12

I cringed so hard when my ex said "I cAn ChAnGe" . It was so scripted and fake. I'm glad I decided to ghost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:13 PM
13

It's like the meme shared here a few weeks ago "When a woman says No it means the start of negotiations". Same line of thinking from the NVM here - the woman is done but he begs for another chance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 09:37 PM
2

Ugh my ex fits every one of those words in the list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:00 AM
1

I'm keeping a lookout because he has a horrible tendency to completely rewrite history because he's so delusional. I mean I'm not surprised he changed the true story to make it seem like it was an amicable breakup so he looks good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 09:55 AM
2

Knowing how self absorbed he is he would say "that shirt obviously isn't about me because I'm so respectful and I only watch porn once a day!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 09:53 AM
3

Possibly lol. He's gone back to OLD because failed relationships are never his fault eyeroll so he's about to make more women miserable. I knew I should have seen the obvious red flags when he told me all his previous girlfriends and dates ghosted him but that was my pre FDS life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 09:51 AM
6

That is horrific. It just proves how bad people will use a serious diagnosis to their advantage instead of reflecting on their selfish behaviour and make it right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 09:43 AM
96

My ex tells everyone we didn't work out because of the lockdown. No it's because you're a porn addicted, jealous, manipulative, lying, misogynistic, selfish, obsessive, disrespectful piece of shit who plays the victim with your disability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 05:12 PM
12

Have you told your father? He needs to know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 09:47 PM
7

Remember people can create a picture of the perfect life but that doesn't mean it is. It's selfish of your friend not to be there for you after you have always been there for her. She might not be responding to your problems because it reminds her of the struggles in her life that ruin her "perfect life" image.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 10:23 AM
8

We are not prey
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 04:43 PM
9

Where can we buy dunce caps?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 04:43 PM
4

Lmao he's been quiet today but I'll start doing that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 04:36 PM
7

Is there any chance you could transfer to another restaurant? You could make up an excuse how it's closer to where your sick relative lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 10:33 AM
19

Ghost him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 10:30 AM
6

A guy who is part of a gaming group I'm in was not so subtlety asking me if I have a boyfriend. We've never met in person but I do know that he is who he says he is (real name, workplace, place of residence, photos etc). He seems nice but I'm not interested romantically at all. He asked how I was yesterday and I haven't replied. I just want to play the online game together and nothing more. Should I just bluntly tell him I don't want anything romantic?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 10:28 AM
3

Well done to you for giving yourself the self care and love you need x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 10:22 AM
8

YES. No wonder they all think they're rockstars
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 01:41 PM
19

I downvoted as soon as I saw the title. Main text not needed lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 01:33 PM
211

Women: We don't want to be raped Men: muh feelings Edit - thank you for the silver!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 01:33 PM
31

"We're not picky, were not complicated, and we don't need pickup lines" Aka "We'll have any woman ANY one at all so pleeeeeeeease ask us out!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 01:29 PM
17

Pencil dick lolll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 09:53 AM
13

LVM/NVM are literally bad for our health. I'll stick to dildos!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 09:50 AM
12

I'm 5'7 and an ex said I was tall for a woman lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 09:46 AM
7

I Am PrOgReSsIvE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 11:11 PM
11

Michael Sheen is a virtue signalling tramp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 11:31 AM
17

I blocked some clown on OLD for not responding within 24 hours. We were having a smooth conversation about hobbies and he just stopped randomly. Bye then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 11:24 AM
53

When you think of all the struggles going on in the 1920s - poverty, mass unemployment, child mortality, death from treatable diseases - and the biggest concern for men was body hair on women. Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 08:08 PM
25

"How dare you not appreciate me for the douchebag that I am"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 08:22 PM
4

LVM: we all gotta die of something lolololol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 10:13 PM
5

It's like a chef saying they tried their best to keep the meal peanut free but it does definitely contain 1 peanut, the customer with the severe allergy will not touch it. I don't understand why a LV would say yes. It's mind-blowing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 10:12 PM
10

Lmaoooo you made me laugh out loud in bed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 09:51 PM
11

Omg my ex used to ask me all the time what I was wearing. What's that all about? Anyway I always said t shirt and sweats lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 09:48 PM
65

This should be a new saying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 07:45 PM
16

If only they would all have sex with each other so they can leave us women alone. Everyone is happy then!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 08:15 PM
6

I feel like responding to these comments with 'men should stop being assholes then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 05:59 PM
10

Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 08:20 PM
7

It really depends on the doctor. I saw a male gynaecologist for bc advice and he was wonderful. There will be arrogant doctors of both genders who think they know everything but you can usually spot them early on. All that aside theres nothing wrong with preferring to see a female doctor instead of a male doctor. They don't take it personally who you prefer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 09:28 PM
2

This should be posted to r/ oddlysatisfying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 06:50 PM
16

Was it Billie jean King who beat a male tennis player who challenged her to a match?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:08 PM
9

I love how there's a pandemic happening but the most horrifying thing to happen to us is to be single. Oh the horror!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:05 PM
21

When the music stops go to the bar! XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:24 PM
13

You should be proud of yourself for recognising your behaviour and vowing to change it. You go, queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 11:04 AM
3

"But what about how I feel?! Don't you care about meeee?!!!!!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 11:03 AM
12

Turn it into mortal combat and FINISH HIM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 11:01 AM
10

It's still a lottery for women looking for a bc method - will you lose sex drive, feel sick or die from a blood clot? Meanwhile a vasectomy is safe predictable and easy to do. It should be a no brainer for men who live in constant fear of women "trapping" them. But they have no brains XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 12:00 PM
2

Amazing woman RIP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 09:59 PM
11

You know what it's rare when I see a man who is cf because he genuinely just doesn't want children, it's nearly always because they wear a tinfoil hat and think all women are out to "trap" them for life by getting pregnant. Because pregnancy happens solely by women /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:44 PM
2

And they call us the over sensitive sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:36 PM
4

This is so commonplace on OLD now - "don't message if you voted Brexit" etc. Even if I agreed with their views I hate the aggressive tone like only he is right and everyone else is wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:33 PM
3

"I was looking for some Tom Ford beard oil" Barf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:29 PM
28

This is more common than people realise and I hate that it is so common. I can't count how many times I've heard of an ex husband killing his wife and children because he's that deranged he thinks everyone should die instead of living without him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:35 AM
2

I've read that the beard trend is the result of men not knowing HOW to shave anymore because they are all overgrown little boys who never learned how to be adults, in more ways than one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:02 AM
28

Of course the top comments are BuT wHaT aBoUt ThE mEn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 09:28 PM
3

They talk about women's crotches ? That's messed up. Their reputation as a hateful sub is deserved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 04:49 PM
7

I had a rabid childfree redditor accuse me of not respecting a woman's body autonomy because I advised the OP to find out what's going on with her husband before she gets sterilized because she shouldn't have her happiness ruined by him deciding to divorce her as she's recovering in hospital. I'm CF myself so I was advising OP to sort out her marriage trouble before she has the operation so the experience isn't soured post-op. And the cf sub wonders why everyone hates them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:20 PM
6

Even the posts that DO focus on motherhood make me think "And how did the father contribute to the solution of your problem? Or did he "let you" sort it out by yourself?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:13 PM
6

I just read that post hahaha. And then he gave her a full bottle of wine to help her "de stress" for the night before she starts another day of doing absolutely everything. What a keeper lol I also noticed I've been banned from the sub despite never posting there lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:09 PM
13

I used to avoid cooking because I didn't know how to do it but one day I decided to look on YouTube for simple recipes and I'm glad I did. Honestly you won't believe how easy it is to make tasty meals with not much effort. It does wonders for your self esteem when you make something and it turns out good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:00 PM
31

A weight lifted from my shoulders the moment I went nc. I imagine it's how an innocent person feels when they're let out of prison after being wrongfully found guilty. WIhen I caught myself feeling bad I realised missed the potential of the relationship, not the reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:54 PM
2

Sad for ninetiesbaby16 I'm assuming? XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 12:12 PM
14

This is good advice. I will keep them in mind when I talk to my asshole boss!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 12:08 PM
22

Nobody talks about sex anymore, they talk about lust. Men openly talk about bj, anal, bdsm, dom/sub and any other degrading sex act but they squirm when you ask them about condoms, boundaries, rules, birth control, testing and most importantly of all FEELINGS. It's like the song warned people about, Lets Talk About Sex. No wonder women aren't as interested in sex anymore, it's a minefield out there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:24 PM
12

The best explanation (excuse) I've read is women find dad bods sexy because it shows he is prioritising his family over personal care. Meanwhile new mothers are put under the microscope for daring to put on baby weight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:18 PM
16

Men 21 - 40 look HORRIBLE now. Unkempt hair, beards, tatty clothes, bad skin, bad teeth, overweight/obese. But we're still expected to lOvE tHeM fOr WhO tHeY aRe. I can't love someone who has no standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 10:26 AM
21

Take it to the next level and make them wait forever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 10:30 PM
3

They need to be specific. For example if they say you're funny then they should be quoting specific jokes you made. If they're struggling to think of anything then you know they're in the mindset of "shit I've got to think of HER needs too?! I thought it was all about me!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 09:19 PM
18

That's a good point if he tells you "you're not like other girls". As someone above me has mentioned it's his way of conditioning you into being his "perfect girl" by making you afraid to upset him, which would make you like all those "other girls".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 07:57 PM
6

Oh wow so this hit me in the face with realisation right now. My ex used to say things like this all the time "You accept me for who I am" "Other girls don't give me a chance" "You're the only one who listens to me" etc And I felt sorry for him no one would bother with him. But now I get it! it was his selfish jealous controlling manipulative ways pushing women away from him and what eventually pushed me away too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 07:45 PM
5

It's ironic he's trying to claim English words for himself when the ruler of England is a literal Queen lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 04:15 PM
34

The only mushrooms he's picking are magic mushrooms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 07:56 AM
1

It's because you're not talking about them and their fragile egos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 09:24 PM
3

I saw a post on Facebook today about a NVM whining about his GF showing disinterest towards his many depressive episodes after he showed so much "bravery" by oPeNiNg Up. I wanted to comment how her own mental health is suffering because of him but no doubt I would be piled on by some men and pickmeishas
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 09:01 PM
9

If they don't even know how to kiss me then I don't progress to the bedroom. My last date was terrible. I tried to teach him how to make it sensual and nice but he carried on with his slop fest barf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 08:47 PM
3

Respect to you for telling them they're boring lmaooo 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 08:42 PM
2

Haha and they have the audacity to complain in dating subs about how hard it is to talk to women. Poor them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 08:41 PM
5

Someone sent me a Hi so I sent one back. They said the exciting how are you? So I said fine. (I was very bored one evening btw) I asked them what they were doing and they finally started talking properly. Then the conversation just stopped so I blocked them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 12:42 PM
22

Men brand themselves as "open minded" and "progressive" if they say they're poly. What they want is a harem of subservient women to bear their children. It's so gross that they think this is an ok way to view women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 04:38 PM
81

Ever since I first saw that movie I always wondered why he didn't just tell Jasmine the truth when he got caught out after A Whole new World. It would have changed the story lmao but Jafar would still be after the genie so...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 02:43 PM
90

I got completely confused at first because I thought you meant the real life Prince Philip lmao. And he doesn't sound like a HVM :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 02:39 PM
7

They want their own g spot to be stimulated but don't put that effort into finding the female g spot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 09:28 AM
10

Haha best analogy so far. "The plane is nosediving but nobody told me what to do soooo"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 09:58 PM
20

I bet he remembers when every football game is on though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 09:35 PM
22

The excuses people are making for him! "He took his kid to disney" oh wow he took them on vacation = father of the century
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 09:34 PM
28

It's sad how 'open minded' now means 'all kinds of sex acts benefiting me only. Also open relationships'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 09:28 PM
3

If you can try to find the BBC Christmas lectures. They're usually hosted by women scientists and most of them are geared towards family audiences so you can both enjoy them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 09:05 AM
9

Society definitely still has that expectation for people to date once they hit adulthood and if you aren't dating, society asks why. Dating should be seen as optional instead of another job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:51 AM
10

They think they're wasting their money. We know we're wasting our time. The much bigger cost by far.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 06:29 PM
21

There's no point breaking your back trying to help someone who doesn't want to get help. Just walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 09:46 AM
22

I want them to all go their own way and leave us alone lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 07:38 AM
80

It makes me laugh when the relationship sub has men crying over unwanted pregnancies when they refuse to get a vasectomy because mY mAnHoOd
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 07:56 AM
46

If only scientists would put as much research into female bc as they are with the male bc pill. I had to go through many types before I found one that works for me. It shouldn't be a lottery for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 07:54 AM
7

What I meant was men will treat women badly no matter their beliefs. A man will use whatever reason he wants to keep women down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 06:22 AM
9

Religion and atheism will always agree on this topic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 09:58 PM
11

Like the big naked babies that they are haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 12:54 PM
16

"Garden variety asshole 💀💀💀 Respect to you for saying it to his face!! That's great news you're managing to treat your condition. Have you tried switching out normal wheat products for grains like sorghum wheat? Modern wheat is very bad even for people without problems
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:33 PM
10

Yes! I started with my ex a few months ago and did it again to some clown on OLD who took longer than a day to reply (we had a conversation going then he just stopped)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 05:58 PM
2

Lol next time a guy says they're proud of their dad bod I'll say it's hardly Momoa-on-vacation level tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 05:55 PM
4

If it's a fake post to farm awards and karma I tip my hat to her haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 01:33 PM
15

Athletic = gym membership they never use
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 12:09 PM
15

I really think the beard trend came about simply because men can't be assed to groom anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 12:08 PM
29

Beards are a substitute for personality. Growing one is all you need now to be a man apparently
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:22 AM
29

My left thumb hurts from swiping. Why do they all look so rough and/or cocky?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:16 AM
4

So pretty like the rose in beauty and the beast
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 09:55 PM
4

Feminism and gay rights are the reason the black community is divided? Where do I even start with that theory?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 09:51 PM
4

Amazing comeback lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 08:44 AM
11

My ex watched every celebrity sex tape in existence along with all the porn he normally consumed. He tried to make me wear leather jeans and skirts but when I refused he insisted he was only giving me fashion "suggestions".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 08:43 AM
34

"Women aren't rehabilitation centers" I love this line
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 08:34 AM
3

You're a queen x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 08:24 AM
14

That's fair enough. But just so you know, in English speaking countries it's become a demeaning way to refer to women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:19 PM
7

Even if it were satire (which I doubt) it is neither the time or place for it. This woman needs serious helpful comments to get her out of this horrible situation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 08:06 PM
8

I remember a thread a few years ago about a woman going through menopause so was never in the mood for sex and asked for advice on how to keep her husband happy after she woke up in the night to find him raping her . Other women commented on having the same thing happening to them and it just made me lose all faith in humanity. Like somehow men have made a woman-only life stage all about them and give themselves a pass to rape women in their sleep. I mean what the actual fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 08:03 PM
15

I'm going to give the benefit of the doubt and assume she picked that word to express how a cheating man refers to women. But otherwise YES I hate it when people say "females". Like when did 'woman' and 'women' become offensive words?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 07:53 PM
14

Haha if he says anything along the lines of "omg fight club just shows you how hard it is to be a man in today's world" it's an immediate red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 06:28 PM
8

Haha instead of renewing wedding vows we should have divorce renewal parties!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 06:23 PM
17

The relief I felt after blocking my ex cannot be described with words. The only thing I felt sad about was the potential of what could have been if he weren't such a useless piece of crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 06:21 PM
12

He's a grown man in literal age terms. If I wasn't being his mother I was an object. The "relationship" didn't last long thankfully lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 05:52 PM
78

This is what my NVM ex did. Then he would discuss it with his mother and call me to apologise because his mother said I was right to be angry eyeroll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 01:58 PM
7

"Gronks" Love that word lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 10:06 AM
3

I blocked my ex and I sometimes wonder if he's still trying to contact me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 08:16 AM
5

Those type of stories tend to pop up now and then. I also always tell them to leave the other person alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 09:01 PM
17

Those "friends" are idiots. Let's see how they like it being left alone at night at the mercy of muggers and rapists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 09:00 PM
37

She should tell him she doesn't believe in men who half ass fatherhood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 10:27 AM
83

Probably the same men who think they can wait until 45 before they have kids because their sperm cells stay young forever and 21 year old women will love them /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 08:06 PM
2

So then you will know better than us how most information about the brain is literally biased.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 07:55 AM
16

Scientists have finally admitted that women don't have different brains from men. It was accepted as fact without evidence for decades that they were different. It just shows how far we need to go to stamp out sexism in the science and medical communities
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 09:11 PM
5

That is disturbing reading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 08:29 PM
53

Society needs to stop saying boys mature later than girls like it's an unstoppable biological fact because men use it as an excuse not to grow up. They only behave like children well into adulthood because of the way they were brought up by their parents and then coddled by pick me girlfriends. If 16 year old men can join the forces and fight for their country overseas then every man older than 16 can learn to look after themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 08:17 PM
13

The current crop of OLD candidates look horrific. Bad skin, long beards and hair, badly dressed, bad teeth. And I bet they're only looking at the traditional "perfect" women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 10:26 PM
17

My ex was coddled by his family and also extremely selfish. I tried to encourage him but if he decided he wasn't going to do something that didn't benefit him (in his view) he wouldn't do it. It was part of the reason why I dumped him. I just couldn't handle being his mother and coddling his delicate ego so he wouldn't ever experience mild discomfort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 01:08 PM
10

Yes. I'm glad I didn't lose my mind and rush into things but when I think back I wonder why I even progressed beyond the first date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 01:01 PM
4

On OKCupid every man who has answered the 'if you got married, would you want your partner to have your last name' question has said yes. We are still seen as property to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 07:32 PM
3

My comment got deleted by the automoderator (it identified me as male, wut lmao) It basically said that men on OLD can't be bothered to groom themselves but still expect us to look perfect for them. The lack of effort they put into dating is depressing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 01:27 PM
6

They always ALWAYS put more effort and planning into the bachelor party and think, shit I forgot about the wedding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 05:01 PM
7

Lmao amazing description
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 04:58 PM
17

the good men project website is horrible. It says if you want a man to put in effort then YOU have got to give him tasks or projects etc so they feel as though they have a purpose. How about we tell men that women don't exist to run around after them and hold their hand?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 12:25 PM
18

That's because cars and money have no downsides lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 08:31 AM
4

Where is this thread? I want to read all the comments lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 08:58 PM
12

Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 08:53 PM
17

He's using you as a trophy to show off to people. Basically treating you as an achievement and not a human being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 08:47 PM
20

I've swiped left on a few of those. When did they mistake arrogance for confidence?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 05:52 PM
2

They already feel insecure about dildos and vibrators doing a better job than they ever could lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 10:00 AM
8

The doctor handled it with class but she should never have been treated like that in the first place. Like some of the commenters have already said I dread to think what less confident women have had to endure from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 10:19 PM
24

I still don't get why your boyfriend is waiting until the video goes online before he takes action. The guy told him clearly and openly what he was going to do with the video he made without permission and he didn't do anything?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:18 AM
1

I messaged the mods about 2 days ago, just checking that I sent it properly because reddit is weird
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 08:03 PM
20

I just had a quick browse and wow. Talk about Karen central! The topics seem to be as follows 1 complaining about partner not doing anything to help 2 getting rid of pets if any slight problem occurs 3 getting fed up of their kids once they're out of the baby to toddler stage so try convincing their partner "just one more won't hurt"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 07:14 PM
92

I wanted to ask him what exactly the "flirting" was because I bet it was something as simple as "Good morning"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 01:25 PM
103

I still can't believe FDS is classed as a hate group under r/ dating rules. Crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 01:07 PM
5

"Hi how r u"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 06:33 PM
17

He sounds mentally unstable and dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:53 PM
1

"yOu ShOuLd HaVe PuT uP sIgNs ThEn" would be their answer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 09:34 AM
1

This pissed me off in the workplace. Everyone is responsible for keeping things clean and tidy but the rest of the workforce (mainly men) thinks it's the job of the cleaning staff to clean up their mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 09:31 AM
5

They only want the fun parts like taking them to theme parks and playing sports together etc. Oh and the token social media photos to make themselves look good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 09:28 AM
6

I have come to the conclusion most men only have children to fulfil that primal urge to pass on their shitty DNA, yet they won't put in the work to raise and protect that very same DNA. But they would be the first to blame the mother for any mistakes because looking after your own children is "women's work" apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 09:26 AM
121

That's what you call cOmMuNiCaTiOn. It should be posted to every dating and relationship sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 09:20 AM
14

Good for you! I hope it goes well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 01:48 PM
4

Zing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:45 AM
17

You should tell your husband to stop body shaming you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:43 AM
16

Does anyone else think it's fucked up how society tells adolescent girls their leg hair is disgusting but tells adolescent boys their own body hair is manly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:41 AM
38

There was a thread recently started by a man who finally understood why women don't go out alone at night. To think that all his life up until that point consisted of him - and most of the other male commenters - believing "There's nothing wrong with walking through parks at night what are you so afraid of LOLOLOL" until a woman had to explain it to him in very simple terms is scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 08:41 PM
16

Short and sweet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 03:34 PM
3

A man messaged me on OLD and I said I don't date anyone with kids. His reply was 'Oh don't worry you'll never see her' = 'because I don't bother'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 03:20 PM
24

I had an ex who was only an inch taller than me and he openly said he has always felt insecure about his height. It's too bad he didn't focus that energy on fixing something he could change, like his self absorbed personality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:31 PM
6

It's true when they say behind every great man is a great woman. Because we did all the work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 08:58 AM
4

How embarrassing for them thinking simply being a white male makes them attractive to all Asian women. Yeah boys, I'm sure they will overlook your problematic fetishism /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 08:46 AM
193

Men: wE cAnT cHaNgE oUr hEiGhT Also men: Tall women make us feel insecure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 08:28 AM
9

What is his anthem btw?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 11:08 PM
3

Remember everyone, the guardian newspaper and their main readers are renowned for being offended by everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:58 PM
1

It's sad that our views are seen as rebellious and not the norm!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:38 PM
133

The fact he thinks working a shaky gig economy "job" and selling junk on eBay while running a gamer YouTube is classed as being self employed is hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:12 PM
40

You know what there seems to be an epidemic of young white guys specifically seeking out Asian women and it's very creepy. I hate to generalise but the guys are usually obsessed with anime and Japanese culture too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 07:48 PM
9

I've met very few Queens in IRL too. They seem to be in circles outside of the average mainstream social crowd like artists, "goths" etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 07:45 PM
17

Men who go to strip clubs regularly are so sleazy. When women go to a chippendales show it's always a one off occasion for fun. The idea of going every weekend is not appealing lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 09:58 AM
3

They're always available!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 09:51 AM
51

This is why Samantha is the best character
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 06:20 PM
5

Don't fall for fake intimacy This is a big one for me. When a NVM shares his insecurities and personal details I think he's opening up to me so I see it as a good thing. Not anymore!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:29 PM
38

If you feel unsafe for any reason you should excuse yourself to the bathroom and tell one of the staff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:24 PM
6

Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:55 PM
12

My favourite comment haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:52 PM
9

I think you're awesome for conquering your fear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:47 PM
5

Did you go out with my ex? He was the same - never paid for anything in full, always 50/50 (and I'm pretty sure I always ended up paying slightly more by the end of each "date") and was so fussy with food that he would literally only eat lean meat and vegetables.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:44 PM
3

I love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:38 PM
4

Yes they give a bad name to others who genuinely make a mistake. You are doing a great job teaching your son no means no and not "until I wear down the other person into saying yes". My ex didn't ever respect my no (or anyone else's for that matter) if he wanted something. I worry for the next woman he comes across. When his family and friends scold him for doing something inappropriate he just does it again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 04:54 PM
21

Also don't make the same mistake I made and give them leniency if they have any kind of disorder or condition that affects social interaction like autism, anxiety etc. No is crystal clear and obvious to understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:41 PM
2

Wait until he hears about dildos!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:37 PM
11

He refers to women as females, that's all I needed to know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 01:07 PM
3

It might not matter to other men that their standards are so low but it matters to us. Put the pop tarts down and go for a walk!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 10:08 AM
22

Have you noticed how (male) scientists are making sure the male bc pill is 100% safe before it goes to market while women are still dying from blood clots?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:14 PM
8

I remember that study! And I was furious at the thought of all those men realising "omg you mean I have to help raise the children I make?!" The silver lining is their worthless DNA will never be passed on so their selfish lineage will die with them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:12 PM
5

I still don't get the bowling ball part lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:04 PM
14

My ex would never speak up if a homeless person came up to me begging for money. And he never waited with me for my bus or train home. I was his protector.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:25 AM
5

I bet he judges women who lost their job thanks to the pandemic. What a clown haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 10:14 PM
1

Wtf I hope she doesn't go back to that pos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 06:30 PM
1

I hope the comments told her to dump him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 05:23 PM
4

Well done, that took a tremendous amount of courage. I hope you get the support you need so you can move on with your life. You're amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 05:19 PM
8

I know it's a joke on tiktok but...I don't get it. Why is it funny? So many women are going to think this is how you're supposed to treat men because it looks real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 08:40 AM
2

She told him she heard all she needed to hear. It's over
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 08:29 AM
17

The OP gave him the chance to talk and he didn't bother so she is justified in ghosting him. If he won't put in the effort after she clearly communicated the issues in the relationship then why should she waste more of her time? I had to ghost my ex after I made it crystal clear that he couldn't keep calling and texting me until I answered. He did it again after promising he wouldn't so I blocked him. It just cuts out all the BS and makes it obvious that he fucked up without me having to waste m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:16 PM
6

There are so many different types of condoms out there that men can't use the "discomfort" excuse, not that it was ever a valid reason to not use one. A man who looks after his sexual partner's health is hot!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:25 PM
8

That's an amazing reply, I'm going to use it haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:22 PM
4

I think it's the rise of men wanting to make sure we're sExUaLlY CoMpAtIbLe before they know things like our last name
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:51 AM
5

If you ever feel yourself catching feeling just think of eyeballs lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:46 AM
1

Should I still put in my OLD profile that I'm not looking for hookups etc?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:38 AM
30

deleted previous comment because I used a word I didn't know was banned, sorry mods! My deleted comment said men want sex on the first date while simultaneously calling women all kinds of names for doing so
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 09:03 PM
42

It lets you see questions you have both answered and chose to make public. It's a wild ride lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 08:57 PM
31

I've learned to look for that particular answer before I read the profile so I don't waste my time anymore. So many will write about wanting a LTR kids etc then you get to the q & a section and it shows what they're really looking for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 08:29 PM
3

Sending love. You will soon get that epiphany of realising how much better off you are! X
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:35 PM
2

The pain is horrible but a NVM future is worse! Treat yourself with plenty of ice cream and chocolate. You'll be ok x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:34 PM
3

So many men put on their dating profiles they aren't feminists it's scary. I mean I'm glad they're weeding out themselves but it makes me wonder for the future
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:32 PM
98

It's disturbing how many men on OKCupid put 4 - 6 dates as their expectation for sex. I have never seen a man put 7+ dates (the maximum option)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:26 PM
8

This list is perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:07 PM
5

It feels good to no longer see my ex on Whatapp anymore. I imagine he is still blaming me and everyone around him for me blocking him forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 10:39 PM
5

He's committed the sin of pride by stringing along that poor woman for years so it's not God's plan at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 07:29 PM
8

Hooray for FDS success stories!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:36 PM
16

My ex said he watched less porn when he was with me like it was a compliment. Oh thanks for reducing your already unhealthy volume of watching by a miniscule amount
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 06:26 PM
35

I'm using that definition in future!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 02:03 PM
8

Hitler loved Disney World!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 06:52 PM
16

That reddit user is being abused by her own boyfriend. Poor girl :( https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/gq52un/my_boyfriend_withholds_my_money_from_me/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 02:52 PM
2

He knew what my boundaries were, he just walked all over them because they weren't beneficial to him. He treats the women in his family like shit so I should have ran asap. Oh well lesson learned!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 09:44 AM
7

Just to make it absolutely clear, autism did NOT make him an asshole - he was an asshole with autism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:52 PM
30

Yes yes yes. One of my friends gave me this advice when I was dating a man child who used his autism as an excuse for his mistreatment of me and women in general (and swore down he never uses his autism as an excuse, only ever as a "reason". I made all the accommodations and compromises while he only did things that suited him under the illusion he was meeting me halfway. To put it bluntly he was an insecure misogynist narcissist. Assholes like him give good people with autism a bad rep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 01:27 PM
28

I had to ghost a guy because he didn't respect my "No you can't keep calling and texting me until you get a response". He said he knew it was wrong but still did it so I ghosted him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:08 PM
43

NVM: Would you like to go out for dinner? Woman: Yes NVM: Omg you're taking advantage of me!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:42 PM
3

I never understood that. Women don't look at athletic women and make comments like 'Look how tight those abs are...She's got great biceps' etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 07:50 AM
34

It's the reason why dAd BoDs are a thing and Mom bods aren't, even though it's the woman who has the physical changes during pregnancy and childbirth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 05:42 PM
3

My past boyfriends in a nutshell. They look at relationships purely in beneficial terms ie how it benefits them. What I wanted never crossed their minds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 02:54 PM
45

This is why schools need to teach boys 'Dont Be Assholes To Girls' and make it compulsory
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:03 PM
8

Literally before the beginning of life itself, they should be chasing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:01 PM
27

Men love men. This is why the beard trend took off - have you noticed how they all sit around admiring each other's beards, stroking their chins, giving praise to men with beards they find especially attractive?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 12:55 PM
9

I read this last night. He tried to rape her but when she said no, he stopped so they could talk. In my view it was attempted rape and he only sat down to "talk" because he knew he had crossed the line and wanted to look good. "Look how I stopped after you realised what I was trying to do, doesn't that prove I'm not a rapist?!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 09:08 PM
76

We need better relationship education not only for school age girls but women of all ages. We need to teach them not to have babies with scum who don't deserve to have their shitty DNA passed on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 01:19 PM
14

I'm happy the majority is telling her to take the job and run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 09:34 AM
4

"Men don't want to change for the better, they just demand us to change our mind to accept their lazy asses." That is the perfect summary. We're always the ones who have to do the changing, whether it's our bodies or/and our minds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 12:36 PM
14

So I'm expected to date the masses of men who don't shave, don't cut their hair, don't dress well, are overweight and generally do not look after themselves because my standards are too high?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 08:11 AM
15

He was stating how he views you, "You are amazing boobs" Block!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 08:30 AM
27

I bet all the women in the restaurant were silently shouting 'you go girl'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 09:30 PM
12

My last date wouldn't give me his fucking bread never mind a kidney
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 09:27 PM
6

This amazing woman explained it perfectly. I've been wracking my brains trying to work out why my ex was narcissistic - he even made his mother's MENOPAUSE about him ffs - and it doesn't matter why, he's just an asshole!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 07:14 PM
8

You would never hear us complain about efforts to recruit more men as nurses, school teachers, paediatric doctors etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 06:58 PM
8

But she was talking about a specific group of nuns who were good to her friend. She never said every nun was good. You just shoehorned in your views for no reason. We all know about the abusive nuns in Irish schools for "bad" girls and Australian orphanages etc. She wasn't talking about them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 12:29 PM
11

GoldeneAnanas was talking about the nuns who raised her friend. I'm not sure what your point is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 11:44 AM
2

I will join! Also that photo is stunning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 09:26 AM
67

But I've only just joined! I love everything about this sub. The mindset, the advice, anecdotes, tips, personal stories. It's one of the few subs on reddit that isn't toxic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:30 PM
4

I had to put a list of things I wasn't looking for because I kept getting messages from men who clearly didn't read my interesting bio or what I was looking for (serious relationship). All the requests for ONS and hookups have stopped!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:23 PM
8

Wtf I'm so glad he's an ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:17 PM
5

You should flat out say to him that your mother took care of him when he had cancer so now it's his turn to look after her. Remind him of "in sickness and in health"!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:11 PM
2

I can't seem to find a happy middle - the men I see are either slobs or they care too much about their appearance. And their personalities are even worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 08:12 PM
18

Ugh YES. Men with insecurities and inability to cope with emotions are the worst. But that's ok because mEn ArEnT eMoTiOnAl CrEaTuReS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 10:36 PM
6

Women are still dying from blood clots caused by BC, not as many as when the pill was first invented but even one death is one too many. Meanwhile the male pill is still being tested to make sure it is 100% safe 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 06:31 PM
1

Lmao!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 09:10 AM
3

"YOuRe JeAlOuS yOu CaNt PeE aNyWhErE LOLOLOL" HVM don't treat the world as their urinal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 09:09 AM
17

Women were trying to break the rules in supermarkets at the start of lockdown, when only 1 person was allowed in at a time, because if they sent their husbands in alone they wouldn't know what to buy. How hard is it to follow a list and buy things you need?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 10:44 PM
11

At least he doesn't want to reproduce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 10:43 PM
36

Wish.com likely have them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 10:42 PM
9

"Girl just make his plate and leave us alone" LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 10:40 PM
1

For future reference how much do you charge? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 02:44 PM
7

"And the TP was always hung properly on the holder"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 02:42 PM
4

I've made this mistake. Never again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 10:50 AM
14

These are lovely. My favorite is the rhino!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 08:30 PM
2

I've already commented on a different thread that I had to go no contact with an ex and I want to say it again here - it feels amazing!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:32 PM
8

This is why we need more women rappers in the mainstream
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 12:02 PM
3

Lust is a deadly sin for a reason
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 11:33 AM
11

"Oh shit, I was producing the wrong frequency of vibrations by mistake"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 11:29 AM
26

My last 2 exes were universally praised for being "gentlemen" and I believed it too until I got to know them and realised they were selfish pieces of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 11:28 AM
2

I enjoyed your rant lol! I'm glad I could get out your (perfectly justified) frustrations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 11:10 AM
5

I'm sorry that you experience prejudice because of your autism. When I did my research I was shocked (but not surprised) by the rampant sexism towards Aspie women and how their autism isn't taken seriously, if they even manage to get a diagnosis, because many doctors still think it's a "man's" condition. Every time we were out he would comment on how pretty a woman looked and I told him to stop because I hated it. His reply was, "But I won't mind if you comment on how nice looking a man looks". …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 09:05 AM
3

Work of art.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 10:36 PM
20

I excused my Aspie ex when he didn't respect my boundaries because I thought it was his autism making him misunderstand. No. He fucking KNEW what I was saying because I researched how Aspies need to have things clearly explained to them so that's what I did. He was just an asshole who wanted his way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 10:31 PM
15

My date ordered a more expensive meal and asked me if we wanted to split the bill. I said no. I'm not subsidising your food, you ordered it so you can pay for it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 11:51 AM
18

In this case it is a huge red flag because he openly says he wasted his ex wife's time because he's a selfish NVM. But if a 30+ man genuinely has never been in love I wouldn't think it was a red flag in itself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 11:12 AM
7

If you're in the USA I've seen a few people on reddit commenting that Wal-Mart gets a handful of Switch consoles in every morning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 10:55 AM
2

Bear in mind that most scientists are male and only up until recently did they admit that women's brains are not smaller than men's (a myth held since the 19th century)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 05:13 PM
15

Why is he still your fiance?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 01:46 PM
21

The final sentence was a delightful ending to that anecdote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 01:44 PM
3

I hate it when people excuse men's behaviour because "they mature later than women". They mature later because of the way they're raised not because of biology.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 02:41 PM
3

I hate the photos of them holding heavily sedated tigers in that same Thai tiger "sanctuary" everyone goes to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 10:59 AM
4

Hitler Youth Harry lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 12:26 AM
7

Don the Wild One He likes nights out AND nights in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 12:24 AM
23

Well done you for walking out. That took some serious ovaries!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 12:13 AM
8

Yeah if they were truly attractive then their own age group wouldn't keep rejecting them throughout every stage of their lives lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 12:02 AM
22

It makes me wonder when 30+ men say they are suddenly more attractive to women in their 20s, are those women really more attracted to them or are they just preying on the woman's lack of relationship experience? The men openly admit that women weren't attracted to them when they were in their 20s themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 10:26 PM
3

Banned From Incel Subreddit Starter Pack
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 10:01 PM
8

Why are there so many of them on OLD?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 07:49 PM
3

I recently had to go NC with a guy who was great at the start but disrespected me more and more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 07:40 PM
1

Is this Prince Andrew?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 08:57 PM
4

"Always invest in your future self" Im going to remember that gold nugget of advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 08:24 PM
1

It makes me believe that when colleges have their insanely brilliant scholarships turned down, they should immediately call the woman and scream DUMP HIM NOW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 08:28 PM
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